35 Burst results for "Phobia"
A Critique of Dallas Buyer's Club
"Let's. Let's Talk About Dallas Buyers Club. I first and foremost all the triggers. Goddamn because everything you thought you knew about this movie you were right and then there's more. There's The the TRANSPHOBIA is there from the characters. It's enacted characters but it's also just that kind of trans-phobia where it's tucked under. Oh, it's actually homophobia but that's because they don't know what to do with someone who presents in a way that is not stereotypical. To one gender or another. and. Yes. So look up triggers for this movie. There are so many that I don't even feel like sitting down and listing them but look them up before you continue to consume this podcast and before you decide to watch that movie. That said, had you either? Have you seen this movie before we went to the podcast first time? For a first time on that radio to. See what I did there. On brand very unbranded. Yeah. It was my first time too. I definitely knew it. As you said, for all the reasons that I knew, and then there were more reasons that I was glad I did until now. Oh Yeah so This movie I have to say because I tried to as much as I'm trashing it as much as I'm like Oh this all this I really wanted to like this movie I went in wanting to like it I remember talking to a friend about this movie because I refused to see it. So I was like, why are people praising jared leto wire people praising his portrayal of Now, I can't remember the name of Rayon why and I actually had to coax it out of a friend because. This was a friend that I respected their opinion on and they basically said they were like, well, you don't actually want to know you wanna be mad and it's like, no I respect your opinion i. am asking you why people care what is it about this helped me and what this friend said to me was that the portrayal of someone who is going through a having aids being HIV positive and then having AIDS, and then dying from another disease which. It, it was the thing that really drew this friend of mine into the character and into the world of this film and as much as. We are going to talk about a lot of the specifics now having watched it. I respect that opinion. Even though I did not get the same thing from this movie. At least from from Rayon and that's really mean I also did not grow up like I grew up as a child during the AIDS crisis I did not know a lot going on but at the same time. The movie in my opinion the movie itself. Didn't do a great job with ray on. But I really dug the way that they dealt with. Woodruff Matthew. mcconaughey character in the first act. Yeah To to. Put My cards on the table for we continue. To very specific misconceptions or like nervous conceptions but two very specific things that we're going to my mind when I started watching the movie. Deborah really softened a lot of it for me, which was one. The last movie that I've seen that was in relation to the AIDS crisis was the film adaptation of Rent. which was the worst movie that's life. I it's just. Sorry And the others conception is that I didn't realize that it was made in twenty thirteen I thought like watching it. It felt like it was like an early two thousands movie in house can be like well. Okay like Even. The Straits don't really get chanced stuff I. It was like a good attempts to try to like bring more color to the table metaphorically speaking. But it's a twenty thirteen. I don't know like. I mean at times article didn't come out yet. It's just it's just weirder and it's also like. That film strikes very early two thousands and I'm not like sinophile so I could be completely dead wrong on this, but it just felt. Like You know way older movie than it actually ended up being. So. And that. Up Sorry and then I guess the third conception. Sorry. The secret third one was that I actually was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt because as soon as I found out that it was like historical like a history piece because runway was a real person. As like, Oh, well then you know if they had to deal with a real life trans person like they're they're dead in the water like you know they're not going to handle that well. But no round is is a real. She was made for the movie. So cool. Great. Love that for us. So. Yeah. I wonder because Silas one of the things that you had mentioned that you had focused on when talking about the movie was a lot more of a real life historical things that were going on and about the real life of what was happening. Can you talk a little bit about that? Yes so Aside, from knowing about, you know sort of the kerfluffle about jared leto playing the part and hearing a little bit about that when the movie came out the other thing that I really had a bee in my bonnet about is the fact that Ron Woodruff was not straight. And he did talk about long clearly had some stuff but. They just. Changed him to be straight and altered his character quite a bit and watching it. It's so clear to me that they were like, how do we make this the straight male hero anti hero type that the straight people will come see the movie for? And so that to me like before, we even get to any issues of transphobia homophobia of that in the Bi phobia that really just made me now it becomes this sort of like. The straight guy in the hero of a crisis that you know certainly straight people and all people belong to this lots of. It was but it was primarily focused on the queer. Community. And sort of start off before you even have a chance to give the film the benefit of the doubt with that erasure just really for me. Through me completely out of it it was I wasn't able to come to the film really with. A kind of the I at that point.
Pleasure, Sex, and Body Acceptance with Dawn Serra
"Sarah. So. Tell me about your relationship with food growing up. Looking back. It feels much different than when I was in it. I remember for a while food was something that I didn't really have to think about, but there was a point when I was around ten years old I think maybe. Around that age when I noticed that. My body was starting to get compared to my little sisters and I started getting monitored for how much I was eating. And questions like should you really be eating that you're still hungry? I think you've had enough and it just kind of became normal for that monitoring, and I think that was also around the time when I started realizing like if I wanna eat the foods that I'm interested in eating I have to do it when no one can see. Because those were the foods that were policed. You were your police for eating, right? Yeah, and it was also interesting because like my mom is very much a a meat and potatoes, kind of person, her parents were to from the Midwest and and so growing up, we had very few fresh vegetables in the house very few and fruit every once in a while, but it was very like meat and potatoes, and then like convenience foods because both of my parents worked a lot in. So cereals and chips and all that kind of stuff, and it was interesting because there just came a point when I noticed that my sister was allowed to eat whatever she wanted and I wasn't. Yeah, and we're so that came from body comparisons. It sounds like, yeah, and the other message that I got just kind of around the body was that my sister had the same body as my mom, which was they were just naturally, very, very slender and that I had my dad's body, and while the message is about my body weren't specific to me I, did hear lots of stories around how sad and unhappy and unpopular and isolated. My Dad was because he was chunky. And you know in the same breath, it's like you've got your father's body and so that definitely also made an impression of like my sister looks like my mom and I look like my dad and my mom had the super popular lots of friends experience in the seventies, and my dad was like really lonely and hated being chunky. That was the word that they would use and I was like him. God what a message to get. Yes It's like, yeah, I feel like parents don't recognize, and this is one aspect of the fat phobia that's so pervasive in our culture. Right? Is like that sort of message. This is not even questioned. That's not even considered like that message might be harmful to you, right. Yeah exactly, and I didn't really even have words for it until fairly recently, it was just my normal and then when I really started thinking, where did some of these feelings come from and where did some of these stories and wended start? Kind of like Oh remembering the policing and the comments and the and the restriction and all that stuff That's interesting. So you said that was around what age? Like nine, ten years old. Yeah. So right before puberty, right? The sort of tween years. Yep. Exactly. And how did it evolve from there? I have this very. Crystal clear memory of going shopping for clothes for the sixth grade. And so is going to be at a brand new middle school was going to be new with all the graders and I was super excited to go shopping at this really popular clothing store. and. We picked out. It was my both my parents were with me and we picked all these things that I was excited to try on and I got into the fitting room and the size that we had didn't fit. And so I just kind of was like, Hey, I need a bigger size. And what I heard from inside the dressing, room was my dad screaming Jesus, Christ? She's that's that s oh, God and I. Don't think he knows that I heard that. But in that moment, like every part of me, that was excited about getting closed died and you know words like Oh. You're an early developer. You're the first in your class to need a Bra. You know all that kind of stuff and what's really interesting to me is looking back. When I look at pictures of myself. Now, when I was fifth sixth Seventh Eighth Grade I was certainly larger than my classmates, but there was no part of me whatsoever. That was even remotely close to what I would label fat as a distributor. And that makes me sad to think about that that the messages were that I was. Terrible and so much bigger than everybody else. But when I look at the pictures now,
Trump wants to ban Tik Tok
"Actually let's talk a little bit about Tick Tock today I performed this morning. An Act of rebellion. I downloaded installation talk on my iphone because who knows how much longer I'll be able to do it it's very confusing I don't know what's going on. Tick Tock, which is owned by the Chinese company Bite Dance Safest that committee. Or foreign investment in the United. States apparently is investigating I. Think they actually issued a ruling saying that like, wow away tick tock was a threat to the United States One of the ways tiktok became really big as by acquiring a couple years ago musically, which is really I think from what I see on. tiktok kind of the backbone of what Tick Tock is these days, which is lip synching or acting or dancing to an original track It's it's very entertaining. It's a it's probably the most engaging social network out there. But apparently, it's a threat to our way of life. On Friday the president on Air Force One. said that he was about to ban it as soon as yesterday. From the United States I'm not sure under what law safest can do it I think. But I don't know if the president can by executive order banning application. then for the last week Microsoft Been. Negotiating to buy the American rights to talk to kind of create a tick tick Tock America that would be separate from the Chinese bite. Dance. TIKTOK. But then the president says I'M GONNA ban it but I don't want anybody to buy it. So, micro-. Microsoft said. Threw their hands off and said figure it out and there. They didn't end the conversation with bite dance. Apparently, they were fairly close but they're not forwarding it until they find out what happens I'm GonNa make a prediction. Nothing is going to happen except now people are going to download and use TIKTOK. Brianna is tick tock a threat to national security. It's not a unique threat to national security. We need to have a conversation about the kinds of information social media APPS are able to download from our phones. We all remember the scandals of facebook on android downloading your tire phone list gang everyone you've ever called. We need to have a conversation about that, but there's there's really no evidence that what Tiktok is pulling is any greater than what you know facebook instagram these other social media sites are. Pulling so far. So we need a wider discussion about that. How's it just want to say I wish I could tell you this was just trump in the Republicans that would make me very happy. My heart broke today to see Chuck Schumer on the Sunday morning shows advocating the same thing tech talk. So you know it's it is we need to have a conversation about national security and the amount of information were giving up but it's I think. To just focus on TIKTOK. Sign of. Phobia. Or Zena Phobia Paris, you seem like a Tiktok user. I that's only because you're younger than. I. Did recently re downloaded when this whole. Wanted to make sure that I had it. I'm sure is a common response. I agree with everything the Brown said in the sense that I don't know I've been particularly disturbed by. The reactions to take talks, data collection both from the left and right and just. Experts in the tech field generally over the past couple of months because it is definitely coming from a place of seeing phobia. I mean, we have so many different. American. Made APPS that. Do many of the same things I mean one thing that I've seen noted quite often as to talk has the ability to see what you've. You know copied near Clipboard when guests so do most of the apps you have on your phone. Is Operatives. It's not a tiktok specific problem. This came up because of Iowa's fourteen, which is in public Beta now so people are suddenly using it and dozens of applications. I. Think must be a library that they all subscribe to infect somebody a couple of weeks ago. Somebody told me that it was. Ad Library I use of what a clearly noninvasive program from panic software Call Code editor, which lets me log into my Server. with SSh and and edit files and things like that and it was. I got the same thing that you get on Iowa's fourteen O, coders looking clipboard every time I typed to character. Now I don't think coded only panic software famous for an FTP program and this H. Program is at spying on me obviously, they're not. they're using the same code library. So it's a, it's a, it's a bug. That's what Lincoln Microsoft's linked in said as well. So. I think it's also just one of those things where if you're building an APP especially in. The Tom I. Don't know there was a time when absence of for being built were there wasn't this conversation about security and privacy. Why would map designers not take the position of? Yeah. All the things maybe we'll need that information talk said quite credibly. We're just looking to see if you put a url on your clipboard so we can pasted in. That seems credible I. Don't know if you need to do it every single time I type of character that seems like more that book I can tell you firsthand from developing an Iowa it's often easiest just to get it submitted to the APP store to take a bunch of permissions and It's just it's like you're trying to debugging in. Store, to accept it is just quirky. I can't tell you how many times I in other APP developers have. Just it's a very, very quirky system. So I, think this is just in Beta. I think it's really important to point out as far as the impetus for this I personally do not think it's a coincidence that tiktok was widely credited for disrupting trump's Tulsa rally a couple of weeks ago and Sarah Cooper is so famous for she's making five star she's she's amazing and those videos are brutal to trump and I I don't. That's a coincidence. She does trump limps licks lip sync. And I was talking to a friend said you know is the trump on TV I can't understand what he's saying but then I watched Cooper and that makes sense Sarah ads expressions and Gestures and all kinds of makes sense all of us and so I don't think the president should be so quick to to not like Sarah purchase he's adding context Might have something to do with it certainly in his mind because we know. You know. I don't know what he's going to do to Cape Pop stands because they were the other the other group that apparently figured out that you could register took on trump's team has got to be wise enough to know you can't take on the capons stands. Being. The capon stands the United States would crumble. Yes. That would be it would be over right. You just can't win against the K pop stands So. They were both advocating people sign up for the Tulsa Rally and not not show and Honestly the fault lies with Brad Par Scout trump's former campaign manager and his campaign team for believing all those registrations and building a giant outdoor stage. Giant parking lot so that the millions of people who are going to be coming because they all registered would have somewhere to be, and then I loved. Well, I shouldn't say that that sounds partisan was interesting to see the one person with the baby stroller in that giant area and the rest of the arena half full or third full So I could see why he might be a little angry about that. Is there. No, Matt. And I'm not putting you in the position of speaking for the government I want to say that in fact, we should have said that. That Nazi for the. Federal government but you also having worked Akiko Google you understand how you know a little bit about how this stuff works the the there's not any proof that while way for instance, has ever done anything. Particularly Evil they've done some commercial espionage apparently, but nothing could particularly evil but there's the potential if they run the entire five G. Network that at some point, they could inject malicious software to the network or shut it down. Is What could Even even sounds stupid asking it. What could take time do? It's the forbidden APP. If you think about it if you don't have it on your phone, it could disappear at any time. No I think it's it's less about that although you do see companies like Amazon saying, Hey, on your work phone or work device please don't install. And they did it. Because they realize Oh we do business with these guys. Let's not this them off but wells Fargo did that I think the Department of Defense I don't know about you sds, but it's reasonable if you've got a company phone. Probably shouldn't have facebook or instagram on it either you right? Yeah. I keep my twitter and all that stuff very far away from work phone. It's my it's my personal account, but you know it's I can understand why people want to have just a a sense of okay. Let's be careful. Let's see what's going on and then You know just making sure that you can depend on the. Tools all the way down reflections on trusting trust. You can put things into a compiler, which then you can remove it from the source code and turns out that thing can stay in the compiler for years and years and years. So you know you don't WanNa be load bearing on any particular technology that you can't quite vouch for his guesses what people are thinking, what would be the legal? How could a president ban an APP in the United States I was thinking about this in the one thing the United States government is very effective at is We we we went after Isis in I sell at a very effective way instead of this Ip address to a recruitment site you can't access it. So my my guess would be the executive order would basically grafter the ISP's and say you can't go to this particular ISP but think about that I know of VPN products is sponsor show sponsored mind and to know how few seconds would take the average teenager together VPN account to just keep their tiktok going. Yesterday I downloaded the tiktok cap the first video that came up credit account 'cause I forgot my previous password was a if Tiktok it's banned. Here's how to get around it. You don't Vpn you can go into the settings, your phone, change your country of origin to Canada and then You're great. Exactly I mean it's not enforceable basically So I mean one thing Leo I think. Matt and I would probably agree that we do need to. I don't know if it's more oversight from the point of sale like on the APP store or Google play I I don't know if it's kind of an External Code audit policy for these kinds of APPs on their own by countries I. Think we agree we we need more oversight and we need to make sure all of these are not stealing data from people and just to get people very brief history lesson you know Edward Snowden had some very serious allegations about our own spying agencies using. Facebook to gather intelligence on people all around the world there's evidence for that. There's no hard evidence at this point the Tiktok is doing any of this. So if we're serious about doing this, the answer isn't to further balkanize the United States from the rest of the world the answers to form coalitions with other countries say look if you're going to operate here in, you know if you're gonNA have the software operating in our country here, the rule you have to follow you can't just arbitrarily download people's Phone books, there's going to be You know civil fights. That's clearly the way to go is got to be bigger than just tiktok. I'm just looking at Tick Tock on my iphone. It has access to my photos because I gave it access to my photo so I could put a profile picture on there. it gives me notifications I could turn that off. That's that's a push though that's not a poll. Background APP refresh means it can run in the background and cellular data doesn't ask for. location data doesn't ask for I mean facebook asks for ten times more. That's why I don't have it on my phone. I. mean the worst thing Tiktok does is waste millions of hours a productivity, and maybe that's a recent ban I don't know. But I, just I don't understand how it could be used. If it's not getting location permissions, how could it be used maliciously and I think it is getting location position. I know that I've know anecdotally at least from a couple of friends whenever they let's say go to Connecticut to visit family or something they will suddenly get Connecticut. Themed Tiktok content or something similar. Okay. that could just be from. Connection you can get that from the IP address so they could get a Geo location through IP address without asking APP without telling apple that they're doing that that would make sense. Okay. So they're getting them. Every cannon probably, I hate to say it probably does do that.
Microsoft to 'move quickly' on TikTok deal following Trump talks
"The last week Microsoft Been. Negotiating to buy the American rights to talk to kind of create a tick tick Tock America that would be separate from the Chinese bite. Dance. TIKTOK. But then the president says I'M GONNA ban it but I don't want anybody to buy it. So, micro-. Microsoft said. Threw their hands off and said figure it out and there. They didn't end the conversation with bite dance. Apparently, they were fairly close but they're not forwarding it until they find out what happens I'm GonNa make a prediction. Nothing is going to happen except now people are going to download and use TIKTOK. Brianna is tick tock a threat to national security. It's not a unique threat to national security. We need to have a conversation about the kinds of information social media APPS are able to download from our phones. We all remember the scandals of facebook on android downloading your tire phone list gang everyone you've ever called. We need to have a conversation about that, but there's there's really no evidence that what Tiktok is pulling is any greater than what you know facebook instagram these other social media sites are. Pulling so far. So we need a wider discussion about that. How's it just want to say I wish I could tell you this was just trump in the Republicans that would make me very happy. My heart broke today to see Chuck Schumer on the Sunday morning shows advocating the same thing tech talk. So you know it's it is we need to have a conversation about national security and the amount of information were giving up but it's I think. To just focus on TIKTOK. Sign of. Phobia. Or Zena Phobia Paris, you seem like a Tiktok user. I that's only because you're younger than. I. Did recently re downloaded when this whole. Wanted to make sure that I had it. I'm sure is a common response. I agree with everything the Brown said in the sense that I don't know I've been particularly disturbed by. The reactions to take talks, data collection both from the left and right and just. Experts in the tech field generally over the past couple of months because it is definitely coming from a place of seeing phobia. I mean, we have so many different. American. Made APPS that. Do many of the same things I mean one thing that I've seen noted quite often as to talk has the ability to see what you've. You know copied near Clipboard when guests so do most of the apps you have on your phone. Is Operatives. It's not a tiktok specific problem. This came up because of Iowa's fourteen, which is in public Beta now so people are suddenly using it and dozens of applications. I. Think must be a library that they all subscribe to infect somebody a couple of weeks ago. Somebody told me that it was. Ad Library I use of what a clearly noninvasive program from panic software Call Code editor, which lets me log into my Server. with SSh and and edit files and things like that and it was. I got the same thing that you get on Iowa's fourteen O, coders looking clipboard every time I typed to character. Now I don't think coded only panic software famous for an FTP program and this H. Program is at spying on me obviously, they're not. they're using the same code library. So it's a, it's a, it's a bug. That's what Lincoln Microsoft's linked in said as well. So. I think it's also just one of those things where if you're building an APP especially in. The Tom I. Don't know there was a time when absence of for being built were there wasn't this conversation about security and privacy. Why would map designers not take the position of? Yeah. All the things maybe we'll need that information talk said quite credibly. We're just looking to see if you put a url on your clipboard so we can pasted in. That seems credible I. Don't know if you need to do it every single time I type of character that seems like more that book I can tell you firsthand from developing an Iowa it's often easiest just to get it submitted to the APP store to take a bunch of permissions and It's just it's like you're trying to debugging in. Store, to accept it is just quirky. I can't tell you how many times I in other APP developers have. Just it's a very, very quirky system. So I, think this is just in Beta. I think it's really important to point out as far as the impetus for this I personally do not think it's a coincidence that tiktok was widely credited for disrupting trump's Tulsa rally a couple of weeks ago and Sarah Cooper is so famous for she's making five star she's she's amazing and those videos are brutal to trump and I I don't. That's a coincidence. She does trump limps licks lip sync. And I was talking to a friend said you know is the trump on TV I can't understand what he's saying but then I watched Cooper and that makes sense Sarah ads expressions and Gestures and all kinds of makes sense all of us and so I don't think the president should be so quick to to not like Sarah purchase he's adding context Might have something to do with it certainly in his mind because we know. You know. I don't know what he's going to do to Cape Pop stands because they were the other the other group that apparently figured out that you could register took on trump's team has got to be wise enough to know you can't take on the capons stands. Being. The capon stands the United States would crumble. Yes. That would be it would be over
So Fat, So Brave: COVID Charged
"Hello. Hello, hello. Happening cake. All my goodness, why a beautiful has here on at lunch today. Three. Fat? Bitch. Proud and Latin next people. How are you doing today? Come on I, need more I. Need a little more energy. It's a weird time. It's a lot of emotions right now. So I'm like in a constant roller coaster, how actual feelings are. You know what I feel like we need to get into it right now because we went the last time, we recorded this last fall. We did Okay. So before we get into it. Ever. Might then I? We have done these episodes called so fat. So brave based on. Hashtag that Nicole, buyer Chattanooga buyers that she talks about a lot when she decided to start wearing bikinis and people would call her brave for just existing in a fat body and wearing whatever she wanted which is. Crazy that you would call somebody. like, wow, you're so brave and so. We do these episodes and I, know the loyal listeners already know there's been a couple of them where we break down. Media, and fat representation fat phobia within the media. So we usually talk about film TV and this time we're adding social media to the mix because there's a lot of body positivity So media now podcast things like that So we're GONNA get into it but before. Let's talk about what we've been doing during this wonderful worldwide pandemic. I. Gosh. I will say. I feel like I'm a lot closer to you too. Because of it, I feel like I see you more often than my own family. Threw facetime. So. That's been a positive. The negative is I can't believe we are living in this world. And this is actually happening and how quickly it went to. Shit Yeah. Doesn't take long in the US OF A. Yeah? No, it's what, what was your question? I think I already got distracted by your been doing, what's will give us some updates since we last spoke to you, I, don't know if you want to open this tin because I'm on I, haven't even recorded my show that radio since right before this started. So I, have literally been just. making it. Basically, it's been. Nice to get closer to you in like you know talk to certain people more that I haven't talked to in like months and some people even year's same time we are. In the midst of I say pandemic, right? Because it's not just the Kobe nineteen. Now, we're in like A. Unnecessary racial uprising as well, and it almost feels like we're also having like battles internally because of all the circumstances So it's been really Really heavy to say it nicely But I've also been amazed by my strength which I never realized and I've made a lot of big changes. In my own personal life. So it's really given me time to sit with myself, and so I see like though flaws and the beauty in who I am. And then I obviously see that all my loved ones and people around me as well because we're so grateful. For everything we do have in these moments So it's kind of a back and forth feeling which kind of what I said earlier but there's definitely been a lot of fat yet this time as well. And so it's been really interesting to just kind of observe also try to be mindful of my energy while I navigate this present world.
Fat Phobia and It's Racist Past and Present
"As a teen Sabrina strings loved getting to hang out with her grandma even when her grandma was obsessing over one of her soap operas I remember one time. She called me into the living room and she's like Sabrina look at Victoria. McCoy's kept on young and the restless. Victoria is killing herself to him. Why are white women dying to be thin? Fast forward to one three adult Sabrina was working at an HIV medication adherence clinic in San, Francisco, where she witnessed real life, examples of women sacrificing their health to be thin nights, spoken to a couple of women both HIV positive who refused to take their HIV medications for fear of gaining weight, and that blew my mind, and immediately took me back to conversations I've been having with my grandma like gosh onto something so important you know when she was talking about it, she saw it as largely a white phenomenon, but the women I interviewed that day. We're both color. Why were these women dying to be thin and did race have anything to do with? Him. Sabrina went on to become a sociologist at the University of California Irvine and wrote a whole book investigating these questions. If you're like me, you might have assumed that. There was some moment in between Marilyn Monroe. TWIGGY EH in which. Suddenly we'll. We suddenly became fat-phobic in those three years, but Sabrina started digging looking at nineteenth century magazines like Harper's bazaar in what she found was troubling articles warning American women well middle class and upper class white women. They needed to watch what they eat, and they were unapologetic, and stating that this was the proper form for. Jackson Protestant women, and so it was important that women eight as little as necessary in order to show their Christian nature and also their racial superiority. Today on the show we go all the way back to the transatlantic slave trade to understand the racial origins of fat phobia, and how black people are still dealing with the consequences today? I mattie Safai and this is shortwave the daily science podcast from NPR. So Sabrina. Let's let's get into what you discovered about the history of fat phobia a little bit you. You did a ton of research and you started the story several centuries back in Europe definitely in the ethos that like Renaissance Women. you know we're full figured. And that was absolutely a thing that was valued, and then there was a big shift explain what was going on back then so it turns out that the growth of the slave trade, especially by the eighteenth century led to new articulations of what types of appearance we could expect of people by different races, and also what types of behaviors. Such that by the middle of Eighteenth Century, a lot of French philosophers in particular were arguing that you know what when we're in the colonies, we're noticing that Africans are sensuous. They love sex and they love food, and for this reason they tend to be too fat. Europeans have rational self control. This is what makes us the premier race of the world, so in terms of body. Body size, we should be slender, and we should watch what we eat so okay Sabrina. Are you telling me that? When the slave trade started and European saw that African women were essentially curvy much like European women at the time at that point, they decided that being fat being thicker wasn't ideal anymore, and they built a system of oppression around this idea of needing to be. Thinned to prove racial superiority is at eight am I close. It's not quite as intentional as that. Effectively what they determined was that. You know we want it to be able to have a mechanism for ensuring that we could recognize who was slave, and it was free right, and it was easy in the beginning of the was simply skin color. What did you might imagine? After two hundred years of living in close proximity skin color really no longer works has a mechanism right, because now we have all of these people who are We would consider them today to be by racial, and so what they did was they decided to articulate new aspects of racial identity and so eating and body size became of the characteristics that were being used to suggest that these are people who do not deserve freedom. The trans, Atlantic slave trade eventually ended, but argues that we are still absolutely living with these racist attitudes about body size today. And in her book, she also traces how these anti-fat attitudes worked their way into modern medicine for somewhat arbitrarily, reasons for example take BMI or body mass index. That equation actually wasn't intended to be used to measure individual fatness. Though of course doctors did and still do today, can you? Can you explain the problem with using am I as a measure for obesity especially when it comes to black women, who I know have been told that they have the highest rates of obesity according to that measurement to be am I. Yes, so am. I is a measure of the ratio of a person's weight to their height. And what this does not account for is bone density. Muscular already any other type of genetic influences in your way or cultural environmental influences in your weight, and so, what ended up happening? As many people pointed out is that you might have to people with the same BMI, but vastly different life experiences embody compositions outside of the simple reality of their weight to height ratio, right, and the problem of applying this to them in particular, is that African American populations as studies have shown for literal decades since at least the eighties tends to be healthier at heavier weights than white populations. And so that already is an indication that cross racially. This is not a very useful tool, not to mention the fact that even within race there are going to be vastly different experiences, of an individual body between like their weight and their health profile so surreal this message from the medical establishment that excess weight is the biggest you know reason for black women's health problems or a very central of it. Why do you see it as so damaging? For Black Women, ultimately, the main advice that people are given when they so called obese is to lose weight, and there are so many problems with this. We have been telling people to lose weight for decades. What ends up happening is that they either don't lose the weight or they sometimes do lose the weight, and then frequently gain it back so first off. It could be more harmful to tell people to lose weight in the long run, and then in addition to that there are the psychological effects of telling people that their bodies are wrong. Right at their bodies are inherently unhealthy This type of fat stigma also leads to health outcomes right right right, so let's talk about this. In the context of covid nineteen I'm thinking about the recent New York Times op Ed you wrote about how cove nineteen is disproportionately impacting. Impacting people of Color specifically black people, and how you took issue with obesity, gaining traction as a leading explanation for that disparity, so talked me a little bit about that. This piece was actually motivated by something that I felt was very troubling, which was I had been seeing so many report, suggesting that the disparities in Colbert outcomes between white populations and black populations. They would say things like well. You know there's already the pre existing factor of obesity, and somehow that was one of the first things that come up and I thought there is very little evidence that disparities in quote unquote obesity are what's contributing to these negative outcomes, but there's plenty of evidence to suggest that Kobe. Fatalities or maybe even serious complications with Kobe nineteen are being influenced by people's environments. Are they essential workers? Do they have access to enough soap and water hand sanitizer, and so of course might imagine that the ability to socially distance to shelter in place to have access to healthy foods under Corinthian, all of this is very much being structured by a person's social location and black people tend to live in communities without access. Access to a lot of different healthy and life giving resources. Yeah, in in Sabrina, I'll tell you that as a person that reads a lot of the literature on Kovin prisoner biologists I am seeing a lot of papers coming out that are associating with the obesity without with health outcomes of COVID, but those links tend to be correlated right, but even if we were to find out that there's absolutely a causal link. Link between covert and obesity which I think you're arguing. There isn't one especially right now. At least the rates of obesity and white and black populations aren't actually that different right like it wouldn't necessarily be the thing that made it. So can you tell me a little bit about those rates versus the actual percentage of disparities? We're seeing so according to the CDC, the Obesity Twain. African, American and white populations are. Are Forty two point, two percent for white populations and forty nine point, seven percents for black populations are about that and so we're looking at effectively a seven percentage point disparity between white and black populations in terms of rates of obesity, however, when we're looking at serious complications with covert nineteen. What we're seeing is that black people are dying at rates of two point four to seven times that of white populations. How that's seven percentage point differential is leading to two point four to seven times the disparity in serious complications. Death. No one's really being able to explain that. This is the problem with the kind of cords of studies, which is that they lead people to believe that somehow. Is One of the drivers when in fact it could simply be a confounding in these studies, but we're so used to studying obesity and treating these correlations as if they are evidence of causal link that people are frequently not being very critical when they're seeing studies that show these relationships. Sabrina, you've obviously spent years by now working to understand this issue and to educate folks about it I'm wondering you know like why why this. Why have you specifically taken this on one of the reasons? Why continue to do it? Is I've seen what a difference? It's made to people's lives. I mean I've had so many people reach out and tell me that they felt for the longest time like something was wrong, but no one was talking about it or that I have spoken to their personal experience. I couldn't have imagined when I started doing this work. That could have possibly had the impact that it's had you know I'm standing on the shoulders of giants people who have been feminist scholars medical scholars journalists who've been doing this work at least since the nineteen seventies, but we're at a moment right now where there's a critical mass of people who are aware that the discourse surrounding fatness that we've long accepted really is baseless, and we think about a new way of allowing people to have a positive relationship to their bodies, and to cultivate health within themselves and their communities that does not rely on that stigma. Okay Sabrina I appreciate you. Thank you so much for coming on the show and sharing your life and your work with us. I really appreciate it. Thank you so much. It's been a pleasure. Sabrina strings. Her book is called fearing the black body the racial origins
Atlanta police officer fired after fatally shooting black man
"Turning back to more serious issue and not you know vis vis water phobia we have a there's a big issue this happened in Atlanta we're talking about the shooting over the weekend Friday night actually at a Wendy's when I gentleman fell asleep at the drive through because he had invite and had too much to drink and the police were called and it what started as a very respectful on both sides confrontation or I wouldn't say competition but exchange are where they were trying to ascertain exactly how much she had you know whether he they should let him drive away the answer was no after he failed a field sobriety test and then all hell broke loose when they tried to cut him he became violent and it was a big big guy very big stature I was able to toss off the two police officers or their grab one of the officers tasers and run away he turned around to try to shoot them with a taser didn't do it and the police officer shot and killed him and the autopsy report said he was shot in the back so my reading of everything that I saw is that it looks to me like it was excessive force and I don't know if that's true or not because to really find out you need to weigh all the evidence and you know the Georgia bureau of investigation is investigating but they didn't wait they meaning the Atlanta you know management city management did not wait to see F. he was you know if it was a justifiable shooting or not they within twenty four hours fired the police officer the chief of police resigned and is being given another job in the Atlanta hierarchy I don't know where that marriages such as another job which makes me think that this was all on the firing the police officer and the resigning of the police chief was done to appease a mob which had protested pressure and burn down Wendy's how do you see pictures of it like the I mean there was nothing yeah it was about it it was completely gutted and you know they got on the interstate there are hundreds of people involved in all of this and it is just really and truly a it was a horrible scene and I think that the city our fathers and mothers or whatever going to call them the mayor the council city councilman whoever's there decided we we got to do something fast let's not wait for this to become Milwaukee and I think they acted
Acts of Resistance Story Call
"Hey welcome to you had me at. Black. I'm Martina Abraham's in light of the uprisings in cities across the country and our collective desire for community action. We've decided to pivot. The next topic are at the House series. Many of us are unsure of how to turn our pain and our raid into protests. But every day we survive racism. Sexism Assad Ginny Homophobia Islamophobia trans-phobia a really never ends so this week. We're going to remind ourselves who we are in how it's done. Share a story about an active resistance at time where you stood up or fought back against injustice or mistreatment. Big Or small what happened. What did you do what happens next? Submit your story at you. Had ME AT BLACK DOT com slash at the house submissions or do you by Wednesday June third. And while I have you I just want to remind you that your feelings. Whatever they are right now are valid and justified. You do not need to explain the way you do not need to defend them with stats or logic or examples. Take that energy in. Pour it into our community. Here are a few ways you can do. I find a grassroots or mutual aid organization in your local area there organizing and they're making sure that the community's needs are met every day and they can use our support whether it's financially or with our time if you feel called to protest that is great but you do not need to be in the street to be a part of the movement and do movement work making 'cause providing childcare feeding protesters fundraising doing research securing meeting locations. The list of things to be done. It's really never ending. And it takes many hands to make these networks run second. Being black does not absolve from the need to study to do the work to recognize on pack unlearn and dismantle the white supremacy in imperialism in ourselves. No one who goes up in a society like ours is free from it. Oh and it's important to study the movement before us because that will help inform our objectives and our next steps now so we really want to be about it. We have to start with us
"phobia" Discussed on The Highwire with Del Bigtree
"They have a heart attack. So GRANDMA AND GRANDPA won't even be revived for all those reasons. I'm sorry I'm off of team Corona Phobia. That was number eight number seven. So so distancing is unscientific. A brilliant article came out. We've been hearing scientists. Say over and over again. There's really no science behind social distancing. Well where did it come from? Guess where it came from a fourteen year old girl came up with social distancing as a part of a science project. This is an article that came out recently. The two thousand six origins of the lockdown idea. But what is what is this mentioned. The highschool daughter fourteen. Her name is Laura and West. Laura was the guidance from a dad. Devise a computer simulation that showed how people family members co students in schools people in social situations in Iraq. Her program shows in a hypothetical town of ten thousand people. Thousand would be infected during pandemic if no measures were taken but only five hundred would be impacted if the schools were closed. Well you know great science experiment and by the way Laura congratulations for you of doing something in writing idea that the entire world followed but was a good idea. Most scientists say no. Here's a recent article by scientists to meter. Social distancing rule was conjured out of nowhere. Professor claims he goes on to say. There's never been a scientific basis for two meters. It's kind of a rule of thumb. But it's not like there's a whole kind of rigorous scientific literature that is founded upon. But Hey let's go ahead and make the entire world do it anyway. Well for those reasons. Because it's actually not scientific I against social distancing and that makes me against being on team to run a phobia number. Six masks are a joke. Folks mask or a joke. We've been over this. I Know Matthew mcconaughey may think that he's a hero in saving the world just like someone in the military. That's taking a bullet but I'm sorry. Matthew wearing the masks does not make you a hero and backed it kind of makes you question how intelligent you are. You only have to look at the box where most of us by the mass says this. This product is an early ear loop asked. This product is not a respirator and will not provide any protection against Kobe. Nineteen or other viruses or contaminants. That's the mask is saying. Can you imagine all these people that are tying like underwear around their face and scarves? What is that? GonNa do for you and when I think about. Let's be honest for people that work on viruses in labs and are actually going to come in contact with one they have to wear. This has mad suits absolutely sealed. They gotta wash them. Del Selves Down in shower before they walk out. Do you think if masks works when they prefer to wear that in a virus lab. Come on folks use your minds but in case you. Just don't think that those are the points or the fact that we've got Russell blaylock put out a great article last week. Saying it's reducing the amount of oxygen. You get in your blood we have someone might my of the people that works your Jennifer her grandmother's home right now and she is wearing a mask everywhere she goes. She's in Risk Group and she is currently lowering her blood oxygen level. What happens to be the biggest danger of covid nineteen itself? She just jumps. Starting that problem could be but look if you still believe. In mass they tell. You don't know what you're talking about Matthew mcconnahey says there's no science that says it's a bad idea. I guess they all think we can raise what happens. It'd be the camera. Let me explain this when a video cameras rolling on you and things come out of your mouth. They are there for ever. You can't take the MAC okay so in case you ever have a video camera rolling. You may not want to say things like this. What the scare of the coronavirus. Many people have been running to the store to buy facemasks similar to this one to protect themselves. Medical Mass. Like this one cannot predict.
"phobia" Discussed on The Highwire with Del Bigtree
"This is a video that shows you just how hard it can be every player unless they're same household has to bring their own tennis balls so that you don't touch other people's tennis balls with your hands you can kick their balls but you can't touch them. I'm going to blush. Sorry of course. If you're if you're playing with someone in your household you can touch those tennis balls to avoid to avoid confusion between. Who's balls or who's you can use a marker like a Sharpie to mark out to put an extra put someone's initial. Whoa WHOA WHOA. By your boss. Stop in and I can't touch your balls anyway. It's getting that stupid out. There in the world of Corona virus and speaking of the Corona virus and the Vaccine Unicorn. We're all going to be saved by. There's a video that went viral this week. One of the world's leading attorneys Alan Dershowitz was caught in an interview where he was asked about some of the legal ramifications of the lockdown and things and where the Supreme Court would stand and what his opinion was well. The thought and discussion of back sees popped up. Many of. You saw this. If you didn't some pretty shocking. Statements came from. This is just one of them. You know right not to be vaccinated. You have no right not to wear masks. You know right to open up Your Business Way. Stop Eight. Yeah no right is not to be vaccinated. Meaning if they decide. You HAVE TO BE ACCENTED. We have come vaccinated and refuse to be vaccinated. The state has our literally. Take you to a doctor's office and plunged a needle into your arm. Well I have a debate with Alan Dershowitz. Coming up later on in the show. You're not gonNA WANNA miss that. I challenged him on those thoughts. And the fact that he said he would love to see a mandate and he would be the one that would love to defend that mandate all the way to the Supreme Court but before. We do that when we bring in. Jeffrey Jackson talk about some of the breaking news stories of the week. Jeffrey how you doing today. Hey how you doing del? Good stuff very. We have a lot to be happy about what's happening news. Everyone is happy as we are. Well probably not Johnson and Johnson. This is a gigantic store. I wanted to lead off with Johnson and Johnson's talk. Product is over one hundred year legacy product of theirs. It's been the center of almost twenty thousand lawsuits over the past decade filed by cancer patients and their discontinuing it in North America. This is a gigantic symbolic win For for consumers for anybody harmed by products and even further legal community. You know as we see. Monsanto up with the Defense. Monsanto bear wrapping up to defend other glyphosate And even the opioids so basically what happened was Johnson and Johnson put out a release said quote misinformation around the safety of the product and it can a constant barrage of litigation advertising. They blame that for the drop in demand. So what are you talking about? They paid out four point. Seven billion dollars in one lawsuit right that we reporting on this for over a year talcum powder has a special status that they knew we have internal documents and that's why these lawsuits have won all around the country. Now they're saying oh it's misinformation we're having to pull this product. Well I guess we're never going to hear again. Shower shower. Eat stay helps. Keep the odor away. It's really sad actually. We joke about things like that. But how many people have cancer because of talcum powder having bestest Brinkley on our children when they get out of the shower women using it because the product. I was just thinking about really a horrific story a horrific story and the reds showed. We used it so many times ready to talk about the FDA and the how they just don't do their job for fifty years. They got away with having specimen this product. All of these cancer patients have stepped forward. And now they're finally pulling it and when I think about this you know the significance of this we also Johnson and Johnson has been paying out you know just truckloads of money because the OPIOID cases. They were directly involved in oxygen cotton and much of the cover up and stimulating the sales of that all over this country this this this company Johnson Johnson companies. I wonder how are you still allowed to work in this country? How is any Johnson and Johnson Product? Allowed on the shelves when we look at your internal memos and documents and you knew all along people were going to be addicted to oxygen cotton. You knew people die. Tens of thousands of people are dying every year. Because when you look at the Johnson Johnson baby powder how many babies were getting that sprinkled on them. How many doctors recommended talcum powder and the whole time they knew that you were really sprinkling. Best is and now. I don't have one of the corona virus vaccines that's in trials. Right now don't they? Yes they do yes they do. And the Oklahoma case the OPIOID crisis Oklahoma found Johnson and Johnson. Guilty and they had to pay four hundred sixty five million dollars for causing the OPIOID crisis in Oklahoma. That was the last opioid crisis to go to go to trial before the coronavirus hit. But this is really interesting stuff. And like you said. We've known their playbook Johnson. Johnson playbook was the playbook that big tobacco copied Monsanto copied opioid cases. The sackler family copied and we also seeing with the vaccine with the vaccine developers so this is just gigantic story. It can't be covered enough. Great American companies. So wonderful how we do business in this country and what our regulatory agencies allow or what else do you have. Yeah so back to. We've been covering this for a couple of weeks. Now has other news outlets Cuomo in New York. His March twenty fifth policy to allow people a nursing home people to go back to nursing homes the elderly patients whether they have corona virus or not. There has been a chorus of what's described as a bipartisan chorus of lawmakers now calling for an independent federal investigation into his May twenty fifth written policy that prevents nursing homes from rejecting patients that were testing positive for covid nineteen from going back into the nursing homes. Now they also are calling for an investigation or rather in this federal investigation that they're calling for they're calling because the state official numbers were undercounted. They undercounted many of the deaths in the nursing homes so cuomo tried to get ahead of this and announced an in-house investigation with the State Attorney General but lawmakers are saying no. No we want this federal. We Wanna blow US thing wide open. Wow I think we have him actually defending himself when he's asked a question about this by a news reporter typically this to families who suffered losses inside nursing homes and they're looking for accountability and they'd like to see justice..
How Does Anxiety Work?
"It's perfectly natural to be feeling anxious. Everyone does sometimes and there are plenty of things that anyone can do to help combat it a Christian goes through a few ideas end of the episode but in this one we wanted to talk about what's going on in the brain when anxiety becomes a disorder. Here's Christian brain stuff it's Christian Sager here. Listen I get anxious you do too but hey it is totally normal and healthy response. That keeps us from doing things that might actually be dangerous. Like sticking your hand in a fire for instance but when anxiety is so pervasive that it interferes with your daily life it becomes a disorder and most researchers believe that disorder begins in your brain there several types of anxiety disorders phobias. Ptsd and OCD. Or just a few and some forty million American adults suffer from an anxiety disorder according to the National Institute of Mental Health. But let's focus today on general anxiety disorder which affects close to seven million adults in his twice as likely in women. You're constantly anticipating a threat or disaster. That isn't actually present. Maybe you're worried about money. Health family or work in despite reality you'll expect the worst. The symptoms include restlessness fatigue difficulty concentrating irritability muscle tension and sleep disturbances. The symptoms officially become a disorder. When you can't control your worry for at least six months you may still be social or even employed but people with general anxiety disorder can have difficulty carrying out even the simplest of daily activities experts. Believe that general anxiety disorder is caused by both biological factors and life experiences good old combination of nature and nurture but anxiety is also recognized by many as an emotional response with neurobiological routes simply put the neural pathways in our brains sometimes lead to irrational anxiety in stressful situations encourage us to develop associations with those pathways by influencing which neuro chemicals pass through them the same way you learn to tie your shoe you can also learn to be anxious the neurons in your brain fire and overtime. They get wired together. One stressful thing like being stuck in traffic leads you to think of another stressful thing lake a car crash. She wants survived. And this activates. A part of the brain stem called the locus serious. This triggers the symptoms of anxiety by releasing neuro epinephrine into your spinal cord and parts of your brain while hormones like adrenaline and cortisol spread through your body. It's supposed to initiate an analgesic response to suppress pain and initiate defense. When you're under threat like if you were actually in a car crash and injured but when there isn't any actual threat all were left with is the jitters of anxiety a couple other things about the brain contribute to anxiety. Researchers at Massachusetts General Hospital found that people with a thicker venturo medial. Prefrontal CORTEX are less likely to get anxiety. Basically some brains have more armor against inducing situations than others. We don't have enough
"phobia" Discussed on The JaySin Podcast
"A major campaign thumper me who was at two hundred and something dollars per share before all this happened. Right is at nine dollars right now. Now's the time when all of it goes up Back to two hundred if not more wants things. Open up uncle better and whatever ended up. Investment is going to come back all that money and then I can take that invested in bigger long-term things that I want to exactly exactly. Yeah that's what I that's yeah pretty much. I mean everything is A. It's a slow climb. You know for certain people and you said you just have to be smart. You know you have to take little steps in order to take the bigger steps later on as well. That's what a lot of people don't get a lot of people think we're stocks. They're going to become millionaires overnight. Doesn't work that way you know it takes it takes a sequence of events and it takes a sequence of smart decisions in order to get to that point but basically I just wanted to cap off Sore with Michael Jordan story based on what his agent David Falk says. So in this quote this is this is so funny. He said brought him deal three years ago for one hundred million all he had to do was other than giving his name and likeness make a one or two hour appearance to announce the deal and he actually just turned it down so it was like it was just so easy but again it depends on. We're talking about and we're talking about Mr Michael Jordan so to dive until just a little bit of the last dance since we're over the hour mark how you like so far. Sir. I'll enjoy it. Dennis Rodman portion was was amazing. 'cause Ma Ma do you want to? Do you want to do a separate show yoghourts episode us all right so let's leave it on this weekend tomorrow. A bank is there any other. The last two episodes is it. I thought it was a ten part ocean. Let's wait until we get some exemplar. We'll wait on to keep revisiting light. Don't get me wrong. We can touch on football now for a moment here right. I don't WANNA I don't I don't I'm not a fucking look. Not everyone listened so CICIS foreperson correct. So I don't WanNa keep you wanNA flooded boring men. Felicia's was about the same shirt. So we'll do one regret will make it will make reveal. That's fine and That concludes your source segment. Speaking allowed him. Random brought to you by the Jason Podcast. Once again like share comment you just want to feedback pop folk. Yup Niemeyer also. I got my shot outside of the body out south everybody. Everybody stops blossom. Arth remember over borough outsor- Jenna goons Birthday yeah shut out to be shot out to Gina to definitely shot out to my whole family. You basically know who you are under Ross Definitely thank you for all the support. We appreciate our listeners. Actually shut out by tuning a Handful Zealand right now could. I'm sure has decided that he's no longer wants to wear underwear so all he's at that stage. Okay there's no more. Wow okay interesting. He he's on his channing. Tatum right on the Magic Mike. Shit so yes. I love my nephew too by the way my niece You know my cousins shot out to you out too much siblings shutout to my parents. You know list. This last shot alto everybody. Bitterness invite who was in the central worker Jan That terminology essential worker does not Disney hostile. Of course who has worked at a restaurant they can only do take out. But you're feeding the people who are essentially working at the supermarket. Anybody working at the pharmacy aside lurking anywhere. Because right now you ought essentially thank you for being here. Thank you for keeping some sort of solemness of normalcy because this is going to be mobile. Scientists are estimated for at least eight since twenty four months. Yeah definitely this is normal for awhile definitions we appreciate and and once again. I just want to reiterate people. Just try to remain. Active go outside seeks. Some Sun doesn't mean you have to be on top of anybody just seeks some Sun. Vitamin D is still important. Your body's exposure to the sun is still very important in terms of fighting anything. It doesn't have to be viruses. It could just being in terms of just fighting anything and for your anatomy to just work the way it should basically. So you know just Just try to stay on that positive to you. Know we're here with you. Were going through it as well. We're adapting to this new normal. You know unfortunately as sin just mentioned and just I'm just continue to be great. I think we all have that in us. And it just takes some of us a little bit more to just activate that but definitely just Just look at just continued looking at the glass half full and to my people who are religious just Just continue to keep the faith you know everything will get better in due time and just continue to adapt you know with each coming day and basically with that said just take things one day at a time you know and I have. Did you know actually? I don't know if you had something else before that now with the the the shadows before there's no okay so In terms of the did you know and shutouts everybody that I probably forgot. But that's why I try to like generalized shoutouts saw have like pinpoint and say names and stuff like that but anyway once again brought to you by the Jason this is your did you know segment and did you know kind sir. It is physically impossible for pigs to look up at the sky. Did you know that are not from a standing position? It is pretty much impossible for them to look up. Basically at the sun they can lie down to see the sky but literally not in a standing position basically the anatomy of their neck muscles won't let them look totally upwards and you know the only way they can see it is if you know they obviously roll in the mud and you know they're in a in a laying position basically so I I find that I find that pretty interesting. I thought they can actually like just look up you know but not all make sense pity enrolling the bed and have a good a good weekend on this week. You will not safe from what I do. I take all your precautions we out..
"phobia" Discussed on The JaySin Podcast
"Was quick. So there's no such thing as daydream right now. All drinking susceptible an all smoking all bite all smoking right now. You know what you know. What despite me not being you know either or I'd have to say yes. I do actually agree that there's no time for it and you can do it anytime so you can have a cocktail if you want at five. Am IN THE MORNING. And it's perfectly fine at this moment in time due to what's happening in the world. Definitely waking up you you starting your day on your online job at nine damning rolling. Up Fatty Antoine. Some some Irish Irish coffee to start to do this right. We go and less than I don't give a fuck about your dietary restrictions or about your diet. I don't care about how much I don't like meat. I don't care how much you hate this. I don't care how much loss switched over. I don't give a fuck about eating properly. Fuck about consume better. I don't care about none of that. Shit state fuck away from me as ownership annoy the fucking rest of us. We don't care if you're a Vegan. If you converted to Buddhism off don't top on hosts about food maybe people to clean up no no including a conscious effort note whereas like you made a conscious effort to come on the someone's face and make that douchebag comment that you made under a post about some shit you give a fuck about an no one else as if. I want to eat shrimp until third green and a vase. I'm GONNA do so in regime was to eat a me until he dies he. Will you telling us what to eat? Is probably actually doing the adverse event wanted to do so? I don't give a fuck about what you eat. What shoot eat. Don't make me share. Who fucking raped me. I don't care it's about your lives. Go eat your vegan cheese meals over there and easy to follow your fucking S. What I'm saying is when nigger in Kokomo Brexit. I don't fuck of don't Bradenton Buck Exit. Okay number two in about a new beginning a burger right now. You come out of nowhere is accused the Knicks sucker day. You know what I was killing phase. Mount up in business that will grow up basically facts. Facts facts facts. You and your fucking carry Megan not as argument Garib Reagan. You've gone three. No kind sir appreciate. Let's get into Seoul once again sore brought to you by the Jason Podcast Ladies. Janpath folk please like share comment. I think we prefer you guys comment you know and just talk to us. Basically at this moment in time. Almost auger exactly bro. Did you hear about former quarterback Alex Smith's near death story regarding his leg and the compound fracture? He suffered when I heard about it. But I in Sane Bro. He still going through that injury at this moment in time and I just WanNa send all my good thoughts and positive vibes to him. His wife and his family he basically he endured an injury in two thousand eight Houston Texas. Yeah with access. No no yeah. Yeah he was the Redskins quarterback and it was a game against the Texans Baseball. Okay that he endured this injury and He basically came down with a compound fracture and of his lower leg and he basically developed disorders like bacteria flesh eating kind of condition and like right now like he was like maybe a step away from his leg being totally amputated and historians actually going to be on on on ESPN. I think it's going to be on demand as well if it didn't hit yesterday in for a while. Yeah because it's it's it's it's a part of a project. Eleven documentary showing on. Espn so I don't know if it was Friday night so I presume it was yesterday. But if you didn't catch Ya folk you should catch it It's really touching you know and I was like worried myself because I just seen him walking around with a leg that was like maybe three times maybe three or four times the size of his other leg and and you know he was in crutches and stuff like that and He's still going through it. You know and The story was equally gruesome and frightening and You know replaceable yes I it's. It's kind of hard because they're actually classifying it as a military injury. They don't even classify it as a sports injury anymore and that speaks volumes. Because usually we know that when whenever it said that there's a military kind of injury involved usually that puts that soldier or that person service out of commission. And you know I mean at this point in time like I said I just wish him a fast and speedy recovery. You no doubt. That's pretty devastating on. It's pretty. It's pretty scary. You know what can happen to you. You know in the blink of an eye in a matter of seconds you know even while you're playing sports so you know To those people out there who are still athletic. And you know who are still like engaging in sports recreationally or even semi professionally or even professionally. Just take care of yourself you know and just be aware. At all times of what's going on it was just such a such a heartfelt thing you know when I found out about it that I was like damn I have to include this in our sore segment. Because it's just it's just pretty crazy and Alex Smith. He was one of those quarterbacks where he he was a great game manager. In a sense you know he wouldn't lose you a game you know. And that's a good quality to have also as a quarterback and I don't I don't tend to measure quarterbacks on on rings and stuff like that not not not in a general sense. I guess because you know a quarterback I think can be great and can be good and not win you any rings you know just like a lot of MBA players. Which I'm about to get to in a few who can be great throughout their careers and not wondering doesn't mean you can't consider them good or great because they don't you know because they didn't achieve that ultimate goal that every player tries to achieve so Yeah once again PA folk. That is a documentary called project. Eleven and it should be out already you know on demand with ESPN plus or you know whatever carriers you have and Just take a look at. That story was pretty Interesting frightening and just gruesome all in one and once again. We just wish Alex Smith you know positive vibes and just full recovery when it comes to their better greg. Alex yeah definitely. That was pretty crazy. So next Cameron Rapper from Harlem. Shutouts everybody out Dan Harlem. He's towed off his insane. Jump Roping skills on instagram. The reason why bring up Cam because like truth be told growing up. He was literally one of my like top three favorite rappers like ever and that includes like people like biggie. Jay Z. As well and you know positive from the outside. But that's also a personal standpoint on mine but he was one of those rappers that I grow basically looking you know I. I looked up to camera on and stuff so when I saw this news and stuff like that. He brought it back to the old school sense. You know like jumping rope and You know the reaction that he got you know from a lot of fellow peers was also pretty funny as well and Jim Jones actually. He actually opined. It was just pretty funny but um you guys should go check that out. Cameras killed it literally like on the Double Dutch groping tip you know. He took it back to the hood with that. So that's something that was pretty much unexpected. And you know. And I'm braced it at the same time. It was pretty cool. I enjoyed that so next. According to previous reports there was speculation that the leader of North Korea Kim Jong Hoon was actually dead. Apparently that's not the case. Apparently he made a public appearance today and apparently he was a victim of the many people where there's always speculation online. Or there's always someone killing somebody else or there's almost someone dying you know. We would social media. We've grown so used of hearing people saying Oh such and such person is dead this that in the case and those false rumors going around. I mean this is courtesy of CNN. Actually this is where I saw that he was actually cutting the ribbon and he was actually making a public appearance and apparently he was drinking and laughing it up with his sister which is supposed to be the successor in line or at once. He can't perform that job anymore and basically he was speaking at an event to celebrate Labor Day because you know it was Labor Day yesterday and a lot of countries outside of the United States. I find that totally weird as well because yesterday my wife. She's obviously of Dominican descent. And she sends me a message and she says you know happy Friday happy Labor Day and I'm like what what are you talking about? What is he talking about me and then I'm like Oh shit. It is Labor Day like I have to think outside of the US Labor Day and other places so basically He came out to sail up to basically celebrate Labor Day in North Korea according to the North Korean News Agency and he also like inaugurated a fertilizer plant or fertilizer. Plant basically and Basically came out publicly any spoke so I guess prior or Or after those rumors you know weren't sure whatever the case is this seems like it proves that He's still alive. He's still welling going basically Decisions de next and last thing actually Michael Jordan speaking of Michael Jordan. I don't know pot folk. If you guys have been in tune with the last dance documentary I was speaking with sincere actually on Sunday and told me that you would look at it on demand. I actually sat down something I haven't done in a long time. I sat down for four hours last Sunday to watch all for episodes and in this case it was well worth. It obviously has to do with sports. Which is kind of like my. You know my thing as a person you know. I don't I'm not really much into like other shows and stuff like that so You know speaking of that show you know. Just try to check it out. It's called the last dance. Shout out to my brother-in-law Kane and I know he's a big Jordan Fan and he was a big fan of like nineties. Nba Basketball as well. I'm not sure if he's looking at that but Shutouts you check that out it's on. Espn is called the last day. So it brings me to this Michael Jordan. He was offered a hundred million dollars. Did you hear about this story to appear at an event for two hours? And he said no he said either. Want those other million dollars. According to his agent look look you can have a level of success exactly guy. Go ahead that That an when you is a two part deal. One is a definitely a level of success? Because if somebody there's somebody also one hundred million comes from your body can two hours and they don't comment but it's also is also about what an was standoff because somebody somebody else no one hundred ninety for two hours a company in this fucking not safari or they're going to be a negative note reenacting fucking chamber. Trucking gasoline was in all sorts of fucked up shit on bought of Not Jane Bombs On Line so some people down and take the money for whatever. Correct was proven. They're gone use your money and I don't need your park. That's pretty crazy. I mean when I first heard the story I was like you know what to me. Basically because of the I guess financial like bracket that basically I. I found it a little bit surprising but then you know I I guess Michael Jordan. We're talking about so it Kinda it. Kinda makes sense you know and I'm not like totally shocked now now. I'm looking at things from all angles when it comes to mind. We'll Jordan on a shout out so my homegirl. She ago on a shutout literally a child Boston's like pre K. Louis Sue bought her house Sir. Wow congratulations congratulations to her. This is actually the time I hear to actually get into buying a House. So yeah exactly watch stocks. That's the way to do it by a bunch of stat and a bunch of their company. Which one might since I definitely have before? This is nothing stock and so on and so forth but I'm interested in travel right now. That's great rival. A we had just gone. We'll talk about socks before the Platinum while love and love you to love you to give me anything. Basically one other person had conversation with five hundred one millionaire like nice and that's the type of he likes about right goes in the moment so because it shows and they have the correct mindset on but sort of what I think about Which are like this has been travel? 'cause take the travel business. There's something right now. 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"phobia" Discussed on The JaySin Podcast
"Folk. Please like share comment is your boy. Jay Hunted Morrison. When we have a packed show for you. This week can base like Kevin Hot. Yeah Pretty Much. Condense is not going to be a long show powerful like it was last week because we spoke for two hours. Basically were wrong and thank you to borrow for her participation. I mean shot out to her. Remember you missed. You missed the staple last week your staples so they will. Also I was so focused on everything else. Mine has got distracted. I was my week was pretty good. It was very relaxing. I actually started a regimen where I'm exercising now a little bit more consistently so that's helping me out a lot in terms of my mental and that's why I always stress to people that you know even if you're stuck inside you know quarantine just do your best. You know to try to distract yourself from everything that's going on. Get off the phone for a little bit get off the TV. Do a little bit of exercise a little. Bit of meditating. Do a little bit of reading or look at movies you know and I I just think it's vital and it's important but this week has been Pretty good I just been pretty patient with certain things. And I'm just continuing to hone my craft when it comes to day trading. So I'm just looking forward to Continuing to grow you know in that aspect but emotionally. I'm K- psychologically. I'm also fine as well. I actually find myself being an ear lender in a sense to a lot of people who are actually going through it. I'm checking up on a lot of people. Some people may not know. But I'm actually on my own during this quarantine you know. I'm not with anyone I'm just by myself here and I'm just thankful for a lot of the Messages and support. I've gotten from certain people checking up on me just making sure that I'm okay and stuff like that and I'm doing the same thing I'm paying it forward. I'm getting contact with different people daily just to find out that they're okay and there's nothing wrong with checking on your friends So pleased that check on your friends. Just make sure that they're OK even if they're with someone else or even if you feel like they're good financially just check up on them because you just never know what they're going through. I. It's so far so good there was it was I moved. I am a lot of time. Unendorse once creative things I wanNA. I'm finding myself had reports on with their as aggressive but is okay You have time we're not GONNA be out was not look like an most of these. Well we'll talk about the Atlanta affect in a little bit on but I still all right. I started getting so low automotive resistance bands of his zandt the no wrong. But I'm trying to get two weeks paper. Waste and just have them delivered or license and then gotta find ways to put down and I was small dog and a much accu her and this is not news a cool crib until the Joe. Open back up big also on one hundred. Sometimes there's more than new Johnnie in the career rain and Just got on the so the But a walking this week So good but they I want to get this. I want to get disclaimer. We're talking about it do I am. I want people to be active. We don't necessarily care about you When we care about you don't care about your health and still social distance when we walk in. If you're walking house which case walk which kids this is different. Whenever you're under quarantine with Mingo Ogden start no hanging out goes. There's been a lot of reports Understand what's going over anyway The whole point is D- original down but everyone's regimen is than differ. None of us had the same body. Doesn't mean you need to jump out the window and do what. Your roommate is doing a hurt yourself. Correct right now No because imagine meeting medical help right now because just be smart about it. This is this is just. If you're not if you're not bench pressing Sufi don garbage on Bass I if you not Kirwin all Detroit on thirty pounds I thought Oh no disease should do what you gotTa do to get your body where you wanted to be into safely now letting windows pushing something in that comfortable with especially right now. Please don't archer so trying to over exert yourself so that's just what I wanted to say. Also this month is mental. Health Awareness Month Which is huge to me. So we're going to go ahead and take care of a lot of those topics this month about mental health Just broad spectrum of housing devil mental health issues that we have come across or have dealt with this week We're going to start. What is not so much?.
"phobia" Discussed on WTRH
"Phobia and then there's a gore phobia we have all of this and are of we call them keys for living now he's reliving on a hundred topics but what's so wonderful is people can learn specifically this is what you do and with many many people have a specific phobia about one in in one particular area it can be driving over bridges it can be of any kind of animal it could be enough about dogs cats of course fighters next but but you know the point is we don't want to be controlled by something else as a Christian I need to be controlled by the lord himself and so this is where I'm back and to talk about this perhaps tomorrow night no word in English language is less convincing than probably are you sure we should get matching tattoos on our first date what probably stayed together probably it's been twenty three minutes eight can probably swing you should wait thirty minutes Mihoshi coming with Janet I can probably hit the green from here probably can I get a million Hey are you sure you're okay to drive pretty silver yeah probably okay probably okay isn't okay.
AA: The Early Years
"Welcome back my friends to the big book podcast. My name is Howard and I'm an alcoholic sober since nineteen eight day at a time in this double story episode the Seventeenth and Eighteenth Stories from the personal stories section of the first edition of alcoholics anonymous published in nineteen thirty nine the seventeenth stories entitled the. Fearful one and the eighteenth is entitled. Truth freed me. These two short stories appeared only in the first edition of the big book. So this may be the first time you hear them both stories paint an extraordinary picture of a in the first few years after bill. W and Dr. Bob. Met well before the big book was written. They recount the critical role of early. A A members who carried the message of recovery to still suffering alcoholics who wanted to get sober and now the original story the fearful one followed immediately by truth freed me the fearful one. When I was twenty one I was taken suddenly. And violently ill and was ill for seven years. As a result of this illness I was left with a porsche nervous system. And a curious phobia as this has a large place in my story. I will try to explain it clearly. After I had been ill for some months I grew strong enough to GET OUT OF DOORS. A little each day but found. I couldn't get farther than the nearest corner. Without becoming totally panic stricken. As soon as I turned back home the panic would vanish. I gradually overcame this particular phase of the trouble by setting myself longer distances to walk each day similarly. I LEARNED LATER TO TAKE SHORT STREETCAR. Rides than longer ones and so forth until I appeared to be doing most of the things other people do daily but the things I did not have to do each day or at least frequently remained unconquered and a source of great but secret embarrassment to me so I went on for years planning always to sidestep the things. I was afraid of but concealing my fear from everyone. Those years of illness were not all total invalid ISM. I made a good living part of the time but was continually falling down and having to get up and start over again. The whole process gave me a licht feeling especially when toward the end of my twenties I had to give up the presidency of a small company which was just turning the corner to real success shortly after this I was successfully operated on and became a physically well man but the surgeon did not remove the phobia that remained with me during the period of my illness. I was not especially interested in liquor. I was not a teetotaler but I was just a social drinker. However when I was about thirty my mother died I went to pieces as I had become very dependent on my parents through my illness when I began to get on my feet again I discovered that whisky was a fine pain. Relief from terrific nervous headaches I had developed long after the headaches were gone however I kept discovering other difficulties for which Whiskey was a grand cure during the ensuing. Ten years I once by sheer willpower remained drive for five weeks. I had many business opportunities during those ten years which although I tried to keep them in. My grasp slipped through my fingers a lovely wife came and went. She tried her best. And our baby's birth put me on my medal for all of six months but after that worse and more of it when my wife took the baby and left. Did I square my shoulders? And go to work to prove to her and to the world that I was a man I did not. I stayed drunk for a solid month. The next two years were simply drawn out process of less and less work and more and more liquor. They ended eventually at the home of a very dear friend whose family were out of town. I had been politely but firmly kicked out of the house where I had been boarding and although I seem to be able to find money to buy drinks with. I couldn't find enough to pay advance room rent anywhere one night. Sure my number was up. I chucked my pride and told this friend a good deal of my situation. He was a man of considerable means and he might have done what many men would have done in such a case. He might've handed me fifty dollars and said that I ought to pull myself together and make a new start. I have thank God more than once that that was just what he did not do instead. He took me out bought me three more drinks. Put me to bed and yanked me. Bodley out of town. The next noon to city two hundred miles away and into the arms of one of the most extraordinary bunch of men in the United States here while in the hospital men with clear is and happy faces came to see me and told me the story of their lives. Some of them were hard to believe. But it didn't take a lot of brain work to see. They had something I could use and it was so simple. The sum and substance of it seemed to be that if I would turn to God. It was very probable that he could do a better job with my life than I had. When I got out of the hospital I was invited to stay in the home of one of these fellows. Here I found myself suddenly and uncontrollably seized with the old panic I was in a strange house in a strange city and fear gripped me. I shut myself in my room. I couldn't sit down. I couldn't stand up. I couldn't lie down. Couldn't Lee because I had nowhere to go and no money to take me any attempt at reasoning accomplish nothing suddenly in this Mellstrom. I grasped at a Straw. Maybe God would help me. Just maybe mind you. I was willing to give him a chance but with considerable doubt. I got down on my knees. Something I hadn't done in thirty years. I asked him if he would let me hand over. All these fears and panic to him. I lay down on the bed and went to sleep like a baby an hour later. I awoke to a new world. I could scarcely credit my senses but that terrible phobia which had wrecked my life for eighteen years was gone utterly gone and in its place was a power and fearlessness which is a bit hard to get accustomed to all that happened nearly six months ago in those six months. A new life has opened before me. It isn't that I have been cured of an ordinarily incurable disease. I have found joy in living. That has nothing to do with money or material success. I know that incomparable happiness. That comes from helping some other fellows get straightened out. Don't get me wrong. We are not a bunch of angels. None of us has any notion of becoming such but we know that we can never go completely back to the old ways because we are traveling upward through service to others and in trying to be honest decent and loving toward the world instead of slipping and sliding around in a life of drinking cheating lying and doing what we like truth freed me in. May Nineteen Thirty. Six after a prolonged period of alcoholism. My friends my associates my superiors and those people who really loved me in spite of embarrassments. Too many to mention finally left me because they had come to the conclusion that I didn't have any idea of doing or trying to do the right thing I was a spineless individual who didn't care a rap for anyone or anything I was hopeless and knew it and then in my extremity the divine comforter truth came to me in a bar room where I had spent the major portion of six weeks the divine comforter in my experience came in the guise of a former drinking companion whom I had assisted home on several occasions because of physical infirmities brought about by alcoholic excess. He had been unable to walk a distance of three blocks to his home unassisted. When I last saw him now he approached me and to my amazement he was sober and appeared greatly improved in physical condition. He induced me to take a ride with him. And as we rode along. Told me of the marvellous thing that had come into his life. He had more than a practical idea of my difficulties. He also had a logical and practical idea as to how they might be overcome.
How Does Agoraphobia Work?
"Doesn't it seem like some people aren't afraid of anything? But you know what those people? They're phonies because they're scared of chainsaw clowns just like everybody else. They're just better at hiding it. Everybody has fears. But not everybody has a phobia medically recognized. Phobias are different from normal fear in that they provoke a very intense reaction they're unreasonable or unwarranted for instance being intensely afraid of guy with a shotgun in a ski mass while that kind of makes sense but being intensely afraid of balloons doesn't so much and finally they can interfere with a person's ability to live their life but there are other anxiety disorders that while very real and potentially very disruptive of a person's life are far more insidiously. Vague and Agoraphobia is one of them according to the DSM. Five every year one point seven percent of adolescents and adults will be diagnosed with agoraphobia. So what is it well? A lot of people have heard the term and have a vague idea of what it means but a lot of these ideas are wrong or at least they don't tell the whole story so for instance some things that a Gora phobia are not are a fear of crowds a fear of wide open spaces or a fear of being outside though all of these may be a manifestation of actual agoraphobia. Agoraphobia is actually a broader complaint that will often include some or all of the fears previously listed so for some general layperson definitions to help. You get the gist of it here. We go agoraphobia. Is A type of anxiety disorder in which you fear and often avoid places or situations that might cause you to panic and make you feel trapped helpless or embarrassed. That's from the Mayo. Clinic OR AGORAPHOBIA. Is An intense fear and anxiety of being in places where it is hard to escape or where help might not be available. Agoraphobia usually involves fear of crowds bridges or of being outside alone. That's from the National Library of medicine at the National Institutes of health. One More AGORAPHOBIA is a fear of being in situations where scape might be difficult or help wouldn't be available if things go wrong. That's from the National Health Service in the UK so really agoraphobia is more broadly the fear of being trapped in a vulnerable situation especially when exacerbated by an existing predisposition to panic disorder. Very often the person with agoraphobia specifically dreads experiencing a panic attack or other panicked like symptoms in a situation where such inexperienced would be especially inopportune according to the DSM five and this is the latest edition of the professional diagnostic handbook for mental health professionals. According to that to meet the diagnostic criteria for a goer phobia. You must have quote market fear. Orange Zaidi about two or more of the following scenarios standing in line or being in a crowd being outside of the home alone using public transportation being an open spaces or being an enclosed spaces so the DSM five reports that the person with a Gore phobia fears or voids these situations because of thoughts that escape and might be difficult or might not be available in the event of developing panic like symptoms or other incapacitating or embarrassing symptoms. What physically happens is the following according to the US National Library of medicine these symptoms. Show up when you're experiencing agoraphobia chest. Pain or discomfort choking or shortness of breath dizziness or fainting nausea rapid heartbeat sweating and trembling also according to the DSM five. You can only meet the criteria for diagnosis. If you always are almost always have the fear response to these situations. You actively avoid these situations or require the help of a companion. The level of fear you feel is disproportionate to the threat represented. This condition lasts for six months or more the fear anxiety or avoidance causes coat clinically significant distress or prevents you from living a normally functional life and the suite of symptoms. You experience is not better grouped under another diagnosis for example if your fear only occurs because you fear people's reactions to perceived flaws in your physical appearance this might be a body dismore disorder instead of general agoraphobia. So if you have intense persistent debilitating fear. That you'll begin to have a panic attack or another embarrassing or incapacitating episode while you're stuck in a place or situation you can't get out of or where you can't find help. You might have a Gore phobia. We'll that's a long one and this can have some really serious consequences for example more than one in three people with Gora Phobia are completely homebound and unable to work and sometimes people inappropriately self medicate with the abuse of drugs and alcohol. Agoraphobia often develops out of an existing panic disorder for example if a person experiences a panic attack in particular type of place say for example like an airplane or an elevator. He or she might start to avoid ever being in that situation again over time. This can develop into full blown agoraphobia. Something like Agoraphobia can sometimes be difficult to accurately diagnose since it's associated with something like panic disorder and because the functional symptoms may resemble those of problems with different causes for example may dread and avoid flying an airplane because of a Gora Phobia or maybe simply because you feared death by plane crash. The situational phobia is outwardly similar. But it happens for very different. Reasons are all right. So maybe you're wondering if I've got a Gora Phobia. How do I treat it? Well the most common treatment responses are a combination of cognitive behavioral. Therapy an antidepressant medication. Cognitive behavioral therapy is basically a common form of psychotherapy where the therapist helps the patient talk through thought processes and common behaviors and then replaces those bad thoughts and behavior patterns with better ones antidepressant. Medication could also include drugs. Such as selective Serotonin reuptake inhibitors or s our eyes or Serotonin Neuro. Epinephrine reuptake inhibitors. So if you or someone you know are suffering from agoura phobia. There's help out there. All you have to do is seek it out.
Lifestyle Makeovers: How to Set Personal Boundaries
"Last month. I was standing at the counter waiting for the sales clerk to help me when this woman. That's right in front of me in line. I was shocked. But then they a word hutches pros like an ice sculpture. Dear Oprah I have confrontation phobia once when my hairstylist giving a bad haircut? I didn't tell her I even tipped her then. I just went home and cried. I let people walk all over me like a nature trail. There's someone owes me money. I don't ask for it back and if I do try to bring it up I can hear my voice quivering with fear so I back on a heat beam like this and I really wanted to see well creating stronger boundaries. Is the number one way for most women to improve their lives? Are Lifestyle Makeover Expert Cheryl? Richardson says if you're not setting boundaries. Listen to this if you're not setting boundaries than you are really inviting people to ignore your need right that you get that you're saying come home it's funny you say that because I remember years ago. Someone sent me a postcard. Friend is a joke and on the postcard was a woman. Laying on the ground in there were Footsteps Her body to here and the line unto captions underneath read. Wait wait. There's a part of my face. You haven't stepped on yet well and humorous as it might have been. It really struck me. I realized at that. Time if we don't set boundaries if we don't teach people how to treat us that's the way says if we don't teach people how to treat us then essentially we're basically giving people permission to walk. Well yes and so when you find yourself in a position where you are the one who's always babysitting and then you can't anybody to babysit. You have taught people to respond to you that way. We notice in that point. She said well. I can't find anybody my question would be. Are you asking anybody because usually we have a hard time asking for the things that we need or we have a hard time telling people stop? Can't go any further or that's not okay with me and so we end up feeling come from. Where does this come from well? I think it's I think it's complicated. And the truth is most of our parents were never taught to have boundaries. I think if you go back quite frankly oprah couple hundred hundred years in you look it back then. People had children and children work the farms or they worked the land. I mean there wasn't there wasn't a lot of relating between people and so people never learned how to say this is where I stop and this is where you begin and it just gets carried over. That's right generation women people not as many people put as when women people. We have been socialized to go along with the program. Our brains are. Set Up to be relational more so in a different way than men so being relational whiffed. We've confused being relational or relationship oriented with giving up our needs for everybody else and we've confused being nice with letting people use you. That's right that's right don't you? Thanks good actually to just eliminate from your vocabulary quite frankly because that's exactly what it means being being able to do what other people want you to do but not necessarily especially making sure you like me making sure you speak well about me making sure. I keep you happy. I don't disappoint you. All that stuff now show says to find clues about boundaries. You need to set remember a time when you felt this. Cheryl up remember time when you felt angry anxious or resentful. Yes those are. The first thing is we have to identify where we don't have boundaries in our lives and a lot of women can answer that question so what you can do is take out your journal and start writing about wh. When do I normally feel resentful? When do I feel frustrated? When do I feel anxious? When do I run to the refrigerator? When somebody says something to me and I don't say anything instead I go stuff the feelings with food. Those will start to give you some clues to the places we may need to set boundaries. Okay and after you do that. Then what once you identify a lot of people know where it is when my mother calls when my sister calls anybody as a woman on the tape says we need to do anything right okay right once he would dentist where they are and I think that is important first. Step then it's about getting up the courage to set the boundaries. And it's not just. I'm going to be bold and courageous and go out and do what you need to prepare yourself. You need have someone to speak to. Before and after a difficult conversation you need the right language. We heard something on the tape about well. I don't know what to say. Most of most of the time the reason women don't set boundaries. They don't know what to say. That is true. When I give them language to set a boundary with Grayson love. You can see change in someone's facebook. Oh I can do that. Oh I it never occurred to me. I could say it that way so we need support. We need language and then we just have to take the Almighty leap. I've had this problem for years or had this problem for years and I had to start small and to start a small so at first I couldn't just say no I would have to say used to say. Well let me pray about it. Let me let me let me pray about it. Only prey on it. Let me see and then let me get back to you. Can I think about it for a moment and think about it? Could you give me a day? Will you know what Oprah a lot of women? It doesn't even occur to them if they can do that. And I like that. Let me pray about let me sleep on it or not say. Jesus said no
Fat-Phobia in the Eating Disorder Treatment Community
"My name is page. I'm your host and I'm thinking of you. I hope that all of you are doing okay. This is quite the. Don't even know what to call it quite the intense time. We're in right now. I hope that it doesn't feel insensitive to be posting podcasts. That aren't related to corona virus. But I hope that you understand that. Kinda where I'm coming from is I want to continue to put stuff out there I know for some people. You might not have the bandwidth to really think about anything else other than just day to day getting by but I know many of you may be are looking for just something else to occupy your time and your minden so wherever you are with how you're dealing with this or how you're thinking about it. Just no you have my support and I want you to take care of yourself if it feels good to kind of explore topics in the realm of eating disorders nutrition Recovery then feel free to continue to tune in. I'm planning on continuing to post my planned episodes every other week and I will check in in these intros and just let you know. I'm here for you and I'm supporting you and I'm thinking of you and yes. That's the plan from here on out. I'll continue to post these episodes and I also just want you to know I'm thinking of you. Lots and I great. Today's podcast is with Shira rose who is a licensed clinical social worker in eating disorder therapist? Also someone who is very open and upfront about her own struggle with an eating disorder. She's making real waves in the eating disorder treatment space. I appreciate her voice so much and she's doing such important work to shed light on the problem of fat phobia in eating disorder treatment. So that's our topic for the day. We're talking about her own experiences and kind of what she wished would change in the eating disorder treatment field and this is a really important conversation. I was so grateful that she took the time to talk with me about this. And I really hope that you enjoy this conversation. Please just know that both of us are pro treatment. We are not at all trying to say that you should not go to a treatment center and we make that clear in the episode as well but I just want to kind of say that upfront and we are also coming from a place of deep care and concern for eating disorder patients and we hope that we can provide some solutions through opening up dialogue about where we might be able to improve all right so with that. Let's get into this conversation with Shira and I hope you enjoy high sheera. Thank you for joining me. And welcome to nutrition matters podcast. Thank you page so excited to be here so excited to finally have you on. This has been a longtime comey. I now feel like we talked about a year ago or something. Yeah lots has happened since. Then which is exactly what will be talking about today. So Oh so sure. Will you take a minute and just kind of introduce yourself to any listeners? Who might not already know you or be familiar with your work. Sure so I'm a therapist. And I practice in Chelsea Manhattan and I work with eating disorders disordered eating body image and all from very passionate health at every size framework and. I'm also a start up. Fashion Blogger where it really. Just basically exclusively only fashion and then transitioned to being very vocal about health at every size an inclusive fashion. And the and you know and I started talking about my own eating disorder recovery and so is kind of a whole bunch of stuff on my blog as well. When did you start? When did you start your blog? I started my blog right when I graduated social work school so I guess at this point it's been like seven. Years has been quite a while and talk about what you do there and kind of what the mission has been. I'm so I'm very passionate about making sure that the fashion that I share is as inclusive as possible. I wish I could make sure. There is options up to size forty and fifty and beyond but unfortunately our fashion our plus size. Fashion is still so problematic so I do my best at least include up to size twenty six twenty eight and as much as I can. And that's the minimum that all make sure that we have listed but basically it's just important to me that nobody this is not another place where somebody feels bad about themselves or not included. Because that is I feel like happened so much everywhere else and I wanted to be where you get it from me as well. Yeah you're also really passionate about rainbows and sequins UNICORNS mentioned colorful. Oh my gosh. Yes you're not gonNA see anything remotely minimalistic on my tape. That's what you're looking for. Go somewhere else right. No no no. That's to sad for me. That just makes me sad all the color full color I love it. I'm wearing a tie dye sweatshirt that you were. You were excited about today. So I'm I'm probably going to steal it from you somehow across okay. Maybe we'll we can find it. I'll find where where my sister bought it. Send it your way very come on a mission. Okay so so sure you have been a therapist. You said for seven years. Yeah I graduated Skoll twenty four and then I started practicing four twenty five thirty one now. So yeah so and you've always been in the eating disorder field in your entire career. Is that right yet? I mean when I first started kind of happen accidentally. I had my own disordered. Eating disorder passed. And so I thought you know I kind of thought what we learn is you. Don't go into eating sodas if you have an eating disorder. It's I kind of just stayed away when I was working in general clinic so I saw everything and everyone And then I saw client. Who had an eating disorder and I was like? Oh this is what I WANNA do. This is what I mentioned you and so the my supervisor kind of agreed with as well. She didn't know my history but she felt like I did. Good work so she kept giving me more eating disorder clients and then I kind of just kind of when I realized that. That's what I really want to be doing. And so then they actively pursued it so tell me like what clicked with that first client like what did you. What did you feel? What did you love about it? I just felt like I love kids and I. That's what I was seeing. A lot of. That was fine by was getting bored. And then I saw this client and a wasn't board and I was excited. I was passionate and I felt like I just I got it and I WANNA be careful to say that just because I have my own eating disorder. It doesn't mean that I think I know. Whatever else is what everyone else's experiences are like. Everyone has such unique stories. And that's really important to to know but I just was able to get this in the struggle on a level. Maybe that other people might not in so I just fell just important and it just felt like something. I don't know I was meant to do this. Kind of just like that. Unexplainable like this is what you're you're called to do. This is what you WANNA do. Yeah and I think also because I had a few clients who were never never felt safe in their bodies and I was able to be a therapist that again like work from a health at every size framework even instinctively before I even had the words for it when it first started. I think that was important for me. Knowing how I grew up in how unsafe I was larger body. I never ever wanted anyone to experience that and so if felt pretty good to be able to provide that for other people.
ContraPoints with Natalie Wynn
"I've always kind of liked YouTube. I like the chaos of it. I don't even mostly watch politics. I watch a lot of makeup videos. I watch cooking videos. I WATCH VIDEOS OF COMPETITIVE EATING. I just I. I like the kind of like the way that it's so. Diy in the way that these personalities that would never make it not not any chance of making it in conventional media to cut millions of followers on Youtube. Natalie is joked that she failed her way into youtube stardom after dabbling as a musician dropping out of philosophy. Phd Program and attempting to make it as a fiction writer. Natalie pivoted to video this was in two thousand fifteen soon after she moved to Baltimore and the same year. The city's black lives matter. Movement rose up in response to police killing Freddie Gray and online gamer gate. Trolling and harassment was in full. Swing watching that situation and the black lives matter movement also just incredibly ignorant response from most people on the Internet. That kind of sparks. I think my early interest in trying to talk about these topics on Youtube especially once I saw that a lot of the politics that was going on youtube was like ignorant at best and like Senator Fascist propaganda at worst no things to the power of algorithms the more videos Natalie watched on youtube about things like feminism racism et Cetera. The more crazy shit she saw and the deeper she got into the radicalized rabbit holes of Youtube. My recommended videos feed on Youtube was suddenly full of these videos. Titles like feminism is cancer. Black lives matter is a racist terrorist organization. You know Like these are the talking points that were sort of growing on Youtube in two thousand fifteen. I knew enough to know that was bad. Natalie decided to launch her own YouTube channel. Contra points as a new wants to entertain encounter to all the right wing propaganda. She was seeing on the Internet and as a way to understand why these movements were bubbling up in the first place. Her first video was on in. Cells Aka involuntary celebrates and it's been watched more than three million times and this video. I don't WanNa mock insoles or lecture them or even sympathize with them. I just want to understand who they are. And why they're like this to start with. Sometimes the over thirty five minutes Natalie. Deconstructs in Selma Sajjan step by step grappling with their ideas and even offering some empathy. And that's the key to our videos and a real part of her success. So in your videos you confront a lot of toxic ideas around things. Like in sells for instance. So what is your goal? And how do you approach? Debunking these arguments while it is anthropological. I guess in some sense that is. I'm making a video to inform like a general public about this unusual online subculture. Most very aware that the people from that subculture are going to watch the video. So I I TRY TO MAKE VIDEO. That has like an escape hatch or like a life. Preserver a rope thrown whatever metaphor. I WANNA use that basically allows someone who's watching videos as an incentive to not feel like I'm simply just antagonizing them but also the at least making the effort to understand where they're coming from but my natural inclination when I'm reading this stuff is to be like. Oh Wow this is like these. People are horrible. Impossible to get along with their credit misogynistic but they're also like really really lonely and unhappy and I can try to make a video that doesn't just caricature them but 'cause that's pointless to me so. I try to give people three dimensions what I'm describing them when I'm describing these toxic online subcultures. Do you get the kinds of comments along the lines of like Yeah I mean Natalie. One's pretty liberal. But she's not like all those other liberals like I feel like that's a common trope among lake. I don't know in my conservative comment culture. Oh definitely like that's not not like other liberals is definitely kind of part of the brands like the one I hear the most actually is people say they don't feel judged by me They don't feel like I got a call from someone who said like I was only like transgender person. Could stand to watch Because I didn't make feel a dirty word during that. They would claim that about myself. But I'm glad they feel that way because that is exactly what I sort of go for. I guess WanNa make the videos. I mean I noticed early on that. If you're gonNA talk about especially the social justice kinds of issues. People are so defensive about it. And if you'RE GONNA get through to them you have to make a lot of rhetorical concessions. That might seem totally unreasonable. Like you just can't say the word transphobia most of the time it's just it's just people hate it. People hate accused of anything phobia. Just shut their brains. Doubted Shits shut their ears down. They stop listening to you and same with like calling calling. People Racist Sexist misogynist. There's a turn the time and a place for life using these words But it's not when you're trying to persuade general audience. In my opinion it just causes people to shut down. I think that's such a interesting in really important point in terms of like making the rhetorical concessions and it comes up a lot even just in terms of like you know questions we get of like. Should I call myself a feminist? Well that'd be to alienate. I mean just like basic is that. Is it more valuable to make some rhetorical concessions? If you are going to get through to a person versus using the kinds of words that will to use a term trigger trigger a lot of like hybrid conservative or like. Red Pill types. Well it's always it's always a give and take it's a question of. I mean you lose something when you make the rhetorical concessions often but for me it's about I guess I tried to start a strategize. I'm writing a script like how I can make rhetorical concessions without making ideological concessions to of my own
Dealing With Fear and Anxiety
"Anxiety the real issues and and the idea is especially if this is something that you know you you need prescribed medicine for. Don't minimize the fact that God has given people the ability to create medicine. That helps us deal and and help us with some of the problems that maybe there is a disconnect between our brain and this synopsis in dealing with certain situations in connecting the dots You know I wanNa tell you that if this is something that you struggle with you know not only. Are you an introvert personality. But you really have trouble with fear anxiety. I don't want you to minimize this and this is something that you know if you already have a phobia and it's something that can own your life. You know we want to encourage you as get help. Um Seek Professional Council. Talk to a doctor if it's extreme but we don't want to minimize that and for those of us that are over media over sensitized. Giving in to the world's worst case scenario and it is my neighbor next door to me. Totally infected with covert. Am I GONNA be next? These are the things that we have to come back to a rational mind. And so this podcast particularly not dismissing some of those ones. That are more extreme but to deal with like every day for every day things. -IETY and where do I fit in these things? And how do I cope with them and putting this in perspective of what is the Biblical Lens? What is a biblical approach? That I'm called to be as a man of God as if you're a woman or your wife or your somebody listening to this. What is my response in doing this? And how do I respond? And no matter what we say you know God creator of Heaven. Earth is about all of this. There's a reason there's there's an understanding and he's not mocked and so there's forces in this world that are working against him or biochemistry labs or accidents or spread of viruses or all of these things that we're doing in the end every knee will bow. Every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord and so let's go back to the basics God is in control God is Creator got his omniscient omnipresent. Let's put things in perspective here. Yeah glad you brought that up and I I will tell you in full disclosure and transparency listeners. Out there I'm somebody that that Struggles with post traumatic stress? I've had issues with With all these things like fear and exiled hyper vigilance and things like that. So I will talk a little bit about to the cognitive behavioral therapy. I've gone through and really some of the things that I've used to get over it and I think you probably hit the nail on the head For for what something that really helped me and I'll quote you from scripture from Joshua one nine have not commanded you be strong and courageous do not be frightened and do not be dismayed for the Lord. Your God is with you wherever you go now. I say that and I live by that and I do I really do. I say if if God is with me and God will not abandon me. Then what do I really have to be afraid of And maybe I'm afraid of you know a virus. Maybe I'm afraid of infection. Maybe I'm afraid of death but if I know in my heart if I may If I am a a save Christian I've accepted. The Lord is my savior than I don't have to worry about those things. Now I say all that and then I know what it's like when we're in those moments of fear and worry and anxiety and I can tell you that verse and you can recite that versatile over and over again but I know there's that little voice in our head that says Ya. It's a great Bible verse but that's probably intended for people who've got it all together. People who are more balanced people have a similar live. People who don't have you know crazy. Kids run all over in quarantine right now and so. It's when you're in a I would say this way onto when you're in a rational mind it's easy to say. Oh Yeah I can remember. Joshua one nine and you know. Be Strong and courageous. Don't be for but but when you're in that emotional state or you're already that state of fear and worry anxiety it's hard to bring yourself down back to the rational state. Does that make sense? Yes I mean and the idea is how. How does the word of God that apply to my situation? And and we're we're do I go with Lance Brings Back Joshua Old Testament you know Jesus puts his. Even you know the same perspective the same light in Matthew six twenty five and I'll read through thirty four therefore I tell you do not be anxious about your life what you will eat or what you will drink nor about your body. What you will put on is not life more than food and the body more than clothing. Look at the birds of the air. They neither so nor reap nor gather into barns and yet your heavenly father feeds them. Are you not more value than they and which of you be by being anxious can add a single or to his his span of life? And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field. How they grow. They neither toil nor spin yet. I tell you even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these but of God so clothes the grass of the field which today is alive and to most thrown into the oven. Will he not much more clothes? You of little faith therefore not being ships saying what shall we eat or what choice drink or what shall we wear for the gentile sick. After these things in your heavenly father knows that you need them all but see I the Kingdom of God and his
Spurge is the Word
"Name's Nathan Taylor and I I've been studying you for is for about the about seven years now. Hey Sand Yeah and I particularly focus on a little group called the section Nisa film which is sort of the San Matt like Lance so like spotted spurs prostrate splurge those weedy plants that you get your Your Line Darden. That have that White Milky Sap yet. It's cool that the you know. Those are something I grew up recognizing I mean. I didn't know what they were as a child. But it's it's a familiar group of plants to me you know. I think a lot of people that don't live in arid regions at least. That's probably their main introduction to the Spurs family. But I'm curious. What brought you to this in the first place. We always plant person. And how did you discover you four? Ac's kind of your your focus. Yeah so the main way that I found plants is I live in Dallas. I at the time and I was told by my family that we were moving out to the desert. And where you know. There wasn't really any lush vegetation at all and in the spring. I just saw all kinds of wildflowers and being the kind of person that I am. Naturally I wanted to identify every single one that I saw hand. It just kind of snowballed there now. How I got interested in You. Four via is. I had a mentor of time. Whose name is Bert Williams. And he he knew basically all of the local on the southern highpoints Texas and you four was really just the one group that he sort of just assigned the genus name to and didn't even try with a species. So I I sort of took. That is a challenge and from there when I went to Soros to get my Bachelor's and master's I decided that the best way to study these things would be just a photograph every species in the specimen cabinet. And then go back and look at those at home. Well it turns out that some of the species. That photograph were actually misidentification. Ooh that that added a at an added another Another way to sort of you know. Just push me right into into the groove things. That's a really interesting dive into this world. And from a standpoint of sort of species identification and taxonomy I mean some of the Spurs family's pretty easy to recognize although there's probably plenty of minute details but others can be pretty cryptic which I'm guessing lens to some of the taxonomic end species. Id Confusion You just mentioned definitely. Yeah I mean every every time I go to a herbarium I ended up with a a really good big Saka misidentified before so. This is a big family. And it's one of those that every time I think I have my finger on the pulse of what's going on. I see a few representatives that completely blow my mind in. Send me for a loop but how do you begin to even focus in a family as large as before be acn? I guess from there. We can kind of talk about the subdivisions within that group. Right so I mean the the big thing with you for AC. I mean I'm not. I'm not a huge expert on four. Ac as a whole but but it's really sort of divided by the power structure. You know some some species have pedal some don't Actually probably most of them are money. Isis and then with you for specifically you have the ATM and the site in is is sort of this. Modified infrared essence. That looks like a flower. It's sort of like the composite family in that. It has this the Sudan via this false flower that made up of of an invalid occur and then Various flowers in the middle of it. It is pretty wild to think about that in the context of it being in fluorescence in. It's one of those things that when you say or see anyone on the Internet say you forget. Flowers already. Goes actually. It's a safe but it is a really fascinating structure in it. I'm guessing is kind of what makes you for AC unique or one of the characters that Kinda unites a lot of them Under this taxonomic umbrella definitely and it. It is the essentially. The uniting structure of Euphoria message genus very cool. So how did you end up falling? Into the subgroup Are With the chemist icy type growth form that we've mentioned earlier something that I think a lot of people especially if you live in urban areas or have a sidewalk near your house can probably recognize so it fits into a couple of categories for me that I sort of came to appreciate early on and For whatever reason I really like we species and I really like plants that are small and so this is spit imperfectly for me. And in the fact that the Trans Pecos region of Texas. Which isn't that far away for. Me Is sort of the center of diversity for the group. That's sort of where the plants evolved initially he? The region has sort of a representative of all of the major lineages within this within the section. Oh that's really cool. And so they've just sort of radiated outwards from there and made their way up into the super tempered areas. I'm guessing now because of human activity can be found over a much wider range than the initially would have in a natural setting right right. I mean that that said the you know the the group is actually to diversified on its own worldwide. Yeah so I mean except for the Arctic climates course but yeah it especially in desert. The plants love desserts and really sort of exploded in biodiversity In desert regions around the world. That's excellent and in thinking about the success of a group like this that can conquer so many different types of habitats. I you just said the desserts I see them in temperate zones see them in wet habitats. See them in prairies. A lot of that comes down to the fact that they figured out how to utilize a lot of different types of photosynthetic systems. Right yes yes and actually it is the only see for Winnie edge in phobia and within the section. You actually have both see photosynthesis and an intermediate to photosynthesis which not many people know about. I didn't know that that the but yeah. So it's it's a cool sort of intermediary step that uses a a two carbon molecules sort of funnel the the Co two to the bundle sheath cells instead of a a c four molecule like malic acid and came ascites also has a single C. three plant. Euphoria and Gus Sir. So C four photosynthesis really did serve. Diversify I with this section in this film group he I may have mentioned And basically that sort of the old genus name for it so still switching taxing on gears a little bit if I if I say that that's okay. It's hard to keep up sometimes especially with such complexity in morphology in types in you know this is a group. People generally pay attention to so. Of course there's going to be a lot of changes and updates. But I'm GONNA on the subject of photosynthetic Percy it may be the only genus known that also had as pam it has all those for photosynthetic systems so like the the second species in Africa. He those are actually cam plants so like like tactile out West so you have a wad of diversity in this group as far as photosynthetic systems. It's pretty wild because you know they're plants. Photosynthesis is kind of the main stay of that entire lineage of organisms for the most part and to think about all of the variety in that system you could possibly have. I mean just the thought that there could be an intermediate step between this the C. Two thing that I had never even heard of before until now and I'm wondering if you know is there any indication of what the sort of the end type was for this group or for you phobia in general or is it kind of independent evolutionary trajectories depending on where these originated in how they diversified into what kinds of habitats right right so the the origin of euphoria in general? Masada occur in sort of the South Pacific islands around New Caledonia And it sort of a one of a most ancestoral fees. It's actually not a euphoria. It's I can't remember Gina's name off the top of my head but it has a site apium but it's not quite as well structured as a regular you forget ended sort of a sort of a shrub plants in in that area now the the origin of section in this film. I know a lot more about their a lot of really cool features that sort of unite this group but one of the main things is that I mean it it. It evolved from plants. That looked more. Like let's say the gophers purge so like four elaborate before the rigid That sort of SEO like structure the seventeen setiawah basically it. It has this of main stem with with alternate leaves But the emperor essence is sort of KSM with the world of leaves at the base and then it has Casal Branson's That sort of come off that importance and all on that occasion it has opposite leaves he in section and this film they only have opposite leaves. They don't have any alternate leaves at all and that sort of led to the speculation that basically announce analogous to a an import about SC group
Why Are We Afraid of Friday the 13th?
"In order to organize time. Human beings created calendars as part of today's dominant calendar system. Every year is divided into twelve periods called months consisting of roughly thirty days. Each all days are also grouped in two sets of seven called weeks and in Europe and the Americas a significant chunk of the population suspects. That bad things will happen whenever the Thirteenth Day of a month occurs on the day of the week called Friday like many human beliefs the fear of the number thirteen which is try skied. Deca phobia or of Friday. The thirteenth known as Paris. Kevi DECA try. A phobia isn't exactly grounded in scientific logic but the really strange thing is that most people who believe the day is unlucky. Offered no explanation at all. Logical order illogical as with superstitions people fear Friday the thirteenth for. Its own sake without any need for background information. The superstition does have deep compelling roots though and those origins help explain why the belief is so widespread. Today the fear of Friday the thirteenth stems from two separate fears the fear of the number thirteen and the fear of Friday's both have deep roots in western culture and most notably in Christian Theology. The number thirteen significant therein. Because it's the number of people who were present at the Last Supper Jesus and his Twelve Apostles Judas. The WHO betrayed Jesus was the thirteenth member of the Party to arrive. Friday has had a negative connotation because Jesus was crucified on a Friday additionally theologians hold that Adam and Eve ate from the forbidden fruit on a Friday and the great flood began on a Friday in the past. Some Christians would avoid beginning any new project trip on a Friday fearing that they would be doomed from the start. Sailors were particularly superstitious in this regard often refusing to ship out on a Friday and supposedly President Franklin D Roosevelt was among these ranks. Some historians suggest that the Christian distrust of Friday's is actually linked to the early Catholic churches overall suppression of Pagan Religions and of women in the Roman calendar Friday was devoted to Venus the goddess of love when the norse adapted the calendar. They named the day after Frig or Freya North goddesses connected to love and sex. The story goes that both of these strong female figures once posed a threat to male dominated Christianity. So the Christian church vilified the day named after them. This characterization may also have played a part in the fear of the number thirteen. It was said that frank would often join a coven of witches normally a group of twelve bringing the total to thirteen. This idea may have originated with the Christian church itself. It's impossible to verify the exact origins of most folklore. A similar Christian legend holds thirteen is unholy because it signifies the gathering of twelve witches and the devil. The number thirteen could have been considered pagan because there are thirteen months in the pagan lunar calendar the lunar calendar also corresponds to the human menstrual cycle connecting the number again to women but there are other traditions linked the number thirteen and Friday the thirteenth to unlucky nece in Norse mythology. The beloved hero Balder was killed at a banquet. By the mischievous God Loki. Who crashed the Party of twelve bringing the group to thirteen this story as well as the story of the last supper led to one of the most entrenched thirteen related beliefs. That you should never sit down to a meal in a group of thirteen. Another significant piece of legend is a particularly bad Friday the thirteenth that occurred in the Middle Ages on a Friday the thirteenth in thirteen o six King Philip of France arrested some of the revered knights templar and began torturing them marking the occasion as a day of evil both Friday and the number thirteen were once closely associated with capital punishment in British tradition. Friday was the conventional day for public hangings and there were supposedly thirteen steps leading up to the news. They're rumors of a secret society starting in the late eighteen. Hundreds at William and Mary called Thirteen's said to be groups of thirteen students. Who would meet in defiance of the superstition? The date was first enshrined in pop culture in Nineteen O seven when one Thomas Lawson wrote a novel called Friday thirteenth about a stockbroker who purposefully crashes the stock market on that day around the same time. Skyscrapers going up would often omit thirteenth floor. A practice that continues today. People Point to the trials and tribulations faced by the astronauts of the Apollo Thirteen Mission. And of course the wildly popular Friday the thirteenth horror franchise about sometimes villain Jason Voorhees and Camp Crystal Lake further spread. This ancient meam ultimately the complex folklore of Friday. The thirteenth doesn't have much to do with people's fears today. The fear has much more to do with personal experience. People learned at a young age that Friday the thirteenth is supposed to be unlucky for whatever reason and then they look for evidence that the legend is true. Evidence isn't hard to come by. Of course if you get in a car wreck on one Friday the thirteenth or lose your wallet or even Spill Your Coffee. That day will probably stay with you but if you think about it bad things begin. Small happen all the time. You're looking for bad luck. On Friday the Thirteenth. You'll probably find it
Coronavirus And Parenting: What You Need To Know Now
"We're going to talk with you about really the only thing that Anya and I have been talking about for the last two weeks Colona virus. Obviously that's what everyone has been talking about so this is going to be a special life kit parenting episode about how to talk with young kids about corona virus. How to deal with school closures may be. Your school is closed. Or maybe it isn't and you're worried about why it isn't We're also GONNA talk about some screen time strategies if your kids are home and most importantly how to keep our kids healthy and because we're education reporters. We are in the privileged position of talking to experts about this. And so we thought that we would come to you our life kit listeners and pulled together everything that is a potentially useful so here we go take away number one. We'RE GONNA start super basic here is. We've said this two weeks ago we're GONNA say it again. Your kids need to understand. Not only that. It is important to wash their hands but really show them how to wash their hands. Well make sure they take twenty seconds. Make sure they use soap and you know have him sing a song in their heads. Whatever it is whatever it takes. This is seriously one of the most powerful things that you end. They can do to protect not only themselves but all of us right so when they wash their hair. They've washed their hands when they come in from outside before eating and then coming along with that so I spoke to a friend of Mine Kavita. And she is the MOM. Actually of immuno-compromised kid. He's three years old and he's doing pretty well but he had it. He's had a stem cell transplant in the past so they are really really re used to all this stuff as a family. And here's some of this. She told me as soon as we walk inside. We just wash our hands for a good thirty seconds to a minute. Do you listen. We use lotion. Because the handwashing can really cause your skin to crack we aquaphor and things that we might not think of Don't forget to clip your fingernails. Every other day keep them short because the virus hides under there and we've heard this thing to stop touching your face rate. It's very hard for me. I will fully admit I caught myself on the metro this morning. Touch and Manos right so I do it. I know it was really alarming. Sorry so so. A couple of tips one is. I painted my toddler's face yesterday. And she had touched it so many times within like five minutes. I think it was actually a pretty good reminder for US still spitballing on that all right moving on to take away number two. When we're talking about corona virus it is really important to give them facts and be reassuring. Yup Don't make promises though that you cannot keep right so the big thing that comes to mind for me is any parents first reaction when a child has am I gonNA get Corona virus is GonNa be no of course not no. Don't be silly. Don't say that because you don't know that that is not a promise that you can keep and so instead these recommendations come directly from the CDC talk about what Cove Nineteen looks and feels like say you know. It can feel kind of like a flu. People can get a fever or cough. The might have a hard time breathing. You can be reassuring that only a small group of people really who get it actually have more serious problems and we also know from what doctors have seen so far. That kids don't seem to be getting very sick. Yeah that's a huge. I think for kids to to listen to you into here. Is that very very few? Kids have gotten sick. Yeah absolutely and on your one. More thing Just because I don't think we can say this enough in every episode that we do for parents and kids is always double down on the fact that there are helpers out there there are always home whether you get sick with Cova nineteen or flu or you fall off your bicycle and break your arm. They're going to be folks out. There will help you get through this yup totally you know. We have a whole life episode on talking to kids about scary stuff in the news. But just in a thirty second recap Ask what they have heard what what rumors they may have. Come across. Ask other feeling. Make sure that you check in and limit the flow of information in your house and honestly this really goes for parents to you know no screens in the bedroom at night Don't play the news all day. We all need to take a lot of breaks from what's coming in at US absolutely so. Arteta number three is that we should all try to reduce any stigma or misinformation phobia around this virus. You may have heard politicians talking about the Chinese corona virus. You know it's been kicking around. It's very important especially when you talk to school leaders. Educators social workers. It's very important when talking with kids especially about this outbreak that we don't try to assign blame Because this disease affects all of us and we all need to help protect each other our takeaway number four is about closing schools. And Cory's been reporting on this. It's really complicated decision. Yeah I think we're really just at the beginning of a wave of closures and there are a couple of things that I really want parents to understand. I know there's been a lot of clamor from parents to close schools now And there is research on you and I both know this. There is research out there that says that closing schools proactively doing it early Does help slow? The spread of disease it is effective But the thing I want parents to understand is there are very real public. Health concerns and risks that come with closing the school so think about it in this country. We have nearly thirty million kids. Who depend on schools for free or reduced price breakfast lunch sometimes even dinner yet and we have a million and a half kids sadly they don't have stable housing so I guess the the take homes here are just to know. This is a very complicated decision. Obviously authorities or making it Understand the pressure that they're under and figure out ways that we as communities from can pull together and help the kids that are needier in our communities when it comes to this and I've already heard of really creative thoughts around that Sort of extending meal distribution and communities for example so so we shall be on the lookout for ways to help anything
"phobia" Discussed on Happy Hour Gets Weird
"Yeah Yeah Yeah. I don't know it's who knows why people do this yet. They do so when you have this fear. Did it talk about what part of escalator? You are afraid of probably the whole part or it could be the moving railing or it could be. It didn't talk about what part. It just said that people would avoid escalators. And do you remember when there was the all the stuff going around with like getting your shoe laces stuck an escalator? Yes terrified because that happened to somebody right. Yes and shredded her arm and leg. Yeah Oh you could get your long coat stuck and I'm you can get a scarf stuck in. Yeah laces anything could get stuck in there and it will literally shred your limbs off like is there a fucking Ufo Arnav roof so apparently my neighbor is cutting down h free and they're putting it in a chipper right outside of my house so if you can hear some crazy sounds it's not unfortunately a UFO. Yes my neighbor. Yeah sorry sorry about that. We just want to apologize. But there's literally nothing we can do besides getting a fight with the neighbors so that's not an option and they should probably know by now that we're podcasters and they should talk to us first before they landscape. Yeah I agree. I agree with that. The fact that they don't know is actually pretty. It's pretty selfish. It's selfish of them. It is it is all right. Where where we because? We got distracted by this noise. I think we were just finishing up. Your escalator phobia. Oh yeah about. How ESCALATES KID? Shred your limbs off. Yes yeah that's similar to the wood chipper outside. We should have just went with that and been like sound effects for what that could possibly sound like such a good idea. So what? We said earlier about the neighbor Would shipping their tree. Actually it's just the sound effect of what it sounds like to get your limbs shredded off an escalator. Yes are are we being too aggressive? Okay Global Phobia. Do you know what this one is. No but can I guess yes Is it okay? I'm just going to go with? The obvious is a fear of earth. No it's a fear of ballooned. Oh what if? I'm just saying all of these totally wrong. It's fine. It's fine what I yeah. So people suffering from a global phobia. Fear the sight touch or even smell of balloons interesting. Global Phobia like we have set about most of these Phobias often stems from being traumatized as a child. Often balloon had popped in a person's face when they were very young and that sudden loud pop like the sound of a gunshot is frightening for Young Children. Usually people grow out of this fear of balloons. But sometimes they don't you know I think Fair balloons sometimes go hand in hand with fear of clowns two. I was actually going to say that you were spoiler. Oh sorry I hit him. Say is yes. They are often linked hand in hand. So I guess traumatized by a clown balloon experience. They're kind of Lincoln reign forever. Yeah on the other side of that. There is a fetish. There's a balloon fetish. There is a balloon fetish. Is there a clown fetish? Probably there's fetish for the Clown phobia is called Cora Fabio why not just clown fit Fetish Freudian slip. They're all so difficult to say. Yeah they are. I watched a clip of Anderson Cooper Anderson. Cooper's show yeah where they had people on that had the balloon phobia okay and they popped balloons on the show like on purpose to pose them yes. They asked their permission for okay and they were fine. But these people's anxiety was palpable. Yeah it was two or three women I C. I can't remember but it was more than one woman and they were both so terrified and it was. I mean it was honestly hard to watch because I felt bad for them but they were brave and they they didn't and they got through it and they said that it was okay. It was manageable. The woman said the popping. The balloon in front of her was really helpful because she had this idea of the sound of the balloon popping and the smell of that latex see smell air gushing in her face and all sorts of things and that reliving it as an adult she realised how she had over dramatized in her mind. It scares as a child but as an adult it was manageable. So it was actually. It was cool. Okay so when you when you think to yourself that you know how could somebody have this phobia or that phobia when you see the people that are actually suffering from the phobias? You see how difficult it is and how much they have to overcome to get past him so I appreciate it watching this show. It was interesting. Yeah I I never think like oh how could you even be scared of that like I totally get it? That's because we both have. I think we're both pretty empathetic. But we also both suffer from things like that but some people they might not not. Everybody has the same sort of empathy that you have. You know yeah Also I wanted to mention okay in relation to this phobia If you feel like you suffer from global phobia. Don't be too hard on yourself. Because sodas the Queen Herself Oprah. You're kidding did you hear this. No you didn't know this. No so in two thousand thirteen. She admitted her fear of balloons after her fortieth birthday party where her staff covered the floor and room with balloons in celebration. So that means every party Oprah has had. There's been no balloons. I think that maybe there were a few balloons but this balloons it was this party. It was intense balloons everywhere because it was her fortieth in the end. Oprah ended up facing her fear and walked through a sea of latex. She did kick balloons out of her way. There was just. It was seriously balloons everywhere. Did she get she she was fine? She overcame it and it kind of used it to herself. As a way representing overcoming your fears. I love it I love Bre. Yeah she kind of made it a lesson for herself. Of course she would. Of course you would. That is Oprah does. So she's like it was a learning moment and it just now I just look back on it and think to myself like if I can overcome this fear I can overcome any fears that stand my way. I honestly don't know if Oprah's fear of balloons is at the level of a phobia. I don't know if it's technically a phobia or something that she's uncomfortable with but it still made me feel a little better about myself to think that. Oprah's afraid of balloons. I mean if Oprah can have a phobia than anybody can. Yeah seriously. Yeah I agree. What what were you just looking at? What's Your Botkin this? Yeah there was vodka in this. Yeah okay there's Vulcan grapefruit juice I told you that Roy. Yeah I'll be I just I add more. No I thought there wasn't any like I feel like the trick on me. There was there was a shot and there is this. Sounds like when you had the GIN and you said it's a non alcoholic. Gin Unlike Rampart happened that night. Yes I do okay and this brings us. I think to our final in-depth Phobia. Do you want to save your phobia because it's personal for the end and I'll tell one more doesn't matter to me but sure your job. Your last phobias personal right. Yes it is okay I wanNA save it for the because I feel like save the best for last okay. So you have to say okay. This is my last phobia That I'M GONNA share okay and I'm going to be in it with a story. Okay Oh all right in two thousand sixteen Turkey to friends. Why do you have to give me this jerky the place or a Turkey? The place okay. Nobody's ever just said like there was a Turkey there in the room. I'm just wondering two thousand sixteen. I mean if you're partly it was a Turkey that would be a very different story. I just wanted to know where this was going. I'm sorry clarification. Okay in two thousand sixteen Turkey to friends and co-workers were at their place of work one of the men no wing of his friends somewhat. Bizarre Phobia taunted the other with a lemon. What the taunted man lost his cool and fear overtook him out. No he went to his truck pulled out his rifle no and fatally shot his friend. What the fuck the shooter reportedly said I am so sorry that I have killed my friend. It is the lemon UC. I cannot stand the sight of them. They make me crazy. Isn't that terrible? It is awful. I mean The friend taunting him obviously didn't know how bad it would disturb him and the front. Who did it immediately remote remorseful. He said that he didn't intend to kill him. He just intended to scare him the same way he had been scared by the lemon. I don't think that lemons and guns are punch him in the face. Yeah just punch him or throw the lemon at us. I guess you wouldn't touch the lemon and lemon's he wouldn't touch a lemon. Yeah no pick up. Anything within arm's reach like here's the thing you have enough peace of mind to walk out to your truck. Get in and drive away. I believe that the act of walking to the truck to get the gun makes it premeditated I agree with that. I I think that's league. I mean I don't know about the in Turkey but I'm saying here. I believe that that is legally makes it premeditated just that much time because that's like your cooling off period. Yeah it's an awful story. Well how about this? Put The keys in the truck and drive the fuck home. It's an awful story. Yeah terrible Acerra phobia is the fear of sourness or things. That tastes our. Oh so it. Wasn't dilemma. It was the fact that it was sour. Ooh That's a twist I didn't see coming people have this. Fear might avoid sour foods such as lemons or pickles. I'm assuming that the man for my story had this phobia unless maybe he has a very lemon specific phobia that I did not find. Yeah yeah this. Fear like most others stems from a traumatic event surrounding sour foods as a child and it can also be heredity hereditary tomato tomato potato potato nation niche route route. I go to this day. I see a question. Have you ever heard anyone colored potato? That's how I say what are you. What are you trying to say? Is that not.
"phobia" Discussed on Happy Hour Gets Weird
"Hi Guys I'm Cassie and I'm tiffany. This is happy hour gets weird. Welcome or welcome back Telo. We are a podcast that gets together. Every week has cocktails and talks about. We're Chit exactly and this week. We are drinking a botanical press so delicious and refreshing definitely. Give it a try. Yeah when I got here I was totally dead and I need caffeine and then I had a sip of this and I no longer needed caffeine. It woke me right up. It's so refreshing. So if you want the recipe in the picture of that head over to our instagram at happy arrogance weird pod. We always post our recipe and a picture and also on our twitter. Yep CHECK US out. Yeah and this week we are doing something kind of scary a little scary a little anxiety. Inducing it'll make you BARF. What well according to the symptoms okay. Mic GET NAUSEA Oh I don't know if we should lead with listen to this at you might bar. I don't know if that's really selling well. It just happened. So we're gonNA talk about phobias. This week we thought it would be an interesting weird topic to discuss. So we're each going to talk about a few different phobias. We've found kind of interesting and to get US started. Will you just explain a little bit about phobias? In general yeah sure. Of course I'd love to. Its would be my pleasure first off. I want to start by saying in no way. Are we making fun of people with mental illness? I myself struggle with mental illness. I have anxiety and I've dealt with depression and I also have a phobia of my very own. Happier gets weird is an entertainment podcast. We're here for fun and it's a place where Weirdos connect with one another because life is hard. Being an adult is hard. Being parents. Hard being woman is hard being just a second human heart. Yes and sometimes you just need to take a breather and listen to two experts of absolutely fucking nothing. You talk about Weird Shit and how I deal with kind of my anxiety and stress. I laugh to keep from crying. That's how I kinda him cope same with things. So if you're listening and you're going through something it is my goal to make you laugh a little bit. Give you a reprieve from whatever you're going through and we also want you to know that you're not alone. No never. You're if you're if you're struggling you're not alone and We're all in this together exactly so I just wanted to preface episode. We're not making fun of people with mental illness. If anything we're making fun of the phobias themselves yes. Perfect perfectly said right. Yeah I agree with you on everything I to have anxiety issues and you know they fucking suck but as long as you have somebody to Kinda hang out with and dish it out with. It makes it better. Yeah you know. Sometimes I This is going to be like a like super personal and I've never talked about this before but sometimes I have Anxiety about groups of teenagers. Okay I honestly that's fair. I've met teenagers. They for some reason they see me. They it's because a lot of them are so. I'm sure I was very mean teenager. But that's actually a phobia. A specific phobia is a fear of teenagers. Like in a group or even one on one even one on one people with F. Olbia fear of teenagers. I don't know the medical lot name for it but they will avoid teenagers at all costs. Which maybe now I have to phobias. Maybe you have the teenager phobia. Yeah honestly that's a fair phobia. Because teenagers can be brutal. Yeah I can't you know what I I WANNA dedicate this episode to high school teachers. They seriously have the hardest job on the planet. Yeah that's tough in this moment. That feels very makes him very anxious to have to get up every day and Stan in a in a room full in front of a room full of angsty teenagers. That are using words that you don't even know yes. New Slang new terms weird handshakes. They're pissed off for no reason. They smell weird. Yeah Gary Scary terrifying. Yeah I just traumatized myself anyways. All jokes aside. I'll get off my soapbox because my fear of heights is acting up and I will get into it so my sources. I looked at an article on health. Line DOT COM. And I also looked at. I hope I pronounce his correctly. Thera- BEIEVE DOT COM and. It was a specific phobia. Dsm Five Article What I used for this is the. It's called the D. s. m. five and what that stands for his diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders. And that's what psychologists psychologists psychiatrists and psychologists use to diagnose mental disorders outside of the norm. Okay my sources are very well. Mine Dot com fear of dot net. I read a little article on huffpost vice and common phobias dot com phobias are defined in the DSM five as extreme or irrational fears often persistent that compel suffers to avoid the object or situation to which there is connected as specific phobia relates to a particular stimulus that causes fear. Anxiety or avoidance and results in intense distress for the suffer now specific phobias have no single universal cause or pattern of development. They really don't know it's not like neurological thing that you can track. Most specific phobias develop during childhood and adolescence although the disorder may be present at any stage often in connection with a traumatic experience. Yeah that's what I read in in pretty much everything that I read said. They were typically related to a traumatic experience as a child but some people grow out of that and then some people don't yeah so it could be heredity. It could be depending on how severe the trauma was really just. Don't know what could trigger the phobia right. Yeah there's a couple I was reading. Actually you just jogged my memory. There's a couple ways of phobia could spring about one. It could be a learned phobia from a caretaker to it could be from a traumatic event. It could be I think hereditary heredity heredity hereditary movie. Oh I think it's the same thing though right heredity. Yeah let's just go with heredity. Your tomorrow one. Out of both of us. I mean half the time I make up words I'm not. But what is hereditary and heredity are the same things. Yeah right sure. Why not if we say it Dr Tapeworm so I just remembered I was reading something while doing research and it is could be like for example? Something that you could grow out of like you said is a fair bathing. Some Kid's fair bathing. They grow out of that. I hope you grow out of that if you have some people don't want. I know people don't rough that's hard. Yeah that could cause a lot of other issues to spring up like isolation definitely anyway so that I found. That was interesting that you could even A phobia could be a learned behavior. So if your parent hasn't the phobia or if the parent puts fear and you have a situation than it can cause a phobia. Yes exactly thank you for giving me one more thing to worry about. As a mother thinks casts I was went. You know honestly when I read that I was like. Oh my goodness by doing the doing this to my children because I have a phobia and it's you know my kids know about it. Yeah it pops up every now and then so I'm not sure if mine qualifies as a phobia but now. I'm afraid that in passing that on to my kids my gosh. I can't wait to talk. Shit I cannot wait to talk with. Mother is so difficult is it's really difficult. And that's why we have happy hour every week yet. Exactly this is exactly why we have this podcast. Okay according to the DSM specific phobias typically within five general categories but they're not limited to these categories fears related to animals such as spiders dogs index Fears related to the natural environment heights. Thunder darkness fears related to blood injury or medical issues. Shots broken bones falls. I just remembered when I said I hated blood so much that I'd throw a rock at somebody who was bleeding. That might well phobia. Oh no now I'm Gonna I'm gonNA discover that I actually have seven phobias when I thought I had won by the end of this episode. Same saying seriously. Same fears related to specific situations such as flying riding in an elevator driving a car and other classification which is like choking loud noises drowning very specific something. You can't categorize there's just no category miscellaneous miscellaneous project. Phobias can be treated with a combination of therapy and medications now. Medications would be like anxiety medications just to reduce the anxiety. One effective treatment which I found particularly terrifying is a type of psychotherapy called exposure therapy. Yes and during exposure therapy you work with a psychologist to learn how to desensitize yourself to the object or situation that you fear You get exposed little by little to what you fear so You know what I want to know is what about fear of shot. They give you shots. I think they would probably start by showing you the needle. And then you'd hold the needle and then yeah. In one of my phobias. That was luna the best ways to get over it and I wrote gradual exposure to the object and then that just made me think of like slowly removing your pants which is not at all what they mean by exposure. I wrote gradually exposing yourself to just like exposing yourself in slow Mo just slow most thing in front of the object. I you know I You don't like that idea though I mean. How else would you become desensitized to it unless you were around it? That's true we'll get into that at the end we'll talk about our personal experiences with phobias and fears and stop and I will. We'll just talk about. I'll save it for the end. Okay I also read. Did you read that? Hypnosis has also helped yes but I personally would never be let myself be hypnotized. I don't Wanna be open to someone else's suggestions so I would not choose that route with phobia. What if you had somebody else in the room with you? So then they give me their ideas. I would just take on someone else's ideas you don't trust anybody enough to be in the room with you to make sure that they're not hypnotizing. My fear is being hypnotized. An every time you see the color red you you crow like a rooster yeah. That's exactly what I'm talking about Crowe. I believe it's Cockatiel do I'm saying if somebody else's in the room with me to keep me safe from a right I don't like the idea of hypnosis or hypnotherapy because first of all you could implant false ideas you could also. I read a book. Yes it was fictional but is not a far stretch to be realistic a therapist? Who was clearly. The villain of this book was hip treating his patients for phobias. But he was actually while he was he was treating them with hypnosis and while he was hypnotized them he was planting new phobias. Yes creepy yes and also I think there's There was a movie. Or maybe it's the same book where he was also planting Ideas to rob banks for himself He was hypnotized his patients and having them rob banks. Wow and give him the money. I was under the impression that when you're under hypnosis you couldn't do. You could never be hypnotized into doing something that you were morally opposed to..
"phobia" Discussed on Therapy for Black Girls
"Is knowledgeable about exposure. Therapy in knowledgeable about phobias and anxiety is very important because there's also some land mines in that because if you really want to stay away from flooding where we just like you said about the cat walk into a role with cats that can set you back with your fear and make it even worse so you WanNa have someone that is knowledgeable about this. Yeah very appointment. He's I'm glad you shared that. So where can people find you online? What's your website as well as any social media handles you'd like to share okay. So I do on group practice. He in Chicago in our website is I Shea S. H. E. C. C. That song and thinking can find me on instagram or facebook. So is under. Mj Gel as a my handle is on instagram. That's what I like to use the most. I love followers and walk followers in. We're at Akshay counseling on instagram. So it's all one word A. S. H. E. Counselor Seal U. N. S. E. L. I. N. G. Perfect. And of course we will have all of that in the show notes and the anxiety and phobia workbook will also be linked in our show notes in case anybody wants to grab a copy of that. Well thank you so much man these. I appreciate you share with us today. Thank you so much have municipal so much fun. I love it I love it thank you. I'm so glad these was to share her expertise with us today to learn more about her and her practice and to check out the resources she shared be sure to visit the show. Notes at therapy for black girls dot com slash session. One forty three employees remember. She had this episode with two people in your circle. And don't forget to share your takeaways with us on twitter or in your I g stories using the Hashtag. T- BG IN SESSION IN CASE. You missed it last week. I dropped a bonus episode of the podcast featuring my conversation with Dr Key hallman discussing sisterhood in business. It was the first part of a three part series. I'm doing with the support of five Zor as we countdown to the Black Enterprise Women of power summit for two of the series drops this Friday. So be sure to be on the lookout for that one as well. If you're searching for a therapist in your area be sure to check out our therapist directory at therapy for Black Girls Dot com slash directory. And if you WANNA continue digging into this topic and meet some other. This is in your area. Come on over and join us in the yellow couch collective where we take a deeper dive into the topics from the podcast. And just about everything else. You can join us at therapy for black girls dot com slash Y C C think. Y'All so much for joining me again. This week I look forward to continuing this conversation with you. Real soon take care..
"phobia" Discussed on All In The Mind
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"phobia" Discussed on All In The Mind
"Pilot and be given a lot of facts that they can then use to challenge their previous issed thoughts about that plane environment and then when we look at beginning the actual exposure part of the flying courts. It might start by looking at the planes in the sky and making sure that what we're thinking about those planes in the skies appropriate a typical example might be someone he looks at applying things on my gosh. That's that's terrible. I could never do that and we would want to be challenging that with some Nice plain fact such as that's a very safe situation. There's there's a lot of planes taking off and landing if we single day and they will happen without catastrophic event and be able to manage the anxiety that that brings and then we'd work okay up maybe looking at at videos of plane environments we will then practices flight simulator as our closest thing to a real flight they might undertake take other tasks that might be related to their fear for them which might be going up into tall towers or going in ferris wheels. Cable cars lifts if they're fear has this generalized to those areas. All of these things is stepping stones to getting a flat themselves. How successful are they say? The particular treatment for fear of flying fine. We have great results for such a very brief treatment relatively brief treatment. We do that in five sessions and the people that have completed the corpse. They've they've met their goals to our knowledge in terms of the feedback that we've received which has often been to get on a shea told fly often people wanting to travel to you loved ones. They may not have seen for decades. Koriak Lindy explains that central to effective treatment is carefully in gradually exposing exposing people to their fears. She uses virtual reality to place her clients in situations which they most fear without having to leave the clinic cleaning. She exposed me to a couple of phobia scenarios. So now I'm showing you a hospital setting. Oh yes there's a blue chair in front of me and a curtain and looking around to the right and there's a bid and and then there's my arm down there with about to get a needle through nurses stabbing something on my on my arm and in just injected injected me with an Adl and she's taking the built off and she's taking blood from my arm it is it's very real also very moving. Yes so this. One is the virtual reality for the blood test or imagine that some people who really aren't comfortable with needles getting blood taken their shield their eyes. But in this situation you can actually watch everything that's going on. That's right yes. And you know the more you adjust your perspective to make that your actual arm the more that practice will generalize across into the real life situation and the great thing about this is. There's no expectation of how the client would manage initially but we do want them to get to a point where they're managing anxiety where they feeling feeling a little bit more comfortable so we might go through these underpaid twenty or so times how will go Into beds so you can probably hear those big and if you turn around a little bit you start to see them flying this yes I consider Hyde Park or something like that and I've got y'all's sitting right in front of me. skulking away there's a man standing in feeding the birds so they're gonNA give very close to me and it does feel very real found in looking round behind me to my left and I can see another goal surrounded by seagulls characteristics. Southbound the seagull as well as often the flapping that clients with the fear of birds will. We'll find concerning and in this week. We've made sure that you've got a lot of that Movement up-close O K so now I'm inside a cage and the just shut. The door feels very confined turnaround. announed you'll see your oh behind me. A whole host is observed. They dislike budgerigars. I think there's imperatives this so many of them and they're very very close to me and chirping quite loudly with in quite high up in the cage and I'm looking down to the bottom of the cage is well birds just lining the walls So that's probably the closest we will get now not all people with a fear of birds. have concerns of budget so depend on the particular conduct but actually actually quite a few of the people that come to us. Their main bird of concern is the seagull. The pigeon or the ibis ibis footage as well Korea cleaned clinical director of the Sydney Phobia Clinic. You're with all in the mind on our in. I'm Lynn Malcolm. Many people feel anxious when faced with snakes. spiders heights traveling by plane and social situations a fear of confined and find places CLAUSTROPHOBIA. or of open space. Agra phobia is also common but win these fees are extremely rational or cause the person to have uncontrollable reactions they become phobias and can be associated with panic attacks. Professor Etem Guas Stella from the brain and Mind Center at Sydney University Researches Phobias and their treatment he says they typically develop in childhood wiltord it can appear at any stage in life most of us. Don't naturally go why. There's some reason why they go away. And that's usually a bad experience. Yes and treatment provides a really great way of developing corrective experiences. That help you to understand with something but I won't just magically go line line. So it's important that phobias a treated so they don't extend whale into adult life. Adam Quesadilla remembers one man in his the eighty s who came to him for help with his social phobia we provided treatment and he I became his anxiety and phobia what he described in the assessment. That was a long history of missing Adam things because of the five year he turned down promotions. He wouldn't supervise people. He wasn't willing to go to parties. He wasn't able to Have a close relationship because of social fears and so he missed out on a whole range of things in his life and he reported not ever having a girlfriend and then three to six months. I got a letter from him saying he had his first girlfriend and of all wonderful but it was also really sad. Because I thought to myself stuff you know people get treatment early. He could have had a completely different law of course. And that's what I started. Young people particularly young people coming to at school or in their early years. If you get treatment early it's not gonNA impact your life. And so he had that treatment really light in his life. What sort of treatment was then? We use cognitive behavior. Therapy which the evidence-based most effective for trading five years what's CB cognitive behavior. Therapy does is examines the thoughts that you have around and fees and challenges exams the evidence for those thoughts but then also gives you experiences through what is termed exposure therapy but experiences. This is which teach you gradually. The what fear is actually Saif. He's how he's treatment. Process would be applied to someone with spider phobia. Firstly firstly we would try and identify exactly what fees if they feel that lose control if they feel that God crises I feel the spotter would attack them and they would put them in controlled environments with spotters to test his beliefs for example. We might have. Someone disdained three meters away from a spotter in a box where ah can't get out and just watch it and just see what happens in that time. The person's leaning about what spot is but they're also learning about their ability to cope with the spider in their presence tight with their own anxiety. And what we know is you can put people in the worst nightmare situations and if it's a safe safe place and nothing bad does happen that'll be fine. They'll cub and their anxiety. We'll go in and so eventually I tom. Their anxiety goes down and so then you might get the person to be closer and closer and as they get closer they'll start to have doubts again about all get any closer maybe the spot. We'll come and get me all or maybe it's a slate. Maybe doesn't even know him here. Level excuses around why they not being attacked which is inconsistent with their beliefs. And then eventually you'll get them to a point where the doing something with the Sparta. So we'll get them to open the box up and maybe put their fingers in the container and and see what happens now the spot will do nothing no thou we get a chopstick and get them to to move the spot on the spot or run from one to the other side of the box to the other and sometimes rear up it. It won't actually lunge at them trying harm them. And through all these corrective experiences. The person gradually loons off. The spotlight isn't a Predator and then we get them when they move on the spot or an old apply. It's my side of me Adam. Can we leave the spotter alone on harassing it. And in that moment they feel guys because the view of the spotter has changed from being one which is a A threatening Predator one that is to be not fear in an actually we can feel sorry for and then the next up which might be putting the hand in the box and given the spotter to run over the hand. What steps breezy them? The amount of time this treatment takes varies. And they as a way to fast-track this process this though it's not ideal for everyone Adam Quesadilla but you can put people in their absolute worst nightmares which is what we call flooding. So let's just say we're CLAUSTROPHOBIC and our it's not where we'd probably be being enclosed spaces being in a coffin so we could get a coffin. We we could also passed in the law. In that coffin. We could close the coffin and as long as the person is not doing it without their consent. So it's not a trauma Emma.
"phobia" Discussed on All In The Mind
"He's so a warning that some people may find aspects of this program confronting so you've just put on the virtual reality headset and what I'll do now is I'll take you through a number of our three sixty videos that we use for the virtual reality treatment so yes yes I could see the caper over there on her when you say she's getting out Fluffy Oh yes. She's got big blue plastic but oranges put up this enormous enormous norm ass- Python and it's wrapping around her head and all around her body. It's huge and she just kind of trying to take it off ahead and I'm putting around to nick. It is the most enormous snake at very disconcerting. And she's coming over so close to me. She looks completely calm and collected but finding this rather challenging on she's holding it head up up to look me straight in the with. Its little town sort of coming out. It's a tricky one. We had two clients coming and get to a point where they were handling that snake patting it and one of my clients straight. Let's make Waku the shoulders. And that was in five sessions after being sir terrified that she was checking every time she left the house. Well I just feel so real. Do you have an overwhelming a rational fear of something then virtual reality snaky experience was quite confronting believe I was forced to have a close encounter with rats that it'd be another story. Corey reacclimated is a clinical psychologist and founder and director of the Sydney Phobia Clinic. She describes some of the symptoms of a phobia and she knows because she's had a spotter phobia herself. The very first thing that happens is a disturbance of breathing rate. Some people will note that being quite what significant racing heartbeat and shallow and quickened breath sweaty palms restlessness agitation the butterflies feeling so all of those symptoms can come on pretty fast and intense and the predominant urge is to run so the running winging often what we would see and certainly when came to a spider in my house running certainly what I would do and other people will notice more of a freeze response. It's coming over them as well. A few becomes a phobia when it has a real impact on your everyday behavior as Corey ackland found with Arachnophobia. When I noticed that it was a real problem and certainly something that I often relate to with with clients is what I'd find myself? I'm a runner. I I would run in the middle of the road early in the morning. Rather than running on the path because of potential for for webs and spiders and I guess that's where the irrationality really comes Dan because you recognize that you're actually putting yourself in far more objective danger trying to avoid these other things that we can often realize. Don't actually dangerous at all between eight and twelve percent of the population. Have a phobia. Corey ackland outlines. The most common phobias she sees at at the Sydney Phobia Clinic. So are most common phobia. Presentation would be a fear of flying or public speaking anxiety. And we also say situational phobias. Phobias like a fear of heights. Cluster phobia animal. Phobias are most common ones would be dog spiders and birds and and then we see some of the medical phobias. So blood injury injection and vomit. Phobias as well. What's the most unusual phobe you've come across? We've had a couple table call out with fear of buttons. None of them is actually coming for treatment. But that's probably one that often considered quite unusual and have you who been able to make any sense of why somebody would develop a fear of button. I mean the thing is with phobias and what I find so fascinating about them is we can actually learn the anything is a threatened. Develop a phobia around it. All we need is that sort of negative association and then to continue to avoid as if a really was that concerning turning. And then we have that phobic cycle develop. So you're really anything everything is possible cardiac land so why and how to phobias develop. Professor Adam West diller is the Michael Crouch chair in Child Youth Mental Health at the brain and mind center at the university. Well well there's a number of reasons why people developed five years and is not any one which accounts for all five years that develop we definitely. Now there's a genetic old biology she to the development of Phobias. Some people are more likely to develop visas and to be more sensitive threats so this is certainly a component maybe maybe thirty percent which is hereditary. Then on top of that there's evidence that there are certain types of things that humans are most likely to feel. We feel hearts spiders and snakes but electricity kills more people but they're not afraid of electricity fibres very uncommon side. There's a view that there's a biological predisposition that's been learned either thousands of years which predisposes humans to fear certain types things in the environment and then on top of that there's learning factors so I win where born we take great attention to what k gives doing and what else siblings might be doing. And there's lots of research which shows that if the people around as show fear and indicate that something is dangerous than will take that on then then threat loft his all sorts of events which trigger a phobia. And what is the difference between those who have an early negative experience. Say with the dog and develop a phobia about dogs and those who don't develop a phobia about dogs. Yeah well that's the million dollar question. I mean we don't really know there's no one explanation action which accounts for all the reasons we know that there are risk factors. People have all the risk factors and still not developer phobia so we don't understand it. Fully defense is often occur in people who already have some sort of an anxiety disorder. The evidence is fairly clear that if you have some hereditary predisposition into disorder than that elevation is for most anxiety disorders and that includes phobias. Adam Gua- Stella Koriak Kirkland has a sense that many people with phobias never seek help with their fears they just live with it yes. I think that's a lot of the early feedback that we we got when we opened the clinic. He's people just have no idea that this would have been considered a psychological issue that could be traded so a lot of people I think feel like it's just their the thing that they can recognize that everyone has sort of their thing and therefore often one of them and certainly if it doesn't conflict with our daily life for our greatest desires in life than we probably won't see the motivation to necessarily do anything about it but when that changes and often that changes at different points points in our life where we may be in conflict with these things that twenty recognize. It is a problem you know some of it. Fear of flying that actually has no desire to travel may not consider it a problem until their son news overseas and all of a sudden these creates a real issue with being able to to visit him. So it's very sorts of things that change and actually make people realized that treatment is necessary. So what's the general approach to treatment. Treatment looks at being able to get on the same page with the client in terms of what he's maintaining their anxiety and also explaining to them what that anxiety response is and get them to understand that. It's actually not problematic to feel those feelings. And that they are in fact manageable treatment items will include controlled breathing identifying the particular thoughts and being able to correct them if they are on hopefully creating that anxiety and they can be corrected because they are irrational inaccurate. What have you and then? It's about designing the behavioral plan which is usually looking at exposure being able to develop this plan and get a starting point as to what things we can begin to expose voice to and move our way up that high rocky to meet our goals so the idea is really to confront people with their fees and have them realized that. It's not so bad exactly right that the situation that they predicted isn't going to play out like that and that any anxiety they feel in that situation they can manage so you mentioned that one of the fees that UC's fear of flying for example. How would you treat that? Certainly so the interesting thing about a fear of flying is is a loaded. Al Phobias are actually exacerbated in a plane environment people with a fear of heights. People with CLAUSTROPHOBIA. People with fear vomit or social concerns a lot of issues play on a plane but after flying courses mainly looking at people with safety concerns. We recognize that a lot of their concerns turns around not knowing what's going on how a plane stays in the air. What turbulences when that feels quite alarming and feels like something? Bad's going to happen so a part of that program. We'll see them actually sit down with a commercially trained.
"phobia" Discussed on The Overwhelmed Brain
"I mean, there are techniques that I know that I've heard can help with phobias, but I've never actually tried them with someone to cure a phobia, but there are people that can. Do that in like NRP techniques, and I am going to try that on myself as well. But this episode I wanna talk about commitment phobia and I'm not gonna do any special techniques. I'm going to do one of those question episodes that help you get to some root of what might be happening so that you can get beyond a commitment phobic which has a lot to do with decision making as well. So if you have any trouble committing to a decision or decision making in general, this'll be a good episode for you to. So to wrap this all back up, I wanted to mention phobias because phobias can be one of those debilitating things that we carry around with us that prevent us from doing things that maybe we should do. I mean, there's that word right should we should do this about the things that we want to do with our life, the things that maybe we have to do in our life just like with me in the medical stuff. But what if you had a phobia to breathing? I'm afraid debris goes so many. Nasty pollutants in the air. You kinda wanna get that resolved because that's not going to be something you want to carry around with you because every breath involves a fear and you don't want that. So I am all about addressing your phobias, really tackling them. A one of the things that I'm doing about my phobia is reading as much as possible and talking to people about it and getting all the literature I can on it and finding other people that have gone through what I fear going through all of these resources so that I have all the data so that my phobia doesn't only consist of a few fears that I've created because some fears are justified. Some of your phobic fears are justified. There are spiders that bite, there are spiders. They can be more deadly than others, and there are a ton of spiders that don't care about you. Don't care about biting you in. I wanna get away from you. So that's how I got over my fear of spiders actually is that ninety nine percent of them don't want anything to do with you. They're not chasing you. They just want to be left alone yet a lot of see them and have this reaction, and we want to get away from them or you wanna hurt them or like me. I rescue them and take them out. But that's one phobia out of who knows thousands millions of phobias that anyone can have. The idea is that if it's affecting your life, let's tackle that. Let's address it read as much as you can about it, even the bad stuff sometimes just to expose yourself to all the elements of it. You know, I found myself reading some of the bad stuff about this phobia. It actually got worse and I'm thinking, oh, no, I don't want it to get that bad. Then I read a lot of other good stuff and reading about the worst stuff possible made my regular phobia less of a problem. So that's why encourage you to suit you just read and learn as much as you can about any phobia that you're carrying around so that you aren't only in your own box of what it is because that box is very centered around. Only fear in not education. Education is not key, but. It's a big part of it too big component of getting past it. So when we come back and going to read you an Email regarding commitment phobia, and then I'm going to ask you questions that will help break it down in you so that maybe you can start the process of healing from it if you're dealing with it yourself again, it's also about decision making such, so it applies to a lot of people stick around. We'll be right back..
"phobia" Discussed on The Overwhelmed Brain
"But yet you can fear spiders and never had had a spider incident, but because people around you feared spiders, you develop that learned response. And when you bring that response into your life into the adult world, suddenly you are carrying around something that may not be productive to your life may not be beneficial. And how is it hindering you in life? For example, commitment phobia. If you're dealing with that, how is that hindering you. What commitments have you chosen not to have in your life because you're afraid of commitment and what -tunities are passing you by? Just like my phobia. You know, if I don't take care of this which I am working on, but if I don't take care of this, then I will not be able to get the correct, you know, medical diagnoses or medical procedures or whatever needs to happen in order for me to feel assured that I'm not going to have some sort of weird condition or deadly condition even disease. So I have to be very diligent in getting this resolved, and I am taking big steps to do that. And I share that with you because I want you to take big steps toward what you are phobic about if it's preventing you from living a happy satisfying. Fulfilling life. I mean, if you're phobic of jumping out of airplanes, that doesn't mean you have to, you know, address that phobia. It just means that if for some reason you have the opportunities to jump out of an airplane or you have to, it might be who've you to address it. It might behoove you to get that taken care of. And you know a lot of phobias are psychological, but some are also physical. I mean, they're all psychological shouldn't say that we, they're all psychological, but there they can also be physical meaning abuse. Victims will feel that especially sexual abuse where they are touched in a certain way, and they have a physical response and it's usually brought on by these psychological PTSD the recollection or even the kinesthetic recollection where the body remembers, but the mind doesn't. And that can get Harry when we talk about it. But the idea that you can be touched somewhere that someone else touched you in a bad way and you recoil you have a physical response to it. And again, it doesn Volve the psychological aspect to it as well, but I don't want to limit it and just say, hey, you have psychological issues. Go get those taking care of because sometimes you can have it done physically as well. I mean, there are modalities out there even like massage that can help work out physical trauma. From the past, it gets a little deep for what I talk about an, I don't know all the details. Malicious say this. I remember when I was married, my wife, massage an area of my stomach and how she did or what she did. But suddenly I started crying for no reason while for a reason. But something happened and I just started crying and she goes, oh, we got something there. And I'm. Thinking, what are you talking about? What is that about? And you know, she, I think explained it as stored trauma, repressed, emotions. I don't know what it was in. I, I wasn't there to label it, but I certainly felt better afterward. You know, good cry can make you feel better. A good one. Sometimes we will always feel better after cry, but a good one that actually releases something can feel better and Miami wonder in what I store there, what what's that about it? Does that even exist as that even possible? Because I know some people are listening right now saying, well, that's ridiculous. That's not possible. That's that's just a stupid thought. It's all psychological. I liked to help you keep your mind open just in case because magin if someone out there said it's all psychological it has nothing to do with the body massage. Isn't gonna take care of your repressed, negative emotions. That's ridiculous. Imagine if somebody. Out there believes that yet they were wrong and they carry something around with them all their life while I'm a scientist and I just don't believe that's true. I know what's true and what's not true I, you know, as a skeptic myself, I agree. I know what to believe in what not to believe yet. I keep my mind open for the possibility that I could be wrong..
"phobia" Discussed on Stuff You Should Know
"I am if you have a metaphor via god speed we hope you get well soon and to take this on or any phobia really has so much courage in grit that just taking a first step toward treatment my hat is off to you for life yes and chances are he probably didn't even listen to this episode yeah but if you have a different phobia yet in any phobia uh and incisive phobia a couple of times emmys assent time for listener male uh i'm gonna call this our second psa in his many weeks if this releases the same week okay uh but this was about dogs it's very sad a hey guys take me a while to write this has been very difficult to talk about now you're animal abruzzo so probably a good majority of your listeners are thought sharing our tragic story would help prevent others from experiencing the same thing uh we lost our our dog river about two months ago because i let the bag of chips out uh we are at work while she got her head stuck in the bag we came home to find uh our dogs stiffen lifeless from suffocation you've always been careful about plastic bags and stuff like that and kept them stored away uh for recycling but never occurred to a city chips bag and the counter with does something will need to be concerned about no no one ever would ever think about that uh everyone we've also told said it was something they never thought about either so now we keep all over a bag foods in the cupboard cut the bottoms off of anything that goes into the uh reach.
"phobia" Discussed on Stuff You Should Know
"If it starts the happen just plough through it to say josh and chuck would want me to plough through it in your queasiness will magically go away i am all right uh so like you said it is a specific phobia in it is actually listed in the dsm now mature how long helena been in there but it is while a metal phobias it out well i thought the specific phobia vomiting now i guess it i think specific phobia czar i don't i don't know if it's if it's if specifically listed chuck so in the says it is a specific phobia a current according to the dsm what does that mean i think it means that if falls under the umbrella of a specific phobia okay you sumi not really but that's okay um this means while you're afraid you might vomit you're afraid someone else might vomit around you um you're afraid what people will think of you if you do vomit yeah it's just a it's not this article which get the stuff anyway this sort of cobbled it was cobbled together from some pretty good sources including a psychology a day the american association of anxiety disorders um the national institutes of health uh library the bbc vice and uh i want to give a shout out to the listener who rode into share her a metaph obea story death i never heard of it before and she had a very harrowing experience an overcame it just through sheer grit and willpower um and came through the other side of this.
"phobia" Discussed on Stuff You Should Know
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