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"paula farris" Discussed on Christy Wright's Business Boutique
"Yourself and your life and even the world when you protect what goes in your mind and that would be how you handle so much sadness around you you protect yourself from it to a degree but if you have sadness in you because you going through something because your heart is broken because there is a really sad season a disappointment a tragedy then i would say it's almost the exact opposite in the sense that you have to grieve there. Get counseling find community to walk with you. That is not something you can turn off. That is not something you can tune out and expect it will go away and just try to pull yourself up by your bootstraps. Talk yourself out of and just oh. Just be grateful. Just be grateful. Just be grateful. Those words can be helpful in a normal season but if you're in a season of tragedy or heartbreak they can almost seem heartless because you're paying so real. The tragedy and heartbreak is so real to you of what you're going through and so i would just encourage you if you're listening right now are watching right now. And you're going through a season of heartbreak of disappointment where you're crying out to guiding or going got. I know you're good. It just doesn't feel good and honestly the fact that you let this happen. I don't know how you could be good. He might be angry. You might be sad. You might be all of those things and more. I just want to encourage you to get counseling. Get community grieve. Feel your feelings and find healing there in those dark heartbroken places. Because you can't tune it out you can't turn it off. You can't just snap your fingers and make it go away. I know we all wish we could so depending on where you are. And i don't know who sent this question in but if you have sadness around you to a degree you can protect yourself from that by what you put in your mind and you should by the way that if you've sadness in you i just want to encourage you to get counseling and community and greed and find healing there and i want to remind you that i love how the bible says darkness is not even dark to you if i go to the heights. You're there if i go to the depths or their god will meet you right where you are no sad thing. No big feeling is too big for him or too sad for him. He can shine light and even the darkest places that you're feeling. Thank you for sending this in. And i hope that encourages you all right. Let's answer one more before we wrap up how to choose a career while we were just talking about this. Okay so this is a little bit more tactical. I'm feeling spunky and excited about this. It's a couple of different things number one. You should be able to do the job. you don't have to be awesome at it. You don't have to be super experienced. And you've got fifteen degrees slash permission slips that tell you can but you should be able to step up to the plate. Give it your best shot and fulfil the job. Whatever that job is you may figure it out on the job but you should be able to be willing to go for it. I never had spoken to a crowd in my entire life. But i was willing to put myself out there. Go for it work on it. Try and get better while on the job if that were you and you're scared to even walk on stage. That wouldn't be a good fit for you to go for that job that you have no experience so you need to be able to do the job number two you need to be somewhat excited about the job now if you're just coming out of college or you're switching careers and you're kind starting over with the fresh start that's great. You need.
Chris Voss and Paula Faris on Negotiation
"I'm interviewing Chris Voss. He's the former lead hostage negotiator for the FBI. You have no idea how intimidating it is to interview someone who's made a career out of breaking people without those people know we met. He's breaking them. Chris is a phenomenal negotiator. And he tells us that we're in three to seven negotiations every single day. So where do you begin in negotiation? And is this something that everyone's born to do also before we dig into this episode. I want to let you know that Chris Voss will be live with us on Maith at the G. less next event series also joining us is going to be summit faculty favorite and Harvard's difficult conversations expert. Sheila Heen so stick around to the end of the episode to find out more about that upcoming event but without further ado. Here's my conversation with Chris. Hello everyone welcome to the G. L. S. podcast and I'm your host Paula. Farris and I am very excited to welcome. This week's guest the one and only Chris Voss who spent twenty four years with the FBI was the FBI's chief international hostage negotiator. He's got just a few credits under his belt. Chris Welcome to the podcast very much and I before she did that. Introduction when she said she was a host I was gonna say I was. I'm the comedic sidekick. Do you need to have comedy skills for negotiation or is that just a bonus you develop them you have developed them By the way we do have a live audience. They're eating lunch with us right now at the summit. It's great to have all of you in the room as well. So let's get you our conversation. I learned so much from our conversation at the Summit Day to everyone needs to learn the art of negotiation because life is a negotiation. We're in five to seven negotiations every day. We don't know it. Exactly anytime essense starts out with. I want I need I like. I'd like negotiation. I would like a Tall coca-cola right now. That's a negotiation is always implementation involved there like we talked about this morning. I'd like a cup of coffee from starbucks. You never know what you're going to get might be DECAF. So where does one begin in an election? You begin here in the other side out first and then they may need a little bit of a prompt based on the situation. You may need to let them know that you see things from your point of view A recent negotiation I was in. I needed directions. I'm lost on campus at UCLA in a parking ramp. And I know that if I go the wrong way. I'm never going to find my way out so I gotta find most likely. Who Am. I GONNA see maintenance guy or security guard is the same way I get. I find the best restaurant in an airport. Who YOU'RE GONNA predictably run into and what's the first thing that's going to go through the mind. See A maintenance guy he sees museum and he sees me speed up headed in his direction. He's not an idiot. He knows I'm lost. He knows what I speed up and had his direction that I'm GonNa ask for directions. Saint hopefully not run him over and hopefully not run them over. So what's the first thing goes through his mind? First thing going through his mind is it's not my job to give directions if some idiot is lost in parking ramp so I pull up and I roll down a window and I go. Hey I'm sorry it is not your job to give directions to some idiot is lost parking ramp because what do you need when you need? I'm here for this big conference. Now I know he knows exactly where it is but if I don't lead with that what's his perspective if I just say hey dude I need directions is go ahead and I'll ask you say I don't know because how am I going to say. Oh yes you do. But instead what's in his head I articulate. He says I know exactly where you need to go. Make a right a right. Go up the ramp. You're there it's it's that simple. Let the other person now that you see from their perspective right off the bat and you'll get talking instead of putting them on the defensive right away. You're like I understand that I understand but you welcome them. You're listening to them and you're hearing them understand two millimeter shift is you don't say I understand. Because actually they don't know that you do so you show them offensive. When when my husband tells me I when he says I understand. I'm like no you don't understand and I don't understand you but I just want you to hear me out. I just want you to listen to me when we're trying to people we ask them. When was the last time somebody looked at you and said I understand and then you would also thank God? 'cause we're used to I understand is shorthand for shut up. I WANNA talk. You know every for everyone in this room everybody listening. Everyone can learn the skills of negotiating correct. You believe that. Everybody's got it in them. Everybody was born with a certain amount of emotional intelligence. And it's there it's kind of unlimited unlimited limitless so versus your Iq. You're accused like you're you're you're only going to get so tall you're only going to get you can't raise req- you got a limit on it no matter. How many times did you play with a Rubik's cube or play Jenga? Those Games are accuse got hard ceiling your cue on the other hand. You can continue to raise that as long as you can make
Nikki Haley: "No One Is Going to Fight For You But You"
"Hey there it's Paula Farris and welcome to journeys of faith. Our next guest is widely expected to run for president in twenty twenty four. We're talking to Nikki. Haley former governor of South Carolina and United States Ambassador to the UN on this episode. Haley whose parents are from India talks about being raised in in a Sikh family in rural South Carolina. She reveals what she loves about the Sikh faith but also why she converted to Christianity Haley also dives lives into the confederate flag. Debate those rumors about her replacing Mike Pence on the ticket and she opens up like never before about a possible run for president. Here's Nikki Haley. Nikki Haley welcome into the studio for the journeys of Faith podcast. Last time I saw you on the sidelines of the National Championship Chip College Football Championship game. When Clemson was beating Alabama? Such a good time had an amazing program. I'm really three National Championships. UNSHIPPED four years. We're proud Davo. Were proud of that team or product. Schoon yeah you are and you went to Clemson just for all of those listening out there. You graduated from Clemson and I'm not GonNa date you and say when which are very young well I graduated from Clemson met my husband my first weekend at Clemson got engaged at Clemson and our daughter daughter is now at Clemson's who were a bit clemson obsessed what I really love about your history. Your faith history. You're raised in a seekonk so tell me uh-huh maybe some of the tenants the main tenants of the Sikh faith. Well you know it's interesting because we were the only Indian family in a small southern town probably less the one percent of the population in South Carolina's Indian. And then you go when you look at the Sikhs in the area I mean it was just small. Every third Sunday Sunday seek families would get together at someone's home in the state to have to have prayers and so it was probably no more than one hundred people people that we would get together with but the faith itself is a very kind peaceful faith. It's one that's all accepting mm-hmm they believe in one God and what was so interesting was even though I would go every third Sunday with my family somewhere My parents made us go to different churches. Methodist Baptist Catholic Yummy. You name it. They go so my mom would say I want you to respect everyone and how they do their prayers but you understand. There's one guide but everyone has has their own pathway. And as long as you have your relationship with God the new will be okay and so they just wanted us one to respect other religions but to to understand and see the relationship people have with God and so it was really important because I talk about how and why I converted converted when I would go to a good war or temple for prayers. I would feel it. I would feel God in the room but I couldn't understand understand it because I didn't I didn't know the religion I didn't know the language and so when I started dating my husband and we started going more and more to his church and he was methodist. I immediately could relate I immediately. You found a connection of a sudden there was not just the feeling but it was the words that I could relate to. That really meant something to me. And that was really when I knew if I wanted to grow deeper in my faith if I wanted to have a stronger relationship tip I needed to have something that spoke to me and so that was that was how it happened so your husband was methodist when you met him. Yeah you're seek and you had a multi-denominational wedding you celebrated the methodist traditions and the Sikh traditions girl my family obviously wanted to see me have an Indian ceremony so I did. So that was for all of their friends and family and then we had a Christian ceremony for Michael's friends and family so in the end we got married twice. Were doubly. Okay yes you're deli okay. I know you just touched on it. But what made you convert to Christianity from the Sikh faith a faith that your parents still adhere adhere to it really was when you grow your faith you have to be able to talk to God and you have to be able to go to a service service and feel it and if you don't understand the language you're not hearing it and it's harder and harder to feel it and so the the language that they're speaking is just to clarify Punjabi. Yes was what they were speaking at the time. But you know you have to have that connection and when you're sitting thing in service and you feel it that's one it's so important you know I always say My faith has grown over time. Because you know I you have a faith because your appearance teach you to have a strong faith then you start to grow when you get married because you have faith together with your husband and then when you have children it takes you to a whole new level because Michael always said that our children if we could teach them a faith and a conscience everything else would be okay and so all of a sudden it gets deeper and then as I went through challenges in my life it just went to another level I mean obviously when we dealt with the Charleston shooting. I think that was a huge turning point for me because it was so painful and it was so hard that there was no one or nothing that was going to get me through that but God and I I mean that's when I started to believe in and just recite Joshua one nine be strong and be courageous. Do not be afraid you know or the Lord. Your God is with you wherever God with you wherever you go and I think that was you know when you when you feel that and you and it speaks to you you look more for how else it can speak to you and how you can grow your faith. Hey I want to touch on the Charleston shooting in just a moment which you write about in yearbook. That's out with all due respect it was released in two thousand nineteen but just going back to the Sikh faith. I know you have converted to Christianity. Your parents are still seek. Are there parts of the faith. The tradition practices that you still implement into to your daily life that you still hold dear. I think you know more than that. It's just respect for parents. Respect for family Love of all people MHM Respect for all people and you know in the Sikh faith it acknowledges other religions so it doesn't say you have to be secret nothing else. It acknowledges analogize other religions it acknowledges Jesus it acknowledges you know that Jesus was the son of God you and so there's different things that they had more than that what I take from it is the is the respect and the peaceful side of the Sikh faith which is respect everyone and in everything you do in your life should lead to peace and the best way to appreciate your blessings is to give back. Those were the things that I took away from what my parents parents taught us. And when the Sikh faith taught us and so then when I converted to Christianity those are all things that you can still go and build on and carry it forward right but I I you know. I can't give enough credit to my parents for how they raised us. And how much emphasis put on the respect of other religions and I think that's that's what made for me and easier transition and they have never had a problem with the fact that I've converted and I want to talk about your book. Yes called with all due respect out. Now congratulations thank you a lot of fun to write very therapeutic. I can imagine but in one of the sections. I know you talk about your faith in the book but in one of the sections you talk about the Charleston shooting which you just mentioned in how much you relied on your faith to get you through that you also made the decision to take down the confederate flag can at the State House grounds. And you said at the time that it because of the connection in the connotation to hatred and racism At I know recently you WanNa Glenn Back and you said that you caused a little controversy in that interview. You said that some saw the confederate flag is service and sacrifice and heritage. And that Dylann unroofed. The gunmen hijacked it. Some people felt that this was a reversal. Because in two thousand fifteen you say that it's deeply offensive symbol of brutally oppressive past. I was at a reversal. So telling of how toxic politics has gotten literally the same words I said in Glen on the Glenn Beck Show are the same words. I said in twenty-fifty if you go back and read my speech where I'm asking for the flag to come down. I talk about how some some people in the state saw the flag and related to service and heritage and talk about the other people in the state that saw all the flag and felt pain. And what I said was. We don't want anyone in our state to feel pain when they see that flag and I went on onto say not to judge either side as a governor. That's not your job. You Represent All people what it was was. I need all of you to come together. You can have respect for the confederate flag. But we're going to move it to a museum because it is a living breathing symbol. That does not represent. Is that all of the people in the state and went on to talk about. How if it causes any child pain when they passed that Nate House? There's something wrong and and we needed to pull it down. Had I gone and said that half the state was racist. That flag would never have come
Purdue's Sackler family fights 'inflammatory' Massachusetts opioid case
"New allegations against the Sackler family owners of Purdue pharma, the company that makes the addictive opioid Oxycontin documents recently revealed by lawsuits accused of pushing the drug while also scheming to profit from addiction treatments. We get more from ABC's. Paula Farris statement from the family spokesperson calls lawsuits in New York and Massachusetts filled with claims that are demonstrably false an unsupportable by the actual facts. But now this philanthropic empire facing backlash at
Nike, Lord Kerr Meyer and Chuck Ingram discussed on Mike McConnell
"Seven hundred wwl w latest forecast. From the News Radio seven hundred wwl weather center. I heart radio station sunshine today with a high of ninety two there will be a slight chance of afternoon, rain showers. It is a seventy four degrees right now. Now
First day of Kavanaugh confirmation hearings sets fiery tone
"Lawmakers will start questioning supreme court nominee Brett Cava on day two of his confirmation hearings, and that Democrats are likely to grill. Judge Brad Kavanagh on his views of Robie Wade and healthcare like the Affordable Care Act given that President Trump during the campaign promise to appoint judges who would overturn both laws at the Senate confirmation hearing cavenaugh laid out his judicial philosophy. Judge must interpret statute says written a judge must interpret the constitution as written informed by history, and tradition and
US allies, al-Qaida battle rebels in Yemen
"On Iran three months after pulling out of the Iran nuclear deal saying the US policy is to. Lovey maximum economic pressure on the. Country in a statement today he restated his opinion that. The twenty fifteen international accord a freeze Iran's nuclear program in return for lifting sanctions was a. Horrible one-sided deal. The US backed fight against Yemen's Shiite rebels has benefit. Al, Qaeda's branch in the country it's militants are battling alongside and even within units, financed an armed by the Saudi led coalition fighting the rebels a group says those battlegrounds have been a recruiting bonanza moreover how kinda was allowed to pull out, of, multiple strongholds at healthy in Yemen taking with it weapons and cash under secret deals with a coalition according to an AP investigation. KOMO news time now ten forty six singer. And reality TV, personality Jessie James, decker caused a stir over social media post. Where she appears to be, holding an. Alcoholic beverage while breastfeeding her son ABC's Paula, Ferriss spoke with ABC's chief medical correspondent Dr Jennifer Ashton about the risks and you have delivered your share babies hundred and I will admit full disclosure, I, nursed all three of my kids with a glass of wine in my hand because that's what my lactation consultant instructed me to. Do one glass right you're saying so so what's Okay first of all not a lot because again we can't do control studies where we're. Going to be giving breastfeeding or lactating women a lot of alcohol and then testing. It in their breast milk but the thinking here is that as long as the mom does not feel neabry aided or. Buzzed the amount that is passed along to the baby in breast, milk is minimal and that an occasional alcoholic beverage in. A breastfeeding woman will not harm the baby it takes about thirty to sixty minutes for anything that's consumed to go through, the moms blood and pass into breast milk and when. The mom feels better and that's cleared from her blood it's cleared from the breast milk at the same time the other interesting. Thing here in probably the reason you're a lactation consultant recommended it to you is that when mothers tense when skating and by the way it can. Be? Painful it's very exactly I By the way that's right it can actually inhibit the letdown. Reflects so a little bit of alcohol can actually help the letdown, hormone so in in the kind of lactation who wives. Kind of circle a little bit is thought now Ted relaxes the mom and and it allows the no doubt so finally, let's ask you about the notion of pumping and dumping, we had too much Right so normally when we say pump and dump that's with a. Woman who's. Using a breast pump that's for medications. That are actually dangerous or contraindicated or viruses or some kind of. Infection in the mom it doesn't really work as well for alcohol but we have to remember. Any anytime you see anything dealing with a woman's breasts it becomes. Global news, and everyone feels like they can weigh in on what. Happened to Jesse James Are you have to remember is. Yes there, are clear benefits to breastfeeding, both for the mom and the baby but it's not always logistically possible for every, woman and it's not always something that the mom chooses to do so when I council, women, on this, I, say the operative word in breastfeeding is feeding and a woman needs to feed her baby the best way she. Thinks and, the best way for her and everyone else. Needs to stay, in their land ABC's Paula Farris along with Dr Jennifer Ashton a screen time link to poor health and, kids? As we hear from ABC's Dave Schreiber scientific, advisory statement from the American Heart Association says screen time from computers phones tablets video games TV and other devices is connected to more sedentary behavior in children. And teams that can lead to poor cardiovascular, health and obesity though there's no clear link to poor health researchers are concerned eating, behaviors could be affected with kids not noticing when they're full while eating in front of a. Screen There's also. Evidence suggesting screen time can disrupt sleep, Dave Schreiber ABC Japan's trying to get workers to take more time off but it's been difficult advertising exact suicide three years ago was ruled karoshi which means death by overwork the Japanese government started taking a. Hard look, at its culture of working, long grueling hours but little time off last year it implemented a plan encouraging businesses to give employees the last Friday of the month off it's following that up with a, new, idea letting, them, have the Monday morning following the last Friday off to it's an acknowledgment by the government of the need for. Work life, balance but companies start acknowledging the same thing. Only eleven percent, of employees are leaving earlier coming in late citing a crushing workload if the office Cheri Preston.
Watchdog: EPA's Scott Pruitt demanded 24/7 security from first day on job
"Epa chief scott pruitt requested a twenty four seven security detail when he was confirmed as administrator epa inspector general arthur elkins said in letters democratic senators that pruitt himself initiated the unprecedented twenty four hour armed protection which far exceeds the part time security afforded to pass epa administrators elkins reports seems to be at odds with the past claims at the stepped up security measures came in direct response to death threats adding that the office of inspector general decline pruitt's request and informed epa management that it's not the role of the office of inspector general to provide a threat assessment the agency has spent about three million dollars on pruitt's twenty member fulltime security detail which is more than three times the size of his predecessors mike bauer for seven ten w some new drama surrounding the royal wedding meghan markle's father thomas markle reportedly dealing with health trouble after news broke about those photos allegedly staged with the paparazzi abc's paula farris is at buckingham palace in london she has more it was always a big requests for meghan in the first place to ask her dad to walk down the aisle considering his many health problems his reclusive was expected should he not be able to fulfill those duties her mother would step in and walk her down the aisle or even a close friend and in a rare move a spokesperson from kensington palace asking for understanding in this difficult situation and there is news today of the death of tom wolfe the selling author of books like the right stuff and bonfire of the vanities wolfe has.