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Why the African-American Community Needs More Accountibility

The Officer Tatum Show

01:20 min | 2 weeks ago

Why the African-American Community Needs More Accountibility

"But I wish that celebrity black leaders would it's weird to me. Oprah, Jay-Z, Beyoncé, all these people who are billionaires. Why don't they push and spend all of their time challenging and helping black people in the black community? Because all this pointing to finger at the white man ain't never done what is that done for you? Nothing. You could tell these young people, hey man, pull your pants up. Hey, and don't walk around like that. You know, act like you got some sense. If you want people to treat you, right? Then you gotta act right. If you want people to treat you with respect, you need to respect yourself. If you want the white man to respect you, you need to respect your Why are you killing your brother? Why are you out here dogging at your brother? Why are you dogging your sister? You claim you love black women and you out here cheating on them and trying to do all kinds of stuff to them. No loyalty, leave them single with your kid. Don't go see the kid. Don't talk about white people if you ain't addressing that. And it's not just for black people, 'cause I know people always getting their feelings when I say stuff. You always talk about black people. You always tell me, I'm talking about people in general. I just so happened to be black my whole life. And also happened to grow up in a black community. So I don't know what white people be doing. I'm just giving my own personal experience from the things that I've seen.

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Washington Free Beacon: Safe Smoking Kits Include Free Crack Pipes

The Dan Bongino Show

00:45 sec | Last month

Washington Free Beacon: Safe Smoking Kits Include Free Crack Pipes

"Watch it free Beacon Excuse me I was freaking water I'd expect that clip to end that early I was like swallow that What's that Yeah yeah yeah no that's it That's it So the swallow that water fast Yesterday the Washington free Beacon updates their story You can check out the story if you'd like it to my newsletter today Dot com slash newsletter Patrick calf Goes out and says well the Biden administration is saying they're not funding crack pipes So let's go to these places that are eligible to receive funds and see what's in the safe smoking kit They say crack pipes And sure enough there it is the crack pipes Correct pipes everywhere It's like an Oprah thing You get a crack pipe you get a crack pipe you got everybody gets a crack pipe

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Dinesh and Debbie Discuss Trump's Latest Rally in Pennsylvania

The Dinesh D'Souza Podcast

02:06 min | Last month

Dinesh and Debbie Discuss Trump's Latest Rally in Pennsylvania

"So Friday was the Trump rally and it was a rally for Doctor Oz who I guess was getting a mixed reaction from the crowd. I mean, there was a bunch of people with Oz stickers and all, but pretty much every time his name came up, there was also a bunch of booze, just giving you an idea that this is a this is a guy who does not seem to have unified support. And I had never been to a rally in this sense. You and I went to the rally. And he was Ted Cruz and Trump. And so we were in the audience for that one. But here I was in the green room. I was kind of fun. There's Doctor Oz and he's sort of, you know, he's a character. He's a very he's a charismatic fellow. But I like listening to his health tips and stuff. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But you can tell he's a little bit, I don't know if Phil himself is right. Well, I mean, that again, I think I know why people were not happy with him. And that is because how conservative is he. Right. And you know, I do remember when he was on Oprah lot and he likes to, he likes to kind of mingle with the left with the liberal left. Yeah. You know, so that could be why people are like, hey, why are you running in the Republican ticket? Are you Republican? Are you a conservative? Are you? So I'd never met him. We said hello. And then JD Vance comes in, which was great. I like JD Vance. And look, JD Vance, I've admittedly in the beginning he was not hot on Trump, but I think he realized that the very issues that he writes about in hillbilly elegy. The very working class people he grew up with who have hard lives and are ignored by the elite. Trump, believe it or not, Trump the billionaire cares about those people. I know. It's unbelievable though mentioning that how so many people in the spectrum love Trump, like the very poor from the barrio where I grew up to billionaires. It's like everybody, you know, loves him. So he's got, he's got a lot of fans from different walks of life. It's amazing. I was watching him interact with people. Think about Trump as he's, he's a Democrat in the small descent. I never notice a difference when he's talking to an important person or an ordinary guy, he treats him exactly the same. Exactly

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

04:15 min | 3 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Pressure on us. So I just couldn't take any more. And I just crept up over it all and it was it. Just I just, I want her to just be happy. And have a good life. I just pray that we don't affect. We have so far. I wish you should look. Doing it's time for Bonnie to leave, she bursts into tears because she doesn't know when she will see her daughter again. We can wait a minute. A little while later, can emerges. He's 21 years old. Homosexual and doesn't acknowledge he is one of many personalities. Hi, Ken, I'm Kirsten..

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

01:57 min | 4 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Also a country where mothers stay with the abuses because they don't want to disrupt the family. Indeed. That's worshiping the wrong God. We still have to define family operationally, not biologically. Mmm um. You know, I've been dog has puppies. You don't say it's a mother. It's what the does that makes it a mother? Or a father or a brother or a sister. It's behavior that's the truth. So Andrew vox writes in another chance to get it right when he speaks of children. Children of the world, he says, future flowers now seeds, some hand raised nourished and love rich and ground. Others toss carelessly on the coldest concrete, struggling beneath Darwin's dispassionate sunlight. Each unique snowflake, individualized, and all the same. Our race, the human race, one color, many shades, treasures to some toys to others. They will reach the stars and stalk the shadows. What children are more than anything else is this. Another chance for our flawed species, another chance to get it right. I want to thank you as a friend because you've been very helpful to me in my own process of healing. And I have to say that I've come to terms, I think, with dealing with the anger for a long time, it was hard for me to even be angry because I would think getting angry was going to make people not like me, not love me and all of that. So you've been really instrumental in my process of healing. And I thank you for that. Well, as a friend, then would you let me say, I'm sorry, mom about making the crack about your cooking? That's right, 'cause we all gotta go home sometimes. Thank you, Andrew vox. Thank you, everybody. I'm Oprah Winfrey, and you've been listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. If you haven't yet, go to Apple podcasts and subscribe. Rate and review this podcast. Join me next week for another Oprah show. The podcast. And I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

05:56 min | 4 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"If a guy has sex with a little 5 year old girl down the street, everybody agrees he's a pervert. But let him do it to his own 5 year old daughter, everybody wants to call in the therapist. We don't call him a rapist anymore. We call him victim of family dysfunction. That's my problem with it. I say it with contempt. I think what's the worst crime? What's the worst crime? And yet incest is the crime for which your least likely, least likely to go to jail in this country. So we need to change the laws, obviously, or what do we need to do? You know, I know you and I get into it because you say you can't stand this conscious raisin thing that I do. But that's what I do. I try to raise money. Now, not a conscience is raised. I try to raise the conscious, yes. But once people's conscious racist, their turn, right? Yeah. Okay, so you have this bill, right? That they actually call The Oprah Bill. Yeah. It's in Congress right now. What could be a simpler Bill? It's a very simple Bill. All this Bill says is that if you're convicted of a crime against a child, you go on a national registry. So that, if you hire a babysitter or somebody in a day care center or a nursery or a karate instructor or whatever, you can be assured that the person to whom you've entrusted your child has not previously been convicted of hurting a child. Is that an outrageous law? Seems like a simple thing. I can't even believe that I passed yet. It's not passed yet. I've been to Washington many times. I can't believe that the law isn't passed yet. Because it seems like such a simple, simple thing to do for children. It is a simple thing to do, and yet that's a constituency that doesn't vote. Right. Right? Right. John malice have lobbies. Right. They have distinctive lobbies. They have fundraisers. They back political candidates. They impact on legislation as an organized group. Children don't. Everybody claims to speak for children, which is why you notice I don't. But, you know, they're the voice of children. But it's all over the place. It isn't united. It isn't focused. It isn't tight. So what do we, what should we be doing if we want to get, I say, I've learned this, trying to get this legislation through. Is that there's a lot of lip service to what we care about children and how we care and values and all of this. It's just a lot of lip service. And I don't know how to turn it around. The only way to turn around is with force. If the people, it's just the number just enough. If the number of people who watch your show every day? Yeah. If that many people simply wrote a letter to Congress, saying, unless you pass this bill, I'm going to remember your name in.

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

04:47 min | 4 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Through 25 seasons. Hey. 4561 episodes. I believe The Oprah Winfrey Show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world. I really never thought of it that way. The aha moments, the breakthroughs, the LOLs, the connections, the occasional, ugly cry. I miss him so terribly, I miss in every single minute. The moments that mattered. The eye opening life lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere else. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the vault. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet, shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me? Do you hear me? That's what I.

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What Happened to Whoopi and Oprah?

The Charlie Kirk Show

02:10 min | 5 months ago

What Happened to Whoopi and Oprah?

"There's so many different type of topics that I want to cover here. And I want to cover this one, which is the Whoopi Goldberg thing. So apparently Whoopi's name is really Karen. Is that right? I miss old whoopie. I do. Old Whoopi was awesome. Do you know that she was in Star Trek? The next generation? Her name was like guillain or something? Want to say? Is that right? Do we have any truckies in there? You can look it up. Guinan. Yeah, I wasn't too far off. That's right. With Jean Luc Picard and the next generation. This is just whoopie used to be someone that was like fun and magnanimous and just kind of kind of an American icon, honestly. At a very distinct name and a great way about her, but she's kind of descended into the same sort of character arc of Oprah. And I'm not going to racialize this, but they racialize it, but Whoopi and Oprah were to beloved, black women of the 1990s. Whoopi and Oprah were stories of perseverance, at least Oprah. I don't know Whoopi's personal story. And of talent, they're both obviously very talented. Whoopi Goldberg was excellent in sister act and color purple, but what happened to Whoopi Goldberg and Oprah and both are super rich. I mean, Oprah is really rich. How rich is Oprah now? How rich is Oprah? $2.7 billion? That's a lot. And Oprah started from absolutely nothing and she's built an amazing career for herself. 1980s and 1990s Oprah, she was charming. She was fun. She was fair, she was honest. 3.5 billion, okay. She had her whole deal in downtown Chicago. Which was harpo studios and Oprah has just turned into an surprisingly nasty person. And so has Whoopi Goldberg, I don't know, maybe someone can explain it to me how the more successful they get the meaner they

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Joe Rogan Apologizes After Backlash Hits Spotify Shares. But Should He Have?

The Trish Regan Show

01:50 min | 5 months ago

Joe Rogan Apologizes After Backlash Hits Spotify Shares. But Should He Have?

"That. Joe Rogan, coming out an apologizing. Because, you know, Neil Young doesn't like who he has on this show. Joni Mitchell, a bunch of husband musicians. I'm sorry, they remember were great at one time, but you know, they've seen their day. This is kind of Joe Rogan's day, but they don't like it. He's getting so much attention. They think somehow he's brainwashing the public even though I still say it's a free country, and guess what? You can listen to Joe or you can listen to Rachel maddow. Or you know what, you can listen to both, okay? Because it is a free country, and you ought to be able to listen to anything you want to listen to, but no, no, not if Neil and joanie have anything to say about it. And the duke and duchess or whatever the heck they're going by these days out there in LA hanging out with Oprah and all their pals, they somehow were suggesting that they might pull their content off a Spotify too, so Spotify clearly freaked out, freaked out enough to maybe freak Joel out and Joe whom I like a lot. And by the way, he's done a ton for the freedom of speech and he's done a ton for podcasting in general. I think one of the reasons I have a podcast here today and you're listening to it is in part because he was so instrumental in this genre. So not to take anything away from that, but I sure don't like it when I hear stuff like this. Listen. So if this you're off, I'm sorry. And if you enjoy the podcast, thank you. Thank you very much. Thank you, Spotify. Thank you all the supporters and even thank you to the haters, because you still need the haters. I get it, right? They give them more attention, but did he really have to say I'm sorry to everyone? They shouldn't be one bit sorry. Again, it's a free country. You can listen to Joe and you can listen to everyone else. And look, he's not a news organization. He's not pretending to be a news organization. He's a former M and a fighter. And so he doesn't need to be offering this that and

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The Rich, Wealthy Claim to Be Victims

Dennis Prager Podcasts

01:09 min | 5 months ago

The Rich, Wealthy Claim to Be Victims

"If race is now the sole immutable barometer of who is a victim who was a victimizer, then LeBron James Jay-Z Kane west Chris Rock Michelle Obama and Oprah Winfrey are always to be among the eternally oppressed. Well, what did the LeBron James say? He scared to walk out of his house? Out of his mansion, yeah. That's exactly right. They're the eternal oppressed. The enormous influence power status and wealthy wield never negates their victimhood. Despite a nation three generations into affirmative action. In the immoral calculus of WOAK the poor white or Southeast Asian offspring of poorly paid high school dropouts constitute the privileged. And a multi millionaire racist like the TV anchorwoman joy read. Claims to be the perpetual victim. Not the inner city African American retiree

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

02:27 min | 5 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"It's never, ever too late. And sometimes dad felt, he told me, felt like such a jerk for what he did, that he could not even reduce it to a letter and felt it was so minuscule. But you just as a parent have to start. What about all the parents right now who divorced? And it's been, you know, ten years, 19 years, 20 years who want to begin the conversation. What should they do? Call their child get together with them and tell them I really, really want to hear what it was like to be you. I can take it. I love you and I care enough about you and us that I want to move forward. I can just hear it. I just want to listen. Give the children permission to tell you how they really feel. Your adult children. You're adult children. And you're a little children. You're a little children too. If you're going through it, yeah. How does this make you feel Victoria? Hearing him apologize, all these years later. It means a lot. And how did you feel hearing that from your promise? It means a great deal. It means the world to me. I feel like a big piece has been put back in my life. And I can move forward. So in closing, Gary, you want to say what, to all the families who may be in this process? Well, you know, make the call write a letter if you need to get in touch with each other. Have a friend help you if there's good that you know of some kind of person to help mediate. And I think at all times. A letter is a good start. If you don't feel like you can have the confrontation. That is good. Sometimes even having a letter and bringing it so that you can read it or bringing an aunt uncle friend somebody who can be there to help facilitate make sure everybody's listening to each other can be very helpful. How important is it to resolve this? Bring this to some resolution. If you're an adult child, whose parents divorce. It's crucial because childhood counts. And when things happen to us, it's still causes us to behave in what we call unconscious ways. Because you carry it into your marriage. And to your families, if you don't heal the wounds. Thank you. Thank you families for being courageous enough to show up here today. Thank you. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. If you haven't yet, go to Apple podcasts and subscribe, great and review this podcast. Join me next week for another Oprah show. The podcast. And I thank you for listening..

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Epoch Times: Buena Vista Teahcers Hosted 'How to Run a GSA in Conservatice Communities'

The Dan Bongino Show

01:37 min | 7 months ago

Epoch Times: Buena Vista Teahcers Hosted 'How to Run a GSA in Conservatice Communities'

"Epoch times from Brad Jones to teachers from the Buena Vista middle school They let a workshop called how we run a GSA which is a gay student alliance in conservative communities That was their workshop How we run a gay straight alliance in conservative communities And they describe the obstacles they face as activist teachers in concealing the activities of these clubs from parents And in the audio clip one teacher advised other teachers who lead LGBTQ clubs to maintain an air of plausible deniability so they can play dumb if they are questioned by parents Do you hear what is happening They are literally codifying lying to you And their contradicting themselves Because they said this stuff wasn't happening They said it didn't even exist So you need to be really careful what clubs are your kids joining Ask them what they're talking about Y'all let me get a little Oprah on you If you're a teenager comes home and they don't want to talk to you and they just want to go their room or you're lame or you're dumb your dad jokes are dumb They never want to go out for a walk with you or they don't want to go to the movies with you Take them anyway That's their kids and it's their job to think that you're dumb But they're begging for you to push past their walls That's why these people get to be the ones who comfort our kids they get to be the ones standing on the other side of that desk looking at the mom like she's the enemy for caring for her daughter That's how they do

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

06:13 min | 7 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Feel like I'm dead on the inside because there's not much to me. Basically just admitted to us that she feels like trash and you say, I say that you are really exhibiting what somehow very early in your life was told to you. And so I want to know because that feeling of trash being unworthy doesn't start in adulthood. So where did it start? It absolutely started in my childhood. I'd never denied that. The fact that I found this wonderful man who takes such wonderful care of me and my children. I mean, stop for a second because now we're into he's wonderful. And he may be, but I've never felt worthy of having him in my life. Okay, but so tell me about that. Meaning, where did you learn that you weren't worthy? I guess that's just the way I grew up. Honestly. So, but who? I mean, somebody sent you a message. We were used, okay. And there's no secret about that. I just wasn't sure that it was something I needed to come out with. But so now that you've come out with it, what's important, because that's not our business. The details, what is important is do you know how that shaped you? Absolutely. Okay, so then does that mean that you understand that when you talk about how good your husband is? But that you are a piece of trash. This is what I noticed what you were saying. You said, I would love for my husband to be proud of me. I would love my husband to have me on his arms, and I love him. I would love my husband to feel passion with me. I would love everything that you were saying about your husband is what you need to feel for yourself. Absolutely. Is that true? Yes. And what was robbed from you as a child? That was stolen from you. And so the focus is always about pleasing someone else. Yeah, I think this is important to say I would like for everybody to know this. Everything all because you keep asking everybody, where did this happen before? It wasn't the 13 years ago. Everything starts in your childhood. Yes. And I know that there are people who don't want to say that or admit that because they're like, oh, now we gotta go blame in our mothers. Right. It's not that. No. And mothers are like, don't go blaming me, right? What? And my mother's saying, the same thing right now. Don't go blame it, but. Yeah. The truth of the matter is you are shaped in your childhood, your beliefs and your values and what you think of yourself. That doesn't change just because you get to be an adult. And what's so important about Oprah what you just said is that you're talking about the healing happens when we can rewrite the script. So you can see that that's how I got to feel this. Exactly. And I don't have to feel that way. Absolutely. Because it was rooted in somebody else's lie about me or somebody else's misery about themselves. Correct. Okay. Next, doctor Robin is going to tell us how all the guests are connected. What do they have in common? Not good enough, self hatred, people here, the word self hatred and they think, oh, that's not me. But it is you, which means that any time you keep yourself from goodness, coming into your life in any form, whether it's losing weight, eating enough or receiving gifts. Every time we allow the old script to live again as if it is our own instead of saying that was the old script, that's what someone else said about me. Now I'm going to write my own script. So maybe I was adopted. And I don't understand why somebody would give me up. But guess what? I'm going to write a new script because I have a husband who loves me, kids who deserve to be nurtured. Maybe two marriages didn't work. And I'm with somebody right now who's calling me names. But I'm going to stop drinking, driving while I'm drinking. I'm also going to stop the verbal abuse. Why? Because I'm worthy. And in this instance, I will begin to allow my husband to nurture me to gift me, not just with financial because it's about the lies you were told about yourself. I think that you believed. That's all it is. It's about the lies you were told, and you believed about yourself. And this is true for all of us. Just got to change the belief. Exactly. As kids, we believe what is told. You're beautiful, you're smart, you're dumb, you're ugly. Whatever it is you were told, we all took it in. And it's now to say I'm going to break that lie, and I'm going to create that which is true about me. That which God says about me, and that which the surrounding, healthy community, husbands who love us, not people who call us fat. This is huge. It's huge. Huge. You know, all those years I was eating and out of control, and you were saying, you know what? Two 37 is. And I remember that moment where I was at the fight and the heavyweight champion of the world Mike Tyson, I weigh more than he did. But all those years, I was lying to myself. I thought I just like potatoes. Yes. You know? Yes. And it took me, you know, doing shows because I never had therapy. I could have gotten to it sooner if I had therapy. To realize that it wasn't about the food. That's right. It was about my feeling worthy. That's right. My feeling I was good enough to own everything. That's right. Not just physically own it, but to emotionally and spiritually own it. And so for everybody, I don't know if there's been abused in your background or whatever. And if you've been abused, you have to come to terms with the sense of worthiness. Yes. A sense of worthiness that I am worthy to accept the gifts that I have been given. Absolutely. And that is the work. That is the real work of your life. You know what, as I was watching her earlier with bent in their son, you can't even imagine the damage that you're doing. The script will not be written for ten or 12 years from now when you get to see actually what happened because of your behavior. It's just toner. I'm just beside myself. Let's just tore me up. Well, you need to be beside enough to do something. And beside yourself and get in these steps get in yourself. Yeah. Okay, we're out of time. Way out by I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. If you haven't yet, go to Apple podcasts and subscribe. Rate and review this podcast. Join me next week for another Oprah show. The podcast. And I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

01:45 min | 7 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Got SPF 500 on your skin. That's right. Yes, baby. It keeps the wrinkles away. Keep the wrinkles away. Yeah. But it also comes from our sun's rays. Right. Okay. Moving on to the skin. What are the three letters everybody should know? They're alpha hydroxy acid, AHA. So glycolic alpha hydroxy acid doesn't cost very much, but it fools your skin into thinking it needs to rejuvenate itself. And so it produces new skin, which makes you look younger. It does? So that's the great. Now there's one other trick. It really does. It really does. There are three other letters. Factors nor of aspirin as ASA, I see the salicylic acid. So if you don't get AHA or even if you do, you should take that two aspirin to baby aspirin a day because they stop inflammation in your skin, which means you look younger. Inflammation is the largest cause of our wrinkling of the skin. So aspirin and AHA. An HA is in the products that we buy. Right. And it will say that, right? It says alpha hydroxy acid, right? Yeah, I didn't know if that was really true or not. So is all that other skin stuff a myth? Well, it does smell nice. Yeah. And it does represent a transfer of money from your wallet to theirs. Yeah. But it doesn't do much else. Okay. Thank you everybody. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. If you haven't yet, go to Apple podcasts and subscribe. Rate and review this podcast, join me next week for another Oprah show. The podcast. And I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

02:32 min | 9 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"You were saying that the doctors pumped up with antidepressants. Well, right. I mean, you know, just at the end, you know, they didn't recognize her psychosis, you know, or treated. And when they took Andrew off any psychotic medicine on June 4th, you know, she improved a little bit and then declined. But the thing is that the doctor left her on what amounted to a triple max dose of vanity presence. Which is really counter indicated for psychosis. So if she'd been on no medication, she would have been in a catatonic state. Unable to get out of bed, you said. But since she was on a triple max dose of antidepressants, essentially an overdose of antidepressants, they gave her the energy to act on her psychotic thoughts. What about the people who say you know people say that you are equally to blame for what has happened here? That's outrageous. I mean, you know, responsibility, I've gone into this before. I mean, the responsibility of Andrew was just to do the best she could to take her medicine and shower and try to eat and just do the minimum to take care of herself. Amount of mounds responsibility was to make sure she got medical treatment help out at home. And as the doctors who diagnosed her illness, who treated her illness and who protect our family. You know, it's just ordinary people can't recognize psycho psychosis. Do you feel no blame? You feel no blame. You live with yourself every day and you feel, I did the best I knew how to do. That's the way I look at it. That's exactly the way I look at it. I look at it like yeah in hindsight if I could go back and change some things, obviously I would. To me, it's the same thing as asking me the question to always my children were still here. But I know that I did the best I could throughout I was on great terms with every child, friends with them all. They were my best friends. I mean, and, you know, I've lost them. I want to say thank you to rusty for sharing this hour with us. And trying to shed some light on this tragedy and thank you to your mother Dora. Thank you for being here. I'm Oprah Winfrey and you've been listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. If you haven't yet, go to Apple podcasts and subscribe rate and review this podcast. Join me next week for another Oprah show. The podcast. And I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

07:52 min | 9 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"That you were scheduled to go over there at ten o'clock that morning. For about two weeks before the tragedy happened, I had started coming in one hour later. So between the time rusty left, then time I got there, there was about one hour. And then in the afternoon, I would leave an hour earlier. Why is that? Why is that? Because after Andrea had returned from the second hospital visit from May 4th to 14th, she seemed a little better. She seemed more alert, she function better as far as fixing males or something like that. She still wasn't a 100% well, but she was better. And she had not been alone with the children for any time up until then. And so I thought for a few months. For a few months, about three months. Because rusty, had taken off for more for about three weeks before I got there to be with the children and to help Andrea, when she was in the hospital. And so she was a seemingly better, but not, of course, not totally. So because she was seemingly better, you all decided will give her an hour in the morning with the children. Yes. And an hour in the evening with the children. Yes. Because I didn't want her to feel that I was intruding so much that I was taking over her whole household. And in the morning they all they were doing was going in one by one and getting to the breakfast table and having breakfast. And so that seemed okay that she could handle that. And had for two weeks. So you had just left for work at what time? How about 5 till 9? Okay. And you got the call from Andrea. Doctor Tian. At 5 to ten. To join the span of that hour, your life changed forever. I know, just one hour. Was there an ever at any time that anybody in this family, her family ever suspected that she could cause harm to herself to the children? You know, I would say that obviously, since she attempted suicide in 1999, you know, we should have thought, well, maybe she could have tried to harm herself. She never gave any indication at all. I mean, that no one could ever imagine that she would harm the children. So it is just shocking, you know, an unimaginable. Okay, but you had your mother come in, your mother was there. You were there. You were trying to help her with the children, not because you thought she would cause harm to the children, but because you thought she just needed help with the children. Toward the end, you know, I'd say last week or so, she was stable from the time she was released from the hospital the second time, but maybe at about 65 or 70% functional as well. And then when they took her off, held on June 4th, she seemed to improve a little bit. That was about two weeks before the tragedy. And then she started declining and you know, we became at least I did. I don't know about mom, but I became so concerned about Andrea and just so frustrated. I don't think people realize how difficult it is to care for a mentally ill person. I mean, it's very, very draining. It was, you know, I cared for those children, you know, around the clock for three weeks. Yeah. And that was much, much easier than caring for them and having Andrea home. I know that's hard to imagine because she could do things like mom said she might put a load of laundry in the washer, but when I was home with the children, it was much much easier than being home with the children and having Andrew in the house. I can't explain why. But I know that I was very drained and I didn't have time for anything. I was able to put in maybe a couple hours of work a day when I had the children at home. When I laid Mary down for a nap during that time, I would let the kids play either in the backyard or watch TV or something like that. And I could spend a couple hours in my computer doing work. We managed fine. But with Andrew home, I wasn't able to do anything else. And it was very difficult. Leona baker served as a juror at the trial of Andrea Yates where it was decided that she was guilty of murder and received the life sentence and Leona joins us by satellite from Houston. What gave you clarity and making that decision, Leona, you and the rest of the jurors? Well, all of the information that we heard all of the testimony that we heard during the days of the trial and I think the most compelling part of the evidence was Andrea's taped confession and the pictures that we saw of the children. Or tape confession saying, what? Saying that she had college child into the bathroom to get into the tub. After that child stopped struggling and after that child stopped breathing, she took that child and put it on the bed, called another one into the bathroom to come in and get into the tub, and she repeated that 5 times. And seeing the pictures of the children I understand, that was amazingly compelling for a number of the jurors. That was very heart wrenching. Some of the hardest things that I've ever seen in my life. And so you're determination came because you believed she was mentally ill, but not insane. That's correct. I believe that Andrea Yates is mentally ill, but I also believe that on the day of the drownings, she knew what she was doing. You know, I know you don't want to get into a debate with rusty and rusty doesn't want to get into debate with you, but the jurors at any time discuss what was his responsibility or involvement or if he had been more in tune. No, we, as a group did not discuss that, we were not to talk about the case at any time during the trial. And we did abide by those rules. When the jurors finally made their decision, was there any doubt in anyone's mind or did some other the juries have to be convinced? Originally, there were our vote was ten to two. And once we made that we took our first vote, what we did is we sat around the table and everyone discussed told why they voted the way that they did. And after hearing the testimony, one person immediately changed their mind and said that they were not a 100% convinced to begin with that his vote was correct, but he changed his mind. And then we discussed it with the other person asked them to tell their views and why they voted the way they did. And we talked about why we voted the way we did and gave that person plenty of time to think about it. And to discuss it, and eventually he changed his mind. Is it a decision that now in the days have passed that you feel that you can live comfortably with? You still feel that you made the right decision. There's no doubt. There is no doubt in my mind that we made the right that we did not make the right decision. Thank you so much. Andrea wrote this note to her family, saying I regret that this illness brought me to a place where I was capable of killing my own children. Noah, he was my first born. He was so inquisitive and his favorite thing to do was watching monarch butterflies. John, with his cute grand, he loved to do crafts and was very enthusiastic. Precious Paul, nurturing and loving. He sought to please us and be special Friends with his brothers. Beautiful Luke, trying to keep up with his brothers. He also was nurturing, especially to his baby sister. Beautiful Mary, such a loving baby with the big blue eyes. I thank God I was blessed with such a precious family. It's beautiful..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

08:12 min | 9 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"25 seasons. Hey. 4561 episodes. I believe The Oprah Winfrey Show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world. I really never thought of it that way. The aha moments, the breakthroughs, the LOLs, the connections, the occasional, ugly cry. I'm missing so terribly, I miss it every single minute. The moments that mattered. The eye opening, life lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere else. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the vault. I've personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet, shares that common desire. They want to know, do you see me? Do you hear me? Does what I say mean anything to you? You are listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show. The podcast. It's one of the most heart wrenching tragedies. We have ever heard 5 children murdered at the hands of their own mother Andrea Yates, and we are talking to Andrea's husband. Rusty Yates, and we'll talk to rusty's mother who came to their house every day. She says, to help Andrea with the children, she will tell us what she saw in that household. And later jurors will tell us what compelling evidence helped them decide Andrea's fate. But first, the details of this tragic case. We all know the shocking story of Andrea Yates. She's the Texas mother who confessed to authorities that she methodically drowned each of her 5 children in the bathtub one by one. She entered a plea of not guilty by reason of insanity, saying that she suffered from a severe case of postpartum psychosis, a mental illness, her husband said she suffered with for years. Her tragic case sparked intense debate around the nation, causing many to question whether a person suffering from mental illness should be held responsible for the crimes they commit. And nowhere was that intensity more prevalent than at her trial, where defense attorneys attempted to portray Andrea as psychotic. They argued that her condition was so severe, she should not be held responsible for the heinous crime, pointing out that in the two years leading up to the murders she had been hospitalized four times for mental problems. If this woman doesn't meet the test of insanity in this state, that nobody does. But prosecutors disagreed, although they did not deny that Andrea is mentally ill. They claim she did know the difference between right and wrong and therefore should receive the same punishment as any other murderer. It's not that I am without sympathy. It's not that you were without sympathy. But what you're asked to do at this point is decide this case on the facts and the law. But while Andrea was on trial for the murders of her children, her husband Russell is being tried in the court of public opinion as many feel that he is partially to blame for the death of his children. After a lengthy trial with weeks of gut wrenching emotional testimony, a jury of 8 women and four men had the difficult task of determining whether Andrea Yates was a victim or a villain. After just three hours and 40 minutes of deliberation, the jury rendered a verdict. We the jury find the defendant Andrea PAH, guilty of capital murder as charged in the indictment. Andrea could have received the death penalty, but the jury sentenced her to life in prison. It'll be at least 40 years before she will be eligible for parole, but rusty says he will continue to support his wife. And rusty Yates joins us. Thank you for being here. Thanks for having me. What do you feel when you look at those videotapes of your children? It's bittersweet, you know, I mean, there are such beautiful children. I remember the first time I took out the whole movie camera and played back some home movies and you couldn't have proud me away from the television set. It's like, you know, kind of like reconnecting with the children in a way. Is it hard for you to see them? I know you said in the courtroom every day and you watch videos you watch. Why don't you just sit in the courtroom, but have video clips out on a website and we go out there pretty frequently and watch the video clips and I like it. You do like it. Oh, yeah. Yeah. It's not hard for you. You know, it's a reminder of how much we've lost, but it's also, you know, it's kind of like visiting a kids in a way. I think I have been struck and perhaps a number of people have been struck by what appears to be your ability to carry on. And, you know, none of us has walked in your shoes or can even imagine what it is like to walk in your shoes, only you know what that is like. But how are you carrying on, seemingly, you know, you're still standing, you're still talking. I saw you at Katie Couric. I saw your Larry King, you seem to be of sound mind and okay. How are you doing that? Well, you know, the first part of that is just, you know, getting perspective, you know, and like the children and. That first weekend, it was just completely devastated. I mean, it was just, you know, I cried and cried and cried and cried the first week and you know, I decided to say some words to each child and about his child at the funeral service. And when I was saying goodbye to the children in particular, John, you know, I dawned on me, you know, just I hadn't even thought about it or prepared the words or anything. It dawned on me. And I said, I'll see you again, you know? And that that thing alone, you know, really, really helps. I mean, just knowing that the children are safe and knowing that knowing that I'll see them again. Again, how are you able to do that? Because I think for a lot of people, you know, people they make their judgments, unfortunately, based upon how they think they would react. And I know, for a number of people, they feel they wouldn't be able to speak. They would be practically comatose themselves at a funeral of 5 of their children. That was hard. So how were you able to get up and say words about each child? It was all I could do, you know, to do it. I mean, it was, it was very, very difficult. But you know when my dad you made that decision prior to the funeral or just decided. Yeah in fact, I think I mentioned it on the day after the children passed away in the interview in my yard. When my dad passed away, the minister of the church said a few words about my dad and you know, he didn't really even know my dad, and he would say it's been said that, and, you know, those sorts of things. And you know, I wanted people, you know, I wanted to do service to my children. I just speak for your children. Yeah, I know what I'm, you know, I was able to say some words on each of them. It was really good. Have you grieved yet? That's hard to say. I mean, you know, I know that there's, you know, stages of grief and all. Right, there are stages of grief, and it seems, you know, because we only see what we see on TV or what we read. And it seems from what we see that you miss the first four or 5 stages that you pulled immediately to either denial, or some form of acceptance that is really difficult or a lot of people to understand. So my question is, do have you agreed because when I hear this story? And when many other people hear this story, we can't help but think of that morning and each child individually being drowned. We think of your wife chasing Noah through the house. Holding him down, and.

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

01:47 min | 9 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Scott parents frequently talked to their children about stranger danger. And what to do if they were ever abducted. I hope she started their prayers. Were entered when a truck driver some seventy miles away so terrified little girl running from screaming that she'd been kidney as she jumped into the driver's truck. Her captor sped off in his car. She saw me and i saw her so she weighed me down. It's used just like kind of relieved. The guy drove away and she she knows i think she knew she was going to be safe. After being held captive for forty eight hours with little to eat. Mitzi describe how she'd been chained and locked to the inside of the kidnappers car to show the chain mark on her legs when he left her alone in the car with the keys. Mitzi saw her opportunity to escape and took it without hesitation nine hours later authorities arrested thirty nine year old. Convicted felon curtis dean anderson on kidnapping charges. He was later sentenced to two hundred and fifty one years in prison. Experts and police believe that it was mid-sized level headed thinking good common sense that say to light those get to be home with my parents sisters picking boxing classes. She's also proud of her. Soccer teams winning streak. So are we you. Women have inspired me so much today. Thank you for your. I'm oprah winfrey. And you've been listening to the oprah winfrey. Show the podcast if you haven't yet go to apple podcasts. And subscribe rate and review. This podcast. join me next week. For another oprah. Show the podcast. I thank you for listening..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

07:55 min | 9 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"What would happen to her sister's what happened next at just eighteen years. Old is why. Amanda is earning award. It was just an unspoken agreement that if something did happen to my mom that i would take care of the girls. It would be the most natural thing to do volcano just right here just one week before she was to be a college student. Amanda put her life on hold and became apparent instead. Twenty six out of thirty. My life immediately became engulfed with school functions and school activities hockey. Dance line doing laundry. I was really scared to know that. I was the sole responsible person for these two. Little girls was a really scary thought. I find a practice later. This whole experience has made me realize how much i can do and how strong i am as a person. Please welcome amanda. You're just a couple of weeks away from going to college and your whole life is altered and now you are a few weeks away from becoming a police officer. I understand i am. I'm about three weeks away from graduating from police academy. And you're able to do that while also raising your. I was while raising my sisters. I was going to school. Full time to finish my degree in order to become a police officer. Which is something. I've wanted to do since i was a kid for so long Primarily because your mom. Because my mom. Because i saw the violence and i saw how much police officer can impact whether with what they do or don't do People's lives how much they can touch and inspire. So what do you wanna say jennifer to your sister that we're really stephanie. And i are both very grateful for everything she's done for us and i don't know her life on hold so that we can live ours as normal as possible and even though we don't say enough we really do love you and really thankful for you. We wanted to honor you too with our spa award may just or you thank you so leslie mouton a san antonio news. Anchor made a bold statement showing her spa during the evening news. My hair was an enormous part of my life. I spent so much time and money cutting it and coloring it. It was a part of my identity as news anchor. It was really important to make. Sure i look my best. I felt a lump in my breast within four days. I got the phone call leslie. It's not we hoped it's breast cancer. Surge explain to me what we're going to have to do. The surgery up's fine with that. I'm not freaked out about cancer. I didn't cry about surgery. But i cried when i found out i would lose my hair. Here's the morrison. This will cause you to lose your hair. And i'm a news anchor a harrison part of who i am. I decided the best way to deal with. It would be to do it on my terms so i held a huge party and it was a hair shaving party i was trying to make it a positive thing for nicole my daughter so she wouldn't be freaked out about it. I was hurting. And i cried through the process who was very heart-wrenching. Our hair is such a huge part of who we are. Many women won't even walk around their own house without their wig on because they're afraid to look in the face themselves balled. I was bald for the first time in a looked into the mirror. And instead of seeing the same leslie and always seen staring back those this other person and it forced me to search deep into my soul. Staring back at me was the real leslie. I went back to work with the wig on my head so every night heart of my getting ready for the news gas was putting on that wig taping it down and one night i decided just to make a statement to anchor balled into show. People that ball can be beautiful and the response has been phenomenal. And so i've decided it's time to put the wing in the locker for good. I've learned that my hair is not who i am. It is not a part of my identity. If i would have let my vanity take hold it would have eaten the up faster than the cancer. I've come out better. Spiritually emotionally physically. And so i would never turn back the clock and take it away will definitely go down in our chutzpah hall of fame. It's the incredible story of australian gynecologist. Catherine hamlin who spent the last fifty years of her life saving young girls and women in africa from a horrible existence. This terrified twelve year. Old girl is being forced into marriage. Common practice in the african country. If if she's like many girls in these small villages you'll soon be pregnant. Even though her small and underdeveloped body is not ready to give birth many of these girls some as young as thirteen struggle with labor for days without medical assistance and usually deliver a stillborn but that is just the beginning of their nightmare because of the trauma of labor rips apart. They're inside leaving these girls to drip a constant stream of urine that follows them wherever they go they develop an internal whole called fistula and no matter how hard they try to stay clean they smell of waste most become social outcasts and are abandoned by their husbands families and villages often believing that there is no cure there then left to live alone in despair for the rest of their lives when australian gynecologist. Dr catherine hamlin. I came to ethiopia. She thought it was or short trip to help. Set up midwifery school. But when she saw these suffering young women our plans changed. The previous gynecologist had said to stroke. The fistula patients will break your heart. You can't really do anything to help them. And so we were determined to try to do what we could. It's estimated that nine thousand young women develop fistulas in ethiopia. Every year catherine new a surgery that could cure these girls and restore their dignity. So i they were pushing pushing and pushing your pushed the big hole in your blood and if you look at this of pain path you'll see the whole while. The good news is good to be able to mend it. Just a few stitches and adobe mended making it. Their life's mission to help as many of these girls. As possible catherine relate late husband moved to ethiopia and open the abbaba fistula hospital helping thousands of women in the last thirty years every morning. Desperate girls arrive at the hospital hoping to be cured most of them traveled for days to meet with this compassionate healer that many call saint catherine. She insists that nobody is turned. Away and treatment is free. We tried to admit as many as we can at want because they've made a journey from the country often i've had to seal an animal a cow or sheep. Do make us fear or they've even just big after treatment. Every girl leaves the hospital wearing a new dress. Katherine wants to make their return home special. This next story is another one for our hall of fame and goes to show that you're never too young to dig deep and to go for it on august. Twelfth two thousand eight year old. Mitzi sanchez never made it home from school. Mitzi usually walked home with her brother but that day she ran ahead of them disappearing somewhere along the five short blocks between the school and her house. Run through like twenty twenty. different families. us wasn't there does when i start realizing outstanding really for two agonizing days. Police canvassed the neighborhood searching for clues while friends gathered around the family praying that mitzi would return home alive..

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

08:00 min | 9 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"To mike god. so homeless to harvard. Yeah that's me now. You've got homeless and so tell me what was it. What did something you know. We heard earlier story of the moment. When somebody says you wanna die something clicks in you'd says no. I don't did something. Click was her moment. Yeah definitely i. I realized that i was responsible for my own life all along. You know. I knew that growing up. But i never turned that into some proactive. Jane's until later. I guess people have this discovery at some point that their life will always be their own responsibility. I found out people get this later in life. Usually right like i got to college. My roommate was crying the first time she had to do her own. Laundry revelation. she argued. It was symbolic. It's symbolic find. It's all relative right but for me. I grew up this way. What i think is so amazing. Is that you got it at age. Sixteen because i think i was like in my twenties or late twenties but that i would say that that is my creed. It's also one of the reasons why one of the undercurrent themes that runs through. This show is that you are responsible for your life and even when you're eight years old and you don't know it you are responsible for your life. You are responsible for your life and the sooner you realize that the the less time you spend waiting on other people to do stuff for you. Yeah waste of time yet. Major major you will go. I can't even imagine your future so bright it burns my eyes thank you. Yeah because because that's something harbored can't teach you know yeah. I knew that when i showed up. I've got something over them. They may have these private education's but i know i have something inside me. That will help me no matter what comes up. That's right well. Unbeknownst to liz people admired her spa since she was a little girl to remember. Elizabeth hernandez yes. Okay and her son. Rick live nearby. They often tried to help liz when they could. I understand they took you in bed. You sometimes and tried to make you feel like family. I i wasn't family okay. Well we track them down. Okay rick and elizabeth. We know you haven't seen in a few years coming out guys coming out. What do you remember about liz. As a child where you. Oh god i remember when we first met We came a long way from jumping on mattresses in an when we were eight years old. And i remember the first time going to your house I could smell the your house walking in When we got talkative steps. And i remember that you were so embarrassed to let everybody into your house because he knew how it was. I hung out with rick for about five years before he knew anything about reforms even not into our house and nobody was ever leading to a house. And i didn't understand why and then i went there one day and i saw the trash all over the place and i saw her mother shaking on the bed from drugs and we used to lock ourselves inside of a room and then go on the fire escape and just dream about the future. But i just wanted to let you know that you have been an inspiration to my life and it was you that inspired me to be a great writer. You know what i love you. I thank off putting you in my life neighbor trying to create some sense of family for this little girl. Who knew was yeah. That's unless she's like a daughter to me. She is the daughter to me and so very proud of her that she made it to have it. I remember when she was little back when she was eight years ago adding realized that when she ate my house how home-cooked meals that i may for. And he realized that will be the only food that she might have course. I made sure they didn't realize unders. Yeah i didn't realize that. When i washed the clothes it will be the only clean clothes she will have. You know. i just realize that sheeting have a normal family line. And i hit everything like a secret for so many years because i felt so ashamed. I felt like it was my fault. I think when kids grow up in this environment as learning. And i reach out to other kids and young people that you blame yourself and i did for so many isn't come to a surprise that you've made you came this far in a the income pies to me because because back then you've always had spunk encourage. He was always planning to do something. Nothing was hot little girl you know what. Let me. just let me say to you because this is as you were saying. That little hairs on my head rose because we are all angels or have the possibility of being angels to each other and so for all the people who are out there watching those of us who today where you think you have to do some great big grand thing in the world or have to write some big check look at what you did for the heart of a little girl by washing her clothes and giving her a meal. You really did. I grew up having a sense of family. I knew my parents loved me but that role wasn't fulfilled. Until i came to your house. I will never be able to thank you for what you did for me is say. My angelo has a phrase that she'd written in one of her books longtime ago that i want to share with you. You make me proud to spell my name w. m. Liz has written a book on her story. And for all of you would students who are struggling or kids who are struggling. You should get that book. Let them read it. Here's your host award. We salute you. If you've been looking for big boosted inspiration. These women are going to lift you. Up to the stars i believe. Don't you feel inspired by that. You feel like you can do anything. It's our first ever chutzpah award. Amanda was eighteen years old and excited to be heading off to college but she had no way of knowing that her own father was about to alter early forever. Amanda hugh was a senior in high school with a bright future ahead. I was really excited to go off to college and started the whole college experience at the same time. I was scared because i knew that i'd be leaving. My mom. a man does mother. Marie appeared to have a great life. She was a devoted wife for twenty years and a loving mother to her three daughters. Eighteen-year-old amanda thirteen year old jennifer. An eight year old stephanie. Only amanda knew the secret pain. Her mother endured for years. I remember a lot of violence and childhood as early as when i was six or seven years old. I remember seeing a lot of red marks around her neck or bruises on her or her elbows from falling on the ground. My mom and dad were fighting in the bathroom hall across from our bedroom and my dad was strangling her he drug and into the bedroom and she grabbed onto the carpet grabbed on the wall. Back you could see tears rolling down her face and she was just crying for how i remember hearing my dad's save if you call the police. I'll kill you even though. Amanda witnessed violence. Nothing prepared for what came next. Someone down stranded. When i arrived at the scene. There was a deceased female. That was thirty. Four years old. She had suffered gunshot wounds to the abdomen and a second center chest. I knew right away when they told me that my mom was killed that it was my dad and my heart. There was no no doubt about it. Two days later amandus father. Joseph hugh was arrested and charged with second degree murder. He was sentenced to thirty two years in prison without parents. And as the oldest amandas only concern was.

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

04:27 min | 9 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"So what's the word of the day very good. It's a yiddish word. That means nerve guts courage. Our next chutzpah award winner. Grew up literally in hell on earth and fact. Her triumph is so extraordinary. That hollywood made it into a movie. This is where my mom is buried. We had no money for a real funeral and they donated this slot to us. They had this pine box and somebody taking a black magic marker and they misspelled her name on the top. The waste of her life made me begin to reflect on the waste of my own watching her mother. Die of aids was just another dark chapter in liz. Mary's childhood it was consumed by drug-addicted parents hunger and homelessness. She took us back to where it all started this building. I lived here for thirteen years with my parents. This was the center of my world and the center of their drug addiction. This is where they shifted from being casual drug users. To full-blown junkies axles. Were over there. I have every month. The mailman brings everybody's disability check. We'd get the check and then the first stop would be down grand avenue and my parents could get drugs and three days later the check would be gone and that's when we would go hungry. Liz knew it was up to her to put food on the table so she found a job bagging groceries when she was just eight years. Old wasn't angry at my parents. I didn't blame them. I just thought. I had to take care of myself when i was younger and the house was a disaster for years. Tobe was just this black swamp and there's garbage on the floor that's to be. Liz says watching her parents shoot up in their home was just a normal part of her day. Winco and take the cereal from the cabinet. Pour it and the spoons were bent in misshapen from the drug use. And i remember even tasting bitter taste of coca my sports one time. There's a needle on the floor. And i remember doing some kind of cartwheel and sticking myself with a needle. So i had my first aids tests when i was eleven years old. She skipped school most days to work and care for her mother who was sick and schizophrenic. Liz also wanted to avoid the teasing at school. If you have lysine your hair dirt on your neck holes in your clothes. School doesn't feel like an option. No no i never went to school. She had virtually no formal education but she learned on her own reading books leading. My building was kind of a pack rat and she saved these old encyclopedias. From the trash. And i added that to the collection. My father's unreturned library books. And i went into my room and i just read. When liz parents split up her father left to live in a shelter and she became homeless at fifteen ended up in the hospital. Sick and dying. I took to the streets. Liz found escape wandering the streets of new york city and partying with her pack of friends. In my mind. I was having more fun than i could have possibly ever had. And in terms of school it was the last thing on my mind when she was sixteen. Her mother died of aids. That's when she decided to stop running from her own life. I said to myself what if i woke up and every single day i did everything within my ability during that day to change my life. What could happen in just a month a year. What would it be different about my life. Well what would be different. Is what makes liz a woman with incredible spa as you. Listen to the next part of our story. Imagine what it took to make. This happen at her age for the first time in her life. Liz made school a priority doubled up my course load and i took one full school year per semester and at night you know when the janitor was leaving school in locking me out i would go and i'd ride the subway four or five times back and forth and then i'd go to my morning class and no one would even know the difference. She studied on subways in the light of doorways and in two years she finished four years of high school and graduated top two of her class all while being homeless. It didn't matter if i didn't have anywhere to live so long as i was determined. That hard work paid off in a big way when liz was accepted to harvard university. Almost.

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

03:36 min | 9 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Interesting to hear you say you have less fear because i think for a lot of women that is the greatest fear and once it once. You're in the middle of it. Do you think this is what i feared all my life and now this is the moment. I didn't think that at the moment but definitely afterwards. That was the first thing i thought of that. That's something i'd always feared. I think most like most women do. It had happened to so many women that i knew and i think that's one of the reasons why i responded the way i did because it had happened other people that i knew you say adrenaline rush or something kicked in where you just the moment he said. Do you wanna die. Yes something in me. Just responded with this huge no. I didn't say no but my body just pissed him off of me. And i just i didn't wanna die. What happens to you the next night. You have to sleep in the bed. Oh immediately i was very fearful. I mean i went through typical post trauma for about two three months okay. I didn't sleep in my house for three weeks then. People slept with me for three weeks in the house. And so now. I have my little movie that replayed over and over again. Every time i close my eyes. Why did you pull off the mask. Well people often ask me that. I wanted to know that. I didn't know him. I wanted to make sure it wasn't somebody that i knew and i also wanted to be able to identify to the police because i didn't know what was going to happen. If he was going to run out of my house and then i would have no idea if he had this mask on what he looked like or anything like that. Well in honor of your bravery we wanted to send you home with the token of our admiration for you so we had special chutzpah award to saw physical structure but what the heart and courage that you demonstrated is is what it's really there to represent so you stand for everything. All of us wish we could do in a moment like that. Thank you so much. This is one of my all time favorite chutzpah stories. Put yourself in this situation. You're carjack your babies in the car with you. Would you freeze or would you dig down deep and do what esta green. Did it started like a typical day. Esta green spent the morning with her ten month. Old daughter victoria then went to the mall with a friend s their double-parked her new mercedes here and moved to the back seat with her daughter while her friend ran into this shop suddenly a stranger god in the car. That is the moment that i keep on. Replaying over and over in my mind. That's the i think that was the moment at which had the most amount of fear. This is where. I was sitting in the back seat when the guy got in the car and began to pull off. I leaned over in canton faced with my arm and grabbed the wheel with my other. And i began to blow the horn to attract attention was just screaming at the top voice to let my baby out. Let me live. He can take the car then despite her tara. So remembered something crucial. She had a cell phone. Were leaving the parking lot at glance into the diaper bag and saw the cell phone. I doubt nine one one very very quietly and prayed somebody was listening. Somebody was group of dispatchers at a nearby emergency center. Receive esters desperate call as the dispatchers. Listen the quick thinking. Esther began describing landmarks clues. She prayed would help them locate her.

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

05:27 min | 9 months ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Will need shares that common desire. They wanna know. Do you see me. do you hear me. That's what i say mean anything to you. You're listening to the oprah winfrey. Show the podcast today. Have a seat and we will begin with a vocabulary lesson to word that every woman should learn. If you don't have any today show may help you get some. The word for today is what it. Is you know you know that were okay. It's a yiddish word. That means boldness courage guts nerve and for the first time today. We are presenting special chutzpah award. I award goes to a single mother. Who found her chutzpah at gunpoint took melissa. O'connell is now a police officer at four thirty two but almost two years ago she led a very different light melissa. A single mom was a bookkeeper and excited about the new house. You just bought but what happened in her own bedroom. Put her strength to the ultimate test alone. That night my son was with his father to the evening. Thankfully i went to bed around eleven thirty albuquerque number. One trying to woken up by man. He was on top of me. But first thing i saw was a mask and then he was shining the flashlight in my face and said he had a gun. He's gonna kill me. And i thought it was him trying to get him off of me just pushing into kicking my beat. Get off of me get also meet again. I could feel it on my chest. And so i started pushing it towards him and so that i wouldn't get hurt and then he said. Do you wanna die. I said no something side of me kind of snapped. Just kind of have the journal in burst and i pushed off the bed. New hit the wall during that violence. Struggle and amazing thing happened while fighting for her life. Melissa somehow managed get control of the gun and pulled the trigger. Wrong off for me. He must have lost his grip of the gun. And then i had my hand on the gun and somewhere in their entire the gun is seems so surreal like turn the gun on him and shot it and pulled off his mask. I'd never seen him for my life staring at me. So i ran out and i thought he was gonna be right behind me. They have no idea more of this episode after a short break. This podcast is sponsored by better help. Is there something interfering with your happiness or preventing you from achieving your goals. Being able to talk through what is causing you to feel stuck in a cycle of stress or sadness can help you figure out how to get out of it better help. We'll assess your needs and matchy with your own license professional therapist. You can start communicating and under forty eight hours. It's not a crisis line. it's not self help. It is professional counseling done. Securely online there is a broad range of expertise available which may not be locally available in many areas and the service is even available for clients worldwide. You can schedule weekly video or phone sessions better. Help us committed to facilitating great therapeutic matches. So they make it easy and free to change counselors if needed. That's more affordable than traditional offline therapy and financial aid is available. Better help wants you to start living a happier life today. Visit their website and read their testimonials that are posted daily visit. Better help dot com slash oprah. That's better h. e. l. p. and join the over two million people who have taken charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional in fact so many people have been using better help that they're recruiting additional therapists in all fifty states. Special offer for the oprah winfrey show the podcast listeners. Get ten percent off your first month at better helped com slash oprah in all three shots. Were fired police. Later told melissa. She had killed her attacker. That's when i started to really connect going to shock. His name was michael mma girl. He was a registered sex offender who had spent sixteen years in prison once. We serve attackers car. We found indicated that he was a serial way. This there were rumors blood smears throughout the car duct tape and binoculars also found. I've never seen a case where the victim has gotten upper-hand under attacker and actually was able to survive and encounter as brave. They have less fear. Now is if you think about it. You know the thing that i feared the most is what happened to me. I would have rather died that night. Then to get right i would rather my son have a mother but still hug him and want to be around him then someone that can deal with him because of what they enter and can give you can give him affection so that was the decision. I made that night is to fight. Please.

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Oprah Winfrey Picks Between BFF Gayle King & Stedman Graham

Daily Pop

01:27 min | 10 months ago

Oprah Winfrey Picks Between BFF Gayle King & Stedman Graham

"Went down when besties oprah and gayle where road tripping for oprah daily and the girl talk got real watching. This was the third wheel. I didn't know nobody told me no did likely that would've been tub. Didn't like you then. There wouldn't have lasted because husband's coming boyfriends. Come and go by best friend. Best friends last forever. First of all. I'm just happy equinoxes anymore. Remember back in the day. They used to be devolved when they did this on the show. Touch yeah i was happy there at a an alexis today. What is okay what you put your main your friends ahead of your man. I feel like if you're smart. You do but i i definitely feel like husbands go and friends come and go like i just think it's unequal. It's an equal playing field. Like a mama. I know i did that because she was on camera would have been there. You would hurt us. I love you is what we do. I don't know. I l has got a see. I truly believe that. Gal has a lifetime. Membership oprah winfrey fan club. And she always have that seat. But i think what's really smart is oprah definitely puts her friendship with gail before statement but she also knows her man's

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British TV Watchers Were Very Confused About American Ads.

Planet Money

02:48 min | 10 months ago

British TV Watchers Were Very Confused About American Ads.

"So a few months ago. A bunch of people in england tuned into some good ole live complete with commercials. Us tv obviously. It was the royal infused. I'm prince harry and meghan petra. Diaz is in south hampshire england. Where the meghan markle. Prince harry oprah interview was going to air the day after it aired in the us. So petra and a bunch of other brits tuned into us tv so that they could get all the royal t in real time. Wait hold wait a minute. Your family cut you off. I hall the first quarter of twenty twenty and aside from all the royal palace bombshells. There was this one thing that really stood out to brits about. us television the commercials. They were not like commercials in england. Very very pushy. Very chelsea by this do it now. Whereas it's like they tend to be a bit of jokey. Petro remember seeing an ad for some kind of medicine and she was like Okay that's a little odd but then there was another one is an element that would have been really serious so either like chronic something paying or whatever it was it was a very in depth commercial about it. And i. This is dramatic. Yeah all over twitter during his oprah interview. British people are saying the same thing. What is the deal with all of these medicine ads in the us. Because england doesn't allow commercials for prescription drugs and it never even crossed my mind. That medicine was say like was promoted. I didn't it. Did not even cross my mind that that was the thing brits were like you lot get bombarded like this daily and american medical adverts are some real dystopia and like how is the cream for your joints going to give you cancer. These are all real tweaks. Yeah breads had a lot of fun with the side effects. Petro is tweeting to and she couldn't tell who the ads were. Even for really so i didn't understand. The advocates ought to sow the medicine to the public. And somebody replies to the tweet saying it's not to sell sell it so that you go to your doctor and convince them to give that to you. Which is the strangest strangest thing. I could think called. One of the tweets was like hold on. Hold on hold on. You are supposed to go to your doctor and tell them what you need like doing. Weird low idea so many people outside of the united states. We're like what the heck is going on over there in america because while there are ads for over the counter drugs in most of the world the us and new zealand are the only two countries that allow drug companies to advertise prescription drugs directly to

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Bitcoin Is Now Legal Tender in El Salvador

Snacks Daily

01:56 min | 10 months ago

Bitcoin Is Now Legal Tender in El Salvador

"Salvador began accepting bitcoin as a legal tender. Yeah there we go. It's one of the many crypto experiments. that's happening across the globe. That's the way we're seeing knackers. You heard on this podcast. I in june just a few months ago. Remember well jacka. El salvador announced that bitcoin would be legal tender. I think we recorded that together. In new york person remember that. Oh yeah this week. During the different sweet green orders and menu. You went on the menu now. El salvador doesn't have their own currency they just use the us dollar but now they will also accept bitcoin interesting. Although el salvador also has fewer people than new york city where we recorded this guy and they announced this with like literally only three details at the time. All right rule number one. They announced in june. Every business in the country must accept bitcoin for the business that they do a single pusa. You can pay for that with a fraction of a bitcoin. Roll number two. The government will accept bitcoin to pay your taxes. And then jack rule number three kind of a little bonus cherry on top situation here. Citizens will not have to pay any capital gains taxes if they own. Bitcoin and bitcoin goes to the moon well yesterday. Bit salvador went live and we got a whole bunch more details. How the pulling this thing off. I i the central bank wanted to make a pr splash and lead by example. So they bought twenty one million bitcoin. The central bank. I mean el salvador. It's a tuesday tree yourself. There you go and then they set up a bunch of bitcoin. Atm's all across the country to get the populace excite and then to really get things going with bitcoin and in el salvador. They launched a brand new walla tap for forbid it's called chievo which is slang in spanish down in el salvador for cool very nice and with this app. Typical el salvadorians can conduct business and bitcoin yet. Every single salvadorian got thirty dollars worth of bitcoin. We've got like an oprah situation here in the app right right there waiting for you

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Mothering Ourselves With Oprah’s Life Coach Iyanla Vanzant

Mindful Mama - Parenting with Mindfulness

02:21 min | 10 months ago

Mothering Ourselves With Oprah’s Life Coach Iyanla Vanzant

"Did you have to learn how to mother yourself because lost your mother you that had to be part of it. Tell me a little more about that. Well like i said the mother. The purpose of mothering is to nourish to teach to beautify. That's what mothers do. That's what mothering is. I mean we nourish our children whether we're breastfeeding bottle feeding. We nurtured them. Meaning we provide them with the environment. The tools skills that allow them to grow in full. We teach everything from eating to walking to potty training to how to use the correct fork at the table and then the beautification. I think is just how we teach and demonstrate to our children how to present in the world to present in a space on environment and because i was raised in a kind of disjointed dysfunctional environment. I didn't know how do any of that so my first step was to teach myself. I had to noce myself in nourish myself. I had to teach myself so many things about being a woman about being a mother. Let me say an. And in the teaching i had to unlearn so many things that have been passed on to me. That were self denying dysfunctional. D harmonizing you. You name it. So i had to unlearn and then teach myself how to do so many things. I knew how to cook a knew how to wash clothes knew how to clean a house. I didn't know how to honor my feelings at didn't know how to ask but what i wanted. I didn't know that. What i thought and celt mattered mattered own that it was to be a priority in my life so learning those things and being able to do it. And as a way of nourishing and nurturing myself a took probably twenty years of my life. So i think many mama's lose that you know we we we don't get it

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Prince Harry, Meghan Reportedly Considered Naming Racist Royals

Mojo In The Morning

01:19 min | 11 months ago

Prince Harry, Meghan Reportedly Considered Naming Racist Royals

"Meghan markle and prince. Harry almost exposed royal that they claim maybe racist remarks before their son archie bursts but they said that detail would be extraordinarily damaging the duke and duchess of suspect Sussex made the claims that an unnamed royal asked about how dark their unborn child could potentially be and megan made that initial revelation with oprah following up by asking harry if she would name the royal and of course. He didn't well in an updated edition of the biography. Finding freedom authors opened. Scooby and caroline duran alleged that the couple did actually consider sharing. Who during their interview with oprah but it was meghan who shut down the idea and she said to oprah face it would literally ruin this person's lifelock. Nobody would ever look at them in the same. Harry made it very clear after the interview. That person was not queen. Elizabeth prince philip the updated edition of the books set to be published next week and also alleges that members of the royal family were very happy. That mega missed prince philip's funeral in april because they feared to would create a spectacle essentially if she showed up So like lots of new little tidbits being added to this book. If you wanna check it out again next week. When that comes

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Bipolar Disorder: Depressed, Mentally Ill & Famous

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

02:23 min | 11 months ago

Bipolar Disorder: Depressed, Mentally Ill & Famous

"Bernard sizzles. Sonny corinthos gorgeous star. Abc's hit soap opera. General hospital in real life. The devoted family man has been married to his sweetheart paula for fourteen years and they live a quiet life in los angeles with their two daughters. But maurice's life isn't as picture-perfect as it seems every day behind the scenes. Maurice battles mental illness that once left him violent suicidal and at its worst locked inside a mental institution wondering if he'd ever get out so maurice's struggle with the demons of his bipolar disorder began in his early twenties just as he was beginning is acting career. I think the real start of it was I woke up in my friends apartment. And i was drinking and i was crying uncontrollably. I think i'm losing my mind. That was just beginning of the battle inside maurice bernard's brain at twenty two. He slipped into what he calls the dark side and turned violent against his mother. Kind of physical by the arm. When i looked at my dad. And i said that i was the devil and i was yelling at him. Scary it my mind was was racing undermines. Now it's kind of like being in a nightmare and not being able to wake up. They had to admit me. I went to a psychiatric hospital. I was strapped down in the wheelchair. Remember waking up in the sunlight was coming through. The window. Could barely hear. I died in manhattan. He was trapped in his own nightmare heavily medicated and restrained in solitary confinement in a mental institution. I remember having lots of and then ending in that state. You almost feel like it's always gonna to be that way. So why is life worth living. Maurice was diagnosed as manic depressive. What's happening inside of you. You almost feel like you. You wanna explode. You have so much emotion so much energy almost like drug. The high you get from it but for maurice. The manic highs are always followed by deep paralyzing depression. I had no confidence. You look in the mirror and you you still the same person but it doesn't matter. It's what's happening inside. It's just an enormous enormous amount of

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An Interview With Clara Harris, the Woman Who Killed Her Husband

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

01:57 min | 11 months ago

An Interview With Clara Harris, the Woman Who Killed Her Husband

"Clara harris was born in columbia south america. In her twenties she moved to houston texas where she built her own. American dream clara became a successful dentist even won a beauty contest but says her greatest achievement was marrying the love of her life. David harris a charming attractive orthodontist clara and david launched a booming dental practice together. They had beautiful twin boys a gorgeous mansion and what seemed like a loving 10-year-marriage but in an instant clara's fairytale life was shattered. David confessed. He was having an affair with his office. Receptions eight days later. David was dead. Accent and clara was charged with first degree murder. Guilty of myrtle is george jury found her guilty and clara was sentenced to twenty years in prison so for the first time. Clara harris is telling her side of the story. She says it's what the prosecutors and the media did not want you to hear you get to be the judge clara harris vicious murderer or a deceived wife who snapped for the past two years. She's been locked up in maximum security at the mountain view correctional center and gatesville texas. That is where. I went to see her for this one on one interview. Tell me about the day. What was going on in your life when your husband told you that he was having an affair with the funny thing is that he didn't want to tell me they office ladies his office ladies had confronted him they have seen these going on for three months in they had enough. They said we cannot keep working with him. And he's doing this. You know big didn't say the lady that he was. That lady was jailed. Bridges a thirty nine year old divorcee and mother of three gail had recently been hired to work as a receptionist in one of david and clara's into offices

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Coping With the Latest "Normal" With Steve Lim Aka Steebu

First of All

02:28 min | 11 months ago

Coping With the Latest "Normal" With Steve Lim Aka Steebu

"Thanks oprah. Now they're attacked by a rug and screamed in my ear and now we are here. I apologize i apologize. it's just You know just you got to pivot every half second these guys. It's all about the pivot. Pivot pivot pivot title of this episode. I think we have it now. Pivot pivot pivot I'm doing a little dance. I wish you could see it. But it's not worth watching okay. We'll boomerang it later. And then i'll use the ross me from oca- friends all right. You are hino. Sure you have the hair now too anyway back. How are you doing okay. I mean we're both dislike hunker down again kind of where we're just for time reference because every time we have these check ins and we're talking about this new normal that we're trying to figure out right now and it's been a hell of eighteen months. We're recording this end of july beginning of august of twenty twenty one. Well here's a here's what for me. I feel like The lesson is is that there's no such thing is normal. Yeah that was just the concept that we think we understood but the reality is normal is just the fabrication. It's an ideal welcome to first of all everyone where we go right out. The gate knows that. If you've been listening to this podcast y'all know so anyway but yeah love it new neural. What's your fabric. What okay first of all. Let's start off with like we. We tried recording this and it was really funny because we recorded this. I think in may and we both been vaccinated cetera. So we can kind of regroup on that. Because i don't know what happened. I'm trying to remember and memory is like a nice little luxury. That i don't have any more. You don't remember that probably means you got cova you've got the brain fog memory loss long. Cove it right there in your drops was losing my taste man because food is like the one thing that like gives the most joy and i was like. You can't take that away from me so there's literally going to lose my taste. I know some people who probably got cova but it wasn't like in december or january with before you know it was more widely known And they just felt they described having just like everything tastes like metal. So you can imagine that it's like that's not fun.

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Rihanna Officially Becomes a Billionaire, Forbes Says

Tim Conway Jr.

00:16 sec | 11 months ago

Rihanna Officially Becomes a Billionaire, Forbes Says

"Beauty companies helped make the singer of billionaire she started Fenty Beauty in 2017. She also has a laundry line and, of course, our music and acting career, Forbes says. Rihanna is now the wealthiest female musician in the world. And second only to Oprah Winfrey as the richest female entertainer

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Boundaries: 'No' Is a Complete Sentence

Call Your Girlfriend

01:55 min | 1 year ago

Boundaries: 'No' Is a Complete Sentence

"Quote oprah. Famous overcrowded is a complete sentence which i think they should just. They should just start teaching that to everyone. Because i love whenever about become. It's like it's always a meme that recurs. But i was like this should be. It should just be like etched into oliver memories. Please thank you. I i think g mail should auto populated as the signature for everyone socialized as a woman. Like the link to oprah saying that should just auto populate and then we could all save ourselves so much apologizing for drawing and holding boundary. I mean it's funny too. Because i think that you know like learning how to draw and like also like own your own boundaries or for me at least has been such a journey of self like self exploration and getting some really crucial self-knowledge because on one hand i think it's just like teaches you a lot about kind of your own your own personality and like how you are in the world kind of what you expect but i think it also just confronts you with how you are socialized in the world and that is something that A lot of times. You don't have a lot of say in and so like as you know. The the bread and butter of this show is both looking at the personal and the structural. I find that boundaries. Very good intersection of that. Oh completely and it's also like about how the world is socialized to look at you like whose boundaries are respected and whose boundaries are must be consistently like fought for and upheld is like one of those things that you know we're taught should be in our control like i think that that's one thing that's so appealing about that. No is a complete sentence piece of advice. But in fact the world is not respect all boundaries equally and that is like a big part of what's going on here to

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Here's Why Self-Care Is Not Selfish

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

02:00 min | 1 year ago

Here's Why Self-Care Is Not Selfish

"We've lined up team of experts to help you make over not only your body but your mind in your spirit as well heading up. Our makeover team showed richardson author of. Take time for your life. Then when cheryl was here she showed us how to start living a more meaningful life by practicing extreme. Self care is what she said and so interesting because even my best friend gayle. Who is you know You know a single mom now saying you know that is just an. That's a foreign concept. The idea of putting yourself first on the list which a lot of the women who wrote to us in emailed us had a lot of trouble with that the number one thing. I think you know the consistent thing was. Isn't that selfish and oprah. Aren't you preaching to people about being selfish. Aren't there enough selfish. People in the world. I think of it as selfish with a capital s. You know the kind of selfish that your spirit if we don't do that all of us as individuals we're in trouble is the culture. I mean we already know that we already see that happening. And so he asked for some people. It is going to be selfish at first. But you know this as well as i do that as you begin to take good care of yourself and your cup gets filled up you naturally then want to be there for others. You wanna serve others annual able to do it and miraculous way. Yes cheryl says This is going to help you a lot. I hope that the next step to making over your life is identifying key and eliminating energy drains. And it's up to you to do that. Nobody can do that for you. She says that creating your best life has more to do with what you remove from your life. Then what you add to your. What we're saying is if you focus on removing things from your life you take the life you're already living and start shaping it up and start looking at what don't i. What don't i need. What thoughts do. I think that i need to let go of and start removing things from your life. I think what happens is your best self in your best life reveals itself as you move away all the stuff the emotional physical and spiritual energy drain.

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"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

08:35 min | 2 years ago

"oprah" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Ten years ago Cindy lost her sister, Laurie but she says she also lost her mother to. Over the years I've done many shows with parents of murdered children and parents who've lost their children, and never knew what happened to their children, no bodies, no person ever was claimed or or discovered and you Joanne expressed what all of those parents have at some point or another express to me over the years is they want everyone to know that? Their children had a life, and that the life was important and not the death. Because what happens when you have a child who's murdered, this way is everybody focuses on the death. Everybody focuses on who did it or who didn't do it, and who committed the crime and the life is lost so. You have an opportunity to say something today about the kind of person your daughter was. Her life, not her death, but her life. She was very happy person. She enjoyed everything she did. She liked everybody she met. She was beautiful. She made me pray out. I really couldn't believe that I had a child like this. I've been buried like with the two children I have. And they make me so proud as mother. She didn't deserve this. She deserved a lot more. A lot more. So now you're stuck ten years. You have not been able to move on, and you have watched into your mother. Not Be able to move on. What do you want to say? Well, I just want to tell her that I need you I, need you? There is a parent a friend. When we lost Laurie you daughter Alice Desisto. And it was really hard. To find someone to understand pain was filling because Obviously, you took be there at that time for me. With her case there were details that you and dad with health for me and I feel like there are people out there. Were you know more about the case than I do? and. Course when I was a newlywed, we were having problems and. I didn't feel like a come. Come to you and share that with you. I had to go in front of you. Know Groups, fashion and. Lay everything out there and. Try to get some feedback on it so I could get on with my life and deal with it and I just from other back, I do. They're look. I need you back to back and I need to back as my parents and that's my friend. I'm so sorry. For. To to be able to share your pain and your feelings with her and your joys, and your things to have your mother back as a partner again, yes, it would be wonderful It'd be a new beginning. We could get, and we can move forward. You know we could deal with new pains. New Joyce, you know and. I'm. No and We caught a lot of rest in Peace Now. I really do. AM So sorry are really ender the sorry. Let me ask you both something. And I'll address this to you because Cindy I think you've moved on. I, think you feel like you have some closure. You haven't forgotten your sister, have you? Ever any less. Every day. You think about every day, but you're not obsessed with it. And you feel that you are. Okay. I ask you if you could accept some things and another thing I want to know if you can accept. And this is so hard people to think about. But can you accept the fact? That the length and depth of your grieving. Does not reflect the length and depth of your life. You can love somebody this much. And if you if you if you agree for a year, that doesn't mean that you only loved them that much. It's not something that you. Oh, it's not something that you give how long you grieve. Is. Not a reflection of how much you loved the person that you lost. That sounds foreign to you, doesn't it? because. You walk around, you say. How can I be laughing today? And my daughter is dead, and I'm laughing at Disneyworld or I'm laughing at a TV show and my daughter is dead. How can I do that? You ask those questions yourself, don't you? But I'm asking you now. Can you at least entertain the fact that how long you grieve is not a reflection of how deeply you loved your daughter. I believe I. Do can you accept that if you get closure on this? If you say I'm not going to be obsessed with this anymore that you are not betraying your daughter. Yes! I think I can. That's a hard one, isn't it? But I'm asking you. Can you do that? Yes, sir, I think I can if she could talk to you right now. Do, you think she would say mother. I want you to hurt every day for the rest of your life to prove that you left me. No, you think that's what she would say to invade very angry, it may. So. It wouldn't be a betrayal. Maybe the betrayal is focusing on the day of her. Dan Rather than celebrating the event of her life, she lived for eighteen vibrant and wonderful years. and. You focus on the day that she died. I never thought of it that way. I really never thought of it that way. Well maybe it's time to say. I'm GONNA do that. Maybe it's time to say I'm going to focus on her life and celebrate what I had rather than what? lost. You suppose that's a possibility. That would be nice. It'd be very nice. But it means you have to let her go. You have to give her to God and say I'm Gonna I'm this is your job? Man I'll never forget. I'll never stop loving. You'll never stopped being part of my life. But. It's time that I move von. With your sister and with my life. Take you with me and my heart. But. I'm not going to be obsessed with this anymore. Like to work towards that really would. Like to be able to do that? I could see that. That was a light bulb moment for you. When that was because you who said earlier in the show today you can't even bear to smile. You smiled when Phil said that where the order and you're smiling now. The idea. Of celebrating her life living in holding onto the moment of her death. Really, never thought about it I just never thought about it that way never. Okay? Were you take one more step with me. I mean one more, really big big step. Because what I want you to do right now is I. Want you to make a decision? That says I've got to get up tomorrow. and not be consumed with what I'm doing I've gotta get up tomorrow and have different life I've got to get up and not spend all of my waking hours thinking about my daughter thinking about my loss. And I've been here before and I'm telling you to do that. You have to willing to give it up now. You have to be willing. To say in your heart to, Laurie. I've gotTA. Let you go. I've got to say goodbye I've got to let you go. Because you, you said yourself be really mad at me. She must be really mad at me because we can hold people to an earthly bond, that way can't wait. I believe so. Really Day. Turn your chair and face me. Real close. I want to ask you. Is it time to say by the Laurie. Yes

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