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Preventing gun violence after deadliest school shooting in a decade
"Along political lines in the wake of the Texas school shooting After two mass shootings ten days apart first in Buffalo New York then at an elementary school day Texas politics again divides the debate about guns in America It involved a Wednesday Former congressman beto o'rourke whose challenging Republican governor Greg Abbott interrupted an Abbott news conference This is totally predictable when you serve you're out of line In Washington members of Congress predictably marked their turf Republican senator Tommy tuberville of Alabama Guns are not the problem okay People
Democrat Gun Laws Encourage More Crime
"And John, I tell you, I love that you came on because we need experts to talk about these things. You know, I could talk about them from passion and my expertise as a former police officer and just the stuff that I've dealt with when I was growing up. And you know, it is very, very troubling. With the stats that you have given in the things that you have, you know, relate to the people who are listening that the government is completely feckless when it comes to making proper decisions on gun legislation. I personally believe that we should have less laws, we should have more gun ownership because it is proven as a fact that most people who possess firearms are doing the right thing with it and their law abiding citizens. There's a small group of the population that are out here killing people. No, I mean, that's exactly right. I mean, you have a very small percentage of the population that just commits crimes over and over and over again. And the problem that you have with a lot of these laws is that it's primarily the most law abiding good citizens who obey them. So if we kind of bring this back to the gun free zone stuff that we were talking about at the beginning. And that is, you know, you say you're not allowed to take a gun into a certain area. Well, who pays that? It's the most law abiding citizens. In fact, it actually serves as a magnet for the bad guys because the bad guys know that victims there won't be able to go and fight fast and depend themselves. So it's an attractive place for the criminals to go.
Why More Guns Results in Less Crime
"One of the things that I want you to talk about with your research and academic journals that you've written on this topic, the book that you've written on this topic, the concept of more guns, somebody got upset with me on Twitter the other day, and they said, so your argument is you want more guns and that's going to solve the problem. And I said, of course I do. And we were talking about this before the break, but I want you to continue, John, and tell us why more guns make more sense. Look, just as you can deter criminals with higher rest rates or higher conviction rates for longer prison sentences, the fact that a victim might be able to defend themselves also makes it riskier for criminals to go and commit crimes. And if my research convinces me of anything, there are two groups of people who tend to benefit the most from having guns and they tend to be some of the most vulnerable people in our society. They are the people who are most likely victims of violent crime and that overwhelmingly tends to be poor blacks who live in high crime urban areas. They look, if anybody's read my academic research, they know that I think that the police are the single most important factor for reducing crime, but the police themselves understand that they virtually always arrive on the crime scene after the crimes committed. And that raises the question about what people should do when they're having to confront a criminal by themselves. And simply telling them to behave passively, isn't very good advice. They're much more likely to be
Yes, Gun Free Zones Are Targets for Mass Shootings
"Why don't people see this? I mean, we all get it. Why don't people see that all of these shootings are occurring in these soft areas where is gun free zones? People are not armed. They're sitting ducks. Why don't people see that that's a bigger problem than what they're talking about? Well, no, I mean, you're exactly right. It's why I'm frustrated, but 94% of the successful mass public shootings since 1950 have occurred in places exactly as you're describing, where civilians are banned from having guns. What people need to understand is that these gun free zones actually serve to a track these attackers because they their goal is to try to kill as many people as possible or wound them because they know the more people they harm, the more media attention that they're going to be able to get.
Switzerland Has a Stunningly High Rate of Gun Ownership...
"You know, there's a lot of European countries that do allow guns, for example, Switzerland. And they don't have this kind of problem. Nothing close to it. So what are they doing differently? They've got more guns, actually. In fact, in a population of about 8.3 million people, there's an estimated 2 million privately held guns. Think about that. And yet going back in some statistics I looked at all the way back to 2016, actually, this is data from 2016, there were 46 homicide attempts with guns, none of them were actually successful. So that's good news, but again, 2 million guns. And yet they don't have these mass shootings. So what's going on? Maybe it's more respect for the weapons. Maybe it's a culture of having that respect for the weapons that's passed along. Fascinating to me, every man. Every male in Switzerland is actually required to have a gun. They're given a gun. By the government, and they have that between the ages of 18 and 33, the government trains them extensively in the use of that gun, but it's expected that they would have a gun in their home. The Swiss model being that they should be armed, but nonetheless, not engage in that combat. But they want to make sure that everybody knows how to at least the men there are a team to 34 33. Now how to use a gun. And then after 33 at 34, you are offered the opportunity to purchase that gun from the Swiss government and you can keep it in your home and you have to have a permit and all that stuff. So lots of guns in Switzerland and yet none of the horrific things like we've seen here.
With the Country Reeling, We Need Less Politics and More Solutions
"A devastating devastating news out of Texas. 19 children killed two teachers killed all in the same classroom. I mean, I get a little bit sick every time I think about this and I wish I wasn't here talking to you about this today. But I think that it's important we do. And it's important the nation have a conversation that's real in terms of what solutions can be offered. I get it, you know, both sides are going to go all in for the politics of this. You've got one side saying guns need to be outlawed. We need no more guns. That's going to be the solution to all of it. Well, they're wrong. And then the other side saying, we just need to arm everybody. You know, and then everything will be fine. Well, they're wrong too. All right? And so I, for once, would like to see some seriousness from our leadership in Washington from the president of the United States for goodness sakes. Who could take measures to address this heck, he's got Congress, or he's got the house, and he'd have the Senate on this one because Joe Manchin has been very much about finding realistic solutions that still protect our Second Amendment. We have a Second Amendment, okay? We're not going to throw out the constitution. So let's work within the frames of the constitution to find solutions that work. We have it's very clear a mental health problem in this country, which I believe, and if you've been watching some of these shows, including my discussion with senator Marshall Blackburn out of Tennessee just last week, I believe that big tech has been instrumental in actually making much
FDA chief struggles to explain slow response on baby formula
"Over months of delays investigating problems at the nation's largest baby formula plant that prompted an ongoing shortage FDA commissioner Robert califf told Congress the coronavirus slowed down efforts to investigate problems at the abbot plant We knew that ceasing plant operations would create supply problems but we had no choice given the insanitary conditions The ranking Republican on the committee Virginia's Morgan Griffith quickly zeroed in on the slow response Why did it take an onslaught of national media attention for the Biden administration to act with the sense of urgency that is required to adequately address an infant formula shortage Formula had to be airlifted from Europe to help ease the shortage Abbott and the FDA have reached an agreement to reopen the plant next
Jeff James: The Benefit of Reconfiguring a School Lobby
"Great Something as simple as configuring your lobby so that you have a captured entrance So if somebody gets through that first door say the person who's giving admittance is the secretary right Somebody pushes the button and says hey I'm here to pick up my kid They come through that first door And at that point the secretary sees something untoward That way they're trapped in there They would need to be granted access through that second door before they could gain entry to the building And look they can shoot through the glass and walk through like Lanza did it at sandy hook But what that does is buy some time And the other thing I advocate in all schools I coordinate security with is anyone in your school district should be able to call a lockdown I don't care if it's a maintenance guy if it's a secretary if it's a superintendent They should have a mechanism in place where if your maintenance guy sees a guy walking across your parking lot with a rifle he should be able to hit a button on his phone or get to a hard button or something and let everybody know to lock down right now Because if that secretary sees it but she has no mechanism to fix the problem then it's still that it's still a failure So yeah there are some cost low cost solutions that are sustainable that can be put in place And look you get it We talked about armored glasses heavy and it's hard and it's extremely expensive but it doesn't need to be all that There are other mitigations you could other things you could put in place that are almost cost free And the biggest one is training And you've heard me hit this button before It has to be a consistent constant thing that you're doing in your district several times a year to train your people to say not only this is what we're looking for if we see a guy with a gun But this is what we're looking for in behaviors Now people don't just snap In every one of these school shootings what always comes out their social media that they glorified Hitler that they glorified Columbine There is a clear pattern of behavior that leads people to the path toward violence that if you know what you're looking for it's easy to see
Go Download & Distribute 'Averting Targeted School Violence' Report
"The blue House in Korea Did you ever notice when he goes in a hotel They drive on the ground and everything's tended now Why do you think that is Why is it tenant Why after hinckley shot Reagan Why did we tent our arrivals on departures Because ladies and gentlemen it's damn hard to shoot when you can't see And the Secret Service had a problem to fix Not a vote to get So they did the same thing and they looked at a bunch of school shootings Now I can't encourage you and strong enough terms to go and download this report It's short some very long printed and handed out to every member of your school if they don't already have it It's called averting targeted school violence a U.S. Secret Service analysis of plots against schools I can almost guarantee you many people in your school haven't read it If you want the link to it get ready write this down I'll say it twice It's in my newsletter today It's on my website and it's in the podcast show notes If you want to subscribe to the newsletter it's not cost any money I don't really care if you want to or not whatever It's at bongino dot com Slash newsletter But if you just go to my website Bon Gino dot com and you click on today's podcast episode where I address this exact stuff the link is right there
Will Congress act on guns after Sandy Hook, Buffalo, Uvalde?
"Senate democratic chief Chuck Schumer is pushing Republicans to finally act on guns after the Texas shooting With 20 little kids dead Please damn it please think if it was your child or grandchild But Schumer notes the prospects of GOP senators shifting course in helping pass substantial laws to curb gun violence are very slim even as leader Mitch McConnell blasted the shooting It's literally sickening Alabama Republican Tommy tuberville said regulating guns won't solve anything This is a mental health issue Guns are not the problem okay People are the problem New Jersey Democrat Cory Booker says that's the problem Mines are made up It doesn't matter if more kids died This is just going to be the same thing as it was after Parkland after newtown Here nothing is changing Sagar Meghani Washington
Trish Regan Joins Dinesh to Talk About the Federal Reserve
"Guys, I'm really happy to welcome back to the podcast Trish Regan. She's an award winning multi Emmy nominated financial journalist and author. She hosted Trish Regan prime time on Fox business for 5 years, 2015, 2020, and she's the founder of Trish Regan Intel, a multimedia news publishing company and host of the Trish Regan show. Chris always a pleasure, great to have you on the podcast. All right, economy. Good to see you. Our economy appears to be getting a little bit off the rails here. And I know the fed has a meeting coming up today with an update. Where do you think that's going? What's the fed trying to do? The fed wants to communicate that they're all over this. They're promising that they're going to rein in inflation, here's the thing, dinesh. The fed has a very, very bad track record of not doing enough, and then doing too much. So let's go back to, you know, I actually would compliment them back in March 2020. They did what they needed to do. They made sure, given that our economy shut down overnight, that we had enough liquidity in the system. So they took the right policy steps, and I would argue that the Trump administration also was see steps the problem is everybody kept this whole money printing extravaganza going and going and going. And when you keep it going, you're going to dilute the value of those dollars, you're going to cause and I'm Joe Biden came into office while he did what a third round of COVID stimulus checks at a time when we really didn't
Caller: The Perception of Protection Open-Carry Offers
"First of all, I just want to send my prayers and thoughts out to all the families that done this. But with what you guys have been talking about, yes, did it turn into? Okay, if you're going to go grab somebody, we have open carry in South Carolina. So with the gun being on my hip, no, I'm not going to say I'm not going to get robbed, but the person that's going to think about Robin is going to be deterred to do it because I have something open and then you can see. Well, that's the factor. That's the deterrent. But to the left, to Democrats, the deterrent, or the plague, the problem is somehow the gun lobby.
Is Armed Resistance the Answer to Targeted Shootings?
"If somebody hears chuck's point that mass shooters go where they know the likelihood of armed resistance is low. Isn't the answer armed resistance? What do you say to that? And again, I really want to have a meaningful dialog in terms of trying to come up with some solutions. What do you say to that if you're anti gun? And that to me is the problem. We got people who are literally anti gun who think we have too many guns already. Look at the mainstream media coverage. You're seeing that emerge. There's just two many damned guns. That's their attitude. And until we confront that, we're never going to get anywhere.
Dinesh and Debbie's Hearts Go Out to the Uvalde, Texas Families
"And W and I have been talking almost nonstop about this horrific school shooting in Texas. And I mean, you have a lot of thoughts about this. Let's try to make sense of it. We're getting a certain message from the media. Well, before we talk about that, I just want to say how, you know, we are really praying for the families affected. I can not even imagine a begin to imagine what it feels like to have a child butchered in this way. And how to, you know, wait until evening to find out if they're dead or alive. I can't even imagine. So our thoughts and prayers are with the families and the victims of this horrible shooting. What's the latest 19? So yeah, 19 and two teachers, I believe, is the total so far. I think there's some people in the hospital still in critical condition so it could go up. But it's really horrible. And I told you that I always, every time there's a shooting like this, the left goes nuts. First of all, they start with, okay, let's take away everyone's guns. That's the first thing that they say. And you know, nobody wants to hear politicizing it, either side, I think it's a tragedy and it is what it is. But the problem with these types of tragedies is that these people, the left, loves to use them as excuses for confiscation of any kind of weapon for anyone, not just if you're a criminal because this is the takeaway is that they want to they want to make it harder for people to get weapons. And that's fine, as you know, I have I own two guns and of course they have to run a background check on me and I welcome that. I do not have any issues. With that, of course, I am a healthy person. I am not mentally ill, and so therefore it is perfectly fine with me. The problem comes when they don't know if the person is mentally ill or not. And this child, well, I guess adults. 18, so he's not a child. I had a lot of mental issues. I'm not going to get into those right now because I don't want people to think I'm playing politics either. I don't want to go there. But any anyone that would kill their own grandmother or try to kill their own grandmother, and then go off and do this, is not writing on all
Here is what we know so far about the victims of the Texas school massacre
"Texas law enforcement officials are describing yesterday's elementary school carnage as President Biden pleads for Congress to help stop the violence The suspect barricaded himself in a single room at rob elementary and opened fire Texas Department of Public Safety lieutenant Christopher Oliveira tells NBC's Today Show and CNN all the victims were in the same fourth grade classroom on KSA T student Jordan Lee as said he heard nonstop shots The world hero scared what on the ground fear for life At The White House Another massacre In angry and emotional President Biden Why do we keep letting this happen But prospects for reforming the nation's gun laws seem dim amid resistance from Republicans like Alabama senator Tommy tuberville who says the real issue is mental health Guns are problem too when people get shot because guns actually did
Georgia's Voter ID Laws Are a Decade Old... And Voting Is Surging
"Decade ago, George implemented, we implemented vote Rodney. And it was a big turmoil about, oh, you can't have voter ID, you know, the elderly will be affected. The African American population would be afraid of the Hispanic of the Asian population. No, oh, you can't do this. What about people who don't have IDs? And you know, at the time, I was wondering, how do these people cast checks? How do these people get money? How do they, you know, do other things. Again, somewhere they've got an idea or that they can find a way to prove who they are. That was over a decade in Africa. Let me just tell you what has happened since then. What has happened since then is this. Is that for all of those people who said this was going to be a problem in suppressing votes. Now, we just discussed that we're at our highest early vote turnout that we ever had, but I'm going to tell you an even deeper statistic that you need to hear. And that is, if those very same people who said that we should not do voter ID because it's offensive or it's suppressed, but it's whatever. Here's the facts. Since 2014. African American male African American female Hispanic male Hispanic female have all risen double digits in participation. Double digits and participation. Since the voter ID laws became official in Jordan. Now, I'm not sure why what the argument from the left was. I know what it is now, and I haven't confronted everyone's about this in a congressional hearing. And she had to acknowledge that this was true. So the problem we have here is you have a media who wants to take a narrative. They have a mindset of Republicans are bad Republicans don't want people to vote Republicans don't like people that don't look like them or act like them, which is totally false. I'm sitting here as a conservative Republican will tell you, I want everybody to vote. And it's
Britain sees growing pressure on grain prices
"British military authorities so Ukraine's overland export routes are highly unlikely to offset the problems caused by Russia's blockade of the black seaport of edessa In an update Britain's Ministry of Defense says there has been no significant merchant shipping in and out of edessa since the start of the Russian invasion a situation which will put further pressure on global grain prices the ministry adds the blockade combined with the lack of overland routes means that significant supplies of grain remain in storage and can't be exported I'm Charles De
Why Lack of Gun Control Is Not the Reason for Mass Shootings
"I already said it before, over 99 plus percent of people are doing the right things. Guns don't just jump out of your closet jump out of the safe jump up under the bed, take itself off safety and run down the street and shoot up people. That does not happen. Guns, controlled by lunatics, are a problem. Guns in it of themselves are not the problem. If you want to make an argument to say yes, guns are the problem with them alcohol is the problem as well. Drugs are problems as well. So every single bottle of vodka should be banned from the United States of America. No, no, that's not legitimate, because most people that drink alcohol are not abusing alcohol. Most people that drive in motor vehicles, which there's motor vehicle accidents, fatalities every day. There's been a few up the street from where I live. Does that mean you have to ban every single motor vehicle in the United States of America? No. Because most people are responsible drivers.
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"problems" Discussed on 99 problems
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"We've probably all no guilt feels like but what what isn't actually mean guilt just really complex but the way that i like to explain guilt and people say that it's art internal knowing that we violated her value system but are value system is constructed an so sometimes we have values that are leftover her from her family of origin that might not serve us anymore but the guilt pops up as a way of reminding us hey you're you're doing something that you probably shouldn't be doing and it's our job to figure out is that guilt 'cause i'm doing something bad now because the value system that i had growing up is telling me that this isn't something i should do so i'm curious i know tina you're actually an expert in guilt is there is there anything that you want us to know i should clarify not an expert in making other people feel guilty other understanding it's my hope that yeah i mean in our research we have found guilty of what because healthy kids feedings typically developed between d h a foreign six so it's not something that you're born with and typically in a healthy or in a positive family environment kits developed kid in a in a in an almost natural way and it's pretty sticking to those words and not harming others you know helping others and so forth but then of course you know been things turn a wrong in the case of abusive experiences we become overly guilty right which is unhealthy and so we made the distinction of healthy an unhealthy good and that would be feeling guilty for almost everything you know it's like you know eating too much ice cream you know not helping you mama out though it's part of the young you know your you know agent developmental stage and things like that so that they could balance between healthy and unhealthy kid and i think it's a credit censored because you're you know she's discovering and talking about how it affects her valve even very negativity right so you kinda wanna leave wire and talk about this which again what it means to feel healthy and unhealthy good mhm so i wanna turn it back to you as you're listening to sloan you might have some knowing's inside things you feel guilty about that maybe you shouldn't feel guilty about perhaps that guilt as tina's explaining that's too much and maybe not appropriate some curious what are some of the things that you learned in your family of origin growing up rules about how you should feel towards your parents other things that you were told implicitly or explicitly things that might create guilt if you don't feel them my brother died and i felt very guilty and on i felt guilty even though he'd had multiple chances not to die and that was very clearly a choice of his and shortly thereafter my mother died and i was almost who's alternate because she had been an albatross around my neck for a full fifty years but i felt guilty for the because society and my family and everybody says if you're mom dies you gotta show really i learned about it all is still don't feel bad thank you yeah austin felt inadequate because i never felt like i would adequate enough for them they expected a lot of media was first born just like sloan unto me they put a lot of responsibility on me because they were working class people who went to work and i was six and four years older than my siblings i had to change diapers and whatnot so when they eventually got sick and 'em i felt the burden heard already been put on me when i was young and that wasn't gonna take on the second time in honestly it took a lot of getting in therapy for guilt tax they get out of it and feel that i have done the best that i could just like they did the best they could so there's a lot of forgiveness now and that's what they guess what i inherited was that sense of responsibility but also that sense of responsibility were under your responsibilities at i shouldn't be taking on right so thank you thank you so my parents were a victim these refugees and i think the coming from eight immigrant family and i know that i can only speak my own experience but i've also done a lot of research in this area and i think feeling a lot of guilt 'em is something that a lot of immigrant children will talk about and i think it's feeling a lot of weight irresponsibility and feeling like you have to really establish yourself and do something to make your parents proud out because they've risk so much of their lived to be in this country into being a position that they're in now 'em and i think the growing up my parents always encourage me to pursue things that i was passionate about but they also always encouraged me to the country to the family in ways that sometimes conflicted a my pursuit of my passions and so that create a lot of guilt for me 'em but it also created a lot of resentment and i think it's really interesting what you were saying about how guilt comes from a feeling like leave violated certain value system is but then to be very fast critical of where those isis and came from 'em not really kind of like a lightbulb moment me when you said that just now because i think that the resentment of the guilt comes from feeling guilty of something i don't want to feel guilty for and thanks for the insight so i'm curious just really briefly for the two of you why do we feel guilty about not loving are parents oh everybody's waiting in everybody's lynn again received on his phone so no actually i do in my in my way no i love my parents and their a couple of things that obviously happened and one of the things we're always trying to be able to predict the world and one of the ways we predict the world he's buying have these models or these coaches i which allow us to say well you know here at the roles that people have here's how this works here's how that would say helps it helps just be able to work as a society i'm one of the things you do is you love your parents but the truth is everybody doesn't love their parents yeah you know that but not isn't west sold and because of that of course you feel upset you feel confused and possible the reason you feel confused this because you know they have done a lot of things for you and you know that because they've done a lot of things for you in life is partly transactional shouldn't shouldn't get something in return so that and it doesn't really work like that but it does work like that in everybody's mind so we feel guilty if we just doesn't feel it and some people don't feel it and it's not a crime just to add to what's already been said i think that the impact of our culture of background and so forth can make it you know better over us because you know there are societal expectations and those differ cross some high interest and i think that has a huge impact on how you develop or not developed feeling guilty about not loving our parents mhm his comes back to the conversation we've had about what were the post feel about her parents i work through that a lot with my clients but it's also something i've had to work through my own life i wanna tell you a little bit about my mom and i kind of territory that baby you don't necessarily here therapists talk about all the time themselves and their relationship with their mom my mom is abused growing up and when she had a family of her own she made this vow to break they intergenerational pattern she made a promise to herself that she wasn't gonna treat us the way she was treated but she doesn't really know what else to do so whenever i was upset a lot of intensity within me or between us she did the only thing that she knew how to do did hit me she leaves the room and sometimes if we were in a confined space in a kitchen or in the car and what i was going through is too much for her she would turn up the music so loud that she wouldn't have to hear me she would try and break the patterns but she didn't know what else do she didn't know how to stay with me and so i would often feel that in my moments of being most hurt and scared unafraid like i would also the most alone this dynamic made me feel like if i want it to stay close to her i had just shut everything down so that she wouldn't be upset that way we could still stay close but in a way that meant that i had to manage my expectations my reactions my emotions to please her pretty much all the time so that we could stay close but to do this i felt like i had the disappear there are lots of ways where i start to disappear in my life and an eating disorder of was one of them it was my way of feeling like high could have control over all of the things that were happening for me after recovery in and when i was stable last year i published a book book about women's relationships with their bodies about how we can learn to love her body as they are and they did i get a little bit more deaths about my relationship with my mom and the messages that women learn about their bodies from other women in their life including moms and mom figgers but i tell the story about my relationship with my mom and i wanna do that with integrity so before actually sent the final copy to the publisher i had this very terrifying conversation with her where he said mom i'm torn i wanna tell the truth about what i've been through about what we've we've been through but i also feel like i wanna protect you you see i had this guilt this guilt about not portraying her as a monster even though i didn't think that i was i was just saying that sometimes there had been hurt but this guilt maybe wanna shove everything down and then away repeat the pattern that have played out for so long that when i was with her i couldn't tell the truth about me so we talked may told her this and she said something that i don't think i'll ever forget for the rest of my life she said hillary you don't have to protect me from the pain that i feel about how i hurt you all take responsibility for that all own.
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"That a lot of times sloan in all my clients and therapy asking them to feel the classic therapy question what is it that you feel research in the field of aspect of neurosciences now showing us more clearly than ever but knowing how to feel and what to do when you feel and how to manage those intense feelings or the lack of feeling it's actually one of the most central components to mental health we call that all emotional regulation emotional regulation has become this buys word in schools nowadays and you might have read or heard a little bit about it but we've been talking about it in the field of mental health for a little while so cloud i'm curious about emotions in terms of your area of expertise there anything that you wish the general public knew about emotions as it relates to mental health i think but a misunderstanding standing emotions and not being able to label emotions are the basis of many mental health problems at me anxiety and depression and i think the people a everybody talks about emotions ashley being able to understand what emotions you're feeling 'cause they could be complex to be able to label them and then decide what to do about them a is something that a lot of us have difficulty width and and you know you just feel angry and you get to these sort of is it a is it actually fair is a bit of shame may be in their own and why and what do i want what am i going to do about it other questions we don't always osco cells spencer minutes it would certainly help people are sees you go to zona treating depression i think there's some socio cultural narratives about who's allowed to feel emotions and when and that can create some more distress inside side but i certainly know that for people that i work with when i say actually dealing with here emotions and learning what to feel and how they feel and what to do about it is central to you being the person that you wanna be they're gonna be this pushback sometimes like well can i just solve the problem without actually feeling things without actually talking about the feelings can we just kind of strategize but the evidence is been really compelling and i love hearing you say it is well that what we do with our emotions is central to are experience of mental health or mental illness and the chances are that for most of us in this room we're parents do the us when we were feeling what their parents did to them generally just trying to make feelings go away but emotions don't actually just kind of go away if we distracter assaulter forget about them they tend to just go underground in pop up in other ways things like numbing drinking self harm avoidance the ever popular endless hours of scrolling on social media for many people they've confused anger any actual experience of anger with yelling swearing breaking things they've never realize what those things are not actually anger itself but what people do when they don't know how to feel the anger pre sloan feelings and her family were not discussed people screamed at each other they hit or hurt each other you substances and so slowness learns to be aware of the feelings she has is beginning to learn what to do with them i heard the story from sloan actually just the other day when we were chatting about her choice to do something different when she felt frustration instead of intentionally pushing her husband away because she felt afraid she's learning overtime how to do things differently when she feels fear or anger sadness and it's such important work as she begins to become a parent herself so here's what it's like when we work to grow that awareness about feelings together and just like all of us sloan is a work in progress she's learning hadn't noticed things and i help her start then she learns to do it on her own so when i'm listening to in this clip is winning her voice starts to quiver if you want to get technical we could talk about the vegas nerve and activation in the vegas nerve and how that changes stuff and are larynx the tallis there's some emotion on the way it tells me that there's something coming up in her per that's worth exploring i don't really have a lot to talk to my mom when she called me when i answer i'll say hi and then she gets released defensive and she's like oh you can't say hi mom and i'm like why does every every interaction have to be so negative i think where i start to feel guilty is worried is i don't want that happened to me in my emotions you know yeah i totally a demotion words are in her head but are ability to experience and actually be in a motion is something that's in are body so here's here's where it gets interactive i wanna ask you to drop into your body perhaps overhead andy evaluation of what's happening into what you're experiencing right now you might take a moment to start being aware of you're brass to pay attention to what's on the inside just like i do is sloan i want to invite you to be curious to notice whatever's there and it's okay just a notice it take a moment to check in with yourself and to notice what starring for you right now so if anyone is willing to share you could raise their hand or if you're able and have the energy to move to the sides we've got people with mike's on other sides to help us broadcast year experience if you're willing to share high 'em i think the feeling i have is is really reflecting on on my own parents and you you spoke of emotional regulation and i think in my in my upbringing it's kind of a very typical kind of chinese immigrant story where you know emotion wasn't really approved up in the household and there wasn't extreme anger but there wasn't extreme love is well that that's kind of what i'm feeling right now do you notice any sensation in your body is he talking about that 'em it's more of a thoughtful about it it it yeah it's having me doing a lot of thinking about my parents in the context of their upbringing and what they taught us growing up thank you any other brave also there high on what i notice is listening to speak about it how much i wasn't in my body and sort of 'em a tightness in my diaphragm and a kind of guarded miss and wednesday invitation to observe what i was feeling in my body a release of that wow 'em but also some fear around that release maybe because i'm in public or maybe because has of what actually feeling those things might open up but there was a sort of market difference when you when there were permission to observe wow thanks for sharing that and it's amazing how when we start to pay attention to motion and sometimes they shift just by paying attention we don't even have to do anything necessarily thank you so much for sharing that so here's what slow noticed one astor listen to what her body in her emotions were telling her about her conversation with her mom what do you feeling 'em sat net here fear and i guess so so the sadness so he's up though that my gas decided about hugh in some ways grieving thing what happens between new parents everytime you tractors on and the fears about not wanting a freer a child and you phones in the early stages of learning how to name her emotions i mentioned the word aspect of neuro science before but it's this whole field of study about the brain and feelings and what actually happened scientifically for us and are brains and bodies when we feel there is this phrase that comes out of the field and it goes like this name et detainment the ideas that we actually have these two hemispheres in her brain and i'm being overly simplistic just to get this point across the ideas that languishes on one side and are experience for her body in her experience of herself in her knowing's on the other side and sometimes when things feel too much it's like the bridge between these two hemispheres stops along messages across when we say things like name entertainment what we mean is that were china access both hemispheres at the same time were using language on one inside help us understand or experience on the other side and in doing so it can actually decreased some of the intensity that we feel in are bodies that something a little little take away for you this evening as perhaps something get stirred up you might try noticing what comes up for you and putting name on it when emotion that does come up a lot for people and their families is gilts sloan feels hot in a big way on this particular day the data she's describing her and her husband have gone to visit her mom mom makes me feel guilty everything hillary when i go visit this is what irritates me when i go visit her sitting together were husband wife were allowed to sit together and understand what the big issue she sits on another couch we don't talk she hasn't talked to me so i don't talk to her i don't know what to talk to her about i'm not feeling like mentally like even just happy being there she's watching the indian program and she was she just sitting there watching tv as we start talking and then she does not she's like oh in punjabi doesn't even respect the fact that he doesn't understand it and she can speak english but prefers the big still in jeopardy and she's like oh you guys see each other seven days a week all day long why are you talking to him right now why are you talking what you're talking talking about this before on kind of watch tv and i'm like well where you're right now are you watching tv i don't enjoy that time with her i don't really wanna spend their time but i have being in an environment that's like not clean to i do you spend time with 'cause i feel guilty so tell me about guilt and what what is guilty where his that come from pressure pressure i have this internal pressure and then i also feel that i'm not emotionally growing up forgiving my mom i feel that's external pressure not only from friends and family but even like when you're reading books and you listen to podcasts at talks a lot about like three giving your parents and how that's like a huge part of growth and and like what what is that means forgiving your parents like what do you think forgiveness actually means in that context 'em i don't you know you know.
"problems" Discussed on Other People's Problems
"Releasing a second season right now and i've been amazed to see how being a part of the podcast has contributed to the personal growth of the clients who are participating in in season one if you've been listening along you might remember maggie making i talked about how she steals per shudo she puts it in her baby stroller and we kinda came to the conclusion that this was a way for her to create some thrill in her life the actually up regulate her mode party like a teenage come stealing pre shuto slave oh no that's a luxury item we don't have money for it or whatever i should be buying this so i just wish my stroller it's so easy to so easy to do i could just be the flustered moments like put it down in the cart it's actually kind of funny till if the two and meghan i've laughed about this together before and and she knows it sounds kind of absurd people who are listening but he was actually really brave mega shared the story intercessions know that people were gonna listen to it she talked about how that specific moment sharing the story about the pseudo was really difficult for her in fact even more difficult in sharing stories about challenges of parenting or even dealing with suicidal thoughts she's really embarrassed to share it but after the podcast came out so many people message there's meta say how move they were by now you story and how much they appreciate it her honesty i actually believe that being part of this podcast her clients like meghan sloan her gonna be talking about tonight but it's been really healing for them and whenever we talk about the podcast with people year how much it stirs up for them questions about their own life but that stays in her head if you're listening to the podcast on her own had people say to me that they're listening in their car and you know they're pounding the dashboard screening just or oh me too and so these experiences of listening and the reactions that we get stay within are sol's until tonight we'll see a chance just share are reactions to the things that were hearing with each other as away feeling less alone phone and perhaps exploring some of the stuff that comes up for us tonight is going to be interactive in the spirit of learning the other people's problems are a lot like are own we wanna hear from you so justice that some ground rules to make sure that this feels like it could be a brave space be curious it's kind of a monstrous from me of the therapists that lenora reactions to things come up particularly are reactions to other people's statements it could be really easy to get into a spiral of judgment words are solves rather people so whatever is shared i invite you to approach it some curiosity only inside of yourself if you notice judgments just notice them it might tell you something about yourself so i wanna introduce the central theme of the evening i'm gonna spend some time with my clients sloan and helping you get to know her at the time of the sessions phone is actually pregnant she's had her baby now but when we recorded that she was still in pregnancy and now she's looking forward to this new chapter of her life is starting a family it's more clear to her then ever before that she did not wanna become her mom and i do feel that some of things i don't like about my mom are you know the pattern that you start to see in others among others meaning you're family and then you start to notice yourself that you thought you didn't inherit but then you kind of do have them so i start worry that like like her in so many ways well that kind of scares me have you ever had that moment where you think that was something my mom would have said or done or maybe you're died or maybe an older brother sister sister in this room already adult children of many different kinds of parents parents who were loving parents who were emotionally in tune neglectful totally overwhelmed offered her unconditional love where you know only you know the specific so you're family but one thing that all of our parents have shared is that they have limitations made mistakes and they likely failed you as a kid at some point and when they did whether they apologize to you or showed you how to make things right or yelled at you or hits you were left you altogether it all made a mark on who you are today parents brought a model of adulthood they show us what it means to be adult by what they say and what they do those adults we learned a whole both positive and negative waves that are parents made us who we are and how do we do that how do we grow beyond the things that we've inherited the things things that are parents unknowingly gifted to us both positive and negative that's the main question were gonna be exploring here tonight i'd like to invite to special guest helped me do that here on stage doctor qualm adopter tina everybody can and we give the man's okay first sloan her childhood included a view and that story of what she's been through is still affecting her today especially when it comes distressful unimportant days here's a clip from one of her counseling sessions a little while back you might have heard it in season one of other people's problems i just had this like thought that when my mom's gonna try to kill him my wedding i don't think she's gonna do this i don't think that my mom's going like hurt me but like in the past my mom has threatened us like i don't know if you remember stories of moms like driving their ben's off of lake clips in water like my mom's issues and do that to us like she has said to us it's like in moments of anxiety or or like when she had migraines or where like kissing her offer like she said like oh like i'm gonna burn the house down are like oh take a moment when he feeling your body will just say that i feel like i'm crazy when i think healing your body right now what do you notice and inflation is leading someone sloan says that she's inflating it's the beginning of some language that she's learning to put on her inner experience what it feels like in her body when she's remembering things that she went through that were terrifying in a related to her trauma sloan's mumbling actually gonna kill her but she told her that she was and that does some really damaging things to the mind of a child after doing therapy and doing lots of trauma processing we started a pull apart the stories from her childhood trauma processing is a little bit different than regular talk therapy but at mental help us reorganized how our brains stories memories and help her body feel like the things that we've been through they're really over now that she's getting a different experience of being herself in the world chicken see that what she lives in what she lives to west although is normal for her it wasn't okay so with that in mind i wanna turn my panelists here teen i'll start with you i'm curious to hear that clip what stands out to you is somebody who works with children well guess what stands out is it did the realization that something was wrong you know and you know all patterns our childhood patterns are for many years protective right so you don't necessarily realize that 'em until you're you're much older and so i think that's part of the healing process you know that that those parents become aware that you kind of do have emotional reactions and that's what i hear and that is very much part of the therapeutic post says i'm in indy chinese torch heating and crowd is there anything that sticks out for you i hear the story over over a gang and it never stops to be disturbing when you hear about abuse and they impact it has a little time on the people and say it never stops being upset saying that it it was interesting to me that they abuse pat got trapped a because of lack of woods emotions i'm not just the fear and anxiety and the shame just look wasn't able to evil what was happening to her in a way the cruise show you some sort of those missing so it's kind of when we think about childhood trauma or let's back up and say when we think about being a self and going to therapy often think about going to therapy in exploring who we are as kind of like looking in a mirror but when we've been through childhood trauma particularly the kind of his ongoing and relational it's almost like that mirror is shattered we could see all the parts they're all still there but they're disconnected we have to do some work sometimes you get the connected again early on in my work with sloan her stories were completely disorganized she started the heels some coherent starting to take place but sometimes still when sloan gets talking things that seem disconnected start to come out shows it this way and then that way in her work together we've been working on fixing that mirror of piecing it back together to make it something beautiful again again and on this day in therapy you'll hear the start happen you could start today against zag but then she catches herself listen when she brings up on her own her awareness about that process of moving back and forth i've been working on building a relationship with my dad it's been taking a lot of time and it's like a lot of work on my end i've accepted that just because it's just the way that it is my dad was asking me about a business and how things were and so i was like yeah like things are good you know were growing on start asking me like water sales were and what are growth is that you know maybe because i have no expectations on my dad and maybe i also don't really care i'm gonna ties backtra terminent deletion questions can't trust me i know i've on tangents but i have tied the story it's a loop on how did you first okay that is the first time you've ever said something like that in session where you've noticed that there's any question and we've taken a detour but then you knowledge the question you know you're not there every i'm back and that is 'em that's actually really exciting for me here i wanna let you behind the curtain as the therapists first second and tell you about two things that we notice in therapy happy it's almost like these two parallel tracks that are happening at the same time there's the content the stuff that usually brings people into therapy like the story about a fight that they had with someone but then there's this other track and we call that the process it's about how a person is the way that they tell their story so she's telling a story but then she catches herself about the process piece to drink trauma work is like gluing those pieces of the mirror back together so when we see these little pieces of healing where she noticed is something that she would've never noticed before i like to think about it as like a blade of grass popping up in a crack in the concrete it's like right in front of my eyes there's healing happening you see the systems are brain and body stop working in unison when we've been through some trauma but when you start doing the trauma work they actually start working together again and we start to function as a whole the cockpit of neurosciences pretty.
"problems" Discussed on Other People's Problems
"Had planned today about young mom stuff yeah what's happened between you and you're on between when i tell you laugh and they'll have tate's yeah so basically we saw my mom on sunday i end we showed up and you know her house just like kind of in shambles and there were a lot of junk to the rappers and a lot of garbage on the floor and it is reminding me of my upbringing a lot and i think when i get to that point i shut off a little bit hello i'm hillary mcbride i'm a clinical campfire and that's it's a clip of the therapy session i have at the client that we called sloan welcome to other people's problems a live show about real life therapy tonight were talking about family inheritance how're families especially are parents environments permanently grew up in shape the way that we are in the world and shaper mental health issues we start a podcast.