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Fresh update on "mother" discussed on Morning Edition
"Get your general Nick do usage with the National Guard Bureau in Washington, says the guards, citizen soldier. Doctors and nurses are already in the trenches fighting the pandemic. Vast majority of our medical professionals Actually currently served in the hospitals and medical care facilities existing so we'd only compound the problem if we were to pull them out and utilize them in a different way. And there's another factor limiting guard activity, federal funding for the pandemic mission and the presidential memorandum authorizing it. Expire at the end of the month. Meanwhile, a major new challenges right around the corner Trina Sheets heads in the National Emergency Management Association and says many state emergency managers are counting on the guard to help with vaccinations and there is a very clear roll for the National Guard to play. In the United States. We've never had to immunize the number of people at one time and within such a short period of time as we will have today for covert 19, so add that to the to do list. Along with whatever else foreign adversaries, the pandemic and mother nature can throw at the National Guard for NPR News. I'm Frank Morris. On all things considered this afternoon, President Trump's lies on widespread election fraud are making many in the GOP worry that it could harm them in the upcoming Georgia Senate run offs. Listen by asking your smart speaker to play NPR or your local station finding This'd is NPR news. Traffic.
No Speako Espaol
"To say who has the right. Who has the final say that says atrushi gano a true latina through. Mcconnell is only someone that could speak spanish. You know and i don't think that's right. Man i mean who who who makes up these rules and and should we follow them. I personally think I don't think languages a pre prerequisite for being latino being chicano Being a brown man. What do you guys think well. That's a good topic to jump into because it's so true it's like the level of your of the your command of the spanish language this should not dictate whether or not near brown right so the big question is does speaking spanish. Make you any more brown than the next person. So i grew up speaking spanish. That was my first language you know and then but the other thing is also like with my father you know. I'm not saying that he's right or you know but It's just the way that it was that he's like Kind of he was one of those people that would hate it when a dark person a didn't speak spanish it and he's like i said i will not pollyanna frontier needs to buy new like it. Would it would. It would hurt them. You know like like lexus. Like one time we went to the beach and then after that that there was this this like these chillers. The man talking In english and everything like that. My dad's like like talking smack about him just because he was talking in english you. That was kind of weird like that. You know as it needs needs to get a He said he needs to get the house by like like. I don't know why you would bother him. Her whatever and then the man just to let my dad know that he didn't spanish. He's all like all a let or something like that. You know like the guy told him not even confrontational sort of put them in check in a night. Yeah exactly and so on. My dad's like not need a colonoscopy de niro and so it kinda like silence my dad now you know. Let let like like he. Did you know it was like that was my experience and i mean i'm not a like even when we're at at at the table like my dad. He didn't like me talking to my my siblings and sp in english in by noel. And it's like he always made us talk in in spanish like everything so that was my my experience I mean like. I said it. That's not how i feel. I mean it's like Because as i start as i started speaking more more english my spanish started You know I started seeing things wrong and stuff like that. You know so. Like so. Even when i went to mexico and i saw some of my cousins and they were like i'll say like a word like spanish or i'd say it wrong and then they'd they'd make fun of me. You know like a skit way. I'll go to assist you. Know he you know yes but you're trying to each other on. Who's the better spanish speaker. That's that's what that's what this episodes about. It's like why do we power trip over that stuff. Yeah man you know. That is a really good question. What what is this about. Power trip know or authenticating. You know you know and why you know why. Why is language such a important part of who we are. you know. Like like maya bringing is little bit different My mother is he. Gonna you know she was born in he comb. My father is gone. He was born in texas. But you know but all our families are from different. Parts of michael and i was born on the border town. You know on a border town so we spoke spanish. We can all speak english but we spoke spanish. That's was the star norm. You know especially right. They're living literally on la la frontera in this five miles away from the fence. And i remember it was like a hard core as a little child by man owes a hard corden nasa student. You know like little four year old five year old you know like totally proud of being brown and everything you know and and only wanting to speak spanish men you know and And because my mind english was such an ugly language you know such a detached language. You know there is no cutting no love in there. you know. And it wasn't until. I went to first grade at the americanization process began. I didn't know it at that time. But that's basically what it is you know. The american is ancient process of denying us. The our our right to speaks spanish.
A Conversation With Dr. Maya Angelou
"With the release of her book. A song long up to heaven a song. I like to do at a song long enough to have enough. I said many times. Maya has been one of my greatest teachers. I am so blessed to have her in my life. She is the one. I often look to for strength for wisdom for comfort and courage and also just to talk you know everytime we on the we're not talking about courage and with sometimes we just laugh a lot anyway. The sheer power of her words and insights have moved and inspired me. And i know millions of you. Maya says at a song flung up to heaven is the sixth and final in the series of books about her remarkable life which she began with. I know why cage heard sing the first book of dr angelo's bestselling autobiographical series was. I know why the caged bird sings. It made her literary star. Stayed on the new york times bestseller lists for two years. It is brutally honest account of her painful childhood and how she rose above being raped by her mother's boyfriend when she was just eight. And the six years of self-imposed silence follows next. She wrote gathered together in my name about her struggle to make ends meet as a single mother at age. Sixteen working as a cook. a dancer. a madam even a prostitute next in singing and swinging getting married like christmas. Maya takes on her journey into show business touring europe as a singer and dancer walnut phone informative and millions read the heart of a woman. Were maya takes us through one of the most fascinating periods of her life from her debut at the apollo theater to her first meeting with malcolm x. to the joys and challenges of raising a teenage son then in all god's children need traveling shoes she follows her heart to africa in search of her roots where she teaches at the university of ghana and works as a journalist alongside malcolm x. world now poet author actress activist. Dr maya angelou has risen to greatness time and time again is more phenomenal phenomenal phenomenal woman than ever. Please welcome my dear friend. Dr maya angelou do want to talk about something. Other than and wisdom shrink in hope. What is seventy four wheel like. It's so wonderful. It is so good. I thought the fifties were hunt. Until i reach the sixty the sixties out there. They're out there who. Then when i reached the seventies mount no the seventies you want to reach the seventies. everybody's stay alive reach this because do you feel age you know. This is a society that so puts age and ageing. And we're so concerned about it. Is there a point where you say. Oh yes. I'm now an older woman. No there are some things that have not escaped. Me team has not. Ecstasy has not satisfaction has not disappointment has not fear has not courage has not so there are some things which have not escaped me. So that keeps you young If you start thinking that you know it and nobody can tell you anything. You found the one way and you can tell others faults. It's already over. it's already too late. You have become old at eighteen at twenty five when you think you know everything but when you know a do a lot you've been around a long time and you've paid attention like you so interesting though because people say to me when you call her up and you talk to her. Does she talk like she talks when she's and it is true many times i call them my and like just the other day he says on the morning. I'm sitting in my kitchen table and she just starts a conversation. Let me get a pencil. write this down. She's talking and then she are you there baby go. Yes so tell me. What is this significant of a song flung up heaven It comes from the third verse in the nba by pauline's dunbar. And i'd love to say please. That may i the first. I says i know what the caged bird fields on me when the sun is bright on upland slopes when the wind blows saw through the springing grass and the river. Floats like a sheet glass when the first bird sings and the first bird oaths and the same perfume from its chalice steals. I know but the caged bird field.
Red Knots (?!) and Science with Spinach
"Hello and welcome to earth rangers podcast. I'm ruth ranger. Emma and i hope you scurry ready because today we're going to learn all about not free a hearty yes. I am a few different pieces of rope here. And i've been practicing all morning. Oh hands on deck scalawags. Are you ready to learn about knots. Old is gonna get your shipshape. The no time. Shogo nods radna acknowledgments. Big nods overhand. Handmaid's the anchor hitched. The these not. Oh that kind of red. Not oh well you know that makes a lot more sense as an episode topic. Do i know what a red nod is Ya i certainly do. I mean the real question is do our listeners. Know what a red not is. It's a type of bird right right. Hey let's see what else you know about this creature. It's time to false or fall off. Okay earth rangers. Here's one for the experts out there. Sure false red knots born in brazil and they are so into their habitat that they never fly further away than five kilometers from their nests. What do you think Well if you said fulls you're right. The red not in fact born in the arctic this colorful hand piper is a striking bird with terra. Cotta orange gold and black feathers. Retinoid start their lives. Eggs and nests building. Rocky creeks old mother and father. Birds incubate their eggs for about three weeks and after the chicks are able to fly. The family moves to lake shores and meadows to eat a lot bigger a really long trip ahead of them and they need to fill up before they leave the prefer seafood. Mussels clams shrimp ben horseshoe. Crab legs are all favorites. After they're all fueled up right not out on an long journey set up to fifteen thousand kilometer. These spend the winter in south america before heading back to their northern home. Now right not. Aren't the only birds that migrate a really long way. In fact there are lots of birds that can make a terrifically long trip. You i think this calls for a top five countdown top five migrating birds number five. Have you ever wanted to fly. High like really high. If that sounds like your idea of good time you'd love being a bar headed goose. They're the highest flying migratory birds. How can they find over eight kilometers in the air. These birds are native to asia and have even been known to fly over the himalayas number. Four we could hardly have a top five list with that. Our old friend the red nine when the red not goes on. Its epic flight. It needs to stop over to rest. And where do they stop. A one of the places is here to san antonio a protected area in argentina earth rangers is working with the international conservation fund of canada and the argentinian researcher patricia gonzalez to keep this area safe from human interference number. Three have you ever heard of a northern we talk. It's a strange name for a tiny songbird with a really cool ability. These little songbirds are only about sixteen centimeters long and only way about twenty five gramps but despite their diminutive size they can fly for over fourteen thousand kilometers each way between the arctic and africa huckabee long distance traveler number two. Just because they can't fly doesn't mean they don't travel heavily. Penguins travel all around and up to thirteen thousand kilometers. These adorable penguins. Follow the sun north from the ross sea and stick close to the edge of the ice of expanse so the easy access to their favorite fishing foods and finally number one. Okay what if i told you that. There's a bird that makes eighty thousand kilometer trip every single year meet. The arctic tern heard the bird with the world's longest migration all the way from the arctic to the antibiotic and back again an arctic tern. Does this trip every year. For thirty years they will have flown equivalent of three trips to the moon and back
The Fight After
"What's up. Welcome to think. This is a podcast about politics. Race and culture from a poc perspective where we celebrate democracy everyday. Now i'm wholesome and joining us from some place in. The state of virginia is the fabulous lena. Maxwell first time ever on our show host of lena peacock author of the end of white politics. A heal our liberal divided as early. Welcome to the show. Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to be here. Yes and joining us from washington. Dc is natalie bad teased. She's a reporter with mother jones. Welcome to the show ned lee. Hey also get to be with you today. Yeah all right so well. Last week was the thanksgiving holiday. And you know everybody was very concerned. Because there was the cdc and other warnings not to travel some six million people did pass through airport security and that is a lot less than a typical thanksgiving. But this was the busiest air travel that we have seen since mid-march and because of the incubation period right we probably are not gonna know for several weeks now if there is going to be a third wave of covid nineteen december. I think we're all kind of preparing for a really bad news for a lot of people as of our recording on monday morning two hundred sixty six thousand seven hundred people have already died from this disease just before thanksgiving the daily debts rose to more than two thousand a day and the last time that was happening was may so. We've said it again but we really are in the same place. Basically we have not made much progress. Which is really sat on that front. The good news you know. And i'm just like oh this vaccine but okay. There is a vaccine With modern it could be distributed as early as december twenty first if emergency approval is granted by the fda. There's also the possibility of this pfizer vaccine so that could happen. So there's a lot going on also. I think this was a time for a lot of to disconnect actually purposely. So we're gonna do a little temperature check which is like joe. How you really doing so a natalie. We're going to start with you. How are you doing like the real deal like how you feeling right now. I feel like i am on an emotional roller coaster. And i'm sure a lot of people can relate you know the vaccine news has been really good but the catch is that we have to make it through the winter and through the next several months and i'm feeling very anxious about how that's going to look and stay on the bright side for the last like eight months has actually been really really hard trying to like nuggets of good news and it's really easy to you. Know kinda like wallow in your own despair really. I feel that damn from disappearances or lena's or lena what's your adventure i sort of. It's a funny morning. Because i woke up literally feeling optimistic and i got through the morning show and i'm sort of having breakfast and getting ready for my morning meeting and my dad is like where's the cat and we couldn't we couldn't. I'm still you really happened in my house. We couldn't find the cat and the door had like blown open. So we're like maybe he does not go outside. And so i'm freaking out because like i'm totally totally ready day. It threw me. The only reason. I i tell. That story is because i think that you know in quarantine it's like i'm making it right. I have my routine. I have my rhythm and then something unpredictable will happen and throw me off. And i'm like literally hyperventilating. And like we find him. He's like hiding under chair. Chilling out and it was like it was like my. My blood pressure went off. And then i had to like get it back down just like but that's all i'm feeling it's like i'm just trying to survive the winter and controlling what i can but like when things pop up when you realize you have no control your like us. So i'm i feel like i'm always like on the edge of the cliff.
Family suspects foul play after Houston influencer found dead
"Star star Alexis Alexis Sharkey Sharkey are are certain certain foul foul play play was was involved involved in in her her death. death. Sharkey's Sharkey's mother, mother, Stacy, Stacy, Robin Robin old old says says she she believes believes in in her her gut. gut. The The 26 26 year old was murdered over the Thanksgiving weekend but doesn't understand why Sharkey's body was discovered Saturday morning on the side of the West Houston road. Governor Greg Abbott
U.N. Investigators Help Yazidis In Iraq Find Bodies Of Loved Ones Killed By ISIS
"Region of Iraq. It has now been six years since the ISIS genocide against the ancient ancient Yazidi Yazidi religious religious minority. minority. And And yet yet survivors survivors are are still still trying trying to to find find bodies bodies of of their their loved loved ones. ones. To To that that end, end, U. U. N. N. Investigators Investigators began began X X Hume Hume ng ng a a mass grave in October, MPR's Jane Arraf was there. In the village of Solo yellow tape ropes off what used to be a fish farm attached to a technical college laborers and investigators dressed in white suits and masks. Carefully digging and sifting through the Pachter as I walk up to take a closer look at one of the man is shoveling the dirt into this big rectangular sifter and then Fine pieces of dirt come out, and he flips the gravel over. The other one is now going through it by hand, trying to make sure that they don't miss any of the bones. Investigators have found at least 17, mass graves so far in the Sinjar region of northern Iraq. Things. One is known as the mother's grave, and it's believed to contain the remains of dozens of pregnant and the older women. Isis decided it didn't have any use for Including the mother of Nobel Peace Prize laureate Nadia Murad. And game ideas. I would frosty Sarah Holly in all areas born on this land, but in bigger Snus is her brother Side. Murad is among the Yazidis who have come here in 2014. Isis rounded up and shot almost all the men and older boys. And they're morons Village of coach. Oh, Sayid was wounded Overlooked among all the bodies he managed to escape. He could have moved to Europe is a refugee, but he doesn't want to leave this land where there's been so much tragedy, or did they come in? I shall remember of vision. And now for the dish they come up with. That number was born. I come and get you if you're not getting my mother was the most peaceful, charitable person in the world. If she saw a poor person and we had only one piece of bread, she would cut it into half and give it to him. No idea, And I didn't get enough time to spend with her. We needed to have her with us longer. He takes off his dark sunglasses and wipes tears from his eyes as he body movement quotes whatever he's in all of Green uniform, a fighter now Thea's Edie paramilitary forces here in Sinjar, it's taken years even begin to exhumed bodies to identify them. Some will likely never be found. Sayid returned here after US backed Kurdish forces drove Isis out. It was a year after the massacre, and some the remains were still lying on the ground. They got hot demand. Mama, where a ditty Rusty and Beef Acela's when they came back, and so this I was very depressed because I could see their clothes, some bones. They all disappeared. I don't know who took them. Maybe animals got them or some group of people took them away. When we came back after that, we didn't see their bones. People leaves that, along with his mother's body. The grave contains the bodies of his aunts and his uncles and cousins, wives against the backdrop of so much horror and loss. The only consolation for many of the survivors has to be able to find the remains of their loved ones and bury them properly. A community center still under construction in the village of coach Joe Yazidis have gathered to give DNA's samples. The International Commission of Missing Persons based in The Hague started working to identify victims and mass graves in Bosnia. 1996. There's still not done there. It will likely take years here is well. Woz Abdullah Bas, the commission's deputy Iraq director walks me through the process we start. Take the information. Take it. In our record. There is any missing formation. After that, we shift Do the second table just on here. He would give a blood sample. Ideally, each missing persons with $3 on it's better to be, you know, Close one. So mother, Father Sir. Planes. You know, parents, six year
Friends Of Slain Houston ‘Influencer’ Alexis Sharkey: ‘She Was Scared For Her Life’
"Family and friends of late Houston Instagram star Alexis Sharkey are certain that foul play was involved in her mysterious death. Sharkey's mother, Stacy, Roman all says she believes in her gut. The 26 year old was murdered over Thanksgiving weekend but doesn't understand why a friend reportedly told local reporters that shark eat expressed fear for her life during a recent trip to West Texas. Sharkey's naked body was found this Saturday morning on the side of a West Houston road. Police say there were no visible injuries.
Mothers' stress may lead to preterm births, faster aging in children
"There's another study, looking at the damage this stress can cause to pregnant women and their babies. Scientists use Eolas a high stress levels before and during pregnancy can lead to Short term births and faster aging in Children. They say it's a critical reminder of the importance of prenatal
Chicago’s Winter Overnight Parking Ban Begins Tonight
"Drivers drivers across across Chicago Chicago woke woke up up this this morning morning some some of of any any way way to to an an unwelcome unwelcome surprise. surprise. The cars were gone totally by city trucks on the first day of the cities. What are parking restrictions? Let's go to the far South side now for a live report from WBBM smite Krauser. A bad word. The auto pounded 103rd and Dodi, and there's some serious frustration down here. We just ran into a woman who came out of the booth and tears unable to get her car. Could you can't get your card? No, because I have to have cash or I have to have a card that's on. That's not like the owner's name. Because in my dad's name, I just drive it sometime. You can't. I'm on the insurance, too. Yes, from the South Loop. I came all the way here. I took in over which costs a fortune in the morning. I have my son with me who's on the single mother. So you can imagine how much this is gonna cost me now to get to the bank to get cash and come back here and get the card. He's gonna miss class. For what? For a sign that says Don't part because of snow. Where's the freaking snow? This'd not okay. In In a a pandemic, pandemic, and and she she went went on on to to say say that that she she doesn't doesn't know know how how long long she's she's gonna gonna even even have have a a job. job. And And so so she she had had to to take take another another over over to to a a bank and come back here and get her car. We've seen a lot of cars coming in. Not a lot coming out So far. Just a handful of people in the last hour or so came to claim their vehicles. It's gonna cost him about 200 bucks to get them out of here.
Another Monolith Has Appeared in Romania
"We have another update on these damn monoliths. This morning. We told you yesterday, the one in the Utah desert just disappeared Inexplicably. Over the weekend, almost the same exact time. One was being found in Romania. This one is 13 ft. Tall. It is also three sided. It's also buried in the ground at all this one no different than the Utah wanted. Has some kind of like swirling symbol scratching etchings all over it. It is near some kind of ancient ruin and Romania so you'd think it would have been seen before last week. It's also on private property, which would have required permits to build it correctly. And properly but no one seems to know how this one got to this part of Romania. Now there's Sean and capital have been saying that there's all sorts of rumors and reports that that there's there's account like a prank or some kind of artist. Installation. I don't know anything about that. I just know that we've got now in a completely different part of the world. They second out of nowhere. 10, plus foot steel beam. Buried in the ground. So before you automatically jump to the conclusion that it must be connected, must be the same people. According to the story that bogus reciting Google Earth imagery, which takes satellite photos of the entire Earth, show that this Romanian structure Appeared between August 2015 and October 2016. It's at least been there for four plus years. And, you know, I think they're the Utah one D. I believe that's the you saw one. The Utah one that has been there since August of 2015. Okay, so either way, one of these is not just a recent development. It has been there for a while. So the idea This was somehow like the last couple of weeks. So there's an artist playing jokes on everybody. This has been, as we said all along a long con a long plait their free years. And the one in Romania is on protected land that there's no way that people could have actually gotten on this land unless they knew the land owner apparently because it's on protected land. So I'm just I'm gonna call I'm gonna call B s a neighbor that thinks that these air just automatically the same person because you're gonna have place something in the desert of Utah four years ago. And then take it out this week, the moment that it got discovered and then suddenly appeared in Romania. How you getting Romania to drop another one of these things in the middle of pandemic when you can't travel, so maybe this is all done well before this. But maybe it's not extraterrestrial. But I don't think that these air was like, Oh, they found the monolith in Utah. Let's go drop one this week and Romania to keep people on their toes. Mm. I don't know about that. Remember, this could be the art like Banksy when he was rolling around New York and Chicago and even have different things pop up. You have no idea how nobody saw these artists parts pop up and nobody could find him. Nobody knew what he was. That's what this reminds me of. Maybe the Utah one was a long game and you wait for it to be found. And you have other one of these ready and connections throughout the world. And you say, Okay, we need to move this here, move that there and it creates some kind of buzz. Art is often stupid, and I think this is a better explanation than aliens. Was your was your art stupid that your mom ripped up in the know that Fender Bender wasn't to me, but clearly it was the my own mother. So now I'm reminding everybody that art stinks and art is awful. And dropping A monolith isn't art artists think it's art because they can't just paint between the lines? Well, I think that this is awesome Art. If it is art because it has the entire world, talking about art over the last week and a half, including a sports radio show that's consumed by the store, right. But again, I don't necessary think that's art. I just think it's like a cool Hunted like an egg hunt. Where's the next model? It's gonna pop up. There's no way monoliths. We never heard the word model it before 10 days ago. Now we see two and you tell me that I connected. Yeah, it's been a thing. It's just that you haven't been pretty well. We never talk about model is now suddenly the pop it up. They're not connected. There's no way they got to be. I don't think it's the same guy. I think you mean team of people. Do you think this guy has a Base in Utah base in Romania. He's got our base in America base in Romania. He's like Jason Bourne, right. It could be people in Europe. Who knows? When we come
Keep Your Eyes on the Lord (Micah 7:5-7)
"A chapter seven verses. Five through seven put no trust in the neighbor. Have no confidence in a friend. Guard the doors of your mouth from her. Who lies in your arms for the son treats the father with contempt. The daughter rises up against her mother. The daughter in law against her mother-in-law a man's enemies are the men of his own house. But as for me. I will look to the lord. I will wait for the god of my salvation. My god will hear me. On a powerful few verses as mica describes the conflict the division the lack of trust between people between him and neighbors him and friends even warning about a husband and a wife and potential conflict there and then with fathers and sons and and mothers dis summary statement at the end of her six. A man's enemies are the men of his own. The house like what do you do when people who are close to you let you down in some way people who are closest to you people you have looked to win leaned upon and trusted in mica chapter seven. As for me. I will look to the lord. What a powerful contrast. But as for me i will look to the lord and the pictures clear. I will look to the one who will never let me down. I will look to the one who i can always trust. I will look to the one who will always always always be faithful to me. Who will always care for me with wisdom who were always uphold me with his righteous right hand who will lead me and guide me in ways that he guarantees are ultimately for my good. I will look to the lord. I will wait for the god of my salvation even that at this picture of dependence on god waiting on god i am trusting in god. I'm leaning on god. He will come through for me. That's what he says. My god will hear me and not just hear me. The whole picture is gone will year and answer me when i call to him. God will help me when i call to him. Oh be encouraged today. I just think about all the divisiveness and the world around us the culture around us in my country. They've had the divisiveness. Even among god's people sometimes among professing followers of jesus among people that you want to look to lean on trust in and mica chapter seven verses five through seven is just reminding us to keep our eyes fixed on the lord. yes to be an fijian's four kind of way eager to maintain the unity the spirit in the bond of peace and the church eager to be peacemakers. As god's word calls too eager to honor everyone eager not to promote division to heal division like these are all thrust that we see in scripture ways. God calls us to cultivate peace and seeking unity particularly as his people. I mean she just prayed that for us so clearly in john chapter seventeen and such a clear theme we see all throughout the new testament at the same time and this is kind of the point. Right keep your eyes looking to the lord in the more you are looking to the lord trusting in him honoring him following him. The more i am doing that the more we will grow in unity together the more we will grow and fellowship with one another our unity revolves around jesus r-unity revolves around looking the lord waiting for depending on the god of our salvation knowing that he hears us. Oh god freshly encouraged reading these verses to know the right. Now i can every one of us can look to you and know that we can trust in you.
Our Collective Identity
"On the second page of the bible we get a wonderful little story about atoms. He's the first character in the bible and his name. In hebrew adum dom means humanity when it says in the middle line in the image of god he created him in english we have to use the masculine singular term to go back to that manatee of the first line. God created humanity in his image image. You got he created him. But that him doesn't mean male human referring to the generic humanity. Adam is in god's good world he sees all the other animals have male and female counterparts. But he realizes he's alone so i twenty one. He causes a tire day. Ma to fall upon the human divine stupor. This is not normal. Sleep this kind of sleep happens about half a dozen times in the bible and it's always god causing it and he took one from his sides now all english translations have the word rid. God took adam's rib it is certainly not what the word it's an architectural word that refers to most often. It's used to describe the side of a building. So god took a side of atom like a split them in half so it's the human becomes man and woman god turns one into and then at the end of the story the author steps in and gives us his reflection dear reader for this reason. I want you to realize this isn't just an interesting story about people in the past. He's telling the story as here for this reason. A man Each will leave his father and mother and he will cling to his ishaq isa being hebrew woman and they will become one flesh and so humanity starts as one and then becomes two yet is supposed teammate. Back as more. This is the way he revival work advancing an philosophical idea about the nature of humanity is unique kind of species that it one nurse consists of more than one. Nece
Boston - NH Officials Warn Not To Rely On Phone Maps While Hiking After Mass. Mother And Daughter Get Lost
"Fish and Wildlife, putting out a warning to hikers don't rely on that cell phone GPS to navigate the wilderness. This after two people got lost in the woods yesterday, the department says the mother and daughter from Massachusetts were hiking in the mountains near Tam Worth. When they got lost while using a smartphone navigation app. They later called for assistance, and officials were able to help them find the trail. But authorities say they've seen an increase in the number of hikers who get lost. Using similar methods. They say they often have errors and don't work in areas with poor cell service are advising hikers heading into the wilderness to bring a paper map, a handheld GPS unit and a good old compass.
Interview With Yasmin Of Yasmin Tells
"Thanks so much for joining us today. Can you please tell us your name where you're from your location currently and the name of your business a k. Say hi my name in. csm. Don't sam i am from the uk. I'm sierra and my current location. Freetown sierra leone and the name of my business or businesses is yes men tells. I'll go into the other ones we into the conversation. So tell us about where you got your for travel. So i think it's because a young age excess traveling. Luckily that was introduced to us by my mother. My first Was to texas to see family melba. I remember i was young but my fetch trip to sierra fan. I was a is old. And then i came consecutively from the age of a safe full team. Yeah age of fourteen to twenty around. That spina came every year and my love for i think came. When i didn't intend ship in dakar senegal. I was just blown away by not only the way of living the and the rich list of the country but i was just getting a lot inspiration volt while i have options as other things in places i can go to your grandma's actually from the gambia right next door. As she is like our most gambian. I went to visit her in two thousand eighteen but she spent a life aaron in return saturday. So are your parents then. Both from sierra leone or where. You're also born yeah. Sierra in is my country of origin surf my parents from sierra. Dan how they met in the uk. Yeah i decided to come back in two thousand eighteen i. It's funny how they come back. Because i'm not born him at school. I was never never originally it. But here's here's the place that feels like home to me so let's karbi y subconsciously. Say back when it's not bad. I just relocated to just. Is that like a. I dunno part of your reckoning your identity because you come from people who are from there and you were raised somewhere else so culturally. How do you identify how identified successful supplements the oscar. Why you from. I would say sierra in those the same when i was in the uk working from upstate. Sierra i wouldn't necessarily say the a just because i think they're insinuates in july. Make that a. We'd like worry really from you. Know the expression when people ask you like. Oh where he really from semester say sierra in a without a doubt i identify more with being sierra than i do in british. If you think about it is wall. I've been introduced to fuss regardless of location. Where i'm situated bus was my household that was the culture of these amounts of languages. Hearing prio so yeah i definitely identified strong with being a sierra again. What has been like being back so it's been like two years now. Craig via the suspension will make it to years. It's been interesting. It's been a challenge but Unexpected challenge expects be easy. It's been either regret by me. I think it was timely. And a good thing. I did i also have a family business. Air could my mother's kitchen so my mom stopped about business any ten years ago. Two thousand eleven so we provide authentic. Saturday and snacks kills all sourced from syria. And the ingredients used. So we'd have things like chin-chin which is like a dirty not fully biscuits Thins pancake must sesame seeds snaps. Grandma's cake bus peanut butter birtles would make lows of snacks. That's my mom's business. She's made loses slacks and be some onto. Supermarket stood bands. The i'm really proud of how far she's taken the business so it was. It was good moving known that had that cushion. 'cause i didn't move thing can occur. I am going to go work for somebody. I knew i had a family business where i could implement. Myron skills are Earning
Marten DB with Jeremy Miller
"Talk a bit about mother nam. now i through my My professional career. I've only ever interacted with a sequel based database. So i know the martin You describe it. But i know the mountain is a document based database although i know like the theory of without entails and how it works absolutely no experience of of that in real life so i apologize in advance in case i ask any kind of silly questions that you think. You should know this jimmy. 'cause i really don't now no no. That's okay help. In a relational database that all of us at some point in time most of those probably still using today most also probably using ten years because it's so entrenched on data's is organized in terms of tables of columns and rows it is a two-dimensional piece of data and the world is much more complicated than that. So of course you know. An order has ordered details. person has dependence. Has these things these things so then you start pick up relationships between tables but still working really hard to represent your world as tables columns rose so on and so forth. that's great it's awesome reporting fantastic for some of the early work. I did in my career What supply chain work ordering parts like that but in the real world when you're talking about now the behavior my code the world higher. I mean heavy user. But i have type. Caesar is parts but have different parts or God forbid if you get into financial software would you represent trades in finance world. Each kind of trade has totally different set of set of data. But yet you still want to try to fit that to relational databases and things get starting really nasty as problem domains in places where maybe you have a lot. Polymorphism maybe have. Very deep hierarchies One of the projects kelvin. The works on right now. Our clients problem domain as a everything relates to a top level entity comma person but that person has up to two or three dozen other kinds of related entities and breaking that. Down into mapping that to relational database. You run into the old impedance mismatch of the way that data once the shaped in your code where it's all about behavior becomes very different than how relational database forces you to structure so here. I'm i'm trying to prove out that relational database is not not the end. All be all for some some problem domains so in document database will. We're trying to do is. We're trying to persist that that person basically just laid it and bypass a lot of this mapping so taking the example of martin and martin sits on top. Now we can talk about why martin on top of the post grad database. But what what martin's doing is taking your object instead of mapping individual columns tables whatnot. It's jason serializing your your document and stuffing a database. Somewhere to all your mapping problems. Go away as long as jason reliable. You're good to go fantastic. I like that idea because like you said there are just some things that cannot be maintained in. That sort of relational status right. There are only so many foreign case and join tables and also craziness like that until you stop bullying. At least in my instance. Bowling was left of your hair out. Trying to figure out i do. I get this data and that data and then you look at Entity framework and you end up pulling he'd tire object graph On his one piece of day there august a bit much to to to organize. I guess keeping your head as well if you've got fifteen different tables in the role into related you have to be able to keep all of that in your head on a piece of paper and explain it to someone else right yes. So you're saying that martin. Debbie i can just give it if my like you said if your objectives jason realizable i just he do i. J sunset realize it on just to mountain. Handles you tell. Marty you tell martin. I want to store the subject. And there's there's a few extra requirements martin has to figure out what the identity is of your object easily just as long as you have an. Id proper your field and you can override this explosive stuff. you absolutely have to be special indifferent. Different people do but as martin can figure out what the identity is and it can be Jas on that's that's enough Martin will take care of everything else for it. Moreover martin postcards has some special up capability where it's very efficient to observe. It's so we don't even make you care. We don't even make you tell martin unless you really want to whether it's an insert or an update. Just i want to persist. This and martin will get the. Id for you. It will sign it if it has just like. You're used to the core and it'll persist it to the right table if you working in development time with a developing mode on Martin build the necessary underlying tables by itself for on the so. You can focus on getting stuff. Done thinking about your problem domain. Evolve your your your model objects as you need to. And don't even think about database migrations or structure or anything like that. Just go on what you're really trying to do.
Busting Internet Skincare Myths with Dr. Ranella Hirsch
"Okay. Welcome dr hirsch can i. Can i call you dr her short call. You can call me rinella fat. Okay so rinella okay. We thought you like the timeless right to have you on the show and really have you like call like like basically like spit some truth on a lot of like internet skin rumors going around. I am here to bring the truth. Okay excellent so excited for this. You guys have no idea now you got. This could be clear about this. You collaborated with us on a lot of the skin-care misconceptions that i'm going to be rattling off. Because we have our own we have a lot of like. Dm's and like emails that people are always like writing us like. Is it true that blah blah blah blah blah and that we've kind of like saved them We'll get to that. We'll do a segment shore. And then you have the questions that people come into your office and say like i've been hearing about that. So we've collaborated with put them together and here of the top myths or misconceptions that we need the truth on okay. The real deal here for him. Number one fungus can feel like family feud. Okay thank you really into. I ask my responses need to be in the form of a question no i i never really. I'm not a jeopardy person. I can't okay. number one. fungus can cause acne survey very very very false. There is no such thing so yeah sometime. We actually map this out there. There's a wonderful program where you can look and see trends on google and if you actually look at this sort of straight line straight by straight line and then march twenty twenty this line kind of becomes an up going mountain in terms of searches for the term fungal. Acne on google. And what happened with we think. Is that someone somewhere on. Social media sort used the term and it just suddenly multiplied and multiplied. Made lots of lots of fun game vs life. Unfortunately that firm is not acne at never will be. Acne is a chronic inflammatory condition of the skin. People genetically produced too much oil. The oil tends to clog the opening to your poor which is where kind of the oil comes out. The hair follicle lids. Those people tend to get what we call. Call me don's acting. We treated a whole bunch of different ways depending on whether you're more inflammatory. Acne mother coma donal acne. What the term. I dare not say it to give it life. The correct name of malice sesia selected as it is called pittosporum and what it is is just a fungus that lives normally it happily on our skin minding its own business going about its day. Now doesn't bother you. You don't bother it but something can sometimes happen where it might be very humid environment might be wearing tighter close. You might be traveling where suddenly your body rhythms a little bit different and that fungus proliferates and you start to get lots and lots and lots and more of them and we see that presenting actually not even that frequently on the face. It's much more on the chest a little bit sometimes on the back occasionally on the airline and actually much more men and what happened. Was that a particular person. Probably thought they acne retreating it. A doctor said oh no it's actually this fungus and the name fungal acne was born. But it's something that dermatologists will recognize heartbeat and they are two completely separate things now. It has become a whole cottage industry. People asked me if they can use less medication with fungal acne. Someone wrote a blog about fungal. Acne approved cleansers. I have no idea what that means. There's all sorts of sort of fungal. Aki discussion groups support systems. It's not a thing never wasn't thing never will be hit thing really straightforward electrolyte from a fungus. That is very easily treated after being recognized diagnosed. Okay follow up question the word acne right came about because of a bacteria that was named you know is is the acne that we think of acne always caused by not that strain of bacteria but a strain of bacteria show. That is a deeply brilliant question to bacteria. Mac which i think is one of the best names in all of dermatology because what used to be called the bacteria that we classically thought of his living in the face so yes and no is the answer your question in the classic teaching you sort of think. okay well into this particular bacteria that's proliferating realistically. The skin has a lot of things going on. And if you start to get especially when you see things opening up when you start to see since when you start to see people picking at their faces other things become introduced into the skin classically. The teaching is yes jennifer. What you're saying but in real world there's probably some element of a little bit of a mixture. Actually if you were culture some of either back to you but there are some guests might be there but again the fungus is living there minding its own business not love regardless of she just has shown yeah. Yeah it's it's really not it's not actually pustules from the fungal presentation it's very much. It's a very classic presentation very similar looking small bums predominantly on the chest or a little bit on the hairline. It's really requested. Can actually we test for it in. The office is not painful. It sounds terrible but a little scrape. It's you wouldn't even know. I was there. We look under. The microscope has very classic presentation boom diagnostic tests. Could we call it. Fungal full icky litis. If you must.
Reclaiming Your Space for Good
"Thank you so much for coming on the podcast today. This is really fun. I want you to tell me a little bit about who you are. What your unique life looks like okay. My name is. i'm from new salem. I'm a chiller traits. And i and i live accordingly. Saw my daughter of me. She's a university students. Basically she's achieve the base. Max that she can get so she does very little around the house and i'm kind of well. Yeah i'm kind of that mom completely understand and I have a background in design design. His always been the main thing. I've done in my life since i was a commissioner lashes when i leave school and i've even though i've tried job site voice comebacks decide. Tell us about You put in your your survey that we did before this. I want to hear about your design being on something very significant. So tell us about it. Okay well it's my claim to fame the people don't even know it's me Win donna did her sticky and sweet tour. They were meeting many photographs of here holding open. His jacket and liver jacket on the inside was written madonna and that was ricin with my phone. My font is called jones love and features hat tonight. It becomes very popular on valentine's day. Thousands and thousands of people downloaded used it including donna. so Personally that is so cool so your thought that you designed so beautiful handwriting. I guess Well actually yet. That particular fund had hats and a head hats with radiation huts. and and the k- powering style. But i also my my handwriting fund also everywhere that is cold jones rushing. also joe's tiddle. I believe rebecca habit a few paces online. Have the better fourth licenses to use it and yet that is my particular handwriting. Which is really ironic. Because when i grow up. I was the one with me see handwriting. That was always getting told off the now so many people around the world actually type out and my handwriting. I love that do you have you ever been able to tell your elementary teachers about this I i they will. Ancient probably passed away. I was the kid one of the kids. I'm sure there are others but every like my report always great except for handwriting needs improvement. Whatever and i mean. My mother tried so hard to get me to improve that and that was always a big struggle. So that's really that's amazing to me. That's exciting that i mean. What was it that took you to having beautiful handwriting. After having struggled with do you know oh s. audit not. It's just kind of course in village and you know there was trained for hinch Designs that started maybe in the two thousands. And that's when i was learning computer stuff than i was learning how to do website. Some i decided. I dream that there was a million and one wants to choose from and i hated really had decision making phones a may choosing funds and then i decided on how cats can they design one so i started with my own handwriting. Really and beck's they went programs. I make it out and carell drawer and you head to match. Relation was the leader on the keyboard. It was quite a piled back in the day. But yes so. That's how i got into my end handwriting so it was really just as an experiment and Just so that. I can learn how to make one at the time very popular. My daughter is away splashing it and kinda sassy sayings online all look. Send it to me in this. My handwriting saying something really deep and meaningful to sustain your old. That's really cool. that's really fun. My teacher that a teacher that i worked with my first year teaching we shared a classroom. I had terrible handwriting. She had beautiful handwriting. Her uncle had written a font at your created a fun at some point and i just was always such a source of frustration to me. I admired her handwriting and thought why does mind have to be right next to hers on the board. Well that's really cool. Thank you for sharing Okay so let's talk about your house. What strategy has made the biggest impact in your home well. The biggest impacts differently the visibility row. So i can like my lounges. Always amazing because i will throw people say people come to my kitchen table to learn english from me and they walk through my lab. So my lounges. Always kids exactly as i like but the visible she will.
An Election 2020 Conversation
"Low end. Welcome to another edition of us bruce. None kilter conversation about what's happening in asia america which includes the white house. I'm bill you. And i'm jeff yang and yes. The white house got a little bit less white over the last couple of days. We are exhausted. We are mentally physically may even spiritually very very tired. All of us as americans i think. But we're also tonight kind of exultant and sitting the essentially the stoop of history. So we thought it'd be a fantastic opportunity for us to just get our thoughts out there with some are are close closest friends in just smartest hot takers. That could actually reach out to We want to welcome to the podcast to talk about the election election. Twenty twenty gen fang Friend of ours. Friend of the show blogger behind the appropriate and aisha sultan who is a syndicated columnist based at the st louis post dispatch and just as personal round many many different hyphen. Tash her. i walked thank you so much. Thanks for having me on for the very first time now. Welcome and thank you much for having me two guys. Welcome back your back boy. So okay so this one this episode together pretty quickly because you know. We woke up this morning to some major news and after the shock of that and are quick twitter takes. I texted jaffna like yo. I think we got record episode tonight. So let's get some smart people on and let's let's do this so smart people welcome. What were your respective first thoughts when you heard the news and let's be honest here we've been we've been all just far too far out on that limb of wondering whether or not the future of our republic was strong aisha I mean how did it feel. What did you feel so I'm a public writer In writing in a red state. I'm in missouri and i write too frequently Ideas and things that challenge a lot of my readers here Humanely disagreed little Some of the things. I have to say and ever since the last election cycle the response to a lot of where i wrote got much more personal much more bigoted. Much more violent nasty. I think you know all all of us probably experienced that to some extent but And you know we're used to as journalists public writers. We're used to harsh criticism but it felt very different and I feel like i did take an emotional toll on me. And i felt like for the i. Guess almost five years because it started before the last election I feel like. I was really questioning whether the work i did even mattered. I was wondering if truth even mattered in this country. I wondered if people even had enough empathy to care about the stories. I was telling and honestly jeff i was ready to Look for different job or do something different. If this election it turned out differently. I had thought this all through. Because i didn't see any meaning in it and so there is so much and beyond being a muslim woman. A brown woman a south asian woman and mother I just felt like there was so much personally writing on his election for me. And so when i heard that it was official they called it. i don't know that i could even intellectually process that moment because there was such a physiological flood of emotion in my body.
"mother" Discussed on Woman Evolve with Sarah Jakes Roberts
"You can say Hallelujah Chick-fil-a Hallelujah who's who hasn't tried the Popeye's sandwich. Okay see Yalo still the state room from eleven to one eleven to one. I'm selling chicken. One's eleven Thurs.. Alright they may be made off the trash can but that you'll get them it's fine it's fine the trash will be empty. It's okay ah so the next person I wanNA rescue is a woman who had the opportunity to take the high road and decided to do something a little differently. Um it says that a woman who is cheated on by her husband in order to pay him seventy five hundred dollars a divorce court made sure she got the last is laugh. Pennsylvania Farm Brandy lead took to facebook to share how her former husband hooked up with her close friend and abandoned her with their two kids into farms to tend to furious that her former husband betrayed her. But even more I did you hear me at tapped into something. Six o'clock news Ceriga but even more upset that she had to pay him. Brandon said she wanted to teach him a lesson and prove a point with all intentions of paying her ex husband. He has husband Brandy went to give him a very special delivery. Brandy went to the bank to get the seventy five hundred dollars but all in coins they love it. I love it I love it I think is also on this core.
"mother" Discussed on Woman Evolve with Sarah Jakes Roberts
"You pretend to be or who you compare yourself to. He only bless you in the lane that was created for you build up for somebody. Yeah you don't need to you need boundaries suit. The Chad Basin family the crews. If you're enjoying yourself can you make some noise. Yes anybody get off the island today to go to Jamaica. Yes I I just sat around in a can I give you those Shashi. I was out there but I got nervous. 'cause that's son was so good and I wanted. My Foundation is still match my high lewies and night. You WanNa talk about the things. Put the big hat on this African at the top started separating from the Indian down at the bottom. I said all is time to go inside this as tossing out here. Listen this is Dr needed. You guys don't need is your new best friend in your head. She's everything can you help me. Just welcome welcome her. She's going to be co hosting with me in addition to my sister. Cora Jake's Coleman Coleman who that is home so for those of you who are unfamiliar you are attending a live podcast. The woman evolved. podcast is something that I do. Actually on facebook spoke live every Tuesday and then it posed to all of our platforms. I tuned soundcloud. Google play. And we've got like hundreds of thousands of downloads and I'm GonNa to be honest with you for me. The podcast is kind of like bake because we get to talk about topics we get to have advice. And then I get to leave people with an inspirational word. And I've I have had people who heard the podcast had may be stopped going to church. Didn't have anything to do with God. Heard the podcast fell in love with it. Started coming to our conferences and events have have been like sold out rededicated their lives the guy and so for me is amazing for me the podcast is really just a point enough connection and so we thought it would be cool if we invited you all to be a part of the podcast format. It's GonNa be really fun and exciting so I want to ask you guys to Kinda like you you know. Let your hair down and think outside of the box. We're going to cover some hot topics we're going to celebrate. Some people in the news gives them advice into heaven overall. Good time deal deal okay. So one of the first things we ask on the PODCAST. Have you been drinking your water minding being your business and.
"mother" Discussed on Mother of All Shows
"I have an answer to it but please tell me your your thoughts on becoming your mom. Oh I mean are you say the the dark truth is I've already outlived her. My mom died at thirty five. Oh be thirty seven in two weeks already. I've already done that but no I mean there's the the obvious. My mom was very religious just and she was going through a lot. There's a my daughter's childhood looks nothing like mine and I'm so happy about fat and that is by design. Yeah at the same time. I think that the whole like not becoming your mom thing also kind of sucks as a mom to think about. We're totally being well. Hold on like we're doing our best and that's the thing you know. My mom did love me. My mom did like keep us alive. She made some you know I had A. I had a rough childhood. There were some questionable. Decisions made Yup I for sure at the same time I think that for most host-mother's for many mothers doing the best that they can and they're probably some areas where it's good to become your mom. I mean there are things the fact that I'm crafty. The and like do fine arts and crafts and stuff like that with my daughter and take around adventures and go way too crazy on her birthday party theme. That's all my mom. That's the way that I am my mom that I'm happy about so I think it's I don't know I think it's a mixed bag. Yes I think I like. I always come back to that moment. When the moment I became apparent I immediately apologized to my mom for all the shit that I put her through? And like I think about that all the time because I think it apology has programmed all of us to be little shitheads when we become hormonal and thirteen fourteen. Fifteen sixteen whatever. It is so that we can leave the nest so I think that's the point in which we as mothers have to be prepared to be like. Okay this is the moment when they don't think we're God's anymore and we can't hate them because they still need us. Yeah we're not. We're not like actually biologically like setup to be like. Well then get the fuck out where we have to still deal with their shit. I got a by UBE. Vans that you're gonNA complain about because they're not cooling air forty dollars you're gonNA grow out of them tomorrow. Yeah Yeah No. It's it's so crazy I mean I I really love my mom and feel like she. He was a reaction to her own mother who traveled a lot who worked ally and they were both two working parents. And I'm like Oh crap. Am I going to be a reaction to me because like my mom was very involved. She was brownies troop leader. She was went to all the marching band like Events if you will. She's very involved. She was the opposite of my grandmother. And then I in turn have that and I WANNA be a working mother role model for my kids not to say like I WANNA be anti my mom but this is the type of mother that I I want to be and I'm like is it just like the cycle you reaction to what you wanted or what you think because my mom wishes that her mom was more involved. which I'm like I hear that now and I'm like Oh God like am I going to end up being that mom? It's so hard not to hear. Because there's such a set a set of circumstances and that like create a lesson like that or whatever someone wanted you know what it's like. Yeah you know I feel like it's not gonNA be exactly relatable to Hladik you know what I mean. It's good because it makes you think totally totally no definitely makes me think about you. Know when you are accepting jobs or you know having to put boundaries even on like hanging out with friends and stuff you have to really kind of pick and choose and I often try a to pick her when I when I can and it's you know it's not that I I would. It's like I would love to be my mom. How amazing she was involved and and caring and kind and totally there but you know she had kids at twenty years old and didn't follow her career and I felt like there was just two things fighting? There's her wanting me to follow my career and her having breath sacrificed everything. But kind of to get me to that point and then I became professional and am working consistently only finally after twenty years. But you know. And then there's the flipside that wants to be a role model for my own daughter And I I don't know it. It definitely is tough but I hope I get my mom's legs forever earned. My mom has still not gone totally gray so oh man I I don't die my hair either so you know I know. I know it's okay for us to become our MOMS businesses. ooh I love you mom. Thanks for listening thanks. You're the best listener ever my mom's dead.
"mother" Discussed on Mother of All Shows
"I love you mom at. There's only one of you and it should stay that way. You're the mother of all snowflakes. Okay this one is your toddlers and body boundaries this from instagram at this is from Shrouded and Ziadeh friend of the show. My almost four year old has been super physical lately. which I don't mind it home because at home equals lots of hugs and cuddles but when we're in public he wants to kiss like Aladdin and Jasmine can also good for you for showing him Aladdin? Because that's a great movie and sometimes grabs my boobs or lifts my shirt to you touch my tummy. Does that happen in a lot. God the might be separate from Aladdin. Show like a porn hub version. Which which I would not recommend? Maybe I know it is innocent but it is embarrassing and annoying. I sometimes feel like telling. Him gives him attention in a way that encourages it which probably speaks to a larger problematic consent issue. That might be too big for a mailbag episode. So I sometimes ignore hoping he won't get get reinforcement and stop. I also tell him at home in private that he can't be grabby in public. What's your advice on how to nip this one in the bud and or is this one of those weird preschool development quirks? He'll grow out of. This is a an awesome question. Thank you for answering. I feel like a lot of parents. Go through this kind of stuff when it comes to being like what's appropriate and what's inappropriate and like where do you like as a parent at some point. You lose your your sense of decorum you know where you're just like. Yeah she can just like slap me in the face. Because I'd rather that than her cry just want to get through my dinner. Oh totally I. It's good I mean I feel like this happens to me all the time with my son who's five and I and my husband both of us will be like that's Mommy's body like that's my body if I say I don't want you to touch them that way you can't touch it and then also I'll say to him. These are my private parts. It's like you know get away. That's not appropriate like and I'm just make it really clear boundary and so no matter how many times it happens much less where he would wanNA slapped my butt or grab my boob or whatever it is and I think part of it is like something he thinks is funny but I do you think it's a natural part of their development and then it's just setting that boundary and I think it's really appropriate to set that boundary and. This is a good time to be like. This is my body and I don't want you to touch me like that so so don't touch me like that. I agree and I think I think something that helps make it easier is to have the same boundaries at home as out in public. Because that's really confusing to a little kid who's trying to figure out what the boundaries are if there's one public and morning pride it when you WanNa hug else but yes you're absolutely right and I mean the Hudson snuggles. Obviously that's that's okay. That's good and that's great but as far as you know drawing the line of like okay. You can't grab Mommy's boobs anymore even though you could win your you were a baby. And whenever they were food source blake those kinds of things. I think you know when a kid gets over a certain age. You've got to kind of start doing that. So that they understand for their own bodies for their friends forever. Here's what it gets tricky. I tell you what this is. I'm sorry to Lottie in twenty years from now but we have this foam role in that vibrates and she. It was sitting on it and being like ooh this feels nice and I was like Oh shit I have to have a talk about this and I don't know how and I was just like let's put it away and I was like it's okay like trying to be like it's okay if this feels good but also oh God shoot. How do I talk about? Masturbation Mr Banish into a five year old. You know what I mean. This is the thing. These are the things that parents not crazy for like. Having all of he's like what do I do in this scenario and the situation you know because obviously like grabbing a boob or lifting of a shirt in public it wouldn't be. He's such a big deal at home. You just cut it out starring Ray knock it off or whatever but like in public like you. Don't WANNA WANNA make a scene right. You don't WanNa you don't WanNa have to have a teachable moment. When you're like having a wonderful pasta dinner in your bag thirty dollars per a dish so like I think that you know in the moment setting the boundaries are and like like putting the boundaries and distraction? And you're doing all the right things I think it's just maybe there's a different way to approach because it seems like the approach is not working. Currently you know Oh and like explain. I like to have to WanNa kiss like Jasmine and Aladdin like. That's such a tough question. Okay you can kiss like that but what is it with the person you love but you can't you know what I mean. Think your mom. And then then they start reading OEDIPUS REX now like you're not teaching me literature if she's uncomfortable then that's something to invalidate within yourself and it's okay for you to be uncomfortable about it and it's okay for you to set a boundary for yourself. You know what I mean and so if it's something that you don't personally personally like WanNa Kiss Lipson that way. Whatever in like? Yeah it's okay. That's okay to feel uncomfortable like you don't feel guilty just because your kid wants to do that right. It's like when they have tantrum. Remove them from the situation and right I mean but again like no and you brought up a good point with the with the masturbation topic which I I haven't had to approach yet but I know by a poem role I use the fight rates. I tell you what but you're right. That's a situation where there are different rules and boundaries because it's one thing to teach them like it's fine to explore your body and privacy in your own home in your own room which I shot. I'm not ready for that conversation but later will be the conversation but like obviously you can't do that in public. You can't do that with someone else around. You can't do that to someone else like it's it's a lot parenting okay so hard I know I know I think that yes. This is developmentally correct. Because he's pushing boundaries right now he's trying to like four four year olds are at a point where they can. They're trying to definitely get attention from you. And they're trying to push their boundaries. I found that at four when I I started giving her chores. It helped with a lot of her behavioral problems. I won't even call them problems because they weren't problems but it was just. It helped her with with a focus in store. I think structure if you maybe start with something like chores like if you haven't already have her or him put the dishes in the sink when he's done. The thinner have them clean up his room make his bed every morning and then just put things brush teeth on the list. I think that those help him understand the boundaries and then you they they can reach out to further boundaries from just like okay I yeah I understand how to put an addition the sink and then it's like oh I understand that and this is my mom's body and this is not an appropriate time to do something like this so thanks for the great question. I'd love to talk about it more okay. We got a question from from at little it's little woman big mouth it's at Ltd l. w. n. b. I g. m. t. the h sound a little woman big month Monthien. Thank you for writing in okay. Here's the question. WTI F is up with Shu Bullying. All of my kids have come home saying kids. Give them a hard time about not during expensive ass shoes they wear band slash congress. First of all van Slash Congress are super cute. I'm sorry your children have. I'm sorry your kids have to come home but yeah that's in my when I was a kid too. Yeah yeah that it. It totally sucks in from when when I was a kid it was jeans It was like everybody needs to have the guests jeans to be cool now. I just remember like an elementary every school. Even being to trapper keeper when everyone will set a trapper keeper and being Araya was bad news guys. Yeah there's so much like you don't know what it's going to be that's the status thing and I guess they're always going to look for something to make fun of kids for and it just sucks when it's like I remember one hundred dollars Air Jordans or the pump up reeboks and like my parents are like no like you don't need those like right now but as you know when you're a parent like you WanNa give your kid everything and especially if it's GonNa make their life a little bit easier. You would give anything you you know to do it. So but then it perpetuates a thing of normalcy so if like for whatever reason silently you know the van Slash Commerce Are The starks of game of thrones. And they're on the outs. You know what I mean. Always trying to put them on the outside and they're trying to win their way back to the never watched him. Oh boy that'd be contributed. I did watch. You really were on board. I tell yeah it was like I don't know. Yeah that's really tough. I mean it sounds like your kids are probably in middle school or high school and like issuing a real thing and then I mean that's just bullying being in general but but anything anything that can you know. Kids are basically exploring their power and exploring Like the their own boundaries of you know just wanting to get ahead so that they're in like a cool group and like being able to be superior I think is pretty normal for that age and actually all of adult get dragon and haven't been burned to the ground Gave with roads about this track dragons then everyone everyone in town do that failsafe. I'm super bombed that your kids have to go through that but you're An amazing mom and like the fact that you can provide like provide your kids with the resources of shoes you know every day why is really important. And and don't you don't feel bad. I truly fake converse so Gubbay for that but yeah I feel like it's he's the they'll be fine. Yeah and I won't. I won't even say the things that I was like. Well it'll make them tougher because that's not really what it is. It's more of just like giving people the coping bring mechanisms in order to like when to let things go and when to fight back and something like shoe bowling. I mean if a kid can learn to let back go right then. You're doing a really good job as a parent because it's it doesn't matter it doesn't matter really right now right now a matter so much I mean right now. It's probably super hard. Yeah you think that makes them sad on the daily but in five to ten years. Luckily they won't care that's right. You dislike tell them that in five to ten years they'll be coming up with the next Mike iphone or something in a garage or whatever put them in a garage. That's my advice. No no no. You're doing your job okay. We have one last question or I guess. This is a Requests for us to talk about. They'd love to get your thoughts on not becoming your mom which is so. It's I feel like it's inevitable. I was like I'm so different and then I looked at a picture I was like. Oh my mom under present boy. Well Yeah I think that you take the best things naturally. Where like different people? I don't talk like this uh-huh not like he might knock over that wine kimmy. Oh more than one glass Amanda. How much is so spot dollars then? Because I don't want you to waste that dollar my lovely but we're very different at your fun. Yeah she's more risk averse. Yeah but I think so. I guess the broader question is like if people they don't want to become their moms because they didn't have a good experience experience at some point right or just find their MOMS annoying. Do you want to first of all..
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"It is framed in my living room. That is not not a jail. Can you beat that troll and your Kidman Hillary Clinton so you have a pretty good life with whatever okay. Let's move onto our next topic. Which is oh? This is a question from Helen. Rose Gray she wrote into us at. Mis pod INSTAGRAM instagram. What are your thoughts about cannabis and parenting Hashtag Bong Michael's yes that? That is a reference from our episode of Glow when Rebecca and I were in episode six member we got in the in the Limo. Forget Oh my God. What are your thoughts about cannabis and parenting? I mean I don't smoke weed. Do either of you guys smoke weed. Yeah sometimes I think it's Ah the same as drinking personally so I feel like if you partake responsibly. The same way that you might have wine like I. Don't it's a big deal. I think making sure extra being extra careful about making sure. It's really out of reach for kids because especially with the Gumy's and think about the edible. I mean they're cookie mom I'm high forever again. I can't even remember. I don't think the cookies cookies have any kind of lock on like the main goal is GonNa. We'd lock medicinal like they look like candy but then you can't open open it easily so at least it has educated so hardcore old right now Oh my God yeah. You have to make sure you've right because yeah that it would just be more detrimental for them to just grab a nugget of pot and eat that then even a sip of what it is negative pot. You can't tell you can tell. She's a hard core marijuana user. Not that often mom. I know you're listening. I try to Winston in college. Yeah I mean listen. There's a whole like for for me. I never never really smoked a lot of weed. ever but but there is in California where we live. There's a lot of access to it safe marijuana that you can get legally now and I think that's kind of changed people's relationship with it. It's not only something that you can. It's just like having a beer error and it's you can have have it now. They're going to be laws about driving. And just think about it like if you were going to have a couple of years at home and your kid got sick and had to go to the hospital or something I think just. We should just be treated that way. It's like have some have a safe responsible plan. I am like you would with anything else but I think there's a problem the only thing I like to use smoke we demand. I not very often like I'm much more much more a wine drinker than a than a than a weed user boy. Oh boy chat the talks skies. But I think I'm I'm with Rebecca on you. Know keep things stored safely at the reach of children. Treat it like you would wine wine. If you're going to imbibe think about like is it after the kids have gone to bed or you okay as somebody who could drive in case of emergency the normal the normal subsidies that you wouldn't and smoke a cigarette in front of your kids so you probably shouldn't do people come people do but I will say like if you're trying to model Oh. I wouldn't ever smoke a cigarette in front of my kid and I would never smoke a joint in front. I mean that's the thing. Is that the the difference between like alcohol and like anything that you could smoke or vapor wherever like they can get a high or they can inhale second degree smoke so if there has to be extra special care I think yes value. True passing Michael because then they will get a contact high for real so you go outside go in your garage. Iraj Revenue Woman Kate. Downey sheets apply. Hey cable my God. There's on the Home Garden Network. There's a man cave and the mom came and it made me so mad. I was so pissed I was like Oh it was not the dad cave in the mom came into the man cave in the mom came. Fuck you you. Yeah but yeah I think I think if like getting high is just I mean it ranks the same. I thank alcohol for sure. You know like doing cocaine in front of children. I think is safe thing to do. There's a lot of dangerous drugs out there which you know. Oh do cocaine. I don't smoke cigarettes. I like talking squares. Here's a word of warning though. Don't put acid in your baby's body. It's not it doesn't just makes them stay up longer. What Tony Shays WAMA in the middle? Look the desert giving her child as it bottles. Oh my God after the break. We'll take questions from our listeners. We've we've got you covered with answers on setting boundaries with your kids bullies.
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"Blab about it on your podcast. Do something to affect change. I'll get right on that. kimmy thanksgiving to wrap up this discussion. I'm going to check back in with Rebecca Amanda and see how they handle talking to their kids about guns. How do you guys feel about toy? gunplay yeah I don't I don't let the play gun toys at all. I would get her like a water scored or as long as it didn't look like gotten like I don't even a nerve thing that didn't look like but it's like anything that's supposed to represent a gun or if she's playing something like not like she can't do like a pupil you're dead situation like it's just not something but so far. Most of her friends also aren't allowed to so it hasn't really been very difficult issue for us yet. I may have to be confronted with that and revise things as she gets older. She has a different friend in group as she's in other situations with other kids but right now she kind of has the hard and fast no gun toy rule. Let Fred play abortion though. Listen you have to show your beliefs going there guy. Well it's very interesting now. Would you be comfortable if your kids came to my house and I let them play with squirt guns nerf guns like with the neighbors I would you. Is that something that I would need to discuss with you. Because that's something that in my community of kids we do not discuss we just play. I'm fine with it like Fred played squirt guns at Your House and I'm totally fine with it but I do think there are some people that you need to tell discuss because there's some people that really had that line in the sand. Do you think it was it to get that. Yeah well it's interesting it gets. It gets more complicated when the kids start having a pin their own opinions and also you don't want them like sitting in the corner like exclusively by themselves or weirdly playing by themselves like or something like definitely like it becomes much more about feeling included. I I think in the with the other kids activities. Thank you for talking to me about this subject. I know it's like kind of It's it's it's hard to kind of see it every day witness it and have you guys ever lost anyone to gun violence. I'm getting very emotional. Just just to let everybody know I haven't or yeah. No I don't think I have. I have relatives that are in the military and that's a little bit different At had on a I guess a lighter note I also had a relative who was very very drunk. Hugh had air soft rifles. which are rubber bullets? Like police use whatever I knew who while he was drunk. Shot me point blank in the leg with one and I did have a did break the skin I did have a welt but like as far as as being shot goes very low key. Way To get Sean I told you about my God. I got got like like melancholy. Shot and it really hurt. Oh but it was really scary and also because he was like he was shooting above me and like he had altered a high capacity capacity magazine to do the bullets. He was doing that on the wall above my head right after he shot me and I was afraid he was gonNA shoot me again but he didn't and oh you've lost your. I wasn't like a real gun right. I mean that's but that's the point is that as thing and was drunk and caused harm granted not that bad of harm but he was just playing around drunk. Oh my God I'm just GonNa you just have to stay stay with me always south. Staten Island your only guest. I like but she pulls it out. I was shot with a rubber bullet. Your grandfather didn't make those rubber bullets. This was not this. This was not related to my GRANDPA enters. He was not. This is not the responsible gun owning members of my family. This was an irresponsible member of my family. Well I love you guys. Thank you for talking about Guns and.
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"It's something that he's GonNa an alert on his own. And I am choosing and this is where part of the creative part of me and the gun advocate sort of collide. I think guns thousands horses princesses superheroes. I think. It's all about exploring the idea of power I don't I don't think they're out to actually. I'm going to kill you. Like they mean that maliciously and sociopathic Li. I really think it is a way of them. Figure imagine figuring out their place in the world trying to organize who has power and knowing how small they are in this world and so going. Pup- Hugh Hugh you Mike had going Pew Pew Pew yelled. I'm not so worried about. I'm more worried if somebody says don't do that. And he continues to do it just like with anything but I don't battle stop no right no question about consent and my son. So there's something like guns are just this thing that are just GonNa happen and I think when he's older I don't want him to make him feel bad how he wants to play. Or how easy imagination as wrong as long as it's not actually actively hurting another person so that to me right now and then me. Immediate media is more concerning than feeling like I have to pressure him to understand the gun crisis because the gun crisis isn't his fault so I shouldn't have to his uh-huh because he wants to play with a water gun fucking fun on. We tried to call them water blasters but you know their water guns and yes so so I and and also like. We're being responsible to giving our kids toys that they're allowed to play with and they can use their imagination to play with Badger a gun. Yeah yeah why aren't adults like stopping themselves and police like there are adults and become an adult at some point to become responsible right right like they should should take responsibility for their actions and realize you are involved in an industry that has caused so so much pain and horror Yeah right right so I mean I. I'm curious to see. When does the of the gun conversation station I imagine would happen? I don't know what age you would start out but really good question should do some research on that. That'd be good the Laura because it's a good question. I had to talk with my preschool about late. Do you have a safety drill in place and I'm more concerned concerned that my school knows that it can lock is able to lock their doors from the inside and has a plan of an active shooter. I'm more worried about that than if my own kid goes Pew Pew Pew with his hand on on a playground so it's really hard to figure out as a parent. Where do you put your attention? A what can you encourage. And so I'm right now choosing to not worry about how my son plays until I see that he is actually hurting people bull and has a fascination with actual pain and not like this idea of power and play and playing playing hulk is the same thing as going Pew Pew Pew it. It's all the same sort of dinosaur dinosaur. I'm Pony I'm a thing that is bigger than what I am now but I think if parents could they start having conversations with their schools about school safety drills and I think that's a really delicate thing. They all really appalled by the reality of lockdown drills and we see everything in the news that we're we're terrorizing our children with these lockdown drills. Zimmer traumatizing them when we see like grown-ups with fake guns shooting at kids. I mean the lockdown drill thing is getting a little bananas but I think there is a movement. Now there's a larger discussion about how schools can train staff and faculty Coltie and adults in a situation. If adults are trained in a situation they save lives and what happened with Parkland we we. We saw that the adults were not trained for this situation. And I think there's also a way to teach age appropriate tactics how you teach school safety to high school. Oh kids who can actually take some agency and safely fighting back safely in a way that we're not traumatizing. I'm in training. Allowed alarm. Apparently is is enough to disoriented shooter. A ball ask something really loud that is enough to disorients somewhat and stop them. Do you ask other parents if they have guns in their house before you let your weight yes and you should and hear that. That's also another thing things that we can do. Now I could say Philip the Senate uh-huh God there's so much out of our control over that that feels like playing a game where he I don't even know the right but we start shifting the culture within our own communities it is and I think one of the biggest things that we can do as parents is talk tears having really frank discussions with our with our school principals and teachers about what is your policy. What is your school safety policy and get them to think about it and make to have to show them that? This is an important thing they have to answer to in the same way that you have fire drills and earthquake drills and all of that this is just part of the world we live in and we have to save lives. Everything thing we can do is start normalising having really frank conversations about guns moms demand is a really great program called. Be Smart if you go to be smart dot org the truth. You're really quick training video with Melissa. Joan Hart of Serena Teenage witch and she talks about how to have a really frank honest non judgy conversation about guns. We ask if there's a pool and if it's gated did and we want to know if there's maybe a dog or large dog or we have certain certain allergies or allergens in the house. We should also be able to talk talk about guns and I did not do it in a way that we because we're so afraid that the other person's going to be judged or criticizing them and start with pool. Yeah and with gun and we've got the let me work on the. It's yeah yeah exactly gun. No that's not going to get. You're you're right. I'm just curious do you like. She can't have chocolate right now. You've gone and if there is follow questions Russians are okay and is it locked and unlocked separate from the ammunition and another thing. You know you can't have a loaded gun locked in a say kids know how to get into stuff which is why again. I just will never be convinced that having a gun and a houses the safety this is really important. Because because I don't think like there was a lie being locked up like you would have thought like all right. That's fine up they. It's behind a safe. It's fine you know it never would have occurred to me necessarily to ask if the ammunition was separated. Ri- The gun and Whoa they're both locked up and that's like the is that kind of like the known properly. Yes that is the standard if you have a gun is a unloaded and locked. Locked up the ammunition locked up and separate from from the weapon like the NRA would have exact promoted it correctly. And I'm sure that's still buried on a website on safety and a lot of gun owners would absolutely say well of course or I have it in insane safe in the garage and everyone's fine and I'm not suggesting that you have a gun you're purposely trying to make people unsafe there are Christchurch's do backup that a gun and a has immediately makes everyone less safe. I don't do my dishes after I go to the next mornings. Actually I would definitely the candidate that would leave a loaded gun somewhere. Unlock at. Forget to lock it somewhere right. It's not that you don't care it's just people. Are you have something very eerie theory. Very dangerous and you have to be very very very on top of the safety of that right like you can't just like crash your car into your house and be like I'll take care tomorrow. I know it's very dangerous. It's not a dish yesterday. Dish right you know like I might get ants but is not going to kill a child. You know what I mean our fear and what is happening is that the NRA and our ATV and Fox News the convince grandma who lives in rural Nebraska that ms thirteen in is going to be after her on her way to piggly-wiggly gun in her purse and let her grandkids come over and Kogo Interpersonal look for candy and that is how accidental shootings happened. And when you make people feel like they're afraid and everyone is after them and they have to protect themselves and they walk around with this looted weapon. What ends up happening? Is they end up accidentally certainly hurting other people that is what mostly happens in these situations. How most shootings of children happen? My daughter loves play with nerve guns and I hear the word gun more more than I thought I would. Yeah and a half year old like she went over to the neighbors. She does these boys that she plays. They play NERF guns. Can I their guns. And I'm like weird and yeah that'd be like can I put their guns. Then you realize it's just all a part of like I want to play. Yeah it's all about playing and and and it's important to have these conversations when they're ready and understand the right. It's going to be hard with the Internet. And social media has anything to kind of escape these conversations. So I think what you're doing is amazing. Asked to take part of your time where you know to dedicate to making the world better place for your son is like really hard difficult decision vision to make to choose where your time goes but it matters. Thank you for Sharing Your Story Inc you organization sounds amazing dink. You and I just think one on things to think about is. I can't imagine those parents of Sandy Hook those Parkland students the the show up to this every single day with a heartache. Take that I can't even imagine and if they can show up to this every day I think we can all in our own ways do whatever part whether it means starting to talk about other parents other parents about gun safety or talking to our schools or helping to flip a Senate race or just being a little bit more aware about how gun gun. Culture is in a over culture. Simplisafe guys good attic with things like that because what they're doing I I can't even imagine they show up to this every single day. So yeah they have to relive it. Every time I am a another child dies reminded right like their own and that is an unbelievable grief. Yeah well thank you so much information grade and drain the NRA dot Org Work Dot Com and you can find us on twitter at twitter instagram. facebook thank you for your real inspiration note to self if to care about something. Don't just.
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"Boycotting investing from the gun industry and its Corp. partners it also applies pressure on companies the and Proletarians to end their affiliation with the NRA so she is a superhero. A MOM and fighting for real change. Here is my conversation with Laura I feel like the gun reform world. We have to always say there's a few things that we have to like introduce ourselves. I believe in the Second Amendment but okay with hunting but I have a problem with the whole to a arguing because I think we're playing on the right the gun the seventeen hundreds. Yeah Ah yes. People are like yeah. The government tries Yak over. y'All can fight right but there's a few things I think what we're talking about gun violence. We're not really. Are you talking about hunting rifles. We're talking about is handguns and Melissa. Military style weapons. That don't belong in civilized society. We here's like a little statistic that helps inker hurt me because I feel like only mass shootings or school shootings get all of the attention and it is sickening and tragic how many we have been. I'm having But in general three hundred people are shot a day in the Slough Ninety of them die which means there's a week well over two one hundred who are still have to live with possibly chronic injuries from that gunshot Of those ninety fifty or actually from suicide from self inflicted gunshot wound and then seven children mostly accidental shootings or or even suicide. If you're under the age of eighteen and can pick up a gun and so what can we do with that. I know it's a bummer. But some of the things. We talked about universal background checks which I agree with which will close gun sale loopholes that you just can't just buy a gun at like. I Dunno the Denver Conventions and the county center is by a gun and not go through a background check and this one's pretty it's pay. Okay yeah okay. I'll give it to you. I have no idea if you are a criminal or just somebody who's going to go home and shoot your wife God and there's also mandatory waiting periods and mandatory waiting periods. Means we for most states have about three day three day waiting period. Before you you order gun before you actually say. Pick it up in a background. Check is taking place but seven day. Mandatory waiting periods have shown to decrease to have an actual direct impact on decreasing suicides. What's most people are looking for a permanent answer to a temporary problem so Anyway I feel like I'm rambling but knowing Eh very important I've actually been seeing a lot because a family member my committed suicide last year. And so I we have been seeing a lot more conversations around suicide and it was with a gun so and it was with a hunting rifle it was like buckshot and it was really really hard to wrap my head around it because I know that he had asked my family like they locked up. All these other guys they let us hunting rifle allows so it's not that like this is like keeping handguns out of people's hands will stop them from committing violent acts against themselves right so I think talking about suicide is very important part of talking about gun violence. Yeah and I think that also violence against specifically women is a very important part of love talking about gun violence because I feel like domestic abuse is still rampant in our country and and it can escalate to ooh gun violence quickly. Women the moment you are living in a house with a gun your endanger statistically Gaza woman woman. Wow statistically you are in danger the moment you live in a house with a gun and Gifford's Gifford's is a great givers law center. The website is a really great place to get a quote unquote fun facts on Gun. Violence and communities are really vulnerable. I WanNa feel like women I and children and communities of color what's happening with police force neighborhood violence and then what is also happening. who white men who are susceptible to suicidal aviation and also radicalization for them to pick up a weapon and shoot up garlic festival or or a church or a synagogue? One thing that I did want to say about what we can do about the one thing that drain the NRA what we're really focusing focusing on is okay so here's some good news the NRA's right now doing a great job at draining itself. It's having financial problems a lot of infighting in fighting the New York state is now looking at its nonprofit charter to see if it can actually be a nonprofit it is very possible that the NRA could cease to exist tomorrow. I mean it really just shows you. It was seen as this huge behemoth that was giving so much money to politicians and wants to start having all this infighting and wants membership. Went down a little bit. It's amazing. How quickly has so imploded? NRA's just a lobby correct rice nonprofit organization right that that uses money and politics to try to help big corporations so right it is both planned. Parenthood is also this a lot. Every hound in has a five five thirty three and a five zero four five zero C three nonprofit status. Is things like you know. Gun Safety Awareness and gun clubs gun education Shen and shooting camps and things like the NRA was when our grandparents were a row which was shooting and hunting awareness and gun safety borough of deer in Maryland deer that knees or use a crossbow. Osberg there's less likely to kill him and their C.. Four has been the most insidious force their political. They have a soup their political victory fund. And that is all of the money that has been going to to donate to congressional candidates to donate to state legislatures. So they they so I think once they're nonprofit goes there see three gets pulled their C.. Four is going to can exist. It's so weird to think that somebody is like giving fifty bucks. Yeah with a wink. Like just let guns stick around. You're right well why it's weird because what what. Nra Remembers or anybody who likes to shoot. Or whatever. And I don't WanNa put in a box. No one is a monolith but those I think they're going against a way of life and I think that's really something as gun reform folks. We have to really think about it. We have to apologize or water anything down but they're feeling we're going after a certain way of life and I really do believe that Ackerman Queen and the NRA has sold them a bag of goods. They've sold sold them a culture and an identity to latch. It's not even about the products. It's how the products make them feel to be part of this community and now this community of victims uh-huh everyone's going against me and my freedoms and my way of life and are one of them. Yeah I I am a responsible. Goner why should you take your my toy away from me. I'm here to. There's a lot of reasons in different parts of the world at parts of the country where nine one ones not very reliable and and that is hard for gun reform folks to release square that that in your part of the country there is a legitimate reason to feel like you should have a gun in your house from collect yourself and we are not there to take that away but we are just trying to say that the wrong people should no longer have guns and we should really ask ourselves. Why are we putting military Tori style weapons out in civilized society? What has happened to these last ten years to allow for the proliferation of that and the assault weapon ban expired? And we didn't renew wit right. Why why did I mean whatever? That's like getting a politician so stupid I guess but well I think the next next action that were taking is right now. The best thing we can do I think the groups like moms demand action and other groups have been really focusing on state laws and every law that saves the life is worth it and but I don't I think we're only as safe as our borders. I mean we live in California really strong gun laws. The border the state next to US Nevada is basically a gun. Show the full wild wild west. A ninety-year-old was able to legally buy may forty seven and cross state lines and shoot up a garlic festival so it is time for federal gun laws and I think that what during the NRA's represents is that it is time to make a statement culture and as a society that we value our allies and our safety over the Prophets of company. And that is what's been happening. We have basically been sacrificing. Our children's lives at the altar of gun companies turning a profit. Is this story personal for you. I mean you know. I haven't personally been a victim of gun violence. I haven't went had anyone yet. I got involved in this after the pulse nightclub shooting and it was when my son was maybe year old and there is something about the idea of of MOMS dancing with their adult sons and their adult children and something in my brain that moment of time just snapped. Maybe bad thought. I'd want to be that mom one day dancing with my son and And not have to fear for your life for my life and that that snap that for me and it was so interesting. Sandyhook was so tragic that I think it was abstract. I also think about the Vegas shooting. The the deadliest shooting in America fifty people died hundreds injured. A concert turned into a kill box. And I don't think we know how to wrap our heads around it. It is difficult. It's like shooting fish in a variety it was like watching the planes go into the towers. We were in New York. It's like watching a movie right now. Is this real real and and it was so devastating and then when I became a parent I was like Oh that was an abstract and tragic news story like I now understand how that feels and I would say this. Anybody who is passionate about an issue or wants to learn more about an issue is that. Don't underestimate the power of Vieira empathy that your empathy enough is enough to change to make some sort of change and that is enough for you to get into a fight for something that you believe in. How do you talk to your son about guns? There's a lot of discussions in our mom group about like. Oh how do we talk about like toy guns with our kids and I've gun things. Where if I bought him like a policeman fed or whatever? I always skipped the one that has the gun in it. I didn't feel like I had to encourage that but I also accepted that..
"mother" Discussed on Mother of All Shows
"Let's just say that you guys over to my podcast and I told you I had a gun. How would you feel I feel like we were kindred spirit because I brought mine oh cool I find with it as long as we weren't like if we were having a play date with our girls and and you're like Oh yeah by the way gun has been laying on my bed all day then I would be like Oh? We're not doing this again but if it's just like US coming over I feel pretty confident that you didn't bring it to shoot me so I think it'd be joking. I think that it would be surprising. And then it might my look. I know you're like Kimmy. You drink almond milk tastes great. You won't even have dairy. What would you have a gun? You're not eating the gun also audience. I was joking all those times that I said I brought a gun. I don't have a gun but I do know people I'll have guns. I don't like that they have guns but I do know them and So yeah it would just be Kinda like so. I would ask give a lot of questions. Yeah I have to say like I think that your response to that question. Surprise me a little bit that you're so like you were very open to it and I think that that's important accountant. I think for the what I'm saying is like you guys are focused bucket. No I think it's a good right like 'cause obviously guns servery charged issue there in the news every day and I hate reading the news every day. We're hearing about gun violence and it's it's tough so to have it in a person that knows house is kind of a strange thing. Why grew up with guns? Okay so I grow on. I grew up with a lot of guns and around around a lot of guns. Your family had a lot of guns or their family family's born to a gun I shot right out of her mom's shotgun and a rifle behind the birth and birth when you're out to save you hours of pain but I am so my my grandfather has a lot of guns. I went to live with them with my grandparents when I was in my late teens and The rule was as a teenager that I I had a car. Sure but I couldn't go out or drive my car unless they had a loaded handgun with me so as loaded handgun loaded handgun in the car with me for my safety the gun usually it was in the side console like next to my door so that if someone tried to carjack me I could quickly grab it. And she's in the face talk. Hey y'all I'm from the south. Were there a lot of carjackings like where you grew up. No and the reason I ask that is is because where I grew up. I there were carjackings. But Rebecca's from side did not have a gun but so it's interesting that that would be the that would be your grandparents thought in case you carjacked which is not something. That's a normal thing occurrence like you're more likely to come across a deer that you could could randomly shoot. You accidentally hit with your car shooting it just for fun. Send it off to heaven so terrifying as as this is in today's climate I thus drove my gut. I mean you're the gun or the cars the gun we're GONNA. I forgot my gun into my car where I parked across the street from the school in a church parking lot so I always had a loaded gun across the street from from my school every day. Oh my God always and then I also had like you do a a rifle with like a laser scope in my bedroom closet unlike all the time. And so those those were those were my guns that I hadn't lots of other good personal guns or my personal guidance and then like my grandmother got a very cute little derringer that she carrying your purse that was very petite and dainty you know the names of them and then like my grandfather also like loads his own bullets so like there's like the the bullet loading shed. What does that mean I mean? He made his. He makes his own bullet. DIY bullets aircraft. He's very good with guns and I would go on on the week rolling your own cigarettes. In the weekends I would go shooting with my grandfather and his brother the range. They've taken out to arrange. My grandmother really liked to like show off that like the seventeen year old girl could out shoot like the guys with my little manicure and whatever all military dudes. Oh my God. He wanted me to be a sniper for for my profession. This is his real greer dream very similar like she's really into sniping very similarly Eh. I moved out to the left coast TV writer and Lesbian. Wow so she's so when. Oh my God i WanNa Business Card so okay boy. So did you go out shopping for or guns overdue. They like gift you ago. These were these were gifts but I haven't been to gun shows. Oh wow it kind of makes sense when you hear about out how it was just such a normal part of your childhood how. I imagine that you weren't alone in that like there was a lot of people that you probably lived near Near. That had rifles in their closet and guns and they're loaded car across from school. motivity art cargo a loaded baked potato car with a gun but it just kind of then make sense why. I don't know all of a sudden I was like. Oh I could see why the fact that like Kimmy and I'd I mean I know a couple of people have guns but it wasn't like a normal. It's not like a normal thing where we grow up. So I'm like oh I can see why they're like these liberals are coming for our guns. You literally just have a gun wherever you are like in your car in your bedroom purse you had it in the bedroom right but there were no little kids around right or were there right. So that's the thing it was. I was the youngest person in the house. Listen I was like seventeen and a well adjusted kid who I think they may have taken different paths conversations well adjusted yeah not saying it had been through a lot good idea maybe not but I was. You know I think maybe had I displayed different personality traits or whatever they probably would've Handled things differently so I think it was fine. I'm I'm actually kind of glad that I know how to handle a gun If I'm in a situation where there is a gun pointed at me if I can get the gun away from person I know how to use it. I think that's good. You're on my squad Halmi and the. Yeah the the apocalypse apocalypse hopefully our phones work self-serve guns shooting. And all I can probably hotwired. Acquire something against ultra maybe is tech support. Amanda She's gunner. I will be a clown I'll be of you know. We're very crafty so she could probably fashion like maybe you're the gum department for you fashion. Yeah human hair or something. That's crazy so so you used primarily for support I mean support safety and protection an potential and then also for sport right the only time I ever used a gun was for for sport for for Leisure and the reasons that they were given to me were for protection. How many times did you have the conversation that a gun could kill someone in that? Usually that a gun is take a human life. Oh all the time. My my grandfather is a Marine Corps. Officer he was very. He also taught concealed carry courses. So I took the concealed carry courses so learn mind-blowing. Okay go on like this always happen in the cult episode a man is like oh I I was basically coming but yeah he would always you know it was basically like if you're going to be in a situation where we're GONNA use a guy that means you need to be prepared to take human life because that's what it's four and he was very like basically like if you're going to get out and shoot somebody then you need to be aiming to kill because the only reason that you would be shooting. Somebody is if the situation were that dire they take it very seriously and to be very prepared for how serious it would be. Wow so moving to a wreck you said you know like people that have guns they have do. They have the same conversations with no eight. I know like without saying who they are because I think in our circles. It's like more weird right so they're more like liberal liberal type people but then who felt like having a gun was a good idea in case of protecting themselves like one person listen. I know their houses burglar burglarized and then so then they got a gun. The nervous thing for me is having I made sure to have. The conversation is locked up la because I don't want my son going over to someone's house who may not have kids and then him finding the you know what I mean because because you can put it on a high shelf that doesn't mean that four year olds going to find it so making sure that it's safe in that way and also literally today I was like I'm I got to your vitamins. which are on the second and the top cabinet on the second scaling up the kitchen cabinets and got both of our vitamins? Simmons was pretty. She was gonna get the childproof like twist-off-top open right like we gotta remember that their little monkeys and they have all their digits and like they also want to push boundaries. And so if then you have like something that could have devastating effects if they get to it like yeah they they can do that and and they would be interested in that. Possibly so I feel like when I was growing up I. The first time I saw gun was literally like in high school in Middle School. One of the students held up another student in front of me. So that's literally how I saw doggone and then the next time that it was damaging to my brain was I was hanging out in the like a football field ed school like at night like we were drinking and then this guy was there that I didn't recognize and literally he was a white dude but had corn rows and I was like like. Oh like I like your hair's and he's like yeah. I have it for jacking and I was like for what. And he's carjacking and then he pulled a stocking over his face to show me and then showed me his gun and I I will you hell sixteen. He was probably tasty and I have no idea. Yeah seemed like so much older at the time. Yeah but not even I mean he kind of just was there and there were only maybe six of us there. I just took like a step. Basically walked away from him one step at a time all the way across the football field like just out of this weird fear era but he wasn't threatening me. He was casually demonstrating how he does a car. Check yes and so. That's what I'm saying when I'm like we're there carjackings near you. So so those are the guy that your grandfather was head Ida and they were. I didn't have a gun in that situation. I didn't need to use it be there. I wasn't threatened but it was scary that there was a person there with a gun. Obviously and there were like some other dude's coming up. They were like walking up to hang. Hang on the football field and we're like Oh we don't know if we know them and he's like don't worry I got it if we need like he was like basically up protect you. Meanwhile I don't even know what he was doing the by himself so either way. That could have gone really horribly. But that's kind of my experiences with guns are on that side of it of being like terrified by its presence. Yeah you know and then later in life. I went to my friend's Bachelor Party and we went shooting but it was like at a range. It wasn't like shooting with anyone's personal gun. But yeah to me even seeing them like on a cop or like you know just seeing guns even just anytime it sort of gives me a fear charge. Thank you Rebecca and Amanda Santa to give more insight on how we can do more to address the gun problems or countries face. I reached out to my friend. Laura Menino she founded an organization called drain the NRA..
"mother" Discussed on Mother of All Shows
"The original do the mother of all shows the podcast. That takes a deep guys in the motherhood and parenting with comedic gist. Because if we can't laugh through our tears as we watch our kids grow up too fast we are screwed with a capital. Oh my God. You're already a teenager. I'm your host Kimmy Gatewood. I'm a comedian director. Tired mother of a four year old. I also play the trombone and used to be a roller skating waitress. So that's all you I need to know about me before we get into things and today we are getting into things. I WANNA remind you to rate and review our show. We love feedback. This show is about starting hip dialogue and we want to hear from you because otherwise it's just monologues and I stopped doing those after college. Send your comments questions to mother of all shows at gmail.com. Calmer tweeted us. emo Hod joined the community. Come on. Don't make me beg for it. I already spent half the day begging my daughter to finish your fish sticks so today. We're going to discuss guns and I don't mean biceps because I don't have time to workout. It is a serious one gun. Culture in America is unique. That's not a compliment. United States of America as a citizen part everyday waking up to another mass shooting and as a mother. I'm terrified I know there are a lot of layers to this issue and I don't feel like I would own a gun but maybe I would. Maybe I'm just not seeing the other side it so today. I decided to talk to a gun activist and also my good friends. Rebecca Johnson and Amanda Divert about how we talk talk to our kids about guns and how bankrupt talking. About God's so let's start with that jet with Rebecca and Manda So.
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"mother" Discussed on The Combat Divas Podcast
"Like, okay, I'm going to be a mother of a little person small little girl. And I gotta figure out how to maneuver through this and work and provide. And we she was born. That's all I really cared about was working in providing in being the best parent. Could be to raise a little girl to be a strong independent when woman so it will different when I had. So what would you say would be the most rewarding thing about being a mother the most rewarding thing about being a mother is watching your child. Discover you know, just how to navigate life from a small being navigating this hot this co this is prickly. This is spicy. This is week being an adult and navigating I wanna go to this college. Why won't play this sport? Or I think the has to be the most rewarding thing to watch go from discovery as a small child to discovery as an adult and come into themselves. And no, I mom I discover who I am as a person. I know what I like what I don't like, I know what I wanna do in my life. I found my purpose that has to be the most rewarding thing for parent hands down. Down is to watch your child. Go from you know, this is hi this is code to. This is what I wouldn't do my whole life while I think that is absolutely amazing. I think that when I found out I was pregnant I like nicely. I was like oh crap. Like. I'm like is this that okra is like okay now, it'd be gins like when you first, you know, get that the positive result on on that little home pregnancy test for for some, and I was just sitting there like is just like a hot filling like I had a heatwave just kind of go office out. Because now is like, okay. This is this is this is real by. Then I'm like, well, maybe maybe Israel, and then you go to the doctor in do the same tests. And then they do a blood test. And they like, well, hey, well, congratulations. But you, but I still fell in different. I'm like, okay, I'm young. I was twenty three when I found out I was pregnant with my son. And I was just thinking like am. I ready. How do I get ready? And luckily, I have the mom that I have because I'm like just even to this day. My son is ten now. And I'm like, what would I do without my mom? She's been that person as just been alongside of me since. Since the beginning of mile world. And then also the beginning of my sons world her going into grandma mahood and just being that person for me because I'm like, man. How would I have navigated dust far? I'm pretty sure I would have just figured it out. But I'm like am. I ready what what cannot offer to this little this little human as growing inside of me. And I'm like, I'm a soldier. I'm a student. I'm you know, I'm all these things. But I'm like now, I'm going to be somebody's somebody's mother. And I remember when I found out the sex, it availabe, I really wanted to girl. Oh, I really wanted to grow..
"mother" Discussed on Advocate Like a Mother Podcast
"Because if I have both my children, it's just not convenient for me. It's just not fair just feel like them. I just feel like maybe we don't belong here. Like, maybe we're not supposed to be doing all of this. And it just makes you feel so disheartened as mom like we should be able to access everything easily and not have to lift her children up in wheelchairs Wilshire over one hundred pounds alone with a child and and another child it's almost next to impossible. Right. And I think the thing that, you know, places don't think about is it just creates more of a headache for you, go to your insurance. Now, it's all on your shoulder. Adly it didn't know, and it shouldn't be like this. And honestly ended the day. It's just an extra stress because now we have to start the. Process all over again because you weren't compliant at which really I don't understand. I still don't understand my goodness. Okay. Well, that was a great show. And really was a great show. Awesome. Talking to Rebecca about all awesome thing that she's things that she's doing. And now it makes me one abdicate so hard because I feel like I'm kind of like lazy convert or not even lazy which is like the toys everything. I when I saw her making toys, I'll take my word, you're my inspiration. Like you went to another country. New Dopp did your daughter and your all these amazing things parkey both for her. Now, you're gonna push for her to work with the community. I mean like that's just makes him so happily. I love the she has a plan in place for their next. The paycheck valley. Thanks so much for listening today as always good advocate, like a mother dot org and sign up for a mailing list. Follow us on social media advocate like a mother, please. Subscribe to advocate, like a mother and reviews on I tunes. Thanks again. Friends friends.
"mother" Discussed on Advocate Like a Mother Podcast
"So just in April. Harper was diagnosed with severe autism little did we know that she also has a deletion which is called three P to six point three that is what causes her autism. It's something that I'm still educating myself on because it's a lot to learn a lot to take in how this is a new diagnosis for you guys. And it's very scary. It's just a whole other world of just like what is our? How can I best mold her future to give? Her like the best outcome in life. Like what what can I help do to help push her and just be there for her? So I'm really excited to be here on this podcast and talk more about diagnosis and talk more about how to get the services that you deserve. And how to get what you need and self care and self advocacy, and all of the things that come with this because it's a journey and every single day to fight and it's not easy. I think that we kind of make it look easy, you make it look easier than me. But I feel like this is so important, and this is what our community needs. We need to come together and be together and support each other and say like, hey, look this worked for my maybe try this for your child, or you know, this doctor's amazing, maybe try to contact them. And see if you can get an appointment. I just wanna be here to help support other moms and help them know that they are supermom totally. They are every single one will. Yep. I know I I've gotten a couple of messages for moms who will will say things to me like how do I become an advocate, and I always tell them you are an advocate as soon as you see those two pink lines as sign that option papers are your child advocate for what other choice, whatever it is does aren't abdicates not how do you become one? It's just we all just learn my thing for me to push me to become an advocate when writer was in hospital, and his one of my favorite, nurses, came to me and said, you need to be his voice if you want him to have music therapy, you push and you push any. Push until he gets that. Because you're the only one who's going to be able to do that. Right. So you push a not, honestly lit my fire. Because once she told me that I was just like, you know, what you are. So right. I started getting on Instagram, and my social media and just trying to put out there, you know, like advocate for your kids. This is what's best for them. And look how far my son has came from doctors telling him that he'll never walk, and he's going to be in a vegetable for the rest of his life and goodness decay. Shen is he's and you can do it. Everybody has the voice. It is scary. Trust me is sometimes I don't want to do it either. But you need to do it. And it's so the things that you see your child. Do it just gives you that feeling that the fight was so worth my goodness. So worth so that if I that we go through every day from insurance from from therapists from everybody who thinks that whatever it's just. Well, we're so excited about this season. You guys how many awesome guys lined up for you here and topics that we cannot wait. So what we need you guys to do is subscribe in review advocate, like a mother on itunes. You can sign up for Email lists. You can come follow us on Instagram abdicate. Like, a mother we confined find both Michelle, and I on Instagram and littlest warrior for abdicate like mother teas and be sure to subscribe to you guys can follow along and join this journey with us. Thanks so much for listening guys by thanks for joining us friends next time. Thanks for listening to the advocate, like mother podcasts the show officially launches this fall. And we don't want you to miss out. Go to WW dot advocate, like a mother dot org and sign up on our Email list to get notified when we launched. In the meantime, follow the show on Instagram advocate, like a mother to interact further with Michelle. And Ashley lastly subscribe to the show, and I tunes, and let us know that you're loving the show by leaving us a review. Thanks for listening.
"mother" Discussed on Advocate Like a Mother Podcast
"And then on the second day when the pediatricians do their rounds at the hospital. They said your son has a murmur and do you need follow up the cardiologists? And that's when things really kind of started sinking. And just thinking like, wow, I need to start from here and being abdicate in help pushing see what is going on with my son because being a young mom, I think being a little bit blind to everything that goes on you just kind of think like oh going to have a perfect pregnancy. Mike, it's going to be perfectly healthy and my risks are so low, but I just don't think that that's the case. So after a lot of doctors after a lot of. Not being happy with answers that we were getting we finally got writers diagnosis at two and a half. He was two and a half when he had his open heart surgery. He had a cast catastrophic allergic reaction to the plastic on the bypass pump would cost him from going to being from being a typical functioning toddler from eating and talking and walking from himself to not even being able to hold his neck up. After that, we kind of said to each other like we're never going to have another kid 'cause that's it's something that's very traumatic to go through a lot of PTA's PTSD. It's a lot of depression. It's a lot of grief. Honestly. Because personally, I feel like I've had to grieve my son for one who he was too. Now who he is. And who he's going to be forever? And there was always a little bit of hope that he would potentially like it would burn out in the movements would go away. But they haven't and we accept writer for who he is. And we love him with the movement. That's just how I know my son now so after he got out of the hospital, we were in there for six months, we finally decided to take the plunge and have another kid and just like you it literally happened in like a month, and I was pregnant, and I was so nervous and just didn't know what to expect. Because being a first time mom with all these diagnosis. It's really scary going into a second pregnancy. We parents didn't get Ginette. Tested with writer. We just had him tested. So you know, going in with Harper. I was worried about congenital heart disease. I was worried about a lot of other things, you know, it's rare to have two children with Williams syndrome, but it's not unusual. And I feel like I'm the mom that gets struck by lightning twice in just continues to go on in life. So we had Harper. And I just tell when she was about like one that something was just off behavior wise, cognitive wise. Just a lot of things just told me what have already kind of educated myself on that just something is off any need to help her in whatever way. Maybe it's just speech therapy. Maybe it's just I don't know any kind of therapy and all the therapies all of the therapies, please. So then I went to the doctor, and I told him that I think she has autism. And he said, no, she doesn't she just has speech delay. I'm like, all right. Well, if you're not gonna take me serious, and I'm going to call somebody who will. So that's when I followed up with regional center and got her and evaluation there and. When we went to the first evaluation center the name had autism in it. And that for me was like my sign from God that like I was on the right top. I was doing the right thing for my kid, and this diagnosis is going to help her get all the valuable resources that she needs in life because if you don't have that diagnosis, they just don't take you seriously. They just think that you're being a helicopter mom, and we're trying to help push for our kids and advocate for what services we feel like they deserve..
"mother" Discussed on Advocate Like a Mother Podcast
"He knew he knew I needed to be prepared ahead of time. Which is amazing and scary at the time. His honestly that diagnosis at first is just while. Right. But I think yeah, I think God knew that. I just needed some prep. And so so anyway, so Eric went to Texas came back. We went into it knowing that there was a chance that it might not work a lot doesn't work for a lot of people on. So we didn't have high expectations, but we're hopeful. And so I ended up getting pregnant the very first month like which is kind of unheard of told us it usually takes at least a year. Right. And so we're kind of shocked in so elated, and so, you know, it's a big age gap between our youngest daughter nine years, actually. So starting over was kind of crazy and then around fifteen weeks along we went to a little altar sound place and found out that we're having our first boy, and we are so freaking excited and then around twenty weeks, we found out a bunch of other stuff, and I won't go into that. Now because we haven't episode plan for diagnosis but spoiler alert. He has down syndrome. And so he was barn and things were crazy at first because he had duodenal tree jazz. We had to have surgery at today's old block is intestines. He had a G tube placed. He's he weighed four pounds when he was born you super tiny. And then he had open heart surgery at six months old how he was such a little nugget when he had to wait. They told us. Yes. Weeks months? Yeah. Six months, they told. Yes, we eight pounds. And so we just dump stuff too. Yeah. He's got three. All the calories. Seriously. The tube is a godsend. Seriously, yen credible. It's incredible. Yeah. I was so thankful for it. Same. And so yes. So after he had his open heart surgery. I finally felt like I could breathe I felt like I was holding my breath. Yes. Those six months. Good breathe could think. And so I started looking around for some cute hip awareness tees, and I couldn't really find anything. Everything can had like butterflies in ribbon. Yes. It's not my style. Yeah. And so I started littlest warrior, and it's just been such an incredible thing. I had no idea what a community would turn into. I just kinda thought, oh, how some cute shirts, and but it's just been so amazing. Just the friends that I've made through it. I met you. I know, and I honestly feel like that community for you is one of the only ones on social media. That's just bring so many families together knocked down syndrome, not just congenital heart disease. Not just you know, G tube warriors it everybody incredible to bring all these families together. And know that we are all alike. Yeah. Definitely. Yeah. It's been those warrior has just been so amazing. And so yeah, that brings me to how I met you. So when I started thinking about doing this podcast. You were the first person that I thought of thank God that would be really awkward if you're like between. Nobody really wanted to do it. So yeah, tell us about you. Hi, guys, I'm actually Montano. I am a mother of two special needs children. I am also married. I have been married since I was twenty one known my husband since I was sixteen. I was young mom with writer. I got pregnant when I was nineteen. I was very blind to the world of disabilities. And after he was born he was only five pounds at birth. So I get the little tiny nuggets, and he was blue. And at first I was a little scared and worried but the hospital just kept on his own. No, he's cold. He's called is gonna go put him under a light. And he'll be fine and his blood sugar was low for a few days..
"mother" Discussed on Advocate Like a Mother Podcast
"Empowered use it, and we're excited to help share all of our valuable resources that we have collected together over the years of being in the special needs community together. So we wanted to take a minute until you guys about ourselves. So again, my name's Michelle I married to my high school sweetheart his name is Eric. We got married two weeks after I graduated from high school. I turned eighteen a month later actually had to have my parents sign. A permission slip to get married. So that's fun. Yeah. I have no idea. Why couldn't wait that extra month? Speaking of teenagers that don't get I have three of them. Three daughters. So we always wanted for kids. And after we had our third daughter. I got really sick. And I had no idea it was going on. I saw so many doctors so many specialists, no one could give me any answers. I would Google my symptoms everyday, which I don't recommend, but Dr Google ever, but I did Google symptoms one day and Celia disease came up, and I had never heard of it. No idea what it was. Come to find out that I have it. And I started to feel so much better. During when I was sick. I was actually like basically bedridden like it was awful. I had no energy. I was super Nemec. Didn't know it. None of the doctors ever thought to check for that. That's a whole nother story that will get into maybe another day just about advocating for yourself. Yes. Yes. So Eric actually ended up getting vasectomies because I was terrified to get pregnant. I was in bed. I could barely take care of the three kids. I had there's no way I could survive pregnancy. And so we made that decision. And then once I got better we really started thinking gosh. Like, we've always wanted more kids, you know, what should we do? And so we actually pursued adoption and foster care and. God is kept closing that door. For some reason, we were heartbroken we didn't know what to do. But we felt this tug on our heart that our family was not complete. And so we kind of started thinking about what our options were. And so we looked into getting vasectomies reversal. And we heard about this doctor in Texas who does it as a ministry because it's insanely expensive. Right. And so we found this doctor. We actually have two friends that went Tim to increase that always stop getting sucked AMIS. So. Eric flew out. And they told us, you know, the chances of getting pregnant word or super slim. Oh, let me go back for a second. I completely forgot about one part. So when we when we were deciding if this is something we wanted to do we kind of sat down and did like kind of like a pros and cons list of like, okay? Do we keep pursuing adoption? Do we say, okay, we're done. We're we're thankful for the three kids. We have and more. We're not going to pursue having any more kids or do we do this reversal and one of the things that came up during the conversation about the reversal was down syndrome. Right. And her thought, I was crazy. And I told him I'm like, I honestly think if I get pregnant the baby's going down Sner me like the are you serious does not going to happen. He actually went like did a bunch of research. Wrenched the numbers. Yeah. Came back to me like two days later and was like you have a point three percent chance of getting pregnant with the baby with down syndrome. It's it's not going to happen. And I was like, okay. Well, I think that God. Put that on your art..