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Latest construction update on the Las Vegas Stadium
"Talk about what's happening are the stadium at the ground record a little over a year ago and and the way they come out there and do the rendering and the excitement about the new stadium is all very exciting kind of second done correctly in order for it to to move and the one that's going to be at the at the Las Vegas Stadium is even more sophisticated than the one down in Glendale intensive and they'll be kind of exciting to watch from the ground to a couple of those projects says We know the Stadium Authority does go over and have these meetings this Thursday and they give a lot of credit to the Cardinal Organization for allowing them to observe everything that they're doing so that they can actually have a better picking up a crew went from the Review Journal went down to Glendale Arizona to see their field trae inaction and we'll have a WHO knows where they're going to end up playing next year but but you're right and I'm sure that if I could wave a magic wand they they'd love to have that stadium alerts as we know and the next meeting they're going to be discussing la NY doors and the field trade these are some very exciting things like you said that are coming in a field tracy coming up quicker than I could have imagined at this point the stadium looks to me to be over third of the way completed and it's not even close to twenty full report on that coming up this weekend but the the fact is is that this the this big tray there are so many things that have to be there is a meeting here in town that will discuss a few future projects and you're actually writing a few articles on that which can be found on review journal Dot Com as are other people who are in the the you know we're talking about moving on an Acre field from outside the stadium inside and it's it's quite an undertake twentieth the raiders again slated to begin playing in this sixty five thousand seat stadium in time for the twenty twenty football season Rick at this point I bet the raiders away right now they've they've actually spent about a third of the money they've got one third of the schedule completed and Just by looking at it you could probably say wow it looks like Aldworth this stadium project you can always find everything there that covers the raiders This stadium was going to cause one point nine billion dollars it was already done so they can have a new home for twenty nineteen there's so many somebody storm clouds over this whole to two thousand nineteen season that are out there and and has the subsidiary that's building the stadium very proud of that fact the fact is is that they have some really tough jobs coming up that will be timing enjoy along today with our Review Journal Assistant Business Editor Rick Vlada who knows all things about the stadium here that is in Las Vegas and gets about one third of where it should be which which it is in that means it's on time and it's on budget and I think that the Raider management that scheduled to speak about at the Stadium Authority meeting on Thursday is The safety protocols that are involved in in using these things because already done so that they could just put the team in there right now and am I accurate in saying that about a third of the way done it looks to be that way it is a little little past third system in place than what the cardinals have in Glendale and the Niger is what are the purposes of those whereabouts like on the stadium or are they going to go at what can you tell us okay if you can if you can envision the stadium sits at kind of a a north to South angle and the South specifically is interesting to me what can you tell us about the new developments and the discussion that could happen in terms of these two projects the things that are there's and is where the field trae will be it'll be parked outside it'll have a field a natural grass field that will actually sit right in the center of the of the stadium inside now then if you envision exactly right across from the from and then on Game Day or actually preceding Game Day they'll move that entire field from south to north to actually a be watered outside and tended outside and the sod will be probably replaced at least once or maybe twice a season outside tastic view looking outside to the Las Vegas Strip now the NFL has some rules about whether these doors can be opened or not during Games two hundred and fifteen feet wise and they will open so that people can view outside to a fantastic view and this is if an emergency should occur now in most likelihood the most common setting for the stadium there's those doors are gonna be and what will what will happen is that ninety minutes prior to a game they'll make a decision as to whether the doors will be open or closed now what happens if there's where the field trae opening is which is on floor level and you can imagine exactly a right across from it they'll be these lanai doors which are about field moving in there's an entirely different setup compared to the Glendale stadium if you look at the Glendale Stadium you'll see that their field trae comes in they seem to develop a you know just moments but that's that's the reason why they have to set up some of these safety protocols as far as the safety of the those those standards will be down down position one of the safety protocols on this particular case is that there can be no people in those stands as more people enter the building it's going to heat up that's just kind of natural process because it is an indoor venue but if they chose to they could have the chill none of this inside the Mama Ter- stuff that's going to give you the exact perfect temperate location that I mean weather conditions but you need doors open and what they have to do is monitor wind conditions and make a decision closing usually the threshold is about twenty five mile an hour closed but and the reason why is because going to be so hot most of the season and that stadium's going to heat up to a certain extent they're going to have the cooling the biggest and the problem as you mentioned just briefly is going to be parking now what we're imagining that there's going to be a bunch of lots the power failure and they ha they can't close the doors well that's what they're going to be talking about on Thursday the safety protocols involved in manually closing those doors always shaking everybody's hand with to live over there with that what's that football fans it's time for another edition of Vegas Nation podcast I'm your host Heidi Uh when the field is moved in they will be an upward position so that the field can move in and then when the field is completely in or when it's completely outside when the field is being moved in and out and that's just just a safety precaution that they've decided to put into place as absolutely necessary to do is talking about all of this and it just gives me the whole picture of exactly how state of the art this stadium is going to be I grew up as a kid you know in San Francisco and ah I've contended all along that this is the reason why they chose that site in the first place regardless of the hassles that are involved in parking is that they're going to have this fancy to do in terms of tailgating because they have indicated through throughout this whole process the tailgating is very important to the raiders culture wins if I twenty five mile an hour winds close them and they have to have weather monitoring systems up to one hundred miles away to predict some of the GonNa go have a pre-game brunch one of the places like the Rio and then takeover a shuttle to the stadium perhaps that's just an idea and throwing out there all over Las Vegas and that these shuttles or perhaps even the monorail may be used as as for people to commute from wherever they are the storms that might be on the horizon as we all know who when we live here sometimes these monsoon storms come up and they're here and there very quickly across a walkway there there are no seats over there but in the Las Vegas Stadium there are seats that are going to be above that opening and there's again you briefly touched on it with the location of the stadium being just across from Mandalay Bay on Russell road and it's also Jose Avenue between Polaris and Dean Martin now that's just west of our fifteen that's a major interstate here in so in order to accommodate the weight that will be placed on on that area they have to put some structures in underneath that will fold up and radium itself could actually be done let's say within the next year and that the rest of the time spent getting the stadium ready to how Paul Miles of the stadium and you're right people will be parking their cars in those satellite lots and then transferred to the stadium via some shuttled and for a ride sharing that is all still up in the air as well obviously they're working very closely with the Nevada Department of Transportation the the monorail which right now there are plans in place to extend the monorail line it ends right now on the south end at MGM grand are a little ways because of the team has indicated that there maybe more lots put into place they haven't negotiated anything definite yet and probably from the minute of the the as soon as they
The Prosperity of the Wicked, Part 3
"Word of truth so we can worship God in spirit and truth deepening our knowledge of God thereby enabling us to deepen our love welcome to where we are studying to show ourselves approved rightly you make contact at Justin Peters without purpose of apostasy as you said looking down into the abyss of apostasy but God preserved him as he does for his people and wicked clearly wicked men wicked women and they were prospering and he almost stumbled by his own words he almost stumbled brought to the coach and he has join me for the last couple of programs we're talking about his new book entitled Prosperity Of the wicked which is an exposition doubt that happens to all of us right at some point or another if you haven't experienced it yet you will we all go through these time so that in of itself it's not as as you and yours doing well and want to thank you for joining me and joining my friend Jim Osmond Pastor of Kootenai community she says they're driving around in fancy cars and they've got nice homes in here I am trying to serve the Lord and I don't know how to pay my rent and so it's not an uncommon we talked about how it's not a sin to go through spiritual dry spell's it's not a sin to have times of think well they walk away from it all and say I don't believe that anymore and they become an atheist agnostic or some some other form of unbeliever besides that would be a sign that he did not belong to got right yeah Christians don't Pasta cise they don't they may stumble but they don't they don't fall and that is evidence that they didn't belong to God to begin with they saw something that they couldn't Mesh with scripture released understanding of scripture and then he just walked fan but but God preserved him he didn't fully pasta size righty is steps came close to stumbling but he did not stumble dot preserving now if he had a pasta a good point important point that will time-to-time bring up with folks at that our motivation for being christner motivation for obeying God is not I'm trying to serve the Lord and I can't find a job and look at all my friends that that I had in this church a large prosperity Church Shreveport Louisiana in there it's all these material blessing and then another individual who who obeys the Lord and suffers for sufferers affliction and persecution maybe like Paul is stoned and were shipwrecked and not so that we can have material rewards have been an email exchange from time to time with this lady who is I think God has who who when he obeys the Lord he receives all of these blessings and graces and maybe material prosperity for his obedience and so he finds it easy to walk in holiness because he the tripped over it and fell flat on their face in the faith nope no true believable do that God will preserve and keep his people yes and this goes to benefits from it just being obedient having having a clear conscience before God that is its own reward yes show me somebody you take two people one person and You may makes you kinda wonder why do I do this if this is what I get for it right right but obedience is its own reward whether or not we see any material well I don't know whether he is obeying because of obedience sake or obeying because the blessings are there would that same individual be obedient to God if it meant affliction suffering you get some evidence of that even the people who have quote unquote left the faith you know I was a Christian one time and I believed all these things and I did this and then they have questions that eventually they just your loss whereas somebody like the Apostle Paul who obeyed God and it cost him everything for for Righteousness of Christ sake he lost everything then that'd be and I can tell you the motives for each one of those people's obedience right right the man who is blessed when he obeys and things go really well with him when he obeys God of Psalm Seventy three in Psalm seventy three south the author of this particular song almost stumbled Jim over the prosperity of the wicked he saw the one point she called me on the phone she said Jessica what good does it do what I'm trying to serve the Lord and yet I don't know how I'm GonNa pay my rent laid out of the Prosperity Gospel used to be in one of these churches but she's struggling financially struggling her healthy life is tough or in talked about Martin Lloyd Jones often called the doctor he's one of the one of the most able explosives and say the last hundred years or so so even though he had to suffer that affliction he was obedient through it and got used a greatly as a testimony of His grace not to comfort I think probably thousands of people I am not because God is going to bless them for that obedience necessarily right yeah and even even many of the righteous as you said in your sermon this past Sunday and that was expressed when we said in vain I've kept my heart pure and wash my hands in innocence I've been stricken all day long and smitten and chasing every morning obedient they keep their word and they obey God even if it means their own hurt their obeying because they love the Lord and because he is righteous and good and because they mediums there I know what heart that comes from and that is evidence of the work of God they're an individual who will bays in spite of the affliction or even if it costs them up there some of the Baston godly man and yet he died a painful a slow painful death and you know makes his the dying saint like the sun never seemed so large just when it sits yeah so anyway all right you've read Iain Murray's account of how Loyd Jones died and it makes you realise at the glory that he gave to God in the midst of his suffering and God had a purpose in that zone verse seventeen what what happened verse seventeen in verse seventeen says he went into the sanctuary of God in fact verse seventeen re reads until I came into the it could refer to a place for a time of of meditation or placed time of prayer a place in time studying scripture reading a place in a time of worship God's perspective then he says I perceived their end meaning the end of the wicked up to the verse seventeen he's describing the wicked in the all of these things in vain have obeyed I mean he's he's struggling and there's a clear change in verse seventeen everything insperity they enjoy entirely from the vantage point of of human wisdom human insight human rationality and reason from an earthly perspective he he sees their sin he's wicked individuals and and yet the righteous don't get any of that type of prosperity and this caused him to almost stumble and he says I would really struggled over the prosperity of the wicked but everything changes in verse seventeen he was troubled pondered to understand this it was troublesome in aside they have said it is vain to serve God but he said if I had if I had said it would speak this verse fifteen I would have betrayed the generation of children than I pondered to understand I kept myself pure in vain so he needed to get God's perspective from God's vantage point and so he walked into the sanctuary of God or came into the place where God met him fourteen stricken all day long adjacent every morning and even the righteous seemed to be to be wrung out in an oppressed by these wicked people the righteous suffer under the fist with God's people it's a it's a set apart or sacred place where he meets with God and he gained God's perspective and I don't think it would be right to think of the word sanctuary there in the terms that we it was troublesome in my sight in other words using human reason and rationality to try and come up with an answer to this it's troublesome it it was not going to alleviate the vexation he sees their end the destruction of the wicked he says nothing positive about their prosperity or their situation if everything that he says about them from that point forward is all negative thanks for God then I perceived their end and the sanctuary of gun east APPs language there could refer to as sanctuary just means a sacred place for a Holy Place Dad's perspective it's completely the opposite right after he comes into the sanctuary of God then he says then I perceive their end you can look at this perspective this thing from two different perspectives God's perspective from the Sanctuary how God sees it what God is doing it or you're gonNA look at it from the vantage point of human wisdom in this life but it's just this life this is short in and they're going to go into eternity with nothing they're going to go into eternity not the blessings of God not under any common grace that's all going to come to a screeching halt they're going to go into eternal destruction yeah right utter ruin he says I use the term sanctuary today as in one main room in a building where we worship this was Asef coming into the presence of God I think probably the best the most general way of saying he came into the even me when I was hearing you tell us a new that but when I was when I heard you talking about it even even I had the salsa you know why I mean this was this was I eighteen shirley us speaking of God have set them in slippery places you cast them down destruction how they are destroyed a moment they are utterly swept away by sudden tears sort of exalting them to these highest places now he realizes from God's vantage point there slippery places yes they are high they are above all the men the presence of God and this is saying I got God's perspective I walked into the place where God is and I sat down as it were and saw this from and then he says I perceived their end and then in verse seven the whole foam switches suddenly he has nothing more to say that as good about the prosperity enjoyed by the wicked in the first just looking at them outwardly as everything goes swimmingly with them everything goes well and yet they are the most wicked people and but for the righteous they are as he says inversely team -ality and if you look at it from the vantage point of human wisdom and rationality you're going to be vexed and upset by it it's causes you to question God it's going to cause you to wonder onus and watch that unfold spurgeon said if this isn't a director's very close he said the Lord makes the Lord the gym the the first half of this psalm seventy three's Eight say negative but but had a wrong perspective he almost doubled on earth the rich man had everything Lazarus had nothing could not he was crippled couldn't even move on his own covered with sores but they mock and wicked to speak of oppression where pride like a necklace they there are no pains in their death their body is fat they're not in trouble and not plagued all of these things that is with the wicked right got his lavish these things upon them but not for their good God is not intending with those riches to bless them for their wickedness as you feel that hit right if all you have if all of your lunch money that you have when the bully takes a from you as a buck to buy milk and a half of peanut butter and Jelly Sandwich then the ease the minute the minute the hit the man of the minute Hitler slips into into eternity and the arms of his mistress however peaceful that may be or the minute the wicked could won't many of the righteous have nothing but after death it's like Luke Sixteen right the rebellion and lasers Lazarus has everything in the Richmond has nothing right he takes buck from you you feel that but if mom and dad gave you one hundred dollars to go to red lobster for lunch with you and your friends and the bully takes that from you when you lose it all you feel the pain much more receive the end of the wicked site now he realizes that the prosperity of the wicked really in the grand scheme of things is just an illusion yes there's physical prosperity yeah it yeah it is the the wicked have everything taken from them and the more they have when they lose it the greater is that sense of loss the greater is that judgment so Ursel for the wicked and the righteous it's the reversal right eternity will be reversed at just like you turned to was completely reversed in Luke Sixteen We see the same thing here in Psalm seventy three it was preaching through this I paraphrase that that proverb instead God is lifted them up in the higher he lifts them up farther it is that they follow the more the more you have when it has all taken from you the hardest man dies in his sleep of the stroke however peaceful that might appear to us it is not peaceful from his perspective because he loses everything he'd accumulated and now suddenly he faces eternity it's not a drop in the bucket it's not a grain of sand on the sea shore it it's infinitely less than and we have to understand they're they're they're blessings there the prosperity is nothing more than slippery places it swiftly so is f says it is swiftly brought to an end Tavassoli he's envying it as envious of the wicked saw all of these things fat their eyes bulge with fatness they liberties they die these everything's great about them but then after faith you know walk in leave just passed away in asleep but but then you read like I mentioned in Mary's two volume work on La- Jones's life and God is intending that those that those riches would serve to harden their hearts he is preparing them for destruction he has it has like he has fattening up the Oxford Michael Jackson and all his millions or any of these celebrities hundreds of often hundreds of millions dollars what good slaughter the wealth that he gives to the wicked it's it's the great reversal it is the rich the wicked on this earth many of them have everything imperil these things are judgments of God upon the wicked so rather than viewing prosperity as the blessing of God upon the wicked the prosperity but death is the great equalizer right it doesn't matter how much money you have who you know who knows you deaths come yeah and it's not just the equalizer it's the reversal it is a place where they are going to fall from that place it is as if the higher up God is raising them the harder it is that they're going to fall back my my youngest daughter told me that they are hardened in their wickedness and they're in Penitence and they do not see God they are not brought to understand a need for God they are blinded to the Hyphen Clown Rodney Howard Brown no the not the not the guy that actually does the laughing but the the guy who thinks he's a clown Jesse duplantis Oh yeah is actually the judgment of God upon those very same wicked because that prosperity it was as if the exit and I use this illustration book it was as if the executioner's axe prosperity I can say without without a moment's hesitation or without a bit of doubt that we've used Benny Benny Hinn as an example use chemical plunder up who's the sixteen is not is not that wealth is inherently sinful or lack of it is inherently honorable right the the rich man looks he is making themselves sufficient and independent and blinding there is to the truth through that because they have hardened their hearts they have turned away got his giving them strongly is intended by God to judgment upon those men he is confirming them or he is he's confirming their impedance he is hardening their hearts through it around the gun he is swept away swift destruction song says right in in what good is it if you have everything on this earth you know you look at I don't know and we are looking at it as the executioners raising the acts we are looking at it saying why is God giving him a stay of execution why has gone blessing him by removing the acts from his which sudden destruction robs them everything takes everything from them right and even if even sudden destruction only comes about because they have they have died all about their destruction and everything that he says about the righteous is all positive so up to that point everything's says about the pop no righteous was negative and the wicked positive but then once he gets is being raised above the head the neck of the wicked individual and more prosperity they are given and the more prosperity they acquire the higher up that acts goes you have to realize what God is doing that prosperity Indian penitent wicked in that prosperity they are hardened in their in their prosperity they are hardened in their sin above he says whom have I in heaven but you and besides you I desire nothing on earth that is part of coming into the sanctuary of God and understanding these things from from God's perspective Asef makes a Beautiful Statement Jim in verse twenty intention in giving that blessing to the individual that determines whether it is got hardening them in their wickedness or God's blessing for the the point of this just like the point of looks Christ just Christ is he enough is enough and I think that's a pretty good barometer of Asian men are not going to believe the truth they have in front of them with account see it and their prosperity is blinding them to that reality it is the judgment of God upon the false teaching and sometimes I'll make the point to people as I said what is your what is your view of having what is it about having that you look forward to is it that you look forward the great wealth and I know some very wealthy righteous individuals in when God gives that wealth to a righteous man it is not a judgment upon him and it can be a blessing did it's take away the promise of having a glorified body with no multiple sclerosis with no CPI with no muscular dystrophy arthritis it was just is it do you if you want what good does it do if he if you gain the whole world but forfeiture sole right I mean when you compare this short lifetime let's wait what I should title this book was harder they fall in other words not the the House that proverb go the the bigger bigger they're hardly saw I paraphrase that when laughing clown we can use these guys as examples of that you take you take a man like Kenneth Copeland or Jesse duplantis I can say without a moment's hesitation that the prosperity that they enjoy active this is the judgment of God we we there's part of a sustainable I wish I could be judge like that I wish I could have all that stuff but you know God can give a a righteous individual a dream when one wakes oh Lord when aroused despise there for him so that is the true condition of the wicked what what as often in the first half of the psalm saw as Gods Z. desire it's not the prosperity and the ease of life and the fatness and the provision I desire God God is my true portion is the portion for my soul now and forever wherever for behold those who are far from perish you destroyed all those who are unfaithful to you that that's the end of the wicked that we talked about earlier God is going to destroy all those who are faithful to him but as for me a step says the nearness of God is my good I've made the Lord God my refuge that I tell all your works so there he ends the song versus to being to walking on streets of gold you look forward to having you're supposed mansion that you're you know people think you're going to have you are you are you looking forward to seeing grandma and GRANDPA and the create with an in a similar way with how he began the song the song begins with Shirley got as good to Israel to those who appear in heart a declaration of the goodness of God all your works he ends almost almost on an evangelistic note that we we testify the goodness of God this is how this is what we should declare yeah early gates and all this because that's what most people think of when they think they think it's this big family reunion read ninety minutes in heaven because Red Ninety minutes in heaven him from toil and trouble and vexation the ability to live your life without a care or worry in the world which he thought that was what the wicked enjoyed that's what he wanted in the first half of the song he starts off the song desiring all of those things on the surf the prosperity the fatness provision the ease of life the easing death the uh you know why why the judgment of God upon a false teacher their wealth is not because got his blessing him is because got his judging them and we ought to look at their prosperity and see it from that gene didn't go to help goes as rich Lazarus didn't die and go to heaven because he was poor each man went where he was spiritually prepared to go right right and so that that's part of an ace F came to understand that the end of the song that the nearness of God is his good so how is it that God is good to his people he is near them he never leaves the more forsakes than of your maturity in the lower deck is he enough and and this is a since listen in Asef Statement Verse Twenty Five in besides you I desire nothing on who says God is near to me and so that is good not the gold but my God right got to come into the sanctuary of God and and he ends this gym the very last verse in in this life and the next day SAF cherishes but all the rest of the blessings that he lists at the end of that song he says my flesh my heart may fail but God is the strength of my heart my portion and that's the that's the vantage point that's the perspective that only walking into the sanctuary of God can give you you can't arrive at that place with human wisdom or human understanding or a he yeah but if you were to take all that away and those things will be there I mean the the streets of gold they'll be there in the news roussel they'll be but if you were to take all that away earth God must be desired his person and notice how different that is from what he says is the beginning of the Song I was envious of the arrogant is I saw the prosperity of the wicked again I just have to say because I implied in the book that all the proceeds the book go to fund the Building Program McCartney Community Church and that's true of books that they buy off of your website when humid approach to try to solve these problems it's something you can only gain for when God reveals this to you to see what is really going on in eternal perspective always with them and that is how God is good to his people that does not it is not material prosperity that is the goodness of God to his people always be if that's the measure then got his failed fry genome average book it's excellent it's thorough it's a good exegesis of Psalm seventy three and as you said I think the only one you wanna be brother thank you for sure right all right your friends thank you for joining us and until our next time together may the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ the love of God and the fellowship of his four God yours your host Justin Peters welcome to the Program Ladies and gentlemen hope that this is in psalm seventy three he said as for me the nearness of God is my good has you just talking about out may the Lord my refuge that I may tell of and then in the second half of Psalm when he sees that that prosperity is not God's blessing but it is God's judgment in the second half of the Psalm then what is it to his people but the nearness of God is my good and that's what I came to cherish not not so much the nearness of gold but the nearness of God and ragged have guy that would give all the Gold Holy Spirit be with you all thank you for listening to dedicate we hope that you were encouraged and edify out there the only book that is solely dedicated to psalm seventy three that's a doctrine Lee sound exegesis of the tax yeah right as well I'm Justin sells the books for the website and some of the proceeds of that Goto Fund Justin Peters Ministry which is more than worthy cause and then Justin also that's what he came to really see as the most desirable thing not
Leave work on time, guilt-free
"Smart is open open is smart i._b._m. Is combining their industry expertise with the open source leadership of red hat. Let's unlock the world's potential essential. Let's put smart to work learn more at i._b._m. Dot com slash red hat. Welcome to before loyd breakfast a production of iheartradio good morning. This is laura. Welcome to the before breakfast podcast this week. We've been talking about work and the broader issues of how we feel about our jobs. Today's tip is one way to feel better about work walking out the door at a reasonable hour feeling satisfied and happy people who are paid by the hour need to be at their workplaces at certain times but even in offices it says were almost everyone is salaried. There can be strong cultural norms about what time it is acceptable to leave. If someone leaves before that time there can be a lot of grumbling. You know how this goes oh. I wish i could leave this early guests. Some of us have to do all the work around here. The net result is that people stick around doing nothing particularly productive but not leaving because they don't wanna rock the boat. I hope any manager's listening to this podcast can make clear that in their offices people are accountable to you for meeting their work objectives and just as long as people are meeting those objectives you don't value sticking around longer just because but in any case even if there is some grumbling you can still learn to walk out on time feeling like you've put in a solid day. I plan your days well before you leave each evening right down your intentions for the following day. What are your three most important tasks. Look at what david allen calls the hard scape of your day the time specific commitments you've already agreed to. Where will you schedule your important tasks around these commitments aim to do most of your important tasks first thing in the day why well stuff will come up but if you attack your priorities early hopefully you'll be done with them. Before the emergencies arise planning ahead also allows us to schedule our most important work for most most productive time and to plan for longer blocks of focus. If you're generally best in the mornings as most people are and you see you have a nine thirty meeting an an attack. You'd really like to devote a full hour to you might be better off coming in at eight or eight fifteen verse your normal thirty you can see there won't be an open our later in the day that means if you don't do the task first thing in the morning eat wind up doing the task from five to six p._m. After the meeting stop coming in fifteen the thirty minutes early means you can leave an hour earlier than you would have and that's definitely a good tradeoff second say hello and check in with people early in the day i hear from so many people that their daily exits get delayed because they walk around saying goodbye to people as they're wrapping up which makes total sense right. You want to nurture archer those relationships with your colleagues but that's when people say oh hey i meant to ask you about it can be really important issue but there goes fifteen to twenty ninety minutes. This is frustrating if it means. You're on a later train so make sure people see you earlier. Circle around to everyone after lunch or on your your way to grab tea in the afternoon maybe seeing if people want to join you people really aren't trying to ruin your evenings or at least i hope not it's just that seeing your face reminds them of of a question or something. That's on their minds so make sure people see your face before five p._m. Finally do what i call a four p._m. Triage about sixty to ninety minutes before you plan to leave revisit your to do list what absolutely has to happen before the end of the day what can be pushed to tomorrow morrogh. If you still really need to do something this gives you a moment to pause and figure out a plan and tackle it prior to quitting time this is also when you can set your intentions for the following day and set up tomorrow for your victories then when the work you've assigned yourself has done go. You're usually back tomorrow. There will be time then to deal with future work but you'll be more prepared to deal with it if you've relaxed done something adventurous venturous with your family and friends and gone to bed on time in the meantime. This is laura. Thanks for listening and here's to making the most of our time. Hey everybody. I'd love to hear from you. You can send me your tips your questions or anything else just connect with me on twitter facebook and instagram at before breakfast pot. That's be the number four more than breakfast he o._d. You can also shoot me an email at before breakfast. Podcasts at iheartmedia dot com that before breakfast is spelled out with all the letters. Thanks so much. I look forward to staying in touch before breakfast. Doc fest is a production of iheartradio for more podcasts from iheartradio visit the iheartradio app apple podcasts or wherever you listen to your favorite shows and my name is danny shapiro shapiro and i'm the host of family secrets a podcast about the secrets kept from us secrets we keep from others and the secrets we keep from ourselves. Family secrets is a show where you can hear powerful stories of heartbreak. Healing and hope wasn't a season to a family secrets on apple podcasts the iheartradio app <music> wherever you get your podcasts.
1: Daily Sales Tips Podcast
"Welcome to the daily sales tips podcast. My name is Scott Ingram. And I'll be your host in this short introductory episode. I'd like to share with you how this show came about. And what you can expect at least based on the initial vision as the host of the sales success stories podcast where I only interview quota carrying individual contributors who were either number one, or at least in the top one percent of their sales organizations. I go deep the average interview on that show is typically between seventy five and ninety minutes long sometimes longer the feedback has been amazing. But it takes them pretty serious commitment to get through each of those episodes and rarely is it possible to do that in a single session. I wanted to solve for that and make some of the nuggets of knowledge from that show. More accessible initially. I thought a very short daily show that featured clips and quotes from those interviews would be just the thing. But quickly my vision started to grow rather than. Limiting the tips to only those that come from the sales success stories podcast. I thought this show would be even more valuable if we were to deliver a broader set of insights from a larger pool of contributors. So why not use this as a platform to allow you to stay up to speed on the latest trends books and events from across the sales ecosystem, if this works the way, I hope we're going to give a lot of books away to listeners who are the most interested in engaged in that topic. My goal is to provide you with a valuable and hopefully actionable tip every day while allowing you to hear directly from the authors of new books speakers at upcoming events conferences and webinars and secured discounts for other tools and education to help you improve your results and more rapidly advance in your sales career all in five ten minutes per day or less that way, you can easily fit it into your daily routine or binge through an entire week. Worth of content in an hour or less. Speaking of binging to allow for the more rapid consumption of a series of episodes. I'm not going to add any intro or out show music. Instead, I'll jump right into an out of each episode of the you can listen to a whole bunch in a row, basically uninterrupted while podcasts can be a very passive medium. I hope you'll become an active participant you can start by subscribing to the listener list to get updates. Don't worry these won't come out daily. But instead will average once or twice a week to do that head on over to top one dot FM forward slash D, S T or daily sales dot tips. Both will take you to the same place. I've already upgraded the commenting software on the blog. So that you can jump into the conversation around any specific tip and at your own two cents and learn from others. I'll be sure to find ways to reward the most active contributors as we go. Now, speaking of contributors, I will like. Setup affiliate links for many of the books events and other offers I'm able to secure for you. I'd appreciate it. If you would use those links as any affiliate income will help pay for the show and any excess will help pay for my two daughters to go to college. Now as I record this that is just over two thousand tips away, but I've been at this game of life long enough to know that time flies when you're having fun. And we're going to have a lot of fun with this now for fans of the sales success stories podcast. Don't worry nothing is going to change about that show. You're still going to find the great deep dive interviews with top performers that you know in love. That's it. Please. Make sure you've subscribe to the podcast in your favorite podcast player. And join the listener list at top one dot FM forward slash DST. Thanks for listening.
494: Sales Is Service - Sharleen Vincent
"You're listening to the daily sales tips podcast and I'm your host Scott Ingram. Today's tip is actually an excerpt of my last conversation on the sales success stories. Podcast with Charlene Vincent who is the top strategic client executive at workfront check? It out. Helping people is a way to. If I'm helping people then I get help myself. And so I do believe that the profession of sales if you believe that you have knowledge or a solution a product a service that someone else needs or an organization needs and it will make their life better or their balance sheet. Better their income statement better or individually. Personally you know that person that makes their life better because you help them get better at what they do in the organization or emerge a hero in their organization. And you're helping them. That helps me and I really enjoy that. I enjoy being kind of a mentor. A trainer and I've been able to do that at work friend. I've built a brand here that all across the the company whether it's other sales people product people leadership anybody. They will come to me and ask my opinion on stuff. I enjoy that I like strategizing with people about. Hey how can we get better? How can we help this customer? How do we help our customers customers if you go toward an organization and a sale going? I don't want to just make my customer happy. I WanNa make their customers happy. How do we do that? You know how do we really help them? Make their customers happy. And it just that is motivational. I'm actually a certified life and leadership coach so I really enjoy that. I enjoy working to try to help people better themselves whether that be personally professionally or whatever that is so good. I have found that this show has been so stereotypes smashing in so many different ways. I think what we imagine of top sales people and what really drives them is very stereotypical and is actually very wrong. Right what you just described I think is the most common answer right. It's this idea that sales is really service. And because we're good at that that's why we make a lot of good money and get all of the other things that a great sales job provides. It's not the other way around. It's not I'M GONNA go get in sales so that I can make a lot of money and I'm going to pull one over on a bunch of people so that I can bake bake a bunch of money. It's totally the opposite. Exactly you know because it goes back to that thing where I said I see my potential customers as people I and build trust and I think the best sales people out there their customers and their colleagues and their partners you know their solution advisors their sales engineers their team of people trust them. And I think that's what makes people good and you know I'm going to act on the best benefit of my customer and of my company but I'm not GonNa do anything. I'm going to be willing to walk away from something with my customer. If I don't feel like I'm doing the best thing for them and I have. I can tell you stories where I have walked away. Y- or I have said to a customer. If that's how you feel about it. I would rather you not do business with me. You know because it's just not gonNA work out you know so. I think you're right in a in I've listened to some of your tells cast by the other incredible people that you interview and it is a common theme of being of service in just understanding how you can help them help their customers and help them you know. Just be better and do better. I actually struggled the choose. Just one clip from this full interview. Which was actually over ninety minutes long so you might be hearing a couple more of these in the coming weeks but you can always cheat and go listen to the full episode on the Sales Success Stories podcast and as always we'll have a link to that episode and a link for you to connect with Charlene at daily sales dot tips forward. Slash four ninety. Four then come on back tomorrow for another great sales tip. Thanks for listening.
Sports Week Night Quiz (6-15-2020)
"Welcome back! It's time for Chompers your morning and night tooth brushing show start brushing on the top of your mouth on one side, and make sure to brush the inside, the outside and the showing side of each to. Three. It's sportsweek and tonight. We have an answer to the quiz from this morning. What's the most popular sport in the world? Is it basketball? Cricket! or soccer. Ready for the answer, Gimme a drummer by stopping your feet. The answer is soccer. Rushing to the other side of the top of your mouth. And tongue brush to. Soccer also known as football is the most popular sport in the world with billions of fans. Part of what makes soccer great is how easy it is for anyone to play. All you need is a ball, an open field and a couple of friends. To be good at soccer, you have to be able to run for a long time. Professional Soccer Games for ninety minutes. That's along the whole movie is. Switzer rushing to the bottom of your mouth and brush your front teeth to. Another thing that soccer players love to practice is juggling. But this isn't the type of juggling where you throw a bunch of balls in the air and keep tossing them around with your hand. In Soccer Juggling happened with your feet and your head. Players practice how long they can the soccer ball from hitting the ground by kicking it up with their feet or bouncing off the top of their heads. Off. Switzer brushing to the other side of the bottom of your mouth, but don't brush to. The world's biggest sucker competition is the World Cup. Every four years countries from. Send their best players to compete for the title of World Cup champions. But you don't have to wait for World Cup to watch soccer. There are leagues the play all the time and all over the world. We reached our goal. With tonight's choppers, so come back tomorrow for more sports and until then three. Point. Chompers is production of Gimblett media.
96: The Sun Rising
"Pay. I'm Jennifer lie. The producer of the slowdown each weekday. We're here for you with a new poem and a new perspective. We rely on you to make that possible. This April celebrate national poetry month by making the slowdown happen support. The show you love today at slowdown show dot org slash donate. I'm US poet laureate, Tracy case Smith, and this is the slowdown. Most days. My alarm wakes me at five thirty eight that gives me a whole ninety minutes to go to the gym or work on slowdown episodes before my kids wake up for school. Because once they wake up all five of us are thrust into the mad weekday rush chased along by the ticking clock, but weekend mornings are different weekends afford us to magical days, where if we're lucky my husband, and I can lie in bed an extra few hours just blissfully being honestly, it feels like a form of time travel where we're permitted to revisit the early days of our relationship days when we had it now seems nothing but time to do whatever we pleased, of course, those time machine more. Innings only last for so long inevitably they give way to the scampering of footsteps down the hall that leads to our bedroom. And then the bed is full with the five of us, and we're a family again flipping pancakes tying shoelaces and venturing out into whatever kid centered activity the day holds. I recognize the Sunday morning version of myself and my husband in today's poem, the sun rising by metaphysical poet, John done were there in the speakers wish to push back the days, relentless sun and guard a little more time to spend undisturbed with the one. He loves the speaker wakes up vexed chastising the sun for trying to rouse him and his lover from bed. Busy old fool. He calls the sun essentially telling him where he can stick his rays of light. Because when you're in love nothing the day promises could be better than holding the one you love in your arms reality. Of course is different. The sun. Does what the sun does no matter what one's wishes may be the same can be said of ones. Children. The sun rising by John. Dunn busy old fool, unruly, son. Why does thou us through windows and through curtains? Call on us must to they motions lovers seasons. Run saucy pedantic wretch, go chide late schoolboys and sour practices. Go. Tell court huntsmen that the king will ride call country. Ants to harvest offices, love all alike. No season knows nor climb nor hours days months, which are the rags of time they beams so Reverend and strong. Why should south think I coulda clips and cloud them with a wink. But that I would not lose her sight so long if her eyes have not blinded vine look and tomorrow late. Tell me whether both the India's of spice and mine be where thou left's them or lie here with me ask for those kings, whom thou sauced yesterday, and now shalt here all here in one bed lay. She's all states and all princes. I nothing else is princes do but play us compared to this all honors mimic, all wealth, alchemy thou son, art half as happy as we in that the world's contracted thus vine age asks es and since I do dis be to warm the world that's done. In warming us shine here to us and now art everywhere this bed. Vice center is these walls by severe. The slowdown is a production of American public media in partnership with the library of congress and the poetry foundation.
The Shack, Part 5
"Word of truth so we can worship God in spirit and truth deepening our knowledge of God thereby enabling us to deepen our love welcome to where we are studying to show ourselves approved rightly is that of universalism and there have been charges of universalism out sovereignty in his omniscience how that was very much undermined in the book and another big area of heresy in both the book and the movie ain't give but the murderer in the movie who killed the little girl hospices quote he is my son as well have had horrible upbringing like them you can somewhat relate to what it isn't it causes them to do horrible things that they do so people aren't they're not really responsible papa figure says to him even the murderer he is my child as well yes yes he gets right into the the murderer and the thief and the terrorists and the Rabe rapists and all these people these things they only do these things because they have horrible upbringing so now since you who killed a little girl he only did that because he had yeah while Mac is struggling with forgiveness forgiving the murderer for hopeful universal so before as leading into universalism kind of his going up the radical mountaineer in the movie you say that sin is excused the reason Max's father abused him mcevoy is because Max's father in movie in one at one point Jim in the movie Mac one of poppas favorite phrases is oem especially fond of especially fond of you turn was abused when he was a boy so he wasn't really responsible there's a saint remember the state of the movie where it showed a picture of a terrorist with a gun out of that Papa in when he dies he's GonNa go to heaven so clearly a universalism is is woven all throughout the on to explain all these other acts of terror these things are all of these other acts of evil these things happen but because these other people had horrible upbringings as well as if it is the rapist clear implication that with in no evidence in the movie that this murderer ever repented no evidence of that but he belongs the spines you and yours doing well and what thank you for joining me I think this will be our last installment of our series on the shack I'm joined by a terrorist is only a terrorist because he had a bad upbringing that was in clear implication is not what they stated but as as a it's a character of the Shacks Defenders Say Oh no William Paul Young's not a universalist but in fact he s a universalist by his own admission he's a hopeful he calls himself season another vision of of this other child being beaten and said I don't know she said that your father and all of a sudden the psyche realizes all the reason my father beat me as because his father beat him and then she goes especially fond of him papa was especially fond of Neil young who I've just discovering his I think a musician from the seventies I think Papa was wisdom who is showing this to Mac at the time right and you know she sees is who is this and he sees this vision of him being beaten as a child and said well that's me and who is this and listening to Neil young in his or her ear buds especially fond of all these people in maxes is there anyone you're not especially fond of in Papa replies quote licorice struggle with which is the idea that God might have a passionate hatred for senators and for these particular sins is the a free pasture GM osmin Jam in our last program will just dive into it because we got a lot of ground to cover in our last program we talked about the issues of I wasn't in the movie difference I kid you not Honda actually says that the man who remains unnamed in the movie I believe run yeah he ever has the rapists murderers the Penitent Yeah Pol Pot Castro Papas fond of all of these people and had denies a something Irit so a flat out denial of one of the attributes of God God's wrath you can't understand the mercy of God until you understand nope haven't been able to find any talk to us about Osama Bin Laden Adolf Hitler Mao Tse Tung those who are responsible for the Cambodian killing and and and if there is just nothing that the murderer can do or anybody could do which might cause God to be angrier wrathful in any way is its own punishment in the book of Shack Papa says quote it's not my purpose punish sin it's my joy to of God the wrath of God is all throughout scripture in yet papa God in the shack almost like wrathful over sin helping God pour out his punishment in his anger against the wicked for their rebellion if they're not in fact responsible for that rebellion these horrible circumstances that sort of land upon us that just happened to us and that we're not responsible for it and so how can God be angry with the wicked how can there is within God both a love for the center not in redeeming love but love the God has for the center because it is a creature but at the same time a hatred for that center because of that Papa just overlooks all of these things because she's just her heart is just a flame with wealth for these different people no matter what they have done no matter who they are will be reconciled to God this keeping with Wingfield Paul Young's self labeled hopeful universalism there's a sane in fact in one scene Mac actually mentions wrath to papa he says something about your your wrath and what about your wrath question what about your Ryan poppe responds by saying quote this was from Papa Wrath you lost me there I don't need to punish people sin the world you made those who believe in you right in Papa response quote the whole world Mac so there is a flat out further Sam don't send it soon as part of their environment if they hadn't grown up in such a horrible environment they wouldn't be such do such horrible things wouldn't be good people because after all people are are all inherently good at right and I think that that is one of the great tragedies dangers of this movie and book is that it absolutely portrays that everyone she doesn't even know what he's talking about what are you talking about you lost me there in the theology of William p young God has nothing to be angry with because we're not really responsible for sin right sandwiches warn everyone will ultimately be reconciled to God now I heard in the interview that recorded from the other night he's separated from the goodness and the love of God for all of eternity that is God's promise and to to deny that or to minimize the punishment of God the Justice of God on that is not true but if you if you do not believe if you will not repent and believe the Gospel and embrace the clemency and forgiveness that are offered through Jesus Christ and you will percents and scripture affirms that scripture says they've got hates the center there are passages teach that there are is with birds against a wicked every yet dial in denial of Hail Denial Hill denial of wrath in in this blatant affirmation that every of God is not understood appropriate appreciated unless the wrath of God is clearly understood if there's no wrath than there's then there's no back they're talking about people being reconciled to Papa and Mac says the whole world will be reconciled to me in Mack says the MP young would never punish anybody for eternity in hell and so the guy that he created based upon his reflection in the mirror neither will that got punish anybody in health right TWAT dollar tree I think it also is a very sad testimony to the profound biblical illiteracy of the vast which Papa Mac are speaking in the movie and they're talking about this is in the book Parmi they're they're having a conversation in authority of people who proclaimed to be Christians yeah there is there is within the movie words and phrases that are said that that sound like they are Christian and I think that those torture of Jesus Christ there's no there's no need to get our doctrine right in for any of that if we're all going to be saved in the end of guys going to reconcile the whole world to himself then there's in gem the the popularity of this book that it has been so widely accepted by professing believers and that the movie eh guaranteed you'd say that Thi obviously just in case that slipped past you up so yes nobody in even the murderer even the murder even the no need to understand another gospel at all so that's a false Gospel William Pyongyang has a false view of Santa False view of the Gospel in a false view of the wrath of God and he glory to God in his atonement of savings from their wrath and what then is the Gospel what does the Gospel savings from there's no there's no need to repent there's no need to believe there's no need to submit enters in hell is again to create a false God it is to present God wrongly God is a god of Wrath he is a lot of love yes but he's also God of Wrath and and the the mercy nothing will separate us from the love of Christ so talk about that what what is of that promises to believers nothing can separate a believer from the love of Christ or even within professing marked evangelicalism shallowness that is almost unprecedented certainly unprecedented in American history I don't know the time when American society which is supposedly a Christian nation quote unquote we have never been more biblically illiterate the way Paul Young takes Romans chapter eight in a uses that as a proof text for universalism his version of universalism that it than we are now in yet there has never been a time with Biblical truth has been more readily available never know between the Internet has a his God does not exist as God as an idol that does not exist yes he's he's made a God after his own image he has no wrath he's not mad about centers centers technology what we have we've never had more and more truth available to us than we do today with a couple of clicks of the mouse you can get every sermon that John Macarthur has ever preached you can listen to it you can read transcripts of it within a couple of clicks of the mouse right there it's never been more accessible and it's a sad state of affairs but we don't we don't despair as those who have no hope we know that God will always have his faithful remnant in everywhere ago he is out there making who knows how many millions of dollars it's making we're going to see it it speaks to it speaks to a man's propensity founded deep singing they don't read profound in deep books they don't read the puritans and they don't read their bibles thoroughly or a lot there that we are not a biblically literate cold l. to people but people are people are in our culture are used to the most shallow of Christian environments they're not used to profound in deep preaching they're not used her all that she feels just this affection and fondness for these people no matter how blasphemous or vile these people are or how hideous Brazil your they're they're they're they're just fewer in other between yeah it is it is the professor you and I went supported the movie only so we could see at to critique it but that is going to be the small fraction of what the movie makes most people who name the name of world are run into like minded believers who are hungry for the truth of God's Word I don't care if I'm in Africa in the Philippines in you don't see Algebra you don't see Steve Lost in you don't say Jim Osmond you don't see any of these exposures bookstores it is inevitable The bookstores are shallow because they are catering to the church or professing Christianity is in auto people if you want as the movie or listening to all Christians around US forty people in the theater affirming it by moaning and groaning and applauding and clapping and laughing at all right moments you know they thought this was great churches the shallow minded Church Church without any discernment as do their God is or what God how their God works that is buying up this book any time when the church has been so biblically illiterate so lacking in discernment and so shallow as it is today and look what look was turned out in bookstores but could you when we were leaving a Motor Scooter Overdose Handing Out Gospel Tracts as people were leaving the theater in one of the ladies that gave a Gospel Track to she says all of either either you didn't learn anything or listening or failed miserably tacit so so the world is going on here but that's just a testimony to the lack of discernment and and Clear Thinking Amongst the people who should belong to God I had it's a that the people do not have a hunger for it right so this is the state of the soul of Modern Evangelical Ism it's what we're saying sinners sin and we we have to affirm both of those if we're going to be true to scripture and the shack denies that element of God Gots Hatred for Sin Paul said in Saint Timothy Four that people will no longer endure sound doctrine themselves teachers who took years so it it's because they are sheep without a shepherd and that is a tragedy they have no discernment because they do not have men in the pulpit who stand there to give them that wisdom birds who should have stood at the gate in fended off the wolves and are responsible for teaching God's people have failed miserably in that task by and large and so people are idea of the state of Christianity just turn on your television it all Christian. TV He is in use that term loosely Christian all Christian TV as as Joel Osteen Joyce Meyer in all so it's a it's a sad state in what's Laurent as you said there's never been breath but at the same time these people obviously are desiring VAT and so they go there and they attend there and that has just created an environment where the Christian churches ignorant not because people are especially stupid in our day it is because the leadership of the church the passers the church the ears ringing moral than a year so there's this new shiny object that comes down evangelical pipeline had a lady told me that her favorite preachers were John Macarthur in Jolo state she said that with a straight face fats blow through evangelical ISM like like chaff through a a mill was a strong wind they just come and go they come and go the Daniel Diet the forty days of purpose and with his question or this difficulty I don't need to go running off to the shack and get the movie down by the Book Scripture is it's scripture I think it's great because they read the Book and when they get there and see the movie they're not GonNa see anything wrong with it and that truly is tragic I am one of the first things I said you when we got back in the car was I don't know what was word Sir any evangelical what at least have lip service that he believes but the real battle is over the sufficiency of God's Word and we are losing that battle function supply and demand whenever the demand the that's what they're gonNA supply so when you turn on Christian you turn on Tbn Day store hiatus be all these you don't say John Macarthur you this whole seems like every few years in I want to get to the sufficiency of scripture swam headed with this sufficiency of God's Word every Christ in attend church on Sundays arguing that are gonna go see this movie are going to be embracing it they're going to love they're gonNA think it's great they're going to see it because changed any better than it was before the shackles released him it's not gonna be any better our apologies to her post world's GonNa get any better answer to the suffering problems suffering and evil which is what the shack proposes them they go onto it because they have not been given an biblical truth to understand the scripture sufficient to answer this objection our fades but the word of God stands forever and if as in Luke sixteen if they will not hear Moses that they will not hear the prophets neither and so they flock to these movies everytime comes out this one is supposed to change the world that's what they said on TV and it's going to change the world they said the same thing all these fads that come through it's it's evidence of that most the vast majority presently do not believe in the sufficiency of Scripture finding truth is very difficult but those fads come and go in the church because people cannot discern the turn the truth because he can't stand the truth let's quickly when someone wrath of Gods and the Ralf are done we are called children of Wrath children of four we or saint in Wilder's Romans chapter five verse nine we are saved from the rats efficient to handle this it is that's where the real battles being fought today not so much at least not the radically over the errands I've seen you before his own yeah you you came to our church in a hurt your signal and groner oh they thought it was awesome that was truly just tragic to hear that in the theater forty people are two of us that were just shaking our heads one I believe even if somebody were to rise from the dead in other words there is an inherent power in God's word that has found no where else nowhere else you have some great resources available I want everybody to appreciate that I am the pastor one of the pastors we have four pastors in our church currently maybe even Alexander called proof of Heaven and each one of them makes differ claims regarding heaven and the afterlife and who got is and how God has revealed himself and I deal with all three of those books demons and exorcisms and Satan whether we should be binding Satan in cancelling curses in it presents an approach to spiritual warfare that is founded upon the truth that presents lashing object comes alone that offers them a quick fix for this or a great program for that or a quick growth method for this or three steps of sanctification or the latest I don't think he was there for the reasons that you know her favorite preachers our Jaws Tina Justin Peters now you say that I literally I was in a lifelong store one time and I promise you certainly not as a result of the shack that as a result less God were to bring reformation to his church revival to the world is not going to improve different grass withers in the we're had a vision of God in ironically that kind of ties into the shack because to spoil the ending of the movie the Shack what you find out is not that he actually had a real conscious after a car accident so my book would deal with some of those issues and then I'm writing the third one I've written a third one I should be available by the time these episodes air and that is called the prosperity of the wicked study of Psalm seventy three in there we deal with issues like divine punishment the sovereignty of God over over evil the good affect my prediction is that when this fad is long past the shack is collecting dust on people's shelves that the world will not be woman I wrote I wrote two books one is called truth or territory Biblical roaches perch warfare the deals with is with Papa inside Sarai you in Jesus but that this was all a vision probably a near death experience that he had while he was we'll let you know and I won't spam we'll let you know when books are available when resources are available events are happening and I've ascend very few emails to people if you want to follow the ministry critiquing the claims of the heaven tourists and in that book I addressed the Don Piper Book Ninety minutes in heaven the todd and Coton PROPO- book heaven is for Real and a book by some have a chapter on the problem with all heaven visitations no matter what type of visitation it might be or no matter whom I propose that they are visited that have visited heaven a study of Psalm seventy three all right it making get your books where a truth territory dot com is the best place 'cause that's easier than spelling out Cooney Church Dot Org you can the spiritual warfare is a battle for the truth and not a battle over territory and then I follow that up with a book on on heaven visitations called selling stirred heaven linked the church website and you go to truth territory dot com and there are links to all of the Amazon sites where you can buy those books and you can sign up for a newsletter there the interested in teaching resources would like to have income and preach at your church conference you make contact at Justin Peters dot four God your is your host Justin Peters welcome to the Program Ladies and gentlemen in our last few minutes here Dallas most of our listeners probably know who you are but tell us a little bit about who you are in the books this of God the issues of common grace whom to whom has got good and how has got good what does he turned he reveal about the true purpose of God prospering facility so that's that's what we're trusting the Lord for and all of the proceeds from all the books go to that until I die then they go to my wife and children so thank you for listening to did we hope that you were encouraged and edify just her if you have a question or comment the Justin the community church and I'm one of four pastors there happened to be the primary preaching elder the does the bulk of the preaching though I share that workload with other very gifted allowing the wicked people to prosper is it a good thing and how and when and why and where will God judge them and what should our view of prosperity be and I deal with that in Psalm provide
68: The Line-Up
"I'm US poet laureate, Tracy case, and this is the slowdown. In November, I visited a women's correctional facility in Windham. Maine. It was my first time in a prison of any kind. And I didn't know what to expect past security to residents showed us around their block. They told us when they ate where they slept what they did for recreation. They showed us their garden where they grew produce for the kitchen. It was not like college or camp or a big house where an extended family might live. But there existed a sense of pride and investment in community when it came time for our poetry session. We filed into a meeting room morning light came in through large windows. Overlooking. A nearby farm farther off there were low hills spanning the distance listening to the women in this room. Bring on. I thoughtful language to bear upon the feelings making up their lives. I thought to myself we are so lucky in this moment right now, then I corrected the thought because it's hard to say there's anything lucky about being in prison. And because the we I referred to was only temporary soon. I'd collect my things my freedom and walked back through security into the outside world, but for an hour and a half that morning. We were women together human together making space for one another stories of joy and regret and vulnerability. One participant shared her response to a poem. I'd always found to be a little mysterious in it. She focused upon images that spoke to her sense of forced separation from the person, she had known herself to be before prison in the poems repetition. She recognized the feeling of doing time in its minor variations. She caught glimpses of her own different relationships to guards to friends on the outside to the other women serving time rather than trying to decode the poems ambiguities, she took them as signals of what in life. We may never get to the bottom of perhaps it's impossible to fully know another person. Certainly it's impossible to meet someone once for ninety minutes a know enough to say who they are. And why they're where they are. But I believe the small things that remind us of all we don't or can't know about someone else are kind of gift anything that makes us humble in the face of another person's vast humanity is a gift. Today's poem is the lineup by the late Joan swift of Washington state. The lineup by Joan swift. Each prisoner is so sad in the glare. I want to be his mother tell him the white light will go down and he will sleep soon. No need to turn under is to shuffle. Poor soldiers boys in a play to wear numbers. Obey. They have hands as limp as wet leaves the long fingers of their lives hanging. They cannot see past the sharp edge nor hear me breathe. Oh, I would tell each one. He will wake small again in some utterly new place trees without bars. Son, a sweet juice a green field full of pardon the walls come in. I am captured like him locked in this world forever. Unable to say run be free. I love you having to accuse and accuse. The slowdown is a production of American public media in partnership with the library of congress and the poetry foundation.
Doing this will help you connect better with your podcast audience - 1KP0017
"Do you have a message that's worth sharing? If you're listening to this show, I'm willing to bet that you probably do. But here's the next question, just because you have something that's worth sharing is somebody going to listen to that will people listen enough and pan f attention to what you said to actually do something with it after all, we're not in the business of just talking. We're in the business of transforming hearts and minds, whether your mission driven or passion driven or whether you're marketing your business, you have to be able to connect with people enough for them to feel like they know you trust you, and like you enough to do something with what you shared. What's happening podcasters? I'm Brian Springer with another episode about podcasting. I'm here to help you launch improve and sustain your show, and I'm in the middle of a series right now. Back in two thousand fourteen when I launched the engaging mission. She I'll just tell you right now. I really didn't have much to say. I had some ideas about what I kind of wanted to see change in the world, but I didn't have the experience or the expertise to really speak to that. But I had some passion so I brought guests on the show and I'll just share a little bit with you. I, I had a couple of groups that I wanted to bring together vocational, ministers, meaning missionaries, and then church planters, as well as well as non vocational ministers people that are in the marketplace, who are Christians are believers, but didn't feel called to that kind of vocational thing. And I realize I'm using some religious terms here right now. But that that's what I wanted to do. I wanted to bring those people together. And so I built an interview show, I wanted to use the stories that I was sharing to help build an off. Audience for the purpose of sharing more stories, it's kind of a feedback loop thing right there. And I knew that I needed to produce a show that was good enough to get people to come back. I needed. I needed good content. I needed good stories I needed people that were engaging. I'm not just talking about technical production here. I, I knew that I needed to have those stories and we're not really gonna talk about how to get a great story out of somebody, but we're going to talk about something that goes with that as we go along a little bit further. The thing was, I didn't wanna put up garbage, I didn't wanna turn people away. And I knew that the stories were important that the connections were important, and I wanted to continue to facilitate that in fact, just this week, I received a note from missionary sharing how he now has a new connection because of the show that might result in more in the future. And so I'm looking forward to seeing that. And I look at that as something that came from the show, not, not for me personally. But something was that was accomplished through the show and he was a great guest. But we did some other things. As as well that fit into the acme 'em method that we're going to talk about today. What I didn't know at the time was, how to take mediocre content and make it good. And that's what I needed to be able to do. And that's what goes into the fourth part of the acme 'em method for producing your podcast in episode thirteen I talked about an overview of the process today, we're talking about editing. So you're in the process, you're following the acme 'em method. You've assessed your audio. You've cleaned it up. You've conditioned it, you've got everything ready. And you've now mixed it and started, assembling it to make it sound great. But that's not always enough as you probably know you can have something that sounds great that just isn't really engaging. And so you also need to edit, and I'm gonna tell you right now, if you are out on the internet, if you're on Facebook or Twitter or wherever you hanging out talking to people who do audio production for podcasts, you are going to get a wide range. Of what people think about editing. Everything from people who say I never at it. I hit record. I've hit stop twenty minutes later. The thing is published ninety minutes long or whatever it is never edit. You'll also find people who literally try and go through and fix every single piece of it. And I say that to say that there's more than one style. And so you have to kind of understand what your goals are for your show for, for the engaging missions show. I want to highlight the stories of the guests, what they've shared and not do anything to distract from that. So I tend to go for a conversational feel so that I'm removing distractions or whatever, interrupts the flow of the conversation, and restarts and long pauses, but I also want it to sound natural. And I realized that some of those are part of the conversation. So what I'm trying to do is remove disfluencies to help the, the message come through with more clarity without making it sound unnatural. And believe me, that's a bit of an art. And I'm I continue to work on that every time I ended a show sometimes I'll just tell you this is well, sometimes at least for my own show. I'll even remove entire sections like when I interviewed a guy of a few months ago who had trouble translating, what he did to the audience to match their experience their interests. And so the conversation was kind of it was all over the place when we recorded, but when I got done with all the editing. And yes, I did cut some significant parts of it in order to make the conversation work it sounded like it was meant to be that way. And that was the goal. Here's the challenge for you. And for me as a podcast host, though, good, editing takes time and experience. It takes time to gain the experience and then it takes time to actually do it even if you know exactly what you're doing. It's going to take you some time when it's done right though. Your audience is going to appreciate it. Even if they don't know that you've done it, they'll appreciate it because. Because there's nothing there for them to not appreciate this just put it that way. It's kind of a negative non-appreciation your guests are going to appreciate it as well, because they'll come off sounding like a million bucks. And again, I'm not talking about the kind of editing where you remove every single thing, I'm talking about the kind of editing. That provides a single cohesive conversation that makes sense, without a lot of disfluencies, because that's what helps the message and the personality and everything to come through loud and clear. And you'll know on a personal level, you'll know that you've done a great job. Now you might be listening to yourself right now in thinking, but I, I don't have time to do all that. Yeah, it takes some time to do that. And my current to you would be to think about first off what constraints and assets do you have what do you have in terms of time, expertise money in gear when software and hardware, that kind of thing, what do you have to start with? And what's your end goal your end goal might be different than mine, and I. Want to suppose that your goals are exactly the same as mine, but consider your starting point with, with your editing what you want the final product to be like, and then what you have in the middle. And I'll, I'll tell you right now, I do help people with this kind of thing, and I'd be glad to set up a consultation with you to talk about your needs, and what you might be wanting to do to improve the audio production of your show. Whether it's pieces of software pieces of hardware approaches to editing. I'm glad to talk about that kind of stuff or if you're looking for an editor if you're just listening to this and you're saying, I'd love to have that. But I can't do it. I don't have the expertise. I don't have the time. I don't have the network to make that happen. I, I can do that for you and I will be using wait for it. I'll be using the axiom method, I would be using the same method to edit that I'm talking about right now. If you found this valuable, I'd also like to encourage you, especially if you are interested in taking your show a little bit further, but maybe you're not ready to invest in editor. Maybe you're not ready to set up a consultation, consider the podcast, the Christian podcasters summit. We're not gonna talk about your specific show necessarily I can't make specific recommendations for your situation, but I'm going to be talking about the acme method and some of the tools that I use as well as having some QNA time so maybe we'll be able to get to at least a couple of questions right there. But that's not all because I'm not the only person talking at that summit, we're also going to be talking about things like building an Email list, and social media followings and booking. Great guests, and some other really important stuff that might pertain to your show. And if you're interested in going to that I would encourage you to visit top tier audio dot com slash summit. There you can sign up using my affiliate link. And when you do that, I'll make sure that I'll have some bonuses available for you. After the summit. So that you can take what I've talked about at the summit even further just as a thank you for using my affiliate link. Now I don't have all that stuff built yet I do have it planned, but it's not built. And I just wanna be completely transparent with you still working on it. There's a lot of stuff going on. In fact, I just had three new client episodes, dropped tonight that need to get done, so they have to go in a minute and get that, get that going on. But I do want you to know that that's available, therefore you if you do what that one on one. Attention top tier audio dot com set up a consultation. We'll get that going. Thanks again. Go there and make a great podcast.
Bonus Podcast: Bill Kurtis In the Wild
"Hey this is Mike. One of the producers at weight every week we tape about ninety minutes of show of which only fifty makes the final cut and a lot of the stuff we cut is stuff that won't fit for time reasons but also for taste reasons we violate NPR standards or FCC rules and it can be really tough to make those decisions on what to keep and whatnot to keep what you're about to hear. It was an easy cut. We decided pretty quick that we weren't going to put this on this week's show but here it is for you and now it's time for a new segment called. Take a walk with me bill. Kurtis Bill knows. It's tough being stuck at home so as a public service to you. Our listeners. Bill is going to take us on a nature. Walk so close your eyes relax and enjoy this soundscape of bill. Curtis in the wild What a wonderful day in the forest. Oh Hello Nice to see you again bird. That's it she you. Thanks for the MILL DOLE GIRL. Oh Squirrel I know exactly what you mean. Hey there looks like somebody's hungry here. Have some skittles off of my favorite fishing hole? Luke Luke Luke Luke. Lester fish jump on this hook. Why don't you e Dolphin? You look so nice in that dress Who's this? Hey there murder or not come here and bill of SNUGGLE That was relaxing. But it's time to go back inside. Thanks bill you truly are are beast master. I I fully expected you to kill Little Red Riding Hood at the end. Can I say? Does anyone else really hope that wasn't supposed to have been the segment hall on the wrong?
177: Growth Mindset & Grit - Evan Kelsay
"<music> you're listening to the daily sales tips podcast and I'm your host Scott Ingram today. I'm going to share a bit of a secret track with you on Saturday Evan Kelsey and I got up early to start our round to interview view together for a future sales success stories episode at Five Thirty A._M.. Before our family obligations started to kick in while the actual interview will end up being about eighty to eighty five minutes we ended up talking for about another other ninety minutes beyond that and fortunately I left the recording running and captured this gold nugget among others just for context Evan was the star of episode fifty six of sales success stories after he closed the largest. Just deal in seismic history a deal that put him over eight hundred percent of his annual quota he was subsequently asked to move into a leadership role which he did but after a few months decided that he loved the hunt too much and became an intentional individual contributor it was at this point in our conversation post interview that I asked him from his perspective having been a sales leader what he believed to be the difference between the top performers and everybody else this what he had to say about that is growth. I mean it's it's the growth mindset like I'm I'm pretty convinced. That is the growth mindset because you know I would put myself. I'd probably grade myself as a as a as a b plus you know in my twenties as a seller and and then like I'd probably moved a little bit upton into the a-minus category in a category like in the category. I still don't consider myself like any A. Plus. Maybe even a minus right now but like you know it's the the. The top performers are the guys that you know the guys that will be top performer on that team. It's the like I just really WanNa get better every day and I'm thirsty for knowledge about this business about this industry about selling as as a craft and that's going to be the the biggest difference maker because you're year like somebody might get lucky with a couple of accounts but but like over over five year period like that that was the biggest difference it comes back to growth growth mindset and it's like it's just it's you know it's trait. It's like a it's. It's embarrassing to like. I don't have any other insight on this but in reality it's just growth mindset and grit it like those two things. That's what you what you're looking for and you know if you can figure out a formulate all of your interview questions and your interview process to determine those two things then you're going to. You're going to really successful organization certainly something to think about. The fact that your here listening to this podcast tells me that you likely already have that growth mindset. Do you also have grit. Are you working hard and working through the day to day challenges that sales brings us to outperform this also led to a conversation about why guys like Evan and other sales professionals who are already at the top who have this growth mindset have been so attracted to assail success summit so if you're of that mindset you've got to check out what we're doing that. At top one summit dot com you can also click over to daily sales dot tips forward slash one seventy seven to find links to Evans initial interview with me and more about Evan than be sure we're your subscribe to this podcast and sales success stories so you can listen to that full interview with Evan in the future better yet. Make sure you're on the listener list because I'm going to work with Evan deceive. We can edit down our post.
Your verdict on Google Maps vs. Waze
"Ended its try it for free at ZIPRECRUITER DOT com slash tech talk ziprecruiter. The smartest way to hire hiring isn't easy but there is one place you can go where hiring is simple in smart that place is ziprecruiter where growing businesses connect to qualified these potential obstructions so this indeed makes Google maps more like ways but does it matter because it won't stop Nikki Ackerman from using fire central on a freeway that was incredibly jammed wasn't moving he checked out ways ways figured out aside road share the sentiment on facebook. Cathy Carson Newman says that she swears by Google maps period because it integrates the ways information without in at the same time quote ways on my way home to see why there's more traffic than usual and Google maps when I'm traveling to find the closest restaurant we were inspired a dive into the story based on a recent Google maps update new ways like tools like the ability for people to report crashes speed traps in added the ability to report four types of incidents construction lane closures disabled vehicles and objects on the road like debris to alert others about phones and using them for social networking entertainment and taking selfies and food porn are streaming players like Roku Amazon fire stick and connected speakers now bob ops for ways because it just works he says and he enjoys altering the voices of the navigator a fun feature for ways doc and the passion ways or Google maps said Bob Whitmore on twitter how about both Google maps he says Scans for answer hotels on the road I usually have ways running too because it has gestation on the map unquote she told us this on twitter not everybody alternate routes which ways doesn't do while ways has toll in transponder information at that something that is not seen in Google maps let's get started drive safe this is something you can't do on Google maps for now at least I'm Jefferson Graham you've been listening to talking tech please look for me on twitter like echo and Google home to continue the entertainment at home there's a handful of APPs Uber and lift to get around and Google maps ways to tell us how to get there so when we asked this week about your preference to the navigation apps we were surprised at the cord we appear to have strong really wild and curvy sidestreets that he'd never seen before he got home in just under an hour given the jams it was a miracle I got there as quickly as they did he told me traffic slowdowns from their iphone have been added these were long available on android phones but now opened up to apple's CEO s additionally Google all these winding curvy roads that Bob had never seen in his life BOB figures it would've taken him ninety minutes to get home on the highway instead with ways in those forming of every tire on the side of the road which she says gets annoying as well as giving you other information like restaurants that are in the area but don't I'll tell Bob Boden to go to Google maps he wouldn't even consider it let me tell you the story about the other night there are big fires in La and he had to get home to there's sometimes he does cookie monster from Sesame Street now he's listening to a British female because he likes the way she pronounces bull e Lard I'm at Jefferson Graham please subscribe to the show where every listen online audio and I'll be back tomorrow with another quick it from the world of tech hiring can be a slow process cat failed to her as Coo Dylan Moskowitz needed to hire a director of coffee for his organic coffee company but was having trouble finding qualified applicants so he switched ziprecruiter recruiters technology finds people with the right experience and invites them to apply to your job Dylan posted his job on Ziprecruiter and was impressed by how quickly he had ziprecruiter dot com slash talk that's ziprecruiter dot com slash T. E. C. H. T. A. L. K. ziprecruiter dot com slash tech. Tom Get a qualified candidate within the first day see why Ziprecruiter is effective for businesses of all sizes trust Ziprecruiter for free at our web address defied candidates apply and in just a few days he found his new director of coffee with results like that it's no wonder four out of five employers who post on Ziprecruiter Jefferson Graham. You're listening to the weekend edition of Talking Tech and you know there are very few things in the tech world debt we really really care about well we'll begin with are smart.
HMB vs Yohimbine HCL (Workout Supplement Comparison)
"Out Supplements about performance enhancers for bringing things to the next level in that arena hello this is Jonathan with limitless mindset and in this video I'm talking about were he's if you try them again I'm Jonathan and I look forward to continued conversation with you in the gym wait then really pushing myself and risking injury I did experiment with combining the two one Sunday after works by releasing Adrenalin the fight or flight stress hormone so it makes you feel a little more on edge and energize h. m. b. and both of these enhanced my workouts quantitatively and qualitatively I've been using several times a week for ninety minutes sessions to stay fit and healthy I'm rather conservative at the gym making gains these two this is your him Bein. HCL In this rather small packages and and putting on muscle are secondary goals I'd rather have slow consistent growth in my lips and my by between ten to twenty percent I'm perhaps limited in evaluating these because I'm not a hard core athlete I go to the gym the supplements on alternating workouts so after a couple of months I feel like I have identified we very stimulating and resulted in a great workout I made gains in my lifts and twenty five pull ups I use Mine Jim Performance on it it's hard to objectively say which enhances my workouts better I would say that they both enhance my performance the nutro picks for my muscles that could increase my the quality of my workouts and I've been using I I generally manage stress and anxiety well so I haven't experienced any negatives from using him by although I would want to be are about regularly for about a year and a half now and so I started trying to look out there and trying to figure out what I did a ninety minute workout on one thousand milligrams of H. and five milligrams of him by which was unsurprising we do about twenty minutes of Cardio at the gym while bring training with dual n back Peru which is usually a bit challenging because my HNB as my favorite one and all explain why subjectively the big difference between the two is that you him bind at least is a bit of a cognitive enhancer because I did have a uptick in my brain training scores while I was on stack let's do a cost and dosage comparison between these two so this little hangs Zaidi and motivation for me to get a kick ass workout
1: Daily Sales Tips
"Welcome to the daily sales tips podcast. My name is Scott Ingram. And I'll be your host in this short introductory episode. I'd like to share with you how this show came about. And what you can expect at least based on the initial vision as the host of the sales success stories podcast where I only interview quota carrying individual contributors who were either number one, or at least in the top one percent of their sales organizations. I go deep the average interview on that show is typically between seventy five and ninety minutes long sometimes longer the feedback has been amazing. But it takes them pretty serious commitment to get through each of those episodes and rarely is it possible to do that in a single session. I wanted to solve for that and make some of the nuggets of knowledge from that show. More accessible initially. I thought a very short daily show that featured clips and quotes from those interviews would be just the thing. But quickly my vision started to grow rather than limiting the tips to. Only those that come from the sales success stories podcast. I thought this show would be even more valuable if we were to deliver a broader set of insights from a larger pool of contributors. So why not use this as a platform to allow you to stay up to speed on the latest trends books and events from across the sales ecosystem, if this works the way, I hope we're going to give a lot of books away to listeners who are the most interested in engaged in that topic. My goal is to provide you with a valuable and hopefully actionable tip every day while allowing you to hear directly from the authors of new books speakers at upcoming events conferences and webinars and secured discounts for other tools and education to help you improve your results and more rapidly advance in your sales career all in five ten minutes per day or less that way, you can easily fit it into your daily routine or binge through an entire week's worth of content. In an hour or less. Speaking of binging to allow for the more rapid consumption of a series of episodes. I'm not going to add any intro or out show music. Instead, I'll jump right into an out of each episode of the you can listen to a whole bunch in a row, basically uninterrupted while podcasts can be very passive medium. I hope you'll become an active participant you can start by subscribing to the listener list to get updates. Don't worry these won't come out daily. But instead will average once or twice a week to do that head on over to top one dot FM forward slash D, S T or daily sales dot tips. Both will take you to the same place. I've already upgraded the commenting software on the blog. So that you can jump into the conversation around any specific tip and add your own two cents and learn from others. I'll be sure to find ways to reward the most active contributors as we go. Now, speaking of contributors, I will likely up affiliate. Links for many of the books events and other offers I'm able to secure for you. I'd appreciate it. If you would use those links as any affiliate income will help pay for the show and any excess will help pay for my two daughters to go to college. Now as I record this that is just over two thousand tips away, but I've been at this game of life long enough to know that time flies when you're having fun. And we're going to have a lot of fun with this now for fans of the sales success stories podcast. Don't worry nothing is going to change about that show. You're still going to find the great deep dive interviews with top performers that you know in love. That's it. Please. Make sure you've subscribe to the podcast in your favorite podcast player. And join the listener list at top one dot FM forward slash DST. Thanks for listening. Just a quick note here if you're listening to this before we officially launch in January at the moment, this is just a placeholder episode. So I could establish the feed and get everything set up. The goal is to. Officially launched by January twenty second with a stretch goal of January fifteenth just make sure you're subscribed. And on the listener list. So I can let you know when everything is up and running. In the meantime, if you really wanna do me a giant favor, then please write a quick review of the show. Thank you so much.
How To Get Your Senses Tingling
"We're heading into our third year here at the science of happiness and i'm really excited to share with you more research and stories on how to bring more kindness connection enjoy into our lives lives none of the work we would do would be possible without the incredibly generous support of listeners like you that's true of all of our offerings that we produce here at the greater good science center if you're a fan of the science of happiness and wanna help us bring more of these stories out into the world please visit greater good dot berkeley dot EDU slash donate we're grateful eightfold for every gift and if you give before december thirty first your gift will be match dollar for dollar by one of our donors so your generosity will have twice the impact act that's greater good dot berkeley dot EDU slash donate thank you and happy holidays they the tingling sensations going down your neck and hear back corrupted the crown of your head feelings of warmth acceptance he's you may even have memories of something from the past sense of connectedness autonomous sensory meridian response better known as s MR is a soothing sensation that's triggered by visual audio and physical stimuli and in the last few years interesting ASMAR's exploded their millions of online videos offering as our experiences and scientists are getting into the game and trying to figure out what it is and what its therapeutic benefits are our guest today melinda lau is an esa mar immersive theater performance artist in new york city today melinda's going to help us understand a bit more about what s marg margus and then we'll look into a small but growing body of science behind it melinda thanks for joining us on the science of happiness hecker pleasure to be on here thanks for having having me how were you first introduce our melinda this is going to sound very strange my first memory of it was actually from watching the telly tubbies on TV this one scene where they zoomed out into the real world and it was they were showing this little kid drawing on paper and the sounds rounds of it was so nice and i didn't even know what was happening then but i just know that i kept wanting to we watched an episode how old were you when you had this experience definitely under ten years old tell us what it is and how this watching the telly l. e. popey seen gave this to so ASM are is very broadly defined as a series of soothing sensations that can be triggered by a a whole range of tactile audio and visual stimuli and it is so broad because actually the feeling of air seminar is very subjective in the community we call it tingles some people experienced as shivers down your spine or static light tingling throughout their body for me i feel it s s. like warm fuzziness in my head some people describe it s like ocean waves it's just a soothing sensation that puts people to sleep it's the opposite of that feeling when you hear like nail scratching the wall that's a really bad thought in people's minds right now but that feeling you get gut wrenching impulse reaction and ASMAR is like that it's a reaction that you can't control but it's super super pleasurable her would you describe drive the subjective quality experience i think everyone agrees is very relaxing that's the first word that comes to mind and then a lot of people use it to help them with anxiety or pain in sweeping problems it's something that people normally do by themselves in a private space so you have this early experience with teletubbies in where does it go from there like how do you start to have other forms of these experiences so from there there then throughout my teenage life that was specific moments where i would feel it in real life sometimes i get it in art class and then and i only really started getting into it when i had my first mobile phone in computering could go online and look for videos so used to watch a lot of instructional massage videos goes 'cause i really liked the sound of skin like just hens rubbing together i have a friend who gets s amar by watching chiropractor refractory videos where just watching body adjustments gives him the chills yeah yeah so can you kinda give us a sense of a couple of different sounds it really strike break you strong assume our listeners yeah one of the most popular air zimmer sounds probably crinkly bubble wrap here's some things it i also have this cardboard box and it just has a really nice texture drew so in a lot in videos they do lots of tapping sounds kind of sounds like rain inside this box a actually have some pearls wow now there are now over thirteen million as videos on youtube alone and abetted gonna grow melinda why do you think there's such a big interest in this online and right now i feel like especially for the younger generation they are so used to doing everything online defined love online they get their groceries and shopping online so why wouldn't they we also find relaxation nine so you started whisper lodge in two thousand seventeen which takes air some are out of the online world and into a live theater setting which is someone who goes to one of your events expect so whisper large is like a ninety minute immersive performance and you get blindfolded on the story the and brought inside very carefully by one of our guides and then you go through a series of air summer treatments recalled him mm-hmm enter space on the whispering specialize in one specific kind of sir essentially playing out all the ES role plays that you see online and then at the end we blindfold you again and we bring you out into the world i wanted to make a real life thing because i am such a fan of immersive theatre and i've been to so many shows where they have these is really intimate one on one scenes and i just feel so incredibly they seen and taken care of by person it just feels like super special to have have a moment like that and then i was able to draw a connection there between what i enjoyed in fifty shows and what i enjoy in somewhere and nets that intimacy that being present with someone receiving attention from someone you know a lot of the work in this area is starting to show with brief exposures to summer videos people feel calmer the heart rate slower they still feel kind of arouse their skin is a little sweaty where did they actually feel negative emotion what do you see in your clients or your participants the main feedback that we get is that when we release them into the world da- awareness is just kicked up to another level because the whole ninety minutes we are completely whispering this no talking all the sounds we make are like what i just did twinkling paper the super soft and after ninety minutes you're hearing level just automatically adjust regardless of whether you like out characters you like story it's a bodily response that you can't control and so when you leave there's just this like especially new york you go out in the car sounds so much louder the people everything just fuels a bit overwhelming so melinda ah i mean come on isn't this sounds really weird when you try to explain it to somebody yeah how do you make sense of it to people who don't have air simmer when you look it up online nine and you look at the videos it is so easy to associate with like something sexual because videos are rolling very intimate scenarios in there usually female performance and that's something that is it's unfortunate that a lot of people misunderstand the intention of ASMAR or but there is a small subset of the a community that do think that amar is arousing and that whole john road actually called AFC rodica and while i personally don't feel like we should shame anyone for what turns them on i also feel like until ASMAR is legitimised as like a relaxing tool focusing on later sexual parts of it is not really helping yeah and you know people focus on sexual parts of everything so it's obviously going to manifest NFL here you know one of the things people really interested in the science of happiness all of these different practices that we talk about right mindfulness gratitude a to getting outdoors experiencing awe laughing touch you know social connection and there's work showing that out of the university of sheffield airfield that having practices with es amar kind of homes your cardiovascular system to the same extent as mindfulness meditation meditation right what do you make that kind of finding i think that that's amazing caused it's validating ASM are around soften misunderstood and when we do our performances actually i often also describe it as meditation without knowing that you're doing meditation meditation adding that's another benefits of air is that for people who are not buying into the whole wellness thing this is like a quick can easy way you can do it at home for free so you know one of the things we really take very seriously the greater good science center and on the show is kinda the practical actionable insights you can get from scientific studies phenomena like ASMAR you've been thinking about about that when you develop this ninety minute experience whisper lodge so when you contextual is it in terms of wow is amar done in the right way gives you these feelings of calm and NBC or positive emotion what are some sort of actionable lessons you pass onto your friends about here's what you can do with our here's how you can look forward to bring it into your life so through a whole practice of converting air into this physical thing rather than on nine thing we've realized that is actually really all about paying attention before ASMAR was called FEMA they were actually lots of other names that people use to refer to this online one of them was attention induced euphoria so from the very beginning there was actually this understanding that ASMAR is about paying attention to small sounds textures and that's something that everyone can do in their everyday life just noticing what color is your shoelace matz made out of or the sound of brushing your teeth when you're brushing your teeth if you were to have this in a doctor's office in hand out a prescription for more what else would it recommend islet recommend actually checking out one of the videos online that's like one hundred years triggers or something it's like a trigger finder video they'll just cycle through a whole range of different sounds then that's a good way to find what sounds work for you and then from there then you can start looking for more customized mice content for yourself once you turn on your awareness for it and you're looking for it then you'll find it yeah do you think this is going to turn into recurring therapy in our culture i don't know whether it will become like a thing that stands on its own because like other wellness practice yoga or meditation there's so much science behind it and there's a lot of mainstream a sentence an air merges not day it might be i hope that becomes but i also can see that in the short term a lot of wellness practitioners will probably the tried to incorporate it into their own practices and so it will become like a like ed on thing that's what i see and where do you think is more will be in ten years fifteen years you know i've predicted that will just kind of die off after a while uh-huh just become this niche thing but the world seems to be defying my expectations people just keep wanting more and more so i don't know i hope the science will catch up and then we'll realize that this actually has medical benefits and we can actually call it therapy that something i can't do yet so yeah i i think it's very hopeful well melinda thank you so much for being on her show for being aratu artists who's taking this really interesting physical sensation and turning it into artistic performances whisper lodge and thanks for your interesting insights into this really striking human experience thank you so much for having me what happens when a scientist experiences as well in one case she decides to take it into the lab i really just wanted to do the series of studies to try and convince people report this is a real thing that people say that they have asked mario not just making up more about the emerging science behind the benefits of MR up next when i was a kid i used to get kind of tingling pleasant sensation varies points and i would ask my sister she got the same thing and she did an so then i just i was completely weird and that it was just me i didn't speak about it again she didn't speak about it again until twenty thirteen that's julia puerto are ya who's a research lecturer at the university of sheffield began studying the effects of azim or on the mind and body her first study was a large online survey we cats cling to to kind of categories people who said that they experience a small daily lives and people he did an her team had everyone in the study watches series of videos diaz like this one wash cloths and hopes and speak about to talk show and then some videos which look like they might be a small videos want so they contained many of the things that people might associate with small like instructional the content that they weren't intended to trigger is a mom now from here take my trustee bench scraper and scrape the flour into the center of this egg paste we also people to self report on their feelings after watching these videos those who reported experiencing SM are regularly had had frequent tingling increased levels of both excitement and calmness and decreased levels of stress and sadness so that was really a kind of a first after saying okay okay not only a people kind of saying to us anecdotally through youtube comments that this this experience very relaxing and tingling but now we've got some good empirical data supported for statistics to suggest that what they're saying is on average trigger julia then brought people to her lab half the group experienced some are regularly the other half did not everyone then self selected videos that they thought would induce this station just pick your favorite three minutes segment often a small video and show it to you in the lab vaden wired everybody up in measured heart rate both before and after watching the videos found that people who save experts ask mark show significant reductions in their heart rate when they watch videos their heart rate decreased by three point one four beats per minute on average people who didn't normally family experiences some are also showed start read but not as much we interested to see whether we'll a potentially meaningful reduction in heart rate or does not really mean very much so we looked for comparative values against things like mindfulness based stress reduction techniques and also music therapy and we found sound reduction to be comparable with those other techniques and was interesting is that you know not only does this support anecdotal claims k. people telling us that they're feeling relaxed laxed and watching videos might have beneficial but physiology is also pointing us in that same direction have you ever experienced this amar share your experience by emailing us at greater at berkeley EDU or using the hashtag happiness pod i'm decker kellner thanks for joining me on the science of happiness our podcast is a co production of UC berkeley is greater good science center NPR x. our producer shuka colin tari production assistance from jesse cataldo and ben manilla BNP audio are associate producers andy berman are executive producers jane park are editor-in-chief and chief is jason marsh especial thanks goes to UC berkeley graduate school of journalism you can learn more about the science of happiness and find related articles videos quizzes this is all kinds of stuff on our website greater good dot berkeley dot EDU and shoot us an email tell us what you think about what you heard senator greater at berkeley dot e. d. own
AI Today Podcast #109: Live at Amazon Re:MARS Interview with Tom Soderstrom, Jet Propulsion Laboratory (JPL)
"The I. Today podcast produced by cowed militia cuts through the hype and noise to identify what is really happening now. In the world of artificial intelligence and learn about emerging trends technologies and use cases from Cotonou LYRICA analysts and guests experts technology waves are ready to be served and which ones are worthy to be surfed and if we serve them can we have an impact to JPL NASA and intelligent assistance rather than artificial intelligence. I A rather than and that's been very successful we're finding just about all the anomalies that people found about predictive maintenance so we use today we have satellites around Earth and in deep space and we want to see if they're about to go wrong so so democratizing means two things that means surfing these technology waves that makes it available to people so that's the other part having everyone participate in answering the introduce yourself to our listeners and tell them a bit about your background and your current role at NASA my role is really to try to predict the future and in future you use machine learning and take the previous tracks or orbits US training data and then we now take the actual data as news make it available make data available so that future explorers can stand on the shoulders of giants not in years or decades but in minutes and right now as conference and for our listeners who were not able to make that show maybe you can give us a little bit of a recap of what you talked about some of the insights that you have at Nasa Jpl certainly the talk title was too machine learning automation robotics and space of course being focused on artificial intelligence and it's broad applications focused on those first three letters mostly machine learning today so it's really if you can we've created an innovation experience center where we go into this room to experience the future today and with that is all about is trying to understand what from where is it going these are big questions that affect all of us and therefore all of that should be involving solving them so democratizing Mars means to make the Algorithms Walker Thais Mars and this was playing words Mars in this context means machine learning automation robotics and space and of course we care a lot about the planet Mars around machine learning algorithms to see things on wrong if they're going wrong then what we do is we visualize it for the people so that the people are still in the low so we potion laboratory hi Tom Thank you so much for joining us on the podcast today well thank you for having me this is a true pleasure and an honor yeah thank you so much for joining us today we'd like to start by having I know that this event is all about machine learning and ai but so in your talk you didn't touch upon that much can you tell our listeners some examples about how Jay is using a I certainly did I gave a few examples of a but very few because the conference is full of really good examples of ai the one I gave was we tested and now some that people didn't find that's great you know we talk about ai as seven patterns of a until predictive analytics is one of them and we do know that NASA is really any enterprise and we're from California so were surfer dudes that's our metaphor yeah as a matter of fact yeah we heard you give a talk at the Keno on Wednesday here at the mation and robotics components and as part of that we are thrilled and excited to have today as our special guest Tom Sodas trump who is the chief technology and innovation officer at NASA jet how much NASA is using predictive analytics so the example with the satellite was great can you talk to us about other ways that you're using it as well so in other one predicted maintenance is so if you think about what here at the Amazon remorse conference which is going on between June third and seventh in Las Vegas two thousand nine hundred and that is and for those who they're not aware of the Mars conference it actually stands for questions that NASA is answering like is there life in space are we alone if we one day needed to export humanity would we have a place to go and where do the universe comes doing a lot of predictive analytics so I appreciate that example that you're with us because we talk about that a lot and I don't think that some of our listeners understand or know just how NASA and JPL does we track spacecraft in all of our solar system and beyond actually on this sort of system so to do that as the earth rotates you have to have antenna farms that listening to right now but we also generate research and advisory to help companies make sense of AI cognitive technologies we also run the most authoritative vendor neutral democratized two trains automobiles airplanes cars just as we can learn from their methods to make our machine learning better so confined pricing and registration on our website at cognreznick dot com will also provide a link in the show notes we've met many of our podcast listeners in our classes and we hope that we'll see can understand and listen to our spacecraft talk to them wherever this baseball Dr for instance voyager it takes almost forty hours to get a signal out back so the she learning training and certification on the market if you're looking to make a reality for your organization are a three-day cog lick training is for you if you're interested in attending zoom in and then trigger the fire department to respond to so that is really about an autonomous swarm of satellites working on the human behalf so we're using a lot of ai to say what looks like it was going to break we hope you're enjoying this podcast and sorry for the brief interruption Kakinada not only produces the AI podcast space Antonio that Central Command another antenna will receive well those antennas are in very high demand so you need to understand what maintenance do we need to do only in stuff that's orbiting other plans but right here at home as well so maybe you could talk about how he is being applied in space both on other planets and right here orbiting our own so we can do machine learning on that and let people know with real data what's happening and neither one is predicting Salamis hurricanes floods another one is to take in all of we're sending a lot of satellites out to look at water so we understand the water pattern we understand that the ice melting pattern detect forest fires so they're looking and all of a sudden let's see they see a plume and it looks like a forest fire they can then re target another satellite too and you get a very different perspective so we have a lot of satellites orbiting Earth they take around ninety minutes to get around and for instance one good use case of AI is are you there as well now back to the podcast who's going to break we'll use another antenna and take it off line for a little bit and that's one good example that can then be droughts all of that it's all about looking at massive amounts of data and analyzing it and looking for patterns and giving you a heads up warning happening so those are some easy if I can say that use cases another one anyway so that's enough about earth for now space so are farthest I know that you know we talked about some of these applications of around predictive analytics and some of these other things that you're doing at NASA JPL but maybe you could talk about some of the broader things because NASA is involved has to be completely autonomous and it's cold it's lonely yes so everything has to be radiation hardened which means there is not a lot of craft voyager it's about roughly fifteen billion miles away with a B and we have a lot of space craft in between we have spacecraft on Mars over anything needs to be able to operate autonomously because you're not always able to have humans in the loop humans there so can you talk to US perfect why don't we start with home the homeless where the hardest and there's a lot of things happening what we do at NASA is to look at Earth from space serves as an intelligent digital assistant to the human to catch the things that we missed so that's one example of many those are some great use cases and so it finds one of those and it takes naps a picture of it and then if it has enough energy and depending on what else it needs to do then it sends that by itself so we try these things on earth and we experiment and experiment a lot and the people that JPL and NASA are very bright so if something really there is another spacecraft that's going up twenty twenty yeah so you have time but time can be a luxury time can also be a hindrance because technology and be delayed it can be old by the time it's already deployed so where do you find a I helping with that so it can help in many different ways especially on the awesome Mars is the Mars Curiosity Rover for example is driving a Mars and finds it looks for rocks that we have pre identified it also has a I works than we can put it up in space on the next base crowd but that's usually a long cycle so the idea of being able to innovate faster and put these things up CPU power and memory so these algorithms have to be pretty darn efficient yes that's exactly where I was going because it's not like earth it's not easy to simulate and recreate your I've never been to space but I can only imagine that it is not quite like the earth and wherever you're going is probably far away and probably treacherous spacecraft being the operational part it's good that you were talking about the future because it's always one of those things we like to ask all of our guests is to have you pontificate a little bit and think about station of AI happens in three ways one is the network that's coming right now is wireless network so you have getting technical for a second about some of the challenges with that sure so ideally you would run this amazing algorithm and he would do everything by itself while it doesn't quite happen enticing Mars applied and there are several waves and they all add up to a giant soon nami that we called embedded a everywhere so essentially the spacecraft is flying is amazing if you think about something on Mars it's GonNa fly then it's going to land and it's going to drive when you land overtime very carefully right and I know that it takes a very long time in order to build these vehicles until they are able to make it to space I think that you have said around so if we can get the data down and then do machine learning on it then take what we learned and put it up on the spacecraft so it triage so it knows what running on it that is looking for interesting rocks so it has determined through machine learning but looks interesting anything that might have watered and it's extremely interesting to US data to send down and not the data that's not worthwhile and that is wonderful future we think will happen so it's really about the earth being the lab across the cities you have five G. built for Internet of things much faster so when you add all that up you're going to get a ton of data from a lot of different devices not sure of all of the conditions it needs to be different than what it would be on earth and so- autonomy plays a big part in that where you need to be able to have the space craft any sort of spacecraft all using machine learning but it's at the edge so what we will see is all this data goes up in the cloud cloud is as far as concern infinite computing infinite storage who is we actually use augmented reality to look at that and then we can turn over around drill into that rock if it looked very interesting and that has happened in the past so together for a common mission and I think that is wonderful future and it's really close so I think is not exponential it's beyond that summer think there is a lot of good things coming we look at six technology waves that are coming and one of those waves is supply and it really fits the theme of Democracy we're building so you are now doing ai at the edge and I think we will see swarms of diverse robots doing amazing things we saw room bus here at the you understand the data and then we use ai machine learning deep learning natural language processing natural language understanding all machine vision all of that to make the kind of where you see the future of ai in general and its applications to corporations and organizations and agencies and academic institutions and beyond fantastic do you realize you just needs to be pushed down onto these robots so you have a smart big brain in the cloud you have smart small brains in middle-sized Rover and tiny smart brains on little tiny rovers page for updates on this and future podcasts also subscribe to our podcast in Itunes Google play elsewhere to get notified a future episodes whole thing faster and smarter but you interact with it by just speaking to the room what touching the screen or gesturing so that was my vacation you invited it when we need the flying part anymore so we get rid of that software and make room for new advance off that we can then upload it's pretty different way of working but that means you can refine your algorithms mhm nail that back to Earth Earth humans say well this looks interesting send me the whole thing than the space craft the whole thing or the anything spacecraft even aerobic and then what we can I am also think that we will see in the future there's a lot of robotics at this conference ended warms my heart there's a lot of democratized robotics of various types it's inference you could have many different types could have we're looking at different types of rovers so we have the ones that can climb the
EP 39: Unmasking Privilege with Dr. Jeff Gardere
"Hey all different cultures to wear tech culture and business collide it's a podcast the boone says everything hot from social media i'm your host michelle smith in each episode episode we bring you some of the most notable and not yet a notable thought leader in tech business at culture and in the year two thousand and three it was a rough year for me i had experienced divorce in it was a rough one so bad that landed mean hospital i recover from that but i was in the midst of starting my agency had the turn over the reins to consultants since mind you consult instead i trusted but i had a lot of unanswered questions during that time i was working with sister sister magazine you no jamie foster brown right the entertainment magazine that had two innings with celebrities in their parents jamie new everybody's mother an i turn it jamie like she was my media mom and i explained to her how i was feeling and she told me you know doctor jeff doctor jeff guard year at the time doctor jeff had a column that routinely ran in sister sister magazine where readers what right in an ask him questions anything to do around mental health emotional wellness and so forth you see doctor jeff is a psychologist so jamie connected me with doctor jeff in we spoke on the phone for the first time and i never will forget be advice and counsel the doctor jeff gave me not only wasn't in lightning it what's empowering and i have to say it was one of those moments that were turn key for me because the confidence that was restored v outlook positive outlook that he gave me and provided for me what's important in thanks to doctor jeff a strong family friend then 'em support my tribe in of course my faith in god i was able to get up and get my agency going in with in at least year and a half i would build it to a seven figure business and when you meet doctor jeff you've probably seen him on cnn headline news for the real housewives of atlanta couples court in some other places but doctor jeff and i we go back a long ways two thousand and three gosh that's about sixteen years doctor jeff is a friend in throughout the time between then and now he has provided his services as a spokesperson an influencer sir for a myriad of branson i worked with us as a part of my agency ambient ladies and gentlemen without further ado i want you to meet doctor jeff guard ear america's psychologist i challenge doctor jeff to a conversation around a topic that is very important to us here in the united states envy on it is the fourth of july its independence day but i also wanna talk about a topic that sometimes tears apart in that is the topic of privilege this isn't a conversation for the faint of heart but if you're ready to move to understanding that if you take on that okay everybody we have got this year ps american colleges problems nimmo headline news pain you've also seen him on the real housewives of atlanta housewives of atlanta a couple of course what else did you a love and hip hop new york and reels channel and paternity court in cut loose core you name it i've i've been i've been working it in a suit driving hoover in your neighborhood right hoover when you doctor jeff would be a food i mean honestly you guys you probably know the this is the guy that knows insights in the great inside scoop on the why people do what they do so doctor jack is a forensic written six psychologist wanna tell everybody what that means a forensic psychologist basically that i am able to work with people in criminal field saw a working with people who have backgrounds a a with regard to be justice system in so long basically our crime in that sort of thing yeah yeah you know that's deep this really deep and you have a practice right i do have a practice in new york but now my practice is a global a thanks to a sky face time and other platforms and it's really amazing are using get people now 'em michelle shut elements show yes even got me michelle you know me for years well but you're gonna show you you you even get folks now who may be no more than ten miles away but they'd rather skibo face time in therapy session and because of the convenience yeah you know i have coaching clients yeah that soon we use them yeah you know either around the corner or across the globe yeah so amazing it's awesome i love technology when you say we have a closure along but you're brand new that i'm ready to ship awesome okay so you know i'm always combing the threads and i'm always amazed at how different trending topics key people talking and sometimes win whether it's politics or sports or even the weather sometimes people can beer into the topic of brave and very often so much of that conversation is stemming they may from the idea of privilege end you know we hear the term white privilege don't live in america but as americans we have privilege layers stumped exactly you have white privilege you have white male privilege him male privilege you are a white female privilege in some other of course cultures we don't we don't see it as much as we should have different types of female privilege but people were talking about privilege a two things come to mind and that is either 'em white male privilege a or 'em american privilege just talked about how apps are americans not aware that they have a certain type of culture where they take for granted a all of the rights an all love the privileges a that many people just don't have right right you know what's so layered their color ism a you know sometimes people based on their skin their skin color even with in segments like if you're african american if you're asian indian if you were like tino you have seen where the lighter skin is you might have privilege that maybe you're darker skin you know some people might not be yeah you're right isn't it fascinating that 'em as human beings we tend to you know subconsciously 'em when we're looking at people as far as their different skin colors there may be a preference for the darker skin because we associated where a being more and it may not be the the truth but more impervious to the effects of the sun but when it comes to the actual to rights when it comes to the actual a behavior when it comes to the actual privilege then we see the light of the skin color a in many many many different cultures not american culture not just caribbean culture but many different cultures that seems to make a difference i know there was a scandal 'em whip saw i believe with india where people from india were complaining that hey wait a minute you're just you know when it comes to these beauty contestant beauty ends you know you're pushing forward a lighter skin 'em a indian a people versus the darker her skin ones are we see that in some of be asian nations where those who look more caucasian are being promoted more than those who look more asian you really we have a lot that we have a lot to consider lots of talk about a lot to examine with all of us as a as a global beans 'em as to how we need to change our perceptions and belief systems because we do marginalize so many others and don't realize how we do that because a lot of it is and unconscious racism unconscious sexism and so and those some of it is just right out there in an hateful but sometimes you'll find it see unconscious institutional types of prejudices that a more harmful because people don't even realize what they're doing so unconscious bias is one of the things that i spent a lotta time thinking about it especially in my pants down a job where i was working but one of the fourteen tens and diversity and inclusion but you know what it's just interesting because i think privileges probably as american as apple pie and you know what it's july fourth so why not let's talk about it and we've got america psychologist so why right but it's it's interesting when you travel as in america sometimes you come into situations where unconsciously you have stepped on someone else's culture without realizing it so let's talk about what heavily could actually is i i tend to think of it as something that centers you in your world and has everybody else around you have low centers you in the world i think that's great explanation because you become i think you know in another way be center not even aware that you have a lot of you given a lot of permission a lot of support 'em that you may not have necessarily burned but you're in the right package as far as you know you're you're you're sex or gender behaviors sexuality in so long 'em that people you know when you're in that you don't even realize a all of gassing bandage is that you have in the disadvantages that puts other people in mhm well and i like the way you put that because as much as you may have put yourself at the center others have put you there too right right exactly so that's the thing it's not about people who have privilege are bad people 'em it is really a an institutional cultural phenomenon that you know in many ways gives you a lot of advantages but also disadvantages in that you're almost like walking blindly you know in the world thinking you know having a certain perception of yourself but other people have a very different perception a lot of exceptions positive but some of these other perceptions exceptions negative because people have prejudiced towards you where you are having you know this sort of advantage and you're not even aware of it and that's why we see many times when it comes to you know privilege and white males you have white males who complain and say i've never been prejudice i've never done anything wrong no i you know i love all people and yes absolutely i totally get it but you also have to own any knowledge that there are certain things things that you are given certain things that you own certain things that you were born into that other people don't have and therefore you have to be able to acknowledge that she herself end to them if you want to be totally you know in truly enlightened as to your place in the world to me how hard the institutional life of nature of creative ways to work because have you found that phoenix people who are not necessarily in the privilege population by into into the privilege so for instance can lift is steady in twenty seventeen that delves into the idea of the corporate structure and how white males are centered in that structure as the power core right but that women and women of color on the fringes because even by definition by race by gender there outsiders right so in the case of black women there doubled outsiders but what i've found is that other black women other people of color other women even because they're so used to that power structure in white male and this being the center that they look one another and don't expect much out of even their own sister i i agree with that from an i think that is really the destructive part of privilege that now it begins to affect fact other people is so much part of the system so much part of being institution that people don't understand what it is that they're doing when they begin to exclude one another or get into a competition with one another in order to become part of that sort of centrist 'em place a with e n a b institution to are in their privilege allege that even when they do earn it a as we saw without precedent brock obama still wasn't a accorded the privilege that any person a should be recorded as being president of the united states all right well you know we have to be aware that it's not just about making ourselves better or outside of the circle but also understanding that we have to begin to interact in a way which is therapeutic with one another but also with the person who is in that centrist position because they will never view you will treat you the way that you deserve to be treated if they're stuck subconsciously with this idea of privilege and don't quite understand why you will never have the same privilege that they do right so let's flip it i hear i hear some some good mindset traits that we can take from those who are privilege 'em an embarrassing with me for a while is it that those of us who may not be centered in that privilege we take on a mindset that since we are not instance people do not value us that maybe we take on the the devaluation if you will is there some merit to taking on a mindset that centers you even if you are not centered on it it came across a very complex an unique a in a difficult question but as you put it to me 'em i began to think about be important of a black love a black power and not play to denigrate anyone else but believing in oneself learning to love oneself and that something is african americans caribbean americans other underrepresented minorities 'em you know right down the people who want to change other cultures who wants to change you know these these shape staples their eyes to look more western no more caucasian not having that solves love so that's one thing that weekend sale with people are privilege 'em they practice self love you know we all love jam and they learn learn to love themselves an hold a certain standard because that's what they were born into that's what they're used to that's how people treat them andrew once we outside of that center begin to love we are 'em then i think this is something that is very positive that perhaps having the privilege of being an african american or asian american in seeing that as a privilege so you know if i were wearing hats like you are right now i would say hats off to you alma show because that is probably one of the most provocative questions that i've been asked in a very long time was actor jeff i'm gonna ask you some more provocative questions because i writing a book book and i kind of let that slip a couple of episodes ago in my premise is somewhere around changing the mindset and how much weekend learned from from privileged groups right as underprivileged groups depending on what culture you might be enough right so i i'm reminded of a scenario it's just something that happened to me once when i was working at this big company in a group of black women who were very very polished have all the degrees i say find people find car buying closed fist just impeccable corporate ladies right were sitting there in a conference and we came out of this very provocative and if panel we were talking about you know people of color in underrepresented groups being you know 'em dealing with micro aggression and unconscious bias in i made a statement i don't even remember what the statement was but the part of the conversation that jumped out at me was there was a white man that approach this nicest guy in the world one of my favorites who said something like 'em so woman michelle you said said x y and z and then you said you'd never would say if i say it nfl oh anything yeah why wouldn't you say it and i said well you know what they would do to somebody like me less than that out in this environment and it struck me when he responded he said i would say it and i'll tell you why i said what could they do to me but take my job i just go find another one and then it hit me this is not the way even the three black women men fine closed fine card find degrees all of this fine people even thought we were thinking oh if i say that i fear that someone would take my jobs instead of saying i'll just go get another or i'll just go start my own thing we're sitting there thinking oh my gosh where does that put us we are you know we were bombed that mindset so could we bar that mindset former wife rather so you know it's a you're absolutely right that this is something that we can you know begin to work our way towards feeling freer an a being more of a sofa short and having better self esteem to say you know what you can take this job and shove it if you don't like what i'm saying is long as i'm speaking truth to power i think we have to look at a bigger stage and that is a you know and i know you like to go right into the popular culture let's talk about what happened to make a let's talk about the conversation she had with steve harvey on on his show which which is going on now a you know an he basically said to her you know mony you know don't forget you know where people of color we can't do it the way that you know the man doesn't the than does we've got ahead with a different way we have families the feed you know one of the things that left out a firm that conversation but maybe i think he he he wanted to put it in or reset it in a different way is that would do would treated in a different sort of standard what ain't not guests on one else fired who is non black may get us fired if what black end or you have to put that 'em that factor into the equation so yes moon leakers right as you are that yes it's important that we stand up frost so the end that we believe and also an no risk no reward go forward demand equal treatment but i could also see what steve harvey you know was trying to say that yes stand up for yourself but we gotta do do it maybe a little bit of a different way because we don't have the privilege even someone like steve harvey had a give up his chauffeur somebody else coming in because of the politics that make on with a particular video or you know corporate free group that he will work right but you know what you're absolutely right that same catalyst to a steady shared that what we feel when it comes to microaggressions when it comes to unconscious bias when it of racism outright it's real and that's what i loved about that study end the women in the workplace said he would lean in an mackenzie right but the thing that mr harvey has that maybe maybe you and i don't have a little bit more about this he's got the money and he's got the classical starting that i'm just gonna do and i know some other thing that is that we don't have all those really large shoots yeah i'm not i'm not a couple of times action of very nice people i haven't met him yet one of my good friends sailing bledsoe is a quiet responsible for his brand so so he was on the show and major like episode three but yeah you're right so when i'm driving it is is if there is an opportunity to feel a little bit more secure in are selves in what we have and what people cannot take can weed therefore stand in power in grasp on some of that mindset that maybe be you know culture that centered widow free way and i know but let me tell you i'm sure you're absolutely absolutely absolutely right in there is a privilege that i know that you practice but i know that i practice that i know many people perhaps you know who we know 'em a weather as patient as as clients as you know practitioners as you and i in that is the privilege of intellectual is you know so when i look at this whole idea of privilege when i look at white male privilege when i look at any kind of privilege right i'm automatically we think of myself as a black male above all of that whereas in colleges i look at that privilege as being a psychological phenomenon in for i'd be out of the study it i'm removed from it i analyze it in there for i'm able to move the way that i want to move to not feel that privilege that someone else may have just slow my role is one of my mentor is trading while other hand she has written a book in fact wasn't right right yeah yeah yeah wrote this book right here in its equality courageous conversations about men and women in racist barca diversity and inclusion conversation okay a breakthrough truly has around create their own equality in i talked to her as a part of this book that has not come out yet and she she talked about how you can create what essentially is sacrilege right when it comes to how you attack you relationships how you attack you know you're authenticity how you attack you know even approach in in in in in face head on microaggressions in a very gracious way but because you have 'em some what's the word i'm looking for confidence in your skills your network which may come to so privileged people very easily they don't have to think about it we have to think about it if you have some confidence in those things you can move in ways where you run to the risk a run to the trouble like people who maybe aren't so sure about you know what they have in as in other words this podcast lines of every friend i have had in time and then some an when it's cases is how beautiful these folks are at creating at the epicenter of pet culture and business but it also shows that powei mind what it also shows is we ain't heating because someone else is born into a privilege for example such as a white male listen good for you for you yeah you are who you are we respect who you are when i went to let you dominate us are going to accept you as an equal so may have you may not have as privilege which may be the color of our skin or you know certain jenna tell you what what have you we will seize on what it is that we do have what you cry we may be you know these struggle which may be you know dealing with adversity every day in order dash stronger hunger and i think that's where we need to go as a society that we need to learn to respect one another and not it should not be about oh you were born a millionaire therefore you're a bad person you were born white male therefore you have all these no it's about okay how do we come to the table in different ways we all created equal but we are all different yes anytime defenses that make us stronger against sovereign nation right which is why don't get me started i'm not all for you know border walls and all that kind of stuff oh look at going on is you have you know and i'm not gonna name any names but everyone knows what i'm talking about you know i if we will make america great again that means making it better than it ever was it was yeah it that we always had division in privilege also feeds into that division is really odd job as americans and those coming over from different countries one day will be americans is how do we bring everyone to the table so we can be as strong as possible as a nation as a people to then be able to be benefactors to others around the globe because the globe is in many ways warming up their their park yeah major major issues environmentally andy echo system is damage so where we are all going back succumb to gather in order to save the planet and save 'em are people are species the animal species insects all of that whole echo system we are going you have to come together at this point are conversation takes a turn for the unexpected we're gonna talk a little bit of a black person in where you could find it and what time do thanks to be in my sister scholar boost the senior joy in recent travel i wonder if you don't bring this little story my sister just got back from don she did she flew in the bronx in she took some other come vance's into a small town in guyana in which she noticed there there were people but they were in a village there were people there there were there for but they walked with their head up high end she first began to notice that she was an outsider as the average and american she started to notice the things about her that didn't quite add up to their privilege if you will the fact that there were no varying skin colors you know as people from me you west we are reminded of are slave history even just looking at the marrying skin colors right because so many of are you know women were raped in slavery and that's why let's keep it real we all have these their skin colors right some mary full of very very rare sally hemmings was raped okay right but when you go to africa you see that people are this dark chocolate i mean monolithic and that's the norm so the minute you walk into that you're an outsider right and nobody's making fun because someone it's carrying something on their head that's their answer remedy of what you say when they say that you know they walk with pride no matter what the socio economic factors that's why when you go to donna and someone says and you're walking behind someone and you wanna go somewhere and they say walk this way better walk that way and walk just like they walk which has held high yes because her amongst the people were it's more than just privilege it really is about a birthright a birthright of being re eight proud 'em individual a proud community a race yeah totally and it's you know she came back with this new 'em perspective even on if you saw black panther you understood kill monger you may not have understood him very well but he really did not feel he had a birthright and either a fascinating i thought marvel did a great job in portraying him as a villain but as a villain what very interesting cycle dynamics 'em but that the the so we could look at an end emphasize as to who you became why he became why he became that way but it was also really a metaphor more of a symbolism for africa african american this you know what is being an athlete yet between those particular to particular groups in what that's because america slavery and all of those things so that that was and but that's why you saw so many people 'em african americans africans primarily but all races all all religions come out for that movie an were able to understand what it means for condo forever totally i mean black panther was centered down what konda absolutely they had their own privilege happening which was to a lot of people viewing it like well i never yes befalling well unless you read marvel comics like i did growing up you have the most scientific society face of all mine it and they hated by bringing him a but they they had to stay hidden an actually played into the stereoty up and in theory or i pour african nation all of that we have raj to protect their technology and protect their people because they had the challenge they had the fear that they would be exploited as many other people of color had been deep deep deep stuff but she has that reflects all of the many issues of our humanity the jets are time it's almost been great in all of these conversations we've had you know what i really wanna get jerry lewis gates on daca gates which is this but this was such a great look ahead to benefit another person on the street says hey doctor game i'm gonna i'm gonna have the knock some they call you doctor day look at some of the think i looked like i said listen first of all he's much more handsome and secondly he's a ten times smarter third he's about a hundred times compliment but let me be aaa just being doctor jaren jackson jeff you're my friend doctor gave my friend you know what that you're just been amazing and yet if you don't mind not only don't want it in fact you stand at some point but i also want in from orange utilize that good good good everybody's got jeff guard near american colleges thanks so much for coming on god bless america god bless america for now andy thank you so much doctor jekyll year everybody we have even more extending be coming up we have i really want to introduce jon meacham patrick riley lean in the region producer to producing for the light turns over winfrey wendy williams remember other topics in his own the public to me is my family and my friend the national association of like you know what he is going to get more power wait for ply episode yeah we're literally never too late to talk about what's going on with the lgbtq and you know what if the fiftieth anniversary of the so look from patrick see what he's up to what he's done in the realm of tropical moisture to push for equality tours of duty went down cordially invited to the very first coach in go live group fishing group coaching like never had just going to be discussing executive power any any digital world an only two people in palm in tickets go to alma shelf miss dot com and click 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Cosplay Confidential Episode 65 Rynea Cosplay and Butterfly Wings Photography
"Official I'm your host Kiki and I am here in studio with my co host and fill in producer though no one could fill wills shoes he could not be you're listening to the podcast Detroit visit www dot podcast detroit dot com for information welcome back to Catholic Confidence Title I am Kiki I'm Sean I'm will and who are you keep creating inspiring and sharing the love month or so right or past few months yeah it's been about a month or two I was radio photography as well because when I started photography it wasn't real exactly I could only afford to all right in your photography page is Could you tell the instagram for your photography page the phone today and so please welcome to the studio a Kaz player from from Michigan Karen from Rania Y. N. A. K. R. Y. N. A. R. K. A. Oh I'm sorry I pay and then in my mind it was K. and a split up so yes they are why this is the wheel of Fortune episode where we have to buy vowels as into 'cause play and photography you seem to be really president in both those areas so I'm really excited Butterfly Wings Dot Photo Butterfly Wings Dot photo and you mentioned to change that change it within the past so if you are following along on instagram while we interview Karen than you can find her instagram at Rainier Karen that's our carr's play welcome to the show hey thanks for having me so you are not only 'cause player but you're also a photographer and as I'm sure you are in the previous episode but yeah we have a fabulous guest who's joining us the planning on like making money off of it or doing it and that like a lot I was just kinda like well my friends need some pictures and then I bought a really expensive cameras so I decided when I was finding a constantly name I was like I don't want it to have to do with butterflies so a nickname that I had in highschool was ren so that's the first like realtors of it and then my middle initial is e and my last initial is a and I just kinda like smashed together and I was like listen the real did that I needed to kind of make some of the money back from that and as I like handed out my cards and stuff people didn't really know how to pronounce it people had a hard time remembering it and a seamstress is that right I am yeah cool we will definitely be touching on both of those things later really really excited to talk to someone who's like it's not a real word so I just wanted to go with something that was like a little bit easier to remember and then also if I branch out away from cops played photography and do you like senior photos and about that but I want to ask you about your house play name so Rina where did that come from I sat a really really we're in this other it's very much like a name that you would give an Elf in a fantasy novel I like it a lot yeah it's really long time trying to figure out 'cause play name because I didn't necessarily want to just be like Karen caused play you know Kinda boring and Even though doc wanted something that sounded a little bit more like professional normal I guess more accessible to the everyday person yeah sure all the other games that came out back when the series was first starting up I don't see them as having been that much lagerback than either but it feels like they were and I don't know why Kinda like different people are like Oh does it means something Japanese and I'm like no it's just letters it's me it represents me almost a year in that terrible condition before I decided to retire her for the record I would love to see that Barack because I love me some warrior Yeah I bought it the day came out full price and I think I played it for a total of an hour yeah yeah it's it's weird because I don't see play was actually from warrior where I've always said that I'm going to remake that caused play because it was an absolute disaster it was a red so what was your what was your first Qasr play and how did all my first one just doesn't have that yeah yeah I definitely feel that so this is not this is definitely not the last video game the rest but I bought from old navy that I used him tape to attach them orange fabric to but I absolutely loved that 'cause play and I wore it for is play you've done because you do holy goodness I've seen even just a cursory glance at your instagram and and I think the first causeway I remember meeting you in was video game 'cause play as well it was Monica from Yogi dokie probably but you you're the newest one was not my thing I found it unclear and game stop about a week ago and be about ninety minutes would not recommend Amos spelled a little bit differently than normal just wasn't I don't know and pretty much everything I have has to do with butterflies and I actually recently changed and I've had to do with butterflies but yeah and going through I can see going through all of your photos I can see sort of the influence that so what draws you to video game characters in particular more than or more than or as much as any other characters I guess for playing like J. RPG's I just love a good long story base Jr PG definitely fair I don't know I feel like they had more of like a completion EST aspect too few them where you had more drive to actually try unlock all of the maker Games whereas the it always like grew up on video games I've been playing mortal Kombat my whole life like my dad would be like hey you know let me beat you how else do you think that photography has influenced your cause play or vice versa I think that photography photography has in the way that you yourself pose for photos and a you'd seem to really know all the angles How in high school I was Kinda like edgy and I was like enemies sucks and I hate anime and so I actually didn't watch a single anime until I was in my twenties so when I started playing which was also actually in my twenties I just Kinda was drawn more toward video games because that's combat so like you know from a young age I was like I gotta get good at Video Games I got beat my dad so I've just like always played them and when I guess what I connect to more and I do like anime now and I watch anime and like right now I'm just sitting here staring at my enemy e collection but I'm still just always drawn back which is your favorite part of working on a cause play whether you know sewing or research or wigs or what's what's your favorite posing in front of a camera in costumes all the time fabulous You which I know now when I'm playing like Oh we can't pose they're like the lighting's bad or you know we can't do here there's weird shadows and stuff like that unless the photographer has lights and things like that I'm from final fantasy tents if you look at her in the game her like sleeves are not actually attached to the rest of her dress and I was like I really into the camera that's really valuable for sure being having those skills is really valuable asset and I'm sure it's and still have that like weird floating on my body illusion so they just doing weird stuff like that I think is Kinda Fun no absolutely and and that what kind of I think we talked about this little bit earlier what kind of video games do you enjoy Ha's playing from the most because I've noticed that absolutely what I think that it's like making weird costumes and weird shapes come to life like when I looked at lou the video game genre because I think it's more interactive and I like that is there a Jonah in cicular that you find yourself drawn most gosling has influenced my photography because I shot with some photographers that made me uncomfortable or like just didn't really know how to pose me or made me feel awkward or didn't like and yeah like just knowing angle like seeing what I see through my Lens I know what's going to look good for me posing to and I guess like me not long ago puja puja Tetris I am so stoked so excited to see your Ringo at Yoma I love me some boy oh boy of you you mentioned brick wanting to branch out and do other forms of photography not just you know 'cause play and I'm sure that will come in handy with you know people who aren't used you really pulled off that look by the way it looks very sort of the`real as a theory as a theoretical as someone dressed in all black with a bunch of belts Oh I just my brain just blanked out but what what are some of your favorite experiences you've had in common it was me and all of my best friends and we had a full group and just like squad walking through the con seeing the amount of people that like came over and successor and it was all of my best friend that's like the dream really just living the dream doing what you love with all your friends sounds super cool coming off of that what's your favorites convention that you've been to want that illusion but also I don't want it to just be held up with elastic because then they're gonNA follow they're going to be all over the place so just kind of figuring out like how I could make it the least attached so excited for her I think like that's really a hard question to answer because I do costly stuff that's kind of listen they're like no I don't act like oh we'll just try it I know what looks good I'm like okay well what would you like to try it so I wanted to really be collaborative in on both sides I think yet ECON which is really weird because I go to that convention as a vacation but I think that's why it's my favorite people are starting to see it as an alternative to colossal Khan is that is that something like do you do you agree with that take essentially another overwatch task play right now I'm GonNa do Ash Real mccown Nice yeah definitely looking forward to that there's a good variety there's JR PG's there's you know Warri aware there's FBI says I think your research gun pop up on my feet outlooks photo shoots there I barely even costly there. It's just like this big party up in Canada in the mountains and it's still an animated influenced my college play because like a lot of times you'll see concerts oh I wanna pose over here and it's like really like crappiest kind of place and like talk to me enough so I really try to like when I'm shooting makes pass by or feel comfortable I never force them to do oppose and find like hey will you try it display or related to cause play I would say the absolute best experience I ever had is last summer we had a full group from the podcast would you I don't know I kind of think it comes across to me a like colossal Khan is almost like the con like a splash pad for kids so they definitely don't have that waterpark aesthetic and it doesn't really lend itself to Swimsuit Causes Cot that convention kind of like Wade itself over into the United States and because you don't have a ton of international working on it 'cause play most definitely not wigs I absolutely hate doing wings and if I could pay somebody style every single one of my wage if I could afford that they are PG and then you look at overwatch and you have like enough ps I guess I would say like I really like overwatch designs I think that was her doesn't the adventures on and that hug cast is pretty big it's pretty popular I mean it's not critical role popular but like it's getting there and Schori okay well that's fair I was GonNa say I it's weird too because I honestly hadn't even heard of the convention of Amok so you if this is just off the top of my head for and then this year I knew a lot more people who again more like more my older friends who went just and it seems like just a really chill time gatty Conatel probably April or May and I could definitely see there is some people starting to like switch so it's interesting seeing that so like I've gone two years I've gone two thirds of the year it's actually have but they they don't book voice actor guests so the guests that the talk to us and like recognize us and stuff like that was the coolest experience that's the only actual like full House play group I've ever had for something it was my favorite podcast something that track what is your dream 'cause play and have you already done it or is it something that you think could be in the near future for you and last year they added like the Raven the water park after dark and I didn't go to that but like any time has a couple pools and then they have great job So my trainer 'cause play even though I didn't make it it's actually my favorite Causley so I guess I would say like overwatch stuff 'cause I'm actually working on what was what was the most rewarding part about putting those specifically together I fritsch racer yeah I had heard of it last year but I didn't know I knew like I think I personally knew about two people who went and one of them was a toddler that character I love her so just that was really cool to like feel that and then for Lulu I think it was the Aqa like I just felt like tracer I don't know I love her I connect a lot to her character like I love like I'm myself it's it's got this cute little village it's really fun to like hang out and go shopping and stuff and there's like a zip line but I don't see it as a class will call an alternative of your college twenties colossal con con of your twenties and yet he seems like the thirties which I book are like big name 'cause players and then they have like the hyper potion ends like people who do music and video games and stuff so if you're lucky I think my dream has plays were honestly tracer and Lulu and I did both of them yes whoo I'm sure a lot of people can relate to that one when when did you get into photography mentions I e Canadian conventions doing that like the only other one I can think of people I know attended probably be enemy Nord I don't know there's I know a hint like do aerobics worse than yeah it's the Con- for you nice very cool so back on the cause Chen and it's still a bunch of nerds and geeks and stuff but it's just party time so that convection has really been making the rounds the past few months or so just because I think so she was a lot of work and I made her in a month I'd want the materials about nine months before I started her and I was like for people who go to like Toronto Fan Expo right yet and so they're a few others like windsor up yet so but like I think you I think you hit the nail on the head with being a vacation con- yeah like if you want to put the golf and go zip lining played around with his camera and I wanna say it was about three years ago I borrowed my brothers I don't actually because one of the big things about colossal Khan is the waterpark and taking pictures in the water park and like late night swim orphee going back to that so my dad was a photographer all through my high school years and stuff like that so I always kind of over the place like you look at Monaco from Dokey List your claws and it's like this weird dating him and then you look at like my persona five cars plays and those are if you owe here's a question going back to the I know I'm sort of like all over the place I'm so sorry Metro get going back to the longer and have like a lot of knowledge of like lights and focal points and how cameras worked because like I said I was just Kinda played with my dad's Alterman had exceeded up there it seemed like it's really there aside from that do you have a dream group 'cause play that you would want to do I do I wanted to do a warrior where group since I started playing Sean is that something you'd be interested in honestly I I could see myself very tall and very funky disco man that's you he's like the second or third set of maker Games that you unlock and I am both very tall carr's play if you had a dream group okay maybe you've already done it because that experience with the the adventures zone seemed really worry where in all that sure sure yeah yeah she's deaf sewer I'm definitely not rapidly googling it right now so jimmy t also just kind of all the weird stuff that I have never done before that I did for that cost play yeah that's that's an incredible amount of work to start wrapping up but we have two more questions for you first of all hang on first of all very funky and the man so well yeah if I had at least one or two other people to do some sort of warrior where group I would red orange yellow that number three I'm congratulations so if you could spend the day with any of the characters you've caused definitely remake actually I feel like a warrior group would have either some really simple 'cause plays like you would have warrior Oh Jimmy Thi Mona Ching for that like oh I really WanNa meet my favorite voice actors and get autographs they didn't have that at all too so I guess that's another big difference yeah that makes sense Complement of what I did with that 'cause like I completely reworked a wedding dress pattern to do that I hand died all the lace that I put on the bottom way to get into something like that honestly that's really exciting that's so recent it's fun picking up a new hobby that you know maybe you didn't do when you were become really slow it's going to be perfect and then I was like Oh crap the Kanamori her for a month yeah whoops that definitely I made a course which is only I think that's yeah it was only the second course that I made and I reworked a pattern to do that one as well fuel that yeah that definitely makes sense I guess I would say the other big difference too and this may change because I found out last year anyway yeah I think only in its third year I need to pick or sean needs to pick a number yellow great that's really helpful on you picked yellow let's see seems really cool that's fair that's absolutely fair we do have one more question which is if you could get craft foam and making just just I was so terrified to just cut craft foam because what if I make a mistake was terrified if any advice to beginning 'cause player what would you give them don't be afraid to try new things I was terrified of armor he kinda likes us and I think I wanNA stick with it and so then I decided to buy my own and just kinda go with it that's that can be the best go back to the same thing I said over and over and over again I think it would be tracer I mean like she's British and she's a superhero so like I can't do anything else like maybe that's fun for you but that wouldn't really be fun for me solid advice there try new things you know absolutely it's it can be utterly terrifying I remember the first time that I worked with just armor using a tutorial and a pattern and things like that but that's totally okay and I'm really impressed with how it came out in kind of the same thing like I was scared of course it the to cut off a wig because what if I make a mistake by how do you learn I think I think he did aide who would you want to spend the day with why I can spend a day with any character that I played I think you know this is me Oh Karen R. Y. N. A. K. A. R. Y. N. all like one word or butterfly wings dot photo oskoui highschool so I already knew about cameras right and he got to put all that to use cool hutch evil foam than like just making a
How to Keep Love Alive
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happiness listeners get ten percent off your first month with discount code happiness you can get started today by going to better help dot com slash happiness simply fill out a questionnaire to help them assess your needs and get matched with a counselor you'll live better help dot com slash happy we pat in boston me buffer reliving just about a mile away from each other had never actually come across each other and then two weeks after nine eleven we bumped into each other and started talking and made plans to meet up a few days later ended up talking all night again at a cafe until they closed down just felt a sort of instant connection to each other and about eleven months later we were actually married in if i'm a bucket fun where my family based at that time an came back to boston packed up and moved across country to san francisco and we've been here ever percents almost eighteen years i entered it thinking it was one marriage for a lifetime and i think that's come to realize it's action many marriages over the course of a lifetime we went through sort of our courtship and dating face and then her honeymoon phase and being in a city as a young married couple and then we had are son and that completely ends the marriage as you annuity begins a new one once our son hit around five years old it also very different he was much more beginning to be more independent going to school and now there was a feeling for me that i don't even know my husband after child rearing so intensely with are only fun for number here is it's very much a dance back and forward of drawing closer to your partner drying away from your partner and that drying away can invite them back in again hopefully into a cycle but there's also the possibility of breaking apart and holding tension within a marriage so i think for me personally it became a place that did not include play orange toy and that caused a huge reckoning between us of do we really wanna stay together if we do what can you imagine not ending like how do we create that and so the last few years has really been about okay we are now completely rebuilding something you together and it's been both exciting and a lot of work i'm alison briscoe smith a psychologist and assistant professor at the right institute senior fellow at you see berkeley's greater good science center i'm filling in this week for decker kelton are here on the science of happiness how do you keep a partnership together when it feels like you're grown apart that's the question asia mom and her husband have had to ask themselves after eighteen years together on each episode of our show we have a guest try a research search backed practice help them deal with the challenges and their live like stress conflict disconnection you should join says are happiness guinea pig today she chose a practice increased joy in connection in her marriage you shows a writer and co editor of two books folks love and she lost the secret love lies of american muslim women end salon love american muslim men on love sex and intimacy first asia key tell us a bit about what inspired you to create those books i love love stories i love romantic comedies and i did not see myself or my amazing brave outspoken fears muslim friends reflected in any of the stories that were being told about us by people outside side of our community and i just felt that it was time for us to tell her own stories for ourselves by ourselves and sharing that with each other to create community because so many of us feel isolated in our live until we reid the stories of others and see ourselves reflected in that and love seemed like such a universal doorway to making those connections within and outside of our community as are happiness guinea pig you chosen exercise aimed at reconnecting with your partner in yourself we call it the exciting activities were couples practice end do you prepare yourself for it by journaling about these fees is within your own relationship beforehand key share what you wrote with this sure i call it the map bliss middle this long stretch a midlife and middle marriage with seemingly few signpost dotting the landscape stretched between falling in love an empty nest but what if the rest of us the most of us who want to reconnect with the inner radiance it's a self an partner that radiance and glow that let the world when we first met and sometimes seems it guttering flame under on ending needs of raising a child caring for parents ends and surviving san francisco in some ways having an only child adds to the attention of finding time once partner every time i turn towards one other fields neglected wow you you really speak to i think something that we all really struggle with that kind of middle ground of being kind of lost between when we fall in love and getting ready to do all the other stuff so can you walk us through the steps of the exciting activities were couple of exercise size sure it was meeting once a week for about ninety minutes doing an activity that perhaps snyder of us had done before for at least four weeks which made a list of things that we would be interested in doing and we wanted them to be obviously realistic unmanageable and the practice wants to take things like causton time into consideration as well so we did eight chocolate making workshop which was one of my favorite activities we went out for dinner to new restaurants coinciding with my son having dungeons and dragons weekly meeting we went to hearst castle which was amazing a road trip weekend getaway in cambria and we for dancing lessons we went for tango which we start at outer relationship doing salsa together and we had not downs in many many years and you actually recordings you're tango class ross let's go ahead and listen to part of that now go is gorgeous converted and that's very very sexy kind of opens wasn't any other though a did what the dance instructor say she ring true you did tango make you feel more connected to her husband it was probably the most magical of the size of that we did because i was able to remember who i had been an also bring everything that i am come to the table full and or to the dance floor and you also chose to write about your experience doing this practice which is great because we know from research that journaling helps us to kind of reconnect with experiences think about it even process it in a different way let's hear what you wrote about this dance class because it kind of sounds like a magical moment sure in tango each person is an individual they could create an cody the dance together his face this is so close an intense that it almost makes me want to close my eyes when was the last time i gazed so intently into his eyes and held them perhaps we'll look into are smartphones so intently tensely because we are afraid of what we will see in each other's eyes this dance is a map one that unfurled as you step forward and then again as he does every time one of let's create the space they other steps into it perhaps that is a reflection of this partnership to it is a dance of closeness and distance of knowing andrey discovery when i slow down and make the time the familiar exterior melts away to reveal something sweet and knew what compelled you take the extra step to go ahead and write about the different exciting activities that you did with your husband and it allowed me to take a step back chronicle what had happened and what was happening in start to see connections and themes and then be able to take that learning into the next experience and it felt like it deep end each experience as i was writing about it you know there's resignation there's infidelity there's breakups and all of those things are real right and the fact that people continue to choose each other enjoying love and desire is also real and yet it's not highlighted and so in some ways by writing in creating the reality i'm creating the narrative that i wanna see how is this impacted you relationship it has created a lot of laughter renewed trust reliance on each other sort of interdependence a willingness to put in she try wild new things because it's so challenging sometimes defined that time what are the barriers to us so time expense a very busy lifestyle if i slowed down my partners like she's super burr interesting and fun to hang out west and lovely but when i'm on high speed and just going going going till eleven pm at night and then passing out i'm missing all of that and i mean i so appreciate you're elation of the problems that we all have but then relationships how do we make time for each other you know you're speaking to the universality of what many people experience and i also appreciate it you're framing this in the context of being a family of color or being a family that is muslim so there is this opportunity to really think about ourselves as universal and these pieces that were struggling and that maybe if we get a chance to play with each other in many different forms that that would help out you know a romantic fantasies in america are not around work in a relationship part of the structure that we actually put into it was okay we're gonna check in in a deep way twice a week and that was wonderful and i gave us a framework of really knowing who we are now fifteen to eighteen years into a marriage and i feel like what this exercise did was really highlight for me the fact that we were not including playing that we had the structure of the twice weekly meetings but they were all sort of very necessary indeed but sometimes draining i'm talking to each other about where you at emotionally what does this look like next and where do we wanna go and all of the necessary work but this introduced this little light heartedness and play enjoy that i just fell after bubbling up inside of me constantly as we did these exercises and it also introduced an element of slowing things down how did you choose these exercises we made this both of us and talked about them there were some overlap like the chocolate making workshop was definite yes we wanna try that that sounds fantastic i love you if you could to treat about that experience although it's gonna make me hungry but i value how good i smell the chocolate and then taken nibble letting it melt on my tongue slowing down the process of eating it allows me to experience the taste in a way i haven't noticed before it's bright as fruit under that sleep brown exterior how did i not taste that before i wonder writing down mango dark cherry on the paper in front of me aside long glance set my husband who's leg is touching mind what else have i been missing the chocolate machine stop the silken mass inside is ready to pour into the truffle randy is pouring so steadily steadily ends moseley his lifelong attention to detail and his fine strong self so ideally suited to troublemaking he spends his days as a typing techie locked to screen his this hands look beautiful in this tender yet concrete work of creating slow tangible sweetness oh that's beautiful you both kind of describing slowdown chocolate which you know everybody like but you also so seemed to be called the pay attention to randy and to kind of see him in a different light did you feel like these exercises you saw him differently absolutely was an opportunity to just let him be who he was in the moment and to try and see that without imposing everything i know about him and i did not know that as they techie he could make such find silk and what did it take to allow you to overcome the barriers that we often and find you know the logistics of childcare and so how did you work through that as an opportunity for us to think about what could we do to move those out of the way so we tried to a mix of things that were free or lower costas well there's things are more expensive like the weekend away and you know the time barrier barrier are real and we're very lucky that we have my parents about an hour away and they love to offer their babysitting services and right now my family's auction moving further away so we won't have as easy access to that so there's a lot of thought about well how do we make this work in future would eight parent babysitting clot be something that we could do this exercise really really highlighted for me not only the joined connection i want my partner and my son and my family but also with my community and that and i can't have one without the other that the helps civil and she reflects yeah i think a lot of times we take this kind of pursuit of wellness something i happen to you by myself and this is offered anything but i can do this in relationship and do this at my partner but you've also highlighted in order for us to do this partners we have to be in community unity so whether it's your parents or a co op or just someone to watch the kids at the invitation to kind of be intentional about what kind of community we create that allows us to be well and i think so many communities of color have such great wisdom inexperience experience without and other communities have something to learn from you know i know that from many will some cultures family and community of central and that's where everything begins the heartbeat mhm had just unnoticed even doing these things in what is the impact on him i think he feels more like this in our parenting and when i feel more connected to my center and i feel more connected to my partner were able bring calm in playfulness to the family and their interactions with her son instead of coming from the stretched place where it's just like we need to do this and we need to do this and you need to get to bed and you know just that cycle of posts school trauma running drama around and get you know get him too bad on but just okay what if we just took a few minutes to play something or talk about something would dream together and i just feel feel more mellow with him and in in terms of that in terms of thing it's not catastrophe is not a crisis if he doesn't get to bed at exactly seven thirty pm and if he wants to play board games for while it's okay do you think you're they're gonna continue to do these planned intentional activities and her husband absolutely i mean we still have our weekly sort of dinner that's gone siding with my son's activities we've also restarted something that we used to do at the beginning of time in san francisco which was picking a road and following it to its and and just seeing what might come up along the way and we recently did that and discovered this huge mural that's a decade old that we've never seen an you know it just made me curious about what are the things i haven't seen in my partner yet and it's also i feel ripples out to other relationships because you are in relationship to so many and my parents are older i see them often but tend to sort of taken for granted in some ways and it's made me wonder what what are relationship look like if we started doing something a little out of character together i want to be able to say that this is the life i chose this is the company created this is marriage that i want and desire and created and were always in a state of choosing whether we do it on consciously or unconsciously so by sort of creating the structure of okay every week were gonna do an activity or everyday i'm gonna have my prayer and meditation time allows i think for the daily choosing a daily welcome of the life that we've created well you should thank you again for joining us and the science of happiness and sharing so much about your relationship thank you is such a pleasure speaking with you i love how he shut out of her own variation too exciting activities were couples but journaling about her experiences with her husband she would building on the work of relationships researcher arthur aaron psychology professor at stony brook university aaron and his colleagues one of the figure out how could he sustained feelings of passion in connection and satisfaction their partner even after many years decades could it be the people who are happier do more exciting activities or is it exciting activities makes you happier we brought couples into the lab than they did in activity half of them didn't activity where you're tied together at the wrist and ankles with their partner and there's this row of about thirty feet long of gymnasts that you had to crawl across pushing foam roller with their head across the map an back you weren't allowed to use your hands or you're teeth and you do this together and you have to beat a time limit they had a take off their watches and stuff as we set the mob so they didn't know the time we rigged it so the first two times they almost made it and the third time they just made a half of the couples were randomly assign just separately crawl across the map and crawl back and they thought that was kind of funny it didn't bother them what we found found is that after doing be exciting activity there would say considerable increase in their report it quality of their relationship also in the quality of their conversation with their partner one kundu enjoyable things with their partner and that's fine but but it doesn't create any excitement in that sense of passionate love that sense of even connection with someone when you do something different exciting and you associate that with the person the relationship then takes on that quality of sites if you like the tried exciting activities are couples pack this or other practices the help you feel more connected to the people in her life visit are greater good inaction website a g g i ate that berkeley eighty i'm alison briscoe smith filling in for decker this week thanks for joining me on the science of happiness or podcast is a co production of you see berkeley's greater good science center and p r i p r x the production assistance from jamaica toto and been 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