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Media titan Sumner Redstone dies at 97
"A titan of media who built an empire from his family. Small Business War Today of the death of Sumner Redstone. Correspondent Aaron Carter Ski reports Sumner Redstone abandoned a successful legal career and turned his father's modest chain of drive in movie theaters into an entertainment empire. At Empire included Viacom and CBS, which he controlled through his company. National Amusements, which announced Redstone's death. At 97. He was born and raised in Boston, served in the Army graduated from Harvard Law School and became a force in the entertainment world living by his motto. Content is King. They also made headlines with failed marriages and feuds with actors and other media executives. In 2006 Redstone famously fired Mission Impossible star Tom Cruise after the actor jumped on Oprah Winfrey's couch during an interview. Forbes recently estimated Redstone's Networth at $4.3 billion.
Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on Daily Pop
"I haven't seen this clip that they did or I haven't seen this movie but Yeah, I think it's GonNa be great and you know with Will Smith backing involved I think it'll be really awesome show it's taking on topics of today that are really important. So yeah, I think it's going to be awesome. Perfect time. We're Bel Air clothing to like it. Just all starting to make sense, Belair Belair show is just mastermind will Smith gotTA love Them I'll coming back. Let's talk about Harry and Meghan we've learned they have purchased a home in Santa Barbara California where they've been since July their new neighbors include celebs like Ellen, degeneres and Oprah Winfrey get this according to the Daily Mail royal insiders say Prince Charles is helping Meghan and Harry. Pay for the property. Are you as surprised Prince Charles do this I don't I'm so turned around by these two I don't even know there's a new story every single day something's happening they're moving they need more privacy. I think it's just not a great look. You know they leave they want privacy they want to be financially independent I feel like. We've ever heard about them from them moving from Britain to Los Angeles word they're going to do it on their own financially independent. They have all of these deals in the works and now to have to move from their Belair Manchester me, their Beverly Hills Mansion Tis Santa Barbara, and then they have to ask dad for help I just don't think it's the best reflection on hairy and just the whole royal family and just sort of like the people they're like what's going on you lead. Thing. Does not look good. So messy I mean I'm here for a little MONTECITO. Hall I'm not mad at him. Still yes. Like two point four, million dollars to taxpayers house back in England. So it's like is big broken to pay for that too. But let's here for family that's going to step them because you know I wish my brother which is paid for something for me. I mean they don't ask for much but. It would be nice. Like taper dinner or NEW BAG or another. Amen. Yeah. I am not surprised after reading some of the reports where was super close to Prince Charles and she treated him like a second dad. You know we don't know how their relationship ended. There are a lot of rumors about the brothers having that rift but. I'm not surprised but who knows if that's the truth we will never know. Yeah. We gotta go to commercial coming up. Justin Hartley. I X comes to his defense after some wild accusations plus which is a bigger commitment baby our marriage. We've got our expert Stuart. There's a lot going on with this is US star Justin Hartley as we've mentioned his split with his ex wife crucial dowse is currently playing out on her network show selling sunset. She claims he told her about the divorce via text while now just I wife. Standing up for him calling him a solid man and devoted father at the same time he seems to be making things on instagram official with actress Sophia furnace over weekend. So if you have posted a pick of a man's arm with the caption, easy like Sunday morning then Justin posted a pic with his dog with a very similar caption. What do you guys think did they? Purposefully. Time these photos. Yes. Answer is yes. Yes, they did. This is what people do. It's like the badly sort of like you know saying theme same idea like none of this shit is a coincidence. Are All things that are calculated their spoke about a great length and they seamless such an effortless. You know photo that's just thrown up. It's like they've probably took fifteen versions of that photo dot his arm perfectly position with the cigar like. This was planned obvious and I don't think that she's playing this out for ratings or anything like that. I mean if you really go through everybody deals with breakups and heartbreak differently and it doesn't matter I mean we could be talking right now on air and then I think about my accident in all of us. I I'm sorry guys I, just I I need a moment I mean it just hits you differently. So it doesn't matter cameras are rolling or not. She's gone through a girl everybody goes through it differently now producers at it the right way the nats for rating. Ray and she is just speaking her truth. This is something that happened and is really big You know she also crucial has also been reportedly liking tweets from fans should adjusting that Justin may have cheated. We had no response from his team on this, but you know there are claims. Throw Shade I'M GONNA like every bad thing you say. I WANNA. Read sweets you I'm GonNa. Yes girl you I'm GonNa do all of that even when I'm blocked don anyone. Roman. Messages on my captain everything I'm going I'm going all. We Love A subliminal message we love that. Okay but would you be more hesitant to date the guy after knowing all that drama has happened Women never women never do that they always like they always take a pause and they're like, okay maybe let me see. But every woman thinks she's different everyone woman thinks he's going to be the reason that changes everybody goes for it. Yeah and honestly you know what? Just because a man cheats on you with? A man that you're dating cheats on, you doesn't mean he's necessarily going to cheat on the next girl like some people date and they're not a fit in people make mistakes like that's also a possibility just because you make a mistake doesn't mean you're forever cheater. Girl that he cheated on me with definitely is the site. Okay. It's it's sometimes it is a character flaw and if you don't check your own character and yourself and you learn from it, yes, you can repeat that. Here's another question for you ladies what is more of a commitment marriage or Abadie? I'll Stephan guys. So here's the deal I honestly think having been married, and now going to be getting married again now having a child. Life it happens to you haunt doesn't go the way planned I. I definitely think having a child is way more of a commitment obviously marriage in itself is a commitment it's a lot of work it's definitely something that you need to work at it. Involves a lot of compromise I. think it definitely involves like a certain level of emotional maturity. You have to be open to being vulnerable and exposed flaws and addressing your own flaws which is new for me but I think having a child that's for the rest of your life relationships fade out but your kid is yours forever you have to take care of it. No I think having a baby is way bigger a commitment than one hundred what and all of the scrutiny happen with the Anti Chinese daughter their household. Let me say. She has a great foundation. She has a great example of what a great mom is. Tiny is an amazing mom and it's not like she's not going to have parents that are there to help her if she needs that help but if that's a perogatives for her to. Do. People have words like I can't stand people putting their two cents in the things that they see in their own neighborhood. Every single day I mean come on. We have a whole show called teen moms and most of those girls aren't married. So what's the deal? Yeah agreed agreed. So yeah, as you said Roxy the WHO is tiny daughter in ti stepdaughter and has been featured on the families hit reality show is now pregnant and she's been getting some criticism because she's twenty four years old and not married, and because her boyfriend of two years has already had two children in recent interviews. Nick. said she doesn't want to get married right now and she thinks marriage is an even bigger commitment than a baby for me. I think the baby is more of a and you can't necessarily leave or break up with your child something. But you know people get married and then they get remarried or they they. Break Up. So yeah, I think child is definitely more of a and if she were to get mad right now, it's like those studies that come out most of the people that get married in their twenties as only lasts into the mid thirties they ended up lasting for a few years and they divorced and then they remarried again. So it's like she's made she's making a very mature decision I'll give her that. Yes for sure. So here's a hard turn Would you pick your pet over your partner I kinda did that you know I've been quarantining with my pet but not consciously. Anyone figure your pet over your partner. I'm going to go with. Oh I'm going to go with. Well. I guess. I. Sort of done that but now I would probably pick my partner. Yeah. There was a study saying that women have been quarantining with their pets over their partners and I fall into that category Yeah. So just Stories story about my life. And? I in our lives. Are Alive. Wilson swimming with sharks but would you rather do that or drink a placenta smoothie where playing the ultimate round of? Would you rather next? placed the greatest things in life on the other side your biggest fears. Started to realize how? Fear can be. Steals your ability to be able to enjoy by..
Media titan Sumner Redstone dies at 97
"47 he was a titan of media who built an empire from his family. Small business where today of the death of Sumner Redstone. Correspondent Aaron Carter. Ski reports Sumner Redstone abandoned a successful legal career and turned his father's modest chain of drive in movie theaters into an entertainment empire. At Empire included Viacom and CBS, which he controlled through his company. National Amusements, which announced Redstone's death. At 97. He was born and raised in Boston, served in the Army graduated from Harvard Law School and became a force in the entertainment world living by his motto. Content is King. And he also made headlines with failed marriages and feuds with actors and other media executives. In 2006 Redstone famously fired Mission Impossible star Tom Cruise after the actor jumped on Oprah Winfrey's couch during an interview. Forbes recently estimated Redstone's net worth at
Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on Colleen and Bradley
"Blind items. You see bits of gossip with the names left out. I've got another dead man Switch. I've got Ah, fake PR person, I think We? Will You tell me what you think. Well, which one? Do you think I'm gonna enjoy my think we're going to enjoy this? Because there's some questions that dead man. All right? That's what I was leaning towards. Speaking of a dead man switch. You're gonna love what this moguls death releases. If I were the height challenged a plus list, mostly movie actor, I would especially be worried about what comes out. Okay, um Well, the height challenged a plus list, mostly movie actor. Has got to be Tom Cruise. And the mogul. I mean, it's got to be somebody connected to Scientology. Well, okay, Here's what I want you to think. OK? Somebody who just died a mogul who just died. Literally today, O or at least we learned who died today. Maybe Holly sent us a picture of him and Twitter. Oh, I have to go over there because I didn't. See that? I don't know if you saw the news that this guy died. Ah, very, very Yes, the guy What is his name? But he was like the super billionaire. And like, I don't know if you're super, but he was ability was a billionaire. Okay? What's his name? I can't remember. Just want to give it up. No one gets old Johnson, Sumner Redstone. Thank you. Thank you. I knew it had letters. Oh, speaking of a dead man switch, you're going to love what Sumner Redstone's death releases. If I were Tom Cruise, I would especially be worried about what comes out so Now, if you're like me, you thought to yourself Well, I'm assuming it's Scientology because Com create. That's what I was to Sumner Redstone have to do with any of this. Oh, my gosh, I just Googled it. What? Well, he apparently fired Tom Cruise over that Oprah interview. Exactly. So there's an article that goes back to what 20 some? This was 2016. Sumner Redstone taking risk taking risks and banning Tom Cruise. And it goes into you know, like his career and how he wants temporarily banned cruise from the Paramount lot. Because he thought the actor's life was hurting the box office for Mission. Impossible. Three. So I don't know what the two of those things have to do together. But I am here for it. I would like to know more. I cannot wait to spend away too much time that I don't have to Just hope that we get some juicy. Yeah, trying to connect all those dads. Oof! Good one trainer. All right. When we come back on the Colleen and Bradley show, we gotta revisit Brian Austin Green. He's going through an odd midlife crisis and we're going on it with him when we come back on the Colleen and Bradley showing my talk one of 71 Another lorry and Julia moment If you wear a pretty dress with kissed a thong on and you don't have a slip on.
Meghan Markle and Prince Harry relocate to new home in Santa Barbara
"That Prince area Meghan Markle have secretly bought a private family home in Santa Barbara. Page six is saying that Harry and Megan have been living in their new home for six weeks in the upscale California community, which is is also also home home to to their their pals. pals. Oprah Oprah And And Ellen. Ellen. A A source source didn't didn't give give details details about about the the home home like like the the price price they they paid paid for for it it or or the the location, location, But But they they did did say say they they thought thought about about this this carefully carefully and and researched researched it. Well, This is the place where they plan to be happy. Made good friends and bring up Archie giving him the chance to play with other kids his own age. Oh,
Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on Colleen and Bradley
"Tyra banks, sparking engagement rumors because she has a massive ring on that finger. She was exiting her theme park model land with her boyfriend. Okay, way and I need to wait because I forgot. That was a thing. Me too. Until just now. Also, that just I didn't know it was open. I don't know. Also, maybe she was just doing a site checks. I can't. I got it Now. I got to go down that rabbit hole. But let's get back to the engagement Rumors. Please go down the rabbit hole. I want to know more so they used to have been dating since October. 2019. Well, that's when it was reported. So they were probably dating before that, and they've been keeping things low Key, But they've been spotted all over l a together recently even spending time with Tyra Banks, his son who she shares with her ex boyfriend, because I never realized she was a mom. Yeah. I know. I think that was a surprise experience for us. I believe that she had her son through surrogates. Okay, so we didn't so there wasn't what I'm saying is, there wasn't a pregnancy that we watched happened. Everybody was tracking and right. Exactly, But I want to say that was like a surprise to us. And so it is easy to forget. Her fiance. Everyone thinks he's her fiance. Now because of the ring has a young son with his ex as well, um so model and hasn't opened yet. Okay, Good to know. Thank you. Postponed because of Corona virus concerns businesses, the world doing dancing with the stars. I still have so many questions, doing dancing with the stars like socially distance. I don't know how it's gonna happen. It'll have to be like a bachelor thing. Bachelor quarantine where they're quarantined and they're tested and then they aren't living in a bubble. And they're not allowed to leave the but I kind of want them to do this bubble. Like like Big Brother style meaning, like I want to know what I hope that gives us more content right? Like if they're all together, they can film a lot more. And it would be kind of fun to see more behind the scenes stuff. You know, I think that's how they interact. I agree. Because then I'd be like would be like dancing with the Stars Camp. Yes, exactly. I'm here for that. I am too or like, project down and dirty. So when we mentioned Tyra is going to be doing dancing with stars, she's not a contestant. She's a judge. Our host. Rather, she's the host, and she's the executive producer. This is going to be interesting. I will. I'm gonna not hold my breath. But I can't wait for this next season to see how they do this. I know I'm pumped for bachelor bachelorette to come out. Listen, force Uru needs some distraction. I need some distractions. And now there's no big 10 football. So there are you baking bread? Still, actually, no, I've got no. She's a baby. Right now Pay it doesn't mean she can't bake. A loaf of French bread is resting. My timer is on and I'll start stretch unfold in about 10 minutes. Good. And I'll get and I'll get the bulk fermentation. Don't do it quickly, recently urged. Gosh, we've entered into bread. Chet, Have you tried slap unfold? Yeah, I stretch. I don't slap I want you to try. I want like someday when we could be together in the same space. I want slapping, slapping discretion slap. You know what they call slapping, slapping full? I'm not mature enough to be in this conversation. I don't want to hear your view, flapping, folding or stretching together. Oh, gosh, it's Reminds me Kalina the time that you and I went to a hot yoga class together is awesome. Holly's and Holly neglected to tell us that it was a 90 minute class. We thought it was 60 minutes in her class at 100 remember, and I was thinking, like, okay, it's about time to wrap up. No, no, Captain Elizabeth and I look at each other. Everybody else is end out and we're like, Hey, did you think this was 60 minutes? I'm like, Yeah, Nobody needs 90 minutes of any. That's because Holly gave us a free first time class. It was great, though it was great values. He's a great yoga instructor. You know, it was really, but it was alarming. When we did we slapped unfolded together one time, So it's our turn. Next instruction fold Now we're going to stretch you. Don't worry this our DOE is happening, But I just need to see more photos. Police post. Thank you. I will. I will, and it's been kind of hot, so I haven't been baking as much lately. You don't get weird about it. Let's talk about Meghan, Markle and Harry. OK, so now they have apparently moved to Montecito that that is their new home. And is that the same in Santa Barbara? That is kind of the same. OK, so I didn't know that because I don't speak Ella. It's in Santa Barbara County got shots in that area. So what they're saying is that the Oprah connection seems undeniable here that Montecito Realtors are talking to teams. They said The couple went into escrow in July, and the deal closed about a week ago, They spent about $10 million which got them a lot more house than they would get in Ella. Oprah has been kind of guiding them. She helped put them in contact with Tyler Perry. That's where they were living in his Beverly Hills, a state that he wasn't using while they got settled into Southern California, But Oprah has a massive incredible estate in Montecito and loves it. And these two she and Harry like, Why wouldn't you love calling the state if it was in Dib Yuk been right. Lots of celebrities live in Montecito, like Ellen, The Scooter Braun, Drew Barrymore, Rob Lowe..
American Airlines offering Apple TV+ shows as free in-flight entertainment
"Apple TV pluses playing to a bit of a captive audience. The Mac Observer says shows from the Cupertino Streamer are being offered free on American Airlines starting this month. According to the peace, apple originals are now preloaded into the seat back entertainment of American Airlines flights. Shows in the rotation include the morning show defending Jacob Dickinson for all mankind ghost. Help stirs home before dark little America, mythic Quest Raven's Banquet Oprah's book club and Snoopy, and
Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on Bruce St. James and Pamela Hughes
"Gaydos. I don't like hump data like this makes me uncomfortable. I don't like that. Imagine being named Mike. When that stupid commercial came out how many people would walk up to the mike? Mike? Mike Mike got and they all thought they were the 1st 1 to do it. Yeah, that's brutal, man. You gotta change your name. Yeah. You know what's funny? My parents gave me Michael. At least it's a nice set up for what you get when you get to the last name, so Does anybody ever call you, Michael? Um, yeah, There are a couple of people that do Not very money. Most people call me Mike. They just call me broom head. Room head. Yeah. I mean, I You know, I've I've always just gone by my last name. Because I always thought no one could ever forget a name like mine. Mito. You know, I just figured, you know, that's why I used on the radio when I first got out here, so you know, and plus, you know, I like to be like Oprah or share or Madonna. I like that one day. One name that it's it's easier, you know, just be able to sign checks that way. A ideo. So what's the question of my favorite wrestler of all time was the ultimate warrior. He actually changed his name to warrior. Nice officially. Yeah, okay. I didn't know ready. Are you ready to get a vaccine? Because I've got an awesome question. And I think you and I need to chat about okay. Let's hear it. I think we need Teo. Decide as a team. If we're going to do this, Putin, Putin and the Russian say they've got a coded 19 vaccine. Would you get it? No. What a yes to be no. C Heck, no de heck to the No. Andy. Maybe I'm going. No. Well, what isn't an interesting like what if the Iranians came up with like a vaccine and said, Hey, Americans will give it to you. And you know if it works and all that stuff You know? Ah, I think I'll try the vaccine. I'm in. You would try it. You? Yeah. Yeah, I tried. I think I think I get Putin. Well, I don't know about Putin, because doesn't he poisoned people? He's poisoned people. Yes. Yeah, maybe not. Well, Maybe not. Now, maybe Hector to know you notice you notice. A lot of his soldiers volunteered Exactly so funny. They're like we're going to give you this vaccine, and it's not an option And we're going to stick this needle in your cheek. Right? You know, wrapping the rear end. Yeah, and ah, and we'll see if you grow 1/3 arm. Exactly Right. That's what I'm concerned about. Is that third arm option of the whole thing, So no There's not a chance in the world. I'm taking a Russian vaccine. I'll take a British vaccine. Yeah. After a few people take it before me after we left like everybody else in the office. Take it. And then two weeks later, we see if you know if everything is still cool. We're having grown like, you know, you know, aren't we? A couple of brave, courageous souls? Ah, you know, honestly, I can't wait for the vaccine. I'm gonna be first in line, man. I'm ready once they have won going once they have one that works as always very compelling. Hector was my answer. And I look forward to listen. You guys this afternoon. All right, Michael. Happy Wednesday. Gaydos happy Wednesday. Alright. The ghetto's big Q poll question They brought to you by your valley. Toyota dealers. Would you take the Russian covert 19 vaccine? I have a feeling I know Heck, no is going to be the number one answer by a long shot, But I guess we'll see coming up. In a few moments. We talk with the superintendent of the East Valley Institute of Technology. They're opening for business in classroom. We're gonna talk about how that happened. And all the details Next Thiss week at.
Winfrey demanding justice for Breonna Taylor with billboards
"After putting brand of Taylor on the cover of a magazine Oprah Winfrey is spreading her message with billboards demanding justice for the Kentucky woman according to news outlets twenty six billboards are going up across Louisville demanding that the police officers involved in Brianna Taylor's death be arrested and charged that's one Billboard for every year of the black woman's life Taylor was shot multiple times March thirteenth when police officers burst into her apartment using a no knock warrant during a narcotics investigation the warrant to search your home was in connection with the suspect who didn't live there and no drugs were found the decision whether to bring state level criminal charges against the Louisville officers rests with the Kentucky Attorney General I actually have lower
The US will pay up to $10 million if you can ID a foreign election hacker
"Provide information on a foreign hackers who's been meddling with the US election and you could receive up to ten million US dollars as a reward. The US State Department says the reward will go to and I quote information leading to the identification of or location of any person who works with or for a foreign government for the purpose of interfering with US elections through certain illegal cyber activities well to explain that and tell us more. Let's hear from Elizabeth Bro. She leads modern deterrence program at here in London. Welcome back to the program Elizabeth and just describe what exactly the US State Department is doing. A good money on at. This is really fascinating program. So but the State Department is doing is essentially offering the same sort of rewards for people who Reports. People who who who are planning to interfere with elections in the same way that's the US government does with people who report terrorist. So it's it's essentially bounty on election interferes information. So how do you go about catching? A Hacker D I mean who we talking about here I mean he's he's going to be claiming the prize to begin to look at counter hackers. Is it a large authorities large private sector organizations or even a teenager in his bedroom? I think it may well be teenager in his bedroom so I think the most likely. Recipient of this money is somebody working with hackers who? May have been who who are in the process of interfering with US elections and we should remember it's not just hackers. It's people who are Spreading this information as well. It aimed at undermining confidence in elections and we should remember the people who are doing it are. Oprah are often operating on behalf of another government but they don't work for the government and that is the problem in the Western governments have it's so hard to to catch them because they are can relive just be people in their bedrooms. Working survivor freelance arrangement with a country, and so people like me have long been thinking about how D- How do we deter how how can we make sure that they don't engage in that behaviour I must say as a European. I just never thought of of the option of offer offering a bounty to to people willing to turn them in. But here this is what? We are getting or this is what what US government is proposing exactly. What does it suggest about the way that the Americans are actually trying to catch these people who who are trying to meddle with the elections. There is some suggestion that you know given the large amount of money ten million dollars, and that the United States might not quite be up to the job themselves. But so this is the interesting thing right I mean when you offer bounded it sort of indicates that you've tried other means and you're not getting anywhere and that's why. Are So often used by the governments to to catch terrorists because it's The government has failed them tend to catch him in other ways, but with election interference to fear of the ways that have usually been sought about the cyber. Cyber defender. Let's say in in in our Western countries. Keeping the country safe and also signaling to to perpetrators would be prepetrators if they commit their offensive acts that would be punishment but clearly, it's not the now for the recent, we can see it's not enough is that These activities continue. So clearly the the the the would be attackers and they and their is don't feel deterred by what's currently happening in the the problem was for the defender is that if you? If you're too heavy handed if you attack back than Jose escalates. It could it could really get out of control. So this is a completely different. Take on and I think it's it's one those Soviet uniquely American with this long tradition of of bounties and something that the property ripping countries won't engage in but but it has worked with with in some cases with terrorists that the US government was was trying to find. So I mean it sounds frankly it sounds completely crazy. Let's see they even Be Able to locate a few hackers. This way Elizabeth, how much evidence is said that the current US elections has already seen some international involvement and interference. So it's It's it's hard to quantify and the the reason that this is so difficult to serve you don't even need to. Successfully interfere with an election in order for that election to be to be tainted or poisoned or compromised. What's it's enough for people to have the impression that that's the election is being. Tinkered with by somebody and and that's the really frightening thing. So that was They've been very service both. Opponents both in the US and elsewhere that people whether such and such election in that country. was interfered with, for example, by the Russians, and and for something in here in UK, there was a recent poll where. Forty nine percent of people in the UK thought that rushing to with the brexit referendum. So it doesn't really matter whether Russia defeated with Brexit Brentford with mattresses at half of the population in the UK thanks that rushing to fit and then the referendum is already tainted by that and that is that makes this whole thing so difficult. So it's it and that's why program like this may not have much. Effect because what matters is people think in other countries interfering
Makeup for Men, Our Podcasting Secrets & The Weeks Beauty News
"Welcome to fat Mascara I am Jess Hi. With and. Blew out everybody's ears sorry about that. I'm very excited. You're excited because honestly we're recording this little bit early you're listening to this. Holy. Cow, it is August. That's right. It's August this. Time in twenty twenty is the weirdest thing. It's like I. IT still feels like February February went forever. Then all of a sudden it was August and yet. I don't know there's like none of those markers like didn't see your mom for mother's Day like don't go away for this birthday and so like. It's faster yet slower. It's the weirdest remembers I remember sitting in bad in like March and being like Jeff do think this whole quarantine thing could go onto like a bro like asking just like totally well I remember you asking me that too yeah and I was like. Yeah. I also can't believe since you're lake was born since February. I've literally seen you in person only wants it once or twice I saw you on the street. Yeah. I didn't see each other again. Because I see you so often, but I see you on the show will me I I think this is our lives. Now this is this but this is so sad it can't be like this. It can't be like this. I know I know well, for people who enjoy summer, which isn't Jessen I might alright bringing the rest on your summer like happy August to you for everybody else who just really hot and sweaty right now we're getting through it. We're just getting. Some are in the city. I always have that like hot Tom Summer in the city song every time like go outside just like feet pounding the pavement. Yeah, and then it just slows down into like a milky. As Long. As. Low a nineteen seventies like cast over everything just like doom and gloom summer of Sam the seriously it's not fun right now anyway, let's bring the phone. Let's bring the levity. Bring the joy. What do we got this week? Let me tell you. We've got the headlines. We've got men wearing makeup. Okay. I'm very excited about this trend I feel like we report on this like every six months but I feel like there's always a tweak there's always a new span. There's always a new angle can't wait to talk about this and we are going to answer a listener's question about behind the scenes at fat Mascara how the sausage gets made, and of course, we're GONNA raise wand all that well done Jeff I'm excited about this show you ready to do it. Let's get hot town in the city. than. Them doing the news. Virtually, from my vacation just kidding I'm recording the Ireland I should've said. Before we're doing an early not early in the morning earlier than we would because janitors going on vacation. That's how much we love you. Instead of US being L., we're going to take a week off. Oh No, we've recorded double that episode for you. So if some huge news comes out at the end of August and it is not including this, you cannot blame me I was just thinking like watch oprah like surprise drop beyond style like a makeup line like Oprah's makeup line and we don't talk about it like every facet like off their game it's because I'm recording early just so you know. Okay. So remember last week when we talk about Clare Sonic Failing Jason, you're like, well, they're no dummies all those people are going to be. You know they'll find something to work on. Well, did they ever? So Dr, Rob We've both interviewed I know. He actually left the company before it closed and started up this brand called Oculus and so this is where all the technology's going. It's launching in the fall. It's basically like you know a courage coffeemaker. It's like that for skin care. So I, gotTa look at it. It's a little like device you putting these pods. K Cups of care and it mixes together the pod that you want and squirts out a fresh batch just one application of your skincare.
Oprah Picks Isabel Wilkerson's 'Caste' for Her Book Club
"Has picked Isabel Wilkerson's cast as her new book Club selection. Wilkerson looks in American history and treatment of blacks and finds what she calls an enduring on scene and unmentioned caste system. York Times calls it an extraordinary document on the keynote nonfiction book of the American Century thus far, Steve Cave and CBS News
"In two, thousand, three Oprah Winfrey used her massive daytime television platform to warn millions of people that teenage girls were attending parties, wearing wild shades of lipstick and performing oral sex on boys. The boy with the most colors of lipstick smudges would win the accolade of his peers. These were called Rainbow Parties. The story was picked up by newspapers television stations across the country parents were panicking. There was one small detail that Oprah missed though. There had not been a single verifiable instance of a Rainbow Party F-. My Name's Moxy and this is your brain on facts. Parents are naturally worried for their children and it doesn't seem to take much to send them into a tizzy. and. It's not just parents. We as people are pretty prone to overreacting to the first piece of information we receive. Modern media makes the spreading of these new urban legends basically effortless. But false panics and hoaxes are far from a new invention. Always. been with us. Most people know the story surrounding Orson Welles radio play the war of the worlds by H. G. Wells. No relation it was presented in the form of a newscast detailing the invasion of earth by beings from another world clearly bent on our destruction. Listeners thought the broadcast was real. There was mayhem in the streets as as many as a million people fled their homes or armed themselves and made ready to fight off the alien hordes. We know all about the panic that this radio play cost it was in all the papers. Therein lies the problem. Newspapers of the day greatly exaggerated the situation. To begin with not that many people were tuned in to the Mercury Theatre on the air that evening only two percent of households with radios even heard the play. which repeatedly identified itself as such during the performance. Some CBS radio affiliates even cut away from the broadcast in favor of local programming further shrinking the potential audience. Most people were listening instead to the ratings, Juggernaut, ventriloquist at Gergen. I still fail to understand how a ventriloquist act really worked on the radio. If it makes you happy. So. Why then if so few people. and. Fewer still were confused by it did newspapers separately and independently make the situation sound much worse than it was. They were motivated by fear not of aliens but of the radio. The wireless radio was the first real threat to the superiority of the newspaper as the public's primary source of information. Reporters and editors saw this as an opportunity to prove to advertisers and regulators that radio was dangerous irresponsible and not to be trusted. A similar thing happened in. England. Twelve years earlier with a fictitious report that an angry mob of unemployed workers were running amok in London looting and destroying everything in sight. The National Gallery had been ransacked the Savoy hotel blown up. The houses of parliament were being attacked with trench mortars and the Big Ben. Clock, tower had been raised to the ground. Like any good radio play? The narration was accompanied by sound effects. Of Fear Few people did take to the streets, even fleeing past the famous buildings that had been reportedly destroyed while others desperately clogged police phone lines. The BBC tried to ease tensions by reminding people that the report was a comedy skit entitled broadcasting in the barricades. anding their message with London is safe Big Ben is still chiming and all his well. You can't trust the BBC at least we can still rely on armed forces, radio. People fought until nineteen, forty seven. When in May W v TR in Tokyo began to issue a series of bulletins about a twenty foot high monster that had risen from the sea to lay waste to the area. Bullets were useless against this dragon like creature listeners could hear terrified shrieks, people shouting orders over bullhorns, heavy weapons and Massu vehicles rolling
Rules for Being Human
"I'm excited about the possibility that this show can offer to all of you within the sound of my voice right now because when I decided I was going to continue with television. I. Wanted to be able to use it as an instrument a vehicle to try to bring meaning to people's lives so that something we might say something you might hear might create a spark that would create something inside yourself with touch some part of yourself that would make you live better do better. Create the highest vision for your life, and this is this show is spectacular today in terms of being able to bring you to that. If you pay attend, you pull up a chair I know right now children are running around the house. That I know you know not to be thawing the chicken out who did you on it in the microwave? Hit. Pause, on that right now. Call your friends tell them if they can't watch right you should really take this because this is really important important for you and even more important if you could share this with your children because if there's one thing you should know if you want to have a better more meaningful, fulfill deeper richer existence, it is this that the world and everything in this world that this physical reality that we are experiencing right now operates under certain laws y'all know that. And it supersedes everything. It is real and as consistent as the scientific law of gravity or the physical law of cause and effect, and once you begin to understand how the world operate and how fair and just it really is no matter where you are in your life right now, you then can begin to learn to be a more powerful person. So this little book if life is a game these. Are The rules explains ten rules of universal wisdom if you understand and follow them every day every moment, which is hard to be in there. Every moment I'm telling you and we all struggling you'll have a better life and better relationships in your life because you come to know yourself better doctor. Cherie Carter. Scott, is the author of if life is a game these are the rules coming up in. Telling you. Thank you. Read that is great to get a standing ovation. Yeah. Open your mouth yet. How did you come up with these rules? It was in nineteen, seventy, four and somebody turned to me. I was creating a course to teach people how to coach other people and he said, you know it would be so nice if we just had a handbook for living, why don't we have some kind of rules for being human and I said that's it we need. The rules for being human and turned to me and they said, well, what are they and I said, well, you start with the body and they said Okay and then we're and all of a sudden it was as if spirit inside me was speaking and they came through under the paper and there they were plain and simple and I looked at them and I said. I don't know if I'm brilliant enough to create those I listen and I, allowed it to come through there they are. Okay. Rule number one is you will receive a body. So. Who in this room received the perfect body and you know it was just the right one for. You. No. Problem because if we did get that body and we said you know, thank you that's the one I ordered and it's exactly got it would be a different rural but I bet if you look around this room, you see somebody else that's the body I should have gotten. No, that's the one I should've gotten and you would trade you do an exchange but somehow that's not the way it is we are given a body and it's the one that we are meant to make peace with. The rule is you you going to receive a body? Yes. Otherwise we wouldn't be here. Exact. That's how we moving around in the body. Yes, and you may love it or hate it but it is yours for the duration of your life on absolutely. Okay. It's only when you got but yet the reason why so many people have their greatest pain and struggle in that body. Absolutely. Okay. Dinky says she's a perfect example of this rule and what dinky definitely. So much of our society looks at people by their body type and. How they come across in their body, I suffer from gaining weight losing weight gaining weight losing weight. You know just like why do people do? I know I have every reason in the world to be happy. And I have this void within myself and I don't know how to fill that void. I don't know how to to get to the core. Okay and you want to do something with me a little exercise fast close your eyes for second take a deep breath. And ask your body what it wants to say to you that you're not listening to. Deep Breath. Just, have it speak to you and say whatever the words are that you hear. Expecting respect me what else? I'm here for I'm here for you. What else? I do a lot for I do a lot for you and what else? Take Care of take care of me, open your eyes do you hear it? It's speaking to you.
Parts of North Carolina under mandatory evacuation due to Hurricane Isaias
"Hyde County, North Carolina, authorities have issued a mandatory evacuation for Oprah Coke Island at the southern end of the Outer banks. Residents are still struggling to recover from Hurricane Dorian's wrath last September. I'm Jim
Oprah Magazine Honors Breonna Taylor on Cover
"Winfrey is stepping off the cover of her. Oh, The Oprah magazine for the first time in 20 years. The 66 year old TV host and magazine's founder dedicated the September issue of her magazine to Briana Taylor. The old magazine cover features and edited image of Briana that the lady Mt. Took herself. This was my Way our Way, O Magazine of Honoring her celebrating her life and the lives of every other woman, black woman in particular, whose life has been taken. Unfortunately too soon if We're not the cove it I would be marching in the streets. The issue hits stands August 11th. This will be one of its last ones in print before the publication goes Digital.
Breonna Taylor to be featured on Oprah's magazine cover
"September issue of O magazine makes a statement for the first time ever. O magazine will not feature Oprah Winfrey on its cover. Instead, the September edition will feature a picture of Briana Taylor and the words her life matters. Oprah says It's a tribute and a cry for justice for the unarmed woman fatally shot by police after they stormed her Kentucky home in March. The historic move comes as O magazine is set to go fully digital next year.
Breonna Taylor covers September issue of Oprah's magazine
"First time ever. O magazine will not feature Oprah Winfrey on its cover. Instead, the September edition will feature a picture of Briana Taylor and the words her life matters. Oprah says It's a tribute and a cry for justice for the unarmed woman fatally shot by police after they stormed her Kentucky home in March. The historic move comes as O magazine is set to go fully digital next year.
O, the Oprah Magazine Features Breonna Taylor on Cover — Its First Without Oprah
"Cover of O magazine, she's always on the cover of her magazine for a Briana Taylor tributes. Very nice. Yeah, I just saw that cover is the first time that Oprah has ever given up the cover of her magazine. For the last 20 years. Oprah has been the cover subject of Oh, But she wrote in her column featuring Taylor, who was fatally shot by police in Louisville, Kentucky, on March 13th. And she said What I know for sure we can't be silent. We have to use whatever megaphone we have to cry for justice. And that is why Briana Taylor is on the cover. That magazine becoming digital on Ly at the end of the year. By the way, Young Elizabeth It's
"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Twenty Five Seasons Four, thousand five hundred sixty one episodes I believe the Oprah Winfrey show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world rolling their bottom line, the moments, the breakthroughs, the connections, the occasional ugly cry. So terribly every single minute the L.. O. Ell's. The moments that matter. I blue light lessons never allow them to take you somewhere I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the ball. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet shares that common desire they want to know. Do you see me? Do you, hear me. That's what I say mean anything to you. You're listening to the Oprah. Winfrey show the PODCAST. Back. You have to be living under a rock not to know his bestselling book manner from Mars Women are from Venus and John was here last month, and we were talking about starting over after a break up on the difference between how men and Women Cope and was so interesting that I ask John to do another show, not just for single people, but for everybody because we have such a high divorce rate that something is wrong with the way we're approaching marriage. Wouldn't you agree I agree completely what's happened is times have changed. We've moved into a whole new society or expectations are changed. We're no longer modeling relationships after our parents, but it's what we see in the movies. It's what we see. See in TV. Our expectations have dramatically changed. This isn't wrong. They've actually gone to higher level but TV and the movies going to a higher level. Is the divorce rate higher because they don't teach us how to get there when I see. People Fall in love in the movies, and let's say I'm married. I'm not feeling that love for my wife. I go I want that that feels real to me. It tingles my body. I go. I want that, but how do I get it and I try to do what they do and it doesn't work. Nobody's taught us. We have to be re educated on how to have relationships see the reason. We don't have education on relationships, because normally you grow. Grow up in your family. You Watch your parents relationship and you learn thousand nine years of training how to have a relationship like your parents. That doesn't hold hold anymore suddenly. If we do the things our parents did. How many of us are parents creating romance every week? For example, my wife and I one of the things we do to create romance. We want romance every every month we take one day we go away from the kids away from work away from family, and it's basically Gourmet Romance I served. My wife cooked the whole meal. I, take her to a restaurant. We go somewhere. She see women can't continue to be sexually responsive and romantic. If they feel, they're always taking care of. Of Kids. They're always taking care of duty. Women have the breasts that life is sucked out of them. They're being pulled. All the time pooled all the time pooled. All the men don't have that. We just go sit in our easy chair and forget their problems. Women can't do that. Women can't forget we have to do. We want romance to thrive to take her out of that circumstance where she's feeling responsible, responsible responsible. Take her way and romance, or and how many men have been taught how to do that? We're not taught how to do that. Our attitude is if you love someone just supposed to work now. The truth is most people aren't even aware of this. Hollywood has rewritten history yeah. Has. Romance been a part of marriage. Nowhere in history has romance. Marriage. We think of Romeo and Juliet. Reason that's romantic. They both died unmarried yet. Right on John that's right. Romance is possible we can keep the passion a lot. You get about three years of automatic hormones when you meet someone three years the harmonious flow. If you don't have romantic skills and communication skills, there will nurture the woman's hormones that will nurture the man's hormones. Then they go into state of latency, and then you see another person and boom. They're off again. Do relate what he's talking about. You on married here. Everyone in front row, yes. My husband is the selective hearing. Husband I've been married for eight years dated for ten years before we got married. We've gone through two of your books now, and we always say to yourself. Okay John Tell us to do in this situation, and we try to think it through, but still ends up I'm talking I'm talking I'm talking. He's thinking about the trees. The flowers something else and allison I'll say at sparks his interest in. He'll say what did you say? What did you say? What did you say? The whole thing again. I selected hearing I need for him to listen to me when I'm talking. We have such a short amount of time together. We have three children small amount of time to talk. Listen have something important to say that is the number one thing now. One thing is reading my books. Watching the videos men learning to listen the other ingredient is the fuel that allows a man to listen. Have you ever seen a guy dating a woman in a restaurant? Not able to listen to her if he's expecting sex that night. You can tell who are the couples who are married the guy who's expecting sex that night. He's glued on her. What. She says he's right there. TUMMY MORE OPRAH TO. Tell me more. There because there's expectation of that connection. Something happens. It breaks down when you have kids. Now we have to do if we don't want that breakdown, the happen is we have to compensate for? And the woman is just important as this as the man men have to learn skills for communicating, but it's not enough just to listen. Because what you're saying is there is. He's read my books. He's trying to listen. There's no juice not feeling that he's right there and the only thing a woman can say I don't feel you understand and that he gets really frustrated. What do you mean? I don't understand? I can tell you what you just said. She doesn't feel connected. What's missing? What's missing? Is that passionate connection that he used to have when you would talk, and suddenly it's. To listen right. Yes he did you listen to what I had to say? Yeah when you were dating when he courting you when you were in the window three years three year window. You know eighteen years ago so. It's been a long time, so I think what you're saying here. What you're saying here is key about the three year window because we have been fed a whole bill of goods, really in believing that the romance is going to last forever, and it's going to be automatic and it doesn't it doesn't. It doesn't envy created again and again you know the first time my wife touched my thigh. Every cell in my body came alive fireworks right? That's what every man eighteen years later. Well want something. It's not going to happen. Have that passionate response? You're familiar. You're in a relationship. You know the person, but what you can do, and this is what the possibility exists. You can create a romantic getaway. You can maybe go shopping a little bit during the day. Why shopping important women love the Shop Women's shopping? Opportunity I start thinking about herself even if she doesn't buy anything. That's what you have to know. Women don't have to buy things they can just look tried on. She's thinking about herself. Then you feed her. Her. She's always feeding everybody else you've. Feeder brings her back to her sense of self. What's happening? Is You're bringing her back? She's connecting with those hormones. was she felt in the beginning where she felt special, she felt taken care of see. That's what all the dating rituals or about dating rituals. Somebody can look at it and say they're sexists. The man supposed to do this. The woman's supposed to do that. If you want passion to last, you've gotta know. There's roles to play like. If. We go on a date. My wife if I'm not opening the car door for she's very clever. She wraps her arm around me and she just walk into the car. She just keeps me raptor as we go to the car door and I guess I'm opening the car door tonight. opened the door, she oh, thank you, okay. Whenever you walk into a door. You know slowdown, so he gets there first. The opens the door go. Oh, thank you, he was. That feeling and a lot of people can object to this they go wait a second. You know these roles. You have to have the man taking care of the woman. The woman feeling appreciative of a man. That's what sparks.
Mars and Venus Starting Over
"Back. You have to be living under a rock not to know his bestselling book manner from Mars Women are from Venus and John was here last month, and we were talking about starting over after a break up on the difference between how men and Women Cope and was so interesting that I ask John to do another show, not just for single people, but for everybody because we have such a high divorce rate that something is wrong with the way we're approaching marriage. Wouldn't you agree I agree completely what's happened is times have changed. We've moved into a whole new society or expectations are changed. We're no longer modeling relationships after our parents, but it's what we see in the movies. It's what we see. See in TV. Our expectations have dramatically changed. This isn't wrong. They've actually gone to higher level but TV and the movies going to a higher level. Is the divorce rate higher because they don't teach us how to get there when I see. People Fall in love in the movies, and let's say I'm married. I'm not feeling that love for my wife. I go I want that that feels real to me. It tingles my body. I go. I want that, but how do I get it and I try to do what they do and it doesn't work. Nobody's taught us. We have to be re educated on how to have relationships see the reason. We don't have education on relationships, because normally you grow. Grow up in your family. You Watch your parents relationship and you learn thousand nine years of training how to have a relationship like your parents. That doesn't hold hold anymore suddenly. If we do the things our parents did. How many of us are parents creating romance every week? For example, my wife and I one of the things we do to create romance. We want romance every every month we take one day we go away from the kids away from work away from family, and it's basically Gourmet Romance I served. My wife cooked the whole meal. I, take her to a restaurant. We go somewhere. She see women can't continue to be sexually responsive and romantic. If they feel, they're always taking care of. Of Kids. They're always taking care of duty. Women have the breasts that life is sucked out of them. They're being pulled. All the time pooled all the time pooled. All the men don't have that. We just go sit in our easy chair and forget their problems. Women can't do that. Women can't forget we have to do. We want romance to thrive to take her out of that circumstance where she's feeling responsible, responsible responsible. Take her way and romance, or and how many men have been taught how to do that? We're not taught how to do that. Our attitude is if you love someone just supposed to work now. The truth is most people aren't even aware of this. Hollywood has rewritten history yeah. Has. Romance been a part of marriage. Nowhere in history has romance. Marriage. We think of Romeo and Juliet. Reason that's romantic. They both died unmarried yet. Right on John that's right. Romance is possible we can keep the passion a lot. You get about three years of automatic hormones when you meet someone three years the harmonious flow. If you don't have romantic skills and communication skills, there will nurture the woman's hormones that will nurture the man's hormones. Then they go into state of latency, and then you see another person and boom. They're off again. Do relate what he's talking about. You on married here. Everyone in front row, yes. My husband is the selective hearing. Husband I've been married for eight years dated for ten years before we got married. We've gone through two of your books now, and we always say to yourself. Okay John Tell us to do in this situation, and we try to think it through, but still ends up I'm talking I'm talking I'm talking. He's thinking about the trees. The flowers something else and allison I'll say at sparks his interest in. He'll say what did you say? What did you say? What did you say? The whole thing again. I selected hearing I need for him to listen to me when I'm talking. We have such a short amount of time together. We have three children small amount of time to talk. Listen have something important to say that is the number one thing now. One thing is reading my books. Watching the videos men learning to listen the other ingredient is the fuel that allows a man to listen. Have you ever seen a guy dating a woman in a restaurant? Not able to listen to her if he's expecting sex that night. You can tell who are the couples who are married the guy who's expecting sex that night. He's glued on her. What. She says he's right there. TUMMY MORE OPRAH TO. Tell me more. There because there's expectation of that connection. Something happens. It breaks down when you have kids. Now we have to do if we don't want that breakdown, the happen is we have to compensate for? And the woman is just important as this as the man men have to learn skills for communicating, but it's not enough just to listen. Because what you're saying is there is. He's read my books. He's trying to listen. There's no juice not feeling that he's right there and the only thing a woman can say I don't feel you understand and that he gets really frustrated. What do you mean? I don't understand? I can tell you what you just said. She doesn't feel connected. What's missing? What's missing? Is that passionate connection that he used to have when you would talk, and suddenly it's. To listen right. Yes he did you listen to what I had to say? Yeah when you were dating when he courting you when you were in the window three years three year window. You know eighteen years ago so. It's been a long time, so I think what you're saying here. What you're saying here is key about the three year window because we have been fed a whole bill of goods, really in believing that the romance is going to last forever, and it's going to be automatic and it doesn't it doesn't. It doesn't envy created again and again you know the first time my wife touched my thigh. Every cell in my body came alive fireworks right? That's what every man eighteen years later. Well want something. It's not going to happen. Have that passionate response? You're familiar. You're in a relationship. You know the person, but what you can do, and this is what the possibility exists. You can create a romantic getaway. You can maybe go shopping a little bit during the day. Why shopping important women love the Shop Women's shopping? Opportunity I start thinking about herself even if she doesn't buy anything. That's what you have to know. Women don't have to buy things they can just look tried on. She's thinking about herself. Then you feed her. Her. She's always feeding everybody else you've. Feeder brings her back to her sense of self. What's happening? Is You're bringing her back? She's connecting with those hormones. was she felt in the beginning where she felt special, she felt taken care of see. That's what all the dating rituals or about dating rituals. Somebody can look at it and say they're sexists. The man supposed to do this. The woman's supposed to do that. If you want passion to last, you've gotta know. There's roles to play like. If. We go on a date. My wife if I'm not opening the car door for she's very clever. She wraps her arm around me and she just walk into the car. She just keeps me raptor as we go to the car door and I guess I'm opening the car door tonight. opened the door, she oh, thank you, okay.
Oprah's O Mag to end regular print editions after 20 years
"Is ending its regular monthly print editions with the December 2020 issue. Oh, has been in publication for 20 years, Pursed says the brand is not going away. It'll just become more digitally centric in the publisher's words, with some form of print. Oprah Winfrey launched Oh, with Hearst Back in 2000. Today, she is Theo, editorial director. It's among the country's most recognizable magazine's first wouldn't answer why they're dropping the regular print edition, saying only. It's a natural next step. Magazines or trying to grow. Their digital properties is print advertising shrinks and people spend more time on line. We've got
Crash Landing On You + Fate with Joe Gunawan
"Thank you so much for tuning in for this week's episode. y'All better be still doing the mass and the washing your hands and social distancing especially. If you're in America, because we are the worst, we're actually not technically the worse I think we're like the third worst depending on what data you're looking at, but considering how much we front about how great we are. In America where the worst and it's a humbling moment, it's a lesson learned right very important time to take responsibility for all of the nonsense and grow up and move on. We're going to be better yeah. If guys. Thank you so much for tuning in for last week's episode, it really means a lot to me as a third anniversary episode of first of all and a pretty intense one on inner child, trauma, and healing, and letting go of the past and I just really appreciate anybody who tuned in and. Listened politically with compassion and shared space, because that was a doozy a lot for me to let out but I'm very grateful that I was able to do that. Share that with you, all and I'm really really moved by the response. I got some messages of of gratitude and very vulnerable. Sharing and I just want to say know I'm not. I first of all. I didn't think I was GONNA, be here. I didn't think it was gonna do this many episodes. I was just giving it a shot. See where it goes and I didn't think that I'd be sharing so much of myself in terms of like my. Past in my what was happening in my life real time and it's been really really liberating really. Just eye opening for me and I just didn't know that I'd be here. And I didn't ever aspire to have millions of listeners. That idea actually scares me. Slash scared the crap out of me to think that that many people would listen to what I had to say. So, yeah anyway. That actually. That's next week's episode on. Stop playing small, but. Suffice it to say I just I didn't know really what I was aiming for when I started this, I didn't know what kind of reach I would have I. don't have a gazillion followers. Our listeners and I don't even know if that's what I I once per se, but what I care about is making an impact and what I care about is having something valuable to share with somebody else because I have. Learned so much from other things that other people have shared. That's all I wanted to do so when I get these messages of gratitude it genuinely. Like I'm shook. You know I didn't I didn't? I didn't like would have that kind of impact and to know that it is doing that. It's somebody else's life and making somebody feel less alone and like they're not crazy and that you know that their wounds in their traumas are not. that. They're not Something to isolate themselves with that. It's usually means the entire universe than some to me. It really motivates me to share more and not give up on this thing you know not used all these issues factors as measuring sticks of whether something is successful or not. Genuinely makes me feel like. I have succeeded. I've done something really valuable and worthwhile, so thank you, thank you to everybody who took the time to listen and thank you to those who took time and energy and effort and vulnerability to share their story with me. It's really touching I truly appreciate it. And now we're going to talk about K. Dramas. I think it's so funny that I've just done this energetic shift from like a huge one eighty going from inner child trauma, which is very real. I hope that you tune in for that when you're ready. To Talk About K dramas because. I'm just laughing. Guys You'll hear about in this episode it's it's quite a lengthy one, but I'm all about crash landing on you. It is a reintroduction for me after fifteen years of not watching any K dramas of having a lot of prejudices and issues with my identity, my culture that I'll share with. My guest and yeah I just want to dive right into it. This week's guest is my friend Joe. GonNa one who is a longtime first of all listener. He's a patriotic supporter. He's a dear friend of mine in the industry in La, and he's just a bright soul like he and I. Talk about so many different things, different movies and The industry itself, and about our personal lives and as we've grown in our friendship I've just come to value his voice because he's so insightful. Right Not right you'll, you'll get to hear. So a little bit about Joe, he is I first assistant camera and a camera operator, so he's the guy carrying all the big year in handling camera equipment on set and his journey as as a camera operator has just been really fascinating for me to learn terms of the life as production crew, and the person kind of behind the scenes watching making everything happen. And he's done incredible work over the years. He's worked on projects with OPRAH WITH BTS future dial Lauren Conrad Dumbfounded Disney Jaguar Gucci like Victoria Secret Heat. All from very humble beginnings like Joe is such a wonderful person.
"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Because. You saw yourself being stuck where Joanna's. And neglected them. And they've been hurt by it so important that you know it's not selfish to say what you just said to say I have to take care of me because you're here and you're living, and you have to take care of you. You have to take care of you, and that is not a betrayal of your father's memories, not betrayal of those that we've lost. Cindy what is you want to say because I know you're shocked as me to hear that. Had No idea. Clare, we can get on. You know very my sister letter live in our heart. We can get on with our lives, you know. I'm glad to have my mom bat. Well? Thank you for being here. Thank you, thank you again. Thank you Dr Phil. She's been. She's been holding on to it for ten years and was ready to let go was ready to go. And what is the number? One thing you can say to somebody who is I? I love what you said to her. I think for me. That's the number one thing about living the. The life, celebrating the life, instead of living, continuing because I saw that was a breakthrough for you. What do you want to say? We just don't get to make those choices. And sometimes we second guess, but you can't second. Guess you have to deal with what you have, and that's your life now. There's not a thing in the world. I could do here for Lord. Except give her her mother's peace. And that's what you have to do is take care of you. Because you're here now. That is not selfish to take care of you. Thanks, everybody see you next time with Dr Phil Tell it like it is Phil thank you. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey show the podcast. If you haven't yet go to apple podcasts and subscribe rate and review this podcast, join me next week for another Oprah show the podcast. I, thank you for listening..
"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Ten years ago Cindy lost her sister, Laurie but she says she also lost her mother to. Over the years I've done many shows with parents of murdered children and parents who've lost their children, and never knew what happened to their children, no bodies, no person ever was claimed or or discovered and you Joanne expressed what all of those parents have at some point or another express to me over the years is they want everyone to know that? Their children had a life, and that the life was important and not the death. Because what happens when you have a child who's murdered, this way is everybody focuses on the death. Everybody focuses on who did it or who didn't do it, and who committed the crime and the life is lost so. You have an opportunity to say something today about the kind of person your daughter was. Her life, not her death, but her life. She was very happy person. She enjoyed everything she did. She liked everybody she met. She was beautiful. She made me pray out. I really couldn't believe that I had a child like this. I've been buried like with the two children I have. And they make me so proud as mother. She didn't deserve this. She deserved a lot more. A lot more. So now you're stuck ten years. You have not been able to move on, and you have watched into your mother. Not Be able to move on. What do you want to say? Well, I just want to tell her that I need you I, need you? There is a parent a friend. When we lost Laurie you daughter Alice Desisto. And it was really hard. To find someone to understand pain was filling because Obviously, you took be there at that time for me. With her case there were details that you and dad with health for me and I feel like there are people out there. Were you know more about the case than I do? and. Course when I was a newlywed, we were having problems and. I didn't feel like a come. Come to you and share that with you. I had to go in front of you. Know Groups, fashion and. Lay everything out there and. Try to get some feedback on it so I could get on with my life and deal with it and I just from other back, I do. They're look. I need you back to back and I need to back as my parents and that's my friend. I'm so sorry. For. To to be able to share your pain and your feelings with her and your joys, and your things to have your mother back as a partner again, yes, it would be wonderful It'd be a new beginning. We could get, and we can move forward. You know we could deal with new pains. New Joyce, you know and. I'm. No and We caught a lot of rest in Peace Now. I really do. AM So sorry are really ender the sorry. Let me ask you both something. And I'll address this to you because Cindy I think you've moved on. I, think you feel like you have some closure. You haven't forgotten your sister, have you? Ever any less. Every day. You think about every day, but you're not obsessed with it. And you feel that you are. Okay. I ask you if you could accept some things and another thing I want to know if you can accept. And this is so hard people to think about. But can you accept the fact? That the length and depth of your grieving. Does not reflect the length and depth of your life. You can love somebody this much. And if you if you if you agree for a year, that doesn't mean that you only loved them that much. It's not something that you. Oh, it's not something that you give how long you grieve. Is. Not a reflection of how much you loved the person that you lost. That sounds foreign to you, doesn't it? because. You walk around, you say. How can I be laughing today? And my daughter is dead, and I'm laughing at Disneyworld or I'm laughing at a TV show and my daughter is dead. How can I do that? You ask those questions yourself, don't you? But I'm asking you now. Can you at least entertain the fact that how long you grieve is not a reflection of how deeply you loved your daughter. I believe I. Do can you accept that if you get closure on this? If you say I'm not going to be obsessed with this anymore that you are not betraying your daughter. Yes! I think I can. That's a hard one, isn't it? But I'm asking you. Can you do that? Yes, sir, I think I can if she could talk to you right now. Do, you think she would say mother. I want you to hurt every day for the rest of your life to prove that you left me. No, you think that's what she would say to invade very angry, it may. So. It wouldn't be a betrayal. Maybe the betrayal is focusing on the day of her. Dan Rather than celebrating the event of her life, she lived for eighteen vibrant and wonderful years. and. You focus on the day that she died. I never thought of it that way. I really never thought of it that way. Well maybe it's time to say. I'm GONNA do that. Maybe it's time to say I'm going to focus on her life and celebrate what I had rather than what? lost. You suppose that's a possibility. That would be nice. It'd be very nice. But it means you have to let her go. You have to give her to God and say I'm Gonna I'm this is your job? Man I'll never forget. I'll never stop loving. You'll never stopped being part of my life. But. It's time that I move von. With your sister and with my life. Take you with me and my heart. But. I'm not going to be obsessed with this anymore. Like to work towards that really would. Like to be able to do that? I could see that. That was a light bulb moment for you. When that was because you who said earlier in the show today you can't even bear to smile. You smiled when Phil said that where the order and you're smiling now. The idea. Of celebrating her life living in holding onto the moment of her death. Really, never thought about it I just never thought about it that way never. Okay? Were you take one more step with me. I mean one more, really big big step. Because what I want you to do right now is I. Want you to make a decision? That says I've got to get up tomorrow. and not be consumed with what I'm doing I've gotta get up tomorrow and have different life I've got to get up and not spend all of my waking hours thinking about my daughter thinking about my loss. And I've been here before and I'm telling you to do that. You have to willing to give it up now. You have to be willing. To say in your heart to, Laurie. I've gotTA. Let you go. I've got to say goodbye I've got to let you go. Because you, you said yourself be really mad at me. She must be really mad at me because we can hold people to an earthly bond, that way can't wait. I believe so. Really Day. Turn your chair and face me. Real close. I want to ask you. Is it time to say by the Laurie. Yes
"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"You understand what I mean. That's true what we've started to do is blame people that have loved enough. You've been kind enough patient today. Who was dying and she said my imagery failed. I didn't get able to think of the sharks that I said you did. Well people die appreciate life. Life is random. You don't deserve this dog gonnit. We'd do our best after all. That's what super joy is super toys. Doing you're making a choice to live. Joyful to what you're saying super joy there are some people who take that illness and get to be better people as a result of that illness and therefore that illness served a great purpose in their life because it made them love themselves and love. Everybody else you know when they made a choice to use it. There's a woman on the concentration camp if they're not gonNA hold me well. It's not just that they're using that illness you'd find those same people. Whatever happens to them they figure out how to put it to work for them and for those who are around them rather than feel like something happened to them because of it. Don't you think that I don't know if all if you believe in God but that the grace of God or the love of God is constant? We agree with that the love of God us concert so if the love of God is constant. Doesn't that mean that God is not here to destroy to punish the calls? You to struggle. Do you agree with that? I agree with that. I agree with that. I remember the statement from the one I mentioned in the concentration camp she said. This ain't God's camp right. God didn't do this but I have a control over this. I can use God's love to survive the system all right so does that mean that people then block themselves from the grace or the love. Yes I think so is there a perception of God's love that makes the difference here you know when you were talking about loving each other? You're talking about family and people close to you and your patience and you know there's a camaraderie there. But how do you keep loving and sharing and trying to be fair with people when people use that and basically? I see people you know the older I get. I think people are reading I do. That's what the argument was. Maybe we all three can come in some really behave in very inappropriate means angry destructive ways. I don't want to give this idea that we're looking at the world through rose colored glasses and distorting that that's not what the joy response is. The joint responses is biochemical for reflects happens on the body. When you don't allow that negative to affect you because you make a choice. This person cut me out and traffic. You can follow them for four miles chase them yell at them scream at them make vulgar gestures. Who you're hurting is you. That doesn't bother them. They do this all the time. They have other problems. I know what she's saying. What she's saying you give yourself to somebody that you share yourself. You have to be and then they take advantage of you because those people mistake your kindness for weakness and they think you're stupid but that's who you are when I give of myself when I give it to someone. I don't give expecting them to respond the way I want them to. That is not what life is about giving loving I speak of is extending yourself unconditionally. For the benefit of another human being who ever that human being is wherever however they wish to to use yourself doesn't matter what they do absolute. I'm giving because it makes me feel good to give well in addition to that delimit new. Stick something in here. There's an assumption that giving is always one on one in fact the giving needs to be to the entire outfit. We are always putting back in the pot. That's sometimes what is given to us goes back in the pot to someone who's not gonNA give directly back to us but there's a sense of contributing to the well being of the group appointed hasn't been brought up here too is when that happens. Sometimes if I may share this with you if you give into those people they're not you need to clean house. There are times in your life when the best things I've done is clean house and you eliminate the people in your life who are not moving in the same direction and are not feeding you what you need. I mean that's one of the greatest gifts hard enough to fix that up. I see a lot of people abort very quickly some people give up too soon. You WanNA clean house until it's really really. I mean but you clean clean after you realize that these people are bringing me down and I've done everything I can. I've given of myself but this person isn't going to help my life. You see what I'm saying. What I'm concerned about is a researcher. Purely though Oprah is that understand something I think. The three of us are trying to say by acting lovingly. This is not just some kind of romantic hogwash. And it's not just positive thinking and looking at communicating. Or I love you. You're my one and only deepest ocean. It's acts that show caring for the system as you said it's giving back to the system however what does that mean giving what. I do positively. It may not be aimed at that one man that day but it goes into the pot. We are all connected. We're all related. One person in this audience today is touched by this. That matters a great deal. It doesn't matter. One woman may give me a dirty look and then. I'm going to clean house. I'll never sit in front of you again. You understand the number one thing you can do for your own. Immune system is to do something altruistic to help you. Don't believe me after the Oprah show is over go out traffic fine traffic and wave people and give them a break. You'll feel really good now. If you're going to tell me didn't even thank me the fool..
"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Half months of his life. Right up to the day died. Were you scared at first because when you know someone's dying there's always that moment of even like when I was walking into Elizabeth Towels. But she's pretty darn feisty. Still there's the expectation of what am I going to say? And how am I going to say it and that whole kind of death shroud? Yeah Yeah I was but more. He had this great attitude about dying. He looked at it as a great opportunity to teach about the one subject that nobody really knows anything about until they get there so he was already in that mode of wanting to share the whole dying experience. And what it meant as to how you should live. So he made me feel like a student. The minute I sat back down again he started lecturing me. And you should know this and that and you talked about the world at first and then you talked about. I mean you. Divide the chapters into the various Tuesday. When I decided that we would do. This book together broke each Tuesday down to sort of one subject that Lexus people in life marriage and family are getting older. How much you should work. Now is a big one for me and Greed forgiveness forgiving people. And each week. We would just sort of talk because you know people always say how would I live my life? I knew I had six months left to live. Would I change? Well here was a guy who was exactly that situation at the time you were. Kinda pretty obsessed with your working life. I worked about seventeen eighteen hours a day and I think I thought that achievement maybe the more cheese the less likely I would be to die. Do so much too busy today or too important to die and you got things to do. Yeah I can't. I have a plan appointments tomorrow well more. He taught me that. You know all the all the hours of work that you do are not gonna come back to you when you really need them. The most all the buildings you want to name after yourself or the stock portfolios you WanNa build not GonNa Comfort you. The way that his friends his old students as family comforted him. So what you should be spending your time on is making those relationships with people and establishing yourself in their lives and I had a lot to learn from him still do more gift to Mitch into. All of us was his ability to step back and look at dying as a chance to teach. He was one of the great teachers before he died. He gave an interview to a public television station. He said the culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves and you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn't work. Don't buy it exactly. He never followed the norm. Even when it came to funerals and dying. He went to a funeral when he was sick. And it came back. They said this is a shame. This guy never got to hear all these nice things that people said I wanNA have my now. And that's what he did. He organize the funeral where he invited his closest friends and family to come and they all stood up and said what he had meant to them but at the end deceased rose and thanked the people backing him a much. Better Way to do it than to to wait till we're gone or he says it's natural to die the fact that we make such a big hullabaloo over it is all because we don't see ourselves as a part of nature conversation. He had a great story about. He loved to tell stories and he said there's this heat wave in the she wave out in the ocean. He waves flopping around having a great time and all of a sudden he sees the shore. Realizes it's GonNa hit the shore that's going to be. The end starts to panic. Wave comes along and says what's the matter he wipes says US terrible. We got a couple more flips. And we're OUTTA here. We never exist. It's terrible and she says you don't understand you're not a wave your part of the ocean. And that's the way that he sort of looked as life and death is sort of being part of this whole big continuous. He says. Here's the payoff. Here's how we're different. I love that story from these wonderful plants and animals as long as we can love each other and remember the feeling of love we had. We can die without ever really going away. Yeah all the love you created is still there all the memories are still there you live on in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured while you were here death into life not a relationship you know most shell love that. Did a little hairs rise on your head just now it. Just God goosebumps the most. Poignant thing that I remember more telling me was just a couple of weeks. Before he died he asked me to come visit him at his grave and he said I wanted to come come on Tuesdays. You're already coming on Tuesdays role at around and come sit and talk to me. Tell me about your problems. I said you want me to tell you about my problems sitting at your grave. He said Yeah I said well you know it's not going to be the same. You can't talk back and he laughed and he said well tell you what. After I'm dead you talk. I'll listen and he wasn't just being cute. I think what he meant by that was what you said in there that if you spend your life here investing in People Making Memories Having good time with them and sharing yourself then you never really do go away. I mean you're not physically here but you know you're here you're up here and I can have conversations with Morrie even now before I came on this show. I said well. What do you think of this? Now's Oprah program you know and it's because we spend that quality time together but if you spend your time working and he's trying to make you don't make those memories you don't live on inside somebody after you're gone that's why. I love this little book so might And people always tell me after Tuesday's with Morrie they say es reminds me of my old English teacher such as art teacher and then the next line is always. I wonder what happened to him and I say go back and find him because teachers affect eternity. They touch you. They touch me. I'm talking to you. We're talking all these people. They are so valuable and so on rewarded in the society. Change your relationship with your brother did it. Not My brother is sick also like more. He has cancer only unlike Maury. He didn't invite everybody to spend time with them. He kind of straight armed all of us. He lives overseas very frustrating. Because I love him and I want to spend time with them and this experience with more here was more invited me in every Tuesday and I can't see my brother. Maury said you have to understand that everybody has different ways of dealing with problems like this if you really love them you make room for the way that they wanNA deal with it. Well and that's how you show affection. This has helped a lot my brother I dedicated the book to my brother and he read it and he start crying halfway through it and then he said I'll read the rest of it when I got home so It's helped a lot more would've loved meeting you and talking to you. I read the book. You only saw one oprah show. Let's one more than one more than he watched everybody else. Tom and his children ZAC and Kate. Tom Lost his beloved wife. Kathleen from lung cancer before she died. Kathleen tried to pack a lifetime experiences into one short year. Tom Says she died peacefully. After passing along some valuable lesson she wanted to have a good debt. Correct immediately after the unconceivable news diagnosis. We went into action. In the way in which we coped with all other traumas before that which was optimism and hope and focus on overcoming somewhat insurmountable odds. And that's the sort of energy we brought to dealing with initially but it turns out that that energy sort of stiff arms as you said stiff arms. What is really going on? Which is the fears of the unimaginable? And once we understood that that's really what we needed to embrace. We got help professional help support at the cancer wellness center. Well we came to understand. Is that instead of coping with the fears? We had to wade into them. We had to face them and once we were able to learn how to do that we became free of them had been having conversations that were indescribable But we had them. The four of us The kids and Kathleen. I talked about funerals. Well you guys told in the beginning. How soon were you told that your mom had lung cancer? Yeah the day the day. Yeah they were in on it from the very beginning and because we were able to open it up to the unimaginable fears. They didn't drive us any longer. They didn't control us and we became free of fear and allowed us to be open to living in the moment. That was our secret to living in. The moment is facing our fears and getting rid of them and once we did. It became his fantastic cycle because it opened us up to pleasure and joy and love in ways that the four of us had never known and it radiated among our family. Our Friends. Our community feeling really. So could you have letters that your mom role? Yeah I received this about. I don't know week after my mom died and this is just a little part of it. Thirteen year old. Boys don't need their moms too much but they definitely need them from time to time. I so desperately desperately wish I could be there for you in body not just in spirit. Fortunately for me I won't have to bear. The indignity of ever losing tickle torture to you which no doubt would have happened in the near future more seriously though with when I while I think about your life without me while it brings me said Nece it also brings me pride you have developed such tremendous qualities in your brief life on earth. That I- enormous. I'm enormously gratified I imagine you navigating your way even without me Kate your say in your heart and hold me there in a way that gives you comfort help or support if you do. I will never ever leave you. I suspect I may even be able to help you during difficult times. If you just happened to me I will. I will be inside. You leaving you loving you and caring about you every single minute of every single day for as long as you live. That's about it because I know what a tremendous grow you are. I'm confident in the kind of wonderful woman. You will become with this knowledge. I've grown to actually be able to face death with the centerpiece. You've helped me get there because I know y'all be members of that time we went to Palm Springs for a family vacation and she was in bed but I came home after swimming and she said can you give me a bowl of cheerios and Asher. So I remember that. A Bola cheerios everything. She got up at two o'clock in the morning. One downstairs eight and about a week before she died before she went into the hospital. I was in their room and sleeping and she said mom we wake me up. If you go downstairs eatable cereal. She said yes. So two o'clock in the morning we both went down and that is really chilling. Cherry amazing amazing. I want to thank everybody especially we wanNA think kate and Zach for sharing. Those letters were with us. I think we're all better people for having heard thank you Tom. Thank you. Bye rybody bye. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the PODCAST. If you haven't yet go to apple podcast subscribe rate and review this. 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"No maybe you are Madonna. And or whatever people perceived to be people perceive your actions or whatever your boundary setting to be to be called a Prima Donna. But that's okay with us and that is okay. That's exactly right. This is my sister and I take time. You know what I think you need to hear. What Oprah saying the truth is this that for a lot of women don't set boundaries in their lives when they start setting boundaries they will appear to be a diva or Prima Donna to the women in their lives or to the people in their lives. And I say celebrate your Premadonna Hood really more would you start to set boundaries for yourself people then go to well. Who does she think she is? Which is the same thing as she's a Prima Donna. Or she thinks she's so much and she just Miss Diva and the truth of the matter is you've got to know who you are to be able to stand inside yourself to. Yeah this is who I am. I'll say oh I'll pray about it or I'll talk about on the go out. Pray about people will laugh. You pray about it. Let's in an people will and I'll stand for that people will think that's funny or in that sometimes bother me and maybe and and so they will think it's funny and so that's about it also pay attention. Pay attention to the internal boundary conversation because part of what you're talking about is the way we internalize what other people say about US afterwards. And there's something you need to do in order to protect your emotional wellbeing so that you're not so affected by people saying oh well who does she think she is She's a Prima Donna. Because you will be perceived as a Prima Donna. And I'd I'd say take that as a sign that you probably doing the right thing. We'll see that may not be the word for you. I literally do pray about things so that it's like a running joke in this company that whenever other managers would come to me they would. They would leave a little note. I know you're gonNA pray about it. Get back to me after you've prayed about it so that's just because it's the nature of my personality there. That may not be the right word for you. You might want to sleep on it but I do desperate okay. This is no risk. Thank you so much. She says taking things personally is keeping her from living the life she wants and she's desperate to stop for as long as I can remember. I've taken things personally. Since I was a little girl. I can remember others talking about me and my feeling bad about that. I often get my feelings hurt and feel criticized by other people but they would never know that because I don't ever confront them. How dwell on something for hours or for days taking things personally has caused me to lose weight caused my hair fallout. I've lost many nights of sleep over comments that people have made to me and I run them over and over in my head trying to figure out why they said what they said. It makes me feel very sad. Because there's a part of me that wants to let it go but I can't once I had to do a report from my boss. I gave it to him and handed it back to me with lots of corrections and it made me feel totally inadequate. I thought about it for days. I saw this code at a vintage store. I thought to myself I have to have that coat while award to a party and a very good friend of mine solid cope and she said to me. I cannot believe you wore a coat and I didn't say anything to her at the time but it really really hurt my feelings. I took her comment. Not is an attack on the code but it is an attack on me and my choices. If there's a friend that I usually talk to an I call them repeatedly and they know. Call me back. I think there's a problem I haven't heard back from you. I hope I haven't offended you in any way if I'm trying on clothes at a store with a friend and they comment on the way. The CLOTHES FIT my body. I take it as a personal attack. This pants are perfect. Because you don't have any hits this is this is not on the inside. I was thinking it's not that she doesn't like the outfit. She has an issue with the way. I'm shaped it makes me very sad to spend so much of my time. My life worrying about situations. I just have absolutely no control over. I WANNA learn that to take things so personally and to honestly look at them for what they are. Nurses example here is what happens when the outside world begins to Mesh with our inside world. You feel vulnerable in the more vulnerable. You feel the more affected you are by everything that happens around you that's why you obsess about the friend who hasn't called back what we need to set an internal boundary in an internal boundary is like a shield that protects your vulnerable emotional wellbeing and when you said that internal boundary if you imagine that shield and this takes practice and it takes time what happens when someone makes a comment like that code is ugly it stops at the shield and then you get to decide hold on a second. How much of this is true? How much of it is about the other person? And what do I need to do if anything now the fact that numerous other person? Because that's why I love the four agreements so much that that that second agreement don't take anything personally because everything is about the other person's opinion if I say I like your blouse your Orange Blouse issues just because I do like the color orange I like it and and that's my personal opinion of that. I think that the real question is is something that you can learn. From someone's comment ugly cope may not be a good example. But if someone were to say to you you're really arrogance you might. This is an opportunity for you to stop as long as it stops for you to say. Wait a second. Let me I M I. Is there any part of that? That's true that I could learn from and then from there never see you said the thing about the ugly coat you said. It really really hurt me. That was an indication that you probably needed to say something and you probably still do. Of course you've already said now you know we could simply say to your friend. I really love you and you know the comments you made about. The coat really hurt my feelings and I just need you to know that too. Many women will internalize that stuff and I worry about what it does to our bodies already said you lose weight you lose your hair when someone makes a common in. It hurts you or it offends you when you swallow it and you don't say anything it's gotTa go someplace. That doesn't just go out your need immediately at hangs around for a while and we need to be concerned about what's going on inside of us when we hold onto that stuff we have to bring up out whether it's to the person or someone safe sitting chuckling. Because when I saw that I remember I was with my friend Gayle once we were trying on. This dress had a bow in the back. And I say you should not put that on because that makes your butt look big and she says my butt is big. She goes to meet somebody she goes so I'll just back into the room. I WANNA thank show. Richardson her book is called Life. Makeovers thanks to Gaylon Orissa for sharing your stories. Thank you. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. Join me next week. 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"After several days of bloodshed. The freedom writers were stranded in Alabama. No bus drivers were willing to take them any further and they were surrounded by hostile racist mob. Freedom Rides were over southern White supremacists thought they had one but they did not know about an utterly fearless. Young woman named Diane Nash. A softspoken force to be reckoned with. She was Diane. Nash was a leader of the Nashville student movement. In nineteen sixty one. She turned twenty three on the very day. The freedom rides were cancelled but Diane was not willing to give up. And so that same day. She agreed to coordinate. A second wave of freedom ride keeping the movement alive in the middle of final exams. Twenty-one students from various Nashville colleges left school to join the fight for equality when US attorney. General Robert Kennedy heard that more students were continuing the freedom rides. He called his assistant John. Seigenthaler welcome Diane. Nash and John Seigenthaler Bravo Bravo. George just had enough. Yes you had had enough. Segregation was so humiliating. If you went downtown in Nashville. During the lunch hour blacks would be sitting on the curb eating their lunch that they had brought from home or dropped from a restaurant on a takeout basis. And it was. It was humiliating and I hated it. The students that Diane Organiz Miss Nash organized eventually made it to Montgomery Alabama. Were clansman had been waiting for them all night. A full scale riot then broke out. John Seigenthaler was there. John You were there representing the attorney. General Robert Journal in the United States. Didn't want this to happen. Not Want it. I mean the last thing administration needed wasn't explosion conflagration of violence. And so you end up in the middle of the riot. I wound up in the middle of Violent Ryan. I was hitting Ed. I'd never been knocked unconscious before. And then they not me down and kicked me on to the car and I woke up thirty minutes later. Policemen finding pick me up. It's almost impossible to imagine that we were that sort of southern society at the time that that fifty years ago. Oh and and when you when you think about that you wonder where it came from. Where the courage of these children came from. Yes every time. I complied with the Segregation Stein. When used a back door or something I felt like I'm agree that I am inferior to inferior to use The ordinary facility that the general public used and it was a real problem for me. I'm glad it was a problem. I'm glad it was a problem. You did something about it. Thank you MS nationalist. Battle on Day twenty one. The National Guard escorted the freedom riders out of Alabama. But there were no feelings of relief as they crossed the border into Mississippi Mississippi was the state they feared the most when the freedom riders walked into the white only waiting room in the Jackson Mississippi bus terminal they were immediately arrested and eventually sent to Parchman penitentiary. Those arrests inspired hundreds more to become freedom. Riders they came by bus plane train from every corner of the United States to Mississippi men and women of every age every race and religion determined to fill parchman prison an overthrow segregation ernest. Rip Patent Junior Carol. Ruth Silver and congressman. John Lewis were among the three hundred freedom. Riders who spent the summer of nineteen sixty one in parchment prison congressman. Lewis when you arrived in Mississippi and knowing as I said earlier I grew up knowing. It's one of the most racist states. Did you know you're in trouble? I grew up in Alabama thought Alabama was beheaded but I had never been in Mississippi before when I saw that sign that said welcome to Mississippi. The might know your state heart start beating a little faster seem the air warmer. I hear that they tried to make your prison sitting especially miserable rip. Yes it did We we did a lot of singing and they didn't like to sing and every time that they would threaten to do something. We would seem for example. We're GONNA take your mattress you can take. How Mattress Oh yes. You can take our mattress or yes. You can take out mattress. You can take mattress. You can take out mattress. Oh yes now that man sleeping on steel but we were willing to give up those mattresses. So were you. Also you were also in parchment prison right. There were twenty three girls say girls. 'cause we were pretty young in one side were you. At the time I was twenty one. Twenty One and those twenty three girls were in a cell in Heinz County. That was built for four. So there were four bunks and the rest of US slept on the floor and we were told they're going to take you to parchment and we were really afraid at that point because the the reputation of Parchman is that it's a place that a lot of people get sent and don't come back. I'm back from some back. Wow on September twenty second nineteen sixty one. The Interstate Commerce Commission issued an order taking down all of the Jim Crow signs from all of the bus and rail stations. In the south the freedom writers had one fifty years after the original movement. Forty college students are now retracing the route of the freedom rides from Washington DC to New Orleans they are riding alongside some of the original freedom. Writers I'm getting on the best because I believe that knowledge is power on the bus because the movement is not finish. I'm really interested in. Is what inspires ordinary people to stand up for justice and how young people can get involved in sustaining a movement around the world. That's what's Great. Congratulations to William to to Michael Tanya and Caitlyn who was selected out of one thousand students to join the rides. Thank you for being here. I wanted to do this show today. I think it's so important for all Americans to know who we are where we came from how we came to be you. You have to know who you are and what your history is Ray. Arsenault is the first professional historian to write a comprehensive book on just this movement it's called Freedom Writers and beautifully written historical account. You're gifted storyteller. Because this is all about every story each individual's story here. Why did you want to tell this and these stories? Well as we've seen today this is a story that had to be told When I began work on the book about thirteen years ago I wasn't sure that anybody could do full justice to the to the freedom writers story but I had to try and the just the dramatic power of what they accomplished back in. Nineteen sixty one. Everybody who dared to get on those buses is a hero and a heroine. That's really the story of the Freedom Rides to me. They had the courage inside themselves. It was. They found something larger than themselves and they signed on for life. I mean they weren't. They weren't going to pass their responsibility off to to anyone else. It's always the young people thank you. I would like to give special acknowledgment to five of the visionaries who helped inspire and plan the freedom rides. George Houser Gordon. Carry Tom. Gaither and Reverend James Lawson and C T Vivian. Also reverend thread shuttles were critical role in protecting the freedom riders. It has really been an honor for me and I know for those of you who were part of this audience and those of you at home to celebrate all of you on behalf of all of America. May I say you make us proud to call ourselves? Americans they may also say we stand in reverence for what you have done and we can ask ourselves these questions as we look at the courage that you will showed at such a young age. What's wrong with the world? And what can we do to change it? Thank you thank you for that. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the PODCAST. If you haven't yet go to apple podcast subscribe rate and review this. Podcast join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..
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"Every single person ever will meet shares that common desire. They WANNA know. Do you see me. Do you hear me. That's what I say mean anything to you. Twenty Five seasons four thousand five hundred sixty one episodes. I believe the Oprah Winfrey show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world. A rolling never thought of it that way. The AHA moments the breakthroughs. The connections the occasional ugly cry so terribly missing every single minute the L. O. Ell's the moments that mattered eye-opening light lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the ball. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me. Do you hear me. That's what I say mean anything to you. You're listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast for many of you watching. I know that this may be the first time you're even hearing about the freedom rides but let me tell you if it were not for these American heroes. This country would be a very different place right now and the lies of millions of you would be dramatically different. I know my life would be were it not for them. We begin with a look back at what life was like back in nineteen sixty one when the freedom writers movement was born in Nineteen Sixty one. John F. Kennedy was sworn in as America's thirty fifth president at just forty three. He was the youngest president elected to office. The camelot era was for many. A time of hope and optimism. Gas was just thirty one cents a gallon at many family saw the USA in their Chevrolet that same year the United States put our first man into space popular. Tv shows like leave it to beaver. And the Andy Griffith show depicted an idyllic all American life but those images were far from the reality for many African Americans especially the deep South. Jim Crow laws forced black people to use separate. Water fountains separate public restrooms and waiting rooms even on buses and trains. We had to sit in the back in Nineteen forty-six and again in nineteen sixty the. Us Supreme Court outlawed these racist practices but many white southerners continue to follow their own. Set of rules during those hate-filled terrifying times in the south and other parts of the country a fearless and determined group of Americans men and women black and white many of them still in college at the time. Join together to fight against racial injustice in our country it was dangerous and daring some even considered it a suicide mission. Thirteen courageous freedom. Riders would risk their lives to board buses in Washington. Dc and head south into the belly of the segregation beast. The plan was to buy tickets on interstate buses for a two week journey. That would end in New Orleans along the way the writers with Test Federal Laws that prohibited segregation by riding in the front of buses and sitting in waiting rooms designated whites only and colored. The movement was organized by core the Congress of racial equality core trained all the freedom riders to be nonviolent how to protest without ever striking back. The freedom writers hope this nonviolent movement would force the federal government to step up and protect civil rights. It was that optimism that would lead to one of the most significant moments in American history. On the fiftieth anniversary of the freedom rides. We honor the four hundred and thirty six brave and determined people who risked their lives to change our nation as an African American woman born in Mississippi Nineteen fifty four and raised in the south deep debt of gratitude to the freedom writers. As do we all ladies and gentlemen I stand among heroes. Join me in welcoming one hundred and seventy eight survivors of the nineteen sixty one freedom rides..
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"Taught me early that love hurts and therefore as long as my wife continue to cook clean beat me. I'm GonNa always be there because sharing is caring and love hurts. I learned early and I think that's a real good lesson but I don't think it only hurts and I don't believe that beating children is an act of love. I don't believe that well of course it feels good sometime to John. Yeah I mean I want to say well look if it hurts you more than me. Let me do it to you and I sure don't want you to hurt here but I think that the point is good. That look if love was easy. We'd all have it. It's not easy and that's another thing that we've got to learn that it's GonNa time it's going to take attention it's GonNa take effort is GonNa take commitment. It's going to be a decision much. More than a feeling in love is a feeling love is a decision and I think. That's a real important distinction. Now if you grow up in a family and you can never have your own will then. How can you make a decision? Because you've never been allowed to make a decision so when you're in your fault self you're just a robot acting out a roll of fault cell. So in love is feeling love itself as a decision absolutely at least that's a major distinction as I said earlier. You speak a lot about soulful love. How do we begin to find that? Well I call soul. Whatever is most human? Ns like soul music soul food. Soulful love is when we're being the most human being human means imperfect limited not having unrealistic expectations. The wounded child wants the unconditional love of mother. But I can't expect that of my wife or my spouse or the person I'm in a relationship with adults have conditional love that is we contract. I love you you love me. The child expects unconditional love so when people get married they start making demands. You never can't you ever and I always and you never and you hear children just screaming at each other to very deprived. Children screaming for the developmental needs that they didn't get. That's what's so interesting about marriage if you don't understand how marriage works out really works because you pick as you say in your book as a number of people have written about this also that you pick the person who has the traits of your parents and most of the negative traits of your parents. So it's like two four year olds coming together. I draw little pictures a big people and little people and there's a contract between the big people I will love you forever and the kids are going. Oh Boy oh boy. You're my father. You're going to be the father I never had. You're going to be the mother I never had. It's an unrealistic expectation. So what's going on in your marriage? Well we're separated in trying darndest to work it out. We were married. We've been married for two and a half years when we were married. We brought our childhoods into our marriage not knowing what they were and it exploded interface. Someone told me I'd marry someone just like my dad and I did. I did most people do though. That's the mystification that were walking around in a kind of a trance. Forgive you know first thing to do is forgive yourselves? You did the best you could. Second thing is you're responsible for your wound. And he's responsible for his wound if you try to make him take care of your wound and he tries to make you take care of his wound it work. Then you're back in the source relationships for example I have engulfing issues with women because my mother more or less engulfed me. So what happens when I start getting too close? I want out of there okay but I always find women who have abandonment issues. You get this so the second. I'm getting out of there. They're going crazy over here now. What I've learned and what I'm creating in a relationship is that I'd take responsibility for my wound right. I'll say look. I'm in my wound right now. Are She might say. I'M IN MY WOUND. And then we negotiate. But I don't try to take care of her wound or else. I'm back in my source relationship Sam back trying to make my mom happy and that so interesting. Don't you think this interesting? Because that's what people marry for a married Mary. Because you want that person to take care of your rulings. And the person never can take care of your. Whoa now. They can't do it because you would have to be a child again and they would have to be your parent absolutely. Does it ever work? Well it works if two people you know like I say we have to grow up. We have to embrace our loneliness. I am responsible for my wound. I can't blame that on my mother or anybody else. I need to fix it. I need to grow up. That's you know that's the issue. When I'm willing to do that I can say look. I'm this is about me and my history. It's not about you. I'm feeling overwhelmed right now. I need a day by myself and two people can contract that and work it out. But isn't the problem in a lot of marriages that the person thinks the other person is causing their problem that they don't relate the problem that's going on in the marriage to whatever happened with the wound. Think the spouse is the one who's creating the problem for them absolutely. I think if you're never getting your own needs met if you're angry all the time are you're depressed all the time that somehow love causes both of you to grow. And if you're not growing you're not expanding then call it something else but I wouldn't call it love. The other piece of it is is that I've been very critical of people in my relationship because what I learned in my shame was all or nothing I tried to be more than human perfect judgmental critical are less than human. Just be a SLOB. I just go back and forth between the two. Somehow the love is based on healthy. Shame what's healthy. Shame I make mistakes. I'm limited. I'm not God that I'm human and the person I'm with her I'm GonNa find the pantyhose all wadded up in the corner. It is going to be the you know the mother Theresa and I've gotTa get it that to be. Human is to be fallible to make mistakes and that. I really accept that in my partner. I accept their idiosyncrasies and their bills. Okay except my so as you were saying that about marriages and how you have to fix your own wounds. The question is. Are you both willing to do that? I can speak for myself. I've I'm in a program right now. We're kind of redefining. What I am myself learning about all the things that happened in the past with my my parents and I think only by route redefining what I am. Will we have a chance to work together? Redefining and then taking responsibility for yourself. Exactly I really support you in. That really sounds good. Both of you. Yes you wanted to say what I've been doing. A lot of work on the inner child work and learning to love my inner child. And what I'm having a problem with is the fact that when I was young I learned that the only person I could trust was myself I had to find my own survival skills to get through life. How do I get rid of those and that person because that person got me through it? Sure well you see. There's sort of two extremes one is that you just get totally absorbed and enmeshed you become confused with the people you're with the other. Is You isolate? Put a wall around you. Say I don't need anybody I can make it and what you're describing is more that second one so it's once again you're GONNA have to risk coming out. You're going to have to risk letting go of your own self sufficiency and learn to rely on somebody. I mean it's been one of hardest things for me to let somebody take care of me because it's scary to me. You've been the caretaker. Caretaker feels too vulnerable but like in my workshops. Now I have a guy that takes care of me. I just take the brakes and see. I've found that by letting someone else in like that. I'm really making contact that I've never made before and letting the person I love. Take Care of me at times and not always being see. Caretakers are always in control. That's another thing to remember that one of the cover ups for toxic. Shame is to control everybody. Then you can never catch me off guard then I can never be exposed so so real. Soulful love means equality that each one of us are willing to give up control. I had a point in a relationship where my the lady I said you go to therapy with me and I went out just a minute. I'm in my head I did this. I'm not going to your Mickey Mouse. Therapy hit all this. I went and it was the best thing I could have possibly done. Because it was a symbolic act of giving up control. If you will like to just read for the closing here what you say in the beginning of the book you say Love Yourself or creating your trans love yourself for being willing to see how you created it and how you may still be creating it. You can stop doing it now. The danger has passed. You saved a child from dying. You saved yourself love yourself now for the hope that you have. You wouldn't be working on yourself if you didn't have hope thank you much. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe to rate and review. This podcast join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..
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"Fat. We joke about the about the body being a sponge. Because what happens is when you've been dieting. Especially at that position I was had been fasting for four months every single thing I put into my body. The fat cells had expanded waiting to hold onto anything that came in. So it's like you eat the fat cells. Go Woo right exactly back on the outside. She looks very good in the genes. But you don't realize the muscle doesn't have the same quality that she does and the fact sales go here hamburgers coming here. Hamburgers coming told on the toll on hold on hold on hold on woo hamburger and then they get excited with that little fat coming in and then they get wider and why because they have been starved and they are so happy. That food is coming. They hold on for all. It's worth on top of it. The metabolism has slowed so that perpetuates the entire situation. Okay I'm with Bob Greene. He's my trainer that worked out every single day day. Got Everybody has to do it twice a day but I was on I was I had a mission. Didn't miss a beat. Now we're GONNA talk about the new plan which took twice as long. I must say but is what I believe the right way to approach losing weight. When I first began dieting I weigh two hundred twenty two pounds and my fat was up to about forty one percent back then. Two months later I was down to one ninety five but my Fateh dropped thirty five percent in July of this year away to one hundred and seventy seven pounds but my total body fat was down to thirty percent in September. One hundred sixty one pounds but my fat was down to twenty twenty five percent moving down moving down facts going down. That's less than when I when I was down to one hundred and forty five pounds on the liquid diet and in November as of this very morning across the finish line and one hundred and fifty pounds. I took off my my rubber bands. I took off my watch everything to get it to say hundred fifty pounds but the most important thing is is that the body fat is down to about eighty percent only lost a minimum of lean tissue. That again is your furnace. That's what heats up the body and my body Burns better now. It metabolize food better now than it did seven months ago right before you were a sponge. Now you're a lean machine Lee. How did I get that? I want I have walked ran. Climbed bike hike during these last eight months all total. I logged thousands of miles so sometimes we even bring the stairmaster outside. I started out only being able to do four dots. Now all the way up to the top. That's amazing around the world. The asked Bob to rate the exercises forest. We find out once and for all what's going to get the best results. Here's what Bob said. Everybody's goal is the same. Some means are better than others. Losing weight is your number one objective swimming. I rank last. It's fun but you don't heat up the body and therefore you don't lose weight. Stationary bike is only slightly better. The bike supports all of your weight. Surprisingly this is not a good exercise weight loss the indoor rowing machine. I rank eighth on the list. It's only slightly better than the stationary bike. A rank the indoor ski machines seven. This machine is touted as the best aerobic exercise for weight loss. But it's not true. Outdoor Cross Country. Skiing is a far better option. Six on my list is jumping rope once described as the best indoor aerobic exercise. It's good but it's not great. Your heart rate often gets too high and it's difficult to maintain for twenty minutes number five on. My List is outdoor biking. It's fun it's aerobic but you risk injury and it requires good. Weather Stair. Climbing is a great aerobic exercise the only disadvantage is the machine. Supports part of your weight. I rank jogging third. This is a highly aerobic activity. The results quick remember it is hard on your joints and not. Everyone should jog aerobic dance. Second on the list can be an excellent aerobic activity. The benefits are similar to jogging. And there's less stress on the joints but remember. Your workout is only as good as the instructor. With a ten star rating. Walking is the number one exercise for weight loss. It's free it's highly aerobic. You can do it anytime anywhere. Places little stress on your joints. Walking is the best overall aerobic exercise for weight loss. Three quarters of my life has been spent in a state of Diet so I came to believe that the food tasted good. It was loaded with calories. If something was good for you and low in calories it tasted that way but I wanNA emphasize food is not the only issue here but you need to change the way you feel about food and the food that you eat. In order to lose weight you know many times when you are trying to conquer a battle in your life you end up being sabotaged especially those of you who are honey especially. I asked him to take off work today to be here especially especially when you're fighting this hallway struggle and I just wanted to know and wanted to say this that Steadman has loved my heart and love me no matter what size I was and has endured all kinds of rumors and vicious attacks on his own manhood because of it. And you have handled it with such grace. I'm sorry that you had to go through a lot of the things that you've gone through. You don't deserve it of all people. You don't deserve it but you stood by me and love me no matter what and I thank you for no matter. What I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. Join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. 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"Twenty Five seasons four thousand five hundred sixty one episodes. I believe the Oprah Winfrey show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world Rolling never thought of it that way. The AHA moments the breakthroughs. The connections the occasional ugly cry so terribly every single minute L. O. Ell's the moments that matter. I opening light lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere else. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the ball. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will need shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me. Do you hear me. That's what I say mean anything to you. You're listening to the OPRAH WINFREY. Show the PODCAST. This is what I wrote in my journal. On the night of November Fifteenth Nineteen eighty-eight. I had such anxiety and exhilaration pulling out that wagon fat. I can't believe those genes finally fit after this ten year struggle with weight. It's finally over or so. I thought it was really just the beginning of a real physical and emotional battle against weight and all that it has meant to me. If Wade has been an issue for you today show will hopefully lead you to win your own battle. That's why I'm doing it. I'll take you through all the steps. I've been through beginning with peeling away. The emotional layers the most important then onto pilling away the physical and I was just so proud of myself just having the discipline to not eat for four months straight. I had no idea of the physical trauma. I put my body through northern emotional trauma. That was ahead. I've kept journals almost all my life and although I've experienced incredible changes throughout my career my weight was all consuming November. Twenty ninth nine thousand nine hundred eighty eight exactly two weeks after the Diet show. I've gained five pounds. I'm one hundred fifty today. I've been eating out of control. I've got to rein in in. I still can't get used to being thin. December seven. Th One thousand nine hundred ninety eight. I read an article today. One criticizing me for the Revlon. Shoot making fun of the weight loss saying. Let's see her in two years. It really hurt my feelings. I'll show them December twelve thousand nine hundred eighty eight. I love doing the revlon shoot. It changed the way I felt about me. Never imagined myself is beautiful but that ad made me feel beautiful so for that reason alone it was worth shooting just to feel that December thirteenth one thousand nine hundred eighty eight. I came home and ate as much zero as I could hold a junk all day. Not Good at all. I never cited how. I'm going to keep the weight off. I keep experimenting testing how much I can eat. It's also ridiculous. How am I going to get through the holidays without gaining December twenty? Six one thousand nine hundred eighty eight. There's a party in Aspen. I don't WanNa go. I've gained five more pounds. One fifty five January. Second Nineteen eighty-nine. This was my day to start dieting again instead. I made pork chops and ate them. Oh well tomorrow's another day Miss Scarlet. The holidays are officially over. So what's IT GONNA be for me fasting again? I don't know if I have it in me. January seventh nineteen eighty-nine. I'm out of control. Start out my day trying to fast by noon. I was frustrated. Hungry just thinking about the agony of at all a bowl of raisin bran left. The House bought some Caramel. Corn came back at three staring at food in the cabinets. And now I want some fries with lots of salt out of Control. January nineteenth nineteen thousand nine hundred fifty eight pounds. I'm bordering on disaster. I feel it coming. I'm wondering fifty-eight eating everything in sight. I need help. Old Patterns have emerged are taking over if I don't fast this entire weekend then Monday. I seek professional counseling. That's the deal complete and total fast January twenty first nineteen eighty nine. I lied to myself about professional counseling. I'm not ready to submit to it. March nine hundred eighty nine. This is what I wish for the absolutely eliminate weight as an issue for myself that I will not eat drink or consume anything that will prevent me from reaching my goal. That is what I wish for the determination and will to do it. Just do it no matter what it is possible and I will November Fourteenth Nineteen eighty-nine anniversary of the Diet. Show one hundred sixty eight pounds. I'm thoroughly disgusted with myself. I couldn't even get then for the anniversary show whereas my resolve every day I wake in with good intentions and then I fail November twenty third. Nineteen eighty-nine Thanksgiving Day. One hundred seventy five pounds. Which really is a fat person again? I've lost my resolve trying to find a way to carry on the battle December. First Nineteen eighty-nine. I'm still battling what has been for me. A lifetime struggle. I thought that have to November. One thousand nine hundred fifteen diet anniversary show at least weight is an issue. Stop being afraid that someone was going to bring it up and say. Hey Oprah haven't you gain weight and go on with my life not. I'm still struggling. Just cook rice and smother chicken. I Edman I was supposed to eat only a salad instead. I eat the salad and the chicken. I'm going to look this. I just don't know how right now December thirteenth one thousand nine hundred nine the new studios looking great. We'll be moving in the first of the year. The farmhouse is coming together two. Everything's going so well. So why do I still feel compelled to eat February sixteenth nineteen ninety? I'm in dire need of help with my weight. Almost on the verge of being overcome had a woman come into hair analysis going to determine what kind of vitamins I need. It's unbelievable I'm still looking for miracle cures what happened to my new year's resolution and then my thirty six year old birthday resolution. I don't know I just know I'm in trouble. I'm one hundred eighty pounds now. I wake every morning hating myself in the weight predicament. I'm in fifteen pounds ago. I would have thought this impossible. I'm not inching but galloping towards the two hundred pound mark I vowed to be back to one hundred fifty pounds by the Hope Award April Twenty Eighth Nineteen Ninety exhausted. I Work Twenty hours today. We'll have to do the same tomorrow. I'm worried about booster place. Eating snacks all day from the craft table. I hate seeing myself on film. June twelfth nineteen ninety. I'm carrying fat around. Its overcoming me. One hundred ninety one pounds overcome June eighteen thousand nine hundred ninety. I woke up the past four days hating myself because I hadn't fasted or at least stuck to some kind of plan trying to lose ten pounds in a week so I can put on this next week for the emmys. July nineteenth nineteen ninety never lost weight for the EMMYS instead of game. Five more. I'm one ninety-six still trying to reckon myself still in the closet assessing all the winter clothes. I won't be able to wear nothing. Fits I dread walking into the Fat Lady Stores August Eleventh? Nineteen ninety trying to be in the spirit. The fat has stopped me from feeling so blocked. I cannot think August Fifteenth Nineteen Ninety. I cried in my office cried because I know that lots of people have been discussing it. No one says anything but I feel them avoiding the subject. A CRY FOR MY POOR MISERABLE SELF. Having gotten to the state scale said two hundred and three pounds this morning controlled just controlled by it. Every day waking up with a plan by the end of the day not following through billing diminished less of a person. Guilty ugly you name it trying to gain control knowing that God says I already have it where is it? God dancing on the MC Hammer show with the fattest behind. I've ever seen I saw that tape and can't denied anymore. I really am fat again. They're in new fat clothes. Making me look even bigger feeling just about as low as one can about myself knowing that. I'm being blocked. August twenty fifth one thousand nine hundred ninety. Did a diets don't work. Seminar stood in a room in a bathing suit and admitted that I was two hundred pounds. That was hard September ninth nine hundred ninety instead of losing fifty pounds for the hope awards I gained had to have the for breakout redone. I DIDN'T WANNA go worried about people saying how fat I was made the worst dressed lists with marge. Simpson described his bumpy dumpy and downright lumpy. Gallon I thought I'd looked pretty decent in January. Twenty ninth nine hundred. Ninety one turned thirty seven. I have a New Vision for myself to become lean fit. Strong physically emotionally spiritually food alone. Isn't the answer. What is February twentieth? Nineteen ninety-one went on vacation and gained eight pounds bringing me to an all-time Ping two hundred twenty six pounds. So big unproportionate fat in the face unable to move freely that I don't know this self my body has betrayed me or has it just acquiesced. I don't know who this is waddling through the airport. I caught a glimpse of myself reflected in a store window. I didn't recognize the FAT lady. Staring back at me. Stem says I'm not even close to my potential as a human being that I let the weight be a barrier. He's right sometimes. I can feel the connection between my own fears and the weight. So what am I afraid of? That's the question. The answer.
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"Be shaped forward on a lot of sexual partners and I've done some pretty bad things like I smoke a lot of weed. Which isn't good. Tell us more sexual partners. Throw it out appoximately number. It's been like twenty two maybe tells How you felt through these experiences about one or two of them were cool but like the the ones are just like robot. I don't know I just. It wasn't really anything but doing that. As a robot makes you feel it made me feel like better. Do you feel that. That's pretty much the most important thing you have to offer men pretty much. It's it felt like it's made me give up guys and there's a person that I'm talking to. That is a girl to lot easier in. Phils more natural for some reason with these guys I haven't done anything sexual with her or anything like that. I talked to guys like I'm still attracted to him but I don't WanNa be the guy. Okay that's all that's all. You're not saying that you're a lesbian. You're not what I hand acurite. I don't know how to answer. We'RE NOT HERE TO BLAME. Your parents say it's all their fault but the fact is that the parents staying connected with you. Had they been able to work their relationship? It might have made you feel less lost unless confused and nobody else's again except me so I need you guys so when you say. I don't know how to answer that you know. I'm I'm always going to accept. Okay I sense that you have difficulty with it yes eight. It just don't want to hear it so you don't you just kind of blow it off. No I hear what you're saying. I hear exactly what you're saying. I just don't believe that I'm in a position to say. Okay it is okay. I understand that you are confused but I'm not going to accept I can't accept it because the way I was raised. It's not acceptable kitchen. Do something that's not okay and you can disagree but that does not mean that you can't accept it and love them. No matter what choice they make for themselves. She can know that it's not okay and it's not cool with you but that does not mean that you can't say I love you. I accept you. He's right. I won't condone it but I'm still love you because I do believe that things do happen for a reason so so. I'm going to be there if you need to talk to me. Whatever whatever reason because I don't want you to take the same road again and because we were. I wasn't there before because I was the one left. Your Dad didn't tell you anything and I'm GONNA take that road again because I'm not gonNA lose you just because you know. This is the path that you chose take. I love you too much for that key message. Here's what Belinda was saying. She left Albany's dad and did not tell ebony any thing and again I say when you don't know how to talk to your kids when you leave and you ignore their feelings when you think they're just kids and they'll get over it you end up damaging them forever avenues. Parents are courageous enough to be here. J. D. and Belinda. Have joined us when you heard. Blenda Ebony on the tape say that the moment this all changed for her was when she walked in the room and saw you kissing the other guy and that she felt that you were the biggest hypocrite and that a part of all of this acting out which on her part has pretty evolved to know that one of the reasons why I'm doing. This is because my mother so hypocritical. So I'm going to show her. Yeah when you heard that what did you think riphil? G Choosy allies at. That kiss had had that kind of impact. I had no idea it was only thinking of myself at that time and she didn't even come into play. Although we were always together I found out about the kiss only a few days ago. So totally embarrassed found out about the kiss me and you didn't know she had seen the kiss right. You didn't even know. She didn't know she told her that. I knew she'd saying it but I didn't know what she had told her bed until only a few weeks ago. I didn't even and it's been seven years since we've been divorced and I didn't know all of this. She carried. We treated her like an basically like an adult so I didn't even think it affected him in any way because she how we acted in the house. But how can you say you treated her like an adult as an adult? If you were gonNA leave you would explain why you're leaving in. That's a good point but we don't where I was how I guess how has raised. We just didn't talk about a lot of things. Go things just happen? We understand that and so that's how I did with her. So let's talk about what you what you both decided to tell or not tell Ebony so did you decide. Did you sit ebony down and say we're going to now be be separating and these are the reasons why no said nothing to Ebony. Never I didn't know you guys were getting worse so after the divorce. I just remember one day. We're at home the next day. Me Mommy are moving out. We're packing up. That's how it happened and I blocked a lot and is sound like a cop out but I just blocked a lot of things out because I was only thinking of me at that time. Gary says if you think your kids are GonNa come to you with their biggest problems. You're dead wrong. Why shame I mean how? Many of us has teenagers. Were running to our parents with every problem that we had so you know my wife and I we have five children and we sat down with our children at every single parent should do this. We identified two adults that we trust and they trust in their lives and we all met together and we said listen. We want you to come to us. Of course we'll never judge. You always love you. But here's the deal. If you don't feel like you can come to us. Here's two people you can go to individually and they we give them permission to make decisions on our behalf for you and they never have to tell us. If that's what's going to work for you that way. At least we know as parents. Our children are using adults with experience to help them guide them instead of their colleagues. Everyone should do it. But it's like a substitute parent. Yes go to parent. It's a Goto parent. That's a great idea but ebony thank you for having the for being brave enough to. Don't you feel better? I do actually a lot better. Yeah don't you feel that now you can create another life for yourself because you're past is really just that it's the pass. It's really hard trying to change yourself by by yourself. You need help to change your lifestyle so now that you've released that you can leave that in past and move forward and start to be who you really are because that's what life is all about becoming more who you really are. And that's what I wish for you today. I'm really proud of you. I'm very proud of you that you had the courage to do that. Thank you all. Thank you I'm Oprah Winfrey. 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"Didn't got critical as you. Well early on. I always liked to draw and paint and I remember early on he he just he would scoff at it Any awards I one in school. Art shows things like that Then later on when it was time to go to college he said you can't make any money being an artist so therefore I didn't do. I didn't go to arts. Okay listen all right and I WANNA say I'm going to answer that and just to say with the rest of did. Did you hear what he did that affected her? And you're all parents now so that's why you got to. Aw or wherever stick figure they bring you okay and obviously you were doing much more than stick figures but let me tell you what happens with that that pivotal person in your life. Every one of us has a personal truth. It's something we believe about ourselves. We're not wearing the mask and putting our best face on for the world. It's at the core of our so what we honestly believe about who we are and nobody writes larger and more bold on that than your parents and for you. He said Gee scoffed at it. All these awards or nothing you can't make live and doing this throughout your life and so you checked out that pivotal person caused you to check out of your vision for art. Isn't that right and since then haven't you started checking out on other things in your life? You thought about checking out of your marriage you've checked out of of saying I'm not having any fun I'm just wasting my life here. I mean it you see how it spreads it changes who you are these pivotal people. He wrote on the slate of you. That what matters to you matters to no one else. They wouldn't pay you for it. They validated. There's nothing there and so you checked out and so these things that happened so many years ago. Connect up to WHO and what we are today. And we're all being passive in that and so you pick up a book about self and it gives you some atheist evolution of your ancestry and all that stuff. That's not it you've got to get down to. What are the ten seven and five that defined who you are today so you can have a to do list okay? I know the second half of the book is about. Then what do you do ten seven five a guy that Gama ten moments critical this before pivotals? Now what and it's not as easy sitting here with information and it's not as easy as just ten seven and five. There are questions you have to answer about each defining moment about each critical choice to identify how it has manifested in your life right now today. It's all about knowing the questions to ask. You GotTa know the questions to ask. But then you're right. The second half of the book is okay. What do I do about it? Do I do about it now because we respond not to what happens in our lives but to how we interpret what happens in our lives. What do we say to ourselves? How do we label ourselves? What do we? What's all of our internal reaction to those things? That's what you've got to get a grip on. The first half is historical and diagnostic. The second half is the power. What do I do to put myself where I WANNA be authentically? Put your thoughts to the test doctor. Phil's for questions you need to ask yourself to test your beliefs about yourself to determine if they are real or not what are the questions will therefore in what I'm saying is on everything that you think you've gotta start examining your thinking and your values and your beliefs and number one is what. I'm telling myself a true fact I mean is it a true fact and it sounds real simple but think about that if we were coming and saying you're a thief and he's well. I know better than that. I know. Factually that's not true. But if you're saying to yourself or somebody saying to you you're kind of boring or you're kind of worthless that subjective and so we start buying stuff that there's no factual basis for so number one. Is it a true fact number two to pass the Litmus Test? Does it serve your best interest? I mean does it serve your best interest. What's good for? You is good for those you love and care about. I mean if you're a mom and you say well you're talking about taking care of me. You better take care your children's mother because it's the only one they've got so you I mean does it. Serve your best interest number three. Does it advance and protect your health? Huge wakeup call for me. When I went through this process myself. And Start Holding myself to these standards about so much that I was thinking it wasn't protecting and prolong in my health because his putting so much stress in my life but thinking I could do everything for everybody and so I'm working real hard on learn how to say no. I think you had that as an issue would sing learning to say no. You say no pretty pretty well. Well I'm getting I'm getting. I've been writing this couple years. I'm getting better at it at in four. Does it get you what you want? Does it gets you what you want and you know Carmen back and think about the things that you're saying to yourself. I was special. I was smart now. I don't feel like I really have a lot to offer will stop. I don't feel like I have a lot to offer. Is that a true fact. Did you dumb at the board that day no does it? Is it in your best interest. No does it protect and prolong your life. It's wasting your life. You're burning daylight and does it get you what you want absolutely use. You Fail on all four points on just that one statement so you have to start saying I need to start testing my thinking because you know we treat ourselves. We think we'll tell ourselves the truth because it's US right. That's not true. If you feed yourself so much bad thinking boy I saw that in the brain thinking very good came out. You know what I'm saying. You have to challenge your thinking and it is not selfish to turn Selfie society. We are a selfless society. We're not selfish. We are self less. Our kids are selfless. They're they're they're living in Carpool going to dance. And Soccer and everything is program five hundred TV channels the Internet. We don't take time to stop and think. Hey wait let me think about me for a minute. Am I really doing what I WANNA do today because I want to do it? Am I doing this because I want to do it or am I doing it because it's what I was doing yesterday? Are you doing what you're doing today because you want to ban it or are you doing it because it's what you were doing yesterday okay. Ten seven and five ten defining moments seven critical choices and five pivotal people. And Ask yourself this question? Are you one of your five pivotal people see? I was feeling bad when I I took the test because I was one of the first people on my list and I was thinking okay. Who else could we think of? Yeah but boy if you're not making a big mistake because you're with yourself twenty four seven. Not Anybody talks to you as much as you do. The book is available in every bookstore in the country. Just look for the title self matters creating your life from the inside out and fills big head thank you. I'm so gonNA get. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. Join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..
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"In the summer of nineteen ninety two long simmering. Racial tensions in Los Angeles came to a head that is when we saw the brutal beating of Rodney King by white police officers captured on tape. That when the officers were acquitted riots erupted across the city. Even though many people warned against it I wanted to go there. Right after the Rodney King verdict we were in Los Angeles for townhall discussion. That got heated. Because you gotta take eight either one of the reasons I wanted to come to. La is because when you're sitting in your comfortable homes and you hear the death toll rise to so many people. Those are just numbers and what I wanted to do was to place some names and some lives and some faces and some families so that we in this country recognize what we have done and you were shot about six hours after the verdict came in. I was ironically. I was shot by a black guy. You know but I mean I have A bullet right now. It's a semi chess embedded under my heart. I have in my inner left. Biceps shot Wednesday About six hours after the verdict. And you hear I'm standing up. I'm right here. You hear a shot while you're trying to rescue. Somebody is what I was trying to stop alluding in a robbery fan from a Korean merchant and the guy just turned around he was six to ten feet away and he just shot me. My brother was the first victim Long Beach. He was on his way to help a a friend of his happen to be a black Gal who had called him up and said I WANNA get my family out of here. Because I'm afraid and my vans broken and I can't get it to start my brother's mechanic. So he and my nephew. My sister's son hopped on a motorcycle. Went up there fifty yards from his house or her place. They were mobbed knocked off the motorcycle. My brother was shot in the head. My nephew was shot three times and he'd be dead except the gun. They put his face wouldn't go off. I'm forty seven years old. I don't understand I don't understand. I've been raised all my life. If this man here cut some shelves shaving I cut myself shaving. The blood cups the same the same thing. They lay him and me on a slab somewhere. Peeler skin off. Unless you're an expert you don't know who we are and we all have a soul that comes from God and so I'm here for answers. Okay well this is interesting because you are obviously a white man. Yeah I'm a middle class white man. Okay but I wanted to ask. When the Rodney King verdict came down I was so moved by hearing a young black woman. Who said this said to me on my life doesn't mean anything could you? As a white male see how that verdict made so many black people feel. Could you see? Do you see that? I'm not sure that that verdict means that any of us have any value. Not just black people anybody in one thousand nine hundred eighty three. Dr King said injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere and I think everyone who is a part of that show could identify with that three years later. More racial tension. We were watching live in our studio when the verdict for the O. J. Simpson trial came down. We along with the rest of the country saw this verdict as you saw it and the jury has spoken obviously very happy. I'm very happy for his family for his children. I'm very happy I'm also very happy. At think. Justice was served dot. Everyone here is happy however not everyone here is happy. I noticed that you are not happy. I just feel like she's rolling over in her grave and he said if he ever did it he would get away with it. That's what she said. I really believe that he is guilty. However I think that California's relieved that he was show not guilty because the blacks would have burn the city down. That was a moment in our cultural history. Where the dividing line in race had never been more clear. I think many people were happy for OJ's acquittal because they thought justice was not served in the Rodney King trial and many trials before. I also think that Dr King's quote also applies here. Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere in September. Two thousand nine rapper artists Mogul Jay Z. And I went head to head on a big controversy. You know I've been known for not being a big fan of rap music because of misogynist lyrics and because of the use of the word you obviously feel differently and a little bit little bit little bit and tell tell everybody way discusses more words people give words power. Yeah for a generation where we did was. We took the word and we took the power out of that word a word that was very ugly and hurtful into a term of endearment. So I mean even when someone says it's still intention behind what you say who but Pretty much took the power out of the work because if we just start removing words from the dictionary just make another word the next day so we don't dress the problem. The problem is racism right. That's really the problem so we disagree. And the reason I feel that way because my generation and generations before me obviously coming up through the civil rights movement and I am where I am because there was. There was a generation before me that fought for civil rights and that word carries such a sense of hatred and degradation. And I always think about when I hear the word. Even when I'm at the concert and people were screaming at your concert I think about black. Men were lynched. And that's the last word they heard. And so that comes from my generation right. Okay so okay. We agree to disagree on which is a strong strongpoint understandable. I disagree. So here's the deal. I read Jay Z's new book decoded which put the Hip hop rap conversation in a different context and took it to a new level for me in the book. He talks about his life. He breaks down rap in a way that I thought brings an entirely new perspective to the culture on page one sixty two. I had an Aha moment when he writes rappers. Are Young Black men telling stories that the police among others don't want to hear reading that I realized I was among the others so I appreciate it this book so much that I made it one of my favorite things and I'm proud to say I get it now so thank you. Jay Z for opening up my mind. That's what this day is all about after twenty five years of tackling race on the Oprah Show. Here's an unexpected update from a former racist who appeared on our show in one thousand nine hundred eighty nine here. How can any one scorn a cute little four year old boy because of the color of his skin but you did for awhile when he was born. I started changing from that point on. He's part of me. I'm ashamed of the way I felt before. It was nineteen eighty nine when Jim Rainey wrote how the love of his biracial grandson helped change his racist ways but even today he feels ashamed of his dark past. I felt I was superior white. People were superior to blacks blacks. Were okay as long as they stayed in their own place and that place was where I wanted them to be. There were instances where myself and friends tune. The Black Person Up. Maybe threader slap or something like that. It's not something I'm proud of talking about you know I guess I guess you can say I had a bully mentality. Jim was furious when he learned his daughter was pregnant with a biracial child. How mad violently man? Gosh I wanted to want to do a lot of things. And they were all against the law. I wouldn't lie to you and say I didn't think about getting a gun and shooting a few people initially. Jim wanted nothing to do with his grandson. Seth but something changed. He didn't know I was racist. He didn't know how evil my mind was. He just knew I was smoking granddaddy and he loved me. Had to think about what I was doing next thing you know I loved the four year old. Boy I bet on. The show is twenty six and married with three children of his own. I've always looked at. My granddad has a role model. My life eleven very much proud to have him as a Granddad. Gm's transformation came full circle when he and his wife adopted two black children into their family. These are my boys. My son's it's amazing that you can get this old and just now realize what your calling in. Life is being a father to Robert and Walter. I hope that that Britain and I both can last long enough to see them race and have have offered Tunde opportunities that thugs like me would have denied them forty years ago if a guy like myself can change. There's hope for everyone in nineteen sixty seven. Dr King said hate cannot drive out. Hate only love can do that. Thank you James for showing the world what love can do. I hope that you will find some time in this day to reflect on Dr King's vision. And how you can fulfill your greatness through service. Have a great day. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. 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"For one hundred fifty thousand dollar mortgage correct. Joanna that's correct so the banks say she can afford one hundred fifty thousand dollar mortgage. The truth of the matter is the lending institution should have denied you because you didn't have the money. Shame on them. Shame on them. But good for you girlfriend that you're not gonNA get yourself in trouble antastic. Thank you Joanna. Millions of people are stressed watching their retirement savings disappear into thin air. I want you to meet a woman who says she's tried to do everything right. So you're questioning Suzie as well Suzie. I'm fifty years old. I absolutely love my job but I'd like to know if I'm able to retire. I really WANNA retire. Fifty six fifty six. Oh Kansas years so currently my income is a little over ninety one hundred dollars. My expenses are a little over eighty one hundred dollars and I've got retirement savings of three hundred and ninety three thousand dollars so the question is thousand dollar month. Excess approximately can shave Ford it and you say and I say before we go there. Just tell me what will be your income and your expenses after retirement whereabout even are we not well. I know that I'm going to have to reduce my expenses so I expect my retirement income to be somewhere around sixty five hundred. Yes and my expenses in retirement to be sixty three hundred a month so she's still got an excess so we're looking good aren't we? We're looking good. You are deny. Let me tell you why you know we do a lot of research and all these people that you're not really seeing so I just don't pull this my hat what you're also not seeing that you have sixty two hundred dollars of credit card debt. At fourteen percent interest rate fourteen point two percent be exact. Sixty two hundred two hundred dollars. We have fifty thousand dollars in a savings account but that is not my eight months now. Here is the reason why. What was the three hundred ninety? Three thousand dollars a retirement account that she can't touch okay because she wants to retire at fifty six so she still giving the stock market today. Maybe it's ninety three thousand dollars but anything can happen at any time. But here's the real reason you're denied. Outta love ready for this. I'm ready women will spend more years. You will spend more years in retirement than you did working for IBM so you will have worked for. Ibm for thirty years. At the age of fifty six from fifty six. You'll have another thirty to thirty five forty years of life. She will spend more years. She retires at fifty-six in retirement than she did working. What you did not factor in. Was inflation as you get older. You take more medication. You need more help. Things become more expensive things. Go wrong and in today's economy when you're counting on pensions and things from corporations. We don't know when they'll have to cut that back when they will all of a sudden stop it. They won't pay for your health benefits so I don't have enough cushion there for you to be able to retire at the age of fifty six but the good news. Is You love your job. Trust me when you get to be fifty fifty-seven you ain't got to want to retire. But the other thing is in this goes back to the other guests to you to everybody you live in an exorbitant lifestyle. You real two hundred dollars a month manicures. You have nine thousand dollars a month of expenses. I was looking through every one of your expenses going is. She really wanted to retire. She would not do that. And you wouldn't have six thousand dollars. Credit card debt meant. You should have seen before I cut back. I know I'm thinking is sixty two hundred dollars a credit card debt a lot. That's not alive. It's but I'll tell you the problem. It's not a lot but that means that you don't really have emergency saving so don't really have everything you need. We're living in deficit. Used to hearing these big numbers like making this kind of money. Yeah you shouldn't have any credit card debt whatsoever. Okay thank you Marilyn retiring at sixty four more years four more years. Marla joins us from our home audience from our Living Room in Boston. Hi Friend Susie I Emma Lebron delivery nurse and I work really long nights and I have to come home in the middle of the night and since I live in Boston. There's a lot of snow so I'm wondering if I can afford an SUV to get me home. Late nights in the snow will SUV in this. Now show me the money girlfriend. I take home about thirty four hundred dollars a month. My monthly income. My monthly expenses are twenty five hundred which includes my three hundred sixteen dollar car payment and I have about eight hundred dollars. On zero percent. Credit Card and savings is about twelve hundred dollars. Yes yes so. The question is do you think. Currently she has a three hundred sixteen dollar a month car payment. That's because she'd laces the car that lease is up next March. I believe so Kanshi afford to buy an SUV. You think with heated seats. Now you've been approved. What what let me tell you why. Her she'd leases a car. Her car has to be returned in when in the next few months. She is out on the roads herself at night as a nurse delivering its. She's afraid she's a woman alone and she has snow sometimes people before money. Remember people first then money then things. She needs a new car anyway when she gets rid of police car if you can find an SUV that you can spend three hundred dollars a month on just like you are now than you. I think that's exactly what you should do. Because you're Chicago since wow I mean. I'm thinking should go to do that. I'll tell you where she's GonNa do that. The Oprah producers actually found for you some. Suv's in her area that are approximately ten thousand dollars. If she and she they must be used of course there you go right right of course but then that meets her needs and the truth of the matter is if you decide. You don't want to do that and you just want to keep the car that you do. Have you can negotiate big time with them right now when you turn it back in. But here's the rule of thumb. Everybody if you're going to finance a car do not finance a car for more than three years. If you can't afford the monthly payments on a three year loan you cannot afford it. Start working overtime now over time. Now Save money so you have a little money you can put down. Get yourself out of credit card debt and when the time comes girlfriend you're going to be driving down those streets in the middle of the night with heated with a heated little push and your leather heated seats. And you're going to feel safe in a used. Suv Thank you. This has been great fun. Wasn't this interesting only two out of three times one out of three. That's but it gets US thinking about what you can or cannot afford. Yeah and just no. If you can't afford it just don't buy it. Isn't that simple? You bet it is by everybody. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. Join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..
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"In the main reason I wanted to be here. Today is to tell you how regretful lime for causing what should have been the best year of Your Life. The most miserable. I went along because I was afraid. I can't imagine for thirty eight years how badly I have felt. That does not do anything for what happened. That does not. I'm just sorry. You were taught racism at home. Did you break that chain chills? That's what I think. Sl Am sorry. Certainly I felt powerless. Also peer pressure has a lot to do. When you're at that age well and I think Jean represented probably the bulk of students. That did nothing right solid. It's the great silence. It's the silence is the people who don't speak up and if there's any lesson to be learned now thirty almost forty years now. Hopefully somebody watches the show and will be moved enough to stand up for something. That's right I love that moment in the show because it's a reminder to all of us of what Dr King said in the end we will remember not the words of our enemies but the silence of our friends one of the things. That was so moving to me about the little rock. Nine is their ability to forgive and I think that they were able to do because they understood that they really weren't fighting people just the physical bodies but they were fighting the entire blight and stain of ignorance on this country and so as the light was shed into people's hearts and people began to see things differently. Actually see each other differently. I think it was easier to forgive when you understood that so much of that just came out of pure ignorance as does all hatred. That was a blessed day for me to be in the studio with the little rock nine. Because there's no question that they pave the way for people like myself and their shoulders. I'm standing on them now. Let's take a look back at a show that brought the descendant of a notorious slave owner face to face with the relatives of slaves. They owned Katie's grandmother was a slave who was owned by the ancestors of Edward Ball. The ball family owned more than four thousand slaves and a dozen plantations in South Carolina recently Edward Katie and Charlotte went back to the ruins of a ball plantation house where their ancestors lived as master and a slave. This place is coming tea plantation Charlotte and Katie's ancestors were in slavery on this place on the beginning of the eighteen. Hundreds were here their blood sweat and tears. Where at this plantation? My Grandma told me how she had these. Keep getting whipping when she took me down to the river and show me how. She tied her dress around her waist and leapt over booed to keep from getting a weapon and as she was diving into the water she told my mother and that they were shooting at her and the bullets were flying overhead and they left thinking that she was dead. May your soul rest in peace. What did you want to say today? I wanted to say that. I'm sorry for the suffering that my family caused your family so many years ago and for such a long time and in saying that. I know that we haven't reached the end of the journey. We haven't even come to the middle but we might have just put our feet up on the path and taking the first small steps toward understanding. I asked I asked her forgiveness. So what does it mean to you to have this apology live with racism every day here? That doesn't wash it away. But it's says that someone recognizes what we go through when we walk out doors and it's overwhelming who. That was a moment. I think we could all see the healing power. That apology. Another powerful moment on the show involved. An eye opening experiment so that some of our audience members could experience the feeling of being judged by color for the first time in their lives. This is unbelievable. Today's audience was separated into two groups. Not on the color of their skin where they separated when they arrive. They were separated based on the color of their eyes but they have no idea that they were separated. What we did was treat each group differently. Discriminating against the people who have blue eyes catering to those people with Brown eyes on mine? No no over there. The blue eyed people were pulled out of line told to put on a green collar and lead outside. The Brown eyed people arrived. They were told to step to the front of the line. Our staff is instructed to be extra polite to Brown eyed people and to discriminate against polite people like this one is a licensed got so one and when they went to places prom members with Brown eyes were allowed to enjoy coffee and donuts. Those blue eyes were left in a crowded room without refreshments for over two hours. The blue eyed group became upset when they saw the brown eyed people were being seeded. I diversity expert. Jane Elliott helped set up the experiment. She played along telling are segregated. Audience that Brown eyed people were smarter than blue eyed people. I've been a teacher for twenty five years in the public private and parochial schools in this country and as seen what Brown eyed people have done as compared to. What do I do and it's perfectly obvious. If I didn't believe it before this morning you should have been here this morning when we brought these people in here fuelling discriminated against the blue eyed audience. Members were visibly upset. She was rude to all of us. Yelled at this names pushed aside. She was rude. This lady came out in the line with all of people that had light colored eyes and said you put this green collar on now and keep it on. And if you don't hit the road say doesn't Jane Green Tower Blue Eyes Because I've learned to act Brown. I'd have a brown eyed husband and three and a message in this room is act ground. Aydin you too can take off your Collar Act intelligently and you can't none of you have have intelligently yet. It wasn't long before the Brown eyed people bought into the idea that they were superior. School was blue eyed. She was so stupid she was always copying off of my papers. These people were so rude and so noisy today. We couldn't hear any ourselves. Even talk was ridiculous. Eventually the audience figured out the show was really about race now. He was so angry. He took off his collar way on early. I need to talk about that taking off the collar. These people can take off their collars and then nobody knows what color of their eyes are from a distance. How many of you people of color can take off the collar that we have put on you? How many you can take off your color. But if a black male refused to follow your orders or your husband's orders your your father's orders on the street you would not see that as being highly principled you would see him as being an Uppity Nigger. We can see where this is going. She's saying that everybody has racism in. It's not really about the ice. She's trying to teach about racism but she can't get away from the fact that God created the races and you are going to be different. You can't help it guide to be like that race. The human race and human beings created racism. I Love I love that. Human beings created racism. God created one race the human race. I believe the lessons from that show are still so valuable today. And because it really illustrates how susceptible we all are to prejudice and how quickly people can be poisoned by misinformation and ignorance. Another powerful moment on the show involved a white man who wanted to experience what it would be like to live as a different race. Ten months ago Josh. Solomon was Black. What he did was really remarkable. Josh took some potentially life threatening pills to change his skin color from white to black and what he experienced as a black man was chilling. So chilling back that after just one week of being black. He abruptly called off the experiment and went home to let the Madison where off. We asked him to retrace his steps to take a look for us for all intensive purposes. I think I looked like the typical black teenager with reddish brown skin and a bald head in Gainesville got a hotel room in started to explore the city off the one. I ran into people in the street. They reacted to me as if they were scared of suspicious. I went into this pool to get a drink. They followed me around like I was a thief one afternoon. I was walking back to my hotel down this road. Police officer pulled me over at that intersection side. Hassle me about who I was. And why was there things like this never happened to me? When I was way one time I went into a fancy restaurant eating. Although I saw several vacant tables the maitre d' told me that there was nothing available in the short time I spent as a black I can only conclude the price. We haven't come as far as we thought so. How did that make you feel because I think that is the one thing that over the years? I've done at least one hundred shows on racism and it's so hard to convey what that having that happened to you being treated like a suspect every day of your life what that does to your Personal Saiki Right. Well you know that's the hardest. Part ways received this prima bachelor suspect. I walk into a room and guardless of how much money I had in my pocket. The certain level respect that I get from folks and the first thing that I realized when I was black was it's gone. You don't get any of that. You know. People get this respect by people constantly trying to prove that they deserve or worthy of it when he said White people get this. Respect and black people are constantly trying to prove that they deserve it or are worthy of it. I thought that was so profound. It was really the first time we'd heard anything like that on our show particularly coming from a young.
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