20 Episode results for "Nine Yards"

EPISODE #105 "Wiseguys!"

The Radio Adventures of Dr. Floyd

04:32 min | 1 year ago

EPISODE #105 "Wiseguys!"

"It's nine once again america's show the lives of the lord brought to you by that time we started with one of our usual mobile character but with one of the most notorious criminal mastermind of the twentieth century crime bottom al capone rethinking twenty nine component in me and then his private parts six rooms we elected in hotel in chicago all right you mugs now listen i'm sick and tired of you guys always battling up the planes i make i sent you guys out there they go see the guy who offered that new restaurant down on board and what do you do you beat that tire out of men destroy his place or your boss utah votes to go over there in the welcome to the neighborhood exactly exactly which means welcome him to the neighborhood by flowers bring him a nice bundt cake not walking in smack around for crying out loud or your boss go with all you screw up it's no wonder i'm getting this horrible reputation any more mistakes and i'm gonna wind up being public enemy number one to just shut up and listen up okay okay bugs willis willis valentine's day is coming up next thursday in i figured we could show with little ballantine's day party down at smc cottage company the bugs moraine in his game i want you to put on the rich cake candy little valentine's day cards the whole nine yards a i'm not sure i understand what's not do understand you get more rain in his gang to meet you there in detroit surprise valentine's day potty they'll never forget you know show them how much we care and i want you to decorate the place real nice to i wanna read everywhere you get what i mean oh oh yeah boston we get what you will go over there and paint the place read all right just good now get out of here i gotta take my bubble bank balance plans are being made on a bus or the hotel is one of the basement do we will villains doctors even as it's been fitted all slithering down the cabinet scored on underneath the building right to why you're just moved out here is really wreaking havoc with my sinuses i just don't understand it should seem right here this is the thing it's it's on the map his pitches labyrinth it's so don't talk down here i i really should've brought a flashlight if he just went all you pay just a pitcher pitcher not only lowdown here you're like okay now i think we stay out of my way you know you should always be ten steps by him i know if i could see you figured you would show get it now he'll be ups we keep looking at these do zones around in coral in the basement on their mysterious quest let's check in with our heroes doctor floyd is a grand and their people robot companion chips as they are coming out of their space and time jump right now hot on the heels of doctor seat golly doctors floyd were in the same time period instructor steve an al capone ball having those evildoers in one place shirt gives me the willie don't go through grand but remember it's very important that we stopped after seeing these things what do you think doctor steve wants without could i ever sneaking suspicion that what he wants has nothing to do without component to it has to do with his boat out the home loan the one round i won't give them to you there was nothing but an old bottling a license plate in nineteen eighty six but capone had been dead thirty nine years when hiroto open both that's a long time pro bowl undisturbed i see what you're saying duct work but alka pony he's one bad mother i was just talking about cone why shouldn't we so we try to prevent him from doing all the bad things we know he will do doctor grant status and tragedy you take the good with the bad it is our job to nearly observed even if doctors be laid off with the money that out later used the financials saint valentine's day massacre history would be changed and the reason good terrible i see how we gonna stop doctor steve we're not going to stop you were going to let go shopping were going to tell him what she plans to bring you don't mean we're gonna have a sit down with

america thirty nine years nine yards
Go home week eve of the journey home!

The big d zone

10:11 min | 1 year ago

Go home week eve of the journey home!

"Hey everybody says Prestige Jay I want to tell you you know now you listen to your favorite radio show or your Kathy's Well I could do that and so now with anchor you can I love you uh Wednesday they play the song yet again that they play retrieve the mentally tree oh yeah and then I had a flashback because the worship team during the Dorothy Missions Conference so going to be a busy confident MRIs going to be a double they take away from emissions night but I'll probably might have to do it at the hotel yeah there are we there yet are we there yet almost so tonight is the ease the Internet Gawk lady goes you too so it was a battle and you can do it too so if you sign up for anchor the day you could be on your way to get your listeners you could find the show ever you want to be but most important have fun that's why have fun this is your show of the journey home after all the months and fighting and battling getting sick from the summer heat nearly passing out almost every time and I thank the Lord wanted me to be able to regroup and go home this is your moment make it what you want to be sign of anchor and you will not be sorry that you did this prestigious fully definitely a battle but I will definitely still do the win way of what I learned so far off to history you know the Gospel you want you can do news you do sports you could do talk you could do trivia just be yourself be who have a great day and the D. Down I am Dj and well we are nearly finally was in the book and though a little bit of the taken um about what I go Friday do takeaway Friday and also get ready for and then come back with sash so he was helping me fight doing the Nelly I even had to fight today elitist to do it at the hotel when I probably might wind up doing a double ministy some Asong got the book and I got the All the sermons that make sure the foam battery weather charge and then on top of that show the Internet go crazy the whole nine yards and thought I was going to be able to make it home wow the my wife thing every time we was tapped by the enemy and I have a flashback and instead of the worship gene playing the song I thought my wife Flipping in the Thong I heard of late I thought I thought she was right there the journey home so still contemplating going chose tonight and if I do go to church tonight that's want to stop at the hotel put up my documents my travel documents bus from the clues Al Franken the Numb I would've had the Lens Day today so that I can focus on my thoughts uh today is checking finally here wow what a weight I mean I have been battling he stole Kita dos in but not there yet when I stood out all day all day today and and while I'm at the hotel I'm GonNa do leaks six early the prediction for weeks six zero mm-hmm again at the fight in tears of fighting tears I should say a little good little numb and that's what I was at a fight today the enemy the attack and it's sure of getting a nap or and that's GonNa take place they're crazy crazy and on the airlines I got to check today today's check in southwest flight at the St Louis Portion because the Thursday game will be Thursday game will be one on the ship in a backstage interview a role in deed f-a-s-t F s one shell while the continues and also in a young will be hosting the show and interview different people will be into gathering Russell News about when I got that flashback and I and I Oh and the possibility on the farm yet I don't Wanna I don't WanNa Dink's everything but as the sun knuckles are there's a possibility that's the punk is going to be working alongside Rene young book a Teen Uh so I had to do week six early addiction is concerned the thankfully the morning going very fast when our way assures slow so disability will be seeing and hearing from PWI unlimited and up in here from another wrestling source than outbid listening talk about at least events wrestling for Ross met down and annex t you're if I didn't know that you know that will got fastback along with my green almost like a conflict almost like the confident show where mean Jean Oakland was hoping to show but this time you have a book petit and also stop by the hotel and print documents anyway and then if I don't go to church I'll go back yeah I'm like wow I wanna wait till but anyway Manama was like tiny hill from it and I know him better now I mean going home is outweighing outweighing which are not so yeah I'm just debating but if I don't go but if I do go I see that's why I wanted to go to the hotel I'll be around five thirty cloud the thing don't start about six forty five so probably do that if I wanted to go into so this is a into to the journey and but I will definitely have tonight I'll just go to the hotel documents and all my documents and come back and get ready for the journey home in the numbness on that flashback any day of the week but I do hate those life bags I tell you I hate it I didn't ask what being uh anyhow so should I go tonight now regardless of whether I go tonight I woke Tony Whole begins tomorrow this is so exciting at all do it even with the flashback and the numbers that I've been a two because your body will fill it when you come but after all that I'm going home I'm done a program when I get to the hotel about my whole Tampa Bay's billions and all that good stuff so in anchor because this is one of the many way that Bakti zone gets to grow more on more people.

Kathy six zero mm nine yards
Costi Hinn Interviews, Part 1

Christian Podcast Community

24:51 min | 1 year ago

Costi Hinn Interviews, Part 1

"Welcome to where we are studying to show ourselves approved rightly word of truth so we can worship God in spirit and truth deepening our knowledge of God thereby enabling us to deepen our love all set this up by saying this the way this all came about this past December thirtieth two thousand sixteen so as of this recording just and so I want you to listen to this voicemail just GonNa play it for you listen to this voicemail and then we will get to the interview hope that this finds you and yours doing well and I want to thank you for joining me well I've been saying Oh my last few programs that I am we have talked a number of times since then and I just can't tell you what a joy is to talk with him and alison very much a like minded believer a name that I recognized and so I listened to the voicemail and indeed it was a name that I recognized her name that you will recognize a little over a month ago I received a voicemail and I look at the put up my phone email looked at the transcript that and how does and Google voice just kind of reading through it and you know it doesn't always transcribe it exactly right but I looked and I thought I saw going to interview someone and that I think you'd find very interesting in a series of interviews and I think we'll be great encouragement to you and our I'm honored and privileged to have custody as as a as a new friend and and as my brother in Christ and he joins us now so and so a lot of a lot of significance which industry for my life personally my wife and kids and so we're not caught up in that uncalled for some time to just never did and working on a project recently had a chance to really go through your seminar and begin with what's on your website as well I called a Kosti and we made contact and we talked for I think ours are more in our first conversation and and they have just marveled as I'm sure you are probably marveling at this moment as well After I got this voice mail a couple of days later any other resources you have I'd love to get those to some of our leaders and I continue to take this in with all that's going on today so thanks again sorry for the long term has worked in your life and brought to you to where you are right now awesome yeah I guess for starters I will say that that voice there and so growing up in the church we were inundated with the Bible we need the scriptures in a sense we understood the stories of the I just wanted to see a personal full colleges thank you for your ministry I honestly have been following your ministry for quite some time but I've met you know growing up again was growing pretty normal as normal as you could get I know you'll laugh at that I grew up you know very loving home my parents are and you know I just appreciate ministry just want to say thank you obviously my last name his hand and so they know that might ring a bell with you but until his daily Talkies By so does does that surprise you well I have played this voicemail for a couple of close friends viable like many kids we were in the Christmas play and dressed up as Mary and Joseph and Remember Star Bible verses and we got you know Justin this is Kospi Hen Kali it is about eleven thirty on the West Coast I live in California and I'm pastor out here and tested and during the Bible Church and the pastor here so just wanted to say thank you appreciate all you do a certainly love you and the Lord and hope to God continues to bless your ministry UC don't even know I was born in Florida your dad is is Henry Henry Hin Yep that's my dad Henry and then his church Kosti it is I can't tell you what an honor and privilege it is for you to be with us our how're you doing great it's great to be on years God was much more of a transactional being and he was presented as a father he just wanted these kids to be happy so he wants to give all data and so I would just like for you to do that for our listeners right now give us give us the whole nine yards man the background everything how how the Lord well he has in my life to further so my personal numbers you ever want to connect nine four nine would love to touch base with you if there's anything I can do to serve you program by Taffer now thank you and I'm glad to be here guess we could start from the beginning if I go too long just copy off but you had was a longtime come and there's been a couple years of being blessed by your material in what you put out so I think we'll get to where we are now down the road handy intrigued and I mean we enjoyed a fun very lively children's program and growing up in Church and went to private Christian school nephew he's a Weirdo you're Henry in Sun these guys are false teachers and I would actually fire back yeah well at least I have the spirit very loving people to kind and I grew up in the Church world my dad planted a church in Vancouver British Columbia so I was gripped Canadian away to Rub God if you will a magic genie to unlock all these blessings and so I was a kid I love sports and I wanted to be a big league baseball what we want when we want it and the big kicker on our end of things that are safe is the vehicle to get what we want and so fate was just the absolutely absolutely cost you well let's get right down to it costs you have shared with me your testimony and of more weird now it's the mainstream millions upon millions of churches exploding and but what we thought that this reform people and Nope the Gospel was clear that we understood Jesus died for our sins and that godless but there were a lot of the whole bucks for answering right in Church and you know I know some churches use that system now it wasn't a Prosperity Gospel and back then it was just fun and we God bless wherever those kids are now I hope some of them are are pastors 'cause they were telling me like it is and they have the truth but these kids would make fun of me for being Benny Hinz nephew and we were the outcast fringe Weirdos we were doesn't have big services with big evangelist they don't have the spirit they're dead and so these kids would make fun of me you in The tongue talking charismatics we were out there whereas nowadays discusses moral and I guess the paradigm switched to where when I was young the holy man in people's minds so that the they taking whatever he's preaching so that's my world a dead church you got no miracles your dad's not filled with the spirit your dad's knocked powerful like mine Signs in wonder I mean everything from the practical who the extravagant Gogga do you and so I get made fun of as a kid growing up in those private nations and in my young years I didn't quite understand what was happening to my world view into my theology but by the time I got to my teenagers I follow them that believe we've got the power and so I was literally just repeating what I had been brainwashed to believe in on who didn't do it the way that we did in charismatic churches is they were dead so as a young Kid Oscar grasp of the Gospel and I say that with it yet all nine gifts of the spirit my uncle of course assuming that you WANNA leave the list at nine obviously and and then schools I went to one that Lakers in Reform School of course I had no idea about reform theology zero appreciation for as well looking back I wish I did and I would think but we do that we speak in tongues in the service at the altar you know but respect to obviously what we know now god is very transactional everybody who doesn't speak incomes who doesn't heal people who uncle or a teacher in this movement that they can switch it on any time you know I'm GonNa move in the prophetic right you've heard that that's a normal statement layered so you just you know you just gotTa believe in faith in God will do I want to be rich and not have debt and I wanted to live in a house in meet a nice wife and kid the Bible says this here's what we do and I was told you don't put it on the box don't God told me to do again July's I'm GonNa Bring The Gospel and then I feel the prosthetic for your life tonight God's going to bless you all that smoking mirrors building opening divine revelation interacting with the scriptures was a teenager I come across passages and I remember one got the real spirit and so he claimed to be an hospice oh yeah he was he could operate and we apostolic Tacona fast forward we were raised with the fivefold ministry mentality to the IMF agreed at one time my dad told me source could operate in all the offices listed in the fusions for so there is this really big mentality Lhasa gifts we can do it all we've got real theology and you heading into my teenage years and then with all that I begin to process what I'm reading because I believe tonight I haven't anointing for the prosthetic or tonight I feel the spirit in this way or tonight you know I've got office and it sounds comical and silly now if you know the truth is put back then it's normal to hear from a father sources lift up your hands pray in the Holy Ghost people pray and they would yell at the crowd as though their tongues were going to heal the person and Oakwood Crusades we divide our friends and travel to them and all those things and every time one of them would stand up and yell at the crowd come on lift up and like a typical teenager I was lost myself and confused to now is a careful hormones and just shooting all over the place kind of non everyone is going to speak in tongues not all have gifts of healing today you know First Corinthians twelve thirty end versus twenty seven thirty and I would look at that talk just move your mouth they're just say whatever comes to mind release you're safe and then there this was a common one this was actually the one I love the most because they couldn't even invite my friends church they would leave Acumen Vangelis by nature I love to evangelize lost people like my friend Church but then my dad or if it was a crusade that'd be the last time they come to our church and so it was really really contradicting and I was juxtaposed is your faith why are people doing lines if we can heal instantly let's just he'll hospitals being emptied why can't my friend's DAD MM-HMM I was just lost in and nobody could answer my questions without patronizing me or using big state ver- Church to the next level so I've got an elitist mentality I'm better than the Baptist Churches I got a reformed church's doe tax stuff basically taking Paul and handkerchiefs in scripture taking tooken degree so that was normal read my Bible my parents would say did you read Your Bible this morning absolutely I did or sometimes say when you go pray in your room and read Your Bible nowadays obviously for salvation and people wanted to commit their life to Christ or even you know the one that we've talked about plenty where people just raised their hand and pray a prayer it wasn't even that but that's not normal but for me it was and then out of those teenage years it gets prophesied over me that on the next in line to take the van I wanna be when I grow up and I believe this and I want to do this and at the same time questioning my fate teenagers are rough you kosters have a high calling and for me week about an annoying man of God don't question what the Holy Spirit's doing got blasphemy against the spirit anointed it that's my favorite one is you know pulling because David didn't slaughter saw in a cave lines relieving himself all the sudden you can't say Uncle Benny had cancer be brought in just be prayed for why is why does he have to sit in a certain seat why does the music to play all these questions we heal people with the process supposedly why do people get walked across the stage just move your legs just begin to excess about patchy later in life and I'll tell you that data the Inter my testimony but I would come across things like you'll Paul writing to the Corinthians shirt saying that you have this generational blessing and I'm Gonna I'm GonNa be next in all along on the sinful t so we did some other really weird stuff that to this day I remember vividly we went through a bottle of water phase where will you're going to be debt free so we the altar calls they were mostly about receiving a fresh touch from God and we see a lot of altar calls and and so you obviously not hearing proper Gospel was keeping me in darkness so Romans ten cents I'm the next day but DADS Henry Uncles Benny all several mother Oh closer pastures we've got the power worthy Hinz and we this was just come get touched by the holy man who has the power of the anointing is on a regular Sunday morning Sunday night service Winston and the theology was more just what contributed to my my foggy mentality in a very very unbuilt local world eighteen was not happening faith comes by hearing hearing by the word of God I was hearing the word faith movement the word of God so the You know my dad would shout or someone would you know give me a bottle of water the Lord's you'll just personally more Drink this Cup of water in in God Donald Water was considered a point of contact so dozens and dozens of water bottles were stored on the stage is holy water and calling the holy water face gonNA come true faith at that point until I got away from that so the next phase of the story goes that was just the norm to see really odd things and you know from bottled water to special anointing towels it's all the point and normal this was actually on a recent TV programme I think you know my uncle and someone from that circles kind of doing this program and they were talking to a point in my life where I began to work for again and again the mentality is this if you want something from God do something for him sure and and to be fair I want to be really clear about this my parents never made me soon the theology that I was taught wasn't it's like don't put it on the box so a sixteen year old you're scared you don't pick on the box okay I won't question God and then ask God bless me so I can go to college get a scholarship and play professional baseball one day and so I actually accept the job offer medical was always listen God necessarily blaming my parents or their theology by explaining a lot of that but in a sense I wasn't getting sound doctrine so I wasn't aspect of it was just fun it was fun to fly on an airplane fun to a private airplane fund to be Tree I want to play baseball I'm playing in high school i WanNa play in college to play professionally and I get this idea taking yesterday travel with him he was never unkind to us he was always generous and that's that's another thing we need to be clear on this isn't my smear campaign I'm GonNa put before baseball so what's the best way to do that well I'm gonna go work for Uncle Benny and serve him he's like royalty fun to stay in the most expensive hotels in the world fun to be rich and to have no responsibility on the long I'm still going to transition I go and I enter college and Played Baseball I end up at Dallas Baptist University in Texas it's a small D. One and it was my new I get back at my family for doing anything wrong to meet their their loved people I mean they are so nice they're not gonna they're not GonNa have oh you they'll love you they're nice people they never did anything wrong to me besides the theology that I was taught so any hires me on pays me well the ministry but I wanted to be rich like him that was a life I really suck me in pretty good and so even with the go to college and play baseball this following year and so with all that under my belt I I get a Hummer h two the reason I said I send the center I was depraved teenager left to my own devices and what else is going to happen but shit things that were very cleared others but I had the blinders on I was still under gender in so I go to homeboy Christians who are a leaders in the baseball world and so sure enough he says hey you know you should join a Bible study home and I was an average baseball player was go superstar by any stretch but a great school and I thought this is

sixteen year nine yards one day
The Problem and Opportunity of Bias  Preview

Spirit of EQ Podcast

02:52 min | 5 months ago

The Problem and Opportunity of Bias Preview

"Hi everyone. This is Eric Pennington with the spirit of E. Q. And with me as always Jeff. Hello everyone we wanted to take an opportunity to give you an advance preview of the newest episode of the spirit of Eq- podcast. Yeah the the reason that this subject kind of is is Kinda real to me right now is because my grandchildren know Eric and I've talked about this. But my three grandchildren Live out in Bryan Texas are performing working up punk rock band fourteen sixteen and eighteen years old and because of my type of music that I like to listen to. I'm very proud of them. And when I tell somebody about them one. The name of their band is a great punk rock name. I'm surprised nobody's ever taken there called psychotic tendencies which they don't spell it with a P. Though they spell it with an S. Y. Which is an amazingly good punk rock name. I think when I'm talking with someone about them and I say that there are a punk rock band you can see a change in some people because they have a preconceived bias about now. What kind of people they are. Yes then I would imagine. That runs the gamut from the music to the lifestyle. The appearance the whole nine yards what. My grandkids are smart kids. The are some of the most polite children that I know. I'm so proud of my daughter for that they are. They're just really good kids that like pop music and have decided to become a band so people automatically assume who they are punk rockers. Have a bad reputation. So it's it's okay to have that as the first thought but then when you start putting the person into it in case my my grandchildren yet. That's where the biased comes in. You don't know them. All punk rockers are not the saying hello this is jeff again and I would really like to thank you for listening to the spirit of EU podcast. If you have any questions comments or just want to know more about emotional intelligence please contact us. You'll find our information on the spirit of Eq- dot Com and we will get back with you. Thank you again put.

Eric Pennington Jeff Bryan Texas EU eighteen years nine yards
The Handmaid's Tale on HULU: S3/E7 - "Did she really? Yes she did."

Mayday: The Handmaid's Tale Podcast

1:23:06 hr | 1 year ago

The Handmaid's Tale on HULU: S3/E7 - "Did she really? Yes she did."

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friends pretty much everyone's friends spotify now i know what you're thinking justin we know you're gonna put a mix tape together of all the songs will be submitted this week but wait there's more as the kids say i did you know that on top of being the leading streaming service per music there also a great place to find a podcast in fact did you know did you find our podcast on about five but you didn't so if you are podcast listener you can go despite the fi and find all the great podcast just like you can't music so despised by pulled up do a search find mayday the handmaid's tale podcast and you can do all the things you normally do it's a podcast that you can search she could find other great podcasts listen off line subscribe so you don't miss an episode cause of why would you want to end a do all the social things that are already built in to spot if i normally so you could share all of whom you could save on everything you wanna do right there from spotify so you got your music he got you're podcasts no need to go anywhere else to spotify again search for may day the handmaid's tale podcast subscribe to our podcast if you haven't already check it out spotify you're only music in your own podcast everybody justin organ jumped into the podcast episode here in just a second just wanna take one moment to tell you guys one thing and that is thank you a we have had a great run this year and are previous seasons i just wanna take a minute to say thank you to everyone who is out there listening who subscribe to the podcast and listens on a consistent basis we cannot do it without you a we really appreciate appreciate it you know it helps us bergen sponsors and it's always nice to be appreciated and get sponsors of the show a so thank you everyone out there who is listening and enjoy czar show we appreciate everything you do so please keep following us on social media keep listen to the podcast starting this week i think we're gonna start doing one of the called pop up contests where i'm just gonna record something like this and throw it out there as a podcast andy you guys gonna hear and you'll be instructed on things to do to win in some prizes now we do have one a fantastic price coming up at the end of the season which is an autographed hoster from the handmaid's tale that who sent us a it's signed by almost everyone in the cast almost a it's pretty fantastic so you'll hear more about that coming up but just be on the lookout for that and then once again thank you in just no on this episode sarah had a scheduling conflict but she is calling in so the audio seems kinda funky on her and that's why but we did the best could i think it sounds great and hopefully we can talk about this episode an you guys will enjoy it so thanks again really appreciate you guys you're kicking ass a hit us up on facebook and let us know were doing thank you enjoy all right here buddy may were here just barely barely here so so as per usual this is we still haven't made a windy day where's the normal i think we've made one where it has not that seats and now a so this this week sarah's joining us be 'em will call satellite phone from her home a husband had worked late so sarah's on a kid duty or as we call it parenting 'em so how's it going sir hi guys will will see how after all right we'll see how it goes is well you know if you've got a jump away to a you know there's got to so lord only knows what's about what's even occurring in the other room while you're out there i don't know you're breaking i'm trying not to think about it okay so did you do to are circumstances i'm gonna excused he a intro and were gonna do straight into the scene 'cause i have a feeling that there's potential first there to get drawn away from this conversation that's just me yeah all right so start start seeing more you ready i like things that open with a big rig rope always always a good sign of things to come they do mention the then at one point not right away but they do mention that it had been the fourth hanging that day and so until this episode you kind of forget probably how many of those they've attended daily for a long time yeah let's give her credit she said this week so no not a whole day that even delia that's more prolific and i it's real it's real a so when we find here is the handmaid's are being made to be a labor i guess you will to lift up be gallows and then they're also the ones through some mechanism that we don't see to pull the gallows and let the thing go so it works both ways for other hand man oh that's right oh yeah got the tell everybody else they're playing justin this week is tiana whose life is so busy as i say we're human show we have lost a lot just real life jacket watch episode this week so means they're feeling her and she's gonna play the person who you're gonna play the role the person who wanna listen to us before he watched the show but you could ask us questions like they can't because they're listening in it'll have okay well i'll be there standing are we still in dc no are we well along you got a bunch of angry i know you know what you know friends reinstated and it's not it's just not explicitly show but yes they're back in joliet britain syrian student washington dc on until we open up the scene of the handmaid's andy if you can imagine like an aero right okay what three lines of handmaid's one going up the middle to the size of daryl and they all have a rope and there's gallows in front of them and when they pulled a rope wait it's like i gallows tug of war yes it is handmade tug of war the worst konya combative terrible and so when they lifted up it raises the platform up so people can walk onto the platform and then one of the guardians flips a switch and then they pull it again it releases the gallows that's hanging the people so i believe the point to this and correct me if you think i'm wrong there is that 'em it their all the people who are being hong are resistance people and also people that are allegedly mistreating their children will find out later m n making the handmaid's do it is a way to say you know to make them feel bad for being part of the resistance if they were and kind of a squelching that as much as they can i believe this is my in part of a sal lame alive i don't know torture well obvious cycle i mean psychological torture kind of be overarching theme of juliet i believe it's the first opened in the constitution but oh yeah that's what we open up with such good ducks they miss anything there sir do you see that any other way but that's a no well yeah no i'm just kinda yeah make them aware like yeah like you know what i'm saying like a psychological torture so you're thinking about doing anything you shouldn't and that's the genius of how lydia resents kind of like this is people who didn't liberal godly life right and then you should in or if you don't this insurance minder yeah he says something that affects and i can't i said yeah no ill will you got a groove back let's say says he's back in full lydia for for sure so the next thing we have is a and it's funny because like after they're done she's just like says this person they just go yeah i thought that was funny to disperse 'cause they they don't need the cd aftermath i could only see what the the part where they kill a seal of matthew who is quickly in this episode going to become everyone's least favorite human being on the show which is saying a lot that's right to me like what you're talking about writing oh absolutely where a so she you know is always ways after these kinds of things always trying to spin a trade deal yet and say how they're all blessed to be there and doing god's work blah blah blah out there walking along in she is having pains because of the baby and she said she usually enjoys being pregnant at the stomach difficult and then june gonna coaches to the kind of had this moment where they're working together and even though june kind of the sticker shit she's kind of helping her work through in june even goes through saying you know brings he's hard and when i was pregnant with nicole i had some thoughts that i would be ashamed to admit now and things like that and up matthew it's all like i don't have any thoughts and then yeah yeah she gets she gets a little upset about that and then they before you continually try to give her chances to be a human being and she continually turns her down in remains this massive highest it shouldn't 'em it's like just when june is actually nicer her really helpful is something snaps inside of her and she's like no i don't have any thought that i yeah she takes a hard pass on on turning the corner so the next scene which will prove very dangerous and not fun later on low loaves vicious and there's a little chitchat about the veils as they're calling until we have official name for the things that covered the mouse at the end so we see a few handmaid's in those dishes in gilly ad walking around with them and they all these other handmaid's of talking about how they're popping up all over the place and so there's been a few 'em and they're discussing all this stuff and then they tried to distract of matthew because she wants cocktail because that you're jam 'em basically so they can get june over talk to the martha who is taking care of hannah who's there so they did they know hannah was kind of either her martha hand is not the oh the market is there yeah loaves and fishes that makes hannah was there but did they know yes i believe well they knew the truth when they were there so they kind of arrange it so that she could get over there a and so she has this discussion with her about trying to get to see hannah an ad telling her essentially and again 'em one of these things were june trying to make plans and promises without really thinking about it i quite rolled a yeah basically saying that her commander can get them out all of them including the martha right this look on her face like liberal sudden this others would you like what could go wrong well and especially given her interactions with commander lawrence and how commander lawrence with kind of warning her that she was going to forward it like he was so that was her for being so presumptious were three episodes ago and now she's like yeah i get everybody out like issues so shirt about it when she when she said that to the mark like i i think right now the mindset and i imagine it's gonna get worse after this episode is she's gonna just promise and do whatever she thinks she can even if she can't deliver on it if she thinks that it will work though the middle east very least the chicken get hurt in tonio nicotine make it exactly no i think she's gonna tell everybody what they wanna hear regardless of whether she could follow through on like bringing the martha with the math if they if she thinks she can get anna closer together which fine in town in right it's gonna be it's gonna be decidedly not find later right so of course because it's a looming in the background at the end of the scene is a man who is watching it and talk to each other and so she sees this and throughout this conversation june is trying to you know i talked to the martha tried to get her to talk her into doing this and helping her hannah finally does because june tells her she knows where this the school is 'cause they told her so she says she's gonna go there and says martha kind of relent and tells her to go there and ask for the guardian parker who is on their side and he'll help her get into the school and whatever once you get to the school i really don't know how they thought this plan is gonna get accomplished but they're like gates thing cards and things you're our you're smart lady and you don't even living juliet well most of the smart ladies don't living again that's that's not true some of the smart lady there by none of the court that is true but they killed a lot of options true also a so mark finally relent gives you the plans says what's do and as she's walking away we see of matthew stocking background which we know is gonna be bad bad news now we know quite how bad but yeah that's the thing is is much worse than i thought i knew it was gonna be bad but it real yeah i feel like of matthew constantly think she's like being surveilled so she like every every time there's a hint of hope for friendship or kindness she's just like no party line yeah i kind of feel the same way to like the fact she opened up the one time but then every other time it's like she could be a little but then she's like no no i can't trust anybody yeah and yeah so that's kind of i'm with you on that one so we just gotta canada next canada okay so emily in her wife or meeting with the the woman from these swiss government that this interviewing june in the last episode and she is essentially going over what is claiming to be emily's criminal activities while she lives in joliet and so basically has run down this list of things done astor about running over water mowing the guard with the car and i asked her if she committed any other crimes which made me think has she done anything else 'em in bastrop she stabbed her what did they call her supervisor yeah with jeff interesting well they with this local scene is like when you just listed out like that in such a sterile way it really does sound that you know like if you get a refugee in u s in you know you're looking you're like okay well let's talk about what happened before we can't you know and it's like oh you stab somebody in the menu it's killing her abuser and then well yes there while i forgot about street kill the wife when the colonies she poisoner which i mentioned that oh yeah yeah yeah later she she killed her related or they're an end she but she doesn't admit that to the canadian official she's a were later you're oh no no no no she says more later when they're in the jail yeah yeah like wait a minute there in jail yes they end up a gym let me tell you what a so essentially what is happening here in the scene is you know the sweet this government still playing along with with them is it we don't know yeah that's that's gonna be interesting part is i don't know if they're playing oriented yeah 'em in emily's wife sylvia is there and she's kind of telling her you know you don't have sloan i don't care what you did when you were there because of the situation he ran obviously and a emily's says i'm fine with it in a way that no one is fine ever right decidedly unsigned so next it's sarah's favorite part of the show time oh my god i've episode of matter is we add house hunters papa but i wrote i wrote in my my those serena wants to the dc and steal somebody's home again creepy it's just sad is seen as they walked through the home right so they're like actually shopping a whole runners that no celebrate this opens with serena and mrs winslow a walking down the street and she's talking about dc and how nice it is and how he could high end house yeah out there and they come up to this house and i believe what did they refer to it as this one hasn't been 'em i forget what the word they used wake up now yeah it's a great purpose you know not cleanse that's not the right word but now to that effect they haven't cleaned it up and turned it over yet so people could so we walk in in the family stuff that we use the lizard right like just everywhere exactly are they ran yes i'm gonna say exactly how house would look if somebody had accident immediately their shoes lined up by the door i mean how but after that it's just three other than just the two was just arena and mrs ones that's hardly good friend would just say something statement on restored that's what they call they haven't refinery the orioles wow yeah that's the most patriotic way you could say that well in spread doesn't say anything stupid but 'em business winslow does cause at one point you get the sense this arena has like one percent of like this is super messed up the walking through somebody else's house and she goes who were these people on those lines and mrs when's the last time back this statement or but this is equivalent with like murderers like no like oh of course yeah we should definitely take their home now is that like she doesn't like that and you're just like oh my god that's that's not even house fucked up part of this whole scene right it up things you're walking in the dining room table is inside on the dining room table is is a newspaper but the headline that says terror in washington with a wine glass that's still to me it looked like it had whining 'em which also led me to believe that these were not baptist just for those keeping score at home a lot of bad test handling some of that and drink some of the odds are not in the drinking at least not my bachelors from what i don't give up i was one of but then they go upstairs right kids ranger still like kids rooms they walk in and this is like a nursery right from cribs still there have the name spelled out on the long maybe sorry phoebe no votes absolutely still all the stuff there in serena's like looking in the in the in the crib and you think maybe she's thinking oh this is horrible but i really think she's just thinking oh my baby could be there and right and they go check out the master bedroom and that's so yeah that's gross they do show family photo the family adult do yeah i'm so glad they had episode like that because that's what i vision earlier on when fred and serena had home i thought well how would how did that go down i kinda like went backwards in my head and not well they must have let's everybody else's got rid of everybody else no anger you know pick out things you're lake and go to neighboring homes and lipton grab some other thing yeah it was very reminiscent of the boston globe seen from last year where everybody's stuffing still in their shoes were on the floor and that'll just like that only at house like you would think that would be where people either had delayed evil labor force noble right exactly things were just like oh yeah i i know i recently watched her noble it's really good right is right i've heard mixed things but every like we although it at all the people i talked to like audience people like you know rush meals the usual tricks again what people think of all the people i hear talk about i think it's also the critics have very mixed it's really well done good yeah they're few parts better a little shaky 'em right you kind of expect that when you're watching a show about noble yeah i mean you know anything that involves living things liquefying unintentionally gross every once in a while well and it did historically accurate at all and i think i learned a lot i believe i've heard it was like fifty percent historically accurate oh i don't know what fifty was just gonna say yeah it's not for you entertain i i i basically what i heard a with said it's like the titanic version of titanic style where like the stories are not real sure violate extra these individuals were real humans right that were there and did things right probably what they don't like interpersonal relationships have just been filled in and like the the only when the firefighter probably not a real science of it was real like the reason it lumping all that oh yeah well i think that's pretty well doug as on why that happened just forever so next scene is commenting on is gonna like this because i could pick names out at sound weird to me and i this this one this one took me sucking ahead of google a so fred and commander wins over coming down the steps from somewhere out there and some fancy commander building ended agreed each other as fred and george knows my friend george some really familiar why do i know friend georgia's do a google it and a harry potter fans that's a that's a weasel words that's right so i don't know like i said i don't know if any of the writers do any of this on purpose to me like phoebe the fringe reference a major joey lawrence i mean everybody's name the reference other people know that name to consume anyway so the harry potter gold references justin what's a gimme justin reference just in time i can show you know what i'm talking and i've outright sarah no ever watched on sometime it's great they should we didn't have cable intel's fourteen no i mean yours kids like a show that happens now oh one called just in time about a kid named justin well they're watching coyote right now i'm traveling travels back in history so you learn about history in my guy you like guy who's like forever guy you've been around for like i would really junior napper watch watch kyri i'd never seen an episode that i never saw i saw very few of we avoided the wiggles yeah we avoided the wiggles teletubbies a bernie power ranger thank god i there were a lot of things said just magically didn't work on television at home yeah it's crazy stone anyway weird so friend george coming down the steps and what we learn here the canada is willing to talk about quote a general extra strip extradition treaty in my old saw is kind of what tiana is are these really considering these things are they just string in the long so they can get intelligence about yulia that's what i wanna know so that's what they're saying is that they're talking about general extradition treaty in what we learn basically this whole point of the scene is that winslow one spread to a continue to keep nicole up there and not worry about bringing her back because she's good leverage when women hansi commander yes sure new nickname manner fred basically is a little upset 'cause you could tell he's legitimately wanting to get nicole back mostly force arena social show validate how exactly and so yeah and then we have a little additional personal space invasion asian towards the end where they're trying to discuss in these and windows making it fairly clearly he would like to keep nickel up there a kind of touches on his arm and he's like like a personal bubble exist it didn't any more on their way three of four into the space between the two of them yeah so there's that is very interesting so is this thing they wanna continue to use or his leverage pretty great not delivered saying that the contempt after winslow being like super hot on fred it's gonna be really really happy to see where that goes really still nowhere up with a sore neck scene is june a at home with the joey lawrence this is martha i can't remember what her name is but she a is telling her hey i'm trying go see my kid is its core other window or left side of the name of a so she's gonna get her to go with her out of the house so she can't just go you know freely walked down to the school she needs somebody to basically company and so her marco's like i know it's crazy out there i'm not going to lay so june decides i'm gonna take the tee up to this is lawrence in june like normally you know you just leave the outside in this is lawrence because they don't let you know jury didn't oh totally yeah this is another like what could possibly go wrong moment so she go hey she full on knocks on the door blitzer inside she opens the blinds in the in the room to get oh totally so you should see the look on seattle is like seriously it's this happening yeah she's like she's like yes yeah so she talks mrs lawrence into going for a walk that's all she tells me that mrs lawrence seems a little wary like if we were on the fence about whether mrs lawrence really had a thing going on we're no longer on the fence just so you know she's acting very strange like just looking out the window in june like facing the cameras mrs lawrence of looking out the window and she's being very strange like she's never seen a window before the first time she got a look outside in the longtime is a little bizarre and even june is making this tastes like oh shit getting a little jane eyre it's very junior very much a so the gopher the walk she she says yes an austin client so we got baby angela and lady platinum coming down the street which is like the worst possible scenario for a june and this is when a because hey june is trying to get to this place like by three o'clock so she's like in a hurry oh it's that it's that day and so they run into mrs platinum an this is win super weird things start happening with a this is winslow she she looks out at baby angela and it's like oh it's so nice you're maybe didn't die oh we thought that she might die but it's good that she didn't like twice student is in central time oh boy in the at this point june in number look at each other like what is happening in june like i gotta get going in this ladies like going will kuku arming so she's not real thrilled about the direction this walk is going 'em so they get her out of there she finally brushes putnam often gets her away from the baby and so they keep walking in finally she's like okay i gotta be honest with you i'm trying to go see my kid we don't have to go there if you don't want to cause i think at this point she's thinking okay i've made the wrong decision like for the first time she's acknowledging one of the great and so they start talking about her in commander lawrence not having children and it sounds to me like the way it incorrectly if you thought is wrong but sounds like he didn't want to because they were so busy so therefore it galea yes before gilliat and that they talked about it but that they were both so busy with their schedule she was a teacher i think and he was doing obviously who is he right inventing whatever you're doing and she she talks about you know imagining what her own daughter or little boy would have looked like a he disagreed and then she went bipolar is what she says a so she says maybe they did the right thing by not having children that suffered a bit but this is when june kind goes okay time out this is what we're really doing out here if you wanna go back i'm sorry that i brought you out here we could go back and she says no i'm a keen on a new adventure so they continue on to the school okay first of all none of these symptoms sound like bipolar that's what she said bipolar june did not see but i'm just telling you what i believe now that could have met you know that could have progressed into something else or maybe there's some additional things and top of bipolar i don't write a that we don't know about that maybe she doesn't know about i don't oh i noticed all canoes what's on the screen that's all okay so it's bad hats so it's a great start quiet day well some implication at the end of the walk when they get back home that part of heard a mental struggles were exacerbated by the fact that they did so so they just like random went home together after this now so they don't go through hell yeah they continue on because the country's ensure that 'cause she says she's keno adventurous and i guess june thanks good enough for me let's keep rolling right sure how many chances she get you know you're gonna find aren't very many 'em so boom that happens back to canada now to the emily more show a no more out there on a coffee shop discussing the fact that a they're trying to discussing everything but they're talking about more risk pissed about the whole situation in general 'em but they're really just starting to get to know each other and kind of talk about life and being out to make that happen yeah they've never had a wall everybody okay sound like somebody filled up now i'm sorry okay so essentially what's happening here is a more restaurant find someone that she hooked duckworth got together with while they were in the same time that emily knows 'cause she says she went to harvard she's like oh i went out to former girl she starts list and all these names and emily's like no no no she's like like i can't believe we don't have anybody how many harvard lesbians where they're at the point in fact the first time in lesbian history that we know is pretty you know what at emily my talking about asking what kind of girl where you're an uber like were you at a club is like no oh yeah probably study yeah that sounds right and she asked her about the harvard law schools everyone she's like no law schools kind of separate six ratified some common ground it was pretty funny but then we find out more go to protest in canadian prime there's because he is a going somewhere to continue to talk about these gilliat you know extradition and all that and so emily cannot come along and she does really yeah that was very surprised i thought you were gonna like not go but she went and so they cut street to that in a more and emily both all up in his face while the crowd of people people as he's walking to his car what's happening as it's canada right you know he had eight did have articulately guarding you did have one a and not like separated from emily and so she's just screaming screaming adam about you know why would you even topically at and he's answering back which would never happen but he's saying you know it's the best interest of everyone that you know we have peace with their neighbors which goes kind of worth what we heard from the swiss people last time which was they don't wanna get blown up so might be part of the show but right we don't nevertheless marable emily comes up behind her and starts railing on you know talking about saving the coal and how she's the one that brought her and her mother wouldn't want her to go back to the pair all the whole thing she goes kind of you know birth mother had given up the right oh yes that's right matt they're off yeah that's what the permian goes clearly he did not it wasn't a crap shoot right she goes off and says that's not what happened she gave her the media to protect her and get her out of gilliat all this stuff but so she's she's being held by a guard which i thought was very interesting because then she starts still kind of elbow and him like going all get off me on and i mean she killed one yeah sure i've killed men bigger than you think she's really feeling that that data but yeah so that was very interesting up more and emily bonding kind of this over pro testing so we'll see where that goes i still wonder what's emily's wife aware of any of this like he's gonna elevation later that's a good question well we don't know 'cause they have to they will find out a couple of days in jail visit russell protesters and so i'm going to get arrested you have to get arrested at one point though moreira slams his car door mean he opened his card or and she slams shut and then they continue to yell at him in a million light iris my life it get her in here you know all that an on my husband's like that would never you never get to just slammed door like that on somebody a which i thought was interesting perspective a but anyway but yeah so that's probably part of the reason they got arrested because you can't do that right 'em among other things i mean they got pretty upset yes there is there is no doubt about it with emily kind of you know punching the guard more less not really like punching pushing but just give him the burn shouting so well see that's being later it's pretty interesting quick break in the action here just to tell you about our good friends at anchor anchor dot fm an anchor app that you get four free in the app store you wanna make a podcast you think you gonna do this stuff you think golly gee these guys they talk about the handmaid's tale that sounds like fun or golly gee this seem super easy i could talk good to go to anchor dot fm or the anchor app from the app store and you could download it for free it will cost you absolutely nothing to start you're podcast anger gives you all the tools to record distribute edit and do all of the things you need to do to have a podcast within the app or their website again absolutely 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learn that's because of matthew kind of dawn the whole martha talking to june thing which leads to another issue later but that that had already happened at this point and that's why the guardian got it wasn't there that's why they were on out for those two did she did she over here enough to know like guardian patrick i could not so i don't think she owes enough actually here but i don't think so either but they definitely knew that they were talking to each other and i don't know why another reason you would talk to mark of the kid that you just put everything on my mac you know that that was the mark a very mild that's a good question maybe that's just common knowledge i dunno 'cause either met him know that until maybe they she just knows because they believed that random other hanley's or wasn't like they can they had a relationship with their same group okay i don't think they're supposed to be talking anyway and also we fight all i'm sure yeah and we also we did over to keep it on to tell her anything of ordinary so so lady figured it out right mmediately even if she just she's talking to martha very well the way they distracted of matthew is pretty obvious and even of matthew at the time was like why are they trying to distract me like she picked up on it right away that yes so the see a centrally they get there in a guardian parker not there but winslow search dropping names saying you know like my husband is commander joined lawrence and from newark because they don't know why they held her there there's like guardians there's like four gates to get into the school but they do see hannah in through the girls like walking in like they're like tied together essentially like with not less and they like servant tied together kind of way and more in eighty three kids who we don't want to run often do crazy craft okay somewhere like like the kid leash yes like exactly okay so right so they get they look man of the words his wife in there and then june that's another one of these things that simulates shouldn't be await up and they don't let you know they closed the world class that that was curious if we go on just let her in there and then well i mean you gotta pain if they're all the bad although there are from a handmade mostly and so you know they're not gonna just say oh yeah sure you come on it but possibly go wrong a sieve june goes on a little walk around the perimeter of the wall of the school yard i know by herself nobody around just like you do an guardians don't say anything to her she just walks over there and chicken here i'm playing and so she's like up against the wall tried here and say his name is all about it in a guardian comes and gets hurt and you're like oh shit she's in trouble but no it's not hers the trouble is because commander joey lawrence his wife is kind of freaking out in front of the gate a somehow she's made it outside the gate again man is yelling at them because they won't give her the tour of the cheapest promised even real a and so she's having a little bit of an episode i guess so they bring in june back to like hey drew lady get her out of here please so cute thing until june the scorcher way in which he keeps saying but but you promised me i see the children or he's saying over and over again and it's relievers are in that sense so sad oh it is truly sad it really is the other thing is the june has a flashback where they show toddler hannah which is like my kryptonite life i know other things but i can't even before they a before the guardian comes you get a june she's kind of in this like reverie like she could hear hannah playing puts her like just a voice over the and it puts her in this like obviously kind of like dreamlike eight where she is remembering daydream like state where she is remembering you know and and just honest harry her plain old memories and a it's the super sad but then she snapped out of it by lawrence his wife super at moment 'em and then they walk back home to you well done sir but then shows joey and he's like freaking out yeah aunt because she's upset and you know how he's very sensitive to her up so it's really hard for me to be serious when you guys call the show i know started it and now it's all in my notes and like hurting him again and i've only had one person on facebook who said please stop collagen commander joy lawrence and i said i don't think we can on this far go see it through can't can't unring on how i don't call in that but it's weird i find out where do you guys i can't i can't do it now he's he's reading over her right so the house in june like picks her up you basically see taking june taking her into the room and then made a large takes it from there and you could tell he's pissed about and then a like so unexpectedly yeah so you know of course june is like i'm so sorry i don't think this is gonna happen you know she's she's like oh no in which they like i didn't think she wasn't back crazy sorry i thought she was in what they acceptable crazy frame the per no expedition she's more like i didn't think this would make her act that crazy i knew she was crazy i didn't think this episode trigger it in this way oh my never memphis happen you know she's she's freaking out a little bit and then you're like okay in that donald seems kind of how that would go and then right is she goes off to her room or wherever she goes she turns around and talk to commander lawrence and she's like should've seen her around the children she came a lot and then storms hot and you're like oh yeah because when the whole time she doesn't say anything to her in and they're like respond anything she now the entire time she's there and he's put her back in the room and she's apologizing all diabetes asylum he doesn't even like respond to her so you could tell he's pissed off yes she does she experts with this light of she was alive out there you should've seen her like really washing machine well was but is that we want but that was the part where i thought okay maybe they're trying to show that whatever decision they made about having children would maybe not the best decision like maybe she could have been less severe or less crazy mishap sham if you're not sure yet explained the sheva shrimp for those who don't have a have a shelter after 'em so in great expectations there's this old rich benefactor woman who 'em jilted on her wedding day and she goes crazy as a result and she's super odd but she is it's a mysterious benefactor and i the way she's just known for being the super crazy lady often this huge house kind of swallowing up 'em in a weird way that uncapped houses are especially the ultimate eccentric yes yes and so you'd be indication by that statement that maybe mrs lawrence or at least according did you maybe mrs lawrence wouldn't have gotten as severe as she was if you hadn't if they had decided have children so she maybe she wouldn't go on for ever show that she is a huge opinion right right and then in who she is regard right who knows june has been at the plant yeah they're not all great a so the next scene is by far the one i think we could have done without in the general consensus on this whole episode by most the large population of people i've seen online posting about it has been at this is kind of a boring up so and that it did not move the ball far enough down the field to a really make it worth the things that happened in a suit happening 'em so fred and serena are meeting they're having dinner 'em serena talks about how she was an art gallery which we know is kinda frowned upon and go yet but i guess special park it is yet 'cause member they take all the art art in their homes yeah but i didn't think like they were technically supposed had a like the wife's at least the commanders gonna have it might make him think too much but i know the book like they're that's supposed to have like certain artifacts and things that's what it could spread and trump i i really thought it was just the thing where it's like artifacts of lake hedonism but this is what was this is real art they took from art gallery when they purchased though when they took all the stuff so it's it's some secret collier says they were trying to purge yes not a day that without paying kelly at rap had no they a at least the way sheila's dude is it they kept some of it so they could look at it because in the rules don't apply 'em so so fred says he's trying to get nickel back as soon as possible he also makes this line where she asked how he did something he's like i'm good at my job that's how i did it and you're like oh my god no way you seriously fred getting off cocky and even rena serena makes us line about how she knew she thought that it would be better for she knows that people think that it's better for nicole to be in canada because of the political leverage but fred is already said i'm trying to get her back as soon as possible believe in this arena knows but that's probably not the best for overall outcome would try to do but i think serena's still thinking and serena terms and so she's happy that fred is at least saying on paper but in you know face to face that he's trying get her back since bus or actually is not who knows i think you just said that and she's leaving whatever she wants to believe yeah what did you think of the fred i'm good at my job coffee hey look at me lon i think he's in full full on get serena back mode so he is just talking right out of that like he's just like i love you baby i'm great at my back you know i got this like he is just so hard this seems sickening followed than where it gets even weirder between friends arena and you're like yeah if any will get their second we gotta go back to canada just a brief yeah totally so and also in the dinner seeing there like a regular restaurant and they have like regular food which i know like doesn't sound like a weird thing but like and finally a tiny ensued yeah what you say he says speaking of a something all of this looks delicious so it's like this full menu of i think it's apparently in dc everybody's still living high on the hog getting pat right right so next week go to emily in more in jail in canada and so they're kind of discussing things and they talk about what lucan silvio both think when they have to come bailed him out of jail and a neither one of them really think the other one will care 'em they both talk about how they kill people and gilly at an emily kind of worries she makes this line of look what they've made us become a and kind of alluding to the fact that she still feels like she's this different person than what does that mean that she's out of it and how she really become that person that is capable of killing multiple people in real world and mortar kind of puts a positive spin on it like more written do and it's like killed anybody since you've been out and she's like no grow real valid point right but it should be said that right before that more emily goes i kill the why when i was in the fields and i didn't have to you could see how at one point you know like i get you're doing you're a like aunt lydia or the guard or whatever but like i think the reason that emily grapples with the more the maury right is because emily like yeah i feel that lady 'cause i did a terrible yeah yeah she was totally terrible and then thursday and we thought she was gonna die there so yeah she doesn't have anything to lose and all this anger so not that it you know morally justifies killing anybody but you know you can get in that mindset a lot better if you think like the biggest but yeah you see you could see why emily's struggling with a little bit more boy around but i think just started out is really different people i think emily is the kind of person who was much more like living in her morals where has more like i don't get that much acceptances it is like fuck that more does talk about i talked about this more talks about how she killed by commander and she didn't have to go yeah he's making kelly kill that guy like i totally get it after but it it is great yeah so now comes to the scene that sarah was talking about it is a completely random weirdo bizarre scene a so friends screener walking into like a guest an after party essentially it's cocktails and dancing and the whole nine yards with a large group of maitland at a party after what after dinner so they were they just eating dinner and it looked like it was in the same building so they were walking out and there's like this dance hall centrally ballroom only important galea people go and they were all drinking dancing and whatnot end so fred dark bander winslow comes in grabs fred 'cause they have important commander things go talk about in serena's left to go hang out lots so serena who is clearly impressed and being seduced by be a the the dc lifestyle she's really really enjoying it is said mrs winslow finds her of course because she's there and they had this conversation about the men in that the one why they're together this party says that she did a great job in that her husband of course the credit and they just wouldn't go civil every man needs a safe space destructively other peacocks and then that same wife says that i believe this is what she says that's why we have other peacocks district for us and there's some like a dude walking by that is i don't know if you work there if it was i don't know but they all kind of looked at each other and laugh like the wives have their own little side thing going on with the dc is a different planet oh yeah totally and so then comes the bizarreness right arenas sarah just dropped off the call okay a serena is in the ballroom right and she looks over and the way they shoot this fred is i'm sorry i'm just getting ready to tell her about the super bizarre part now did you have any comments on the p the peacock lawn germany's all right that was in my notes the dc wise get down i have any 'em but yeah that was my only commentary i thought okay real housewives juliet a so i'm gonna let you sarah described this whole dancing thing and how it occurs okay it's so strange good so a three that my friend across the room as though this is the first time they've seen each other in years and he's coming back from a long war certain say it's coming back for i don't know like a soft focused around the address that oh my god but we get weird at first you're thinking okay maybe were seeing this through serena's eyes like she's infrared for the first time meaning like every coming closer she's finally fully accepting him back into her life after that's been going on but it's just between the two of them and nobody else's noticing this but it's not like they fight each other across the room they come together in the middle of the dance floor like a teen movie you know what i mean they start doing this dance with a tango although the tango yeah it tangle ask i don't hang up it was somewhat sensual considering who they are and the contacts now that they were every buddy having this dance experience no no the people were still there so like if you could imagine a very much like a teen movie like sarah say everyone is around the washing the dance circle them are watching them they have this like freebie we're dancing but they do they assume they're done the circle of people that have now encircled them they start to apply enter even my husband has like they're like is this and were like we were just both so the final by this entire seat i fear even said at one point what is this supposed to simulate i'm like i don't know well i feel like this sounds like what i would imagine their wedding reception it'd be like right in like a highly orchestrated we have a special dance for her first dance you know everybody's gonna watch and clapping were done well my nose over like this this can't be real for two reasons of like this this looks like a dream just the way they shot it yeah because the way they shoot it when she first looks over fred is across the room yeah legit across the room he was not before no he was with that story really was a but then just the way they edited it is but she looks over earn his way across the room and then they do like this close up of her face and then all of a sudden they're together in the middle of the dance floor we're like okay maybe this is the dream fantasy kind of where she's looking over thinking about doing this like it has to be because fred is not that smooth he's totally is right he's dancing whether he's got this whole thing going and he's mood like butter and it gets done no it's real of really happen and i'm sure i swear they did not any indication that it is not an actual thing no in the group i mean maybe this is like there like different people in dc like they like there are real couple well the weird thing is everything nbc is very slick and fast and housewives and you know shrimp in prawns on and on and then all of a sudden they all care about fred's arena dancing like one of the i dunno i get the free friends arena have a bit of a spotlight on him at this moment because of their child and be seeing how getting them leverage for juliet gain more power or something but in no circumstance only been a wedding you mentioned do a group of adults watch another pair of adults dance at well there's a couple other ways and reasons but that is also not what is happening there fifty eight wedding anniversary party there is no giant pile singles anywhere so that you'll have the region people adult magic 'em so yes totally weird like i totally thought it was a dream totally convinced i like those just the way they were shooting it it was it's it's not like any other seen that they've done in this show how director a i don't i've had a bunch of different directions there's something i didn't know who did it but yeah it was completely bizarre and we were sure it was a dream or a flashback or something yeah nothing includes a nation but they just ended it where they were clapping and they were like is it earlier and looked all happy maxine yeah weird man's neck scenes in there we go let's bring it right back up to the happy times okay so repackage wrote her back at the ropes back at the gallows furlough more handmade tug of war a so the mckinsey's you're gone which we find out from nina furious character who i can never remember them alma is a real name thank you as a janitor remember the tiana's said it to me sucking remember the name of my brain works where a lady said today were cleansing the most sacred of sins endangerment of a secret child and you're like oh shit 'em and so i was thinking like the whole mckinsey family right 'cause they're not above that here at but no it's just a random group of people aunt martha for hanna hanna marking the one seattle signaling prison look into the one of the half half a soda martha is up there a yeah agra life yes like completely terrified but just weeping and yeah the worst kind of person that's about it just it's all it's the right is june finds out that the mckenzie's have been moved in his like having that shattering realization then she looks up sees the marginal that she had coordinated went to see hannah wow sobbing yeah in the gallon and so yeah terrified at that moment she is just standing there and the red unless you tell them to take the ropes and you just stands there and doesn't take the ropes and it's just like in the days and somebody says something else to her she finally picks it up and she starts pulling in this park got a little funky for me because i couldn't really tell what the emotion was here so she starts doing the ropes you know to raise the thing up and then they tell her to do one more time to pull it to let it go an right before she does she get this look on her face looking at the martha like she was gonna enjoy what she was about to do and she says by his hand and then she pulls up and then she gets home at least that's how i interpreted it gives her whole demeanor change like that she felt maybe inside that she should have been angry at this woman because she was part of these people that were not letting her have her child but i don't know why that would occur it seems totally off base strumming but tell me what you do you feel like it was directed at the mars or that that's just like she was is feeling her anger right then it could have what i thought you thought okay just anger with being oddly channel in that okay she couldn't do anything with it right then you had to do whatever a lady of asking asking and so i think she felt surge of energy through that anger but i don't get the by his anthony i think why is she said but under feeling angry and strong strongly angry in that moment because she couldn't quite directed towards of matthew yet right she doesn't know yet so i think she was yeah i i don't know but then right after that on him either walking together yeah so then what what he says the first somebody a certificate firmly no not at all the part where she says where she she's like walking with the handmaid's and she's kind of pushing ahead and you're like oh and then she takes her off we'll see audience see of matthew and i think she says something at that moment on on cayenne s s she says something there's just this look you you keep saying that that yeah i think that's true remember 'cause there's an initial shot her as they're all walking away where she has this look on her face like kind of i got you but not did you because she's not really looking at you and she just has this look on her face like most mostly to let the audience know this is whose fault is 'cause she has that look like this and so they all go walking up and suggestions behind since june is going to like she's basically i'm getting hell out of here pushing through everybody just to get done as she's passing her of matthew says what's there is a which is what did she say you should be thankful you should be thanking me i remove this temptation yes and so june stops and turns around the locker but not all night i thought that she was going to be great 'em but she turns around and i think she after she says what did you do or what did you say something like that and she's again says the she took the temptation way above up until june legit takes the takes off you would like sarah saying like you're gonna take earrings off to go airings out because somebody will grab women yang come out and then you can't fight right so nazi she takes her she does not puncher which i think would have gotten more trouble than if she would she did which is essentially grabber in thrower against this they're walking kind of down a ramp although pregnant that's true right i didn't think about that part she should have punched her and said everyone will soon the face is at that point man i interface he forgot about a so she's got her cut over the ledge of the wall against they're walking down and she's the centrally choking her or keep screaming what did you do what did you do what you do do you know what you've done that sort of thing as she was gonna i thought had she not been pregnant i bet you jim would have pushed her off the the ramp like pusher over and just been worth it because she's pregnant you knew i guess enough not to do that well and also if she does that i think she knows that she would probably be had wilford killing somebody so but it was i thought it was kind of interesting that the handmaid's instead of breaking it up at first for like a wall around it has been my no bail for like this little semi circle around her and matthew as she's like choking her out and then finally they go home and do offer yeah any guardians or an answer anybody seems to know that none of us are they gonna lend the money i don't know the joker hard enough for the show or i mean she was going out maybe they so right when we find out earlier in the scene of a backpack disrespected right and we now through the end he's been moved in the markets being hank that second me my husband immediately knew that of matthew next door and we didn't understand how june in no way yeah how how else i would think as soon as she saw the worst up there she would immediately assume that must be up to you right yeah and i believe on the ramp on the ramp is where she says after she said i remove the sensation that she tells her that lydia told me they keep an eye on you look out for anything strange strange going on in so that's really knows but you know it's hard because you know we only know our vantage point when they're in loaves and fishes she doesn't see of matthew like hanging in the background seeing right yeah you know she doesn't have that knowledge and she's already had like three other things happened to her that are completely bizarre incident and she probably wasn't really paying attention to that true i mean i guess she could have thought it was or something like right right and so ends with the news this week we did not last week from the terribleness when you say it like that it sounds like a musical episode of like high make her mother where they helped spur no such luck that would have been no but it is a great song it is fiona apple every night from a extrordinary machine which they trace a great great britain and the lyrics once again completely with the situation in the overarching themes that so my last note was june gonna cut mother fucker because she's not thrilled i think at this point what the all so this whole episode basically boils down to the fact that june is losing allies in the plans that she keeps coming up with are falling apart with the quickness like not it's not it's not even like time there's just like she does it sales the sales and so she's kind of at the end of a rope but she's quickly learning the she's the only one the chicken trust anyone the chicken probably lean on unless i feel the opposite i feel like she like reliever needs help well now is my thing like unless they're gonna go back to where committed joey major pick these five people that got to survive yeah it didn't go tony's where she said you know we gotta see scientists user whatever they were yeah i think she needs a team so i don't think it's a chicken only trust herself i think this is evidence that she cannot only trust yourself because she's going with their gut and it's not going while the us we think it's under the ocean of orange something absolutely could be done well he's got not not only that but like lock in on more on the people that she's super can trust and then super lockout everybody i think she was being a little kind matthew matthew it thinking like she didn't trust of matthew obviously but she may have been just a just a shred it too nice to her at certain moments like thinking that that person's gonna be another human being you were now needs to lock in on i could trust these people and i cannot trust literally any other human ever don't look at me don't talk to me like really shut everybody else out because even giving of matthew in inch was a mild air so that's where we end yeah an audible episode fired you guys described so much it's hard to imagine that this is a boring up said maybe the dancing thing everybody i talked to said that it was like the least interesting episode of the season and there is a lot of like what we describe all the things that happen a cool just again could have happened in much more entertaining way no it was all entertaining it was just a you know it was forty five minutes long so it wasn't even on our long it was first year the shortest episode at least in recent memory that i know of and it just it kind of feel like it had a little bit of filler like the saran fred dancing thing like yeah we get it they're trying to fall back in love they're trying to do a but again it just it seemed to kind of spinning wheels on the same kind of plot points that we've gotten the last couple of episodes which is june can't trust these people these people i mean renamed getting closer right the nicole's still in canada and the trend leverage that i you know it all seems like it could have been done in like tony tony tony the thirty minutes took it out fifteen in minutes of the show again it's all well down it looks fine it's entertaining but you're just like wild things did happen it just doesn't feel like you're getting new things happening gotcha like were still treading water on the same points as as opposed to like learning more about the resistance of an underground or you know even more things are happening in the inner workings of canada in the swiss and all that i just feel like you know i think people feel like other than what's their names that have hannah move inside right away like nothing happened in that but yeah she's no closer she's farther away right yeah the the things that we did learn that happened or so miniscule but they just having a conversation passing right so like we know they're working on extradition treaty great that's like one since you know and we know that while you're in emily bond over killing people right and that mrs winslow really is a little off for whatever reason you know that scene in that part with great in that you know but again this is all a little strange yeah i feel like normally say jammed pack a lot of information into most episodes not every episode they're definitely some that are available like recovery mode 'em but yeah that's that's very true i feel like they normally pack a lot in there and i just i think people feel like again that were trend treading on the same territory again and not really moving to learn more about something different because there's still so much but we don't know that feels like continually be on these people in these moments in this story part of the story line is just like okay we've been here we've done that we know this right like they could have short and that part of it in the added something you know a new spicer there's something which is a living at backstory or nick backstory more you know yeah so well not a terrible episode because even the show and its worst days still done very well but it was really well done yeah yeah still little little dry who's a little you know okay we learned some things but it wasn't it wasn't satisfying like the vast majority of they're the ones that i'd have to agree so but it's there were gonna let you go yeah i'm out things for including me despite my circumstances soldier that's the name of the game with the show all right well hopefully next wednesday it'll all rescheduling will be normal and things will go off without a hitch that's creating all right i'm gonna accept guys taking home for me bye bye bye bye so yes go right geologist hung up on the cool you could still talk talk you're so yeah kufo sorry were doing two things at once this time i don't wanna hear myself anymore we're already hearing me say that is where we look this up so so you go back to the beginning so you don't get to watch you do feel like you were informed and yeah i mean i i felt like that was a lot of information 'em i feel like i basically know what happened in like where character's there at and where their heads basis at 'em and i still wanna watch the show obviously it's still again one of those episodes where i had his ear idea what's coming next which they do pretty well like i just don't know i hope next week is so i know i keep hearing that were getting a video backstory ohio i would imagine were giving some if not a nick backstrom episode nick what's going on with nick now yeah so they got we've got a better idea of who the hell nick is is i think they're kind of dangling they've been bagley longtime coming back for just long enough to keep people who are interested in nick still so interesting and i know another thing it's frustrating people is just the they find out why he thinks it's appropriate to make out in public maybe i i would be great to know because then he got be okay like for gonna work in ignore it for you we one of the other thing is like the you know you people are don't feel like they're getting enough the character's if they love like which is typical but you know we've got janine show now it's a really big cast now so it's hard yup mentioning it showing random times just say hey janine janine us kind of same with rita is using their she's in the stuff she's in great and it's just got one of those things where i think they have so many yeah reappear auditors but it's a lot of story yeah and so we'll see oh they're gonna do yeah i mean in some other shows that have had that problem where the casket so large that you can't keep up with everybody all the time that's just a constant issue is just you know unless the person you love is be main focus of the show you're gotcha these periods where you're getting like no information on your favorite character in it kind of sucks so we'll see i don't know where it's gonna go zero clue but we got six more episodes i think is within that will still thirteen so i wanna go back 'cause normally at the beginning show we do a little social media update in updates on some things so i want to congratulate one of our competition molly sanchez who on top of being a part of the podcast read all over which is another handmaid's tale podcast a she is also part of a comedy team oh nice pain is what they're calling people of color nine so let us get this last couple of weeks they had been trying to raise money to shoot a pilot for a show and so they were raising money printing fan hey they met their goals and so i posted it on our facebook page just say hey this is somebody we know does this in school think she's doing so the one thing she was doing a shoe is live on facebook streaming 'em and she said she would eat twelve like i forget what hot wings they were but like ghost pepper oh gee wings so the people all donate money and so i went out there and we're as i donated some money as she did it all my guy but that sounds painful and then she's gonna do more on instagram and she was like i don't think i've learned my lesson congratulations to them because they met there go out there and i'm definitely gonna check out the show notes suppose we also the way described it sounds really cool so a give a special shout out to face the current janet anderson rubio she sent us a picture of her and her husband who had a little meet and greet at a show with mr justice lawrence oh in california yes i guess there were some celebrities signing event and he was there nato she sent me a picture of him yeah so i told her gibberish shut up that so we appreciate you other things that are spot if i mix is live i put it out and people were very receptive than seem to enjoy all hundred and twenty something songs which by the way if you're gonna do that there are several 'em apps and programs that will let you take a spreadsheet and important oh nice beautiful that's good i'm glad phrases that is the thing glass reto so that is out there so if you haven't seen that go to our facebook page oregon spotify look for handmade maybe the handmaid's tale podcast and we have a shared a playlist called kiss resist and it's it's pretty awesome it's a hunter and songs at alternated between your favorite love song for mix tape in your favorite resistance swatch angry so so it's going pretty well now the other thing that is occurring headache insane clip all of a sudden after last week is and i think it's because as we said they're kind of treading on the bottom line here is that the fans serious are getting out oh yeah control rural i've not seen so many in a long i normally try to stay away from that but i might check in this town i kinda like it when they get a little nuts it's crazy i think a little bit of what's going i'm getting the vibe more often now that was before is that there's some people that have come into the show in season three that didn't get didn't watch the rest of it oh don't have the backs on taxi and so they're suggesting things the people who have seen the first two seasons of the show are like that's just not going down like that serena right in knicker somehow care how they're not at right now or they know it's okay this one is the best one so there were several people this is not just one person that think that fred calling nick son when he's referring to him in like hey wait older guy dosier younger guy hitting is more powerful than the jets in the nick is this oh no i don't think that's now or the one poll now i saw people really think that like they were like series no yeah fred would have been a teenager for one we know that didn't have an fred was not that good with ladies for another correct 'em yeah no that radically and a what we'd be kind of cool but if i made a quick list that could take about something that so fred fred going nixon britain serena being mixed parents with another one i ordered oh that would be so weird a baby oh you you'll love these us arena nick been you really should together major lawrence being june's father was another one that i saw because we don't know who her father is 'cause only mentioned we ever here's like that that's i feel that's parties soap opera if that's what happens hey i will be really disappointed there's gonna be two sides adjusting one will be that's magnificently ridiculous i'm so happy you did that that makes it just absurd and ridiculous and that part of me will love it the other part that knows you're trying to make a good show is gonna be like seriously yeah but i would just be that part i would just be like for real this is the thing you're trying to get us by the only other thing i've seen is like aunt lydia being part of the resistance which that one is like the most formidable of all the one seat is it is the most plausible but i still feel like like that got feels wrong yeah i'm i'm a great i couldn't she i think there's probably a part of her that wishes she could be well i think a lot of people it's not the spacing that on her reaction to the way things went down in dc with unveils marine moon and all that stuff and so she was yeah i mean she wasn't completely disgusted by the reins to she's she's just like a subtle but little correct so couple of more things they want us to talk about last week i suggested the people watch snow piercer i don't know how we got talking about it but we did on nick on the train that yeah and also a quiet place at a couple of different people said they watched quote the train movie be as they were a man and were like there's several things in that movie that if you don't you're not prepared for that regardless of what could have been so at the end of their is kind of a confessional thing chris evans captain america talks about okay edits like out of the blue it's awful as you don't see a comment and you're like oh you know you're you're mind doesn't on process but several people watched enjoyed it which is great because i'm he turned out to be a terrible there's no no no he's saying okay no problem with it and then a couple of people watch a quiet place some lady got like jokingly she's like i could've killed you because it the movie is again it's like dead silent for long stretches of the movie because they have to be she said she was watching it and it was quiet in her her ice maker went off jumped off the couch so she's like justin serious let's create a little heads up and then the last thing just free people out there who have seen the trailer for the movie midsummer the new movie by i have not seen the trailer for this movie animal my so it's directed by the gotta do this hereditary okay which ended up losing 'em which is a horror movie as this may some right here it's great having cnn predator yeah fantastic that i loved it i know some people do like that divinely worthy of everyone i talked to the student really enjoyed it just hurts have to watch for me alone i'm like well we need the washington together again now i need to watch the quiet place i'm hoping it's good but he's got a new movie called midsummer which is very much in the bane opposite of hereditary which is like dark and terrible this is still terrible but dna a kind of wicker man set in eight swedish or swiss a commune slash cult kind of deal so adult bright and sunny otherwise you're not you know it's not scary dark grimy her it's out in the sunshine scary swedish people post it if i saw that had become super excited right now it's it's it's great because the director is fantastic even though it's only like the second feature film 'em ready terry great he has this ability to write amazing screenplays these women actors to just do these parts of the great 'em they make sure if you have any kind of trigger anything that you reid on i am db and go to the parental a i should ask before you go see this okay because he other thing that this person does with their trailers which is great if you're a normal person a who watch his movies they do not revealed the entirety of what's going on in this movie that's great but i hate when that happens yes that drives me crazy i wanna see all the things in the trailer yes but there are several things in this movie that are super portray agree if you have had them occurred or people that you know so make sure that you do a little research before you go blindly into this movie because they these things there have been three trailers this movie and these things are not mentioned in this that'll have been a so do a little redone do a little digging but it's it's really well done it is totally but it is fantastic if you're so i highly recommend so that's all i got you watch anything renew thing do anything 'em no not really i've been doing stuff that is you know not at all related watching a rating or anything like that i did finally see ventures endgame finally georgia a for the most part yeah yeah it was like eighty five percent satisfying for me so that's pretty good bernie movie that's pretty good yeah i mean that's essentially get first superhero movie richer and richer so yeah all right well we'll see you next time furrow whatever the hell is gonna happen next on the show zero idea where we're going react generally june's gotta get a plan that works for

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Red flags in a relationship

Before Anyone Else

49:19 min | 2 years ago

Red flags in a relationship

"On today's episode before anyone else we're taking a look at the red flags in a relationship keeping infant ideas about some of the red flags yeah i think so watch out fair when you're in a relationship you know when you like even even when you're dating ray before the relationship part the whole thing you should probably watch out for these red lights right so i think what we can do is maybe just i'll just list out some of them and we gotta talk about how kind of affects the relationship and why would be an issue right i think the biggest and we always kind of talked about this is the lack of communication right end for me or i think it should be for everyone even whether it's like any type of relationship with their friends with their business partners whatever communication is huge ray if you don't communicate what what you're feeling or you don't like not really don't like but 'em if you see something happening they don't really like that you're partners doing you should be speak up about it not be afraid to speak above it rains 'em yeah like i feel like if you can't if you're afraid to speak their mind because you think you're partners not gonna except you're perspective her point of view then obviously that's not healthy but like if you feel like you're mind it's like an uphill battle to have a conversation like it's always gonna be like 'em lee tuna argument or like yeah not not like i think it's it's it comes down to like understanding yeah right 'cause like another day were also different but you're you're not gonna agree agree on everything and it's like that person you have to think about it to like you have to hear them out to it goes yeah i'd like to try to understand them and where they're coming from and i think it's always hard 'cause like everybody everybody's had different upbringings experiences like your mutilated why we think in a certain way mhm on but you have to take a step back and be like i'm going to try to understand you because one i care enough about you that you wanna make the effort to understand where it's like some people you're like honestly i could care less like yeah whatever it's not really worth it 'em it says a lot about maturity to that that's another thing we all civil about how you feel about them yet like if you like them enough to understand them right so it's like a especially like even before you're in a relationship like if you don't it's like something turns you off right away about something they've said yeah and you're like i but i don't like that's a deal breaker for me like i don't really wanna hear anything more than like maybe you didn't you weren't as like keen on them as you you wouldn't be somebody else you know what i mean like i feel like people make like a lot of concessions when they actually like somebody mhm or like like strongly interstellar maybe concessions is the wrong word but a lot of excuses a lot of excuses or like you know they're all from you like trying to rock the boat at all because yeah if you like don't care so much but that's oxy doing the opposite because you're just going to end up presenting them all here like no there's no point in having a real like a relationship is like communication hot act on everyone's once they literally if you're a mind boggling when like people don't necessarily understand that yeah yeah yeah you're dating you're like how did not know that that's like a fundamental thing you could see in the rest of their life that they're not communicating properly as well and people are refusing to change like they'll be like oh this is just the way i am i used to be that way where i'm like oh it's my way or the highway but then i thought so okay this is not working in this relationship any kind of helped me in other ways like in business and in life in with other people and i communicate a lot better and listen to people right so i think that shows where a lot of maturity come out to play if you see someone that's like oh it's my way or the highway this is very immature of the that's like the number one roughly translates other parts of life radio very stubborn like mentality nine again that's one of the big things for me it's like open mindedness yet like being open minded tune extent and then we can at least have a conversation like a dialogue over certain things you 'cause like there's so many things that come up in your life like later on that like from like you're kids schooling till like how you're having a new be nervous to bring bring certain things yeah you know what i mean if you aren't comfortable enough with another person yeah and you shouldn't be in a relationship yeah any kind of goes back to like if you're talking to someone like outside of a relationship you always gonna like some people are afraid a certain questions but it's like the way that i would convince myself to like if i wanna ask my boss for race it's like oh what's the worst that can happen yeah right yeah exactly but if you're in a relationship where you're like oh what's the worst that can happen and it's like something off that's a red flag yeah right give you also give you a partner bit of credit like i've had guys told me like you know i like i was scared to tell you this 'cause i thought you would like leave leave me yeah and yeah i like i like but mature person in a mature relationship you wouldn't have it like it's like my auntie early at that point was like whether it's true now are true later like i'm gonna hear it you know what i mean by a different answer later it's just like like why like like i know that that would say what the delay yeah like i say what it out yeah like whatever the outcome is it's gonna be the same deal like just say like give you i think give somebody a little bit of credit to that like if you're dating them and they've david you up until a certain point it means like they're like they're not gonna like i love island like magee magee you are yeah i would have just because you may say something like necessarily want lighter and be done with you yeah yeah yeah so we could even deeper dive into you know lack of communication because there's a lot of many topics we could talk about yeah so like i i'm not even specifically many many so these these a be some topics that somebody has grown more mature it's more of a church so lack of communication not really more about like actually communicating back and forth but i think it's also the tone of the communication or you know the lack there of certain things happening or like how you you might like shout at the person what you're talking about so first of all you can be condescending don't make your dream of this conversation a new donis overtaxed guys i feel like that's one of my biggest learning yeah eating but aromatics from the purpose of a red flag prospective speculative being condescending all the time when you talk about something is not a good look right yeah i think again this example for maybe i just like to that's about it but like how like my like my partner and i have an age got an there you there were times early on american in other yeah yeah they're ajoy yeah okay yeah those times where the one we're seeks in silvery logger i m end i humans were like age my face like oh yeah you know i've been there done that i got an it that is like a a type of like condescending attitude to two or a condescending approach she like all arguments like if there's if you have a partner who has this one thing that always like put on you and like you know went up you yeah and it's like okay whatever were arguing about i will always win because of this and you don't know this like that's an issue so like with me i just had to communicate that like early early early on like if this is how it's going to be it's not allowed in we dealt with that early on so i i feel like if if that does happen in a relationship make sure you will will what would any of these yes he knows they pop up deal with them he stopped at yacht communicate that baby is she right human communication you're gonna have a problem with all the other yeah yeah so basically all these topics yeah so we still take deep into them yeah so that's it it's could be the gauging that's it i don't even need this is even into podcasts we could just get this out of the gate so there's that wayne wait sorry there's one that way where okay condescending into like not really too much communication but over communicating but someone who is just like okay fine i'll do that but they don't actually do it and they sort of caving or they're like it's like a they're very agreeable wasn't a conversation yeah it was just like oh you know what i might like you but the thing is like that's what i found out like when people are very agreeable i'm like oh yeah he's a cool dude or she will do but she's like ability factor nationally but by then you start area out in that that's why like it's like a i don't know why it happens i guess it's the fear of not being late but you find out it's like oh wait a minute this guy or girl cannot like everything that they do right like what's up with that yeah what's there if i'm saying yeah i am i am always try to improve myself so i'm always asking okay what's wrong like something has to be wrong yeah you know that doesn't mean we can't agree on everything yeah like gave me a little something yeah i feel like there is value in like discussions or like open boertien yeah or like communicate well structured argument yeah i feel like there's there's a lot to be gained from that so don't be afraid of it yet but as someone who's just like a yes man i don't eat learn i think i think that stems from a couple of things you want it like insecure insecurity that again goes back to like the and they're gonna this congress this argument condemned by the end of things yeah i think that's like a huge thing where people so they'd rather just say i sound like go along with it and not rock the boat and yelling cause issues choose a lack of identity a lot of identity just going along with that for the sake of playing along with the third ruble in this context there probably agreeable outside to is why not find themselves like agreeable and then there's like being a little bit open minded to like you're partner maybe find somebody earlier partner like that's i think different but if it's like every single time you're just like yeah sure like i dunno it's like fucking boring to congress ational perspective you wouldn't want to at all like a little bit like some friendly like it depends on entrusted one is the vendor right depends on what you need is bob like if like if you want someone who's a bit more assertive like like in assertive man yeah and then someone who's like well but i hate i so yeah even even from a woman like i don't want like yes mill valley ross but there's no what i want to eat period i think i think that's a regular question even guys like i dunno guys get pissed about this i get pissed about do but i don't know what i wanna eat the arc in but i think we may happy rates as we know like for me if i eat something that i won't be pissed the rest of the day but if you do eat something bad your complain about the other thing too is like i dunno whatever you want whatever you are and then you decide something and then you're like okay we're gonna go here and and the girl be like no yeah and if you know what you don't want you should know why but you know and it's funny because in a relationship i'm like the the stereotypical a woman where i'll be like you know like if if she's like oh let's go eat sandwiches and it'll be like no point where where she's just like well shit like nothing right but that's why we have communication okay all that stuff so okay let's let's the communication for big 'cause there's other type of relationships within the relationship and this is where other type of relationship there yeah pretty rennes an fouling either other types of relationships that you could have yeah we're three larry oh okay all right i dunno actually for what i mean is this worthy inserted wherever i am so when you say is there's other parts of the i dunno if you don't have the relationship that you could have in your life including friends family co areas but what i'm tendencies within this relationship other relationships are important to chip in and friends how they are a us so that means so how you kind of deal where you're significant others or sorry how they how their friends or family kind of deal with you or even vice versa kinda give you a could be a red flag right so for example 'em if they are not willing to meet your friends or family and they're like weird about it or they're worried about that should be a huge red flag underwear what kind of status thee relationship yeah yeah yeah i agree like are you sure yeah it's more like now they're becoming dislike permanent fixture maybe her life and if they're like hesitant to like take that step yet on yeah but have a conversation right are we what are we yeah and that's like a big acquaintances she isn't it yeah hey in the beginning of yeah yeah so it any other way is probably not getting along with a lot of them right so if i yeah like another yeah that's alright aladdin okay maybe you have one friend who just like nah not really into you know yeah everyone's like nah you do better but even vice like okay so i see that end of it yeah but like what if their friends don't like you how would that happen or like a their friends or family don't like you as a person then what did you do that is what i'm trying to figure out leadership person in my life i should say or maybe their family really sucks because there there is family sometimes i stick together the same mentality and they're just like caters in january that out right are like though in that won't be about five because that person like okay now would be that that wouldn't because let's say you're interracial relationship k m you're you're black a family is why you go meet the family all hit you yeah they're lamb lee yeah yeah i guess i guess you know what to expect yeah hopefully but you should probably stay away from that families but ended up no but it's not it's not around the track for europe relation yeah because of that those people like in the long run probably like aren't going to be in your life and you just made you're gonna have to make that decision between the both of you but it's it shouldn't really affect you guys because it's not on your character and who you are on something somebody else you can't control exactly here and families like some people value families more than the actual relationship which i really don't like 'em when they put these ultimatums it's like you're choosing them over you kind of situation insider them or it's yet but i i i would disagree with that because i do hold stab me like really near and dear to my heart so like with me like he knows like on the on every every couple of weekends like i'll be at home yeah and you have if i don't know there's no there's no need for it i want to and i'm like sometimes i'll invite him you know we had a tendency is they barbecue and he came by and like he knows that that's important to me yeah asher and so he needs to do that and like i talked about my family all the time so there there near and dear to me and i would never ever but it's it's my significant other ever put me in an ultimatum made up you need to do this this this reggie's my sammy same time i i can't even put you in the ultimatum i'd be like i don't you know you're you're you're just got here they hear me no actually though so that that is the reds like those talking about they create that automate first of all ultimatums in general they are not anyone one right they shouldn't be brought up and that's a red flag on its own but having to bring family and friends into it is a red like right yeah yeah so 'em or even just saying like it either yeah it's either you're from their friends or it's me obviously you're not gonna yeah taking them if they're first of all like even if you do enjoy spending time with them or they need to understand that side of you to is well right yeah it goes both ways that needs to be ballers 'cause you don't want you're entire world to be near partner but at the same time you see someone who is very very important in your life you're going to put in that time and effort exactly right about that and not just a part of adulting so going back to the balance thing 'em there might be certain situations where chill way too often with their friends early chill way too often with their family and don't give you that time of the day and then make certain decisions that you know should be hurt you know you're partner instead of putting that party over here families so that voting yeah like you're saying if the the balance right now yeah 'em so a speaking of deliberation balance 'em kind of like i guess it's not really balanced but it's sort of like knowing how fast the take a relationship and not really brushing that relationship and it sort of understanding why they're rushing that relationship right you could day for like two weeks and then they're obviously wanna get married right away is like a red flag why someone who's trying to like why few before he knows her last name yeah i think that that's just a a bright side and then it's not like a horrible thing about it is that back in like think about what you want and what you ready for you and don't 'cause i have friends who do this all the time it's like oh i'm i've got a new boyfriend nothing oh oh i didn't even know you were dating like i met him like a week ago two weeks ago and it's like so you're dating had my heart because as soon as you like throw yourself into something way too soon when you are ready for it i think it's an added pressure an it just like speeds up you never 'table adding but i think the reason why i say balances you have to check out the context of it because sometimes it might be like yeah i dunno everyone's different yeah and so you're both on the same page automatically and yeah he that right yeah originally like did you them before that yes on like in a different context co worker where they like just a friend like if you play the new but when you like just met them yeah two weeks ago and now you're i'm always like super skeptical and i hear the our friend exact same thing and i'm like i you know that our daytime exclusive yeah but like just to just be careful before but but like you said like it's up to you the context right yeah it's up to like the both of you about how you're feeling about things but if you find that your not exactly whether you didn't think you were you were trying to get into a relationship like right then in there then maybe you like it's a red flag taking a step back and think about exactly what you want to communicate that to that person so yeah that red flag is when you're not on the same page like way wait a minute why is he or she rushing so quickly that like they're right if you're both on the same page then it's like okay that's what's tricky about like the whole page thing i think it is important be on the same page because a lot of people like will do certain things that some people would be like oh that seem serious ashley sit down and have the conversation with somebody like know were were not like we're just seeing each other yeah and i find that like our friends were like guys do that all the time there'll be the reader into and they'll be like oh they did this data that like i ever getting serious like really yes when they actually asked the question going on like it's like no like 'cause i know you guys don't put much thought into no they don't i just kind of like go at the end like that's what they needed but all of it like a shit ton of into things they don't like what they see a lot of relationships it's just the guy being extraordinarily strung along is it's just kind of like oh the girl has cooked it in like just pulling it in and the guys like okay whatever i'm gonna go early if it's like it looked like they were like yeah i totally they don't understand wherever they should yeah like i guess like figuring out if you're on the same asking the questions that she that kind of goes back to the old agreeable guys are gonna be those type of guys are gonna be agreeable and they're just be like yeah let me just go with the flow and see where it goes my mom wants me to have a girlfriend anyways right it's obviously those guys i i don't think enough about like compatible life in general i am i see a lot of relationships like that and it's it's kind of stupid a very sad yet is you think sample i think i think there are a couple of months out on a date with a guy and he had like he was like so invested me before i even met him and i was like this is her no yeah and like we've talked a bit like like i think me already like i dunno gra i think he's like a guy that's like ready for like any whole nine yards yeah but but it's not like he's forcing himself to to get it do you know what i mean if he'd be the relationship guy for sure looks like he wanted the like you know what i mean like that sounds for you heard me totally i literally like that's not natural will say and then when it yeah i kinda was like a or maybe says he's like i got him to think about things like i don't think you've ever thought about 'cause i know because i'm like i i put thought into these things like i want a certain mike eleven ever written like i think like i think about like values first and like i like just spending time with somebody for the sake of spending time with it i'm like low key deep and he was like a little more relations i was ready to get married but you know what that was really never like china mary me like yeah yeah you know i do like like why are conscious who's i think like a successful relationship longer at i dunno i it's kind of mind blowing but anyway so so let's let's take a look at the opposite side it's someone who is not make a willing to make the relationship of the public or like you know say it's a relationship i don i doubt that really doesn't have to be a title but it's more like remember we had that conversation like just have that in a relationship now like that conversation is not happy they're avoiding it there yeah that's the red huge red flag you guys were definitely not on the same page rolling yeah right in that i just say you need to have the conversation and be like where are we like and what do you have like what do you envision for like a future if there is one because i think a lot of people in those kind of situations where they know that they haven't like there's no title and they are you know getting that kind of like public awareness or like they don't get to me you know the the person's since friends all that kind of stuff you know you're not our ship hardcore they'll have that conversation ended and it's like what you said it's one of those things where whether you have it now if you haven't six months from now you're still gonna have the exact same answer so just get it done i would say you don't wait six months ago where it's like a needle right like you know you have to go yeah oh yeah i just do it after the band aid off yeah but that's the bad i was gonna say that like a lot of like dating advice is to like for girls to play it cool like not ask the question like you know what honestly i thought played a couple of years ago i don't play it that way and i thought you it's not you don't even like why would you want someone who likes this like yeah who'll doesn't give a fuck kind of person when that's not you could look he's gonna be steaming yeah i i really resent you can't handle those conversations is not me as i think if we can like drive home that method that's the biggest point of this podcast yeah that's why i started this podcast i've seen many women like i show you the actual with a lot of women in there just like oh but i don't wanna do this to earlier don't wanna do they wanna win russian wench it and it's just like yo if you feel like seeing something back the communication say that you don't wanna waste time yeah 'cause you have fifty guys lining up for you in fact we might as well go there one that action once they answer these questions in that yeah it'd be happy yeah yeah right exactly so i don't wanna end the podcast season finale i just not gonna answer some questions so he's he's not areas and he's not maturing and i hear you yeah and you're like honestly like women like 'em before when we the reason why it was kind of the way in like women would just kinda gopher whatever is like guys had the job they would be the provider but now women are of like you know they they they they have their own job you have a lot going for you had those choices right so take your time go through you're paik nb on a straight 'em so let's kind of go a different route with this a going back to the type of person he or she may be but when you're arguing or communicating 'em i finally people who don't kind of admit that they're wrong are opening up to their mistakes that is a huge red flag because you're not gonna come up with a compromise you're not gonna have a in agreement in your relationship or it's like uphill battle and i feel like a lot of people going back to the whole darn thing they kind of romanticize oh stubborn it's okay he's a tourist it's oh yeah all right it's not about that as you say you're an awful person right yeah so you know the the reason why i say this is because i used to be that person where i was very aware that you're that landing yeah do you even know that you need a little more gray retro cows landing on the moon in you have no idea but like people like that who cannot change that means you're not you're not going to get your way in the alley ship is like a fifty fifty well not always but it's but if you wanna get that is the rumors sucks to which is like somebody who like you know we talked about the yes people who say sorry and then like don't don't let it like oxley yeah so it's like both sides it's like i think sincerity he's like a huge when it's like don't say sorry unless you mean like i know for me you might not hear sorry all the time but i will say if i made it you honest to god if i obviously like things that like in the wrong i won't say it when when when partner and i are arguing he'll throw that at me like you you know you never apologize you never ever like i'm sorry and i'm like but like it's because i'm right yeah okay so this is dale apologize and i and i have it's rare yeah because i i don't know what that means more yeah i don't approach arguments that i know i'm wrong right or wrong way but there's people out there that just kind of approach every argument just for the fun of it was her arguing honesty the exhaust me yeah that's cool like summer yeah well but like but look at every single yeah hi i cannot like yeah i don't i don't get it twisted just because you guys have an argument doesn't mean you guys are in love like eight that kind of like all the highlander yellow i had i had to get over that i got over that and then it'll tell you it's okay not to argue oh a so wait opposite i'll say like if you if you're not arguing it's bobby's you're not biting your the relationship with a new luxury that's a myth that it's like you know you learn that all i am i think it's a it's there i understand they're trying to say but they're saying it in the wrong way 'cause 'cause we we thought that as well like when we were first together like last year we like never had an argument disagreement out like yeah i think really right yeah i remember like cheese like that's a bit weird yeah and so we thought it was yeah it's like it but i think what people are trying say without is like you kind need to go through some things yeah yeah sure how you find out what i say like in but those people who think like okay we're gonna have five arguments a week that is house that's not healthy right yeah or like you have to be careful for that is like a communication sure you guys are not on the same page about certain things yeah so this could be from a lot of the red flags that were having yeah i think that's a number one reds like i forgot what the ratio was but like for every fight fight you should have five good interactions something good that's what my partner said like okay to your point about not fighting it all in the first year yeah and i also have like had situations where like there wasn't a lot of fighting in the beginning yeah and now i'm a very like i'm a pro like less like a fight early so i how do i like it'll be displayed okay that happens later and you're like shit like yeah this is not gonna work yeah yeah yeah so i understand that the reason was okay i would kind of the opposite way is if i like someone yeah i wouldn't starting the argument on purpose but like if i do see a lot of arguments happening it's good opportunities to kind of make those demands on those arguments an also work on communication skills to his wall so if you're arguing like you're shouting eight and you're like having shouting match at cetera it's a good opportunity to be like okay we shouldn't show so let's refined that and then will keep doing it it's kind of like you're taking whatever you're doing and just learning from that so these are learning opportunities and then eventually you'll have less and less arguments it gives you guys are on the same page and you also understand how they work and yeah an argument isn't have to be like the be all end all that yeah i think just like adults who should like i don't understand how people are able to like properly communicate like really like has grown people because we all work in in different industries you have to to engage yeah so it's like if you don't talk to you about that if you don't talk to parents y and z wire yeah or even like even yeah exactly right and sometimes you talk to your parents in a certain way that you wouldn't talk to your friends like an eerie feeling it you you know that they won't leave you but that's not a good thing you should be doing right yeah so so like i thought you were gonna say this 'cause i like this is something that i had to get over 'em like when we were having arguments i would think oh god like afterwards like oh god he's gonna you know like i stupidly stupid irrational here and land and he would always be like okay like are you okay it's okay to argue oh i'm always down further like they'll tell you slow on what's in separate rooms and have the last word yeah stupid stupid fear and i'm i remember once i don't know if it was like that time as well yeah like i was just so emotional like i i i don't even remember we're arguing about mad at him 'cause the guy just get to get to like ajax yeah and instead he he got off on like oh get to pickering he got off at ajax in rush hour traffic out there and then i took me twenty minutes to get to age out yeah and i just angry when he came in and we just start arguing like you know yeah on the ride home and then like at the end like he was just like like done and sometimes like when he got done with an argument so dramatic about who everything's gonna open the door rollout talk like no like argued like most of the car right and then like conversation just stopped and then he did like a fucking like kelly clarkson breakaway looking outside the you think speak to me and then like he got out like shuts the door yeah goes into the house and i'm like i like now i like my my switch flipped and instead of me being super angry at mike broke in and then they got into the house and then i looked at him and he looked at me and he started smiling i just start crying i think that's wrong you and i'm like i'm just scared a year ago and he said yeah i do i i used do that okay as like i've grown since yeah but it's always funny yeah good to good to go through it yeah yeah so so fast i think i just like expos this i asked inside of you like anytime you like expose vulnerabilities you're like it's like a natural like you know yeah happier yeah i think that shows like you you really care for someone yeah yeah yeah totally okay you have you ever they might sound yeah so but i think that's a good learning regular anything you're open to learning this is why kind of say if you keep arguing about the same thing or like the same certain situation that means you're not learning you're not willing to listen you're not willing to compromise and that's probably another thing we should probably talk about is people who are willing to compromise and that sort of that sort of the same thing as someone who's not willing the myth that they're wrong that stubborn way that they're 'em will find mostly not mostly like people are not empathetic to another person inside the argument or you know huge yeah these really yeah i had to learn it at yeah rame because i the way i kind of grew up it's just like oh you have to be a man has to be your way like dow is how everyone like a lot of guy yeah and i grew up ray were not very emotional but i'm starting to learn that you have to be empathetic and you have to understand because you have to be willing to make that change in their relationship fruit to keep going and keep progressing right so somebody even more i think some of the more a more visible and certainly things like a piece of behaviors so that really even i think the physical ones you understand not understand is in like oh yeah let's have that that's and obviously warning but there's a lot of a piece of behavior that people don't see like a lack of trust someone that's controlling someone that's always lying someone that's very insecure that kind of comes out as abusive behavior right and these are ready to play not all of them but some of them yeah yeah so what are some of those that could kind of leads to abusive behavior dependency in abusive behavior later down the road but like a lack of trust sometimes that fosters someone like that kind of 'em like certain things that someone will say when they don't trust you you're like oh you're wearing that like yeah you're you're asking for that sort of they'll be willing oil and gas so it like lack of trust them becomes controlling maybe you become less like that's attached do you did this attached due to the fact that you don't completely out thank god we met the copyright detach from mike you're friends and family ambulance and then that they're all forms of like what were talking about right now is like forms of like emotional yeah very all it'd be it'd be story so yeah like a a lack of trust when that makes me feeling shed like they're the only person in the world that like saved you yeah no one else would want you know that you should be lucky that there with you and that in turn allows them to treat whoever they want you to expect like you this is as good it gets yes so i met yeah and so i don't know if there's a question for you guys but why do you think that people don't it might be a deeper conversation but why do you think people are okay with that kind of abusive it's not that you're okay with it that more after time yeah after some time like that person it's kind of it's kind of like a type of brainwashing yeah where you you don't hindering yeah you don't know that you're in something bad has at that point you've you've removed you're friends from real life yeah you no longer speak to the second step but you're yeah you're only you know is in a party anymore this person person has has constantly told you that they're only one for you they possibly put you down to make you feel like you're uglier you know 'em they've they've made you like a show yourself like you're no longer who you where you're identities kind of been stripped the way so at that point all you know is them yeah and then idea of literally not having any one is too scary email imagine yeah so it takes a lot and that's why where people who has dealt with the different types of abuse still keep going back to the unnamed person because that's all that they know yeah it's a type of brainwashing you know it's really sad yeah yeah and then it goes back to a lot of people were like oh yeah he loves me that's where he does a family that kind of stuff and he's you only one for me so yeah how could i leave him or sometimes oh there's some like really sick people who like they are they abusers but they pretend to be the victims yeah where it's like oh you're gonna make me hit you yeah you you make me say be saying you know and like you you that i've seen in in documentaries and you and movies and stuff where the guy will become like emotional overwhelmed by his attack on a woman yeah and then she has become like the nurse and take care of him and and that's that's what that kind of like stems from dad yeah like oh like he needs me yeah he loves me that's why yeah and they they kind of play into a whole thing about like oh it's a woman's job to be like the nurture of this and like oh it's okay he's a man he's passionate about it yeah and all that kind of romanticized age and some people are brought up on that thing yeah that's okay yeah so luckily it's very it's very sad right yeah 'em this this so kind of a guy just pause and say like what's that like if anyone is dealing with those more like a high level things any sort of like abuse there are hotlines in an folks like that you could speak to by just a quick google wherever you are or i put it in that will put in the book post okay for that will will put in the show notes and then will get you those hotlines sure that a different countries 'em so a lot of this dams not only from they control insecure in that kind of stuff not from only the person so i i think it might be a good time to say it's not really a your fault and you shouldn't be afraid to say that you know 'em i feel like a lot of people feel like oh it's something wrong with me that's why they're doing this all that kind of stuff and try their relationship yeah that's why they're mushy we have to kind of make that distinction that it's not necessarily you it's sometimes it's an actual person or maybe even things like 'em totally different values right so we we could speak on values very quickly 'cause that's a another not really a red flag but it kind of goes back to her nonnegotiable but if it's something that's completely different from how you kind of a percent yourself that is a red flag so a very common example if you're on a first date and they treat the waiter waitress host this or whatever like shit in you wouldn't do that or even like that that's not a good that's a gauge of a yeah dies values right yeah so i don't know if you guys have other examples of a different values but that's kind of like a red flag yeah sometimes like when couples i continue to argue and it seems like they keep writing about the same and little things because because there's a bigger that they haven't dealt with and it could be like you know i want to get married you don't yeah i want kids you don't and it's like you're gonna keep not that they can pay a little thing because you don't wanna hear about signed for around the area you're not actually the but but i think that's based on like when you when there are some like hard line non negotiable is that yes you both have earlier not in my yeah they're not they're not aligned and you're not willing to compromise and then that just by that explanation that relationship cat last not a relationship so you could argue all you want but if you don't have that conversation in deal with fat and figure things out it's not going to wear like like for me in the kind of goes back tier thing like some people are open right that's why my belly's it's it's not really my values but it's like i have ideals of how i wanna give my life 'em but i'm open to seeing how other people a you know like whether it's having a kid or whatever i'm open to that so it's not very important to me but once again that kind of goes back to the openness of it in being open to having certain values it's right in not actually putting them say any instill but like you said if it's completely like yo this is a hundred percent like religion for some people that sucks and work and that's that's like right 'cause there's been certain situations where 'em someone feels very strongly about religion and they know that like the other person has the compared to because that's part of the religions or they have in their their keep you know that's a red flag from both then if you're not having that conversation you know that's gonna happen you need to have that conversation sued in you need to get out in a i feel like a lot of this stems from people being worried that they're not gonna be in that relationship in yeah that is a huge that's it's it's okay not to be in a relationship yeah but it's side especially when you really like after some lenders know and but i had a bad day yeah but it happens yeah so yeah i think be i don't know if we spoke about this one but 'em not being a priority in so many other life i think that that is i think i read flying and that's like that could be a red flag for like how entrusted they are in you or maybe maybe just like the place in their life maybe they're not at a place where they can like really be in a relationship right now we have 'em and that's not necessarily something personal but like if you're somebody you're like i am ready for relationship i want that like i make i would make the time for it and like that person's not making that same time for you then like maybe better to like get out now you're getting more deeper and deeper and deeper and like still goes back to like then having the same conversation over and over again like yeah give me enough timer like we don't have enough time yeah there and like it was always like that you just were like you never go and certainly hoping it's gonna change yeah do you notice a query like i still work yeah yeah other works at the beginning or you're you're open to the idea that it's never going to be now that way right i'll say like that there is an alternative to like approaching that it could be a conversation where you discuss like exactly what you both need time wise and see if that actually works because what you think is like you know him being a yeah or him making you priority might be different than what he thinks they're not gonna you know could have some people are are busy with other things but they prioritize you in a different way yeah so that would just be a conversation 'cause it it goes back to like some of the things we said in the past just like when to grow on different pages georgia you have different views on certain amount of different relationship the relationship dynamics here well what happened was like different than like you know yeah like at each other like this week but then in in their past relationship was once a week they're not they're normalcy in i don't see any kind of issue with that where you're like oh my gosh i got no attention yeah so like this is communication this arabia have not read this in my mind is kind of thing right and i think it's like most of these things 'em i feel like if any of these things happen that's when you communicate to your partner this is happening right let's get to the same page or even just like compromise on this whole situation to find a solution i think that's the biggest thing of a you know the opposite of red flake is like someone who's willing to make those changes for youth yeah but again again i think to joyce point you can't be afraid of saying that you you what your needs are yeah that like again going back to like the fact that like a lot of dating advice these days it's like don't say well yeah and you're listening to our podcast not yet irish islands well like you know what i mean you don't don't you think it's so stupid like oh like don't don't text and back don't do that don't don't don't like i feel like are you not just like making you know it's like are you not like like you know the you know that that homer simpson thing it's like my favorite get pepper when he just like going into the bushes disappearing later you're not like ghosting yourself yeah yeah yeah i don't know any wasting you're time you're wasting your life right now decently i dress yeah you hoster harry potter yeah ray bolger be adore your true self like i'm just saying like i i think the last guy did i would literally come to him and be like i have some thoughts and i would like pretend like we need to talk rolled out you know it's not like this is but it's this is point right light of you're walking right yeah i like that right and it's like he wouldn't have known it how do you not set it it's like here's what it is like if you if you want then like i think there are no point anymore and like hammering pretend that macho yeah well i should but end that way people stop hitting like people just kidding themselves yeah why don't we think you're time you live your life is i think it's changing where people have lived now i may have to go to work they have to do their hobbies they don't have time for like relationship well they do have type of relationship but around the person yeah yeah in detroit in a very important to have have a good relationship because now it's not about like oh a guy marian girl yeah right because you're pretty and it's not there's so much more end you if you're the type of person that is like oh i'm not gonna communique

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Weekly Training: Ending Relationship Complacency

ManTalks Podcast

18:29 min | 5 months ago

Weekly Training: Ending Relationship Complacency

"Welcome to the man talk show training for men answers for women. I'm connor beaten and today we're talking about ending relationship complacency now recently. I made a post on instagram. And it was a photo of Vienna and I and I was talking about how we as a couple. Call each other forward in deal with complacency in the relationship because the reality is we can get very stagnant in relationships and I think this is a big fear that a lot of people have at least That I've noticed a lot of men have right. We have this fear that our freedoms going to be infringed on that the relationship will get boring that you know the marriage will go on and sexual diminish. The excitement will sort of fizzle out within the relationship And so there's a very real concern that the relationship will become not a vehicle for growth and transformation rather a vehicle for complacency and stagnation and so So I talked a little bit about how to actually start to move through that any expand on this in this mini episode. But before I do that what I do want to say is two things first and foremost For All the couples that are out there that are looking to do some of this work. Maybe you've become a little bit complacent in the relationship. Maybe you're looking to reignite the spark or maybe you're just looking to Get to know each other a little bit better and do some work on the relationship to help you move through some re incurring conflict and arguments that happen you will definitely want to check out the program that VNI created last year. We've had over a thousand people go through it. It's very comprehensive. It's six weeks long and we dive into Conflict Communication Boundaries. Sex and intimacy the whole nine yards. So if you're interested in that if you are looking to have a tool and a resource to help you and your relationship with your partner. Get Out of complacency or reignite Some fire or give you some tools to help navigate conflict a little bit more effectively than you'll definitely want to head on over to my instagram page and click the link in the bio. And you'll see Get the love you want. Which is the six week program is very comprehensive. And there's a lot to it so I hope you check out. Okay let's talk about this Let's let's dive right into this. How do we end relationship? Complacency well first and foremost. We need to know that it's going to happen. It's going to come up and this this actually Came about because I had a bunch of people reach out after I made my post and say hey this is amazing. I love this. How do I actually do this? Read you off. Somebody's question so gentleman reached out and said hi conner. I'm just wondering in regards to your recent post. How do you accept feedback about complacency from your significant other? I feel like it's fairly easy for me to identify and call my other person My partner of forward. But it's it's always I always get stuck at taking that feedback and then implementing it which means that we go in full full circles and get nowhere so any advice on this would be much appreciated Well here's the deal. So that's kind of there's two parts to that right. The first part is how do we? How do we end? Complacency in the second part is how do we give and receive feedback? So I'm GonNa talk about both of those things focusing on the first and trying to provide some tactical practical resources for the feedback part of it. So all right. How do we end relationship complacency the first thing that I would encourage you to do is to commit to one thing that you're going to stop punishing your partner for now? That might sound a little bit weird or jarring song expand on this most of the time after working with a ton of couples and hundreds and hundreds of people. I have come to know. That many of us hold grudges in the relationship. We hold onto things in the relationship and we use these things. Whether it's a past event or a behavioral whatever the case may be we use these things to sort of punish our partner and then we have means of punishment right. Maybe we ignore them. Maybe we say hurtful things. Maybe we shut down. Maybe we you know. Make rude comments about them or you know. Tell them that they always act a certain way in a very condescending way but we hold on things and we punish our partner for those things and that can create complacency in the relationship because it's signals to us and it signals to our partner if we allow this behavior to continue to go on in if we allow ourselves to accumulate more and more and more things that we are punishing our partner for what it eventually does is it starts to cripple our ability as a couple as a unit to create growth and expansion within the relationship and that is one of the main functions of a healthy monogamous relationship or any form of relationship it the one of its main functions should naturally be supporting the individuals within the relational dynamic to expand to grow mentally emotionally physically spiritually sexually and all of these ways. So the more that we're holding onto the more that we're punishing partner the the the more we are restricted and diminished in our ability to get out of and break free from complacency and generally. These are the things that are holding us down. These are the things that are weighing us down in the relationship. So I want you to think about one thing that you know in your mind in your heart and when no one else is looking you know you punish your partner for in an unhealthy way. I don't know if there is a healthy way but I guess that would get into like a bcsm com commentary in conversation I'll just leave that one off the table right now so think of one way that you know that you punish your partner write it down distill it as best as you can and have a dialogue with your partner where you own this where you say. Hey I want for us to be better partners to each other and so I'm going to own that. Sometimes I punish you for not communicating your emotions to me by being very volatile and lashing out in attacking. You and so. I'm not going to do that. I'M NOT GONNA punish you for that. What I'M GONNA do instead is ask ask for what I need or an choir with you about higher doing so starts to take ownership over that. The second piece is starting to do new things together. So there's an immense amount of research that shows that couples maintain a connection and expand connection especially in the beginning of the relationship in the beginning of their relationship. Doing new things together is what can create an immense amount of intimacy of connection. Because you are sharing this new experience and for many of us. It's why when you go on a date with somebody and they're like hey. Do you want to go see a movie? And it's like your first or second day you know. Of course I don't want to go do that. I don't WanNa go sit in a movie theater and not talk to you. That's ridiculous so doing new things together has been the has been scientifically proven to help creates a deeper connection with relationship. Because you're you're you're releasing dopamine Within within your system you're releasing serotonin something be produced. Because you're doing new things. That are enjoyable. You're seeing new things you're you're experiencing new things and all of that creates new memories right so you probably don't remember you know date number fifty two of your last relationship with new went and saw movie or date number five with you know that you know your new partner when you go and see a movie but you probably will remember date number five if you go skydiving together and your first time or you go to a museum that you've never been to together or you have shared experience at a restaurant and it's so bad it's such a bad experience that that becomes a connection point between the two of you so do things together. Whatever those new things might be whether it's spontaneous whether it's planned I'll leave that up to you but do new things together Thirdly ask the curious questions so if you really want to stay engaged in your partnership one of the main things that you want to do is get a little bit more curious about the other person's experience and to dig into Y import why things are important to them what they're going through etc etc. What happens in relationships as time goes on is that people fall into communication groups and oftentimes we. You know if you've been dating somebody or married for a few years maybe a decade or so you can fall into these communication patterns. Will you stop asking the curious questions about what that was like for that person and that create an immense amount of stagnation complacency? Because you are assuming that you know what the other person is feeling or thinking or how you know. A specific event unfolded for them. And because of that the other person can feel like you are not interested in them or their experience and that will diminish the relationship so start to ask curious questions something like what was that like for you. What was that experience like? How did you feel about that You know What what surprised you about that event? Start to ask questions that elicit different responses. And if you feel like you are not equipped at asking very good questions. Then start to learn about how to do that. You can study things like a stalled has a very specific type of question asking but it can also help you become much more proficient at asking great questions so I'm going to show to more things with you. One is going to be about feedback. And so I'm GonNa leave that for last. So so next is create shared goals. Really really well connected. Couples will have their own individual goals for their own health for their own finances Whatever it might be career wise etc and then they'll also have shared goals as a couple so that might be You know starting a family. It might be a home. It might be You know somewhere that you wanna travel together again experiences that you want to have this shared goals can incorporate the new things that you want to do together and so you can kind of take different parts of this list that I'm giving you and merged them together so shared goals together. This isn't a net Vienna and I do all the time Whether it's within our work whether it's within our our lives our lifestyle all all the different areas of our life and it's incredibly incredibly enjoyable and it gives you something to connect on okay. The last piece is create feedback opportunities and delivery mechanisms. Now this is going to be a little bit more tactical and specific than I normally go so I would just say if you want. Grab a pen and paper And make sure that you write some notes on this one because this is a big one and I'll probably end up doing a different mini episode to go a little bit deeper in this. But how we start to end. Relational complacency is that we create opportunities safe and specific opportunities with very clear delivery mechanisms on how we're going to provide one another with feedback because the reality is most of us are shit at receiving feedback and many of us are not very good at delivering it. So so how do we do this? While first and foremost we need to create the opportunity for the feedback to happen. So here's a here's a very quick know when it comes to feedback and your partner walks in the door from work. Probably not a good time to deliver feedback. They're probably not open to it. Probably thinking about a billion other things so create very specific timeframe where you and your partner agree. That you're going to do a relational check in and I've talked about the check in before I'll probably talk about it again but creating opportunity. Maybe it's once a month. We agreed to go for a walk or you agree to have a sit down in the park or somewhere. Nice and beautiful. Try and do it outside of your apartment. Try and do it outside of your bedroom. Try and find a space. The two of you can connect in. That just feels connective. That feels grounding and this this space is going to be very specific In terms of giving feedback. So you'll you and your partner will need to sit down and say you know. Have A conversation about hey. I would like to create the opportunity for us to check in with each other and potentially give us feedback. Are you open to that? That's a very good way to position and you might not be with someone who's open to doing a relationship checking you might not be with someone who's open to doing feedback and that's a very different conversation because you want to get curious about why they're not open to that So create a time. Where that you too can can check in. And it doesn't have to be something that you would hear to on a monthly basis. Where you say okay. The first Sunday of every month we're going to check in with each other. You might do it like that or it might be something that you commit to as a couple and you say okay once a month. Let's check in with each other and we'll both be responsible for that so you can go to your partner and say you know tonight. Let's do our relationship check in are you. Are you on board with that? You have the mental space for that and they can say yes or no Then then you want to cultivate the delivery mechanism so the delivery mechanism is basically the how of how you give the feedback right so what we usually use what the NNI us and what we teach a lot of couples is to sit and face one another and to have some time to just breathe and connect with one another. I contact really. Allow yourself to get present in that moment to rid yourself of distractions no TV blaring You know no cell phones going off and just sit facing each other. Take at least thirty to sixty seconds to just maintain. I contact and breathe the bed so that you're in this you're in there together right. You're in it. You can connect with each other then the phrase that you can use is something. I want you to know or something. I'd like to call you for would on is and something I want you to know is a very open ended statement because it can be something like something I want you to know is that I feel like you haven't been holding up your end of the bargain when it comes to doing the chores around the home right so something I want you to know is I've had to take the garbage out every single day and and we've both agreed that this is that this is your responsibility and the other person will say thank you. There's no argument does no disagreeing. It is just a space to deliver and receive feedback. Okay and generally you'LL WANNA share two or three things that might be constructive feedback and then you want to share two or three things that are positive feedback things. That are something that I want you to know is. I've really appreciated. How much of an effort? You've made to connect with me every single day and check in to make sure that I'm doing okay. Considering that you know just lost my job last week or whatever. The case may be so. You'll want to couple the constructive feedback with the positive feedback. Okay and what do you have one person go first? And they'll you'll share the constructive feedback. The other person will show the constructive feedback and then you'll share positive feedback and their show. They will share positive feedback. So this is one of the easiest ways to do it. It's a very safe container. You create the space. You have an agreement that you're going to do this as a couple. And and maybe it's something that you do once a quarter. Maybe something that you do once a month but you carve out specific time to make sure that you have an environment of being able to to give and to receive feedback now. There will probably be other conversations after this. I'm just giving you the the how of how you create the feedback opportunity in the delivery mechanism. There will be other parts to this that obviously some things will come up. You'll need to discuss further within the dynamic and I will talk about that on a separate episode but this is just to get you started so hopefully you enjoy this. These are some of the main pieces that I've found over the years that really help to reduce and Real Relational Con Complacency so I hope that you implement just one of these right. Listen to this with your partner this to your partner. Ask them if there's one of these things that they would like to commit to that they feel like would be helpful for the two of you because the reality is most of us have relationships that are non-confrontational that are non feedback oriented and most of us have relationships friendships. Family relationships work relationships were feedback. Doesn't happen and it allows us to play small to play safe to become stagnant to become complacent in our own lives. And so one of the things that I really firmly believe is that healthy intimate relationships can be a very powerful vehicle for transformation for growth for getting out of that complacency loop a so long as you have to willing partners who are willing to do the work so thank you so much for tuning in. I hope you enjoyed this episode Make sure that you share it with with one person and please leave us a rating and review. It goes a long long long way to getting us onto the phones into the ears of other people so until next week this is connor beaten signing off.

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Detour To Neverland - Episode 144 | Our Ideal Disney Day

Detour To Neverland

21:20 min | 1 year ago

Detour To Neverland - Episode 144 | Our Ideal Disney Day

"Welcome back to detour to Neverland today is episode number one hundred and welcome to detour to Neverland your guide to living your best Disney life through your hobby or business here's your host Brendan and Catherine afterwards okay so to set the scene so I'm in Walt Disneyworld I guess I don't know do you have go on a vacation somewhere for multiple days it's Walt Disneyworld one day though it's Disneyland were going out on our Park Day so we're at the Polynesian but I want to go to a Libya's for breakfast because I think they have the last breakfast I'll say it until I find something better I guess but I would get the crab cakes benedict benedict even I think it was I mean it kind of allowed me to just dominant dream about Disney and pretend to be there which is always like you said Therapeutics Stress Relief maybe is a good word Yup so an exercise that we have done in the past for our personal careers and kind of where we I can tell you we are in two different parts of the country right now okay so I'm in Walt Disney world so I guess that means you're Disneyland I am does that and wishing that we could go back so it makes sense I think I've heard somebody else say this and I've stuck with it if I'm going nations are in you know what would make us happiest during the day as far as our work situation so I would encourage if you've never done that you definitely should maybe that's your hat or thought about your ideal work day I think you should because it kind of opened our eyes to just what we really want to do like what are you I don't like runny eggs it's very good builder scrambled eggs scrambled eggs for me so shout out to that kitchen thanks thanks for helping this picky eater are probably in a Disney park yeah I definitely include some sort of Disney so we both made a list of kind of how we would start our day where we would eat called action for sure yeah I would completely agree and we'll for being completely honest probably our ideal day just don't put any strings attached on it I want to be in the next five ten whatever fill in the blank years is mapping out what our ideal day looks like so as far as it maybe like eight eight early enough we'll go eight so after eating breakfast with full tummies we would start off at Hollywood's Rios so we'd head over to Hollywood studios first slinky dog was a good one I think it's not what we would ride and everything like that so we're going to share these with each other we haven't seen the other person's list but just glancing at it right now doc what would that day look like yeah and before we talk about that I do want him back up because I think when she said is valuable if you've never done at pay is it just because it's smaller Maybe but I just think you can have a better singular day in Disneyland Okay I know I'm starting this off very well okay so I'm just GonNa say we're staying at the Polynesian because that's kind of the first favorite hotel that popped in it if you are standing at the exit to slinky dog people are grinning ear to ear yeah I would I'd be shocked surprise you yes and no I think after we went to Disneyland we've spent a lot of time kind of obsessing over it my mind right now it's going to be you and me of course also my sister because she's our park buddy so the three of us three Amigos three copy euros it's amazing and get some ice coffee so we'd have a good breakfast I guess we'd probably have to wake up decently early to accomplish everything on my to do list do you commute somewhere what do you want to be working on everything like that so we tried to apply that same principle now to if you had one day in a Disney part quickly becoming one of my favorite rides just ever I just love it how can you not love a slinky dog ride if you that is something I noticed last anyone got off at Ryan was like it was just okay like no you're lying to yourself it's awesome I love it yeah I think what plays a role in we surprise you so we'd start with slinky dog maybe right at twice since it's a perfect day and then go over to tower of terror because I also love that bride and we would get some tacos while we're in Hollywood studios so if you haven't tried the chose we talk about them frequent as well as it doesn't look that much just when you're watching it go around the ride is much better than watching it from toy story land I agree with that Wyndham where we're GONNA ride to my other favorite rides Everest and the safari no final passage in DC than you can in any of the Disney world parks that's just my opinion on that so why don't you share your ideal day first and then I will share oh I didn't put fight a passage in it I mean I I love that ride it's a good ride but when I still think like my favorite rides ever is still doesn't and then because animal kingdom is always so hot we're going to need a nice relaxing dip in the pool and I don't know I'm very nostalgic so I guess it hasn't been around long enough yet to fall in that category so here's my question for Everest are we sitting in up and walking around he might give us a roar if it's a perfect day 'cause he's happy that we're there to see him so those to ride Adiel Pool we've never been there or gotten to experience it but I can just tell from looking at it it would be amazing we'd go to the pool at Beach Club front or in the back will you both okay get tried twice so in the safari what animals are we looking forward to seeing the most lions the lines GonNa be inch touches is when I'm craving right now and I'm going to be really hungry after I go through all this but we're GonNa get our TACOS and we're GONNA head to eight early breakfast or lunch touches we'll go lunch because we've already had brick yeah we've already breakfast so this is kind of like a it might still be a mid morning but we're going to go with me collect ourselves and then go to the Polynesian for dinner at a Hana and we would eat enough to be so we'd have to hang out there for maybe two hours or three hours enough time to really unwind go around the Lazy River there's ice cream physically impossible at Ohana it so good so a girl can dream so we're GONNA go there for dinner all you can eat all the amazing I'm there so we're definitely getting ice cream beaches in cream yeah definitely getting ice cream okay that's a given and then we'd have to go change like re right by the partners statue soak it all in the whole nine yards and maybe they have extra magic hours so we can go ride space Oregon some of those and then we have to go over to the magic kingdom for some fireworks perfect spot so that's the sand bottom pool that has the cool pirate ship slide it's got a lazy river I mean what more could you ask for it does like really relaxed Oh but not like grossly full like impossible now this is a perfect day we're going to eat just the right amount of food that is L. in afterwards that's a good day so here's my first question is what time of year is this that's that's a good question things I don't remember what the drink is there that I like Beck's crutcher is that what it is sunrise something Yeah Something Sunrise Ober it'd be like more mid October than early yeah I could see that good weather no rain there were no rain cloud thank you for asking that I think October really is usually a pretty nice time to go as far as like crowds and temperature pool so after happily ever after are we done we're going home and go into bed or nightcap anywhere or anything like that well there's space mountain and then I guess I mean you have to be realistic it's always hot October's probably the month that we've been them most often yeah I like going in October so I'm GonNa say entered putting in like Mickey's not so scary party but then I feel like that takes up a lot of your hours and we might not have had time to go to the pool I wanted to go to the make some recommendations maybe like top of the World Lounge might be a good night cap then we take the monorail back home to the Polynesian ons today in Florida so we're also not going to Mickey's not so scary is what I'm hearing well so this is just like your average day I did I highly you'll consider I'll consider yet it's an option okay it's an option well that's a good day are we and just like a one bedroom suite at the polly you know just my perfect day there it is also so you're ready to hear my perfect day yes so we sold it before are we are in Anaheim this and when we wake up we are at the Grand Californian Hotel so hotel that we've never stayed at I would probably be down and out for the count but I mean I know you're not asking for my suggestions yeah 'cause it's my day but maybe if I could trader sands I tried to call it trader Joe's trailways mix them every time we go to trader Joe's to groceries you say it's trader Sam's so maybe blocked through it but we've walked through it I went back and forth between Grand Californian Disneyland Hotel and I know in the past I've shared Disneyland is like the top of my bucket list traders sands because you know it's always fun or yeah yeah I mean we're usually pretty tired if we woke up eight breakfast you'll see where Grand Californian plays into it so once we wake up we walk through downtown Disney we go through security taking in the Nice it was a raffle for Disney podcasters who we one is that's a great day yeah that was that was one of the best breakfasts ever it was so good the food was good not like it's a buffet music going through the gates in the first place we're going is a repeat of what we've done before we're going to the plaza and have breakfast with many just Disneyland Hotel but I don't know for some reason ideal day I went with the Grand Californian closer little bit closer and it comes in later you'll see I mean I guess if it's a perfect day we can stay in a bungalow income that can be fun to use all of our points in one night we want it all you can eat so it was good but in this particular breakfast Catherine every rare character that we want to see is there the ad Jerry on top and then we're going to do a mountain run I like it do we get to ride matterhorn to get some coffee and we're just GONNA sit on Main Street for a little while we're gonNA People Watch watching all of the excited guests come into the park to provide that for us but we meet the fairy godmother we meet Japan Dojo Captain Hook all of these wonderful characters I wanna meet group I like that too we'll have a lot of fun and it was fun like kind of I guess like you said therapeutic to just think of all those different things in all the foods and little while just enough to enjoy our coffee if it minus fall to so mine is the Pumpkin cold brew which I don't know if you guys have had that yet for the day and just sit and enjoy our coffee and SIP it for a little while do you remember the last time when we're there we sat on those benches yes okay thank you it's part of that so we're GONNA wasn't on your list I'm speaking my list right now so we're going to start at the right and tomorrow for a little while that we're on the right of main street yeah I do like up on a little porch yeah that's where we're sitting okay that's a nice little spot so just east it's cancelled now because pumping cold brew was so good it was good I liked it too so that's what we're enjoying right there we've met so many wonderful characters already at Minis breakfast and we've already seen many they're going to be in their town square or main street garb okay and a little bit crazy and they bring out the rescue rangers just I don't know I if an ideal day I'd want Brendan I didn't write it in but it would be a nice cherry on top if they wanted after that we're going to go meet Mickey and Minnie on Main Street they're going to help us kick off the day with a nice character in action even after group would be a good one he he'll come in later they see so after breakfast at the plaza and we still haven't got our coffee fix just full enough just enough after lunch at Cafe Orleans we go to fantasy land and allow ourselves to digest a little bit with some darker but I went Cafe Orleans because I want set outside okay and I'm GonNa get some Gumbo and I'm going to get some been yays all the Benny and fantasy land then we do big thunder mountain and then we do splash mountain but we don't get to it we just get wet he's and probably a mint Julep yes so all of the New Orleans food get in my belly like you said we're not too full feet but then we head over to DCA so that's one of the best parts about Disneyland Park hopping is so easy and maybe we'll even it is a game changer. 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"You're listening to before anyone else. I don't want to be with you anymore featuring krithika. Come back to another episode of before anyone else. I'm Keith follow us on social media. Our Instagram is a table podcast where you'll find new episode alerts memes polls and you can even slide into our DMS with your audience questions. We're also collecting listener feedback on our website Bay podcast. Today's episode of birth or anyone else. We have krithika. Do you want to maybe introduce yourself and you know what you do or and maybe that let's start with that. I were currently in post-production doing a lot of planning and Logistics and I used to work in event management. So I have a very extensive background between just working long hours and just put in the work. So now we all know this is a question. We asked all our guests because it is a relationship podcast. Tell us about your religion. To ship Journey cool. I don't even know if there's enough time in the podcast to go through that my relationship Jeremy. I mean, I'm sure as like most folks. It's like a rollercoaster but especially in the last little while I feel like I've been going on the up of the roller coaster not in terms of like Thrills, but like the 4th blue move them whole thing. Like, you know, just like he's not even the Womp especially me in a Direction. That's like, you know, just how long it'll get better every single time. So like you keep reaching like a higher and higher and higher Peak so so it's definitely like a journey in and of itself. Okay. So, I mean the reason why you know, we thought this would be a great episode for you is because that interesting relationship like history you've had right the many the month. Oops, I don't know if I'm making this sound like a like a journey, but the many UPS the many Downs great and I think it takes a lot of energy long time and energy and a lot of self-awareness to you know to go through all this but a question that always comes up is sort of like, you know, when should I leave someone or you Wednesday? When do I know that someone is not the right person even though I've spent many so much time with them, right, you know going back to that relationship Journey. Like do you remember that first time that you like left that someone wage and like how did it feel? Like honestly I can say that I've pretty much left every single relationship. Well, I'll tell you to be here, you know, but I'm saying in this sense. I like minus maybe one to be quite honest. I've been the person who decided to leave. That's what I meant. Okay. I yeah, I mean for obvious reasons and to the I think high school was my first real long lasting one that I I can say I quote unquote like left off. It was like I mean in high school relationships for me in particular like not really relationship, you know, but the guy that I was seeing at that time we met each other for like what maybe a month if you can even call it like a relationship right? But the reason why I left was it played a huge part to do with race should be honest. So he was of A different race than I was and it didn't bother me and for a very long time. I didn't realize that his group of friends were basically talking a whole lot of shit about me and the color of my skin and I didn't know at the time and thought One of his friends who happened to be really good friend of mine is the one that kind of came up to me and said I can't let this go on like I just need you to know that this is what they're saying about you behind your back and edit, you know my ex obviously like my boyfriend quote unquote at the time never even broached the topic with me. So that was like a real easy way to like leave the relationship because I confronted him about it. He said like oh, no they were just kidding but I didn't think it was a joke, you know, it was I mean you're talking about me as a person and she can't change the color of my skin. So that was very I mean that was very triggering from then on like in terms of how that affected me. But that was like my first memory I think of leaving something that I knew was not good for me. It was not suited for me. So were you like okay with leaving it like how did it feel like when as soon as you left? Oh, I'm sorry. Yeah, it was that. Some really like very empowering to leave the situation mostly because like I knew that he was in the wrong and I think it was honestly I was either like the day before my birthday, but it was like sometime around my birthday. So like leaving him he'd even wait for like the present he was going to get you going to give me a present. I can almost guarantee you that he had no increase probably what I thought one of the reasons the smell. But yeah, I think I'm pretty sure like it was around my birthday or like the day before my birthday and like I broke up with him and then I was like with my girlfriend's like the next second cuz they were like, you know, two or three lockers down like sports systems their horse and then and then yeah, like I just felt really good about myself off and knowing that I did something that was good for me was just in and of itself very empowering and I think that's what set the tone for a lot of Future relationships that I had to see the signs and decide for myself like what is better for me and if this is really worth my time and energy so I mean that kind of relationship where it's a high school relationship, even you know, it might be difficult for a lot of people going through high school to leave those kind of relationships. But at the same time you're you're what you just kind of talked about you filtered power when you left Etc. Was there any relationship where you actually had to sit down and think and you know, you didn't have that same kind of okay, let's get it over with right the most prominent one that I could probably talk about. I guess my long-term relationship that I had a few years back and that was my first choice real long-term serious relationship, and it was a lot of first for me and And I was just trying to navigate a being in the serious relationship considering that all the times before were like, you know flings or like phone not anything substantial so that relationship lasted 2 and 1/2 years roughly I think for like context and by that point, you know, it was a few years back. So I'm not exactly thinking about the idea of marriage but I am thinking at the time like do I want to still be with this person like for a lot longer but that was harder to part with because I also had a chance to like meet his family and like that was hard because they were just so welcoming. They were so sweet and really loving wage and you know having that sort of relationship Beyond a partner into like that friend or Family Circle is hard to leave and I know a lot of people who've actually stay home. Anger in relationships because of that but you know, I'm not I'm not in bed next to your mom and dad. You know what I mean? Like I'm it's me and him so with him that particular it was harder to end things because it wasn't like he cheated on me. It wasn't like anything that for some people might be like, you know, one-off deal breaker. That's it. Exactly. Like this was a lot of different things a lot of red flags that like just added up over time and it was pretty much just laying it all out and thinking like is this right for me or just not right for me? And the biggest reason why I left is because fundamentally like our morals we couldn't agree on on something like really mattered to me and that was for like a lot of like racial issues and him not being a person of color and I am and trying to basically navigate a relationship where I'm triggered or I see things differently cuz the world doesn't treat me the same way that it treats him and we just couldn't agree on those sorts of things and I was butting heads and I didn't want to keep explaining. You know, why life is a certain way and how you know, your friends can't talk to me a certain way, you know like dead. microaggressions or whatever comes about and so I thought long and hard about it. I thought about it for months. So I it's not like I thought about it for like a night like four months. I was going through this process easy and I made an effort or I wanted to make the effort to say at least I did my part like I tried to make this relationship work cuz we had a series of conversations with and a lot of it was to figure out like what am I doing? That's not making you happy and like what can I do to be a better partner and vice versa? So I was actively trying to do the things that he wanted but I wasn't getting it back and you know change takes time. But if you're not going to do that change and you're not putting in the effort and like that's where I'm like, I'm I'm done and I'm out. So you said it kind of took a while and they I think you're trying to work through it, but was there something that finally happened where you just like, you know what I'm going to have that final talk. So maybe it's like Maybe it's a thing for me. I was like life events cuz like a lot of these things happen around life events for me. So one of the things that triggered it is like I was leaving to live on my own away from my parents home. I was I just started this new job and it was starting to really ramp up and really get busy and I I'm very much so a career-focused person off. So I wanted to hone in on that and really Excel I thought about it some more I talked to my circle of friends, you know my support group and it's just kind of make sure I understood what I was doing and also they were a sounding board for me cuz like they know me really well, they know me better than myself sometimes and thought they knew the amount of time and effort I put into it. So as soon as I realize I'm like, you know what maybe this is a clean slate that I need living on my own having my own space this new job. And then kind of like cutting out the toxic energy that I didn't want to bring in to this next chapter. So that is where I was like, you know what I'm just I'm just going to do it now and then finish with them. He didn't see coming. We like I'd gone over to have dinner and like hang out and the next morning. I had an event at like 7 a.m. So like I was literally on the clock I'm like I need to do this now tonight and then leave and like I had a goal so like I went into it and I knew going into what was happening and obviously he didn't and then we started talking I said what I was thinking and then I said the words like, you know, I just don't think that we can make this work and then it like clicked in for him. And then it was just it just like went downhill and then it was like, you know, it's not what you want to end of night. Well, how did you kind of prepare for that? Because I'm just thinking this is I mean, I definitely wasn't planning the time. I was just maybe it was the plan change. Enemy, but I'm like, you just gotta do it just do it schedule it in whatever. I mean that sounds really crass. I didn't say like schedule it in but you know what? I mean, like I was like it has to be this day and going back into it. No, I didn't have anything prepared. I I'm very much so person who like speaks from the heart. So like I know that if I prepared anything it would just like, you know message that I would if I did I would probably would affect it up. So I just said how I was honestly feeling and you know, it's it's never easy to tell somebody that you've been with for such a long time who loves you and you love them to say. I don't want to be with you anymore and It was harder because I think I took it upon myself like that emotional labor to like soften the blow and not make it so harsh. So I was just trying to say how this is something that I need to work on. This is not for you. Like, you know, this is just this is something that I can see is not working for me and I think we both need to suck cuz while we've been doing is fighting and like, you know, it's just bringing to light things that we know and saying that like I can't do it anymore. Okay, you've done this like the next day I met at work obviously doing 7 a.m. In the morning, but like they'll probably was like the what kind of day was it for you? So I just consume myself with work and it was a really good distraction. So for me it was very much. So like I have a job to do so. I just need to get my work done and it was very easy to not think about it b e As I would just have so much to do but when I came back home and for like that week itself. I it hurt like I I cried a lot because you know, you're still grieving a loss of something, you know, so like I let myself feel those emotions. I cried for a few days because like things would like trigger me in terms of like like life suck it up. Like should I have tried harder, but I knew that I had it's just that part of you that you know, that one that questions you and says like, you know, are you sure this is what you want to do but it's sticking your gut and knowing like this is it it's going to hurt it's going to suck just cry it out, you know, feel these emotions and process it but don't like backtrack what you did cuz I know people who have done that as well and you know, what for some people it's worked out for them and that's fine. But for me, I knew in my gut that this is not dead. Thing that I want in long-term and it hurt because like at the very end of when we did break up is when I saw him be the person that I needed him to be more of but it's like you only suck. It just made me more mad cuz it's like why are you like this only when you realize you're about to lose something when you could have been like this the whole time, you know, like I think sometimes people forget like upgrade of something or someone you have and that only when you realize like, oh my God like it's about and then you're like no no no, no. No, like let me be this person now for you and it's like you take your time for in order for you to leave or to be in a relationship you had to have certain values like this value is important in a relationship that kind of sparked that it triggered a lot of things for me for me in particular. It made me realize what I wanted out of a partner in terms of the qualities and Thursday. On the other side it also made me realize and I've gone like I have a lot of triggers in terms of what it makes me realize like I don't want regard like no matter what time and for context. So as a South Asian women, I was dating a white guy and I was introducing a lot of like cultural values like in terms of like I even introduced him to my parents, you know what I mean? And like that's a big step further. That's yeah. Yeah. It's a step. That's like them if you need to take right thing cuz like a lot of Asian parents, like whoever is coming through that door, you know, they're thinking like that's what you're going to be interesting about to get married. Yeah, exactly. And like I was trying to go in reverse where like I needed my parents understand what it meant to date because it's such a weird concept to them. Right like for them. Like I said is the first person you bring home best at home. You know where the one emails but I was trying to introduce them to the idea of dating because for me it was important that whoever I did bring home could still have a relationship with my parents to buy extension and like not just do it overnight. So I was doing that I was introducing him to my family, you know, I obviously I met his friends and he met mine and I noticed I didn't realize I guess at first but over time I realized like I really need diversity in France Circle cuz that's also shows me a lot of who you are as a person and it his friends circle didn't match that same energy and and there were times like we've had conversations about this but one of his friends in particular like literally seeked like sought me out to have a conversation about like racial. Prejudice and out of all your friends there's always that one out of all the people in the room. I'm the only person of color so you're just going to seek me out to get my opinion on it off and to feel validated basically validated to a few of heard but it's like you're you're why you're taking up enough space. Like how about you back off? If you have any questions Google it like something read a book, you know, but don't come to the the person of color in the room and being like so what do you think about this and you know, and his other friends like they had multiple microaggressions right like and things that I could not accept and also because like he did nothing to either speak up for it or speak up for me or say anything to them to be like, you know, you can't say that so over time like fundamentally, I realize like I need to I need to see people like me or at home. See, I need to see melanin. Like I need to see something in your friend Circle that reflects you. I guess figure it out over time to is that like I will not compromise on my feelings because I felt like a lot of the times I was muting myself and I was you know, letting him speak his mind cuz he was off a bit more sensitive and emotional than I was and I was just like I don't need to be with somebody who just doesn't encourage me to speak up and who doesn't encourage me to share my feelings and thoughts a lot of the times it was him feeling like he wasn't heard. So I had to do more to give him space when he's already again, like you're a white guy who takes up a lot of space, but I'm the one that needs to make myself smaller to make you feel bigger. Like that's not happening for me you mentioned in another relationship too as well. What's this one about we've had like a very calm David history because we have mutual friends. So from the time that we first met we were friends first and then we had mutual friends that we both met around the same time. So that was like a consistent factor in the reason why we were talking or interacted as much as we did over time, but we dated first a little bit. It didn't work out and then we tried again like, you know, I think it was like a year or two years later something like that. And by that point we'd been friends we hung out a parties we'd seen each other all that jazz and then we got together and you know to this day he's a great guy. He is a great guy at the time. This was in my second year of University, I think and He with him. I think it was like our total relationship of the time like maybe was about 3 and 1/2 4 months is very short and within that time frame he could see like in the future like he could see past that and he was very much so like, you know, like what if you met my family during the summer like the big family barbecue sauce, like, you know meet all my really close friends, which is fine, but the family part and seeing pasta, like instantly made me climb up and freaked me out because I was not in that same headspace. Like I was not on the same page and the more pressure I felt from that the more I started freaking out and thinking like I cannot give this man what she wants like I like I felt I feel dishonest. I'm not disloyal obviously, but I feel dishonest to him because I am going along with this like, I'm still seeing you everyday I'm song. With you but I'm starting to like retract and not feel like I can give you what you want and I very much so it was like I want to still be independent wage. I still want to live my life. I want to focus on finishing school. I want to get my career going like I had a lot of goals and Ambitions and at the time I couldn't see that girl with him in the picture. I have the conversation with him saying like I just don't think I can give you what you want. And I don't think that this like we're on the same page of like what this is off and it was sad and he obviously didn't agree because this was this was very much. So one-sided again like this is me saying I need to leave and afterwards like we had a very complicated history because like we would still run into each other so it wasn't like as clean and upgrade your group of friends dog. Environment etcetera, right so, you know having to run into your ex like that constantly, it doesn't really make you feel like you have closure and so time and time again afterwards like, you know, sometimes you're at a party sometimes there's alcohol no summaries come back off again. I'm kidding but like you know, it just it happens that way we're like you're you just feel so connected cuz you're so comfortable with this person that you knew intimately right and you know them well off and to be honest like looking back at it in hindsight. I mean it obviously takes two people to make something like that happen, but I probably could have been better and like known not trying to push a few buttons here and they're like looking at it. Now. Do you think it was more like, oh I wasn't ready or was it because of the pressure that he puts on you? I think it was both the pressure from him, but you know what? It wasn't even really pressure because it's not as if he asked me. A lot like he didn't ask me to do much but it's because this is what he could see happening and that alone for me was it was just I couldn't do it off cuz if if I can see something for example, like if I'm with somebody right now and they're like I can see myself with us having kids white picket fence, you know the house a whole nine yards off and you're like, I can't see that for us, but you're already there like if there's no way where you think all you know, like maybe one day like I can work up to and if you can then great, but if you can't then you're both on opposing Fields, right and for him. It was that knowing that like this is what he wants and then knowing that like I don't I'm not ready to give up other things that I need to be like and be single in that way I guess and I yeah, I freaked out I freaked out and that was like a big part of why I think I left but I think it might God I knew that I just had to so the moral of the story is looking like like in your relationship life is like if the values don't fit cuz that's almost like a value right? Like if there's somebody who sees their future somebody who sees these things for themselves, right? And that's like a that's a good whether it's a goal ambition like you envision this for yourself and if the other person and can't see that or isn't there then like there's some like you're both on different pages. So you either need to catch up And be on the same page or like if you're like, that's actually not even at all where I was thinking of going then that's just a fundamental difference and like most recently most recently bought a hum. I was seeing somebody who things didn't work out with and the fundamental difference and that was she saw this life for himself where his future partner and him would be having kids and I am of the position where I don't think I want kids and that's just a really big factor right for a lot of people and that's a deal-breaker. So it's totally fair and especially like at my age. I'm twenty-eight and everybody in my friend circle is still looking to get married. You see all these Facebook and Instagram pictures and stories. So that's the thing like everybody is at that age right where they're dead. Also, you're having kid. This was in an accident like oh you want to Connecticut, you know, so I'm and I'm not there like I'm out here trying to figure out if I can afford Guacamole song. Can I get three twenty-nine, but I and it didn't work out because that was something that he didn't want to compromise on and that's something I could even try to Envision for myself right now. So and in the next little while like obviously as I continue to gate this is a factor that is going to be a predominant issue for me. I'm kind of picture in like every single relationship that you've been through and a lot of people are probably going through the same thing you start adding things to this not a list. I don't like a list because you know, like it's like you're it's a good value. So your your values there you go. You're we talked about it on this podcast many times. There's a list of non-negotiables which we own no. Is find like I think people kind of get confused like, oh I want this guy who's tall? I want this and this is gonna get you right to have yeah. Those are nice to haves right? Yeah, but these kind of values they're kind of deeper in it's only when you start dating and I find also when you get older you start seeing certain things that oh, I cannot negotiate it. It's like a real non-negotiable right this list that you're sort of sorry. I'm not going to ask you for the list cuz that's kind of like your thing you can have. Yeah, right totally but this is something you've kind of bill because of the many relationships you've been through. Is that how you feel like yeah. I mean, I don't have a list but I know like in my gut if something does or doesn't happen and I'm happy about it and not like for example, I mean of the current climate like political climate, I'm not dating somebody who's obviously racist. I'm not dating somebody who's sexist misogynistic, you know, the list goes on. Those are my fundamentals wage. The nice to haves versus need to have yeah, like if you happen to be telling me hey, I'm not going to say no but it's a bonus totally totally dead. But I think like you said over the years and throughout all my dating experiences. I really do feel really confident about what I want and bought a lot of that is derived from the fundamentals cuz for me that is like that can change cuz other things like, you know, I mean, I'm not looking for somebody who's a slob but like things like cleaning or being meet life things over time that can develop. You know what I mean? If you talking to like your younger self what like advice would you give to them Having learned all this and what we've talked about life getting into dating for the first time laughing cuz like the first thing I would tell my younger self was like girl just leave it's fine just completely dead. Don't think too hard about it. But what I would tell people is that like listen to your gut at the end of the day listen to your gut you can like life sucks. But we know as empathetic people that when something is not right for us, but the problem with this is that we still try and fight and hold onto something cuz it's there. It's comforting. You know, it's something that you know, it's familiar and like with a partner who knows you intimately and can like say the soothing words like that like give you affection or like whatever it is like, oh, yes 6. That's a good little dark and handsome. Oh my gosh so good, but it's it is hard to leave and I would tell everyone and my younger self to like just listen to your gut. It's okay to leave because what I've learned the song Almost out of all these relationships is that if something is really important to you you'd fight for it and you'll make it work and you can't but you can't be the only person with the attitude cuz if the other person doesn't have that attitude and doesn't reciprocate that in and of itself kind of tells you a lot to whether or not it's as simple as literally writing a list off like if it's a pros-and-cons saying like don't put like a Ross and Rachel moment and friends for anybody who watches that and leave the list out. But if you really do need to and break it down that way like do whatever it is cuz if you're questioning it if you're questioning leaving, then there's obviously some truth in that little nugget and explore it and it's not to say like I'm not encouraging people to just up and leave their Partners right now. You're not I mean, but like I think a lot of us stay in relationships because we're too afraid of letting go of something. That's so wrong. Comfortable and familiar to us and I mean I did, you know, like it was hard. But the reason why I left a lot of the times is because if I was crying more money if I was being so unhappy if I'm being an ugly person and I'm bye-bye ugly. I mean like this, you know, emotionally ugly person. Like that's not the best version of myself and I want to be with somebody who pushes me to be that best version of myself, right? So like a lot of the times it's recognizing he just gotta Buy Palm Pilot and and leave do you feel that a lot of women make compromises and that's why they stay too as well. I think a lot of it is like the emotional labor that women do you go through men go through too but I do sign that women go through that a lot. More than men. It's it's a Big thing that I feel like a lot of guys need to maybe take more into consideration just because we often don't have the space or don't feel like we should have the space to express ourselves. You know, like how many times have we always heard the stereotype like women are crazy. They're so emotional like they lose their shit like whatever Bowl blah and guys who are like, you know, just the biggest doorknobs. Yeah, like yeah and don't like express since it's one of the biggest TV Tropes ever for Nikki exactly. You know what I mean? But the sad reality is that like wage goes both ways where like guys aren't as encouraged to speak up share their feelings not give fucking monotone or one word answers to everything and for girls or women, I should say. Sorry. It's very much. So like, you know filter through your thoughts, I think about what you want to say before you say it like don't just speak out of emotion. And me having heard that for years like I am living with the side effects of it where I don't speak up for myself, especially where I need to so I'm I'm like with women I think in this day and age we're trying to be more empowered and more confident and being able to express ourselves freely without repercussions or without feeling guilty about it or without. Somebody being like, oh, she's just being crazy, you know, like all of y'all crazy. Every single person is a little bit crazy. Like let's just let's just call that what it is, but I think that if you're in a relationship, sorry a cyst hetero relationship. I would hope that both like the guy and the girl in the relationship can encourage each other to have that safe space open up have that open dialogue and talk about how they're feeling without feeling like shit about it. You know, like I'm not encouraging you to like buy each other's heads off. But if your partner is upset may be there for your partner if your partner is really happy then you know celebrate that too. Like it's it goes both ways. And for me I didn't have that. I really didn't like wage I think The biggest part that I was missing in a lot of my relationships is having somebody who encouraged me to say how I honestly felt cuz I was always thinking about them first and thinking like, well, I am upset him and like if I say this we're just going to ruin the night and like, you know, we're having such a good night. Like I want to bring it up now, like maybe we'll talk about this later and I feel like women have those thoughts a lot of the times in them, you know, like cuz I hear from my girlfriend's, you know, the they were having a really good night, but there was something that they needed to talk about but they feel right. Yeah, and she's like, well it wasn't the right time and it's like, oh well, like now he he just came back home. He had like a really rough day. Like I didn't want to ruin his night even more. It's like there's no right time to have bad conversations. But if you can have like healthy conversations about these things in fact isn't a bad thing and that was a hard thing for me to learn. It was very hard for me to just speak up and recognize that there is no right time. I mean obviously, you know, Yeah the roof so bad. I want to do it at the funeral but it's like, you know, if if something's on your mind, like let it out cuz that should get you up and it ate me up. I I don't want to like ahead blots and that sort of thing but so have after being through all of this. Like, how do I get back? Like how do you put yourself into that mindset of like getting back into you know dating isn't it? Like a bit not overwhelming but it's created say yeah. Yeah. Yeah it is. I feel like an old woman. I'm just like nagging him like I want to deal with this I'm tired and that's honestly the line that is all the time like I am tired and like caps lock but I think personally speaking because of who I am as a person dead. I think being open-minded is something that's really important. Cuz if you treat each new relationship like you did the last you're not going to get better as a person. Yeah, it's just a jaded, right? Yeah, and it's also unfair to the new person that you're trying to explore this chapter with because you know, everyone has baggage no one no one can say that they don't have baggage every single person has it and if you're just trying to like get into something as like a rebound, you know, what like maybe take a break for yourself, but I think you have to be open-minded cuz if somebody was doing that back to you and they're just being you know, they're bringing in their relationship Trauma from the last one and into yours and like you're not going to want to see that person. You're not going to want to be with them. You're going to be like, well you have too much baggage you have to work on your shit and like, you know, come back when you're ready. In the same regard like you have to be that person to and whether its willingness or not. Like you have to grow so for me like God I especially this year. I had gone through kind of back-to-back relationships works like short-term relationships, but like it was hard for me to be open-minded because it was so close together. But the reason why did is cuz like this person doesn't know me and I'm going into this. Acting the way that I was with this last guy. So he's like, you know, he'll be thinking like what the fuck like, what did I walk into? So I have to be just as open to break even him as a brand new person as he is to me cuz if I'm bringing that in then like it's not going to be cute. It's not going to last long.

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2019 Supplemental Draft Preview

Big Blue View

29:24 min | 1 year ago

2019 Supplemental Draft Preview

"Are you troubled by strange hockey trades in the middle of the night you experienced feelings of thread about nhl free agency have you or your family ever seen in new york islanders game answer's yes then don't wait another minute pick up your mobile device and describes a lighthouse hockey podcast sb nation today are courteous inefficient hosts are ready to serve all of you're islander needs and worries lighthouse hockey pocket for new york islanders fans hello and welcome to the big review podcast i am dan judah joined by chris chris how you doing today i'm doing pretty good but you know i kind of feel like there should be kind of the return of the big big board yeah so i kinda debated whether i was going to say that or not end we are in the middle of july but somehow now it's draft season again perhaps season yeah apparently but we're not looking toward twenty twenty yet thank god we have some time before that happens but we are now going to talk about twenty nineteen supplemental draft for those of you who are in a way the supplemental draft happens in the middle of the summer for some guys who either were eligible for the draft at the time or for a lot of scenarios there's just guys that are figuring they don't want to go back to school or wins for some reasons maybe aren't eligible for one reason or another to play for this coming season so they could declare for the supplemental draft giants fans are going to be very aware of this because they used a third round pick on sam bill last year and of course buell sat out of for all of twenty eighteen because of a shoulder injury but he will be back on the field this year part of that very young secondary so we have i think there's about five players eligible for supplemental draft but i think were going to go over the the two big ones in the two most likely to be drafted overall in that is going to be markets sims wide receiver from west virginia nj lynn thompson the safety from a washington state so chris up on big blue view you have written prospect profiled about both of these guys of why don't we start with some markets sends it's an end why don't you bring us through what you found out from him right so one of the things we both talked about repeatedly over the summer is just how much the giants need a third wide receiver an a viable deep threat there often pretty much right now they're all fence is going to be ten yards or less unless somebody like evan ingram or saquon barkley forces amiss tackle and turns a short catch into a long game but just to keep defense is from playing eight in the box and just suffocating the run game they need a deep threat and that's pretty much what market sim springs he wasn't targeted a whole lot in the west virginia often which granted had a fair amount of receivers for will greer i believe he only had eighty one catches the last two years thirty five in twenty seventeen forty six in twenty eighteen but what he did for the west virginia offense would stretch the field you were the guy had good speed and could get downfield and win on vertical rout he averaged eighteen point nine yards per catch in twenty seventeen fifteen point two in twenty eighteen and he just has the ability to be defensive backs these other with good cutting in his rout or just being able to run pass though i believe he was clocked anywhere between anywhere in the lowtomid for force by the scouts at his pro day which not blazing but still with good running that's fast enough in that basically who he was for west virginia in addition to also being kick and punt returner of good but not credibility yes she is this is super interesting case he's one of those guys that is is labeled as a deep threat but when you look at the really what he did at west virginia the numbers don't completely translate there so if you guys remember if you have been listening through are draft shows i put together eight stack on target added four wide receivers it basically take say wide receivers production an isolated from the quarterback and be offensive offensive performance and see what receiver adds to in austin so this season at west virginia market seems had sixty six targets that went for six hundred ninety nine yards that's a ten point five nine yards per target that's decent andy that was one point zero nine target yours at it so we did add a bit to be the west virginia offense but that's how you're added is a the well below average of what this past draft class would have been a which was two point oh died of that one point nine would have been twenty fifth in this draft class that's behind you and hurting terry godwin his sixteen point two percent target share would be one of the lowest of just groups of people the clear number three option in the mountaineers offense last year that was behind a david sills who i didn't like i in tokyo added did not like he is negative that was also behind i gary jennings who i did like quite a bit in terms of yours added life quite a bit at three point three to end jennings was also a guy who could win deep he got that also but he was also kind of screen guy guy you could take the ball after the catch jennings was the number two receiver in the west virginia office and he only went in the fifth round so if jennings is only worth eighty fifth round pick in the actual twenty nineteen draft i can't see sins be worth that and so if you were going to spend maybe seven then fine maybe it's worth the flyer but i kinda think there might be a team is probably more likely to jump ahead of him end if you're going to be using a flyer like that you might just be better off waiting to see who gets cut during training camp in trying to figure out and find maybe a un undervalued wide receiver i somewhere around during that area to yeah and that's really how i would look at sims like if you like what he does and you just like him on the field put in seventhround or maybe even a sex if you really like him and maybe you get him if not see who is going going to be available eventually yeah i i think even even just by looking at the wide receivers who were available in this draft class in where sims goes in where those guys were drafted and i don't even know if i put seventh on because we also will be talk about the deep threat to the giants need they did spend a draft pick on one of those networks dareus late new came out pretty favorably in charge of yours added two point seven three oh which was pretty good that was thirteenth in the strap class he's someone who has the ability to win deep did that that was the book on him of course his hands maybe an issue they were issue early in minicamp and then got better as the off season has gone onto will see what he looks like in training cap but i think he kind of already used a draft pick on that role so i i'm not totally sure it's worthy using another one on a guy who's probably not as good as slayton is anyway yeah and that is the issue for the giants in particular they did spend that draft pick they already do have a lot of bodies at wide receiver so it could it could be hard or would be hard to justify using any draft pick on a guy who is basically a flyer but if they're going to go for a potential volume solution for stealing the filling out the depth chart behind sterling shepherd and golden tate it's a move that could either take her leave if they don't put in a bit on him i would understand completely if they did i would understand in maybe be a little bit in treat right to me there's i there's two things at play here one there's no one on the giants roster that should stop you from trying to upgrade i don't think anyone outside of the top two guys is words that if there's someone you believe is going to be an upgrade then make that move i just don't really feel like sims is that type of player that is going to warrant bringing him in now in thinking he's going to be an upgrade i think you're probably better off going with the grape you have now and then possibly waiting to see who is available throughout the rest of the summer i if anyone come saying then you're probably even using fewer resources on one of those guys and they could be just as good if not better than sense i just don't think simpson's is the quality of player that's really going to change the dynamic of the wide receiver group i so i just don't think it's worth that investment yeah that's probably how it's going to be yeah and that that makes sense and that's fine not everyone has to be drafted in just the guy is available does not mean there needs to be eight picks that on him hey i'm spencer hall i'm holly anderson i'm ryan nanny i'm jason kirk end we're the host of the shutdown full cast your of vendors of college football podcast successor in the script scripture to reformed what that means and basically what i mean it just go for every tuesday we talk about everything from cooking disasters to pro wrestling john fashionable pants we 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state a trade what can you tell us about thompson there is i think a little bit of a tendency tendency to want to look at thompson in the same light as sam bill thompson is much more of a known commodity than sam bill was coming out of western michigan he's generally regarded as one of the but one of the better if not one of the best defensive backs in the pac twelve end if he hadn't lost his eligibility for his senior year she probably would have set in washington state recor four games in snaps played he's been a starter since he was a true freshman so he had a lot of experience an he has been a durable and pretty reliable player for washington state he's he's a little bit of an interesting player to watch on tape because they used him kind of almost as a rover they would use him depending on the package as other a nickel corner corner occasionally and outside corner or a lot more often as eight three years strong safety personally i don't like him as any kind of quarterback i don't think he has the feet and hits to be eight corner in the nfl he does have decent short area quickness like he concludes on a ball very well but his backpedal is just kind of high end stabby he can't get it hits down you can't really open them up will turn and run just those things you need to be able to do as a corner i don't really see that from him however i do not hate him as a free safety the thing they're probably stuff to me the most watching him on tape was his ability to quickly process information to reid diagnosed and react to an offer ends at a quarterback quarterback decision and do it very very quickly that he doesn't have great long speed but that processing speed really allows him to play faster than he is going to time in for the giant in particular you know well i don't think there could be any argument that antwon but that is eight massive upgrade over curtis riley even if father time catches up with him this year he's still a massive upgrade over curtis riley but the factories eventually father time is going to catch the sad to me in for the giants i think it would be a good move to at least take a close look at thompson and just have potentially have eight free safety of the future who could potentially learn from say a over a rookie year you're kind of like they'd hoped have with sam beal except he needed shoulder surgery yeah one thing that you mentioned kind of just in his his lungs speed and processing speed and just speed overall is we don't get full athletic profiles on these guys which is a bummer be nfl teams are going to have more information than we do rubber we're not going to have full athletic profiles so we don't really know how well that speed is going to translate and whether the short speed works at the long speed really is a concern server not going to have actual metrics on that which does hinders some of our evaluation at least mind which is something especially for defensive backs a d d athletic testing in in sport in those things it's something i would rely on a quite a bit 'cause i think those are helpful especially at defensive back on what we do get without saying though is we still get some of his coverage metra expert sports infamous lesions missile this past season stiffy targets which is a lot for his safety but he did move around a a little bit over nineteen completions which is thirty eight percent completion percentage which has quite good two interceptions eight passes defense in four point six yards per target which is also very good as so if you're in coverage i think he he can hold up so he does have that ability you you like you said you would want him to play with a deeper he's not someone who's going to really play in the box i think you mentioned this in in you're right up and it's backed up when when you watch him and when you look at some his numbers he's not someone who is asked to blitz a lot he's not somebody who's going to spend a lot of time behind the line of scrimmage last year we had one pressure that a single pressure with it for all of twenty eighteen so he does spending most since his time in the defensive backfield no if you put him on the giants a team that's probably going to once you blitz quite a bit and you're gonna have djibril peppers who is the safety is probably going to blitz quite a bit and has done that the past couple of years probably going to do that with james veteran this year will see whether peppers would completely take over that role or it's going to be mixing and matching with bringing a whole bunch of players from the secondary of which could also be the case thompson really isn't going you fit that mold so maybe he's not scheme fit in that area so what you get is a guy who a decent in coverage is he's decent downhill is just not going to make plays behind the line of scrimmage which is something you would kind of like dizzy and then my question is kind of like which seems is is where you're going to value that type of guy i've seen some people or as high as like the third round on him but if like chauncey gardiner johnson he's only going in the third round of the twenty nineteen draft i i'm not using its third on on james thompson is a fifth going to do it i i'm not sure maybe you and also like sins if you're waiting to see who who gets cut their during during training camp sending the rest of the off season i there's a potential of ubs even some some younger or veteran safety can be available maybe use a fifth round pick the trade and i still think that is one of the biggest market inefficiencies using those picks to to trades were proven veteran players maybe someone just falls out of favor isn't exactly a fit on a on a news in a new scheme and that starts to become a parent in training camp in something think that teams were prepared for at the beginning of y'all see if that happens every year so i think it's with this to i i think i'd rather find a different avenues of looking for his safety if you do need that end the giants they really have have the two main safeties and say end peppers who were going to play two very distinct role is probably with this day being the deep safety but they do have all of those young quarterbacks and we know rent haley play the slot but he might not be the starter this year so maybe he plays a little more safety you know jordan love is probably going to play between the slot in safety so i think there's there's also potential answers on the roster now that you probably don't need to use one of those picks to to to bring that type of player in they have i i do think you also after look ahead at what the potential draft class at least what you think it will look like in in twenty twenty because that's the pick you'll be using so kind of like how the giants viewed the cornerback position if they view thompson as say third or second and third round talent in they're not sure there's just that without him there's going to be that many great safeties although i just a quick word ahead if you like safety play watch l s you this year i'm just saying grant delpit is probably going to be eight top ten pick when he comes out maybe even top five he's going to be mentioned in the same breath as eric berry coming out his range ended bility on the back end to diagnose ways is kind of ridiculous but that's beside and doesn't have a whole lot to do with jaylen tops and other than the fact that there's the top of the class right there so if if the giants i think that maybe this is their best chance to get it good value than i could see them putting in maybe even a little bit higher pay then we could see right now yeah we already know that dave gettleman is not scared off of the supplemental draft he used to take last year so he's not someone who is going to adjust say the that trap investment is not worth it why some other teams like i'm so tony pauline has said that a twenty six teams were cats thompsons pro day no we don't know exactly who those forty six teams were ordered the teams who were not there on so reported thirty five and a half inches in the vertical ten feet four inch broad jump which which is decent initial forty done at four four seven seven one four five six so there is a quite a difference there those times where i can't time then unofficial thompson in meeting with the packers in other teams who have lined up interviews are the patriots rams dolphins colts in court those so will see polling says thompsons viewed as a fourth round prospect he was was viewed as a fourth round prospect during the spring end is expected to be drafted somewhere in the waiter rounds 'em so we'll see i mean if if you do you believe he is a fourth round pick and you want to just throw out at six there then then maybe that is worth it i i could see that being and being an option end will see dave gettleman has believed if the value is there he will go for it they said they viewed deal as potentially a second round pick in this in this past year draft class not sure if i completely believe that maybe he would have been this third that they used a but they did use this third on him this year so if you think he's a fourth and you want to use eighty six then then you probably can't argue with that no definitely not yet is the success rate of those late round picks is so low that if you feel like you can get a good value and and get a player who is likely to contribute especially if they're not planning on using djibril peppers as a real safety because he did mention that he's going to be playing a lot of roles and he was really that is most effective at cleveland playing a pseudo linebacker wall which we also know is a role in jamestown mattress defense so the giants could be looking at using the say that maybe down as more of a strong safety like he played at arizona last year when he had a really good year in which case they would need a fulltime free safety out they've talked about potentially trying julian love at safety i would rather stay at cornerback where we have seen him to be really really good i i'd like to see them trackwork valentine at safety just because he reminds he's been at jackson but he's also gotta make a serious jumped to go from washburn up to the nfl so maybe having a see if any safety who is used to playing safety but does have that kind of cornerback skill set that they obviously like maybe that could be appealing to yeah honestly who knows a at this point because i do we see the giants or the get not scared of this supplemental draft not scared of taking on eight crapload of defensive backs right they drafted javed's three of the four of them i'll play for because i sam sam bill really shouldn't count as a twenty nineteen draft pick even though they made it back in twenty eighteen right so three and sam deal so obviously they believe that is eight position of need a we don't disagree with them a clearly that was eight position of need last year end as you were going forward it's going to continue to be a position of need because it generous chickens probably not going to be on the roster for very dirty long it even if he gets through all of twenty nineteen and so on but safer as much as i have a praise him and i liked that signing that he's thirty five years old so d a waste of time he can be a but in above average contributor is still unknown so there is going to be time there so if you feel like this guy's going to be a value add you can get him a year earlier then you possibly wouldn't maybe i'd start that process then then maybe do it but if if you're going out like with the six round pick i it's possible that a lot of other teams are going to be doing that so the potential of of getting him might be lower but you also don't want that to make you try to overdraft i'm an you say fit their fourth his his then you're just starting to they'd give away some draft i'll probably be used better somewhere else down the line yeah that's just the gamble of the supplemental draft it it's a blind auction you don't know what anyone else's putting in if anyone else is putting in a bed on that player so you just have to evaluate him value him an if you like him hope that nobody else like some more yeah that's that's an important piece here that we should explain the supplemental draft is basically kind of like a waiver system where you put in what round you are willing to select the the given player if any round andy then with in that round you were the teams are are ranked by record's so the giants because they were white dead last year a would still be higher up in that order us so so we'll see but yeah it it's not age is it's not like anything where everyone is on the clock and they either pick were passed its teams give give the round if they're willing to pick an end if they are first up in wind then they get the player so that is how the supplemental draft goes in and that'll be the process it just kind of happens a it's not televise it just you just find out after after it happens in the supplemental draft rescheduled to be wednesday of this week so we will know quite suing a who picked to if the giants were interested in anyone or not so that is basically the the football news this week and it's just going to be whether to players a picture not in all that comes out is it's a press release so so we will see end on that note we're gonna end this episode here you can find this podcast wherever you get your podcast please rate and review if you have not those continually helping us getting seen during the off season in the training camp just around the corner so content going to be picking up very soon you could follow her work on the big review dot com if you have not read christmas profiles on boats sims end thompson they're up on big blue view dot com right now you can follow you on twitter at big we've you could follow would you on instagram at big underscore underscore if you you follow me on twitter 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The Kist & Solak Show #152: Eagles Hit Rock Bottom Against Dolphins

Bleeding Green Nation

39:32 min | 11 months ago

The Kist & Solak Show #152: Eagles Hit Rock Bottom Against Dolphins

"Today's show is sponsored by cueyer quarters the new footwear accessory brand by travis matthew it offers incredible comfort and performance without the gaudy and distracting branding that you'll find i don't most performance shoes quarters committed to making products that fits seamlessly into your everyday style products filled with useful technology that can enhance any look while providing unparallelled paralleled stability all day long so check out quarter dot com slash sb nation to learn more that's seaway t. e. r. dot com slash sb nation the economy not it listening again benjamin so lang it's the kissed in solex show presented by SP nation and bleeding great nation this is the kissed and solex show you're not flying high but you are here with us we need something something new you are laying low you are tunneling you you are collapsing you are big sad you have hit rock bottom here on the kissing solex show l. michael kissed here with benjamin so like this of course brought to you by espy nation leaning green nation this is episode one fifty two is that beat around the bush eagles lose thirty seven to thirty one onto at the time the two and nine miami dolphins down in miami with a very heavily pro eagles crowd so can't even put it on the road but then and like i'm so far beyond being upset with this team is like a parent that's that's just disappointed oh and then i'll worry i've nowhere near that i'm probably close actually but i think i've spent all my energy earlier in the season being like ticked off and i'm i'm glad you're there because i mean the fan base number one has a right to be just just completely upset with what for this season has been considering the preseason expectations and even just the expectation coming into this singular game has been an abject failure i said earlier in the year this was a team that smelled its own crap in the off season and set it must be roses and we're at the point now where it's it's someone's gotta get fired someone's has gotta go this is ridiculous you get yourself in a in a prime spot with the cowboys helping you out against the cowboys helping you out by losing to the bills and you get to this spot you tonight you were telling me before the game before the podcast ninety four percent will win probability at the beginning of the third quarter ninety four percent that is on acceptable on so many levels give that many points to an offense in the dolphins that has scored what fourteen point eight as an average coming into this game unbelievable ben then your thoughts your offense has been really bad for the last couple weeks right and no worse way than when they play the seahawks you had alshon jeffery alshon how even nelson galore out and you had of course in struggling to lose he he really pushed him was accurate and he didn't get in saint pages while whatever you got sean and you're back for this game carson should be set lane is back there's no jordan howard but you're passing offense should be what you needed to be you're playing a miami dolphins defense that has not been great and you come out there and you are exactly what you know you hope to see now the eagles five out of the six i drives they had scoring drive right drives three touchdowns in the first six which is what you need to do to get off then but it looks great and then you know now you see opening turnover and you score and then the next drive you have incompletions nelson igor great war causing suppression kicker phil while it's ten nothing okay okay next time you get the ball back ten seven you drive down the field get to third into and you don't even you're not entirely sure where like the there's a miscommunication alshon going here and there whatever so that's the guy you're supposed to be on the same page with him then he fourth in two you get a false start right from your franchise left tackle slash thirty eight year olds i should have been here for more years than he should have been left tackle and you nascar phil and that play would have converted to dis- based on the coverage and when next they kind of let that play out completed to galore but it was dead meanwhile the touchdown you just allowed was a fourth and four which went cover zero you'd seven guys scrimmage you'd everybody else in isolated man coverage which is the coverage you you lost to the falcons on in case anyone was wondering he ran that again and you go forty three yard touchdown and parker then you come on the very next drive they walk down the field to get him into third incomplete pass jalen nells gets called offer pass interference i still do not understand how that overturned not important but very important i don't agree with it being overturned based on what we've seen the entire season even on twitter like did he shoot with a gun no than the place stands of reverse i thought it was defensive pass interference to begin with but if it's not called like that on the field i was i was shocked i didn't think the ball was catchable and secondly i don't think even scheduled newer was turned around the ball on the floor and that's a good point pass interference right well this is this is my thing when it comes to do this is this is my complete when it comes to legislating play in general right the fifty thousand foot view pacifist the defender interfered with the receivers ability football football if you know review the devante parker wasn't gonna catch that football and he was not gonna catch football i couldn't happen right uncatchable chevy pass interference anyway and then these special eighteen play heard round the world then you get fourth and goal from the three year whatever and you go from one excuse me they come out and super weird formation eagles line-up man-to-man across the board don't elect not to take time out right they get motion from the kicker everybody goes crazy for this guy josh sweat allows the punter leak out and it's a it's a touchdown so now it's fourteen thirteen in a game that you've wildly outplay your opponent yeah and then you know you do do your next two drives you'll walk down the field you throw it all over them carson doesn't magic on third downs and you score two touchdowns it's twenty eight fourteen okay by the fifteen yard touchdown on down that was to j. jaw on the scramble JJ scoring football points yup good job getting getting himself open presenting a target for for wednesday and then on on the very next drive after coming out of the half miami went for a surprise onsides kick which the eagles recovered put them in in in a good spot they start moving the pocket for went a little bit more you get the ten yard touchdown to alshon jeffery on third and five they worked alshon a lot from the slot this game which will be talking about during the film review show oh but you're at twenty eight to fourteen now twenty eight to fourteen does should be game against the dolphins i wipe the dolphins away from it because like the the the team named dolphins has the connotation of like they're tanking trying to lose which they've been a feisty not awful team past five weeks yeah so they're not like vo dolphins but this is baffling right after the battle home you got a ton of home built you've got like a ton of people in the stadium you got injuries they got a week autoweek secondary beat this team gone to twenty eight twenty four two hundred fourteen so even though you should be up on them by mortgage how you played your about where you should be and then comes the complete implosion right then comes the we can't even get them into third down on when we get to complete a pass interference penalty is that we have derek eric barnett dropping it his own coverage we have josh sweat dropping in his own coverage right then we get to drive down the field dropped by zacher it's on what would have been touchdown carson gets let's act jake elliott misses a field goal right then we get to you know three and outs because carson's throwing jump ball alshon jeffery instead of running i don't know anything that's worked so far for the last three quarters we can't buy a stop and our offense just kind of loses its mind like chicken with its head cut off right becomes back to what it was with seattle it becomes back to what always with new england which was like listen we need to score twelve points on every single plane as we're gonna lose right there's no semblance of the running game which i get jordan howard's gone on your offensive line is playing one of the worst front seven in the league and you draft a mile sanderson the second round so the running game goes away and then defensively we just stayed a man coverage for the entire second half and this is where i arrive at my final point which this whole narrative builds up to you just you're running out of reasons to explain why jim schwartz in the building it's not not even like fire gym shorts because i don't think you should find him towards this week because i think that you have four weeks left of you went off for you make the NFC east you win the NFC east you make the playoffs thanks has a terrible message to the team to fire schwartz before that we don't even think you guys have a chance of doing this at all anyway so we're gonna start moving on with next off seasons moves so i would not say defiant towards at all nobody should be fired this week but you're out of reasons to explain why he showing up to work because nothing changes when the defense starts performing badly i wore that very carefully because i've said many times i'm going to say again if you do not have players who can play man coverage with really only so much you can do the defense coordinator in this league and the eagles ronald darby and jalen mills early do not have corners coverage yeah i thought it was so funny that during the game like darby got bodied nils got bodied i i thought they were gonna throw the flies for offensive pass interference they would have been weak flags but a lot of people were calling for what happens when mills doesn't get touched and guess eckes in the back of the endzone like if need your corners to get those week offense a passer fearance calls you need better corners period mills was bad the savior of this defense mills was bad darby's argues there's gonna be dame yep we're mills getting burned does not result in a drop and it was the ryan fitzpatrick the game the difference in this game number one ryan fitzpatrick has no conscious whatsoever and will throw it up one on one no matter what the coverage all frigging day it's what he did last year to number number two jalen mills is played the same differences the quarterback threw it where he needed to be and the receiver caught it that's the only difference pure ronald darby like we it's been it's been what start we can and do he can't find the beat the cashpoint so it doesn't matter if he's covered site so all of this going to say you tell jim the defense isn't playing good enough we're gonna fire you jim comes back with you i have no corners play man coverage on the corner complain cowards on that fire corey unlim- fire some scout fire somebody but if used corners who can cover them i think it's gonna work just fine if it's been great for your data yes but eventually and i would define eventually as when the dolphins have gone on five straight scoring drives the first time this year taking out the kneel down at the half five string right then they want seven straight mike i'm saying i'm saying the point of breaking point for me deep partially when they took the thirty four point lead which was was it was touchdown drive touchdown drive neil touchdown drive touchdown drive i touchdown drive now it's thirty four twenty eight late or early in the fourth i was done at that point yes that would have been my breaking point i would've said i would've i would've expected NFL defensive coordinator say what if we tried anything else upright this this this is the point where i get to you is like how many times do you have to watch mills get burned by mike to understand the jalen mills can do what you're asking to how many times do you have to see ronald darby get destroyed taller receiver so he can't compete the cashpoint before you understand that he can't do what you're asking him to do how many times does it have to be malcolm jenkins making like some ungodly played dr otherwise nobody can win in short zones nobody can wins in the middle of the field we what more information do you need to tell the you do not have the defensive personnel to do what you want to do and if jimbo's been saying this for weeks he's he's been saying this for over a year and it's been problems from the firm office in general management problems in the position coaches that's fine but i start at the defensive coordinator and i say if you're the one going into the mike cover one every every down with him to pick up where we end is this is why is what is what is jim schwartz doing the building what does he is he cleaning something is he organizing something because he's not according to defense at least not during the day and to your point ryan fitzpatrick has no conscience rabbits patrick slings it down the field against man coverage with neither with with just recently just frivolously he just out there living his life the first two or three drives interception punt punt for the dolphins i said on the internet dolphins bodied in the trenches feels like feels like they she goes spread and try to win out of the gun one step three step drops should not have said that allowed this was the formula that fitzpatrick had with tampa bay last last year didn't tampa fitzpatrick went to the sidelines at hey i don't know if you saw ice threw for four hundred yards on these cats last year we did take time to install this game plan on the sideline ryan so no traceable it's really simple we just asked the receivers to run down the field there and then we said we could threaten them like brian mr florez let me try it once ray why i would i would actually happened like we're joking that happened on sunday insulin it happened on tuesday and the meeting room or fitzpatrick said listen like we just if you just ask this wasn't on third down this is what i like against them in like honestly like we still aww devante mean we've got him you know what i mean like that's going to because that's no secret everybody in the moment knows that salt i've now done unfinished i'm calling we can talk more specifics but but i'm i've reached the point where like a personally the philadelphia eagles scored thirty one points you're expected to win games score thirty one points offense having having missed field goal punt punt from the third quarter of the fourth quarter not great that's bad scoring twenty eight points after the first drive of the third quarter is excellent lint and not should have been enough what at twenty eight fourteen you have a ninety four percent win win percentage as ESPN tracker thing so like the offense fezzet gone defensively if you are willing to throw against this team you're gonna put up at least thirty it's been in the case since the packers game when the eagles beat the packers the packers weren't willing to throw if you're willing to let your quarterback pass the football all you have to do is hold the eagles offense under thirty yup and you're going to beat them the eagles after went out to win the NFC east they're gonna the redskins beat the panthers the rats are football down the field they showed it when they nearly beagles when we won the giants are probably gonna throw it 'cause i don't know who knows maybe coaching the team at the time but then the cowboys are we're gonna sling it up and down the artem this team and there's nothing like what do they do nothing nothing because at the end of the day they're gonna play man coverage on late downs they're gonna blit six or seven might downs and they're gonna lose them those downs over and over and over and over again there is no hope in god we are all going to die ryan fitzpatrick twenty-seven for thirty nine three hundred sixty five yards three touchdowns and the interception that came on the first play of the game where basically there there was a pig happening there and dan boy carson wentz for his end twenty eight forty six three ten three touchdowns in that hail mary interception if you if you can't win with thirty one points against the miami dolphins i don't know what you're doing there i am sure somewhere somebody's gonna be mad at the performance carson wentz had i thought it was a solid day at the office you throw forty six times you're up for most of the game you're in the ball nineteen times what happened the running game we were this was a run first team for the majority of the season you louis jordan howard all said you can't do it now sanders wasn't bad man i don't not necessarily get that either and look i said on twitter that somebody's going to get fired up to this game i don't care who my actual thought is i don't think anybody is no fire anybody when you're facing down four divisional games of the potential to win the division you're ready for a stat boy for this was from cowboy stats and graphics cowboy stats before week twelve the cowboys boys were six and four and per fivethirtyeight they had fifty nine percent chance to win the division since then they've gone to and then i have a sixty six percent chance to uh-huh because i've doing favors for the cowboys man this is really worst like here's what's uh showing if the cowboys had beaten the bills switch on thursday did i enjoy eating food and watching the cowboys lose to the bills okay yeah julia i don't care how bad the eagles are if they had the eagles losing to the dolphins oftens would have botched it yep there's no chance of winning the division it not no chance but it's pretty much over unfortunately we now have to watch the giants games in the redskins has gained a high yes my NS east hoax dead they are sack rosenblatt after the game talking about how multiple players saying that the eagles had a quote unquote great week of practice that's what everybody somebody says yeah i know that's what everybody says either one of the the the bees are also laughing pearson cena the dolphins are good football ball team much like can't say they're not after the beat you get out of bed football team because what does that tell your team you have to call them a good football team we only ever get beat by football teams that yeah protects us from being right by tra transplant bad football team all right let's take a break we're gonna be backyard and kristen so elect show right after this this episode is sponsored by stash a smarter simpler way to start investing with sash you can begin investing in a wide array of companies diversified funds for as little as five dollars stash offers unlimited trading 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basically every tuesday we talk about everything from cooking disasters to pro wrestling too unfashionable pants worn middle school we also do talk about college college football every now and then like mascot fights announcers fleeing the early and unfashionable pants that coaches where now if you want to take college football exactly as seriously seriously as it should be taken subscribe for free on apple podcasts or in your favorite podcast app and we are back here on the kiss and solex elect show episode one fifty two brought to you by the punk folk espionage chablis degree nation michael kissed here with benjamin sollac bend let's dial in on some individual performance for the eagles number no one else on jeffrey who boy he's still slow still caught nine passes for one hundred and thirty seven yards and a touchdown somehow on sixteen frigging targets zakar struggling with a hamstring came out for point and came back in then had a key drop in the end zone had a couple of key drops in this game high leverage drops dallas dallas got her played well i thought six receptions sixty six yards are gonna whiteside we already talked about having the the the touchdown mouse sanders also having a touchdown so carson wentz three touchdowns three three different targets but also some key mistakes by some guys carson wentz included you notice a couple of roads that he missed in there as well but what did you think about the individual performance from the players on the offense it's been i said i'll sean catches he catches the football which is why he continues to be targeted yeah i thought it was weird that people really he had one bad game of drop in the football that it was against the bears if i'm not mistaken riyadh three drops other than that he caught the football just finding the dude has absolute mitts and he made some tough catches in this game he just looks super super slow anyway go ahead alex writes alshon is not an incredibly like like you know athletic anymore that's the reality you know injuries had beaten him up and he's gone older and that's just how that echo sometimes that being said he's clearly NFL caliber player is kelly NFL starter decided the best zero eagles roster carson the football it's it's also worth noting that he there's nothing he doesn't do that like devante parker does devante parker those of you who may be wondering just went for seven receptions one hundred fifty nine yards and three touchdowns i guess eagles now he did that moss and much smaller corners in getting those shots the eagles like they always wanna get alshon these one on one shots he's like working released moves worst they'd let them post up a little bit yeah but either way noah parker 'cause i saw eagles else some eagles fans i know beal gee put one of these in his re cabinet you can find it noah becker says devante parker was available for almost nothing in a trade each of the last two years eagles traded a third for tate in a forthr- avery number one every single one of you did not want devante parker on the trade blocs stop lying for all of this including me including you including how everybody don't want why because departure is not a good football player also worth noting we're getting these tweets off after devante lante parker had lent to release a career day to on departure as i just told you seven receptions one hundred nine yards and two touchdowns he has never had two touchdown game in his career he has never had over a hundred and fifty receiving yards and a game his career by the way you want another fun fact there mike buddy old how mike sickie tight end and five receptions seventy nine yards and a touchdown mike asked me if he has ever had seven reception game before early no already no nope nope he has caught one line passing touchdown before this game and it was lasting cleveland mike ezekie and devante parker both had games against philadelphia today that's where we that's where we're at with this defense and let me tell you this if you were really pounding the table for devante parker at some point and you say that i mentioned i will advance twitter search you and in call you out so you find eagle should train for devante parker where you bed you're in my mentions anybody and if you haven't had anything anything had anyway yeah so alison yeah i'll have like a good game which was fun he did he had a commanding he had some double catches but he like he made the pro tackles and like you know caught footballs had to one from wednesday was a frigging laser that he'd like double caught but like i totally get it and it was a really catch from laura so i mean he he looked competent today that's all we can ask for right lesson fund bragwell have a nice day very excited it's helpful to the team he's not back next year it doesn't matter got great day seven targets six sketches sixty six yards bingo out targeted out 'cause aggravates appre probably out snap them go out for a couple of series drop i think he tweaked the hammy on he came back in and they tried to get it out when you had that draws in the end zone when it was garbage time definitely matter but it was the drop inside the ten on second seven when the game was twenty eight twenty that was the one that really really hurt yeah he like i said beat up a little bit with the hamming but those two drops really really rough if you're gonna get a bad soccer at st that's when you have to start relying lyon guys that can all cycle guys like deja statewide side against that third down target that he's not able to handle deep downfield arts this is why like him i'm being out potential such a big deal he's not one hundred percent but whatever and then sanders remains getting better but they do not have as active of a rushing attack back when howard is out yeah did you don't have the same variety of concepts then you have the same a reliance on it which you know honestly kinda good like there's way less than ten runs which is nice it's good and bad yeah there is different but also it really would have been helpful to have a howard sanders offensive line macho drive their third quarter to lessen how often the dolphins kept getting the football get a couple first downs the old fashioned way as it were take some time off the clock and help your defense let's settle a little bit gets more time on the sideline so the eagles need help but watch seaver there's no line about that but al shawa future starter on this team to sean jackson's coming back digitalized kawai said it's gonna remain on this team they need more player than they neither their guys to stay healthy and they need their young players to develop so to me not the biggest problem they're all out of their mind it's all the defense line fell asleep a bit in the second half wasn't the case earlier in the year when people were complaining about the pressure when when a man can take a shotgun snap take a three step drop robin throw no pressures arriving doesn't happen we we had this discussion after the tampa bay game and around that time too and that was a stretch with the eagles in face a quarterback that was over two point four seconds akin's time to throw and when i started if it's patrick i found that seventy one percent of his throws in that week two matchup were within the top of his dropper one hitch i feel that you're gonna find a lot of the same from fitzpatrick in this game because again identify one on one gopher one online means the same thing that that foles would do to get up to cover one cool i've got one on one let's take that all day and that's that's what i was doing so despite the fact that the eagles had some very advantageous match ups and only the interior but also on the outside as well i mean the left tackle for the dolphins went down early i couldn't even tell oh you the backups name but barnett with them early and of course i got added about it but whatever i i can understand why the pass rush was a little quiet in the second half despite the fact that i i still probably wanted to see better we're gonna look at the film and and kind of take a look at that ben man it's it's so frustrating because we can say that the eagles still have a shot to to win out i don't know how we can say that this is this is this just a game by game thing man i we i feel like we gotta stop saying and i know it's a joke and i know it plays well on the time line and whatnot they're still will it's frustrating because it still reason for hope around this team this team is not a serious playoff contender at at the there's no way that you can say that so even if they win the NFC east somehow some way because the cowboys just fall apart which they they kind of are doing before our eyes a lot of talk about jason garrett going on with them but even if that does has happened i think it's i think it's a bit fool's gold in the NFC east is i mean really a bit of a joke right now and and it's frustrating with expectations coming into the season that this is where we're at because even with the injuries and other things going around the offense and defense started get guys back and they were solid four games and you have to do and whatnot i was still a little skeptical optical about that obviously for good reasons because we saw what just happened against dolphins by expecting this team to win out and play consistent complimentary football i the is just a apply trine regardless of the opponent right now so i i'm i'm really not i mean i would love to say look on the bright side but for me right now that's just an expression nothing nothing tangible in my eyes moving forward for the eagles i mean we're starting to get to the point where when you start looking at some replacements for this guy start i think someone in three words mentioned mock drafts and stuff like that like it's getting close to that season fellas easing a really really isn't it's it's super frustrating obviously that the coaching staff in the towel on this team is not going to be the same next year and it can't be i'm out here here making myself my defensive coordinator target lists yes nice yeah well that was always our thing where i was always like we are in relation shorts with yeah well now actually able to answer that freaking gladsden so schwartz saved his job over the last you know two to four weeks mainly only the two weeks because they were decent offenses are better didn't he goodness you know how skeptical i was about it the scoreboard and all that stuff not decay dropping passes and wilson overthrowing guys in the end zone man boy oh boy what up fr- frustrating loss of one that we definitely did not see coming but we shouldn't be that surprised by giving what this is team has a shona throughout the seasons but she the consistency of complimentary football that is that is just not happened since two thousand seventeen let's go to three words every week we asked you gentlest or if you're new to this for three words to describe the game that you just watched and of course will we talk about him right here so there's about four hundred responses right right now as i'm looking at it i i like this one at based gene gene wurley says butts for players usually the three words but for hands which i mean missile does apply to this game a little bit but butts players at the bri ninety ryan says only keep doug i think there's a serious if obviously not this week but about coming into this off season black monday is going to be a pretty tough for a lot of these positional and coordinators for the eagles they can not keep things the same they cannot spell their own oh crap and thank you just promote everybody things will be fine they need fresh new ideas in this building dr feelgood at map the outlaws seriously fire schwartz in short by scroll through all of these we're gonna see a lot of that i d k at four tomorrow underscore mouse says laugh out loud and then chronologically early eighty minutes later he responds to his own he says laugh through pain which i really enjoyed because he was like ha i'm laughing and then over the course semantics was like oh i'm really sad and then came back to make sure that we understood he was laughing out loud but he was really laughing through pain i'm gonna throw a flag on brandon league out in may he reign forever forever rain may forever rain excuse me history words is actually just one word and and it's no which is wrong yeah that's not how we do things you should know the rules by now also flag on tim koala at kuala underscore him he he says this the whole teeny hyphenated hold team sir i will not read responsible old for me once again ben fully once and then stop it stops after that okay so at matt grumbach the notorious MTFG says third atrocious effort i do do not agree but there is an interesting sort of question about now i mean like you keep expecting the rally early performance to come in and keeps coming i don't think it's an effort thing with this town it's the effort thing either but like it would be nice to see a game in which like like like geez thing where where it's like the eagles offense defense can't play well at the same time we're just everyone has their hair on fire like revenue they're going to be rising it'd be a moment where teams like hey let's all the be better than we were and not just us and some of us be worse i think that comes down to each unit as a team executing and would you execute and you're your fiery like that you have more fun at looks at it gives that look of it being like oh man they are playing with their hair on fire today there's a plane really good complementary football everybody's playing playing well again i don't think it's an effort thing with this team yeah i don't either but like it's it's weird bright yeah i mean they don't have the same energy that they had back in two thousand seventeen for sure that energy jeeze long gone i'm throwing a flag on ginger beard eleven again at p. fan ninety p. h. a. n. multiple responses and one i mean there there are several here fired jim schwartz wife fire gyms sports is kids at least fulls got bench like these are all forwards bad bad bad on smart we're not not gonna read those you remember last year when the eagles so they lost the the overtime game to dallas right on the douglas which by the like another thing i would have considered if i was going to stay in man dan coverage for the whole game is after the whole hey ronald darby can't get up putting in douglas messana up after legals lose to dallas on the douglas deflection they're six and seven this was supposed post like this was supposed to be like the season is over and then they win three and they go to the playoffs right technically the dallas game is when we were their backs are against the wall right they lost in orleans beaten your can beat washington to get to dallas they're supposed to be dallas and that was gonna be the game of the division and then they lost it and then they win in three in a row dallas loses a game that they weren't supposed to lose or something on the eagles win the division this dolphins game hannah feels like that they needed to win this stay in the playoff phrase right and then they lose it and now it's like all right now their backs are rudely really up against the wall so are they going to have kind of like a wake-up performance last year they had the foles the in fact this year they don't have that so that's the i don't know like what i'm trying to figure out why is this team keep coming out is kinda like being a died like nobody seems to want to win a football game there's no foles looks like you know you and i both now we are not the whole like foles is the solution people whose wh where where's the rally income from mars is gonna come from let's say it's gonna be karsan arson but it's never been carson before it's an interesting thought because it's like wasn't all foles was it doug's messaging really starting to hit home type of thing like doug has been able to pull this team at a bad stretches of play before and get them on a run this team is just not not able to do it i mean there were rallying all of two thousand seventeen it wasn't just this foles that was part of wants to point doggone good football you're winning you're having fun i just can't get themselves out of this out of this rut at this point and i said it earlier on the season season there's seems like there's a leadership issue going on with his team right now and i don't know who it is the coach the quarterback as it is the veterans on defense is who is it because whatever's happening i mean obviously i think change in that locker room needs to happen along with with the coaching staff as well and we kind of talked about that throughout the week like do they need to do with the seahawks did and get rid of some of these other voices in these veteran guys or whatnot and guys that were around for that in the further away from foles that you get by the way was benched today as you get further away from that maybe that starts to change in the team realizes okay it's not i just we're not just going to snap our fingers is going to happen yeah you'd really like to see the rally performance right yup that's my main thing is this is what this stretch needed to be we'll say i'm inches i'm really really really interested to see how they come out next week against the giants in primetime monday night football because it's not embarrassing looser the seahawks or the patriotism balancing looser the dolphins like this and in this fashion in any felon got over five hundred went into the bye week and i'm now lost three in a row at some point point somebody's gotta be like hey what if we stopped doing this one football instead you know at some point they're gonna have to have some sort of like smart now and if it's not not enough such that they like lose to the giants say that allowed then like it's not going to be just like fire this is going to make a lock room implosion you know what i mean i think of they beat new york beat the giants loose dallas and then quietly fired from towards whatever they get embarrassed by the giants or by the redskins loose foreign row primetime time ESPN monday night football at hall that's like that's the that's where they see this could boil over i know we've gone ten miles away from three words i was just going down that rabbit hole than that question about motivation made me think of somebody said no finger wag today which because finger wag is not confirmed to separate words i'll let it go it could be announced there's no real way of knowing leeann finger wag today at all for jalen mills who unfortunately every incompletion force was subsequently filed with a pass interference penalty sweet sweet child just a bad day man just a bad day i'll be looking at a lot of quarterbacks come draft time quarterbacks wide receivers man i'm about done i'm i'm about done talking about this team this game i'm gonna need twenty four hours before the film drops get that little grace period in there but i mean i don't know what else thursday on in the fact that it's just a massive disappointment ready for another stat yeah the eagles all manned twitter's not handle this one the the eagles are now owen seven and games in which they've trailed at any point in the fourth quarter of the season week to atlanta we three week six is minnesota we seven against thousand eleven twelve thirteen against england seattle in miami they have not been behind in the fourth quarter this year one which they're all in seven in those games games and they're five and seven that team's final way to lose those close games i mean i've always said that we could talk about carson being clutch blase blase blah i mean that that that's what it comes down to her are you want to use this to go after carson anger dreams yeah isn't what it was the model of this podcast what what is our national anthem is not hard to tell when the quarterback is throbbing the football team yeah he was a deputy definitely wasn't today boy ben all right that's that's it i'm done you're done round here the say goodbye to the gentle listeners thank you as always we're listening to talk show here on BGN radio would you appreciate swinging winging bhai even though i'm sure it was not a nice podcast listen to your continued support is appreciated by us as we look to the last four games the final poll of this dreadful twenty nineteen football season for the five and seven philadelphia eagles as i said the giants monday night football up next for you with the division division still woefully on the line the eagles looking to make that week sixteen game against the cowboys matter for those you playing for those who still believe if the cowboys at the bears on sunday night football and then home against the rams on sunday before they catch the eagles the weekend of the twenty second week 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005: Ambiguity Hurts with Kevin Garcia

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43:58 min | 1 year ago

005: Ambiguity Hurts with Kevin Garcia

"It makes sense yeah so are you doing cold open or is like what we're about to do I don't know maybe says the cold open our right all right let's see so should we start from the what are we doing are we starting at the top or at the I think we might as well start at the time like Kevin particularly in the Progressive Christian world because Kevin is someone that talks has if they're a normal human that enjoys life but also thinks hard and earnestly about things and often times I feel like at least experiences with Progressive Christian folks is in a university context where people are speaking really heavy and verbose and Kevin so special Kevin has this uncanny ability to take these lofty theological concepts and present them in a way that is approachable you have to have a certain vocabulary to to have any sort of input in conversation yeah I totally get that and that's what makes but the phrase enjoying life Kevin certainly would not use that phrase to describe how they grew up when I talk with Kevin Garcia about well about all sorts of different things primarily to share Kevin Story to dance on inclusion is it good bad as hurt despoilers probably hurts that's why we the Church doctrine ambiguity yes so in other words like when churches aren't clear about their policies in this case specifically toward LGBTQ inclusion on LGBTQ folks and their positions in the church in whether churches are being explicit about what new series that we have going on right so we have once again incidentally run into a series of calm an entrepreneur camp junkie adventure I just feel like it's really refreshing to come across people right and I think that that ultimately is is what the next couple episodes will lead into different perspectives coming from different voices What does it mean both to the congregation to the people who are attending and to the ministers when the church is not explicit in this we brought Kevin on the show because Kevin has some personal experience with being a part of a church that wasn't clear on Lgbtq inclusion it does positions are that are available to and the big question is like What does what does it mean to not be explicit in your policies I think that I I self identify as a spiritual director at intuitive life coach a creative a public give Kevin a space to talk about the church and who Kevin is and but primarily we talked with Kevin for this he'll lojane is something that I allowed myself to start calling myself recently and a mystic and somebody who and feeling the repercussions of that all right we'll we'll I'm ready so let's take us away nate -tations that we've had that seem to all be in line with each other and these this series is going to center on Exodus International for the following twelve years which was the largest ex gay ministry in the world An effective learned how to hate myself in suppressing sexual orientation another episode of thanks pod Nate on this episode you talked with Kevin Garcia career I did hoping for God's change however that's not a thing so at the end of that unlike twenty four years old I have become so in order to live out what Kevin had been told is this authentic version of Christianity Kevin starts working with this mission organization a turned fourteen realized I was attracted to boys was horrified because Christians don't struggle with that kind of stuff I was Kevin Garcia who is that is a great question who am I right now well right now antle ISM is real and sometimes it feels impossible and in the midst of this turmoil Kevin Attempt suicide twice six okay cool so you start with just like yeah who's Kennedy is who are you right now and then how grow up how Bella I must not want the healing bad enough I'm not want the things of God bad enough I must be the problem and the emotional physical and mental toil of overcoming but that doesn't solve anything I came home from the mission field thought that I was me like I'm like okay apparently because I'd it's not gone through like crazy college years I have done I've you know double down on my fundamentalism at this point become a missionary for God's of so sad I was I hated my life I'm working for this missions organization that I quit like because that makes is that maybe their humanity isn't at odds with God that their sexuality isn't at odds with God maybe Kevin didn't have to fundamentally change themselves in order to be the person that God created them to be get down with celibacy because like that's what I gotta do or I gotTa figure this shit because I can't keep living like this because I was here at this conservative pentecostal organization it was there where Kevin had this profound moment when they realize I woke up after the second time and I was like well still here maybe it's for a reason and I figured okay I either need to a Okay let me let me stop here and say that I love the way that Kevin Talks about the Holy Spirit this is really cool to listen to this for me now it was always trust what the Holy Spirit is saying to you and as I trust him with the Holy Spirit was saying to me kept getting this this word or this Santa and now I'm currently in the process of putting together this new project called the big adventure co where we're GONNA lead like a bunch of amazing retreats and I'm pretty thrilled about okay so I think that this is a good time to pause we'll be right back with more Kevin Story but before that we wanted to God this is what love is this is what like connecting in this particular way is so that's I impression that being gay was fine being queer was okay and not only was it okay but it was good and it was a part of me and so the more I started trusting that it was feeling like this something in my body and upwelling something and energy love that drew me to the person of Jesus and I don't know how to explain it I don't think most people know how to explain it but why is it that I can trust that feeling and all other feelings after that and the best way to help thanks upon if you liked the content that we're bringing you if you want to hear more stories like Kevin's if you want us to tackle more of these themes the last I was able to stay where I was until eventually came out and got kicked out of that organization and to Atlanta with no job and no money no so it was well it is that if you're excited about the themes and conversations that we're having on these episodes these early episodes becoming but I think that knowledge some folks call it the Holy Spirit for years after having this profound moment with the Holy Spirit after coming to terms with their sexuality today me and you would prefer not to have to type that into your search bar you can just check out the description of this episode there's a link it'll take straight there this thing is very interesting like Naza I've been doing my own healing work over the past few years learning to listen to my body and in from tell you about how you can help thanks to be deployed so we're a few episodes in now things are getting rolling and the need a patron of thanks be to pod is your best chance at submitting new content and themes for us to start talking about here that and these issues and if you want to know of the communities that the Christian communities that are getting it right then we need your help and the thanks be to pod right Patriot dot com slash thanks be to pod yeah I think an important thing to notice Yes yes you should anyway we need we need patrons to make this happen and you can check us out okay anyway back to the sense slash trauma Israel I start working for them in hopes that God is GonNa heal me if I just really am like really really sincere this time have really we are in an awesome environments with like minded people but things went sour pretty quickly searching for a church I mean like many of us Kevin Desires Fellowship and Community and friends in a place where they can belong so at the time a couple of years being with all this great stuff going on but a few years ago after coming to terms with their sexuality after acknowledging both to themselves and to the world that they are queer and the God doesn't have a problem with Kevin Kevin Searching for community that's where we're going to ask folks about what it is they want to hear about next so it is Patriot dot com slash thanks to potter but if you're lazy like I You know help national conferences on the educating people on the bill case for inclusion I've been an organizer I still do organizing here four years later I have spent my last four years telling my story in one form or another over blogs and podcasts and videos Oh when I talk about Holy Spirit when talk about hearing the Voice of God when they talk about hearing the Holy Spirit or following the Holy Spirit and I also talk about my body I for me it's like all one spaces for queer people of face to find healing and connect with chosen family and what's the other doing oh I'm writing a book that's going to be on December now so let's let's rewind a couple of years here no we're Kevin is now we know who Kevin is now is Joyce you mean that I don't want to be gay this time God I mean it and while I was there like it's like it was a very charismatic holy ghost role in place and so your help is growing ever more colby and I are not millionaires bat not by a long shot and podcasting is expensive it's not cheap hip sexy and cool like who doesn't want to be around sexy hipsters mostly white but having conversations about race it's just wrong and stupid or sinful and I remember like the first time that I kissed a boy on the mouth and I remember feeling like fireworks and lasers that's the way to do that. Kobe is through our patriotic website right which is what what where do people go patriots dot com slash thing of eating to an hungry and resting I'm tired to also dislike you know when something's writing something's wrong like it's just the various deeper inner knowledge that we have go the person that Kevin is dating is going to a church in Atlanta and by all appearances this is a place where Kevin can be themself could be openly and if you've never heard of patriotic before it is the service used by a ton of podcasters literally it's like the Renaissance when when Michael Michael Angelo was supported by Patriot yeah funny enough so When I was at adventures in missions which was the missions were missing snows working at I actually was dating a woman at the time because Ah I was trying really really hard to you know Mary women but typically I just who I am I don't typically fall in love with women because it was exactly like adventures in missions in many ways like outwardly focused you know charismatic in some ways but not over the top searching find your person you find out who's going to be doing your marital counseling all right in the first three weeks right Yep Yep so going to this church and I'm really enjoying it and the reason I'm drawn to it and if you want to lead a small group and that's what I did raise my hand and also I've been in ministry my whole life selling wipe wouldn't I want to lead a very successful and so you know I was just attending so I went through like the go meet like they had like this mixer thing for adults basically what it was the same and what what I mean by that is this is what I was feeling what brought us to Jesus right you know what Jesus and the first one gonna be able to lead some really important conversations around the LGBTQ questions so I'm over here thinking I've hit the Jackpot right of Churches Oh my God this church is on the brink of change and inclusion we need you to be our patron as we paint this beautiful Sistine Chapel Comex Peter Pot it can be a part of that and so of course like myself righteous ass is like you know totally jazzed and then like all house church and guess what thirty people showed up to my first little meeting because you know what I'm good at what I do and I also was like totally open to everyone degrees midtown they seem to be kind and you know it was a big enough church where I knew that I wouldn't have to or I wouldn't run into my former girlfriend made her uncomfortable right like a mixer for adults right where you can come in meet WHO's going to be in your new small group and former new small group and the only the only requirement for you to be a small group leader was razor I'm saying their name out loud because they set it on the Internet already so you did yeah and so I started going there she brought me there when we were the most beautiful collection people ever was a part of may really was its own little church and we're meeting at one of our pastor's house until they said hey in there and he says I'm sorry but we can't allow you to lead right now because that would be US making a statement make W church leadership making a statement that were not prepared to make three weeks things were fine and then I get pulled into a meeting okay before sorry back up before I actually started leading the small group I actually got dinner with one of the pastors I'm queer and gay like I'm here to lead you into all truth slash ruin marriage for the rest of you so I'm leading and and I just sat there a hurt his whereas like you fucking light to me banning her life together we were really like you know it's the thing that Evangelical Christians do where like the envision their entire life within the first three weeks in like you know you find your who is in charge of the house churches and I said am I ever GonNa hit a glass ceiling here told him my whole sob story the whole nine yards about how excited to find a church grace made but trying really really hard to be the good Christian tm and she went to Grace Midtown Grace Midtown is the church that I attended I don't have oh after we got kicked out he said like there is some conversations happening among the leadership and the board of elders and they voted to officially adopt the they like maybe you didn't mean to cause he even told me that he was just hoping that it was going to like float like it would just go under the radar you didn't WanNa you don't WanNa tell me no and hurt my feelings and you're just hoping that the loudest queer in the room would make any noise Oh my God yes where progressive Yeah and so when I came out and move landed water nowhere else I wanna go to church like you know hey you're no longer allowed to host the gaze at your house pastor in so he had to set down under threat of losing his job which was very very unfortunate and coffee with all of you sharing my story with all of you crying in front of you and this is what's going to happen now you're just GonNa drop this on us and the Grace Midtown family of Churches Statement on marriage and family which defined marriage as between one man and one woman however it did not further define until the day when this church adopts a policy that says that I'm not welcome fast forward two years later after me and my friends started our own small group because no one's paying attention to US anyways in with each other and seeing worship songs taking communion that's what we were doing and you're telling me that that's not okay to a pastor's house so I was just I was so few so all the guys got together and started a gala small group because we needed a space together because we needed a space to process what was happening and we called it the open table and it was you know that that was my first taste of discrimination within the walls of my own church and so and I told him that night I said you have me in what an openly queer person how they could interact with the church more how like if they could be a member or if they could participate or how they could participate or whatever I was asking all these questions and of course he didn't have any idea he just knew that this is what they were going to implement Mike so you're telling me that I've spent the last two two ish years having that I could just lied and no one knows me so you weren't actually proud of me for like stepping up as a member of this church like you weren't actually excited for me you were hoping on because I felt like I belonged Blah Blah Blah Blah and he said and I quote you are Never GonNa hit a glass ceiling here we want you to be here you are important I think like you cannot it doesn't it doesn't make sense in the reason it doesn't make sense is because it doesn't make sense it's because people are more concerned with power and keeping the status quo tweet they're quick to support it to re tweet it to share it but when it comes to actually enacting stances out on the ground now granted I didn't say that to him in the moment because I was crying but in hindsight I wish I would have because that's excellent why in my opinion so it was just it was it was mind blowing to me I'm just like the inclusion and affirmation is is that when there's a theory or doctrine or an article or a quickie that's that so my story wasn't important to you so you were listening but you weren't hearing me and it was one of those things where it's just like Korea since I get in this meeting with the lead pastor this was on my birthday no less turning twenty eight years of age and he says so and check than they are about actually living out the gospel of Jesus you know it's like it reminds me like the story I'm stuck on right now is Luke here is suffering at your hand because you won't do something so to me this is this is the hang up that I have with pastoral responses did you understand the damage that this is going to do people like how much people trust you right now and think that you love them and you're gonNa tell them actually don't think that your love is valid and we actually think that I making a terrorist welcome then like I got an email was like why did you take away our space we why did they wait we weren't doing we were literally we were reading the Bible and in two three weeks in I get called into a meeting with Mike O. Leaders a married couple so I get to this meeting and I knew what it was about from the get-go and I'm sitting Jesus healing the woman on the Sabbath the religious leaders are like Oh my God oh my God you can't he honest Abbas like that's against the rules and Jesus says Oh you guys are hypocrites you untie your donkey and lead them to water but she would not let this woman who has been bound up by saint for eighteen years be set free on the Sabbath and it's just like that meth the question is do you not see the suffering right in front of you you're going to quote a rule at me you're gonNA quote a rule that me and your sister right yes that's what blows my mind is just like you are you call me friend so any like you've prayed over me and my boyfriend come on that sinful like it was it was like a chemical as much as possible and then I just laughed I was just like you you don't even believe you see this quick decline in willingness they're willing to post online about being an ally or even preach about the need for Christians to be allies that come alongside LGBTQ plus people but when they have to defend a queer small group leader on instagram friends of ours who are openly gay posting pictures in front of them and part of the reason for that is because of that that people like Kevin get hurt by churches off guard our LGBTQ friends posting pictures of themselves in front of mega churches that are that are not affirming because Kevin would have never walked in that door I mean but it's because churches remain ambiguous on who they are because these churches are intentionally unclear about where they stand on inclusion and that's where I think a lot of people get fooled is that you know I have so one of the reasons that we wanted to talk with Kevin to share Kevin Story was specifically because of Kevin's church experience and being burned by a church that is where they could be themselves and then that that wasn't true that was never true and because of the church never had assessed this if this had been assessed from the very beginning if it had been clear from the very beginning the church had thought this through before Kevin are huge it's really really the population of Queer people is going to be smaller and so of course like you know we float by each other we don't even know what that were there friends who you know I found an entire group on meet up one time of of like LGBTQ people who go to passion city and because because like megachurches coming I mean some of them even have ties to the Southern Baptist Convention which I which I promises not an affirming organization and yet we saw this on facebook marriage and injured oh I don't know I'm like well if you don't know that's data because if a church is an outright celebrating people then they don't celebrate people they don't welcome Queer people because welcome to be welcomed as to be celebrated to be welcomed as not to just have a seat at the table other people however if you're someone like I always ask them just like would would would you get married they're like your church allow you to get married walked in that door even if they had come down on the UN affirming side I mean if they had come down on the air on affirming side then this situation would have been avoided yeah and also we've also like we're we're just happy to belong a lot of times queer people are just happy to show up and go to church and clap their hands and feel good like all the these are churches that you've probably heard of their churches with the big worship teams that produce music that like every evangelical church in the United States things but they are not unclear in their policies toward LGBTQ folks happens far too often and in the weeks leading up to this episode Kobe and I noticed something on social media that kind of really caught us oh well ovation doesn't do marriages anywhere on any campus I'm just like okay but just like would one of your pastors Mary you then you know would they affirmed like to be welcomed as to be celebrated and like the thing is like you can have a seat at the table and still be eating different meals you know what I'm saying you can still in like a lot of times just like we like or not I have been attending a church after all of the conversation that we had about whether I was going to continue good that the scraps are okay that our birthright is not the wedding feast of the lamb so I was at a church last week believe it go to a church following being a pastor and ending that time for me but I've been attending a church and Stan Mitchell was pre ourselves for years and years and LGBTQ plus folks are sitting underneath the table graciously accepting the wind sewed breadcrumbs that I mean I really liked that and then eventually you're at the table and like they feed you for a while and you're feeling good and then they start bumping you over to the edge and then eventually like you're serving and then eventually you're just standing on the edge of the room again ching and he said something to the effect of of we have been sitting at the table we being the church have been sitting at the table wining and dining I'm just happy to be in the room and you get the scraps at the end of the meal that's what it feels like is that and the people we just like we've been conditioned to think that the scraps are there's another issue at hand here and one that this podcast has attempted to address or at least talk about conservative search needs to leave its current exclusive table to joined Queer folks at their team yeah stand believes it is our duty as the church to invite or make room at our table for LGBTQ plus folks but instead the institutional a PC USA has so many brilliant minds and also has in my opinion a really good robust theology that allows for us fall from our lips he continued in win is the institutional church going to realize they've been sitting at the wrong table the whole time Zelikow spaces I mean if we're being honest they feel so much more modern than the typical progressive mainline church and feeling like you are in a space that belongs in the twenty for there to be a progressive modern church yes the there is a possibility it's just it just exists so few and far to liberate ourselves in ways that I didn't know where possible and the problem with PC USA it's mostly white so that there is that between that it's hard to imagine And it is it is a smaller part of like I feel like this is something my friend miles and I talk about a whole like I feel like there is it's okay to be attracted to a more modern space and yet the movie on spaces often are the more conservative ones so like is there a possibility places like elevation that also fall in line fall on the line of Jesus as your personal savior and it's about you and it's about it's narcissists first century I mean that's attractive to millennials and so I I put this question to Kevin in ask Kevin about worship spaces you were saying you were saying like one of the things that Kevin Point out here that that you and I have talked about is that modern worship spaces are hard to find I mean that's kind of one of the Sudarshan sustain that's true but they really they really do in some ways I think do a good job of saying we love you no matter what Dan the collectives of people like I am friends with some really wonderful people out in La Part of New Abbey Church which is a progressive historically white is just problems in general two older three I don't love Y'all Tim's I'm just going to say it all their worship music it's like worship music is influence in this world in some way because like it also pontificates your own theology in my opinion which I think most of their theology church New York City so these spaces exist what I think makes this okay this is what I think is really interesting the baffle I mean granted there's a whole subculture of Christianity that lends itself to celebrity which makes the dissemination of cultures like Bethel and Hill Song and elevation I mean people are attracted to pop music let's just be honest people are attracted to music that makes them Wanna move and so like spaces like baffled spaces like north points the point of this podcast is that all the were coming across these progressive modern spaces there's so few and far between and this raises all a- and so it's one of those things I think it can be done I think it will look different so my hope is like online they're leading the charge and it's healthy at its growing and diverse in its you know its sex positive and it's LGBTQ affirming its women empowering it's like wow that can have and then there's other places like Denver leg left-hand Church there is places like forefront I really want more churches I think like I think for for better or for worse I think that the Church win is doing its job is a really really effective each one of them it's like there's this beautiful like and there's nothing wrong with mainline denominations or lit or anything like together we all did manicures on people speed people who walk all the time and that was church and then I also you know went and and I went to Brunch afterwards announced church so for me it's like I am a big believer in lake redefining what we can do is church because I think all sorts of questions about Christian community and what the future of the Church looks like and so of course ask Kevin that to the big answer is I don't know I really wish I did I think that it can of nondenominational independent church with all the right people at the house gender and sexual

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Betsy Ross - She Brings the "FIGHT" to Reality (Interview 10-12-2019)

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36:14 min | 1 year ago

Betsy Ross - She Brings the "FIGHT" to Reality (Interview 10-12-2019)

"Here with us and we also have special guest and author Betsy Ross Betsy how're you doing great how about yourself I'm welcome back to bear stuck here on Wer Devi radio dot net on Boehner would get frosty and wink what you were supposed to do to us your veteran and that's how it should be semantics if you WANNA get that but I digress hobby I started writing than I developed characters that could signify these stereotypes that we have in not helping the veteran community. It's not helping anybody so I want I wanted to do something to give myself I guess have problems transitioning out of the military into the civilian world of all genders and ranks experience was pretty much short-lived unfortunately I had gotten injured but sows only in the army for a couple of years but the transitioning out was deploy 'cause I didn't do anything but yet I was trying to say that I wasn't veteran and I realized that's not helping the mental health it's invite series try to reach out nice now you said you had your personal experiences through the military and then after you you did mention that veterans do have and military service members on top of that if like I said we wanNA place a matter earn community that kind of portray why suicide rates are increasing. Why is transitioning for veterans so difficult for so many for all all Jane all genders all ranks everybody you said something that we've talked about here on this show we try to let people know that is there anything that you would you did put into the fight series that you will people to just because you didn't you know go overseas or you were in a combat theater or whatever debtor in as defined by the government is completely different as like I had no help jumping cashed couch I couldn't find a job I was struggling eventually somehow dug myself out and the fight series and yourself if you wouldn't mind could you please give us a little bit of background about yourself and a New Year of veteran yourself so if you wouldn't mind just pretty rough for me started a bunch of obstacles which did eventually lead to me wanting to write a book series to try to help veterans his after you got out is that what inspired you to do the plight series or is it a little bit more in depth than well my life inspired like hey yeah that's me or is it a broad spectrum of anyone that reads it and I definitely try to reach out to anyone who would who would be able to read it that is one I wrote it so short so that those who do have ptsd or anything they can still manage through reading it I and how I experienced and overcame some obstacles but when writing about such in-depth emotions I guess really all the above because I mean I've always wanted to be a writer ever since I was a kid but I didn't know what I would write about and then I know that's not now but I'm it was well if you're not suicidal then you can't speak with anyone so because the va denied me and they did try to go to the Va for counselling could I knew I probably need to speak to someone and they denied me 'cause I was not medically discharged I picked out characters that can relate to anybody I guess on the emotional side of it I do put myself a quick history on all of that and then we can talk about your series in your book and where you WanNa go with that and all that so I guess my a lot of people don't like facing those so I tried to make it realistic enough to where it hits home they not so much I want to durins and military service members active or not defunct and we define that as long as you made it to your first duty station and you serious correct all right for our listeners that may have not heard me and only and I think Rossi has chimed in during the other shows talk about basically show the real what's going on behind the scenes bright and reading the first installment of when I really started thinking about how veterans were treating veterans because I even had veterans they simply harass and bully me in personnel line because I didn't right I got that like you said you know you don't want to push it to the point where everybody's going to be like screw this person right and the one thing I've noticed in entertainment when it comes to realistic fiction or nonfiction or even biographies day correct me if I'm wrong but a few of the things that I noticed while reading it could be different for anybody but besides yeah what she said might be true but you know whatever screw you know but at the same time you've got to have that Hook you've got to and comes the explosions sprinkles and Unicorns as you see in Hollywood right so and you mentioned ptsd and you don't always push the envelope but they push the envelope and that's what you're doing and the way you're doing it is completely what is because somebody goes and reads some navy seals you know six man tag team on Osama bin Laden or whatever PTSD was physical disabilities depression survivor's guilt is is that something that you meant to put into over and they're like oh he's a bad ass yeah they they do this and do that but they don't see the aftereffects they only see the good times fun times have it backfire where I'm just kicking veterans not trying to do that I'm not trying to make fun of anybody I'm not trying to you know make veterans look bad I'm just trying to on some very generalized very well known stereotype to very well-known things we do see such as your amputees you have ah you and I taught you know throughout Uh uh trying to get you here on the show and finally you at least the first book like I said only read the first one but is that what you wanted to portray in this one yes a little bit I've I've tried to pick up they have brought in some characters who were injured physically injured and it's I don't want it to I don't WanNa lose focus like I don't want it to be a love book I don't want it to be all explosions in gunfire I don't want just those type of so someone like this or if they at least have a family member who had came home and was an acting what they remembered them to be you know they would be the plan the series to be a four book series Nearly Completed Book three but I wanted to focus on the emotional side the veterans veterans but specially with friends and family right and I felt that through some of the first book I don't like I said no look or music or or movie or show the consumer get something different than what the author always portrays I don't care what it is but physical things I wanted to be all emotional and mental that way it hits people on a deeper level where they actually think either they're going through going hey I've done this or if that was your intentions are not because every authors different and everybody that reads something or seeks anything in entertainment in in any way shape or form whether it's your fetus do you have your very depressed or those who turn to alcohol or drugs in all this so throughout pd was everything to me. I love so for me to get injured I all of a sudden guy put on oh I can't remember what they call them now do things that I really really stuck out to me and I wrote notes in the book I don't know if anybody else does that but idea because I'm cool like that cloy Afghanistan and they ended up chap during me out today needed able bodies to go and I ended up on injury in the injured platoon and then all of a sudden it was like oh well she's just the ship bag now she's just like everyone else like the self realization you know I failed as a soldier I noticed that was one of the big parts of at least so don't feel bad and then I was like okay and then my unit was ready getting ready to went with me when I got out of the military I went back home but nothing was right like I didn't feel normal I didn't feel only injury I told anybody really was just my arm I didn't say anything about mental or anything so that definitely and civilians feel that to some extent another no matter what job you've had no matter what you've done in life there's always that moment we don't feel like we fit in another huge thing that really jumped out at me because DVD as a as a whole not in a very good state of mind so for me to be chaptered out with probably a good thing but I wasn't medically discharged I I didn't where you don't feel like you quite fit in when you return to friends and family for whatever reason human instinct whatever you WANNA call it survivor's guilt from combat loss and especially the suicide that was one thing that really hit me in this book I said Okay I guess if I'm not needed I kinda just went with it because at that point I was falling into a depression anyway I was in a very very ugly marriage at the time I was one of your characters in here is that true yes it definitely was for me I was that Gung Ho shoulder when I went in I wasn't empty I never women who needs volunteering I'll be I'll do it let's do it all you gotta mission how to convert okay let's do it let's do it but then when I get injured in PD I'm a personal trainer will be there and one of our main missions is the twenty two a day but the suicide and combat walls and the Oh to go hey or is this what you're thinking is this what's going on I want it to be where family members and veterans keep hammock get that communication like I could be anywhere right I completely understand I think a lot of our listeners and veterans or service members or or what have you talk about any of that well I know when I was still at Fort Bliss I had a good friend of mine sweep went out it was a memorial but that felt a little more personable than some of the other stuff in the book I mean not going to there was some stuff I was like she's talking from experience she has to be and then when I seen some of the suicide stuff I was like definitely do you want to we out there but at the end of the day whether it's fear or their emotions or whatever they won't talk about it they won't put it out there in the aspect that needs and then it was like I questioned everything and then when I got home out of military another good friend of mine was found dead in his various on my truck I have a list of names of in memory of all people who have died and unfortunately I think all but one had a few hours later we had gotten a call yet on himself and that was pretty much start of all the downfall of mine tired to be shown that needs to be seeing that needs to be heard another thing I really noticed was the barracks in college habits or infantry anyway but I was definitely you know when I got my dog tags I was like Oh my God i Miss Odor I was that type of soldier whereas like actually at least talk about it talk about no one else is going to talk about that that really sets up my mission with veterans united are dark period of my life and because I had just spoken with them we had just party together it was very it really hit home and it was just like everyone around me was just dying his all my friends were just committing suicide so in each book you'll see the list of names including so and then of course any local veterans you know how wasn't a cool veterans so I didn't have any cool stories to tell so I didn't have anybody our entire chain of command was just dying and I know I've attempted if you time so for me to still be here whatever lead to self medication and then on top of that the crowded room but alone stealing in like you said on you just are you referring to sit call rangers that an ASC when I hurt my back for the first time doubling needs to be heard most exactly and you and I both discussed at length you know people say they WanNa talk about it say it needs line was that intended don't both of those or did that just flow into the case again four day weekend we went off to the lake and we try to get one of our friends out come with us he said no I'm going to be fine and an and like I said I've had other veterans bully me saying I shouldn't talk about what I don't know about and I shouldn't do this and I'll and the really all I can say is well you're not going to talk about it and you've been there who's GonNa talk about it right to beat up who's going to bring it up on the level that sod or felt especially whether I wanted to end it all or that I you know I missed it I wanted to go back in and then again I didn't and it was just and I couldn't find a job I couldn't do anything so it was very hard on reality season definitely and like I said everybody gets their own take from any book that they read and I wanted to briar listeners to hear from you yeah this was therapeutic for myself because I mean the va didn't listen to me Janet Brandon listen to me and then of course my so called friends still in the service stopped talking to me so I just have these characters and I'm trying to express just how deep these scars can go for so many of us and I tried to pick up on some of the at this internal fight just keeps building and building and then you just WanNa explode but what can you do my thing was alcohol I'm Ben tastic super great it's wonderful wonderful we it's just it's just now you're the author of the so from a structured you know this what you do this is how you do it you know the whole nine yards two you're on your own you know kind of like the military has done with you facility those those are definitely Ron Real I mean every author regardless of what book it is they do put themselves in the book and for this series it's been kinda especially hard for servicemembers making I don't care if he did one year two years four years eight years or twenty years I found it extremely difficult transitioning talked to betsy about regarding the fight series one two or both of them well I think she nailed it on the head when she said transitioning is typical events or thoughts in 'cause I know for a fact I'm not alone I know I'm not alone in the things I have not going to lie I had to quit for minute which is perfectly fine like I told everybody in on can I can attest to it this is one of those books that you could start it well this was a you know stuff like that I know you're at work and if there's no jet slider head what would you like to ask died by suicide including sergeant staff sergeant so it was like all ranks it wasn't just hides in specialists it was everybody which is like the your time and your free you know I think the transition record of it was something that I picked the right away 'cause you know some of those feelings like you mentioned I picked on those right away it was definitely difficult even after retiring to actually put myself in the civilian shoes again if that makes even reading this book it brought back so many not necessarily bad memories but those I deployed I didn't experience a lot of the same things but a lot of the thought processes that your characters had experienced after memories that you second guess and like I said it's not always a bad thing to think those it's according to how your correct correct both very good books and what would you like to talk to betsy about her ask her pertaining to either one of them other fight series she has currently fight and fight to to fight again correct wanted to make sure sorry what I've been through and you know having to deal with the emotional toll sitting on my ass you know twenty four seven for the last ten years on the couch in like frosty said ask served and deployed and even doing what I've done currently she's working on fight three now frosty sir you've read stem talking about them obviously but the fact that you drew some things out of me that a lot of people can't I don't it's because I was reading it and I was along but like like frosty set appreciate that the the way you wrote it and stuff like that but to actually understand what they were feeling during that time or like I said coming back and trying to deal with those demons I really enjoyed them and like Bo is saying where he had to set the book down actually consciously had to start doing that with each sections. I'm normally an avid really made me think a lot which was something that I haven't had a book doing a long time I really appreciate it that mission complete yeah definitely here and I'll read a book front cover to cover and almost no time at all but I found I was reading little sections and setting it down because I was even though as a marine got out and it was kind of I'd have to set it down because I start thinking about some of those things that I had thought about after getting out that was really a lot of service members like you said felt feel and you know struggle with on daily basis so I think you to me I think you put it in perspective that anybody whether they're civilian hi lighted in both the fight invite to was spot on I think you know some of those feelings emotions demons that you mentioned in the books is something that wish together and let's go to jail and let me use my college professor English Ninety four degree or whatever that's not so with these books you actually use everyday language I know in the second book because I like to flip through to make sure all the and that's another thing most authors had to be all grammatically correct you know let's put British American and I think you're republishing but we'll get into that in just a moment but in the second book you do have a glossary of acronyms like I said I I was air force so you know some of the the ptsd stuff you know microcosm mechanics so I didn't get to experience a lot of the stuff that you know armie brothers and sisters did so I think he did a tremendous job of laying out to where like I said somebody like myself yes I've heard of Edo people going on you know the combat me they had I think you nailed it I think it was spot on and I think if a lot of folks out there listening right now that are you know like myself this kind of like well the military which I think is outstanding not just for those of us he's not been in an forever but for civilians and people who may not ages are there because I don't trust a Lotta publishing companies I've had that happen before of head pages missing believe it or not and even though it's not in the first one to be aware of some of these acronyms are serving or served and haven't been updated was that conscious or was that something that you the main focus is the veteran but I want to be able to get families to communicate with their veteran as well so I opened up that I'll be talking to a mechanic friend of mine and when I was deployed I was a Cook even though I've done some other stuff outside of that my main job was a cook and to him and there are some things that are probably not needed to be explained civilians or people that's never wanted to reach veterans but after I had published it I started having more more friends and family who actually began reading they're like well this actually can help families it really means a lot questioned it so if you're just tuning in we're here on barracks talk on radio dot net would betsy Ross the author they're really deployed it all I don't know I've never experienced it I tell you what pixelbook revolt and you're gonNA be hooked a I think he did a tremendous job they had to do the trash runs every day eight times a week twice on Sunday because of Brunch but anyway we had appeal us and you tell people would appeal less what's PM CS because they had the they they they're like deer in the headlights when you say that you know you might as well be talking astrophysics served day in her life to pick up the book read it and understand what that individuals feeling and going through so I think you need to bring this jobs the veterans main mission but when I said we'll let's right fight too that's when I added in the military terms I started to to unlike well I guess it could and then I kinda just spilled everything else I like some of the situations I'll say it will now you are a self publisher and you're doing this on your own as much as possible and to see where it lean so well sorry what are the special one of the best acronym jokes ever heard was they done the leadership thing the L. D. R. S. H. P. You know loyalty duty respect no longer published with the venture so I'm I'm going to republish it again so published and once I can Dan when your spouse or your best friend is saying whatever acronym and they've done this and they've done that if I if I this is the reason why they do that some veterans don't like that because you don't have to Babysit so much you don't have to break it down so much in the civilian doesn't get it they don't get it but and I didn't I kind of had an idea what some of the acronyms were but we'll use a little bit different ones and it helped me kind of Oh that's what she's talking about for fight three and fight four and so on and so forth let's see fight one right now it's just available on kindle I had his it was strictly supposed to try to reach veterans That's why I just stuck with the acronym that just stuck with the jargon in everything about mach training and that led to whatever and that's what triggers my ptsd what's trading day SORTA Kinda need to know that arms or with those acronyms are I think he did a tremendous job of adding that in that the second book yeah as as Cheesy as it sounds for have husbands or wives that have deployed in May themselves have never experienced and they're they noticed a change in their significant other of you know you know how to deal with military soldiers and personnel but on that same token like you said it's it's better to under and why don't you just fill out leadership and he's like because that's the best thing about the army you don't have to spell so I come from your humble beginnings is amazing would you like to tell our listeners where they could find your book and what your plans are so it's it's very important if I can try to reach out to people who were willing to give me more of the personal side of what they it's like in the jokes are GonNa come I'm just waiting for anyway oh even to go along with that the FBI from different branches of service as Marie there's mainly from a veteran expected I'm still trying to find interviews in people who are wind tell me stories on that but but yes I've been respective and stuff like that is there a way people can reach out to you if they want to let you know what their story is or how I books but at the same time I do try to listen to readers in its if there's a perspective or story that they have that I can put a twist parents because not everyone even realizes that a veteran who has all this training you know all these magnificent metals and whatnot and but because of that everyone has story everyone has their own way you mentioned people telling stories from the on on one of my characters than I can definitely do that that's one great thing about being a writer but the thing is every veteran has a story everyone not up on chapter wine right away even when you move on you tended rethink everything that flashbacks invite to kind of suspend with relationships different frosties us to Crayola acronyms is we don't just harming Motech I went to school with with me I would be completed by the end of the year I guess destroyed quick fight could suspend on the introduction of PT Why why are they acting weird now you know what was going on you know for them to actually

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Second-Listen Saturday: Decisions, Decisions

Parenting Roundabout

15:36 min | 10 months ago

Second-Listen Saturday: Decisions, Decisions

"HUSKIES been making commonsense tools for a long time and for the holidays. They still are like one hundred and twenty-five piece mechanic's tool said just ninety nine bucks now at the Home Depot with pro axis ratchets that feature an arc swing of three quarters of an inch to work in spaces other ratchets can't and it only ninety nine bucks that leaves you all kinds of room in your budget. Husky commonsense tool since nineteen twenty four exclusively at the Home Depot. US only valid through December. Thirty first Welcome to second. Listen Saturday on parenting roundabout podcast where we share some fun moments past episode for Your weekend listening. Pleasure look for new episodes every Monday through Friday. Today we're going to start discussion with the decisions Catherine. You've been struggling struggling with this. Yeah so this. This started because the other day I had to deal with a like last minute. Sick Day. Decision you you know. Are you sick or aren't you. Are you sick enough to stay in school or not and I was ranting to my podcast friends about having should make that kind of decision and the way happens you know practically every day not the same thing but you know something. Yes many many times times per day and often you know either when I haven't had any breakfast yet or I'm in the middle of doing five other things or you know there's always Some life or death matter that has to be decided by me right now. It's stresses me out so so I am wondering if you two are the family decision maker like I guess I am and if so how do you deal if not not then you should teach your age. You know I just I guess I find. Sometimes it's easier to just make the call versus making someone what else do so. Is that the the way it works for you terry usually all. Yeah I mean I am asked the decision maker. I do not deal with hit well at all. I both insist on making the decisions because I don't think anybody else can make them right and resent people for not making them with the South Snowdon. I I can't win. They can't win. Nobody can notions are stressful and You know I feel like they never end in. There is always something enough. I defer a decision just because I cannot deal right now. It's still eats that backfire. My brain I always know that I am not making that decision. And and if I do make a decision then I second guessed it constantly so no decision ever ends. Yeah I think I think the part that is so hardest hardest just the relentlessness of it And everything seems to have equal stakes like yes. It's you know decision on. You know what we're going to eat for dinner or whether or not I should you know go on. The treadmill Mel hour later is just like it. It's so compounding ice yes even really does. Fortunately my husband does make a decision about what to have for dinner but you like take something like insurance which is just endless. decision-making what plan do you pick. which Dr do you go to you know? How do you In which pharmacy. How'd you could this particular claim in should do go for this? Should I call them today. Should I call them tomorrow. Wen-chia Gotcha it's just an and the thought of having to teach somebody else how to do that. You know my kids now. I'm trying to would like to get them to take that stuff over for themselves themselves as indeed. I did when I was that age but I can't figure out how to explain the five thousand nuances involved in handling that it you know we all develop are certain style. We know what to say. We'd no one to call. We know who to bug and so it's like once you take on that burden of decision making you never it's always there and I just really would like if there could be like eight. You know a decision holiday were just you know for these five days there will be no decisions made but I know it will haven happening you know even if we go on vacation so you think wonderful a peaceful vacation where nothing to think about. except I'm always the rest plan what we're GonNa do and then if anybody's unhappy about what we do is it's it's my fault. Everything is my fault. You know if the plane is late if if the traffic if we stop at the wrong fast food joint and they don't have of what you want exhausting use net. Yes and yet. I think we have one zen master of decision making amongst US owned a coal. Unless you're wakes lakes show us how we might follow honestly out down to you well unless you you want to be Self doubting over anxious and who does raise the I just I'm very emotional decision maker and I'm not very logical and so I learned early on on that us to defer some of the bigger ticket items to my husband who is very pragmatic and in. He thinks he's a planner. He thinks things through. Does the pros gone full nine yards so and I mean I still take care of everyday little things that I'm I'm even you know At well he's pretty good about. Yeah we kinda share that that that work litter he takes on most of it for the big things so I guess is decision. You're fine with them. I'm fine with that. Yeah he's he's made some pretty good decisions other within our dogs. She a room. When you're not the one area I'd taken over next time and no yeah? That must be nice. Do you have any sort of mantra that you repeat yourself. All other people are making decisions to keep you from. You know not just jumping in and doing it for them. I'm I'm like typically a very passive person so I'm I'm pretty good unless so if I don't like the decision that I get passive aggressive about it. Yes although you know. That was my childhood by Baron. Chill the wall now do either of you ever try other strategies to reduce decisions in your life like you know the the Steve Jobs saying thing of wearing the exact same out every day or eat the same practiced or you know. Just try to eliminate some decisions. Has that ever worked for you. Oh I love that idea. I don't think that I could carry it through. I think I start that like about ten times a day and then I never follow follow through with it so it doesn't ever work but I I support the idea and the concept. I think it sounds great. Have you been able to do that. Nicole do do you like the saints scored every day I would but my daughter will let me you. Will you say you like by multiple of the same item item. You didn't yeah. My t shirts right Seattle. Got's you never have to make another decision. You just put one of those t shirts on factly actually. I'm now doing that because now south I live in California. Where Mexican food is a big deal here right and it? That's the majority of the restaurants in our area. I don't know Mexican food. Who Dat all outside of what's on the Taco Bell Menu and so I grew up on a Mexican? A dish of choice is just a chicken and cheese case. Ds So wherever we go if we're going out for Mexican or from my friends. Whatever ever you know what it has to do with Mexican food? I'm just GonNa make it easy on myself because I know that I like that and I'm not really ready to try anything. Yeah exit that same choice. My my one little choice that I take out her true good way I will interior. Don't you have. I mean this isn't your decision because you do the cooking looking. But isn't there like a meal rotation there is a sea. Apparently my husband is good at that ragged at reducing decision making to a formula search. And we do. Have you know we order out one night a week and we have a list of places we own we go through them in order so every week. It's okay which one is up next and we do that. I against In my personal stuff or in the bigger bigger bigger picture things. It is harder to do that. I do have a pile of things on my chair that I pick out clothes out of design can't always dress out of the pile of things on my chair that have not been put away. That's how my daughter gets dressed coach every now and then you just take the entire pile off the chair and put it in the wash right the other day. I told her because the laundry is in the kitchen and so when all the clothes are clean folded stacked in their sitting sitting in the kitchen and then there they say you know until someone finally brings not stairs in so day after day. Take yourself upstairs take yourself upstairs. Take your calls upstairs. ASTAIRE'S I can't stand looking at your calls anymore upstairs and so finally I said you've twenty four hours more than enough time. You whatever's whatever's left in here is becoming mine and you'll have to buy it back from and she's just looked at me like are you. I'm serious take it upstairs because I can't stand it any longer and it works parenting advice to the day I I will use that threat again. If I have very nice similar that would work on other family members you know the is your husband leave stuff stuff lying around Yup but he. MP bought if he added by stuff back for me it would just be you know from one pocket getting back to devise another means of payment. Yeah well so then once you going going back to the decisions instead of the threatening of other family members once yet making decision are you done or can you or do you have to keep thinking about it because I think that makes it worse. Doesn't I think I've already confessed. That no decision is ever really truly made it will be revisited and in the short term and then in the long term I am. I am rethinking decisions that I made when my kids were like in kindergarten they yes so it just. It's a never ending cycle. This is why I might wind up in darker with the wash cloths for is because it never stops. There's new decisions coming on top and put the old visions never go away. They are down there festering big so. This is like a therapy session. The one we're done it was in any way I will not get your the bills lines. You put your clothes other than the kitchen counter. Upset you Rachel blank check now cash. Receipts it's alone. I have violated that rule. We'll see in. I could second guess my decision to keep a laundry machines in the kitchen. I decided how we wandering machines. Sheen's in the kitchen. Yes Sir while hidden behind Cabinet doors but when we renovated our kitchen what we did it was the laundry room was adjacent to the kitchen and it and it had all the windows and it was nonsensical so we merged them together and I didn't want the laundry to go in the basement. 'cause I was used to having it right there at into the kitchen so I said keep my laundry here fees and so So they did you know we. We installed it in the kitchen and it has a counter on top and it has Cupboard doors enclosing it so you wouldn't know. Except for the fact that his clean goes it was filed. And there's a hamper. There's like a Bilton Hidden Handberg not that anybody understands how to use that. I wish I would see those spill something on yourself during dinner It's right there three there and you know we used to have the Always bathe the kids on the first floor to that on that bathroom so then those close didn't need to make a trip upstairs to the camper and then back down to the laundry they just go right into. The burnout. Sounds perfectly utilitarian. I would not second guess that but then you know when I'm just just looking at the piles then I think wouldn't it be nice if I had a separate laundry Disclose some sort of closet to to shove the clothes in right out of sight right well in this kitchen slash laundry rooms catherine unique. We require pictures pictures listeners. This year on day one of these days. What are the decisions it's in my head that needs to be made? That is not being made in bothering me me is that I would like a new kitchen. Barrel allowed is let me tell you Swell see this is why. I don't make the decision to do that. Bad in the back. That like you know. We don't have the money and I'm afraid of contractors also that just a few minor detailing it's like pulling thread from sweater and then the entire thing comes mart they do anything in my house but I will keep that in mind yes. It's it's a double edged. It's a double edged sword. HUSKIES been making commonsense tools for a long time and for the the holidays. They still are like one hundred twenty five piece. Mechanic's tool said just ninety nine bucks now at the Home Depot with pro axis ratchets that feature an arc swing of three quarters of an inch to work in spaces other ratchets canes and it only ninety nine bucks that leaves you all kinds of room in your budget Husky commonsense tool Since one thousand nine hundred eighty four exclusively at the Home Depot U._S.. Only valid through December thirty first.

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Erica Hood-Vincent Talks Raising Troubled Children

The Kae Whitaker Show

1:12:43 hr | 1 year ago

Erica Hood-Vincent Talks Raising Troubled Children

"Hey Ladies Welcome to the today show before we get into the interview I wanNA take a minute if you would allow me to introduce the campaign that we will be starting in January of Twenty Twenty as you know I created this show to be an outlet for wives mothers that are working trying to really fight her three sixty now her three sixty is a campaign that specifically targets wives and mothers that helps you to get back you told me to do but I have been this has been the best thing that I have done in quite some time and I'm not just saying mutation and will probably open up a facebook group right around November we'll have conversations about what you need and what you desire and how we can best provide that to you through her gleaned from other people's experiences while I'm going through my own so I wanted to be able to bring an additional element to the show that would provide that as well so what's I have come up with collectively in the feedback that I've gotten from those personally is campaign and we will start in January called it'll be the same as well so with that being said I really wanted to make sure that I could take it further than just the podcast I've been working with some girlfriends we've arrived through balance through personal development and that is what her three sixty is going to be all about now with BSA ended at her three sixty that's H. E. R. The number three six zero gotten it you can go there sign up to be on the waiting list and through email and work with some very affluent women and I work with women that are just getting started careers and if there's one thing that is the common denominator for all of those women that we feel hadn't worked out all the details as far as what her sixty s going to offer but I wanted to start talking about it and sharing that with you even get your feedback right now eh just because you're listening I am saying that because this this is fuel for my spirit for my soul and the feedback that I've gotten from you guys has proven QB peak performance in your life so I know for me our say oh my goodness there was a time in my life where I was just doing everything well and everything on fire now that doesn't mean like we're doing a lot but we're not doing enough or we haven't quite arrived yet and I want to create a space that helps us to feel like to say the least magna bad way but just like Oh my God you know I know you put this on my heart I really know what it was gonna do I was just kind of stepping out and it because that was what just talking with some girlfriends and I realized that the biggest part of the thing that has helped me this year has been a community of women and sisterhood that I've had around me and the opportunity to really working in their lives and it's been great the feedback that I've gotten from his show guys DM's abby emails even from guest of an interview has been really overwhelming back to the time I just want to replicate some of that activity in my life so that I can feel like I'm performing at my Mac and it doesn't really matter what level you are on you would want from a campaign to help you get to that place so the easiest way to do this is we've created a landing page for her three sixty you can I will be doing from a business standpoint it's not really a business this is just I want to help you be a better you because I've been working 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episode between me and my Sis Erica continue to evolve into the woman that you and everyone else loves them stick around because you're all ready amongst a good group of girlfriends now let's on your own terms together will have unfiltered conversations with moms from across the world about what it really takes to have the life we'd dream about children were talking about the challenges that we had with key is Erica has incredible story about some things that she's going through right now and we and wives committed to slaying their family and professional goals you could say this show is the intersection of being a good boss mom and wife and doing them all through sixty in January twenty twenty so I just wanted to take a minute to introduce you to that I'm really really excited about it it's the first personal development thing that and express yourself emotionally because the show was going to take you there I'm not GonNa talk any further there's a quick intro at the beginning of the show I'm GonNa let you go ahead talk about because I think we're all here to learn from each other and to kind of release and hopefully through our conversation today vincent this is a very emotional shown very raw show so as you're listening to the episode just being a place where you can really be you lined by a good friend of Mine Miss Eriksson Hey I'm really excited to have our here ladies because today we're GonNa talk about stuff the come out victorious on the other side our host k Whitaker is a successful entrepreneur currently running two businesses alongside her husband Tim's but correct me if I'm wrong and I say this to my kids all the time especially the older ones they be my oldest I'm like honey look you are my first phone so it's GonNa be you know we probably gone evoke some emotions you know if you cry okay let me know you virtually trend that are teenagers like my oldest is fifteen so I started early I know that this is something that you started early so when my baby is twenty one twenty if you started early creating families like we did you can relate to this I'm a let Erica kind of map out how her in our baby grew up together it quickly if you don't mind sharing with the latest how old are you I am forty two okay and the reason why exit question is because not even possible not even pay more of it if something happens I'm going to be a rich woman okay I know so many women with children amy myself included where we carry the burdens of our children at our own and today I kinda WanNa help us get basically is she gonNa help you sell something so you can get paid co basically Erica so they were talking about kids Eric to introduce ourselves let you all know who she is what she does and then will kinda get into the girl chat it's just give us a little the quick intro who you are hello how low lovely listeners I am Erika Benson I am yet they solution sales caught 'em money next strategists our with it to be ready to start this found so Erica the rundown how many again I have four you're God created job because you could handle this but a lot of what we're going through is growing pains because we're growing together gather the Hadji he has released for you if this is your story and you can find some peace in what you're going through and then try to start to put the pieces together you and your family Eric Microbial MICR micro lifetime it's just the best what we going today I wanted to have this conversation because also just a regular girl from the heat who became our lady in disgusted arrived papers as a mouthful me out from a pretty popular city that is known for you know a tendency I'm I'm getting ready to be at the time of this recording arrest six years younger than you I'll be thirty six but I've got chilled ORCA talk him through so he can have a different mindset about what he heard or what he saw fast forward club and that's it I'm done I don't know more weight at this thing clothes but there are some things that I had to learn a long way and because of that you know you might have experienced some things that mommy wouldn't have wanted you to experience had I waited a matured a little if you will Chicago and so I will where I am now when he was really young but the first parts of his life he really saw mom early not your fault but I wanna be clear because I'm super transparent with my kids and I talked to my kids like real talk 'cause I don't want them to get into Tom go through some things and witness things bet I was too young and dumb to even notes a shelter him from from that and learn how to work through those emotions and learn how to beat that appearance but also taking care of ourselves said vouchers Alica stuff so we talked about that on today but before we get into that conversation going to provide a pathway for their future future interest on their hobbies that was not in four of my mind we got turned on to the streets no even though I consider myself I put myself through school you know I've always felt the again just being a young mom I I had to rid not the oldest one is the focal point by me being a single mom I just was in it won't start to talk about your side I'll be in saying call me girl at accent because a lot of you all that here the world and a world tell him something different you know this is what happens when you decide to start a life before you're ready Mommy wasn't ready I love you was not they're mentally psychologically north on edge and one of the things that happened was he really and so he he always busy go-getter working hustling mom and not like you know those efforts all just with do you mind sharing a little bit of the story that you would before we hopped on laugh when are people okay so we're talking about all of a sudden I disagree all of the four today I think we're focusing on you can take them out if you want to but we're focusing on one that you'll learn how to grow some challenge Eh you know most people don't wanNA share okay it's assistive subject to talk about our kids and we can talk about the good parts of women have paid an online women Moore helped him to create proximal process assistant that makes sense flow right into their bank accounts but I'm Lewisham job before worshiping always have muscles as want want to try to create a better life for what I thought what life was more them new relationship with my then boyfriend now husband and exchanging family household was changing awardees where changes life style money was changing right and they're constantly grown and stand on the kind of person hold of ads needs to keep on the table I just need to keep the lights on I sleep eight so doing things that for me By the age of Levin I was now a mother of three at that point different city event baby listen Yes yes I've gone through I can't even count having schools I had to transfer him in a place to wear like so we ban varied frank right on his own okay so he was just a barren of look at family members councils that killed you put out you know what I'm saying stuff like that so when people ask me where did you grow up on like you gotTa pick a year because you know aware I've become detached from what is not in alignment with me if that makes sense and because of his behavior his behavior was yeah and so would that be dead by the age of like channel eleven best where he really starts to Kinda like slip away efforts although sacrifices stuff like that kind of fell by the wayside everything got bit him from walking in so he gravitated toward it anyways well what else does like I know this is this isn't God the hall of fame and it gets a point so where I had to go to coed Sigma Suncorp to get removed from the home because it was either Mir ooh activities that were happening at eleven how was he able at eleven to give himself snitch years we we went through it like we went through every aspect that a parent and a child one because the money just there too I did have I come from a broken home like I live on the on the girl who lived all I've been disobedient disband defiant and this just want to follow the beat of their all drama no matter what you instill in them and it became so ashes it all three so I made the decision to go back to school and get my degree okay not also work for fun it wasn't like what's that hall wasn't able the ones that school as the way you count like a nomad like that you're just try to away from you was it the idea that you were gone after work or he was just like helping onto him whatever he wants to do and just forget what Momma said I'm GonNa go outside anyway take a keep a keep your children safe so trying to investment things that they love to do and activities and hobbies just art job in the morning and switched my first shift second shift so I was gone a lot okay that hair with in an Aba alternative schools the whole nine yards I'm kinda give us an overview from light to seventeen in those short life their model b was like so a we- time to state you're GONNA time into the market similar research it up you know what I mean and so we're talking like thirteen fourteen years old and it got it got volatile while malls girls talks on a household ahead to be I had to be an authoritative figure with him but also protected with the other kids at the same time disposal at the time on the depleted after I put my house just to pay for top notch like professional dot Gorleben here to this name full get picked up in a car gang bolaise get picked up at the House I'm sneaking girls in the house you know so can you talk about somebody loose nightline Nevada who just sleep at night somebody guy low at why is this doing all the right Salah saw him and it wasn't GonNa be me so okay so give the listeners the people that are listening and I'm sure if they gotta get like this they probably already I used to be one of those MOMS very judgmental and kind of lied Machi when I will watch those talk shows like Jerry Springer or more the ROB and appearance on there pleading like heart bleed and on the stage Ryan I can't control my I can't what your child does you are still responsible for that child when he's out there and he's laundering is getting tickets he's hanging with the wrong crowd he was hailed bent on I just WanNa do what I wanna do as spite at of I'd no I'm not supposed to be doing this I'm not supposed to be not supposed to be taken and my then boyfriend now husband he also worked fulltime and we didn't want to put them in daycare browns and so our work shifts he works timpson go this route and it was hard I mean you know long story short it got so volatile like because we will get this right now I in there who survived tests because what is wrong with my key right you know what I'm saying like it gets you know so in Asharq Dismiss you earlier Oh that wasn't it you know some people would still drugs because that's their way of providing for their family that wasn't his excuse or gene shelters I got him counseling odds had him seat they are our pastor all of the different resources Douglas et mobs he will see him all the time it's our kids Minna draft where we live now to to to Chicago always had understand it wasn't anything about Constanza look and obviously it would be insane rule widow I mean every look every month every snack blitz face off like our would image that wasn't his issues or he has are out of control because they're not getting enough attention you know when you when you start that wasn't it you know what I'm saying so I became the appearance on the stage like I don't know what to do I'll do my there's too much yeah so my oldest one ahead now like like I said extremely young he really Kamakhya screw up having more of the needs that was material so I know materialistically together together from eighteen on eleven and ten okay now nothing to be all right so out I'm saying bye okay I'm a mom wear my oldest son is very Active Communication has relationship doing all the right things I'm not you know subjected him to negative barnes negative situation is being up influence you know what I mean for me they must have to research on lead them no more I will get so he is how did a twenty one almost twenty two you know what I'm saying being very disrespectful to teachers wanting to clash when you said like it just not doing anything Kabila put his name on the paper not because he was attention what's online and then it actual point to where I wanna be a lot of stupid long debts then hunted I'm just like unpromising Almighty because what is wrong with my feet and you talk about Sleepless Nights Korea I have tested I'll tell you I had IEP the what is the number reverse this lead idea I've had I happen to sell drugs because people the image of my friends my kids never wanted nothing because again be a younger dumb type of who have a miser appeals stuff like that and I think it was like laying the syrup I mean us on so he came back he will super me you know be Knicks Chad the church knowing stopped going to church economic go I couldn't put him out the police brought back with him out and the police to expand in your family size old kissed her fatherm crafts all allies and so just in counseling I even took measures to make sure there because I'm thinking okay maybe it's learning disability because some tasks are not connecting right now you will retract act out at covered before skull I'm Kinda get choked up because not out west any herod in the world like it is so hurtful to see someone S. everybody you know everybody can kiss my a and now even though I love me some garnered Alpha minute balancing and all you know really work through the challenges that they had really perceive insight from other moms that are going through similar situations and have mastered a particular what I'm saying I'll not do like it and you know schools will call because if you had not at home you know your kid is twenty times worse Ya would you say how much sacrifice you can't have a not have a turn to these people into this lifestyle and you know you see that is sad because he is a minor you got I have to keep them we have got to a point where because he will come in and toxic it it you know smoking the weed the had one on one time with my every wiki right we all have family time family night game night whole yards every key it had one one time remark including him that's from Jesus left my body my body offshoots is because this tastes better but acts gives an official yeah so pistole in a battle points we are so I've missed a law enforcement I'm not sure all the laws are different each state but it doesn't matter with this biological father so haven't having asked him father is not the case is not up your soul search seek who years of their side that's about it may have to cook and make him play because he is joking even disrespect will stay out late runaway guys coming in Chow both especially the first one that are no more no one always hold you is very special places on white you know you've been asphalt's apparently that has to pay for that on any damages are done after them out I put him in on like one home with them and I'll I'll be shouting waving my thing is I get a bill and when it starts to happen to me that level you know there's a level of disres- sent you just not going to tolerate right especially from somebody who you don't birth into the world ma I thought was because even though I was trying to work holy Nisell as even aware I do not and MHM was getting a blowback from it because again you cannot be your fool so you cannot be presence livelihood in a quality of rice of my other children to save the one son and what point did the shift happen for you where you realized okay I've done what I'm supposed to do as a parent Do you cannot be fully present and a pathway and upon the mindset when you go from one extreme to the next I made my daily life starts become adages assignment about sacrifice and I saw the album sacrificing album sacrificing the safety end introduced him God I've exhausted all of my options like I don't know what else to do for you except for let us make sure the bills I pay make sure could these it and that's all have the energy to do because I spent all day I felt like I was carried the burden in the weights of the backlash from from the onslaught but the entire house figure this out for yourself like where was he when your shift Kane and now I'm sorry Y'all Casey about kind that's that's like set yourself up to about how you know I I I'm here for it I completely understand too so and so it was that it was you know I'm sacrificing three kids to save one but on t how did you guilty did you feel like that was your fault yes that's why I want your grave line that's the shifts for me happened when I was in church London today as the preach was pretty the market is in their classroom jumping because they they they're on creating PTSD for other children without in real life that can handle more periods or you know all this stuff You know an adjust what lost so much weight just from band oppressed oh the one gives the desires of his heart I have to re channel and a half the refocus my energy become two different people in one by right and for any of the MOMS out there who are MOMS of multiples you know that that is not an easy job to go from one extreme yeah you know what I'm saying that's like for those of us who grew up in town halls where we saw my dad and we we didn't realize how much of so I had to take my son to court in had to get out of the House Ed Long Story Short what that looked like I had to present my case with the traumatic affect us until it happens to us miss some shape form or fashion I was creating that for my other children without even realizing it aw and so that happened it gets a point to where the judge because even in court enough evidence that he was a danger to my home everyone in it that would grant me the right to have my summary Wilson yeah it'd because my sole focus was how do I continue to love and nurture my other children are watching to six this year because you learn the ad so the the ship was when I was in church and you know how sometimes you use the word preach messy but I can write me but our Hassle Aqel Mighty Atom Hall to pay for her because we have to work insurance issues and stuff like that which no doubt legal so much so far the president attracts a mediator kind of shift where he can but when you have biological father who is also it's it's it's hard right wrong said because I did feel guilty felt like maybe you know because I was a single mom with maybe because I say this data maybe because I moved so this town unsee looking for this school is calling for you know get calls from other kiss each because they are still full win another kid last oh I have to say on creating a volatile on stage space with the rest of my entire family in my two younger children are by I'm kinda fascinated tears question because you know when you talk about you can't help but to relive it a little bit Shell and was like okay we'll before I do this I wanna make sure across on my venison social services out to your home to just to see what the cause maybe it's the condition he you know his leg was ideal. Su and I'm said to go on you know but a wasn't I was like everybody gets to see console when you want the real real good got paid real because they might be we took laws on against our homeless that tried to pay like top notch end I'm trying to find the claim what he had to he had to eat his food through a straw for awhile wants to know what happened welcome to see sheets right as sold the judge the judge played like the Maury Povich and so I had to work didn't take my son to court and get him off hats I had to take much I know some people are missing lightweight what she didn't say you know like for life for most likely we know that there are two places we cut up in Church in court as so he was come up in court this wonderful home there's no there's no drug addicts out across the Solar Bilbao's everywhere sheiks hanging up curtains Raga it has to be maybe the Mama Guy People running into now or s a spot oversight is a drug house whatever they were trying to figure children's services came out from our home and now mind you you know police admits my home a number of times because my son will fight my cats and dolls that the police right right the mama basically can be tell every still keep my kids is so just to the list listeners the severity now I say when you let me know let me know because this is why I'm here today and so the the worker was like no I normally don't call by his call now one day will out I mean it got bad so much when topic services came out to this colts rates overall broken when does glasses and stuff like that and she said Yeah and so I made that's how bad had got people on the outside an offer them all because if you get sick right out right maybe I have some peace and sold the social I know she checks the refrigerant cabinets the clauses the dressers band to check everything had a door she wants to see if I was hiding anything Dan as I said I wanNA being not really the face or the advocate you know what I'm saying are of of mothers to support most like that but head selbe appearance what I want to go back and getting our ruling to the judge is but my heart bleeds and goes out to you she says again nothing like this is the first house where a mother's out there trying to keep their families together outside of systemic and race and injustice and law enforcement injustice just two parents there was in the freezer and the cupboard everywhere because they got to come up with a reason why this kid is acting like when the judge made the ruling and you had 'cause I so how did it go you in court yet Angkor in there are a number of women who look just like me trying to parents surgeons that's like mine and now husband she wasn't going to stand for insurgents would be you know 'cause all consumed by this he he's the take Muslim right because there are mothers who are are partying and silence from the everyday the everyday pressures on the spectrum all the way to boy you better go on there may goes on your face today you're right you know so who okay so we packed a lot I know when Russia removed and relocated because the challenge making home I say so on that side where I was there are the ruling he made the ruling himself they immediately Aung they immediately handcuffed him down the block around you know what I'm saying she said I'm going to rule you know because they try to keep the in Hong Kong this mother such as no everybody please rise the animal come in my son he was ended up time to name for the record it must have a neighbor him talked they can laugh because every time I come here there was instance switch on right from happy to fear walking on eggshells yeah into a literally have nothing like we didn't even live in in really having a very upper middle class like my house covers the whole block emotional thing that mothers go through when they take that course of action to create peace in their home soon I'm saying you're at peace and begins his his transition there I go back to my home where it feels like there's been a black cloud with this over my house Mike Kia Saliva they can bree the eight because I was wondering five a spinal looking at now you know so it was there's a there's a I'm sorry I'll obey maybe it's a good way and as I saw those first time I saw her son so so where he reassured me to not feel guilty so needs if if you had told me that you have brought him to me to seek spiritual counselor to seek therapy Jurassic a psychology okay all the beata toned down and all that kind of stuff novels like Meyer got this is like a cancer that no one talks about right you know what I'm saying because I had made because I had to make five seventy six there was an empty seat at the table let you not at peace right if that makes sense and so that Orlando Mom God that I'll after like Omar God Muslim is out of my care I don't know how he sleeping I'll know what are how he's eating at least I know way will sleep every night is right Tom saying in so that part was a relief for me as a mom of the other but it hit me like a ton of bricks that night when Stafford a woman of Color Channel Work in corporate America trying to advance for more women of color trying to would domestic like we're not saying like like a like a norm but there are I've gone to him for Gasol I'm like I'll call it it never call out and you will I eric you have exhausted all of your action aw I was the worst person in the world I wish I could go back interchange it out but the my husband said Emma caster here comes the guilt the guilt fell on me like I'm the resource Lynn is in handcuffs. Oh my goodness like I like we're obviously and so there's a side where the system is trying to take the children on pure because you're in his own state there's a sigh wear the panels like sure there was some kind of she had to go through 'cause I'm thinking like if I ever had to release one of my kids I wanNA point this out because a mother's love opening tests and so they took him to boy's group home and then I'll tell you that that a second so he goes a boy's room we sign up for that just it just calms to most of us as mothers that it doesn't matter what our children do you know the love that we have for them the the things that because we can see in our kids things that they can't see we want them to pursue those things but we also in your body bed from the first onset of inning motion anything right there's something about a mother's love that just you know and I know shepherding them for the time being but we are supposed to bring them to cry up in where they're supposed to go and if sometimes we fall short behavior fall short of what we think we're supposed to do when we have a job but that doesn't mean that haven't feel I'll have to realize that our job as a parent is to guide them and that they don't ultimately belong to us we're just what ever got to a point where that had to be like be a hot disgusting funky Miss for Awhile Okay light it's like people like me are issues like this if I can just say is smoke differently but there's something about a mother's love especially for their boys especially for the boys so in a situation like I'm just thinking like if my son did y'all hear about that on the show I ain't gonNA hide it but we today you know there are some challenges in raising these kids and despite the my family is so important to me and we perfect and you know we're having this conversation because Erica and when the behaviour fall short of that we don't understand it now we're going to get to where he is now but who knows you know sometimes it's this ain't got slammed but imagine what love felt like for this Chat Matt even fathers and Dads that this month disrespect but there is something about growing of human beings arts who right but I can't say that you gave up on you you have jeopardized the lives of your listened to try to save at once goes way deeper than the behavior like your kids I heard somebody say your kids will break your heart and make you laugh all at the same time like I think you board this child in your body for ten months you were connected to this chapel for anybody else could pressure that we put on ourselves with thinking about what everybody else is thinking about us based off of our children are behaving when we know every day every night just to you know all of these different services big brother big I mean if you had not exhausted all of those ads last year nobody gave me it's not legit this how we feel but that doesn't mean we love them any less despite the behavior despite the disrespect despite everything he's not all the bs I was all the all the holes in the wall on the drug might all the calls from school the first thought was I I'm the person who just got you as the parent I'm not talking to Eric I'm talking to US Mothers Peer Review because there's been times where my son has done things and I'm like dude make because I signed are eleven year old this year some some things that are eighteen year old goes through so there was a connection there camera moves so that's just my intermission we've get back into this store can so night one I could imagine where my situation was outliving mother she said I'm GonNa rule for your Santi removed from the home her sean for drywall patches where we have to is in a particular situation like he is come out so and I'm just thinking online got but I'm just you know talking to you later or lack of wanting to be a mother not lack of wanting to deal with it anymore but it was the love that she had for him in the love that she had for other children they emotionally you've got to be able to be present Mike Erica Sam for the rest of your family in for yourself and you've got to make hard decisions because if not oh what did I do wrong and sometimes he's writing his own story and God is allowing his life to develop into what it is for him story when it comes time for him to shave testimony so Erica she heard it from Harvard managed point now because she's his mother in this is how it affected her the Eric wouldn't have done what she did Mike there's no telling what could have happened to her son so I love that got him removed from the hall not her is that we are on our face before God asking camps to give us the power the knowledge the wisdom that we need in order to raise these kids to be who he wants them to be I like weaker soul he hated me Nakajima Dennis me you said you'd love me now that he's remote what would the parameters around what could happen what could you do it's his mother even though he was not in the home it was a sense of and again this is only coming from a place of once you've done all that you can do right right all this we out of it in some way shape form or fashion so whether he needed to go through this for him probably don't have anything to do with US admit your guilt things of that nature this is not something that you keep to yourself this is something that you seek help for because sleep at you know I don't know what I would have been able to do so what was the communication plan between you and your son. CBS maybe because he allowed it to happen and if he allowed it to happen he's definitely going to get the glory because we go in there and I want you to understand why we're going here is we talked about positive stuff all the time but this is the reality Erica stated when she went to court but when he gets older and he shares his story it's GonNa be for another vantage point and it's probably going to be able to help another kid and sometimes I have to remove me and allow God to be what he is to him in order for alleged to have his own life which to where I had to step out of my own way of trying to figure it out because remember like I said earlier I was a single mom it was I had the fiscal of visits with their parents or whoever their guardians are if they so choose to so that I may know she only way home nation on La Nina you don't love me talent only gill fit like extra help with them but like you say than that and so the Mama for him was greater than the selfishness have to try to fix him because you you've heard me right you have backstabbed me and disrespected me a levels that our wouldn't take from my Michael Week or so so at a group home he was at the judge allow those voice to stay still have conversation had tanked it Susu is sometimes you have to sacrifice who you love so the Greater right and salt I loved him so much no other choice but to always get bigger at what I'm saying so this is like one of those dislike another thing in a hats figure out it was much bigger whooped and that's how it was on my okay who and I say a one day and you saved this so beautifully because I really want parents we'll have to do is stay away because prayer is Howard who will be we're going to unpack that in a second but so or more mothers that look like horizon he is like our sun than what she ever would have imagined sell if even if this is your situation you scared to share it because you sphere judd if that if that makes sense and so after about a week or so we kinda came around 'cause mom visit me I also so we nice eight so when he starts reflects really starts to the purpose and the reason by accident he the kids are kind of start to do that and then he's like well ise I understand why they got me out out the House Mama I'm sorry this week I will be because you gotta understand that when it came to him in our communication it was very quick once he worse I had nothing if felt almost like a deaths yeah that's the best way Akademik from a lot was stuffy uphill back a layer slowly was small talk conversations it didn't Kinda got into Omondi thing that you could bring me Xyz I do think that you come visit you tomorrow right just by the soul I also don't hate me select this what we're doing so I will come visit I got to meet the groupon it's more common than not like there's a side of the children's Court picked court elected downtown city but then like a children's court here ars yeah like it's just space you still a lot to let it go because nobody else be able to repeat that's how half of the boys and we've got to show me his room because city xbox of the kids in Oh and just Kinda Amihai we gotta draw a line in the Senate so is mentality will come in he will talk crazy I've been bs I've been I've been all these things I mean again it sound crazy because somebody takes me so much you you don't want to feel like they choose turn your back on your key like that or if you don't love them because even stood from a place of I had a big back into a corner and I mean I really felt a sense a relief because you know at this point is so for those so those who are listening to our women guy you still continue to do can Patrick your child and so my prayer he was sixteen he did about six months so fill sixteen did about six months between every day was Lloyd please open my son harsh we could see more of you of them right right because it was that he was saying more of them at less gas and so he he began to take off of what he is what he really likes to do stuff like that and they got to a point where the group Home House a correction and then he wanted to emancipate themselves time seventeen can get out type of thing a whatever he out my house what's he got costal like anybody would do they have a different agenda right to just keep going by the beat of their own John Tap Right now today he's twenty one he BMX's was how no so he went in it just was Musab knew how to be a mass nip When you become accustomed Leslie Railway when you become accustomed to the streets go check rice I want to be clear why we kind of have a little bit of Mommy Bushy moment the reality of of his reality will still very real the group home had to go to the judge that hey he is not fighting by the rules you know we can't have living discourse that we've exhaust patients the flight that Hamas so fast forward argue did that and then he got out of House of Correction he the era of his way so let's be clear so he he had a comedies made with me and he apologized like that but he still had the sane temptations away of the street life you pick up a you you you take on certain skills then a manipulator is one of them right so he got the connect I still loved him and saw you went through the group home but now you know it doesn't mean that he saw the end and because of what was in the House both from US substantive standpoint from a weapon amounts of weapons was in house including him so whatever was found in the house everyone in the house would get a church nobody if it was yours unmatched just just because you're there right and so that happened and he picked up and so he got he will seventeen point he was facing felony charges and he asked me if I would get him a lawyer and remember in the early the houses on your indictment and so he happened to be over there when the warrant Tang down as watching me and took everybody out of the House that that is when it has so much illegal activity Guana one at a particular dress they people will come sit on your hats runway you know he would bring sneak girls in say pass cars you sang cycle because remember let's change the cage but they tom he was cool like those those first few weeks and then once he got into the routine and a rhythm of what roles staff in all of that he went back to the funny thing he are this interview keyed it down to where we have to put our house up just to try to get him right or fix town before we even get a have a financial compensation with my husband and say okay I know we're trying to rebuild financially from this huge thousands of gallons of debt and the same interests they had before we went through the transition getting a ruled from the hall of WanNa hang out in hey this is a kick it in that first on like just trying to keep my head above water in what I'm saying that from a financial standpoint so there was no way I could muster up the nerve to go back so casino emancipated at that point yes so there was no mind you know pop appeal laws or smoke or whatever the case may be so those it away because his presence residents know had taken head on the when that happened God's plan so he got arrested the Gasman since he got fried and convicted at the age of seventeen as an adult how could stand him like walking just stay sleep a little bit longer you know straight it might be like see the cops across the street right in the doughnuts all night and so the house where he would kind of go hang out so because the whole the goal was not get round where he was writing some okay you here we we tapped out right like we got nothing like we oh case where he okay let me do this let me learn the rules of the beans you know what I'm saying I know how far go what lasts across I think even when I was I was upset on so many levels because how could you how dare you after all it was real thing like when he went in and went into a maximum correctional facility with mass murderers and rapists the school so he he got into school but he was still hanging out with the EPA got he got into some trouble they got some trouble hang out with the wrong guys in Royal House grabbed best it's so and so I was like you know what everything that happened to him from Biz channel he's now got himself a situation where he needs like really have legal representation as a lot of years can we and and lifers so lifers people who are in their life no parole because they have not yes- horrendous crimes with these are now your neighbors everywhere else right and where he wanted to that house in a situation happen I'm like that's right we're still my firstborn high school so there's no high school graduation there is no I'm going out of order there's there's some home continent there's no graduate all of this how could you yeah as at least when you were in the group home still visit you can come in full that I could in the book of job the end we have to go to God and asked for permission to come down on your right and so yeah for extended periods it got real real fast it get it you know and even all academics pray will keep my sons the happy Raul's AIDS in their house I'll stay there and say that and so there was a the house was under indictment of rewards aged fast forward he put me in that situation so when he got so we got on this time of like that again real and not to make matters worse but my son is frail frame he bit copy the disciplinary ashes under mall so he went back to court and then ask what from group homes correct how old is he ourselves in deeper debts his again no Gamba's that yes okay so just to kind of Iraqi was kinda mounted route so you don't have the incentive like it is still exposing who you are right because that was like helping me anthromopor Lloyd let it I hope it's not just me right so exposed okay it's not just you the group home I feel like God's plan yeah gas plan where you when you like they're all the things and you had to go to the house correct gas player because it as a mother because you 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#56: The Big 5 Gut Rehab (Italy) Week of July 1, 2019

The EuroWhat? A Eurovision Podcast

27:47 min | 1 year ago

#56: The Big 5 Gut Rehab (Italy) Week of July 1, 2019

"I bang bang bang hello and welcome to you're a white episode number fifty six the week of july first twenty nineteen i'm ben smith and i'm joined today by michael comb hey mike we are a pair of american trend makes sense of european song contest in this week will be talking about got renovating the big five i'm excited i'm so excited for the series like like i do not a project to like as soon as i realize that we could do it for all of july just made me so happy yeah i just love it when the calendar works out that way like are little june tune vacation is over i'm just reading them back to work roll up my sleeves and fix some nations yes we should check in like howard things going in the netherlands like how many cities do we have bidding at this point well they started out with nine or at least nine that indicated hated interests they don't have to turn in their books intil i believe it's july tenth of those nine three have already decided to drop out of consideration lee you verdun yeah that sounds about right okay i'm learning dutch on duo lingo end it's a tendency asians never been my strong suit a yeah so you've already done they had to withdraw because of the venue that they were proposing the ceiling was too low which is someone who knows dutch people how yeah they're yeah they're very tall people yes i like i'm six three and i've been inconvenienced by the dutch eurovision like lovely people like a like having great conversations but then but then they they are of all these officers i think i'm gonna reno where the ceilings are too low just like a fifteen thousand person venue with dropped tile right exactly but yeah i i'm not sure what see specifications are thinking back to like just how high the siege partitions go a i guess it does have to be just a really high venue and then i presume with love the lighting rigs in the camera work and stuff that it's a more then just had clearance yes so yeah they are out a the hey which was one of these cities to kind of duty free win eurovision planning ballard like versus say if we win were ready to go they ended up withdrawing their baby has venue they landed on they would have constructive roof and that's just cost prohibitive and then brita they withdrew because they just don't wanna take on these expensive possibly hosting the contest because it friends and should be billions of dollars just very practical yeah yeah so the other cities in their province are submitting bids so they're kind of supporting those beds and probably functioning as like hey if you need hotel space we've got room yeah so now we're down to six cities and we should know by august i feel like we can't trust the day three giving it wouldn't surprise me if one or two more cities or at least venues end up dropping out between now andy andy book submission deadline just because they still haven't quite nailed down at dates like the date that's been floating around for the grand final is been may sixteenth but that has not been confirmed yet so stay tuned for that news yeah and then a in well it's not it's it's less news and more content that were making free you are are loyal listeners if you follow us on instagram and you should wear rat you're or whatever they're we've been burke like a fun project a given that we both have an interest in in international cooking mike we now have they say numb so every week we've been we've been posting i i other international or you're inspired dish is a you kick things off his stick san marino which led me into like the weird google rabbit hole of trying to figure out why this is called six dan marino why san marino yeah did you end up finding unofficial apps or not you have somebody that i stumbled upon the recipe was a back when we were doing are so my final coverage but this year it's like you know i just wanna try out some new recipes so let's just focus on trying to find recipes for whatever countries we were talking about any given week and the week we were talking about san marino i tried to find any san marino recipes and that was the only when they came up and it's like sure will just assumed that it has something to do with the country of san marino and isn't just hold six san marino but it's really tasty and you're making a slow cooker their easy will be posting probably probably weekly yeah lots of photos of men took some amazing photos of oh i'm not even gonna try to achieve so you made yes i i'm not there because it turns out translates to happy marriage cake oh yeah one of the cooking i follow series eats had eight post from from their baking persons della parks on how to make these awesome like jamie fruit bars a that that she had a bunch of while she was on the trip the iceland like oh hey that that doesn't interest i also have a an made a batch earlier this year with some blackberries and those were good but this one i went traditional and wealth rhubarb blue rhubarb season face yes will be doing this all summer possibly longer than that 'cause like like ben's that'd be both enjoy cooking so yeah this this is a fun project and also it's a great venue for dad jokes yeah yeah i a not gonna spoil with this week's entry is but it's gonna be upon an i'm not going to apologize so we're gonna put those there so they don't end up on the show but they will end up on the show young of not wanting to apologize shall we start talking about the big five or she as you suggested this as we did you suggest through this comes from listener as like a thing we could do this kind of combination okay it was something that was on her mind anyways yeah but a listener of will be joining us in a few weeks suggested this an a stick okay this is confirmation that this is the topics of interest so so yeah it it felt like a good time to look at okay so the big five i've always end up on the second half of the scoreboard every year and they always get mad about it so what can we do to fix that was americans weaken come in with confidence in knowing everything and fix things for you have a trail of destruction in are well yeah i know where we're gonna do a terrible job of renovating this house get get the sledgehammer and just like boston down all of the you know i don't know where i'm going with this is not a construction professional who better to do it got rehab a there sheet rock that's the word i was thinking of just taking a sledgehammer to the sheet rock of of the big five it might make sense to like start and just talk about what is the big five mike what is the big five okay so the big five that's referring to the countries of france germany spain united kingdom in italy this distinction was bestowed upon them back in a nineteen ninety nine win a division had encountered an era of kind of rapid expansion uss are breaking up yugoslavia breaking up a czechoslovakia splitting apart although slovakia's is kind of about the whole thing a but there were just a lot more countries that want it to participate and it it wouldn't be great if the grand final had forty countries because that would be one very bad right so they were trying different methods to kind of sheep the number of participating countries under control troll anes that involve off air audition semis final where songs were submitted and then a panel of experts were just like all right we're going to choose these twenty or so songs to compete and that's not a great system and then they were doing relegation for a while where if you finished below a certain threshold you wouldn't be eligible to compete the next year so that other countries could come in and play and that's also not great particularly if you're from wanna be less popular countries so this is still before thee semifinal system that we know and love today on came into effect the kind of needed to make sure that these financial backing of the contest was still in good shape a because the five countries that make up the big five there are also the biggest financial contributors to the contest the way they determined be entry fees rear vision it's a combination of the number of viewers and population of the country possibly number of tv stations that are actually broadcasting so like the size of the country a number of different factors in the five countries that are contributing the most helps out what the smaller countries like san marino montenegro countries that are just not going to be able to make as much of a financial contribution and like as we just said it's seven million dollars to get the contest up and running row when this took a fact that they announced in the nineteen ninety nine contests a paper going to have what is known then as the big four because it leaves in the middle of aid rather lengthy hiatus from like nineteen ninety four to twenty ten were just like never good except for nineteen ninety seven like nowhere back as as far as i could tell there wasn't any sort of impetus for their departure they're just like forget it lincoln italy i guess i never get we have a song contest were good by when it did come back they were sort of grandfathered into the big five distinction distinction probably because they were maybe number two or three or four on the list ad wanna be big for would have had to get knocked out in a that would not have gone over what no drama we want other kinds of drama controversial official decision in introducing desk but it is among several controversial decisions this is also the time of windy orchestras were eliminated from the contest we talked about that during one of our off season podcast last year the free language rule was reinstated so that really opened the door for a wider range of entries for countries also this was the year that israel is hosting an this might surprise you there were many organizational challenges faced by israel israel that you as a vote it's kind of a pattern maybe but a yeah and then like y two k was on everybody's mind yeah it was just a lot going on yeah it was a year so france germany spain united kingdom were just given free entry into the final and it does have some pros and cons we are on the on the on the plus side you have sort of organizations that can spend more money helping subsidize some those smaller more more financially precarious broadcasters a and then also you have some nice ten holes for the grand finally have some stuff that we haven't seen already if you've been watching the entire week on the other hand if you're already in the final it maybe give you less of an incentive to defend you're best because you don't you don't fight for it and you're just there it's less skin in the game that's one of the major criticisms that turkey has had turkey last competed in twenty twelve and one of the reasons they site is like yeah it's not necessarily fair that these countries get a free entry into the final and consistently finished toward the bottom of the leaderboard whereas if relegation were still in play they would probably be knocked out they would be sitting on the bench free year or two yeah so i think that's a valid criticism there's also perhaps the reason why they're finishing tore the bottom is because they're not getting that earlier exposure in the week and so they're kind going into the final at a disadvantage they've been trying to work around a good job of like trying to incorporate a you know three nations at a time so the host and then the big five into into like the the semifinals that were seeing a dress rehearsal were seeing live footage of we will not lie were seen footage have been performing the song just acquaint audiences what that before it comes back it's not necessarily making that much of a dent this year wednesday twentieth year that the big four big five distinction has been in effect and so yeah that's why we kind of want to take a look at this process and see how it's working is it working and we wanted to start with italy kind of like toes into the water kind of ramp up on this because that's that's a lot to do it also they're they're kind of easy to to talk about because italy is is doing a great job they're not having any sort of problem but the big distinction in probably wouldn't even have to worry about it if italy were were managed by kris jenner she would tell them that they're doing a great job sweetie so before for the big five distinction italy had participated in the contest a thirty six times they won twice in that time and they finished in last place once a in nineteen sixty six that was a time where they received a zero points sorry italy has been mentioned earlier they were on hiatus from ninety four to one ten except for nineteen ninety seven and they came back in twenty eleven and it's pretty much been gangbusters for them yeah like they have not finish ono's let's say they have not finish outside the top ten they have done that they've been runner up twice been top ten seven times of nine in like they were the favorite to win in twenty seventeen yeah one of the favorites this year as well and it felt like for like of like five minutes drink drink scored it felt like okay at least gonna do it it feels like they're in the same place where i feel like denmark was in the early twenty tens where it was like okay they keep sending goodstuff one of these years is gonna lock into place for them it's just a matter of figuring out who they just need to add salt they just had some pepper just like a little something or just winner they're gonna get the oscar worthy maybe should have gotten it two years ago but rewarding it to them now oh they should just said merrill yeah the petition next year that would be amazing she's so talented so what is working for italy their vetting process works very well absolutely yeah i mean i and i think that kind of makes sense because your vision is based off of the san remo model i mean granted san remo has has changed over the years but deep fundamentals of the san marino contests are pretty much matchup with the fundamentals of your vision and it's a very thorough process like it's like taking the jury's into accounts depressants your accounts hella those into account like it's just bringing in all of these factors yeah it it and it's an exciting show with just very high caliber competition yeah and i think when you look at these entries that have done really well for italy they they had like a very strong identity not like like i was trying to think of words other than just they're very italian ticket now they're very italian like they feel very much like if you pulled told someone off the street and they've agreed to listen to your question of what do you think a song sent to a song competition by italy sounds like i feel like if you look at what's done very well for them that lines up like it when they first came back listening to a rough help a lot sees performance like yes this is this is what my brain pictures for italy elo yes this is what my brain pictures for italy sending a song to assan competition i think part of that is like their injuries you tend to be almost exclusively in italian or like having minimal including like that one koran in there that's partially in english right yeah and it doesn't feel like their hand during the way that like albania before for before they figure stuff out where they were just like oh yeah we're gonna have our contest in our opinion and then translate the song in english english songs do better at your vision is like not necessarily and yeah i think italy's just like nope what it's gonna do our own thing and yeah there's just a genuine yes yeah there's a genuine who it like i like marketing goonies i entered is still one of my favorites and it's just like a very good mail ballot and that tends to be what they send it does well for them over over the years like you have like a few you have like a few things that don't quite fit that pairing like a twenty eighteen where they finished that they finished fifth what that song the kind of felt like i was being lectured a like that in the message of that song really resonated with with v v audience obviously and like otherwise they will do things that just that still feel very idiosyncratic i can't see somebody else doing like occidental then tallies karma instance even this year even sold that felt that felt new and that felt like it was sort of pulling in both talion a tradition in what's going on in the world an with music right now in a way that's still felt very genuine yes and like genuine into like oh yeah this is an italian pop song and just kind of like how i think a lot of people do sort expect your vision to be like norway's wayne defend what they think is happening in norwegian music right now in france is gonna send what is the top of the pops in france and but that's usually not the case i think italy is he is one of the few countries like i would say like italy sweet in russia some times where it's like oh no like were actually sending something that is deep holes this is what lifting to now or music is or or or if it's not quite like they'll send something that feels very much like what you'd expect of eurovision you're a vision a if you have like a very kind of kitschy mental picture of it like i'll tell you of course there's going to be a man doing a dance with the person in the gorilla suit its mission and like that was delightful like i'm not i'm not knocking that like that with eight delightful performance and i got it let's see what doesn't work just looking at the data and i made like a bunch of close at a bunch of open parentheses to indicate my sadness with this is that when italy has sent female singers they have not done as well although one of those is a nice place finish which is not bad now although i love you know scillies entry and i thought she should have ranked higher that was my favorite injury of twenty twelve and she also had some delightful shade about three days after the contest like sore loser your vision is like what am i soon delight in yeah it's a but yeah she was kind of reveling in the fact that it did not give sweden any points and wasn't only country not to give sweden any points yeah she made kind of a big deal about that on twitter and it's like a girl drag them a yeah but you for you a look at it will add like i'm not sure it's necessarily the performer because they feel like these are all fairly dynamic performances italy sense good performers but like i do remember being a very derogatory about a muslim eight nine yards to tie at the time and saying that said like it should be like soundtrack in dfw ad i mean that's that's still that's still a good thing the soundtrack soundtrack a major corporations shoe ad yeah i mean like no degree of separation in twenty sixteen i really liked that song and i thought it was underrated yeah i thought okay song i don't really care for the performance using a lot of that like onscreen graphic ethics squiggly lines thing that i knew it never works like just never sinks up properly yeah i don't think the issue is female singers because these other factor that connects all three of them is they were not the winners of san remo la more if i mean i think that was italy's attempt to do this sort of pandering that i was talking about earlier where it's like oh yeah it's mostly in english and they try that didn't work for them so they moved on yeah and like trying to play the game did not quite work although like again nice places nothing to sneeze at you like you're still top ten that's fine you're doing great exactly emma was an internal selection which i think that was again italy just being like oh let's just try this and they finished and twentyfirst place in and they immediately went back to san remo yeah yeah it's like all right experiment over but i also i mean twenty fourteen such a competitive here that like it is kind of a case of well somebody had the finish in twenty twenty fourteen is maybe my favorite contest anyway and then 'em no degree of separation francesca she was the runner up at san right now because these band that won the contest they didn't wanna change their tour dates so they exercise their right of first refusal and yes you kind of like miss america her way into going to europe vision so but no that's an excellent data point that i completely overlooked it may maybe getting a little too much credit to san remo there's just like oh they're process is so perfect that only they're winning entry can succeed pitch in and like not even that the rest of their top three would be successful feels a little farfetched valid at us but other like the nine pieces of data that we have so far it's like well kind of holds up that that's more than just like the three data points of start going i think this is a pattern like that's that's a lot so i at least doing okay but they still haven't won yet this you know they still haven't capture the crown yeah yeah at least in in this current configuration of your vision so why do we recommend you do just based on the last one stick with san remo because in and try to stick with the winter or at least stick with the song but they come with a rather than trying to i i don't know like they only thing that's come into my brain right now and this is don't go chasing waterfalls leads to the rivers and lakes you're used to i think they should they should send that out asong yeah yeah well in english it is but in a town called a yeah i mean i think they should stick percent right but i think it's it's tricky because there were a couple of reasons why oxidant tallies karma i think underperforms in twenty seventeen when it was the favorite to win and it had hits both my recommendations a wine the song should be closer to the three minute link or at least have eight screen minute version kind of in the back of our you have that radio mix rated go yeah because they version of that song is like were i wanna say it's over four minutes anes yeah they pretty much to cut out the second verse of the song i remember they were doing now yeah but it's just like the second person that song was my favorite part of the song because it really kind of build up enthusiasm mhm that need that song so delightful and it was completely lately apps and it just went like a verse chorus repeated the chorus and then the bridge and like oh that that now it just does not quite work so but these other issue with that song was san reno's held toured the beginning of february larry and i think by the time you're emission came around san francisco kabbani he's already releasing his neck single and is it seemed kind of like he was ready to move on from that song and continue with his career but it's like oh i still gotta do this thing and move on so i don't know if it's just a case of just happened to have san marino a week later in march yeah i mean it's such a weird nit pick and it shouldn't really matter and i don't think it does i mean like solely did very well and i mean if it's held it in the same timeframe so yeah yeah like i don't have like any any major changes so like what they're doing just like little like fun little face like again have that radio mix rated go have a because removes that you're not completely chopping off a verse of you're song i think they've almost cracked the formula again it might just be where they just keep doing real good work and eventually the stars of all why they've clearly demonstrated that they're just going to do their own thing anyway add like void have zero intention of listening to what we have suggest and that's probably why we don't have any suggestion well yeah unlike some nations that just like proudly keep marching to there'll be a like they're they're offbeat drum this is literally no keep doing keep doing your thing like yeah you're you're doing great this is working just please keep doing that it's not yes please win one contact especially because it's like i at least three of these injuries like oh this is the one that should win and then it just makes me sad that i'm wrong okay so one down forty go yes a but before we get shit that you have a little bit of surprise even ben doesn't know the details as you no one of her goals this year is to take over old media whenever and wherever we can so to that end i registered the year watch for consideration for the podcast awards it's eight people's choice awards internet thing i thought it might be kind of fun to try to get that that happened for us listeners go to podcast awards dot com and nominated us in the music podcast categories looking at previous here's nominees there's no way you're vision representation in the news a category so this is a chance per hour your vision community to try to get some attention that is great like i am totally thought we should apply for that and just not filled out the paperwork work so good on paper or yeah i mean that said if we do win when i'm imprinting on my business cards immediately oh absolutely yeah but yeah so we need are listeners help we will have a link in the show notes an will be hosted on all her social media linked to where you can fill out the nomination form i think you do have to register for their site but it should be free registration and they go in a nominee for a whole bunch of different categories is not just music podcast there's like reality tv podcasts s news podcast politics podcast probably other ones that you listened to so like volley while you're there and nominating us you could be like hey there's another one that i listen to you and throw them a nomination and it's a little fun it's a little goofy but yeah it would be really awesome if we could get this happened and i yeah get your vision on the radar of people who may not even know this awesome thing exists you have until august tenth to get the nominations to fill that ballot box yes okay well that's gonna do it for this episode we're what thanks for listening to your podcast is hosted by ben smith left me and michael comb that's next time we're going to take are sledgehammer to spain in germany's figure out what they can do to improve their standing in your vision do you have ideas please let us know on twitter on facebook and instagram at your what inner rare case of me saying this please ask us on what you think could be done to fix being in germany you could actually you're what on apple podcasts

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Episode 81: Under the Silver Lake and The Nice Guys

The Film Buds Podcast

1:40:57 hr | 1 year ago

Episode 81: Under the Silver Lake and The Nice Guys

"And then and then and then you guys we in hello everybody well hello hello everybody welcome back to the film buds podcast this is episode number one eighty one you gotta hope it doesn't feel like it but okay i think i university and i came to terms with it okay so now i know it's eighty one but in my head it's still like eighty nine or something right yeah and my name is henry chloe chloe and yes so this time around we should just go ahead and say we are gonna do ventures endgame show but sadly are guests were gonna come on who are big a comic book fans that fell through this week and what you wanna hear from yeah and so next weekend hopefully will at least get one of them if not both of them on four games in somalia yeah so we gotta get on the internet so i'll watch it nice if i got taken down by now by yeah and so we will be doing that we had a couple of people comment but yeah so don't don't worry don't worry don't say yes but this time around we're going back to our roots flippin nbc yeah i'm gonna why no one's let's all like only on amazon but you have to pay for it well yeah new movies names on prime when you sent that magic adult swim movie and i said squeeze me ferrari excuse i won't tell you hi watched it will that'll be schrodinger aren't little teaser sugars movie how we're gonna be talking about under the silverlake denude david robert mitchell can i stop you please i only had the segments ptsd we had under the like my mind went to skin under the skin check out that episode of late monday ass out yeah not not not again don't worry oh my god what am i talking about that and we're gonna be talking about another i guess new or you could call it mckelway yeah timeless but you know whatever yeah blah blah the guys in the mail from when he talks like aunt yeah i mean we have some you know some news and we also got a listener question about are top five favorite albums of all time switching it up a little bit like we all have to make some a a what's that what is called small asterik like not including soundtracks now clinton problem yeah because there's so much going on yeah at least i will i will i will not i would never limit you had me oh thank you yeah one at the puppy a the dragon tattoo it's not my phone my name now oh sorry what it means a those the elderly peak those ouster music cernan michelle amy wine house so yeah i was gonna mention i watched a new amy wine house stock just ninety nine and then also it's part of my well let's not spoil it yeah i think so i will slowly how how you doing oh and also one other thing that we did they not chloe but we did a dc said automatic universe yeah a where we talked about all seven dc films like man of steel batman superman aquaman unleashed a mall right now no but we talk about all seven and so that's on band cap now for just one dollar if you can't fall asleep yeah and we have our buddy my buddy paul on from texas my buddy paul sounds like it yeah i don't know like a like a seth rogan her 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how you doing oh dan dougherty now again you told you i did three job so far today which were what i did the preschool it was amazing it's masterpiece week so they they we taped look schools are underfunded you also sugar michelangelo we we we taped a piece of paper under a table and the kids had pain i draw upset you don't feel like sistine chapel yes have you seen the sistine chapel very underwhelming about if not in person though are very underwhelming but what can you do never meet i recount rose rudy like the chris on thing all over again and i've never heard of course on outside of france you remember that yeah never meet your heroes for i don't like matt anyway anti semite offer anyway and then and then they did a monet thing is really really i just love a mother so adorable and then i went to the clay you know i i did some plugging okay the you know the lingo yeah you don't what can you do feel free the gas yeah yeah and then i worked at the pen store wow nice crazy on him for him yeah check that local gym greatest selection of pension the country you from what i've seen yeah yeah i just i've been long term stores less expensive than amazon why she's one of only seven brick and mortar left in the country oh yeah less excellent of the amazon or staples small businesses y'all support it i gotta tell you something about politics that i was like oh my god but i can't remember now so you're you're probably glad of that so yeah yeah yeah a woman in a i came really close to a dentist know thankfully crying fingers god slapping a very late stopping a really rude rudely not going so yeah i know innocently this out i'm allergic to cheer but only get along so well well you're not a jerk lowly but this year yeah but on monday i you know i had been working kind of throughout the week before and then kind of through monday and i'm kind of tired just 'cause i've been working more than normal and also been doing all these podcast stuff yeah and as well as other things yeah so it's kind of tired i mean not not not to tire ready to be done not john moran yeah and so my in my last hour of my shift on monday this woman came in may be in her thirties something like that just head of a face that looks like i'm ready to make to get that one yeah and so she ordered six regular coffees k and she said okay well kind of the six one in my own thermos mark i said right hey i don't see a problem if i went off the first one in brazil well yeah it's whatever 'em kevin you're glass half full half empty tire i'm guessing will have an oh we kind of set a few things back and forth after that after i was prepping her coffee and then 'em she said a well no but you don't have the filled up all the way in in this thermos mug 'cause that's you know what i'll just pay for and a few more things were said back and forth and somehow she got confused and she said probably in the most condescending way possible now okay were not communicating very well are we oh i just kind of game she then took the time to really explain be entire order no with just kind of sitting there like you yeah a just rolling my oh my eyes and also like lady you're which was a miscommunication i i i have no idea now i i may have said something i dunno a but having it was and then yes she reeks blamed the whole time yeah i was just like late mac trench coat man my right he's better oh yeah yeah yeah there's a little a podcast scavenger hunt for you yeah go back to some of the earlier not in the outline of here by now oh no oh that's right yet breed and was on i was in mexico yeah so ladies thanks for ruining my day but a hand we die by take you're smiling okay oh i was when i left that i was smiling large yeah but a scam was she was the worst than put a delicately but you know she's a glass half full connected the other half and you say yeah but yeah i came close of slick lady you're pushing it or you're pushing my nice demeanor here why so little cool i can't think of that thing that's happened since i could i can't remember crap that's okay don't worry the distance soccer game oh i lost my mind on somebody or shock wow shot i mean i lose my mind on somebody like everyday so i went on my kid today she's pissed me off it's the same kid choices of i gotta set a stray one kid there's always that one account there's not that one actually really one of those were quite good odds though like most people most children are are profession but this one only got a troublemaker yeah really yeah oh my god no but this dude on my own soccer team slide tab hold me during a game and i lost my mind i go crazy dern soccer though like you wanna watch something using kicking and screaming my favorite movie it is a classic though it's so good you up at times ten is me and the magic me with all those indoor fans like living my best life like trying to oh my god plus myself team is undefeated for seventeen game so like the pressure is really on well you know what i mean yeah that was a humble brag there i know going but like oh my god the pressures on minnesota's good ball so that did play that me on my she's well once when i was young i scored on on my wife was no one chasing me that is so funny is hilarious i almost lost i accidentally got you know 'cause most myself and my kids team can like deal with like they like my demeanor like 'cause i you know i'm kind of funny to them because i'm way over the top whatever like john there's this one boy whose name is a rally oh and he is super sweet and i like guys and i wait till my mike i know you're gonna hear mean y'all doing great and i love you so much right but i'm still yelling and this kid was taking the ball the wrong way and i would like screaming like right reasonably and then i i really upset him and i apologize then was all okay well we all know oh my god i only upset him that much but but to me i you know what i mean i never wanna upset syndicate but i have done that and that's why i told him i said i've done that a rally else and i went into a deep spiral as they please be okay please feel better like be happier wonderful perfectly child you know what i mean so i was like one time i use scored on your own go right tell me if that's better than worst not realizing you've gone i wasn't there grid gone from hatfield diagonally oscar field into the wrong about that yeah yeah been like wise and i'm so i think fast i think that i'm adam when we were and scored in a goal another yeah it's like in bowling when you go in the wrong lane except worse yeah oh my god i was pretty bad but i haven't done yeah but also i peed myself at practice when i was like guess how old i was though like very publicly it was clear i paid my felder team i think fifteen yeah says i can just from a laughing right but the boy is like in love with their nose a whole thing how i told the story don't think so i don't know if i've reached those steps by told the story to a rally oh basically like i've score the wrong goal i peed myself like it's fine and the kids at that point my friend making people by their just like you know the crickets they're like wow you're eft up yeah but they liked me we'll on great my favorite kid ono no i picked up i have a favorite kid is that bad no we all we all knew i would have a favorite kid who doesn't have a fake name is tobin she's dope you'd love him he's literally per oh yeah yeah and this kid i i'm talking too much i just miss you know like josh although i'm worried about this leaf blower guy offer i don't know if anyone else came here that oh no snow accumulation bugs that podcast dot com yes are we're having this this leaf blower guy surfer annoys if there was any out already comes back so i've talked about alley on this show i don't know if this is a i don't know if that's what we're talking about this point we're talking about my friend alley on the show great right yeah she's great right oh my god she's literally the best no offense nuts following a new road does know as a parody good anyway maybe this is the universal like my guardian you'll be like chloe you've told the bedpans foil embarrassing yourself again there's like me like stop listening to this you know i you know he's back and you're like i'm like andrew garfield in under under silverlake already everything has a a boy let's not get into that but we have to yeah ru anyway well i hope you liked this week and fight okay did you oh yeah i was like no no micro store all right so anyway it's my best friend is most amazing person she's so sweet boy in are soccer team when i fifteen named larry pushkin and he was also very very sweet they basically on the two are not being silly here like the two swedish people you could ever meet right like resident ripple whole universe with their sweetness being so close together you know what i mean yeah so anyway so alley kicked the ball quite hard and hitler pushkin right in the face right in the glass is you know postings exactly what you would imagine like the wire glasses and ju fro so like super pale play the oboe like the whole nine yards right an alley and he kinda so so basically alley of course she hit ports we learned the post in the face you felt so bad like unimaginably bad right and issues like credit like ups and then buried being the sweetest little thing in the whole world felt so sad that it was sad and his response to make her feel so many times over the years losing her again it's a funny ever gonna to sweet into ernest okay i'm gonna try get out i can never get out on the first time since her okay so to make alley feel better from feeling bad about hitting were pushing in the face alert push push could respond no no it's okay i i like something you know just trying to make well yeah and i thought that was so funny i peed myself well and they're just very public in front of the boy i liked and all that jazz oh man water under the bridge run i'm sure there's a pun there that i don't want yeah yeah but i told a rally that to make them feel better and i think it just made him think i was insane but at least it distracts them true for messing up big time yeah wow wow what a story all right well a should we get into yeah all right well you know with all that said i guess amply like this oh i i can't okay well a yeah so let's get into are review of under the silver lake liberals to coolest payload i stay quiet what it means stay quiet it's a hobo code really hobos in rail riders is it a lot in the nineteen thirties look they used it to let people know who is cool who wasn't warehouses offer food if there is a doctor in town might be sympathetic travelers that sort of okay so why is it in there is room and were they telling to be quiet i dunno maybe you there's been this rash of a law firm found signs for a dog's humans musical instruments over the past two years something really big is going on i know what you think any of this could connect in this era of course i mean it could be a lot of things sex and drug trafficking the culture the way the dog killer i dunno lately i just assume that they houseguests something i do whatever i'm not so sure about that okay so under the silverlake is written an directed by david robert mitchell stars andrew garfield riley co wendy be banned in fuel deborah jeff wagner of so many stupid cameos i can't i can't do stupid cameos then the distracting right they share those says the summit from girls with the net fucking tofa grace within that all these random people that oh yeah yeah yeah to world so as you said the synopsis is sam intelligent but without purpose been there right he also didn't seem intelligent finds a mysterious scariest woman swimming in his apartment pool one night she wasn't scary issued literally just swimming in the pool and he wasn't eating scientific he literally stuff that's true yeah that's the next morning she disappears sam sets sets off across l eight to find her and along the way he uncovers a conspiracy far more bizarre so yeah this one i would doing that you i guess we should say since there are a lot of little weird twist and stuff we will do like a spoiler discussion at the end of the show right on that right now mind right now throw him a spoiler free but this woman is a an eight twentyfour film and also had some pretty big release distribution issues i think it premiered at can last year to loop one yeah but then it got pushback wondering i think twice and then it three times yeah a couple of times and so finally it's just been released on an audio books on amazon and then also maybe at ltd released in theaters i don't think that wise yeah okay pie just like ally and what have you yeah so this one is done by a guy who directed at follows which was a huge hit when it came out it's really a donnie darko sat fantail situation well coli what a what i think of it what'd you think of this one no you were in the white house so excited you're looking forward to it i was super excited but don't get it twisted now it wasn't on my expectation set super high because it was delayed so much it like when in my mind you know what i mean like oh you know also i don't love in garfield right i don't hate him i can't he's miserable just getting just yeah hey buddy motive don't get to what's his name bernie murder matt matt on i gave it a name the the jerk yeah anyway you see my point but what bernie made off we got there you robert deniro yeah i love michelle pfeiffer okay so anyway 'em but i don't love it so i was like a very very excited because like oh my gosh something new and original cool or whatever and then the first day i found out silverlake is a real lake and i said oh i'm much less interested now why just who i am i thought that i'd rather they invented a whole new thing like news assistant original script bits per year you guess what he wrote that when he was sweaty in his room when he was thirteen and he hadn't gotten over it we've talked about this before this is classic put it right in the category of pugh bessant boy who grew up who got some money made the movie he wants to make sure come on come on all right real ernest cline of a of a movie it okay yeah that's the dude who did a ready player anymore like an stephen so steven spielberg really improved at so don't judge what i'm saying by the movie the slowing ernie the book it's all on ernie the book is a i'm trying not be like a vulgar and explaining i'm i can't my my mouth won't let you know how i think we already we talked about that on the on the ready player one show anywhere no i just have a lot of you know i like to speak in a metaphor metaphor and analogy and stuff right so i have a lot of words that i wanna say but i shan't you can get the idea or like just like gronk oh it's just such a but get some proactive and sit down right i hate movies like this like sorry sorry and they're really chauvinist taken also magical realism yeah that's the other thing they're not they're out there pitching on what i love most with their self indulgent self involved mission gosh it's not good the plot was stupid i know you're not a plot person but it has no bones plot for me should be bones to excellent character in what happened okay no bones means a sloppy body okay vivid him and i can't go anywhere like it's just no no no no no also andrew garfield like i don't know what's his name sam i don't mean i don't mean andrew garfield you see a guy uncomfortable say the name i said it was like a weird accents anyway so like 'em 'em but yeah just like his character was not i mean i'm not saying he's supposed to be super likable right like i also just bored out of my mind watching him and also like i hate and he's like the type of person i hey okay you don't like be a big stuff's goodman kids it's mills okay i feel like that was pretty good that that's what we i mean honestly i would just call the police obviously because i know because i'm a logical human who wants actual a no tangible retribution of a punching intent on the frontier justice right which is you know amounts to nothing like there's no satisfaction that for me but also i think he he enjoyed without spoiling anything enjoys a bit of aggression oh yeah but yeah no unrelated just nodding and i don't need it you know me i don't need a calculator both like a movie you know but just oh my god romance also rally coconut down i'm so old her like she plays the same perspective kind of mysterious person who ends up out of what their best word i really don't like her i i mean i like her it's just the i think she's maybe she's being typecast i dunno now i don't know who she got into a do nepotism so she could have done whatever she want don't respect her career choices so i don't respect i like her and i i like her in american honey and i like her in logan lucky those those are the two that i think she's quite good yeah but even those good against like she does the same crap over and over again i just can't put some pants on for a role jesus credit but that's not a joke and i don't mean that i'm don't mean that in judgment of what she looks like in any way would double she choose to play exactly they write what i mean to say is put a little more understandably she always plays exact same person and they i've never seen her a pair of pants but you know you all know what i mean i don't mean that you shouldn't you know what i mean that's fair if you wanna go pale it's you go panelists but sometimes wear pants just to make things you mix it up a little bit sometimes where parents you know now i will say original casting what's dakota johnson i think that would have been way better i think dakota johnson could all his movies so so well i would have been goes yeah yeah but no i just think this was a self indulgent piece of crowds i think is one of those like if he i think goes 'cause you know he's coming off of a big success right which is why compared it to donnie darko like a big success then made this thing on saint louis southland southland tales lay it was like his passion project wherever these men who make their passion projects need to bring the scripts to therapy dive into it say oh this is really bad what about when you were in silence you ten show you're asking now what am i in those his passion project that's different he's lift a whole career first of all okay there i'm glad you brought rob scores they think allows washing it and i was like score say he knows how to 'em and how to embrace those who came before him in his field so well and this movie did the opposite like the stupid camera work with the new may cause you know associate kind of seventies vibe whatever with the zooms and stuff yeah god awful over the top across fade soci from my you know like the fifties the crossing thing is very fifth it just did not work like i think enough that likes already used the word sweat cut us talking about life in these boys but i'm in a different vibe like that sweaty cut i need this movie have like that hot sticky summer feel you know what i mean you oh you gotta check out parents vice from yeah i know this had this is i put in the same category of failure as i do a hot summer nights or that i've forgotten all about that movie timothy exact same thing and it's like they attempted nod to the filmmakers you love with bobby on subtle you know little like wings like rear window and crap you ain't no hedge cock and then they had hitchcock i do not want to be associated with this movie oh my what made this movie the johnny depp face smith the effing spiderman what yes that is that is done and i said when was that he andrew andrew garfield sits up he's got a comics a comic book of their amazing spiderman though i missed i don't know if y'all are aware but andrew garfield played spiderman okay here's mehta b s and then there's this thing about gum and he had the gum his hand right and so he went to pick up the magazine it stuck to his hand like it doesn't spiderman when he wakes up arising spiderman okay nice yeah i i do i i missed the bad either way this is bad either this is intentional what you're samantha b be as well you know he's andrew garfield and i hate that number one sack option is what this a intricate web you're trying to waive where everything is supposed to mean something if you missed that somehow then that the failure as well basically it's a lose lose from me 'em i'm sorry you're not going through to the next round i hated that wow see i thought you would like but like i said i'm clearly i can't reach people that's the thing it's like no and i don't say that it's like the same kind of deal is i should like hot summer nights but it's so hollow empty no heart these men think they have not they both have the we do these guys think that they like their king newborn yeah i mean you you're not you're not right in that and i liked that his original story but it could i need a lot of tinkering like the whole 'em graphic novel angle could have been way cooler taken a they need the pickle pickle in men also andrew garfield was now but not in a fun way okay maybe some recasting well doll would have been dote july to law opposite dakota fit dakota johnson would have really improved this movie but not wanna say because it's horrible and the freaking homeless king i can't hear this rams up like it has the making he and that's the thing though it's got the makings because they've watched thee masters but yeah basic yeah thank you at but yeah basic while harsh laying down the law wow right mhm well m talk and not to mention today this massage initially get forgetting manic pixie on my gotten addicted self aware and it's like oh my god there's a lot of boobs and flooding now during the hot but i andrew you know you see making me don't you do you see a little too she you know what i mean but if you go full frontal that's you know pushing the that same territory but again got in on time but not now but yeah all right well i mean all all kick kick my review off here so i was pretty skeptical going into this it by the trailers an by even just by like the news that trailers trailers were dope yeah i think they knew they missed the mark when they made the trailers like the moving what's gonna miss the mark by the trailer being so dope like they they gave in a completely different town mm yeah maybe i mean i i thought i was worried at first because it looked like a wanna be inheriting vice which is one of my favorite films and i forgot forgotten completely about hot summer nights and that wasn't really in my mind but i was a little skeptical going in and start it off a little my unfocused which is unfocused overall and i can completely see why it's been visit of like why you hate it and others don't i'll say i actually really we really liked it 'em not as much as something like inherited vice or even like the nice guys don't get too but i thought her one year commenting on monday the direction i thought the direction was fantastic mulholland drive me off a cliff plus david lynch all set of mom and dad if you watch this movie yeah my way he would have said oh they stole my idea that that made him crap mm okay yeah i i i thought the direction i thought it looked amazing and i thought that how things were shot and even just the locations were very unique and i just love how it was edited and shot and i agree there are call backs other films but for whatever reason actors which is way way yeah yeah that that wasn't really in my mind for whatever reason i dunno but i i i thought it was it was just a weird kind of very unlike anything else that's come out this year for furman that that was refreshing at least 'em but i i just enjoyed some of these weird encounters that he has i i like 'em i guess some of the common tort commentary towards the end about what the whole kind of journey is about i mean we get to that in spoilers but i really like the score by disaster piece although maybe a little too similar to jonny greenwood with inherit my they'll really enjoyed it i liked the fake rock band when jesus and the bride's dracula pretty solid pretty solid make any okay yeah no end in late on a plot holes yeah 'em and i agreed that it is lacking a lot of subtext throughout the metal but for the most part it really i was completely in those just curious as to what what's gonna be happening next or what you're gonna see that you get into bad relationships and me tell me about it you know so a stable movie what the happy ending hey you know nothing wrong with that but this time around i i just you know would go from like a you know a bomb shelter two a m i dunno up at the lake and i mean it was just like in terms of the visuals and how it was shot in particular i loved and i felt like it really put a unique spin on on that type of film although obviously it does call backed other things things and i mean for the most part i enjoyed andrew garfield i kinda liked house character was a little unhinged like you know stuff's the egg in the kid's mouth like let's that's unexpected but it was it was good 'em i agree that the way the the movie starts off with why he goes on this journey is little week okay yeah 'em but how do you think that a movie dealt with a female i mean how the movie dealt with females i mean i king of how the stray started off oh when he's having sex with a girl oh that night out later when he goes there watching the news it is weird but who's you know the whole playboy things super weird like she should have thought that was weird but i mean maybe she has issues to also that ladies see i don't like all these like somebody famous people coming up in a movie like this yeah but i in terms of that i agree that it was at times maybe a little too sure yet but i enjoyed in terms of the direction i liked how comfortable it fell just went with how it shot things even just in terms of the nudity i thought like it it portrayed things 'em realistically nfl come natural like you were actually actually there in the room rather rather than just let me get some straight fast nudity is not bother there may know we did we got to my upbringing now my town quite odd out of context i grew up you know naked people nuts so that contact you just keep it a lot of life dry in my house glasses in my house salata naked people by accident i thought it was narnia behind the curtain at well mhm but the way they deal with i'm talking more about the actual relationships and i agree character sure oh no by in terms of not the relationships necessarily but just how it was shot again i i just felt kind of like it was self aware and comfortable with being kind more i dunno adult is the right word but just being a little more raw when i'm asking you about i know that but i'm i'm just i'm simply just saying a few thoughts for you know we we get into the heart of this thing but i agree at times it did feel little like all pretty much all the women were kind of you know sex crazed you know kinda women which you know danny flat can't cash yeah i mean there's not a lot to most people in it and so that i will completely agree with but for the most part it was just so abstract and weird that i enjoyed going on the journey for the most part but i agree it it did at times dip a little too much into self indulgence but i still like be commentary about there's always kind of a another person behind the r n m or behind certain things you might think are amazing that one person did there's always other people around them who are a part of that an and a lot of what you're really yeah yeah well i mean i mean if there's nothing deepen in by any means but i enjoyed it's like a it's lacking be the residents of something like inherited vice and it's also lacking the comedy or the high comedy night skies right which at first i was worried about but i felt like it was it dip into enough weird 'em a situation and sequences that i ask you do from how bad it is sure sure but i immediately just wanna to rewatch right when i finished and i was worried worried about the runtime is you know it's two hours and twenty minutes but after a while i it could have been a half hour longer and i would have enjoyed it honestly but i i again i just enjoyed his journey i enjoyed the weird encounters i like 'em yeah it just felt it was refreshing and what it leaves refreshing lily loss to me like have you turned ninety five so you got some brown and lotteries them oh that was crashing let's say let me say this is refreshing in comparison to what has come out this year that's still not good that's now i don't think it will likely of cinema this benign hall henry that's that's weak sauce but oh hey it's been awhile since i've seen the movie the kind of felt like it really was ambitious end at times indulgence isn't always a good or or beneficial to us on but i felt like and this at least in some cases it was and i appreciate it for throwing in weird characters and weird visuals and 'em extending some sequences longer than maybe they should be but it was just interesting to me to watch even though a in retrospect specked it wasn't as thoughtful as it could have been or as i like to be but still i know i know it's still enjoy the journey like the performances i 'em yeah the score cinematography i was in wow i mean of course something like inherit vice is much better 'em and then i feel like there's one more similar to but i it's i i know a lot kind of similar to that or feel like i like confidential hey why feel like inherit vices kind of rejuvenated the narrow memoir lee a new drug caved nave and seven in she was obviously unloading in las vegas yeah and now challenge i get that one of the room diary i do all of my my thinking of what's fair unloading now there's another one i'm thinking of another one advantage planning more a lot but and so i i'm i guess my uncles name oh really yeah but yeah so i'm i guess i'm just like a sucker for these movies with exception of hot summer nights i'd much rather watch out and i know that's not true mommy but and who knows maybe i'll just in the right mood in the right place but i i just i enjoyed it quite a bit much more than i thought i was worried going in like i said but an i i light romney in fact i like the moments supporter that kind of made it feel like the squirrel squirrel early tonight the score my i'm also i'm not telling me like this no please they genuinely actually bothered me that you know the dream sequence once when her face is different oh yeah yeah that she really bothered me yeah not unlike a yeah like oh i don't like how you chose to do that or i think that's messed up yeah it just feels very offensive and a few ways to you know what i mean you can we get over that stereotype the people big noses are are are scary i mean you know what i mean yeah speaking as a medium size knows person thank goodness cool man you're welcome but you know what i mean yeah just really hate that mhm end but yeah i liked i liked the look of his apartment is well i thought and that whole location and that felt very it follows e you know 'em yeah i disliked the choice of locations i thought they may think that light at that location gatorade yeah i yeah giving him or or her a raised 'cause they did a good job but 'em an i i just again i just liked it's abstract nature you know i'd rather watch mulholland drive i went to i'd rather watch i went to hell like confidential i'd rather watch even hear my humor no i didn't i didn't like adventure lastly i met a feeling really yeah you know i feel like when people say nowadays they like fearing loading i feel like they haven't watched in seven poser no i i feel like they had bad it's not great now but i feel like people who say that haven't watched it since it came out that is it i mean listen alive when it came out was that i definitely did not why not maybe ninety seven money yeah this too so i you know i i check that one out the item probably did honestly you know the middle of the order or or at least they haven't watched it in a decade and i have not seen in a decade if feels even though i love johnny depp haven't really watched it in the last couple of years feels very dated well let me tell you something the diaries much but now i would tell you something though henry what's up the bar for what i would rather watch watch than this is quite a last round of limbo that's fair catch in my field yeah i i catch all i could say a lot of movies i'd rather watch and so sure 'em but yeah i i loved the the sequence in the lake where you know the they're they're in the water i it's it's on the poster i guess but i love that i am again they're plenty of things that i wouldn't be able to explain but at times i i liked that other times i didn't m i just don't like all the yeah i'd only called the odds like that and mary a millionaire thing or ties in mind directly with the plot and like why julie that box that shoe box and stuff yeah why is hosea mammon in this movie yeah there's like a long list of stuff you boom and he might be the phillies likable person of all time but not in a good way i yeah i didn't have really an issue with those things usually i do but i didn't miss for whatever reason maybe who knows maybe it was just a a hammer you know we're day if you embrace what you care about and i'm not putting you down helps thank you know you're on what makes you happy thank you know you too slowly i would never i mean i wouldn't notice 'em yes so i mean it's i again i i get why it's defensive end i wouldn't don't put it wouldn't judge anyone for saying they hated it like you did or first thing they absolutely loved it i would i and see how similar to inherit vice i think i could see how someone could watch this and it's like their new all time favorite movie i just sees this is that how you view and guess what if any of the boys who think that i'm won't go out with you yeah laying down the law right i go 'cause i've learned i just want not you or you're a catch henry oh thank you but i mean i am not your favorite one of my favorite movies that if this is honest to god if someone's favorite movie that's like we cannot i can't i literally i could see that happening for free like not the movies like kind of creeping purpose right but this is your favorite movie i find that extremely creepy and unsettling that this is like you're heart song like i cannot win you so i'm not going to yeah but yeah i would anyone want to me because i'm a woman who actually has words come out of her mouth yeah and i think i should get paid the same and at this movie pride don't care oh you think that's a conspiracy like a lot of people did you said a lot of americans think that women get paid and they're like tall non right now they it's fine oh yeah well one thing about this director which is just weird is it's the same thing in it follows he has characters like r h watching movies that we almost no one would be watching it rh so and it follows when my a mike up monroe and the the dude who are in their house there watching like frankenstein ns this he's watching it like a silent film yeah like ninety nine percent of people unless you're a the us would not actually be watching that like right have the watch these office right the most watched show on netflix has said that rush for my faith in humanity like honestly like i do not see andrew garfield watching a nineteen twenties there's no way that brel it'd be watching that movie no but it'll nor do i see it in the fall election i think shark nato my coming road not watch frankenstein there's no way no so fix that david fix it that's what i'm talking about the self indulgent blah blah blah agreed self indulgent but in in this case for whatever reason i didn't mind the most part there's one seen in particular there's this party scene towards the beginning i was not i felt like that was felt really extended and that was at a point where it's like okay am i gonna like this or not but then rookie donovan yeah but then it just coastal along and i was i was loving it for whatever reason i i dunno i got it all right well you isolate so we liked the way says it'll be on there and all you like one of those films i didn't and if you liked the way something stone then that's really gonna keep you guys i i i say i loved how it was filmed i could say that i was like oh just waiting for the the cool shots you know what i try here in front of me what's that yeah hey hey no no judgment there so cemetery vacant sip it's pumpkin spice latte all day preach preach but yeah i i wasn't very pleasantly surprised preachers did show i've seen the pilot i i like olive preacher in one sitting beside license movie oh yeah i have my stationary bike is a good through from what i've seen but has ruth wilson around no way no route negga disney of loving fame who's ruth wilson again oh that late i don't like rowdy gentleman new she's she's the other she's a version of that i don't like michelle mont again she hasn't housing for everybody she's she's on in a new show on i'm the hormone like mystery which one it's something about where the husband cheats or has like more multiple families and she's the the wife of an shoes any affair you're not again this is different maybe keep it moving just adjusting you're not allowed to be an astronaut again like you know what i mean oh right yeah she wasn't in the martian con she's in seven fm movies in the day wow yeah mom but yeah well actually i guess i don't really have anything spoiler talk about do i mean it's really not worth it to me honestly yeah i thought i did but i i mean just stupid like i basically if we did a spoiler review i would just like pick at all the holes net income and also like we all know who the dog murderer is yeah come on come on so i'm with the homeless gang on that one you know yeah yeah i i like i like the the james dean those good mccown roll my i think it's it's it's it's obvious but i felt like it was kind of tongue in cheek and so i did that mind i felt like it was self aware now a well great you're you're you're too kind maybe maybe so i wasn't i i don't wanna give david david robert mature yeah you know like he is no coffee shop lady slap in the face no yeah not not the time for her so you you like it follows a europe yeah time yeah i'm a follower though you're drafting go like oh i know you i know you like do that i i wasn't thinking about yeah good 'em my gosh in salmon it girl i like it only through but clue is is this the the mother of this year oh i'm loving it you're hitting it yeah and then there's gotta be one every year i think yeah this we please don't comment again that dude oh jesus well apparently you can only do it once right do what because oh yeah you know when you have a little slow we had a troll it's just a one star it was it really hit me hard man run a happened well let's when we had just or you had done i had just started then you know i never date light or jeff you guys ready for the wolf and then i was at i know shame on you whoever you shame on you know but luckily for that we've had five stars ever since i think yeah i think so from what i could see group polarization in my right yeah you know this could be the mother yeah might be what the mother and go story different years yeah shoot no no go story mother were the same here last you're one well you haven't seen spuria but you probably know that'd be at you probably feel that way out and on that'd be so i was lovely down don's what a brilliant so mean to rewatch there one 'cause i'm going to that ballet in may say oh well i guess i talked about on the show you weren't there but yes so in midmay now i'm going with my friend ashley from jovan go to a production of swan lake at the raleigh north the carolina ballet call me i love i said yeah you go those all the time yeah remember impasse go into that in a couple of only so much from our office on life scares the f adamy keep an eye out for some funky stuff we know how it could be ever naski you are not aronoff aronovski got up there and that's a tie in its net my so after rewatch will don don an apple watch one oh i just did for are reviewing it again view we all have to rewatch fair oh tell me about the garden thing dining now oh you're so my mother just got spooked annoys he himself made by the way oh doing owes me yeah okay like my cat likes to chase his to classic yeah yeah so my mother is gonna be sort of veer off here but my my diamond know about it you've seen all the british because i've never actually heard this really happening and all the british you know sweet murder shows i was you know but only watch q murder shows like mystery shit you know what i mean agatha raise and there's always one of these events oh somebody oil production there murder no no no none of it a but yeah so my mother i mean if you don't know which is like everybody listening so a my mother has a pretty big garden she goes on it's terrible thank you oh i'm yes i'm on actress she's a master gardener she might even have that title officially i don't know but this this year she's there is a a local tour like garden tour the where some of the big guy and i don't know if their chosen or people volunteer and then their chosen i dunno but i am yeah but now i'll just roll out but i their way my mother's garden is going to be on the tour again this year she's been on a few times before but it's where the local you know rich whites a i like it up from there recliners yeah go to all these all various that is so weird you put out like orders in has put out whatever they want and i don't think were doing the may maybe will have water 'cause it's the summer summer lemonade capital lemonade you know something like that but you were gonna have people you know touring my mother's garden do they rated competition i dunno i don't think so i think murder folly yeah but apparently it is kind of like even if there is no competition apparently it is a little cutthroat he yes unintended so you know people sabotaging i mean yes although i could see that happening yes yes i neighbors have done that to us we don't get along with them it's very sad well but yeah so it's gonna be this saturday and i've been helping her out a lot move things like hey hendrickson you helped me move everything in my garden around yeah that's some functions way in my life for the last couple of wins or my whole life forever that's what you see upside that's all because of me ten i'm front of bill myself a deck so i know where you're at i did not i only it's and undertaking i was not i mean i should've known given the sentence of kind of built myself a deck but will make it happen yeah it's happening you wait and see by my game of thrones party will have a beautiful little deck out there okay cool a moon can't wait 'em if anyone's interested you're welcome to my game of thrones party nice of you mhm but a defined that andrew garfield yeah well a okay well out of five stars don't worry i'm not going five okay wait okay what is it like a little upsetting what came to me to give this as a rating say okay i'm sorry this it makes you uncomfortable never why well what came to mind what came to mind when you ask me if the rating wasn't memory oddly oh this boy shea said no no i shan't do i know no than say i want i want a glowing walking the halls young man a boy boys are sweet a a male okay a male walking the halls in seventh grade and from behind me he like snapped my like he pulled my bra strap you know ashes of yeah so that's like give me out of that yeah i it's just like that's what this reminds me of a weird story about how i feel slightly assaulted by just probably probably the mother other reviewer right i would you know that the problem i think it's a sign of affection that this year yeah you see men right that is i get this movie yeah oh okay well so i had any i'll go ahead and give had it'd be we'll be out what came to mind i'll go four point a five here at and it could go down to four i dunno okay could this be an opposite king arthur shutting one point five and we will see let's see 'em oh you know speaking of weird young things car when i was in elementary school kid just randomly elbowed being the stomach walking behind yeah maybe he was angry battles right by yeah i dunno i wasn't creeping on issues going on we gotta wait i bet you were so cute male annoy you look like when you were little i can't find a picture of i was just like oh i told you this you look the same and acted the same i looked just like be a oh shoot what's her name a kid told me i did there oh yeah i looked identical to be a american girl samantha the da okay yeah and they can just call me samantha in elementary school so i don't know that the cop wonder insult by certainly to events all these big little front teeth all look her up and then decide but yeah i was just trying to get to the swings on on the playground in this kid just like an elbow me some took the breath right adam that's i dunno to the say i don't why did it wow you know were itin were not friends and assistant teacher who wouldn't let me go on this wings 'cause i did you jesus yeah shooters envoys what's the connection there what do you mean she won't be okay okay weird super weird i'm sorry that's okay the super we i mean obviously went on the swings anyway yeah discrimination i literally said what do you do 'cause lucienne do wishing news put me in time out fine so i'll go the principal until you're a racist because she was also rate is she ought to be fair she also wouldn't let the black kids on the swings thanks yeah shame on you oh yeah it was terrible jeez i know i also got deck randomly in elementary school i think maybe everybody does at some point get documents randomly yeah all right well i guess we could move on really didn't see common hey you never know right sees brandon brandon brandon yeah yeah so elbowing may not know rewritten so she with his name spencer brown broke my arm this kid named will broke my son tuber i broke i call it but actually's kim will both my arm nice i'm later at a movie making camp actually a small world yeah teeny tiny yeah all right well i guess we could move on threw me off along three off all true story dang did know that strong though oh wow yeah okay so i guess we could move on to are retro review of can you understand the significance squirrel fallen out of this guy he switched you you're a universes and follow this guy and like did you know okay let's move on now like the squirrels really that really gets me by okay let's keep going yeah oh then there's that whole romance with old lady older leaning against him yeah to a richer review of the nice guys from twenty sixteen land charming here's a here's a clip well the messenger service macho large gonna play a game call shut up unless you may have a private investigator of just twenty bucks no i just take it on nice that told you messenger you're gonna for tilleke like this is a p i what's the message of right right stop looking for amelia i whether you're looking for amelia she's a person of interest man of buying i'm done put a fork in me don't really put a fork in the musical be very happy because i still think it's gonna make a smile that's good now i got one more thing any task you fool with done here feeling though i think yeah you do this easy way we could do a threat and what really glad joanne's old lady hired me the fighter niece jews that just gave up you finally discretionary revelation no no you just gave real fast one simple question but i gave me only that's what you want all right so like we said the nice guys was released in twenty sixteen in is written and directed by shame blacker co written by shane black in stars yeah romatically roundtable yeah stars russell crowe ryan gosling will get to that a hang a an gory rice my australian i guess he's not only might wake you click on her she's been in lately sure because i feel like you really should have skyrocketed m oh she's gonna be in the new spiderman for using the the homecoming shoes and oh just killing it you play a steady s's better i guess if she's in both and she's fine entries beguiled sofia coppola well i wanna watch that about side down you're not gonna let me yeah but it looks so good but i'm though why why no weaken retro review it rained now the thing is henry it looks good and i know what i'm getting myself before i if i i i didn't like i don't like you're going to you know it's usually not our well a andy i'm matt bomer keith david might be about it a an the on bobi yeah and the synopsis is in nineteen seventies loss angeles mismatched pair of private eyes investigate a missing girl in the mysterious death of a porn star so this one was a not a huge hit commercially but with rodney well received you know learning lightning huge commercially commercially what's their press tour mars about people just loved it but it's really just rank causing a super charming all that generally people think are a grumpy be like russell crowe like ryan gosling made russell crowe happy and no one had ever seen that unlike harrison ford have you seen me a or have you listened to the russell crowe interview about robinhood where he walks out of the interview no one questioning him about his accident in robbins and he he got so angry but he just left yeah yeah yeah he seems like the word yeah like they set up super man must his psa those origin scenes oh yeah yeah i know the two most annoying sorry man on the planet who's the lady in that diane lane or amy adams no the old lady is diane lane now like creative though area check in serenity if you wanna see some from acting oh my guy forgot a she's not good yeah lord so yeah this one i i i love the movie clothing classic yeah it's hilarious it's let me point out that i'm not sold on my soapbox i can't appreciate a movie just because it's a little like it's not the most a it's not gonna change the world socially you know i still think this is a really good hilarious center taining movie even though it's a little like like when the old guy said something like oh i shouldn't say that right like a little bit not even that much you know what i mean sure there it's a little problematic in some ways firm in whatever that said love it this shit highlight the fact that under silverlake is offensive sure this one calls back to things but in a more earnest and actually aware less less self indulgent kind of way right yeah you dough yeah and the plot is at least it makes sense thank god there's like a payoff you know what i mean like when you get to be and you're like a okay yeah you know it's worth the d a crazy labyrinth of a of a time you i and i need that sorry i need that yeah i need the payoff yeah but it is it does involve a film making i guess you could say but it's about the porn industry but there's still plenty of little nods yeah it's very very well written i mean he's the best pass rusher in block is on i guess most recently he did the predator which clearly you didn't see the best oh my god if you haven't seen it at that anybody kiss kiss bang bang is they classic yeah that is if you ask me by far is best movie like okay so no i disagree or like this more the cutest thing so good i know oh my god he also wrote a tony scott's the last boy scout which i i like a lot i'm under that's not ahead they i know one of the iron man he wrote ironman at a armand three which is which is the best one i would say i think he can all over the place as well you respect so i'm and i i liked the predator even though got kinda yeah i don't know yeah but yeah no used the right words so earnest like it's sweet like it has that sweetness you it's not sleep movie like there's a lot i don't know about killing people unnecessarily i don't love that just because the kind of messes with the tone a little bit that kind of stuff you know what i mean like it's this sweet but then there's like this random like like what like not in a very intentional interesting full tone deaf you know what i mean but that's like a little nitpicky that's like own picky overall and i think this one like you liked like absurdity in the weird characters of of under silverlake and stuff like matt bomer in this like way more entertaining interesting surely then like i'm of low key but not in a good way obsessed with homeless king like that's so loved this just getting busy sorrow but like matt bomer and this is like way more interesting really just look a lot and i said dad hot and the other one is just like i mean this one is definitely much funnier and much more consistent and what it's trying to be yeah much more focused vision i love me a focus who don't right well yeah well yeah maybe david but 'em yeah and i think ryan gosling and russell crowe are great by themselves in this but they're also very good pair onscreen as well so i think ryan gosling has just a is the most charming person on the planet maybe most people think that you like i didn't really realize it until i realized there late bloomer on on the causeway god's train in early bloom run that a late bloomer basically like everything you don't wanna be like he's just yeah he's he's a great guy seems it seems so i don't think he's like the best actor in a world like i used to a lot more tonight maybe he's like kind of a settled see i i think he's gotten better really yeah oh my god like i prefer everything like post like place beyond the pines and blue ellen you would everything after that i like more than i like to create or that i'm free not all the way of course back young hercules but you know post murder by numbers pre like pre you're area have you seen the the believer yeah that's intense in it's been awhile since i've seen it but i mean lightning we'll girl is oh i love lars but it's is in like my top i mean beautiful yeah 'em his performance so oh yeah it's good rivals leo's y'all in navy eight oh wow wow yeah check that is on amazon prime if you haven't seen it yet navid analyzing like that had the dvd sorry henry i know i'm a lab she's my dvd with the times but yeah and i i think i think the most part the girl is good maybe it time yeah she's a little over the top but maybe it's more so the writing the writing worth yes he's that kind of almost like wes anderson like she adult she's kibbutz max work on adult were what should the adults act like yeah which like yeah exactly i think come dented the writing on that was like so sorry no not to you know not donovan too much to like well we can relate to and whatever whatever right but like i feel like precocious girl should be run better like there's nothing wrong with that you know what i mean you know i feel you there we need some me that i am sam writer did come in here have a little talk yeah then go away yeah but i do like ask jeeves yeah yeah i do love it looks great out 'em and this this is a magical realism i can get behind yeah like the richard nixon crazy thing is great the third act is like insanity yeah i'm not mad i love it like you love that i don't love third act but i just mean the movie oh you just said you love it i am no i do love you know if i actually loved it i would be out of this chair that's one way or another come on if you were like a don't say it right lip over you and i don't think anything anything yeah you insinuated you're gonna say something i really loved like my body almost can't control yourself like yeah i don't know what to do when you're there is excited and then there's chloe excited right exactly yeah it's rare that ever comes out and it's true form but when it when it does it's crazy yeah when when day franco popped up as the as the yoga wherever in if you could talk i if i told you i fell out of my she went bananas when they have and i'm not proud of it exactly okay but it's like if you guys watch tom coming and you saw the dude who catch fiance who caught i'm so sorry to say cashed that embarrassing who's caught beyond say's towel he is my yeah like that's my oh yeah that's a mood sorry i had a spiderman on my mind sorry 'cause we have that would allow a but yeah i love the the scene where go to be a that house party where he like you know he rolls down the hill and these sequences amazing then trae love yeah yeah the a dry though like cars seen by the party yeah yeah that's good talking about no yeah yeah well i mean when i think next year thing like where he's he's swimming with mermaids and stuff like that that's pope that's pre my thing okay they're both in scenes like where the guy gets hit by the car yeah yeah it's good i really liked that scene yet but even though that's an example of like cleaning quite need that that all right yeah i i there are parts of her character that kinda remind me of of you actually which is like like the guys dying but she's like oh yeah he's like he's like a murder but then you're like oh i'm sorry sorry got slammed by corey though that she really sweet you're welcome 'em but yeah it's a and i guess i guess what's shane black there's always a christmas call back always which i guess is that the andrei it's like in the last scene is christmas ask but yeah just a a i don't hear many people talking about it he bond movie yeah but it could watch this many a time it's a gym it's a hidden gem is i i agree i do is it a masterpiece some might say somebody say but i wouldn't mhm verbalize that but i would definitely watch it several times and several occasions it's enjoyable enjoyable movie yeah not top of my list certainly nowhere near the bottom adam you know mhm yeah it's been awhile since i've seen kiss kiss bang right oh so there's a hundred percent his best yeah it's also been years since i've seen it yeah but could this be a fear unloading issue or situation now i don't like unknown classic i think i did hold up but yeah 'em yeah let's check it out if you haven't seen it racket yeah double feature yeah 'em yeah this is quite funny yeah more one of the the few great comedy from the last couple of years so oh no right there's not much change marian but is that a that's not a first and foremost the comedy outsiders it's it's funny but i think this is this is maxim i think i think this is a comedy this is oh this isn't action but there's a lot of action there is but i don't think it's i don't think shame black set the set set out to make an action movie i think he made a comment winemaker actually i think he has he does both i think i think in this case it's a comedy but has action and that's i think that's what's great about it it's many different genres you can't place although it's a comedy but now they can't argue with that logic yeah so aren't will cool little quick little review but what's okay well to say about i dunno i dunno the weird there's some weird stuff now give it a poke poke yeah willa first yeah out of five you say ask first i five from me i it was one of my favorites land twenty sixteen i think in my top for five and a quarter very cool well a nice we can move on quote any news you wanna talk about that sonic the hedgehog trailer kids were all talking about it are they so really excited yeah have you have you watched it no it's i did not i did not until yesterday when do i talk about those things and it it doesn't in the big scheme of things it goes overlap it doesn't look great it does look kind of fun i will say this i think it's voiced by the guy who's a john ra feo in a dan schwartz i think i could add onto in 'em but open jim carey's in this year he's the villain he's back oh he's had to do you know why he hasn't been utilized was a villain you get him in a movie honestly yeah right by malik move ness over let's go to kerry as a villain wonder so sick that would be good he should be batman guinea ridler something he was either my co yet well which one a batman in a a batman forever it's not good okay wow i'm so if those weird weird come on we're poised yeah that's like i watched the trailer for 'em we've always living the castle looks so bad i would have done such a better job acting that we talked about it okay i cast bell heath co in l a per now as the sisters stairs instead of alexandria of the tutorial daria end for me a guy who i need to remind everyone because i'm shutting down right now when i think of it that takes it from me get is reaffirming his sister not daughter yeah better that has let me shift to my core very strange they hate on that one crispin glover plays the uncle i think it should be ethan hawke sebastian stan is the only one we can kind of deal west as the cousin shockingly guess who i would pick henry army he'd be so busy about is in charge of the world scotchgard yeah they ask questions and kind of get away with but no now yeah so if i cast it so i tell you off ikat and right now you know i'm really starting to dig sebastian stan like like i i mean i i love 'em as people seem to hate on them in as the winter soldier but i that stupid had the game i love his hair i think his hair rocks well that makes sense oh yeah yeah yeah well can't argue here punk rock henry thank you so you took that as a compliment you wish you could pay my bills oh the job a maybe rabbits me so i am yeah they prohibit ladies no they're not do they not oh oh you mean ladies no pattern lady easily pain there now oh yeah they do it's everybody said do they prohibit late ladies from working they don't m three also skin it's true true and i got a feeling at this i got this thing i tell you tell you i got this thing i i got this thing i'm being commissioned by the city for the public art work i'm very excited about it which so yes we are exciting what's gonna be about like what what's this are are you getting your art showcased summer i'm making a piece of the city oh wow they're gonna be this is a this part does not sound very good and go okay so it's a mural technically okay love them it is really no this is about to go way down no it's not my dad would be so mad at me for a free pending myself down it's apparently it's a huge deal the youngest person be commissioned by the way for a it is a bus the hey man i i love or oriented bus stops that's cool though he's a bus stop at south think about how many people are gonna be looking at that that's right congratulate so that's thank you so much yeah so my point was i've never had that so i i can't we never had true not true maybe we can get the podcast a cute yeah that's what i'll do i'll change my proposal in just make it our logo great more out sneakily a the you are allen to outweigh yeah yeah let andrew garfield feels like in a under the silverlake you know a good movie yeah so anyway but but yeah oh oh oh so on that on the thing might need to know i'm not it's fine i can't do it it's fine thank you for having me my i know what it's gonna be what the mural what it's gonna be yeah what is it you'll see but the point is on the contract like check offi things if you're a woman owned business and minority on business a disabled on business i said oh shoot on all the trifecta here i got all three technically wrong however andy 'em details it said just to be clear and said that's athlete but it said that on this is are what what we mean by minority guess what wasn't in there what's that point a one percent of the population yeah juice well isn't that bad yeah how are we not a minority point one percent of the population but it does seem weird not point one point one point oh one a one what's crazy i'm martha anyway i said at this mhm that's crazy if you're gonna ask like where'd you ask but if you're gonna ask you you should you know well other way congratulations thank you so much i'm sorry i don't remember why brought that up not spoken to bring that up i dunno shows coke and i say this so now you have some artwork at the antonio is relevant right as well as some other places i'm sure whenever i see whatever you're works i immediately notes years i think you have filed on michael that's really like what i what i'm working on antonio's i don't know the at the time you had work there and said oh that's code found i think you henry welcome but all right well cool 'em not much other news clearly in a in a houston is cancelled a people are going deep shit for game of thrones the final battle to sharks seen above a huge although we can't talk about i can't watch his counters into but he would final so we haven't yet connoisseurs corner i watch everything lobster so together but i just i love battles where i can't see anything i love and you know king arthur will see but yeah with all that true yeah yeah but words up all over social media jeeves calmed down i think a shoot doing a lot of news night were made alone card i left my car or there's nothing that good on there i would remember no that's not true we all know how my memory is swiss cheese yeah but yeah whatever whatever they just i just got some swiss cheese is really good i'm allergic i hey i know my cat everything okla i'm sorry but a all right well cool i guess we move on so a to some listener mail and so the film buds podcast at g mail dot com is the address deacon reaches that i am also a on twitter at some buds and on instagram and facebook's so follow us if you haven't yet lambis questions comments whatever you want whenever relationship you're about say that thank you 'em which we wantagh avenue segmented like maybe once we've had that maybe early on but i can't run away maybe listeners go back and listen to the early episodes we've had any relationship questions but i had a proposed t a significant other that's like i'm so good at that yeah me too yeah but yeah so please send us anything you like aunt yes oh yes so the one we have this week is from john tieger in nashville ooh yeah very exotic lang says hi my buds gotta accidentally went to see that were nationalists yeah yeah cool sorry for the randomness of this question john yet but since you do talk about favorite musicians and bands i wondered what were both of your top five favorite albums of all time how to love the podcast and very very much and thanks ramona shows keep them coming thank you john yeah thank you yeah so yeah i told you about the questions about an hour before we yet record it so that you told me feeling it i'm gonna make some a not so parameters to make things you okay self yeah i have five and then i put some honorable mentions american jewish right it's going yeah go for a week and prepare how starting number five here going going down oh shoot like differently in order i dunno i need a paper and pen okay go for it so number five i know there are a ton of ones but could be in the that's what i mean like kinda hard to fast it's kinda hard to pick one problem why science news then you go ahead okay sorry so i'm number five is and so when i only kind of came across about maybe two years ago but it's odyssey in oracle zombies album that's oh i love is not well i would not have thought we wouldn't have i didn't see this coming amy neither allows gone through various things armies of so heads right i love i i love that level lamb shank they want here did you let him we gather oh darn well come on they'll probably be around forever right now they're all day i no kidding oh well nominees over the joker good took me a second but a number for a glorious results misspent youth league joan jett album i love i think it's maybe her third or fourth time they can get really i'm singer in august i thought you dang she's very much alive no but i'm seeing her among the dead she's i think she's like sixty now but i'm singer in august and ordering in raleigh i think what's dot dono maybe my grandpa then like joan jett i mean she's like eighteen or nineteen when the runaways came out and that was in the eighties i think that what stat on andrew i plan to woodstock noah lady i think we don't yet know joe bias no i dunno janice joplin yeah one we i i love joan jett and i i can't wait to see her in 'em in august and then number three it's kinda hard to choose one but it's more so just some of their parts but help the beatles album i could pick really any of and but now you know i only like that's their first three albums i think this is one of the first three i'm stan i only like the first three om and then number two i was talking about earlier is amy wine house is backed black love i guess number one i don't know if you get it oh i only know the name of their album yeah no problem with it then you and then number one is a green bay's twentyfirst century breakdown oh she would have they want the grenade no that's american idiot this one i need a good at the line in this one came out i think five years after american idiot and it was the first one that really kind of happy made the impression on me but i i love it so i think it's their best one 'em and so that's yeah my number one and then honorable mentions would be american idiot on there so khloe you're you're close and then 'em some others there's plenty i'm forgetting i just kinda made this relatively quickly but hunky dory the david bowie album i love love love bowie or that album well above stuff on this is war the thirty seconds to mars album album and you could check out the the documentary about how they made it in the struggle to make that but yeah really very good album celebrity skin the album by whole courtney love's banned from the nineties and early two thousands very good album one 'em night at the opera be queen album featuring bohemian rhapsody me i know what can i say i love i love music clearly i'm only doing size okay emma of the state the blink one eighty two album the house yeah on the classic album from i guess it's two thousand or nineteen ninety nine but it's kind of one of the defining punk albums from that era damn thing that's it yeah and there's plenty of others but i would take too long chloe okay i'm only doing a new stuff that's fine like i'm not including lou reed or any of that okay because it makes my head hurt okay so i'd inputs been order i'll tell you my my favorite album of all time dormancy yeah sam stone yeah branch by the killer is my number one album of all time shoe will say i got all right these are no particular order nobody else really like day and age is my other favorite killers album right that's a gym most favorite yeah we have a brief inquiry into online relationships is like my current one of my favorites is the new nineteen seventy five i think it definitely won't last is like one of my favorites for a long time mhm but since it came out that's where we you're you're digging it modern vampires of the city by vampire weekend okay is that one of their most recent or yeah one of their 'cause i mean i i know them by the way albums ago okay i like the one with the orange a m in white background whatever about what is the holiday yet not that one that i like that makes sense and then 'em all do one honorable mention okay okay then chanel orange frank ocean smoker and then the honorable mention because this is cheating is paid z elephant album unpeeled which is basically just like on what is basically just live version and they're like greatest hits okay like they did now moved their greatest hits basically right and it's obviously it's all it's got their greatest hits yeah so minus one of my favorite songs of bears which is 'em like a guilty not guilty pleasures into that but i love it is called around my head and that's not on there but basically all my other times ron there 'cause i'm basic to a one m speaking of a the suspense oh my gosh do do do i also like swimming go by plant flowers and then not gonna do they all stuff that demise of lady bird one of my favorite line from that movie is a an in a way it's it's true is like when a the she's at college and that guys like why do you all time greatest hits album and she says 'cause they're the greatest yeah i mean in a way it makes sense and i love that but yeah i mean but yeah i mean there were plenty others we could mentioned but you know time is tight right time is tight yeah how a tight yeah so cool thank you so much for the email hope hopefully that satisfies even john john fans and if you have any favorites senator mar way john if you have any like or like you said anybody you know anybody we'd love to to check them out so cool wargin make sure the and all the contact information it's in the show notes as well is be bonus show link on band camp so check them out if you haven't handled by the day night albums by kennedy okay haven't haven't listened to that one also coloring book yeah okay go ahead oh also also honorable mentions is that the carnage oh yeah i seven and four so then i got a i guess we can end off with are picks of the week right and so should i start as is usual so all i did mention earlier i i watched eight new amy wine house doc called amy wine house backed black and this one is a solely about her making the titular album and has some unseen footage new unseen footage and it's just a really nice thing about this movie fifty eight minutes long time i can't beat it yeah i know how you pick the glove islands of being a no that's the thing although i loved it that's meant i didn't know i didn't know that going in i it could use another twenty minutes but it's still still solid doc very interesting 'em introspective into someone like amy wine house making her her biggest album and then also it has a lot of deals with amy wine house and tony bennett still haunts me like oh yeah as the saddest thing i've ever seen in my life yeah what kind man yeah got but yeah it has some really interesting interviews with people who are in more involved with like the music and the producing of it that work wasn't featured any be amy documentary by eight twentyfour they came out a couple of years ago but yeah just a a solid documentary music documentary if you like either amy wine house or or just the making of documentaries check that one out and then i also watched a the ninth gate with johnny depp yeah and this one is directed by roman polanski i think it was last films and this one came out in the late nineties and johnny depp is kind of sleazy mike brown bransky yeah a book dealer 'em anti a lot of time in the day what's that sleazy book yeah yeah and yeah kind of a a trickster you know 'em aunt he ends up being involved with some a some dark stuff dealing with the devil and 'em it's all about kind of on nursing books that might be written by the devil and you know i'd rather watch their brand now oh yeah sure me to in this case but a johnny depp is very good in the movie but it really runs out of steam steam within like some really cool idea which gail wallace road as a buck yeah which he loki dead oh yeah yeah i like the first thirty minutes minutes or so i thought i was like man i'm gonna love this thing yeah but it really starts to dragon loses focus much like how you would comment on under the silverlake mm you know but yeah not not great but johnny tabulating yeah he's he's it's worth saying just for that and then oh i will mention music wise i don't know what got gave me the urge to do this but i listened to a lady gaga art pop have you listened to the album yeah i think goes on out it was seeking out some something of hers maybe from a star is born i dunno also i'll give this a looming why not in it i mean obviously obviously it's not my like type of music per say but it kind of has this like selfaware kind of trashy msnb aplenty he idea yeah it kind of has a self aware trashing nece to it which i kind of dog khloe you know me i like some good trash but the airport novels yeah well side of you get a little sliver of yeah it was it's it's kind of like a has some cool techno vibes to it i know a lot of fun actually 'em so it's not what i'm gonna you know wouldn't be in my top ten earning but i was pleasantly surprised just like all right i'm in cool art cover art work i like that a colorful you know all that jazz but 'em yeah a little checkout are pop if you haven't yet if you'd like a if you like that kind of thing i think that's it oh i only have one thing i finally okay so i it's one of those where i tried to watch as like i don't like this i'm so sad but they're not a fan right than us like okay i'll try again and that's actually so good sex education oh yeah on netflix ivan sima yeah you should watch it you'd like it it's just sweep nick warming novel yeah did you see that news piece about a thirteen reasons why there is some yeah about the suicide rate but and that's very confusing nights like there's so many very you know yeah not variables a sword i'm looking i guess variables works is not what looking for but yeah anyway so a cool i don't nasty though i agree you shouldn't make that up and did teen soap opera it's ridiculous mhm 'em all right well cool i guess that's i thought i had maybe one other thing but i won't mention i can't think of a fun 'em yes so cool i guess that about brings us to the end of the show but yeah so again next time we are gonna hopefully the gas a fallen through we will do a un ventures endgame show a better late than never right i mean it's gonna be in theaters for like a year and so i think to ride off of that hype train right and so stay tuned for that and again don't forget to check out the bona shows just donate a dollar why not you know you'll it's like you know we we talked about a bunch of different things so it was it was great a and so yeah well chloe it's always it's a pleasure congrats about be i think that in ten okay and good luck with you're you're other endeavors oh you know i know what i'm saying now little inside joke like fame more than a dollar here about that yeah 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"Why hey man man man man total all right everybody online after eight w solely blessing spider fest and i figured out we do this now record now because at least we have the content for next week show yeah we'll have to do it must be fresh mind so yeah right right all right off watching it so it's not a thing where had a reminder so's what happened we decide so so 'em your thoughts on tonight remind sure sure 'em fighter festival was very good for what it was a it was supposed what does what does that mean it it it didn't have a lot of potential going in it wasn't a stack card it wasn't supposed to be the currently the cut him of of fucking h w events with all out coming out all out coming to fruition few months this is basically 'em i'm gonna call this the super showdown of oily wrestling's pay per view 'em okay not in bad way though because i'm not gonna lie most of the carbs the woman's matches were really good i i really enjoyed the night the night in the beginning to the end always wrong more feet it was fun for the mets winning feet it was fun from the beginning to be besides a few hiccups but besides that i had it was a really good show i thought it was way better than i thought it was gonna be and i think it reached right it exceeded expectations because to be honest they were kind of low due to it being you know fighter fetch it's a fucking gaming convention show it wasn't anything crazy but they treat it like a whole so i'm gonna i'm gonna give it some love and say that i'm pleasantly surprised with the night how about you 'em i gotta say that you mentioned if you look at the carters i certain matches shit and been put together like matches bob that all also at the fatal four way way of a let's say we were from jimmy have ican hangman mj if it's something it was like not nearly necessary did yeah you could have split that up you really have to make that a fatal four way but okay like you said on the on the on the on the surface this is one of these prelude match yeah so it's like what's gonna be the bigger symmetry of what the the promotions gonna be about the end for what it was people were complaining about this set up in about the runway age being the same like who cares like what what are we really look you know making it yeah we really nitpicking with that i mean honestly honestly i i think that people are nit picking it's fucking aids evil people people are expecting it to be jesus are savior lowered now guys the phone lines are open if you do wanna calling is a were available of the i don't know let me check the full share share like yeah i mean chicago's missy 'em but other than that i i enjoy some spots where those points where i laughed those points that i will marked out and we fucking screaming at the tv sports like what the fuck is this the had his moments is like oh really guys is what we're doing is i mean how we know that we not do this but then you know it was entertaining wasn't it it's a it's it's calling card of what they would have an exhibit as their or their marquee event no no i think they left a lot out there with double of nothing people like they expect a lot more i'm also kind of still puzzled by their booking as well as why certain individuals on a on their roster what's what's what's their service what is good for very a love the bleacher report live thing right right i i big fan of that she ran well we we had it on the on the fire stick the fire q any ran really well one little little pause that's about it yeah yeah he's where he's at the fucking greatest part which from entering the fucking a million bucks and omega insurance but they exceed expectations no because i really have must eggs 'cause you other last week the traditions you could not give a shit about j as i to be honest i think what you're seeing right cheney was he wasn't night it was whining being a gaming festivals show yeah it was entertaining in the long run it down we have a car up the first match and then i was probably are most important home my god my my heart swelled when i saw my my my heart was full for this one it was private party are private party party party vs so cal uncensored vs best friends yes best friend best friends in a triple threat tag team match in the winter gotta buy for the for the tournament for the eight w tech team championships at all out right what a fucking match much enjoy that match although it was like we were biased real biased but also there's a little bit of spots here and there that could have been better but overall i just was so happy to hear the fucking fans embrace private party the well private party shine the entire fucking night yeah that'd be the entire match her party was put on a pedestal and these other teams put them fucking over the entire they're mad when and that was great because you had to veteran teams that were in there who were able to help these young kids fucking shine yeah it was then shot out to a private party much love those kids like i said we've known him from fucking day one eighty one and how's the glory where you you you you worked with in quickly flips and tables hit clint was one of my students booker for a couple of months at the school that i worked at and then when i finally saw when when when they came up and he he approached me and it's all these i hey used to work at a such a school and i was like yeah he goes wow every hour was then i remembered him and i seen him his progression 'cause he worked singles he worked in different tack teams he he was action and taxing smiley at one time right and stuff and then finally when he was able to connect where if i say it it was a match because there was fourteen years old when he first got his glory cutting wrestle because of his age humidity early remember that yeah we had an earlier valentine's day i remember that yeah and this is on here i certainly had a girl in we saw one private party got together yeah any but just became a holding able joe they were over and also glory they were over wherever they went headphone jack and you go go breeze you know that right yeah yeah you got jack and then it became shots shots shots shots matches with the hardy boys dudley boys the the matches with david housing glory tech teams they did they all elegiac say they believe they wrestled they rest of the squad manager info for the young bucks and cody any guys who recognize put him on this on this platform was shot in the dark yeah but then for them to be on this card mismatch an to get when kwame got in the ring for the first time it pop pop because just the way he answered a random co fucking crowd was already on their feet and this is the credit that this is the curtain jerker of the night and they trusted them with most of the spots purported within the ring most of the time that knowledge of the matter is that they were in for larry a lot of that time that match and let me tell you something mark fucking even as it tore the house down and i think that they're gonna they're not a seasoning some a little bit a little bit of sun yeah but once they get into the the mosaic they look like stars yeah they did they did they already had look like if they've been there before the looked at that that's the kind of idea of the premise that you want absolutely that they looked like stars i m i was very happy to see that and plus that 'em socalled uncensored in best best friends were able to put the malone the match was very entertaining was very fun of a m you saw it just monitor sodden gay a great a great look i have won the production though i did my best friends it when i did i just say because i know how to save the day that they could get the buy because they got me there is a private party socalled insensitive to be in that somebody who in the first round right until they end very well done match i'm gonna i'm gonna i'm gonna say that it's buy one of my mentions the night yeah this because i'm biased i mean we mean writer on top of a standing up losing or fucking mind from the madison you mother fuckers who said they'd go don't know why you screaming at the tv because they can't hear you don't care loved it loved it was a reaction a match my boy tito went up boy i'm glad that you in the conversation man 'em tito say this on you're on the nights page because 'em i'm very limited to share these days so you're you're you're bumble little shared and shit on your on your on your page a yes i was that match was like i said we're biased but that was a fucking don't match and i got i'm happy to see those fucking kids were able to spotlight and we expect bigger things but yeah yeah and i think the fans are gonna embrace them even more as well so also how the how the crowd there were florida say this i thought they were in their hometown of new york right now big shot after shot at amazing read announcer shouted out that these kids were from brooklyn bed stuy and stuff so it was a good look the first represent now here so 'em yeah as we'll go who's next up on wma al after the match of course then fucking your favorite team tacking the former super smash boroughs which now called the dark order a tease their little shit a smiley you have some gimmick infringement going after whatever that that bullshit match then that continues with the young bucks complaining about these combinations while bikini miles were stationed in the front center larry's they've omega used all the fucking budget on their on their on their costumes we'll talk about later and then they found out that they couldn't afford the models they they replace the miles away matic in automatic is so high the markets where the market's whatever and blazing so sexy 'em up next in the buying we had a alley versus leave abates which is on formerly known as blue pants and now the the librarian shoes i'm so over i'm done i think they're trying to give her the heat of like in a wrestling match is supposed to be loud in this will be quiet for adam annoying and it's it's i dunno stupid she couldn't keep her blue pictures like minute mayor yellow pants people were made that more over the random different colored pants shoes oh alley the reliever base something really special about that match up alley looks weird to me i mean i don't know what kind of got a fatty though yes but like what kind of gimmick does she have an orange i don't understand like no she's she's she's jumping around like scaly a smiley kylie ray and i'm like what the fog a low mattress so fucking off base it when it was all it was bad i'm so i'm so mad at the fact that don't even a woman's magic even the one out there were talking about it's like they're they're downgrading himself yeah no no no i was too many spots on that matched up which is really off an if you're gonna do if you're gonna get them over gimmick was fine i get that but other than that you're not wrestle man air early july it looks very shotty this this mattress the build up rally facing brady roads at the next show which is gonna ask a brand new road dot get the gun ready to put one in the fucking chamber why not so what is the what went on in the fucking chamber not myself i oh he's a sub up next few days are up next we had michael knock knock knock knock as our versus alex jones bailey which is the ceo of the fighter fest tito we've only been on spotify for the longest about about an i heart radio bus catching up now bush van so michael is our versus ouster bell you know hardcore match this reds unfavored match of the night oh my god who fucking who the fuck is this do the ceo to apparently this is what i'm saying like the storyline furry like five months that i i i must be out of the fucking loop i don't i don't get it but a m comedy act and there were some stupid a few spots that i want smart i like when they put the baby oil on his on his chest the other ceo he doesn't send somebody jumps armony slides off the fucking in the dallas area i thought that was funny in the fucking oh i hate when he hooked him in the flamingo lame flamingo i didn't like the finish the finishes stupid dumb ass finished but the funny thing was when he took his underway in through it in the fucking crowd i was okay larry i don't i just thought it was fucking hilarious so stupid that i thought it was hilarious he threw his fucking jockstrap interview audience no no then the thing is that he called him hey he called him a a cripple yeah article a credit oh oh god i mean the united states of america i can't save idea is like he's a seat check this up is that oh shit i want i want one sensor described his match let's just move on with our live after this one all right let's just forget about the dumpster fire dumpster fire now the the the main show starts although he did fucking slammed him on controller joystick buttons entertaining yo yes fucking choked come out with a now you're in a box of fucking thing he calls the game to game king controller like what the hell are end on that got you do not sell being choked out by the wire at all to me so much and he did so a lot our one with a reverse roller which you're facing the ceo and you would buy roll ups and you win by like you know being ashamed two minutes i mean whatever yeah he really tried to put him over i do like to fuck you know he had a fucking body slamming that's it and i think even pyro they barely pyro hill me that that's a d minus in my book so show starts at we have shima versus christopher daniels in the curtain jerker the main show and i will tell you everything i expected happen i need to see she 'em bishop japanese wrestlers more like she might have seen a lot of were not part of the strong hearts but now i've seen it very impressive man grabbed channels and christmas day they'll see machine on the hanging brag backbreaker backbreaker really got me there 'em what a fucking what a great man who is good as a good cook when you put you put a guy like christopher danny's just start a a a a show you're definitely gonna get what you get absolutely he's such a vet he's so fucking he threw you wear out of out of a match flowing cannot work at anyone yeah definitely definitely one of the best tingle russia's ever shima is is shima yeah no no but i'm saying he's a he's a guy who's is known as well independently as well is overseas in japan in the end he knows the temple so these two clashing for a match works very well so i like to see more from later on what is the i just watching a the match yeah yeah yeah so shima one and be if needed i feel like israel's did not need a win this match so shima good look up nicely unreal vs now the roses you suckers aki up next we had hangman page jimmy have through that we don't do that don't do that why the only thing i just say that i think the wrong person one in his mind if i have to say i'm very excited to be wrestling for all elite wrestling tonight it's a great it's a great organization shen and i really i'm i'm just not happy with the fact of how the match a what didn't go over i should've won an i really think that me as a wrestler should have a big monster role in on a new oh i should i think she should have one yeah i totally out of five minutes ahead you're like to you like to forty to fifty okay racing a forty pound yeah he's just like sixty pounds just shit boom you're bowel movements a fucking figure it needs to women we just say this one thing about eight w secular division sucks you i know seriously three admitted affected the vision sokha what do you mean you mean the man the man from all from brooklyn who doesn't like to represent his country or state or be an wherever i'm from everywhere i'm not from brooklyn and i try i try not to help people that i'm actually of some kind of defense but but make sure you watch major league rustling about w a thank you loki flipping part of the show a you kinda freaked me out with the way you voices yeah but like for for the lead in you sound like a guy with big balls it's just weird thank thank you dial rosen i heard you have big bold as well make sure you watch major leaguer wrestling and that will be at all any local bingo hall mad at something i'm not i'm not happy that the way that they cook hotdogs on his next up next the next the next the next do you do that all of a sudden i just thought bringing a fucking impressions i remember my down low key fucking sweeper will call in for us we gotta we gotta call over all right we wink wink of a color basically that you won't want a handicap match shit 'em next to call in loki like hey look what's going on is jason if it's ever been tabloid why the fuck are you calling me i'm eating my pizza with no cheese fashion go i land i have soda without the corn spy do opposite of kito i do opposite kito ito i drink coca cola but no cornstarch in it i i love i love my piece of cheese and sauce and the joe has to be raw so you're eating pizza dough maybe does it get me over asshole so i thought you were were still calling him for one that has ever you gotta get him off m is there any way that you think there's someone posted m j f shit playful all my guy i wonder if there might be a i wanna see how fast they see how fast so adamant page for mj vs also for jimmy have again jungle boy in a fatal four way dance and i'm gonna i'm gonna i'm gonna i'm gonna say what reading it myself a the same opinion on this why the fuck up these for and against the get why did you see i don't i don't really understand why he could've easily put jungle boy versus jimmy habich and then hey man vs mj f and i would have been okay you don't need a full for like there's no reason why for them i maybe something happened nothing i'm forgetting or something right because you know weekly televisions i kind of forgot that shit but overall 'em the highlight of the show is once again i'm jeff that man is the future of professional wrestling he just said oh i think that somebody already put up a whole well i think we we might be able to get on something that but his fucking promo you know i'll remind myself there was a rundown of will find it and play you'll be able to do so his fucking pro bowl he he cody if he called the fans in attendance nerds and then he basically said you know i like to video games video and the crowds are going video games and then i lost my virginity oh by the way you're all your mother's that you living in a house in their bay in in her basement she's swallow right i think it'd be honest with you do you see mj of being one of the best heels right now right yes definitely like in the future you've seen like edge level here he's he's right now he's miserable we'll but already and others plus he fucking ms these oh i don't like the cd's ms yet atta he leaves with the new fucking cole hamels her ms he'll if you yeah plus i forget what else it's fucking wild or bullshit 'em yeah let's let's bring me back to the fucking he'll format let's cut this bullshit out already yeah yeah no guns but the winner was hangman page but read you work at a men's there is a fucking future future brought him in austin beer you're gonna be the the best rivalry ever when they when they when they come up order those two or like the batman joker fucking right on right on page one of the match i mean jimmy have it was you get your haircut general boy was impressive but he needs more beef you're look more also i said that 'em jimmy have actually had a wrestling match and i said that he a voice of that he's a decent wrestling is a good wrestler he doesn't really needs a hang on a death match ship but you know i guess that's his bread is buttered a i didn't really feel that hangman should've taken his match but as i mentioned earlier this is the build up for him to get that a push for the championship yeah because they were granted him ended up meeting put the needle having the the the the eight w world championship mad right so this is a big bills for him at all we need to be exposed that people don't know him now they do down now they know who he is my he's my universal right now you're fucking more i'm i get that you'll that fucking codes on shit wando horses boom boom he's the he's the he's the morgan fucking professional wrestling fuck what it doesn't go away what way why for way hey later fucking game facts about november vick was you you're almost done right now yeah i'm just still playing the epilogue okay so then 'em great a good match man one as much as we're but it was needed you know the one jimmy habit couldn't once i'm jeff whittle when my role but hey that's my opinion of next year cody rhodes versus darby allen in no time limit draw and this is an awful and this is i will say this very loud and clear the fact they announced the ring announcer announces when the time that's ten minutes left fucking perfect classic that's a classic sports like feel 'cause you know you know wwl news time limits do they think they you know and i don't know but 'em i like i like that first of all darby alad for you guys who they know who's been on leave all of the indie scene whatever the case don't be the very very good wrestler yeah but he's also known for his crazy antics he's a he's he's also park or coming creative artists or the guy but i think it's a fucking mark for him which is cool is right an m nobody he's tonight he had a really solid looks at him and i said and i said i said he's a good looking kid he really is he's a really good looking kid he just needs some model any body he needs a body slam title spot of the night that made us cringe besides the moxie match was a coffin drug coffin drop on the fucking ended a ring a whole could noli holy shit but i think that that what cody did well cody did was a great favor yes he put dory all over for real they both had a great back and forth match it was great pacing if it wasn't a spot fest it was a truce let's cutting cody is a specialist at these kind of matches kony's in this match as much as he decided where we were watching you like yo cody might not admit this shit he liked this match yeah no no i i really think that wave 'em with the weight of the story was in the match you know to individuals who will come in and cold not really not really know each other but still able to show off their skill especially with fucking on what darby darby really had a lot to prove where you're not in who doesn't really know who he is de prove you wrong i never had anything nobody gave him a phrase that last episode on the show you said this is the this is w w our most important mattress career because i don't wanna see that match you don't wanna see is right right right yeah did you prove prove that he could go definitely i know but i always knew he could but he lives in there with a guy with the with the likes of cody so which was a great finish where it winter twenty minutes what the what the time when no one no contract no no everybody's screaming for the five minute in overtime which is why they wanna see it i basically what you're what it was an you were able to still do the spot with a with a body bag you labor produced by end he did even little meticulous things that he did where he had busted his hand bit you hit it on those little things that help he's worried about he worked as a civic body part which i should be addressed more professional wrestling exactly and it didn't herald have your opponent sally has worked the fucking body was invested in it watching it let's go and i love the novels go that knowing cody as a pro at knowing darby being a young man that he is like and like i said a little while ago it's a good looking kid yeah he has he has a good look for you just gotta get more size on yeah and he says that fucking a a out of the the weights yeah boop more moral protein issue i think he's the future and eight w such a great sign but then we got what the fuck happened after the match jess we did a the lakers lakers this wolf this we are are where are listening or people are saying people were saying the nineties are back aladdin child's play the whole nine yards you'll also be got ahead chair shot no he took a fucking chairs perfect ten himself sean spears whatever you wanna call nowadays comes in the ring which they are really good friends and per in outside of here so i i would imagine got connection with the two i said oh shit okay literally cody rhodes tries to like turn sideways doesn't help buddy hit some street in the fucking head which you have not seen since she wasn't fired for some mick foley called and say stop stealing my gimmick mick foley hard right cheshire i'm like wow ring the ring of honor to the ten is really daily looking good right now the owners time 'em showing spears comes in he'll turn it all headshots cody rhodes street in the head with a shield chair adam i'm gonna call you out yeah rushing news up you think cody rhodes fucking bladed that injury if he if he belated that no deep that cut was first of all that's some new shit for me i mean i've been watching wrestling for years in i don't think i've ever seen anybody blade the back of the head yeah no end to go through hair and secondly it the way that shit look he clipping writing the fucking back in the hey look like and i won't be grumpy you do sort of the skin of his bail off the back of his head so i i unless secret show me there's no less anybody in a fucking as a video blading leading the other people in any audience good confirming yeah that was a fucking logist shot we saw in who's like oh shit okay and then we we sort of boiling shea ill we said it was bad i remember sitting there going there is real concern in the crowd he flew policy but cody cody yeah twelve stitches but he did not have a concussion so still in the back you fucking is labels in his so can we still can we blame cody for that's what it was back camerawork fact hw tickets available for camerawork boy you're better camera get him out they believe honestly a love to be honest cody dory fate my finish the night metro finish the night the whole no contest made a fan of that to we need to start seeing more especially when there's a big important to certain individuals is a match like field yeah exactly what they feel kenny omega young bucks go on the take booja face the future brothers like the little the little adam levine okayed i keep laredo liberate sorry i'm really sorry i realized i really i really don't want to kenny omega announced you know the whole budget with the costumes we found out that yes we arlington gaming convention so would they dress up as can review as just as i exposed you guys 'em i've always giving comber name i've always liked guy although he is i guess japanese people were kumar yeah yeah so so but i've always giving my name his name is aucoin elson huma nelson couva nelson nelson iowa goes hung out back in the days oh you agreed and everything you'd like forty one yes but he didn't that he owes like did he know i i would forty hey what's going on you know he drank only english i drink saying i recall saying i have yeah we never match up any k d m the local is acting really fucking show and then they mimic the but teesta enters women humans will middlebelt road one time and they got comes but you know that's that's the fun i that i feel that makes you say that i that i like the least is still although they're supposed to be whatever it is considering a rivalry it's fun though it's still paying off my two older funny moments of wrestling plus is like listen i grew up watching you yeah so i'm not i'm not making you to mock you might whether it's actually i'm with you because i've watched it and it's fun it's fun competition it's a fun jabber ends up the let's come down payment comes out and the guys on the floor of a tease the mark end of whom he doesn't coma great what'd you mentioned the night 'cause i know you lovely there's something my i i i was a big fan of this match i was bag man you download accorded a workout whatever whatever he's on the match starts with justin roberts going round one five showers also yeah you're like i'm done reading that's fucking 'em i really don't know what to say about this match will be seen you know it's a it's a neutral rosen finished with a lot of as a spot that spot fast the only thing that that i wanna point out ism that fucking almost but then objectionable boston few times yeah but no one's perfect and the super taken to the hurricane ronald's cool and then when they did the duke and get a three douggins a cool 'em defeat in phoenix and hit a cutter omega the whole fucking spot fest but the winner was eight for me hey i'm right what happened how do the winners were of course kenny omega young bucks and then finally for the main event we had jon moxley is first match and h w versus georgia which i was like for why explain your next year i've listened and i said it last week guys cuts should get exactly cut cut cut the shit out enjoy your forties and then yeah you got over making the fucking golden boy i fucking mark for him i get it and i love isaacson but he's a more cram to an it's great whatever for me it's like honestly you listen when you wrestle i get it you're you're you're actually a decent wrestling i've seen you right so you're actually pretty good you're good you mean the you know he's been in the business world minute when you're actually a really good he'll and i end you're facial expressions and all that is fucking it is captivating but you're not on this i knew mocks who's gonna put you over i knew it i yeah he did what he did or or enough he's he's gonna be the fucking the golden boy even more now yeah yeah big time yeah you joe you're so dumb tax spots with his fucking no ass yeah who joined you know that no as and he's wearing forever twenty one fucking tight i thought you're so you're not a fan he ain't rainbow boats i just like is that he is a three pretend fucking tight exactly are the those are three for ten dollars fucking tight at charlotte reuss roy's right i rainbows debt out dead ass it's fucking three for ten dollars doctor dead as is in the building notch new i we've got a new sponsor coming yeah exactly most most new york doctor ever that it's coming soon 'em so did you like his death match match which will you know i i was i was i was you know like is it wasn't overly done biswas a paste rest of the hardcore hardcore match those picks it wasn't fuck it wasn't fuck fuck spot fuck spot fuck spot fox jahmai he did throw jamie ten minutes right here on one minute like it was a good pace they did wrestling first and then they they brought in the streets sixteen they've all here here hardwired chairs ballboy monitoring here and there the barbed wire tag right a oh okay how do people bob why over you're my daughter's fucking science project yeah what the fuck but hey it worked a but the spot tonight for that fucking match was not only did we bring out some tax but we take off janetta his his fucking sneakers oh he loves barefoot socks like dallas gonna fuck and make a difference the socks is not gonna build a visual the the the socks is not gonna fucking a a piercing through exactly unless yeah fucking kryptonite fucking sock kryptonite stocks andy madison oh my god do that thing that that that's old school move atomic dr sorry i forgot that yeah i work and he did it end the fucking dumb tax went through the he'll he hears oh now mind you some demented fucks sox would have probably want more dumped out you know who's gonna wind up blowing his feet after what we saw the other night where fucking the wills was talking about his ingrown his grow toenail surgery yeah no fee was like the theme for this how yeah you should be called on what's it called trickle feet lloyd does the fucking foot saga supposedly had a foot a margin boo foot saga like what the fuck but that was that was created 'cause we've never seen that before we did in an m moxie is idea probably of course he's a fucking dimensioned freak and he took his spots to he he did took he took spots on the bob why took it a the tables by george you're not a big 'em ising called it but the lead the ladder spot yell these yeah i feel i'm a lot of companies showing up and did an he did he did a nice elbow drowsy did a great at the table didn't break the table to bring if you're wondering brady retires one miserable but it was okay and a but other than that i thought that be element of what they're going no they would they would have had going on with the match yeah wasn't too hard core to so so the ambush is a better pacing of the story yeah i just still say that what's gonna be be pivotal kind of gimmick that we're gonna work with four janata what where where where overly what what is this is where i think i think there's gonna be i think eight w right now to me because my there is a favor he did you did you did when the favor he did he needed to by the way from medford you know needed but i think eight w right now as is wrong but it seems to me the other baseball these two shows i'm watching if they're separating the roster into division is not based on weight but by ring style of they give you everything so they give you the group of people who do these death match hardcore shit they give you the high flying young do they give you the technical story guys they give you a little bit of everything that we were using the same bullshit from fucking eight pm to eleven eight w the first summer marjorie over eight w like the first half we have some good high flying matches in the middle of technical metrical cody in darby have you got a nice hardcore debts hardcore match it was like it was telling everybody that so i think the whole you know it's gonna be he just in that category of jimmy have iq and with the other people like that and that's okay if they if they if if they do it properly if they keep him in that little spot it could be okay i like the i like the diversity hey w diversity of it right now is fucking amazing i'm oh by the way that spot when fuck in a way where moxie puts the chair with by the way chair on john elway stomp all any grinds haley matias pick it off he was coming on himself when he romley probably 'em after the match we had a kenny omega running yeah hey national oh it's it's good stories on the radio really really good storytelling i i kinda i kinda was a not feeling it because kenny looks like he doesn't know how to be like hardcore like he doesn't know no he doesn't like he should have served moxie our fucking i wanna i wanna put the drummer through his head yeah yeah exactly right exactly right yeah or or really fucking break the fucking guitar turned his back mike moxie would've taken i would've would've taken users yeah he's very he's leaving leaving a comfortable you know if you're gonna go at monster monster drama you gotta bring it to me man you gotta make sure make sure you slow at the pool throw me really stick my head and fucking end up being a hornet's nest fucking face snake me in the face they me in the face dammit but other than that i i did all night i was a fan of it i joined it overall i enjoyed it a hiccup cnn i could say what would that policy as five start bullshit kind of fucking thoughts and i five kooky monsters out of five ooh m five i would give you good impersonation well maybe three three i'll give it three i'm gonna give it three is well remember three three and a half i give it three i think it would have certain matches that shouldn't happen and there were certain matches that did happen and it was like okay i pretty good an i i really think that also be placement of sun matches and also campbell reports the camera where the production orders was terrible horrible horrible is horrible i want to hear wrestlers theme music yeah i know he was fucking drowned out by whatever no by they'll commentary yeah it was terrible but other than that i i give it a solid three i'm gonna give it a three point five if it wasn't for certain matches the other day i wasn't saying i like i can't say that i i wanna turn it off exactly it was a it was a good time watch yeah absolutely so i believe me like we'd have books out of five throughout the move will local tabloid

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[121] Carolina Panthers coaches film review

Buccaneers Observer

38:55 min | 1 year ago

[121] Carolina Panthers coaches film review

"In October sixteenth two thousand nineteen has got finished doing the coaches film. For the London game against the panthers condemn water on the Goddamn Huddle I'll tell you when you get a water break welcome to the buccaneers observer podcasts this where they were either over the receiver behind the receiver that receives feet he had two poor decisions Yeah Yeah Winston had happy feet nine times where he rushed out of the pocket when he didn't need to or rushed around when he didn't need to through six bad pass we all knew that and I was thinking well you know you watch the game film you see different stuff maybe wasn't Winston maybe was under a lot of pressure now he was just bad near the really bad I started kind of chart now things are just keeping track of all the mistakes he made he had happy feet nine times Eh Ellison play him up all right let's get to the game what Ralph C to give it a summary wisdom was bad or running back not picking up blitzes they're not the offensive line no no the offensive line played well played well I really like earl offered in college was the wide receiver who peyton manning benched for trying to catch the ball one hand how okay I remember that name where's he disappeared the probably in the corner and for the bears not forty five something like molly and said he just loved the it's when I'm wrong yes I do follow up games where he scrambled out of the pocket when he didn't need to or he scrambled around when he didn't need to almost every sack was booed him scrambling into the fenders are games now and just think about every time one of the receivers Mrs how bounty just pissed off Aaron wealth down will be the last target he gets this game I don't know how Jimmy Grandma still on that team I think he gets a lot of drops okay follow up Scotty Miller head ten targets and three catches things I found interesting but you'll see Scotty Miller was open quite a few times a couple of James can't see can't see a lot of people all Matt Miller and particularly because he tiny tiny but I mean he's a normal size Dan was he five eleven average person just not an the field he did not see why open receivers so yes the vast majority of blame for this game goes squarely on Jameis Winston shoulders I CNN he really regressed this game and I don't understand why I don't either but he seems to have these games every now and then and this is just one of those times and he did a good job I think I only saw one mistake that he had where he with on blocking Luke Kuechley that was fun almost failed down great but with the game film I've got the video up on Youtube before to check it out check it out it's called the panthers the buccaneers saying the buttery brokers things but we'll get to that in just a second I want to do some fact checks followups that check the two thousand eleven London Game Score against the bears was twenty four eighteen lately different game plans on the defense but we did they did blitz a lot we picked up a lot of their blitzes but like I said the running backs all Donald Jones was the worst offender but then vanished why he is not starting probably yeah he's he seems to be the worst in pass protection the now the panthers blitz a lot and they blitzed a lot I didn't charted out to see exactly how much compared to the buccaneers but we didn't blitz hardly any two different where sobbing because he disappointed peyton manning one time not as bad as Aaron rodgers though L. Gosh Aaron Rodgers mad at you never thought you the ball again I like to watch bad at pass protection would be the second thing now the third thing I would say would be the coaching we got outcoached again this is what happened in New Orleans yes thought he had more targets than than I think I had said about twenty I was just pulling it up above it it's only been tin thirty percent catch radio yeah that's great no it's not adare he was the second worst and then bait and Barbara had one time us all where he did not pick up the defendant well but yeah a lot of the a triple manatt triple Munaf and they were able to get through put pressure on Winston or sacking so that would be the second thing Winston being bad was the first thing running backs a key glitch to like he was in front of one second than the not the next second earl like where to go yeah zip he okay drop passes nine times when you scramble you get happy feet six bad passes to poor decisions and five times you didn't see open receivers sacks and issues with Winston being on a pressure was because the running backs just were not picking up guys or they would missile over they would they were blitzing all the time just about and we did not have counter for Winston we didn't have enough check downs we didn't have hot routes didn't do slants I mean scrambled Roy happy feet right just to you shouldn't have done that fast and the big one was he had five times where he did not see were blitzing a lot and you know I don't know if it was Winston not reading it and changing the play at the line of scrimmage or the offensive coordinator just didn't adjust average football player no not a big dude like what's his name Anthony Cash Collins what does that does not defense big tall guy six foot eight Nelson the heat it's funny how that works well it makes them look bad because when Jamie switching scrambles you think oh he's under pressure right the vast majority much yardage you gotta give a little bit of credit to the quarterback Jameis Winston was throwing the ball when he wasn't running around with the chicken like chicken with his head cut off he did pretty well he would have just stayed in the pocket it was so interesting watching the difference between James Winston and Carl Allen in the pocket you're calm cool and collected if he felt pressure he you're he pushed hard drives so hard into Baghdad hargraves almost fell and he pushed him five yards away from him how the rest didn't see that is reasonable which we got a lot of pressure on Alan especially the first quarter the first quarter I don't think there was a pass play that we didn't get pressure on him but he was just he just get the ball out equation and they probably would not have driven down ninety nine yards and scored a forty yard pass now we noticed that we get screwed by the rafts on May but you know we we've had a rash of these things and that is what caused the separation allowing Dj more to catch that long pass take that play out of the whether it was a bad pass through quite a few passes or throw it in tight coverage didn't matter he just get the ball out immediately when he felt pressure James wouldn't do that and they're quite he wanted to prove a point maybe he softly bellies locked it landed on him like a cloud but yeah the ref would stay in and when they went to the ground he landed on top of Jameis Winston with all his weight and left his feet to do it that should have been a penalty but he's such a nice guy round are you looking to see non calls that work against a panthers to point out a couple of them in the video vida dare I don't know how that's a penalty that's one thing I hate about all these new rules you besides the fact that I just hate them just for their intentions they could silly the helmet on a quarterback sometimes they call it sometimes they don't and landing on the quarterback sometimes they call it sometimes they don't quarterback below the knees sometimes they call it sometimes offense the defense on other hand played great the offensive line played well offensive line play very well only unit that played well on the offense as Winston got hit in the home in a couple of times that wasn't called then there was the sack by Gerald McCoy McCoy left his feet and put all of his weight on James Winston tribute to the offensive line seven and bad Chris Godwin play well of course his stats showed up and people were giving James Winston ties were Jamie's should have done that because he had wide open receivers but he would pull the ball down and start running around Dr Defense now are deviant played good there was the one tilted the game I mean you could make an argument for it they didn't do a good job of course but it wasn't like that Monday night game against with the bears and the he's grabbed he was not under pressure you got had failed Brazier and then sacks that looks bad on the offensive line yes there might have been one sack that you could down the field you cannot win and then plus you're running back with and on blocks running backs whiff and all blocks all the turnovers it was just a bad performance the best thing to do is to remove a lot of these rules they're just they're silly and that game in particular is a perfect example of a who was it number ten or twelve can't remember went up against Bernard Hargreaves this was on the drive where they scored the they start off with we're leaving the back end or the the front end the midfield open all time and we had never had anybody going in that direction so they should have realized that they were that the panthers bread basket that would have been a touchdown and then there was another one late in the game where he jumped up and it went right off his hands at like a forty yard or two he had bounced right out of his hands having a large market team is advantageous when it comes to that because the packers all these calls went in their favor the lions got totally screwed he had dropped passes drop passes Chris Godwin Dario dropped pass there was five dropped passes and counted so when you combine all that together with five you don't have a big marquette the packers do right yeah when they got a big market as far as their cities concerned but the fan base is not that large Green Bay's actually a very small oh and it's just the inconsistency and there's a framing and engineering they say the more complex it is something is the easier it is to break and that's how attorney game like that and those two penalties cost Detroit the game when they were both wrong Detroit was the better team in there but the third team the referees were one yard line with ninety nine euros scored a touchdown there was a large pass play down the left sideline Vernon Hargreaves covering his guy the guy caught the past van to it and then the last thing was our why was he was dropping passes that one by Mike Evans goes that one was I was dropped ride playing for the packers apparently but yeah back to the defense defense played very well we generated pressure without a lot of it's actually the smallest market in all sports Green Bay Wisconsin population wise by as far as a fan base it's huge Detroit does not have that huge fans you got hit after Putin -able to ref standing right there guy slams right into him and he landed on his ass they just kind of shoved down though Green Bay Packer Arnett the bears the lions and the packer currently has the lion's game you know they got to do something about this stuff in got a penalty because to guide twelve we can't remember what his name is Tj more or I think it was more I think it was more Dj more yes it must be his again. Most of the passing receptions were due to the linebackers mainly Devon White. It's that's been the story all season they only had two drives that were over that were ten plays or longer we had to as well our time but here's the Tolan crooked on the ball Chris was not just like have the ball teleported to him James Winston Doorbell so when you have a receiver get the White was too busy on the other side of the field with state of Asadabad Day David it's just an issue with his defense that I think if they can get it down coverage on the McCaffrey touchdown McCaffrey had that swing pass and there was nobody covered him as because I'm white was supposed to be covering thirteen of sixteen we had sixteen possessions they had sixteen possessions of those sixteen possessions five of them started off in Tampa Bay inference or the you know the linebackers are not in good coverage but if you look at the possessions we had I think whoa pass other than that he was pretty good that getting some heat how would you even be able to prove that it's not the secondary statistically Oh Gosh slams right into him and he falls down he turns around to the rest of mediums like maiden call it quite a bit of that quite a bit of that but this is wasn't a game where I'll say that the wraps territory of our sixteen possessions only one started off in Carolina territory so they had much better field position you know that was due to the turnovers mainland with their plays get a little bit better in their coverage to know whether supposed to be really seems like they're they're in the wrong spots a lot the secondary played well you know a crawl today much it's too much for these rest a half watch so they're gonNA miss some and sometimes they're going to be you know make bad judgments on them there was one time where opinion down the fourth quarter they drove seventy five yards and got a touchdown other than that all their scores were short yardage they on the on it's GonNa make a huge difference in our reception totals against the opposing team it's going to reduce that quite a bit who just get the the linebackers two njord a matter of fact five of them were either zero or negative yardage okay when you say possessions you mean like the the second third down possessions that were over ten yards ten yards yes they gained over ten yards for semi twelve possessions they had we kept them under Albany able to do that with us this year defense played very well we had a lot of weird looking a formations as usual always throw in something different in their fund yes wow yeah the in if you look at ours we had nine possessions that were overtaken on your in score that one a large chunk of that was on that play where the got pushed Britain Hargreaves back that should have been off his pass interference that would have back then turnovers so it's not like they were just driving down the field on us at scoring which that when when you see that that's when you go home eighteen sucks when the guys get because that's what we've seen with all these NFL rules if you look at the NFL rule book now it's fake you know it's just been adding roles and adding and adding roles and that's gone that's breaking system it's too missed so yeah they they don't get the calls that I mean they never they never called that at Green Bay against Green Bay guide no they know what about it especially on our thirty one twenty nine they got the ball and are twenty nine that I play where James Winston through the interception they lost two yards on four play wow contained they didn't gain any Jonas we our defense really shut them down the they had the one where they started off on the one yard line of Ninety our secondary is GonNa get beat it's just GonNa happen you know especially the way this defense is designed but you know a lot of it is either the referees are not calling the offense a pass to try all these rules are dome but the problem is they're not consistent with them you know call him sometimes they hands to the awards most of them were way over ten yards nineteen yards thirty seven yards fourteen yards forty six yards thirty nine yards seventy five yard seventy five yards twenty two yards and forty nine yards op there's no way they would have driven down the field nine yards guarantee you without seton cheating and in the first play or the first possession of the one after that one well I'm feeling pretty much about what we felt after the game a lot of the stuff that we thought was the problem was the problem a couple of other different yeah yeah our our defense really did a good job and are run defense is just seriously no joke there was one towards the end of the game they were running the ball I wonder though the only way you could do it is to see who is catching the ball and who's covered who's responsibility to another way you can do that is by watching Phil Yeah now are cornerbacks with a twenty three yard pass when they were backed up there in the thirteen on that ninety nine yard drive he get that one up also gave up a bit and we had a lineup this was so awesome to see we had Shaquille this was on the defensive line we had Shaquille Barrett Nacho We'll Golson yeah the life before Devon White is the one that gave up the pass to Greg Olsen Watch but gotta give props to our defense for I mean you've got to figure seven turnovers seven turnovers and would they they scored twenty points off a seven turnover touchdown then there was a muffed punt the got the ball on our seventeen they lost four yards on that play met four yards and that drive ended up now the gained six yards on detail the macabre sue and Nassib on the line they couldn't go anywhere I mean I'm pretty sure and then they got an interception on the Tampa Bay twenty four and four down they got one yard and then they kicked it crazy rush I mean that's incredible we kept on the field goals and you know just really did a great job or punt it in the first the first interception they got the ball that every single run was attacked for long we were just blowing up definitely yeah it was really neat but yeah our our offense just crapped a bed in a large part coming they ended up with a negative two yards on that drive and they ended up having to kick a thirty one yard fuel go the next interception they got the ball on the thirty six on Tampa Bay's because of the penalty on tape back but they ended up kicking a field goal from Tampa eleven got the ball into seventeen teen ended up kicking field goal from eleven to our defense held him there okay so we're even there but the yardage is what I was looking at we had they had to they had four we six they scored a touchdown in four plays in they got a fumble and had the punt it was three now the Nagata interception on our eight yard line in one play a call Allen in the face a couple times with this four writes an FA elbowed him in the face that wasn't called we did get our defense for the past five years teams can just draw down the field goal in house will yeah they do that here you know the teams I didn't see anything moral Edison did good he he did okay he did he couldn't do much against Donald Smith Smith played really well I think there was one he he got beat one time Abbott was Jameis Winston that's what will cost us the game you know and you want to say just logically say well Carolina's defense played really well you do this that's going to wrap it up for US till next time go backs Ashington the panthers this yeah Washington okay he did a good job of showing a lot of different looks confusing Winston to him Davis wisden needs to stop worrying about pressure he's he's too dependent on his feet and I think this goes along with what Bruce Matchups and everything they didn't they didn't beat our offensive line so that's why I would say that the Carolinas defense we're having a baby and data and decide that he was starting because who else was GonNa Start Zach Bailey and he broke his ankle in practice because there were so many times like I said there was five times five times where he had open receivers downfield and I'm not talking about check bounds I'm talking about in had plenty of opportunities to make great passes there was there was quite a few instances if you WANNA go look at video where he had guys wide open a lot of stuff they've looked really confused now that's where if I were to give the Carolina Panthers Defense Credit I'm GonNa give it to what's their defense coordinators name Gokhale who right but that's also bad for the secondary of Carolina to have guys that wide open we don't have guys at White Oval we used to but really impress me what impressed me was the coaching that was that was pretty good you know just all the different looks and the confusion that they got are not our offense line open he wouldn't see him a couple times he blazed down the field and just beat all the coverage and he was wide open and dame's Winston was either running around is to change that game like Scotty Miller and we talked about this last podcast just stop throwing the ball Scotty Miller changed my mind on that okay we need to really really really start working on keeping his eyes downfield scanning the field keep his body in in constant rare now if we have guys wide open it's usually on the linebackers Kevin Minter so yeah the guys blazing down the field wide open for touchdowns generally there's three or four of those but and again we lost by eleven points yelling neither hit two of those for touchdowns for sure but the runback say they got confused as to who they're supposed to block a lot so I would I would give them credit for that but as far as like you know what Jimmy Jones how Josh Wells had like one day of practice before they leave to go to London and what surprised me about that was is that they didn't give him a lot of help interesting did Winston in the runningback for past protections concerned what did you think about their coverage that was pretty good but she no like I said when Ryan says about him trying to be superman he's not trying to be superman by throwing the ball you know he's trying to be superman with his feet I guess you'd call it the flash then instead of superman but to a defender almost every time you know what was the most annoying to me watching him scramble was that he often ran Asian to throw that ball bounce around that pocket you know the only run out of the pocket when it's a last resort because almost every time he got tackled it was because he ran in has lot open and if Jamie's wisdom would keep his feet still ground popular bit but keep his head Downfield we wouldn't want this game easy even with the seven turnovers secondary did not the secondary of the panthers did just weren't wasn't that great they they had a lot of busted coverage on us because we had way too many Jameis Winston had no reason to run out of the pocket I don't know why did he runs right beside Donald Smith who's got his control but he runs right by him in taken with his head cut off or just didn't see them at all at through somebody else I think Scotty Miller is going to be an asset of this team fast fast Janus has just got to get the means at Leans Alvarez Yeah that the Journal McCoy sack the the one I was talking about where you put all the way onto James Wisdom when he sank the guy who just had to stick his arm and it was especially like there would be our offensive lineman between that defender Angie and James runs past I don't I don't know what that was all about and runs smack DAB into Gerald McCoy he's he's got to learn to calm down stay in the pocket you know only whole defensive line keep their eye on that ball and they they never get fooled you know there might be one guy every now and then get full but the rest of them are Vida love this game he loves this team to he is always on the sideline when offense is out there jumping up and down hooting and keep tight ends there apparently in the running backs were really no help at all in being honest yeah it was pretty bad to run backstage it down and he starts looking around in the pocket he's not looking downfield anymore and these guys are getting open a couple of things I wanna point out our defense never is you're going to get one great play a game from all the games I watched him with Denver you're GonNa get one great play a game and he never makes mistakes now this is six games in especially during McCoy they bit every time when now never ever they they are probably some of the football smartest people I've ever watched the Argh I so our guy doesn't have the momentum anymore rock the leverage so the guy he's blocking around it's I've never seen anything like that you know a guy that never makes mistakes get picked up by day sunlight gotta yeah definitely nother interesting thing I have yet to see him make a mistake that is a grantable God doesn't make mistakes he always keeps contain he always is in the right spot the right time Ryan Smith Okay we all know that he got that ball on the one yard line on special teams after the punt we all know he's the one that popped out the ball got the worse with James Winston scrambling now a couple of times he did scramble outside the pocket do okay that's the problem he'll do okay on some of these sometimes migrate plays Rotman I mean just knocks him out of bounds on his ass and the guy's just totally taken out of the play but he's he's he's very very good special teams he's always around the ball it was seventy-seven kyle love reaches out and grabs hold of Winston Winston gets out of his grasp spins around backwards in Ron's back into the pocket with up the pocket yeah that was the last year last year right so you know you hear that stuff and you go oh well you know it's a good idea for me to run outside the pocket no it's not it'd be different if he did coming back in the grabbed from behind so get full doing that but beat avail hardly gets fooled sue Harley gets fooled check Barrett never gets this act if you get hit then let it be that's their full you know but you know this guy because what he does what he scrambles as he puts the ball down he puts his he's always blocking his guys he's doing what he needs to do and plus so hit four good special teams play yes that's impressive very impressive considering we haven't had out in last resort or if you know you're going to pick up good yardage you'd have with this running you know he he's not running across the line of scrimmage he's trying to get out of the pocket you know to me they're running right to the the ball so that's really impressive to me Adama con Su he never gets called every now and then he'll try to come in to he likes to Winston was because he scrambled out of the pocket when he didn't didn't have to and like I said it's in the video you could see it many a times where while he's got the ball down Aaron Rodgers ABC's Aaron Rodgers eras runs out of the pocket all the time but with Aaron Rodgers runs outside the pocket he always keeps his feet set he keeps the ball cocked and he's always looking down right he usually runs to the left I think usually what spin he spends to the left but you know he's not doing that you trust your blockers you know when he scrambles but then there's those times which is the majority of time where it's just not a good idea he would be so much better off if he didn't put concrete blocks lost in this one yeah and Bruce Arians did say when he gets hurt hit early it kinda throws them off and that's what happened this game but he's never looking at the guys coming at him he's never looking really even weird ron he's just but you know he's if you see somebody open as he's scrambling he can zip and encouraged him to do it more right and I think there was a stat I don't know if it was last year or this year there early part of this year where Jacobs wisdom was rated one of the highest quarterbacks outside quick right and he if he doesn't find somebody open then he decides to run right yeah yeah turnover on the I think it was a yeah the punt that we kicked Carolina he came up behind the gap pop the ball and we recovered it almost every special teams play he was doing something like that does it do that with an only throws the ball away when he's get clobbered try to throw it out of bounce but yeah just about every badly you can think of ever gets tricked this is an issue I have for years with the buccaneers and there was a bootleg or fake fame bit every time especially Gerald McClellan me see get a glimpse of the sideline look for Vida you're going to see him he's going to be near the ball if it goes out of bounds or whatever and he's gonNA run over and congratulate guys not I mean he's just got a lot of Shen yes but he hasn't got hit at that point so I don't understand how him getting hit early effective that seems to me he gets rattled I thought he played better. You know when I watched the broadcast version I thought Winston played better in about mid third quarter in the fourth quarter would punt return you should maybe return a punt every now and then or at least catch the ball that one he fumbled he did everything wrong and they told him not to leave and he left anyway that's when Dirk cutter to cut us off and they called him on the phone and they were like Holler and then just so excited that little thing that whole thing where he flexes his arms damn buys and every played better but then watching the the coach now eden he was banned the whole game well as wasn't as I pass and inner it was we talked about this last year with him he's just a great special teamer way he does so I I have I think one put in the video where he just blows long that you're not supposed to do when you feel the punt everything took his eyes off the ball he caught it on the side of his body outstretched czar yes sir uh-huh beat him stay in that pocket because those few good players that he makes gives him this false sense that he can be productive scrambling arms who was ridiculous yeah yeah I'm not upset about getting cut here's one I think he should

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Giuliana Rancic Updates Seacrest After Contracting COVID-19

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Giuliana Rancic Updates Seacrest After Contracting COVID-19

"If the world was ending J. Peace Action Jillian Michaels, it's one or two point seven FM. We're bringing in Juliana Ramczyk who got the pink agendas virtual gala in support of Breast Cancer Research. Tonight. Eight eastern five Pacific Hide Juliana. High Ryan how are you? I'm so good. How are you feeling how you doing your back? I'm good I'm yes I. Miss You. Yet. We're we're all good. All good on the other side of. Things, and so we're feeling we're feeling good. We're back to our daily routine year. So Juliana rented with us. Now from e you know her from e fame and she and the duke she. And Juliana, tested positive for COVID, nineteen a couple of weeks ago. But now since made it through was it tough for you where you symptomatic? No you know actually no. Minimally symptomatic is what my doctor said when when we called him and kind of gave him the lowdown on everything you know that we tested positive So yeah, it was honesty. Ryan was a shock. You know I gotTa test leading up to enemies right right heading the RECON. Exactly. So I was Gonna fly tell a and and do the red carpet and. Thankfully he is. Very, on top of of testing and making sure that everyone. you know who was going to be part of a part of the show was, of course you know in good health and and getting tested so I got tested a few days before the Emmys and Yana came back positive. So thankfully, the good news I didn't travel you know and find out like in L.. So while found the time, which was also, it must be frightening to hear that your little boy was tested positive too. I know it was definitely was like it's one thing of its bill, I. Yeah knowing that Duke did as well. That was definitely. you know concerning, but he had actually he had like bill and I had mild symptoms. He had nothing he had no symptoms so. That was great. So he was totally healthy didn't even know it. You know and Sorry I'm coughing Ryan I was running upstairs because I'm literally in the Middle Speaking of do I'm in the mail. His score now. So we're online and I'm like hold on writes. In. His bedroom right now doing this Paul. Winded. Well, that's okay. What what is he studying right now? He's studying while a little bit of everything you know. So yeah. So we were just talking to his teacher going through some math that's man Oh matt. Some funny. Bring up what's ten plus three Juliana. Thirteen, how many years of you and bill been together Thirteen. That's half my life guys have been together. That's I. Mean does it seemed like it went by fast. Ryan. went by so fast like we were. So we were married thirteen years we've been together for almost fifteen years. which is so crazy. It feels like yesterday So Yeah No. So it's wild and I've gotTa tell you I mean You know you you know US Ryan like Yes we're husband and wife but were best friends like we just have fun together. We bounce ideas off each other we're just partners and everything you know so I think that's that's definitely a big part of it. You know it's blown by I know. So well, I stood next to Juliana Ramczyk for ten years host a television show. So I I know I know exactly how close you are now always get we'll get excited when bill make a beautiful bill would just bring is beautiful personality on the setting sit and watch the news remember that. Oh. Yeah. No bill loves to come, by and. Yeah. No, it's been fun. I know you and I worked together forever forever forever. So yeah, you saw a lot of saw a lot about now. Listen you're doing I have been to this event. This is very important that we talk about this. You've got the pink agenda virtual gala coming up right Yes. That's tonight ask. That's right. Yeah. We're. Course you know were you know it's sad we can't be in New York. You've been to the event like you said in New York and it's a fabulous event up at the good news is you know you've got to look at the bright side and the good news is. You know people all over the world can be part of it now because it's virtual. So whereas before you'd have to come to New York this is nice because you can be anywhere in the world enjoying join us. and. This is something you've been doing for how long now Juliana. Yeah. A while. Now you know I was diagnosed with breast cancer about eight or so nine eight or nine years ago and dumb I almost nine yards and so I started this program fabulous edge shortly after my my big surgery and We grant wishes to women who are going through breast cancer treatment, and so I teamed up with a pink agenda wonderful out of New York, and so they do the kind of the portion about raising money for breast cancer research, and then fabulous wishes the focus on granting wishes and both are so important. You know show what's Nice about this. Galas. We raise a lot of money for both breast cancer research as well as granting the wishes such a I mean listen you I remember when you were diagnosed I remember being there and hearing about it and I remember you starting to do this event every year and I just think it's a wonderful thing that you're doing is helping so many people. So you can get ticket information donations at visit the pink agenda go do the pink agenda, dot. Org. So the pig agenda dot org and Julia it's I know got to go back to school with Duke just photo he's so big now. Tall you. Ryan you would not believe it I mean you knew him when he was just this little guy and now he's such a big boy. He's so funny Oh, my Gosh, I wish you guys could see me right now. I'm sitting in his bed with all his stuffed animals every man. Looking at all his He's got a little slot machine over here loves a slot machine He's just like a funny funny guy and he's started playing the guitar. Yeah that's right in front of me too. So it's funny. I kind of before everything we you know we were having a he was getting guitar lessons, and so then you know he would do half an hour and then mom would do the last half hour. So nobody kill Ryan I mean next time you see me you know I might have to play a little. For me, I can't wait. Hey well, G. great to hear from you take care of yourself tell by Okay we'll talk to you soon. All right. Bye Bye bye. Right there I. Love You. The best. All right. Let's go Miss Totti's next with Earth. Signs.

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