35 Burst results for "Nece"
Fully Automated
"nece" Discussed on Fully Automated
"More production of things had never gone away. And so now. I was given this opportunity here to do like really high quality videos as part of that move and so there was a certain attraction there but it was very clear to me that if i have that kind of budget i actually want to. You know you think you think very large. How would you bring topic like this alive. And i've always felt when i'm teaching in all the courses that we know so many experts i mean just if you look in the fields of our topics and i are right so great if you could just quickly brings someone in. Who's an expert on. That would be much better at telling nece than would be would be also for students or learn learners to be able to engage directly. Learn from them so for me. It was like okay i want to. Actually i could really see that Envisage that that that move as a consisting of in a way like like a road movie will we take the course on a road. And so in the end and made this precondition in the negotiations instead. Okay like that needs to be in the budget that with a filmmaker i can travel around the world. spent like forty one days. Go to shooting in thirteen. Different locations in twenty four experts from opposite dynamics analysts from military folks and still on who can of spoke to the different aspects. And try to bring in that that they mentioned that you're not just staring at the screen and there's a studio but you actually get exposed to the different venues people's experts and opinions and so that was the kind of premise for me. I wanted to At that institute oversaw the production. They they always had to kind of tame me. Because i just wanted to have this job as a road movie throughout and that was good possible. But in retrospect that said that that was probably the closest ever got stopped producing something like that media he as a final point on that yet. you know when when the university said okay look. This is normally how this works in terms of budget said week we usually we give. The boxers can have like one course buyout right and the rest can be out of stuff that we need to use it for. But you know. I'm not i'm not stupid. I talk to other colleagues in other faculties and schools here. Who had done moves before and they all told me that one course by out was never enough right. It really did that. And so then i went back to them because i had this very clear sense that the university read. They won't need to do this.
Silent Warrior Chronicles
"nece" Discussed on Silent Warrior Chronicles
"Weekly. Dot obsessive nece has never caught. We jokingly say to each other but we've never gone to that point where we've threatened each other safe if you don't hang out with me or if you don't give me that same attention than this is what's going to happen and we never gotten to that extreme as well of plastering our rooms or whatever with each other's pictures or me grabbing something from your house and bring it over here because it has some of your hair on it or because you wore or something like that that's what i'm talking about craziness..
Welcome To The Music
"nece" Discussed on Welcome To The Music
"Welcome survey where we're excited to. Have you join us site. Thanks for joining us. Thank you for having so a quick question that i had right off the top. You're obviously a musician artist. But you're also known around the community as an organizer as a community organizer I'm i'm curious you what what came first and how does one sort of feed the other. That's a very good question and Honestly that needed answer. But i mean as a child i was always into music. I you know wanted to be a story about that. I wanted to be a A musician and visual artist gonna put my phone on airplane modem. sorry about that And and little very very passionate about social issues and animal rights and so So that was that was part of my childhood. And then by the time i got into university that sort of patterns. You are great feeding ground for connecting to other passionate young people and so i started founded a bunch of different organizing committee. Organizations are usually mostly focused on. Decolonization supporting indigenous. Local indigenous people. Creating conversations between indigenous people are not indigenous. People as well as working on decolonization worked for people of african descent. On every time. I think. I i guess my zealous kind of carried me away and i felt like you know there was no time in life to do superfluous things like the arts because for myself. That would have been an indulgence. I need to just focus on all these problems in the world. And then i think i kind of had a bit of a spiritual awakening that happened after i left university and had my son where i was kind of called back to where my spiritual ancestors the guy who i work with Told me to sing in okay. Well maybe that's the best way to make change in the world. And i think i think that's really I do see that as the two things are inseparably. I see music blades. Made a difference historically and i feel very strong that The work that i we create Is part of that and that. Sometimes you're shifting things more through you can tell people you can sort of talk at people are tell people like you know this. This is right. This is what's wrong but but sometimes that doesn't work you know. We can't always think our way into being a better society. Sometimes we have to feel our way into it and music and the arts is one of the most powerful ways to do that. I must say though congrats on the album. Yeah i we gave. We gave it a listen this past weekend and it actually shocked me because when i got the album. I'm looking at it a minute. I'm going. I don't know what sort of music is on this. Sometimes you can take a look at an album and you can say. I remember decades ago seeing the album bat out of hell by meatloaf in my cousin's house and i looked at that album and i go man. That's a devil music in that album because it's just it's like it's like a beast riding a motorcycle and there's fire and it just looks like it's coming out of hell and and i'm thinking. Wow my big cousins really some heavy heavy music. And then you listen to meatloaf and it's like you know it's melodic. Yeah you know. And so. I'm looking at your home and go i i guess i i have no clue what what i'm going to here and then i started listening to it and i did a double ticket i go. This is amazing stuff you know there was some. I think one of the first song or the first couple of songs. There's some hip hop influence in it. That that i sort of got out of it. This is some an. it's a mix it's very click and it was just amazing to sit down and listen to so congrats on that and thanks for making a great album. Thank you so much. That means a lot like i can feel the genuine distant what you're saying it's really cool to get people's reactions to it. You never really know you know. It's an artist what we hope that people are going to enjoy it and also you know. Enjoy the ride at field with is not to all over the place. It's really cool to hear that that that enjoyed that eclectic. Nece 'cause i level different types of music. So i don't like it doesn't were myself into one box Yeah i wouldn't want to do that. I wouldn't wanna listen to a playlist. It's just like one type of music. So i know you've started. I know you started working or rejected. I think it would be amazing to be able to play with your site. And you're playing with your son in the band. Empires part of the group. How did not sleep for this. But even the progressional in music. How did how did that influence working with your child. May i got goosebumps thinking about that. How did that influence the sound in the field. The message like if you i mean speaking of this sort of history of that you know at the beginning my very first album in two thousand nine eleven odes just like sort of sampling. His voice there if you listen to hear him there's a five year old or something. They're just cute. You know you're putting your kid on And then you know but you know he's growing up in a musical family both my family and his his father's was reciprocated. But he's also a musician surrounded by abused and so yeah it's part of him and it was just natural for playing music with us And again like for me. I'm not very. I don't towards like categories like like there's fluidity in how i see life and how i tried to do things and so yeah. My son is part of my life by utilizing musician. You work from home so it's just like it's all just living you know. And he's there he's a part of it and then with this project like all the time in the past it was more him sort of being there and being part of what i was doing our music ourselves teenage during his his own thing right lake. He's into the medal chime. Not so much into right. But he's also yeah he's into an array of of sounds and he's getting into production so he's like he's teaching himself to produce types keys as well and So i thought you know. I'll give him a chance. Let him let him see what he can do. On on this For some of this production up to the clerkship for this this project like i used to my my very first project. I did some production. But then i decided i wanted to shift away. Like i like wanting spend less time with computers So it's like. I i i i do still do some but i. I didn't want to invest my time in becoming a producer. I'm really mastering the equipment. In that way. I wanted to focus on other aspects. And so it's just been this really cool thing. He's developed that passion And then we can collaborate together. Is he hasn't really awesome ideas you know again. He's into hip hop into rock. And so which way was like perfect sort of fusion of the things that he's into and i'm too and that was one of the ones we did together as well as listen child which is like he was just messing around with the. I just came in started singing and being able to just to jam Your your kid your family. It's a lot of fun and what you're seeing is. That next album is going to be a rock album elemental album. You're so funny that you said that literally trying to play a bunch of metal things like would you cover this. Could you cover this mom. Slake oh my god knows we might. You know he's working on it so now you put your your vote for that and we'll see might happen all right there we go. I look forward to that. We have to get your son on the podcast soon and talk about that Was was there pressure to have your son become involved in music or was that something that happened after spending time with with you and his dad definitely not pressure. I mean. I do believe it's just like any any. We do. put some kind of pressure..
Infinite Rewind
"nece" Discussed on Infinite Rewind
"You know altered the direction of music's sexual adult content throughout do you feel like it's had no influence. Do you feel like it's actually made music more raunchy more explicit or do you feel like it's whatever if it was created or not created wouldn't have made a deal essentially. How did that sticker. How does that sticker influence be explicit content in music. I mean it was a huge. I didn't know that this out in contributed to that in that way but I don't know much of a difference because the raunchy nece the you know. The vulgar in music I know at the time early nineties late eighties in in hip hop was a huge deal with like to shorten things like that because the raunchiest music existed. I guess this just made it so that before you purchase a now you you kind of knew what you were getting into and so i don't. I don't know necessarily contributed to magnifying people's raunchy. Nece because it going to go down those rabbit holes either way. I think there was. There was no containment current. At all. But i will say before passive baton. I think that fucking that parental advisory sticker just makes any image look cooler. I remember when i was designing our I think it was read. Perhaps or maybe the cover art for cigarettes yeah. It didn't look official until out added the parental. I was like it's it's weird like the psychological things thing that that does to just an image because that almost makes it you see an image with the parental advisory and you instantly know music and it's going to be content that's adult stuff so you know who knows maybe in some ways it contributes to the i guess the appeal of what you're about to listen to agree. I think that it's it's more shape did for for the listener for the customer Because i think music is music. I don't think. I don't think it's like jeans. The artist that all the artists. Just do what they want anyways So yeah but yeah. It's funny that i grew up. Can i buy this album. Can't i need my cousin to come here and get it for me. Because i can't walk. I'm not gonna ask my mom to buy this album for me. She'll never buy it for me. Just the parental advisory sticker is definitely a. It's stuck with me and yet men's school it on her own chance like is also. Let me ask you guys. You think of the parental advisory sticker which the very first out in that comes to mind the.
Spark My Muse
"nece" Discussed on Spark My Muse
"Must slow down and attend to this reality. We care more for what hurry can bring us than the slow way of. Jesus we do not want to commit ourselves to the patient. Seeing of others to communing with god and asking with god requires or to a gentle attention to ourselves. When we are sad. angry were confused. Hurry feels safer. I think actually makes a really good point if we're hurrying if we stay busy or distracted we don't get a chance to settle down and let our emotions and our thoughts and our anxieties catch up with us. We can stay a moving target for those things when we settled down. Those doubts and those anxieties can creep back in. We know the feeling and we don't like it. Should we ever get to the point where we can and do slow down. We can find god. And god's presence in those moments. Jesus opens his arms to us. Jesus paid attention to people who are in bad situations who are feeling lonely. Sick outcast distressed. He slowed way down. And as ashley says throughout the book jesus was interrupt able and of course that is what jesus models for us to be like in our life. If we're so hurried to escape our own discomforts we are also to hurry to be interrupt able and see other people to there are many many good points that actually brings out in this book. And i'm afraid a little bit that the people who need to read this book the most will be to hurry to stop and read it if you related all to being too hurried and you know a couple of other people who tend to be in a hurry and quite busy to the challenge really is to grab a couple of your friends people that you know and really take the challenge to slow way down and do this book together. Learn from ashley. Learned from the ways of jesus in chapter ten ashley includes a very moving piece. That is very painful. Part of her life in chapter ten she talks about her miscarriage and the pain and the loneliness and the grief that caused. And i'm sure that was a very difficult chapter two right but because she includes it a lot of us can read that chapter and really see our own pain and our own loneliness in her words and feel the comfort of god through that. I went back to the discussion questions. And i found one that i thought i would interact with here. It's discussion question. Fourteen quote jesus is the spacious place itself unquote from page one. Oh nine ashley asked. How have you experienced this. I think this is a really interesting question. How have i experienced the spacious place itself. In jesus. And i thought about this and i suppose i could come up with a few different answers probably but i think that one of the most beautiful places to experience the space of jesus is also to experience the grace of jesus and in times of taking communion and the broken of christ symbolized in the sacraments of that bred to me. That is the invitation to experience. Jesus as the open body the place we can gather that has plenty of space and grace for us. Jesus invites us into that vulnerability of his broken nece for us and the self defence nature of it to make us whole. And isn't that really what we offer other people when we slow down and reveal ourselves to them we may let them see something of us that might not be hold. That might be broken or wounded and in doing that. We have enough space for them and we can invite them into knowing a little more about a so that they can feel seen and heard and loved and they can know that we empathize. We feel with them. We feel what they feel and are broken. Nece actually unifies us a makes a stronger together. So jesus is a spacious place in a spiritual way that ties all of life together. I'm not speaking about the spiritual and the materialists two different things here. I'm speaking of the spiritual as this governing. Reality that includes material and communion reminds us of this reality. A sacrament is something physical that reminds us of something unseen so i would recommend a spacious life trading hustle and hurry for the goodness of limits by ashley hills. And i'll be leaving a link to this book. Some extras and show notes at patriotic dot com ford slash spark my muse. I would appreciate your contributions to spark crime us to help this program. Keep going week after week. This is listener supported. Any contributions or gifts are very appreciated. I'm looking to get one hundred more ten dollar contributors by the end of the year if you haven't already pick up. The wildland within cultivating wholeness through spiritual practices. That's the book i've written. It covers the difficult terrain that we all experience in our lives. This inner terrain. That has pain in it. That has our ambitions joys are hopes dreams her experiences and it's a great companion for your life and also wonderful group study until next time i wish you joy and peace. Thank you for listening..
Reinvention Radio
"nece" Discussed on Reinvention Radio
"It's the ability to engineer. Transform transformational experiences. Yeah i look at everything through that lens now. That's really really powerful. And so eve accomplished a lot in your career One could argue that you could probably just chill and spend time with your kids and your grandkids and not keep pushing his heart as you do what. What really then keeps your fire burning y. Why keep pushing forward. It's interesting that. I had a conversation similar to this a couple years ago with one of my peers in the industry and we were both speaking at a conference and it was in late november so we were both finishing up that current year. We both had record years and she said you know. I'm asking myself the question. How much is enough you know. When do i need to stop. And just be thankful for what i haven't not press on. And so then. She said she said to me she said. When will that be for you. And i said i hope to god never and here's why it's not because i need more stuff but it's because the bigger challenge when they're discomfort zone creates growth. So if i'm working out with my trainer in the morning and he's pushing me. Harder always does nece pushes me harder than i think. I can push myself or definitely harder than i would push myself. That's what creates the growth. And that's the thing. I love about business. Why hate the word retirement. While i will never retire. I'm gonna die with my boots on. Because i wanna grow you know i think that's the very essence of life when you stop growing. You die even if it takes a few years for your body to catch up. Yeah that's a great point. And so to that end. I know that you you're strong. Proponent of of what you and many others call big thinking in your mind what what does it take to be a big thinker. And then how do you kinda real that in where you want to change the world you wanna do all these amazing things but you still have to do something right here and right now keep so. Can you talk to the power. Big thinking minute. Sure so when. I think about goal setting and i've got a course called five days to your best forever. This my biggest course and it's all about about goal setting and when people set their goals It's it's interesting to see the patterns fall into especially corporate people because typically they'll set their goals inside the comfort zone. You know they don't wanna get in trouble if they miss a goal and so they'll dial it up just enough to show some improvement but not so much that it makes them uncomfortable as the definition of the the comfort zone and inside of the comfort zone you know how to achieve that growth. You're confident that you can get it. There's no.
Messy Jesus Business
"nece" Discussed on Messy Jesus Business
"Someone else's expressing emotion even if their emotion and their expression is totally appropriate. And yeah so so. That's that's part of it too. That that i think i'm learning about and i'm just trying to recognize that in the messy. Nece i might stumble and i might fail and i might mess up and i might be super awkward and as long as my banner over my head doesn't say like an anti-racist ally but instead is more like i'm trying really trying here right and i have like then than maybe i'm showing up in a way that's authentic and proper and is an hopefully helping create some some places of of equity inclusion in our church and in our world more broadly. I think that's a very good point gap to say. You know i'm trying. We're all trying. We're that's all we can do. But the folks who say i am anti-racist or i am ally as if they've achieved they've reached the pinnacle all they can wait should earn at goldstar. There's a a lack of humility. In that i think is an obstacle. Yeah i think humility is he really. Yeah over and over relearn we change we grow. We stumbled admit that we're weak and broken that so much. A part of who we are as catholic rates. You'd think that that would be second nature. It's it's not. I think another thing that really needs to to shift in some way. You know when i reflect back on the fact that i've gone to catholic schools my whole life except for my undergraduate experience and i recognize and this. I didn't recognize this until i was older. That all of the injustices that have happened. Because of the church rate when i think about the fact that the slaveholding history of the church was not something that i learned in school. I read it. I heard it as an adult outside of school. I think that we need to come to terms with our history as well and admit the past wrongs..
Discerning Hearts - Catholic Podcasts
"nece" Discussed on Discerning Hearts - Catholic Podcasts
"Rationality. It skips all the years. And you're put exactly in the same place that you were at that time when it was so difficult and painful and it bypasses all rationality you. You have no idea where it came from. It's out of all proportion to the actual event. And that's exactly what happened to me. And i remember reading that. Want omar word. That's exactly that's exactly. What happened to me and i was sitting there trying to identify. When was it that this began this depression. This all of this. Yuck that was going on with me and how you know that fight and all that. When did all this begin. An it was the funeral in that hotel room with my dad. You could have been somebody but you weren't and immediately. I realized what it was. And i was so overtaken by god's goodness that he would put his finger right on it and i just dissolved in this just just amazement and pain and and just oh i mean can you tell it was. It was amazing. It was amazing that he brought that answer to me. Historical emotions are a thing. And so if you're one of those people that has had trauma in your life and you can't figure out why you can't get past this behavior. Look at historical emotions. And that's why. I say when you have these eruptions for me was anger that led to self-medication because of all the behavior that came out of that anger. You know and i was so ashamed of it. Then i got depressing than i had self medicate but a lot of times you'll have these eruptions of emotion and stuff them. You'll stuff them with food. You'll stuff on with sugar. You'll stuff on with wine. You'll stuff them with parties. You'll stuff i'm with porn. You know whatever you'll stuff all of that emotion but stop sin not tail. God what you're feeling and look and see if there's a an historical emotion under that because if there is there's a wound there that the holy spirit is using this pop quiz to help you identify. And i can't tell you the relief and i am so thankful for it to this day. That was the moment when everything really started to turn for me. I started to realize. I'm crazy. I'm i am wounded. And i was embarrassed by that but i am and this is the of all of my anger. My anger came out with my husband because of some silly little thing but it was. It was the kind of offense that my dad would have done to me. And my husband didn't mean it in the way that my dad always had. But do you see how it's irrational my husband. Loves me and i knew he loved me and i knew he didn't do it to me in the way or for the purpose that my dad would have done something similar but it felt the same. It felt the same. Because i had felt that way my whole life and when it happened i just exploded with this rage. Why because there was a volcano of pain in there that had never been acknowledged and it was the most beautiful gift i think one of the most beautiful gifts that got ever gave me because it set me on the path to to finding the answers learning how to get self-control learning what the roots were. And you talk about peace. I had a piece from that point on. I knew i was going to win this battle. I was gonna win the battle over my anger and wounded nece. Because jesus was gonna help me now. I'm here to tell you that. Jesus is going to help you to honey. And that's why you're here so look for those historical emotions and back to this idea of a battle. The battle was not with my father. The battle was not with my husband. The battle was not with any of that. The battle was in me. The battle was the wounded nece and the sin so your battle is not the people through whom the wounded nece continues to come. The battle is in you. it's in your sin. It's in the wounded ness under the sand. That's where the battle is. And that's why the enemy tries to keep you distracted by anxiety and worry and these people and these circumstances he won't you to be focusing on that because that's not the battle. You're fighting the wrong fight. The fight is not. it wasn't being right with my husband. It wasn't being right with my father. It wasn't any of that. It was this wounded nece in me that was causing all kinds of other issues. And that's what i'm asking you to consider. Could this be a root of your anxiety. And i imagine that it probably is so. We must take the authority that jesus has granted us through his death and resurrection. We take it by focusing on the proper battle. It's not those people who offend us. It's not the people who provoke us. It's not the circumstances that provoke us. It is the battle in us overseeing and the wounded nece under it. That is the true battle. And that's the one that the enemy does not want you looking at. Because he does not want you working on that at all and he will do everything in his power to get in your way so that you won't work on it. He won't you to stay in anxiety because you're ineffective as a christian your ineffective as a parent you're ineffective in every single area because you can't be who you truly are and that's the real attack. The real attack is on your dignity as a human being in this anxiety. He's strangling you with this anxiety to keep you from fighting the true battle which is in this sin and wounded. Nece idea okay. So we're fighting the right battle. We're taking a rightful authority. Because god has given us the authority to stop sending now. I know that that is a radical radical idea but you do not have to spin you do not have to see if you continue to see and you are choosing to see in. That is the truth that the bible teaches if you continue in a habit of it's because you're choosing it and if you are choosing it then fine but admitted it. Stop pretending that you're not choosing it because you are. He wants us to acknowledge where we are so that he can help us. He'll he wants us to take authority in the right battle. He wants us to walk in our dignity. and christ. Let me tell you the last part of that story. So once i realized that it was that that emotion went back so far and it was so deep and i was like holy moly my soul is like an abyss lord and not just mine but every human soul it is too deep for us to ever be able to plumb the depths so only god can do this work for us. Which is why we're doing this show. And while you're while we're working in this area. It is too complicated for us to figure out but god can do it. He knows it he sees it and he will help us and one of the ways immediately that he helped me was the same time. I was doing the study on wellness that taught me about historical emotions. I was also teaching a study on something completely. I don't even know what it was. But i was studying in. Corinthians and in second corinthians chapter six verse in verse fifteen says what accord has christ with delile. Now you followed me for any any amount of time or read my book fearless than you. You've heard the story and and if you've read unleashed you probably heard the story of my anger and all that stuff but a lot of your new and you don't know anything about me so this is going to be new to you. You're gonna love this in in. Second corinthians six fifteen. What accord has christ with. Or what communion has christ with below and i was like what is belie so i go look it up and it turns out that belie. Oil is a combination of two hebrew words belly. And y'all and it means without worth it means worthless and what i realized is it later. Later in usage and in this particular verse. It's a proper name for satan. Satan is worthless. And what does he do. He attacks your dignity as a as a child of god by making you think and feel that you're worthless through the skin that you commit and the seven habits that you have and the wounded ness that you carry all of that stuff. He he uses that as an attack on our dignity and he makes us feel and think we're worthless and yet it is he who is worthless the accuser. Dear one is accusing you of the thing. He is so. Do not listen to that. Attack is not true it is a lie from the of hale is a lie from the pit of hell on the the absolute dignity of your person hood in god. You're maintenace you're being this. Your is nece. you cannot be separated from the love of god. And we're gonna talk about this next week and the next in the coming weeks. I cannot wait to get into this. But there's no way you can possibly be separated from the love of god that's a real actual practical teaching. I cannot wait to teach it to you but this is the battle. Walk in your dignity. Refused to listen to that attack. But your hand up and say i reject that in the name of jesus i am a child of god and if you have to say it one hundred times than you say it and i'm gonna give you in the next shows tools that you can steep yourself in that love god and you can begin to feel it if you've never felt it so many people that i do one on one spiritual consultations with have never felt god's love and deer one. How can you give god's love to anybody if you have never received it. So i'm gonna you those tools and i cannot wait but there is no condemnation. The bible says for those who are in. Christ you are his child. You could never be worthless and you are under attack when you feel that so name it and claim it. I am a child of god and he loves me. And i am on my way to heaven by the power.
Reason Podcast
"nece" Discussed on Reason Podcast
"Obu shaw who writes in parts. Hey y'all thank you for producing one of the few podcasts. I care to listen to what i like to hear. And for being some of my best friends in this closed off world why along while i am a longtime listener magazine subscriber general consumer of all things reason again love to hear that i found myself disheartened while scrolling the website tonight. It's ninety five to five ratio of negative to positive stories in there people. Megan that's nineteen to one. You could just like there's a common. I if i'm being chattering. She goes on the podcast. Bring me so much joy. I shall never eat them. Don't know what that means but the articles were all the positive stories. Surely there's something happening today. That does not suck. Maybe a mosh moved closer to twenty twenty. Four or maybe a libertarian county level government position somewhere. Anybody on the team got a new puppy something. Good somewhere please. The contrast is so stark. I wonder as the casual nature of the podcast. Simply allow your collective plucky. Nece your that nick plucky nece to calm my nerves or maybe. The website reflects more unvarnished reality. That's just an absolute that it is right now. Just an absolute shit. Time to libertarian. A good news only filter for hard days would be lovely. Catherine help us neil stevenson Fan out yeah i am. I would like there to be more good news to and i actually as matt so often mentions as the person in charge of all the things at the reason. I am always trying to find ways to lean into good news but yeah it's tough. It's tough minute. I'm not gonna lie. I'm i'm doing a lot of media. Consumption that is essentially self soothing in the face of the news these days like i watched outlander this weekend. You guys. that's not so just to your show now just a chunk of it but the the The fact that. I'm like not even willing to brave the possibility of being disappointed by a new junkie science fiction book and need to go. There means that. I have a lot of sympathy with our letter writer. I will note today on the main page. We have a great reason video about our one of our favorite subject george huts. Who is always out here trying to build self driving cars out of robots that are from the jetsons who is gonna do it for only like fifty bucks in his garage Tech news like repurposing a jewel. It's powered by mango. Jewel pods So that's a problem because those are illegal now. Oh no it's bad news again. Yes so tech. News tech news my solace in these dark times. And so i would recommend to you dear writer both The reason tv output which does tend toward the more optimistic of our our various platforms. And also to say that yeah. There's just a lot of bad news right now. Unfortunately i do not consider libertarian. Party people winning dogcatcher elections to be like enough good enough news to counterbalance all the bad news..
Marsha's Plate: Black Trans Podcast
"nece" Discussed on Marsha's Plate: Black Trans Podcast
"My trans nece is not the the the end. All be off who i am. But it's such a powerful component that you have to know it for you to understand who i am. You've i'm saying it's not the only thing that i am but it's it's such a powerful component is like if i'm trying to make chicken and dumplings and i take the dumplings out beat you got chicken soup like you had to have the numbers in there if you're if you're having good chicken and lands and so for me you have to have for you to understand who i am as person you have to have my blackness. My translates my every all these components of who i am and it's important so if i'm if i'm racing that part of me like my friends at work i don't talk about my work at all so none which is really know me. I'm not cooling under them bitches. Yacht only focus. I was cool with who i am and chance she said i'm saying down so you laugh catherine. Yeah but we weren't friends yeah. I can't consider people friends. You don't know my op trans. You remember my fucking friend and you can't be my friend. You can't be a non trans. I don't know like we associates. Yes we can. Hang out. But i will never considered a person who doesn't or who i have to hide that. I'm trans my friend. Because what do i have to hide it from you for because if you treat me differently you not my fucking friend. Say when you think about on the outside wade transmit with. I'm sorry with men who are attracted to trans women like if your friends can know that you attracted to trans women and they'll do judge you for it. Are they really a friend. Sign right there. There was a guy that said that he he was still from his best friends and he finally recently. He said as is about what so happy. That is interesting. I think is it more so probably happens. Thankful say more some vaccine alive with transmit saying they all tell they guy friends because they they'd be afraid. I'm pretty sure they might be afraid. They might deal with some balance out but was bihar me. Navigating friendships spill The desmond trying to be cool and stuff and they're not all you know now how to come about like an let the know well. Maybe they're just close friends like they can be. You can be cool with a person. would i tell ya not. But i'm not gonna throw the friend label on them. Fuck it. they don't on mitee. That's like we cool like. Oh yeah. oh he doesn't homeboy or whatever we we cool. But i'm not gonna say he's my friend like i'm never going to be like. Oh that's my lay the bar or the and you see off their yahoo zero we cool. I might call you a home. Like a homeboy. 'cause that's not what a friend is like a associate like. That's my be at the barbershop. Like that's not. Homeboy is not my friend. My neighbor if i know his name. That's my homeboy. He could get my homeboy to sell wheat. Or you're going to say and it's gonna be like that it ain't going to be my friend. I ran labor with somebody different for me than knows you. Yeah i feel the same way. I don't know i'm when i was when i was that was only like very lonely life. She and i got my life when i used to be stopping in people now eight. I allowed that she was fine. Didn't spaces in get all the accolades in play the trade that you know it was fine. It was also very vain. Very scary. Because i kept thinking at any moment any moment if i have to proves massive may fail. It's going to be a fucking gang beggar to trade. Don't mind as you pull up. They don't mind say right now for the everybody shell. Abc or take you to the bag. drop long gun poi- and i never went. I always but they've got outnumber those situations like beach. Any moment it could reach. Anything could be turned and i could possibly get blackout. I remember always kind of like my escape routes and allied. What i could do in order to get out situations when i was putting sich. Colossal the excel also. Not another problem that i and this may be only because of experiences that i have been involved in my gay mom. Her husband killed himself and because she was styles when somebody's shadily because it was a suicide somebody who knew her thi in her past told his family her team and because she was stealth and now he passed away. The family is thinking. Oh he must have found out that he married a trans And canton sal and killed himself because when you think about the boy just a boy chilled a raila soul. Just they got brought to justice. He's gonna kill himself before he murdered her to his girlfriend over the phone so they do that right. That's a possibility always. And so in that situation i was like this is what steps gets you. Because nobody knew that he already knew. Rt idea. Because i was a close friend ended with har- translates. He knew he married her knowing her. She was trans he. He knew she was trans when they first married but because how they live nobody else knew nobody else knew her tea and so but because nobody else knew they can come up with all these lies assumptions about you know oh. He didn't know she was tricked. He could never have known that she was trans. He would. I know my brother. He's not like that. That's that's literally what they were saying. Because he himself he came they came. Don't ask them for right because he passed came so they have to come up with what would make him killer cell you saying what is so extreme in his life that would make him killer.
National Prayer Chapel, Pilgrim's Progress
"nece" Discussed on National Prayer Chapel, Pilgrim's Progress
"Don't give way don't take the eugenics shot stand firm if you have already don't take any more stand by faith in jesus christ and fight the good fight of faith with weapons of weapons of the spirit prayer crying out to the lord standing by faith. Rebuking the darkness. That's what we're called to do to bear witness strong witness with bold words of of loyalty and love for jesus christ inviting others to accept and also stand with us see the joy of scripture. Is that it points our way. Through the desert it directs our steps through the desert. Let me read more. Do not be idolaters as some of them were idolaters. Someone who puts anybody or anything ahead. Of jesus christ isn't idolatry do not be idolaters as some of them were as it is written. The people sat down to eat and drink. And then they got up to indulge peg pagan revelry that is sexual and cleanness we should not commit sexual immorality. Some them did and in one day twenty. Three thousand of them died. We should not test. The lord of some of them did and were killed by snakes and do not grumble a some of them did and were killed by the destroying angel. These things happen to them as examples and were written down as warnings for us on whom the fulfillment of the ages has come. So if you're think you're standing firm be careful that you don't fall. No temptation has seized you except what is common demand and god is faithful. He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear but when you are tempted he will also provide a way out so you can stand up under it therefore my dear friends flee from my dollar tree flee my friends from the entertainment of the world flee my friends from the lust of your heart for lifestyle and money flee my friends from pleasing the world and the people of the world. I speak to sensible people judge for yourselves. What i say is not the cup of thanksgiving for which we give. Thanks participation in the blood of christ and is not the bread. We break a participation in the body of christ because there's one loaf we who are many are one body where we all partake of the one loaf burst twenty. The sacrifices of pagans are offered to demons not to god. I do not want you to be participants with demons. I wanna stop many of you. Call yourselves christians. Today are participants with demons. You're either oppressed by them. And your steps are ordered by your feelings or you are entertained by unclean. Nece you are simply creating for yourself in this world in this wilderness. The most comfortable place you can create for you and your family living like one of those desert dwellers who are not travelers sisters. I am a traveller. Build a house in the desert in the wilderness in the world. My house is jesus. Christ now i live in a house in a townhouse but i acknowledge that i am a an alien and a stranger here and this is not my true home my stuff my refrigerator. My my toaster oven my my my stove by air conditioner my doors. My my carpets. All of that is just stuff. It has to be burned. It's all just the temporary. Can't gear that. I have with me for my home is not in this wilderness. And i'm not going to be satisfied with some comfortable little cave in this place where i can hunker down and enjoy the entertainment of the wilderness savages. And i'm going to be very straight with you. We currently have demonic power savages of the demonte grill taken over many elements of our united.
Joseyphina's World
Pandemic Lockdown: A Boy Toys Dilemma
"Twenty nineteen was robbie's best year yet while people grumbled wishing that the year passed quickly. So they could see what twenty twenty held for them. It was his turnaround here. He was a struggling graduate from a humble home. Whose only source of income came from the occasional modeling gigs gut for either commercial shoots or fashion. Runway shows ravi taken to drinking to cope with a feeling of disappointment which had become his constant companion on his last day in the dark tunnel which was his life. It started just like any other his father calling him a bump with the mornings greetings. His mother giving him the sympathetic look and defending him as a preamble to fight. That had been stewing between the couple for days. Ravi went over to a friend's place where they're wild away. The time playing video games checking out the snaps and insta- stories of hot checks after sharing a meal of red read fried plantain and beans from the neighborhood's best food join play slipped a greater part of the afternoon away around five pm robbie's friend. Leslie had a phone call. By the time the call ended he was beaming. My bb just called going to the club. Tonight i'll definitely get enough to see me through the week. Leslie said excitedly rubbing his palms together your bb which one. I thought your girlfriend dumped you. Because you're broke nece exceeded your cuteness but you see. God works in mysterious ways through the heartbreak. I met a wonderful well established woman who was willing to nurse me back with love and of course money. you mean you have a sugar mummy. Yes the city is brimming with them. You see all these big women in their big cars. Were sunglasses everywhere. Because they don't want you to see their faces. They're all looking for some young male vitality to pump some fun into their prison like. mary lives. come to think of it. Why don't you come along with me to the club. My bb can hook you up with one and you wouldn't have to worry about what to eat anymore. Is that why you have stopped looking for work. You're being spoon fed by a married woman. Drop that self-righteous tone before. I reconsider my offer to take you with me. Fake it till you make it right. You gotta do what you gotta do before you get your big break. Then when the time comes when you're being interviewed about your journey to success you can come up with that rags to riches story that people like to gamble on our media. Are you coming. I guess there's no harm in trying right.
Unexplained Mysteries
Living Statues: The Sleeping Pandemic
"On a cold winter morning in nineteen eighteen english dr. Aj hall made a house call in london. His new patient was a young boy who didn't have any visible illness in fact to doctor hall there didn't seem to be anything wrong with child at all but the boy complained that he was constantly exhausted and he had fevers that lasted for weeks. He grew physically weaker each day. While other children ran jumped and played. He could hardly lift himself out of bed with such broad symptoms. Doctor hall couldn't make an accurate diagnosis within a few days of his visit. The boy's condition deteriorated quickly. He started slurring his words and the boy wasn't the only case of this strange disease. There were many many more over the next few weeks. Doctor hall visited several other patients experiencing exhaustion and muscle weakness. Some slept for days on end others suffered from mania and delirious nece still others simply up and died without any known cause many patients fell into a catatonic state. Unable to move or communicate. They became trapped inside their bodies for all intents and purposes living statues doctor hall had no idea what he was dealing with but he knew it was spreading soon reports of immobile unresponsive patients cropped up all over the world thousands of people became infected. This wasn't an isolated mystery illness. It was a pandemic and there was no cure.
Food for Thought
What is the Metabolism?
"What is the metabolism. Because it isn't just what we in. How it goes out is it. No it's it's the utilization of the energy substrates so from food we break these weak chemical bonds down and we utilize these on an atomic level of the electrons and protons and neutrons and they facilitate the energy in the cell for basic function for reading the dna. For translating this transcribing nece from enzymatic reactions For making neurotransmitters for building the cell membrane for cholesterol for everything basically so visit huge demont and that is where metabolism is the utilization of energy and the import of that is aw basil. Metro rates is the basic principle of thermodynamics. And it's about instead of shifting. And i really encouraged with clients is basically shift the mindset of it's just energies entity in an energy out is more to it than that. It's like what happens with the energy that comes in. This is where i see health. This is where. I see where the magic really happens in. The is all in the mitochondria which is aka the powerhouse of the cell but it does a little bit more than that simple belief But this is where the magic happens. And the output of that is eighty and that facilitates all the ongoing things that sony's to do to repair to replenish to even sillier death. We need entity to drive this Sebastian
Your Dream Life with Kristina Karlsson, kikki.K
"nece" Discussed on Your Dream Life with Kristina Karlsson, kikki.K
"Very old well-established status quo that we've made in for longtime into a new era is very different world that we could be entering into. It's much more conscious time carrying and integrated world but for that to happen. The all systems have to stop to drop away. We talk a lot about micro punching out be later in this new world it's Entering into but for those suffering run out but a beautiful picture on my wall at harm that is a photo of regime s yogi Of his great side signed he says no one needs to suffer because there's an ocean of bliss in everyone and that bliss did it's the state of consciousness of being and regardless of asset from stances. Of course the more extreme circumstances the more. It's going to affect us but we do. Have this capacity to stabilize within of the time with with practice in with patients at beautiful divinity and blissful nece and loving us that arises from within. It's not something we attained or from the world outside of us it's something that's night and Distracted from that in essence. And it's time for us. Stop to reclaim that beautiful. Loveliness in beautiful blissful. Nece within and meditation is. That's going to get us into that state names that experience love that. Thank you for sharing that knowing what you know now. What kind of advice would you give yourself. Say when you're in your late teens knowing what you know now considering your extraordinary journey and the civil earnings in all of that kind of advice would you give yourself invest a whole lot more in property this is just like i look back and think what was i thinking if i only know that the property market will do what it's doing these just should have just been more savvy invest of becoming also the to five dollars venue einstein Everything was short term crazy investments. And i'm trying to teach my children to invest undramatically and to invest for fifty years. Don't invest for two years..
Spark My Muse
"nece" Discussed on Spark My Muse
"Spirituality must be relational there must be an element of how how is my relationship with. God impacting the way i relate to other human beings whether that means the the intimate people in my life. My family my friends my neighborhood or in the larger sense my commitment to justice my commitment to peace my commitment to making this world a better place. All of that is in the mix and so these these exercises. They're very simple like you say. Very broad general exercises but the invitation is that by touching each of these. we are nurturing. Our heart gifts nurturing them and hopefully Activating them and just being more present to the blessings that we carry in our own bodies that are available to us to make a difference in the world. That's beautifully said. I've wanted to drill down deeper into one of the chapters. There's so many good things. I had to be very picky about it and i decided to go with chapter five. In the wisdom chapter the begins on page ninety five One of the things. I wanted to call out to have you. Elucidate for us is the part that says on. Page one hundred. Wisdom and patience are spiritually bonded in developing one. You foster the other and vice versa. Just like you learn to work out certain groups of muscles and tandem. It makes sense that certain spiritual gifts naturally developed together generosity entrust go together so do patients in wisdom so do joy and love and it would be great if you could explain some of this tandem. Nece and also y patience is connected to wisdom to to answer you. Let me to begin by may be the story behind this paragraph. i am. I'm in midlife. I just turned sixty a few months ago. And and i'm going to brag on myself for a second. I in better physical shape than i've ever been my entire life but in a way that's not saying much because i was i was always out of shape. I was always overweight..
Convo By Design®
"nece" Discussed on Convo By Design®
"And and and respond cities bring out The i think the best of everybody because we have to share that public domain. We have to. We have to be more considerate of of of how we live and work and and we have to be more collaborative. You can't just stake out your your turf and say this is mine you you. I mean it's harder to right and it's easier to do it in a more Suburban or rural area and so cities really force a a sense of collaborative. Nece which i think is is will. I think we'd all agree. That collaboration positive thing. And and that the the the the mid to smaller cities Saw a because of the way infrastructure was was planned with highways and and dumb the the large shopping centres the malls taking away the the The pulse of the doubt out of the downtown seeing the smaller cities today. A lot of empty storefronts And no. I think we're going to get a we're going to respect a lot more. The the the powerful nature of of of the mom and pop shop Which is now a rare breed. Because we've we've all learned to order our necessities online in the pandemic and and so retail is taking a big head but but but cities can do things to to To to bring back the mom pop shop with with tax incentives with. There's a whole of pro forma. That cities can go through Without taking a big gentian there in their financial resources about encouraging entrepreneurship encouraging. Young people to to to take a risk and open up a an enterprise of one former the other And and i and i so. I think our we're going to see the health healthier smaller cities and mid mid mid sized cities of because of the that that that wonderful a term used mixed-use. Now we wanna have mix use one. Have he bowl of all shapes and sizes and ages in colors all all working together And the cities of the kind of the best mixture of all of For the reasons..
A Way to Garden with Margaret Roach
Natural Communities With Patrick McMillan
"Patrick mcmillan came to herons would last fall from clemson university in south carolina where he ran the south carolina botanical garden and was a professor in the college of agriculture forestry in life sciences he also hosted a pbs series called expeditions with patrick mcmillan and led the development of the botanical gardens natural heritage garden. Which will hear more about so. Hi patrick. I'm so glad to make contact and get to know you a little bit. I margaret. it's it's wonderful to speak with you in wonderful be your. Yeah so i feel like it must have been a bit of like dorothy. Were not in kansas anymore. When you found yourself in the pacific northwest compared to south carolina. it really was. It really still is I've been a little shocked. How quickly of this area has started to just feel like home One of the. I mean herons would as one of the world's great gardens of with some of the best garden people in the world and into the area itself also to me just has this wonderful kind of maternal nece to it Seems to just envelope you and and convince you pretty quick that this is one of the best places on planet earth. Yeah so. I mean it's a distinctively different natural community or habitat from where you were and so besides being shift in zone and so forth. It's a distinguished place in many ways no thousands of different types of plants and so forth but also being i think one of the largest public gardens in the us that's wholly owned by native american tribes does. Did that influence your decision to come there and tell me a little bit about that absolutely You know when i when i was sort of looking around to to sort of slowdown and change and i know you know what that's like to to want to Get away for maybe six job. Titles down to one.
With Friends Like These
"nece" Discussed on With Friends Like These
"Do not happy. Yeah yes and also being borrow one. More thing is to enter into the conversations with an open hand rather than a closed hand but there is like a like. Here's what i'm offering. And i kind of want something in exchange but i'm not i'm not grabbing for it. I'm not gonna push you about it. It's just here I like the. I mean. And i think that knowing that like question of like why do i wanted to have this conversation by the way. That's a much better way to phrase it. Then like what i want. Thank you oh yes. It's what i want. Is 'cause what i was thinking about. Do i want resolution do want an apology. Do i wanna but why do i want to have this conversation. It's maybe even better with it. Yeah because i think you know it starts. I think that often types of conversations were talking about. They start with the feeling like a gut like nece which is like And then you've gotta go like what is that feeling. And then we'll widen. Do i want to have this destroy. Wanna have this conversation. Because i'm feeling anxious about the change that i'm noticing and i want the person to tell me it's not happening like that could be one of your objectives and then sort of like. Oh let me think about that or it could be You know. I noticing a sense of distance from this person who matters to me and even disagreement. You know to go back to the example of having political differences real differences in political values with someone in your life that thinking beforehand. You can you can think like do. I want to talk to them about this. Because i want.
NPR Politics Podcast
How ACT up Changed America
"There was a new activist group in new york city called at up and they held weekly meetings on monday evenings at this place called the center an lgbt community nonprofit in the west village at the time it was a crumbling old school paint was peeling off the walls and it had never been rehabbed. That is sarah schulman. She's a writer activist and she joined. Act up in nineteen eighty-seven and you know. Even that building was raggedy those meetings. They were really something else was hanging around to center on monday and there was a lot of noise coming from room. One no one. Because i saw so many people there i knew you know something really big guy. Not the feeling of act up in its heyday when the room is packed. And the weather's nice and meeting spills out into the courtyard and there's all kinds of cruising going on in eye-catching in chatty nece says that vibe was the key to the group's impact. I think any political movement for to be successful has to be a place that makes the participants lives better. If you're just joining a political movement out of some kind of sense of responsibility in burden it's not gonna work and that's why emma goldman famously said if i can't dance it's not my revolution so active was a dance. You know it was a place that was life-affirming. It was sex positive. It was all about being effective and it was filled with very young people who are very energetic and desperate for change.
Raising Good Humans
Approaches To Parenting: The 3 Main Styles In Western Culture
"The three parenting styles are authoritative authoritarian and permissive. There's a fourth neglectful neglectful parents for not listening to a podcast called raising good humans. Usually parenting style does measured on two dimensions sensitivity and demanding nece. What's called demanding ness you can also think of it as boundaries expectations can of what your rules are now for. Parents who are more permissive. They tend to be highly sensitive caregivers. Really sometimes might even consider themselves best friend appearance. The thing is they are very low and demanding nests. It's really easy for them to be sensitive. It's really hard for them to set boundaries. Part of that may be again because they were raised. That way part of it may be because it's uncomfortable for those parents to set boundaries to have demands because it can disregard that your kids sometimes put them into a place of feeling unhappy and we don't like our kids to be unhappy sometimes need to fix that in our minds so if you think you're a permissive parent it means maybe you work a little bit more on setting up clear demands expectations and give yourself a pat on the back for your sensitivity and when it comes to the other side of that. Their parents who are more authoritarian. Those are because i said so parents they tend to have very low sensitivity but really high demanding nests. So they've got the expectations in check. They are very clear with their kids on boundaries. They're super clear and containing and having rules but they lack sensitivity. Now the problem with that is that when you have. Because i said so you may end up with kids who lie to you. Because they know they're gonna get in trouble and they don't wanna get trouble. You may be one of those kids if you think about your own parenting experience and in the middle of that that sort of gold standard and developmental research is what's called authoritative parenting. That's really sensitive and also highly demanding. It's just that your demands are appropriate fair child's age and
LGBTQ&A
Niecy Nash and Jessica Betts on Their Great Love Story
"The two of you have been friends for about four years and when friends start dating. I always wonder after that much time. Like what changed. Nece- let's start with you. What made you realize something deeper was here. Well first of all. I was single. Let's start there. let's start at. I wasn't in a marriage or relationship that required monogamy and so i did not know that someone who was my dear friend. I consider a dear friend was going to be a place to because i've never dated anyone of any gender that was friends with the what happened was i was single. Finally and i was open to whatever gossip and some of my life next. And then for jessica macy's told the story where she reaches out touches your neck at the end of a movie one night. What is your reaction. What's going through your mind when she does that. I was like what the hell is going on. At an entire a complete monologue of i was nervous and i was like what the hell is going on but when her hands touched the back of my head. I don't butterflies and i was like. Wow if felt really cool you know and i guess just lead to merge at this point with a funny thing say that what you felt for yourself was the idea that you could love again after the butterfly effect you know it was definitely that feeling like wow i can love again you know and just it just put it put a lot of thought in my mind in terms of what could be you know moving forward and it was all scary so i have so many different emotions going through my head at that time john but definitely film like them like a love again. You know that was definitely part of it.
Equity
Crypto's Awful Weekend
"In the world crypto currencies. It really was anything but quiet a selloff that was still keeping. The market's attention on friday lengthened into the weekend with bitcoin around thirty two thousand five hundred ish on sunday ethereal itself saw its own coin fall to around nineteen over the same timeframe now since then things have gotten better with bitcoin rebounding to around thirty seven thousand five hundred and ether to around Two thousand three hundred fifty and keep in mind that you know you're going to hear this an hour after i vented coordinates if those numbers change. Don't bite me. It's just that's cryptos go anyways. Both coins remained far far below the all-time highs they set very recently a force. Bitcoin spiked sixty four thousand and either cracked about forty three hundred before losing more than half its value. So it's been rough you know it was a rough weekend. Why do we care well. We care because the crypto focus portion of the venture capital world is not getting smaller overtime. There's more and more capital into these companies. It seems and also kind of critically the number of companies both startup and mature in general the generate. At least some real news from bitcoin and the the broader crypto world is going up. That means we're talking about robin hood not just coin base and square not just blockchain dot com. That sort of thing. The increasing horizontal nece essentially fintech means that the number of companies with at least a toe in the crypto market is larger than ever and as we know that trading volumes in the crypto market to follow price changes seen such sharp declines is not good for more companies than you probably think now in response to what i just said. Coined based stock of is up. Three percent pre-market trading. So you know twenty twenty. one things. Don't make sense take everything the grain of salt
The Bible Says What!?
Back to Jesus With Kristin Ostrander
"Today's special guest is author speaker. Podcast or kristen strandard to the show. Hi thanks for having me. Thanks for coming on. Thanks for taking the time So tell us a little bit about first of all what you do. I am kristen steiner. I am the host of the amazon files. Podcast and the owner and founder of mommy income dot com. I teach people to start and grow ecommerce businesses online. That sounds like a lot of fun and a lot of work. Yeah both pretty busy How many kids you. I have three kids. One two grown in one. Still in the nasty. We've got a twenty year old one. That's graduating this year at eighteen and then the youngest is ten and a half fun man. I keep you busy. That's for sure on top of everything else you're doing. Yeah that could be a whole episode about raising grown children and what that's like right. Good nece kids in general so As far as the the the religious aspect of of kristen what are your you. Would you describe the christian beliefs. Would you call yourself a christian. Absolutely s awesome. So why would you take on that title. What what is it about the christianity that you accept. I am a follower and believer of jesus. I believe in the gospel. I believe that it's All his doing. And none of mind and i have a purpose in a plan in life to follow that calling and to spread the good news to others that there is hope and help beyond this life. Open help beyond this life and what. What does the bible to you. The bible is the word of god. The bible is a sharper than any two edged sword. I can i use it against it. Right the bible is guidebook. That guy bill bible is the answer. It is my hope and my help. It is the source of wisdom the source of all instructions for humanity.
Friendshipping!
Should I Come Out As Bi to My Friends?
"Deer gen entrant over the last few years. I've realized that i am a bisexual woman. Hell i added that. I can now see that. I had romantic feelings for a few of my very close female friends in the past. Though currently i view them in a purely platonic light. I have managed to come out to my partner and a few other friends. But i'm torn about whether or not i should do the same with the friends i used to have feelings for. I am intensely afraid that they will suspect that. I used to have crushes on them. Which makes me feel ashamed and uncomfortable. I've been with the same partner. Who is his mail for ten years. So part of me wonders if i even meet to come out while another part wants to cultivate openness and honesty with my close friends by revealing truth. Any advice would be greatly appreciated pronouns. She her first off. It's time to party okay. Year by hell. Yeah hell. Yeah who kern grants congrats. Ray were celebrating. You found out information about yourself. That's awesome and i did hear will impact us. But i'm so glad to hear that you already have people in your life. That are celebrating in supportive of you. Because that's what you deserve. Yeah absolutely and this says it's a journey. You know as you said yourself like. It's been a after the last few years you came to this conclusion and that is true for so many people because we are taught humans in general and i think it may be especially our culture. We are taught that queer nece is a thing that happens to other people. There's the gay friend. There's a side character who's bisexual you know like the doesn't happen to me. I'm normal you know like like that's that's what we're taught and so because of that it can take a really long time to say. Oh wait being gay is a normal perfectly normal thing being bisexual is. I even suspect that many people are most people are bisexual like the. It takes a long time to equate that with quote unquote. Normality like like. It's not something wrong with you. You know it's not like an etiquette quirk or something like that or a character trait that again. A secondary character in the story gets it can tap into the main character. You're the main character and your by and your book rules and i'm going to buy it love it. We cardi now. It's time to get down to business right. I'll kick it off by saying it would be strange to say the least if they in that moment were like. Oh my god did you ever. Do you have a crush on me or did you ever ever crush on me. That would be so inappropriate.
Love Letters
Why Are Vow Renewals So Meaningful?
"Vows by definition are very aspirational when a young couple vows to have and to hold whether rich or poor in sickness or in health you know hook goes to. They really know what they're in for. Of course they don't how could they often. They haven't seen enough of life yet of our renewal though is something else entirely. It's more than just a restatement of those original promises. It saying that after all these years of lived experience. I still love you. I'm still in this with you. And i stand here today. Ready to commit to all that. I love you. In spite of your beauty's in spite of your broken nece. I love you still. And i'm celebrating the fact that you love me still even though you know more about me than you did on our wedding day. That's reverend brian. Cockle he's dean of hendricks chapel at syracuse university. Which proud to say is my alma mater. Hendricks chapel is this sacred interface based on campus. The dates back to nineteen thirty on valentine's day. Brian was in the chapel presiding over a very unique very twenty twenty one kind of ceremony. It was a virtual group vow renewal for one hundred and fifty people at this time. I invite all of our participants to make. Sure your cameras are your microphones. And of course. This is the part where you repeat. After me courage you most of them were syracuse alumni or had some connection to the university. Like an and craig drum heller. They were married at hendricks chapel in nineteen ninety and returned on zoom for the renewal ceremony. Be your companion compan- your partner your partner. We somewhat successfully had everyone synchronize. Her it was we tried. And in addition to that we had musical selections. We had a nice surprise visit from ottawa. The orange our beloved mascot who brought some flowers who support you being with with it was our goal to say. Let's all in our busy lives in our lives filled with crisis in struggle. These days to stop pause. Look our partners in the eyes and say thank you for putting up with me. Let's keep at it.
The Next Right Thing
What to Do When You Can't Find God
"Several years ago i read a book by a j swoboda called the dusty ones in it. He shares a story about his from high school whose name was stew. Stew met jesus through his friendship with jay and they quickly became zealous. An excited together. They read the bible. They prayed in front of lockers. And stu felt close to god in those days will soon. Aj lost touch after graduation as often happens in about ten years later they reconnected and that was when aj learned that statue no longer called himself a christian because once he went off to college he stopped feeling the presence of now. I'm not here to debate the reality of stews relationship with god or the validity of his conversion or even the role of feelings as they mix with our faith. But what i do wanna talk about. Is this experience. That many friends of jesus either have gone through are going through or will go through and that is the experience of the loss of the felt presence of god. The truth is we won't always feel god's presence. I know some believers who say they've never really felt god's presence. I don't want that to be true but it is true. The good news is this is nothing new. For generations and generations christians have wandered through the wilderness have walked through. The valley of the shadow have navigated life in the midst of difficulty loss and seemingly impossible circumstances. If you are walking through your own wilderness right now. You are not alone even if you feel alone. Saint john of the cross called his experience of not feeling god's presence a dark night of the soul martin. Luther called it. The scandal of god's hidden nece and barbara brown taylor in her book learning to walk in the dark. She says no. One chooses the dark knight. The dark night descends.
Relationship Advice
The Art of Love
"Hi dr de martini. Thank you so much for joining us on the show today. Well thank you for having me today. We're gonna talk about the art of love and how we can find love and a fulfilling relationship and you chose for our topic to to call it the are of love so we thought we could start with having you tell us how you think about love in why it is an art. Well i'm sure that many of the people that might be listening have learned the difference hopefully by now between fantasies and real love you know. Many people have a dopamine amid lead driven infatuation with a fantasy kind of serotonin and dopamine drive and create a fantasy about an individual is instead of actually getting to know who the real individual is and loving that whole individual and their fantasies can lead to the counter-balancing nightmares with false expectations. But i like to find. Define love is embracing of of the supportive and challenging components of an individual. People want to be loved for their wholeness. Not for just half nece. And i'd like to think of the art of love is the art of recognizing both sides expecting both sides Because each individual has a set of priorities are set of values live their life by whatever is most important to them. The life revolves around and their identity revolves around. And if you do things that in their perceptions support that they're going to be very nice and kind and open. If you do things that challenge it they're going to be playing the opposite side. There can be some time kolding and more clinically. You know. sometimes. I mean even and if you embrace both sides know that to give feedback on how to effectively and respectfully communicate what you value in terms of what they value learn. The art of love part of love is is the embracing of both sides of ourselves and others in the pursuit of what's deeply meaningful. Both to both people.
DISGRACELAND
Oasis: Hooliganism, Hedonism, and the "Greatest Rock N Roll Band on the Planet"
"Stories about always aren't seen this started. Riots sank rolls royces and swimming. Pools physically attacked. Police officers publicly brawled with each other. In rival popstars the committed to a life of hooliganism and hedonism and vandalized. Robbed stole drugged their way around. The boredom of youth raised in manchester england's council estates public housing oasis's bandleader noel. Gallagher and his younger brother liam were determined to become the greatest rock and roll band on the planet and remarkably despite or perhaps because of their humble beginnings there were able to achieve that goal through it all they made great music anthems pure pop instant classics and that music. You heard at. The top of the show wasn't great music. That was a preset loop from a mellow tron. Called mellow swag lager m. k. One i played you that loop. 'cause i can't afford the rights to everything i do. I do it for you by bryan adams in would a play that specific slice of prince of thieves. She could i afford it. Because that was the number one song in america on august eighteenth nine hundred ninety one and that was the day oasis to stage for the very first time at the boardwalk club in manchester and changed the face of english pop music forever on this episode hooligans. And he'd nece raggi lager instant classics one hundred percent committed in endlessly entertaining. Gallagher brothers oasis
Under the Influence
Moms of TikTok
"Only nece loss of identity imposter syndrome lack of career stability for this story before having guys over and over and over again every time we talked to women and mothers who turned to social media. And that's but jane did. A friend of hers was like hey. I think he might get a kick out of tiktok so she downloaded and learned some of the dances that the kids doing these days and eventually she found mom talk one. This is who. Is this ella. And kate kind of stumbled up behind the whole mom niche content. Which was a lot of skits. If toddlers gray graph tiktok dances of funny moments between moms and kids. Alex three mommy. Mommy i felt like here are the users that are like me. I think it was october where i went from like eighty thousand followers to like two hundred fifty thousand followers because of one viral video mine. Yeah you're not mommy. Do we still have some raw. My husband was right next to me like peacefully eating his dinner so i just looked at him. Like you're right here. Why don't they say daddy you know and my husband just kind of showed like oh that would be a good tiktok so i flipped my flown open To the app and i started recording. And what can you do. We wanna taste. then he notices. My phone is on tiktok and then he says doing the talk. And then i kind of break my poker face and start cracking up
The Wonkhe Show - the higher education podcast
UK universities’ closeness to China poses risks, says Jo Johnson
"Report led by former. Universities managed to joe johnson warns of the poorly understood risks of increasingly close collaboration between uk. Universities china i tell us more well yes so awfully. Liam johnson's kicking off busy. After his various stints in half universities minister but a really interesting. I'm pretty comprehensive report looking at the relationship that uk her education house china And a couple of areas. It focuses on the role that that china is playing globally in research and development. Showing that it's set to overtake the us or Focusing that sets it will take the us. The world's biggest spender on research and development As well as the case may significant research partner and interesting Comparison looking at the fact that in two thousand nineteen. The uk collaborated with china and about sixteen thousand sixteen thousand Papers which is from about one hundred papers in the early nineteen nineties. But it's pretty. It's pretty punchy. Report and It it's pretty critical. I think it is pretty critical about the current approach is it sort of gives the impression that the view view those writing report is that the u k really needs to up his game when it in terms of understanding. The policy needs to start to be more robust against trump this transit authoritative authoritarian dictatorship. That showed little desire to transform itself into western style democracy whilst understanding the sort of reality of the situation that the relationship between China is fairly intertwined so interesting policy recommendations. They're proposing to increase the funding. I'm so there's not reliant. On international students focusing on the fact there are lots of international students from china as well and really Saying that the loss of requests. For you or i to be more robust in this do auditing to do more checking existing research partnerships and. Yeah i mean one kind of take away from me is that i think it needs to be a bit more primary research this but a very interesting report selena the line amitai pulls out about the authoritarian dictatorship that shows little desire to transfer into western style. Liberal democracy kind of wanted these joe. Johnson says that requires a catholic. Calibrated policy makes Is your sense that what's in here. Would address the concern. Or what's your view on the solutions that have been proposed there. I think the there's obviously a certain amount of posturing that behind the scenes in the kind of premise. Around china is what china is trying to do in terms of its links with uk higher education which have been built up over a long period of time but also built a time where it has been extending its into international links across the states australia various other countries and i think that the solutions are proposed in hair probably aren't going to unwind what what has already been laid extensively in terms of relationships between uk universities and chinese universities and indeed a sense of appetite from chinese students to study overseas and increasingly for uk students to take up the opportunity for some experience of transnational education in china. So i think it's helpful to point and two as the report says i to be aware of the extensive nece links the debt of the links on the volume of activity. But i would think where we are right now and certain from into individual institutions perspective. It solutions that are proposed. Here are not going to be effective at. Rolling back yeah. I'm sorry. I mean one of the things i was talking to someone about the even. What rolling back. Look i mean even if universities needed to the money less. What is it that they would do to discourage students from china coming. I mean we have people. Discriminating against st some china charlene will all supposed to be officially in theory in our kind of standards for admission that i'll just slightly adapted for each country. There's sort of things that the the first thing which i read the report in most detail to to to the potential this but i the overall impression i get from the initial i've done is that there isn't enough. Focus on the role of the us foreign policy. Plays in all of this either so going back to what you highlights about. That carefully calibrated police response. If the ratcheting up of us. Foreign policy towards china as china's influence in the world grows. Are we going to end up. In a situation affects the organ. Have to start picking sides and in that case it feels like yours. Foreign policy is going to drive a lot of what we end up. Take that first. Instance particularly given that. We're outside of the eu now and that focus on our lives is even more important but interestingly the report doesn't really say that talks about diversifying international student recruitment. But it says that it from a point of view. Saying because we don't become too reliant and because we actually think it's going to drop off over time potentially of the rise of universities in china. Say they really very much in there which is saying. We need to stop chinese students from coming to the k. But it's there's there's something around it is as chinese institutions grow and and as the government potentially starts incentivize more students to stay and study domestically that at risk for uk universities less exposed like places like australia but still the reports are saying uk university of need to prepare for that
Coronacast
What makes a variant a variant of concern?
"Hello this is corona cost a daily podcast all about the coronavirus. I'm health reported teigen tyler. An opposition and journalists culture. Norman swan friday the fifth of march and give it into the second year of corona caster. But it gives you the year it's two thousand and twenty one. It still hasn't anyone even though time is both flying and travelling at a snail's pace but normally one of the things that we keep hearing about over the past few weeks and months is variant. So we we were all very critical of donald trump when he was talking about the china virus and the wuhan virus. But then since then we've been talking about the uk strain in the south african strain. And then yesterday all this week we've been hearing about a russian variant. That's popped up in queensland. So firstly what does it even mean and secondly doing it a better way of naming these virus variance where we're gonna way of naming them. It's just pretty obscure so. The russian variance so called is has the numbers three one seven at the end of it and it is a bit unfair naming them according to where they were i noticed or discovered so britain said africa brazil. New york california russia. It's not very helpful at all because it just sparks. Fear yet. A new variant. What does it actually mean. There's lots and lots of variance. And if i can take us back. Just a little less than a year is that even then there were variants developing and people panicking about them at that point and the bedford lab. Which was really one of the first labs to get into sequencing the variance in tracking them. Globally they found that in fact there was very little change in behavior between the variants. It was more. The people change their behavior but not the virus and that's only recently changed and it's only changed with two or three variants so it's changed with the south african variants. It seems to probably be more Contagious and certainly more vaccine resistant. The brazilian variant. We still don't know enough about that but that looks as if it's more contagious. And certainly also look. Civic could be vaccine partly packed vaccine resistant. The uk one. It's more about contagious. Nece and the american ones so far just not sure what their behavioral changes so more and more. We're seeing various but for every one of these variants you're seeing that are lots and lots of other ones which simply track the evolution of the virus and don't really mean anything and reportedly this variant which is three one seven being called the russian variant. Just seems to be one of these variants which has been thrown off by the virus through replication. And probably doesn't mean very much at all so one of the other pieces of lingo that we've been hearing this idea variant of concern and some of the naming conventions have the are see in them as well as like there's the be one one seven top naming convention and then this other naming conventions which just makes it even more confusing. What makes a variant of very of concern versus just add variant of not concerned. Just curiosity is. I'm sure that that is actually standardized internationally but it would just mean that. There is evidence that it's transmitting more than other viruses muscling other viruses out the ways so for example. The uk barely has muscled other variance out of the way. It's presumed to be more contagious. But probably less contagious than we originally thought the brazilian very. We've talked about it on a corona cast. It seems to be infecting people who were previously infected with the let's call it the wuhan variant which is really the regional virus to come out of china and the south african variants is also almost certainly able to reinfect from the previous one which also and there is evidence of reduced vaccine. Efficacy is gets this concern label when there's evidence that it is behaving differently and potentially dangerously
Everyday Buddhism: Making Everyday Better
Can You Lament And Still Be A Buddhist?
"I wanna talk about the word lament lament to great word. But i bet you haven't used it at much. If at all and leave it to the fourteenth month of two thousand twenty wink wink to inspire me to do a podcast focused on lament lamenting and lamentation lament means to be mon to mon wail or cry. In a state of grief morning. Sorrow or anguish. That's why. I think it's a great word in compasses that mix of emotion that is grief loss in anguish. When just one word can't quite express it all you know unless you are quite young you have probably experienced that mix of emotions to some degree or another especially in this past year and i doubt any of us. Under the age of ninety at least in the west have experienced the level of grief lost and anguish that two thousand twenty and now into two thousand and twenty one delivered. And it's because of that. I wanted to talk about lament lamenting orleans stations. If you're my age or which is sixty eight or younger and live in the west you have not experienced level of global lamentable circumstances we have been experiencing yet. All of history's filled with the stuff that causes lamenting in wars pestilence. Floods fires plagues the stuff of lamentation. And although buddhism is frequently characterized by the buddha's teaching on suffering buddhist sutras and related teaching. Speak of lamenting only in ways. That highlight how it is to be avoided. You know getting on with it letting go so as not to fall victim to the second aero of suffering of course that is to be understood based on the buddhist teachings of the four noble truths. He taught that one suffering or discontent is part of every life because it because it is that nature of the human condition. Or as i wrote in my book you know life is crappy sometimes and number two noble truth number two the cause of suffering or discontent or crappy nece is grasping two things. We want an pushing away things. We don't want noble truth three. He taught that there is a way out of this. Discontent disease suffering and for the way out is by following the noble eightfold path now looking at buddhism from that perspective alone which is the way many who i would refer to as secular buddhists understand and practice buddhism that makes lamenting a sort of a no. No no no not. It's sort of an allowing yourself to grasp which then causes more suffering. It wasn't until rather recently when buddhism began by being taught through the filter of a psychological lens. You know the book. The wise heart by jack cornfield is a perfect example of this and when the psychological lens started being applied over the buddhist teachings it did provide a sense of tender spaciousness around the conditioning of suffering. Now granted the mahayana path does emphasize compassion compassion for the suffering of others and only more recently has more psychology was combined by. Some teachers was compassion for ourselves. Included as part of the deal.
What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't
"nece" Discussed on What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't
"I've always wanted to do a study of people who marry or honeymoon in disneyland. My belief is disneyland. Is all about fantasy. And allusions just like the beginnings of love. So i believe the divorce rate would be seventy five percent instead of fifty percent but alas i only have a sample of one so the work of love often arrive six to ten years after the very beginning because that is when the illusions fall apart. That's what they used to call the seven year itch in the fifties. You are sick and tired of the differences and you begin to scratch your head and wonder what are you doing with this annoying person. Who takes you for granted or ignores your sex life. This is an opportunity for the real work to begin for my husband. And i it was your nine. And it's your chance to build a solid infrastructure of truth and trust shame can be a real obstacle to building a solid infrastructure. Shame is a huge roadblock to success in therapy or feeling good about yourself. Shame can interrupt being fully truthful in relationships. It's like the guy who pretends to his family that he goes to work every day because he's too ashamed to tell that he lost his job. Shame is also a huge factor in failure when someone is in addiction recovery if the other partner is constantly unforgiving an angry because of all. the past relapses. It's hard for the person not to sink. Further in shame. shame gets triggered. It's hard to share fully and be vulnerable. Relationships require vulnerability in order to grow and to last fighting in old. Stock patterns is also suffocating to a healthy relationship again. As i pointed out previously with critical. Nece if you access your curiosity things will improve. Ask yourself if you really understand your partners point of view or are you so full of resentments. You can't begin to understand why their perspective matters silent unspoken resentments high-up and kill off all relationships magnifying. Your disappointments feeds resentments..
What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood
"nece" Discussed on What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood
"Two days question comes from our facebook group. Have you ever addressed sneaky nece before. I'm having some trouble with rule breaking lately where things that are not off limits but are limited like candy or screens are appearing in bedrooms. After the adults go to sleep. It's driving me batty. And i'd appreciate any advice so first of all let me just say. I'm a little bit of the same problem at my house. And here's what i think about it. I tend to be slightly overreactive to this in terms of how could you do this. You notice against the rules to have food or screens in your room. We don't allow food or screens in bedrooms. And so it's pretty much obvious that a wrong sneaky has been committed as soon as i see those things that bedroom because they're not supposed to be there and i have one sneaker who has taken to signing candy. Sometimes it's apples taking three or four bites of an apple and then hiding it somewhere in the room which is really one thing we can say for. Our kids is that generally there really bad at being sneaky so you know you do smell of rotting apple in the room after a couple of days. And i've found them tucked. You know inside jewelry cases in the closet because the mind of a small child says this is not what i'm supposed to be doing and i will hide my crime and then they don't really think the next step what happens when the apple starts to rot. And so what. I do in cases like this is i. Call the child's not always the same one up. Hold up the rapper. The apple the screen. Whatever it is and say what is this doing here and right away. They know that they've done wrong right. I mean they know they're caught. And then i really state the rule. It is not permitted to have food in your room and then we try to head behavior and consequences can we rectify the behavior because otherwise there are going to be consequences so one thing i think especially about food is we tend to think of this story as like my child is deliberately defying me just because even though they know that this is wrong and i hadn't experienced this week where i was laying in bed. I have been trying since the holidays to really you know. Can my eating back on track. Stop with all the sugar stop with. All the junk food. And i was laying in bed watching tv and i opened my bedside table drawer to get something out and i found a leftover stocking full of skills like a little toy sized starting summer full of skills. And what did i do. I ate all of the skittles why not to define myself. Who had set the rule of like. We're not gonna do this any more after the holidays but because skills are delicious and they're really fun to eat in bed and that's really what. Your kids are doing. Two screens are fun to watch in bed. I've really tried to cut down my habit of reading twitter in bed. It's not going great because it's an enjoyable thing to do so. I think it's fine to remember that this isn't really about you. It's about a kid who wants to eat an apple while they're lying in the room reading a book and that's not a terrible instinct but we've just gotta help reinforce the rule because it's also not okay so i'm not saying like well. Everyone wants to do it so let them do it. No it's not allowed and so have a conversation about the behavior when it happens. I found the sampling room. Yes do you know that. Apple's are not allowed upstairs. Yes okay go take it downstairs go clean out. Whatever it is that the gross at has been touching. That is your responsibility. And here's what i want you to do. If you want an apple going forward talk to me about it. I will find you a comfy couch. A seat outside. I will find you somewhere comfortable to eat that apple. But apple's are not allowed in your room and so we are going to try to address the behavior. You want to eat whatever. It is any kind of snacks. even if it's candy bar. Hey if you wanna have candy bar. Let's figure out where we can fit that in your nutritional schedule for the day so you don't have to sneak off with it and it's finally kitty. Bars does not to eat six. Ers upstairs in your room and let's figure out how we can work those into your day so you've had it and then here's the consequence for it upstairs into your room and that is let's say you don't get screened tomorrow. Whatever it might be and for one of my kids who it was still happening with we moved to you know bigger consequences and it did stop and buy bigger consequence. I just mean all day no screens and then it will get better and it will probably get a little worse. We have certain kids. I think who are a little bit more prone. I was this kid to sneaky nece and and well the rule says this. Let me try that instead. And that's not the end of the world and so it will probably be you know the same kid is going to sneak more and more and more but i think you just stay really consistent with your calm reaction so it doesn't get the reaction of like because in your kid is going to go. Oh hey this is kind of fun to get mom to go crazy. And be like whoa. It's just a candy bar. I don't know why it's the end of the world and so calm reaction address the behavior. Hey if you're hungry let's do this. Hey if you're on screens upstairs in your room. Let's make sure. I'll give you an extra half an hour screen time but then the screens absolutely stayed downstairs so like the behavior fix the behavior and then moved to consequences.