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Are You Taking Care Of You?
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia a podcast designed to help care givers find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol Welcome to let's talk to giant Carol. How will your host and I thank you for joining me today? Let's Talk Dementia sponsored by National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine and their website is w._w._w.. Dot in the F. Dot O._R._G.. Contact National Association of Veterans and Families to get expert help in applying for pension with aid and attendance benefits for the spouse of a veteran or the veteran. Tell Them Carol sent you today. I would like to <hes> talk with you about taking some time out for yourself <hes> now we've had this subject a lot and we're going to have this subject a lot. The future because you know what way don't as caregivers quite get it and I am speaking from experience. My Momma passed away on May thirty first. Today is June twenty second and I can tell you I've discovered two things in and my grief one is that I am very very tired and I'm having a hard time getting caught up on my sleep and the second thing is brain. Fog is a real thing when you're grieving <hes> so I'm how <music> I'm being very aware of decisions that I make and decisions. I don't make was told one time you should not make any decisions for six months. After the death of someone in believe me I am understanding why that is true because I'm not sure I would make good decisions and but I know your wife is busy. You're full of caregiving tasks and then trying to lead your own life and take care of your children and keep your job going in your house. Clean laundry done in the groceries bought the list goes on and on and on doesn't it yeah I get hid. I also know that if you don't stop sometime you're going to crash and burn. We know that forty percent of Alzheimer's caregivers specifically pass away before the individual they're caring. Caring for now think about that scenario. What would it be like if you were not there caring for your loved one who would step in? Maybe you can avoid needing that person to step in if you just took care of yourself along the way so my question is when was the last time you were at the doctor and had blood war. Do we know those numbers are in balance. Do we know if you need to be working on lower lowering cholesterol or blood sugar blood pressure. Do we know this and if we don't then by Golly let's get an appointment in get in and get that done. When was the last time you took time just to go sit on a rock in do nothing you know maybe just enjoy the sunshine and the trees and the grass and in disliked your brain relax and I'm GonNa tell you that's going to be hard to do isn't it? When I <hes> was caregiving for my mom and I would go away to our <hes> home in Florida I would have fifty nine people lined up to do one hundred twelve? Well things just to make sure every little <hes> thing for my Mama was cared for so you would think I would go to Florida and I have to worry about it but instead what I did was I went to Florida and worried that the fifty nine people were doing their Huntersville things. Wotton too good at relaxing so <hes> and I'm still not really good at that. I will tell you in my day to day life now. Be Busy doing something. I'll start to think oh I need to end. It'll be something relating to my mom that I need to go do but Mamas in in heaven and I don't need to go do that so my caregiving brain is still caregiving. It's not stopped that so I understand that you are just maybe overwhelmed and your plate is way more than full <hes>. It's it's not played anymore. It's turned into a serving tray full of things that you need to do but you do need to take time away from that work room of your life you know if if the business of your life is your work room you need to take time away from it. Even even if it's just for an hour or two and just take care of you think about who in your life would be willing to come sit with your loved one for an hour. You might be surprised that there are people who would do it now. I'm GonNa tell you it's probably going to be hard. Refund some nights gonNA come for a half day or even a day. <hes> most other people are busy too but you can find somebody who would give you an hour or two or maybe three if you can afford it hire an in home care company to have have someone come in once a week to relieve you if you don't need them to bathe your loved one or dress your loved one or cook for your loved one or clean your house. All you want them to do is just sit and talk with your loved. One then the hourly rate is taper in that might make it more affordable for you and you can go off and get a break and do whatever it is you want to do. Maybe you just want to wander around the mall. I don't know but you need to find that thing and go do it. It will be worth the investment if you can possibly afford it. I've told you guys at the beginning of each show about the National Association of Veterans Families and the benefit available that I mentioned earlier called <hes> aid and attendance and that is money that can be I used to help pay for someone to come in on a regular basis to help you in that help can be them sitting with your loved. Ones a you can get a break or maybe you do need help with bathing your loved one or dressing or whatever. Then that money can be used for that so if you are the spouse of a veteran or you are a veteran than you need to contact National Association of VETERANS AND FAMILIES IN C. Do you qualify for that benefit and they'll tell you about other benefits too and you can reach him at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine. They're a great organization. I'm happy to <hes> partner with them. Well I hope that will give you something to think about. I want to end this with a scriptural reason for why you need to rest Genesis Chapter Two verse tune tells us that after the Lord had created all of the world whether you do on the seventh day it says by the Seventh Day God had finished the work he had been doing so on the seventh day he rested from all his work was going to tell you something folks if the God of the University to rest Pretty Doug on sure you do too you take care of yourself join us for our next episode Soda Blitz Talk Dementia. You can also find us at our website. Let's Talk Dementia Dot O._R._G.. Lessons Miles again. Thanks for joining us today for Powell howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia.
Medication Changes Without Notification
"Senior life journeys presents carol howls. Let's talk dementia a podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles sales in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author carol. Welcome to. Let's talk talk dementia. I am carol. How will your host and i'm glad that you are here today. And we'll talk about dimension dementia care giving i'm internationally certified dementia practitioner and the author of the amazon bestselling book titled. Let's talk dementia. You can read more about us at. Let's talk dementia dot o._r._g. There you will find the books that i've written and this podcast are video series blog on just all kinds of good junk. This check us out there. You're selling climbed. Please make a donation to help. Keep our ministries ministry's going as we reach people in seventy five countries in charge them nothing as they travel there dementia caregiving journey a special thanks to national association of veterans veterans and families who has partnered with us to help with our expenses in. We thank them very much. You can reach them at w._w._w. Dot in a v f af dot o._r._g. Or call eight hundred three five to to nine one nine tilden carol sent you. They are amazing votes that can help you get benefits for the veteran spouse veteran or both of them so that's a great place to start. Don't go to the try to get those benefits folks. You'll pull your hair route. Contact national association veterans and families eight hundred three five to to nine one nine. I love it when you guys write me with questions or thoughts or stories. Listen <hes> always look forward to receiving those in often use them on our show. Which is what i'm going to do today and you can write me carol at. Let's talk dementia. If you need me you to call you back. Just put your phone number and i'm happy to do that. Well this call our this. E mail came from a lady in charlotte. North carolina and i'm just gonna read you part of what she has written. She said i wanted to get your insight on care for dementia patients. My dad is in a memory care facility. He's progressed rest over the years from independent retirement living assisted living memory care all in the same physical facility. I do have compassion for him and express them this every time we're together though he is so angry about being in memory care after a series of falls that required multiple days in the hospital spill and much p._t. O._t. afterwards thin he finally agreed in march of this year to move to memory care. It is a twenty four seven care facility locked of course so that none of the patients can leave on their own. I sometimes wonder if the staff has been trained to be patient with folks who have dementia. My dad needs time absorbed. Someone's questions before being expected to respond. He gets very agitated when they don't give him time to respond. I've seen them continue continue to ask other questions trying to get him to answer he of course gets frustrated and unfortunately lashes out at them verbally so they called in a psychiatric datuk nurse who put him on depakote. They have subsequently increased the dose. I was part of the initial conversation but was not told of additional dumps. Yes it is because i stay involved with his care that i found out they had increased the dosage last week. I notices personality had changed. He knew something was was different. Also i've been so concerned about the changes. I asked his nurse yesterday what her thoughts were on the change. She said oh we put him a._m. Own van. I was like really why wasn't i tell should i have not been notified. Just what are your perspectives on this well. I have lots of thoughts about this particular email. My first one is my head just about exploded i so remember being frustrated with with getting the care that my mom needed and <hes> the need to constantly follow up now. That's very important first of all i will. I wrote to her and said you've got to <hes> realize your authority or your lack of authority in this situation. If you don't have power of attorney carney for the person that you're contacting community about you have no rights. They legally cannot discuss his care. They cannot discuss his medications doctors appointments sir anything unless you have power of attorney and have that on file that he has said yes you need to talk with so and so my daughter my my son my wife my husband whatever <hes> about my care so you have power of attorney you go in and you plunk down and you go listen you will not it changed my dad's madison's without calling telling me i yes. I appreciate the fact that a doctor or nurse practitioner has been seeing dad and they have a lot of education occasion and training and they feel like this is what's best for dad. I'm not arguing that but i have the right to say whether dad will be on these meds or whether we're for increasing the dosage or whether we're deleting or adding medications so you must call me with any changes now another thing you do get in touch with that nurse practitioner dr in say anytime you see my love one. I would like to be there. What days do you come in if i can't be be there. Will you please either email me. Text me or call me and tell me if you changed anything. You'd be surprised most of these folks sir willing to do that and you absolutely need to know. Why do you need to know this well just as she said in her email to may she started started. Noticing personality changes in wonder why and had no clue that his medicine had been changed in the new medicine had been added. She did not know that she needed to. I know that in advance. Let's pretend that she's taking her dad to a routine doctor's appointment where he left the community in they ask for medication list in. She gives use than what she believes to be. The correct does medication dosage income to find out changes have been made she didn't know about so you need to know these things actually before you leave a community to take someone to the doctor of you taken into the outside of the community that community should print out their medication list and give up to you so you have it current but that doesn't always happen so you need to know. This is very concerning in she you know she talks about how how the staff throws to many questions at one time that is just absolutely never going to work. Someone with dementia needs to options and <hes>. Have you had lunch today. Did you enjoy it. Would you like peanut butter and jelly or would you like grilled cheese. Do you want a cold salad or a hot sandwich. Do you won't black pants blue pants in the new. Don't interrupt them while they're thanking being you don't go okay so which is it. You want black panther blue pants. We got things do come on. Tell me which one do you want. That's just gonna frustrate them and if you tell them listen you can have macaroni and cheese and you can have grains or you can have coleslaw. You can have french fries. Which one do you want nine times out of ten. They're gonna choose the very last one you said because that's that's the last one they remember so. You don't do that and if you front if you rush them. You're just gonna frustrate them. They're gonna frustrate you. Nobody's gonna leave this situation unhappy so don't do it is very simple thing. Take a breath. Just take a breath chill out in talk calmly and not really really fast because when we talk really really fast pace. We're not gonna understand what we're saying. We're going to talk with a calm easy. Smooth tom hi john how you you're doing today. You look good. Hey i'm here to get your dinner order. Oh i do love dinner time don't you john will john. It looks like today you can choose between grilled chicken or spaghetti. Which do you think paul's let john. Thanks john ask any questions. He may ask you. Question has absolutely nothing to do with the menu options. You're gonna answer them. In go. John <unk> grilled chicken or spaghetti in paul's see what jon says and hopefully john will answer you dutton than just go <hes> john spaghetti instead. He has a direct yes or no question. He doesn't have to elaborate in you can choose spaghetti on his behalf breath. Don't just choose spaghetti because you tend to deg on lazy to go. Ask him don't do that but just calmly work with these folks ano- i know that caregivers in a community a ton to do a short time to get it done. They're tired. I'm sorry it is your job. It is what we pay you to do in. We need you to do it right on. Do i hear an amen from amen chorus while i should well i hope that helped <hes> <hes> this lady from charlotte who wrote in and i did write her back with all of that have had a couple of phone conversations with their actually come to find out. I know some of her relatives pretty well. I thank you for joining me today on. Let's talk dementia and i think national association of veterans in families for helping to finance the work that we do you can racing at eight hundred three five to nine one nine or w._w._w. Dot in the if dot o._r._g. I look forward to the next time where together have a great day blessings and smiles. Thanks for joining us today for carol howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on amazon in paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on. I tunes remember. Knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today and we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Tell Me More, Grandpa
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia a podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles sales in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol Walk Into. Let's talk dementia. I am Carol. How will your host and Internationally Certified Dementia Practitioner and author of the Amazon bestselling books. Let's Talk Dementia Mama's confused and so am I if my body is a temple. Why am I eating doughnuts and reminiscent worshiped. Thank you for joining US wherever you are in this country as we together travel this road of dementia care giving it's a tough journey and I'm here to help you write me with your questions. My email address is carol at let's talk out dementia dot. Org you can find our books in everything we produce in audio and video form at our website. Www Dot let's talk dementia DOT ORG RJ up you'll check us out especial thanks to National Association of Veterans and Families as they come along beside us and helped finance the ministries that we offer free in seventy five countries out of you. Call them at eight hundred three five to nine one nine. WWW DOT in VF dot org if you are seeking king benefits for the veteran or the spouse of the veteran or both for care directly related to their person you need to talk with him about that. Tell Them Carol Saint you will today. I want to talk with you about talking to GRANDPA. It's time to talk to GRANDPA or grandma or Mama. Whoever you want to talk Gwyneth boating my story today it's going to big GRANDPA. I do remember spending time with my grandfather's in they died when I was gosh in. Maybe middle school so it's been a very long time since not been able to do that but if I had known then what I know now I wouldn't take in some time I'm to ask them questions to make notes into document. What I learn about my grandparents. I do know that my my one grandfather involved on his claim to fame was he spent time in jail for bootlegging and that's not exactly something you WanNa Brag about but that's my family family and also the truth but it would be good to know more about what they did for a living and what life was like when they were growing up in those are questions I would have asked in should have documented but I didn't but you may still have that opportunity with your grandparents or maybe with your parents that you want to write down those answers to the questions. I can tell you my sweet mama who died of Alzheimers on May thirty first she was a trip now folks I gave her a book. Hold on a minute. I'm going to reach the book. I'M GONNA make a little bit of noise here but the book is called reflections from a mother's heart. It brought it from Avon. You know the makeup company. Avon and I gave it to mama acid. Would you please answer these questions in this book because you get time and still inclined in one day. I will have these in your handwriting and she looked man said well probably not because it doesn't sound like something I've wanted to do and she was not kidding so she did not do that but in her caregiving journey she had some private caregivers than I said. Can you get bored right down the answers that Mama gives you to some of these questions and they did and I'm trying to find this this one particular one it was like what would you change in the world if you could you know she said something else wait like I would make everything a beautiful and world peace and everybody would be good to each other and then after second thoughts she went and I would buy myself a new Honda. Isn't that funny. I just love that. It just cracked me up that she said that I have Mama Stalls in answers to those questions in the questions questions that you can start documenting. Abacha can be simple things like how did you learn to drive talk. You tell me about your first car. Did your relatives come to visit over the summer. How old when you were you when you met my daddy in. What attracted you to him? What fashions fans were popular when you went high school. Did your wedding ceremony include. A special vowed each other in. What did you say describe the most fascinating fascinating place you have ever visited. Tell me about a driving trip. You took with your Mama and Daddy. Did you learn to sew or make crafts. Who who taught you to do this. Who are some of the best speakers you've ever heard. Tell me about canning and harvesting. Did you ever do eh. What spiritual legacy would you like to leave for others. It's a neat book. I don't know if it can still be ordered. It's produced by countryman publishing publishing. I'll try to find a link for input it on in the notes for this show but if not there are so many questions that you can ask your loved want in documented. Ask them what they did for a living when when they were in their twenties what their first job was did they enjoy it. Tell me about about that job. Tell me about your high school where there are a bunch of people in it. Did you make good grades. Did you ever get sent to the principal's office when you're a little little kid in school. Did you ever get expelled. Did you ever get in trouble for bad grades. Did you get rewarded for good grades. See there's so many questions you can ask. Tell me about when you met my mom. Where did you meet her. What was your first date. Did you kiss her on the first date now. Come on tell me the truth did you. You kiss her. These are all questions that you can ask in you can write down their answers and you can have them for the future because they may be like my mom and not the least inch didn't take the time to write all that down so you can do it for them or you can take your phone and record that conversation and then later. Maybe you WANNA GONNA. TRANSCRIBE IT and give it to others in your family but recording it on your phone is such a wonderful thing to have in one day when when you are on the other side of that journey journey you will look back in you can press play and you can hear their voice. Oh I love doing that with those videos in audience I have of Mama. I have some a momma. I'm a crying as she prayed and prayed for children. How beautiful values outbreak smart. I can't listen to those very often but in gauge them in conversation then about the past now. Why do we ask them about the past and not the last job they had 'cause. You gotTA remember with Alzheimer's Type Dementia. We are losing our memories in the reverse order in which we gained them so if they're going to forget anything is the most recent past they're. GonNa Forget I in. They're gonNA keep working their way back so they are living back in time so if you ask them about high school and they were in high school in the nineteen forties or the nineteen fifties fifties they most likely still. GonNa Remember that if you ask them about what job their daddy did for living a Betcha. They're going to remember that in and that's a wonderful conversation for you to have tell me about GRANDPA. What kind of work did he do. Did he have black hair as a young kid. 'cause I remember Abraham have dark colored hair but did he have black kid hair. Do you remember that was dark. Scandal was he light-skinned those kinds of questions that you can ask in learn. Abacha loved ones how neat that would be in. Maybe you'll know more about them than just the fact that your granddaddy got arrested for bootlegging that is this claim to fame. I don't know there's gotta be something better. I can tell you about him but right now. All I can tell you another story about my granddaddy is I remember him sitting on the patio outside side of his house with his gingers in his hand and filing tool out of his toolbox while they filed down his own dentures that is not the story she won't to remember. You want to have something else besides that but honestly right now I cannot tell you what he did for a living. I don't know but something you know somewhere along the line. Somebody should have written that down down in that is GONNA be. Your job is to do that for your loved one just something for you to think about today. You got nothing else doing your caregiving journey but you really donate to stop and take time in visit visit with your L. O. Ask them these questions. Bring them into that conversation as you enter their world in when you do you're gonNA find out that it it will bring a sense of accomplishment because they are participating in life. You are enjoying what's going on. They are enjoying what's going on all around. It's a good experience in when you have it for the future so give that a try anything we can do to bring our loved ones into the day to day. Experiences of our world is good. They cannot enter our our world. We got in there but we do that by bringing to them things. They can be successful in in talking about their long ago. Past is one of those things wealthed well a special thank you to the National Association of Veterans and families as they come along side and help support our ministries call them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine till them. You want to know how to get benefits for your loved. One Who is a veteran or the spouse of a veteran telling tales. Incheon have a great day go your. Ll Blesses minds. Thanks for joining us today for Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available eligible on Amazon in paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes. Remember knowledge brings brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today and we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Life Is Always Changing
"Senior life journeys presents carol howls. Let's talk dementia a podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles sales in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author carol. Welcome to let stop dementia. I am carol. How will of your host internationally certified dementia practitioner and author of the amazon bestselling book. Let's talk mench dementia reminisce and worship as as well as mommy is confused in so am i three books that you want to check out. I hope you will do that. You can find him on amazon and on our website site w._w._w. Dot let's talk dementia dot o._r._g. A special thank you to the sponsors for today show national association of veterans and families. You can reach him at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine or w._w._w. Dot n. a. v. af dot o._r._g. Tell them that carol saints you when you call to find out about benefits for the veteran spouse the veteran or both they are amazing people and we do love the folks looks at national association of veterans families well today. I wanted to take a few minutes to reminisce with you about a meeting. I just had with a wonderful lady eighty nine madeline and i enjoyed meeting with her. It was a very relaxing and enjoyable time as we swapped stories about our mamas and <hes> or in her case her mom and i loved her accent in. We had a great time together and she commented that. I have an accent also. I don't think i have an accident. What do you folks think surely know how people tell me. I sound southern imagine that well. She does not sound southern. Let me tell you but we were talking about. She you had mentioned that she wished that she could just know invade prepared for the future and was gonna go on in about the time she thinks she has things figured out. Life changes his honour. Well you know that's life isn't it and that's what her and i talked about. That's not just a characteristic of dementia journey. Only that is characteristic of life. We think we have life figuring out and then a curveball comes our way and we've got to figure out how to handle it want to do with it and and we can take those life situations and <hes>. Let's bring us down. Let them depress us. Bring us into a state eight of being that is not pleasant for us or for those around us or we can take those life situations and trust god's got a plan because he told us he does have a plan the jeremiah twenty nine eleven and i don't think he just made that up in romans eight twenty eight. We're taught that all of those things work together for god's plan which is is for good for us and i believe that the dementia journey does call to mind how hard that is many days to remember and to to act upon just when life seems to settle out and you've got a routine down in you. I figured out son downing and you've got medications adjusted. Something new comes up in a new symptom shows up that you didn't have to deal with two who weeks ago or even yesterday in you realize that it's not just a one off that it's going to be going on ongoing for your loved one in now you've really got to make <hes> plans make a new plan and that's not always easy but in my caregiving journey with my mom there there was conflict for me knowing that i wasn't the only one facing that that everybody else going through caregiving of really any kind was facing that same journey at some point in their experience also ethic is true. No matter what the diagnosis is that you might be caregiving for someone in an heck when you think about caregiving for children now only have one child in so. I didn't do this a lot. Some of you have lots of children. Let's grandchildren got a lot more experience at this than i do but i can remember about the time. I thought i had my little girl figuring out. She developed a new interest or she quit like in the food that she'd always he's liked or she. No longer wanted to wear shorts that she loved every day and always make sure we're clean she changed and i was constantly having having to change with her her in to adapt to keep up with her growing in tuesday for this idea or that idea or her knowledge gaining and changing how she felt about things i had to constantly be adjusting who i was to keep up with her in that way so life is all about change but in that caregiving journey the problem is the changes aren't happy changes whereas they were with my daughter. I watched her grow and develop intellect tint knowledge of personality and humor and all those things that make her who she is today. I watched that develop knowing we were working towards something i think fun and good and wonderful in a in a formation of a wonderful character and a human being with dementia we're looking at all of those things things coming together to lead towards an end point of them passing away in leaving us after we've done all that dang work in. It just doesn't seem fair. Does it yet to giggle about it because it is true <hes> and that that is the big difference. The end of the caregiving journey for a child is different than the end of caregiving journey for someone who has a fatal disease and and you've got to remember that alzheimer's is a fatal disease and they will die because of alzheimer's unless a wonderful curious fan boy. Don't we hope that happens but not being being able to predict what life is like is it's normal in that hopefully will give you some peace to know that what you're dealing with is normal as as normal as life can be. I can tell you that with my mom as i look back on her days and my caregiving experiences with her are there were days that when i left her. I wish that i could have stayed longer. There were days that if i didn't go. I wish i had of gone on but still i know that within myself i was doing what i could for her. Every single day in the joy that you bring into the life of your your loved one with dementia is the key that is that's your goal when you wake up each morning outside of fading and dressing and bathing living in taken to the bathroom your goal is to bring joy into their life. Your goal is not to get them to remember because they're not going to be able to. You've you've got to enter the world where they are and experience the world as closely as you can as they do but in that process you're thinking thinking. How can i bring joy. How can i bring happiness and that's the challenge finding those things that bring joy into your loved. One's life and you know your love better than anything anybody so think about those things that they used to do. And how can you take them in modify them to be something that they enjoy now. This makes me think about my mom was a phenomenal seamstress. She sewed for everybody and <hes> everything she was beautiful. I mean she was she could cut things out without a pattern and they would come together. Make address. I don't know how you do that but i didn't even cut cut them out with well. With a pattern i could mess up the cutting out part really quickly. I could so but could that cutting out part but mama could do it all in her. <hes> late stages of dementia type alzheimer's while she was in memory care one day i took in plato and had <hes> forms like cookie cutters where you cut out stars and hearts and shapes and ridden blue and green and <hes> she was had no roller and she was rolling out the plato in cutting cutting out the shapes and lining them up on a mass so that the red heart wit on the red map that was the red heart went on the red heart that was on the mat that and she said this is like sewing must really tell me about that. She's a will you have to cut out shapes and put them together to tomake address in this is true. It's absolutely true in she was cutting out shapes and putting them on a mat made and the shapes out of plato ada she enjoyed it and it was a feeling of accomplishment was something i had no clue. My mom was going to endure. I just decided to give it a shot and we play plato together several times times so think about those things that you can do with your loved one to bring joy and when you find them you know what's going to happen. It's going to bring joy into your world and you're going to have a good time and you're gonna find that when they're in the middle of that doing that activity that they enjoy you will have more cognitive moments with them in the middle of obama activity being it you would then you would have if you hadn't done that activity. It's quite interesting. Put them in a relaxed mode in that's a good time to try to to have a little bit of a conversation with the you'll get further with it. It's it's miraculously thing because you're entering their world and you're bringing happiness to them. You wanna make me happy. You make me happy. I'm probably going to be in a better mood in beezer to be around to write it. I mean it's not rocket science. We're talking your folks so that's just what i was thinking about after having met with madeline today which i hope she's having a good day as she's thinking about her. Mum well especial. Thank you shoutout <music> out again to our sponsors national association veterans and families eight hundred three five two two nine nine when you call them ask them about aid and attendance benefit till tell them carol told you to call and ask about it see if it's a benefit that your love when might qualify ford to help with the care directly related to their physical being. I hope you have a good day day and i want you to finish this episode and walk into the next room or go. See your loved one and tell them hello and you love them and give them a hug 'cause. I wish i could do that unless seasons miles on your day. Thanks for joining us today for carol howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on amazon paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes. Remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles oils and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today and we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Being More Grateful
"Senior life journeys presents Carol hells. Let's talk dementia appalled. Cast designed to help care givers. Find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here is your host bestselling author. Carol hal. Welcome to let talk dementia. I Carol how coast, and I thank you for joining me today chickens out at let's talk dementia dot ORG, go to YouTube and look up our channel. Let's talk dementia, and you will find a whole bunch of videos there. Now, hope you enjoy them. All let's talk dementia. Sponsored by national association of veterans families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine and their website is WWW dot in VF's dot ORG. Natve offers veterans assistance in obtaining well-deserved service connected disability, and they're quick to refer veterans to other organizations that can benefit them contact them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine tell them Carol sent you will today on into to talk with you about maybe you just need to be a lunar more rightful than what she'd been lately. And no, I don't know what all's going on in your world. But I do know that we. We as a whole are not as grateful as we should be heavy ever seen that do you know that to be true? I can tell you. It's very easy to find the negative in your world, and to dwell on it to just sit there and roost while you dwell on the negative while you know, all that does is make you miserable. And all the people around you miserable in it does nothing to fix the problem. There are people in my world that can be in. Well, let let's let's bring it down to something very every day. There can be an entire box of wonderful doughnuts. And there would be one doughnut in there that didn't taste good. And there are people in my world who will do nothing. But complain about the one doughnut that didn't taste good in. They will forget that all the rest of them tasted wonderful. Do you know people like that? Well, I think you do I think we all do, and it is annoying as all get out. But you know. What don't go throw in blaming tossing it too hard? 'cause sometimes it'll bounce back in Hitchin in the face because we do it. We forget to be thankful. We forget to look for the little things in our life on week expect to, you know, offer thanksgiving for the big things, but we forget to offer thanksgiving for the little things nothing when you're in the middle of dementia care giving journey or any kind of caregiving journey. We become so overwhelmed with all the stuff. We gotta do all my word on an endless list of things that are loved one needs in all the questions that we answer over and over and over again, we get so overwhelmed by all that that it's very hard to remember to stop to breathe to think and thanked. And that's what I want us to think about today stopping breathing thinking and thanking sometimes you just need to stop you need to stop everything you're doing get yourself away. I've told you before. For go sit on a rob you need to stop you need to think you need to think think about life. They about what's going on around. You think about all of your family, all your friends think about something other than dementia, and you need to thank you need to be thankful for all the things that are going on that make life good. Even in the midst of all of you, all of what you've got going on you need to think. So we need to stop. We need to think and we need to thank. So as visiting with my friend, Linda over the weekend. What wonderful time I had sitting out on her screen room at the lake hearing the water seeing the bows being relaxed rubbing her dog curled up in my lap. She said should read this book, it is called one thousand gifts in its written by an Voskamp. Now, I am about sixty pages. Into it. It's not a long book, but an writes, very poetically in my brain doesn't think poetically? So it's a bit of a slow read for me. But boy is it packed. She spends a lot of time talking about how in our world, we need to begin making a list of the one thousand gifts that we have she has listed things like the colors in the soap bubble as she washes dishes, clean sheets. Smelling like the wind hot oatmeal tasting like home in bear toes in early life. So it's not the big things we're talking about. It's the little things she says she's making pizza. She says I roll out the dough sprinkled dream cheese on round pizza. Dan, a feel how the sun lies down warm across hands in how faints soaks through the pores. I think how God glory in a cheese ring. Might seem trifling even offensive to focus. The lens of a hard on the minute in a world mangled and maimed in desperately empty. I know there is poor and hideous suffering, and I've seen the hungry and the guns that go to war. I have lived pain in my life can tell it. I only deepened the wound of the world though, when I neglect to give thanks for early light dabbled through leaves and the heavy perfume of wild roses in early June and the song of crickets on humid nights and the rivers that run and the stars that rise and the rain that falls in all the good things that a good guide gifts. Why would the world need more anger or more outrage? How does it save the world to reject unabashed joy when it is joy that saves. Us. Rescuing joy are rejecting joy to stand in solidarity with the suffering doesn't rescue the suffering say that again, rejecting joy to stand in solidarity with the suffering doesn't rescue the suffering. The converse is true the brave who focused on all things. Good in all things. Beautiful in all things. True. Even in the small who give thanks for it in discovery, joy, even in the here. And now they are the change agents who bring fullest light to all the world so beautifully written. And so truth, we need to be thinking about the small things. I thought about that somewhat as I was sending it sitting on Linda's porch because I did take time to stop I stopped everything. I was doing I left my phone in her living room. I took time to think just to sit there and relax to admire nature to think how blessed I was to have a friend to sit with in head time with Bank to be thankful. What challenge you to do is maybe to start that list? Maybe you could come up with one thousand things in your world, you're thankful for it'll be the little things that you're going to start writing down. It will be the small things. It will be the fat that your alarm clock went off in. You didn't have recently that when you ran out of your favorite lotion, you remembered you had some more in the closet. It will be that you had your favorite breakfast, any tasted so good. It will be that the traffic light down at the corner. Didn't stop you. Or it will be when you open the file for particular letter. It came to you right away. You didn't have to search for it. See it's the little things that bring us joy the big things. Yeah, they're happy to, but we don't get new houses and buy new cars and win publishers clearinghouse everyday, much, less every minute. Much less every second because their respect we have blessings. Yeah. It was just kind of a calming thought on it relaxes, my heart and mind think my world is full of blessings mama's dying of advance Alzheimer's. But my mom is saying with me today. Mama recited the Lord's prayer. With me today. I'm so thankful. She did that, mama. Eight a really good lunch. I'm thankful for that momma was able to get back in her chair and take a nap I'm thankful for that. I was able to leave her and go for lunch myself. My husband, and I and no mama is well cared for thankful for that. That about a million other things. All right. Let's see. I had my funny picked out wonder what the heck I did with it. I do not know. But if he's saying the cartoon of the two cell phones that are running up to the road refund. These toodle cell phones had legs, and I've got arms in there sits is really old rotary style. Telephone and the two cell phones are young out grandma. That's really cute. Isn't it? Oh, mercy. I think I will put that on my Facebook page. We haven't liked me on Facebook do that Carol. How will let stop dementia you'll see that picture. It's kind of neat law. Let's talk dementia is sponsored by national socialization veterans and families you can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine in their website is WWW dot in a the F dot O R G. They speak veteran. So you don't have to listens and smiles on your caregiving during. Thanks for joining us today for peril. Howls? Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend carols bestselling book, also, titled, let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon in paperback and kindle versions. Be sure to like, let's talk dementia on Facebook and leave us kind word of review on I tunes. Remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles, and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here. When you come back to let's talk dementia.
$100 Million Dollars
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia a podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles sales in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Welcome to let's talk. Dementia is how will your host and I'm glad you chosen to join me for yet another episode together. We look at Tiffany's good dementia care giving. I hope I say something that brings knowledge into your world because I believe knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles in Heaven's. No we need more smiles don't we it can't get enough smile. Little bit of laughter in there is a good thing to scriptures. Tell us laughter with good like a medicine so I can make you giggle. That's the thing I want to thank the sponsor for our show today National Association of Veterans and families you can reach him at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine or www dot in a v dot O. R. G. contact them for help getting benefits for the veteran the spouse of the better or for both folks. They are there to help you in. Tell them that Carol sent you well today. I wanted to talk about a new you act that was signed into law on December thirty first called bold B. L. D. an acronym. That stands stands for building. Our largest dementia be all day infrastructure for Alzheimer's act bold and I read read about it in the magazine Alzheimer's Today. If you don't get that little magazine it's free. You should google that. I'm not sure exactly what the website is but I know I signed signed up for is a beautiful color magazine think it comes out quarterly lots of good articles to read their. It's free there. You go so check that out so I'm going to read read to you a little bit from that article on. I'm not plagiarizing pretending these are my words but these are actually the worst room that article it sending sending on President. Donald Trump signed the bold act into law on December thirty first two thousand eighteen now the bold AC will deliver one hundred million in dollars over the next five years for the prevention treatment and care of Alzheimer's disease. Do I hear how Alina going on. I mean for Heaven's sakes. Thanks if there's one thing we know the world needs in their arm. Any this certainly is one of them. We've got to do something about this epidemic known as Alzheimer's. There's quoting it says America's Alzheimer's infrastructure is lacking according to two thousand Seventeen Rand Inc study they learned that even if a cure or disease modifying treatment for Alzheimer's was found America's healthcare system is unable able to rapidly deploy it or curate with resulting surge in demand. Let me read that I messed that up even if a cure or disease modifying treatment for Alzheimer's must found America's health care system is unable to rapidly deploy ORC with the resulting surge in demand. If there's one thing you learn listening to my show. I'm very real you know I could have re recorded that made me look better but life is just too real for me ended for you to they go on to say study findings indicate there are too few medical specialists to diagnose. Alzheimer's particularly in the early stages just when a new treatment could prevent the disease's progression to full blown dementia. Additionally researchers found an inadequate number of infusion centers. We're individuals can receive disease modifying treatment and medications now that supposing we had the disease modifying treatments and medications and hopefully one day we will but the boat at is GonNa work towards helping resolve some of those issues in our world enhance resources for state health departments greater help for health and the health and social service professions families and communities well that is what we are here for dementia on a small scale nothing like the ball. Dak Act for sure. I'm pretty sure I don't have one hundred million dollars to work with with met. Be something but reaching out to you in your caregiving journey. Let's talk about what's going going on in your journey is that's why this show is not called. Let's Talk Alzheimer's. Let's talk to manage. It's very personally gets down to the nuts and bolts of what's going on in your day to day world in how I might can help you with that but I can only reach so many people so this Bodak once implemented in a very effective way will reach more people in Hallelujah for that the article says bold also establishes centers of Excellence Excellence in public health practice to provide educational educational information about Alzheimer's brain health as well as promote support resources for individuals with Alzheimer's in their caregivers and again. That is what I I won't be for you. They bullet point the bold act objectives in let me read a few of those is to support early detection diagnosis reduced the risk of avoidable hospitalizations reduce the risk of cognitive decline support care planning and management all of these are good things and it's kind of neat to think that this is one of the few pieces of legislation that was passed by Congress that was bipartisan lied partisan. you know it wasn't just the Republicans that were interested or just the Democrats that are just independence that were interested. Everybody coming together to realize we've got a huge problem. In something has to happen somewhere. Somebody's got to figure out some some ways to handle the the process of finding a cure or developing a vaccine in how to administer it to our country throughout our world carol not just our country but our world is a huge thing I mean I know even with flu shots. I remember when we ran out of flu shots one year and of course that was ear. My husband and I both got the flu boy. Let me tell you that was not fun so there are all kinds of logistics involved in getting vaccine out much less developing being the vaccine and I know that a lot of companies that is what they're working towards. They are not well more and more companies are not working towards curing during Alzheimer's they are working towards preventing Alzheimer's that works for me folks if we can not get Alzheimer's in. We're not curate daily. It can become like other diseases from our past that used to just were horrific like polio. My Mama and her sisters had polio is children. Now there's polio Jio vaccine or measles mumps rubella all these different things that used to be horrific things in our world but now we can vaccinate against them and we don't get them so if we have have a vaccination for Alzheimer's. WHOA WHOA I'd be the first one in line. What about you yeah. I just wish it had happened before. My mom had to leave this world book it didn't but she always said if I can help just one person on their dementia caregiving journey because I've got this disease than it will have been worth did she was a sweet woman hearts with or you know that. I tell you that all the time because well. It's just real very real in my world right now but that's what's going on on to tell you a funny story that happened my daughter and my husband and I taught first grade sunny school some many years ago like probably twenty years ago but there was this time we have a time of prayer. What do you want us to pray about now. You have to know if you're working with a group of children. One of them wants you to pray for their grandma than the next six. Three people will want you to pray for grandma if one of them says pray for my dog in the next rebels say pray for my dog. That's just that goes but this one little kid said I want wants you to pray for. My neighbors and we're like okay. What about your neighbors in he said I don't think they're Christian. I think they might be Republicans. Oh my goodness. You know what it was. All I could do not draw on the floor laughing. Isn't that funny story. You know I don't know what kind the conversations were going on at the kitchen table his house but yet they weren't talking about God. Let me say so. That just made me laugh every time I think what about it makes me giggle. Now Hope it made you giggle to hope your caregiving journeys. Goodwin today in your makes you laugh makes you hope you make them laugh and you make in. GIGGLE in a hope you go hug. Martyring Carol said Hello and she hopes you're having a good day. That would be wonderful a special thank you to the National Association of Veterans Earns and Families for helping to Finance Ministry by advertising on this show. If you're interested in being an advertiser sure would like to talk with you. My email is Carol era at let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org and you can reach National Association of Veterans. At eight hundred three five to to nine one nine blessings smiles house on your caregiving journey Cenex time by thanks for joining us today for peril howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend commend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon in paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes. Remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles miles. Thanks for joining us today and we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Young Caregivers Are Amazing People
"Senior life journeys presents carol howls. Let's talk dementia a podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles sales in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author carol. Welcome to let's talk dementia i imperial. How will your host internationally certified dementia practitioner amazon bestselling author. Thank you for joining me today. Check us out on amazon. You'll you'll find our books. There and you also find everything we produce at our website. Let's talk dementia dot o._r._g. And i'm gonna tell you folks. I've been working really hard updating getting that website. So you really need to go check it out. I would like to thank the sponsor for our show helps finance our ministry is we help people in seventy eighty five countries in that <hes> partner is national association of veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to due to nine. One nine in their website is w._w._w. Dot in a v f dot o._r._g. If you call and leave a message passage tell them carol with. Let's talk dementia sent you if you are a veteran or the spouse service veteran in you are seeking assistance in applying for benefits. Well honey need that supply. She wanna go. Don't call vehicles that will drive you crazy. Call these folks. They make the process easy their motto. Is we speak veteran so you don't have to eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on previous podcast on <hes> talked about a young lady named hope who was taking care of her grandmother other well. I got an email from julianne and she to took care of her grandmother and i wanted to read to you what she had to say. She's at hi carol. I was listen to your podcast this morning. When you were addressing a woman who is taking care of her grandmother. I am writing to lift up the back that there are young people who are caregivers. My grandmother with lewy body dementia lived with my mother. My two younger sisters in i was in my twenties. My grandmother had been living in assisted living for years until she who was injured when she fell down a flight of stairs due to hallucination so paul's here and go out that was not fun. She was able to live as part of a family emily in the suburbs but pretty soon both my younger sisters moved out of state and even my mother's job moved two hours away so it was just me and grandma left at the time am i didn't get she says in quotes or didn't understand dementia and i didn't even realize i was a caregiver until a woman stopped me on the way to willing my grandma to church in asked if that was my job and if she could hire me it was my first time dealing with social workers e._m._t.'s office on aging doctors medications in looking for nursing home. I'm thirty three now. My grandmother passed away years ago and now i get or understand dan dementia. It's thanks to resources like your podcasts and blogs that have helped me. I talked to everyone. Including children and young adults about dementia inch was because it caught me by surprise but it's not going away soon out julianne. Thank you so much for riding and i am so glad that you were there for for your grandmother and i know you see a lot of similarity between you and hope and you're exactly right but i'm gonna tell you in my world in the ten years that i've been doing this. I've not seen many hopes in julian's. It's just <hes>. I just don't see a lot of grandchildren stepping up to the plate but i'm so pleased that you to folks listen. At least these two i know about are doing that and i'm also glad that my podcast has been a benefit to you. I'll tell you not getting are not understanding. Dementia is exactly why let's talk dementia exist in all our various forms. I want people to understand dementia so that they're not not afraid to be the caregiver for grandma and that they are equipped when they go into that setting to do the best they can do for grandma and take care of themselves south at the same time in that the challenge <hes> in you listeners know that if you are actively involved in that caregiving it's difficult in like changes constantly that why we are here for you. I can tell you that when you are a grandchild caregiving. It is a different experience on. We've got to admit that if you're caring for your spouse it feels one way. If you're caring for your parents it feels one way and if you're caring for your grandparent feels different way you you know when you are married you realize that you say for better or worse till death to his part probably means that one of us gonna wind up caring for the other <hes> in the very last today's very likely in caring for them to some degree or the other. I don't know so much that we think about that. <hes> when we realize we have grandparent's <hes> my grandmother had alzheimer's. She passed away from <hes> advanced alzheimer's. She lived in florida. I lived in south carolina. At the time i was not actively the baltimore grandmother's care at all and i wonder if i have lived close by if i would've been and i honestly don't know the answer to that at that point in my grandmother's and mother's journey i really knew very little about dementia and alzheimer's my journey with that started when my sweet mama there gene was diagnosed in august two thousand thousand six so grandma had been gone for several years but years by the but i don't think there was ever time in my life that i thought i need to be actively involved in the care of my grandparents. <hes> i don't know that never came to my mind and i have a feeling that i might not be alone in that scenario but there are many many of you who are caring for grandparents in for you or to you. I say thank you very much. Thank you for looking beyond your sale. In beyond your world world to reaching out to our elders. I have just attended a meeting where they were talking about blue zone in you know there are i think six blue zones sons in the world where people live a long time. <hes> you know being over a hundred is not as big of a deal as it is right here because there's lots of people over a hundred in these people are vegans and and they walk a lot and they interact a lot and they have a lot of social engagements they have spiritual basis acess to their world and you know what they do with their seniors honey they keep them all at home in the home you might find mama and daddy and the children and some grandchildren and grandma in may be great grandma grandma grandma and grandpa all and great grandma and grandpa all all in the same home. It is different some parts the world than what we experienced here in the united states. It seems to me in the work that i do. I see families trying to get rid of their loved ones in if they get dementia inch all boy. They really don't want to deal with that now. I'm not talking about making decision to put them into a good assisted living or memory care. I think that's an excellent the idea you can afford to do so and it's a good community as the two things but there are family members who just moved their loved ones the end and walk away. I think ms badia friend of mine whose family paid her bill every single month from the day she moved in and far as i know she still in the same community in been there <hes> ten years in they've never once come to see her. What is that about folks. I don't get that and i'm telling you it's wrong. There is nothing about that scenario that's right. You can't give me an excuse for that makes it right. It's not right so when i get emails like from julianne in for my my friend hope and find out how actively involved they were or are in their grandmothers care while it just warms my heart so i say thank you for that well. I hope you're caregiving journeys a good one. <hes> and i hope you continue to check out our podcast or books on amazon. Go to our website. I'll tell you we are rush <hes> soon to be by the time you hear this. We probably already will be on roku. Amazon fire stick with our videos so called. Let's assault dimension with carol. How will check it out on amazon fire stick in on route roku work on youtube and facebook and twitter in instagram over just everywhere let special thanks to our sponsor of helps finance our ministry as we reach out to folks <hes> all over the world world. We are faith based not for profit. We don't charge for services but we certainly accept donations. If you're so inclined you can go to our website. Let's talk dementia dot o._r._g. And make a donation in we do appreciate it but our sponsor is national association of veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine their website. Hi is w._w._w. Dot in the dot o._r._g. Entailed him carol sent you. You're gonna love those people just some of the sweetest books on the planet. You guys have have a great day. Go be good to somebody and smile. Just make everybody want around. You wonder what you've been up to. That's made you smile. Let people wonder not like like that. Take care bye. Thanks for joining us today for carol howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on amazon in paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review view on. I tunes remember. Knowledge brings power power brings hope hope brings smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today and we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
New Veterans Program For In Home Care
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Hi Caregivers welcome to. Let's talk dementia. In Carol how you're hosting always. I'm glad that we are together today. Well we're in another day of this quarantine business are you bored. I know that you're busy. Caregiving but also recognized. Not being able to do some of the things that you normally do with your loved. One the person you're caregiving for my just called you to be a little bit bored. I know potentially that. Well I am. I read to my malls or fallout right. Get some good news. Yesterday I wanted to share with you One of the sponsors for this podcast in video series is the National Association of Veterans In Families. And you can find them at. Www DOT in a v F dot Org. Now ask our tag at the end of the show. Says they are there to help you. Get benefits for the veteran spouse veteran in both the biggest benefit in this journey of dementia caregiving giving that veterans and their families need to get into dough about so they can get is called aid and attendance done several shows about eight and but just off the top. It is money available for the veteran and the spouse of the weather veteran and or actually who has a physical need for the care directly related to their person. They had honorable discharge from a branch of the service and they served at least one day during a time of war now they may have been pushing a pencil that whole time but they were serving in active As inactive duty while the war was going on they had to use this money received from eight and attendance to pay for in home care or forces to living well just yesterday learned. And I'm excited about the US. There is a new benefit that is even less known about that is called veteran. Directed Hung Community based services program. Now do that. One Again. Veteran directed home community based service program. Now what this program does and get my notes here in front of me because I want to say for you properly as I was learning it from Mister Joe at National Association of Veterans and families. Yesterday I made some notes are making noises here in the background It is based on the level of care. The veteran needs now. It is only for. The veteran is not for the spouse. Unfortunately you have to be enrolled in. Va Services on. You have to get evaluated by a doctor in the V. The veteran a we'll beat with the social worker. Who HAS I have understood? The past always does come to the veteran and they can receive up to twenty one hundred dollars a month. Get this for the spouse to take care of that person. I don't know if it can be someone besides the spouse but I imagine there's there's got to be some kind of provision for folks that one never had a spouse or to. The spouses passed in on some other family members. Taking care of a of them but in other words it's for care inside the home without going to an assisted living or hiring accompanied to come into the home. It pays the family to help with those expenses. So veteran directed in their title veteran director. I'm supposing as the veteran decides where the money would go home. Community veteran directed home community the home community being keeping the services inside the home without blowing outside the home into an assisted living or hiring a licensed in homecare company. Now I think that's absolutely wonderful. Here's the catch. It's not available in all fifty states right now I do not know why You would think that if it's A. VA program which is a national program that it's been released that every state would have to be Online with it and I'm sure eventually that is true There are a lot of states that it's in development but currently right now has not been approved but I wanted to just quickly go over the list of the twenty eight states that do have this program available if you are then. If you need help your family needs help with your care in the home setting for Based on your level of care then you need to contact National Association of Veterans and families. Eight hundred three five to to nine one nine. I'm just GonNa Check your you know the girl. Thanks i've got that phone number in my head and truly i should by now but i wanna make sure i said it to you correctly. And let's see hold on. Don't let me God's is coming here. Eight hundred three five to to nine one nine. Tell Him Carol sent you and you won't information about eight and attendance. I and if you don't qualify for that than information about veteran directed home community based services program that is a long title is it not but these are the states for the veteran directed program that qualify and they are Hawaii Alaska Washington Oregon Idaho Montana Utah. Colorado South Dakota Michigan California Wisconsin Illinois Ohio Missouri. Arkansas Texas Tennessee Virginia Washington DC Pennsylvania New York Vermont Massachusetts New Hampshire Maine South Carolina. Florida import theory. Go I just like saying it like that. This is close to a Spanish accent. Is this other girl's GonNa have but Also find out about eight in attendance in. It's available in every State National Association Veterans Families Will Help. You obtain those benefits. They don't charge you for their services. How incredible is that? We love free stuff do we. Not Well I hope in your caregiving journey. You are finding some hope in the midst of the grown of virus that you are feeling less stressed than you did. Yesterday I had the opportunity while I was riding my bike today. Which is my stress reliever. Love doing that. I A recumbent trike. So don't fall off in you don't pedal up and down you pedal in and out on a on a recumbent trike. I absolutely love it in. Get good music in my ear. I listen to podcasts. Sometimes to date myself but today I listen to Reverend Max Lucado and he was talking about stress in stressful times and anxiety and depression and how Christian Christians have all that it is not Unchristian to be anxious. It is not Unchristian to have depression into need help. It is not you guys but what he said was when life gives you lemons. You make lemonade right. That's right you don't suck on Lemons all day long. Well not a thought there. You take what you've got you worked. Make it something better that something good will come out of it. You don't dwell on negative thing you work through it in. We will work through this. What the outcome is going to be? Don't know what your finances will look like what his with. Don't know what mine will don't know who will have corona virus. Donna who will make it through it. Who Will Pass? We don't know you know what you didn't know any of those things beforehand because there are so many things that can happen in our life to change our life story is they're not in did you have control rhythms now. You did not but what we do have control over is how we respond in Annan who we put our faith and I had been put in quite a bit of Fay in my little grid. I've got over here on my desk. Where a marking off my savings plan and how close I am to reaching it each Damn Gay Carol. We're getting there we're getting. They're getting a lot of faith in care all day and there's nothing being marked off and I'm wondering. Are we going to need some of it to pay our bills just inside? No you guys are wave. I mean who has lost job unless you're in just a few specific industries in even if you are in those industries you've watched your savings clubs really bad right. It's affecting all of us but in the midst of that God is still on the throne. He still has control. He still holds US right there in the palm of his hand. You'll still see us through it. And I guarantee you runs eight twenty eight. My most favorite verse is still true for. We know that all things were together for good to them that love God to those who are the call according to his purpose. I'm claiming that blessing to smile. See You on the next episode of. Let's talk dementia. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and Families? You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at. Www dot n. a. v. f. Dot. Org They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran the spouse of the veteran or both editor bed you can find Miss Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing at looking at what you've written and making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county halo. Three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for our house. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on. Itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. 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Birthing Of The Soul
"Senior life journeys presents Carol hal's. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help care givers. Find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here is your host bestselling author Carol Hal. Welcome to let's talk dementia. I am here. How will your host is always an honor to have you join us as we talk about dementia, dementia care, giving and the processes that follow and especially my world right now? When I am right in the middle of the death experience the passing experience for my mama. I would like to thank our host national association of veterans families, you can reach them at eight hundred three five to, to nine one nine and their website is WWW dot in a the F dot O. R G Naveh offers veterans assistance in obtaining well-deserved service connected disability in their quick to refer veterans to other organizations that can they could benefit from also it's pretty neat. Tell them Carol sent you at eight hundred three five to, to nine one nine. If you've been following our show for awhile, you know that our company. Let's talk dementia. With started ten years ago, because my mama VERA in her diagnosis of Alzheimer's. Mama was diagnosed in August of two thousand six so she's a long ways enter this journey as I record this today. It has made twenty six two thousand nineteen mama has exceeded the lifespan average lifespan for someone with Alzheimer's in she has done it beautifully. And with a lot of grace, and I kidded her that many times that her new name change to hi. My name is VERA, I have Alzheimer's. She's told everybody she wasn't shy about it at all. And it did open up doors of opportunity for other folks to experience life through. My is, is they also were kinder to her because they knew that's what she was dealing with was also good for me because then I didn't have to beat them up for not being good, demo-, mama. You know, you gotta be good to my mama. We're not gonna take lists in that, right? We stand up for those votes, who are traveling this journey an for the caregivers in that why this podcast. It's is on the air, it's for you, because I know that what you're traveling, what you're dealing with is unique. Your journey is different from everybody else's Mijoni is different from yours. But I think we can learn from each other in. That's what I wanna do is to bring knowledge, power hope and smiles into your world. Well mama is now about eighteen days of having gone without food on not abide in eighteen days. She is drinking less and less. Each day. I am recording this at about eight o'clock at night in as of this calendar day, momma might have consumed six ounces for answers somewhere around there. Just not much so her body is slowly slowly slowly going away. And. There are times looking at her as painful, and then there's times I just see such beauty in the process of what she's going through. And I think this process process that she's going to giving us so much time to say to her, those things we wanna say so that when she's ready to go, we can let her go with peace, and I'm at that point, I'm ready for moment to go. I'm ready for her to go to heaven and to celebrate and have a fully functioning brain how cool is that I mentioned on the Facebook show that I do Monday through Thursday. Mornings at eight fifteen you can find it by just go into my page, Carol Howe or let dementia or YouTube. It's all their YouTube under. Let's talk mentioned. But I mentioned last week that I was going to be talking about the similarities between birth think and dying talk to you about today in the process. One of my friends, miss Jean Lee with AL Z authors dot com. Check it out. It's a whole. Host books about Alzheimer's in Alzheimer's care giving in minor there. She wrote me and said that someone had told her the for are used with her the phrase, birthing of the soul now that just feels better. May I don't like saying the word dying. You don't think dying, I think trees dying and flowers dying and darkness and falling apart. And that's not what I think about, when I think about my mom, you seem a moment is not really dying. Her body is, but who in what mommy is hurt essence, her being her, so her spirit are so very much, not dying. They are very, very busy birthing themselves to have in the birthing of the soul that changing from death into life where we go from what we understand in what we see in. We can touch to that state of being that we don't understand. That we can't see that we can't touch, but is so very real in so beautiful in so wonderful. And why would I not want my mom debate there? She is struggling, and she has some pain, not a lot, but she has nothing really going on in her world. Why would I want her to stay like that instead of going to heaven to see her anchor her master that she has lived her life, for awhile won't that for her the birthing of the so like at will when we think about the birthing process for baby? It always brings a lot of excitement in on wonder and I'll just not knowing what the future holds in is just so exciting. And you just can't wait for that belly to Pajau, John, you begin to see the visible signs of this new life. That's going on. You have all the unknowns really of how it all happens. Yeah. We understand what caused the pregnancy, you know, we can redesign booking understand that. But we don't understand what causes that egg. And sperm to unite. We don't understand what causes those sales to divide multiply and to form into human being way. Don't understand that. Well, it links, Carol doesn't, but unknown it happens. And I'm excited about that in so are all other people that have babies on the way the unknowns though, of what the future will be for the new parents in the new baby. That's part of their experienced to while will the pregnancy bay like what will the birthing process be like, what will life be like his parents when the dying process we experienced similar things we have excitement and all in wonder over Vanu, lie that this person is going to be experiencing when they do pass from death into live. Yeah. We have sadness. We I've had a lot of it lately. But in that process for those who call themselves Christians who are children of God. We have that excitement for the future, but we have. The unknowns of how it will all happen in this situation to just as in the birth of a baby. We don't know how is that. The individuals soul leaves the body, you know, we hear stories about people who have had near death experiences or in talked about seeing angels and angels. Coming in. Scooping them up or whatever you're a lot of stories. I've not had one can't batch for any of them, but the unknowns of how we lead this body still are mystical tomat-, but we know it happens. And as a believer in the almighty in the give rebel good perfect gifts. I know that, that so leaves in his India's Rinat reunited with the Lord have that happens gotten a clued, but I'm excited about it, and the unknowns of what the future will be for the parents in the baby or part of the experience in the unknowns for that person who's. Leaving family behind unknowns for that family are part of the death experience. A lot of unknowns, you know, while giving birth in that process, the husband or the family member, whomever is with that person is, they're cheering them on, and tell them, they're, they're doing it. Good job in helping them to breathe into pant and all that good stuff. They learned in laws, which didn't work for me. One bit, I was happy to have a little shot of epidurals. I was no good at that. But some of you guys were excellent at it, right? In someone. That was their offering sips of water in wiping. Your braille and cheering you on your having a baby. You're doing so good. Keep up the good work. We known the death process is similar, we want our families in our friends there beside us in and you get to the point like my mom is where I'm swabbing her mouth in dropping Food, Lion. Orange soda into her mouth using straw, because she's not real good at sucking it anymore. I'm telling her she's doing. Good job mama. You can go to heaven. We're going to take care of everything there in. It's so wonderful beautiful air. You're gonna enjoy it. I have to stop right here until you that last week while who knows what day it is. My days are very confused. But one day in the recent past my mom was laying in her bed, and she'd been there or she's been in the bid all these days for about eighteen days now, but that particular day she had not moved much hadn't said much, and just really not much of anything going on. I was sitting in the chair in the corner. Got nice and relaxed. And every time I moved from the side of her bed to the chairman corner with my book in Madrid in a blanket, you know, Ma pillow and got situated that's when she would call a night for dying time. The little woman had figured out, so I got out comfy in. She goes. Oh, what is going on in? I get up and throw everything floor go over, and I put my arms on my momma shoulders backup one mama. It is so beautiful, and I said, tell me what do you sing? She said. Oh, I'm going to love it here. That's what she saying, so cool. So that, that process that we go through. There are moments of joy and excitement in it for us. The person who is passing and for the loved ones while the body changes in pregnancy. We know this for sure Araya's, I said earlier, we look forward to win that body that belly starts Putin out in weakened. See visible signs that new life is beginning. Can't wait for that happened in that belly go back flat again to, you know, we just can't make people have began. We, we see the body change in a lot of ways as it prepares for. That giving of birth that new life. The female body has to go through a lie. Well in the body of someone who is dying that change happens to there are a lot of changes that take place. The individual will see their extremities being less useful to them. They can't use them as well. I can tell you at this present time. Mom really is only moving her right arm did say your mover left-hand yesterday's first time. I've seen that in a while she can't move her legs anymore, and her skin is changing. She's getting some bedsores. And that's oh, I hate that part of it. They make me cringe to look at him. Her color is changing her. Her mouth is changing so much so that she took her dentures out on her own, when we arrived yesterday, she taking her dentures out. So the, the body changes in both ways breathing changes. You know, when you're giving birth pains of a birth the birth pains, we handle those with that short bursts of breathing to help control the pain in deep inhales, and periods of holding the breath in pushing. And then after it's all over with the breathing returns to normal in the dying process. The breathing changes also we see periods of very shallow. Breathing are folks start breathing from their belly rather than their chest in. It's never date breath, then all of a sudden, they hold their breath. And, and then there's a big inhalation and then back to that pattern another similarity between the two processes is with birthweight time contractions. How? Long that contraction last we've got the clock on it. And it's been three minutes since you had one maybe we should go to the hospital in the dying process. We time the intervals in between the breasts. How long it's been since our loved one has breathed way watch that chest watch it go up and down for some people. The birthing process is slow in for some people it moves quickly and for some people, the dying process is slow likeness for mama in for some people. It goes quickly. There are so many similarities between the two and there's a lot more. We could talk about, but those were just a few that are on my mind. It kind of helps me to, to think about what my mom is going through into put it in light of the good side of each of those things that she's experiencing. I am so thankful that she's peaceful, and has had very little pain in that she is she doing. Thing she's doing slow as all get out. Let me tell you, but mama has for the last how many ever years, not minded being the center of attention and believe me, Yushi. She is that right now. But I am looking forward to my mama. Winging your way to heaven, finding her wrist her piece and that life with no pain, or discomfort with everything fully working walking all over God's heaven. Now, telling you, she's going to do it in high heel boots. You just wait and see she'll do high heel boots. She'll be the only one being able to do, but she'll be will do it. I want to thank our sponsors, national association of veterans and families. And you can reach him at eight hundred three five to, to nine one nine in their website is WWW dot. N. A V, F dot O. R J, tell them Carol sent you. Always like to have a little funny for you. I have a friend, Mr James Watkins, it does a cartoon called hope and humor, and you can find him on Facebook and clicked on this pitcher. But alas it won't pop up here there it goes. And he's got a picture of the icon that you can use for poop yono that icon. In the, the cartoon says what that's not Hershey kiss. Oh, I need to post some serious apologies. Isn't that funny? I do love love his funniness hope and humor. Sometimes he calls it. I think mope and murmur or something like that. But thank you, James, for that, when it was a good one, while have pitcher caregiving journey goes on that you'll continue to join us here on, let's talk dementia. Check us out on at let's talk. Dementia dot ORG. You'll find all our podcast, holler videos, the blonde and my bestselling books, you also soon. See our newest book called reminiscent worship soon as I get my hands on the printed copies. While I have you guys have a good day. I'll be back in touch with you, updating you on the momma, and I'd love to hear from you too. Email me Carol. At let's talk ninja, but our g residences miles, pawn your day. Thanks for joining us today for Powell howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend carols bestselling book, also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon in paperback and kindle versions, be sure to like, let's talk dementia on Facebook and leave us a kind word of review on, I tunes, remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles. And we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today, and we'll be right here when you come back to let's talk dementia.
Coronavirus Dont Talk About It!
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here is your host bestselling author Carol. Everyone I'm Carol. How welcome to. Let's talk dementia. Well today. We're GONNA talk about what everybody on. The planet is talking about Corona Virus. Oh my goodness is there a channel you can watch on TV or radio station? You can tune into or group of people who get together that don't talk about it. It's just it's what our world is all about. Well I am fifty nine years old. I think that's right While I will be this year and I never recall a time in my life. Wear anything like this has ever happened. Never I do remember when We were in looking for the the clocks to change over to the midnight hour for the year. Two thousand come in and everybody was freaking out with the computers. Due in the world would come to an end kinds of crazy stuff of course nothing like that happened. But that's as close to this kind of chaos in our world as I recall but sure enough. That's what we're dealing with. Well I know you're hearing everything don't do this. Don't do that and stay away from this and stay away from that and I'm not gonNa tell you all that stuff you've already heard fourteen times you don't need one more person telling you but I didn't WanNa put one thing in your brain that I want you to be very aware of in. Its don't don't talk about the virus. The Corona virus in front of your loved one with dementia. Don't do that. The last thing you need is for them to have negative thoughts on their mind. Negative thinking you want them to only have happy. Happy joy joy. You remember how we've talked about that before. That's what you want so I want you to spend your time in their time thinking about the happy. Happy parts of life in. They can't do that if their mind is full of the negative the scary the unknown the uncertainty that they are hearing from you that they're detecting from you in your voice in your thoughts and The way that you're behaving is probably a little different because there's some stress so don't bring that into their world. What we know is our loved. Ones don't remember squat deadly do I'll give you that. But what we do know is they are more likely to remember really really happy thoughts and really really negative thoughts now. The really really happy thoughts are not as likely to be remembered as the really really scary or negative thoughts. They will land on the brain and for some reason. I don't understand the reason of they will retain that information or more likely to retain that information then if they did not have it. So don't do that okay. Just just don't do that I had a conversation trying to find this year. As as you and I are having this conversation have a beautiful poem and I can't seem to get my hands on it right this minute. Where did it go about the Kuroda virus in a one to share it with? You may have to do that on another episode yet. Not Coming up but I do have something that was posted somewhere that I read. It said regarding all the things that we can't do can't do this. Don't get in crowds of more than the US. Stay ten feet away from people Blah Blah Blah with this came through on Somebody emailed at him. I think conversations will not be cancelled. Relationships will not be cancelled. Love will not be cancelled. Songs will not be cancelled. Reading will not be cancelled. Self Care will not be cancelled. Hope will not be cancelled. May We lean into the good stuff that remains. Do I hear an amen on that? I just thought that was really good telling you a husband are very glad that readings not cancel. 'cause we hit the Library Har- Yesterday boy picking up some books by authors. That we like are trying to use this time to I don't know reload and to relax and enjoy life as it is different for us now is different for everybody and I realize this time is probably even more difficult for you because of caregiving than it would have been had. You not been caregiving. But I don't know I still think in this time we can just breathe and remember that. Nothing's going to happen to you today. Where God has not already been and where he is not presently at also in his understanding. He didn't wake up. Oh my goodness I did not realize the crow virus is going to hit the United States. Water all those people come to or that it was going to hit China or anywhere else in all the planet. No no no. That didn't happen to the Lord. He no he knows and he is. He is a on that situation. He's in the middle of that situation in so hopefully that will bring you some peace. I hope I am. I am struck by several things lightly. One being our need to be understanding of other people to understand that their needs are different from ours and to be willing to reach out in ways other than with our hands. We have to reach out with our heart. That kind of came to on this poem that I told you Came through my friend and this is what it says. The poem called pandemic. What have you thought of it? As the Jews consider the Sabbath the most sacred of times safe from travel cease from buying and selling give up just for now on trying to make the world different than it is sing. Pray touch only those to whom you commit your life center down in win. Your body has become still reach out with your heart know that we are connected in ways that are terrifying and beautiful. You could hardly deny that now know that our lives are in one another's hands surely that is come clear. Do not reach out with your hands reach out your heart reaches out your words reach out all the tendrils of compassion that move invisibly where we cannot touch. Promise this world your love for better or for worse for sickness and in health so long as we all shall live in. That was written by Lynne. Unger and I'm GonNa tell you WanNa give it knowledge of where she is she is employed own. Goodness it's not coming up here. You universalist UNITARIAN church That's what it is in. Fort Myers Florida beautiful poem reaching out not with our hands but with our hearts now when you're caregiving you still got reach out your hands for sure. You GotTa make sure what's coming from. You is not fear you know. God is not the author of confusion. He does not live in fear he lives in peace in hope and joy love and mercy and kindness and all those wonderful things. And that's what we want to exude two votes with dementia. Because it's GonNa make your day better because they're going to be in a better mood so let's put our hope. Let's put our faith. Let's put our trust not in what's coming down from Washington any mandates. We might hear what we hear on the news reports or at the pool when we're talking to put out walking or wherever you might be but put our hope in him because that's the only hope we've got. Yeah that's the only one we can depend on. That's my thoughts for today so remember only happy happy joy joy in front of you folks with dementia. You'RE GONNA be glad you did all right. We'll see you on the next episode of. Let's talk dementia. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors? National Association of Veterans and families can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in VF dot. Org They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the bedroom or both editor. Bet You can find his Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. It looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eighty three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today. For Power House. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope brings smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
And On The 7th Day.REST
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia a podcast designed to help care givers find knowledge power hope and smiles sales in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's Your Host bestselling author Carol Hal Welcome to let's talk giant chosen to join me day. Check us out on Amazon drill. Let's talk dementia facebook. That's tall dementia Benja <hes> YouTube. Let's talk dementia anywhere you can think of we're there. Let's talk dimension. We're glad that you are part of that as we bring good dementia dementia education into your world a special thanks to our sponsor National Association of Veterans and Families Eight hundred three five to to nine one nine and you can reach them at W._W._W.. Dot N. A. V. F. Dot O._R._G.. And when you talk to them tell them Carol sent you. They are there to help you obtain benefits for we're both veteran and the spouse of the veteran. Give them a call today. I wanted to talk with you about taking a day of rest now. This is something that <hes> I'm not good at. My husband tells everybody that I go ninety miles an hour all the time that I don't know how to sit down and be steel in that sort of kind of true but but since my mom passed away on May thirty first I have learned that I really do have to take some time in wrist. Grief does weird things to your body I A._M.. On here firsthand tell you about that and I believe that one of the reasons that the Lord had my mom will go through all the stages of Alzheimer's climber was so that I could help you because I have experienced. It and I'm happy to do that. I do wish he could have found another way to teach me that but alas ask in this process. I've learned what grief does to the body. Now you know your loved one does not have to pass away for you to grieve A two we grieve every day <hes> a loss of something <hes> something else another aspect of who they are as it leaves them in there four leaves us. We grieve a little bit every day what that does to the body. It just makes you so blame tired so tire <hes>. I'm not the kind of person who can take a nap. I don't don't nap well but there's been many days since my mom passed that a nap has worked for me and I've been able to lie down and if even just for fifteen or twenty minutes wants to give the brain arrest nine of your caregiving actively right now especially if you're doing it in the home in your home getting those times to rest during the day is very difficult but think about it like you did when you were raising your children when you needed a nap. You took that nap when they were napping didn't you you don't always have to take time when your loved one is resting to get caught up on chores. Maybe you need to take that time to rest or to go outside side incidents sunshine or to enjoy fresh air something that's for you now. That's very important. We know that when you are stressed cost. You can't think clearly when you are tired. Your brain does not process information correctly. Wouldn't you are tired in your stress. It's it's very bad time to make decisions in pretty much. That's the state of being a whole bunch of us as caregivers seemed to stay in tired and a little bit stress thank Zionism Depression and then right in the middle of that. We're trying to make decisions. Sometimes those decisions are not monumental it might be whether to have peanut butter and Jelly for lunch entre grilled cheese but sometimes it might be. Have I given them their medicine today or is this medicine working or do. We need to go to the doctor and talked to the doctor about this. Is this change normal. Sometimes it is pretty important decisions that were trying to make inward processing this in our brains which are just tired tired. We're just tired people. I WanNa talk to you a minute but a minute about the god of the universe now the God of the universe worked for six days very diligently. Diligently making all of the world and mankind you know what he did on the seventh day in Genesis Chapter Two verse two it says by the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing now. Here comes the good part so on the seventh day. What did he do. He rested rested from all his work. Now see if the god of the Universe said I've had enough I'm going to rest. Why in the world do we think we should not and again. I'm not good at this myself. I admit this to you but I am becoming more and more aware of the fact that my body is screaming for some rest so won't you to think about if God had to take data risk from all the work he did that you do to maybe just maybe maybe there's a friend or relative who will come and give you a few hours of time away or maybe you won't to hire an in. Home Care Company. Maybe you want to check with with your county council on Aging to see if there is respite money available that you might get a grant to allow you to have some time away in day would supply somebody to come. Oh man it's a thought check with your meals on wheels organization in your town many of them besides just delivering meals have <hes> a a senior center where your loved one might could go and spend the morning and I think it cost like a dollar or something. It's just crazy it's so cheap and they would be safe in an environment where they could interact with other people and you could go do something just for yourself and maybe that something needs taken a nap. I don't know but you use it for for your benefit. Check those things out. You got to take care of you. We are in the process of planning our very first biros. Caregivers retreat will will be held in October and the reason we're doing that. Is We know that forty percent of caregivers pass away before their individual with dementia. Why does that happen. The happens because we don't take care of ourselves. We don't go to the doctor. We don't take time to rest. We don't go for walks. We don't go to the gym and workout. We don't do anything to help out release relieve ourselves of anxiety and the tension in the depression that is building within us and to deal with the grief so let's be proactive. Let's get ahead of this as much as we can. In realize that we need it we need to rest in that. God called us to rest he made in our bodies to need that rest in our brains are going to work better when we take advantage of it. There's a television show called a wake in the people are awake for twenty four hours while they count quarters in the hopes of winning not only all the quarters they count but all the quarters. Everybody else counts in if they do it. They win a million dollars dollars well in order to do that. They have to do a whole bunch of activities that <hes> involve hand eye coordination and it is funny watching it. It's on Netflix or Hulu. I forget which one you should watch it in. It'll give you a very clear understanding of how hard it is for your brain to function when you're tired well. I hope that gives you something to think about. I'd like to thank our sponsor National Association veterans and families you can find them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine. Intel them Carol sent you as you inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the bedroom home for both of them have a great day. Keep smiling in a number God. This guy got his good. He always knows what's best for children and he took arrest on the seventh day. Thanks for joining US S. Today for Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon in in paperback and kindle versions be sure like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes. Remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today and we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
BaBa Might Be Manipulating Her
"Senior life journeys presents Carol hal's. Let's talk dementia appalled. Cast designed to help care givers. Find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here is your host bestselling author. Carol hal. Welcome to let's talk dementia. I am Carol. How will your host Amazon number one bestselling author of the book? Let's talk dementia where she can find it on Amazon as well as our website. Let's talk dementia dot ORG today. Let's talk dementia is sponsored by national association of veterans, and bam Leigh's you can reach him at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine in their website is WWW dot in a v f dot ORG. Let's talk dementia has partnered with national association of veterans and families in our clients. Call call us back and tell us how enjoyable the experience was contact for help in obtaining veterans benefits, you can reach him at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine. Well today, I want to thank Kathy. And let's see Kathy is in Canada. And I was so happy to hear from her. You're from a Canadian. It's kind of neat. And I wanted to read you part of our conversation back and forth. We've had five or six emails with each other. And she said Carol, I have so much to say, and I will tempt to keep this Email short and succinct. Let me just stop there minute until you you don't have to worry about writing me too, much the more. I understand about what's going on in your life. The better the information will be right back. So can't the this was not a problem. She says my baba her grandma my Bob has dementia. She is ninety two years old and was recently placed in a care facility. I am her thirty seven year old granddaughter and her primary caretaker and for the most part. I am alone in caring for her in advocating for her. She goes on to say that her baba has a lot of problems said she goes to the cycles every two to three months where she begins to hallucinate until her stories at least we feel like their stories, hallucinations, rather, she cries telling me that everyone at the home is against her demanding that I come immediately to take her home. She can't explain exactly what's happening only that everyone is against her. She even said to me once when our views to pick her up from the home late at night that she would not make it to the morning when I probe further asking her if something was going on to harm her. She said, no, I just won't make it till the morning. So that is a bit of a problem as you guys can see for Kathy. She's got some very conflicting information going on in a in a lot of sadness in your heart. She said hurry quest or conflicting combative confusing and possibly manipulative on a few occasions. I've had. Caretakers pull me aside to tell me that when I'm around baba become very dependent on me as opposed to win. I'm not around in. She is very independent competent together. Lovely and sweet she's said, I spoke with the hospital talented staff at her community about this situation. The gentleman I was speaking with spent almost thirty minutes chatting with my baba and at the end of it. He concluded that she was expressing zero distress. In fact, he thought that she was very happy to speak with him about her past. He said he flat out asked her if she felt endangered in any way in he asked her if someone was giving her a hard time or being mean to her in her response was to talk about her past and her childhood experiences. She said, I just have no idea how to help her and at the same time care for myself. Which is why I am writing to you. Well, Cathy in a next Email began to tell me that because. Her grandmother had moved to this care facility. She was able to pursue her education, furthering, her education, and was very much enjoying it. But still dealing with a lot of stress about Baba's reaction to live when she communicated with her granddaughter, Cathy, if an interesting, it is interesting the way the brain works in how things come out for us. So I wrote her back in told her that first of all I could owes for taking care of her grandmother, folks, I see so many individuals that are put in homes and all the folks over dude as pay the Bill, they don't come Sam. We seldom see grandchildren who step up to the plate. So Kathy way to go, my friend. Thank you that. And I had a few pieces of advice few things to think about first of all our number one concern in your number one concern in your caregiving journey is to make absolutely sure that her baba is being well cared for in love that is a number one top. Of the list. Everything else falls very much below that is she being cared for in. Well, love is her phys are her physical needs being met or her medications being administered issue seeing the doctor regularly issue receiving mental stimulation in interaction with other people issue being served food that she likes is she eating that vote. Is she dry? She cleaned number one number two is realizing that in your life. You do need to do what you can to. Visit your loved one and to accept phone calls from your loved one as much as you can is what we do. We do that for anybody in our world, we make sure we say in contact with them, and let them know that we love them. But sometimes even with our folks with dementia. We have to learn to reject phone calls. We do this one day become difficult for you in. You know that your loved one is well see that was the key in this with. Aw. If we did not know that number one the first on that list that Bob was well and everything was okay. Then we're gonna take that long call, but let's suppose Baba's colonists seventy nine times a day in. We know. She's okay. You do not have an obligation to answer the phone every time they go. You just don't you do have an obligation to take care of them. And then you need to take care of yourself. And you cannot do that if every time baba 'cause you're just jumping and running and going and doing because we are manipulative human beings in even with dementia. It is amazing how we can be manipulative weaken be creative. And I don't know. We're just good actors and actresses. Lastly, I recommended that she find geriatric psychiatrists or geriatric, nurse practitioner. Specializing in trait and talk with them about medications for hallucination because it's very possible that Bob I is having some hallucinate. Nations that might would be helped with the proper medication under the proper supervision. That's the key getting someone involved that totally understands those medications how they are debated administered. What force far side effects that should concern us you need that kind of interaction. So what was just a few things that we talked about. We had a couple of other things going on in that conversation. But I wanted to share that much with you today. All right. Here's your funny for today. It says remember when we were young in couldn't wait to grow up. So we could do whatever we wanted whenever we wanted. However, we wanted on just got one question. How's that working out for you? Oh, it the truth. I like the one that says we used to be punished when we're going up by having to take a nap. Now, we just won't to take a nap, please. Oh, mercy. Thank you to today's sponsor national station. Veterans families, you can reach him at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine in their website is WWW dot N A V, F dot ORG. Their motto is we speak veterans. So you don't have to when you call them tell them Carol sent you. Hope you have a good day. I hope you're caregiving journey as a blessed. One. Remember this God is God. God is good. He always knows in does what's best for children lessons. Thanks for joining us today for peril. Howls? Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend carols bestselling book, also, titled, let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon in paperback and kindle versions. Be sure to like, let's talk dementia on Facebook and leave us a kind word of review on I tunes. Remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles, and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here. When you come back to let's talk dementia.
Abandoned Because of Dementia
"Senior life journeys presents Carol hells. Let's talk dementia a podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here is your host bestselling author. Carol hal. Welcome to let's talk. Joe I until how will your host? And I thank you for joining me today, we have listeners in sixty nine countries in welcome each and every one of you own a thank our sponsor national association of veterans families, you can reach him at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine. Their website is WWW dot nab f- in VF dot ORG Tobin, Carol sent you you will be pleased. You contacted them for help with obtaining the benefits. Well, let me know what's going on in your world. If you have a question or a comment or funny story or whatever just emailed me that Email address Carol at let's talk dementia view include your phone number. I'll call you back. Opponents. You're going to hear from me today. I wanted to talk with you about this article are article I read about an intimate individual who abandoned her daddy with his dog at airport. Now, I did a video about this. You can find. It on YouTube. If you go to YouTube and look up, let's talk dementia. Video is called. She got tired of caregiving for her dad and abandoned him at the airport. Will this is just stuck in my mind lately, I cannot get past it. And I just wanted to talk to you about it a little bit. So there was this lady who had been caregiving for her dad with Vance Alzheimer any Alzheimer's in he had a doll named Corky. She got tired of taking care of him. She had him because his wife got tired of taking care of him. She said that he was aggressive in threaten to kill her. And so she shipped him off to her daughter now, the daughters tired of image. She did the kind thing of putting him on an airplane to send him from Florida to Colorado. And she let her mom know that dad was coming via a text. She did not even have the courtesy call the woman. What is that all about? She says dads on his way him in Corky on the way, they report, you know, pick him up will hill this woman. Already said she didn't want him in her home. So she did not pick him up in the police found him wandering around in the airport with the dog. He did not know who he was wearing was why was there and nothing he could not communicate with him in any way to help identify. What was going on? I'm not quite sure how they figured out anything. But they did wind up calling the wife there in Colorado. And she said, I'm not taking him. And they're like, well, what is your dress? And she's said, I'm giving you might dress. I don't want him showing up here. But I'll take the dog. Oh my goodness. What is that all about what just drives me really crazy about this story? Also in addition to is that the daughter who put out on the plane to begin with has a job doing care for seniors in home, Ogle, just shoot me. Okay. This makes me think about folks to take their loved one to an assisted living and get them chip thin and make sure they got everything they need. And they lied, and they don't come. Now. Explain that to me, I know several people that has happened to I know a lady that happened to in the reason I found it out is because her shoes became very battered in tattered and torn and I said she keeps wearing the worn out shoes. In the staffs is the only shoe she has her family since the money to pay her Bill in they said, no money for clothing or anything. Well, you know, we had to take care of that. So some new shoes new clothes appeared in her future? Why do people do this? Why do you think it's okay to take your loved one to a community and visit them once a month once every other month or never one do you do this? I don't get it. You know, this is not how we take care of senior citizens as I am recording this on Saturday tomorrow being Sunday. I will be speaking at a church in gastonia North Carolina in the topic of Masa of Wasserman is called. All those grey hairs in what the sun is about is recognizing that as we age God continues to use us. He doesn't look over and go yet, you know, there's Carroll Jeon hit eighty six years old. I can't use her anymore, by the way. I'm not as you know, just can't use. Oh people. What good? Are they to me? Or you know, there's Joe he's over there in that assisted living. He's locked up. They can't even get out. They've got the doors lot. I'm not able to use him for anything. I might as well forgetting he doesn't do that. And if the God of the universe does not do that. Why do you think you should if the Don of the universe knows everything that's going on in everybody's world Fino's? The number pairs on your head or the latte their own if he knows all of this in he still cares about that person who is in the late stages of their disease in they cannot help themselves. Why do you think you shouldn't? You are not. That busy now. I know there's some of you can't get out for health reasons, you're confined yourself. I'm not talking about you. I'm talking about these crazy people put them on airplanes in leave them. Just don't get it. I don't. So if you do that you better. Not right. Tell me about that. I don't wanna have that conversation with you. 'cause no the there's just no world where that is. Right. I understand that people can become aggressive, and maybe you don't want to deal with that on a day to day situation. Like this. Why was for her husband? But instead of just abandoning him. Why don't we consider seeing if we can get him checked into psychiatric hospital getting on some medications that might help because. Yes, there are some medications that will help with behavior, you know, or maybe we just try showing a little bit alone wonder what that would do it is world. I can't imagine. So as the ride. Of that particular article ended said he had been in the local hospital for almost a year. Just abandon hospital to demand checked him out put him in a room for night or two till they tried to find family couldn't bind family in. They couldn't just send him out on the street. So he's been there collected abandoned. Get it off my chest. I just had to share it with you. Oh my goodness. Let me know what you think about that. As long as you're not abandoning your person. You may write me about that subject and money Mel is Carol at let's Tom dementia dot ORG. And here is your running for today. Here it goes, I love jokes about the is the cornea the better. I need a put a bump in the background. Right. Little drum roll. As bessul. Thank you to our sponsors national association of veterans and families, you can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine in their their website is WWW dot in a v f dot ORG contact the they speak veteran. So you don't have to. I hope that you have a good caregiving journey. Not hope something happens that makes you smile. I hope when you look at your loved one, they reach up funky real hard command. I wish mama could still do their blessings smiles on your day. Thanks for joining us today for Carol howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend carols bestselling book, also, titled, let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon in paperback and kindle versions. Be sure to like, let's talk dementia on Facebook and leave us a kind word of review on I tunes. Remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles, and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here. When you come back to let's talk dementia.
You Gotta Poop
"Senior life journeys presents carol howls. Let's talk dementia a podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles sales in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author carol. Welcome to let top dementia. I am here. How will your host internationally certified dementia practitioner and author of the amazon bestselling book. Let's talk dementia. Thank you for joining me. Check out our show so let's talk dementia on roku and on amazon fire stick yet. He is the video version and you get to see my face. I'm so sorry about that but uh-huh. I hope you will check that out. Got a lot of viewers there a special thank you to our sponsor national association of veterans and families as they come along beside zydus to help support our ministry they are amazing resources four help with getting veterans benefits for both the veteran and the spouse of the a veteran. You can reach them at w._w._w. Dot in a v f dot o._r._g. Or eight hundred three five to to nine one nine till them carol since you <unk> national association veterans families. They speak veterans so you don't have to. It's a good thing because it's complicated language so i had someone right me and ask about constipation and dementia ooh. That's a dirty subject isn't it well pooping. You know we just don't wanna talk about out. Pooping impolite company like we all don't poop will if you don't you got a problem in that problem really does become intensified when we have dementia so the question is why does it happen. Why does it make dementia worsened actually very good question if you are working with or caring for the <hes> a. l. o. a loved one or maybe you're a paid caregiver but you love that person anyway and they suddenly seem to have taken a big downturn learn. That may be exactly what happened there. Dementia may have advanced in. You got a new level of issues there or it could be. There's another issue going on a more physical physical issue. Sometimes they're able to tell you. I don't think i've put a year that is the exact are my grandmother used. I love of the story when she spoke one day. In my grandmother lived with my aunt in <hes> both ladies have faith my grandmother raised children who went on to serve the lord lord and <hes> very proud of her for doing that but grandma quit speaking she just became nonverbal in my aunt prayed lord. Please just let me hear the mother's voice one more time letter. Speak to me one day at the dinner table. My grandmother spoke up and said evelyn. I haven't haven't pooped in a year but she didn't say poop y'all no she didn't she said the s h._r. Which my grandmother would never in a million years have said but she did hit my aunt about rolled in the floor laughing <hes> but wasn't true grandma had actually pooped recently but in her mind she hasn't but actually hadn't but many times our folks are able to say. I think i need to go the bathroom and i can't <hes> my belly hurts or my head hurts. They're able to express to you what's going on physically physically but as dementia progresses our folks are not able to express their thoughts. They may try. They may get a few words out in you may not be able oh to interpret those words so you have to look for non verbal cues the example i gave you. I had a client that i worked with. We did music with her her. She was blind. Play the harmonica like nobody's business. It was so much fun we could play music together but on a particular visit she was beating her belly just as hard as she could beat it and <hes> i went to the staff and i said you know what's going on. She's she's taken her fist in beating at her lower abdomen. They said she's he's constipated more training her for that every time she gets constipated that how she lets us know that the problem so you do look for non verbal clues who's in sometimes as nonverbal clues will look like at the dementia has gotten worse and you gotta think about with constipation in your own sale. When you get constipated your head or heart massage your belly heart makes cramp but your head will hurt. It can cause you to be agitated. Just an overall feeling kinda like heaven the flu. It's a bad feeling to be constipated and that is true with dementia also so we you know that the the bowel backs up up in the end. You've got all these toxins that are being released. It's just not a good thing so we want to be aware of when our loved ones to put and if you're caregiving at home it's it's kinda smart just to keep a log. Maybe gallo piece of paper in the bathroom jordan every time you know they might do a poopie. You're going to write it down and then when you realize it's been three days and you haven't written anything down. Oh my goodness um. We might need to do something about it because i don't care how good of a caregiver you are and how how intent on doing the best job you can do. You may forget to notice if they haven't pooped in a couple of days so if you are writing it down just putting a little tick mark in it says august fourteenth check august fifteenth. Jack went to times then when there's nothing for few days you can go back to august. It's been three days a funny thing with my mom while she was still able to do so. I took a piece of paper and hooked it to a piece of yarn hooked hook to a pin taped to the grab bar by her toilet and the piece of paper said veras publicity sep y'all it didn't say put put no it did not and everytime mom had approach put a check mark there and <hes> it helped me be able to keep track of his mama was current on using the the bathroom is important. We've got to put you can either accept it or not. You can address it or not but you gonna need to one of the things that can cause dementia in in any of us and especially someone with dementia is dehydration and dehydration is just a bad thing it can keep you from thinking clearly in the ad dementia or not and if you have mentioned become dehydrated. You really can't think clearly it will calls dementia to be worse. It'll cause constipation which constipation causes dementia dementia be worse. Do you see how dehydration is a problem. So what you wanna do is keep by them beside their chair beside their bad sitting on the counter or wherever they are a mug that they can hold not a glass that they've got their their hands around that doesn't work a mug with a handle and a straw strauss house. It's proven that if you drink with the straw drink more than if you drink without a straw do you wanna put a strong input their favorite liquid now. I am not a proponent of soft drinks. I i am not you do not need to drink them. They do not need to be in your home. They do not need to be in your car and they do not need to be purchased at restaurants since i am i am a sounds like a dr seuss. Thing doesn't don't don't drink soft drinks. Here's my caveat when my mother was in her last three months of her life we we should've unstocked in foodline orange soda because it was the only thing we could get my mama to drink now under my mama was dying and i knew that if she didn't drink that she would die sooner so you can bet your sweet baby i bought orange <unk> foodline orange soda by the truckload and she would drink it every we day when she had her first sip she'd go oh mercy. It is so good like she never had it before. I love thinking about that. A sorta kinda ms bein two liter bottles of foodline or soda so keep that in mind do keep them hydrated well that gives you some things to think about. I have the little cartoon that has this <hes>. I don't know what he what he is this little creature and he says i eight four cans of affable bet soup deep and just took probably the biggest vowel movement ever via w. e. l. alphabet soup. Get it in that cute. I thought that was kinda. Funny the muppet. That's what he is well. That gives you something to think about. When you're thinking about pooping today you can think about this other woman on. Let's talk dementia asia. I hope you will check us out at. Let's not dementia dot o._r._g. We have are all the podcast or there as well. They are on <hes> spotify an iheartradio iheartradio and a whole bunch of other places. I tunes in you can check them out there as well as our video series they are linked to it. They're roku amazon. Zahn firestone were just everywhere thanks to national association of veterans and families as they come along with us in we bring dementia education in they help support that ministry. You can reach him at w._w._w. Dot n. a. v. f. dot o._r._g. Eight hundred three two two nine one nine till them carol since you hope you have a good day hope your loved one poops. Hope you do to keep smiling by <hes>. Thanks for joining us today for carol howls. Let's let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on amazon in paperback and kindle version insure to like. Let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on. I tunes remember. Knowledge brings power power brings hope hope brings smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today and we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
A La Carte Pricing For Care or All-Inclusive
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Well hello look into. Let's talk dementia. I am cure. How will your husband joining me today? If you're watching this video formats you just walk through the room. That's Zoe And she has to go to work with her Mama. So today I wanNA talk to you about All carte pricing and all inclusive pricing. When it comes to assisted living in memory care there's a big difference in those two and knowing the difference might help you discern which hype is best for your loved one in their given life situation so in assisted living? We have folks who are functional An often very high functioning individuals who just need a little help initially with the activities of daily living with bathing eating ambulation dressing in writing. They may need help and only one of those areas and so they moved to assisted living to get some assistance. If they age in place there there needs do increase in the assisted living. Is there to offer that hail. It is wonderful but their care caused very well may be dependent dependent upon the care they receive. Now let's back up just a little bit in talk about assisted living pricing so when you get a rate at an assisted living that Does all a cart pricing for their care then that ray includes their rent and their power activities three meals a day snacks. Sometimes it includes cable. Sometimes it includes Internet. Sometimes it includes own that varies depending upon the community but the other things are very much. Norman always part of care most always it includes laundry. I have seen that very every once in a while but most of the time it includes laundry. It's a very nice way Eleo into received some of the help you need for your physical person and then being in a place where as your needs increase you can get the help you need now with with all a cart pricing. You only pay for the care that you need so you go in if you only need help with bathing then you're not paying for help with the other items items just for what you need and every six months some communities three months six months nine months once a year they do an assessment to see. Do you name or help and if you do your price goes up. Because you've pick something else off the menu of items that you need help with now as care the needs increase and we start having dementia thrown Ian. We become a Wanda risk. If the care names become great or and indoor we become a wander risks many times we find our folks moving to memory care now. Memory care is all those things we just talked about but the difference is is they have more employees per resident and they also are in a locked building and that locked building. He's a great because we do not want our loved ones who have dementia to be wondering to find them down the road and not know where they are. And that's exactly what help happened happen to my brother-in-law Ernie Last week as I told you on a previous episode Ernie has dementia brought on by Agent Orange from having been in Vietnam. That is one of of those over two hundred types of dementia that is irreversible but nonetheless he became wonder risk in. Sony's memory care so in memory care here. If there's one thing I can guarantee you is. They're going to need a lot of care. Backup again to assisted living with assisted. Living we are going to be evaluating. Are you waiting those care cost and we will see care costs increase in memory care. They care cost. You're definitely going to increase. You can rest assured that as time goes on coach in dementia progresses there needs. Are we going to become more and more. So now. We're choosing more items of that ne-new that we need help with NBC. You see calls get higher and higher. That's how alicarte pricing works. Now I like all a cart pricing for assisted living because only WANNA pay for what I need but in memory care I really like all inclusive pricing because we know there needs are going to continue to increase The demands made on the staff is going to be higher as they age. In as the disease progresses so having all those bases covered from the GECKO. Oh is a very good thing all the way around. It's good for the community. It's good for the person it's good for you. The person who's paying the bill. Let's talk about how it's good for the community unity. One reason. It's good for the community is their staffing is based on the number of residents. They have assuming they all need help with everything. And if you're moving someone in that does not need all help in everything well. They're still staffed for it in. That means you're in a community. It's got a lot of employees. This is a good thing so for Ernie who is in a memory care that is all inclusive. He is not receiving any help eating. He's fine with aiding. He's pretty doggone good with toiling in getting on and off the Potty Bathing that's the problem dressing. That's a problem won't and violating. That's a problem wandering. That's a problem. So they get a break on a couple of things with Ernie. He needs full assistance with other things such as shaving shaving. He cannot shave him so well he tries but he's not real good at it instead. They're keeping him shave nicely so we pay one price good for the community and it's good for us because we know in the bill comes what it's going to be and that's wonderful now. How is it good for Ernie wealth? Because he's just getting a lot lot of care they are there to offer that help because it's already included in his plan and that means for a happier person. Now remember on your assisted assisted living. You are going to have an increase in your assisted living base fee that rent fee toji includes Renton in power in Activities meals laundry. That will go up. Generally once a year there are so some communities that unfortunately increase increase twice a year. I don't seem folks to those communities because I'm still think that's nice but a once a year cost living increase you will see in an assisted living and and you will see that in a memory care you also see that in a skilled care community so once a year. You'RE GONNA see prices go up a little bit to cover the increased costs in that community. I can dig that. That's okay I can handle that. I can plan for that but in memory care. If you're buying an olive carp package you might have a hard time planning for that. 'cause you don't know what their needs are gonna be so I really like all inclusive pricing if you're in a community that it does all Memory care they're doing a good job than celebrate it and stay there. But I'm just telling you my preferences in my preferences are like a knows news. Everybody's got one in. Nobody wants somebody else's so anyway being able to budget for Ernie is very good for us. We know the price is going to be well. That's just a few differences there between car pricing in all inclusive pricing. Keep an eye on your loved ones wants. Make sure they are getting the care that you're paid for. That's very important in just because you're paying for it doesn't mean you're getting a lot of communities boy. Have I been through that that you go back and listen to some of my older videos you hear me ranting and raving about such things in a skilled nursing community with that beautiful Right there Mama. In fact our next episode we're going to talk about how to handle problems that might arise within the assisted living or memory care environment. They're not perfect folks. They are run by what we call human beings human beings. Well we mess up. Don't we and you as has the caregiver. The family member need to have a little forethought on how you GonNa handle those situations that everything comes out. We'll we'll talk about that on. Her neck accepts accepts Thanks for joining me. I really do appreciate it. We are in eighty two or eighty three countries. I forget which I'll have to look it. Up Looking forward to hitting one hundred countries where we are reaching people with the good news that in your caregiving journey. You're not alone. The good Lord is with you and hold you tight blessings and smiles and I'm here for you too bye bye. Let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at. WWW dot N.. A. V. F. Dot. Org They speak veterans. So you don't have to you. Tell Them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the veteran or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby editor editor Dot Com. She is amazing looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county halo. Three nine eight five zero nine one eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell them care CINCI. Thanks thanks for joining us today for Carol House Let's Talk Dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power. Our power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Lets Have FUN!
"Senior life journeys presents carol hells. Let's talk dementia a podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles sales in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author carol. Welcome to let's let's talk dementia. I am here well. How will your host internationally certified dementia practitioner and author amazon bestselling book. Let's talk dementia. I also host a video radio series that you can find on youtube on our website on roku amazon fire stick all under. Let's talk dimension. I hope you you will check that out. You are among listeners in seventy five countries who tune into this broadcast in. I thank you for being part of that. Thank you officer to our sponsor bonsor national association veterans and families we thank them for parting with partnering with us as we bring free dementia education throughout the world you can reach him at eight hundred three two two nine one nine and their phone number eight hundred three five. That is their phone number eight hundred three two two nine one nine the recording this light. I can sorta kinda. Tell their email are their website is w._w._w. Dot in v._f. Dot o._r._g. You know i could press stop right here in rerecord all of that but my whole point in doing this show is to help you find joy in your life even then when things go a little haywire and if you can't laugh at yourself will that's just not a good thing you know. The bible tells us laughter do with good like a medicine. Jason and i'd much rather laugh even if i'm laughing at myself than take medicine for heaven's sakes and laughter's free medicine is not so hope. I made you gig let mine. My mess ups well today. I wanted to talk with you on well about giggling and having fun i was going through some photos recently a of my sweet mama who went to heaven on may thirty first of this year as i record this today is august twenty six and i love looking at those pictures of mama but this particular one was taken. I would say probably ten eighteen years ago and eight to ten years ago. Mama was fairly early in her diagnosis. Process was living in an assisted living but doing very well and they planned a trip to a park up in the mountains of north carolina and mama was living in south carolina so it was about a two hour day trip and momma said sure let's go and the pitcher is a her in her friend pops on a double slide two slides like children's slides in a playground to slide side-by-side. He's on one. She's on another. She slide down slide down sip. She's got her hands in the air like she's on the top roller coaster justice mile and having a great time it is the best pitcher and then there was another pitcher of mom on the swings now my hi mom and i both liked to get on those big swings that are made more for adults than children. You know the kind that have the leather strap that you get situated on in their tall and you can swing your fate all the way to mars. It's just i love doing that in my momma did too and there's a picture of mom swinging and she's pulled back in qatar kinda mid motion and she was she was not thinking about alzheimer's. She was not thinking about dementia. She was not thinking about what she could not what do or could not think about her could not process or could not participate in. She was just thinking about making this swing. Go as high as fast visit would go. I can just think about how good that had to feel for mama. Because mama was good swinging she could do that. She could get that swing go fast and to go high and she taught me how to do it so i know that as she sat there on that swing and she worked her legs and she got higher and higher she felt a sense of accomplishment of belonging to this world of lightness in peace and joy that my mom will probably had not felt for quite light sometime because dementia was doing some nasty nasty stuff to her bryan even at in those early days and it just gives me great joy the at this point in my journey post caregiving post mama's entry into heaven that i can think about those days i don't have to you think about the end days on that's not where i want my mind to go those. Were very very hard very sad days. I like to think about those days when my mama was on the double slide are on the big adult swings justin go into having a good time so why do you care about this well. I hope it gives you some thoughts about about getting your loved one outside this <hes> it's summertime. I don't know what the weather is where you live. I know this time of year. In some parts of the world is cold in in some parts <unk> can't stand it but maybe you're in one of those medium areas in yukon enjoy being outside <unk>. Whatever dress your loved one appropriately dress yourself appropriately and if it's something they can do get them outside go to the park. The park is a beautiful place to go. Even if you just go sit on a bench together in the park you take a pill that makes them comfortable. You take a blanket or two if you need to or whatever to accommodate their needs. Listen the weather in sit. There take drinks. Take a snack and just sit there. Let them observe the environment. Let them make conversation for say about what they see now. If you get there and they're not very conversational you need to discern if it's just a good quiet time for them and maybe they're just enjoying being quiet or maybe you might wanna lean over and whisper look at the girl over there that has owned the blue shirt. What do you think her name is. In see what they say and say do you ever remember your children being that little see what they say begin to gently bring them into the conversation about overwhelm them mama. We're gonna go to the park today and we're gonna sit on a rock and we're going to drink soda and we're gonna eat cookies. Please don't takes own and cookies. Take something healthier than that and you're going to talk to me and i'm gonna talk to. You and we're gonna have good time. You got it okay. Let's do it. I mean that's just such an inviting invitation. I don't the whole world wouldn't take you up on that offer but instead. We're going to just very gently. Get mama involved in what we're doing and you just might be surprised what mama wants to do. She might wanna swing. She might wanna go get on that slackened and you might need to accommodate that. It's is just is just a lot of fun. Sometimes i think we hold our folks with dementia back. Hoe you shouldn't do that. You might get hurt in any kind of reminds me of how maybe we did our kids kid. We didn't want them to learn to ride the bike without training wheels because they could get hurt but if you don't let them ride that without the training wilson we prohibit our kids from growing up and if we don't allow our loved ones with dementia to get out and do some things within reason now certainly within the boundaries he's of realizing their limitations with their cognitive abilities but if you don't let them at least try some things they are going to be bored worse than night already are and you can bring such joy to their life with just the simple things if they're in the wheelchair. Take him to the park and push them around the park in stop every so often talk about the flowers i remember my mom is last days. That's what i did with her almost dumped her out of the wheelchair but that's another day story. That's not one of my proudest moments but i did learn from that. Let me tell you but mama pointed. She's kept pointing. She wasn't reversible at this point. She can't pointing realized she was pointing. At these flowers that had grown wild around this mailbox. You could barely see the mailbox and she said read beautiful so i took her over to the red beautiful flowers at the mailbox and she just sat there and you could tell she was enjoying what she was saying it. It was a very contemplative look on her face that we would have totally missed out on if we just stayed in the living room of her care home but we didn't we got out and did some stuff that gives you something to think about as you go about your caregiving journey nuts always my goal is to give you something to think about that will bring some joy and peace in comfort into your life. I thank our sponsor national association of veterans and families call tillman carol sanchez. You're in need of benefits veteran the spouse of the veteran for both and you can reach them eight hundred three five to to nine one nine well. I'll be back next time and i hope you'll join me for. Let's talk dementia blesses miles on your day. Thanks for joining us today for peril howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on amazon masan in paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes. Remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today and we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
How To Respond To Inappropriate Sexual Advances
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A- podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here is your host bestselling author Carol. Hello everybody on Carol Hell and this is let's talk dementia where we're GonNa talk about dementia. Oh yeah that's it And I'm glad that you're here. I don't know if you've noticed the last few days I hadn't had much makeup. We know we're not going anywhere in the girl goes. Why should I put on all that? Make up to sit home and just look at nobody but my husband and he sing me without makeup. So you guys get the reduced version. I just don't care I'm keeping my skin a break in this what it sounds. That sounds good doesn't it? What did they tell you about an email? I got from Katie and Katie live. She lives in London. Yeah think that's about right England somewhere I don't And Her dad is having some issues with dementia and they've got quite a quite a few things going on that she was concerned about and wanted to talk about one in particular she had said in her email. That dad is having a little bit of an issue. Phone is beeping got turned off with maybe recognizing who she is specifically and thinking. She just might be date for him. She says I traveled down most weekends to say dad but he does not but he does now seem to get confused. As if it's the two of US going out for dinner that I'm his date and has asked me when I'm joining him in bed a couple of times well. That store took a little bit of a turn. Didn't going out for dinner with Dad Dad. They can today. Who came years? That's fine when dad invites you into the bed that starts getting a little more uncomfortable. Doesn't it but why does dad do that? Well let's remember that. When Dad is looking at his wonderful daughter here. Ms Katy for minute when he's looking at Katie he's not seeing Katie. The daughter he's probably seeing Katie. Who very much might look like his wife Or She's just a very pretty woman and he's thinking. Hey I got a date going here. Hot Day. Life is good. He is not being inappropriate. His daughter that is not. What's happening at all is? Brian has not registering. Who Katie is. What's appropriate in Watts inappropriate member? We talked about this. Frontal lobe that area behind your forehead is being destroyed as is the rest of the brain. But that's the part of the brain that helps you to know what's appropriate and what's inappropriate Who he can make a pass out not get slapped rocky What we should do Republican? What we should not do he can do that any longer. Was just out to dinner with a really good looking woman in he thought. Hey we should go to bed together and so he might have planted that idea with her. Well you just wonder what he just something else. I bet as a young man. Katie you've just got to right and tell me was he kind of What's the word a flirt may be as a young man and he probably still is? I can tell you my mama was. She flirted with every man on the planet when she got dementia Did Not do that before dementia. But she sure did after dementia. She was just a big old flirt. But you know what was dad's personality before? Is it something that's normal for him or is it just because of dementia that he's doing this which ever don't be offended by it is something dad cannot control? So what should your response me when he goes? Hey Hey Cutie Pie come over here is when you go to bed together. You could say dad. I'm your daughter. Are you crazy? That's just gross. Why would you say that that's horrible? I'm never taking you out to eat again. You could just stay home and rotten die yet. Don't say that those any of that but you could. You could say that. Be a bad plan but what you could say is. Well Dad in maybe. We don't call me. Dat. Let's think about that for just a minute. Because he's not recognizing her as daughter so just calling by his name his name's John John Here your offer but you know married woman that might get me in trouble you know and if you're not a married woman he's probably not going to know that anyway so who cares disarmament woman they might as was gonna take too kindly to that and brush it off just off your shoulders. Banging it goes away is just something that happened today as if he asked could he have an extra serving of green beans. It doesn't matter is just a non issue that you are not going to make a big deal about because if you think. It's the first time it's ever happened. It is not I can assure you this is a story. I've heard many times of loved. Ones not recognizing other people as who they are and inviting them for sexual activity so we just we just smile we might light of it and then we change the subject well but what we say to them but dad we are John. I'm sorry John can't do that. But no what we could do. If you won't do. Let's let's go get some ice cream or what? Stop by the store on the way home in. See if we can find Bob Blah Blah. I don't know make up a story. Of course we've got Kobe going on right hand. We can't go anywhere can we? Oh my goodness but you can find something to distract his attention. How about instead of that? We watched the latest episode of whatever. I hear it's on Hulu. Let's watch it which. Ps are not glad for Hulu Right. Now that I can watch all this stuff to keep my brain. A little occupied girl can only read so many pages a day before your eyeballs fall out as what I've decided but we're not GonNa Freak out when dad or whomever proposes these as to as Donna Sunday. Just a relative who might say to you. I can tell you if you're in a memory care community very long. Been there visiting people working in one you will be Somebody's GonNa make that recommendation to you. It's going to happen. You don't forget about it you just can't. Hey that's such a great idea. But right now I've got to go wash clothes right now. Whatever and then it will leave their brain. It's not like you've planted. That thought that they're thinking well she said that's a good idea or A. She said maybe I I'll talk to you about that later right now. I need to go to this. Maybe she's interested in this. That's not how other Brian will work in. Even if they thought that for that minute have our later. They don't remember it so it's not something that's go lay on their brain of. Oh here comes. Suzy Jo down the hall. And we'll seek Assault her here. Because I want what I want. No no no. That's just not the way it works so don't be thinking that just chill out. Change a a knowledge what there was saying. Don't make negative situation out of it. Don't encourage it but then change the subject get onto something else like this full of things we got to deal with. And who knows that talking to your daddy out of having sex with his daughter would be one of them but in the world of dementia is something that comes up all right. We'll take a chill pill and get on with life. Well help that helps you a little bit. I hope helps my friend. Katie in London. She's got a couple of other issues going on with caregivers who think they know everything about dementia private caregivers coming in. And she's been listening to the podcast and she's learned a lot but yet they want argue with her. Well done that. Just draw bonkers daughter to give them a copy of my book and I think she's going to and you can get your copy you can go to Amazon and find. Let's talk dementia. But if you go to our website. Let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org You will find all of our books in a link where you can donate to our ministries and I can tell you right now. More than ever history of our company. We need donations. We tried we do blessings and smiles keep smiling foes just keeps smiling. Okay see you next time on. Let's talk dementia but by let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint You. When you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the veteran or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing at looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your Cownie. Eight hundred three eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol since you thanks for joining us today for Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope brings smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
We Are Getting Personal Talking About Belching and Bathroom Visits
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Hells let's talk dementia a podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and miles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia here's your host bestselling author. Carol Sunday at now my mother lived off of Food Lion Orange Soda for the last twenty four days of her life I hate sodas there's just nothing about sodas sweetly stadia told you guys about this sweetener many times just don't ever in your life even touch artificial sweeteners muchly systems do their thing and as the brain becomes more damage those bodily systems start having issues they don't receive signals that they should so the brain does bathing eating amputating dressing toilet eating they'll tolerating pooping right so we think about pooping pretty much when we has consumed them we know that artificial sweeteners in folks who are diabetic makes their sugar levels worse it doesn't help Finna understand I'm just going to stop right there not go further but it's good thing when it works right right well we know that the brain controls everything don't in if you've ever spent much of your time dealing with constipation as an adult then you understand how important it is to be able to use the bathroom regularly water in that they wouldn't drink the water will I am all for drinking water I consume about a gallon of water a day three quarters of that gallon is water and the other remakes you you the brain makes your loved one your loved one they are unique being there person but the brain also makes all the bodily quarter of it which would be a court is sparkling water that has no artificial sweetener in it at all it's just flavored sparkling water to which I add liquid in lots of good smells there so it is a problem we end we know that folks we demand you'll become constipated quicker than the average senior citizen but sweet leaf Stevia comes in powder and liquid is not artificial so that's what I add to it so I tell my folks what is it your loved one likes to drink will offer them because they are not drinking enough again the Brian's not sending the signal you're thirsty you need to drink something and then sometimes it's caregivers way made we don't offer as much liquid edge which should was at a meeting last week I believe they were talking about in this particular memory care making sure their residents got enough bray a bunch of some dough tear oil don't spray that nasty stuff that you buy anywhere and everywhere that comes in a bottle like this or pump they're better off with sugar than with artificial sweeteners there so bad for your brain they're bad for your gut microbiome stay away from them they don't worry about it in new poop on yourself so it's a real problem so don't be upset with your loved one when it happens you might WanNa get a mask on Carr's skull smell pretty bad that fully chemicals the chemicals are bad for your body in more ways than you wanna know about get some dough tear oil sprinkl it around it works very well don't but boy I don't know that's not good well it is one of the activities of daily living that we talk about their five activities of daily living return hand this way can't tell the body you need to PP and so therefore we appeal themselves because they didn't know they needed to go and then the brain will tell the body you don't need to prove it's okay good for you but it was what we could get mom to drink and she would drink it so you have to weigh that what I recommend is if your loved one is hung up on coke or Pepsi or unless you haven't been to the potty in a month or something or your loved one hasn't but you need to be more aware of what's going on with your body and when you're with your loved ones drink whatever maybe see if you can water it Dan will they take it half water half soda whatever you need to do to get that into their body but my process I think we used to keep a little note pad moms potty when she had earlier stages of Alzheimer's lived in assisted living in its moms poop pad simply didn't say poop the taste at all squash Zucchini does not change the taste. I just cannot say that now you add cauliflower or Broccoli that it dipped in keeping that bowel system running good in one of the ways we're GonNa do it's water another way we're going to do it is lots of green food green green good my husband on the other hand he picks it up by accident what Song Goes Oh. I can't stand that while we don't WanNa use our laxatives don't go to straight latsis the which is not going to change there's the word the taste of that smooth one bit add some sweetly add some ice to bees. Liam husk caps can you see they are five hundred milligrams by company called now we ordered off the Internet and I say to in fruits will help you go to the bathroom you can make a smooth smoothly with specially frozen banana throwing some blueberry throwing some Kale which is not gonNA taste the the Kale spinach anything that's grain all that Greenstock Collard Greens like could could caller good stuff and in in the vitamix in it's very good way to have a meal and be loaded up on the vegetables that you put in but carrot in carrot does not change the tank the in Green Think Green Green means go ingrains gone 'cause you to go Broccoli Kale Star say scale I hate the scales broad and so I've been some medication for that will if you read about those medications not such good news in fact one of the medical gone sticking your teeth well I'm gonNA show you Two products that I use every day to help keep things happy for caroline the bathroom this is silly more likely you are to be constipated I feel a sneeze coming you know it's going to happen right in the middle of this recording I apologize in advance take this in the mornings and then at night I take trips la the light sitting that funny triple A. 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I p. h. e. worn behind why haven't tried it try earlier got no idea but I have totally gone off of renovating obviously I substituted pep sit for that diet that will help now another change in life that will help excuse me with constipation is moving about more sedentary you are the whichever way and I can tell you the bathroom about same time every morning it's pretty wonderful I go to bathroom about the same time you're evening it's pretty wonderful if you're going to the bathroom or your Oakland's going to the bathroom and they're struggling they're straining they're pushing that is just so not good for you on lots of levels in it's not necessary let's make changes in the the Toda a news go happen things like that only happen when recording Arctic did okay but I have gone totally off of pips it I don't have heartburn I don't wake up with the awful belch I told my friend it starts in do I think I used to take three of these day now I take two day you can play within see what you need and maybe they recommend three start with three see how you do in Zametica heartburn relief okay now this particular product says to take two tablets well keep talking about another supplement supplement an issue that I also deal with that I am working very hard to change I haven't ulcer nations were knitting believe it Zantac was taken off the market because it had a component in it that was not supposed to be there that caused cancer expected and so because of that I have heartburn I've dealt with heartburn ever since I got pregnant thirty five years ago however my daughter is thirty three years ago Jackie Jalen in my belly feel ultra might be starting to hurt it's been wonderful just order it off the Internet there have been two days since I started your belly button comes all the way up and it hurts don't have that anymore in it's called the light right here the air that's better maybe it's not I just wanted to know it is not so a began researching and talk to my daughter about a natural product that she has just com there will be a drop down of charities place choose senior life journeys that's us that's our legal name and every time you order anything off it's called acid soothe I cannot figure out the light there we go acid say this is the equivalent of rolaids. Tom's but it's all natural it's not that's my disclaimer but you can order them all off Amazon if you would be so inclined go to smile smile dot Amazon dot but getting up and moving will help aid in digestion and we'll help you need to go to the bathroom readily make it easier for it to happen suit and having answers not fun it is one of the most painful things I've experienced in a long time and it will flare up when you least the gut the things in it that are so bad for your system going to tell you about those four products now I'm not a doctor as told you before I've been to medical school twice I had lunch both a good day y'all see you tomorrow let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families you can reach them editor Beth Dot com she is amazing looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at www dot editor Ben la is his planetary herbals order it off the Internet also and this is two tablets and I take Tudoz at night when doing the morning one I do at the at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot n. a. v. f. Dot Org they speak veterans so you don't have to dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina that's your county Ada three nine eight five zero mm one to two tablets actor a meal that is not what I do because I wake up with heartburn so I take it first thing in the morning with the sometimes but I did not get an education there these are things that I use that I read them in now talk to your doctor before you take anything making Matt now I've had heartburn that was uncomfortable in so this is the other product us it's also buy INS omitted our power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles thanks for joining us today and we'll be right here when you come back to let's for joining us today for peril howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled Let's Talk Dementia It's available on Zahn it won't cost you one more but they send us the very small donation that if enough of us did it could rock our world in helping to cover the cost for producing all the different things we do in the free services that we offer so smile dot Amazon.com let's senior life journey that's where you'll find us well in essence you'll start pooping and stop belching you are going to be so much more enjoyable to be around. I'm just gonNa tell you in you tell them Carol Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran despacito veteran or both editor bed you can find Miss Beth crosby other supplements and I am a couple medications that I'm still taking I'm trying to get off the and I'm telling you I don't have I don't get heartburn I don't get Amazon in paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings welcome to let's talk demand John Carroll Hallel your host and I'm glad that you hear again today we're GonNa talk about pooping you know we all got to do it you can have nine eight five they are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia tell them Carol Cinci it had a pencil took to it and she was supposed to Jake mark everyday she didn't work because Momma couldn't remember to do it but we want to make sure we're being proactive gets in Tripoli was over here what triple Salim Hus- cats heartburn relief good stuff.
Life With Early Stage Dementia
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Hells. Let's talk dementia a podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles wiles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Welcome toilets talk dementia. I am Carol how your host. I'm glad you chosen to join me today. I'm an internationally certified Dementia Practitioner and author the Amazon bestselling books WCHS. Let's talk dementia. I also authored mom is confused and so am I reminiscent worship in if my body is a temple. Why am I eating doughnuts us. That's a good question. Isn't it and I hope you'll check those out on Amazon as well as at Hauer. I'll spit it out here our website site in that is. Www Dot let's talk dementia. Dot Org everything we produce has links there on the website you so inclined way would surely appreciate if you would make a donation to help finance the ministry as we continue to bring free dementia education to over seventy five countries. I'd like to thank our sponsor sponsor National Association of Veterans Families. WWW DOT in a v F dot Org eight hundred three five to to June nine one nine and they are your go to source for benefits for veterans spouses veteran or both tell them carol sent you well. I recently had the wonderful opportunity to meet a lady. Madeline who spoke with me regarding her mother and her mother has some early to potentially mid stage dementia where assuming at this point it is Alzheimer's type dementia based on what she's told me about her mom potentially only a mixed dementia and a mixed Dementieva's when you have more than one reason that can calls dementia and I can tell you with my mom is spirit. Jane who went to her or heavenly homo may thirty first of this year she had both Alzheimer's and Parkinson's so mama was never wanted to buy one of anything she always bought in duplicates or triplets so it would make sense she would have more than one dementia causing diagnosis crazy little white woman. She was a mess but anyway she had Mandola mandoline had said to me. I wish you would address a on episode regarding the life of if someone who is in early stages and as in I'm happy to do that. The good news is life for that individual in the early stages is generally sleep pretty normal especially in comparison to what we will experience as the dementia progresses as the disease causing the dementia progresses when we look back on it. We think life was pretty easy. Then but of course we are recognizing and our loved one with the disease is recognizing there are problems kaplans having problems with processing thought in getting words together and we're having problems with numbers we may begin having problems with fixing our own food or even remembering to eat and we may not be drinking as much as we should but none of this seems to be huge problems in our world but just enough that when you roll them all together in a big ball and you look at it it's beginning to be a problem when you consider it all all as one entity call dementia but how do we respond to these things in life and in with our loved one that we can be supportive of them while. Oh I think my biggest piece of advice on all of those issues all rolled into one ball is respect remembering to respect our loved ones in that what's going on in their world. Day did not choose. They didn't did not decide to do something that has caused it. We don't know what what Causes Alzheimers. We don't know what Causes Parkinson's or Lewy Body Disease Huntington's. You know all of these various forms of irreversible dementia. 's So so it's not like your loved one said you know I'm just GonNa keep on smoking even though it causes cancer see that's not what they did. They didn't do something they knew. Directly Klay would call them for sure to have these diseases but here they are dealing with it but you know what even if they have made made that decision to smoke with a news give them cancer and then they got cancer we still show respect and we still showed kindness 'cause that's what God's called us to but especially I loved ones who had no say in this matter so we want to show respect respect for who they are and who they were in in the process of watching them decline remember especially who they were. They were intelligent people with lots of education occasion in lots of stories in lots of love lots of humor lots of jokes. They liked detail. That's who they were before the disease and guess guess what they still are. They may not be able to access that education or access. Those stories in their humor may be a little different than it used to debate. They are still that person in this which you got to remember you. Don't want to talk to them in baby towns. They're not children. They don't need the baby boy's. Oh Carolina Sweetie usual said Cutie don't do that. I did not do that to my child. When she was little. I wanted her to learn the English language. not this high pitched. I Dunno where we get that silly voice from Utah to your loved ones with dementia in your normal voice justice just as you would speak to them if they didn't have dementia but then you recognize that there are changes that you have to make along the line in what what you expect in response in maybe how you phrase things that's going to be your biggest change but you respect their their their past and their present so that as the future comes you're more prepared. You respect them as far as their dignity. When you're out out in public you are kind to them and you don't make fun of them in you. Don't make fun of their disability especially in front of other other people just don't do that for anybody but just remember that for an example of your out at a restaurant and your loved one is trying to place an order and they can't seem to get their thoughts together. You can say oh. Just give me the menu. I'll order something for Mama. You're never gonNA figure it out or you could respond with Gosh Mom. There's a lot of options on that Menu Hanan main. Let me look getting the menu out of MOMS hand. In then recommending two options agents say you are still respecting who they were in their intelligence in their lives in their dislikes in their personality but you're just changing in your approach to that situation and that is what good caregiving as a bow. It's about changing our approach to life's situations. Um on when we're trying to. If we want to get someone who does not have dimension to bay we might say to them. Did you go a long way walked today. 'cause you are stinky. You need to go get bath in our personal goal. Oh Gosh I didn't realize I smell bad. I'll go get a bath that would work but if you say that some of dementia it might not go over so well you might. I say Hey Gosh I've got a great idea. I was thinking maybe we'd go out for dinner tonight. Let's get a bath and get all played up in put on your best Mellon Cologne. You know I know how we like it when you spray white diamonds always smells so good our approach to situations changes so we have to keep that in mind and in so doing we respect the dignity of our people and that's what I want you to do always respect their dignity have respect for what they can do in what they do in the process of doing that you'll come through that situation and they'll come to that situation both of you with a smile now in that's what we want. We won't that in all of our life if you were working with individuals on a day-to-day basis and you constantly leave them with a frown you doing something wrong. John Girlfriend in you need to make change and probably is in your approach with that person. I know that I can think right now of a certain person who set me off. Oh my goodness I just think about this person two sets me off and so I realized that when I am around this person might protest to to be different because this person's not GonNa Change. I'm GONNA tell you they're not so what has to change is my approach and my expectations from that person have to change change and when I do I might not come through it all smiling and happy but at least I won't come through as stressed out as I would have been otherwise in that that is true with our loved ones with dementia. Change your expectations to what they're capable of in every once in a while. They're just going to surprise you in. They're gonNA and do something so terrifically wonderful. You're GonNa go where did that. Go from we don't know but it might be funny or it might be enlightening might be really really deep. You just don't know in so you treasure those moments but our loved ones with the early stages are pretty much still functioning in lots of ways that seem normal and it will seem normal with for folks who come to visit them in those folks may think they don't have dementia. They do just that's fine. Every time I come we have great conversations back and forth and I just don't think they have dementia in. You're going to hear this but that's because so many of our folks folks with dementia are excellent actors or actresses and they cover their butts. Oh yes they do so the question conversation make us something like sub Susan. How is your daughter doing and suzy may not even remember her daughter's name at this point but she'll say something like. Oh my goodness she he is doing so good. She has always been the joy of my life. You know that she is such a good girl. I love that girl sit. All of those are just generic kind of answers answers. It's kind of like when I ask my daughter. What did you have for lunch today at school when she was in elementary school and she would say food will see that's correct. Dancer didn't tell me much but it was a correct answer so our our visitors who only show up periodically not very often that will often just get the generic answer side from the person they're visiting in just be sure they don't have dementia that happened with my mom as she went her cardiologists in wonderful wonderful doctor. I really liked him but he would come in and ask her questions hello. How're you doing just great. Have you had any problems with your heart and she goes well. I just don't think so well. Is there anything I need to be talking to you about any concerns or issues. You have no feeling good and he would look look at me. He would do this so often. He would say your mother. Does it have dementia. She's doing just fine well. Let's think about it. He didn't once ask her a very specific question. Christian did he. He didn't want say Missouri. Do you know if your pacemaker husband checked regularly and what was it jet doesn't know that Gee just answering. I answering questions generically so always kind of irritated me when he would say that and I was like you know it. Mama did not have dementia in. We did not know for sure that my mom had dementia and what kind it was. Do you think I would make up. No I will not oh my goodness be aware of that when folks come I'm to visit and sometimes you've just got to take the side and say you know mom has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's or Parkinson's or vascular dementia and she is. She's very good it covering in making up answers you just go along with her and be happy and visit her smile and do fun things except the answers that she gives you even if we we know those answers aren't true because bullying those days are coming to where we make up stuff. Omar good as we can make up some junk good creative memories we have sometimes is a well. I hope that kind of gives you a little thought of ways to interact with US too early to mid stage dementia pretty much entering their world and going what they say. That's probably the truce no matter the type of the stage dementia especially at that point well. I'd like to thank our sponsor National Association of Veterans and families you can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine until the Carol sent you. I hope you have a great day. I I hope you leave this. Show feeling a little more informed in when you do go hug your Ella Intel. Imperil saved me lessons minds. Thanks for joining us today for Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon in paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes. 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Starting a Dementia Care Support Group
"Senior life journeys presents carol howls. Let's talk dementia a podcast designed to help caregivers fine knowledge power hope and smiles sales in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author carol. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Yeah i am carol. How will your host internationally certified dementia practitioner and author amazon bestselling book. Let's talk dementia and also i authored the books looks. Let's say mama is confused so him. I i said that to someone yesterday. That's the name of the book yes. That's the name of the book have another book called reminiscent in worship and another strange title book called if my body's temple why am i eating doughnuts like titles that kick kick your tinge in you know so maybe you can find all of those on amazon and on our website w._w._w. Dot let's talk dementia dot dot o._r._g. A special shout out thank you to the sponsors of today show national association of veterans and families. You can reach them at one eight hundred three five to two to nine. One nine in their website is w._w._w. Dot in a v f dot com now if you are looking for for benefits for the veteran or the spouse of the veteran. I'm telling you that's the place to go. I highly recommend you do not contact the a <hes>. I'm sure sure they would not appreciate me saying that but if you go to the v._a. To get benefits you're not going to get them. It's just a pain in the butt. If you will contact nineteen f- they will help you nine gave you. The wrong website is w._w._w. Dot in a v f dot o. r. g. I said that wrong you you tell them carol sent you whether they i wanted to <hes> reflect back on an email i received from a i don't it was a listener to the podcast or someone who watches our videos which p._s. You can find on youtube under let's talk dementia and also on roku amazon fire stick but she was interested in starting a support group for caregivers who were traveling this journey of dementia in wanted to know <hes> my thoughts on it so i thought i would share with you a little bit of what i wrote her and i'm going to tell you a good support. Team is essential in caregiving. If if not you're not gonna make it through this journey one whole piece while we know his caregivers pass away forty percent or forty percent cast caregivers pass away before are their loved ones with dementia forty percent. We can't have that folks. We've got to learn to take care of ourselves and that's why i'm here for you. And that's why hope to bring you information to help understand what's going on but understand how important it is to take care of you. I've told you votes repeatedly. Find a rock in the parking. Go sit on it by yourself and sit there earlier in relax and reflect in think on good things think on the blessings of your life think on funny things take a book and read it listen to music. Get away is important but having a good support group in the in the physical form of group of people who get together <hes> weekly or every week or monthly or whatever the plan is an excellent idea and i hope there are support groups in your area. You're looking for one. You can contact your area agency on aging. Sometimes it's called area council on aging. Most counties will have something in a name similar to that s them. We're support. Group is near you achieved. The alzheimer's association has several support groups throughout most areas in. Maybe there'll be one for you. Churches have them but if you're thinking you might i wanna start when yourself i say go for it. You know sometimes lord liaison heart these things in we should not ignore them going into it. Prepared is a good the plan you do need to get the word out and again going to that area agency on aging tell them you're wanting to start a support group and will they put you on the list of of support support groups that they recommend. That's a good idea. Let area churches. No you're doing it. Rotary clubs civic organizations lions club sedans <hes> whatever let them know that this support group is being started in you dislike for them to announce it at their meeting. Maybe they would let you come to a meeting and talk about why you are starting this support group. You'd be surprised the welcome he received from the civic organizations <hes> i also recommend having speakers and <hes> every so often of course. I'd say that that's what i do. I speak all the time right going to different places in speaking about dementia but if periodically not every meeting but periodically you have someone a professional come in the elder care industry and <hes> have them address specific points while they're they're making making sure they know ahead of time that they're not going to come and talk for an hour that you're going to give them x number of minutes and then please allow time for questions afterwards then they will come prepared to be a good presenter so having someone comes speak about dementia <hes> having someone comes speak about medicare or medicaid an elder care attorney lots lots of different venues that can be approached to help fill the need of someone it was traveling that journey if you know of a really good assisted living community in that has fantastic activities department seized activities director will come and talk about activities for folks with dementia yeah now one thing you can do is you can take this podcast in shoes any of the several hundred episodes that we have and use it for your topic nick for that particular meeting. Take one of our videos off of you to have everybody watch it. Put it on the screen. I am happy to share it in any way that brings good good information to your folks <hes>. I always want you to think about ways that you can reach your your population. Your caregivers averse to help bring to them some knowledge some power some hope and some smiles and that's what we are all about. I like to say one thing that i've started on recently away. <hes> at let's talk dementia are becoming a blues blue zone certified organization meaning that any activity that we sponsor <hes> <hes> will be serving blue zone approved snacks and foods now bluestone are those six parts of the world where the folks lived on beyond many of the votes live beyond the age of one hundred and the presence of heart disease cancer and dementia are much lower than in any other parts so the world now not everybody lives two hundred that's for sure but more people do six places of the world than anywhere else so this company began studying why what's is going on and they call those areas the blue zone for a very technical reason they circled those areas with the blue marker so they're mapping eh six big blue circles so when you are having the support groups consider only serving healthy snacks don't bring in donaldson johnson all that sugary stuff that's bad for your body builds inflammation inflammation bad for your brain. Just don't do it so we are going to. Ah the support group meetings have helped snags and maybe even consider making a blue zone recipe and you can google that i've been making some bean recipes in the last asked <hes> three weeks <hes> since i've started this process and they are just absolutely fabulous you can make a pot of bain stew with it with beans and potatoes and carrots and onions all kinds of good season. It has <unk> share that have that instead of cake and ice cream. There will be a little surprised yeah yeah but then they're gonna go that was really good stuff and you can go to our website under videos i believe and you will find links to at least two recipes there but you can also go blues song and make it healthy helping them to realize how important it is for them as the caregiver to be eating healthy foods food and how important it is for them to be sharing in cooking and preparing for their of their loved one healthy foods also so those are just a few thoughts. What's for how to have a good support group. I would recommend you sit in circle so everybody can see each other and keep it light hearted. You don't want people to feel stressed mustache. You don't want them to feel like they've got to put on pantyhose. Come either you want them to become wearing shorts and t shirts or bluejeans and flip lots. Just come in relax lacks be appreciated and allow each person some time to update the group on what's going on with their loved one. If your group is a size that can happen happen. Hey maybe your group will be forty. People when day and you can't do that and at that time you might want to consider breaking it into. Maybe a couple of smaller groups. It's a wonderful way to be in ministry to folks who are traveling this journey of dementia and they then can minister to you so i think gives you something to think about as did you go about this process of your caregiving journey. Maybe there's appalling for you to start a support group a special thanks to our sponsor national association of veterans families w._w._w. Www in a via dot o._r._g. Eight hundred three five to to nine one nine they speak veteran so you don't have to 'cause you don't know how to speak veteran windu but they do. Please tell them carol sent you. I hope you have a good rest of the day. I hope you're caregiving journeys a good one now. Leave me and go hug on. We love one till the this hugs from carol lessons and smiles by thanks for joining us today for carol howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on amazon in paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes. Remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today and we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.