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Fresh update on "patricia" discussed on Morning Edition
"Best interest let's make a plan dot org I'm David bronca the fed wants higher interest rates to clobber inflation with higher mortgage rates people are turning to a venerable strategy instead of one interest rate for 1520 or 30 years There are loans where you pay less now and hope upon hope that interest rates don't go too crazy later Marketplace is Justin Ho report Bankers at bay state savings bank in Massachusetts have been getting a lot of questions about adjustable mortgages CEO Peter Alden says part of his job is explaining what can happen if rates eventually rise So if they know in dollars based on what they want to borrow what that impact could be 5 years out for example If interest rates rise borrowers might not be able to afford their payments Real estate professor Susan walked her at the warden school says during the 2008 financial crisis Any of those adjust rate mortgages went into default Regulators have stepped up their scrutiny of the adjustable mortgage market For instance lenders are required to collect more information from borrowers says Patricia McCoy at Boston college Today a lender has to make sure that the person has enough income to afford an adjustable rate mortgage at the highest interest rate it can go The mortgage bankers association says the number of applications for adjustable mortgages has gone up 22% over the last year I'm Justin Hough from marketplace Airbnb will soon stop listing properties in China but it still wants Chinese people to stay at Airbnb's abroad Here's the BBC's Nick marsh In a nutshell it's zero COVID First off the international tourism is basically nonexistent in China It's so hard to get in and out of the country right now So that's customers Airbnb won't be getting any time soon But even if you look domestically we've seen what happens in China when there's a flare up of COVID cases Look at Shanghai They had a 6 week lockdown They seem to be slowly moving out of that right now but who knows it could be Beijing next They've just seen an uptick in cases Nick marsh at the BBC let's do.
"patricia" Discussed on Greg Bedard Patriots Podcast with Nick Cattles
"Bet online where the game starts. All right, so I'm just going to set this one up for you. Here we go. And let you run with it. So a lot of Matt Patricia love. And you talked about Patricia down at the owner's meeting. It's kind of tied at the hip with Belichick. People looking at this from afar, trying to figure out what the hell is going on. Grow is singing Patricia's praises about his pro personnel experience. He made, you know, he made Patricia sound like he broke the mold by working on the devonta Parker trade. On and on and on and on. What is going on with this love fest for Matt Patricia Greg? First of all, Nick, let me just let me just say this at the start. I have nothing against map Patricia. I've spoken to him a couple of times. I spoke to him at the combine and at the lead meetings. Have a good relationship with him. Have nothing personally against him. I think he's a good coach. I think he's brilliant. I think he's an asset here. We'll see the whole offensive thing. I'm referring to Belichick. I don't have an opinion on that. I don't love it. I don't have an opinion on it. So let me just state that from the top. But it was one thing to see map Patricia wood Bill Belichick at the league meetings and following him around, okay? That never happens. There's never an assistant coach there. It never happens. That was one thing. It's another thing to see him and Bill all together. And Bill also to be lavishing praise on map Patricia and how big of a role he plays here, all right? That was one thing, okay? I could deal with that. Whatever, I'll let Bill have a say what have you. Maybe you need to travel companion. I don't know. But the comments that macro had the other day, Nick, I've had it. I've just had it. And there were two in particular, okay? He mentioned map Patricia because grow was asked about his lack of pro personnel experience when it comes to being director of director of player personnel, which we've talked about here. It's unheard of. He's three years from being an area scout. He's never been quote unquote in pro personnel, which is unusual. All the other guys before him with the Patriots all had years of pro personnel experience. But he said, gross said, obviously we've got no better resource than coach Belichick and what Matt Patricia is able to add through his through all his experience is let me say that again. And what mappers is able to add through all his experiences with everything on the pro side. I just try and soak that in, put it all together and help make the team help the team make the best decisions we can..
Feds will appeal mask ruling only if mandate still needed
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"patricia" Discussed on Entrepreneur on FIRE
"We got married within a year. And there wasn't really a thought, right? So we are 24/7 every single day. I've never even slept a night apart from my life. So, you know, we're a little different in terms of that. But when it comes with working together, it's really just setting the boundaries, right? For other people who are maybe listing, you know, let's say you do have a full-time job. And you're going to wait for a partner at home. You got to tell them, hey, this is my goal. This is my dream. Nothing's going to happen overnight. But if I come home from work at 6 and I go straight into my office for four hours, this is what I'm doing. This is what my goal is, or hey, you know, I may miss this party on the weekend or I might not be able to do this. And I need to sacrifice this, but it's for the greater good. So having that open communication, you know, whether you're screaming at each other openly or that you're screening or whatever. You're hurting my feelings. Whatever it may be, you know, whether I'm right or she's wrong, the one thing that I would say that we are amazing at is regardless of the fight because they happen every single day with all different people is no matter if you think you're right or wrong, just ending it. And you know what? It was me or it was you. Let's just move past it and let's continue building our companies because that's where letting something brew and then build into something so much bigger. You can't stay focused on the plan ahead. So that's why I always tell everybody is being very open about your goals. Also giving up some tasks because sometimes trying to do the same thing and seeing who has a better outcome, you don't really need that competition inside of the house. Patricia, what do you want to add to this? Hold on, let me wake up. See, that's how it works..
Concerns Raised Over $60 Million in Black Lives Matter Funds
"BLM also known as Black Lives Matter has been raising over the last couple of years, a great deal of money. And the question is, where does all that money go? Now, this is not just a question that I'm asking or that conservatives are asking. This is a question that's being asked by a lot of black families that claim to be victims of police brutality who thought that the whole point of BLM was to raise money for them. But now they're realizing that no, the whole point of BLM is not that at all, the whole point of BLM is to make money for its organizers. Recently, a local BLM guy contacted the national BLM to see if they could help him out. And it turns out they couldn't help him out because Patricia calores the nominal one of the nominal leaders of BLM was doing a corporate co sponsorship with ugg, ugg is the ugg boots the California boot company, and she's like, oh, I'm too busy to come to your protest. I'm actually gonna be doing making some videos with ugg. To promote the product and demonstrate their solidarity with the with BLM. Patricia calories is also busy with making book deals. She has got a production deal with Warner Brothers. The money here we're talking about is big. The BLM group has raised more than 90 million. Since 2020. And if you look at its finances, you discover that they've given yeah they've given 21 million in grants, they've got 8 million in operating expenses, but you know what? The other 60 million is in their coffers. It's unaccounted for. And some of you know, BLM really started with the Ferguson Missouri riots. And interestingly, in Ferguson itself, you've got the you've got the parents of the Ferguson victims, and also two women named Lisa Simpson and samaria rice. They're apparently their sons were also involved in some police violence. They realized that the money is not going to add to them, to any of them. And so they issued a statement. Basically saying, stop capitalizing on the suffering of our
"patricia" Discussed on Available Worldwide
"Hi Patricia, it's so good that you were able to join me here. I reached out to you because I knew that the work that you're doing right now at least was perfect for January. We'll get to that later. But also, because you're a bit of a, I don't know, famous person, I guess, in the EFM community. You've done so many exciting things and helped the community in so many ways that I wanted to be able to share your story a little bit. So I guess the first question that I ask everybody is, who are you? And can you give me a few sentences about what you do right now? Hi, Lauren. Yeah, it's great to be here. Thank you so much. I guess I've been around a while in the foreign service community. My husband joined in 1990, so I have accumulated some experiences along the way. What I do now is I have a coaching health coaching business called fierce after 45, and I'm 60 now. And I help women feel fierce after 45 by accompanying them on their hero's journey to feel better in their bodies and helping make it easier, more empowering and more fun for them. That's impressive. It sounds a little bit like the mission of available worldwide because we're all about empowering EFM to tell their stories. So you're empowering people after 45 to also be happy and who they are and do exciting things with who they are. I love it. Absolutely. So how did you get started in this? What made you start your own business? Yeah, that's a really good question. As most of the things in my life, I sort of stumbled into it. So in 2014, I was on the edge of being overweight and obese, and I was, well, I was obese. And I decided it's time to lose 20 pounds..
After pardon from governor, McCloskeys want their guns back
"The the prominent prominent Saint Saint Louis Louis couple couple who who waved waved guns guns at at racial racial injustice injustice protesters protesters are are now now suing suing to to get get their their weapons weapons back back soon soon after after they they pleaded pleaded guilty guilty to to misdemeanor misdemeanor charges charges attorneys attorneys mark mark and and Patricia Patricia McCloskey McCloskey were were pardoned pardoned by by Missouri's Missouri's governor governor the the St St Louis Louis post post dispatch dispatch quotes quotes a a city city official official who who says says the the weapons weapons have have not not yet yet been been destroyed destroyed mark mark McCloskey McCloskey was was running running for for the the U. U. S. S. Senate Senate told told a a judge judge he he believes believes the the pardons pardons entitle entitle the the couple couple to to get get their their weapons weapons back back and and get get a a refund refund of of their their fines fines during during the the protests protests that that followed followed the the death death of of George George Floyd Floyd the the McCloskey's McCloskey's emerged emerged from from their their homes homes saying saying they they felt felt threatened threatened he he had had an an A. A. R. R. fifteen fifteen style style rifle rifle she she waved waved a a semi semi automatic automatic pistol pistol I'm I'm Jackie Jackie Quinn Quinn
"patricia" Discussed on A Way to Garden with Margaret Roach
"She's also author of the recent book, a family guide to terrariums for kids, which is suited to inspiring would be terrarium makers of all ages, even me, high Patricia, how are you? Good morning, how are you? Okay. Before we get started, I want to say we're going to have a giveaway of your book, which as I mentioned is perfect for all ages of hobbyists wanting to learn the craft. And we'll have that with a transcript of the show the giveaway with the transcript of the show over on a way to garden dot com. So in the book here are true sort of traditional terrariums, these kind of humid little worlds that have a lid that's closed, summer, all of the time, and some are more like dish gardens like an open bowl of succulents. There's a lot of range of quote terrariums, isn't there? Exactly. And I mean, like you mentioned, there's the traditional terrarium with the lid that traps in that humidity and moisture for plants that really crave that type of environment. And then kind of modern day tri areas where it's kind of an open glass bowl with more succulent type plants. So you can really have fun with a variety of different landscapes. So if I want to get started and we quite weird, does the planning begin? I mean, the most strategic, smart kind of planning, not just, oh, that looks pretty I'll shove that in over here..
Bob Dylan artwork show opens in Miami, new cinema paintings
"Bob Dylan's artwork goes on display on Tuesday in Miami at the Patricia and Phillip frost art museum as art Basel Miami kicks off you know it's views it but do you know his artwork it's the most comprehensive exhibition of Bob Dylan's visual art to be held in the U. S. as frost art museum director Jordana Pomeroy touristic that he's eighty years old and ready to be recognized in this new way into this new land the exhibition includes more than a hundred and eighty acrylics watercolors drawings and ironwork sculptures the show runs through April seventeenth I'm Julie Walker
Caller Suggests That When Reporting on a Crime, Leave Race out of It
"Yeah, I have two points of making. I'm not good at giving my points across, I guess. But my first one is, if I had a wish because when something bad happens and they've mentioned the race, obviously, a lot of people just think about the race and they don't think about the crime. My wish is that they it would be illegal to mention what color a person is when they report a crime. So people could just think about the crime and not think about the color of the person and maybe that way. They would come to a better conclusion than what they do because there's so much hate. Yeah. And a lot of issues are tinged with race. Everything is seen through a racial prism and it's poisonous Patricia. It's absolutely
Neil Parrott Talks About Campaign for Western Maryland Secession to West Virginia
"Blue states like Maryland which have these blood red counties full of real genuine patriots and people who love liberty and their families and God and kneel there just tired of it man they're pissed off They're just like I've had enough of this communist crap Can we have a place where people can respect their civil liberties You're not going on a lot of doors in western Maryland The story was about them talking about seceding from the state into West Virginia and candidly Neil I don't blame him No Dan you've knocked on board two And I've heard it for all ten years that I've been a state delegate People are tired They would like to just be able to leave the state And now there is a proposal to go to Washington We're talking with the state Senate president in Washington and their Speaker of the House and they would like to have us there They're actually going to do a vote so we wrote a letter and said we'd like to go to West Virginia And it is the pent up frustration of not being represented from liberal analysis And really being just kicked to the side many issues but some of them are second in the rights We don't have good secular rights in Maryland but of course West Virginia does Taxes are way too high in Maryland compared to estrogen It was higher And stay here They wouldn't have to leave if we were part of West Virginia When you look at school they just passed thankfully the center of Patricia they have the most school choice Bill in the entire country right now We'd like to see that in western Maryland as well And of course the safety and schools when you look at what's happened to Virginia with this transgender people are boys are going to the girls bathroom in a salty people That can happen in Maryland We pass bills to allow that to happen But West Virginia doesn't do that And in fact they said if you're going to have girl sports biological boys not going to be allowed to compete to grow sports at West Virginia That are some of the things that people in western Maryland would like to
"patricia" Discussed on Monsters and Mixers
"From colorado and then that she was from israel the next day may fifth two other sightings of patricia were reported. The i was in sioux falls. South dakota where a waitress claimed that meeting had sat inside a truck stop Diner drinking coffee from twelve. Am to eleven. Thirty am which is almost twelve hours. At least you've got some coffee money. Starting that same day the second report was made from another waitress in murdo. South dakota who reported seeing harvest weaned ten and eleven pm with a random man who appeared to be in his thirties on may nineteenth nineteen eighty. Nine another waitress in a restaurant near patricia's home in bozeman reported seeing in that area. She said that she ordered breakfast. In a very very russian the inner in stated that she had to go shopping at nine. Am a separate rate waitress. Working at the same restaurant reported that she appeared disoriented and seemed to be talking herself that same week. Another sighting of her was reported at a horse. Auction in billings montana strange. It's a lot of Area to be and we'll get into that in a little bit with people think how she got so far by june of nineteen eighty nine over twenty five sightings of patricia had been reported in three of them were confirmed by the police. Other reports were received throughout the pacific northwest. Many of which were at truck stops between montana in seattle law enforcement believed firmly. Believe me and may have been in washington at this time. Due to the fact that her sister lived in seattle and her ex boyfriend lived in spokane so she would have a reason to be in that area on august thirtieth nineteen ninety two years after the accident. A woman was arrested by the police. In idaho for littering..
"patricia" Discussed on Monsters and Mixers
"I'm just going to work as a ranch in montana which is very different like you want dairy. Yeah so from pittsburgh which is you know. Bustling city to the middle of montana which is honestly admirable. Probably love to do that. Know it sounds pretty awesome Here she worked other odd jobs to support herself so she wasn't just being ranches doing all kinds of stuff. The last person to see patricia prior to her disappearance was her landlord landlord who claimed that her demeanor was out of the ordinary in that she seemed hyper on april nineteenth today the day before her disappearance with her father in pittsburgh over the phone and said that she was under a lot of stress and she wanted to come home. When i hear the word highbrow think maybe she was a manic bipolar. The search for her began immediately however the police had no idea if she was injured or if she was purposely evading and hiding from them i mean they have no clue. They don't know if she got scared and was like oh shit. I need a runaway. Maybe she's drawn strength hide or hit her head and she's like out of rights. They don't know what they're doing with her. What they're walking into. They did find tracks from a pair of tennis shoes in the field. Near the scene of the accident that went on for several miles in They were believed to be hers due to the size of the shoe but led them to nothing and no one in by three o'clock in the morning. The search was suspended until later that day. As attracts eventually disappeared in the terrain it continued on for the next five days but no trace of her was found. The mahan family arrived in montana shortly after their daughter's disappearance in handed out over two thousand missing persons fires throughout the area local volunteer search teams.
Becoming A Stepparent
"Let's look at practical ways to meet the crisis of being a step parent a little easier essentially a roadmap. I wish i had the first takeaway is to reset your expectations. Understand and accept that being stepfamily is a very different dynamic. From what dr. Patricia pap now calls a first time family. She's a psychologist and author of three books. On step parenting a stepparent enters as an outsider to an already established bond between the parent and child and also an already established system and the other thing is that kids are hard wired to connect to their parents. They often are not very interested. Ranging to rejecting of having a step parent come in and disrupt their lives even something as small as how you stack. The dishwasher can feel like a big difference for child. Who's gotten used to a certain way of doing things. So it's a very very different start. And it means the parent and the stepparent are in really really different positions. The parent is an insider connected to the child and the stepparent is an outsider stepfamilies. A common according to a twenty eleven pew study more than four in tanna. American adults have at least one stepparent in their family. But pap says often we don't talk about. How challenging it is to become that family if you came in expecting to bond with kids and expecting to feel really close to your partner. There's a lot of shame. Often it just acknowledging that your family is different can provide a more realistic grounded perspective and give you permission not to beat yourself up. Remember what batzeli said having too many plans on expectation of what you think that should be like is the absolute worse where our transition in here right. We're all trying to figure it
"patricia" Discussed on The KTS Success Factor (a Podcast for Women)
"Powerhouse. An author of the happy hung a guide to creating a happy healthy wealthy life. Patricia helps women make their home magnetic to money luck and blessings what they don't teach in school. What lies between the lines. Your top secret tool for success. She is a funk sway. 'but a healer and a passionate female entrepreneur who has shaped her dream life living in bali with her husband patricia has a gift that making bunks twice. Simple and easy to understand and implement. She's helped thousands of people across the globe. Embrace spunk swag and create lasting changes in their homes lives and businesses. Patricia has seen firsthand. The power of the mind surroundings and inner healing clearing and aligning everything. so it works holistic way patricia. Thanks so much for being here today. You're very welcome delighted to be here with you. So what is the biggest challenge you help female leaders face today and what might be the symptoms of that challenge so the biggest challenge that i have leaders address is moving to the next level so a lot of the women who would come into my world will have done a lot of work. They've got all the degrees or certifications old qualifications and they also been doing a lot of the personal development work as well so it'd be looking internally while could be blocking them or holding them back from the level of success that they know that they are here to create but also to achieve and change an impact statement to create so they can feel like they're hitting against some kind of invisible glass ceiling feeling a little bit frustrated and really but actually going like. What else can i work. Quick what else can i do to move to the next level and what of the biggest mistakes they make before working with you so the thing is actually really making a mistake. I think that one of the things that happens is that we underestimate or we don't realize the impact that our physical environment our home or office. Our workspace is actually having on us. So it's the little bit of like you don't know what you don't know until you do know and ask the case when people come across me. They're like wow. My home could be sabotaging my career. It could be sabotaging my bank account my relationships. And i'm like yes it can. And that's often what happens when clients come to me. And i work on their homes and look at what's going on energetically in their home and i'm like well the reason you haven't increased up the ladder in your career is because of this. The reason haven't called in his love relationship is because and this is how you fix it. So we're looking at things from very different perspective than most of the time and deadly looking at so. It's not true therapist or talk therapy or coach. Were really just looking at the energetics of the physical home on workspace. I say so. What's the number one. Free and actionable tip. You can give them to address this challenge. Now the very first thing i would say to. You is to literally first of all connect with the home and imagine your home and stay tune in and just ask the question. Do my spirit's riser. Full when i come into my home into my office into my workspace and that can be a little bit of an indicator also looking back on what this story has been since you moved into the space like what has happened. And what hasn't happened. And then once you get to the place i would say to then you know especially as a career woman and entrepreneur someone that wants to accessible look at your actual workspace look at that space and see what's in that is lining up where i want to go and how it's set up So what does the valuable free resource you can share with the women her listening today to help them understand this challenge. Better so the very Worst worse i would like to support the listeners. With is on my leg site it's patricia dot com board slash office or you can just go to trysofi dot com and it is a guide to teach you how to funkaway your office now ninety nine percent of the time. I don't care where most beagles furniture is all about the energy and the actual invisible energy of the home but it is absolutely vital to set up your office space in a place where you are set up in your power position and bats without guide will teach you about what should on your office. You shouldn't have in your office. How to optimize on. Set yourself up for success riddick. While soon as i get off this call. You know where. I'm going so patricia. What is one question that i should've asked you. That will help our audience today. Take action to address this challenge and then would you please answer the question. The question is lettuce zhai. And i think that actually for me. I like to describe punctuates acupuncture for your home and sometimes it can be one of the things that people are a little bit nervous about that. I'm going to come in and tell them that everything is in the wrong place. You have to clear everything else you have to move house and it's not like that at all leisurely. Acupunctures takes the kind of energy raging in decides. Okay i need. This is how to treat it. And this is how. I work with homes and energetic bring them into balance every single part of your home under office is basically mirroring back a different part of your life and it's impacting you. Whether you know it or not. There's an absolutely beautiful potency in power when we actually activate the energy of our homes to support us. Oh very cool very cool. I love that analogy of bay acupuncture Thank you so much for being with me today. You're very welcome. Thanks for listening to the. Ktf success factor podcasts for women. If you like what you were hearing please go to. 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Harnessing Fierce Self Compassion with Author Kristin Neff
"Kristen. Thanks for being untangled. Today it's great to have you with us again. Oh thanks patricia. I'm really happy to be here. Yes your new book just came out. When did it come out. Actually yesterday on the so excited that i got to read it. It is so good. And let's just start by talking about why he decided to write this book. You've been a compassion. Pioneer and self compassion warrior and. This book has a little bit of a different twist to it. And i'm just curious as to why you decided to write. This one is a couple of reasons. So it's about the fear side of self compassion in addition to tender more nurturing side. It's about being able to speak up. Stand up for yourself. Meet your needs motivate change and first of all in the last ten years or so. When i've been really teaching people about self compassion. I realized that people had a very one-sided view of it they thought self compassion was only about self acceptance and soothing and comforting and there was this misperception that somehow self compassion is gonna undermine your ability to motivate. Change your to seek up or to do something about your life. They thought it was all about acceptance. So part of it was just decrypt. Misperception to let people know about the fear side of self compassion. I liked joke that tender self compassion as like a mother. Just unconditionally loves her child. Even wintershall screaming at off just love and soothe and care for our child but this also like mama bear so protecting her cobs are saying. Okay time for you to leave the dan or maybe hunting for miles. If i'm fish feed them. All of those are really important. Part of self compassion that mama bear side which we can also turn inward is exclusively for women in particular we haven't done before it's all been gender neutral is because women's fierceness socialized out of them we're told to be helpful and say yes to everyone into gear brown needs in a way that men are. So that's why. I wrote the book particularly for women. I was definitely ask that question. And i want to dive a little deeper into that. But why do you think you chose the word fierce. I love the word. Fierce is not the only one who uses it. a lot of people do and essential steam. Because they're called the translations now not all languages have an analogous word because fierce connotes bravery and courage and that warrior energy but as a positive word as opposed to something like aggressive which is negative connotations. And that's why i like fierce because again it's like fierce mama bear that warrior energy can come from a place of love in terms of the service of protection and reducing harm and just seemed to fit that really well.
Roald the Rotten: The Unsavory Character Behind the Icon of Children's Literature
"British author role doll rose to fame with books that became iconic works of literature and continue to be read by children. All over the world. Charlie and the chocolate factory james and the giant peach and the witches are all beloved for their colorful storytelling and memorable characters however shadow has followed these tales and their author since their publication doll was often described as being racist anti-semitic eh misogynistic in both his personal life and in his stories and how we approach problematic literature especially literature written for children is as complicated as the man who wrote them. Just ask those who were responsible for. Bringing his words to the world they often dealt with him across the ocean. And even that wasn't enough. Sometimes doll had grown up embodying this nickname of the apple which he'd earned due to his mother's adoration for him compared to her other children. He attended boarding school from a young age and dabbled in writing but his imagination proved far more developed than his literary skills. At the time. Still he enjoyed coming up with stories and conjuring new ones based on his experiences at school. Doll went on to enlist in world war. Two with the royal air force after sustaining an injury during a crash he healed up flew several more missions and eventually went home to start his new life as a civilian. He married american actress. Patricia neal in nineteen fifty three and together. The couple had five children. It was during her fifth pregnancy. Though when neil suffered three cerebral aneurysms. Her husband took over caring for the family but he also treated her horribly as she recovered he implemented a cruel recovery regimen to get her back into acting when she wanted something but couldn't remember what it was called. He would refuse to give it to her until she used. Its correct name and this went on for ten months. Several years later doll began an affair with another woman you see. There was a reason why his wife referred to him as roald of the rotten
Why We Need Voice Technology for Children With Dr. Patricia Scanlon
"Why do we need voice technology specifically for children while the shelf speech recognition technology tends not to work very well for kids. It's akin to what speech recognition technology was for adults ten years ago which was pretty bad and nobody was really using it at the time. And there's very good reasons for this for kids. They're physically very different right you know. We know that they're they're vocal. Tracks are thinner and shorter the vocal folds of smaller so the actual physical voice resides in the different parts of the spectrum. There speech language is different. I mean you know. Children's language developed so much in those early years from two to four to six to eight to ten you can see how their languages maturing it's become more sophisticated is beginning to follow the language rules as they get older when they reach a by ten and they start sounding a little more mature but their behaviors are so different. I mean adults tend to be quite behaved. Very well actually. It's very little. I very bill speed. How adults when you take dialect and accent. We tend to try and follow the language rules than we tend to try and realize how we should interact with voice technology to get the best possible result but kids don't kids don't follow the language rules that behaviors. They along gate. Were they words. They over pronounce words. They p- unctuous They showed the whispered they sing and their environments that they're in that they inhabit tend to be always noisy. I mean nobody is a four year old likes to go and have quite time on their own. They tend to be around the adults. They tend to be into their kids. They tend to be. Tv's in the background and adults token northward. Kids are in classrooms playgrounds from cars. When the us. I want to use voice technology. It's not in a quiet environment and we have to be really mindful of that. We also have to be mindful of the channels which children interact with technology. All different chipset from cheap old smartphones more expensive ipads to chromebooks two laptops to Cheap microphones on toys. A voice technology built for kids has to work in all those environments all those channels and be able to cope with the very ability of kids speech speech in terms of their acoustically. How they sound on on the physical differences both well as the language and the behaviors. I'm very much so we need to protect kids. Data it far beyond what we. We consider important nine space in life. Our kids are sensitive sensitive when it comes to kids. We need to respect the privacy of kids data and that's critical as well
Celebrity Attorney F. Lee Bailey Dead at 87
"Celebrity attorney F. Lee Bailey has died at the age of eighty seven according to one of his law associates I marquees are loaded with the latest Ashley Bailey made his name winning an acquittal for the second murder trial of Dr Sam Sheppard Bailey's other high profile clients included heiress Patricia Hearst the alleged Boston strangler and former NFL star OJ Simpson one of the memorable moments of Simpson's nineteen ninety five trial was Bailey cross examining Los Angeles police detective mark Fuhrman about racism anyone who comes to this court and quotes you as using that word in dealing with African Americans would be a liar would they not detective yes they would all of them correct all of them Billy was disbarred in two states for his handling of stock owned by a convicted drug smuggler really won the right to practice law in Maine in twenty thirteen
S6 E11 - This is what it's like living with someone with PTSD. . . - Full Episode
"All right you ready. I actually hit record this time here. We go so in the most recent episode of the podcast season six episode ten. I sat down with my wife patricia. I talked to her about the challenges. She has faced in dealing with multiple mental health diagnoses over the years and right after we published that episode. We received an excellent recommendation from a listener. Asking us to tackle the topic of what it's like living with someone with ptsd. And i think patricia. And i are uniquely suited to tackle this since both of us. Have this diagnosis in in. Its for completely different reasons. This episode is going to be an unfiltered. Look at what. It's like to live with someone with post traumatic stress disorder and by way of introduction. This is the we served now. What podcast where. I do my best to answer the questions. Veterans and their families are already asking so you can make your post military life. Your best life money erin perkins. I'm a. us army combat veteran daddy to two amazing kiddos host of this podcast. If you hadn't guessed. And i am joined today again by my beautiful bride patricia. Welcome back to the show thank you. I'm so glad to be here. Well good good so it's been a couple weeks right and last time we talked about the treatments. You're getting and things like that for depression. Talk to us a little bit before. We're gonna dive into the. Ptsd topic talked us a little bit. About how those are going those are going. I'm not going to be very honest. they're painful. I think Winning expecting almost a miracle. I mean you you let somebody shock your head for twenty minutes a day. You expect something but it's actually made my depression a little worse. They said that's normal. It can get worse before it gets better. So actually they're going to re map tomorrow and see if there's a different place. They need to put the magnet. But i think it's gonna go all right. Yeah we hope we hope and pray as well trained for this for that. This works in putting you through a lot of distress but like you said pain to try to to address the depression right. And so that's that's just one part of what can be a result of ptsd another city but the actually brit really brings up our our first thing to talk about is. Let's talk about ptsd a little bit. What it is. And how. I understand it. How do you understand. ptsd how. I understand it is. I mean we all know it stands for post traumatic stress disorder and that can be from your childhood from your teen years from adulthood. Something you went through something. You saw something you experienced. That was just traumatic for you. And i know that it can you know make you. Have you know nightmares it. Can you know how you can have memories of that trauma and then you avoid situations that you know make you think of that trauma and you know a lot of even soldiers you know. They get like hyper vigilant. You know because of how it makes them feel and it can call anxiety and depression as well. I think the hyper vigilance was one of the i. I realize that i that something was wrong right. I knew i had a lot of anger in. I was like i don't know why angry like i'm i'm not in the army anymore. I thought you the anger was just part of just being in the army. You're just mad something every day. And so i thought that it would go away and it didn't in fact he got worse and it. Was that hyper vigilance piece. I always felt. I still do. But i always felt ready. This constant state of readiness hyper vigilant. That's one of the behavioral parts because there's behavioral parts psychological mood in general sleep. And then you know it you can break them all down like you know behavioral is like you know you feel agitated or irritable or hof style or hyper vigilant like you were saying or you know you start doing self destructive things like you know. Drugs are becoming an alcoholic or or if he just completely isolate yourself. That's me raise my hand right there myself psychological as you know flashbacks which i don't have those fear that comes from nowhere severe anxiety failure to trust other people. Because you don't know what's going to happen the mood part of it. You know you lose interest or pleasure in doing stuff that you used to enjoy doing right or you feel like the severe guilt or you are incredibly lonely like you have tons of people around you. You have a family that loves you but you are so lonely and it messes with your sleep. It can cause you to sleep too much. Not enough to have horrific nightmares and a lot of people have detachment from other people and like intrusive thoughts that they just can't get rid of you know that you know. They go through their day and i guess to some other people they might look like legitimate list crazy but they just have these constant like thoughts and some people have to talk it out. You know there's so many parts to ptsd. yeah. I think that's one of the challenges with even realizing that you might have it right because there's so many parts to it. Depression anxiety intrusive thoughts avoiding situations. Not sleeping sleeping too much having horrific nightmares having too much emotion having no emotion at all. There's so many things and so what i was told. People especially veterans is if if something feels off. Don't try to figure out if you have. Ptsd anxiety or depression go to mental health right and talk to the professional about it and let them figure out whether you use the va or you go out to out to in the civilian sector. You go get it checked out. Because there's there's nothing that's not going to hurt you to go get it checked out right and that was a question that i was going to ask you. Is you know like when did you realize you had ptsd. I think it was what year wise was twenty seventeen. I got out and twenty. Fourteen of twenty seventeen anger progressively got worse. The hyper vigilance. And what. I say hyper vigilance. I i don't mean just like you know on edge all the time and i guess that was part of it but for me it was this feeling like i'm about to go into a fight like just ready like i mean you know kind of like almost kind of like a sprinter would be at the starting line. Okay here we go all right. I'm ready. i'm ready and it was like that all the time. That sounds exhausting. It is it really really is it took i say i want to say it took a long time to get past that but truth is i'm up past that no the pd. Has these not a broken limb. You know you can't cast on it and wait six weeks and go back and get the cast off and you're good to go. No i mean people can't get past it it's it. There are stories of people who you know they had. Ptsd and to you know after a few months few years depending on situation you can't get past. It depends on the person. I think it's post traumatic growth right where you know after your trauma you become a stronger person. A bigger percent better person. I don't know if i would. I would say that people ever get over their trauma. They just they build one right in that instead of letting the letting it crush them they use it to to fuel becoming a better person in the end and the thing is it's not always a choice. I don't think this is my opinion right. I don't think it's always a choice whether you get to say like oh. I'm past the worst part of my ptsd. And i'm only headed for post traumatic growth now. I don't even think i've heard that term post traumatic growth. So i don't know. If i would be i don't know if my opinion i mean i hope that's a real thing Veteran futterman talk to me. One time so you're doing it basically you're doing to post traumatic growth thing like you like you know you start a company like you've got a great career you've got a great family you know you've got a beautiful home cars dog you've got all this stuff going for you you're doing life right you're in your a great church like you're doing all these things right and hosting this podcast you're getting so much stuff done okay and i'm like okay cool why don't it feel better yeah really i'm like okay. We'll see if this post traumatic growth. I number one. i'm happy i'm growing. I'm happy growing getting better. getting smarter. Faster stronger whatever it is. I'm happy about that part but like it is this like is post traumatic growth a destination or is it just this constantly journey. Yeah i think it's a journey in. It reminds me of what we heard in church on sunday about walking wounded. And that's what that means is like. Es your wounded mentally sometimes physically but you know ptsd is a mental disorder and your your wounded mentally but you continue to walk. Wounded is when you stop that. There's no growth And so the post traumatic growth is continuing to walk. Even though you're wounded i love. Obviously you we're in the same service. Same church service right and we were both talking about how great it was so we can ask each other. This question okay. What's it like living with me especially within. What's it like living with me. Especially when i'm experiencing some sort of triggering episode so you mentioned 2017 when you first realized that you had p. Tst then it was. You're angry and you know we tried to give you a little bit of space and like you know. Let you breathe calm down. But i think i think you have grown because now you take that space for yourself. You're like i'm going to go run or i'm going to take the dog and we're going to go hike for a few hours. I think that you know living with you. I've able to watch you grow. And and learn how coping mechanisms coping skills. And i think with. Ptsd you have to learn. Those people might not always understand them like. I'm not hiking ninety degree weather with a dog. It's not happening but three you that works that would trigger trigger something not. Ptsd that would trigger anger. It has nothing to do with. Ptsd you you. You've joined small groups that you guys run and you know for exercise in general for you just really helps you a lot of that. Is you know twenty seventeen. We had just moved to alabama and things weren't going the way we wanted them to and life was just really stressful right. And you hadn't even been diagnosed yet. sure sure. So you've you've grown okay. So i don't even ask this question. What do you like living with me. It's amazing it's amazing. I love it. Let next question experiencing some sort of triggering episode. Well i've told you this before but as a man as a husband i feel. It's my duty my job to keep you happy. You know and so a lot of times i think. Ptsd manifests itself in your life as overwhelming depression and crippling anxiety right. And there's not a single thing i can do about it so for me. It's not that living with you is better or worse. Y you know with a triggering episode. It's that my hands are tied right. And so i think it's super frustrating. Because i'm like. I see a problem my wife is in. It's not just unhappy. You know it's like she. Has this a legitimate mental diagnosis. A mental condition that. I can't do anything to fix Frankly doctors can't do anything to fix every single part of that right and that conversation we've had many times because you're like i just want to fix it and i'm like doctors i have and they can't fix it. Release yourself up that burden. You can't fix it and that is so tough as a man who says you know what i'm here to lead my family my wife and my kids and you know kind of you know take charge and we're going to go tackle life together and that is so appreciated but sometimes you just got. It's true it's true like it's nothing you can do. Well that's not true. Okay that's not true space. Give me space. You know like like you did tonight. I had that treatment today and it made me sick today. I was actually really upset stomach today. And i'm just chilling in the bedroom lennon bed phone and you just made dinner that i did that helped i did. I logged off my computer at work and went and made dinner. It was amazing. I don't know if the dinner was amazing. But it's good good good so coming up after the break tricia and i are going to ask each other one more question. We're going to ask this question. Is there anything good about living with someone who has. Ptsd and we're gonna share several takeaways with you. 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You can also schedule your free consultation with marco once again that's live like others can't dot com get on the path to your dream life today all right and we are back and as promised. We're going to talk about ptsd or would keep talking about ptsd right but the question that we have for each other. Do you wanna ask it. I want me to go go ahead. Is there anything good about living with someone who has ptsd. I wrote this question. I still think it's a tough question you know i would not wish. Ptsd on anyone true. I'll start with that so with that in mind. What the good that has come out of it. It helps me to understand other people abso win. I hear about a veteran struggling with. Ptsd or a a veteran's family member or or family member or friend who is struggling with ptsd. I'm like i get it. I know how you feel. I completely understand and so for me. It's if there's anything good. It's that i can better relate to people who are going through the same frustration and anguish and honestly emotional pain when they see their loved one going through this right and i know not everyone copes. Well that's true and so this question might be difficult for some other. Some people listening you know like they're their loved when ptsd is raging alcoholic. Who's angry all the time. In what would you tell that person. That's an even to that. That in itself is even tougher. I think what. I would be telling that person is i. Can't i cannot tell you what you should be experiencing if you're living with someone with ptsd and you're like you know my spouses a raging alcoholic as a result of pd. St how do i find good in that. I can't tell you what good you should find. I i'm in no place to tell you that the only thing i can do is point you to the one that is jesus christ the principe who can give you peace in the situation and and the bible even says you know piece that passes all understanding basically piece. That doesn't make sense. So i can't tell you. This is what you should be feeling. This is what you should be experiencing. But i can recommend you to eat a formula so to speak of how to live better in that situation right and and i would add onto that to a more. You know just. I don't know. Do we say worldly. Come that. Try to under try to understand. Don't don't try to fix but like research. See how you can help your one with ptsd. Because i think not. Understanding is a part of the problem right for years i had. Ptsd and you did not. You didn't understand it in in mind would manifest in depression anxiety in the soldier new said just go exercise pushups drink water burpee strength water and i'm like you so don't get it and it was true i didn't you act totally asked you to research it to better understand it and you you did better understand it but now that you have experienced for yourself it's completely different really it. It really really is just just so different when you experience it for yourself. So i'll ask you the same question. Is there anything good about living with someone who has ptsd. I think it teaches you. How similar to what you said compassion. I mean i've always had a big heart. And i think it's because it's been broken a lot and you don't hurt anybody else because you know what that feels like you know you have more compassion. Because you know what it's like to fill abandoned or left out or or or thrown away so you're not gonna do that to anybody because if you're not a monster you're not gonna do that because you know what that feels like me and so i have probably too much compassion. My heart's honestly probably isn't too big for people. There are worse things that people not for pets. But that's a whole different. That's a big for people. Pets you can have one. That's my ocd. Am sorry that's okay. But yeah i would say me. It's compassionate and i've seen more compassionate you as well 'cause i was saying earlier when you didn't understand it you just dislike. Oh burpee and water. But now you're like. Do you want to go take a nap. You need to lay down like there's way more compassion than there was before so if if anything good can come out of such a horrific diagnosis like ptsd. I mean if you can just you know. Be patient and be kind. You can learn compassion. Sure yeah that's a really good point. So that's it for the questions right now. We honestly united had these types of conversations for year really really long time and and this is just another one of those conversations of how to how to live with someone with ptsd. What it's really like. i. I'm going to go out on a limb here. What's the worst part about living with someone with. Ptsd not knowing how they're gonna react something and so you know there's times when not recently but you know there were times i'm like oh i don't know if i want to tell him this 'cause i don't know how he's gonna react. I don't know where he's at today. You know mentally like you know. He's already got a lot on his plate. I'm kinda it's almost like an egg shells kind of thing like the. You wanna be really careful. You know so so those can be a little. And i'm sure i'm the same way i'm sure you and the kids stay away. Well i think for me and maybe for the kiddos too. I don't know but for me. It's the the worst part you know other other than the obvious of you. Know seeing my spouse going through this right but you know how it how it affects. Your frustrates me is the inability to plan. I love planning. I'm like okay. What are we going to do tomorrow. Six weeks from now five years from now and like i don't know win and might depression depression. Yeah and you're going to be like. Oh sorry man like as much as you would love to go do that. Depression is just crushed. You for that day or week or i mean there are many many times to. I'm going to say through the years that i've pushed myself. You know because. I i wanna do fun things at the family like you know. I think a lot of people feel that way. Like yeah wanna goaded disneyworld and make memories you know and you feel like that that depression creep over you and you just got to push through it as hard as it is. You just gotta you can't quit. You got to keep moving gonna walk wounded speaking of which so i know we. We referenced. The walk wounded message right. So so for those of you. Who don't know this was a message from church. The highlands with A great jura tear in this region of the country. One of the biggest in the nation as i recall got twenty plus camp twenty two twenty. Three i don't even know now. We got a bunch of campuses anyway. The the one of the pastors nikon carter. He spoke any told the story about a guy that will testament by the name of jacob who ends up wrestling with this angel and this angel as he's wrestling with jacob he he knocks jacobs jacobs hip out of socket right but jacob keeps wrestling. He's like hey. I am not going to let you go until you bless me. And so he. He eventually wins the wrestling match. The angel blesses him. And then jacob has to go meet his brother. There's whole back did this to me his brother and as he's going to meet his brother he's limping like crazy. And so even though the angels blessed and basically god putting his hand on him and saying hey like i you know i i love you. I approve of what you're doing. You know i'm blessing right now. Even though god did that he didn't heal him completely soup but jacob still had to keep moving and he had to walk wounded. Right into put in real world speak is like yeah. You can have blessings you can have all these great things in life you can have money. Houses cars land lakes pools vacation homes. But that doesn't mean you're not going to have wounds right from other people from yourself from life itself. Ptsd is usually a a life itself kind of thing so what you gotta keep walking for. Sure for sure so what's another takeaway back to. What we're saying is be patient and educate yourself. If you want to help your spouse or even yourself like okay like read just read read. How other people are doing it and that have been successful and and see how it actually manifests in your own life. Because just saying it's ptsd. I bet there some other things surrounding it that maybe you don't even know. And so educate yourself and be patient with yourself and your spouse if it's your spouse right right and somebody said this is another great takeaway. Here is give your spouse space if your spouse was the one who has the. Ptsd right give them the space they need. I will say that with the caveat if you believe. They are in danger of hurting themselves. Get the appropriate help. Absolutely this is not the your spouse said. Hey i'm gonna take my own life and then you say okay one. That's giving them space. No no no. That's not a time when you need to give them space. That's a time when there needs to be an intervention right. You know so when we're talking to give give your spouse space. it's you patricia. Saying yeah take your dog for hike. Its ninety degrees. go ahead. i'm not with you. I'll be in the pool right. Yeah right yeah gopher run go go do something to to just relax to take that. Take the edge off so to speak. Then so give your spouse space. I think is a really really great takeaway there so anything else any other takeaways. We should share with our audience today. I don't know. I think we've covered it. I mean just to walk wounded. Hold their hand while they're walking did. Oh may that's the that'll pre treat there. that's good. That is so good well patricia again. So much for coming on the show really really appreciate. I know you didn't feel great today but you muscled through it and i'm so so glad you did. I know our listeners grew be happy as well and obviously on this show. We ask a lot of questions that we do our best to answer a lot of questions and we all have a lot of questions but the most important question we can ask ourselves is this. Have i accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith. In jesus christ will thank you so much for listening. Be sure to follow social media. Facebook occurred to fight again. Same thing on instagram and twitter ad courage again. You can pick up. A copy of my book resolve at courage to defied again dot com or also on amazon. It has been such a pleasure sharing our hearts in this conversation with you today until next time. Thanks for listening.
A highlight from S6 E10 - Real Conversations on Mental Health (w/ Special Guest: Patricia Perkins)
"May is mental health awareness month. And i felt it only right to release an episode focusing on the topic of mental health. Now if you've listened to the podcast for any length of time you've no doubt heard me talk about my own struggles with ptsd depression and mon experiences. Not all that uncommon in the veteran community. What you don't often hear though is from the veteran's spouse and on today's episode. I get to sit down with my wife patricia. As she shares the story of her own emotional journey with mental health diagnoses medications. Hospital stays and a whole lot more. This is the we serve now. What podcast where. I do my best to answer the questions. Veterans and their families are already asking so you can make your post military life your best life by way of introduction my name is aaron perkins i am a us army combat veteran daddy to amazing kiddos. Host of this podcast. If you hadn't guessed. And i am joined today by my beautiful bride patricia. Welcome to the show thank you. I'm so glad to be here excited to talk about a subject that i'm passionate about. Yeah absolutely absolutely well. Great to have you here. I'm i'm incredibly happy that you agreed to be on the show. Usually it is me saying. Hey i'm going to be recording tonight. So if you you and the kids can kind of keep it down a little bit and but really really grateful that you here today. So today was one of many days where you're going through this. I don't know call procedure or treatment treatment. Okay so so. Obviously i went with you. Today is able to accompany you to that treatment and it specifically four depression right and so start with today. Let's start with today in a kind of what happened today. And what the treatment is. And let's start there. Sure okay so. The treatment is called. Tm s it means trans cranial magnetic stimulation menendez Treatment that oddly. Enough stimulates your brain. It's post what is supposed to do is to help the neurotransmitters talk to each other better and it is usually reserved for someone who's tried a few different types of medication for depression but it also helps with like anxiety. Ocd and sometimes even physical pain. Okay so so so. This is not a it. Sounds like it's a noninvasive. It's not a surgery type of thing so basically the way they explain it. It's like electromagnetic therapy. Where like in the old days where they would maybe cut. Open your head and maybe electric your brain things like that but this obviously they're not doing that. You can sit down in this chair. It's kind of like the big dentist chair. They strap you all in and they put this big magnet next to your head in a certain spot at a certain level. It's already been determined by your doctor and it made me last twenty minutes. And then you're you're on your way okay. So is that it's not obviously. I know this right before listeners. This is not like a one time thing. This is one of how many treatments you have to get. Okay so today was off my fourth treatment and i think if i did the math right i have at least thirty three more to go. So it's over a nine week period and because of where we live. I have to drive basically an hour and a half to get there. And then i'm there for fifteen to twenty minutes in the drive an hour and a half and and yeah i i definitely know that. That part in itself is frustrating. The drive so let's go back a little bit now so you're having this it might not be invasive but stewart pretty extreme treatment of kind of remapping your brain right yes. It's it's had some side effects already some some anger some tiredness Brain fog lightheadedness. The way the only way. I can explain it. It's like there's a big garden with a huge gate and there's all these locks and each treatment seems to slowly work open a new lock and then hopefully by the end all the locks will be open and king come open and i can be free of depression anxiety. I don't know if that's going to happen. I have faith that it can happen so hopefully it does happen. You me both you both so so take us back a little bit. How did you get to this point. You know obviously you. Have you know some sort of depression or anxiety or whatever take us back to diagnoses and that sort of thing so i i got diagnosed probably sixteen years ago like actual clinical diagnosis of major depressive disorder and house have severe anxiety. I have d. c. Ptsd so what is so ptsd. I know what is cd. Basically childhood post traumatic stress disorder. And then i have. Ocd okay so so ptsd. Veteran community intimately familiar with cps d c p s de. It is then the so. How did that come about. I mean this this is like you know really getting into the nitty gritty of it a little bit but i had parent you know. I had parents that. They weren't believers not that that makes you any less of a good parent but they were involved with things that they shouldn't have been involved with and they didn't have a good relationship with one another so that meant a very rocky relationship with their children and so without getting into too much and making people uncomfortable. This is a really bad childhood really bad and even in my teenage years there was some other stuff that was really bad. So just you know things that people don't really think about as being post traumatic stress disorder. I've heard other people say. How can you even have that. You weren't a soldier. Well that's not reserved for soldiers or servicemen period. Post traumatic stress can happen after a car accident after your home gets broken into after a traumatic. Any traumatic experience you can. Pdf st right right so so with depression. You were diagnosed. She said sixteen years ago crack and so did the anxiety diagnosis. Come along with that or out of that will work. It was shortly after. I think they at i thought maybe it was just really bad depression and they realized that it was both mint so they started treatment to different treatments who different medications and over the years between the two just the depression and anxiety. I know i've had over sixteen or seventeen medications and sixteen or seventeen. I didn't know there were that many others time for i mean i know. There's a lot of medications out there right. But most i know i i'm gonna go out on a limb here and say most people when they're struggling with anxiety depression or even if they do have a legitimate diagnosis of anxiety. Depression or both. It's okay let me go get this. Let me go try it. You know and then if that doesn't work maybe they go try something else but sixteen or seventeen that that just sounds like an extreme number is sensitive to medications and so what may work for a lot of people. Just doesn't seem to work for me. Or i ended up being allergic to it but i will say that i did. This test called a g. e. n. e. s. t. and it's a dna test and that's something that you're psychiatrists can do for you. There is a cost involved but it will tell you which medications and you know. They're all different classes. Work for your dna type so you have a red section and you should stay away from those. You have a yellow section. That may help. And then you have. A green section is more likely to help with your dna type so that can help a lot of people. Stay away from having to try sixteen or seventeen different medications. Sure sure that that's a really good point. And obviously you. You didn't take that 'til later. Right actually took it last year. Yeah so the break i. I wish i could have taken ten years ago. But i don't think even knew about it and that's another thing i would say. Is you know educate yourself. Don't wait on your doctors to find all the resolutions for you. Like feel free to look and research and bring it up to your doctor. you know. it's a good point. So medication is just one side of the depression anxiety. Ptsd just one side of it before the medication happens. There's something that either. Your doctors realize your families realize or you personally realize something different in me. Something is not working as it's supposed to or it's manifesting in in a certain way and i know that when it comes to ptsd specifically it manifests itself in a lot of different ways. They can manifest itself in anger in inability to focus and chronic pain. In a guilt it can manifest itself in different ways. So let's focus on the. Let's say let's. Let's go with depression right the major depressive disorder. How did that or does that manifest itself in your life. The first time. I realized that i might have an issue with. Depression was actually. I had a really bad episode. After i had caitlin so caitlyn's daughter. Sorry caitlyn's her daughter. Yeah she's fourteen now. After i had her. I was sitting just watching tv. And she was sitting there beside me and her little old bouncy seat. And i actually started having these really dark feelings kind of like oppression and actually that coincided with an anxiety attack as well and actually got rushed to the hospital because they thought i was having a pulmonary. Embolism so they thought that. I had blood clots. I was about to die. You know there was but it was a mixture of depressive episode and anxiety attack which i had never felt before and that really scared me and the doctors were able to put me on medication to help with that. It did not stop it but it did help. Sure sure so what what happens next. You know you're you're on this medication. It's helping look what happens. Is there a point at which you realize. That medication isn't working or isn't working as well as it should. Yeah most doctors will tell you you know. Give it two or three weeks to really get in your system if you don't see any changes or if you see getting worse than you're to want to let us know so that we can adjust or change that medication and over the years. That has happened so often. That i i got to this place and i'll say that it's okay to do this if you need to. Own your closet by yourself and cry for a little while. 'cause you're just overwhelmed and nothing seems to be working and you want so badly to be quote unquote normal. Go have cry. Go eat ice cream or chocolate or something. I don't even care. It's okay to do those things. But i got to this place where i was like. None of this is working. I need something completely different. And i think that's when. I did the insight site testing because most of the medications that i had been put on. Were in my red list more in the list that was for your dna. These are not going to work for you. Oh wow so going through this process and the truth is i didn't even realize this at the time we've been married for fifteen plus years and i knew that kept having different medications tried and you like oh. This is not working but we had no idea why. It's not working until this test. You didn't says hey this might actually work for you Yeah that's that stuff okay. So what about the anxiety piece you know. It started with an executive attack How does that manifest itself or did it manifest itself in your life. So i have an odd anxiety like i have panic. Attacks panic attacks but generally speaking. I'm just anxious and it's like my anxiety and my ocd. Like to just hold hands and frolic through my brain and so what. I'm feeling extremely anxious. I have to clean everything so it's kind of like since i can't control my emotions i can't control what's going on in the world. My brain has to find something that can control and the cleanliness in my house. I can control thankfully because you and the kids are pretty neat people. But i have to do have to be able to do something. Control something to calm down. If i don't do that ended up in the closet crying eating chocolate well like you said. That's okay if you have to do. It's not not not every day but so talked about the depression. Talk about the anxiety. Ptsd how does that manifest itself in your life on a day-to-day basis weekly basis. How how often what does it feel like said the. Ptsd is like a whole different monster. That lives somewhere inside of my person. And the worst episodes i have with. Ptsd is when my children especially caitlyn our daughter when she reaches those age those ages where you've espn we. We had talked about this a little bit today. As we're preparing for the podcast but it was as a recall kind of like the same ages or proxy ages where something traumatic happened in your own childhood right so so then. My brain is like imagine that happening to kaitlin. Imagine that having to our son. Christopher and then it's like this overwhelming like it's not a mama bear feeling is a mama dragon. And it's like i will. I will died to protect but at the same time. It's then there's this the the little girl in me is like. How could my mom have let that happen. How could my dad have let that happen. Where was the the parental. where were they. Why did these things even happened. That i have this trauma but we're all human doing the best. We can now. That i'm older i can. I can look at my pass without being completely angry with my parents because they were just doing their best as well. Sure sure so. 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That will significantly reduce your stress anxiety. And if you think one on one attention could be the way for you. You can also schedule your free consultation with marco once again that's live like others can't dot com get on the path to your dream life today. Alright so here we are back. Second half of the show here with my wife patricia talking about mental health. And it's okay. She's looking at me right now. She's like oh just made a noise like it's okay. Well we'll cleared up. It's fine and so so anyway so here talking to my wife patricia about mental health and about her own challenges and struggles with it. And so obviously there's no one in your corner so to speak. I mean there's the stigma associated with it but there's also no one kind of coaching. You through this of like okay. Well if this isn't working here's what you do right not currently. I've had counselors in the past. You know and they've we've tried to work through things. I have been the hospital couple of times. And i think there's a lot of people who mean well but it doesn't mean it's going to work for you and so i feel it's important that people understand that if you do have a mental illness. It's okay to research an advocate for yourself. You don't have to wait on a doctor or counselor or someone who you feel like is more intelligent or just because they have letters after their name that they know you better than you do feel free. No not feel free. Please speak for yourself. that's huge. That is so huge. And i think that advocating for yourself is such a critical element of getting the help you need. Because when i think of veterans who are struggling right. You know whether whether it's a physical health or mental health concern. They know themselves like better than anyone else knows them and so when they go to the doctor when i as a veteran go to the doctor i have an obligation to myself right to be as honest and as really a as direct as i can like look. This is the problem. This is how. I'm feeling. I'm here for you to help me fix it right. But then there's the stigma especially in the military community. Where if something isn't working right in your brain you're not working right. Oh absolutely that is the stigma is is really and i think the worst thing about mental health diagnoses today at least in america. If not all over the world it absolutely needs to be normalized that your your brain is an oregon and just like your heart and all your heart muscle but you could knees your liver. If any of those things were failing if they weren't working like they were supposed to have so many people around you. Hey what can i do for you. What can i do for your family. Could i get my blood tested to see if i could be donor. How in the world could make your life better but you hear someone is in a three month depressive episode and they can't even get out of bed. I don't see people lining up with casseroles. I don't know. I don't see that happening. You know if you have to leave an event because you had an anxiety attack there's whispers. There's not help this is strong. It is so strong. And there's a you know within the military there is a fear and i will say rightly so that if you say hey i have this particular mental condition it can potentially impact your career and in the civilian world because well as a mom i if another mom i don't know maybe somebody's going to hear this and maybe they don't want their kids hanging out but as a mom you think. Oh can this person actually take care of my kid. While i'm away or is everything issue going to be too overwhelmed. Is she going to have some kind of attack. That i don okay. If you know somebody like that. Just educate yourself right and know that that person wouldn't take on that responsibility if they didn't feel they could handle it. Yeah absolutely and you know. That's a critical point to is. There is so much misinformation out there about mental health. And you know here's the thing. Hollywood doesn't help and i'm not going to rant. I'm not. I'm not trying to say like oh. Don't make movies about people with mental conditions. You know but there is this you know. The joker movie that just came out with a joaquin phoenix. That's joker yeah. Okay so you know. He obviously has a mental health problem. It looks like severe depression and he turns out to be this mass murderer. Right and so people associate edison. He's bipolar but go ahead. Fair enough fair enough so people associate those mental health conditions with something so extreme that they saw on a screen or read an article. now there are extreme cases. it's true. I mean you can't just say that that. No one is that bad off but there are people that bad off that they're not usually the people who look like they're doing okay. There those the people who are really struggling there are more signs right than than you just meeting them. Like if i just walked up to you and said hi. My name's patricia. Perkin tie you doing. You would never think i had five mental disorders right. You know someone. who's that far gone. You know they're going to be showing signs. Oh yeah absolutely for sure for sure and you know the thing is when it comes to mental health when it comes to you know having a a severe enough level of mental health challenges concerns whatever. You wanna call them. If you don't have an official diagnosis right there are so many. I guess levels is probably the best way to put it of of severity. Because you know like saying. Hey i'm feeling depressed for a couple of weeks is a far cry from major depressive disorder right okay. Yeah may i believe probably should have been a little more research but it would be depressed for at least six months before. It is a clinical diagnosis. And so there's going to be events someone dies. A friend moves away. You have to switch jobs then you could go through a you know a few days or a week of feeling depressed. That's normal. yeah exactly. That's the normal depression. That's not the go quick. It'll medication so you can feel better. That's right it's just a normal life happens and you get down and i've even had people say to me. Well you know you have a lot of stuff. You're very blessed. You have a nice home. You have a great husband. Smart kids you you you have you have you have you have. That has nothing to do. With what my brain is doing. I have the intelligence to know that. I a blessed person a blessed individual but that does not mean that my brain is going to let me enjoy all the time. Yeah that's so true. That is so true. And so i just saw an article earlier today from cnbc said fifty one percent of young americans are struggling with mental health. Fifty one percent. I can believe and i think a lot of that if i can just put in. My personal opinion is social media. I'm sure you constantly see people who are throwing up. There highlight reels on instagram. And some of them still on facebook and then those who are throwing out things on twitter but there you're not getting their whole life you don't read what's actually going on. I mean if people looked at my facebook they would see highlights. Because i want to show the good. I don't want to show the days. I don't wanna get out bed. Showed the days where. I'm like begrudgingly. Driving my kids to school because i have to. I'm an adult to do these things. You don't see those things and especially the generation under us. They're so obsessed with social media that they think that's real life. I mean i have a good life. But it's not insta worthy like everything. I do isn't gonna be popping up on instagram. Because it's not real life right. That's just advertising then like you said it's just highlights right. Yeah and so. I want to go back to the stigma piece for just a minute. Because that's a piece that i'm really passionate about and you know in the military you know being healthy being fit to fight. That's part of the job if you're broken your broken leg unit can't use you to go to war right. You have to get that leg fixed. I if you're broken mentally your unit may not be able to use you to go to war because like there's something wrong with you and like the. The thing is with the stigma. It's okay in you know outside of the military that things that your body or your brain is not working like it's supposed to and i've heard so many veterans so min- countless veterans really be rating their brothers and sisters in arms when they talk about having. Ptsd like your combat. Experience was different than mine. Therefore you don't have ptsd or you can't be depressed or you can't be anxious like you're just whining because you want to get paid from the va. You want the va to take care of you. That's ridiculous it. It really is our veterans out there who just looking for that that extra little bit of money out a month sure. There are but by and large the majority of veterans who who are having the courage to stand up and say. Hey i got something wrong in my brain. It's not working like supposed to. They should be applauded and say you know what that is. Surreal courage that you having right now to go and say i need help. Yes it takes a ton of courage and just in time out of being a military spouse and then my time out of it and interacting with veterans and even people who are still currently serving. They they have these but they don't even know how to say it out loud. They will become an alcoholic. But there's nothing wrong with me. I had no problem with war. Or when they get out of the military you know they get hooked on drugs. Oh in the military didn't affect me very much. I'll have i don't have any. Ptsd that that crazy stuff you know or all of a sudden. They're wife isn't good enough. Their kids aren't good enough and they want to be away from them at all times. They don't want that interaction but they say they're fine because they're afraid to say i might be broken inside and might need some help. So instead of having the courage to say that they are literally ruining their lives in other ways right what alcohol would drugs with breaking up their homes with neglecting their responsibilities. That's may there's so much i want to. I want to fix it right. I want to fix the stigma. Problem wanted but there is no easy way to do it. But i think what we're doing right here is having the conversation for the world to hear that. Look it's not just veterans. It's not just veteran spouses. It's according to that article. Fifty one percent of young americans who are struggling with some sort of mental health condition right regardless of what title you go by better in active duty man woman boy girl. Mental health is no respecter of persons. I'm sorry mental illness right. No you're right and mental health needs. You know it doesn't matter who you are. What are what color you are just like any like. I said any other body part in any other thing. That may need attention. Don't be afraid to give it that attention. Don't be afraid to speak up and speak out. Don't let the stigma hold down. Yeah for sure so from our conversation today. I know we're running up on time. So we're gonna wind this down and you know. Obviously you and. I have talked about this a lot and me in the future. I'm sure we will get you back on the show and talk and talk about about this and how fixing your life especially how the team s treatment is grain because he you know. I'm not afraid to talk about right. My inner demons especially can help somebody else. I feel like i feel like god puts us through situation so that we can help other people and if we can't take the bad and turn it around and help someone than what's it for and i have to have faith that it's it's to help others. Sure sure so. We have alluded to these three big takeaways right like the big takeaways from this episode. We've alluded to them throughout the episode. We've talked about them. We've even said them but remind us remind listeners. What those big three takeaways are from listening to this. I would say the first one is to advocate for yourself like i said. Don't be to research. Don't be afraid to figure out what might work for you. Ask for the jewish site testing. Ask for even if you've been on medication for a long time talking about the s you know there are other ways to go about it than just constantly saying in that cycle of pill after pill after pill with no results there. There is light at the end of the tunnel. So don't be afraid to say. Hey i think this might help me. What do you think. Don't wait on them. The second one i would say is. Don't let the stigma prevent you from seeking help Let's there is nothing wrong with you. If you have mental illness nothing like innately wrong review. You are just a person who is struggling and number three. I would say no that you are not alone like you were saying that article fifty one percent of young americans. This isn't even us. The older americans during these are young americans who were struggling. You're not alone. find group. fine fine started group. It right to you know. Don't don't stay alone either. When you isolate yourself things. Things often get worse so definitely seek out others who may have similar problems going on that you can talk through to to have some sort of accountability with and accountability is huge. It is huge and those are the three big ones. But i wanted to add one more. And it's something that i've done personally and it has to do with what i was talking about with social media and it's so funny because our pastors just said at this sunday delete block. You do not have to look at sally. Suzy sampson's and wish it was yours. Delete her blocking her. If if watching her highlight reel is taking your joy. Delete her if mr man who has it all together all the money all the muscles and the most beautiful wife you've ever seen if that stealing your joy delete him bought him because you need to focus on you and yours is so good. That is so so good so patricia. It is been an amazing conversation with you. I wanna thank you personally. Thank you for your courage to come on the show and talk about not just health in general but your own mental health your own struggles with the diagnoses. You know you've had hospital stays as a result had so many things going your life and so thank you so much for talking about this important topic with us you know. We all have a lot of questions but the most important question you can ask yourself is. This have accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith in jesus christ and before we go one thing. Patricia wanted me to point out was earlier. she referenced. cpt. St and she called it childhood. Ptsd it is actually complex. Ptsd would she informed me of later in complex. Ptsd is brought about from long term trauma that might be physical emotional sexual abuse own going childhood neglect things like that. It could even be a prisoner of war type of situation that brings about complex. Ptsd so just clarification. There that that was what she was referencing in the second. Half of the episode. You may have heard probably did hear a lot of clicking in the background while that clicking was my burien husky running around on a hardwood floor and unfortunately we can't edit that out he just kind of made a cameo appearance on the podcast so that dog is the way i deal with my ptsd and depression having a pet. It just helps a lot so anyway. Thank you so much for listening. It has been a joy sharing our hearts with you today. Be sure to check us out on social media. We at facebook at courage to fight again. Instagram also occurred to fight again and twitter at courage again and check us out on our website at courage to fight again dot com a whole lot. More resources there well until next time. Thanks for listening. We served now. What is a production of courage to fight again.
NPR Health Correspondent, Allison Aubrey, on the COVID-19 Vaccine for Kids
"Aubrey. We've been hearing for weeks now that this age group twelve to fifteen year olds are next. What do we know about how the vaccine works for them. Scherer we'll scientist at the fda have been reviewing the clinical trial data that included more than two thousand kids and it appears to be all positive children in this age. Group develop a lot of antibodies. They have very mild side effects and pfizer says older participants in the trial will continue to be monitored for long term protection and safety for an additional two years got it so as far as efficacy and side effects are concerned it's basically affecting them just like it as adults. Yeah pretty much so. I spoke to patricia stench field. She is a nonvoting member of. Cdc's advisory committee on immunization practices. This is the group that makes recommendations she says from what's been released so far. The vaccine appears to be very effective than this age. Group seems to be one hundred percent effective. No child in the study. How on that. Twelve to fifteen year old. Adolescence got kobe. Very few kids. Got a fever. Many had arm pain just like adults and stints field says the benefits seemed too far outweigh any risks. That's kind of incredible one hundred percent effective right. And that's what was shown in the trial setting now in the real world. We might come to find out. Isn't one hundred percent but certainly early suggests it's very very effective but it appears that some parents are hesitant to get this vaccine for their kids. Right yes a recent survey from the kaiser family foundation found only three in ten parents of children in this age groups they would they would get their child vaccinated as soon as the vaccine is available. Many say they'll wait now. I spoke to dr li beers about this. She's the president of the american academy of pediatrics. She says she's not surprised that there's hesitancy out there. And she says pediatricians are going to be working really hard in the coming weeks and months to reassure parents and help answer questions.
Trial Date Set for Missouri Couple Mark and Patricia McCloskey
"Who confronted protesters with weapons as they marched past their home last summer. A judge in ST Louis has set child her mark and Patricia McCloskey for the first week of November. Their attorney had asked that their case go back to the grand jury to essentially start the process all over again, arguing that the grand jury was tainted by a biased prosecutor. Prosecutor. The circuit attorney for ST Louis, Kim Gardner was removed from the Mcclosky case after she highlighted the case and campaign fundraising Emails theater knee for the McCloskey's argued that even though she was removed it all may have biased the grand jury. McCloskey's have been charged with unlawful use of a weapon and evidence tampering after appearing on their lawn holding weapons as protesters marched by Jessica Rosenthal Fox
Wet Notes - 4-23-21
"This is wet notes for april twenty third. Two thousand twenty one here on scuba shack radio. I up just after i recorded. The last episode president biden released his two thousand and twenty two budget. Well if you're a fan of the national oceanic and atmospheric administration or noah. You'll be happy in the budget. Proposal released on april ninth. The president proposed a record budget of six point. Nine billion dollars for knowing now. How does that compare well. This year knows budget is four point. Six billion wow. that's big increase. This budget really supports taking action. On climate change protecting marine mammals the ocean great lakes and coastal communities. If you recall the previous administration has proposed cutting knows budget only to have it restored by congress. Now this is just a first step in the budget proposal. It has a long way to go to get congressional approval. But i think it's a very good first step now. Here's something that's really interesting. I read this in the cayman compass online. It's about a grand cayman. Northside family found a message in a bottle. Yeah on easter. i think it was. The family was out walking on a remote part of the island. A place called the parrot sanctuary. I think this is on the east end. Well that's where patricia dacosta her family recovered an emerald colored bottle with a handwritten message inside the note said thrown into the ocean on six december. Two thousand and seventeen somewhere between the bahamas and florida. If you find this drop us a line and let us know where it ended up. Signed by darren and shannon from evansville illinois and it gave them their email address so patricia them with the news and now darrin shannon are planning to visit grand cayman at some point as for the bottle. The dacosta family's planning to put their own note in the same bottle and send it back out to see what an incredible journey. It's here the second quarter edition of the journal of diving history magazine. It arrived in the mail just after the last show. This latest additions cover story was written by chris. Cole and it is about the divers who worked on the edgewater disaster. It was one of the worst maritime disasters in us history. I'll leave it at that and you can do some of your own research but it was a really interesting article. There's also an interview in the edition. Done by michael newdow with dick rakowski and he's dubbed. The father of nighthawks again. Some really interesting stuff. I highly recommend that you take a look at the historical diving. Society's website if you become a member you'll get the journal mail to you every quarter a pleasant surprise in your mailbox. I received an email from a friend a few weeks ago with the subject line serenity so who can't use a little serenity how about serenity now well it turns out that my friend was asked by our son to watch him cameras for a school project. These live cams were from the monterey bay aquarium so i went to the link and it took me to their landing page for nine different cameras. I'm not going to list them all right now. But you can peek. In on their penguins. Sea otters were moon jellies. There's even a camera for monterey bay itself personally. I like to observe my sealife while diving but these live cams from monterey bay aquarium can fill in and provide that little bit of serenity. Now here's something interesting. That came in from shearwater. You know the makers of the dive computers. They have a contest. It's going to be starting up. In may called the spring shopping spree and the winner will get four thousand nine hundred ninety nine dollars shopping spree at the dive shop of their choice. And here's how it works if you purchase the shearwater in april or if you buy one in may you can register for the contest with their online portal with a proof of purchase. But you don't have to buy a computer to participate. You also be able to register by completing a short fifty word essay on why you like shearwater computers. The lucky winner will be selected at the end of may. And it's another great way to support your local dive shot. Thanks your water for doing this. And finally there was a short article from patty on april twentieth about their meeting with the maldivian government to confirm the protection for sharks. There was some speculation out there that the maldivian government might be lifting the shark fishing ban in their countries waters. Well this can't be good over ten years ago. Patty along with others helped to establish this current protection so the patty staff met with the moldavian ministry of fisheries marine reserves and agriculture's lead zaha wahid. Well here's some good news here at the meeting minister while he said that they were committed to sustainable and responsible management on april twentieth the ministry released a statement that said the maldives does not intend to permit a targeted shark. Fishing in the mouth. These great job. Patty in great job maldives for protecting these critical apex predators. Well that's it for wet notes. For
How the media treats parents of mass shooting victims
"So it's been a horrific week. It's actually been a horrific year for gun. Violence in this country has been assertive. Perception that mass shootings and gun violence in america took a pause during the pandemic. That's absolutely not true. We're good violence. Killed twenty thousand americans last year more than any other year and at least two decades so this is a crisis that goes on and on and on there are a lot of people looking at solutions on the political front and in terms of changes in laws. But there's also a lot to be done in terms of thinking how the media covers gun violence in this country and how it can do better and how it should do better. I'm thrilled to be joined by manuel patricia. Oliver welcome to you both. Thank you for having us and you. It's great to have you here. You both found yourself in the center of the gun debate after your son. Joaquin was among seventeen people. Who died at margaret stoneman. Douglas in parkland florida in february of two thousand eighteen. Let me first ask you both. How did you end up in parkland in parkland win. Did you move there. We moved there with here a me from venezuela with eighteen years ago and we decided to move your of schools so you move for because you wanted a school for joaquin. Yeah for for both yet. Better life according life for them was offering that in so did he go to. He went to public elementary schools and then to Marjory stoneman douglas. Exactly we are. We moved here because they the rating off those schools were really good. They were all a loss. Africaine started here an spree k. Because he was three years old so into every single public school era.
Finding Your Compliment
"It's interesting beyond for four years right because you hear all these great ideas from people is that if they're execute upon change the world a very serious way. I always use the example of spacex rate. How many people before you on. Musk thought of reusable spaceship. Probably a lot. But how many actually get out there and execute upon it and build thing not that many and so you know patricia club. It's really a mindset shift. Right rather than sitting around and pontificating about ideas we really focus on. How do you put those ideas into action. You know even if it's something as small as bringing your product or your service to the farmers market and just selling it to people getting it in people's hands that's what we want to encourage this club so it part of getting started From our commerce conversation earlier. Excuse me you told me that Baylor entrepreneurship club engages in things like different focus groups that are skill specific. Is that right correct. Yes so what does that look like. Yeah what it really looks like. His peer to peer mentor ship. Where you have people building interpersonal relationships with others who have complementary skill sets to them. You one thing. I really believe in as being a specialist. Not a generalist You know it's been my experience that if you're a generalist you're not that competitive right and so as a special shoe is for people who Compliment your abilities and skills. That's what our mentor. Ship program is really about so it. It's more While it is developing different skills it's also networking opportunity correct absolutely. Yeah and i think that's important too because nicot said you're a specialist. I mean you are the the the leader of what you do. So i always think about mario and luigi do you remember. Playing mario mario was always good at a lot of different things but luigi was able to jump the highest. I often went with luigi for some tasks. Because i needed to jump higher than mario is able to know. And i mean it's it's purely fact like i love luigi because of that because he was able to differentiate himself and set himself apart. But if you can't jump that high that's no problem right around your self with people who can And i think they would entrepreneurship club. And wouldn't nick is doing is creating a great networking opportunity for students. Who may be good at one thing to find others who compliment them so for example In a previous episode. Talk with or talked with doria and i am a awful content creator. My social media is the worst But i would love to have somebody like doria on my team and we do. Have somebody like dairy honor team. Gray smith who is a killer content creator and so that's what nick's talking about and that's why it's important to have these types of clubs because he can find people who compliment yourself and It really helps take your business near venture the next
"patricia" Discussed on Art Unknown Podcast
"Find your flow and do your creative expression every day. I care about art because it is a fundamental way of people expressing themselves. Your story at who you are on your journey as an artist is part of. What's going to make your art valuable just so here this week on the podcast with an award winning photographer and videographer. Her name is patricia mcelroy. She.
"patricia" Discussed on The Coaches Corner
"If you want to call it tickets. It's in the realm of getting into the high ticket. It's like you can't go back a you know that can't go back and you will guarantee you will someday mouth. The words owes ten thousand dollars and someone will just seemingly say that's great. Let's do it because the convictions. The confidence you have. And i just found that to be true over and over and over some really proud of the jump and anyone listening if you're charging hourly i highly recommend to package that up not just because you get paid more. I know patricia. You're saying that by doing a package at the end of the day. You're getting paid two and a half more. But that's not the reason you did it and i don't want to be the reason someone starts increasing the prices. You use this word. You felt like you were robbing your clients at one point just charged them our because they weren't getting the result whereas a package you can get the result and they suck up an actually pay for it it's actually The compounding value when when when you actually stop and think about when they learned this they can't. They can't do this until they learned this but once they learn how to do this and they actually started doing it then they can do this. But when they're there it's like exponential so honestly now that i i'm i'm starting to deliver her my vision. I'm seeing ovarian. Just one session the result the transformation and i can see exactly where i'm going to be able to lead her. I realized that. I told myself again. Yeah yeah yeah. And i love that. I love that because it will force you to if you i guarantee you if you have another call with someone and you mouth. Two thousand dollars. You're going to be like. I know you know it's not enough. And so that next one will be four thousand or three thousand whenever you decided to be and you will most likely get a seamless..
"patricia" Discussed on The Coaches Corner
"Welcome back to another episode. We're doing things a little bit differently. We started doing this a few weeks ago. And we've got a whole bunch of episodes lined up and we've kind of done this a little bit before. But now we've really committed to just sticking with this. Because i think this is extremely valuable a massive win win for me for you and for anyone listening. Lotta times the guests or the people we talked to. They've got five ten twenty fifty hundred dollar businesses and it's super cool. What we forget is those first few months the first few years. I like those early days and it can be easily forgotten. It's easy for someone to say. Triple your price now. You should be charging a million bucks is easy to say because they built the confidence to do it so today. I got patricia wallace patricia. How you doing get super super good. So we're bringing in clients amazing coaches amazing humans that we work with and patricia inside the coach university and recently and this is why this really caught my attention is there was a subtle small shift that i think anyone listening could learn from that has to do with price charging what you're worth and understanding that at least a lead but you can correct because you're in charge of this one is i really think prices a reflection of like our vehicle or vessel. How we see ourselves what we think we can bring to the table. So i wanna chat a little bit about that and then right before we do. Your background is like like you've got you've got a pretty wide background different things you've done different. I guess titles that you've worked under different. Modalities you've worked in correct. Yes yes i'm certified in eight different healing modalities and i've been a holistic healer and teacher for over twenty years as well as a psychic medium teaching earth magic and manifestation But it was last year almost almost to the day that i decided i wanted to shift into coaching which is significantly different and a definitely challenged my my confidence and my belief in what i could deliver in a in a whole new realm you. What made this shift from. Cut of the healing the more What's the word that the more that set of things into the coaching into that kind of.
"patricia" Discussed on The Worldshapers
"Book to was called. Master of the world it was set a world shaped by somebody. Who really likes jules verne. So it's all weird spatial about spaceships airships submarines floating islands that kind of thing and then the moonlit world the one that just came out in september is well. i like to call it where wolves vampires had peasants. Oh my because that's the world it is where woes and vampires and peasants so that's the world series from dob books. You should be able to find it again through your favorite bookstore and e book Or trade paperback. The first two books are also available as audiobooks. all right. that's the preliminary stuff for i talk about myself. I should just mention that to the world. Shapers podcast is part of the and podcast network and out. It's get onto this episode guest patricia. C reedy patricia collins reedie was born march twenty seventh nineteen fifty three in chicago illinois. She and her siblings. She's the eldest of five. Grew up in the chicago suburbs. She attended carleton college where she earned an ab in biology and took no english writing courses at all following graduation. She earned a master's in business administration from the university of minnesota and worked for a number of years as a financial analyst and accountant. She married james reedy. In nineteen seventy six. They divorced in nineteen ninety-one. She currently lives in minneapolis. With her cat karma. She began writing fiction in seventh grade and continued off and on through high school and college. In nineteen seventy four. She started work on shadow magic which took her four and a half years to complete and another year and a half to sell by the time. The book was released in nineteen eighty two. She had completed two more novels in nineteen eighty-five. She left her day job to write full time and has been making her living as a writer ever since to date. Patricia has published twenty two novels two collections of short stories and one book on writing. Her work is available in twelve languages including english and has won a number of awards so patricia. Welcome to the world shapers. Thank you very much an honor to be here great to have you. I don't believe crossed paths at conventions or anything but The folks odyssey reached out to me and see justice. You'd be great to talk to. And i certainly agreed with that and we are going talk about the workshop. You have coming up with a with odyssey Later on but i'll start the way. I always start which is by by taking you back into the mists of time to find out how you got started. Probably you started as a reader from what. I've read of your interviews. That's definitely the way you started. And how you then became interested in writing and in fantasy and science fiction type stories in particular. So how did that all and where you grew up and all that stuff. So how did that come about you. Well i grew up with parents who adored reading I shocked some of my college friends. When i told them that. The only room in the house that i grew up in it i grew up in a big house because we had my folks had five kids so i had four siblings and we were parceled out and so it was a pretty big. It was a pretty big house. The only room in the house that did not have books in it was the dining room and the only reason it didn't have books.
"patricia" Discussed on True Consequences
"Data and I asked the person to swear out search warrant on Patricia Z- Cell phone so that we could try and pinpoint her last known. Location and Between Myself Detective Tour Grimsson Detective Heart Shock We did that. And we've heard cellphone. Had last paying on the west side of Albuquerque at the end of April or early May and then had died so her cellphone had died was no longer charging no longer paying and So but at that point there was no there was nothing other than my hunch and Fanny's hunched at something was horribly wrong and I had managed to get these police officers to take her being missing seriously because I had had such good contact with her and I had been able to show them the the frequency of contact and and I think I think I don't remember super specifically but I think that actually detective tour center. Maybe detective heart sock went out to the area where her cell phone had last paying. Didn't it was sort of like a homeless camp And now that I'm thinking back. I think it might have been down by the river and not on the west side but nonetheless there was really nothing else they could do so they they did these flyers. They posted the flyers around. And that was it that was it. And and Fanny would call me and Latisha in tears which was really uncommon and she would tell us these incredible stories about Patricia and You know really wonderful stories to about how Patricia Patricia had this mare. I have this crazy cat. Who'S GONNA START? Meowing GONNA sound like somebody's dying. She's not dying all insieme. Hale Surrey? That's okay but Patricia had a mayor of Horse a female horse in Taj. Delay that she really loved. The mayor had a had a baby and Latisha my victim advocate fostered chewy for a little while because Fanning was just too distraught to to be with the dog and I'd also Been in touch a little bit with Patricia brother was a guy by the name of Murphy. And I don't recall what he he does but he had been in the military roads as well in the band and I would just sort of hear. These stories through anguish about about.
"patricia" Discussed on True Consequences
"Three three. You may remember my friend Edna from part two. And three of Jacob's story Edna had come to know a person named Patricia. Petero as she was working with her to try domestic violence case against a man who had beat Patricia Up. Ed was very connected to this case both personally and professionally while recording. One of Jacob's episodes Edna brought this case up. I asked her if she'd be willing to share it onto consequences. I'm so grateful that she agreed to share this story. It's heartbreaking and it's still unsolved if you have any information related to the death of Patricia Petero please call crime stoppers or go to p three tips dot com so today. I'm joined by Edna and.
"patricia" Discussed on Andrew Hackett's Illimitable Living
"Everyone and welcome to illimitable. Living Show where we try and talk about everything we possibly can to try and give the world a set a different perspective so that we can open minds open our hearts and start living a life on a slightly bitter footing. Today's Co host is a remarkable woman. And certainly one that they know introduction a highly experienced energy Hilla in a her earn ride and the voice behind the public popular podcast series real rocky real live. Today I will come back the voice. You all grew to love in season one Patricia. Morris get I Patricia. It's so exciting to have you back for season two. Oh I am so sad excited to be back. My heart is pounding out of my chest. I'm so excited. Thank you so much for having me back. It's a pleasure ogle gear back. I had people emailing me going Patricia. Gone what's going on. What's going to happen today? Tradition probably didn't tell you that I didn't want you to get into big and getting a lot of control install. I thank you reason. I don't know whether it's a contrast between your voice or mine. I hope it is that or is it just the fact that everybody loves you and really people just suffer through my voice but well. I'm biased on that because I loved the Australian accent so my vote would be for your voice. I don't know about anybody else. The funny thing was I actually before us out of this podcast series and even before I started doing a lot of videos until various other things as well. I actually really struggle with my accent. I was worried that my accent in fact would hold me back. But I've had a lot of feedback over the years that infect my accent is a really you know. Easy thing to listen to that. So I'll it is from an American perspective. It is we love Australian accents of British accents. They're beautiful absolutely beautiful. We America you sound like a bunch of headaches. Yes.
"patricia" Discussed on KNST AM 790
"Are kept the one in risky business Patricia this Patricia Roseanne is Rosanna though I can't remember is Patricia Arquette is was enemy Patricia Arquette was the one in the train scene with Tom Cruise you know every back in like eighty two eighty three whatever was anyway Patricia Arquette was in something and I don't know why nobody knows why he she tweeted this but she did she's on Twitter bits a cesspool she later I'm gonna reader tweed you're gonna say the you gotta be kidding you're making that up no I'm not I'm not so Rosanna Arquette tweeted out I'm sorry I was born white new privileged it disgusts me and I feel so much shame what what are you kidding me right now three hours before that route Roseanne Arquette tweeted out the president of the United States of America insights racist violence the end so it's really a so she's really suffering from the trouble action arrangements and drum thank arm what is that this is Roseanne Arquette you said right yes it's the same person right and she was wearing a maggot I don't know if that is her I don't know who it is your right on now it does matter not that you sent but I'm sitting here she also said by the way a Palin Tuesday she tweeted I'll never stand for the flag again there's a picture of her kneeling before American flags so yeah it's did she block or Twitter account that's hilarious yes hello areas don't matter so here's the point what the hell is wrong with you do you tweet out I'm sorry I was born white men privileged it disgusts me and I feel so much shame obviously she has some kind of mental disorder right first off you know you get around this by identifying as a person of color worked out well for another check right the one that was white clean she was black I forget the six now you know I'm saying I'm on top of that I I read it that she is worth about nine million dollars so I'm thinking I tweeted at her as if it matters I'm sorry I was born is more for me to get out there I'm sorry I was born white privilege discuss me I feel so much shame tell you what give every penny of your fortune give every penny of your fortune two people that are in white and let me know if it makes you feel better let's just let you know if you're like I feel now that I broke and I have no home and I given all my money with an iron I feel so much better why not I mean if you're so white privilege in a discussed you give away your money give away your house would be nice if they actually did that if they actually put their money where their mouth is would that be incredible I don't ever happen though never ever ever because they're hypocrites but there's something wrong with this something wrong with her obviously who does that stuff about me and David Arquette as her brother easy he seems to be a kind of a lunatic not every he did a wrestling thing probably got stabbed in the jugular with god with easy step he is a strange cat the whole family must be strange just like Regina Romero's must be still must be strange Roseanne Arquette was Rosanna Rosanna Arquette no yeah resent our cat apparently Twitter she says she describers up as resisting fascism on a daily basis I'm sorry I was born white privilege discussed medical so much shame you really are like some kind of a sick freak when it comes to that right and you are mother speaking of that you want to on civil things are Lee there's a bit of a feud going on between wives of players on Chicago White Sox have you heard of this they were arguing about mass shootings and shootings in Chicago I have to tell you about that it's coming.
"patricia" Discussed on Car Talk
"We'll be right back. This is fresh air. This message comes from NPR sponsor wicks dot com with wicks you can create your very own professional website. Choose a designer made simply or let wigs artificial design intelligence build your site for you with advanced design features. You can tell your story. Exactly the way you want. It's easy to start a blog and online store or create an events, and you can share it all on social media and click. Get started now by going to wicks dot com. That's W I X dot com slash fresh air to get ten percent off every six hours. A new dollar store opens up in the US. I'm Sarah goi- left and on the latest planet money are there too many dollar stores some cities want to ban them up. Never said, we don't want any offset. We have too many that's on planet money. My guess is Patricia Arquette? So I want to ask you about another subject. That's that's probably pretty personal. So just tell me if this is okay, I'd like to talk with you a little bit about your late sister Alexis who who was trans. And she died in two thousand sixteen of causes related to issues forty-seven when you found out that you was trans and wanted. To to transition. Were you surprised that you did you have a sense of that? Mean looking back. I think after the fact it made a lot more sense. She was very draw Genesis in the eighties. You know, as the whole Boy, George Adam Hamm kind of time, and there was a lot of space for Android Janie, David Bowie and all that. But at the time. I think it freaked me out. You know, freaked me out the world that she was going to be having to deal with all the bigotry and the danger that she might encounter, and you know, we were incredibly close on. We had a really deep conversations about it. And. I've moved so grateful Alexis taught me so much about. Opening my heart and understanding things that I didn't really understand from my own experience. But I knew that. We'd already lost a lot of our family by that point. And. A part of me realize like. I don't know what shape or body. Anyone comes in with? But I love, you know, and I trust you. I don't know what it feels like to be trounced. But I what I trust. Eventually where we came to, you know, but it was a lot of there was a lot of feelings. And I think if people don't, you know? I think the Lexus was tough enough to work it through with all of us. Let us have our feelings on our questions in our fears and our concerns on our, you know, even things that were probably not the greatest Alexis was really down for us have the whole process in conversation. Was it hard for a have to have like the person who you thought of as your brother become your sister? Yeah. Yeah. Because I I mean, even though it's just ideas in your mind who have all these memories of growing up together, you know. And it took a while for me to actually it was resolved. Oh, she's like a butterfly's just transition, you know, and that was real beautiful. Well, I I know that, you know, sadly, our time is up together. Thank you so much for talking with us. It was really a pleasure. And I appreciate your generosity and everything you shared with us. Thank you so much. Thanks Patricia Arquette stars in the series the act. The final episode will start streaming on Hulu Wednesday tomorrow on fresh air. My guest will be Aaron Lee car her new memoir, all that you leave behind is about her relationship with her late father, journalists David Carr who wrote a media column for the New York Times and had a huge and devoted following. He also wrote a memoir about his addiction to cocaine and alcohol when he was younger he was still addicted. When car was born her book is about being raised by her father and how she dealt with her own drinking problem. A hope you'll join us. Fresh Air's executive producer is Danny Miller, our technical director and engineers, or if you them our associate producer of digital media is Molly seavy nesper. They Challenor directed today show. I'm Terry gross.
"patricia" Discussed on From Scratch
"Wednesday. We'll be right back. This is fresh air. This message comes from NPR sponsor wicks dot com with wicks you can create your very own professional website. Choose a designer made simply or let wigs artificial design intelligence build your site for you with advanced design features. You can tell your story. Exactly the way you want. It's easy to start a blog and online store or create an events, and you can share it all on social media and click. Get started now by going to wicks dot com. That's W I X dot com slash fresh air to get ten percent off every six hours. A new dollar store opens up in the US. I'm Sarah list, and on the latest planet money are there too many dollar stores some cities want to ban them up. Never said, you don't want any offset. We have too many that's on planet money. My guess is Patricia Arquette? So I want to ask you about another subject. That's that's probably pretty personal. So just tell me if this is okay, I'd like to talk with you a little bit about your late sister Alexis who who was trans. And she died in two thousand sixteen of causes related to issues forty-seven when you found out that she was trans and wanted. To to transition. Were you surprised that you did you have a sense of that? I mean looking back. I think after the fact it made a lot more sense. She was very draw Genesis in the eighties. You know, as the whole Boy, George Adam Hamm kind of time, and there was a lot of space for Android Janie, David Bowie and all that. But at the time. I think it freaked me out. You know, freaked me out the world that she was going to be having to deal with all the bigotry and the danger that she might encounter, and you know, we were incredibly close. We had a really. Deep conversations about it. And. I've moved so grateful Alexis taught me so much about. Opening my heart and understanding things that I didn't really understand from my own experience. But I knew that. We'd already lost a lot of our family by that point. And. A part of me realize like. I don't know what shape or body. Anyone comes in with? But I love the, you know, and I trust you. I don't know what it feels like to be trounced. But I what I trust. Eventually where we came to, you know, but it was a lot of there was a lot of feelings. And I think if people don't, you know? I think the Lexus was tough enough to work it through with all of us. Let us have our feelings on our questions in our fears and our concerns on our, you know, even things that were probably not the greatest Alexis was really down for us have the whole process in conversation. Was it hard for a have to have like the person who you thought of as your brother become your sister? Yeah. Yeah. Because I I mean, even though it's just ideas in your mind who have all these memories of growing up together, you know. And it took a while for me to actually it was resolved. Oh, she's like a butterflies just a transition. You know, and that was real beautiful. Well, I I know that, you know, sadly, our time is up together. Thank you so much for talking with us. It was really a pleasure. And I appreciate your generosity and everything you shared with us. Thank you so much. Thanks Patricia Arquette stars in the series the act. The final episode will start streaming on Hulu Wednesday tomorrow on fresh air. My guest will be Aaron Lee car her new memoir, all that you leave behind is about her relationship with her late father, journalists David Carr who wrote a media column for the New York Times and had a huge and devoted following. He also wrote a memoir about his addiction to cocaine and alcohol when he was younger he was still addicted. When car was born her book is about being raised by her father and how she dealt with her own drinking problem. A hope you'll join us. Fresh Air's executive producer is Danny Miller, our technical director and engineers, or if you them our associate producer of digital media is Molly seavy nesper. They Challenor directed today show. I'm Terry gross.