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We Don't Need an Income Inequality Commission; Get a Job
"Earlier, because I'm sitting there between shows I get about an hour. How to shave a little bit, You know, Got to get ready. Got my fox show tomorrow. All this stuff going on. Got to get all this like Mata fired junk off my face because I hate it. And I'm looking at Fox and I hear Nancy Pelosi at a press conference. They have an income inequality Commission. Yeah. Yeah, an income inequality commission. They want to Trying to get to the bottom of how it is. That income is distributed airports. Different number One income isn't distributed knuckleheads its earn, please. They have. There's a name for an income distribution center. Do you know what it is Anyone? Jim Mike? It's called a job. A freaking job. That's the income distribution center. You want to go get income. Here's the distribution center. It's called the J O. B. Remember, Joe Biden said. It's a four letter word, whatever a J O B It's a job. How income is distributed. It's not distributed. It's earned. Don't you love the way this Marxist ideology works its way into the American collective lexicon, the House income distributed. It's not distributed numbnuts. Listen, I'm gonna really pissy mood today. I'm really sorry. I'm but for all the right reasons, not the wrong reasons. I want to be on the air. But, yes, I'm not happy. And I'm not going to pretend to be happy. And I'm not gonna buy all this Bs on the air. My God, we need any time inequality transport to determine how it's distributed. It's distributed at a job. Go get a job. There's the income distribution center. Don't want to hear your excuses if you weren't able bodied adults who can work, get a
Juneteenth Becomes a National Holiday
"June 19th is now officially of federal holiday. You're gonna see me dancing in the street. I tell you, I'm so happy. I don't know what to do. That's 94 year old Opal Lee affectionately referred to as the grandmother of Juneteenth. She's pushed for the day to become a national holiday for years, and now it is at a White House signing ceremony, Li described a momentous day of June 19th. 18 65 General Gordon Granger, um, made his way. To Galveston, with some 7000 colored troops they were from Illinois was in New York, and he had and Red General Order number three. That said that all the slaves were free for slaves in Texas. The news that they were free came 2.5 years after President Lincoln issued the Emancipation Proclamation and two months after Confederate General Robert E. Lee surrendered at a town called Appomattox Courthouse, Virginia in signing the Juneteenth National Independence Day Act, President Biden said the importance of this day must never be forgotten by making Juneteenth a federal holiday. All Americans can feel the power of this day and learn from our history. Celebrate progress and grapple. The distance. We come With additions we have to travel because, says the president, this is not just a day of remembrance and reckoning. It's a time to repair racial divisions. This is his day profound in my view, profound weight and profound power. Day in which remember The moral stain the terrible toll. Slavery took on the country. And continues to take its also a day, says House Speaker Nancy Pelosi for
We Have to Be Project Managers of Elections and Conservative Principles
"Gave a speech this week at the Great Club 45. I've been talking about it all week in Palm Beach because I don't get out of my house at all. So these are really big events for me. It's like yes, I left. I went to a restaurant. So what? You don't understand? I never leave. But I gave this speech about a lot of great people. And 90% of the crowd understood that we have to fight on while still I hate the term getting to the bottom of, but let's just use it here for the sake of time getting to the bottom of what happened in 2020. Some people in the crowd about 10% didn't want to hear that. That's okay. I'm not here to lie to you. You your title to your opinion. Some people think we should focus on 2020 only and forget 2022 2024. It's not worth it until we do 2020. Your opinion. You're entitled to it. It is a free country with the big our God given right to speech. I just vigorously disagree. I know it's not efficient have to focus on two things to focus on two things strongly. And vigorously at the same time. President Trump clearly agrees. We darn well better get to the bottom of what happened in 2020. While simultaneously focusing on 2022. We can't just forfeit away 2022 because of 2020 shenanigans. I mean, how are we ever going to figure out what happened in 2020? If we continue to elect House Democrats and and and and Senate Democrats as well, you think Nancy Pelosi and Chuck Schumer are going to help us in that endeavor? Of course they won't. That's absurd. We have to focus on parallel tracks. Regardless of the inefficiency of it. I get it. The human brain wants to focus on one thing at a time. We don't have that option. We don't have that luxury. We are election project managers. Now we are project managers for liberty and freedom right now. There is a liberty and freedom movement. You all are the anointed ones. Go in Peace to love and serve. You are the project managers for liberty. And we have to multitask.
Media Wants to Celebrate Capitol Police but Not Those Who Protected During Antifa, BLM Violence
"A story all the headlines Congressional gold medal vote. The congressional gold medal to all the officers who defended the capital in January. 6th 21. Republicans voted no And the media very upset about this. The media very upset about this. Let's step back. The media have spent over a year trashing law enforcement in this country. Every reprobate. Imaginable. Miscreant malcontent. Whether professors or otherwise, members of black lives matter brought on T V. To tell us how bad the cops are. Except for apparently The Capitol Hill police. Because those police deserve a congressional gold medal. Not the police were trying to defend the Portland federal building. Not the police who tried to defend their own precincts in every city in this country, virtually Not the park Police and the Secret Service who defended the White House. From attacks on the White House. No, no, they don't deserve anything except To be trashed and I remember what took place in Portland. And I remember what Pelosi in Clybourne had to say the number one and number three Democrats in the House who not want to hand out gold medals. And I want to remind you Because it's only one year ago. June 2020. When Nancy Pelosi compared Federal law enforcement that was trying to protect a federal courthouse. From an insurrection, a violent armed insurrection. Stormtroopers cut 15 go.
Liberals like Biden Can Only Play Boogeyman Politics
"Our policies are a disaster on the sucks scale, you know, like a 98 and 100 on the scale of how bad a policy that sucked So what they do is they get you to try, you know, to vote or try to get you to vote for them by saying the other guy sucks worse. That's it. That's the whole liberal agenda. They rarely run on their agenda in swing districts. You know Nancy Pelosi's district, they can run on whatever they want. But in swing districts you almost never hear liberals say things like higher taxes are wonderful. Government controlled health care is fantastic. We're going to confiscate all your guns. It only works in San Francisco. They don't do it because sane Americans and swing districts don't give a crap about any of that stuff. I think it's all crazy. So their whole agenda is well, The other guy sucks a lot worse. So I call the boogeyman politics, But liberals are phone ease. And it's all AstroTurf in all made up here is a perfect example of boogeyman politics. Right here. Here's a clip from O and one American News It's about. Let's see 35 2nd song. Joe Biden needs a flash card to remind him he thinks everything is Trump's fault. Check this out. Joe Biden fiddles with a flash card of anti Trump talking points during a press conference in England. Biden branching the card label DOJ talking points while speaking Sunday in Cornwall. The cards include a number of preplanned answers. That's including a claim that Trump quote, abused power. And that is Justice Department was out of control. This is the DOJ inspector general has recently opened a review into the Trump era seizure of some House Democrats and staff data during a 2018 investigation. Into leaks about the Russia probe. Can't believe this guy is in charge. Sometimes I really can't. They said in a speech the other night down in, uh, West Palm Beach. I can't get around the fact that this guy is the president is just stunning his level of incompetence. He has a This is the President United States He has a flash card number one.
Pelosi Says House Will Move Forward With January 6 Investigations
"Be a congressional investigation into the January 6th riot at the U. S. Capital, House Speaker Nancy Pelosi to huddle with Democrat committee chairs to determine what form that will take. She could create a select committee to probe the cause is in response to the riot. The Senate failed to pass the bill that would have created a special 9 11 style commission to study it.
Did Attorney General Barr Expose Hunter Biden Story to Devalue China Blackmail?
"We have the potential for an incoming government. With a prominent member of Congress. And his bosom buddy Nancy Pelosi. Along with the now president elect of the United States. We cannot allow the Chinese government to have a stack this high a cornucopia thanksgiving feast of blackmail material on them. Because ladies and gentlemen the whole essence of black males, you're going to leak information Other people don't have and you're going to embarrass them. Well, you can't blackmail somewhat about leaked information if it's already leaked it out there. You know if producer Jim and I were planning on robbing a bank and emailing each other and the New York Times got a hold of it, said Dan, We're putting these emails out in public unless you do x Y or Z. It's no good. If the emails are already out in public, that's not how blackmail works. So is it possible someone in DOJ bar someone else? I don't know. I can't get in their heads. But is it possible if not likely? Someone in DOJ said. We're going to have a big China blackmail problem from a nuclear powered enemy, the United States. If we let this stand, we better put this out right now, before these guys swear it again. Folks, these dates can't possibly be a coincidence. Read the headlines. Bill Barr is gonna going to leave the administration. December 14th exclusive. Chinese spy Targeted California politicians, notably Democrats, December 8th. Federal criminal investigation. 100 Biden focuses on his business dealings in China. December 10th. There's no way that's a coincidence. No way. These events had to be related bar had to see what was coming that we had people in the government and entering into the government, Joe Biden, who were compromise How do you get rid of the compromise? You put the information out there you reduce its value. I mean, you wipe its
House Speaker Pelosi Criticizes Federal Judge Overturning California’s Ban on Assault Weapons
"Others in California and across the country to a federal judge's ruling overturning the state's three decade old ban on assault weapons. Federal judge Roger Bennett has compared the AR 15 to a Swiss army knife, allowing it a perfect combination of home defense weapon and homeland defense equipment. Speaker Nancy Pelosi. How we face the families who have lost their loved ones to gun violence. We have a judge saying that kind of an automatic weapon is the equivalent of a Swiss army knife. Something is very wrong. California Attorney General
Facebook Suspends Trump Accounts for Two Years
"Trump will extend until January 2023 CBS's Nancy Corgis on what it means Mr Trump will no longer be able to raise money for himself or for other Republicans on Facebook until after the 2022 midterm elections. A federal judge ruled
Pelosi Rules out Having Biden Create Jan. 6 Commission
"House speaker Nancy Pelosi continues weighing options for an investigation into the deadly January attack on the U. S. capitol but she's ruling out a presidential commission now that Senate Republicans blocked legislation for a bipartisan commission to study the capital insurrection an insider tells the Associated Press house speaker Nancy Pelosi laid out four possible options for going forward what's come off the table is having president Biden appoint a presidential commission describing that in her words as unworkable without giving details although that's what some Democrats were seeking other options giving the Senate another chance at a boat with hopes of swaying a few more Republicans or her creating a new select committee or using a standing committee to take a deep dive into what happened that day and how the attack was organized I'm Jackie Quinn
Episode 142: Freddys Back! Freddys Back! Freddys Back! - burst 22
"He's at school tired. You can't be comfortable. Pooping at school. He must just be really tired. he's just exhausted. And he's like maybe just maybe he's not pooping. Maybe he's just like i'm just a breather and just relax done that before a bit at work before it was like. Oh god i just wanna wanna go to the bathroom and just sit there and pretend to poop every couple of issues like sorry guys. Still pooping dude. We don't care we don't care which guys just give me update dude. Someone's there the whole time knowing what to do with their pooping in public place. It's the worst is the absolute worst and then like when you hear. Somebody entered the bathroom. Like oh and then you see them. Walk through a little crack between the door and like i contact. It's like saw each other most vulnerable. It's the worst. So yeah he falls asleep taking shit and he gets sucked into or he's in a dream and he's doing his he's had joe. Yeah phrase invisible. Which is kinda weird having an invisible fight. Yeah that is weird. Get to property. Lynch not wanna do the fights available. Maybe he had to poop well times the waste it in so he fights him. Yeah i read is kicking his and then starts fighting back and he's doing good and then all of a sudden freddy's glove appears and just flies rick and kill them and each time. One of her friends dies after kristen. It's like alice like gets a jolt of energy. We're finding out of their talents and abilities are their dream. Tell right are passing onto alice. I don't know what sheila's dream talent was brains. Mind over matter so she says she signed my poster. There you go there you go so then we to the funeral and this is kind of a weird scene because rick like comes out of his own coffin and has kind of a moment with his sister and he goes halo. Regan yeah very strange. Also notice at the funeral for some people like kincaid funeral. Some people. don't yeah but kincaid. Enjoy your like buried next to each other. And there are buried next to nancy and then kristen's buried next to them. It's like they all got funeral plots right next their plots right next to each other. They don't know how they died. They like the people who don't know anything about freddie. They still buried them all next year. Exactly exactly nobody in the no one else in the town died in the interim between you know so the greet at the funeral to me. Debbie's another thing another thing if you live in a town where like twenty years ago in. This wasn't even twenty years ago right so like it's a year after those people died at the mental hospital. It's like four years after what happened in elm street one. And it's like what twenty years after what happened to freddie krueger. Yeah like don't you think you would know the story like everybody's like who's freddie and it has to be explained every fucking movie who freddie s. Even if you're new to the town folklore at this point yeah was gonna come up to you and go. You're about freddy krueger yet. And you're like what the fuck talking about. Yeah of course have killed. He killed children like we know. Stories about like fucking jeffrey dahmer. And we don't even live. I did but don't even live in milwaukee wisconsin. Yeah this would be big news. Yes but not the dream stuff might not be big news but knowing who freddie krueger was when he was like in the real world like alive you would know that store exactly and why is nancy's house associated to freddie krueger of. Nobody lives there anymore. Like i understand in one to the house being there. But why's everybody always going back to that house. That's up freddy kruger house. That was nancy's house gets the freddie house. But it's not freddie's house. It's nancy's maybe was ready. But it wasn't. I mean did spread. Nancy's
A Generation of Germans Give 'Final Account' of Living Through Nazi Germany
"Jump into the movie reviews and talk about final accounts. A documentary filmmaker spends a decade interviewing the surviving Germans who were involved in the Third Reich when they were younger. Focus Features and participant present on unprecedented documentary event For the first time on record, The Children of Nazi Germany give their final account in what may well be the last testimony. Of its kind. Now I'm gonna warn you. It's a documentary. So you know it's not an action movie, and it also is almost completely in German. Because It's a German guy interviewing Germans. So everybody speaks German. So yes, you're gonna have to read Subtitles Sorry, folks. But this is a fascinating movie because It interviews people who were Children when the Nazis essentially came to power. I mean, maybe they were teenagers. And here you've got to realize people in America. You have no idea of the difference between living as a teenager in America Now versus living as a teenager. In Germany Post World War One Things were very, very different. It was the old world, You know they didn't have any sort of TV or Internet, So I think the most Telling thing about this is it shows some footage from back then some film footage And now we've been so used to knowing that the Nazis were a horrible party and the symbols of the Nazis are extremely jarring to suddenly just see show up. That wasn't the case 100 years ago. You know, you started seeing the Nancy flag back then in Germany, and that was just another political party. It was not a symbol of horror. That it is today
House Votes to Create Panel to Probe Jan. 6 Insurrection
"Hi Mike Rossi a reporting the house votes to create a panel to probe the January sixth insurrection at the US capitol on this vote the yeas are two hundred and fifty two the nays are one hundred and seventy five the bill is passed house speaker Nancy Pelosi announcing the vote as the U. S. house of representatives approved the creation of an independent commission to investigate the January sixth insurrection at the US capitol during debate Democrats and Republicans voiced support for the commission we need to get to the bottom of this this is about facts it's not partisan politics not Republican Marjorie Taylor green came out against an investigation the media is going to use this to smear trump supporters in the Senate minority leader Mitch McConnell said Wednesday morning he will oppose the legislation Mike Rossio Washington
House to Vote on Independent Panel to Probe Jan. 6 Attack
"The house is set to vote on an independent panel to probe the capital attack a maid G. O. P. resistance the nine eleven style commission would be aimed at investigating the season and tried to prevent another house GOP leader Kevin McCarthy says he'll oppose it which speaker Nancy Pelosi describes as cowardice not price while the house is expected to approve the measure it'll likely be a tougher sell in the Senate Mitch McConnell says he's Republicans are undecided while reading the fine print leisurely early balance and not tilted while some Republicans say they think an independent probe is necessary many are still unwilling to upset former president trump warns against approving what he calls a Democrat trap Sager mag ani Washington
McCarthy Opposes Commission To Probe Jan. 6 Insurrection, Democrats Push Forward
"Congressional Democrats say they'll go forward with the vote on an independent commission to investigate the deadly incursion at the U. S. capitol despite Republican opposition house minority leader Kevin McCarthy said he opposed to study on the deadly January sees saying he wanted to look forward and not backward it's expected McCarthy would be questioned about his conversation with Donald Trump that day as the capital came under attack house speaker Nancy Pelosi says she's disappointed but not surprised Senate Republican leader Mitch McConnell says he's undecided concern the commission wouldn't really be bipartisan want to read the fine print but Senate leader Chuck Schumer says are they on the side of truth what do they want to cover up for the insurrectionist and for Donald Trump trump released a statement telling Republicans to avoid voting for a review he called it a Democrat trap I'm Jackie Quinn
Your Tax Refund May Take a Bit Longer This Year
"Day. The deadline for filing your 2020 federal taxes month later than normal years. But even if you filed early this year, you may still be waiting for your refund. That is because shocker the pandemic did a number on a lot of people's tax returns. And the I. R S is now buried in a huge backlog. For starters, 30 million tax returns were flagged for a manual review. People got stimulus checks and other relief payments that Iris has to take a closer look at and it still as returns from 2019 zipped through as well. Marketplaces Nancy Marshall Ganz explains what's going on. Samuel McConnell and his wife, Wendy, filed their 2020 tax return in February. But they're still waiting for their $2900 refund. The iris just tells them you return is being processed. With no other information, no information. Why? No, it's always tempting to blame things on your kids. But this time the delay really could be due to McConnell's daughter, Maggie. Well since Maggie was born in January. Of 2020. The Iris didn't know about her. So McConnell claimed Maggie's Cove, it relief payments on their 2020 taxes that may have put them in that backlog of 30 million returns. Aaron Collins is the I. R S is national taxpayer advocate. 30 million returns. For however many I arrest employees to process is a very large lift for the IRAs in Colin says it doesn't help that the irises budget was cut 20% over the past decade. I'm
Hearing on Jan. 6 Violence Exposes Stark Partisan Divisions
"House speaker Nancy Pelosi is calling out a GOP lawmaker who described the January six capital rioters as peaceful there was no insurrection at a hearing yesterday Georgia freshman Andrew Clyde was among Republicans defending the rioters he says video shows people walking through the capitol in an orderly fashion and staying between the ropes you would actually think it was a normal tourists visit this morning really really hello see says a normal day at the capitol doesn't involve threats to hang the vice president and shoot the speaker it was beyond denial it fell into the range of sick pelo see says the house will soon take up funding for what she called urgently needed security upgrades Sager mag ani Washington
Nancy McKay on Equus Coaching
"Tank with me today. Nancy mackay in. Nancy is certified life and equis coach author and speaker so welcome. Thank you so much terry. It's great to be here. Yes i told you right before. I hit record. I had to look up how to pronounce e. q. u. s. had the ideal. What is equis is horses. And so it's You know it's just part of the terminology and As an equis coach. I don't coach forces but i use horses as co facilitators for life. Coaching wonderful will you saw. Might my labrador tow behind me moving around just a second ago. And she's a registered are certified. Therapy dog registered therapy dogs through pet partners and we work with kids in schools and so it really is. It's amazing how animals can have an impact on helping people heal and in loosely. Yeah absolutely beautiful. It's just it's magic. Yeah i've heard. Horses are just amazing at at doing that for people as well.
"nancy" Discussed on Nancy
"Taliban! One thing we always used to joke about at least behind the scenes with that. When the day came that Nancy was coming to a close. You and I. Would get married. And so. I think it's only appropriate. That I get down on one knee. Oh, God told me. We've basically been married for three years. That's true, so why not make it official? Save on health and. That's my girl..
"nancy" Discussed on Nancy
"And I remember. We have like a pitch process for stories and stuff like that, but. This one, I was just. Sending, a message being like I'm going yeah. Yeah Yeah, and if you stopped me, I quit. I've mushy feelings. Question for you. Okay here we go feelings being that this is the last time for a bit that we're going to talk to each other sort of in this capacity I. Think it's a nice time to. Say anything sort of. Lingering. That we, WanNa, say to each other. L.. Lingering fame okay. Well I will say I think that before we made the show. I was queer person, but it didn't really matter to me whether or not I was queer. It was like you know somebody that was like. It's not the most important thing about me, so let's not talk about it. but since the show started feel. Like I M so much more happy and more comfortable in my life in where I am with like Mike Weirdness with like how relate to other people with my family, and I don't think that I could have gotten this far with just therapy. I think. I think that it's a huge credit to. The show, making me like out certain things and educating myself and working with amazing people like you and. in our contributors that I just feel so much more. I would say feel so much more alive now than I did before the show started so. If I was gonNA think one person. That would be. Angelina Jolie just kid I knew you were setting me up. It's Tobin. Nobody really like. I don't think I would be where I am now with how. About. May My self esteem as our myself confidences without having. Gone through. All of this stuff with you. Mayo. been so I'm raising my lacroix. To you. I I want to say how fucking lucky I feel that. We met. And we got to do this show together. Oh No. I'll tell Ben. No I feel I feel very lucky that we met and we got to do the same together because it's so. I think it is highly unusual to meet somebody that on so many levels you jowl with. And that. Like you and I have figured out a way to genuinely be. Friends and collaborators and creatively make something, but also at the end of the day be able to text each other and be like. He believes this fucking thing happens. which do off time and we like. Bitch about things. We're both mad about whatever. And so. When I look back on the last couple of years. Yes I love the show. Yes I love all the things we got to do. But I am. So grateful I got to do it with you. All Tobin I feel the same way. You always say it much better than I ever can. Which is why I always just say what Tobin said. This, is like a conscious and coupling, isn't it? No I mean 'cause like we'll probably still do. This just won't be recorded. Is. There anything you hope the listeners. Take away from listening to the show. I just hope that people feel less. Alone, because even even though I have. I have. A lot of friends in my life My family's not that close despite. What you may hear on the show. I fill it up with a lot of friends. But, it still felt very lonely and I think. Partially it's because I wasn't super proud and out about who I was. 'cause you can still feel lonely with so many people around so I I hope that. People take away from the show. a sense of belonging and a sense of community and sense of just. A lesser sense of loneliness. Yeah. I would say definitely same. Echo all of that. I hope that in telling the stories that we did and having the people on the show that we did that. People walk away from this feeling like there's no one way to be queer that there's so many different Mike flavors and ways of being and. I think we sat on the show before or these. We've talked about before that like. Being Queer doesn't automatically. Make you an empathetic person. it doesn't automatically make you like a good or better person. But it does offer you. The ability to be empathetic to anyone who is outside of the you know quote unquote norm. And so like I hope listeners to the show. Take Away. This idea that there's no one way of being and so. That is your invitation to be empathetic and open to so many.
"nancy" Discussed on Nancy
"So this being our last episode, I think both of US wanted to make some time. Just talk the two of us, because in the end of this whole show is about us. This is how everyone finds out. Kathy is actually a monster monster. Tobin I want you to tell me about a favorite memory from from the show itself. I really enjoyed the time that I wore heels for the day. And walked the couple of miles from my apartment at the time to the subway in heels in the rain. And was recording myself along the way and just thought. This is my job I'm doing this for my job right now. I am learning how to transgress gender. For My job and that's pretty cool. Like half a block and so much pain. Why? And I would say like when I first started walking I felt all the things of like being very square very awkward. One's stuck. Everybody. And I had to sort of be like no own. It just GONNA. Play in my mind. Lizzo has juice. That's got me the rest of the way they're. Like. Imagine yourself being tall like loosening your hips and released straddling. And then I also love getting to work and having most of the. Women in office who sometimes wear heels? Tell me, you idiot. You don't have to wear them all the time walking. You can wear like commuter shoes. And then change into them at work if you really want to, what about you? Personal favorite memory from the show I will say I think. One of my favorite memories Oh. This is not a surprise getting to go visit Katie her in her. Nashville home. Katie Katie Herzog is one of my favorite singer songwriters. Just have a feeling that maybe she was working through something. Maybe she was here. Maybe not I. Don't know then. She came out. While we were working on the show and I was like. Oh! To Talk to her. I have this thing that was kind of a secret, and I'd never had a secret and. Not having a secret in life or having. To withhold parts of yourself. Is just eats away at your freedom. I hated that feeling so much..
"nancy" Discussed on Nancy
"Was there anything that I talked on the show about or that? You heard on the show that you thought was too racy for your. Enjoyment. For the most part I thought it was so. Educational for me to like just learn so many aspects of the broad spectrum of lgbtq, but from a mother's perspective. I just felt that there were some things that are not meant for mother's ears to hear her son talk about. Sexual content like glory holes. Dad Anything I talked about on the show. That's too racy or you mean the glory hole. Just anything. You went for the glory. I love your parents though I do too I do. I'm curious how they reacted to hearing themselves on the show you know when they first came on, it was to talk about their reactions to when I came out. In College I, think listening to the show over the years. It's given them more of a glimpse as to what I experienced before, and after that moment like we've done episodes about what it's been like. Like for me as an adult queer person, and also what it was like to grow up closet, you know it. I think a lot of times I. Kind of Replay Your Childhood in my head, and think about like what could I have done differently, or would it have been easier for you? If I had been more aware our knowledgeable, and so you know there. There was that kind of balance of both like so much gratitude for understanding and knowing so much more now. As sadness that I I didn't know that before. We hear that from so many parents of Queer kids that they just want to know how they can do more or be better. Yeah and I do want to use this last episode to make sure my parents here this because I know. They're listening I think they got really right. They listen to me. They were supportive. I mean I think back to. How my dad was after I came out. Certainly, we've talked about how that it took me a year to re reframe you in my mind. And I told you I had to drive to work every day saying out loud to myself, I'm the father of a gay man and now was. It took me time to accept that and the tears would come only because of my fears about AIDS and my worry for your health a bit over time. I've seen you mature and so I'm much happier that you're happy where you are and I wouldn't have you be any other way. You're the the exact. Tobin load that I want and so happy to have as as a son. have to say that very sweet sentiment is something I heard from both of my parents a whole bunch tobin. This is no secret I have literally ask your parents to adopt me. I know this because you text them separately from me Oh. Yeah, we're definitely in a group chat. It's great. I will leave this Nancy listeners that I feel more connected to the community, the Lgbtq community more than ever. And I would urge you to keep supporting. Programs that that that share our diversity. And that would that would include the new version of queer eye. GonNa throw a plug for the new queer, eye and show. I still have to. Classic Mr Low love it..
"nancy" Discussed on Nancy
"Come out to my mom, just just hearing. Hearing somebody else go through it and knowing that I'm not alone, even though it's a really. Difficult thing to do. I'm so glad it was helpful to her. It was so helpful to so many people. And I think it's only right that by popular demand. Well yes I talked to our favorite guests. The woman who started it all my mother. Hello how are you? Fine thank you. What are you doing right now? Sitting here, listening to your phone, so that's my mother. I'm starting to understand where I. Get my sense of humor from starting to. Well to be honest. My mom wasn't super chatty when I called because. She says I interview her too much, but you know this was important I. Asked her how she felt about the show ending would you? Would you, the Yamato how that you a you book a you, don't she? Enjoys his enjoy enjoy. He He's good just to He's normal. She says it's a good thing. You can't work on the same thing forever. It's good. It's no ball. How do you feel that our conversation? You and I talking have helped other queer children and their parents, their Asian parents immigrant parents. Oh, aw, to rewards in their bundle. Yala, that's good. If I really have helped some people then that's good happy mom with a short answers today. Truly is done with me. Well. I also asked her about Utopian hone. Cousin had nice engine. Nice Yeah. Can See you the partner she says Tobin looks like a nice young person very nice in a very nice partner to you I'm GonNa Choose to focus on the part where she said. I looked young. Thank you. I'm not. But there was one thing I really wanted to tell her because. I think it's been the biggest change for me since we started to making Nancy and since I started interviewing mom about a relationship, I feel like there's been so much growth between us and I just I just wanted to have like this moment with her. Since I've started making the show and did those episodes with you. The interviews with you? I feel like I actually. Come around to understanding you more. Is Good. I appreciate. You always take you always taking the time to do these interviews because I know that they're not. They're not easy to do so. Thank you for doing that. Your come your. Daughter okay. I can I say no. you know some so per usual I didn't get the moment I wanted with my mom. It's fine. It's fine. She's not that kind of mom. It's fine. That's okay, but you know what got her talking. So I already know the answer to this question, but. To take the bar exam. Yes. Okay what some of those unions you? Behold? Bay near. You don't need to go into this wedge I've got it. Goes Walkabout. Tobin speaking of our very first episode I think listeners will also definitely remember that both the bureau. Lovely parents made an appearance. Yes, MR and Mrs Slow have both been on the show and I. Think it's only right that way..
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"Exciting energy you did did it did it did it? Okay! Hey, this is Matt Kellett Iowa's the producer and then senior producer an always superstar producer. Of, Nancy. My favorite moments working on the show, we're going out into the field with Tobin and Cathy. If I was with just one of them was totally anonymous, but if the two of them were there, people could just immediately spot them and people were always very excited and Tobin and Kathy. Roy's pretty embarrassed. Always hilarious and it was always great just to see the impact that this show had on real people who oftentimes we're seeing them represented in media for. The first time ever. Hi. I'm Isabel Angel and I help produce the queer moneymatters series in spring. Two Thousand Nineteen. I think my favorite moments were tracking with you. Guys. Kathy and Tobin for the episodes I just remember being killed over with laughter over the board. Looking at you guys in the tiny studio just barely able to do my job. We love all of you. We really do and if you'll indulge us for a minute before, get back to the rest of the episode. We just WANNA. Shadow out some of the other names and send them just all the love Polish human our first executive producer who helped us launch this show way back when Alice Wilder, one of our former producers Alice. You Beautiful Table Shaker! You're amazing great, and of course our current team Jeremy Bloom, who has been sound designing the poop out of this show since the very beginning Jeremy Insert some great Zomba's design. Right here that you. He cast a spell and it goes horribly. Wrong. SUMMONED, Archangel turns out to be evil and with him. He brings an army of demons. Sarah guys, who's been a lovely and generous editor Suzy Lechtenberg our current EP and fun fact. She mentor at us back when we first pitched this show to WNYC. And of course producers, the gibbons and be a Parker U2 make radio magic and I honestly can't wait until we work on the show that you both host. Coming up, we catch up with maybe some of our most popular guests. After hence they gave birth to us. We back in a minute. And we're back, so kathy before we jump back in I know we both wanted to take a moment to spread around some. What some of our listener be well, because so many of you have written to us or tweeted at us, asking what dwellers into now well, folks, there are so many great podcasts out there that are for Queer people made by people, and so many of them are fantastic. Here's just a few of them that we have been loving and listening to. Hi. This is IDA from the Africa podcast. Our show is about queer. Living loving surviving and thriving African continent and in the Diaspora. Hi, my name is Lee. FEFFER use the pronouns and I host a show called history is gay. A podcast examines the other appreciated overlooked Queer Ladies and gentlemen bees that have always been there in the. Corners of history because history has never been a straight as you think. Hey. It's Jeff Masters and I host the interview podcast. LGBTQ Anti. That's q with an Amazon and people like laverne Cox Roxane Gay Trixie Mattel, and of course my favorite interview all-time Kathy to. Joe Was a name is Morgan givens, and I'm the host and creator of flies fables. It's a show that brings US brand new hope punk fables for the twenty first century and centers, young black kids as a heroes of their own stories. Hi, I'm Eric Marcus founder and host of the making Kadish podcast. We bring LGBTQ history to life through the voices of the people who lived at. Our eighty episodes are drawn principally from my decades old archive of more than one hundred interviews that I conducted for the making gay. History Book. I. Hope you'll have listen. My name is Tuck Woodstock. My podcast is called gender reveal, and it's a show in which trans activists and artists talk about the way that gender intersects with raise. potties cultural background all sorts of stuff and also generally just tries to give us a little bit closer to understanding what the heck gender is. I am Robin and I'm Jamie and we are the gay the podcast. If these overs could talk GM, you do not have to say. We're gay every time high-tech. Anyway. It's a podcast about making lgbtq families in parenting in a world that's designed for St folks. Yes exactly we highlight our families normalizing them lifting them up. So all the folks out there can see that we're just like them. which is basically trying not to scream at our kids. We're twenty minutes late and they still have not put their shoes. They never put their shoes on. They just put their shoes on. L.! God help us. And that's just the beginning we've actually started a spreadsheet where you can go at your recommendations of podcast produced by Queer People that you think other folks would love. You can check out all our socials to find the link to the spreadsheet, and that's where you can start shutting out your face. Okay so as you know, we asked some of our listeners. What their absolute favorite of the shower Yup! And someone who reached out was Marlena Marleen Talk I'm a communications specialist and poet that lives in Washington. DC My pronouns, are she? Her hers then wanted Molina's favorite episodes of the show is one that many many listeners to. I think probably because of a certain guest. Going, it's your mom Kathy. It's your mom. It is my mom. For folks have been with us from the very beginning. You know that in our very first episode Kathy came to her Taiwanese Mama for the third time on tape. You know honestly I still can't really listen to that tape. It's very hard. I can't believe you had like the bravery to do that. It's such a vulnerable conversation to have especially because you know it is so real and in that tape you can hear that you and your mom are really going back and forth, and you know she doesn't outright. Reject you, but she also doesn't really get it. She doesn't really get your quietness. And that's actually what our listener. Marlena says. She really loved about it. When we're hearing about stories about coming out a lot of times, it's either black or white of like. They disowned you. In. That's terrible or oh, they're so happy for you and and great finally shared that with them and I don't think it's like that. Hasn't been like that for me. At least Molina says that listening to your story Kathy and had a big impact on her helped her. Listen to you, be brave, and that really helped me..
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"Okay, all jokes, aside this really is our last show y'all Nancy has not been renewed, so it's coming to a close and in classic. Nancy fashion, we're GONNA laugh and cry and laugh about it. Yes, we're going to do all the things as we visit some of our favorite memories from the over one hundred episodes, we made of this show and we're going to hear from some of the people who helped us get their past members of team Nancy and of course you dear listener. We're going to be hearing from you about some of your favorite episodes. Speaking of which Listener Abigail in Baltimore sent us this message. The Nancy episode that I return to over and over again is the ring of keys episode. Ring of keys is an all time save. That's the story where we followed producer Sarah Lou, as she tried to track down the Queer woman from her childhood that Sorta showed her that there was a future for her one day as a queer adults. The Ring of keys episode was part of our first season, and we're GONNA. Listen to a clip your Sarah talking to her ring of Keys Person Mara. Being, a little awkward twelve year, old gay kid, and then seeing a very charming confident gay adults. At it allowed me to imagine an adult version of myself, which was huge, but also the layer of my parents thought you were cool, and so that made me think that they would approve of me being gay. Oh. Wow. That's a lot. Do you. Get up the floor. Thank you? That is the. Choked up. Think you. I never knew. That I could. That I could actually be a role model for somebody. That's possibly most popular. and Listener Abigail says a meant a lot to her I think to me. It really spoke to me about what it means to be a clear doll, and about finding intergenerational community and the possibility of being a role model and building those relationships with people so much so that in inspired her to take action, and I actually ended up after listening to that up a soda, reaching out to one of my camp counselors for when I was. Thirteen. And in retrospect, after listening to the episode, realize that it definitely have been one of those ring of keys moments, and that she had really tried to provide space for me, and I hadn't known the time, but looking back. I'm really grateful. To. Other episode! We kept hearing about from. You was our gaggle episode? If you remember that was our challenge to queer people everywhere to find their chosen family, there gaggle if you will, because you know that set of friends can just be different for us. I feel clip coming on. The dictionary defines gaggle. No, no, the dictionary defines gaggle as a group of geese, which has not helpful for our purposes, it also defines gaggle as a disorderly or noisy group of people, which is sort of helpful for our purposes. What I think of when I hear the word. Gaggle is a group of Queer France this unique formation of queer people unlike any other. It's the crew you meet up with gossip to hang queer eye guys. That's a gaggle Taylor swift squad, not a gaggle also problematic. The Gaggle is a posse. That gaggle is a family. The Gaggle is magic. We heard from so many of you. Who took the challenge to start a gaggle of your very own? My name is Jay. Pronounce your faith. And I was the one who started the Boston area, Gaggle. In like? May Twenty teen when J I heard the episode, I was like sounds cool, but like I'll just join if somebody else has already started this. And, then I found out that nobody had set up a facebook. Page for Boston. And I was like well okay. I'll do it. Anyway our listener J. it's a good thing. They did the work and started their Boston Gaggle because through that group. They met a special someone named Logan. It was a gaggle of entering pride. And We just had a good time. think we went out for years together as a group and we went out to the big gay dance. Party as. which is the thing happens here. Oh. My, God we stan a Nancy left connection. You're responsible for getting me into this relationship. Kathy they've been together for two years. They've been a couple for two years my God. Wow, I mean I. don't WanNa. Put any pressure on, and of course Maybe you don't believe in marriage, which is called called cool, but Tobin and I will definitely officiate if he wants to absolutely. Anyway okay I still love the Gaggle project because. I think this is the best thing to come out of our show like in the world that we're in right now I feel like me and the folks around me are all asking ourselves hauer contributing to the world and to me I guess. I always felt like making. As and really seemed like the most helpful thing in the world, but when we started this gaggle project, and I saw take off in the form of like our friends of Nancy Facebook, group and folks meeting each other at events and online I just truly felt like we did good tobin. We did something really good hard same the the time that I felt like the show was really worth. It was when we met groups of friends in real life who met through the Gaggle Project and had found their people through the project I was like Oh. This makes everything we do worth it yeah. So, we're hearing from all these folks, sharing favorite moments and None of those moments would exist without the people will help. Make the show over the years. We've gotten to work with so many amazing people have been so lucky, so here's just a field I'm sharing some behind the scenes memories. I'm Jenny Lawton I was an editor on the show from the very beginning, so it was our very first live show and cathy was really really nervous about it. And it was weird kind of setup. We were in this conference hall that had one of the stages that. was made up of risers and to get on the stage. Was this ramshackle looking ramp? So, anyway it was the start of the show and Kathy runs up the ramp and then trips and totally wipes out like totally wipes out. And she. Jumps back up and starts the show and did not miss a beat. You, guys, you made something so beautiful and it had a real impact on people. Listening and I'm me personally which I think you know and I am just so proud of the show and so grateful to.
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"That was comedian. Cameron Esposito her book. Save yourself is out now arrate. I think we have one last phone call to make in that is to producers Kia Gibbons. Hey how's it going? Well that's I says it all. I know I'm just saying you know dancing on my own is I've been signed on my own. Which is even living being dramatic. There are worse things happening but honestly Salt isn't thing is hard especially as I would consider myself an extrovert. It took an unexpected toll on my mental health. It really affects me more than I thought it would have been. Honestly Pretty Pretty depressed lonely. Isn't the word but it feels like part of me is missing Yeah so luckily I do live with a roommate. My friend Lauren and we decided to do something fun just to shake things up. Try to get back to normal life but first we had to get ready. You go okay so Kia wouldn't marry. You guys are getting ready to do something fun like you're on under quarantine right now. What are you doing friendly people popular pussycats? Okay okay so we did not leave our apartments. We stayed our asses in Brooklyn. Because leave. Your apartment would be very irresponsible however we did go quote unquote go to a club called club quarantine. Which is this really cool really fun. Queer Virtual Dance Party. It's held on zoom. You know the video conferencing website you know we use them for meetings so they put up a code like right before the Party starts at nine o'clock and then view sign in so yeah. Everyone is just partying in their own apartments together online. And then you can see each other. Yeah there's like there's only got one hundred eighteen participants there a couple of people dancing with the backdrop of fun hours these the all these other squares Brady bunch style of a bunch of people bopping wherever they're at. Oh my God. Someone is wearing a sheet. Facemask people are in the chat room. It's like when you go outside to smoke and you're just chat with random people the chat room. He's going outside for some people are talking. Oh someone's asking whereas everyone from someone says Earth. This is like an days Brooklyn what I do in a real parties chick my UK off the call. My God that sounds so fun bogey there. It was honestly some of the most fun I've had in a while. Something like it was missing. I felt like that part of me. Would I got it back and I've been able to carry that glow with me and I just feel like myself again. Yeah that's good. That's all we like to hear. I'm actually making a friend in this club right now. High from Sudbury Best Party. I've been to an months all that SINC- everyone should cheers to the camera at the same time says ready on one. We cheers three to one. Oh someone says I'm going to cry in this bitch. You'RE GONNA go another one. Oh for sure. And I've been inspired to get back on my party throwing grind and I think I'm going to be throwing a lot of virtual parties so look for my invites turn-up amazing someone says they are saving our mental health. That is very true. Fell in a long time. Someone said everyone out go. Okay so I said when we're not all quarantine we should have an IRO in party. And one of the organizers said we will be. I would love that. Stay healthy iconic. This is this is.
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"Okay so who's next? Who are we calling next? I think we should call sound designer. Extraordinary Jeremy Jeremy Bloom. How are you doing? Oh I'm doing okay say sane which is hard. Because I'm not saying in normal circumstances that's very true but today I sent twenty handpainted postcards to all my nearest and dearest friends including one of you. Wow Wow I know it's GonNa be me. I ran off posted steps. I ran out stamps. I ran out of stamps. They're more coming. I've just been thinking about how queer people are connecting to each other. You know we're all stuck at home. We're all lonely you and see where this is going. I see where this is going. Where's IT Gone Horny? Everyone's Hornet Yeah. Yeah we're human you know. Let's admit it for a lot of us in this day and age when we're home we're lonely. We might turn to certain phone. Apps to find relief so I was really curious how the makers of some of the biggest gay dating APPs are responding to the unprecedented situation that we're in I'm Eric Silverberg. I'm the CO founder and CEO of Harry Street software. An on. Todd's hours I work with Silverberg. As a period you'd softwares chief operating officer her street software makes two of the most popular gay dating APPs on the market scruff and jacked and so. I asked them if they've noticed. Any changes in the past week. Says the world has rapidly shifted and everybody is stuck inside record on weekly basis but what we have noticed. Is that the amount of time per day they open. It is down a little bit and we think that that is probably because people are figuring out right now. Yeah I would imagine that the APP makers have a lot to figure out right now to yet like if you're the place that so many people turn to when they're lonely and looking for company Lake as a digital space. Do you have the same responsibilities of physical spaces to promote social distancing and fight the spread of the virus. Well I think they do an APP makers like todd and Eric are thinking about what steps they need to take. They've removed all their event. Listings replaced them with links to local public health resources. There commissioning a comic book artist to make a really fun. Queer Guide to the importance of social distancing. That's cool I am Sir Wondering. Is that really enough though? Yeah that that was kind of my question to Booth Perry Street software in their competitor grinder are encouraging users to follow guidelines by the World Health Organization and the CDC but those guidelines specifically recommended. You put distance between yourself and other people the very thing that is not conducive to dating or hooking up. Yeah so I asked the APPS if they have plans to directly tell their users not to meet up grinder. Sent a press release said. We encourage people to participate in social distancing as recommended by local authorities and as for Perry Street software. Do you have plans to directly instruct. Your users. No do not meet up Is that something we would consider doing? Yes absolutely and they did. Consider it after we talked. They began the process of sending an APP wide message specifically asking their users to limit connections to only online interactions and not meet in person. Now is the time to stay home. They say remember that being physically distance from each other doesn't mean that where alone and grinder also ended up sending a similar message. I mean I think it's it's good that they're saying something about not meeting up in person but after say like if you're APP is primarily used to meet up and to Hook up. Bike is just saying. Don't do it enough. Like part of me is like shouldn't they shut down the APPS for a little bit right? Yeah I I think the thing is though that Contrary to stereotype queer dating APPS can be. Actually they're they're about more than just hooking up There was a period of time in my life that I lived in Istanbul Turkey and when I was there I really discovered how these APPs for. A lot of people can mean a lot more than just an opportunity for casual sex or dating and really APPS and at that time websites were really kind of the focal point of Kind of digital space that the queer community used to come together and then I think maybe this is an opportunity also to show that queer dating APPS can be about more than just hooking up and in fact todd and Eric told me that over half their users say that they're just looking to chat and they're not even really looking to meet up in the real world at all pandemic or no pandemic if people ask us for you know purpose. Xyz Or answers typically. Yes and you know. I fully expect that. S- Cross and Jackson and broadly are going to be used as a source of emotional support. Much as anything else in the age of social distancing. Are there any other options? You think you would suggest that your users consider I think the idea of scheduling dates in the future. It's a great one. It gives us something to look forward to. And it'll you know we'll have a very full social calendar once the vices past and people can go out again. I like the idea of keeping something in mind down the road that you're looking forward to that. That feels very helpful to me right now. Totally And if you are looking for more explicit get explicit guideline join me more explicit guidelines on sex and hooking up right now the New York City Department of Health released a really helpful cool or hip guideline sheet All about the the realities of sex during the cove in nineteen outbreak. How I saw those. It kind of reminded me of like a Hip. Bat. Sex Ed teacher. I wish I had in school Ali. Yeah we'll linked to the show page. It's really inclusive. Even vises you to wipe down your keyboard after anyhow sexting or video sharing and then covers. Remain Okay by Jeremy. Now you know Cath while we're on the topic of being. Maybe a little horny at home. Oh God tobin know where we going with us. Now stick with me stick with me. I'm just saying this is reminding me that if someone is looking for something they can enjoy on their own and that also maybe has a little steam to at Cameron. Esposito's new book is coming out. That's rate cameras. New Book is called. Save Yourself. It's her memoir growing up figuring out her gender and sexuality and she sent us a little reading from her book for. You all to enjoy. I touched your face. I'd never understood where to put my hands when kissing men. I may have held the back of the head when we kissed her. I might have touched Arm but when I begin kissing Joe I suddenly understood that. No gesture makes more sense than resting your fingers under a person's ears pressing your palms against their cheeks and pulling them toward you. We were both small but she was smaller and she had to tilt her head up to kiss me for a moment. Everything was slow. Then she'd get frantic. We a feral somewhere apart. Therapy parents crying kiss. Joe whipped her t shirt over her head as I in Butler jeans and mine and soon we were naked and lying. On top of the Christus Ist Motel bedspread seen parts of Joe. Her shoulders her breasts in the Tattoo on her left ankle but not all of her altogether like that for the next hour for the next eight hours. I felt and looked at her. The men I had dated were muscular and slim waisted with broad shoulders in an action. Figures upside down triangle shape. I'd compared myself against them and felt bad about myself. But JOE's body wasn't proportioned like there's should strong earners thighs rounded shoulders. She was more petite all over than particularly small in the waist. Seeing her I felt something new. I'd always thought my boyfriend's loved me in spite of my body. I hadn't imagined that I was beautiful to them that I turn them on. But here I was with this person and her body which looked a lot like my body and there was basically about to explode. It's not like I was healed overnight but seeing Joe that way shifted the body this Murphy. A- I've been trapped within for so long and that my heterosexual relationships were totally unequipped. To Bridge was the beginning of my understanding that you could be utterly attracted to and in love with the way a person looks without any thought how it compares to the beauty standard that were sold.
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"If you're interested in learning more about sage and how you can get involved. We're going to throw some links on our website. Hi Nancy listeners. Pecan PECAN and Thera up in Vancouver is there and I and our family are doing well. we've been social distancing for a couple of weeks now because we went to Los Angeles and all came home. Feeling sick though. We're healthy now. My mom dropped off puzzles a couple of weeks ago. So I've been allowing myself fifteen minutes of puzzle time every day. My big camp is that I feel a lot better since they created a schedule. I know for some of us. It will be hard to find the energy to create a schedule or to find enough activities to make one but it really did help to sort of set a wake up time bedtime and to try to continue to work from home so I hope no matter what you're doing at home that you remembering that that we will get through this. There will eventually be a vaccine and get to leave our husbands again. If anyone wants to my puzzle when I'm done I will write down each piece with a bleach wipe and I'm happy to send it. Maybe that's like a fun game. We could play. I could just send one piece so thousand piece puzzle to nine hundred ninety nine people and we could put together. Virtually that sounds hard right. So Cathy something. Nancy listeners may or may not be aware of is that we do not make this show alone. God No are you kidding me? Yeah it would be tough if it was just the two of US anyway. Nancy's team effort. We wanted to hear from our team about what's bringing them comfort during this time so let us call them up. I our producer be parker. Hey Parker it's your supervisor bosses calling just kidding Parker as your bosses. Please tell us what you're doing are you doing? I Miss Hugs. You guys like social. Distancing is important but also hugs. Were Nice hugs. Were thing as your bosses. We can't really do that so we're like a week away from buzzfeed putting out in style journalist. That's like ten hugs. You remember from a week ago just gifts so in place of hugs What are you doing right now to stay connected and then like talking to all my friends like feverishly texting them and I'm immediately when all this stuff was happening. I went to talk to my friend. Arianna who who is Arianna will? Arianna is an audio producer. Like myself but they are just this great jolt of Sunshine. Yeah and I just wanted to see how they were doing and I ended up realizing you know in this current moment even you know the Sunniest of people are ensuring this time and it's okay to give even the cheerleaders in our lives. The space to be unsure. I think I had my major panic spiral recently so I feel like I'm kind of coming out of that and mostly just taking things minute by minute. I feel like if I looked too far ahead in terms of like what is happening. Feel panicky so. I'm trying to slowly adjust my expectations of myself. Like maybe like today. You can only just think a few minutes or a day at a time. Maybe tomorrow you can think a week ahead. Maybe after that you can think two weeks a month ahead I was trying to think of like the most positive thinking unjaded person I could think of to like talk about. This should be that he was like. Oh Arianna just a light. Oh really appreciate you thinking about. We end for the most part. It's true it's just this happens to be my actual like deepest pathological phobia. Yeah right now. I'm super scared. I know that I have to go to the market soon. Like on Mamie Thursday. Yeah now I feel like I have to psychologically prepare myself for it. I know I know. Oh My Gosh. And so like Oh. So that's where my head's at right now but what? What do you need right now? I miss the kind of like Ambien socializing like being in a city where you just have people around you. So I'm trying to figure out like how can I create that in my life? Like what if I would people like parallel play with me on skype like would like if I just like. Hey I just want to call you and be with you you know like I don't. We don't need to like talk about anything we can do our stuff and like be next to each other with you. Yeah yeah there's so much that's unknown right now and they can be overwhelming. We're all GONNA learn so much about ourselves during this time and I think that can go both ways. I think for better for worse. We'RE GONNA learn a lot about ourselves like we're gonNA learn the things that we haven't been paying attention to focusing on are working on in ourselves and that's going to be hard and feel like maybe we don't have the support or whatever we need to get through those things as I wanNA acknowledge that but I also think we're going to learn the ways in which we're more resilient than we thought or more creative than we are more resourceful than we thought you know more compassionate and it feels a little bit naive to be like what does the silver lining of the corona virus. You know it's it's not a trade off like growth and suffering happen simultaneously in all things in the times when we are forced to reckon with really difficult things we draw upon hopefully like the best parts of ourselves as much as we can. Arianna sound so lovely. I want to check in with them on. The regular now agreed so. Thank you for sharing with us. Parker as I'm giving you a virtual hug I am not hug me. Fine virtual hug it ends by there you go. I'll take out take the progression hug all right. We'll talk to you soon. Parker Leaner Parker..
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"Kathy Tobin first question. How are you feeling I'M NOT GONNA lie I don't feel great Mainly because My girlfriend and I both have some symptoms of the corona virus. So yeah not a not a great time. Right now yeah. I just want to assure everyone that we are monitoring it and by we I mean I am texting Kathy on the hour every picture. She's okay it's very much appreciated and you've been very helpful tobin you've been really great friend and CO worker. These are the things that you wanted to hear. I think they they were a right thing. Something Anyway Nancy Listeners We just wanted to jump into your feed with an extra little something because my God it has been a time surely has been a time. It's so rapidly changing that it's Kinda hard to keep up. Yeah And we've heard from so many of you that this pandemic having to self isolate and all the effects of that have changed your lives in a big way. My boyfriend and I don't live together so if suddenly things go sideways when we aren't together I'm so scared I won't see him again. I'm a personal trainer so I can't work from home while I'm not a high risk person if I get it. I know a lot of people who are. And if we're closed due to panic or mandated quarantine which actually it has already. I have zero other ways to make money and then you had that anxiety to my everyday anxiety of being transgender woman in a country where you're not always appreciate it or thought of as a woman. It's a really scary and difficult time right now and I think something that's helping me feel even just like the tiniest bit of optimism is seeing how people are still finding ways to connect with each other absolutely and then something. We think a lot about sharing Nancy. You know finding your people your gaggle and we've heard from so many of you that even though you can't meet up in person you're finding creative ways to stay connected last week. My senior class organized an impromptu graduation. It was really sad but it was really perfect for us because people got to use their chosen names without worrying about family and people got to dry ice in ways. That felt comfortable to them. My friends and I are playing video games and watching movies over Google Hangout. My local queer community center is closed for the time being but our program manager decided to stream the weekly activities. We've planned to go hang out dance party next Friday and we'll take turns. Dj in the spirit of reaching out. We're going to connect with a couple of our people and find out how they're thinking about keeping up a sense of community so kathy what's been helping you feel like you're in touch with other queer people helping me out during this time is hearing what other people are doing to take care of themselves. So I asked some friends of Nancy to tell us about what's bringing them comfort right now. I up a low message from a friend of the show. Snl CAST member in general hilarious person. Bowen Yang Hi Nancy. This is an absolutely playing several Minoan. Pg's and that's teams for massively multiplayer. Online really pretty gay. They think. Trust me if I'm wrong playing Gilmore's too which is free to play and friends on most computers now in planning with some friends and it kind of does feel like you're going outside with them and you're just sort of going on adventures and seeing a bunch of strangers outside too so it sort of simulates. What the world used to be like a couple of weeks ago but it does feel. Kinda Nice I love you very much. Everyone listened to what Tobin and Kathy say and Followed everything they told you to do. Okay Bye Bye. We love to and as he said listen to everything we say people say do always say. Wash those hands all the time. Stay home you'll hear from a few other folks sprinkled throughout the episode. Tobin what have you been thinking about? Recently I've been thinking a lot about what I can do to be there for other queers. Who might be deeply affected by what's happening and one of the groups most at risk is lgbtq elders? I talked to somebody at sage there. The National Organization that offers services to LGBTQ elders like meal delivery and they have meet ups at their senior centers and they said that. Queer elders are more likely to have been smokers and they may have additional health factors like HIV AIDS Many are also hesitant to seek out medical care because of discrimination they faced in the past. Wow Okay Okay. Yes so all of these. Things Make Queer elders more high risk and it means that a lot of them have to really like self isolate right now And that can be really scary so I decided to call up one of the seniors that sage works with to see how she's doing. Her name is Deidra Nottingham. A nine years. Y'All where am I reaching? You add right now. Do you drill. Where are you right? Now I'm in Brooklyn and for clean. I'm in my apartment This stage stonewalled. How has recently moved here at the end? January so. I've been here for over a month. I'm so happy because I raised my daughter right down the block where I'm living that now so it's a blessing that I'm right back where I started from. How're you doing with having to sort of self isolate right now? I'm a early bird. Also I'll get up at six o'clock and I go for my morning walk. Gotcha 'cause I have to go out every day and just read. See The I. I love the outdoors. Is there anything that you're sort of most worried about with with the pandemic and covered nineteen yet? I'm afraid that if I go out that I might catch it or something is made me a little bit afraid to go out now. The One lady I book store. She took all the toilet paper and act. Can I have one There's no way impactful us all that paper to nice and she said No. Oh my God what do you do every day? You mentioned you do your morning walk and you talk to your daughters or are there other things. You're doing the past the time I have a guitar. I taught myself how to play two years ago but I I put my finger but I love country music. Yes I love Willie Nelson we well I I. I'm a country girl by heart. My friends think I'm crazy because they don't like some news but they love me so they have to. Do you have a particular song? You're you're attempting to learn the one. Why Willie Nelson Minnow phenyle? County line.
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"Nancy is supported by better help is there. Something interfering with your happiness better. Help offers licensed professional counselor specialized in depression, trauma, grief and more plus Nancy listeners get ten percent off your first month with discount code Nancy, go to better help dot com slash Nancy and fill out a questionnaire to get matched with a counselor. You'll love. Listener supported w in Y C studios. Kath tobe. It is time to shake shit up. And try something new maybe try several new things. Are you thinking what I'm thinking? Absolutely. It is the Nancy variety show. Also, I'm gonna play all the music myself. Here we go. WNYC studios. This is Nancy with your host Tobin lo and Kathy too. I just want to remind you that I play the drums. So you could have just asked for help. Okay. I got it. Okay. So up. I it's a game. I'm very excited about yes. Yes. It is a game. We are calling. What are the straits up to what are the straits up to? The jingle. That's the theme song. So in this game. We're going to dig into the nonsense that straight culture seems to love. All right Tobin. What ridiculousness are we talking about today today, Kathy? We are talking about gender reveal parties. Oh my God. If you're unfamiliar gender reveal parties are where parents to be gathered their friends and family to reveal the quote unquote, gender of their baby. Right. So the example, I always think of is like there's a cake, man. It's the inside is like either pink or blue. But the outside you can't tell right. And then they cut into it to reveal the color. Blue means boy, pink means girl, and it's so romantic, I hate it reinforces the idea of the gender binary. Totally you know, it's like, you're either a boy or girl, and whatever you're signed at birth is just it and over time how couples do these gender reveals has gotten wild. So Cathy, here's the game for today. I am going to tell you about different ways that couples have revealed the gender of their baby, and you have to guess, whether it's a real thing that a real couple has done or something I totally made up. So Cathy, if you got the question, correct, you will hear this noise. And if you get it wrong you'll hear. Couple number one. This couple has made a giant pin? Yada in the likeness of the mother to be inside that pin yada is the father to be dressed as a giant baby. He then bursts out of the pin yada sprang pink silly string. And also terrifying. The children at this party. Is this a real gender reveal party or not this do not go the way thought it was going to go. I thought that it was going to be opinion in which you had to hit the mother's belly with stick. No what sticks. And then the candy would be one color or the other right in this case. No, it's much worse. Much worse. So I'm gonna say, nah, true. It is a real gender reveal party was the Panetta. It was a giant pin yada. Oh, my was there. Any candy in there? No, just a father. Okay. Not only did they violate that rule. They also made a giant panda for. No good reason. Anyway, sorry, sorry. You're losing. I one wrong. God damnit next couple. Are you ready? Yes. This couple happens to be the owners of four beautiful golden retrievers, the father to be also happens to be a scientist who has mixed together. A clear gel like substance that turns up predetermined color when wet the couple covers their dogs in the substance and in front of friends and family hose down the dogs. Turning them. A bright blue the couple later said they regretted this decision as about four months to get the blue out of their dogs hair. Is this a real gender reveal party or not? I don't know. This is like animal abuse isn't. It was the were the dogs covered completely head to toe. Oh, not true. You are correct. It is not true. It did not happen. I made that up what sick mind, I knew it would claw your heart strings because you now have a dog. Evil. All right. Very good taffy. You got one. Right. Okay. So another one. Yes. Okay. Here we go next couple. Okay. I want you to close your eyes for this one. All right here, we go picture at a group of people are standing in a circle. And in the middle of the circle is a full grown alligator. The father to be steps into the circle opens the mouth of the alligator and puts in what appears to be a hollowed out coconut that alligator chomps down to reveal a blue jello like substance. Is this a real gender reveal party? How are they? Okay. Standing around. An alligator was in view are asking the wrong person. I would be a hundred miles away from this party. Oh my God. I wanted to not be true. But a sounds like something someone would do final answer. Yeah. This really happened people. This really happened. Okay. Sad news for life. But good news for you. You finished strong with two correct answers. So I'm going to say you one. I am proud of myself almost. Nearly who won. Well, that brings me to my question. What did we learn today that gender reveal parties are dumb, and the binary is nonsense fake, you agreed at great. But you did super. Well. I'm impressed. Yeah. Thank you. All right next segment time. Are you ready calf? Yes. This segment is called ask a queer professional ask a Twitter. Ask clear professional. That's the theme song for that. One. So it turns out queer people are everywhere. I know for pretty much every job, you can imagine you can find a queer person rocking it. So we thought why not ask some of them for some advice? Yes, we're going to be talking to RAD queer professionals about the jobs that they do. And they're going to answer your listener submitted questions with all of their knowledge. And today, we are talking cars, Kars Kars Kars Kars Kars cars that was pretty good, right? On the phone. With us is Kyle Shane. She runs the website mechanic shop them where she offers advice to women and queer folks on everything from maintaining your car to being smart about buying a new ride. So let us welcome to the show Kaya high Kaya. Hi, cathy. And Tobin so excited to be here today. We're excited to have you. I'm going to start by asking. Where are you right now? Where are we talking to you from right now, I'm in Brookefield, Wisconsin. I'm parked couple blocks away from the collision shop that I work at fun. Fact. My dad owns an auto body shop in Los Angeles. Awesome. I mean, I couldn't tell you any more than that about cars. So so you've built
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"For so marriage equality gave many queer folks access to the same retirement benefits as straight people. But what if marriage isn't really an option for you? Or if you just don't see yourself getting married what then. Well, a lot of people have to get extremely creative. So I have a fair amount of single women who are older and planning their retirement, and they don't have as much money because they weren't paid as much as other people are paid. And so they haven't saved as much, but what they are looking at alternative ways to live in community such that several people share a house, go their style. Yeah. Where they're sharing the expenses, but they can afford to pay five or six hundred dollar rent. But really not any more than that. Because they just don't have the funds. I'm somebody that worries about retirement because I don't necessarily want to have kids one day. Right. And I feel like the big question is how will we take care of ourselves because I am my mother's retirement plan. So I'm like, I'm going to be finding retirement because you will take care of. Yeah. Right. But I don't wanna have kids myself, of course. So I mean, not everybody wants to have children. Yeah. What do you do for retirement? Well, I really believe that we will continue to build facilities that are open to everybody, regardless of economic status where it's really the community will take care of the community as a pretty much has been since stonewall. I mean, it's always been the community taking care of the community. So I think that that will continue to grow more and more because we have to have someplace to go when we can't take care of ourselves. Right. Coming up. What does the queer friendly retirement community looked like today? Two words go, go dancers. Nancy will be right back. For a lot of the people. We've talked to for this series retirement is their biggest queer money fear. Are you wondering how you're gonna pay for retirement? Do you have a strategy seems to be working tell us about it? In the Nancy Facebook group today, we're talking about the costs of queer retirement. We want to hear your stories and your advice. Find us by searching for friends of Nancy on Facebook. Or by visiting Nancy podcasts dot org slash Facebook. Nancy is supported by upstarting..
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"Cut. I did write a piece for by shonda land recently about the Queen of Disney's Milan in which I chronicle her. I argue non binary transgender journey over the course of the movie. I I mean, it's just you know, she's Moulana. She tells the woman, and she tells it being a man only by doing her own thing is she able to reach success. True. The movie is very I mean, it's like so about transgressing gender is very unfortunate that their house to be transmitted genetic gags seeing that happens at the end. But she's also like, ultimately what happens is that? She tells all her friends that they too have to transgress gender in order to get anything done. And I think that there's really a message there about just transgressing gender constructs and transgressing what people expect view and transgressing who the hot general finds attractive. No, I I love Mulan. That's our girl. We love her. I I. Time show we virus short into the audience. That was just com- a comedian based in Brooklyn. There's some shows coming up to and you can find out about them on Twitter at just Tom. That's J E S T O M next. We've got another live show for you. And for this one. We brought back one of our favorite guests. Nancy will be back in a minute. Hey, Nancy listeners, we're going to be trying something new in a few months, and we're really excited to tell you about it the first week of March. We're going to be bringing you an episode every day all about money. Yes. It's a series where calling receipts queer money matters in. It's all about how the economy is built for sister heterosexual people and how queer folks navigate it. And we're bringing you proof the receipts get it receipt. Yes. We're going to be doing episodes about things like career paths, family, planning retirement, and we want to hear from you. What is your biggest queer money fear that you don't see yourself getting married, and you're worried about what that means financially that you won't be able to afford having kids could be anything. Tell us by sending on voice memo to Nancy at WNYC dot org. And you might end up on the show. Thank you. And we're back with another live show. This one was recorded last year as part of the speak up rise up festival in New York. And we invited one of our favorite guests from the podcast. Join us onstage JP Brammer JP runs a column called Ola poppy where he offers tough love queer musings and most importantly advice, and he gives such good advice. If you haven't heard his episode go back to the one called you're not a bad game. One thing about J P is how goofy and funny. Like you love him because he's honest help you laugh a little about your problems. Yeah. You can take any situation and just lighten it up. As prep for this live show, we got more or less nurses than their questions for JP. Then we played them for him during the show. Ola JP. Hello, thanks for joining us of clone. Lovely romper you have on. Thank you, keep calling it a jumpsuit. But I don't think it is. Is that a romp him? Is that a thing? Or is that just the ones we need to gender rampers? This is like. Fair. So JP the thing that you are here to do that somewhat argue that you do best of all is give advice there, right? Confidence. You have to be on. If you want people to listen to you with advice columnist. You can't for a second. Be like, oh, I don't know. Maybe you should break up with him. I don't know. You pick. I don't know. Break up with them. Our first question is from listener Britney. Hi, Nancy, I strongly as sexual from age thirteen until my mid twenties. Then I found myself sexually attracted to a man which called into question everything I got I knew about myself. And now, I find myself attracted to men and women, but I'm also married to a man. So what am I am I choir or am I just straight? I had those wrongly as as actual that. I don't know how to deal with these new labels. Thank Joe Pete. How would you advise Britney on the changing of the labels, and how to think about that and deal with it? I think it's very queer to be stressed about being queer.
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"Kathy Tobin. We are coming back for season four of Nancy, and you know what I feel like four is a lucky number for us. Is it because I'm pretty sure it's the symbol of death for Asian people. Okay, true. But also there's four golden girls ninja turtles. Also four horsemen of the apocalypse cabby. You gotta go with me here. It's lucky, like a four leaf clover. I guess you've got like four seasons, more sensitive, four, six. To me, it was the only way to keep playing along with your four as lucky. Thank you for coming along. Just in case you proof of how good season fours. Here's a little taste of some of the stuff that's coming up this fall. It's about exploring sexuality and all of the interesting things that you can do between two people or more. Talk, and that task is to shoot a lesbian porn pilot for my friend, Brad. One actually have a conversation with somebody who didn't agree with me. I didn't know how to have a conversation with someone who didn't agree with me at our strategy was to turn out as many people who are supporters as we could. Unfortunately, that wasn't enough and we lost having like to withhold parts of yourself is just eats away at your freedom. I hated that feeling so much. Geico mid deem which status. I admit that I made a lot of mistakes with you guys. And sometimes I feel that I failed the mother. Get the, I want you to forgive me. You know, I was happily married with two children and came to the realization that I wasn't living my self. So I came out twenty foot my life upside down and let the house went straight to bar. Freshman year of high school. We had to do a children's book and my children's book I was like, I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna make my children's book called, it's okay to be gay. And the first line is hot. I'm ama- and I'm by their certain celebrities who have secret Twitter account. We all know be onto Hans one did we didn't know that we know that. It's gonna be right. Yeah, let's just not call it season four though. Because death stone, okay, new season. And it's going to be more Nancy than ever before for back September twenty fourth, every week in your ears, find us wherever you get your podcasts.
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"To taiwan to find out about queer life overseas key s her mother is tagging along you'll also get to hear this incredible story about a father a son and a kidney the ongoing there it is in my head is that since the day that i came out i can't do anything right including donating an organ these kind of conversations about what it means to be part of the queer community today this is what we do at nancy we've staked are spot in the lgbtq media verse as something different we're from wnyc studios which not for profit entity our work is based in public media's noncommercial values a lot of clear media is pretty commercial it's designed to sell us stuff which is cool but that's not nancy we put the journalism the storytelling the community building i we have sponsors but they cover a very small amount of the cost make this show what does that have to do with you great question you're so smart i'm asking you to become a financial supporter of nancy there is so much more goodness coming your way but the financial support of the nancy community is vital and it's becoming even more important we've been at this for a bit and we need to show that the people who value this podcast are willing to step up and do something to keep it around for us it's not about keeping advertisers happy it's about building a self sustaining community of shared values so here's over asking you to become a sustaining supporter give just eight bucks a month to keith nancy going you do a one time set it up and you're eight dollars a month keeps nancy going where small podcast just knee and kathy and a small team helping us produce an edit and sound design the show but we have very big ambitions where a show that's not just about telling stories about building a community of people all over the world and we need your help to keep doing it you're sustaining support just eight bucks a month makes a lot possible i won't bore you with comparisons to what you spend at brand short netflix.
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