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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

05:04 min | 8 months ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Was in the beginning stages of Alzheimer's now. I don't know a lot about her mom. I'm just beginning to learn a might. We question that stage as far as the beginning stage based on some of the things. She's telling me about mom. It may be moms a little further along than maybe the beginning of her disease but nonetheless there are things that we look for specifically in the beginning stages than we see things that progress into the mid mid stages as I call them and then in the light stages so the Alzheimer's Association divided up into several different categories. I just do beginning middle in early mid late three categories. Because it's easier for this. Little Brian to keep track of and so realizing the kind of dementia have are your loved. One has and where they are in that journey if they're just beginning the middle or in their late stages that will help answer the question of potentially. How long will they live? But as you know there's so many things that can happen that can change on jeopardy but what I wanted her to know more specifically than anything is that understanding the kind of dementia mom has understanding what to expect what those stages look like having that base knowledge will make the journey easier. And that's what I want for you and that's why do this show so arranged for her to call me back tomorrow. She was actually with her mom when I talked to her earlier in this. Call me tomorrow when your wife for MOM and We'll get into more detail but understanding that those various stages will definitely have a dramatic impact on the caregiving experience because it has an impact on who they are at that time what they can do and what they can't do and what they can do in the early stages of the disease is definitely greater than what they can do in the later stages of the disease so for our next several shows for next three shows. We're GONNA talk about early stage. Alzheimer's midstate Alzheimer's in late stage Alzheimer's. I'll be covering those in the show to help. You may be discerned where your loved when he is or may be where you are. Maybe you have to mention. You're wondering where you are in that process and then understanding. What is normal for those stages to help you prepare yourself if you're the one with dementia or you as the caregiver to ban little more ahead of the game to know this is coming in. I'm preparing myself mentally and physically and preparing my home in maybe making plans for the future sparseness in living memory care and why that's important so be sure to join me on our upcoming episodes of let's talk dementia. We posed a three to four episodes every week in their free. You can find them everywhere so check him out on itunes and on Youtube and everything is on our website. Let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org Pure so inclined to make a donation to keep our ministry floating especially during these times of quarantine Thank you very much for that. Now GonNA finish. The show is here. Look and I can tell. I was outside today with my sunglasses on because I can see right. Where my sunglasses were. That's just not a cute look. Is it so? If you're listening to this. You are spared that yea for you. Well I hope you guys have a great caregiving journey tune in every day but especially for the next three to learn about stages of dementia that is brought on because of Alzheimer's lessons miles on your caregiving journey by. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and Families? You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at. Www dot n. a. v. f. Dot. Org They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse the veteran or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight. Oh three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all made more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

10:02 min | 9 months ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A- podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here is your host bestselling author Carol. Hello everybody on Carol Hell and this is let's talk dementia where we're GonNa talk about dementia. Oh yeah that's it And I'm glad that you're here. I don't know if you've noticed the last few days I hadn't had much makeup. We know we're not going anywhere in the girl goes. Why should I put on all that? Make up to sit home and just look at nobody but my husband and he sing me without makeup. So you guys get the reduced version. I just don't care I'm keeping my skin a break in this what it sounds. That sounds good doesn't it? What did they tell you about an email? I got from Katie and Katie live. She lives in London. Yeah think that's about right England somewhere I don't And Her dad is having some issues with dementia and they've got quite a quite a few things going on that she was concerned about and wanted to talk about one in particular she had said in her email. That dad is having a little bit of an issue. Phone is beeping got turned off with maybe recognizing who she is specifically and thinking. She just might be date for him. She says I traveled down most weekends to say dad but he does not but he does now seem to get confused. As if it's the two of US going out for dinner that I'm his date and has asked me when I'm joining him in bed a couple of times well. That store took a little bit of a turn. Didn't going out for dinner with Dad Dad. They can today. Who came years? That's fine when dad invites you into the bed that starts getting a little more uncomfortable. Doesn't it but why does dad do that? Well let's remember that. When Dad is looking at his wonderful daughter here. Ms Katy for minute when he's looking at Katie he's not seeing Katie. The daughter he's probably seeing Katie. Who very much might look like his wife Or She's just a very pretty woman and he's thinking. Hey I got a date going here. Hot Day. Life is good. He is not being inappropriate. His daughter that is not. What's happening at all is? Brian has not registering. Who Katie is. What's appropriate in Watts inappropriate member? We talked about this. Frontal lobe that area behind your forehead is being destroyed as is the rest of the brain. But that's the part of the brain that helps you to know what's appropriate and what's inappropriate Who he can make a pass out not get slapped rocky What we should do Republican? What we should not do he can do that any longer. Was just out to dinner with a really good looking woman in he thought. Hey we should go to bed together and so he might have planted that idea with her. Well you just wonder what he just something else. I bet as a young man. Katie you've just got to right and tell me was he kind of What's the word a flirt may be as a young man and he probably still is? I can tell you my mama was. She flirted with every man on the planet when she got dementia Did Not do that before dementia. But she sure did after dementia. She was just a big old flirt. But you know what was dad's personality before? Is it something that's normal for him or is it just because of dementia that he's doing this which ever don't be offended by it is something dad cannot control? So what should your response me when he goes? Hey Hey Cutie Pie come over here is when you go to bed together. You could say dad. I'm your daughter. Are you crazy? That's just gross. Why would you say that that's horrible? I'm never taking you out to eat again. You could just stay home and rotten die yet. Don't say that those any of that but you could. You could say that. Be a bad plan but what you could say is. Well Dad in maybe. We don't call me. Dat. Let's think about that for just a minute. Because he's not recognizing her as daughter so just calling by his name his name's John John Here your offer but you know married woman that might get me in trouble you know and if you're not a married woman he's probably not going to know that anyway so who cares disarmament woman they might as was gonna take too kindly to that and brush it off just off your shoulders. Banging it goes away is just something that happened today as if he asked could he have an extra serving of green beans. It doesn't matter is just a non issue that you are not going to make a big deal about because if you think. It's the first time it's ever happened. It is not I can assure you this is a story. I've heard many times of loved. Ones not recognizing other people as who they are and inviting them for sexual activity so we just we just smile we might light of it and then we change the subject well but what we say to them but dad we are John. I'm sorry John can't do that. But no what we could do. If you won't do. Let's let's go get some ice cream or what? Stop by the store on the way home in. See if we can find Bob Blah Blah. I don't know make up a story. Of course we've got Kobe going on right hand. We can't go anywhere can we? Oh my goodness but you can find something to distract his attention. How about instead of that? We watched the latest episode of whatever. I hear it's on Hulu. Let's watch it which. Ps are not glad for Hulu Right. Now that I can watch all this stuff to keep my brain. A little occupied girl can only read so many pages a day before your eyeballs fall out as what I've decided but we're not GonNa Freak out when dad or whomever proposes these as to as Donna Sunday. Just a relative who might say to you. I can tell you if you're in a memory care community very long. Been there visiting people working in one you will be Somebody's GonNa make that recommendation to you. It's going to happen. You don't forget about it you just can't. Hey that's such a great idea. But right now I've got to go wash clothes right now. Whatever and then it will leave their brain. It's not like you've planted. That thought that they're thinking well she said that's a good idea or A. She said maybe I I'll talk to you about that later right now. I need to go to this. Maybe she's interested in this. That's not how other Brian will work in. Even if they thought that for that minute have our later. They don't remember it so it's not something that's go lay on their brain of. Oh here comes. Suzy Jo down the hall. And we'll seek Assault her here. Because I want what I want. No no no. That's just not the way it works so don't be thinking that just chill out. Change a a knowledge what there was saying. Don't make negative situation out of it. Don't encourage it but then change the subject get onto something else like this full of things we got to deal with. And who knows that talking to your daddy out of having sex with his daughter would be one of them but in the world of dementia is something that comes up all right. We'll take a chill pill and get on with life. Well help that helps you a little bit. I hope helps my friend. Katie in London. She's got a couple of other issues going on with caregivers who think they know everything about dementia private caregivers coming in. And she's been listening to the podcast and she's learned a lot but yet they want argue with her. Well done that. Just draw bonkers daughter to give them a copy of my book and I think she's going to and you can get your copy you can go to Amazon and find. Let's talk dementia. But if you go to our website. Let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org You will find all of our books in a link where you can donate to our ministries and I can tell you right now. More than ever history of our company. We need donations. We tried we do blessings and smiles keep smiling foes just keeps smiling. Okay see you next time on. Let's talk dementia but by let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint You. When you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the veteran or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing at looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your Cownie. Eight hundred three eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol since you thanks for joining us today for Carol Howls. 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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

11:34 min | 9 months ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Hi Caregivers this let's talk dementia. And I'm here Ohio. Thank you for joining me here on yet. Another Day of being quarantined with Cova. Nineteen virus in our world is just crazy stuff isn't it? I had said the other day that if they close my pool I was not going to be a happy girl. They closed my pool. They did so on Friday and as I record this today is Monday and I'm just a little bit unhappy about that pool being closed but I am getting out and walking and doing those things to help. Keep me sane because you gotTa Take Care of Yourself? I'm practicing some good breathing because as I talked to you about in one of the episodes how when we're stressed we build up a lot of cortisol our body releases cortisol in. That's not necessarily unless we're running from bears and we're not running from bears today. Are we some breathing in? I'm trying to do things to keep my brain happy well. I hope that you are finding some time to relax and to take care of yourself I can tell you that In Our world. We're praying for everybody. I don't think there is an individual on the planet. That's not affected some way and I hope that some way is not because you have the virus or you know someone who has it a hope. Maybe it's just that maybe you can't get toilet paper. I don't know why we can't get toilet paper. That's just weird But we are praying for each person that's affected in whatever way and that this virus will just miraculously leave our world. It just takes a little bit of faith and I'm thinking My faith must be really really little. But I'm that's what I'm praying for is that it would just miraculously leave. Our world without explanation did just numbers which is ceasing. The number start going down release really drastically small. The number of people diagnosed liking get back to normal but I know it's making your caregiving journey more difficult. I just had a phone call with memory care department where my brother-in-law lives Uncle Ernie? It was kind of funny. They said he is so fun to be around because he's teaches entertainments with all his life stories. And I said Nora. None of those stories are true. She said they're not I said. Ernie has not told a story in probably a couple of months that the information that story happened or was even close to being accurate. She said well. We don't know what he's just listened. So you gotta take the good where you can get it right today. I want to answer a question. That a viewer or listener wrote in Katherine and she wanted to know was normal for folks in late stage Alzheimer's to lose their ability to have conversation or to Speak and that is normal. It does happen and The reason is Well first of all languages stored in lots of parts of the brain but the left. Temporal lobe is where the bulk of languages stored and we lose it in Alzheimer's left and language and lose all start with AOL. You can remember that the right temporal lobe is where rhythm is in it. Remains RIGHT RHYTHM REMAIN? Start with are the right. Temporal lobe is least affected by Alzheimer's than any other part of the brain so it is more intact works better than the rest of the brain so we want to bring to our people those things they can do using the part of the brain. That's more intact and that's why you go into a good memory care community. There'll be a lot of musical type activities going on because music resonates they can remember all the words to Jim Reeves singing. Put your sweet lips a little closer to the funk. That's my mom's favorite song or whatever their song is they can remember that but when they get through. They can't say that was really fun because that's coming from the left temporal lobe. And they've lost the ability to put words together to make sentences gathering a nail in a verb a subject inappropriate. They can't put that together to make a complete sentence to get their words out. Or they'll start a sentence in those. I I WANNA go to the to the to the to the to the to the to the to new goody goody goody goody getting again getting it ago and you're like what I'll I heard I wanna go to deter and gotta go. No words just sounds and they'll hit on a syllable in stay there but Dipping in they're trying to say a word but they can't they can't get the whole word out and you're left trying to figure out what in the world they're trying to say or they have what is called. Word Salad if you picture a great big vegetable salad plant based salad note. No meat on this plant plant based eating girl and you want. You've got cucumbers tomatoes in you got celery and you've got Lettuce you've got migraines because that's my new. Things been adding micro grains everything and you decide. You'RE GONNA put your foregin there and you're only gonNA get a piece of cucumber with. That might be very hard to do right because it's word salad. Everything's mixed up in there in so they reach for a word but instead they get some other word or former thereof or some combination of several words in that how it comes out and we're left trying to figure out what they were trying to say I think in my book used the word potential I won't Arto whereas my And you'd be happy to let them have peduto a help them onto peduto. If only you knew what was so your response to them could be something like well. Dad We need to find your peduto. You're right it is missing. Now tell me I forget. How do you use a Dardel? What would you do with the Dardel? 'cause I I forget I haven't had a long time. Hopefully they will be able to answer in some way like well. You you put it on your own on your on your shoulder and and and you and you and you a and and you're going what what what what. But you're watching their hand signals. And if they're taking their hands down the center of their chest like they might be on buttoning or buttoning or they're trying to put their arms through something than maybe paternalism jacket. Maybe it's glasses. Maybe who knows what but you watch how. They're using their hands. What they're acting out to see. Can you figure out what a portal is but you be accepting of the fact that yes? They need their paternal. And yes you help them find the Puerto and hopefully lead him into questions. That will help you figure what a portal is dad. What color is your bottle? Well it's Bright Pink and you know. Dad Only has one bright pink thing than going to narrow it. Down Right Mom What do you when you use your poodle? Where do you use it? Do you take it with you somewhere. And she might say shopping might get one word out shopping mom shopping baby mom talking about her purse or maybe they put their hand through their hair in the dirt. Eliza coat comb method. I don't know where code came from would not be coat going to air would be come. See Word Salad. You reach for one word and you get another. We all do but it is very common for folks with late stage. Alzheimer's to lose the ability to put sentences together. My favorite thing about my Mama when I think back about her last six months of her life was the day she went on hospice was the day. She said the last complete sentenced to me now. She said a few cents afterwards but never directly to me and hospice Employees had just left. I signed all the paperwork. Mom was sitting in her recliner group. Home she lived in in the living room. I was in the dining room and she saw me and she goes Buki. Get your ass over here. That was Mama's last complete Senate. She was never able to put full sentences together after that except when she was having visions of heaven and she did have visions of Heaven and she said Oh. And I said why Momma she says it is so beautiful. I'm going to love living here. But she didn't say to me she was saying it as just a response to what she was saying. That was one of those wonderful amazing reckless moments in my life. So at some point start putting sentences back together. Y'All in that happens when the Lord starts to call him home in that's what happened for mom and It's interesting but we lose that ability to put words together when Alzheimer's is present. Y'All just learned to deal with that you be accepting of. It helped them to give them clues. Help them to give you clues and help to guide them towards those clues just be accepting of it because it's frustrating for them to eerily as they have something they wanna tell. You can't do it. Kinda imagine what it would feel like if you were in another country see. I'm good southern girl. I haven't traveled very much. So if you take me to Japan I'm not GonNa understand a word anybody saying and they're probably not going to understand my southern English so we have a communication problem is frustrating on both sides. It is pure folks with dementia too. So breathe take big. Breath helped him to potentially respond to questions. You might ask or act out. Promised to help them to speak kind. What's important and in this world as we're dealing with with Kovin be nice to other people. I've gone on facebook. I'm only posting my show on facebook and I'm reading nothing but I know people are just arguing left and right on facebook. Stop doing that. Y'All be nice. It's a whole lot better world when we've decided be nice. We all have enough stress. Do I hear an amen on that? One blessings smiles. See You on the next episode of. Let's talk dementia. You guys take care and I'll put my glasses back on so I can see. Now bye bye. Let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach him at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at. Www dot n. a. v. f. Dot. Org They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran the spouse of the veteran or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written and making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eighty three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today. For Barrel House. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on. Itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

11:18 min | 9 months ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here is your host bestselling author Carol. Caregivers I'm Carol Hal. In this is let's talk dementia well in our last episode. I told you that we would talk about wellbeing naked. I didn't get into it in that episode. So we're going to cover that today. Well be naked is something we were experiencing the minute we were born right. We all came into this world without close and Somebody hit us on the bottom and we cried and life went on But as we age a little bit we soon discover that running around naked is just not accepted impolite company but it does happen with dementia. So let's talk about that a little bit and some stories and how you handle it. What your responses might be. We you got to recall that our folks with advancing dementia Are Losing the ability to know what is appropriate was inappropriate now that ability is is formed inhaled right here in the frontal lobe. That is the last part of the brain to develop on a male on a female it has fully developed somewhere around the age of eighteen for a male. It's not until the age of twenty one. Now that would explain. Why more teenage boys in early twenty year old boys get in trouble then their counterpart females. Why a twenty one year old or twenty year old or nineteen year old might drive down the main drag eighty five miles an hour and a female of the same age is going to be the speed limit. It truly is. This part of their brain is not fully developed for them to say you know if I drive. Eighty five miles an hour down that road One probably GONNA get caught by the police to could hurt somebody and in my daddy finds out. He's going to be my right. They're gonNA think that. The twenty the females go. Well that would just be done because the speed limit is forty five. I'm going to do the speed limit. We always knew that women think better than men Bentley. Yeah pretty much. That's my theory on it. But it is that that part of the brain not fully developed. So that's also the part of the brain that helps you know What is socially acceptable? And what is socially unacceptable things that you can say to your husband that you would never say to your priest or rabbi a preacher Jokes that you could tell that. Maybe we probably shouldn't be telling him anyway but you would certainly not tell him in Sunday school. That's all right here in the frontal lobe told you about frontal temporal lobe dementia. That is the disease that affects the Frontal Lobe. Temporal Lobe and those folks have very few filters left to know what's appropriate inappropriate. But because part of the brain is so drastically affected now with Alzheimer's that wryness effected also not as much as with frontal temporal lobe dementia. But still it is affected so we lose our filters I can tell you my sweet. Mama had a certain word. She liked to say a whole lot and She had to up and she liked to say that she never have said one of them. She would never have said but she said it and it landed on me not so well the one word up at you and guess what it is but that was not mama. Her filter was gone and she was losing that ability to. That's not a word that we should say. Although which she said she would give every time. I don't know the woman was funny But also knowing what to do not just what disabled what to do that's appropriate and inappropriate has taken all your clothes off and running through the house right. You just don't do that if there's other people in the house But our folks with dementia might not think I should put on road before I go out stark naked into the living room where there's company it makes me think of a story that I've told before you'll hear it again here but A friend of ours that his dad had dementia and I don't know what comedy had dementia. And he had gotten a shower and he got out of the shower and the sign said to the dad. Or grandad whichever. Now don't go out to we got all your private parts. Covered up in the sun went. I don't know to the closet or something to get a towel. And before he could turn around dad had walked out in he covered his private so he thought and he said Paul. I've covered up my privates and he had laid a wash cloth across his chest in the rest of glory. Just showing right. And they're said balls wive and children in their granddaddy with everything show except with a little bit. He had covered with the wash call where he had covered his quote privates on his chest. Yes so sometimes figuring out what's appropriate inappropriate to problem. But that's why that part of the brain is drastically affected so think about that McCain another reason votes might take their clothes off their itchy. They're uncomfortable remember. Have told you the fat pads disappear and they become less than the nerve endings are more sensitive. Because they're more topical and scratchy. Close just feel really Yucky and just gotTa get it off. This stuff feel good that is thrown away or donated pieces of clothing that were really pretty but they drove you. Bumpers crazy when you wore them in so for our folks with dimension. That is more of a problem. That's why you gotta be aware of soft clothing. Are you putting off closing on folks? I know a lady that after lunch in her last probably two months of life in her memory care community she would stand up finished Pusher Chair in stand up and start taking her clothes off starting with her pants in her depends. She pulled them all down in one swift movement. It was quite amazing. How agile she could be at that point in there. She would stay and she did it every day. I think what was going on this lady now. I don't know wish us full. She was tired. She was ready for a change so she did that. It was just a reaction to what was going on in herself. She didn't do it to draw attention to herself. Believe me not this woman. It wouldn't have been the case now. She did draw attention to herself. In fact the other residents would say baddies naked again. Betty's naked and it got to finally the staff we go okay. She's about finish. Let's help get her up. Get her to Aruba's we don't she's going to start streaking but why did she do it was? She didn't do it to irritate staff or to draw attention to herself. Her brings damaged and it was being drastically damaged day by day. She was in late stage. Alzheimer's you could not expect her to do. What is appropriate or acceptable because that frontal lobe of her Branko very I just miss my hair pointing to my or hidden But anyway accuracy that was Miss Betty. She she was a trip and I did love her in enjoy being with her but she would take her clothes off minute so I know a husband and wife who used to sing in assisted living and They Sang Gospel Music. He played the guitar. She saying. They were saying the song I saw the light I saw the light. I saw the light. No more in darkness but anyway they were saying in that and Up comes this may just running through the dining room where they were saying stark naked. Not a piece of anything on. The man blamed the guitar saying instead of saying and I saw the moon to write because he was being moved by. This Guy Looks Kinda funny but the guy did not do it for attention. He did not so getting angry at our folks because they're taking all their clothes off is just not to any good. They're not doing it for any reason. Besides either they can't think it through their closer uncomfortable. It's just something that's hey wonder what would happen if I took that off or via undone of took my pants off what would happen. They're not thinking it through so not. Don't be upset Upset with him which you say instead is well. It does look like you just took your panties off. You're standing hair without shirt on. Maybe we should go find your shirt. Would you like to have an APP? You just finished lunch. Maybe it's time for goodness. Let's just go on Dab your woman in let's get you rating. Let you take a nap. Maybe they're hungry. Maybe that's why they've done it. Maybe there that's the only way they can get attention. There's something going on. They're not happy about they. Take their clothes off. Maybe they're hungry. Maybe they're bored. Maybe they're in pain. Maybe they're thirsty. They are reacting to something. Your reaction needs to be able by. Golly you got your pants off now is there something I can do. Make you feel better would you? Would you like something to drink? Are a little bit hunger July some popcorn or would you like a nap. These kinds inquisitive questions that you can ask them to potentially sue. They can respond that. Yom Thirsty and they may not be able to respond and if they can't respond then you still want to kindly take him into the room. Get them redress kindly and maybe offer them something to drink. See if they joined it ask him. They need to go the bathroom in find out if that's what it was. There's generally something going on there responding to in if they're just uncomfortable they won't take off their clothes just uncomfortable and we'll take off their clothes. Just deal it you get them to bed. Let him lay down become to any no. We don't have to have close on time anyway if we're in the bed in we're comfortable naked. They may have slept naked every night of their wife in here. You WANNA put him to bed with their depends on in their pajamas. Top on their Pajama bottom on in socks on. And if they don't want they don't want it S. My Dad used to say one hundred years from now. Nobody's connote the difference. It's not gonNa Affect Life that much. So sometimes we just got a chill pill but we would really appreciate for those of you who do know better to keep your clothes on okay. You guys have a great day buses files. Let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at. Www dot n. a. v. f. Dot. Org They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint You. When you call inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the veteran or both editor bed. You can find Ms Beth crosby editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county halo. Three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for peril. Hal's let's Talk. Dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

09:24 min | 9 months ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Hi Carol how is let's Talk Dementia? I'm glad you're here today. Well today we're going to talk about a whole bunch close in other words. We're not going to be nudist right while you're with advanced dementia. Very well might decide to be a nudist one day. Yeah where are you GonNa do about that? We'll talk a little bit opposed to that. Makes it more interesting doesn't it? The question came across my desk out about a week ago. What do we do about our loved? Ones are Ellos who wear lots of layers of clothes. Well you know. There's a real simple answer for that and the answer is leave them alone. My Dad used to say have to think about what you're going to fight over because if one hundred years from now is not GonNa make any difference that maybe we don't need to fight over to argue ever spend too much time being concerned about it and our loved ones will wearing Sarah lay layers of clothes in my mind falls under that category Now I am all over making sure our loved ones. Look good if you spent much time around my momma you know that. I made sure she had her jewelry on. Her hair was done in her nails done in his shirt. Her shirt and pants match. And I hate it when I come to see her if they put the wrong shirt on with wrong pair of pants and it looked bad because one moment to look good however there is the comfort factor to take into account also which was a big moment for Carol. The first time I realize Momma did have a bra on. Oh my goodness I'm like why did you not put Moms Brown? My mom used to sleep in a Bra. She would not be uncomfortable. She would not be comfortable without her bra in. They said to me Miss Vera did not want her bra today. She said don't put it on and that happened more and more to got to the point. Mama could not stand wearing. Her Bra was very bothersome for her. So guess what we did. We quit wearing a bra but our folks with dementia well our seniors. Let's just say right now. Our seniors are on average colder than they were when they were sixty or forty definitely teenagers. As we age we do get colder easier in with dementia. That is true. The fat pads under your skin protect your nerves and they have an effect on how you perceive cold and Hot in in physical touch and pressure and pain as we age those fat heads disappear in the nerves or more sensitive so our response to cold is different thin what it might be for others in the room. So the answer to the question. What do you do about someone who wants to wear lots of layers of clothes? Is You respect that maybe help them pick out pretty layers of clothes? It's important to you but you respect that they wanna have on those layers clothes and I can tell you they're gonNa have on soft close. They'RE NOT GONNA won't scratchy stuff. That doesn't feel good. I remember one time walking down the hall of Memory Care Community and The staff was standing. Two staff members was standing with a gentleman and he had on a winter coat. I mean a big willie winter coat and was walking down the hall and they took him into his room. They were standing there at the edge of his room telling him to take that coat off. We're going to hand the closet. This is July. You do not need to be wearing a coat and he kept saying but I won't wear the coach will you don't need to? And they were determined to take it off of him and you know about Las. My mind over them dislike all. Don't look don't say anything Susan Your Business but what I wanted to say is what is it hurting. Four Freddie to wear this coat in the hallway. What is one problem with that in? There's not a problem with that. Who cares if ready to wear a coat in the hall in July zipped up and hood on leave the man alone it is his coat it is his body. Leave him alone. He's not hurting himself. He's not hurting anyone else in. Because it offends your senses. Well that's your problem. Not Freddie's problem. So don't make it Freddie's problem he's got enough to deal with right but they were determined to get that coat off him and put it in the closet and they did and of course ready wasn't happy and then they were irked. What good did that do? It did not do any good but then the question comes up. What do we do about the fact that they're turning our heat? We know up to eighty five degrees. And we're dying in here now then. That is a problem right because we can't have everybody in the house with their lungs out. While your loved ones over there all bundled up so then we go back to let workout layering. If they are not on their own layering. Their clothes help them layer. Their clothes may be in their room. If you could Have what you call it? A new ceramic heaters put it up high so they can't touch it where it might Warm the room a little bit in their area where they sit. Make sure they can't get near it votes because that's why haven't you ceramic heater electric heater. You don't do that so you have to keep it away. But we're there area might be more pleasant more comfortable for them. Keep blankets out key pillars out. Things I can snuggle up in and then you could always buy those boxes of clear boxes that goes over the rope Thermostat yeah you know you see them in businesses or churches are big buildings where they don't want the average Joe Messing with the thermostat and you got have a key to unlock it. Raise it and get in there and change. The thermostat will get one. Install it on your thermostat and make it non accessible for your loved one. But I'm telling you fuel load your loved one up with enough clothing distract them. Give them things to do. Keep them involved in. Live as much as you can. We're going to decrease the number of times go there to mess with the thermostat in if they can't get to the thermostat what they can't change it thinking they is. It is a simple thing but respect the fact that your loved ones are cold so if right now you were just freezing and shivering cold in I in you. You wanted to go put on a jacket and I told you. Don't go put on that jacket. You donate a jacket. Put THAT JACKET. Away Getaway. Go sit down. You know all those kinds of things we might would say it makes me mad at. You wouldn't be really hurt that you and I might make you really unhappy for a while when all you had to say was man you like. Call Liska. Get you jacket as put a jacket on you. You you say how that's better and it is better. Try to respond sensibly on your end in some towns that just is not hard. I mean is it is hard. It's not easy. It's like the last thing that comes to mind is the logical approach. Because we're just a wound up just had it we've had it take off the damn. Cow's don't say that would be nice but that's how you feel isn't it? Just let it be Ya. Just let it be breed. Let them wear fourteen coats if they want to. So it's OK tomorrow. The Sun's GonNa come out. Well we're living in this time where there is this. Fear of Corona virus of the Sun's GonNa come out but we might not have toilet paper. I don't know why I don't know why. Toilet papers distilling homemade. That'd be bad. Wouldn't we laugh a well? We'RE PRAYING FOR EVERYBODY. Who's sick no matter what the illnesses right? God takes care of all of the state he will blessings and smiles on your caregiving journey. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and Families? You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at. Www dot n. f. dot org. They speak veteran. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the bedroom or both editor. Bet You can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing at looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eighty three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. 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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

09:58 min | 9 months ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Well it's true. The senses smell is an important part of our world. If you think about walking into your house in smelling chocolate chip cookies biking how it just. It's a happy feeling. It's a feeling of lightness. Potentially maybe takes you back to when you were in third grade. You came home in. Your mom was baking chocolate chip cookies. Or maybe it's the smell of apple pie or I don't know what is it that you smell. That takes you back in you got. That's happy hour that makes me think about well. I can tell you for me this right here. White Diamonds Cologne. This bottle of white diamonds has huge memory. Attached to it for me and this is the Cologne Mama War for years and years and even when she was still well. I remember going to the bank one day in standing behind a lady and I went. I had this big whiff of her clone in. You've got on white diamonds don't you? She said yes. How do you know and I said you smell Mama and so for me now? White diamonds is important. I absolutely pedals spray this on every day when I smell. That's my sweet. Mama makes me happy to smell white diamonds? So that since the smale is important in our world for various reasons well for our folks with dementia especially Alzheimer's Type Dementia. They have lost. The Census Mail isn't that sad. We ask you this when you eat. What is the I sense? That is activated. Well it's probably for most of us going to be site we see it or we smell it. It's going to be one of the two depending on where we are in relation to the food right. If we're coming into the house someone's cooking we smell I don't know for tries out. Let's not talk about French fries a Doodo some French fries. We smell them. So we're GONNA eat I with our sense of smell or maybe we see from a distance a chocolate cake on the counter. We see it and then we smell it. Those two important things but with Alzheimer's in that sense mail it drastically affects appetite. Folks don't get as hungry as they might because they can't smell the food now. That's important if you're in a community setting where you're not seeing the food being cooked you're not in The food is not in front of you until they bring you that plate of food and then you see it so if we have not smelled it ahead of time. Our appetite is not wet as much as if we might have seen this food and smell the food so then the food is placed in front of us. We haven't seen it. We don't smell it and now we are to eat it. If it's not one of your most favorite foods in the world that might be a problem you might think I'm hungry But if it's your most favorite fruit light French fries he gonNA take right in so the senses smell is very important for our appetite. It's also a protective smale win. We smell certain things. We go back the truck up. I need to stay away from that. Like smoke. Few smelled smoke. You'd be something's on fire. Let's figure out where the smokes coming from a smell it. Do you smell it or that really strong smell that we get from gas and chemicals. Gasoline has an awful smell. Does it not if you get it on? Your hands is like us. Give me something to wash my hands. I can't stand this. I tell her. That's why woman marries. A man is to pump gas and carry heavy. It's too important. Things need to do for us but chemicals. Lots of chemicals have awful smells. Lots of cleaning solutions have awful. Smells When I think about cleaning solutions I think about clorox. Ooh Nasty Smell. How is that protective for us? Census male. Well. Let's pretend that you've just you've got someone living with you has dementia and you have just poured a couple clorox to put into your white load for the week and the phone rings and you walk away in your level and walks behind in they see cop and they that was like mount. Do let me drink it in The clorox because when they brought it to their mouth their sense of smell was gone. They didn't get up and go. Oh Gosh that smells horrible. Let me on not drink this. By the time they discerned that it's already on their tongue. It's already there now. Chances are they're not gonNA drink a lot of it. It's going to be pretty nasty. They're going to spit it out. But by that time we've already ingested some. I think about the chemical smell that is with natural gas. You think about how protective that is as I understand it. Natural gas has no smell so they put something in. It makes it smells horrible so that if there is a lake you will know it. But if you've lost your census failure on damn well. The sense of smell is important also regarding spoiled food. You know you look in the refrigerator. I don't know how long does it cleaned up. Jurors I keep my pretty much rotated online. Keep old food in there. But you open it up. You take with an. Oh good gracious that sales horrible. Get rid of it but someone who's lost. That protective smell might eat food. That's not good so with our loved ones who are still maintaining their own household. We need to clean out. That refrigerator printed frequently Tell you body odor. That's another place where the protective sense of smell we lose it and then are we start to have breakdown of skin off because of skin on top skin has been washed. You know anywhere this skin touches skin is a place where we have the potential for the breakdown of that skin behind the ears under the arms under the breast around the Genitalia. Between the fingers between the toes anywhere skin touches skin. We can have breakdown. We start getting body odor. We don't notice it so it's protective that we start going that smell so good. It must be mean we get cleaned up and of course. You're an faces a mania. We've got some spell going there and we know that our loved ones with dementia will sit with a dirty depends on your like. Why are they doing what they not go? I think just pooped in it. Don't smell good. Let's get him cleaned up worlds because they don't smell it so they've lost that sense of smelling and they're not detecting any longer. That's what's happened. The sense of smell is important. I want to read you a joke. That is in my book. Let's talk dementia. I gotta find it right here. that relates to this. That I thought was pretty not pretty funny. Oh here is seventy one ice table of contents got there carol. Oh my goodness I put my glasses on a much. Better can see okay. Where readers ever helped the raiders around your neck in reach again a pair readers in realized. Now you've got one around her neck and one on your head. I wonder about myself okay. An elder an elderly woman went to the doctor's Office for a checkup. The doctor asked if she had any problems. The woman said that she had a terrible problem with constant passing gas however the incidents were silent and did not smell in fact she announced she pass gas at least ten times she sent. She'd been the office since they were silent in didn't smell. No one knew the doctor listened to her story and then gave her a prescription for some peels. He told her. Take these pills for a week in combat to see him. One week later the elderly woman returned to the doctor's office an complaint. I don't know what you did but those pills have caused my win to smell awful. They are still silent but boy do they stink. The doctor replied good. Now that your son is is cleared up. We will work on improving your hearing. Isn't that cute that's from? Let's talk dementia which you can find on Amazon and on my website. This one says rewrite there because I'm working on a second edition. That's my working copy. Okay since the smell is important. It's important for you in the quality of your life. It makes your life happier more pleasant. It's important for safety of you and your loved ones so think about that. All right so you guys on the next episode of. Let's talk dementia. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and Families? You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at. Www dot n. a. v. f. Dot. Org They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse the better or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is at mazing looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight. Three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. 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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

10:20 min | 9 months ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"We're going to keep going with acronyms and talk about. Pb A which is pseudo bar affect. Pseudo Barr thank this order. You often hear it called so it came to my mind today. I had a phone call from client. She brought my attention that her dad has. Pba and it's not something. I hear a lot and I thought. Gosh we haven't talked about that in quite some time you can reach me to talk about what's going on in your world and my email address is carol at. Let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org and if you give your memorial call you back. It's very simple well. This gentleman has PBA pseudo Bowl Bar Affect in this is a challenging disorder that can be difficult to differentiate from the symptoms of other neurological diseases With which is associated. So what is? Pba will simply put PBA is the inability to control laughter in crying so we will find individuals who cry for a reason that we have no clue or they laugh at inappropriate times or for things that again. We don't know why they're laughing about. They may laugh when they cry. They cry when they should laugh in. They may cry or laugh for no logical reason at all. There's no stimuli in their world in their environment going on at that time that would make sense. Oh Dad's crying because feeling blank. It's not a normal response to live situation that brings about this crying or this laughter so it's very disturbing for the families very disturbing for the individual. Sometimes it's hard to diagnose PBA from depression but with depression. We see a fair amount of crying. That's COM WITH DEPRESSION. But we can tie it to an event or circumstance or a situation that has become so overwhelming that now tears are very active in very prominent very prolonged Days on him but we can tie it back to that situation. I can tell you in my world. I've cried more the last year than I probably cried my whole life but as you know my sweet Mama passed on. May Thirty first that crying I can tie to an event In so that's different from. Pba PBA is crying. When we don't understand why it is described as a condition affecting the brain's affecting the brain with episodes of laughing or crying that are sudden unpredictable and occur without warning they could be excessive in aggravate exaggerated and inappropriate their involuntary. The people cannot control it. They don't think okay. I've got to stop crying. Got To stop crying. I'm GONNA stop crying. They may think that But they can't they can't stop crying. I'm not sure they would even think that because the brain is not allowing that process they are totally out of Any control over that situation. So it's a very interesting thing. as many as forty percent of Alzheimer's Mention patients have PBA. That struck me. I didn't realize it was so high. Forty percent of folks with Alzheimer's type dementia have pseudo bar affect disorder and as I said the inner episodes are inappropriate to the situation. There's no close relationship between the on emotional expression in the patient's mood in so it's it makes it difficult for the loved one so then you might. WanNa stop and think. Do I have a and good question to you? Well according to the Internet and the website. I looked at for the things that you need to be aware of answered the question. Are you more cheerful than in the past? And as I said can't with me yes I am accumulated sought to something Can you do that? Do you realize that you're crying more than in the past. And can you related to a reason Or You just overall depressed that would be a reason That would be the difference between crying because of depression in crying because a PBA with depression. You may cry a lot. You may not even know why you're crying today but you know you are depressed in that. Crying is related to the depression with. Pba You just cry and you can't stop it in. Somebody may be telling you a great job that is funny instead of your body being able to respond with laughter it responds with with tears. Well that's different than probably what you're experiencing Or do you have something really bad happening in your world you find out. Someone has passed and Crying you laugh. See how that's different from being able to connect your crying to a sad event or your laughter to a happy event is the emotion that you're having appropriate if it's not then we start thinking there's something going on. The question is heavy actually crying more in the past month not just felt like it but have you actually crying more in the past month when you think back on those events. Can you tie them to something? Does the weeping as come on suddenly with no warning at times when you're not expecting it in suddenly means that it's within only a few minutes in and not after several minutes of trying to control yourself you know I know that I hate to cry. I tell everybody I have one of those. Ugly CRIES OPRAH. Winfrey talks about in south by feel like. I'm going to cry. I do everything I can to stop it because I decry in so after. Several minutes are trying to gain my composure. I can stop the crying most time right with. Pba You cannot it something. You cannot control in a few filled tears coming on or if they started. Can you control them enough to stop them on the specialty in front of other people does that? Change the situation. Are you more likely to be able to stop them in front of other people than you would if you were alone because if you can control the crying it's not PBA because that is a neurological process in the brain that you don't have control over so as I was talking to my client this morning? She said there's a medicine called new DEXSA IN E U D E X A. I'm guessing I don't know It's very expensive But it seems to work really well for her dad so that was good news. I do know that some doctors prescribed extra authoritarian and Quinn quitting to help control the symptoms symptoms of PB. I I don't know how effective that is been. According to what I read it supposed to be pretty effective but whether it is or not. Aah Do not know but PPI can make just slightly more difficult for our folks with Alzheimer's in sometimes we'll see our folks with Alzheimer's crying with PBA type symptoms and will assume they're crying because they're frustrated in their sad in they're angry they're lonely in. That might be true but in the midst of that crying can you use version. They are be in. Pull them away from that crying. That thought process in. Take them to a happy thought process if you can they were not dealing with PBA but if no matter what you cannot change that mood for them so that they're no longer crying than we start wondering about PBA or if we find they're crying with laughter is appropriate or they're laughing when crying is appropriate. Then that's not Alzheimer's that's certainly would make you think. Pba Three letters and other ackerman acronym we may have another one on the next episode. I'm not sure But it is an interesting part of Alzheimer's type dementia and other dimensions also and that can certainly just make the journey more difficult for the individual end for the caregiver and remember that if it if that live situation is making your life as the caregiver difficult. It's making the life of your loved one difficult. Also they're not enjoying whatever it is causing you that extra worker that extra concern or that extra stress anxiety or tension. You might be film as the caregiver. Well they're filling too to some degree so keep that in mind. Pba look it up. Learn a lot. I hope that gives you some good information. I'll see you on the next episode of. Let's stop dementia by. Let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in a vf dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran the spouse of the better or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written and making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eighty three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

09:24 min | 9 months ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Hi I'm Carol Jalan welcomed. Let's talk dementia. I'm glad that you're here today. 'cause today I'm going to do a little preachy. Oh yes I am. I had something to happen. That's just stayed on my mind. Well I'm GonNa tell all my friends at. Let's talk dementia about it. So I have regularly posted on facebook. My show Four days a week and I post inspiring. Things are funny things. You're not GonNa read a post where I've ever had political comment or controversial comments. It's not my job. It's not what I'm called to do to be controversial and guess what you either but I had posted a scripture A scripture from one of my prayer cards. Let me see. Can I find that very rare card? Here sonal read it to you exactly Here is when my heart is overwhelmed. Lead me to the rock. That is higher than I told. You guys have been going through some tough times with Passing and all the changes in my life. And it's it's just been tough and I posted that and I put a missing my Mama Verona I know you are too and Verona's my little sister she had earlier that day sent me a picture of mom in that. She was missing Mama so brought her into that conversation. Well I got a comment from someone. That was not nice it. It was just not nice and she was calling me out for having not tagged our other sister in that facebook post and she wrote. I'm sure she mentioned other sister. Is Missing Your Mama too and I wrote back. I'm sure she is but she ate on facebook. And yes I put ain't because she's not facebook. There was no need and tagging her because she never see it who do no good and it just turned into whole explosion of telling me how to grieve when someone is grieving. You are going to point your finger at them and correct. They're grieving. No you're not and if you do let me just tell you you're wrong don't do that. Grieving is hard work. You as a caregiver are grieving to a certain extent. It is a different grief. Then you will have after one passes but you're grieving did that. I know because day by day little by little you are losing your loved one involved in that. There's grief in doing things for them that you should never have to do. You should never have to claim. The bottom. End of your. They should be able to do that. Themselves scrape involved in that and as the dementia progresses the Greek changes evolves and increases in. The death comes the greatest different it. It's painful don't ever call someone out in their grief if you are watching this and you're not caregiving don't call out the person who is caregiving for not responding to live in the way you'd think they should cause honey. Todd you're not walking in their shoes. You do not know the grief burdened they are under. And if you don't know that you got no right Comu- when and this is true for all of us as we live in this planet on this planet in this world in interact with other people. You don't know what people are dealing with. You may look at someone and think man. That woman's got the best figuring. Her hair always looks good carries the newest purse. And she's got shoes with red cells. Which means you get the money right. She's got it going on. She makes six figures a year. She may go home and cry every night she may have disorders in her body that she wishes she didn't have. She may have dysfunctional families. We members may be terribly unhappy and putting on a good front. What she doesn't need from you is to be anything but loving. That's what we're called to do so that when we are down we will go to the rock that is higher than us. The God of our salvation but we can also pull on the strength of our friends and family but when they are cutting us down in sticking their fingers in our face telling us you're doing this wrong and you should do this and this is what I think about that. The Nets wrong. Don't do that other people in a few as my viewers or listeners. Doing that I'm disappointed in you. That's not who we are. That's not who we're called debate. It is just not we are to lift people up. We are to show them grace and mercy because we have been extended more grace in more mercy in more kindness more love than we'll ever be able to give out so. Why should we not be busy doing that? You got a long ways to go to catch up with what you've received so let's give it out. Will I unfolded and blocked everyone involved with that post? I do not need that kind of interaction in my world. I don't need that kind of heaviness in darkness landing on me. I need to fill up eight. I need to be fighting. The grief the stage going through the stages agreed not really fighting them but going through them but fighting the urge to stay in that grief. our pastor on our Ash Wednesday service taught by Jesus went into the Wilderness? But do you know what he did? He came out of the Wilderness. And I'm in an wilderness. Time I really am. I Miss My Mama. I miss being a daughter and I miss being her caregiver. Her really do. I miss other things that have changed in my life and I'm adjusting and adapting but I'm in a bit of a wilderness. You don't go to someone who's in a bit of a wilderness in reprimand him for being in the Wilderness. You just don't well. I told you I was gonNA preach and there's a preaching. I don't know who that's going to help today I hope it will help you. And I hope you'll never even know it helps you because I hope it will change someone's thought processes so that maybe they won't say to you. What maybe they could have saved if they had listened or or watch this episode. We gotTA BE GENTLE KIND PEOPLE. We gotTA show love and there are times. That's hard on. There's times we have to bite our tongue. But if you've got to bite your tongue in let's do that but if you are interacting with people who are consistently bringing you down think about the people you hang out with you can love them and pray for them but you don't have to let them interact with you in a way that is damaging to you and your mental health and your physical health and your wellbeing and that is also true of the people around you because when you're down you can bring them down in when you're down your loved one with dementia feels it so be careful about that. Anythi need stay off. Facebook might not be a bad idea. I post my show on facebook but I've just got to where that's all I do. Don't need negativity. I don't care who you want for. President don't care. I don't care why you don't want this win in why you do want that when I do not care all I care about is being uplifting and positive and blessing to those I made. I can't do that valve junk going. On facebook just can't blessings as miles on your caregiving journey. In your whole life. Go be a blessing in brings minds by Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and Families? You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot a. dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to in Utah Than Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the better or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight. 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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

08:58 min | 10 months ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and SMILES IN THEIR DEMENTIA. Caregiving generally welcome to. Let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Welcome to let's talk to meantime Carol how your host and today we're GonNa talk about being fat. Yes we are and we're going to talk about a few Bible verses in quotes that have come to my mind lately that reflect directly applying the situations in my life and I thought you know it might help you in your life to join just maligning here and having a bit of a problem. We'll have had someone tell you you're fat. You look like you're pregnant. When is the baby due? Or you know your hair just looks awful or where did you get that pair of pants? Were they bad on you? Something just so hurtful and so inappropriate. I think we've all had that happen. And if you haven't will then yeah for you but if you're caregiving hold onto those pants that you've got on letter to Die. 'cause he's probably going to happen are folks with dementia are none for saying things that are inappropriate? And it's not necessarily that they're out to hurt you. They just say what comes to their mind. If they think you look like you put on a few pounds in this just gonNA come out and it may not land on. You may not feel so good when they say it but the question is how. Are you going to respond to those statements that are inappropriate or hurtful or offensive in some way other? Well you can be defensive. You can go well. I'm not fat but outlook as fast as you or my herlitz better than your hair or do you think these pants look bad. You should look in the mirror. What you've got on. You could say that anybody and there's really nobody on the planet you can say that too that the end result is going to be good is it and certainly not with your folks with dementia. Now if they don't have the demand don't have dementia and they say that to you then you really do have to wonder what's going on in their world that they think it's okay. Say these inappropriate things and you know what we don't know what's going on in our in other people's world we do good just to keep up with our own world. Forget keeping everybody else's straight so maybe just maybe we should ignore it from them. Maybe maybe we shouldn't. I'm not sure I don't want to hear those words to have to discern what my response would be to my person who does not have dementia but to my person who has dementia. You Might WanNa go. You know what you might be right. I should probably eat more sale reinstated. Donuts where do you think in see what their responses it would probably just cut the edge off or or the tension in the room might be less than just by agreeing? Yep I'll look wolf. Fatima should eat celery instead of donuts. And see what they say. And then you might say something like. What do you like on your salary? If you were to eat salary. What would you put on it? See what their response is. And if they don't have a good response say. Do you like peanut. Butter on celery. Have you ever tried putting peanut butter with raisins on your salary? Do you know what they call that. That's called ants on a log if you have peanut butter on a piece of salary. New Put Raisins isn't that NEAT. See Now we've taken the conversation from something that was offensive. Something that made you feel not so good or maybe even a little angry to the universal language in what told you is the universal language it is not it is food. We all relate to it and we used to version therapy to do that. We took him from one point. All the way to something different Wa- stealing knowledge in what they said. It's hard to do sometimes but it is something that I tell you over and over again for various reasons in here giving their things you need to practice in diversion. Therapy is one of them on the tape the last few days. I've had some emotions to deal with that. I have not been enjoying As you know my mom passed may thirty first and I think about her day my life and there are days that I do it. Wale and there are days when it just gets a hold of me more than what I wanted to my friend. Linda told me lead those feelings com. Let them wash over you in. Let them leave. And I've done well at that but the last few days have not done so well letting him leave. I kinda came to the realization. I'm no one's daughter That's a weird feeling. Obviously my whole life. I've been somebody's daughter and I am not anyone's daughter right now. I am not my Mama's caregiver and I love being honest caregiver There was never a thing that I did that. Mama did not affirm that I did not hear from her. Oh cookie you've got this you can. Do it have a good friend that I've recently met Michelle and showbiz eighty two years old. She's only one year older than my Momma and She has a way of a filling in sometimes on the emotions that I might would have gotten from Mama and today. She told me kid. Whatever it is you WanNa do you just do you? Just make it work saying. I just heard mom in that. Made me feel good but I wanted to read to you a quote from the Bible that I'm reading. I'm trying to think of the that. This gentleman took the Bible. Broke it up into a year and is price for America Bible. That's it and so you have old testament new tests Moore Song proverbs but there is a little prayer at the beginning of each day. I'll read you what it was for yesterday. I believe these are my Abysmal glasses for you guys. That are not seeing this but hearing hit the color on. These glasses is awful but anyway. Here's the prayer and it just really struck me now thank you it relates to caregiving to Lord. You told your first followers to have courage because you were with them. Help us to soak in that message tune to fill it in our buried bones. Remind us you've got this. You're in control. It'll be okay. I'm in Oman. Does that not speak to caregiving? Yes I think it does. And so a while back. I was given a package of today's prayer cards. Can you see that with the light on it? And they're just little four by six cards assists. Today's prayer on one side on the other side as today's prayer this was yesterday's God is within her. She will not fall. This was today. Faith can move mountains kind of where I am in this journey. Feeling that I need bolstered up and I know you do too in your caregiving journey. Have days where you think you got it going on in the days when you need bolstered up you can do this. God's got you. Faith can move. Mountains God is within her. She will not fall. You won't either but I'm here for you. Email me Carol at let's Talk Dementia Dot Org. We'll talk about what's going on in your world blessing since miles. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and Families? You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse better or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth dot com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eighty three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon in paperback and kindle versions. Be sure to like. Let's talk on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

09:59 min | 10 months ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author. Carol Pappy Full Moon Monday caregivers. I am Carol Howl and today. Well I'm GonNa talk about the full moon and it's messing with me might be messing with your loved one with dementia. While I'm sitting here with my bathing suit on soon as I get this reporter go into the pool because I am seriously feeling some effects of something something going on in my body that I am not enjoying affecting my emotions and I think Maybe it's the full moon so I did a little bit of research on this topic. Where my notes go there? They are and then van. It's quite interesting. You know the full moon beautiful to look at and We admire the beauty of it. But does it have a physical effect on your body and if it's happening affect on your body was doing for the person who or to the person it might have dementia will. The moon gets blamed for a lot of madness on earth. Enough they say in emergency rooms. There's more people who come into the emergency room while nights a sleman. I don't know but the lat name for the moon which is Luna L. U. N. A. is the root word is the root of the word lunatic tick Luna is the Latin Name for Moon in his the root of the word lunatic. I think that's kind of interesting. Is You know it's Kinda me well about one study showed that the lunar affects have been found to have little or nothing at all to do with human behavior. So maybe I'm just imagining all. This was still another study that was conducted for over four years Showed a longitudinal study to objectively examine the lunar influence on the frequency duration and intensity of behaviors neighbors and individuals. Alzheimer's disease I read from. The article showed that there was increased wondering anxiety physical aggression and verbal confrontation confrontation so said. The study concluded that individuals with Alzheimer's disease exhibited significantly more behaviors during periods of full moon. And that those behaviors saviors were of a greater duration during the full moon. Some maybe I'm not crazy. Maybe it's having effect on me too. I can tell you that I have been very much so that the least little thing I feel like I wanNA cry. And that's not unusual for this stage of my life having Lost my momma against about nine months ago or so. I have to do the math here. weird things. Make me. Think about her and cry and I can do that just at the drop of a hat and that's not who I am normally but it's been a little more intense and are pretty much WanNa hit somebody some days. I should not say that to you should the. That's you know that feeling when your emotions are all whacked out and you're just a little jacked up and you think It's just one of those days. Everybody needs to leave me alone. And that's why I'm making sure I get to the pool today. I've already been out walking and then we had long meeting and to our meeting her. That was a thing when visit my brother-in-law Uncle Ernie in a little update on him as he is very very much not with us cognitively and he wasn't in his room when we got there we're like wears mclardy and he had politely taken himself down to someone else's room piled up in their band trying to take a nap. You know you just never know but he has has to kind lost a lot of pressure and sadness in issues were working through there but then life is just like that you take these situations that affect us that are going on in our world weather's caregiving or whether it's a full moon or whatever stresses of life will weigh us down now in. We need to be aware of that. Induce something help combat it in for me. It was walking this morning and I did that fully dressed for my day and I wore a along dress today so I'm out doing walking with my long dress on. I know people thought I was crazy but it was a nice leisure oiseaux k. I don't care what people think unaided to get out and walk for my health and then now excuse me again going to the pool I will be at the pool for an hour walking in in place. I can do over three miles walking in place in the pool in that does make me feel better now. Very thankful to live in part of the world where I can go to the pool in February also yesterday did about. I think it was a thirty five. Forty Minute online chair. Yoga feel a little funny telling I I did chair yoga not an old woman but I have problems with my thumbs so getting my weight down on my hands really doesn't work well with my thumbs so I have to be careful about that but that Chiro felt really good and I think this afternoon. I'm going to do that again. I don't WanNa tell you that there have been studies that showed judge. That sleep is affected when there is a full moon and people have go to take longer to sleep. They don't sleep as long or excuse me. Goodness Gracious. I don't know what's going on there. You get to hear it all. They take longer to go to sleep. And they don't don't sleep as long and they have a poor quality of sleep and I don't think they're entirely sure why that happens. But they know the lunar cycle does seem to influence human sleep even when. You're not aware that the moon is full and that that phase of the moon is existing. There still seems to be an effect on the human mind body that interesting. I think it is well. I've cleared my throat thirteen times on. You've had to sit here if you're watching this in the end Mabena suits actually my mom's despite institute. It's quite nice if you're listening to it with you or spared that aren't you lucky. I hope that as you're working with your loved one you will remember that they just like made a day have days when you just feel sorta crappy you do and they may not be a real reason for you just do maybe. Maybe it's the learner who knows I don't know maybe it just is in may be on those days. You need to be a little more sympathetic. Maybe a little more interactive Little more of that gentle touch you know that taking the palm of your hand in making a figure eight across their shoulder blades in the back holding their hand rubbing their hand being kind of the those displays of emotion that are displays of affection. That are so important Morton that we all enjoy some. Maybe some coconut oil in. You'RE GONNA rub their hands gently gently now not gonNA do a massage and if you go Ra my hands you saw Jim really that good feel good but no just some coconut all in in rub them good with brings me to one last. Thought I want to give you something that just came into my world today. This piece of Information Asian and met with the lady today who said that she had started using a face cream. That was probiotic now. She is allergic to dairy and she started having all these symptoms of stopped up and filling nasty and she thought. I've not had dairy. What did I do and should you know the only thing this different in my world? Is this probiotic face crane and so she looked on it and it has a milk base. Who would've thought that? I'm so glad she figured it. Out and that base in that probiotic face cream. She had a reaction to so something. Like that. Going on in your world or in your loved off once world it is something to think about so don't automatically assume your loved ones having Yucky because they have dementia will. It could be other things that might pass or things that should pass that we need to get rid of like a crane that might be causing problems just interesting you learn something new every day. Don't you oh I ho caregiving journey. Today's a good one. I hope the flow moon. Just you get to enjoy the beauty of it and you don't feel the effects of it. I hope when I get to the pool. Oh there's not a bunch of people there 'cause I like to put on my music from the fifties and the sixties and walk too that beet to make sure I get my steps in you guys have a good day blessings smiles. How's your caregiving journey? Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred the three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot A.. Dot Org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to in Utah. Alvin Carol Saint You. When you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse better or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com? She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county halo. Three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for peril. Hal's let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon on in paperback and kindle versions short alike. Let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

11:12 min | 10 months ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Your host and thank you for joining me today. As I told you on yesterday's episode we are going to about what to do when problems arise in assisted living or memory care community. Well there's one thing I can assure you it's you're GONNA have. Problems is just the way of life life you know scripture says were two or three are gathered together God is in their midst. I have lots of versions of that verse as they two or three gather together. There's always food well. So that sorta true in where two three people together you're probably gonNA have a problem. Arise that happens in your home with people you love so you know is going to happen in a group setting. We've got a lot of different people from a lot of different backgrounds and employees doing a lot of different jobs hard jobs so you can expect how you respond to. It is going to be key now. This has not been my forte. Over the years I have had a tendency to want to get really riled. How up over some situations and in my defense some of those situations needed somebody get really Riled up about what was going on But when you start messing around with the people that we love and not giving them the care they deserve or something's happening we sometimes might not thank is clearly Before we speak I just made. That's me I'm learning day by day to take a breath in she'll but the big a big thing I want you to learn from today's show is when this happens when you have a big problem. A big instance comes up or maybe it's just a little something or you've I've got a question is how to handle it. In the first thing I would recommend you do is email the people in charge now. You can speak to them in person if you're in the community and you see it in their somebody that can address it right away if it's resolved great But if if it is not resolved immediately mmediately even if you contacted someone Howard recommend a paper trail. Let's email first of all the director of the entire community even if the directors probably not be Hands on involved in sobbing this problem or or addressing this issue that director needs to know it's going on because that employee works for the director and the director needs to know and then you want to write whoever's in charge of the assisted living or memory care left and in most communities there is director for each of those segments if it's regarding nursing are mad information or doctors visits then Dan you're gonNA email those two people and the director of nursing for your community so having that paper trail and it gives them an opportunity to write right back and add to that paper trail in it's also an accountability method. So that if you later still have an issue you can site well They said this person said that employees said on this date they would do Xyz and if somebody said we didn't say that we never told you that you can go hold on. Here's the email and you can take a look. This is what I was told so. That's a good thing to have that paper trail trail. I can tell you when Ernie just moved into his memory. Care Community and Let's see that was on Thursday and on Saturday Saturday we had an issue wasn't Ernie's fault wasn't the community's fault his arm suite mate. He has a setup where you go into the front door of the apartment. He's in and there's this little sitting area in the bathroom that is shared by two residents and then there are two totally separate bitch bitch rooms so the individual in the other bedroom would use that same front common area in the same bathroom but they have separate bedrooms will that John Gentlemen was very unhappy. That Ernie was there and he was by Lynch and he swung at my husband and he swung at Ernie and all good is what all went John was just had to be written down. Husband told me my eyes are like holy cow. That was no fun and I said let's email everybody involved so they know this happened. Fortunately the guy continued with his rant ranting and raving out in the dining room so staff so is that was good too. Well we emailed the folks on on Saturday. Oh I don't know three o'clock four o'clock in within an hour. We had emails back on my goodness. We Apologize Jaws. We will be taking care of this. You'll hear from US tomorrow. That would have been Sunday on Sunday. They called and said we just moved your Or Ernie brother-in-law off to a private room until Monday. When we can sit down and figure out what we're going to do we get the rest of the staff in for the week? But they moved him to a safe room and of Course didn't Abar Costatini at all because this is something they needed to do on Monday when we arrived there like okay. We're moving to another exact same room on the other hall where the roommates are very kind gentle individuals. You won't have to deal with now. None of that would have happened. Had We not quickly contacted acted management. told him what was going on. Because see people can't fix what they don't know and they can't fix what they don't know you're upset about even if they know it's going on judge they may assume you're okay with it you know Letting them know you're not is the first stepping point the first stepping stone to resolving having a problem. Now I'm just going to tell you my history of working without sin communities which is over ten years now. That method doesn't always work. I have worked with executive of directors who would tell you anything and everything to make you happy. One certain individual comes to mind. Just what absolutely talk. Walk the talk but never walk the walk. He would tell me. You're absolutely right. We're GONNA do this. We're GONNA fix that. You'RE GONNA expect to see this Blah Blah Blah and never for did a blind thing. Then what do you do well. There's this thing called the company that owns that community in. That's when you contact them. Oh Oh yes you say I was told. XYZ right here in this email from this individual and it's been a week two weeks whatever amount of time you think is appropriate area. And they've done nothing and I'm not happy and I paid this much a month and I want this resolved hits are GonNa roll now. Make sure or this is something that's worth fighting for. You don't WanNa make people mad who are caring for your loved one but when we're talking about safety or we're talking about lack of care or or we're talking about medications important things you need to stand up for now if we're talking about Let's see they didn't brush heads Ed's teeth this morning something happened. They normally brushed ads. Teas are you really going to work. It worked up because they miss brush. Dad's teeth one day. Well you know. Let that one rod awed if every day continually they don't Brush Dad's teeth is something you need to address. So you gotTa Kinda way what's important to speak up about in what you need to. Maybe just put on the backburner watch that's been carols challenged because I just WanNa go in and fix everything every day. Make everything perfect. I don't know what world I think. I live in cassette. Don't what happened in my own house. Hey I am sitting here looking at myself recording. This and I'm seeing what you're seeing if you're watching it on video if you're listening to me on the podcast you're very fortunate because I'm seeing hair sticking up. I can't do this reverse right. They are what. What is that hair? Right they're sticking up say life is not always what you want it to be. We can't Fix Everything but there are things in our world in our loved ones world when we are paying for care that we should expect especially the care care that we're paying for so I can tell you my brother-in-law his mom is in a community that we are not thrilled with but she is probably in her last day. So we're just staying calm in letting her be rather than moving her sweet lady. I just love her. She's always been so sweet to me and he would go in in her room had not been cleaned for weeks and he knew because he was monitoring what he saw on the floor in it never changed and he told the staff I pay to have. My mom's is ruined cleaned every week. It's part of what I pay for and it's not been cleaning weeks. That's the kind of thing you gotta speak up about. You got to make sure that you get what you pay for. Don't fight the little things but pay attention document. Take pictures of things that are going on in the room may be that you don't like don't take pictures other people the community. That's against the law. Don't do that In the document with the appropriate people in the community. What you're saying that's upsetting you? The documentations important and executive director now knows you've got it in writing in that puts a little fire under their rear into and that's a good thing well out Out that gives you some help as you navigate that assisted living memory care skilled nursing setting or even Rehab But remember it's all run by people by Human Beings and we are all flawed. We're not perfect. Never have day where we did everything right in neither do the folks in in those communities that they keep in mind is they're hard-working gotthard jobs. They're not getting paid a truckload to do it. I'm just going to tell you so coming. Keep that Monto. Well hope you have a good day. I hope you love what makes you hope you make him. giggle tune lessons miles a by. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors. I National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in the F.. Dot Org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran the spouse of the bed or encor both editor bed. You can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written and making sure it represents cents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South South Carolina. That's your county eight three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Carol. 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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

10:30 min | 10 months ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Well hello look into. Let's talk dementia. I am cure. How will your husband joining me today? If you're watching this video formats you just walk through the room. That's Zoe And she has to go to work with her Mama. So today I wanNA talk to you about All carte pricing and all inclusive pricing. When it comes to assisted living in memory care there's a big difference in those two and knowing the difference might help you discern which hype is best for your loved one in their given life situation so in assisted living? We have folks who are functional An often very high functioning individuals who just need a little help initially with the activities of daily living with bathing eating ambulation dressing in writing. They may need help and only one of those areas and so they moved to assisted living to get some assistance. If they age in place there there needs do increase in the assisted living. Is there to offer that hail. It is wonderful but their care caused very well may be dependent dependent upon the care they receive. Now let's back up just a little bit in talk about assisted living pricing so when you get a rate at an assisted living that Does all a cart pricing for their care then that ray includes their rent and their power activities three meals a day snacks. Sometimes it includes cable. Sometimes it includes Internet. Sometimes it includes own that varies depending upon the community but the other things are very much. Norman always part of care most always it includes laundry. I have seen that very every once in a while but most of the time it includes laundry. It's a very nice way Eleo into received some of the help you need for your physical person and then being in a place where as your needs increase you can get the help you need now with with all a cart pricing. You only pay for the care that you need so you go in if you only need help with bathing then you're not paying for help with the other items items just for what you need and every six months some communities three months six months nine months once a year they do an assessment to see. Do you name or help and if you do your price goes up. Because you've pick something else off the menu of items that you need help with now as care the needs increase and we start having dementia thrown Ian. We become a Wanda risk. If the care names become great or and indoor we become a wander risks many times we find our folks moving to memory care now. Memory care is all those things we just talked about but the difference is is they have more employees per resident and they also are in a locked building and that locked building. He's a great because we do not want our loved ones who have dementia to be wondering to find them down the road and not know where they are. And that's exactly what help happened happen to my brother-in-law Ernie Last week as I told you on a previous episode Ernie has dementia brought on by Agent Orange from having been in Vietnam. That is one of of those over two hundred types of dementia that is irreversible but nonetheless he became wonder risk in. Sony's memory care so in memory care here. If there's one thing I can guarantee you is. They're going to need a lot of care. Backup again to assisted living with assisted. Living we are going to be evaluating. Are you waiting those care cost and we will see care costs increase in memory care. They care cost. You're definitely going to increase. You can rest assured that as time goes on coach in dementia progresses there needs. Are we going to become more and more. So now. We're choosing more items of that ne-new that we need help with NBC. You see calls get higher and higher. That's how alicarte pricing works. Now I like all a cart pricing for assisted living because only WANNA pay for what I need but in memory care I really like all inclusive pricing because we know there needs are going to continue to increase The demands made on the staff is going to be higher as they age. In as the disease progresses so having all those bases covered from the GECKO. Oh is a very good thing all the way around. It's good for the community. It's good for the person it's good for you. The person who's paying the bill. Let's talk about how it's good for the community unity. One reason. It's good for the community is their staffing is based on the number of residents. They have assuming they all need help with everything. And if you're moving someone in that does not need all help in everything well. They're still staffed for it in. That means you're in a community. It's got a lot of employees. This is a good thing so for Ernie who is in a memory care that is all inclusive. He is not receiving any help eating. He's fine with aiding. He's pretty doggone good with toiling in getting on and off the Potty Bathing that's the problem dressing. That's a problem won't and violating. That's a problem wandering. That's a problem. So they get a break on a couple of things with Ernie. He needs full assistance with other things such as shaving shaving. He cannot shave him so well he tries but he's not real good at it instead. They're keeping him shave nicely so we pay one price good for the community and it's good for us because we know in the bill comes what it's going to be and that's wonderful now. How is it good for Ernie wealth? Because he's just getting a lot lot of care they are there to offer that help because it's already included in his plan and that means for a happier person. Now remember on your assisted assisted living. You are going to have an increase in your assisted living base fee that rent fee toji includes Renton in power in Activities meals laundry. That will go up. Generally once a year there are so some communities that unfortunately increase increase twice a year. I don't seem folks to those communities because I'm still think that's nice but a once a year cost living increase you will see in an assisted living and and you will see that in a memory care you also see that in a skilled care community so once a year. You'RE GONNA see prices go up a little bit to cover the increased costs in that community. I can dig that. That's okay I can handle that. I can plan for that but in memory care. If you're buying an olive carp package you might have a hard time planning for that. 'cause you don't know what their needs are gonna be so I really like all inclusive pricing if you're in a community that it does all Memory care they're doing a good job than celebrate it and stay there. But I'm just telling you my preferences in my preferences are like a knows news. Everybody's got one in. Nobody wants somebody else's so anyway being able to budget for Ernie is very good for us. We know the price is going to be well. That's just a few differences there between car pricing in all inclusive pricing. Keep an eye on your loved ones wants. Make sure they are getting the care that you're paid for. That's very important in just because you're paying for it doesn't mean you're getting a lot of communities boy. Have I been through that that you go back and listen to some of my older videos you hear me ranting and raving about such things in a skilled nursing community with that beautiful Right there Mama. In fact our next episode we're going to talk about how to handle problems that might arise within the assisted living or memory care environment. They're not perfect folks. They are run by what we call human beings human beings. Well we mess up. Don't we and you as has the caregiver. The family member need to have a little forethought on how you GonNa handle those situations that everything comes out. We'll we'll talk about that on. Her neck accepts accepts Thanks for joining me. I really do appreciate it. We are in eighty two or eighty three countries. I forget which I'll have to look it. Up Looking forward to hitting one hundred countries where we are reaching people with the good news that in your caregiving journey. You're not alone. The good Lord is with you and hold you tight blessings and smiles and I'm here for you too bye bye. Let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at. WWW dot N.. A. V. F. Dot. Org They speak veterans. So you don't have to you. Tell Them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the veteran or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby editor editor Dot Com. She is amazing looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county halo. Three nine eight five zero nine one eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell them care CINCI. Thanks thanks for joining us today for Carol House Let's Talk Dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on on Amazon. 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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

10:06 min | 11 months ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Welcome to let's talk dementia hero Hallel your host and. I'm glad you're joining me today. I am recording a couple episodes. All on the same day I got a little bit behind taking in some time off for the holidays normally would go change shirts so you would think record among different days but I just decided it is just not worth the effort so so if you're listening to this then you of course don't know you don't care but if you're watching this you're thinking she same shirt on yesterday new right ideas but anyway anyway of God to do today. So I thought I'd give some of these shows done in advance and hopefully something. Data's going to help you. Well I want to talk to you about this particular item on holding. And for those of you that are listening to this. What I have here is a shoulder pad that was given to me by a friend whose wife had gone through every stage of Alzheimer's type dementia? This shoulder pads says on it. Police call the police. They are holding they are holding holding me captive. The other side says please call the police. my father I can't read it anymore. I it it used to say. My father beats me On a shoulder pat. He came at me. And I'm like okay. There's a story here. How about telling me why WII giving it to me and the story behind it well? It was very disturbing In hard for him his wife at that point like I said was living in the last stages of Alzheimer's in they were living living together she was remember care. He was insistent and they moved there. Because that particular event had happened that surrounded that shoulder pad so his wife was very good about getting up in the middle of the night wandering around the house and he had put all kinds of locks on the doors up high where she couldn't reach them so she couldn't get out and wander down the road and them not know where she was and he did all these precautions to protect our but one one night he woke up she was nine the bed. He cannot find her wear issue and she gone in the basement and she was in a closet and she had shut herself south in the closet and she found somewhere along the way a sharpie. I don't know how that came to be and this shoulder pad was in a coat coat that was in that closet and she took it out and she wrote on that shoulder pad the things that were going on in her mind. Now why would she. They call the police. I'm being held captive. My father is beating me when you see when she was a little girl. Her father did beat her very frequently. It must have been too horrific existence. Then he would lock her in the closet and she would have to stay in that calls it until so he decided she could come out and from what I understood. That could even be a day or so. He would just labor locked in the closet so when she awoke that particular humor night in the middle of the night She was so far back in time. That that's what she thought was going on. And she made her way to the basement uh-huh and locked herself in the cost. Now that is just an incredibly sad story and it sounds like something. I'm making up but I promise you this really. They happened and this was given to me as a result the the shoulder pad but to think that white she was going through at that point in her life was so horrific I tell you you don't know what people are dealing with every day You look at people in you seem you think that just got the world handled it. Life is good. They look great. I look at them and they. They don't need to lose weight happy for them in their beautiful too and I pretty much hate people like like that. But you don't know what they're dealing with in this lady on top of dealing with Alzheimer's and being confused was back in a time in her her life. That was a horrific time of her life. Now you remember with Alzheimer's we lose our memories in the reverse order in which we gained them him so we are sitting here in your ear. Two Thousand Twenty. So those memories are GonNa be Lost in that reverse order. So we'RE GONNA lose two two thousand ten and then we're going to lose two thousand five and then we're glues nineteen ninety the nineteen seventy to nineteen sixty go backwards. So I don't know what year was that her or Dad Was horrifically awful to her. But that's how far back life in history that she had traveled. That's where she was living in her brain and it was an awful time of her life as if Alzheimer's wasn't bad enough but to land at a point in your life where you were being abused in mistreated so so awful. I mean award it just it toward a heart out for her. I can taste yeah. She was not easy to get along with. When I would visit her memory care I would drink owning? I'm just being honest with you. Because she was angry. She was very uncooperative. I don't care what food you gave her. She didn't like it. I don't care what Song you're saying. She didn't like it. Nothing made her happy and when her husband has been visited it did not make her happy because she did not any longer know who she not was. She was that far back in time she was way past the time from which which they had met she was a young girl but then when I realized learned her story my heart got a little more sympathetic towards her so I kept trying trying to reach her and to be to be accepting of where she was but I can tell you what she didn't want. She did not want to be touched. An I'm touchy feely girl. You know I wanNA hold your hand and rub your shoulder stroke your face. Do you think she wanted someone coming towards her to touch her. No because to her. You're coming towards her to her her. That's where she was in her life. Being aware of that in your loved one. Hopefully you know their story on. If you don't you need to find it out from someone who can share with you or if you're caregiving in a professional setting knowing the store that person your caregiving. Four what did they deal with in their early life as a child. Maybe they had abusive husband Whatever I had a client that went through AUSHWITZ yeah life was different from her that anything I could imagine but knowing bad it changed how I responded to her and her interaction action with me was changed because of it. Knowing about your person your it's important changes your caregiving journey. You know this is true for whoever whoever you're dealing with when you go into the grocery store and you're cashiers just a little bit of a mode you know sling in your eggs down the conveyor belt and you're thinking truck up you're gonNA break my eggs it well maybe instead of saying back the truck up you're gonNA break my eggs. We might need to respond in a kinder way with. Let me move those eggs for you. Are you having a good day to he died. How's your day been? It might just cut the anxiety in that tension right in half and they might take breath and relax a little bit. I tell you something I've been doing when I go to wall or I don't like go into Walmart. I'm sorry sorry Walmart. I just don't like him but I have to go. Sometimes I call my cashier by nine. They've got this big name tags on that name tag is not there just to you know. Keep their Bra in place while they cook into their shirt. No so you'll know there nine nine call her name in if you go. Hi Anna how are you. Hi Suzy Hi John. You would be surprised at how they they stopped all of a sudden like Gosh they call me by name. I'm a person I'm a real human being not just someone that's ringing up groceries or your purchase columbine it says little things we do in our life life that makes a difference yes it is learning about your people being kind of them and realizing that they are living in a different time and place than you are in maybe trying to understand what that time in place is can change their their world changers to we don't want to happen like this shoulder pad with please call the police on being held captive said story all right. Well I hope you have a good day. Hope that you will share joy. I hope that you will receive joy. Blessings Miles let's it's top dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in VF dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits fits for the veteran the spouse of the better or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint went straight extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county halo three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for peril. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more? We're about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia mentioned on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

11:59 min | 1 year ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Hello caregivers and welcome to. Let's talk dementia today. We're going to talk about you tips to help you get your loved one ready for that big Christmas into it in a way. That is respectful of who they are. You know your loved. One has spent their life brushing their T. brushing their hair and doing their grooming in cleaning leaning themselves in picking out there. Close now all of a sudden you come along and you want to do it all for them. Well that might not settle real well with them unless you were Mama Mama Mama Mama would let you do anything for her. That kept her from having to do it for her sale. She was Elisa little thing but it did make caregiving a lot. Easier sure but nonetheless we need to have respect for our loved ones in regards to making sure. We don't rob them of dignity while we are are caring for the now. You won't look good all the time I know. I always did with Mamma youth earrings and Take after her rings on every finger bracelets I mean she won't hold Shebang and are Mak- And our white diamonds clung. But you especially wouldn't look good if you're the primary caregiver and everybody's come in your house for Christmas. You won't mom or dad or your husband your wife whatever. Look good one of the things you want to practices that hand over hand method of of caring for them so it's time to brush their teeth. Now these are techniques we're gonNA use every day. You're not just at Christmas. But you can go up and start brushing their teeth as you know sticking it to brush their mouth Dylan them to open up. Open your mouth separate your teeth. Quick Gagging is not gonNA work. Oh good but you really gotTA brushed teeth. We don't want you know we don't cavities teeth fallen. We don't want bad breath for heaven's sakes so we're going to put the toothpaste on that toothbrush. And while they hold it which they're used I used to their hand coming to their mouth. They've been doing that their entire life. But you're GONNA put your hand on their hand and guide it. It's called hand over hand method. Can you do it this way. Hand over hand. So you're going to guide that toothbrush in help them brush like the bottom quadrant now if you let them go after they've done on it for a little bit. You might be surprised to see that they can do that without you guiding hand but they probably are not going to switch up do that top quadrant or the bottom bottom one on the other side so while we've got the brush turn with the The bristles Dan. Let's go ahead and guide that handed over here to brush this side and then get them going and and see if they will continue doing it in if they don't move in brushed bottom quadrant all by their own. Then you're going to hand over hand. God that quadrant. Ah God that brush across the quadrant. Then you're going to have to turn that brush bristles in we're going to guide them to brush top see if they continue. Let them do it if they can. If not help them and then move over reminding them to spit into rents keeping toothbrush wet. You don't want them choking be careful about that. You probably don't brush off four quadrants without spitting do so. Remember that when you're working with your loved one you don't want their mouth filling up with that toothpaste in getting getting down their throat. And then we gag. That's messes and we know the same technique can be used when you are helping someone shave. If you're shaving saving what women shave to folks. I mean you know I tell my husband if I ever get debilitating. I can't take care of myself. You don't shave me right through here. I'm going to look like a hairy monster. I will not be happy with you. In Mama would go this. She would stick her tongue up in the corner up under her upper lip and make her lipstick out that meant. She needed her her mustache shea. Nuts how she would tell us that doors the end so again that may be something they will let you do. Your your husband might let us shave them. That is more likely to be something. Gentlemen will let us do for them. 'cause they probably had somebody else shaved them in their Mike periodically and that does not feel all that uncomfortable to have somebody come with them with the racer but it might not feel good so again. We're going to do hand over hand putting that razor in their hand prevalent electric razor because we're probably gone have a reduced chance of harming them with an electric razor in. We're going to guide their hand across their face to link that shaving. Now if you're using a regular razor in you need the soap and shaving cream and all that be very careful because you gotta realize allows one quick jerk the wrong way and you've got a problem so still that hand over hand where if they jerk you can pull away very quickly and protect them Liam hand over hand. Method is just a neat technique. Now what if your loved one needs help eating They won't feed themselves. You've got to feed them again again. Don't go at their face with the spoon or fork. That does not feel good. Neither Momma did that when they were little. That was okay. But nobody's come at the with a fork or spoon. That doesn't feel normal at all. But that muscle memory remembers their hand coming to their mouth in that muscle memory can and be activated. If that's the word we WANNA use by putting your hands over their hand. While they hold their spooner they hold their fort in helping to guy as they scoop up the food and they bring it to their mail and again you might say after two or three bytes that they get the hang of it again in they can feed themselves but they may not depending on how far along in this process called the mench that they are so be aware of that but it just is a respectful. I want to help them. Maintain their dignity while you care for them when they're getting dressed. Don't just button all the buttons Zip all Zippers. Put the socks in the shoes on. See see what they can do. Allow them to help button and if it takes a little longer you can possibly allow that time. Let them do it. And what if they get through in their buttons off and you know we've got a buttonhole down here that doesn't have a button a button up here that have a button hall where you can just go right up. Go Good Gracious Gracious. Mama you've got your buttons all messed up. Let me fix it or you can wait a little bit. Go Up to him and go. You know what I missed up when your shirt US escaped buttonhole. Good gracious I must not have been paying attention. Let me fix my mistake. Just take responsibility for what you didn't do but see you're keeping their the dignity intact. You're not making them feel less than because they didn't but in their shirt right who can't button shirt. They've been banished shirt forever. We don't WanNa make him feel poorly about themselves because they missed a button. I mean really is just not one of those things that we ever want to bring up to them. Maybe help them pull their pants across their feet. Eight and up to their hip. In Vince I hey mom can you pull your pants on while I could get your hairbrush and give her a chance to work those pants up to seek him she do in if she can't then you come back new saying you did a great job here. Let me help you finish up. Because we've got get to the kitchen check on the Turkey you know some subject that will take take their mind away from the fact that they weren't successful in getting dressed now you've taken him to another -nother thaw another train of thought in there Brian that they can then concentrate synthroid on and speaking of helping with that Turkey if they are things that your loved one can do to help in the kitchen. Please ask them to do it now. You gotTA think about it. This is something they're going to do. I remember the example of helping Working with a group of of ladies innocent in memory care community folding laundry and and we had towels in west coast baby clothes and the only thing. They won't default photos debate because they were not interested in two thousand wash call. That was more than one. Vote the baby clothes and of course it took forever and thirty six days which was great because they had to rub movement older just a cute little. It was something for them to do. But your loved one may never ever been interested in cooking and so getting them in the kitchen they may all of a sudden have an interest in it and they may not to said. Think about bad if you get get them in and say hey mom could you put the biscuits in the end the breadbasket. That's something that can easily do in. They don't want to while they probably didn't do it in the the past but one way or the other they don't want to or not pushing folks to do stuff they don't WanNa do when they have dementia that setting yourself up for big old problem in. It's not worth it but I can tell you mom up until about January. She passed in May Around January February even she. You would get in the kitchen with me and her group home on Sundays. I Cook there and she would help me and it was things like we had keen walk patties frozen king walk. Petty said I buy ready made that are amazing in we had to put them on a pan and I said Mama here. Can you take these in in Lynam up on the PAN and and she would just work at it in it was something she could do to help me. NSA that word help loosely. But it got her involved in we could stand there and talk about things. I A cherished memories. And that's what I want you to have is some of those happy memories to look back on while we sit here just a few days before Christmas in when I think about being in the kitchen and with my mom I think about her making Turkey gravy. Now I don't eat Turkey and I don't eat meat but growing up I did and I can tell you one thing my momma made the best Turkey Turkey gravy on the planet. Sounds good to me and I don't even want Turkey glove those memories a Mama there. She is in the background. I am a special shout. In words of comfort in sending of my heart those who have also lost their loved ones in this she urine and I have a lady that attended our very first beer as caregivers retraite. Who's Mama passed away just yesterday or last night I believe in From my heart is with her and with each of you because I know a lot of you have lost a loved one in Youtube will be having your first Christmas without the Mahar hairs. You blessing missing since finals on your day. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three thirty five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in VF dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them I'm Carol Saint You. When you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the bed or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth breath dot com? She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county halo. Three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for peril. Hal's let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be short like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on. itunes remember knowledge brings power power. Howard brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles? Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

11:13 min | 1 year ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Did you see my little dog. Just leave the room. I guess she's she's bored. I don't know well today. I WanNa talk to you about how things are not always what they seem recently. We've been doing a lot of talking about preventing Alzheimer's and thought we'd just take a little break from that talk about life so today the kind of a weird day. It's been up. Call it a a weepy Mama Day. We'd be Mama morning. I heard the song on the gaither either vocal channel which I love the gaither vocal band. I listen to their music a lot of times. And this trio of women. I don't know who they were saying. The song angels in the Roane and it was talking about a man who is passing and he was saying to his family. Look don't you see there are angels in the room. Well it took me back very quickly to May thirty first When my mom passed and It was sad for me and it's still is obviously. I think about that day and I think about her passing and how beautiful and and wonderful in and full of the Holy Spirit that day was but in my heart when I think about it is painful and I don't know that it's something I'll ever get over were and I don't really think I want to. I want to always have that strong connection to my Mama and I know I will but when you see me out in public I'm always smiling. I'm always have a makeup looks much better than it looks right now. 'cause well I've been crying. You might not know in passing what has gone on in my life for the last. Thirteen years Tom In watching Mama go from being vibrant working woman who could outsail anybody in the store no matter what the product making me. Oh so happy. Every time she knocked on my door bringing me Sonic Cherry lime AIDS with extra Jerry's because she knows she knew that's what I liked to becoming becoming a woman who when she looked at me did not know who I was. You know how hard that is. If you're not there yet in your journey your loved one and sticks around long enough. You're going to experience that in. It's painful it hurts so when you see me out in public you would have no clue of that. It just makes me think about there are people in our world. Well let me just back that up. Everybody we literally everybody we meet is dealing with something that we don't know about. We don't know if they're caregivers we don't know if they have been abandoned Brandin if they have been abused maybe they are in a very stressful and awful life situation where they're being physically mentally l. e. sexually financially whatever kind of abuse they're receiving maybe they're being bullied at school. Maybe they're different for whatever reason and they're being made to feel less than maybe the morning. Maybe they're grieving. Maybe they've lost a job maybe they've they've lost their home. They've lost their income. Maybe they've lost their mama their daddy their husband their wife their sibling their best friend. You just don't know and so what I want to say to you today. Is Bill aware of that. You are not the only person person in the world who is dealing with tough times Thanksgiving's coming Christmas around the corner. Those are extremely difficult times for many many people. The suicide rate is higher between now in the first of the year that any other time of the year because holidays are hard. It's hard being around family. Sometimes that may not be accepting of you for whatever reason. It's hard being around families that don't understand your grief that don't acknowledge it. And maybe maybe you're not acknowledging it and their own world. It's hard sometimes to pull up your big girl panties and keep going for the day. But I want you to know that when you're meeting up with these people and you're realizing that everything is not what it appears to be that behind that or in front of that. In addition to that we need to bring smiles miles. We need to bring hope. We need to bring words of encouragement. We need to let folks know we are there for them. I have a friend who who donates to our company monthly and. I'm so thankful for all of you. Folks who donate to our ministry so that we can keep paying for these podcasts in these videos that you you watch her cards make me so happy. There's nothing profound. It's just. She took a moment to ride. Why in tell me what's going on in her world and into thanked me for helping her in her journey but just hearing from her that that touch in my world just means a lot it to me? I was riding her today. Thanking her for that people's lives are not all what they seem and I know in her world. She's dealt with a lot of great from the passing of her sister. People deal with a lot. Look at this picture. What do you see? You should see an owl and this picture was actually taken after. I had spoken. Okay one night in North Carolina back in October and the lady I was with went. Look there is an al I wear wear is the out. It had flown right over over. My head landed in the tree and she cut that pitcher. Isn't it incredible. I think it is absolutely a gorgeous pitcher but look at the purple in the background. You know that's not what you think it is to me. It looked like maybe purple flowers in the background. Purple something in the tree. But it's the dark night sky. See Things aren't what they appear to be. We see one thing but what actually might be could could be something totally different. You know you have to think about that. Think about that when it comes to your loved one. What they are experiencing is probably not what you think they are experiencing? What they are seeing is certainly not what you're seeing? Their vision has changed so much what they are wishing for in hoping for and desirous of. I don't think we can begin to imagine and the stress that they feel from not being able to to participate in life. We don't have a clue I can teach you about it. I can try to help you understand but I don't know and you no no one knows because the people who do know can't tell us about it but it's got to be it's just got to be a very agonizing using thing to be in a room full of people and not be able to participate in life with him. That's what your loved ones kind of feel like Thanksgiving and Christmas may be New Year's and whenever ever whenever you get the family together they want to be a part of the world. They want to be able to participate. They look like they should be able to man up until January of this year. Mamma died in May up into January. Viewer visit mom. You might not even guess just by looking king at her that she had advanced age. Alzheimer's would be leaving us in five months. Things are not what they seem but she was dealing with a lot in. She was confused a lot and she was frustrated law and she even had pain. Things are not what they seem and being aware of that. Uh when you're taking care of your loved one is important but helping your friends to be aware of that as they interact with you. That's SORTA Kinda maybe a little bit your responsibility because until you've care give in a in a specific situation especially dementia Asia. Then you don't understand it if your friends have not been through that caregiving experience. They don't know what you're going through so maybe just a little word from you. That says I'm having a weepy. Mama morning I feel like Poo Poo and it's messed my makeup all up an adult. Need you to solve anything for me right now. Yeah if you could just put your arms around me all I cry. Well that would mean a lot to me. I've told my husband husband that US if a Stark Ryan you don't have to fix its use after all me and as my friend Linda Tommy. She's a carol when those moments come let them come. Let them wash over you and feel you but let them leave GotTa let them leave today. See Her read. It makes my my face and I just put on my makeup on award well. I hope that you've got some words of wisdom from me today with my arterial itself and for you folks who don't have this video form in you're listening to maybe you can go to our website and pull up this this video and see that beautiful picture how it is quite something up. You have a good day. Blesses miles per by. Let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in a v F dot Org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to in you. Tell Them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the better or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor editor Beth Dot Com. She is at mazing looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com Tom and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight three nine eight five zero nine eight fine I they are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia tell them carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled? Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon Azzawi. Paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. 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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

09:33 min | 1 year ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Welcome back to. Let's talk dementia. I appear on how will your host thank you for joining me. In Our last episode we talked about the importance of civil things to help. Help reduce our chances of Alzheimer's in today I WanNa talk to you about the importance of sleep now. I told you that I had been having a hard time staying asleep in. That's it's not good. We need several hours of uninterrupted sleep. which I couldn't seem to get but I wanNA talk about Tim steps that you can do to increase your chances of getting healthy beneficial productive as well? I'll tell you as what in just a little bit how productive your brain can be Sleep for you and for your Elo. Cruiser L. O.. Niece has sleet to believe me. The first thing you can do is to maintain a schedule that allows for seven to nine hours of sleep in in the best way that you can do that is by not needing to set an alarm clock while you say I got to get up and get going but if you are going to bed at the exact exact same time every night and getting up at the exact same time. Every morning your brain will begin to adjust to that and I read that and I thought Um I don't know if I believe that or not till I started paying attention to it and my brain is waking me up somewhere between six and six fifteen which bad way. I am not entirely happy. I ride rather have ten o'clock. Don't be good and the other thing you WanNa do when you do get up to go the bathroom. I'm in the middle of the night like I'm good at doing is. Don't open your eyes all the way. Don't flip on the light unless you're going to go into the bathroom. They may be. You need just a little night. Light light put out or some things that keep you from having to put on the full overhead light. Because when you do in the light gets into your brain it resets your circadian Acadian Rhythm in your brain and that's what helps you stay on track for going to sleep and waking up so we don't want to wake up your brain okay. We want to keep everything dark working in his quiet as we. Can You WANNA stop caffeine by two o'clock now. have it. Had Caffeine like forever and thirty six days. So that's not an issue issue for me but you need to remember that if at Caffeine the half-life of caffeine is about six to eight hours so if you have caffeine at two o'clock in the afternoon in the half life of it is Eight o'clock then by Tiller clock half of the effect that caffeine is still in your body. It might be keeping you from going to sleep so think about that when you are discerning when you should stop having Pepsi Cola which. ps I know offense to Pepsi. But you don't need to be having it all is so bad for your body so keep that in mind. Avoid alcohol within three hours of your bedtime now. A lot of us will think. Oh I'll have a glass of wine to help me sleepy. Help me get sleepy and that okay. That might work but give yourself about three hours before you go to sleep That so the alcohol has time to bend to be digested and won't have a major effect on your ability to sleep peacefully because you can't have an issue with that exercising. Yeah you kind of heard this before from exercising during the day will help be sleep better at night but you also don't want to exercise like right before bedtime when it gets you really away. You don't WanNa do that so make sure you you avoid exercising. I think it's three to four hours before bedtime. Get Sunlight in the morning so my husband and I we get up while it's still dark with this dead gone time change. I don't know why we changed the time fall forward known. Yeah spring forward fall back. I don't know why we do that. Mass but now when we get up it's dark so we're getting outside justice. The Sun is coming up if you are outside when the sun is coming up or when the sun is going down it does help reduce depression but being outside when the sun is coming up So for about thirty minutes will help to set the the Circadian Rhythm and it turns off off Melatonin so being outside. We'll stop the release of Melatonin. You're Brian make you more effective and more awake for your day and make you more ready for sleep at night. Keeping your room. Cool between sixty five and seventy five degrees is important. I've had the heck with time getting my husband and go with that one Erin and I'm like did you turn the air down. Did you turn the air down. I told you Menopausal I get hot. I don't like to sweat avoid blue light at nighttime. What is blue light will that you tell your television your screens your phone your IPAD? Whatever it is that you're looking at all those darn hours Avoid avoid that Brooke Elise right before bedtime. Give yourself an hour so out there. I have a little thing that pops up on my phone that tells me how many hours a week spent on. Oh my phone is distressing. I was up was up. Twenty seven percent this past week. What did I do on my phone? I don't know how about doing a little meditation meditation before bedtime prayer before bedtime being thankful spending some time to be thankful spending time breathing being member that five five ten five talked about five Bresciano. Hold it five second count to ten to let it out. Hold it for vice again. I said it wrong to begin with not vibrates in. It's one breath in that you hope for five seconds one breath in how I go. Tell you this it's count the five when you're breathing. Okay breathe in one two three four five hold it for five against breath out for count of ten hold it for five seconds out boy. I had a hard time explaining that. But this puts your brain in the mood for sleep as does rating rating will make you so sleepy and get tested for sleep. Apnea they say seventy percent the people with sleep apnea go on diagnosed. That's not a good thing. You're GONNA have terribly difficult time getting useful restorative sleep if you have sleep apnea in an ask your doctor after about supplements for sleep as I mentioned earlier dough tears breathe is good for sleeping. I take Melatonin ten. Milligrams I'm not telling you to do that. I'm just telling you I take Melatonin. Melatonin ten milligrams in it does help me. Lock also take magnesium now magnesium. We'll help you sleep. Check with your doctor before you take anything okay. A y'all got that. Don't come back and say you told me to take it because I did not but magnesium. I started taking it because I'm Vegan While I'm piscotty cheering because I do eat some on fish. And so sometimes you need to supplement with magnesium but magnesium is good for reducing migraines and. It's good to help you sleep in that kind of neat and you see baby oil before I go to sleep just to help with that process so those are just a few things that you can do to help. Get good restorative sleep in talked about being productive sleep and it's productive to sleep because when you get in that good sound sleep as we've talked about vote for your Automatic vacuum your brains Roomba comes on and claims your brain in. You need that so we've got to do all those things that Brian controls every bit of your body. Everybody your body answers to your brain and your brain answers to in response to every bit of your body so we got to keep the brain right healthy in the body healthy and one of the things we can do to keep the brain healthy is good quality sleep argue. Thank you fill in sleepy. I feel a nap in my future. Have a good day blessings and smiles. Let's dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in VF dot dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the bedroom or both editor. Bet You can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing at looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight. Oh three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia tell. I'm Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book book also titled? Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review review on I tunes remember. Knowledge Brings Power Power Brings Hope hope brings smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

06:56 min | 1 year ago

"ms beth crosby" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Feels like for your loved one so you're taking them from their place of comfort the house they are in every day or this is the memory care or wherever to some other place in. It's very uncomfortable. So you got to think about that. But if if they're able to go and it's right that that travelling in that inner change between one one location other is still something they can handle in their journey. Then let's let's go but let's prepare our folks to know where mom is says in her dementia journey. It may have been a year since they saw her. Maybe it was last is Thanksgiving or last Christmas and they are expecting her to be like she was then and she may not be in. You need to ahead of time. You have in phone calls or emails or Heaven Forbid we should ride a ladder And get that information out. This is where mom is now. She probably won't recognize denies you She may not eat. Well she may need to take a nap just to Four Warrant Your folks that this is going on so so you get the to the new location. Please be aware that your loved one Might be a little overwhelmed and just the whole change of atmosphere is going to be overwhelming to them now. This is true even if folks are coming to the home that they're used to being in having all all these people in a little bit overwhelming. And you know this you love for your family to come for Thanksgiving but what do you love next when they leave uh-huh because you're not used Avin fifty nine people in your house. All of them want to eat at the same time is a little overwhelming for units definitely overwhelming for votes with dementia. So no matter where we are if we're at their home or where they live and we're taking their someone taking them somewhere. We WanNa make sure that there is a quiet spot for them so that after an hour hour and a half where you can judge it you pay attention to that person. Listen you realize. They're a little bit overwhelmed. I think I'm going to take him. Maybe let them take nap. And don't take them into the bedroom that they've never been to before and helping to lie down down and turn off the light leave. There might be frightened because they don't know where they are. What's going on again? Remember your Japan and you don't know anything you've never been to Japan before you might just want to sit there with them and If they WANNA talk talk or maybe they just want you to put on some soothing music and maybe sing quietly in the background or maybe they just want you to sit by the bed or lie on the bed with them and hold their hand so they feel comfortable and they can relax and then maybe once they doze off if you want to slide out and go have some conversation. That'll be fine but be aware when they wake up. They're not GonNa know where they are. So you've got to constantly be checking on them in making sure that they are okay with what's going on but allow that quiet space. Make sure that your family knows that you are going to to fix MOMS played in a way that will be acceptable for her brain. You know they may come in and load up one of everything that's been fixed in their pike. Looks it's a little bit like Mount Everest in you're gonNA fix moms play with maybe two or three bites of three or four things in. That's all or maybe just three everything's or maybe just one thing it depends on where your loved one is in their journey that you want to keep things simple but if there's a plate with a whole a bunch of things on it and they look at it is just overwhelming so there's just Turkey and it's cut up in little pieces. They can eat with their fingers. That's a thumbs up when they've finished the Turkey may be then we want to add green beans But you can judge how many items to put on the plight with your log on but you never wanna load their play it. It is overwhelming to the brain and the brain looks at. It doesn't know which direction to go so you know what we do. We pull back and we don't eat and you won't people to enjoy join meals. I mean this is something we do we eat together. It is part of every society. We always eat together when we can and especially at Thanksgiving or holidays. Today's or birthdays. Whatever so let your folks? No I'M GONNA fix MOMS Pie. I know what she likes. And I'm going to put on her plate. The amounts that will appeal appealed to her so that potentially she will eat. I just want you to know this in advance and then another thing you might want to do is to help those who are coming to visit knowhow to respond and interact with mom. Should they call her by her name. How do they go and get conversation going? And that's what we're GonNa talk about tomorrow. 'cause I can tell you for quite a while I didn't call my Mama Mama a powder veer gene and there was a very good reason for that and we're talk about that tomorrow excuse me and How to physically interact and ask our loved ones in guest interact with our votes with dementia? That will make Thanksgiving and Christmas. Or whatever were your holiday might be a more joyful and wonderful occasion and I look forward to that. So I'll see you tomorrow and we're GONNA talk Thanksgiving little bit early because I want. Oh you to be prepared in just in case you think you need to bring Turkey to my house now. I don't eat Turkey. Tofu Turkey now. That would be good to my. You should think about that for me. You guys have a great day bye bye. Let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families as you can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at. WWW dot n. f. dot org. They speak veterans Edwin. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse better or both editor bed you you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing looking at what you've written in making sure represents you will find her at. WWW W. dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on flint straight extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eighty three. We nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled? Let's Talk Doc. Dementia it's available on Amazon paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember member knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..