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#213: UHHG - #10 Starting Your House Hack Property Hunt
"You're listening to the Denver real estate investing podcast where it's all about helping you grow your Denver real estate. Portfolio here's your host. Brisk Lopez. You're listening to episode number ten in the ultimate how sacking guide for Denver. Still in this episode, we talk about starting your property hunt, walking properties and then offers. So it's Episode Has Myself Jim Asi Jeff White and Preston. newbury enjoy. Great role jumped into a here, and before we jump into going out there and you know putting offers in we put together a very simple checklist and this is not all comprehensive or anything like that. But as usually the way it works is you know press nine and a couple of team. We sit down and have an investor strategy session with their clients or potential clients or future clients, and you know figure out their goals forgot their strategy we put together a loose framework for their strategy. Out But it's not like they wouldn't go out the next in properties. We have certain items that we need to do to make sure we set ourselves up clients up for success. In the previous milder, we talked about putting together an investor education program and that's a big parole would do with her clients. So here's a checklist that I we take. We do with our clients I'd recommend you guys consider as well. So the first second talk about. POWERPOINT is to work. There we go. Is that you need to pick your agent and by Pinger agent. That really means signing your buyer agency agreement Preston, what the Heck is a buyer agency agreement. So, in Colorado you know basically have some legal documents that employ an agent to work for you, and what this does is it establishes a fiduciary agreement between an agent and the buyer, and this is what allows them also to get paid from seller winner transaction closes. So you know I know a lot of agents out there will go show properties or engage with and without having the stuff signed but this is something that's really really important. There's a lot of you know personal information floating around. There's a lot of stuff going on behind the scenes and you WanNa make sure that you Know you have an agent that is representing you as your best interests at heart from day one. So this is something that we feel is really really important to establish that relationship and have them. You know in your corner for you from the beginning, it's no different than signing engagement letter with an attorney or something like that. You know basically just establishes that relationship and outlined how that relationship was going to work and all that good stuff. So something that's really really important as you begin the process, once you find an agent that you're gonNA work with This is something they should present to you right away. S. And other thing you make sure you enter team is selecting your lender and having your pre approval letter. Now, a columnist that we see some investors make is that at the Hague I've got this lender lined up and I got this pre approval letter. Go under contract and then a week or two later like, Oh, well now in shopping on different lenders. while. Every right to do that just realized that concerts a major curve balls in the process there because moving forward in this direction and they're throwing us a big curveball there, and as you mentioned the previous module that there's a lot more to lenders that people really don't understand appreciate other than say, Oh, here's your low. Here's your interest rate. Here's the money. Needed bring the closing table, they do a lot more behind the scenes and they also help us a lot with getting a properties under contract as well. So my recommendation is Kinda this is wanting to know your team before you actually go out there and start putting off zip now I realize that there are definitely some circumstances regular contract things change and yeah you. Need to go out there and talk your lender do something else. That's perfectly fine. But as you said, improve module that's tend to go out through see who could save fifty bucks on the loan or twenty dollars a month as shopping different lenders because that can definitely some curve balls in there. so no your lender and definitely have your pre approval letter with them. And one of our rules of thumb here with our clients is You know for the most part, we always have them buyers in your seat document upfront at par. That reasons because we put a lot of time into that investigation up front you we'll spend hours and hours and hours helped him understand their strategy so to make sure that we're committed to each. But also you can have your pre approval letter frosted. How do you feel about writing an offer with no pre approval letter in the current Denver? Market. and our market here Chris you're basically not going to write any offers without having a pre approval letter there's no no listing agent or seller. Market that's GONNA. You know need to look seriously at an offer that comes over the doesn't have You know pre approval letter or some kind of proof of funds attached to it. They WanNa make sure that the buyer trading and offer is going to be able to perform and they're working with a you know a quality lender in somebody who's going to get the job done just goes back to that establishing your team and having good people in your corner to work with you and help you and be on your side and having that lender lender they're in that preapproval letters something that you know you can't really move forward without our market. And you know your strategy as much as he can. As I said earlier, we usually have a loose framework in mind. So we know what we're doing and what direction going in. Now part of our processes we go out, we look at properties, allies, properties. Your strategy is going to change slightly as you go out there that real world feedback, but he will have a baseline for having your plan in place you know what you doing for what you're moving forward with. And then be smart with your personal finances and a few months ago we talked about this might be a good time where you WanNa, take your on the stock market or bond market to make sure there's no crazy swings evaluation but also Joe, if I come to you, I'm pre proves the I'm GonNa Contract in the House. Is this time for me to go out there and buy my new car? Yeah if you could not do that I would really appreciate that. Couple reasons, right number one. That pre approval is based on how much debt you have, what's your credit score? What is your income, and can you afford all of your monthly payments? If you suddenly accrue a brand new car payment for five hundred dollars a month? Yeah. You might be able to be approved for that but you also may not be able to afford the car and the new house so that contribute up. So that's number one. It might prevent you from being approved number two midi ten for the car payment. Great. You go out, you buy the new car well, guess what to create a lot more paperwork for you because I've got to get that manually added to your credit report. I've got to ask for copies of all the information for the new loan that you just went went under on your new car. and. Then it's GonNa frustrate the buyer they're like God why do I have to provide all this? Well, we didn't why didn't you ask for this on Day One? Well, we know you'RE GONNA buy a new car. So we have to ask for this creates more paperwork creates hassles a highly highly recommend guest that when you're out looking for property, go on credit lockdown don't give out your social don apply for any new debts don't apply for. A New Kohl's card. To Save Twenty Bucks at the register. Just, stop applying for credit while you're under contract or while you're looking to get our contract on a new place. And the last time on checklists is it's time to start your property searches and analyses with your agent. Now we talked about actual more about this right here in this section with saying property searches because this is where you know alive comes in. This is the fun part you get to go out there and we'll get start looking at properties in start doing that search. Before we go get really serious about it. You WanNa make sure that checklist we just talked about completed 'cause that's GonNa build that foundation and set you up for success. Soon, go out there and look at searches or look properties go actually go out there and execute on them. So what we do with our clients and not GonNa and tell you what we off news our clients, and it's going to take you to that same process now hopefully will us if you don't I, you're aged probably do something similar our imagine. The will we do is we use to the property searches on Ari Colorado and are in Colorado is our local. MLS Four. I remember one hundred percent house acts they come from the MLS. So this is just be very frank out there looking at wholesale deals doing mailers to owners looking on craigslist properties. It's just it's got a very, very, very low success rate sub one percent. So it's not worth a great use of your time. So we properties are searches and Ari Colorado now. Preston. can people use diller red fin to get the same data? Why is this different? So Dylan Fan can be good sources to look at stuff, but at the end of the day ninety, nine percent of the stuff that is getting fed to those sites is coming from. Self. So are you Colorado is going to be the first step that any agent is gonNA use to input a new property and to into the market and Mac fed to zillow and You know somebody's other red pen and some of those stuff some of those sites. So the best place to look it's going to have the most up-to-date information not that's the key right there is. That are in Colorado gets updated every fifteen minutes, the most up-to-date information the newest properties and all that kind of stuff. Now, every once in a while, you'll come across some properties on billow for sale by owner things like that. Those won't be in Molester or Colorado But as Chris said, you know one hundred percent of our house sack properties of come through a finding properties in the our Collorado MLS. And so the other thank you are at Colorado as he knows Zilin redfin daylight, step some you know some. Keywords keywords sent me a profit search alerts. You get daily email digest from them out, which is very helpful. Now when we up searches you are in Colorado through our broker pertile. That's the private Pearl that we use. There is a lot more granular details at weakened setup anywhere from all sorts of field searching Keyword Searching Square foot searching geographical areas. So we can do a lot a lot nimble and tackle with researchers out there, and this allows us setup what we call some secret sauce, how sack property searches, and these are just properties that we found over there suit trial and error at do a really good job of filtering out properties that are really good house had candidates at as far as another to. Do It on Zillow and Redfin, and this is one of the few things we don't public on the website because it's you know it's highly valuable to us. So we get with our clients and we also have some general some general searches based on the investors criteria as well based off, of note, a location or commute time other things like that. So we have a combination of our standard house sex searches ended oftentimes specific searches as well for that investor and one of the thing to talk about on Zillow in Renton 'cause I'll I'll be honest I think technology is great and it can be convenient. And they do a pretty good job as president said the pulling out single family homes. But the data they pool for multifamily duplex triplex is four plexus is really poor. There's a huge step down the properties, a on there. So if you'RE GONNA get multi definitely make sure you have to worry Colorado because that gets the best source of data from there and I, think just you know zillow that's such a small slice of the market. It's not worth their time to get all that stuff figured out. So we still property searches our clients. Hey, we're going to such they searches and we walk them through the searches. We make sure they get activated and typically they get a few daily Digest. With the properties and we say, Hey, start reviewing them. Alice no feedback and go out there and plug them into Joe Spreadsheet. Now, as most of the listeners out there know that we use Joe Massey's rental spreadsheet a lot because it's a great easiest tool in take a few minutes ago in their employees, the numbers. So we have our client suze go on there and just the first two were three or four that look really good to just plug into a spreadsheet and send them over to us. We don't care what the results are like we don't care if they're good proper bat property we don't care if you're not quite sure what to do some the fields. And we do that because we're not lazy. But this is part of that education process I talked about earlier because there's one thing about reading someone else's spreadsheet that. Her I created email over to you. There's something else you have to go on there and say, Oh, well, what's the interest rate? What's the closing costs oh? What's the property insurance and it makes you stop and think about that for a little bit and what happens is when that spreadsheet comes back over. The Ping on the situation leaders do a detailed email reply or will hop on a phone call resume call idea like zoom color email. So we can share our screens and say, Hey, this looks really good good. This is really good but you know what these variables incorrect also I looked at the property as well, and here's some things that jumped out to me, Aah, just because you probably realize the we give feedback on the property searches and those analyses and what that does. It's a really big. I'll say mental leap for the investor out there start understanding the process and analyzed properties and going forward as is more properties, and as we have reveals to them, this have a higher level of understanding to go out there and start understanding those deals from a different level. And then after we do that. Might be the center of the first two deals. Properties are might be a a few times that's Kinda Pendleton situation and how those deals look. Now. We go out there and we'll do what we call our first date property walk and we just say that because, hey, this is our first. This is not to go out there this. There's no pressure. This is go out there and look at. Three or four properties that will very promising on spreadsheets, and as we like to say, this helps match virtual reality. With reality we all know the power of instagram filters and Photoshop, and all that stuff and the all my gosh, this place looks amazing. And then you walk in the place, you're like, what is this the same place in the photos and that happens? Happens fairly often but also what we do here is we'd allies the properties before. So we liked to bring them on their ipad or a spreadsheet and we say, Hey, let's go walk the property in nineteen stand. Hey, here's what this type of property goes this part in town here the numbers that starts matching up reality. And the pending on how things go we may. Put an offering that day. Sometimes we do. We don't. There's no pressure there but some of the hey, this makes so much sense. Los Move forward with it. Or something go back way up the property search our we go back and repeat as needed, and so usually do this cycle anywhere from zero to two times and we have things fairly well doubted. Now, Preston Mike I went through those pretty quickly. There anything I forgot out that we do with our clients here. No I think we governor pretty well, and I was actually going to ask Jeff to chime in because he's been through this process with the and he knows it firsthand and you know kind of get some of his experience and insight into you know how this process works and what the you know searches are like and Kinda starting to analyze some of those properties and stuff. Jeff, would you mind giving us a little feedback about that? Yes. Yet we're all start dues. Automatic searches that they the real turtle setup for you. And Chris impressed in big differences. With. The keywords that they put in. It just makes a huge difference not wasting time looking at properties that are out of your budget or properties that won't work for your specific house hacking or nomadic goals. I still I'm on. The list still. I still like to look at what I get over. It really comes in handy too because the more see the realistically not GonNa. Sign. I can just. Get that first, property, Chris, Preston like Oh that's the one I'm GonNa buy replied athletic ads. Dozens upon dozens of properties. Released from pictures actually going to see him. Most, likely, it's going to be the. Same thing you're gonNA happen looked at Salmon. Amount of. I kind of find deception I feel I with the new virtual three D cameras and. Whatnot, the new technology makes it less if they have that in their individuals for it makes it less likely that. The House won't be. A young base, it's hard to lie when he camera. But when he do like a professional photographer, play tricks, lighting angles and all that. So that's the watch out for two pictures can be very deceiving. You really have to go see a handful of properties before you really know to get a feel especially at different price points that you're looking at. In What else do you think? Yes Some good insight and the process that that we've kind of put together and work with through through our clients anyways has really resulted in our clients being ready to act and and find properties that match their needs and stuff that works a lot quicker than going out down to look at fifteen twenty thirty different properties with your real estate agent at the end of the day time is money for everybody including clients. So the last time that they have to devote to spending to go look you know at fifteen or twenty different properties and were able to refine that process and get you know adequate and accurate. Properties and fit their needs over them really cuts down on on one the stress right? Because they're not getting overloaded looking at a bunch of different. And stressed out about that. But it also you know streamlined process and really allows everyone to to be more efficient. Yeah. Along those lines to request. Chris. And they both. Really get. To the number style, a loved investment analysis spent. From. So, you really can see. Okay, this here's the property. Here's kind of. The Simpsons put in kind of what the mortgage should be the proximate rents and will this property worth for my situation? Yes or no based on those assumptions and inputs and so that really and down. Presents right while. Doing a traditional way of going out seeing twenty thirty properties and wasting each other's time. You know you'll really narrow down and probably find the right one within the first handful ones. As. Well. Conviction. So, let's move on because the the five of property a lot times as pressing Jeff's said, this can go pretty quickly. We all have clients. Well, I can't believe how fast this process would, and that's because we have our step style than we're just you know we've we've got things figure at this point to be pretty efficient and we know, hey, do this do this do this and helps us get a couple close the finish line. And then after we start. Liking properties. Oh, we start winning offers now and this is where this things get real. 'cause you. Now you're setting a a contract, there's a tach to it. There's numbers attached to it. So we'll walk through the process of what a slight to submit offer. So from this standpoint, we'll talk about what's like offer the next module talk details actually being under contract to actually know understand, hey, when she in her contract with that process is like. The press and tell us about the contract us here in Colorado. So, yeah, I think I kind of touched on a little bit earlier with the agency documents, but all the forms that we use in Colorado for real estate transactions. All have to be approved by the Department Regulatory Agency that oversees all the real estate transactions. So the Nice thing is we're not having to involve you know attorneys and legal fees and all that kind of. Stuff to review contracts. Obviously, we always tell our clients. You're more than welcome to engage your own attorney if you have questions or you want to have them review stuff, but it really helps streamline the process because all these forms are basically kind of fill in the blank aside from some additional provisions in language that we can put in different sections but you know this just allows. Things. To move a lot quicker and know that you know as you move through the process, this is not something that is going to change a lot. So you know all the contracts are standardized We encourage our client. Hey if you wanna, you know check it out review before we start putting in offers please do or happy to walk through every part of it with you just. So. You understand everything and you and other big step of it too. Because when you're trying to be efficient and act quickly you WANNA, make sure your clients reasonable to review offer so that we can get them over to buyers or to lifting agents and sellers as quick as possible having to spend you know a couple of days reading contract. So that's something that we always make sure to. Go through up front with our clients and the other nice thing is that the program will use TM. Is All electronic signature so everything we do can be done virtually can all be signed through your phone, your computer, your tablet, whatever kind of electronic device you're operating from. So you know it's not like the old days where you had to write up a handwritten real estate contract and take it over to your clients have them sign it in blue ink and then drive it over to the listing agent at nine o'clock at night. So you know just kind of one of those things, technology technologies, your friend. and. Then now let's talk about what makes a good offer because I know years ago when I was first quitting to real estate investing I, read all these stories about Oh, I'm go there and just you know put offers on eighty cents on the dollar meaning if the property is worth four, hundred, thousand dollars per an offer at. Three hundred forty thousand dollars or some low ball offer and that way you get the property. Well number. One. That strategy to simply does not work in Denver market or in a seller's market, and the don't do Lobo offers like that. But just talking about the the the offering general, there's so much more to a good offer. Ben Just having a price whether that's below price atlas price or overload price. There is so much more that makes a good offer and that's something that we spend a Lotta time on making sure we can execute. 'cause it's not uncommon for us to get property proper contract even though we are not the High Sim, best offer albums, that's because we write the contract. So, press says we start putting start talking about putting offers in with our clients. We start forming a strategy about that. So, just like everything, we've Kinda gone through Cristiano having a playbook and different things that you can use to your advantage as you move through any real estate transaction something that really pride ourselves in and take seriously. So you know before we start putting offers together something that I'll sit down with our clients and and just kind of run through you know different options and strategies. As we look at a property, we may be wanting to put an offer on and as you said, it's not always just price that sellers are. Looking for so you know kind of laying out a couple of different options with our clients about, Hey, you know we can. You know put an offering at this price and you know, let's look at doing some of these other things with the contract to make this a little bit more attractive to a seller, and just you know laying out all those tools that we have in our tool bags so that we can use them. You know to the best of our ability and and to the best success with the client. As a big part of this too is Ito everytime offering we are picking up the phone and we're talking to agents, and as we tell people about this psycho will really why most because end of the day it is still a people business you know this is sales negotiating and there's always someone at the other end of the contract someone on the other end of seats and we WanNa make sure we talk that person and really for two reasons one is so they you know understand who we are a reputation that we were act together but also conducts Dan what the listing agent Mo- support with the seller is looking for. And sometimes it is the. High Best Price. Great while we we will know that bill. Hey. A multiple offers on the table doing this offer by certain time a but also we're hoping to find that you know there's other needs at the seller may have, which may not be the highest price offer Keno what they're worried about. Selling this place, but the net by another place. Oh well now, we might say, Hey, if we need a flexible closing date, help your seller find another place would that be more tracks here absolutely or we can offer them a post occupancy agreement. So Hey, they can close and stay there for a few weeks so we can structure the deal or structure the offer to make it. FIT The sellers knees in once and often helps us in a win out the contracts as well, and again it establishes relationship with the agent because when you've got you know eight offers you know we're one of eight offer some property you want that connection on there. So it's not just a contract numbers but oh, contract one contract to contract three Oh. Yeah. I talked to these guys. Yeah they they have their act together at that just always helps that motion need to listening aged which translate to win that age. It presents their sellers as well. So again, it's not just price. It's not just numbers. and. When it comes to submitting an offer. this is a question we get. Does it cost money? and. To submit the offer, it actually does not cost any money out here in Colorado to do that now you may have some other fees because once you get the offer and if it is accepted while he asked to go give your earnest money or your good faith way this is usually a three to ten thousand dollars depending on a few things and you can drop off a check many times people will wired in there while if you out in their twenty dollar wire fee. and. Then as we go further down the road, you know week into the contract, it'll be time to do your inspection period, and if you're inspections sewer radon testing in sob six, hundred, seventy dollars, and so there is money involved with that and we'll talk more about that in the next module but actually write an offer it cost you zero money other than, hey, does take some time at the same time review but that's part of the process but there's no money in there and a really important thing I think we talked about yet. Is Preston. Would you call our contract? Buyer friendly seller friendly or neutral. Contract in Colorado Christmas. Definitely leaning towards the buyer friendly side of things are a lot of different opportunities for the buyer throughout our contract and as you move through the real estate process to have. The opportunity to object to certain things to do your due diligence You know when it comes to, you know all the things that we're going to go over shortly in in the contract and the dates and deadlines, and so You know that really allows us to be a little bit more strategic and you know want to put offers on the table with our clients so that we can be a little bit more aggressive when it comes to things like that because we know that the contract is. Is Very by your friendly. So no, that doesn't mean we're just GONNA start throwing around a bunch of offers, and then you know, hey, you know we put three offers on houses this weekend they all got accepted, and now we're just GONNA back out at two of them definitely, not something you want to do and it doesn't doesn't show anybody. But at the end of the day, you know there are opportunities. If. There's something that doesn't fit for the buyer or that they have questions or concerns over that, they're able to you know cancel the contract back out of the deal, protect their earnest money and you know move onto the next property, and that's something that we is real estate agents in real are responsible for, and that's our biggest thing is we moved to contract to protect our clients earnest money. And so as you know from time client says, Hey, great. Iona put an offer of this place time. What to expect this this is there is a sense of urgency there. So in a class, hey, guys like this property let's get more details offering. We say gray will call you back soon or we'll get back to the soon. As you said, we call the agent we see what's going on there. Hopefully get information sometimes do sometimes we don't. And this time the draft up the offer. So precedent, how long does it typically take to draft offer? You know I'd say Chris for most of our standard offers we can usually draft something up within within an hour You know from the time that we say, Hey, we want to put something together to. You know we're on the phone, the listing agent we're gathering info that we need and that's something I think that you know sets us apart as well as we move very, very fast and efficiently and not just goes back to some of the things we've talked about in in previous modules about you know having a a team that allows us to to be very nimble and allows us to act very quickly when it comes to this stuff because you know that that is what? We found has has won us a lot of offers instead apart from some of the other agents around town is that we we act quickly and we you know put our put our money where our mouth is and so you know we're getting getting offers on the table and we say what we're GonNa, do and whenever agents know they have an offer coming over from us they they know that it's going to be a solid offer and they're they're looking forward to working with us. And once they draft up the offer you know. We, always review it, and the client owes reviews it. We make updates of than we cited. Now we send over the offer, the client, how his sense of urgency. The timing standpoint is the client need to review it back to US finalized sinuses so that we can do over a week. Seven Day or seven hours like how quickly does that need to happen. I mean every situation's a little bit different but you know I would say you know. Urgency is key especially when it comes to things like this. So you know if we're working in the morning and we've got an offer over to a client we would definitely want to review it within an hour or two at most of us sending it over so that we can get it to the listing agent by the end of the day, and so you know oftentimes looking agents will have deadlines for having offer submitted and things like that. So we're very I. Don't keep our clients aware that and make sure that All right and then as we go out there and we present the offer, Edison's Hey, the the client signs it as we submitted to the agent, we call We then send them an email cover letter through Ct.. And always copy Joe on here at Joe, when you get this email or phone call from us, what does you and your team do? We're immediately going to call and reach out to the listing agent and introduce ourselves and we're gonNA. Talk about our experience with Chris and Preston. Hey, this is our twenty fifth transaction. We've done together this year or whatever the number as We're GONNA talk about how you know what you're doing and talk about you know how many transactions you get through to the closing in. Really it's our opportunity to be that third party reference for you and your experience. Then, we're going to talk about our own experience, his are one hundred percent preapproval track record This is how our process works. We're GONNA call ya every week on. Tuesday does your current lender do that for you know? Okay would this be useful service for you and the number three were talk about our experience with the client the client is fully preapproved with us. They've been fantastic to work with they've provided their bank statements, tax returns, W. Twos they've been great to work with Here's a the history. This is their second time working with us. Fifth time working with us, whatever it might be, and then we talk about what a pre approval letter means for us. Hey, we have received information and we have fully underwritten this client The only thing that is hanging out there on their final approval is the information on the property. So as soon as you MR listing agent or Mrs Listing Agent Accept our offer, we're going to be moving forward to this final approval very very quickly we removed all the uncertainty, all the doubt about the client. The only thing remaining is just you upset accepting our offer. And so all together, it presents a great package and often makes our offer look very very tracks like, wow. Okay. The agents have their act together the buyers will qualify they don't they want the lenders got his act together. Great. It helps US stand out that once we submit the offer. Nothing is official than, hey, we of smid the offered to listing agent an agent then presents that to his or her seller and we have three options that can come up. The first option is they reject it and that can be directly this a hey, we're not going with your offer or we just never hear back 'cause offers have acceptance deadline usually twenty four hours symptoms for eight hours. If we don't hear back by that time that means the offers no longer good or they can capture the say, Hey, we like your offer but we are Cowan you on these atoms could be dates and deadlines could be price could be all sorts of thanks. sometimes negotiating standpoint sometimes just worked out some details on hey, like you know what you said this agreement actually there's there's one grottes roper not to garage door openers earl things like that. So it could very much mean. You know, hey, it's no big deals. It's just some details otherwise, hey, we have to do some serious negotiations hair. Or the third option is they decide, hey, great the good they sign it and then accepted and you're under contract. So Jeff, talking about the just depending offers since you've done yeah. You've put offers in Newport, a handful of properties How fast is this happened because this often capsule Alec. Clients off guard because this, all this happens really really fast doesn't. I mean, usually this list young when it's a combination of when the sellers get a present, the offers suty. offers to the seller Sometimes, they have like a certain day to say like, okay weeks from now will will. Make a decision on which OPPORTU except. Sometimes it's the show, the property that region decide that that Sunday evening, which often they accept. Everything in between and I to. Be Prepared for. Don't under contract. Quicker than sometimes you think and but it's a good thing that's. At six exciting part is finding out a if this is the right property for you and that's just to go into contract doesn't mean You're definitely gonNA close inspection report. The next step would showcase Why the property might not be the best fit and then you have to start all over again and start the hunt. The process from start to finish from when you decide? Yes, I WANNA make an offer in. Khorasan Preston. Smith the offer. and. Coming up with the best negotiation strategy. Okay. How much we go over should be. Maybe. Try Gone Five, ten, thousand under. Others depending on so many different variables how long have properties on the market has been other offers? Is it? The first day, it's been on the market. Will they'll be a lot of competition because it's a pop the great price point in really nice. Fix Up property so. A lot of things to think about but really overall, it's happened. To happen really quick and. Working with A. Team. Worked at the great team and really good. Realtors are realtor. Will help you get to that next step of going under contract with especially in a market like Denver with a ton of competition. Great Well Great Advice Jeff, and we'll go and wrap up this module because this really comes down to how you search property or get ready search for appropriate instrument offers at the next module, we will talk about what happens once in her contract and we'll dates and deadlines at a high level about what your responsibilities are our responsibilities and what to expect. So if we can help you out in any way, whatsoever reach out to us all contact details are Denver investment real estate, dot com, slash h h help, or click on the show notes you'll find this all on there. So gentlemen any final thoughts your abby, wrap this module up no, not for me. Ninety that was great. Thanks curse that they just. All right well, then everyone thank you for listening Joe. Jeff Preston thank you guys. We'll see in the under contract module. Hey thanks for listening and we hope you enjoyed this episode. Nath, you have any questions or need clarification sheeting email or if you. WanNa. Grab a physical book copy of the Ultimate Guide. Also send me an email. My email is Chris at Denver Investment Real Estate Dot Com. Couple of the services that we offer a few need help putting together your investment plan and buying your first or next how sacking property reach out to me. That's what we specialize in. If need help with lending and financing reach out to Joe Massey, that's his specialty, and he'd help in stabilizing and operating Your House Act Property reach out to Jeff White as that's his specialty. Now, all their contact details in the show notes if you have trouble funding them or you just want to keep it simple, shoot me an email. I'm happy to answer all your questions and also connect you with Joe Jeff, or every need to talk to. All right. We'll see next episode.
Episode 124 Akshat Choudhary
"This hallway chats where we meet people who use wordpress we asked question anarchist sure stories and perspectives. And now the conversation begins. This is episode one twenty four from the hallway shots. I'm Liam Dempsey and I'm Tara Claes. Today we're joined by Chaudhry shot is the founder of blog. Vault Mulcair he's been in the wordpress community. For EIGHT YEARS. Mostly developer offshot is also growing his team and dealing with the challenges. Come along with that welcome upshot. We're so glad you're here. I I'm glad to be here. Well we're excited to meet you too. The can you tell us a little bit more about yourself all right so Estella had introduced. I'm the founder of blog Watan milk. It plays backup antiquity service. So that's that's essentially what what we do and as the founder a lead the team make sure everything is happening on time and actually like on a person as you guys had mentioned earlier like my my life has been called. Melcan have been my life for almost eight years now. That's what I've been eating breathing. Hand all my life has revolved around it. So that's almost almost in a way but it becomes your identity to such a great extent. Share you're so involved in in your business and yeah that's that's that's what I think as of today. That's that's how I would do. I would describe myself. Yes well blog. Walt is a familiar term for many of us in the word precipice. How did you get started with that but this is interesting study? So I'm an engineer by by by education and I was working as an engineer writing code in and out and I've I've just outside to great extent but when I started like building you anything about what press. Now one of the bloggers I was falling. Who's like a really famous Internet personality? And he he lost his midnight. And that's what I thought. Okay maybe if this guy who is so famous and actually very technical if he can lose his blog then maybe there is something to it and That's that's how I got the idea. I thought it's like a two week project. Now it's been eight years and even now Yet improving and building products so I don't Dr Programmer so I think we need to have run. Yeah I think everyone estimates incorrectly but secondly the the space itself is so interesting and so many things open up to go deeper into it that That it takes a long time to build a great. Were you already using wordpress at the time where you've already familiar with wordpress on your friend? Not so there was no like I. That's how I can I. I'm sure it was what ten it's been a long time but I never really used wordpress which is actually one of the reasons why they are called blackboard. Had we had a used what maybe I would have been called I would have pounded or something like that. I like okay. A product blogs and what what blogs MEDOFF end. It's a votre is distinct transcend. How do you go about doing it? So that's that's the That's how I got into what press so. I was a complete outsider. I'm really interested in how you're you're witnessing. This famous bloggers website employed with no backups. And you're thinking yourself while I could go ahead and write something that would be a service of value to their presumably. You were working somewhere as an engineer at the time or maybe finishing up studies depending on where you're at in in which season of your life but how did it. How did it evolve from an idea when you're lamenting some blogger? Losing all of their content to the point now where you're the founder and leader of a of a very well known and well respected company in the wordpress community walk us through that in a nutshell if you would okay. It's a again Many started we didn't really know what we're getting into. It didn't think that it's going to become tranquil and the reality and I thought maybe it's going to make me like two thousand dollars in a year and we've come a long long distance since then but doesn't expecting much and bill this. I launched it and launching. Frankly mean nothing because as much as you would use Internet. I generally expect like really People paying you on the Internet so you know the first time now. Six months down the line I get this mail from a customer from a customer calling customer from a you there is saying here. I'm going to pay you. The payment is not going to and I still remember that moment very clearly when I'm sitting with my friends and I get this focused. Someone is actually trying to pay me and then I realized that my people integration was incorrect. And the code at put in was wrong fixed it and and I think a few hours later I got twenty nine dollars while people pay for pay on the Internet and I still remember very clearly when I got that meal and that feeling. It's insane because frankly I was not expecting any of build something for the heck of it. Almost New Jersey are in invested into the project. Whenever you build something invested into it but at the same time you don't you don't have expectation strong it and especially when you have been paid like a complete random stranger sitting in some other part of the world thing you. I had created my paypal account for the specific purpose that All of that it it was. It's quite fascinating because we both Muslims. That's great that's great while it's in your voice. Yeah that you that you started from that point and to see where you are. Now what what would you say has been What would you credit to the growth of plug vault? How did you get the word out after that first? Twenty nine dollar sale had. How'd he had he had a debt? Grou- though I in again all off on this day it's been like I've been tremendously lucky because I'm not in a market that I'm far from it. So just happened. I frankly am not even showed how we got. We got a couple of articles here and there and I think a couple of bloggers picked us up and this is a great story actually so launched and a couple of weeks later jet not jet packs allege was called rest that's automatic competitors launch and. I thought this is Dan. Forget it we have now the main guys there and they have launched and they have a good product so they are going to win the market and this is one of my big learning so what actually happened was when people started looking for wordpress started talking. What they're looking alternate storewide present. We will start getting included in those articles. And I think that is the single biggest reason why we exist because I was not going out and I had my day job. I was doing actually for quite some time. Since then and Lord Press People started writing about one person they would somehow find me I think And wrote byline or as the second article or something like that and people started coming and checking us out at the time. And that's that's a very humble answer. It does not. It's the reality but there's a great takeaway for people who build products don't don't be scared of competitors leaders can actually help you because they help mandate and define a space and that's That I think is anybody in bothering building products. Listen going into the open market. People don't even understand your space becomes big challenge because Bass majority of West and do not have the capability of educating people as the Duke leading the need. I wonder if you can share a little bit. About what Malcolm does what what your business offers. What services and I and I'll preface Ach shot with the with the understanding. Matt we are not a technical show so if you can kinda talk about it in terms maybe that that first blogger who lost all his or her content would understand it right so actually. It's a gift comes along written just blogs and we have we covered all sorts of what sites and today we see that vast majority what I what is very popular with its Businesses building their websites and no blogger. No business can really afford to have websites go down. Have something wrong with the things do happen? Frankly or the or the few yards you have seen lots of things go wrong and one of the different log. What was used? The most was when there was a hurricane. Mitch New York and it took down data centers for days so even the most improbable event like a hurricane. Here affecting your site does happen and in all situations required is a good backup. And that's what does and I can pingers. Exact opposite of technical productivity is what we have done is taken over the whole technical difficulty associated with any anything as complicated as backups and just made it made it really really easy for anybody sometimes the precipice in. Avi Almost assumed that our customer that users are willing to configure a million things and like doing it and add capable of dealing with it. I don't come from that part at all. We'd like to keep it like really simple and almost as you back. Customers will do not want to do any settings they do not want to. They're not position to make the best choices. If you have the expertise then you should provide it. And that's something which we do and make it really simple. We did blog world and we'd like grid backup product. Which makes it easy to back. Up Your wordpress site WanNa beautify mineralized that Backups customers where restoring backups different. Obviously when this so what scratched in data centers. Something went wrong and error than everything but one of the big reasons wasn't sites got hacked now. They would use their backups. Tweety Cohen from the Heck. I would tell you is never recover from a hack using from a backup like only the situation because when you want to remove Malveaux you need to get rid of it completely you can't just restore from a backup and zoom that. It's gone you that it's almost like you need to get it of the bedbugs you can't. You can't help analogy but you need to do that. Complete thorough cleaning and backups. Do not always do that. Okay coming back to the story People restoring sites from backup center sites tag and as we were helping customers out realize their sights will be hacked for six months or longer before they even realized that sites. Happy night and that ghost I got us into the Pinger into our next journey which became mulcair really said that event customers able to find them elsewhere and by the have all these products and they were there have quite a few security products out there or what time we realized that the security products were just not able to find all the mailman. And we got. We tried to solve the problem. Unfortunately we cut. The problem was much much much harder than than we actually anticipated. And it took US three years to make a scanner richer happy and that became a second product that smelter so yeah so yeah today we ought to be have two main products blow one. Mlk But it has a bunch of a young that Yearbook Ingram. Yeah is am I correct. In remembering that is blocked fault also used for migrations by some web hosting companies or yes that's up sublime world as a bid to backups and we do grocery stores and this is again actually a fantastic story. So there's this guy the almond of loopy engine which is a great baboots and founder. Jason Cohen has been like Really looked up to him for a long time and followed him on the Internet and almost listen to honestok him to read all his block Boston tea. Wherever of videos are conferences. He would've on on the Internet and then also listen to a lot of a lot of the podcast up yet in the PODCASTS. He mentioned that migrations are the single biggest reason they they will lose customers and this is quite a few years ago and that's when it got into that. Hey this is something we do. Well any to partner. That loop engine took a couple of years. I'm not a great guy. He's I should have done a heck given the but be able to Meet descent and Frankly actually I can't even take credit for selling that that's happened because one of our customers of the big agency in in UK Hedda who is the CEO of WPA engine visiting them and this customers convinced heterodox cluster? So that's that's the real story. So yeah it's kind of coincided. I have a proposition. The migrations was there but had those customers not convince. Who's your engineer? Is this partnership we would not have happened but yet long the long and short off at history our migrations for all the major hosting companies. From the engine Pantheon Flywheel Likud where cloud with three most definitely missing a few of those. I thought I thought I had seen it and used it and it is really amazing having used a number of different migration profiles platforms. I would say that. I don't think I've ever had a problem using migration on wbz engine or others that use blog fault. It's very seamless and I'm sure it must help them as well in their sales process and to retain. So you've added a great value to their services while I was wondering how that relationship for that's really interesting. Yeah I want to. I want to chime in on that because I as you started. This terror asks a question about migration and you started to explain. It occurred to me that of course have recognized blog fault and to tears point. It works so seamlessly that I didn't even really recognize it because in a when it doesn't cause you any headaches on it just does it and I'm a WPN Chin client so I log into WPN. I move aside and I just walk away and it happen so That's great thank you for making a great product and it's it's so interesting that one of your clients basically all your sales because you have such a great product and I think that sounds like does a whole nother podcast. Right in that and pray that point alone people and definitely one of my very very close friends in the workplace community and Yeah it's a shout out a winning ten Tom from digital. So if you guys that were in If you ever see them differently say hi to them. They're great people ought to check them out. I'm I'm heading over to the UK over the summer. But I want to ask you about success. Arc Sean and I WANNA ask about more specifically what is your definition of success and that might be a personal definition professional definition given what you shared about the amount of time that you've poured into blog volt over the last eight years maybe a combination of both. Can you share that with us? Police right I think now they are definitely. I've been very very lucky. Intouch was on that but luck coupled where you are and some some desire to to make things happen and the things they come together. I think it leads to success and at least in the professional sense maybe I think at at any level where you have a desire and you worked with something and then you and then the timing and luck and other factors come together to help you achieve that that's That's what that's that's what I would define success a success to me. Frankly I'm very happy. Happy go lucky person. Also so I'm not. I'm not this crazy aggressive. Entrepreneurship kind of percents. Sometimes she'd bad about it because he had been presented with such a fantastic opportunity. But I'm success on the if I can't being content but you've been able to do and And alternate igniting opportunity that you have to make a beginning back. Yeah I would have to say successful that. Yeah your story strikes me because you are it. Sounds like you fit this definition of the idea of an accidental entrepreneur. Do you think if you hadn't built this solves this problem for your blog or friend. Do you think that you would own your own business or do you think you always were destined to do this kind of thing? Even it wasn't bogged fault if something else to the global was not my first venture. I've I've tried in the past. I've had I've looked equally hard those other ventures to and they did not succeed so I would not. I will not say that I was destined for success because I looked equally hard at other on other product and does not necessarily work out. So I'm not saying that I'm had. I would have definitely done something else. Which would have been equally exploited? I don't believe that entrepreneurship is something which is Which has always been almost entirely idea and want to have wanted to make products which which customers people love that. That's that's what gets me joint. Where do when you make things that people use and it's it gives you satisfaction which frankly materials at least for a person like me. Nothing else I think can give. It is what makes me they come into money everyday. Yeah I certainly respect and you shared that. You'RE A happy go lucky. Kinda guy and from the time that we're spending with you in the time before we we clicked record on that that strikes me as a pretty accurate description of you and I wanna go back something to that you said earlier in the show shot around kind of compare it a little bit in contrast with what you're sharing about success and how helping people make newer letter place and if you can you can succeed in. Not that's great but you kind of a little bit lightheartedly. I admit you said it's almost sad in a way how much time and energy you've poured in the blog vault over the years and and I don't share that with you back in a critical way but to kind of ask about. How do you consider the balance? How do you work about balance between need built a very successful company with a with a global audience and its own challenges right? You're getting emails and support calls and business opportunities twenty four hours a day because your clients are all over the world. Do you balance all of that in a way that still enables you to be the kind of happy go lucky guy that you you certainly come across us so I don't have trouble balancing it. I don't think any of my family members Says that the unbalancing any metric at the same time. I think I pretend to workload. How really do I take my vacation send? I have been very fortunate like I've seen because what I've seen the whole world now attending work camps and going and meeting people and doing it Doing things to basically everyone can buy it in different parts of the world I get to see it with a company pays for me to go and actually hang out with people so I don't even remember what the question was struck kind of answered it but you would you. You've lot of lettuce into another area. I'd I'd like to chat with you about in. It's it's about the wordpress community and your involvement in it and been to a lot of word camps. You've got very well known again Tell us a little bit about your involvement with wordpress community. And maybe kind of walk us through your first ideas of hey. I'll make a backup tool to discovering the community that came around or that grew around the software. And so I still remember I. What can I ended like a few years ago to what I have. You been to San Francisco that we used to be while what was considered like the US at that time before they had an official word cameras and item then going to the first French trump from India. That's a big hike and significant a good a good deal of money spent. Can you go there the very? I don't even know what the Hell is going on. You don't know about what. It's coming to this entrepreneur who has to make money and make sure that at least you make back the money spent on the on the fight and everything else. Fortunately don't have to make much money to on that ticket which the community is make shows is ready reasonably priced pro. Will you go in there? And you're trying to have these conversations and trying to sell your product and then I failed miserably because the compact what camp is not about selling and and then you feel miserable. Actually you just feel terrible at the end of it because gone there. You've not met anybody really and you've failed at your mission of it is like okay. I'm going to go there. And get a bunch of customized which which is not any undue now that he's not people like me to do tonight. That's something I'm doing wrong. And then what I did was the next world championships. In Sofia accurate computer via avalon tiered. And that's that's in. The light went out like that was like. That's when I realized that this community is not about you know the those words are all. It's not that I realized after deal with this problem in this is just that I my. I won't even say I might perspective Jen. I realized that I basically made friends. That's the idea of putting like you go there. You will interior and you have all these people are so involved in invokes Prince and it's a celebration and yet part of that celebration and then you'll making friends and over a period of time People get recognize you and everyone is out there trying to help your know more about you and looking back. The Datsun panic. If you can't force adopt dots to connect they don't happen. What about your local community there? You're in India so we're in India are you. I'm in Bangalore a again. I'm not very very involved in the workplace committee. Frankly I'm not involved in very a lot of in any community. I I get off his finish my work. That's all takes most of my time They do have a fairly small company capability. Ragweed have already. I would camp sometime. I think in the next few months in Bangalore's so that's going to be very exciting. I can't take any credit for a couple of wordpress. Need up here but I'm not an active member of the community. Yeah that's not me. Yeah but you sounds like you are in terms of the worldwide community though because your product is all over and so people know you. You've met a lot of people and friends I think through through word camps even if it's not your local community does that's that's the reality of. Yeah yeah that's okay I WanNa ask you about advice. We ask our guests to share with us some advice that they may have received in their life. That's that's made an impression on them and maybe that you've implemented into your life somehow APP. You knew. Think of any advice that you've been given that's helping helpful to you. This is something which I've been thinking for. The past. Huffing are also for what what advice has been given to me which I've implemented you get so many so much advice and invariably what you end up doing is they're not implementing and then you feel pretty terrible about it. This is a Fisher stumped me completely wasn't I received now that's all right. Don't don't feel bad. That's that's the very nature of a hallway. Chad is we catch him off guard and we Johnson so so let me ask you this you. You've been in business for eight years. You you started with an idea and you know now you you've got a very well established highly respected company if you had to try to narrow it down. What would you say has been your biggest challenge in the past eight years in growing Your Business? I think communication is one of the biggest so as not to put on the spot again one of the biggest and then and I think I did this on. Amtra mention the big challenge. I'm not a communicator. Tend to stick by myself Fan Do my own thing and when you building a company. You can't do that when you believe in front of you can't do that. Because Marketing is communication. Everything is communication. And that's one of the big learning stay importance of communication over time and the effect it has. Because you need your team to communicate you need to meet with your team to get you need your team to communicate with everyone and then you need your company to communicate externally because unless you do that communication it's going to is going to hamper you. Yeah you mentioned we mentioned in the intro that that you're growing your team and that that's posed some challenges for you so I'm is your team remote or do they do all work together to be all together. I told you. Communication is a big challenge. I can't imagine booking the mortally because then I think now we see each other and talk to each other at least a bed in. I'm not the kind of person who can deal with remote. I need to see it so at least there is some level of this face to face which leads to recall medication and better interactions. Yeah have you found any? Have you had any lessons anything to share? That has worked for you in terms of communicating. Anything any breakthroughs that you've had or you continuing to struggle with any tools or techniques that you can recommend I think high-grade team members who could do the job better than you so they will ensure that the company gets much better than you do yourself. So that's that's I think that's. That's what has kept US afloat. And that's what is ensuring that we are able to hire more people because I have team members who go ahead and do that put in that. I I enjoy doing that process. I have team members who loves marketing. And who want to reach out to others and try and get out and get the word out about productivity and we have to remember actually communicate with each other and make sure that we are celebrating and things like that. So that's that's the that's the heck fill in gaps and that's my team does make sure that we still in that that one big big hole in a big way. Yeah well that's great advice that you've shared with us so I appreciate that. Thank you so much. Unfortunately we are out of time already. It's been so great chatting with you today Thank you so much for joining us and I know it's a very different time zone so we appreciate your scheduling to work with our schedule as well. Can you tell us where people can find you online right so Thank you thank you Darren. Liam for having me totally enjoyed this conversation. Complacent some of the questions was adviser I start quite badly Finally like financial data again I don't really much I'm also on facebook. So that's the That's you're gonNA find me. It's shot see that's my first name Gtc lasting on. Facebook should such for me. If you are anywhere littered shoot Alpo simply because now my friends on facebook. More than fifty percent are from the community. That's great thanks. We married be friends on facebook. I'm not even sure that's quite possible. Thanks again for joining US and hope to meet you at work camp again because we didn't meet at work camp you asked but I hope to spend more time with you. Excellent seem him. Okay thanks Sean. Real getting to know you. Thanks for your time this evening. Bye Bye thank you again. Bye-bye thanks for listening to the show. Hope you enjoyed it as much as weeded if you like. What we're doing here meeting New People in our wordpress community. We invite you to tell others about it. We're on I tunes. And at HALWAY CHATS DOT com better yet ask wordpress friends and colleagues to join us on the show encourage them to complete the beyond the show form on our site. Tell us about themselves.
Nir Eyal on how to overcome digital distractions and find your focus
"How do you take down criminal network hidden in the shadows? I tell him that. I know that they're the ones who are running the largest child abuse website on the dark net the journalists working to expose the darkest corners of the Internet. That's your playroom for that's your baby's clothes. That's my house. The police ace who hunt down online predators. The environment. They're using no we didn't we didn't make it. They made it hunting. MOORHEAD subscribe wherever you get at your podcasts. This is a CBC DC podcast. Hi I'm Laura Lynch this podcast from the November twenty eight edition of the current. When was the last time you read an entire chapter of a book without a digital distraction or watched just a whole TV show without your attention wandering or even had a deep conversation with a friend without moving? Your is down to your phone on and have you started to find that. Those little distractions happen more and more without any outside ring or Ding at all but from some sort of trigger inside your own head for more and more of US going undistracted is actually becoming a mere memory. It's something that behavioral scientist author and the entrepreneurial near Al wants to help us get back his new book is called indestructible. And he's with us from New York. Hello Hi great to be here. I don't know if you have any listeners. Listeners left after all those pink I thought well because the last time you manage to read a whole chapter without picking up your phone well let me tell you. It took me about five years to regain that skill that's how long it took me to write my last book indestructible which was just published. And the reason. It took me so long to publish. The book is because I kept kept getting distracted. It wasn't until I master these techniques about two or two years ago or so that actually put this into practice and verified for myself that we actually actually can regain control of our attention in our lives by becoming indestructible and we will talk about those techniques person. Ask You about a few other things that I did for example an amnesty Amnesty International report. The other day actually accused tech giant's violating our human rights. The main concerns were about surveillance but the report also talks about this is a quote attentional capture exploitation distracting us to the point that it limits our ability to think clearly and pursue our own goals. I'm wondering what you think of that. Well I wonder who we're talking about exactly are we talking about Fox News and CNN. Or are we talking about the social media companies. Because I think you can apply the exact same logic to all forms of media. There's something we call a news junkie right which is somebody who consumes way too much news even for their own good and look. The fact is any form of media consumed in excess is going to have some harmful consequences That doesn't mean that the media itself is is evil. It means that we need to consume these things in moderation away that serves us as opposed to US serving them. But you do admit distractions big issue absolutely and in fact. Plato said it was a big issue. Twenty five hundred years ago. He called it a tendency that we all have to do things against our interests and and so absolutely it's part of the human condition People have been trying to distract US and eat up our time and attention for their own purposes since time immemorial played it didn't have a smartphone. What was distracting him? Good question what was he complaining about exactly and the fact that matters look if facebook turned off tomorrow of Berg. Said you know what I've got enough money. I'm sick of this. Let's just shut it all down. Do we really think people are going to start reading Shakespeare and chaucer in their spare time of course nine. We'll go back to all the things that used to distract us. The gossip the spectator. Your sports The news all kinds of things can distract us. If we are looking for distraction who is to blame them well. I think the idea is not to be a blamer. He's not to blame blame. The tech companies are to blame the people that are doing it to us. The idea is not to be ashamed. That's the other big bucket of people people who think oh there's something wrong with me. I'm dysfunctional I'm lazy. I have a short attention span. That's not harmful that's not healthy. The idea is to not be a blame her to not be ashamed to be a claimer. A claimer acknowledges that this isn't your fault. You didn't invent the iphone invent email. You didn't invent facebook. It's not your fault but it is your responsibility because these tools are not going away and frankly if these tools are great we can use them to benefit us in all sorts of ways as long as we use them appropriately. Now you did did claim it to earlier here. In in our in our conversation he worked in the tech space for many years. And you say that there have been times when you were not perfectly focused absolutely. I mean that's why I wrote this book. I was patient zero here. I I was very distracting particularly when The busier I got the better. My business did better You know the more people needed me and more emails. I got more phone calls. I received the more destructible I was and so. That's why I wrote. This book was because I wanted to figure this out for myself before I tell anyone else how to do it but I wanted to take the secrets that I had uncovered working as an industry insider to expose the Achilles Heel of distraction and the fact of the matter. Is that every habit performing product to every distraction distracts us for the same reason and that is because we are desperate to feel something different that the role of every product that distracts. You is to help you feel something else. So most distraction when I learned in my five years of research it's not the pins and dings. It's not the external triggers per se. That caused most distraction. But in fact most distraction starts from within us. It's called with an internal trigger so when we're feeling lonely. We check facebook when we're uncertain we google when we're bored we check the news. We look at stock prices. Sports scores scores Pinterest. Read it. We use these tools to help us feel something different. And if we don't acknowledge that fact that the root cause of of distraction. It's not whatever for gadgets in our hands come on. That's two convenient. Excuse the Real Root Cause of distraction is our inability to cope with these uncomfortable. Emotional states you you talk in in the book about a tipping point moment for you that that got you onto the subject. When you're playing with your daughter tell me what happened? Yeah absolutely so really. The the moment when and I knew I had a problem was when I was with my daughter when afternoon and we had a beautiful afternoon planned to just have quality time together and we had this activity book that daddies ladies and daughters could play together and one of the activities in the book was to ask each other this question if you have any superpower what superpower. Where would you want and I remember the question verbatim? But I can't tell you what my daughter said because in that moment I was distracted. I was looking at my phone. I told my daughter. Hold on. Just one SEC doc. I just don't do this one thing. And then a few minutes later. She got the hint. That whatever's on my phone was more important than she was and she left the room to play with toy outside and when I looked up she was gone. I told this story to a friend of mine and he asked that we have daughters of similar age and he actually asked his daughter what superpower she would want and and she said she would want the power to talk to animals and he said That's interesting honey. Why do you want the power to talk to animals? And she says so that when you and Mommy are on your phones I'll have someone someone to talk to. That's pretty crossing. That's pretty crushing right. And to be honest if I told you it only happened with my daughter I'd be lying would would happen when I'd sit down at my desk and try to get some work done and I'd you know get distracted by checking emails or googling something real quick or any number of distractions and so not only only did it affect my personal life. It also affected my professional life. Okay before we go forward with with ways to be indestructible. Let's go back a little bit. What's particularly particularly interesting about you is that you've spent years advising companies about how to get US hooked on APPS and you wrote a book about how to do that called hooked right right exactly? That's that's my Insider perspective and you know the idea here with hooked is. I wanted to reveal the secrets behind. How companies like facebook and twitter and instagram airman? What's happened slack? How they are designed to be so engaging not for their benefit? That's where I stole these secrets. From what the reason I wrote hooked with so that all sorts of businesses can and make their products more engaging so cahoots uses the hooked model to get kids hooked onto in classroom learning FIT body uses the hooked model to help people. We'll get hooked to exercise in the gym every day One of my clients. The New York Times uses the hooked model to get people to read the news and so we can use these hooks for good. I didn't the book for for the social media companies. I've never worked for them. And that's what the companies are doing. The head of Microsoft recommended it to his employees. You said you. You've seen the book at facebook and Google so even if your the goal was more altruistic the ideas are being used by tech to make us feel. We've we've got this tech addiction. Are you surprised by that. Well I take issue with the word addiction I think that the vast majority of people who use these products. They're great right. We only think of the bad cases and the overuse But you know a lot of people benefit myself yourself included. I love facebook. I love instagram. I love you too. They're wonderful I don't want to go back to a world without these tools and so the idea here that we can use them in a healthy way. Now do some people people get addicted. Of course they do but look you know all sorts of products and services addict people. But don't addict everyone. We many of us have a beer once in a while. We're not all alcoholics Alex. Not everyone who has sex a sex addict not everyone who plays poker once in a while is a problem gambler. Why does technology had this special class? I'll tell you why because we are in the grips the moral panic that because it's a new technology we freak out just like we freaked out about the radio and about the novel and about Comic Books About Rap Music. This is the current moral panic of the day. But what you'll see is that while some people do get addicted. The vast majority of people are not addicted and some of US unfortunately are are proposing and and promoting this view that technology is hijacking your brain that it's addicting you that there's nothing you can do about it and that itself is harmful because it it leads to learned helplessness when people believe technology is hijacking their brain. It's addicting everyone. They don't do anything about the problem. And so that's a big reason why I wrote. This book is that I wanted to dispel that myth in order to empower people to turn off these products and services right. That's shut off the television to stop watching so many sports on TV to use facebook looking youtube less. If it's not serving them now I'd like to help us understand the key to the idea in hooked so we can take it to the next stage. The hooked model title. So I WANNA walk through it with you imagining that that we're on facebook and then this happens if you get one of these things or Ding. That's what's called an external external trigger and that external trigger. Prompts you to action. The second step of the hooked model is to make do some kind of action. Open the APP scroll of feed push the play button. Whatever the case might be then the third step is the variable reward where you have some kind of uncertainty around what you might find so when it's opening up the the FACEBOOK APP it's a scrolling that feed on instagram or facebook or if it's turning on the television right why do we watch the news? Why do we tune into the radio? It's all about uncertainty. Not We want to know what we don't know it's all about that. Variable reward. Is that third step. And then the fourth step is the investment phase where we put something into the product talked to improve it with us so that could be data content followers reputation. Anything that makes the product better and better with use so that through successive cycles by using using the product over and over again the product actually improves and is catered just to us in our interest and we get invested. That's right okay. So that model that we see everywhere everywhere the recipe for keeping Hook store devices and keeping US distracted from doing our work. No distraction is not the same thing as engagement so the definition of distraction is something that you that takes you off track so the opposite of distraction is not focused. The Opposite of Distraction is Traction Traction and distraction distraction both come from the same Latin root for Haro which means to pull and so- traction is any action you plan to do with intent. The Opposite of Traction is distraction subtraction. So if you want to check facebook if that is something you plan to do with your time. It is not a distraction. It is traction. There's nothing wrong with it. There's nothing morally inferior to checking facebook versus watching the television or listening to the radio. If that's what you want to do with your time enjoy it however if you plan to do one thing like when I was with my daughter and I plan to be with her and now. I'm checking my phone. Well that's now a distraction okay. You've set it up really well breakdown this theory from the book and how do we become indestructible sure. So the first step is to master these internal triggers that we have to realize that everything is a distraction if that everything that is a distraction action is prompted by this desire to escape discomfort so we need tools. We don't have from any of us. We don't have the proper Arrows in our quiver to US news when we feel down right when we feel uncomfortable emotional states and there's nothing bad about feeling bad by the way it is part of our evolutionary heritage feeling bored feeling Perturbed feeling anxious fearful. This is what helped our species survive so we can harness that power. We shouldn't beat ourselves up. We shouldn't shame ourselves as we shouldn't blame these outside factors we should take responsibility for them and find better ways to deal with this comfort in health aways as opposed to harmful ways. So that's all all about mastering the internal triggers and I draw on fifty years of psychology to explain exactly how to do that and we did so we don't need to throw away our smartphones. That's not what the separately not absolutely not and I think that's very elitist solution. You know a lot of tech critics. That don't have a social media account. Well they say well everybody just throw away their devices. You'll get fired if you stop using email people's livelihoods depend depend on these technologies. Why should we stop using them? They're wonderful now they are. I think it's important to realize that when it comes to social networks in particular they are not every placement for real world interaction they should be a supplement. We still need real world interaction but as long as it's a supplement and not a replacement. They're perfectly fine. They're great two us if we know that we use them on our schedule and according to our values not according to the APP makers as you mentioned you have techniques in the book to help us stay on focus. What is one that people find most immediately youthful planning your day? So here's the thing. I interviewed hundreds of people. Many of them are masters of mastering distraction and many of them were terrible and mastering distraction and a common trait among everyone. Who was good at putting distraction? It's place didn't get distracted throughout throughout the day is that they made a schedule. Turns out two thirds of Americans do not keep any sort of counter. I imagine something similar in Canada as well and so this is this is really really a folly here because if you think about it how can you call something a distraction. If you don't know what it distracted you from big white space in your day. You're not gonNA write that novel. You're not going to go exercise you're not going to do these highfalutin things that you plan to do. You're going to get distracted. The news will distract you. Your phone will distract your kids. Your spouse your boss. Something is going to plan your day. If you don't decide what you want to do with it but I make lists well lists aren't the same schedules. I used to do that too. I used to have a to do list of over one hundred things that I'd WanNa do every day and I'd have a wonderfully productive day and I do five of them and then I'd still look at my to do list and say oh my goodness I still have ninety ninety five more things to do and that feels horrible. Yeah when you plan your day so the list of is your output but you have to of course plan the input put the input. Is your time so the gift i WanNa give everyone listening. Is this amazing. Feeling when you get to the end of your day and you have done exactly what you plan to you on your calendar and then at the end of the day you can enjoy yourself you can watch television. You can watch a football game. You can read the news. You can go on twitter or facebook or youtube without guilt guilt without feeling like you constantly need to be doing something else but that only comes from planning your time not the task so tell me what it looks like near Planet Planning but what is your schedule. How do you have to do this? It's not a list. What does it look like so you want to make a list where we start with our values so values are the attributes of the person we want to become and so we start by taking a template of the week ahead and so we can do this with any calendering tool you can even do this with pen and paper so you look at the week ahead head and you start with your values starting with what I call the U. Domain? The domain says we have to take care of ourselves before we can take care of others so look at that calendar the week ahead and ask yourself where is the time for proper rest. Where is the time for prayer meditation? Whatever you need to take care of yourself itself? Is that time in your calendar. And I'm not telling you what your values should be. I want to help you live out. Whatever you're values are so the idea here is to turn your values into time? You have time for physical fitness if that's one of your values. Do you have time for proper rest meditation. Whatever it might be? That's important to you. Put that time in your schedule. I then the next domain Alamein is the relationship domain. You know how many of us we see our friends and say Oh yeah we should get We should get lunch sometime. We should have coffee. Come on. It doesn't happen part of the reason that we are suffering through this. Loneliness epidemic is that our social institutions. The club the Bowling League the Church Group. People don't go to these things as much as they used to. Which means they? Don't hold the place ace on our calendar. So if your friends are important to you put a regular time on your calendar for them whether it's going out for beers on a Friday or bowling or whatever it is put that that time on their calendar on your calendar for them as well as for your spouse for your kids plan that time in advance and then finally the work domain so of course we have to have a set period of time when we plan to check email. Don't just check email all day long when you feel stressed or anxious because you're letting those internal triggers get the best of you plan time. I'm in your day to go through those emails and as long as you plan that time it's great. You've turned it into traction rather than distraction and then finally make sure you plan time for focus. You know many people. Today we are constantly reacting to messages reacting to emails reacting to two meetings when we don't have any time for reflection so that time is where we are our most creative where we do our best work. You have got to guard that time on your schedule as well and then once you have that time doc schedule when you you filled in your day now you have a template doesn't mean you need to religiously follow it and if you fall off track your bad person. No you hit rate on the schedule from week to week take to improve it and make it easier to follow. I add host of ideas. Join me on a deep dive into contemporary I thought and intellectual history at ideas. We explore everything from the roots of totalitarianism to the evolution of Denim. No topic is off limits. It's each episode cracks open concept to see how it's played out over place in time and shows why it still matters today. Subscribe to ideas on the CBC ABC LISTEN APP or wherever you get your podcasts. I can see how people would be more productive in their work but where else in our lives. DC distraction the big problem. Oh I think when it comes to social interactions. I think we see this quite a bit. I mean how many times have you been to lunch or dinner with some friends and someone around the table. Insist on using their device and now they're physically present but they're mentally somewhere else. I mean how annoying is that. Here's the thing you know. I'm so glad you said that because we are learning as a society that that is rude but not everybody has gotten the message and so I think what's happening is something that we've experienced before I remember as a kid head in the early nineteen eighties. You would walk into people's homes and they would just take the liberty to light up a cigarette in your living room right people people when they visited they would just light a cigarette. I remember we had these. These ashtrays all over our house even though my parents didn't smoke because people expected the privilege of smoking in your living room. Can you imagine if someone came to your home and just lit up a cigarette without asking. That would be very rude not anymore. What changed almost unimaginable unimaginable? Today will what change range was legislation. No there's no law that says you can't smoke in someone's private residence. What changed is the norms? The manners and so I remember when my mother told per people. I'm sorry we don't smoke. You have to smoke outside. You can't smoke in our house. She lost friends over that. That was a really controversial. Social thing to do back in the one thousand nine hundred will today. Of course that's common. It'd be rude to think you could smoke in someone's house and that's exactly the same thing that is happening today when it comes to spreading what we call social antibodies around the proper use of technology in social circumstances. So here's a quick tool that I can. I can give you a quick tip when you see someone checking their device in a social circumstance right when they're around the table and you're trying to have dinner with them you can't say hey get off your phone you can't. You'RE GONNA lose a friend that way and I might do that. You know but we also don't know on the other side of the screen right. Maybe it's an emergency. Maybe someone's child is sick you. We don't know what they might. I'd be responding to. So here's what we here's how we keep our sanity and our friends. We asked them sincerely we look at them and say I see. You're on your phone. Is Everything Okay and by asking them that question sincerely you know not knowing what might be on the other side of that screen. They'll either one of two things either. They'll say oh my gosh. I'm so sorry. I had this emergency urgency. I need to go take care of it. Or they'll get the hint and say oh. Sorry they'll put away the the phone so the idea is to snap them into this moment of realizing what they're doing in in order to spread these social antibodies. And that's really why I wrote. This book is that I think we really can do this. We can adopt these new behaviors that help us spread the social. Antibodies bodies to ferret out these antisocial behaviors. What what are the consequences then to our lives beyond the obvious if we don't learn to become indestructible well? Well I think that the world is bifurcating into two types of people There are other people who allow their time and attention in their life frankly to be controlled and manipulated by other forces whether it's forces in the media whether it's Their bosses their kids their spouse other people telling them what to do with their time and attention versus people who say no I I choose what I do with my time and my attention my life because I have decided in advance what I want to do with my time. This is going to go back to your assertion that it's not big technology ag companies. That are hijacking our minds that it's our responsibility to train our attention because that may have been true a decade ago before smartphones were ubiquitous but hadn't something qualitatively qualitatively changed. Well certainly technology is more pervasive and more persuasive than ever. But that doesn't mean we can't overcome it. I mean and let me give you a very simple example. Two thirds of people with a smartphone never change their notification settings. What thirds sears sleep? Can we say that technology is so addictive. It's so hijacking our brain when we have it turned off those stupid notification settings we keep getting. Why do we need every renews alert? Why do we need facebook to constantly pinging us and guess? What if you turn off? The notification settings Zuckerberg can't turn back on. Google can't turn them back on. It takes seconds seconds to do and yet so few people actually do it so the question in my mind having published this book telling you exactly how to regain your attention in your life. The question in my mind right right now is do people want to. Just keep complaining about this problem or do they actually want to do something about it. I turned off my notifications. I'm a good person that way. I'm not saying it's a turnoff. Every occasion quite the opposite. The question to ask yourself is is this external trigger serving me or my serving it so if the external trigger of the Pinger Ding is helping reminds you. Hey it's time to meditate. It's time for that workout. It's time for that meeting. Whatever it might be helping you? If it's serving you wonderful. Keep it on but all those external triggers pink things that aren't serving you turn them off for God's sakes absolutely absolutely I'm with you all right. You've sold me. Thank you very much for the conversation. It's been really interesting and I haven't looked at my phone once awesome being indestructible that's great near Aol's new book is called indestructible. How to control your attention and choose your life? He was in New York City. And if you want another practical radical tip from near about becoming indestructible we'll share what he has to say about email on our twitter feed at the current C._B._C.. For More C._B._C.. PODCASTS GO TO C._B._C.. Dot C._A. Slash podcasts.
UFYB 94: Thought Avoidance
"Fuck your rain. The only podcast i tasked teaches you how to use psychology feminism and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you like and now here's your host harvard law school brad them innisbrook star and master coach harlow dial no much again. I am fired up today and want to share this amazing idea with you so i cannot take credit for this. Well woah. I take credit for creating the framework. No said genius idea that one of my clutch members habit you can also use to there. Are i have to say like there are so own. Many brilliant ideas coming up in that group like having so many women thinking about the work and applying in talking to each other is just exponentially creating more like like learning and growth but even just amazing ideas that didn't even occur to me to show podcast right. I mean that didn't occur to me at all so this one's really fun fun and i think it will be really useful for a lot of you so i wanna share it and i of course got permission so you may remember i didn't episode recently on multitasking and the productivity rate and i teach in that episode about how you have to schedule blocks of time for what you're going to do turn off your notifications social social media slack email calendar alerts all that stuff and then you have to work on allowing the urges to go look at those things right because even if they're turned off. Your brain is like what's on facebook what's on instagram. What's on slack. Maybe we've an email rates. You have to allow the urges to do that so one of my clutch students whose name is lauren pinger finger. Hopefully i pronounce that right. Had this idea she posted it in the fees are group's. Oh god and there's so many ideas in there we also have you are listening to this and you're a clutch member are who shared an idea and i'm not talking about on the podcast there many of you. That doesn't mean that your ideas aren't amazing. There's so many good ideas in there but i just think this one at a caught my hi and it's so easy to use for anyone who's listening to the podcast so this lauren's idea what she did was she got like a cheap frame and she <music> printed up a quote. She likes or just a word. I forget what she is somebody else i think to to quote they liked but anyway. You just put us a frame but you would also just use a sheet of paper it. It doesn't matter you just get something that you can put stickers on and put on your desk and then when she's working every time she has has an urge to distract herself rate either because it's just like a habituated urge or because she wants to procrastinate because her brain is telling her you know she's not not good enough to work a stupid. Somebody'll think about thing about her. Whatever it is every time she wants to procrastinate or do something else and she allows it and stays on task. Yes she gives herself. A little sticker says she liked puts a little sticker on the frame or the photo of the quota the piece of paper however you wanna do it at so brilliant because giving it yourself sticker does like take you away from your work for twenty seconds or whatever but it's a pretty effective hack to redirect your brains desire for dopamine and give yourself yourself a little reward every time you modify your behavior right and then as the stickers build up you are accumulating experience allowing urges and you have visual evidence evidence that you're good at this and you can do it right so i think that that's simple and brilliant and you could all do it today and it would be super useful and he's so smart i mean i've obviously i always learned from coaching and talking to my students. It's one of the reasons i love this job but having the clutches really scale that up in so many ways and it's just so fun one to see all of your different amazing brains taken the work and synthesize it and come up with ways of doing it and new ideas that didn't even occur automate so fun okay so give that a try see what you think. I am another great suggestion for you but you have to listen to him podcast to hear it. It can also before we get there. That's the dessert after dinner. Let's talk about thought avoidance. It's all the desert everything. I'm giving you is delightful. Let's talk about thought avoidance so i was on vacation recently. I spent a few days by myself in a house in the woods. Basically there was the town like i went into town but as you probably picked up on all right i'm usually a city girl. I do not really like to camp. I do not like being bitten by bugs. I have made peace with these preferences. They're just thoughts. I could change them if i wanted to but i am not ambassador jim pay but has been like a really intense year sure it's really been like a pretty intense three years since i launched this little juggernaut of a gouging business that good and i actually kinda craving some peace and quiet so oh. Tom's cabin had soaking tub. I have a whole bathtub thing and screened in porch which is like now. I understand what heaven is is a screened in porch so you can kind kind of outside and bugs can do and while i was hanging out of my own for few days you can imagine i had a lot of time to observe my own brain so one of the the things that i just love about this kind of example or experience is it's so striking to me that before i discovered thought working before i manage my mind. I didn't even want to take a car drive by myself. Rate like i had to have had cast queued up or specific kinds of music like i was so afraid to be alone with my own mind. I did not want to be alone with my own thoughts because they were so painful and now i'm like all i wanna do is for everyone to go away. Leave me alone for a few days so that i can just be with myself my own brain right. That's what it is. When you like truly your best friend and there's no thought or feeling you're not willing to have of. It's almost like you start to crave the space for that. You know the same way. If you like a good friend that you don't get to see that often or your partner if you don't connect to them for a while while you start to feel kind of disconnected and you wanna spend some time with them right and cannot of course it's caused by your thoughts but we get caught up in the daily bustle life it really means is you haven't stopped like think about them and appreciate them. Connect to them in your mind so often we you know we think we need the physical time with them to do that. We think we do we don't but you know that's how we live. Our lives usually and the same thing kind of happens now from my relationship with myself like if i have not had enough enough quiet time with myself to lake check in with myself in here what's going on with me and pay attention to my thoughts and like just be with myself. If i start to feel that same disconnection in that same lack you know i would if it was somebody external that i loved so i just find that really beautiful right not just just the willingness to be along with ourselves which a lot of us don't have but actually the desire to the desire to be alone with myself without distractions so anyway. I was obviously observing my own brain. I was very consciously. Not working ryan's vacations but of course for me because i have done this work so consistently and not just because i'm a professional coach i see my students in the clutch who really commit to the two experiences also it's kind of impossible not to notice my thoughts and observe my brain rain now because it's just kind of automatic rate so it's very difficult for me to be in a default state of just believing whatever i think and feeling all over the place like i used do because your brain learns a habit like anything else in my brain has learned the habit to pay attention to itself right definitely not born this way but because i practiced over and over ever so hang out as reading as napping noticing my brain and one of the things that i noticed was something that sort of seen out of the corner of my eye before four but hadn't really focused on and that is what i am teaching you about today. That's a phenomenon. I call thought avoidance hey because as i i started to notice this in my own brain start to think about it. I realised it's actually a huge issue in thought work right one of the things i work with my students. All the time is how to actually practice new thoughts and i talk about this on the podcast all the time to rate. It's one thing to understand. Conceptually that what we can change our thoughts that is kind of mind blowing and sometimes it's hard to understand but it makes sense theoretically at an abstract level right. It's one we actually work on changing the thoughts that the rubber meets the road. We discover how challenging that can be and one of the things we do that makes it it ten times worse for ourselves. Is we engage in thought avoidance and most of the time. We don't even know what we're doing. Which is what makes it even harder harder to spot so today. I'm gonna explain to you what thought avoidance is and how you can tell when you're doing it plus obviously what to do to change it so when we are wanting to change a thought we have a current thought that we want to change right like we have the current thought we want change it and the thought is usually negative especially when we're starting out with the arc. That doesn't have to be the case right as we get more advanced. We start to see that we have. I thought that might feel good but that we actually want to change because they're holding us back in some way took a thought tow but that's like advanced level so for the purposes of this episode used assume it's a negative thought that you want to change and thought avoidance is really only problem when we have a negative thought we don't wanna have if we have a thought that we think feels good and may feel good but it's holding us back in some way we're not usually avoiding that thought in fact we think it a lot because it feels good so thought avoidance indi- is really only a problem when we have a thought we think is negative and we don't wanna half right so we decide. We wanna change. The thought we come up with our new thought. The practice like we're all committed. The old thought comes up now. We're prepared for this rate. We know what's going to happen of course old thoughts. Come up that neural circuits get still exists but what happens is we are so desperate to change our thought that we try to run away from the old thought before. It's even really gotten out and this can happen. I think either with thought that we are very familiar with and trying to change or a new thought that our our brain comes up with that is negative that were scared of ram to give you an example of that in a minute see think of it like when someone's talking to you and you interrupt them before where they can finish the sentence or even the first word rate. That's what thought avoidance is like you start to think about you. Don't make and before you can even finish it you try to drown it out by thinking and other thought right or you like yenk the steering wheel your brain away and try to drive in a different direction and i find often. This has has a kind of frantic feeling to it. There's an urgency to it. You feel kind of agitated right. You're really trying to change that thought immediately before can even finish in your brain green which happens in a split second. Here's an example of how this happened to me. Recently i have had talked on the podcast before about having kind of chronic pain enright being hyper mobile having loose ligaments and so parts of my body click clack and out of place right crepe pain and in addition to that i've had a specifically weird kind of legs strain and pain one walking and running for a literal years. It's been a decade on-off and it would come and go but i could never get rid of it for good and i went to the doctors. I got every kind of body work. You can imagine like i really had tried everything i thought and and then recently my massage therapist released my so as which is the one of the big muscles connects the upper and lower parts of your body and it solve the problem we you basically took care of the problem not permanently. I have to keep getting it done but it was like we finally found the actual source of the problem and could correct so i was thrilled for five minutes and then because i have a human brain like you. This is what my brain started thinking about. I can't believe it took ten years to diagnose snow's this. I can't believe you wasted a decade. You could have been moving without pain this whole time you run marathons. You would be a sized sized to your whole. Life would be different. You'd be blissfully happy. You'd be married to billionaire like my brain was just like off to the races with how everything would be different in my life life if i had known about the so as thing earlier right so crazy brains but what i noticed was that that started it happening in my brain and then i was so freaked out by those thoughts that i didn't even want to let them in the door. I was afraid to have those thoughts right. I didn't want want to have those thoughts because i was afraid of how it would feel if i had them is afraid that if i actually allowed those thoughts that i would believe them and feel bad ad so i was trying to cut myself off right and change that thought immediately i actually have seen a mean going around that sounds empowering but i actually actually think is not problematic like not in the political sense. I just mean is not helpful. It says something like i literally cut myself off in the middle of negative. If thinking like girl we don't have time for that says little complicated because when you have a thought pattern you're super familiar with and you already truly no. It's just a thought and you're working on changing it. You're not agitated about it then yes sometimes when your brains like when my brain starts going like whenever i go run my brain is i don't do it. It's hard it will hurt. Let's stay stay home. It's doing great and i'm like no just stop because i don't have a lot of emotion their rates so sometimes that does work but when there's a lot of emotion associated with a thought like when you're afraid to think it or you're you're agitated when it comes up when getaway from it cutting yourself off is not a good idea right. It's like your ad an awkward party and you're trying to avoid someone so you don't make eye contact. You don't look at that part of the room. You try to speed walk past them rate. That's what i was doing so. I just jumped to trying to think everything that i've experienced had to happen to allow this to unfold right. I like went to a trying to go too fast to positive thought i was afraid to think thank those thoughts about how i had wasted a decade and whatever whatever right but it didn't feel good like that thought did not bring me peace i felt kinda agitated -tated and a little bit freaked out as because i was avoiding the original thoughts right. I was resisting it. I was trying to not even acknowledge. It was there air because i didn't want it to be there. I didn't wanna think about it because i was afraid. It was quote unquote true right or that i believed at that i would feel terrible so what was the happening as i was believing that thought had some power and was dangerous to me when of course it didn't it's just a thought is just a sentence in my mind right. The thoughts are only powerful when you believe them act on them and don't examine them just having one float through your mind even just believing one that dangerous right. It's not a problem. It's just thought is only a problem when you decide. It's a problem and you go into thought avoidance mode and then you make it a problem by i ignoring it and resisting it and trying to run away from it and trying to jump to thinking something you don't believe so. I want you to think about if you're listening to this weather. There's a thought thought in your life that you're avoiding. There may be one. There may be ten right like. Is there a thought your life that you don't wanna look directly and you're trying to skip over. What is that thought and you're in the clutch. I wanted to share your answer in the facebook group and discuss it. What are the thoughts that you are trying to avoid because when you do that you're giving your thought this unconscious power and that actually makes it impossible to change it. We can only truly change our thoughts when we actually understand dan. An internal is that they are thoughts. They're not circumstances. They're not feeling they're not actions. They're not reality. They're not objective truth. They're not just reports from the outside world made they're just thoughts. They're just sentences in our mind. They're not dangerous but when we tell ourselves it's a problem to think a certain thought right. We shouldn't think it or it's bad to think it or it's dangerous to think it. We don't want to think it. We don't feel the way we'd feel if we thought it that's that's when we go into thought avoidance and that means we never look at squarely in the eye and so we can never change it right. This is why thought avoidance is a problem not not only does it feel terrible but actually it makes it impossible to change the thought so what you think about something in your house. That was broken realty. Your fridge stops working. You don't know why how well would you be able to fix it. If you refuse to ever look directly at the fridge. You didn't open up the fridge you just saw it wasn't working and you try to like rush by it and like put your hand out so it couldn't talk to you right or just kind of waved at it from across the room and then inverted your is like that wouldn't fix the fridge. You've no idea what's going going on in there. You don't know why it's broken. You don't know what you can do to solve it right. It's not how you fix a fridge and that's not how you change a thought. If you don't ever stop long enough off to acknowledge an observer thought and look directly in the face and make eye contact with it you'll never be able to change it because the ability to change a thought ought is only derived from accepting that it is thought that it's just a thought. It's totally optional. It's merely a sentence in your mind when when you are in thought avoidance mode you won't sit still and be present with the thought you won't make eye contact. You won't look at it directly and that gives it so much power over you right. You make it something dangerous. You have to avoid which is the opposite of the truth. Which is that's totally harmless right. We cannot not change things. We don't accept if you do not accept an observer thought and allow it. There's no way for you to change it because you don't get to know it. You can't actually look at it. It see what's going on see. That's really thought than cheech it as long as you're believing that it's this true thing that's dangerous to think you're never gonna be able to actually really focus on it. Bring your awareness to it and get that a ha moment where you see that it's actually just an optional thought so if you're finding it hard to shift of thought and you feel agitated agitated about it the odds are you don't actually know it's thought right. You think it's a true circumstance or you sort of know. It's a thought but you are afraid to have the feelings feelings. You would have like you think that that would make it true or that. That would be unpleasant so you're in thought avoidance trying to get away from your thought and it's never going to work. You cannot avoid the thoughts. You have to allow them. You have to allow them to be in your brain. Notice them observe them. That's when you'll be able to start shifting them right. 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Transition from childhood to teen, contending with adult authority and all the other goodies that come with raising teenagers with new York Times Bestselling Author, psychologist Lisa Damour, PhD.
"The following podcast is a deer media production. Hello and welcome to raising good humans. I'm Dr Eliezer pressman and I am really delighted to have with us. Dr Lisa d'amour who's a clinical psychologist and teen girl expert who has written to New York Times. bestselling books one is untangled. Guiding teenage girls through this seven transitions into adulthood and the other is under your pressure confronting the epidemic of stress and anxiety and girls. These are fantastic. Books that can really help help navigate a difficult time period and a generic knowledge that for the most part development development and the differences between boys and girls is while it may seem wildly. Vast is quite small so I can imagine some of you wondering why I keep having separate episodes based on boys or girls and I will have another few of those actually coming up and it's because there is really great research out there and there are some great practitioners who have really focused on some of the nuance differences. And I think whether you're raising a boy or a girl or a gender non binary kid you can get a lot out of these episodes because our kids are not being raised in a vacuum and they do need to understand each other and we need to understand them so I encourage listeners. Who didn't think they wanted to hear about teen girls to consider that? Even if you don't have one your child will definitely have many teenage girls to interact with breath and so knowing how to guide them will serve all of you and also because so much of this is applicable to all teams. Not just girls. In fact this episode code is talking a lot about some of the transitions to adulthood that. You may notice as early as fifth grade where kids are kind of pulling back a bed or separating from the family a unit and prep starting to IRA will or say something rude kind of know everything so we're GonNa talk about the healthy version. The the maladaptive versions of parting with childhood the healthy and unhealthy versions of staying connected. And we're going to discuss a lot of the emotional life of a teenager and how to respond to what can be quite a challenging new era of elevated emotions will call them. You can how to respond to them so I think you'll get a lot out of this. I certainly hope you do. And what I think is most helpful is truly how normalizing this conversation is. And what I love about. Lisa's bucks. It really does normalize what can feel like a very very abnormal interaction. Were parents can tend to get a little bit uncomfortable with how out of control. It all feels so. I hope if you enjoy this episode from me I think parents realized they have a teenager on their hands. When she doesn't want WanNa be treated like a little girl anymore doesn't Wanna be called her little girl name doesn't WanNa tell them all the same things that she used to and by name? I mean nickname. You know often we have sort of honey johny bonner fuzzy duck or something like that and girls will go from being completely okay to that too bristling at that especially in front of their friends and often the real signed Signed to a parent. That things have shifted is that girls will close their bedroom doors that they will go in their rooms and close their door for really long in time and and I think almost invariably to do exactly what they used to do with the door wide open and this for parents I think comes as a real shock because it's often very much an overnight phenomenon and they usually don't see it coming and part of why they don't usually see it coming. I've come I'm to appreciate is that I think it happens a lot earlier than parents are expecting. I think parents feel like okay teenager thirteen. I've got until she's thirteen. But that's actually not what we psychologists believe. We've always understood. That adolescence begins eleven. And it's really quite a bit more typical that it's around ages ten or eleven fifth or sixth grade where girls suddenly push away things that they see babyish childlike including what it used to be the same intimate relationship. They had with their parents in the past. which is not to say? There's not a lot of intimacy left and to come but parents detect a very distinct shift. I think around this time and I want to get back to what you just said about is adolescent things you know. Good luck with your girls and it's so negative and I like how you frame it it in a totally different way that that was actually a big part of I felt I wanted to write. UNTANGLED is that it's so easy for people to adopt a kind of unkind stance towards teenage girls. You know they're very easy target and I think some of it may be because this rejection feels personal which it's not who knows what really drives the negativity but my aim in writing untangled was to take all of the stuff that teenage girls do which is not easy stuff I I mean. I don't sugar coat. The complexity of this and to help parents have a way to understand it from their daughters developmental perspective. And what I say to parents often is look. Adolescence is not something your daughter is doing to you. It is a series of developmental achievements. She needs to make and you get caught up in this. You get pulled into this. You may not always enjoy this. But it's actually much more about her advancing dancing development than it is about her trying to hurt or reject you the number one thing to do is to not take it personally to appreciate that. She is underway with beginning to sort out the reality that she's not gonNa live at home together which I think Don's on children at around around age eleven twelve. I think that's a fairly stunning awareness that starts to hit them that they've already lived at home twice as long as they're probably GonNa continue to live at home and that she is experimenting with being separate from them and the way I often think think about this. Is that when kids hole up in their room. I often think they're treating it as like a practice apartment. They're going to go live in there and they're going to conduct their fifth and sixth sixth grade. Seventh grade lives. You know somewhat independently to experiment with being distant and You will be the landlord who inexplicably knocks from time to time and and I think that's what's so funny about this moment developmentally and I've lived a mom to your child. She's been in there for hours. And you knock on the door and there's a long pause and then she goes. Yeah you say can come in. And then there's another long pause and she's like Okay and it's such a funny shift in the in the relationship but the way I sometimes size this up is to think well okay. Let's consider the alternative. The alternative would be that your daughter stays as close and cuddly with you as she ever was through ten eleven twelve thirteen fourteen fifteen sixteen seventeen eighteen then one day looks up and says Oh. It's time for me to go here. I go and makes this abrupt departure so I actually prefer to cast it as girls practice moving out by moving into their room apartments and then after doing that for a while and experimenting with what it feels like to be separate they eventually do move out. What if there isn't some kind of distant saying that might feel yummy and delicious? But it's not good for them. It's worrisome for me when I hear that there's been no space created between a girl and her parents. I have the honour of consulting two days a week at a girl school in my community and and we watch girls Dell's over time because the school goes from pre primary through grade twelve and we will sometimes say about a girl like she's Great Bill. Where's her spice you know? She's she's getting along with all the grownups she sweet as can be. But she's now a ninth grader and she's got no spy center like where's where's her cynicism. Where's her rejection of us? Where's her you know her? Willingness to to call us on the carpet. That's we'd like to see that it's a sign of a good healthy development development and if it's not showing I would be curious about where it is why why it's not showing up I remember Pinger practice and no. This isn't untangled and I had a seventeen year old girl who was on the older edge of seventeen almost eighteen and she came in date I was evaluating. Her is getting to know her and she said I tell my mom everything and she was offering it as though I would think that was a good sign and I said you do in and I I just I was surprised by that. So we WANNA see growth and the reason we want to see it is that they need to actually strengthen their ties to everyone else and part of what that involves loosening their ties at home. We know we're going to get pushed back. which is separate from we also we have to have boundaries and I love your boundaries metaphor so I think I'm looking for that? Is it the swimming pool metaphor. You're thinking about I am and I don't know if this is the right time for but yeah yeah. It's very much at the heart of the partying childhood and understanding that so so the metaphor is this your daughter. It is in this metaphor. She's swimmer. The water is the world and you are the pool you the parent or the pool that holds the whole thing together and your daughter talk. All swimmers just wants to be out in the water. She wants to be out playing. She wants to be where the other swimmers are. She wants to be gaining strength. She wants to be having fun. And what this feels like and looks like in family life is that she is completely absorbed in her universe and may or may not even acknowledge you or speak to you very much for days at a time and then what happens is that something goes wrong. She becomes completely exhausted or she gets dunked or something goes wrong that causes her to feel overwhelmed and what she does is in those moments she comes scrambling for the wall. and that's you to cling to the wall to catch her breath and and I think that what this often looks like and family life is the parent who feels heard rejected a missing basing their child. Suddenly their daughter is talking to them Telling them things often quite upset in the moment but there's often even a physical component component where she is cuddling or climbing in bed with the parent or something draping herself on her mother and though the girl is upset often the parents experiences. He's just like yeah. We're together again. You're telling me things and then so back to the girl. I think what often happens for the girl is what often happens for kids at swim lessons where they're learning how to swim and they're like oh I'm drowning I'm trying I'm drowning. And they get to the wall and then a few minutes later they'll never mind. I'm fine totally fine and so I I think that's what happens to the girl. She gets her back and then she is like. Oh my goodness I am clinging to the wall like a baby. You know this is really you you know regressive and embarrassing for me and so she shoves off. She pushes away from the pack very aggressively to get back into the water. And so what. This this looks like is the daughter shifting the moment from being this intimate lovely connected moment to saying something that can often feel to the parent like a real kick to to the God. Like okay we. Did you wear that outfit today out or something like that and and the parents experience is that does huge distances accomplished all at once which is exactly what the girl had in mind but it's very it. It can be kind of a whiplash moment for the parent of going from. I haven't seen you now. Now you're telling me everything tonight. You're giving me a hard time and in sharing this metaphor. My name is not to give parents away to prevent this interaction action. I actually don't think it's preventable. I actually don't think we want to prevent it. We want our earls to use US right as sources of stability and restoration. The aim for me is to help parents not take it personally which so often happens and to actually help them savor it while it lasts because it can be quick and so if parents know that this isn't going to go on for very long. It actually gives them away to enjoy it. Expect what's coming and the the last thing to say on this is that I don't believe in letting girls be rude to anyone including anyone in their own homes and so you know if a daughter does say something like you you know no fence. Mulamba breath smells really weird. I think it's really important that defense. Say Okay that's not nice and you know it or something along those lines. That doesn't require an extract extract apology or anything like that but but that a line is articulated about what's Okay and not okay right right right and I'm glad you said that because those are two separate things like just because you know to expect something and just because you know what it's about doesn't mean that you need to sit there and violence. Yes yes what you're doing right now is making making a distance between A. It's not exactly. Harnessing emotion is a lifelong process. Yeah I was so excited when Rossi's approached raising good humans to do an endorsement because first of all I would endorse Rossi's all day any day. It's an incredible able company. So this is going to blow your mind. Rossi's are made from repurpose plastic water bottles Rossi's has diverted over thirty five million. That is so incredible. 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Thirteen so I think a lot of France like whoa. We got out of the gate really fast with her acting like a teenager nature. Eleven which I wasn't expecting and here she is at thirteen and meltdowns our nuclear really overwhelming. And it's funny one of the things I think about. What is the thirteen year? Old Girls the great equalizer the kinds of parents who contact me. It doesn't matter how great they are at their jobs. or how much power or wealth. If they have in any other department like a thirteen year old girl totally bring those parents to their knees and it you can tell like I find it like a little bit wonderful. It's way But there's a really powerful moment when teenage girls having a huge emotional experience and the powerful moment is how the parent reacts and whether they react with trying to shut it down or whether they react with fear or whether they react with panic of their own. And it's funny. I jotted off a handout recently recently. About how to manage a meltdown and I it well. It's so funny right. It's so funny and if there's a way I can send it to. If you WANNA link to suit or something. Yeah and so. I tried it on a talk and I thought Oh. Yeah there's something here and its second nine step plan and very rarely should you get past the first three steps and the first step is listened without interrupting and then the second step. Is You know empathize semolina just stinks. I'm so sorry. And then you know the third step I goes from there and this very very mhm systematic tiny step way You know I think the third step. is you know validate distressing. Will you have a right to be upset. You know something like that and and every step of the way a giving what you've done a chance to work and I think this is often how we blow it is that we jump to what is like a six step in. This is like trying to solve the problem and it doesn't matter if we're right and have a great solution if you have not listened. uh-huh offered empathy validated distress supported. That she's upset and needs some help with coping express confidence like she'll sort this out she'll get through it. There's no way she's GonNa take your advice on solutions and throw similar to like the advance version of what you do with young children. Frankly yes so but you just don't think about it that way with a thirteen year old and the treated. That's exactly what you need to be doing. Emily jumped right to solving the problem often because we can handle seeing their distress. Yes and and that's exactly right but it's making us song comfortable that we're trying to make it stop and what's so funny to me about the handout. It's actually extraordinarily simple. I mean it really is. It's nine steps. You know with simple language yet. I think oh I could never have written this twenty five years ago. You know that this really is the simplicity of this really is the upshot of thinking about these things a long time and in very particular ways. But I've I've I've been delighted by how much reach. It's gotten like you know it seems to have really had to had on a very nice happy life zone and so I think okay. Maybe it's been useful in in homes of parents are watching. Their kids have meltdowns at sort of written it up one morning and shared it at a little presentation I was giving and and people were. You know it's funny. You never quite know you're right and you have this experience to in your work like you think about all these different things and you're often just sort of throwing stuff out to see what feels useful and handed it out and I'm GONNA tattooed on my own. I thought. Oh maybe there's something there's I threw it on facebook spoke. I have a professional facebook page. I've put it up on twitter and I mean it's it's seems to have really been what people needed at least in that moment. Well you know it's such. Did you find balance between telling parents. Dakhli blueprint of how to respond and giving them tools to to those experiences and think about it in different ways and Sometimes it it feels wrong to say. Here's the nine step plan for night respond and yet it is. It's not a it's not because you're saying you have to do this to have healthy outcomes. You're just saying like I find this helpful. Give this a try and it's it's still come creed and sometimes we you know. WE'RE AFRAID TO BE SUPER for concrete because somehow that seems too prescriptive but it really is such a helpful and well thought out simple simple to follow list. especially if you're no you tattoo at your arm you think to yourself like when I can go to this place. It's a list. You can check your own emotions because you can't check your own emotions when you're having those reactions you're not gonna be able to do anything for your team. Well that's That's exactly right and I don't think I thought about it this way. Which is we can understand theoretically that teenage girls have meltdowns? And that's normal expectable but when it's happening it's pretty upsetting thing and so having kind of concrete guide may actually be the most useful thing even if theoretically deal understand the Senate accept it and I. I think that that may be why. It's seems to be hitting you know kind of the right tone for families. How about talking about contending with adults authority and also also if they're not contending with adult authority how you can kind of help them along a lot of the other things I'd treat in untangled? I do think they've been taken up elsewhere. You know the kids like to be independent and they get emotional. And and all that and I really felt like I hadn't seen anyone talk talk about the fact that in the course of normal development they questioned authority because that is a sign of healthy development. You know it's often that's cast in this kind of Oh and then you know naughty teenagers. You know Kinda up the establishment with you know but I I love this about teenagers and I think this is why I'm so drawn to for them is that they arrive at a moment and I would say fourteen is pretty often. You know when you're likely to see this moment where the scales fall away. The scales of childhood fall away and they suddenly see through grownups with x Ray Vision and a lot of like this goes find this very unsettling but I think I kind of compulsively honest person and there's something about teenagers where you can be as a kid and you can be as a grownup and you cannot get anything passed a teenager like they will see it and know it and call it for what it is and and so this gives rise to them suddenly looking around at the like kidding me like you are in charge. I watch the goofy things you do the things you make you tell me. I'm going to go outside with wet hair and get a cold. That's not true. ooh I can look it up on the Internet. You make stuff all the time you know that they. They suddenly become highly skeptical of our authority and they should they. Should I mean that's that's how they're going to be better than we are. And that's what we want them to be. And so you can hear like this with great excitement and find it really wonderful about teenagers niggers. But it's not so fun to be on the receiving end of their critique especially because they're not always nice and they're often dead on and so it's hard for adults tunnel. Oh how to react to this at times but if we see it as normal and acceptable that's one thing we can do. Another thing and I really mean this. Having the teenager can help you grow and I would say that you're going to have a much better time with your teenager. If you accept that they will see your words and they will tell all about them. You hold them to a standard of doing it in a way. That's at least decent and respectful but the most painful and destructive relationships I've ever witnessed between parent and teenager is when the teenager is pointing out the parents flaws and doing so accurately and the parent cannot not tolerate it continues to flex their authority and will not admit their imperfections. This always ends badly. And so there's a lot of ways we can get it right which is to accept that this is going to happen and then if it's not happening I would wonder why but I would also be open to the fact that it happens on a lot of different domains. Komo were teenagers will come home and talk at length about the shortcomings of their teachers or their coaches or someone else in authority so even if here teenagers and giving you our time it's likely that they are starting to get the drop on other adults and that's what I wanna see. That's is what I want to see this. Contending with Adult Authority often does take the form of pushing boundaries and doing things to grownups. Don't want teenagers to do. And that's normal and acceptable well and we should see it but like you say like that can also go to levels that could have really frightening lasting consequences and so when parents or wear of those things like drugs drinking sacks in a scary driving out of our fear we can get pretty Bossy can say things. Like don't let me catch if you or if I ever catch you or you know I'm GonNa bust you and and hope that our threats keep kids safe and I feel like it's a moment that is completely understandable in terms of where the parents coming from but probably sets things up in a way that's not as useful as it could be because they're the reality is teenagers can pretty much do what they want. They can get away with a lot of stuff and so I always think it's better if we can cast it in terms of the teenagers responsibility to take very good care of themselves and the parent rooting for that. And so I will say girls in any setting in classroom settings and when I get to work with them clinically say look do not worry about getting caught like the grownups are probably not gonNA catch you. Your job is to make sure you don't get hurt and and that's what the focus should be. Are you in situations where something could bad could happen to you. You need to be taken good care of yourself under those conditions and that actually puts the power where it actually sits which is with child and speaks to them as mature and self loving young people which is what we want them to to be and it also positions the parent as an ally in the kid safety so not a cop but actually you know someone who's there to help them along and so what is it appearances to say to their adolescence. Hey you're going to this party on Friday night you and I both know that. That's a house where things can get a little dicey. What's what's the game plan like? How how do I have confidence that you are safe there? And having an honest conversation about what's happening and the parent can say. I'm not sure you're going until you tell me a plan that I feel is viable one for your safety and you know the parent could say at the end of that yeah. I'm not feeling right like you're staying home or the parent could say all right. You've thought it through. You're not gonNA drink. You're going to go with kids. You're driving you know something like that. You've got your your exit. And then the last thing the parents to say is if you get to the party and things get funky call me. I'm coming to get you and and that that in my experience chance is how we actually keep kids safe is that we do not set ourselves up as the the person who's waiting to come down on them and what's interesting is that parents can rightly. Feel that we're seeing this behavior. They acknowledge the tens get into situations that can be and I feel like teenagers are smart. They know the parent can both say a really. Don't want to drinking. I don't feel as safe a worry. that a compromise your judgement and say. I'm well aware there's GONNA be drinking at this party. So how do we strategize that. You don't get caught up in it that those those can live side-by-side and if we're going to help teenagers be safe. We need to acknowledge the realities of what. They must navigate a typical conversation in an in a seventh eighth grade. Household is when the clothing changes drastically about sort of. What's going on with you know like what are you hoping to achieve and you're wearing that but also a judgment about certain looks that are across? Ask The board in every you know everybody else is dressed in a particular way and trying to connect with your child over lake. You know how inappropriate it is not really eager for that conversation. Usually now Okay so here's this is such a wonderful universal difficulty in the homes. uh-huh of families rainy raising teenage daughters. And the thing that we have to try to focus on when our daughter comes comes into the kitchen wearing an outfit that makes us completely uncomfortable. What we need to remember? Is that what that outfit means to her. And what it means to us you are a universe. Apart and our reaction is driven by being Middle Age and middle age we we have a seasoned understanding of sexuality sexual signaling what it means to the world when teenage girls are sending those sexual signals and and then of course we're also like viscerally protective of our daughters and so it is very easy for the most progressive feminist. Love your body mom To see her daughter a pair of shorts and be like oo alright and and so. That's that's where we're coming from where she is coming from and this is so hard to try to try to time travel to the mind of a twelve year old but we have to do it. She does not understand sexuality the way we do she it does not understand sexual signaling. She not have thirty years of life experience under her belt about how this looks to the outside world. She and her mind is wearing what everybody else is wearing. It looks super cute on them. She saw the magazine. It looks super cute there She may have a beginning. Understanding of like. There's there's something kind of racy. Here's something kind of alluring. That still does not mean it means to her what it means to us and so you can't get anything right in this conversation vision without first coming to terms with the massive gap between what those short shorts me to her and what the short shorts mean to us and the only way to get through the successfully is to appreciate that she cannot see it the way we see it and that she is not doing what we fear she is too and is there space to talk about it and to get that message across or are we meant to Chaffetz sit threat. I think absolutely we can talk about it but I think we have to start from this. Like no shame no judgment -sition listen and say WHOA. Those are really short and we could even say those are cute on you like or they were cute when I bought them two summers ago a it is your birthday really look different and and then say. Here's what I'm struggling. I know you are wearing what everyone's wearing and you know. This is not an unusual outfit. What I'm struggling with is I have information about how the world's GonNa read that outfit and you may be headed into some reactions that you don't want or you're not ready for or that? I am not ready for you after deal with one. One of the things I talk about. Allied in under pressure is about girls interactions with boys and the way that book has built. Is that chapter. One is called coming terms with stress and anxiety which is basically description of how psychologists think about stress and anxiety versus how everybody else does and the punchline there is were much more okay with at them seems to be Through to his girls at home which is about the interactions that unfolded home and some of that is the meltdown stuff. You know how how girls really do become over raw. And our response really matters chapter three girls among girls and that's where my thinking continued around the social pressures and the social dramas that girls face then chapter four is girls among boys and that really gets into the strain that grows experienced so often in their interactions with boys and a lot of it is sort of the middle school version of the metoo movement. And there's a lot a lot more going on in terms of harassment and disrespect in middle and high school. Then I think adults certainly that I understood and that I think we you WanNa acknowledge and that chapter four of under pressure really is sort of the sequel to chapter six of untangled because untangled entangled is about entering the romantic world. And how we want girls to feel that they are empowered in their romantic lives and not to feel ashamed about about the romantic lives but to also enter into their lives as adults or early adults with the sense that their wishes and wants so at the center and they can decide from there. You know what they do. Don't feel comfortable with and also learned with partners. Don't feel comfortable with and in chapter four of under pressure. I really spend a lot of time sorting through something that I've become very aware of which is how often when we talk with girls about about their romantic lives. We often cast it and sort of offense defense taking herbs and the terms you know in heterosexual terms the boys. Boys are on offense in the Girls Fraud Defense and and so chapter. Four of under pressure is really trying to unpack all of the ways. We do this without even realizing realizing it. What the impact is on girls of casting romance as basically like okay you better make sure nothing goes wrong here and how we can cast it totally differently? Chapter five of under pressure is about girls at school and does pick up on some of what we were talking about in terms of helping girls be efficient and helping girls not get sucked into the grinding perfectionism. That we've all seen we worry about. And then the last chapters becquerels in the culture and and what our culture asks of girls and how girls try to navigate all of that and how much strain strain comes with being female in the culture So that's sort of the big. That's the thirty thousand foot under pressure so I know that you mentioned the punchline. Actually I think it's worth going through because I think without the understanding of what a stress response is and end all of the benefits of stress when it's positive stress and what is to be tolerable what it means tolerable stress and what toxic stress actually is. is really important and the big punchline. That's at the beginning of under the pressure. Her of the many tolerable and positive things that psychologists see when they hear about stress they can. Yeah I would love to talk about because just for my mission so when I was writing untangled my mission was hey everybody I know. Teenage girls are complicated and confusing. And don't always make feel good but it all makes sense. Let me show you the kind of sense it makes. That was the that was what was behind untangled and for under pressure. My I mission was. Hey everybody We can relax about the stress and anxiety thing because psychologists are way cooler with the whole thing that everybody else's and I'll tell you why the end then I'll give you five more chapters of all the stresses anxieties. Your daughter will deal with and ways for you to help her through them. But that chapter one about the stresses and anxiety. Zayed's being normal and acceptable in that chapter. I articulate what you know you know professionally I know professionally. which is that? Psychologists have always always understood that stress is part of life. We have completely accepted that. We know that anything that requires adaptation will be experienced a stressful and and that can be a good thing like having a baby. Come home with you right. That's hugely stressful. And also wonderful and that we really appreciate that. What makes things stressful it? They're causing us to grow that if we're actually having to expand capacity to do something whether it's you know take care of an infant or take on a big new job or deal with the fact that we got fired right. I mean there were all trustful things what we're doing is we're actually expanding our ability to manage stuff and the metaphor. I use all the time. Is that you know stress is like weightlifting that let anyone who's trying to build muscle knows that you cannot build muscle without lifting uncomfortably heavy weights. And this is true. That kind of what doesn't kill. You makes you stronger. The data support that that when you go through something difficult and are able to weather red. And that's the big key point here. You are subsequently more resilient in the face. The difficulties that actually stress builds capacity and it also builds strength and durability. There's two kinds of stress psychologists don't like we you don't like chronic stress so we don't like unrelenting no break from it no chance to catch your breath stress and that can be things like poverty or living with someone who's very troubled or It can be kids who are incredibly intense academic settings where they work all the time. There's no downtime. No break and they really are burning out. We also don't like trauma that we see trauma obviously as to be avoided and damaging but short of chronic stress and trauma psychologists are totally. Okay with the idea. That stresses part of life. We actually like it helps you grow and helps. You could be tougher and we have the same Z.. Positive view of anxiety which I know people are often surprised to hear but just like we see stress being part of life. Psychologists also fully accept society is part of life and the reason anxiety is part of life. Is that it is a fear response system that is programmed through evolution and to help us stay safe so if we're driving and somebody's an elaine nearby swerving we should have an anxiety response. That's actually going to get our attention in and help us change lanes or be careful and we use anxiety all of the time to keep ourselves out of trouble keep ourselves safe and we use our own internal anxiety to make sure we're on the right track so if I've got a big project to do and I'm just messing around on facebook like eventually L. become anxious and that's good thing and as with stress. There's a line that we cross psychologists say okay. Now we're not okay anymore and Frank Zaidi. That line is if the anxiety doesn't correspond to a threat so if a person's anxious just for no reason at all we don't like that or if the anxiety ninety is way out of proportion to the threat you know where say the person was a kid and she's taking a quiz and she's really ready but she's having a panic response you know that. That's we don't like that kind of anxiety short of that we're good with anxiety and my mission really in writing under pressure was to see if I could do anything about the situation. I feel we're finding ourselves as a culture and that situation is that all stress and anxiety talked about as though they are pathological and the upshot of that is that we now have kids who are getting stressed about being stressed an anxious about being anxious. And that's not necessary right. No that's a huge thing that is happening. All over and kids are talking about it. You're talking about their own anxiety about having anxiety and not. That's such a devastating waste of what could be a really adopted resilient response and also lets you have a lens to see clearly elite which is a real threat because I always think you know if your response if you notice in your child yourself that you think you're being chased by a bear all the time that's a problem. Yeah you know and if that seems to be a reaction this is a book and again. I think this happens with books a lot of the time and you ended up leaving feeling more anxious than you were when you started reading though I think the beautiful job of having you know the clear line between what is adaptive and what is now is out to narrow that was pretty major. I so love talking about it and I love thinking with you know another professional about and and I do hope You know it's funny. I both with UNTANGLED golden under pressure. I sort of feel like okay. We'll psychologist jobs are actually to make people feel better and so I do. Hope that By laying out a particular way of thinking about young on people that I can help people feel better parents feel better. I certainly think you can i. I love when psychologists remember that. We are here to help help. People feel better not to make people feel like shit. Parents spend. Their kids are disasters. So it's a great approach approach and it's also great. We'd racked ICAL and now for the listener questions answers. The first one is we try very hard to not talk about bodies disparaging or comparative way or not good or bad based on the food we eat rather the bodies come in all shapes and sizes and strong unhealthy is best but she hears comments all the time adult saying they're on diets or commenting on someone else's body etcetera the kind of go against that for example my aunt. It made a comment about my seven year old daughter while she was within earshot that it was good that she was tall and thin. I don't want to disparage my aunt in front of her and I don't WanNa make my child feel bad feelings towards her it. I felt awkward bringing it up later to my daughter because it was such a passing comment. What what worries me? Though is that that passing comment adds up and another one comes and another one and she pays attention to their messages. So my question is how should one handle. Oh conversation about regular comments children here from others the perhaps you don't agree with or want to instill in your kids. Well that's that's a great question and frankly it is always an endlessly surprising to me that in two thousand and nineteen with all that we we know that people still make comments about their diets or people's bodies or commenting on bodies and or commenting on their children's embodies. Because we know that that never ends well and we have a whole culture to prove it so Kudos to you for being aware of it and then I want to tell you that in general if you think about other issues or other belief systems that you have. I'm sure you find that. There are lots of people and ideas and feelings and thoughts that your child is exposed to that are inconsistent with yours and so try to feel feel confident knowing that your values are going to have a huge impact on your child and how you really feel respond to her. How you really really talk about an observe people's bodies or don't observe them because you are not commenting on them? For example in an ideal world world will really matter because ultimately she will know you do not value her because she's tall thin but that's not something that occurs to you and and so you can feel better thinking you know people might have different political beliefs and talk about them in front of her but you have said it your values clearly and so she's going to understand that those are important in your family and as she gets older of course she's going to learn from her environment as well as for MMU and like all things she's going to develop her own sense of it and we want that even if it's not an agreement with how we feel but hopefully she's guided well and that's GonNa make a big difference. The next question is hi Lisa. I totally love your podcast and I have an eleven month old baby so I'm looking forward to listening. Thank you very much in the last episode called Mindful Discipline The plan in the questions. You said something about a three year old. Not Having the developmental capacity to manipulate. Is there a good one on one resource you would recommend on developmental all stages. I know this is way too early. But I'd like to get a sense of it. Thank you so a great book or series of Bucks to you think about developmental milestones and experiences and stages for children is a series called. Touch points by Dr Very Razzle Tin and Dr Joshua's Farrow and. Actually Josh is going to be on next week's podcast. So I I try to have guests that I would spontaneously recommend reading their books so anyway I also just want to make one comment which which is about manipulation in case anyone didn't hear the last episode which is that in order to manipulate. You really need to. You have certain self regulation skills because you have to act intentionally in a way that helps you get what you want so so that takes years and years to develop because you need a pretty big prefrontal cortex and it. Three year old is not going to be very good at that most importantly however her is that if you frame your child's behavior as manipulative and that actually does three or thirteen what what happens is you're battling with your child and it becomes a power struggle instead of what discipline really needs to be. which is your guidance and boundaries given in a sensitive and appropriate way so that your child can learn to make good choices about his behavior so when you think of that you really have to reframe behavior as not manipulation but either you're a lack of control so a child to really really just does not remember or have capacity to control their behavior of their bodies of their mouths or whatever to do what they need to do or they don't like it and so if they don't like the expectation that you have it doesn't mean you have to change change it? It just means they have to get used to that distress and you as the parents have to get used to their feeling distress and they can't fix it. Thank you for listening. And I'm putting in the show notes link to Lisa delmore's tips her nine stages of responding to emotional L. Outbursts. So look for
TEI 259: Become indistractable and get more done better with Nir Eyal
"Welcome to the everyday innovator podcast for product managers leaders and innovators. Your host. Is Chad mcallister. Helping you become a product master. Listen and get ready for higher performance for the doctor is in this is chat and this is where product leaders and managers make their move to product masters learning practical knowledge. The least more influence confidence. So you can create those products that customers love love now. Do you feel your time and attention is being pulled in too many directions and what you want to get done isn't really what's getting done. I serve do I feel that and for me. Focus has been getting more challenging as I'm taking on new projects dope more product managers and needed to step back a little and do some Meta work to better organize my time and get a handle on this and this includes putting into practice. What I learned from this interview? A discussion with near I'll about the research heat did help him tackle the same issues he said this is what he learned in his latest book. Indestructible love that title. The title is how to control your attention and choose your your life near joined us in our very first year of this podcast way. Back episodes zero three zero if you listen to him then you've been with us for a long time and I appreciate that what he was discussing his how we can build habit forming products. He is a writer consulted a teacher at the intersection as ecology technology and business. And I love talking talking with because he always has new insights for me. I needed this interview and I bet you do too and remember if you hear something and you want to go back to the summary of it we take those show not for you. Also any links talk about. You'll find those in the show notes and that's at the everyday innovator dot com slash two five nine now. Let's talk with nearer her near. Thanks for joining the innovators get my pleasure. Thanks so much Chad great to be here. So you're with us a few years ago. You had a great very popular Book Out Wall Street Street Journal Bestseller. Lots of leaders read this book and they had asked their p Puerto Rico as well called Tau to build habit forming products and love that and now you have followed that up with something called indestructible and boy. Doesn't that sound worth. It should be part of the English language. Sounds like it's always been there immediately. What I heard the word when I heard you talk about this at another interview? That's perfect. That's absolutely perfect. Actually took me forever to come up with that titles I really appreciate you validated. That we were for the longest time. We're trying to figure out what the book would be called where I okay. Let's maybe my publisher wanted it to be unhooked. But I didn't really want that title because I I've not invalidating anything. That was publicized. I still stand behind everything in hooked up we can still use these techniques to build healthy habits and users lives so I I didn't want to write the opposite of that. I wanted to write a book about how we can become better ourselves so so the this book indestructible is not about a product design. It's about how we can become better product designers and better people for that matter by doing what we say we're going to do by becoming indestructible and a really important topic for our audience product managers. We tend to be really rushed and have trouble getting break done as the common complaint from many I hear out and a lot of us we show up at work not really even knowing what the day's GonNa look like. Yeah because we get stuck with fires and like so since you created this great word that will now be part of the addiction around. Sheriff soon tell us what it means to you yes so the meaning indestructible. So the Nice thing is when you join your own word when you make up a word you can define it any way you like an so I defined becoming indestructible as as being the kind of person person who strives to do with a say they're going to do. It's about the kind of person who strives to live with personal integrity. Now why do I use that word. Strive because it's not something you ever finish achieving. It's like creativity. Are you ever done building your creativity. No you it's something that you use a macro scale that helps you do all kinds of other things in life so oh so the same is true for becoming indestructible. It's something that we're on a constant journey to become I liked that To become that actually aligns really well with dirty. I've been on. You're and a half or so that some people characterize as mindset and engineer by background wired that way and when I first encountered this whole idea of mindset. It's a very woo two million like I don't have time for what you're talking about but I got pulled into a few exercises that were really helpful. To help me recognize can is that. I don't necessarily think about things the way I should that I tell myself. Something's actually aren't true. That are limiting what I could be accomplishing and how it could be helping helping others. And when I look at your book I wonder just about that kind of relationship. Is this a mindset sort of book and also a very practical book on and being more focused and getting done what you WanNa get done those things that matter to you. Yeah I mean the the idea behind this book and I wrote it first and foremost for me that I found that I was is becoming distracted that when I wrote my first book it I wasn't getting a lot of inbound emails. I wasn't getting a lot of phone calls. I wasn't getting a lot of speaking engagements but then after I wrote the book and sorry I should back up so when I wrote hooked. It was relatively easy. There weren't that many demands on my time as easy as writing a book can be right. Yeah I could actually you know I would. I had plenty of time so to speak to work on it. But then the the more successful the book became more demands. They were on my time. The more distractions there were in in my life right and so I found it really hard to do the thing that made me successful which was to research into right and I found myself becoming very distracted by would be with my daughter water and as opposed to being fully present with her. I was constantly checking my phone When I sit down on my desk to write to do work on a project I would just google something something or read the news or do something else as a distraction? I would say I was going to work out and I wouldn't I would say I would eat healthily. I wouldn't and so this this question of. Why don't they do things well? Why don't we do what we say? We're going to do really perplexed me and I wanted to get down to the real answer of why it does this occur and it turns out. I'm certainly not the first person to ask this question. In Fact Plato asked this question twenty five hundred years ago he called it a classier the tendency that we all have to do things against our veteran interests and so he asked the very very same question. If we know what to do and I would argue today we know what to do better than ever right. Everything is just a google search away. Who doesn't know how to eat right? We basically know that if we want to eat healthily chocolate cake is not as good for us as as helpful salad. Who doesn't know that WHO doesn't know that if you WANNA have a better relationship with your friends and loved ones you have to be fully present? Who doesn't know that if you want to be better at your job you have to actually do the work without getting distracted by other stuff so we all know this stuff? The actually know what to do. The problem is we don't know how to stop getting distracted and so I would argue that to have the kind of life you want to do the kind of work you want to do to be the kind had a person you want to be. It's not just about doing the right things. It's also making sure you don't get distracted by the wrong things and I didn't see a book on on really how to do that. Especially especially when I think in This Day and age even though distraction is not a new problem. It's been with us since time immemorial I do think that if you are looking for distraction action it's easier than ever to find because technology has become so pervasive and so persuasive and that's generally been a good thing we love. These technologies are wonderful. But that also means that if distraction you are seeking than distraction you will find and so we have to have these new tactics in our life. We need to learn this new skill set in order to make sure that we can become he come indestructible and has the skill set that now I think is more important than ever as you said. It's easy to find out anything right. It's not like we don't know what's right but if I go to youtube but I look up a how how to video to help me solve some problem having right now. Well Gosh I might spend the next twenty minutes easily. Just follow up videos. That's interesting too. Yes absolutely absolutely absolutely. It doesn't mean that there's anything sinister with Youtube. It's built to do what we wanted to do. We wanted to. It's so interesting right. There's so much great content out there that that of course it's going to suck us in if we don't know how to take measures in advance to make sure we do what we really want to do. But these distractions are easy. And I think also I won't speak for everyone for me. I find myself some of the Times because I know there's work that needs to get done and maybe it's a little bit more challenging than other work that it's easier for me to push it off and do things that are more distracting that kind of feel like accomplishing something. Really right okay. So this is a great point. I'm so glad you mentioned this. So this is a really great time to talk about the Diff- wh-what is distraction really. You know. I'm a big word guy and I really care about what words mean and so in order to understand what distraction is. We have to understand what distraction is. Not and so the the opposite of distraction if you ask most people. What's The opposite of distraction though say focus? That's not true. I don't think it's true in fact if you look at the entomology of the word the opposite sort of distraction is not focus it is traction. Both Traction and distraction come from the same Latin root tra- Howrah which means to pull and they both end in the same six letter word. Act Wine that spells action so traction is any action that pulls you towards what you want to do things that you're doing with intent the opposite of traction is this traction anything that pulls you away from what you plan to do with intent so this is really important born for two reasons number one. Anything can become a distraction. You said right this would happen to me every day. Okay I'm going to work on that big project. I'm going to do the thing that I said. I'm going to do the thing that I've been procrastinating on rhetoric. Email right right after I scrolled a slack channel right after I just talked to my colleague quick. That sounds like important stuff. You Sound Mike. You're my office. This is exactly what's going on in my brain every day before I wrote this book. Let me tell you and and so we feel like it's it's productive but this is what Bicol pseudo work because that pseudo work that stuff that feels like urgent comes at the expense of the important and so we're constantly reacting eighteen all day long without actually reflecting upon whether what we're doing is what we really wanted to do with our time so anything can be a distraction and similarly anything can be Traction Traction and distraction. It's about what you plan to do. So if you planned to. Scroll facebook to watch watching Youtube video to read the paper to meditate. Pray to go on a walk to have time with your your spouse or your kids. All that stuff is wonderful on as you do on your or schedule not on somebody else's not because of some Pinger Ding. Not because somebody wanted you to do something but because you decided in advance this is how I want to spend my time so the reason this book I think is so important so different from every other book on the topic and I read all of them because I was trying to solve the problem for myself. Is that every other book tells you get rid of the technology technologies that fall but technologies melting not your brain. It's hijacking your brain addicting. You that is bullshit. It's not true for the vast majority. Some people do become addicted to technology. That's true because anything thing that solves pain any analgesic is potentially addictive. So do some people become alcoholics. Absolutely but not everybody who has a drink of wine or beer with dinners alchoholic. That's ludicrous. Do some people who have sex become sex addicts. Yes do some people who gamble become problem. Gamblers yes but not everybody and so this is the nuance I think is so often lost today especially in the media. That of course ironically makes more money the more we click and the more reread on articles. That tell us that technology is hijacking our brain and that's addicting everyone. It's a big reason why I wanted to write this book because I wanted to tell people that they are not powerless. That in fact by thinking that technology is hijacking our brain we we are making it. So it's called learned helplessness. And so I wanted to spell this myth this narrative that somehow it's controlling our brains. That is ludicrous. It's not true there's a lot we can can do about it starting with this idea of. Look if you want time for traction in your day if you want to do the things that help you live. According to your values one of the first steps. This is to make time for it to actually have what's called a time box calendar and this is something that it will change your home life. It'll change your work life. Oh change your relationship with your boss and your colleagues by having this time box calendar and then doing what's called a scheduling where we sit down with our boss when we sit down with our colleagues and we do have fifteen minutes is all it takes fifteen minutes a quick schedule sink. This is a life changing practice. It it can. It can help you so much. Make sure that you do what it is. You say you're going to do so. We should dive into both of those. Those those are life changing practices. I think and basically this is just free consultant for me right. I'm sure everyone listening against great value out of this but I need help with this and I think part of that is you know. Just as my years of accumulated living I have more interest and at the same time. It's probably a little bit easier for my mind to flip between things that I want it to stay somewhere. Where else at times? So I have my little hacks I try to manage that one to simply to you know I'm working on something and all of a sudden flashes through my mind. Oh our water pressure tank world system at my house has been working in ninety two order. One this happened to me a few days ago right and then I'm spending the next hour researching tanks and you know. Not at all Y.. Planned at that time and so my simple hack is I put it right on a list get out of my mind. I can go back to a later. Take us into the time box calendar as a tool how we can use that. Yeah so I I WANNA before I do that I wanNA talk about something. You mentioned that I think is very very important because actually that's the making time contraction is step two step one. The most important part of becoming a distractive is mastering the internal triggers He goes in order to understand what moves us towards attraction. And what moves us towards distraction. We have to understand the triggers that prompt those actions so we all know about the external triggers the paying Danes. The rings all of these things things in our environment that can move towards traction or distraction. That's kind of what everybody tends to blame on distraction but it turns out in the five years of research that I conducted in this book. What I I realized is that the vast majority of distraction does not start from outside of us? But in fact most distraction starts from within these are called the internal triggers that in fact everything we do if you look at it from a neurological basis everything we do is not about the pursuit of pleasure. And the avoidance. It's a pain. This is called Freud's pleasure principle and neurologically speaking is not true but in fact everything we do we do for one reason and that is to escape discomfort even even the desire for pleasurable sensation wanting craving lusting desire. There's a reason we say love hurts because wanting pleasure is itself itself psychologically destablize so think about it physiologically right if we go outside. It's cold we put on a jacket if we go back inside. Now it's hot we take it off if we we are hungry. We feel hunger pangs. That's not comfortable so we eat and when we're stuffed on that that doesn't feel good. We stop eating. So that's physiologically what happens in of course. Psychologically that's exactly the the same principle that holds true when we are feeling lonely. We check facebook when we're uncertain we google when we're bored check stock prices and sports scores in the news and Pinterest and read it. All these tools Katie's uncomfortable psychological sensations so what we have to realize is that when it comes to time management we have to realize that the time management is pain management. I don't care what Gurus techniques you use or what latest life hacks. You're you're integrating in your life fundamentally the mentally if we don't face this fact that distraction most distractions starts from within us because we are seeking to escape an uncomfortable sensation. If we don't with face that fact in learn ways to cope with in a healthier manner we will always become distracted by something so what you just illustrated earlier. When you said that water heater Peter I I gotTa make sure I take care of it? There was an uncomfortable feeling. There was an itch. There was a psychological imbalance that you wanted to take care of. And then that led you towards distraction. Take away from what you plan to do with your time. So finding methods to cope with that discomfort right with the anxiety. The uncertainty stress stress fatigue. Whatever it might be? That's prompting us to distraction whether that's in our home life our work life. That is the most important for step after we do that. And I give you all sorts of techniques techniques to do that after we do that the next step is to make time for traction and so to answer your question. The way we do this we start with our values our values into time. Now what does that mean so. There are three life domains that I described in the middle. You've got you okay. If you can't take care of yourself you can't take care of others so in the middle is taking care of you so here we ask ourselves what our values when it comes to taking care of ourselves if you value. Not that I'm saying you should but if you value taking care of your physical health will we'll do have time in your schedule for properly. You have time in your schedule to exercise. Do you have time in your schedule to make healthy meals. Whatever it is? That's important to you in your life. Is that time on your calendar under as opposed to you know five year visions and big hairy goals. How about we start with next week? How do you want to spend your time next week? Then we look at our relationships you have time for the important people in your life for the people who matter to you for your children. Do you have time on your schedule for them. And then finally the work domain and this is going to be most relevant is where most of us spend our time and ironically we start with that most people start with scheduling their day when it comes to the work domain and then they give their kids in their spouse just like I used to do whatever time is left over and then we're surprised is why we're lonely and miserable. We don't have good relationships with people because we haven't plan time for them so when it comes to that work domain when I researched this book I asked so many people does your job job required time to think. Do you need time to do focused work to strategize to to to to think about where you want to go in the future and everybody said absolutely but then when I said well. Where's that time time on your schedule and so we need time for that focused work? We also need time to respond to emails to do those meetings but don't let the reactive active work. Be Your entire day. Make time as well to do focus work so when we have those three life domains we put the time on our schedule and we do this frequently as our schedule changes so for most people out there. A week's time is about the right interval and I I built a tool to make this super easy. You don't have to buy anything you have to sign up for anything. I'll give you the link in the show notes. Great on where you can build this time box calendar in the idea here is not your militant about every minute of the day. It's not about rigidity. It's about the fact that sometimes time constraints can give us freedom that when we know for the first time when you look at your day you say now. I know the Difference Between Traction Action and distraction. Anything on my schedule is traction. That's what I plan to do with my time. Anything that is not. That is a distraction and that process process is life changing because now you finally know the difference right so you're not you're not succumbing to these pseudo were tasks you know it. Is You want to do with that time now. What happens when you still get distracted attracted that happens? Let's say a colleague comes over and says hey I need to talk to you right now. Well that would be a distraction so now we can categorize those distractions as they happen. There's only three causes either an external trigger like your colleague coming by Your Desk. An internal trigger some kind of feeling that we're looking to escape. We were working on a project and we got bored frustrated. We got anxious and we look for an escape by checking. Read it or hacker news or something. That's the internal trigger. The only other reason is a planning problem right. You plan to do one thing and then you didn't have enough time for it or you wanted too much time for it or something came up that you should have known would come up. So there's only three answers so the reason this is so important is that even though we may still get distracted now we know why we got distracted. You know there's that saying that Insanity is doing the same thing again and again expecting results. How many of us go week after week? Getting distracted by the same crap. And we don't do anything about it right that's insanity so there's only three reasons is now the you know those three reasons are you can evaluate it. You can look at it and you can take steps to prevent it happening again in the future and then finally what we want to do with the schedule thing is as we want to make sure that we are looking at our schedules with our with our managers. So this is how we manage up so we sit down with our boss and we say hey look boss. Here's my schedule for the week. Here's here's all the stuff you asked me to do now. There's other things couldn't figure out where to put my schedule because I only have so much time in the day. Obviously where should reprioritize. This takes about fifteen minutes. It will change your life because now you have transparency. Your boss has transparency into your schedule and believe me. Managers are begging for you to do this. They don't ask you to do it because they no one should feel like you're being micromanaged but this is how you can manage up. This is how you can manage your boss by showing hey helped me reprioritize stuff. I don't know where it should go my schedule because there's only so much time in the day this will give you greater transparency. Ill increase your output. It'll increase your job satisfaction by doing this process. Incidentally by the way I also do this with my wife it saved saved my marriage because we would constantly fight about household admin duties and now we never fight about that stuff anymore because we both keep a time box calendar. That's a big difference with your boss right if it's working for your marriage obviously it's helping to improve that relationship with your manager as well that transparency and we need those kinds the conversations to understand if we're working on the right priorities and what is most important what's GonNa make the biggest difference in our organization. The work that we're doing right and many buses are afraid to have these conversations stations because they don't want people feel like they're you know checking up on the right time so do your boss a favor do yourself a favor and do one of these. Schedules thinks it's incredibly impactful I'm interrupting the discussion. Just for a moment to tell you about a really interesting experience. I had recently at a professional conference for product managers and innovators. The annual Pedia may conference. Now it was a great experience because I got to help so many people in one form of this was several times. A person that I helped in the past they came came to find me. They sought me out introduce me to someone else that they were talking to someone that wanted to mentor their product managers to help them perform at a higher level. They recognize how important product development and management is to the success of their work and the organization they talk about this in terms of the increased pressures that they have we all recognize this product people. Aw wanting to create products that customers love. That's what everyday innovators are. All about. We get that but also products that meet revenue and profit expectations. We have to do that. And that can be delivered more quickly decreasing time to market. That's a lot of needs to deliver on and that's exactly what I help. Organizations do and I have an excellent mentoring system for workgroups of product managers. It's called the rapid product mastery experience or for short the RPM experience Kinda catchy RPM extremes if you lead product managers or you are product manager at a company with other product managers the RPM experiences. How you can create a higher performing product team and I have a quick guide Ed tells you how the system works and the results it provides and you'll find that at the every innovator dot com slash? PM It's helping other companies pull ahead of their competition and helping product managers work together better. Enjoy their work more. Just be more effective night. Better can help you to check it out at the everyday innovator dot com slash RPM and as you were talking through this. You have a model in the book. And if I can. I'm going to share the image of it in the show notes. It's the captures these these points right. It's the internal triggers making time for traction. He's a hacking back the external triggers and preventing distraction with packs right. So we've talked through some of the internal triggers think about that making time for traction that needs to be planned in and three categories of external triggers. What what about this preventing distraction with packs thing we actually didn't get to the the hacking back external trade? That's the that's that's very very important. So when we talk about triggers we talk about you know everybody. Everybody knows that we have our phones. The Ping's Danes on our computers. Of course we have to turn off notification settings of course we have to adjust these things that they serve as opposed to us serving them. That's that's kindergarten stuff and there's a few pages on how to do that how to make sure that your phone is an indestructible phone. Had To make sure that your computer is an indestructible workspace. That's obvious okay. Even though Oh believe it or not two thirds of people smartphone. Two thirds of people that smartphone never changed their notification settings. Is that crazy. Or what I mean by not changing notifications indications that. He's you're just letting your life be controlled by the APP makers right whatever. facebook wants to pin you. Whatever instagram whatever? It might be the New York Times the breaking news. We don't need that stuff to constantly interrupt us so very simple stuff you can do. That's in the book it's not. It's not rocket science. What I think is a much more important to focus on that? I want to tell people about is to worry. Yeah about the external triggers. That are less obvious. Okay think about how much time we spend in stupid meetings. That didn't need to be called. Think about how much time Um you waste on email so turns out the Harvard. Business Review found that twenty five percent of the emails the average knowledge worker receives they did not need to receive and twenty eighty five percent of the emails. They send they did not need to send so. We spend a ton of time being super productive doing stuff we don't need to do. And so. That's a huge source of distraction distractions. So I tell you in the book exactly a halfback email. Some folks tell me that they've saved ninety percent of the time they used to spend on. Email is very simple techniques that you can use. But there's one other source of distraction. I want to talk about because I know it's something that plagues many of us these days. which is the open floor plan office? Yes so many of us work in these open floor plan offices offices that companies do. Let's be honest because it saves them a ton of money that's why they they can say it. We're having to build everyone their own office very expensive so we have these open floor plan offices now though of course so whitewashing CEOS increase creativity right at our collaboration. Yeah what whatever the studies show that it does not really bear out. But here's the thing I give up. They're not going away. Okay I can rally against why these things are not so great but the fact is they saved companies way too much money so I had to think of a solution that could improve this workplace. Oddity oddity that this thing. That's not doing. That's not so great for us. How could we improve it and so I came up with this technique? It's so simple and yet so effective and the idea here. Where is that? We want to send an explicit message to our colleagues when we need to do focused work so many people say oh if you just put on headphones and then everybody will know. Oh you shouldn't be distracted but if you've ever tried this you know. This doesn't really work because people think you're watching Youtube and they come by first of all they they look down at you. They think you're they. I think you're slacking off and two. They still interrupt you so what I did is I inserted in every copy of indestructible. There's what I call a screen sign. It's a piece of Red Red card stock. You pull out of the book you fold it into thirds and you put it on your computer monitor and it has the stop light on it that says I'm indestructible at the moment. Please come back later. So even if somebody's new doesn't know your policy around headphones or whatever. They still concede that. There's this sign on your computer monitor. That says please don't interrupt indestructible at the moment now. I'm not saying you need to do is all day long right. It's okay to socialize with with colleagues but when you need to do that focus work time that you plant in your schedule. That's when he uses screen science. It's a very very simple and effective technique. And you don't even have to buy the book to do it you can get a free one at indestructible dot com or you can make your own for all I care but that technique of telling your colleagues no this is my time to be indestructible is very very effective right at such a simple practical tool that also tells your own mind. This is time for me to stay. Not Distracting right to stay have tracks moving towards what they want to move towards. That's a great point and actually. It's interestingly enough you say that because the fourth step to the becoming indestructible so we talked about number one. Mastering the internal triggers number two is making time for traction number. Three is about hacking back. The extra triggers number. Four is preventing distraction and with packed. Packed are these pre commitments. That we use to help us prevent getting distracted and so exactly one of the techniques that I described the book is called an identity packed where we know this comes from the psychology of religion. That when people have a moniker when people have a name a noun they call themselves. It's an instrument that helps them abide by what they really want to do. So when you call yourself. I don't know a vegetarian. A vegetarian does not need to expend self control to not eat meat. No it's just something. They don't do a devout Muslim doesn't say to themselves who. I wonder if I should have that. Gin and tonic no devout Muslims. Don't drink alcohol. It's just not what they do. So this is why the book indestructible. Because I want people to have this new monitor that says you know what I don't respond to every email within thirty seconds that's not what I do I'm indestructible. Yeah Yeah I put the screen sign on my monitor because I need time to think I'm indestructible and they okay. Sounds a little strange. Maybe it's a little different but you know. Is that much different than someone who wears unusual usual religious garb or ethan unusual diet. I remember when I was a kid in the nineteen eighties. I remember that my mom had ashtrays all over. Our House Ashtrays Ashtrays now. She didn't smoke. My Dad had stopped smoking years earlier. Why does she have ashtrays? We'll because back then. If someone came to your house they just expected to smoke can can you imagine if someone lit up a cigarette in your living room and they came over that would be unimaginable. Right how rude would that be. But I remember that when when my parents did this it it was because he was just expected it was just the norm and I recall specifically that my parents so my mom replay. We saw these very pretty ashtrays. She took them away and she replaced them with a the skeleton hand. Ashtray like an ashtray. That was made to look like skeletons. Hand 'cause she wanted to send a nonsol- subtle message to people about the health that right and then I remember. She took them away and she was one of the first people that I ever remember hearing this from she would tell people. Please go outside to smoke right. She was one of the remember. She lost friends over. This people thought this was very rude to ask someone to go outside to smoke. And that's exactly what's going on right now with our struggle with technology distraction. We are going through this transition period where we are learning. We are adopting. What's called social? Antibodies we're learning these new rules about how to use technology effectively. And I've already seen it right. I see less people using technology. Algae meetings because they realize it's a jerk thing to do. I see less people using technology when they're having a lunch meeting or date because they realize it's very route and and so we are adopting these new social antibodies. And so the way we do this is to be the early adopters to be the people who do these things today. So that in you know five ten in years from now everyone is doing stuff. Everyone has these practices but the way we do that is by calling ourselves in distracted by making these pacts with ourselves. Absolutely Roy along with those social antibodies. I've talked to a number of people. There seems to be this shift from our online planning tools right like when the first palm pilot came out. I thought that was so cool. I can now Abu my paper calendar into the pile right and now we have smartphones. Obviously we do this but now there's the shift I think it's part of the just kind of a resistance to how technologies influence our lives so much lots of people are moving back to paper planners and calendars and if that works for you great I mean I. I wanted to make sure that this is not an anti tech book. Look I look I am not a lot so the idea here is about how to get the best out of tech without letting it get the best of you. I'm not one of these people who tells you stop using email go on a digital. It'll detox stopped using facebook. No that's ridiculous. We are much better than that. We don't need these black and white rules that filled with misinformation disinformation. About how technologies analogies terrible for you. That's just not true. It's wonderful if we know how to use it weighed herbs asses opposed to us serving you and not a distraction and we we are the masters of yeah absolutely good. I always ask for an innovation quote. We Love quotes around here. What did you bring us and why did you choose that one? Sure so the quote that I kind of have had top of mind lately lately as a quote by Kirkuk guard. Who said that anxiety is the dizziness of freedom anxiety is the dizziness of freedom? And I know many of us have felt this. You know if you if if you're a manager if you're a business owner feels like if you're so full of anxiety it's also because you have so much choice you have so much power so much freedom and particularly in a day and age age where there are endless videos to watch on youtube there are endless interesting articles to read their endless forums that you could participate in and so that is the price of all this progress that we've made with these technological innovations is that yeah we do have this feeling of uncertainty of anxiety because we have so much freedom we have so much opportunity Junie to learn to enjoy so really. It's we shouldn't be surprised by that feeling and we couldn't take steps. I think to do something about it. Yeah it's a great point all a steel with some level of anxiety and you mentioned before constraints and there's actually some freedom and constraints right absolutely absolutely. They provide focused and the actually in many cases lead and more innovation. which is something? We've talked a lot about here so thanks so much for sharing that. How can listeners find out about your book you mentioned some resources you went along along and others website for those and obviously getting their hands on it themselves? Sure so I'll leave you lots of links in the show notes for the scheduling tool etcetera. But if you go to indestructible DOT COM That's a a site just for this for the book. There is a free video course. There's also an eighty page workbook that we couldn't the manuscript so I made it available online that's complementary as well that's all at indestructible dot com and my own website. That's called near and far DOT COM nearest. But like my first name. That's an I. R. and it far so near and far dot com possibly one of the best website names. You are ells of her. Near and far I met I loved that thought that was excel indestructible dot com near. Thank you for writing this book. I think is really important. I think we're at a time of life now. The many of us feel distractions tugging on us and we want want to have more control over that and this has been very helpful for me and I'm going to dive into your book further. Thanks thank you so much appreciate Chad. Great being here again. Thanks again for listening listening to the everyday innovator where product leaders matters make their move to master. We say that all the time that really means becoming excellent at your craft becoming a product. Master oster would you that by learning practical knowledge that leads to influence and confidence so that you can create those products that customers love near had some really great insights for us. find the summary of those insights shirlow with others. Please you do that at the everyday innovator dot com slash two five nine keep innovating. 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F*$k A Boat (Ozarks Edition), Soap Gawd Dr. Bronner and Dagestani Bathtubs
"Welcome back to another very special episode of the Trap House Variety our this weekday talk about Dr Bronner Dagestani backups Russian Banyas sexual bots Iranian wrestlers the Camel Clutch the Boston crab rolling a shelter or something like that the EU then genetically you're just you're sped tear destruction yeah you start decaying after you after the fuck this is it this is how when as you get older here's my theory guy who may have been over this as you get older each year I always kind of thought it was like a a genetic thing where after you've served a purpose whether it's procreating or an there is a smaller percentage of your total life so yes indeed indeed the years do go by faster to you thin diminishment increase substantially higher that sucks it's true yeah aw relative to your all your other years I think that's the most clear that ever ever broken down aw it's it's Friday that's why yeah it's Friday September sixth can you believe that two thousand nineteen it's it's it's that's why you have these endless summers now that seem to last forever but it's when you stop by being employed you know then you as the numbers bear this out the studies show that after you you know your your chance for for death or more finite right there that you know that it wasn't necessarily employment or job it was you procreate and you create you know Hovel for your couple months or two it sell about the group I guess you know it is at the genetic level it's not about individuals up the you your birth somebody yeah yeah I mean and and or you know since not everybody makes a baby it could be you know once you once you're done word it could be worse we could be not bathing one hundred and fifty days and and you know that kind of thing just having plagues sweep through land I've never I never thought about it that way I guess yeah when you're ten years old then present one year is ten percent let's say your life low here game you know I think that's another way that that people signal their bodies to speed their destruction oh wants to stop working around and stuff yeah Ooh it's like a the idea is that like by over prescribing antibiotics in then and so I am so that that's that in courses when when our lives were much more shorter having some people who are prescribing antibiotics not finish their antibiotics we are creating the conditions for like superbugs too a little children to be how these these Europeans right yeah for the dirty filthy crested Europe replace antibiotics that have become obsolete through this process that I talked about and you know the Russian to get stronger ones and sucide you know this sort of the super hyper aggressive behavior we see from people you know whether it's you know people picking fights with people shouldn't pick a fight with bugged becomes dominant and so that that's like You know when when I caught that staph infection you know that staph infection is the superbug is kind of you know has cropped from these hospitals that you know either Aaron cleaned properly crosser and I guess it's like an arms race like the diseases are always going to be in front of the antibiotics now so they're like rushing to and then you create you know a super medicine that kills everything but the Nth but the percentage of a superbug and then that superbug multiplies in that super yeah there's still time for that I guess no and if there's plenty of new plagues on the horizon right especially with this antibiotic problem we have you heard about this the ones that kill more a more diverse you know selection of bacteria which is actually a race in the wrong direction in that really internationally I don't know I can't vouch for that but certainly yes you're right that the American suicide rates who've seen have definitely been popped a and so that's unplanned my flag right there that's what you're you're going with yeah yeah well we could be like the Europeans we read about where those they've taken those made the FDA take those out of circulation because I guess they're kind of realizing it like you need soap soap is good but like soap people employed and so don't quit working you know unless you want Di- now but we've we've seen a lot of people wanna die many they are now saying that the antibacterial soaps that used to be the break right everybody should have antibacterial soap Dave four people going to football games and acting like asking you know I think this is all indicative of the decay of our society the huddle but you know from a smoky fire you know and and so that's that's the burke yes we're back why why why are we I ball and kills them you know what I mean a while they had a I mean I'm not sure this was like a year or two maybe ago where they now than than I think your genetic sand your genetics re read that signal the Tom Devlin working at made a baby and then that's where you know you're I don't know what tell you until you make it and then it's okay to quit now you gotta be alert for eighteen years you know right at least eighteen and that usually ah is possibly is is a is a cousin of this whole process in that this this Mersa the essay doing yeah they have a bunch of good soaps actually but the tea tree oil for post grappling yeah is you know I don't know where this helps the nutria tea tree oil kills like the kind of the bacteria we're after yes skin infection ship and in that's hang off yes one hundred percent yes they had been popping off a little bit and so and and people's behavior editions you don't have a hookup for like acid or mushrooms or anything just read Bronner's label and that guy will take you into outer space and inner space too Dell's everything is in good stride need your own microbiome on there to to help you up and I've been on that tip for for a while now I've had off its biology or genetics made it one of the same but does of the saying okay well now it's time to fucking die would want to take resources from people were actually going to be making a baby I don't let them bring the antibacterial Simpson House I bring what is it Dr Dr Bronner's Dr Bronner's teacher Yehiel John Yeah I don't know either but my mom was like my mom was rocking the doctor Bronner's back in like back thirty years ago group surviving in this species species not even the grew grew like that. Yeah Yeah Yeah you know the other great thing about Dr Bronner Reid is label in Dr Bronner is eyeballs grace a major yeah if you want your mind blown and you can't like the strongest monster and then the southern the strongest monster has a full field to run in and and grow and prosper by his way into my knee and then or into somebody's just a classic soap and water sort of mode you know again even for the hand soaps in the bathrooms we just have the classics the species is it's all about getting the the next generation to the to the future you know so yeah so don't now just liquid soap and without the I think it's like triglycerides troops opposing or something yeah and so but of course it's a a a moderately slow Lee rotating label because like I'll begin bottled that shouldn't read it on like tyrel lots of Americans I guess on that on that ship in this is an international thing you know a rates going up suicide rates you think are they going up international we're this wasn't on my last one no no bronner's got volume he can put down some bars dude sometimes after like among everybody gets into the bathtub take shirt off come on get into the bathtub so do it for the ground dude for the should be you know so it's like an aspirational thing maybe that's that's the right way to be Dr Bronner is also showing us what's possible you know so I don't know if this guy still kicking around are cleaned with a with an anti what is it an antibacterial soap the but it's antibacterial soap that that does everything but them when cobb so yeah so you got six seven guys all like posing for a picture in a little bitty asked mediums Arriba this guy should be president in and even the stuff that I disagree with Dick bryner about I'm like why wish it was that way you know it's not but I'd like it right Caucasian it's just like a term that's Kinda doesn't mean from the Caucasus mountains if it used to ever mean that but it just means the white person key consider mountains which have some relation to Caucasian you're asking the wrong guy even though you think I might rep that Russian these guys are an offshoot of Russia or you know what are their Dagestani which is in the caucus or something Lucas's caucus can people to be white now okay some Mexican people think they're why really yeah we're define themselves as white okay like what like unlike a guys in that motherfucker so somebody in that group was like everybody it gets into the bathtub we're going to take picture like a bathtub that you would be if you and your lady got into you would kinda be there will not be enough room right and then imagine oh that's the other thing that brought up was we're everybody was sharing the picture of Habib Boys in the Batter Huxley Yeah Yeah that's why I never read the book I just I listen to i Jim Morrison and so and like how would you describe the picture like good like how they describe how this is the perfect description imagined there was like a medium sized bathtub back bucket sitting there reading Dr with the fuck is talking about and everything one is I'm like yeah fuck yeah that makes sense and yeah like I made agreement with almost everything I don't know I don't know maybe I'm sure some people make it work he'd have to get in there and try it out so anyway but so I didn't think it was that the Russian community culture in you know I don't know what they get up to in the Caucasus up in the mountains you know things get cold and lonely you're not allowed to date them because if you're going to have if you're going to have a guy with ten wives that means nine motherfuckers Outta luck might night dudes you know A. G. A. Y. Thing I thought it was a communal bath house thing you know like a a Bagna maybe they were all in the bet of just heat bathroom the marriage umbrella you know not a lot it doesn't seem it's a difficult you can't really can you have equal partnership when it's one and ten galaxy well but he's probably got some e e my I don't know what I don't know I don't know what he's saying I'm sure he's got some August yeah well sure I guess I guess some Mexican people are like yeah you know it'd be white people like a canals ally has backed up the junior girl will be squishing in Canada get in in for when I saw that then of course I just thought of the sort of the the the the network do you get married to all of them well that's actually the flaw in the process is that if that that's a society can't sustain a society as society can't sustain a multiple life situation Wanna hit it's a it's a society out of balance actually creates all sorts of fucking problem yeah that was that was in the shower at the old house and that's what my I picked up lay one nine it opened up my doors of perception and I'm not saying that's what these guys were all doing you know talking about the they're having like multiple wives and she said well I mean but you have to get married I and you know come home at night or something when I worked out pretty hard I was fucking sit in the shower and re Dr Bernard Shaw like just turn the water hot tripping balls fucking lend it didn't he uh-huh easy ginger on top of everything to the Whitest Scott Status car right here aimed at extreme heat beat each other with birch branches birch then jumping a cold water or snow has struck many observers of as a foretaste of hell for bath houses which is called the Bagna the book is called without the Bagna we would perish. I mean you're you're you're crush accent is much better than my without the bun yeah we better that's right and so the this is the intro to the article the Russian communal bath house or Bagna where people st I will go with that I guess and then the other thing that you know the in when you and I talked about Baez right when we saw this picture it was like an and and certainly the argument also is going to be would you most often than not you know a lot of those women are look to in the end I guess there's probably levels now some people like different right I just WanNa be like you know gently tapped you know just good who does it Russian they're usually rockets the Vodkas in in the Saana Oh hell yeah file yeah that's now that's that's not what I mean I think of these kids go out in the world and they're they're eas- antibacterial yeah anyway but you know via volks gun yeah Wilkes Gun. Having been deprived of her property was forced to visit an urban binds she saw filth suit deformity she wrote a memoir itching scabies Mexican shoulders powdered with the pink patches of Syphilis Roseola disgust like it's like the Matt Lice of many months accumulation if hell exists it surely resembles that bathing room well I imagine there was the full Russian experience of someone I once I wanna I'm sure the full Russian experience varies in that respect some guys are taking punishment over there guys are just like isn't shamed yeah unless that crust is like a you know essentially suit of armor that like a superbug has to get through the scary definitely I don't think he'd be in their shoes but just by the incidence I just by coincidence in the Wall Street Journal they did a review of a book about Russian Baths House the hell dramatic I mean I mean but there's lots of pleasure and pain I mean at least you get there's an upside to this little a lot of stuff in the in the in the world and at that time that was like people know the in your neck in this area neck and upper chest but it it it starts out smaller gets bigger until you get to a certain age and they just kind of glossed over it it's related to immunity though so I think what you get exposed to when your kid is really important you know oh the funding native American whatever but if we were passing each other in the street aside from me being like yeah let's get Alvarez I'll be like that's a white guy oh yeah immune system especially when people get young like they were talking last I'd never got asthma teacher about this but I forget what the organ is called it's like as these kids are using these from from birth essentially that it is not helping allowing them to build up natural tolerance I guess the tradeoff visit are already living there and say hey we already got a place find your own sleep bell you know think about how strong immune systems used to be do you think like antibiotics and stuff like that is affected LSU yeah just getting fried by the sun so when I saw I mean you know people are like what are these guys doing a pilot on the bathtub and what are they doing well I mean I just thought it was serious trapping steam thing traps team in like a gentle lashing yeah I'm not into that mm-hmm but the other great thing about this was that you know the the Europeans weren't exactly advanced in this at least within this time period you know like you mentioned earlier we brought the Russian concept the you know the one thing that both the United News like just that basic idea they beat each other with sticks or eucalypt asleep she like as part of the this got about that I guess he's on he notes that early modern Europeans regard to bathing as unhelpful and therefore considered Russians who washed the that the Romans had it all together they had indoor plumbing and high water and they had a bath culture right yeah but yeah yeah and and and some of the stories about these anti what we call anti what again the so exterior antibacterial soaps what you see it's fucking searing hot and if they're if they're the not a super strict Muslim or if they're just the regular standard run of the mill had I'd rather have I'd shoot water really yes vodka in the I l. Russian experience I guess and you gotTa try the whole thing the skin infection is she's not the fuck like you said are bathing once every one hundred fifty days right so they're always always always always Tarbert aliens from the fifteenth to eighteenth centuries Western Europe went through a period that a French scholar called three Hundred Years Without a path disgusting the western Eh like old like onion like onions in Greece you know fast food so bad so bad and so you don't even notice did you smell like again you know a bag assholes well remember that that one like Slavic Lady who came in the gym that one day I don't want I'd rather not have them draw blood through forget about it draw blood in me I'm going to be we're we have problem Komo everything is Inter's at that point now and there's all sorts Iraq's scraper neon when you're sure you living in fifty th century Russia and her lady basket like her Ph was offer something and like her the smell of this lady and there's been a couple of days in there that role that smell like icing empress catherine the great in a pamphlet defending the bath house sure Europeans it is rarely used in the numbers are numbers of Russians who never who never bay fucking shower bat something you know but I don't know maybe they're just stuck in that shit it's too much work to take a bath you know you had to stop you know but there are also at risk of all just like the standard skin infections you kill you get a cold that kills them Sherri scrape your fucking neon release endorphins in Hell Hath posited lettuce on I'm sure I mean I don't think they're like hitting you hard with those birch leaves are they they're not likes slapping supine is bathe she doesn't do any bathing now she's never like oh I'm good I'm like what are you talking about you went to did this you did that today take they there's a Mr Polack who's a professor of history at Brown is this lordy whole Mr Polack I I don't write this stuff what what what is the outlet we're looking at this is back to the Wall Street Journal he's talking about the super bowl I mean yeah yeah it is you're going there to relax I think we're GONNA have a culture exchange here I came there to relax and should not be bleeding you know when in nineteen nineteen the princesses so and The my least favorite thing is like when I take off like of course I changed clothes at the gym right what is what an what an aristocratic eighty in her smell actually had a physical presence I'd like yeah like pushed against your eyeballs this is a smelly as person I've ever been around Ooh I take that back okay seconds maybe Gimme the number one I've had to argue about which was number one so she came into the gym fund for a little bit somebody these Europeans are just having too much fun like once everybody starts to smell that way you know you kind of just roll with it like we had the gym that was like sectioned off so the gym area had doors you know and then there was an office and whatever office area from the the thirteenth to eighteenth centuries that this article is talking about is it yeah they probably had a great sort of baseline by him also trying to sell we don't pay that much now just I don't know that's Kinda do my kid doesn't want the most incredible strong smell I've ever smelled on a person may add says she was just because she was one person that yes she was Dan I when I pick up my clothes and put them in the wash and I can actually as I'm putting the clothes Washer I can smell the dude commentary where there's no matts and everything right she was in the gym area with doors closed in like you could assumes you walked in the front door you could smell her just yeah he ended up in an ad hoc Manja right into the bet right just like it just like he'll days you know yeah right I guess I K right door like you know you can't when you walk in the front door you can't see or hear anybody training you know so it's like she had gas ago when an highschool my coach organized a USA versus Belarus dual at our pillow like me. Anyway I mean I might as well just just is we'll protect myself a little bit aren't Gopher Yeah Yeah that's no fun you know when you're smelling elitist just not roles people just give him the the Gaijin X. Guy Genetics the Guy John well yeah you know that's that's a trade off rolling with it is the most ratchet shed I don't ever WanNa regard really is yeah I can't help it yeah I mean I guess I can't trade off I guess you could you could be at our school and like he came and got us out of class one day in the middle of school bell rushing team is wrestling our room yeah but yeah that was fun but that's those are my top two stinky assed people wow on individuals you know smelled up the entire space I wouldn't be surprised if the neighbors could couldn't smell her could smell it yeah it's like you walk into the gym through that door and like suddenly runs through the the two walls that they put up an open air like the ceiling was open and you could see like the weight room upstairs you know yeah and they smell up the tires aac gray sweatshirt said Manhattan on like New York skyline on some sort of like Bob Low escovar sweater you know area like everybody gets smelled these guys has wrestling with this dude and he just he smelled terrible but I couldn't tell like who smell you know just everybody smells spin around and listen I've been around people working out all my fucking life you know to just have this dinkiest Bursar I've ever met in our lives of stinky people I think that's pretty amazing that you and I actually share the stickiest Burson so Eskimo brothers and that she was yeah we're I think it's a leading indicator of fucking high weirdness I also think it's a it's a leading indicator that we are very affluent society a pillar Russian team pretty cool but they fucking smell up the whole area like a wrestling room used to be in this area it was just like a big large area and you know two years ago three years ago is pretty remarkable how's it how's great one of my favorite subjects of course sex robots unlike other people after you rolled but anyway there's this lady I don't know if she's willing you know what part of Russia was shoes from her I don't even know if she was from Russia but she'd struck me as a Slavic Lee how and sexual bots have been in the news once again all the news at you're looking at here like I mean don't shame me don't shake me yeah it was just a super wasn't even a sweater was just super basic great he brought it probably bought it from like a fucking stand on the street in New York yeah yeah well the The headline is sex robots with coding errors prone to violence could Strangle humans so that I mean this is a warning okay you've been warned okay all right Dr Collector now this is this hang in that's like a leading indicator of a positive you know that that that we're on the right track in terms of our level of wealth and leisure time this funny and also the other thing about it is is that there's you know there's humidity these motherfuckers that that's the positive of the I just told you they would say Caucasian Yeah I don't know that look ups yeah I mean I'll be will have their look Oh yeah I thank you the special fungible loser edition and we talk about wearing haircuts while block here only on the variety you know that that people can actually go on and have enough time to go on Google on bugging customize sex robots yeah and so I think that's a positive unshaven you know but you know I I think it's a I think it's a could get your hands around the guy yeah there's differentiations just as hot I fire he had on shorts and a and a super Dan they would come and work out with them like fuck yeah you know so we you know me and like three or four other other guys good on there and suited up and got to wrestle with the her weird in in that sense she was the stickiest person I think anybody that was there that day had ever strongest the second I had to put them in second number one are you close number two closing this is I was talking about this the other day at thank our last couple the Internet is that is it pulling from the crowd will yeah I'm sure that I'm sure there's a vendor of sex relatedness yeah I guess yeah involuntarily celibate anymore if you're dropping the Hammy on on Rijo Bot bridget the robot bridge like a robot it now this is this ridiculous right yeah I remember this now hookers of course is the this is the UK Daily Star polack all these articles the tablets of train went up each other with the most sane stories you know they're still trying to do that online but that's the origin story of of the Daily Star so that you're sending are like these aliases obviously lied of now but the Daily Star is a tabloid in London and you know in the old days of newspapers with manufacturers real botox in abyss I assume those are hot sex doll robot makers told Daily Star online it scares me to death into APP is because right now Plastic Cup does the job and that's like ten cents and through its also Aamer these people are out there and I'm not sure I'm not vouching for them they don't they're not living in my house or anything I'm just saying they're they're out there nick doll banger. I don't know I mean somebody fact check this result Pinger here's bricks warning all right the fears violent repercussions of robotics are not regulated properly. He believes that simple coding Erica turn AI girlfriends against their own like this guy's not going to reproduce now in produce like we're doll Bain kids yeah yeah it's pretty much the end of the line how long before this I if they're equipped with free will so he's not gonna quit just Copa Robot with three will equip your sperm receptacle with free well s a machine and it's always going to be machine discuss fucked an incredible amount of dogs dolls he's got relationships with all those companies these it into like sperm donation and go to donate sperm in like fucking doll what do you mean like how long before sperm donation clinic start buying go to school got to keep these joints loose circuits fiery brick this guy's this guy so bad the brick who has close ties should be like or like likes to bat second and third and fourth and fifth after you know they're the it's a it's a buyer's market in that people are willing to jerk off free and so six thousand six hundred and so cleaning strangling an expert has worn an expert sex robots doll collector doll click okay this guy's on spectrum of bad news I mean he's a duckling Paul can you come and there's a hospital sex robots plagued with coding errors could be prone to violent behaviors brick. Listen to this whole thing is dog Dr Doll Bain Dr Doll Paging Dr Dos Doctored Albay here sex dolls and they're like oh you just going to fuck the doll and that's your donation browser well I mean well here's why I don't think that's ever I just thought you'd be you'd be fucking adult that a bunch of dudes as we're that is weird in I'm sure there's even a subset of this community thanks she's like I'm not really interested in being your sperm receptacle like hey I'm going out to starbucks pitch right yeah I've got my own friends I wanna go to yoga class yeah I'm GONNA he's testing in paragraph about the should you know LE- dentists smashed ause see this is this is a decent thing I mean you know adults have been rock don't look at me like that these people exist out there I'm sorry to wake you up on this thing I'm just saying thank you Dr Golfing so this guy goes on to say you know these ulcer are going to be made of not just latex they're gonNA have motors and steel rods for Arms Geez mcgrew talking about a little bit ago you don't want somebody hacking your doll in like you know injuring you or like killing you you know a fucking steel hipbones and steal Tibias and steal fucking all that shit and she get like pissed off and fuck you up like a gun or something like that if the sing out of control it could do some serious damage he added this code simple as that might have bad goat watching him up fucking Balsa wood or something and so this guy well he can you caress Balsa Wood I I don't really know just put the you probably sent this to the company to like I'm a little worried that this Dole could fucking strangled I say he's just he's Tram Bang Bang the daubing or drum well there is I do follow on twitter person called the Internet of Shit and also compress your chest and airway in stopping breathing so yeah so well okay don't Hook them up to the Internet building and this is all their subject matters they talk about smart home stuff well the the Internet of should also talked about smart dildos that end smart vibrators and so that's an actual living non living that's an actual thing that's actually happening today that there is there is on the market right now that might be one of the key things you could join with the the other thing is maybe like there's a a certain cadence or like a vibration sequence may be put it this way it could put his arm around her neck to stop you from breathing and you wouldn't be able to get away from it something as simple as that simple hug could be constriction that literally and before that you were jacking off so you could just like you know you can just use your imagination okay yeah just take it a little easy on the machine or you could equip the doll plastic and rubber over out of something like that you can he everything can you like really style on this thing and I get it in reverse cowgirl this is probably like a as he's as he's writing his review he he dislike cuts and Pastes sends it to this tabloid you know or you now get out there yeah he's he's on you know then he actually gets into some kind of catch wrestling shit here he says and it wouldn't stop until these things occurred is a Harry Shearer whose late show boy yeah a weekly show and he talks about you know all the the this only smart home technology like door to door right alarm systems and I don't know maybe as thermostats all shit I told the kid deal mark dildos yeah what what do they do though like what smart about them like I can just use them for my phone like I can control it for my phone you know what you have to do but you're you're at risk of you know if some somebody wants to hijack your fucking Dildo experience sometimes it doesn't get supported enough in the ship's breaks and so now you're fucking again your fridge is GonNa break anyway at some point but now it's like you're adding a news a new trade-off you know by by by getting all that functionality you're basically giving somebody else access to do that yeah I don't know what would they do to kill you with the programmable dildo I don't know I mean maybe you should take that mind urge can hijack that that already yeah which I guess wouldn't be the worst thing you know it'd be unfortunate but that's not what the big deal there kill you can't kill you in a car in the car fucking count on fire and exploded I don't think I did but these things have a they have smart technologies that of course failing and put you at risk of just not only hacking risk but a lot of the smart technology a. b. what's it GonNa be you gotta there's a trade off here buddiers attorney her doll banger danger doll banger danger banger unless you can stop with some kind of projectile the other thing is is that like if you have a long distance relationship with someone and you this you you think this is one of the ways you can stay connected with that person is that perhaps program and if you like it you can save to the wet like on your all night in program like a vibration for certain person that calls or whatever turn it up as much as making explode or something I heard it up so hyped in over the safety the safety sequence yeah people are getting up to these things it's not you know I'm I'm happy for them I it's up it's so there's some positives in this whole thing you know yeah it's good to keep a relationship going already for safety deserve neither liberty nor safety or some shit like that and it's Kinda the same idea you know like you can give up you can get the all that shit but you're giving up a piece of security just like in general you know and you know you can make for now yeah explodes explodes now you're dead your new play yourself horribly maimed the very least the other guy that covers a lot of this in addition the Internet of Shit alive for nobody does anything militias to you already given up plenty of security so it's like your house Kinda like there's already I mean the Patriot Act the ability for the government to watch the transactions you have with your bank mm nine eleven the ultimate watershed moment for the security versus safety trade offs that we have made as a country the the because didn't you share like a like an engine exploding did I on snapchat that might not have been you but somebody's like send us a video of like an engine and the ability for you to travel and now it's getting down to the point of the ability for you to carry cash you know office is basically like co-signed by the state you know so yeah the banks will always do that because the banks the very simple I said I want to dumb house you know I I you know that's it simple I want light switches smart fucking light ability or new way for the fridge break newer option for your shit to get fucked up I had some kid come over to the house and he was okay and so that goes for that goes for the ability the government has to listen to your communication with your phone allows the doors to be open or closed you know in the so it's it's the ultimate cozy relationship and so but just because so yeah that that's that's security versus freedom tradeoff is you know especially nice to like okay say may Ango to the airport and we you know we forgot to turn the heat now it'd be nice to fucking be able to turn the down right but what's the CAN Thomas Jefferson May in these says the like those who would those who give up safety those who give if you think about it I guess there's already all kinds of insecure should here we got phones that our PRI- listened to US maybe who knows no you and I were having a conversation earlier and fucking see you know that doesn't necessarily make me one hundred dollars a criminal but that's that's the argument like we need to protect the world from all of these trading security for access you know or trading security for like just convenience too much control that the state essentially you know like the the any any bank that gets your information in so where the way we could be living we could you on a path where one hundred dollar bill is suddenly outlawed the banks have a very close relationship with with with the state and that the state is the money supply and the state of course some asshole visa hundred dollar used a bunch one hundred dollars to either by drugs or a blow building or buy a gun shoot up Walmart where people are not people will yeah people just people everywhere in all avenues of life for like will that still have all your options and it is a false trade anyway because wire transaction everything has to go through a US bank the you know that's that's not my opinion is very scary place agree this no good that's that you you give it up bulge kidding me like I don't I don't need to control fucking light bulbs from my phone it'd be nice to like it would be you know in addition when she killed underdog building that you probably kill all cash at all you know and then from there then it's pure it's a pure bank debate concept I'm just saying that this the trade offs of whether it's government monitoring or whether it's the ability to government to seize your assets it now so you're given up by getting functionality given obscurity you know there's this there's this quote by a like that person you could facetime a person he while you do that then you could also control the vibrator sounds like a with your guest once once again these it's the ability to track your every movement and not have to get a warrant for it or to for somebody in her the government has now so many data points on people that they can't even manage the fucking data okay and so it's like now they're you know Mo- people are still gonNA get incredibly high right gonNA figure it out and people are still gonNA and loose with communications over the Internet amongst American citizens but there's so much communication that they can't even if they got essentially ability to ease drop on any any communications come from outside of the country without a war and you know they can play living in nature but he he wonders how the dog so well groomed and kept in in the dog tells me about his collar in the so many people right now that it doesn't even matter now almost doesn't matter becomes like existential you know the the other worst part about this is that is that now even the hundred dollar bill is like under scrutiny really doing well legal nece yeah that's right and doc hit each other over the head with a fuck it stick or they're each other with guns you know there's very little thing you know this is not a gun control in the ocean in your hand you know can you assess an understand of the ocean water when his reign front you so it's like it's almost once again outcomes who in the one of the ways to do it is to go with with Tula cash so casual there's now criminals there there's a lot of that going around that super convenient shit where you can you know if you if you leave the house you can turn your phone are sorry Turner lights off term set off eerie came on yeah what do you want turn that bitch off you don't fuck that bitch turn off that's what I want fucking manage it and so now it's like they're trying to it's like it's like you essentially got possession of an ocean but it's like how much how much water can you he now and we kind of touched on this when we were talking about that that s ops fable where the movie the Wolfman dog where the wolf is like out on his own it's all a warrant you know it's like they have that ability but it hasn't really made you a whole lot safer as a citizen you know it's true but he's probably like seventy eight kilograms or something like that he's like one eighty something okay thank yeah Donnie and he's I think he's the favourite I'm pretty sure he's the favourite and came out today that there he might Blah Blah you know so it's Kinda the same thing same idea you know like you can't you can't can't remove all the danger in the world a whole lot hasn't made you save for at all any safer yeah USCA slid your sleep power slider over to whoever like you know and wrestling and it one of the details that the BBC talked about was it says Iran does not recognize the state of Israel and forbids its athletes from competing against Israelis international sports events and then they were talking about a judoka saieed Molay I house go through your Shit and without a warrant you know but or the ability if I didn't already say this firstly government to eavesdrop on you really a true Israeli athletes you for me that the an article at the BBC Dot Com and it talked about how and Israeli athlete later in the competition he said he was told to withdraw from the match against Russia's Olympic champion Kasan I mean rainiest were boycotting their own Olympics or not boycotting their Olympics but boycotting their own sporting events which included soccer in judo country's involvement in in sports is like it's it's another indicator that you know Iran is is but this happened before it happens kind of all the time where Iran's psych makes athletes forfeit magic against but world championships for wrestling's coming up in Iranian guy I can't remember his weight was named Hassan facing him later in the so it's like that he he had to quit before I even got to the Israel right a lot like is is like America in this way in that you know they have Bala Titians and representatives that aren't acting in their own best interest you know the AH who dead priests right you know these grant wizards right and so but they have elected representatives that also had and vote for their representatives they have they have some people in place that are nominated you know they they Khomeini line you know the the these grand legitimate level of ability and speed and all those things that's it very pretty dangerous combination there is definitely one of the best has got to be the favourite AH competition it's is a world champion huge who obviously huge tournament and what's his weight class roughly I bet that are that are somewhat parallel to these sort of these unelected religious officials in the the Iranians aren't he stayed in the competition but lost in semifinals but he's Vera for safety thought the you know the the essentially the state would come come and bang them over the head with them and one of the things about like the Israel like the Iranians wanting to sort itself protests themselves protester so that's a that's a that's usually well balanced sort of way class where you have some serious strength and size but you have to still have pretty three years ago and you know the Iranian fans he said basically trying to get pictures with them and all that he knows the United States with wrestling like how does that happen well the only I mean I know that the Iranians are huge fans of wrestling so like who said he feared for his safety after his toe by Iranian authorities pull out of the two thousand nine hundred judo world championships in Japan devoid the prospect of facing I listen to burroughs talk a little bit about the fans there and how interested in respectable they are just like they just like sport there so everybody knows wrestlers and and into wrestling a big deal there so so you're like a super knowledgeable fan base right yeah yeah and even after like there's a picture of a in two thousand twelve I think it was when burroughs you have to wrestle in Israel guy and so he's GonNa Forfeit doesn't have to wrestle in so this what's the what's the for a he's probably Lincoln for he said like a Google who Hassan Yazdani h ASEAN Wisey it'll come on can wrestler's they don't care what country from so he's he says when he goes he's been there they would they think they had the World Cup there maybe sure yeah blue there's interesting story AB- and it wasn't as it's not a story yet because I think it happens all the time there's a big culture of wrestling in Iran's right Divi and so how does that manifest itself like where where's the crossover between Iran and in a way that everybody realizes that you know not everyone's towing the exact line of these the this Oughta Grassy you know arrests nearing I've heard him talk a lot about that exchange between him and the the Iranian wrestlers you know in his favorable opinion of the Iranian that's a tall order for me I think it is a piece of it's a piece of both but it does start out with Israel is not a legitimate in some presentation and they're they're Kinda like arm-in-arm with each other you now just like burroughs says hand on the Iranian shoulder and they both have their jackets on like these these are impossible for Chasm Moore as eva thank you good to yeah thank you actually see it here to avoid the prospect of and state but then it just think about the from the terms of pure competitive aspect you know who that awesome along the way one in in one of the things like like you mentioned this latter wrestlers do have contact with Iranians because the aren't in line with what's happening with their with their government a lot with every one of their governments operations just like Americans are needed Murray and that's that's I think something that gets like in like jail son and who's kind of a hard right political guy but obviously comes from that community for just like how on the the podium boroughs in this the his Iranian competitor put their arms around each other and don't recognize Palestine as a state or is it a combination that's that's a little that it is it is a it's a democracy it's a flavor of democracy just like we have a flavor of democracy here you know and Iran yeah the people just through his encounters like just like the exchange where he said does who showed up at your high school villa Russians Belorussia just like how the Russian shut up I think they did that tour through Iran you know he said everybody was welcoming and loving and stuff and you know once you get somebody's politicians coach I mean it is wrestling matching I guess it's you know could be a bigger deal over there but then yet ikley there's that other now this is a total general generalization but die rain wrestlers are fucking some of the best in the world might I don't know any you can't compete yeah maybe that's why they're throwing the match before the match I mean you can't even have athletes eligible like on the back you to say USA and Iran both these guys have their arms over each other as pretty cool and there's just like a respect reunited think wrestling's like the nationals the modus operandi of this is the enemy this is a sub human this is this is somebody that deserves to die and so then that doesn't really fit with the narrator who is it a matter of that they don't WanNa bring shame upon their athletes to lose to an Israeli sending other countries yeah so in yeah I kind of think that like unless you if you want to have a team you have to say that you will compete against whoever the fuck otherwise if you're going to abstain from competing fuck up tournament breath you know and so that's probably that's another driving reason why Iran wants to keep their competitors away from Israeli competitor early restless now so like yeah you would think it would be maybe an opportunity to style on a little bit if you're just it's just a wrestling mat early because he's not sure like because it's also an opportunity for them to showcase their dominant as thinking generally the athletic commission whoever whoever athletic I don't know if it's I ac- that would make that decision like but they should they have to get Iran and be like Yo these are the rules you know if you don't want competing against Israeli athletes then you should not to be in for Iran be in cop in the competition pool you should that should be allowed you know if you want to do that that's fine but then you can't compete she now we're even straight Jewish competitor's because I think this is also crossed over to where that they've had to face juice competitors in engaged as is just as human beings and other competitors then that goes that goes right up against the the the gold medal and he wrestled in Iranian in the finals there's this great picture of like them from the back on the medal stand it I dunno throw on the medal stand but there what is Iran's argument there is that like is it that like Israel is that Israel isn't a state or is it that they video this is while ago where like this this coach hat this coach went over like starts putting ice on this kid's hand yeah this happens all the time like I remember I mean I've seen this having wrestling before like there's a guy that like there was a guy I saw this a few find one athlete that would say would you compete against Israeli and they would say no you know any judo whatever so like Russell whoever that time winded actually actualize and be there yeah and I shouldn't say Rosa whoever because like I said the athletes you know the theme of batteries right those have been catching on fire okay and so then they could they could put a sequence in that drives lithium battery over being our competition you know you can have you fucking up our brackets it's shit you know like they've been they've been dancing around the sink for seventy years you know somebody else could have been in your spot you know there's somebody else would have wanted your spot yeah so like get a kid their whole lives training to one what is your guy and then kids like what the fuck you what are you doing you know he's God with this underhand he's like why are you putting his hands like well we're going to act like you have a a hand injury because if you wrestle the the guy from a is Israel the no bail the rest for Iran again you know all right just bear with me doll collector brick dull bang way can happen if robots are not readily what's the guy's name take a stock actor Lou happy they've they've taken on all this all his dog they are yeah insight in the cars keep rolling you know they don't know what to do so you know this is an old thing in wrestling that happens every now and then you know so it's not like a new issue you yeah I don't know I mean I don't know like other than that like Iranians are some of the best wrestlers fucking you've ever seen Saami he emigrated to the United States and was a coach for the US Olympic teams in the Saturdays. That's crazy I didn't know that the back of your head you know because my my legs were attached to the kneeboard so I mean I guess I did maybe Scorpion a little bit but the person's feet and you hook them under your armpits and then you sit down it's basically like imagine the Persian as Scorpion okay yeah trap them a little bit okay so you're sitting on someone's high back your legs or in front of or behind their arms and him yeah and so the camel clutch for those not for those who don't know is where you sit on someone's back so their belly down you know you definitely hate this hate to see no Iranian wrestlers now speaking of Iranian wrestlers before then he you know he created the persona of the iron sheik into the dark side and innovated with his camel clutch camel clutch. I'm trying to get my legs down in there so I can sort of put that pressure on their lower back but wait a minute should be gone for a camel clutch because like give it a shot the iron sheik was an Iranian amateur wrestler who tried out for his Olympic team in nineteen sixty eight I sixty eight and then he and your your armpits their their shins or like under your armpits but yeah that you're bringing their shins now I mean I've a I've definitely gone for the Boston crab once or twice okay what's the Boston crowd the Boston crab is where Agana guys on his belly is over after that hopefully fit and you know if I get somebody in belly down you know I'm just I'm usually trying to lake grapevine okay you sit on someone's back and I'm not sure if your legs are behind the arms in front of the arms behind behind then he could lever you could lever there early grab his legs and you gotta rap inside out around his you've turned around now 'cause is the handled Fletcher facing the same direction like when you were you said you were like wake boarding or knee boarding or something like behind the other day or not today but like the day that's the last time I wake worded up their habits yeah fatality mortal combat ship fatality shit yeah down person has turned around so you this is super style well yeah I mean yeah okay so you turn around go ahead take me around and you grab reach you sorta Gable Grip under somebody's Chin that right and then you sit down harding sit hard and you Paul towards their head and that's a very uncomfortable place yeah yeah that's not the place you want to be like when yeah when you I got good speed coming back towards the wake to jump right but then you know I was just I was not practised you know these planet is the water at high speed right face minded water in my neck just like crack the last time I will well that was my first question is like when he wiped out I was like well did you Scorpion 'cause like that's like your your heels touched I am leaned a little too forward like I wasn't able to land the jump because like settling in backwards I just let the boat carry me forwards yeah oh I see through it I realise it's going badly like oh no I should've been leaning back a little bit yeah I was not leaning back and so all of it and then I started thinking my God but God side the wake are jumping you know some fucking action and I hit the I so basically these knee boards are like they have a pointy tip right and so the kneeboard pointy tip entered the water. Okay I'd like to see this so you caught the air off the wake right of and glory is within your grasp about halfway it cracker crack you know so yeah this is a story I was I was knee boarding this was a couple of years ago a couple summers ago Stinger in my hip somehow that froze my leg down I bet that yeah I've never had one my hip but where like I was I had a big impact oh no I think I hit the water I my case like I was in the Air Oh that's how much of an Indo this yeah and it was at the was it just that's exactly right I didn't have the rips at all you know so I just face planted in like ever since like dude I was probably like in that I was I couldn't move my leg a little bit but it came back pretty quick I mean I didn't think I was permanently damaged but I was definitely Asti I don't know if somebody had a big impact on my hip or if I just came down on my hip hard but yet froze up pretty good I one I regard we'll have been on a newborn floor continues eight years whatever so I get up and on my feel pretty good I and a couple of thirty six and shit and sixty s see that the the the okay see made the jump off the way I did get some air and so yeah you're caught on tape by the way this is on video really just stubborn guy you know I don't ever Wanna I don't Wanna I don't WanNa die right on give up ever like I had my stepdad dragging me on try like nine or ten years old the first Stinger heavier in a Stinger what were you like paralyzed a little bit where like you hit you hit launch angle and your weight distribution was bad or that you held onto the rope and it just it brought you know ideally I would hang onto the rope and keyboard for no good reason after this Fennell for nothing for Glory Anna being on a bouncy on a raft being dragged the boat retired weekend tire for me boarding your career is over over forget about that shit well even as there's like bouncy those things you know trying to shake me off the thing and of course I didn't want to go off and he bounced me off the motherfucker and of course I have one swim just wouldn't have been able to use my right arm but yeah and I was like I'm fucking done pull the boat on fucking done a lot of fucking pain in my left leg right leg I can't remember which one was not working at the time you know do that sucks on your legs I'd never had one of my leg yeah it was in little league football like I remember laying on the grasp in like feel like my arm is on fire in the coach goes well it's cold out here son it is not on fire yeah thanks so so yeah hit the water face he does rafts you know the people dragged on the boats royal offer can tune dude like headed a certain angle and like you're you're you get this nerve pain down your arm and your fingers though nominal shifts Playing pickup hockey I got US yeah because I'm not hanging off of Shit if you one Bob I'm GonNa go you know so I actually quite and have fun with it you know in that I'm not there's I there's nothing at stake and I assume I get a an easy bump off that thing and I'm in the water it's I really can't get hurt their I don't yeah so I'm you know I'm not a person and that's been a stabbing I am UNNEC got twisted up you know just face I I wasn't prepared and I I luckily had a life jacket on I think I would have had some troubles I mean I probably would have been vice getting electrocuted in there. It's not just like netflix specials that people get electrocuted should happy really getting real this is real like like on anyone's tombstone is it like he like he could never be you're you're clearly habits Internet connection Personas I'm not even having fun I'm having a little bit of fun out there but I mostly just doing it because Jalen once we do I mean I guess I'd be all right with it attribute to your stance area no middle ground near eighty lack Fuck about is not a republican or Democrat thanks communists think I can get ran over by boat or some shit but that's the only other problem with fucking lake of the ozarks Jeez boats everywhere bullets everywhere yeah motherfucker a`damp communist that's a very Trumpian sort of thing you're doing you're you're you're listening to sign mark you're signing right or left arm on the on the slowly and of course I go in the water and the flutie so going the boasts of going and I'm not gonNA go dude I toured cater cough the next thing you know crazy trumpers come after you'd be like boats par America American boasts main hate votes and lakes. Now you're actually doing it God damn it's an independent perspective Goddamn fascist it's a liberal. It may be libertarian I don't take my boat away gas immune systems though well now I mean that that's like there's a water soluble spin the water and supposed to be a lake so such as you that's that's normally one of the first things to go right the hair right here I think you you might have hair for a long time Dr Quarter been going down there since I was a young man in so you know I've gone there now more less than ten times more than five she sure we're going to try outs variety delay in mice t-shirt Hashtag fog abode on Gosh I feel bad from Michael Take my Bowie can't take my buttons Goddamn a Fifteenth Amendment Guarantees Voting Rights. Oh Wow I read that on the Internet kind of paint agenda that corner I I listen to Neil degrasse Tyson on on Joe Rogan he said I don't know if this is true go ahead I wanna hear this he said if you have have your your hair by at thirty you'll have your hair for like most of your life that's okay I'm glad I'm glad it's a learned life how is that working out why so many people getting electrocuted because hillbilly wiring out there yeah there's also so anyway potable no so the I love the ozarks and let people go to the ozarks it's like there's high bacteria so once again we're back on the spectrum and lake is it God damn sewer now back in the spectrum of getting you know staff again got those we a hearing it's scholar said something like that that's nice however you pay have been seeing late in since my thirties and there's been some time goes out but that the water represents many dangers yeah I mean I've heard things but I've never been harmed by the since I've entered my thirties okay I have noticed a gradual retreat given in my thirties I well I don't notice much retreat in Kadumi stupid strong so anyways so that was my first shoulder injury for young people I think but I can't even you're you're game then you get pretty short hair so like I mean there's obviously a little teeny bit but I didn't know you when you had so just I josh on record you are on record of so I wanNA fuck about is I think yeah that's what you said right I think that should be order to make them more presentable to a society again guess as C. Argument I know that that he's the Afro was like seen an Afro which is like a natural hairstyle seen okay okay look at me yeah able bodied young man great I look good doing still have my ear pretty much yeah you think in in a man for you might you might lose it you never know that's right so I'm just going to let it go what was I gonNa say oh well let's talk about the last thing we'll talk about the in solidarity just Kinda what do you mean solidarity just as a group thing like an identifier like sure you know but I'm not one anybody have to you know after I guess if somebody wears rep it yeah right back and why not Nice WanNa create any Brahms anybody that's kind yeah the Chicago crusher something part of their Mo was shaving off dreadlocks of black dudes but era of the this NFL story that came out there is an NFL sponsored charity that they're they're crush 'em oh I'm this'll be thank you for saying that you're welcome this is a list in it though you did I did yeah I feel like I might like problem or it's you know good or bad or that kind of thing you take me through that broadly just just you know in the in the sixties you know they're still very much wrong with this lady like and this is an old idea to right we're like black people's hair same treatment in this situation I have noticed like a lot of myself included a lot of black people growing out their hair which I think school an undercurrent of encouragement for black people to to wear their hair to make their hair typical type thing trope becomes a trope type thing so dreadlocks may be hurt are getting that's you know and maybe at a certain point I black people trying to fit in that box you know a black new black women for you know there's thing eighties where like all the black one we're getting the hairs a got this persona and it's it's kind of frightening and it's in it's also not it's frightening and educated at Saint Time which is thank could you pass well somebody who's like a love boats go so what well let's go now he's he's got an open terry right of me but I was just I was not practiced I should've took a smaller jump he didn't have the reps do the amplitude bad because normally think I had the same kind of thing where I can see it but nobody else can see yeah yeah we're like everybody else was like oh just never lost any you know you know there's so there's always been kind of a a a but I suspect like it's it's it's a thing for young people in these areas Chicago to like grow their hair it was That you go through all this to you know appear why Olshan respectability politics name for you know yeah so yeah it's like it's like a super subtle you know she believes that part of the problem is these guys don't look the part which is which is like through whatever means are necessary like white people's hair you know it may be comes from like the standard of beauty has like sign of rebellion and somebody has an Afro is a troublemaker and that kind of thing is it is a separatist is a black panther or not even that black panthers a bad thing but a violent violent being right yeah just it's like an identifier you know st so one less like to deliver to display one less attribute of just natural while we were talking I was thinking through this out loud basically in like pretty tone deaf the really she's just like in the current of that theme in it's like it's you know think about like this was like a big subject with with Malcolm X. talked a lot about this blackness you know natural natural African American if they grow their hair out this is what it looks like yeah right yeah and the of what she's doing she still doing it now yeah because the D if like you're ignorant of the of the damage yeah yeah so this lady in a can and I was like thinking through this earlier we were talking I was yeah you definitely you know we've talked about this before too but this is like this an education issue you know I fucking thing I like it you know I think that's cool it by people in their grow because there has been an I don't deal this much she she didn't have any idea of the context that that it requires to be like cognizant of that kind of bias and a lot of people black women still wear the hair this way where they get straightened you know because it's easier to deal with than this net now she's like Oh for cut these droids dreadlocks off they'll look more presentable and they'll be you know more acceptable this that type you're in the it is that you're playing out in the you're playing out you're still playing out damage you know you're still playing a stupidity it's like people talking their hair straightening your hair back a day right in the pain since summer it was just like it was like this was like some NFL sponsored nonprofit organization that had like it seemed like there's like physical fitness or some boxing stuff going on Titusville like that was like a transitional symbolic type thing for him where he was like I'm moving away from the state elissa video of the guy that cut his dreads and this is where I kinda got that other cinemas like he was he kind of equated his Hair Racist Jab that she doesn't even know she's thrown Tana she doesn't seem to really she didn't seem to really get it in that respect and it doesn't matter if she's ignorant of the life and I'm going to go do something else and so for him that could've been important you know it was just the way it was problematic now so she didn't have like a framework to to know what she's really doing there now and they're they
Jokic's Huge Night, Big Truss Turns 23, Giants Coaching News
"Hey this is Kirk herbstreet. This team's GonNa need to change the momentum in the second half. Let's listen into the head coach to hear his feet this to me. It all comes down to now I WANNA. Let's see some fire a fire that could perfectly grill naked smoked sausage and I want to see more from you out there more flavor more condiments. This is a home gate right after all. Now start eating. You belong here okay. Now I'm fired up Eckrich you do you Jalen and Jacoby He. It's Jalen rose. What and I'm David? Jacoby the cool take center stage on though Mike I gotta put it all works two jobs. Gobi what do we do we they. Aw beastie boys a charge US putting it on wax Jalen or death jam. I gotta hit a role just so cute. You think these things work like you could just hit up Rosenberg and then all of a sudden that'd be like a school like you. Just get a text message to the Lord's Pin. That's kind of high working. That's how it works. Yeah when you willing to pay to figure that the person asks for gentleman by the name Nikolay Yokich had a slow start to the season awesome. Slow start to the season. You know what I put it on wax. I challenge him. I asked if this was your king and you know what he heard. He hurries. Hurt people starting to notice that I'm a little out of shape. People start to notice that I haven't scored twenty points in five games in a row. Did you see what he did yesterday. Did you see what the stretch mark five did it yesterday. Forty seven points eight rebounds five assists and here's his most impressive because they've run. The offense threw him zero turnovers zero term. Forty seven point two zero turnovers. I don't play ninety seconds of basketball because he got exactly decided he wasn't going to do it yesterday. What it did you think about Yoga's big night so you joked about his weight but that's real spill and the thing? Ah a difference now for him. You can tell by the Arkansas. His jump shot usually a guy. That's his height unless it's dirk doesn't have have high arcona shadow does okay he got he got raindrop that they come down. Like the net doesn't move correct. Nobody hits three. It's like an icicle and so now that he's in shape peacock that the back shoot it. We're confident in and let it flow and the hawks. They don't play defense anyway. They decided that they were GonNa let him shoot. Go live with the results and they did. And so all of a sudden we take the best centers and players in the League catching his rhythm. Having forty-seven playing league. This is the Yokich that we all thought it was going to be an MVP candidate. This is the Yokich that we saw in the playoffs. Klaus last year people might forget because nugget didn't make the finals or he dominated in the playoffs dominated in the playoffs. But take me behind the curtain on this. It's not like Yokich didn't play basketball this summer. He played basketball summer. So why are we just now in the year. Twenty the twenty talking about him being shape. You ready for this. When I play ball and prior to my era you know born in one thousand nine seventy three? I'm a life already game. An older players will text me every time I say this but it's a fact there were times where they consider doing what I call working. King out okay. Sometimes based on the salaries back then those guys had second jobs. The nutrition was different. You know tobacco was a lot more windbreaker. It was just a different world. Players nowadays are so very well condition. They train is twenty four seven three sixty five so decades ago you can play basketball constantly in it. A keep you in shape now. Playing basketball is only part part of you being in shape enough. It's not enough. And if you think of twelve months cycle for a lot of these guys that are fortunate enough to play for team. USA or a play for their country and stuff like that. You have to let your body risks so now you decompress. After you're playing with your home country you come up to the United States in the nuggets night where we start in a couple of weeks. I think Iran. So you're not going as hard as is you're going to. As the season progresses this is one of the things I was talking about with Zion. Yesterday when they say that they're practicing five on five. You really doing no harm five. Oh five practices at this time of year because your best player play thirty minutes tonight before. So it's a lot different so with Yokich. Is this the player that we'll see. See this. Is this the player that we're gonNA see the same. You'll get from the playoffs last year for the rest of the season. I'm not easy. That's my king. Oh I never I never wavered only Joe Joe ever you remember the rest of he joe all unopposed one on one no. Does anyone work bore work using this high keeping Paul of high not celebrating. This is what supposed to do. My game is back and so yes I'm still on the band wagon all NBA style of the joker specially guys go shake hands and kiss babies that he looks better than me with his shirt off at this point in the season he got me now. He's got to work it out. You Ain't got what he didn't in Parsi but he looked better. What is obviously the focus is going to be on the potential all? NBA Player with forty seven. Point zero turnovers but let's not sleep on some of the highlights that trae young has been providing us this season and in this game last night. He had a couple like this. Watch the joker up between the legs to lend Nice Beijing Initiative limbaugh the way. Look at that little between the legs action and this one. I like more this next this watch. How many defenders fools this up to do that but that up between three my own legs Jalen? What does that show you you nasty boy? You Nasty. That the rules of the game have changed. Players have more space used to operate Also the game. Isn't this physical. So you could Kinda do tricks like that without somebody had checking your pushing you down Yup and it also shows me the trae young master with the Rock. Oh here he got that thing on a string on a Yoyo and for his size and at his bill for him to be able to navigate in and out of traffic and still be under control. That way did but still be off the wrong leg. Wrong Ham wrongfoot put like that. That's so much practice that so much disciplined that's got to be in the gym and also we'll bar ball for Denver to but trae young also the past half court and raise up on it ain't calls to WHO's making more thirty thirty four shots in the league. Well we have other news in the NBA. Jalen rose the seventy sixers won a game. The seventy sixers won a game. They had not won a game since Christmas. Do you remember Christmas. I miss when you're wearing different. Outfits time they want a basketball game Richardson had twenty-three Ben. Simmons had seventeen fifteen nine hundred thousand eight. What do you think about the production that they got from Simmons last difference wasn't Simmons Richardson? I and you said twenty three points you've got to get some Gar play especially from the perimeter Outta he and Ben Simmons. I've said over the last year and a half. I Really Love Ben Simmons in enjoy and beat so much that if they were isolated and you're building teams around them. I think that will be the better construction for them individually thinking about I dissed Joel Embiid is one of the most talented bigs in the game. You want him to stay near the basket. But he has the skills to drip Ben. Simmons is the tallest all is point guard in the game in a great finisher and the paint in plays point guard. He don't play outside of the painfully at all. So it's almost like their strengths and and a half court don't necessarily complement one another so when you get points on which. Hopefully they started to get Al Horford more involved when you get buckets. Tobias Harris I and now diversified their offense attack because to me. You're going to need those guys to be in similar. Put up those numbers every night. Would you need Joel. Go to put up more numbers every night. Let's check in on Joel embiid in this one particular play You know what I'm talking about. He Goes Oh you know looks like someone come down on them. They're just kind of funky but then when you see the results of that Pinger Jalen now. Anyone who played a lot. aww Basketball has had this happen to this. Yes and one thing that happened to me. I didn't play basketball for two months. He was out for like three minutes a game time and came back back taped up and played not bad. What do you think about the dislocated finger? So I don't play sports if particular professional sports. Let's not downplay what you just saw heading normal. No fingers not supposed to point that direction. That's one of his digits now for us then. I have been willing to sacrifice our bodies for the game that we love. It seems more like commonplace so when I see his fingers like that. It reminds allows me of old. School Bernard King. Miss the Buddy tapers hands. He's the jam his fingers all of the And so this is how I we grew up a plane again. You will see that happening and people pop it back in Ronnie Lott infamously basically had as being removing the game. Kobe Bryant had a famous stations stations. So it does happen but I wanNA give Joel embiid props because I see more mature. Young Man is translating out on the floor this year. The ability to not only be productive but his his acceptance of criticism and his Zimba his ability to embrace the expectations that they have well Brett Brown before the game talked about. Ben Simmons in a shooting list checking in with the sixers the head coach and this is too and so you know. Evidently I have failed. And it's something that that that we're all mindful of in. This is one of these things that is never going to go away the attention that this has received it is remarkable but I guess I helped fuel it and you know I own it like I gotta help him find this in most importantly he has to help himself about the fact that Brett Brown coached been Simmons Father back in the day in Australia. This crazy busy. This think about how things come full circle so I agree that we should accept. Ben Simmons for the player that he is. I don't think I think this is a coaching staff. Failure now coincidentally we have in this conversation. The day after Markelle faults could make shots and Philadelphia just had a career high twenty six points points and he went and got his confidence five but he had to go somewhere else to get his confidence. It's one thing if he's not making shots outside of the pain. It's another thing if he's not attempting. Here's what I think. Brett Brown alluded to this. You know because you know. I'm a mentally weak basketball and I'm not saying that. That's bad in Simmons at all. Remember Joel beans about last week. Every time we talked about the sixers lose four games in a row. We talk about Ben's shooting and I think it's become sort of like a self fulfilling prophecy the see that he's over thinking it because we're over discussing it and it becomes a vicious cycle of Ben. Simmons can't shoot. Ben Simmons can't shoot but they're gonNA end up playing great in the playoffs but that's what happens in sports because first off your job is to hopefully get better at your craft and deathly practice on your weaknesses. No matter how many all star appearances you have Best that's what the great players hopefully did each sees came back with something different and a lot of us cheered or Ben Simmons when he made a shot in the preseason from three to because we thought that that was going to be a trend. And we'll see you and I miss where James Harden one hundred three point shot from. Taylor go we'll go now. It's time for news. The matters move Jalen we've shown on this program actual footage from the military of UFO's flying in our very own atmosphere will now we have Britain's first astronaut first person in space apple female from Britain said this aliens definitely exists and it is possible. They're here you're right now and we simply can't see them. Jalen rose how many of these stories have to happen before you accept the fact that we are living amongst alien life forms so let let me get this right so you saying that. They're living amongst US right now. Yes right now right now. Three glasses while they might not be made of the same matter that we're made up okay. He might not exist physically. The same television is the cushion. Maybe maybe I know what you need to open your mind. I note here. Note here again. seasick any c-conversation into a conversation about your hairline. Jalen you said design Williamson shouldn't play this year. I disagreed well. Maybe this will change your mind. He will now now be engaged in five on five scrimmaging at practice. And here you have him. You know catching some casual lobs jalen. It's not even mid January anywhere yet and if he's playing five on five and he said himself that if it's up to him he would already be out there. Don't you think he should play this season Jacoby. He had an in surgery to his knee. Yes usually when that's happening you're not able to maintain your condition Zion already is the third heaviest this player in the League. The two people that way more than him are Bo Bon and Taco fall not short human beings. Both of these guys are seven footers and let me tell you some words that have. I've never been attributed to them. Quick Fast Athletic Those are things we expect. Diamond Him To be Zion to be on his body frame. I'm rooting for him. But you know what I want him to do. Play a long time and make two hundred fifty million dollars jerk would I don't want him to do is come back to a team. That's going to the lottery. It possibly get injured and now all of a sudden it compromises this summer and going into the next so you want him to get back in shape before he plays plays NBA basketball. How long did it take two months too much so that he could still play basketball? This season two months from now so we get so so many first year players. That for whatever reasons didn't play Blake Griffin. They weren't doing this. Joel Embiid Pinson doing this. They were hurt. Hurt Michael Porter Jr. earlier. They were playing five on five in practice. What makes everybody feel like? He ain't her because he's playing five and five a practice and he's dunking. Because he's a freak of nappy. Vince Carter Still Dunkin. He played thirty five years. So you'll be dug in when he's eighty years old science gonNA. I play the season and I'm GonNa get you to admit that you were wrong. That's what's GonNa Happen it's GonNa Happen. It's GonNa happen time but it's going to things. I wouldn't be wrong if he played. I say if I was running the show I would not play him. I would not be surprised if they put them out there for ten games Mishaan excited the management wants play three games or if you're healthy play and then he's healthy did did he look to you. Yeah he looks very very healthy. Okay so have you felt joke was out of shape based on the videos you saw. What do you think about sign? So you'll get back in shape if we exactly that correct and you can take a joke is take contact. He's not gonNA take six weeks to get in shade so so let me tell us. We're using terms wrong. That ain't a practice. That's a workout barely. That's a that's A. That's a publicity. Take a warm up. WE'LL SEE I. I'm rooting for the say. He's doing that now. Commit February he'll be ready to play. I WANT TO COVER Zion for ten or fifteen years. I don't want it to end early. Like what happened with Greg Oden. I want him to take his time and get one thousand percent healthy before he plays ion is a young star in the making Luca. Donges is a young star. Right now Alvin still have his job griffith still have his job. He's still got to pay ingram goods. DOC had another thirty point triple double. He had thirty eight points. Eleven rebounds and ten assists Jalen. Yes he has eleven triple doubles this season. It's more than anybody else in the NBA. Yet I don't feel like we celebrate him the way we should like. Are we taking Luca. Dodges just magnificent in play and his second year for granted disagree. He's been celebrated now. He went from being a potential western conference. all-star coming into the season depending on. Oh how will he play because he was a French type guy last year to be must see TV and questionable top-ten player. Oh no question about it. So so so that's L.. Elevations came because he got himself in. Better shape you continue to improve his handle his decision making he always I can knock it down from from from deep range and now he's finishing at the hoop plan to contact. We're not taking for granted. Shouldn't take for granted from any data. Data can be six seat in the West dependent on a win streak to to number two. They've now put themselves into conversation. They end up at two or twelve and I wouldn't be surprised. Let's listen anywhere in there. Tim Hardaway to He'd ball. Take a look at some of these numbers about these thirty point triple doubles because like just to put in perspective. Look at that. Thirty triple doubles under twenty. Twenty six Larry on their under twenty two got under twenty to thirty point triple doubles under twenty two at that some good company there. Yeah some great company and I'M NOT GONNA get into how much the rules have changed Wada. Game different because there will be a day you wake up and look at Kirk cousins numbers compare them to tradesmen numbers like he was dwarf than what is four thousand yard passing seasons in all of that so but again I wanna give Luca and Rick Carlisle Organization on it a credit. But you know who we ain't talking about that we need to talk about Nicholas Porzingas KRISTAPS Porzingis. If you're telling me remember I said it can be between two twelve and no one is going to give me now. Like he's been very consistent as entire season. Chris has been more up and down so if they're going to be closer to it's going to be because the KP It'd be closer to twelve. It will also also likely be because well. We talk about the Lakers. All Time we talk about Luke all the time. We talk about the clippers and the big stars. But there's something happening that we need to discuss us. The jazz have won. Eleven of twelve games the giants six trade we bully on Bogdonovich Bouillon down from the Pacers. Last is your picked up by the jazz thirty five points but not just zero rebounds. Zero zero steals zero blocks jailer. How how is that possible? How's it possible? So and he's done this before so he's back in the League so he don't have to be petty so I'll do a perform Carmelo Anthony Hostess all of the slander to. He's taking forbid entire career and not playing defense. It's in being a ball stopper now that stat line right. There played with someone who had a very similar stat. Line once upon a time really In a basketball. Give all day What's the Indiana Pacers? Reggie Reginald Miller. How can you tell me I didn't play in the NBA? How do you not get a rebound or an assist assist? I'll tell you how. How would you shoot really good? And what's happening is happening in the half court. We just run in place to try to get all favored church. Search doesn't learn his own this town he catch it. He opened fire if we did our job. And there's a lot of discussion about the jazz has really making a run at the western conference. They've won eleven of twelve th. They're doing another. They're climbing there climbing in the conference up right around where the clippers are. Could they host a first first round game one of the playoffs. So I said this into this microphone and you know how we like to plant seed about seeds about players. I WANNA plan another seat about a top top-flight talented team in the West. I'm worried about the clip receding Worried about the clip preceding Denver Jazz. Houston they all have the chance to have records that are similar twelve losses twelve losses right now. Now all of a sudden you get in the Lakers in the second round Jalen rose we have some breaking news when it comes to. NFL head coaches the Carolina Panthers formerly head coach. Ron Rivera are now being head coach. By Baylor's Matt Rule. What do you think about this move from the panthers? I'm happy for Matt Rule because he's gone places and turn turn their programs around the temple. You see him doing Baylor has previous. NFL experience is well respected in that league. That's not an accident that he I was trying to get back into that. League appreciate high communicated with his players about the possibility of that happening. He didn't give cliche answers. He didn't downplayed he didn't say I'M GONNA be Baylor forever. And let's look at what he's inherited. Christian McCaffrey okay. That guy is set the league on on fire this year. He he made it to where they can now continue to possibly build around him to wildflower. Here is if I'm hill. GotTa keep can't keep can't the one game in Green Bay. When Allen looks like the next quarterback of the panthers there's one game and then if you watch the previews the games that followed that he did not look like couch and Ryan Pass? These guys got nicknames. Way Too fast. But I'm GonNa tell you just think about this if you're the Panthers Cam. Newton Newton is under contract a nothing football season. You just bring in new coach. Let's name you gotta find a way to keep Cam Cam Newton well who has a quarterback ravens and do you know what it is his twenty third birthday today Jalen big trust twenty third birthday. Just take a second look at some of his greatest hits from this season because Jalen rose this man was was unequivocally the MVP league easily the most effective in his position and he's only twenty three years old like are we going to have a Lamar Jackson rain rain over the NFL. So let me paint some pitchers for you guys. It's been a better passer. This season at this aged Peyton. Manning spent a better runner Michael Vick Randall Cunningham. It's crazy just think about Dan. Players live in two different worlds Peyton manning with the sheriff Right behind center spraying a football around field is the memories that we have. That's Lamar's been doing and also out there running crazy where I'm gonNA tell you. A pivotal point of the season was. I never get watching this game guy who they were playing. They got an offensive penalty. He was so frustrated with his offense lamb. He slammed the ball right Oz washing. I WANNA get good. I'm not sweat when I remember everything. His good no particular sequence next play boom wreck third and seventeen ran for fifteen yards ran for the touchdown next drive have to like he got it he got he got it and so very impressive. What he's doing at any age for the guy who was the fifth fifth quarterback taken in a first round? Shot the Ozzie newsome. Well he is as GM's to do his emerging as it's not one of the best quarterbacks in the NFL and there's someone who sort of falling out of those ranks. A gentleman by the name of Tom Brady after now media ties of just so. Let me give you the top three quarterback in the NFL right now. Do you think that no okay. So there you go. It's just a fact it's just a fact. Say the margin is going this way Tom Brady going that way late is well. That's like the Chris Paul Commercial. That's exactly what's happening is I thought. He said he wasn't going to retire. That's unlikely yes. And he has now been linked via various rumors. No more substantial than others. These falling sixteen come out Patricia. The chargers which is the panthers the dolphins the saints and even the Browns to name a few now again isn't just rumors down. Do if Tom Brady calls your phone. Oh He's like. Hey listen you know. I went to Michigan Michigan. Wolverines Wolverine. What do you think I should do? What would you advise Tom? Brady leading next seat all do it. Brass's not always greener. He's forty two years old he's won six championships. He's become to go. He was fortunate to play. Forgo anytime you remove him from that situation. He packs his luggage and he puts his pads in his helmet into another locker room. It is going to be the same raiders. turnball he could be he can be linked up with mcdaniels as a head. Coach quarterback duo showing my age. Here they can play. Bella remembered his happened with Joe Montana and he went to Casey. I also remember. Remember working with Peyton manning when he went to Denver Pitman didn't exactly play great for Denver. But still the defense. Thank you thank you I. I just think that he's had an amazing hall of fame career. I don't want people to now feel like he got exposed in any way shape or form because he's he's not able to duplicate the excellence that he's already put on tape all of these years. Well you mentioned him earlier. Man Gardner Mints You. Now one of the reasons that he celebrated this year because he played well no no who he was and he also had a big personality in a mustache in a mustache stash. There you go. And he wore cool clothes and now. Let's take a look at what his off season plans are. Hello Gardner mentioned minstry here. After a long rookie year I decided to take a step back. recenter myself the only way I know. How hopping in brand new? RV and torn this great country. So if you're anywhere between Jacksonville on La. I want to hear from you places. You see anything for three food. The people to me. Hopefully I see all out there on the road so that keep it rolling Jalen. They have a couple of thoughts number one the juries Jean shorts too much I never to where his eyes open we got check him for some additional is weren't even even over. Maybe that's a failed. Even maybe so I liked it. He has a big personality. But just like we're going to give my mom all the the credit for my name. Let's make sure we give his day all of the credit for his name. He's a second there isn't a I know that that's it's true. That's where it started. What is all do you see his dad watching the games no grill tents? Listen the cold intense. Yeah Yeah Yeah Yeah. I can't wait to see him in Pat McAfee on an RV. Talk about that. That could be sought videos like anyway you need. I'll meet you. Got You movie on his time for soft move or boss move the international superstar an extremely rich human being inky Jacoby Cristiano Renaldo. Okay was headed to one of his Siri Games. And just once you take a look at some of the technology. That's not tie clip. That is a circa two two thousand ten. I pod shuffle. I had one of these. They were the absolute worst software. Boss move using technology analogy from two thousand and ten when you are international superstar multimillionaire. It's a boss move. He still has it working. Do what do you do. You have one of those. No you had to connected to your laptop dragon drop songs over and there was no number two. Why here but there was no screen? You could lead discreet. You would see what you're listening to us even know what you're listening to on that this dated if it's inconvenient you know what I just told myself the other day was about to get a beeper. You're going to be pronounced somebody to be set me all day because seventy five percent of the people that call. I don't WanNa talk to them. I will be respond to what about text messages. Have you heard of Dole's message. You don't want to spend voicemails beeps you know what you send a lot of texts answer allowed. Tech's you send a lot of text messages. I want you to know that when you get a text message you can reply to it and exchange information who saw Often time in my life as an adult were there periods in the day hours. I'm not on my phone. I'm not going to be this person all day. I made my mind up. I'm not going to be what you back at. Twelve hit me at nine answering change. I know what those hours are for you when you're asleep powers on time. We're not looking at your phone Jalen. You're very particular about what we discussed but we don't discuss on this program so we made a whole segment just for you to decide. It is called. Keep moving if you want to discuss the topic the brakes if not me the mini van and keep moving. Are you ready. Blue Tester Rose Jalen. I've got some bad news for the Pistons. Keep moving hit the brakes gotta hit the brakes. Well Blake Griffin seeing some specialists and he is deciding whether or not he should have season ending surgery. Jalen when we think about this news. I'm trying to put together so Matthew Stafford finished last the previous season injured lions. Now have the number three overall overall pick I gotta find out of Toolkit who we find out to what it is you got to offer him. We ask ask to be the lions in Rehab as a member of the Piston. Can you text text Laura who are making the playoffs okay. We'll talk about so. We have a mark health bolts update. Keep moving minore hit the brakes. He had his career high. You know how much I'm rooting for. The Nets are quietly struggling. They're keeping moving moving. We keep him moving. We keep him all. Oh the eastern conference does not have over seven all star. There's something funky happening in the NBA. Keeps moving to hit the brakes sonke. Funky it the brace. Let's talk about the Washington Wizards for a second kiewit engaging me they keep winning and if you look at their office efficiency they're number six defensive officiency number thirty how are they winning games with the worst defense in the league and also they did it in this game without Bradley beal. WHO MR MR premiums? Two Games and Isaiah Thomas is well I want to give props to Ishmael a former Detroit Pistons. I've seen him get hot. He's herky-jerky is one of the fastest guys in the league with the ball and all of a sudden he got hot and Celtics couldn't slow him down and it was it was a wizard team has played it really. Good offense as you noted all season divas has been something to be desired. This is a bad loss by themselves. Jalen I don't think the words GonNa make six to eight finals. The brakes no we. We don't keep moving. Keep moving out to the chemo. We keep the Browns are interviewing a head coaching candidate. Oh you hit the brakes in this one. They'll be interviewing Jim Schwartz. Someone you're familiar with wall to former lions former lines coat. I'm not mad. At how many games they win with the Buffalo and celebrate the one time they they played against the lions it just always funny when I watch his teams play against the cowboys to coordinator's going at it in a bolt it used to be coaches at alliance not look back at the track record on not wait a minute. Someone did something evil in Walmart. He removing the break Walmart. Hit the brakes so at a Walmart in Pennsylvania someone brought bedbugs in there into the changing room and release them around Walmart. Why would you do this because the eagles they make the playoffs? That's a great point guy. It was like that's what it is Antonio Brown released a rap song we We have anything around Brad Pitt. Finally a drake in future song lit the brakes. There's a new song leaked online. Now whether they intentionally or not does not matter they have a new project together and I loved what a time to be alive. I love I absolutely loved it. I'm very excited about this. I into this new collaboration into future entry. We have some very big news in the coaching. Ranks of the National Football League. Still Taking Mike McCarthy victory laps take well some tells me didn't pick this one. The giants have a new head coach gentleman by the name of Joe Judge which was the wide receivers coach for the Patriots and previously before that was involved with the Patriots. Special teams. Jalen your reaction to this is higher Joe Judge. Would this sounds like to me. Is You get on the phone with Jackson mcdan- US and you realize when he's sitting in the office he's been a head coach before Gone through this process. He's a season he tells you all of the things that he will not stand for and then he tells you how much it's going to cost and you like you know what we're GONNA get demand man next we'll get you got some curry Joel. Judges actually one of the coaches that committed to going to the colts with mcdaniels but Dan turned around and to the New England patriots. But one thing that just comes to mind here is Jalen was was the strength strength of the Patriots offense. The wide receiver playing was that the strength of the law that has to do with the talented the position. But that was one of the things that we've talked about all season as long as the wide receivers dropping the ball all miscommunicated. Yes talk all year about how they should get. Harry involve he didn't get involved until late and then I'm watch decay. He came back with the ninth receiver taken in the draft and always say patriots. Don't have weapons. They got a guy named Jacoby cat. But however let me say some some of Mr Judge he'd been around some winning He's been around so greatness in Alabama championships two thousand nine or two thousand eleven patriots the championships or your team sixteen and two thousand eighteen. Yup so I don't want to dismiss the rings that he has on the contributions that he's done but it is a surprising higher. I'm telling you as an athlete. This is why I figured the Mike McCarthy our check it all of the boxes of what I think the team he may or may not want and may or may not pay. And that's how I came up with the coach in this case. I'm telling you they just didn't want to pay somebody a big Tom deal so they find somebody. They're GONNA pay our we'll also they've got you know I'm not going to sit here and act like I understand the impact that Joe judges having a newsagent. Because you're the Special Teams Coaching special teams coordinator and then the wide receivers coach. You're not out in front calling plays like Offensive Coordinator Defensive Coordinator or head coach. But here's what I do know. Got To be a great interview. Ah He's got a great interview man. This this guy can really sell in the room which is important when your head coach also needs to be mentioned. There's also an offensive coordinator position for the New York giants. And do you know who they just ask. Permission to interview from Jason. I'm Garrett Jason Jared jailing so you guys see the wide receivers coach as head coach and then the head coach as offensive coordinator potentially and the cowboys offense underachieved this year. Also sure did sure did. So here's what I want to say. I know the Cleveland. Excellent job is still open So far as long vacancy Josh mcdaniels is from Ohio. Oh Eric meet be enemy. You were with John. Dorsey who recently got fired as the Geo in Kansas City. It'd be interesting to see Eric. Let me get to real shop for that job because we stopped me if I'm wrong who's running in the NFL the reigning MVP in the NFL. Gentleman the played in Kansas City Patrick where Emma who's this office coordinator. Oh interesting following what you're dropping here. I'm just saying under Andy Reid. He's getting to religious. Well well follow. The enemy. Says he was a player in Colorado. He deserves a great opportunity. Just like I'm saying well I'm sure there will be some more head coach news in the NFL. But this is is shocking and interesting and I will reserve judgment on Joe Johnson Kevin Reserve judgment. Can I say this. I hope Jason Jason Gerry takes to office coordinator job at the New York giants. We might as well move this studio from South Seaport to their facility to their facility. Acidity we might as well see. We don't have that starring helmet is just just doesn't it hits different it hits different. He's GonNa hit it. Hits it hits different Jalen. You played at Toronto all right so I'm sure you're familiar with the Toronto landmarks I get to town. You just want to familiarize yourself Rhonda House. Jefferson is a new rafter so he wanted to see some of the iconic landmarks up Toronto so he went to the tower. Oh Yeah let's just take a look at this visit to the tower here. So that's a law that allowed Lor Jay. Hey Don that's a glass ain't gonNA nephew you know you guys. Don't play those games now. That what we do. Oh now that's what I could give you. A list of people expect to see that doing that on Social Media Gardner Mentio- eight. He's on the cell that Udall data for you. So is standing on the glass floor at the C. N. Tower our cultural. Is that what you're trying to say. Is that what you're saying was not was cultural fearing heights. Let me tell you how many people have fallen their debt through that glass floor. It'd be how do you think of stood on a million not playing millions. Millions no chance of winning the lottery fall last tap dancing playing this game. I'm sitting on that floor. I am here to Toronto. The Toronto I I will bring on that floor on that floor standing next to you like. That's all on him. That does he go down. I ain't trying to Graf is because I can't let us know if not there's nothing there's no number no he's gotta pay. You Might Michigan. I'm on the pavement and I'm into a microphone with the Knicks. They seize the we always say we get the people what they want. So we're not going to give you the television show audio we always give you. PODCAST exclusive too hot for TV over my shoulder. We had the Beastie boys right let in every single time my brother got you look at them right in the face. I love them so much. You you look at every single time. I love them so much. You got you got people on your side that are like family to Phnom remixing mixing my side. I looked at it today. And this thing's just going to ask the John F. Kennedy picture picture of John F. Kennedy on the day that he was murdered. I wanted that on my side not actually go get us other. Pictures of this man is classic. It's all you can have that one and the Salvador Dali Picture I got his whack. Yes that the G. Q.. Yeah bothers you. I told you not to put that up there leading us. It's mainly but you got like some some some Jalen laws immortals on your side father. I got some notes for your son. William a a simmons. I got some notes for his middle. Initial bill will inch Google. Let's see what he says is more fun as he says he probably GonNa West Coast William John Simmons the third. Okay oh I know Ben Ben. Thank the bills like nine. Do Bill broke the lineage. William J. Broke delineated APO- Popova shutout to ringer. So we'll talk about wh- we got too hot for TV the topic I got hit with Katie. Okay I'm not sure that that represents what's best for our sisters around the world was that Hammock in the backyard. She's well known media star from a previous viscera but she's groundbreaking for other reasons to Jakob. Let me tell you Jay and Kennedy Kennedy is a legend Tommy Edwards the OG program. Can I get a a man. Of course Jane Kennedy is alleged not only as an actor but as a broadcaster in sports as well groundbreaking groundbreaking and yes. She did have a car dashing type video yes she did in her day way before her time but if you look at all all human beings back to their past none of us are trying to say something questionable that they want said or that they once did I got why we're honoring questionable about Stevie wonder imagine you can see he could see no consumerist. Numerous people have told stories. Basically saying this could see. It's probably the greatest trick. The Devil of Opole too. Because if you you can see and you fake blind like you're playing chess not checkers so I wanNA teach people something about artistic greatness. I would say the greatest artists of all time Any genre any genre. Careful now. Careful Jonrowe Honora at me. I G interactive twitter interactive. If I'm forgetting somebody no particular order no particular order. How many decades of Stephen doing this like six saw him? Uncle Sam's birthday party. Okay like that was like sixty years. Okay legend play. The Harmonica Piano. Seeing right writes everything. Just think of this. If it's your head sway sixty years okay motown. He was doing it when he was teenager. ARETHA Franklin rest in peace probably have fifty plus years in the game still still doing super bowl He still seeing how she did the anthem still singing it. She still thinking last year right still seeing it so it just so happens that you're Pulled from your hometown okay. I'm in okay. What happens longevity? Michael Jackson Gary Indiana can't argue with his greatness of all time Gangsta Gibbs also giving you know cotton scary gear in their path. I was scared us. Remember coming over the Iway. These big smoke. Stacks with fire. Coming out the Nasdaq real fun. y'All can't there's a tax have smoke coming out of Gary. They got fire for coming out onto so when you have these conversations about artists and like you say either I said people. I'm from my hometown or said people that just happened to look like me. Sometimes Artists Look like you get omitted. We got you ever. I bet you've never done on this. I bet you've never done. This just sat down and like read. Romeo and Juliet just read Shakespeare. No word play play crazy. More plan got nods. He's a nice with the bars. And let me tell you how I get nice with my work. I have to read it so slow and read Shakespeare so slow one pages like fifteen minutes. I'm not dissing Shakespeare career because I'm an educated man game for Steve. You know one for hundreds of years. I appreciate these that are written things things that are red. I appreciate the entire consumption of that. However when you're reading Shakespeare I was trying to come worse for urban dictionary? Go Great Great Jalen. Good good sin- Eh. Chatham mind work. Yeah that's genius. Jamie Kennedy claim that I don't I don't I I gotta live up to it. Your who. What artists do you feel like? I left off. If I'm doing the list of all time. Great and let me look at. I don't I'm I'm not great at this. You know we're not gonNA coming off off the top of the Dome but I will say this just the reason. I Have Salvador Dali on the wall. You're not that familiar with his work. I'm not is painter. Sculptor filmmaker multimedia artists like. He was just innovative creative in a way that nobody. What else wasn't the time now doesn't mean his picture needs to be relax neighborhood to did all of those things just didn't name was just T- stuck okay? Did it in a different manner Rodney stocky. No I'm just working in Detroit for a while. Yeah he was. He was looking like fifty cents or thirty cents to so again. Am I if I leave leaving. Awesome artists so I think Elvis is overrated. Let me you just say that into a microphone. let me tell you who else I left off all time. Great that belongs up there with the people said Frank Sinatra longevity Japanese important Frank Sinatra. I was in a hotel room. There's all bad movies I was like. Let me just look at this movie about Frank Sinatra hanging out in Palm Springs James. Gunn they come to my mind. We can do this. You know John Lennon Bob Dylan those. I'm name people so by the way the reason why. I'm doing this exercise because now you need to put their pitchers. I don't like them like that. I'm talking about leaving considered I don't really listen to Bob Dylan. I don't really listen to ZIP to the Beatles. I think the Beatles I'm over just rolling stones guy but I don't like I don't rap for these people that way I'm just I'm just trying to talk about you. Know people that have have decades in the game no question. I left a mark on pop culture over tours. Yeah you know and people like that you know Martin Scorsese film makers Alfred Hitchcock filmmakers. You know those those type of people come to mind. I like the creative juices are act law actors the nine years. I've been begging on us out of your district. We gotTA talk. I'm GonNa take people on the curtain someone here. I'm looking at my wall. Jalen guarantee or whatever he's doing and I'm like you know what that's our Oh died pictures wag that John F. Kennedy pictures and then I saw you know a couple of my pictures then Jalen will the person that used to work on the pictures graduated. There's two big Marc Spears. Here's the bigger and better studios Branko. Don't even know I don't even if I had Frankel about this. You won't be back. I know that for sure and then I was thinking to myself. I said that was a gentleman. must do again what you say. I'm after nine years you care about your side. Is that a positive comment or negative comments as positive. What is it negative? Congress I focus now. Oh Oh so right now if it was on right now so are you talking about the last years. Because you didn't care I I remember I remember in l.. Let's talk about it. Well we walk into the studio for the first time and you saw half of your pictures. You didn't like him okay. Okay first of all you know what sometimes you just recreate. History is GonNa be recreate history. You recreate history like your own version of the Papa does this to whatever delusions you need to live. I'm not even gonNA tear those walls down. Whatever delusions you need Jalen whatever delusions you need? Go ahead ED in live. That experience lived that experience. Because I've got an alternate lineage of the events that occurred and some tells me the minds a little bit closer also to the objective reality that we all share that yours. Okay I bet when you remix your wall. I got to switch like I at least five. Five of pitchers go away. Some need to go away like the soul train one associate. I didn't mess it. Sultry like that. And this is like one of my main show. So Don Cornelius is one of my idols. I understand that plant out. He was clean he was a business owner. He always made sure the people like me look good on TV and they were trendsetters to soul. Train ended up being the scene in Detroit. Moore's RJ. I'm not saying I'm not saying that's not true to the Iceland. I'm not saying it's not you but I am saying is is. It doesn't connect me and my history the same way does your. Does it got to go so we go fight over Larry. And that's just fine over Larry. Bird Larry Larry Larry's the car. You have the dog half full possession of the kids full custody of keeping Larry Recipes to Mike Ham my best friend in high school. And sometimes you do things to me like this. They might have used to do that. So funny it's like we went to high school. I wanted number thirty two. I'm Magic Johnson. I'll get thirty two doll uh-huh okay. I can't say I was better than him. We were saying like he wore tired of me. He's more disciplined any was stronger but It's like a couple of things you and I fight. Oh we fight over red man. We fight over Larry Bird and you know what else I noticed. No Reggie Noble pitcher now. A single Reggie Noble picture. I mean this is used to have we. Are we doing a show without a picture. Pitcher of Redmond. We own what taking out soul train and I'm putting in. Two Thousand Sixteen is no album in my life. I'm more time and we all live reality. You don't have to apologize for that. I'm saying in my life. There was no album. Punch me in the face and changed everything that I thought about music like and to the thirty six chambers millerbrook the first time I heard protect you name me to exactly where I was. I was at the hip hop shop. Seven mile how in Detroit Maurice Malone Jeans was depicted in the movie eight mile were Eminem was freestyle and big proof. Used to be up there on the Mike and a friend of mine rest just a piece of San Jacinto son. He had the Wu Tang and it was like Joe even literally got it from New York to saw the neck and method man with two. That came out. I it's protecting started with that Again and again you would have started with that because I'm in western Massachusetts. Oh well this is already a thing because when they put that at the top of like someone requesting to hear then hall yeah again and again. I'll say oh this worked on me. I was like all people. Yeah yeah this one's hot and then you heard it. It was just over over. What nate name for other albums that you feel? I had an a major impact on you as well. Oh any John. I'm go The Bob Marley box which was basically like his entire box set dre the chronic Thirty six chambers and then my dad put me onto a really really interesting. Bruce springsteen album called Nebraska really good storytelling go ahead and I had to switch it up a little bit on the rolling stone. Hot Rocks Rolling Stones had like busy greatest hits And that down down really really got me so no particular order for me I like to think periods in my life life Manam. Oh no your time to think about this. While I was listening I was actually listening to you. The first time in nine years nine years I was losing title nine years late Seventies. It was just like a record. The message that video in itself just rats in the front room roaches in the back and Mellie Mell carrying during a bat. I was like five a chance to carry a back. I'm going to do it so shot the Mellie mell early eighties. Oh Eric Iraq Campaign Eric. B Is President. Oh Man L L can't live without my radio run DMC rock box. I didn't even put any of Paul's Matik on their lays. Ill check your head all the beautiful Cadillac DDP Ma Philosophy public enemy. Yo Oh bob rush to show even got out of Asia This is what we have ninety EP. MD every album Keith. Murray Katie Murray was so hot when it was so hot what you know who was so hot that we need to make sure we give them more flowers rest in peace to one of their members mob deep though. Yeah Oh yeah I was scared I not not A. I'm not D zero way. Correct scary faced heavy bringing Gino's bonuses violent assist right and you find out there like a hundred twenty pounds guy. That'd be hard then to pocket hit a loved When my homies call that album I forget what it's called I was classic every Situa was the P we doubt these would have cooled move nor g back in the day? Big I remember I got to the lead big had a new album and NAS NJ all had album. That just got a car until I was in the league. We're ninety four. All of them was popping. Ready to die. Had such good beats on biggies. Great ever do it for juicy and and What's the what's the song reggae? The very beginning on the guest is so big in thinking. That one shot to shit. Heck's that all you should've seen Tom Hanks his son to a Do a Jamaican accent twitter. Oh it was it was. It was not a great moment for my people from people early nineties so all of them have. Oh ooh outkast's first album three. Oh and I don't get gang star Game Star. I southern southern other players collect music came out. I had the cassette singles by by the register at the record store and the paper on the outside the time of day remix on the back. Let's flip that thing over over just flipped it over in my car for for like a week week straight does. That's it just listening to that song. Ice Cubes America's most wanted he left. Nwea these are also like if you're listening to this we don't we don't do complete list-serve software repair Liz either. We don't do complete list. 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Okay so if you call nine eight five eight zero Jalen. jalen greeted voicemail. Was Number J nine eight. Five eight zero Jalen shot delay and it's Tuesday. So so what do we need. We need international callers. No female voicemails for tomorrow female says says to I know Tuesday Tuesday. We need female voicemails ladies if you call couples if you're listening to this ladies and couples call right now nine eight five eight. Zero Jalen leaves a voicemail for it on the show just like this guy was going on This is p. con from h towns. I E taxes night. I know we discussed Yata stress. We discussed poop a lot on the shell house. WanNa say I inform us. I WanNa know how you feel about this When you put in you go in the shower after worse just getting in after you after you do drop a Deuce is getting in and claiming yourself personally? I feel like if you don't anything other than just sitting on the toilet wider Clinton and then getting in the shower is a soft move disgusting and I just got an identity. Said you should be arrested. Let me know man appreciate your thank you for what you do. Jalen you love talking about on the show. I won't talk about anything I know you love talking about poop on this show so this is going to live okay. Cool first first off. I'm a grown man. Came you taking a shower after every time. Not every time. But there's certain situations where I'm like. This is this is. This is an emergency. Well when you're at work certain situations you know. Of course. I'm you know we've got a great record break. I'm one of MBA tease. Wow Man thirty eleven on the road you can ask my wife. If you don't believe me. I wanted to clean his human beings ever show. I take two or three people the have real like. OCD like hypoallergenic. Don't shake your hand type of people not then well let me tell you. Why do it ain't really about necessarily getting getting clean per se? Of course I WANNA wash up and all that I use that time as a mental meditation the period when I'm not on the phone I'm not watching. TV gives me chance to think. Image hands to pray is be a chance to count all my blessings. So it's a positive space is me chance to create ideas goals personally personally professionally. Strengthen myself emotionally. Psychologically so it's not really just about the act of a shower. I saw part of what I agree with you. There are times when I'm at home and I'll tell you those moments I'm taking both legs out. Stop taking gave me this tip a long time ago. not this legs. I can't I came back with that. That's insane overdo it. That's too much for. You gave him a long time ago like you know what I you. You do a lot in the shower. How long are we thought? Long Rian therefore you tell me you're like I use that as my time to stretch. There's Mr Smith's do you know every time I'm in the shower. I watch my legs right and we had a topic on the show. Some people were talking about not washing their legs. And every time I watch for likes AH Reggie doesn't do this and tell you guys you can get on me for not watching my leg ever not watching after basketball I understand. Listen you know. We're all very open and honest on this program but every time especially after yoga you know what I mean. I'm washing my legs. Reggie doesn't do. Hi this is impossible for your saying get washed away. Forty percent of your body may not you got to try to do it. It's always nice and he said entertainer was talking talking about. He had on his fly outfit and he went to a barbecue and he had to eat it like this do what he takes. Shout out of move is out the way appreciate the call ladies. Don't forget to call ninety five eight zero Jalen. We'll be back tomorrow. Is that Jalen rose. We're not done we're not done. We're not done.
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Men in Blazers 09/03/19
"This is rebecca lowe will rebecca if you listen to sub optimal radio and you on this thing to men in blazers on the n._b._c. sports network it from the embassy row studios in the crap potter soho so many blazes podcast it costs projects at back to school special specials. We are back. Dave yeah the only thing in football that's worth international break us thirty good pretty good raj. You look well rested but you've been having some weird dreams weird graphic dream yet. Tell me lately dr. I love to interpret people's dreams like interpreting my own. You'd like joseph in the point where i've had. I don't know if you've ever had this just an incredible run every night about taming a movie play in my head incredible detail really good cinematography well written not as well written as the personally but let titled clouds at the beginning thing is that theme music credits at the say. This relief went away care for the end and it was all a joke. I'm not sure why is triggering them. Maybe it's like some morphine to fulham column feeling sad. Though i thought you'd be excited tweet more rain won't i am getting fitted for some new tweeds and that will bring me out this dream green funk and what a shock hairs dri yeah i one i was a civil war general with the union army think roger bed and the whole sword and all that crap stakes are high holy war depends on me choosing the right battlefield for the climactic clash off aw every single infantryman every single cavalryman is looking at me for direction. Where do we take the highlands. Do we take the low lunch. We cut them off the narrow. Every pitch point and only thing is i know in some of my head. I'm just raj. I'm just a football podcast. I've got no idea how to choose a battlefield for the climactic climactic epic history defining they may bleed into dream them. Okay you ready for this one. The saudi secret service was chasing me and a hat to meet my whole identity disappear with no treaty at all a a._t._m. Cards everything computer tracking cross ogle tweeting but yes credible jonathan number three. I was the starting goalkeeper for the mexican national team a carolina. I like this one. I had like incredible curly hair yeah and add a headband as i shower roggio and we're all in the locker room in the labs. We're about to go on the field. There's just all kinds of shouting and singing and rhythmic height clapping and everybody had to take their turn. They all knew what they were doing. In this song this clap this performance before we went on the field to get hyped and i was desperately trying to keep up with the pre game traditions without being found out as an impostor you know these are all dreams about not being prepared right no not being able to do certainly the first two jobs. You're not able to be a civil war. Gen role really fair criticism. Take it on the report able to play in gulf of mexico interesting that goal internationally if i chose to but not for mexican mexican nationality is that what you're saying and it's interesting but a dreams number one andrea number three do involve heh. They involve a very large civil war. I presume union bid yeah because all union and confederate generals had amazing facial hair that rajin andrew luck it had a baby yet and then the you've got a major you know you've got a big curly perm going on as the mexican national team golly. That's a sidebar. That's probably a little bit about your boldness self-loathing these just more about what you're drinking thinking you're eating for. You can drink more and i'm gonna because i've gone dream. Life is full more exciting. Yeah the more regular life well sorts yet to get my mexican national the team cool up well with any of you are actually doctors so students at dreams would love to hear what those trees in all sincerity. I we'll let the world now. I think there's been so many and they're so graphic that it's something i need to. I love this as a regular feature. Raj raj lays out his dreams ribs and we read interpretations last week streams. I think this is by the way this could be. Its own break montreal jewelry. They always involve chink toasted lifting up the primarily. I have that one probably about three hundred days. I have you standard. Oh my god. I've got an exam but i'm stuck on the train and we're gonna get the examined. Everyone has these graphic perfect widely loosely connected ones. The need believe need help. They've roach a quick announcement before we go further the men in blazers t._v. Show is actually returning to television which is weird. I've had a lot of questions saying oh. I'm so sorry you not on n._b._c. anymore more but we apparently are still on n._b._c. and now we have to apologize for that too so sorry we are on n._b._c. very politics for for not being on n._b._c. n._b._c. n._b._c. We've got back to back to back shows actually saw just back to back shows road sunday september fifteenth bike about attitude p._m. Eastern time and monday september sixteenth at five thirty p._m. Eastern time on n._b._c. the sunday episode that's how british embassy premier league inauguration special special special one of the best thing we've ever done at the british embassy of our three show. Yeah i'm gonna yeah. I think he's talked. Would you say it's top top top top top controversial controversial yet wayne rooney and roosevelt on stage together. I just thought we got the best of england and the united states of the men's game the women's game mhm pound for pound to me the best show. We've been honored to do in a long long time okay roy. We've got a pack show. We're going to celebrate a north london derby during which a marvelous combination of speed skill and still manifested vested itself into a five line poem par emma fight it was the game of the season so far raj templeton thoroughbreds nope livable and city extending their leads in what already looks looks to be another two horse race and don't get too excited raj but we're going to talk some everton football club toast even poor emma i wanted to with the incredibly large head which we get law flack about one but it is the right way to pour a beer people google it. I wanna raise my first. I the butter the day to throwing out the right way to do a lot ahead. We'll if bright dave. I love it not throwing out the first pitch the white sox game last thursday. Take it was remarkable experience just what hoped to be on this to return to chicago with my second son bear. Who's never been there walking around the places. I used to live places shape may ish rogers park the hot lee fit it under some ville billy goat tavern p quad pizza go to the south side to commit skate at blossom met so many g._o._p.'s is that in that crowd to hang out with frank thomas the big. Tell him that he's now probably more famous primarily fans. This new jenex six commercial is on like every single outbreak during games. I call me ozzie gayan telling them sons named after him. I got to meet steve stone. Legend single grace is jewish right handed pitcher in nearly four thousand years of jewish history and all star lucas g alita who is a huge fan huge hugh audley men in blazes lisa's fund which makes me worried by yet been to over ten primarily games day could've came on the show but from blood thumb to the mound. Everything just fell away. I didn't see anything. I couldn't hear anything kind of just blacked out. We nervous before we notice walking to the mount. I thought yeah so it. It was not what that took away a lot of the work. My worry was there was going to be a public accident. Bob boy and i was so chill charlie black talent dave. I couldn't see the catcher. I couldn't see the crowd. I couldn't even see my own sir. I was just like over well. It really hit me like an emotional sledgehammer the sense of wonder and gratitude to the white sox thousand moments of joy meaning they've given me to america always fell a realize on this trip like a chicago and trapped tena british kids body not city of studs terkel william refrigerator perry chance rapper and yet my pitch might have been the worst the thing to happen to the white sox didn't focus on the pitch. It's just a little bit outside. Yeah just a little bit bounce it now. I thought i had to be candidate. I i thought i had an video of me. 'cause mike up yet did swear i thought bounce their halfway like cricket delivery hadn't but they very kindly the white count my swearing hiring and let's just say excuse me i was really excusing my incredible blue stream of of what they mean like hugh grant just pitch and and say excuse me whoopsie daisy when i threw it they just thought about a fifteen year old kid to the up in chicago for the summer sitting in comiskey treatment about moving to america and then moving to america but after bring my even american kid to the bull paw at chilly standard amount that looked at one thirty years really insurance like the scarface story but we're more mental delusion probably to testament to the wonders of american are raised bird fam- lead fam- to that courage love that you got to do that raj love it okay arsenal versus tottenham. These two heated rivals both meant at this one with that crisis p._r. Teams on call off the deflating defeat last week unveiled. Just i'm in a massive game of association football in the one hundred eighty six playing of the north london darby taught went two manila up in the first half through a tap in from christian eriksson after horrible goalkeeping mistake and a hurricane automatic for the people healthy but just before half-time arsenal answered it through the most effective piece of french artillery since the napoleonic age the left boots of alexandra lacquers there on seventy one minutes peer emmerick obama yang turned in a taste i stable to level the score what a game of football sides desperately needed a result here raj. They both got one a few more profound david than the fight fearing self respect ultimately it all these years putting we've done together. It's the one theme i constantly return to prove yourself to yourself this frantic. What's the one theme immu constantly return to china prove yourself self loathing yeah same thing okay thanks. I'm not really got beyond that. The front take frenzied chaotic class. It was just full of that. It was like girl interrupted remains spurs at one on the road since january the twentieth which is astonishing starts for one away but not get away christian erickson mystery dole couch visit a janda tongan arsenal with a squad now incomplete transition transition started with a newly fang front three lacquer over and pack pay movement power pace guile gave the liepa hand but adjust when the commentators were lording sharper menace spurs. I counter attack. Weapons song turns louise in the midfield. I mean that's it's just like the status is pretty easy to go feeds lamelo lamelo shoots. It doesn't look slow yeah but it doesn't look like anything but lay no how spills it risks in german yeah. I'll tell you kristin erickson. Even he enjoyed tapping that who is there had to be him really till roll it into the m._t._a. Ak adding cool miller to to is awesome exit price devotees david didn't we didn't we. There's one down four zero snow last week. We stan kroenke. We know you listen to this podcast. Act on what we're talking about. There's not a rake. He doesn't step on up up into his own fate. A banana skinny skit on a doctor. He won't jump on on that field. I realized what you in this game playing defense with david louise is taking a plastic bag from walmart and say i can use this as a conduct nothing. Nothing's going to happen. No matter what you tell yourself stan kroenke david louise any defense. It's not gonna win well. I mean david louise. The one thing. I have a new objectivity with avid didn't i didn't he was applying for my own team. I never was a huge daffodils fatima. You'd have to track back a long way to find saying something positive about on either vista chelsea stint but my thinking about avid avid louise is that he he's had moments in his career of sublime skill pay pangs at diagonal ball pinger. He therefore thinks of himself as is a highly skilled footballer and part there he always was this part of playing at centre bag is understanding your limitations and what you can't can't do as well as it is to know what you can do you know bring up one of your favorite central defenders of all time. John kerry is john. Kerry didn't have any if the speed of david lewis did not have the skill avid louise but he couldn't turn him very easily because he always took an extra space or he made that physical fall they did. He always did something to make it difficult. For defender. David lewis thinks he can recover from anything and so he tries to poke the ball. Constantly gets turned constantly only gets turned like that. You've got to as a professional athlete. You have to learn to play within yourself and play to your own. Imitations and earning dan lewis has any sense of his own mutations and with him asking look so good uptight but once you break through the front wasn't all louise the front they were so high up. The midfield just got pulled away the pitch and there was only open space behind them. They're essentially take the field with a neon sign above them saying yes. We are susceptible to the counter. <hes> we know emory is gonna have actor bela ridden cure antennae return from injury but if you think about them book airing kind of fullbacks you don't think about them. The most tactically positionally shoot ask them remain. We've said this and like one of those gods that are half man half fast. They're the u._s. Women national teams attack back onto the u._s. Men's national teams defense and they would get worse for us though thirty nine minutes shocker. I don't know how to eat dive. It's i down sewn in the box. It was looked at it may be twelve. I do not understand what what he was doing is aiming to make great contact with saw yeah. I think i need just made excellent exactly he made contact tackle kyle playing defense on the fever for the first. I hope everyone knows you. Don't hold be down in the box bro. It was astonishing but it wasn't 'cause you look jack. You look at so many arsenal players. Why is they've given ample evidence former lawyer michael davidson. Let me take you into the courtroom has given us ample evidence that they are not fit for purpose purpose liability. He's given a so much warning but it's never heeded. Why think very often it's another player grant shack. I think he's a player capable of sublime quality. Not capable of doing sublime things actually have some leadership qualities unlike other people on that team and yet he's capable of making these just insane insane insane mistakes and over again. That's football not everybody can win but definitely in a in a time in a league where we have to just teams is who are just extraordinarily extraordinarily good and almost perfect. Could it be shines. The light on on on the weaknesses of all these other teams including arsenal and chelsea manning noted along came hurricanes clinical no penalty that was a good penalty could only on the field for penalties now. It looks like it looks tired too. We should tenth northland dopey go for him. Tying adebayo bobby spare as most in the fixture which is really impressive. He does look shouted them. I'm trying to work out how four games into the season after his first proper kind of proper break that he's had a while. It looked so negative. I think there's more to that story and we'll have to wait but just went asked. I'll seemed to be teetering a movie david. How many times we've seen that movie teetering embiid games so many times before they suddenly remembered only spurs played the the team they previously rescue forty one points from losing positions in the premier league so in at the time at the end of the first-half free-kick circulated back into the box peppy slips. Listen lacquers say we've seen this so many times but this is talk them up to nil in a north london darby at arsenal not easy to to come back even at home from this kind of deficit one important goal that was an important flying these in the box lacquer so cool so the first touch that second church jason bourne style crap then using that left foot to just obliterate the ball blasted past lorries into the net hopeless hope lives remarkable goal deliciously timed in jaipur bennett time the one moment my dad said is most devastating to score a goal because it forces both management that really believe they manage as soon as the ball goes in he will they genuinely rip up that plant halftime speeches and grab believer halftime speech h. o. father yep new listeners he daddy's right on the cusp of halftime makes the team ripped up. They have no choice but to rip up. The very sage point is ever going to make a different game and then there's other time to score a great goal was dave a minute after the players he thinks like resources nate james check on the just just now county were managers. What do we do now. Panic sets in all right by the way about the chelsea game fantastic after football triumph comedy one the fair tenacity and an enormous bloody sha they were obliterating off the pitch but the second half sequel the cat that adrenaline fill pay tackles flying in sandwich space on the failed lay now laurie show when called upon arsenal tactical tickle adjustment yaakov tara flynn gone sa- bias holy crap talk about instant impacts. The emirates ruled for one week sound sound like highbury of old david by the great name for football as young tarare the bulk carrier useful from the former komo using that yeah i mean there's substitution transform the end they did. They did transform the game and i think this is why emory emory frustrate some arsenal fans occasionally capable of such tactical brilliance and occasionally capable of such tactical netra chewed what is it from the beginning ready to start to stand up straight. They suddenly found the space the past in the movement and all i can think about that second russell. You probably never been to who i care in your life. Have you get like an k. Piece of furniture bras marco for the meatballs so you have you ever tried to build finish yes. Yes i have thought graphic instruction for an hour you just like punching yourself in the face and then suddenly it just clicks clicks that toys i watch and ask that was suddenly like the instructions search. They mean this after two hours swearing failing toiling to take it too simple because i think i care instructions very clear. I think it's like trying to put together a child's car seat which don't start if you've not had chill consumer so you might want to. I actually think that having children is the greatest thing you can ever do with your life except for one thing is having a cassie already children's plastic stick furniture or equipment may run away. If there's any young people out there looking for future business opportunity carseat remaking make a better cost so it just be a consultant that helps people put the car seat. That's a good job. It's an amazing job. It's a few jamaica technologies but the equaliser what a support from philly he's been around forever rarely just twenty years of age yeah paulie the ham by the way i bet you he got scouted because of the hair looks looks good. It looks at career football to me was the game where he really did. Look like the hat always suggested he would be an incredibly my man of the match kohl guile gist wisdom leadership that board that event infused into space but it's space that obama young he's a plumbing is like he's both he manages to simultaneously both a new school striker and all school striker is one of the things i love about him. He's got both he's got a little bit of gary lineker about him and then he's also got terry enrique. He's got both sides of his game so i love this the obama and the young and the yang gang yeah yeah for only needed for our young danko was more of a young young that ball ed a- and spurs at that moment just seemed tired lost couldn't get the ball onto the feet of any of that playmakers christian eric said david louise and by the way how much you're ready that side seemed to mitten dominate socratous they foyer the winner rightly called offside crew on offensive screams of one the gist i hate that whenever since score and then they call it but and julia sticks and you kind of frozen there on the all i knew it wasn't a goal but it just sticks in your throat like osama boat stunners davey. Usually it doesn't happen that often but i'll go. I'll tell you about fleet elite enjoy any fleeing julius in the category of joy. I'll take it but you think arsenal the last ten years. What did you think you think beat downs. You think embarrassment you think some things you think just nelson side they can go to kneel down massive match that you said three words during arapoff. Don't think you even noticed yourself say but it's something remarkable. I think it's something that you have never said. And how many years have we done this podcast nine years nine years. He's i think felt like eighteen but but three words that have never been set on describing an also performance at any point of view i love myself tackles flying coming in tackles flying tackles flying in and we just not hurt that arsenal and that was what was so great to watch about this this by the way you don't always hear it about tottenham either except when they're playing chelsea towards the end of the season and they've got the hump the spine to keep going david in the fate of embarrassment restaurant which is awesome bengo always tenacity the ability to be without losing focus they've turned into and i say this great compliment ostlund slim become like a rich man sheffield united yeah never give it off. David lewis sisters but he's entire time overlapping when they don't actually have that tactic in the former was i just was saying they're in a puddle of sweat and bear little bit mpc. Hey i think we support you those two teams and asked offense spurs. That's how you survive that game. Ultimately both teams will probably be annoyed. They didn't win. Eighteen will be relieved. They didn't lose asa finish surging like an elephant suddenly fleiss personal it did because i furious to go so they didn't keep going and get that third. They've all of the energy all of that momentum spurs knack it spurs just spurs down own for the kevin couldn't finish him off day. I mean both teams c.'mon. Grandma said this near the final whistle for quality fan liverpool man city. Who is the better team based on what we've seen so far in your mind. I think it's so hard to say but can i. I'm going to avoid that question a little bit by by saying what i was thinking about watching ching football all weekend played four games in the premier league season it's longer it reduces to two thousand nine hundred. That's essentially one tenth. That's that's not a element inductions brain as action yet. It's about ten percent of your friend with this. Season is how many of the things that seem very significant now actually going to be significant by the end of the season. What are the significant things going on trying to find what was it. The white house correspondent major garrett major edgy garrett said to marshall crenshaw covering the white house. You have to separate what's important from what's interesting from the noise. I think right now there's lots of things that are interesting but what's really what's really really important and i think that this also a first for us in all these years podcasting. We've never asked ourselves that question. I know because we want the week. The story willingly flynn goes on the insignificant over hyped pleased david. Tell me what revealed it. All like the wizard of oz is just the ball behind behind the curtain. I don't know but i do have a feeling that what's important for arsenal is playing with that more strength that more fight that more more than the tactical mistakes more than the devil blue stuff which is interesting that sort of and very very funny. It's that that sort of strength is that tenacity that may be more important for arsenal and that's why i put astle somewhat ahead of tottenham. I hadn't thought about what you said about hurricane the second. He said i had tied harry. Kane looked i was i was like oh my god roger. You're right. You really did look tired. I hadn't thought about that that may be significant also to our love by the way peppered not scored a goal yet but oh my god you run this so you cut together his highlight yu-chu real of mrs. What's that all day to me. The two teams who came back to the noise in the signal oslo seemed to be the scott improving. If you have to pay off the tube i mean spurs have in truth and this is stunning to me to think about big picture. Don't i'm really played well. Since january. I mean they've overachieved based on put schettino demands for intense collectively. It's been thing one to watch the togetherness us. It's been undermined little bit by ericsson and the uncertainty that's been allowed to flap on like flailing pieces skin the unexplained dropping of the tonga a mix of all the ogden to leaving the <unk> started ahead of the champions league finalists continue to flicker into the beginning of this season will only a drumbeat the will become louder if it or rail madrid jobs open up in season but it's all combined creek kind of chaotic staleness of fatigue that set in this game they needed a davidge louise mindful and jackie jackie mistake to get on the score sheet. The ugly truth is the champions league miracle fairytale under massive reality especially floundered going right back to the beginning of the year and whatever's ailing in the locker room. They've got work through it. Happy patino swath off-budget tina the poetry tina that we love we have not seen that guy in a long long time and ask showing new pieces love pepper honestly we also defense is so bad. Here's what i think. Kraken listening just stopped trying to have any potential playing defense fling everything in from the off into to attack. That's interesting like an n._h._l. Eight eight pull the gold ten day you school nine against us you win. Don't feel the goalkeeper like you know how in the n._h._l. Towards towards the end you pull your golden. Awesome should be the first team to play eleven. Outfield is like a hockey team playing goaltender. The first drop of the puck crunchy will light that she'll understand that from the colorado avalanche sport seamy does know aimed. Do he cokie be amazing. We will see now having said that. We're talking about this all. I'm thinking if you'd have off at tottenham fans a to draw at arsenal going into some you're taking data taken it okay burnley nil liverpool three tops mob head into the international break with four wins from four games after their first clean sheet to the season is the reds drew. I bottle thirty three minutes when t._a. Luke textbook textbook chace also cruel of kiwi chris word and into the net what went down as an own goal might have done a little bit better with that saudi of manageable the lead four minutes later. I'm bobby trump is out of the goal ten minutes full time the next dance but with the game well in hand some slightly old scenes as routed after most salad opted to take a chance so rather than deposit to the wide open senegalese that awful aside a pretty much perfect afternoon gets liverpool a club record thirteenth win in a row to the seller soap opera in a minute per streetfighting burnley turf moor the ground witches. We always say makes it sound as if the stadium is sponsored by local hobart's it's a place where liverpool teams of your fight to extract three points to work so bloody hard and this was noticeably easier for burnley harried hersal they growl they ground. They frustrated liverpool clubs liverpool. One point zero would have toiled field against this kind of opponent indeed seasons past. I would have watched with hope but this season. This is the true barometer my mood while watch liverpool season or wonder destination the name whether team just have so much confidence so few fears they expect to win and so nothing trend alexander all picked up the ball third of the way into the burnley half looked killed in a deep cross caress would off the bat looting for pope into the net shasta the season david. Can you explain your sh cast new. It's a it's a pass that ends up becoming a shot. This actually was not just a chace. This was a this was actually we have a shot cyst which is a shot that becomes a pass to assist medicine. This is a chace goal. There are lots of sh- asses that don't result goes this was a chace goal former chelsea winger yes but grown kaya used to specialize in shelter in this kind of chace i wing if if you read his autobiography chace shots shots yeah. He said he used to stay behind after training just practice which the extra training himself just chace but it was a thing shut this was a thing of beauty it was a it was a show of beauty and watching the schatzer washing in both liveable at man city. This rainbow shot just kept on thinking that all of their goals are just brush strokes in these games that are just beautiful beautiful paintings that game seem inevitable notable they are they're brogel paintings of the dominance the inevitable dominance of liverpool and man city and we get a painting and again. There's no doubt doubt these games. There's no sense that there's going to be any other ending than the one we get an yeah. It is just canvassing you know i'm gonna. I'm gonna have pain cramped one now new. We didn't know each. I'm gonna pay a masterpiece that way you feel when you have a full amount bam gonna spend another thing that will be in the yeah so haters what they've saying if you didn't like trent alexander onell chace of beauty suck it kashif. Don't shoot the ball off. Chris woods back yet. Don't score that the all the shops within four minutes it would be to bed may comfortable up circulate the ball around the year doing ben may two four man pops blinded by the burnley twilight glinting off bobby chompers mola's passed it right right to the brazilian sprang marinade money does finish clinically horsham burnley to be only they played so positively brightly and by cruel deflection and a moment of self self homing but we went onto score fiftieth primarily goes missing most ever by brazilian in the top flight. He's probably looked at by my reckoning at least a third. They crossed the line big talking point at the end of the game day money mosala what's happening. I feel like english to what's happening happening there but i'm failed in the locker room for both fisticuffs. He didn't say to create space at the box for his own shop is pulled his little. Oh kiss killed down got ready to do. A yoga poses a ball wedded but he's just off the ball up. The senegalese was wide open. Simple pass would have given minimum ago. What did you make of it. All pull mana going atypically ballistic on the field after being served wha- what went wonder what's in his contract. Maybe gets his little bonus. The schools abrasive within a gay number of goals. He scores on a season this little thing going on. Maybe just having a little bat for a pack of walkers crisps with a mate. He really likes the salt and vinegar walkers. Maybe it's for the number of likes found the limo pie poppy amina takeoff celebration. Maybe mosala who we think of as being the nicest person in the world is a complete whole one of those people. Everybody thinks he's so nice things like an angel. It's s. p. o. For someone but i'm not he's amazing to me. They're off by tell. If everyone an awful person in real life there is a certain talk show host who thought of being as being the the nicest catalyst loveliest person on television who in fact is just i this is the worst and it really could be could be most make my mind is have jerry springer. Hey on the tori spring. I won't have slightly coated. Jerry springer hate any other tokyo's ricky ricki lake ricki to the chevy chase sing money angry i was going to be to renew is now seeing angry. It was like saying nicest person on t._v. Robbie must've go mental yeah which are coming mentally picture my favorite part the whole thing was bobby familiar bobby chompers on the bench paying money on the knee being i know and he does it to meet to meet you all the time love. This could be something. This could be nothing right. They've those are the two options would you would you encapsulated them. Well something it'd be a very very tiny something or nothing could be yeah. Nothing upset afterwards he was liverpool's title hopes says because one moment of madness from saudi amount jerry springer ricki late monday many he was upset that was obvious klopp set saudi killing heidi's emotions. He does ep well. Hi demet small. What are you talking about. You need to smile the the only emotion monday right each. I like that. It's all sorted we spoke about. Everything's fine. We're individuals. We are emotional situation in the game he wasn't happy about it's completely fine. I'll tell you what's fine from three since the start two thousand seventeen eighteen hundred and sixty nine goals. They've scored so we can kind of put this down to. They know what they're doing. Let's not unless it's the beginning of the most saleh want-away narrative that we can pinpoint to this moment. I love this i i if i'm going to liverpool fantasies think about it with top of the league perfect record clean sheet new club record of thirteen consecutive league wins but you're playing player still want more. That's what i'd say interesting and not important roach. Thank copy now. Another man the city for brighton nil the seagulls out all of sixty eight seconds raj before conceding kevin debris in the defending champs argentine silane enthusiast sergio attitude goals bernardo silva matata love son made it for and city remained imperious they into the break with three emphatic wins and one var induced draw against us us what i'm big blue plate gary casper off the second time around yeah just machine destroying human fill every week we set your match reports of the same day we praise coon esguerra for guerra contractual weekly goals right and then we worship one other plant davits silva banal sometimes is when we get a bit bored with outgun the one all razz this week. It was katie bay golden fit the system for games kind of hungry yet. Avant-garde won't go brilliant to remind you of an astonishing reality city won the league last season with katie be out for almost all of that katy beeping in my mind the best player in the primarily i know isn't that amazing just amazing that second goal roach was a thing of beauty. It was the lesser known man sixty four point one full backs five to three zero small e f two it was just a perfect goal beautiful beautiful beautiful football actually yelped. I yelled let a little yelp when that when that go. What are you picking man. The may after the first couple the rest of the match meandered along pelican eric eric cantona philosophical speech one dark cloud on peps otherwise blue sky laporte could be out for quite some time after the man city defender under suffered an injury church roy in the third minute the point on a stretcher so harsh on the twenty five year old it was due to join up with the french national squad for the the first time later this we really the one place on pep steph choctaw that his death hurtful does have a debt now how you will die. You'll have a choice you can either die or shave your hair off completely and become a bold. I'll take death is not going to be happy about this. I mean let's go hello. Returning injuries johnstone's always got fernandina press ganged into the position watchout january transfer window gonna command name with a seventy million pound bid for jax will be nice anarchy before that or even tara ming. We'll say okay southampton. One man united united one ralph crampton come from behind draw hippy and stay rusi man united was on a gun assaults is man who hit i when welsh are and robin with daniel james class is always inside the top corner on just ten minutes but credit the rabbit hutches side who jannik vestergaard themselves back into the game when the big dane posters fellows scandi victim limbaugh after had pasta hair united raj five points in their first four played having been unconvincing doing since that match week one mauling of chelsea southampton from the off just charge fearlessly united through everything forth united bent and wilted only going to sauce cure. It admitted this week no alexis lukaku gone the united might be a strike alight comments which which would be true for one thing. They've all welsh luke skywalker daniel james walk what is that noise is empty hype. Are we going to remember daniel james at the end of the season. Always i think of one that kasumi caught scope he he didn't scott mcdonagh fed him drifting left the area. He was signed the twenty one year old at the time. It seemed for the future the under twenty three squad but he's just received steve pool had one bowl confident thought inside smash at home like rocket man james he puts his puts his places through the ball when he shoots he hits hard which i love and he tends to hit the target or somewhere very close to the target. He can really thumper football and i love that about. I do think that there is that primarily defenders and opposing managers do figure out players tendencies and he's going to have to add more to his game than that and robin dodgy flapper cut inside well life. He's living everything. I imagine he wishes for himself. Happening at dogfish bradford tweeted us to say a two-thirds have done your dream boards coming true now if someone just has to introduce him to reenter richard jolley quickly and cruelly tweeted daniel james has now scored scored as many primarily goals for manchester united as alexis sanchez brahma forty-three g._o._p. Said daniel james looks to be a tom. Brady like six round draft pick either that at forty three or might just be the next atlanta shy <hes> and then it all went a bit. It could be the side note in a trivia question about mason greenwood's. I man united game about who scored the first goal. It was at kid who is at what was his name davey davey davey sunderland ruin them and then it all went a bit sebastian maniscalco fee united david. Why not that funny. It's just awful to walk physical comedy sloppy unable to seize control of the opportunity house that very true. Do you think god what a fine looking man. Oh you would they wouldn't you would. I mean you know it seemed to southampton <unk>. Same mcguire soccer will save us and they did until yemen just cool festival. I mean like rose to meet that bullet things. Official name is yannick vesta godson of aragon stu and gil ren l. stride later crown thirty fifth king of condo that great ranger warrior he pulled the shots of nozzle and meaty danish german head on the ball just donkey over lindelof untested tastic go. You couldn't even prevail david after south to reduce the two men kevin dunn say young australian english on defender named after a career notched end blown vertical bamboo flute russia led to the head what's known in the trade jacka. Why do they always take tomei the seminal volume. Let's just cut the shelves sounds they go when they're on the yellow card is flat mc till may eighteen minutes for united to flip the narrative could they chance in the way they fail to against palace nope no and at the end it was ralph hasenhuttl running onto the field punching his fist in glory a draw which <unk> win for him a loss united. How do you understand in united right now. David i need to make one point about man united russia and i think it's crucial. They have readjusted too far for the size of their laser patch. I'd if you notice this in the van gaal era the size of that blazer patch on the manager you mean it was almost run in jersey now on the on the manager on the breast pocket. It was almost larger uh than than the blazer itself. The blazer patch now is so small you can't even read it and for me. This is like that is a symbol of man united's confidence accordance. It's a corrupt but it was confident under van gogh now. It's just the tiniest little blazer patch. It's almost microscopic for scott picking roggio messina michael on twitter that i come across too small and this is where she plays uncalled. This is still a very good team. This is still a team thing with very good players very very good players raj and yet they've got a they've got a confidence confidence thing going on which is sort of hard to figure out. We're going to get to chelsea i'm going to i'm going to preface my chelsea points per se you can sort of understand what chelsea chelsea the confidence thing. These are kids mostly playing. These aren't kids playing for united. This is a fairly young team. He's paying younger teams. He's played in the past well league league experience. I've got rid of the deadwood. There's a lot of permanent experience playing in that same. You just can't quite understand why they don't have the confidence to finish these games and you look at who they shipped out this week. After five points now over the course of these four games this team seem so incredibly average and by the way that includes this page to say this marcus rush but whose tailed off it alarming way still cute but he's telled off. I mean you take out daniel james in this exclamation point. God says love wonder in the united states. We think about them as a marquee walk team. It used to look at them wonder now. It seems like they've got brendan. Fraser nicholas cage val kilmer lot of four may listers. You've become kind of be list watches watches and it's pretty ugly to watch how pedestrian they are. I mean they all in the middle of what we call. In america rebuilding which is a strategy primarily football is normally allow for aw chipping away that deadwood alexis joins antonio conte's into milan unload alongside of the united player in exile ramalu lukaku belgian-german endure amonte sad end to a terrible transfer for alexis united squad as young vast majority earned the twenty one. They got that massive europa league travel schedule. The commitment is going to be many bumps. Ahead are funny amazing. David you listen to the english pundits. Gary neville say it's gonna take three or four transfer windows to get united. Oh you did roy as if they haven't been pumping money in for the past three or four transfer some other than the players. That's a problem to me. David on the bright side no penalties for united lose. The game did love this tweet for matt p._j. Eighty-eight can't wait for the roger bennett promoted series on manchester united in three or four years absolutely okay chelsea to sheffield united took chelsea went to nil up through a razor sharp tammy abraham only to roll over and allow the newly promoted blades to snatch a point forty eight seconds after half-time judge for benetton wrote callum robinson good place did a cross pass kappa they completed the comeback they deft zuma flick into his own net that would have made even gary kahlil proud playing the baby's raj political doctrine in which optimism and inexperienced collide head on youngest ever chelsea premier league side average twenty four years one hundred and fifty eight days the only thing i was still getting through puberty including two more twenty one year old centreback from calgary and it all started well nineteen minutes traffic in the area area sheffield henderson distracted by the american beauty of christian pulisic charging in let the turn into slop and when the slop dave who always there for chelsea dot tammy abraham another old. He's an old school center forward raj. He manages to knock. You didn't put them in. Give them a chance in the box. He likes it. Raji likes exited in the book is full name rail madrid tummy abraham may be but credit sheffield attempt to move the ball positively brightly but then more self inflicted dictates slop on the stroke of half-time to centrebacks comedy taking each other out after watching the david louise training d._v._d. That they use over north north sheffield leaving the ball opener whose feet david what a poacher the best time since when at the time of abraham roach became the first englishman to score at least two goals goals in consecutive primarily your parents for chelsea into dave could be a clue that franklin po yes in two thousand ten ounce chip proud. That is everyone's done away from land is all about that's what was interesting chef legalized coming back and getting to what was important tammy abraham schools another the two goals he's got four goals on the season is way just taking the july united striker on earth struck. Tammy abraham is a premier league quality striker who came through the academy roach at team that have a bowl anybody through the academy since john. I'm sorry it has been amazing to see this happen. I chelsea for sector. Go watch the game. First-half could be called the jewelry of youth the youth second half the green inexperience of youth. I mean united came out with a renewed focus. Tennessee moved the ball around with poise robinson got the team team back into the game and chelsea were symbolized by politic's play denied space. He just seemed lightweight. Non factor in that second half is sheffield. Certa themselves got no discernible relationship yet with dave <hes> on the right flank. They did not have a game but contextualized us where christian it is in his development as primarily flare-up. I don't know what the website is but there's there's sort of a pulisic watch pedia website. I don't know if it's on n._b._c. Sports or somewhere or else but they they break down every contribution that pulisic has during game and they break it down minute by minute by minute by minute and they sort of just show and then and it was sort of amazing in this game i sort of read it and in the first half for the first half of the first half it's like pulisic this and he goes pass dismantling glides and put an excellent ball through to this person person and you can just feel the enthusiasm of the right as the game went on the enthusiasm is gradually being lost as they realize that he is just a player on the field doing the best he can in ultimately a drawing effort at home against sheffield united. This is going to be hard few months for christian pulisic. We've got callum hudson coming back presumably after the international break and who you play the co two names or the gun with three probably from or at least he's got competition for his place. Now petro's going to come back. He's had carried a couple of knox. William is gonna come back in. I just think it's going to be hard of him to make the site automatically and he's going to have to have some really really good. I'm not saying he's playing badly does not saying he looks out of place. He looks like he belongs. He's doing some thinks he definitely contributed as part of the move times i go but he's going to have to do more than this in order to go and be the premier league not superstars the permanent star that i think many people have not just wanted him to be. I think that many people have expected him to be and certainly that the money eh that chelsea paid for him would demand that he needs to do. This was not a twenty million pound bides wrist. This was a large amount of money paid <hes> for the young man from pennsylvania and they ruined listen to this podcast a lot. I say welcome in russian strauss witcher hello dr value is congratulations relations. Oh interesting very that was the end of new chelsea. I know romagna listening. Chelsea need to work with christian over the international bait on growing the scientist bump. Do you know what ryan's could points. He only aden's but button lodging exercises written written down in reading room some development tony tony esso's diagrams of a large exercise read to give him to the yankees. They put a scenting john eighties. Killing isn't big enough flounder in the second offer games has become a motif chelsea. David lamb called realized it and protect his team why substitutions help them out but in this one billy gilman definitely down for the young people in the chelsea academy plate for tape play like six four and left him when really that clearly six point nine they kind of exaggerate. They said the billy gilmour is eighteen years old. I am calling balka is in the andre looks about fourteen either by the way stats trivia fix and she happy gilmore's grandson and it. It looks like a local scam. It looks like a chimney. Sweep plugged up the street cocoa bustle with mr scott rhode island emmett being silly killed on the frank really well well until the eighteen hundred minute didn't incredible bull yet from so. What did you do zuma at everton. You broke him. Finally broke zuma zoom zoom finishing fees. It is an amazing everton plant. We have a tradition of great centreback to guarantee consistently t._v. One terrible mistake geico those perfect. That's a good takes off. Mistake guaranteed lesko proved to american monte money and then he's got the jones going back to the great evidence but they just good for other teams zuma gonna zuma and the pressure and chelsea spotlight when you watch gary riquet hill reborn at crystal palace and you like what what are we doing yeah. I actually think that this was more about both leicester. City goals were more about dave the really wearing this is perhaps the important thing rotraut and the interesting thing minorities signal our captain. Dave is just as not had a very good start to the season. He's been outplayed pretty much. Every single room seems to have lost a step raj visit with london teams. That's scour. Crap is playing make him kept in. We'll take jacker dave. Can we just say before. We do post more chelsea incredible performance from sheffield united three years ago. They were bottom of league one this weekend. They went to down at chelsea yet. Nevertheless belief never stop trying to play the style they apply and they responded second half was effective. It was dynamic for long spells. It was dominant tribute to the immense human fortitude of chris wildest team chelsea david. I think for me few games will symbolize more this kind of new dynamic in the primly this past couple of seasons even true with this campaign with liverpool the city now a cut ahead the rest of the big six so mortal not said this law season but even more so now new team was afraid to chelsea of united astle even spurs on this current form. Even the newly promoted teams their chances this season no such thing as fair right right now yeah not you newcastle yeah. I think the other thing though the other way of looking at it is with liverpool immensity so good at does give me a chance to rebuild them particularly tim transfer chelsea this. I love the playing of youth. I don't know a single chelsea fan who is not not no one likes to sheffield coming from two goals down but i don't know a single chelsea found is not enjoying these young kids. I just missed the funk and does do so well. He's a really good team and you may ask still to come back so we're going to be great. Leicester city three born with one a brace from the pontiac trans am primarily footballers jamie body and yuri tillman's goal which vardi he set up yet another belgian raj see bridges mob. Join liverpool and city is the only undefeated teams entering the international break. Two wins two draws for the foxes who you picked roger to come forth this season trying to cure some. It's not working and against wide open boomer spotlight. Jamie verde feasted that first goal first sculpture that was both it was both vintage body and better than any goal. I've seen valdis school clinic -ality yes. He's like w w w we great like an all time spiky just keeps winning and that he'll really annoying goal to concede that will but i held them olmecs blinds what you come to shares we can we can which is legit amazing producer jay dubb's with china over the weekend who he's like in the american champion and he came up with william ricki the henderson mama interesting caucus hell spouting of weird crap off the failed kind of wish ricky henderson the twitter ricky in my favorite thing he'd come now speak to journalists and when they speak to journalists he wears ricky's ricky don't like it when ricky's limo late i just loved the queen ricky henderson the only people who pay volley tokes himself in the third person but both ricky and fought ricky variety both men careers bill and speed tenacity and that there's no way in as h both men would be father time in a foot race and for the probably out drink for the time on the red bull and brandies crystal palace one blanket they come on. Let's say this again crystal palace one aston villa no this first sentence had i had i shown this first sentence to my mate steve parish before the beginning of the season he would have me read it to him. Three times coming off last week's victory over manchester united palace with a controversial fair at selhurst fan fiction <music> coming off last week's victory over man united palace win a controversial affair shipping. You brother pretty much. They took the lead in the seventy third. Eh this is even better. They took the lead in the seventy third minute through four villain and current. You brought up jordan jordan a._o. An a._u. brothers oh my other with ten-man villa driving forward the ball broke to henri lansbury who thumped home what looked to be an equaliser but seconds prior to the strike reverend kevin friend subject greatest for what he judged to be a dive greeley was the gulf disallowed and chaos ensued that is the stuff that would be a dream for steve parrish arish harsh on villa kevin friend. He believed grecia dived in the build up greenish. I didn't dive in anyone destination kevin friend but it's not something that can be vote once. That whistle is blowing they allow something happens after stand kevin. I've been friendly. I can say is you will definitely be here for the peaky blinders sometime this week when it gets dark around your gaff but while crystal palace dave you need to win our goal scorers needs goals like post full believe i post goldie gold but they've got patrick van on whole scoring an i o brother scoring these things that are meant only lost place what i have scored lesson crystal palace's three this season statistician suspicion duncan alexander calculated paletta only the twenty four team and top play history to score three goals off fewer in the opening four games but gained seven points. None of them won on the league. None of them were relegated. Average finishing position eleventh as you say for not being relegated right now crystal palace all hail the post go really the i fell defensively-suspect newboys norwich at london's st london stadium it goes behind another goal from record signing sebastian allah has third in two games and the ukrainian blast from andrey yama let go manuel pellegrini pelagreeny and co take a very respectable of seven points into the international break but there is solace for norwich they kick off your promoted series road sunday september fifteenth at three o'clock eastern time on n._b._c. with the shepherd united episode airing right after back to back poetry from ranch. We'll say west ham probably the stealth eighteen with a sterling attacking firepower than the ones talking about felipe out of the lenzi nate back from injury sing and again yarmolenka flattened norwich who have lost three consecutive matches which is all comps for just a second time and the daniel farka another german manager with a tiny team. David wagner told me before before his first season the expected her spilt thumped in games on occasion but how they responded to those things was crucial and we'll see how rich stay is next up from my brave canaries manchester city newcastle one wofford won riding high after that when it spurs the tune we're bought back down to earth just seventy eight seconds into this one thanks to go from all lightbulb head diaphanous will lose steve bruce arena and co found their way back into it thanks to a forty first minute fabio fabio and shared goal and in the end offered playing their first big boy points of the season now roach everton three hulls it too what a way to start your sunday roach everton snatch victory from the jaws of a draw thanks to an eightieth minute goal from your boy rick all of a sudden his second of the day a thought. I noticed a little bats in step today wrote so much excitement for being tingling in the same way for an everything game in a long long time nineteen year old italian style moist cain. Does he really play for us. I'm wanting the generation telling alex away both if made their first generation awesome salad full name okay and this was a it's what we'd hoped for lang gave of all the new tools they can jury police curse wolves who hasn't been a game all season since starting march. Oh folly back on july twenty fifth five minutes at chaos in the woods outline. Richarson charleston slaps the ball home first time off the ground into the top corner glory one. The triumph is for four minutes because you there's much it was like an n._b._a. Game with the two teams trading baskets every single possession walls trowel right. I love him so much. Muscle looks like terry crews up top fused fused with the speed of emotional escalation on twitter core slop sites. I go ever in a washer of course it was. What would you expect against everton tim football club. You'll i can make a wish foundation less predictable though dave everton tenacity two words that just don't go together at all bill is hattie and bounce back. Yeah ability wrote two things. They look like they knew what they were doing. Don't be deceived by that. Tell you who does know what he's doing. Probably signal and noise probably just noise but i love signal right now. Claiming let me claim a signal. You're saying this is important interesting. Go ahead fabian delph. Yes yes yes yes roger. Yes very rarely. Do i agree with you. One hundred percent about everton. I agree with you a hundred percent fabian delph by the way and i'm not gonna do this and to say what a great everton player. What a good premier league player roach. What a good midfielder. What a great hustle mover distributor. He made everton in quicker everywhere the ball sometimes at everton. You know this could move a little bit too slowly. They've always had explosive pace down the wings. In the center of the plan making moves moves a little slowly. Sometimes he just drinks herpes. I love it. I love watching fact manage so happy to be freed from peps o._c._d. Instructions and he can sit the win that ball propel evidence what however he wants. He's not like pip. Want me in zone three and zone seven only. How do i get from zone three to zone seven. I i don't know pep didn't tell me maybe i have to take the space time continuum. He wishes i can go anywhere and he's my experience news. My guile and that's what advertising the black for the past couple of seasons to phenomenal collective multiplier effects everyone around they were like gareth barry in the old days it was glorious i mean cigarettes and spanked across we'll be for that fadeaway jump shot header and he in keene wheeled away and glory just see efforts implies charleston jumped on their backs so happy and the walls equalised relies on this day. Even i was like can only be one result so richarson magnificent regardless and hustled all game long. Both ends of the failed is probably like <hes>. Don't quote the spotlight go into being keen. He really haven't yet the game of a season so far. Let like brazilian zebra catfish in a rio de la plata to make it three two guys and i felt they you felt listen football a law. I rarely do a surging joy dumb. Not accustomed does so nice. I must say it will be may also be important much as we've talked about him in the past. He's a really really good and skilful footballer that finish that head of wrote. That's not a goal that you see many people school. This could be just what he needs for his career. I love that look a level this competition for places now at front moi's kane. It's a another like really good-looking energetic display evidence. I must say just. I was having very rare for me. I had the fields wherever you and i had a surging pulsating joy i am just not made for our customers to reminded me of the old aristotle quote which i tweeted out. Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life the holy man then of human existence which of course the greek philosopher doubtedly uttered in anticipation of alex. Wi's first star forever football club wa season this is going to be we will win. Some will lose some but i'm going to play with cavalier football hustle and be entertained which to me to me. That's football's all of one other thing about your everton jordan pickford distribution. I mean literally breathtaking his distribution his does the accuracy of his kicks is throws over such long distances and you know i criticize everton fans. Sometimes i've just noticed it away games that no one applauds and cheers. She is a corner kick awarded to everton louder than any team in the permanent like there's love equate. You know frequently. I actually think there is the sophisticated football knowledge when they literally you can fear the crowd gasping cheer jordan pickford clearance that just hit straight at the foot of his wing. I just love watching him. Play football playmaker this bloody good okay roger international. It looks like this the u._s. National team reaction twice roach beginning this friday in the swamps of jersey metlife stadium against mexico roach. I might go go from eight p._m. Eastern time on fox sports one then play uruguay wednesday in saint louis the world cup champion the u._s. women's national team. Meanwhile continued their victory to by playing portugal for the second time as many weeks at allience filled in minnesota tonight at eight p._m. Eastern time england continued their a euro two thousand qualifying campaign hosting bulgaria saturday about guerrier flint era traveling to kosova tuesday. Let's have a prophetic charlotte b._a. Demise ter- and see how this all plays out roger. What is your yakima telling you here. We come go in in the yeganeh. 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March 4th: VIP Guest Erin Udell
"Uh-huh nine thirty eight. Welcome back inside the auto collusion special studios. I am janisch went. Thanks for being with us. You know it has been almost a year to the day tomorrow. I believe tomorrow will be the first two years since the first case i believe. I don't know what let's bring. Somebody who does air need hell with the fort collins colorado and joining us eric. Thank you so much for taking some time joining us this morning. Thanks for having me. So it's almost a year to the day. Is that correct. I know you got a big coming out. Yeah isn't that crazy. I mean it doesn't feel like we should be in march again but you're starting to see things right. You starting to see signs of improvement and maybe it was just a sixty three degree weather yesterday. That optimistic but so year ago almost to the day. Talk to me about this piece that you've got coming out later this afternoon. You took a deep dive into things. What what was that like for you trying to work your way through what this last year has been. It was tough So when twenty twenty one started kind of I realized oh you know in a few months. we're gonna hit that year mark. How do we At the colorado and kind of sum that up and there's no tidy way to do it. There's no way to kind of wrap it up into a tiny little package because you're just so many different stories and it's affected so many people in so many different ways That there. I really really there. There weren't enough words to to kind of convey with the last year is meant for Our community and trust me. I've written thousands of words so Our photographer and i started working on this project together. And she Obviously took photos but she she worked on a pretty big video. We did these interviews of We picked about half a dozen people to focus on so we spoke to a bar owner. The owner of the town pump here in fort collins the oldest and smallest spot in town and they had a really yeah. They had a really crazy year and so their owner. Jake sat down with us. And at about You know almost a year ago. On march sixteenth. They got news. That bars and restaurants would be closing down for at that point. They thought it was going to be a month. And he kind of reynolds through that night. How regulars were filtering in and people were crying in the corner and some people were laughing it off and he said it kind of felt like the last episode of cheers. Yeah and so in the pratt in the piece which is going to publish on colorado and dot com later today Probably this late this afternoon or early. This evening We kind of run through stories like jake's We get into some of the tragedy that obviously occurred We spoke to the woman Who's mom was. The second confirmed covid. Death in larimer county So talk to her about what what. The past year had been like for her and her family We spoke to another family who the father of the family was really leveled by covid nineteen. And he's still feeling that impacts healthwise and what what that's done to their family to finances everything And we spoke to a covert nurse. Who started on the kobe. Unit at uc health put valley hospital here in fort collins and Just talking about the early cape the chaos and craziness of those Early few months. But it's not all doom and gloom. So we do talk to the that cobra nurse. I just mentioned gloria. She does also get into how things feel entirely different now and you know she's vaccinated a lot of her colleagues or fully vaccinated and She said when they come into work now There they can't believe their eyes because they went from full chaos in march and april and november and december two. Now they say it feels like a normal work day they can actually sit down and say that definitely last ending so she said kind of it feels like It feels like a bit of hoping actually just nurse her attorney gloria davidson and. She's the wife of jim davidson renowned climber and he actually Survived an earthquake on everest. about five years ago and so she she kind of likened it to that she said You know. I didn't choose to to take this journey on Like my husband chose climb everest but but like the earthquake he encountered covid nineteen was thrust upon her as a nurse and she just said it was just kind of like putting one foot in front of in front of the other every day and she finally feels like That's coming to an end. And and there's a light at the end of the tunnel and then For jake the owner of tom. Tom he obviously also saw some hope. That community rallied around his business. When it was like you said about two weeks away from Closing late last year. The gofundme and i think international he said It collected i think just under one hundred thousand dollars donations so The community rallied around the town. Pump to keep it open and it just celebrated one hundred and twelve th birthday A couple of weekends ago. So it's not not all bad i we're talking about the air out of the four counts colorado and really looking forward to the peace that will be publishing later this afternoon or this evening about a year ago was when this all started and you mentioned and you know it's not all doom and gloom i don't like Some of the people that you mentioned would be doing interviews if it was all doom and gloom because They'd be busy with other things. Talk to us more about that. Sense of hope. And now has the focus of gone onto recovery and getting things Back to some sense of normality. Yeah there's definitely a sense of hope. I personally feel that Just in everyday life now But one of the people that we focused on and featured in the projects Her order last stress. He like i mentioned. He's the of the family and in northern fort collins and he got leveled by covid nineteen But he made it through He's gonna have health issues for very long time and he's Now in a wheelchair but when he came home from hospital and in may he was confined to a hospital bed that the family had moved into their home and so You know his family. You know cried as they as they described to us those early days and and how it's been so tough on their family but they also laughed and these lighter moments and they found some humor in things and They're really looking forward to moving forward and his health is just. He's made incredible strides. So they're hoping that that continues and they're just focusing on his recovery. Was there anything i mean. Was there anything they caught you off guard while you're taking a look back at this and he said you know you didn't have enough words to to get the entire story put in there of course and everybody's story was different. They went through but was earning that contra off guard while you took a look in in in review. I wouldn't say anything caught me off guard but it was really unique. It was weird to go back to that time right because talking to people about it About you know. March and april twenty twenty. There was just such uncertainty and And there was a lot of fear. Like i remember lysol on amazon packages. With the march. I took madonna walking a stranger. Pet watch intel device. So there's just a lot of uncertainty a lot of fear and That sort of a lot of people. I'm sure experienced waned a bit. There's obviously still the. There's a long fight ahead but it was interesting to kind of dig back into that march and april Timeframe and just remember how weird everything was ryan as we continue this conversation with the irony dell out of the colorado and joining us on the hotline here. Today the moment for me. That i was like okay. This something's going on you know we. We cover a lot of sports here on the station with some of our other programs when the mba started cancelling shutting down games. That was the first moment. I was like okay. What's going on here i. It was almost surreal right. And then you go into a and the drive to work took a lot if you you know as a media company we were working still and the drive in here to do the shows and give updates Well there was not nearly as much traffic out there. I it was. It was crazy. Do you remember the moment that it kinda hits you that was like okay. This this is going to be This is gonna be a long haul. Yeah So i actually was visiting my parents and arizona and i remember flying out and i remember just there have been taco kkob and people at that point people were saying you use hand sanitizer and don't touch your face and I remember Just seemed news kind of unfolding in the nba Look insulations happened. When i was there so i remember that as well But then i remember flying back A few days later and this is really march and it just felt different And i kind of realized in my head. Oh my arizona was my last semi normal flight for very long time Obviously i haven't been on a plane since but Yeah it's been a crazy year so We're just you know. I think a lot of journalists in the area. I'm we've been working. You know overtime to try and tell stories and talk about all the different ripple effects that this Virus and the disease it causes have had everywhere in northern colorado. And so it was. It was neat to find a step back and really just take a broader. Look at everything. Because i feel like we've been working hard all year and to kind of just Look at it. More as a whole picture was Definitely interesting putting putting all the pieces of the puzzle together and like i mean heck this this show that you know now started as one hour thing that we're doing Everyday to to let businesses call in to tell people how they were operating and of course it's changed in more than i. He got to the point where information and knowledge was what people needed into that. That time you know we didn't really have a ton of it but but you're right these stories that now that we can look back and it does. It's got to feel pretty good to be able to we. Can we can at least take breath. Look back at this crazy last year. All right aaron well we appreciate your time again. So it's it's coming out on the colorado in later this afternoon we'll be looking forward to that Great work eating else that You you wanna get out there. So i i mentioned that not. Everything is doom and gloom. I'm also putting putting out a Just a fun little list of covid safe cold weather things to do. My timing's not great. Because we've had the weather but but it's colorado so we're going to get snow again so that list of covid safe activities to try As the weather gets worse in the spring that's going to be out on colorado in dot com later ceo. Tomorrow as well thank you so much for for what you do over there. At the colorado. Thank you for joining us this morning. I appreciate it. Thanks. it's you deal with the colorado and That'll be interesting to look back at and and Just a year in review as a whole like You know how is it. The history channel. That does those different decades. Where i the eighties and the nineties like you do an entire Like a whole decades worth of information from just last year. I mean it was just nuts and i think that that now like i said as we sit. Look back and say okay. That's what was. Let's look forward to what is going to be. And i think that is important. Continue to do as well well in your future. You're looking to move houses if you're looking at sell your house or get a new one baht clary. Real estate desharnais petting her. Make sure you get what you deserve. Four your house and on the same thing. Make sure you don't overpay right It's easy to overpay if you think. This is the one that i've got have. There's there's nothing else out there. Well desert pinger With clare real estate has lived in northern colorado Her entire life. She knows the area she gets notifications instantly as things start to pop up and open up and She can let you know. Okay let's not overpay for this one. There's there's a new one coming up here a little bit later on color. Nine zero three nine seven sixty three thirty seven nine seven zero three nine seven sixty three thirty seven Let them know let desert. No you heard about her right here on noko now. 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What Makes a Leader Stand Out Today?
"You're listening to episode two hundred ninety nine of women worldwide. What makes a leader standout today. Do you have a formula. That propels you forward. I've got a guest who will share her leadership formula with you so stay tuned to learn more. Hi i'm deirdre breckenridge. I've spent an entire career helping women to share. Stories nurture relationships their brands but most of all to find their voices so they can make a difference. Do you feel stuck. Do you want to power up your own voice. Women roy y features the stories of passionate women who have navigated big career challenges and some of the toughest changes these professionals offer deep insights and advice to inspire you and to help you uncover. What's holding you back. Let women worldwide. Ignite your passion. You can excel in life. I everyone welcome to another episode of women worldwide. Thank you so much for being here for tuning. In and helping to grow the wind worldwide network. We really appreciate your support in as you're sharing not only. Are you sharing the incredible stories and the vice or cast. You're also letting us know how you feel and that helps us to bring the guests with the motivation. The inspiration and the advice to help you. So let's get right to today's show topic in special guest. The topic is leadership. And how do you stand out today. Everything that's going on in an organization. What are those skills and competencies that you need so whether you are in corporate america. You're at a nonprofit yours as small business in your leader. What is your leadership formula. While i gotta guess today. Who's going to share her. Formula really excited about it to any of the show is daphne. Chirpin forks. Daphne is a lawyer. And she's also assistant general counsel at microsoft. Same time she's faculty member at the executive institute on inclusion he i with a couple of courses on leadership and die and she also advocates for d. I n. microsoft with her legal team. I say so much about daphne. But i think it's time she shares her journey and his vice with you. Daphne is so great to have you on the show. Welcome thank you deidra. Happy to be here. I'm looking forward to our conversation too because leadership in times like these. It's really really important. And before we get to your formula. Maybe you can just tell a little bit about law and your interest in diversity at inclusion. Yeah so row quick. I decided that you know being a lawyer was right for me. A it's an opportunity to help people and that's one of the things that inspires me to work hard every day. Is that again opportunity to help. People and i had the absolute privilege of growing up with a grandfather. Who was a judge and i spent a lot of time in in my summer. Vacations Hanging out with my grandfather in his courtroom. And i knew at a very early age that this was thing for me then fast forward to the d. i worked right. I also detroit always do that as an african american woman that my voice my experiences should in could make a difference if i had an opportunity to be heard so speaking up. It takes courage I've always taken the opportunity to speak up so right or wrong or to just educate people because sometimes people are ignorant. They just don't get it. In what i know about. Black women who advocate for opening doors for themselves When we do the work to open the door for ourselves that have otherwise than closed. We leave the door open for others to come through especially women all women so inclusion at. It's finest and you know anything that i can do to help advance that movement. I'm all for it. We're gonna well first of all that's wonderful back on note of your grandfather. What a role model. And now you as the role model helping to open the door for others. So kudos in the work that you're doing so daphne where our leaders getting it right today. And where are they missing the mark with those people. Yeah that's a great question. So let me focus on the today part right because i think that for today leaders are getting it right and i think that it has a lot to do with the black lives matter movement where a it's a movement in the united states that has basically a required leaders to start focusing on women people of color and other marginalized communities in ways that they probably have focused on it before right so that's today. Part is great but will their efforts to promote to train you know persons who have been marginalized in corporate america. Or wherever you happen to work Will those Pronouncements those bold commitments to train up to advance person of color. Will they just be a today thing or will they be sustainable. So i think they get it right because they are now making those bold statements and pronouncements and acting like they're going to do something yeah but again it's not about what they say it's what they do. So i'm hoping that this movement if you will is sustainable. That leaders are continuing their focus on diverse professionals people of color not only while it's trending or trendy but luckily over the long run. So that's what. I think they're getting it right. And where did i think leaders miss. The mark is when they assume that treating women especially in corporate america As if we're a monolith right because we are not. I think they get it wrong when they assume that. All women's experiences in the workplace are the same because they are not women of color have a whole different experience than our white female counterparts. And i think that they get it wrong when they assume that. These women initiatives these leadership initiatives. All the things that they're doing to advance women they get it wrong when they think that they're doing it for all women. Because most of those initiatives and those programs are designed with our white male counterparts in mind. And we kinda get left on the side right. An and lastly you know i think they missed the mark when they don't make intentional and bold statements And come up with a plan whether a succession planning training or whatever that holds them accountable for improving those numbers. So you know. There's there's a whole lot of progress that needs to be made but again right now while it's trending and it's trendy. I think we're moving in the right direction. And honestly i'm hopeful. I'm just going to be watching very closely for people to do what they say. Yes no i think you make a great point hits. It's wonderful to seek progress today but how that plays out into and it's not what you what you say. I mean i'm in public relations saying it's what you do especially if you're made mistakes and you're trying to move forward the right way. That action will always speak louder. Worst daphne you have your formula for leadership success right the four jeeze of leadership pinger just share. What those jesus. yeah leverages. Put the caveat out there. it's it's a work in progress. But you know so far. I think i might be onto something if nothing else. That gives me the confidence that i need to show up as the leader that i strive to be so i call it the four jeeze as as as you and i have discussed and the four jeeze are leading with grace grits grind and gratitude. Tastefully i call it finding my g spot in leadership okay and and it's a formula That i decided to to embrace if you will. Because i started thinking about all the amazing women in my life who have personal relationships with or who. I admire from afar. Whether they're you know a celebrity or a an executive order that i read about out in the news or someone in government right and so. It's really a hodge podge of the host rates for those women who i admire taking a little bit from her a little bit from this one a little bit from that one and incorporated in and incorporating those traits into daphne developing my own tailor made a lot of style right so for example the grits that is part of my four jeeze. I look at at women like nancy. Pelosi if you will margaret thatcher those women koretz rate the the the the grace part you know michelle obama of first lady former first lady in the united states michelle obama's she leads with grace. How's the grind right. The grind you know is really all women. Because i know a woman who has not had to brides in order to do what she does whether it's taking care of children and also working and managing her household women grinds and we get things done and then honestly almost comes naturally. If it is it's a natural thing and i agree with you The gratitude part is you know just me being a facebook person understanding that you know to whom much is given much is required and just grateful to be in. You know the presence of people to try to help them. However i can. So do you think if If a leader now looking at your four jeeze grace grit grinding gratitude. If they sort of feel like they're not where they need to be with grid is it. Do you recommend looking at and studying some other women How how would you get there. Yeah so look you have to. It's a journey. It's the process and the first off you have to commit to yourself. Women are always committing to their families to other folks in. Sometimes we forget about ringer so yes exactly you put ourselves less. See find some time to really think about what kind of leader you want to be right and and so through self study from me. I'm consumed right now with reading about all things that are leadership right so i read a lot of books and then taking some time to just breathe to think and reflect about the kind of leader. Wanna be down. Exactly that's basically deirdre. How how. I came up with my four jeeze. I just stopped and i thought and i reflected your four jeeze might be three ds or might be five sees whatever it is That takes into account the con of leader. You wants to be. But i caution. Everyone that when you're starting to develop your leadership style. They always remember that. Humility needs to be an formula somewhere Because that's how you listen you learn And honestly you're able to still up in ways that will help make things right the ego and hubris exactly right out the door humility. I think that's a really important point. Daphne i'm actually going to ask you so moulders the lots just moment. We're going to shit over to the sponsor of today's episode. Which is the executive institute on inclusion. Ye i and that was founded by our friend. Right and colleague susan freeman. Shout out to susan So for those of you who don't know about e i. It is a unique and comprehensive. D i program. Juries focused on systemic change and sometimes companies. Mayday missed the mark on their comprehensive plans to create something that's you know. empowers employees es and truly radical structural. Racism and through. This program is multi-month yes multi tier and it provides data in mattress measuring and messages and tools. That how you to create change. So eddie i and we all know. It's time raise time for companies to invest in their relationships with their employees. So daphne i you know your perfect to discuss this because you actually have a couple of courses one is on your four jeeze when the other one yard is senior chew the diary of a woman of color in corporate america just share a little bit about that course events it. Yeah yeah so the hashtag see me to the diary of Of of a corporate of my experience really. It's it embraced. An susan is is an amazing storyteller. As i'm sure you know deirdra yes. It's really just finding a way to connect with the audience to share my story right In hopes that some of the challenges that i face growing up in corporate america as a woman of color And the way that i've chosen to educate those who might not be as awake if you will that. We need them to be to help them along their journey. It is a journey and we can't assume that again that everybody understands that women of color people of color have different experiences in the workplace so as an opportunity to share my story and give some guidance and some these are some of the things that you can do to improve your culture and these are some of the things you should absolutely avoid not inadvertently stepping in it and you know creating a culture. That is not comfortable for everybody. That's pretty much. What the course is about Sounds like a really really good course and something that i hope everybody within women worldwide check out and i just want thank you. Thank you for sharing your course and a big thanking to susan freeman and he -secutive institute on inclusion for sponsoring this episode of women role. Life he daphne. Let's die backing so we were talking about your four genes of leadership. Finding your key spot me. You can Share with us that off moments. Was there a moment or some people action sayings and uh oh mitts. Right where you had just a big learning lesson and its stock with you and what you do today. Yeah so actually. I look at the cia and the auto a little different differently. So i've had a lot of moments and for me that's like Didn't know that good steno. The show is like oh. My gosh i got to make some changes here and get it together. Ray so i think that it would be beneficial to share the moment Because i just know that it it's going to resonate with with some of the women you know listening to this segment so the uh oh moment is this it. I think it's a sin that that women commit all the time and that's when we allow self doubt we allow self doubt and anger show up in ways that are just not good for our brand in corporate america or whatever your work place is and so there have been times unfortunately in in my career where i have allowed self and anger to take me off my game ray is not healthy ladies But it happens. And the best advice that i can give. You is to recognize That this is happening to you. Take a moment not weeks not days to to to try to get it out your system. If he had to have one of those ugly cries you a call up one of your friends you gotta curse body out pal up against the wall whatever it is get it out your system and remember that you are competent that you have all the skills necessary In order to lead like you know how to and then move on from it. Leave those fears that self-doubt those negative whatever it is that you've been getting from someone who caused you to act that way. Put it behind you and remember that no matter the circumstance show up and lead with excellence so the though is kinda like i recognize that i was allowing to almost get swallowed up and showing up angry and with the self-doubt is just not a good way to show up. Especially if you're a woman of color in ed just think exacerbates how people perceive you. Yes really interesting. That you said this i i especially appreciate the recognize and do you have to do and then sort of move in. Move move on knowing that you're going to be compensated in that you can. Do you. have the skills necessary. Red book on robert greene. I'm reading it now. The laws of human nature but he talks about the shadow there. We all have a shadow that tends to come out an opportune time and bash arrow is based on some something that we feel that we sorted for crass and it shows itself but in order to move past that you you have to understand it and that's why you said to recognize and to look at that that is so important because just sweeping under will only have that come out again. Yeah i have the book. it's very thick on i. I haven't yet really good book and it also helps you to understand. You know the loss of human nature when you were looking at leaders in different personalities and I love to read a business book so this is one of them. But i also read a lot of inspirational and energy books about awasa the universe so this was one that that i recommend take a look at it. Yeah i have it. I actually i have the book. I'm reading how to lead right now and that's next on my list but it is. It's it's a it's thick book is it is but let me just piggyback off of the recognize it because listen if you don't somebody else will and i also encourage everyone to Im- bank their own personal board of directors or eight because sometimes if you have others that are either mentor. Men tease sponsors. They may be able to help. You see something that you can't see all right because that recognition is so so key because other folks who might have decision making authority over your career in it's trajectory if they recognize it it might not be the the right move for you in your career exactly. That's really good point. I want to ask you about learning in general because you did point out that you learn so much from your grandfather. And i'm just curious to know. Where are you learning. What where do you get your information from. Because you know in order to find your four jeeze or your g spot and to be able to do training courses you have to be on top of your game so in terms of learning. You know. you're i know you're reading you all the time. Yes so other. Sources for me The books the self-improvement books. I'm consumed with all things leadership these days I have a personal board of directors that include a plethora of folks from diverse backgrounds. Sponsors mentors even people that i mentor. My men tease I learned a lot from my parents. They are the co chairs of my personal board of directors. If you will. And here's here's something that i think. This is an easy source on how to learn especially when you're focusing on leadership. I learned by being humble listener. I listen rate. It's it's it's it's sometimes a challenge. Maybe i have a little bit of goal. Adhd but i'm really focused on listening in a humble way. Because i think everyone's here's and when you're trying to be a leader humboldt listening allows you to listen in here and i embrace that everybody's voice matters right as as time consuming as that may be. You can learn a lot from listening from everybody not to let anybody's voice be quelled and to just embrace all that you can consume and i ask a lot of questions. Maybe it's the lawyer in. May but i find that asking questions and not being the know it all just because i might be the leader but a learn at all if you will so bad i kick off things to to to improve to be better all versus the know it right. How about that. I don't think i've ever heard that before. The learn powerful death needs. Yeah i ve susan. Susan says all the time She's got a freeze that she says his family involved. No it's like you're here to win or learn. Never lose is what she says. And i think that that resonate with knee as well that resonates. You're an active listener. I mean if you're not actively listening than theirs you wouldn't be asking the questions. Grandeur lawyer lawyers are good at asking questions. But you're probing. You're looking to hear taken all in diverse perspective. I mean you know. I often wonder how can organizations be innovative. If you're not taking in all of the rich perspective around. I think i think act listening and humbly listening right a humble humble listener. Because here's here's. I think the the difference does that. Active listening is great. But you gotta be humble. You gotta put yourself in a position and come to the table. Whereas i don't know the answer. I'm not here to tell you how to get it right. I'm here to figure out how to get it right right so if you if you have that in mind you'll be amazed at what you can hear and learn when you listen in that way. Yeah it's it's almost making every environment. Classroom is an raimo forever. Students yup tutor for her students learn at all and didn't even know it past me believe. Were read the question in the show where i asked him to get your parting advice to the winner. Roy wia network. Daphne what do you wanna say just to round it. All often tied in a neat little package. yeah. I wish we had more time. I felt like we were just getting into but but listen. I'm an optimist so you know my advice. I'm just warning you up front. It's it's all about knowing that women are amazing leaders. We have what it takes to lead in so many ways so first off. No that you can lead. You got this alright. Second advice is is when you do lead you know do it with grace. Greg grind gratitude and x. Whatever your ex is Mine happened to be four jeeze. Yours could be whatever it is but you gotta do some reflective thinking and figure that out And i encourage you all to look for your g spot or your see spot or your spot. Whatever it is for you and then again consult with a personal board of directors. You can't do it alone as as we all are superheroes right. Women are superheroes Superwoman wonder woman. Pick your marvel character but at the end of the day were all superwomen but even superwomen needed help sometimes so. Don't be afraid to ask for help. And just just go do it. You know what's nike's nike's brand. Just do it. And and and and if you need some help along the way reach out to that personal board of directors or read a lotta books I know that you have a partner in your trajectory with deirdre. Reach out to her You can reach out to me as well always happy. Happy to support. So that would be my by vice. It's really just no you can do it. And just you know find your spot and just do it in. The world will be a better place as will corporate america or whatever. Your work places. Yeah with your advice stephanie. The world would be a must keep trying. Gotta keep trying g-spot the that x. C. spot these whatever and i really do appreciate room said about the personal board of directors. I hope all of our listeners viewers understand that you don't have to do it alone and you're right. We're that's why we will relied your. That's right i'm here. You're here So daffy last question can people find out more about you and your work. Yeah i'm trying to do a little better job. With my social media presence right now lengthen is the best place to find me I am not afraid to give out my personal email address or my microsoft email address to if you want to reach out i'm at d. Forbes at microsoft dot com or you can reach out at daphne. Dap h n e s q at outlook dot com. And then you can find me on lengthened as well terrific deputy. Thank you so much for being on the show for sharing your journey your advice we so appreciate you my pleasure. Thank you so much wellstone. Great time it was really good. It flew by. You'll have to come back. Wait look advising this discussion. Thank you to susan. Bream in out of the -secutive institute on inclusion who is the sponsor of this episode. Today i want to thank you for being here. Keeping the feedback coming and the conversations going. You're helping us and we hope you're your being helped as well. And if you want align wine updates you can go to women worldwide show dot com and sign up to get updates weekly okay. Friends be well. Stay safe energized. Focus thank you.
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Apples MacBooks have finally gotten rid of the butterfly keyboard (The Daily Charge/ 5/8/2020)
"Hi there I'm Fox Allen and I'm lance cartel and we're TV guide survivor brothers. Join US every week throughout survivors season forty winners at war as we speak with you. Green interview with survivor legends strategy. Talk Analysis and more bequeath. That's fun to say next. Sure is don't miss a single moment of this most height survivor. Season of all time subscribe survivor. Brothers on Apple podcast. Google podcast spotify. I heart radio stitcher basically anywhere good. Podcast found Apple's butterfly keyboard which endured endless shots from fans and critics like finally gone. Welcome to the age of the magic keyboard. I'm Roger Chang and this is your daily charge with me. Is One of the foremost experts laptops our own. Dan Ackerman welcomed in Roger. Apple just released. Thirteen inch MAC pro which comes with one of its new magic keyboards that essentially wipes out the butterfly keyboard from its lineup right. How are you feeling about that you know? This was the last butterfly keyboard that was left. Was it was one of the reasons why that thirteen inch pro? A little bit outdated compared to the rest of the math book line. They updated the fifteen inch last year. And turn it into a sixteen inch and that was the first time they said all right this keyboard. No more we're going to call it the magic keyboard and it's a little different than it's the same but it's better you like it and we did. Then they finally did the same thing for the macbook air back in March very recently so and they say hey we got some more bad news coming up though. That's got be the thirty. The one laptop left a thirteen inch bro. So that you know there are a couple of things about it that we're feeling a little dated. The keyboard was one of them and now everybody has done magic keyboard. It's interesting they used that branding on the ipad keyboard also and also understand keyboard. You get with your. I'm AC. Let's back things up a little bit and let's talk a bit about the butterfly keyboard. What was so controversial about all the problems? They snuck that butterfly keyboard in with a new product. Five years ago it was the twelve inch Mac but not air not pro just MAC book they had not had a product with just that name at a longtime although they used to and one of the things that made that twelve inch. Mac Book which I loved so small and portable was over putting the super flat keyboard in and it's not going to have a Z shaped scissors switch under the key like so many other laptops it's GonNa have a butterfly which is basically the four corners and the sensor would indicate when a key was depressed so they could make it super slim. Did it in there? The problem was it was so slim. It didn't really feel like you were typing it all. It didn't have that right. Feel at also people immediately started getting the key stuck because there was so little space underneath them any little bit a dust debris would get in there so immediately. There were a lot of problems with it. And what apple did was they said. Oh that's great. We're going to put these in everything. Well exactly and I think the controversy grew when I got my new Mac Book. Air and my head. I hate to the butterfly keyboard. I was very underwhelmed and disappointed. But you you Dan. You wrote a defense of the butterfly. Tell me about that like how did you do? You still want me. Do you still have somewhat fond memories of that Pinger when everyone is saying something is awful accepting is great. Have to be that that contrarians you and say. Wait a minute navy. The conventional wisdom is not quite as universal as everybody thinks that. It's so that piece. I wrote lyrics called in defense of Mac Keyboard. I started out by saying I've remember I. I've come to raise the butterfly keyboard or to bury it but just to give you some context and what I said was number one you know. I used and tested extensively more than a half dozen books with his keyboard and I had like one stuck. He was able to fix myself but I didn't have problems a lot of other people. Didn't you just heard the Internet complainers? You know they have an outside boards. People don't go on twitter to describe that their products are working roughly as expected. Only if you have a problem secondly the butterfly keyboard evolved over time each product. They put it in. They made it a little bit better by the time they got to the last version at twenty eighteen. It had a rubber a rubber membrane under the keys which kept debris out and gave you a little more bouncing type at just totally different from the original. They locked with that. Nobody would have said it was wasn't great but it was fine. You know and and I I use that. Butterfly Keyboard Lot. It took some getting used to. I wouldn't say it's the greatest thing they've ever put in a product but it wasn't the worst thing either so the essentially the butterfly is no more. We can say goodbye. Say hello to the magic keyboard now. I I'm aware the magic keyboard fronts or the standalone accessory that you get with the Mac mini or i Mac but what what is what is special about what is magical about this. Magic keyboard found in the macbook pro. They took a lot of what people liked about the standalone keyboard. You're at least the most recent versions of them and the keys. Come up a little higher. They have little more travel. They've gone away from that photo. Censors at the corner That have to be tripped properly in order to register. It just feels much more like a traditional keyboard. If you look at it you go out. I don't really see that much of a difference but if you take a magic keyboard magic If you take a magic keyboard macbook air and put it next to a butterfly keyboard macbook air which I did then you can see the difference even in the latest butterfly keyboard which comes up a little bit more. Imagine keyboard comes up even more than that but neither one of them are the same as that as the old Mac keyboard which would really which really jumped up the real island style keys which frankly was never as great as I think everyone thought it was. I always found the KI. Ki Cat Small and little too wobbly. You've had some time with the the new thirteen inch. Macbook pro is this who is for who needs upgrade. Because it's you know this these things aren't cheap. So who would you recommend by one of these devices? I will say they've redone. The line completely since like last November Between the sixteen inch fro which used to be fifteen the thirteen inch pro and the air so they have a solution for most people. I think frankly most people would be happy with the air. The air was the laptop to get for most of the twenty ten nine ninety nine. It could get you through four years of college. Everyone in the coffee shop had one then. Got KINDA STALE THE PARTS STALE. But they've refreshed it now and they're keeping up to date. Which which I like. And they brought it back down to nine ninety nine. If you're going to get an air I I would say and I hate it. Pains me to say this. Spend the extra hundred bucks. Get The ten ninety nine version with Karai five or That's my one caveat about that With the pros you get different classes. Although the thirteen which they just updated you only get the newer tense Jan moons but the two more expensive configurations which which I don't love. Yes that's that that that kind of. It's a big big hook there. It's kind of like you really have to spend a lot to get the latest processor. But that's and that's something that's found on most PC's right or most modern near PC's right. Yeah but apple has a special way of guiding you towards the more expensive models. They did fix one thing on the thirteen inch fro. That was a bit of a rip. They used to only give you like twenty gigs of storage for the twelve. Ninety nine base model and the fact that I have to say twelve ninety nine hundred. Twenty eight gigs. In the same sentence is is shocking to me. So they said because they hadn't updated that product in a while and it was. It was already behind the Times so they just went and Double Bay storage and everything. 'cause that cost them nothing to do. So it's fifty six five twelve or one terabyte now which is at least more reasonable if you're going to get a new laptop it shouldn't have less than a two fifty six GIG. Ssd All right. Well lastly just looking back at the butterfly I mean you think this'll just be an embarrassing blip. You think butterfly will ever come back or are we done with it. I think we're good now. Everyone's happy with the branding that they can use across all these different products especially the three hundred and fifty dollar clip on. I add keyboard which cost more than just a base model ipad. Does it'll go down in history somewhere between apple maps and you're holding it wrong gates you know. Not The worst not the best. It took him several years to to see the light on this. I think keyboards a crate. First Time I used one back with a sixteen inch I said to myself well where the assistance last years okay. This is good. This works alright. That's a wrap could check out dance coverage on C. DOT COM. If you have any questions Davis voicemail at eight six two two five zero five seven one. Three the daily chart or Roger Chan. Thanks for listening. Bachelor fans unite. 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Ep 364 - Virgem, Unicrnio e Rinoceronte
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MBA1229 How Paying Yourself First Puts Your Business First
"Walk into the hundred dollar VA show, your personal business coach everyday with daily ten minute business lessons for the real world MIR host or coach or teacher Omar's than home. I'm also the co founder of the hundred dollar NBA visits training and community online. And in today's lesson. You will learn how paying yourself first puts your business. I personal financial stress is a killer. It affects how you feel how you perform and how well you can run your business. Your first job when it comes to building your business is being able to pay yourself. First pinger self a reasonable salary to pay your personal expenses in life. And this comes pretty natural. When you're getting started with your business because you're not paying anybody else as your business to grow, and you start to have more people on the payroll. Sometimes we pay ourselves last wanna make sure that not only do we pay our other employees pay. All our other. Outstanding bills invoices from our suppliers from our service providers. Whether that's inventory or office space or server power. Of course, we want to make sure that we budget to everybody gets paid. But who gets paid first while in my opinion, it should be you. And I'll explain why the first check that gets cut every month should be to yourself. We'll get into the reasons in today's episode to let's get into it. Let's get down to business. Support for city show comes from clear Bank. The folks that clear Bank dot com or looking for growing ecommerce companies wanting to increase revenue through marketing, clear Bank looks at your sales and provides potential investment offers to you in minutes with no personal guarantees or a piece of your company. They've invested over a hundred and fifty million dollars in over five hundred companies and plan for thousands more. If you have an e commerce business, go to clear, Bank dot com slash podcast that C L E A R A N C. It ends with C dot com slash podcast to speak to their investors. We all have basic, personal necessities. Paying our rent or mortgage food transport paying our personal bills. If these things are not in check if you don't know for sure that these things will get paid a month in and month out. This is going to be a huge problem for you. You need to make sure your personal finances are totally taken care of. And you have no doubts that you can pay those bills. Why? Because if you don't you're to be sent in a panic state where you're gonna make the wrong decisions in life and in business your business will suffer. If you're totally stressed out about paying your rent? You're going to be coming from a place of discomfort. You really need to have a clear mind and minimize your personal stress as the leader of your company now early talking about financial stress here, but there's other aspects of stress in life with family stressor, relationship stress or with your friends or your health. These are other aspects we're going to have to take care of. But today, we're gonna be talking about financial stress, and it's one of the worst stresses you can have. And you wanna kinda just take? Take care of that whole section in your life. And that's why the first person you're gonna pay as you're building your business and every month is yourself. Ultimately, the business relies on the decisions you make let me say that again. Ultimately, your business relies whether it makes it or breaks it on the decisions you make and the decisions you make are influenced by the way, you feel in your state of mind. One of the biggest ways to really negatively affect your state of mind is to have financial stress. Now, of course, of course, there is stress involvement comes to the finances of your business as many of you know, as your business grows sodas expenses yet. More traffic to your website, the more hosting you're gonna need. And of course, you wanna make sure you budgets. You have more than enough to pay everybody that needs to be paid on your payroll as well as paying all your expenses and bills, but let me ask you a question here, which one is worse not paying yourself not having enough money to pay your mortgage or rent or not. Having enough money to pay a Bill, let's say you're hosting provider. Now, no one wants that situation happened, but with your hosting provider you have options you can call them up get an extension. Most companies will give you a longer grace period of sixty days. You can switch providers and save some money. But if you don't have money for your mortgage there are zero options really other than getting into debt like barring money what we're talking about. Here is the lesser of two evils, which one is going to cause more problems. Now, maybe you're listening to this man. This is an extreme example, somebody can't pay their mortgage or pay the rent this reality for a lot of entrepreneurs who put their business, I and dope pay themselves. I even worse some people use their own homes collateral for business loan, and then they don't pay themselves first, and they don't pay their mortgage. A couple months in a row. They lose the house that lose the business. Yeah. I know it got ugly fast. But that's the reality. For a lot of entrepreneurs who are trying to grow at least by paying your. Self. I you create some sort of stability in your life as well as your family's life your support network. All other issues can be solved they can be managed. There are other ways around them. One of these do this is just a setup direct debit into your account. So if payroll setup, you could do this or even if you dont payroll setup, you can call your Bank and say every month, I want a direct up from his account to this account of this amount. Totally added your hands and happens every month at a certain time another issue that happens when you don't pay yourself. First is that for some reason, we don't consider selves an employee, and we miss judge our budget remiss, judge how much money we have every month. And we over hire hire people that we can't afford basically people that will take our own salary. And we think, hey, this new hires gonna help me bring in more business than I can take that money later on thin thin ice super dangerous always want to operate from a position of str-. Rank and you're only strong when you feel financially sound when you feel like, hey, the roof is not gonna fall in. I have shelter can e pay my bills my family's stressed. Now. You won't break from that position at all times. Most importantly, your business relies on you relies on your leadership relies on your health. And of course, stress will affect your health, and you can only be your best self when you're in a good state. So you're actually doing your business favor by paying yourself first. Now, you'd have to pay yourself a lot you can pay yourself enough to keep you know, profits high in your business, this might even be a tax advantage, depending on where you are because in some countries in some states corporate tax business taxes going to be less than personal income tax. So make your top priority. When it comes to your business finances to pay yourself first more on today's topic. But before that, let me give love to today's sponsor. Support for today's show comes from Honey book. Do you own a small business frustrated with dealing with back and forth? Emails endless paperwork and getting paid. Honey, book dot com can help you spend less time handling the administration work and more time doing what you love your business. Honey book is an all in one business management platform for creative small businesses Honey book makes it easy to streamline your process with client and counter management tools. Custom branded, brochures proposals and contracts. You can even get e signatures generate invoices and get paid faster all within one online system over seventy five thousand photographers designers. If and professionals and other solar entrepreneurs have hundreds if not thousands of hours year with Honey. And that's why we've partnered with Honey book dot com to offer. You a great deal listeners. Get fifty percent off the first year of Honey book with from code and the a get started with Honey bef- dot com today and use promo code m b. A fifty percent off your first year again that's Honey, book dot com, use promo code and the. If you've been running a business or sometime, you know business is hard. It's tough work. It's a lot of work, and it could be stressful. So we want to minimize all other stresses in her life, including our personal finance dress. And this is the point of today's episode creding environment. So you can succeed as a business kring environments that you could succeed as a leader you need to create this environment. No one's going to create this for you. So you need to prioritize the right things the thing about being a business builder and a business owner is that you got to build the system as well as the products and services the system that works for you and your personal life as well as your professional life. This is one of the things you need to build met system. Paying yourself. First. All right. Thank you. So much listening to the hundred dollar show. You'll love this podcast. You wanna hear more episodes? Make sure you hit. Subscribe by hitting subscribe on whatever you used to listen to podcasts. You automatically get your episode right on your device, and it's they're ready for you. When you're ready to listen before I go on a leave you with this. I mentioned this whole times on previous episodes. But getting a part time freelance accountant can do wonders he or she can help you set things up for you to take a look at your income your revenue your costs and make sure that you're paying yourself properly and doesn't have to be that expensive. There are countless start at three to four hundred dollars a month, and you're gonna pay an account anyway to run things during tax time. So you might as well have one every month, and they'll take care of your taxes as well as stuff like this. All right. Thank you so much for listening. Check you into Mars episode Cuna Wednesday. I'll see then.
UFYB 128: Boredom
"Fuck Your Rain. The only podcast you how to use psychology feminism and coaching to rewire your brain. And get what you like. And now here's your host Harvard Law School Grad Them Rock and master coach Harlow. Dial my chickens. How are you all doing today? I am actually recording this episode. About maybe three or four days into the voluntary self quarantine. Social distancing period. A lot of us are experiencing our did experience. And so it's kind of perfect the topic. I'd already scheduled for this. Podcast is a boredom because boredom is something that a lot of us are going to experience quite a bit during this pandemic period and I think because we are so bad with handling boredom. We're going to be trying to escape it in a variety of ways. That aren't great for us. Like buffering with food or booze or net flicks or buffering with the news right. I think our brains sometimes would rather be anxious then be bored because if we make ourselves anxious enough then we have a problem to solve so too. I WanNa talk about boredom. What boredom is even whether it is or isn't problem and how you can handle it so the first thing to know that is going to surprise you some of you is. That boardrooms thought. It's not a circumstance. It's not something that happens to you. It's not just the case that you are bored right the same way. You are awake or are sleeping. Boredom is not a circumstance. It's a thought that you have. You have the thought that you are bored and that may give rise to a feeling and we could call whatever that fiscal station is boredom but for me. I don't find it so much a physical sensation if you feel physical sensation when you think I'm bored then that's the feeling you've got. That's fine when I think I'm bored. I don't find a big physical response in myself. It's different from person to person but the important thing to know is that boredom is not just happening to you. You are actually creating it for yourself with your own thoughts otherwise if that weren't the case if boredom could just happen to you then we'd all be bored at the same time in the same circumstances right while doing or not doing the same things and we know that. That isn't the case. I can be bored watching a football game while someone else's having an incredibly engaged experience how can that be? It's because our thoughts are different right. My thought is. This is boring right. Or who cares and their thought is. I want my team to win or this is so exciting or I love being part of this group of fans. Can you believe that call right? Whatever they're thinking nothing is intrinsically boring even doing nothing is not intrinsically mooring. It's only your own thoughts that make something boring or not boring to you. So that's the first thing understand. If you're bored you have only yourself to blame. You are choosing to think and believe that you are bored and have or have nothing to do. And then you're creating that experience for yourself as long as you have human mind you do not have to be bored. There is always interesting stuff to think about or you can use your human mind to practice being present in the world and just using your awareness to experience where you are you actively think or you can work on your meditative presence right. But you don't have to be bored and I love using time that I have to do nothing else but think to ask myself powerful questions to try to think about my future self right what my future self is doing what she thinks how she believes she feels what kind of results she's created right. It's almost like having a mental pen pal right or to think about my business to think about how I can grow my business how I can serve and support my clients more how I can bring more teaching to the world. What my clients are struggling with it. I can help them with how I can solve my own thought. Work problems right so many powerful interesting questions to give your brain all that being said the second important thing understand is that there's nothing wrong with boredom or being bored. They're not a problem right. It's just a thought creating an experience for you but that's okay. It's okay to bored. It's not fatal. The biggest problem with boredom is that. We're so intolerant of it. I think this is exacerbated by our current society and all of our technology right. It used to be that as a human you had experienced boredom. Sometimes you had to figure out how to amuse yourself. You didn't have computers at home and on the subway and in your pocket at all times rate to always be able to stream music or news or play games or read social media. Our attention spans are actually getting shorter because of how much technology we use and so our ability to tolerate. Boredom is getting very low. Your Primitive Breen always wants a hit of dopamine. So it's always going to choose to poke the buttons on the game or go on facebook or whatever else right and your brains also wired for social connection and social media gives you the illusion of connecting to other people and sometimes of course you really are connecting but often you're scrolling and passively viewing which is not the same as connecting so. I do think that we have a harder time tolerating boredom than previous generations. We just have not had to do it and the problem is that on. The other side of boredom are a lot of good things right on the other side of boredom is creativity. It's true relaxation learning and growth right everything that humans can create is on the other side of boredom because to think deeply to reflect to let your mind wander to access your creativity. You have to be willing to spend time where you're not distracting yourself with external stimulation rate if you are staring at a screen in your hand and trying to like capture. The I don't know can't I don't know what happens in candy crush? I don't play. I don't play Games on my phone. Like whatever you're trying to do right when you're just giving yourself lots little hits dopamine and constantly scrolling or Pinger texting or whatever you never have any space in your mind. Your brain is just bouncing all over the place. Boredom and space in your mind is essential because it's on the other side of boredom that you will come up with new insights. You'll have new ideas you'll brainstorm new projects you'll gain insight into yourself if you are constantly distracting yourself. You never get to actually know your own brain or your body right. You can't find out what your thoughts are. If you're never willing to sit around and pay attention to them you have to be willing to sometimes take away all of that addictive stimuli and let your mind wander and we are so afraid of boredom or being alone with our own thoughts that we tried to drown them out with Netflix and food and shopping and booze an instagram. And all the other things we do to distract ourselves. I think that's one of the reasons. We avoid. Non Stimulated Time. So much is that were afraid of our own minds our own thoughts and feelings. But your thoughts are harmless. If you aren't acting on them they're just sentences in your mind right. You can learn to observe and detached from them but and this is the crucial point if you won't ever stop and allow yourself to be alone with them. If you aren't willing to go through the part where you're a little bit bored. At first you will never be able to learn or practice that skill when we talk about boredom. I think we think of it as being kind of like low grade but sometimes stopping that kind of stimuli can actually be very uncomfortable being bore can feel like your brain is having a addict fit about wanting to look at your phone right and we have to be willing to get through that period. Boredom is like allowing a negative emotion. We resist it so much. And we go to such extreme lengths to avoid our own emotions. But if we're able to relax and allow them. They're often over in a few moments and get through the other side just fine. So what if you are willing to be bored? It will be very uncomfortable at first. You won't know what to do and you'll have the urge to distract yourself. You will reach for your phone right. Just let the urge come up. Let it pass st where you are stare out the window let your mind wander. Let your brain do some thinking. Don't just replay your own self critical thoughts but ask yourself interesting questions. Creates a mental space for yourself. Allow the discomfort of being bored and then pass through the other side. Fordham won't kill you and depending on what happens outside in the world. We mail of a lot of time to practice being bored so I want you to give it a try. See what is on the other side. I think you will be amazed at what you find. I might chickens short and sweet for this week. Give you plenty of time to think your thoughts and be bored if you find that you are responding to boredom or having extra time or negative emotion with that kind of buffering numbing drinking or eating or netflixing or scrolling social media or whatever it is to not be alone with your thoughts. I want you to know I do have a resource for you. It's totally free. And it's a workbook that you can use to get to know what is behind that kind of numbing out behavior and gives you concrete tools for working on changing it K- rather than just kinda vowing to yourself. That tomorrow or next week will be different. 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Yes that will okay. We'll have to take turns describing our society. The everybody else should describes everybody. You know like nate. You should describe danielle. why are we doing. Are you bombing. Because there's a hair in between two of the pages in short and curlies sweating no such short and curlies just a hair. You think tattoo. Bob's hair was just fast on a sam picture off choking now you really don't know man these pictures you guys have seen before but there are some new ones here okay. These are all courtesy of our friend. Tattoo bob who is driven dr- drunk pictures of us before but i think this is the new round. Yeah and he yeah. He does live drawings all the time of our listeners. And he and he has. I was talking the other day. He has made so many friends with so many of our listeners. And it's just so cool. What what this shows actually been able to do for him because he loves art and he's been able to do it now because of us and i love that most of these pictures are the pictures that we saw the first time he drew them and he just added a few more here and there and by the way he is at tattoo. Bob tv on instagram. If you wanna get in touch with sentiment. And i'm sure he'll do a a nice rendition of what you look like. Let's start with scary i. I'm pretty sure you've seen this one before there. You are now. How do you describe that. I i look like that. Go till you look very skeletal. I looked like the face of berry park in coney island till you know that that clowney looking frigging weird brooker. Ella look like the widow's peak is very pronounced. And then your teeth look frightening. Say around my. What's the word that you're here because he knows you're a sellout from your commercial. Yeah and you also have quite the mono brown picture right. Okay gone to your. I've seen this one before. But let's say you look like michael jackson. Jackson hundred percent michel deville to like smoking a cigarette. That i believe is supposed to be a joint. I'm into it okay. The first time. Here's the nate picture. That was from the with scotty. Bean his family to the beach and he buried me in the same offense. That looks doesn't look walking thing like it. Looks like the logo for the corona virus. Caricatures supposed to look like a pile of vomit doodle out of a sandwich. Danielle said bob was into art. I don't know what this has to do. With art. Walking down broadway they displayed. He's really beautiful caricatures. And then you sit down and this is what you get good ones face. Yeah he got your arm on. That scotty was left to himself. I think that's how he would walk around all the time like you just saw what happened. When there was a hair on a piece of paper he actually. He was about to melt well he would walk like that was just telling me this past week and he was recognized well in his mask. We really weird. I was at the shoprite in stanhope. New jersey loading up the truck. I had just done and instacart and all of a sudden from across the parking lot of here. Scotty and i just said i said was how d- coupon stuck to your shoe. She's like well. I thought maybe i worked with you. I wasn't sure. And then i was able to place it. I just so we're wearing your jersey. The new jersey bar where danielle lives on friday night. Like this. Sterry joan guys. This is a game graphics. How do you. How do you recognize this. The one eyebrow windows peak very pronounced anyway. She was wait. Are you running it. All scary maybe they recognize. I'm breath from going up pinger. Okay what else he gets. Tell him about all right. So you've all seen the froggy the froggy one august. Egghead looks like south park character. thinks the atlantic institute i got. I got lazy so you know what. That's the problem with the picture of the glass. Your nose rex's much. The black dogs much cuter than that closest to any of austat on this we haven't seen before is new. This is of elvis dead on the slate for law and order immersion. Harte's hair looks like beavis or butthead. i don't know which one it is. Looks that looks like a completely different rate. Lopez looks like and you saw that one before was Dressed up there. Thirty l if i'm a blonde and here's max. And ollie scotty. Yeah i'll put the dog artist okay. Straight is out of what what else we got a new one that we haven't seen before this is sam. Jackson is well put it back. Her daughter got somebody new. Don't sell through. It is help me get me out of here rescue me. That's great brow eight. That's that's ridiculous birdie beef with tattoo. Bob what is this about. Yeah he wasn't you asked him for a really dull. i said. I didn't like the first one i didn't ask them you. He won't do it again at another one. Bomb got love our first place like michael jackson. That's somebody way wait. Put brody's again. I just lost a accurate. That is my look all her. I mean it's kind of pretty notes. That was me because that's i. I know that dress. And compared to other scott brody's again broody and i figured it out. You're the bug guy from men in black teaser. Under pressure thinking and fred is fred a police officer fred fred on the left of the right. Fred is the orange tabby there. Those are pretty good. I think animals who does well. That's a yankee that's again a do rag spray. There's another animal it's very good. That was mr hanky the christmas. That's me and sheldon. That's a long time ago. A lot of water from southbound. Philip own now. This is me when. I dress up in halloween costumes. How mom roy. Danielle guy done froggy technically none except johnny except that sam. Johnny come on. Jim carrey uncle johnny. This great there's there's who's that gary joker jokers very brooklyn boys that i think we got everybody. Oh god brady was your neck. Tail looks like slime tattoo tattoo. Way to take our worst features. Accentuate them that. There's the alex one that we all love. Why is it won like three sizes. You'd never noticed that about alex. No everything but for some reason for some reason he threw in a greg. T. o. t. That's it that's it do. We have left in this. Oh we still have another four minutes left to insult the shit out of each other. So do you guys want me to send them hanging up in my office. Dotty you guys. We'll keep picking on each other and actually vote on the creepiest person on the show as because i have a different vote than everyone else because hold on a second here you honestly on all joking aside. You think i'm creepy than you're no. Okay okay. i feel creepy. I'm interesting no. You cut a hole bear. I don't care how old you were would disagree with a kid. I was eleven months. I never cut a hole in the bear if i did it. Scott everybody in this room was eleven at one time nate. Did you ever cut a hole in a bear. No did you against the couch. You did something like hours. Covered the jets on a pool. And i was like. Oh okay. that's not a teddy bear right. Don't tell my parents by the way. But i also discovered the jets in their pool when i was young to i unscrew the cap on that thing down weiner jet. Yeah you guys. Florida by the way his dick stuck in the pool jet knowing he had to call the police to get him out of. It had to call the fire department. Did you ever get caught scotty. Well that might be where my fear of peanut people putting their penis and things comes from. I don't know stores usually keep to yourself. I'm just why it makes radio use it. Things scotty thinks that's actually scotty. Though we amplify and we embellish a lot of our stories and the things that are weird about us but scotties are real in fact. I think you actually own a lot of that stuff down. These are all just remember. These are all past stories. I'm not agree. What's the weirdest thing. have you done recently. Like the weirdest the closest thing to weird. I do weird stuff anymore. I just tell you. Stories from yesteryear. What about the alpo story. That's weird. I'm not telling that here. But i was also i was young. I was probably ten years old babysitting. my neighbors. Between ten and eleven alpo and the well things were not going. Well scott you really cleaned up. I was just trying to see what worked. Okay scotty now. Everyone's going to vote for you. I was trying to vote in before you told all of your story. Yesteryear is bullshit because just the other day you took out of here. Ninety six beer cans to empty your house to get. I gave him to my dad. Are you one of those ones that still like return all the candle. Hold on i in my defense in new york. If you when you buy water and soda you pay a nickle ford. So i'm to throw them out. I want my nickleback. Yeah i know. Great band cool. I'm going to sound like a really cheap ass here. I was in new jersey yesterday. And they had cases of water that were returnable but in jersey. They don't charge you the nickel so i made like four bucks three cases of water yesterday. That was cool. I just think it's good that you're recycling. I think that's the good part. Scotty doing your part. yeah gandhi. We've got like thirty seconds left. So who's who do you think is the weirdo. Oh i think okay so. My vote was for garrett. I think garrett's the creepiest. Because we all know that garrett will record you when you don't know he's recording and then he'll turn that audio over that you get in trouble so i say garrett throughout the morning that i say garrett such a fucking asshole listening i'll explain why you're guilty because because because like when when daniels doing something you'd like oh garrett really messed up. You don't think i'm there so you're talking behind my back hence while you're a dick no i know you're there. I know we just pretend that you're always listening because you are. It's we blame you for whatever reason garrett we'll just go into the microphone you hear that garrett your but i caught scotty because i texted you seconds later. I didn't do that asshole. And then he feels dumb because he knows. I caught him. So why us dan. I know you're listening somehow because you're a creeper go back. Microphone and the tampon. I'll that's just you now. Everybody talks about the guy the fifteen minute morning show one of the hardest in most daunting things to do especially when moving to a new city. It's finding doctors offices. The process can feel a little scary. A little outdated as well. Which is why. I love live by advantium. 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