31 Burst results for "Neff"

"neff" Discussed on The Psychology Podcast with Scott Barry Kaufman

The Psychology Podcast with Scott Barry Kaufman

02:51 min | 2 months ago

"neff" Discussed on The Psychology Podcast with Scott Barry Kaufman

"As a man that tends to be rewarded. And he's like. Oh well we got pay attention to it you know but but maybe not as much With young women and then and then those that develops over time. Do you think if there was A matriarch easy like what do you think if we had a matriarch and do that thought experiment It would be more there'd be more of an equitable appreciation of asserting needs for both men and women are with the power. Just be reversed in suddenly women would be like. We don't care about men's needs. I mean i don't know a lot about major give. It said he'd done. I know a little bit. But from what i understand It is different right. So it's not it's not like it's just in reverse that in matriarch ease. There's more value on the communal on cooperation right. It's on those values values of unbridled capitalism and exploitation so i have spent some time with bushman. San hunter-gatherers in the kalahari the artem hr with a pretty gala -tarian. You know and they've got pretty. There's gender roles specialization that they aren't rigid. The woman will also kind of hot and the men will also kind of gather and make decisions together and it's not like the man have all the power is just much more egalitarian And so. I do think what's happened is you might say. There's been too much fierceness without enough tenderness. The fierceness is expressed itself is like game. Capitalism aggression dominance wanted desire for superiority. Although things and matters feelings more ten feelings of the heart of care of kindness. They've been belittle in this system and that's partly why he looked the world around us. What one of the reasons were in the mess. Were in oh my gosh kristin neff. I agree so much with that. And there's an interesting sort of not to complain. Ism man for a second. But like i i absolutely not my intention is to take at all the attention away from your very wonderful point but just illustrate an example is that i'm you know i love writing on twitter stuff like We really lack tenderness. Like i wrote that tweet like a couple of weeks ago. I was like this world. Needs more tenderness. More care you know and You know some people were like rolling their eyes right. And and and i wonder if that's because i'm a man and i'm saying it you know and so i think it sucks that we have any of these kinds of Gendered things where like if you're a man. Can you talk about tenderness. You get the iras or if you're women. You talk about assertiveness. Even you might get i rolls and i think that sucks all around. Well harms harms. Everyone so sky you to write the follow up book to mind which is tender self compassion..

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"neff" Discussed on The Psychology Podcast with Scott Barry Kaufman

The Psychology Podcast with Scott Barry Kaufman

04:38 min | 2 months ago

"neff" Discussed on The Psychology Podcast with Scott Barry Kaufman

"Today it's great to chat with kristin neff on the podcast. Kristen is currently an associate professor of educational psychology at the university of texas at austin. She's a pioneer in the field of self compassion research conducting the first empirical studies and self compassion almost twenty years ago in addition to writing numerous academic articles and book chapters on the topic. She's author of the book. Self compassion the proven. Power of being kind to yourself in conjunction with our colleagues dr chris termer in conjunction with our colleague..

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Dr. Kristen Neff on the Interplay Between Personal Work and Collective Work in Meditation

The Mindful Minute

01:36 min | 2 months ago

Dr. Kristen Neff on the Interplay Between Personal Work and Collective Work in Meditation

"One of the things i noticed in this book was the interplay between personal work and collective work and i think that sometimes that gets lost within just meditation practice. It seem so solitary. You're doing it for the most part in your house by yourself on your own cushion for yourself except that it's not actually for yourself and so how does that interplay show up three. Oh yeah we'll so you know if you come from a perspective that in for me it does come from a buddhist perspective. But it isn't be buddhist if he come from a perspective where you see yourself as a larger interdependent all right then this idea that what we do only if excess or the you know we just turn inward and not outward or we outward tonight inward none of that makes sense right when you when you change your mindset so that you realize for all part of a larger hold then of course you know we. We work with their cells due date set for after work dacian of suffering of others of our planet. We also understand. We have the wisdom to know that what we cultivate inside impacts people outside and vice versa. I that wisdom of inter connection is really key to self compassion or compassion for others. In fact this is what differentiates compassion from assessors. Pity feeling sorry for with is not the understanding of common humanity interconnection and which is essential for compassion

Larry Elder Criticizes Gavin Newsom's Policies and Spending

America First with Sebastian Gorka Podcast

01:32 min | 2 months ago

Larry Elder Criticizes Gavin Newsom's Policies and Spending

"Seems like he's he's worried it seems like nine c. pelosi's neff new gruesome use is wide because every week he's coming up with with another plot to buy off voters correct. Larry that's correct even the outgoing governor. Jerry brown criticised spending with this governor has just done. Is he giving people a whole year. Risk-free free on top of the three hundred dollars that you get up until at least september and this is why california jobs are recovered only to the extent of fifty percent as opposed to two-thirds and the rest of the country. I have a lot of friends who operate small businesses while great restaurants. They cannot find people to work a group of economists from bank of america. they weren't trumpers all said anybody making about thirty two thousand dollars a year or less is better off. Not were working and this is what they've done and again. What gavin do some has done is that he is forced all these businesses to shut up. You may not know. This ran a small business. I practiced law for a while. But i ran a small business. Fourteen years. it was successful. I sold it relocated to california. The business kept want most businesses that are small ceo. Those that succeed are often just despair payroll the payroll. How many dreams that each. How many how many lives he dash you put your hopes and dreams in the business and they were all gone because at this guy and people are furious. And i want to remind people. There's a direct connection between the crime and the homelessness and the cost of living and this man and the policy that have been pushed by the super majorities of democrats in the lower and upper chambers of the legislature. Here in california.

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"neff" Discussed on 10% Happier with Dan Harris

10% Happier with Dan Harris

02:12 min | 3 months ago

"neff" Discussed on 10% Happier with Dan Harris

"Kristin neff. Thanks for coming back on the show. Thanks for having me dallas. Love talking with you. Yes you are. One of my favorite guests in your work has had a significant impact on me. So it's great. Have you back on the show. So let's talk definition for a second. What is the difference in your mind between fierce self compassion and tender self compassion self compassion. Has i call it. A yin a yang aspect right. So there's a way in which self compassion just allows us to accept ourselves with kindness and warmth. It's more of a gentle nurturing energy. The type of energy apparent might have for their child who in the can screaming their head off but apparent loves that child unconditionally. Accept some as they are. and so. that's part of self compassion wheat heavily. Hold ourselves. we hold our pay more nurturing. More warmer understanding but compassion in the broader sense is about alleviating suffering right that really defines what compassion is concerned with alleviating suffering. And although we may need to accept our cells sometimes. We don't want to accept our behaviors or we don't want to accept a situation we're in that's causing harm and that's where fear self compassion comes in fear. Self compassion is the action oriented side of compassion as opposed to just accepting side we ourselves. Hey this this behavior. Doing it's not working for you. You know you need to change it because it's causing you harm or it might be. Hey i want to encourage you to try this new thing or to reach your goals or motivate change. Because i care about you. And i want you to be happy or in terms of situations it might be a kind of like call mama bear self compassion right that protective side of self compassion and says hey you crossing boundaries is not okay. What you're doing. You're treating me unfairly. So for example. I see the black lives matter. Movement served the metoo movement as self compact fear self compassion movements as people. Rise up. Feel empowered to say. Hey that's not okay. You're harming me so a lot of it is where the compassion is aimed and we need both in order to be healthy and whole.

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The Difference Between Fierce and Tender Self-Compassion With Author Kristin Neff

10% Happier with Dan Harris

02:12 min | 3 months ago

The Difference Between Fierce and Tender Self-Compassion With Author Kristin Neff

"Kristin neff. Thanks for coming back on the show. Thanks for having me dallas. Love talking with you. Yes you are. One of my favorite guests in your work has had a significant impact on me. So it's great. Have you back on the show. So let's talk definition for a second. What is the difference in your mind between fierce self compassion and tender self compassion self compassion. Has i call it. A yin a yang aspect right. So there's a way in which self compassion just allows us to accept ourselves with kindness and warmth. It's more of a gentle nurturing energy. The type of energy apparent might have for their child who in the can screaming their head off but apparent loves that child unconditionally. Accept some as they are. and so. that's part of self compassion wheat heavily. Hold ourselves. we hold our pay more nurturing. More warmer understanding but compassion in the broader sense is about alleviating suffering right that really defines what compassion is concerned with alleviating suffering. And although we may need to accept our cells sometimes. We don't want to accept our behaviors or we don't want to accept a situation we're in that's causing harm and that's where fear self compassion comes in fear. Self compassion is the action oriented side of compassion as opposed to just accepting side we ourselves. Hey this this behavior. Doing it's not working for you. You know you need to change it because it's causing you harm or it might be. Hey i want to encourage you to try this new thing or to reach your goals or motivate change. Because i care about you. And i want you to be happy or in terms of situations it might be a kind of like call mama bear self compassion right that protective side of self compassion and says hey you crossing boundaries is not okay. What you're doing. You're treating me unfairly. So for example. I see the black lives matter. Movement served the metoo movement as self compact fear self compassion movements as people. Rise up. Feel empowered to say. Hey that's not okay. You're harming me so a lot of it is where the compassion is aimed and we need both in order to be healthy and whole.

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Harnessing Fierce Self Compassion with Author Kristin Neff

Untangle

02:48 min | 3 months ago

Harnessing Fierce Self Compassion with Author Kristin Neff

"Kristen. Thanks for being untangled. Today it's great to have you with us again. Oh thanks patricia. I'm really happy to be here. Yes your new book just came out. When did it come out. Actually yesterday on the so excited that i got to read it. It is so good. And let's just start by talking about why he decided to write this book. You've been a compassion. Pioneer and self compassion warrior and. This book has a little bit of a different twist to it. And i'm just curious as to why you decided to write. This one is a couple of reasons. So it's about the fear side of self compassion in addition to tender more nurturing side. It's about being able to speak up. Stand up for yourself. Meet your needs motivate change and first of all in the last ten years or so. When i've been really teaching people about self compassion. I realized that people had a very one-sided view of it they thought self compassion was only about self acceptance and soothing and comforting and there was this misperception that somehow self compassion is gonna undermine your ability to motivate. Change your to seek up or to do something about your life. They thought it was all about acceptance. So part of it was just decrypt. Misperception to let people know about the fear side of self compassion. I liked joke that tender self compassion as like a mother. Just unconditionally loves her child. Even wintershall screaming at off just love and soothe and care for our child but this also like mama bear so protecting her cobs are saying. Okay time for you to leave the dan or maybe hunting for miles. If i'm fish feed them. All of those are really important. Part of self compassion that mama bear side which we can also turn inward is exclusively for women in particular we haven't done before it's all been gender neutral is because women's fierceness socialized out of them we're told to be helpful and say yes to everyone into gear brown needs in a way that men are. So that's why. I wrote the book particularly for women. I was definitely ask that question. And i want to dive a little deeper into that. But why do you think you chose the word fierce. I love the word. Fierce is not the only one who uses it. a lot of people do and essential steam. Because they're called the translations now not all languages have an analogous word because fierce connotes bravery and courage and that warrior energy but as a positive word as opposed to something like aggressive which is negative connotations. And that's why i like fierce because again it's like fierce mama bear that warrior energy can come from a place of love in terms of the service of protection and reducing harm and just seemed to fit that really well.

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"neff" Discussed on Nobody Told Me!

Nobody Told Me!

05:51 min | 3 months ago

"neff" Discussed on Nobody Told Me!

"Welcome to nobody. Told me. I'm laura owens and i'm jan black and here's a question for you to think about d practice self compassion. You give yourself the same kindness and care that you'd give to a good friend and if not why not our guest on this episode. Dr kristin neff is one of the world's experts on self compassion. She's the author of several books on the topic including the latest which is called fierce self compassion. How women can harness kindness to speak up claim their power and thrive thank you so much for joining us. Oh thank you so much for having me. I'm really happy to be here. How do you define self compassion. What is it in your view. Well the easy way to think about it is simply treating yourself with the same kindness and support that you would naturally show too good friend or anyone. You cared about so compassionate. Actually passion means suffering commies with so way being with yourself when you're struggling when you feeling inadequate or something difficult this happening in your life and a very supportive helpful way Yeah helps alleviate sufferings quite simple actually. When have you needed to show more compassion to yourself. A lot of.

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"neff" Discussed on Tara Brach

Tara Brach

05:51 min | 3 months ago

"neff" Discussed on Tara Brach

"Welcome friends nama. Stay thank you so much for joining us. So this is a special night. I am joined in with my good friend and colleague. Kristen neff and i'm going to give you a brief intro but just to say that even before we started recording formally we just jumped right in and there so much exciting stuff to discuss it. It's an a spacious time because both of us had our books come out on the fifteenth on the same day real different kinds of books and so it was just made extra fun for us. So kristen is associate professor at the university of texas austin and she's pioneered research in cellphone passion that really leading figure in the field and along with chris gherman her another friend colleague. She developed training and mindful self compassion. Which i know..

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"neff" Discussed on Live Happy Now

Live Happy Now

04:35 min | 3 months ago

"neff" Discussed on Live Happy Now

"Welcome to episode three hundred seventeen. Live happy now. Dr kristin neff has teaching us about self compassion for almost twenty years. And now she's teaching us how to get fierce. I'm your host paula phelps. And this week. Kristen is here to talk about her new book. Fear self compassion which looks at n- aspect of self compassion that's often overlooked but fear self. Compassion is just as important to our well-being as tender self compassion. And she's here to tell us why. Kristen welcome back to live happy now. Oh thanks for having me ball. I'm really happy to be talking with you again. You are the person to talk to about self compassion and you've been guiding us on this journey to self compassion for almost twenty years. Now i wondered if you could talk about like has the way that we think about self compassion and our awareness changed in that time that you've been studying and helping us along this.

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"neff" Discussed on Psychologists Off The Clock

Psychologists Off The Clock

04:04 min | 3 months ago

"neff" Discussed on Psychologists Off The Clock

"Your last chapter is basically. I'm still compassionate mess. So can you describe what you mean by that. Yeah yeah so. This is actually a quote that kristen. I like christopher I think bob narrow was the one he said it. But i just love it. Which is the goal of practice is simply to become a compassionate mess right those so what does that mean that. Your goal isn't to be perfect. Your goal is to get it right. You know your goal is simply to bring compassion whatever's arising in the moment whether you get it wrong or right and that is an achievable goal. so i get. I'm still a mess. Still get it wrong. I try to get it right as much as i can. But i i probably a little better than it used to be but not a lot to whatever but i am pretty good weekend. Compassion was immediately. Mess man whenever as i've caused And so it's an achievable goal. That you hold any mistakes you make any time you get it wrong. It's not like you achieve balance and you stay. Balanced is like you chief balance and then you fall us. Your goal is just the process of bringing compassion. Whatever happens And there can be a lot of satisfaction in opening your heart. You know the goals to get it right. The goal is to open your heart and once that she'll go than this. Susan achievable goal. Not not every not every moment. It's like tuning a guitar. Musician has to pick up the guitar in tune it over the course of their whole lives and tarsus get out of tune naturally by just sitting around so the process of compassionate the or self compassion as the noticing. When we're at a tune in to me back in sometimes you need to turn it right to fierce or turn to yet to more tender. But you know i was. I was thinking about last night. We oftentimes right before. Bed is with to kind of elementary aged. Kids before bad can be stressful. Time and My husband. I both raised our voices with our kids around the mess of our home at sunday. Night stressed right. And and then i climbed into bed with my little one and we were reading and i i read from them read to them from hans and with his stories at night my kids love him and his teachings and one of the teachings in there was A child had asked him. How old are you and technet. Han said well. I'm twenty six hundred years old. Because i'm in the lineage of the buddha and i'm a hundred and ten years old because i'm in the lineage of my father and i'm six years old because in the lineage of you talking to you right now and i feel like that sort of the moment of compassion is like were very young and we're very old so you're you're very you're very young and you're very old christian teachings behaviors very wise of a two year old exactly and we're just continuations of all of it and that's that's just being processed with it so it's just been..

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"neff" Discussed on Psychologists Off The Clock

Psychologists Off The Clock

03:17 min | 3 months ago

"neff" Discussed on Psychologists Off The Clock

"So in writing. This book have really felt like bigger than me. It's not it's not me kristin neff writing the book making unity series. It's kind of like when you when you when you find it very very fortunate to have a cause of the speaker got a purpose in life which is to spread the word of self compassion to help people through it. When you have that. Not that i mean my ego gets in the way i've got an ego i have to watch it and all that and prickett and all those things like i don't have an ego but it's really it's not about me you know and and again that is the freedom of self compassion is it. Actually it really makes the self part of self compassion. Not even really there. It's about helping about being part of something larger than yourself being part of this great unfolding of whatever is unfolding And to do that. You don't need a partner. You don't need people to like you think you're nice. You know you any relationships to function and obviously want relationships and e you want to have healthy loving relations. Of course you do but it gives you freedom not to be so dependent on those things as you're talking about that. I'm thinking about the concept of choice. Because actually liked to choose niceness. Sometimes but it's not chosen for me because i'm under the control. I'm not under the contingency of niceness to get what i need in the world but it's more than if you live yet but it's more about choosing nicest because i want to be nice here like i actually want to be loving kindness. There's a sweetness that sometimes i want to step into Russian units yeah natural expression. I'm actually a mac me bulldog. But i'm actually quite sweet and generous context. You know it's like i. I'm kind of talking to my fear side but yeah also very very tender as well now very loving very affectionate and that's the thing is allowing each side to be. They're not prioritizing one side of us other because people want us to be that way but again. I'm a little more young than men so for me. It's it's all about balance. Sometimes i need to bounce more the other side. I think everyone's different can. Sometimes you need to go less. Sometimes you need to go right. And it's contextual in some context. I'm very young and other contexts. I'm very yen and it depends on the situation and son. I'm very you know what i mean. Yeah except if anyone threatens my son talk about mama bear right and so but that's wonderful..

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"neff" Discussed on Psychologists Off The Clock

Psychologists Off The Clock

03:32 min | 3 months ago

"neff" Discussed on Psychologists Off The Clock

"I think as women get into their fierceness where there's the seventh that shows up and thinking about Colleen durga when. I was in graduate school. That was probably one of the first times that are really made contact with my fierce compassionate actually withdrew from graduate school and went to a yoga program. 'cause 'cause it was an unhealthy place and i was given a contract to and what's interesting about dirk is she's this hindu goddess that sits upon a lion. She's a mother energy. She's a god mother goddess and she has eight arms and in those arms. She holds weapons. But what's interesting about these weapons. There are things like a shield and an arrow and a sword but the sword. It is for intelligence right and the and she holds a conch shell which is used to make a sound like the primordial sound of using your voice right so this combination of mother energy and fierceness which not only is in hindu mythology. Be egyptian goddess. Technet she's also another really interesting one is about fierce spheres motherhood my name. Diana is after the roman goddess of the hunt. she's the the huntress but also is the The protector during shot childers energy. That's the interesting thing you know. Women are socialized not davits. You might say we're socialized away from our end excels or the metaphor is my book. Is mama bear which is something that is in every. Almost every culture you know doesn't have to be hindu goddesses and that's why i like it because it's actually a feminine energy of women have access to it especially with regard to protecting their children protecting their loved ones you know. So that's why it's so so you might save tender self. Compassion is like mother. Metaphorically fear self compassion like mama bear and so we have it inside of us in so the whole ideas. We seem to make that you turn and tap into this energy to help ourselves as well as others. We have inside of us. But we're also afraid of it. And i had this combination of people are afraid of other people are out of it and i had this conversation with women. I had women over while our our boys were playing. And we. I was reading your book and i'm like help me out. We've gotta talk about this concept of anger. And i wanna read some of the things that the women that i had these women mothers all pretty much in their forties diverse backgrounds at talked about in terms of the experience of anger. So one woman said it's a full body experience and i wanna do damage. I wanna physically her another person. When i get angry. Another woman said anger looks really ugly. And i feel shame after another woman said i have a hard time getting in touch with my anger and i've probably fell anger once in the past decade and wonder what it's disguised as and then another woman said i. It takes a lot for me to get angry. But when i do i go into full rage. I'm furious though. I'd love to talk a little bit about women and anger our messaging around anger and and also how we can reclaim our anger in a way that is compassionate naturally agent for change. Yeah yeah so a lot of the book is about. You know my struggles with anger. I don. I am not an management expert. I'm not writing the book. He's like figured it out. Actually you know very honest in the book. This is something i struggle with. I am more young than yen. I accessed my anger pretty easily. But sometimes it's not balanced enough and he does a mindfulness teacher as always kind of like okay..

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"neff" Discussed on Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson

05:08 min | 3 months ago

"neff" Discussed on Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson

"Somebody may be entering high school. Going through some of these challenges. What would you want to say to that person. Yes i would say so much is part of me. That of course the psychologist to be encyclopedia. I learned from all the mistakes. I made it. I needed to go through all those mistakes. So you know. If i were to crack myself early on what i be the person i am today. Probably not so this part of me that we just kind of to be a support supportive presence nonetheless if i if i actually did have the goal of trying to help me. Avoid some of that pain. Yeah i think. I think the main message i would give myself. Is you really need to look within for love for support for commitment commitment as or doubt so well mile life. I have to say my father. My spouses a moral commitment. Has it worked out so well. That's just my life. So if i could tell myself early on the eu are the one that needs to commit to yourself. This is where your sense of safety moby. This is where your sounds of your special year. Beautiful i love you. I care about you. This is really the primary source you need to look to is within not outside of yourself especially you know a man friends are good families. Good but you know especially yourself i would probably probably would have saved myself a little bit of pain Message early on. that's a beautiful reflection. Thank you so much for sharing it. I really appreciate it and thanks so much for doing this today. This has been so lovely. It's been so much fun to talk to you both. I feel like it was like a cocktail party. The podcast new view drinking from the goblet of truth. That's right exactly exactly. Yeah thank you christian really. This is great really amazed serve a lot of people so today we had a wonderful time speaking with dr creston nath about self compassion particularly the fierce form of self compassion which can be contrasted with more tender forms of self compassion. Which is how people typically think about it. We begin the conversation by talking about fear self compassion as while tender forms of self compassion include a lot of acceptance of different kinds including saaf acceptance fierce. Self compassion leans more into action action. That takes place out in the world in terms of setting clear boundaries or standing up for themselves or action that we take inside of ourselves in terms of looking at behaviors that we might have internally that are no longer serving us and then making the active choice to do something different or maybe pushing back and more aggressive ways against excessively harsh inner critic. One of my major takeaways from the conversation is a point. That kristen made about the balance of more tender and more fierce forms of self compassion. How they really support each other. Tenderness without fear fierceness complacency and fierceness without tenderness can just be excessive aggression and hostility. Am kristen really highlighted throughout the conversation. How our focus here is on gender socialization the roles that people are placed into out in the world and how typically of course with many exceptions people who are in female bodies are socialized into roles that. Lean into the tender forms of south compassion. But they're really taught to avoid punished when they express the fiercer forms of self compassion and likewise people who are in male bodies are taught to lean into the fierce parts of self compassion fiercer more aggressive energies and then when they express themselves and more tender ways well they're often punished for it. Socially kristen and rick got into a really interesting conversation..

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"neff" Discussed on Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson

04:02 min | 3 months ago

"neff" Discussed on Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson

"Is what happens when you fall a little bit short. If your go make a mistake you don't week it. Then that's where everything changes because people are self critical. The way they try to motivate themselves is to shame of criticism. You know harshness thinking that's going to try harder next. Time would impact and by the way it kinda works for instance if you could the parenting literature. Corporal punishment does induce short-term compliance. It causes a lot of problems with that kid. Down the road in terms of you know low self. Esteem import attachment in a mess. Not psychologically something very similar with ourselves so yes. He mainly short-term compliance. Maybe you work a little harder. I mean people. Do get through law school and med school with harsh self criticism. It kind of works in the short term but what it does is it creates performance anxiety. Because you're so afraid if you fail you could beat yourself up. That actually undermines your performance in the long term performance anxiety at least a fear of failure right. Which is what you're talking about in terms of taking office. So i got this goals for yourself but if you're really harsh yourself you're going to not want to take the risks. Do the risky behavior. Because you may fail if people are more willing to take learning risk in this is really key you can learn from your failure. I mean if you if you beat yourself up for failing your full of shame that actually shuts down you ability to learn if it's okay to fail wonderful then you able to learn from failure and therefore you're more willing to pick yourself up and try again at growth line state set off of his good motivational qualities are linked moore's of compassion that ensures of just like one of my goals were for myself. They're actually the same. I mean more like pursuit not so much the goals but but exactly what you're saying yes. The willingness to go for us absolutely wonderful willingness to go go for less fear. It's early the list. Procrastination for instance. Procrastination is one of the things that people do to avoid taking risks That is really interesting. I've never heard anyone say that. Yeah there's a research on. Procrastination helps a lot. Yeah here's the second thing you know my way to my practical question. Second thing it seems to me that him and self compassion and the tender and fierce aspects of compassionate self compassion are not innately gendered gendered they can be applied related a particular gender socialization type issues. They can have particular value for people who've been socialized been structurally treated or mistreated in different ways but the compassion this and the self compassion whether tender fares is not innately. Gendered zach correct. I can't put my hand on my heart and say there are no biological differences. There may be some. Their small may be some small differences having to do with hormones. Right for instance. Oxytocin tens lead to more that nurturing quality and oxytocin interestingly can also lead doug fierce mama bear protection of one's young also female energy so there may be some slight hormonal differences..

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"neff" Discussed on Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson

05:01 min | 3 months ago

"neff" Discussed on Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson

"Women are going to have to be able to own their fierceness. And i'll just tell you in a kind of personal story. One of the reasons. I wrote this book is i. we're talking about gender role socialization not actual gender even gender identity is basically hire raise. So for instance. I was raised as a woman and i'm six gender so i feel that fits me be more young than personality wise right so i've got a lot of fierce young energy and i kind of struggled with anger. You know my hope. My whole life and one of the impetus for this book was understanding. How so men. The research shows very clearly when men get angry. People are fine with it. They believe are more. I think he's passionate when women getting re they they don't like it. They think she's crazy. They believe for less so women are not allowed to be angry and yet anger especially when it's aimed at preventing harm right anger that causes harm to self or others is not useful anger. That's harnessed for good for social justice for standing up you know gives you. Courage is a lot of positive features of anger and the fact that women aren't allowed to get angry is a problem because it really disempowers limit and so part of the reason for me writing this book. I in my own personal journey. I was all kind of ashamed of my angry side and here. I am a mindfulness and compassion teacher. You know and i i still have issues the anger i haven't gotten over it yet and then i started realizing that this this was part of my fierce nature and is my fierce nature. That's largely responsible for a lot of the things i've accomplished in my life and so as i came to terms with not only accepting my anger i didn't like mindfully accepted. I got down and prayed to like thank you. Thank you got us of anger because you give me power you know so really really celebrating that young energy within me but it was a journey and so one of the things..

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GM Has a New Logo

Motor1.com Podcast

06:16 min | 8 months ago

GM Has a New Logo

"Me set this up for everybody. General motors has a new logo. And it's similar to the old logo. It's still a square box. It has the letters g and m on it. it has 'em on it For those on youtube. Mr bruce's just throwing it up here on our screen we can see. It's it's it's it's it's a rebrand right so the debate going on in the motor one dot com universe is whether this is a good thing a bad thing ridiculous thing a terrible move a smart move. Let me give you a little bit. More background I don't really mind this. Rebrand that much but i also come from a marketing background. I had a marketing career. Long before i went time into journalism. So i i think maybe i get a slightly different viewpoint of the rebranding process and why companies tend to do it But john why don't you lead off because that's the reason you're here john is. John is the one that opposes my viewpoint and wait one second here. I get to play referee here. I get the. I'm calling the balls and strikes if someone starts taking too long. I get veto power. Because my thing is i have a completely different opinion. That both of you. That i will express at the end but comes up in. This discussion of re brands is that we've been seeing a lot of them a lot of the just in the past year i am going to share an image with you guys Is right now of three of them. What we say so. Volkswagen simplifies their emblem. Bmw's simplifies their Nissan simplifies their envelope. All of this has happened in the past year and there are other examples that i can pull up. There's maserati there is a mazda. Oh so this has kind of been bubbling up and then this. Gm one came up and chris in john in our motor one chat kind of started going at things and so i wanna give them the opportunity both to air their feelings about this badge and then when they're done i will come in at the end and give my opinion which is barely different from both pairs. So i'm gonna pop up an image of the gm badge. Actually i the they are going to tell you how they feel about the emmett. Mr neff i yield the floor to the distinguished gentleman. Here the image you popped up the gm the new gm logo Bruce was black and white. It's forgiving that is i would say the best version of the logo. Oh their degree. There's the gradient one which i think adds a level of ridiculousness to the logo so For those not viewing on youtube it is this new. Gm logo with a gradient. That goes from aquamarine blue into like the traditional jam. Blew into another blue All right so my views on this level. When i see it my first impression is that it is juvenile. That's the word. I used that chris and i were arguing over in our chat. I say juvenile. Because i think it looks like Like gm created an iphone app and this was the icon for it Or you know this is something a this looks like the The icon for new adobe software next to your photo shop and your illustrator It's trying to look Hi tack and and Not bleeding edge but more like you know. I'm part of the software revolution Which is true. That's happening in cars. Software and computing power is growing exponentially more important Let me take a note of that really quick. You said it's true. Sure sure that is granted and of course another reason that that the juvenile comes to mind as they went from two capital letters Which is proper grammar for It's an acronym general motors. You know and they went to to lower case letters so that has a juvenile edge to it to me This gradient is ridiculous and a first year. Art student would probably create that in photoshop And some people say like it's supposed to evoke a plug. And i guess i guess that's supposed to be negative space of the m and the underline of the m. Maybe i don't know. I i don't really see i don't get that as a strong message. from the logo. Now when i say it's bad. Like when i say it's bad like i don't think it's the worst thing in the world My perspective is that. If if i were if i were running the company. Or if i were an executive in the boardroom that day i would raise my hand and said we need to rethink this. This is not what we wanna do. that said i don't think logo bruins gm. I don't think. I don't th- i actually don't think logos and names of companies have that much power especially if your product is good. Your product is good. It can overcome a logo or or a bad name. And i say that having worked at a couple of websites that had ridiculous bad names and we're still successful because they were just good websites and people look past the name and just you know they thought of the brand of the site as as what the product is and the name took came on Took on a new meaning. And i think this logo could be the same way you know if gm succeeds in its easy. Revolution will probably look at the logo. with you know in a completely different way than we do today when gm's future plans are all promises and vaporware right now

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The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself

Untangle

04:55 min | 8 months ago

The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself

"Welcome to untangle so happy to have you here today. Thank you pitcher. Share happy to be here. The i love your work. You've done such incredible stuff. And i just for our audience. I just think this first paragraph in your book was so interesting it starts like this in this incredibly competitive society of ours. How many of us truly feel good about ourselves. It seems like such a fleeting thing feeling good especially as we need to feel special or above average to feel worthy anything else. Seems like a failure. Tell me a little bit about that. And what led you to really do this. Work on self compassion. Yes so i started practicing self compassion. When i started learning mindfulness actually my last year in graduate school. Uc berkeley a man. I did two years post doctoral. Study with one of the country's leading self esteem racers. And i started really becoming familiar with all the research. Showing the downsides of self esteem. It's not a downside of having high self esteem but of pursuing it trying to get it the shenanigans. We go through trying to go good about ourselves compared to others and so i kind of thought that was practicing self compassion and seeing the incredible benefits my personal life and i just thought this is such a healthier way to think about. How did we late yourself. Positively themselves esteem. so that's kind of really would give me the. You might say that confidence to actually start researching self passion. But what's wrong with self esteem. So many parents today want their children to have self esteem and self competence. Tell us a little bit about the difference between self esteem and self compassion right. So there's absolutely nothing wrong with self esteem feeling. You're a person of worth in value. And we definitely want people have a sense of high worth as opposed to 'having themselves and and that's the wellbeing goes about question really. The problem is how people go about getting their high self esteem so for most people s steam involves a process of social comparison. Right so i mean again. If i said patricia your podcast yet savage. How would you feel. You probably feel good about that. Evaluation right asked this kind of the way. The system is stacked against us. We all have to feel average at least in those areas that are important to us to feel like that's just like baseline minimum self esteem. And so we're always comparing ourselves to others. If someone else does something better than we do. We often feel inadequate comparison. The really big problem with self esteem. as it tends to be contingent in other words we only have self esteem roomy succeed. We lose it when we fail so when things are going well for sure we lacquer cells we feel we have value but what happens when we fail. We blow that big job assignment or get rejected soon as fail ourselves esteemed desserts us which is actually precisely when we need that. Self confidence. The most self compassion. It's not about judging yourself positively. It's not saying. I'm a good person. Or i'm better than other people i most great is just about relating to yourself kindly so there is a sense of self worth inheritance self compassion but self worth comes from just being a glide human being where the like all other flawed human beings as opposed in necessarily succeeding or on being better than others. So you're done research showing the sense of self worth linked to self compassion as much more stable over time than just a simple self-worth judging yourself positively but how did we get in this culture to a place where we are so critical of ourselves and where we need to study something like self compassion where it's not a natural characteristic. I'm not convinced that it's just a western cultural phenomena. I mean i think definitely hard in the west because there's so much pressure to compete and succeed. Same thing in east asian cultures with as a lot of pressure to succeed and compete. But i also think there are some natural reasons while we tend to our jump to solve criticism immediately a mess. Basically that when we feel inadequate in some way or we fail at something we feel threatened and when we feel threatened we naturally have the threat. Defense response right. We want to attack the situation. Get rid of the problems of. You'll safe again. Unfortunately when the problem is ourselves when we attack the threat we actually attack ourselves. So i really do. Think at some level our tendency to to be self-critical is really desire to keep ourselves safe.

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"neff" Discussed on 10% Happier with Dan Harris

10% Happier with Dan Harris

05:30 min | 10 months ago

"neff" Discussed on 10% Happier with Dan Harris

"Nice to sue they you for doing this. I've been wanting to talk to you for a while. Actually because i've actually writing a book about kindness right now and i wanna do a chapter about self compassion. So you are the you are the leading experts so before we get to sell compassion. Though i wanna. I wanna hear how you got interested in meditation in the first place right so <hes>. It was my last year graduate school. I was finishing up my phd at berkeley and basically my life was a mess. I'd gotten out of a divorce. It was a very messy divorce. I was feeling a lot of shame. I'm and i was also feeling a lot of stress not so much about what i finish my phd. But more after seven years of my life. When i get a job the job market was really tight. And so i thought you know. Well i've heard that meditation is is good for stress in berkeley. So right down. The street from me was a meditation group. I was lucky every right down every street. Yeah in berkeley so that you know on every corner but luckily the one. I chose to go to <hes>. The woman leaving the group it was actually a tick not han sanga reason. It's important is because some meditation teachers. Mindfulness bennett teachers wouldn't necessarily talk about self compassion tic time one thing that's unique about him. He's really emphasizes heart qualities of practice. Vietnamese zen master doesn't talk a lot about compassion. Full stop is but he does in particular right and so i started in his tradition <hes>. And the very the very first night. I went the woman talked about having compassion for yourself the needed to actively cultivate compassion for yourself as well as others and so i was also learning mindfulness but because my life was such a mess because i was such a mess you know almost immediately i saw the difference it made when i turn myself with this kind of kind. Warm supportive attitude. I just saw my own experience really made a difference. So and then i started practicing more in the insight meditation tradition. I think because. I am a scientists it. It was a little more compatible with my <hes>. Way of approaching things. But with people like jack cornfield the path with heart. Sharon salzberg loving kindness. So i was always i was always really drawn to the integration of you might say the spaciousness of mindfulness with the heart opening qualities of compassion and i was fortunate because it was their practice from the very beginning and that was about twenty years ago. Let me just jump in and define terms for people. Yes i i just never know. We have a lot of experienced meditators who listen for new folks who are coming every week in once you start to meditate. There are lots of ways to lots away within buddhism. There are. I would say at least two big skills. We're trying to teach. One is mindfulness which is put simply the ability not to be around by your emotions. The other is compassion. Or if you're if you're afraid as. I am of gooey words. You can just re translate that into friendliness. Just exactly cooler. Calmer nicer attitude toward external and internal phenomena can replace would cooler with warmer sure. I mean i know jimmy but fair enough so it sounds like you pivoted from the initial zen tradition into what's known as the insight tradition which is just another form of buddhist meditation. It's actually the school. I've trained in and right stumbled upon teachers like jack cornfield. Sharon salzberg both of whom have written a lot about yes. Mindfulness again just being able to be non-judgmental aware of stuff compassion which is adding in the notch just non-judgmental aware but having a certain element of warmth in the awareness and so so the mindfulness is aimed holding experience in a non judgmental manner so the compassion is aimed holding the experience in a friendly manner and so they have slightly different targets and so both need to be practiced that can actually almost appear to conflict. Sometimes because you accept your experience as it is including the fact that it's painful at the same time that you wishing yourself well and you want to help. And so it almost forms a bit of a paradox. Actually one of the scenes we like to say is we give ourselves compassion not to feel better but because we feel bad so you have to allow the experience to be as it is at the same time as toward the experience. Because you're friendly because you care you do what you can to help. So one paradox is since sara restate that and i'm also thinking that there may be yet. Another paradox probably won paradox. Is you in mindfulness meditation. We are not trying to control anything. We're just trying to see things as they are right. See clearly insight. The clear seeing of whatever's happening so that it doesn't own us right <hes>. but in this case <hes>. All when you add in the compassion layer you're trying to <hes>. Notice that they're suffering there and you're not trying to alleviate it per se you're just sending warmth toward the suffering as it is trying to manipulate your experience because if you use compassion to try to make the pain go away. It's actually just another form of resistance so you have to fully accept the fact that this was painful this hurt. You know mess the mindfulness validating accepting the fact that this is really painful right now

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Kryptonite for the Inner Critic With Kristin Neff

10% Happier with Dan Harris

05:30 min | 10 months ago

Kryptonite for the Inner Critic With Kristin Neff

"Nice to sue they you for doing this. I've been wanting to talk to you for a while. Actually because i've actually writing a book about kindness right now and i wanna do a chapter about self compassion. So you are the you are the leading experts so before we get to sell compassion. Though i wanna. I wanna hear how you got interested in meditation in the first place right so It was my last year graduate school. I was finishing up my phd at berkeley and basically my life was a mess. I'd gotten out of a divorce. It was a very messy divorce. I was feeling a lot of shame. I'm and i was also feeling a lot of stress not so much about what i finish my phd. But more after seven years of my life. When i get a job the job market was really tight. And so i thought you know. Well i've heard that meditation is is good for stress in berkeley. So right down. The street from me was a meditation group. I was lucky every right down every street. Yeah in berkeley so that you know on every corner but luckily the one. I chose to go to The woman leaving the group it was actually a tick not han sanga reason. It's important is because some meditation teachers. Mindfulness bennett teachers wouldn't necessarily talk about self compassion tic time one thing that's unique about him. He's really emphasizes heart qualities of practice. Vietnamese zen master doesn't talk a lot about compassion. Full stop is but he does in particular right and so i started in his tradition And the very the very first night. I went the woman talked about having compassion for yourself the needed to actively cultivate compassion for yourself as well as others and so i was also learning mindfulness but because my life was such a mess because i was such a mess you know almost immediately i saw the difference it made when i turn myself with this kind of kind. Warm supportive attitude. I just saw my own experience really made a difference. So and then i started practicing more in the insight meditation tradition. I think because. I am a scientists it. It was a little more compatible with my Way of approaching things. But with people like jack cornfield the path with heart. Sharon salzberg loving kindness. So i was always i was always really drawn to the integration of you might say the spaciousness of mindfulness with the heart opening qualities of compassion and i was fortunate because it was their practice from the very beginning and that was about twenty years ago. Let me just jump in and define terms for people. Yes i i just never know. We have a lot of experienced meditators who listen for new folks who are coming every week in once you start to meditate. There are lots of ways to lots away within buddhism. There are. I would say at least two big skills. We're trying to teach. One is mindfulness which is put simply the ability not to be around by your emotions. The other is compassion. Or if you're if you're afraid as. I am of gooey words. You can just re translate that into friendliness. Just exactly cooler. Calmer nicer attitude toward external and internal phenomena can replace would cooler with warmer sure. I mean i know jimmy but fair enough so it sounds like you pivoted from the initial zen tradition into what's known as the insight tradition which is just another form of buddhist meditation. It's actually the school. I've trained in and right stumbled upon teachers like jack cornfield. Sharon salzberg both of whom have written a lot about yes. Mindfulness again just being able to be non-judgmental aware of stuff compassion which is adding in the notch just non-judgmental aware but having a certain element of warmth in the awareness and so so the mindfulness is aimed holding experience in a non judgmental manner so the compassion is aimed holding the experience in a friendly manner and so they have slightly different targets and so both need to be practiced that can actually almost appear to conflict. Sometimes because you accept your experience as it is including the fact that it's painful at the same time that you wishing yourself well and you want to help. And so it almost forms a bit of a paradox. Actually one of the scenes we like to say is we give ourselves compassion not to feel better but because we feel bad so you have to allow the experience to be as it is at the same time as toward the experience. Because you're friendly because you care you do what you can to help. So one paradox is since sara restate that and i'm also thinking that there may be yet. Another paradox probably won paradox. Is you in mindfulness meditation. We are not trying to control anything. We're just trying to see things as they are right. See clearly insight. The clear seeing of whatever's happening so that it doesn't own us right but in this case All when you add in the compassion layer you're trying to Notice that they're suffering there and you're not trying to alleviate it per se you're just sending warmth toward the suffering as it is trying to manipulate your experience because if you use compassion to try to make the pain go away. It's actually just another form of resistance so you have to fully accept the fact that this was painful this hurt. You know mess the mindfulness validating accepting the fact that this is really painful right now

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If I Could Bottle Up One Gift For You: On Self-Compassion by Krista O'Reilly-Davi-Digui

Optimal Living Daily

06:43 min | 11 months ago

If I Could Bottle Up One Gift For You: On Self-Compassion by Krista O'Reilly-Davi-Digui

"If i could bottle up one gift for you on self compassion by krista o'reilly davey of life in progress dot ca the best way to ditch self-doubt and walk in confidence. Is the practice self compassion. Self compassion is fundamental to living with purpose health and joy and for sustainable in meaningful growth. Self compassion is also a key tool and learning to quiet. The noise of comparison perfectionism in fear. Let me tell you how. According to kristin neff associate professor in the university of texas at austin department of educational psychology and creator of the self compassion scales widely used in research. Self compassion involves treating oneself with kindness and understanding when facing suffering self kindness seeing ones failures as part of the human condition than feeling isolated common humanity and having a balanced awareness of painful thoughts and emotions. Mindfulness sounds amazing. Right self compassionate self esteem are not the same thing when compared in research self compassion predicted more stable feelings of self worth then self esteem and was less attached to specific outcomes. This is what i mean. When i say i hold things loosely or say open up to joyful possibility self compassion was also linked to less social comparison public self consciousness. Self rumination in anger talk about freedom. We can absolutely be compassionate toward others even when lacking in self compassion. The research bears this out. However i am convinced that to show up fully to life including choosing to receive the fullness of gifts and beauty that life has to offer including the opportunities to stretch and grow and thrive even in the midst of challenges. Self compassion is a must self compassion leads to less self judgment in lower depressive symptoms increases resilience and a sense of capacity and because as a direct and immediate positive on our psycho physiological experience of stress alpha emily's activity heart rate variability and interleukin six response and also leads to improve health behaviors and overall physical health reduction in perceived stress means that people respond to their personal failures struggles in difficult circumstances with kind forgiving attitude. I suspect is also tied to a more hopeful attitude because self compassion also makes way for a growth mindset carol dewick as college professor at stanford university teaches about growth mindset which is tied to neuro plasticity in the understanding that abilities and intelligence can be developed having a growth mindset boost resilience positive emotions and a person's capacity bounce back quickly from struggle failure or loss self compassion and a growth mindset are required for us to become the fullest healthiest versions of ourselves self-improvement. I prefer becoming requires a realistic assessment of who and how we are of both our strengths and limitations. We must get honest about who we are where we are are stories and struggles and our gifting to i. We need to see until the truth about who we are. Then we can take positive action to move closer to who and how we choose to be yet another benefit of practicing self compassion and of a growth mindset is that it helps us live with courage. We become less afraid of failure. We know that failure is normal. Were able to work toward meaningful goals without attaching our worthiness to the outcome. We are less worried about judgment from self or others and his opens the way for us to try experiment. Risk be honest. Do hard things. And so on bernard brown professor at the university of houston and researcher. On the topics of courage vulnerability shame speak to the ordinary courage. A speaking from our hearts and living wholeheartedly. She teaches at courage as a requirement for a living. Our best lives because to do so requires greed wilner ability and even risk. We will get hurt. We will face rejection or challenges and without self compassion. We are unlikely to choose this path. Self compassion also allows us to see differently. It helps us see ourselves as messy and complex rather than broken or in progress as opposed to bad or a failure. It makes room for joyful possibility and all or something instead of an all or nothing perspective. Self compassion is essential for learning to embrace our imperfection or common humanity. Even having a sense of humor about it for making peace with a messiness of life and picking up joy anyway why does walking and self compassion matter to you number. One research demonstrated slightly lower self compassionate and women compared to men but women reported higher compassion for others compared to men rate your level of self compassion from one to ten and take note of your response check in periodically in note any shifts number. Two what are your immediate feelings and thoughts that surface when reading about this topic notice any sensations in your body right down the thoughts. You're having notice if you're feeling resistance or openness to the idea of offering yourself the gift of self compassion number three pull out a notebook and pen or head out for me entering walk as he spend time reflection. Consider examples from your life where you are not being kind to yourself for kind as he like. Think about how life would feel differently if you committed to living with self compassion number four. Why you think learning and practicing self compassion and self kindness matters to you. What are your motivations for growing healing or becoming in this area number five. Consider the roots of your current patterns of thought and behavior was self compassion model to you. What stories you grow believing about yourself key. Think of an event or life experience. They made you believe that treating yourself kindly was wrong or selfish number six. Do you have role models in life. Which draws you to them. List out the characteristics about them you admire and or want to grow in yourself to think about how living from a place of self compassion might help you move closer to the vision of who and how you want to be number seven if there's one area of your life that you most want to change name it and write it down to acknowledge it. Then as we move through the month consider how to apply the information. We're learning to that specific issue or area of your life. May this be a year of gentle growth letting go of what no longer serves in deepening. Your roots of self awareness and self compassion.

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Moving from Amazon to Shopify

Amazing FBA

05:08 min | 1 year ago

Moving from Amazon to Shopify

"Michael, how are you man? I'm well, thank you. Yes sipping hovel of. Lemon and honey and ginger tea. But I pretty good. Yeah. Yeah. Keeping his bank. Very. Well, very. Good. Well, let's jump in today. We've got a hot topic, I think, and that's the topic of. Moving from Amazon to shop affi-. Or from really you know Amazon to any other sales channel but we're GONNA sort out how shop by dozen doesn't help. ECOMMERCE sellers the pros and cons some of the detail. So you ready to jump into this absolutely hot topic definitely. All right let's do well. So I guess the first question that comes to my mind is you know you work with a lot of mazing Amazon sellers in your skincare collective and programs work there in London. What have you heard from them in terms of their fears frustrations concerns by way of migrating or adding you know a different channel away from The stations can sense I mean he took into Amazon Selah. How long have you got about I mean but Most of them concern Amazon rather than. The fear of moving across course. It's. have. So much fair as a resistance on because I was just so much for you and when we bitching Amazon I, guess he's good to remember that the of qualified traffic with buying intense. Of people who have their credit card on file is amazing and the conversion rates she got on Amazon I mean I was looking at somebody the day in the United Nine Percent Convention right and I'm like, wow, that's great. We could be a fifteen, twenty, twenty, five percent. That's kind of eighty I in the context anywhere else on online, right? For. Those understandable reasons in people on in a hurry to get and they like to bitch about it and I guess every. So often the FE Simone Amazon and that's when they consider maybe making the move uninformed to be fair to the tank Muslims have very active people who do a hell of a lot of stuff and a lot of them have got their own websites. Some of them look beautiful designs when the functions he's pretty good. But does only a couple of people I think actually have any serious percentage of their sales going through their own I'm known Amazon sites. So. I guess that tells you a story. Nor. Does what do you think the The kind of the. Underlying real issue is there is there time? Is it there education about the other side's is at their capacity of their team? Our finances? I mean well, what do you think is that actual barrier to success? Is just good question I I organization of the of the work or it could be this very good question not something. I should probably ask people. It sounds like I'm about to pitch them into a shop if I but I. It is probably an important discussion points allies because I do think. On. The one hand, there is a growing awareness and interest amongst more more members of the Maas bonds. In being able to grow you an audience and specifically contacts, you are not as it tends to be sort of add ons. There's not so much the sales channel thing as a traffic strategy things so that or even being able to control things like reviews are a lot of people building a facebook chats audience in order to then get more reviews on Amazon but the sales China's by much. and. It's not so much a traffic channel as sort of a channel of contacts as the traffic for shopping is still very much about Amazon. Channel Four getting reviews. Is. Stuff like e mail I'm likely chapel design make some kind of say assured like the direct to consumer communication stuff they want to be in touch with them personally for email marketing, those kinds of interactions. Sure. Exactly. But on what the resistance is I guess the here's the thing that the growth sucks cash and also as a capital intensive growth model, a business model and I'm great at selling lots of stuff, which means that people constant need to apply that capital two thoughts channel neff while having a capsule spa and especially to drive traffic, which is my perception of the problem with your in websites Isn't that, and then of course, if you're looking in the short-term medium-term cashflow than if you put money into Amazon odds, I'm not tends to convert better than your own site would it's kind of becomes very hard to justify taking the money away from something that is going to produce an immediate cash flow to something as in. This is my conjecture. Sure. It's true or not but I something already she got an Oscar combined with because it's an excellent question. Okay. Yeah. No I mean that's very interesting. What one just response to what you just mentioned on the ads side of course, the mental shift there is. On Amazon if you're doing ams work, you're really spending money to make sales. On CHIAPPA FI. If you do it right I mean through other advertising platforms he really spending money to acquire a customer.

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Tucker Carlson's top writer resigns after secretly posting racist and sexist remarks in online forum

Sean Hannity

00:28 sec | 1 year ago

Tucker Carlson's top writer resigns after secretly posting racist and sexist remarks in online forum

"The top writer for Fox News is Tucker Carlson tonight is stepping down after his history of posting racist remarks for years under a pseudonym was discovered. Blake Neff had been posting to unmonitored rated online forum auto admit making negative comments about Asians, blacks and women. Neff has been the top writer at the popular program for four years before that, he worked at the Daily Caller, a conservative news site cofounded by

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Tucker Carlson writer resigns after racist posts revealed

All Things Considered

01:03 min | 1 year ago

Tucker Carlson writer resigns after racist posts revealed

"A top writer at the Fox News Channel, has resigned after it was revealed that he had written a Siri's of racist and sexist post under a pseudonym. NPR's David Folkenflik reports, Blake Neth wrote for a primetime show hosted by Tucker Carlson. The writer Blake Neff posted about blacks, Asian Americans and women for years, suggesting whites needed to defend themselves against a society increasingly defined by people of color. Among the ways CNN identified him a selfie Neff posted online showed him in the reflection of a window taking the picture. Fox confirmed Neff's resignation but would not comment. Carlson has repeatedly been condemned for flirting with racism and sexism, or according to critics even embodying them. Most recently, Carlson question the patriotism of Senator Tammy Duckworth's a double amputee from her U. S Army days when Iraqi insurgents blasted the helicopter. She was flying out of the sky, she's of Thai descent. Crossing did not come in about Neff. But in a segment Friday night, he complained of an online mob, especially, he said CNN. David Folkenflik. NPR

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Tucker Carlson writer resigns after racist posts revealed

Radiolab

01:06 min | 1 year ago

Tucker Carlson writer resigns after racist posts revealed

"The top writer for Fox News star Tucker Carlson's Primetime Show, has resigned after CNN revealed he'd written a Siri's of racist and sexist posts under a pseudonym. NPR's David Folkenflik reports. The incident brings fresh scrutiny to Carlson over his commentaries. The writer Blake never posted about blacks, Asian Americans and women for years, suggesting whites needed to defend themselves against a society increasingly defined by people of color. Among the way CNN identified him a selfie Neff posted online showed him in the reflection of a window taking the picture. Fox confirmed Neff's resignation but would not comment. Carlson has repeatedly been condemned for flirting with racism and sexism, or according to critics even embodying them. Most recently, Carlson question the patriotism of Senator Tammy Duckworth's a double amputee from her U. S Army days when Iraqi insurgents blasted the helicopter. She was flying out of the sky. Issues of Thai descent. Crossing did not come in about Neff. But in a segment Friday night, he complained of an online mob, especially, he said, CNN. David Folkenflik. NPR NEWS

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Governors who quickly reopened backpedal as virus surges

AP News Radio

00:49 sec | 1 year ago

Governors who quickly reopened backpedal as virus surges

"As a new confirmed virus cases rise in many parts of the nation some governors who were quick to loosen restrictions are backpedaling in Florida governor Ron de Santis still is not mandating masks but he is holding off on letting the state return to near normal where are where we are I mean I'm I'm not taking I didn't say we're going to go on that to the next phase it's the same for Doug Ducey in Arizona expected our numbers will be worse next week and the week following Texas governor Greg Abbott now urgently telling people to stay home and again ordering bars to close Houston bar owner Michael Neff fear that's what would happen after Abbott's fast push to re open saying in a Facebook message last week and led to people flaunting the rules and getting sick you're leaving us to die Sager mag ani Washington

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"neff" Discussed on Habits and Hustle

Habits and Hustle

11:03 min | 1 year ago

"neff" Discussed on Habits and Hustle

"Yes you gotta stay in your lane and part of the genius of Neff was we just may be needs for like four or five years. It was just like we're the BEANIE company there wasn't another beanie company. So every story walked into the rupture like hey like there's ten there's fifteen snowboard companies to choose from. There's fifteen sneaker companies there's one beanie company. I'm surprised that nobody saw the success and decided to duplicate it. Yeah I I mean. After we started there was definitely dedicated. beanie brands now. Since there's been a ton right we were the first like especially for snowboarding warning you lake. That's why I was shocked. Because that's what's on their head winning contest and they're getting interviewed and it's like on their ashes and so I'm so surprised that Nike or a Dr Burton are all these people wouldn't like kind of tap into that right because it's the first thing that you see right visually. Yeah I was shocked to. I mean even when I read that contract off. Here's the dice roll works and it kind of worked and over the time you know put it blew up and then neff. We started expanding and doing watches and socks and apparel backpacks right kind of turned into a lifestyle brand and at that stage. You know the athletes he just got locked in and then the other thing that actually was random they came in pretty heavy on our business was the energy drink thing like red bull monster Rockstar Star. Everyone started coming into action. Sports and I had always owned everyone's head so then all of a sudden these guys wanted on the head so if you look at all the big beverage deals it's all headwear deals so for the first several years was crazy like already kind of blow up blown up and for a lot of years we're making monsters. beanies and Rockstars beanies Neff logo an era so I was trying to get in there as much as I could but you know those guys were spending so much money. Yeah well yeah. Did you have to start paying your friend slash up. Eventually you start wearing like a contract like anybody else would have to. So how many beans is. Is You end up selling Oh God millions and millions and millions and I'll move. I mean yeah we would sell three four million a year right right so we've probably sold thirty million be needs because what is it that year of revenue was like almost half a billion dollars and beanies or what was that. Yeah so we've the company as of now right and I've you know I sold majority of the business about five years years ago and then we sold the whole thing about two and a half years so I'm like not involved in my little baby anymore. which is kind of interesting? Yeah the business is done. You know over half a billion you know in retail sales which is pretty crazy and then when you sold it who did you sound to. Yes yes the first the first GIG we sold it to private Equity Equity Company and then the second when we sold the whole thing. We sold it to a company called Old Matt engine which is just kind of like a licensing company and then how much did you sell it for. Not that I mean good amount. I've got okay. I know you don't WanNa tell By it's all private stuff was it lasts or more than fifty million just lesser more. And I won't ask another question to ask another now. I won't ask. Yea I mean the value of the company was yes probably more than fifty million. Okay okay. That's that's fair enough. Okay okay. Fine so I'll I'll I'll leave you that but normally I would keep on saying I would really but for because this podcast only a certain amount of time. But that's awesome. So were you did before you started Nath. I want to ask you this. Did you have any money. It's even the did you come from a place where they get you. You raise money or you had family money like how did you start in the first place. Yeah because now. You're a huge Jim. That's right at it but yes so neff was awesome. It was you know I had still have an amazing dad. Okay so I was freshman in college. Had the idea right and You know initially was minimal amount of cash right. Several thousand dollars of knows what the the initial startup cost was and then started getting traction and then we started getting like distributors Canada. People that wanted to like buy a Aubenas and I'm like Whoa. I don't have money to like. Buy The beans right so my dad from the beginning was always amazingly supportive and he kind of saw my vision in my drive in my dad ended up you know in the early stages of the business putting some capital right and I know he had some equity in the company and it was just ragged. Right I mean now looking back as my first hurrah on the first business I started to have someone like my dad who I trust. Who was always there giving me the insights and and being a realist on a bunch of stuff was kind of a great advocate so we went in and scaled that business just on our own forever? We didn't rate never raised capital. We never had outside investors And when ever her to step up we had a good relationship with the banks with wells. Fargo help us. You know really scale our business but you know my dad was always there if to helping you grow and then yet we ran a smart tight ship that was a grew every year as profitable business and we ended up doing that until we exit. When is your dad? Is He a business guy guests he. He's a kind of a tax lawyer. Oh okay he was where his real value was is is like setting up the company trademarks. And all that stuff that's really important super valuable for sure so then then you started with all these other big brands right so son bomb the other one that you are a big investor. Yes so son Bom. It's a cool story. I I was just chilling one day and my my phone rang from just a buddy of mine that I went to college with and he said. Hey there's like this guy that lives down the street That Hasn and was a part of this brand called the Sun bum and it's a son care. Small Little Son Care Business and they need money and they're very interested in you helping them out maybe funding putting in some cash. And you've obviously built a brand enough. So they seem also like very like the AH Synergy there right from like surfing son. Yeah there's a lot I think they saw in me that I yeah. They're going in the path of all these serfs gates. No shops ops just built through that channel Ray successfully but yeah some bomb was was incredible. I mean you know at the time they needed. You know some money honey and I ended up funding The business and at that time six or seven years ago I became the second largest shareholder of of Sun. Bum which was us which was awesome and the team did an incredible job operating the business so I didn't operate the business I was just there kind of his investor advised on target and some big retailers right in in that and we just sold that company like seven or eight weeks ago so SC Johnson so that was another kind of life changing moment. That's like a big win again. If you have any losses just win win win win. I mean there's always always there's always little losses here and there right I mean fortunately a lot of them have been wins. But there's been small little all projects or investments put money in and I'm like I'll even you know if the company's going anymore a handful of those and and then there's some ones I've been a part of Just start up stuff kind of outside by kind of specialty that I've maybe put money in and helped do a couple of things but Yeah anything that I've really put time energy into and had focus in my own capital in has turned out pretty well so far so I yeah yeah yeah there you go there you go I think yeah so it because like you said you focus on this that you're good at right. Yeah and then you let the people or you balance it out by finding people or let the people who are good at what they do they do like staying in. Your Lane is super success overall. Yeah I think. Now you're now it's different right because I've been fortunate enough to have a couple. Exits fits and I've advised for amazing companies over the year like Sony target and you know we tell her five below. There's a handful in full of other big ones but so for me I've always been very active and all that I'm doing and have a lot on my plate and and for me I've got to this level now where I just love. idee aiding I love like one of the things I do is. I spent a lot of time at retail. I'm just like a Weirdo. I'll walk around stores in even one of our brands. We launched called Moon. I used to chill and hang out in aisles for me. The oral care I'll was. It's just like the ugliest islander store I just sit there and be like okay. You got these big blue and green big bottles these big plastic things. And then you've got you know the same big red white and blue. See that I've seen ever since I was a kid and I'm kind of just going like compared to like the beauty I'll write Ryan. I'm just going wow like. This doesn't look great. There's not there's no good design here. There's no so for me. I've been able to kind of know what I'm good that which is kind of finding either a great products where I think there's room for something new because anytime you start a company I always think Blake okay. Imagine you're going to have to go sit with the buyer and the buyer's going to say okay. I am the buyer of oral care at target. And they're going to be like my business is great. It's two inches fine. I'm selling a Lotta toothpaste and a lot of mouthwash lot toothbrushes. They really don't need anything more. So you gotta come in with a massive point of difference and convince them that they're going to take a brand off the shelf that's probably performing and put on and take risks so I think I've been fortunate enough and it's just kind of how I am wired. I can kind of see stuff that could be better. And then turn that into product which the oral care wasn't just. The oral care was something that always just looked ugly on your shelf. If your friends.

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Democratic Debate: The Four Candidates Who Stood Out

WSJ What's News

04:17 min | 2 years ago

Democratic Debate: The Four Candidates Who Stood Out

"Our main story this morning last night's presidential debate our executive. Washington editor Gerald cyb closely watched the performance of all ten candidates on ABC News. He says there are four who stood no doubt I up Joe Biden you know the big question of the night was going to be how the vice president would defend his position top of the polls particularly because this was the first occasion in which he would come face to face with his two biggest challengers. Senators Bernie Sanders and Elizabeth Warren much more liberal candidates that he is in the vice president answer that question right at the beginning he was going to be aggressive and challenge them before he could be challenged by them. He did that right at the beginning on healthcare in essentially really said. How are you going to pay for your expensive government paid Medicare for all healthcare programs. How are we going to pay for it. I WanNa hear tonight how that's happened. The senator her has in fact come forward and said he's GonNa pay for it but he gets about halfway there. There's a lot of other things that need to be done and then when he thought they didn't provide inadequate answer to that question in he said we expect honesty and candor from our candidates. The fact of the matter is we're in a situation where if you notice he hadn't answered the question. This is about candor honesty big ideas. What's let's have a big idea. The tax of two percent the senators talking about that raises about three billion dollars. Guess what that leaves you about twenty eight billion dollars short and that's pretty much the way it went all night with Joe Biden being much more aggressive much more on the offense less on defense than he had been in the earlier debates next up. Gerald says Baidoa work had a standout night you know the big question of the night was going to be how the vice president would defend his position on top of the polls particularly because this was the first occasion which he would come face to face with his two biggest challengers. Senators Bernie Sanders and Elizabeth Warren much more liberal candidates that he is and the vice president answer that question right at the beginning he was going to be aggressive and challenge them before he could be challenged by them. He did that right at the beginning on healthcare in essentially said how how are you. GonNa pay for your expensive. Government paid medicare for all healthcare programs. HOW ARE WE GONNA pay for it. I WanNa hear tonight how that's happened. The senator has in fact come forward and said how he's GonNa pay forty guessing about halfway there. There's a lot of other things that need to be done and then when he thought they didn't provide inadequate answer to that question he said we we expect honesty and candor from our candidates. The fact of the matter is we're in a situation where if you notice he hadn't answered the question. This is about candor honesty big ideas. Let's have a big idea idea. The the tax of two percent the senators talking about that raises about three billion dollars. Guess what that leave about twenty eight billion dollars short and that's pretty much the way it went all night with Joe Biden being much more aggressive much more on the offense less on the defense than he had been in the earlier debates. He still got tangled up in some of those typical Joe Biden verbiage problems particularly tried to explain his long history of positions on the wars neff Ghanistan in Iraq but overall I think better performance by him and certainly a more aggressive one and then there's Minnesota Senator Amy Klobuchar. Here's Gerald again. She's been at the back of the field but she emerged. I think a little bit more on on Thursday night as a defender of the moderate position along with Vice President Biden and particularly did that as well on healthcare and did it effectively when she took on Bernie Sanders again saying paying your bill is flawed because it would eliminate private insurance for millions of Americans who want to have private insurance and she did that very bluntly last one. If you guessed asked New Jersey Senator Corey Booker you get a prize. He also has been in the back of the pack but I think he stood out on Thursday night because he was relaxed. He was forceful at times he was humorous. At times he was particularly forceful against president trump and when he addressed the president's trade policy he took him on directly by saying the president. It is making a serious mistake by pursuing trade policy. That's an America alone trade policy and what's Gerald's final verdict but may not have been one of those events. Is that really changed the race in any fundamental way. I think Vice President Biden will emerge secure as the front runners still and the other three candidates. I mentioned better or rock. Amy Charge Cory Booker now at least have a chance to fight their way into that top tier of Democratic

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"neff" Discussed on The Psychology Podcast

The Psychology Podcast

01:44 min | 3 years ago

"neff" Discussed on The Psychology Podcast

"Thinking of the amazing work of christian naff on self compassion one of her facets of self compassion is sort of like communality or yes kind of recognizing that and so seems like maybe with a lot of individuals who are having social high socio that may be some self compassion exercises meditators things would be helpful absolutely no doctor neff was kind enough to to comment for the book and and she she talked about how we're all in this together and you know we're all on this long awkward journey to get absolutely and in so that i like to tell my clients that you know if there's ever been baresi moment you have like i can guarantee that millions of other people have had that same embarassing moment even if you feel like you're the only one you're you're definitely not alone so yes dr nef's definitely onto something for sure hey everyone just wanted to take this moment to thank you all for your support of the podcast over the years it's been a real privilege to do this podcast for all over the past three and a half years if you'd like to further support the podcast i wanted to let you know a few things you can do to help make this podcast a better experience for you all i i really appreciate it if you could subscribe to the psychology podcast i tunes this would help make the show more prominent nineteen and increase our listenership i believe you can subscribe both in your iphone and on your computer second it be great if you could give the show a rating and review an itin i definitely read and appreciate all the reviews another thing you can do is donate some money to the show by going to the ecology podcast dot com and click on the link support the podcast at the bottom of the page that's the psychology podcast dot com.

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"neff" Discussed on Reliable Sources with Brian Stelter

Reliable Sources with Brian Stelter

03:03 min | 3 years ago

"neff" Discussed on Reliable Sources with Brian Stelter

"Yep there's a they're sequel different coming enough in's et at june eat don't feel like you know you i always get cynical bring guaranteed in board to see but they're that not so different even that even you're though not i getting have the what baby you expect at home because the way because you described i loved drastic marble world and its so lineup well so much in how dude many house fifteen are coming out it feels to me they're edging closer to a television model you know with episodes and at the same time we see hulu in neff lakes and other streaming services green lighting lots of miniseries that feel closer to movies right this is the blurring you were talking about as the guy actually right i think there are think the correct way to understand the marvel cinematic universe as they call it is as a is that as a tv series you know i mean what is black black early long hype ossios really long episodes that are spence if yes black panther is the pilot for the black panther series that is what it is for sure we all know there's going to be more movies we all know he gonna cross over with his friends in the event series you know and they all they're all they're all spin off you know dislike spin offs of shows we know that's i'm and you know and they're they're characters you come the love in just like we used to watch frazier every week so we love frazier and niles you know you love you what you love the evanger 's.

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"neff" Discussed on Creative Pursuit | Podcast for Aspiring Creative Entrepreneurs & Freelancers | Hosted by Darin Young | Side Hustle | Business

Creative Pursuit | Podcast for Aspiring Creative Entrepreneurs & Freelancers | Hosted by Darin Young | Side Hustle | Business

04:11 min | 4 years ago

"neff" Discussed on Creative Pursuit | Podcast for Aspiring Creative Entrepreneurs & Freelancers | Hosted by Darin Young | Side Hustle | Business

"I all. I had those before was like i don't think i had anything there. So based on cliffs results in in what. He's found that if you can put more things into your Your title and then from the provider. All those things are searchable. So if you would type in cash flow or fewer type in side-hustle okay. It should come up in the results. So that was that was to me like best of show if you will okay. Yeah i'm looking at your podcast listening now in in the podcast apps. So you have you're referring to the main title y'all and instead of just saying on tornado now you have all the extra things so that's up to one hundred twenty seven characters. It's actually two hundred twenty one hundred twenty seven. Yeah so it's it's a little bit less than twitter like a tweet so appears before my mindset was like not only do this because i wanna make people like it's easier people just it's just one word. It's really easy to remember. Evidently makes it more searchable to spice it up a little bit and it challenges you to really focus on your avatar to think okay. Who am i talking to and really dig into yourself to figure out what you are what you're not and who you're who you're going for so also put underneath there to matt. Neff podcast entrepreneur in mastermind coach a great examples. If you go over to cliff raven crafts page. It will show you all the stuff that he's done and how he's done it so it's definitely heavily inspired from what he did. And so where did you go to change it. Within the official. I guess listing that you submit to so i went to pod. Bean and i did all the editing. They're through or not necessarily me. But just whoever your podcast host and unofficially changes it in all of the apple podcasts. All of other pockets channels as well. Yeah and it took probably a day or so but it it all showed up like this is great and then you make a change in it..

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