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Liberals Violate Their Own Norms in the Most 'Elite, Refined and Sophisticated' Manner
"I'm talking to. Victor davis hanson. The new book the dying citizen. How progressive elites tribalism oxford comma and globalization are destroying the idea of america. You're just making a point. And you were about to give us another example of what you were describing. I don't know if you remember. I do we that we have people like nancy pelosi. That violates the corentin. She insists on others to get our hair done. Are we have these. Various mayors who break out or gavin. Newsom has to eat at the french longed remember. They always violate their own norms. In the most elite refined sophisticated manner but even have the marxist shock troops of this revolution that we're fighting phyllis cuellar's fourth house. It's an all white to tahonga. That has raked in zillions with yes with. Blm black lives matter. She cares so much about the poor that she has a fourth house. Isn't that sweet. I want to ask you when you talk about. Why they're doing this in the name of equality and so on and so forth isn't it ultimately irrelevant. Of course it's irrelevant in other words if we the people don't give them permission to do this they must not do it. They have no right to do it. So what they're doing is in contravention of the whole idea of america that we the people choose our leaders to do what we need them to do. They are comfortable with that. So they're looking for a way around it. And they've been finding ways around it and i and i mentioned that in the book that what i just said is what we used to say and scholarship. The pro faucets the pretexts. That's what they say they want a quality and they're really do try to enact it out but it's really about their desire for power. Just like the bolsheviks. Jack
Rental Assistance Programs Are Swooping In To Help As Evictions Resume
"The Biden administrations eviction ban, There's even greater urgency to get billions of dollars in federal rental assistance to those who need it. Shelby County, Tennessee, is already facing that challenge. NPR's Laura Wamsley reports. SP KEY and apartments versus Delores Egleston in a courthouse in Memphis. Tenants are packed into eviction court as much as social distancing will allow when their cases are called. Tenants are asked this question by Judge Phyllis Gardner. Have you talked with anyone? Or are you interested in the rental assistance program? I've talked in case after case Gardner urges tenants to visit room 1 34 down the hall. Where Memphis area legal services attorneys help tenants start applications for rental aid. One of those attorneys, Frida Turner, stands up in the courtroom to speak about the program if you apply, and if you're approved We will pay up to 12 months of your back rent plus one month of futurist. We will bring you to zero and you'll get a fresh start a fresh start. That's what's new even if evictions aren't thanks to the billions in federal aid tenants who are behind have a chance to stay in their homes due to a federal court ruling in July. Judges here in Tennessee haven't been bound by the CDC order for more than a month. The judge Gardner, the CDC order delayed the inevitable while in Memphis, they started resolving cases. We've been able to deal with the problems to give these people and landlords some closure so that they can move on. The most recent CDC ban was intended to give states and localities more time to get assistance out to renters facing eviction. But it's been slow going by the end of July. Nationally, just over five billion of the $25 billion allocated had been spent. Several states have used less than 5% of the federal money so far. But in Memphis and
"phyllis" Discussed on Encyclopedia Womannica
"Surname. It was after this marriage that she changed her. First name to dell phyllis lyon was born in tulsa oklahoma on november tenth nineteen twenty four at a young age phyllis. His family moved to northern california. Phyllis stayed close to home for college. She graduated with a degree in journalism from the university of california berkeley in nineteen forty six. After a few years of working as a general reporter phillips left california and took a job on the editorial staff of two magazines in seattle washington dell and phyllis met for the first time. When del joined villas magazine staff the to immediately hit it off and became fast friends. Their friendship evolved into a romantic relationship and on valentine's day of nineteen fifty three. They moved into a place together in san francisco. Their neighborhood in san francisco was a very catholic working class. Heterosexual community delon. Phyllis struggled with isolation as they found it difficult to develop a social network to combat this lack of connection and community. They founded the daughters of believed us or in nineteen fifty five. The name was inspired by a collection of erotic poems called songs of believes that celebrated lesbian sexuality at its inception. Do be consisted of eight members. It was the first lesbian civil and political rights organization in the united states. It was intended to be a secret social club for lesbians who did not feel comfortable going to bars. At that time gay and lesbian bars were being raided and harassed by police the do be transformed into a community where lesbians could feel safe to come out connect with other lesbians and find support to cope with the challenges of being unaccepted by much of society. Dell and fila served as counselors to their fellow members they provided rides to meetings and offered consolation members were having problems in their personal lives. They understood and commiserated with women who feared losing their jobs their homes and their families due to their sexuality although they originally intended for the group to be a secret del villas decided they wanted to give the group more visibility recognition with phyllis as the fearless editor. Do be began publishing. A monthly magazine called the ladder. It was the first nationally distributed lesbian publication in the us and dell and phyllis point to capitalize the word lesbian. Every time it appeared dell and phyllis were inducted into the lgbt journalists hall of fame for their work on the ladder in two thousand five in the early nineteen sixties there was a rise of oppression and violence against the homosexual community philipson dell worked alongside other gay and lesbian activists to urge state legislators to change california laws that criminalized homosexuality the legislators told them that if they wanted to make progress with their movement they should focus with religious leaders. Phyllis and del met with progressive methodist clergyman. Ted mack o. Vana ted was in charge of the young adult outreach program at the glide urban center through his outreach he'd realized that many of the homeless youth in the program were misunderstood gay men who were driven to the streets after being ostracized by their friends and families because ted himself was heterosexual. He sought support from local homa file organizations. Ted invited phyllis and del to a historic consultation between religious leaders gay and lesbian activists in nineteen sixty four the council on religion and the homosexual was born. It was the first.
Biden Promotes Milestone of 300M Vaccine Shots in 150 Days
"Many Americans are resuming pre pandemic life even as some worry virus related restrictions are being lifted too fast as he touted three hundred million vaccine doses administered during his first one hundred fifty days in office president Biden looked ahead and breaks Trish Williams summer majority for Alicia Walter that means going to baseball games like this week's trip to nationals park here in Washington she thinks the re openings happening just right I think it's a good balance between too fast and not fast but a third of Americans in AP-NORC center for public affairs research poll think restrictions were ended too fast and readjusting to normal life will take time in Michigan Phyllis script sick wants to get back to the gym and it will happen but I've got to get prepared mentally I think for that Sager made Donnie Washington
Northwestern Students, Faculty Protest Hiring of New Athletic Director
"University, is facing backlash over its pick of Mike Polis Key to be the school's new athletic director. He's been the deputy athletic director since 2010 and he was named as a defendant in the federal sexual harassment lawsuit filed by a former tribute earlier this year. We get more from WGN's Kelly Davis. He's one of four people cited in a sexual harassment lawsuit filed by Northwestern Cheerleader Hate and Richardson. Sr says cheerleaders were sexually exploited and claims that the school ignored her complaints. She specifically states that Phyllis Key accused her of fabricating evidence. Six female faculty members sent an open letter demanding greater transparency, transparency. And they led a protest outside the university president's home yesterday.
A Civil Rights History Lesson
"Today we have a very special guest joining us from brooklyn. New york is gene. Theo harris distinguished professor of political science at brooklyn college a historian and author of the rebellious life of mrs rosa parks. She's co editor of the new book. Julian bonds time to teach the history of the southern civil rights movement gene. Welcome to the show. Thanks for having me so today. We're going to honor one of the leaders of the civil rights movement and i. I actually met julian bond. I just can't remember where it's going to say that you probably did. I did meet him. And now i'm like you know i think it was before we had cameras in our phones. I mean bond is just a hero and a giant in the civil rights movement. He was an incredible human bean with. I mean his humanity just should out. He was an activist. He was an an educator he did. Pass away in two thousand fifteen. He was a founding member of the student. Nonviolent coordinating committee snake He had a political career. He served in the georgia house of representatives. He had to fight for his seat because of his opposition to the vietnam war and he was the first african american to be nominated as vice president though he withdrew his name and julian bond was an outspoken activist who fought his entire life whether it was civil rights to beaten way out of other people on the question of lgbtq rights all the way to protesting to shut down the keystone pipeline. Let's listen to julian bond in his own words to start off this show. This is from two thousand and two interview that julian did with phyllis leffler of the explorations in black leadership project at the university of virginia. Everything my parents. I told me about responsibility to others everything. I've learned that. The george school about speaking truth to power everything i learned about daring to stand up to powerful people and say no to them. Whatever the consequences. All of that came together when lonnie king came up to me and asked me if i would join this Movement
Sport Unites for Social Media Boycott Against Online Abuse
"Social media is spreading. Now the sport's governing body is joining all the players and clubs who have decided to stay off these platforms to protest online racist abuse. English cricket and rugby clubs of sign on so of the organizers of the Wimbledon tennis. Turk it tournament. Paul Phyllis in racist abuse online is not new, but it gives a little more context about why they're making this move right now. Yes. So, basically, I think what's happened Is that because of Cove it on because basically, I mean, look football players they used to being shouted out on the touchline zones on the Saturday afternoon that hasn't happened for a long time on a lot of the abuse has basically moved online. There's been a massive increase and a lot of it sadly. Is racist on day. Players have just had enough. And I think that what began, as you say, is the kind of football clubs doing it has now been joined by rugby and cricket. Andre Formula One have been talking about doing it, and I think what we're basically seeing here is the frustration of social media companies. Just don't move fast enough on things that impact people's lives when it comes to online abuse, and and the you know, I was listening to Terry on Rio's a former French international football player today, saying, Look when it's issues of copyright, or things that are gonna cost people money. They move fast when it's not about money, but how it impacts on people's lives and reputations. They take too long, and I think that's the thing they want. Social Media companies toe act a little bit more like a newsroom and react to things quickly, rather than Allowing things that just drag on until this such a powerful backlash that something gets done. And, you know, people have had enough. And I think you know the UK has tried to do with racism on the terraces. While the terrorists is our empty they're trying to do with racism online. Well, David McGoldrick plays for Sheffield
"Was eleven on a sunday. Morning when phyllis shapiro showed up at my front door. Oh my god. My heart was pounding. My heart was just pounding. I had i mitch. Phyllis a decade ago. When my next door neighbor. Marty markowitz brought her over an introduced her with words. I will never forget joe. This is my sister. Phyllis i haven't seen her twenty seven years. This time. phyllis was the one to break the news mighty had tried to reach you on the phone and couldn't and so i ran over to see if you were home. I was out so it was dawn. My wife who opened the door just said daun great news You know there's a decision and the doctors losing his license. And you know we need to tell. Joe how do we reach him. After a series of hearings that had lasted almost a year and a half during which he continued to protest his innocence. The new york state department of health had ruled against her. Scoff a few days later. The full decision was posted. Here's what it concluded. The hearing committee sustained all the departments factual basis of professional misconduct including negligence gross negligence incompetence gross incompetence exercising undue influence fraudulent practice and fitness and failure to maintain records after full consideration of the penalties available. The committee has determined that to protect the people of the state of new york. The respondents licensed shall be revoked. Isaac curse cov. The shrink next door had five days to hand in his license to practice. Psychiatry in the state of new york.
Marking one year of the global COVID-19 pandemic
"For everyone. We all lost something. President Biden beginning tonight Speech marking one year since covert 19 was declared a global pandemic with a somber tone, saying denials for days, weeks and months led to more deaths, more stress and more loneliness. But he offered cautious optimism in the form of more vaccine getting to the public. You know what we need to do to beat his fires? Tell the truth. Follow the scientists. The science work together. But trust and faith in our government of Phyllis. Most important function, which is protecting the American people know function more important, and he said one of his main goals is to get kids back to in person school in his 1st 100 days in office, and he said, if everyone gets vaccinated and follow CDC guidelines, we get closer to normal by July, 4th.
Biden Says U.S. to Have Vaccines for All Adults by End of May
"People vaccinated. Faster. I'm least Phyllis Sarah Fox News president. Biden says a partnership between Mark and Johnson and Johnson will speed up the production of the J and J covert vaccine so that all American adults will be able to get a shot by the end of May. And he says educators need to move to the head of the line is yet another move to help accelerate to safely open number schools. Legend treat in person learning like an essential service that it is, and that means getting essential workers provide that service educators school staff Child care workers get them vaccinated immediately. The president had said he expected vaccines to be ready for all adults by the end of July, but the president said Americans need to keep wearing
Irv Cross, NFL player, pioneer Black analyst, dies at 81
"Melancholy trails to irv cross the pioneering broadcaster and standout defensive back for the eagles and rams died yesterday at eighty. One cross was the first black analyst doing football on national television. Cbs hired in nineteen. Seventy one and four years later. Put together the greatest pre-game show in american sports. The nfl today on cbs. I live pregame show. There were cross his college classmate. At northwestern brent musburger phyllis george and jimmy the greek snyder on sundays tens of millions tuned in to see and hear what they had to say each member. That case was the perfect choice. Musburger the surviving members of cross quote. He was the ultimate teammate. To tell you the truth he was the perfect personality for the group of egos. He had to be
Irv Cross, NFL player, pioneer Black analyst, dies at 81
"NFL corner Irv Cross has died. After a successful nine year playing career cross been 23 years with CBS, most notably as the first Black Network Sports show anchor on the NFL today show alongside Phyllis George. And Brent Mussburger cross was 81 years old. Rob would work to believe GOP sports. It was my uncle's favorite
Cloris Leachman dies at 94: 'The Mary Tyler Moore Show' actress won Oscar, Emmys
"Woman. Oscar and Emmy winning character actress Poorest Leachman died. She want a best supporting actress Oscar for Her role in The Last Picture show also appeared in three Mel Brooks movies, including an unforgettable Turn and Young Frankenstein. I am Paul Brujo. Cloris Leachman want an Emmy for portraying Phyllis Lindstrom on the first five seasons of the Mary Tyler Moore Show? Her longtime manager say she died in her sleep. Cloris Leachman was 94 You're listening to ABC News.
Cloris Leachman, Oscar-winning actor also known as TV’s Phyllis Lindstrom, dies at 94, publicist says
"Still to come on all things considered. Emmi, an Oscar winning actress Cloris Leachman has died. Leachman is best remembered for her intense, dramatic and loopy comic roles from the last picture Show, Too Young Frankenstein
Cloris Leachman, Emmy and Oscar Winner, Dies at 94
"A veteran academy award winning actor has died Cloris Leachman won an Oscar for her portrayal of a lonely housewife in the last Picture Show and this twenty eleven Associated Press interview she said she loved doing the work of an actor acting is partly being a detective so it's fun to sort it out figure it out see who's in the hall of the people are and figure out what to do great fun Leachman could also make people laugh as she did in the role of Phyllis the neighbor on the Mary Tyler Moore show she says in this two thousand nine clip doing comedy is serious business you have to really mean it or want it or do it you know you have to give it your all publicist says Cloris Leachman died in her sleep of natural causes she was ninety four years old I'm Oscar wells Gabriel
Porcupines vs. Armadillos
"Hi i'm molly bloom. And this is smash boom best the show where we take two things smash them together and ask you to decide which one is best today to courageous critters take the stage. It's armadillos versus porcupines. Which brave and beautiful beast claim the crown. Will it be the master of armor or the king of quills. It won't be easy but luckily hob taste here to help us decide high hobday so hobday when i say armadillo what comes to mind so they have like armor and they got like roll up. And how about when. I say porcupine what comes to mind when i say porcupine many many needles like neil all around so this is going. Be a tough decision. Porcupines versus armadillos is gonna be a a close to me. I think this is going to be a really close debate. They both have really interesting ways of defending themselves. So what tips. Do you have far debaters today. How can they convince you. I'll say humour in facts. Those are some great debate strategies. All right now. It's time to introduce our debaters arguing for the heroic hard shelled armadillo. It's phyllis fletcher. Hi phyllis hey now. Phyllis in a single sentence why are armadillos. The most awesome because they are fabulous and tough a very compact argument. I like it here. To rep proud and prickly team porcupine. It's tracy mumford high tracy. Hey they're feeling sharp. Tracy give us your take on. Why porcupines are the perfect creature. Porcupines bring their super punk attitude across so many continents showed off their thrills and quills and surviving in the wild ready to rock. We are off to a very strong start but remember it. All comes down to hobday's opinion when him over and win the match. Phyllis and tracy are you up for the challenge. Yup so ready. Hey before we start. Let's recap the rounds. I it's the declaration of greatness team. Armadillo and t porcupine will each deliver. A statement in defense of their side using fabulous facts figures and stories. Each team will also have thirty seconds to make a rebuttal next. It's the micro around a creative challenge that both sides have already prepared for then. It's the sneak attacks a surprise challenge that will require debaters to use all of their skills to score a point and then the final six are debaters will make their last argument in just six words. A sweet short and crucial round table. Be giving out points along the way. But he'll keep his score a secret until the very end listeners. We want you to judge too. If you'd like to score on an official scorecard you can download one on our website at smash boom dot org or just make your own okay everybody. Are you ready so ready. Yep yep definitely perfect that it's time for the declaration of greatness Are debaters will present the most fascinating facts and awesome arguments in favor of their side. We flipped a coin. And phyllis your up. I get us amped up about armadillos. Imagine if you really don't like something that's happening or he thinks someone's going to come over and try to start something. Imagine you just turn into a ball. Just you're a ball and your shell is tough like a bike helmet. Your whole body is just a big sphere. Made out of bike helmet stuff. You're almost like a transformer. You just shape shifting. You don't have to deal with anything until you come out. That is the life of an armadillo. The armadillo is fabulous and tough. It looks funny and it has other weird qualities which i shall name however it's weird qualities are exactly what. Make it so tough. And so fabulous. I defy you to name a better animal. An armadillo kind of looks like a cross between a turtle an anti-terror it lives in south america. Central america and the southern. Us it's a mammal it walks around on all fords. It can be anywhere from three inches long to five feet depending what kind it is and it has a show a lot of the time it's tan which makes it look like a football and for the armadillos that can curl up and hide. Those ones can look like a tiny volleyball.
No. 3 House GOP leader backs Trump impeachment as tide grows
"President trump's GOP support is starting to crumble at the party's top levels with houses number three Republicans saying she will vote to impeach him Liz Cheney says there's never been a greater betrayal by a president of his office and oaks or Stephen comes a week after the president colder out at a rally before the capitol protest urging supporters to get rid of the week lawmakers Phyllis Cheney's of the world while fellow Republican Andy Biggs is blasting Cheney she should resign position is conference chair house speaker Nancy Pelosi is praising her maybe more ominous for the president that house GOP defections The New York Times reports Senate Republican chief Mitch McConnell is glad Democrats are moving against him thinking that will help the G. O. P. B. com trump free Sager mag ani Washington
Last of singing McGuire Sisters dies in Vegas; Phyllis, 89
"The three singing McGuire sisters and topped the charts with several hits in the 19 fifties, has died. Phyllis McGuire was 89, the lead singer and younger sister of Dorothy and Christine McGuire, died on Tuesday at her estate in Las Vegas. A cause of death is not and released. Are these
Phyllis McGuire, Lead Singer and Last Remaining Member of the McGuire Sisters, Dies at 89 in Las Vegas
"Of the stage and screen and we just learned about another member of Ah, Chart topping very famous 19 fifties singing group has died. The last remaining member of the popular 19 fifties trio The McGuire Sisters died this week. See Phyllis McGuire was the lead singer for the trio with her older sister's Christine and Dorothy. Talented sisters became sensations touring, appearing on top TV shows like The Ed Sullivan Show and performing for five presidents and even Queen Elizabeth, the Las Vegas Sun reports. Phyllis died Tuesday at her lavish estate in Las Vegas. She was 89 Carmen Roberts, Fox News. 7 34 right now. Okay. LF
"phyllis" Discussed on Shut Up I Love It
"Gambits is queen's gambit is so they're shadow. She's very good looking actress. That's pretty much it. She's a girl he. We do every session. Joe girls that because we're just talking about boys and ya know i feel what have you to gender-specific yes. Have you experienced fat girls. I have not experienced that Maybe a little bit but not really. Not not in a where. I was fooled More in a mutual agreement type of way more like mutual agreement was grabbing me by the collar at parties. Pulling me somewhere but now can i. I don't know. I believe they're probably out there. But i feel like there's some like this predatory thing that ma- that really good at or like really wanna be good at the. Yeah they seem to just naturally be into that versus women. Don't need to get into that part of it to have sex and have things on their terms. So i think just like they manifest in a different way. Yeah i mean it would love to hear from you listeners. If you familiar with fog girls or any anything that we haven't covered in this quite fascinating episode to me. At least please let us know. Email us at the email address. That i do not know. But it's in the description of this episode or message us on instagram. I mean those are like the options please please. we'd love hearing from you. So great so joe. That was a great point. Phyllis anything else. Anything new changed woman. You you better woman based on a year. Are you grateful in any way for the experience besides disorder of picking up the pieces and learning from it. Yes i actually am nine or how to you. Oh just pointing them out from the crowd. And and i helped my friends still like your speak awful so tell me more about this guy. What did he say. What did he do doubt. Does he take you to hang out with his friends. Cosa unionism wanna hang up. You'll hanging out with his friends. Probably thought boy. i. I know how to sniff them. Data and ny. I even know what the word means in. Yeah in a more Appreciate nice guys more now. Oh remember all the guys before we before we wrap it up. I want to do quick scale because we have stepped away from the scale morning. Get back in there. So we're doing this podcast. Each of us creates an individual's scale ten point scale where we try to find another aspect is trying to find how we feel about fuck boys if one was terrible and ten is amazing but we like to compare it against something else. That's similar to fork boys which is going to be challenging. But i'm here to challenge you what it would be for each of us each if either of you. Maybe joe because you've done this before so idea okay. Why don't you go first. And then i just watch us and you'll see what we're doing this one will all be familiar with it. I'm going to say xatzis or ten. Take that is ten. Why well that is the because the lips are moving. I read the description. You read the definition. How are they not ten. Daddies are ten foot. Boys are gonna have to be a four. Wow okay all right. I'm gonna go a little bit more like hardcore psychologically so i forgive if anybody gets upset..
"phyllis" Discussed on Taking Her Lead
"It was a it was like. How do you make sure now. They're both extremely successful women right now. I'm extremely proud of them. And they they'll say oh you were role model mom unity. They're very good about that but it was kind of. Oh my god. I i don't wanna be party to do this to the next generation so that was very big for me in terms of realizing that this is this is something gets passed on from generation to generation. I was very interested in interrupting it and And my daughter's can tell stories of that day. They're pretty sure you know. I was committed interrupting. Phyllis can you. You've alluded a couple times to challenges you faced and perspectives of others on you. That were not helpful would you. Can you speak to just a couple of those and kind of give some examples of the harder things. Yeah this this ties into leadership I have a very close friend who always says my primary mission on the planet is to be a truth teller. I think that a lot of what is harmful is sustained through silence. And so one of the things i do is when i see something i say. Something yes john. Lewis has been in my life. I i think that that's not common. And it's particularly unwelcoming women. I'm surprised at not. Only how few women do it but how hard it is to them too. So you know the patronizing tone of being interrupted. The you offer an idea at a meeting and everybody looks at me like where did that. Come from the nor you. Five minutes later. Mike says it is great idea mic and then you sit there and you gotta be kidding me. The kind of repetitious patterning of dismisses it helps to be marginalized because you understand what being marginalized and i've always thought that white women in america have the most powerful role available. But they haven't figured it out. Which is they know. Privilege and entitlement. Because they haven't whether they're blinded admitted or not and they know oppression marginalization and silence and being rendered invisible. And i've i've always been very well aware that that schizophrenia. In that because part of the time you obviously are benefiting from being white and part of the time you just think. I cannot believe these. These gentlemen are saying these strange things to my face. So i think for me Here's a fun story. I was a dean of nursing. And i had to go negotiate my budget and this is my style of dealing with this kind of thing nonviolent non accommodating so i said to my boss square root he was a wonderful person..
"phyllis" Discussed on WSB-AM
"Yep Phyllis about the intelligence that your folks are looking into that we do believe that some sort of threat is eminent I don't think that the threat is imminent I think that the behaviors exhibited by those individuals last night are indicative of the lengths they will go to to wreak havoc and we have an obligation to step forward match them in their game and beat them chief you are talking a little bit more about the curfew fee just give it give some specifics of insurance for people who like this is mean I can go out for a long time what is it that what is it so we've we have no desire just to mess with people and say Hey there's a curfew you need to be inside I think that we have you know all of the water department speak to the particulars of it for us I think it's very straightforward where we are seeing issues it helps us determine who is engaged in nefarious behavior but are we looking to go on a side street and pick up somebody because they're walking to the store to get a bag of chips now that's that's that's not who we are it's not who I don't want to be a part of any police department the police is that way but I think the issue is such that will now we'll know it when we see it let me let me be clear on the curfew thank you for the example the chief gates is there somebody who's walking to the store they'll get a warning Hey there's a nine o'clock curfew in case you hadn't heard please go home this this is about some other stuff that we have going on the city view.
"phyllis" Discussed on AM 1350 WEZS
"The man cave and you know one of the things we would talk about is Phyllis George she was an American business woman that she was a sportscaster as well in fact she really pave the way for a lot of women in sports and the guys really Duggar they did she work with Brett Musburger and so many others who had nothing but fabulous things to say about her she was the co host for the CBS sports pre show the NFL today she was one of the first woman to hold that spot in a nationally televised sports broadcast she was a woman that was crowned Miss America in nineteen seventy one she won miss Texas of course the year before that nineteen seventy she was married to the governor of whom I think it was the governor once he was the governor of the camps hockey apology as the governor of Kentucky was John Brown and I've heard nothing but wonderful things about those Georgia matter once briefly but I know of somebody who when she was a kid she baby sat their children and people say again just glowing things about her and she took some heat you know she was criticized for not having the qualifications that for different qualifications for a sportscaster and she was on the NFL today for three seasons and then she was replaced by another beauty queen Jane Kennedy and then she returned back to the show in nineteen eighty and that she was there for another four years did interviews with athletes you know except for I mean she was truly a trailblazer and she is she absolutely was well liked by many many many many people I can remember her working on horse racing events because my family was really into horse racing of course and she did you know Preakness is in Belmont Stakes and and you know that kind of thing but she had quite an interesting career there's no question about it little snippet of Phyllis George here in a small town girl coming from Denton Texas and I go to a clinic city and I didn't even know the boardwalk was made out of fortis termly shelter this is terribly sheltered and Atlantic city board which is talking about I grew up the opposite way thirty minutes from what you just described so I grew up outside of the beach on the boardwalk and Philadelphia and I feel like I grew up sheltered in a different way isn't that interesting but good for her for the good will that she left she sadly had a weird blood disease that she fought off for a decade her kids talked about how brave she was and and how determined she was and she died at the age of seventy so Phyllis George died on may fourteenth but she definitely left a legacy and she was not only miss Texas miss America trailblazing sportscaster First Lady of Kentucky from seventy nine to nineteen eighty three one of things is being talked about because so many people in the sports world whether they want to acknowledge it or not are looked up to by lots and lots of kids they they just are it can remember Charles Barkley saying we we're not your role models your parents today well Sir Charles guess what athletes are that's why sometimes so tough when some some of the outrageous things happen with athletes some of the some of the ticket dealers they get themselves into but I always say athletes are like just a piece of humanity I mean of course with thousands of athletes in all different sports you're going to have people that have problems and you're gonna have people that do things that you just shake your head and can't believe Alex Rodriguez is a class act Alex Rodriguez to somebody that I covered when he was with the New York Yankees Alex Rodriguez decided like many others he wanted to get on board with this whole commencement let's say something to the class of twenty twenty because they're not having those traditional ceremonies thanks to cove bid nineteen here's what he had to say you can go out and accomplish whatever it is you want to accomplish whether it's in business or medicine I flat X. art writing or anything go out there and reach for the stars most importantly don't be afraid to fail you can truly go out and.
"phyllis" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM
"Six to reach Phyllis actual Venus and her team at PSP and associates and as we give that phone number Phyllis I think it's a good idea to take care of a little housekeeping and let's right now a little bit about how how you are going to be able to work with people given a what's what's going on today because with people again social distancing it add to the idea of people not going out in public as much or meeting with people as much talk a little bit about how you are adapting to this and and again it's a very fluid situation things are constantly changing but Phyllis what's so what's your plan for getting getting information out to people so first of all if you're concerned what do I do how do I do it you know when do I do it but you don't want to come on in there are a lot of people in that situation so we're setting up Zune meetings where we can have virtual meetings or setting up teller phone calls we're very well prepared to do that we'll get to know each other we'll find out what's on your mind and you know we'll just you know create that complements the stone that's what we do every day that's why I wrote the book okay we can do that very well over the phone so call us to get that set up and we'll just have a general conversation we'll find out what's going on and we'll take and we'll go through the steps and we can do that all virtually we're very well prepared for that now I like to do this time of year especially a lot of public events first public events that that's a no no right now I don't know how long that's going to be so we're setting up those events virtually and of course this happened very quickly we're in the process of doing that and we should be up and running by the end of the last week of March early April so yeah if you want more information on this stuff please give us a call get on our list will take your email will let you know when these are up and running yeah we are available for you to walk through this whole process and and I'll give that number again is so you can get on the list and and again keep checking back on.
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"phyllis" Discussed on Stuff Mom Never Told You
"A woman who falsely accuses a man of domestic violence and then is single as a result. Because then who's GonNa have to pay for that day brother the tax payers? You know we're we're having to fund this welfare state and really I mean pointing out her. Horrific stances on these kinds of issues is to illustrate how she was not just responsible for stopping the IRA and tracks which she and stop era and the Eagle Forum absolutely did but also in essentially building. What is today the ultra right-wing policy platform? It's as if she wrote the script for women to continue to be demeaned and not believed when it comes to some of these awful issues right but I mean these are. These are like political platforms. Now if you turn on if you spend some time on Breitbart news actually don't spend some time on Breitbart News and you'll see all of these similar things going on. Breitbart guy was one of the men who came after me on twitter. Oh really yeah I would breitbart reporter. Oh I'm not surprised I am not surprised But in one thousand nine hundred ninety eight we see another contradiction to her career housewife claim because she goes to law school. I mean in a way like if she were anyone else would be like good for her mother of six. After the kids grow up she goes back to law school. And that's what she argues like. I waited until my children were grown. They can take care of themselves. Breath Alvin I tell you. I breastfed all of them. I really did. And she completes her law degree at Washington University when she goes to the bar. Her public profile was already like a significant enough that she took it in a disguise. She wore a black wigan her to take her exam and she passed it well and her husband and this is another antidote that she would tell over and over again over the years that her husband at I did not want her to go to law school and didn't understand why she felt the need to And then so. She withdrew her application to law school. And then a couple of weeks later he changed his mind and is like you know what it would actually having a law. Background would actually help with a lot of the public policy. Work and Area fights that you do well and I mean her relationship with Fred is really fascinating and something that I wish we knew more about because I think that's one of the most frustrating things about reading up on Phyllis is that you know that you're not learning about the real phyllis you know other stuff going on in the background because this is an image that she cultivated for political purposes whereas before she has this shift against feminism in the nineteen seventies. She talks about how during her early marriage with Fred like they would stay up until all hours just brainstorming and talking politics like they courted each other but through letters. Mailing each other Poetry and essentially like many policy. Briefs there were like a couple wonks. Yeah but she played it all down. In order to conform to a more palatable interesting submissive image that would fit into also sounds very house of cards e. Yeah which fit into this mold that could then elevate her to the platform that she ended up having witch in one thousand. Nine hundred eighty. She used her influence to successfully negotiate with the GOP to remove its pro e r a platform plank and this is when we finally see the Republican Party which previously had a lot of area supporters in it. It wasn't as conservative as it is today by a long shot. We finally see them turning. That corner as Reagan is about to take over exactly. Yeah exactly and June thirtieth nineteen eighty-two Phyllis holds a party because congressional deadline for states to ratify the ER expires. And they were what three states short of ratification and so from there. She's like cool box checked don now. Let's make sure that we hinder the fight for lgbtq rights for welfare for reproductive rights. Which of course she'd been harping on throughout her anti era. Kim even though she has a gay son. Oh Yeah in Nineteen ninety-two. Her Gay son was outed. I'm not a fan of people now. At all I understand the attraction to wanting to out Phyllis schlafly son but one of her sons who who lived at least at the time it was reported he was still living with Fred and Phillips and was still you know dedicated to the conservative cause. And Phyllis kind of had to hedge her love for her child and her versus her hatred for homosexuals in their agenda. Oh yes the homosexual agenda. Yeah which just imagine like up is there you know you can buy it at office depot. I get a SMOOTHIE. Yeah they now have an APP the agenda you can just have it on your phones like a calendar perfect yeah it's really colorful and she would continue though throughout the rest of her life to maintain that women were that privileged class and she offered advice on. Npr in two thousand fourteen to women saying just remember. American women are so fortunate. Oh yeah and I mean yeah I mean I guess relatively in the grand scheme of global privileges well. Her version of fortunate is that She always praises men right after. She says that we're so fortunate. Because we have all these brilliant men who invented all of this brilliant technology that allowed us to easily wash our clothes and we got disposable diapers and you have all these conveniences that I didn't have growing up and so- comparatively women are just so fortunate need just need to remember that don't victimize yourself and a few years earlier to the New York Times. She'd said feminism has changed the way women think and has changed the way men think but the trouble is it hasn't changed the attitude of babies at all and so that of course is hearkening to her whole. Feminism violates the laws of nature like babies better babies boy babies no that they should be little baby breadwinners babies knowing on some bread. And the funny thing that you know if you haven't picked up on the theme of this episode yet the funny thing that former now President Karen Crow pointed out in Nineteen eighty-one Wiz that no matter the words that came out of Phyllis schlafly mouth. She was a liberated woman and as decry says she sets out to do something and she does it to me. That's liberation. Oh Yeah and she also spotted the gender inequalities that feminism still seeks to uproot At one point in response to that really harsh blow that she took in one thousand nine hundred eighty seven when she lost her bid for the National Federation of Republican Women Presidency She said quote. The Republican Party is carried on the shoulders of the women. Who Do the work in the precincts? Ring doorbells distributing literature and doing all the tiresome repetitious campaign tasks. Many men in the party. Frankly WanNa keep the women doing the menial work like if that is not something that should then be followed fire statement of feminist support. I don't know what it is and that's the confounding thing about Phyllis schlafly up. She she encountered sexism. And you know she knew it was sexism. Because she's calling it out right there recognizing that here the women in the trenches doing all of us grassroots organizing that ultimately has revolutionized American political culture. Look Donald Trump today and yet she's saying but you know the dudes don't want to acknowledge it. They just want to keep us in the corner. Yeah Phyllis is far from stupid? Gilman is not dumb. She's incredibly brilliant and incredibly driven and she is just driven down a different path. Yeah I mean and and the moral of the story is a remember that women are not a monolith right. Smart Women are not a monolith You know and also as she always likes to say they never took me seriously like everyone always underestimated her when she was starting out in her a choice. Not An echo era when she was just on the fringes with this little group of Ultra Conservatives and she was like you know they didn't see what was coming and she's She's proud of that because she she kind of. Put One over on us because we were. We were so quick to. I think liberals were so quick to write off all of a sudden this. Who's this housewife and look what she did? She was a wolf in housewife clothing. Who like you said completely changed American politics and I think the final words we have to leave on our Phyllis schlafly talking to make her saying? I always thought I could do whatever I wanted to do. What's the problem and the what's the problem? Essentially she's asking that to society of where. Where's the sexism and that I can do what I wanted to do? And she did and I think it behooves us to not underestimate the ripple effect that this woman is still having and we'll continue to have so listeners caroline by the way is I think is going to have to recover from from this episode She's a lot of fathom and she's a she's disappointing really I mean she's she's a terribly disappointing woman to read about If you're sitting where we are so analysis we want to hear from you. What do you think about Phyllis schlafly her influence and her connection to Donald Trump today? And can we ever undo the damage done by Phyllis schlafly honestly? I think the answer is no but listeners. Perhaps you're less cynical. Deny let us know your thoughts. Mom stuff at how stuff works. Dot Com is our email address. You can also tweet us at mom stuff podcast or messages on facebook. And we've got a couple of messages to share with you when we come right back from a quick break okay. 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"Her mother wanted to stay home with the kids in the house and do the cooking and all about that stuff and be the traditional housewife. And so she's being raised with these ideas about traditional family and traditional politics and because of their financial situation at home. Phyllis realized that she was going to have to make her own way. It's not like Her parents could just pay for her to go to college and so she worked really hard. She was always at the top of her class. And in nineteen forty four. She received her bachelor's degree from Washington University. And in a makers interview. She talks about how she paid her way through college by working. She says forty eight hours a week as nightshift. Gunnar testing thirty and fifty caliber ammunition at a Saint Louis Munitions Plant and that is absolutely true. I mean she not only tested These guns she would also like document their trajectories and do all of this stuff which seems like again very appropriate resume item for someone who ended up leading right wing Republicans but also one thing we skipped over is that she graduated at nineteen right. She finished college in three years and graduated at nineteen like some people. Don't even enter college until nineteen like she was. I mean this woman was so driven and was from the outset not going to let anything stand in her way but at this point she doesn't necessarily want to go into politics. She ends up in nineteen forty five receiving her master's degree in political science from Radcliffe. Which was the sister university to Harvard at the time because while Harvard had started leading Some women from Radcliffe take colleges with Hoffman They wouldn't fully allow women into the school and apparently she ended up in Pali Sigh because it was one of the only things that she could study and do it at Harvard so she could do it in those mixed gender classrooms because it meant a lot to her to go to Harvard and Radcliffe. And if you listen to any interviews with her whenever she talks about her masters degree she loves talking about you know her bootstrapping of her education and she always says she went to Harvard but in fact her degrees from Radcliffe and I realized that that's kind of a minor detail but I think it's still says a lot about how she sort of adjusts her reality to fit this concept of a sexism free world that needs no feminism because as she would tell audiences usually of Filled with women. Well when I went to school there was no sexism. I had no trouble getting into college. I was able to study alongside. The boys know what these feminists. We're talking about one thousand nine hundred eighty five my blood pressure and yeah and and just as she didn't necessarily set out to be a poly SCI major she also did not set out to be a hyper conservative right wing Republican either. She was pretty moderate but she quickly shifted more conservative after she did face barriers and she would not admit necessarily that they were barriers. Used it more to illustrate that she was able to sort of shift course as needed and find her niche that allowed her to gain power to really become phyllis. Oh yeah definitely gain power for sure and Her Post College career path also hints as to why she has so much animosity toward big government because after she graduates from matriculated from Radcliffe. You know the war is ending and a lot of jobs are being reserved specifically for veterans most of whom are men so phyllis wants to get a job in the federal government. She's like I wanNA work on policy. This is my thing I got really into this police. Cy classwork and I'm good at it. She graduated at the top of her class but she couldn't find a job in the federal government because they were like no. We gotTA save these veterans. So big brother didn't allow Phyllis to fulfill her dream so she ends up at the far more conservative think-tank private think tank of the American Enterprise Institute. So I mean it's it's incredible to see all of these sign posts along the way. Yeah but like here's me you know ghost caroline who's not alive yet like no but Phyllis look at what you can fight. You can fight sexism that prevents women from going to the schools and getting the jobs they want but she wouldn't blame not getting that federal government job on sexism because they weren't telling her you couldn't get because you're a woman you couldn't get it because you're not a veteran so her I R- would be pointed toward the government. Okay well in nineteen forty nine. She Marries Fred. Fred Schlafly who is a devoutly Catholic and politically active lawyer. And what I what made me stop in? My tracks is a line about her wedding vows and this is a line that would be very much at home in an article about some. You know devout feminist getting married. Perhaps in the New York Times they write in the New York Times at the ceremony. Mrs Schlafly said she did not promise to obey only to cherish and that does not sound much like what she would say in her nineteen seventies anti our a campaign right. It was all about obeying Fred. Yeah because she was a housewife. Yeah and so this this this little bone that we keep picking up is the same bone that feminists have picked for decades because they say Phyllis Philly Schlafly schlafly laugh. Oh girl light peach laughs you. You are so active and driven on behalf of yourself basically and making sure that you get the opportunities that you want but what about all of the other women who does that sound like though who has similarly intense hair donald trump does a very as a very similar approach to this? Where your your D- reality is moves with the wind. Whatever you know best serves you at that time and we'll most elevate you then. Then that's truth that's your fact whether it is actually fact or not and she though Pece Laugh is essentially coated in Teflon. Yeah and it's kind of incredible to see how she does just constantly deflect any criticism and it seems like she. She enjoys receiving this criticism. Just I mean she's a total troll like run off of her she wants said she told The New York Times actually in two thousand six in the scale of liberal sins. Hypocrisy is the greatest. And they've always considered me a hypocrite and go on to say how she defends herself by saying you know. I never told women that they shouldn't or couldn't work outside the home quote. I simply didn't believe we need a constitutional amendment to protect women's rights. But did did she not advocate for housewives? Spe- that being the reality will. She certainly advocated for housewives but she would continually say well. I'm not telling you you have to be a housewife. I'm just saying that. We don't need to devalue housewives and that feminists are trying to undercut in destroy the role of housewives even though and this is a whole other podcast unto itself Caroline even though right before ole fill a sunkar claws into the equal rights amendment a woman. And I'm forgetting her name right now. Because I'm really worked up. A woman from the National Organization for Women started this relatively successful outreach feminist outreach to housewives and divorced women who suddenly found themselves you know not really knowing how to support themselves or not really know how to how to grapple with their personal politics and their domestic situation. So it's like so. That's another myth. Makes this mythology as she goes mythology. That still repeated definitely. Yeah that feminists want to destroy the home and destroy the family. Hi No many a feminist. Who has her own family and children even washes the dishes. I mean like the idea and you know. Of course. That's a silly thing to say. But my point being but like the idea that feminists are as like a Monolithic. Army are trying to destroy The family and the home I mean. It's it's insane but it's clearly ineffective tactic. It's clearly effective rhetoric. Oh yeah because it's all about stoking. Fear that is that's really the name of the game with all of this and one thousand nine hundred eighty two. She's just twenty seven years old when her political aspirations get a kick in the pants because a group of Republicans local Republicans come over to her and Fred's house. They come over to the shafts and they encourage Fred to run for Congress. Say there's an open seat in there like Fred. You're the guy you should do it in Fred's like listen. I'm not really interested and as the story goes at one point. One of these gentlemen jokingly says hey villas you should run and fills is like okay damn straight. I should run. And she's off from there. I mean she really seizes this opportunity and she runs and wins the primary which was huge but of course she loses in the general election. Yeah she was in a really democratic area way more liberal and I think she was against an incumbent to yes. She's yeah she was and we read that by the end of that race her opponent her democratic opponent was so livid with the rhetoric she used about him being this liberal monster that he would not even shake her hand. He was so mad at the stuff that she had stirred up about him and she wasn't even yet thirty already stirring that political pot and one thing. That's really interesting that was. We were reading about how her rhetoric and the way that she positioned herself as a woman in politics. Really sort of echoed The selfridge's and women in the progressive era who were in women's clubs part of the Women's Club Movement. Because you know remember back then women didn't have the vote so if they wanted to agitate and be activists for any causes and help women in any way each other they had to join these clubs and and band together for things like daycare Or other other causes that could potentially help families and their communities and so One thing that she had in common with those early women who were being political even if they could not be in politics was that she positioned herself as a woman who would clean up the dirty mess of politics and it needed cleaning up because it was run by men and so here she is positioning herself as I'm a woman and therefore with my natural womanly abilities I'll be a better candidate for you right. Because that was a suffragette argument of why we should have voting rights and political involvement because of the domesticity Victorian era idea of woman as the moral center of the hall right so let let the moral compasses and their vaginas. Come into the political process fellow so we can clean up after you. We also have to remember too that she was fiercely anti-communist and extremely hawkish on foreign policy to the point that she was like Joe McCarthy level and maybe even more so anticommunist and that's really where her focus resided for a long time well before she sets her sights on the era and even after that defeat though in one thousand nine hundred eighty two she gets up and keeps going. You can tell that this kind of lit a fire for her because she starts stumping around Illinois on behalf of the daughters of the American revolution that she remains super active and from nineteen fifty six to nineteen sixty four. She was President of the Illinois Federation of Republican Women. So you can see her. Starting to gradually rise through these organizational ranks. But now we're also seeing her diverted off sort of to the women's auxiliary side of things and in the meantime in nineteen fifty eight. She and Fred started the Cardinal Minds N. T. Foundation which was named for the Roman Catholic leader who had been tortured and imprisoned by Hungarian Communists in an effort to educate Catholics on the dangers of communism..
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Now on the iheartradio APP apple podcasts. Or wherever you podcast. Hey this is Anne and Samantha and welcome to stuff on never told you production of Iheartradio for today's classic. We are talking about them. That's come up a lot in the news lately and a couple of our recent podcast and that is Phyllis Schlafly schlafly. Somebody always struggle pronunciation of her name right. I feel like every time we talk about her. We do you think. I don't think those women he does how yes. Yeah I think her name is sir. No offense to any schlafly is out there. That are not like her but yeah because of the movement and continued debate around the equal rights amendments. She has been coming up a lot and in this month of International Women's Day or National Women's month thought that it was appropriate to bring her back in this very appropriately titled Episode Christening Carolina did pass host the ghost of Phyllis Schlafly. Because it feels like we're still dealing right. Her work is still haunting us. It very much is so yes I loved it. I loved it. Yeah please enjoy learn in this in this classic episode. Welcome to stuff. Mom Never told you from house. Works DOT COM Hello and welcome to the PODCAST. I'm Kristen and I'm caroline and today we are talking about Phyllis Schlafly. This episode has been a long time coming but ever since she died on September fifth twenty. Sixteen we'VE BEEN TALKING AMONGST OURSELVES CAROLINA. I about how we should do episode on Phyllis. We've heard from a number of listeners asking whether we're going to deal with. Phyllis schlafly episode. And how could we not? How could we not especially? After my twitter. Response to her passing Brought men out of the woodwork. To tell me that I was a monster. So what did you tweet? I tweeted as India Gif whereas Diaa was just going by and That was it and conservative. Gentlemen did not appreciate that and called me fat feminist Monster Ono. They called you fat. Isn't that the worst thing? A woman can be called totally. Did you even survive it? I don't know I don't know eating even more. Feminism EATING EATING. All the feminists yeah. Well it's also apropos. Talk about Schlafly. Because in a lot of ways she paved the way for Donald Trump being the republican nominee for president this year and I would argue that her star was definitely rising at the same time that the Republican Party was veering more toward the Reagan affiliation. You know Aligning with the religious right Then It previously had been. Yeah I mean that's how she made her name was definitely by essentially ushering helping usher. What was this fringe right? Wing Group of Republicans. Sort of like we think of the tea party today in to the mainstream because for a long time they were just sort of off in the corner and not really taken all that seriously but then as will talk about more. Phyllis schlafly showed America that these right wing conservatives could win in the polls but I don't WanNa get too ahead of ourselves. Let's talk a little bit more about who this woman is. Because for I I feel like you either absolutely know who she is. Because she's the arch nemesis of second wave. Feminism or. You probably never heard of her. So let's give a quick primer of who the Schlafly who's Schlafly lady is. Who's this dame? Well I mean you're right. She's absolutely considered one of the most polarizing figures in American public political life. And she's basically I don't know what would you. She's an author. She's a politician to a degree And she is best known for her war against the equal rights amendment in the Nineteen Seventies. Yeah I mean she's a grassroots conservative political organizer who is now considered an icon among ultra right-wing Republicans Donald Trump included and. We read her obituary in both the New York Times. Obviously more liberal some might call it the lame stream media if they're schlafly fans and then we read her in the National Review which is ultra conservative of course and the New York Times described her as quote a self-described housewife who displayed a moral ferocity reminiscent of the axe wielding prohibitionist. Carrie nation says he's a tough cookie. Real stuff cookie And then the national review described her meanwhile as one of the original Happy Warriors Funny Gracious and Grittier. Than One might expect. And it's astonishing to trace back our political climate today and everything that we are now witnessing in terms of Donald Trump's supporters and the types of white dudes who came after you on twitter for instance and trace at all way back to this woman in the Mid West who in a lot of ways started out almost like Hillary Clinton. She was from a relatively like working class background. Although Hillary Clinton came from a slightly wealthier middle class family but schlafly you know it was scrappy and she was and she was ambitious and then any similarity she might have to. Hillary Clinton just ends right there. Well yeah and I mean. They both initially supported. Barry Goldwater to ultra before before a hills went the other direction. But yeah and I mean you can look at the the fact that Nowadays Catholics and Evangelical Christians worked together when they are on the right You can trace that back to Phyllis Schlafly as well. She was Catholic. devoutly Catholic. But through. And we'll get to this more in a second. But like through all of her grassroots efforts she brought more women of different faiths and different denominations into the political fold to try to combat this sort of what she viewed as liberalisation the downfall of American society and in a lot of ways. She is a difficult woman. She summarize because she's kind of a basket of contradictions because she is this very ambitious self sufficient woman and a lot of ways who said that from the get go and she was growing up. She knew that she would need to take care of herself. And in her political career she was extremely Visible she wrote twenty books. I mean the woman never stopped and yet publicly. She always said that she was a housewife. I and politics was just a hobby because she has six children home and her husband. Fred Schlafly is king essentially and she does whatever he allows her to do even though like in the same breath. You'll also say you know but I can do whatever I want And she relished starting this organization called stop. Era which was intended to stop the equal rights amendment. Well Yeah and stop was actually an acronym for stop taking our privileges. Which is what I learned about that. Acronym was also my brain exploded a little bit about just how. How blatant the intention is right. There of privileges stop taking our privileges. Because I mean Phyllis Schlafly we'd be like yeah I mean I love. White privilege is terrific. Yeah I When I was researching her life and activism and politics my brain just kept collapsing on itself because to me as a liberal feminist and one who cares about having equal rights for people of all backgrounds. None of it made sense. Because I'm like why would you want to stop the era a when? Oh wait no but you only one the privileges for you and yours. Well okay so I was. I take back what I say that she would. She would be all about her white privilege because what Phyllis Schlafly did and Donald Trump does. She deny that privilege even exist. Oh well sure in the same way that she denies that denied that sexism even exists. Well privilege in the way that we talk about it now and on our podcast but I mean she actively talked about the privileges afforded to women right in the sense of chivalry almost right yes so her latest book a conservative case for trump came out just after her death and she describes in it trump as a quote old fashioned man grounded in his two great priorities hard work and family and a man who in other respects has led a remarkably clean life. Okay so I mean this is. This is the the viewpoint that we're dealing with. This is the kind of it. Choose your own reality that Phyllis Schlafly was able to mold into a startlingly powerful career for herself and it makes sense that right before her death. At Ninety two years old she came out stumping for trump. Because she was all about populism. She was all about demagoguery and she was all about. You know galvanizing this hyper conservative. Evangelical religious right that has similarly flocked to trump well and Regardless of weather you as the politician she was stumping for were hyper Republican or whatever. She just hated the establishment right. That's like some of the same rhetoric you hear a lot right now. And and she saw trump as an answer to those establishment politics and she was really. She harped for decades on kingmakers. The idea of like a secret group of rich liberal elite kingmakers who sat around a pointing politicians around the world. Yeah I mean 'cause that right. There is a core tenet of populism where their belief is that almost conspiratorially that it's just a group of powerful people who are making all the decisions so power to the people let's overthrow them and she told Breitbart in January of this year twenty sixteen that quote trump is the only hope to defeat the kingmakers because everybody else will fall in line so I mean she really believed in this kingmaker business to her death and I mean that's that's all also something to keep in mind as we talk about Phyllis Schlafly and something that was impressed upon me reading about her time. Line is how she has not changed in her political viewpoints. At all. She's still tells the same anecdotes that she did. You know in the sixties. So how did Phyllis happen? well let's give a little bit of biographical background real quick. She was born in August. Nineteen twenty four as Phyllis McAlpine Stewart in Saint Louis I did have a moment of concern because a lot of people are from Saint Louis and I did wonder like Oh. She came up in St Louis around the same time as my grandmother wonder if they were friends. She was the oldest of two daughters to odeal dodge. Who was her mother? And John Bruce Stewart. And what's really interesting is that I mean by all accounts. Her mother was also a very hard worker. She worked outside the home. She was a teacher with two college degrees. And that's not too shabby at all for a woman who was born at the end of the nineteenth century. Her mother not phyllis right I mean and odeal ended up being the breadwinner because her dad John Bruce Stewart was a westinghouse machinist and an industrial equipment salesman and after he lost his job in the Great Depression. Odeal had to become the breadwinner and she hustled. She was a department store saleswoman. She was an elementary school teacher. And a librarian at Saint Louis Art Museum and in her spare time how she had spare time. I'm not sure. She wrote a book on the history of Saint. Louis Yeah so like the constantly. Busy Work Work Work Ethic. Phyllis schlafly could absolutely be seen in her mother as well but and also her politics though. Come Straight from her dad. Her Dad was seventeen years older than odeal. Which is going to be a similar age gap that will see and Phyllis schlafly his own marriage and her. Dad was a staunch Republican. Who even though? They fell in such hard times during the Great Depression he hated FDR and hated the new deal and wanted nothing to do with that and so from a very young age. Phyllis was groomed to be a very conservative Republican. Yeah and I think that there's also the emotional aspect of yes. She had a really smart really hardworking really busy mother but she also grew up in addition to hearing her father. Rail against the new deal heard her mother being filled with regret at having to work those jobs..
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"S. 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retirement plans yeah you can't you can't do it and just said it so when a life is going to happen really if you if you build a well done retirement plan who got a great retirement plan is not going to be major things that I have to change okay however leaf happens light market change inflation changes tax laws change if you're married they could be a death of one's wealth health changes so you know what I always find in the first couple years of retirement budgets change somewhat so those are things that that we always want to be proactive not reactive we want to learn about that ahead of time verses after the fact we have less choices so again a well designed and is going to be solid enough to always have the answers to those questions were liquid in fluent enough as things change we can make modifications so we always want to see our clients and this silly into retirement at least every six months and then you know as things go along at least once a year certainly when things change so that we can look you know just talk about changes in their life changes in real time of what's actually going on like this year of social security the cost of living only went up one point six percent last year was higher you know how does that impact people's retirement plans things like that well let's talk about how things like in in the house things like inflation can impact our savings over time I gotta tell you Phyllis talking my grandpa the other day and he he and my grandma paid twelve thousand dollars for their first house now to me is it yeah and they he still lives in that house my grandma passed away a few years ago but grandpa is still there and that house is now worth about a hundred and seventy thousand dollars right right that's a price that he couldn't have imagined all of those years ago back in the fifties when he bought this house is it never crossed his mind that he would own a house that was worth that much and my cousins and I were talking about oh my gosh what will her houses be worth in thirty years from now forty years from now talk about the impact inflation can have no of course of we were not having a mortgage for buying a home a you know in in dealing with that cost but Phil is the cost of everything's gonna keep going up and up that's just one example of of how it happened so far exactly is only people don't consider that because usually get some type of rays well you were right right and they're not considering that in in retirement necessarily but if you just take of what they say it and I dispute this of many levels the average rate of return I mean of information as three percent okay in twenty four years you're gonna need two dollars for every one dollar that you need to the house so yes so if you need five thousand dollars and in retirement a month twenty four years from now you're going to need ten thousand and though people say to me well yeah but I would be spending less later on well not if you need more health care you will okay yeah not as taxes go up so inflation really without a plan for it can road Simmons retirement significantly we can't put our finger on exactly what that number is going to be but we you know we really want to pay attention to that and do the best that we can leave wiggle room in a plan for those years that inflation's a little bit higher or maybe have higher healthcare costs of healthcare inflation certainly a lot higher than other types of inflation these different types of inflation that you have to consider but very very very important to make sure the your plan is inflation adjusted so let's talk a little bit about how we can do that I mean Phyllis can can we save enough so that way we can negate the impacts of inflation or do we have to think about some other tools and strategies to go along with saving enough so absolutely saving saving a lot certainly is going to help you have more to invest the right way in retirement to be a hedge against inflation two different families could have the same retirement needs one family could have considerably more saved but not take into account inflation not take into account the taxation of them money not have too much risk on their plate go into a a market downturn and end all end up worse off than a couple who saved laughs but has a time segmented inflation adjusted taps official retirement plan then they could feasibly I can make the case in real numbers be better off with less savings because they have things in the right places the right wrist owns the right tax situation inflation adjusted income planning done they can be better off in that scenario so it's not necessarily you gotta do the savings you gotta do the heavy lifting right okay again I'm not Houdini if you haven't saved at least two hundred fifty thousand dollars or more for retirement it's really hard to put things in place but that number which so many people think having that big number isn't the end all be all it's what you do with that number in retirement because again remember all the rules and tools change as you start transitioning into retirement that's why I really urge you even if you're within fifteen years for every time and you know you're not gonna have a pension plan pick up the phone one in for retire fitted else's certainly if you're ten years and you've done that be lifting you started accumulating money or if your ten years you know already retired pick up the phone and call us for their retire fit analysis here's what we're gonna do we're gonna answer those nagging questions in the back of your mind we're going to take what you want your retirement to look like and we're going to break down real numbers with the real facts to back it up exactly where you are in relationship to that are there any gaps if they are they're gonna be loud and clear and then at that point in time we can take an approach to show you the best way to remove those gaps in your retirement plan that's the retire fit analysis that we offer each and every week for those of you who are dedicated savers who done some heavy lifting and the number to call for that is six two three seven nine to fifty four ninety six now remember this is no obligation I don't know if I can help you I don't you don't know if you want my help but we will certainly part friends either way and its complementary there's no fee in its complementary the number to call is six two three seven nine two fifty four ninety six Phyllis sex bill Venus is founder and president of PSP and associates I am generous act along side in the studio Phyllis the other thing we need to think about aside from just what inflation can potentially do to our savings things like health care can potentially run us through a wringer as well according to fidelity the average couple can expect to spend more than two hundred eighty five thousand dollars on out of pocket healthcare expenses in retirement so what do we need to know about preparing for health care costs in retirement is not while two hundred thousand right yeah okay so what they're talking about there in that article a normal health care expenses like the.
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"Website if you'd like to learn a little bit more and Phyllis or one tell yeah I found this bank rate survey I read this bakery survey that said fifty six percent of Americans admit that neglecting their savings is the thing they regret the most so I wonder how you help people avoid this and figure out how much they need to save for retirement so Jan the first thing that I would say is you may regret the most that you're taking your free time reading based on a link well fine yeah we we do run a run among you know come across people who regret that they haven't saved more okay and that's he clearly becoming the case today where most people don't have pensions are they have very small pensions right and that's why you know for years and years and years of retirement read so there's always been ten years before retirement ten years after but I gotta tell you even if you're fifteen years out certainly ten years I'll you really want to sit down with someone like us or us in and start painting that picture of what your retirement would look like put a price tag on that and then back into it to see how much you really need to be saving in the most tax efficient way well how we help people is basically that we look at it what do they want their lifestyle to be what what's inflation look like where it is saving them money what's the what's the tax consequences of that and then we back into a we come up with a number and then help them to figure out the best way to save like so for young people boy you know if you're I say young now I'm sixty so for a few few fifty year pretty hot issue of forty five you but the point is we want to get as much tax free strategies as we possibly can help you get will it be Ross on your own whether the other tax free strategies but but we really want to look at not only how much are you saving but where are you saving enough how much risk are you taking on that money so will sit down with you and and help you paint that picture realistic picture of what you want your retirement to look like and then back into it you know tell you how much you should be saving to reach that number but not just a wrong number not taking the taxes into account regulation will throw all that and that's what I retire fit analysis does and that's a great reason for you to pick up the phone and call us at six two three seven nine to fifty four ninety six again six two three seven nine to fifty four ninety six even for those of you I always say you know to create a retirement plan you've got to have at least two hundred and fifty thousand dollars or more for retirement to get that plan in place however if we're still working on getting that plan as long as you're saving you know a considerable amount of money pick up the phone calls even if it isn't that two fifty because if you've got time on your side in your discipline savers we can help you make sure that you're saving that in the right direction to get the right outcome the most tax efficient way the the the right wrist tolerance for you and you know what that's all important stuff so that when you get to retirement we have the pieces in place to put that complete plan together so pick up the.
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"Fatal says is a stew of simmering during warm owns shifting relationships and increased expectations. It is also a time of massive confusion and overwhelm home both for middle school boys and their parents. Today we are talking with Phyllis Fagel parent counselor and author third of Middle. School matters the ten key skills. Kids need to thrive in middle school and Beyond and how parents can help welcome. Welcome Phyllis thanks for having me today. We should mention that you are not just an author. You are not just a school counselor. You are in the trenches with the rest of US parenting teens and a middle schooler. I believe yet I'm on my middle school number three. He's my last to go through. He's in sixth grade now. So does it get easier. I think third children in general are easier because they have to go through through a gentler way they just sort of know that everyone is tired and they tend to be more easy going. I could have just gotten lucky. He but he seems to be a pretty chill middle score. I think that third and fourth children might be a little easier partly because we have lowered our expectations -tations dramatically. You know you know a lot more now about what is reasonable to expect from a middle school boy than you did. When you started this journey journey at one hundred percent true so middle school boys one of the most fascinating things to me as a pair of Boyce voice has been the insight into what middle school boys are really thinking about and how I perceived middle school boys say when I was in seventh grade? You work with a lot of boys. I know you facilitate boys group so share with us. What have you learned what is on the minds of middle school boys? I think the misconception about middle school boys. That's most prevalent is that they're really immature that their ears they're not interested in unloading the psychological burdens that they're grappling with and that they had here and enjoy adhering to a lot out of the gender stereotypes that we hold about boys and one thing. That's calm clear over the years particularly through the boys group which has been a safe space for them To admit what they're really thinking about and what they really care about is bad. Boys very much wanted to connect with their friends. They very much want you have meaningful bonds. Where they can confide in their friends and know that they can trust their friends they really want to be able to be their authentic selves in? That might mean they really like school and they really don't like sports courts. I think another misconception is that they don't worry about things like body image. What I've found over the years and I think social media is in part responsible responsible for this is that boys are getting subjected to all of these unrealistic images about who they should be in what they should look like and I'm hearing more from boys about body and security? I think that whole body image issue is so tough for boys in middle school because they're such a drastic range. I've gone to middle school basketball ballgames and some of those kids are shaving and have full mustaches. And then there was like my kid at that point in time who still looked like he was in third great but he was actually in seventh grade. Yeah then what makes it even harder is. You're suddenly in a new developmental phase where you're acutely aware of exactly how you stock doc up to everybody around you so a year earlier you might not have cared that you are half the height of the kid standing next to you on the bleachers during the chorus concert but suddenly all you can think about is what if I never grow. What if I'm the shortest person on the planet for the rest of my life and that matters in a way that it didn't matter before And and you are very aware of other people and you're starting to help other people like you and when all the images you see are of these very attractive attractive very mature men. That's tough yeah and then on top of all of that. They're starting to get interested in romantic relationships chips. So they're more aware of how they stack up to their peers. In terms of their level of attractiveness to whatever gender they happened to be attracted to but that also so come into play at this age. And how do we as parents support them. We can reassure you're gonNA grow you. Will you know oh you will. By the time you graduate from high school you will probably be shaving but as you say in the meantime so I think that very well meaning instinct is to reassure them that their time will come and that they will become taller and that this is a short-lived phenomenon and that they're great and perfect just the way they are but that invalidates where they're coming from and so more effective approach for helping them feel better is to say. I felt like the shortest kid and the clash. That would bother me too and I can understand why this is troublesome for you and then tell them perhaps. There's a story story of someone else in the family. He was a late bloomer. Who started out really short you now you know Ankle Bob is six four but also reassuring them that whatever or they are? We'll be good enough and that's really what they're looking for. Not for you so much to say you're going to be this high or that hike but just to let them know especially at an age when they're forming their identity. I'm trying to figure out if they're good enough to really reassure them that they're perfect just as they are that. Am I good enough question. You write in. Your book is a AAC core question for all middle schoolers boys and girls. But I think it's something that's really important for us as parents and educators grandparents to to keep in mind that these kids are looking all around them for reassurance. Basically that they're okay. Yes and with boys the way they tried to you get that reassurance can sometimes seem Veer toward the obnoxious. So they might yell something out. That's an appropriate. They might push someone together right. Hey that's been. They might use humor in ways that others think are rude and so we have to also remember that while they're trying to figure out if they're good enough and they're doing everything they can to make sure they're good enough and funny enough and well like you're not they also are lacking and skills and we have to cut them a lot of slack as they are developing those skills else we have to dig into this obnoxious part. Having lived with four boys I am acutely familiar with what you're talking about and you wrote a few things in in your book that just cracked me up. In one sentence you wrote a mature eighth grade. Boy May baffle his parents by sticking his head in a toilet for fun on social media And I was sitting in a public place that I just burst out laughing because yes boy mobs especially this does not make sense to you us. How break this down help explain it and how do we know like should I worry about this? Should I let this happen. How do respond so I completely understand that as a boy mom myself they are capable of doing things that are battling one of the other stories I share in? The book is about a kid. Kid who four or five for shock value started exchanging pictures with a friend on on his same sports team of his private parts parts and they were just moving around. It wasn't sexual. It was just silly and then the mom was spot checking his own team across a bunch of pictures of her kids kids private parts and some other kids private parts and was like what is best. She just really couldn't make heads or tails of that but felt he had gone too far. Lauren knew that there was some teaching that had to happen. Related to to what they were doing to expose themselves in that way and permanent and all of that so it's impossible for us as adults who are rational logical thinkers. Choose to view something like most of the time or we try. We like to think of ourselves that way. It's hard for us to see something like that and make sense of it. But if you're a bad boy and you think it's really hilarious. Then you're going to want to do more of it. You might even want to send it to like some other people so other people can appreciate how funny you are. Yeah because it's really funny. No I just shared this story the other day with a group I was talking to my son. And although maybe don't turn me in Tom for sharing this story other than to your podcast listeners. So he came home and he said I want to tell you something but I'm afraid that if I tell you then you you will never get me a phone and I said well. I'm never getting your phone anyway. So you may as well tell me this story and he said well. Here's what my what happened between a couple of my friends. And he shared this story of it with a story about an hour and a girl and the boy had asked the girl to send him a picture. Sure without her shirt on and they kind of knew better and I guess they decided to include the keeney top so it wasn't quite as scandalous uh-huh and they loved each other. 'cause they're sixth graders and it's true love so she sent the picture and then they thought it would be really funny. The the two of them together totally consensual totally in good fun. Thought it would be really funny to doctor the picture and give her a porn star beads. Oh and yeah. Yeah and so when they did that then they were even more amused by their extreme creativity and it was hilarious and because it was hilarious area decided to send it to the forty five students boys and girls in their shared kept. Yeah Oh and it actually gets worse believe it or not but the way it gets worse I think says so much about boys and how they love hard and they care hurt and they mean well and they're just making some blenders along the way. So what next is the kids in this text. Groups didn't give them the reaction that they wanted there. Is this kind of stunned silence. Yes you know sort of a dude. What are you thinking? At which point the girl was no longer happy with the decision and the boy was feeling bad that she wasn't feeling good about it so he did the most logical rational reasonable caring loving thing he could possibly do which was to host a doctor picture of himself. Oh boy oh it makes sense in like Sandler and boy world right right. It made a lot of sense to him and it was it was loving. It was really caring. And he's so bad that she was embarrassed and he didn't want her to feel alone so he did the same thing and of course his gesture was met with the exact same response as hers. Only at this point I think a mother who was monitoring somebody somebody in that group chops tax. Shut the thing down and that was the end of it but what I love about that story that it reveals so much about boys at this age you know. Are they love hard. They care her they mean well they WANNA be funny. They wanted he like they want to connect to and impress but they don't really have that skill L. set to pull it off in a way that doesn't sometimes occasionally result in humiliation and embarrassment and odd shock on the part of the parents right that that story also reveals to me why parenting these children is so challenging because when we put our lens on that without talking to the children we can get a whole different narrative out of that and if we start reacting based on that then we create eight misunderstanding and distance in anger and that's problematic and then the other thing that makes me think about in your book you used the term hinge generation a hinge generation to describe this generation of boys. And.
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"phyllis" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM
"With Phyllis thanks so much for joining us today I am generous act happy to be here a long side Phyllis expo Venus she's founder and president of PSP and associates author of the bestselling book creating a calm amidst the storm and I'm so glad to have her here in studio today Phyllis in these numbers see are pretty shocking eighty percent of men die married eighty percent of women die single how does the fact that most women will outlive their husbands impacts planning for retirement well I mean I've been doing this a long time and I will tell you those numbers are not as shocking to me unfortunately yeah that's typically the way that it goes and I hope ladies out there the married a long time and and the role of the husband has been to take care of the finances and you're not so concerned about it because he does a great job I hope when he comes to you and many husbands do and says look I want you to understand this I want to go to Phyllis because I want her to be able to explain it listen listen to it yeah I know the inclination that I've been married thirty six years is don't listen but listen when he says that because it's important things really change in it and you know if you're not aware of it if you if you're not it is it's just that much scary and I gotta tell you I come from a very personal space in this I've talked about my situation why I really got into this niche a number of times on the radio but very personal because at fifty nine my mom became a widow my dad died instantly in a car accident in their relationship was like so many married people he did the finances you know he did the the planning for retirement and she did the house she did a great job he did a great job they have a great marriage but she didn't know much about it she was afraid now truth be told I did it with him because that's my line and we were very close but well my dad passed away she didn't want to be a burden to me I was taking some time off of my career to raise my children and she didn't want to bother me that was the last thing she wanted to do and so my mom tried her hand at trying to figure out how to win Vester money how to make it last the rest of her life how to provide get an income and it was scary people came out of the woodwork people trying to help her but talking about things you've never heard of before and it was that much more daunting because she had no real basis for understanding so I'm here to tell you the slave look this is not rocket science if you and your husband or if you're single if you've done the heavy lifting and you've saved money for retirement how you invest it yes it's a mindset that just when you got to pay attention you know to to the processes but it's not rocket science and what we do best because this is so personal for me because I could still see the pain in my mom's eyes it is we break it down into bite size pieces and and I'll let you in on a little secret it's not it's not just foreign for that person who becomes a window right away it's farm for everybody who goes from the accumulation phase to the preservation phase the retirement phase we all should go through the process of breaking it down into bite size pieces and that's what we do all the time every day all day long we help people go through that process to retire fit in Alice this is all about figuring out what it's going to cost you to retire in the style that you want to and then figuring out based upon what you save whether that's realistic and a keen you in to why it may be why it may not be and how you can make choices to get in line with where you want to be in retirement it's not that difficult when we break it down into bite size pieces but I'm gonna tell you it is so much more comfortable while you know in the case of a married couple well you're both alive to make these decisions together and be able to process it be it it is that much harder so windows especially when they've never handled it before and they don't know who to trust and they don't know what to ask and they've always kind of put it to the side so gosh if you're listening to this and your they married a long time in and your spouse is the one who really is instrumental in you know doing the planning please take it from my personal experience pick up the phone and call us right now for retire fit analysis be one of the first five calls will get you in quickly if it's after if you're the the six the Ron was still going to get you in but it may take a while so be patient I promise you'll be time well spent we'll go from soup to nuts about what you need to know to be retirement ready so that number to call is six two three seven nine to fifty four ninety six again six two three seven nine to fifty four ninety six remember this is a complementary meeting we call it our discovery meeting we're going to sit down and talk about what you want accomplished in retirement with you already retired or you're about to transition into retirement 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"phyllis" Discussed on New Jersey 101.5
"Hi how are you guys okay Phyllis I totally think they need to be removed as soon as possible go on I I would just like to know how ridiculous it was one of their family members that was sexually assaulted yeah you know I don't know how they divorced themselves from that it's the same I feel it's almost the same I feel Phyllis when when you have defense lawyers and I know in this country you you were owed a defense attorney I you know I get it but I don't know how a judge lives with themselves saying a thing like what bill just read it ended up right and then balancing that against your own fat you know even if you don't have a daughter certainly maybe you have a sister you have a cousin you have somebody that you love well yeah I have a mother you have a mother right yeah yeah I don't get it I do not understand how anybody could say comments like this and then the other one in the other case that James Tran judge he was also saying that well this was not like your typical rape case well again what it's got to be blood and smash teeth and a little dark alley right yeah that's what he's talking about yeah Phyllis thank your call and I'm sorry actually most rape cases I believe are exactly what is alleged here just wasn't bad enough I guess right most rape cases are going to be you know maybe there was some drinking involved so what if somebody's not consenting if somebody is saying no maybe there was some force maybe it's not always excessive force these are probably the majority of the cases exactly like these alleged rape cases in yeah they should have been an adult court Bob Mantua you're in New Jersey one one point five good afternoon general and about Bob what do you think judges should be goal on and so should Murphy this guy started out his career right off the bat being governor what a sexual problem in within its own come regular people and praises guy a game a cabinet post and so good poor volunteer to help them and basically told her Hey yeah xplornet she ended the game you know edge every time there's something comes up sexual Murphy goes for forty people who are committing the offenses never forget for the victims maybe somewhere sooner or later somebody a pop up with the answer to discard the per room so well well Bob I would mostly agree with that as far as him backing these people but but that but there's one thing you're leaving out if they are beholden to the Democratic Party it seems that's the difference I mean like short Troiano I was reading his background in a New York times article and he was nominated going back to James Florio yeah yeah so he was like heavily involved in partisan politics this this particular judge he was a Florio guy but when it's a guy like Brad Cavanaugh nodes then then all of a sudden he's going to try to vilify yeah and governor Murphy did I mean the earliest administration said that this you know this is gonna be different with him at the they will believe the women that they will be heard and now he's in all I'm troubled by these judges when everybody else was whatever because but the majority status single this is ridiculous to have to get out of there and the guy who actually do something about it since what kind of trouble I'm troubled about it yeah yeah I'm more than troubled is dancing around it all right we'll we'll take a break and will we'll come back and and get more of your opinions on this you've got to judges who said some really disturbing things about teenagers and the alleged rape cases and do you think that this was taken so lightly that these judges ought to be kicked off the bench one eight hundred two eight three one one point five it's four thirty time for the news.