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Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network

Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network

00:53 sec | 5 hrs ago

Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network

"Good news. The indictments against raw celebrate in the district of Maryland were dismissed with prejudice meaning. They can never be refiled. This is especially good. Because those indictments contain the only charge ever made that Ross engaged in murder-for-hire. This was a serious allegation at Ross Oprah denies. Wrongdoing by jury, but was trumpeted by the federal government, and the media were proven fact, Maryland Court held these indictments for almost five years poisoning Ross's case, and leaving him under a cloud of unproven allegations as explained in Ross's appeal to the Supreme Court the fact that the judge used these allegations to give her all say draconian sentence of double life without parole violated. violated his six minute right to a jury trial. Judges are required to issue Senate this based on convictions decided by a jury, unproven allegations never even charged at trial. Although this is a positive development that dropped indictment will not set rolls free now. A presidential pardon is Ross, his.

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Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on Don't Keep Your Day Job

Don't Keep Your Day Job

07:56 min | 6 hrs ago

Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on Don't Keep Your Day Job

"Hard to believe that your kids summer vacation is only just happening now. It feels like it's been going on forever, but learning at home doesn't have to stop for summer, and it can actually be fun. Thanks to Kiko. Your kids can basically get a science project at art class delivered right to the DOOR KIWI CO create super cool hands on projects. Projects for kids to make learning about steam fun. Steam stands for science technology. Engineering Art and math designed by experts and tested by kids, no need to research or worry about gathering all the supplies I was getting tired, trying to find new creative ways to keep busy and challenged, but Kiko such a blessing it does, the LEGWORK can spend quality time tackling projects together at home, and there's no commitment you can pause or cancel anytime. My kids really. Really did all love their Kiwi creates my middle daughter. Elisa got to make her own kite and we spent a few afternoons flying it in the backyard and my own daughter. Gabby got the world crate, so she could build her own spinning globe, and she had so much fun learning about all the other parts of the world. It's also really awesome to see them grow their confidence and actually start enjoying the experience. Kiko is redefining play with hands on. On projects that build confidence, creativity and critical thinking skills, there's something for every kid or kid at heart at Kiko get thirty percent off your first month's crates at Kiwi. Co Dot com slash dream job. That's I W I C O dot com slash dream job I'm curious if you had to go back and like talk to your like twenty five year old cells. Each of you like what what have you learned now that you would tell her? I would tell my twenty five year old self to. to lean more fully to to my personality to what I want and who I am and what I feel and what I think, and and not be worried about what other people think I mean I just I was very Hamden by that in my twenties. What what is this person think? What should I say there? And you're not serving anyone especially, not yourself, but you're not serving anyone around you with that kind of thinking, and you know that whole idea that there are things you can, and can't do is completely wrong and completely false, and it's all about an internal narrative, and I would tell myself that and tell myself to live really freely really freely. Ashby Apple I would tell myself you know just out of college make. Yourself your number, one priority no matter what meditate. Develop a yoga practice body movement plant based eating. Get a handle on that right away because. Amazing things happen to me even when I didn't feel great physically and. Somebody said, do you have any regrets? And I know the popular answer, the enlightened dancers now, but I say. I have millions of them billions of regrets, and not that I can do it differently. All I can do. Do it differently here in the now. Honest all those times you know, I could have felt like. I was on top of the world instead I was weighing myself down with choices that didn't serve me, so that's what I would say. Get that self care practice locked in your early twenties. Make it non-negotiable all the way, and your ride is going to be so much more joyful and so much more filled with et's. So beautiful, I'll ask you one more question from a content and creative standpoint. You've both done so many cool things from the work you did at Oprah to producing your own live events to the world that you come from Nancy, and now your show for people who want to create content that's like a podcast or any kind of interview show whether it's on TV, or it's a podcast, or it's a live event and you're getting up and interviewing people. What do you think makes great like? What do you think when you go? This person has it or this is gonNA. Go well. I'm totally going to let you answer that. Cherry I'm GONNA give you. An example. So, there's a guy on instagram who you should totally have on your show. mismarked grows, and his handle is at create the love. I met him maybe like four or five years ago. I was doing a wanderlust events speaking in Whistler in Canada, and he was in the audience, and I was waiting by the stage to go on, and he came up and a hung around. I'm like God that's a Nice Guy Oh like girlfriend to oh good. You guys are really Nice Bright Shiny people well. He's a an expert like an expert on breakups and love, and and has built his own business from a tiddly widdly little thing into this huge empire and growing. Faster than can be and here's what I will say that. When he was a tiddly widdly little be, he sparkled and shine like a diamond because he was super, interested and curious about you. He was an incredible listener. And he had a zest for living well and living better and up leveling, and you know what we're all drawn to that. We're like fireflies. We are drawn to that kind of energy and you know now. He's as lovely as ever, but he's a big deal, and he's going to become a bigger and bigger deal, and you know it's just I would say the same for you Kathy. It's like when you're on fire with the possibilities of life. You're the flame. because. We all WANNA be around people that give us a sense of hope and potential, and what's possible. I totally felt that way. I very much felt that way Kathy after we spoke to you on our podcast. How is what? I was super super, lifted up by it on. My literally just made me cry. That means so much to me. Thank you, but it also makes me cry, because you both gave me that feeling, and and so obvious that you give it to each other this this feeling of life and energy and vitality, but also for my audience is sake. It brought tears to my eyes because what you just said was. It doesn't take a PhD. It just takes like you know. Can you walk in the room with your heart? Can you walk in the room and be vulnerable and be enthusiastic like I remember when I had Brian Grazer on. On my show Brian is the kid who when he was twenty four years old, screamed out to Ron Howard in the courtyard, Ronnie Howard and Ron Howard. WHO's this guy screaming my name like? Are you insane? And then they had a meeting. He's like hey. I know this is crazy I. don't need a job I wanNA. Hang out with your for two minutes. He said. What are you really WanNa? Do with Your Life Ron Howard said I wanna be a director, but no one takes me seriously. He goes. Oh, my God! You'd be the most amazing director I'm GonNa find a script for you. I'm on the case and then like. Cath I didn't have anything other than pure exuberance Oh, my God I love that story, so things are good one. That is great i. mean that's the truth that everything we listen. In these times there is a need pulsating need and desire for light. So that really is be the light. The light in whatever way makes you shine it really honestly like I'm sitting here crying because on my instagram. I went to see Oprah in San. Francisco when she did this like Oprah University thing and Martha Beck was there, too, and I left that day, and I was sobbing and I was like twenty eight years old I think I had just been dropped from the label, and I was begging God. Like. Show me how I'm supposed to show up in the. The world but I walked out of his day and I. Just knew that there's something about me that like I'm supposed to say things like that like I'm supposed to breed lightened people and I don't know how to get there. I don't know the roadmap and then there I was interviewing Martha Beck like two years ago and then my phone pops up on my phone.

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Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on Don't Keep Your Day Job

Don't Keep Your Day Job

05:30 min | 6 hrs ago

Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on Don't Keep Your Day Job

"Show who I swear to God I think I have an epiphany almost every other recording. Do I'm like? Oh my God had an epiphany, so, but that's, but that is delightful for me right, and if there is nothing else that came of this, but these really inspiring cool conversation I would be one hundred percent happy I love her forever changed as a my average aged for this is the fuel the spiritual emotional physical feulner percent? Raise up. It's also good and. And you have both such rich life experiences, and you've been doing the work on yourself development and you've been interviewing mazing people, so it's like it just never stops and I want to ask you because the biggest thing I see for my audience, it's a courage problem. They think they have a business problem, but it's really a courage problem. Where like they just don't crown themselves. They don't give themselves permission to start the podcast or apply to the Oprah show, or even raise their hand, and and post something on instagram. They don't believe. They're worthy, and so from everything you've experienced all the wisdom that you have gathered and implemented. What do you think is the way to help somebody through when they don't give themselves permission to start when they don't have the courage when they don't know that there needed and they, they keep sitting it out and sitting on the bench. You know first of all enormous compassion, because I think many times in my life. I've felt that exact same way about something. You know where this is never gonNA work out this. We're GONNA work out, so it is a human emotion, human position a human conclusion, and it's an it's wrong. It's not true it's a big lie. We tell ourselves and and I think you're right I mean it's hard to summon the courage when you feel so defeated and afraid yeah, and the only thing I can say it's the same thing that when Nancy and I sat across our on our second or third bottle of Chardonnay and are how many hundredth night having these conversations said, if not now when? And I will say for myself because I was in some straits. You know I. I I was I was not feeling good in perennials for me was and if not now, maybe never. And the fear of never living the full and complete life of my dreams. Outweighed the fear of taking a step forward into the next right dream, and to make new decisions and try something new and being willing to make taking care of myself like that was now had as much importance as any day of working on the Oprah show where I felt like nothing was more important on the planet. So that for me is the path. That's just yeah, and you know so you said something next rain, right? Right so, Kathy. This is something that sharing. I say to each other a lot, and this is a I think this is a way for people who do feel stymied or frozen in some way, and a lot of people have those fears of sometimes it's as simple as an inferior early complex. You know you just don't think you're good enough. You don't think you're talented. Enough upper. You have any right to occupy that space. And so next right dream so next better feeling thought you know next half step in the direction of where you think you WANNA go! It doesn't have to be a huge stride. You don't have to make an enormous change. Right off the bat like we were talking about with our health and wellness pillar. Sometimes it's as simple as drink a glass of water and take a walk around the block. It's a step and so in business. It's the next little thing that you can do in the direction of your dream, you know every journey starts in the direction of some dream, and you have to start with a step and we. We say that to each other a lot and I say that internally a lot, too, because you know as soon as I manifest something as soon as a dream comes true. This is true of all of us. Another dream POPs in into my onto my radar, right, there's another vista to climb. There's another thing I remind myself of that next right three thinking so that I don't close myself off to the possibility of getting there because that's the real shot of it when you just turn away from the dream, because it seems too far in the future too big a mountain to scale, so just take one step toward the mountain. That's so beautiful just the next right step and you know it's interesting. Because I had Martha back on my podcast. We Love Martha. Her I mean she's definitely one of those pra cast of characters and She said even Oprah get scared. She goes sometimes she'll call me and say I. Don't know. What do you think is Bubba and she's like so you know if she if she can have moments where she feels overwhelmed, sometimes like can you like? Can you have permission to not always feel like you get it all all the time off I. Love this conversation, but before we. We, keep going I want to thank our sponsors in two thousand and twenty. Every business in the country is learning how to adapt day by day, but why aren't banks unnecessary fees or taking a trip to your bank is the last thing business owners need to be thinking about right now. As low takes all the friction business banking, instead of insisting you handle your banking as if the Internet never existed, it's a free business checking account with invoicing bill. Bill pay money transfers. You won't have to deal with minimum deposits, maintenance or overdraft fees and the phone system that feels designed to waste your time. This is like music to my ears because I spent so many hours in the past is being on hold and who has.

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Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on Don't Keep Your Day Job

Don't Keep Your Day Job

01:52 min | 6 hrs ago

Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on Don't Keep Your Day Job

"You hire me for money. I'd be like no, okay. Don't call me back them. I was completely broke. Nancy literally is making an extra casserole every night and dropping them off at my door way because she knows that I don't want to tell my parents again that I'm out of money. And I'm out of money and I get an chance through another friend to interview for a big huge senior producer position at Xyz, the fancy schmancy advertising agency. And I think I'M GONNA make seventy five grand like Oh. Yeah, a Queen Salary I'M GONNA. Make seventy five grand with all the benefits. I'm finally going to be able to pull myself out of this morass I'm feeling and I do the interview that guy, but hires in the room. Tells me to go home and wait for the call and five days later after. Many celebrations premature turns out. I got a letter from the HR department. They weren't hiring. On, so it was, it was at my hands are open. When my hair was dirty, I was laying around in sweat pants. Probably I'd McDonald repors around me, and I was just like I don't even know what a dream is then. I don't know what I'm GonNa do I'm a big failure? This is never gonNA work out, and that is when I get a voicemail saying. This is so and so at the Oprah Winfrey show. We were cleaning out an old closet. To resume. Are you available to come into freelance? And that's how I got the job. and. It was only years later when I realized without that beautiful. No I never would have had this rocket ride this once in a lifetime journey, and then I began to look at all of us in conversations with Nancy and my other friends and other people I'm like Oh. My Gosh I can look at your life and tell you what you're beautiful knows were. because. Those are the passageway honest powerful. There's very few things I've heard. That are as beautiful as what you just said that the no becomes the doorway to. Some of the most beautiful yeses, so, what about the podcast? When did you guys decide? Let's do the Sherry and Nancy show. My Gosh well, that was right. That was early on that was when we had just launched our company's story and story Salah and we. We decided to start a guest. Somebody recommended it to us. I thought it was the most lame brain idea at lane braid yeah. This podcast we're like what are what are you talking about? That's like Franklin Delano. Roosevelt's fireside chat. You know I was like. Oh my gosh, because I was a fool. That's why Cathy I was. Yeah, well I understand though I mean I also when I started I didn't even think I I knew how to find it well, Nancy. Tricky for me. Nancy was excited than me Nancy. We get to have these conversations and have our own show and I am coming off this heralded TV, career and I'm like trying to plug in the cords into are. going. What the hell are we doing? Yes, Craig, who's GonNa listen to our ramblings and shock of my life that people want you. Wouldn't WANNA. Listen to you to your the funnest to human beings that ever. Walked the face of the earth. I swear. You're just like a party. It's like you. You hear that you've talking and you just feel like all of a sudden. There's a glass Arosa in your hand and you're happy, so tell us about the show you've interviewed. Amazing people on the show is Gilbert Gabby Bernstein Gretchen. Rubin even Amy Porterfield you. Guys Have Kathy. Yes. What do you want this show to do for people? Well first of all, it's an sharing I say this to each other a lot. This is the only conversation we want to have anymore. We really want to have conversations about up leveling. Conversations about these eight pillars that that we think are just really great markers for you know how to live the life of your dreams, and make all your dreams come true and I'll speak for myself delights me to no end that people think it's funny that people feel they're close to us. We get letters from from listeners. Saying like I feel like we're friends feel like I'm pulling up A. A chair that is just the most lovely feeling that were actually somehow reaching people with with this conversation and I mean the part that I do get. Is that we have you know really stellar guests come on and talk about how and why and ways to up level your life, and all these different areas that really matter so the fact that people feel that energy makes me really happy. It would make me happy to I'm not surprised because you. You are like that instant friend and I. I love that you want to have these conversations about up leveling because like you said early on. Just because you've had really successful. Careers doesn't mean there's not an up level to be had right like our I. think a lot of people think like in terms of like love. You have to earn it, but the same thing with money. I think people people assume, and for a lot of you know a lot of different human beings. This is the case where if you WANNA up level and make money. You have to be a workaholic. Non Stop that that is what it looks like and I don't think that that's true. I see a lot of people who work super hard, and they just should be working smart. You know I I. Don't know about the four hour workweek like I haven't quite gotten that. London but I work a four hour day and I have three kids, and it's easy, and I love it and tell me about. About the up level, you feel you've had as a business person. What does Your Business Look like well I'll start the general up level as first of all realizing that for all of us whether you raised a family and and worked out of the home whether you ran your own small business whether you you were on a staff job, or you had a big leadership job. That was all consuming. Those days are not the glory days those days at the foundation for your next glorious days. That is the concept of upliftment that you always rising always rising always rising, and you're never like well I. Guess I had my kids to read. I didn't make different choices, and that's it as long as you get up and you're taking a breath, you could rise some more. That is the truth of that and for us I have my business. Nancy has her business. She has clients I do paid speaking I've been on the road with the beautiful now and the things we do together in our company together and our podcast. I will say the reason I do. It is because I wanNA. Make sure that I'm having the conversation that I wanNA. Have I feel like in many ways. I'm just talking to myself with Nancy. I'm reminding myself. What is it you want? What is the dream? What is it you want so? You know we have sponsors for the podcast you know those are revenue streams were looking at. We have a big live event that we do every year, and this is the clay for us right Nance, which you say I totally concur with your last point, especially the reason that I do the podcast so I could talk to Sherry all the time about the stuff that I'd like to. To Talk to her about and the truth is sometimes. We have to our long conversations in between the PODCAST and I'll be like Oh my God. We should be recording this, but we know. Some of our conversations are not necessarily for public consumption, but I love these conversations, and it really keeps me in the flow of where I know the joy. Reid is going for me right. Me On track and then we have amazing. You know guests on our.

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Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on Oil and Gas Startups Podcast

Oil and Gas Startups Podcast

03:17 min | 7 hrs ago

Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on Oil and Gas Startups Podcast

"The I'm monitoring my watch about six and a half minute mark I wandered back in. Sit Down, put my headphones back on and a bullet obligingly in about forty five seconds later resurfaces in asks. Questions and I said Nope. I'm good now. What's the horrified sing about that story? There's a lot. Three three. Of Well, he has no idea if you'd like if of if you've got anything that you liked or didn't like. He doesn't clearly know if you're even in the room. That is the most defying thing. He had no clue that is left the room. Because he was talking and clicking and talking publicly. Company called Gong are. you familiar with these guys. Gone. Wrong I! Oh, yes, was gonNA. Say Gong Dot Io? Picco one of the things that they teased out as part of Ricky, success criteria for successful demos was the you should have an interaction, a speaker switch as they call them on average about every guys. Ready Oprah sitting down seventy six seconds. So. Who are on average, you should have a in actually. The audience can't see this, but we've got this great. View correlated shows me speaking. You Question Tim saying something etc, etc, every seventy six seconds on average in a demo. You should have a speaker switch so if you've been ties for three or four minutes or longer, you are at great, risk. Settlement. Awesome? That's all man how goodness I'm just now suddenly thinking Oh man. I've been doing it wrong again. I have so many questions now is. Is that the APP? Like what is the data point? Is that for a one hour demo? Is that for two hour for an eight hour demo? What what is that length of a demo that that is only seventy six seconds of attention span? The answer is yes. Blom God I was sitting down. It's it's you want. Demos should be a conversation. The one of the other things that they found was the most successful demos enjoyed I think the number was twenty eight percent more questions from the audience Dan Standard Demos. which you, you're in a conversation. So We've got we. We do have a running gag of. Tell us demos that went horribly wrong and you've kind of talked about a couple of horror stories, but. What is what is your worst? Whether you giving you've given us the ones you've received, but was kind of your. Worst Demo that you gave. Weird. Demos any of the demos than I, did before the realization of. I I would class as traditional in therefore are terrible. They're all based on. points. They're all based on what I thought was way cool in the software, not what? The customer was looking at UH fundamentally. Extra anybody.

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Dow up 330 points, Amazon tops $3,000

Balance of Power

00:26 sec | Last week

Dow up 330 points, Amazon tops $3,000

"Minute. You want stocks of posting gains led by tech companies, the Dow is up 330 points. That's NPR, 40 for the Tech heavy. NASDAQ is up 220 points, so to present. Amazon shares reached $3000 for the first time today and Oprah shares rose after announcing its buying the food delivery service Postmates in a $2.6 billion all stock

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7 Myths & Mistakes To Avoid When Launching Your New Podcast in 2020

The Podcast Domination Show | Grow your audience, make money and have fun doing it

04:35 min | Last week

7 Myths & Mistakes To Avoid When Launching Your New Podcast in 2020

"What's going on welcome back or welcome to the show for the first time? I'm musty as your host, you'd help you. Launch and grow a successful podcast helps you grow your business. Build your personal brand and become more successful and better known whether your goal is more impact or income or all of the above. This is the show for you. When you want to use a podcast to do just that now today. We're GONNA. Be talking about something that trips up a lot of entrepreneurs and business owners when they start their podcasts, and is why it becomes such a chore, and then they eventually fail and give up and to be. Debbie. Downer or someone who's really negative, but I'm going to share with you today. Seven myths slash pitfalls about launching your podcasts at I've coached a lot of people through have helped a lot of clients through and I've seen this happen over and over again even if you're a year into the podcasting game or your year to growing your podcast, and you're like my shows is. Is kind of idle like it's. It's not growing anymore. I'm not getting any leads from it. I'm not getting any new customers from it I'm not getting anything from his just another thing for me to do on my to do this. Well are some flaws are some things you're doing? That are causing you to think like that could help you reshift. Reposition your exact your mindset. Mindset around this in this training Oh this episode so before get into this one. Definitely just circle back had a share something. That's for me kind of illustrated. This point in in real life got a client who's done amazing job for their their podcast. They're up to about twenty thousand downloads month. They're doing great. They get all of media the interviews they are able to reach big. Big Equal, but they often compare themselves to people who have been doing undoing podcasting eight nine ten years, and they're only about a year or two in the game, and that's a big issue that really is that truly is one of the biggest things you can was taken over one I would say is, is this and this? Is this whole conversation that we had with? This client recently was all about this. It's about comparing your niche. PODCASTS was show. That's much much much broader. Here's the deal. If you have a niche podcast meaning, you're talking to a very specific market, and you compare yourself to Joe Rogan or a very much a bunch of punch broader podcast that has reached because they bring on guys like ee. Lan Muss. It's hard to compare really look at your podcast success. Getting to twenty thousand dollars for most people is is isn't hard or sorry is easy and the fact that they've done in less than a lesson. Two years is pretty remarkable so especially in this world now. Now, maybe in two, thousand, sixteen, two, thousand, fifteen much easier, nowadays, not so much a lot more competition out there, so I'm happy for them, but they're comparing themselves to a lot of people have been doing this for eight nine years I mean. If you've been doing this for eight nine years, you should expect to have a way bigger show especially consistently the way they're who they're comparing themselves to. If you go back and look at those shows a near year twos I. Bet you. They weren't doing the numbers they're doing now and they're still doing the same numbers. They probably wouldn't be doing for this long. I can guarantee. GUARANTEE THAT SO NUMBER ONE! Don't compare your niche podcast. Show to someone who's doing something much broader Joe Rogan Tim Ferriss you name it like those those guys are in a broader market. They have experienced They were mainstream before they got into podcasting so yesterday some anomalies. There's Louis Houses who've been doing this for years again. That's START OUT PODCASTING, but no, it's time it takes time trees on grover night. Why would you podcast overnight? So that's number. One number two is comparing your launch to somebody who's way bigger than you so listen. If you have a small audience, you can expect to demand hundred thousands of downloads. Downloads out the gate. I've only seen. That's probably a handful of times where someone is able to do that and every single time it's it's from somebody who already has a large of a name in their in their space. They may not be like Oprah, Winfrey big, but they have the in their space carved out a name for themselves. So if you're coming in doesn't have a name for themselves. You can expect your podcast. Be This game changer? It's a reflection of you, your podcasts and your content of reflection of you, so a big mistake. People make is comparing their launch to someone WHO's ten times bigger than them. You're trying to go into battle with someone who has way more firepower than you compare your launch or or that you're more of your podcasts. That is a mistake. Big Big mistake that I see people

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How Healthy is Your Family?

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

05:26 min | 2 weeks ago

How Healthy is Your Family?

"How are your children being affected by the disintegration of the American family in a recent news week poll, half of the people ask said that their families are in worse shape now than they were ten years ago and no wonder, the divorce rate has doubled since nineteen, sixty five and experts say that one third of all children born in the eighties will live in A. A stepfamily before they grow up on top of that one of every four children lives with a single parent and twenty two percent of today's children were born to a teenage parent, and when it comes to who is watching our children. Two thirds of all mothers work outside the home. If you feel that your family is going a little helter skelter, everybody doing their own. Own Thing and the family unit is falling apart, or if the people you call your family, don't fit the traditional description like the cleavers or the huxtables. We want you all to join family unity workshop. We asked to our studio audience to take several tests so that we could find out how healthy their families are, and now we want you to test your family's health. Health, too, so get a pencil and paper and take this first test. It's called the family rituals test, and the test is taken from a fascinating book written by one of our favorite guests on the Oprah Winfrey show Dr Paul Pearsall renowned family psychologist, and it's called the power of the Family Paul. Glad to have you here. Thank you glad to have you once again. Well. I know the audience is already taken. The test and I went over the test. And what does this ritual tell us know it's a strange thing. Many of the couples we interviewed families didn't have time to take the test because we're too busy to look at one of the family had rituals or not, and one mother looked at me and said we have the Dooby Doo Bee. Doo Syndrome in our family. I said what's this dooby? Dooby Doo Bee Doo, she said we spend too much time doing and not enough time being so the rich test is a measure of whether or not you really give dignity and celebration that the simple daily acts of family life, or you just run right past them and have separate breakfast separate dinner, separate bed times and live alone, even though you're in a group, dignity and celebration I like those choice of words what it sounds kind. Kind of Corny to say that, but we found families that would eat in quiet or fight during dinner. They'd take a bite and say well school Goin- what you're telling me shut up. Don't pick on your brother I've had it with you. This is enough to. Did you enjoy dinner eight? That's really what's happening and it's not that the family is failing. We are failing our families, and if we don't make enough time at least a. A Saddam most families didn't even sit down for dinner. That's what the ritual test. Let's see. I think children are in crisis in this country, but children are in crisis only because families are in crisis. That's where it starts. That's what we think that these children just didn't refer to their families much anymore. Children are aware of rituals. They'll pointed out to you. Sometimes. They'll say mom we. We always used to do it that way. We shouldn't do this even the simple act of saying grace I. Don't mean to get too pushy about those type of things, but we saw people. Sam So fast. You couldn't tell her saying grace. Somebody be grabbing, food. What happened to the idea of just sitting down a moment, you know the old idea we used to say. Sit Down and shut up. Okay I. Tell You what we wanted to do. Now. Let's go through the test. Can we do that? The test of the family rituals and our audience is already answered these questions, and perhaps maybe if you watching it home with answer these questions, you'd get a clear idea about where your family is right now I. Question. Does your family move is one unit when it walks a group or does someone dragged behind? I found that very interesting because I said. If you're walking down the street, everybody can't walk at the same time. Honesty families go to shopping centers and you'll see these somebody's lagging behind. The fodders looks discussed. It I'll go sit there. You go shop. I'll meet you in the lot. If you'RE GONNA. Do it. do it together. Okay now. Who who answered that question? No, now why why Antonio Yep? Because whenever I'm walking with my husband, he's either always pushing the child or walking the dog, or whatever so he's far ahead or five behind and there we go as a separate unit else walks is a separate unit. I know. Some people lied on the test to see that. Some people lied on the tests. They want us to think they're to huxtables, not only lie, but some people don't pay enough attention to. My husband is sixty five. He always walks a few steps ahead of I'm always behind standard. Intentional! I tell stem this all the time, too, because his legs are so long that when he takes a step, I have to take one and a half for every step that he takes so we're in the airport and I'm looking like we're from foreign country. Walk Twelve paces behind. A lot I sometimes have to turn around and wonder why she's like a blockbuster. Because your legs are so much longer. Yeah, okay. What does that really isn't the walking style you? Yes, it's certainly cause I'm kind of Tom Lanky to my family alive behind, but this issue the attitude while you're doing this. Is there some attempt interesting family say come on, catch up. Let's all go look at this rather than I'm going to the store you go to. The dresses will lose the kids if we can and will meet in the lot, it's really the attitude is not just the distance. Doesn't that mean in some way that that person feels separate from you? Well, that's the tragedy. Tragedy sounds a little corny, but it's just like we're not really doing this together. We're going to get hurt close. He's gotTa get three pairs of slacks. I'm sick of the shopping any way faster. We get it done. The better somebody's disgusted. That's not doing it together. That's not a ritual. It's a routine routine is just getting done. Ritual is a celebration of the doing

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Brain Juice. It Was Brain Juice.

The Ladies of Strange

06:27 min | 3 weeks ago

Brain Juice. It Was Brain Juice.

"We are the ladies of strange I'm Ashley I'm Tiffany and I'm Rebecca. Thank you for joining US each week. is we discuss the history mystery? In theory of all things, questionable and Airy, good job, guys. You got through it. Straight face no GIGGLEFISH I bit my tongue, and almost said something, but I thought you guys with. Yell at me for stopping. That sounds like a bad side show clown straight face fits. What. I don't know that's just what came in my head. When I sent straight face, no gigabits man. Oh, okay, another clown murderer! No I'm thinking like. In nineteen fifty sideshow clown probably would be in like freak. Show like American Horror Story Freak show. I mean he could be a John Wayne Gay. See Ma'am Times to. Why are you on your laptop? I'm not on my laptop. Are you lying I'm not a D. do you see my laptop open? I don't think you close now yet is closed. I WANNA teach us some stuff to have a history lesson history, okay? And seven years ago, I got really excited about this forefathers. Numbers in there so Jackson Beverly Wilga where collectors of vintage photographs and had in their collection a dagger type. Oh you don't say an old photograph taken using a process that involves a silver plate and Mercury Vapor, and his photo was of a young disfigured man. the photograph was believed to be taken in the nineteenth century. The man in the picture was believed that the man had encountered a whales. He was holding Harpoon like object in the image. TIFFANY's face. That was fun. they couple had the image on display in their home for years in December of two thousand and seven, the couple decided to share the image on flicker and titled it a one eyed man with Harpoon super, super creative, so one win was. When did they have it? In their home? Court were the years they had in their home, but they didn't post it till flicker until two thousand seven. Okay, so they decide like a random picture of some random disfigure. Yeah, some people collect mentioned photographs. My Dad is one of those on. This might make him happy. One Flicker user contacted the Combo commenting that the man probably isn't a whaler as he wasn't holding a Harpoon in the picture, was he holding buy outs. Oh, sorry I thought. You said he was holding her. They said it looked like her. so another user saw this picture and said Hey, this might be the only surviving photo of Venus Gauge, not famous gauge. Where's verb? Not Verb just just benny US I. Don't know that name so shown, either. That's why I said. Where's Fergany isn't firm? So, y'all ready to learn about Fini's gauge. Liz Foreign and eighteen twenty three, the DSP gauge lead, either an uneventful lifer didn't bother keeping a journal because he doesn't pop up again until eighteen forty eight, okay. Okay. No list of at the age of twenty five Fini's was working as a railroad, foreman and common dish Vermont and on September, thirteenth eighteen, forty eight made a really good attempt at receiving the Darwin Award. Oh my God. Yes, so excited, so phineas worked for the RUTLAND and Burlington railroad company as a form part of his job involved coordinating, blasting out rock to make way for new. New Rail. Lines does part of the job required knowledge in geology and trigonometry, so I have a note to me, saying Insert statement about how trig is as useful of the maths, I will say I really liked. trig choke is super. Useful triggers the most Hallo basic addition. Wouldn't just like OPRAH EMMY BE MORE USEFUL THAN TRADE? Because I never took trig and I'm getting along just fine. Your overcompensating at all. No compensation here I come to terms. Okay, so geology and trigonometry so not only did. They have to be pretty clever, but he also had a handle his crew, who was described as a gang of men who basically needed all the. Since they enjoy things brawling shooting and drinking, they sound like sounds like my. Sounds like the type of people that didn't take trig. had good people skills. Though so is crew liked them to blast the area involved not only defendants have to create schematics aware to drill holes that were a couple inches wide, and a few feet deep, but also had to be able to place them along natural joints and rifts in the rock to make the job easier because why work harder than you have to the cracks just like push it a little harder so i. Like my mental health. Hey? Push it just one step further fine, are we? I completely lost what I was going to save. Thirty Oh. Did He Oh, I was thinking like the he needed to do dousing, but you're talking about like actual cracks in the ground. Yes, we're not looking for water. He's trying to clear out pathways like blowout rock lay lines, not like no crat down, sorry. You bring a witchy friend along. Here is the source of power here. Blow the spot so once. These holes were drilled. Blasting powder was placed into the whole untapped down. Using typically crowbars. Vinnie. As was kind of a big deal. He had his own tampering device made by local blacksmith to Tampa device was basically a Joplin with thirteen point. Two five pounds was forty three inches long and tapered from a diameter of one point, two five inches, which was an eas for taping into a point. Any guesses on where this is going. That's his Oh. Oh, is that how he lost his eye? So once I found stated that the incident happened a one day while camping bananas endured the Osha Guidelines for tapping blasting powder into the earth with a long metal spike. Parentheses, which wouldn't be the Osha wouldn't be until nineteen seventy-one, but that's not the point. Close parentheses and I can only assume look down into the hole above the spike. CH- one source I founded the incident happened around four thirty pm near quitting time, so either finance wasn't paying attention as he was telling his routed group to behave, or his assistant forgot to put the ever important sand into the hall before tampering because San Prevents, sparks from getting to the plastic powder either way. The blessing powder ignited

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Jimmy Kimmel apologizes for wearing blackface in past sketches

KYW 24 Hour News

00:35 sec | 3 weeks ago

Jimmy Kimmel apologizes for wearing blackface in past sketches

"It's a mea culpa from another late night talk show host over blackface sometime at night full look open sky and stayed in his apology for wearing blackface in nineteen nineties comedy sketches Jimmy Kimmel says those past impersonations of celebrities like Karl Malone and Oprah are now in Paris six EBC host also says it's frustrating that what he calls thoughtless moments have become a weapon to diminish his criticisms of social and other injustices the tonight show's Jimmy Fallon recently apologized for blackface NBC's thirty rock and fox's Brooklyn nine nine or making changes to their

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Jimmy Kimmel apologizes for wearing blackface in past sketches

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00:25 sec | 3 weeks ago

Jimmy Kimmel apologizes for wearing blackface in past sketches

"Late night talk show host is hearing mea culpa sometime in night formal look open sky and say in his apology for wearing blackface in nineteen nineties comedy sketches Jimmy Kimmel says those past impersonations of celebrities like Karl Malone and Oprah are now embarrassing EBC host also says it's frustrating that what he calls thoughtless moments have become a weapon to diminish his criticisms of social and other

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Jimmy Kimmel apologizes for wearing blackface in past sketches

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00:37 sec | 3 weeks ago

Jimmy Kimmel apologizes for wearing blackface in past sketches

"And another apology from another late night talk show host over comedy routines involving black face some common night formal look open sky and say in his apology for wearing blackface in nineteen nineties comedy sketches Jimmy Kimmel says those past impersonations of celebrities like Karl Malone and Oprah are now embarrassing EBC host also says it's frustrating that what he calls thoughtless moments have become a weapon to diminish his criticisms of social and other injustices the tonight show's Jimmy Fallon recently apologized for blackface NBC's thirty rock and fox's Brooklyn nine nine or making changes to their

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Jimmy Kimmel apologizes for wearing blackface in resurfaced 'Man Show' sketches

Tim Conway Jr.

00:34 sec | 3 weeks ago

Jimmy Kimmel apologizes for wearing blackface in resurfaced 'Man Show' sketches

"And late night host has apologized amid social media cries to cancel him Jimmy Kimmel has been called out before but never addressed past performances in blackface until now the late night host had come under fire recently after clips resurfaced on social media showing Kimmel performing sketches in blackface while impersonating NBA star Karl Malone in the nineties he's also impersonated other black celebrities over the years including Snoop Dogg and Oprah Winfrey Kimmel says has delayed response in addressing past sketches was a mistake he says those embarrassing moments have become a weapon used by some to diminish his criticisms of social and other

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Mind Over Body Cure

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

04:53 min | 3 weeks ago

Mind Over Body Cure

"Well, we've heard quite a few people on this show and others claim that they have thought themselves well, even in the face of death, but what about those people who do get sick and do get worse and die. Are they being made to feel guilty for not thinking themselves well well. My guest today are on opposite sides of this mind over body debate. Doctors don't know why my first guest is alive Lynyrd, borden says He. He changed his attitude. Imagine summarize warriors fighting the cancer in his body. A month later, the cancer was gone my next. Gus was told she had eighteen months to live if she did not have chemotherapy for her breast cancer Jane, Griffiths says she refused the treatment ten years later. She is still alive. My next guest wrote one of the most popular mind over body bestsellers. Dr Bernie seagulls love. Medicine and miracles explains his experiences with. With what he calls exceptional patients who hill themselves in the face of death. My next guest is a doctor who totally disagrees with Dr Segel's philosophy Dr Shirley new says sick. People are being made to feel guilty if they don't heal themselves, and there is no proof whatsoever that any of this works Dr Newlyn is author of doctors the biography of medicine. My next guest got so tired of people telling him that his severe backache. Backache was his own doing because of a bad attitude and stress. He wrote a column in Newsweek. Magazine to complain about it. Meet Rabbi Benjamin Black and my last guest says when she was diagnosed with Lou Gehrig's disease, people wanted her to try acupuncture and Yoga and love to get well and Spain says she live as long as she can, but she is also planning her death. Welcome all of our guests to the show. Start with you. I'll start with you. Because is where we got the idea to do the show from that column that you wrote in Newsweek magazine. What happened? I suffered from a herniated disk and I was just looking for some sympathy. And, then I suddenly realized that there was a psychological change in our society. and. Everybody kept saying to me. Why are you doing this to yourself? You must be the victim of self induced stress. And what really got me upset was that I recall the friend of mine who had died of cancer. who was able to deal with the reality of sickness? But couldn't cope with the fact that throughout the last days people made him feel as if he was the guilty one because he didn't obviously want to get well strongly enough because he wasn't trying hard enough, and he would cry to me. Does this mean I'm failure? What I'm saying is that there's an extreme position today I grant of course that there's a great deal to mind body relationship I grant as well that there is such a thing as love, medicine and miracles. What I think is wrong is I believe is a rabbi that we pray for miracles, but we don't expect miracles and when they don't happen, say that anybody who isn't well must be guilty himself. Don't blame the victim. Victim. Do you think Dr Newland this is making? People feel guilty as they die well. There's no question about that. That's really not my problem with Bernie's propositions. My problem with Bernie's propositions has to do with the aura science that he puts around them, in spite of the fact that what he's actually done is to take an enormous leap of faith, which of course is the secret of it all an enormous leap of faith from certain experiments, which show something that we all agree on that. There is a psychological factor that involves the immune system I don't think any sensitive physician physician with any experience could possibly disagree with the concept that patient state of mind is very important in their illness. But along comes Bernie, and says poof. The mind controls the immune system direct quote, the only quote I memorized from the book burning so that I could use it today. There's no evidence of that, and as long as people continue to believe with their minds, they can control their immune system there believing something that they simply can't do. It's like getting high LSD and trying to jump off a roof and fly, but you yourself just said that it's an enormous leap of faith and suppose it does suppose it does control the immune system, but there is no proof that it does. It's not a question of there being no proof that it does or does not. It's a question of our already being so close to understanding the various factors that do control the immune system that we know that the mind, the conscious mind is only one small factor. What actually happens is that whether we develop immunity to something whether we can control the disease process has to do with three systems in our body.

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Changing Bodies and Eating Disorders in ages 50+

Nutrition Matters

05:58 min | 3 weeks ago

Changing Bodies and Eating Disorders in ages 50+

"Side of going through this and how to navigate it. With a little more gentleness and peace. Erica. Welcome to nutrition matters podcast and thank you so much for joining me today. Thank you pay just pleasure? Air Cuddly. You just take a minute to talk about who you are what you do. Where you live kind of any relevant information again. Of course so I'm a registered Dietitian of course and I am in New York. I'm in Westchester. County, which is a suburb of New, York and I have an office. They are I have two other Dietitians who work with me and I've been a Dietitian for a long time. My God, thirty five years. I was thinking about that You know when I started out as a really traditional hospital are D-? but my career got really interesting. I wonder if you want me to talk a little bit about sort of that history, yeah, go for it. On a cliff's edge with the IT got interested. Tell us what got interesting. You know when I when I was first. I! You know I thought to myself I. Don't know I just don't want to work in a hospital. So what I found is I worked for a company Mead Johnson. They sold in formula and nutrition supplements United worked at a cancer hospital, so I was very familiar with on nutritional products, and so I figure out I'll take a jog and I was a sales person, and it's a really stressful job. I'll just say and I can't imagine anyone knowing what it's like to walk around walking through a city with samples of baby formula. Selling to doctors offices was really stressful but I did it. It was interesting. I learned how to sell. And then I just signed up, so it's really not using attrition skills, so I wonder I wonder public relations is, and I somehow got into public relations it was it was in the early nineties, and not not that any Dietitians we're working in public relations. didn't even know what it was, but I ended up working for a couple of different companies, and I was promoting primarily weight loss products. Things like light cheeses, artificial sweeteners thinking about this vitamins and minerals even sold the OP too fast I program. You know was part of that whole thing when Oprah. Lost all this weight for the first time, and she had this whole red wagon filled with fat and she. Dragged it across famous iconic moment. Yeah, no I actually grew up watching Oprah. Loved loved loved her, so I know exactly what you're talking about. So that was yeah I was a that was my whole thing I was Now I was in public relations and press releases about that amazing moment, and you know. I just did it for a while and I realized I just missed counseling I missed working with patients so No, that was sort of a ten year period of time that I've tried. Lots of different areas and I think is amazing. That has dietitians. We can work in so many different areas but I think I realized that. This whole thing with promoting diets just didn't feel right to me. So at that point I actually ended up having kids and I took a little time off and I got back into patient counseling by by way of doing a couple things I worked at a college teaching nutrition and I started to private practice Know which I did sort of around around raising my kids Kinda crazy worked out of my home so I just remember it being a really chaotic time now thinking now, Sir postmenopausal thinking back then how I had these kids and I tried to having practice private practice in my home, running around like crazy I mean it I just think to myself. We're super women that we can do it all so That's kind of back into page counseling. Yeah, that's that's a lot. That's a big. Transition to go from. That world to like okay now I have young kids, and I'm running a private practice. That must've been a must have been a lot. Well, it was a lot I. Did it gradually you know and I wanna say that I was relief fortunate that I was able to do that. You know not. Everyone is able to decide the hours that they want to work. It was very fortunate so what I did at that time besides being a Dietitian is I also realized how much I loved exercise and I became a personal trainer, so I ended up having this this. Ridiculous when I think about it a gigantic Jim in my home and became a home. Office where I'd have clients coming in I that time it was thinking it was sort of the early nineties into the mid nineties, helping clients with weight loss goals and the barriers to say helping them get. Healthy and strong getting fit, you know exercising and eating well thinking you know, just move more eat less than you'll lose weight. That was unfortunately my motto back then and I I have a little shame thinking back about it, although we only know, we know when we know it. And of course now I, realize how much potential harm that was causing but that private practice that I was in really grew around around my kids, and so as they got older, I was working more and. I ended up seeing a lot of families and a lot of kids at that point with I'm just gonNA. Put this in quotations because it really doesn't mean anything with weight concerns, so pediatricians referred a lot of families to me with kids that were in the quote, unquote, higher way categories and I taught. This program called shape down I. Don't know if you've ever heard of that but it was a weight loss program for I'm just GonNa put this again for kids that families. That's what it was and I I started sissy, a lot of eating disorders and serve. That's where. My interest in working with eating disorders came around just seeing seeing the harm of of these messages that these kids were getting, and the parents were frantic that their kids were in larger bodies and You know I think about it. That was sort of my defining moment of

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Oprah delivers virtual Chicago graduation commencement speech, encourages community involvement

Nick Digilio

00:26 sec | Last month

Oprah delivers virtual Chicago graduation commencement speech, encourages community involvement

"Chicago high school graduates had their virtual graduation ceremony Sunday online with featured speaker Oprah Winfrey who told graduates to use their talents to help other organizations like West Side United the mafia redemption project my block my hood my city live healthy Chicago there will never be a shortage of need for your service so pick a problem any problem the list is long we need your commitment

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Sheryl Sandberg Interview

Oprah's SuperSoul Conversations

06:10 min | Last month

Sheryl Sandberg Interview

"Tonight on next chapter I'm in silicon. Valley for a power lunch with facebook's co-pilot. We discuss her famous boss, the myth of having it all, and how in the world? She juggles the demand of one billion facebook, users. Don't tell me that Donna Karen. Donna care. That really. Got Him so glad that would be an honor. To. Have you hear. So excited to be here. The Fleas Street cafe is a Silicon Valley Institution. This is where Cheryl and Mark Zuckerberg. I met to discuss the possibility of her joining facebook. Their partnership is now one of the most well known in business history. These are unbelievable. That's how you that's how you get me. Start with the biscuits, so you can't have a biscuit when it's torn now. You have to do that, so we're here at the flea. Street cafe. Welcome nice to have you in California again your neighborhood, my neighborhood I live around the corner. And you came here for your very first meeting, or shall we call it date way Mark Zuckerberg it was, and it did. It was date like in the sense that you're nervous. Yes, it's a dinner. You're getting to know each other, but we had our dinner I very i. only dinner we ever. Weren't were in public together until we announced I was coming to facebook, obviously went, will well yes well. We actually stayed so late. The restaurant was kind of closing down. We wanted to keep talking. That's a good one ten o'clock at night way past my bedtime, but he clearly wanted to keep talking and he was mark Zuckerberg so I said well. It's WANNA come over, so we came over and around midnight I had to say like time to go time to go. My kids are getting up at five hours, so we're GONNA have to. Was the process like like dating? Though was it like a court courtship trying to figure out whether work, or did you know after that first meeting that it's on? I knew after that first meaning how warm he was, and how nice he was, and how much he cared about facebook, but it was definitely a process of getting to know each other when you first started the job. Will you staying up late at night? Worrying about the pressures that you earned, did it keep you up at night? Yeah, yeah, it did and the pressures I was under to make facebook what it needed to be wooden mark and I get along. Would we have the relationship? We'd need to have very unique relationship where he runs the company I run part of the company working for him. We really need to trust each other. You know he was fifteen years younger than I was. When I was interviewing with him one night, we were supposed to talk and it was like. Nine o'clock at night, and he called, and he said well I'll just call you later and I said well. Let me go to sleep in about thirty minutes, so if you know if you're still at your dinner, we'll talk tomorrow. He calls the next day. It's like. Are you okay like yeah? I'm fine. He's had sick. So number wasn't sick. You said you went to bed at nine thirty. and. I said I wasn't. You know what I do. I go to bed at nine thirty and so I definitely had this fear. That I was going to be too old. Not Understand what he was doing enough, and it was scary at first at first I so you have now written what I have to say. The modern manifesto for women in the workplace, and you call it lean in because. They gotTA lean in. We gotTA leaning. We gotta we courage girls, and you've done this in your own life. Look what you've done with your school. We've got to encourage girls to lead so women have made tons of progress. You look at the opportunities. My mother had my grandmother had. But, we have a really small percentage of the top jobs in any industry in any nation in the world. There are very few Oprah Winfrey's. There are very women who will the kind of influence and have the kind of opportunities you have. Sheryl's new book is a must read for women and men. It's a smart, honest, deeply personal exploration of Cheryl's mission. She wants women to pull their chair up to the table. It starts with a healthy dose of reality. You've said there's no such thing as work life balance. Why? Why is there no work life balance? I think all of these phrases people throw it. Women are so harmful. Having I've I having. You all the time. Heidi you it oh. Yeah, yeah! The worst, no matter how much we all have, and how grateful we are for what we have, no one has it all because we all make trade offs every single day every single minute work life balance. No one ever asks. Have having it all for second because I love it because I don't think you can, you can have it all I feel like I do, but you can't have it all at the same time. That's right and what's happened. If you compare like my generation to my mother's generation, my mother says this all the time and her generation work nine to five Monday to Friday forty hours. No one expected anything else. and. Parenting was actually much more constrained. What's happened now? We are all connected? My indices part of the problem, right? We are connected all the time. We expect our workers, our our colleagues at work to be able and the amount of time mothers spend one on one in that direct child thing with their kids. It's totally changed. My Mother didn't organize play dates. We wrote our bikes. Dates she wasn't with me, you know. My Mother didn't sit there with all my homework. She helped me when I asked. Checked in every so often work has changed and made it more intense and parenting has changed and become more intense and I'm not judging those things they might be bad. They might be good. They make it harder and harder for working women and almost all women in this country. Are, working women and almost all kids are being raised by two or one parent who is in the workforce. Absolutely, How do you get women past the guilty space? I don't have the answer to that. Did you get past it? I am not passed or not passed to try and get past it and I know I want to be passed. I still feel guilty. I taught my kids off in the morning. And they get out of the car. And I see the other mothers were staying all day because they're volunteering and the heart Pang Wo-. Would my kids be better off if I were staying? My husband, Dave. He thinks were heroes. no-one no-one does as much as we do. No one has jobs like ours against home in the way we do, we're fantastic.

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Mind, Body Connection

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

04:52 min | Last month

Mind, Body Connection

"Hi Everyone, I'm Oprah. Winfrey would you answer true or false? Two the following statement my emotions and my thoughts have a direct bearing on how physically healthy I am, and I'm sick and my mental attitude can help to make me well well. My guest say that both are true that there is a crucial link between the mind and the body. My first guest is a surgeon who works with cancer patients that other doctors have sent home to die. He tells them. To Abandon Conventional Treatments like chemotherapy, but to combine them with a whole new belief system about life, and the purpose for living his remarkable results are documented in his book. It's called. Love Medicine and miracle. Welcome Dr Bernie, Siegel to. My second guest says that there is a direct connection between our emotions and our vulnerability to disease. Specifically, he says that certain emotions increase the risk of strokes and may even trigger certain viruses to cause disease. He even says that tumors have been known to shrink if a patient thinks them smaller welcome, clinical psychologist and author of Super Immunity, Dr Paul Pierce saw walking. If you can think certain tumors smaller, why can't you think other things? Why can't you if you have colon cancer? Why can't you think that you don't have it or if you have a heart murmur? Why can't you think that you don't have it? Why do you have control over some things and not control over others point a great deal of control everything right ideas at every thought you. You have results in a shower of chemicals that alter the body. It's defense system its immune system. It's healing capacity. There's a healer within that we have control over there is disease. There are things that break in US illnesses, a natural part of living, but we all get sick. Sometimes we can find that healer within somebody what said it. You know that God cures. The doctor sends the bill. That must have been dad who said back. And you have documented many many cases of people who? Appear to have miracles in their life, but you say there's no such thing as Miracle Yeah. Needs in his book cancer ward used the term self-induced healing. Yes, the interesting thing about medicine. If you get back to bills in business medicine, the only business that has not studied suggests we do a lot to people who don't do well. Nobody stops and says why don't you get cancer? Why don't you AIDS when you meet the AIDS virus? And what I'm saying is? If you study survivors and you study success, you have something to teach. It is not an accident when you don't die when you're supposed to according to a doctor. What is it? It is a change in you and a change in your life. That's part of what we're talking about. There are things called. Neuro receptors you our body mind. You are not a body and mind if you change your disease changes because your body changes really yes. You're not your body and mind. You're not just a body, or you want some interesting. Yeah, facts, things like people with multiple personalities, yes, can have a disease in one personality, not in another can have an allergy in personality, not in another studying, and this goes all around the planet. This fascinating, yes. Yeah nobody ever told me that in medical school. Nobody ever told me in nineteen, thirty three I think it was Carl Jung interpreted the dream and made a physical diagnosis so I work with dreams with drawings. You're what's going on in your body. We can bring that awareness out. So does this mean that each of us has control over our diseases remarkably slow listen to a bunch of surprising things never taught me in school, either where the only animal in the world dies on a given day of the week more than other days. That is Mondays people, the majority of people who have a heart home let me. Let me interrupt this for one second, because that's very important statement number one is we all die someday? Get the bad news over in the beginning of the program. Death is not a failure. Okay, but the hospital everybody dies at two in the morning. We have incredible control over when we die now there's a reason i. Well my communist try dying Newnan Hospital. They won't let because reputation is based on. You're not dying and the other is families that you don't say to each other I love you, you say. You're rotten, mother, kid, you know father, so you die at two in the families asleep or left, but if you have that kind of control over turning off your live. You also have a lot of control over turning the mind. Remarkably so when you have gall bladder surgery. Room faces trees instead of a wall. You're out about a week earlier

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5 Rules For Creating a Podcast Title

The Podcast Domination Show | Grow your audience, make money and have fun doing it

05:45 min | Last month

5 Rules For Creating a Podcast Title

"What's going on my friend? Welcome back welcome for the first time to the PODCAST domination show I'm lose as your host, and this episode is not going to be a long one, and quite frankly you probably see a lot of my episodes. More recently have been shorter episodes that are the ones that are the Solos and I'm GonNa keep it that way. I want to respect your time. Give you exactly what you need to be successful in podcasting and then I wanNA get out of your ear so today like I mentioned before. You'RE GONNA learn the five rules you have to follow, or you should follow to create amazing an amazing podcast title. Some of the reasons to back up as before we get into this about why I'm doing this topic now is because I've been getting this question. A lot on calls a lot of times I throughout this. Week's been a lot of calls of people who want to launch podcast and one of the big questions. It has like I. Don't know what how to name it or or I don't understand. What's the best practices for naming it, so? I figured I'd do a refresher on this. Of course in my program, the PODCAST launch formula we go into depth on this. I show you all the tools and tricks and tactics and cheech. You can use to really nail your name down, but today you're GonNa learn the five simple tools or five simple ways. Or rules. If I can speak today. That are GONNA help you really get a solid name so. Back or because of popular demand. We're doing this today, so let's dive into it so number one the the I. I. Guess Rule You'd want. You'd WANNA. Really really adhere to when you're thinking of a name is to avoid words that are hard to spell or words that are easily confused or words that that most people are GonNa have a hard time. Spelling think about the the the average person that's probably to your podcast. You have to understand what is their education level? If you're talking to doctors, and maybe it's okay to to use a little bit more technical advanced term, but if you're talking to. Most demographics I would say you're going to want to keep the words simple to smell to spell to smell. Sorry Sunday. But some tips here to avoid. our industry words so certain things that are like really really words that most people wouldn't understand you wanna be as clear as day with these title so number one avoid words are hard to spell words that are easily. GonNa get misspelled in in Google. Apple podcasts or wherever people are searching your podcast from that is going to be a big issue. If you are trying to make sure the name is very easy remember. To find in your podcast directory. So that's number. One number two is. Don't use your name. And it's okay to put like with so and so, but if you're gonNA, do it like the Mike. Dillard show like my dillard's can do that and other big personal brands can do that because they have a big name Bay of already established a name, but if you're someone new, maybe someone who's not so well known meaning like if you don't have a database of like fifty to one hundred thousand people. Even, then it's a hard sell I. We've had a lot of clients recently with bigger personal brands asked me this I name at the Xyz show and I've I've told them repeatedly. No, because unless you're getting tons of organic Google searches for your name like Neil Patel. For example, he's a guy who gets a lot of organic searches for his name. Neil Patel. Less, you're like that. You're getting thousands. Hundreds of thousands of of search impressions tens of thousands of search impressions month then it's going to be in your favor because. People are not going to know what your shows abouts. In you know in two to three seconds when they see that right I, see a lot of podcasts out there that I have no idea who the person is, and maybe just because I'm from the industry who knows, but it doesn't seem like they're big personal brand name, and they've got their name on the podcast and for me, that does know as a listener that that does no benefit for me like I really don't care about your name I just I just WanNa see if you can help me solve whatever it is. You're claiming solve right. people really don't care. UNLESS, you're Oprah Winfrey or someone big. We talking about before Neil Patel. It's going to be hard to to to get traction early on with that kind of positioning. Okay, so that's my advice. If you're someone who's not getting hundreds or tens of thousands of search, ranking or searches for your name already then it's that I'd say pick something else. Go with the name. That's more descriptive as to how you're going to solve the problem or how you going to help this person. Who's GonNa Listen Your podcasts. That's number two so recap number one. Don't use words that are hardest bell number two. Don't use your name unless you're a mega personal brand already. Number, three avoid hyphens apostrophes. Our ever you wherever you can We launched a show that had hyphen. In its recently and we were, we did a lot of thinking about this and the show went. Find got top top shows number two in its category, but we did a lot of thinking. What other what else could we do, so we finally decided. The name is easy enough that it doesn't really matter, but for most cases you're gonNA. Want to avoid hyphens posture fees because this is where. People if they forget that if they don't know, maybe they don't know if there's a the in front of like the podcast show like. If you notice, my show called, it just called PODCASTONE nation show. There's no the. In the actual title. And I did that on purpose. Because if you do have a than, it makes people sometimes forget it, so it gets into entire annoying mess that could mess with your search rankings and search results

The most important job you'll ever have as a leader.

Hacking Your Leadership

03:24 min | Last month

The most important job you'll ever have as a leader.

"For this talent Tuesday episode I WanNa, talk about the most important role. You'll ever have as a leader. This last week is one. We'll all remember for the rest of our lives. I saw tweet yesterday. That was an attempt at humor it read. Can we go back to the tiger? Kings slash stimulus check part of quarantine. Because now it's just getting dark. And I suddenly felt like the last two months of being hunkered down in my house, dealing with the pandemic was somehow ancient history. Many people just feeling comfortable inserting themselves back into the lives they left behind and twenty twenty. Let us know that it more in store for us. Back in December you know way back six months ago when the entire planet was different, the rent and I discussed the five most viewed leadership videos on Youtube. We got a lot of great feedback from that series. In the events of the last week of reminded me of something incredibly profound something. I'm processing with different eyes than the ones I initially used to make that episode. The second episode of that series was about the interview of Oprah Winfrey by the Stanford Graduate School of business. I re watched that video today, and then I re listened to the episode from December ninth, and the parts for me back then is still the part that stands out today, possibly even more so. The interviewer reads oprah quote from a previous interview. She did and asked her about it. The quotas I've talked to nearly thirty thousand people on my show, and they all have one thing in common. They all wanted validation. I would tell you that every single person. You'll ever meet shares that common desire. This is still one of the most true statements I've ever read I believe it's an inherent part of the human condition, and I believe long-term lack of it leads to a mint psychological trauma. And if you think I'm being dramatic, look at the hundreds of thousands of people who just had the final straw placed on their proverbial camel's back. If, you look at the cultural rise of social media, beginning around two thousand five with a tipping point of my space, going all the way today, the popularity of Tiktok Instagram, you'll see the same thing, no matter when you look billions of people who want desperately to have their voices heard to make some kind of mark on humanity. To feel validated. When it comes to the psychological and emotional needs, if human beings validation is really close to the top. So, what is validation? I'm sure you will kind of know what it is meaning. You describe how it feels, or what actions are required to get it, but at its core to validate something means to prove that it's based on truth or fact, so developed a person means to provide credible assurance of their identity and their feelings. And I WANNA be clear. This is not the same thing as empathy showing empathy alone. Only tell someone you can relate to how they're feeling, but it doesn't necessarily validate those feelings objectively true. The first after this process validation is to amplify another person's voice so that others might hear it, too. And, if you're a good leader, I promise this something. You already do all the time. Think about the last time you were giving Kudos from your boss on an assignment on performance and your response was something like Hey. I really appreciate that, but it didn't do much. Jerry was the one who closed that huge sale. Melissa made sure everyone on the team was trained in the new process and Lindsey Project managed the whole thing she been asking for more responsibility. I thought she was ready. Clearly, she didn't disappoint. If, you've had an interaction similar to this. You're already acutely aware of the importance of elevating others of redirecting the spotlight from yourself. This process is the process of allegation. They did the work, but you gave it credibility. and Mrs why this is the most important royal ever have as a leader because people aren't capable of valid themselves. Might have large if you go where they think they can, but it's superficial, and it's fleeting because we're social creatures, so it's not until others come along and support that a person is capable of feeling truly valid.

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

02:00 min | Last month

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Because. You saw yourself being stuck where Joanna's. And neglected them. And they've been hurt by it so important that you know it's not selfish to say what you just said to say I have to take care of me because you're here and you're living, and you have to take care of you. You have to take care of you, and that is not a betrayal of your father's memories, not betrayal of those that we've lost. Cindy what is you want to say because I know you're shocked as me to hear that. Had No idea. Clare, we can get on. You know very my sister letter live in our heart. We can get on with our lives, you know. I'm glad to have my mom bat. Well? Thank you for being here. Thank you, thank you again. Thank you Dr Phil. She's been. She's been holding on to it for ten years and was ready to let go was ready to go. And what is the number? One thing you can say to somebody who is I? I love what you said to her. I think for me. That's the number one thing about living the. The life, celebrating the life, instead of living, continuing because I saw that was a breakthrough for you. What do you want to say? We just don't get to make those choices. And sometimes we second guess, but you can't second. Guess you have to deal with what you have, and that's your life now. There's not a thing in the world. I could do here for Lord. Except give her her mother's peace. And that's what you have to do is take care of you. Because you're here now. That is not selfish to take care of you. Thanks, everybody see you next time with Dr Phil Tell it like it is Phil thank you. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey show the podcast. If you haven't yet go to apple podcasts and subscribe rate and review this podcast, join me next week for another Oprah show the podcast. I, thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

08:35 min | Last month

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Ten years ago Cindy lost her sister, Laurie but she says she also lost her mother to. Over the years I've done many shows with parents of murdered children and parents who've lost their children, and never knew what happened to their children, no bodies, no person ever was claimed or or discovered and you Joanne expressed what all of those parents have at some point or another express to me over the years is they want everyone to know that? Their children had a life, and that the life was important and not the death. Because what happens when you have a child who's murdered, this way is everybody focuses on the death. Everybody focuses on who did it or who didn't do it, and who committed the crime and the life is lost so. You have an opportunity to say something today about the kind of person your daughter was. Her life, not her death, but her life. She was very happy person. She enjoyed everything she did. She liked everybody she met. She was beautiful. She made me pray out. I really couldn't believe that I had a child like this. I've been buried like with the two children I have. And they make me so proud as mother. She didn't deserve this. She deserved a lot more. A lot more. So now you're stuck ten years. You have not been able to move on, and you have watched into your mother. Not Be able to move on. What do you want to say? Well, I just want to tell her that I need you I, need you? There is a parent a friend. When we lost Laurie you daughter Alice Desisto. And it was really hard. To find someone to understand pain was filling because Obviously, you took be there at that time for me. With her case there were details that you and dad with health for me and I feel like there are people out there. Were you know more about the case than I do? and. Course when I was a newlywed, we were having problems and. I didn't feel like a come. Come to you and share that with you. I had to go in front of you. Know Groups, fashion and. Lay everything out there and. Try to get some feedback on it so I could get on with my life and deal with it and I just from other back, I do. They're look. I need you back to back and I need to back as my parents and that's my friend. I'm so sorry. For. To to be able to share your pain and your feelings with her and your joys, and your things to have your mother back as a partner again, yes, it would be wonderful It'd be a new beginning. We could get, and we can move forward. You know we could deal with new pains. New Joyce, you know and. I'm. No and We caught a lot of rest in Peace Now. I really do. AM So sorry are really ender the sorry. Let me ask you both something. And I'll address this to you because Cindy I think you've moved on. I, think you feel like you have some closure. You haven't forgotten your sister, have you? Ever any less. Every day. You think about every day, but you're not obsessed with it. And you feel that you are. Okay. I ask you if you could accept some things and another thing I want to know if you can accept. And this is so hard people to think about. But can you accept the fact? That the length and depth of your grieving. Does not reflect the length and depth of your life. You can love somebody this much. And if you if you if you agree for a year, that doesn't mean that you only loved them that much. It's not something that you. Oh, it's not something that you give how long you grieve. Is. Not a reflection of how much you loved the person that you lost. That sounds foreign to you, doesn't it? because. You walk around, you say. How can I be laughing today? And my daughter is dead, and I'm laughing at Disneyworld or I'm laughing at a TV show and my daughter is dead. How can I do that? You ask those questions yourself, don't you? But I'm asking you now. Can you at least entertain the fact that how long you grieve is not a reflection of how deeply you loved your daughter. I believe I. Do can you accept that if you get closure on this? If you say I'm not going to be obsessed with this anymore that you are not betraying your daughter. Yes! I think I can. That's a hard one, isn't it? But I'm asking you. Can you do that? Yes, sir, I think I can if she could talk to you right now. Do, you think she would say mother. I want you to hurt every day for the rest of your life to prove that you left me. No, you think that's what she would say to invade very angry, it may. So. It wouldn't be a betrayal. Maybe the betrayal is focusing on the day of her. Dan Rather than celebrating the event of her life, she lived for eighteen vibrant and wonderful years. and. You focus on the day that she died. I never thought of it that way. I really never thought of it that way. Well maybe it's time to say. I'm GONNA do that. Maybe it's time to say I'm going to focus on her life and celebrate what I had rather than what? lost. You suppose that's a possibility. That would be nice. It'd be very nice. But it means you have to let her go. You have to give her to God and say I'm Gonna I'm this is your job? Man I'll never forget. I'll never stop loving. You'll never stopped being part of my life. But. It's time that I move von. With your sister and with my life. Take you with me and my heart. But. I'm not going to be obsessed with this anymore. Like to work towards that really would. Like to be able to do that? I could see that. That was a light bulb moment for you. When that was because you who said earlier in the show today you can't even bear to smile. You smiled when Phil said that where the order and you're smiling now. The idea. Of celebrating her life living in holding onto the moment of her death. Really, never thought about it I just never thought about it that way never. Okay? Were you take one more step with me. I mean one more, really big big step. Because what I want you to do right now is I. Want you to make a decision? That says I've got to get up tomorrow. and not be consumed with what I'm doing I've gotta get up tomorrow and have different life I've got to get up and not spend all of my waking hours thinking about my daughter thinking about my loss. And I've been here before and I'm telling you to do that. You have to willing to give it up now. You have to be willing. To say in your heart to, Laurie. I've gotTA. Let you go. I've got to say goodbye I've got to let you go. Because you, you said yourself be really mad at me. She must be really mad at me because we can hold people to an earthly bond, that way can't wait. I believe so. Really Day. Turn your chair and face me. Real close. I want to ask you. Is it time to say by the Laurie. Yes

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JoAnn Compton Powell: Moving forward after the death of a daughter

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

08:35 min | Last month

JoAnn Compton Powell: Moving forward after the death of a daughter

"Ten years ago Cindy lost her sister, Laurie but she says she also lost her mother to. Over the years I've done many shows with parents of murdered children and parents who've lost their children, and never knew what happened to their children, no bodies, no person ever was claimed or or discovered and you Joanne expressed what all of those parents have at some point or another express to me over the years is they want everyone to know that? Their children had a life, and that the life was important and not the death. Because what happens when you have a child who's murdered, this way is everybody focuses on the death. Everybody focuses on who did it or who didn't do it, and who committed the crime and the life is lost so. You have an opportunity to say something today about the kind of person your daughter was. Her life, not her death, but her life. She was very happy person. She enjoyed everything she did. She liked everybody she met. She was beautiful. She made me pray out. I really couldn't believe that I had a child like this. I've been buried like with the two children I have. And they make me so proud as mother. She didn't deserve this. She deserved a lot more. A lot more. So now you're stuck ten years. You have not been able to move on, and you have watched into your mother. Not Be able to move on. What do you want to say? Well, I just want to tell her that I need you I, need you? There is a parent a friend. When we lost Laurie you daughter Alice Desisto. And it was really hard. To find someone to understand pain was filling because Obviously, you took be there at that time for me. With her case there were details that you and dad with health for me and I feel like there are people out there. Were you know more about the case than I do? and. Course when I was a newlywed, we were having problems and. I didn't feel like a come. Come to you and share that with you. I had to go in front of you. Know Groups, fashion and. Lay everything out there and. Try to get some feedback on it so I could get on with my life and deal with it and I just from other back, I do. They're look. I need you back to back and I need to back as my parents and that's my friend. I'm so sorry. For. To to be able to share your pain and your feelings with her and your joys, and your things to have your mother back as a partner again, yes, it would be wonderful It'd be a new beginning. We could get, and we can move forward. You know we could deal with new pains. New Joyce, you know and. I'm. No and We caught a lot of rest in Peace Now. I really do. AM So sorry are really ender the sorry. Let me ask you both something. And I'll address this to you because Cindy I think you've moved on. I, think you feel like you have some closure. You haven't forgotten your sister, have you? Ever any less. Every day. You think about every day, but you're not obsessed with it. And you feel that you are. Okay. I ask you if you could accept some things and another thing I want to know if you can accept. And this is so hard people to think about. But can you accept the fact? That the length and depth of your grieving. Does not reflect the length and depth of your life. You can love somebody this much. And if you if you if you agree for a year, that doesn't mean that you only loved them that much. It's not something that you. Oh, it's not something that you give how long you grieve. Is. Not a reflection of how much you loved the person that you lost. That sounds foreign to you, doesn't it? because. You walk around, you say. How can I be laughing today? And my daughter is dead, and I'm laughing at Disneyworld or I'm laughing at a TV show and my daughter is dead. How can I do that? You ask those questions yourself, don't you? But I'm asking you now. Can you at least entertain the fact that how long you grieve is not a reflection of how deeply you loved your daughter. I believe I. Do can you accept that if you get closure on this? If you say I'm not going to be obsessed with this anymore that you are not betraying your daughter. Yes! I think I can. That's a hard one, isn't it? But I'm asking you. Can you do that? Yes, sir, I think I can if she could talk to you right now. Do, you think she would say mother. I want you to hurt every day for the rest of your life to prove that you left me. No, you think that's what she would say to invade very angry, it may. So. It wouldn't be a betrayal. Maybe the betrayal is focusing on the day of her. Dan Rather than celebrating the event of her life, she lived for eighteen vibrant and wonderful years. and. You focus on the day that she died. I never thought of it that way. I really never thought of it that way. Well maybe it's time to say. I'm GONNA do that. Maybe it's time to say I'm going to focus on her life and celebrate what I had rather than what? lost. You suppose that's a possibility. That would be nice. It'd be very nice. But it means you have to let her go. You have to give her to God and say I'm Gonna I'm this is your job? Man I'll never forget. I'll never stop loving. You'll never stopped being part of my life. But. It's time that I move von. With your sister and with my life. Take you with me and my heart. But. I'm not going to be obsessed with this anymore. Like to work towards that really would. Like to be able to do that? I could see that. That was a light bulb moment for you. When that was because you who said earlier in the show today you can't even bear to smile. You smiled when Phil said that where the order and you're smiling now. The idea. Of celebrating her life living in holding onto the moment of her death. Really, never thought about it I just never thought about it that way never. Okay? Were you take one more step with me. I mean one more, really big big step. Because what I want you to do right now is I. Want you to make a decision? That says I've got to get up tomorrow. and not be consumed with what I'm doing I've gotta get up tomorrow and have different life I've got to get up and not spend all of my waking hours thinking about my daughter thinking about my loss. And I've been here before and I'm telling you to do that. You have to willing to give it up now. You have to be willing. To say in your heart to, Laurie. I've gotTA. Let you go. I've got to say goodbye I've got to let you go. Because you, you said yourself be really mad at me. She must be really mad at me because we can hold people to an earthly bond, that way can't wait. I believe so. Really Day. Turn your chair and face me. Real close. I want to ask you. Is it time to say by the Laurie. Yes

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Oprahs 2000 Capsule

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

07:43 min | Last month

Oprahs 2000 Capsule

"Joanne competence greatest wish is to tell the world. What happened to her beloved daughter Lori. She says my goal for the year two thousand is to tell my daughter story on your show, and then to let that go and get on with my life. Just thinking of her name or thanking her it brings a smile, Emma Hart, Lori and Powell was having the time of her life. She was eighteen, vibrant and popular. She loved her rock and Roll Music, and the Glamour of entering local beauty heartens. then. The mother's unspeakable nightmare happen. Laurie disappeared on a lonely country road and Joanne. comptons torment began. Police found her body in a nearby river. She'd been stabbed to death. Investigations led nowhere, and Laurie's murder remains unsolved when they found Lori and she didn't have anything on her. Just a little steadier rain. No Clothes No pocket. No check. In the ten years since Lori disappeared daily, life has stood still for Joann. Our never be able to come to terms with the US to me. Lori Dad today just as easy as she died ten years ago in one bedroom. She keeps a collection of mementos. Her dolls that she collected. I care for dress from her. Pageants she used to like to be him. Time has not healed Joanne Compton each day. She says the loss feels like a whole that gets deeper. I keep worry ends memory law of all the time in my heart. That Dayton's part of me I don't want anyone else touch. I keep for all live. In my thoughts. Just. Thinking backs I'll. Lorries buried in a cemetery near the family home. Her mother though. Still is waiting for some kind of peace. Joanne row to Dr Phil and She wants to end her. With this tragedy she knows that she is obsessed. And she wrote to Dr Phil McGraw Asking for help. Fill is here with a plan to help Joanne. Move On. This is a show for anyone dealing with the tragedy. Perhaps maybe you will hear something today. That will be a spark a piece of light to open a door that has gotten you stuck. He is a psychologist and he's alive strategist. Non This letter? You say Joanne ten years ago. Ago My daughter Laurean was murdered since that day. I've not been able to let go. It has never been solved and after all this time I don't guess it will be since then I've spent hours and days looking for answers writing to anyone that might help I have a need in me to tell her story not in a small way, but in a big way. This need is driving me crazy. It's all I think about every day. I believe that because of this need. It's making me sick within. I've had to have heart surgery and have develop stomach ulcers. The stomach pain is unbearable at times, but not as unbearable as Laurie's debt.

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Adult Children of Emotional Abuse

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

06:17 min | Last month

Adult Children of Emotional Abuse

"Today we're going back to the very root of our personalities as an adult. Are there times when you feel like you cannot trust people? You have a difficult time controlling your life or a difficult time showing any kind of feeling you can't confront people you resent criticism and feel like you just don't fit in. Please listen to this show because it may not be very happy one but it will hopefully change the way you feel about yourself and later in the show you will meet a man who will teach us has some specific examples of how to begin to rebuild your self esteem. Because we're not crazy enough to think of something you can do in an hour talk show before you meet our guests though. I'd like you to listen to our audience and take themselves back to their childhood for a moment and tell you the wards day remember ripping them apart inside. Do you WANNA go. First Y- I was adapted when I was just a baby and I remember back when I was real small. My parents telling me what had really happened. My real mother was saying well. I really wanted to keep you but your adoptive mother made me give you up in. My mother was saying well. She didn't want you in the she was. GonNa put you in a home so we took you well. How does that really make you feel? How did it it made me feel awful? I mean one way. They're saying I wanted you know she didn't want you know she didn't watch. You and I was totally confused. I think now. I'm venting my anger. And my frustrations in my knowingness towards my fifteen year old and I. I love him to death but I'm always telling him he's stupid and he's not stupid he might have had some problems with divorce and things like that but he's not stupid and I'm forever Tony. You can't do anything you don't do anything right or too stupid you know and you. Did you hear the same thing when you were growing up? People tell you that no no. They didn't but I think it's my not knowing where I really belonged. But it's not right to take it out on my my oldest your self esteem. Which is what. We're talking big time for a long time. I didn't feel that I was really worth anything. I didn't feel like I was really wanted anywhere. And how that affects. Your life is what we're talking about. Thank you yes yes I was put in a foster home and the foster parents would always tell me that my mother gave me to them because I was so ugly. You know they will say you ugly as homemade sand and they'd say all those kinds of things till has I've grown up now when I do meet somebody a guy or something and he says Oh you Kinda cute and I take it as. Maybe he's joking. He's trying to really be funny or something like that. So it's really hard. It's really hard to get off. You wanted to say what yes. I didn't have really anybody telling me that I was a terrible person but my father used to always criticized my weight when I was very young. I always swear that I was born in one hundred and fifty pounds and what he would do is he would make comments. Like if I was coming down the stairs he would sing to taxi and one time. I was so proud that I lost like ten pounds. But he kept saying but Laura. You're still so big so I sabotage that Diet in three times my life I lost over one hundred pounds and I think that one little criticism and I would shoot backup the weight and then some so finally about three years ago I did have my stomach stapled in thank God. The weight stayed off. But I think that when I was growing up to is he would criticize me. I would turn around and criticize my sister and call her names and stuff like that so I know that now as an adult with my own family. I do not want to repeat that next. You'RE GONNA meet my guest three adults who say that. The abuse that they received as children is just as dangerous and just as damaging as physical or sexual abuse. My first guest wrote this letter to me. She says I was raised by a stepfather. Who never once touched me. Who turned his head when my mother insisted that I kissed him goodnight. I recall him yelling his hatred. At me labeling me the goon of the family to this day I rarely express an opinion and even then expect to be shot down. Please welcome the woman who wrote this letter. Linda Janice Napier. We're glad to have you join US Linda. My next guest says that his mother told him she didn't want him. He says that his parents never had any time for him. They called him the bad boy and to this day people still make comments like you really not as bad as you said you were. He never remembers any love just abuse now as an adult. He's having great difficulty parenting his own children without using abusive words. He says that he truly does hate his mother for the abuse. Paul mccracken my next guest says. She was called every name in the book by her mother when she was a child and teenager and criticized hundreds of times everyday. She says she will never succeed in life because she just can't believe in herself Shannon rose. We're glad to have all of you join us here on the show. But we're trying to tackle is what I think is the root of all problems in the world. I believe that lack of self esteem is what causes war because people really love themselves. Don't go out and try to fight other people either in their backyard and their community and in the world. Don't you agree? It's the root of all problems for. Yes yes so you know when I was when I was growing up I can remember many times of just being humiliated not only in front of family members. You know. During holidays my mother would send us away from the table for acting like kids. I remember seven years old. She you know dressed me up in a towel as a diaper made me take the garbage out in front of all the neighbors just to show how bad of a boy was and try to make me feel is humiliated as possible and you did. I had no choice. You know as a child you know what I know. You had no choice to where the diaper the towel diaper did feel. I mean I can't imagine what that does to assemble. It totally destroyed my image of myself now. The only type of attention I got as a child was very abusive in almost neglectful. You know attention. My parents were always busy running around to all these social activities. My mother was very verbal about the fact that children should be seen and not heard now. I was adopted too and I was told that the age of eight that I really wasn't wanted my mother was a slut and a whore and she gave me up because she didn't have any way of taking care of me and my mother kept holding it up in front of my face saying hey you were chosen. We chose you and it's like well if you chose me. What what's the point? Why you didn't want me to begin with

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

10:13 min | 2 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"You understand what I mean. That's true what we've started to do is blame people that have loved enough. You've been kind enough patient today. Who was dying and she said my imagery failed. I didn't get able to think of the sharks that I said you did. Well people die appreciate life. Life is random. You don't deserve this dog gonnit. We'd do our best after all. That's what super joy is super toys. Doing you're making a choice to live. Joyful to what you're saying super joy there are some people who take that illness and get to be better people as a result of that illness and therefore that illness served a great purpose in their life because it made them love themselves and love. Everybody else you know when they made a choice to use it. There's a woman on the concentration camp if they're not gonNA hold me well. It's not just that they're using that illness you'd find those same people. Whatever happens to them they figure out how to put it to work for them and for those who are around them rather than feel like something happened to them because of it. Don't you think that I don't know if all if you believe in God but that the grace of God or the love of God is constant? We agree with that the love of God us concert so if the love of God is constant. Doesn't that mean that God is not here to destroy to punish the calls? You to struggle. Do you agree with that? I agree with that. I agree with that. I remember the statement from the one I mentioned in the concentration camp she said. This ain't God's camp right. God didn't do this but I have a control over this. I can use God's love to survive the system all right so does that mean that people then block themselves from the grace or the love. Yes I think so is there a perception of God's love that makes the difference here you know when you were talking about loving each other? You're talking about family and people close to you and your patience and you know there's a camaraderie there. But how do you keep loving and sharing and trying to be fair with people when people use that and basically? I see people you know the older I get. I think people are reading I do. That's what the argument was. Maybe we all three can come in some really behave in very inappropriate means angry destructive ways. I don't want to give this idea that we're looking at the world through rose colored glasses and distorting that that's not what the joy response is. The joint responses is biochemical for reflects happens on the body. When you don't allow that negative to affect you because you make a choice. This person cut me out and traffic. You can follow them for four miles chase them yell at them scream at them make vulgar gestures. Who you're hurting is you. That doesn't bother them. They do this all the time. They have other problems. I know what she's saying. What she's saying you give yourself to somebody that you share yourself. You have to be and then they take advantage of you because those people mistake your kindness for weakness and they think you're stupid but that's who you are when I give of myself when I give it to someone. I don't give expecting them to respond the way I want them to. That is not what life is about giving loving I speak of is extending yourself unconditionally. For the benefit of another human being who ever that human being is wherever however they wish to to use yourself doesn't matter what they do absolute. I'm giving because it makes me feel good to give well in addition to that delimit new. Stick something in here. There's an assumption that giving is always one on one in fact the giving needs to be to the entire outfit. We are always putting back in the pot. That's sometimes what is given to us goes back in the pot to someone who's not gonNA give directly back to us but there's a sense of contributing to the well being of the group appointed hasn't been brought up here too is when that happens. Sometimes if I may share this with you if you give into those people they're not you need to clean house. There are times in your life when the best things I've done is clean house and you eliminate the people in your life who are not moving in the same direction and are not feeding you what you need. I mean that's one of the greatest gifts hard enough to fix that up. I see a lot of people abort very quickly some people give up too soon. You WanNA clean house until it's really really. I mean but you clean clean after you realize that these people are bringing me down and I've done everything I can. I've given of myself but this person isn't going to help my life. You see what I'm saying. What I'm concerned about is a researcher. Purely though Oprah is that understand something I think. The three of us are trying to say by acting lovingly. This is not just some kind of romantic hogwash. And it's not just positive thinking and looking at communicating. Or I love you. You're my one and only deepest ocean. It's acts that show caring for the system as you said it's giving back to the system however what does that mean giving what. I do positively. It may not be aimed at that one man that day but it goes into the pot. We are all connected. We're all related. One person in this audience today is touched by this. That matters a great deal. It doesn't matter. One woman may give me a dirty look and then. I'm going to clean house. I'll never sit in front of you again. You understand the number one thing you can do for your own. Immune system is to do something altruistic to help you. Don't believe me after the Oprah show is over go out traffic fine traffic and wave people and give them a break. You'll feel really good now. If you're going to tell me didn't even thank me the fool..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

11:47 min | 2 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Half months of his life. Right up to the day died. Were you scared at first because when you know someone's dying there's always that moment of even like when I was walking into Elizabeth Towels. But she's pretty darn feisty. Still there's the expectation of what am I going to say? And how am I going to say it and that whole kind of death shroud? Yeah Yeah I was but more. He had this great attitude about dying. He looked at it as a great opportunity to teach about the one subject that nobody really knows anything about until they get there so he was already in that mode of wanting to share the whole dying experience. And what it meant as to how you should live. So he made me feel like a student. The minute I sat back down again he started lecturing me. And you should know this and that and you talked about the world at first and then you talked about. I mean you. Divide the chapters into the various Tuesday. When I decided that we would do. This book together broke each Tuesday down to sort of one subject that Lexus people in life marriage and family are getting older. How much you should work. Now is a big one for me and Greed forgiveness forgiving people. And each week. We would just sort of talk because you know people always say how would I live my life? I knew I had six months left to live. Would I change? Well here was a guy who was exactly that situation at the time you were. Kinda pretty obsessed with your working life. I worked about seventeen eighteen hours a day and I think I thought that achievement maybe the more cheese the less likely I would be to die. Do so much too busy today or too important to die and you got things to do. Yeah I can't. I have a plan appointments tomorrow well more. He taught me that. You know all the all the hours of work that you do are not gonna come back to you when you really need them. The most all the buildings you want to name after yourself or the stock portfolios you WanNa build not GonNa Comfort you. The way that his friends his old students as family comforted him. So what you should be spending your time on is making those relationships with people and establishing yourself in their lives and I had a lot to learn from him still do more gift to Mitch into. All of us was his ability to step back and look at dying as a chance to teach. He was one of the great teachers before he died. He gave an interview to a public television station. He said the culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves and you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn't work. Don't buy it exactly. He never followed the norm. Even when it came to funerals and dying. He went to a funeral when he was sick. And it came back. They said this is a shame. This guy never got to hear all these nice things that people said I wanNA have my now. And that's what he did. He organize the funeral where he invited his closest friends and family to come and they all stood up and said what he had meant to them but at the end deceased rose and thanked the people backing him a much. Better Way to do it than to to wait till we're gone or he says it's natural to die the fact that we make such a big hullabaloo over it is all because we don't see ourselves as a part of nature conversation. He had a great story about. He loved to tell stories and he said there's this heat wave in the she wave out in the ocean. He waves flopping around having a great time and all of a sudden he sees the shore. Realizes it's GonNa hit the shore that's going to be. The end starts to panic. Wave comes along and says what's the matter he wipes says US terrible. We got a couple more flips. And we're OUTTA here. We never exist. It's terrible and she says you don't understand you're not a wave your part of the ocean. And that's the way that he sort of looked as life and death is sort of being part of this whole big continuous. He says. Here's the payoff. Here's how we're different. I love that story from these wonderful plants and animals as long as we can love each other and remember the feeling of love we had. We can die without ever really going away. Yeah all the love you created is still there all the memories are still there you live on in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured while you were here death into life not a relationship you know most shell love that. Did a little hairs rise on your head just now it. Just God goosebumps the most. Poignant thing that I remember more telling me was just a couple of weeks. Before he died he asked me to come visit him at his grave and he said I wanted to come come on Tuesdays. You're already coming on Tuesdays role at around and come sit and talk to me. Tell me about your problems. I said you want me to tell you about my problems sitting at your grave. He said Yeah I said well you know it's not going to be the same. You can't talk back and he laughed and he said well tell you what. After I'm dead you talk. I'll listen and he wasn't just being cute. I think what he meant by that was what you said in there that if you spend your life here investing in People Making Memories Having good time with them and sharing yourself then you never really do go away. I mean you're not physically here but you know you're here you're up here and I can have conversations with Morrie even now before I came on this show. I said well. What do you think of this? Now's Oprah program you know and it's because we spend that quality time together but if you spend your time working and he's trying to make you don't make those memories you don't live on inside somebody after you're gone that's why. I love this little book so might And people always tell me after Tuesday's with Morrie they say es reminds me of my old English teacher such as art teacher and then the next line is always. I wonder what happened to him and I say go back and find him because teachers affect eternity. They touch you. They touch me. I'm talking to you. We're talking all these people. They are so valuable and so on rewarded in the society. Change your relationship with your brother did it. Not My brother is sick also like more. He has cancer only unlike Maury. He didn't invite everybody to spend time with them. He kind of straight armed all of us. He lives overseas very frustrating. Because I love him and I want to spend time with them and this experience with more here was more invited me in every Tuesday and I can't see my brother. Maury said you have to understand that everybody has different ways of dealing with problems like this if you really love them you make room for the way that they wanNA deal with it. Well and that's how you show affection. This has helped a lot my brother I dedicated the book to my brother and he read it and he start crying halfway through it and then he said I'll read the rest of it when I got home so It's helped a lot more would've loved meeting you and talking to you. I read the book. You only saw one oprah show. Let's one more than one more than he watched everybody else. Tom and his children ZAC and Kate. Tom Lost his beloved wife. Kathleen from lung cancer before she died. Kathleen tried to pack a lifetime experiences into one short year. Tom Says she died peacefully. After passing along some valuable lesson she wanted to have a good debt. Correct immediately after the unconceivable news diagnosis. We went into action. In the way in which we coped with all other traumas before that which was optimism and hope and focus on overcoming somewhat insurmountable odds. And that's the sort of energy we brought to dealing with initially but it turns out that that energy sort of stiff arms as you said stiff arms. What is really going on? Which is the fears of the unimaginable? And once we understood that that's really what we needed to embrace. We got help professional help support at the cancer wellness center. Well we came to understand. Is that instead of coping with the fears? We had to wade into them. We had to face them and once we were able to learn how to do that we became free of them had been having conversations that were indescribable But we had them. The four of us The kids and Kathleen. I talked about funerals. Well you guys told in the beginning. How soon were you told that your mom had lung cancer? Yeah the day the day. Yeah they were in on it from the very beginning and because we were able to open it up to the unimaginable fears. They didn't drive us any longer. They didn't control us and we became free of fear and allowed us to be open to living in the moment. That was our secret to living in. The moment is facing our fears and getting rid of them and once we did. It became his fantastic cycle because it opened us up to pleasure and joy and love in ways that the four of us had never known and it radiated among our family. Our Friends. Our community feeling really. So could you have letters that your mom role? Yeah I received this about. I don't know week after my mom died and this is just a little part of it. Thirteen year old. Boys don't need their moms too much but they definitely need them from time to time. I so desperately desperately wish I could be there for you in body not just in spirit. Fortunately for me I won't have to bear. The indignity of ever losing tickle torture to you which no doubt would have happened in the near future more seriously though with when I while I think about your life without me while it brings me said Nece it also brings me pride you have developed such tremendous qualities in your brief life on earth. That I- enormous. I'm enormously gratified I imagine you navigating your way even without me Kate your say in your heart and hold me there in a way that gives you comfort help or support if you do. I will never ever leave you. I suspect I may even be able to help you during difficult times. If you just happened to me I will. I will be inside. You leaving you loving you and caring about you every single minute of every single day for as long as you live. That's about it because I know what a tremendous grow you are. I'm confident in the kind of wonderful woman. You will become with this knowledge. I've grown to actually be able to face death with the centerpiece. You've helped me get there because I know y'all be members of that time we went to Palm Springs for a family vacation and she was in bed but I came home after swimming and she said can you give me a bowl of cheerios and Asher. So I remember that. A Bola cheerios everything. She got up at two o'clock in the morning. One downstairs eight and about a week before she died before she went into the hospital. I was in their room and sleeping and she said mom we wake me up. If you go downstairs eatable cereal. She said yes. So two o'clock in the morning we both went down and that is really chilling. Cherry amazing amazing. I want to thank everybody especially we wanNA think kate and Zach for sharing. Those letters were with us. I think we're all better people for having heard thank you Tom. Thank you. Bye rybody bye. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the PODCAST. If you haven't yet go to apple podcast subscribe rate and review this. 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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

07:17 min | 3 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"No maybe you are Madonna. And or whatever people perceived to be people perceive your actions or whatever your boundary setting to be to be called a Prima Donna. But that's okay with us and that is okay. That's exactly right. This is my sister and I take time. You know what I think you need to hear. What Oprah saying the truth is this that for a lot of women don't set boundaries in their lives when they start setting boundaries they will appear to be a diva or Prima Donna to the women in their lives or to the people in their lives. And I say celebrate your Premadonna Hood really more would you start to set boundaries for yourself people then go to well. Who does she think she is? Which is the same thing as she's a Prima Donna. Or she thinks she's so much and she just Miss Diva and the truth of the matter is you've got to know who you are to be able to stand inside yourself to. Yeah this is who I am. I'll say oh I'll pray about it or I'll talk about on the go out. Pray about people will laugh. You pray about it. Let's in an people will and I'll stand for that people will think that's funny or in that sometimes bother me and maybe and and so they will think it's funny and so that's about it also pay attention. Pay attention to the internal boundary conversation because part of what you're talking about is the way we internalize what other people say about US afterwards. And there's something you need to do in order to protect your emotional wellbeing so that you're not so affected by people saying oh well who does she think she is She's a Prima Donna. Because you will be perceived as a Prima Donna. And I'd I'd say take that as a sign that you probably doing the right thing. We'll see that may not be the word for you. I literally do pray about things so that it's like a running joke in this company that whenever other managers would come to me they would. They would leave a little note. I know you're gonNA pray about it. Get back to me after you've prayed about it so that's just because it's the nature of my personality there. That may not be the right word for you. You might want to sleep on it but I do desperate okay. This is no risk. Thank you so much. She says taking things personally is keeping her from living the life she wants and she's desperate to stop for as long as I can remember. I've taken things personally. Since I was a little girl. I can remember others talking about me and my feeling bad about that. I often get my feelings hurt and feel criticized by other people but they would never know that because I don't ever confront them. How dwell on something for hours or for days taking things personally has caused me to lose weight caused my hair fallout. I've lost many nights of sleep over comments that people have made to me and I run them over and over in my head trying to figure out why they said what they said. It makes me feel very sad. Because there's a part of me that wants to let it go but I can't once I had to do a report from my boss. I gave it to him and handed it back to me with lots of corrections and it made me feel totally inadequate. I thought about it for days. I saw this code at a vintage store. I thought to myself I have to have that coat while award to a party and a very good friend of mine solid cope and she said to me. I cannot believe you wore a coat and I didn't say anything to her at the time but it really really hurt my feelings. I took her comment. Not is an attack on the code but it is an attack on me and my choices. If there's a friend that I usually talk to an I call them repeatedly and they know. Call me back. I think there's a problem I haven't heard back from you. I hope I haven't offended you in any way if I'm trying on clothes at a store with a friend and they comment on the way. The CLOTHES FIT my body. I take it as a personal attack. This pants are perfect. Because you don't have any hits this is this is not on the inside. I was thinking it's not that she doesn't like the outfit. She has an issue with the way. I'm shaped it makes me very sad to spend so much of my time. My life worrying about situations. I just have absolutely no control over. I WANNA learn that to take things so personally and to honestly look at them for what they are. Nurses example here is what happens when the outside world begins to Mesh with our inside world. You feel vulnerable in the more vulnerable. You feel the more affected you are by everything that happens around you that's why you obsess about the friend who hasn't called back what we need to set an internal boundary in an internal boundary is like a shield that protects your vulnerable emotional wellbeing and when you said that internal boundary if you imagine that shield and this takes practice and it takes time what happens when someone makes a comment like that code is ugly it stops at the shield and then you get to decide hold on a second. How much of this is true? How much of it is about the other person? And what do I need to do if anything now the fact that numerous other person? Because that's why I love the four agreements so much that that that second agreement don't take anything personally because everything is about the other person's opinion if I say I like your blouse your Orange Blouse issues just because I do like the color orange I like it and and that's my personal opinion of that. I think that the real question is is something that you can learn. From someone's comment ugly cope may not be a good example. But if someone were to say to you you're really arrogance you might. This is an opportunity for you to stop as long as it stops for you to say. Wait a second. Let me I M I. Is there any part of that? That's true that I could learn from and then from there never see you said the thing about the ugly coat you said. It really really hurt me. That was an indication that you probably needed to say something and you probably still do. Of course you've already said now you know we could simply say to your friend. I really love you and you know the comments you made about. The coat really hurt my feelings and I just need you to know that too. Many women will internalize that stuff and I worry about what it does to our bodies already said you lose weight you lose your hair when someone makes a common in. It hurts you or it offends you when you swallow it and you don't say anything it's gotTa go someplace. That doesn't just go out your need immediately at hangs around for a while and we need to be concerned about what's going on inside of us when we hold onto that stuff we have to bring up out whether it's to the person or someone safe sitting chuckling. Because when I saw that I remember I was with my friend Gayle once we were trying on. This dress had a bow in the back. And I say you should not put that on because that makes your butt look big and she says my butt is big. She goes to meet somebody she goes so I'll just back into the room. I WANNA thank show. Richardson her book is called Life. Makeovers thanks to Gaylon Orissa for sharing your stories. Thank you. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. Join me next week. 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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

10:19 min | 3 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"After several days of bloodshed. The freedom writers were stranded in Alabama. No bus drivers were willing to take them any further and they were surrounded by hostile racist mob. Freedom Rides were over southern White supremacists thought they had one but they did not know about an utterly fearless. Young woman named Diane Nash. A softspoken force to be reckoned with. She was Diane. Nash was a leader of the Nashville student movement. In nineteen sixty one. She turned twenty three on the very day. The freedom rides were cancelled but Diane was not willing to give up. And so that same day. She agreed to coordinate. A second wave of freedom ride keeping the movement alive in the middle of final exams. Twenty-one students from various Nashville colleges left school to join the fight for equality when US attorney. General Robert Kennedy heard that more students were continuing the freedom rides. He called his assistant John. Seigenthaler welcome Diane. Nash and John Seigenthaler Bravo Bravo. George just had enough. Yes you had had enough. Segregation was so humiliating. If you went downtown in Nashville. During the lunch hour blacks would be sitting on the curb eating their lunch that they had brought from home or dropped from a restaurant on a takeout basis. And it was. It was humiliating and I hated it. The students that Diane Organiz Miss Nash organized eventually made it to Montgomery Alabama. Were clansman had been waiting for them all night. A full scale riot then broke out. John Seigenthaler was there. John You were there representing the attorney. General Robert Journal in the United States. Didn't want this to happen. Not Want it. I mean the last thing administration needed wasn't explosion conflagration of violence. And so you end up in the middle of the riot. I wound up in the middle of Violent Ryan. I was hitting Ed. I'd never been knocked unconscious before. And then they not me down and kicked me on to the car and I woke up thirty minutes later. Policemen finding pick me up. It's almost impossible to imagine that we were that sort of southern society at the time that that fifty years ago. Oh and and when you when you think about that you wonder where it came from. Where the courage of these children came from. Yes every time. I complied with the Segregation Stein. When used a back door or something I felt like I'm agree that I am inferior to inferior to use The ordinary facility that the general public used and it was a real problem for me. I'm glad it was a problem. I'm glad it was a problem. You did something about it. Thank you MS nationalist. Battle on Day twenty one. The National Guard escorted the freedom riders out of Alabama. But there were no feelings of relief as they crossed the border into Mississippi Mississippi was the state they feared the most when the freedom riders walked into the white only waiting room in the Jackson Mississippi bus terminal they were immediately arrested and eventually sent to Parchman penitentiary. Those arrests inspired hundreds more to become freedom. Riders they came by bus plane train from every corner of the United States to Mississippi men and women of every age every race and religion determined to fill parchman prison an overthrow segregation ernest. Rip Patent Junior Carol. Ruth Silver and congressman. John Lewis were among the three hundred freedom. Riders who spent the summer of nineteen sixty one in parchment prison congressman. Lewis when you arrived in Mississippi and knowing as I said earlier I grew up knowing. It's one of the most racist states. Did you know you're in trouble? I grew up in Alabama thought Alabama was beheaded but I had never been in Mississippi before when I saw that sign that said welcome to Mississippi. The might know your state heart start beating a little faster seem the air warmer. I hear that they tried to make your prison sitting especially miserable rip. Yes it did We we did a lot of singing and they didn't like to sing and every time that they would threaten to do something. We would seem for example. We're GONNA take your mattress you can take. How Mattress Oh yes. You can take our mattress or yes. You can take out mattress. You can take mattress. You can take out mattress. Oh yes now that man sleeping on steel but we were willing to give up those mattresses. So were you. Also you were also in parchment prison right. There were twenty three girls say girls. 'cause we were pretty young in one side were you. At the time I was twenty one. Twenty One and those twenty three girls were in a cell in Heinz County. That was built for four. So there were four bunks and the rest of US slept on the floor and we were told they're going to take you to parchment and we were really afraid at that point because the the reputation of Parchman is that it's a place that a lot of people get sent and don't come back. I'm back from some back. Wow on September twenty second nineteen sixty one. The Interstate Commerce Commission issued an order taking down all of the Jim Crow signs from all of the bus and rail stations. In the south the freedom writers had one fifty years after the original movement. Forty college students are now retracing the route of the freedom rides from Washington DC to New Orleans they are riding alongside some of the original freedom. Writers I'm getting on the best because I believe that knowledge is power on the bus because the movement is not finish. I'm really interested in. Is what inspires ordinary people to stand up for justice and how young people can get involved in sustaining a movement around the world. That's what's Great. Congratulations to William to to Michael Tanya and Caitlyn who was selected out of one thousand students to join the rides. Thank you for being here. I wanted to do this show today. I think it's so important for all Americans to know who we are where we came from how we came to be you. You have to know who you are and what your history is Ray. Arsenault is the first professional historian to write a comprehensive book on just this movement it's called Freedom Writers and beautifully written historical account. You're gifted storyteller. Because this is all about every story each individual's story here. Why did you want to tell this and these stories? Well as we've seen today this is a story that had to be told When I began work on the book about thirteen years ago I wasn't sure that anybody could do full justice to the to the freedom writers story but I had to try and the just the dramatic power of what they accomplished back in. Nineteen sixty one. Everybody who dared to get on those buses is a hero and a heroine. That's really the story of the Freedom Rides to me. They had the courage inside themselves. It was. They found something larger than themselves and they signed on for life. I mean they weren't. They weren't going to pass their responsibility off to to anyone else. It's always the young people thank you. I would like to give special acknowledgment to five of the visionaries who helped inspire and plan the freedom rides. George Houser Gordon. Carry Tom. Gaither and Reverend James Lawson and C T Vivian. Also reverend thread shuttles were critical role in protecting the freedom riders. It has really been an honor for me and I know for those of you who were part of this audience and those of you at home to celebrate all of you on behalf of all of America. May I say you make us proud to call ourselves? Americans they may also say we stand in reverence for what you have done and we can ask ourselves these questions as we look at the courage that you will showed at such a young age. What's wrong with the world? And what can we do to change it? Thank you thank you for that. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the PODCAST. If you haven't yet go to apple podcast subscribe rate and review this. Podcast join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

04:56 min | 3 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Every single person ever will meet shares that common desire. They WANNA know. Do you see me. Do you hear me. That's what I say mean anything to you. Twenty Five seasons four thousand five hundred sixty one episodes. I believe the Oprah Winfrey show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world. A rolling never thought of it that way. The AHA moments the breakthroughs. The connections the occasional ugly cry so terribly missing every single minute the L. O. Ell's the moments that mattered eye-opening light lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the ball. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me. Do you hear me. That's what I say mean anything to you. You're listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast for many of you watching. I know that this may be the first time you're even hearing about the freedom rides but let me tell you if it were not for these American heroes. This country would be a very different place right now and the lies of millions of you would be dramatically different. I know my life would be were it not for them. We begin with a look back at what life was like back in nineteen sixty one when the freedom writers movement was born in Nineteen Sixty one. John F. Kennedy was sworn in as America's thirty fifth president at just forty three. He was the youngest president elected to office. The camelot era was for many. A time of hope and optimism. Gas was just thirty one cents a gallon at many family saw the USA in their Chevrolet that same year the United States put our first man into space popular. Tv shows like leave it to beaver. And the Andy Griffith show depicted an idyllic all American life but those images were far from the reality for many African Americans especially the deep South. Jim Crow laws forced black people to use separate. Water fountains separate public restrooms and waiting rooms even on buses and trains. We had to sit in the back in Nineteen forty-six and again in nineteen sixty the. Us Supreme Court outlawed these racist practices but many white southerners continue to follow their own. Set of rules during those hate-filled terrifying times in the south and other parts of the country a fearless and determined group of Americans men and women black and white many of them still in college at the time. Join together to fight against racial injustice in our country it was dangerous and daring some even considered it a suicide mission. Thirteen courageous freedom. Riders would risk their lives to board buses in Washington. Dc and head south into the belly of the segregation beast. The plan was to buy tickets on interstate buses for a two week journey. That would end in New Orleans along the way the writers with Test Federal Laws that prohibited segregation by riding in the front of buses and sitting in waiting rooms designated whites only and colored. The movement was organized by core the Congress of racial equality core trained all the freedom riders to be nonviolent how to protest without ever striking back. The freedom writers hope this nonviolent movement would force the federal government to step up and protect civil rights. It was that optimism that would lead to one of the most significant moments in American history. On the fiftieth anniversary of the freedom rides. We honor the four hundred and thirty six brave and determined people who risked their lives to change our nation as an African American woman born in Mississippi Nineteen fifty four and raised in the south deep debt of gratitude to the freedom writers. As do we all ladies and gentlemen I stand among heroes. Join me in welcoming one hundred and seventy eight survivors of the nineteen sixty one freedom rides..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

09:41 min | 3 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Taught me early that love hurts and therefore as long as my wife continue to cook clean beat me. I'm GonNa always be there because sharing is caring and love hurts. I learned early and I think that's a real good lesson but I don't think it only hurts and I don't believe that beating children is an act of love. I don't believe that well of course it feels good sometime to John. Yeah I mean I want to say well look if it hurts you more than me. Let me do it to you and I sure don't want you to hurt here but I think that the point is good. That look if love was easy. We'd all have it. It's not easy and that's another thing that we've got to learn that it's GonNa time it's going to take attention it's GonNa take effort is GonNa take commitment. It's going to be a decision much. More than a feeling in love is a feeling love is a decision and I think. That's a real important distinction. Now if you grow up in a family and you can never have your own will then. How can you make a decision? Because you've never been allowed to make a decision so when you're in your fault self you're just a robot acting out a roll of fault cell. So in love is feeling love itself as a decision absolutely at least that's a major distinction as I said earlier. You speak a lot about soulful love. How do we begin to find that? Well I call soul. Whatever is most human? Ns like soul music soul food. Soulful love is when we're being the most human being human means imperfect limited not having unrealistic expectations. The wounded child wants the unconditional love of mother. But I can't expect that of my wife or my spouse or the person I'm in a relationship with adults have conditional love that is we contract. I love you you love me. The child expects unconditional love so when people get married they start making demands. You never can't you ever and I always and you never and you hear children just screaming at each other to very deprived. Children screaming for the developmental needs that they didn't get. That's what's so interesting about marriage if you don't understand how marriage works out really works because you pick as you say in your book as a number of people have written about this also that you pick the person who has the traits of your parents and most of the negative traits of your parents. So it's like two four year olds coming together. I draw little pictures a big people and little people and there's a contract between the big people I will love you forever and the kids are going. Oh Boy oh boy. You're my father. You're going to be the father I never had. You're going to be the mother I never had. It's an unrealistic expectation. So what's going on in your marriage? Well we're separated in trying darndest to work it out. We were married. We've been married for two and a half years when we were married. We brought our childhoods into our marriage not knowing what they were and it exploded interface. Someone told me I'd marry someone just like my dad and I did. I did most people do though. That's the mystification that were walking around in a kind of a trance. Forgive you know first thing to do is forgive yourselves? You did the best you could. Second thing is you're responsible for your wound. And he's responsible for his wound if you try to make him take care of your wound and he tries to make you take care of his wound it work. Then you're back in the source relationships for example I have engulfing issues with women because my mother more or less engulfed me. So what happens when I start getting too close? I want out of there okay but I always find women who have abandonment issues. You get this so the second. I'm getting out of there. They're going crazy over here now. What I've learned and what I'm creating in a relationship is that I'd take responsibility for my wound right. I'll say look. I'm in my wound right now. Are She might say. I'M IN MY WOUND. And then we negotiate. But I don't try to take care of her wound or else. I'm back in my source relationship Sam back trying to make my mom happy and that so interesting. Don't you think this interesting? Because that's what people marry for a married Mary. Because you want that person to take care of your rulings. And the person never can take care of your. Whoa now. They can't do it because you would have to be a child again and they would have to be your parent absolutely. Does it ever work? Well it works if two people you know like I say we have to grow up. We have to embrace our loneliness. I am responsible for my wound. I can't blame that on my mother or anybody else. I need to fix it. I need to grow up. That's you know that's the issue. When I'm willing to do that I can say look. I'm this is about me and my history. It's not about you. I'm feeling overwhelmed right now. I need a day by myself and two people can contract that and work it out. But isn't the problem in a lot of marriages that the person thinks the other person is causing their problem that they don't relate the problem that's going on in the marriage to whatever happened with the wound. Think the spouse is the one who's creating the problem for them absolutely. I think if you're never getting your own needs met if you're angry all the time are you're depressed all the time that somehow love causes both of you to grow. And if you're not growing you're not expanding then call it something else but I wouldn't call it love. The other piece of it is is that I've been very critical of people in my relationship because what I learned in my shame was all or nothing I tried to be more than human perfect judgmental critical are less than human. Just be a SLOB. I just go back and forth between the two. Somehow the love is based on healthy. Shame what's healthy. Shame I make mistakes. I'm limited. I'm not God that I'm human and the person I'm with her I'm GonNa find the pantyhose all wadded up in the corner. It is going to be the you know the mother Theresa and I've gotTa get it that to be. Human is to be fallible to make mistakes and that. I really accept that in my partner. I accept their idiosyncrasies and their bills. Okay except my so as you were saying that about marriages and how you have to fix your own wounds. The question is. Are you both willing to do that? I can speak for myself. I've I'm in a program right now. We're kind of redefining. What I am myself learning about all the things that happened in the past with my my parents and I think only by route redefining what I am. Will we have a chance to work together? Redefining and then taking responsibility for yourself. Exactly I really support you in. That really sounds good. Both of you. Yes you wanted to say what I've been doing. A lot of work on the inner child work and learning to love my inner child. And what I'm having a problem with is the fact that when I was young I learned that the only person I could trust was myself I had to find my own survival skills to get through life. How do I get rid of those and that person because that person got me through it? Sure well you see. There's sort of two extremes one is that you just get totally absorbed and enmeshed you become confused with the people you're with the other. Is You isolate? Put a wall around you. Say I don't need anybody I can make it and what you're describing is more that second one so it's once again you're GONNA have to risk coming out. You're going to have to risk letting go of your own self sufficiency and learn to rely on somebody. I mean it's been one of hardest things for me to let somebody take care of me because it's scary to me. You've been the caretaker. Caretaker feels too vulnerable but like in my workshops. Now I have a guy that takes care of me. I just take the brakes and see. I've found that by letting someone else in like that. I'm really making contact that I've never made before and letting the person I love. Take Care of me at times and not always being see. Caretakers are always in control. That's another thing to remember that one of the cover ups for toxic. Shame is to control everybody. Then you can never catch me off guard then I can never be exposed so so real. Soulful love means equality that each one of us are willing to give up control. I had a point in a relationship where my the lady I said you go to therapy with me and I went out just a minute. I'm in my head I did this. I'm not going to your Mickey Mouse. Therapy hit all this. I went and it was the best thing I could have possibly done. Because it was a symbolic act of giving up control. If you will like to just read for the closing here what you say in the beginning of the book you say Love Yourself or creating your trans love yourself for being willing to see how you created it and how you may still be creating it. You can stop doing it now. The danger has passed. You saved a child from dying. You saved yourself love yourself now for the hope that you have. You wouldn't be working on yourself if you didn't have hope thank you much. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe to rate and review. This podcast join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

05:52 min | 4 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Fat. We joke about the about the body being a sponge. Because what happens is when you've been dieting. Especially at that position I was had been fasting for four months every single thing I put into my body. The fat cells had expanded waiting to hold onto anything that came in. So it's like you eat the fat cells. Go Woo right exactly back on the outside. She looks very good in the genes. But you don't realize the muscle doesn't have the same quality that she does and the fact sales go here hamburgers coming here. Hamburgers coming told on the toll on hold on hold on hold on woo hamburger and then they get excited with that little fat coming in and then they get wider and why because they have been starved and they are so happy. That food is coming. They hold on for all. It's worth on top of it. The metabolism has slowed so that perpetuates the entire situation. Okay I'm with Bob Greene. He's my trainer that worked out every single day day. Got Everybody has to do it twice a day but I was on I was I had a mission. Didn't miss a beat. Now we're GONNA talk about the new plan which took twice as long. I must say but is what I believe the right way to approach losing weight. When I first began dieting I weigh two hundred twenty two pounds and my fat was up to about forty one percent back then. Two months later I was down to one ninety five but my Fateh dropped thirty five percent in July of this year away to one hundred and seventy seven pounds but my total body fat was down to thirty percent in September. One hundred sixty one pounds but my fat was down to twenty twenty five percent moving down moving down facts going down. That's less than when I when I was down to one hundred and forty five pounds on the liquid diet and in November as of this very morning across the finish line and one hundred and fifty pounds. I took off my my rubber bands. I took off my watch everything to get it to say hundred fifty pounds but the most important thing is is that the body fat is down to about eighty percent only lost a minimum of lean tissue. That again is your furnace. That's what heats up the body and my body Burns better now. It metabolize food better now than it did seven months ago right before you were a sponge. Now you're a lean machine Lee. How did I get that? I want I have walked ran. Climbed bike hike during these last eight months all total. I logged thousands of miles so sometimes we even bring the stairmaster outside. I started out only being able to do four dots. Now all the way up to the top. That's amazing around the world. The asked Bob to rate the exercises forest. We find out once and for all what's going to get the best results. Here's what Bob said. Everybody's goal is the same. Some means are better than others. Losing weight is your number one objective swimming. I rank last. It's fun but you don't heat up the body and therefore you don't lose weight. Stationary bike is only slightly better. The bike supports all of your weight. Surprisingly this is not a good exercise weight loss the indoor rowing machine. I rank eighth on the list. It's only slightly better than the stationary bike. A rank the indoor ski machines seven. This machine is touted as the best aerobic exercise for weight loss. But it's not true. Outdoor Cross Country. Skiing is a far better option. Six on my list is jumping rope once described as the best indoor aerobic exercise. It's good but it's not great. Your heart rate often gets too high and it's difficult to maintain for twenty minutes number five on. My List is outdoor biking. It's fun it's aerobic but you risk injury and it requires good. Weather Stair. Climbing is a great aerobic exercise the only disadvantage is the machine. Supports part of your weight. I rank jogging third. This is a highly aerobic activity. The results quick remember it is hard on your joints and not. Everyone should jog aerobic dance. Second on the list can be an excellent aerobic activity. The benefits are similar to jogging. And there's less stress on the joints but remember. Your workout is only as good as the instructor. With a ten star rating. Walking is the number one exercise for weight loss. It's free it's highly aerobic. You can do it anytime anywhere. Places little stress on your joints. Walking is the best overall aerobic exercise for weight loss. Three quarters of my life has been spent in a state of Diet so I came to believe that the food tasted good. It was loaded with calories. If something was good for you and low in calories it tasted that way but I wanNA emphasize food is not the only issue here but you need to change the way you feel about food and the food that you eat. In order to lose weight you know many times when you are trying to conquer a battle in your life you end up being sabotaged especially those of you who are honey especially. I asked him to take off work today to be here especially especially when you're fighting this hallway struggle and I just wanted to know and wanted to say this that Steadman has loved my heart and love me no matter what size I was and has endured all kinds of rumors and vicious attacks on his own manhood because of it. And you have handled it with such grace. I'm sorry that you had to go through a lot of the things that you've gone through. You don't deserve it of all people. You don't deserve it but you stood by me and love me no matter what and I thank you for no matter. What I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. Join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

10:36 min | 4 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Twenty Five seasons four thousand five hundred sixty one episodes. I believe the Oprah Winfrey show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world Rolling never thought of it that way. The AHA moments the breakthroughs. The connections the occasional ugly cry so terribly every single minute L. O. Ell's the moments that matter. I opening light lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere else. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the ball. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will need shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me. Do you hear me. That's what I say mean anything to you. You're listening to the OPRAH WINFREY. Show the PODCAST. This is what I wrote in my journal. On the night of November Fifteenth Nineteen eighty-eight. I had such anxiety and exhilaration pulling out that wagon fat. I can't believe those genes finally fit after this ten year struggle with weight. It's finally over or so. I thought it was really just the beginning of a real physical and emotional battle against weight and all that it has meant to me. If Wade has been an issue for you today show will hopefully lead you to win your own battle. That's why I'm doing it. I'll take you through all the steps. I've been through beginning with peeling away. The emotional layers the most important then onto pilling away the physical and I was just so proud of myself just having the discipline to not eat for four months straight. I had no idea of the physical trauma. I put my body through northern emotional trauma. That was ahead. I've kept journals almost all my life and although I've experienced incredible changes throughout my career my weight was all consuming November. Twenty ninth nine thousand nine hundred eighty eight exactly two weeks after the Diet show. I've gained five pounds. I'm one hundred fifty today. I've been eating out of control. I've got to rein in in. I still can't get used to being thin. December seven. Th One thousand nine hundred ninety eight. I read an article today. One criticizing me for the Revlon. Shoot making fun of the weight loss saying. Let's see her in two years. It really hurt my feelings. I'll show them December twelve thousand nine hundred eighty eight. I love doing the revlon shoot. It changed the way I felt about me. Never imagined myself is beautiful but that ad made me feel beautiful so for that reason alone it was worth shooting just to feel that December thirteenth one thousand nine hundred eighty eight. I came home and ate as much zero as I could hold a junk all day. Not Good at all. I never cited how. I'm going to keep the weight off. I keep experimenting testing how much I can eat. It's also ridiculous. How am I going to get through the holidays without gaining December twenty? Six one thousand nine hundred eighty eight. There's a party in Aspen. I don't WanNa go. I've gained five more pounds. One fifty five January. Second Nineteen eighty-nine. This was my day to start dieting again instead. I made pork chops and ate them. Oh well tomorrow's another day Miss Scarlet. The holidays are officially over. So what's IT GONNA be for me fasting again? I don't know if I have it in me. January seventh nineteen eighty-nine. I'm out of control. Start out my day trying to fast by noon. I was frustrated. Hungry just thinking about the agony of at all a bowl of raisin bran left. The House bought some Caramel. Corn came back at three staring at food in the cabinets. And now I want some fries with lots of salt out of Control. January nineteenth nineteen thousand nine hundred fifty eight pounds. I'm bordering on disaster. I feel it coming. I'm wondering fifty-eight eating everything in sight. I need help. Old Patterns have emerged are taking over if I don't fast this entire weekend then Monday. I seek professional counseling. That's the deal complete and total fast January twenty first nineteen eighty nine. I lied to myself about professional counseling. I'm not ready to submit to it. March nine hundred eighty nine. This is what I wish for the absolutely eliminate weight as an issue for myself that I will not eat drink or consume anything that will prevent me from reaching my goal. That is what I wish for the determination and will to do it. Just do it no matter what it is possible and I will November Fourteenth Nineteen eighty-nine anniversary of the Diet. Show one hundred sixty eight pounds. I'm thoroughly disgusted with myself. I couldn't even get then for the anniversary show whereas my resolve every day I wake in with good intentions and then I fail November twenty third. Nineteen eighty-nine Thanksgiving Day. One hundred seventy five pounds. Which really is a fat person again? I've lost my resolve trying to find a way to carry on the battle December. First Nineteen eighty-nine. I'm still battling what has been for me. A lifetime struggle. I thought that have to November. One thousand nine hundred fifteen diet anniversary show at least weight is an issue. Stop being afraid that someone was going to bring it up and say. Hey Oprah haven't you gain weight and go on with my life not. I'm still struggling. Just cook rice and smother chicken. I Edman I was supposed to eat only a salad instead. I eat the salad and the chicken. I'm going to look this. I just don't know how right now December thirteenth one thousand nine hundred nine the new studios looking great. We'll be moving in the first of the year. The farmhouse is coming together two. Everything's going so well. So why do I still feel compelled to eat February sixteenth nineteen ninety? I'm in dire need of help with my weight. Almost on the verge of being overcome had a woman come into hair analysis going to determine what kind of vitamins I need. It's unbelievable I'm still looking for miracle cures what happened to my new year's resolution and then my thirty six year old birthday resolution. I don't know I just know I'm in trouble. I'm one hundred eighty pounds now. I wake every morning hating myself in the weight predicament. I'm in fifteen pounds ago. I would have thought this impossible. I'm not inching but galloping towards the two hundred pound mark I vowed to be back to one hundred fifty pounds by the Hope Award April Twenty Eighth Nineteen Ninety exhausted. I Work Twenty hours today. We'll have to do the same tomorrow. I'm worried about booster place. Eating snacks all day from the craft table. I hate seeing myself on film. June twelfth nineteen ninety. I'm carrying fat around. Its overcoming me. One hundred ninety one pounds overcome June eighteen thousand nine hundred ninety. I woke up the past four days hating myself because I hadn't fasted or at least stuck to some kind of plan trying to lose ten pounds in a week so I can put on this next week for the emmys. July nineteenth nineteen ninety never lost weight for the EMMYS instead of game. Five more. I'm one ninety-six still trying to reckon myself still in the closet assessing all the winter clothes. I won't be able to wear nothing. Fits I dread walking into the Fat Lady Stores August Eleventh? Nineteen ninety trying to be in the spirit. The fat has stopped me from feeling so blocked. I cannot think August Fifteenth Nineteen Ninety. I cried in my office cried because I know that lots of people have been discussing it. No one says anything but I feel them avoiding the subject. A CRY FOR MY POOR MISERABLE SELF. Having gotten to the state scale said two hundred and three pounds this morning controlled just controlled by it. Every day waking up with a plan by the end of the day not following through billing diminished less of a person. Guilty ugly you name it trying to gain control knowing that God says I already have it where is it? God dancing on the MC Hammer show with the fattest behind. I've ever seen I saw that tape and can't denied anymore. I really am fat again. They're in new fat clothes. Making me look even bigger feeling just about as low as one can about myself knowing that. I'm being blocked. August twenty fifth one thousand nine hundred ninety. Did a diets don't work. Seminar stood in a room in a bathing suit and admitted that I was two hundred pounds. That was hard September ninth nine hundred ninety instead of losing fifty pounds for the hope awards I gained had to have the for breakout redone. I DIDN'T WANNA go worried about people saying how fat I was made the worst dressed lists with marge. Simpson described his bumpy dumpy and downright lumpy. Gallon I thought I'd looked pretty decent in January. Twenty ninth nine hundred. Ninety one turned thirty seven. I have a New Vision for myself to become lean fit. Strong physically emotionally spiritually food alone. Isn't the answer. What is February twentieth? Nineteen ninety-one went on vacation and gained eight pounds bringing me to an all-time Ping two hundred twenty six pounds. So big unproportionate fat in the face unable to move freely that I don't know this self my body has betrayed me or has it just acquiesced. I don't know who this is waddling through the airport. I caught a glimpse of myself reflected in a store window. I didn't recognize the FAT lady. Staring back at me. Stem says I'm not even close to my potential as a human being that I let the weight be a barrier. He's right sometimes. I can feel the connection between my own fears and the weight. So what am I afraid of? That's the question. The answer.

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

04:56 min | 4 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"My second victim didn't tell. Yeah okay. Is there anything your victim? Your five year old victim could have done to stop you know if she told the first time that might have stopped me for a little bit because when she told it didn't stop me. Is there anything that five year old could have done to have stopped you? Had she known more yes she could she just told me no ramble and I had so much low for that. I wouldn't have that I feel in my art. That's what I would have done. Is there anything your daughter could have done to have stopped? You did to turn me very proud of her for that. She's every right to protect yourself and I'm glad you took that initiative to protect yourself into your child's cues and if you think listen to me now you think something is going on you're saying to yourself that doesn't feel right or that seems a little weird then it probably is. That's called instinct. That is the warning. And that's the sign and that's what it feels like so if your child watching this and it is happening to you the best way to make it. Stop is to tell somebody and if they don't believe you you keep telling until somebody does because molesters do not want you to talk. Tell Somebody Today. I have felt this for years. That this whole issue of molestation sexual abuse is so misunderstood. -solutely it's so misunderstood. Because everybody thinks what you read in the paper is what is happening to every child right and they think that's what's happening you know. My child would tell me right. Somebody was torturing them or if it was a horrible experience I think the unspoken shame is that for millions of us who were molested. It was not at the time horrible. It was not a horrific experience because if somebody is treating you horribly and causing you pain you are going to tell and every molester knows that is that not true. Do you feel that? You've been cured by the therapy process by your probation. I think I am being cured. I do not think I am there yet. Would you trust yourself around children? I try not to be around children because I do. I like children too much and so I just won't be around. Is it like being an alcoholic where you have to work on a day at a time that every day? You're working on it. Darren young believe so because I can't say I'll never offend again because if I get back to the dark place I was before I could possibly offend again. I think the difference is now is that I recognize the pain. I've caused at the time of my offense. I was not recognizing the pain causing. I don't want to hurt anybody. You offend again. No I can say I will not offend again. How do you not back then? I wasn't a happy person using drugs so I was drinking. I didn't care who I heard it was like I didn't have any feelings toward anyone in the world and now I've got these tools to help me with my triggers to help me with my inner problems. I feel happy if I put you in a room with a group of gorgeous fourteen year old girls. Would you be a danger to them? No you would not. Will you ever offend again? Probably not I mean. It's it's not something I can never say. An absolute already crossed. That line wants and being in therapy. Now I've had a good long look at a lot of really deep horrible issues that I have with me and I'm always going to be a damaged person but at least now I can see that I can work on it and I can you know I can live my life being a better person. Well these are four guys who are willing to talk about it. There are obviously millions. Who would not? So I want to thank David and Darren and Leeann Robert for being so candid and open and their therapist. Don Horowitz per person for lending her support and it is really my hope having been talking about this for years and years that this conversation opens a lot of eyes and minds and hearts by everybody. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. Join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

08:20 min | 4 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Be shaped forward on a lot of sexual partners and I've done some pretty bad things like I smoke a lot of weed. Which isn't good. Tell us more sexual partners. Throw it out appoximately number. It's been like twenty two maybe tells How you felt through these experiences about one or two of them were cool but like the the ones are just like robot. I don't know I just. It wasn't really anything but doing that. As a robot makes you feel it made me feel like better. Do you feel that. That's pretty much the most important thing you have to offer men pretty much. It's it felt like it's made me give up guys and there's a person that I'm talking to. That is a girl to lot easier in. Phils more natural for some reason with these guys I haven't done anything sexual with her or anything like that. I talked to guys like I'm still attracted to him but I don't WanNa be the guy. Okay that's all that's all. You're not saying that you're a lesbian. You're not what I hand acurite. I don't know how to answer. We'RE NOT HERE TO BLAME. Your parents say it's all their fault but the fact is that the parents staying connected with you. Had they been able to work their relationship? It might have made you feel less lost unless confused and nobody else's again except me so I need you guys so when you say. I don't know how to answer that you know. I'm I'm always going to accept. Okay I sense that you have difficulty with it yes eight. It just don't want to hear it so you don't you just kind of blow it off. No I hear what you're saying. I hear exactly what you're saying. I just don't believe that I'm in a position to say. Okay it is okay. I understand that you are confused but I'm not going to accept I can't accept it because the way I was raised. It's not acceptable kitchen. Do something that's not okay and you can disagree but that does not mean that you can't accept it and love them. No matter what choice they make for themselves. She can know that it's not okay and it's not cool with you but that does not mean that you can't say I love you. I accept you. He's right. I won't condone it but I'm still love you because I do believe that things do happen for a reason so so. I'm going to be there if you need to talk to me. Whatever whatever reason because I don't want you to take the same road again and because we were. I wasn't there before because I was the one left. Your Dad didn't tell you anything and I'm GONNA take that road again because I'm not gonNA lose you just because you know. This is the path that you chose take. I love you too much for that key message. Here's what Belinda was saying. She left Albany's dad and did not tell ebony any thing and again I say when you don't know how to talk to your kids when you leave and you ignore their feelings when you think they're just kids and they'll get over it you end up damaging them forever avenues. Parents are courageous enough to be here. J. D. and Belinda. Have joined us when you heard. Blenda Ebony on the tape say that the moment this all changed for her was when she walked in the room and saw you kissing the other guy and that she felt that you were the biggest hypocrite and that a part of all of this acting out which on her part has pretty evolved to know that one of the reasons why I'm doing. This is because my mother so hypocritical. So I'm going to show her. Yeah when you heard that what did you think riphil? G Choosy allies at. That kiss had had that kind of impact. I had no idea it was only thinking of myself at that time and she didn't even come into play. Although we were always together I found out about the kiss only a few days ago. So totally embarrassed found out about the kiss me and you didn't know she had seen the kiss right. You didn't even know. She didn't know she told her that. I knew she'd saying it but I didn't know what she had told her bed until only a few weeks ago. I didn't even and it's been seven years since we've been divorced and I didn't know all of this. She carried. We treated her like an basically like an adult so I didn't even think it affected him in any way because she how we acted in the house. But how can you say you treated her like an adult as an adult? If you were gonNA leave you would explain why you're leaving in. That's a good point but we don't where I was how I guess how has raised. We just didn't talk about a lot of things. Go things just happen? We understand that and so that's how I did with her. So let's talk about what you what you both decided to tell or not tell Ebony so did you decide. Did you sit ebony down and say we're going to now be be separating and these are the reasons why no said nothing to Ebony. Never I didn't know you guys were getting worse so after the divorce. I just remember one day. We're at home the next day. Me Mommy are moving out. We're packing up. That's how it happened and I blocked a lot and is sound like a cop out but I just blocked a lot of things out because I was only thinking of me at that time. Gary says if you think your kids are GonNa come to you with their biggest problems. You're dead wrong. Why shame I mean how? Many of us has teenagers. Were running to our parents with every problem that we had so you know my wife and I we have five children and we sat down with our children at every single parent should do this. We identified two adults that we trust and they trust in their lives and we all met together and we said listen. We want you to come to us. Of course we'll never judge. You always love you. But here's the deal. If you don't feel like you can come to us. Here's two people you can go to individually and they we give them permission to make decisions on our behalf for you and they never have to tell us. If that's what's going to work for you that way. At least we know as parents. Our children are using adults with experience to help them guide them instead of their colleagues. Everyone should do it. But it's like a substitute parent. Yes go to parent. It's a Goto parent. That's a great idea but ebony thank you for having the for being brave enough to. Don't you feel better? I do actually a lot better. Yeah don't you feel that now you can create another life for yourself because you're past is really just that it's the pass. It's really hard trying to change yourself by by yourself. You need help to change your lifestyle so now that you've released that you can leave that in past and move forward and start to be who you really are because that's what life is all about becoming more who you really are. And that's what I wish for you today. I'm really proud of you. I'm very proud of you that you had the courage to do that. Thank you all. Thank you I'm Oprah Winfrey. And you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. Join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

07:56 min | 4 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Didn't got critical as you. Well early on. I always liked to draw and paint and I remember early on he he just he would scoff at it Any awards I one in school. Art shows things like that Then later on when it was time to go to college he said you can't make any money being an artist so therefore I didn't do. I didn't go to arts. Okay listen all right and I WANNA say I'm going to answer that and just to say with the rest of did. Did you hear what he did that affected her? And you're all parents now so that's why you got to. Aw or wherever stick figure they bring you okay and obviously you were doing much more than stick figures but let me tell you what happens with that that pivotal person in your life. Every one of us has a personal truth. It's something we believe about ourselves. We're not wearing the mask and putting our best face on for the world. It's at the core of our so what we honestly believe about who we are and nobody writes larger and more bold on that than your parents and for you. He said Gee scoffed at it. All these awards or nothing you can't make live and doing this throughout your life and so you checked out that pivotal person caused you to check out of your vision for art. Isn't that right and since then haven't you started checking out on other things in your life? You thought about checking out of your marriage you've checked out of of saying I'm not having any fun I'm just wasting my life here. I mean it you see how it spreads it changes who you are these pivotal people. He wrote on the slate of you. That what matters to you matters to no one else. They wouldn't pay you for it. They validated. There's nothing there and so you checked out and so these things that happened so many years ago. Connect up to WHO and what we are today. And we're all being passive in that and so you pick up a book about self and it gives you some atheist evolution of your ancestry and all that stuff. That's not it you've got to get down to. What are the ten seven and five that defined who you are today so you can have a to do list okay? I know the second half of the book is about. Then what do you do ten seven five a guy that Gama ten moments critical this before pivotals? Now what and it's not as easy sitting here with information and it's not as easy as just ten seven and five. There are questions you have to answer about each defining moment about each critical choice to identify how it has manifested in your life right now today. It's all about knowing the questions to ask. You GotTa know the questions to ask. But then you're right. The second half of the book is okay. What do I do about it? Do I do about it now because we respond not to what happens in our lives but to how we interpret what happens in our lives. What do we say to ourselves? How do we label ourselves? What do we? What's all of our internal reaction to those things? That's what you've got to get a grip on. The first half is historical and diagnostic. The second half is the power. What do I do to put myself where I WANNA be authentically? Put your thoughts to the test doctor. Phil's for questions you need to ask yourself to test your beliefs about yourself to determine if they are real or not what are the questions will therefore in what I'm saying is on everything that you think you've gotta start examining your thinking and your values and your beliefs and number one is what. I'm telling myself a true fact I mean is it a true fact and it sounds real simple but think about that if we were coming and saying you're a thief and he's well. I know better than that. I know. Factually that's not true. But if you're saying to yourself or somebody saying to you you're kind of boring or you're kind of worthless that subjective and so we start buying stuff that there's no factual basis for so number one. Is it a true fact number two to pass the Litmus Test? Does it serve your best interest? I mean does it serve your best interest. What's good for? You is good for those you love and care about. I mean if you're a mom and you say well you're talking about taking care of me. You better take care your children's mother because it's the only one they've got so you I mean does it. Serve your best interest number three. Does it advance and protect your health? Huge wakeup call for me. When I went through this process myself. And Start Holding myself to these standards about so much that I was thinking it wasn't protecting and prolong in my health because his putting so much stress in my life but thinking I could do everything for everybody and so I'm working real hard on learn how to say no. I think you had that as an issue would sing learning to say no. You say no pretty pretty well. Well I'm getting I'm getting. I've been writing this couple years. I'm getting better at it at in four. Does it get you what you want? Does it gets you what you want and you know Carmen back and think about the things that you're saying to yourself. I was special. I was smart now. I don't feel like I really have a lot to offer will stop. I don't feel like I have a lot to offer. Is that a true fact. Did you dumb at the board that day no does it? Is it in your best interest. No does it protect and prolong your life. It's wasting your life. You're burning daylight and does it get you what you want absolutely use. You Fail on all four points on just that one statement so you have to start saying I need to start testing my thinking because you know we treat ourselves. We think we'll tell ourselves the truth because it's US right. That's not true. If you feed yourself so much bad thinking boy I saw that in the brain thinking very good came out. You know what I'm saying. You have to challenge your thinking and it is not selfish to turn Selfie society. We are a selfless society. We're not selfish. We are self less. Our kids are selfless. They're they're they're living in Carpool going to dance. And Soccer and everything is program five hundred TV channels the Internet. We don't take time to stop and think. Hey wait let me think about me for a minute. Am I really doing what I WANNA do today because I want to do it? Am I doing this because I want to do it or am I doing it because it's what I was doing yesterday? Are you doing what you're doing today because you want to ban it or are you doing it because it's what you were doing yesterday okay. Ten seven and five ten defining moments seven critical choices and five pivotal people. And Ask yourself this question? Are you one of your five pivotal people see? I was feeling bad when I I took the test because I was one of the first people on my list and I was thinking okay. Who else could we think of? Yeah but boy if you're not making a big mistake because you're with yourself twenty four seven. Not Anybody talks to you as much as you do. The book is available in every bookstore in the country. Just look for the title self matters creating your life from the inside out and fills big head thank you. I'm so gonNA get. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. Join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

11:03 min | 4 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"In the summer of nineteen ninety two long simmering. Racial tensions in Los Angeles came to a head that is when we saw the brutal beating of Rodney King by white police officers captured on tape. That when the officers were acquitted riots erupted across the city. Even though many people warned against it I wanted to go there. Right after the Rodney King verdict we were in Los Angeles for townhall discussion. That got heated. Because you gotta take eight either one of the reasons I wanted to come to. La is because when you're sitting in your comfortable homes and you hear the death toll rise to so many people. Those are just numbers and what I wanted to do was to place some names and some lives and some faces and some families so that we in this country recognize what we have done and you were shot about six hours after the verdict came in. I was ironically. I was shot by a black guy. You know but I mean I have A bullet right now. It's a semi chess embedded under my heart. I have in my inner left. Biceps shot Wednesday About six hours after the verdict. And you hear I'm standing up. I'm right here. You hear a shot while you're trying to rescue. Somebody is what I was trying to stop alluding in a robbery fan from a Korean merchant and the guy just turned around he was six to ten feet away and he just shot me. My brother was the first victim Long Beach. He was on his way to help a a friend of his happen to be a black Gal who had called him up and said I WANNA get my family out of here. Because I'm afraid and my vans broken and I can't get it to start my brother's mechanic. So he and my nephew. My sister's son hopped on a motorcycle. Went up there fifty yards from his house or her place. They were mobbed knocked off the motorcycle. My brother was shot in the head. My nephew was shot three times and he'd be dead except the gun. They put his face wouldn't go off. I'm forty seven years old. I don't understand I don't understand. I've been raised all my life. If this man here cut some shelves shaving I cut myself shaving. The blood cups the same the same thing. They lay him and me on a slab somewhere. Peeler skin off. Unless you're an expert you don't know who we are and we all have a soul that comes from God and so I'm here for answers. Okay well this is interesting because you are obviously a white man. Yeah I'm a middle class white man. Okay but I wanted to ask. When the Rodney King verdict came down I was so moved by hearing a young black woman. Who said this said to me on my life doesn't mean anything could you? As a white male see how that verdict made so many black people feel. Could you see? Do you see that? I'm not sure that that verdict means that any of us have any value. Not just black people anybody in one thousand nine hundred eighty three. Dr King said injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere and I think everyone who is a part of that show could identify with that three years later. More racial tension. We were watching live in our studio when the verdict for the O. J. Simpson trial came down. We along with the rest of the country saw this verdict as you saw it and the jury has spoken obviously very happy. I'm very happy for his family for his children. I'm very happy I'm also very happy. At think. Justice was served dot. Everyone here is happy however not everyone here is happy. I noticed that you are not happy. I just feel like she's rolling over in her grave and he said if he ever did it he would get away with it. That's what she said. I really believe that he is guilty. However I think that California's relieved that he was show not guilty because the blacks would have burn the city down. That was a moment in our cultural history. Where the dividing line in race had never been more clear. I think many people were happy for OJ's acquittal because they thought justice was not served in the Rodney King trial and many trials before. I also think that Dr King's quote also applies here. Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere in September. Two thousand nine rapper artists Mogul Jay Z. And I went head to head on a big controversy. You know I've been known for not being a big fan of rap music because of misogynist lyrics and because of the use of the word you obviously feel differently and a little bit little bit little bit and tell tell everybody way discusses more words people give words power. Yeah for a generation where we did was. We took the word and we took the power out of that word a word that was very ugly and hurtful into a term of endearment. So I mean even when someone says it's still intention behind what you say who but Pretty much took the power out of the work because if we just start removing words from the dictionary just make another word the next day so we don't dress the problem. The problem is racism right. That's really the problem so we disagree. And the reason I feel that way because my generation and generations before me obviously coming up through the civil rights movement and I am where I am because there was. There was a generation before me that fought for civil rights and that word carries such a sense of hatred and degradation. And I always think about when I hear the word. Even when I'm at the concert and people were screaming at your concert I think about black. Men were lynched. And that's the last word they heard. And so that comes from my generation right. Okay so okay. We agree to disagree on which is a strong strongpoint understandable. I disagree. So here's the deal. I read Jay Z's new book decoded which put the Hip hop rap conversation in a different context and took it to a new level for me in the book. He talks about his life. He breaks down rap in a way that I thought brings an entirely new perspective to the culture on page one sixty two. I had an Aha moment when he writes rappers. Are Young Black men telling stories that the police among others don't want to hear reading that I realized I was among the others so I appreciate it this book so much that I made it one of my favorite things and I'm proud to say I get it now so thank you. Jay Z for opening up my mind. That's what this day is all about after twenty five years of tackling race on the Oprah Show. Here's an unexpected update from a former racist who appeared on our show in one thousand nine hundred eighty nine here. How can any one scorn a cute little four year old boy because of the color of his skin but you did for awhile when he was born. I started changing from that point on. He's part of me. I'm ashamed of the way I felt before. It was nineteen eighty nine when Jim Rainey wrote how the love of his biracial grandson helped change his racist ways but even today he feels ashamed of his dark past. I felt I was superior white. People were superior to blacks blacks. Were okay as long as they stayed in their own place and that place was where I wanted them to be. There were instances where myself and friends tune. The Black Person Up. Maybe threader slap or something like that. It's not something I'm proud of talking about you know I guess I guess you can say I had a bully mentality. Jim was furious when he learned his daughter was pregnant with a biracial child. How mad violently man? Gosh I wanted to want to do a lot of things. And they were all against the law. I wouldn't lie to you and say I didn't think about getting a gun and shooting a few people initially. Jim wanted nothing to do with his grandson. Seth but something changed. He didn't know I was racist. He didn't know how evil my mind was. He just knew I was smoking granddaddy and he loved me. Had to think about what I was doing next thing you know I loved the four year old. Boy I bet on. The show is twenty six and married with three children of his own. I've always looked at. My granddad has a role model. My life eleven very much proud to have him as a Granddad. Gm's transformation came full circle when he and his wife adopted two black children into their family. These are my boys. My son's it's amazing that you can get this old and just now realize what your calling in. Life is being a father to Robert and Walter. I hope that that Britain and I both can last long enough to see them race and have have offered Tunde opportunities that thugs like me would have denied them forty years ago if a guy like myself can change. There's hope for everyone in nineteen sixty seven. Dr King said hate cannot drive out. Hate only love can do that. Thank you James for showing the world what love can do. I hope that you will find some time in this day to reflect on Dr King's vision. And how you can fulfill your greatness through service. Have a great day. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. Join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

08:02 min | 4 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"For one hundred fifty thousand dollar mortgage correct. Joanna that's correct so the banks say she can afford one hundred fifty thousand dollar mortgage. The truth of the matter is the lending institution should have denied you because you didn't have the money. Shame on them. Shame on them. But good for you girlfriend that you're not gonNA get yourself in trouble antastic. Thank you Joanna. Millions of people are stressed watching their retirement savings disappear into thin air. I want you to meet a woman who says she's tried to do everything right. So you're questioning Suzie as well Suzie. I'm fifty years old. I absolutely love my job but I'd like to know if I'm able to retire. I really WANNA retire. Fifty six fifty six. Oh Kansas years so currently my income is a little over ninety one hundred dollars. My expenses are a little over eighty one hundred dollars and I've got retirement savings of three hundred and ninety three thousand dollars so the question is thousand dollar month. Excess approximately can shave Ford it and you say and I say before we go there. Just tell me what will be your income and your expenses after retirement whereabout even are we not well. I know that I'm going to have to reduce my expenses so I expect my retirement income to be somewhere around sixty five hundred. Yes and my expenses in retirement to be sixty three hundred a month so she's still got an excess so we're looking good aren't we? We're looking good. You are deny. Let me tell you why you know we do a lot of research and all these people that you're not really seeing so I just don't pull this my hat what you're also not seeing that you have sixty two hundred dollars of credit card debt. At fourteen percent interest rate fourteen point two percent be exact. Sixty two hundred two hundred dollars. We have fifty thousand dollars in a savings account but that is not my eight months now. Here is the reason why. What was the three hundred ninety? Three thousand dollars a retirement account that she can't touch okay because she wants to retire at fifty six so she still giving the stock market today. Maybe it's ninety three thousand dollars but anything can happen at any time. But here's the real reason you're denied. Outta love ready for this. I'm ready women will spend more years. You will spend more years in retirement than you did working for IBM so you will have worked for. Ibm for thirty years. At the age of fifty six from fifty six. You'll have another thirty to thirty five forty years of life. She will spend more years. She retires at fifty-six in retirement than she did working. What you did not factor in. Was inflation as you get older. You take more medication. You need more help. Things become more expensive things. Go wrong and in today's economy when you're counting on pensions and things from corporations. We don't know when they'll have to cut that back when they will all of a sudden stop it. They won't pay for your health benefits so I don't have enough cushion there for you to be able to retire at the age of fifty six but the good news. Is You love your job. Trust me when you get to be fifty fifty-seven you ain't got to want to retire. But the other thing is in this goes back to the other guests to you to everybody you live in an exorbitant lifestyle. You real two hundred dollars a month manicures. You have nine thousand dollars a month of expenses. I was looking through every one of your expenses going is. She really wanted to retire. She would not do that. And you wouldn't have six thousand dollars. Credit card debt meant. You should have seen before I cut back. I know I'm thinking is sixty two hundred dollars a credit card debt a lot. That's not alive. It's but I'll tell you the problem. It's not a lot but that means that you don't really have emergency saving so don't really have everything you need. We're living in deficit. Used to hearing these big numbers like making this kind of money. Yeah you shouldn't have any credit card debt whatsoever. Okay thank you Marilyn retiring at sixty four more years four more years. Marla joins us from our home audience from our Living Room in Boston. Hi Friend Susie I Emma Lebron delivery nurse and I work really long nights and I have to come home in the middle of the night and since I live in Boston. There's a lot of snow so I'm wondering if I can afford an SUV to get me home. Late nights in the snow will SUV in this. Now show me the money girlfriend. I take home about thirty four hundred dollars a month. My monthly income. My monthly expenses are twenty five hundred which includes my three hundred sixteen dollar car payment and I have about eight hundred dollars. On zero percent. Credit Card and savings is about twelve hundred dollars. Yes yes so. The question is do you think. Currently she has a three hundred sixteen dollar a month car payment. That's because she'd laces the car that lease is up next March. I believe so Kanshi afford to buy an SUV. You think with heated seats. Now you've been approved. What what let me tell you why. Her she'd leases a car. Her car has to be returned in when in the next few months. She is out on the roads herself at night as a nurse delivering its. She's afraid she's a woman alone and she has snow sometimes people before money. Remember people first then money then things. She needs a new car anyway when she gets rid of police car if you can find an SUV that you can spend three hundred dollars a month on just like you are now than you. I think that's exactly what you should do. Because you're Chicago since wow I mean. I'm thinking should go to do that. I'll tell you where she's GonNa do that. The Oprah producers actually found for you some. Suv's in her area that are approximately ten thousand dollars. If she and she they must be used of course there you go right right of course but then that meets her needs and the truth of the matter is if you decide. You don't want to do that and you just want to keep the car that you do. Have you can negotiate big time with them right now when you turn it back in. But here's the rule of thumb. Everybody if you're going to finance a car do not finance a car for more than three years. If you can't afford the monthly payments on a three year loan you cannot afford it. Start working overtime now over time. Now Save money so you have a little money you can put down. Get yourself out of credit card debt and when the time comes girlfriend you're going to be driving down those streets in the middle of the night with heated with a heated little push and your leather heated seats. And you're going to feel safe in a used. Suv Thank you. This has been great fun. Wasn't this interesting only two out of three times one out of three. That's but it gets US thinking about what you can or cannot afford. Yeah and just no. If you can't afford it just don't buy it. Isn't that simple? You bet it is by everybody. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. Join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

11:47 min | 4 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"In the main reason I wanted to be here. Today is to tell you how regretful lime for causing what should have been the best year of Your Life. The most miserable. I went along because I was afraid. I can't imagine for thirty eight years how badly I have felt. That does not do anything for what happened. That does not. I'm just sorry. You were taught racism at home. Did you break that chain chills? That's what I think. Sl Am sorry. Certainly I felt powerless. Also peer pressure has a lot to do. When you're at that age well and I think Jean represented probably the bulk of students. That did nothing right solid. It's the great silence. It's the silence is the people who don't speak up and if there's any lesson to be learned now thirty almost forty years now. Hopefully somebody watches the show and will be moved enough to stand up for something. That's right I love that moment in the show because it's a reminder to all of us of what Dr King said in the end we will remember not the words of our enemies but the silence of our friends one of the things. That was so moving to me about the little rock. Nine is their ability to forgive and I think that they were able to do because they understood that they really weren't fighting people just the physical bodies but they were fighting the entire blight and stain of ignorance on this country and so as the light was shed into people's hearts and people began to see things differently. Actually see each other differently. I think it was easier to forgive when you understood that so much of that just came out of pure ignorance as does all hatred. That was a blessed day for me to be in the studio with the little rock nine. Because there's no question that they pave the way for people like myself and their shoulders. I'm standing on them now. Let's take a look back at a show that brought the descendant of a notorious slave owner face to face with the relatives of slaves. They owned Katie's grandmother was a slave who was owned by the ancestors of Edward Ball. The ball family owned more than four thousand slaves and a dozen plantations in South Carolina recently Edward Katie and Charlotte went back to the ruins of a ball plantation house where their ancestors lived as master and a slave. This place is coming tea plantation Charlotte and Katie's ancestors were in slavery on this place on the beginning of the eighteen. Hundreds were here their blood sweat and tears. Where at this plantation? My Grandma told me how she had these. Keep getting whipping when she took me down to the river and show me how. She tied her dress around her waist and leapt over booed to keep from getting a weapon and as she was diving into the water she told my mother and that they were shooting at her and the bullets were flying overhead and they left thinking that she was dead. May your soul rest in peace. What did you want to say today? I wanted to say that. I'm sorry for the suffering that my family caused your family so many years ago and for such a long time and in saying that. I know that we haven't reached the end of the journey. We haven't even come to the middle but we might have just put our feet up on the path and taking the first small steps toward understanding. I asked I asked her forgiveness. So what does it mean to you to have this apology live with racism every day here? That doesn't wash it away. But it's says that someone recognizes what we go through when we walk out doors and it's overwhelming who. That was a moment. I think we could all see the healing power. That apology. Another powerful moment on the show involved. An eye opening experiment so that some of our audience members could experience the feeling of being judged by color for the first time in their lives. This is unbelievable. Today's audience was separated into two groups. Not on the color of their skin where they separated when they arrive. They were separated based on the color of their eyes but they have no idea that they were separated. What we did was treat each group differently. Discriminating against the people who have blue eyes catering to those people with Brown eyes on mine? No no over there. The blue eyed people were pulled out of line told to put on a green collar and lead outside. The Brown eyed people arrived. They were told to step to the front of the line. Our staff is instructed to be extra polite to Brown eyed people and to discriminate against polite people like this one is a licensed got so one and when they went to places prom members with Brown eyes were allowed to enjoy coffee and donuts. Those blue eyes were left in a crowded room without refreshments for over two hours. The blue eyed group became upset when they saw the brown eyed people were being seeded. I diversity expert. Jane Elliott helped set up the experiment. She played along telling are segregated. Audience that Brown eyed people were smarter than blue eyed people. I've been a teacher for twenty five years in the public private and parochial schools in this country and as seen what Brown eyed people have done as compared to. What do I do and it's perfectly obvious. If I didn't believe it before this morning you should have been here this morning when we brought these people in here fuelling discriminated against the blue eyed audience. Members were visibly upset. She was rude to all of us. Yelled at this names pushed aside. She was rude. This lady came out in the line with all of people that had light colored eyes and said you put this green collar on now and keep it on. And if you don't hit the road say doesn't Jane Green Tower Blue Eyes Because I've learned to act Brown. I'd have a brown eyed husband and three and a message in this room is act ground. Aydin you too can take off your Collar Act intelligently and you can't none of you have have intelligently yet. It wasn't long before the Brown eyed people bought into the idea that they were superior. School was blue eyed. She was so stupid she was always copying off of my papers. These people were so rude and so noisy today. We couldn't hear any ourselves. Even talk was ridiculous. Eventually the audience figured out the show was really about race now. He was so angry. He took off his collar way on early. I need to talk about that taking off the collar. These people can take off their collars and then nobody knows what color of their eyes are from a distance. How many of you people of color can take off the collar that we have put on you? How many you can take off your color. But if a black male refused to follow your orders or your husband's orders your your father's orders on the street you would not see that as being highly principled you would see him as being an Uppity Nigger. We can see where this is going. She's saying that everybody has racism in. It's not really about the ice. She's trying to teach about racism but she can't get away from the fact that God created the races and you are going to be different. You can't help it guide to be like that race. The human race and human beings created racism. I Love I love that. Human beings created racism. God created one race the human race. I believe the lessons from that show are still so valuable today. And because it really illustrates how susceptible we all are to prejudice and how quickly people can be poisoned by misinformation and ignorance. Another powerful moment on the show involved a white man who wanted to experience what it would be like to live as a different race. Ten months ago Josh. Solomon was Black. What he did was really remarkable. Josh took some potentially life threatening pills to change his skin color from white to black and what he experienced as a black man was chilling. So chilling back that after just one week of being black. He abruptly called off the experiment and went home to let the Madison where off. We asked him to retrace his steps to take a look for us for all intensive purposes. I think I looked like the typical black teenager with reddish brown skin and a bald head in Gainesville got a hotel room in started to explore the city off the one. I ran into people in the street. They reacted to me as if they were scared of suspicious. I went into this pool to get a drink. They followed me around like I was a thief one afternoon. I was walking back to my hotel down this road. Police officer pulled me over at that intersection side. Hassle me about who I was. And why was there things like this never happened to me? When I was way one time I went into a fancy restaurant eating. Although I saw several vacant tables the maitre d' told me that there was nothing available in the short time I spent as a black I can only conclude the price. We haven't come as far as we thought so. How did that make you feel because I think that is the one thing that over the years? I've done at least one hundred shows on racism and it's so hard to convey what that having that happened to you being treated like a suspect every day of your life what that does to your Personal Saiki Right. Well you know that's the hardest. Part ways received this prima bachelor suspect. I walk into a room and guardless of how much money I had in my pocket. The certain level respect that I get from folks and the first thing that I realized when I was black was it's gone. You don't get any of that. You know. People get this respect by people constantly trying to prove that they deserve or worthy of it when he said White people get this. Respect and black people are constantly trying to prove that they deserve it or are worthy of it. I thought that was so profound. It was really the first time we'd heard anything like that on our show particularly coming from a young.

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"oprah" Discussed on The Read

The Read

02:14 min | 3 years ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Read

"Other than steven j two hashtag oprah in hopes that oprah winfrey gale king's good syria iran so far that they would that she would have johson on the show so they talk about love hip hop or whatever then she logs often goes missing however us later mona post some clip of oprah on her instagram with the hashtag oprah and insists during one of those interviews are oprah's talk about removing toxic people from your life in my own yeah that i remember that clip so then um how she started removing people from her life when their energies in goals in shit didn't aligned with her positively and in that yeah like a classic yet oprah moment harassment are the moments were she's like speaking in using her hands and like her handed get real high and she would like to all these motions and i realized in that moment it's like one of those like opri always as she does those like like she's emphasizing it method allow no verbal highlighter like pay attention right here is where you really pay attention as rises to hand the blessed barrier she does that um but what she doesn't do is interviews with a joscelyn hernandez that's not well at just so could at best she's getting a yonli i and i mean take it i would take it abbey i end rarely yonli is a fit that works because yon was not i don't understand just had lord of honor i'm just trying to understand how how joscelyn thought was she had to say was like that salacious like it was something like oh my god only oprah can break this story like whatever you go on tell us or expose about mona sky young i'm sure we already know what y'all have released should contracts him y'all made mona a lot of money in everything is scripted no shit girl what else you guys like like.

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