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Being the Best of the Best at Facilitating With Author Tina Clements
"Tina facilitating is a form of public. Speaking and like other public speaking skills doing it can be extremely difficult. What makes a facilitator. The best of the best. The ones that are not doing it to entertain the ones who can present the information and know how to get out of the way of the learner. That's it and it's challenging and it's it's focused and it's difficult and it is It's really an art. My friend it really is not those are the ones who make the best of the best. I know exactly what you mean. Because there have been times when i've been facilitating where i started telling my stories and that's okay i mean. Of course it bringing humanizing you to your audience is a goal. Of course you want to do that so you can and should bring bring some of you into it. There's no question it doesn't become the show. And that's the difference and i've hired many a facilitator in my career and you know very quickly you know. Within quite frankly seconds someone is out to to support the art. And it's about them not me or those that are up there and i should throw him a pair of tax juice. That's it that's definitely.
Hero Cops Pull Baby From Car Wreck in Yonkers, New York
"They should be. After these guys saved a baby girl pinned under a car after an accident there in New York. This video released by the Yonkers Police Department begins with surveillance footage. Showing the car plowing into other vehicles before hitting a woman crossing the street while holding her daughter. The car can then be seen slamming through a storefront just before eight A.m. on Friday carrying the victims along on the hood. The video, then cuts to this this, um, this body cam footage from one of the officers as he enters the chaotic scene in the building. Let's listen in here. I got. I got it. I got the baby. Yeah, we got the baby under the vehicle. He can be heard telling dispatch before he approaches the front of the car. Where the other officers seen working with with other people to try to lift the car to release the child the child has pinned underneath this car is an amazing video. Um it and they get they get the baby out. They got the baby out and the two officers being hailed as heroes Officer Rocco Fusco and Paul Sim Modi. And here's Officer Fusco. Honestly, a miracle that both of them survived. Um Very strong, Mom and even stronger little infant. Yeah, just amazing. Absolutely amazing. Um, he lifts the Todd was wearing a Minnie Mouse dress and crying at the time. The child and the baby are going to be okay. You have to check this video out. It's absolutely amazing. And there are some people in this country you are still saying defund the police. It's just It's It's
Apple to Attend National Association of Broadcasters Convention in Las Vegas
"From apple is headed to vegas. Apple insider says the cupertino company plans to take part in this year's national association of broadcasters convention or any be marking its first official presence in ten years. The last time it was there was an april of twenty eleven when it unveiled the sixty four bit version of final cut pro ten at the final cut pro user group super meat as for what it'll be doing there this year. That is a great question. Apple insider says update to the nabc show website. Spotted by apple scoop shows apple and a list of organizations attending in twenty twenty one alongside disney abc cbs dreamworks espn fox hulu iheartmedia media nbc and net flex among others and makes it sound as if apple is going as a content provider then again the report says the trade show is intended as a way for companies to show off tools and services that they can provide to broadcasters and media producers including the areas of infrastructure production and editing. The aforementioned apple scoop seems to be hoping for some sort of final cut pro announcement will find out what they're really doing about two and a half months normally a spring show and a b. Twenty twenty one to said this year from the ninth of october through the thirteenth in beautiful. Las vegas nevada okay. Parts of it are
How to Market Commercial Space Travel
"I'm delighted. Honestly the lights between by one of the legends of british advertising are so great to see. You travel hurry alot about but i'm okay. generally yet. publishable never been bolted origin. I've seen. I've definitely seen you think it's been incredible few weeks when it comes to the space race of the billionaires one of us thinking about who the advertising sector news motivating us today to announce the bletchley only yourself. Can i ask. Could you explain what you're going to be doing. you're involved one. The first flights when it comes to verging a galactic war. You're gonna be doing. I'm going to be his later. Although saying good he space you do about it yeah It has been a strangely Rolled back by coincidence. Robot by coincidence and covert because we're not the coded over already would have beat spice saddam notion of space race ability as a with accident Those two flights come back in a few days at one another because we should have gone anxious ago because of law various lockdowns. It's stolen delighted. Tesla program so it was actually just a coincidence. Those two floods happened the so close to one. Another to kinda means attended. Let's celebrate as balaki bycatch which ashby so. That's the most goals thing him long. When did you first become reality for your will definitely good question because this is a kind of a gap between the becoming reality. And i i wanted to go. You know Because of wanting to go over it Of the good wife. They set the audio. But this is my spice book. Myspace projects which i did when i was a child
Flagler County Deputy Suffers Minor Injuries in Crash on I-95
"A crash on I 95 in Flagler County involved the sheriff's deputy and his vehicle. We're told that a deputy was responding to an incident on the interstate when his patrol car was hit in the North bound lane near the Flagler Beach exit. The sheriff's office says that the deputy is okay and did have some minor injuries. It's not clear if the driver responsible is facing any
Ulta Beauty Shops Opening at 100 Target Stores in August
"This when it was announced earlier in the year, but target in ultra beauty All the beauty Ulta beauty. Um, it's happening in August. So you know, in some of our target stories you're going to be seeing, um in more than 100, Alta Beauty shop and shop concepts are opening up a target this month. I don't know in the twin cities. I think there's when it rolls down it. I think for it Submit way. Yes, Midway has been doing a huge remodel model, and they Don't know if this is still happening, but they are having great cosmetics clearance O older, you need to go there. I don't know if it's still happening, But every time I've gone there, I'm like I'm going to take this this this this because they're probably getting any misaligned. Right? And I always think Target his head. I liked the depth of their makeup life. Yes, they had They had good ones. There are super bargains right now. Go, go, go. Okay, Go, Go, go, go! Here's Here's what's going to be included. So if you like these Brands. You can now get it at the Alta Stores target bare minerals, which are used to a bumble and bumble, Clinique and Mac. So that's just to name some of them that you're gonna be able to get a touch. It's like when Sephora went into J. C. Penney there. Yeah, that's fine. Love that.
How Casino 'Game Protection' Has Changed Over the Years
"Those you just joining us. I am talking with south. He asante founder and president of universal game protection development and remember to check out his website at universal game protection dot com. I love the stories of how you learn your trade. And and and how it you know. Evolving and i grew up in new jersey and i've seen atlantic city in the casinos. And how the evolved and how these changed from the outside but in your opinion how has the casino business changed from when you first started working in casinos especially with regard to gain protection. Oh my god. It changed drastically when let's face it. Atlantic city had the most stringent rules. You can imagine. I mean when you were you any gaming school you to get the new jersey gaming control commission permission and moved to table. I mean that's a little overkill but they were so strict when you will you opening up a can of worms here when you were a dealer you had to do six you had to go to do jersey accredited school and then when you graduate school. You auditioned as you were dealer. You were black and whites black shirt. Black pants white shirt and you went to an audition for your instructor if you passed addition. Then you've got you're doing then you go to jersey gaming control you gave me license and you know you'll license we'll say. Let's say for instance. Bjp look blackjack dealer. Then you go to apply for a job where you apply for a job. They they capitalized game wants to do is elisa was only watching. Four games watches you deal and then he she will say okay. Now you're good. You could deal now. You must deal eight hundred hours of four. You're allowed to become a supervisor. Anthea deal eight hundred hours. Meaning you know you have enough hours in that game now. You could deal now. You become a supervisor. Now you go back to the gaming commission you pay another fifty dollars the upgrade now. You licensed says bj supervisor and that's all you're allowed to do is to deal that supervised blackjack only now. You wanna learn craps. They go back to the school three months dealing course and now you know craps there you go back to the license and your dealer so now you'll licenses blackjacks. Supervisor feeler and that was what every game you so people were licenses that look like of honors. One would say blackjack pit bull crap. Box person. rule that dealer and the only physicians they were allowed and we supervise. You'll washed four games today. It is a joke today. You apply for a job. They bring you into a room. They asked you to do a hula-hoop they actually found to feature ball what get on stage until jokes and human resource additions. You and then you get the job at the dealer and then we become a supervisor to deregulate. One person who watch games and some places more so gave protection has definitely taken a backseat.
How Resilient Are Brands?
"My sword interview last night with the chief marketing officer of mcdonald's and the conversation was all around the risks associated with staying on the age of culture and those risks are basically that you're going to offend a few people. You're going to upset some people who are maybe you'll coal customers. And her view was it's okay for a brand to take those risks. It's a risk worth taking. Because ultimately a brain is resilient people will forgive the brand a few misteps will forgive the brand upsetting them a few times. And i think it's a valid point because most brands that i come across do the opposite. They're they're afraid about sitting people. They want to maintain political correctness for example. They don't want to risk offending anybody. And so they stay in the middle and as a result of that the risks that they take minimal. The image in the messaging that they create is kind of vanilla. It's kind of boring. It doesn't really resonate deeply with anybody and i think Those that risk averse nature is even more amplified when you become a publicly traded company for example at that point. You even want to take less christian. Don't wanna miss risk upsetting the share price in the market. And so i think it's a valid point that if you want to stay on the edge of culture if you want to stay relevant and really risen night and be current then at some point you have to take that risk of offending a few people. But it's okay because you're brand will ultimately be resilient
Lorde Got so Drunk With Seth Meyers She Needed an IV Drip
"To get an I V drip. After filming a segment for the Seth Meyers show. She sat down on late night with Seth Meyers this week and talked about how drinking game segment they filmed for the episode a week prior. Okay, Lord said Myers kind of destroyed her and explain she doesn't want to ever look at another alcoholic drink again. She said she had to get fluids to her what she called corpse in order to perform. Her show later that day. Yeah, we've all been there for sure. Meanwhile, more
Amazing Facts You Never Knew About Mars, The Red Planet
"About Mars. So I did some extensive research online. Or does that mean you just looked at Wikipedia? Yeah. Uh, well, I thought it was cool that Mars is about only about half of the diameter of Earth. It's actually smaller than Earth. Yeah, like we are the bigger brother. Yeah. It got a small scoop of planet stuff. Yeah, that makes it a lot smaller, And that has consequences because it means the gravity on Mars is less right. You stand on surface of Mars. It's basically an instant diet right there. Yeah, yeah, You'll weigh less. You can jump jump higher. You can stand on Mars and Mars bars and still can eat twice as many Um, but it's not just because it's smaller. It's also less dense. Like it's a planet. It's half the size of the earth. Um, but the the planet itself, like the Rockets less dense. Yeah, It's like fluffy. Er Yeah, it's fluff here. Yeah, I think that must be connected right? Because the More stuff. There is the more gravity there is. The more gets compressed like the interior of the sun must be denser than the interior Jupiter, which must be denser than the interior of the earth. Right? So I think there must be a connection between the size of the planet and the density of the interior. Oh, right. Yeah. And another interesting fact I read was that Mars does have an atmosphere. You can go there and there's wind and there's an atmosphere around it. But it's only about 1% of the atmosphere we have here. That's right. Yeah, remarks does not have much of an atmosphere which is pretty important for supporting life. Yeah, okay. And the last cool fact I read was that a day on Mars like if you're standing on Mars a day for you would last one day and 37 minutes. That's right. That's kind of amazing to me because into the length of the day on the planet is just determined by how fast it spins. And you know, these planets could spin at any speed. And so the fact that it lasts just about an Earth day spending at just about the same speed as the Earth. Right? And it turns out a lot of the planet you're spinning at approximately the same speed. We all sort of spun out at the same rate. Yeah, but does that make you like, Want to go to Mars and imagine you get like an extra few minutes every day. Well, not only would you weigh less
'The View From Somewhere' Exposes the Dangerous Myth of 'Objective' Reporting
"Into that set of questions, walked a marketplace reporter named Louis Raven Wallace, who penned the post and medium called Objectivity is dead. And I'm okay with that. Promptly leading to his firing While is then wrote a book called The View From Somewhere Deconstructing Notions of Objectivity. I asked him this was in April. What's the prevailing argument? Four objectivity. Well, obviously, it depends on your interpretation of what we mean by objectivity. But there was this idea that emerged early in the 19 hundreds and was really codified. In the middle of the century. That reporter would be most accurate and fair. If they were detached. You know, journalists were basically News scientists who just investigated news in a very neutral way, and, of course, objectivity in science has also been d band, but I think the overall concept was we used this methodology. We use it without bringing ourselves in and that gets us closer to the truth. And that differentiates us from people who do propaganda. That's the positive reason for objectivity. The more negative reason that I see is this perception thing of we want people to think that we are neutral that we are unbiased. And so we strive for that appearance, no matter what this is what N y u professor Jay Rosen. Cause the production of innocence. Yeah, and in my book, I talk about it as a sort of purity ritual that we're going to take these people who might make us seem like we are ideological. You know, these gay activists or black lives matter advocates and we're going to make sure that they are outside of our doors.
The View's Ana Navarro Fails to Recognize Global Issues
"Ana Navarro. And she's on this show that's filled with Renta's called the View. Of course, the view discriminates. Because there's not a single male on the panel are women. But that's okay. That's allowed So it's a It's a real crap show to begin with. But listen to this Ana Navarro. Cut seven go Look, I think we as a country have got to come to terms with the fact that this is now a an epidemic in America, not a pandemic, because it's not have it happening all over the world. No, it's not happening all over the world. No, no, no. The Middle East. Parts of Africa. Central and South America. See low I Q morons like this. On the one hand, they say people are coming to come into the country, our country because of all the crime in Central and South America and the crime and In various states countries in Africa and the Middle East and so forth. No, no, no. This is an American problem. Only you see, because the communist Chinese, they're rounding up speakers and other people They don't like. Murdering them, putting them in concentration camps. But America sucks in every respect. So this is a an American problem. Only an American problem. I would say it's this. It's a Democrat party. Problem. They have created this situation. They won't prosecute criminals. They won't throw him in prison. They have bail reform. They have liberal judges they have bought and paid for prosecutors. There's involved she won't get into any of it. She just wants to trash America. America. America sucks. Well, how come there's not this kind of crime in all of America? Can you explain that to me?
Best Tips on How to Run With a Jogging Stroller
"So i got a jogging stroller. Brian got me one for mother's day so any would have been okay. Hang on math. And he was seven months old. When i got a jogging stroller. I have the tuli urban glide. I love it So there's a lot of an. I'm not an expert you all know that A lot of places will say wait until they're six months or wait until they have full head control. There are the car seat attachments you can use. But i'll just share what i did. Which is yeah started small and really stuck small. I think probably the furthest. I don't even know if any and i've ever run more than like a five k. Together in the jogger. She's never loved it. To be honest. I love it But i never wanted to force it honestly. I get really anxious and embarrassed if any cries while she's in the jogging stroller even though i know she's fine And i tend to her and get her what she needs but sometimes babies cry and toddlers. Cry but i always feel like oh my god. Someone's going to see me and just look at me and think like look at this woman who cares more about getting her workout in than her kid. And i'm like that's not it like that's not no like she was happy for the first two miles. She just wants to get out and we're going to. We're almost at the playground. We're almost home. But like how does it that i think that much about. What like a stranger passing by in a car is going to think of me when i know my own kid and know that she's fine more about to get out or to change her diaper. Whatever it is.
How Amtrak Developed New Social Media Marketing Strategies During the Pandemic
"Do you show people at amtrak. Examples from your riders and or do show them examples from other brands airlines or or some other kind of of travel related organization to say. Look how they're doing. How do you sort of make that case in and put together the presentation. If you will sure yeah. I think i think there's the qualitative and the quantitative of in the you know the quantitative is just like look. How many messages were getting in just raw numbers. This is how much you could break it down to. You know we're getting somebody messing us every ten minutes or two minutes or whatever you know whatever you can break it down to And just say like that's the that's like the raw numbers but here's the actual quality of the message. Here's the types of messages and we have we tagging and we look at different ways to categorize those so we were taking really that raw feedback coming in and just saying like hey Here's a way to. Here's a way to actually see what customers are saying. We actually brought tweets. We had a leadership meeting one time and we did a tweets where we did it like a jimmy. Kimmel mean tweets style. And you know where he had. We had essentially like different people in the company reading tweets that we actually get and we had groups in the leadership summit talking about like. How would you respond to this. What would be your response to this. Really video of that will put it in the show notes yet probably not a. I don't know if that was ever made public. But but it was. It was a really eye-opening exercise for our executives in this league. You know all these leaders across the company from every division every you know people that work in operations on the you know to our senior leadership so they were seeing There were seeing what people were saying so it was always interesting to me to see like how each group would respond to that because it was always a different. And then we'd think about okay. We talk as a as an organization. Okay is that where we'd want to you know. Is that how we should handle is that who would you go to. Is that where you know. So that helped a lot without relationship building that i was talking
Mark Levin Shares Heartfelt Moment With Caller
"Going to church. If you're Christian and so forth. Maybe you should start doing other things that will help you again. I'm not pushing anything. I'm just saying, uh If you're dealing with evil, and you're in a dark place. You gotta get out of there. The sad thing is My sister and I worked. Companies can be out of six kids and she had a broken heart syndrome was induced into a coma and then use Chantix to quit smoking. Coma. Drugs can change your personality announced what happened and the Chantix gave her vivid dreams that she swore real. And she hates me. And I can't. I cannot tell you how much Mhm. I don't need much I need right now. I need her, like Yeah. Crazy and she, uh and she won't open the door at all to talk to you. Oh, gosh. She Mhm. He's I don't I don't know why she hates me the way she does. I have no idea. Um Other than that, and I've reached out and reached out. And they had to try and they tried to have me thrown in jail for elder abuse. A number of times and I did nothing wrong. But other than take care of my father when nobody else would I would look for the areas of like, or you can in your life. Your wife. Faith. If you're a believer I would look for areas of light. We can find people who appreciate you people you can talk to I really hate to do this. I really do. But I really want you to try that, okay?
Congressman Darrell Issa: The Jan. 6 Commission Is a Sham
"Issa congressman. I said welcome back to america. I well good to be back on. And when it comes to two nations nobody matches you so. I'm happy to take the compliment from a source. That knows what i will have to kind. That's to kind okay. Let's let's talk business. You mentioned in the break how busy we must be fighting. Insurrections and getting committee stood up your reaction to the fact that nancy or shall we call him. shall we called him. Marie-antoinette doesn't want to have any truth telling republicans on her committee so has she really made a mistake now congressman. Is it now not clear to everyone that the january the six quote unquote commission is just a political sham. It is a political sham. It's going to be bipartisan but without a disagreement at the start as to any aspect of it because she has managed to pick people who already agree with her at least she believes they do and Starting of course with liz cheney. She's got somebody who Has basically said that the republican party and anyone who said that there were irregularities in arizona or pennsylvania are inherently un-american and likens us to the people on the wrong side of the civil war The reality is our constitutional obligations were met. She chose to go and other way but nancy. Pelosi wants to turn all of that into a january six once in a millenium Sort of a claim And she's going to run that through with this sham commission.
BYU-Hawaii: Student Must Vaccinate or Give Up College Dream
"In nineteen. I was diagnosed with theon beret syndrome also known as gb s which hand because by vaccines and another a number of other viral infections. Lots of different I was paralyzed from the waist. Down or about a month was the scariest month my life. I was a fulltime dancer at the time. I thought my life is over as walking through pasta with my parents. One day i walked on the floor. And i remember the not walk. It was near fine. Was after you got a vaccine yet. So i got influence of and do you think that was the reason have so. That's what my medical providers. We're unsure. Because i got the influenza vaccine influenza and then i was paralyzed so you can get gps from having influenza or from the vaccine. So it's a little unclear was the vaccine. Personally yes because i. I think that's why got blue so i recovered from that which is seriously miracle. I relied on my feet. The whole time i knew heavenly father had plan for me. I said if he doesn't want me to walk again and if he has a plan from not the dance. So when i found out. Byu hawaii was going to be doing this. I reach out my medical providers and we decided yes that it was not a good idea for me to get back needed so. Byu hawaii came out saying that they would offer a medical or religious exemption and they made it seem very assessable. Those okay great all right out my exemption for him it'll all be fine. Whatever i submit it with my doctors my doctor's note than everything and i waited a month to hear back and they denied me a medical exemption and i was shocked to say the least. My whole family was like. Oh no it's fine like you're going to get it. You can't get back to nate. It's okay they're gonna let you in so as a big letdown. I decided to appeal this with my parents. My mom and my dad were very. They were just not happy because their daughter had always had this dream house being taken away from her for something she control like. It wasn't fair
Liz Cheney Backs Pelosi's Move to Block Two Republicans From January 6 Committee
"This really is a major major scandal and people need to be aware of this. I mean the idea that that that pelosi doesn't a couple of hard hitting kind of pit bulls who are going to ask tough questions about january sixth and the speakers role and she kicked him off the committee. But of course kept liz. Cheney lose cheney's okay. And she's defending pelosi. Liz cheney has gone full democrat switch parties. I guess she figures i guess her pulling her internals must that her own constituents are never going to reelect her. I mean she is full blown. How she defends. Nancy pelosi decision to kick off her fellow. Republicans jim jordan and jim banks. Are you kidding me. A real i mean i i cringe when i watched liz cheney. She is no longer a republican period. I'm sorry she's just not standing on the steps of the capitol praising. Nancy pelosi for kicking off jim jordan and jim banks from this select committee investigating january six.
"okay" Discussed on The Televerse
"But i'm gonna say restaurant warriors But yeah. I don't i don't have anything that really want my week this week. so yeah Though you know what kate. I did really enjoy the what they did. On hiatus in after hiatus sketch on amber often this week was very funny and it made me think about us and what we would end up doing on our hiatus. Yeah yeah. I'm doing the pos right now traffic. What about a week of these. Look at zimmerman louis With a tie with lightning because even if it wasn't the best episode enjoyed it. While i was watching it and it it's a pretty satisfying conclusion to a show. I've really enjoyed watching. So i don't think they stuck linate. They nailed several like woah. But in the moment. I think they did what they needed to do with buildups in payoffs in and all that and performances certainly So you know that that's what's gonna get it for me this week but But i also enjoy the little bit of legendary. That i got to see today. We're going to catch up with the rest of the upset. Talk about it next week but Yeah that's that's a little. Give it to you this week. Now take a break and listen to these teams on income back to talk about. It's okay not to be okay Knows that was the theme song for. It's okay not to be ok on netflix. This is a k. Drama in a romance that has sixteen episodes refunding but the first eight here first half season of the show and this is recommended to us highly. Highly recommended to us by benson wanted to seek it out. It's follows a trio of people really. It's there are romantic pair leads but it's We've got two brothers. One of whom the older brother is autistic. The younger brother is a caregiver who keeps they keep moving every of just under a year because of some trauma in their past that triggers. The older brother have nightmares and episodes around the time air. Quit like when the butterflies come so changing of the seasons where all sinners starts being more butterflies that causes a lot of difficulties for him so they and the ended up moving to a new town so the the other brother has started a new hospital or or a psychiatric facility as a as a caregiver and ended up you. He the they've got some stuff going on with them. And then there's a famous children's author who they meet who may or may not have an intertwined past with them and it's a lot it's complicated to explain but it's fairy tales and romance and trauma all rolled up together A really interesting and beautiful and creepy way. Gory like the author in the artists. I feel like there's a. You're going to enjoy this The energy of our children's author here and her books like a zombie zombie head but are so the cheerful dog also. Did you ever like and the boy. Who eight nightmares and And just all of this. It's a it's you the title tells you a lot of what you need to know. It's okay not to be ok and trying to deal trauma in help yourself and other people. He'll i don't know that the show is you know has the best messaging around this in the healthiest messaging around this but it certainly makes for some compelling tv. what did you think of these episodes. Yeah so i think the when you're describing the show a lot of it is like pushing daisies. Tony a lot of ways by way of a romance novel by way of soap. So i think there's lot of various influences kind of Percolating in this and some of this may also just be lack of familiarity with k dramas Only watched like a couple and never to like completion. Can't remember once i've watched boyfriend was one of them. Is that one. i think. Making that title You're saying that. If i know i do not i cannot help you here so. I think that there's a lot of stuff in this. But it's all executed. I think really really well And on the whole. I do really like the show. I think that. I have like kind of structural issues within a little bit a certain degree And we can get into that. But what i do. Generally really like is that we've got a group of really charismatic actors like across the board. No one is bad. And you've got a really good story about acceptance and working through trauma But also at the flip side of that you also people who were terrible setting boundaries in part because charles that kind of makes things a little mushy. But i also feel like the show's aware of that at the same time because there's always something in an episode that pushes back an emotional action really From a more rational sets. So that i really appreciate so. I think there's a really solid layering of impulses that acsc in across the show especially as it gets later into the rotten That i think just really come together in a really really good way. So yeah it's kinda like a bird's eye view of ours feeling about it. Yeah you know. At least i eight episodes. There's a sense you know what i may have. Peaked ahead to get out to find out more at happens you do get answers for a lot of the things. I was curious about by the end of the season. But there's some other stuff that is not answered in a way that i understand that i like. Why does their friend..
"okay" Discussed on Worthy Worth It and Priceless
"Hire me one. The tammy owner where the worth in a priceless in today's podcast. I am just checking in with you guys in just seeing how you're doing it seems as though there's a lot of stuff that's going on. It's not even i. It seems as though right now you cannot turn on the radio social media the tv or wherever you get information from without seeing either a tragedy. Someone passing away or just a shooting is something is always something and it seems as though it's just happening even and more now and or i wanted to do was just checking in with you guys. It seems as though where at a place where we can't even catch our breath without something happening. I soon as something good happens. Then something equally bad or even worse happens and it can take a toll on you so once again. That's the reason why. I wanted to check in with you guys and try to give you guys some encouragement through all this. It is okay to take a break. I know for some of you guys. If you're like me as well as like they tell you you know if you have a business or anything like that and you need to be on social media you have to you have to be visible. You have to be this and you have to have all this content. But i want to tell you that you come. I think that if your mental isn't all the way you don't fill the way all the way up to it take a break is okay. People will understand if they don't they don't it's just the whole point that you matter and you cannot sit up here and drive yourself crazy or run yourself into the ground because he's trying to get content or trying to keep up on everything you have to make sure that you are okay. I was at my job when i was working and my boss was saying he didn't feel well. I have like projects that need to be done. And i was a you know a god forbid if something happened to you within half an hour your job will be posted and know that sounds harsh but you have to make sure that you converse so once again are you okay. Because that's the thing you matter you have to know that in this. Okay if you have to turn off your phone sometimes. Turn off social media deactivate year accounts. Because trust me in minute. I was definitely thinking about Basically getting off a face off together but it also size you have to sometimes it's an overload now and is is just too much going on and if you're not careful of of that or just get into your mental and just drive you crazy so you have to make sure that even the people that you have around you are have a sound mind as much as possible out understand that everything is going crazy but at least you need to have someone that has like sorta wisdom or something that you can just come to invent to or whatever and in other instances and i know this is. I know a senior hypocritical. But also you have to know when to be quiet as well if god is gay. Play something on your heart. You have to know that everybody around you is now going to be happy for you and they may talk you out of your blessing so with those situations you as you know you may have to be quiet with but from that if there is something that is on your heart. That is way down. Please speak with someone because is just too much going on right now for you not to really have someone that you can talk to in if you really need someone. Just listen. I believe on this podcast on anchor. Aspire if if you go on anchor. Fm for slash worth the price list. You can leave me voice mail if you just need to just talk to someone. I believe you can leave a voice message on there. If you just need to vent out anything. I will not share whatever you say but i know how it feels that if you just need someone to just listen right now. It's just too much going on for us not to have someone else. That's gonna listen or at least that we invent to or or something or get things off our chest and don't be afraid if need be that you go to therapists is just like stated before is just too much going on. You can't just carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. It's okay to ask for help. So k to get someone around you. That can listen to you and really be there for you but also be careful and wary about who you vent to as well but with that being said i just wanted to do a really quick check in with you guys and just make sure that you all are doing okay. Sure that you're taking your vitamins drinking your water but you're also taking time for yourself within self care and just getting yourself something whether it is just a gift or just a walk or is this a piece of mind do something for yourself that lets you know that you are worthy worth it and priceless that lets you know that you are loved and that you appreciate it even if no one else around you tells you that. Make sure that you know that your love even if it's just by you and that's all that matters as long as you love yourself always know that once again you are worthy worth in prices. God loves you. I love you. Thank you so much for listening to this podcast and until next time bye..
"okay" Discussed on What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood
"The new york times did an article. It was more. What was it. It was like a series of articles. It was yes see peace. I guess they call it. America's mothers are in crisis and it has like sort of six articles underneath one umbrella. I'll put the link in the show notes. Yeah and i thought it was interesting and it captured a lot of the stuff that we're hearing. Oh before we do that though. I want to say one other thing. Someone else talked about. Which i think is another part of this frustration. That like she's living this crazy pandemic life and her neighbors just came back from disneyworld Like there's also that whole aspect where it's like we are in this cocoon of our house traps together for a year and then on facebook. There's like friends of ours bars and we're just like we what is life. It's like all the tent poles of sanity have been pulled up and we're just kind of flailing we'll let me tell you it's really hard about that. Is you know speaking from experience or somebody close to me that the people who are going to disneyworld seemed to be fine and the people who are staying home and doing nothing like you know went to the corner wants and geico vet like covert isn't being fair on who decides to track down if you feel me yes and that is for sure and i know you realize this a completely anecdotal like experience that you're having which is not actually true like yes. People are getting cova at disneyworld and getting it. You know by trying to go to school right. That's right. It happens to all of us but the sensation when you see only the pictures of like people on vacation is like wait. Why am i in hell and these other people are like flittering around you know and it's just mentally really difficult and the new york times article focuses specifically on working moms which is another whole aspect of this. Ps all working moms hashtag. We are all working but this is like with the boss. Yes moms who work outside the home and now inside the home. That's the problem is responsibilities to a third party yet right. You're trying to work from home. And i mean it was illuminating. Hadn't really thought about one of the women is like a counselor and she's trying to have meaningful conversations with people and our kids like running around in the background. Like i mean we have you guys have heard sometimes on this podcast like one of my kids will open the door and the background i mean like what am i need but i run a parenting. Podcast just go. I'm home and my kids are here. You hear them. Yes but there's a lot of jobs really the stress of you can't have your kid in. The background is really profound. There's one picture. And i guess i'll put this in the show notes as well. The linked to the pictures you guys can see it. 'cause i seen it all over facebook. There's one photo split screen of a mom wiping toddlers but while in the next room. The dad is sitting calmly on a conference call and the mom is also on a work. Call right but it's the mom that is wiping the taller spot. While she's like trying to close a deal and the other parent is in the other room getting to act as if the pandemic doesn't exist and what bothered me about this article looking at it with any angry visit. This was very much. Phrased is a mother's problem which it is not a parental problem. Right guys problem that the toddlers at home and needs his butt wipe during a conference call because the mama handle it and this is something we've talked about a lot. And i mean we my husband and i had come to jesus moment about this at some point fairly early on which was i mean. My job is much more flexible than my husband's job. And my husband is also the primary breadwinner household right and also less lucrative right right so there are some natural kind of. What's the word like inertia things that happened. There which is like i am more available and able and his job is not quite so like a kid screaming in the background. Sorry i don't know what he's done but he's on calls with people with money already. He's tried to get it. You know whatever he's doing right. And so i understand this parameters. But i did say early on to him. Your work and his work has been understanding. Thank god some people's aren't but i said you're working needs to understand that it is not my job to create an atmosphere where the pandemic is not happening so you can continue to work as if the pandemic is not happening and i have to like as my mom would say stand on my head spit wooden nickels to make sure that everything stays peaceful in your office environment. It's not realistic. And it's not going to
"okay" Discussed on Worthy Worth It and Priceless
"Hi everyone this is. Tammy owner worthy worth in prices in. Today's podcast is titled. It's okay to not be okay. We often want to be there for everyone else. And were people may not realize is being there for everyone knows is in training and some days. You just don't feel like some days you don't want to answer the phone some days. You don't want to answer the call you don't wanna be all social media and that's okay. The problem is we don't give ourselves permission to basically be ourselves or not or just want to be by ourself because usually those days someone else might make us feel guilty. Because hey you didn't answer the phone. When i call your your human. You don't always have to be on or half to be someone's light so as you come into a room sundays. You have your dark days some days. You don't wanna be bothered and that's okay give yourself permission that hey. I'm not feeling up to it today. I just wanna to be my lounge. Where wouldn't be in my pajamas. I don't want to have my hair done. I don't wanna be bothered is okay. You have to allow yourself. That time is self care. You can't always be around someone else or always be all under people in this because you also have to realize to when these people they're putting this much pressure on you when they don't want to be doing something or they don't wanna do something they don't do it you don't always you know you don't always get that friend you don't always get your parents relative. Sometimes they're not available for you. So why do you always have to be available for them. You have to act yourself that you don't always have to be the strong one you don't always have to be the one that everyone is therefore if you don't do it someone also do it. They'll find a way to do it. But you have to give yourself permission. The hey i'm not going to be able to be there for you today. I'm not filling up to it. This is a self care day for me and that's fine and they may call you selfish or you're never there for them and as always. There is a consequence of sometimes. That's how people are. You've been there for them a million times but that one time that you tell them no sudden you're selfish every name in the book so what is not gonna kill you. You can't always be there for someone else but you have to take care of yourself a had to put yourself first. You're not going to always be on. You're not going to always be the one to everybody can call on. That is exhausting. Trying to be there for everyone in your circle. Give yourself permission that. Hey you know what today is going to be all about me. It's gonna be me. I'm going to turn off my phone this that there and you know. Hopefully no one has an emergency. If you do please call nine one one hour. Talk to you later in. That might seem harsh to some people. But sometimes there's something that you have to do. You can't always be the one that everyone comes to because what about you. What happens when your health is declining. Because you're stressed out because everyone else either way you're gonna have to sit your butt down so is was it your butt down before it even gets there. You can't be there for everyone but you can't be there for yourself so take inventory. If you need a me day take it. If they don't understand they just never understand. They'll be all right in. So will you so always know that you have worth you have value. It is okay if you are not okay. You're going to make it through. You're.
"okay" Discussed on PTI
"Only nineteen point six points a game. The defense is real good. So everybody's looking at Allen. Mike Well Tony the case you make by the way you with the Dow run that well with do better throwing on the run but the pressure is squarely on him. If that team's going to reach the prediction model so many happy anniversary Ralph Sampson on this day. Thirty four years ago with one second left on the clock Samson Corden inbounds pass from Rodney mccray turtle shot over Kareem abdul-jabbar. All in one motion watch the ball hit the rim three times before dropping through the net that Pasqua sent the rockets past the Lakers into the NBA finals. Against Larry Bird's Celtics. That was Samson's only trip to the finals. And the one time between one thousand nine hundred four nine thousand nine hundred eighty seven that burden magic did not square off in the finals Simpson's. Nba Career was cut short by injuries. After nine seasons it would have to be judged disappointing after the standard. He set in college when he was the three time college player of the year at Virginia his first three. Nba years posted wonderful numbers. Twenty one points and eleven rebounds a game but the injuries limited. Samson and his career numbers of fifteen point. Four eight point eight which is good but not what many people expected. No Tony but if we talk about the greatness he had greatness in college. We talk about favorite players. I know you and I both have wrapped Samson way toward the top of our favorite player list. He's just an enjoyable person. I'm just sorry. Those injuries cut his career street. Happy Trails Chase Elliott. Danny Hanlin was in front laden. Last night's Darlington five hundred which he would eventually win but he was trying to hang on when his teammate kyle busch made contact with chase. Elliott as they were battling for second place the bump caused Elliott to spin out slam into a wall Elliott dot of his car and stopped to give Bush the finger before climbing into a service vehicle into the Infield Care Center. Apparently Nascar agreed with Elliott. Because there will be no fine for his gesture. Bush later admitted was his mistake. Said he didn't do it on purpose. Howland won the race when rain cut it short and when he got out of his car and to face masks for the rules. The mask was a perfect replica of Hamlin's own smiling face. That's very clever. Look at that it has two thumbs up Tony. You watching racing you gonNA stop. You're sort of personal unofficial ban on racing and watch some oval tracks scuff. Yeah Live Sports. If it's live I'm going to try to watch the love. It I am Yup. All right sounds good..
"okay" Discussed on PTI
"Tony wanted to go to Ohio state. Want to play. Football was terrific was allstate a couple of times in a football craze place state like Ohio. So look there's no doubt that Lebron could have gone to college football and would have had our headstart on most people been tremendous. But when you start talking about the greatest players in the history of football there's way too much that has to take place to just sort of grant presumption I'm not granting that presumption he might have been a terrific football player but we don't know if he would have the same dedication of saint passionate same interests the same the coaching that would have led to that. There's a lot of stuff. There's a lot of moving parts. Does he want full-contact all the time. Does he have the necessary aggression to be a professional football player? He's got a very big body and basketball because a lot more people look like Kevin Durant tall and thin. Then look like Lebron but if you put him next to Gronkowski or Travis Kelsey. He wouldn't look at big in the old days you put Lawrence Taylor around him in not he may be tall but he's not gonNa look that it's just so mike it's such a different sport to present really is so you know what else tone you know what. There's no Dan Isel in the greatest nuggets the greatest Denver Nuggets. How you like that? No isel why did you see stuff? Why don't you hate it if you read it? See and Kevin one of the greatest players of all time. That's right come on that. You worked up tossing. It's your home speaking and I need you to do me a couple of favors. I could you get that blueberry that rolled under the fridge last week it's throwing my funk hsi-wei off second thing bundle your home and car insurance with GEICO. It's easy and we could save money. Lastly I know you're thinking of painting the nursery back to off white. But I'm actually feeling this baby. Blue didn't think it was my color but.
"okay" Discussed on PTI
"Cliff Barn Company is the family employee owned maker of cliff bars cliff kid and luna bars. And here's something. I love about them since they started almost thirty years ago. They've always put people and communities I now they've committed to help feed the fight with get this and initial donation of more than seven million cliff Luna and cliff kid bars to food banks first responders and healthcare workers fighting this pandemic boom community. It's a beautiful thing. Raise your man in his own attic episode. Sixty three wilpon. We're GONNA start today with the NBA. We're going to start with. Jared Dudley was alternate play Rep for the Los Angeles. Lakers says the concept of putting people in the bubble and resuming. The season still goes but players will be allowed out of the bubble which I guess would eliminate a possible impediment to players saying. We're not going to do this at all. If however they contract the coronavirus then their quarantine than they're out if this is true. Does it improve the chances in your mind of playing the rest of the season? No Tony I think the NBA is going to play. I I don't mean regular season games. Bubble yes outside the bubble you whatever the NBA will play the play offs. And I know there's still some talk about regular season. I don't see any sense that you already had teams coaches. Gm stainless so we. We shut down this. He's we're ready to go on. He can't bring the regular season back. I don't want to hear that and Tony. Now there's talk about Orlando and Vegas and soon as splitting the games between a couple of spots tone. I don't the the question isn't what the plan is. The question is the plan. GonNa work for any of these. Sports even shorten playoff season in the NBA with work. And I think teams like the Lakers with leaders like Lebron James. They'll get their guys together and those guys will understand what's at stake not every teams that have that Tony. I don't think but will it enhance it. I I think the NBA is going to have oppo season right now. The way it looks now period. So let's review for a second. We both agree that the NBA in the NHL. If they start with the play offs they can get through it. Because you're eliminating half the field every single week and I think you'll agree with me. And it seems that should be able to be easier to keep twelve people safe then fifty five on a football team but you have been saying from day one about this that a major impediment is you can't get out of the bubble you saying these young men they're gonNA get out of the bubble now with Jared Dudley and get out of the bubble so I would think that you would then feel. This gives them a better chance because players would say okay. They're treating me more like an adult would happen. You gotta the bubble when you get out of the bubble. That's where the trouble starts so just being whether you're allowed out of the bubble by rule a whether you sneak out of the bubble that's still does. The danger is being out of the bubble. And what you could bring back to your teen. Tony you suppose one of the stars winds up testing positive missing two weeks. You won't be out so it's not just that you're allowed out. What do you do if and when you are allowed out so they did? Everybody wants to look for Nice. Easy NEAT solution. There isn't one and I understand the Lomnica of this but it doesn't solve anything right. But let me go to something to Jared Dudley. Said he said on the Lakers. There is no chance that Lebron Anthony Davis will escape the bubble. They will be in bubble wrap and this leads me to this conclusion. That now you're going to see who. The effective leaders are team by team. What teams can stay together? What teams are not going to violate the rules? What teams understand? There's a sacrifice involved in this and this is how we advance that that to me you know is going to separate the men from the boys. He has right not to legislation the bubble. Let me just say one quick thing vinyl on this ain't anybody worried about Iran and Anthony Davis leaving the bubble. They're the ones that are going to keep everybody else. In the bubble Lebron Anti Nice sentiment that jared expresses Tony worried about them? Now say the truth you know they would keep anybody in. You're talking about Jordan. And His will and what he threatens teammates with. What do you think Lebron with threatened teammates with if anybody thought they were going to get outside of? What he planned. I wouldn't see much of that going on here. Leadership leadership leadership no question. Yes Tony. Let's go to college football for a second. Some of the drama there Ohio State Aid e Gene Smith announced yesterday that his school will open his football facility to players. On June eight Smith went onto suggests Ohio state have been doing social distance modeling. That could see twenty thousand to fifty thousand fans being allowed into the horseshoe for Buckeyes Games. This fall talk because you actually see that happening. Twenty thousand to fifty thousand fans inside the shoe today and mid to late. May I find that hard to see? I can't see any fans as I'm sitting here today. Maybe down the road but not right now. What I WANNA see is there. Is there a spike in corona virus? In these states that have opened up large like Florida and Texas where there were crowds. Which is what would happen in a football game but my bigger takeaway of what Teen Smith said was that he is convinced that there's going to be college football. He is convinced. Ohio if you're talking about numbers of people in the stands. You're not even considering that there won't be college football. That was a little surprising to me. We'll turn will be college football. We started talking about this you and I even to two weeks ago. It doesn't mean everybody's going to have it. It doesn't mean it's going to be exactly the same with a twelve and thirteen game schedule as we've seen in recent years it doesn't mean that at all doesn't mean all the school's going to be doing it and so like you as I sit here today. I'm here in twenty thousand people. Tony you put fifty thousand people or thirty thousand people in a football stadium where there's the emotion of the game and fandom and starting in the parking lots with tailgating. Ua GonNa to have social distancing that modeling is a lie. It's not realistic Tony. So if the buckeyes come back to beat somebody in the fourth quarter are people are not going to be hugging and high fiving each other even across the alternate seat that is blocked off. Of course they're not going to be socially disadvantaged that is that's just fraudulent. I don't care what their modeling is. Common Sense can tell you if you go to any of these places. Tone people are socially distancing a bar. How are they going to do it in a Football College Football Stadium? I don't believe a word of this not a word so let's talk about college football for Second College. Football football is a full contact hands on Sport. Which is the way. A virus is spread. These college kids. They're not pros. They're not getting paid to do this. There's going to be used like laboratory rats and I don't think that colleges even big football schools in the face of a charge like that are going to necessarily sign on for this. I don't know maybe by September. Maybe things will change. Maybe they'll be entire way to put real people in the stands and not like plastic sex dolls like they had in the Korean baseball the other day but I just read a Mike in which the way the virus spread. Most of all is too large loud gatherings nothing fits the formula large loud gatherings x-ray all games. Nothing does that's move on. Let's move on to you boy. Paul Pierce Paul. Pierce says come up with his personal all time top five NBA player. He's got Michael Jordan. He's got Kareem abdul-jabbar. He's got Bill Russell. He's got Magic Johnson and he's got Colby Bryant. He doesn't have Lebron. James Pierce Says Lebron James. Never did anything to build an organization by himself and his personal criteria is that you have to either build an organization or continue a tradition. Can you Michael Wilpon and I know you like Paul Pierce? Can you endorse Paul Pierce? His top five. I can understand it. I'M NOT GONNA argue Paul Pierce. Its top five day. You GotTa start with understanding that Paul Pierce in the in the in the two thousands Tony Fierce rivalry with Lebron James. Wherever HE WAS CLEVELAND MIAMI. So been big time rivalry so their rivals and they never friends that. I know of and I know a little bit about this but tone. You can't tell me that I couldn't put together a top five and put bird or coby on it. Kobe bird on it and not have Lebron. That's not my top five. I wouldn't have that but is it. Defensible is what Paul Pierce says using his criteria defensible. Could you make that case hell? Yeah you can make it again not my case. I HAVE. Lebron mind but I ain't GonNa say Oh if you have bird. Kobe your top five zero full. I'm not gonNA say that okay so there's always a cut off because there's always a finite number and somebody or some more than one person who's going to be left out you can make a case for island point out that. Paul Pierce grew up in Inglewood California and he went to the former. Watch the Lakers. All the time and end is a pro. He played for the Boston Celtics. Four of his five guys are Celtics or Lakers and fifth guys Jordan and he couldn't put burdon. 'cause birds stood up and said. Jordan's better than I am. So that was the end of that and in terms of Lebron as he hates. Lebron and he bears grudges as we know because he never talked to ray out. You know you to my mind. You cannot put Kobe ahead of Lebron. Lebron cannot statistical category ahead of will Bron in every statistical category has better numbers than Kobe Bryant except championships but he's been two more finals than I would argue sometimes with less than no. I don't think you can do that. I don't you'll Pinkett both ways. What reason why Kobe's individual numbers on the lower is? He was playing with greater players. I E shack. So that's going to reduce some Kobe's numbers but regardless again and let me state again. Lebron's not only in my top five. He's in my top four of all time but tony any any survey that that has bird and Kobe in the final analysis. Is it defensible? Of course it's defensible. You don't have to share the opinion but you gotta sounded like it's absurd to have Kobe or bird. I'm sorry I don't. I don't agree with that part. What I'm saying specifically is absurd. Is the charge that Lebron never built anything because we went he built it at Cleveland built team. He went back to Cleveland and he won the whole thing and the irony in this. Paul Pierce is Paul Pierce as one ring is because they had a big three on the celtics similar to a big three on Miami show. Okay so you know what? You lucky you about your lucky. You're not looking at the look at the starting five is produced by our network. Great starting five for each franchise. Don't look at it. 'cause there's going to make you crazy. Let me just say Rick. Perry is not in the golden state greatest five according to to just say what last week what I know see I just wanted to agitate you. Oh you guess what? You're still Bradley. Not In the Knicks. Starting five because Carmelo's there watching your face watching you. Twins Muscle von move on. I'm to move on now I just wanted to agitate you last week. Glenn Rivers told us on Austin on a podcast. Lebron James and decided to play football. Doc believes Lebron could have been the greatest player of all time. Espn's Jim McMahon recently spoke to Jason Witten and Dez Bryant and they both agreed Lebron could have become a star a star in professional football. Tony you buy that. No No. I'm not I mean the kind of thing that this calls for you to see the projection projection rather of Lebron James and football people said Oh Michael Jordan's GonNa be great in baseball. We saw he wasn't great in baseball. These are very different sports. They require a different physicality they require a different mindset. I I will grant you this. I will grant you that at one point. I think we both agree. The greatest football player of all time is Jim Brown and while he was playing football and he was a Lacrosse player. He was the greatest Lacrosse player. Ever but the Bo Jackson's of the world who excelled at to professional sports are very rare very special and I don't think Lebron I think this is wrong so I think this is way to looking far ahead way too far because you don't know v. has the great fortune if he has the health which football is incredibly important and even at the college looking break. Alex Smith and Joe and never play again. That's yes at least. Those guys had pretty long careers. Lebron is talked to about how you know. Speaking of how state earlier he would have loved to have played football..
"okay" Discussed on Just a Tip with Megan Batoon
"And like I feel like I'm so excited about life that I don't WanNa go to bed and it's like you know six months ago. I was just trying to pull myself up off the floor each day right. So it's just a true testament to like your your deepest darkest depths can shoot you to like your highest highs. And it's it's you know I feel like I'm now able to like manage it because I don't get me wrong. Life hasn't been like perfect since then. I've still experienced all these like downfalls and just tough things but I'm just more balanced now. I don't drop so low down and and try and pick myself up off the floor. I don't reach the floor anymore. Yeah I Mike Okay cool I might just kind of inbetween and I'm just kinda coasting and I know I'm going to get back up and it's just a matter of being like hey I got you like we're here we've already. I've already been through some of the hardest things in my life so I'm like it's only GonNa get better from here right so yet. Kind of feels like a beginning which is really excited. This really is a new beginning completely. It's the end of the way we knew things as we knew them. And they're going to be so many new normals once we're going back to the world and not social distancing. It's going to be so weird. I was talking to another friend of mine yesterday when we go to restaurants. Do we wipe down our silverware? Once the server puts our role rollouts roll ups ropes. I think they're called roll. Ups Are we going to have to clean those or do they give them with gloves? Like what's the new protocol going to be like? How different is the world that we knew? There's no answers. We will only get those answers when we get to that next chapter. We're in this book that none of us can put down and the only thing that we can do is be patient. I think this is the time to learn both individually and collectively on how we want to proceed and what we want to bring from our past. I'm going to call it a pass life. This I mean that life as we knew is is probably going to be different. So what do we want to take from our past life and bring into this new life? We're taking inventory and we're realizing what parts of our lives that are worth bringing and what parts we can drop off because there's no longer space for it. Honestly I've talked about Saturn. Return on this podcast. Before in a quick recap Saturn returns to the exact same place in the sky that occupied at the moment of that birth thirty years is really the time line of it. In in that people's lives get turned upside down people make complete career switches. People get divorced. Everything changes because the universe is basically shuffling the cards for that person's life and it's honestly doing the same thing in the world right now. I think this is the Earth's Saturn return is it. This is the Earth's return the Earth's return is one hundred years. I'm not an astrophysicist. But that's what we're going to say because the Spanish flu happened a hundred years ago and I'm going to say the earth gave us a one hundred years to figure it out and we barely have reusable containers so here it is. It's the Earth Return. That's what's happening right now. The Earth Return Earth is doing a huge spring cleaning. And whatever comes out of this is hopefully going to be better great so with that very inaccurate lesson of space. I want to an episode with really driving home. The point of just feeling your feelings because we are always doing doing doing especially with the work and productivity mentality that we have all adopted because that's how this economy moves but I just want to shift a little bit more now that we have the time to be with our feelings and we can't do all the things that we used to do. We cannot distract ourselves with things like being as productive as we used to be. And maybe for good reason. I talked to my friends all the time about the saying you're not alone and I've I've used before when I was younger and I didn't really understand that that doesn't help saying you're not alone doesn't help me feel any better when. I'm feeling anxious. It doesn't help me feel less depressed knowing that other people are depressed being alone. Isn't the issue not feeling the feelings the issue we're never alone no matter what somebody is feeling the exact same type of way we are. Somebody is thinking the same thing we are in. If we're talking about the theory of alternate universes. There's an exact same you doing the exact same thing. You're doing feeling the exact same way you are so hearing people say you're not alone. That's not supportive. Would actually feel supportive is not trying to fix or throw solutions at these feelings because the feelings are there to tell us something not for us to tell them to quiet down so don't try and cover them. That's part of the process. Actually it's not part of the process. That is the process right now. If you're feeling powerless and that you can't do anything staying at home as powerful by doing quote unquote nothing. You're making actually the biggest impact of all so if you feel lazy or unproductive because you aren't doing anything just remember that you are doing the most good that any person could possibly be doing right now by staying home and doing your part to not spread the virus so like don't be hard on yourself for being lazy is I. Don't know it sounds like I'm like justifying doing nothing and I kind of am do whatever you want. Just do it in your house and at the same time stay safe absolutely but just as important stay sane okay. That is all for me for right now for right now. I hope you live flexibly. I think that's how I I hope you live flexibly through this and when this is over I also hope that we can take being flexible in pivoting into the next life that will be a C- There was BC before corona in acs after Corona and after corona. I hope we can take all the flexibility and pivoting in self compassion really. I feel like this is a time where we are actually being able to finally be compassionate by telling ourselves. It's okay if we're not doing a bunch of things. It's okay for on the couch for the entire day. It's okay if we watched ten episodes of Jane the Virgin. It's okay it's okay. I do think there's a lot of good that's in these little cocoons of our houses if you think about it like we are going under transformation in. Ac after Kiruna would ever butterfly that. We are because of what we did during this time. Whether that's rest whether that's learning something whether that's not doing anything whatever that is that's helping us have a little bit more balanced of what we didn't have before so again. Do whatever you want during this time. This is your time. No one can tell you what's right or wrong because there is no right or wrong. There's just being and that is our only job. So thank you for listening to this. Thank you everyone who's ever listened to this podcast and everyone who's ever been on the pod if you're wondering who were the voices in this episode the Clips. I used featured Ashley Peres Caverns Addyi Rich. Rebecca black men and Matthews. Ross Everett Justin James Hughes Simi Singh End Karleena Bridge. I think that's the order that I use them in. I hope it helped in any way and I will see you on the next episode of Justice Tip. That was a hit gum podcast..
"okay" Discussed on Just a Tip with Megan Batoon
"So. My therapist is a cognitive behavioral therapists. It's not like in the movies when the patient lies down and the therapist is like turned away from them. I think that's psychiatrists but cognitive behavioral therapists will sit face for two you vis vis and then they'll have you talk and really just ask you where you feel in your body and there's a reason for that if you are someone who is. I'm really anxious about what's happening now. What's happening in the future? That's because you came from Cave People. Who if they weren't worried about what was happening right now? They'd get eaten if they weren't worried about saving food for the future they would. They would starve. It's in our it. Is Survival instinct? That's why feeling things in your body makes sense is because we are hardwired to feel things based off of how we were surviving when we were cave people. These are your fighter flight responses. That are alerting you to tell you that something is not how you would wish it was because back then it was danger back then. It was being eaten. That was your danger now. When this happened sue us. We're in danger of our feelings. Being on the line of our identity being misunderstood. We're not in conflict with other cave people. We are not in conflict with animals. We're in conflict with something attacking values whenever I start feeling. Embarrassed or angry or sad. My therapist asked me where I feel it in my body and so I've got like pinpoint exactly where I feel it. So locate the exact position but also what does it actually feel like is it tingling is it heat is it pins and needles and first of all that helps bring awareness into your body. It helps bring you into the now and stop getting so in your head and seeing exactly how your body is reacting to it because our bodies no more than our minds. Do I believe that wholeheartedly. And then after you are in your body you can then start the process of feeling your feelings all the way. I remember in the beginning of working with my current therapist. She would tell me to feel things in my body and I'd ask her. What would happen afterwards that I would know if I did it right or no? The order of events and almost like a check box tasks like have I done it. Yes okay then what's next? What should I be looking for? And she would never tell me because the only task is to feel it. The rest isn't important because whatever happens. I don't know if it's different for everybody but I know that once you feel it then you'll understand what to do from there. Our body is like okay. Just hang on with me. Our body is like an eight ball and you need answers and all you can do is feel the feelings in you. Shake the eight ball in order for it to feel its feelings us feeling our feelings the agitation of April and then afterward unfeeling them afterward. Unshaking then our answers reveal themselves so the next time you start to feel something your body. There's a million things you could do when it starts to tell you that something is quote unquote wrong with Krona virus specifically. It's a very understandable feeling that keeps popping up in bunch of different people that I'm talking to. Which is the sense of helplessness? Usually when people are angry at student loans or the system right. It's very much like a helpful. Exactly say so. It's like the thing that just came to. My mind is focused on helping others because if you feel helpless for to help yourself shift outside of yourself and like really like look into the world not the greater welby is that can be overwhelming but to start with. Just what around you? Can you do to to help others? I also read this thing the other day with I was like. Oh I love this. It's called the second aero. Have you ever heard of this concept but basically like a shitty thing happens to you? And that's the first aero that gets like lodged into you the second Arrow is your doing its judgment on the shitty thing that stabbing in the second era. So why would you? If you're already hurting. Why would you hurt yourself more by judging your pain just accept the pain in like almost like have a conversation with it like say like thanks for being here and then figure out a way that you can deal with it? I want to add something. Here is just like an exclamation to the point of not judging your pain not judging yourself whatever you WanNa do during this time you can. Do you have permission to do anything? If you need permission the world has just given it to you. You have permission to feel sad. You have permission to feel angry. You have permission to feel helpless. You have permission to feel like a sack of potatoes. You have all of the permission. Don't feel guilty for how you feel. Don't judge how you're feeling because then you're against it you're not working with it. The only way to come to an agreement is to be an agreement. If you're denying your feelings or arguing internally with yourself you cannot come to that place where there isn't conflict so what. I mean by dealing with it at the end of that is to face the feelings head on not handle them. Our feelings are here to teach us or uncover something within us that we're not paying attention to it's like dreaming when you Dream Your subconscious basically going like. Hey you're not paying attention to this one very huge thing that we're all very aware of and here. It is in this weird like metaphorical escape room way or so used to trying to fix pain and these. I guess negatively charged emotions. We try to throw remedies or bandaids over it. But doing that is denying its existence and when you denied the existence you extend the invitation for to come back pain is Pesky pesky persistent. There's a saying that what you resist persists so the more that you don't feel the feelings the more that you don't look at what's going inside the more. It's GonNa continue to happen until you're forced to do it again. That's the whole. I had to make you uncomfortable or else you wouldn't have changed thing. Invite these feelings in and then explore them. I think happiness is overrated. I think happiness is one of your four or five core emotions depending on which four or five you believe in and out. We've all seen inside. Oh absolutely and I think letting happiness be your northstar. Let happiness drive the boat. All the time is hundred percent wrong. I think. Enjoy those moments where you're in discussed or you're afraid because they're telling you something and I think happiness shouldn't be what we're striving for. I think passionate vitality living a life. You WanNa live that you want to jump out of bed for in the morning. Even if you're jumping out of bed to go fight a fight that you don't like the way the world is right now and you're like this is what I believe and I'm not happy about it but I'm going to go do this and I think there's moments there's pockets of just pure happiness and they're just little bubbles that float and eventually they'll pop but happiness can't last forever. I mean it would be boring if it did. It wouldn't be happiness. Yeah I would just be base level living. Yeah that that becomes your new base. And then you'd have to find an even it would be like a drug right gateway feelings. Yeah happiness is a gateway feeling happiness is a gateway feeling when I have people on. I usually like to ask my guests for practical advice that can be applied easier and quicker than adopting. These sometimes cerebral con. Subset take a long time to rewire our with our USA. Thinking and this is one tactic that I keep at the top of my mind especially during this time. I think that's really important asking yourself. What makes you happy? And maybe even writing a list of those and ensure when you feel unhappy or when you feel like you want to be happier. Do One of those things. No external factors matter. The first thing on my list is always music. I also don't think I'm ever without music ever. I like it so much and if I want to start feeling at specific type of way if I WANNA feel nostalgic. I'll play like dashboard confessional. Or sometimes if I WANNA cry play the song by Francis and the Lights. I've got different things to feel different ways in. Think that having these tools. I'M GONNA call them tools because I think they are. If you have these tools in order to get you to the next moment having a list of things that could possibly make you feel better or more motivated or whatever you want to feel like is really helpful. You can do anything that you like. You can sleep. That's the first one you can clean. You can put your phone away. Love doing that like once a week you can be on. Pinterest for five hours or you cannot do a goddamn thing at all. It doesn't matter what you do or don't do the main point is knowing that you can create your surroundings or your mood at any point it's always available to you. There is bringing this back to Willy Wonka always. There's a line in there. That says we are the music makers and we are the dreamers of dreams. That's saying we could do whatever the hell we want. We hear the artists of our own creation. We create the world. We live in and we really have to rely on that now. Because that's all that we have if you haven't left your house with a stay at home order first of all thank you. You're a good human in a standup person. But given that we are here alone with our thoughts and being with ourselves means that we can do whatever we want. Because the only person that's calling any shots is us. You are the boss right now. You are the CEO. You have no one to pay attention to when you are with you. Call your shots do what you want. This is your time. Okay pull it back. Let's not going to rant so in this episode. We've talked about going inward to the feelings that are arising within us and then focusing outward when you're feeling helpless help more am. I feel like the end of the world right now but you have so much love to give the world. Your duty is to create happiness in the rest of the world. So don't give up on yourself just yet and even in that the world could be your world. It doesn't need to be the world at large. It can be the world in your apartment. Some of these days are going to be super dark. Some of them are GONNA be Great. You're going to thrive some days and you're gonNA cry others and sometimes you'll thrive in cry in the same exact day and that's fine. These are undoubtedly dark times. Of course if you're familiar with being in a row at all tying it back to the conversation in the beginning of this episode everything changes. It will not be like this forever. This will all change and we will all change with it. I feel like I wake up now. I hear the birds now and I feel the sun come in in my windows and music sounds different. Food tastes different..
"okay" Discussed on Mission Daily
"What is going on everyone? Good morning have a smile on my face. It's been a long time since I've had a smile on my face this big in the morning. And that's the new thing but it's a great thing so wonderful thing right happy Friday it is a bit after nine here in Palo Alto. The Sun is out. People are biking social distance. Of course they're moving around and I just found out that media businesses are essential businesses. So that's That's pretty wild. Doesn't really change much or are distributed team but it does really make a difference and you know what everyone is an essential component of a web that they know nothing about there is a human web of connections that is beyond our vision beyond our intuition. And it's beyond what we perceive all our relationships around us. Are you know we just sea? Surface level interactions and we see our own perspective of how we impact people but how we really impact people and the we have to change the course of someone's life or maybe all the courses of someone's life that we have changed our often just invisible to us. This is a big problem because sometimes you might feel down. You might feel out and you might think well. What have I done if I really made that much of a difference if I really helped lift somebody up or pulled someone out of a pit of despair and you might even wonder you know? Does anybody care about me to to do that if I need? This is heavy stuff and our words have creative power. We can speak. Fear uncertainty doubt Type Lingo or we can speak the lingo of vision courage power empowerment and lift people up. This is a quick story about when I was in Iraq and how I learned to say. I'm not okay. One of my best friends in the military was a really really carrying guy and he would always ask. Are you okay? He had this habit of asking that. And it's easy to think you know projection or think. Oh well he's asking that because he's not okay or he's asking that because he thinks that I'm not okay. And so you know all these old defensive mechanisms and of course for my PTSD rural brain. All the stuff would just come up. And I would typically dodge these questions and wouldn't answer them or just you know answer them when they exasperated. Yeah Yeah of course. I'm okay fine fine. It's so sad looking back you know. We lost touch of reached out a couple of times. He's reached a couple of times. But you know just like over the years Yes sometimes you lose touch with people I've finally learned to say I'm not okay when I'm not and that took a long. It took a long time. It took a long time for me to trust anybody to admit it and it took a long time to not be defensive if someone asked me in a genuine way if I was okay and how I was doing the good news is today a lot of good news but the one piece of good news. I want you to focus on. Is that by creating space for someone to admit that they're not okay or that. They're struggling or giving them permission by being vulnerable and sharing a story about your weakness or how you overcame something can be transformative. It can give someone a whole new hand up leg-up push up whatever you WANNA call it out of where they're at and this is so important to do for each other is just asking people in a genuine way. Are you not okay? Or sharing a story that gives them permission to accept toy. Think about the idea that if they weren't okay. It might not be a problem. They might actually be an opportunity so today's super friend is my good friend. Otto and over this last year we were hanging out when I was At the bottom and he created space for me to admit that I wasn't okay and that I needed to cut something out in my life that had been just destroying me slowly but surely over the years and this is so hard to talk about. So thank you for bearing with me and if you notice that I'm You know having a struggle talking about it right now I mean it. It's a struggle at struggled. Even say this stuff out loud but you know what you have to do it and with the fact that it's Friday and we're going into the weekend and you might have more zoom or more telephone ketchups with friends and family. This is a great opportunity to create space in other people's lives to give them permission to admit. I'm not okay. I might need some help. And you have an opportunity to share your story in a way where you're vulnerable and you create space for them to say I'm not okay or maybe vice versa. Youth Rowing this out. There can give them an opportunity to throw the ball back in your court and you can say hey. I'm not okay. Here's what I'm struggling with. So that's what the good news is today and let's transition into the super friends segment with my good friend Abu Allah. What's up man. Hey Chad how're you doing? Can you hear me? Yeah Yeah I got you. That was a seamless transition into the super friends segment. That's pretty that's pretty. Yeah it seems to work pretty well. Yeah I'm so glad you before things start to get pretty wild. I'm so glad you did not go to France man I know close call and yeah take care. Certificate business out there with grandfather passed away yet. Hell narrow You'll reselling it in my mom. Who's in her seventies? Now we go on her off because the time the the virus was four weeks ago in the coronavirus was worse there than it was here. Still it was kind of you know now that now that the scale it is now but I was moments away from getting on that plane and I think I still would have been trapped out there today if I if I would've so I'm glad I know for sure. Yes same so before we jumped on this call I was just ranting about creating space in conversations through being vulnerable or sharing your story for other people to come to terms with the idea that they might not be okay but they might be struggling with something and they might need to make a change in their life and I just wanted to give you a big shoutout for helping. Create that space You know when we were hanging out late last year where you were sharing some about your story and it was. I was finally at a place in my life where scratching rockpile with my with my face. It felt like to admit that I wasn't okay so I'll throw the ball in your court but Yeah we were hanging out and You start to share more about your story. Yeah I mean it's kind of Really good to have inspired solutions. I never thought I could And you're you're somebody that Is doing great work in It's kind of an honor to have to have the ability to inspire someone like you so I just WanNa say you know Definitely support what. You're doing man in here for anytime and free you know. If there's any any way I can I can help. Avoid you always reach out man you know and that goes with Without saying but I guess my story is you know is not that different than like most people think that I've talked to sobriety and make it through these these times growth in the bay area and add like a normal upbringing in the sense that at French drank some drank more than others. You know going through my mid twenties probably talking more than than I would have liked. Alcohol was my drug of choice and I definitely you know didn't realize it was happening right. Because it's like a slow drip dance liens over time. You don't need allies throughout every weekend..
"okay" Discussed on At Liberty
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"okay" Discussed on At Liberty
"Making their way back ups the pipeline getting back Supreme Court. Give him the court ultimately. What I hope will be a chance to correct. The Eleventh Circuit's ruling given that the courts have been hesitant to weigh in I know that advocates and activists of all stripes have focused on local legislatures and in particular the Crown Act which seeks to prohibit discrimination on the local and state level. Do you think the fact that the Crown Act has been adopted in three states as a positive movement? I think it's fantastic. And when you look at the history of the Crown Act the first move we saw was actually the New York City Commission on Human Rights issuing its landmark guidance recognizing for the first time. That hair discrimination is a form of race discrimination. What was so fantastic about that? Guidance is that it didn't not only prohibited hair discrimination but it explained that hair discrimination is illegal because it's a form of race discrimination something that as I said earlier really. I think is intuitive for most people when you think even the word dreadlocks reflects attitude of slave traders who viewed African hair texture as dreadful the trillion possible to separate natural black hair styles from the history of anti black racism in the country. What we've seen with the Crown Act is an effort to take that guidance and to make expressed at the state level. That hair. Discrimination is a form of race discrimination. I don't think that's a substitute for courts recognizing that hair discrimination is already illegal. We shouldn't have to pass new laws when you think about when you walk into a bookstore when you apply for a job when you show up at school and in all of those contexts hair discrimination. It's already illegal. This is a cause. That's very close to your heart. Your passion is obvious and as I mentioned. You're now newly the director of these women's rights project but you've also worked on racial justice with the Legal Defense Fund. You've also worked on. Lgbt rights here at the ACLU and it seems like you have a very robust understanding of how intersection works in of discrimination. I'm curious if you can talk about how you see your work on hair discrimination in the context of all these other issues that you've also been working on sure well here discrimination isn't as near and dear to my heart. I wear my hair in locks myself and I've long struggled with the perception. That natural hair is not professional or that it's appropriate and professional settings one of my most vivid memories from law school is of being a one. L. And being ready for my very first job interview. I was wearing my interview suit and I say my interview suit because I only owned one suit at the time it was navy blue and I just thought it was awfully professional. I looked a little bit like a flight attendant and I showed up at school. You know ready to go my interview and one of my classmates said Nice suit but you'll never look really professional with your hair in dreadlocks. And at that moment I just felt that she had voiced something that everyone else must be thinking. I was afraid to say to my face but I just felt certain they were all thinking that I was never really going to look like a lawyer wearing my hair the way that it grows out of my head. And what does that mean about what it means to look like a lawyer who looks like a lawyer. What is their idea of what it means to be professional and so in my own work. I think I've long struggled against that question. Of what does it mean to be a woman of color natural hair in spaces where I'm often told that I look young or assumed to be someone other than you know the attorney litigating a case right? Now you're working on it on behalf of the women's rights project but it's not purely just a women's issue right obviously there's racial implications gender implications. There's a lot of youth involved. Why should this be a priority for the women's Rights Project? I think for black women. The stereotype than natural hair is inherently unkempt unprofessional. Just fallen disproportionately hard. Because of course that has meant for all too long for black women and subject themselves to chemical straight nurse or to other from the treatments that are expensive. They're painful they're time consuming. We spend literally hours on our hair. Every week untold amounts of money in order to look the part and simply to go to work and for black men for many years. You know there was an option simply aware hair short and what we've seen more recently with the examples of de Andrea Arnold. And of course is that more and more manner are also choosing to wear longer hair natural styles which I think is wonderful but I think that too is relatively new when you look at the history of who has been forced to alter the texture of their hair simply to come to work and that has largely been black women. As you mentioned hair discrimination is not new and certainly folks within the black community. We've known about discrimination for a long time. It's as old as racism is but it does feel like the national conversation is changing you talked about viral videos and the impact that those have had in terms of making non black people understand exactly how these things are experienced. How do you navigate this historical legacy this weight that we have in our history with trying to approach these real life issues? That people are facing today. I do think that the history of heritage combination is as old as anti black racism in this country. It's as old as Chattel slavery as I said earlier. Even the very language that we use carries the weight of that history. And that's why many people today choose to use the term locks not dreadlocks because we're claiming the term and we're freeing ourselves from the history and from that trauma what feels different. Today is a growing celebration of natural hair. We see it in popular culture. We saw it with Miss Teen. Usa Miss USA both black women winning the crown this year wearing their hair in natural styles. Truly an amazing moment when you think about you know young black children today. Seeing those little beauty queen's wearing their hair the way that it grew out of their head not having to alter who they are in order to be crowned with those titles. It's really amazing. Thing and it would have been unthinkable even when I think back to when I was a child and hair love. We have to give a shout out to the Oscar winning short that covers exactly this issue of a of a black dad dealing with his child's natural hair care. Love is a wonderful children's book and now a short as well and I'm so grateful to the folks who put that book together. I have to say that I look forward to the time when we get to a day when we can have children's stories about black children with Natura black hair where that's not the point of the story where we can feature children of all kinds and with all kinds of families and all kinds of hair just going about their lives and doing things that children do chasing away monsters and dressing up like princesses so we started out by talking about these court cases and now we're talking about children's books and the history of anti-black racism in our country. And I think it sort of illustrates the fact that the courts trying to push the courts to understand that this is actually a legal claim that can be remedied by the court. But there's a limit to what the law can do right. This is rooted in as you said. Anti-black black racism but also Eurocentric beauty standards that are pervasive in our society. So even if we get the courts to recognize clearly that hair discrimination is racial discrimination. It seems as though we'll still have a lot of work to do in the society at large. How do you think about the limits of what we can do in the legal field and something so deeply ingrained? I think legal change and lived equality on the ground. Actually go hand in hand. I think part of how we will see. The legal change is in fact by actually living out our truth on the ground by making natural hair. More beautiful more acceptable. We will help judges to understand. Why wearing your hair. Natural style is in fact part of who we are. It's part of our racial identity. And so it's actually going to be that change in the popular culture that will get us to the legal.
"okay" Discussed on At Liberty
"At high school and Reattach Komar Director of the ACLU's women's rights project on what lawyers and activists can do to help in two thousand seventeen? Deanna and Maya Cook were sophomores at Mystic Valley Regional Charter School in Malden Massachusetts over Spring Break Deanna and her sister Maya got braids in their hair for the first time. The remembers her first day back at school. Well a lot of kids have changed their hairstyle that particular time after break there is a lot of kids who had changed their hair like died it and some boys who had like shave their hair differently so it wasn't like a big deal to the students that me and my. I had gotten our hair change because a lot of people for some reason had also done that. So we when we wear a hair as we got a lot of compliments from students but the second day that we were in school is when we got in trouble. I was going to my history class. Everything was normal. I sat down. We were doing work and in the middle of my work. My teacher called me up to her desk to say DNA. Your hair looks a little longer than normal and I just said okay like yeah and she said okay. Well I'm going to have to send you down to the nurse's office to get a uniform infraction and this was the start of it all. This is where I started to feel like something was wrong because you know. I was humiliated in front of my whole class. And I went down to the nurse's office and she told me that I had a week to take out my hair because it goes against the for Policy Mandiana have lockers next to each other so in between classes after she finished her history class. She let me know it happen and I was like. Oh my goodness 'cause I have history class with the same teacher. I hope it doesn't happen to me. I went to my history class and before leaving it. Sound like myself set up. My teacher called me up to her desk and let me know that she was sending me down for an infraction and I looked on the paper and she had already filled out at infraction for vibrates. So I went down to the nurse. It was the same thing. She asked me if I had extensions and I said yes and she said I have to take them out by Monday. The schools hair policy at the time was no extensions. No highlights no hair two inches in thickness or high. No shave lines. No lineups and you cannot be altered after me and my I got in trouble. They started calling down students from their classes and asking them if their hair was real or not and this went on for about two days. They called kids down and told them you know. Think really hard before you answer. Tell me if your hair's extensions they'd get punished until take them out and if it wasn't you know kids would lie and they really couldn't tell the difference but me and my chose not to lie. The only students who are pulled out of class where students of color despite what they were facing the sisters stood firm and decided to keep their braids in. They fought the school's policy in their punishment continued. My sister and I felt that we did not need to take breaks out because we felt we were clearly being discriminated against every day they would hand deliver US detention notices so since we did not take our brains out we will get an infraction every day and that meant detention. We both racked up. I think it was forty. Plus hours of detention. Deanna was not allowed to be on the track team anymore. I was not allowed to go to prom and we were not allowed to go to any school. Events or activities like basketball games. Sports Events Amazonas. The clock Fifteen we had to be off school property within. Just be there for like extra help or anything like that. We have to be off property or Suspended on the spot going to school. After our hair became a big deal to them was very hard every single day. The pressure kind of built up especially as more and more people knew about it. I felt very in the spotlight in not in a good way. I felt like there was something wrong with my body and that what they were upset about was my presence. The End Maya story went viral. After they appeared on the local news however their experiences far from unique the prevalence of hair discrimination in our schools and workplaces is all the more reason that legal protection is necessary. I spoke with tobacco Mar. Aclu colleague of mine to break down the legal argument against hair discrimination. So someone listening to my Indiana story might say you know a private school or workplace has every right to set address code. What's the big deal? So can you explain to us? Why is this such a big deal? There are two kinds of dress codes. We see a play here. The first is rules that expressly ban natural black hairstyle. Styles like locks are afros. Ima second is a policy. That's facially neutral but that it's applied in an unfair way to punish people who wear natural black hair and that's exactly what happened to my Indiana. So in their case the school had a policy that banned hair extensions my Indiana sent home from school for wearing extensions in their box braids. Whereas if you flip through pictures of the gearbox you'll see white students wearing hair extensions and other styles who are allowed to go unpunished. And that's a form of discrimination but as I understand it judges have been hesitant to find. That discrimination is a form of racial discrimination. Why have they had so much trouble wrapping their heads around that concept? Well that's a great question Emerson because if you ask most folks on the street whether discrimination against black hair as a form of discrimination against black people think the answer is yes but we've seen courts tie themselves in knots to avoid that conclusion most prominently. In the case of Chastity Jones so chassis Jones had applied for a customer service possession at a call center. She was selected for the position and before she was allowed to complete her new. Hire paperwork but hurry manager asked if she planned to continue to wear her hair in locks or what some people call dreadlocks and the reason was that the company had a policy that prohibited employees from wearing locks based on the theory that locks tend to get messy even though chastity. Jones's hair was in fact not messy. A fact like hiring manager recognized in explaining the policy to Miss Jones and when she refused to cut her hair she was had. The job offer rescinded. That case made it all the way up to eleven circuit court of Appeals. And what you see the court doing that. Opinion is go through a number of sort of mental gymnastics to avoid the conclusion. That chastity was a victim of race discrimination. And the first reason the court says that race is an immutable characteristic. But Hairstyles. Of course can be changed. And so the court says title seven of the Civil Rights Act which are most prominent federal civil rights. Law that PROHIBITS EMPLOYMENT DISCRIMINATION ONLY PROTECTS CHARACTERISTICS. That are immutable now. A couple things wrong with that. The first is titled. Seven in fact already prohibits religious discrimination religion of course is something that can be changed but we realize it's something that's so Korge who we are so central that we shouldn't have to change it simply to do our job. The other thing. The court overlooked is that while hairstyles can be changed hair. Texture of course is not immutable and so the effect of a policy that banned black people from wearing their hair in a natural style of course is to require them to alter that texture of their hair and the way that it grows up their heads simply to come to work. It's fascinating as you said. It made it all the way up to the eleventh circuit and then the Supreme Court was asked to hear the case and they declined. Give any sense of why the Supreme Court declined to weigh in on Jesse Jones case. You know there are a number of reasons. It's a cream court doesn't take cases and one could be simply that there really hadn't been a large number of cases raising issue not could be one reason the court didn't take it on and so what you're left with is a world in which the most current leading case in this question is the case of Chastity Jones because the Supreme Court let on challenged and so that then stands as a lot lands and then it's very discouraging to other people who are experiencing here. Discrimination may wrongly think they have no recourse. It actually discourages other cases for.
"okay" Discussed on Marty Smith's America The Podcast
"Involved. They genuinely do care. And Man I'm just so thankful you know that that I found a way of refined assign my happiness again to find my mo Jo in the font that thing that wakes me up every morning to get up and get after it and want to get better each and every weekday not only in an athletic standpoint or what I'm doing on the football field to grow as a man and to grow as a human being You know just try to be better than what I was the day before. I'll tell you how you twenty two years old. How are you going to twenty two? You have remarkable Self awareness for someone your age and you know what a lot of people don't understand and having had the blessing of being around on so many young men your age in the last five or ten years covering college football say all the time that the most under reported part of of the game is the quality of the young men playing it and what outsiders can't understand is the immense immense pressure. Sure that all of you are under not only. Do you have to excel academically. Not only are you expected. Expected to excel athletically. You also are celebrities and there's a lot that comes with that that those who don't live at can't fathom and part of that is everything that you just mentioned. That was your senior year at the University of Kentucky. All of that is very real. Human emotion that a lot of people manage but shares held to manage it on the platform. That you do that you had to and it. It makes me so. Oh happy to hear that despite all of those obstacles despite all of that heartache despite all of those damn hard lessons to learn you're are in this place right now where joy reigns and that is that means it wasn't for not you're going to be a wonderful example for so many because of that self awareness and I'm GonNa make sure you get you rods back appreciate it man. That's a lot. That's a lot of money and above that I mean there's a lot of memories and a lot of joy that they took but I'll ask you one more thing and I'll get you out of here. I just know there's a lot of people myself included who we're really proud of you and Brusett more. Your future is so bright and and the light that you are will impact so many so the last thing that I want to discuss is when when football is over and the fact that you are so dog that you're going to be a professional national fisherman. What like that's the dream correct? That's a dream I mean there. I mean there's a lot of dreams names you know that I and there's a lot of things that I wanna do in life and football is always been you know the one you know that that one of my biggest dreams and Malta ultimate dream. But another all agreem- you know and then I mean We go back and they send you pictures of it just show you but just of how bad I'll I wanna be a professional fishing one day and how much I love it. It's just because I'm myself out there and You know after football with my youtube channel in and I and I was Expressed to you Melissa and Tim and everybody there as the network is that I wanna get involved with college athletes And and merged the sports world in the outdoor world together. Where whether if I'm working for you ask C.? Network or if I gotta do it on my own youtube channel or whatever just because those people see the the athlete and like you said this the celebrity status almost and when we go out at places were expected to you know to act a certain way and to always be a good representation of our university our families and ourselves. And I'm not saying that you know not everybody is but you know your your real self out there. No matter how big of a star you may that'd be I mean you can have one of the biggest egos you know and and athletics but I promise you that if I take you out on on a body of water up put in a tree. The Standard Round bomb. If you where there's no crowd there's no lights there's no twitter. There's no livestream this this is that it's just you who the Rod and nature and the water hunting and fishing and it's just you out there and you hear the birds Chirp and you hear you feel to win you know. Come across the hairs your arms and legs and you just and and for me. That's my place that piece man I mean and I find my peace there and I and I want to be able to offer that up to so many athletes to say in in for people that and especially for people that in athletics the arms in In the outdoors and want to get outdoors. But there's a lot of people You know not just in the Major College Sports Basketball Baseball football but but one of my best friends up here names Ian Food. He's on the Kentucky Rock thing. I mean I I call this is how good of a shy but You know I mean him was formed a friendship this because of how much we love the outdoors and You know we were working on together. You know we're deer hunting together. I got my first year on camera with him. This fall I'll You know and you know. There's there's a lot of things you know that just because we have a love for the outdoors you know we. We formed a brotherhood over that rather than me just just you know former Brotherhood you know that. I have with my teammates here football field. But you know I'm branching out to other sports you know and other people making more relationships there and I want that'd be able to offer that up you know it's everybody You Know College athletics and be able to take them out You know in either introducing to the outdoors you know or take him out if they're in and provide them something you know that they've always loved and loved new and But that's something that's one thing I definitely like to get going but just from the professional fishing fishing side of a man. I mean there's there's nothing like you know with the excitement that I get from it from watching those tournaments. I've I've been fortunate enough to go to the Bass Masters Classic back in a two thousand four suck me when Takahiro Mori wanted in the patent. The last five minutes. They're on Lake Wylie. I'll never forget that. Then he took me to the bluegrass brawl in two thousand six up down in Kentucky Lake. I stayed in in in in the same motel as Gerald swindle and mortar stone. I had dinner with Joe Thomas and his family down there marched on getting me a bunch of basket hats and raw materials. And and that's how gee I mean this is this is so many good the people involved in it man and It's at the same time you know you're out there but at the same time they're still competing and I'm always going to be competing anything that I do just because that's my nature and that's how tact everything that I do you know if if you're right here right now and you could tell me that you know you could throw this ball although you know forty yards. I'm I'll be damned if I'M GONNA throw it forty one or whatever it is but it's it's the best of both worlds for me because I'm out author piece but at the same time I'm competing and You know it's just Such a a great industry you know how visiting his grown Especially for a competitive fishing has grown Not just for the elite anglers on the professional. Just bring anybody in general from the college level all too high school to You know just amateur you know on the weekends fish so many opportunities and and they want people to get into fishing and and I want to be able to be one of those people that they get a lot of people into the outdoors. Not just fishing you know but hunting as well even fishing you know as my bread and butter and that's what I know the best And at the end of the day like I said it's just to be able to provide you know another outlet for somebody that they never thought that could work for them and And I've taken so many people fish and just with me That never really done it before and now you know. They're texting me. Pictures of rods and reels in what compost get. And you know what base the throat here and this this and that and that brings me joy almost more than somebody texted me about a play you know and insane. What am I doing this coverage you know that's just because that's life you know it's not just a game you know this is life and this is what we do and sometimes how we deal with stuff so That's something I definitely want to get involved with so You know after football's over with no giving you just get involved with any any way I came with the outdoor industry and try to merge that those two worlds together I have thoroughly enjoyed this conversation and I will leave you with this your vulnerability within in this conversation is going to impact a lot of lives. They you'll never meet. You'll never meet the people who hear the honesty who here the vulnerability ability about your path and it will resonate within their lives and maybe even foster change within their lives. But it's going to let a lot of people know Tena Loan and you don't. You don't know that that's not something that you know but I do and I will promise you that it matters batters and I'm proud of you honored to call you a friend and I can't wait to get out there on the water with you here real soon brother. Good luck as you head towards pro day. We're all cheering like hail for you. And I'm so glad you found joy but if you don't mind me saying just one thing no for people out there listening you're not alone man and It took me a long time to realize that there was so many outlets that are right in front of my face that my mind wouldn't let me wouldn't allow myself to open up because I've always just been no like the percent of a billy billy bad ass you know. Don't show emotion You know this this that but it's over and I and I can't reiterate enough man it is okay to not be okay. It's okay man in this world this life is the toughest thing will ever do. And and nobody's alone man I mean and I don't care if you're somebody out there listening you know and if you're going through something you always Holler at me on social media man or anything like that. I'm always here unhealthy and that's one thing. I WANNA use this platform as you know not just the only you know career great things for myself but I WANNA help. And if you're going through stuff just know that you know shadows always give to light. You know the quote when my favorite songs Jesse Wichita.
"okay" Discussed on Marty Smith's America The Podcast
"TRASK employees when you look at that moment right now what do you see and and how do you react to what you did. Their Hands James Down top three most dumbest things I've done known them. I prefer my career in football but just as a human being you know that was those stupid and I mean I'm not making an excuse. I mean it was. It was downright wrong. And and wait on my heart Martin for you know a long time this season and Because I mean people say there's all the time that you know they don't care what what people think about them and and and that and that not too true to a certain point but as as a player. I didn't want people to to think that I was just thirty player. Because I'm not and that's just one incident. You can sit there and say well you did this. Yeah did and And I instantly regret it. You know I should have right right after the game apologized to cow and everybody else but at that time I just feel like there was so much emotion around that game and there was so much Going on with that that at that time I felt like it wouldn't have mattered. You know if I said something because of you know the heat was already coming down. I didn't want people woulda just as a scapegoat. You know or sell famous thing because I mean I know on this stuff and it was stupid being and if I could go back and do all over again I would have just the tackle got up and you know. Play the next play which Which is what I've always been about in the first place but you know when when when you play this game like I do and I play you know with such a a ferocity mindset and with that game how big emotional game that is for us and you know was straight and everything in last year and all of the high build up around it and when that happened we had a backup backup quarterback coming in and you know we were getting picked apart and they were coming back on us and and that happened? You know just kind of just blacked out and really wouldn't even thinking and You know it was Ellison Woodley very stupid and you know for when you're talking about legacy and you know things like that little kids looking up to I really really hope you know that they learned from that and say that an and it shows that you know just get up and play football. You know there's no reason for Extracurricular stuff faster the play. I mean football's already as violent. Sport is it comes so so I mean there's no reason for that and you know and I use the opportunity so apologizing. I actually reached out. I had my athletic director. REACH OUT SCOTT STRICKLIN and get cow's number for me a little little midway through the season and I was the original plan was to call cow all right off the bat when I got his number. But I didn't want him to see a number from Kentucky that he doesn't know when you think there's just some crazy sand from Kentucky it's going to give me crap crap. I'm not answering also didn't want him. You know if he did answer the phone and me go away cow. This is cash Daniel. I wanted us to end up hanging up on me and I just really wanted to follow us so I texted him. Nana and on an apology attacks. Because I don't believe in that you know everyone apologize. You know either. Do you know in person. It'd be a man about it and I couldn't do it in person because you know he's all the way down in Florida but I was texting and I told him the reason why I wanted to apologize. Wanted to call him. you know that's not told him out on my heart you know and how I wanted to do the right thing and and apologized saying how I should have done the right thing. Rather the bad and You know it was a couple days later. We didn't get back and then I finally got back from saying that there was no need to call and that he gets in emotions run high and everything out there and but at the same time for me I feel like now that he accepted my apology. which was I mean? More than anything I could ask for out of that Just because because you know I I thought of his parents you know and I thought his you know his family After the fact because I mean that's somebody's kid out there you know and that's somebody's son that somebody's brother you know and so at the end of the day was very stupid. Made do and So I use the belt goal Platform warm after the game. You know they're on. SEC network you know just to just express you know how sorry for that incident could have you know. Made a a statement on twitter said something to the local news about it but with how big SEC network is with ties the ESPN and how many viewers you. You know you guys have Especially during bowl season and with Paul Finebaum show being one of the biggest in the nation. Not just wanted to use that platform you know ought to say that I was sorry even though that you know it was so long after the fact when answering happened I just wanted people to feel that I really was genuinely genuinely sorry. And it wasn't just me trying to put a means to an end. You know this thing because I know it's when people think of my career from now on that's always going to stick with me. There's nothing I can do about that except you know. Try to learn from it and explain to people who know how stupid it was. You know and You know what I learned from it and Knowing how to move forward but at the end of the day It was very stupid and if I could go back and do it all over again like I said I would just make a tackle tackle got up and went to the next play but You know something that's always GonNa stick with me so I hope kids you know and people that you know that looked up to me you know. Learn from Matt in and You know just try to be the queen of football players. I can every one of US fail cash. Every one of US operate operate in ways in our lives at times that we regret every one of us want things back. And you said something there that really resonates with me and I wrote it in a book for the whole world to read one of my greatest insecurities as I like to be like if I enter a room and I feel an air that someone in. That room doesn't like me. I can't get past that and in an industry you play a game on a platform in a manner that garners attention everywhere. You go and it's going to you get to the NFL. You're a celebrity celebrity and unfortunately for people like me who carry that insecurity in my job. There's people who don't like you you know I don't check my my twitter. Mentions a whole lot because I don't need to be told. Hey you're a piece of trash. I hope you burn die. Inhale need that in my life and I'm trying to do better even that forty three years old so the steps that you've taken first of all the internal reaction of regret second taking the initiative to not just be billy bad ass and continue to live that brand that you built for yourself and have the guts a real man guts are hey I need to get to cal trask. I just need him whether he whether he accepts that or not. I need to know how how often you and then I can't imagine what it must have been like for you to receive forgiveness and know that okay he received you. Did he knows how I feel and he has given me a response. How did that forgiveness? Feel like a thousand pounds lifted off my filter heart. uh-huh off my chest Because I'M GONNA love it affected. How a play Afterwards and that's I think that was one of the UH things that have wide reach my standard of Of what I set out for myself along with other things in my life that I had to deal with issues probably one of the roughest semesters I've had to deal with off the field With Sandwich stuff and And everything like that so it is. It just felt like this season it just felt like one bad thing just kept piling on after another. I can never catch a break. But when when he's finally when he takes me back and say you know I saw it works. You know I get it. It's okay and you know. Managers felt like somebody taking a thousand pounds off my shoulders and chest and I could just go back to Is playing football man and having a an in having a a an a free conscious you know not having that way on my mind every day and we have We have team chapel every every day every Friday night before before a game and usually we have our sea leader. Aaron Hoagie does not believable. Job For us You know lead us in Lead us in that but on this night we had Korea or head strength conditioning coach Latest in Chapel. And he was talking about you. Know Your your past life and you know your past and and letting go and and how it holds you back from growing and how it grow hold would hold you back from becoming a better person and now angle Coach that's almost basically came over and talked to me after this. He saw them. I say awesome and that was the something was weighing on me and I was just like coach. I mean how do you how do you get past your past if you're constantly reminded monitor every single day and like you said I asked the game really and I started getting all that twitter from From my phone and I the APP from my phone just because I couldn't stand the negativity that you know that was coming in that are constantly and You know and he got let me through that and you know this. Is this the receive that and then here 'cause you know response to me You know it almost it. Almost I ACA put that to rest and my mind you know and help me you know. Just move forward. I know people aren't going to forget it and you know and that's that's it is what it is this but you know for me. It was just released You know to hear Kyle. You know. Accept my apology. And and for that has so many people to help me through those Edison mastermind and. There's a lot of people that I that I have to thank for that but You know all of them only man just just when he texted me back and accept that apology policy Like I said it's like you know two thousand pounds. Total from my weight was lifted off my shoulders and chests so very thankful you know the cow even reached back to me because he didn't have to. I mean he could have sat. There looked at that tax and Su- such crew. This guy you know and block my number or whatever but.
"okay" Discussed on Marty Smith's America The Podcast
"Way To hire. Now it's time for my conversation with former Kentucky Middle Linebacker Cash Daniel someone that I've just loved ever since I saw this. This guys play. He plays with reckless abandon. He plays with a ferocity that I love and he went through a really really difficult senior year at the University of Kentucky. Coming off a junior season where he really splashed onto the national stage and into the national consciousness. Bass Don Brash personality. That guys like me just love but a Lotta Times what we see might not be what's actually going on a lot of times as humans. Were battling things that we will not reveal to other people and that was cash Daniel senior season. I didn't know it until today. And now you're going to get an in depth. Glimpse of what was a very difficult difficult year for really special young man who has a limitless future. Here's cash Daniel Marsh Miss America As many of you who are fans of Marty and McGee. No Joe Borough is the an has been the offensive captain for the Mardi McGee. The all American Team Defensive Captain Is Kentucky Linebacker Cash Daniel. Why because he hunts fishes dipped snuff? cusses he's my Kinda Ga.. Yeah so we'RE GONNA welcome cash in here. He's getting ready for the NFL draft. He's got his pro day coming up here soon in Lexington so man update US House all the prep going for for pro day manage going good. It's like you said there. I got a free My pre workouts enough going right now actually. I like it see. Hey we're brothers of cloth. I like that. I've always been really intrigued and appreciate the way you play football. which is full Gas full tilt all the time. How would you describe your approach to the game? Ever since I was a little kid. You know it's been implemented it may through My my dad and other players I've watched growing up and just idolizing and trying to pick a part of you know multiple guys and take bits the pace of their game and their attitude toward the game. you know implement my own style and I think the only way to play this game with with it being the most emotional you game around there. You have to play with an a sense of you know emotion in the sense of urgency That almost brings a swagger and brings you itself off often but at the same time you know with me being a defensive player how I think you know differences. Football should be played at how I was taught to play. You know as being the most enthusiastic teammate you can be in a positive way You know and go out there and have fun to go you can. You can't run down the street You know a knock somebody body out but you can't on kickoff. You can't defensive you know. Have Fun doing it. How would you define your last season at Kentucky from a personal standpoint? Obviously obviously not as what I wanted to be just because I hold myself to such a high standard personally that You know I always set goals for myself. And if I don't reach as those goals you know then I got set back and say okay. What did I do wrong? What did I write and You know there's a lot of things that you know which could win a lot better but you know as a team you know. We went through a lot of adversity man. And you know. My teammates did an unbelievable job coach. Unbelievable job of keeping everybody intact. Keeping everybody in checks you know not letting us think off the rails and mean we started order back the second game of the year and we ended up having a foot land back quarterback you know. Watch C. Loyd quarterback since high school and so you know there's a lot of adversity ready to come over and It's overcome so it was a from if you look at it from You know in a jeep breakdown into to a close land It was a step forward for coach stoops and this program this year. Even though the record you know might show a little less wins more lost than last year's record but just from an overall team from an overall program with how handle adversity and how to compete in the SCC and compete at this level Even going through so much. Virtually with your team but still being able to find a way to win and find a way to still get a bowl eligible and and you know I'm going to play in those games. Well what goes didn't you reach personally. I mean last year had eighty four tackles as a junior so as a returning leader and of his defense and I wanted to have triple digit tackles You know more than I had a couple more sacks I did get interception but the goal is always you know three or four picks three or four sacks and you know a hundred plus tackles but You know a lot of things did in some way so you know the thing where you know I just got to put it behind me you know and just you know keep working and beat the same person. I've always been just for my nose down and go to work and You know don't look back. What are your dreams? Look like right now. You know my dream. You know that right now. He's not just to see how long I can keep this football thing going man. Because there's I love this game and you know I love strapping pads on and I love the Brotherhood. You know that built my teammates each and every year you know even looking for going to the professional level I mean I know it's a little bit different than college with guys coming and going because You know cuts and trades deal like that but you know just looking forward to WHO You know living on my dream you know. There's a kid you know whether it be if I'm his a special teams guy my whole life. You know you know I'm GonNa Work My tail offer some team and then ultimately you know just Notice Bill My name up there you know and save on Mommy and be good with it and then when I get done me and you travel the South East. I WanNa like like honors Villanova Chubby Checker Maga of US Lance Fat. That is definitely going to be our future man you you you're gonNA retire from Nice Ten year your NFL. Run by that time. I'll be on the backside of my. ESPN run and we're just going to get us a bass boat and Nice Nice. Dooley I WANNA do. We got had a blow by blow some smoke like. Yeah we can't have one of these little pansy Dooley's gotTa kill the ozone. I mean we gotta have a diesel and we'll go get them black cloud all right. We're GONNA go rip some lips and Maybe slam a few colds a dancer that. What's it been like for you to be a small town Kentucky kid go be the face Or one of the faces of the University of Kentucky and represent your home state. The way you have it's been a dream come through You know more than actually you know what I expected of everything too because You know where I'm from and here is you're taking my the small corner in southeastern Kentucky Appalachian Mountains. There's not a lot of positive comes out of that region You know whether they The financial you know jobs are struggling. You know there's no more coke and there's no more coal mining and then that was our bread and butter of the you know how families and they live and so there and other things around the coal industry was trucks and equipment in on everything like that but and it's very hot pop really one of the biggest task poverty rates In the United States I mean it's two thousand twenty and I still know families that don't have running water or or you know don't almost live on a dirt floor basically so I had a lot of reasons why you know of. Wow I wanted to do this and while one succeed so bad as you know just because I wanNA help people ultimately and just being from here this the over this overwhelming amount of pride. You know that people have for you Catholics and I mean you could go to church. You could go to a gas station anywhere back home and I promise you you know you're GonNa see somebody you know where something with a UK on it. I mean you may be in church somebody putting up that has a UK thing because that's their Sunday best but still at at the same time you know there that fashion and that crazy about UK. Athletics me grown up in that environment. You know it was just a dream to say and I've had people oh come before me Joey couch was was a flyer that came from my high school down in. Thanks Bill and came to Kentucky and and Did a lot of great great things and so that was a almost almost like a myth. You know growing up back in you always hear those stories and WanNa implement you know your own story and have little kids. He's talking about you like that and everything so A lot of soccers of of PRIDE DOT com from and being able to put that state across across my chest and knowing that there's so many kids and only in the state of Kentucky but in the whole United States that would do anything and everything I mean just to spend one day in my shoes and be able to put that you know Kentucky blue across their chest and so You know that's why I never really took anything for. Why never took anything for granted? Because I know the opportunity that I know how special is and so the only thing I try to do man was just You know show people that you you know if you work hard and if it's something that if you've got a dream that keeps you up at nine. That's the first thing that wakes you up in the morning and you think in speaking to man just keep grinding keep running. Don't listen to people saying you come from two small area. You know this. This is that you know just keep grinding and keep doing you know anything happens for you but man. I'm just so thankful that coach Dukes gave me the opportunity to come up here and play from my home state. Because it's it's changed a lot of lodge you know for my family and myself and it's changed my world forever and I'll never be able to pay repay coach for that so you know I love it and it's always been a dream of mine to come up here in Kentucky so you know it's just been a dream comfort when I hear you talk about the myth and the way that the young people look at you as a mentor torn as a hero as an example. I'll be honest with you cash. I can't help but think of the CAL. Trask play and in your reaction to that cal. TRASK employees when you look at that moment right now what do you see and and how do you react to what you did. Their Hands James Down top three most dumbest things I've done known them..
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"America podcast. This is eight five Chad Johnson Ocho Cinco and and it is maybe arguably the best interview we've ever done on Marty. Smith's America and I still have goosebumps. I just it's hard for me to even try to encapsulate how amazing it is the depth the vulnerability the honesty the clarity and walking out of the darkness towards joy from one of my favorite college football players ever former Kentucky Middle Linebacker linebacker cash Daniel. The captain of the Mardian McGee All America team. This is Marty Smith's America which of course means we don't really know where it's it's going all the time. And this one went places with cash that I wanted to broach with him. But I did not know that he was going to be so revelatory. It's a beautiful interview and it was a great reminder for me that vulnerability and honesty the human element can have such dramatic impact. I'll carry this interview with me forever because it impacted me so deeply a Lotta Times on Marty. Smith's America WE JUST BS OFF ON RANDOM tangents. We're good at that especially when McGee joins Travis in me if you love random tangents this you'd better check out stupidity because he's the king of random tangents. This week's talks to Mike Golic junior about facing joey chestnut in been yeah eating contest on test download and subscribe to stupidity and the.