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"paul tobin" Discussed on KTOK
"Up with Dr Gayle, Wayland Hobson and Dr Paul Tobin. We're talking about family resiliency and this very difficult time. So, Dr Tobin. I'm gonna let you pick it up where we left off, which was about developing resiliency and becoming a stress resistant person. Okay, Here we go. I appreciate it. And I wanted to say that perhaps in the dales can lead in is just fits perfectly with where we're going here with family dynamics and Ooking at resiliency within the family. We start off with just resiliency and his definition. It's basically the capacity to recover quickly from difficult situations. And in synonymous with resiliency would be emotional toughness or social, emotional toughness, toughness being that capacity to bounce back. So I want to talk about in the family system. That we have things that we learn in parenting grandparenting in different ways, in terms of development of kids, but also in our own lives now today And this is so relevant in terms of the crime necessity of what's going on with Kroehner, the coveted the chronic nature of the virus. A challenge and a difficult times, especially chronically difficult times to adapt. And so what I'm going to talk about comes from Actually, the National Institute of Health Center Stephen Age Glenn years ago developed concepts of resiliency in developing young people. This relevant also, just like the emotional intelligence we talked about a few weeks ago. It's relevant and all of our lives and our adult lives is well, it's raising kids. So what? I want to start Is, um having different factors, the affect our capacity to be more resilient adults. Chan young adults. Three of those are developed perceptions. And they're about a sense of self perception. They just jump right into those for the are concerned with time. Okay, um The 1st 1 is that we view ourselves as capable And within that what we're really talking about is that I have a capacity to solve problems. I am a problem solver. You both may be familiar with Kenny Rogers once put out a song. About a young man who was playing baseball by himself, throwing up the baseball on every time you throw it up, if you would swing and he would miss and he would strike and he would throw it back up again answering in this and strike, and I did that three times. And he struck himself out. Anyone walked away in the song singing. I am the best pitcher in the world and a great doctor and then two and again, I think there's an element of Viewing myself from a capable perspective. Now, obviously, that's a young person. But in these covert times We need to reach in and understand. Look at we are extremely capable people. For the most part, we're extremely capable communities, neighbourhoods,.
"paul tobin" Discussed on KTOK
"I am keeping my fingers crossed that you're there. Are you there? I am grand. Yes, I am. Thank you for calling back. Hey, a little less stress, right? When you know asleep. They're all here and we're all accounted for. And you know, I'm so glad that you're going to talk about family resiliency because the thing that probably has everybody Surprised, but not surprised is when you have relationships with people, you think. Oh, if I only had more time with that person to work on whatever it is. And yet what are we seeing? We're seeing all of these. Hollywood couples and friends and neighbors and all that, and they're all not all. Many of them are filing for divorce now, and they say it's because They finally had time to spend with this person and realize it's not working. Yeah, And then that's interesting, isn't it? Dr Tobin, and let me just add to it before. For Paul Paul comments that sadly, were also seen so many and so many other ways. Children are not coping. Necessarily. Well, That's why I want to talk to my grandkids about stuff for them fact that compliment in my teenage grandson 15 and said, You know, Ryan, you have to have the toughest Time right now because one of the kids at 15 want to do They want to be with each other yet, but they're having trouble early college kids have in trouble as older people are feeling isolated into our homes. That's hard. Uh, couples are struggling because I've got to deal with each other more. You know, there's people who are taking care of elderly parents are finding it hard. So you know, I don't think there's easy way through this. So that's why Dr Tobin, we have to develop resilience, right? Absolutely. And you guys are right on target with all of this. Well, I may be on target. But guess what? I have to interrupt already. It's already times but Dr Tobin, I promise we will let you go. First we come back. This is our mental health tune up. Dr. Gale Llewellyn Hobson, Licensed psychologist Dr. Paul Tobin, also a licensed psychologist, both over 40 years. Are here with us tonight to talk about family resilience, and we're going to take it on this whole hour. I'm good Falconer. Lippert, You're listening to 1000 Katie. Okay? Cereal again with all the junk too fattening up here in box for delete, But you can work up a sweat pushing that delete button delete, Delete. Can we get this guy a towel or water or something? Sign up for our daily email. A breakdown of the important stuff in your life gathering all the information news of the day. The stuff that's not junk. Very important news..
"paul tobin" Discussed on KTOK
"Is a food loose radio 1000. Okay with Falconer Lippard 92 degrees. As you know, Over the past few months on Sunday nights, we've been doing mental tune ups. With Dr Gala Welland Hobson and her colleague, Dr Paul Tobin. We are doing that again tonight during this first hour, and we're going to be focusing on family resiliency during these hard times. Let me remind you that doctor Gay Llewellyn Hobson is a licensed psychologist has been in practice for over 40 years and practices in both Norman and Oklahoma City and served many years as the medical director for behavioral health at Mercy Hospital. She joins us this evening from her of office in Norman. And let me remind you that she will be giving out her phone number. If she can be of help to direct you to someone to talk to About anything that is making you mentally challenged right now. So, Dr Hobson, welcome to 1000 Katie, Okay? Thank you. Mentally challenged is the right word for hope. Memphis right now or I Quinn. It feels that way. So that's why tonight We wanted to focus a little further on resilience. And really how How can we go forward? For what may be a while you and I next week, going on the talk about transitions and transitions generally take about five years to say that, but we may be in that so We need in the meantime, in terms of mental, our mental health, community and family health we need to focus on how are we going to make this the best? Most productive time And I have something to start with tonight and then I would have a question for you and usual. Oh, good. Okay. And You may have gotten Dr Tobin back on the line he had. I think I lost the connection. So I think I have him. I will not know. Until I try. You may have to try and get me a man saying he lost connection. Okay, So you know, got Garth Brooks, right? You know his music a little bit. Oh, yeah. I love Garth Brooks. I thought you probably did. So he has a song that a lot of people know called Winding River. Oh, I don't know. I don't know the winding river. Okay, I wanted to start with a little bit of say, saying from that because it's so feeding to what we're going to talk about tonight. And it goes even though we can't control the river, even though life is ever flowing, ever changing, ever threatening? Ever Madden maddening, maddening We must choose to chance the rampant and dare to dance the tide. But his love and I got this really a good way to start out thinking about this age that were in and out with the chalk later. Take a chance to talk personally a little bit about Conversations, grandsons, and I'm not getting to see very often, but it was feeling to this and the reason I did. That is because when we're kind of in what we're thinking of is a non linear age. And we'll talk about what that means. But things are not just kind of going A B T. So everybody's got to kind of have to stop and hopefully, young people, especially Kind of rewrite this time, so that makes me if they ask you a question, Alright? Okay. What happens when are fairytales go a ride. Oh, I cry will, And that is so true way. Do we have all of this habit? We cried more tears in this country during this time, and maybe in a long time. But it's It's kind of true that are that we go through life for all of us sometimes are fairytales go awry, and we don't really talk about that very much, But I think it's really important that we do that now, because what we're learning is that you go through life said Yeah, thanks. Don't always stay on the path. That we had thought there's their high points in our lives, and there's low point in her life and then they're turning points in our lives. Yes, And I think that's where we are. Right now. We're kind of a turning point. And what kind of forced with Cove it to really cope and deal with that so harrowing and help ourselves and our communities. But how are we gonna have a wee going to know? If we're helping our Children navigate this time, or that's a great question. Well here. I have a little bit of an answer to it. That maybe will help us lead into resilience. But the question is which Children navigate, navigate their lives the best No matter what their circumstances are, even if they're handicapped, or they have challenges, or they're the smartest kid or whatever they are. There's some some things that helped him navigate the best the best. So what would you think helps Children navigate the best in these difficult times thie ability to be spontaneous. Wow. Okay, That's a great answer like that, probably part of it. But here's the answer to that. Or at least one answer. And I'm reading a new book that you and I are going to talk about next week that I think will be very helpful. But here's the answer to that. It's the Children, the ones that know their family history. The best Risley. Yeah, and they've done studies about that. So they're the Children that no. Okay, what were what were my grandparent's like? And that was what happened in their birth. And were they immigrants? Or were they you know? Do they have a physical illness early in their life? That really shaped them? Some of them. Did you know, like Popeo? And so if Children no kind of history and are tuned in, like, what happened, How's your parents made? How did what happened here for when the second child was born with their trauma when the child Second child was born. You know that kind of story that families tell And what we know is that Children that they're talking about that hearing about bad and come and know their family history. I mean, you had to sit down with them like you're on. DNA show roots, although I like that, But you know it's good, though, if they know kind of a history kind of where they came from. And so that kind of gets me into this story briefly of why I talked to my grandson's about that this morning. I got to see them. Well, I can see why this This's an excellent answer. And let me tell you why. Because Your parents had to deal with Unforeseen circumstances and some have they made it through it. So that's why you are here. Absolutely. Yu just got Yu got it so perfectly, in fact, that picture Of the family that was dealing with the flu pandemic in 1918 where they're all they all had masks on. I got that out this morning at brunch distance brunch with my grand boys and said, Hey, guys, look at this. Even the cat head on. I know. Did they noticed that the cat had a mask on? Yeah, course they did. Of course they can love And so you know, I would. I had opportunity, they would say. You know, we all have and we'll we'll call it a term next week. It will explain further called oscillating family narrative. Ah, like the term it really says that yes, families have ups and downs. And Children over the years that are our best prepared for life is if they know that if they know life takes all kinds of different shapes that really we know from research that makes him better equipped. To face life's inevitable disruptions. Because we're boy were in a disruption right now, For sure this is called a disruption, so covet thing. And so our lives are not following the linear path and you know what? We're beginning to figure out Is that these? These transitions these non linear path are happening more and more frequently, too. Yes. So kids are going to need to just I'm going to need to become flexible. They're going to be neat may need to do all the things that Dr Tobin is going to talk about that has to do with resilience. And I am so grateful that he is your colleague and that he has agreed. Tio join us again. Let me remind everyone that.
"paul tobin" Discussed on KTOK
"News radio one thousand Katie okay eighty eight degrees in Oklahoma City when Faulconer referred to having our mental tune up tonight with Dr Paul Tobin and Dr Gail Llewellyn Hobson both licensed psychologist Dr Hobson is a psychologist in Norman while Dr Tobin is the owner and manager of a small private mental health clinic in Edmond we're talking about covert nineteen resilience and emotional intelligence and you know it seems like I it's demanding me to have more self disciplined now than I've ever had to have is that yes so true and I I like to what we just did what Dr Tobin is talking about women you just hit on them itself it's the idea of self correcting self regulation and self control and we do have to we have to do that right now with this because in the end they're good techniques to know anyway we'll take those into the future all of us because those are important but they they are are really important right now when they lied to this idea of being flexible and learning how to self talk right WWW absolutely absolutely let me just kind of re emphasize that as well then when what you're talking about is being aware once I'm aware of that dysregulated emotion once I'm aware of that out of that kind of zone of effectiveness is then I have to be intentional intentional about putting back in place those things that have been affected stormy and resilience is the capacity to self correct most people will have the capacity to some degree and some stronger than others again the good news is it can be learned but for the most part we have that we function effectively but when we get into this chronic state we can lose focus on this track and that they're gonna drop back to those things the do re established at center balance in our lives and so getting back to that exercise getting back to good nutrition taking times in prayer and meditation and kind of personal self talk shop talk and the spiritual level if you will in terms of being able to recognize what I love again in terms of the recovery population is at capacity to know in the you know the general nature of the serenity prayer there's just so much I can do and then I've got to turn it over and let go and give that one to god and know that all I can do is my best think and communicate with others about support and help and be part of a community and I think in all the right point Dr Tobin and and you know on I know you're saying that the the other the further pointed man is becoming to eat each other into ourselves because this is a tough time it's okay just accept that this is an unusual and difficult time so let's use our strength to take care of our third ourselves but each other yeah absolutely and and that's what the concept of self empathy comes in that self tolerance then I'm doing what I can on Monday after stances I can land like the duck my feet moving underwater they made him still on top I'm doing all that I can I'm gonna give myself a break and pace myself and keep myself back into this more balanced place in doing that listening to me and then being able to connect to listen to those around me three of the things that are relevant in terms of resiliency and emotional regulation there's a sense of positive self and that's where that self empathy that kinda good enough self understanding that I am doing all that I can and I'm functioned well before the social circumstances got me down but I'll work through this and I work through this with those in my life feeling feeling valued in terms of the things that I contribute and we all contribute in different ways we find ways to contribute and that sense of affirmation from what we do for others is an important part of that capacity to feel connected and valued and and the third part because with Anna is being part of something larger than ourselves we can get outside of ourselves no it's hard to find exactly the volunteers have been handing out food Mecca the volunteers have been in the community in many many ways giving help where is it how is the weather is just our neighbor next or whether it's an extended family member weather out in the community work at the food banks and other places what can we do it allows us to have movement and engagement and get out of that frozen response and get out of that flight response yes I remember when when you very first week we talk which is now been what seven or eight weeks ago and you said I stopped by and checked on my neighbor remember that and I thought that was so kind of you you thought of that I'm out for my walk up and check in on my neighbor so you know that's what we do have to do it and then we have to add the practical things that that we're all hearing over and over but I'm I'm seen some people forgetting we need to wash your hands often we need to keep the discount when we were at that store the best we can or in a group and we need to wear a mask and you know the other part for those of us that are no longer stay home as much as we can because that probably helps everybody in general well don't you think that people are tired of this and they're tired of being good and they're tired of doing what they're supposed to and so it's just like they've thrown it all away at once and that's why our numbers are going back up sure sure yeah there's a there's another very well in their Glenn introverts and extroverts in in almost a humorous way if you talk to and then I think there's probably realistically about a fifty fifty population if not more introverts nectar rich by nature but the people were the more introverted personality have actually enjoyed the quietness of this and it's not to say that people who are experts haven't been able to because I think they also enjoy the camaraderie other family systems but those who are saying gosh if you say throw it all away I got to get out I got to go do something it's not been rebellious fashion is not in the malicious nature it's just gosh I have to have some of the social breathing room I need to connect and we're by nature in all the tribes if you will it's it's our nature to be able to pull together with others I took her to the all about this with community health and so meaning to isolated is kind of counter to our nature but it is sometimes with a a misstep or can be you know I can I can overlook something organize something in terms of risk factors and I think we're all trying to be real cautious about looking at numbers and paying attention if they just take you know washing and wearing masks when we can tension in the volatile populations are not putting them at risk but we need to can help some of that social breathing and that's a necessary part of also who we are some of the most critical circumstances that I've been able to work with them to discourage time are people who are too isolated to lemay and getting very depressed in the absence because of their fears to get out but they don't have those connections going on and so we've been working on trying to find connections whether it's classmates in the zoom opportunities or whatever form of telecommunications they can have until they can get out maybe walk their neighborhoods at least wave to others that are around them from their faces some level of connectedness because what occurs when we connect with others is that affirmation for them and for us about the value of who we are and we lose sight of that when we get caught up in that kind of more of center focuses in on my own pain I gotta get out of my pain by connecting with others and being involved that's an example I like that idea so much of community going and I've talked about that finding a way if this is important if your teenager or you know even three things really are warming stories of children who have found ways to help during this time and I think that community reach reach out if he is really essential for all.
"paul tobin" Discussed on KTOK
"News radio one thousand Katie okay eighty nine degrees in Oklahoma City when Faulconer Lippert it's time for our mental tune up and were really talking about emotional competency and emotional intelligence Dr Kayla Wellen Hobson licensed psychologist from Norman is of my co host each week when we do these mental tune ups we're joined this evening by Dr Paul Tobin who is an Oklahoma licensed health services psychologist and he makes presentations as well as has his own clinic we're talking about one of the presentations he makes on emotional competency and emotional development thank you intelligence where to go it went right down to remember was that tip of the tongue the things that we learned a few weeks ago right exactly yeah and Paul or doctor Tobin I've I wish you would talk a little bit more about that I think that's an important concept for people to keep in mind the listeners as they know that they have some power they have power to change like you were talking about is that one way that you you work with people who can help them understand them absolutely absolutely appreciate that yeah we're we're we're talking about we a resilient secrets and all that but let's back up a little bit and and talk about the level of stress what and I'm a refrence the model or the structure of the martial intelligence there's writings by Daniel Norman G. O. L. E. M. A. N. I'm not gonna as an occasional psychologist to organize these materials but his original concept I believe very well organized it to help students in the elementary and middle schools deal with is being able to focus and concentrate what I've heard from that was just the bottom haven't developed an enlarged to where even corporate America says gosh on that it is our mind body in organizations and mailing it on a regular on a larger basis it's all human beings here with these concepts of we're stressed entered into our lives and the influence of stress on our bodies and our minds and if you were on our spirits and for example with the cold and because of this uncertainty uncertainty by its nature create stress and when I was looking at again kind of where we are with this cancel fire hit the beginning and then we kind of reached a bit of what appeared to be sort of a middle before we started the reopening process and each one of those had different levels of stress in the very beginning very much like a tornado that came out of left field with Mikey el Reno tornado a couple years ago we didn't see it coming and and that just overwhelm people people not not gonna work it will contact other income people were sent home from their jobs students did not return to school colleges send people home office and everybody was put back into their houses an unexpected way and a lot of fear a lot of uncertainty and unclear about health issues these kinds of things can enhance US electronics date of the initial crisis interesting generously our cameras and our eating and nutrition seven difficulty with concentration those of us who have anyone who has health issues or mental health issues that can be kind of a worsening I'm a bit of a perfect storm actor Kevin I'm glad you brought that up because I know worry for me and I know it yeah it has been for several level all of us in our group is that we might not only get it ourselves especially if we were on the front line team patience but we might in fact are family members or someone around this is not well absolutely and then you know I struggle with that I struggle with what if I make someone else sick I mean that is that's a true struggle of mine it absolutely not I'll personalize this I have members in my close family who have health risk issues and also I have six lovely grandchildren in Oklahoma than I struggle to visit with us from time to time based on their social patterns and our own health issues and so it's relevant on a small scale in my own life but I know this is a broad scale across our entire world certainly Oklahoma in terms of people making choices about how we deal with social distancing because of those emissions based on on health issues those who are struggling with who have had not senior members and assisted living and and unable to visit them these are all stressors that trigger button and printer guilt trigger worry trigger despair and and all of that raw emotion is what government talks about is what's in our first client yes I want to talk about the structure of the instrument well we have one minutes before I have to interrupt here here okay I want to have a visual image of the pain felt when you have a surgery and the medical personnel the nurse the doctor the technician comes in the personal therapist on a scale of one to ten where you're paying we want to make an application of medication or some form of relief to be able to address that I take that same scale and honors and then wonder can emotionally where are we and this kind now we get back from the commercial but talk about bad loan that we often times talk about performing arts or in sports we have an ideal conduit connection but this kind of emotional crisis the type of health crisis the uncertainty of it all those are typically out of that affective functioning level that is so interesting that you would use that pain scale even for emotional pain I've I've never heard that used before so what during this summer break while low everyone is listening to fox news you.
"paul tobin" Discussed on KTOK
"It's a food newsradio one thousand Katie okay good Faulconer referred here with you ninety degrees in Oklahoma City we've made it through another week yes and those things are opening up how is your mental health well as you know over the past few weeks Dr Delaware one Hobson has been joining me for our mental tune up and tonight we have a very special guest with Dr Hobson and we're going to be talking about how to be handling this cove it nineteen stress with all of its things so let's welcome to one thousand KTRK doctor gala well in Hobson licensed psychologist for over forty years she has a private practice in Norman and for many years served as the medical director for behavioral health at mercy hospital she joins me each week to make us all feel better so take it away Dr Hobbs Linden and appreciate always your introduction and what a beautiful day I hope you've gotten to get some sunshine in the outside is is everyone is listening to it I hope they have because that's so good for our mental health or physical health and getting through this because it is long as you're distancing from people so hi we are going to have a special guest tonight is going to help us with he is really full range of knowledge about techniques that are used to help in my many stressful situations he has lots of presentations but he's going to talk tonight particularly about how those techniques can help with disco that crisis so if you don't mind let me take one second go back and just review what we ended with last week we will go forward we like the old saying right yes Edwards live forward and so we talked about it but the last week so let me read something just real quickly and then we'll we'll talk a minute about empathy and go on need to quote name it may sound a little well I'll just read it I thought it was was really wonderful it's ten four beautiful I look for the good in others for beautiful lips speak words of kindness and for poise walk with the knowledge that you are not alone kindness in words creates confidence and kindness in thinking creates profound I thought that who represented it that the empathy towards others and that's what we talked about last week and you know that is very very helpful when you're thinking about how to handle this cope with crisis because Hey you know what I looked up the numbers we are up today as I guess we kind of expected with the re open I looked up and your mayor there no complicity in we took I think this is the correct correct at twelve point nine percent rising cases of this week we had our highest debut in on Missy Saturday two hundred twenty five cases that was a record yes today a hundred fifty eight cases locally I don't think any deaths over the weekend so that's lucky but I think there were a couple last week so largest single day rise of this virus so you know what we see in N. Y. United continuing every week to talk about business things that we can do to help or with all of our mental health conditions as we move through this to administer this but it these numbers are making my anxiety grow what's happening and we can warn but this virus is not acting like the flute no because it goes away in December for the most part yeah this is not acting like that so we have got to continue to to do all those things are recommending pap pap he again recommended you know social distancing I heard that from a local doctor friend of mine local the you know distance where may I ask you so things that were not being done really static group the best you can stay home if you can't the things that are getting recommended to us any minute in the meantime let's try to be empathetic and give each other a break because you know we learned last week that empathy is the action of understanding being aware of another's feelings and being sensitive to another person's feelings and they can help their experience in the world and right now the world cobit plus the difficult I hope positive re working of the way we've treated each other but it's it it's not an easy time so we need to introduce Dr Paul Tobin who's gonna join us here and talk about resilience and I'm motional maturity M. motional intelligence and how those techniques can help us and you chime in with me grand because I may not know all of doctor Tobin's background we we have been in a consulting group for twenty five years so we're definitely all friends but he is a licensed psychologist for at least forty years he has a large clinic in Atlanta one of the larger that I know of mental health clinics and he organizes and and manages that he also does organizational consulting so he teaches supposed going to bring us some really special information tonight about hello we can psychologically handled this well and you were asking earlier about his education Dr Tobin welcome to Katie okay St Gregory's university of central Oklahoma and Oklahoma state university I would say Dr Tobin you are well rounded I appreciate that and I had a short stint in Norman for a few semesters requirement issue so I think that touch base on on all the majors I think you have a cover you can have one of those flags that's right right we you know we use the expression emotional intelligence and emotional competency what are those things to me what we're looking at is a lot of self awareness and the capacity to understand ourselves and understand others and being able to regulate our emotions and support others John talks about empathy I think it's the timing of that is really good in terms of where where are we these days because there's another concept of or within that is that self care that relates to self empathy and being able to kind of lighten up on ourselves under chronic stress issues but that emotional competency there's a there's an element of kind of the individual and the larger we which is the self emotional awareness ourselves emotional competence and social competence in and it is getting into some of the social tolerance issues and we're also dealing with in today's culture so it's the gamut of kind of a sequential process of self awareness self regulation in assisting others to do the same whether that be our children is our neighbor B. R. co worker on a church in our community so it is really kind of taking a look at a framework in which we operate more effectively in managing intentionally what I'll talk about in our presentation moving from reactive business to a choice and responding more efficiently and more effectively in a kind and thoughtful way Gail would yell that correct Paul at all makes so much sense and what thing you pointed out that I I hope you will talk about some point is that every one of us to act so differently to changing circumstances and we're clearly in a big changes right call absolutely absolutely and yes to the inner psychologists were familiar with the developmental aspect of our emotions and talk a bit about this in terms of that reactive nous but fight flight and the third responses comma CAFOs inner deer in headlights and and that reactive Mr occurs one of those responses of fight flight or just frozen under heightened or chronic stress India everybody's different even within different systems we all play different roles in those childhood early family patterns are kind of handed down generation to generation sometimes they're attractive and useful other times maybe fifty percent of the time they're not and and so some of the good news and what we call positive psychology is that these things can change we can learn change or we can understand ourselves well enough to be able to be intentional about making more effective reaction to responses.
"paul tobin" Discussed on I Read Comic Book
"Spending way too much of my time as a high schooler pre social social media era like looking at Ebay and all these fans sites of all these like Japanese imports sites where you could get the sailor moon things that they were like making in the nineties. Listen you can only get them. In Japan I spent so much time. Just looking at sailorman stuff. I wanted to buy but never did and couldn't and now that I like have a little bit of expendable income income and sailor moon is like cool again. I like can't stop myself. I liked need to own the things that I wanted to own when I was quelled and seems fair. You're right okay. Okay so I would say have a limited amount that you budget every month for more clothes and you just spent this month instead of going for Turkey. Yeah that's how I do it with books. I'm like I can't cut myself off completely. I've tried that and so instead of just going going hog wild up. I'm GonNa just limit it. Nope I'm good good and they were all cheap. I got two T. shirts for ten bucks bucks each and then a long-sleeved shirt. I had a coupon and God for twenty dollars and free shipping. So I feel like I'm doing great so all right comics so we can talk about my silverman spending all day but all right so if you have Netflix you've probably seen ads for their new show. The witcher as I did and I was like. Oh probably that's something that I'll be interested in but I really WanNa watch some other stuff. I so I'll just kind of leave that at the back of my head head and then that Dude said that thing that got some article traction where he was like. This is unrealistic because ladies can't dance sword fight and I was like okay now. We're watching this show because as like if it has women sword fighting and quote unquote acting like dude I'm like and if by acting by dudes this guy was like they curse and they just tear meet with their teeth. And that's unrealistic. I was like Sir. You're describing me as a person. It can also sort fight so now. I'm very interested in watching this series and I saw I haven't started yet because I'm that person who wants to read stuff before watching stuff. Okay so hear me out so I was in a work meeting and the only other female at this work meeting right because computer science was talking about liking. This news. Witcher show a guy was like. Oh I saw that a guy who has a good boy. These are good boys So like are good boys all the show so anyway he was like Oh. I heard that I haven't been watching because I heard that it's really you like sexist. And she's like it looks like misogynistic or whatever she's like. Well I'd say it's more just blake aggressively heterosexual than it is sexist. Sure okay okay. That's interesting anyway to that I also growing knowledge all right so I'm very curious to hear your interpretation is it in fact massages take are just are super hero. So let's talk about the comic because that's actually my comment about the like all right so so. I opened up Hoopla and saw that which listeners. If you have a library system that has HOOPLA please download Hoopla because you conveyed five comics for free every month and they actually aside from the big to regularly update the digital comics with frequency. It's pretty great. So they had and they usually have on their featured page stuff that ties into stuff that like just had a trailer drop or things like that so it's actually a very well done system so oh of course. Since witcher was on Netflix they had all these witcher comics and which are volume one. Mike Magnolia did the covers so of course I tapped on that immediate was like wait it does feel like a magnolia thing which was slightly misleading because actually volume one house of glass. which is what I read is by Paul Tobin and joke hero Wpro and Mike McNeil only did the covers however I've read a lot of hell. Boy that's one of my favorite franchises. Like I don't actively I think about it being one of my favorites but if you like say what are your top. Three favorite comic whatever's. I'll probably just be like. Oh the hell stuff. Though and this volume volume of witcher feels very much like hell boy comics in terms of how the story is told and paste and like you know how in the hell comics. They'll have all these little lake. Let's call them like breather panels. Were they like kind of stop. And look at a detail will or like cut to like the creepy creatures faces and it's just like a beat but it gives you enough time to just kind of realize is that this is sort of like a creepy unsettling atmosphere where time passes weirdly so it was that kind of vibe in which your house of glass and Said I was looking. I was so in the first like page of the comic. They also have like all their copyrights up in like. This is based off video games and I was like wait which was video game so then I had to google it and I was like Oh. This comic is based off of a video game which is based off of a series of Polish novels. That I was like Poland so apparently the witcher is actually this like decades long running fantasy series of novels done by a Polish author and it has has like a huge cult following in eastern Europe. So US Americans are super new to all of this so thanks everyone who translated all this stuff and brought it to us in like video game forum room in comics and now a show and so forth but like I was like yeah. What's up motherland? I see you. Your nickel shit had a genetic extinct Last Semester. That part of the class was doing our own stuff without like. You know how you get your own genetics profile from like twenty three and me or whatever and then we did a bunch of population relationship metrics using her own stuff in the previous students. They've kind of built up a database Of The anonymised data and one of the cool thing is was it showed where in Poland we I was from which is yes so and it matched the family lore which was not surprising sends. The family lawyer is recent. My grandparents came over here but still it was cool to be like. Hey not only did they move from there. But also the genes are from there. which isn't necessarily the same? You know what I mean like so yeah it was cool Nice. Yeah Yeah Yeah. Yeah yea foolish okay. Continue so no all right so house of glass the basic first of all I just WanNa say I am so over origin stories in comics. Really Nice Nice for your volume. Want to just be like. Here's our main character stories already happening. And I'm like awesome because all you 'cause the witcher as a protagonist at least in these comics so far because I've already gone into some additional ones is very like here's this dude who's like men a few words and fighting monsters sisters and I'm like awesome. I know this trope. Let's go and I didn't need to know like how he got his swords like how he got his necklace thing that that vibrates when there's evil afoot. Whatever I don't care thank you for putting me right in the middle of the story and so basically? He's like traveling and he's found this guy who's also traveling slash trying to forget away from or sometimes find his wife who got turned into a monster or something and they end up in the woods in this creepy house. That's like a cursed house full of curse to the people and there's cubis right like you do and there's a sucky bus there and she's like just like the second I saw her I was like like. Ra dudes made this book because like Click. You know that look that that women have in comics when they're drawn to obviously just be like here is a sexy woman. Yep so that. And she's like I know I get it. She's a sucky bust and like that's their thing but but she's like almost immediately hitting on the witcher and he's like not really interested and then of course later in the story he is interested but he's not interested he's like fine woman all have sex with you and I'm like Dude wrote this uh-huh so aggressively Hetero but I am continuing to read the witcher comics and I'm also like I said I was obviously curious about the novels that all of this came from and it's like kind of hard to find copies of the early witcher stories translated translated into English so I guess like we have an abundance of the filter down stuff but the original novel stuff is like yeah you could like buying online but like my library only has a copy like e book form. Yes and I'm like Oh weird. This is like this big franchise but I guess that doesn't really translate to people apple actually wanting to read the book no else's Nerd like me. Okay okay all right now. That we've been aggressively Hetero. What comics mix? Are you guys excited for new comics. Come out on January Fifteenth Twenty Twenty because we are in the twenties because that is our lives. Now that is the thing Kate lanphier what are you for. There's a comment called neo. Be She is death and number two comes out Wednesday but number one is getting a second printing and I. I haven't read that one yet either. So I'm excited about both of them. it's written by Sebastian Sebastian. A JONES MEDALISTS DENVER. Yes the actress and the art is by Sheldon Mitchell This is actually a sequel series. The first series neo be. She is life I tried to get my hands on physical copies of it from Alsace but they were sold out and it was never reprinted. So I'm going to have to track this down in digital somehow and the plotline is about a character named the OB who tracks down people who stole young girls for the slave trade. So I think this should become a warrior woman but the very first issue of Nubia she has life shows what looks like a girl like staring out from behind bushes and then the newest issue. That's coming out on Wednesday shows. The armored woman with weapons looks like she's not going to take shit from anybody so I have to read this this prequel series and then catch up with this current series because I have to figure out how she went from girl hiding behind bushes to girl defending people and it's only the first series is only three or four issues news and then the current series is only going to be two issues so far. There's not a whole lot to catch up with but they aren't looks beautiful. It's a person of color color. Female protagonist I'm so excited. All Right Scotch list. What are you got? I am excited for a new graphic novel. That's coming out it's an. Og uncalled in pieces. Some place which I call home by Kurt Enke. I think how you pronounce it. It's A. N. K. E. N. Y.. If you're trying to look it up for a library quest who like someone recently did here It's a debut graphic novel from this person. It's a written Britain and drawn by him and it's a series of short vignettes That are comedic poetic and some of them are just referred absurd quote unquote reveals the personality of the small New England town. And that's what Hook Line and sinker me like personality of a small New England town. Give it to me where he lived for years with his family. And so the things that are like very atmospheric for small doing Lantau around I get very into usually I did live in Connecticut for a while. And I think that's why but in general. I just like that whole whole vibe. I think so. I'm excited for this. It looks like it's all hand-drawn black and white which is also Can Be a nice night shift although obviously obviously with the strangers in paradise and all black and white lately anyway but I think it's fun going from like what I read before that was mister miracle which is very vibrantly differently colored and I don't know about you guys but like I like doing that shift from one to the other and back again Kind of giving giving your eyes a break. I feel like it makes me notice. Notice the color in line work more. When I'm kind of contrasting? If that makes sense it does. I can't say I have done that. Strategy before are but strategy thing. That just happened just happened. Yeah but it happens fairly regularly for me. I don't know why But any case that's who I'm excited for If it if it turns out to be a bummer than a well. It's always nice to try..
"paul tobin" Discussed on ESPN FC
"Will in the European Cup because he schooled big gulls particularly against bomb in the semi finals. And then obviously the goal against. Let's go in the final in this. Because I was kind of if you like kind of action man moments. I think he gets talked about much more than PK note because he's a defender even because comparible defend the star this tickly, but there is much more of this kind of study inspired at least this is something that just said well best if in a row. Rammell obviously and PK for too long hasn't even been in that conversation, and he should have been he should have been that conversation. Certainly we've in Spanish context, but also five six maybe even seven years. No, you love these either or type of questions up the end of the field. You can stop. I on this to South American strikers think roughly the same sort of age Sergio Aguayo Luis Suarez who you taking. Louis worth by miles. Why? Because he's better. Mean really like so here wet, and he was absolute stiff you're worried about away when he when he first broke through outlets, and he came to go, I think at the age of eighteen those first two threes. He was absolutely wonderful playing on almost on his own up front. A lot of time. The bull pump longtime making things happen almost entirely by himself. But I just think Luis Suarez as being in terms of looking for number nine loose worth probably being the best in the world. At least on and off for the last six maybe seven years strike is in the room. Do you? Concur. The movement of Louis WADA's is off the ball is better than that said. If you wait for that reason alone, I will take we also live what we brings not only to. But what he brings to his national team which said here has been able to do with Argentina. Impossible to separate when you look at what they've done from swatter, forcing you to separate. You can only take one you building a team. Gorrell taking whereas for the Golden Bear the last year for me, it appear goals go. Yes. We can talk about home applaud could talk with Lynn co play with Suarez. Why does this not up? You're going for. He also links very well. Right. So so then you're gonna you're gonna put him step down because links very well. If you let me finish. The trauma gouty did not trapped when he was at Liverpool the whether the trunks form so employers absolutely gone by the wayside. He's quite remarkable. He did image and continues to do amazing things. Just because I disagree with you. And Sidney doesn't really it doesn't matter to me. I'll go with the glare. Dr. I have no idea what? I what's going on. Shack. He can get no not moving. Last one. What song don't you ready for a big game? What song was? Yeah. Oh, yeah. Any music in the locker room. There was a really big game in you'll. The day. Nobody had this. Would that walkman? I was about this. Josh would then. Cassette track. Every. Woman on west. Let me say what was the moment. Neil Ruddock and yet, right? You should be Elvis was elevate. Paul Tobin when you played. Piano, piano. Has it against some heavy mental? DC bucking blocking blind. No Danja the penalty on Spotify. Whatever you do. It's still played everywhere in every state the answer. Extratime different events. Right. Everybody off. Hey, I've told this story before, but this Everybody off. Hey, I've told this story before, but this is stores NO my career where one team that I play for. We were not very good, in fact, terrible. So they used to play. Chiefs. Tonight's going to be a good night. Him back in the locker room. I don't know if it's going to be. Good. Cain to be honest with not really not going to. It really was a good night was with With cheese. the other team. The drama. We will hopefully joy, the pleasure of your company next time around ESPN available every day on ESPN, plus.