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Fresh update on "oprah" discussed on Lori and Julia
"She's back for the this ninth installment of the fast, nefarious, And in a recent interview, Brewster notes that she had been working in Hollywood for decades but is only now starting to see body image standards, particularly for women get more realistic, and we saw this with mayor of East Town in with her with Kate Winslet wanted to not change her body to so And if you guys ever watched any of the old, fast and furious, teeny, she's very teeny. Very This is not new. They've been doing this in Hollywood to women. You know, good for River speaking about? Yeah, but now she's speaking up on it. He's teeny. Yes, so I think there might have been some pressure for her there, and now she's kind of happy to see that there's a change moving forward and going over to the Royals Guys. Meghan Markle and Prince Harry are once again getting the royal treatment this time courtesy of lifetime. The network's latest film called Megan and Harry, Escaping, the palace will dive into the couple's explosive interview with Oprah.
Chrissy Teigen in Talks With Oprah to Do Big Interview
"Chrissy teigen is in talks with oprah sitdown interview so crissy's very long apology yesterday after acusations of cyberbullying is not working which is why the star that troubled star. He's looking to the dramatically reset the agenda sources tell me the following quotes chrissy has been advised that it's best to go into hiding low and she's being told that if she shuts up past other shutting up is not exactly her style which is why she's talking to oprah to markle type sitdown interview to tell her truth. Sources go onto ad. Chris's a fighter and she believes that she's such an excellent communicator. She is that she can talk self out of any mess. I'm not sure that's true. She's reached out to several friends. Who have convinced that this would be a good idea. Donny what do you think you know. I actually i. i've always liked christie teagan. I think this time though. What she said was really hirsch harsh and was really hurtful and it wasn't just to one person it wasn't just courtney stodden it was lindsay lohan. It was fair abraham. It was this new guy from michael stellar from project runway. These are multiple multiple people. And i think now it doesn't matter what she does you either. You have made up your mind about who. Chrissy teigen is an additive. Her apologizing for the hundred time is going to change your opinion.
Winfrey, Hearst Have Black Journalists Tell Elders' Stories
"Oprah Winfrey is leading a project that team's young black journalists an older black activists community leaders and regular people to talk about their lessons on life our margins are a letter with the latest Oprah Winfrey recalls being in her twenties when she became friends with port my Angelo who stressed the importance of knowing one's history Winfrey's lift every voice project teams young interviewers and photographers for mostly historic black colleges and universities with people older than seventy with remarkable stories among those interviewed or singers Dionne Warwick and Patti LaBelle actor Andrea shields an activist Claudette Colvin and opal leak the stories will run on Oprah daily dot com and in magazines like elle Good Housekeeping and esquire
Alex Rodriguez Hangs With Ex-Wife Cynthia After J.Lo Split
"Weekend in miami. But iran may have kept it cool by throwing some shade. He is being accused of posting this pic with his ex wife cynthia to make jennifer jealous now. Things got a little more intimate in another post with cynthia wrapping ayla lots arafat's league in ice yes. Rats leg is named growth. Cynthia is a world-class. Mommy to our girls wrapping ice though. Lol you guys well first of all to post. That can post in the ice wrapping moment. Why of course. I know why that is a straight setup really i i hope cynthia got paid extra for her stunt game because by the way. That's who i'm most embarrassed for cynthia. Cynthia it's accent the you know. He came to us you to make jaylo jealous to get her attention. Well why would be jealous. Cynthia's happily mary. Why would lo be jealous of cynthia. I know that they had beef in the past and it was messy. 'cause there was about the child's this 'cause jaylo got involved. She thought that was playing way too much in child support to cynthia so she advised him to negotiate. The child support and cynthia was like listen. We didn't have problems until jaylo entered the picture. I don't
Thomas Markle Suggests Oprah Is ‘Playing’ Meghan and Harry in Latest Interview
"Let's let's cleanse our palate with a little bit of meghan markle's dad. Tmz reports at thomas markle says he and prince charles have one thing in common. They both been ghosted by. Meghan harry and He's not a fan of oprah and he kinda like kinda calls harry a cock in his own way. Here's a clip from his recent sixty minutes australia interview. I think oprah. Winfrey is playing harry and meghan to go. She's using them to build her network and build. A new show. Needs all the help. i think she's taking advantage of very weakened man and getting him to say things that you just shouldn't be saying on television. So you think are saying i guess the frailties of harry and meghan it and decided to cash in on that i think so. Now she'll she'll disagree of course and she might even assuming i don't care but the bottom line is it seems to me. She's working harry. Is there really bad green green. Maybe with australia sixty minutes australia. Max padded we have harry with with the oprah that old clip calling. Everyone a racist. Remember what he worked to halloween that year. Oh what s uniform. I'm glad that everyone's done something. So this is from Heyman oprah couple of weeks ago apple. tv show together. The feeling of being trapped within the family is. There was no option to leave eventually. When i made that decision for my family i restored. You can't do this as well. How 'bout is after. Get until i am able to do this. She was going to end their life. Should have to get to that.
Kate Middleton Has Risen Above Meghan Markle's Crying Claim
"Kate middleton has risen above meghan. Markle's claims said if you remember not so long ago. Meghan markle told oprah that kate middleton made huck fry before her wedding in two thousand eighteen to prince harry nine british journalist camilla terminally. That's very british. She said kate has nothing to prove. She's a reasonable in fact. Kate basically is the peacemaker between harry and his brother. William we saw that at their grandfather. Prince philip's funeral. Let me give you a quote. Despite the duke and duchess of sussex is oprah interview. Kate hands risen above it in that interview. Kate was accused of making meghan cry during a bridesmaid's fitting of the dress for failing to support our however. Kate has decided to rise a buffet. What do you think about this done. A you hold a grudge. Could you rise above a i. Do hold a grudge in this case though when you are the possible future queen gets a little easier to rise above. But this is. I think kate has always been the epitome of class. And i think she's not gonna mudslinging. She's not going to get down in the trenches anything that they say. I don't think she cares. Honestly don't think. I think she was probably heard about this national television. Sixty million people watched that pre interview on the interview. Meghan claim that in march there were reports. That meghan made kate cry but on the interview she said the reverse happened. Meghan didn't exactly diebold many of the details but she did say the kate apologized and she had forgiven her which is really bad sorta shade. It has definitely shady. They're
Oprah, Prince Harry Host Discussion With Lady Gaga, Glenn Close
"Oprah Winfrey and prince Harry will continue their mental health series with the virtual town hall this week Margie's our letter with the latest last week apple TV plus released a mental health series co created by Oprah Winfrey and prince Harry called the me you can't see on Friday when free and Harry bring back the advisors and participants for free virtual town hall to discuss where to go from here to me you can't see a path forward will feature lady Gaga Glenn close and other celebrities giving further insight into their mental health struggles and breakthroughs
'I Was Afraid': Prince Harry, Oprah Discuss Mental Health
"The Duke of Sussex tells the Associated Press returning to London for his grandfather's funeral last month triggered feelings of anxiety Harry the Duke of Sussex has been open about some of his struggles and is taking part in a series on mental health with Oprah Winfrey on apple TV plus in the AP interview he says he was able to use coping skills he learned in therapy to get through prince Philip's funeral last month and being back in the media spotlight I was afraid about it but then going through the motions to lean on the toolbox hello Jean all the learnings that I've that I've that I've grown from one of the policy it does definitely made it a lot easier but the whole store bought still pounds he says it was his wife Megan back when they were dating who convinced him to seek the help he needed to deal with royal family relationships and the death of his mother princess Diana I'm Jackie Quinn
Prince Harry Speaks out About the BBC's Investigation Into Princess Diana's Panorama Interview
"Tonight. Pillars of british society rocked. Prince harry again. Criticizing the royal family telling oprah of his descent into drink and drugs are find myself drinking. Not because i was enjoying it. Because i was trying to mosque something. But it's another interview decades ago. That's causing controversy. Where princess diana famously said. They were three people in her marriage. Inquiry says to get to sit down. Bbc journalist martin bashir line to diana even doctoring documents. Bashir apologizing but saying diana would still have agreed to be interviewed. The bbc also apologizing. The interview was a major contribution to making. My parent's relationship was since his mother's death. Prince harry says he's suffered with an uncaring family who failed to support his wife when she wanted to take her own life. The thing that stops her from seeing it through was how unfair beyond me be put in a position of losing another woman in my life to interviews decades apart tonight shaking the british establishments care sons. nbc news
Oatly, World's Biggest Oat Milk Company, Set to Go Public
"The world's largest oat milk company oatley begins trading on the nasdaq stock exchange. Today it's expected to raise one and a half billion dollars in its initial public offering valuing the swedish company at ten billion dollars has benefited from famous investors including none other than oprah
Prince Harry and Oprah Winfrey Discuss Mental Health in New Series
"Harry and hot water After describing the first Amendment as bunkers, NBC's Roy O'Neill joins us live with a look at why he said it. The reaction he's getting Seems like the prince is having, you know a little bit of trouble. Kind of adjusting to new life here in the U. S. I think he's guys you've got it all figured out that we're smarter than the rest of us. You know, He's got a new TV series with Oprah that starts on Friday. And what are we talking about? Don't look at all this free publicity he's getting, but yeah, he was on a pap I've cast with the after Dax Shepard talking about mental health and his new TV series with Oprah is about mental health. And he was talking about how your paparazzi were attacking him and surrounding his house when he was staying in Tyler Perry's home with the family, and he, you know a lot of this meaner stuff that put online and shared his quick bait that then profits, these media companies. And that's what he said was bonkers about the First Amendment protecting all this.
Oprah and CNN: AT&T is merging media business with Discovery
"A massive merger in the business entertainment world there's another major player hopping into the streaming business AT&T has signed off on a deal that will see a combined it's huge Warner media assets with discovery incorporated eighteen tease assets include HBO and CNN while discovery operates networks like HD TV history N. T. L. C. the deal is worth forty three million dollars and it's not due to close until next year once it is consummated the media marriage will create a new publicly traded company that will write into a streaming arena that is already crowded with bigger and more established services like Netflix Disney and Amazon I'm Oscar wells Gabriel
How is Prince Harry So 'Normal'?
"It's so crazy to me that we're in this world. Where prince harry's like casually on dax shepard's podcasts. That would never have happened a few years ago and to me that is such a small thing but it's so representative of really there into la life. Into hollywood i don't wanna say into normalcy because none of this is normal but just even the ability to be able to go on a podcast. Which would have never happened interesting. That you say this shift into normalcy. Because that is the thing that always surprises me about prince harry especially with what we've seen of him recently. The interview with oprah the new show us with over coming out about mental. Health carpool karaoke. He did the normalcy of him. Is it just catches me off guard every single time and obviously his life whether it was a royal life or in. La life is not normal by any means. But there's just something about what he's saying and the way he speaks and the references he makes and the things. He's aware of in terms of media and entertainment. It just catches me off guard. Because i don't expect him to be aware of any of those things when you think of prince harry in the lifestyle that he's lived. And what your view of the royals are you. Expect that all of these funny references that he makes talking about joe rogan talking about when he was games courtney new the fresh prince of bel air themes on you expect these things to be things that are just go over his head entirely because he wouldn't be aware of them and so for him to be talking about these things in such a normal way was my biggest takeaway from the whole interview.
Never Forgive, Never Forget
"Suzanne somers once said forgiveness his gift you give yourself. Does it come with a gift receipt. Susie oh pro winfrey once said true forgiveness. His win you can say. Thank you for that experience oprah. I love you but if someone murdered my family at least the ones i enjoy i would. Under no circumstances ever in a million years forgive them and if forced to do so to adhere to fundamentalist ideals. I would. Intern hate myself for being a fraud. And betraying my truth here at mind body. No saw we never forgive and we never forget we also so don't dwell but we don't wish them well. There is a myriad of intrinsic quandries attached to the notion of forgiveness to start both the definition and connotation of forgiveness is all about other person the motherfucker that did you dirty and setting them free. Absolving them letting them off the hook ceasing to feel anger or whatever. The new demonized emotion is towards that person. Place or thing.
A highlight from Episode 46; The theme for this episode is Happiness, living a happy life and doing things that lead
"Coming up on this episode of the old man's podcast. The segment on tips is going to have some organizing your home tips. I don't know about you it coming out of this pandemic. My home needs organized. Read an article or to get some tips for. I wanna pass on the last episode. I did best days ever this episode. We're taking it up a notch. We're going to talk about a big night out. What makes for big night out. Pep talk coming to you. From a quote by oprah winfrey. I think you'll enjoy it and get something out of it and finally. Have you ever been accused of being fast and loose with rules. I have kind of proud of it. Sounds like we got a great entertaining. Informative podcast episode for you this week on the old man's pop camp
Damon Weaver, Kid Reporter Who Interviewed President Obama, Dies at 23
"When he scored the interview of a lifetime, But now we won't find out what else he could have accomplished. His family says he's passed away. Damon Weaver was just 11 years old and in the fifth grade when he spent 10 minutes asking President Obama questions at the White House in 2000 and nine they cover topics such as education and bullying and demon made a friend. When I interviewed Vice President Joe Biden, he became a homeboy. Now did I interviewed you? Would you like to become my home? Absolutely. Thank you, man. Great job. Weaver later interviewed Oprah Winfrey and basketball star Dwayne Wade and was studying communications. At Albany State University in Georgia. His family says he died of natural causes on May the first he was 23 years old boxes. Kevin
Local Governments Promoting Incentives to Encourage Covid Vaccinations
"According to the centers for disease control just a bit more than forty six percent of the entire. us population. that's everybody has gotten at least one dose of covid vaccine thirty five percent is fully vaccinated but things are slowing down. Millions of people are still hesitant and herd. Immunity is for now maybe not looking so great so local governments are partnering with businesses to offer free stuff in exchange for getting a shot incentives matter that we know but do they work. Marketplace's kristen schwab has more on that. The mission to get more vaccines into people's arms is starting to take on a bit of an oprah. winfrey vibe. west. Virginia is giving one hundred dollars savings bonds to adults under thirty. Five main is offering free hunting and fishing licenses and in new orleans a pound of crawfish. Incentives are nice. Because they're the bronx near leading people toward something in a positive way. Knoll brewer researches vaccination behavior at the university of north carolina. He says incentives appeal to people across party. Lines and studies show. They increase vaccine uptake by about eight percent. If the incentive is of value mario macho is a behavioral economist at johns hopkins. There are costs and benefits to any any action and a person engages in the action if her perceived benefits exceed her received. The costs costs can be literal like to and from a vaccination site. The biden administration has partnered with uber and lift to provide free rides but benefits can also offer people. Something they want. New jersey is running a shot and a beer program macho says this can make a needle in the arm. Seem fun ause you. They might go without with a friend or a group of friends and get vaccinated together and then go out and get their free beer and incentives. Like new york's free tickets to a mets or yankees game. Also whisper freedom like. Hey remember when we high five strangers after home runs without fear gretchen chapman who studies vaccine behavior at carnegie mellon says incentives usually work on people who only need a little push and researchers. Don't know if they'll work for the covid vaccine like to have for others
Ellen DeGeneres Plans to End Her Talk Show in 2022
"TV host Ellen did generous is calling it quits. The Hollywood reporter says generous has decided to make the 19th season of the Ellen Show her final one. She let her staff know Yesterday she's scheduled to talk about her decision with Oprah Winfrey during her show tomorrow,
Ta Obreht Reads Thomas McGuane
"This is the new yorker fiction podcast from the new yorker magazine. I'm deborah tradesman fiction editor at the new yorker each month. We invite a writer to choose a story from the magazine's archives to read and discuss this month. We're going to hear gallatin canyon by thomas mccain which was published in the new yorker in january two thousand three. The road stretched before me like an arrow. There was only enough. That left before rigby for me to say perhaps involuntarily. I wonder if we should just get married. Louise quickly looked away. The story was chosen by oprah who is the author of two novels the tigers wife and inland. Hi hi deborah. So you said when we first talked about doing podcast episode that you wanted to read a western story. Why was that. I think that there's a a renewed interest in literature of the west and also by authors. Who hail from the west and the story. I think is so deeply rooted in landscape and space in a certain kind of mentality of the mountain west which it both honors excoriates i am. I've loved the story. Ever since. I first read it and it just feels very emblematic of the space to me. Now when the story came out in two thousand three or a teenager. Did you read it. Then i did not. I'm ashamed to say. I read it some years but i did read it before i became a resident of the mountain west myself and i certainly think it shaped the way i thought about the area. Have you been a longtime reader of maclean's work. I would say that. I've been reading his work for almost the entire duration of my quote unquote literary life. A friend of mine. Who is a huge fan of his work and introduced me to it and I mean there's such range in his stories in his novels there's so much. Discover with mclean. Always
"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Time for me. So cindy change in your mother after that most definitely most she went from existing to living living yes. It was an amazing transformation. We're more involved with each other's lives and we talked at least every other day. Do you think had you gone home. And take in your life that day you would have missed out on misteri thing but the truth is maybe me take. My life changed. Cindy's out and then would have changed. The outcome are grandbaby you know. I'd never got to meet her husband john and have him a lot of our lives. You know and you just don't know what's waiting for you around the corner and if you if you resolve your problem by ending your life then you'll never know the fantastic thing it's waiting for. You will. Diane was watching joanne story that day. This is what i have loved. Do love and will always love about. This show is that you never know who is watching. And what state of mind. You're in and how you just happen to turn on the tv in any given moment and you hear exactly what you need. So what were you thinking as you watched joann. I saw myself in you. I saw myself sitting there. It was my mom that died which is nothing compared to a daughter. But i saw your pain in your and i thought about how brave you were to come in that ross pot and be willing to have a light shine on. My kids were very young and i could easily pass them off and stay in my room. Stay sad but i saw the look in your daughter's i want to be present in your giving oprah and doctor phil that credit i give you credit. Thank you for your bravery thank you. That's amazing report. You only did thank you when someone has an aha moment or when i feel those little hairs on the back of my neck stand up or arm like a jolt of aliveness. Those are the moments that i live four. And it's my sign that i've learned something new and i can feel it happening too many of you to even through the tube those magical moments that connect us all so. Here's a perfect example of what i'm talking about. It happened eleven years ago while talking to nobel prize winning author. Toni morrison said it's interesting to see when a kid walks in the room. Your child or anybody else's now does your face later when my children used to walk in the room when they were little i looked at them to see if they had buckled their trousers of the hair combed stocks were up. And so you think your affection and your deep love is on display. 'cause you're carrying them not when they see you. They see the critical face. What's wrong now. But then if you let your face speak what's in your. Because when they walked in the room. I was glad to see them. It's just a small is that is that is what i think is so profound because that is how you learn what your value is not what the person is saying to you but what you feel one of the most profound lessons. I think we've ever learned on the oprah show welcome. Toni morrison i. I know you probably never expected that comment. That was just a sort of off handed. Comment do us candidate. Was the lesson i had to learn from my own children. You face light up. Do they see in your eyes that you really glad they're there and i had this incident. My older son drew a picture. And i was busy doing something really important. And he came in and showed me the picture and i looked at it and i said well that's nice and he told her right in front of my house through the floor and then i said why don't you do that because i saw that little smile on your face and i knew exactly what he meant. That little dismissive. Oh very i- joleon figuring out what do you mean. What do you feel. They have to look at your face. They have to listen to the word they have to do. The body language. The that's what they do. They're trying to figure out. You know. And i took that a step further. I found that a bachelor applies to everybody. When somebody everybody is looking to see do you see me. do you see me. Denise was watching eleven years ago wind. Tony morrison was on the show denise wishing he's right here hygiene you've never been the same sense. I have not that touched my heart. My daughter i was an angry mother. I wasn't aware that i was angry when it came across because i was critical when she came into the room but it touched my heart so much and my daughter the last two years my daughter ended up dying of cancer and the last two years every time she would come home. Whether it was chemo from the grocery store i would always say navy's how nissan gets so excited and if she went to the garage and came back. I would still do the same excitement. And i was so excited that made a difference in my life and now when children or people in my space is authentic that my eyes light up because my heart lights up. That's a wonderful story. I know your son ford is here. And you're he was the one he was the one he says he doesn't remember but now he does all know enough. And your son. Your other son sleigh passed away this past year december. I had read where you'd said you heartaches aches forever you know. Yeah oh yeah. I expect to be sad the rest of my life and i'm not. I'm happy about that. It seems if i were looking looking for closure and some way to move on. That's kind of an insult an insult to him. I don't know to do my work. I do my work. I do a lot of work. But i don't expect that memory to go anywhere i don't even want it to but if he can get sick and die i can remember you can remember..
"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Defense and rape prevention wish through my mind and i remember the phrase. Don't ever let them taking a second location because the crime scene number two is going to be isolated. You won't choose it. You be the focus of the crime. And i and i said wow years and sanford strong says he still gets calls when people across the country thinking him for that advice. Another profound moment here on this stage happened when we met joanne compton. Joanne had a transformation right. Before our eyes it was nine thousand nine hundred ninety eight and she was stuck literally in her grief. Dr phil was here. And i believe literally saved her life. We had a guest joanne compton. That was in such pain over the death of her daughter. What is it you want to say about your daughter. That laurean was a person that she deserve to live that she didn't deserve to be thrown away like a bag. They throw away in the river. Like peg train and she didn't deserve that. What did it do to you when they took your little girl away from. It entered my life. I no longer wanted to do anything. I don't want to feel joy or happiness. I don't want us to smile. They destroyed me. I know this is a terrible thing to say you know have tried my heart. Raleigh habte forgive thirst for there for me. Don't go anywhere more to come after this short break in. Twenty twenty one. It's finally okay to talk about our mental health and happiness. Humans aren't meant to keep everything inside. It makes us sick and therapy helps. But what is there be exactly. It's whatever you want it to be. Maybe you're not feeling motivated right now and would like some tools to help or maybe you're feeling insecure and relationships or at work not dealing with stress. Whatever you need. It's time to stop being ashamed of normal human struggles because you deserve to be happy and now you don't have to worry about finding an in-person therapist near you to help. Better health is customized online therapy that offers video phone and even live chat sessions with your therapist. So you don't have to see anyone on camera if you don't want to. It's much more affordable than in person therapy and you can start communicating with your therapist and under forty eight hours. Join the millions of people who are seeing what therapy is really about. It may or may not be for you. But it's worth looking into because you are your greatest asset. This podcast is sponsored by better. Help and the oprah winfrey show the podcast listeners. Get ten percent off their first month at better help dot com slash breath. That's better e. L p dot com slash oprah from the creator of green leaf and executive producer oprah. Winfrey comes owns newest scripted. Drama series delilah delilah connelly played by mara hill is a single mother and respected attorney. When an old friend is in need of help. Delilah will find herself in the midst of a david versus goliath case. That will test her relationship with her. Best friend and fellow attorney. Tamra play by jill marie jones while seeking justice for those who need it most in a time when the rich and powerful will do anything to stop her. Delilah will be risking it all for the truth. Delilah is all new tuesdays nine eight central on own. If she could talk to you right now do you think she would say. I want you to hurt every day for the rest of your life to prove that you loved me. You think that's what she would say. Very angry at madness so it wouldn't be a betrayal. Maybe the betrayal is focusing on that day of her dan rather than celebrating the event of her life she lived for eighteen vibrant and wonderful years. And you focus on the day that she died never thought of it that way. I really never thought of it that way. We were just about done and she began to cry and we ask her. Tell me what's going on with you right now. Dr made this goal now. I can't go home. Go from cape and in that moment and looking at her you knew there was no melodrama. This woman was deadly deadly serious and she had been impacted by the show to choose a different course to have a reason to live and that changed me in that moment i you know i left there thinking what you need to really really pay attention every minute. You're here because you're talking about people's lives here and sometimes it's life or death joanne's here today twenty five years. Well we're talking about most powerful lessons in memorable moments. That still gets me every time. That was a life changing moment for me as well as fulfill. Because what you said. I never thought of it that way. I never thought of it that way. I realized i mean. That's exactly what we're trying to do with the show and had been trying to do all. These years is to present something in a way that people never thought of it that way. And you actually said those words that's why it was so momentous for me it was anonymous feeling a had. I mean it was really. That's really what happened. I mean i've really had never. I just saw the light come on in. Your is a having realized what i been doing. A really hadn't you had stopped living. I remember you talking about leaving the room. The same and going in visiting her things like a shrine and i guess i just completely stop the moment i learned. She was dead just stopped everything. So tell me what happened after that. Because the thing that i most remember is that your daughter was sitting in the audience and i remember feeling for her because in those years where you were stuck in your grief you had completely ignored your other daughter. So here was somebody saying here. See me see me see me. I'm still here. I'm still alive and you couldn't were you able to after that. Yes definitely you start realizing what you really can so you never walked back because many times often wonder if i can be in a car ride home with people what would be what would be happening. And whether or not the moment. That moment i never thought of it that way. Before if that continues to manifest in your life oh it has many many times. I'm not going to sit here and tell you that i don't agree for lorene. She's gonna always be a part of me. And i'm gonna always for her loss but i focus differently on that and i did before feel mentioned that she'd been laughed for eighteen years but she continues to stay alive. Every time. i do something positive. I i really focus more on sunday. And i a grandbaby. Now i know i agree and i. I mean how to express that you can express it. Let me just run this little bit of tape of joins daughter cindy on that original show. This was also interesting. Cindy lost her sister. Laurie but she says she also lost her mother to. But you wanna say well. I just wanna tell her that. I need to. I need you there as a parent a friend. I mean we lost laurie. You lost a daughter. Alice sister and it was really hard to find someone to Understand pain now was filling as Obviously you couldn't be there at the.
"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Twenty five seasons four thousand five hundred sixty one episodes. I believe the oprah winfrey show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world Rolling never thought of it. That the moments the breakthroughs the connections the occasional ugly cry so terribly every single minute the l. o. Ell's the moments that matter. I o blue light lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the ball. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me. do you hear me. That's what i say mean anything to you. You're listening to the oprah winfrey. Show the podcast. Twenty three years ago. I was standing here with the audience. Just like i am now and we'd come up with what we thought was out of the box idea to have on a panel of white supremacist. Skinheads my producers knew it would be edgy controversial and thought it would likely get huge ratings. Even more importantly we all thought that what we were doing was exposing their ignorance and confronting their hatred of black people right on national television. That's what we thought we were dead wrong. These men came with their own agenda and in the end we gave a bunch of racists an hour long platform to spread their message of hate an evil that taping change the way. I thought about tv and how it should be used. I made a conscious decision. After i was done with that show to never again use this platform to put that kind of energy out into the world my guest today call themselves skinheads. They say their heads are shaved for battle. Mike barrett says he wants a quite nation and will use violence to get it if that is what it takes and my next guest is vice president of the area youth movement. He says that white people built this nation and have now lost it so he is recruiting white youth to help win it back. Meet dave masella. Believe that only white people created this country. Everything's skirted around here is created by white people. You know newsletters and billers great architecture away you know blacks jungles of africa over here. White people teach these people. They didn't create anything over here. They just followed us. We taught him. Why is violence necessary necessary when it's brought to us and we've had people come at us with bats knives. Why because we were white. I heard what you said you just said. I don't sit with monkeys. You think because she's black. Because i'm black. We're we're we're monkeys is that it's a proven fact. It's a proven fact. It's a proven fact. That i'm a monkey i want to get off. My mind is here. I want to talk about this monkey stuff. Radio okay no. No no i want to talk about the monkey business. I wanna talk about support. Sit down sit down. I'll take a break. I'll be right back while. I just want to tell you what happened to the commercial break we asked. We asked our friend. Mr monkey comment over here to lead and some other people followed him. I have to agree with this woman down here. Who said i have never seen such felt such evil ness and such hatred all my life so day bazala and mike barrett were two of the white supremacist. Who were on that show and they wanted to be here today. And i said okay to that because i hear you've changed. Yeah first and foremost i just. I'd like to express absolutely from bottom of my heart. I apologize for how we were on your show because we were rude. We were arrogant. We were disruptive and hateful. And i just i apologize first and foremost a you. Just where were you in your life at that time. What do you think when you see yourself on that tape. It really brings tears. Marriage really really kid was lost. You were lost. Yeah what turned you around. You guys all walked out. That had been planned. We had talked if there was any disruption or something we will leave together so that was your intention to come on and promote your home. Most definitely yeah. That's what i thought when you guys have thought well you know. I think i'm doing one thing. I'm thinking i'm thinking that i'm exposing it. They're recruiting oh. Yeah that was a recruitment mechanism. Used that show as recruitment tool. Oh yeah definitely most definitely good or bad publicity for us was always was always positive for one year after that show. Mike went to prison for defacing a synagogue. Dave went to jail for assault. And mike says you had an epiphany in prison. What he did Well i went through san quentin. I is my reception center. They sent me down to vacaville down to a ranch out there. So i got to work outside. In the they put me on was entirely black including black sergeants. So here i am the only white guy on an all black crew on all that crew and you're white supremacy white supremacist work. And we're working with power tools. Yeah but some waving that white supremacist. Now but what happened was these guys accepted me for who i they already knew about my past because it was tattoo on my back of my neck. I'd swastikas all remains. Wow they treated me like a human being and it just taught me the human being. We can't just eight people so it was your being accepted by an all black crew in prison. That has started to change. It was immediate or is it gradual. It's a stripping away because you have to understand that has so many layers are heart. I believe that. The lord was stripping away at hardness. What made you change day. Well about six months after the show. My job was recruiter. And i traveled around recruiting. And you use the tape for recruitment. That was one thing kind of let me into doors. And i ended up. Kutina grew up in portland oregon that ended up murdering ethiopian student. Wow at that point. That woke me up. I realized that there's consequences to ideas thoughts and things that we say do truly have consequences in here was motivating people to do this. It got my attention. Do you feel better as a human being. Now do you feel differently. Almost definitely i feel differently. I'm i'm so embarrassed. When i you know obviously watch things like that verisign being here today because of my past. I don't like it and it's humiliating. Because i look where i was then and where i'm at now but do you feel that your ability to chain is evidence that it can happen most definitely we. Yeah thank you for being here today. I really graphic. Yeah that was life changing for me back in nineteen ninety one. We had a retired police sergeant on who told us if you are being attacked member ever let them take you to a second location that show we know saved so many lives rule number one and frankly it's probably in my opinion the most important never allow them to take you somewhere else. Never nineteen thousand nine. I was attacked by real criminal. Who tried to kidnap me at that moment. A show that turnover self.
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"Out and trying to nurture sauce steady recently from the aarp. They'd like two thirds of of the divorces theater for women who are forty or above are initiated by women. I think a big reason for that is that you allow these relationships to atrophy to such a point that it can't be developed anymore and if you build a situation where you've invested all of your time all of your motion all of your focus all of your intimacy if you will into your children which that is really what i l as focus that can intimacy has been transferred to elimination. It says in the article on those words. I'm sorry. I think you need to listen to what role in saying because rolling is saying something so clear which is the folk the the big question of that article and the question of everything that everyone is saying is which relationship is the primary. Where i'm saying is. I don't think that we necessarily should be looking to our children to give building blocks for for marriage. They're nine years old ten years old they don't have they don't have the perspective of longevity crack we do and so to ask nine or ten year old about these things in my view. Probably not even the great question but i can tell you this i will ask. I asked my twenty one year-old the same question and that's the response. They understand how important that marriage relationship was to make sure that they were security. You know when. I what what i view my job as a mother is is creating people who are secure and creating people have empathy for the world and creating people who are able to leave my house and go out. I'm all right without them. I don't want them to feel like they are everything to me. So the when they leap collapsed. I want them to know that. I have my own identity that i have my writing that i have my work that i my their father that i have that love is great. Love that i have for him and that they'll be fine when they're gone. I think when we have focused all of our identities on these children on these merrill tiny delicate shoulders. It's a terrible burden for them. You that i i. I think we agree that I think your number one job is apparent is to raise children who can go out in the world. And i think that maybe we that's what we are all striving for but we all admit now decided that it's done in spite of everything that we know A lot of people have done the opposite. You have more rain kids coming back home to stay now. Stay there before the mother is doing everything for you. And that doesn't tend to make independent is doing one question. I had with the one phrase. And i may have misunderstood it but when you said if god forbid one of them died i'd still have my husband and and to me kind of seem like you know but i'd still have my husband because he's going to be the one that's there in the end in spite of the fact that divorce rates over fifty percent. But but i'm just thinking wouldn't you're you being dark cloud for some years of me. Would you really be thinking. Thank god it has okay. That's just. I mean to say that. I that my husband is my primary relationship that i love him. The most doesn't mean that. I don't love my children. Of course i love them and the idea of losing them. When you play that game that god forbid game that i say is so horrifying to imagine. The idea of that is just overwhelming and devastating to me too. I'm not saying oh my kids. Think mom i people maybe that we might be responding is because another part of that statement was if i lost my husband. There'd be no joy. Wait wait there would be. It would be like the be off. I lost my children. I could move on a lot of fun. Imagine a life. Because i have a have to. I can imagine continuing alight but you can imagine continue. We know life with your husband. If your children were gone. Not not vice. I as i can i can imagine i can. I can if. I lost one of my children. When i try to imagine a future i can see that. Maybe one day down the road. I can see having some joy in my life. But i can't even imagine my life without my husband in a way. I'm i'm envious because you know one of my great fears. Is that like lynn. All wake up one day and find him gone. There's if like oprah's been saying there's a fifty seven percent divorce rate. My husband is a successful novelist. Twenty-three-year-old writers throwing themselves at him all the time. I'm five foot tall and a little chubby. And i'm getting wrinkles and i you know maybe he's gonna wanna be with some twenty three year old sex pot. I think there's a great balance. My husband and i have a balance. Where together we still have a great sex relationship. We don't feel great sex when you all know when we're sitting in that playground and we're sitting in that mommy. I'm sorry nobody's having cut. There's no no now it's ffa. Connie it if i was a turn off the cameras and everybody would get real here. I believe most people most people in this room are not having sex even weekly. I think women use the entire audience. What does this go that one out of five couples says they have sex us ten times a year. This has been very interesting. I thank you for writing the article. I think it's wonderful that you can get us to think about these things in a new way. I know It was so interesting because walking in the room. I could feel the tension you are like so you're very brave because you really are one of the first people i've heard in years. I had met you all to have this conversation. But i hear so many women saying they have you know given up on sex and they wish their husband would forget about it and go and do the business so to hear someone who speaks so passionately about it the way that you do at least given us to think about and opened up for conversation. Thanks everybody thank you. I'm oprah winfrey. And you've been listening to the oprah winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe to rate and review. This podcast join me next week. For another oprah. Show the podcast. I thank you for listening..
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"Was always happy. Can you see how that might be influencing? Why was so important for you to go because it had been one of the happiest memories of her life. So understanding that now we can see that it wasn't as much control as concern. I want you to have a good time. This is the happiest time of my life. It was a mistake or a misunderstanding perfect code. Going on there. Yeah. You're right. It is. It's totally different changer way you feel about that now that promise experience that's exactly what we're trying to do here. Vital step is reconnecting with your family marked asked Neil joy and Shirley. For them to get along. Do you blame yourself for the distance between you and your children. Of course, I have to assume some responsibility in that. My kids think that I that I always have to be right. Joy especially and I. I don't know how to make. Make it any different To Change. Are you able to express your needs? Another No. Because she doesn't get it. Get it I and I and I don't have the tools or I'm not there are. I can't make her get it. What would you most want to happen? Acceptance would be nice. Just to accept who I am. What would you want from? Understanding. Openness. That they could accept me for who I am. They. Can See as the person Shirley not just mom. Yeah Well, unlike what see I wanted to be proud of me a woman. Know new. Book you said. Code One of the questions, how do you feel when you walk down the street with your mother and your siblings and and I guess that really ring a bell because. I, have a feeling that they'd like me to walk ten paces behind him. That's part right there. Because we love him. I. Hurt. I want to hear what you have to say, what were you saying? I would like her to be right there with with us how we are and be proud of us. Like we are of her that she would accept us and walk with us and not be embarrassed of us and not try to. Change US and and and just accept us. For who we are And how in how we are running our own life? May Be good or bad, and let us make our mistakes but still be there and support us when we make. But when having I supported. Can you tell me anytime that I haven't? You've always been there. Yes. Trying to fix us. Yeah, it's. They feel like they're not good enough I know I know not just being who they are because they feel like everything you do and say to them. Thanks to radio like it makes them feel like you want them to be or do differently than they are better. Did you better do better? which is it's. If you look at it. It's good but you really have to dig down deep. Every human being you what you're saying is no different than everybody everybody mouth. Is Looking. To value in their life. You know. Everybody is just looking to say why can't you love me for who went for WHO I am? Isn't that what everybody is looking for that? Exactly what we're doing here okay. 'cause I think it's a really loving act to be here. You wouldn't be tears everybody if you didn't love each other and we're going to keep working. Always show the. Chairman. Thank you so much. Thank you for your stores. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey show the podcast. If you haven't yet go to apple podcasts and subscribe rate and review this podcast join me next week for another Oprah show the podcast. Thank you for listening Okay. So works done and your cravings, something spicy and salty I know. What idea snack on blue diamond was savvy and soy sauce flavored almonds they're so good and almonds are a superfood. Don't deny your cravings eat them. Blue diamond almonds crave victoriously..
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"Because. You saw yourself being stuck where Joanna's. And neglected them. And they've been hurt by it so important that you know it's not selfish to say what you just said to say I have to take care of me because you're here and you're living, and you have to take care of you. You have to take care of you, and that is not a betrayal of your father's memories, not betrayal of those that we've lost. Cindy what is you want to say because I know you're shocked as me to hear that. Had No idea. Clare, we can get on. You know very my sister letter live in our heart. We can get on with our lives, you know. I'm glad to have my mom bat. Well? Thank you for being here. Thank you, thank you again. Thank you Dr Phil. She's been. She's been holding on to it for ten years and was ready to let go was ready to go. And what is the number? One thing you can say to somebody who is I? I love what you said to her. I think for me. That's the number one thing about living the. The life, celebrating the life, instead of living, continuing because I saw that was a breakthrough for you. What do you want to say? We just don't get to make those choices. And sometimes we second guess, but you can't second. Guess you have to deal with what you have, and that's your life now. There's not a thing in the world. I could do here for Lord. Except give her her mother's peace. And that's what you have to do is take care of you. Because you're here now. That is not selfish to take care of you. Thanks, everybody see you next time with Dr Phil Tell it like it is Phil thank you. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey show the podcast. If you haven't yet go to apple podcasts and subscribe rate and review this podcast, join me next week for another Oprah show the podcast. I, thank you for listening..
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"Ten years ago Cindy lost her sister, Laurie but she says she also lost her mother to. Over the years I've done many shows with parents of murdered children and parents who've lost their children, and never knew what happened to their children, no bodies, no person ever was claimed or or discovered and you Joanne expressed what all of those parents have at some point or another express to me over the years is they want everyone to know that? Their children had a life, and that the life was important and not the death. Because what happens when you have a child who's murdered, this way is everybody focuses on the death. Everybody focuses on who did it or who didn't do it, and who committed the crime and the life is lost so. You have an opportunity to say something today about the kind of person your daughter was. Her life, not her death, but her life. She was very happy person. She enjoyed everything she did. She liked everybody she met. She was beautiful. She made me pray out. I really couldn't believe that I had a child like this. I've been buried like with the two children I have. And they make me so proud as mother. She didn't deserve this. She deserved a lot more. A lot more. So now you're stuck ten years. You have not been able to move on, and you have watched into your mother. Not Be able to move on. What do you want to say? Well, I just want to tell her that I need you I, need you? There is a parent a friend. When we lost Laurie you daughter Alice Desisto. And it was really hard. To find someone to understand pain was filling because Obviously, you took be there at that time for me. With her case there were details that you and dad with health for me and I feel like there are people out there. Were you know more about the case than I do? and. Course when I was a newlywed, we were having problems and. I didn't feel like a come. Come to you and share that with you. I had to go in front of you. Know Groups, fashion and. Lay everything out there and. Try to get some feedback on it so I could get on with my life and deal with it and I just from other back, I do. They're look. I need you back to back and I need to back as my parents and that's my friend. I'm so sorry. For. To to be able to share your pain and your feelings with her and your joys, and your things to have your mother back as a partner again, yes, it would be wonderful It'd be a new beginning. We could get, and we can move forward. You know we could deal with new pains. New Joyce, you know and. I'm. No and We caught a lot of rest in Peace Now. I really do. AM So sorry are really ender the sorry. Let me ask you both something. And I'll address this to you because Cindy I think you've moved on. I, think you feel like you have some closure. You haven't forgotten your sister, have you? Ever any less. Every day. You think about every day, but you're not obsessed with it. And you feel that you are. Okay. I ask you if you could accept some things and another thing I want to know if you can accept. And this is so hard people to think about. But can you accept the fact? That the length and depth of your grieving. Does not reflect the length and depth of your life. You can love somebody this much. And if you if you if you agree for a year, that doesn't mean that you only loved them that much. It's not something that you. Oh, it's not something that you give how long you grieve. Is. Not a reflection of how much you loved the person that you lost. That sounds foreign to you, doesn't it? because. You walk around, you say. How can I be laughing today? And my daughter is dead, and I'm laughing at Disneyworld or I'm laughing at a TV show and my daughter is dead. How can I do that? You ask those questions yourself, don't you? But I'm asking you now. Can you at least entertain the fact that how long you grieve is not a reflection of how deeply you loved your daughter. I believe I. Do can you accept that if you get closure on this? If you say I'm not going to be obsessed with this anymore that you are not betraying your daughter. Yes! I think I can. That's a hard one, isn't it? But I'm asking you. Can you do that? Yes, sir, I think I can if she could talk to you right now. Do, you think she would say mother. I want you to hurt every day for the rest of your life to prove that you left me. No, you think that's what she would say to invade very angry, it may. So. It wouldn't be a betrayal. Maybe the betrayal is focusing on the day of her. Dan Rather than celebrating the event of her life, she lived for eighteen vibrant and wonderful years. and. You focus on the day that she died. I never thought of it that way. I really never thought of it that way. Well maybe it's time to say. I'm GONNA do that. Maybe it's time to say I'm going to focus on her life and celebrate what I had rather than what? lost. You suppose that's a possibility. That would be nice. It'd be very nice. But it means you have to let her go. You have to give her to God and say I'm Gonna I'm this is your job? Man I'll never forget. I'll never stop loving. You'll never stopped being part of my life. But. It's time that I move von. With your sister and with my life. Take you with me and my heart. But. I'm not going to be obsessed with this anymore. Like to work towards that really would. Like to be able to do that? I could see that. That was a light bulb moment for you. When that was because you who said earlier in the show today you can't even bear to smile. You smiled when Phil said that where the order and you're smiling now. The idea. Of celebrating her life living in holding onto the moment of her death. Really, never thought about it I just never thought about it that way never. Okay? Were you take one more step with me. I mean one more, really big big step. Because what I want you to do right now is I. Want you to make a decision? That says I've got to get up tomorrow. and not be consumed with what I'm doing I've gotta get up tomorrow and have different life I've got to get up and not spend all of my waking hours thinking about my daughter thinking about my loss. And I've been here before and I'm telling you to do that. You have to willing to give it up now. You have to be willing. To say in your heart to, Laurie. I've gotTA. Let you go. I've got to say goodbye I've got to let you go. Because you, you said yourself be really mad at me. She must be really mad at me because we can hold people to an earthly bond, that way can't wait. I believe so. Really Day. Turn your chair and face me. Real close. I want to ask you. Is it time to say by the Laurie. Yes
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"But I prayed that they don't do this to anyone else. And I hope that someday God would take care of them. Sees promised. And they've never been caught in. That keeps you from getting closure, doesn't it? Yes, sir. Yes sir, but there are a few things I want you to accept if as we move through today and again. You're telling us that you WANNA move on. You're telling us that you're not doing this because we. Really do. I want to move on. I want to enjoy my life I WANNA do thanks. With my daughter! Susan I'm not regretting near retirement. Yes I haven't. Neglected for these past ten years. Yes, I, because you've been stuck in the death. And I wanted to ask you a few questions and see if you agree with me about this. I just want to see what we can agree on as we try to talk strategy to get you to move from this pain that you're in. And Number One. Can you agree that the only thing worse? Than these people, this person or persons? Destroying lorries live. Is If. You allow it to destroy yours and Sindhis and your husband's in everyone else's that you're around. I mean that makes it worse, doesn't it gives them the power to take not only her life, but to destroy yours and your daughters and your relationship. I do we can agree on that. We can agree you don't want them to have that power. You WanNa take that back and say you will not hold me prisoner, and you can see how that's happened. The rest of the whole family has been destroyed. Because of your an ability to come back and recover you do see through there and how Cindy has suffered, and do I really do I? Just don't Stop It I. Don't know how to stop it I don't know how to keep. We're going to save. We can help you for that. Because ten years ago Cindy lost her sister, Laurie but she says she also lost her mother to. Over the years I've done many shows with parents of murdered children and parents who've lost their children, and never knew what happened to their children, no bodies, no person ever was claimed or or discovered and you Joanne expressed what all of those parents have at some point or another express to me over the years is they want everyone to know that? Their children had a life, and that the life was important and not the death. Because what happens when you have a child who's murdered, this way is everybody focuses on the death. Everybody focuses on who did it or who didn't do it, and who committed the crime and the life is lost so. You have an opportunity to say something today about the kind of person your daughter was. Her life, not her death, but her life. She was very happy person. She enjoyed everything she did. She liked everybody she met. She was beautiful. She made me pray out. I really couldn't believe that I had a child like this. I've been buried like with the two children I have. And they make me so proud as mother. She didn't deserve this. She deserved a lot more. A lot more. So now you're stuck ten years. You have not been able to move on, and you have watched into your mother. Not Be able to move on. What do you want to say? Well, I just want to tell her that I need you I, need you? There is a parent a friend. When we lost Laurie you daughter Alice Desisto. And it was really hard. To find someone to understand pain was filling because Obviously, you took be there at that time for me. With her case there were details that you and dad with health for me and I feel like there are people out there. Were you know more about the case than I do? and. Course when I was a newlywed, we were having problems and. I didn't feel like a come. Come to you and share that with you. I had to go in front of you. Know Groups, fashion and. Lay everything out there and. Try to get some feedback on it so I could get on with my life and deal with it and I just from other back, I do. They're look. I need you back to back and I need to back as my parents and that's my friend. I'm so sorry. For. To to be able to share your pain and your feelings with her and your joys, and your things to have your mother back as a partner again, yes, it would be wonderful It'd be a new beginning. We could get, and we can move forward. You know we could deal with new pains. New Joyce, you know and. I'm. No and We caught a lot of rest in Peace Now. I really do. AM So sorry are really ender the sorry. Let me ask you both something. And I'll address this to you because Cindy I think you've moved on. I, think you feel like you have some closure. You haven't forgotten your sister, have you? Ever any less. Every day. You think about every day, but you're not obsessed with it. And you feel that you are. Okay. I ask you if you could accept some things and another thing I want to know if you can accept. And this is so hard people to think about. But can you accept the fact? That the length and depth of your grieving. Does not reflect the length and depth of your life. You can love somebody this much. And if you if you if you agree for a year, that doesn't mean that you only loved them that much. It's not something that you. Oh, it's not something that you give how long you grieve. Is. Not a reflection of how much you loved the person that you lost. That sounds foreign to you, doesn't it? because. You walk around, you say. How can I be laughing today? And my daughter is dead, and I'm laughing at Disneyworld or I'm laughing at a TV show and my daughter is dead. How can I do that? You ask those questions yourself, don't you? But I'm asking you now. Can you at least entertain the fact that how long you grieve is not a reflection of how deeply you loved your daughter. I believe I. Do can you accept that if you get closure on this? If you say I'm not going to be obsessed with this anymore that you are not betraying your daughter. Yes! I think I can. That's a hard one, isn't it? But I'm asking you. Can you do that? Yes, sir, I think I can if she could talk to you right now. Do, you think she would say mother. I want you to hurt every day for the rest of your life to prove that you left me. No, you think that's what she would say to invade very angry, it may. So. It wouldn't be a betrayal. Maybe the betrayal is focusing on the day of her. Dan Rather than celebrating the event of her life, she lived for eighteen vibrant and wonderful years. and. You focus on the day that she died. I never thought of it that way. I really never thought of it that way. Well maybe it's time to say. I'm GONNA do that. Maybe it's time to say I'm going to focus on her life and celebrate what I had rather than what?.
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"Moments the breakthroughs, the connections, the occasional ugly cry. So terribly missing every single minute to L. O. ELL's. The moments that matter. I opening light lessons never allow them to take some works. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the vault. I've personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet shares that common desire they WANNA know. Do you see me? Do you hear me? That's what I say. Mean anything to you. You're listening to the Oprah Winfrey show the podcast. Joanne competence greatest wish is to tell the world. What happened to her beloved daughter Lori. She says my goal for the year two thousand is to tell my daughter story on your show, and then to let that go and get on with my life. Just thinking of her name or thanking her it brings a smile, Emma Hart, Lori and Powell was having the time of her life. She was eighteen, vibrant and popular. She loved her rock and Roll Music, and the Glamour of entering local beauty heartens. then. The mother's unspeakable nightmare happen. Laurie disappeared on a lonely country road and Joanne. comptons torment began. Police found her body in a nearby river. She'd been stabbed to death. Investigations led nowhere, and Laurie's murder remains unsolved when they found Lori and she didn't have anything on her. Just a little steadier rain. No Clothes No pocket. No check. In the ten years since Lori disappeared daily, life has stood still for Joann. Our never be able to come to terms with the US to me. Lori Dad today just as easy as she died ten years ago in one bedroom. She keeps a collection of mementos. Her dolls that she collected. I care for dress from her. Pageants she used to like to be him. Time has not healed Joanne Compton each day. She says the loss feels like a whole that gets deeper. I keep worry ends memory law of all the time in my heart. That Dayton's part of me I don't want anyone else touch. I keep for all live. In my thoughts. Just. Thinking backs I'll. Lorries buried in a cemetery near the family home. Her mother though. Still is waiting for some kind of peace. Joanne row to Dr Phil and She wants to end her. With this tragedy she knows that she is obsessed. And she wrote to Dr Phil McGraw Asking for help. Fill is here with a plan to help Joanne. Move On. This is a show for anyone dealing with the tragedy. Perhaps maybe you will hear something today. That will be a spark a piece of light to open a door that has gotten you stuck. He is a psychologist and he's alive strategist. Non This letter? You say Joanne ten years ago. Ago My daughter Laurean was murdered since that day. I've not been able to let go. It has never been solved and after all this time I don't guess it will be since then I've spent hours and days looking for answers writing to anyone that might help I have a need in me to tell her story not in a small way, but in a big way. This need is driving me crazy. It's all I think about every day. I believe that because of this need. It's making me sick within. I've had to have heart surgery and have develop stomach ulcers. The stomach pain is unbearable at times, but not as unbearable as Laurie's debt. What is it you want to say about your daughter? That Laurean was a person. That should deserve to live. that. She didn't deserve to be thrown away like a back. They throw away in the river like a trainer. And she didn't deserve that. Misery so much just aches and sites. And I wanted somebody I just. Wanted to go to tallest mountain top and scream and let people know the pain. The pain that will never go away because of this. You want it to go away. I mean, do you really? Want to be real honest with you here. This is by far. The hardest show I've done, and maybe the hardest show ever did. because. When. You lose a child. I can only imagine. What it means to you I'll never tell you. I know how you feel because I haven't lost a child. I got J. and Jordan at home in in J. The age Lori was when you lost her. I understand that. But I won't tell you know how you feel, but I wanNA know. Do you WANNA move on? Doesn't matter if I want to. Or of Oprah wants to or somebody at your church tells you you need to. Do. You want to move I day, but you've got a pain in your heart. And, that's frustrating as well. In all the time that you've been through this, you've wanted to tell this story and tell what it's done to you and to your family and to your daughter. And you know right now today as you sit here. The, the the animal or animals that did this to your daughter may be watching you right now. And, if you want him to know the pain in your heart, and you say it right now. You. Tell you tell right now what it's done to you and your heart. Because if you're going to leave that aim behind ever you say in this letter, you've got to say it. So you say it right now. What did it do to you when they took your little girl away from? It into my life. I no longer wanted to do anything I. Don't want to feel joy or happiness. I don't want us to smile. They destroyed me. Well, what can think of is? Still hearing. She never even got a chance. They, cheated me on my grandchildren. A cheat me out of the time. I would have had with her as a mother daughter. The Times I would have been able to experience things Western that a mother and daughter experience. Share. They're watching right now. What do you say to? The people that took your. I know this is a terrible thing to say. I have tried my heart. Really habte forgive. You For like. Every day. For me..
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"You understand what I mean. That's true what we've started to do is blame people that have loved enough. You've been kind enough patient today. Who was dying and she said my imagery failed. I didn't get able to think of the sharks that I said you did. Well people die appreciate life. Life is random. You don't deserve this dog gonnit. We'd do our best after all. That's what super joy is super toys. Doing you're making a choice to live. Joyful to what you're saying super joy there are some people who take that illness and get to be better people as a result of that illness and therefore that illness served a great purpose in their life because it made them love themselves and love. Everybody else you know when they made a choice to use it. There's a woman on the concentration camp if they're not gonNA hold me well. It's not just that they're using that illness you'd find those same people. Whatever happens to them they figure out how to put it to work for them and for those who are around them rather than feel like something happened to them because of it. Don't you think that I don't know if all if you believe in God but that the grace of God or the love of God is constant? We agree with that the love of God us concert so if the love of God is constant. Doesn't that mean that God is not here to destroy to punish the calls? You to struggle. Do you agree with that? I agree with that. I agree with that. I remember the statement from the one I mentioned in the concentration camp she said. This ain't God's camp right. God didn't do this but I have a control over this. I can use God's love to survive the system all right so does that mean that people then block themselves from the grace or the love. Yes I think so is there a perception of God's love that makes the difference here you know when you were talking about loving each other? You're talking about family and people close to you and your patience and you know there's a camaraderie there. But how do you keep loving and sharing and trying to be fair with people when people use that and basically? I see people you know the older I get. I think people are reading I do. That's what the argument was. Maybe we all three can come in some really behave in very inappropriate means angry destructive ways. I don't want to give this idea that we're looking at the world through rose colored glasses and distorting that that's not what the joy response is. The joint responses is biochemical for reflects happens on the body. When you don't allow that negative to affect you because you make a choice. This person cut me out and traffic. You can follow them for four miles chase them yell at them scream at them make vulgar gestures. Who you're hurting is you. That doesn't bother them. They do this all the time. They have other problems. I know what she's saying. What she's saying you give yourself to somebody that you share yourself. You have to be and then they take advantage of you because those people mistake your kindness for weakness and they think you're stupid but that's who you are when I give of myself when I give it to someone. I don't give expecting them to respond the way I want them to. That is not what life is about giving loving I speak of is extending yourself unconditionally. For the benefit of another human being who ever that human being is wherever however they wish to to use yourself doesn't matter what they do absolute. I'm giving because it makes me feel good to give well in addition to that delimit new. Stick something in here. There's an assumption that giving is always one on one in fact the giving needs to be to the entire outfit. We are always putting back in the pot. That's sometimes what is given to us goes back in the pot to someone who's not gonNA give directly back to us but there's a sense of contributing to the well being of the group appointed hasn't been brought up here too is when that happens. Sometimes if I may share this with you if you give into those people they're not you need to clean house. There are times in your life when the best things I've done is clean house and you eliminate the people in your life who are not moving in the same direction and are not feeding you what you need. I mean that's one of the greatest gifts hard enough to fix that up. I see a lot of people abort very quickly some people give up too soon. You WanNA clean house until it's really really. I mean but you clean clean after you realize that these people are bringing me down and I've done everything I can. I've given of myself but this person isn't going to help my life. You see what I'm saying. What I'm concerned about is a researcher. Purely though Oprah is that understand something I think. The three of us are trying to say by acting lovingly. This is not just some kind of romantic hogwash. And it's not just positive thinking and looking at communicating. Or I love you. You're my one and only deepest ocean. It's acts that show caring for the system as you said it's giving back to the system however what does that mean giving what. I do positively. It may not be aimed at that one man that day but it goes into the pot. We are all connected. We're all related. One person in this audience today is touched by this. That matters a great deal. It doesn't matter. One woman may give me a dirty look and then. I'm going to clean house. I'll never sit in front of you again. You understand the number one thing you can do for your own. Immune system is to do something altruistic to help you. Don't believe me after the Oprah show is over go out traffic fine traffic and wave people and give them a break. You'll feel really good now. If you're going to tell me didn't even thank me the fool..
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"After several days of bloodshed. The freedom writers were stranded in Alabama. No bus drivers were willing to take them any further and they were surrounded by hostile racist mob. Freedom Rides were over southern White supremacists thought they had one but they did not know about an utterly fearless. Young woman named Diane Nash. A softspoken force to be reckoned with. She was Diane. Nash was a leader of the Nashville student movement. In nineteen sixty one. She turned twenty three on the very day. The freedom rides were cancelled but Diane was not willing to give up. And so that same day. She agreed to coordinate. A second wave of freedom ride keeping the movement alive in the middle of final exams. Twenty-one students from various Nashville colleges left school to join the fight for equality when US attorney. General Robert Kennedy heard that more students were continuing the freedom rides. He called his assistant John. Seigenthaler welcome Diane. Nash and John Seigenthaler Bravo Bravo. George just had enough. Yes you had had enough. Segregation was so humiliating. If you went downtown in Nashville. During the lunch hour blacks would be sitting on the curb eating their lunch that they had brought from home or dropped from a restaurant on a takeout basis. And it was. It was humiliating and I hated it. The students that Diane Organiz Miss Nash organized eventually made it to Montgomery Alabama. Were clansman had been waiting for them all night. A full scale riot then broke out. John Seigenthaler was there. John You were there representing the attorney. General Robert Journal in the United States. Didn't want this to happen. Not Want it. I mean the last thing administration needed wasn't explosion conflagration of violence. And so you end up in the middle of the riot. I wound up in the middle of Violent Ryan. I was hitting Ed. I'd never been knocked unconscious before. And then they not me down and kicked me on to the car and I woke up thirty minutes later. Policemen finding pick me up. It's almost impossible to imagine that we were that sort of southern society at the time that that fifty years ago. Oh and and when you when you think about that you wonder where it came from. Where the courage of these children came from. Yes every time. I complied with the Segregation Stein. When used a back door or something I felt like I'm agree that I am inferior to inferior to use The ordinary facility that the general public used and it was a real problem for me. I'm glad it was a problem. I'm glad it was a problem. You did something about it. Thank you MS nationalist. Battle on Day twenty one. The National Guard escorted the freedom riders out of Alabama. But there were no feelings of relief as they crossed the border into Mississippi Mississippi was the state they feared the most when the freedom riders walked into the white only waiting room in the Jackson Mississippi bus terminal they were immediately arrested and eventually sent to Parchman penitentiary. Those arrests inspired hundreds more to become freedom. Riders they came by bus plane train from every corner of the United States to Mississippi men and women of every age every race and religion determined to fill parchman prison an overthrow segregation ernest. Rip Patent Junior Carol. Ruth Silver and congressman. John Lewis were among the three hundred freedom. Riders who spent the summer of nineteen sixty one in parchment prison congressman. Lewis when you arrived in Mississippi and knowing as I said earlier I grew up knowing. It's one of the most racist states. Did you know you're in trouble? I grew up in Alabama thought Alabama was beheaded but I had never been in Mississippi before when I saw that sign that said welcome to Mississippi. The might know your state heart start beating a little faster seem the air warmer. I hear that they tried to make your prison sitting especially miserable rip. Yes it did We we did a lot of singing and they didn't like to sing and every time that they would threaten to do something. We would seem for example. We're GONNA take your mattress you can take. How Mattress Oh yes. You can take our mattress or yes. You can take out mattress. You can take mattress. You can take out mattress. Oh yes now that man sleeping on steel but we were willing to give up those mattresses. So were you. Also you were also in parchment prison right. There were twenty three girls say girls. 'cause we were pretty young in one side were you. At the time I was twenty one. Twenty One and those twenty three girls were in a cell in Heinz County. That was built for four. So there were four bunks and the rest of US slept on the floor and we were told they're going to take you to parchment and we were really afraid at that point because the the reputation of Parchman is that it's a place that a lot of people get sent and don't come back. I'm back from some back. Wow on September twenty second nineteen sixty one. The Interstate Commerce Commission issued an order taking down all of the Jim Crow signs from all of the bus and rail stations. In the south the freedom writers had one fifty years after the original movement. Forty college students are now retracing the route of the freedom rides from Washington DC to New Orleans they are riding alongside some of the original freedom. Writers I'm getting on the best because I believe that knowledge is power on the bus because the movement is not finish. I'm really interested in. Is what inspires ordinary people to stand up for justice and how young people can get involved in sustaining a movement around the world. That's what's Great. Congratulations to William to to Michael Tanya and Caitlyn who was selected out of one thousand students to join the rides. Thank you for being here. I wanted to do this show today. I think it's so important for all Americans to know who we are where we came from how we came to be you. You have to know who you are and what your history is Ray. Arsenault is the first professional historian to write a comprehensive book on just this movement it's called Freedom Writers and beautifully written historical account. You're gifted storyteller. Because this is all about every story each individual's story here. Why did you want to tell this and these stories? Well as we've seen today this is a story that had to be told When I began work on the book about thirteen years ago I wasn't sure that anybody could do full justice to the to the freedom writers story but I had to try and the just the dramatic power of what they accomplished back in. Nineteen sixty one. Everybody who dared to get on those buses is a hero and a heroine. That's really the story of the Freedom Rides to me. They had the courage inside themselves. It was. They found something larger than themselves and they signed on for life. I mean they weren't. They weren't going to pass their responsibility off to to anyone else. It's always the young people thank you. I would like to give special acknowledgment to five of the visionaries who helped inspire and plan the freedom rides. George Houser Gordon. Carry Tom. Gaither and Reverend James Lawson and C T Vivian. Also reverend thread shuttles were critical role in protecting the freedom riders. It has really been an honor for me and I know for those of you who were part of this audience and those of you at home to celebrate all of you on behalf of all of America. May I say you make us proud to call ourselves? Americans they may also say we stand in reverence for what you have done and we can ask ourselves these questions as we look at the courage that you will showed at such a young age. What's wrong with the world? And what can we do to change it? Thank you thank you for that. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the PODCAST. If you haven't yet go to apple podcast subscribe rate and review this. Podcast join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..
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"Every single person ever will meet shares that common desire. They WANNA know. Do you see me. Do you hear me. That's what I say mean anything to you. Twenty Five seasons four thousand five hundred sixty one episodes. I believe the Oprah Winfrey show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world. A rolling never thought of it that way. The AHA moments the breakthroughs. The connections the occasional ugly cry so terribly missing every single minute the L. O. Ell's the moments that mattered eye-opening light lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the ball. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me. Do you hear me. That's what I say mean anything to you. You're listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast for many of you watching. I know that this may be the first time you're even hearing about the freedom rides but let me tell you if it were not for these American heroes. This country would be a very different place right now and the lies of millions of you would be dramatically different. I know my life would be were it not for them. We begin with a look back at what life was like back in nineteen sixty one when the freedom writers movement was born in Nineteen Sixty one. John F. Kennedy was sworn in as America's thirty fifth president at just forty three. He was the youngest president elected to office. The camelot era was for many. A time of hope and optimism. Gas was just thirty one cents a gallon at many family saw the USA in their Chevrolet that same year the United States put our first man into space popular. Tv shows like leave it to beaver. And the Andy Griffith show depicted an idyllic all American life but those images were far from the reality for many African Americans especially the deep South. Jim Crow laws forced black people to use separate. Water fountains separate public restrooms and waiting rooms even on buses and trains. We had to sit in the back in Nineteen forty-six and again in nineteen sixty the. Us Supreme Court outlawed these racist practices but many white southerners continue to follow their own. Set of rules during those hate-filled terrifying times in the south and other parts of the country a fearless and determined group of Americans men and women black and white many of them still in college at the time. Join together to fight against racial injustice in our country it was dangerous and daring some even considered it a suicide mission. Thirteen courageous freedom. Riders would risk their lives to board buses in Washington. Dc and head south into the belly of the segregation beast. The plan was to buy tickets on interstate buses for a two week journey. That would end in New Orleans along the way the writers with Test Federal Laws that prohibited segregation by riding in the front of buses and sitting in waiting rooms designated whites only and colored. The movement was organized by core the Congress of racial equality core trained all the freedom riders to be nonviolent how to protest without ever striking back. The freedom writers hope this nonviolent movement would force the federal government to step up and protect civil rights. It was that optimism that would lead to one of the most significant moments in American history. On the fiftieth anniversary of the freedom rides. We honor the four hundred and thirty six brave and determined people who risked their lives to change our nation as an African American woman born in Mississippi Nineteen fifty four and raised in the south deep debt of gratitude to the freedom writers. As do we all ladies and gentlemen I stand among heroes. Join me in welcoming one hundred and seventy eight survivors of the nineteen sixty one freedom rides..
"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Fat. We joke about the about the body being a sponge. Because what happens is when you've been dieting. Especially at that position I was had been fasting for four months every single thing I put into my body. The fat cells had expanded waiting to hold onto anything that came in. So it's like you eat the fat cells. Go Woo right exactly back on the outside. She looks very good in the genes. But you don't realize the muscle doesn't have the same quality that she does and the fact sales go here hamburgers coming here. Hamburgers coming told on the toll on hold on hold on hold on woo hamburger and then they get excited with that little fat coming in and then they get wider and why because they have been starved and they are so happy. That food is coming. They hold on for all. It's worth on top of it. The metabolism has slowed so that perpetuates the entire situation. Okay I'm with Bob Greene. He's my trainer that worked out every single day day. Got Everybody has to do it twice a day but I was on I was I had a mission. Didn't miss a beat. Now we're GONNA talk about the new plan which took twice as long. I must say but is what I believe the right way to approach losing weight. When I first began dieting I weigh two hundred twenty two pounds and my fat was up to about forty one percent back then. Two months later I was down to one ninety five but my Fateh dropped thirty five percent in July of this year away to one hundred and seventy seven pounds but my total body fat was down to thirty percent in September. One hundred sixty one pounds but my fat was down to twenty twenty five percent moving down moving down facts going down. That's less than when I when I was down to one hundred and forty five pounds on the liquid diet and in November as of this very morning across the finish line and one hundred and fifty pounds. I took off my my rubber bands. I took off my watch everything to get it to say hundred fifty pounds but the most important thing is is that the body fat is down to about eighty percent only lost a minimum of lean tissue. That again is your furnace. That's what heats up the body and my body Burns better now. It metabolize food better now than it did seven months ago right before you were a sponge. Now you're a lean machine Lee. How did I get that? I want I have walked ran. Climbed bike hike during these last eight months all total. I logged thousands of miles so sometimes we even bring the stairmaster outside. I started out only being able to do four dots. Now all the way up to the top. That's amazing around the world. The asked Bob to rate the exercises forest. We find out once and for all what's going to get the best results. Here's what Bob said. Everybody's goal is the same. Some means are better than others. Losing weight is your number one objective swimming. I rank last. It's fun but you don't heat up the body and therefore you don't lose weight. Stationary bike is only slightly better. The bike supports all of your weight. Surprisingly this is not a good exercise weight loss the indoor rowing machine. I rank eighth on the list. It's only slightly better than the stationary bike. A rank the indoor ski machines seven. This machine is touted as the best aerobic exercise for weight loss. But it's not true. Outdoor Cross Country. Skiing is a far better option. Six on my list is jumping rope once described as the best indoor aerobic exercise. It's good but it's not great. Your heart rate often gets too high and it's difficult to maintain for twenty minutes number five on. My List is outdoor biking. It's fun it's aerobic but you risk injury and it requires good. Weather Stair. Climbing is a great aerobic exercise the only disadvantage is the machine. Supports part of your weight. I rank jogging third. This is a highly aerobic activity. The results quick remember it is hard on your joints and not. Everyone should jog aerobic dance. Second on the list can be an excellent aerobic activity. The benefits are similar to jogging. And there's less stress on the joints but remember. Your workout is only as good as the instructor. With a ten star rating. Walking is the number one exercise for weight loss. It's free it's highly aerobic. You can do it anytime anywhere. Places little stress on your joints. Walking is the best overall aerobic exercise for weight loss. Three quarters of my life has been spent in a state of Diet so I came to believe that the food tasted good. It was loaded with calories. If something was good for you and low in calories it tasted that way but I wanNA emphasize food is not the only issue here but you need to change the way you feel about food and the food that you eat. In order to lose weight you know many times when you are trying to conquer a battle in your life you end up being sabotaged especially those of you who are honey especially. I asked him to take off work today to be here especially especially when you're fighting this hallway struggle and I just wanted to know and wanted to say this that Steadman has loved my heart and love me no matter what size I was and has endured all kinds of rumors and vicious attacks on his own manhood because of it. And you have handled it with such grace. I'm sorry that you had to go through a lot of the things that you've gone through. You don't deserve it of all people. You don't deserve it but you stood by me and love me no matter what and I thank you for no matter. What I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. Join me next week. For another Oprah show the podcast. I thank you for listening..
"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Twenty Five seasons four thousand five hundred sixty one episodes. I believe the Oprah Winfrey show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world Rolling never thought of it that way. The AHA moments the breakthroughs. The connections the occasional ugly cry so terribly every single minute L. O. Ell's the moments that matter. I opening light lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere else. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the ball. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will need shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me. Do you hear me. That's what I say mean anything to you. You're listening to the OPRAH WINFREY. Show the PODCAST. This is what I wrote in my journal. On the night of November Fifteenth Nineteen eighty-eight. I had such anxiety and exhilaration pulling out that wagon fat. I can't believe those genes finally fit after this ten year struggle with weight. It's finally over or so. I thought it was really just the beginning of a real physical and emotional battle against weight and all that it has meant to me. If Wade has been an issue for you today show will hopefully lead you to win your own battle. That's why I'm doing it. I'll take you through all the steps. I've been through beginning with peeling away. The emotional layers the most important then onto pilling away the physical and I was just so proud of myself just having the discipline to not eat for four months straight. I had no idea of the physical trauma. I put my body through northern emotional trauma. That was ahead. I've kept journals almost all my life and although I've experienced incredible changes throughout my career my weight was all consuming November. Twenty ninth nine thousand nine hundred eighty eight exactly two weeks after the Diet show. I've gained five pounds. I'm one hundred fifty today. I've been eating out of control. I've got to rein in in. I still can't get used to being thin. December seven. Th One thousand nine hundred ninety eight. I read an article today. One criticizing me for the Revlon. Shoot making fun of the weight loss saying. Let's see her in two years. It really hurt my feelings. I'll show them December twelve thousand nine hundred eighty eight. I love doing the revlon shoot. It changed the way I felt about me. Never imagined myself is beautiful but that ad made me feel beautiful so for that reason alone it was worth shooting just to feel that December thirteenth one thousand nine hundred eighty eight. I came home and ate as much zero as I could hold a junk all day. Not Good at all. I never cited how. I'm going to keep the weight off. I keep experimenting testing how much I can eat. It's also ridiculous. How am I going to get through the holidays without gaining December twenty? Six one thousand nine hundred eighty eight. There's a party in Aspen. I don't WanNa go. I've gained five more pounds. One fifty five January. Second Nineteen eighty-nine. This was my day to start dieting again instead. I made pork chops and ate them. Oh well tomorrow's another day Miss Scarlet. The holidays are officially over. So what's IT GONNA be for me fasting again? I don't know if I have it in me. January seventh nineteen eighty-nine. I'm out of control. Start out my day trying to fast by noon. I was frustrated. Hungry just thinking about the agony of at all a bowl of raisin bran left. The House bought some Caramel. Corn came back at three staring at food in the cabinets. And now I want some fries with lots of salt out of Control. January nineteenth nineteen thousand nine hundred fifty eight pounds. I'm bordering on disaster. I feel it coming. I'm wondering fifty-eight eating everything in sight. I need help. Old Patterns have emerged are taking over if I don't fast this entire weekend then Monday. I seek professional counseling. That's the deal complete and total fast January twenty first nineteen eighty nine. I lied to myself about professional counseling. I'm not ready to submit to it. March nine hundred eighty nine. This is what I wish for the absolutely eliminate weight as an issue for myself that I will not eat drink or consume anything that will prevent me from reaching my goal. That is what I wish for the determination and will to do it. Just do it no matter what it is possible and I will November Fourteenth Nineteen eighty-nine anniversary of the Diet. Show one hundred sixty eight pounds. I'm thoroughly disgusted with myself. I couldn't even get then for the anniversary show whereas my resolve every day I wake in with good intentions and then I fail November twenty third. Nineteen eighty-nine Thanksgiving Day. One hundred seventy five pounds. Which really is a fat person again? I've lost my resolve trying to find a way to carry on the battle December. First Nineteen eighty-nine. I'm still battling what has been for me. A lifetime struggle. I thought that have to November. One thousand nine hundred fifteen diet anniversary show at least weight is an issue. Stop being afraid that someone was going to bring it up and say. Hey Oprah haven't you gain weight and go on with my life not. I'm still struggling. Just cook rice and smother chicken. I Edman I was supposed to eat only a salad instead. I eat the salad and the chicken. I'm going to look this. I just don't know how right now December thirteenth one thousand nine hundred nine the new studios looking great. We'll be moving in the first of the year. The farmhouse is coming together two. Everything's going so well. So why do I still feel compelled to eat February sixteenth nineteen ninety? I'm in dire need of help with my weight. Almost on the verge of being overcome had a woman come into hair analysis going to determine what kind of vitamins I need. It's unbelievable I'm still looking for miracle cures what happened to my new year's resolution and then my thirty six year old birthday resolution. I don't know I just know I'm in trouble. I'm one hundred eighty pounds now. I wake every morning hating myself in the weight predicament. I'm in fifteen pounds ago. I would have thought this impossible. I'm not inching but galloping towards the two hundred pound mark I vowed to be back to one hundred fifty pounds by the Hope Award April Twenty Eighth Nineteen Ninety exhausted. I Work Twenty hours today. We'll have to do the same tomorrow. I'm worried about booster place. Eating snacks all day from the craft table. I hate seeing myself on film. June twelfth nineteen ninety. I'm carrying fat around. Its overcoming me. One hundred ninety one pounds overcome June eighteen thousand nine hundred ninety. I woke up the past four days hating myself because I hadn't fasted or at least stuck to some kind of plan trying to lose ten pounds in a week so I can put on this next week for the emmys. July nineteenth nineteen ninety never lost weight for the EMMYS instead of game. Five more. I'm one ninety-six still trying to reckon myself still in the closet assessing all the winter clothes. I won't be able to wear nothing. Fits I dread walking into the Fat Lady Stores August Eleventh? Nineteen ninety trying to be in the spirit. The fat has stopped me from feeling so blocked. I cannot think August Fifteenth Nineteen Ninety. I cried in my office cried because I know that lots of people have been discussing it. No one says anything but I feel them avoiding the subject. A CRY FOR MY POOR MISERABLE SELF. Having gotten to the state scale said two hundred and three pounds this morning controlled just controlled by it. Every day waking up with a plan by the end of the day not following through billing diminished less of a person. Guilty ugly you name it trying to gain control knowing that God says I already have it where is it? God dancing on the MC Hammer show with the fattest behind. I've ever seen I saw that tape and can't denied anymore. I really am fat again. They're in new fat clothes. Making me look even bigger feeling just about as low as one can about myself knowing that. I'm being blocked. August twenty fifth one thousand nine hundred ninety. Did a diets don't work. Seminar stood in a room in a bathing suit and admitted that I was two hundred pounds. That was hard September ninth nine hundred ninety instead of losing fifty pounds for the hope awards I gained had to have the for breakout redone. I DIDN'T WANNA go worried about people saying how fat I was made the worst dressed lists with marge. Simpson described his bumpy dumpy and downright lumpy. Gallon I thought I'd looked pretty decent in January. Twenty ninth nine hundred. Ninety one turned thirty seven. I have a New Vision for myself to become lean fit. Strong physically emotionally spiritually food alone. Isn't the answer. What is February twentieth? Nineteen ninety-one went on vacation and gained eight pounds bringing me to an all-time Ping two hundred twenty six pounds. So big unproportionate fat in the face unable to move freely that I don't know this self my body has betrayed me or has it just acquiesced. I don't know who this is waddling through the airport. I caught a glimpse of myself reflected in a store window. I didn't recognize the FAT lady. Staring back at me. Stem says I'm not even close to my potential as a human being that I let the weight be a barrier. He's right sometimes. I can feel the connection between my own fears and the weight. So what am I afraid of? That's the question. The answer.
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"In the summer of nineteen ninety two long simmering. Racial tensions in Los Angeles came to a head that is when we saw the brutal beating of Rodney King by white police officers captured on tape. That when the officers were acquitted riots erupted across the city. Even though many people warned against it I wanted to go there. Right after the Rodney King verdict we were in Los Angeles for townhall discussion. That got heated. Because you gotta take eight either one of the reasons I wanted to come to. La is because when you're sitting in your comfortable homes and you hear the death toll rise to so many people. Those are just numbers and what I wanted to do was to place some names and some lives and some faces and some families so that we in this country recognize what we have done and you were shot about six hours after the verdict came in. I was ironically. I was shot by a black guy. You know but I mean I have A bullet right now. It's a semi chess embedded under my heart. I have in my inner left. Biceps shot Wednesday About six hours after the verdict. And you hear I'm standing up. I'm right here. You hear a shot while you're trying to rescue. Somebody is what I was trying to stop alluding in a robbery fan from a Korean merchant and the guy just turned around he was six to ten feet away and he just shot me. My brother was the first victim Long Beach. He was on his way to help a a friend of his happen to be a black Gal who had called him up and said I WANNA get my family out of here. Because I'm afraid and my vans broken and I can't get it to start my brother's mechanic. So he and my nephew. My sister's son hopped on a motorcycle. Went up there fifty yards from his house or her place. They were mobbed knocked off the motorcycle. My brother was shot in the head. My nephew was shot three times and he'd be dead except the gun. They put his face wouldn't go off. I'm forty seven years old. I don't understand I don't understand. I've been raised all my life. If this man here cut some shelves shaving I cut myself shaving. The blood cups the same the same thing. They lay him and me on a slab somewhere. Peeler skin off. Unless you're an expert you don't know who we are and we all have a soul that comes from God and so I'm here for answers. Okay well this is interesting because you are obviously a white man. Yeah I'm a middle class white man. Okay but I wanted to ask. When the Rodney King verdict came down I was so moved by hearing a young black woman. Who said this said to me on my life doesn't mean anything could you? As a white male see how that verdict made so many black people feel. Could you see? Do you see that? I'm not sure that that verdict means that any of us have any value. Not just black people anybody in one thousand nine hundred eighty three. Dr King said injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere and I think everyone who is a part of that show could identify with that three years later. More racial tension. We were watching live in our studio when the verdict for the O. J. Simpson trial came down. We along with the rest of the country saw this verdict as you saw it and the jury has spoken obviously very happy. I'm very happy for his family for his children. I'm very happy I'm also very happy. At think. Justice was served dot. Everyone here is happy however not everyone here is happy. I noticed that you are not happy. I just feel like she's rolling over in her grave and he said if he ever did it he would get away with it. That's what she said. I really believe that he is guilty. However I think that California's relieved that he was show not guilty because the blacks would have burn the city down. That was a moment in our cultural history. Where the dividing line in race had never been more clear. I think many people were happy for OJ's acquittal because they thought justice was not served in the Rodney King trial and many trials before. I also think that Dr King's quote also applies here. Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere in September. Two thousand nine rapper artists Mogul Jay Z. And I went head to head on a big controversy. You know I've been known for not being a big fan of rap music because of misogynist lyrics and because of the use of the word you obviously feel differently and a little bit little bit little bit and tell tell everybody way discusses more words people give words power. Yeah for a generation where we did was. We took the word and we took the power out of that word a word that was very ugly and hurtful into a term of endearment. So I mean even when someone says it's still intention behind what you say who but Pretty much took the power out of the work because if we just start removing words from the dictionary just make another word the next day so we don't dress the problem. The problem is racism right. That's really the problem so we disagree. And the reason I feel that way because my generation and generations before me obviously coming up through the civil rights movement and I am where I am because there was. There was a generation before me that fought for civil rights and that word carries such a sense of hatred and degradation. And I always think about when I hear the word. Even when I'm at the concert and people were screaming at your concert I think about black. Men were lynched. And that's the last word they heard. And so that comes from my generation right. Okay so okay. We agree to disagree on which is a strong strongpoint understandable. I disagree. So here's the deal. I read Jay Z's new book decoded which put the Hip hop rap conversation in a different context and took it to a new level for me in the book. He talks about his life. He breaks down rap in a way that I thought brings an entirely new perspective to the culture on page one sixty two. I had an Aha moment when he writes rappers. Are Young Black men telling stories that the police among others don't want to hear reading that I realized I was among the others so I appreciate it this book so much that I made it one of my favorite things and I'm proud to say I get it now so thank you. Jay Z for opening up my mind. That's what this day is all about after twenty five years of tackling race on the Oprah Show. Here's an unexpected update from a former racist who appeared on our show in one thousand nine hundred eighty nine here. How can any one scorn a cute little four year old boy because of the color of his skin but you did for awhile when he was born. I started changing from that point on. He's part of me. I'm ashamed of the way I felt before. It was nineteen eighty nine when Jim Rainey wrote how the love of his biracial grandson helped change his racist ways but even today he feels ashamed of his dark past. I felt I was superior white. People were superior to blacks blacks. Were okay as long as they stayed in their own place and that place was where I wanted them to be. There were instances where myself and friends tune. The Black Person Up. Maybe threader slap or something like that. It's not something I'm proud of talking about you know I guess I guess you can say I had a bully mentality. Jim was furious when he learned his daughter was pregnant with a biracial child. How mad violently man? Gosh I wanted to want to do a lot of things. And they were all against the law. I wouldn't lie to you and say I didn't think about getting a gun and shooting a few people initially. Jim wanted nothing to do with his grandson. Seth but something changed. He didn't know I was racist. He didn't know how evil my mind was. He just knew I was smoking granddaddy and he loved me. Had to think about what I was doing next thing you know I loved the four year old. Boy I bet on. The show is twenty six and married with three children of his own. I've always looked at. My granddad has a role model. My life eleven very much proud to have him as a Granddad. Gm's transformation came full circle when he and his wife adopted two black children into their family. These are my boys. My son's it's amazing that you can get this old and just now realize what your calling in. Life is being a father to Robert and Walter. I hope that that Britain and I both can last long enough to see them race and have have offered Tunde opportunities that thugs like me would have denied them forty years ago if a guy like myself can change. There's hope for everyone in nineteen sixty seven. Dr King said hate cannot drive out. Hate only love can do that. Thank you James for showing the world what love can do. I hope that you will find some time in this day to reflect on Dr King's vision. And how you can fulfill your greatness through service. Have a great day. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to the Oprah Winfrey. 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"In the main reason I wanted to be here. Today is to tell you how regretful lime for causing what should have been the best year of Your Life. The most miserable. I went along because I was afraid. I can't imagine for thirty eight years how badly I have felt. That does not do anything for what happened. That does not. I'm just sorry. You were taught racism at home. Did you break that chain chills? That's what I think. Sl Am sorry. Certainly I felt powerless. Also peer pressure has a lot to do. When you're at that age well and I think Jean represented probably the bulk of students. That did nothing right solid. It's the great silence. It's the silence is the people who don't speak up and if there's any lesson to be learned now thirty almost forty years now. Hopefully somebody watches the show and will be moved enough to stand up for something. That's right I love that moment in the show because it's a reminder to all of us of what Dr King said in the end we will remember not the words of our enemies but the silence of our friends one of the things. That was so moving to me about the little rock. Nine is their ability to forgive and I think that they were able to do because they understood that they really weren't fighting people just the physical bodies but they were fighting the entire blight and stain of ignorance on this country and so as the light was shed into people's hearts and people began to see things differently. Actually see each other differently. I think it was easier to forgive when you understood that so much of that just came out of pure ignorance as does all hatred. That was a blessed day for me to be in the studio with the little rock nine. Because there's no question that they pave the way for people like myself and their shoulders. I'm standing on them now. Let's take a look back at a show that brought the descendant of a notorious slave owner face to face with the relatives of slaves. They owned Katie's grandmother was a slave who was owned by the ancestors of Edward Ball. The ball family owned more than four thousand slaves and a dozen plantations in South Carolina recently Edward Katie and Charlotte went back to the ruins of a ball plantation house where their ancestors lived as master and a slave. This place is coming tea plantation Charlotte and Katie's ancestors were in slavery on this place on the beginning of the eighteen. Hundreds were here their blood sweat and tears. Where at this plantation? My Grandma told me how she had these. Keep getting whipping when she took me down to the river and show me how. She tied her dress around her waist and leapt over booed to keep from getting a weapon and as she was diving into the water she told my mother and that they were shooting at her and the bullets were flying overhead and they left thinking that she was dead. May your soul rest in peace. What did you want to say today? I wanted to say that. I'm sorry for the suffering that my family caused your family so many years ago and for such a long time and in saying that. I know that we haven't reached the end of the journey. We haven't even come to the middle but we might have just put our feet up on the path and taking the first small steps toward understanding. I asked I asked her forgiveness. So what does it mean to you to have this apology live with racism every day here? That doesn't wash it away. But it's says that someone recognizes what we go through when we walk out doors and it's overwhelming who. That was a moment. I think we could all see the healing power. That apology. Another powerful moment on the show involved. An eye opening experiment so that some of our audience members could experience the feeling of being judged by color for the first time in their lives. This is unbelievable. Today's audience was separated into two groups. Not on the color of their skin where they separated when they arrive. They were separated based on the color of their eyes but they have no idea that they were separated. What we did was treat each group differently. Discriminating against the people who have blue eyes catering to those people with Brown eyes on mine? No no over there. The blue eyed people were pulled out of line told to put on a green collar and lead outside. The Brown eyed people arrived. They were told to step to the front of the line. Our staff is instructed to be extra polite to Brown eyed people and to discriminate against polite people like this one is a licensed got so one and when they went to places prom members with Brown eyes were allowed to enjoy coffee and donuts. Those blue eyes were left in a crowded room without refreshments for over two hours. The blue eyed group became upset when they saw the brown eyed people were being seeded. I diversity expert. Jane Elliott helped set up the experiment. She played along telling are segregated. Audience that Brown eyed people were smarter than blue eyed people. I've been a teacher for twenty five years in the public private and parochial schools in this country and as seen what Brown eyed people have done as compared to. What do I do and it's perfectly obvious. If I didn't believe it before this morning you should have been here this morning when we brought these people in here fuelling discriminated against the blue eyed audience. Members were visibly upset. She was rude to all of us. Yelled at this names pushed aside. She was rude. This lady came out in the line with all of people that had light colored eyes and said you put this green collar on now and keep it on. And if you don't hit the road say doesn't Jane Green Tower Blue Eyes Because I've learned to act Brown. I'd have a brown eyed husband and three and a message in this room is act ground. Aydin you too can take off your Collar Act intelligently and you can't none of you have have intelligently yet. It wasn't long before the Brown eyed people bought into the idea that they were superior. School was blue eyed. She was so stupid she was always copying off of my papers. These people were so rude and so noisy today. We couldn't hear any ourselves. Even talk was ridiculous. Eventually the audience figured out the show was really about race now. He was so angry. He took off his collar way on early. I need to talk about that taking off the collar. These people can take off their collars and then nobody knows what color of their eyes are from a distance. How many of you people of color can take off the collar that we have put on you? How many you can take off your color. But if a black male refused to follow your orders or your husband's orders your your father's orders on the street you would not see that as being highly principled you would see him as being an Uppity Nigger. We can see where this is going. She's saying that everybody has racism in. It's not really about the ice. She's trying to teach about racism but she can't get away from the fact that God created the races and you are going to be different. You can't help it guide to be like that race. The human race and human beings created racism. I Love I love that. Human beings created racism. God created one race the human race. I believe the lessons from that show are still so valuable today. And because it really illustrates how susceptible we all are to prejudice and how quickly people can be poisoned by misinformation and ignorance. Another powerful moment on the show involved a white man who wanted to experience what it would be like to live as a different race. Ten months ago Josh. Solomon was Black. What he did was really remarkable. Josh took some potentially life threatening pills to change his skin color from white to black and what he experienced as a black man was chilling. So chilling back that after just one week of being black. He abruptly called off the experiment and went home to let the Madison where off. We asked him to retrace his steps to take a look for us for all intensive purposes. I think I looked like the typical black teenager with reddish brown skin and a bald head in Gainesville got a hotel room in started to explore the city off the one. I ran into people in the street. They reacted to me as if they were scared of suspicious. I went into this pool to get a drink. They followed me around like I was a thief one afternoon. I was walking back to my hotel down this road. Police officer pulled me over at that intersection side. Hassle me about who I was. And why was there things like this never happened to me? When I was way one time I went into a fancy restaurant eating. Although I saw several vacant tables the maitre d' told me that there was nothing available in the short time I spent as a black I can only conclude the price. We haven't come as far as we thought so. How did that make you feel because I think that is the one thing that over the years? I've done at least one hundred shows on racism and it's so hard to convey what that having that happened to you being treated like a suspect every day of your life what that does to your Personal Saiki Right. Well you know that's the hardest. Part ways received this prima bachelor suspect. I walk into a room and guardless of how much money I had in my pocket. The certain level respect that I get from folks and the first thing that I realized when I was black was it's gone. You don't get any of that. You know. People get this respect by people constantly trying to prove that they deserve or worthy of it when he said White people get this. Respect and black people are constantly trying to prove that they deserve it or are worthy of it. I thought that was so profound. It was really the first time we'd heard anything like that on our show particularly coming from a young.
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"Other than steven j two hashtag oprah in hopes that oprah winfrey gale king's good syria iran so far that they would that she would have johson on the show so they talk about love hip hop or whatever then she logs often goes missing however us later mona post some clip of oprah on her instagram with the hashtag oprah and insists during one of those interviews are oprah's talk about removing toxic people from your life in my own yeah that i remember that clip so then um how she started removing people from her life when their energies in goals in shit didn't aligned with her positively and in that yeah like a classic yet oprah moment harassment are the moments were she's like speaking in using her hands and like her handed get real high and she would like to all these motions and i realized in that moment it's like one of those like opri always as she does those like like she's emphasizing it method allow no verbal highlighter like pay attention right here is where you really pay attention as rises to hand the blessed barrier she does that um but what she doesn't do is interviews with a joscelyn hernandez that's not well at just so could at best she's getting a yonli i and i mean take it i would take it abbey i end rarely yonli is a fit that works because yon was not i don't understand just had lord of honor i'm just trying to understand how how joscelyn thought was she had to say was like that salacious like it was something like oh my god only oprah can break this story like whatever you go on tell us or expose about mona sky young i'm sure we already know what y'all have released should contracts him y'all made mona a lot of money in everything is scripted no shit girl what else you guys like like.