35 Burst results for "OCD"

"ocd" Discussed on Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting?

05:19 min | just now

"ocd" Discussed on Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting?

"And so yes, this can run in families, and the other way to think about this arena if you ask in the developmental question one thing that my colleagues and I started to observe in the pandemic is that we were seeing OCD and younger kids in eating disorders in older kids. Oh, wow. And eating disorders are close neighbors to OCD that often for eating disorders, especially the restricting ones, the obsession is, I'm fat, and the compulsion is, I'm going to go run ten miles. And so if you had like Boolean overlap, there's Boolean overlap between obsessive compulsive behaviors and eating disordered behaviors that one of the phrases we use in psychology is that our diagnostic system does not cleave nature at its joints. You know that there's overlap. So if you're a parent and you think your kid might need treatment, what are your options? I'd start with some home remedies. I give a try. And the technical term we use is exposure and response prevention. So ERP exposure and response prevention, which is basically to not let them do the compulsion. To make them ride out the anxiety until it dies down of its own accord, to not have the reinforcement of doing the compulsive behavior. So that sounds so hard. It is hard, and it's uncomfortable. And you'll want probably to teach your child some anxiety management strategies before you do this. So, you know, we've talked about breathing as a way to bring anxiety down. We've talked about reframing things, you know, is it really dangerous to have your hands, maybe be dirty or are you going to be okay? Do you have a good working immune system? And so I would, if I were a parent, I would look up some techniques for helping managing anxiety, breathing, reframing, have those ready, and then say to your child, you know what? I'm going to ask you to not. Straighten your chair. I'm going to ask you to wash your hands only after you use the restroom. Or before you eat. And I know you're going to get uncomfortable and I'm here to help you with that discomfort. But we need to find ways for you to manage it or discomfort that don't involve these rituals because they're kind of taking over. So that's where a parent would want to start. Which is basically to uncouple the anxiety from the ritualized behavior that is very, very temporarily getting that anxiety to go down. Lisa, I also want to get it to the part of this letter where the parent talks about perfectionism..

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What is Self-Determination With Richard Ryan

The Psychology Podcast

01:52 min | 2 months ago

What is Self-Determination With Richard Ryan

"Conceptualization of self-determination. What is it you know before we get to the nuts and bolts of the needs in and the nuances of the theory quizzes. Talk about self determination for. Because i think that's an interesting in of itself of what does that mean among humans. What are we determining. Didn't some other terms like self-regulation self-determination is when you know what you're doing is something that you feel you're regulating and in other words that you're also a behavior that you stand behind or self endorse this is why it aligns with phenomenal logical view of self determination because when you act with self-determination. You're acting roy where you're willing to do it. And you do it volition lee and therefore you can be wholeheartedly engaged in what. You're up to in in kind of that. That briefest form self-determination is true volition true volition so there's a lot of things that can arise that can pull me away from a or even for me into thinking. I'm volition when i when i really don't. I'm fascinated with the phenomenon of colts. You know and i'm fascinated with the phenomenon of mind control So i guess you can have external coercion and you can have. You can have internal coercion. You know people with. Ocd people with lots of things a lot of competing you know. Psychopathology and things. That are their inner Taking them away from your higher self. So so i think that. And you're right you're right scott. Which is that. It's not parallel to the distinction between internal and external because you can have had her automous forces that are with it. you can have your own interjection. Have your own internalized. Stigma pressures biopsies that. Actually take you away from self determination. Tommy so the threats to autonomy are not just extra inter.

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Food Allergies in Children with Dr. Kenneth Bock

The Ultimate Health Podcast

02:44 min | 3 months ago

Food Allergies in Children with Dr. Kenneth Bock

"Talk more about food allergies. This is an interesting thing to delve into talk. Abo- how often you'd see people with these back in the day. He talked about this this patient back when you gave that lecture that you already working with with autism and then how commoner they these days how is that changed over the years. Well i think they're more common There's there's actually food allergies which is a classical food allergy reaction Kind of more like the immediate strawberries. Get hide so to speak And then there's more delayed reactions food sensitivities which are different than denies to. They're usually they can be very very disguised because it can happen later. It doesn't happen right away. but and so i think the incidence of allergies has increased because the immune systems. Our kids have gotten skewed. And i'm happy to talk a little bit that sufficient second because i think it's contributed but So there's more and more issue's gi issues especially in the partition population. But certainly all these kids with mood. Disorders anybody with a chronic illness whether it be physical or neuropsychiatric. But what have you. You have to look at the gut and that when there are problems in the gut that can contribute in the microbiome The good the good bacteria in the gut that could contribute to immune imbalances skewed immune systems and more food allergies and also food sensitivities. Where you know where if you have a permeable gut lining you. Don't you lose the integrity of the gut. Lining keep certain things out especially large molecules. They get in tight. Junctions get opened up. These large molecules getting the immune system. Seventy to seventy five percent which lies right under the this one layered epithelium in the gut allows these molecules to getting immune system sees them and they reacting appropriately with an immune reaction to something that they should be reacting to food. And so whether you get a food allergy reaction Action and. I do believe that this is. There's no question has been happening. More and more. We see it more. And more i think disruption to the microbiome the microbiome is that correction of the microorganisms got trillions of bacteria other organisms that hopefully are in a healthy diversity a healthy balance but frequently unfortunately not and that also contributes to increasing food allergies.

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Balancing the Prefrontal Cortex With Dr. Daniel Amen

Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu

01:55 min | 3 months ago

Balancing the Prefrontal Cortex With Dr. Daniel Amen

"How do you help people reconcile that. Like when i when i read the book. I'm hearing about these dragon. Stay mostly sound negative but you in terms of if they go unchecked. Your prefrontal cortex is offline it really does become pathological and it becomes a problem. But i'm obsessed with this idea that there's pathology both sides so if you have too much drive it's going to spill into pathology if you're feeling too broken to inadequate whatever but if you don't have enough there's also pathology on that side. How do you help people walk. That balance is that the prefrontal cortex. Let's always this balance between your prefrontal cortex so think of that as the break in your brand. But you don't want it to strong when it works too hard people have ocd. It's sort of like the break is always on and so if you think of a car like going to big bear and think about coming down the hill you need a good prefrontal cortex. You need a good break because if the brakes not on you die because you're off a cliff which is apropos. People don't break their behavior and they make bad decisions and so they die early but if the break is always on you can't get down the hill either. Because it's like stop stop. Stop stop think of people have ocd. So it's about balance between the front third of your brain prefrontal cortex and your emotional brain because we need passion. We need purpose. We need a reason to do something but if it works too hard we get sad or we too anxious or we come. Traumatized The wounded dragons just so and way more common now since the pandemic wounded dragon is i am broken in some way or some. I've had trauma.

Taming Repetitive Negative Thoughts, a Meditation for OCD

The Daily Meditation Podcast

02:51 min | 5 months ago

Taming Repetitive Negative Thoughts, a Meditation for OCD

"I invite you now to settle yourself down and get ready to meditate. Know that as always if you wanna go a little more deeply into this week series. You can always find more support on the no meditation app. You can try it for a week. Free and their you receive thirty minute guided meditation experiences as well as a daily journal reflection question and a slowdown guide with all the techniques and additional ways to manage. Ocd you can try it for a week. Free as you sit down and straighten your spine closing your eyes gently. Elevate your eyes port to keep your thoughts uplifted actor. Face your shoulders and your stomach. Your hands are arrested on your lap upward or downward whatever feels best for you began to notice your breath with each inhale and exhale through year. Now notice where you may feel tense in your body and gently. Release that tension notice if that tension is associated with particular. Is this a thought that is supportive. More negative skippy. Your first days journal entry becoming aware of any thoughts are distracting are negative notice. What thoughts seem to bring you down on a regular basis.

S6 E11 - This is what it's like living with someone with PTSD. . . - Full Episode

Courage to Fight Again

29:01 min | 6 months ago

S6 E11 - This is what it's like living with someone with PTSD. . . - Full Episode

"All right you ready. I actually hit record this time here. We go so in the most recent episode of the podcast season six episode ten. I sat down with my wife patricia. I talked to her about the challenges. She has faced in dealing with multiple mental health diagnoses over the years and right after we published that episode. We received an excellent recommendation from a listener. Asking us to tackle the topic of what it's like living with someone with ptsd. And i think patricia. And i are uniquely suited to tackle this since both of us. Have this diagnosis in in. Its for completely different reasons. This episode is going to be an unfiltered. Look at what. It's like to live with someone with post traumatic stress disorder and by way of introduction. This is the we served now. What podcast where. I do my best to answer the questions. Veterans and their families are already asking so you can make your post military life. Your best life money erin perkins. I'm a. us army combat veteran daddy to two amazing kiddos host of this podcast. If you hadn't guessed. And i am joined today again by my beautiful bride patricia. Welcome back to the show thank you. I'm so glad to be here. Well good good so it's been a couple weeks right and last time we talked about the treatments. You're getting and things like that for depression. Talk to us a little bit before. We're gonna dive into the. Ptsd topic talked us a little bit. About how those are going those are going. I'm not going to be very honest. they're painful. I think Winning expecting almost a miracle. I mean you you let somebody shock your head for twenty minutes a day. You expect something but it's actually made my depression a little worse. They said that's normal. It can get worse before it gets better. So actually they're going to re map tomorrow and see if there's a different place. They need to put the magnet. But i think it's gonna go all right. Yeah we hope we hope and pray as well trained for this for that. This works in putting you through a lot of distress but like you said pain to try to to address the depression right. And so that's that's just one part of what can be a result of ptsd another city but the actually brit really brings up our our first thing to talk about is. Let's talk about ptsd a little bit. What it is. And how. I understand it. How do you understand. ptsd how. I understand it is. I mean we all know it stands for post traumatic stress disorder and that can be from your childhood from your teen years from adulthood. Something you went through something. You saw something you experienced. That was just traumatic for you. And i know that it can you know make you. Have you know nightmares it. Can you know how you can have memories of that trauma and then you avoid situations that you know make you think of that trauma and you know a lot of even soldiers you know. They get like hyper vigilant. You know because of how it makes them feel and it can call anxiety and depression as well. I think the hyper vigilance was one of the i. I realize that i that something was wrong right. I knew i had a lot of anger in. I was like i don't know why angry like i'm i'm not in the army anymore. I thought you the anger was just part of just being in the army. You're just mad something every day. And so i thought that it would go away and it didn't in fact he got worse and it. Was that hyper vigilance piece. I always felt. I still do. But i always felt ready. This constant state of readiness hyper vigilant. That's one of the behavioral parts because there's behavioral parts psychological mood in general sleep. And then you know it you can break them all down like you know behavioral is like you know you feel agitated or irritable or hof style or hyper vigilant like you were saying or you know you start doing self destructive things like you know. Drugs are becoming an alcoholic or or if he just completely isolate yourself. That's me raise my hand right there myself psychological as you know flashbacks which i don't have those fear that comes from nowhere severe anxiety failure to trust other people. Because you don't know what's going to happen the mood part of it. You know you lose interest or pleasure in doing stuff that you used to enjoy doing right or you feel like the severe guilt or you are incredibly lonely like you have tons of people around you. You have a family that loves you but you are so lonely and it messes with your sleep. It can cause you to sleep too much. Not enough to have horrific nightmares and a lot of people have detachment from other people and like intrusive thoughts that they just can't get rid of you know that you know. They go through their day and i guess to some other people they might look like legitimate list crazy but they just have these constant like thoughts and some people have to talk it out. You know there's so many parts to ptsd. yeah. I think that's one of the challenges with even realizing that you might have it right because there's so many parts to it. Depression anxiety intrusive thoughts avoiding situations. Not sleeping sleeping too much having horrific nightmares having too much emotion having no emotion at all. There's so many things and so what i was told. People especially veterans is if if something feels off. Don't try to figure out if you have. Ptsd anxiety or depression go to mental health right and talk to the professional about it and let them figure out whether you use the va or you go out to out to in the civilian sector. You go get it checked out. Because there's there's nothing that's not going to hurt you to go get it checked out right and that was a question that i was going to ask you. Is you know like when did you realize you had ptsd. I think it was what year wise was twenty seventeen. I got out and twenty. Fourteen of twenty seventeen anger progressively got worse. The hyper vigilance. And what. I say hyper vigilance. I i don't mean just like you know on edge all the time and i guess that was part of it but for me it was this feeling like i'm about to go into a fight like just ready like i mean you know kind of like almost kind of like a sprinter would be at the starting line. Okay here we go all right. I'm ready. i'm ready and it was like that all the time. That sounds exhausting. It is it really really is it took i say i want to say it took a long time to get past that but truth is i'm up past that no the pd. Has these not a broken limb. You know you can't cast on it and wait six weeks and go back and get the cast off and you're good to go. No i mean people can't get past it it's it. There are stories of people who you know they had. Ptsd and to you know after a few months few years depending on situation you can't get past. It depends on the person. I think it's post traumatic growth right where you know after your trauma you become a stronger person. A bigger percent better person. I don't know if i would. I would say that people ever get over their trauma. They just they build one right in that instead of letting the letting it crush them they use it to to fuel becoming a better person in the end and the thing is it's not always a choice. I don't think this is my opinion right. I don't think it's always a choice whether you get to say like oh. I'm past the worst part of my ptsd. And i'm only headed for post traumatic growth now. I don't even think i've heard that term post traumatic growth. So i don't know. If i would be i don't know if my opinion i mean i hope that's a real thing Veteran futterman talk to me. One time so you're doing it basically you're doing to post traumatic growth thing like you like you know you start a company like you've got a great career you've got a great family you know you've got a beautiful home cars dog you've got all this stuff going for you you're doing life right you're in your a great church like you're doing all these things right and hosting this podcast you're getting so much stuff done okay and i'm like okay cool why don't it feel better yeah really i'm like okay. We'll see if this post traumatic growth. I number one. i'm happy i'm growing. I'm happy growing getting better. getting smarter. Faster stronger whatever it is. I'm happy about that part but like it is this like is post traumatic growth a destination or is it just this constantly journey. Yeah i think it's a journey in. It reminds me of what we heard in church on sunday about walking wounded. And that's what that means is like. Es your wounded mentally sometimes physically but you know ptsd is a mental disorder and your your wounded mentally but you continue to walk. Wounded is when you stop that. There's no growth And so the post traumatic growth is continuing to walk. Even though you're wounded i love. Obviously you we're in the same service. Same church service right and we were both talking about how great it was so we can ask each other. This question okay. What's it like living with me especially within. What's it like living with me. Especially when i'm experiencing some sort of triggering episode so you mentioned 2017 when you first realized that you had p. Tst then it was. You're angry and you know we tried to give you a little bit of space and like you know. Let you breathe calm down. But i think i think you have grown because now you take that space for yourself. You're like i'm going to go run or i'm going to take the dog and we're going to go hike for a few hours. I think that you know living with you. I've able to watch you grow. And and learn how coping mechanisms coping skills. And i think with. Ptsd you have to learn. Those people might not always understand them like. I'm not hiking ninety degree weather with a dog. It's not happening but three you that works that would trigger trigger something not. Ptsd that would trigger anger. It has nothing to do with. Ptsd you you. You've joined small groups that you guys run and you know for exercise in general for you just really helps you a lot of that. Is you know twenty seventeen. We had just moved to alabama and things weren't going the way we wanted them to and life was just really stressful right. And you hadn't even been diagnosed yet. sure sure. So you've you've grown okay. So i don't even ask this question. What do you like living with me. It's amazing it's amazing. I love it. Let next question experiencing some sort of triggering episode. Well i've told you this before but as a man as a husband i feel. It's my duty my job to keep you happy. You know and so a lot of times i think. Ptsd manifests itself in your life as overwhelming depression and crippling anxiety right. And there's not a single thing i can do about it so for me. It's not that living with you is better or worse. Y you know with a triggering episode. It's that my hands are tied right. And so i think it's super frustrating. Because i'm like. I see a problem my wife is in. It's not just unhappy. You know it's like she. Has this a legitimate mental diagnosis. A mental condition that. I can't do anything to fix Frankly doctors can't do anything to fix every single part of that right and that conversation we've had many times because you're like i just want to fix it and i'm like doctors i have and they can't fix it. Release yourself up that burden. You can't fix it and that is so tough as a man who says you know what i'm here to lead my family my wife and my kids and you know kind of you know take charge and we're going to go tackle life together and that is so appreciated but sometimes you just got. It's true it's true like it's nothing you can do. Well that's not true. Okay that's not true space. Give me space. You know like like you did tonight. I had that treatment today and it made me sick today. I was actually really upset stomach today. And i'm just chilling in the bedroom lennon bed phone and you just made dinner that i did that helped i did. I logged off my computer at work and went and made dinner. It was amazing. I don't know if the dinner was amazing. But it's good good good so coming up after the break tricia and i are going to ask each other one more question. We're going to ask this question. Is there anything good about living with someone who has. Ptsd and we're gonna share several takeaways with you. 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You can also schedule your free consultation with marco once again that's live like others can't dot com get on the path to your dream life today all right and we are back and as promised. We're going to talk about ptsd or would keep talking about ptsd right but the question that we have for each other. Do you wanna ask it. I want me to go go ahead. Is there anything good about living with someone who has ptsd. I wrote this question. I still think it's a tough question you know i would not wish. Ptsd on anyone true. I'll start with that so with that in mind. What the good that has come out of it. It helps me to understand other people abso win. I hear about a veteran struggling with. Ptsd or a a veteran's family member or or family member or friend who is struggling with ptsd. I'm like i get it. I know how you feel. I completely understand and so for me. It's if there's anything good. It's that i can better relate to people who are going through the same frustration and anguish and honestly emotional pain when they see their loved one going through this right and i know not everyone copes. Well that's true and so this question might be difficult for some other. Some people listening you know like they're their loved when ptsd is raging alcoholic. Who's angry all the time. In what would you tell that person. That's an even to that. That in itself is even tougher. I think what. I would be telling that person is i. Can't i cannot tell you what you should be experiencing if you're living with someone with ptsd and you're like you know my spouses a raging alcoholic as a result of pd. St how do i find good in that. I can't tell you what good you should find. I i'm in no place to tell you that the only thing i can do is point you to the one that is jesus christ the principe who can give you peace in the situation and and the bible even says you know piece that passes all understanding basically piece. That doesn't make sense. So i can't tell you. This is what you should be feeling. This is what you should be experiencing. But i can recommend you to eat a formula so to speak of how to live better in that situation right and and i would add onto that to a more. You know just. I don't know. Do we say worldly. Come that. Try to under try to understand. Don't don't try to fix but like research. See how you can help your one with ptsd. Because i think not. Understanding is a part of the problem right for years i had. Ptsd and you did not. You didn't understand it in in mind would manifest in depression anxiety in the soldier new said just go exercise pushups drink water burpee strength water and i'm like you so don't get it and it was true i didn't you act totally asked you to research it to better understand it and you you did better understand it but now that you have experienced for yourself it's completely different really it. It really really is just just so different when you experience it for yourself. So i'll ask you the same question. Is there anything good about living with someone who has ptsd. I think it teaches you. How similar to what you said compassion. I mean i've always had a big heart. And i think it's because it's been broken a lot and you don't hurt anybody else because you know what that feels like you know you have more compassion. Because you know what it's like to fill abandoned or left out or or or thrown away so you're not gonna do that to anybody because if you're not a monster you're not gonna do that because you know what that feels like me and so i have probably too much compassion. My heart's honestly probably isn't too big for people. There are worse things that people not for pets. But that's a whole different. That's a big for people. Pets you can have one. That's my ocd. Am sorry that's okay. But yeah i would say me. It's compassionate and i've seen more compassionate you as well 'cause i was saying earlier when you didn't understand it you just dislike. Oh burpee and water. But now you're like. Do you want to go take a nap. You need to lay down like there's way more compassion than there was before so if if anything good can come out of such a horrific diagnosis like ptsd. I mean if you can just you know. Be patient and be kind. You can learn compassion. Sure yeah that's a really good point. So that's it for the questions right now. We honestly united had these types of conversations for year really really long time and and this is just another one of those conversations of how to how to live with someone with ptsd. What it's really like. i. I'm going to go out on a limb here. What's the worst part about living with someone with. Ptsd not knowing how they're gonna react something and so you know there's times when not recently but you know there were times i'm like oh i don't know if i want to tell him this 'cause i don't know how he's gonna react. I don't know where he's at today. You know mentally like you know. He's already got a lot on his plate. I'm kinda it's almost like an egg shells kind of thing like the. You wanna be really careful. You know so so those can be a little. And i'm sure i'm the same way i'm sure you and the kids stay away. Well i think for me and maybe for the kiddos too. I don't know but for me. It's the the worst part you know other other than the obvious of you. Know seeing my spouse going through this right but you know how it how it affects. Your frustrates me is the inability to plan. I love planning. I'm like okay. What are we going to do tomorrow. Six weeks from now five years from now and like i don't know win and might depression depression. Yeah and you're going to be like. Oh sorry man like as much as you would love to go do that. Depression is just crushed. You for that day or week or i mean there are many many times to. I'm going to say through the years that i've pushed myself. You know because. I i wanna do fun things at the family like you know. I think a lot of people feel that way. Like yeah wanna goaded disneyworld and make memories you know and you feel like that that depression creep over you and you just got to push through it as hard as it is. You just gotta you can't quit. You got to keep moving gonna walk wounded speaking of which so i know we. We referenced. The walk wounded message right. So so for those of you. Who don't know this was a message from church. The highlands with A great jura tear in this region of the country. One of the biggest in the nation as i recall got twenty plus camp twenty two twenty. Three i don't even know now. We got a bunch of campuses anyway. The the one of the pastors nikon carter. He spoke any told the story about a guy that will testament by the name of jacob who ends up wrestling with this angel and this angel as he's wrestling with jacob he he knocks jacobs jacobs hip out of socket right but jacob keeps wrestling. He's like hey. I am not going to let you go until you bless me. And so he. He eventually wins the wrestling match. The angel blesses him. And then jacob has to go meet his brother. There's whole back did this to me his brother and as he's going to meet his brother he's limping like crazy. And so even though the angels blessed and basically god putting his hand on him and saying hey like i you know i i love you. I approve of what you're doing. You know i'm blessing right now. Even though god did that he didn't heal him completely soup but jacob still had to keep moving and he had to walk wounded. Right into put in real world speak is like yeah. You can have blessings you can have all these great things in life you can have money. Houses cars land lakes pools vacation homes. But that doesn't mean you're not going to have wounds right from other people from yourself from life itself. Ptsd is usually a a life itself kind of thing so what you gotta keep walking for. Sure for sure so what's another takeaway back to. What we're saying is be patient and educate yourself. If you want to help your spouse or even yourself like okay like read just read read. How other people are doing it and that have been successful and and see how it actually manifests in your own life. Because just saying it's ptsd. I bet there some other things surrounding it that maybe you don't even know. And so educate yourself and be patient with yourself and your spouse if it's your spouse right right and somebody said this is another great takeaway. Here is give your spouse space if your spouse was the one who has the. Ptsd right give them the space they need. I will say that with the caveat if you believe. They are in danger of hurting themselves. Get the appropriate help. Absolutely this is not the your spouse said. Hey i'm gonna take my own life and then you say okay one. That's giving them space. No no no. That's not a time when you need to give them space. That's a time when there needs to be an intervention right. You know so when we're talking to give give your spouse space. it's you patricia. Saying yeah take your dog for hike. Its ninety degrees. go ahead. i'm not with you. I'll be in the pool right. Yeah right yeah gopher run go go do something to to just relax to take that. Take the edge off so to speak. Then so give your spouse space. I think is a really really great takeaway there so anything else any other takeaways. We should share with our audience today. I don't know. I think we've covered it. I mean just to walk wounded. Hold their hand while they're walking did. Oh may that's the that'll pre treat there. that's good. That is so good well patricia again. So much for coming on the show really really appreciate. I know you didn't feel great today but you muscled through it and i'm so so glad you did. I know our listeners grew be happy as well and obviously on this show. We ask a lot of questions that we do our best to answer a lot of questions and we all have a lot of questions but the most important question we can ask ourselves is this. Have i accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith. In jesus christ will thank you so much for listening. Be sure to follow social media. Facebook occurred to fight again. Same thing on instagram and twitter ad courage again. You can pick up. A copy of my book resolve at courage to defied again dot com or also on amazon. It has been such a pleasure sharing our hearts in this conversation with you today until next time. Thanks for listening.

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A highlight from S6 E10 - Real Conversations on Mental Health (w/ Special Guest: Patricia Perkins)

Courage to Fight Again

34:47 min | 7 months ago

A highlight from S6 E10 - Real Conversations on Mental Health (w/ Special Guest: Patricia Perkins)

"May is mental health awareness month. And i felt it only right to release an episode focusing on the topic of mental health. Now if you've listened to the podcast for any length of time you've no doubt heard me talk about my own struggles with ptsd depression and mon experiences. Not all that uncommon in the veteran community. What you don't often hear though is from the veteran's spouse and on today's episode. I get to sit down with my wife patricia. As she shares the story of her own emotional journey with mental health diagnoses medications. Hospital stays and a whole lot more. This is the we serve now. What podcast where. I do my best to answer the questions. Veterans and their families are already asking so you can make your post military life your best life by way of introduction my name is aaron perkins i am a us army combat veteran daddy to amazing kiddos. Host of this podcast. If you hadn't guessed. And i am joined today by my beautiful bride patricia. Welcome to the show thank you. I'm so glad to be here excited to talk about a subject that i'm passionate about. Yeah absolutely absolutely well. Great to have you here. I'm i'm incredibly happy that you agreed to be on the show. Usually it is me saying. Hey i'm going to be recording tonight. So if you you and the kids can kind of keep it down a little bit and but really really grateful that you here today. So today was one of many days where you're going through this. I don't know call procedure or treatment treatment. Okay so so. Obviously i went with you. Today is able to accompany you to that treatment and it specifically four depression right and so start with today. Let's start with today in a kind of what happened today. And what the treatment is. And let's start there. Sure okay so. The treatment is called. Tm s it means trans cranial magnetic stimulation menendez Treatment that oddly. Enough stimulates your brain. It's post what is supposed to do is to help the neurotransmitters talk to each other better and it is usually reserved for someone who's tried a few different types of medication for depression but it also helps with like anxiety. Ocd and sometimes even physical pain. Okay so so so. This is not a it. Sounds like it's a noninvasive. It's not a surgery type of thing so basically the way they explain it. It's like electromagnetic therapy. Where like in the old days where they would maybe cut. Open your head and maybe electric your brain things like that but this obviously they're not doing that. You can sit down in this chair. It's kind of like the big dentist chair. They strap you all in and they put this big magnet next to your head in a certain spot at a certain level. It's already been determined by your doctor and it made me last twenty minutes. And then you're you're on your way okay. So is that it's not obviously. I know this right before listeners. This is not like a one time thing. This is one of how many treatments you have to get. Okay so today was off my fourth treatment and i think if i did the math right i have at least thirty three more to go. So it's over a nine week period and because of where we live. I have to drive basically an hour and a half to get there. And then i'm there for fifteen to twenty minutes in the drive an hour and a half and and yeah i i definitely know that. That part in itself is frustrating. The drive so let's go back a little bit now so you're having this it might not be invasive but stewart pretty extreme treatment of kind of remapping your brain right yes. It's it's had some side effects already some some anger some tiredness Brain fog lightheadedness. The way the only way. I can explain it. It's like there's a big garden with a huge gate and there's all these locks and each treatment seems to slowly work open a new lock and then hopefully by the end all the locks will be open and king come open and i can be free of depression anxiety. I don't know if that's going to happen. I have faith that it can happen so hopefully it does happen. You me both you both so so take us back a little bit. How did you get to this point. You know obviously you. Have you know some sort of depression or anxiety or whatever take us back to diagnoses and that sort of thing so i i got diagnosed probably sixteen years ago like actual clinical diagnosis of major depressive disorder and house have severe anxiety. I have d. c. Ptsd so what is so ptsd. I know what is cd. Basically childhood post traumatic stress disorder. And then i have. Ocd okay so so ptsd. Veteran community intimately familiar with cps d c p s de. It is then the so. How did that come about. I mean this this is like you know really getting into the nitty gritty of it a little bit but i had parent you know. I had parents that. They weren't believers not that that makes you any less of a good parent but they were involved with things that they shouldn't have been involved with and they didn't have a good relationship with one another so that meant a very rocky relationship with their children and so without getting into too much and making people uncomfortable. This is a really bad childhood really bad and even in my teenage years there was some other stuff that was really bad. So just you know things that people don't really think about as being post traumatic stress disorder. I've heard other people say. How can you even have that. You weren't a soldier. Well that's not reserved for soldiers or servicemen period. Post traumatic stress can happen after a car accident after your home gets broken into after a traumatic. Any traumatic experience you can. Pdf st right right so so with depression. You were diagnosed. She said sixteen years ago crack and so did the anxiety diagnosis. Come along with that or out of that will work. It was shortly after. I think they at i thought maybe it was just really bad depression and they realized that it was both mint so they started treatment to different treatments who different medications and over the years between the two just the depression and anxiety. I know i've had over sixteen or seventeen medications and sixteen or seventeen. I didn't know there were that many others time for i mean i know. There's a lot of medications out there right. But most i know i i'm gonna go out on a limb here and say most people when they're struggling with anxiety depression or even if they do have a legitimate diagnosis of anxiety. Depression or both. It's okay let me go get this. Let me go try it. You know and then if that doesn't work maybe they go try something else but sixteen or seventeen that that just sounds like an extreme number is sensitive to medications and so what may work for a lot of people. Just doesn't seem to work for me. Or i ended up being allergic to it but i will say that i did. This test called a g. e. n. e. s. t. and it's a dna test and that's something that you're psychiatrists can do for you. There is a cost involved but it will tell you which medications and you know. They're all different classes. Work for your dna type so you have a red section and you should stay away from those. You have a yellow section. That may help. And then you have. A green section is more likely to help with your dna type so that can help a lot of people. Stay away from having to try sixteen or seventeen different medications. Sure sure that that's a really good point. And obviously you. You didn't take that 'til later. Right actually took it last year. Yeah so the break i. I wish i could have taken ten years ago. But i don't think even knew about it and that's another thing i would say. Is you know educate yourself. Don't wait on your doctors to find all the resolutions for you. Like feel free to look and research and bring it up to your doctor. you know. it's a good point. So medication is just one side of the depression anxiety. Ptsd just one side of it before the medication happens. There's something that either. Your doctors realize your families realize or you personally realize something different in me. Something is not working as it's supposed to or it's manifesting in in a certain way and i know that when it comes to ptsd specifically it manifests itself in a lot of different ways. They can manifest itself in anger in inability to focus and chronic pain. In a guilt it can manifest itself in different ways. So let's focus on the. Let's say let's. Let's go with depression right the major depressive disorder. How did that or does that manifest itself in your life. The first time. I realized that i might have an issue with. Depression was actually. I had a really bad episode. After i had caitlin so caitlyn's daughter. Sorry caitlyn's her daughter. Yeah she's fourteen now. After i had her. I was sitting just watching tv. And she was sitting there beside me and her little old bouncy seat. And i actually started having these really dark feelings kind of like oppression and actually that coincided with an anxiety attack as well and actually got rushed to the hospital because they thought i was having a pulmonary. Embolism so they thought that. I had blood clots. I was about to die. You know there was but it was a mixture of depressive episode and anxiety attack which i had never felt before and that really scared me and the doctors were able to put me on medication to help with that. It did not stop it but it did help. Sure sure so what what happens next. You know you're you're on this medication. It's helping look what happens. Is there a point at which you realize. That medication isn't working or isn't working as well as it should. Yeah most doctors will tell you you know. Give it two or three weeks to really get in your system if you don't see any changes or if you see getting worse than you're to want to let us know so that we can adjust or change that medication and over the years. That has happened so often. That i i got to this place and i'll say that it's okay to do this if you need to. Own your closet by yourself and cry for a little while. 'cause you're just overwhelmed and nothing seems to be working and you want so badly to be quote unquote normal. Go have cry. Go eat ice cream or chocolate or something. I don't even care. It's okay to do those things. But i got to this place where i was like. None of this is working. I need something completely different. And i think that's when. I did the insight site testing because most of the medications that i had been put on. Were in my red list more in the list that was for your dna. These are not going to work for you. Oh wow so going through this process and the truth is i didn't even realize this at the time we've been married for fifteen plus years and i knew that kept having different medications tried and you like oh. This is not working but we had no idea why. It's not working until this test. You didn't says hey this might actually work for you Yeah that's that stuff okay. So what about the anxiety piece you know. It started with an executive attack How does that manifest itself or did it manifest itself in your life. So i have an odd anxiety like i have panic. Attacks panic attacks but generally speaking. I'm just anxious and it's like my anxiety and my ocd. Like to just hold hands and frolic through my brain and so what. I'm feeling extremely anxious. I have to clean everything so it's kind of like since i can't control my emotions i can't control what's going on in the world. My brain has to find something that can control and the cleanliness in my house. I can control thankfully because you and the kids are pretty neat people. But i have to do have to be able to do something. Control something to calm down. If i don't do that ended up in the closet crying eating chocolate well like you said. That's okay if you have to do. It's not not not every day but so talked about the depression. Talk about the anxiety. Ptsd how does that manifest itself in your life on a day-to-day basis weekly basis. How how often what does it feel like said the. Ptsd is like a whole different monster. That lives somewhere inside of my person. And the worst episodes i have with. Ptsd is when my children especially caitlyn our daughter when she reaches those age those ages where you've espn we. We had talked about this a little bit today. As we're preparing for the podcast but it was as a recall kind of like the same ages or proxy ages where something traumatic happened in your own childhood right so so then. My brain is like imagine that happening to kaitlin. Imagine that having to our son. Christopher and then it's like this overwhelming like it's not a mama bear feeling is a mama dragon. And it's like i will. I will died to protect but at the same time. It's then there's this the the little girl in me is like. How could my mom have let that happen. How could my dad have let that happen. Where was the the parental. where were they. Why did these things even happened. That i have this trauma but we're all human doing the best. We can now. That i'm older i can. I can look at my pass without being completely angry with my parents because they were just doing their best as well. Sure sure so. We're won't take a break real quick but coming up after the break and now you have a few things that you want to share with our listeners. More as encouragement and continuing the story obviously but also practical steps. Stay with us. Many americans today don't realize the stress and anxiety. They feel is likely because of their finances. According to bankrate.com more than six out of ten people couldn't cover a one thousand dollar emergency seven out of ten. Don't budget regularly. An eight out of ten are living paycheck to paycheck to these describe you. Are you ready to live like others. Can't too many make the mistake of budgeting their lifestyle instead of budgeting their basic needs. I my friend. Marco over at mc business lab has a simple process to automate the basic things. You need to live and then never looking at one of those bills again. Head over to live like others can't dot com to get on the wait list for his own line course to learn this automation skill. That will significantly reduce your stress anxiety. And if you think one on one attention could be the way for you. You can also schedule your free consultation with marco once again that's live like others can't dot com get on the path to your dream life today. Alright so here we are back. Second half of the show here with my wife patricia talking about mental health. And it's okay. She's looking at me right now. She's like oh just made a noise like it's okay. Well we'll cleared up. It's fine and so so anyway so here talking to my wife patricia about mental health and about her own challenges and struggles with it. And so obviously there's no one in your corner so to speak. I mean there's the stigma associated with it but there's also no one kind of coaching. You through this of like okay. Well if this isn't working here's what you do right not currently. I've had counselors in the past. You know and they've we've tried to work through things. I have been the hospital couple of times. And i think there's a lot of people who mean well but it doesn't mean it's going to work for you and so i feel it's important that people understand that if you do have a mental illness. It's okay to research an advocate for yourself. You don't have to wait on a doctor or counselor or someone who you feel like is more intelligent or just because they have letters after their name that they know you better than you do feel free. No not feel free. Please speak for yourself. that's huge. That is so huge. And i think that advocating for yourself is such a critical element of getting the help you need. Because when i think of veterans who are struggling right. You know whether whether it's a physical health or mental health concern. They know themselves like better than anyone else knows them and so when they go to the doctor when i as a veteran go to the doctor i have an obligation to myself right to be as honest and as really a as direct as i can like look. This is the problem. This is how. I'm feeling. I'm here for you to help me fix it right. But then there's the stigma especially in the military community. Where if something isn't working right in your brain you're not working right. Oh absolutely that is the stigma is is really and i think the worst thing about mental health diagnoses today at least in america. If not all over the world it absolutely needs to be normalized that your your brain is an oregon and just like your heart and all your heart muscle but you could knees your liver. If any of those things were failing if they weren't working like they were supposed to have so many people around you. Hey what can i do for you. What can i do for your family. Could i get my blood tested to see if i could be donor. How in the world could make your life better but you hear someone is in a three month depressive episode and they can't even get out of bed. I don't see people lining up with casseroles. I don't know. I don't see that happening. You know if you have to leave an event because you had an anxiety attack there's whispers. There's not help this is strong. It is so strong. And there's a you know within the military there is a fear and i will say rightly so that if you say hey i have this particular mental condition it can potentially impact your career and in the civilian world because well as a mom i if another mom i don't know maybe somebody's going to hear this and maybe they don't want their kids hanging out but as a mom you think. Oh can this person actually take care of my kid. While i'm away or is everything issue going to be too overwhelmed. Is she going to have some kind of attack. That i don okay. If you know somebody like that. Just educate yourself right and know that that person wouldn't take on that responsibility if they didn't feel they could handle it. Yeah absolutely and you know. That's a critical point to is. There is so much misinformation out there about mental health. And you know here's the thing. Hollywood doesn't help and i'm not going to rant. I'm not. I'm not trying to say like oh. Don't make movies about people with mental conditions. You know but there is this you know. The joker movie that just came out with a joaquin phoenix. That's joker yeah. Okay so you know. He obviously has a mental health problem. It looks like severe depression and he turns out to be this mass murderer. Right and so people associate edison. He's bipolar but go ahead. Fair enough fair enough so people associate those mental health conditions with something so extreme that they saw on a screen or read an article. now there are extreme cases. it's true. I mean you can't just say that that. No one is that bad off but there are people that bad off that they're not usually the people who look like they're doing okay. There those the people who are really struggling there are more signs right than than you just meeting them. Like if i just walked up to you and said hi. My name's patricia. Perkin tie you doing. You would never think i had five mental disorders right. You know someone. who's that far gone. You know they're going to be showing signs. Oh yeah absolutely for sure for sure and you know the thing is when it comes to mental health when it comes to you know having a a severe enough level of mental health challenges concerns whatever. You wanna call them. If you don't have an official diagnosis right there are so many. I guess levels is probably the best way to put it of of severity. Because you know like saying. Hey i'm feeling depressed for a couple of weeks is a far cry from major depressive disorder right okay. Yeah may i believe probably should have been a little more research but it would be depressed for at least six months before. It is a clinical diagnosis. And so there's going to be events someone dies. A friend moves away. You have to switch jobs then you could go through a you know a few days or a week of feeling depressed. That's normal. yeah exactly. That's the normal depression. That's not the go quick. It'll medication so you can feel better. That's right it's just a normal life happens and you get down and i've even had people say to me. Well you know you have a lot of stuff. You're very blessed. You have a nice home. You have a great husband. Smart kids you you you have you have you have you have. That has nothing to do. With what my brain is doing. I have the intelligence to know that. I a blessed person a blessed individual but that does not mean that my brain is going to let me enjoy all the time. Yeah that's so true. That is so true. And so i just saw an article earlier today from cnbc said fifty one percent of young americans are struggling with mental health. Fifty one percent. I can believe and i think a lot of that if i can just put in. My personal opinion is social media. I'm sure you constantly see people who are throwing up. There highlight reels on instagram. And some of them still on facebook and then those who are throwing out things on twitter but there you're not getting their whole life you don't read what's actually going on. I mean if people looked at my facebook they would see highlights. Because i want to show the good. I don't want to show the days. I don't wanna get out bed. Showed the days where. I'm like begrudgingly. Driving my kids to school because i have to. I'm an adult to do these things. You don't see those things and especially the generation under us. They're so obsessed with social media that they think that's real life. I mean i have a good life. But it's not insta worthy like everything. I do isn't gonna be popping up on instagram. Because it's not real life right. That's just advertising then like you said it's just highlights right. Yeah and so. I want to go back to the stigma piece for just a minute. Because that's a piece that i'm really passionate about and you know in the military you know being healthy being fit to fight. That's part of the job if you're broken your broken leg unit can't use you to go to war right. You have to get that leg fixed. I if you're broken mentally your unit may not be able to use you to go to war because like there's something wrong with you and like the. The thing is with the stigma. It's okay in you know outside of the military that things that your body or your brain is not working like it's supposed to and i've heard so many veterans so min- countless veterans really be rating their brothers and sisters in arms when they talk about having. Ptsd like your combat. Experience was different than mine. Therefore you don't have ptsd or you can't be depressed or you can't be anxious like you're just whining because you want to get paid from the va. You want the va to take care of you. That's ridiculous it. It really is our veterans out there who just looking for that that extra little bit of money out a month sure. There are but by and large the majority of veterans who who are having the courage to stand up and say. Hey i got something wrong in my brain. It's not working like supposed to. They should be applauded and say you know what that is. Surreal courage that you having right now to go and say i need help. Yes it takes a ton of courage and just in time out of being a military spouse and then my time out of it and interacting with veterans and even people who are still currently serving. They they have these but they don't even know how to say it out loud. They will become an alcoholic. But there's nothing wrong with me. I had no problem with war. Or when they get out of the military you know they get hooked on drugs. Oh in the military didn't affect me very much. I'll have i don't have any. Ptsd that that crazy stuff you know or all of a sudden. They're wife isn't good enough. Their kids aren't good enough and they want to be away from them at all times. They don't want that interaction but they say they're fine because they're afraid to say i might be broken inside and might need some help. So instead of having the courage to say that they are literally ruining their lives in other ways right what alcohol would drugs with breaking up their homes with neglecting their responsibilities. That's may there's so much i want to. I want to fix it right. I want to fix the stigma. Problem wanted but there is no easy way to do it. But i think what we're doing right here is having the conversation for the world to hear that. Look it's not just veterans. It's not just veteran spouses. It's according to that article. Fifty one percent of young americans who are struggling with some sort of mental health condition right regardless of what title you go by better in active duty man woman boy girl. Mental health is no respecter of persons. I'm sorry mental illness right. No you're right and mental health needs. You know it doesn't matter who you are. What are what color you are just like any like. I said any other body part in any other thing. That may need attention. Don't be afraid to give it that attention. Don't be afraid to speak up and speak out. Don't let the stigma hold down. Yeah for sure so from our conversation today. I know we're running up on time. So we're gonna wind this down and you know. Obviously you and. I have talked about this a lot and me in the future. I'm sure we will get you back on the show and talk and talk about about this and how fixing your life especially how the team s treatment is grain because he you know. I'm not afraid to talk about right. My inner demons especially can help somebody else. I feel like i feel like god puts us through situation so that we can help other people and if we can't take the bad and turn it around and help someone than what's it for and i have to have faith that it's it's to help others. Sure sure so. We have alluded to these three big takeaways right like the big takeaways from this episode. We've alluded to them throughout the episode. We've talked about them. We've even said them but remind us remind listeners. What those big three takeaways are from listening to this. I would say the first one is to advocate for yourself like i said. Don't be to research. Don't be afraid to figure out what might work for you. Ask for the jewish site testing. Ask for even if you've been on medication for a long time talking about the s you know there are other ways to go about it than just constantly saying in that cycle of pill after pill after pill with no results there. There is light at the end of the tunnel. So don't be afraid to say. Hey i think this might help me. What do you think. Don't wait on them. The second one i would say is. Don't let the stigma prevent you from seeking help Let's there is nothing wrong with you. If you have mental illness nothing like innately wrong review. You are just a person who is struggling and number three. I would say no that you are not alone like you were saying that article fifty one percent of young americans. This isn't even us. The older americans during these are young americans who were struggling. You're not alone. find group. fine fine started group. It right to you know. Don't don't stay alone either. When you isolate yourself things. Things often get worse so definitely seek out others who may have similar problems going on that you can talk through to to have some sort of accountability with and accountability is huge. It is huge and those are the three big ones. But i wanted to add one more. And it's something that i've done personally and it has to do with what i was talking about with social media and it's so funny because our pastors just said at this sunday delete block. You do not have to look at sally. Suzy sampson's and wish it was yours. Delete her blocking her. If if watching her highlight reel is taking your joy. Delete her if mr man who has it all together all the money all the muscles and the most beautiful wife you've ever seen if that stealing your joy delete him bought him because you need to focus on you and yours is so good. That is so so good so patricia. It is been an amazing conversation with you. I wanna thank you personally. Thank you for your courage to come on the show and talk about not just health in general but your own mental health your own struggles with the diagnoses. You know you've had hospital stays as a result had so many things going your life and so thank you so much for talking about this important topic with us you know. We all have a lot of questions but the most important question you can ask yourself is. This have accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith in jesus christ and before we go one thing. Patricia wanted me to point out was earlier. she referenced. cpt. St and she called it childhood. Ptsd it is actually complex. Ptsd would she informed me of later in complex. Ptsd is brought about from long term trauma that might be physical emotional sexual abuse own going childhood neglect things like that. It could even be a prisoner of war type of situation that brings about complex. Ptsd so just clarification. There that that was what she was referencing in the second. Half of the episode. You may have heard probably did hear a lot of clicking in the background while that clicking was my burien husky running around on a hardwood floor and unfortunately we can't edit that out he just kind of made a cameo appearance on the podcast so that dog is the way i deal with my ptsd and depression having a pet. It just helps a lot so anyway. Thank you so much for listening. It has been a joy sharing our hearts with you today. Be sure to check us out on social media. We at facebook at courage to fight again. Instagram also occurred to fight again and twitter at courage again and check us out on our website at courage to fight again dot com a whole lot. More resources there well until next time. Thanks for listening. We served now. What is a production of courage to fight again.

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Deliberation in Practice and Pandemics, With Leva Esnulaityt

Social Media & Politics

02:18 min | 8 months ago

Deliberation in Practice and Pandemics, With Leva Esnulaityt

"Let me turn it over to gave chesney late today again. She's a policy analyst at ocd. gave up. thanks for taking the time out to the social media and politics podcast. Hello thank you for having me so the stage here. Why don't we start out by outlining for the listeners. what types of processes we're talking about here. What exactly are deliberative processes. According to the criteria outlined by the oecd so a representative deliberative process is a type of innovative citizen participation so it usually refers to a randomly selected group of citizens that is broadly representative of the society. Which is gathered for at least several days to learn and deliberate us specific policy issue and then provide collected recommendations to a public authority that has gathered this group or commissioned the process. You've outlined a number of different types of these delivered processes. Which i wanna get into in a second but i When you were making the report there's two hundred eighty nine cases of deliberation that you studied. And i was just curious if we could start out by talking about how you actually went and selected those cases of where they come from indeed. It's quite an interesting database. Offer close to three hundred examples. So i we have identified the three main criteria that we wanted all of the deliberative processes in the database to meet so that they would be government in shaded so meaning that they do have impact in the making there. Were at least one day of face to face meetings and so they were all as well face to face and at that point not online and the way that we went about finding these processes is of course firstly some desk research targeted requests to organizations policy makers and academics studying these processes are working on these processes on designing momentum them as well as outreach to our innovative citizen participation network democracy r d network. And we've also had an open call for cases or examples of representative delivered processes where everybody could submit one if they knew about it

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Chris Knowles,  Lucifers Technologies And The Mk Ultra-terrestrials

The Higherside Chats

04:06 min | 9 months ago

Chris Knowles, Lucifers Technologies And The Mk Ultra-terrestrials

"This is the way our side shatters from sunny san diego. I'm greg carl would. And when we think about technological progress on human time line and all the nineteen fifties versions of what our world would bring. It seems that we're quite a bit off script. Not only are we lacking the personalized silver saucers and cheery meal making robot maids but instead the false promises of tomorrowland have been replaced with dystopia digital surveillance intense fields. vmf radiation and rarely a useful tool. That isn't paid for with data collection and market research to further. Commit you to a bland existence of screen addiction and a never ending struggle to keep it all charged sure. The screen is smaller. The internet is here in the vacuum can fumble around on its own but how advanced if things gotten really nastase extraordinary budget in decades of focus of yielded almost no major changes to rocketry no exciting daily moon shuttles or space elevators just rc. Cars of tinfoil taking selfies nevada desert and calling it mars the advancements in food science and industrialized diets have left many of us. We can obese with gmo. Crops compromising the global food supply with all the altruism of an invading army and with malpractice medical airs death by medicine being the third leading cause of death even by the most conservative statistics. I'm not sure they've got it all worked out there either so it seems the biggest achievement of modern is the cult like following. It's a amassed despite its shortcomings and when you consider where they might have been getting their ideas. Maybe that's to be expected. Well when it comes to the work in today's returning guests. Chris knowles has pulled on so many fascinating threads throughout the years on the secret son blog from the strange songs of the siren. Elizabeth frazier to the potent symbolism of award shows in pop culture rituals material nested beneath the umbrella term lucifer's technologies. It is fascinated your humble host. The most and with chris having added a few logs to that fire. Recently it gives us plenty to talk about society crumbles down around us her says no shortage of. Thc appearances at this point. And i'm psyched to do it again. Hot on the heels of his new book entitled the endless american midnight a massive collection of the best of the best from the secret son blog as well as the launching of the secret son institute of advanced synchro mysticism on the patriot platform. And let's not forget to mention his recent novel. He will live up in the sky. A wild ride if there ever was one and his classics our gods wear spandex. The secret history of rock and roll as busy as ever. The chronicler of humanity's decline apocalypse watchdog extraordinary and straight shooting synchro mystic sage of the secret son blog christmas man. Welcome back to the higher side. Oh what an introduction. I try to frank. You thank you very much. I'm going to blurb that on my next book. Yes i'm hard and this is real exciting man. Lucky number nine. It seems and You know i checked in with you just at the right time. As one of my favorite topic seems to have resurfaced to the forefront of your mind as well which revolves around what you call loose verse technologies and the roswell working you say on the blog. This is one of the most requested topics for you to revisit as well and for good reason to get us started here. What would you say. Is the overall thesis of this thread or the hypothesis. You're working from man. It's so complex because the series was written in one of my ocd. you know. or i'm just sort of manic mode for like a week and a half just stayed up all night reading everything and writing and all that kind of thing so you know in my most. When i started the series again. I talked about how like it wasn't the most workers have ever done. It was just very haphazard. But you know just like that thriller discovery finding things but basically is i was looking at the explosion of technology particularly electronics after world war. Two and how that coincided with the don of the ufo age with roswell and so on

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Quieting The Noise

THE SHEER RESILIENCE PODCAST

05:30 min | 9 months ago

Quieting The Noise

"Are so many voices online. If you are a person who devils in dabbles in the interwebs whether that be social media or like a good blog or you know you just. Www in our here it can be difficult to hear your own voice and more importantly the voice guy when you are constantly tuned in to what is going on online last. I felt a need to pull back from social media. It was exhausting. Me if i could be completely real apple back from social media. I started putting my phone. Another when i went to sleep i was light detached in it was something that was different for me because i am usually a person who is always within arm's reach of my phone. I'm constantly on social media. Of course i have a business What pixie-ish beauty. So i am constantly kinda tuned in creating content and putting content out to help women Maintain their short hair and find more information and just be entertained with my short hair. Contin right. I also have a youtube channel so i'm constantly on you to respond in the comments recording videos and last month year girl needed to hit control out. Delete for minute and really just back. The pressure to be present had become too much for me so we had a huge storm in texas I'm sure you heard about it. If you've been anywhere near cnn hanoi anywhere else and it shut things down. It was like slow motion here for a good week where nothing was happening and for me a person who likes to plan my week. Ow half things On monday i do this and tuesday. I do this. And then i'm constantly having orders to feel with my products with pixie-ish brand and i pride myself on trying to do business and integrity and get people their orders in a decent amount of time so when things happen that throw off the natural flow of how i get down i in my feelings. I am very much in my feelings. One thing that i am realizing and growing and maturing and just trying to swallow the peel of all i can do is what i can do. I am a person who moves in integrity and tries to do business a certain way but that has teetered into me being a bit. Ocd and not in a healthy way. So as i started to realize like brandy you during the most all you can do is what you're gonna do. You got all around the united states. Are you going to light. Charter a plane and take these people. They're molding moves to their house or are you going to communicate properly with them. Let them know that something is going on that adia hands and that you will commence business when the snow thaws out. I know it was like more than i could control. But i am still not at a place where i am comfortable when i am not in control. So dealing with the storm and Everything that was going on here in texas and we couldn't get out of the house and full scarce again it was very Early pandemic miss going on we are also dealing with people having a power outages and people being in their homes with no heat so just was a stressful time for me personally. We didn't endure any of that going on in our house but the effect that it took on my business was overwhelming to me. And i know. I need to be checked in. I am working on checking myself. My therapist is checking me. Lords checking me. I am a work in progress. I am constantly trying to become a better version of myself But yeah it did. Bother me that i was not able to fulfill orders and move and do the things that i needed to do right after that happened. And everything is kind of getting itself back to normal life We decided to have some projects done at the house. I looked at it like you know on hdtv. I am an avid hdtv girl. Like i go to sleep witted. I watch it every day. There are probably house. Hunter episodes an house hunter international episodes of going back for every season that i have seen each and every one of right so i have romanticized the process of getting work done in my house based on what i saw on. Hdtv so we hire contractors. And they're coming in. This work is being done on every room in our house. And again it through such a monkey wrench in our normal ability to be able to move around the house and then when you have people in your house you got a couple of men in the house you know you gotta get up and get dressed and and make sure you got on a bra now just all of the things right so we had one week where we were all the way thrown off by the storm then enrolled into the next week and we are getting work done in the house and we all live in one room and we can't use the kitchen and we buy food out every day. It just wasn't

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Forget Me Knot,  A Journey to Support Caregivers

Fading Memories: Alzheimer's Caregiver Support

06:55 min | 9 months ago

Forget Me Knot, A Journey to Support Caregivers

"So with me today. All the way from way across the pond is johnny ball. He is with the forget me not charity. It is designed to end the silent suffering of dementia caregivers mostly in the uk. But i'm sure we can expand a little bit someday. So thanks for joining me johnny. So your mom took care of your dad for many years tell me about your dad and your caregiving journey. Yes so my dad. Got fronted dimension when i was full team. Mac i mean we didn't know initially kinda very subtle onset sir some stuff assigns. Some sort of an ocd behavior and habits ejaculated needs to have sort of started coming in and we. We weren't really sure what is meant. Probably when i was seventeen means fooling diagnosed and definitely before at the age tom shanklin saddam was now twenty years ago so he had yes hunts and and then he had to mention until two years ago when he passed away and and the majority of that time he lived at home. My mum and it was just because my sister. Self we guns university on my other system rather Back ceremony on singlehandedly. Careful for him. Full probably nolan probably fifteen years until it's long time i mean as nearly law tougher laws on sarah and tools variants He was to be introspective scare him. You're amazing awesome. But even then i mean did doesn't end full primary care as you know grown same every single day. She still you know she can go on holiday. She just went down and look at the data. even she wasn't enough to all the time she loves him. Most of the to worry. Also vistas right in terms of you always concerned a well-being the and worrying if it comes to bowl of marrying a happy state of mind and that's all still there. Yeah so that was. Conical happens is really back about seeing my mum's dedication. How tough was even though. She handled it incredibly news so stoic. Yeah it was. That serve inspired this inside this expedition. Maturity stop so. How's she doing now. she's doing well. Yeah crazy agree raw. She's she goes now. I'd say sure exactly now so that it was To two hundred years ago died. Since then i guess she suggested completely to new life. Ace i suppose the even though she's a stephanie very different way of living and in some sense of relief. I suppose it's still transitions dara. It's interesting because you still have guilt. Like i know especially now with the holidays coming. There's just times when i think you know. I tried so hard with my mom and like christmas. Two thousand nineteen. Our city. park is full of christmas. Trees that are decorated with different organizations or businesses. Some of them just decorate 'em however they want some decorate them with the theme like one of them was basically a pizza christmas tree so all. The decorations looked like slices of pepperoni slices of pizza. Which is kind of not super christmas. But it was very cute. I took her there because it was bright. It was outside it. You know i thought. Oh she'll love this and it was just like she was like clueless and it was and she was honoring. I think she was having a bad day. And it's hard knowing. That was her last christmas. We did have a really good lunch on the twenty third of december and then everything went to hell after that. So there's interestingly enough you still have like these guilt feelings. Like i should have done more could have done more and it takes a while to get through those i think so. It's i'm i'm finding that with myself and other caregivers that are in my position. So if you guys are experiencing that it's pretty normal which is frustrating. But there it is so. I read on your website that the alzheimer's society which is pretty much the mirror. Image of the alzheimer's association here in the states found that ninety percent caregivers experienced feelings of stress and anxiety weekly more like daily probably at least sixty percent of them struggle to talk about the impact of caregiving on their lives because of feelings of guilt. It's like. I can't complain about what. I'm going through because my loved. One has a tea or alzheimer's or whatever and so how can caregivers balance their needs and the needs of their loved ones. In your opinion like you know have we. Have you thought that one through as you launch charity. I think the as mansell. How things i i think the fittest into that. It's okay to feel the way you feel. i think. Give a lot of as you just explained guilt and extreme sense of gt Which means the facebook does because the caring for fest often before themselves. That i think is important for the mental health of the unification which ben immediately impacts the wellbeing of the patient. They need to care for themselves as well. A member. the average duty of air to themselves as much as they have achieved care to the person benefitting asta and i think inaccessible and really letting mass inside. You know that that's true. I'm giving yourself giving his a brain give yourself the option to feel how you feel and to Except that you need to care about yourself. As well is the vista

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Pandemic Self Care with Heather Ferri

The Healing Place Podcast

04:54 min | 1 year ago

Pandemic Self Care with Heather Ferri

"Welcome everybody to a special edition of the healing place podcast. I had been recording. Facebook live conversations with thirty six of my previous podcast guests. I was so blessed that they came back to join me on a pandemic self-care series. When the pandemic i started back in march of twenty twenty. And so i've been wanting to put these out for a while and now i'm starting to add them back. I put a few out and now putting them out into the universe again so over these next few weeks keep an eye out or an ear out i guess. For more of these pandemic self care strategies. These guests are coming on to talk about these that you can do to easier anxiety about what's going on in our world with covid nineteen and but also strategies to help others who may be struggling as well so Take a listen in. Thank you for liking commenting sharing and help inviting other people to tune in to the hill in place. Podcast episodes all right. Thanks so much and until next time. Remember gentle with yourself. Hi everybody welcome again to the healing place. Podcast facebook live series on pandemic self care. And so we're going to continue our discussions of what we can do to keep ourselves grounded and calm in strategies we can utilize in. I'm very excited to have with me today. Heather phares welcome other. Thank you so much. Thank you for having me absolutely. Yeah so tell people a little bit about you and what it is you do. The i am the author of victim to victory and i'm hired internationally to As a trauma coach i work with to eastern scientists specifically Brain protocols of they deal with ptsd ocd addiction and the psyche abused and Electrolytes produce water and a utilize these two fundamental sciences with help. Healing mental illnesses The grade and They're not covered yet by insurance. But i'm hoping down the road. They will be wonderful. Yeah in the. We talked a few seconds beforehand about the water and it's almost healing properties. I mean just the health benefits of it alone right. It is it's I've been very busy in the last week. Talking to families specifically mothers and speaking to business owners about this device because we think of water there's hundreds on the market but this is actually a licensed medical device. It's actually been used. Japanese hospitals for forty five years. It has substantial clinical research and one of the waters create seven different types of waters for seven purposes. Yelling but one of them is the two point. Five electrolysers hyper clerk acid wash and wanted to get that right and that water is fda approved to clean restaurants that water japanese hospitals is used to a cleans their medical facilities. They're medical equipment. It is actually could kill intense Ten minutes in this is an pubmed things like staff e. coli aids Mercer these are very very very powerful property right now and so. I'm trying to teach business owners the value of not just the machine but to really go green and to really have the product to clean your facilities in especially when you open your doors again to have a spray bottle of this spring hands. All the time is really important. You can use the two point five water also to gargle to kill things like strap infections Gum disease cavities. You can use a little bit in the ears. So it's i always said years ago. I started using the products which people drink goodwater clean water. I said it was really the specialty waters. That were priceless now. In this sort of situation short in people are now paying attention to even people who have purchased a device. I've actually been doing a zoom sessions to teach them about how to use that water specifically because they're like. Oh my gosh. i didn't know. I didn't know and it's overwhelming at first because it's a new way of working it's a it's it's seven types of waters. We only think there's one water to drink with. Ray didn't move. There are so many options and then obviously the drinking water has healing properties or medical grade properties for the first twenty four hours to help detox things like viruses wonderful

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Why Do We Hoard?

No Stupid Questions

05:28 min | 1 year ago

Why Do We Hoard?

"Stephen question for you. okay. I want to know about. You're keen walk cabinet if it is still four or perhaps even overflowing and really. Why i'm asking is when you said that you keep buying box after box of kyun wa and never cooking any of it. I had to ask myself is even a hoarder so first of all i would say. I've used off on the walk purchase. Since you talk me through it since shame do about it. M i a hoarder so i would say that. I don't believe i am now or have ever been what is called the severe horror where you accumulate. So many books or newspapers or coup clocks can't make it to the front door right that you have to have a goat path through your possessions. I am certainly familiar with severe haunting. I mean i've encountered it several times in my life mostly in reporting but some personal life and i did grow up in a home where we saved anything. That could possibly be reused. But i think that had a lot more to do with being low income than with the factors that tend to drive severe hoarding. Well think this connection were. You're saying oh that was different because we didn't have any money so of course we had to hold on everything and then hoarding beyond any kind of level of reasonable thriftiness. I think they are connected. The phenomenon of hoarding. Which isn't terribly well. Understood is thought to be intuition. Or an impulse gone awry. And it's like eating fatty salty and sweet things. We evolved to seek out really high-calorie things with sodium. That worked well for many generations until we've had so much to eat that that same instinct is serving as and maybe warnings the same way that we haven't intuition to hold on to everything which is good until you get to the twentieth century. So that makes some sense to me. But i don't think that's really how actual severe hoarding happens from what i've read. It's more usually driven by some kind of traumatic life event. Where you have come to believe that things have evalu- beyond what other people would think would be a realistic value or that. Things are deeply irreplaceable. Or that things are so essential that you cannot go on another day unless you have collected all six of your local newspapers and added them to the pile so i would distinguish between what you're describing as a kind of canary. Need to conserve in reuse. And what seems to be pathology to keep things well beyond the volume at which they're useful. Well many pathologies stephen are normal processes taken to the extreme and so we could both be right. We could both be right and then. There's the question of whether hoarding only means physical things. Do you consider digital hoarding to be legit. You know some researchers actually used the phrase digital hoarding. And that's basically accumulating files and photos and so forth that you don't wanna part with and just like regular hoarding or analog hoarding. I guess definitely it's dysfunctional in other words. It's getting in the way but this incident. We have to hold onto things to not let go. Were all on a continuum of us to do that more than ours. And then at the extreme you have a hoarder. I think you're right. Also highlight that. There is an element of obsessive compulsive. Nece to hoarding. And from what i know and i'm not clinically trained as you know as a psychologist. I'm merely do research but my understanding of ocd. Is that the old part. The obsession part is a thought and then the compulsion part is behavior and very often. The thought is some distressing thought like ono. If i throw this away bad things are going to happen. And then the disordered behavior is that you shove everything in the closet. So i think there is a very uncomfortable. Obsessive thought that gets discharged or relieved a little bit. When you engage in this behavior and anyway. I don't want to say that hoardings not pathological because it obviously is. It's also we should say dangerous in that something like twenty five percent of all fire. Deaths involve hoarding. What that's terrible. I've seen one study. That found hoarding is responsible for a quarter of all what they call avoidable fire deaths. Now we should say fire deaths have fallen so so so so much right. We're talking about small numbers bite still proportionally. It makes sense because if you have a house full of newspapers books whatever pretty flammable and they make hard to get out and they make it hard for people to get in to rescue you during the pandemic. I've tried to get in more than a hundred steps a day. So i take a walk around the neighborhood and i have to say there. Is this one house. I look up to the fourth floor and you can't see much except for there's a fan in the window and then there's all these obstructions and then there's this like tiny sliver of light i think is the light on in the room and it only dawned on me gradually that this must be where hoarder lives and now. I'm worried that they're going to have a fire.

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The 'What About Bob?' Test

The Attention Collection

04:43 min | 1 year ago

The 'What About Bob?' Test

"Legend has it. There was a stone at the entrance. To apollo's temple in ancient greece and on this stone two words. No thyself is the legend true. I don't know the better question. Is it possible to know thyself. We've been exploring this question as humans for thousands of years through introspection and self examination through religion and mindfulness and therapy. But i tend to think it's not possible to know thyself at least not fully to bump into the borders and edges of who we are but i do believe it's possible to uncover more and more of yourself in the course of everyday life. I think one of the best ways to do this is through connection to other people. I think of the waste. Cs lewis describes the connection of friendship in his book. The four loves he says. Let's say you have. Three friends will call them. A b and c if a dies which dark turn then be loses not only a but as part in see the explains what it means. He says it each of my friends. There is something that only some other friend can fully bring out by myself. I am not large enough to call the whole man into activity in other words. What i spend focused time with my wife or one of my children or a family member a best friend one on one time. Which is the closest connection in the world. Because these are people i cared deeply about how even if i give them my full undivided attention. I will still be unable to experience them in their fullness. And why is that. Because i'm only experiencing the part of them that i draw out of them now. If we added another person into the mix someone else that they cared about they would change right in front of me because that person would draw out another part that i don't have access to another part that we don't connect on i'll take it further a while back. My wife threw a surprise birthday party. I had no idea was coming and she brought together. This group of my friends who don't have much experience around each other in a few days after one of my close friends somebody who knows me. Very well mentioned. He'd never seen me laugh that way before. And that i. I was confused as trying to like go back in time in revisit the night and then i remembered who was there and it made perfect sense. My friend larry was there sitting right next to me. And there isn't a person on the planet who makes me laugh like him and you can probably relate to this right you get around certain people and they bring out that other side of you. That element of mischief that twinkle in your eye you tend to get in trouble with that group or you have more fun with that group and it's not because you're being fake or putting on a show. They're pulling something out of you just by their presence. Because people bring out different elements of you elements you might not even know you possess until they arise getting around others is one of the best ways to figure out what you have kicking around inside. That's a wonderful thing. It's also a little scary because we might be surprised by what we find so this brings us to the. What about bob test but first a little context if you haven't seen the film what about bob is a comedy from the early nineties about an esteemed psychiatrist and the patient who follows him in his family on vacation. Bob is the stalker patient. Played by bill murray and when he meets with his new psychiatrist. Dr marvin played by richard dreyfuss. His introduction is direct keeps it real the simplest way to put it. I have problems. He goes on to describe. Ocd panic disorder with agoraphobia. Hypochondria multiple other phobias and a list of other struggles.

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Scientist Jean Deenmamode on CDT testing

Goodbye to Alcohol

04:51 min | 1 year ago

Scientist Jean Deenmamode on CDT testing

"I expect is scientists zoll teen mom. Won't he's going to talk to us about the cdt test. When i was drinking the wine every i was vaguely where i was harming myself but because i never saw any proof of that i just have. Don't doing it now if my daughter had done a cdt tests on me and show me the results in black and white. I think that would have shocked me into making a change so this episode is all about explaining water. Cdt test is and how he can get one. I started our conversation by asking. You shown to tell me. But about himself and how he discovered the cdt test. Indeed well hello everybody at all your your listeners. Well i'm saw. I've been living in the uk for the boss forty three years now. It is based in london. And originally i was born in On the island of mauritius which is not too far from south africa answer. I'm matt familiar with a tropical southern hemisphere more so and in fact overrule was assessing this today at thirty two years diagnostic laboratory experience as both a clinical scientist and abide medical scientists. The latter requires more if you like getting once hints deji on the bench and doing the. We're kind of jokes. So i do enjoy that fall. Mole two thousand and eight. Somebody said to me to the test at school cdt. And i had no idea what city was what did did stateful at to me. It's something new that's coming out and we're commercialising it. It's to people who are at risk of chronic alcohol consumption and yet curiously. Why not and what. I was working there would be. People would come into the emergency department at night in the hospital and would have taken but nobody they would be smelling about. Also you could literally spend the or and you would think they'd be venturing or whatever so automatically. The doctors would have to ask for a request for a alcohol to be done. And this is a single time. Point measurement us through Might be and i saw. I render buys those samples. So i had no idea who they were and read these same samples anonymously on that cd on the liza and to my surprise i found out those who were testing negative for having consume alcohol when they were being admitted had this elevated cdt. And i couldn't understand why. And most of those who were drinking. And in fact where i imagine bhai now would be closed as chronic drinkers had both elevated auto an elevated cdt. So it became very mantra curiosity and between two thousand eight twenty ten. I did a lot of Of the swear in that manner. They went many samples private referral laboratories full on behalf of airline. Where taking it interest into this mollica. Because we're just the basic tests at started getting work from these companies. Also and i was invited to present some of my work in the netherlands in amsterdam in twenty twelve december so that was just after the olympics and unbeknownst to me there were representatives of the international federation of clinical chemistry present and this is known as the ifc see. This is the body that if you like it. It's full of international orla clinicians scientists and so on that all the blood test we have done in a laboratory. They approve that so that any tests that you have done that they approved so these people were there as representatives. Ocd the ifc members suggested that i joined the group which at the time they were trying to if you like rationalized how cdt was being done and make it a more recognized test. It was like sort of research. Talk to the time. So i did Issue like express my interest and by twenty fifteen. I ended up becoming a member of this working group and nothing lead. Did i just become a member. But in twenty eight thousand nine. They found myself being the chair of the ifc cdt working group which is an enormous platform personally for me and since then the icco's taken on bullet that a Full front to promote the test. Educate about the of cd

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What is Your Working Genius? with Pat Lencioni

Entrepreneur on FIRE

05:42 min | 1 year ago

What is Your Working Genius? with Pat Lencioni

"Pat Say what's up to fire nation and the interesting about yourself that most people don't know how you doing fire nation I, have I had obsessive compulsive disorder my entire life I didn't know until I was twenty five and it is so amazing to look back and see how many of my blessings came from my difficulties and though I wouldn't wish something like that on anybody. It's actually shaped me and provided me with opportunities that I didn't have. So I guess I would just say sometimes, the challenges are actually blessings in disguise. Well, I love the you share Dacca's is actually kind of themed today done. Now over twenty six, hundred interviews ends nobody's ever shared that specifically for the first twenty, seven hundred except the person I interviewed two days ago like literally. He's like I can't leave the house if I think a light might be on. Sundays, go back into the house and just like check every room just in case there never delight on he's like but I still have to go check it out. So that's really Yeah, for sure You've ever seen the show by the way HBO. No I'm familiar with it but I haven't seen it. They do a Lotta Great. In a row like three or four in a row or the main character actually like is really dealing with some difficult OCD and that kind of stuff and it's really awesome. But kind of bringing that to the mainstream and showing how that can. Affect you be it's like it's not that uncommon just a reality that a lot of people have to deal with. So very cool stuff all the way around and fire nation as you heard in the intro talked about some really cool things when we're talking about your working genius. So Pat, you've created a lot of awesome things what exactly is a working genius your most recent creation here it's a god given gift or talent that people have that gives them energy and joy and that they're really good at which they're meant to use in the course of getting things done not everybody has all the working geniuses. No nobody does their. Six of these things and two of them are something you love two of them are something you really hate, and there's too many people in the world that are doing the wrong things and wondering why they're not happy or successful. When you figure out what you're working geniuses are and you're working frustrations, it can change your career and Change Your Life Financially I hope you're listening close because I hope you next question's going to be, which is what are these types and I want you that'd be sitting there fire nation and identifying the two that you love the to the you hates it'll be very fascinating won't be getting into some. More details and specifics around that. So Pat, take it away. What are the types? The first type of working genius is one that people don't even recognize as a genius. It's called the the gift or the genius of wonder, and these are people that can sit and ponder things for a long time and they and they contemplate and they think about is there something missing here? Could this be better whether it's is? Is Our product really the right one our customers happy. Is there a better way to do this as their potential here? That's that we're not realizing and people who can sit in that and ponder are genius in the. Sense that every organization needs them. I was just with an executive team of a multibillion-dollar software company and they didn't have any executives on their team that had the genius wonder and and at first they were kind of skeptical and then when we went through their business, they realized nobody ever pondered what was missing at their company and what their customers were going through and the CFO said, if we don't sit and ponder more were never going to be able to come up with a new product, we're never gonna see what's missing and so the genius of wonder is the first one and it's really important in any venture in any activity. But it's not enough. You know it's one thing that to realize that something's missing or something's wrong or something could be better. But somebody asked to come up with a solution and this is the second genius, which is the genius of invention, but genius invention is. People who like to come up with something new original novel out of nothing to solve problems whether it's a product or an approach or an idea or concept. Some people are just naturally gifted and they love creating new ideas. That doesn't mean they came up with the need, but they love to solve the problem. So the genius of wonder need somebody with the genius of invention and a lot of entrepreneurs have this but it's not the only genius because not everything that somebody with the genius of invention comes up with is actually good. They need somebody with the third genius, which is the genius of discernment. Genius of discernment is. Instinct and intuition and judgement. The kind of people that know how to curate an assassin idea or a product, and they just know whether it's good or not, and they know how to tweak things are they know how to evaluate things and they push back on the inventor and they do an iterative process and making it better or they say, Hey, I've seen this before I think and this is a bad idea and they save the inventor from doing the wrong thing. We actually presented the stuff to one of the. Most. Innovative companies in America and the guy in charge of innovation said we come up with inventions and we just throw him against the wall and hope they stick. We have totally missed out on the genius of discernment and as a result, a lot of things failed that they could have caught earlier or tweaked and act, and they're gonNA try to change the way they're organized to make those things work.

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From Agoraphobia to Full Time Travel: Lessons Learned Along the Way with Lisa Manning

Not Another Anxiety Show

05:18 min | 1 year ago

From Agoraphobia to Full Time Travel: Lessons Learned Along the Way with Lisa Manning

"Hey guys. Welcome to not another anxiety show I'm your host. Kelly Walker, and joining me today is guest Lisa. Manning highly suck I Kelly. Thank you so much for taking time to hop on the show today yet. Thank you for inviting me in that. Really excited about this. Now. Do you mind if I share a little bit more about you with our audience before we get started on a police do think. Perfect. Lisa, manning is a certified coach and digital nomad who is currently traveling around the Oregon coast. She is an Army combat veteran and champion for removing barriers to a mental health care. Prior to her bag balm lifestyle Lisa had a history of anxiety panic agoraphobia an OCD. After moving pasture struggle, she went back to school to earn her graduate degree in. Psychology. Lisa now works as a coach to help others move past their anxiety panic in phobias using evidence based cognitive behavioral approaches such as mindfulness based stress, reduction, and acceptance, and commitment therapy. You can find Lisa at panic and phobia coach dot com or newly on instagram. Score panic. Underscore phobia underscore coach. Hopefully, I said that right because I am also instagram. I know. Yes. Thank you. I am also new to the INSTAGRAM. So still still figuring things out here. Yes, me too and I just love it because I was really resistant to the change and I like it better than the other platforms I've used before. It's fun right I mean you can do polls and questions and really it's just a nice way to interact with people it is. And I was telling you totally stole one of your memes about lavender a few weeks. That's such a good one, and so drew I would have done anything any magic crystal rock anything to get rid of it. He. Space right even if it meant bathing in lavender. Exactly. I must've had all those tiny diffusers around the house doing Eucalyptus lavender like to in the bedroom for in the kitchen it was does yeah essential oils look you. Lava rocks lamps. Oh. God and I mean I love essential oils but me too I had on. Eucalyptus. Eucalyptus I had the house and my husband's like I'm getting like daily Migraines. We can't do this. Anymore. Sharona. Exactly. Yeah. So you mentioned that at its worst you would have done almost anything to make anxiety go away and I. Totally I'm with you on that I used to say listen I will just give up one of my kidneys means I don't have to struggle with anxiety like you can have it for free really I felt like I'll do just about anything do you mind sort of telling us a little bit about what anxiety did look like at its worst for you? Yeah So, looking back I had. Anxiety but didn't knows anxiety for most of my life. Then I had my first panic attack in my early twenties and I think we all remember our first panic attack him when we think we're gonNA, another side of it. Yes. Yes. And from that point on it was Kinda like became this mission to discover what was wrong with me. And when they kept telling me, it was anxiety I'd say, no I am anxious because there's something wrong with me and you cannot figure it out you know and that's that's anxiety inducing and so. You know that that mission defined what was wrong with me that tensely join about life off and on anxiety and panic attacks. Culminated in what I call my dark year of the homebound soul. That's a good name. Mesfin homebound ranks. Can. You say it one more time for us. Dark Year of the homebound soul. Yeah that's Quite, an accurate picture I'd say at least from my experience too. Yeah, exactly. It just happened You know it it happened quickly and also slowly where my world began to shrink as I avoided and avoid it. Yeah, I'm really like It was now not driving on freeways now I'm not driving now I'm not leaving the house now I'm not leaving my bedroom you know and it just kinda shrink and shrink until I. Really just wasn't getting out of that. And I mean it was really just five ten panic attacks day even while just laying in bed intrusive thoughts de personalization. Nightmares I try and give myself a break and take a nap and I'd have a nightmare and wake up panicking again and it was just. is fears of losing touch with reality and. You know just all of the anxiety and panic.

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"ocd" Discussed on Pig & Whistle - Tales from Azeroth

Pig & Whistle - Tales from Azeroth

02:31 min | 1 year ago

"ocd" Discussed on Pig & Whistle - Tales from Azeroth

"About it hard enough you do have them they are there and when you're next on try and do something that you wouldn't usually do trying to food that left par in all employees or something or try like go different route when farming herbs and minerals troy moving and so two. Now you're banging light thrown in a different direction. It might be a bit weird but you that would indicate to you that you do have an ocd in that so of area of the game. It's really weird concept because you don't think about it in any case just get on with it and just accept it lights consciously but that how wraps up to date you guys again. It's a bit of a weird concept and a bit of a weird idea eh this one. Ict while but i thank you very much for listening. If you'd like to take you would like time just for an extra minute. Just spoke about the patriots for picking whistle. Now the po- costs will always be there. You guys free of charge every friday. No doubt about it just this one almost engulfed on friday because van recording issues. Actually this is my second time of recording because foget it we'd just saying but it will be that every friday. I do my absolute best to make sure that no doubt about it. You always have access to it on. Never gonna stop that from happening absolutely novel but you can't support the show in a lot more like a lot more and give me the chance to be able to community road with you is for just a five pound a month again. You can cancel anytime that you wish is not a twelve year twelve year. Twelve month contract. That i'm gonna you know. Have you signed. It would allow me to put out an dip. Do so much more with the cost and it would allow me to expand into new branches in new ideas of it. Now isn't just your pain me and get nothing back. You'd obviously keep getting the poll costs but along with that you get a lot more benefit you get an extra po cost a week. You would have some disco benefits if you join the discord. You'll get many different benefits when.

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"ocd" Discussed on Pig & Whistle - Tales from Azeroth

Pig & Whistle - Tales from Azeroth

02:55 min | 1 year ago

"ocd" Discussed on Pig & Whistle - Tales from Azeroth

"Whistle tales from well as a ways that the pig was a win installment chat for a variety of subjects with regards to load warcraft. Scrap a bozo or point. Sit back and enjoy stay. Subject is all about ocd. In wow my sound a bit weird. I know but once i get going you'll kind of or at least on how you'll pick up and understand what i'm going for with this sort of taito. It won't be this tied to on the podcast name. I don't think this is kind of standing total fennell. But let's get started and the first thing i wanted to his bag. Oc day salary. This for me is a big personal one. I have set places. The things need to be in my bag. My heart stone is one of them mounts of one of them a classic because retail mounts. Ovation's they don't exist anymore in your bag there all Certain tab you've go craft materials and extra get rem bags as the four bake parts for me so with my have stone i have. I haven't atom from my bags so it's not the same as a normal light. You why bag from world war kroft. So there's no their own individual bags. Earning do individual five bags is one big bag. A school bag known the atom. So it's just one big bag loaded two different lines but with that bag. It's always the first slot in my inventory on every character. Besides again mount just keep that in mind but scientists. That is the i saw in my inventory. It will never move. It's always there and it's always in the same location in one or two locations. Say in that bag so they say if you have a normal bag like normal. Ui atom for while it will be your very first bag in the top left of that sixteen or back that you get the very start the game when you log on and have number one character it will never move. Some people will have in fifth bag and like the very last slot. Some people might have it in the bag. The top less slow icon understand. Why because that kind of draws crazy and it's just like it's not meant to be so so why would you let move into your fifth bag way junk will fill up from your first bank to your bank. And then you're going through you all of your bags right. Click and staff you accidentally brockley stone doesn't saleh but it's just annoying. These are done again or line of sight. Best just wasted a couple of seconds. I mean it just infuriates me. Because i get stuffed on so quickly in the game just to move onto the next thing..

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Unsticking from a Busy Mind with Jessica Borushok

Not Another Anxiety Show

04:56 min | 1 year ago

Unsticking from a Busy Mind with Jessica Borushok

"Hey, guys welcome to not another anxiety show. I'm your host Kelly Walker and joining me today is the busy mind psychologist Dr, Jessica Abortion who helps people get unstuck from their busy minds. So they can be their best stuff. Thanks so much for joining us today. Thanks so much for having me. I'm so excited for this conversation I know. People are GONNA love it. It's GonNa be very valuable at least. I know it's going to be valuable for me. Valuable reach. In and Now I was hoping. Can you can you start by telling us a little bit about what a busy mind might look like because I imagine it can show up in different costumes that were not necessarily aware of at least I. Know I was. Of course, I mean, listen our minds are sneaky and a lot of times. We don't know when we're kind of caught up in our head or caught up in that that pattern of just getting sucked down that rabbit hole busy minds I like to think of it as if you're having those moments who anytime your mind is being taken out of the present moment if you're having a lot. Of like what if thoughts like what if this happens? Are you find yourself reflecting on past experiences tearing apart those experiences going over it well, past the point where it's helpful because that's the important piece. There are times when being in your head problem-solving analyzing planning is super helpful and it's a skill that we want to have. But then there's a point where it's no longer helpful and it just. Trying. We're worrying about something for the tenth time when we find ourselves getting really caught up in like should 's like, oh, I should do this or I have to do this or what if and those are kind of little clues to me that I'm getting sucked into my mind and my mind starting to kind of just do work instead of serving me. Okay. So that's how we can start to discern like the should have to what ifs can. Be Closer flags to help us discern. All right. This may have crossed the line from helpful productive, supportive resourceful to Counterproductive. Exactly. Okay. Great Now. Can can you tell us also how did you come to be in this niche of helping people get unstuck from their busy minds? Is there is their personal severe journey that played a part in developing your current here. Of course, there is A. Listen I have the busiest mind immune your world. I'm just in my natural default state I I'm a problem solver I like thinkings odds I like you know think he'd through different scenarios I find it really enjoyable and yet a gone through a couple scenarios in my life where I've struggled with mental health ends the busy mind has just gotten a little bit out of control and I've I've been in this state where I felt like my mind was controlling what's happening in my life instead of me. So back when I was early teens late twenties, I struggled with OCD now, a lot of times when people think of OCD. Hand washing and and concerns around germs. The MY OCD was much more surrounded by safety. So in the evenings I would do things like check the walks ten times you'll make sure there no one was in my room I just a lot of almost kind of paranoia type thoughts around safety and around making sure that I was doing everything I could to make sure that I was safe and unfortunately what ends up happening is your mind starts going. Well, what if this what if someone somehow snuck into your room one if even though you checked. That the stove was off, it really wasn't and those thoughts would then feed all of these behaviors because I'd get so overwhelmed. So anxious in response to that it's like, oh, we'll. We'll. What if I mean if it's it just takes two minutes to go check the stove and make sure that it's turned off. But if I don't check at the House, could burn down and so that was my first experience of seeing how that good analytical part of my mind could be used against me and going to therapy for a couple of sessions I did. A did exposure plus response prevention, which is the most common treatment for OCD, and I'm happy to say it hasn't been an issue in my life for about eight years, which is really great. It's still pops up from time to time but it. I now in control of how I respond to it and I think that's the key it's not necessarily that will ever permanently delete these types of thoughts but as long as we're not feeding them. They're not. We get to decide what happens next

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The Last Serve with Courtney

9INE POINT Started With A Dream Podcast w/ Jacolby Gilliam

04:08 min | 1 year ago

The Last Serve with Courtney

"Enjoyed episode gray story very relatable unless you to it. Though. The question that everyone that comes on as when you're younger than athlete would like bigger to the goals you underachieve. Oh God as an athlete I actually wanted to be my first athletic dream wants to be a professional basketball player. So I guess that's where it started is that was the first sport that I really played. And it that quickly died. After a while was like, you know what now got Bergdahl kind of fascinated found volleyball luckily. Yeah. I had a poster of Lisa Leslie on the back of my bedroom door. Measure myself against our. Be, like that one day. Lead the. Though at least leisurely. So when you kind of said, we're doing basketball. Then how do you kind of land up on wall kind of thing that was? A good place for you. Volleyball, why is the last sport that I tried like the last one I picked up and I've been I was always playing. As a kid I was just always I, think of a lot of athletes say that like I just play it every and volleyball was lost when I picked up his all my friends are playing it and I went to a camp at our high school, Our Future High School put on with them and I. I. Hated it. Just because was bad and I hate big batted things it just makes me so angry. And I just kind of stuck with it because all of my best friends were playing and it was really fun to play with them. So it was like I'm sure I'll like it. You know when I start getting better and I like hanging out then so stick with it and just did a job middle school along with everything else that I could play and I, just live London it gets so much fun. And when you start to get a little bit good, it was just I think we've no others or I didn't feel anger sport but I played before when I started to get good I just wanted to keep getting better on I. Definitely felt that was all. Yeah and then just think what I was in high school. Coaches. OCD recruiting letters, and found out. That was the thing I could do you know playing college now? It's like, okay I guess I'll do that. And Going with that same process. Started, getting good. How did you? Become good with was whether jet practice or you redoing the outside of just the usual everyday stuff. A little bit of both I mean I think it really helps like I always tell players that I'm coaching. I was not good until I was like it senior sixteen like even I started playing when I was twelve terrible until I was almost in high school. I think a lot of it when I turned I was a freshman in high school. So it's like fourteen fifteen years old in a big game changer was that summer I played a lot of volleyball because then middle school I played every sport. So I didn't really dedicate that much time I played club but. You know I'm not very, very good club not for a very good team. The practice wasn't very intense, and then that summer before freshman year when I decided I wanted to play in high school. I switched clubs went to NATO's Houston. Was a better had had give reputation at the time played was in the gym at all the open gyms, all the clinics they had. At least twice a week ever all summer long and I grew like four inches in like almost like less than six months I grew so much and. I. Think the biggest improvement was. By jump, I could actually jump after all of that playing at all jumping off the heading and I could finally. Serve consistently and served. Well, I was stronger I was in middle school I would I hated surfing. I just got so mad because I was so inconsistent I would actually. Do. Push ups in my room every night when I was like thirteen and fourteen seventh and eighth grade I served improve. But then I was in the gym so much that summer after middle school and it made such a big difference. I think here in your journey, just how you were determined to get better you like I'm not gonNA. Anyone be. Yeah and just be like I'm not going to be bad at this. This is ridiculous like I'm not I'm not going to be done at this. This is stupid. Like

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"ocd" Discussed on LifePix Relationships With ST

LifePix Relationships With ST

04:42 min | 1 year ago

"ocd" Discussed on LifePix Relationships With ST

"Their relationship works out besides for just go into therapy would advise the person to learn as much as they can better see the not in order to train their spouse as. You know even if you don't have those some people try to trade trainers spouse. But not, but in order to really understand what's going on with their spouse, and actually speak the same language so instead of his spouse saying. Why are you doing that strange behavior? They can. They're educate themselves. They can say okay. What is the Dow where the uncertainty? That's bothering? That's causing that behavior, so they'll both be on the same page. She she or he is not going to get anywhere ordering the person to do something or to stop doing something. They say that saying stop. It doesn't work just so but they can once. The person has someone in their life. That really understands the dynamic that there is a doubt intrusive. Thought is very upsetting in feel like I need to fix it or to get certainty so now it's at least the topic is on the table and we're talking the same language and we were both agreeing even without saying what's going on here. Is Anxiety United Weirdo you're anxious so anytime that happens. It's much easier to talk about it, and then maybe you know he's in a position to. Make a different choice. Maybe I don't have to do these compulsions whenever you whenever you push against something you get resistance so the spouse by learning to talk the OCD language and know what's going on a much better chance of walking the person through without pushing them around Let's an anxious kid so instead of talented kids to calm down. Don't worry. Don't worry, don't worry. Don't worry you and you insist. Insist that you learn to say to the kid. Are you feeling anxious or a really little kid? you can say. is the anxiety bully bothering you so now? You can actually have a conversation about things I'd bring butting heads with the kid. Same thing works with a with adults to that. You avoid confrontation and you just talk about the facts on the ground, so I'm very four talking about anxiety openly with either. Partners because that's really what it is. It's not about the checking the doors and checking the. and. I Dunno checking. Whatever you're checking. That's not what it is. It's the anxiety..

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"ocd" Discussed on Psychologists Off The Clock

Psychologists Off The Clock

02:46 min | 1 year ago

"ocd" Discussed on Psychologists Off The Clock

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"ocd" Discussed on Psychologists Off The Clock

Psychologists Off The Clock

01:30 min | 1 year ago

"ocd" Discussed on Psychologists Off The Clock

"Different. Yeah that's your explained that beautifully And you know you just brought up the word choice a couple of different times and one of the main act strategies that you discuss in this workbook that I haven't seen used before with OCD or with teens is the choice point. So can you walk us through that a little bit? What the choice point is and how teens with. Ocd would use it. Would it be okay? I give you a little background about what was coming from when thinking about the choicepoint. Absolutely that's the most interesting juicy stuff. Let us here one of the things to happen to me and you may have encountered this as well. There were years ago when I was working with a with a family. A family can because the kid had AC- be and these kids walking as room completely upset about being fit at the office. He was so for the because he saw the therapies funds would again crank with my client had use of contamination and was in therapy for two years but nasty move him. He just didn't want to work on this. It's a very fussy preparation for parents. It's difficult for the teen. I'm for the fish to write down. How that feels moment right but then was really.

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"ocd" Discussed on KOA 850 AM

KOA 850 AM

05:47 min | 1 year ago

"ocd" Discussed on KOA 850 AM

"Thanks for spending part of your weekend with this first full weekend in spring coming up this half hour how to manage OCD and anxiety amid the corona virus also steps you'd be taking now to bolster your finances in the midst of coded nineteen also the latest spot for coronavirus supporters and the New York City couple determined to get married the mid seventies pandemic closings will of that story about twenty minutes coded nineteen this new form of coronaviruses dominating the news of course it can be a worrying time but for those who suffer from anxiety and or a form of obsessive compulsive disorder it may feel especially challenging how to manage these disorders in the midst of coronavirus with doctor Robert Malolo chiropractic neurologist also author of a new book called Einstein's desk doctor which we know well there's a couple things one is I we start with what is OCD what is it there are logically and what we know is that it's basically an overactivity of networks on the left side of the brain that are related to ADHD related to checks and that it's under development of the right side of the brain so there's a couple things one is managing it means stimulating the right side of the brain which is doing things like you know going for a run exercising meditating deep breathing hanging humming different things that will activate the right side of the brain getting in touch with nature you know going out really interacting with other people being social well you don't want to do is you don't want to stay home you don't want to isolate yourself too much you don't want to stay on the internet or computers you want to play a lot of video games you don't want to go on social media a lot because that stimulates the left brain networks that are related to addictive obsessive compulsive behavior anger and fear and so I think you know just understanding garage we doing things are gonna help manage it by actually lowering what it is by activating the right side of the brain doing more creative things painting you know writing a song writing a rap song things like that will help stimulate the right side of the brain so does the right side brain stimulation applies wealth for anxiety or is that just OCD anxiety is related to that I mean most anxiety if you define it in anticipation of a negative event right that is weddings ideas it's different than the question the question is where you're sad the question is where you feel like withdrawal and and lack of motivation the anxiety is more almost a form of mania and then and again we see that the left lane when it's overactive produces maybe at the same networks that produce obsessive compulsive hyperactive in addictive behaviors also produce manic behavior and OCD is kind of a form of manic behavior so what we see is that you know simulating the right brain will use that anxiety and that and that that interpretation of something negative that may come in the future we speak with Dr Robert mellow he's a chiropractic neurologist in New York also author of an upcoming book called Einstein's desk we're talking about how to manage OCD and anxiety in the midst of the corona virus pandemic what is an example I guess of OCD behavior or anxiety as it pertains to corona viruses are are we now sort of a I know giving some folks a license to you know hand sanitizer every two minutes or wash their hands with warm soapy water every two minutes yeah you know when we look at the obsessive compulsive behavior there are a couple bit primarily for main categories one category has to do with with hygiene has to do with you know making sure that we're playing and that we're not going to please ourselves the other thing is what we call symmetry and making sure things are symmetric around us checking which means check that we've done things like turning off all lights or washing our hands or doing things like that and the other is quitting right so those are the main categories so washing your hand hygiene and tracking those are two that are going to be most affected by coronavirus because making sure you've checked that things are clean please check that you wash your hand being obsessed with your hygiene these are the parts that you know these are networks their specific networks in the brain on the left side that activate the same in this specific networks in the right side of the brain that literally inhibit this type of behavior so normally you know we turn on this behavior we shall have to wash my hands or maybe this might make me sick we do that and then it shuts off right but in people with OCD the right side isn't there to shut it off so they initiated and it just goes on and on and on and on and on and you can't stop it and that's the problem as Robert doctor Robert hello chiropractic neurologist to get his new book is called Einstein's desk it is twenty one minutes down from the hour on this weekend it may not be stomach issues for me it's intense gas or pain or diarrhea sometimes all at once over and over I spent years with the symptoms but could never figure it out no matter what I did they never went away so I decided to break it down for my doctor and get really specific about my symptoms we discovered that exocrine pancreatic insufficiency or EPRI may be the reason for my stomach issues E. 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"ocd" Discussed on Shut Up I Love It

Shut Up I Love It

14:39 min | 1 year ago

"ocd" Discussed on Shut Up I Love It

"All Pacino. I work On Al Pacino team. Yeah rehearsing with him. There you go is a way to say it. Yeah so yeah and her name is Steven. What is her name? I know I've asked her before but I'm realizing now it's Melissa hyman right you want. Yeah because I remember the reaction right because I remember that I said well I cousin named Hyman brats Piss Dead Right. I can't remember remember welcome. Melissa Hyman thank you thank you. Thank you for being here. I used to get upset when the boys would tease me by calling me. He man later realized it would rather be my last name. I'm having your name. Hyman is the boys loved. He man at from a- from working on robot chicken I learned the boys like they all do lovely men a lot. You just can't get enough of it so they probably were complimenting you inside moves or can you pinpoint the time when that changeover happen when the joke stop being that your last name looks like he man and started being. Oh your last. Name is hyman sit. You mean when they realized what Hyman is and they win when it's yeah when it was like we're no longer making fun of six a name for this reason sixth grade because the only comeback I had was not spelled not the same spelling by two German spelling and as we all know defense based on spelling are the most effective tecom badly in middle school as a Sasha filer. I know how you feel. There's a lot of people who call me. Feeler feel hardly know where Steph. No they never get to that point but then they don't have the comedy training like you do. That is only possible after spending thousands of dollars learning to do comedy at any specific institutions or. Oh speaking of Elissa speaking of institution. What are you here to talk about? I'm here to talk about. Ocd Oji as in or betray candy dish. Yeah the arbitrate candy dish orbiting candidates that goes around and provides various candies to people in need and the thing is most people know about it. And that's why. Ocd as in obsessive compulsive disorder. How EXCITING MELISSA? Yes have you been diagnosed with one? I have yeah. How old were you when you were diagnosed? Were your Before they switched from he man to Hyman or after the boys I was after that no K. Was and I know. This is a sensitive topic. My feel free to not answer any of the questions we ask you how. How did you end up getting this diagnosis? That's a good question because I don't fully. I don't fully remember that journey but yeah it I mean has been heavily in my life for a long time and as you're being very sensitive and saying that we're not trying to make light of it and be like let's say it is so funny and not being deal it can be completely debilitating. I think that it is underrated because there are sort of light hearted ways in which it can be helpful was that it is helped you. But yeah it definitely WHO's presenting in my life and it's such a like complicated quote disorder because there's no hard and fast rule about it and it's like widely misunderstood and has to do with like personality and Brain Chemistry Heroes being like. Oh I rearrange my. Dvd's this weekend. Because I'm so CD. I'm not offended by that. Now people lightly so CD that Blah Blah Blah. And if I well you're probably not. Ocd Do you think this is just your speculation of course but do you think there's a lot of people out there who might have mild form of OCD in the just never were diagnosed stirred? Sure because like if you have psychosis or something maybe more. Maybe it's like more. Obviously you will find out the you need to get that help you if you have mild for OCD. Maybe it doesn't get ever diagnosing. You just suffer with it. Yeah I in some people. Don't even I mean you can figure out if you have it pretty easily. I mean normally I would not advise anyone to take an online quiz here but Ocd quizzes are actually like very helpful. Because they're pretty comprehensive And I think people who end up really needing the diagnosis and further help which I have gotten like some throughout my life. But I mean we're talking is at a another level of hoarding in serious eating disorders. Like a lot of hand washing right like something comes up. There's like different categories of it that So and we don't have to get too far into the weeds On that but is it an umbrella term. Do they like from what you know about it? There's a lot of things that fall under the umbrella of. Ocd that have to do with like controls. There's like hoarding. There's there's different Categories so there's checking there's one that is Hot took term that has to do with the body can look it up quickly but I was looking at up early and I don't remember either. That includes a lake handwashing and things to do with the body. There's a lot of a of different That's why it's so complicated to talk about in in diagnosis and have one specific treatment for because a lot of times it takes like some medication along with some therapy or different things. Yeah Y- implement throughout your life. You know that something was wrong like or was it. This test is more like a test at like you do because you just doing a test like when you took the test. If that's diagnosis was or was it. Just naturally happened because I was in therapy and was seeing Dr. I wasn't like I'm very lucky that I wasn't hoarding. I wasn't doing anything like going off the deep end but I did have like serious control issues. That did lead into not to sound too basic but did lead into Fixating on things and Eating disorders and things like that. That's sort of like all of the combination of things in my life. That were happening led to the therapist thing like Oh this is OCD. Oh Wow so. It wasn't a thing where I was like. Doctor Doctor helped me. Why am I checking my locks eighty five times but yeah that's sort of how it came about? It's within. Did you do tests after the doctor said that? Yeah Yeah but not anything I mean it was pretty clear. There wasn't like you need to do test as much as there was a need to talk about it and figure out what the remedy does interesting because I am curious about that because when my therapist told me that based on what I told him from my childhood I definitely had an OCD. Like I never got into like figuring out like we'll do. I have it now although I have a lot of compulsive things that I do over and over like when I told my boyfriend about. He's like what is going on like like. Yeah like for example I again. I don't know what it is. It could be. I don't but I like when I look at the person I like immediately like start drawing their hair. I don't know like like invisibly like with my in my head. I don't know how to explain that. Okay but like every sign counter. I'm like immediately like dealing with their hair and like a very different and I don't know what that is. I don't know what that is but it's hard to pin down to because there's a lot of like confusion with OCD and being anal retentive like like border on the line of and who knows for sure which one when. I was younger in elementary school. If someone spelling if someone said a word I would see it. Visualize spell it above main like that sound similar love now. I'm not like doctor so I don't want to present myself as an actor I'm I'm one third doctor. Two-thirds red blooded American assange real cook to try. If you can't explain this hair thing yeah I know it's weird so when I look at a person Like Sasha's looking Stephen Right now he so he has hair like he has hair. He doesn't have shown he does have hair that I see his beard. He has hair on his head and he has like eyebrows and has eyelashes so has all those things and so in my mind. I like a coin. How do you say like droid around? Like a contour like icon tour. That stuff like I like isolated and I like like I see it as a separate thing from Stephen like I mean we can just diagnose me like without being doctors day but this is a thing that happens constantly when I talked to anybody so like in your mind or like drawing an outline around all the hair. Yeah all the hair. It's like it's I'm like dealing with that hair like I'm still like fully immersed fully fully person the conversation then I'm also drawing the hair and eyelashes and eyebrows and Trying like what are you seeing? I feel like I'm holding a pen or like I'm using my index finger. Two like droid out but I'm not really doing it. But like right now is doing it right now. Doing but usually she's not. I've never seen her do this before. But usually it's happening in my head like I'm I'm doing like imagine I'm imagining doing it. But they go. What about my body? Hey if you WANNA and someone like has their shirt off like Robin Williams was very definitely definitely stands out definitely throwing that. Shit. Yeah do you. Does this make hugh more observant if someone gets a haircut? I am definitely the first person in the room always to call out someone's haircut now that you're saying it like our team. Shawn the moment like he's had just starts entering the door. I'm like Nice Haircut so again. I'm not saying this is just you know reiterate. I'm not saying this is something that is OCD. But I'm saying about compulsive thing that I know I do constantly and I also count all the squares and like all like things around me like like I'm always very aware of how many squares and like what are they. What's happening to them? And I'm like very where where they're located. And like I like. I don't know how to explain it. But I'm like very connects to all the squares around me too and you know I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and there's quite a bit of mental illness in my family but but like this is almost like not debilitating in the sense to me to me that I like. It's not doesn't stand out and is probably never probably lived without it. I don't remember myself not doing it so I never like seek help for it so this is just an example of me like saying that they're going on my brain. What is it? I don't know I do all the time. Like in. The periphery somewhere. And you know. I don't know good or bad. Probably not great because the sticking up some space in my brain but that's what's happening so can I ask how Euro CD presents on man? Yeah you can't ask because I did a great also I know the type of OCD. That you're talking about is that you were timeout with handwashing is contamination. Just wear like you get an like worry about germs. Or what that's like obsessive handwashing and things like that again. I don't WanNa get too far into the terminology of things. I don't want to say anything incorrect. Since I'm not any type of expert of only an expert in my own stuff and one third doctor so I threw out my life. I have checking which is like you have to check the locks and you have to check. I like if I'm alone. I have to check so embarrassing people in the closet okay. I'll do it like in a very specific orders so that in case someone is hiding in my house. They wouldn't be able to run and hide into another spot. I'll like do it in a specific order. That doesn't allow that and that's a new house. You're in so this house because they feel safer and I'm like the layout is a bit different and you are living now with your boyfriend boyfriend. Shout shout out Zack. Breath scruggs is not my boyfriend Florence pugh for Melissa Hyman Gossip Update and have checking. That's I'll have to lake check the locks and that's very annoying. See My mom do a lot but I don't know if my mom has ocd but my mom would never leave their apartment without like trike trying to break in Like she would lock the door and they should. We try to rate in like shoot. She's like a bigger lady and she would like go whole body like hit the door where her body she body slammed a couple of times to make sure like the door doesn't break like nobody can break in and she would be aware of she'd be like I just have to check relates very annoying. It's very when you're especially when you're aware of it. There have been times especially if I'm stressed in. It comes out To like check the door and then go back and check the door and go and I'm like.

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"ocd" Discussed on Bob and Sheri

Bob and Sheri

09:04 min | 2 years ago

"ocd" Discussed on Bob and Sheri

"That's a good one. I mean the best thing to do really is to work with whatever is around. You like you're at a party at somebody's house and you know they put on a nice spread so you're standing there next to the roast beef shrimp or whatever it is the rotel and you can say like this rotel. Have you tried this. This is incredible rotel. It is as spicy issues. I like it. I could eat a like a bucket of this stuff right. 'CAUSE and it's right there pull from what's around. You'll see comedians do this when when when they're I'm trying to fill their act out the work with somebody in the audience because they're right there. The only risk with that is because I hate small talk terrible at got it. I mean I can do it but I don't enjoy it. It's not fun at all. The only risk with that is. There's always that one person in the room where you say man this Rotel dip. I could eat all of this and that person says I don't eat dairy because I consider the dairy industry to be extremely cruel to cows. Yeah that is a gamble and you and I always find that person. It is a gamble to do that. I just think it's so much better than all of a sudden saying I was thinking of taking up sailing sailing the problem. Where're they going with that? The problem with this recipe of ask three questions and then share something personal. You need to listen and carefully to the answers. Because you've gone in there you're you're you're shying your socially awkward and you dread parties but here you go you're gonNA you're gonNA start by asking. How do you like all this snow? SNOWER gutten and then you're going to ask A question about can you believe Adam. SANDLERS getting Oscar Buzz. And then you're GONNA ask third question about I'm thinking about getting elaborate doodle. See the first one we think about all this snow were having and you're not really listening to the answer and the person then share something with you like well I used to like the snow until I wrecked my car in a blizzard and While I've never really regained the use of my left arm because you didn't hear the answer asking about Adam Sandler. Dive seemed like such a really insensitive. Exactly tool yeah you do have to listen. You have to be a good listener to be a good conversationalist you gotta listening and I guess you know you can prep some stuff that the whole thing about. What do you think about this snow? Oh I mean what can I I start. I get the sweats when I when I think about asking someone about a question like that and I'll give you the example. I was playing golf at this club. Played at this club for years. And this is one guy no there and he's nice to me but he's a gruff older guy. He's gruff right. I haven't seen him for for a long time every time. I've seen him a little nervous around. Well they were building a new clubhouse right and they had moved in yet but they're rebuilding it. I haven't been there in. Yeah I don't know six weeks two months and I run into Mr Gruff and last time I saw it was like one storey now. It's like three stories and I said set the gruff. I thought this would be you know I be safe back. I said. Can you believe the progress. That's being made. How big this building is? And he turns to me and he says yeah I can believe it. It's called Workman it's called design. I'm going what he's that was it was it was. I was throwing out the obvious. Yes the building has gone up three months. You know what he was rude rude to you and sending you a message and you didn't have to stand there and be polite one more but then he was very nice to me you know. It's just that I was stating the obvious obvious. The building in three months got bigger. Do well what are you supposed to do walk up to gruff and go. Hey how you been having seen well would you mind taking like two fingers just kind of palpitation. This weird yet you feel it heals like like like a bird's egg right next to my gruff would have gone with that. Be More than can you believe. Can you believe the building is up person. Do with people whose I media while he was but the next time I saw the guy was very nice because he felt bad about being mean to you the last time no growth doesn't feel put spa gala Mars Review sent right to your phone text movies. You eight hundred eighty five sharing. I read an interesting article on. I think it was Huffington Ping Ten post Looking back on the the last decade between the year two thousand ten and you know midnight on New Year's Eve New Year's here's Day to twenty twenty They came up with the words that define the decade and I was reading through it and I was like yeah these are words. Some of these words didn't didn't even exist before the last decade. But when you look at them all together yet kind of really says where we are like one of the words was Hashtag so Hashtag until fairly recent history was known as the pound sign. That's true right. Yeah nobody knew what you were talking about Hashtag Foam. Oh the acronym foam. Oh fear of missing out it got added to the Dictionary Merriam Webster put it in two thousand sixteen but it was in the Oxford dictionary before for that not only was foam. Not a word but the idea of foam. Oh wasn't really thing like looking at other people's lives on social social media and feeling that you were missing something because you weren't living not like I think it was most finally focused at teenage girls you know there's there's a group of teenage girls. There's five of them. Somebody's GonNa have a party and all of a sudden. The one who wasn't invited looks on her phone and sees that they're they're we're having fun and they could be that's foam. Oh and they could be doing it in a mean way or they could just realize. Here's another word that that the word binge has been around for a long time but describing a TV show is binge. -able would not have made sense in like nineteen ninety one. Not at all. Because you you didn't have have the opportunity to Ben's anything bench was always associated with drinking I have found that one of the ways that my TV habits have changed and a weird thing happened at my house over the Christmas break. I caught my children watching television on television prior to that only watch TV on their phones. I'm not sure they. He knew what the large flat black rectangle in the living room was four. My step kids. Don't watch I think they thought that was Kevin's football machine realized that yeah the other things on exactly but now like all if there's a show and everyone's like oh you have to watch such and such. I'm like I'm GonNa when I can watch the whole season in one afternoon like it drives me crazy now if I can't watch multiple episodes of something I'm doing with a marvelous Mrs Mazel and I I think it may be with the exception of the Sopranos The only TV show that I've ever done that with but aren't you glad that you can. I'm glad I can catch up then. I really loved the show. I think it's funny The the clothing is interesting. The cars it takes place in the nineteen fifties and she's A stand up comedian in New York and her family's fallen on high are times. There's been a divorce and she becomes this this I. I'm at a point where she's is just starting to break as a big time comedian and it's wonderful. The actress who portrays her is so terrific. Rachel uh-huh it'll come to me crowdfunding that was the word that would not have made any sense. Not all that long ago and crowdfunding. That's kickstarter arts. Also go fund me. crowdfunding is a lot of us are paying medical bills. Now the go fund me things one of the most amazing things in the last ten years I I knew someone one and you knew this person to who was very successful but for whatever reason went down some bad paths and became broke and then had some medical bills so this this is a person who was more than well-to-do probably rich and then all of a sudden later in life Chad thing ended a gofundme in order to pay medical bills. Rachel Brosnahan. Thank you I knew it was to choose one on. Here's a couple of other words Athletes Breath Leisure. That's that was the fashion movement where we all look like. We're in Star Trek the next generation and flexed -tarian meaning like. You're not a full vegetarian. Not Fulbe in Europe. lexa Terry thank you so much for listening to the Bob and Sheri podcast and the Bob and Sheri Awed cast we would love if you would subscribe rate and review and share it with a friend on facebook twitter instagram. Wherever you go and thank you again for listening?.

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"ocd" Discussed on Bob and Sheri

Bob and Sheri

09:04 min | 2 years ago

"ocd" Discussed on Bob and Sheri

"That's a good one. I mean the best thing to do really is to work with whatever is around. You like you're at a party at somebody's house and you know they put on a nice spread so you're standing there next to the roast beef shrimp or whatever it is the rotel and you can say like this rotel. Have you tried this. This is incredible rotel. It is as spicy issues. I like it. I could eat a like a bucket of this stuff right. 'CAUSE and it's right there pull from what's around. You'll see comedians do this when when when they're I'm trying to fill their act out the work with somebody in the audience because they're right there. The only risk with that is because I hate small talk terrible at got it. I mean I can do it but I don't enjoy it. It's not fun at all. The only risk with that is. There's always that one person in the room where you say man this Rotel dip. I could eat all of this and that person says I don't eat dairy because I consider the dairy industry to be extremely cruel to cows. Yeah that is a gamble and you and I always find that person. It is a gamble to do that. I just think it's so much better than all of a sudden saying I was thinking of taking up sailing sailing the problem. Where're they going with that? The problem with this recipe of ask three questions and then share something personal. You need to listen and carefully to the answers. Because you've gone in there you're you're you're shying your socially awkward and you dread parties but here you go you're gonNA you're gonNA start by asking. How do you like all this snow? SNOWER gutten and then you're going to ask A question about can you believe Adam. SANDLERS getting Oscar Buzz. And then you're GONNA ask third question about I'm thinking about getting elaborate doodle. See the first one we think about all this snow were having and you're not really listening to the answer and the person then share something with you like well I used to like the snow until I wrecked my car in a blizzard and While I've never really regained the use of my left arm because you didn't hear the answer asking about Adam Sandler. Dive seemed like such a really insensitive. Exactly tool yeah you do have to listen. You have to be a good listener to be a good conversationalist you gotta listening and I guess you know you can prep some stuff that the whole thing about. What do you think about this snow? Oh I mean what can I I start. I get the sweats when I when I think about asking someone about a question like that and I'll give you the example. I was playing golf at this club. Played at this club for years. And this is one guy no there and he's nice to me but he's a gruff older guy. He's gruff right. I haven't seen him for for a long time every time. I've seen him a little nervous around. Well they were building a new clubhouse right and they had moved in yet but they're rebuilding it. I haven't been there in. Yeah I don't know six weeks two months and I run into Mr Gruff and last time I saw it was like one storey now. It's like three stories and I said set the gruff. I thought this would be you know I be safe back. I said. Can you believe the progress. That's being made. How big this building is? And he turns to me and he says yeah I can believe it. It's called Workman it's called design. I'm going what he's that was it was it was. I was throwing out the obvious. Yes the building has gone up three months. You know what he was rude rude to you and sending you a message and you didn't have to stand there and be polite one more but then he was very nice to me you know. It's just that I was stating the obvious obvious. The building in three months got bigger. Do well what are you supposed to do walk up to gruff and go. Hey how you been having seen well would you mind taking like two fingers just kind of palpitation. This weird yet you feel it heals like like like a bird's egg right next to my gruff would have gone with that. Be More than can you believe. Can you believe the building is up person. Do with people whose I media while he was but the next time I saw the guy was very nice because he felt bad about being mean to you the last time no growth doesn't feel put spa gala Mars Review sent right to your phone text movies. You eight hundred eighty five sharing. I read an interesting article on. I think it was Huffington Ping Ten post Looking back on the the last decade between the year two thousand ten and you know midnight on New Year's Eve New Year's here's Day to twenty twenty They came up with the words that define the decade and I was reading through it and I was like yeah these are words. Some of these words didn't didn't even exist before the last decade. But when you look at them all together yet kind of really says where we are like one of the words was Hashtag so Hashtag until fairly recent history was known as the pound sign. That's true right. Yeah nobody knew what you were talking about Hashtag Foam. Oh the acronym foam. Oh fear of missing out it got added to the Dictionary Merriam Webster put it in two thousand sixteen but it was in the Oxford dictionary before for that not only was foam. Not a word but the idea of foam. Oh wasn't really thing like looking at other people's lives on social social media and feeling that you were missing something because you weren't living not like I think it was most finally focused at teenage girls you know there's there's a group of teenage girls. There's five of them. Somebody's GonNa have a party and all of a sudden. The one who wasn't invited looks on her phone and sees that they're they're we're having fun and they could be that's foam. Oh and they could be doing it in a mean way or they could just realize. Here's another word that that the word binge has been around for a long time but describing a TV show is binge. -able would not have made sense in like nineteen ninety one. Not at all. Because you you didn't have have the opportunity to Ben's anything bench was always associated with drinking I have found that one of the ways that my TV habits have changed and a weird thing happened at my house over the Christmas break. I caught my children watching television on television prior to that only watch TV on their phones. I'm not sure they. He knew what the large flat black rectangle in the living room was four. My step kids. Don't watch I think they thought that was Kevin's football machine realized that yeah the other things on exactly but now like all if there's a show and everyone's like oh you have to watch such and such. I'm like I'm GonNa when I can watch the whole season in one afternoon like it drives me crazy now if I can't watch multiple episodes of something I'm doing with a marvelous Mrs Mazel and I I think it may be with the exception of the Sopranos The only TV show that I've ever done that with but aren't you glad that you can. I'm glad I can catch up then. I really loved the show. I think it's funny The the clothing is interesting. The cars it takes place in the nineteen fifties and she's A stand up comedian in New York and her family's fallen on high are times. There's been a divorce and she becomes this this I. I'm at a point where she's is just starting to break as a big time comedian and it's wonderful. The actress who portrays her is so terrific. Rachel uh-huh it'll come to me crowdfunding that was the word that would not have made any sense. Not all that long ago and crowdfunding. That's kickstarter arts. Also go fund me. crowdfunding is a lot of us are paying medical bills. Now the go fund me things one of the most amazing things in the last ten years I I knew someone one and you knew this person to who was very successful but for whatever reason went down some bad paths and became broke and then had some medical bills so this this is a person who was more than well-to-do probably rich and then all of a sudden later in life Chad thing ended a gofundme in order to pay medical bills. Rachel Brosnahan. Thank you I knew it was to choose one on. Here's a couple of other words Athletes Breath Leisure. That's that was the fashion movement where we all look like. We're in Star Trek the next generation and flexed -tarian meaning like. You're not a full vegetarian. Not Fulbe in Europe. lexa Terry thank you so much for listening to the Bob and Sheri podcast and the Bob and Sheri Awed cast we would love if you would subscribe rate and review and share it with a friend on facebook twitter instagram. Wherever you go and thank you again for listening?.

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"ocd" Discussed on Bob and Sheri

Bob and Sheri

09:43 min | 2 years ago

"ocd" Discussed on Bob and Sheri

"If you had a glass on the bar at one zero one in the morning you could lose your your license and a couple of people was the summertime. It's a beach town. And some of the raiders were staying late. That's a pretty intense law and there ariss the three or four glasses at about ten after one in the morning in walks in inspector and yanked my father's liquor license for two months and in and that's one of the things that help us go under so if you've got a big big time restaurant you're going to be very careful about who you're serving one of my daughters We were having a conversation over the Christmas break and it was about like making good choices and she said. Oh it's because you spent your whole teenage years in the library never did anything wrong. You just don't understand and I opened my mouth to be like. Oh you don't know the half Ford did and then I caught myself. Well that's right that's right. Shame on me I did spend my entire teenage years. Here's in the library. Shame on me you know. I can't remember if I did anything that they had turned twenty one. I think you turned. I think by the time you were on your second radio job with a family who I was and you didn't drink it all. Probably Twenty five seventy five. Yeah now I've made up Ford over the years unfortunately but I didn't. I didn't have anything I think it saved me by not getting into it early. It's a lot of a lawful. A lot of people started drinking very heavily college and it became a thing. You have fewer things to be embarrassed by because they got rid of a lot of those pictures with the urban cowboy. Look I mean you've way fewer things to be embarrassed by and and you were you risk far fewer. You were serious. I didn't take a lot of a lot of chances when I saw once upon a time in Hollywood when `climactic ending. Of course Brad Pitt is on and I knew a lot of people experimented with LSD. I didn't WanNa take that at all. I thought to myself. I don't want anything where I can move my a hands in the air and see like a line or stars or something. My baseline normal is already so weird. the heck would I do if I could hallucinate talking spider exactly so close for me as it is. Listen they knew Bob and Sheri Twenty. Four seven Bob and Sheri Dot Com. There's one one great thing about this time of the year for about two weeks you can walk around when you bump into people at work or you know you bump into somebody when you're out maybe you don't remember their name or whatever you can still say is the greeting happy new year. Yeah and keep moving right. You got about a two week window and your of doing that. I think you're at the end of it at this out. Yes coming Fridays your. I've used that already today. Eh just here twice now. What now what you can't do? Bob Is on February. I start telling our CO workers. Happy Love Mont.. No can't do that. I cannot go up to Ron. The engineer and say Happy Valentines. Hey Ron it's love mark. Is there another. Is there another time of the year where you can do that. I Guess Happy Fourth. You could probably do that for awhile. Happy Easter Yay Happy Easter. What else you can get away with giving happy? Mother's in happy Father's Day depending on who you're talking to people say happy Father's Day Day to me and I just go thank you well. You're a dogfather. I know. That's not a thing that you embrace of the dogs but I feel weird about being a dogfather but the culture has the culture has embraced Kennedy. Just not be an owner. Do I have to be the dog's father when I think about you. You get up in the middle of the night to take a schnauzer out because it has diarrhea who owns who my friend you are. Nobody's owner that's true you know that's good that somebody says because you don't have children That somebody says happy Father's Day and you know you don't get all bummed out about it. I I've tried to be careful about that because especially with people that you don't know very well there's some people here that even though they've worked here ten years I really don't know the If I said Happy Mother's Day I mean May- maybe they have kids or not. I mean I don't know I don't know so I'm I'm a little cautious about that one. I that's what I said. Happy Mother's or Father's Day depending on depending on who is there another one you can even do like Have a Great Memorial Day weekend. How was your Memorial Day like you need the? We need the holiday so that we can talk to each other. Uh I think you're right. I'm going to start moving some others in Happy Arbor Day met Mike. I see today as Baked Apple Day. No that's too far Arbor Day though you know it's just a thank you. It's cookie but it's not everybody's heard of Arbor Day. They don't really know what to do with maybe a good a good fund New Year's resolution for you. We could start right now as at the beginning of every new year. We we come up with Bob's stock hallway greeting that you just used for that year. Oh that's good right and it could be it could be a variety of things like Looking good yeah you say who doesn't want to hear that yeah that could be dicey though with women. Don't you think these days not for you not in this building. You think I can get away with I think about trustworthy. Yeah Okay I think which basically says that. I'm boring hiring in harmless. He calls the insult out of everything. But not born to women. Say One says they'll goad Bob Lacey just said looking good and Oh don't worry about that. He's boring in harmless. You're not worrying. Kyle said it. Watch out. uh-huh boring but you know what you are harmless Burmese. Yeah I guess it is what you have plenty. Leave sexy danger when you need to deploy it but overall big picture. You're a harmless person and I liked that about sorry need a moment home to figure out what the word is sexy dangerous. It's there when you absolutely have to tap it the rest of the time. You're you're a harmless person and in a world as crappy as the one we occupy. Don't you WANNA be harmless. I'd rather just be known as good than harmless does seem like someone that looked better not at all. That's why you can tell L. Alita that she's looking good and she doesn't go to. HR OATMEAL is harmless. Okay take I want to be the male oatmeal. It's good for you though. Use the talk back teacher mack. Teach on the Free Auburn Sherry APP and leave us a message. You just reminded me of something. I read a couple of weeks ago. It was about how to be better at small. Talk because you'd be gone to a bunch of holiday parties that's fine but The thing that I remember from the article was used the rule of threes. You were you were just saying like you need a greening once. Happy New Year's gone like what are you going to say to people. Because you can't say happy love month to Ron our engineers docu But the so the if I remember what I read in the article You should forever. Here's how to be good at small talk for every three he questions you ask someone share something personal about yourself. So you'RE GONNA you're GonNa say what do you think about this weather. We're having hey did you do you. Are you surprised Tom Brady didn't retire so I hear that. You're thinking about doing intermittent fasting and then after that you would share something something personal about yourself right okay so you ask something about them. You ask three questions and for every three because nobody wants to feel like they're being interrogated Roy every three. You share something personal so on on paper this seems like a good plan but if yours socially awkward person many of us are socially awkward You'RE GONNA ask three questions. Possibly they won't be connected to each other and you're not really listening to the answer soon because you've got your questions queued up And then after that third question then you're going to inject something really personal. DC How many ways. This could go completely wrong. I'm lost already. Yeah because it's it could only be like one personal thing about them and there has to be to others. That are just sort of generic Eric. The weather will have an icebreaker. That's right yeah I never use the weather I that is so lame is as a matter of fact. You should never ever go to a party if that's the best you've got but what is seriously what if there's extraordinary weather like it's a blizzard or there's a lightning bolt. That's coming through the window or something or or or or if a blizzard yes obvious. Okay so what. Then if you're taking the weather away from people what's generic opening question. What do you think about me? No.

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"ocd" Discussed on Bob and Sheri

Bob and Sheri

09:40 min | 2 years ago

"ocd" Discussed on Bob and Sheri

"On this show. It just comes over the wire right so I'm reading the dirtiest thing in a restaurant is the menu. Because you've got some guy. He's wiping his nose and then he's looking at. What do the shrimp Parmesan what do I want here. And then he puts it away then the next person they've got God knows what kind of a disease it's picking it up and when you read the lake research it's amazing. How long cold and Flu Germs? Stay alive exactly surf. Then you've got the salt and pepper. All right. Got The salt and pepper rapper. And then you take the silverware you put it on the table. It's disgusting because the guy who has the disease his hand was just. How do you go out to? I don't know how the two of you go out to eat. Got It all there so we put we put the councils on the on the NAPA goes it goes on the NAPKIN. I mean if you held some of that stuff on under a blue light right it would be appalling point. I know there's a restaurant in the building that I live in. I'd rather lick dumpster and go to place. Aw Bob these my man right here but you know what we're right. I'm not arguing. Don't point the finger at a So you're you have a job. That must require an awful lot of shaking of hands. I won't do it. I can't how do you how do you do that with a client. I fist bump honestly. It's weird but breaks the ice. I'm not I I can't shake hands. It's just who knows where then hand was. It's exactly right I don't I it's it's against the. OCD are saw therapist on soon in in. I brought my wife because she wants to know how to how how to deal with it and The the therapists sat back he goes. This is weird. No the serious. I'm thinking that's your diagnosis. He's feeling it. It really did just that stood with. I mean he said of course So are we going to meet again. You Know My name called me Weird Weirdo. No somebody else. So here comes the nurse. Check me out. And you see this Weirdo out. It must have been tricky when you were dating your wife. 'cause there's a whole lot of You know you get used to each other. Yeah getting used against each other. You know she she didn't exchanging of leg you know kisses in touch and that sort of thing. We didn't have a problem with that. It's not all man. Come on Bob's germs. I don't have a problem with that at all. Big Eight Frame Lake Mind. Come on you know what the thing is. It's it's saying you're you're you're dating someone and you're the person that's asking for a second Napkin. Every time. See Women are going to pick up on little things like that. I do I go to Napkins. I like clean man with good manners. Though right I do now. The thanked thanked him. Is your daughter They all they all reach a stage. Some of them get their little earlier than others. They already stage where they've known you their whole lives and have lived with you for their entire lives but then one day they look at you and and that's the moment they decide everything about you is weird and awkward and embarrassing and it sounds. It's like lunch with your daughter and you counting your chicken. was that moment where she was like. Oh my God yeah but you know they say that your daughters are prone. Hugh marry people like their father. Did you mentioned that no. I didn't bring that up at that time. Low Awkward Taivon. No I She's doing now. I'm noticing that she does what I do. Show rip the Ham off the sub- just to make sure it's perfect. I'm thinking that I don't do that. You might just be a habit because you know they pick up our habits she may not have OCD. She may just think this is how we eat a ham sandwich. It is still open a door with her arm or more door. I don't either I. I use my shirt my foot. Excellent glad you came on I just so much better about myself. You are among your people here. That's exactly right that's exactly right. I hope everybody listening starts changing slut. OCD The OCD lifestyles. Going to keep you happy and healthy healthier and healthier especial. PSA You didn't expect to do walk with pride my friend. It's the world double and this is the Bob and Sheri Show. You might be ready for cold and flu season or your kids. Infants and young children have a good chance of getting the flu check for fevers with the actor. Gene temporal scanner. Here's Bob and Sheri. Let's go to the BOB and Sheri APP. Which is free in the apple apple APP store and Google play and we have a some talkback messages with the APP? It's super easy. Just tap on the microphone. Talk Voice Fly Through Air Lands on show here we haven't Sheri's Kelsey from Illinois. I was listening to your podcast. And you guys were talking about birth order and I was just GonNa comment that. I think the birth order in my relationship chip really helps as far as my husband who is the second oldest in a family of five and I'm the youngest family of three sometimes when I they'd feel selfish and WanNa doted on. He is really good at doing that sometimes. And then other times telling me. I need to grow up mashed Mike Child. I was just curious. Yes what is your birth order with your significant others and do you think that that helps you guys hurts relationship. Or how do you guys feel about the the birth orders in your relationship been listened to you guys for a very long time. He's listened to you guys every morning on the way to school with my mom Just lots of good memories US guys keep it up. Oh she's so sweet. What do you think your birth order? You were the youngest now. I'm the middle middle middle and the only girl and my husband is the is the middle and the only boy and so we both have the worst combination Middle Child Syndrome plus precious Prince and princess. So yeah it's very interesting. I'm the oldest Mayor Berry. She has a brother who is let me see. Yeah older than she is. She's the baby she's the baby. Max is the baby. The youngest and bridget is the oldest the oldest and tied his the baby. The unplanned child and engine is the oldest. Wow we have of old. Is the baby combinations. I know my wife is younger. She no baby though when she has been I'm a strong woman and does not meet needs some guy who's explaining anything to her But but she has a sweet side and she is aside that she expects to be doted on once in a while. She's the baby because she's the baby but You know it's not because she's the baby it's because she's the princess. Yeah he's The independent Princess. acce how does it work out for you. You're the youngest and British the oldest works out. Great I mean she. Her brother came along a little bit later so she was an only child for a pretty good period of time like about eight years. I WANNA say so she. He was kind of like an only child in some ways. My brothers the oldest and really has a bad case of firstborn itis and he's married to a middle child and and and she keeps him what his firstborn is Well he just you know he knows more than you about everything in any given moment because he got there. First whatever you're experiencing experiencing. He got their stories on it. He he knew more about childbirth than I did. He's never birth babies Miss Scarlett. I mean when he's just used to being the oldest and the smartest do you know what the tough thing about my situation with my siblings. I have a brother and his sister. I was born. I so I watched watched my parents succeed right. I'm five years older than my brother. I am fifteen years older than my sister so I watched my parents succeed exceed now. Eventually financially they crashed so my brother and especially my little sister so a lot of the the bad stuff and so I would go on and I would say oh. You know this the day today smells like the state when when we went to Maine now. I don't remember that because we never did that. God you know. Hey doesn't give you kinda like us to think about you at fourteen in your parents hooking up. I try not to think about it. Ah I'll tell you what he put down the Ballantyne in the paper long enough to get that job done I I was. I was fifteen years years old. And my friends Richie Carlton's brother. who was very snarky guy? He was like seventeen he agreed to take us and drop us off at the movies stories. And so I got into the car fifteen right I I guess I was fourteen. 'cause I think she was born when I was fifteen. I got into the car. Ritchie's in the front front seat with his snarky brother. Tom Is driving. And Richie says Hey Tom Bob's mom is pregnant and all he said was.

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"ocd" Discussed on Bob and Sheri

Bob and Sheri

09:40 min | 2 years ago

"ocd" Discussed on Bob and Sheri

"On this show. It just comes over the wire right so I'm reading the dirtiest thing in a restaurant is the menu. Because you've got some guy. He's wiping his nose and then he's looking at. What do the shrimp Parmesan what do I want here. And then he puts it away then the next person they've got God knows what kind of a disease it's picking it up and when you read the lake research it's amazing. How long cold and Flu Germs? Stay alive exactly surf. Then you've got the salt and pepper. All right. Got The salt and pepper rapper. And then you take the silverware you put it on the table. It's disgusting because the guy who has the disease his hand was just. How do you go out to? I don't know how the two of you go out to eat. Got It all there so we put we put the councils on the on the NAPA goes it goes on the NAPKIN. I mean if you held some of that stuff on under a blue light right it would be appalling point. I know there's a restaurant in the building that I live in. I'd rather lick dumpster and go to place. Aw Bob these my man right here but you know what we're right. I'm not arguing. Don't point the finger at a So you're you have a job. That must require an awful lot of shaking of hands. I won't do it. I can't how do you how do you do that with a client. I fist bump honestly. It's weird but breaks the ice. I'm not I I can't shake hands. It's just who knows where then hand was. It's exactly right I don't I it's it's against the. OCD are saw therapist on soon in in. I brought my wife because she wants to know how to how how to deal with it and The the therapists sat back he goes. This is weird. No the serious. I'm thinking that's your diagnosis. He's feeling it. It really did just that stood with. I mean he said of course So are we going to meet again. You Know My name called me Weird Weirdo. No somebody else. So here comes the nurse. Check me out. And you see this Weirdo out. It must have been tricky when you were dating your wife. 'cause there's a whole lot of You know you get used to each other. Yeah getting used against each other. You know she she didn't exchanging of leg you know kisses in touch and that sort of thing. We didn't have a problem with that. It's not all man. Come on Bob's germs. I don't have a problem with that at all. Big Eight Frame Lake Mind. Come on you know what the thing is. It's it's saying you're you're you're dating someone and you're the person that's asking for a second Napkin. Every time. See Women are going to pick up on little things like that. I do I go to Napkins. I like clean man with good manners. Though right I do now. The thanked thanked him. Is your daughter They all they all reach a stage. Some of them get their little earlier than others. They already stage where they've known you their whole lives and have lived with you for their entire lives but then one day they look at you and and that's the moment they decide everything about you is weird and awkward and embarrassing and it sounds. It's like lunch with your daughter and you counting your chicken. was that moment where she was like. Oh my God yeah but you know they say that your daughters are prone. Hugh marry people like their father. Did you mentioned that no. I didn't bring that up at that time. Low Awkward Taivon. No I She's doing now. I'm noticing that she does what I do. Show rip the Ham off the sub- just to make sure it's perfect. I'm thinking that I don't do that. You might just be a habit because you know they pick up our habits she may not have OCD. She may just think this is how we eat a ham sandwich. It is still open a door with her arm or more door. I don't either I. I use my shirt my foot. Excellent glad you came on I just so much better about myself. You are among your people here. That's exactly right that's exactly right. I hope everybody listening starts changing slut. OCD The OCD lifestyles. Going to keep you happy and healthy healthier and healthier especial. PSA You didn't expect to do walk with pride my friend. It's the world double and this is the Bob and Sheri Show. You might be ready for cold and flu season or your kids. Infants and young children have a good chance of getting the flu check for fevers with the actor. Gene temporal scanner. Here's Bob and Sheri. Let's go to the BOB and Sheri APP. Which is free in the apple apple APP store and Google play and we have a some talkback messages with the APP? It's super easy. Just tap on the microphone. Talk Voice Fly Through Air Lands on show here we haven't Sheri's Kelsey from Illinois. I was listening to your podcast. And you guys were talking about birth order and I was just GonNa comment that. I think the birth order in my relationship chip really helps as far as my husband who is the second oldest in a family of five and I'm the youngest family of three sometimes when I they'd feel selfish and WanNa doted on. He is really good at doing that sometimes. And then other times telling me. I need to grow up mashed Mike Child. I was just curious. Yes what is your birth order with your significant others and do you think that that helps you guys hurts relationship. Or how do you guys feel about the the birth orders in your relationship been listened to you guys for a very long time. He's listened to you guys every morning on the way to school with my mom Just lots of good memories US guys keep it up. Oh she's so sweet. What do you think your birth order? You were the youngest now. I'm the middle middle middle and the only girl and my husband is the is the middle and the only boy and so we both have the worst combination Middle Child Syndrome plus precious Prince and princess. So yeah it's very interesting. I'm the oldest Mayor Berry. She has a brother who is let me see. Yeah older than she is. She's the baby she's the baby. Max is the baby. The youngest and bridget is the oldest the oldest and tied his the baby. The unplanned child and engine is the oldest. Wow we have of old. Is the baby combinations. I know my wife is younger. She no baby though when she has been I'm a strong woman and does not meet needs some guy who's explaining anything to her But but she has a sweet side and she is aside that she expects to be doted on once in a while. She's the baby because she's the baby but You know it's not because she's the baby it's because she's the princess. Yeah he's The independent Princess. acce how does it work out for you. You're the youngest and British the oldest works out. Great I mean she. Her brother came along a little bit later so she was an only child for a pretty good period of time like about eight years. I WANNA say so she. He was kind of like an only child in some ways. My brothers the oldest and really has a bad case of firstborn itis and he's married to a middle child and and and she keeps him what his firstborn is Well he just you know he knows more than you about everything in any given moment because he got there. First whatever you're experiencing experiencing. He got their stories on it. He he knew more about childbirth than I did. He's never birth babies Miss Scarlett. I mean when he's just used to being the oldest and the smartest do you know what the tough thing about my situation with my siblings. I have a brother and his sister. I was born. I so I watched watched my parents succeed right. I'm five years older than my brother. I am fifteen years older than my sister so I watched my parents succeed exceed now. Eventually financially they crashed so my brother and especially my little sister so a lot of the the bad stuff and so I would go on and I would say oh. You know this the day today smells like the state when when we went to Maine now. I don't remember that because we never did that. God you know. Hey doesn't give you kinda like us to think about you at fourteen in your parents hooking up. I try not to think about it. Ah I'll tell you what he put down the Ballantyne in the paper long enough to get that job done I I was. I was fifteen years years old. And my friends Richie Carlton's brother. who was very snarky guy? He was like seventeen he agreed to take us and drop us off at the movies stories. And so I got into the car fifteen right I I guess I was fourteen. 'cause I think she was born when I was fifteen. I got into the car. Ritchie's in the front front seat with his snarky brother. Tom Is driving. And Richie says Hey Tom Bob's mom is pregnant and all he said was.

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"ocd" Discussed on Bob and Sheri

Bob and Sheri

08:54 min | 2 years ago

"ocd" Discussed on Bob and Sheri

"Has to agree fact. I think the entire Kardashian plan could be aliens. They're increasingly looking like them. I think the guy that does the ADS on TV for that group that can patch together. Seal back whatever. That thing is called the seal stuff. I like that guy to todd. I do commercial where he builds a boat out of glass. Yeah and then he takes over the over the everglades Nelson love. Yeah and he says there's alligators. There's below here but my boat's going to hold up. I don't know if that product really works but I believe him. I don't need it for anything I wanted. I do. I see I Taylor Swift. Maybe not all aliens or credentialing. Life she is. There's something about her. That is other worldly. Well I mean China Explain Nicholas Cage any other way. All that's good. I think. The blonde anchors on Fox News. Aw Yanni Yanni's amazing. That is the music from another galaxy. That's exactly right. It it takes takes someone from another galaxy to understand it. There are a lot of people that walk amongst us. That are a little bit different different. Yeah it doesn't mean they're evil no no. There's the meanest extraordinary I mean are. Are they here just to observe us into report back. Why are they here? One of the things that the British astronaut Helen Sharman said was We expect aliens to be carbon based lifeforms like us. But that that's not necessarily the case case and they may be so small that they're not visible to us. I haven't thought about that. Yeah I mean. There's little people or little. Whatever whatever's whatever's there's also a theory that the aliens may be aquatic and live in the ocean? We know more about the move than we know about the deepest parts of the ocean. Oh isn't that amazing that they discovered creatures in the depths of the ocean that they never knew existed or something called the ocean. So you remember that there was news stories about this mysterious home that people could hear all around the world where it was coming from. I thought it was the military or government or Blah Blah Blah. Anyway they solve the mystery of the home an enormous undersea volcano. Oh is that right. Yeah our goes that the free Bob and Sheri instantly get the podcast. The I'm Bob and Sheri Van cise welcome to this portion of the show which we are calling the world of double double as you know is our CO worker He's had an interesting evolution ear. We when I got him into the building we fried them in the sun. Four about was that about eight months. It's still there so yeah. Yeah and then. We moved to another office and gave you blinds a blinds yet. Right after I left and now and you join us for Christmas and told us about The chimney pit in your house growing up. Welcome back to the show. W. It's a pleasure now. His name is Tim all right but we use it with two. M's tim was to APPs. So what's going on in your life nights I tell you well. So it was an interesting holiday a Jew. I'm just getting back from the holidays and it was good to spend some time with my daughter my and my wife and and your daughter's a teenager now right she seventeen eighteen years old. It is It sounds really cliche but it really is fascinating. How quick they Grow up it is so they're living in one town in your living in another others. Yeah Yeah because you've recently moved. Yeah so I get home I I don't I don't get to see him that much and it's always a pleasure to get home to go see them so my wife is out shopping in my daughter said well. I don't want to go in there. Dad What do you see what just go get some lunch. Right and I don't WanNa go through all my My medication education and and I don't know how many listeners we have right now Both of them right now. Well listen so so here comes on my hip I I have. OCD and it's very apparent to just about everybody in those diagnosed with add and I think I got at that young age. When my mother used to clean for the cleaning lady to calm and she we get so erratic with it? We we had this Oriental Asian Type Rug. That had like what are you. Come the Tassels Upright and she used to calm them and actually take a scissors just to make sure man and she would trim them because they don't grow your cutting into the symbols. Yeah Yeah so I. I grew up smelling like flax soap as a kid so So my daughter and I we go out. We have lunch. Can I ordered a chicken salad and I take medication for the OCD. And my daughter Said Dad. You're doing it again and I didn't know what I was is doing this. What am I doing in? I took my salad and I noticed that I have to put everything in thirds so the chicken. The salad was crazy nestle. That's what it is all MAC mixed up together. It was a chicken Caesar Salad's who had a hit a separate the chicken from the lettuce and the Croutons and then Naida an order. And I never noticed that I do that. It had it must take forever to go to lunch with you. It's bizarre to myself I. He knows not normal and so question. Wait so you'll eat a bite of chicken and then you'll chew that swallow it then. You bite a lettuce to swallow than you would accrue time. No now I go through the chicken I all of it. I marches around the play. Yeah I actually count the chicken to which is how weird it is so you know. 'cause they come at six strips you know so I miss your. They're six there I don't count the Croutons for some reason or the lettuce but but but mothers disappointed to hear that. I'm just saying it's I. It's like those people that The order sub sandwich and they'll have to rip off the Ham or the meat. That's hanging over the edge because it's not perfect. Yeah Yeah it's just just it's really really eat an order. You don't do it in level of gratification. It's not like you're saving whatever. It is the best for last. How does how do you determine I'm in the order that you eat things in right-left is just weird? You just answered that like is this to me is not that weird I mean. I don't have this this issue but if that is what makes you comfortable I say yeah. You're not hurting anybody. You're not hurting anybody by doing doing that. What's what's the matter with his daughter who asked I'm glad you have OCD. Because you've taken an office this that used to look like crap and now it's got like a nice little rug and it's it's always in order to woodland it looks. Beautiful is good now now. It's filled with people all day long. Is that bothersome do you do you have your germ. Do you have a germ thing I am a germ footb- yeah and so away. Definitely germ phobia. I can't French fries. I'll eat my French fries with a fork. So it's I don't know if you know anybody that does that. But it's It's like to touch your food with your hands. How about pizza? You eat with a fork. I can't do it no I No no no no yes I e peace with a fork An end but I have to hold up by the crust the crust duties handle. Gotcha you know so. It's okay how about this. You go into a restaurant the pizza restaurant all right. It's a nice pizza restaurant front. And they have the silverware wrapped in a paper. Napa know regular cloth Napkins. Okay will you UNWRAP the Napkin. Take the silverware and on the table. Place the silverware. No it goes right on the Napkin and then order a second napkin lap. Yes yes why because there are germs on that germs on the table. Yes I total this. He's perfect he so sensitive. That's exactly right. Why would would anybody be kicking the spot over these things make sense? Daughters could walk on water. HANG ON WE'RE GONNA finish talking to double am it's Bob and Sheri us the talk back talkback feature on the Free Sherry APP and leave us a message so happy to be in the world of town because I agree with so many things does during the Asong listening to these two sharing there. Mutual disgust over. What's the dirtiest thing in the restaurant? I get too much information.

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"ocd" Discussed on Bob and Sheri

Bob and Sheri

08:54 min | 2 years ago

"ocd" Discussed on Bob and Sheri

"Has to agree fact. I think the entire Kardashian plan could be aliens. They're increasingly looking like them. I think the guy that does the ADS on TV for that group that can patch together. Seal back whatever. That thing is called the seal stuff. I like that guy to todd. I do commercial where he builds a boat out of glass. Yeah and then he takes over the over the everglades Nelson love. Yeah and he says there's alligators. There's below here but my boat's going to hold up. I don't know if that product really works but I believe him. I don't need it for anything I wanted. I do. I see I Taylor Swift. Maybe not all aliens or credentialing. Life she is. There's something about her. That is other worldly. Well I mean China Explain Nicholas Cage any other way. All that's good. I think. The blonde anchors on Fox News. Aw Yanni Yanni's amazing. That is the music from another galaxy. That's exactly right. It it takes takes someone from another galaxy to understand it. There are a lot of people that walk amongst us. That are a little bit different different. Yeah it doesn't mean they're evil no no. There's the meanest extraordinary I mean are. Are they here just to observe us into report back. Why are they here? One of the things that the British astronaut Helen Sharman said was We expect aliens to be carbon based lifeforms like us. But that that's not necessarily the case case and they may be so small that they're not visible to us. I haven't thought about that. Yeah I mean. There's little people or little. Whatever whatever's whatever's there's also a theory that the aliens may be aquatic and live in the ocean? We know more about the move than we know about the deepest parts of the ocean. Oh isn't that amazing that they discovered creatures in the depths of the ocean that they never knew existed or something called the ocean. So you remember that there was news stories about this mysterious home that people could hear all around the world where it was coming from. I thought it was the military or government or Blah Blah Blah. Anyway they solve the mystery of the home an enormous undersea volcano. Oh is that right. Yeah our goes that the free Bob and Sheri instantly get the podcast. The I'm Bob and Sheri Van cise welcome to this portion of the show which we are calling the world of double double as you know is our CO worker He's had an interesting evolution ear. We when I got him into the building we fried them in the sun. Four about was that about eight months. It's still there so yeah. Yeah and then. We moved to another office and gave you blinds a blinds yet. Right after I left and now and you join us for Christmas and told us about The chimney pit in your house growing up. Welcome back to the show. W. It's a pleasure now. His name is Tim all right but we use it with two. M's tim was to APPs. So what's going on in your life nights I tell you well. So it was an interesting holiday a Jew. I'm just getting back from the holidays and it was good to spend some time with my daughter my and my wife and and your daughter's a teenager now right she seventeen eighteen years old. It is It sounds really cliche but it really is fascinating. How quick they Grow up it is so they're living in one town in your living in another others. Yeah Yeah because you've recently moved. Yeah so I get home I I don't I don't get to see him that much and it's always a pleasure to get home to go see them so my wife is out shopping in my daughter said well. I don't want to go in there. Dad What do you see what just go get some lunch. Right and I don't WanNa go through all my My medication education and and I don't know how many listeners we have right now Both of them right now. Well listen so so here comes on my hip I I have. OCD and it's very apparent to just about everybody in those diagnosed with add and I think I got at that young age. When my mother used to clean for the cleaning lady to calm and she we get so erratic with it? We we had this Oriental Asian Type Rug. That had like what are you. Come the Tassels Upright and she used to calm them and actually take a scissors just to make sure man and she would trim them because they don't grow your cutting into the symbols. Yeah Yeah so I. I grew up smelling like flax soap as a kid so So my daughter and I we go out. We have lunch. Can I ordered a chicken salad and I take medication for the OCD. And my daughter Said Dad. You're doing it again and I didn't know what I was is doing this. What am I doing in? I took my salad and I noticed that I have to put everything in thirds so the chicken. The salad was crazy nestle. That's what it is all MAC mixed up together. It was a chicken Caesar Salad's who had a hit a separate the chicken from the lettuce and the Croutons and then Naida an order. And I never noticed that I do that. It had it must take forever to go to lunch with you. It's bizarre to myself I. He knows not normal and so question. Wait so you'll eat a bite of chicken and then you'll chew that swallow it then. You bite a lettuce to swallow than you would accrue time. No now I go through the chicken I all of it. I marches around the play. Yeah I actually count the chicken to which is how weird it is so you know. 'cause they come at six strips you know so I miss your. They're six there I don't count the Croutons for some reason or the lettuce but but but mothers disappointed to hear that. I'm just saying it's I. It's like those people that The order sub sandwich and they'll have to rip off the Ham or the meat. That's hanging over the edge because it's not perfect. Yeah Yeah it's just just it's really really eat an order. You don't do it in level of gratification. It's not like you're saving whatever. It is the best for last. How does how do you determine I'm in the order that you eat things in right-left is just weird? You just answered that like is this to me is not that weird I mean. I don't have this this issue but if that is what makes you comfortable I say yeah. You're not hurting anybody. You're not hurting anybody by doing doing that. What's what's the matter with his daughter who asked I'm glad you have OCD. Because you've taken an office this that used to look like crap and now it's got like a nice little rug and it's it's always in order to woodland it looks. Beautiful is good now now. It's filled with people all day long. Is that bothersome do you do you have your germ. Do you have a germ thing I am a germ footb- yeah and so away. Definitely germ phobia. I can't French fries. I'll eat my French fries with a fork. So it's I don't know if you know anybody that does that. But it's It's like to touch your food with your hands. How about pizza? You eat with a fork. I can't do it no I No no no no yes I e peace with a fork An end but I have to hold up by the crust the crust duties handle. Gotcha you know so. It's okay how about this. You go into a restaurant the pizza restaurant all right. It's a nice pizza restaurant front. And they have the silverware wrapped in a paper. Napa know regular cloth Napkins. Okay will you UNWRAP the Napkin. Take the silverware and on the table. Place the silverware. No it goes right on the Napkin and then order a second napkin lap. Yes yes why because there are germs on that germs on the table. Yes I total this. He's perfect he so sensitive. That's exactly right. Why would would anybody be kicking the spot over these things make sense? Daughters could walk on water. HANG ON WE'RE GONNA finish talking to double am it's Bob and Sheri us the talk back talkback feature on the Free Sherry APP and leave us a message so happy to be in the world of town because I agree with so many things does during the Asong listening to these two sharing there. Mutual disgust over. What's the dirtiest thing in the restaurant? I get too much information.

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"ocd" Discussed on Dyking Out - a Lesbian and LGBTQ Podcast for Everyone!

Dyking Out - a Lesbian and LGBTQ Podcast for Everyone!

11:22 min | 2 years ago

"ocd" Discussed on Dyking Out - a Lesbian and LGBTQ Podcast for Everyone!

"I'm getting back to uh-huh. I also spent that summer thinking like I had just like violated people. this is so won't much for at that age. She'll be doing just like yeah I can't. I can't imagine having a process Cassatt like I feel so bad for myself like I mean it's interesting. It is great material but it was just like it was I like look back back and I'm like a poor thing I would spend like every night hours later over and over heating areas like being like that's why it was okay. Oh Oh you think you're like I was like Oh. I was like you're a pedophile. All of this stuff started all of these things around sexuality and being some sort of like pervert or pedophile or whatever just like. We're circling around my mind. It took probably like two or three months to finally start to feel like kind of normal yeah but then as a result what I did was for like two two and a half years. I banned myself from masturbating. Entirely that punishment like you're not allowed to do this prove that you cannot do this which was so fucked up yeah then. I just started like coming in all my dreams so anyway throw at you there there. I love it. Oh my God yeah. That's when you're that age like you feel like you just can't have the perspective properly you know ill with what's going so were you in therapy at that point or and also the most mortifying thing. I think to talk about at the time even with the therapist like yet no so I at the time I wasn't. You're harboring all this in your poor little on top of like being like a kid going through puberty essentially already a fucking it was things like in conjunction with one another like there is definitely like repressed queer. Shame Shame Shit too like. I don't think it was a coincidence like the day that I like. All of this suddenly became wrong. It was like when I was next to this woman that meant a lot to me. You know there was like nobody was people's my friends maybe a little bit but people weren't talking about women masturbating really about that which ridiculous but like there was there was ocd shit and then on top of that there was like people weren't really talking about teenage girls and sexuality and the fact that like everybody was rubbing up against something like. I tell this to people now. They were like like Oh we do told you. This is relatable. Yeah mine was in the middle of a public pool like totally get that now in like there was the lack of perspective because I wasn't talking about it with anyone because people weren't talking about this kind of stuff yeah there was then there was the skewed perspective because of my uh-huh cd so it was very hard to manage and I was not in therapy at the time. How do you feel when people people talk about. OCD and like I'm I got him so see the he's like yeah and they obviously don't have OCD like do you feel like it really minimalizes. Malaya's and adds to the confusion of like how serious yeah I think it does yeah. I try to be really understanding. When someone says something like that. Just like doc I have learned from my from my twenty six years that like shutting people down doesn't necessarily help the conversation yes. It's annoying annoying. I'M GONNA make a joke about this. Stand up like people would be like yeah like I have to like. Whatever stop this place every time I walk home. I have to wear clean clothes and like cool like did you have to like watch your dad breathe it like he was alive like have you wiped your ass till it leads like like ten years old because we have a fear fear of poop stands head huge fear of poop stains for a long time but yeah arguments people talk about it and they think they know what it is because like no like people aren't really talking about. Oh CD A lot I try and be like Oh yeah like sounds like you have some obsessive. Tendencies like say if someone said like Yeah I love going to Laundromat Lake like I wash clothes like three times a week. Oh cool sounds like sounds like you get a little bit obsessive around like cleanliness like I think there's a spectrum mm-hmm of obsessive nece and then I'll try and be like you know like anything. There's a spectrum sounds like you're here and like you know this is for example some of the stuff that I've done and I think that tips into a different place and I am like quite functional for someone with those CDs so this is an example of something you know far more extreme than I I have just starting to have dialogues about it with people when they bring it up to me is helpful because again like super misunderstood and I don't really understand why yeah yeah because I think it becomes shorthand for any kind of obsessive behavior routine behavior. OCD Eighty about like I'm so CD about this. No you just like doing that like say. OCD about q tip some. I know it just feels good to have cotton swab in your ear right rush shovel taking align your every single day. Yes Oh bad hair show but I know that's not that's not obsessive. It's just that I like doing it. That's the thing that I don't deny some people are obsessive about certain like yeah but that's different than OC obsessive actually a disorder that means right yeah. Is there medication that yeah I mean not specific people in general if they wanted to. I sure like I do take medication. I it took me like along time to get there. I take I take like an SRI. It's like anything's -iety depressant this is like specifically one of with two drugs that I guess has been deemed like an OCD drug. Don't think that means anything though like I think we'll take all sorts of different anti-anxiety antidepressants of whatever works for you. You take a super low dose definitely thinking about increasing that by. Can I think it can be really really helpful for people and what I've noticed mine I mean I feel like I've noticed a small difference which is just I'm less prone to revisiting thoughts and needing to dwell on stuff and that is it's nice because that's the most exhausting part like the now. I have to think this over again to like. I don't WanNa do that. Yeah I WANNA go like rethink think that scenario or like re justify. It takes a shit ton of time like it's not where I WANNA be. It makes me not present and so like I think medication can help with that and just like help help alleviate. You feel like for sure you know so you don't feel like you're tying all the time how has been how how have you sort of used like your creativity tippety in coping with does it help to one woman shows about it and incorporated into your set and everything yeah like. I mean a lot of my comedy revolves around my OCD and my lake more generalized anxiety. I think like I get stuck in such a place when I'm like in a kind of like OCD state like one of my I have a real like when I'm in a relationship with someone like if they don't respond within a certain amount of time. I really go to that place of like they're dead right. Yeah a lot of people do that right and that's the thing people need to know about. OCD CD like a lot of the fierce people are anxieties people with OCD have their common there. It is like amplified by one thousand and something a lot. All of them aren't come. A lot of people don't have like a fear of poop stain on their underwear fear that you're going to kill someone with your vagina germs like I've had all but some of it is totally totally normal like I know people get scared that their partners are dead or their mom's dead or whatever I just go to a place of like such heightened anxiety then like I can't stop going in and out of sobbing until I know they're okay you know so my so like if I can turn to a place of comedy pretty immediately which I've gotten better at doing if I can and make like. Oh this is funny. It helps me get out of that space like if I can start to like work it into a joke almost immediately or if I can just start to write about it it gives me a little bit of distance from it and it does provide a lot of real fun material in general so I would say like my creativity is a huge part of like like how I cope with my OCD. Yeah what what's your experience when the things you fear actually happen when you have OCD OCD yeah so basically a friend of mine again with OCD was reminding me. The other day like the anxiety about the thing is like always worse than the thing happening. I mean I suppose if someone actually had died on me at this point. That would have been a very very awful thing like I guess what I'm saying is like the anxiety sort of lives if I could describe it like lives like trapped in my chest. We had almost no where to go you just feel kind of paralyzed by it and it's awful but then when something actually happens you're able to go through an actual process of lake grieving having or experiencing at like anxiety starts to move through different parts of your body you know so. I think like where is like where is the fear of something and it comes like I start to get anxious because like I'm protecting myself against these fears right and yet there was a purpose but it feels really shitty and it feels the same for everything. It's just this like constant like tightness in my chest fluttering in my chest like feeling like I can't concentrate on anything else but once like if the thing happens that I'm I'm afraid of like like okay so when I was at the very beginning of college like I did have this like fear of recoup stands up here and like I feel like a lot of boys don't have that. They don't think they're quite free about marks and but like that example is an interesting one because it was actually the anxiety that's not a good example because he was actually brought on by that ever happening if that happened once once in college and I had to call three of my best friends and be like have you ever had like the worst person in the world. They're like no that when you have. OCD You seek reassurance a lot. So one thing I have to be careful about is like I will reach out to like my my desire is to reach out to one hundred people and ask if this is okay yeah. That's really confusing so I think people with. OCD especially have to learn to be careful about who and how many people they reach hour turnarounds in the Internet's good for that yeah super good. Let me see what twitter thing one thing facebook. Ask Ask instagram story yeah no but when the thing I guess what I'm saying is like when the thing actually happens. It's very different physical experience and yeah almost is is it almost relief relief like I remember like the the last like I'm dating someone right now but the person that I was like in relationship with for a a year and a half before I was so afraid number one that I was going to be cheated on number two that the relationship was going to end like I was feeling like hyper vigilant Atlanta..

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"ocd" Discussed on The Jordan Harbinger Show

The Jordan Harbinger Show

03:47 min | 2 years ago

"ocd" Discussed on The Jordan Harbinger Show

"By the way, most of the guests on the show, actually subscribe to the course and the newsletter. So come join us. All right. Here's how he Mandel. So I have to get this out of the way otherwise seem like an irresponsible host the whole OCD thing that, that, that has to get done. Otherwise, it looks like I didn't do my homework. So is that your question? It's not a question yet. It will become a question. Because when you said, let's get it out of the way. That's what I try to do each and every day really from the moment, my eyes are open. It's let's get this OCD thing out of the way otherwise would seem like I'm really not taking care of mice. Is there things you do in the morning to sort of mitigate that or is it just like sites? Take my medication you know there's no mitigating. There is, you know, and I think that people know, and I've been really open and want to continue to be open because, you know, I'd like to be a small part of removing the stigma of mental health, and I don't think there's anybody alive or anybody listening to this. That doesn't have a mental health issue. You may not have OCD may not be bipolar. You may not even be depressed. But I. Good mental health, promotes good, physical health, good economic healthy, because it will make you can't be productive if you can't cope, and so all of us need a certain amount of coping skills, and some of us need more than others. And I have found out through, you know, being surrounded by great family, and great professionals that there are ways to ease and mitigate, you know, the struggles of life. But when you have OCD and also suffer from anxiety, and depression, and all these other things life is a constant battle, but it's a worthy battle. And for the most part, I win all these little smart battles. Whether it's waking up and taking my medication or talking openly, like I am right now, not just on a podcast, but with a therapist, or with my wife or with my kids, whatever it takes, or just a breathing exercise. Whatever there is a constant battle, but I think everybody has across the bear. Yeah. I think it's, it's common. But you're right. The stigma is like, oh I I'm probably the only one with this problem and everyone's gonna think I'm weird. So I don't wanna tell anyone, you know, in my book, I wrote I wrote in my book, that was my, you know, I'm older than our motor new and older than probably most people listening, but I mean my mid sixty. So as a being a child of the fifties, you know, mental, even the word Mendel had a stigma negative so people thought I was odd. I had problems coping, I don't have a GED. I wasn't able to stay in school. I was reprimanded for what was considered behavioral problems, which in hindsight was part of what it is that I have. But I as I was saying, like, you know, if somebody's going through a divorce in life or somebody's losing their job. You know, it makes it hard to go someplace and then function and be happy. And. And by that token for that reason, maybe they need help, and maybe that help is just talking to a friend or just, you know, taking a couple of days off work so they can get their head together. Whatever it is. We all need a coping skill to be as productive. And happy as we could possibly be an ultimately, you know, I think we're all striving for. And, and when you talk about making it, I don't think it's money. I don't think it's notoriety. I think that making is being is being happy, you know, with what you're doing and which are about to do in, which you which did, and I just drive. My current is happiness..

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