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Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network
"polly emery" Discussed on Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network
"Legalization of marijuana small potato. I get what you're saying. The point is a lot of these politicians. He was the only guy willing to do it. now since. then there's now nine cosponsors that have by his courage been willing to like sign onto this but it takes that one guy who's willing to go and you know put their political career if you will on the line and put something like this forward so the reason why the biz long answer to your question. captain is this is politics. it's slow it's frustrating. It's awful and basically all these people have the courage to do as politicians is sort of nibble around the edges. At prohibition we never hear anybody say all right. Let's just end this thing. This whole prohibition thing is insane they must listen to freetalklive because we say that. Do listen some of them are supporters of this show. So there's probably someone in seattle who is A big mucketty muck who absolutely will not budge on Artificial chemicals being used for any legitimate medical may not be. They happened to make you feel good. That there may not be a a movement on that. I mean it may. So there's a group called decriminalize nature that is behind a lot of this stuff and we just found out i just found out about them within the last month or so as i like it. Yeah bonnie brought them up and you know we're not interview we're not right. Well we're not interviewing them. But i would guess that if we had one of their their people on they would say look. We agree prohibition should end. But we've got to convince politicians and so we formed a group decriminalize nature. This is kind of the next step away from the reform of marijuana. Laws people right. So they started with cannabis. They're moving to the next thing. All right well okay this plant. How about these plants over here. We do all plants now. So that's kind of like the next step. And i agree with you guys. We need to just end the entire thing. Unfortunately we have found the politician who's willing to take that task. There's more coming up here in a moment. Six zero three two eight three sixty one sixty. It's free talk live. This message is for you if you are a poly-amorous person or you're an open relationship and you are struggling with jealousy loneliness and communication problems. Hello my name. Is jeremy west. And i am a polymer coach with degrees in psychology and communications and five years of experience with polly emery and for a limited time. I'm teaching a free online class. Just for poly-amorous people or people in open relationships where you will discover a new simpler and unique way to uncover the secret. The experienced polly people know about jealousy that you must know to stop feeling lonely when your partner is out with another partner and use the four key elements that will change the way you communicate forever. No more crying yourself to sleep when you're alone for night a weekend or longer and wondering if it's better to go back to a monogamous relationship sound good well then go to jeremy rests dot net slash free class and register for my class now again. That's jeremy west dot net slash free class jeremy west dot.
Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network
"polly emery" Discussed on Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network
"Who's who in well the people who don't report so there's gonna there's the cops who they're good obedient surfs and they're doing what they're told. They're getting the vaccination. They've reported that new jobs. That's crazy it's always going to happen. What's wait what's gonna happen. They're gonna they're just going to let all these cops fired. Well they're not going to be quote fired. There'll be placed in a non disciplinary. No pay status. They're going to be told. Hey you aren't being told you can't come to work. We're just not going to pay you if you show see basically so they're not gonna show up throwing a fusion center. Just still spy on your neighbors or something whatever happens. Because of that manpower issue that falls at the mayor's doorstep said the said the police department or their their union spokesman lightfoot. That's the mayor said at a news conference wednesday that the city was quote prepared. Adding that catanzaro was doing a patent disservice to as members every single day by encouraging resistance against the vaccines she said quote if you're not vaccinated you're playing with your life the life of your family the life of your colleagues and members of the public. She said according to the story here chicago like many other. Large cities is required that city employees get vaccinated against corona virus emphasizing that for public facing employees in particular like police officers and firefighters. Vaccinations protect not only the employees. But people from the community law enforcement officers across the country from san francisco to l. a. to denver have resisted vaccine mandates. And even here in keene at a mandate here in keene. But i had a keen police officer stop a few weeks ago. Bonnie and i were having dinner out on. We're outside because it was a nice day out actually was really nice today too but we were just sitting outside having dinner. At one of the tables on The yasuo jamaican place downtown. Keene comes Jason short the very same officer who was mindless automaton drone threatening people outside of our house wearing a trenchcoat during the raid. That happened here with the fbi salts on people. Yeah yeah very same guy. He was playing mister. Nice guy coming up talking about how much he agrees with us. And how. He's a scumbag. Tell him to shut up walkaway. no i played. I played along. Listen to what he had to say he was acting like. He's all into you. Know he likes to libertarians piece of garbage and he agreed you know he was. He was saying that when he was the police prosecutor he used to actually reduce all the marijuana arrest to a violation. Come just to get them out or compassionate tyrant yeah and but he. He did admit that he would do whatever it is that he was told to do. So he is just a completely agrees with you complete complete tyrant but although the same time agreeing he says he he agrees with us on the vaccination thing and you know blah blah blah so. There's a lot of cops that are against being forced to put something into their veins however they don't have any problem putting you in jail cell. If you decide that you wanna put something in your body that is against some list of things. Some bureaucrats wrote down on a piece of paper somewhere. They are idiots any or they're a danger to society. When i brought this point up to jason he He said oh well. Let's not compare apples and oranges. I can't hear the story anymore. I can't. I can't even thinking about these things believable anymore. I mean the hypocrisy of these people. It's like you said earlier. You know you. You don't know how to feel about this right like i don't know how to feel about it. I wanna say that. I don't think they should be forced to do this. But i wish they would wake the fuck and absent. Damn consistency is not their gain. No one's forced to do any live. Everyone makes her own choices. If you wanna get paid yet go ahead do that horrible thing but you know what's on your conscious now the said if they have more coming up here in moments our threes on the way. This is free talk live. This message is for you if you are a poly-amorous person or you're an opening relationship and you are struggling with jealousy loneliness and communication problems. Hello my name. Is jeremy west. And i am a polly emery coach with degrees in psychology and communications and five years of experience with polly emery and for a limited time teaching a free online class just for poly-amorous people or people in open relationships where you will discover a new simpler and unique way to uncover the secret that experienced polly people know about jealousy that you must know to stop feeling lonely when your partner is out with another partner and use the four key elements that will change the way you communicate forever. No more crying yourself to sleep when you're alone for a night a weekend or longer and wondering if it's better to go back to a monogamous relationship sound good. Well then go to jeremy west dot net slash free class and register for my class now again. That's jeremy west dot net slash free class. Jeremy dot net slash freak class a free talk law freetalklive kicking off our program. Always invite you to bring up. You want here. The number is six zero three two eight three sixty one sixty six three two eight three six one. Six zero as major cities like chicago and seattle discovered. Maybe losing forty fifty percents of their police forces over these vaccination mandates. That's those are scheduled to shake out within the next few days if not couple weeks. Apparently chicago's deadline is tomorrow. And so this weekend there may be upwards of half of the chicago cops who aren't going to report for duty because they are going to be a no pay Sort of probationary status. You wanna comment on that. You're welcome to with you tonight. It's ian matt in joe plus joe. You found a story about the marijuana. They call it here. Marijuana opportunity reinvestment and expunged act of twenty twenty one getting passed by a house committee in washington dc. Now there's not a lot that you know is very exciting coming out of dc but this might actually be worth talking about. So we'll get into that up here in a bit but going to your phone calls and thoughts. Plus hillary clinton getting heckled out in europe. Apparently we'll talk about that but Epicurious is on the line to start things out here. This hour calling us from manchester new hampshire. Go ahead epicurious. Yeah thanks for taking my call. is one of my go book. Just want to make a book recommendation for folks as a science fiction book. I read here a few years back. And it's got a very interesting theory We're connection between viruses. And he'd been evolution or evolution in general so in our covert the world. We're in now one thing about germs. I thought this would Kinda put people out of their comfort zones little bit and just give another perspective on viruses. it's a book called darwin's radio by Greg bear And i'm not sure. How much is based on fact. But it's pretty interesting. Theory of and in which the ideas that viruses the purpose of viruses in nature are. They're not. They're not bad or evil or even inherently destructive to any species but his theory is that Viruses are communication tool They're they're the purposes to communicate information between different species and also like from one generation of a species to another generation And the idea in the book a couple of characters and the scientists discover an interesting connection between A modern day flu like virus and a virus that they collected samples of from a A homo erectus by there was found by some archaeologists and they basically find out.
Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network
"polly emery" Discussed on Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network
"At austrailia look at new zealand. They don't want to get it under control. They can't they don't want to get it under the gas leading to us. Though it's like you don't do it. We're not going to have control. Nobody no amount of control has worked. Maybe we shouldn't give them control anymore. So don't get the vaccine. Let them go out of control and that way they don't have control which is problem solved really the best. That's the only solution. Joe is for people to simply refuse to obey but because they have so much or at least it appears as though they have so much to hold over their heads people will crumble and they will do what they're told. What if it sterilized you and you wanted to have baby someday Would you still be so cowing and cowardly and dan willing to take this shot. Then even if it was going to screw with your reproductive abilities they put so many people in this country in a position of having a live paycheck to paycheck. And it's just been kind of the american way of. Oh well you get race. Great now you can spend more. Americans are also on average kind of responsible personally responsible for themselves putting themselves themselves in this. There's a lot of child. Childlike people out there. Who don't know how to do anything other than patriot. They gobble up every dime they make you and then if you're if you're living paycheck to paycheck and you've had kids on top of that and you've got you. I understand why you would feel locked right where you are to feel as though you can't say no you can't stand up and can't find more work somewhere else because look let me tell you if you want to find work somewhere else just go downtown. Knock on the door because every single business in downtown every single business is everywhere in this area is hiring. The hampshire has the lowest unemployment rate of all states all the time anyway and now or allows them or one of them and now all states are suffering from not having enough employees to go around keen hampshire. What's amazing though about new hampshire businesses are still building new businesses. Coming in building buildings. How can afford it. I mean how can what talking to the future and that does no restrictions were free by inspired by the freedom freer. We're not. I wouldn't say we're free. We're getting now. Things are getting away worse for some of these people. I mean you think getting taxed by two hundred dollars or every Every month is bad. How about just being denied a kidney transplant. Because that's the next story that's coming up. It's free talk. Live our threes on the way. This message is for you if you are a poly-amorous person or you're an open relationship and you are struggling with jealousy loneliness and communication problems. Hello my name. Is jeremy west. And i am a polly emery coach with degrees in psychology and communications and five years of experience with polly emery and for a limited time. I'm teaching a free online class. Just for poly-amorous people or people in open relationships where you will discover a new simpler and unique way to uncover the secret that experience polly people know about jealousy. The you must know to stop feeling lonely when your partner is out with another partner and use the four key elements that will change the way you communicate forever. No more crying yourself to sleep when you're alone for a night a weekend or longer and wondering if it's better to go back to a monogamous relationship sound good. Well then go to jeremy. Wests dot net slash free class and register for my class now again. That's jeremy west dot net slash free class. Jeremy west dot net slash freak class.
Let's Talk About It with Taylor Nolan
"polly emery" Discussed on Let's Talk About It with Taylor Nolan
"Cat trying to escape I heard a little meow. But i didn't know for surf. It was meow or not. But i love it. I let her out or let her out. You can burn five. Probably yelling until she knows what she wants and she's not afraid to ask for it. So i like that is let me break the door. Say i'm so sorry you're good. You're good okay. So she's all out. Oh no she's in. We got her in. I hear require a second. We we are not against the cat. Meows on this podcast. Yeah i just didn't want her to continue to rip the door off. I'm sorry okay. So i'll start with the fish about the spectrum so it's nominee alchemy. I can look at it like a spectrum for a lot of people because that's easiest way for people to process fat so you start with a very strict monogamous relationship And then still a gray area there but then a lot of people start with sex Swinging which is kind of when couples go to parties or they need other couples in swab their partners. And that's kinda just something they do together. Then you can kind of go to an open relationship Where people have sex outside the relationship but maybe they don't have a romantic relationship with the people they usually have like a lot of rules Somewhere in between that swinging and an open relationship is monogamous which is like a gray arrangement where people allow partners to have sex with other people in certain situations like on vacation or if they're living in different cities Very specific arrangements. Then we usually get to pommery at that point Which is having multiple relationships that are romantic and sexual or of whatever. Nature is a bit more freedom there. Sometimes we have police fidelity which is your triads or your quads. Where three or four people are in a relationship with each other or in some sort of like the situation and that's in a closed circuit. So they have this relationship in a closed circuit then you get to nominate Then you get to polly emery different forms of volume ray hierarchical or you have a primary partner of secondary partner and whatnot Where you're from your partner is your main concern. Then you get people like me. Who identified solo poly-amorous where i am own primary partner and then baugh far on the spectrum is relationship anarchy where that boundary between. This is a really really like Basic definition but it's been that boundary between friendship and Relationships for mantech relationship sexual relationships is broken down in. There are no expectations kind of like every relationship. In a person's life comes as it goes so that is the main ones and there are a little different types of relationships structures. But honestly i do train suggests people don't really focus on those definitions staff because really it's about creating the relationship structure that works for you and some poly-amorous relationships will a completely different than others. People have their rules their boundaries. They're little negotiations and like that really Makes things very different. I've my partner is married. And i'm friends with his wife but we don't have sex in romantic relationships so we do what is called kitchen table polly emery which is a foreign. Poli where you know. The idea is like you can sit around the kitchen table so we hang out. We go on trips together. We do all that stuff And the same thing with My memoir and marsha printers partner more sports boyfriend like the four of us. Hang on a lot botanically Whereas other people do what's called parallel polly emery which is where the relationships exist separately from each other pretty much for the duration of the relationship. Yeah yeah there's so many different kinds different ways to do it. And ultimately at least what i find when i work with people and amount of personal life of just your monogamy or non monogamy is up to you and your partner to negotiate and partners to negotiate so really anything that y'all are comfortable with and not you agree to and that brings you pleasure and that you like is is how it can look and that doesn't have to any kind of specific way. Yeah i i do. Peer support sessions because they do kind of coaching phenomenon alchemy. Alive of people are like i feel. I can do wrong and high. Oh is trying to tell them. You're not doing wrong. So long as you're communicating your needs and really makes me sadly is that i feel like a lot of people feel like they should be on a certain timeline or they should be doing it a certain way and i am trying to break down that barrier with a lot of people to show that like. This isn't realistic. It's not a realistic expectation. Especially in a pandemic. I so many of us are completely different. People than we were manure though two years ago So something. I'm really trying to wrestle with for. Let's i kind of do these affirmations lately. here okay. Like it's fine. Everybody's always like. I really needed this. Yeah yeah well it. I mean it's interesting to hear that too. Because i think like even with monogamy. There's so much pressure in some ways. I don't think anybody asking my doing it right but then at the same time i think almost everybody feels like they're doing it wrong and our feelings so pressured that it has to look a certain way and you really just have to break down what those expectations and stereotypes are of what a relationship quote unquote should look like unpack it. Say fuck it. Feel centered feel grounded. Be affirmed and what it is you want and what brings you pleasure and negotiate that with your partner. Because in actuality a lot of people. I think quote do monogamy wrong because nobody actually negotiating there. Monogamy there's so many assumptions and then you get into all kinds of tricky shit because oh well you like that girls photo. And i didn't like that. And that's like a form of cheating on me while i didn't think that that was cheating while we never discussed these things we never discuss. What are exclusivity actually. Looks like so. Many people have a completely definition different definition of cheating the point. Where like it's cheating. If you watch porn or it's cheating if you watch amateur porn like I've always tried to tell people like negotiate the relationship because even when i was in log with relationships i was always able to do things they know..
Multiamory
"polly emery" Discussed on Multiamory
"Do you think thought along with the strength. That you've seen poly-amorous anonymous clients bring to the therapy room. Do you see that same tendency towards maybe some very strong individuation as well or is your perception of it different. Well i perceive that individuation stance as being a developmental stage of relationship. And so i think we all go through that kind of stage relation. Lii is certainly went. Through when i was eighteen. We all we all right and if that completed well then we may be able to move out of that to something else. And i didn't complete well may not be ready to move on to it and i don't wanna college. Is that decision. And i think we can all be different. But what i'm trying to help. People achieve is a relational way of being and my way or the highway is not a relational way of being it's Individual way of being. And that's okay if that's what somebody wants for themselves but if they come to me and say what i want is for this relationship to work will certainly be talking about the difference between individuation differentiation. There so i wanna kind of pivot to a different topic. I think in in a lot of the standard polly emery discourse. There's this big emphasis on expressing needs and telling other people what your needs are and figuring out what they are and stuff like that and then also having different partners who are fulfilling different needs. Because one person can't do all that essential a so but in your book you actually discourage people from framing something as quote like a need to their partner. Can you talk a little bit about that in. Why that is yeah. I think that it is not your best strategy for helping her partner. Barely hear what it is. That's important to you so instead you can talk about a desire of friends of what's important why it's important how that came to be and you to be an important thing. Feels much less like an ultimatum..
Multiamory
"polly emery" Discussed on Multiamory
"They may very well be bringing out forward into their belief system. Now and. I think that it's just it's important to have a conversation with owed future therapists of yours. What's your experience with us. What are your thoughts about it. These are the challenges. That i'm facing and then i'm coming to therapy for does feel like it's within your capacity. What are your initial thoughts about how it might look at it and hopefully even fifteen minutes on call. You should have a sense. Like oh yeah they get me And if you don't have a sounds like oh yeah they get me. I don't see why you have a first session. And then i would also assume that you might switch after two or three sessions if it still if it's you know turns out to being a super sloan starter or you get into the intensity of it and you end up feeling like oh yeah they don't get me you need somebody gets you or it's going to be impossible to grow as a very vulnerable process. Let go of narratives umbilicial sums and move towards what you want. And how can you move towards something that you long for on that you want when you have the sense that your therapist doesn't believe it's possible that's not gonna work on the other end. You might be able to find a therapist polly emery before. Who's just freaking brilliant with the change process. And which case you don't i mean all you need is a therapist who can sort themselves. You don't need an expert in poly-amorous so i think it can kind of go either way. So yeah that's that's really wonderful advice. We're gonna take a quick break to talk about some ads. Some sponsors for the show some ways that our listeners can support this show but when we come back we're going to be talking about things more on the client side stick around so there are a lot of barriers to entry. If you are a person in the world who dates now..
Couples Therapy
"polly emery" Discussed on Couples Therapy
"You know somebody like. Let's open up the relationship and be honest with each other and then that's not necessarily enough information. You know what i mean so this is like i'm very happy for this person. And you know blue if you want to be connected shoot an email to couples therapy gmail.com and then we can connect you with this anonymous person because we need each other. We need a community of the. Qc is all about and we'll have some more comments next week to before we get into the episode. Naomi i just celebrated the five hundred episode of my podcast beginnings. And i just want to feel pretty proud of of that accomplish very proud of you. I mean five hundred episodes honey. You were doing podcasts. Before they were hot okay. You were doing them before. Conan o'brien allegedly created them. Yeah it was. Knee scott aquaman and marc maron. That you've got the founding fathers and so two honestly it's longest relationship you've been in right. 'cause you're the guy before me so it goes like podcasts. And then maybe my god that's a very long. I mean i'm very rather well a little bit before me a couple of months. Yep i think maybe the first episode. I started recording january twenty ten. I think maybe the first episode debuted around the time we start dating well. Then it's an anniversary time so if you guys get listen that's a really fun with arthur mathews who's the creator of a show. We love toast of london. Yep and also a bunch of other great british shows. Yeah british comedies. And he has very fun and open so that a listen. Five hundred etfs. Why you're listening to podcasts. You know andy. Nye speaking polly emery. We're polly when it comes to podcasting. As you know i also hoti emory q. Maybe i co host the podcast. I love a lifetime. Movie with the hilarious megan. Gaily we watch different lifetime movie. Every week we recap it. We play clips. We interview actress writers. Sometimes we have fun. Comedian friends on recently. We had yama nica who you've heard on here and so give that a listen and also you know we the on podcasts. We also guest on podcast. I also i recently did the very fun. do you need a ride. Podcast by karen. Kill gareth and chris fairbanks and that was a good old. Times are check that out. If i was just the zeitgeist come on now. Real fun time. Now is a real fun time. We're out here having fun. We're doing outside podcasts. Coming together for our own. We are reading opening up. I'm being very. I've been up your ears. Well we're opening up our hearts and we're loosening up. Which is what it's all about okay. I'm gonna quit being a goof. Andy say well. We need to say baby rollet well. Finally we meet indian bridge finally meet. Oh it's been too long. I've heard story tales of your exploits and yet never it never in the flesh. We met never will we never and we thank you for saying thank you for saying and we never will. That's is when you take the pressure off never will. That's real relaxing but digitally here. We are indiana after jump right and i have so many questions bridge. Okay sure sure about you. That's that's your mystery. Can i say that as a as a little foundation as a little as putting a seed into a bit of potted soil as a deeply on mysterious person. I appreciate that someone thinks. I'm a mystery bridgier. Now i think of you say you're not a mystery but i do think you're a cool customer. You seem like someone who you know what i mean like you kinda not walls up in a mean way but like you gotta like. We're not going to be close. But i approve of u perjure. We immediately start saying no i. I actually naomi's saying. I can kind of see what you're talking about and i know that i want to be putting off and i think that maybe that's just the way i'm built and i have to. I have to deal with it. I mean i'm not a good roommate. Like i've had roommates in the past week but like i don't think would like me and like no. It has nothing to do with me not liking. I don't like talking absolutely yes especially to people who i'm not really friends with. I mean the the last roommate situation was twenty ten and it was. I mean it was just out of control in every way. I was glad that they thought i didn't like them. Because i didn't actually gonna be my next question. Which ones did you not like. Wait why didn't you like this person. This couple was a man how woman and their baby story. It was when i first moved to l. a. So it was like. I didn't know anyone here. I found it looked like a little place on craigslist. It was like a third street and orlando. The building now been demolished. So you know nobody can go visit. And there's an aggravating picture-taking but they were just my landing place then. Suddenly i was like the woman's ride to the airport. So she could go to the tattoo convention and weird stuff like that and then they were very mad when i moved out three months later. I'm sorry this person's mary. Why were you the rides airport. Why was i also the person they were counting on financially jaw the whole thing. I think the first in the first couple of nights i was there they were like well. We'll split groceries and it'll be for you. It'll be one hundred fifty a week. And i what what are we talking about. I can eat cereal for three meals a day. Wow okay so yeah you were definitely like they were financially out adrift on a nice flow and were the helicopter coming to save yard. Desiccated polar bear. Wow that's a good would be really took that metaphor desiccated polar bear. Which was their child. Sports i i actually. I had just met there. Existed decided to make it the baby. Go back hold on. Oh they're still meat on the bone. Naomi did this woman come back with any tattoos from the convention. I believe this thing's morph over time and things got cloudy but there was a tinkerbell tattoo that was either before the tattoo convention or after and this one was on her ribcage so this yeah yeah so not so she got like a sleeve and it was like the iron maiden though it was like tasr okay now. Can i switch. Because this is what i wanted to add. Hey hey we're now we're we're shopping on bone maybe swit- yeah we got hero pivot baby two thousand ten. My i thought you were someone who was quote unquote discovered from like twitter or the internet. Is that any. I mean that is all i know. This is because. I help..
Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network
"polly emery" Discussed on Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network
"Union and a microcosm own the department. I mean i've been saying for a long time to the f. o. p. all these Fraternal police these little clicky Clubs they have those are essentially gangs like. They've become way more friends. And everything like that and Supposedly these places are public that they allow the public that go in. It'd be places f. o. P. clubs are meetings Not the meetings per se but like the establishments really you should be able to go in there in order drink. I'd be shocked if that were the case. Well i've i've actually been in a couple really yeah for parties and because you could rent the halls and Renting but i mean you should be able to just go in just like the elks club. Yeah but the won't serve. Non-members was paid a lot more. Yeah you can at the elks club. Elks clubs really. You don't have to be with a member you can just walk into an elks club. And they'll surge. They don't deny you like they wouldn't they. Could i guess. I mean okay. I didn't know that was how it worked. I thought you had to be a member to get. Because like they let their bars stay open late because its members have gone without the membership off. Maybe they just think you're with somebody. Yeah because isn't that like one of the things with the elks clubs like they can run their bar at different times normally legal because it's a private cloud issues walking with some confidence it helps. Oh that's right. Which dave you guys know me. Toady what i've done guys gone. Just you know. I'll take totally overcharged wins. Set a American legion. Like i walked into one. And they're like ten bucks that budweiser it was like. Oh okay wow and then like the guy that's like a dollar putting on okay dave. We actually did. An event called hallo keen at the elks club here in town and it was great. They were good good to us. Affordable rates to to rent the place they were decent. No no real crazy rules or anything like okay So again what do you do about this. Well the best thing you can do. I think it's moved to new hampshire at the hell out of los angeles. I mean again. We still have gangs. There called the police but Are cop departments. Here aren't big enough. There's ten thousand people in the los angeles sheriff's department saying you know here in new hampshire. Keene new hampshire where we live. There's like forty plus uniformed officers and then you know some number of dozen on uniform office. I saw three new hampshire state trooper vehicles today within thirty seconds that i think it's just something was going on their meeting but you'd never see that there's just a little bit more accountability here. We're coming up. This message is for you if you are a poly-amorous person or you're an open relationship and you are struggling with jealousy loneliness and communication problems. Hello my name. Is jeremy west. And i am a polly emery coach with degrees in psychology and communications and five years of experience with polly emery and for a limited time. I'm teaching a free online class. Just for poly-amorous people or people in open relationships where you will discover a new simpler and unique way to uncover the secret that experience polly people know about jealousy. The you must know to stop feeling lonely when your partner is out with another partner and use the four key elements that will change the way you communicate forever. No more crying yourself to sleep when you're alone for a night a weekend or longer and wondering if it's better to go back to a monogamous relationship sound good. Well then go to jeremy. Wests dot net slash free class and register for my class now again. That's jeremy dot net slash free class. Jeremy west dot net slash freak class..
Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network
"polly emery" Discussed on Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network
"Yourself. yeah that's exactly. Why no cooking in the kettle. No putting food waste into the hand basin. Who does that anyway. She says no electrical appliances no stepping off your balcony except for garbage disposal and three allotted weekly laundry spots. No that's just like jail. This is this. is all jail jail. No skateboards or inline skates no swimming or playing in the drains when it rains no noise after nine thirty. Pm bags are searched and people can be fine if they don't wear masks outside supermarket orders however she got your veg- you gotta. Vegemite are allowed. That's one difference. You can order from local supermarket team. Don't they have a commissary thing that's true they have. Everything's like five six times. What you actually. It's it's some cases not bad at all Some key. I'd like i was surprised. I figured they would try to rake you over the coals on the they do that with a telephone calls just a phone calls. That's where it gets you to be fair. There have been some lapses. She says including incident in october local media called a rave. When a couple doesn't people turn up the music and danced and partied mostly without masks or social distancing. Oh i wonder how long they were Had their stays extended for that. There was a thirty three year. Old woman who packed her bags walked to the fence through her luggage over the barrier and walked away as stunned people filmed her on their cellphones. She was caught fifteen minutes later by police and find nearly four thousand dollars. What happens if you don't pay the fines. Good good question more more jail. Actually they take you from the coroner center to the actual jail which is probably just around the corner. What happens if you can't afford the quarantine. do then. just go straight to jail. Is i like what happens if you come to australia. And you're like oh whoops. I didn't think i'd need another two thousand dollars just to come home to my family. I'm assuming i'm assuming these travelers know what's coming and so they headed to to be to be prepared to do this I'm assuming they know. And they're and they're not fighting there. Well at two thousand five hundred dollars. It's part of me having to travel for business or see my dying mom on the other side of the globe. She talks a little bit more about getting her ticket from the airline and flying in. She says they landed at a military airbase. We're just a few passengers. At a time. were allowed to disembark. It was two hours before. I entered the small airport building with its batteries of hand. Sanitizer and staff in protective gear. We had our temperatures taken at waited an hour in a bus for a horse. Staff member explained the rules. We're coming up here in moments. You can share your thoughts on quarantine. Can't this becoming to a city or town near you. it's free talk live. This message is for you if you are a poly-amorous person or you're an open relationship and you are struggling with jealousy loneliness and communication problems. Hello my name. Is jeremy west. And i am a polly emery coach with degrees in psychology and communications and five years of experience with polly emery and for a limited time. I'm teaching a free online class. Just for poly-amorous people or people in open relationships where you will discover a new simpler and unique way to uncover the secret that experienced polly people know about jealousy that you must know to stop feeling lonely when your partner is out with another partner and use the four key elements that will change the way you communicate forever now more crying yourself to sleep when you're alone for a night a weekend or longer and wondering if it's better to go back to a monogamous relationship sound good. Well then go to jeremy. Wests dot net slash free class and register for my class now again. That's jeremy west dot net slash free class jeremy west.
Multiamory
"polly emery" Discussed on Multiamory
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Special offer of ten percent off and free shipping when you use our code multi at uber lube dot com. That's ten percent off and free shipping. Just use code multi at ub e. r. l. u. b. e. dot com and. We're back so. I posted a few weeks ago about asking our patrons for what sorts of questions that they have for this episode and so many people were like. Oh my gosh. I'm glad you're you're doing this. Here's a million questions and something that really struck me about it. Is that specifically. When it comes to the question of talking to kids like kids and poly-amorous or non monogamy a sentiment. That i got quite a lot. Was that the focus of a lot of what's out there is about. How do you tell kids that. You're poly-amorous what's age appropriate for them and that a lot of people are like. Yeah but that's the easy part suggest. Resources are important. And that's good to know that that's the easy part. The hard part is everything else is like managing doing polly emery while you have. Kids is wrestling with how the kids interact with the rest of the world whether that's your other relatives or it's their teachers or feedback that they would get from their peers or things like that. That that's kinda more where the majority of people's time comes in terms of they how they handle that with their children so i guess we just wanted to get into that a little bit as well as get into some more specific questions that that people have brought up. I do over you feel overwhelmed by this. Feel like there are no right answers. It's so dependent upon each family's risk profile. And i am very privilege to be able to be entirely out within my community and be self employed so that there's no risk of termination due to my relationship status and so it's hard for me to answer this kind of question without acknowledging my privilege because there are so many people that do not live in reality. So i'm going to start off by saying that. I think one of the most important things as a parent is to always address feelings. I as opposed to content. I so so and so finds out about your parents and says something to you at school and then you feel really bad about it and then you come home and tell mom lake. Did you know that so. And so saw you on a date blah blah blah blah blah and. Now they're talking about you and about me in about our family like all of the details of what happened. Do not matter in that moment. The first thing you have to deal with his feelings their emotions the first thing you have to deal with is your own feelings and emotions so if you feel elevated and if you feel a distraught and if you feel freaked out that has to be addressed it has to be named has to come into the space and have space held for it before you can address any of the content because the reality of all of this is how your kid feels about their family and their families values and who their family is and how it represents them. That's more important than whatever anyone said out on the streets so making sure your kid feels safe and secure and a place to speak freely. Is your primary responsibility. Your your primary interest and then after that is when you decide as a family how to manage the content of whatever happened. That would be my blanket. Answer would say yeah. I think that's a that's a very good and very clarifying piece of advice to really highlight like what's actually important in those situations. And i mean that does lead to a question people were asking about. How do we teach our kids how to talk to people outside of our family whether that strangers or relatives and i imagine this can be not just about nami but also about sex are about consent. So i'm wondering you know in your sex education like do we ever get into talking about this. These are the ways that you do not talk about sex to other people. So there's this idea of a trusted circle of friends. And that idea of a trusted circle comes up in many different curriculums and many different resources for sex ed and also for kids and youth who have disabilities so this idea especially for kids with autism where they might not necessarily have a great grasp on social situations. They need to be told. This is a trusted person in our circle verses. That's not that's not a person in our circle and then they learn different behavior based on if that person is trusted or if that person is in their circle or not so for example. A kid with down's syndrome is taught the people in their circle and taught they can hug and kiss people in their circle. Everyone else needs a wave or high five. And for that example you're teaching a set of social socially social expectations. That go with the developmental. Needs of your kit. So this can be applied to non monogamy as.
Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network
"polly emery" Discussed on Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network
"Making a living off of poor in-cell dudes who known in sells hate only fans really. It makes them furious because because they're broke because of a jealous. Yes that's exactly. They're like i wish i could just sell my body and make thousands of dollars a month or whatever now. This is by the way this is just like scratch off tickets alcoholics. It's just like any other kind of addiction. And that's how that's how that's what this category that put these dudes and who were just basically emptying their bank accounts to these girls. Girls doing jumping jacks. What the hell is that all about. So i guess i'm just really from what i understand that on this site to You know. I've not personally subscribed to that stuff. But i from what i understand. There's quite a bit of hardcore pornography on this particular site and but then again why why would you. Why would you ever pay money for this stuff because this isn't a pornography i think because you have a connection of this person is not even that it's that this is an average ordinary person not a not a porn actress. This is an average ordinary person that you find attractive in that you personally would could have a realistic shot of actually meeting and having sex. That's probably not the case of amateurs but in the mind of the user. They believe that to be. That's where i was going with that. They have a special connection with his girl that only looks at them and talks to them. And then does jumping jacks forum. Yeah so is the term. Simp- is that the term that. I've i've heard the white knight and the set. Yes simp- is somebody who like you know fawns over an individual online day. Contribute to them on a regular basis In the hopes that the person will identify them in the hopes that the person will give a shout out to them. Maybe speak to them on a private message or something like that. And that's sort of how the relationship begins than these girls that know how to work it. I'm sure they know how to do this. Because it's not easy. I suspect with desperate guys online. That are lonely is to give them a little bit of what they want and then they can pay for the next here. Which is where you know. They might get essentially turning into sort of renton online girlfriend. Basically at the maximum level of support. I imagine app. Different tiers of okay if you give me this much per month and you get these pictures but if you give me this much per month i'll let you into my inner circle of You know and this isn't anything new to this you've prostitution and you've had a pole dancers. This is them to anything because instead of having maybe fifty dudes at the at the club. The dance club. Now you you have fifty thousand but you also have thousands of competitors as well so the prices are to some extent driven down because of that because some news proliferated good point when we come back mask aren't effective and it seems neither are the in nineteen shots more coming up. It's free talk live. This message is for you if you are a poly-amorous person or you're an open relationship and you are struggling with jealousy loneliness and communication problems. Hello my name. Is jeremy west. And i am a polymer coach with degrees in psychology and communications and five years of experience with polly emery and for a limited time. I'm teaching a free online class. Just for poly-amorous people or people in open relationships where you will discover a new simpler and unique way to uncover the secret that experience polly people know about jealousy that you must know to stop feeling lonely when your partner is out with another partner and use the four key elements that will change the way you communicate forever. No more crying yourself to sleep when you're alone for night a weekend or longer and wondering if it's better to go back to a monogamous relationship sound good. Well then go to jeremy. Wests dot net slash free class and register for my class now again. That's jeremy west dot net slash free class. Jeremy west dot net slash free class..
Multiamory
"polly emery" Discussed on Multiamory
"How much of that was partly enabled by a sacrifice. Your partner made you know. There's just like layers and layers and layers of all these dynamics and when we try to boil them down to these more concrete numbers. I personally don't think there's any way we can make that work. And i think that's where we get ourselves in trouble and treat our partners shitty. Yeah i just want to point out quickly that we came across this a number of times when we were reading articles regarding transactional relationships that they're not like stable long-term because if an individual doesn't hold up their end of the deal then the relationship is terminated away and can be the case sometimes but not always and this like termination or this idea of transactional relationships is often referred to as a negative thing but it might be interesting to view some relationships as those with high levels of maybe boundaries or expectations and lower levels of emotional entanglement. And we did talk about this a little bit in. It's sort of different contexts. When we spoke about different types of polly emery and episode three twenty two and like even sometimes like calm relationships are. I've had relationships especially in college. Where like i would come home for the summer and see a guy and sleep with them all summer and then go back to school and you know. It was not highly entangled or romantic but we had fun and i got companionship for the summer and he got sex and it was fun and that was like i. I hope that he got companionship as well. The same this is yes. Okay yes but this is the same guy who like. Don't kiss me that was negative but but it was spun also at the time and that was very much like you know an understanding of what was occurring there and it didn't feel emotionally like wrecking at the end of the whole thing so basically again like i said before if you have consenting adults in situations like this and it's okay for the two of you than it doesn't need to be necessarily a bad or negative thing and now we're going to talk about some actionable tools for all a y'all.
Multiamory
"polly emery" Discussed on Multiamory
"The benefit of being able to say no and communicate that in a compassionate way to your partner and you know that it gives them practice learning how to accept your no as well but is that it's also a way for them to get to understand you better and to have more of that compromise and sort of. Give them the tools to help you. Not lose yourself as well and if they're not willing to support that then we've got bigger things to look at in this relationship. Yeah so ultimately you know some of the tenants of something like solo polly emery can be a good example to follow in terms of maintaining your own identity in a relationship which after all that's really what sola poly-amorous tends to be at its core. It's maintaining the sense of autonomy independence and individuality while also having with other people. There's one more article we wanted to share. That has some really cool tools and tips and things to help you. Identify your sense of self and how to keep that these come from the same article. We talked about earlier in the episode from very well mind and talks about how to strengthen your identity and discusses for things to talk about so number one is to identify your values. Hey guess what multi. Emory didn't episode on this. It's three nineteen really. Check it out ago long ago so check out three nineteen if you haven't already to figure out what it is that moves you what it is that drives you. What's important to you and this can help you. Maintain your identity and have conviction about your decisions regardless.
Love Letters
"polly emery" Discussed on Love Letters
"At various points in dating life. Nicole was open to many different experiences. She tried polly emery for a time. She experimented with be. Dsm after her long relationship ends nicole decides to try something she hasn't done before one of my really really good friends was like nicole. You've been physically attracted to women in the past you've made out with women about you've never really like set up your dating profiles to look for women so the side of the finally do that. It's two thousand. Nineteen she goes on a date with a woman she meets online. There's no romantic spark. Nicole says but the two of them become good friends she returns to okay cupid and receives a message from a suitor. We'll call hunter. I remember on a saturday. He messaged me and was like hi. Your profile looks really interesting. You seem gray. Let's talk okay. So i gotta his profile. At the time he was still identifying as gender non binary and assigned female at birth. And i was very very chocolate. Says pictures and all that stuff and i was like okay. I'll get this a try. They start communicating. Hunter is pushing for them to meet in person. He works close to where i live so that sunday he was like i get off work. I really. I really wanna meet you because you seem really interesting and really really cool and i was preparing the goats through a going away party so he got off work at three either. Be at a going away party at four and the going away party was a half hour away from where we were to meet up. So he's like less. Says i'm here. Let's up and i'm like this is going to be the quickest. I have ever had but okay they make plans to me at barnes and noble. We meet up for coffee. And i told him the minute. I had my phone sitting there. Because i was arranging carpool and i said the minute my phone rings. I have to leave so this date was fifteen minutes and the day was it felt like an interview because it was just a series of getting to know you questions and all that stuff and given that hem and i have a lot of loss in common. Both of his parents have passed. Sister has passed both my parents about so we spent the first day talking about death. Burt wait fifteen minutes and all about death. Yup day we talked about death. And i was like okay. Then you're like..
Sex with Dr. Jess
"polly emery" Discussed on Sex with Dr. Jess
"So pollyanna being rooted in liberation I think about sexual liberation and racial liberation going hand in hand Definitely when we think about polly's so many of us polymer we think about it as being something for white people. So i've heard friends say. Oh no that's white people shit. So i'm curious how navigating polly emery as an asian woman is different like are there specific challenges you face. I think it's more solid on the family for of people just not understanding what it is and then equated it with something. That's completely different. Sometimes i mean. I haven't really dated in poly-amorous way in a long time but i think with dating general i feel like as an asian woman. There's always those stereotypes that are gonna come up and on top of that being sexuality. Professional people make a lot of assumptions about like. Oh can you teach me about sex and like no. I don't even like let's not even my work. My workers something completely different from that. How do you define your worth like. I define my work by. Its aden and empowering survivors of sexual intimate partner violence to reclaim their wholeness and sensuality whereas a lot of people just think a such professional like you teach people about sex physicians and you do sex towards i mean. There's some of us that do that. I just personally don't do that. That's just not the work that makes me the most joyful. So what does that. Work like in terms of supporting survivors. So a lot of it is around and boundaries beyond sex 'cause like my one of my favorite workouts sieve. I think a lot of like consent and boundaries talk are usually so rooted in sex. Like i just remember freshman year of college we had like nico was like old white woman teach us about like boundaries and stuff and i'm like well why can't you get someone who's like closer my age and who can relate till situations. I've been such a lot about teaching around that. And then also i've had lived experience title nine system which is the reporting system in american colleges in also american education her in the state so i do some work around that i'm going to be doing a workshop with a asian american organization later this month. Some excited about that online. It's not public so it won't be available online. But if you wanna book me for that at their institution. They can definitely do that. Because i love that. You talk about in these workshops so if it's not just about sexual consent what are the nuances are the scenarios that you work through like emotional consent is something that i literally two years ago for my therapists. And that's something that i talk about because a lot of people don't talk about that and don't talk about like how mental capacity goes into consent with conversations and then also think about consent and boundaries would like family because that's something that we don't really think about. I mean growing up as a chinese american. I didn't grow up knowing any of this stuff until literally two years ago in therapy. And so how do you define that emotional consent. How you describe it. You don't have to define it so like an example would be like say. I wanted to talk to like a friend about something like heavy so like gun violence or some as an example. So would ask them. Hey do you have capacity to talk about gun. Violence like have time and energy and they can say no or yes. That's a example of emotional. Consult i really appreciate that you know. I think anyone who's in a helping field. Anybody working in the sexuality field. Anyone who's just i guess the type of person where friends family strangers co workers. Come to them. I don't think we were taught that we could say. I don't have space for this. I don't think we were taught that we could say like we..
Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network
"polly emery" Discussed on Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network
"It seemed to be very hostile to lgbtq people. The if it spent the better part of the movie arguing about pronouns and trashing polygamy poly-amorous something that just cannot possibly be workable. Will i thought if it's the one i'm thinking of. Didn't they depict polly emery in polygamy as a heavenly state another show that i'm a really big fan of is operatives hunger for so i joined this s posting aqua teen hunger force group a few weeks ago and then it exploded because someone posted some. You better respect by trans homeys or you're going to be was where at just the trans folks came. And then the trans supporters came out and every single trans person in there was like can we just have an aqua teen hunger force group. That doesn't devolve into arguing about our existence. Please can we please just do that. And spurs pronouns. Go technically speaking in a. I don't know how many people care about this but technically speaking. He is actually the neuter program the pronoun which does give you some really weird sentences that are technically accurate. Like man like all memos nurses. His young technically accurate sounds absolutely bizarre. I don't know if it's me as you were talking about language so it's no longer technically accurate but there's a time where it was well and that's that's one of the issues like what does literally mean. I hate the word literally because it's no more that people use more often than not an it's not literal when they say it like i literally died but you literally didn't so maybe maybe start using the word literally literally and then we can have a conversation in general i'm bogged by the fbi in panopticon. It's exactly what george orwell described as big brother. He's not always listening but he could be at any time and worse yet. There's a record so he can go back and listen anytime he wants. And we know in large part. Thanks to edward snowden. Just how pervasive their surveillance. Apparatus really is including any email you ever since they. They can easily have access to that as well as text messages. And things like that. If you're not using signal or wire or telegram secret chats which are actually encrypted than anything that you've ever sent out on the internet or through sms or any phone call in an email is easily. Read by the nsa. And they can't do it but clapper told me that they don't spy on americans to congress you can't lie to congress that's a federal offense and what was the result of him lying to congress still waiting on that actually. I'm not surprised. I mean hillary clinton got away with breaking all source of laws and she was so technologically inept that she described wiping a hard drive as taking a cloth to it every once in awhile. Didn't they take a hammer to it. I don't know what they got. Gotta wonder is that misdirection though you just heard highlights from the latest episode of free talk live you can download full episodes. Subscribe to our podcast. Listen live and more all for free at freetalklive dot com..
1 MORE STRONG-CAST with GODZOLA
"polly emery" Discussed on 1 MORE STRONG-CAST with GODZOLA
"I would never try to convince somebody that poly-amorous is the right way to go for anybody you know. That's it's gotta be. In my opinion there are people who convert to polly emery in my opinion. It's gotta be something that you already away that you already feel something that you already believe. It You know michelle and i have had this agreement since we got married. We knew going in that. This is how our life was going to end up. That said you know it took us eighteen years to find somebody who was well to take his hands on that you know There have been you know other relationships between then and now but You know they're obviously worked successful. And you know not. Everybody can manage this kind of song. yeah i was I curious part of it because You know we obviously are monogamous. Couple All that i could think of when i was thinking like how could i apply that to my actual life day to day was I would be there would be too much jealousy and too much you know or love share or whatever that i would probably be too much of a hurdle for me to get over. It is for a lot of people and it's Anybody who tells you that jealousies doesn't exist. And in non monogamous relationships is flat out lying. there's jealousy there's all of the same issues. It's just you know in the beginning. It's all about the love and the relationship and the time and as time goes on and you spend more time together it starts to become about. You know who made dinner for me that night as the other or you know whatever you know. I took this to lunch. When i'm taking that one to lunch. You know those kinds of things so But yeah jealousies thing at all of the issues. That a monogamous couple cup- have comes up in a poly-amorous relationship is just intensified. I'm sure it's just under under even more of a microscope.