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Motherhood: Yes, No, Maybe
"We just passed the holiday of mother's day. And that got me thinking about this topic of mother hood. Which i feel that. I am at a unique intersection to speak on the topic of because of my past present and future. So my past. I have a good relationship with my mother and my mother is still living so i am not at the place of grieving mother or at grieving a strained relationship with a mother. I have never been pregnant or tried to get pregnant. so i don't have any miscarriages or abortions in my past or You know natural infertility challenges and as you are aware if you have been a posner. An instagram friend. I've been on shore for many years. If i want to have a family very much on the fence. I think that as a couple now you're truly knowing who my life partner is and having gotten married a couple of years ago we are more likely yes but it's still something that we very much like. This is a huge undertaking. Are we sure that we want to embark down this road and were still a few years away from that. So we're not We are not presently trying to conceive or under the pressure of making this decision so it allows me to feel like i'm kind of able to stand at the center of a big circle of women who all have so many different experiences from their past own mother's as a as perhaps mother yourself of an older mother of now an adult child or even watching your own child. Now go through Infertility or pregnancy or motherhood or adoption or all of the things. And i have so because just with my season of life right now i have so many friends that are trying to conceive. I think also being in that spot where you know maybe in your early twenties not a lot of women in your life or in that maybe in your late forties a lot of women around you already been in that phase but it feels like something that is so present for so many women in my life right now and i know that we have a large demographic here of who also were older who are more. Perhaps my mother is a and i can only imagine that if i have this many friends that are going through this there are just as many women who have a child of their own going through it
"miscarriage" Discussed on Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
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"miscarriage" Discussed on Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"Think the whole world charge for wasting our time. I will take a you recognize her angering on. Cnn cnbc and bloomberg the only financial expert. You don't need a dictionary to understand the cold lapin to all of you. Beautiful mama money relievers out there. I hope you had a very wonderful mother's day. Nobody deserves their own special day. More than mothers out there. I felt so much joy on one hand for so many people in my life. Who celebrated mother's day with their loved ones. And i was looking at my instagram timeline. Fill up with baby photos and family photos. And at the same time i also felt heartache for some of us. Mother's day is a reminder of loss loss of a mother loss of a child or maybe loss of the ability to have a child and it can be very triggering. I was morning my own lost this mother's day a few weeks ago. I had a miscarriage so far. I've only told my close circle of friends. And i've been keeping this close to my chest ch- when my life feels like it's spinning out of control. I try to regain it by getting as much information as i can. Because information is power right so in my attempt to make sense of what was happening to me. I've found all sorts of stories and people and statistics that showed me how taking time off for miscarriage can cost women their jobs. I recorded this episode right after it happened. And i've been going back and forth about whether or not to publish it. I know that there are some people out there who are hurting too. So i want to publish it for you. Lastly before i start the episode. I just wanna give you a heads up that this episode deals with ross stories of miscarriage. So please take care when listening my partner. And i were expecting our first child. We were both really excited. We both made plans. We picked out names. We touched my belly every morning and every night with joy but i recently had a miscarriage and it got me thinking of course through my own grief and heartbreak. How this is secretly one of the most important money and financial issues. We should be talking about but aren't what i realized. Is that being able to take the day off. As soon as i experienced. What would undoubtedly be one of the most horrific moments of my life and what felt like a betrayal of my body. My partner took the day off to be with me and during that time it became clear to me how lucky i was to be able to do that. All of the feelings grief heartbreak and gratitude and so many more can and do coexist. And i feel so grateful for the freedom to give myself the time and the space that my miscarriage deserved that freedom comes from the working for myself and not living paycheck to paycheck anymore. It comes from having enough savings in the bank to not worry about anything except for how my body felt and how i was possibly going to work up the courage to cancel my upcoming prenatal. Ultrasound appointments those things that i'm grateful for the basics the ability to grieve the ability to allow myself grace in my recovery should be a given though for the approximately twenty percent of women who experience miscarriage after they know they're pregnant but that is far from the reality for so many women of the forty three percent of americans who say they live paycheck to paycheck. Eighty five percent are women and of the thirty percent of americans who earn minimum wage. Sixty six percent. Are women women are more likely to work in lower income jobs than men which means their schedules are more erratic. Their hours are in assessing to feed their family to put not just two meals but three meals on the table. So time off just isn't an option. Time off is money very few companies offer miscarriage. Leave paid time off is something. They're just not incentivized to do because they perceive it as a cost both in dollars and productivity which i would argue the cost of human capital is far greater by not giving this carriage leave. Meanwhile unpaid time off for pregnancy loss is simply something most women cannot elective. -ly do an even though i've been a champion for women's voices in economic issues for more than a decade. I couldn't have imagined that. Miscarriage would actually be one of those issues until i experienced it. Firsthand my emotional experience isn't rare but my ability to take time off to recover from my miscarriage is and the ability to do so is an unexpected side effect. I believe of a broken financial system. It's exceedingly rare to have a clear and specific policy in place. New zealand recently approved. Three days paid leave after a pregnancy loss and i think companies can and should create their own policies. As i was looking into this more and as i was trying to educate myself as to why this doesn't exist. I found a beautiful article on the washington post. It's called the hidden financial toll of having a miscarriage and it's written by a woman named yana. So i invited her on the show. She is here with us now. Ianna thank you so much for joining money rehab. It is so good beer so thank you so much for inviting me last week. I had a miscarriage. And so i started looking into why miscarriage leave doesn't exist and i started looking into the financial aspect of it and that's where i came across your beautiful beautiful article and i was so struck by how you really talked about this financial aspect to it. Of course you know. It's emotional as well. Can you tell me a little bit about your story. Yeah of course. I'm so sorry for your loss. Especially being so recent i know just how raw the panel. So i'm sorry. I found out i was pregnant in april twenty nineteen and we were kind of at the place in life where we were like to a baby but not aggressively trying. I know that planning for your first pregnancy to is probably really scary from a financial perspective. What were you guys thinking when you first found out. Yes so. I just quit my job to become a full time freelancer and i do think that in the early days i was very excited but also very nervous because i was like. I don't think i'm going to have enough money to pay for maternity leave. I wanted to wait until we were like more. Salish kind of like okay. If i'm a year into this or a couple of years into that would be different but we also just bought a house. So there's a lot going on but i mean we kind of started just tentatively like set money aside things for the nursery like order close but honestly i think we were just like take this as it comes and kind of try to figure it out as we go so then at seven or eight weeks pregnant my husband and i heard a heartbeat and we were like over the moon and.
The Hidden Cost of Miscarriage
"Of the forty three percent of americans who say they live paycheck to paycheck. Eighty five percent are women and of the thirty percent of americans who earn minimum wage. Sixty six percent. Are women women are more likely to work in lower income jobs than men which means their schedules are more erratic. Their hours are in assessing to feed their family to put not just two meals but three meals on the table. So time off just isn't an option. Time off is money very few companies offer miscarriage. Leave paid time off is something. They're just not incentivized to do because they perceive it as a cost both in dollars and productivity which i would argue the cost of human capital is far greater by not giving this carriage leave. Meanwhile unpaid time off for pregnancy loss is simply something most women cannot elective. -ly do an even though i've been a champion for women's voices in economic issues for more than a decade. I couldn't have imagined that. Miscarriage would actually be one of those issues until i experienced it. Firsthand my emotional experience isn't rare but my ability to take time off to recover from my miscarriage is and the ability to do so is an unexpected side effect. I believe of a broken financial system. It's exceedingly rare to have a clear and specific policy in place. New zealand recently approved. Three days paid leave after a pregnancy loss and i think companies can and should create their own
Busch celebrates birthday with win at Kansas Speedway
"Kyle Busch led four times for twenty laps at Kansas speedway with final ten laps being the most important has he picked up his first NASCAR win of the season and it came on his birthday bush battle cow arson for most of the race but Larson had the dominant car leading one hundred and thirty two circuits around the track he would be relegated to nineteenth after late race restructure in back in the field for bush to win ended a roller coaster week of emotions as he and his wife Samantha shared the heartbreaking news that she had had a miscarriage Kevin Harvick finished a race in second his strongest run of the year with Brad Keselowski taking third I'm Jerry Jordan
An Amateur Detective in a Quest for Truth
"Sarah palin. I'm a criminal behaviorist and homicide investigator for six episodes. We've told you a story about the nineteen. Seventy shooting of former policeman verne's stored off to share a little about the story behind the story with me. Today are some of the creators and participants of the show including dorothy marsk. Vern stocks niece. She explored his death for her book with one shot. Welcome dorothy hi. Sarah how are you doing. I'm doing great dorothy. You spent years thinking about what happened in this house early. On the morning of march first nineteen seventy. Tell us about your journey. Well i'd always thought along with my family that there had been some miscarriage of justice and there were rumors floating around that. Suzanne didn't actually pull the trigger that night and we always wondered why she only spent eleven months in a hospital after confessing to murder and so shannon. I talked a lot about this. And i would say for ten years. We kept trying to figure out what happened. Suzanne and her family. We looked everywhere and this was before the internet. I traveled a lot. Every city be doing consulting workshop. Been i'd find a phone book and look for david. Briggs suzanne starbuck donna briggs to try to find any of them not realizing that most of them have changed their names until the internet came and shannon found on find a grave the grave of daniel store doc suzanne youngest son the one that my had adopted and from there she was able to piece together where they were in what their names were. So i went to tennessee against the protests of shannon. Who said you know somebody in that house murdered my father and my friend who said you can't go to tennessee. It's dangerous but i had to go. I wanted to know the truth. I wanted to know really in the beginning. Just who murdered my uncle
Sharon Stone Discusses Her Autobiography in Candid Interview
"It's nearly 30 years since Sharon Stone played Catherine Tramell in the film Basic Instinct. It was a role she craved, but only managed to get after 12. Other actresses turned it down. It became a huge box of his hit on that infamous uncross ng and crossing of the legs scene remains one of the most controversial and talked about moments in film history. The movies that followed include an Oscar nomination for her role in Scorsese's casino alongside Robert DeNiro. More recently, the Laundromat with Meryl Streep on on the small screen. There was last year standout performance in the Netflix series, Ratchet. At the height of her career in 2001, having had several miscarriages on day after adopting her first child, Sharon Stone, suffered a stroke and almost died. She's now written her autobiography, the Beauty of Living twice in it. She talks about the fact that some people saw her as a very strong, difficult woman and how upsetting that's peanut times as she told the BBC's Emma Barnet. We think what it really is, is that I don't have the capacity to lie, and I think that people find that quite off putting And when I tell the truth that can seem quite offensive or the favorite Hollywood word difficulty. I do feel that in business. We're often put in positions that we didn't ever see ourselves being put in. And they're often crisis moments where we have to reconsider. I'm in this position. Now. What am I going to do with regards to the me to movement? Now are a couple of years on from that deep do you actually think Because the other thing you talk about being the only woman on set, you know men were doing your hair. Men were doing your makeup. Do you think it has got any better? Yes, because legally, they're just things that cannot be explained away anymore. You just can't say why can't she have a female dresser?
Navigating Life After Pregnancy Loss
"The silence around losing a baby that my mom mentioned at the top of this episode is not only common for some cultures in household pregnancy. Loss can also be a taboo subject. So i very first takeaway and that goes for. Everybody is to acknowledge. The loss acknowledged that a family is hurting to help. Start our conversation. We wanted to speak with dr jamila parrot. A board certified gyn in washington dc. Where she's also the president and ceo of an organization called physicians for reproductive health. Now i have a little bit. Is my voice coming through okay. 'cause my video has been mike delayed intermittently during the day. You look fine so far. Good big part of the silence around pregnancy loss. The failure to acknowledge that loss is that we don't always have a shared understanding of what it is or how it shows up. There are lots of ways that people described pregnancy loss. We're using that phrase here but some people describe it as a miscarriage for an example in the medical field. We describe it as a spontaneous abortion. All of those mean the same thing that pregnancy stopped growing Typically in the first trimester but not always. Dr parents says that most of the time it's unclear why pregnancy loss happens. That's why we call it. Spontaneous typically in the way. That i talk about it with people that i care for. It's nature's way of ending a pregnancy. That wasn't going to be able to continue on. Its own my mom well. She's all too familiar with dr perez describing alone said her loan me. Why aren't two years after having me. My mom suffered a miscarriage. She and my dad tried again and in january nineteen ninety-three gave birth to my twin sister brittany brianna but brianna. Well she was born sleeping.
New Zealand approves paid leave for miscarriage
"To provide paid leave for employees who have had a miscarriage. The legislation was approved unanimously this week. Mothers and their partners will now be offered three days of bereavement leave if they experience a miscarriage. Women previously had two you sickly that they lost the pregnancy unless their company offered leaves specifically. For that, and they're hoping it will run around the world. We update
Chrissy Teigen quits Twitter, citing negativity
"Teigen. Who had thirteen point. Seven million twitter followers was once called the unofficial mayor of twitter by the company quits the platform after years of harassment. Quoting the verge. Peaking quit the social media platform wednesday night in a series of now deleted tweets. Teagan said twitter no longer serve me as positively as it serves me negatively and i think that's the right time to call something the model and media personality who is married to singer. John legend was a witty presence on twitter and she had thirteen point seven million followers on the platform which he joined more than a decade ago. Teagan tweeted about everything from her kids to cooking projects to personal challenges in her life including a miscarriage. She suffered last october. She was famously blocked on twitter. By former president trump who was himself banned from the platform in january. It was one of a handful of counts followed by the official account. When president biden took office twitter even promoted her as the unofficial mayor doing a behind the tweets video segment in two thousand nineteen where she gave some backstory about several of her higher-profile tweets but teagan who was also target of vitriolic abuse. An ongoing harassment. Both on twitter pizza gay conspiracy theorists baselessly claimed teagan and legend where part of a non-existent pedophile ring supposedly run out of a washington dc pizzeria. She said she deleted thousands of tweets and blocked more than a million twitter accounts last july after ongoing harassment by cunanan followers. For years i have taken so many small to follower count punches that at this point. I am honestly deeply bruised. She tweeted last wednesday. This is a very bad look for twitter which just by all of its efforts to reduce harassment on the platform was unable to protect a woman of color and arguably one of the best known personalities. From being targeted and
Scientists Create Living Entities In The Lab That Closely Resemble Human Embryos
"Have created living entities in the laboratory that resemble human embryos more closely than ever before. Story from NPR's Rob Stein to international teams of scientists coached stem cells and skin cells to form into complex balls of cells that very closely resemble human embryos at the stage when they implanted the womb. Researchers say these so called blast toys will help them learn more about early human development and hopefully find new ways to prevent birth defects, Genetic diseases, miscarriages and infertility. The researchers say the structures could not be used to try to make a baby. But their creation is raising concern that others could take this research even further.
Royal treatment: Meghan Markle, Prince Harry detail racism, suicidal thoughts in Oprah tell-all
"The world learned a lot sunday night. When prince. harry and megan's bombshell interview with oprah aired. But it also raised some questions entertainment and wellness reporter hannah yasharoffwelcome dives in. I feel like we could sit here for hours literally. Just rehashing the major points. He's feels like everything that came. Out of. Meghan and harry's nounce were such big bombshells megan revealing that she had thoughts of suicide while still living in the palace and not getting the medical help that she needed to deal with that. Despite asking for it several times there was another pretty dramatic moment in the interview when shared that someone at the palace later clarified. Not the queen or her husband prince philip but someone raise conversations about how dark their baby's skin might be when he was born and then on a happier note. Meghan and harry announced that for the first time that they're having a baby girl so baby archie. Who about one and a half is going to be big brother and that does add a little bit of light to all this after not only all of the hardships of dealing with leaving their roles in the royal family but also the hardships that they faced last summer when megan had a miscarriage so some questions came up. Particularly i think from american viewers watching when meghan mentioned the firm playing an active role in your perpetuating these falsehoods about them. So in the uk the firm generally understood to me in the royal family but from the way meghan was speaking it also seemed to sound like she was alluding to broader senior officials that work in the palaces well and she talked about how she felt that they didn't support her during their time there particularly facing lies from the tabloids that she felt like they didn't seem to want to clarify and then like we discussed asking for mental health support. So harry has said this a few times but he really saw history repeating itself with the way that his wife was being treated in the press and by the palace compared to the circumstances his mother face straight before she died so in there is from what they said they really felt lucky to get out of this alive which i think you know definitely puts into perspective why they felt. It was so necessary to make this decision to leave which megan made the point that yes a lot of the reason the hey she faces is more difficult has to do with her race But there's also this added component of social media that there wasn't at the peak of diana coverage and your even when willing. Kate got married ten years ago. It's a time for all of us participating in the discussion. Whether that's you know in the capacity of a journalist or the paparazzi or a fan or a critic weighing in on on social media to really like re what it is. We're adding to the conversation. And if it's causing unnecessary harm to people being written about or the people reading
Meghan Markle & Prince Harry Will Do Oprah Interview
"In an interview with oprah. So what does that mean for their royal feet future just out today. Please welcome billy out about skies to kim with had president dan. Let's get right into it. Let's start with the beautiful photo. The harry and meghan share to make their valentine's day announcement. the happy news comes just months after making revealed. Jim suffered a miscarriage in july. Now we also learned that harry and meghan her going to a sit down interview with the one and only oprah winfrey. It's going to air march seventh on cbs. I am thrilled about this. Sit down with the wall. I guess we'll get to see it all but it just. I'm excited about this. However what do you guys. Do you think this is going to be very telling or anything. Because their friends is going to be safe up. Think it's going to be telling a love. The queen is interviewing the. I think you know oprah's going to go into going to ask even though they're friends they're going to be you know. I'm sure they'll know the questions that are coming. She's not going to surprise them. But i think it's things that everyone wants to know and I think megan is going to tell the truth. They've already departed from the crown. So what am i. The only person that is terrified for this interview air. Yes which way well. Here's the thing. It's a ninety minute interview. Ninety minutes gives the world a lot of footage to dissect minute by minute minute and she just announced her pregnancy. I think we're so happy for her. She went through such a terrible loss. She shared that with us. And i feel like she's inviting negative energy into this space because at the end of the day this is a lose lose for them. And i'll tell you. Why if oprah asked them about will and kate or about megs it and they don't talk about it right then. We're all going to speculate if they do talk about it. That breaks all protocol that goes against the palace like there is no turning back after that moment so i am nervous because i just don't see the upside of this interview for them other than the fact that listen people want closure and you wanna get your truth out there and maybe that's what this is for meghan but i just want all the good things for them and i just want all the good energy and i don't want people to dissect this view and be mean to them. They've had enough and they have had enough but at the same time. I think they've got pretty thick skin at this point. They're used to that. I think that they can entrust oprah in the sense of how she's going to ask the question. It'd be delicate about it. That's why they're they're good friends. Riley your neighbors. You know all of those things. So i think you're right they're gonna do an interview. It could really hurt them either way. But i think it's okay with oprah oprah though is not going to get there still royalty even though they left the they're still not going to be there because they like don't like this off come on. It's gonna be very pc crew. Yeah everything's gonna be very safe. We're not gonna get this spill all like here's how i truly feel however it will probably the most open they've ever been because there is no pressure left. They're just putting the nail the conference. We're going to tell interview so you'll be there really done because i think and the queen put you on the most wanted list at the royal hundred percent. And here's what's at risk for harry. So he does have honorary military titles. Still they're saying that with his participation in this interview those will be stripped from him he along with all of the patronage is that are still left because new york santa clara son sort of agenda. There's something they're launching. There's something with net flicks. I mean when you get a interview. With oprah winfrey oprah has not been doing these interviews in a while so when she picks one person or person that we all want to. Everyone is what. I don't care if they say the abc's for ninety minutes we're all going to be like. Oh look she said yes only going to be watching it engaged in. It gives us an insight. Just that's why the crowd is so popular hundred percent. I don't think you're right. They're not going to say anything. That goes against the crown or give any family secrets away. But i think we will enjoy the interview and oprah will ask questions that will make them answer. You're going to have to answer oprah's not gonna just sit there now and just like she's a masterclass in an interview. Even you think you aren't going to answer. The question oprah will get it out of. There is no way that you can. I mean she's like a force. There's no way that you can resist. I've got the data said. Cbs is ready. I'm excited
Meghan Markle and Prince Harry expecting second child
"Santa Barbara is about to get a new royal resident. The Duke and Duchess of Sussex, better known as Prince Harry and Meghan Markle are expecting their second child. Yesterday, their office confirmed their son Archie is about to be a big brother. The announcement comes after Marchal said she had a miscarriage last summer. This could be the royal couple's last last child, Prince Harry said in 2019, he thought he would only have two kids to limit the family's environmental
Prince Harry and Meghan Markle announce they're expecting a second child
"And the Duke and Duchess of Suspects are expecting their second child. A spokesperson for the couple said in a statement that Archie is going to be a big brother and that the Duke and Duchess are overjoyed in early 2020, Prince Harry and Meghan Markle announced they were quitting royal duties and moving to North America. Studying the need for privacy. They recently bought a house in Santa Barbara, California in November. Megan revealed that she had a miscarriage in July. 2020. I'm Mary Course, Eddie and this responsible
Prince Harry and Meghan are expecting their second baby, spokeswoman confirms
"Harry and meghan announced that archie is gonna be a big brother. That news comes just a few months. After megan disclosed she suffered a miscarriage. Here's abc's janai. Norman tonight big baby news for meghan markle and prince harry sharing this photo smiling at each other. Megan hand on her baby bump a spokesperson confirming. Archie is going to be a big brother. The duke and duchess of sussex are overjoyed to be expecting their second child. Today's announcement hits quite a few not only will be the first american royal baby but also one of the first royal babies to be born in the us we have very transatlantic royal family news of that child. That would be eighth in line to the throne coming just two and a half months. After markle revealed the couple suffered a miscarriage in a new york. Times op ed writing. I knew as i clutched my first born child that i was losing my second hours later. I lay in the hospital bed holding my husband's hand. I tried to imagine how he'll after the difficulties that megan faced in the closing of two thousand eight hundred twenty. This is a great start at twenty twenty one
Prince Harry and His Wife, Meghan, Expecting Second Child
"There's are some happy news today for two british royal transplant. Now making their home here in the us. Prince harry and meghan markle are expecting their second child. Sarah harman is in london with more. It's another royal baby. For prince harry and meghan the couple confirming. They're expecting their second child. Sharing this photo and writing can confirm that archie is going to be a big brother. Megan gave birth to their first son archie harrison in may of twenty eighteen in november. She revealed she had suffered a miscarriage writing of her heartbreak in the new york times and describing and almost unbearable grief after stepping back as working royals last year. The decision i made for my wife and i to step back is not one i made lightly hairy and megan started a new life in california signing multi million dollar deals with net flicks and spotify and swapping royal red carpets for zoom calls and everyone's and mental emotional wellbeing when they stepped away from the royal family harry and meghan gave up their royal highness titles as well as any public funding but harry did not give up his place in the royal line of succession in a statement. Buckingham palace said her majesty. The queen and the entire family were delighted and wish them well. Their new baby will be eight in line to the throne sarah harman. nbc news.
"miscarriage" Discussed on Beat Infertility
"I am doing just fine. i do just fine. thank you for asking. I want to start by introducing you to our audience. A why don't you tell us about your academic background in training. Schiller really excited to be here. And i am an obgyn practicing locally in charleston. South carolina in a transitional phase. Now i worked for a large help cure system here in charleston but last month i decided to start a private practice so now i'm in limbo waiting for memory. I start my own practice. And so i'm just kinda getting things ready and getting excited to do that. But i trained at the medical university of south carolina here in charleston one of our three major medical schools and then i did my own training in charlotte north carolina. Why did you choose a career in obstetrics and gynecology. Have you know it's funny. Because i always dreamt that i would become a pediatrician. Because i really like kids. When i was younger and the babysit for a mom's friends and then and medical score. We'll ask that was certainly a poor fit for me because i really liked clear. Communication and kids couldn't tell me what was wrong and appearance were just hysterical and jets. Were crying it. Just really made me comfortable but i did my obgyn rotation and mmediately actor pediatrics and illinois. Love talking about women and women's issues and we would talk about oprah and talk back. And i just really feel that it was a great army. I'm really passionate about the help. In general are really out my space and get you. We've heard about your but why don't you take us through your career. All the positions you've held. I assume you did some fellowship stuff and residency at what you do now. Yes absolutely well. I did my residency at carolinas medical. And i really do develop an interest in adolescent health as well as minimally invasive surgery side. It's in special training. Just kind of pertaining to that and then just became a prophet Private practitioners are and my interest earliest vaginal hysterectomies and seizures as well as just educating my patients so i really am truly blessed to have found a company called nate list and they are as passionate as i regarding the pregnancy experience as well as a trying to see journey and making sure that that beautiful. That journey is one. That's beautiful and one that's respected and one. Nothing's free so we really try to make that journey such by educating and empowering women to owners ernie to know that it's different than anyone else's we also sell pregnancy related products to help achieve pregnancy. But to help out your nazi. I understand that you went through your own infertility journey. Can you tell us about that. Absolutely so my husband and i both in medical school and we got married shortly after medical school and relent and different states for a while as he continued his training because he was a year behind me and saw we really delayed intentionally childbearing because we knew our schedules conflict and just demands of our schedules and so when we decided actor being married. Or maybe i'm here is that we were ready to get pregnant. We really did not expect it to take an additional three and a half almost four years to conceive so we went their own battery of tests. In just a standard workup for unexplained tilleke. Everything came back negative and so there. We were without a diagnosis because we're medical minds. We really wanted to know what was wrong. So we can fix it per se and it really ended up being one a day hughes testimonies of our faith in our marriage because it really had to determine that there are other things at work but also we have to rely on other sources because the medical field in general could really give us. Any hansen speak was unexplained and so that was. He's trying to for us because we it was a hardship but then triumph in the end we are going to be talking today about pregnancy after miscarriage. This is such an important topic. I had four miscarriages myself. I know a lot of listeners. Have had miscarriages. So why don't we start by defining miscarriage and are there different types absolutely and heather. Your experience is not isolated so many women have had multiple miscarriages. But it's one of those hush hush topics people really don't delve into and you don't know until you share your story and then get some camaraderie innocence from others. Who have experienced such myself. I've had maybe four or five. You know so. They happen very commonly and miscarriages. they're defined as any explosion of a pregnancy or fetus prior to twenty weeks. Jen are there different types of miscarriages. And you're absolutely are typically. We consider first trimester miscarriages s spontaneous miscarriages in terms of how they just spontaneously occur. And so that's the most common type when it happens. Probably about twenty percent recognized pregnancies ended in a miscarriage. And what about things like blighted. Ovum missed miscarriages. Molar pregnancies ectopic pregnancies. These all fall under the miscarriage category. Not so typically the miscarriages. Actually well i will say on the topic. Pregnancy doesn't however obliged obam embryonic demised missed miscarriage or amidst a b. Is what we call it. Those are all under the heading of spontaneous abortion which is a medical term for a miscarriage. They really need to change that. Especially for the infertility community absolutely. I feel that. It's a bit insensitive. And i'm surprised that it stayed around for so long. But it's definitely spontaneous abortion versus an elective abortion where percent intense to end the pregnancy. So the big question. How long do you have to wait to try to get pregnant again. After a miscarriage is it depends on how far along you were absolutely so most first trimester miscarriages which are the most common typically miscarriage. If it's going to happen about eighty percent of those do occur in the first trimester and so once you do miscarry we expect you to bleed for one to two weeks after that and then your body will ovulate typically about or weeks after that. And so you're gonna see your first cycle and traditionally and historically we would tell patients to wait three months. Just allow your body to clinton self your cycles to reset an emotionally and physically for you to fill that you're ready for your next primacy. But those guidelines have no data supporting them and so we typically tell patients once they are physically and emotionally ready after seeing your first cycle after a miscarriage than certainly okay to try yet. And what about if you have a loss during the second trimester so those rules may vary depending upon what caused the miscarriage. What condition your postpartum. So if you had like a really late and again. Miscarriage typically as a loss of privacy that occurs before twenty weeks later second trimester pregnancies. We.
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"miscarriage" Discussed on Birthful
"Experience easier or did you prepare anything. I didn't prepare anything. I didn't prepare anything because i was told With my husband. That i was with we were together for so long and i literally went from being you know. Being three hundred eighty five towns then. I didn't know i was pregnant. I had back pain. I ended up in the hospital and they told me that. I am pregnant. And i had you know an eye out now granted through the process i had been bleeding so in my mind is like what are we not pregnant will. Oh you know you had a miscarriage. Let's just let's let's check you and they checked me and they find out thursday. My son i was going to have twins. I was going to have twins. I didn't know that that was even a thing. And they had told my current husband at that time that he can have kids and then boom. It's like the happens like you're pregnant and then again you go through. Unexpected your partner you your partner abandons you for the second time you're going into premature labor that's unexpected. You have so much stress now. it's not so much it's just a pregnancy. Now it's premature pregnancy. Emergency c section. Not have the actual pain of being cut open of not knowing what's going to happen next and then beat you know. When my son was born he was so timing. He had to be in the hospital because he couldn't keep his weight. He couldn't keep his spotting temperature so there was just now. This was a whole new level jazz being on. How long was he in the hospital for curb about months and all. That's happening you. Are you have one at home and you're recovering from a cesarean as a single mom. So tell me what that looked like. Oh my goodness. I wasn't prepared. Ac- section it burns so much it was so much pain And then again on top of it on top of it. I was a plus size women heavy set and then might might like i the wait for my stomach with pressure on the section that got infected so at that moment in my life. My dad's stepped in you cry. You gotta keep walking. You gotta keep walking future feeling. I'm always grateful that my dad told me that. Feel what you're doing. You're allowed to feel which a feeling it's okay field but don't stay there you've got to keep walking out of sun and that's the first time in my life that i start asking pediatric questions. What's next what should i expect. What do i have to do..
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"Crime related to funneling money to the white house in exchange for a presidential pardon according to court documents unsealed in federal court u s district judge beryl. How released a heavily. Redacted order on tuesday that described what she called a bribery for pardon investigation about half of the eighteen page document was blacked out with the publicly available version. Providing few details of the alleged scheme and naming none of the people potentially involved it said federal prosecutors in washington said they had obtained evidence of a bribery scheme in which someone would offer a substantial political contribution in exchange for a presidential pardon or reprieve of sentence. The order said prosecutors. Were also investigating a secret. Lobbying scheme in which two unidentified individuals acted as lobbyists to senior white house officials without complying with the registration requirement of the lobbying disclosure. Act the justice department had to ask house permission to view cetin emails between and clients who were not identified. How granted the requested. August saying the attorney client privilege did not apply in that instance prosecutors had said they planned to confront three unnamed individuals with the communications and finish their investigation according to howls order government. Investigators said they had seized over fifty digital media devices including iphones ipads laptops thumb. Drives and computer and external hard drives presidents enjoy wide latitude under the. Us constitution in pardoning people convicted of federal crimes and miscarriages of justice. Donald trump last week pardoned his former national security adviser. Michael flynn who twice pleaded guilty to lying to the fbi during the investigation into russian meddling in the two thousand sixteen presidential election. That was the first of what is expected to be a string of pardons in trump's final weeks in the white house. According to howls order the justice department had recently told her he wanted to keep the investigation from becoming public because it detailed individuals and conduct. That had not yet been charged just
Meghan Markle Reveals Miscarriage
"Meghan Markle reveals she had a miscarriage in July. It's an unusually personal disclosure from a high profile British royal, she writes in The New York Times, quote. Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief experienced by many but talked about by few Meghan and husband, Prince Harry moved to the U. S this year after stepping down from their roles as senior Royals
"miscarriage" Discussed on LIFE: Love,Insight, Fertility, Experience
"Pregnancy test is taken away after a miscarriage it's wonderful way to put it and there's a lot of grieving that goes on. An ally of. Gladys sadness. The can't be enjoyed sometimes anger answered. Get that and start degrees at that point is even help pulled over to talk about it. I. You know I just hope that it allows for more fulfilling discussions between patients and doctors I do want to. Really emphasize that. Even if you do testing and evaluation recurrent miscarriage, most of the time, you don't find an issue and the people that are getting pregnant. Because the issue is in embryo the most common cause of miscarriage is a chrome balancer genetic issue with an embryo. It's unique to that pregnancy and it doesn't mean that it would happen again. Most people will go on without significant testing or intervention to you have a healthy baby family without significant intervention I really want to emphasize that I. I hope that this. Relaxing, the definition will allow people to have. Fulfilling. Conversations and. Get those discussions from doctors rather than the dismissive over not going to do testing until you've had three. I I hope so too because it's a lot about empowering the patient. To have that dialogue. And Bring Natta because they find that sometimes the Doctors WanNa talk about it and Simpson wanted make it into very light situation because there is what you had said before approximately seventy percent, which is huge. So we know approximately seventy percent. But really, there's only something that we have to investigate in one out of eight. That's a huge disparity. Huge difference. So exactly. The mass important to look at. It doesn't make away from the feelings of people feel when they do miscarriage though. We deal with people who have recurrent pregnancy.
"miscarriage" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"A. In House pedicure. Remember that the day after? And I remember her like. Truly just massaging my legs in hurting it hurt my core. It hurts so bad my skin hurt my bones hurt. My toenails hurt. I had headaches. I was vomiting I I mean I was very very sick for two days and then. And then felt normal which. I hated. I remember when you got hurt pretty much as soon as miscarriage happened, you went on this whole physical regiment pressure body and like like you said you, you're going to see the doctors and nutritionists and like you did change. The first one you stumbled the first pregnancy stumbled into the second. You're like changed everything. Started you even started drinking water which never happened. Going back to those guilt feelings during the miscarriage I was afraid that it was my lifestyle. Former eating disorders just anything that could have caused it and I knew before I started trying again, which took me awhile I. Mean it was six months to a year before we ever even pushed it to the side and said, you know we're GonNa wait that we are not argued, but we were on the same page for that long. I was around six months to a year. I was finally like you know what I'm on the same page, we're GONNA put. And I went on a mission and I was like before I ever start trying again, I want my body as clean as possible and. I went. And saw nutritionists I saw acupuncturists I saw doctors and got. You know. IMERYS and ultra sounds of my uterus and change your physically. You're like workout routine changed my workout routine. I was working out super extreme and then I went super like just consistent and healthy and didn't overdo anything I. started taking vitamins and Prenatal 's and would drink water and I wouldn't take medication and I wouldn't take adderall and I would like all of these things I got off birth control, but then was very smart about being intimate to make sure just I just did everything I regulated everything to make sure my body was healthy so that if a baby ever came along. I knew it was my body that could take care of them. When we decided that we were ready to have a kid. Like you were, you had laid the foundation. As best you could I want WanNa put a caveat. clarified. The honest open and honest thing when you're going through a hard time. I think as long as you're honest. With the understanding that the other person comes first and you're you're loving person that should be the. The. Qualifier for like 'cause I can be honest and it can be brutal. But if my first priority is you and like my love for you then that changes. My perspective you know what? I'm saying absolutely going back to the story of the bench. I remember it was more honest and we had ever been an I was very honest because you kept we both just kept saying, why why do you feel this? Why do you like? Why do you worry not ready? Why are you ready and we kept being vague and all of a sudden we flipped a switch both of us and I was like, I, feel like. You don't trust me to be a mother. I feel like you do not want children because of in it just got deep a deep into very vulnerable. Guilt thoughts that you have in your subconscious that are rational but need to be shared in order for that other person be like. I I now understand why you feel this way and I'm going to prove to you. In. kind of hit. Those crazy thoughts down so that you have the security, you need the intention being. Let's Have this draws closer. Yeah. It's it's hard. Yeah. All, right. What advice. Would you give yourself or someone else? Experiencing miscarriage man. I would say it will be the hardest thing you'll ever go through. I mean I i. do believe. I. Don't want to say it's a hardest thing. I'll ever go through because there are so many traumatic things that can happen. I hope it's I. Hope no one ever has to go through it. It is a very, very hard thing to go through. It's very painful thing emotionally painful physically painful. But if I could tell myself anything until. Anyone going through it, it'd be to lean into someone you love whether if you have a spouse lean into them. Family friends, but ask for help and do not do not harbor or hold in anything because it just makes it worse. I would I would say that. No that there is hope I said this last episode. Know that there is hope no matter what that looks like there is another chapter and that's going to happen and. It. That next chapter. Can Be Better. If you work through the difficulties whether you have another kid. Or. You're able to get pregnant again or if you decide not to try again. I think that. The next phase is going to be better off. So just know that. I had until. I, had. Yeah. We should and in the next episode talk about. It did change our expectation for the next pregnancy I do feel like there was has. Hesitation to fully dive into the excitement of the child always this realization that we might have miscarriage and dealing with then society and everything. Society tells you when it comes to kids which. Like you alluded to earlier, a lot of it, we very strongly disagree with. So I think we should talk about as well. Well. We hope you found this episode. Helpful. Valuable and we appreciate the feedback you give us If you haven't all remind you to subscribe and rate the show us an email at couple things pod. That's Ed Jamile DOT COM. If you have any requests or stories to share, we love going through those. And that's the whole point of why we do all we do. So we can get snow you connect with you and. Thanks for listening. and. The East Fan out. We'll see next time..
"miscarriage" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"It's back to it. Is there anything that you wish you would've known when you're going through the miscarriage? I don't know I would say I i. wish I would have known the research behind it how common it was that It doesn't mean you can't get pregnant again that it's not the end of the road like I wish I would've known all of it but I don't think it would have changed anything. I, think the amount of grief and pain woman goes through. Can't. Be. It can't be rushed off it is. and. There's this little part of our video are logged that we made of this moment, and I didn't say it well enough. But there is this feeling that you get as a woman and I can't. I can't explain it. But I, knew when I was pregnant. It's just like. It was just instant. My body was no longer mine and. I just knew it's just this feeling I don't know. And I knew when I wasn't pregnant anymore. I remember walking into that office and it just it that it wasn't there are I. Remember that to you like you immediately before you got in the car, you were like I think I lost it. And I was like well, hold on. Let's not call the I. Call the shot early you know. And but in I say that because. Yes I I wish I would've known all the information the world about miscarriages but nothing can take away that feeling and nothing can take away that. that. Media loss you feel as a mom. was there something? Did you feel hope a and if you did what was the source of that? Hope through that experience for you? I yes I felt hope through you just through love. and. I knew when I felt that shift in my body and my mind and my heart. I was terrified of being a MOM I. Being an athlete I, I was a neatly selfish I mean you didn't want to gain thirty pounds whatever didn't want to gain thirty pounds didn't want to quote unquote give up my life like society tells you which we should talk about. I didn't want to be on someone else's schedule but as soon as I, felt that shift of like in my heart and soul of what it felt like to be a mom. It's all I wanted and that gave me hope it felt like a true purpose the I had. And I think reading people's stories and hearing over and over and over and over and over again. All of these stories of loss, but then hope because people would have these rainbow and miracle babies afterward, I've never heard the term rainbow baby until we went through it. A rainbow baby for if you don't know is. A child that follows a miscarriage. Do You Is it fair to say that like you? If you knew all the stats and all like the. The comforting formation like, Hey, it's not a lot of its most of the time not something that you did. Wrong that caused this? That would have given you hope but you're saying you still. You still would have gone through their motions. Turmoil is a hundred percent it just what helped you through that? I think it would have. I think it would have helped me through it a little bit more just because within my grieving process I I sought out all that information. To understand truly what had happened more. But I don't think it would have shortened the grieving process because. I felt like I lost a little part of my heart and. I think I will forever. Not have that part of my heart, but yet it it just healed and it took time. The next question I have here is. How did the miscarriage? Ship. I think that it was You know the discussion of. When we're going to try. Again. Really was the first like core disagreement, the unit had. For the most part And I think that not we definitely did it wrong I, think there was a lot of probably unfair emotions like anger or frustration or whatever that were exchanged but I think that it, it helped us. Communicate through that and realize that hey, even though this is a big issue. The most important thing is. That we stay together and work through this. And I think that changed I changed my perspective I'm like, Hey, you know what? This is this is a big topic but. I know that I can trust her to listen to what I'm saying. To. Respect that and I hope vice versa? I think it was the most separated. I've ever felt from you which I think that that made it hard for us because. Since, we weren't unified in opinions and thoughts and emotions. It's almost like we were. We're acting as individuals and not as a couple which made it very hard. But. The good thing is a silver lining to that is that we were honest with each other. So much rather. Go through that period of loneliness then faking like we're you. Page and I think. Unfortunately and fortunately, a lot of couples have to go through something very, very painful. To get on that level of. Relationship I don't I don't know how to say that but. You hear all of these stories of couples going through traumatic events. That bring them even closer together and I think it was the first thing we had gone through that that bad. That brought us closer together. We could communicate better. We could be more vulnerable together. We could talk about deeper things and deeper emotions and pain than we ever had and I think that the important caveat to that because I do believe that pain. Does have that effect. Is that on just GonNa reiterate this that we were honest through that because again, if you're if you're not honest and there's no, there's nothing productive then comes I don't find out anything new about you. You don't find out anything new about me. My definition of love is your willingness to sacrifice and. When you're both honest, there's going to be some sacrifice and thus I think the love grow so. That was kind of a tangent but I I do think it's no absolutely. Did it. Take you awhile physically recover. At. All. From the miscarriage not. Really. I I think the only thing truly physical that I felt like needed. Healed was my heart which sounds cliche. But. I was violently ill for two days. I mean couldn't get up off the floor were you're paying white? I mean straight white in the face and in my body I remember my skin hurt..
"miscarriage" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"What's up everybody welcome back to couple thing was Sean and Andrew. tynecastle about couples. Go through. Thanks for coming back. If you haven't yet please press the subscribe button whatever platform you're listening on or watching on subscribe and rate to show. Please this is a continuation of our miscarriage journey two weeks ago we posted. All the events that went down today we're going to be talking about kind of how we digested that and how it affected our relationship today. I also wanted to give a quick update. So if you're noticing or kind of shifting around our our schedule a little bit, we are going to be alternating interviews with other couples and. Just podcast with us. So two weeks ago was the first one. It was last week that we had an interview I mean it'll continue that way. If that makes some of you really love the interviews some of you really love just sean and I so work kind of interchanging it and work cited. But, the feedback that we got from this first episode of the miscarriage story was really fantastic. We've got hundreds of emails from some of you who have experienced that or have recently gone through this with a friend and we love hearing your feedback. We love responding to those and including you and our prayer. So please continue to do that. We are here the whole reason we're sharing this so that we can. Help you through it maybe. So yes. So to give you a little recap of where we left off two weeks ago, we released the first part of the miscarriage story, which was kind of just telling you guys that back in two, thousand, seventeen, the fall of we were surprised to find out that we are pregnant. It was the greatest news with the most overwhelming terrifying scary news because we weren't planning on being parents yet. We we want to parents but that was just. On the plan quote, Unquote Plan that we had for ourselves, it was early. we had about a week. I personally had a week to digest the news I flew home to the Andrew I told him and then it was the next morning I started bleeding a ton. I had excruciating pain. I was white in the face sweating vomiting something was wrong. We went to the doctor only then to find out I was miscarrying. and. I think one of the hardest things I had to learn digest at that moment was when we went to the doctor he was the greatest most he was everything I needed a doctor at that moment he said I need you to look at me and I need you to digest this and understand it and listen when I say but it's nothing that you did you didn't eat the wrong thing you weren't around the wrong people. Because you inhaled second-hand smoke it wasn't like none of this. It's not your fault. It happens in one out of every three or four pregnancies to very, very common. And, I remember. One just feeling like I could. My is out for year listening to him say that but I fought it back out of gratitude at a gratitude out of. It's almost like he he knew exactly what I was feeling that he even had to say it. But. I felt so much guilt and this is something I. tried articulating the last in the first part, which was I think one of the hardest things a woman goes through when they miscarry. Is this feeling this innate feeling of? We're we're you know we're women and were supposed to carry children you know I'm not saying that's everyone's purpose in life but it's like our bodies are made to to carry children and when I got pregnant I felt like it was my role as your wife has the mother of the unborn child to take care of them. Are It or who he she whatever we didn't we never found out. In when I miscarried I, felt like I had failed at being a mom. And I felt I felt like I failed you. And I felt like it was the poor decisions I made in my diet or the Diet pills I took or the Anorexia I struggled with or you know all these mistakes and things that I went through prior I felt like caused this that it might be Karma or that might whatever I was going down a dark path and to have him look me in the eyes and say it's not your fault felt like. The wait was taken off but yet it me think about it more. It was crazy that I really hadn't put much thought into is when you said we'd never find out the gender. We went to our whole our whole pregnancy withdrew finding out the gender, and then it just hit me that we didn't find out the gender for that baby and. Humanize the whole thing I mean as a husband I'm a little more removed from actual like pregnancy process and you are. The purpose of today's episode is to talk about how the grieving process went for us and the unique thing about miscarriages especially when they happen. Early on is. It's not like it's not like having a baby where you get maternity leave or you know time to deal with emotions and this change in life. There's no postpartum period. It's like huge jump back into life and I don't know if you remember but it was two days after you had the miscarriage that we had to speak at like this huge. Golf event down. So be women's empowerment event, which was even harder right and. You're supposed to get up on stage and like you know prevent this or. Give this inspiring speech. And You know not everybody's giving speeches but a lot of people have to just go show up to work the next day or that week. And that's so hard because it's such an emotional thing as you've shared feel like. But then you have to show up an act like everything's normal and really. I don't know if you felt hesitation share the you had a miscarriage. It's not like some that you want to go around the office saying like. Like you seem a little down today. What's wrong? I just had a miscarriage. Yeah. Oh no absolutely and I think that's why a lot of women are afraid to share because. One there's nothing you can do you know it's not like I can tell you what is going on and you fix it like there's nothing to fix it, and there's really nothing to say and when a woman goes through that when I went through that. I felt. More, pain and sadder than ever had my entire life..
"miscarriage" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"So he gave us some stats, some facts I'll just read them here. He said about one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage. But it's not talked about commonly and. That was a cool. You know we we end up sharing this video and it was number one on Youtube. It was like it was. It went wild because. It's not often talked about and like we had just gone through this whole experience of finding out where pregnant to find out as a miscarriage in like a short amount of time. Anyway, the the cool side effect of a sharing that which took a lot of courage on your part well explained that to Roy quick just because. Again we were filming everything. For Own, we never ever ever planned on putting that on the Internet ever was for a home video for us to document our first child. If you look at the videos, we had made up to that point and it was like slime videos labs with these nickelodeon stars never show showed anything like that personal and after we got home from the doctor. I wanted to watch the footage. I wanted to go back and look at everything. I was just sad I was really lost and really sad and I had no idea how to even begin to pull myself back together. So. I was just watching. I was watching through your little speech to that baby and just all of things. And we started editing video again for us and I remember late that night having a conversation with Andrew saying in telling him. And if he know the dynamic between us. Andrew more the one who's like let's post us. It's fun. I'm more the one that's like I don't WanNa post it. And I was the one telling Andrew I want to post this. And he kept saying, are you sure I don't think you know. Like he kept trying to protect me and say, I, don't think we should do that. Let's keep it to ourselves. And I don't know why just kept insisting and I remember I stayed up almost all night that night after we posted it. Reading comments in just crying reading people's personal stories about how they got through their miscarriage that they went through it as well and I just didn't feel alone. It was cool for me to sit there and watch you be able to sympathize and empathize and encourage and give encouragement from people who have been through the same thing. And are in different. Different. Points in the journey or process of grieving or making you know, hey, I went through three miscarriages and then I had three kids and you know just like. To, get different perspective was really cool on you for for you. Anyway on a personal, that's when I I realize realized. Wow social media as bad rap as it gets can actually be really cool and I think it. Helped you through really tough time. My. Emotional. Perspective on the whole thing was like a little different just because migrating was not so much. Just because I saw you were so deeply affected and there's I feel like the mom and just has a different relationship than the dad that early on in the absolute and women can ever expect a to understand that because again it's Since since a man doesn't get pregnant. I, mean. The hormones the just like innate Kinda like mom sense that you get during the pregnancy. I could never expect you to feel that or understand it. And I remember there are times where especially like the first week after. where I would just literally be so happy one minute and then just start the next minute. And you had asked me to like explain and I would try to explain as much as I could. But I just like I, just I just need you to hug me I mean in. I think the best thing you can do when you go through something like that is. To try to over communicate and over share and try to explain because. Your partner can't understand. Even if you're sharing I, don't know why. But I'm feeling sad like you don't. You know I, just expressing emotions and where you are is really important will needed a good job with that came with some learning and to explain a little bit about. Kind of what you go through when you miscarry or what I went through. Every person is different. I've. I. Just felt sad I felt so sad and I will admit I was not one to have ever probably thought that that much emotion could be attached to something that was. So fleeting I mean I literally only knew for a few days and. You know I was nine weeks pregnant. I wasn't full-term or whatever I was probably want to be insensitive to miscarriage before I actually went through it and. I kept telling and trying to explain to Andrew afterwards that I felt like I lost a child. I felt like. As a woman. One of my like. Purposes in life individually one of my purposes in life was. To be able to carry your child to take care of them to you know bird them to do all this and. When I miscarried I felt like. One of those fundamental foundational things that I might've been taught as a child, which is like one of my purposes as a wife has to give you a child. I felt like I failed in almost made me feel like I was a failure as a wife to you and as a spouse which makes total sense. Now, seeing the turmoil relationships, Kinda go through after losing children of any of. Age or pregnancy or whatever it's just. There is so much guilt wrapped up in it that I felt like you were going to resent me for it. It seemed like you're feeling guilt for that reason but also. As, discussed earlier like did you do something wrong like that affected this outcome and?.
"miscarriage" Discussed on On Point with Tom Ashbrook | Podcasts
"The idea that this narrative could look differently. The idea that people again that we really look up to could live this narrative and then also survived it candidacy incredibly helpful people. So I do think it's making a huge difference that these as high profile figures are using their platform to again to promote more dialogue around this very universal issue So let's Spend in the last couple of minutes here look forward with compassion and and advice and hope right so if someone's experiencing wincing him a miscarriage what's your first piece of advice to them on after receiving medical attention about what they should do to to get the kind of support port that we've been talking about. The first thing that comes to my mind is to be able to tell on it is okay that you are not feeling okay. A Lotta Times. I'll talk that normal. You takes a back seat after miscarriage. It is okay to feel like you're in fog to feel a whole host of emotions again. The all maybe within the same day within the same hour as well and I think as much as you can being able to reach out to people for support whether that is friends family only a partner co workers or even if it means like I need listen to this podcast like us that people are talking about miscarriage. It can be incredibly helpful because I think the really is a danger at times and just staying in the silence. 'cause that can like I said earlier. Be a breeding ground for shame and other host of just really isolating painful experiences. So I I guess my first advice or first suggestion would be to reach out to other people into again know that it is okay to not be okay after this and are there any books because we've had some commenters writing in saying that they found a lot of aid in in certain certain books literature. I mean aside from your own of course right right yeah. I think there are some really great books out there there are. There's one that I think it just called miscarriages another great one by psychologist call unsung lullabies really enjoy. There's a couple of great podcast. The managing miscarriage podcast in the life after miscarriage. PODCAST and something else. I think that's really helpful is. There's a number great online like facebook support groups as well. Two women are sharing sharing their stories sharing just different challenges that they're dealing with every day of for example. I had to go back to work and there was a baby shower. That was so hard to deal with people giving support so I think now there there is fortunately a number of different resources that we can tap into as. You're walking through this lawsuit. Dr Becker a prisoner many people listening. Who might want to know if there.
"miscarriage" Discussed on On Point with Tom Ashbrook | Podcasts
"Can you tell us more about the that emotional roller coaster that you're on in the immediate aftermath because oftentimes we hear about women there found their partners. People suffering this exensive shame. Did you own guilt. Yeah I certainly had those feelings after and so I had two miscarriages. I had one in October of two thousand eighteen and then I had my second miscarriage in March of Twenty nineteen missile. I will say I was experiencing some about emotional whiplash where soon after my first miscarriage I had these kind of different ideas and I think this is a common misconception that a lot of women experiences that the dia do something to cause this. Was it that hot shower. I took her was may not supposed to eat that. Specific type of cheese or maybe he wasn't okay that I had a cup of coffee even though my doctor said it and as much as my rational mind could tell me like no all of those things were okay again. I think it's really easy to go into that place of shame one. I'm not hearing enough stories at say like this is such a normal experience. It's normal that you're going to feel guilt. And sadness and shame aim anger and a whole host of other painful emotions to experience. I think that can feel really exhausting to have to go through all was ups and downs and on top of that I think a really difficult of emotion or experience that a Lotta people can have is also questioning that reaction having this idea the of I am I making this too big. Why am I having this when I don't see anyone else talking about this? I don't see anyone else being this devastated. And that's a question. I asked myself very often after my first miscarriage and I will say apart from all the other emotions that was probably the most painful to deal with the idea of wondering am I making too hugh big deal about this experience. Okay so how long. How long did that -tingency within you? You know. I think what really helped me was actually both writing the book and being able to listen to some of these great podcasts out there like the life after miscarriage podcast the managing miscarriage courage podcast where women are sharing their stories and they were talking about walking through all the same stuff that I had walked through where they felt angry at times like. Why did this have to happen? Tim felt sad and they felt devastated and wondered if they would ever be able to feel any differently than they were feeling. I think another thing that really helped as both my husband and I were really really open. After experiences of miscarriages we both did not really subscribe to the twelve week rule of waiting to tell people that we were pregnant. Just because we knew that if the I was to happen we wanted. Everyone support there. We didn't want to have to keep that all to ourselves and one thing that really helped us each time we would have a conversation with someone sharing about our miscarriage. It was shocking the number of people who share. Oh me too. I've also had that experience or my mom had that experience my sister or my wife my partner whatever whatever else and I think having those conversations just made me feel like wow I am not alone here and you know what I am not making this too big. Yeah well Dr Beck. I want to read to comment to you that we've gotten Received from listener here Because you really Hannah our listeners. Really SORTA hits home on this idea of the the unique AAC messages that women get when they're pregnant about the responsibility for the health of of the fetus. So Hannah says as has a regular rock climber my doctor gave me the green light to continue the sport early in pregnancy. As long as I dialed back. The intensity when miscarried cliffside. My husband noted noted that I should make it clear to my family and friends. We that we told that while I miscarried while rock climbing I didn't miscarry because I was rock climbing. That is the stigma. I've I felt that others would blame my loss on my activity and then she says pregnant women are told to avoid so many things alcohol Sushi etc.. It's no wonder that after we miss this carry. We sometimes worry it was our fault or that others may think it was Dr Beck. Would he think about that. I I mean I think what she saying is extremely dreamily valid. We definitely live in a society. Where as women when we go through a miscarriage there's this Amancio sense of shame? And is he knows. Both of you said this sense of responsibility that we did something wrong to cause this and I think a large part of that Addis because people don't talk about what truly are the causes that are known and related to miscarriage And so it's not well understood in the general neural population. I think also some of that comes from our you know. There's just a large body or lack of evidence as to. Oh you know what causes miscarriage for a large percentage of women and unfortunately that I think falls into a bigger picture of just a lack of research congenital until women's health issues and in particular pregnancy related issues So you sort of began to answer a question. I was going to ask you which the things that Hannah was pointing out about. All the things women are told to avoid or the ways. They're advised to change how they live their lives. I mean do we know at all if these are potential or not doing these things or potential causes of miscarriage. I assume you're in particular talking about like activity. Yeah I mean. She was talking about that. She was told about when women are told. Don't eat this that and the other. Don't drink this to change this activity. Obviously there's the smoking drinking drug rugged I mean all of that you get this whole like Papu advice on on how to live your life when you find out that you're pregnant I- shockingly of our understanding of things that do or don't have an effect on the risk of miscarriage actually from really old studies. I kind of really poorly designed studies So not actually strong evidence. I think the Circumstances are the things that we do have a strong sense are potentially related even then if you look at those studies Most of them are kind of looking back in time time women and looking at things that they were exposed to are things that happen to them and when you see a consistent trend in studies of certain things you correlate relate them to a risk of miscarriage but very few things are have been definitively linked to causing a significant increase risk of miscarriage in this kind of where as physicians and scientists. We say again for most studies. There's a strong difference between something correlating as a risk and something causing rhys. I see I really appreciate this. Because this is the kind of Bay basic education. We need right. That's part of the reason why it's so hard to talk about this because people don't know In what we know. And what we what we don't know no but let me ask you. I mean I always thought that One of the primary causes reasons. I don't know what the best word is for. A miscarriage is early in pregnancy. Is that perhaps there's something sort of catastrophically wrong with With the fetus. At that time genetically is that is that true true. Yes absolutely so when you particular when you look at what I was describing earlier as an early pregnancy lost village before twelve weeks arguably seventy percent of those. Those pregnancies are related to either a lethal genetic abnormality or a chromosomal abnormality where it is accepted in the medical community that if the pregnancy were to progress it would result in the birth of either stillborn or a child that has significant medical issues. That is highly likely not to be compatible with life. Even if the patient didn't miscarry so Sanita let me ask you about that because this is again one of those razor's edge things right like it especially when it happens early in pregnancy. See that there's every possibility it's because of the lack of viability So perhaps I don't want to call it a gift. You see him struggling Talking about this but it's it's quote unquote for the best and get it still this loss like how. How do you balance that? How did you balance that you know and I think this is really speaking to the complexity of miscarriage it's interesting? I published an article recently talking about miscarriage one of the comments. I had gotten what someone essentially sharing. I don't understand why you could be. Anyone could be upset about a miscarriage because this evolution isn't this Darwin's say way of saying survival of the fittest. And now I can as hurtful as that comment could be at the same time. I can hear what this person is trying to say this idea that. Yes isn't this just part of genetics evolution and at the same time. This is incredibly painful for people. This is still a loss and I think part of the work that I would do. I look for myself and with my kinds is is being able to hold both of those things at the same time. That loss is never going to be simple at all. It's going to be complicated and confusing. And there's so many different different pieces including bring all of them into the room and make space for all about that. It's valid that this happened in. It's also valid that. You're still feeling that loss that you're still still feeling like he wanted this life to happen that you had all these hopes and dreams that deserve to be mourned even with the medical reality of what happened as well too so I think you can hold hold both at the same time but it just shows the complexity on this issue it makes it really hard to really process fully Well you know we're actually getting a lot of comments comments on online here Really interesting one coming in from Gen Mac. Mini McMenemy. Jen If you hear this. I'm so sorry if I just did not do well in your last name but jen says it takes a while to recover from a miscarriage. That feelings and heartbreak. Aside the physical consequences acquaintances are not only painful but may require surgery that comes with weeks of controlling bleeding. I mean Dr Beck. We should talk about that. Like what are the potential medical complications or whereafter effects of the actual of the miscarriage itself. So ultimately it depends again so in what type of miscarriage somebody has so so as I said. Probably one of the more common Circumstances that we see a woman miscarrying us when she has still has the fetus without a heartbeat inside inside her uterus and how that's managed There are different options. There's kind of you can expectedly manage it and allow the woman to have her body naturally. It's really past the pregnancy You can Offer medication assistance. So that you hopefully expedite the process of her uterus circulating the tissue or the patient can opt to have surgery in again in that can be individualized to the patient's preferences in the Circumstance where a patient decides to wait it can be weeks and weeks before she actually passions tissue and so that that build up that I hate to say the word suspense. Because that's that's probably inappropriate word but that kind of not knowing that anticipation of if and when you're going to start bleeding will be at work. Will I be around people who I don't want them to know this is happening. Happening to me. you know that. Anticipation is I think. Dreadful probably for patients There definitely is a fair percentage of women who still want to to kind of trust that their body's doing what it's supposed to do in choose that pathway But for those women in particular who you know want their body to take the natural course. There's there's a higher risk that not all of the tissue will pass and so one of the most common complications of cares that we see. Is that the patient needs some additional procedure. Aw to help remove the additional tissues. So that they're not at an increased risk of excessive bleeding or infection and we're hearing that sometimes not all of those procedures leaders may be covered by insurance. I think I adamantly say I'm not an insurance expert only certain but I think in the circumstance of either a missed abortion or an incomplete abortion. I would have a hard time. Seeing an insurance company not paying for it versus it might come down to the the fine line of The physician documenting appropriately. That this is not an elective active abortion which is obviously a very drastically different procedure Yeah I mean there is obviously if patients have co pays there may be varying different different levels of copays and unfortunately that may steer people's decision making and how they managed the circumstance which is really unfortunate that they might not get to choose how they want to manage it based on Co pays and deductibles indeed Sanita just shift gears a tiny bit here. We've got actually quite a few few comments from folks talking about how hard it is to In the aftermath of miscarriage also given that so many women are working thing as well like for example. Sammy true. Says I remember being laid off during a miscarriage. She wants to hear and experience a more compassionate side side of the workforce for a change and then Carol Cutter Gonzalez sent us this message on facebook. She says I was very lucky. My employer was incredibly ably understanding When I was suffering through my miscarriages I can't even imagine how much harder it would have been if I was also worried about losing my job and my income and then Carol rightly points out that with the amount of American women now working in low wage or shift work it's undeniable that millions of women could be suffering through miscarriages and at risk of losing employment mint because of it? What do you think about that right? And I have seen. I'd say the whole spectrum of reactions where there are some jobs and bosses says who are incredibly understanding they support women and taking time off they may be in support the partner from taking time off because there is that physical and emotional recovery that needs to happen and and then I've heard a lot of women who they're so afraid that I can't actually leave work. I have to be there and they made even literally having some of the miscarriage while they're at work at the same time which can be of course quite traumatizing as well as I think it just serves to almost compound some of the grief and pain that.
"miscarriage" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside
"Who you are. Ben Nilsson guidance on helping your wife through a loss, a miscarriage I've been through it. But if either of you have might. I have been through it. But if either of you have might be helpful for others to know I, I'm not gonna speak on this because I haven't been through it. And I don't think that me telling you what, what it's like or or what you can experience. I don't think that's appropriate for me to say. I've had friends who have who've had still Bornes who had had miscarriages, and it's horrible. Horrible thing in hearing what they've gone through the only thing I would say is couple of things be supportive of your wife. I think proudly naturally during a miscarriage something like that, that, that a woman is probably going to have a harder time than a man, just hormonally hormonally physiologically and not to mention she was carrying a baby around for anywhere from, you know to, to nine months. So she has that physical connection as well. I would also say that. Having a licensed therapist to talk with would also be very, very valuable based on what I've seen some friends go through. I can't help but reference the question earlier about a loss, right at teenage loss in the in the power of the all Aji in religion, right? As part of this process. I'm sure that, that helps tremendously so Asia, she, she had miscarried miscarriage zoo couple years ago. In fact, we were just talking about it last week that, that Davie would be two years old. I think just last week we're talking about that he'd be too, and it was super tough first time that's ever happened to I've ever been involved. Right in that process. First time that's ever happened to her. And she struggled, it was it was a really, really tough scenario. The, the only thing that I feel during our conversations. That was the idea that this, this is a natural process. This was her body, dealing with the circumstances or the unique scenario of her pregnancy. Right. Her body miscarried are you saying that you feel like it wasn't meant to be? Well, not only will, let's be, let's be what's be very specific. Write a pregnancy loss or a miscarriage is, is a result of like chromosomes being at, like there's problems with the chromosomes that would prevent the fetus from developing. Normally, so so that's that is a woman's body that her body is actually doing the correct thing. Her body is miscarrying four a reason. Sure yen. So it's a very natural thing in her bodies working as, as intended, there's something wrong with chromosomes right where the fetuses not able to develop normally, and thus she has a miscarriage. And so I tried to. To remove that meaning a little bit. Right. It's not right. It's not wrong. It's, it's her body doing what her body supposed to do. Rights is by the design, right? And, and not to take away from the, the her.
"miscarriage" Discussed on ID10T with Chris Hardwick
"I just I related to him my anxiety of of work working on guardians of showing up on the biggest movie of my career, and them slapping that makeup on me. And. Having to pretend like I knew what I was doing. No, nobody trains you. How to do that? You don't know what you're doing just make the choice, and you leap, but we I I was just talking to him about the unfair pressures everything we've been talking about about a kid who's fifteen or sixteen who's been told that not only does he have to go to school. Good to college. But chances are when he gets out there won't be a job waiting for him. And he may have to move back in with his parents anyway. So what's going any of it? Point. And and to be at a school. Like, I'm I'm suing your school is kind of the same group of of the city's finest or quote, unquote, high achievers right who had to do a little bit of extra work to get into a certain school. It's just it's just a lot. It's just too much. And and it's and it should be. They just need permission to to talk about that have somebody to say, it's okay. It's okay for you to say that this is too much because it is and you'll get through it. And and those conversations it's just it's hard to have them. It's hard to have the context for having them until something bad happens. You know, one of the coaches at the school year ago. Was successful in taking his own life and his son goes at school, and his younger son is about to go to that school. And that's what sparked the conversation. That's what I love about. This is us is that we have these conversations about things like depression, anxiety miscarriage. The death of a father, you know, adoption when else are you going to talk to your kids or family or your friends about miscarriage? Right. Your friend gets pregnant. There's no good time to have the miscarriage conversation. Right. But it happens almost everyone. I know who's trying to get pregnant has experienced her had a miscarriage it happens way more than we talk about. But we just don't we don't have the context to bring up the conversation to let people know that they're not the only one going through it. Yeah. And finding ways to get people to find a support group or create us or again, just talk to each other. I think having conversations again like, you said conversations are so valuable, and it's you know, it's so easy and convenient to not do that. Oh, I. Many reasons that it's comfortable that just stay at home and not go do those things and it, unfortunately, it just takes a little bit of effort. You know, took a lot of effort to go speak two thousand kids at eight thirty in the morning, but it's great that you did it, and you know, that it was rewarding and it was worth it. Yeah. I walked away more experiencing more happiness than I've experienced a long time. But that idea of of doing whatever doing the things that you're afraid of or or making an actual connection. Like, it's a cliche at this point. Right. We've never been more connected because of the internet and the way thing quote unquote connected, but it's false intimacy, and it's false it's false honesty. It's there's there's still, you know, a thousand miles of fiber optic cable holding each other at at arm's, right?.
"miscarriage" Discussed on Mom Brain
"Being a mom is the toughest job there is and it doesn't come with instructions. So it's okay. If you don't have all the answers, we'll figure it out together. This is mom brain with malaria, Baldwin and Daphne us. Hey, guys. Welcome back to mom, and I'm Daphne, and I'm Ilaria today retracting with Christine, Barbara she is not only a brand new mommy to beautiful Raffaella who she calls RAFI. She's also the co founder of refinery twenty nine I'm sure a site. You guys like both of us are on all the time. And we're going to chat today about a topic. We've heard from a lot of you that you wanna talk about here about it's a little bit painful, obviously. But it's something that I think so many moms have gone through and talk about miscarriage, we're gonna talk about fertility. We're gonna talk about struggling through that going again, and again, and then baby after miscarriage, and what that looks like, and we'll also be talking about fashion and favorite things and other cool things that you obviously want to talk to Christine about so that's hear from Christine. We like to let people introduce themselves here because you know, yourself better than anyone. So please go ahead and tell the world all about Christine, Barbara right now in this moment. My god. Yeah. Intra. Oh, well, my name is Christine, Barbara I'm the global editor in chief and co founder of refinery twenty nine I'm a writer. I'm an editor. I'm a wife and a mother and a true friend. And what else do you want to know love vintage clothing? I'm constantly cleaning my closet, if you're wondering what I'm doing on a Saturday. I'm probably will these days. I don't really have that much time. But, you know, honestly, like just rotating things out of my closet is just you know, it's become an obsession because we have a small space. You know, I think when you live in New York City, it's like you're short on space. So just making everything as a fishing as possible is really is really kind of meditative for me. Yeah. Good. Well, so excited. I'm sorry that I'm sorry that we're not more inspect pants and more in just like those among rain moment that we all that we cliche, really?.
"miscarriage" Discussed on KCRW
"You have a miscarriage, and the fact that this new regimen can help with the rapid completion of the miscarriage allow him into return back to their lives. More quickly has been received with tremendous enthusiasm. The American college of obstetricians and gynecologists is among groups recommend. Ending the new protocol and urging the food and Drug administration to ease restrictions on mifepristone in the US mifepristone is better known as the abortion pill. It's been heavily regulated since it was approved for medication abortions in two thousand it can't be stopped at commercial pharmacies in the US in clinics that carry it half to apply for a special designation. And that makes mifepristone harder to access for women who need it for miscarriages. Alison Wray is thirty and lives in Vancouver Washington when she miscarried in November she was first prescribed misoprostol alone. And unfortunately, I got nothing I got no side effects. The no like. Nothing really happened. At all Ray, took another dose and waited still nothing. She really wanted to avoid surgery. Her doctor suggested mifepristone, which the office had just begun stocking that week that finally worked much to raise relief just knowing that it's kinda done and that we can move on and move forward. And I my body can heal and get back to normal. So that we can start trying again, some abortion rights opponents argue the restrictions on prestone are appropriate the drug causes a woman to have what's essentially a very heavy period. And there is a small risk of excessive bleeding, Dr Christina Francis of the American Association of prolife obstetricians and gynecologists says her main concern is patient safety. She also believes that loosening regulations on mifepristone could mean more abortions. That's not why I'm questioning this article as far as changing my practice. I do think as a sinus year more women are probably going to be able to obtain medical abortions left. TA and many medical groups say mifepristone is safe and effective though. The FDA said in a statement to NPR that the regulations are necessary to ensure patient safety, but for many physicians those regulations are a barrier to prescribing the drug to women experiencing miscarriages, Dr Kristen brandy is an OBGYN at Rutgers New Jersey medical school women have a lot of reactions sometimes they're tearful sometimes they're in shock. And so I want to help them get through this process as best as I can. And part of that is often trying to help them go through the process as fast as possible because of the red tape brandy says she can't prescribe the drug right now. And it's been fairly frustrating to know that there's a medication out there that I can give to my patients that I don't physically have to give to them Kirsten Herbst in Toronto says she's thankful to live in Canada where easier access to the drug made her second miscarriage, go a little more smoothly. It's such a terrible terrible experience. In every way that to make it harder is just cruel. Herp says her to pregnancy losses have been extremely difficult, but I've grown a lot in the fact that I understand grief, and I can understand other people's grief a lot better now despite the grief of her miscarriages herp.
"miscarriage" Discussed on The Thinking Atheist
"To children in Caucasians or what. Yeah, clearly the most sensitive routes are your hang on, described the crayon, what? What's an offensive crayon Alice. So they are crowns with Adele needs on. So everything from miscarriage, maroon boner pill, blue white is privilege. I do have as an Amish. I haven't orange. That's presidential. I also have just some fun. Interesting colors, you know, I don't hold back on any. I'm an equal opportunity in Solter so it's it was a fun small project that kind of blew up on its own last year in early this year. A few times I've gone viral, but what's been really, really interesting is as first censorship goes, I feel that considering I have worked hind the veil in a sense with these products and these different platforms, I've seen house speech, especially lawful speech can be banned end shutdown very quickly through these platforms. You know, even when you're saying something that wouldn't be. Considered offensive to most and I'm not talking about the Alex Jones is of the world. People always say, no, we need to shut down their stage. But the problem is for every Alex Jones, you have ten or a hundred times more people with actual lawful speech who get their voices shutdown in. That's the actual problem. So I mean, if I may, if you do a crayon with the word miscarriage in it, and there's someone who is out there who has suffered a miscarriage in their life, and it hits them at a deep level. I mean, I get the nature of some of this type of stuff is to push the envelope because you can. But I mean, I, I could understand if if some of this material gave some people pause, I'm not a fan of all of banning it. I'm just like, don't buy it to me. That seems relatively simple. But what would you say to somebody who was like, holy shit, that's kind of a heavy subject and it seems like she's making fun of it to them. I would say that people cope in different ways. Yes, I have had people who contact me and say, how could you possibly joke about this? This is something that was traumatic to person. Slowly at had a number of people say that to me, but I also have a number of messages that will say, I had a miscarriage, and I'm Blad adding laugh about this that you know that I can cook with this through humor. I hate people looking at me through pity. So people find different ways of coping. That's what it comes down to message brand of humor to sort of take control of something that had once been out of their control. And that's the thing about humor. You know, you could touch upon edgy topics in conversations that for most would feel uncomfortable, but you can get the conversation started and reach people in different ways. And I mean, for me, it's about getting a conversation started. So if I post something about Islam and I'll get banned for several days, which is what happened. And it was kind of an edgy gag where it had a huge swath of people who were all bowed praying to the east, and there's someone had photo shopped in minesweeper. Numbers over the top of them. I mean, I laughed out loud. I understand how some people could consider it. Insensitive started to gag. Most people are going to go with this and it was banned as hate speech or offensive. What's your take on offensive speech. I'm okay with offensive speech because offensiveness in humor are both subjective. I can't explain if you'd like why face look remove that because I do have a little bit of insight on how they're protected categories do work. But yeah, I mean, just going back, I think all speech, you know whether it's good or bad should be online just because at the end of the day, the only way to combat bad speech is through more speech in. I mean, you know whether it's offensive or not, who's in the beholder coming aren't yet. It really is. So if I post that, I'm guessing some Islam est and maybe even a few people who are, you know, who are liberals or atheists thought it was offensive and they flagged it is this when the machines takeover is this an algorithm? How does this process work? Alice? There's. A handful of ways. So first off Facebook, actually, they'll delete curses slurs culture, violence, a several other types of tax only when they're directed at protected categories..
"miscarriage" Discussed on WJR 760
"Miscarriage of justice were the mistakes made on on both sides again we will never know we don't know what he was at officer was seen at that particular time but the jury went through it and that's a little bit different than the slave patrol and that's why if you to say as david french has set i believe has been a miscarriage of justice and then out why specifically as he does specifically now i don't intend to agree with him because i'm not sure where he's going when he says a miscarriage of justice uh and he writes year i understand the inherent danger police were guards and liga responsibilities minimum no volunteer to put on the uniform and the legal rights of the citizens i swore to protect and serve them more of no evidence that the officer panic because custodial was black but whether he pat panic because of race simply because of the gun or because of bolt he's still oh panic and he should be held accountable the jury's verdict was a miscarriage of justice held accountable how he doesn't answer yeah i i don't i don't know uh i think that you know this is one of those situations we know that from the video that the girlfriend shot or the live facebook broadcast immediately after the incident you could hear the officers still highly charged and just really you know seem to be uh again uh a in that heightened state um there was there was no video of what the officers saw a perspective of what the officer saw there's no way to know was at reasonable clearly the jury found that that force was reasonable or didn't rise to seconddegree manslaughter right uh and and again i didn't pay a great deal of tension to this uh did they have to convict him of of second degree manslaughter could they have charged him in some states you can do it say we don't believe it rises to this where you know did they have the choice of negligent manslaughter or or anything else were they given the option of of doing that the jury might have and that we don't know yacht might mike point would be with colin kaepernick this is a point we made all the from the very beginning with colin kaepernick it didn't matter doesn't matter uh about you know he has a right he has a right he.