35 Burst results for "Postpartum Depression"
"postpartum depression" Discussed on Birthful
"I feel depressed. I felt like i wasn't all there. You know i told just felt like the criminal time. I also told her that. I felt like i was just moments. I felt disconnected for my kids. I felt disconnected. Knows like what's wrong with me wide like that's that's those are my kids. Why do i feel like i've night. Not hundred percent there. I feel disconnected. And i remember. My mom's face penalized not knowing what to tell me. I think it was really a shocker. When i said i felt disconnected and it was a shocker freedom. You voice that out. The first time that i said that is literally sat there in silence. And i was like i can't believe i just said that it's not that i did it lots him. I just felt like there was like this. I just wasn't there. I can't even explain it. Like i know now that it had to do with the postpartum depression but i just i really felt disconnected and i think guys one of one of the statements would beat myself up. How can you say that as a mom. So how did you overcome. How did you get out from that place. I started reading books. I really i. I didn't have any anybody talk. Track advance out with my parents and they would listen. God bless them. They would listen. I'm so thankful for that. I didn't have a lot of friends. So i really started reading the books to really understand my mental state. I started really taking care of myself. Exercising for my body needed physical release. I started meditating. exercising is started knocking so worried about everything being done by a certain time and i just started the learning to be president. Stop thinking about what's going to happen tomorrow. Hasn't happened. And i was so caught up constantly with can happen tomorrow. What's gonna happen a couple of months from now. What what if. There's hope they all these store. It seems like when i was wondering depression and this way things that are really understand. I had all these movies that were playing of things that never happened. It seems like these movies are even more developed more vivid and more like horrible when you go through these moments of depression and.
Infant Sleep With Dr. Harvey Karp
"Everyone. It's martin straight from san francisco today. I'm connected with dr hallway Holly why don't you introduce yourself to our listeners. Shirt thanks martin. so i'm a pediatrician. Practicing in los angeles at practice for many many years out here. And then i'm also an author. I've written a couple of weeks about babies and toddlers and guides to help parents. I'm very happy they've been translated now into about thirty languages. So it's it's helping parents all around the world and then most recently a few years ago created a new type of a baby bed. That's a responsive or robotic baby bed. That improves sleep. Keeps baby safer. Something called snoop awesome well before we dive into this new. And it's all about maybe you can explain what really build the foundation also for your book and what i really the core issues towards you know incense first couple of months. Yeah you bet. so as a pediatrician. I observed that parents were struggling. You know especially these days. Parents don't have a lot of outside help. They may not have extended family around and so crying and exhaustion. Were really weighing on them a lot. And in fact when you look at the numbers. I mean you think crying babies. You think well i mean. It's a nuisance. But i mean how bad is it really but crying. Babies and exhausted parents cost our economies billions of dollars in terms of marital distress postpartum depression. Anxiety car accidents obesity. 'cause you're overeating chris. You're tired and not exercising child abuse neglect the too many visits to the doctor and billions of dollars more in terms of employer cost because of poor productivity and poor retention. You have to recruit people higher errors and accidents and even higher healthcare costs. And so this has been a struggle that has increased over recent years as parents. Are you know have less and less experienced taking care of babies and our way from their extended family and so as a pediatrician. I started observing. That believes could become d-. I mean everybody's known. This that by rockingham attrition them and cuddling them. That's something that comes babies down but no one had figured out. Why or. how do you do that. Predictably so that even very fussy babies can become down and so what. I came to realize that babies are born with a reflects which is kind of an off switch for crying in an on which for sleep called a calming reflex and a babies. Have lots of reflexes are born with you. Know things like swallowing and sucking and blinking and crying. Even that is built into a baby so they have those abilities which are required of them to be able to survive right. a baby. Who didn't know had a swallow wouldn't be able to survive so these are survival skills that are kind of built in software into the computer but what wasn't realized that they have an off switch for crying and an on switch for sleep as well That's a reflex. So when i realized that it kind of opened up the idea about the fourth trimester i of course babies in utero of before. They're born there three three trimesters as the baby develops in. Then they're born but our babies kind of a weird way. They're not really ready to be. In the world they're mushy. They can't even smile yet. Based lift their heads. they're really fetuses. But we have to give birth to them because their heads are so gigged otherwise they wouldn't fit out right and so the job of a new parent is really to imitate the womb for the first four or five months of the baby's life.
"postpartum depression" Discussed on Directionally Challenged
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"postpartum depression" Discussed on Directionally Challenged
"Without further ADO. Stay tuned for our conversation with Miss. Daniel. And we're back with Miss Stan yell taking on a subject matter that I can't believe this many episode. Then we actually haven't touched on yet we're GONNA talk about Postpartum Depression today and Danielle. You just said you know, yeah, this is life saving stuff and I completely wholeheartedly agree thank you so much for joining us being willing to share your story Oh, my pleasure I I'm a big. Proponent of storytelling saves lives. So the more we tell stories and the more that we can normalize certain things I'm all for it. Was Funny as I actually remember hearing your episode we got an email from Nora mcnerney who was on our podcast a few episodes back who you're working with now. But I, remember hearing your episode a while back where you shared your story in your own personal journey with postpartum depression. and. This was way after I had my first child and a pregnant with my second one right now. But I remember listening because I had so many friends who were about to have their first babies and I just I just wanted them to hear it so bad. But I never knew how to bring up that conversation of, Hey, not to be a Downer but while you're having like all this. pigging out, you know one onesies and strollers and burp cloths Are you prepared for Your Mental Health Post? I think that that was the biggest thing for me is that I took so many baby classes I knew. I knew how to do it all okay. I knew how to sit on the birthing ball and I knew what positions I should be in and all these things. But nobody said, you have to protect your mental health, also your hormones are going to drop it's going to be intense and your body may not just get the baby blues. You could fall on postpartum depression or postpartum psychosis, and I had it three times. I had three times A. Awful. So you had it with each child yes, and in the third child did not survive and so even when you don't have a baby even when you're you come home and you're like, okay, I can heal these things even when you don't have a baby, you still can post stardom depression and I wasn't even prepared for that because. I didn't know it was possible even after having it twice I did not know that a miscarriage could also bring on postpartum depression. Wall. I. Mean Women Feel like finally now at this point and especially with social media in the Internet women are able to connect in disgust miscarriage in a way that they haven't been able to before where it's not this idea of like what did I do? It's Oh. This is something completely out of control and so then on top of that to discuss miscarriage and postpartum depression as a result of that is a whole other thing you're right is completely neglected. It's it's mind blowing to me because for so long people would call me like an over sharer which I mean I am but. I wear the is like a badge of honor right? Because for me I've always believed that when we tell our stories eight allows other people to tell their stories and then we can normalize things we can You know just make people feel not alone and so I, just knew. I was always going to be someone who shared things and then I got postpartum depression and it was the one thing in my entire life that I did not wanNA share and that was what pushed me through sharing it because I'm Mike I'm an over sharer. I share everything I don't really have boundaries like that I want to help people in every aspects and then I had this mental health crisis and I didn't WanNa talk about it and I think that says a lot about the stigma in mental health in general will. That's what's a fascinating about your story is you had hundreds of thousands of followers. You were this on air personality that so many people loved and cherished and Danny. Star was the name of your on air personality and people loved her she was high energy. She was everything you have your beautiful baby. You go back to work is three days after literally I mean. For Kudos to you roam the house they actually built a radio station in my kitchen and I was leafing. I and you know what? I was a woman I am a woman but I'm a woman I'm a mom. I'm the breadwinner at this point and I'm like get a phone call at four am and I kid you not. It's literally three days after I have a baby and they're like, Hey, we really need you to jump on and what was I gonNA say no now thirty five year old me that was Danny Star Miss Danielle does not play those games I would have been like, oh no, no, that is not happening. I'm going to let my. Body heal my mind he'll and my spirit he'll, and they'll be okay. But I didn't have that in me. I was twenty six years old I was married and supported but not in the way that I felt like I could put my foot down. You know I was I'm a woman I, was raised in society that tells me Hey, you better just keep going and you gotta do this then in especially in the industry that I was working in media, it's not always kind. It's most of the time is not as kind to women as it should be. So especially, women that are pregnant and have a new baby it's minimum. No like ask too much. That's it's like that's an inconvenience right off the bat completely about it was an inconvenience for them. It was ok well, when are you going to be back or this dating I? It wasn't about me, my health or the baby's health. It was like, how do we go back to making this money and so okay. Y- before we talk about. Just to give our listeners a clear picture With. Your first birth I know that you discover your first pregnancy and now you've discussed that like it was a great pregnancy that you were thrilled you always knew that you wanted to be a mom like that. There was no like huge hormonal shifts during that period that would have made. You think that post pardoned that like that fourth trimester would have been a completely different. No. I had no idea I was excited after party about everything like there was agenda reveal there was a I woke up today and I'm I'm three days pregnant or than I was three days before the Liberation I was I was the happiest pregnant lady ever and so. Right, after I had her and she's eight now. So it's mind blowing to even think about it but I'll never forget it. It's like I I've talked to people who used to be obese and they say sometimes when they look in the mirror, they still see That person even though they've lost all this weight. I have spoken to so many women who have been through postpartum depression and when you start talking about it, it's like such a traumatic experience that you go right there sometimes and you're just like well, I can't believe I survived that I. When I think about it or I, go back into like the worst moments of my life mentally especially I'm like how did I survive that especially with no roadmap with no one telling me any type of details of.
How to Use Crystals & EOs Together
"I'm here with Haley Crowley who's the founder of whimsy and wellness? Haley. Believes in making wellness, simple, lighthearted and fun four years ago. She began making these really beautiful essential oil labels as a way to distract yourself from wondering when she would get pregnant again, armed with a silhouette cameo machine and a roll of vinyl. Haley sold the first whimsey and wellness products out of a tiny oetzi shop since. then. She's grown into a full family business with three kiddos running circles around her desk. Haley, on a mission to help people use crystals and essential oils in their every day life and make it fun in the process. Haley. Welcome to the show or so glad you're here. Thank you so much for having me I. Love Envisioning Your Kids just certainly on your on your desk because I have to myself. Just today we were packing up, you know mailers, sit out and just chilling out, help me stuff envelopes and it's fun to have a family business and it's also very chaotic. So I imagine you use some oils now and then to keep it calm. Yeah that's exactly right I. mean they're helping with like air quotes helping it really. Twenty Times longer but it's good they feel so important. Yes. Well. You said that you started making your beautiful pretty labels to distract yourself from wondering when you wouldn't get pregnant again is that part of your story tell me more about that yeah. So I started using oils actually as a way to like sent Christmas gifts like the that I was making I wanted to find a natural way to sent them, and so that's what started. Me With oils and then fast forward a couple of years. It was after our second miscarriage and I was like, I need something to do. I was in between jobs at the time and so I was like I'm GonNa. Just start this little at seaside thing to give me something to do and maybe bring a little bit of income like on the side for our family. And after a couple of months because we were one of the first essential accessory shops, it just took off and it just kept growing and growing and I kept working and it kept growing was that that was in two, thousand sixteen. So. Been Four Years Yeah and my husband now works fulltime with me and it's just getting more than I ever imagined. That's awesome. Well, this is not the topic of our interview today I want to get to crystals and oils soon, but I couldn't help it just pick up on the fact that you were using your side hustle a little bit as a therapy. You know let me need to distract myself I need to do something I just relate to that so much when I became a mom I really struggled with postpartum depression and doesn't that transition into parenthood was like a huge shock for me and along can of worms and long story we won't. Get into. But when I started, it was partly the reason besides from just sheer financial need that I started my business and it made me feel so much better. It made me feel like I'm pouring myself into something. It's mine. It's an outlet gifts. Me Gets me talking to other people it just really saved me away. So just related to that that aspect for she absolutely, and just what you said, I talk about that too like I felt like Lynsey wellness gave me purpose kind of like what you said like it gives me purpose and at the time I didn't think I was GONNA. Feel that until you know I, had a baby or babies but. With us it's crazy. It's almost the opposite, but it says such similar feelings. It's really interesting. It's funny. How per I? Mean we I think we are capable of having multiple purposes in one lifetime and even. More than one at the same time and sometimes that's what I need. I need more than one thing happening or I go crazy. So. Yes. Well, how did you start using crystals and essential oils together? Yes. So after I had seen wellness, we started with bottles and labels and. I was looking at product. I don't know what I was looking at but somehow I stumbled across these premade perfume blends and I saw on them. They had the roller top instead of it being like glass or stainless steel. It was made out of a gemstone a crystal and I was like, that's so cool like I want that for my customers who I know don't want to buy the perfume, they put their own oils in it. So I searched and searched and searched for so long five or six months to find a supplier. For these to offer them and it was so hard to find one without a little hole in it because all the stones at that size were spacey right and so I finally found a supplier and was hand making those on my couch watching TV at nighttime and everybody loved them. So I went to Tucson is the world's largest gem and mineral show that they hold once a year. I went there in search of a supplier that could make these for me because I couldn't do it myself anymore. And I didn't find that. But instead, I saw these giant piles of tiny crystals. And I was like those would fit inside of a roller bottle right and I had seen other people do that again in their own blends house like I wonder if people would like that as an option to and so I had no idea if people were actually going to like it but I was like well, I have to get something while I'm here I came all the way here. So I bought them and carried them in my carry on backpack and got stopped at security. But I think they're used to it because the gem show, but it was just so funny I'm like anyway. When? Oil Convention you know all TSA agents are like Oh yeah. There must be another oil convention that's. Smelt. Exactly yeah. They're used to it with the crystal show and so anyway fast forward to now everybody really loved that and just along the way I started of course learning more and more about crystals and just kind of doing my own research I feel like when I started this, there wasn't a ton of research like information out there about using oils and crystals together. So I felt like I just kind of research from a Bunch of different places in kind of put together my own I own research, my
"postpartum depression" Discussed on The Mental Health and Wealth Show
"She's large eight pound child. So everything's fine. She's breastfeeding great I recovered very quickly. We went home and my mother-in-law was staying with us to take care of our two year old my husband was on parental leave I had all the support in the world. I had my mother-in-law I, had my husband I had me so we had three adults and two kids, and then my father-in-law came to help as well. So then we had four adults to kids, which is a really good ratio they. Range show ideally that you would have and I was doing a lot of publicity for my book at that time. So I was interviewed on NPR I was on the PBS Newshour these this are like dreams come true for me but I. Oh anxious it just was. This cloud of anxiety and fear. And was about this time I started having nightmares that people would come to the house and steal our children. which is that's another. That's another hallmark of postpartum. Depression is these are sort of like now that I recognize that a lot of them are very classic sort of text book symptoms of PD and so. This drags like months go by and I just assumed that once the baby was sleeping more once I was sleeping during the night I would be fine right? I just needed to get past the first couple months with a newborn are just hellacious because you're not sleeping they're not sleeping awful. We're GONNA get past that. We're get into his sleeping schedule things will resolve. And became the summertime. So it's like June July and I am feeling if anything worse and worse and worse, and I am frustrated anxious I don't have patience and I don't have any resiliency which is. Really difficult when you're parenting too little cats because you need. And resilient like creating much all you need to do. And I just felt like I didn't want to be with them at all I just. Could not envision a situation where I could get my family unlike stable ground because I was so tired. So hungry and so scared really scared all the time and so that's kind of the sort of the outset of mice, thumbs yeah. The inside that you describe just sounds so overwhelming that can take over your whole entire life and. As you mentioned I, think there's a natural kind of anxiety of being a para and having to take care of someone else's life but then. You know at some point that turns into something more serious postpartum depression like at what point did you realize that.
"postpartum depression" Discussed on The Mental Health and Wealth Show
"So yes, I had a book that came out right around the time that my second daughter was born, and that book is meet the Frugal Woods and it's really just the story of how we achieved financial independence and more. Importantly the realization that we came to about how unhappy consumerism made us and how much freer we could be without consuming with embracing a more minimalist lifestyle and left that super excited to have you on here I think your story is. Such an inspiration for so many people you know being able to kind of live away from office job and do the work that you really enjoy living an idyllic life on your homestead with kids. It seems like such a dream for so many people. But as you've mention, you've experienced postpartum depression, which I know can be heroin and can offer a completely different picture than the one that you may be showing in a public facing way. You know people might thank you have this certain life but postpartum depression. Just, be completely different experience. Can you share with that was like Frio? Sure and like you mentioned, I found it very liberating to share my experience both on the Martinez in your money podcasts, and then also in a post that I wrote on. Frugal Woods about the experience and I had a lot of people who said. You know I've now realized that I have postpartum depression or Or that I'm concerned I might get it. Thanks to sort of the transparency that I offered. So I was knighted I didn't know what to expect from sharing that and I'm I'm really grateful that that resonated with so many people so. When my second daughter was born that was in February twenty eighteen. I was under so much stress at the time because I had a two year old as well, and then I had my book publishing just a couple of weeks after her birth. I was so stressed about every aspect of the birth I was very concerned that we wouldn't be able to get to the hospital because we live almost an hour away from the hospital and it's wintertime, and so you can get snowed in very easily and you know not Hamill to get your car out. So my ob said that we could schedule an induction and so that took a lot of the pressure off scheduled an induction I went in the birth itself was very easy. I mean it was a birth so it's difficult. Say Easy, but you know I felt very relieved after the baby was born my first daughter was born via emergency c section, and so would the second I was having view back and I was terrified that I would have to have another section that something awful would happen to the baby I just have all of these. Horrible premonitions. Now, see are really hallmarks of prenatal and postpartum depression because it's very possible to have depression before the baby is born but after you become pregnant and so that I think is another thing to shed light on for people that there is a certain amount of stress and anxiety that goes along with having a child but you know to the point where I'm panicking and in tears all the time you know I wish that I had recognized as symptoms as depression and anxiety much sooner. So the baby is born it's like total straightforward via back really quite bullshit healthiest..
A Not So Happy Ending
"Joining me for another week. Debriefing is my friend and colleague Dr Donna Oreo. Will who is an author in? Speaker and certified sex and relationship therapist in the Washington DC metro area. She's the owner of a nod. Right especially is in working with black women on issues related to color ISM in texture ISM ended impact on mental and sexual health. She's also the author of cocoa butter in hair, grease, a self love journey through hair and skin. This week. She and I chatted about what happened between Molly and Andrew. Tiffany struggles with postpartum depression, and how we might support friends who are struggling. The giant reveal from canola. WHAT'S NEXT FOR EASTBOUND LAWRENCE? And what? We might expect from season five. This episode does include spoilers. Here's our conversation. So we are back. So we've come so far down this road. Do this. We. If you like it took a long time here and also was way too quick. Absolutely you know I mean I. think that we should give another petition going. Maybe we can a forty minute episode I'm just saying okay. With unconventional does a half hour I mean we just just has to be hopeful that we can get an season within the knicks, so so gets cold the Akron and They just don't have to act via zoom. We get all a whole. Noon version of insecurity. So, the title of this week's episode is low key laws, and I feel like that is a great description of how they knew we would all be feeling at the end of this episode. I was just like man lost in two senses. We need all out here, just law. Is. Over the place, so we see it opens up this. This episode opens up with Molly and Andrew. He added a work ethic. Right they a work events. Molly's work event and he has tagged along, and so having conversations, and somebody approaches them about like an after hours spot right, and so it's clear that Andrew is now really interested in going, but Mollie convinced him like okay I'll make it a work thing for you to have them play some of your artist or something like that right so I feel like this was a continuation of what we saw last week. Right like some cracks. In the foundation of the relationship. I'm just saying that predictions made then they happened Okay? Tell me how you fail. But it also seems like he just went along with it right like He. You know he didn't really want to go, but then she kinda convinced him, and then he went along with it. Yeah Yeah. I felt like he was a little bit more resistant to it this time around he was just like. You could tell that he was just is sort of deflated him a little bit He's making that. Sound like all right. I'm Gonna I'm giving you this thing, but I feel it. I feel that I'm giving you this thing and. It was not as obvious exactly. He made it very obvious that he was not happy about making this concession this time and Yeah. Yeah, well, we see very shortly after right that there is a continuation, so they've gone to this after work. Thing I, mean now they give back to the apartment and they want to watch the Pinelli of looking for little you is. We have avoided all those boilers and he's like okay. We finally home. We can watch this because now. We're not on your time. We can do it now and she doesn't want to watch it because she's so tired I feel like this was clearly like the last Straw. You know like there was no more straws to be given that day at all and I. It's funny to me because they got going back to the previous episode with the Block Party and just how it's. Just that that's base of like, are you? Are you here? Are you paying attention to what's going on like? Are you here with me in this moment? Because it doesn't feel like you're here like you're seeing like you're able to take in what is right here right now. She wasn't taking in that he was not like. He's like home on like even like before the block party when she was telling Isa I'm not I'm not asking him to do nothing because I was like all right look, you know she on some shaky grounds. You gotta put in deposits before you can make withdrawal and she didn't recognize that she had no withdrawal power in that moment.
Postpartum in a Pandemic
"So I want to start with your pregnancy I'm wondering given your knowledge and your profession as a Dula when you're pregnant with soula. What were some of the things that you're doing to advocate for yourself and prepare for the postpartum time. I think that I was concerned about possibly getting postpartum depression just because I do have a history of depression and I had to get off of my antidepressant when I was pregnant. Because it wasn't safe for the baby and I was just looking for whatever type of body type therapy alternatives that I could find so acupuncture was really helpful for that and then I also Was in therapy with two different therapists by felt like I worked really hard and my pregnancy to ensure that I had the mental health support that I felt like I needed And Not a part of that was going on a second part of that. Was Me heavily planning the postpartum time in order to prevent not that you can prevent postpartum depression but in my brain in order to prevent it from happening? I'm heavy planner and I'm like if I plan everything and organize everything and get support that I need and I'm not like isolated by myself in those early weeks than you know things are GonNa go better and so Yeah I was and so am very concerned about mental health in this postpartum time. And what else did you know about postpartum mood and anxiety disorders going in? I feel like people a little bit like no about postpartum depression but I feel like the broader public doesn't necessarily have all the knowledge about the different ways that that can look. Well I think one thing too is definitely left out of the discussion is postpartum anxiety. I everybody instantly goes for depression. But a lot of people have postpartum anxiety and it presents and like so many different ways that there's not even like one like by the rule book they can look because everybody's anxiety shows up differently and I feel like postpartum anxiety is harder to pinpoint because as a new parent. You're already so anxious. A lot of the things that it says like the book say about postpartum anxiety about like watching the baby when the Baby Sleeps. And like you think the telling bad. It's going to happen to the baby and all that like that's just being a new parent in general so it's really hard to lockdown when that becomes more excessive so feeling that goes under diagnosed and Under reported a lot and a lot of people don't get support around because people don't know what's normal and what's not so. I felt lake as much information as I knew about postpartum depression. I was not prepared for postpartum anxiety as much as I should have been and I feel like that has been what has like cut more into play then. The depression Yeah so and I know you had your own Dula. Ns what were some of the things that Dula was helping you do My postpartum duly came to my baby shower and basically pasta out a notebook to everybody so that they could sign up for jobs for postpartum and at first. I didn't WanNa do it because I just felt like. I didn't WanNa like ask my friends that bluntly to be like hey can you? Guys take my trout and dishes but Actually had several friends after the baby shower. That were like that was so cool that year. Postpartum Dula did that. And they're like I always wanNA like support friends. That have a baby but I never know what to do. I also like this idea of asking people to show up in this time because this is not meant to be done alone and even for people who are single and are people who choose to be single parents or whatever like it's you're never supposed to like parent alone. They're supposed to be a community aspect to all of this. Yeah definitely definitely and so you know you come home from the hospital. It's an February beginning of March. Were still a couple of weeks away from the CDC announcing that there's a pandemic and so what was that first week at home like the first week was like everything that I have planned with my Dulas. It was Me being fed and people bringing me drinks and you know. Stang over to help with the baby and my postpartum do alike. Massaging my body. Because I was so swollen from the birth and it felt amazing that basically like I pulled off Lake. It actually worked. They actually showed up and I'm really grateful for that. Everybody was kind of like on a schedule of like who could do what when and who do overnight and stuff and it was really nice for like a week and a half to have that and to have them coming over in helping me get a break and Just like Lebanon us and everything and then this corona Situation hit and yet kind of all went out the window. She felt prepared to be a single mom. But not like this after about a week of being homeless soula. The governor of New York City put a stay at home order in place and all the people that were supposed to show up. Couldn't come anymore. We're stuck in isolation and that's not something. I would really wish on anybody that was in the immediate stages of postpartum or really just in parenthood in general It sucks. I don't even know how to describe it because it's like the exact opposite of what is needed during this time So many people were ready and willing to show up. It is nice that we have that support system and that when this is over we will still have that to rely on people. Were jumping on soon. Calls like nonstop and like doing like zoom hang outs and all these like zoom events. And I'm just like where was this energy before when you know we were all so busy with our lives constantly and so I like do like that. We've been told to slow down and like forced to talk to each other. I do hope that after this whole thing is over or whatever life looks like when it's over. I hope that like people continue to show up with the same energy and like really show up for each other
Postpartum Psychosis Warning Signs
"We're going to discuss postpartum psychosis and you were drawn to the specialty after you yourself went through postpartum depression postpartum anxiety and postpartum. Ocd after the birth of your first child or act yeah. There's a lot of things again. Happen in the postpartum period. I'm here to talk about one of the more severe conditions in the interest of full disclosure. I'm a forty three year old male. I've never been pregnant and I do not have children. I'm really really entry level. When it comes to understanding what post-partum anything is so thank you so much for helping to educate people like myself. It really is an important topic. It's absolutely important and a lot of people have that same feeling. I don't know anything about it. It seems like this weird thing that happens to other people and chances. Are you know somebody who has suffered through some form of perinatal mental health condition? Even if they don't talk about it which is very common a lot of people. Don't talk about it because there's so much shame around kind of not feeling well or not feeling yourself even during pregnancy and postpartum. There's all these ideas out there that it's this wonderful magical time and hopefully it is but for a lot of people in and that's one of the things that came up while I was trying to do research for the show so that I could talk somewhat on this subject. I was shocked at how many times I googled. Postpartum psychosis or postpartum anything and the articles. That came up. Were M I a bad mother M I abide parent. Am I harming my child? That really Kinda spoke to me like in a visceral way. This idea that you also have the illness. And there's all this stigma and shame surrounding it. Is that what you found working as a therapist? Oh absolutely hear comments. All of the time I feel like a bad mom. I'm not good enough for my child. Feeling Shame and the blame and confusion around. Why do I even feel bad? We are just not educated on what can happen. I think it's a great disservice to everybody who goes through any kind of perinatal mental health condition. Because they're mostly blindsided by it right. You like here supposed to be having the best time of my life. This is what my body is supposed to quote unquote and here. I am feeling like a failure and just to be clear. None of this is true. You are an excellent parent. This is just sort of the illness. And societies misunderstanding of the illness. Taking hold in an unexpected way over. Sorry this is a very treatable and very temporary condition if you get the right help and if you get it as soon as you know even if you're getting a little bit later down the road you still can feel better. And there's not a huge impact throughout the life course of you or your child however again in the more severe cases are not treated. There are some long term effects and I know that might sound really scary to people so I wanted to sell the myth that if you have a condition you're going to be like messing up your kid in some way like I said this is very treatable and also when it was very very severe there can be really life threatening consequences. So let's talk about postpartum psychosis. What is the definition of postpartum psychosis typically oppose artem? Psychosis isn't very rare Wanted to out of every thousand delivery and it is not postpartum. Depression or postpartum. Means -iety the onset of these symptoms are usually in the first two weeks but certainly can show up a little bit later. There's a really rapid onset. Meaning symptoms start quickly and it is characterized by the mind is kind of going off on. Its own in part because of hormonal changes in part because of your mental health history and in part because of sleep deprivation so people who are if postpartum psychosis are having rapid mood swings they are potentially having delusion or strange beliefs about themselves or their child or people around them they may be having hallucinations feeling very very irritated. The difficulty to sleep inability to sleep sometimes paranoia And what's really hard about postpartum psychosis is that the symptoms waxed and waned. Meaning they come and go so sometimes people can sort of the feel like themselves and appear to be like our normal cells and then sometimes people around them might observe that they don't look like themselves are sound like themselves so it can come and go for quite a few people and then for some people that symptoms on the onset is. They're just continue. So I know all that probably sounds pretty scary and Syria and it actually is pretty scary. And the're Like I said before. It's very rare and people who have a history of bipolar disorder are at high risk or if there's bipolar disorder in the family. They're at higher risk. Oftentimes psychosis in the postpartum is an indictment bipolar disorder. So let's talk about that for a moment. I myself live with bipolar disorder. And I understand psychosis from a lived experience because I I have experienced. Psychosis is it. The same is postpartum psychosis and for lack of a better phrase Gabe Howard's psychosis. Is this a similar thing or is it completely different? There's certainly familiarity in terms of symptoms of psychosis are the same. What what's very different here. Is that there is a new baby involved. And sometimes they delusions or hallucinations are in relation. To the new child is new very vulnerable child and also the perinatal person also very vulnerable. They've just given birth of had massive changes in hormone both during pregnancy at delivery and then in the Postpartum. They're really really rapid and kind of swings in the in the hormone during that time and sleep deprivation. Is You know when it's sort of like just you quote unquote. You have capacity to possibly sleep. In these cases there's Abadie involved and babies cry and they wake people up And that's what they do and that's what they're supposed to do But for somebody who needs sleep and isn't getting it and can't get it a whole other layer of complexity into into the life and into the simpsons because you're in relation to a baby a while having psychosis for some time that means that. There's like a hyper vigilant around the baby. Like it's really hard to not be around them or to let anyone else support them or sometimes it's like a kind of a total disregard like people in some psychoses. They will kind of forget the baby there so it brings this whole other level of danger and complexity also then. There's additional layer. That people around them are thinking. Oh well she's kind of baby. She's not quite herself or giving some other explanation for odd behaviors or strange behaviors. And it Kinda put people in a more of a dangerous situation because symptoms are explained away because they're not understood and it's not expected that these kind of symptoms will show up. I'm kind of assuming that the way that postpartum psychosis has played out in the media as well as How motherhood is played out in the media those two things combined because like you said we want to defend new parents. We don't just want every new mom under the bus and say oh well. You have a serious mental illness. That's the problem but of course this can be dangerous because it lacks care. I suppose my specific question is how is Postpartum? Psychosis played out in popular culture. It actually in very dangerous ways so in ways that further stigmatize apparently period. So mostly what we're seeing in the media while you see on. The news is postpartum psychosis that has led to infanticide. And this is a really really hard topic for people to hear about and also. This is a very real possibility with postpartum psychosis. I know that one to two percent of people who have term psychosis four to five percent of those mothers will kill their children. They killed their baby. It's really a hard reality to hear. And what I want people to know. Is that when this happened? Women are not in their right mind at all. They are not themselves. Do not know what they're doing. They're often being told by their delusion to do something. Sometimes there are delusions that the baby is possessed. So they can't be here although this might not make any sense but most of the time it's really out of love a lot of love like the world is too harsh for the child so they have to go and misses a very severe departure from reality. The Mon- who are in the situation do not know what they have done if they come out of it and get the medication that they need. They can't even thousand. What has happened people thinking say? Oh what a horrible person. I can't believe she done this. I would never do this to my child. And the thing is is that if she were in her right mind she wouldn't either. So what we're seeing in the media is usually the mob who have done something like this and who are being handcuffed or going on trial so there's most severe. This is the most of your consequences of perinatal. Mental Health Condition Postpartum Psychosis in infanticide. Is How postpartum psychosis is viewed. Most people are postpartum psychosis are experiencing hallucinations or delusions or some kind of waxing and waning symptom. That does not reach that level. Typically they may need hospitalization and medication. But it's not always the people who go on to have their children in this way.
'I Played A Season Of The WNBA Secretly Pregnant'
"So Alexis tell us about Schuyler digging Smith the player Skyward Digging. Smith is phenomenal biggest. She has obviously the ability to score in score. Well but she is a great facilitator a true floor. General did first of all so not only can she make shots for herself and score really well on her own but she also is very good at finding her teammates and making sure they have opportunities and what she like as a person. I tried a lot of different sports. Basketball was the one that kind of stuck with me. Something does drove me and continue to drive me. I wanted to be the best very vocal. Very passionate very young. I guess and fresh you can see that through her through endorsements and her the workout kind and one two and three and four contracts relief contract threatening. That's right this is ridiculous Schuyler Digging Smith but not as ridiculous as an outdated sports drink and then on social media just her vocalness she was very vocal about. Wnba athletes getting equal pay. Don't act like you don't see the discrepancy. You know adult. Don't make me feel like I'm crazy. This is not new as far as not getting paid and she actually sat out last season after giving birth to her son and while she was out she was pretty vocal about her unhappiness with how her team the Dallas Wings handled her becoming a new mom. Can you walk us through that drama? So during the two thousand nineteen season that Skyler was sitting out. After having a baby she took to twitter and expressed how she was unhappy with the organization and didn't feel. They supported her through her pregnancy. She wrote people. Call me a quitter. Said I gave up on my team. Not Knowing took two full months away from everything because the postpartum depression with limited sources to help me be successful mentally and physically but just wait though keep that same energy continue. I've played the entire season pregnant last year. All Star in the league top three to five in MPG. Didn't tell a soul. Wow it was very eye opening for all of us and really the catalyst who okay. She is going to step away from this organization eventually right so that lack of support leads her to request a trade from the wings. Yes where she was going to go was obviously a mystery and with that she got interest from multiple teams the Phoenix Mercury. Being one of them. And when did we first start to hear that the mercury were serious about Landing Skyler Diggins? The mercury are a pretty good at keeping things. You Know Fairly Hush Hush I think rumors were swirling that it could be a potential landing spot but really it didn't start until WNBA free agency opened up on February tenth. Lots of signings lots of trades. Lots of deals happen the very first day but then on the second day the Phoenix Mercury sent one of their all-stars to WanNa Bonner to the Connecticut Sun in exchange for two top ten twenty twenty draft picks and a twenty twenty one first round draft pick and that kind of sets the rumors ablaze of. What are they going to do with that? Who are they going to get? And that's when Schuyler is name really started popping up in association with the Mercury the Dewana trade happened on the eleventh and twenty four hours after It was announced that Skyler would come to Phoenix. And tell us about this mercury team that Skyler diggins joining you have arguably the best player in the world in Diana Teresi Rossi barrels luxury back in front or Ossius. Twenty-five she's fiery on and off the court. She's opinionated. She will tell it like it is when she has the ball in her hands. She is controlling every aspect of the game and making sure that the ball gets where it needs to be a Rossi fodder for the Finnish dish from Diana Toronto and the chemistry that you see her build with her teammates in practice and in Games when she is playing is second to none and Brittany griner at center One of the most dominant athletes on the court favorite thing is blocking Williams workings rider system. She holds the WNBA record in blocks in a single game and single season so definitely a lot of all stars around Schuyler. The mercury are clearly already stacked but despite that they've had a couple of really disappointing years last season. Diana GERACI was injured and the team lost during the first round of the playoffs. Chicago sky around two decisive victory over Phoenix seventy six. The final teams will often start thinking about a rebuild after underperforming like this or when injuries catch up with marquee players was that ever a thought in Phoenix. Not a rebuild but a kind of re strategize a focus on getting healthy a focus on Dan atrocity getting back one hundred percent. Britney griner toward the end of the season was dealing with injuries. I think a big thing for the mercury knowing that Diana Tracy is thirty seven years old and likely at the tail end of her career that it was important to make one big last tidal run. But I think part of getting all those draft picks for Dewana and setting the stage for this blockbuster trade was really to put the team in a great position to contend for a title with Dan Atrocity. And what's what's Phoenix hoping to get out of Schuyler now that she's on the team. I talked with head coach. Sandy Brunello after the Schuyler deal was done and she said that there was going to be a focus on being a lot more physical more playmaking ability and that is something that skyler definitely brings to the table. We're not very Closest Diane Army to will to win passion for the game. But she's white fire Panel the bone she create obviously is a real tough defender with Schuyler. Here are some of the decision. Making some of the ball handling will also fall into Schuyler slap and knowing that Schuyler signed a multi year deal and that Diana is looking toward the end of her career. I think it would ultimately be a good transition to start building the team out instead of the team solely focusing on one star player. And why does this trade makes sense from Schuyler perspective? I think it places Schuyler. In a great position to play alongside A player like dance Rossi to play alongside Brittany griner but also with the team culture. The mercury have kind of the best family planning and Family Facility is in the league. I think they're building a new practice facility state of the art but they also have a quote unquote family room. They have a lot of MOMS on the team. The coaches have kids and it really is a family atmosphere so I think looking at what? Schuyler went through it made sense for her to land with the mercury knowing. There's these all-stars knowing they prioritize family knowing that she won't have to hopefully worry about some of the things she dealt with in
Overcoming PPD and Being Mindful with Terra LaRock
"I have Tara Iraq here and I'm so excited that she's here. She is a friend and it just an amazing human and her heart is one of the big parts of anyone I've ever met. And she had said something to longtime ago and it was about nurturing moms and then I think that that's something that's often forgotten and she is a mindfulness expert. I would call her an expert a self. She has a self care guide. She is the founder of the mindful Mama's. She's a psychologist a postpartum depression survivor. Wife and a mother and I am so glad that she's here. Thank you for coming on Tara off. Thanks for having me I am just looking at your beautiful glowing believe that I have the honor of being in your presence. That was such a sweet ended up in your son is I so I was thinking before we hopped on how your name. Tarallo rock is such a grounded name. Yeah tear means like Earth and then it's Iraq and it's like wow. That's such a grounded name which I feel like describes you as a person. Yes Oh my name. When I was born my mom said she took one look at me and knew I was going to be this. Just little free spirit with a little with a little feisty and I think that's what mother earth is right so grounding so beautiful but then has these moments where it can show up and show up in big ways so I think I feel super lucky to have my name and then when I met my husband and I knew his last name of rock not only did I think he was like the most beautiful man but I was like we are dust into last name is just incredible and I want my kids to have that name so thank you. You're welcome So I would love for you. I guess to start from wherever you'd like in your story because used to work as a psychologist and went on this incredible journey with motherhood that kind of changed your purpose in life in your direction and I would love for you to kind of share that story with us absolutely so I have a background in child family and school psychologist and I worked largely in the public sector in public schools serving a refugee community and I loved it. I loved working with kids. I loved working with the Family Unit. It just was such a good fit for me but when I became a mom I had a really hard time separating out the trauma of the families I was working with and then my own trauma my own struggles that I was going through with becoming a mom For Me Postpartum. Depression is a really big part of my story. But it's also one of the biggest gifts that I've ever received in my life too because it really woke me up to allowing myself to go deep and to think about what you know my purpose in this world and while I love working as a child family and school psychologist I felt like there was this bigger need or for MOMS. I felt like mom. Were being forgotten somehow and we were wrapping our our support around the caves and trying to fix the kids but not really focusing on. Will you know it starts first with the parents and then it trickles down from there and so when I experienced postpartum depression with my first going back to work it was kind of just this. It was a perfect disaster in a sense where I was not able to st the signs and the symptoms of my own suffering while I was treating other people for the same things for anxiety for depression for stress for for trauma There was a lot of shame and that being a mental health provider and not even really being able to identify a that. I was suffering and be I didn't know where to go to ask for help or if I could ask for help because I thought that being a psychologist meant that I needed to be almost Above it if that makes sense almost Kind of immune to it which is such a a night even in you know really privileged way of thinking but that was that was my truth. I had a lot of shame like if I can't even help myself. How am I going to help anybody else though? Yeah that was. That was the start for me. It was really dark. Dark beginning of motherhood I loved my baby but I had intrusive and unwanted thought so I had postpartum depression coupled with OCD. Which a lot of people don't really talk about that you think of his Kind of these outward behaviors where you see people counting washing their hands and while that is a part of it my my obsessions or my compulsions. To try to stop the unwanted thoughts were really internal so it was something that nobody could see. I would beg God to take the awful thoughts away. I would try to distract myself with song I would avoid being alone or Having the the room or the house quiet I just couldn't be with myself and in my thoughts and that coupled along with the stressful work environment it was. It was hard. It was really hard
20 Minutes with Suzan Galluzzo
"We have a special guest Susan on the show. Thank you very much for giving us your time to talk to us today. If you could start off by telling us about yourself and how you got into the health and fitness game. That would be amazing. Thank you okay. So I'm super happy to be here. I love love love talking to anyone who will listen about health fitness nutrition. So thank you for having me okay. So I've always always Kinda into fitness. You know growing up. I realized much later in life. That fitness had saved me a few different times in my life without actually realizing Tila. My older years. Like in my teens. It saved me from being this insecure. Not so confident teenager in my twenties same thing it helped me found my passion and then later on when I got married and had my first child and fell into some postpartum depression. It saved me once again so it was around then after my first child. I decided that I was going to compete in a fitness show. And just for fun just to get myself. I was bored lonely depressed and I thought you know for. Give me something to focus on. I love being busy. I love fitness. I thought I'll just casually compete in the fitness show and from then. I realized that I learned this incredible information that I felt all women men needed to be privy to not just the bodybuilding world and. I thought why is this only four bodybuilders. Like there's such a holistic way about doing a transformation that should be shared with everyone. So that's what inspired me to get into fitness. And usually what is under? Your nose is what you were meant to be doing and you know so many times. They told me and I'm like no. I'm an accountant and I was in counted for seven years. And you can't make that much money and you know be purposeful teaching fitness. But you know when you're so passionate about something. The Universe is very good to you so from there. I opened by first studio. I was nine months pregnant with a one and a half year old and I opened by her studio ten Yod. It was eight and a half years ago. Most very busy period view obviously dealing with us in the business. Mostly shooter is goes well which is always outgoing. Like still passionate about my own olds his great to hear one thing. I did read that. You'd mentioned before is that. Obviously you're someone who has our family job clients to deal with and quite often people put others needs before themselves. So you talk about. It is important to prioritize ourselves. Sometimes so wolf advice. Would you give to people thought about doing this? What most people end up doing? Is they wait till they hit rock bottom to realize that. Oh my God I've been putting myself on the back burner. And that's when a lot of men and women come to me is when they get a diabetes scare or. They're in so out of shape that their doctor said you have to lose the weight. You have to do something about your health. But it's you know rat. Don't be reactive about your health. Just because things seem okay. We have to realize that you know it's twenty twenty exercises for all and it's mandatory mandatory it not a choice anymore. You have to be taking care of yourself to in order to live a fulfilling and a fulfilling lifestyle until our old age like why are we in wheelchairs at sixty seven years old. No we need to extend our life an extra ten twenty years. You know few of children. It should be a priority regardless with or without children is a priority so realizing changing your mindset when it comes to thin this and realizing that it's not a one trick pony. It's not just a only to lose weight to go on the beach. It's the lifestyle and it's it's for everyone and everybody needs needs to be a mandatory part of lifestyle. I'm trying to get it to be more attention to it. In our school years. You know teaching children the importance of how a fitness routine and getting into the lifestyle early in your life so that it will help you when the going gets tough when that stressful times when you know men and women are having families. It's like we need fitness health to be a part of our lifestyle exactly on. I think it would be very beneficial as well to give children a young age abroad exposure. To all the different types of things you can do obviously. There's numerous different sports a sport for everyone. There's obviously athletics fitness classes. And the so much and there will definitely be something that someone gets excited about and forget. It's actually doing fitness. And they'll see his something they love doing. Yeah I truly believe that especially with kids. It's like we need them to realize that you're just because you you're not that sports kid and you didn't make it on the team. It doesn't mean fitness is not for you exactly exactly. I think that would be very very beneficial indeed successor. How would you that however you raised your children to understand that health and fitness is such a key or as you said mandatory part of our life that will help us later in life while you know seeing is doing right. Monkey see monkey do. If you're not doing it and practicing the lifestyle like how can you tell your children that this is something? That is mandatory. It's going to help them. So because we are both me and my husband are very active. They see that they see that their entire life since they were bored. So that's their normal right a lot of times. They see parents that they don't take care of their own health and fitness and nutrition but they want their children to eat broccoli and go to soccer. It's like no it's gotta be a whole family approach so of course the kids and then also the importance of prioritizing right. Yes school matters and your studies. But it's like we try to take a well rounded approach with our kids that fitness and education. And you know mental health is a big one for us to the all these things matter and all these things need attention to not one gets more attention than the other. Everything needs attention because the end of the day were such complicated human beings that we we need to give attention to all these different elements that make us who we are and yeah it gives them an opportunity to explore like. Maybe they're not the sports kid on the team but maybe they excel in. You know something else. That's fitness related Doesn't it's the agree completely that you can't ready press others to pursue a certain lifestyle if you're not living it yourself save costs definitely true and I'm sure you found you. Continue to find because health and fitness is such a massive part of your life. This will actually help you. Continuously play with your children and getting bowled their lives as you feel you feel too out of shape to fit to to really grew up on play with them and see that a lot in my business. I see a lot of parents. You know that are struggling with their hell and are overweight or tired or exhausted. And they can't even play with their kids or herb. Take them on skis they. They're missing out on things that they could be doing with their their kids. Like you know. We live in Canada so ski trips and tobogganing and just being active in even going to an amusement park and being able to walk that long like I see I see it a lot in my business that when the parents failed to take care of themselves they actually the kids miss out. So what advice would you give to someone? Then pinches listening to this or because it's obviously going into the new year has just started the new year unless they wanted to start to finish any. What can they do to really initiate this process? I mean the one. The big thing is deciding. Decide and commit deciding that your your goals have to be big enough to excite you so you need a reason right. Think of what is your biggest reason for a lot of people. Should their biggest reasons should be that they want to live a long healthy life and for themselves they don't WanNa be pushed in a wheelchair to prematurely. So can give yourself really sit and think about a vision and a reason. That's my first step. I do with all my members. Then the second step is okay. What is going to close the gap from where I am now to where I wanna be and brainstorm. What do you think it's going to take? And then look at that list and pick twenty percent because twenty percent of our actions are responsible for eighty percent of our results till view. And when you know when push comes to shove and your schedules Outta whack just simply performing that twenty percent. So if it's like the twenty percent would to me would be you know signing up for program and showing up three to four times a week just simple sub getting my ten thousand steps a day. That's something that I start. Most people off with start with just being more active in your day to day. So that's and that's simple steps like just parking further going for a little walk at night you know so but it has to be well thought out and planned. New Year's resolutions are wishlist. And they don't happen unless we take massive action plans exactly exactly so on the reverse from then someone who has always had potentially help him to be a big positive life but they've recently gone off. The rails had a few weeks of with come back from an injury on period. How can people bounce buck mindset? I and I see that all its. That's an amazing question. I see that happen all the time. It's like oh I'm not that person not the person that's never started but I fall in or I had a setback and I see it happen all the time and then yeah and then and then you know what they're barest to come. Backer discouraged all used to be able do this now. I can't but it's like just do you have to go back. You will be a much better position if you go back slowly that NOCCO back at all and so it's changing that mindset that and we're not we're getting older right so I tell my members like listen. You're going to do the same things that you did even with me five years ago and that's okay. We adjusted but it's still we make it a lifestyle so like just get back into it after an injury. There's always you know I've seen him in. They'll have a knee injury. But that's that shouldn't stop you from. I always say. Can you get up in a car and start it yes? I can't well then you could do. Upper Body you can do. There's always something you can do But it's changing the mindset and being okay with being a little bit different exactly as you said that it was so that you can do my grandmother whose Clinton is that. She just started because I told her about how. Low impact resistance trading can actually help. She's having some issues and she's just doing some very light exercises on its cons of goodwill that's amazing and she's eighty exactly exactly something always to do. Even you know you're in a wheelchair like there are people out there with really significant limitation. That are doing it so you know an injury or any. I truly believe unless you're bedridden. You can work around most injuries or setbacks or binge period like just get back on. That's the best thing you can do is forget about what happened in. Just get back to it because lease so. She's making fun of them. How do we keep these behaviors took house? We made them more sustainable. So they're not just going to be temporary periods. They actually all be a complete. A sustainable lifestyle change so rituals and habits so we operate forty five percent of what we do is on the daily habits that we have embedded break getting up going to work so you have to create a new list of habits and routines and rituals. That you're gonNA stick to perform and and you you know some for some people. They need an accountability coach. And that's like so for example in my online program. I provide a lot of accountability in that. They have to submit photos every Monday. Soak that creates a habit and they have to other things after they have to do a meal. Prep twice a week and show me photos once they. They've developed that habit long enough which takes twenty one days. It then goes into a ninety day lifestyle so you have to be prepared to commit to. That's a hundred ten days of rituals and then it becomes lifestyle. But you need to commit to making those habits into
Sleep & Parenting with Therapist Christine Lawler
"Right. Everyone have Christie lawler here. And she is the peaceful sleeper. She's a marriage and family therapist and asleep specialist. She's passionate about helping MOMS feel more empowered in parenting and a huge part of that is getting some rest and I would argue just a huge part of feeling empowered in your life in general is getting some good rest so thank you so much for being here Kristie. I'm so excited for what you have to say in offer everyone listening listening so thank you. Thank you so much for having me. I'm excited yes so I'd love for you. I guess to kind of tell us in your own words. What exactly you do and how you got into to it? Yeah so I'm marriage and family therapists have been doing this for ten years. And even before I had babies I was realizing all the time that my clients that were the most stuck the ones that were the most depressed the most anxious the most annoyed with their spouses where it felt like nothing was really shifting. Those were the clients that had the biggest sleep problems and as an insomnia sufferer myself and a perfectionist. I hated that my answer would like. Oh yes sleep is hard Let's talk about the the real stuff and so I went ahead and I got trained to treat chronic insomnia and that's where I learned not surprisingly but kind of surprisingly that eighty eighty percent of people with mental health problems have underlying sleep issues. Wow which is so huge and I realize like oh my gosh. The key to mental health and wellbeing is getting good sleep and then fast forward. I had babies of my own and struggled with postpartum depression. But I knew ooh that it was because I was sleep deprived and then anyway fast forward. I delve into everything that could about sleep training. I kind of hated it as a therapist and like I said as perfectionist. I hated it that so many of the books in resources were very mom shaming. I felt like everything was very like fear. Fear driven. Like if you don't do it this way then you're crafty parent and then somebody else's like no no you don't do it this way. Then you're a crappy parent and I was like I wanna be a really good parent and I don't know how to do it but I know that I need sleep and I know that my baby needs sleep and so I kind of figured out my own method blending in all of them together and then I had another baby and it worked again and I was helping my friend sleep train. Their babies and I kind of realized like wait. Maybe I'm onto something that I can be voice in the space. That says sleep is really really really important. I research detachment for years. That's another thing that kind of drove me. Nuts is so many people were like fostering unhealthy sleep habits and the name of good attachment which just wasn't correct. I feel like a lot of moms now with all the resources versus. We have an all this stuff on the Internet. We can get really overwhelmed and kind of go into a rabbit hole of mom shame and fear and so anyway I just. I don't know I kind of realized that I wanted my voice in the space to help. MOMS feel empowered and really restore the the magic of motherhood. That comes when everybody is resting. Well 'cause like like that. I battled with postpartum depression and being tired tired and exhausted and looking at my sweet perfect little baby but not feeling that magic feeling guilty about it and I realized like the magic totally totally came back when I had good sleep
Healing After An Abortion
"Today's session is centered on another topic requested by several community members. And that's how to heal after an abortion. We know Oh this is a decision that can be very difficult to make and one that can be made for many different reasons in the aftermath can be one. That's very complicated to weed through true to offer her tips for healing and insight about how she works with clients in this space. We're joined today by Kisha Wills Kiesha is licensed professional counselor impera. NATO mental health specialists practicing in Columbus Georgia as the owner of transformation counseling services. She helps women navigate the mini transitions of womanhood and Motherhood Specifically Kisha maintains a passion to support women who have endured life altering experiences experiences such as pregnancy and infant loss in postpartum depression anxiety. Kisha help our clients develop their voice and identify indentify in grief and loss as well as have hope and be empowered. She recently published her first book from three heartbeats to one AH gentle companion hope in grieving pregnancy and infant loss he shannon. I chatted about some of the common experiences. Women may struggle with after an abortion. Learn how to support a friend who's had an abortion. How support systems may change afterwards and she shares her favourite resources for anyone wanting additional personal support or information? If you hear anything while listening that resonates with you and you'd like to share please share with us on social media using the Hashtag AAC. TV G in session. Here's our conversation you so much for doing Kisha. Thank you so much for having me on. Yeah I'm happy that you were able to join us today. Because I know that your specialty is in working with women specifically around Grief Impera Neto laws in net Kennedy and so this has been a topic that has been heavily requested by members of our community is healing. Taking care of yourself after an abortion. so I wanted to start kisha by hearing like what are some of the things that you find our you know previous clients or people that you heard come in struggling struggling with after an abortion so in the aftermath of person may struggle with grief emotional distress which includes depression depression feelings of regret loneliness feelings of sadness and loss particularly with loss. That could look Michael Loss of identity a loss of self esteem even the loss of a partner or lost a friendship and ultimately a loss of what lies and parenting could have have been like with the trial a lot of times individuals state that they feel incomplete. Some may also be angry with themselves but their body with their significant other even the medical professionals that involved and they may also wrestled with Gil filling that they've done a bad pain or shame feeling that they're about person that they're unworthy. They often struggle with confusion. You know questioning if they made the right right decision questioning what others may think about their decision and even with others may think about them and then to on the other end of the spectrum a emotional issues and struggles person may lack feeling they may experience numbness or detachment and be totally checked out on an emotional level a really very for each person but many do report struggling and be specific area. Yeah I mean you really have shared a lot there key because it feels like depending on like how this decision was made and you know the circumstances surrounding the decision making I mean like it really could determine like how you might react after actually having an abortion. Yeah for sure definitely. It's a very personal decision decision. I'm very unique store really very face on each person and I wanna go back to some of the things that you said around loss because I think you know one nine we tend to only think about laws as somebody dying right in. You really shared a lot of great information. Sounds like around Mike. The loss of relationships that that can sometimes result as after an abortion. Can you say more about that. Yeah so a Lotta Times your worldview really changes and so you change in the way that you interact with other individuals can also have a definite hit have struggles and they may change as well so with the law of partner the relationship might take a hit and so you lose that connection in some instances couples may not stay together or there may be a loss of a friendship because you feel like that person that you thought was going to support you with not there for you at that time so you may pull back so your relationships can starts the dear friend as your coping in dealing with these emotion. You also really touched on Kisha V.. Shame in Gidel Ed. Can sometimes uh-huh be related to this decision and I'm curious from a therapeutic standpoint like what are some of the things that you might work with a client on a hill you knows a really kind of work. Through 'em process these feelings of shaming guilt I think is really important to rainbows emotions and feelings that you are experiencing to bring them to the surface so that you can deal so that you can identify and deal with that when we think about shame being able to separate the action or the experience from your institution so that really is very important for a person to do because you know the the guilt says that I've done something that bad but then shame part makes you feel like you are a bad person that you're wholly unworthy and that's really important to work through. You know being able to differentiate between like I said your identity as a person versus your decision or the experience that like that distinction that you made right so the decision versus me as a person. Those are not missing thing. What are some things or activities that you found in your work with clients? That's helped them in healing. After an abortion individuals report war that they have found peace and comfort and performing rituals or having ceremonies surrounding the laws. For instance offense some have participated in candle ceremonies or memorial ceremonies. They've also serve other women or families that are dealing with this. Ah Issue and some have been able to plant trees or tree flower gardens and Tribu or memorial just as a way of kind of honoring during their child and some have even named their child is Yeah so in some ways it would Janie talk about some of these similar kinds of things on the episode that we did about healing after a miscarriage right so it sounds like in some ways it would be similar kinds of processes. Yeah I WANNA Kisha. You mentioned also the idea idea that you might lose some friendships because friends may not have supported you the way that she thought that they would. I'm curious to hear if you have suggestions about how friends friends can support someone after. They've had an abortion. I think one of the really important aspects to keep in mind is that it's just being available. You you know. Let your friend know that you share and that you're willing to help specifically that looks like you being non-judgmental being compassionate can't really being present with your friend listening is vital. It's a major part of communication but it's often overlooked at times and so and wanted to should be that helpful friend. You know a lot of times we're thinking about. What is it that I can say or do but listening is just as important
"postpartum depression" Discussed on Parenting: Difficult Conversations
"But even before you make that appointment with the doctor. Many women face another hurdle getting their family to understand what they're going through you know that myth about pregnancy and childbirth being happy time. And there's still a lot of stigma around mental illness. In general I hear that over and over again when I hear women disclose more personal ways their stories but also and I am working with women clinically duct Lena. Mattel is a psychiatrist with Brigham and Women's Hospital in Boston. I hear that it can be really difficult difficult to engage in conversations about mental health or that we don't believe in that kind of thing in my family or in my part of the et neighborhood. That's we don't talk about those things or you know. She says this is especially common in many communities of Color Angelina Spicer. Who's African? The American says she just couldn't get her family to understand what she was going through. When I had my daughter and I would tell my family members that you know I was feeling disconnected? I was feeling scared and afraid and anxious. They all dismissed it. They all were or like all. It'll be fine you'll get over it or why do you keep saying you're depressed. Why do you keep saying you're sad? You have this beautiful family. Spicer says another. The thing she heard from a family members was pray it away. Jesus is going to take it if you've run into a similar situation. Dr mottled suggests starting a family conversation uncommon grounds often families and the person who's trailing with symptoms. They have similar goals. You know the goal is to have A. Yeah well mom a well baby to have the Mambi able to be engaged with baby and in the care of the baby. She advises women to help their family understand. That depression is a common medical problem. And she says consider taking a family member with you to your doctor's appointment appointment and then that way some of the myths can be dispelled too so we can talk about. What treatment is and isn't and what the preconceived notions about DOC perinatal emotional? Complications may look like for Angelina. Spicer things got really bad before they got better. She tried to pray it away. She waited for the anxiety and sadness sadness to lift but eventually she ended up in an inpatient psychiatric facility. I was like oh I can go somewhere. And he'll and feel better. Uh I felt completely relieved. I was so elated to know that I didn't have to just suffer. And that wasn't the only one they choose intrigue -ment for ten days before she could return home and I just remember my daughter just reaching up and grabbing me and kicking her her feet and just being so happy to see me. The fog was still there. The cloud was there but I can see it moving. We should. The research suggests that being a woman of color makes it harder to access care for postpartum depression. Mattel points out that ideally the healthcare system should be talking to an engaging women of color about these mental health issues and she and some other providers are working on it but since that might take wild to happen at a national scale. She suggests that women take the lead and start talking to their. Ob's about depression during their prenatal appointments. It's really helpful to have the conversation to say like what are my risk factors for depression. Should I be engaging in treatment or in supportive counseling or therapy ahead of time time to prevent depression or not. Can you help me engage in those services as for Meghan Radic. She resisted the idea of talking to her doctor for a long time per husband kept nagging her about it so she finally brought it up during an appointment and filled out a questionnaire used to screen for depression. That was the easiest for me. It was kind. I'm just pass it on. Pass a note to her saying. I'm not okay. Please help me and her. Ob did help her. She prescribed an antidepressant. She also encouraged me to sleep. One thing I had been doing because of my low breast milk supply. I had been trying to pump pretty much. It's every three hours around the clock producing very very little. A doctor said grist. Milk is important but not if it was keeping her from sleeping and being present in Habib's life because it was the fact that it was having on me she said it is more important for you to sleep and to to be able to spend time with your child and to not feel guilty about taking medication. We should point out. The dramatic was lucky. Ob knew how to help her. We heard from listeners. US WHO said that they went to their doctor. Some even got the depression screening. There was the end of it. The doctor did not help them find treatment. So if you run into a dead and your doctor's office what do you do. Where do you go for help? That's our forth takeaway an alternative place to look for help. So there is is a wonderful organization called Postpone Support International Postpartum Support International or PSI is a nonprofit that helps individuals and families find find support for postpartum depression. A family a mom a grandmother Adad a friend can call and say I'm worried about myself myself. I'm worried about my wife. What have you? That's an Smith. She's a nurse Midwife and the president of the Board of the organization we will talk to them and give them support Ford and helped him to understand that there is treatment and they can and can't well peace is website. Postpartum Dot net has a directory of local providers who have experience for instance treating postpartum depression. Smith says the organization will discuss your options based on your insurance and they can also connect you with local support groups for MOMS which also helps in recovery. She says you can call the organizations helpline. That number is one eight hundred nine four four four war. PPD which is four seven seven three or she says you can text them at five zero three eight nine four nine four five three and a trained volunteer. We'll get back to you within twenty four hours. Smith herself recently helped a grandmother find treatment for her daughter who developed severe anxiety society after she gave birth. That's what this young woman had. It was tremendous anxiety and probably some obsessive compulsive disorder and she was resisting getting help. So Smith spoke to the grandmother gave her a list of local providers this this time she says. The grandmother used infective tactic while talking to her daughter. She got resources from me and then she kind of slipped them to her daughter. Without saying you need to do this she would say you know. I've found out about something called the Motherhood Center and at the end when the daughter finally ended up going to the Motherhood Center I feel that she felt that it was her choice. Smith says the volunteers appears I stay in touch with the family until they're sure. The mother is in treatment without it. People fall through the cracks all the time in the meantime psychiatrist Jennifer Pain says through some things you can start to do on your own. That should improve your symptoms. First and foremost women need to be taking care of themselves. That's our fifth takeaway build self care into your daily routine now before you roll your eyes at the Tom Come self-care let us explain. We're really talking about the basics. Him eating well resting excising and it may sound too simplistic doc. But pain says there's evidence that they can make a big difference in improving mental health because they help reduce your stress levels and help you. Cope better sat tearing the stressful time. Because let's face it. Taking care for newborn is a lot of work. Painters don't neglect your diet. And make sure you hydrate great. I've had a number of women who weren't eating because they were breastfeeding. All the time are changing the baby and so I had their spouses setup eating stations for them so that when they're breastfeeding they can eat a granola bar for example and and have water available then she says. Make sure you get a break every day. I think getting a break from the BBC regularly is key For for women with depression women without depression and so- ranging family support support for that or social support for that is is really important. Get your spouse or relative to keep an eye on the baby or if you can afford it hire a babysitter and and use the time to catch up on sleep because sleep. Paint says has to be a priority sleep when the baby sleeping's of babies taking a nap. That's not the time time to do laundry. That's the time to sleep. She says consider sleeping in separate rooms. So you aren't waking up. Every time you baby cries new moms are wired to hear the baby baby cry and have couples who you know every other night the mom sleeps downstairs And Dad takes a turn and giving the baby food food in the middle of the night. Studies also show that exercise can reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety. Now that doesn't mean you sign up for new gym membership or an intense yoga class pains. Think simple exercises that you can easily folded into your daily life that can be going for a walk with the baby around the block. Another thing that can really help she says is finding community there are also lots of support groups for new moms. I cannot tell you how many mothers I've seen that. Think they're the only person who's gone through this and it's just so not the case and so meeting other moms going through something similar can be Willie rallying for people who are down on themselves so remember. You're not alone who's part of anxiety and depression can be overwhelming. No matter autopart. Looks like they're straight out there and you can recover what worked for me. Was Childcare spanks Zoloft in that order. Okay under Spicer again. Childcare was a huge relief for me because because I had time to myself every day Zoloft it really did help it. Lifted the fog lifted my own confidence and then spanks I mean come on the you know your uterus. After you have a baby just will not let you be great for Meghan Riddick. The medication sleep social support. All of that worked one does and the disconnection she felt with her son is long gone. He smiles at me and I melt now. I'm worried I'M GONNA love him too much and spoil well him but I'm watching him grow and watching him learn the world around him is just such a gift and to Think that I thought there was a time where I thought that I would not want to be there. Is it so hard to even even think about that it. It seems it was seven months ago. Hornets seems like just unthinkable..
What is Postpartum Depression? Recognizing the Signs and Getting Help
"There was this myth. That women couldn't possibly be depressed during pregnancy. There's such a happy time. That's Dr Jennifer Pain. She's a psychiatrist and directs. The women's Mood Disorder Center at Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore and the reality. -ality is a lot of women struggle with depression and anxiety during pregnancy as well as during the postpartum time period about one in seven women experienced this and and yet we don't talk about it much for thirty six year old Meghan rettig. It kicked shortly after. She gave birth to a son lost me. I would force myself to see people people and smile and say you know everything's great and then the second I had a chance where I wasn't holding him I could go to my room and cry and I probably couldn't count how many hours a day I cried. Sorry harder to this is harder to do than then you I think it is this is. NPR Life Kit. We're talking about anxiety and depression during pregnancy and postpartum I cover mental health for NPR and over the past year. I've been doing a lot of reporting on this topic in this episode will tell you how to identify symptoms fine in treatment and give you useful tips on how to manage your mood and wellbeing during this time and this isn't just pregnant women new moms it's for spouses. Parents parents siblings close friends as well. Because chances are you will be the first person to realize that your spouse or daughter or friend is struggling in. You can help refined treatment. We heard from over three hundred women who wrote who to us about their experience with anxiety. Depression during pregnancy and postpartum. Many of them said it took them a while to realize there were depressed and most of them felt ashamed and blamed themselves for it. He is making riddick. I felt guilty about how I felt so I absolutely tried to hide it from everybody and I would put on the best appearance I could. That's why most women don't see count says Dr Jennifer Pain. It is hard to become a new mother but then if a woman's depressed on top of that she's going to have negative feelings about herself as part of the depression and it becomes an even bigger thing but she stresses that depression isn't the mother's fault or failing it's a complication of pregnancy and childbirth house. pardom depression is actually the most common complication of childbirth. I that's our first takeaway. Depression and anxiety can be complications of pregnancy and childbirth just like just diabetes and hypertension. Their mental illnesses just like anxiety and depression at any other point of time as for what causes it. Jennifer pain says researches stone fully. I understand it but most mental illnesses she says are caused by a combination of biological factors and life circumstances in this case she says hormones hormones likely play a big role so we think in the postpartum time period that what happens is estrogen and progesterone levels which have been increasing throughout pregnancy precipitously drop And so there's basically a massive hormonal withdrawal from the brain and if someone had had anxiety or depression before they became pregnant their degree to risk. Now what makes women more vulnerable at the stage. Is that major life transitions. Sion's are big triggers for mental illnesses like pregnancy. And having a child it's a wonderful life change for many people but that doesn't mean it's not stressful You have to think about finances you have to think about caring for an infant. All of these factors come together to create a perfect perfect storm. And the reason it's really important to address this as pain is that if left untreated. It has long-term consequences on the baby's health and development so fabius whose moms were severely depressed postpartum time period have lower. IQ's slower language development. It's and more behavioral problems. Probably because they're not getting that normal interaction That mom's generally give their infants in the postpartum time period. Red And there are health risks for the mom to some women and the feeling suicidal in some even die by suicide in the first year postpartum others like Meghan rettig. Nick who wrote to US set these seriously thought about leaving their baby and spouse. I thought that I wasn't good enough for them. And that if I were just to leave leave that my husband could find a better wife and my son could find a better mother that he'd be able to find somebody to replace me. Who would be more adequate pain? Says it is important important to get the mother into treatment as soon as possible. Because I we save mom's not happy. No one's happy now. We're telling you this not not to scare you. The good news here is that this is treatable and with the right treatment women recover and do well but in order to get treatment. You I need to know if you're depressed that's our takeaway number to know what symptoms to look for and we're going to break them down for you. What I tend and to look for are women? Who are you know? Barely getting themselves together and taking care of the baby doctor. Paint says is if you're struggling to do daily activities every day for two weeks or more that's an indication you need help. Many women who wrote to us about their experience appearance with postpartum depression set the felt detached from their baby. Including Riddick I was afraid that I would never love him I. I thought that this is the bond between mother and child is the love that is so You know infallible. And I was afraid raid that I would never feel that because I didn't feel it in the beginning and there's a whole range of symptoms. Here's Dr Paint again. Many women when they're depressed have have low mood. Can't get out of bed. Have trouble concentrating trouble eating properly don't sleep well etc.. Anger can also be a symptom. Many women will get angry. That the baby's waking them up again or will not settle down and that can be really overwhelming feeling and then of course. It's a vicious vicious cycle because then the woman feels guilty. Thinks she's a bad mother and it just goes and goes in circles. She says many women also become really anxious anxious anxiety. Disorders are very common and pregnancy as well and those can look like generalized anxiety or having panic attacks or the anxieties eighties disguised as parenting worries. Only for some women worries play on repeat in their head like they did for Angelina Spicer. One of the MOMS who wrote to US Spicer Spicer is a comedian. And she's on a mission to normalize postpartum depression after what she went through the thoughts for me were like is she gonNa stop breathing. Everything is the dog gonNA come in and eat us up you know. It was just really random but vivid and recurring. You and the intrusive thoughts would haunt me at night mostly during like the three am feed or the five am feed. When I was alone alone in a dark room with just my daughter and I now if your spouse or a friend of family member and you're not with the pregnant woman or new mom for extended periods of time you may not see all these symptoms? So how do you tell if moments depressed. When people are depressed? They look very different. There is different. They look at and detached if they smile. It doesn't go up to there is Many people will become slower in their thinking and they're speaking process. So if you or someone you love has any of these symptoms. It's important to find signed help that's our takeaway number three ask for help. Pizza's the best place to start is with the doctor. Women see two main doctors. In the postpartum time period. One is their OBI and the others. The pediatrician and pediatricians are actually starting to screen as well because they recognize nuys. That mom being healthy is an important part of the child being healthy. You mean screen the mother for depression. Yes but many people are not used to talking to a doctor about their mental health. So how do you start that conversation. I think talking straight great is probably the number one tip. I have you know I'm feeling depressed. I can't sleep when the baby is sleeping. I'm not getting enough to eat and I've lost more weight than I expected. But just being very concrete and In clear what the doctor that there is a problem. You doctor can prescribe you. An antidepressant which has is being shown to be safe and effective during pregnancy. And when you breastfeeding and research shows the talk therapy is also very helpful. Your doctor can refer you to to a therapist or counselor remember. Treatment will look different for
The "Thank You Project"
"We got the chance to speak to Nancy Davis Co and she's the author of a book called the thank you project in two thousand sixteen. Nancy celebrated her Fiftieth Fiftieth Birthday. And she wanted to do something to mark that milestone so she started writing. Thank you letters to all of the people and places and things that the difference in her life little did she know that spending one year writing these thoughtful letters would have such a profound impact on her every week. I sat down on Friday afternoons to write my one letter and I would sit and fill up a page about why somebody had been important in my life and I could physically feel my shoulders relaxing. My Jaw clenching. Just a sense of calmness and peace would wash over me and I realized that the gratitude letters were helping me refocus every week. I could think no matter. How many horrible things that happened that week I could think okay? I have this one person in my corner and it was just a really amazing way to do a reset Nancy. I'd love to hear an example of one of the letters you wrote sure I'd love to share one. That didn't make it into the book but I really enjoyed writing this to my daughter's pediatric nurse. Her name's Jen And I wrote dear dear John. I'm writing because I turned fifty last year and decided to write a thank. You note to fifty people who have made a difference in my life for the care. Consistency and compassion compassion. You've shown Mattie and Lucy as pediatric nurse since they were each only a few days old I had to include you on that list. Your reassurance and skill have made my job as their mom easier. And I'm deeply grateful for that. You and I have probably stared together at those children on the Exam Table One hundred times in the past eighteen years but there there are a few visits that really stood out to me was when Matty was about ten months old and you said I just love seeing how you two are together. It was a tiny sentence tints but it was such a confidence boost to a new mom from a professional who saw moms and their children all day. Long whether you meant it or not I took it as a sign that I was doing. Okay with my a baby girl. I also remember that horrible period when Lucy was five weeks old and was hospitalized with. RSV She came through it unscathed. But when I brought her in for checkup a couple of days after she was discharged. You took one look at me and understood what I was unable to say out loud. I was about three feet past the end of my rope and gasping for help and and you saw that and you rescued me. I believe the prescription was for my husband to get both girls out of the house so I could sleep uninterrupted for basically a day I consider that nap. The only reason I didn't and fall into postpartum depression my kids are thriving and confident and hardworking and smart and I remember occasionally but never enough to give thanks that they are healthy on top top of it for your role and keeping them that way. I am so grateful with thanks Nancy. You're so specific. You gave very specific compliments and very specific examples. Well the Nice thing I learned in writing the book I really wanted to understand the science behind. Why gratitude letters worked on me so well and one of the things they talk about as positive recall bias? So what that means is you can train yourself to look for positive things by looking for positive things so it's really like working gratitude muscle and it got. I loved that part of trying to figure out specifically what it was. I think you're right. I'm sure Jen saw seventy seventy kids a day or however many hersler her caseload was. She doesn't remember the specifics but I can remember them because I only had two kids and I know every time time they were sick and she was so reassuring that it was it made my job easier and that was the kind of thing I wanted to make sure she understood Nancy. So you talk about how transformative this was to yourself. You just told us about how physically affected you but I want you to take us back to your first letter you you know. Who did you write it to? What were you feeling when you were writing it? How did you start you know? Take us back. I wanted to start with my mom in part because she she has dementia. I felt that there was some time urgency to that. Thank you mom. Thank you for being such that. You'll warm affectionate supportive. Funny Mother someone who pulled off the deceptively simple trick of creating a home that served both as a sanctuary and a launch pad for. Sally Larry Gary and me a joke about it with my writer friends. My parents were so nice. They didn't give me any material to write a memoir about but they know I know and you know that our family family life was the best gift you could ever give me one of the things that I realized as I wrote wrote to her is that I needed to apologize to her. Because I had this fiction my head that I was really easy kid for her to raise that I had not given her any problems. well as a mom of two two teenage girls at the time I knew that that could not have been true. It's just not it's not humanly possible for a teenage girl to not give her mother some grief. So Oh that really was the first instance but not the last where forgiveness came into play with this project. Because when you're thinking about someone on who has made a difference in your life maybe there are old resentments that you're holding onto or you think well this person does all these good things for me. But they haven't shown for me in this other way and found that writing. The letters really fostered a sense of forgiveness toward the people I was writing and in some cases it really made me WanNa make amends. It made me WanNa be a better friend a better relative because I've been the beneficiary of so much kindness in my life I think an essay I read a couple of years ago about a woman who feels herself becoming invisible to her family realizing that she's like air who thinks about air air but then again what do you do without it. I'm saying now what I was too young and dumb to understand. Then you are the root source of the happiness and stability in in my life you have always taught me so much from the flash cards that may be an early reader to that moment when I was twenty two to last week when you and dad took my aunt to the doctor and showed me once again what familial love and devotion should look like. I love you mom. I'm just so incredibly lucky to be your
"postpartum depression" Discussed on This is Actually Happening
"And things are going relatively well but because I'm on so much medication my usual like spark was Kinda gone. And how did y'all was doing my job. Just fine coming home taking care women kid interacting with my husband's like I thought things were on the up and up even though I was feeling really emotionally distant and really disconnected and I still didn't feel that that feeling of love toward my baby and here my best friend had had a kid seven months prior to me and she could not shut up about how much she loved him and how much love love was flowing through her constantly. It was weird it was like I felt like something was wrong with me so I didn't want to talk about it with anybody all I would say to. People is like the things get better. They're like Oh yeah things. Get so much better like once you get past X. Y. Z.. And you're GONNA be fine but nothing was getting better. The feedback that I was getting for the first year was that like my personality had like disappeared and I was kind of like this robotic version of myself and I remember number. My Mom's saying to me you've lost your spark and the feeling inside all I wanted to be was like maybe someone actively they give a fuck about me like I would would be able to work on my emotions but instead I didn't say a damn thing and that was also part of this black hole distant sunken place thing where the person in me that had any courage or any strength was so far down. The medication is part of that. And I I have to take ownership over over the fact that I must have been a real pain in the ass to be around during this time just like no personality not a fun person. I was sleeping in this way that I was absolutely militantly. Obsessed with going to bed at nine to the point that I was ruining everybody else's night really neurotic like I had developed all of these neuroses season and have a forum one of them was like nine o'clock. I'm in my bed. I don't give a shit. One thing they tell people is that postpartum depression can usually lasts a year so when I hit a year everyone felt cheated and my husband felt angry and he felt angry at me and he literally said to me Lake. It's been a year. Why aren't you better? That first year was kind of light asshole because our son was only early a baby it was only after he became ambulatory. That the shit really fan. We leave our neighborhood. We got priced out. We end up in this house in a bad neighborhood. There's a lot of drug dealers. We didn't know it was a huge mistake because now I was really isolated from other people and I also quit my job and got the job something way more boring. I also had gained a bunch of weight so I told my psychiatrist and he said well well. Let's change to Sara Quel because Sarah Call doesn't have that eating by product but it will help you with sleep and this medication absolutely ruined my life for about a year and a half like destroyed my life it changed my brain. It changed the way that I made decisions. It changed the way that I rationalized things and this is awful and I'm glad I can finally talk about it but just alone a lot never wanted to leave and my Husband was working at night so when McCabe would go to bed. I just started like having a beer which turned into having to at first it was a little little bit but then when we moved to that more suburban area and they switched my medication. And my son became ambulatory. So now he's running around and driving. My husband husband absolutely completely insane and my husband starts talking in a bad way about our kid. Like he's a bad kid. I started drinking in a way. Hey that I can't even believe that I did because when I was drinking I would start to feel something Clearly everybody had to have seen how much I was drinking because I was drinking about six beers and two bottles of wine every single.
"postpartum depression" Discussed on This is Actually Happening
"The next day I confessed to my husband I had done that he was like. I think you have postpartum depression. But he said it in a way that was like he was disgusted with that. Look on his face. I was like no no no no. That's not what's happening but it's like it was almost like the thought implanted. It which allowed me to go there because then I just went into this full blown kind of almost catatonic state. I remember I was sitting in a chair and I couldn't and even like move for like a full day and it was this weird feeling wear. I saw my neighbor out on his porch and I was totally naked from the waist up and I'm looking at him and he looks at me and he stopped sweeping and I'm not even moving. I'm just like staring at him. He's staring at me and I was like he can tell him fucked up right now and I can feel everyone moving around me and I literally can't move. It was like that movie. Get Out and talk about the sunken place. I'm clearly not a woman of color and I don't know of color experience in the lease but I can really relate to that feeling because it was like I was down here and the body was out here being something else or someone else also. I didn't really have any kind of leave from work. I had some PTO. And that was that and I remember sitting in front of my computer they were GonNa let me work remote and just staring out and feeling completely literally incapable of typing. I couldn't get my arms to move to the keyboard and not took a really long time once I did it. That's all that happened. I just had my hands on the keyboard staring got it and then this voice way deep saying God I hope they don't fire you over not doing anything at all and I kept thinking you just move the mouse around. I'm just a very gregarious person. Very intimated and so not moving. It all was a huge indicator of how bad had become. It was like other worldly like I was an alien that had stolen my body. Eh My doctor. Wisconsin checked in for that first six weeks. Because I couldn't get medication and she was telling my husband she needs to get out. She needs to work out. She needs to get out like if she stays in her. Psychology will become worse like she needs to move. You need to help her. No one was helping me do shit. Everyone was so terrified by behavior that their reaction was to do nothing. And pretend like it wasn't happening so again I was to my own devices. I had to take care of myself off and taking care of yourself when you are that. Psychologically incapable is a I can only liken it to like. You're pulling like a big. You know one of those corny cartoons of pushing a big boulder up a mountain. You know something like five tons and you're just a person just an arduous process unbelievably insurmountable. It was unreal and I felt like every single thing I did was like that. I knew my advisement was to get out. And here's this food festival and I thought Gosh maybe I can walk to the food festival which was literally like two blocks away so I get my kid in his stroller and walk over the festival and I thought Oh maybe I'll get like an ice cream holiday. Cheer me up and I get all the way to the little booth and I get to my turn and I order and they have the cone and I looked down and realized I didn't bring my wallet it all my movements. Were like a turtle too. At this time I moved in the slow Sloth Lake Way and I would turn my head really slow unlike lift. My is really slow and so I did that to her and I went. I don't have any money. I'm staring at her for Lake. which seems like an unbelievably extended amount of time? Let's just hope you'll just fucking give it to me and she's just cannot. Respond cannot react and and so I like walkaway sloth style just like pushing his stroller away and feeling like so worthless that someone can't even give me an ice cream for free and I'm like falling apart mentally and I can't do shit and I'm such a loser like all those thoughts were going through my head like you're worthless your loser you're failure earlier you failed you failed. You can't be happy you can't feel love and that's what the first six weeks where we're just this feeling of profound failure. My husband was starting to resent me like really bad and I had been the strong one into seen me so weakened didn't sparked compassionate him. It's Bart Disgust and Maybe that's common like when strong people suddenly fall apart. It's like two shocking acknowledged or too shocking to manage so. He was just disgusted with me. And it's offended by my behavior so his whole reaction too often became lake either. Ignore and pretend like it's not happening or this attitude of get is your shit together. My obstetrician had a nurse that worked with her and I went to the nurse and and she gave me a prescription of like an antidepressant and anti anxiety medication and left it at that and the combination that she gave me. I thought was very very effective but it was only temporary. She wasn't a physician. So that stabilized me really well. I was finally able to sleep. And that was incredibly restorative tove but then my obstetrician recommended a psychiatrist for me to see so I go to see the psychiatrist and he tells me off about. I've never treated treated anyone with postpartum depression and again I was so weakened emotionally at this point that I didn't I had no spine this guy said by I think I can help you and so I thought okay. Great like you can help me so he put me on antidepressants. He put me on occasion. I it was out of an because I had insomnia and there is some evidence that this medication helps people sleep and he said just so you I know though in some people can increase appetite. So let me know if that sort.
Ep. 257 - Gabrielle Bernstein on Self Development
"Hello welcome to almost thirty podcast. My name is Chris. Williams and this is my co host. Thick what's up. How are you never know if you're going to say my name or if I should say. Actually actually it's like. I weighed on bated breath. I'm like should I be ready. Do you ever had a for almost thirty started as a conversation. Can you guys started talking about the transition from our twenties thirties now. It's so much more than that so much more. we just. WanNa make you feel a little less alone wherever you are. Dr And so you don't have to be almost thirty to listen. We get that he and we'd like to debunk. It can't wait. What are you GonNa do when you turn thirty now my thing is as I say we're GONNA end it. That's it. We're done little. Do they know little. Do they know I freaked my the cry out. The Guy at Crow Studios Get freaked out when I told him I was thirty. We're like friends. We've we hung out and he wanted anything younger younger twenty six he's like Oh. I thought we were the same age I was like. They gave myself away. He's like must be all the Kreil aging. I was describing like it's always funny. When you meet someone new UH and they're really interested out the podcasting is base and so I was describing into someone the other day and like how we started and they they were just they were blown away by like the beginnings of it and how we didn't give up which is a good reminder area. which is a good reminder you know because I'm just amazing this? Is Our story a new lake. How did you they're like? I don't know like I wouldn't go to my closet every week and just like do that and not knowing not knowing what's going to happen anyway. Maybe that's your problem man. He was also living on the street. No you don't know much but I'm GonNa tell you about your life just kidding but it is true you know and that's the thing is doing something with joy away because you're doing it not because of the outcome yeah which is rare. I it's very rare. You know it's so much easier to stay. Hop Hop on a track can be like. Oh after two years. I'm going to be promoted to this and this is going to be my life and then I'm GonNa make this amount of money. When I'm thirty five and then I could buy a house and then propose it was literally people think I was just thinking about that with like a younger generation of millennials think they're track as like expedited sided with the growth of entrepreneur the entrepreneur totally wave and how the democratization of information so that everyone now has access to a lot of information as much as people did previously so. I wonder how that changes their perspective perspective with that. I want to say stuff but I need to. My brain was just like I need to be nice. I'll hold on what do not work but aren't we millennial yet. Are we talking about Gen-x. Yeah I do what are they. I Love Them. You know we were talking about this. The other day mothers again today with someone else yeah. I think it's like how you know and you know we can complain about it for a second but it's also like how do we uh-huh and encourage and help them to level up and I mean in a sense where they understand that there there is work and kind of time spent that is necessary to invest into something that you want to pursue for the rest of your life like they're so oh impatient and I'm like I've been invasion in my life but more and more as we do this work. I just realized how how this is like the rushing of it you skip over so many really good good. Things good steps that really teach you a lot so chew with your first job. You know you gotTA. I'm not saying they should accept people that are rude or people that are negative or people are speaking. Ill too but he couldn't eat shit. I completely bullshit. You just do bullshit. You will learn you know you're given more responsibility as it's earned earned and it's just so challenging at times to see this inability to operate in this space in a way that is just like St. I don't think you know the be self. Development world has a negative effect. Sometimes on this like new you know younger generations because it's like but I deserve the respect and I deserve to take care of myself myself. I deserve to have two hours from much in the morning and you're asking me to come to work like I can't do it. You know you know what I mean like. I just I think there is a there is a lot of truth to taking care of yourself but I do think it gets a little bit muddy. When it's taken so to extreme I agree with you. I guess that's probably you know. This is what I guess I will say is that I bet it's a confusing message in narrative for them if they're seeing so much should the focus on the self care the prioritization of self the prioritization of health and wellness and taking you know doing the morning routine and then they're also seeing the images of people working talking by the pool on their laptop of you know being in whatever industry they are making money making one hundred zillion billion figure taking eight fakers empowering making eight billion. Hey everyone we just want you to hold us accountable. If we ever say to you Aguirre's eight figure income you can you can just unsubscribe. We're not gonNA guarantee figures yeah so it's probably confusing narrative to be within those two spaces but I don't know if that should be more transparency with the difficulty of the process or the unknowing of the process and that's what I think were trying to do and I'm trying to do but it's just it's not all easy and it's not all it doesn't always make sense and it's really important that you if you are somewhere that you are somewhere and you're putting in the work to be there and you're putting in the work personally to get the most for yourself and energetically for the commitment that you make doing whatever it is that you said you're going to do. You're not helping yourself if you're not you know putting the best infra situation and those challenging moments that really make you wanna give up are or literally by moments where your call to like level up and it'll change your life. That's the whole thing with like you know my brother's a part of that generation to where you know there is this avoidance of the hard and painful and I get it because of what you said about you know the narrative because they're told like we just WANNA be happy and I've heard him say I just want to be happy and I take that seriously but I also you don't think a life without challenges like a happy life. I do think there's a way to approach the challenge that could really help you to see the the joy and the potential every moment Yep Yep. I mean completely. I think that's exactly what I wanted to talk about and that was was something I learned when I was in Patagonia for that month or so and you know didn't have access to anything and had to have on my food with me and my Kayak whatever so within the moment you know you assume okay. You're in Patagonia. It's beautiful. You're with these people in nature. All of these things it's beautiful but there are a lot of moments that aren't fun and it's actually they talk a lot about that within that and even within the silent retreat and even within a lot of these different things. It's not fun in the moment and that's okay. It's okay to be a little uncomfortable. It's okay to for it to be a little painful. It's okay for you to not be super cozy all the time and that's where growth happens so the happiness comes later and it's not like the appreciation and gratitude for for your life now because you experience pain but but it's the recognition of what that discomfort has shown you and I think that's where the challenge comes is that because everyone has a voice with with the Internet and online fine and you know I would be the same like throughout my discomfort in the corporate world at the beginning. I was so vocal about it and there was so much that I learned that I wish I would've given recognition to and I wish that I would recognize that. It's not super comfortable throughout the process of its entirety ready but it has moments and it has parts in it has flow yeah completely completely agree. I don't know that's so true with yeah. I think that's so true. It's like I hope I it makes me just think of the narrative that's going on. It's like where instagram is a place where it's the highlight so they're people aren't seeing those moments you know aren't seeing the hard moments aren't seeing the in between so. I just think that's why will ability and just transparency is so important. If you choose to be more of like a quote unquote public figure you know have a voice out there air like it really is that important on only four your growth but for the people around you who look to you you know that's it's a concert reminder for us to you. Just you know not sugar coat. How things are going and what's happening. We're going to celebrate the really good things but there's also some things that are really hard and it's not to say oh so this is hard. It's just to say that like this is happening in real time and were trusting that it's just a a growth spurt you know Um and that's the number one thing too. It's like the phone is the number one cozy. WanNa get cozy. Take a fucking our on your phone on that'll Coz if I your brain and your body you know that's the number one get out of an uncomfortable moment conversation. I even noticed that sometimes with you know justice my man my boyfriend Justin with we're having a conversation that feels a little hot. He'll get on his phone. Yep kind of divert that energy up my brother does to Yemen. I mean it's it's make crutch and I'm not perfect. You know I'm definitely not perfect at all but it's just an interesting thing think about where you're trying to shift and dilute that and you're looking for that cozy you know if you're on your phone. There say you know we're talking today about you know the homeless situation in l. a. and an across the United States and almost man comes on the subway. You get on your cozy your phone number one you know that's the number one diversion of human interaction human feeling human whatever and that is the the thing. I guess when I think about the younger generation has more access to that that more of an awareness around that in it's more like built into their psychology of their of their physical it's physical body at a point and I think about to like the kids now that are given and granted no shamed parents parents who give their kids screens to kind of give them a second. I will probably do that too but it's also just training on that like okay this is this is a comfort for this. Is You know what I mean to not. Be In the moment and learn how to be here rather. It's just this thing that helps them to behave so so. It's just interesting that it's starting earlier and earlier and I wonder how it's going to be in like twenty years when they are thirty year. Olds know you think about that. As a last is point on this as the rewiring of the brain that would need to happen if you think about a chemical dependency to something you know it involves in the altering of the chemicals of your brain and the way that we react towards what happens on our phone through through the dopamine and Serotonin and all the things that that happened chemically. It's occurring without the without the drug just the thing that it's almost like you know part of when I think about eating disorders or eating addictions or binge eating and stuff.
"postpartum depression" Discussed on Kingdom Mom
"To take back like your territory kingdom mom. Let's begin. Hey kingdom mama welcome back to another episode of the kingdom on podcast today. We're gonna be talking to sarah. Hardy of christ centered mama dot com. Sarah is a pastor's wife and a blogger and today she is going to be sharing her perspective of her journey. Through postpartum purdham depression were so blessed that she's willing to be honest and open about this and so <hes> before but quickly before we get into the episode. I just want to mention that sarah's actually doing a giveaway for our podcast listeners so <hes> she has a product called the dwell journal. It's a bible study tool all that you can utilize it normally sells on amazon for i believe it's like eleven ninety nine so you can definitely go check that out will be sure to put a link in the show notes in case you actually wanted to purchase doc but then also she's going to be giving away so be sure to follow her on social media. <hes> you can find its christ-centered. Mama mama spelled m. a. m. a. day and be sure to send her a message. Let her know that you heard about her from the podcast and what it is that you took away from her episode so <hes> let's. Let's get into it all right so we are here today. With sarah hardy from christ centered mama dot com sarah. Oh welcome to the kingdom on podcast. Thank you for having me so. I'm really excited because we've been chatting just getting to know each other but i'm i'm super excited excited because today i'm going to get to learn about your your motherhood journey. <hes> the topic of today's episode is actually postpartum depression depression so <hes> before we kinda get into the nitty gritty of that sarah. Would you mind just quickly kind of introducing us to you and your family yeah so <hes> i'm sarah. My husband has been <hes>. He's a pastor here in kansas and <hes>. I wanted kids for my whole life. You know i love the girl who played with the baby dolls and i even got cats like i was obsessed with you. Know the whole idea of mothering <hes> it was a true god given <hes> media. I felt like in my heart <hes> and <hes> i even dealt with some infertility. <hes> there was an infertility that happened. I think we were married for about five years before i could <hes> before we could be and <hes> that was just shocking to me. <hes> you know i felt almost abandoned by god and <hes> all of the scriptures that deal with <hes> you know the barren womb and every time i would read that i would just go. Oh my goodness. My my heart is just i just can't you know and i would feel distant from god. Even in that infertility season you know so imagine my surprise when i did give birth healthy birth and i was dealing with postpartum post-partum depression. It just made no sense to me. It was really shocking and i bet there's lots of women who have felt similar to me. It's like even the christian faith <music>. How is that possible to deal with postpartum depression in a way that honors christ so that's that's my journey right now. Really it is that is fascinating. There is going to be so much for us to unfold in the story because there's a lotta stuff going on right. We're dealing with the activity and then postpartum <hes>. You're a pastor's wife. You know you're so there's so much to like kind of dive into here. So can you kind of share. What is what was your post-partum harden journey <unk>. Tell us what was it like in that season. <hes> what were the steps that you took to kind of overcome that yeah so i guess with me and probably with most christian women who have dealt with postpartum depression the first you know that i maybe three or four months. It's just hard for anybody. You know. It's just hard. There's a lot of <hes> you know the crying and and i mean some women do have like really easy like i saw basic recently like potato baby whereas like oh. It's like a little doll. You know it's really easy but i never had. I have two kids than either of them. Were ever potato babies. They did not want to see basically they did not want to be out of the womb. They were like just like in a miserable out here you know <hes> and so the first three months were very difficult. <hes> and i kind of like putting these guides for myself like okay so once i get past three months. If i'm still feeling bad then maybe it really is postpartum depression you know and then that three months slot would come and go. Oh and i would say all right so i still feel like i'm like just you know. I can't handle this and <hes> i would say okay. What about six months. It's like i've heard of this where it's like the baby blues you know so maybe six months is like the time when i'm finally going to feel like i'm not just drowning in this depression <hes> <hes> so and then it would just it would just keep going you know eighteen months and twenty four months and i thought man this is. This is really not normal normal. I think around maybe sixteen months i <hes> i weaned my son and at that point. I thought well maybe now. I can get on medication. <hes> i tried medication and for me. It didn't work and i never really had the bravery to try another medication. I guess for me. My journey ernie has been how do i honor god and in the middle of that suffering one allow him to heal me and to like what does that look like. How can i share that with other people so there's psalm thirteen in one <hes> there's lots of people in the bible who have dealt with depression. It's not really an unchristian thing you know and that's kind of the kind of the danger is that you know satan with rhythm your ear like oh. You're you're not a christian. If you're dealing with depression or he'll say like how can you be a pastor's wife and be struggling with something. Shouldn't you have the joy of the holy spirit you know but that's not true david a man after god's god though and heart he struggled with horrible depression so i'm thirteen one how long oh lord will you forget me forever. How long will you you hide your face from me like that's depression. That's what it feels like and i know that there's lots of your listeners who have felt that way and it's just an extended extended period of of just suffering. So how can you three you. Christ rejoice in the hope of the glory of god even in your sufferings rings. What does that look like for me. That looks like just choosing like even just one day like i'm going to read my bible today. I i feel distant from god. I feel like this is impossible to even crack. Open this suck but i'm going to crack open this book today today. I'm going to then even if it's just five minutes. I'm going to spend some time in the bible because i know that god has not they ended and despite what my interior says i know all the exterior truth is true and the interior stuff that i'm dealing with the test for me to give that to god. So how do i practice that. That was my big question and <hes> the thing that ties those two together between how do i trust god. And how do i show that to. Other people is <hes>. I ten at four fifteen. It says practice these things me committed to them. So that your progress maybe evident to all so in those little millions of moments if you even choose want in those in those millions of moments a few issues one time at this trust the hope the joy if you practice it then it'll get easier to choose it twice the next day three times a day after after that so that's been my journey with finding hope in the midst of suffering of postpartum depression i'm still going but it's <hes> just every day suffering produces endurance and endurance produces character character produces hope and hope does not put you to shame not thrown five so the shame that we're feeling and it really is shame as you know you feel like like at least i did like how how do i talk to my friends about this. They know that i am struggling with this and it's kind of like that. The kind of backup like whoa yeah <laughter> like oh all right well. Have you talked with your doctor about that but <hes> you know almost like a cop out. I guess you could say in some ways <hes> but that shame that you feel that's not of god <hes> the shame that you feel that from that's from the double so i think there's a way to suffer in a glorified family and there's a way to suffer in a way that brings christ glory and i think there's a way to use this momentary affliction as it says in second corinthians second corinthians for sixteen use momentary affliction to prepare you for the attornal weight of glory beyond all comparison and that's something beautiful. Something beautiful can come postpartum depression. Really this is so so good okay. I have to back up for just the second because you said something so profound and i think i i myself dealt with the baby blues and honestly honestly i probably had full-blown postpartum depression but i was much like you just didn't want to didn't want to talk to my dog. You know like there's this shame that's attached to it right and you said something so profound because in christian circles i feel like sometimes this. There's this idea that you shouldn't be depressed. If you're a christian christian right you shouldn't <hes> kind of have these emotions and you shouldn't have this this issue if you are in christ but you talked about the people people of the bible like david was the apple of god's eye and he dealt with and who pressured if you listen to some of you know the prayers of moses and things like that ah i mean these guys had a lot of emotional turmoil going on and they were still used mightily for the kingdom and i think that that was so so profound and i think you just helped so many people by saying that because there is <unk> there's no there's no condemnation for those who are in christ and just because you're having this you're going through this period of suffering you know it's just like you said that she's from the from the devil and you can suffer in a glorifying way so so powerful powerful okay so now i have a question because there are some women who are probably listening right now who are in this season of their life where they maybe just had a baby. They're feeling this guilt feeling this shame. What are some practical tips that you would give that that woman who's listening right now. What are the baby steps that she should be taking <hes> yeah <hes>. I think maybe any number one for me was despite like you. Maybe do have a friend who is saying like oh like. I don't know how to deal with that but i think thinks that number one for me really was just to say it to say it to somebody you know say it to <hes> yesterday dr but say it to a christian friends. Say it to your mom..
Signs of postpartum depression in dads are often mistaken or missed, study shows
"Dads, can get postpartum depression, too, and the condition can go unnoticed, a study in the UK tested people on how well they recognize the signs of postpartum depression, which includes anxiety struggle to bond with their babies respondents, easily recognize the signs in women. But it was significantly less recognized in men, researchers say there should be more programs that highlight the prevalence of postpartum depression in men and treatment
How Common Is Postpartum Depression in Dads?
"Today's episode was brought to you by the new Capital One saver card with which you can earn four percent cashback on dining and entertainment. That means four percent on checking out that new restaurant everyone's talking about and four percent on watching your team win at home. You'll also earn two percent cashback at grocery stores and one percent on all other purchases. Now when you go out you cash in what's in your wallet? Welcome to brain stuff from how stuff works. Hey, brain stuff, Lauren Vogel bomb here for some time. Researchers and mental health experts have known the postpartum depression is not something solely experienced by new mothers new fathers to make spurious depression. We spoke with Brandon Eddie an assistant professor in the couple and family therapy program at the university of Nevada Las Vegas. He learned a little about postpartum, depression when his wife experienced it after the couple's first child and a studied how postpartum depression affects men to he wrote about it for a paper in the ury twenty nineteen edition of the journal of family issues. It's titled forgotten fathers postpartum depression in men. Already at ease hearing for many who applaud his efforts to force this illness more into the open Eddie said, I had a former co worker who read it and sent me a message. He said, I really appreciated your study. I could really relate with it. He said everyone asks how's your wife? How's the baby? And it ends there. I desperately want someone to ask. How are you doing? Many parents of new babies go through the baby blues mood swings anxiety. Trouble sleeping, and general sadness are all symptoms. But when those moods become more intense and last longer when overpowering fatigue sets in when a parent has problems bonding with a newborn or has that's suicide or if harming the baby those are all signs, the postpartum depression has set in postpartum depression can be especially difficult for men because of a widely held belief that it's a woman only illness much of the available information on postpartum depression is still aimed exclusively toward women. Even the National Institute for mental health defines the condition as quote a mood disorder that can affect women after childbirth yet, a twenty ten study shows that somewhere around ten percent of dads and twenty five percent in the three to six month period after birth experience postpartum depression, at ease research sites, another study that says that between twenty four and fifty percent of men whose partners have postpartum depression, also experience it, and of course as. Any serious depression? It can impact all aspects of men's lives their work, friendships and relationship with their partner and children. With the stigma that surrounds paternal postpartum, depression, the idea that it's for women only men don't get it. You didn't carry a baby for nine months? Just suck it up and be strong. Finding men willing to talk openly about their depression was not going to be easy. So any in his fellow? Researchers went to a source where anonymity rules and fathers felt free to speak their mind the internet after conducting searches for phrases like depression in new fathers, Eddie and his co authors, scoured chat, boards, blogs and other. Forums like read it to pull information from twenty-seven, new dads. Eddie said no one knows who they are. So there's not the same sense of shame. It's not like all eyeballs are upon you. So sometimes that makes it a lot easier to share their experiences. These people were in a safe place where they were able to express themselves. Eddie's research uncovered six main themes from those online comments first fathers need education, it became clear that although they may not have known what to call it. Many of the commenters were living with paternal postpartum depression. The second men experiencing because part of depression were anxious about adhering to gender expectations. One commenter said I wanted to cry and give up being a father. But I was afraid to acknowledge those thoughts and feelings and myself, it wasn't becoming of a man and father to feel those things third the fathers were repressing their feelings. For example, one said she's with the kids all day every day, and I'm home to help for six hours and can't handle it. Forth. The men felt overwhelmed. One said, I have the feeling that I'm constantly on the edge of bursting into tears fifth their own negative feelings lead to some resentment of their babies one said baby cries can unearth some darkness in me. I found. And sixth the fathers themselves felt neglected one said, I blamed both my wife and my son for my feelings of loss and insignificance. My wife seemed to consider me selfish and irresponsible. These were the common threads. And although of course, it sucks to have these feelings. They're completely valid these feelings are real recognized by scientists and caused some experts believe at least in part by chemical changes in men's bodies, postpartum, depression and women has been tied to a dip in the hormone estrogen, but women aren't alone in dealing with falling hormone levels men, experienced drop testosterone from early to late pregnancy. And that's been linked depression to. Most importantly fathers need to know that help is available a talk with the health practitioner, maybe the first step towards shaking postpartum depression. If seeing a psychologist is intimidating a family, doctor can help you reach diagnosis prescribed medications that may help and put you in touch with a mental health practitioner that you'd be comfortable with Eddie said, the sooner you get helped the better if you put this off you're going to have more distance grow between you and your partner you're going to is late yourself and you're going to put yourself in a bad situation. So seeking out help as soon as he recognized something off is really the way to go and the way to limit how much impacts you and your family. Today's episode was written by John Donovan and produced by Tyler clean, brain stuff is a production of iheartmedia. House two forks for more on this and lots of other mental health topics. Visit our home planet. How stuff works dot com. And for more podcasts from iheartradio. Visit the iheartradio app. Apple podcasts are wherever you listen to your favorite shows. 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"postpartum depression" Discussed on On Point with Tom Ashbrook | Podcasts
"But you know, we know that it has a relationship to how women are treated during their pregnancy. How imagery to during their birth? What kind of care they get during their birth experience? And how we as a society support mothers families. So we know that it we have higher rates of postpartum depression in countries with higher income inequality with higher rates of maternal and infant mortality. And countries that focused more on work than life in the work life balance. Dr Meltzer Brody, it seems like postpartum depression is is something that's only migrated into our public consciousness in the last ten fifteen years, and you talked about this sort of stigma. That's that surrounds it. I think Jennifer block is talking here about some of the other factors that are contributory. How do you see what she's saying? Well, I think that, you know, women's health has been something that's been highly neglected in this country. So Dr Yonkers and others have been studying postpartum depression for many years, and there's reports going back to antique witty. I think that if we look how women are treated in the perinatal period is going to take all of us working together to improve things for mothers. So I wholeheartedly agree that there is enormous opportunity to improve the way we. Support mothers and women in this country to start with we're the only developed country. The United States is the only developed country in the world without a universal maternity leave. And that's agreed GIS. I mean, I think we can all agree on that. And I think that all of us need to work together. I would say that as a psychiatrist I see women and Dr Yonkers and others who see women with really severe symptoms. We are seeing women for whether it's genetic loading early life trauma. You know, any number of factors that have made them vulnerable to postpartum depression. I think that it's a really exciting opportunity to talk with Jennifer and others about prevention. What can we do as a society to prevent depression in as many women as possible? I mean, I wholeheartedly believe that for women who perhaps have genetic loading or biologically loaded in the same way. You can't prevent cancer in everyone. There are environmental factors, and then there's biologic factors that. Are going to make some people at risk. But I think we all need to work together to figure out. How are we as a society going to improve health for moms, and our and families, and that this is something that really needs to have a multifaceted approach? Let me get some callers in here from Columbia, South Carolina, Sabrina is on the line. I highly welcome to the program. Hi, thank you for taking my call out when I gave birth to my second child eight years ago, I've suffered from postpartum depression. But I just didn't know that what was going on. I was extremely anxious hopeless..
"postpartum depression" Discussed on On Point with Tom Ashbrook | Podcasts
"What's your reaction to the FDA approval of this postpartum depression treatment? Well, I I'd like to. Men Dr Meltzer Brody on her comments because I guess it's an appropriate time to say that she is on point. Right. But what she has to say is is so accurate that postpartum, depression and depression in general can just be an absolutely devastating illness and all of us, welcome any possible, new quiver if you or or ERO in our quiver to combat this. I'm not so sure that we have been bereft totally of new treatments. So for example, s ketamine is an exciting new compound that was just FDA approved a couple of weeks ago or month ago, and that is another rapidly acting antidepressant, and then we have things like trans cranial magnetic stimulation, which is relatively new. However, this compound is very exciting for those of us in the field because this was tested in. Postpartum women. And typically what happens is a medication is tested for depression in general. And then it's applied to sort of sub groups such as people with post stroke, depression, or people with postpartum depression. Now, I want to underscore that as much as we welcome new treatments that people should also recognize that the current treatments which include psychotherapy as well as pills for medic pill, antidepressant pills, also work, very well. And you know, twenty years ago, I was doing research and testing standard antidepressant treatments for women who had postpartum depression, and we did see about thirty percent improvement within the first week. The time course for what we have seen historically is much longer to the magnitude of one or two weeks compared to the response. That Dr Meltzer Brody has seen in her studies. So Dr Meltzer Brody talk about that. How long does this treatment last is a real slow? Well, it is a sixty hour infusion. So that's about two and a half days and the drug has been studied out so far to thirty days. And as I mentioned of the women who responded ninety four percent, the overwhelming majority continued ever retreatment response at thirty days, but it has not been studied past that point yet. And that's going to be a really important additional course of information to get in. So who's a candidate who's a good candidate for this for this treatment, Dr milti-party? So, you know, the drug is just a few things to highlight the drug is a formula of aloe pregnenolone, which is a breakdown product of the hormone progesterone. And I think it's worth mentioning that in pregnancy. We have normally all what pregnant women have high levels of estrogen progesterone, and at the time of childbirth and all women those levels fall quickly Allah pregnant. Loan the breakdown. Product of progesterone has been known animal studies and for a long time to have a role in treating potentially depression anxiety. And that's why this new drug is specific potentially for women with postpartum, depression and has a new mechanism of action for women with severe symptoms..
FDA approves first postpartum depression drug
"There was a significant development in the medical world this week for the first time the FDA has approved a drug for postpartum, depression, the treatment is extremely expensive. And at the moment requires days of inpatient care to administer but it also works faster than traditional antidepressants. And that's just one reason many are applauding this as a significant breakthrough for the one in seven women who experienced depression during pregnancy, or after childbirth we wanted to talk about this with someone who knows firsthand what that's like. So we've called to Wong. She experienced postpartum depression after the birth of her daughter Scarlett, and she wrote a book in graphic form about her experiences. And it's pretty well. Graphic it's called dear Scarlett, it will be out later this spring and Teresa Wong is with us now from the studios of the Canadian Broadcasting Corporation in Calgary Theresa thanks so much for talking with us. Thanks for having me. Did you? Did you fear that you would be that you would experience this when you were pregnant when you wrote in the book, it's very funny about it. Like, you wrote about how well, you know, didn't really think that much about having kids you said, well, what if my kids hate me? What if I don't like them? You know, what if they grew up to be terrible. All that stuff going on in your head. But I think I I was I was anxious about having children. But you know, what I did not expect to have depression. And I don't know why maybe it's because so much of the time that you spend during your pregnancy in the doctor's office. It's it's almost all about the baby and very little about you. And so it never crossed my mind and actually until after when it actually happened when did you realize that something was really wrong? I think I knew right away. And but I- blamed it on the circumstances of my daughters birth. I had some complications around her delivery. And so I wasn't really awake or conscious after she was born for a number of hours, and I thought well, it's because of that I don't feel connected to her. I haven't really bonded to her yet. But when I got home, those feelings were still there and stay just grew day by day, and the more that I spent time with her, especially alone, the more I realized that something was really off can can you describe what it's like just going through the day when you're experiencing postpartum depression. It's a very long day. You don't have the energy to deal with anything. And so mostly I kind of laid on the floor. It's also very quiet because a lot of your feelings are numb. And and so you just kind of go through the day like a bit of a robot like the numbness is what really stands out for me in the way, you described this one of the scenes that you write about in the and there are a number of them. Like, this is that you were you're still in the hospital you were so exhausted that you had to get the lab tech to help with the baby back in the bassinet. But you've for help, and it was hours before somebody came to help you and your husband got there. You were sobbing uncontrollably and nurses. So see mama's little emotional today. It just would seem that the very people who should have known that. You really did need help in that. There was something significant going on with you didn't. And that's a little scary. I mean, did you find that like the medical personnel? Did they seem to grasp that postpartum depression is really a thing that this wasn't just baby blues? I feel like the when I finally got help the medical community was very serious about it. I think the problem was maybe the delineation between baby blues and postpartum depression, isn't all that clear because people do expect a little bit of crying and kind of just hormones wreaking havoc on your system. And so perhaps they don't take it as seriously if you bring that up early on after having a baby, and maybe we do you need to look at how to take mothers who kind of know themselves and know that there's something more serious going on. To take them more seriously. So what was your reaction when you heard that? There was this new treatment recognized. You're not a doctor you are a writer. But I just I did wonder if this news meant something to you, even though you've passed through the worst of it for you. Right. Well, I had kind of two reactions, and the I was just feeling encouraged that the medical community is seeing that postpartum depression is a big enough deal that they need to focus on treatment. But my other reaction was kind of to the cost and the time involved the cost. I read was something around thirty four thousand dollars and a sixty hour kind of IV infusion, and I just don't know very many mothers who would be able to take that kind of time at that kind of expense. We are starting to hear more about postpartum depression. I mean, a number of celebrities have come forward in recent years and described their experiences with it. I I wonder if you still feel that there's a stigma around it around postpartum depression, or do you feel like is is anything getting better? I do feel like it's getting better. I I mean, I've seen it in storylines on on television shows now and having people a Chrissy Teigen and Adele, kind of come out, and at MIT that they been struggling with their moods after having babies I feel like we're coming to a point where awareness has grown. I think it could go even further. Really, I think we're on the cusp of something. That's Theresa Wong who spoke to us from the studios of the CBC and Calgary
Local OBGYN addresses the first FDA approved postpartum drug - KBTX
"Morning news. The FDA giving the green light to the first medication to specifically target postpartum depression. So how does it work and how important is it? Dr Robin is a psychiatrist at the health one behavioral health and wellness center in Aurora and she joins us right now. Good morning doctor. Thank you for taking the time to join us. What exactly does this drug do? And why is this important step in fighting postpartum? Belt wrestling, and it's actually a novel mechanism that works on Gaba. Receptors and it's an IV infusion over sixty hours and generates results within the first day within twenty four hours and lasts up to thirty days. It's very very exciting because they don't have any SPA approved medication for postpartum, depression, the standard of feet men. Generally is our accessorized antidepressants selective. Serotonin reuptake inhibitors which on average take about four to six weeks to start working. And as we all know, the postpartum period is highly festival for number reasons. But also from a parent child attachment standpoint, those first eight weeks of really really pivotal. So to be able to treat postpartum depression. Earlier is just a paramount importance in doctor for starter is mardi mentioned, you know, from whence you speak because you had postpartum depression. How? Comedy is postpartum depression. So postpartum depression, literature show affects up to fifteen percent of the population or one in nine women that being said, I I that number is likely underestimate in doctor. I know that this new drug is exciting. But it sounds like it's very expensive as well. So I imagine for some people it's going to be cost prohibitive other. There are other options for moms that are dealing with postpartum. Absolutely. So yeah. As of right now, I think the estimated cost something of thirty four thousand dollars out of pocket. There are certainly are other options. Like, I said anti-depressants, but most importantly is reaching out to support and not feeling ashamed and not feeling left alone in the dark, and I just really want to encourage people out there that if you are suffering with postpartum, depression, it's not shameful to reach out. You can always call the crisis. One eight four four five five six two zero one two or come to Nicholson over we've got to walk in as well. But there are lots of resources out there. You don't have to suffer
FDA approves first PTSD medication
"The food and Drug administration has approved the first ever medication to treat postpartum depression. Sage wrestle is an IV drug postpartum depression affects about four hundred thousand American women a year perinatal psychiatrist Dr Christina says the new drug can work fast percent of women within sixty hours at our sixty. We're completely free of depression postpartum, depression, often ends on its own within a couple of weeks, but it can continue for months and even years. The company says it plans to begin selling the drug in late June. When he may have to ask about it and inquire how they would receive the medication Zil wrestles most common. Side effects were sleepiness dizziness and headaches. I'm Ed
"postpartum depression" Discussed on Healthy Lifestyle Show
"Hm that may son since like more of how to prevent the on sat up postpartum depression before even the baby is born then right exactly and i think that that's one of the key shifts that we're starting to understand now that for a really long time the focuses bent on postpartum depression but now where most of the evidence in his research is falling as that actually about eighty percent of whom have holes heartened warring sides had it first in pregnancy madden march number those whom they actually had some time in their lives before they got pregnant they straggled and so that's really change how we think about um emotional health across the whole craig insulin levels we'll because in in it and it's it's good very good families know this because they're made feeling they have to wait until after the babies born for this to be a legitimate or credit or concern when in fact already of markers struggle with this when they're pregnant we just it's just not a message that be you know really got now there that there is such a thing of the f prenatal mental health a challenges and that they can last into the post pardoned period and in fact some of our work is showing that it can even last until children are five years old and you want well how yeah so it's quite an extensive on health concern if it can while can start as early even before the pregnancy then rain is all about mental health altogether and then would you say just be like during pregnancy and that just kind of amplifies that with anxiety and stress.
"postpartum depression" Discussed on Healthy Lifestyle Show
"Kyw and what impact it a healthy lifestyle shot i farming day we have a very interesting topic to discuss cut his often overlook postpartum depression are expert dr dawn hazard to research on premium tom mental health for the past ten herkel says hat up systems provides support for emotional and mental how during pregnancy especially area where it is unavailable to improve training program postnatal depression selectquotecom dr don dawn said high don it is a pleasure to have you on that as a guest on a healthy lifestyle show today thanks for joining us thank you for having me it's a pleasure to be here yesterday wonderful will i am eager to learn about that debilitating effects og postpartum depression and also create more awareness not to only like new expecting moms also to families and spouses and all the france soir noon so would you be able to share a bit about your healthy lifestyle journey and how you got into your role as uh dr absolutely i i'm a nearest by background and i started working in on new need old also working rift predetermined infants in third going particularly in i knew neil intensive care unit and i remember one at the um you know things that i often thought about when i was nurse was how to honey suzanne grey turnberry penny unbeaten would be to rulli or too small and then when i had an opportunity to start some graduate studies on not really became area of focus i started to realize.
"postpartum depression" Discussed on The Psych Central Show
"Thank you we are approaching the end of the show as think so if you had one specific thing that you wanted everybody to know about postpartum depression wh what would that be oh hardman 'cause they have a few things but i'll try to fill it quickly so wine if comments as i said earlier 15 to 20 percent while experience postpartum depression or anxiety each treatable if you seek help i recommend at the first sign of a concern that you seek out that you can get better i think it's also works seating again that there's a whole range of carrying needle concerns including oecd bipolar disorder sake system p t s b so that you know being auto book out for those kind of concerns you had risk factors um are certainly fruits and nuts to note the bottom line if i had that sort of say that some at all up please please please get help there is absolutely no reason to stop her there are numerous treatments available lots of trained people unveil a ball there are warm lines online hotlines online there's always put a somewhere to go its lead health and you should that it so toast and just to reiterate seeking held for postpartum depression doesn't make you abed parented and in fact it sounds like it makes you agree parrot because you're seeking hope for your issues so that you can be the best parent that you could be accurately it putting your office oxygen mapped on that that you can take care of yourself and you can take care of your baby and your family.
"postpartum depression" Discussed on The Psych Central Show
"Explain to me how that work was an adoptive couple what in the constant well it's so that the sender done we don't have necessarily the same potential hormonal links but an adoptive family who perhaps was leading with tremendous anticipation enterpreneurs child into their home all of a sudden area down in literally like they're not connecting with the baby they worry about attachment anybody y'all they no longer want the baby stand kind of sleep disturbance their thing by eight lose concerned basically the same kind of picture it what really is different and perhaps some of the things that triggered ed because we don't have the warm on all changes occurring you mentioned during zaidi there which of course is where their poll was out stuff sounds like what is the link between postpartum depression and seperation anxiety from an infant his basically all one in the same meaning if mom or dad is worried about separating from it from eighty or if the baby a feeling that rationing aid i wasn't thinking about the baby in this case but for example i i have a friend who has a no no two year old daughter and when she has to go to work she is just completely stressed the whole time so what become challenging the kind of english at the kanter warm air new karen or a parent of a young child kind of inviting in worry at and critique la for mon as a lot of common struggle between the push paul of work and home and then when that proper though brand of a more clinical anxiety or depression and i would say that with people who are experiencing but part of the of of pardoning videy sometimes you will see that they had not will not separate from there eighty sometime you'll after it quite the opposite that they don't really feel like a one attacked with their navy in a kind of either to you could try to go both.
"postpartum depression" Discussed on The Psych Central Show
"All right so what's that let's say you're person who naturally has depression to start with how do you how would you distinguish whether that's postpartum depression showing its head or or just your standard uh i guess run of the mill depression that is an excellent question and one that come combat a lot and so other than the obvious in that it have to occur kind of with in the realm of pregnancy or in the poet pardom period i would say it's like developing depression when you have a million other rather than challenges around joe so perhaps you're sleeping very poorly um because you're either pregnant uncomfortable or because you have a new baby your whole identity has just shifted as you'd become apparent maybe you are someone that used to work and now your home so there's all these different kind of additional stressor that sort of fraying what happens that fed the symptoms are treaty similar ju depression that would occur in a non postpartum period so in that way you look that stadium uh and certainly people who are predisposed to depression either they've had it before or they have a family number who has had it are at a much higher risk for developing postpartum depression or any of the other charing it'll mood and anxiety disorders could in fact there are several of them that can develop during pregnancy or in the postpartum period i've never had pushed programmed approach and has never been pregnant her had a baby were her any children but i know the depression can make you feel and think things that are untrue and i can imagine that let's say that you're a woman who just had her first child and you have depression how does this.
"postpartum depression" Discussed on The Psych Central Show
"Welcome to the site central show why each episode presents an indepth look at issues from the field of psychology and mental health with host gay powered and co host vincent m wales welcome to this week's episode of a sykes central show we had a great topic and guest this week emma basch is here to explain to well frankly to childless males all about postpartum depression she has a very very lofty task in front of her emma are up for it i am up for it thank you for having me all right so to get started it what is postpartum depression literally explain it to to us okay so hood pardoned a crash and generally referred to depression that had kurds either during pregnancy or in the i'm fat after having a baby eight they generally referred to because the dfm uh that referred to it as it crying in the first four weeks postpartum but those of us who work in the field can tell you that put pardom depression can develop after a woman had a baby sometime in that first year after baby a wiring and postpartum depression is very common when you see common how calm and his it so put darning depression is actually the most common complication of child birth um about fifteen percent of people welldeveloped poet pardom depression either shortly before having a baby during pregnancy or after their baby is born so it's very very common there's more common than i expected it to be scrapped.