35 Burst results for "Oprah Winfrey"
The Charlie Kirk Show
Charlie Comments on the Concept of Institutional Racism
"That you don't think there's any institutional institutional racism left in this country. And I think that's a pretty strong statement that I don't necessarily agree with, especially in our justice system where the United States sentencing commission actually contends that black men are 19% more likely to be sentenced, have longer sentences for similar crimes. And that's when every other demographic factors accounted for like age, income, I guess area within society. So I was wondering what you think about that, particularly because there is that imbalance and I would regard that as institutional. It's the quality of their legal representation factored into the study. I'm actually, I can't speak to that because I don't know. It's not. So for example, if LeBron James committed a crime, he'd have pretty good lawyers, right? Most likely, yeah. Yeah. So maybe it's an income and or legal quality point, not a race point, right? Here's my contention. My contention is the following. There are other reasons to blame disparities other than discrimination a lot. And one of my biggest learning moments today on campus is how almost everything gets attributed to racism or discrimination. There's a fabulous book I encourage all of you to read. It should be required reading by black economist Thomas sol called discriminations and disparities. It might be the other way around. Disparities, whatever. I think it is discrimination and disparities. And he makes the argument, there are hundreds of other potential explanations for not just racial groups, but smaller than racial groups, how you go locally, linguistically and all this. So I encourage you to look at that and you have to factor that in. I don't think for a second, then you wouldn't either that Oprah Winfrey who has a house right down the street if she committed a crime that somehow she would not be able to get the best legal help. It's not about skin color as must it is income, which is not about race. It's about other choices, such as is there a father in the home. For example, if a black has a mom and a dad present, that family in that child has a higher chance of all objective facts of success, college attendance, likelihood of committing crimes, than a white child that has just a single mother. You see, fatherhood transcends color lines.
AP News Radio
Dr. Phil McGraw Announces His Daytime Talk Show Will End After 21 Seasons: ‘This Has Been an Incredible Chapter’
"Daytime talk show psychologist Dr. Phil McGraw will end his show after 21 years on March east are a letter with the latest. Dr. Phil McGraw was a frequent guest on Oprah Winfrey Show and spun off to his own show in 2002. He has decided to end his run, but this does not mean the show will go off the air. He just won't make new ones. CBS media ventures will continue to offer reruns with occasional new wraparound content. McGraw, who is 72, says there's a lot more he wants to do, specifically prime time programming, he did not give details.
AP News Radio
Everyone in California's Montecito ordered out amid deluge
"Every resident of the community of montecito, California has been ordered to head out due to flooding. I Norman hall, an evacuation order has been issued for montecito and surrounding steep areas already scarred by recent wildfires. The order came on the 5th anniversary of a mudslide that killed 23 people and destroyed more than 100 homes in the coastal enclave. The national weather service reported that at least 8 inches of rain fell over 12 hours with several more inches predicted before the latest storm system most of the area. It studded with winding roads and wooded hillsides with large homes, celebrity residents include Oprah Winfrey and actor Rob Lowe. I Norman hall
The Officer Tatum Show
The Democrats' Big Energy Mistake
"You know, if we would have, if we wouldn't have closed down Keystone XL pipeline, if we would have made it wouldn't have made it an absolute nightmare for oil and gas companies to continue drilling and right here in the United States, you know, everything would be hunky Dory, but instead what we did as soon as we got into office, we shut down all the Trump's policies because of the truth of the matter is we want you guys to suffer because we want to transition this great experiment called the United States and of America into something that we wanted all along. We want the elites. We want the haves and the have nots. They're trying to transform society and they think that you're dumb enough to keep falling for this stuff. But a lot of people are waking up.
The Officer Tatum Show
The Battle Between Liberty and Tyrany
"You're the president. And you sit in the highest office Biden. I get it. But you're still a servant. You still serve we the people. This is still a government of for and by the people. And this is what those of you that might be listening in perhaps you're a Democrat. This is what this is what I want you to understand. The party, the Democrat party as it exists today doesn't care about you. They care about reigning over you. You're not, it's like being an inmate. You're not really a person to these people. You're just a number. To get done, whatever it is that they would like to accomplish. That's all you are. A lot of smart Democrats, a lot of loving Democrats, but to the left you're useful idiot. They have no intention in making your lives better. None. Whatsoever. They are totally obsessed with power. By it, they're going to give us a warning. No, no, no, no, no. You derive your power run claim or The White House does. From the consent of the governed. And that's what we're going to be checking. What we're going to be checking on Tuesday. You know, I've been talking about this as a battle between liberty and tyranny, and it is. What we are facing is a battle between liberty and tyranny. But I got to tell you in Dennis prager wrote about this. What we've endured over the last few years is a basically the left was trying to warm us up to getting, they wanted us to get used to the fact that we were going to be living in a police state.
The Officer Tatum Show
How Important Is Freedom to You?
"Guys, listen, I'm not necessarily a better man, but I've been throwing 25 here, 50 there, this, I'm donating to racist, people I never heard of. Places that I never thought I would be donating to why because freedom is that important to me. And I hope that it's that important to you as well. We have an opportunity to kick booty like you can never like you would never imagine and we need to do so. Everything that left is spewing isn't working. I'm so thankful that Biden gave another speech. I can't even handle listening to it. I'm not gonna lie to you, but I'm so thankful that he gave it. Because every time he opens his mouth, I think he motivates people on the right. People are tired. People are fed up. People know what's going on. People know that it's just an act. People understand what they've been doing as a matter of fact, I'm gonna get to in this hour. There's a story by a substack from a black gentleman who was a Democrat and then turned independent and now he's like, I'm voting Republican for the very first time. And he outlines the reason why. This is a guy that wanted to remain Democrat. He wants to go back to the Democrat party technically. I don't think it'll happen. But I'll give you the reasons as to why he flipped.
The Officer Tatum Show
It's Over for the Donkeys
"We're so close to the November 8th election. I am absolutely giddy. I can't even hide it. I can't lie to you. I won't lie to it. I lied to you. I think I wouldn't lie to you anyway. But I think it's over for the donkeys. We're gonna get into it. At least for this term. And then we're gonna have to fight like hail to make sure that we restore this constitutional republic, not a democracy, as Biden said, 37 times in his speech, but a constitutional republic. We don't have a democracy. This is not mob rule. I understand that democracy is our voting process where everyone gets to play a part in this great country and in our system, but we don't have a democracy. We don't have mob rule mob rule is what we would have seen in 2020 when Black Lives Matter Inc and antifa moms across the country tried to scare us all into voting one way or staying home. That's not what that's not what we have. That is that's a democracy or that would be a democracy. We have a constitutional republic and what we're going to do on November 8th is fight to restore that constitutional republic. And I think the I think the Democrats are in for some trouble and listen, I don't want to get up, I don't want to get in front of my skis as they say. All of the polling doesn't matter unless you show up to vote. And unless you take somebody with you. But I am, I am confident that we are going to, listen, I think the house is a foregone conclusion. We're still fighting for governorships across the country. We're still fighting and some of these Senate races, but I do believe the polling is lacking when it comes to Republicans a little bit even traffic. The one of the best polars, if not the best polar and the entire country has admitted as much, but the numbers look good and as long as you show up at least we can stop the bleeding or slow the bleeding.
The Officer Tatum Show
DeSantis flies two planes of migrants to Marthas Vineyard; Karine Jean
"Brandon Tatum is a 7 year veteran of the Tucson police department. He's a YouTube sensation with 1.9 million subscribers. He started blacks up with Candace Owens and now he's tackling his biggest assignment yet. This is the officer Tatum show. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to the officer Tatum show. I got so much to talk about. Today I want to hit on a few pointers. When it comes to Ron DeSantis, governor Abbott sending illegal aliens to Martha's Vineyard and some of these liberal self proclaimed sanctuary states. Now, if you've been watching the news or paying attention at all, you will realize that there were illegal aliens who were sent to Martha's Vineyard. Now, if you don't know what Martha's venue is, just imagine a place where all the wealthy people have their guesthouses and or vacation homes and Obama lived there. I'm sure Oprah Winfrey got a house there. All of these mega millionaires and billionaires have property at Martha's Vineyard. I would argue that it's an exclusive location where only wealthy people reside. Now I'm not going to lie and say I don't know people that live in Martha's Vineyard. I at least know one person that has a house in Martha's Vineyard that they don't even live at most of the time. So you can imagine that they are a billionaire. However, the ploy by desantis and governor Abbott sending some of these illegal aliens to multiple locations, I think, is petty, but I'm here for the pettiness. The only way that these people are going to get a taste of their own medicine is when we start being just as pity as they're being. I find it quite interesting. That they cry from the mountaintop. We need to, we need to have immigrants. Republicans are racist. They don't care about people. These people just looking for opportunities. And then when the opportunities are presented to be provided for by them, now it's a crisis. People in Martha's Vineyard network and you probably have to at least be worth several $1 million to even have a place in Martha's Vineyard. Remember all the stuff people are talking I don't let them in the border. No, no, no, let them stay in your vacation home. You're 15,000 square foot vacation home that you only visit for three months out of the year. How about you let their legals alien stay there? Remember when you were talking all that trash about president Donald Trump saying he's a racist for not wanting people to come over here. Oh, now it's in your backyard now you are concerned. See, because I think it's not fair that the ones who are advocating for open borders the most are not affected the most by open border policy. If you look at it, you say, I mean it does illegal aliens coming through Texas coming through California. Coming through Arizona, many of them ended up in Florida. What are the chances that they're going to make it up to Chicago? What are the chances that they're going to make it up to Northern California? Some of these places, they're going to settle in a place that's closest and most conducive for them to settle in. And you know who's going to take the burden of those issues, the taxpayer. Where do you think these people go to school? When they bring their kids over here, where do you think they go to school? They ain't homeschooling them. They're going to school with your kids. And then when the teachers aren't getting paid enough and they're burdened to the bone, why do you think that's the case? Because we got an influx of people in our country that don't belong here. And we really don't have the resources to take care of them. Man, you think they're not bumping and grinding and pumping and sweating. They haven't kids too. And they having a lot of kids. You think they weren't contraceptive. You think they may not say that other word. You think they're doing the Afghanistan like Joe Biden? They probably are, because. They did. They may not say it. Y'all know what I'm talking about. They're removal game is on trash mode. So I bet you a $1 million they're having a lot of kids. And where do you think they go? When they're giving birth to children, they go to the hospital. And your insurance, or if you don't have insurance, you paid out of pocket for the birth of your child and your second child in your third child. On their 7th kid, who do you think is paying for it? They don't have a job, many of them, they don't have jobs, they don't have a social security number. They can't get a wicked work anywhere. A lot of them are working under the table. They don't have insurance. But that pregnancy that high risk pregnancy is 40, $50,000. Who is paying for it? Okay. I'm just wondering where you're paying attention. Are you awake? And I'm not saying in any form of fashion that we should be mean to people. And we should hate people. How dare you want to be in America? I understand why you want to be in America. However, we can't just let everybody come into America. We can't just let everybody do it. Let me just give you an example. I gave this example at a university that I was speaking at. And I said, you pay
The Officer Tatum Show
DeSantis Flies Two Planes of Migrants to Martha's Vineyard
"Now, if you've been watching the news or paying attention at all, you will realize that there were illegal aliens who were sent to Martha's Vineyard. Now, if you don't know what Martha's venue is, just imagine a place where all the wealthy people have their guesthouses and or vacation homes and Obama lived there. I'm sure Oprah Winfrey got a house there. All of these mega millionaires and billionaires have property at Martha's Vineyard. I would argue that it's an exclusive location where only wealthy people reside. Now I'm not going to lie and say I don't know people that live in Martha's Vineyard. I at least know one person that has a house in Martha's Vineyard that they don't even live at most of the time. So you can imagine that they are a billionaire. However, the ploy by desantis and governor Abbott sending some of these illegal aliens to multiple locations, I think, is petty, but I'm here for the pettiness.
AP News Radio
Sherri Shepherd's excited to be herself on new talk show
"Sherry shepherd will host her own talk show when sherry hits the air next week With the latest Sherri shepherd was part of the view for 7 years and now she breaks out on her own She will combine a look at pop culture with real people's stories and plenty of comedy Shepherd says she asked Oprah Winfrey for advice and took 15 pages of notes Shepherd says she has also been in touch with singer actor Jennifer Hudson who is starting her own talk show on the same day I'm so excited for her because her success is
The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"oprah winfrey" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Through 25 seasons. Hey. 4561 episodes. I believe The Oprah Winfrey Show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world. I really never thought of it that way. The aha moments, the breakthroughs, the LOLs, the connections, the occasional, ugly cry. I miss him so terribly, I miss every single minute. The moments that mattered. The eye opening life lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere else. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the vault. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet, shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me? Do you hear me? That's what I say mean anything to you. You are listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. They are women just like so many of you who are watching us right now. They worry about their kids. They worry about the bills and the laundry and their jobs while trying to also make sure nothing falls through the cracks. The difference is they are trying to do it from 7000 miles away as they also Dodge bullets live in barracks and fight terrorists. Now, alarming new reports are exposing a harsh reality that many women face when they come home. It is an issue that you will undoubtedly find shocking, and it demands our attention. Today, there are 1.8 million female veterans who've served in the United States military 230,000 have fought in Iraq and Afghanistan. 30,000 of them are single mothers. And now, female soldiers are returning home in record numbers, wounded and in desperate need of help. We are a system that was set up for men before they were an extensive number of women serving in the military. That very system is now struggling to provide solutions to problems specific to women. The statistics are staggering one in three female soldiers experienced sexual trauma or rape while serving in the military. One in three. And of those 80 to 90% said that they never reported the sexual trauma while they were on military status. When we first went to war in Iraq, I think Americans were surprised to see so many women fighting on the front lines. Today, there is an unprecedented number of female that who are left physically and psychologically damaged. Some experts say VA hospitals are overwhelmed and ill equipped to treat women. We can not improve and renovate a women's healthcare clinics fast enough because the women are coming through the doors right now and we're trying to ramp up our services at the exact same time. Long deployments are wreaking havoc on military marriages. Female soldiers on active duty are three times more likely to get divorced than their male counterparts. And some service women come home to bitter custody battles. Many end up losing their children. And another growing problem, homelessness is a real issue for a female veterans, the number of female veterans has doubled in the last decade. Experts believe there are at least 6500 women vets living in their cars in shelters sleeping on the streets. Female soldiers are two times more likely to become homeless than male veterans. We really see the problem of homelessness among veterans as a national shame. We are all dishonored any time a veteran sleeps on the very same streets that he or she has defended. That strikes me as so true, doesn't it, for all of you two? That we're all dishonored when a veteran has to sleep on the streets. Now take a look at this picture taken four years ago at a September 11th memorial. You can feel her pride. Today, this woman is 32 and living in her car. Food. I like to call it my kitchen. And this has like stuff that I can heat up and eat snacks, microwaves are very easily accessible. All times a night any time of night. So a lot of my food is microwavable. Alicia is a retired air force staff sergeant. She's proud to say she has served in Iraq and Afghanistan, and that she worked at The Pentagon. But for a year now, Alicia has been homeless for the past 6 weeks, she's been living in a car. She rents for $10 a day. I have slept in the most. Dangerous places with.
The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"oprah winfrey" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"25 seasons. Hey. 4561 episodes. I believe The Oprah Winfrey Show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world. I really never thought of it that way. The aha moments, the breakthroughs, the LOLs, the connections, the occasional, ugly cry. I miss him so terribly, I miss every single minute. The moments that mattered. The eye opening life lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere else. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the vault. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person.
The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"oprah winfrey" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Through 25 seasons. Hey. 4561 episodes. I believe The Oprah Winfrey Show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world. I really never thought of it that way. The aha moments, the breakthroughs, the LOLs, the connections, the occasional, ugly cry. I miss him so terribly, I miss in every single minute. The moments that mattered. The eye opening life lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere else. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the vault. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet, shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me? Do you hear me? That's what I say mean anything to you. You are listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. Think about this. Being forced to bathe in rivers, teeming with deadly fish and snakes 20 feet long. Swarmed night and day by armies of stinging and biting insects. Needing permission to go to the bathroom. Being chained by your neck to a tree. And walked on a leash, like a dog, waking up every morning, asking yourself, is today the day I'm going to die. I have never heard a more incredible story of survival of strength of courage in my life. Ingrid Betancourt is one of the most brave women I have ever heard of. For the first time, since her nail biting rescue, two years ago, Ingrid is ready to tell the intimate details of her 6 and a half years as a hostage, deep in the jungles of South.
The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"oprah winfrey" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Also a country where mothers stay with the abuses because they don't want to disrupt the family. Indeed. That's worshiping the wrong God. We still have to define family operationally, not biologically. Mmm um. You know, I've been dog has puppies. You don't say it's a mother. It's what the does that makes it a mother? Or a father or a brother or a sister. It's behavior that's the truth. So Andrew vox writes in another chance to get it right when he speaks of children. Children of the world, he says, future flowers now seeds, some hand raised nourished and love rich and ground. Others toss carelessly on the coldest concrete, struggling beneath Darwin's dispassionate sunlight. Each unique snowflake, individualized, and all the same. Our race, the human race, one color, many shades, treasures to some toys to others. They will reach the stars and stalk the shadows. What children are more than anything else is this. Another chance for our flawed species, another chance to get it right. I want to thank you as a friend because you've been very helpful to me in my own process of healing. And I have to say that I've come to terms, I think, with dealing with the anger for a long time, it was hard for me to even be angry because I would think getting angry was going to make people not like me, not love me and all of that. So you've been really instrumental in my process of healing. And I thank you for that. Well, as a friend, then would you let me say, I'm sorry, mom about making the crack about your cooking? That's right, 'cause we all gotta go home sometimes. Thank you, Andrew vox. Thank you, everybody. I'm Oprah Winfrey, and you've been listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. If you haven't yet, go to Apple podcasts and subscribe. Rate and review this podcast. Join me next week for another Oprah show. The podcast. And I thank you for listening..
The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"oprah winfrey" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Old. I was working at a Payless shoe source. This man walked into the store, right around closing time, and the second he walked in, I just knew something was wrong. Yeah. My body, my instinct, everything in my being was saying, run. Just run out of the store. The hairs rose on your arm. You knew it. You felt whatever that energy is when evil has its presence. I felt it. And I second guessed it because I didn't want to be mean. I didn't want to be in polite. That was actress Gabrielle Union who shared with us her story of surviving a brutal rape. And what do you want to say to women who, all of us, myself included, who are conditioned to be nice, we just want to be nice. There's no question. This is what the culture teaches, which is that women have to be nice all the time. You have to engage. If I say something to you in public, you have to respond. You can't be a bitch. You can't be mean. Yeah. And the fact is that men at core are afraid that women will laugh at them. And women at core are afraid that men will kill them. And often believe that if you're not nice, you increase the likelihood of danger and risk when in fact the exact opposite is true. It's when you're nice that you open up and give information that you engage with someone you don't want to talk to. Here she doesn't want to let someone into the store. And for fear of being perceived as not nice, she opens the door and lets him in. And it ultimately leads to a rape. I have not heard of one case in my entire career where someone was raped or murdered because they weren't nice. In other words, that's not the thing that motivates rape and murder. But I've heard of many, many cases where someone was victimized because they were open to the continued conversation with someone they didn't feel good about talking to. And didn't listen to the first. Um. Didn't listen to the first feeling. Even she said, I second guessed it. I second guessed it. Second guessed it. All right, earlier we were talking to Dottie and you said the restraining orders can create a false sense of security. Dottie said that. And her tape. Yeah, they're not right for every case at all. A woman who rejects a man face to face as you did, if he can't accept that rejection, then he sure can't accept the rejection from the court, where basically the court is saying to him, you're not good enough for daddy. You're not lovable, pushing all of the great pain buttons that he's got. And so men who are allergic to rejection, don't do well with restraining orders. And if you're using a restraining order in order to stop a homicide, it's the wrong piece of paper. It won't do it. Pieces of paper won't do that. If you're using it because you're dealing with someone who's reasonable enough to listen to a restraining order, usually the issue has never come up. Reasonable people don't need restraining orders. So it's not perfect for all cases. They're issued at the rate of a thousand a day in the United States. And yet, every year, hundreds of women are found murdered with a restraining order in their purse or restraining order on their bedside table. All I'm saying is it's not perfect for every case. And also, doesn't it as in the case of Dottie, give a false sense of security? It does. In fact, one of the most important things we tell people who do get restraining orders is in the time immediately after it, which daddy knows very well, that is when your risk is greatest. Immediately after the restraining order. Why? Because he's just been rejected and his reaction. Some people will react just fine and leave you alone and some won't. And so this is the time you've done something very provocative. Restraining orders basically are a strategy of war. They are not a strategy of peace. And so they are right for some cases, but not right for every case. I'll tell you what happens. They're always right for police officers. They get the woman out of the office. Go get a restraining order, prove to me that you really don't want to see him again. So they're always right for prosecutors, too. They're not always right for the woman who gets them. Well, there really is no way to count the number of lives that have been saved by this book, the gift of fear, because after hearing Gavin's message, so many people told us that when they spotted a red flag or had a feeling something was off, that something's not right here. They did follow their gut. So thank you, Gavin de Becker for reminding us of that. You just said yourself. Thank you. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. If you haven't yet, go to Apple podcasts and subscribe. Rate and review this podcast. Join me next week for another Oprah show. The podcast. And I thank you for listening..
The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"oprah winfrey" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"25 seasons. Hey. 4561 episodes. I believe The Oprah Winfrey Show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world. I really never thought of it that way. The aha moments, the breakthroughs, the LOLs, the connections, the occasional, ugly cry. I miss him so terribly, I miss it every single minute. The moments that mattered. The eye opening, life lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere else. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the vault. I personally chose in these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet, shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me? Do you hear me? That's what I say mean anything to you. You are listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show. The podcast. I don't want to waste any time today. I've absolutely no doubt that something is going to be said here in the next 60 minutes that will save a lot of lives. What if I told you that there is one weapon that's proven to prevent most crimes before they happen? Wouldn't you run out right now and get that? If I said, proven, proven. World renowned security expert Gavin de Becker. He's so good. I use it myself, says you already have that weapon. He calls it the gift of fear. For years on this show, since the last time you were here, I can't even remember the last time you were here. Every time somebody tells a story of some violent attack or some circumstances they've been in, I always say, when did you really know something was going on? Because I remember the story that you tell in the very beginning of your book about Kelly, what's your name? Kelly? Yes. Good memory. Yeah. Everybody knows. You know, I've done that for 30 years. Ask people after they were victimized. Was there anything you knew? Was there anything you felt beforehand? And most people say to me, no, it came out of nowhere. And then if I'm quiet, if I take a breath, here come all these details. I did know when I met that guy. I did know when I walked in that parking lot. I did have a feeling when such and such. And we're just like every other creature on earth. We get a signal prior to violence. There are pre incident indicators, things that happen before violence occurs. Well, I've told the story of Kelly many times in many different situations on air and off. Can you just summarize the Kelly story? Maybe the shortest one I can okay. She was coming home from shopping. It was nighttime. She came to her door and the door to her building was unlocked. It's supposed to be locked. So that was the first signal she got. Her neighbors had left it unlocked. She opened it, locked it behind her, walked upstairs, a bag of cat food that she had bought broke and cans rolled down stairs. And somebody from downstairs said, hey, I'll bring it up, and the minute she heard that man's voice, she didn't like him. Right. And then she spent the whole rest of the time talking herself out of it. A nice friendly guy came up the stairs. He said, hey, I've got the cat food for you. We've got a hungry cat upstairs. She should have said and could have thought, we don't have a cat at all, but he was trying to cause some belief that they were together in this thing. And the whole time she was saying to herself, jeez, a nice guy, why do I feel this way? Why do I feel this way talking herself out of the intuitive signal, the gift that we all have that something was wrong? Eventually she got to her apartment door, and he said, I'll just put the stuff inside. And she said, I know it's okay. And he said, no, no, it's all right. I'll leave the door open. I'll put it inside, and then I'll go, I promise. Of course, he didn't keep his promise. And all these signals that occurred to her later, she saved herself after the rape. He went to the kitchen and he said to her, don't you move? And she said, you know I won't. When he got up and left her room, she followed him, took the sheet and she walked right down the hall right behind him, close enough, that if she'd breathed, he'd have felt it on the back of her neck. And he walked into the kitchen, and she walked out her front door into the apartment across the hall and saved herself. He later killed someone else. But it was the same signal that she had received. She listened to this time. Now she knew he is going to harm me if I don't act on it, and she got up. And the great thing she said to me was I was a passenger on my own legs. She said I had nothing to do with it. I just followed what intuition told me to do and we've all got the same thing. More of our conversation in just a moment. Do you remember having a thing you were passionate about as a kid? Maybe it was collecting stamps or knowing everything there was to know about dinosaurs or tearing up the sidewalk with your skateboard. Maybe it was a budding obsession with ceramics. You know, kids haven't changed. They still have got that thing. They're obsessed with. And nurturing that passion is what makes kids thrive. No one gets that more than today's sponsor, sitter city. Sitter city is a bright horizons company that will connect you with sitters who are passionate about your kids favorite hobbies, activities, and things as your kids are. Visit sitter city to post a job for free, schedule interviews and run background checks. Looking for feedback you can trust, who better to turn to than other local parents and guardians. Read their ratings and reviews to make the best decision and connection for your family. You know, I still have the ceramic Holly hubby necklace that my babysitter made for me when I was in first grade. Get your kid a sitter who's into their thing as they are. Find a sitter today, visit sitter city dot com. That's SI, TT, ER, CITY, dot com. More of this conversation in just a moment. This podcast is sponsored by better help online therapy, and better help wants to tackle some of the stigmas around mental health. For example, many people think therapies for other people, but utilizing therapy doesn't mean something's wrong with you. It means you recognize that all humans have emotions and we need to learn to understand them, not avoid them. And we've been taught that mental health shouldn't be part of everyday life, but that's a misconception. Focusing on an investing in the health of our minds is just as important as taking care of our bodies. Lastly, some people think you should wait until things are unbearable to try therapy, but that isn't true. Therapy is a tool to utilize before things get bad. And it can help you avoid those lows. Better help is customized online therapy that offers video phone and even live chat with your therapist. So you don't have to see anyone on camera if you don't want to. It's much more affordable than in person therapy, and you can be matched with a therapist in under 48 hours. Give it a try and see why over 2 million people have used better help online therapy. And The Oprah Winfrey Show the podcast listeners get 10% off their first month at better help dot com slash Oprah. That's better HELP dot com slash Oprah. So this is a show about using that intuition to save your life. And one of the things I remembered from the gift of fear never forgot it is that you were saying that every we are like all other creatures, every other creature we're the only creature that will sense the danger and walk right into it. All other animals since the danger and they back out. The great example of that is, which will all recognize in an elevator in a hallway waiting for an elevator late at night, elevator door opens, and there's a guy inside, and he makes you afraid. You don't know why. You don't know what it is, some memory of this building, whatever it may be. And many women will stand there and look at that guy and say, oh, I don't want to think like that. I don't want to be the kind of person who lets the door close in his face. I don't want to hurt his feelings. I've got to be nice. I don't want him to think I'm not nice. And so human beings will get into a steel soundproof chamber with someone they're afraid of. And there's not another animal in nature that would even consider it. Well, listen to this. This is Nicole, and for weeks, she had one of those funny feelings, just a funny feeling. And the feeling was something odd.
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The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
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"It's never, ever too late. And sometimes dad felt, he told me, felt like such a jerk for what he did, that he could not even reduce it to a letter and felt it was so minuscule. But you just as a parent have to start. What about all the parents right now who divorced? And it's been, you know, ten years, 19 years, 20 years who want to begin the conversation. What should they do? Call their child get together with them and tell them I really, really want to hear what it was like to be you. I can take it. I love you and I care enough about you and us that I want to move forward. I can just hear it. I just want to listen. Give the children permission to tell you how they really feel. Your adult children. You're adult children. And you're a little children. You're a little children too. If you're going through it, yeah. How does this make you feel Victoria? Hearing him apologize, all these years later. It means a lot. And how did you feel hearing that from your promise? It means a great deal. It means the world to me. I feel like a big piece has been put back in my life. And I can move forward. So in closing, Gary, you want to say what, to all the families who may be in this process? Well, you know, make the call write a letter if you need to get in touch with each other. Have a friend help you if there's good that you know of some kind of person to help mediate. And I think at all times. A letter is a good start. If you don't feel like you can have the confrontation. That is good. Sometimes even having a letter and bringing it so that you can read it or bringing an aunt uncle friend somebody who can be there to help facilitate make sure everybody's listening to each other can be very helpful. How important is it to resolve this? Bring this to some resolution. If you're an adult child, whose parents divorce. It's crucial because childhood counts. And when things happen to us, it's still causes us to behave in what we call unconscious ways. Because you carry it into your marriage. And to your families, if you don't heal the wounds. Thank you. Thank you families for being courageous enough to show up here today. Thank you. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. If you haven't yet, go to Apple podcasts and subscribe, great and review this podcast. Join me next week for another Oprah show. The podcast. And I thank you for listening..
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"Open Jeffrey candidate was talking about earlier that literally the future of our country is at stake. This is 28 year old latifah piles. He's a barber in Atlanta. And he found a simple way to mentor the children who live around his barbershop. What do you do? We just get out and play basketball I bought some goals for the neighborhood and the kids come out. They come to the shop every day about ten to 15 of them to just play ball all day and they have an opportunity. It's an open door policy in my barbershop. They come in, talk to me about whatever issues they have. And I just try to be somebody to listen to them and give them positive advice. That's what I mean. That's why I'm here to do. I love a barber who then cut his hair. I know anything. What he did was he built a little basketball court. He might as well shop is so tiny. But he put a little hoop back there so that the young boys wouldn't be, what were they using? They were using a wire in the street. They used it. Yeah. Did they use an extension cord to put up the goals? So I just decided to get some real basketball goes out there, phone. So what do you want to say? What I want to say is I want to say thank you to doctor Sandra Baxter, also the Department of Education, the National Institute of literacy that's made available this wonderful brochure that helps people to get connected and understand what mentoring is all about, but there are so many myths. You know, it's going to take a lot of time, what will I do with children? I don't know. You know what, just be yourself. Yeah, that's what we're saying. That's exactly right. Yeah. What I want to say Oprah is that it's doable. And that's what I think we don't know. We don't read it in the daily newspaper. We don't see it on the nightly news. For every problem there is a solution and where the answer. So our children, the children are not doing well. Children have any race in this country. They're not doing well. And it's our responsibility as elders. To first nurture ourselves. Take care of ourselves so that we bring our best selves to parenting and to mentoring. And just from the bottom of my heart and my essence family's heart, please get involved. Let us save ourselves. The government can't do it. We have to do it. As you said, as people have been saying, not on our watch, we can do better than this wonderful. It doesn't take a Harvard degree or millions of dollars to make a difference in a child's life. As you've seen here today, living examples. It just really takes a commitment and a will to do better. Save a child today. Okay. Marvelous. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. If you haven't yet, go to Apple podcasts and subscribe. Rate and review this podcast, join me next week for another Oprah show. The podcast. And I thank you for listening..
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"Do you have favorites of your own? Favorites? Yeah. I have 6 favorite films out of 56. Okay, what are they? Is that one of them? That's one of them. Okay. I won't tell you the other four, because the more I narrow it down, then there will be so many films that will be left out and so many people I've worked with and I don't want to make that kind of thing. You are entitled to have your favorite sex. It's got to be they call me mister dead. That's one. That's also what. Okay. Let's talk about the slap scene in there. The slapping scene in there. It originally, it was not written so that you slapped him back. Is that correct? Correct, yeah. And you said, I said that I wouldn't play it that way. Because. Because. The guys who wrote the script, well intended, though they were. They were extending an old stereotypical pattern. Two extremes. I mean, that was the epitome of turning the other cheek. The situation. And I thought this was a modern man. This was a lieutenant of detectives in the homicide division of the Philadelphia police department. And this guy, without reason, slaps him across the face. And I said to the director and the producer, if you want to make really good cinema, if you want to have a scene that will be remembered, and if you want me in the picture. Then you will rewrite it so that within a nanosecond, as soon as he slaps me, he gets slapped right back. So I would think that would have made you even angrier when you get charges that you're not standing up. You're not black enough because you have in your own way behind the scenes and on the screen been standing up for that what you believe to be true and right. Yeah, but you know history passes the final judgment. And in my case, the body of work stands for itself. I have not made a film that I was ashamed of. I have made a film that my mother could see and feel very good. I have made 56 motion pictures. I've been a principal player in motion pictures for 50 odd years. And I think that my work has been representative of me as a man. And I think as a man I've been representative of the values I hold dear. And the values I hold here are carryovers from the lives of my parents. So I'm okay. With myself with history, my work who I am and who I was. How do you look so good? What are you doing? I mean, we have a special herbs and spices or how do you look so good? Well, thank you. I mean, I'm not aware that I look that good. You look good. When Sydney Poirier remembers his spirit, his mind wanders back to The Bahamas where he grew up. The values he learned from his parents have kept him connected to the powerful inner spirit that continues to guide him. During my earliest years, I was constantly exposed to nature. There were, for instance, not automobiles, no motorized vehicles at all. Boats are trucks or cars. So the sounds that came to me when I was a boy. Were the sounds of the environment where the sounds of insects singing and the sounds of water against the shore. But then when I went to places where there were cars and traffic and people, I began to realize the difference. I could walk on a beach for hours and hours by myself. I used to do that, but and I would listen to the sounds of all of which were natural sounds. There was a purity, there was a closeness to nature. I know that it was a most powerful influence on the rest of my life. I honor my spirit when I think of the core values of my parents. My father didn't define his core self by material things. He didn't loved us, and he cared for us, and he talked to us and he nurtured us. My mother's spirit is always around me. Always there. Guiding me of loose. I can sense it. I first felt that sense of connection with my parents on cat island. And I never lost that. My spirit is honored. When I think of my connectedness to the universe, I feel I'm a part of everything. I'm a part of nature. Thank you so much. This is a full circle moment for me. Just for me as well. Thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show the podcast. If you haven't yet, go to Apple podcasts and subscribe, great and review this podcast. Join me next week for another Oprah show. The podcast. And I thank you for listening. This podcast is sponsored by better help online therapy. We take care of our bodies with the gym, the doctor, and nutrition. We should be focusing on our minds just as much. Better help is customized online therapy that offers video, phone, and even live chat with your therapist. It's more affordable than in person therapy, and you can be matched with a therapist in under 48 hours. Give it a try and see why over 2 million people have used better help online therapy. Podcast listeners get 10% off their first month at better help dot com slash stitcher. That's better HELP dot com slash stitcher..
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"For me, part of being elders are more patient. And with that comes wisdom, definitely. When I was younger, I just sped through everything. Had a good time. Some of the time, but I feel like it's been through it. I would say, the more I go up in years, the more I appreciate, being conscious of every moment, savoring things. I wish I had known when to shut up. You don't always have to blow back when you feel under attack. You don't have to write the angry letter or make the angry phone call. I have learned that I really need time alone. And I always thought that was a character flaw. I had to kind of change, but now I have learned, no, that's part of who I am. I don't need Gayle singing on the cross country trip. Oh crap. You're paying. That experience may be a few years. Thank you, Diane. So please, I just compliment you because I don't know a man in the world in your position. That would do this show with this topic. And I think it's wonderful. Thank you. You want to tell women the truth about it? And what is the good news do you think about getting older, aging? The good news. I had sort of crippling self esteem problems when I was younger. That's all amazing to me. I remember interviewing you for the magazine, and you were saying that, how do you get to be an actress if you're so well, you know, if you can get maybe millions of people to say they approve of you, maybe you'll then feel better at it. Yeah. But it doesn't work. I was modeling after I was out of college and I was doing Victoria secret catalog and cosmopolitan magazine, all this, you know, thongs and everything. Yeah. But in real life, I was wearing those panties that come like all the way up to your grandma panties? Yeah. Graham granny panties. And I mean G strings and Cosmo and so you could do it. I really was. So you'd gain confidence. Yes, yes. Absolutely. Absolutely. And for you, the good news is. I have the patience. I agree with Alfred. The good news? I know you feel bad about your neck. I do. And I feel good. I don't have to shave my legs as much. You know? That's good. But the good news is I'm here, and I love every thing. It was raining the other day. It's raining. You know? And I just really feel that I have learned partly from going through difficult things with friends. You know, to not save the bath oil because what are you saving it for? Yes. You know? Give yourself a really fabulous Beth and use up that pathway. Every day. You know? Because every day. But I don't you think really, I have found for myself that the best secret to aging is about your attitude. Absolutely. I think it's how you feel about yourself at any given moment. And if you are in love with yourself, if you feel that what you have to offer to use yourself, your family in the world, I think it's attitude. Do you agree? No. I will always remember my mother saying to me, Diane, you do know, when I became 50, she said, I did not look like you at 50. And you're 50 is wonderful. I don't know what you're doing, but she almost said honor it. And continue to do that. It's really great to hear from your mother. Yes. Yes. Thank you for I feel bad about my neck. If you haven't read this book, you've got to read this book, and then talk about it with your friend. It's great. Thank you. Thank you so much. Doctor Susan love. Thank you so much for being here too. For those questions about the JJ's events. Doctor Brooks, doctor lab's book is doctor Susan love's menopause and hormone book. Thanks everybody. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. If you haven't yet, go to Apple podcasts and subscribe. Rate and review this podcast. Join me next week for another Oprah show. The podcast. And I thank you for listening..
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"Feel like I'm dead on the inside because there's not much to me. Basically just admitted to us that she feels like trash and you say, I say that you are really exhibiting what somehow very early in your life was told to you. And so I want to know because that feeling of trash being unworthy doesn't start in adulthood. So where did it start? It absolutely started in my childhood. I'd never denied that. The fact that I found this wonderful man who takes such wonderful care of me and my children. I mean, stop for a second because now we're into he's wonderful. And he may be, but I've never felt worthy of having him in my life. Okay, but so tell me about that. Meaning, where did you learn that you weren't worthy? I guess that's just the way I grew up. Honestly. So, but who? I mean, somebody sent you a message. We were used, okay. And there's no secret about that. I just wasn't sure that it was something I needed to come out with. But so now that you've come out with it, what's important, because that's not our business. The details, what is important is do you know how that shaped you? Absolutely. Okay, so then does that mean that you understand that when you talk about how good your husband is? But that you are a piece of trash. This is what I noticed what you were saying. You said, I would love for my husband to be proud of me. I would love my husband to have me on his arms, and I love him. I would love my husband to feel passion with me. I would love everything that you were saying about your husband is what you need to feel for yourself. Absolutely. Is that true? Yes. And what was robbed from you as a child? That was stolen from you. And so the focus is always about pleasing someone else. Yeah, I think this is important to say I would like for everybody to know this. Everything all because you keep asking everybody, where did this happen before? It wasn't the 13 years ago. Everything starts in your childhood. Yes. And I know that there are people who don't want to say that or admit that because they're like, oh, now we gotta go blame in our mothers. Right. It's not that. No. And mothers are like, don't go blaming me, right? What? And my mother's saying, the same thing right now. Don't go blame it, but. Yeah. The truth of the matter is you are shaped in your childhood, your beliefs and your values and what you think of yourself. That doesn't change just because you get to be an adult. And what's so important about Oprah what you just said is that you're talking about the healing happens when we can rewrite the script. So you can see that that's how I got to feel this. Exactly. And I don't have to feel that way. Absolutely. Because it was rooted in somebody else's lie about me or somebody else's misery about themselves. Correct. Okay. Next, doctor Robin is going to tell us how all the guests are connected. What do they have in common? Not good enough, self hatred, people here, the word self hatred and they think, oh, that's not me. But it is you, which means that any time you keep yourself from goodness, coming into your life in any form, whether it's losing weight, eating enough or receiving gifts. Every time we allow the old script to live again as if it is our own instead of saying that was the old script, that's what someone else said about me. Now I'm going to write my own script. So maybe I was adopted. And I don't understand why somebody would give me up. But guess what? I'm going to write a new script because I have a husband who loves me, kids who deserve to be nurtured. Maybe two marriages didn't work. And I'm with somebody right now who's calling me names. But I'm going to stop drinking, driving while I'm drinking. I'm also going to stop the verbal abuse. Why? Because I'm worthy. And in this instance, I will begin to allow my husband to nurture me to gift me, not just with financial because it's about the lies you were told about yourself. I think that you believed. That's all it is. It's about the lies you were told, and you believed about yourself. And this is true for all of us. Just got to change the belief. Exactly. As kids, we believe what is told. You're beautiful, you're smart, you're dumb, you're ugly. Whatever it is you were told, we all took it in. And it's now to say I'm going to break that lie, and I'm going to create that which is true about me. That which God says about me, and that which the surrounding, healthy community, husbands who love us, not people who call us fat. This is huge. It's huge. Huge. You know, all those years I was eating and out of control, and you were saying, you know what? Two 37 is. And I remember that moment where I was at the fight and the heavyweight champion of the world Mike Tyson, I weigh more than he did. But all those years, I was lying to myself. I thought I just like potatoes. Yes. You know? Yes. And it took me, you know, doing shows because I never had therapy. I could have gotten to it sooner if I had therapy. To realize that it wasn't about the food. That's right. It was about my feeling worthy. That's right. My feeling I was good enough to own everything. That's right. Not just physically own it, but to emotionally and spiritually own it. And so for everybody, I don't know if there's been abused in your background or whatever. And if you've been abused, you have to come to terms with the sense of worthiness. Yes. A sense of worthiness that I am worthy to accept the gifts that I have been given. Absolutely. And that is the work. That is the real work of your life. You know what, as I was watching her earlier with bent in their son, you can't even imagine the damage that you're doing. The script will not be written for ten or 12 years from now when you get to see actually what happened because of your behavior. It's just toner. I'm just beside myself. Let's just tore me up. Well, you need to be beside enough to do something. And beside yourself and get in these steps get in yourself. Yeah. Okay, we're out of time. Way out by I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. If you haven't yet, go to Apple podcasts and subscribe. Rate and review this podcast. Join me next week for another Oprah show. The podcast. And I thank you for listening..
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"Got SPF 500 on your skin. That's right. Yes, baby. It keeps the wrinkles away. Keep the wrinkles away. Yeah. But it also comes from our sun's rays. Right. Okay. Moving on to the skin. What are the three letters everybody should know? They're alpha hydroxy acid, AHA. So glycolic alpha hydroxy acid doesn't cost very much, but it fools your skin into thinking it needs to rejuvenate itself. And so it produces new skin, which makes you look younger. It does? So that's the great. Now there's one other trick. It really does. It really does. There are three other letters. Factors nor of aspirin as ASA, I see the salicylic acid. So if you don't get AHA or even if you do, you should take that two aspirin to baby aspirin a day because they stop inflammation in your skin, which means you look younger. Inflammation is the largest cause of our wrinkling of the skin. So aspirin and AHA. An HA is in the products that we buy. Right. And it will say that, right? It says alpha hydroxy acid, right? Yeah, I didn't know if that was really true or not. So is all that other skin stuff a myth? Well, it does smell nice. Yeah. And it does represent a transfer of money from your wallet to theirs. Yeah. But it doesn't do much else. Okay. Thank you everybody. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. If you haven't yet, go to Apple podcasts and subscribe. Rate and review this podcast, join me next week for another Oprah show. The podcast. And I thank you for listening..
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"Through 25 seasons. Hey. 4561 episodes. I believe The Oprah Winfrey Show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world. A world never thought of it that way. The aha moments, the breakthroughs, the LOLs, the connections, the occasional, ugly cry. I miss him so terribly, I miss it every single minute. The moments that mattered. The eye opening, life lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere else. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the vault. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet, shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me? Do you hear me? That's what I say, mean anything to you. You are listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show. The podcast. So are you thinking that you can afford that new SUV because of 0% financing? Maybe you believe that now is a time to buy a new house because interest rates are at an all time low. Well, you all know Suzy orman, she's the author of three bestselling books, including the road to wealth. She is here to crunch the numbers and help you figure out exactly what you can really afford. Suzie says, most people are living in denial about what they can really afford. And now is not the time to be in denial. Now if there was ever a time it is not now when the economy is not supporting your denial. Right. They're trying to get people in denial about it because it's easier to it's easier. People really feel that they are entitled. And they want they work so hard, don't you, you work so hard. And you just want a little thing here and a little thing there. And the problem is those little things add up to a lot of debt. And then you don't want those things anymore. And then you get depressed and then you go out and how do you solve that depression? By buying more things. So it's really a normal phenomenon that we have to put a stop, too. Okay. A lot of lifelong financial struggles begin with the wedding. This is Jennifer and her fiance Jason. And they are planning a wedding next fall, and they have different ideas about what they can really afford. I have just mountains of debts right now. Credit cards. I owe on a motorcycle I have. I owe on the ring for Jennifer. I'm anticipating spending about three thousand on a dress. $3000, I think it's a good deal. I don't know. I have car payments. I still have my school debt, my tuition, I'm still paying back. The invitations that I saw and that I really loved looking for about $800 for 50. We were planning on inviting about 200 people. That was awesome a little bit. It's 16,000. I usually don't think I have that much. That's not even counting what she's got somewhere around 25,000 with all her bills. The caterer will probably be about a $125 a person. The honeymoon will probably cost about $5000 for Hawaii. I really wanna give Jennifer the wedding of her dreams, but I don't wanna end up in debt. I absolutely don't mind going in a debt for this wedding because I know in a few years Jason, my will probably be able to pay it off. I do not want to put anything on credit card. I will pay for my wedding with credit cards. I will do anything to have the wedding in my dreams. I know my budget is different than what Jennifer's budget is. I tell her 20, but I'm trying to get things more around 15. Our budget as far as I'm concerned is 25,000, but I don't have a problem going over. I'm definitely nervous when you combine both of our debts together. It makes me a lot more nervous about this wedding. And what we're gonna have to come up with to afford it. More of this conversation in just a moment. Start your day in a positive way with the Lisa show. A high energy engaging morning show. Radio personality Richie T joins award winning author comedian and mother Lisa Valentine Clark for fun, entertaining and useful conversations. Lisa's warm personality helps listeners find hope, optimism and life perspective, particularly parents who have kids at home. And Richie's good natured enthusiasm makes the show a bright spot on any playlist. Catch Lisa and Richie interviewing the latest bestselling children's author, or talking tips for improving your family's mental health with experts. Some recent topics featured include staying motivated at work. First day of school traditions, better and faster decision making. Fighting our gifts, and how to have hard conversations with family. One thing's for sure, whatever they're talking about, you'll leave feeling better than you did before. Listen to the Lisa show wherever you get your podcasts. So we tagged along with Jennifer and Jason last Saturday as they took a closer look at what their dream wedding would cost. I'm a bride. Yay. It looks beautiful. I do. If the stress was, you know, 5000. Definitely, I wouldn't care about the price that was 1500. Okay. The veil was one 80. And tiara is two 85. See where we are. It was 19. Oh my God. That's it? That's it. Well, alteration. It's gonna be probably about two 50. So 22 15? Yeah, 22 15. Right. That's good. And then tax, of course. 24 O 8. 24 O 8, not bad. It's under your budget. Yeah, under my bushy, Jason's now, I'm not sure. Oh, I like the dome. Do you like the dome on? That's nice too. I'm getting so excited. Now I know that there was a payment plan for the engagement. Do you have any kind of payment plans for the wedding for winning bands? We certainly do. We have a number of different options. We ask for a 25% deposit. And then when the ring comes in, put it on one of the finance programs. Okay. This album is called the Tiffany. I like that. Jason, bottom line is $2995. Not including tax. That's good. I have no idea how we afford them. But hunt, I mean, these are pictures they're gonna last forever. Something's gonna give that, I don't think we can afford it. The look how nice is this here, so I definitely want those. Well then you're gonna have to cut up something else. We can't afford this drink. I feel like the juhan? I love the view. Now, I'm sure you're wondering about dollars and cents. Yes. Brazilian. Which would be the ideal spot for 200 people. In $6000 on a Saturday night, not including anything, but the space. Is that correct? For the space. What are your price ranges? We are a custom cater. I can begin at a $105 and includes an open bar as well as three courses down meal, including wedding cake and pastor dirt. I think that's a good price. Option 5. Then you still have to think of how many people we want to have here though. Right. There's a 150 to 200 people coming. You think you can afford it? I know she likes the place, but I really worried it's gonna be out of our budget. I'm feeling very overwhelmed. I don't think there's any way we could pay cash for this wedding. You'd be putting bills on credit cards. We don't have very much saved up for something like this. I was thinking we could possibly save the money as we go. And when the event comes, we pay for the majority of it. But now I'm starting to see that they want to be paid well in advance of.
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"oprah winfrey" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Julie. So Pam O'Malley and Gail were just casual friends and neighbors until Pam was diagnosed with breast cancer. That's when Gail became her angel. After I was diagnosed with the breast cancer, one of the hardest things I had to do in my life was to tell my children. My biggest concerns is that I wouldn't be around to see my kids grow up. You never think that anything would actually happen to your mom. You know, you always think it's somebody else. I had my choice between a lumpectomy and a mastectomy. I opted for the mastectomy. You know that you'll never be the same. After the surgery, when I realized that things weren't going well, and they told me I would have to change these dressings three times a day. I just couldn't do it. And my family couldn't do it. They emotionally couldn't do it. They physically couldn't do it. I didn't want them to see me like that and just kind of emotionally collapsed at that point. And that's when I contacted my friend Gale. Before p.m. second surgery, she had asked me if I would help her with changing the dressings. She just couldn't look at herself because that was just a reminder of her cancer. I couldn't believe how you can be mutilated. All the different marks on your body and cuts and bruises it was just so ugly. Nobody in the family could handle it. So somebody had to step in and I was happy to do it. For weeks and weeks. She came to my house three times a day. I always thought I was the only one in her life. She's walking, she'd be very calm, never felt rushed. You know, she always seemed like she was so happy to be here. She came in and did what she needed to do, she would do it and we would talk and we always had something to say and she wasn't there to take care of this cancer patient and do these things for the cancer. She was there for me. I was like a second mother. Cooking a dinner making sure everyone was done. Helping her mom get through chemo. Showers made sure we were okay. In the past, you know, you hear stories about angels, you know, what is an angel? As I was going through this, I would just look around and think kale is an angel. She never made me feel that I was taken from her. That this was just something she wanted to do. She's my guardian angel. Just always right there. I was honored that she asked me to help with her care. What I did for Pam is what I would do for my sister. I'll never. Be able to pay her back. She was my everything. How do you pay somebody back for that? Thank you, Pam and Gail. Thank you all so much. Thanks everybody. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. If you haven't yet, go to Apple podcasts and subscribe rate and review this podcast. Join me next week for another Oprah show. The podcast. And I thank you for listening..
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"oprah winfrey" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"On like some melissa says jordan has completely turned around. How so he has made a complete u-turn he has been. Our family has been more as one of a family where he can. If he's got a problem he can come and tell us what's wrong with him. Yes you want to say politics commitment to this situation. The time that he spent with jordan was phenomenal. Gave me direction most of all say. Hey take the time. That's what bothers to do. Put the remote down put whatever it is down take the time. Yeah it means a lot fantastic. That's great many boys say a spiritual connection to their soul helps them overcome their inner struggles. Seventeen year old. Michael needed strength to survive a painful childhood. That left him drowning. He says in loneliness. When i was around a my parents divorced and it started getting rough between me and my father. I can remember feeling so. Like i did have a friend in the world and this small star it's right directly below. The big dipper spoke to me since stan since that young age of eight hammond i've been through quite a bit together. I was pretty much. The all american kid my freshman year. A new girl enrolled in our school. We dated for nine ten aunts and it abruptly ended. I started turning inward. I wouldn't talk to anybody. It quickly evolved into a depression. I started doing a lot of drugs one day. I looked in the mirror. And i had no i do i was looking at. I knew i needed to get even at this point and I turned to my friend the star talking with the star having a conversation with the star it serves as a mediator between my external and internal self. I know that my bout with depression made me more sensitive person. Everything at i'd ever been through it was a miracle. It was a blessing today. I'm helping teenagers realized that suicide is not a solution. Bob offering them the kind of friend that the star has always offering me. My spirit is now tireless. It cannot be conquered. It cannot even be dented. My spirit is what i really am. And when it is my time to go i'll be sure to make a stop my way to heaven and personally thank my star. Dr pollock's book is called real. Boys voices thank you to all the boys who shared their stories with us today. Thank you thank you boys. Joe i'm oprah winfrey and you've been listening to the oprah winfrey show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. join me next week. For another oprah. Show the podcast. I thank you for listening at target. Your dollar goes further. You'll find great deals and low prices on everything. Your family needs like a box of kraft. Macaroni and cheese spirals for just ninety nine cents and that's just the start at target. The low prices never end. Prices may vary..
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Oprah Winfrey Picks Between BFF Gayle King & Stedman Graham
"Went down when besties oprah and gayle where road tripping for oprah daily and the girl talk got real watching. This was the third wheel. I didn't know nobody told me no did likely that would've been tub. Didn't like you then. There wouldn't have lasted because husband's coming boyfriends. Come and go by best friend. Best friends last forever. First of all. I'm just happy equinoxes anymore. Remember back in the day. They used to be devolved when they did this on the show. Touch yeah i was happy there at a an alexis today. What is okay what you put your main your friends ahead of your man. I feel like if you're smart. You do but i i definitely feel like husbands go and friends come and go like i just think it's unequal. It's an equal playing field. Like a mama. I know i did that because she was on camera would have been there. You would hurt us. I love you is what we do. I don't know. I l has got a see. I truly believe that. Gal has a lifetime. Membership oprah winfrey fan club. And she always have that seat. But i think what's really smart is oprah definitely puts her friendship with gail before statement but she also knows her man's
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"oprah winfrey" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Better than having it's hard it gets. It gets tough at times. Feel worried that. I'm we'll have enough time out of the day to just look into my husband's is and tell him i love and it's no no for me for my husband laurel says melissa has paper-thin boundaries as do all people pleasers. Yes yeah people pleased have buried thin boundaries. Because there's no acceptance inside. There's no strong nurturing voice inside and usually there's emotional trash from the past of early rejection paper-thin boundaries may meaning. Anybody can awesome at any time. Anybody i know how you feel and what you need. But do i know how i feel and what i need. No what i need in order for me to feel good. You have to like me. You have to love me. Because i don't have that nurturing loving voice inside myself i'm dependent upon it. I'm depended upon your acceptance. Because i haven't gone downside to interface that i am alone and that leads to a false comfort. Aren't people pleasers underneath really angry. Hello underneath all of them. Pleasing and pleasing aren't if you were to scrape the surface great. Go down go down. Go down there. There's a lot of anger there for. There's a lot of anger and there's a lot of despair because they feel so deeply unloved. The early history for most people who are people pleasers was of parental rejection. And so the whole key is to take out that emotional trash. We'll see in a minute and feel our feelings and and will listen a person who is highly thinking oriented which has a problem to it. Those of us who tend to be not feeling oriented like pam was the thinking oriented. Do great in the world we go out and we analyze and we make things happen. We take action however we don't feel so you cannot have a connection without a feeling so we're cut off from ourselves our relationship but they're not connecting and the spiritual and so we end up doing one excess. After another so one of the things that i want you to do. My dear is to disrupt. The obsessive repetitive thoughts. All that list making you're not worrying you're obsessing because over control an obsessive thinking god is a way of getting the illusion of control. The real control you have inside is the practice moment to moment throughout the day of going inside and finding your field says it again the over control on the list listening. May she's worried she's not worried. She's obsessing. Her thoughts are racing. That you're creating that you do have some control. Not only so another words the more you think you think if i can just figure it out if i can just analyze it enough then i can control it. And it's just a complete illusion and yet is it takes a lot of time. It's socially acceptable to analyze everything. But it doesn't give your heart your soul. What you truly need. What do you think about what she's saying. She that's correct. Uh-huh i should absolutely correct if i do something i have to see it. Through to the end there is no everything has to have a beginning middle and end and end. Can't come in the middle and the beginning in the end you just if it happens like that then that's it. I don't want to forget it. You're like this a very famous person might've been emmerson. I don't know who said some people are so busy leading the lives they planned and so you can't leave the life that was meant that be that would be me. I love the most of us have Who don't have enough of these skills had parents who were either too easy on us or too hard on us. Who didn't have any real expectations of us didn't expect much or had rigid harsh expectations. And you had harsh expectations on you and so the harsh expectations went from your dad. And your mom to you. And how was it for you to have those harsh expectations inside of you know gosh. It's like a volcano right about to re and so what you're going to do because that's not genetic it's learn is moment to moment. You're going to begin to switch expectations for my have to be perfect to. I expect myself to do the best i can. I don't have to be perfect to be wonderful. That's my new model. That's going to be written down. I'm oprah winfrey. And you've been listening to the oprah winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. join me next week. For another oprah show the podcast. Thank you for listening at target. Your dollar goes further for just one dollar and eighty nine cents at some sparkle to your picnic with a two liter bottle of coca cola soda physi- fund and a great deal. And that's just the start at target. The low prices never end. Prices may vary..
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Bipolar Disorder: Depressed, Mentally Ill & Famous
"Bernard sizzles. Sonny corinthos gorgeous star. Abc's hit soap opera. General hospital in real life. The devoted family man has been married to his sweetheart paula for fourteen years and they live a quiet life in los angeles with their two daughters. But maurice's life isn't as picture-perfect as it seems every day behind the scenes. Maurice battles mental illness that once left him violent suicidal and at its worst locked inside a mental institution wondering if he'd ever get out so maurice's struggle with the demons of his bipolar disorder began in his early twenties just as he was beginning is acting career. I think the real start of it was I woke up in my friends apartment. And i was drinking and i was crying uncontrollably. I think i'm losing my mind. That was just beginning of the battle inside maurice bernard's brain at twenty two. He slipped into what he calls the dark side and turned violent against his mother. Kind of physical by the arm. When i looked at my dad. And i said that i was the devil and i was yelling at him. Scary it my mind was was racing undermines. Now it's kind of like being in a nightmare and not being able to wake up. They had to admit me. I went to a psychiatric hospital. I was strapped down in the wheelchair. Remember waking up in the sunlight was coming through. The window. Could barely hear. I died in manhattan. He was trapped in his own nightmare heavily medicated and restrained in solitary confinement in a mental institution. I remember having lots of and then ending in that state. You almost feel like it's always gonna to be that way. So why is life worth living. Maurice was diagnosed as manic depressive. What's happening inside of you. You almost feel like you. You wanna explode. You have so much emotion so much energy almost like drug. The high you get from it but for maurice. The manic highs are always followed by deep paralyzing depression. I had no confidence. You look in the mirror and you you still the same person but it doesn't matter. It's what's happening inside. It's just an enormous enormous amount of
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An Interview With Clara Harris, the Woman Who Killed Her Husband
"Clara harris was born in columbia south america. In her twenties she moved to houston texas where she built her own. American dream clara became a successful dentist even won a beauty contest but says her greatest achievement was marrying the love of her life. David harris a charming attractive orthodontist clara and david launched a booming dental practice together. They had beautiful twin boys a gorgeous mansion and what seemed like a loving 10-year-marriage but in an instant clara's fairytale life was shattered. David confessed. He was having an affair with his office. Receptions eight days later. David was dead. Accent and clara was charged with first degree murder. Guilty of myrtle is george jury found her guilty and clara was sentenced to twenty years in prison so for the first time. Clara harris is telling her side of the story. She says it's what the prosecutors and the media did not want you to hear you get to be the judge clara harris vicious murderer or a deceived wife who snapped for the past two years. She's been locked up in maximum security at the mountain view correctional center and gatesville texas. That is where. I went to see her for this one on one interview. Tell me about the day. What was going on in your life when your husband told you that he was having an affair with the funny thing is that he didn't want to tell me they office ladies his office ladies had confronted him they have seen these going on for three months in they had enough. They said we cannot keep working with him. And he's doing this. You know big didn't say the lady that he was. That lady was jailed. Bridges a thirty nine year old divorcee and mother of three gail had recently been hired to work as a receptionist in one of david and clara's into offices
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Rihanna Officially Becomes a Billionaire, Forbes Says
"Beauty companies helped make the singer of billionaire she started Fenty Beauty in 2017. She also has a laundry line and, of course, our music and acting career, Forbes says. Rihanna is now the wealthiest female musician in the world. And second only to Oprah Winfrey as the richest female entertainer
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Here's Why Self-Care Is Not Selfish
"We've lined up team of experts to help you make over not only your body but your mind in your spirit as well heading up. Our makeover team showed richardson author of. Take time for your life. Then when cheryl was here she showed us how to start living a more meaningful life by practicing extreme. Self care is what she said and so interesting because even my best friend gayle. Who is you know You know a single mom now saying you know that is just an. That's a foreign concept. The idea of putting yourself first on the list which a lot of the women who wrote to us in emailed us had a lot of trouble with that the number one thing. I think you know the consistent thing was. Isn't that selfish and oprah. Aren't you preaching to people about being selfish. Aren't there enough selfish. People in the world. I think of it as selfish with a capital s. You know the kind of selfish that your spirit if we don't do that all of us as individuals we're in trouble is the culture. I mean we already know that we already see that happening. And so he asked for some people. It is going to be selfish at first. But you know this as well as i do that as you begin to take good care of yourself and your cup gets filled up you naturally then want to be there for others. You wanna serve others annual able to do it and miraculous way. Yes cheryl says This is going to help you a lot. I hope that the next step to making over your life is identifying key and eliminating energy drains. And it's up to you to do that. Nobody can do that for you. She says that creating your best life has more to do with what you remove from your life. Then what you add to your. What we're saying is if you focus on removing things from your life you take the life you're already living and start shaping it up and start looking at what don't i. What don't i need. What thoughts do. I think that i need to let go of and start removing things from your life. I think what happens is your best self in your best life reveals itself as you move away all the stuff the emotional physical and spiritual energy drain.
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Manifesting Money and More
"Many of you in here understand now that your thoughts create your reality. Is that really get that. You have the life that you have right now because of everything you thought and then said and then did you get that all right so that also works with money you have it or don't have at based on the way you think about it correct. Suzy silently my darrow. Yeah and what else do you want to say about that. I want to say that we all have the thoughts to create far more than we all have. We all think we deserve less. We have more objects but we have less of ourselves as soon as we have. More of ourselves will manifest in your life's more than you know how to hold onto store than you even dreamt could come your way through everything you want. All i can tell you is true if i can do it really if my mom is out there. She's watching. If i can do it you can do it. You don't have to be a rocket science. You just have to know who you are. If you're willing to go within you'll never do
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Winfrey, Hearst Have Black Journalists Tell Elders' Stories
"Oprah Winfrey is leading a project that team's young black journalists an older black activists community leaders and regular people to talk about their lessons on life our margins are a letter with the latest Oprah Winfrey recalls being in her twenties when she became friends with port my Angelo who stressed the importance of knowing one's history Winfrey's lift every voice project teams young interviewers and photographers for mostly historic black colleges and universities with people older than seventy with remarkable stories among those interviewed or singers Dionne Warwick and Patti LaBelle actor Andrea shields an activist Claudette Colvin and opal leak the stories will run on Oprah daily dot com and in magazines like elle Good Housekeeping and esquire
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"oprah winfrey" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"One out of four women and one out of seven men in this country. The united states of america have been sexually abused. We have talked about it a lot on this show. It is in the news a lot every week. We get hundreds of letters from women who have lived with this secret for years because the nightmare of sexual abuse continues long after the molesting stops. If you've been abused yourself you may be surprised how it has affected you or you may be one of those women like myself who never even looked at your life to realize how what happened to you as a child has affected you. See if you recognize yourself any of these characteristics of women who have been abused sexually as children. do you have an aversion to sex. Were you sexually promiscuous as a child. Were you more sexually inquisitive as a child and your friends. are you leaning toward homosexuality or bisexuality. Drugs alcohol had. They played a role major role in your life. Are you a perfectionist. You have an inability to function. And you can't seem to get organized. You sometimes have flashbacks of the incident. And can't get it out of your mind and relive it over and over. Did you relive it as a child many times do you have an inability to have relationships. Have you been married many times. Multiple marriages spider woman type. You snare opposite sex only for sex. Are you over protecting your children. All of my audience members today have been sexually abused and some of the stories that you are here of are of a very sensitive nature so you might want to find something else for the children to do or you may if you are an open minded enlightened parents prefer for your children to see the show. I want to read you a letter that we received here on the oprah winfrey show. It is from one of the guests here today. Jamie she says. I've held the secret of incest and it's force within myself for over thirty years and i'm now ready to tell my story. It's a story of incest of sexual abuse. Physical abuse verbal abuse emotional trauma alcoholism. The sad truth is that just because the physical behavior stopped the damage remains. I've carried around my secrets for so long. Now that the secrets have become as big a problem as the actual abuse itself. and so. that's what this show is about. It is about what happens after the abuse jamie. Tell me what happened in your life. I was getting molested. I started getting abused by my brothers. When i was three and it stopped when i was around seven and they let their friends also abused me. I was sort of the like the doll in their life. And then i was getting molested by the man up the street. That was acted as grandfather until i was eleven. I was raped. When i was fifteen and i was pregnant at sixteen and i have two daughters now as a result. None of the rapes. I was married for about eight years. And i'm a recovering alcoholic. Can one of my daughters also recovered now. When you were being abused by the by your brothers did you know it was wrong. Or bad no they. They're my brothers. Were the only people in my family. That were nice to me. They weren't hitting me on one of nine children who's being beaten by both my mother and my father and my brothers they were always just nice to meet and they always were friendly with me and they never. I never thought they were me because they weren't hitting me kind of effect. Do you think it's had on your life those years from three to seven when you were being used by your brothers and to <hes>. Trying to form relationships. I don't have a real good track record with men at all. I've been married twice. And i seem to have a real difficult time in relationships with men in the last couple of years i've begun to form relationships with women because i didn't trust women either by relationships. You mean. Sexual relations friendships ships. I've been isolated. Most of my life and i've overprotected my children. I've i've kind of was the rebel though too. I've been loud and aggressive but so that no one would know what was really going. How do you see that the sexual abuse had any effect on all of these other things that have happened in your life or impact trying to just maintain and go about day to day life. It's for a long time before. I started talking about it. I would wake up in the morning and wonder why had woken up again. Why didn't just die during the night. Because i finally. When i went to therapy. I decided to have myself committed because every time i woke up. I didn't know what would happen during the day. I i held big joe. I had my kids. People thought i was superwoman. People thought i was friendly. One woman even said to me she thought. I never had had a sad day in my entire life. But that's because i was busy keeping the secret and the in. I couldn't let anyone know.