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Nicolle Wallace: GOP Is the 'Most Extreme Political Org in History'
"Nicole Wallace is a complete reprobate And she of course has found out that she can make a hell of a lot more money Swinging left which is what she's done Cut 8 go I wonder your thought on this characterization of the Republican Party and its current incarnation is the most extreme political organization in history All right let's stop The Republican Party the most extreme political organization in history See those are fighting words She is signaling to the mob to get out there get in people's faces and even get violent Why is it that these hosts are never held to account Nicole Wallace is saying the Republican Party is the most extreme political organization in history in history Now she's clearly one of the stupidest human beings to ever walk on the face of the earth on two feet Which means one day she might be on the view to join the other stupidest human beings to ever walk on earth and with two feet
Elon Musk's Devastating Blow to the Global Censorship Regime
"When Elon Musk bar, Twitter, he delivered a devastating blow against the censorship regime. Not only in this country, but really all over the world. And I think it was Nicole Wallace, who said something like those of us who are concerned about disinformation, the anti disinformation group worldwide is really concerned is really disturbed about what Musk has done. And this is the voice of the establishment. Their idea is that we need to have these social mandarins. Not just in America, but around the world. And they all decide, you know, we're not going to, we're going to police the parameters here. We're going to set the fence post, then you can speak, but you've got to operate within the rails that we set up. And they love having this kind of power because for them, it's we are the aristocrats and you are the peasants. And we're going to allow you to speak, but you're speaking kind of at our leisure to the degree that we allow you to. And Elon Musk should have anticipated, and in fact, I believe he has, that there's going to be sort of pushback coming both in the United States and abroad from authorities that like to have this kind of power, even if they're exercising it through surrogates. And the government in many cases is not directly censoring they're telling Facebook to send. So they're telling Google to censor and they were telling Twitter the
Curry, Warriors hold off Jokic, eliminate Nuggets in Game 5
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Joe Biden Has a Young Person Problem
"Are repulsed by identity politics. And we should be. The politics of trying to put people in different categories based on their skin color is not something that we appreciate or something that we support. Now identity politics is rooted in the idea of trying to let's just say use a word that came in the 1990s, balkanize the American political, the American political landscape. However, there is one part of kind of segmenting of politics, if you will, or the country that I think is very helpful. And that is to look at things generationally. Instead of looking at things based on skin color, I think looking at political dynamics based on age is far more helpful. While I do believe there are differences between men and women, I do not believe there are differences between white people and black people. I don't. I do not believe in racial differences in people who do. We have words for them, racists like Nicole Hannah Jones, or like Robin D'angelo, or ibram X kendi. But I do believe that there's big differences in experiences and let's say things that people have to live through in generational dynamics. So typically, the younger the voter, the more Democrat and the more liberal they are. They tend to be more idealistic utopian, less rooted to the tragedy of life. And not all life is a tragedy, but life could be tough. The first Buddhist principle is life is suffering. I don't quite believe that to be perfectly honest. Life can be full of suffering, but it also can be beautiful and full of joy and love and prosperity. Generational dynamics for me are the most helpful and interesting to look at. And so when we look at Joe Biden's approval rating and we look at who actually is driving the decline of Joe Biden's approval, it's remarkable when we learn that it's younger voters in particular that disapprove of Joe Biden the most.
What on the Left Has Grown Stronger in the Past 4 Months?
"I have a legitimate question what on the left has grown stronger in the last four months. Name one thing. The only thing I can name is the amount of illegals that have come into America, the potential population. However, Hispanics are turning conservative and record numbers. So even that it's a little bit blurry. What on the left has grown stronger in the last four months. Since the new year, Pfizer AstraZeneca Johnson & Johnson, they're on the ropes. Disney is down, CNN plus is gone, Twitter is about to be taken over and totally changed, which we know censorship is a fundamental need of this regime. If they're not able to censor they can't exist, they must be able to shut you up, the Democrat party has lower approval ratings than ever before, wire, what, who, what, where is stronger than they were four months ago? I'll tell you who is stronger though. Rogan is more popular than ever before. Tucker Carlson is more popular than ever before. Bill Maher's anti woke, tirades are stronger than ever before. Elon is richer, he might have his net worth as might have gone down by 20 or 30 billion because the stock prices, but Tesla was up 10% since last week, 10%. Our podcast is up amazingly. Our radio program is up. Our social media engagement is up. We can't find spaces big enough at turning point USA to be able to fit all the students that want to come to our events at Berkeley and boulder, meanwhile, I'm not really sure if people are flocking a big numbers, go hear critical race theory, Nicole Hannah Jones, maybe. I don't think so. If you kind of look at these fundamental indicators of where the society is going, Republicans are winning registration wars across the country and desantis wiped out all of the gerrymander gains that California New York tried to do. Desantis basically level the playing field. God bless that man.
We Should Get Behind Elon Musk, a Great Patriot
"Nicole Wallace is on MSNBC today Folks I want to remind you that Comcast owns MSNBC Those of you who have Comcast in your homes do the very best you can to get rid of it Look for alternatives I wouldn't say Netflix now because they're dying on the vine as they should And let me take this occasion to say that Elon Musk is one of a handful of billionaires who's actually a great patriot Who actually puts his money where his mouth is It doesn't have a big mouth this guy is not out there bullying people pushing them around Pretending he's somebody who he isn't Conducting himself like some kind of a mobster No I don't know Elon Musk I've never talked to him in my life He's the richest man on the face of the earth And he's an entrepreneur And he's serious about dealing with Twitter And we should get behind regardless of his politics We should get behind him Because he believes in free speech obviously the First Amendment doesn't apply because Twitter is not the government
Curry scores 34 points off bench, Warriors lead Nuggets 2-0
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Politico: Judge Tosses Obstruction Charge Against Jan. 6 Defendant
"But here's another one in Politico Judge tosses obstruction charge against January 6th defendant The judge ruled that ambiguities in the federal law required him to narrow the case against Garrett Miller Whose facing multiple felony charges connected to the attack on the capitol The federal judge has thrown out an obstruction charge about breaching the capital on January 6th a ruling that could reverberate across hundreds of cases Under the narrow interpretation judge Nichols ruled defendants can be charged with obstruction only if they directly attempt to affect a document record or other object on quote in order to hamper the ability of Congress to count electoral votes Nicole said that because prosecutors are not alleged that Miller took such direct action rather the department says he simply joined the large mob on January 6th The obstruction charge against and must be dismissed In other words you have to take specific actions Among the people nickel cited to bolsters interpretation as president Joe Biden the judge noted that Biden said the lawn question passed on 2002 following the enron scandal was aimed at making a crime to shred documents
Is Tipping an American Practice Stemming From the Slave Plantation?
"While the latest kind of idiocy in this kind of, it all goes back to slavery contest is the concept of tipping. So think about your tip on Uber driver or you go to a restaurant and leave a tip. You check into a hotel and you tip the doorman. The argument is that's due to slavery. That's an American practice, by the way. You don't see it in other countries, at least not in the same degree. And moreover, if you go back, you find that that slave masters, it was after slavery, supposedly that this kind of tipping practice became widespread in the United States. At least this is the narrative according to Nicole Hannah Jones, and Nicole Hannah Jones makes outlandish statements that basically look like she's just come out of a vodka spree, but it turns out that no, she's picking it up from she reads the kind of far left rival literature and she picks up these kinds of claims and then gives them a sort of patina of respectability by sort of parading this in The New York Times and on her social media feed. So you as Nicole Hannah Jones tipping is the legacy of slavery and she goes, and if it's not optional, then it shouldn't be a tip, but just to include it in the bill. Have you ever stopped to think why we tip? Like why tipping is a practice in the U.S. and almost nowhere else. Now I've said before in the podcast, this is downright stupid. I've traveled pretty much all over the world tipping as universal and stepping in Africa. It's tipping in India. But the historian, the economic historian Philip Magnus, who's been on this podcast. Well, what Magnus has done is he's written a kind of thorough article on this tipping issue, and this is a guy who really knows how to dig. So he finds he finds out that Nicole Hannah Jones got her ridiculous claim about tipping from a kind of left wing activist named saru jama. This woman sounds suspiciously Indian and anyway, she's apparently some kind of a health activist, not really an academic of any kind. And she wrote an article which had a paragraph on tipping in all the other leftist sources of picking up her nonsense. In any event, what magnets really shows is that all of this nonsense about tipping tracing to the aftermath of slavery isn't really true. Tipping goes way back to the Middle Ages. In fact, it's so common that tipping is referred to more than once in Shakespeare's plays Magnus quotes an example from 12th night. He goes on to point out that you have European travelers who are writing, this is in the early 1700s. So obviously long before the end of slavery, either in England or in the United States, and they're talking about the common practice of tipping in inns and in taverns and in restaurants and
Nikole Hannah-Jones Goes Off on Tipping as a 'Legacy of Slavery'
"I just saw something today on social media and I retweeted it. Nicole Hannah Jones and she goes tipping, dipping is a practice that goes back to slavery. And then she goes on to say, you know, have you ever wondered why tipping is only in America and nowhere else around the world that's because it goes back to the slave plantation. This is basically Nicole had a joke so I'm thinking this is one of the stupidest statements I've ever read. First of all, tipping is universal. I grew up in India, people tip in restaurants all the time. I've been all over Europe, tipping is very common in Europe. So first of all, the idea that tipping is only American is nonsense. Number two? What is Nicole Hannah Jones implying that slavery is a form of forced and unpaid labor? Is she saying that on the plantations it was normal practice for masters to tip their slaves? You know, hey Frank, great job. Excellent service in the field today. Here's 50 cents for your efforts. What? I think historians worldwide are waiting with bated breath for Nicola Hannah Jones to explain and she's not going to explain because that these are people who essentially say stupid things and expect never to be called on
The US Senate Has Finally Done Something Meaningful!
"Meaningful. The U.S. Senate has finally done something I approve. This shouldn't have taken so long, but it's finally done. The United States Senate has passed the sunshine protection act by unanimous consent to make daylight savings times permanent. I'm not a fan of daylight savings time. Falling back, springing forward should just remain the same time throughout the entire year. In fact, we should spring forward even more. So that the fall, it's the opposite. I never understood that in the most depressing time of weather, we also made it darker intentionally. Who thought of this thing? Makes zero sense. Now, I know you're gonna say it's Benjamin Franklin. And all this, no way, he was too smart for this. I think it's a Nicole Hannah Jones conspiracy against Benjamin Franklin. There's no way. A 2015 study published in sleep medicine, researchers compared the rate of strokes during the week after daylight saving to the week two weeks after the tweaks before. They found the rate of 8% higher the first two weeks after the shift, and people with cancer were 25% more likely to have a stroke later than the other times of the year. People over 65 were 20% more likely. A 2019 report found a higher risk of heart attack after both time changes, but particularly during daylight savings times. Interruptions to circadian rhythm can also impair focus and judgment. A 2020 study found fatal traffic accidents increased by 6% in the United States during daylight savings time. This shouldn't have been taken so long, but it did, and the U.S. Senate has finally done something useful.
Leftist Media Go Down Rabbit Hole Over Tucker Carlson & Russia
"I mean, sure, so you want to go down a rabbit hole as explosions or rocking Ukraine, Putin has declared war, Ukraine, invaded, you want to go down a rabbit hole, turn on MSNBC or CNN right now. It is wacko land. It's all Tucker Carlson's fault. I watched about an hour of it yesterday, and I thought I was, I was taking, I thought I had my PhD, you know, my little protein bar with me. And I was eating the protein bar on the plane, flying back from New York to Florida, watching MSNBC. And that vicious nasty Nicole Wallace, I thought my PhD protein bar was a crazy bar. I was eating a crazy bar. And I had to go wash my mind. They're all ranting and raving about Tucker Carlson. They're all upset about Tucker Carlson and Trump? Do you think they know Trump is in president anymore? Does anybody gotten them the message? Do you think perhaps they don't remember that he's not the president? What in the world is going on? With these lefties who are bonkers about Tucker Carlson and Trump cozying up to Trump. Now, I mean, to Putin. Now I'm going to acknowledge something. It does seem a little weird to me that people like president Trump and Mike Pompeo and even Tucker seem a little bit reluctant to condemn Putin for the tyrant that he is, I can't quite wrap my brain around that, but you know I got my own problems.
Morris returns from concussion to send Nuggets past Warriors
"The nuggets won the game on a three pointer by Monte Morris as time expired to stun the warriors one seventeen one sixteen on the warriors final possession Steph curry made a three point play to put the warriors up by two points with five point nine seconds left but Denver was able to run down the clock and Nicole your kids pass the ball to Morris for the game winner what kind of news good once I let it go I just didn't know if I got it off in time now is the big day so I really want trying to celebrate two too much because it would have been are worthless if I didn't get that shot off in time you could finish with a game high thirty five points and seventeen rebounds Morris had thirteen points for the warriors they lost for the last five games heading to the all star break Ryan Lee Aung San Francisco
Sandy Hook families settle for $73 million with gunmaker Remington
"Some families of the sandy hook elementary school shooting agreed to a seventy three million dollar lawsuit settlement with gun maker Remington twenty first graders and six educators were killed in twenty twelve when Adam Lanza opened fire with a Bushmaster A. R. fifteen style rifle at the Connecticut school the families of nine victims and one survivor announced the multi million dollar settlement Tuesday with lawyer Josh will cost cough what is more dangerous than any industry believing that they can do whatever they want if profit is the only motive but they have no skin in the game no responsibility to families of people injured Nicole Hockley who lost her six year old son Dylan says she hopes this makes gun manufacturers more accountable by facing and finally being penalized for the impact of their work gun companies along with the insurance and banking industries that enable them will
Jokic nets 26, Denver's balanced scoring too much for Magic
"But not gets grabbed a big early lead and never let go in the one twenty one one eleven decision over Orlando Denver has won four of five but coach Michael Malone wasn't happy with his team's porous defense forty one points in the fourth quarter thirty in the third I'm just I'm just thankful games over nobody got hurt as he usually does Nicole yoke which led the way the reigning MVP logged twenty six points fifteen rebounds and seven assists the nuggets jumped out to a twenty nine fourteen lead after the first quarter and that set the tone for the evening Orlando pulled within eight in the final minute but could draw no closer the magic have dropped five of six Bruce Morton Denver
'The Power of the Dog' leads Oscar field with 12 nominations, followed by 'Dune' with 10
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Pennsylvania School Board Member Calls Parents 'Village Idiots'
"There's this incredible op-ed that was written by Richard Robinson. Which is probably never heard of him before. I hadn't either until this story came out. He is a school board member on the York suburban school district board. That is in York county, Pennsylvania. Now, I know your county better than most. It is not a suburb of Philadelphia. It's out about a little bit west of Lancaster, Pennsylvania. It's in a more rural part of Pennsylvania. It's about an hour and a half north of Baltimore is where York is. And not far from Harrisburg. The state capitol. Well, this school board member, Richard Robinson, wrote a op-ed an opinion piece. He said, no, I do not work for you parents. York suburban school district board member, Richard Robinson wrote an op-ed. He said that the ability to be able to show up to school board meetings is the following. The provision gives residents of a school district the chance to vent their spleens about exorbitant taxes or demand subjects be taught properly the way they were during the most frigid period of the Civil War. In the past, more often than not nobody showed up, but not these days as social media outlets and national news broadcasts and our local newspapers tell us school boards are now the new battleground in the fight for America's future amen they are. This bothers Richard Robinson, he says parents who show up and give public comment have, quote, the collective intelligence of a village idiot. Now remember, this guy wrote this. He's not some mistake. It's not some caught on camera Mike. No, he wrote this in an opinion piece. Some members of my community. Here is my community. Appear to interpret this part of broad board meetings as the occasion to tell board members, why they have the collective intelligence of village idiot, and how the school district ought to be addressing real problems. He continues by saying far too many elected officials have shown over the past two years that the consent of the governed is a little more than an inconvenient speed bump on the road to advancing their unpopular agendas. Mocking and dismissing the concerns of community may be cathartic for petty dictators, but it's not a path to electoral success. This is what Nicole Neely said in response to Richard Robinson. She said that and she runs the parents defending education. This article continues. Richard Robinson by saying, with all due respect to the men and women who come up to me and say, I'm a taxpayer you work for me. Robinson the school board member says, no, I don't. I don't work for you. I was elected by the people who voted to represent you. What? No, so I don't work for you. I was elected by the people who voted to represent you.
Rep. Nicole Malliotakis Calls for Policy Change to Put Criminals Behind Bars, Following NYPD Shootings
"Malia takas from New York, talking to Griff Jenkins on Fox News. This was preventable and sadly enough is enough. We really need to change the laws of New York and New York City to ensure that we put these bad guys behind bars. Repeatedly, we've warned about this. We've said that these dangerous bail law that the Democrats passed and in Albany were leading to more people being released. In fact, the detectives union recently told me that 9 out of ten people found with criminal possession of a weapon are being released back onto the street and 50% of the people that actually shoot somebody are being released back onto the street without bail because of these laws. And it just has to stop. And I'm really I'm begging my colleagues on the other side of the aisle. It's work together to fix our city. The mayor to his credit has said he wants to do this, but it's been three weeks. We've already seen 5 police officers shot one now fatally. How many police officers have to be shot before the Democrats figure out letting criminals go free doesn't make our communities safer? And incidentally, that's not a talking point. That's not a conservative talking point. That's literally the position of the newly elected district attorney in Manhattan. Letting criminals go free makes our communities safer. There's nothing to be gained by locking up some poor misguided man or woman who they had a bad childhood. They've got a drug problem. They've got an alcohol problem. They've got they've been no presh. Why put that person who threw that 93 year old woman down the steps in jail? She doesn't need to go to jail. We need to help them.
"nicole g" Discussed on Fresh Air
"It just seems there's this anyway I hate talking about it 'cause it's too it's actually still too much a part of who I just can't, it's too present in my life. Those calls understood. Yeah, so I talk about it and then I go, ah, don't tread into this right now because it's just too emotional, especially with Jean Marc recently and it's just like, ah. I don't want to even put words to it. But I will say I really I loved Stanley and for him to leave the world so suddenly seems it was awful at the same time I loved my father for him to leave the world so suddenly Jean Marc to leave the world so suddenly but suddenly is probably for the person that leaves the yuko oh, okay. Wow, at least there wasn't pain. There's pain for us, but there wasn't pain for you, and I'm very glad there wasn't pain for you. So you're in Australia now helping to take care of your mother. I'm wondering if it's easier than it's ever been, maybe to talk about parent child issues, like your parent now, you probably understand things about how she parented you that you didn't understand when you were a child. And you've made a lot of choices based on your life and about how you were parented about who you're going to raise your children. Has it been comfortable talking about those things now? Yeah, but I meant the place where I'm being given the chance to view the world because of how close we are, my mom is giving me the chance to view the world through an 80 81 year old woman's eyes. That is so beneficial right now. Because she's so cognizant, who she has every faculty, brain faculty, available. So she's, you know, she hasn't lost anything. She hasn't lost any memory, which is fascinating. And she's extremely bright. So she's giving me access because she's also very direct and very honest, and so I'm getting access to the world through her eyes, my mother's eyes, so therefore a part of me almost at 80. What are you seeing? Oh, that's too too hard right now. That's fine. Yeah, but I will be able to tell you that in a few years. I'm seeing a lot. I'm jumping into the psychology and emotional place of that. And it's her perspective, obviously, so there's many different 80 year old perspectives, but it's her perspective and her particular path, but I'm drinking it in. And learning. Nicole Kidman, it has just been wonderful to talk with you. I wish you good health. I wish your mother good health. I wish her well. And thank you, thank you for spending time with us. Thank you for having me. Nicole Kidman stars on the new film being the Ricardo's. Tomorrow I'm fresh air. We'll hear about a disturbing story of civilian deaths in the battle against ISIS. Our guest will be New York Times correspondent David Phillips, who reported on a secret unit in the U.S. Military that picked targets for air strikes, circumventing rules to protect non competence and often killing farmers in their fields and families trying to flee combat. I hope you'll join us..
"nicole g" Discussed on Fresh Air
"Well, I haven't watched it recently. So I haven't really seen it through my eyes today. Specifically, I have the memory of what it was and it definitely didn't feel like that. That actually was my dress in that scene. That came from my wardrobe because Stanley didn't like any of the other wardrobe choices so he was like, let's go to your house in your closet. You must have a lot of dresses. And I'm like, oh, we're renting the house. I've brought some things with me at Stanley. And so he sat outside and I went into my closet and tried things on and came came out with that beautiful galliano dress, which I still have. And he said, yeah, let's wear that. And I came up with the shot. I said, what about, look, it can drop like this. That's how I can get very fluid how it comes off. Well, that's interesting. So it's a director and an actor working together. Interesting, yeah? When I think of it like that, if you're just joining us, my guest is Nicole Kidman. She stars as Lucille Ball on the new film being the Ricardo's. We'll be right back. This is fresh air. Let's get back to my interview with Nicole Kidman. When we left off, we were talking about her role and Stanley Kubrick's 1999 film eyes wide shut. He died 6 days after the screening of the final cut of a heart attack at age 70. It must have been you've talked about how close you became to him, it must have been heartbreaking to lose him just as the work to lose him for permanent just as the work was ending. Yeah. Yeah. I was. It was. I mean, I think I'm pausing for a second because Jean Marc Vale just passed as well. Yeah, and you worked with him on big little lies. Yeah. Yeah. We weren't making anything together, but at this stage. But we were definitely circling things. And I think I'm still probably I received phone calls. That are very shocking and I don't and so I received their phone call about Stanley having faxed him. It was in the time of faxing. He faxed me so. And I was like, oh, should I call him tonight? And I didn't. And then I got the phone call the next morning. And I had my two young children with me and I just dropped the phone and screamed everything you probably shouldn't do in front of two young children, but it was a very immediate response. I was just awful. Awful. Do you think they were frightened by your screaming? I held them and walked them through her just as I've done when my father died and I had my two young goals..
"nicole g" Discussed on Fresh Air
"Through the window or behind from behind a curtain we'd look. We'd never listen at the door or anything. But in the hospital, yes, we would see things and not get the full story or hear things. We need to take another short break here. Let me reintroduce you. If you're just joining us, my guess is, Nicole Kidman will be right back. This is fresh air. Life kit is like your friend with really good advice. So, can I really be truthful? It's just me and you, right? Well, sure. Let's say it is. Three times a week, life kit is in your feeds with episodes on health, personal finance, personal growth, and so much more. Listen to life kit from NPR. This is fresh air and if you're just joining us, my guess is Nicole Kidman, and she stars in the new film being the Ricardo's, as Lucille Ball. Your mother, as you said, was a nurse educator. Did she identify as a feminist? She did. What did that mean to you as her daughter? Did she talk to you about issues affecting women and women's equality? Always. To the point where we're like, shut up, mom. And I would go and hand out pamphlets for the women's electoral lobby because I was made to. And I was very embarrassed, doing it. What was the women's electoral lobby? Feminist group here. And I would sit in the back of the room sometimes, which was fascinating, actually. And listen to conversation. So I was privy to a lot very early on. But I would also in the same way most kids react to their parents, just be like everybody else don't try to have an opinion that goes against the grain that sort of thing. And then as I got older, I relished it. Then I was grateful for it. You started acting when you were 14. How did you know you wanted to act? I wanted to act, I think, because it was I had so much inside me and I wanted to work since I was I can not remember not wanting to. And I started reading big big novels and I would become the characters and then I started reading plays and I would become the characters. In your mind or would you actually act them out with people? No, never with people, always by myself in my bedroom or in my mind. I've played every role in Chekhov. I've played in your bedroom. In my bedroom. At all different hours, day or night, ibsen. I've played those roles. But I did realize that at some point, that was going to be the only way I was going to play certain roles. And that was going to have to be enough. So, yeah, but that really, I was, I'm so fortunate that I discovered literature early. And that was having parents that read a lot. So I was and also because I have very fair skin. I wasn't allowed to sit on the beach during the midday sun. So I would stay home and everyone else would go to the beach and my mom would give me my book and I would just curl up in my bed and I would read and I was allowed to do that. So that turned out the thing that I was very frustrated though that I couldn't go to the beach. And I'd make a sandwich and I'd get into bed. And I would read and read and read and read and read and little did I know that that was going to lead me to my vocation. Did watching movies lead you to your vocation to movies or television? Less so. That's interesting. Gowrie's did..
"nicole g" Discussed on Fresh Air
"Happens when you're pushed to the limit? And what does it take to go further? I'm Jay Williams, and those questions define my journey to the NBA and beyond. But overcoming limits is something we all have to do. So come with me. As I explore how, with some of the biggest names in sports business and culture, listen to my new show, the limits from NPR. Let's get back to my interview with Nicole Kidman. She plays Lucille Ball in the new film being the Ricardo's. Let me move on to another movie, and this is moulin rouge in which you play. A former please move on to that. I do have a lightness of being. Yeah. So you're a performer and courtisan who sings. I don't want to talk with you about singing. Had you sung professionally before the film? No, I'd sung in a band, you know, when I was a teenager. Oh, you did. What kind of band was it? Just a covers band when we never got a gig. Okay, wait, wait, stop. Let's stop here. What did you cover? I ain't no mountain high enough. Dreadfully. And then, you know, blondie, some blondie tunes. Blondie was my forte. Love blondie. Did you call me? Yes, I did. And had a glass. So there you go. Were you comfortable singing? Or it sounds like you were not comfortable singing, right? I was at first. I was like, yeah. And then I'd hear my voice back and go, oh. Oh, that's disappointing. I like your voice. Would you mind if we played a little bit of I'll fly away from the soundtrack of man? I think you were gonna say, would you mind if we asked you to sing? Oh no, I wasn't gonna do that. But how about if we play some of that track? Sure..
"nicole g" Discussed on Fresh Air
"nicole g" Discussed on Fresh Air
"This is fresh air. I'm Terry gross. My guest is Nicole Kidman. She stars in the new film being the ricardos, a fictionalized version of what happened behind the scenes in one eventful week while Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz was shooting an episode of I love Lucy. The film was written and directed by Aaron Sorkin. Kidman just won a Golden Globe for her performance in the film. In a way she plays two roles as the actress Lucille Ball. She's a powerful woman who understands how comedy works and the kind of comedy she's best at, and knows how to fight for it with the writers and the director. Kidman's voice and physical presence change when she's playing Lucy Ricardo in the episode they're shooting of I love Lucy, which is a recreation of an actual episode of the show. In 2020, Kidman was number 5 on The New York Times list of the 25 greatest actors of the century so far. Kidman also won the best actress Emmy and Golden Globe for her performance in the HBO series, big little lies, which also won an Emmy for outstanding limited series. She was an executive producer. It's part of the work she's taken on behind the scenes, getting more creative control, and creating interesting roles for herself and other women. In 2003, she became the first Australian actress to win an Oscar when she received it for her portrayal of writer, Virginia Woolf, in the hours. The film that made her a star in America, the dark comedy to die for, earned her a Golden Globe in 1996. There's plenty of other awards I can mention like the 2002 Golden Globe for moulin rouge, but let's get to the interview. Nicole Kidman, welcome to fresh air. Thank you so much for joining us. You're speaking to us from Australia. We're with your mother who has had some health issues lately and you're taking care of her. How are you? And how is omicron known in Australia? It's all oats like running wild in the U.S.. It's running wild in Australia..
"nicole g" Discussed on Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
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"nicole g" Discussed on The Three Questions with Andy Richter
"Is another episode of the three questions with andy richter and i very happy to be talking to my friend. Yvette nicole brown. The emmy nominated yvette. nicole brown. How how about that andy. First of all. I am overjoyed to be here with you. I've missed your sweet little face skin. See i'm looking at it right now and i missed it. I can't believe him emmy nominated. I don't know. I can't believe it because it's it's in black lady. Scott show was guest bought. You did. And i can't imagine that you go it. Because i mean i've done a million guest spots and you don't think oh this is going to get me an emmy nominee never. Yeah and was it a surprise when you got the still surprised today. It's been too and i'm still like was this emmy now. I'm like okay talking about funny. I know i did not go into it going. This is this is going to be the one you know. I knew that it was funny. But listen we. We're journeymen actors. We've been a lot of shows where parts were funny or you know. And and it's been crickets. So i know and it's an listen. It's a small appearance i did. Two episodes edited played the same character for two seasons back to back. And i think my sketches four minutes long so it's surrounded by so many other talented people sketches. Did i think no. I never thought they picked me out of the bunch ever. This is yeah ridiculous a great way. Well fantastic congratulations. And i hope you. I hope you get it. listen. I can't even dream that big but that would be an even bigger surprise right. Well it's also to outline. I can't say nobody. But i certainly did not think when i started to do this for a living and yes and i will also get trophies. Never it's it's like the health fix about that. And then there's this weird and i've always said like the fact that they give awards in this stuff is the weird thing about this to me and it's from having gone. It's from having been on the conan show for so many years getting nominated for writing almost every year for a number of years we got nominated for writing and then we would go with..
"nicole g" Discussed on Asian Enough
"Okay so it's now time for our weekly segment called asian enough. Confessions formerly known as bad asian. Confessions where we share a time or things that has made us feel that. We're not asian enough although we've done a lot of that already on this episode But it's so that we can all unpack these things together. And i am going to go. I with something that i kinda thought about as we were talking in this conversation so my confession is about how for a really long time in my life even through young adulthood. I did feel this. Need to have a sense of humor to placate other people's feelings about my otherness sir. May and i mean My white friends or even strangers or my friends parents in love parents. A love people's parents. So i would have this inclination to sort of lean into humor and be like. Hey yeh asian friend. i'm the asian friend It's not something. That i still feel ord really do anymore. But it's definitely something that i think that i leaned on to make it easy for everybody But also i think maybe i was really presumptive about the need to do that kind of thing. So that's what. I'm here to invest today in to sit and think about accommodation is like so real. I don't know like. I'll laugh until this uncomfortable moments of me feeling like passes. That's relatable to all right confessions. I've done so many of i feel deep ones. Here's what i've been holding onto when i speak in japanese. I speak in the third person because japanese language is so gendered like there are ways that girls say i am. There are ways that boys say i am. I did not like it. So as a kid i would just refer to myself by my name and i have never grown out of it like i am almost forty in what i'm speed lebanese to like actual respectable. You know like people. Like oh. I just talked to myself about myself in third person. Come love that yeah. I made that choice for yourself. Yeah from a young age because there's so much that we don't think to push back on you know when we're younger but he did. That's i think that's cool. Thanks for sharing both of you. I mean there are like so many moments. I can think of anytime anyone is going on about like. Look i referenced. Before like asian traits or common asian experiences. I'm like well like going to the list like nope. Nope nope i will say like. This wasn't even a negative experience. It was kind of a positive one but like when i started to correspond with my biological sister. I have a sister a full sister. Who was who is also korean-american unlike kneeboard in korea came here but she spent most of her life here and is also what she would describe as very americanized. Whatever that means anyway. When we first started talking it was long distance because we were across the country from each other and we were not ready to leap into like an in person meeting. We pen pals more than anything else. We were both really comfortable in writing so we wrote almost daily to each other for like a year and then like one of our first phone conversations. When we hadn't had many yet she was like. Oh my god you you sound so american like you everything about your voice. In the way you talk to screams like american and like i did feel that moment like oh god like even my sister who did not mean anything cruel but issue was not trying to keep. She was not trying to make me feel any way. And i did not feel bad It was more like. Oh look you've noticed. And i had never before occurred to me that like the way i spoke or moved or talked and she later was like get your body. Language is also very american. It never occurred to me that that could be something that she would automatically pick up on. I share it because it wasn't like a negative experience. Because i love my sister and she loved me it was just oh. I had not thought about that before. That's so interesting. Because i felt kind of a version of that i went to japan because i don't speak japanese and i've always felt like a terrible japanese american person for for not speaking japanese. But i did go once with family in walking through crowds. I felt they can tell they can tell them american. They probably can. I'm i'm scared to without my sister. I'm like i'm gonna need you to come and it's not even about lake language or whatever i just i'm gonna need somebody like i dunno can like pass because it's going to be very obvious to everyone that i can't i mean my birth father's also commented on how american i am and i kind of want to. That's a little bit rich coming from you. Like you know exactly why and like even if i were not adopted like you moved here so i would have grown up here anyway. He he thinks he thinks both my sister. And i are like very slush to. I don't know american. And i'm kinda like well. What did you expect to happen when we moved here and also pleased me for adoption. Now that you've heard our asian enough confessions we want to hear yours. Call us at two one three nine eight six five six five two. That's two one three nine eight six five six five two. And that's a wrap for this episode of asian enough. Thank you to nicole chung for joining us and thank you you out there. You're the one you're the one. I'm talking to thank you for listening. Asian enough is hosted by me january motto and by me tracey brown. Our producer is assault on a poor and our executive producer is abby swanson our engineers mike huffman and original music was composed by andrew. Even special. Thanks to julia turner. Geoff berkshire james reed and matt brennan. This podcast is dedicated to the memory of our founding producer. Line on more and come back next week for another episode of asian enough. We'll be revisiting last year's episode with vice president kamla harris co hosted by myself and asian enough co creator. frank shaun. I've never had an identity crisis. I haven't like literally. I didn't go through some evolution. About who am i. What is my identity. And i guess the frustration i have is if people think that i should have gone through such a crisis and need to explain it but i didn't an remember support your local donut shop. And if you've got that asian discount never take it for granted there. Was this couple who worked at the donut shop. They probably owned it and they used to give me what my friends and i would term asian discount of like i would get a dozen they would throw in an extra like one or two and only happened.
"nicole g" Discussed on Asian Enough
"Adopted in the early eighties and it wasn't just the judge actually it was also the social worker. Who interviewed them. It was like their adoption agency. It was their adoption attorney. Pretty much everyone. They ever consulted who they would have considered an adoption expert. Who worked in the field told them the same thing Which was it's not really gonna matter her race just sheer kid. And that's that's all that matters. My mother has hilariously sad. Like i thought. At least someone would recommend the book but nobody recommended anything and she was really struck by the word assimilate. I don't think it's a word that my parents would have liked. Come up with on their own but she always remembered it. That was the exact word that judge used just assimilate her everything will be fine. There's nothing in particular you need to worry about. Just because you're white and she's korean. It was just like any old adoption to him. So my reaction to that like growing up. I guess maybe. I wouldn't have questioned it so much because i was raised in a household that i don't really believe in like that. My parents were race blind. You know. I don't believe anybody is but that was like the line and i would say both at home and at school. That was the overwhelming attitude we were presented with. And so i didn't necessarily question that assimilation line when i was younger but of course like when i got older and started reading more than thinking more and like just after also more years of accumulated experience where i knew i knew damn well race was extremely relevant to my life and my experience how other people view me how i myself so i think it was like harder for my my parents to understand and accept that because it is really hard to understand that prejudice or inexperience at yourself. Don't have an it completely. Flew in the face of everything they've been told when they adopted me and end. It's not what they wanted for you to experience. I'm sure either right. Like of course. No apparently still think of their child being hurt by anything in like in my parents case. Either they're feeling was always like we don't care about your race and knowing what race blind no they also didn't care. I was asian. Like i wasn't like their asian daughter. The korean daughter i was just their daughter. I think they just thought because it didn't matter to them like it shouldn't matter to other people. I don't know like i would have these discussions with my mom where she would talk about like relatives of ours like people in her family and she really believed that none of our relatives could be racist. Because we'll all they really cared about is whether you're a good person or not like that was just so much the level on which not just my family but a lot of i think a lot of white people operate where it's all about intentions and even like one to one relationships maybe with people of color not like being aware of being able to discuss more. Systemic mum prejudice. Yeah i think in the eighties so many conversations were relatively naive which we can now see. And i'm thinking about my own parents who never talk to me about race or racism as long as i can remember. They never brought it up. As thing that i might have to confront out in the world you know and it's certainly something that they had experienced themselves but it was literally never talked about and i don't know if that was wishful thinking or some sense of optimism that i would never have to deal with it Which obviously was not the case. But i wonder how do you feel like the conversations around transracial transnational adoption have changed since you first started sort of hearing about it and really most importantly for this conversation where we're not adoptees. What is still missing from the conversations around adoption. that should be looked at now. should be discussed. Yeah i mean. I think one big change. That's easy to point out. Is that at the time. I was growing up. It was not nearly as common for people to talk about ways for adoptive families to really honor include their like birth culture culture of origin within the family. And so these days. I know like there are tons of culture camps their homeland tours families do things like language lessons in cooking classes and all sorts of things. What still harder is having like really frank conversations about race and privilege and like white supremacy in america. I recognize that it's difficult. I think maybe that is an area where there still needs to be really specific. Although ag- i'm not i'm not trying to be prescriptive and i'm not an expert but like there does need to be much more comprehensive training or adoption industry professionals working with prospective adoptive parents. I don't know there are definitely probably some agencies that are better at this than others these conversations. Some of them have actually realized they need. They need help. They need like transracial. Adoptees our voices and they will enlist or even pay us till speak with parents. But you know. I think of that is important but also. I don't know it's not going to reach everybody that it needs to reach because you're going to have to reach every prospective adoptive parents and we know from studies that many white parents don't talk to their kids about racism. It's something parents have colored. Do and we have to or at least like many of us feel we have to so. There's all kind of this gap whether we're talking. Adoptive families are not in terms of who is really talking to their children about the reality and like what's required them like what can look like demand of them Does a really important discussion to have with kids regardless of their race. So you know ever since we started this podcast or listeners have wanted the adopted you experience covered and it really just has home to me. How little there is out there in. The conversation about stephen just sharing individual experiences. Yeah i don't again. I don't i don't want to try really hard not to speak for like asian or korean adoptees as a group you know. There is no like one monolithic narrative. But i would say like a common thread that runs through a lot of my conversations with fellow. Let's say asian adoptees in there. Is this feeling of not being asian enough. You know not to not to steal your title. But i kind of laughed when i heard the name and then when i started thinking about like all the time i have not felt asian enough i mean it will be very hard to pick one. I think a lot of the ways. We talk about. Asian american identity in this country. It's exclusionary or at least on purpose to the adopt. The experience and also. It's not that it's not balloting. Fine good to share common experiences. It's just that some of those experiences can feel like a look. What's our place in this. You know we'd obviously did not grow up with asian parents at least many of us in so like what's our identity. How do they fit in if like. I don't know if we didn't learn to use chopsticks at home. Like i'm consciously going out in learning to use them like in my teens or little things like taking off your shoes when you go into a home. But yeah i dunno. Now there are just all these. Little cultural touchstones big and small. That don't necessarily applied adoptees so then we're left wondering you know we're clearly not white. I think most of us know that. And so what is it that makes us asian. Or what is it. That connects us to other asian american communities. I i just. I tend to think of like my asian and my adopted entities as so linked. I can't really separate them. And so i think a lot of adopt these are probably looking for is an acknowledgement and space within our communities to say like this has been our experience and who we are and it doesn't make us less korean or chinese or asian. I wanna go back to something. You mentioned just a little bit earlier about how how white adoptive parents don't address race a lot in march. You wrote a time article wondering how you're white family might have understood what you and every asian american person has been failing amid the rising anti asian racism spicier and there's a portion of the article. We'd like you to read if that's okay. Would they be concerned about me. Would they understand. Why cried when i told my own korean-american daughters about the spa shootings would i have reached out to them. During this past hard heavy week or held back uncertain of how to share my fear and rage as the only asian in my wife. Family thank you. I think what resonated to me about that article is actually the reverse like it made me think about just the idea of conversations. We can't have with their parents. You know after. They passed my dad when i was like twenty two and he was biracial but i never was like a conversation. We've never had like. I never really thought about. My dad is asian american though he definitely is me understanding. My biracial like asian american identity came after he had already passed so the article kind of made me think about like what the conversations we'd be having now before the this bus shootings which was sort of like this moment where i feel many of us had not like exactly seen it coming but had dreaded something like it you know. Ever since the pandemic started in the scapegoating and the racism. I remember hearing from a lot of asian friends who are saying they were checking up on their parents. Very worried about them in their parents intern turn were very worried too and everyone was everyone else to be careful and then my adopted mother had passed away quite recently and my father died a few years ago so they were not telling me to be careful but i remember just wondering like god. I wonder what they would have noticed. I wonder why they might have said. And then i would. I was talking with fellow to update us again. Like i'm not trying to say waited up to parents. Don't talk to their kids about racism. I know there are many who do but the people i was talking with and hearing from where saying like nobody in my family has brought it up and they were really hurt by silence of not just parents but like siblings and grandparents and other loved ones like they were in turmoil and they were scared and they were angry and it felt like the people really closest to them it was completely not even registering so this essay just came from a place of like. Yeah i think not being able to talk with up to parents about it and also just wanting to have a little bit of space. Maybe in the conversation for what asian american adoptees could be feeling what i was feeling anyway in the midst of the rise in anti asian harassment and violence because we have a lot of overlapping fears and worries. But then ours. Erlich different you know we're not going to be worried about our white parents but it's also harder to have these discussions with our white families or it can be so that was. That was just something that i wanted to make a little bit of space floor in the conversation if i could so yeah that was kind of where that came from. I do have a question for the room. And i will say this is based in my own experiences. But why is it so hard to talk to white folks sometimes about racism and about anti asian racism. I say this with love to. Because these are conversations really hard conversations that i have had with close friends and people that i love and respect and trust but they have been some of the hardest conversations that i've ever had about it. That is a great question. Yes can we find the answers in this conversation of right now. yes yes. we're also going to solve it right here. Now i think that like i do back-and-forth between feeling like oh like i'm so good at this. 'cause i've grown up doing this. I had no choice but to sort of be this. I mean i've used different terms over years. Race ambassador like representative mike cooking asian family member like whatever but i have kind of grown up comforting and placating to like explaining to like arguing with family. Feeling like you have to see this part of me and acknowledge it. We have to talk about it. You have to see how racism does affect my life. I mean maybe you'd rather not but if we're going to have an honest relationship that is what's required. I've been doing this in various subtle and very unsettle ways like my whole life. So sometimes i kind of think like like nicole. You're pretty good at this. It must just be all the experience you have and like would have a conversation with a white family member or friend that i felt you know just set us both back but many many steps and i'll be like okay. Actually you suck at this week. You've learned nothing and you grow up. not doing. Some of us liked easier not to yeah. Because i had an outlet to be japanese with like other immigrant family kids so when i was with my white family. I'm like this is where i just don't think about that. Like this is just a place where race doesn't exist right now. yeah well nicole. There's this piece that you wrote for the toast and it was about this time. A christmas a holiday dinner party where you encountered micro aggression at the dinner table from another person at the party and i found it. Not maybe a constructive. Because i'm not sure that an answer could be found in in such a situation. But i found it really helpful to read Because i have had to make that decision in my mind. We so many of us have had to go through. That thought process where it's like time slows down and you have to ask yourself. How do i want to react. Do i want to take it all the way to eleven. Do i need to keep it at a five. How is this going to play with everybody around me. It's this sort of impossible debate that you have with yourself in the moment But it was so helpful to know that. I was not the only one who has had to weigh the pros and cons of do i get in in my feelings in front of all these people or do i wanna take time to turn this into a teaching moment or do i want to flip the table. Yeah yeah It's been a while since they thought about that piece. It's called like what goes through your mind because that's exactly what it is. It's like time does slow down. That was probably like thirty seconds. I spent maybe less deliberating my options and weighing them and thinking like who would support me. Who would be horrified. What every possible repercussion. Being of what. I said depending how snarky it was and it felt like an hour. It felt like an hour that i was turning that over and it was really just a few seconds because all you ever have as few seconds to decide i mean when i think about that piece now i just always think about good intentions and how often we expect good intentions to get us really far and then you start thinking about who just expects the benefit of the doubt. They can say anything they just expect. It won't be taken a certain way and then on the flip side to never gets the benefit of the doubt. It is always considered like somehow so much more offensive to certain people to point out a racist or problematic common than it is to actually say that thing yet another way that functions is just in whose intentions are supposed to matter. You know who's feelings and comfort are supposed to matter in those situations and yes it does happen over and over. And i still have to think about what and when you know how. I'm going to respond for me. It connects a lot to my experiences. This last march When i didn't realize how. Many other asian americans were having the same reactions and the same emotions and the same feelings of isolation and despair and sadness really until i started seeing other people. Write about it and tweet about it and talk about it So that is another thing that i really appreciate your work that you have shared and written about this ongoing sort of experience and speaking a lot to things that i myself have struggled to vocalized in struggled to process. But a see you able to write about these things and it's really helpful. Thank you mean. I feel that way about the work of so many people like including eugen. But i think we're all kind of just doing our best to illuminate whatever small small corner of the experience we can and i think as asian women to their is. I'd like to generalize. But i sometimes will encounter real surprise or like resentment and i wonder how much of it is because people do not expect an asian woman especially to be vocal or to be angry or to call out racism. I didn't intend to talk about the toast so much at this interview. Like it closed. It closed five years ago. But i will say like we moderated comments there and i saw every terrible delete comments on like one of my writers pieces and somehow very worst comments and we got a lot of crap but the very worst were on pieces about racism by asian women. There was something about a vocal angry. Asian woman talking about racism. That like just. I mean they would be like so many terrible deleted comments and it happened on my cases there too so is definitely something that i was very aware of in some ways just speaking out. I'm defying a stereotype.
"nicole g" Discussed on Asian Enough
"To asian enough. Here's the rest of our conversation with writer nicole chung or talking about like scary vulnerable things. One of the things you write about in your book is how your parents were instructed by the judge who confirmed your adoption to just quote unquote assimilate you especially now. It's like malaysia and being colorblind and even like melting pot like we think about them in very different ways now in twenty twenty one. What was your reaction when you heard the word. That was used as simulate island surprise. So i was adopted in the early eighties and it wasn't just the judge actually it was also the social worker. Who interviewed them. It was like their adoption agency. It was their adoption attorney. Pretty much everyone. They ever consulted who they would have considered an adoption expert. Who worked in the field told them the same thing Which was it's not really gonna matter her race just sheer kid. And that's that's all that matters. My mother has hilariously sad. Like i thought. At least someone would recommend the book but nobody recommended anything and she was really struck by the word assimilate. I don't think it's a word that my parents would have liked. Come up with on their own but she always remembered it. That was the exact word that judge used just assimilate her everything will be fine. There's nothing in particular you need to worry about. Just because you're white and she's korean. It was just like any old adoption to him. So my reaction to that like growing up. I guess maybe. I wouldn't have questioned it so much because i was raised in a household that i don't really believe in like that. My parents were race blind. You know. I don't believe anybody is but that was like the line and i would say both at home and at school. That was the overwhelming attitude we were presented with. And so i didn't necessarily question that assimilation line when i was younger but of course like when i got older and started reading more than thinking more and like just after also more years of accumulated experience where i knew i knew damn well race was extremely relevant to my life and my experience how other people view me how i myself so i think it was like harder for my my parents to understand and accept that because it is really hard to understand that prejudice or inexperience at yourself. Don't have an it completely. Flew in the face of everything they've been told when they adopted me and end. It's not what they wanted for you to experience. I'm sure either right. Like of course. No apparently still think of their child being hurt by anything in like in my parents case. Either they're feeling was always like we don't care about your race and knowing what race blind no they also didn't care. I was asian. Like i wasn't like their asian daughter. The korean daughter i was just their daughter. I think they just thought because it didn't matter to them like it shouldn't matter to other people. I don't know like i would have these discussions with my mom where she would talk about like relatives of ours like people in her family and she really believed that none of our relatives could be racist. Because we'll all they really cared about is whether you're a good person or not like that was just so much the level on which not just my family but a lot of i think a lot of white people operate where it's all about intentions and even like one to one relationships maybe with people of color not like being aware of being able to discuss more. Systemic mum prejudice. Yeah i think in the eighties so many conversations were relatively naive which we can now see. And i'm thinking about my own parents who never talk to me about race or racism as long as i can remember. They never brought it up. As thing that i might have to confront out in the world you know and it's certainly something that they had experienced themselves but it was literally never talked about and i don't know if that was wishful thinking or some sense of optimism that i would never have to deal with it Which obviously was not the case. But i wonder how do you feel like the conversations around transracial transnational adoption have changed since you first started sort of hearing about it and really most importantly for this conversation where we're not adoptees. What is still missing from the conversations around adoption. that should be looked at now. should be discussed. Yeah i mean. I think one big change. That's easy to point out. Is that at the time. I was growing up. It was not nearly as common for people to talk about ways for adoptive families to really honor include their like birth culture culture of origin within the family. And so these days. I know like there are tons of culture camps their homeland tours families do things like language lessons in cooking classes and all sorts of things. What still harder is having like really frank conversations about race and privilege and like white supremacy in america. I recognize that it's difficult. I think maybe that is an area where there still needs to be really specific. Although ag- i'm not i'm not trying to be prescriptive and i'm not an expert but like there does need to be much more comprehensive training or adoption industry professionals working with prospective adoptive parents. I don't know there are definitely probably some agencies that are better at this than others these conversations. Some of them have actually realized they need. They need help. They need like transracial. Adoptees our voices and they will enlist or even pay us till speak with parents. But you know. I think of that is important but also. I don't know it's not going to reach everybody that it needs to reach because you're going to have to reach every prospective adoptive parents and we know from studies that many white parents don't talk to their kids about racism. It's something parents have colored. Do and we have to or at least like many of us feel we have to so. There's all kind of this gap whether we're talking. Adoptive families are not in terms of who is really talking to their children about the reality and like what's required them like what can look like demand of them Does a really important discussion to have with kids regardless of their race. So you know ever since we started this podcast or listeners have wanted the adopted you experience covered and it really just has home to me. How little there is out there in. The conversation about stephen just sharing individual experiences. Yeah i don't again. I don't i don't want to try really hard not to speak for like asian or korean adoptees as a group you know. There is no like one monolithic narrative. But i would say like a common thread that runs through a lot of my conversations with fellow. Let's say asian adoptees in there. Is this feeling of not being asian enough. You know not to not to steal your title. But i kind of laughed when i heard the name and then when i started thinking about like all the time i have not felt asian enough i mean it will be very hard to pick one. I think a lot of the ways. We talk about. Asian american identity in this country. It's exclusionary or at least on purpose to the adopt. The experience and also. It's not that it's not balloting. Fine good to share common experiences. It's just that some of those experiences can feel like a look. What's our place in this. You know we'd obviously did not grow up with asian parents at least many of us in so like what's our identity. How do they fit in if like. I don't know if we didn't learn to use chopsticks at home. Like i'm consciously going out in learning to use them like in my teens or little things like taking off your shoes when you go into a home. But yeah i dunno. Now there are just all these. Little cultural touchstones big and small. That don't necessarily applied adoptees so then we're left wondering you know we're clearly not white. I think most of us know that. And so what is it that makes us asian. Or what is it. That connects us to other asian american communities. I i just. I tend to think of like my asian and my adopted entities as so linked. I can't really separate them. And so i think a lot of adopt these are probably looking for is an acknowledgement and space within our communities to say like this has been our experience and who we are and it doesn't make us less korean.
"nicole g" Discussed on Asian Enough
"They're scary definitely for sure. Yeah i know. I mean i think as someone who like is an editor has been now for many years. I mean i started hyphen actually and then moved to the toast. Him now catechal. I think maybe that has actually played a big role in wyatt. I'm still writing in this genre. Because i do work with. And edit and publish writers sharing personal stories all the time. And i think a lot and have a lot of conversations with my writers and my fellow editors about you know what are the responsibilities would've ethics of that those from a writing and publishing perspective one thing. I think about a lot and something. I tell students when i teach workshop is like we all do have a tendency to write about like our trauma also and like it's very common to have like a an essay that is about your very worst or most painful experience. And it's not that that's not valid and it's not that it can't really help someone who's reading it because i think memoir and personal writing justifies its existence by making other people feel less alone but that said you don't owe anybody like your painter your trauma thinking about just this past year alone. And all the trauma and the loss disappointment the fear that we've all experienced during the pandemic. The raiders response does not have to be to take all that and make art for consumption. And i'm very grateful. In my case that i did kind of take the time between i guess my of my reunion starting to write about it. I was ready to write this when it was all happening. I will say like. I've had wonderful generous feedback from a lot of people but i hear from haters and i hear from people telling me that like i clearly. Don't love my adoptive parents and i'm ungrateful and like i bet there are ashamed of you and if i got stuff. Ten years ago or fifteen years ago. I think it would have been deeply devastating for me as it is. I don't like it. It doesn't feel good but it doesn't make me wanna stop writing. It doesn't make me ashamed. It doesn't get under my skin and make me think like deep down. Oh god are they write about me. I'm not a place in my life. Where i wouldn't say it rolls off my back but i can. I can cope with it and it doesn't make me want to stop sharing or writing lady. Sometimes in some cases would it does take his time and who you trying to reach. I guess just remembering that when you share stories whether it's on this podcast or in writing you're never sharing them for the haters. There's always gonna be people who don't care. Don't get it but you are writing or you're talking or you're producing work for the people who will get it and they're always going to be people like that out there but it is it's terrifying. I don't think it ever. It will ever not be a little bit and to this day. If i have an essay going the next day like it's really hard to sleep. And i know the day of the day of i'll be running on coffee and adrenaline and my stomach will be upset. That is on is what happens. All say like it gets easier but it doesn't. I'm right there with you. That's a nerve more of our conversation with nicole coming up after this short break. Stay with us in twenty seventeen when a trans woman disappears from the village alarm bells. Go off missing. Rose end up dead so her friends. Decide enough is enough. This is the story of what happens when sex workers and trans people stand up to fight the system that failed them. I'm justin laying and misses the village season two available now on the cbc. Listen app and everywhere. You get your podcasts..
"nicole g" Discussed on Asian Enough
"Actually verbal and i remember a few discussions like my. My main memory is asking my adopted mother. My mom likes to tell me the story of my adoption. And i would ask for this over and over when i was a kid and i remember like sitting in her lap and hearing the story and it never changed but growing up for me it was so impossible and honestly still isn't possible to separate like my asian my korean identity from my adoptee item. They are so bound together. I start out in early childhood. And i know that i look different from my family. But it's just me and my parents right and sometimes a grandparent or another relative so it was something i saw but didn't really think that much about until i started going to school and suddenly i'm like the only asian kid in class of twenty five kids and that does not change year after year after year. And then like i started experiencing what really was like racism at school and i didn't have any language or framework for discussing it or sharing that with the adilson my life so my early at entity formation as much as i hate to admit it was very much shaped by a like isolation and be like encountered prejudice from a young age so there was a lot of negative association. I suppose of what it meant to be asian in a very white area. And i didn't really have a chance to counter that with a lot of positive experiences or Just like really knowledge of my heritage. Because i was completely cut off from my korean heritage. You write about being told the story of your adoption. And i find it so interesting. The approach that you take as a storyteller now the concept of this foundational story was something that you begin to question yourself or at least have questions about so what i wonder more about that. Foundational story Because it's so relatable right the stories that are parents. Tell us about the before times before we can remember in so for so long. That's all we know of ourselves and not until much later that you wonder. What am i missing. Yeah i mean. I think it's a universal experience. Obviously not limited to adoptees. Exactly what you're saying where we get this family lore that's given to us when we're too young to really question it and all adults around this kind of present this as just indisputable fact right and then as you get older i think it is a very common experience to start wondering about the things that are not shared and the gaps in the story and the places where honestly you figure out that people are just guessing or they're coming out of course as we all do with our own biases and history start wondering about maybe there's some estrangement in the family. Maybe there are people missing from the family reunion or the photo album. And you like really for me anyway. I've always been a very curious person and kind of obsessed with mysteries. And i started to wonder about the biggest mystery i could think of was the mystery of like my own life. I did not know really anything about my origins or the people that come from. And i did start to think about that old standby adoption story which was like so comforting to me. I would say. I think even now there are parts of it that i find myself still wanting to cling to and think of his mind and feel ownership over and dislike find refuge in and at the same time. Like as you get older. I think it's really common to start questioning. Take this foundational stories that you've always been told and i could not help but notice that the facts are pretty sparse and that there were things given that we had no contact with my birth family. Did not even know their names. I started to find it interesting that my parents can be so sure about certain details whether it was like they were very poor and wanted to give you a better life or they really wish they could keep you but they couldn't you know i found myself wondering like how could we know this if we don't know anything about them and i think another thing that really got me just wanting to to examine it more closely and really interrogate. What happens if i could was my perspective started to shift. I always thought about it from my white families perspective. That was the perspective i knew. Those are the facts that could actually be given to me with any certainty. Like i knew my parents wanted a child and then they heard about me and they believed it was god or fate or both and i started to wonder one day like well. You know what about what my birth parents may have wanted like. What was their situation. And of course like every adoption starts with this fundamental severing our loss. You know and i start wondering about basically the other side and i had never. I had never thought enough about it. Or maybe i had not been encouraged. Maybe sometimes i had actually been discouraged from thinking about it from like my birth families perspective or or in terms of like what i myself might have lost and i just reached a point starting in adolescence. But then i would. I think slowly just gathered steam over the years sometimes more at the forefront sometimes more in the background but like more questioning more wondering and more like kind of wanting to flip that narrative and and think about it from the perspective of my birth family. Not because i didn't love or like trust my adoptive family just like i'd only heard that one perspective and there was a lot more obviously involves than that really interested me because i didn't think about family lower so much until family like ancestry tree assignments at school. But that never even felt like a real story that i have ties to and i don't know why and it wasn't until college where i started thinking. Oh like i also have a story. Like that's when i also started figuring out about my own identity which you've also written about how colleges an escape where you've other asians for the first time you're able to find yourself i guess. Can you talk a little bit about that experience i think. In one instance college was a period of my life. I thought the least about being adopted and that was because i was away from home for the first time i was no longer the only asian far from it also. I was separated from my adoptive parents by this whole country between us and so people didn't see me anymore just in the context of adoptive family and so like grown up. When would be out with my parents. Like i mean strangers would ask like where they get you and even with people who knew us. Let's say at church or at school like there's nicole and her parents she's adopted. It's very obvious. Like it was just this fact that whether i liked it or not just constantly announced as soon as you saw me with my family and i got very used to getting questions about it and having to talk about it a whole lot and then in college it was the opposite experience like nobody ever saw me with my parents. It only came up with. I brought it up. It was only subject of conversation if i wanted it to be and it was like a pretty big change. I mean i will say once or twice. It might have come up in response to a question. I got or a comment. Like i had a suite mate in college. She noticed i was not exactly alike. Not that we're all the same anyway. But you know she was like. Why are you like such a banana. And i had to explain to her. I felt i should explain to her. Like it's because. I grew up with white parents. And she's like oh like that explains it which obviously didn't make me feel good but i mean sometimes it would come up in this context but by and large. I could've spent four years. Not talking about it at all. And i was so busy with the normal college growing up things that you're doing that i it was actually kind of easy for it. To kinda slide into the background right. Now bring it up on your own terms when.
"nicole g" Discussed on Asian Enough
"Thank you so much for joining us to call. Thank you tracy john. It's good to be here. Let's are at the beginning. You were born to korean immigrant parents. But you're adopted. As an infant into a white catholic family in a mostly white rural town in oregon. So how did you first start developing your own sense of identity. Sure sure so. I will say i lose the only korean that i really knew until i left home and it was formative and ways and at the same time. That's really hard to see when you're growing up there when you're in the midst of it when whiteness is just kind of the default around you as it was for me and did grow up in a very white area and it wasn't just like my family. It was my neighborhood. It was my school every school. I went to pretty much. you know. It was definitely the church we went to. It was one of those things where i definitely noticed from a young age. I noticed i didn't look like everyone and also like it was pointed out to me and like many different ways by different people. I will say that i. I don't think. I began really noticing a lot or feeling self conscious about it until i was old enough to go to school so my early years and how many of us has that many memories of our early childhood right but the memories i do have. It's like well of course. I knew that i was adopted. I don't remember being told so. I must have been told like around the time i was two or three. Is my gas like when i was actually verbal and i remember a few discussions like my. My main memory is asking my adopted mother. My mom likes to tell me the story of my adoption. And i would ask for this over and over when i was a kid and i remember like sitting in her lap and hearing the story and it never changed but growing up for me it was so impossible and honestly still isn't possible to separate like my asian my korean identity from my adoptee item. They are so bound together.
"nicole g" Discussed on Asian Enough
"The joys the complications and everything else that comes along with being asian american. I'm one of your host genu- motto and i'm your host tracy brown. Today we're joined by the writer. Nicole chunk you may know her from her writing on life identity parenting or from her social media presence. Both of which have helped me get through this last year. Particularly her work examining racism grief and asian american identity. Her two thousand eighteen memoir. All you can ever know chronicles nicole's upbringing in a white catholic family her adoption story and her journey to learn more about her korean birth parents. They're just all these. Little cultural touchstones dagan small. That don't necessarily apply to adopt so then we're left wondering you know we're clearly not wait. I think most of us know that. And so what is it that makes us asian. Or what is it. That connects us to other asian american communities. Nicole is also an advice columnist at slate a former editor at the toast. Rest in peace to the toast and she is currently the editor. In chief of catapults magazine. Our conversation with nicole chung coming up after this short break dope do go anywhere just kidding. I'm david ridden and this is the next call in september nineteen ninety-six melanie. Fda disappeared from northeastern ontario. Her mother's selene is still searching for answers. I can't let it go. I need to find her. She deserves that much. I follow every tip and every theory investigations that could break wide open with the next call available now on the cbc. Listen app and everywhere. You get your podcasts. Frank carson was a criminal defense attorney who spent years accusing police and prosecutors of corruption. Then they charged him with murder. I'm christopher offered writer and host of the la times podcasts. Dirtyjohn and detective trap. I'm inviting you to follow and listen to my new podcast. That trials of frank carson. This eight episodes series is a story of power politics and the law in california's central valley new episodes of the trials of friend. Carson are available to find them. Search for the.
"nicole g" Discussed on Your Life Program
"Hello welcome. Everyone to your life program where we live. Intentionally savvy lists every day. I'm your host andrea hammer. Certified fitness trainer health and wellness coach fitness nutrition. And we're here to discuss all our healthy habits and share with you. What we need to do to live really healthy lives and will we sheriff. Show it's coming from radio network in radio network project so stay tuned as we connect with my next guest who is a brilliant in loving healthy habits. Coach nicole battiste and nicole. When you talk to her she will share with you. How the thoughts you think the words you speak the breath you take and the foods you eat all affect how you feel and how you feel about yourself. She's gonna be on a show with us today to share and teach us how to learn new stronger foundations of healthy habits that will change your mindset and your chemical makeup. We're going to be well with nikki and we're going to start really living sooner than later. Because she's got the answers for that nikki. Thank you so much lovey. For coming to be on the show with me today oh andrea so much for having me. I'm honored to be here chatting with you today. You know you. And i share a really wonderful history of health and wellness since spirituality in how we love so much what we do in how we can help that change in in people's lives with fitness. Feeling good your story comes very poignant internal part of you that really reaches deep into the hearts of many women that find deeper struggled to have radiance in their life. In italian confidence would have gone to your experience in in grown out of it and thrived and become who you are today as magnificent person on this planet full of love and light. You now can help other women share through your experience and your knowledge how to really the empowered and and find that grace and exceptional living you know level in their life so that was your story. How did you get from there to here. Thank you well and have for the longest. I can remember. I had like the worst relationship. I was in the worst relationship that you could ever think of. And it's not a relationship that most people think of when you say that it's it's the relationship with myself <hes>. I used to say i feel like. I'm in an abusive relationship with myself. And i was i like i took myself for granted. I didn't appreciate or understand <hes>. You know the things that i did. Well i <hes>. i was. I was abused as a child and even through adulthood i've experienced different sexual traumas and that can take a toll on how you feel and think about yourself <hes>. And it wasn't until it was much sometime in my twenties that i was exposed to the book. Seven habits of highly effective people. When i realized that. I didn't have to just keep living like initially i. I thought that how was fueling the negativity and depression all this stuff like this. Just how i am. And who i am. And that's just part of life and whatever so i was literally just existing. I was just surviving. You know the traumas that i dealt with <hes>. And i suppressed a lot of of emotions. That so i like i mastered smiling people unless you could like really feel energy people like you. You always so happy like yeah only you knew the struggles inside my mind that i'm dealing with <hes>. So so back to that book. I i read the seven habits of highly effective people and it made me it. Just it's a paradigm shift book and it. It opened the door to me realizing that. I could actually shape my own life like i can clan for things. I can expect things more than what i was doing. And i can be more than who i was and i don't that never occurred to me. Well for and of course my. My elders wouldn't have known that. I needed some help or sense of direction because they didn't know i was depressed. All the time <hes>. I didn't share any of that. I didn't share any of the trauma with my family or anything like that <hes>. So by all accounts. I was fine so they wouldn't have known to to try to bring me out of that mindset that i was in
"nicole g" Discussed on Women and Crime
"Even though the traffic light was green, so of course he did his bullhorn. Somebody got out of that car. It was Nikki, Outta. Mondo. She got out of the driver's side of the car wearing. Wearing only socks on her feet, and her two young children were inside in the car seat asleep. She had told the officer I tried to leave, but he said he would kill me. She said that Chris was still in the apartment in the gun had gone off. Nikki also told police that she killed grover. She said yes. I killed him. He tortured me. Me Sexually and physically abused me for years. The police went to the sheriff's department and they're. They found Chris Grover deceased with one gunshot wound to the head Hill. Let's take a moment and talk about how his body was found. Okay, so he was found laying on the couch, says head propped up on pillows, one arm at his side, one arm draped. Across his torso with one single gunshot wound to the head. That doesn't sound consistent right now. With the story that she told, but that's just my opinion at this point, so you're not going to be the only one who will think that. We'll talk a little bit more about that crime scene as we get further into the trial. On July second, two thousand Eighteen Nikki, Outta. Mondo pled not guilty to charges of second degree murder, first and second degree, manslaughter and second degree criminal possession of a weapon. After posting a six hundred thousand dollar bond, Nikki was released on electronic monitoring to await her murder trial, which began in March, two thousand and nineteen. So this was an interesting trial. Because the two sides as they usually do right, they both offer to starkly different narratives of what happened here so on the prosecutors version, Nikki was a master manipulator who concocted a story of abuse justify killing Chris. And, in fact she had rehearsed this story and this bizarre narration of events. They had a friend's excite expert who said that there was no indication or evidence that grover was physically or sexually abusive. which doesn't make sense because to me in the night of or historically, and in the past, historically doesn't make sense based on what the prosecutor, also while the forensic psychologist expert for the prosecution also said that Chris had none of the common traits of a batterer, and that Nikki was a quote, unreliable historian, who put forth so many different accounts of who who abused her. Her at different times, so let me just explain what this means..