35 Burst results for "Prudence"
Mike Gallagher Podcast
The Laundry List of Lies by Joe Biden During SOTU
"Last night, there was a Montage that Fox News channel put together of all the lies Biden told. I love this. The New York Post called it fibs. Fibs? No, no, no. This is the laundry list of bald faced lies told by the 46th president of the United States last night in the State of the Union. For too many decades, we import a project of exported jobs. Now thanks to what you've all done, we're exporting American products and creating American jobs. Inflation. Inflation has been a global problem because the pandemic disrupted our supply chains and prudence unfair and brutal war in Ukraine, disrupted energy supplies, as well as food supplies, blocking all that grain in Ukraine. But we're better positioned any country on earth right now. But we have more to do. But here at home inflation is coming down. Here at home gas prices are down a dollar 50 from their peak. Food inflation is coming down. Not fast enough but coming down. Inflation has fallen every month for the last 6 months. Well, take home pay has gone up. 30 million workers have to sign non compete agreements. For the jobs they take. 30 million. So a cashier at a burger place can walk across town and take the same job in another burger place to make a few bucks more. Chest change. They just change it because we exposed it. That was part of the deal, guys. Look it up. He's like the comic over a chuckles in Poughkeepsie with hecklers and he's yelling back at the crowd. It was so bad. It was so bad. And
The Eric Metaxas Show
You're Not Translated Into Heaven the Minute You Get Saved
"Not translated into heaven the minute you get saved, you've just crossed the starting line and now you're supposed to do good works in not to earn Salvation because Jesus earned it 2000 years ago and by faith you've accepted it. So you're good. But now, because you're still here, you have an assignment. God has given you an assignment. And if you're not living into that assignment, you're missing it. What could be more sad than missing that God almighty has given you an heroic assignment to live this life to fight evil in the world to do all kinds of things and you didn't know. You didn't know. It's why you wrote your book a daring faith and cowardly world. So what else should we talk about? Let's make a controversy. We haven't said anything enough controversial enough yet, Eric. So, I mean, it wouldn't be a conversation between you and me if we didn't start, right? Okay. Some of our great dinners. We in America have taught that prudence is the greatest virtue. How do we examine who the best Christian is, right? It's the person who has the least amount of life. Don't drink, don't smoke, don't you don't pay girls who do, right? If it makes your grand, it's got to be a sin, right? That's how we've done so much of the Christian life. That's not what we see in scripture. What do we see in scriptures? God values courage and people who go after life. And so the entire Old Testament. I mean, look at the heroes. David and Abraham and Moses and all these different heroes. What do they do? They grab life with everything in them and they live for Christ and they screwed up. And
The Charlie Kirk Show
Can You Have a Democratic Republic Without Morality?
"Can you have a democracy or republic without a moral society? Or can you? And if you can't, how do you expect to change it without the education system? Such a smart question. So we're not a democracy, but we do have elements of a democracy. The difference to the democracy in a republic or super important, people say, we're a democracy, we're not a democracy means by yes or no vote, the population could take rights away from the minority. That is not the way a republic works. A republic is that there are things that are always true that are built into your system built on wisdom, built on prudence, built on tradition. For example, freedom of speech, freedom to defend yourself, freedom of privacy from the government, a democracy you'd be able to have an up or down vote 51%. Say, you know what, these people shouldn't be able to talk. So that's just the super important distinction. But you're right, you actually said both. So to your credit, it's we are verging on the edge of unsustainability as a civilization. Our entire system of government was built for a moral and righteous people. In fact, John Adams said that he said the constitution was written wholly for a moral and religious people. It's completely inadequate for the society of any other and paraphrasing the second part of the quote. And that's really important. So think about it. We have a system that relies on self government. And that without the ability for people to govern themselves, then all of a sudden you're going to want a bigger and bigger government to kind of come in and then make decisions for you. So for example, self government is great. If you have strong families. So a strong family is the greatest hedge against big government. You think about it, right? Your aunt might be able to help you guys pay for rent one month or if someone gets sick, you could take care of one another, disconnected smaller families, invite government into your life,
The Charlie Kirk Show
Can Conservatives Sustain a Movement Based on Democrat Insanity?
"So we call this common sense, the phrase common sense actually can be best described as prudence, otherwise known as prudentia in the Greek. Where people say this doesn't really resonate with me and the kind of bumper sticker I see quite often here in Arizona is common sense 2022, common sense isn't that common after all. It's kind of a very typical meme that you'll see, especially for people over the age of 50 because they believe what used to be considered to be upon agreed upon truths are now all kind of being put into question. For example, in math classes across America, they're being, they're teaching young children that math and science are symptoms of a white supremacist construct. And so now we see this 1 million voters switching to the Republican Party, something we talked about yesterday but I thought about this kind of in the last 24 hours, I don't want Republicans to be preemptively celebrating this. This is not because of the compelling persuasive message of the Republican Party. In fact, I think it's the opposite. I think people are reluctantly and begrudgingly becoming Republicans. Now, if Republicans were more like Ron DeSantis, who were clear and precise in what they believe and why they believe it, we're bold in their action and stand up against Washington D.C. and the entrenched corporate interests, and even though people might not agree with everything that Republicans are saying, they might respect that they're doing something and they can explain why they believe it.
The Doug Collins Podcast
The Pro-Life Movement Has Been Waiting for This Opportunity
"Over the years, courts have and states have been pushing this envelope. And it's undue burden test, and it's been building up over the years in the spring court. We're seeing it more and more over the past 20 years. And during that time, you have seen the activism rise more and more into which there was not state solutions because they felt bound by roe V wade. They had to go through the court route. So you have the same prolonged community for a number of years been looking for opportunities to challenge roe V wade. Do you saw that coming through the 90s with Casey? In those cases it came forward. And then continuing on to make sure that the Supreme Court so in a presidential election, again, abortion conservatives would always come up and because of the appointments of the Supreme Court to the Supreme Court by the president. The court now sits at 6 to three on the conservative scale with most will tell you that there are 5 votes now for if not overturning row all the way, at least curtailing it a great deal. And possibly as many as 6. Now, the reason I say 6 is they're using Roberts is the up and down load here Roberts in these questioning recently in the case. Question the trimester system and I think he, if you look at his years prudence, it would be very hard for him to do a construct that is not grounded in some ways that he feels in
The Charlie Kirk Show
What Happens When Arrogant Leaders Ruin a Stable Economy?
"Donald Trump lived as a realist. He lived in a world that was anchored by the laws of physics by the laws of mathematics by the laws of biology. Now, mind you, most of you also live in that world. Whether you are a Carpenter or a mechanic, an accountant, most of our audience, all of you have to live by certain truths. Whereas the Democrat party is ruled by people that don't have to live by those truths. Janet Yellen being one of them. Jerome Powell, being another. They don't have to live by the laws of nature and nature's God. Money is nothing more than a construct, gender is nothing more than a colonialist oppression tradition. One of the reasons why Donald Trump was able to create such a booming economies, yes, of course, he was a businessman, but he also knew bad ideas when he saw them. Like, wait a second, we can create money out of thin air. That doesn't make any sense. We keep on offshoring manufacturing in China, that doesn't make any sense. He had what is the word that defines good leaders prudence. I believe Ron DeSantis has prudence as well. Comes from a Greek word, which means prudentia now what you have right now though is a very dangerous combination running The White House. Is you have a arrogant, ignorant, ideological crusade, being basically deploying on America and America is the experiment. America right now is the experiment of how far can ideology take you. So ideology, especially if it's rooted in the belief that nature is not stable. Will very quickly and rapidly destroy your civilization. So what should concern all of us is that these radical ideas started to get inserted into the zeitgeist, which really is the spirit of the times, when our economy was booming. Now that we're getting to an unstable point, I think that we're going to start to see even more radical ideas, our job as conservatives hopefully take people back to reality and anchor them to truth,
The Charlie Kirk Show
Let Us Be Clear: We Love the Police
"Got some nasty emails yesterday. Directed at me saying that you can't criticize police officers. I love police officers. I'm going to be very clear. There's some scumbags like Sean king that are going after the police. And I don't want to give oxygen to the anti police crowd unnecessarily, but I'm also going to be very clear and fair when there's a situation that any reasonable person believes is mishandled. And this whole thing kind of comes on an argument from authority where people say Charlie, you have no right to do that because you've never been in a situation like that. You're right. I've never been in a situation like that. But there is an opportunity where you have a little bit of prudence and practical judgment and common sense where you're going to comment on something where you say, what on earth was happening here. So guess what? Additional information from yesterday where we did some rather, I would say, let's say we had some opinions yesterday. Everything we have said yesterday has only now been further clarified and strengthened. So you've all the police have done a police press conference. And they have said this quote, they made a decision not to break into the classroom because officers on site believe there was no longer an act of shooting situation. Even though children were calling 9-1-1 at the time, pleading for officers to come and save them.
The Charlie Kirk Show
2500 Years Ago, Aristotle Articulated What We're Living Through Now
"So Aristotle, 2500 years ago. I think better articulates part of what we are living through right now than even most commentators in the media. So Aristotle talked about things that do not change. So knowledge of things that do not change is wisdom. There's practical knowledge, and then there's knowledge that is eternal. That is rooted in the natural law. That is one of the reasons why when Aristotle was rediscovered and kind of restudied, if you will, by Thomas Aquinas and many others, there was kind of this constant through line of the classics to the Bible to practical judgment or prudence today. So Aristotle writes in the politics. He says, tyrants aim to break the spirit of their subjects. They know that a poor spirited man will never plot against anybody. A tyrant second aim is to breed mutual distrust. This is 2500 years ago. He was writing. Tyranny is never overthrown until people can begin to trust one another. And that is a reason why tyrants are always at war with the good. Tyrants feel that good men are dangerous to their authority. Not only because they think it shamed to be governed, despotically, but also because of their loyalty to themselves and to others and because of their refusal to betray one another or anybody else. The final aim of a tyrant is to make sure that subjects are incapable of action. Nobody attempts the impossible, therefore no one will attempt to overthrow the tyrant or the tyranny when all are incapable of action. So let's just kind of summarize some of that as we talk about the World Economic Forum and the world health assembly and Joe Biden, who is a tyrant. That's kind of just recap that first they want to break your will. The second is, they want to breed mutual distrust. And then the third is that they want to make you incapable of action.
The Doug Collins Podcast
Is This the Last Year of Roe v Wade?
"Over the years, courts have and states have been pushing this envelope. And it's undue burden test, and it's been building. Up over the years in the spring court, we're seeing it more and more over the past 20 years. And during that time, you have seen the activism rise more and more into which there was not state solutions because they felt bound by roe V wade. They had to go through the court route. So you have the same prolong community for a number of years been looking for opportunities to challenge roe V wade. You saw that, you know, coming through the 90s with Casey. In those cases, it came forward. And then continuing on to make sure that the Supreme Court so in a presidential election, again, abortion conservatives would always come up and because the appointments of the Supreme Court to the Supreme Court by the president. The court now sits at 6 to three on the conservative scale with most will tell you that there are 5 votes now for if not overturning row all the way, at least curtailing it a great deal. And possibly as many as 6. Now, the reason I say 6 is they're using Roberts is the up and download here Roberts in these questioning recently in the case. Question the trimester system. I think he, if you look at his years prudence, it would be very hard for him to do a construct that is not grounded in some ways that he feels in law. This is the problem with Rowe. Rowe was not constructed out of the constitutional enumerated ride. It was constructed out of what was what we understood from Douglas justice Douglas as this Phnom or the shadow. In other words, that they existed in the edges of these known rights of speech and assembling in all these things that the other numerated even that we had some justice in the 9th actually talk about. So you're seeing a court now that is sharply divided.
AP News Radio
Pope at 85: Gloves come off as Francis' reform hits stride
"As as Francis Francis celebrates celebrates his his eighty eighty fifth fifth birthday birthday the the pope pope is is ramping ramping up up church church reforms reforms the the pope pope spent spent the the first first eight eight years years of of his his papacy papacy gently gently nudging nudging Catholic Catholic hierarchs hierarchs to to embrace embrace financial financial prudence prudence and and responsible responsible governance governance but but Francis Francis has has since since made made more more definitive definitive changes changes since since his his last last birthday birthday Francis Francis ordered ordered a a ten ten percent percent pay pay cut cut for for cardinals cardinals across across the the board board he he also also slash slash salaries salaries to to a a lesser lesser degree degree for for Vatican Vatican employees employees in in a a bid bid to to rein rein in in the the Vatican's Vatican's fifty fifty seven seven billion billion dollar dollar budget budget deficit deficit to to fight fight corruption corruption he he imposed imposed a a forty forty five five dollar dollar gift gift cap cap for for holy holy see see personnel personnel and and passed passed a a law law allowing allowing cardinals cardinals and and bishops bishops to to be be criminally criminally prosecuted prosecuted by by the the Vatican's Vatican's lay lay led led tribunal tribunal auntie auntie is is set set in in motion motion an an unprecedented unprecedented two two year year project project to to make make the the church church more more attuned attuned to to the the lady lady I I Walter Walter Ratliff Ratliff
The Charlie Kirk Show
Can the Republican Party Restrain the Tech Oligarchy? Blake Masters Tells Us
"Do you think that the Republican Party is there as far as the voters? Let's start there to restrain the corporate oligarchy, especially in the tech space. Yes. The voters are traveling a lot. I speak to a lot of voters. You speak a lot of voters talk about that. Well, I mean, I tell people like, look, I'm a pro market guy, like I have this sort of libertarian classic background. Like I was deep in the Austrian school in college, right? We're into this stuff. We don't want to regulate it. Yeah. I mean, I'm sympathetic. I think it's important to start. And some of it's really interesting. Some of this really interesting. A lot of it's sort of directionally right. And then I think it's the right place to start from and then you inch towards like looking at how is that actually working with prudence? And I tell people like when I invest in a startup, I want it to do well. I don't want to regulate businesses Willy nilly. I don't even mind if a company becomes big. If caterpillar, the tractor company wants to buy another tractor company for 50 billion in merged, like, great. As long as they're not going to Jack up the prices. That's great. But it's especially big tech. And these huge multinationals that control the flow of information. And I'm sorry, but when these companies have left wing politics, they're censoring sitting presidents. They're, I think, engaging in all sort of election interference. When they do that, we have to be able to treat them differently than like a local bakery or local hair salon. Yes. And that's still pearl market. It's precisely because you want markets to be free and open that you need to break some of these companies up. What markets are supposed to serve us? We don't serve market. That's right. Yeah, they're tools for human flourishing. They're not the end. And too much of the Republican Party, of course, is always just focused on GDP. Yeah. And we have to sacrifice ourselves so that we can hit some sort of number on a chart. Right. And the byproduct of that, just I mean, the text base it's so obvious is that you have tech companies that are worth more than ever before that are doing so much damage. And they're largely untouchable. They're basically governments tip of themselves. Step more powerful than most national
The Charlie Kirk Show
Judge Bruce Schroeder Holds the Line in Kyle Rittenhouse Trial
"Kyle rittenhouse is on trial and it's becoming the number one news story in the country. Largely because of this judge and the fact that Kyle took the stand, it's a risk, but just kind of looking at the tea leaves. All they have to all they have to do, the Kyle rittenhouse team is win over one juror. They have to win over one juror that will not be able to live with themselves for locking up Kyle rittenhouse, and putting him in jail. Let's go to cut 44, which was not covered in the activist press. Now mind you, the drive bys a CNN and MSNBC and all the major news outlets they did not cover the rittenhouse trial nearly at all until today, as soon as Kyle rittenhouse took the stand, they pounced. And they also got introduced to this judge who has been admonishing the prosecution. And you can kind of tell this judge is really fed up with what's going on. And that's what a judge is supposed to do. A judge is supposed to use practical judgment prudence and wisdom. Wearing his black cloak, hopefully to have no bias and no prejudice, look at the merits of the case and say, wait a second. You can indict a hand sandwich. What are you doing here? And you could tell the judge has been poking the prosecution at every corner. The judge has been pushing back hold on. That's not allowed. That's not a lot. That's what a judge is supposed to do. A judge is not supposed to be a rubber stamp or a yes man for the state or the prosecution. This is an important thing that we talked about the other day as far as how our justice system is designed. Is that prosecutors are supposed to be independent of judges and vice versa? Judges are supposed to be the balance between the citizens, people that are going to be put on trial and the prosecution of people that do the trials. The state, the government versus the people. And what we see in the Kyle rittenhouse drama, make no mistake. If Kyle rittenhouse would have been a BLM incorporated activist, and if he would have shot a Trump supporter outside of a Trump rally, that none of this would be an issue. They would say they deserve it, and you know what's my justification for that? Can someone possibly explain to me why lieutenant Michael bird got off for shooting Ashley babbitt? But Kyle rittenhouse has to go through this entire saga for shooting a child rapist in an antifa person trying to
The Charlie Kirk Show
Charlie Describes the Main Tenants of Conservative Populism
"So let me just first kind of tell you what I believe and why we believe it. It's kind of framed as conservative populism, put simply, we believe in the natural law. We believe as the declaration independence says the laws of nature and nature's God, we believe in limitations on human beings, and we should either limitations on power, both government power, and yes, of course, corporate power as Barry Goldwater said in the 1960s. We also believe America is strongest when families are flourishing when there's a strong moral center when middle class work is respected and appreciated. And the populist components of this is we need to be aware of what's happening around us. C one core institutions are failing like the family, which has been failing over the last 60 years in America, which can be attributed to many different things. I would attribute it to the rise of an aggressive social welfare state and an overindulgence in neoliberalism that we must be willing to do something about it when the family starts to disintegrate when our nation starts to fall apart when our borders remain wide open. And so we pair those two things together. Conservative populism. And the kind of philosophical basis for a lot of this is the willingness to act with prudence and wisdom to try and fix things that matter. Things that objectively matter. And I've been really looking forward to this discussion. I think I hope it's more of a discussion than a debate because we will disagree on plenty, but when you talk about a untouchable oligarchy, I completely agree. I think that there is an untouchable oligarchy in this country, both corporate and governmental scientific and technological that is crushing the everyday common man, where I think we're going to disagree is that I think the end goal, the thing that we must strive to is family formation, family protection, and that strong moral
The Charlie Kirk Show
Gov. DeSantis Sidesteps Biden, Announces Florida Will Purchase Monoclonal Antibody Treatment Doses Directly
"Last week. We highlighted how joe biden decided to try and prevents the distribution of monoclonal. Antibodies going to florida. Joe biden basically said that he wants florida's senior citizens to die. And you're on your own even if you're vaccinated. Even though half the people the monoclonal antibody treatment centers were vaccinated. Joe biden wanted nothing to actually help people in florida so a republican a press. Release writing republican and. We have plenty of those. Like the governor of arkansas who smirks on television and says oh yeah. Joe biden has called the back they would just allow the order from joe biden to throughout the federal government doesn't want monoclonal antibodies. I'll write a letter. What does ron descent to stu. Rhonda santa's calls up the manufacturer of the monoclonal antibody treatment center. I'm going to buy from you directly. I don't care what the federal government says. We are going to get the monoclonal. Antibodies for our people. I don't if i'm breaking the law from the federal government. I don't care. My people need the monoclonal. Antibodies that was rhonda santa's willing to defy federal statute to actually give his people what they need. That's called courage. Prudence creativity and
Encyclopedia Womannica
"prudence" Discussed on Encyclopedia Womannica
"Hello from wonder media network. I'm jenny kaplan and this is will manica. Welcome to season three and for all of those celebrating should not tova this month. We're going back to school talking about educators intellectuals you've changed the way we learned our story today takes us back to the mid eighteen hundreds in canterbury connecticut where one woman brave legal and social harassment to open one of the first schools for black girls. Let's talk about prudence. Crandall prudence was born on september third. Eighteen three in rhode island booth of her parents. Pardon and esther were farmers. Imprudence was young. Her family relocated to canterbury connecticut. There prudence studied arithmetic. Latin and science topics not normally taught to girls at the time. But prudence is family was quaker. Quakers believe in equal opportunity for education in eighteen. Thirty one. prudence opened her own private school for girls. The canterbury female boarding school. The school served the wealthiest canterbury families and was a source of great pride in the community. It was ranked as one of the best schools in connecticut with the curriculum that rivaled even the most elite all boys schools but prudence is school was not entirely equal. All of her students were white to encourage prudence to take a more aggressive stance. Prudence is black housekeeper. Marsha davis began strategically leaving copies of the abolitionist newspaper. The liberator in places where she knew prudence would find them. The liberator promoted the need for immediate abolition as opposed to a gradual abolition. That was more commonly supported by the new england. Delete sarah harris who came from a prominent black family in the area was the first to actively approach prudence about integrating school. Sara was eager to continue her own education so that she could become a teacher for other black children and in eighteen thirty. Two prudence enrolled sarah in the canterbury boarding school. The decision was met with outrage white. Parents demanded that prudence expel sarah when she refused. They withdrew their daughters from the school realizing that she'd need to find new sources of tuition. Prudence went to speak with william lloyd garrison. The outspoken white abolitionist publisher of the liberator prudence and william discussed the possibility of converting the canterbury school into a school entirely for black girls. William connected prudence with money of the most prominent black families in new england and in eighteen thirty three the school reopened with a new mission to educate quote young ladies and little misses of color. The class consisted of twenty four students and the curriculum remained identical to that of the original. Can't school again. The community lashed out prudence and her students became the subject of incessant attacks. They were refused. Services shops and restaurants locals threw stones and eggs at the schoolhouse. One group even tried to set it on fire later that year in eighteen thirty three the connecticut general assembly enacted the black law. The black law made it illegal for black people from outside the state to be educated in the state of connecticut. Without the town's explicit consent prudence was undeterred. She believed the law to be unconstitutional and continued teaching. As a result she was arrested on june twenty-seventh eighteen thirty three and spent one night in jail. Prudence was found guilty of violating the black law a few months later the judge in the case asserted that black people were not citizens and therefore we're not entitled to pursue education in july eighteen. Thirty four prudence appealed the decision to the connecticut supreme court and won but only on a technicality. The court did not recognize or side with the moral argument. She was making that fall. An angry mob broke into the school building. Iron bars and clubs. The mob smashed windows ransacked the building and threaten the students fearing for their safety. Prudence officially closed the school on september tenth. Eighteen thirty four following the attack. Prudence faded out of the public eye. She married a baptist minister and fellow abolitionist in eighteen thirty five and the to move to illinois. Their prudence opened another school and became involved in the women's suffrage movement. She remained close to her student. Sarah harris who became an abolitionist and conductor on the underground railroad five of the other black girls that prudence talked went on to become teachers in their communities after prudence has husband died in eighteen. Seventy four prudence relocated to elk falls. Kansas to live with her brother in kansas. Prudence opened another school. That served indigenous students. Although connecticut's black law was repealed in eighteen. Thirty eight just four years after the riots at the canterbury school. Prudence did not receive an apology until nearly fifty years later in eighteen six under pressure for mark twain to write the states injustice. The connecticut state legislature offered prudence a small pension as repayment for her mistreatment prudence crandall died in elk falls kansas in eighteen. Ninety she was eighty seven years old.
Encyclopedia Womannica
Influential Educators: Abolitionist Prudence Crandall
"Was born on september third. Eighteen three in rhode island booth of her parents. Pardon and esther were farmers. Imprudence was young. Her family relocated to canterbury connecticut. There prudence studied arithmetic. Latin and science topics not normally taught to girls at the time. But prudence is family was quaker. Quakers believe in equal opportunity for education in eighteen. Thirty one. prudence opened her own private school for girls. The canterbury female boarding school. The school served the wealthiest canterbury families and was a source of great pride in the community. It was ranked as one of the best schools in connecticut with the curriculum that rivaled even the most elite all boys schools but prudence is school was not entirely equal. All of her students were white to encourage prudence to take a more aggressive stance. Prudence is black housekeeper. Marsha davis began strategically leaving copies of the abolitionist newspaper. The liberator in places where she knew prudence would find them. The liberator promoted the need for immediate abolition as opposed to a gradual abolition. That was more commonly supported by the new england. Delete sarah harris who came from a prominent black family in the area was the first to actively approach prudence about integrating school. Sara was eager to continue her own education so that she could become a teacher for other black children and in eighteen thirty. Two prudence enrolled sarah in the canterbury boarding school. The decision was met with outrage white. Parents demanded that prudence expel sarah when she refused. They withdrew their daughters from the school realizing that she'd need to find new sources of tuition. Prudence went to speak with william lloyd garrison. The outspoken white abolitionist publisher of the liberator prudence and william discussed the possibility of converting the canterbury school into a school entirely for black girls. William connected prudence with money of the most prominent black families in new england and in eighteen thirty three the school reopened with a new mission to educate quote young ladies and little misses of color. The class consisted of twenty four students and the curriculum remained identical to that of the original. Can't school
The Charlie Kirk Show
What’s Next for Afghanistan?
"I'm a veteran. I just got out of the military. I've worked on these c. Seventeen thousand flying coochie in a lot of my brothers and sisters. Were over there in afghanistan withdrawing all these troops and afghans. What's next. Because i look on the news and i see this and it just makes me sick. I don't know like what's what what's next for afghantistan. What are we going to thank you for your call and so i wanna dive into this. It's a great question. Thank you for your service to our great country but the problem with what's happening afghanistan is the way we got out with. No conditions at all whatsoever and the strategy of the current government and the regime of the united states is somehow putting forward a moral equivalent of the taliban who kill christians and rip out their tongues. Subjugate women mary teenagers with any of our other allies their partners around the world this was not done with prudence. This was done ideologically. This was done because joe biden wanted the sand september eleventh that he ended the war now. That sounds good. But anyone who has ever been inconsequential decision-making knows that you do not start with this desired object of the photo op and work backwards. You see joe biden had photo-op foreign policy he wanted to be able to have a photo op at nine eleven and hang a wreath there and say i ended the war. I think my president. I don't know the point is that he started with what he thought was the political win and then tried to craft the circumstances on the ground to fit that political win in reality it should be the exact opposite of what's happening on the ground and so now i'm watching video of people wearing american fatigues and uniforms with our weapons that are taliban with our night-vision goggles walking through airports walking down the street and we gave these weapons voluntarily. That will come out.
Slate's Dear Prudence
"prudence" Discussed on Slate's Dear Prudence
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Jury Duty: The Trial of Robert Durst
"prudence" Discussed on Jury Duty: The Trial of Robert Durst
"Think it's saw close same. Heavy user durst. You would agree that she was different than other women you had had affairs with during your marriage correct. She was police file off women who who were different. What i'm asking you. Mr jurors is that you felt much strongly about More strongly about prudence farrow than you did about the other women that you had cheated with. Correct call iraq. Our is not well. you didn't just tell directly that correct. You told me and detectives that during the march fifteen two thousand fifteen interview correct turning the march fifth chain. Two thousand fifteen and review attempting a plea bargain review. Okay you were in love with prudence correct. Oh i'm just gonna read this one question in at that point in time to is to say you had fallen in love with cruise. Answer yes. I talking to you talking to myself in two detectives on march fifteenth. Two thousand. Fifteen can you explain why you possibly would answer the question that way that you were in love with the roof. You weren't ferro art. You stated during the three fifteen fifteen interview that prudence tolls you right before kathy disappeared that she would not continue the relationship with you because you were married correct recall. Do you recall three. Fifteen fifteen page fifty seven lying twenty five. This is myself asking the question. Prudence has said very near the time of kathy's desk that i'm she told you that i'm because you were married that you know that was a problem for her. Do you remember that. You responded. Yeah we had.
Jury Duty: The Trial of Robert Durst
Exploring Robert Durst's Testimony With New York Times Reporter Charles V. Bagli
"Joining us now is reporter charlie bagley. Who's covering the trial for the new york times and for crime story dot com. Welcome back charlie. Thank you so again charlie. Let me ask you the question. I start every one of our sessions with. What did you make of what happened in the courtroom today. Particularly john lewin's third day of interrogating robert durst on the witness stand. It was another day where we're going through a very meticulous and exhaustive cross examination point by point and it was not so much the individual responses each one. We're basically the prosecutor is challenging. Every single thing that bob has said about the disappearance of his wife his whereabouts his actions the state of their marriage that the violence or nonviolence in in their marriage. But what. I was focused on was a little bit more when the prosecutors finally says to bob after going through so many of these statements that he said where lies he asks. Bob how are we supposed to feed out when you're lying or telling the truth you've just given to statements to andrew directly one on december twelve. Which says you had a pushing shoving argument then the next day. You say we didn't have a fight. We didn't wrestle. We didn't touch one another and when directly tells you wake up in our last conversation. Didn't you say there was a physical altercation and you said no. I don't think i had a physical altercation at night. You're sure i told you that you just heard the two statements. Do you agree those two statements both from you one day. Apart to andrew directly are completely inconsistent with each other brands for. Aren't telling well. But i thought you told me that andrew told you the first day to say that there was some kind of fight and then you say that and then the second day you were saying and who decides to tell you to say the opposite and then to try to correct you. Is that your statement. Time he interview gone to the third day highways. Being thanks that maybe. I may say i was not going along all injuries. So mr when you said. I don't think i told you yesterday that we had a pushing shoving argument when you said that on the third day you knew that was a lie.
Slate's Dear Prudence
"prudence" Discussed on Slate's Dear Prudence
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Slate's Dear Prudence
"prudence" Discussed on Slate's Dear Prudence
"Of shame where you can't crawl up the sides I have a doctor's office that wasn't too happy with like i felt like whenever got information with them wasn't explained and it was unclear and it was delivered in a way that was kind of cold and nobody was ever reassuring me about anything and i spent a couple of days just like ranting about this anyone who would listen and then finally i kind of found myself asking like what i say to this person if they wrote in and obviously it's very easy question i would say like email your nurse and tell her that you have questions have gone unanswered and like you need clarity and so i did it and she called me and it went really well but i don't think if i hadn't had if i hadn't had the pretty experience i don't think i would've treated myself that way and come to that. Conclusion is amazing. How often the answer is say something directly to the person you have a problem with not a single incidence in life but so many of them and so often it's easy for me to see and other people's lives but when it's me i'm like No i'm pretty sure that would kill us both totally. I have like an acronym that i put down like taking notes. The my aunt says it's o. L. g. c. l. When last good clear talk so many people just have one last good clear. Talk about something because there's a lot of people who are like i've mentioned it or like i've pushed back. I'm like have you really like sat them down and said this is important. You were not talked to me like this anymore if you do. This is what's going to happen. This is the last time we're discussing it and there'll be consequences. I just feel like so. Many people need one last good clear talk. I'm so glad that you came up with an acronym. That's one of the things that i sort of regret is like i never came up with like a cool term that everyone adopted or like an acronym like davidge had dumped the motherfucker already and other advice. Columnists have their turns of phrase. And i'm so glad you're already coming up with acronyms. i definitely think that should be a key component. I've never shared that with the world before that's just like in my notes that maybe alternate work shopping. Hang and that but yeah. I really hope you occasionally drop a new acronym tonight. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you so much for being a fabulous dear prudence and thank you so much for drinking out of that giant beautiful jug of water onscreen so he could see that. You live like a hummingbird. You're welcome. i do thank you for having me. This was really fun. Thanks for joining us on big mood little mood with me. Danny lavery our producers phil circus who also composer theme music. Don't miss an episode of the show had to slate dot com slash mood to sign up to subscribe or hit the subscribe button on whatever platform. You're using right now. Also please leave us. A review on apple podcast. If you get.
Slate's Dear Prudence
"prudence" Discussed on Slate's Dear Prudence
"Or having a big smile when you look in the mirror because those goals field terrifying alienating that's just gonna make you want to withdraw further your goals are let somebody else know about the pain. I'm in try to see what kinds of helper available to me. Maybe that's gonna involve some depression medication for awhile. Maybe that's going to involve trying to carefully envision futures. That do seem possible. You know a again not to bring back too much to my own life. But i certainly remember especially during that year when i was kind of both wanting not wanting transition and sort of hoping that again brennan free shirt from nineteen. Ninety eight would swing into my living room and be like. I've made the decision for you. Injecting stone and then like swing back out Was like i would sometimes just like have a vision of like myself making tea early boiling eggs but like as a man of course it was also like with like you know the the charline of a cartoon pilot kosslick. Why not but like that would feel like both incredibly wonderful in this incredibly hopeless thing and it would just feel like i. I can't believe that that's not just going to happen to me And so there's obviously lots of other ways. People can feel bad or confused about their future or their bodies but if suddenly the idea of that feels like oh that'd be great. You know something for that. Give it a thought. give it about. You'd never transition but it's always an option Okay i think we should leave that when there because otherwise. We'll we'll just stay focused on it this whole time but i do and yelling doing some extra advice in your spare time if you are you like no. I could do this all day. I know it's so much fun. I really i. Did you ever get tired of it. Stopped being fun. Start being annoying because there. There are certain annoying pieces. We can talk about them later. I can imagine that would start to kind of it was honestly. I mean it was the kind of thing where i did eventually have a sense of. I want different things for my career as a writer. And i need more time and energy to devote to them and so i want to start thinking about my next move but unlike daily or a weekly level not often no is you know as i was gonna say like to this day if i stopped that job. Fifty years ago daniel average been dead for fifty years it was. I think one of the best jobs like it's just really fun. Even the hard stuff is pretty cool. Yeah i completely agree and everyone told me to avoid the comments completely so slate listeners. If you've ever left comment. I'm sorry i didn't see it to protect my health so i have like none of the negative side at all except for that person who sneaks in the year two long. Yeah but i think one of the things that is great is you can always say like. I don't get paid to read the comments like this is my job. I get paid to do the job. And that was one of the things that a i was often asked like periodically throughout my tenure. There'd be somebody who's writing about advice columns generally or or slate advice columns specifically woodson's wanna like do an interview. And i often get asked like how do you let go of these things you find that you carry them around with you all day. I would feel like well you know sometimes they. They're really hard to think about deeply sad or concerning and certainly some of them have stayed with me. But you know don draper voice. That's what the money is for like Not that i just do this in my spare time for. No reason like i have specific job requirements. I get paid to do them. And then when i'm done i go home and i feel like that's something that you and i kind of share. Maybe yes totally. Absolutely and i've only had to text you once in a panic wondering if i made a huge mistake which is a great track record by the way. Yeah at the at the end. I think i did so. Yeah if there's any hard part it's like wondering if you steered someone wrong or if people will find you on twitter and linked to tell you that you steered someone wrong. I mean i sincerely do. Yeah i'm on like dan. I've received a couple of messages. I'd like to see. You know. Like i normally agree with you but you were wrong and let me tell you. Why those are. I think to read like when it's somebody who's just like i thought about this carefully. I disagree with you. Here's why those. Yeah we're nice to hear. But the ones that i wanted to try to put a buffer zone. Where like you know not only. Are you wrong every time you open your mouth. But here's everything. I don't like about your body and head what i guess you're like in your interpersonal relationships. Like i don't need that information man. Oh god luckily. I protected myself from that so far. Gone but overall yeah. There's nothing really to complain about. Did you ever find yourself Giving yourself advice as pretty absolutely. I totally have been doing that. It's really helpful. It's really really helpful. Frankly it's of like that body neutrality stuff earlier like if i feel nothing problem or like really down on myself of handled a situation like that sort of useful framing device for taking me out of myself and trying again about the like.
Slate's Dear Prudence
"prudence" Discussed on Slate's Dear Prudence
"Might be worth thinking about Gosh there's so much here. I guess what i would really just want to focus on is literature. What you're describing is really serious and really painful. And pretty chronic. I don't think it's just like a customary outcome of stopping drinking especially five years later so in terms of like this. Is this a high enough level of seriousness. that i kind of deserve help and support for it. I think the answer is yes absolutely But it's also not like completely unheard overthrows you outside of the realm of flake legible. Human experience a think fit. There are definitely ways that you can receive help for this. That's not to say that. I can promise you that you're gonna wanna have lots of sex again or that you're gonna like experience sluggishness again in affirming way I don't know what the best possible outcome would look like for you. It might simply be in the near term. Like i'm not always alone with my thoughts of self loathing and confusion There's there's somebody else. Yeah i think the first order of business like the two most important things are. Make sure that you don't start drinking again because this is the kind of pain that i could see contributing to that and that you don't hurt yourself and that probably happens like through some help in some therapy and then after those things feel a little more stable and maybe they feel stable now then move onto like do i want to have relationships. Do i want Blake what i see in the mirror. And then i almost like the lighter and more fun question is like should i call myself sexual like you can deal with that when you just feel better. Yeah yeah there's not an obliga-. I think people worry like will i then have an obligation to feel like a good a sexual person like a my allowed to consider myself a sexual if i feel a lot of despair and you know you as a human being a human being. You don't have to be like a good representative of a community so for whatever that's worth i think they last thought letter writer and again. I really do encourage you to to see a therapist particularly trauma informed therapist because you mention various trauma that you think might be a part of this and that. That's not to say that if you can identify and locate the trauma you can solve. Your problems will go away but that it is an important part of how you're reacting to all of this. My last thought is just like on a daily practical basis. And you're looking for ways to live peacefully with a body that feels like your enemy. You know i think whenever possible you know because it can be so hard to go from that to like know. Your job is to love yourself. 'cause i can actually feel horrifying that can feel like. Hey your job is to love something that you wanna fight with all your might and all of your strength and it's like no you're telling me to transform my values like that feels very threatening and so i think whenever you have an opportunity to treat your body like a neutral mental image will be helpful but like imagine that like it's like the old days and like someone has like come up from the one road and it's like please. I need shelter and alms for the night like think of your body as a traveler that is down on its luck and has stopped at your in and you don't have to like the body you don't have to be friendly with it but to just think like here is a human being who has come in off the road and needs a steaming bowl of soup and a warm bed for the night And so on those days when kindness is just a bridge too far aim for neutrality. Sometimes it can help to think of your body is like maybe an old friend who care about a lot and who if they were there in that kind of pain you would wanna look after them and be very easy on them and not require that they push themselves too hard and so if that's useful in those moments think of your body is like a beloved childhood friend And just think about if my friends showed up and they were you know we being are really flat affect and just said i hate myself. Would i offer them a cup of tea. Would i encourage them to take a nap. Would i get them something comfortable to wear rather than like say look in the mirror start loving yourself make eye contact like get comfortable with nudity like that would be. I think really harsh and yet sometimes we can think like. That's the route to self love totally. I love the idea of body neutrality as a goal rather than love. And you don't have to look in the mirror at all if you don't want to. I think when. I first read it. I kind of had the same feeling of like care for your body. Do nice things and i was thinking about things. Like sugar scrubs and yoga and walks it sound a little too tight for the situation but whatever it means to you to like. Be nice here body. I think might help a little bit. Yeah and it's not that those things are trait so much as they're really like context dependent. I think like if you're feeling really run down but you enjoy sugar scrubs and you have some on hand it's great and if you're in that state where you're like having to touch my body or be aware of my nakedness. Sounds a nightmare. Sometimes the solution there is just like go to the pharmacy. Get the cheapest kind of baby wipes that you can and you know scrub yourself down while remaining clothed and then you change into clean clothes because then that way you got at least somewhat cleaner but if you're just like genuinely like if i get in the shower i will lose it. You know.
Slate's Dear Prudence
"prudence" Discussed on Slate's Dear Prudence
"You don't do it it is okay to say. I feel traumatized about sex. And i would like to get back to having a higher sex drive or a higher desire to have sex. That is a good thing so you are entitled to any and all of those things. Yeah when it came to the Like fear or disgust over the idea of intimacy and being touched. I wrote down. This is totally normal For someone who's recently become so. And then i realized that mighty that was normal came from one episode of couples therapy on. Hbo where there was a guy who was alcoholic and then like didn't want to have sex. I was. I've heard this before this. So but i do feel that it's probably normal The person who's been sober five years so it has been awhile. And i hate to just default to the responsive like this is really hard like definitely get therapy but that was sort of kept coming up for me like this is all legitimate. It's also hard and you deserve help figuring it out. Yeah i think especially because you know the letter says it's not just that i can't conceive of being intimate with somebody it's also. I can't really picture future. Living with my body as a presently is so race. It's moving into almost every area of of life and that to me rises to the level of like. I wanna talk to somebody on a pretty regular basis about this right i mean. I didn't want to overreact. But when i read sense of dread about the future and not being able to live with this body for much longer. I got a little bit of like a red flag. Went up to me about like possible. Suicidal thoughts or at least the kind of deep hopelessness and inability future that could be connected to suicidal thoughts. And i think i think the letter writers relationship with her own body and like her struggle to survive in her own body and not wanting to move forward and is much more urgent and serious than like the intimacy issues. Yeah and so. Let letter raider. I just want to flag that as information for you not to say like you need to freak out or you have to do the following x. Things as a result of feeling this way but yeah there is definitely some. I think i would maybe call it passive suicidal idealization. This letter which is to say. I can't really picture a future. The idea of doing this for a long time feels pretty insurmountable. And i don't necessarily have like a concrete plan to hurt myself in the near future but Things are not just like a little tricky. And maybe if something just happened that sort of cut my life shore at that would be okay and that sort of thinking. Yeah i think is sometimes useful to call passive suicidal aviation if letter writer. You are worried about disclosing that to a potential therapist because you're concerned about possibly getting treatment forced on you I think that that would make sense. You could really clarify you. Know sometimes when i have shared passive Suicide -ality in certain context. I have stressed. I no plans to hire myself. I want help with these feelings. You know to kind of let whatever mental health provider. I was talking to like where i was at an end. Sort of make it clear that this was not like a immediate crisis. If that makes sense you know. Certainly one thought that comes to mind letter writer when i see somebody talking about being confused by their body. Not being able to envision a future in it is spelled transition that is not the only thing that is connected to thoughts like that. But it's certainly one. That came up for me as i was reading this so that might be something. You also want to consider Whether or not part of the fear of the future is the idea of like continued reinforcements of like sexual dimensions. In your life that have to do with like your assigned sex at birth That might be food for thought. Yes she said. My body is confusing. My body is confusing. It's of interesting thought. I know a lot of people hate their bodies especially women in our society. It's your talk. Your body as a woman by confusing is nowhere. That i hear a lot. So if we had the letter writer here. I want to hear a lot more about that. And like what about what about. It is confusing And absolutely. I don't want to suggest that like everybody's route to transition comes through like a really like acute sense of fauria or self loathing But it will say for me. When i started thinking about the possibility of transitioning would try to logic myself out of it by being like no no no. Everyone knows. Women feel bad about their body. You'll bad about my body. That is further evidence of my womanhood and makes me feel worse which makes me more of a woman and now i have to lie down on the floor and think about brennan frazier from one thousand nine hundred and cry so know that that again that if any of that rings an alarm bell within you letter writer or feels either like oh man that feels kind of close to something or wow. I hate that idea. Fuck you for saying it. That.
Slate's Dear Prudence
"prudence" Discussed on Slate's Dear Prudence
"Our second letter. flag The letter writer is talking about trying to figure their relationship out to like shame desire and sexuality so they're using some loaded language. But it's i think fairly tongue in cheek or like self deprecating. So i just wanted to mention that It can sound a little bit harsh that first sentence without this preface and i just wanna let it be known. I don't think the letter writer is is trying to say like these are firm categories of people. Shy go ahead and read it. Yeah you have to read it okay. Subject trapped i'm assists woman in her mid thirties. A former slut. And now. I don't know a dead inside questioning a sexual i really just don't want to be touched and i'm not sure if it's trauma or just simply that i hate my body so much that the idea of someone seeing me naked touching my body makes my stomach hurt. My afer mentioned slightness. Am i allowed to use. The term was connected with a ten year stretch of binge drinking. now i've been sober for five years and ever since i stopped partying. I can't get myself to be intimate with anyone. I can barely look in the mirror. I am quote unquote thin but my body is confusing. I don't know how to live with it. I feel this sense of dread. When i think about a future and having this body with me the whole time do you have on how to live with the body. That feels like an enemy. Thank you feel so much affection for this letter writer like i know that interesting. She's just going through the mill. But i just. I found this kind of charming like there was real levity as well as seriousness and a sense of i like the sound of the person writing this letter and i feel a strong desire to radiate warmth towards them wherever they are. Yeah a lot of vulnerability and a great sense of perspective as well and yes. I think you're allowed to say the word slutty cheekily. Especially if you're talking about yourself I can't promise you that everyone in the world will enjoy hearing that word but I don't think it rises to the level of Something that you must assume should never be spoken aloud in company. Yeah like read. The room. Certainly. don't use it in a job in right right but it's okay to use it in this letter. So i would say that the thing that i wanted to start with the letter writer uses dead inside in quotes at the beginning and so does seem to me like there's some sort of question of i don't know whether to consider my propulsion or fear at the prospect of sex or physical intimacy as something that i would want to understand as being part of like a possible a sexual identity or understanding of myself as a sexual person i think more. I'm associating it with a problem. That i have and that i would like help with so might. My sense was the question that the letter writer is kind of confused around is like to think of myself as a sexual and i also sometimes experience i fear of sex as something that i would to quiet or do not think of myself as a sexual and think of this like these suite of experiences as merely the results not merely but solely the result of like trauma or something else that i wanna work through so i i don't have like concrete thoughts.
Slate's Dear Prudence
"prudence" Discussed on Slate's Dear Prudence
"Rather than you know. Have these kind of secret expectations that if you say to someone you know. I'm gay and lonely that they'll say you know. Come to a party tomorrow. It's great if they do but if they don't they're not harming you rate and my final thought on this is would encourage the letter writer suggests. I know it's so hard to just like change the way you think but explore the mindset of not liking people who don't like you or not caring about people who don't like you. I just think that life is a lot easier whether it's like romantic relationships or friendships. When you're not chasing people down to try to get them to like you when they don't for reasons that are fair unfair. I think you don't seem to like me. Okay well screw. You is a pretty healthy attitude. I think so too. I mean obviously it hurts if someone treats you rudely but distinct from that is sometimes i think there can be that sense of but you must like me. Everyone has to like me And that will you know causing a lot of unnecessary her. If you carry that around in life. I think right. That's what i'm trying to say like. I don't even want this person to like me outside. If the little engine at the back of my mind that says everyone has to like me. All die right and i also think the letter writer filtering all of this through. It feels like a lot of shame around being quiet and anxious and introverted. Like all of those are okay ways to be If you wanna get help to like try to be less of those things that's okay but there's nothing wrong with you for being shy awkward quiet or whatever else you are. You don't have to change. Yeah hopefully maybe if you step back from some of these group chats and some of these big hang out sessions with everyone from grad school. They'll have more time to pursue other one on one friendships with people that you would like to get to know a little bit better. Who may be seemed like. They have some quiet peaceful vibes and that might be lovely. This episode of big mood. Little mood is sponsored by modern fertility. If you remember sex. Ed if you had sex ed you may have learned how to prevent pregnancy but when it comes to planning for pregnancy. Sometimes that can be a bit of a mystery..
Slate's Dear Prudence
"prudence" Discussed on Slate's Dear Prudence
"I felt obligated to be really close with her. Since we've known her for so long but i think we kind of just don't vibe and like my goal is to be a little bit more relaxed around her but otherwise scaleback so none of this is to say that. You should stop being friends with her. That i want you to act as a go between. But i just want to let you know she and i are not best friends. We're not going to become best friends. I think that's that's fair. And that's probably the right answer. But the answer that i feel in my heart is if someone's being unkind to me and making digs at me in refusing to hug me. My partner should not want to be friends with them anymore. I i definitely want to also leave that one open again like if it is the case that that was absolutely a dig and if you you know maybe you can even ask your partner like i. Experience that moment as a dig. How did it read to you. And if your partner says you know now that you mention it yeah it actually did seem pretty rude and you can say like i think. Sometimes she is rude to me. I don't wanna make a lot of assumptions. Do you get that impression. In which case. You might absolutely wanna say like i want you to be a little bit more defensive of me not act defensively all the time but you know if you notice her kind of trying to ice me out of something in the conversation or saying something kind of snide I'd appreciate not the have to say like fuck off. We're going home but maybe like squeeze my hand changed. The conversation asked me how i'm doing. You know your partner should absolutely not just be like. Yeah you're fucking imagining things. And you're bad at talking to people and i like my friend better than i like. If that's the response we're getting that's probably indicator that you don't have a great partner and i think you make a good point that the partner can kind of weigh in on this situation because sounds like the partner has been here for most of it. Maybe not the grad school part just as someone who seems to probably be less shy and less anxious I would be interested in getting the partners. Take on how these interactions look to you. You know me well. Am i overreacting or is there something going on here. Like you're on the group chat like let's go over the tax like what do you think about the way she talked to me here. You know Yeah yeah and to present it. As i'm asking for your feedback. I think will go a long way towards making your partner feel Non defensive which is definitely good. This this is the kind of thing a. I'm glad that you're here for this. Because i think often i hear from people who will sort of preface their problem with. I'm really anxious and afraid of confrontation. So please don't advise me to do anything that would evolve like naming reality or like raising the possibility that someone doesn't like me. And i think sometimes people can get so scared of that especially with someone. They consider a friend. They'll just think like obviously whatever happens could never say to. Someone seems like i'm upsetting you. Is everything okay. Like they just die. And it's really. I think in some ways i used to feel that way and it actually is not fatal and in a lot of ways. It's really bracing. Does that make sense total. I mean it just. It is hard to have hard conversations. this is a very very minor example but actually like a funny memory that i have with you or i felt like you used pretty script was. I don't know if you remember. We went to france with some people in san francisco and went like shopping around the mission. Later we were in the store with like vintage stuff or like international odds and ends and you wanted to buy this like big fake. Oh and you've been waiting check out for a while. And the store owner was deep in conversation with me about like my hair which she was touching and her world travels and i was just kind of going to was the white lady moving to ball she was going to also be a hair toucher. I'm so sorry. So i was just kind of going to be like this letter writer like this is awkward. But i don't wanna say something hard. And i know that danny needs to check out but god forbid i announced that and you just said like in the voice of prudence. Excuse me. i know that you're enjoying that conversation. But we would really like to check out now if you could call. That was great. It was a tiny tiny bit uncomfortable but it was like so effective and a lot of people. Just don't even like to speak up in a situation as innocuous as that. It's one of those things where once you start doing it. And you realize there's no like witches curse that descends on you and people don't like flee from you in horror. It's actually kind of fine. Yeah totally. I was just watching that episode of thirty rock last night. Where tracy tells liz Is it because you're secretly terrified of her like all women are like all white women are of their best friends And she's just like yes. I think about that one a lot. Yeah and you know you don't really want to be too terrified to be your best friend or your partners friends for too long. We're like somebody who you see a lot but don't like and of course i don't want to advise anyone to start taking up like a really antagonistic relationship with a forced mutual. But certainly if you have been spending five years thinking that they're being rude to you don't suffer another five years in silence. Yeah the last thing that i think about this one is just as you said. I would really encourage the letter writer to let go of this language of i was excluded. You know i came out to someone and then she didn't invite me to a party whose two things are. Not one doesn't follow the other. You know you offered someone emotional disclosure it. Sounds like she was generally affirming. It doesn't sound like she was like that's terrible or i hate you And that's kind of all you can ask for and if someone doesn't then also say and now i want to be closer friends and join my circle of friends. That doesn't mean they had a bad response to your coming out. It just means that you two had different goals when it comes to friendship and that can be sad but it doesn't mean that someone's hurting you or doing the wrong thing. It just means a little mismatch ray. There's a big difference between having a party and inviting twenty people and not the rest of the people in the class and having a party where you invite everyone. Put a sign on the door. That says like this person can't come in. I think the letter writer feels like the ladder situation happened was actually the former. Yep and sometimes i think if somebody thinks themselves as really introverted or withdrawn there's sometimes a corresponding desire to have someone else. Draw them out and if that happens. That's wonderful but if that's an expectation that you have of other gregarious people and they don't meet that expectation. They're not actually doing anything wrong. Especially good play and again. That's not to say you have to go read dale carnegie and become like a glad hander and start inviting people over two parties every day but find other ways to make friendships at a pace..
Slate's Dear Prudence
"prudence" Discussed on Slate's Dear Prudence
"I'll go ahead and read our burst letters that you can read the second one because that's just how i want it. The subject of the first one is shut out of friendship. My partner and i have a mutual friend who's closer with my partner then to me. She's friendly with me most of the time but often says things that seem to indicate she doesn't like me. I'm introverted and socially anxious and she often complains generally about people who don't keep up in a conversation. She accuses me of being quote so upset. When i'm just being quiet when we were in grad school together five years ago. I confided in her. That i just come out but she excluded me from hangouts with her other new queer friends at our school. It sucked but i understood. I couldn't force someone to befriend me. Just because i wanted more quick friends were still very much each other's lives weeks ago. She asked my partner if she could hug them. And they said yes. It was an exciting post vaccination embrace then. She said she wouldn't hug me. I know this small thing and that my shyness is often interpreted as leave me alone. But i felt shut out again. It's making things worse. Because i get even more awkward and self conscious around her. We see her all the time. Where multiple group chats together to talk to her about the small and i think unintentional ways that she hurts my feelings every time i see her. Just let it go. Am i being too hard on her. I thought this was actually pretty. I thought all the questions you pick today. We're really hard. I met actually skipped them. Can i response is kind of like. I don't know there are a few things you can try. And so. When i i read this i i got the vibe that maybe this person was extraordinarily sensitive and maybe like reading a little bit too much into their partners friends behavior especially when i heard the word excluding right which i don't think is something i've heard since like elementary school like excluding isn't really a thing when you're an adult you hang out with you hang out with who you hang out with your not excluding the other people but i read it again and what jumped out to me. Was the refusal to hug. That's an attack. That's a declaration of war. That's really rude and really. That's so funny. Because i also felt you know ambiguous about this but i actually interpreted that moment differently. I was wondering if it was possible that that friend thinks of the letter writer is like my par- my friends partner who really doesn't like me. And it's quiet and doesn't really engage with me so i'm like reassuring them that like don't worry. I'm not going to try to hug you because you seem to radiate. Don't hug me. Oh i did not think of that If that's the case then this situation is a lot less dramatic everything i had to say basically revolved around this person being lake. I'm gonna give this exciting post vaccination hug. I'm not talking you which is just really mean. I mean i definitely also do that. That's possible reading. Like i think there are some things that the letter writer has been taking to personally but that doesn't mean that they're always off base here and so i certainly think that's a possibility. Let's let's maybe start with an answer assuming that that was the case that it was like. I'm not gonna hug you. I want you to sort of feel shitty. I think you're useless. And i want you to feel bad about yourself. Okay so in that case i would encourage the letter writer to To remember that not everyone will like you. And that's okay and you don't have to like everyone and it's not personal but it's not really okay for people to like be here. Mistreat you when you're in the same social circle so i would encourage them to kind of disentangle evidence that they're not this person's favorite with timeless. This person is like actually rude and kind to them and the hugs to me was actually route nine kind moment and i think it's the kind of thing that calls for a what's going on. Do you have a problem with me. Conversation have done something to offend you. I've noticed like the following behaviors. I'm sure there might be other examples and you know. I want to take the opportunity to apologize. If there's something to apologize for or clear the air because we spent a lot of time together and i just wanted to make sure that There's not a problem between us. Yeah and that might feel daunting to somebody who kind of describes himself already socially anxious. But i think that that's a really useful sort of script which just don't have to list every time you think that you've you've crossed wires or demand an explanation for all of them. This is just a check into say. It seems like i might have been irritating lately. It seems to me when you said you didn't wanna hug me. That you were crossed with me or upset are we. You know what's going on. Do you need something from me. That's pretty brief and doesn't necessarily require like a big heart to heart or saying like i want us to be incredibly close because i think it's clear here. The goal is definitely not get closer to. This person is just find a way to be slightly more peaceful and neutral. We bump into each other. And then i think for the letter writer again. Whether some of these moments are intentional or not to think of this person is just like. I don't really like her. You know maybe. I don't want to be a lot of group chats with her for. I think sometimes people when they get put in a group chat they think like i have been selected to join the a team and i'm not allowed to resign like i have to die on the job and i get that it's weird etiquette. 'cause like if you leave one without announcing anything it might feel again. This is just someone. i don't wanna use language of force. Exactly someone just randomly chose you to be in a group chat at some point and that that does not. That's not a lifelong commitment. You can absolutely say like hey guys it's easier to like text me individually. I'm signing off totally. I also think it'll be good to have the conversation with like a. Is it possible there was a misunderstanding spin to it. Even though you you kind of know this person's being a jerk. I think opening up that way. We'll sort of disarm them And my and might make her say no no no no. There's not a problem You know you must be imagining things and then change behavior so that can be true and just be overall more pleasant. Yeah and then. I think really the conversation to have with your partner which is not like you should stop being friends with her because she and i don't get along so much as just we have this mutual friend..
Slate's Dear Prudence
"prudence" Discussed on Slate's Dear Prudence
"She was previously a senior staff editor at the new york times where she is now. A contributing opinion writer. Welcome to the show. Thank you so much for having me. I am so glad to have you here. is so excited to regain the joy of reading dear prudence. Now that i no longer rate dear prudence and i have been enjoying Your turn at the helm immensely. Although we'll say finally hit the point of Like whether it's adhd or pandemic inflected forgetfulness. I can't quite be sure. But occasionally there will now pop up like rita classic dear prudence and it will be from my tenure. I will think right. I've never seen this letter in my life. I have this brand new to me. Like i read it with fresh eyes and i'm i have no memory of either reading or answering it. I can totally imagine that just because bear so many letters and some crazy situations and a lot of them kind of just end up leading into each other and like feeling familiar. It's a delay. Like i genuinely as you know as a fellow advice column enthusiast. I read just about every dear prudence session that was available. Like through the archives You don't years ago. When i was working a different day job and so a loved it immensely and i missed it and i'm really glad that now. Apparently my mind is leading me. Forget all of my own answer. So i can read them as if for the first time like i told you i think i. As soon as i got the job. I stopped reading your columns and i wouldn't listen to your podcast just because i was a big fan of yours and i was afraid that unintentionally. Just try to imitate you and be you and now that i've been going for a couple of months. I felt safe. So i went. And like listen to all their archives. I'm good now. i i think. I shared that fears. Well like i was really afraid of doing that. And i wonder now looking back. I'm like i think. I know how to stay myself like as you said. I bet you can remember year you and i may. Has it. been roughly what you kind of anticipated had there been sort of new joys of writing the column that you didn't get from reading the column so i don't know if it's the honeymoon phase. It has been more fun than i thought it would be. I'm just really really enjoying it. I feel like i mean it's work but when i'm doing it i'm in the mindset of like texting my friends like that's just how natural it feels because i'm just a person with a lot of opinions who honestly is pretty judgmental but i'm not i know how to behave in the world. I don't go around giving my opinions time. Not ask now. I've been asked and it just feels great. I was just thinking that it was like you also know how to behave. You never offer unsolicited advice and was delightful as it's like oh i've been asked to put my own and thank you. I will totally so yeah. I've been really really enjoying it. And i think one unexpected thing is that the questions are really good. I thought when. I got access to the box. It would just be full of lake. This is more of a comment then. A question and hate mail and just kind of incoherent descriptions of situations. It didn't make sense but it's like eighty percent like well written clear descriptions of people's dilemmas that are appropriate for advice. Call him so. That's been pleasant and kind of remarkable because you know as you as you kind of acknowledge the beginning like anyone can write an email to that account like. There's there's no filter there's no like you don't have to pass a certification like test to make sure that you're nice and thoughtful The fact that many many people like the majority are coming to you with like. I've thought a lot really carefully about my life and my problems and i would like your advices kind of lovely. Yeah people really seem to sincerely want to do the right thing There is one person who every week fills in every field of the forum. Like question tagline email address with make. Your answers shorter there long. And so i'll be reading. I'll be sincere questions and then see that like every you know eighty questions it's fine which But yeah that's the kind of thing that's sort of. Its low level enough trolling that. It doesn't necessarily like wounds you or stick with you in the same way other things but there's also the sort of like did you do automate that you have a little calendar reminder every week ray that like surely that takes up a lot of your time rate and also saw advances one sentence. I'm like give me some credit. They're not all long and boring well today. at least i hope that we are able to occasionally go long. That's been one of the joys for me about switching to a format that's only part advice once a week which is say i can really spread around and make like snow. Angels in my answers..
The Eric Metaxas Show
Conservatives Need to Draw the Line to Curtail Ubiquitous Porn
"And i i really believe that the porn example is a pretty good. I think there's broad agreement here that we need to curtail. The spread of ubiquitous hot high-speed pornography in our culture. There were two laws passed for this in the nineteen ninety s with a republican house and a democrat senate democrat president the communications decency act which we actually argue a lot about now because of its section to thirty provision for big tech and the child online protection act. The cd was gutted by the supreme court and the copa. The child online protection act was held up in the courts as well but there was overwhelming support for this. I talked to a lot of young conservatives. As do you young conservatives in particular really want to curtail this stuff. And i i think. Beginning with obscenity as a way to kind of sh- finally have some limits. Some standards here is a great way to begin. There's no first amendment protection for it. And it's a recognition that liberty requires the suppression of of certain appetites and liberal education requires the cultivation of certain virtues and a conservative society needs prudence. We need to be able to say yeah. Words means something we can kind of know things in and we can kind of guide how we're going to govern ourselves and we really can't tell the difference between drag wing story our in church on sunday or a porn star and political speech than we can't tell the difference between between anything and we can't govern ourselves but just fascinated that really sharp people whether david french ben dominic That they would fall for this. I mean it seems to be kind of pure libertarianism. that in in seconds falls apart. I mean we just said it right. You know if you wanna bring. Let's bring in the racist. We wanted to be a big ten. I don't have to agree with them. But bring them in. No listen speaking of buckley when he founded national review in the fifties He specifically said that we're not going to let the john birch irs in. He understood that there are. We wanted to be as big a tent as can be but we have to draw the line. If pita can't do that everything falls
Slate's Dear Prudence
"prudence" Discussed on Slate's Dear Prudence
"All of the above. By the way. I'm gonna take this moment to mention that sleep plus members get an extra episode of big mood little mood every friday. It's just one dollar for your first month. If you had to slate dot com slash mood. I'll remind you again at the end of the show. Thanks This episode is brought to you by better help. Is there something interfering with your happiness or preventing you from achieving your goals. Better help assess your needs and match you with your own. Licensed professional therapist. You can connect in a safe and private online environment it so convenient start communicating and under twenty four hours. Send a message to your counselor at any time and you'll get timely thoughtful responses plus you can schedule weekly video and phone sessions all without ever having to sit in a waiting room better. Help has licensed professional counselors who are specialized in dealing with depression anxiety navigating family conflicts and much more. Anything you share with. A counselor is completely confidential and they make it easy and free to change counselors for any reason. Start living happier life today as a listener. You'll get ten percent off your first month by visiting our sponsor a better help dot com slash prudence join over one million people who've taken charge of their mental health again. That's better help. H. e. l. p. dot com slash prince This episode is brought to you by. Hp instant inc. No one is reading your mind. But hp instant inc knows when your printer is running low and sends you new cartridges. So you never have to think about inc save up to fifty percent you'll pay less than five dollars a month for inc and never run out again. Find out if your printer is eligible and enroll today at hp instant inc dot com conditions apply for details visit hp dot com slash. Instant inc spotify..
Slate's Dear Prudence
"prudence" Discussed on Slate's Dear Prudence
"Week. Is alexander chee most recently the author of how to write an autobiographical novel who also teaches creative. Writing at dartmouth college alex. Welcome to the show so much. It's a pleasure to be here. It's so exciting to have you here. I'm especially excited because it was formally announced late last night early this morning that the new dear prudence is going to be stepping into the position soon. And it's johnny desmond harris. And so i have spent most today being very very excited because i like her very much and now that i'm no longer dear prudence get one of my old joys back in life. Which is i get to redo prudence again. I didn't get to read it for five years. And i love reading advice columns and it was just like i already know what happens. Yes but now. I get to find out and i'm so excited So that's the biggest thing that's going on in my neck of the woods today is that i'm thrilled to reclaim an old joy. How's everything by you. Oh it's a sort of moody cloudy. Windy day we had a bear. Come for our compost last night. So that was. That was the excitement here. I mean it what that looks like is a turnover composting skin. But it's it's the shadow of the bears presence that i liked that you could see by the look on my face that that was the most thrilling thing i had ever heard and you really wanted to temper my expectations. Did you see the bear city. Seemed happy did he. Did he wear the the can over his head at any moment. now we do. We need a. We need to wildlife cam to be honest. Stand the appeal of these now. our neighbor of ours has one in so we obscene the bear which looks very handsome sleek and well-fed of course But no we have. We have not seen the bear. I can't tell you how happy i am for you. I am resisting every impulse that i have to say something like you should leave. It treats you shouldn't leave a treat. It's a wild animal. You definitely shouldn't do that. They'll be dangerous for you and your loved ones and the bear. I'm just gonna to hold my tongue. Because that's all i want to say right now. My husband likes to get a drink and sit and watch the bears in the catskills. Like in the field across from A cabin that we share there with some friends Apple trees and the bears common. Eat the apples in the tree. Get drunk while they're eating the apples Very fast may fall out of the tree and we sit the whole time when the cocktail at a safe distance. It's it feels very catskills. I guess that is the most charming thing that i've ever heard in my life and it brought a little bit of a tear to my i am not going to lie I'll send you a video. Please do please. Rate your next book about these bears Set up as many cameras as possible. Please.
The Relaxed Dog
"prudence" Discussed on The Relaxed Dog
"So i don't need to get upset if riddance doesn't do very well today. And what you mean. And he said well his truffle smell it. So have you ever smelt a truffle wilbur. No not from off margai memory okay. Well that's the thing. They holiday smelled now of course to adult. They're gonna smell like why have we just trained to the trump loyal which really stinks you. The the leads and your whole house stinks. Truffle oil Why oh anyway anyway. You know what i'm gonna say. So she she nailed it. She went to a completely different sent that it was not flown and she has a couple of complicated searches. Dave planned out before we go there and it was such a brilliant day in followed that up with the next session really was her exam on the twenty ninth december. So quite recently and david really. This was a proper with teak loads. Decoy tins outset have been soaked. And things like clove oil and rosemary. That would coit tins truffle oil to really confuse her. And we actually got a whole truffle. And so we'd had a whole. Truffle is really hidden and dave. She thought that was the Find that she was going to have the most difficulty finding because the skin at the truffle was still on the truffle. So the senate if you get me anyway. She found that no problem and we had such a good day. We had such good have constantly. And there's nothing like well. Day was an hours session was locked down. Hadn't quite totally gone down so we were able to do it And in in but dave's the policemen anyway so we went breaking any rules in a forest. And yeah so that that that that. So basically yeah. That was the end of last year. Pretense became a qualified truffle. Hunter and the first minute triple terrier in the world to be one. Yeah so that's kind of i have. I haven't really put listeners now. Not at all. I'm i'm going back to the swallowing of the the plastic fork thing. But one of the questions i ask everyone and it could be. That could be. The answer is to complete. The sentence accomplished believe my dog eight aids..
The Relaxed Dog
"prudence" Discussed on The Relaxed Dog
"Was invited by. What are the bay doke blocks in the uk. Cool the dog find. Come along and experience it. So it's prudence. She wore a life vest and really sunny day at it was great. She just loved it but again just a quirky thing to do with your dogs and we went pulse lund zoo and they were all the monkeys you see a lot of monkeys monkeys among king around. Pru the as smelt among ks. So that was quite funny but yes she was good as gold on the boat and little speedboats giving up the regents canal. Well it's a fun. Bright loving willies adventures. Yes oh yeah in well okay. So i didn't have much time ago. It probably talking much at all. Never when it comes to talking about your dog no limit okay. All right so it's gonna get really exciting now so i launched my podcast dokes life and last year on the first march and one of my first guess was somebody. I really admire Hopefully have heard of him. His name is police constable. Dave will del whose dog is adult cool fin a german shepherd. Police dog and his canine fin. Have you heard of him or yes or have brought in court. Recall too many details okay. Well he nearly died in the line of. Gt on a normal night of work. And dave went through the the real trauma and the guilt Of putting his dog into this situation it wasn't his fault. Dave didn't know that this criminal had this massive massive knife now if it was a massive knife and what finn did. The knife was heading to dave. I'm with killed him. And in the big german shepherds stunning dog phyllis. Protecting his master just jumped into the knife so that the knife literally missed his halt by millimeters. He's lucky to be alive but he is alive. And so it's great episodes. Because dave such dog love An of his trainer and what he does now is awesome. One to one lessons with normal people like me if you could call me normal on the poco smith chatting about his To on training and because he does tracking and searching you say so using his police dog training to really help owners as well understand that dogs dogs and old dogs have massive faction and all dogs confined tennis ball in an old dogs a capable of so much. And so we're told him at this. And i go gosh dave and he has worked and i said because they had this crazy idea since prudence was a puppy. Because i've mentioned she's like super sniffer. And i wanted to train how to find a truffle. So dave said no problem right. Let's sort this out so we had a first lesson of sent discrimination trained properly so can can you believe it. I mean i get so excited about these things. We were training and in this woodland so of the bay is no point training. A dog to find the truffles. Send to the car park. Because you'll never going to find a troubled in car. Park is that we were in a real environment where there might have been some truffles along social because she was click.