35 Burst results for "Middle School"
Kevin Hart Talks About His New Children's Book 'Marcus Makes a Movie'
"Know Kevin Hart as a comedian who stand up shows fill stadiums around the country as an actor and producer whose films like Jumanji filled the theaters and as a pitchman starring in commercials on 24 7. And now one of the hardest working man in show biz has another title to add to his resume. Kids BOOK author with this new title aimed at the middle school set. It's called Marcus makes a movie and Kevin Hart is with us now to tell us more about it, Mr Hart. Welcome. Thank you so much for joining us. Well, thank you for having me again. Excited to be here. Well, you talk about your kids a lot. I mean, you have four. So why this book for this age group? What was the inspiration? Um, I think the most important reason for me is that I'm in a position now in my life. Life in my career where you want to make sure that you are doing your part and giving back and and providing information and You know the story of markets and markets the journey towards making a movie. It's all fill of self belief. And you know, when you're talking about this younger generation, I think that that's something that we need to make sure that these kids really have just self awareness and understanding of what they truly are capable of. Putting their mind to anything. They can achieve it and just win right and become the best versions of themselves possible. Was was this your quarantine project? It was before I started it before. So I've been working on this for quite some time. Of course. It bled into the quarantine period because we were shut down for a while. Well, how did you manage it? For somebody As restless as you are, who works all the time Did were you going crazy? It was a gift and a curse. You know, I mean, Covid was real people lost lives because of it, And you know, we had to take it serious, but put me in a position to really spend time with my family and and be present in ways. That I wasn't in the past, and I needed that I needed to to be home. I needed to be my wife and kids, and I needed to to have that time And it was one of the first times I got to relax and just Be
How Marijuana Reform Could Repair, Reclaim and Restore Communities
"What did you want to be when you grow. Up is a question that i'm sure many of you have heard in your childhood but if your upbringing was anything like mine it is a question that you heard over and over again and it wasn't until i became an adult that i began to understand the significance of the asking the questions by our community leaders and my grandparents but it was only recently in the last two years that i get some true understanding of just how much -nificant and wait there was am the answer back then and even today you see growing up black and female in the south more than forty years ago there are some limitations to the answer to that question whether real or perceived there were limitations all the same and so what. I want you to understand that this moment as a young girl growing up with all that was happening. Right after the civil rights movement all of the advancements of the struggle things that were meant to push in advance the african american community things like the voting rights act the fair housing that and affirmative action and my generation was supposed to be taking full advantage of all of those opportunities so when they asked the question. What do you want to be when you grow up. It meant something to them. I remember hearing this question one summer at vacation. Bible school vacation bible. School is not to be confused with. Btu trainee school or sunday gotomeeting school. It is vacation bible school. I'm still trying to figure out who thought it was a good idea to put vacation bible school altogether but the first week of every summer during my childhood i was it was spent in vacation bible school and this one particular summer there was a teacher. She wasn't too much older than me. And my middle school friends. She wanted to make sure that we understood scripture and was able to connected to the real world question of what you will be when you grow up
Do Your Best With Jovian Zayne
"Jovi welcome thank you. Thank you out of here. Yeah ranch rance ranches much overdue to have some jovi love on here so i always start with asking people when you were little jovi. What did you want to do when you were growing up. Yeah little jovi wanted to be at their really. Yeah yeah i mean. I had a lot of clarity of mind that i wanted to sit people down couch and just have an epic conversation with them. I mean it was something from. Thanks since i was about honestly. I feel like i got. I could speak to very clearly. Once i was in middle school like i've seen A therapist on television before. I remember overhearing. One of my friend's mom who was actually seeing it. There is talk about it in the kitchen. One time we were coming back from dr practice. I remember thinking. Oh that's what i wanna do. I wanna help people with their problems going to listen to them. Give them perspective. Yeah that's that's what i want and growing up. Honestly it made so much sense to me because people naturally came to me with their stuff whenever reason people found me to be a safe place for them to explore their identities support their problem to think your ideas. I mean it was everything from like girl i know. He's got the break up with me how to handle it to. I really don't like his teacher. I'm trying to figure out how to change out of the class to Me and my brother on getting along. I mean people were coming to me with their stuff all through school. So it. It's the thing that little jovi wanted to do. And i guess is translated well to work. I do now so sixth grade. You was basically one in a mini therapist's couch I was i was. I've always been voting space for
Voice in Education wit Juie Daniel Davis
"I have a really really special guest judy. Down was will come really. Thank you for having me excited to be with you. Yeah it's our pleasure definitely so do they tell us about your background. Yeah so i actually have degrees in both accounting. An education had a full career in accounting and then decided. I wanted to be a teacher who taught accounting and honestly never had that opportunity. My first stocks that opened that were to teach computers. And that opened up a world to me that i've been riding ever since so for fifteen years. I was at the same school where children had gone to school. Or we're going to school. The time and i early retired from there last year with a the title director of instructional technology in innovation. Now i am an adjunct professor at the university of tennessee in chattanooga and i'm teaching educational technology courses to graduate level students and having just use technology in really good ways for classroom use and on in the midst of be the director of instructional technology and innovation. One of my roles was to really look at emerging technology and be aware of it. So that i could kind of be thinking through. What is this look like. Is this going to impact education or should it impacted education. So that's kind of how i got involved with. The voice industry was really interested in the fact that a device could connect to the world at such a low price point and i felt like that could really solve some equity issues for school systems. So as i started working bought my first advice tried it out in the middle school classroom and win no way. Am i speaking at busy. I'm a middle schoolers. And since then that was the very first tall cylinder alexa device since then just really been helping teachers intentionally use voice in ways to just support the learning. That's going on in their classroom.
Refurbished Wind Turbine Powers Homes and Learning
"I'm standing underneath a wind. Turbine in chaska minnesota on a windy spring day. I'm npr chief meteorologist. paul hutton. Her this is climate. Cast this wind turbines middle. School educates students about renewable energy and generates electricity for nearby homes. It's operated by the minnesota municipal power agency or m. pa matt quota. Har- sqi is the group's chaska chair or standing under a hundred and sixty kilowatt Wind turbine that was refurbish. Here from palm springs california and one of these resides in each of the twelve member communities. And what does mpa do. So mvp is twelve member counties that basically represent municipal electric Users that we basically get together both to generate our own electricity for all communities or to purchase it off the grid depending on the pricing of one. Electric has a give time. What are you trying to accomplish. So basically our goal is -ccomplish having a very reasonable electric creates our goal is to have power that's cheaper than xl energy As investor owned utility. How is it going deeper. Yep it's going very well. We're on a residential level. We ten in chaska to be about eight to nine percent lower than xl energy. These swishing blades above us help adults and their pocketbooks and offer a learning opportunity for students. Amy feet teaches. Fourth graders at saint. John's lutheran school in chaska. She leads her students on field trips to see renewables action. It's a great opportunity for students to think about how they use energy on a daily basis. We think about what are some ways that maybe we could cut some of our energy use and maybe not us quite as much energy. Our we may be wasting energy. We talk about how our use of energy affects the planet and all the people around us as well and then we also when we get to favorable energy park We they put us through. Maybe we'll ride a bike and we'll try to power entire home and how hard that is when we have lots of different things on in our home versus when we have maybe one thing on or two things on We'll go to a different station where we look at the solar panel. We'll go to a different station where we look at the wind turbine We'll talk about how we use non-renewable energy and also renewable energy the differences in those and how they actually affect us and how they actually affect the world around
How to Create Content and Build Communities With Cassidy Williams
Interview With Author, Brian Broome
"To dive into a whole different Bunch of different areas with you Yeah the book is just fantastic. So so powerful so moving. I mean the stories. The the events like the moments in your life and also the writing which is part of what i want to talk to you about. Also you know. That's the part that's not covered in the book really. But i'm just really fascinated about you as an artist you as a devotion to craft which i think is is something that as a maker myself i am. I'm always fascinated by that like how that arise people in the process. Sure but but let's let's let's take a step back in time a little bit Pittsburgh now but grew up in warren. Ohio the booming metropolis of warren ohio. Yes the booming metropolis avoid ohio. Even i mean even saying those words makes my skin crawl a little bit. You know people asked me you know you hate hate that place so much and i think it's not. I don't think it's unusual for people to move away from the place that they were raised and just to look back on it and house the most awful experience I've ever been through event to sort of just dislike the place You know as a result. But you know i still have family in warren. I still go back every once in a while. No they're still little spots no around the round the town that i'm like oh we remember that spot you know but now you know everything's kinda gone like the high gone middle schools gone and the elementary. Just kidding just like oh because of the town of hard times in the town or well my the yeah partly in schools were just closing and consolidating and now i think that's happening all over but yeah i go back. It's it's it's changed a lot but in a lot of ways. It's still very much say dad. It's like the hometown where he like. There certain people who will always be there. Oh yeah oh yeah people. Do i know my mom will be at the at the sparkle market. And she'll be like oh your friend from high school. I'm like mom. That wasn't my friend. That was that was one of my tormenters That was young ago so no they all. They're all still there.
Ransomware Gang Still Wants Millions
"Conti ransomware gang trying to mandates dented reputation for scrambling. The data of ireland's healthcare system yesterday had published a link to a free decrypt. Her which will allow the system to unscramble the files. This will be a relief to people worried about the loss of important medical or employee. Information makes the gang. Sound like the good guys. Right nope he see before. The files were encrypted. A lot were copied by the gang and the gang is still demanding the equivalent of about twenty million dollars or they will sell that data to other crooks or release it publicly. Congratulations to two teams from. Toronto's william line mackenzie collegiate. They finished first and second in the annual cyber titan national cybersecurity competition this week for canadian high schools and middle schools. Third place went to a team from toronto's earl haig secondary school cyber security experts regularly warn. It leaders of the importance of patching applications as soon as possible one security updates are released. And that's because threat actors move fast. Once they learn of a vulnerability how fast well according to a report. This week from palo alto networks. It could be minutes. A research team looked at the activities of hackers during the first three months of the year and found hackers scan for vulnerable applications open to the internet in as little as fifteen minutes after a patch was announced when microsoft announced vulnerabilities in the on premise version of exchange server in march hackers were scanning within five minutes.
Interview With Marc Lore of Diapers.com and Jet.com
"So let's kind of find you know. I was probably a junior in high school. Going to my mom's bodybuilding competitions. Wow but she did well she. She a couple competitions and things. It was fun but really inspirational as a kid you bet. Yeah a mom's a bodybuilder. There's my mom my mom. She kick your butt. She used to squat like three hundred fifty pounds which one hundred and ten pounds. Yeah that's insane. I know i read that like when you're in middle school you got into you know different businesses and stuff and you started selling baseball cards in high school and Did you make money were you. Were you good at like buying cars for cheap and selling them for for more expensive guy would say we did okay. I did it with a very close friends lacks chandra. Big part of the business was great work. We would buy cases of baseball cards warned sorted and then basically sort them into full sets and then sell the sets and the sets were sold at a premium because somebody had to sort them. Yeah so we do that all summer but also did every possible sort of job. A kid could possibly do. Everything from newspapers. Recyclables washing cars mowing lawns. Picking weeds. anything to make a buck.
Interview With Kimberly Bryant, CEO of Black Girls Code
"Again. Today is kimberly bryant. Kimberly is founder and ceo. Black girls code a nonprofit organization dedicated to introduce girls of color to the field of technology. She's also an electrical engineer. Kimberly has received numerous awards for our work and technology inclusion. She's been business insider's list of the twenty five most influential african americans in technology and she was named one of fast company's most creative people in two thousand thirteen. She was recognized as a white house. Champion of change for tech inclusion and in two thousand fourteen received an american ingenuity award in social progress from the smithsonian institute. Welcome to the show. Kimberly thank you for having me can pay a. I want to apologize ahead of time. I have a new puppy on. Nate mieko seized busy in the morning. So little noise in the background i followed. That is awesome. No problem at all. Is this a covert puppy. It is it is. He's a quarantine puppy that is That is excellent. Well it's like. I think one of the one of the awesome things people are doing to get pandemic so no no worries at all so. I'm just really excited to learn more about your journey. So can can we start with you telling us a little bit about how you got interested in science and technology in the first place. Of course so. I grew up in in memphis tennessee. Back in out. I will raise sixty seventies. Wanna give away my two bunch of my age but in the late sixties and seventies and one of the things that i was lucky. I guess i would classify it as being lucky to be able to experience. Was this accelerated pathway in math and sciences Author middle school into high school so during that period of time when your high school student a year trying to figure out what you wanna do with the rest of your life one of those conversations with my guidance counselors resulted in her really kind of encouraging me to explore in the generic pathway.
Shots Fired in Hallway of Minnesota Middle School
"Has been arrested over gunshots at a middle school in Minnesota. Plymouth police chief Eric Faden says it happened just before school started. Our officers heard what they Recognizes gunshots within the building, he says. One person in the hallway was taken into custody. Sheriff David Hutchinson says it was the best possible outcome. I gather the school resource officer there could handle In de escalate the situation so nobody was hurt. The school superintendent says multiple shots were fired and call it a challenging day for students.
D.C. Leaders Consider Whether to Keep Police in Schools
"Public is speaking out about the presence of police officers in D C. Public schools and district leaders are listening. D. C. Police Reform Commission's recommendation of eliminating the school safety division is wrong. Eastern High School Assistant principal Benjamin Davis shared the story of a student who's freshman year at the school was turned around when she saw her school resource officers from middle school and they sat mediations with her and took an interest in our life. From her success. The young lady that I'm speaking of has not missed a day of classes toward a teacher, Mary Bala testified. All police should be removed from schools. Having police presence in house does not facilitate de escalation or foster a safe learning space. The CPS oversees the school Resource officer program. Lindsay Walton, with the council chairman's office says it remains to be seen if any council members create legislation based on issues raises the public hearing.
Wisconsin Teachers Resign in Wake of Slavery Question
"Three Wisconsin middle school teachers have resigned after being suspended for giving sixth graders an assignment that asked how they would punish sleeves this controversial lesson plan came to light in February when a parent complained about it being inappropriate and insensitive students were asked to answer questions using a set of laws from ancient Mesopotamia including how they would punish a disobedient sleeve an outside law firm investigated the Wisconsin state journal reports the lesson was not part of the school's approved curriculum and was identical to a lesson found on the teachers pay teachers website hi Jackie Quinn
Tiffany Aliche's Financial Components to Become 'Financially Whole'
"Alita welcome back to the bigger pockets of any podcast. Always so excited to talk to you. I love that you guys have me back. Thank you so much mindy. Thank you scott. I love being. I feel like i'm a regular now shooters. I think you're our normal three-time guest. Oh which is nice Okay so tiffany. You are a master of all things money and finance but where your budget needs to story. Starts you worry financial disaster. You had a lot of shame over your situation. And that caused you to withdraw from friends and basically from life. What would you say to thirty year. Old tiffany going through all of this financial horrible mess and two others listening who are feeling ashamed of the financial situation there. In how do you get you to stop feeling bad about a mistake that you've made so i'll say get you linda and explain what that means. Emitted in alsace. Shame is a liar. So the way i was able to go from like this secretive. Shame when it came to my money. Was that my best friend linda. Who'd been trying to reach me for months. After i lost my job after i lost all my money after i scanned into thirty five thousand dollars in credit card debt after i couldn't afford my mortgage and had to move back home at thirty so i was at the bottom of the bottom. I remember literally looking at the ceiling from my middle school bed saying you had more money at sixteen. They do thirty like in total. I'm talking about retirement. Savings pennies in my purse like is this was like shame on top of same so linda called me after trying to get me on the phone for some months and was gonna pretend like everything was okay. That was busy But you know your best friend knows you best.
Seattle public schools not accepting help from city to clear nearby homeless encampments
"Week since we first reported on the two homeless encampments on property of Seattle schools comes Matt Market, which has been digging into the story. It has some new developments, starting with broad view Thomas K. Through eight. Many are asking. Why isn't the district asking for help? The mayor wants to help Seattle public schools as a separate governmental entity, and it controls its own properties. The city of Seattle. Does not and cannot go onto school grounds and start dealing with in cameras. I asked, the district spokesperson directly has SPS asked the city for help. Allow hope team outreach workers onto school property. The spokesman was noncommittal, saying It is somewhat fluid situation and we appreciate the city's partnership inflexibility as we proceed. Regarding the camp adjacent to me Any middle school, A majority of it is on park property. Miller play field. It's a camp that grew much bigger. After the big Kelly Anderson camp was cleared in December, the city has been doing almost daily outreach their crime
BideniInitiative seeks to force Seattle to fund homeless housing and then clear camps
"Address their ongoing problem with homelessness. Most are intense on sidewalks in city parks. Some are just a few feet from a middle school. The problem has only gotten worse during the pandemic, despite billions of dollars being spent by big cities to move thousands of homeless people from group shelters to their own hotel rooms. It's a program started by President Trump run by FEMA and now being expanded by President Biden. Biden invoked the Stafford Act to increase the reimbursement rate. Two cities from 75% to 100 per se. That and extended through the end of September. Officials in San Francisco, which is spending nearly $20 million per month on homeless hotels, call it a game changer that will save the city tens of millions of dollars. That's Fox's Dan Springer reporting. Meanwhile,
Parents of deceased former Massachusetts middle school student accuse gym teacher of rape
"Of a man from ducks. Berry, who died of a drug overdose last year, are now suing their son's middle school gym teacher and the Ducks very public school system. Joseph and Melissa Foley accused the teacher John Blake, of repeatedly raping their son index preschools of failing To protect him. Joseph Foley died last October. Blake has been placed on leave. Both Blake's attorney and the school superintendent, deny the allegations. The Folies seeking $1 million, a
Greenwood Genetic Center on Epigenetics
"I guess they are front. Greenwood genetic center. Dr louis and kelly walden rate is an assistant director in greenwood's molecular diagnostic laboratory and kelly is greenwood's director of diagnostic development and h net counselor by training. Welcome to the show guys. It's fantastic to have john. Thanks for having us. Thank you so a lot of genetic counselors. If they're listening they know greenwood for their visual aids. I think that's what greenwood is most popular for. But could you give us a little more background and tell us about the other division of green genetic center. That people may be less familiar with kelly. Did you want to start us out of just giving background information. So the green which genetic center is a nonprofit organization We do have four divisions we have our clinical division said they see patients across the state of south carolina. We have our research. Division focused on functional studies setting the causes of autism birth defects intellectual disability. Our education division. They provide programs across the state from middle school. High school all the way up through our medical genetics training programs and then are gonna collapse. I agree with diagnostic labs. We have cited genetics molecular and biochemical testing. And so in this episode we are focusing on epigenetics and really exploring what happy. Genetics is testing four. Bg that conditions for those. That may not understand like they hear this epigenetics term. They're like what is genetics. I have no idea reagan. You fill us in on just giving us that background information so that you know us talking about testing options and conditions all make a little bit more sense. Yup so epigenetics is the process in which expression in jeans are either increase or decrease in a way that's independent makoni sequence
"middle school" Discussed on QuaranTEEN
"Starts the whole argument and everybody immediately started yelling at so we were like. Why don't you let Peter to beans it? Was it's healthy snack and like I literally you practice that morning deadpan. Saying it's a healthy snack to me so naturally we all tried to say it's a healthy snack and it was pretty raw was like And I think later that day we were trying to brainstorm what you could do to get beaten So that was how we decided okay. I'll just eat beans in a tupperware and when I built the beans with the Tupperware in Class. I think I could see her lake and dial a little bit inside it was. I felt a little bit bad but not really that bad and she became a way that if teacher after this incident honestly but she's like well. I said that he could that. It's a snack if you don't need to use a tool to open it so that was how I just ate my beans in class and some still likes me. I don't really get it. But but like how did they case they were good beams and I had to like doing. The being juice and beans is filled with his executive. So it's all slimy and gross don't Nice Restored from Middle Squad. I'm so sad that we didn't get to do the last day of school beans on the desk thing. I think everybody's y'all talking about missing boondocks and whatever but what about that? Alli WHO NEEDS EIGHTH GRADE DANCE? We have beans okay so now. I have some more basic questions. Because I can't think of as many good stories besides like Kazoo period that you throw yes pursue Kazoo of guess. I still have of Mike News. But they don't sound as good as they used to. Which is very sad they degrade quickly out to. Do you have any particular memories from Middle School? That are like either really good or really know honestly Let's see I think the Peter Randy thing was like on the my highlights grade. I wasn't life told all of the stories that I remember the best..
"middle school" Discussed on QuaranTEEN
"SC Agai on newstalk now before embarrassment Yeah I have to Hydro Flask Yeah I think they're you but I think at the end of the day it's not worth it. 'cause they're like way too expensive for what they're worth. It's a regular water bottle. Just by the knock on him as on drew docherty wanted or something exactly like at the end of the day. I did not need to buy those and spend my Christmas money on them. Like no they were not worth it. Yeah definitely like and then I have one more question yes. Do you have any advice to the to the incoming middle schoolers especially with the current ours pandemic and just everything that's going on but also just in general like gray sets in the along the lines of try and get involved. Yes so I think definitely the biggest thing is getting involved but as we know that my clubs and stuff might change for incoming middle schoolers with this whole thing going on There might be less people loud and it might be different And I think Since I'm going into high school and I know that things probably aren't GonNa be the same as they were for high schoolers last year. It's probably going to be the same for Middle School. Things are probably going to have to change. And they're gonNA be restrictions just because that's how everything's going right now as much as I hope like it just goes back to normal. I think there's always just going to be a little bit of things that are going to change because of this So you just need to be patient with that and understand that they're doing it for reason it's first safety But yeah definitely get involved if there's a way to get involved Definitely just like I would say getting like really good friends that you can trust is one of the biggest things you just need to be able to get a friend that you can trust to tell things because honestly if you don't have someone to vent to you're not gonNA survive I definitely vented a lot to my friends and without that I feel like I would have just kept Joan side and it would have been a.
"middle school" Discussed on QuaranTEEN
"Yes so I think definitely because me and Lauren. Both got called backs for musical and being a sixth grader. That was like not expected at all but I think that's really when our friendship started growing because we started talking a lot more and especially once we got into the show. I feel like we started talking more But I feel like definitely in seventh grade is when we actually started like being really good friends because we were both inquire together. Yeah Yeah So. If you didn't know me and Lauren were part of Liberty Belles. It was fun choir With our director and a lot of our friends were in it which was really fun and in seventh grade. We were both Sopranos and we set next to each other and we just started talking a lot more. I'm not exactly sure why we started talking. But I believe it's because one of your friends is Kenner not really being a jerk or my other friends so yod i. I just feel bad for you and I'm like oh I should probably talk to her and but then I'm just like Oh my God. We have so much more than I thought we did. Yeah I think one thing that helped us Was up next to each other in writing class and then my other friends ditched me in sixth grade. Said I need let me your table. Yeah definitely the rest decision ever a yes. Little things that led up to an awesome. Friendship Right is really fun. And then what we're saying you're worse Middle School memories so just terrible middle school. So I'd say I had some tough times obviously during this great production when some people are being really rude annoying a sixth grader getting lead. That was definitely tough but overall I got through it and then some got even harder when I had a big spat with a friend of mine and that was really hard because yours. Everyone say middle schools really the time where..
"middle school" Discussed on QuaranTEEN
"Fm to get started again anchored get started now next up. We talked to theater Geek Abby. Who Discusses All the different ways that theatre has impacted her life both positively and negatively? And how actually? That wasn't the path that she thought she would take alot. Abby GonNa work this time. Let's hope so. All right you ready to talk about the best and worst Middle School Memories. I am ready all right. Begin with whatever interesting story and like this is for all three years so if you have anything interesting from sixth grade go ahead okay so I definitely say. Overall middle school experience was very good because it definitely helped me find myself and one of my biggest now is musical theater and I would never be entrusted not without middle school because in sixth grade. I tried out for the middle school musical and totally wasn't expecting to like it or anything and I ended up getting the lead which was crazy because sixth graders usually. Don't get that I know without that experience. I just I wouldn't be as interested in it as I am now. That's true so I think that those things definitely I would agree like I was interested in it but I wasn't some Abbas super excited about now I really really love it. Yeah I totally agree. I mean I really wasn't interested in all before Middle School which was really weird because my parents were super surprised when I signed up for theater as like an elective. They're like what the heck because I I've always been kind of like shot by and like not really wanted to be up in stage in front of people so I think they like didn't expect me to like it or anything and then you know try out for the play was not how to super small role. And then I'm I liked it and I thought okay would be fun to just do this again. Just get to know how this works and so I did. The musical and I definitely was not a small part again so that was definitely a weird experience going from literally three words to tons and tons of lions. Yeah I mean was like overall. That was a good experience. The weren't there some struggles with it to Ya. I mean definitely being a sixth grader. Who definitely didn't expect to get it. There were eighth graders. Who for sure did not want me to have and there is definitely people who were nasty about it and rude and but at.
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"I will good enough. Sorry I need to cough again. So my favorite memories from Middle School in Sixth Grade I really did like screwed overall. That was a good year There were definitely some ups and downs. But I think one of my favorite things that happened was getting involved in feeder This was the first time I add. I mean I don show in the pathogen anti junior once but I just play Mrs Pew. It wasn't anything super interesting but I took theatre arts. This year was the only. You're actually class instead of like getting involved in the club but I did both but I got involved with the class and I had the best teacher ever. I mean her name is Miss. Murray and I love her. I love her lover lover. She is so so fun end. She's a great teacher. I learned a ton and that cautious my favorite. I mean I think one of the only reasons I mean. That class was also super easy but one reason that. I always think I got an A. alike very consistently as I'm not really afraid to yell so basically everybody in that class. I was always given the yelling roles like a short little script and I enjoyed it. I'M NOT GONNA lie. I'm surprised I didn't lose my voice because I was really loud. I don't think I'd be that loud anymore but I would yell and I mean one of the things that we did once is. We played a game because we played like theater games. All the time machine ended up. Actually I did. My Birthday Party was themed feeder and we play a whole bunch of theater games but one of my like was Minute about getting somebody off the bench. So basically everybody's coming order you had to. Somebody was on the bench. And then you had the comic character on your own and basically Improv and try and get him off the bench without touching them. Like being kind of you could say oh. Did you hear that Peyton? Manning has a sale right over there and then you know if the guys like a football player who wish football over. I don't know I said Laker. If we like football or Peyton manning go see go to peyton manning store at the sale or whatever but you have to watch the person in front of you because the way that they get you off. The bench is the way that Basically an experts. If the person who's you're going to be trying to get off the bench she will have just washed. Got Somebody off the bench. Kind of weird. I don't know if that was perfect explaining but oh well so eventually I got up there. I decided I wanted to say something really awkward and make everybody uncomfortable because I like doing that in real life and I'm pretty good at it so basically basically it like breaking the social norm and so naturally I was like I'm just GonNa talk about puberty and make everybody uncomfortable and being in sixth grade. Everybody did not want to talk about puberty because we just recently had the talk and everybody was like no no. We're talking about Uber. So basically it was super awkward and so I got up there and I said something along the lines of hey do you..
"middle school" Discussed on QuaranTEEN
"Right. Let's begin with the first question for okay all right. So what do you enjoy most about your middle school experience? Oh Wow okay so on the on the bus. It's kind of Weird. But the on the bus we would always have like the sing alongs very. Yeah Yeah and so. I don't know I just always really love. But yeah was just a small thing but yeah. The kids are bus. Would play good music. Sometimes that music was good music and sing along. Yeah around Christmas time. We'd sing like Christmas songs. In all this kind of thing it was really nice. That was the fun that was one of the fun things but the bustling restaurants Of course I love my friends Is there like a couple of memories or any stories you want to share like from your best Middle School Memories might not? There's a lot on the arts festival this year. That was really nice. Yeah so explained the listeners. What was the festival this year? Why was fun okay? So the Arts Festival is dad. Hold on arts festival sorry. My Dad land the earliest. All is pretty much like this event. Our school does wear. They put up artwork and photography work from students all across the hallways en- end orchestra. The band The choir which is what Lauren in Iran. A perform and theater to this year That was really fine just because afterwards we kinda ran around send it. Yeah but we got to perform our own songs for everyone. Lord did amazing. Thank you thank you. I'll tell them what you say is saying someone you loved by Luik. Paul the You say his name Edgy Killed. It thank you. Yeah and then Lauren. Did she used to be mine? And it was be careful. She played the piano Sound credible right and then our choir. Our tire choir sing some. Yeah Gosh.
"middle school" Discussed on QuaranTEEN
"And then they put me in C. P. Physical Science and I mean it was a very boring class in the beginning. I was like I'm not doing this anymore. Kind of thing and so I basically just pushed my way up and I complained until they put me in Honors Chemistry and there was actually no reason for me to be in there. Didn't have any test. Scores approved I`ma genius or something in science. But I'm so glad that I did that because that's GonNa put me ahead in science for Middle School And asking to go to college. Applications like everything actually is going to make a difference in the end especially with math and science so if you can push away push ahead of other people do it take the opportunity because although it might be stressful and there's going to be some bad things about it like people aren't GonNa like you. That's okay I mean that's on them. You're going to be likable no matter what. And then other thing everybody is going to be Self conscious about their bodies like it's true I didn't think hobbies GonNa ever go through phases where I was like. I hate the way I look hate. Everything I did and I mean I'm still out at that. Stage is still not perfect and I go is when I look in the mirror. I don't like what I see my reflection but there's other times. I think that I look pretty and I like Daffy just it does seem like it's GonNa last forever but it is than just a phase if it's not the do get help sometimes. You need to have a therapist that works best for people so just recognize if you need any help and just reach out to people who are closest to you and then also the last thing I'd say is do work hard. Yes this isn't going to go on college application of yours but like there's no reason to throw it away either like yeah. It's not you don't need to get all as you don't need to just be in all the advanced classes but I would highly recommend it because it's going to put you in advantage in high school. If you already know how to work hard you don't want to show off your brain. Her three years of middle school and then get to high school and go crap. This matters now I need to. I need to step it up. I need to start working. Because that means that you didn't do it before and you're not gonNA know how to do it now and so just come up with a system that works for you and my final thing is taking notes and listening to what your future to do so for me. My teachers always wanted to use a binder. I hate binders GONNA lie. So the only system of organization that really worked for me has been this year and last year but six grade. I did not know what I was doing so I think I have this folder. That has eight different homework folders in it so basically it just operates is like any normal homework folder and I have eight eight periods in a day slight assist each one for a class and so I basically would put instead of using a binder. I would put all of my stuff in the former colder and that worked for me but then when I was taking notes that I use what's called a rocket book so it's basically just a journal that you have to. You can write in and then scan. It gained nuts to your phone. Would like you will drive or wherever you store stuff and then afterwards after you do that Your notes will be there permanently. And that's and you can raise the Patriots like meeting Han US race. Bullpens in the news like a wipe. Wipe him down and it works perfectly. That was a good system but then eighth grade. I think I transitioned little out of that. And then for both high clauses. The decided to do what they actually wanted. So I did a binder for both classes of Individual binder fridge. I think that was a good a good thing for me but it was a little annoyed carry binder everyday so I definitely think that you have just figure out what works for you because this is your time to experiment before you can go to high school so learn what works for you before you start panicking high school and that's about what I would say so now we're going to quickly jump transition from me to you talking to analysts. I we talked analysts. He discusses the importance and appreciation of school. And don't take anything for granted because clearly that didn't really work out the storm please. Welcome analyst all righty. So let's begin so star whenever you're ready okay. So I actually liked eighth grade more than both seventh and sixth grade. I found it less stressful. For whatever reason and I liked a lot of my teachers and my favorite class was probably photography 'cause I thought it was cool to be able to be outside and taking pictures. And then editing them and stuff and I regret How it ended the how the coronavirus interrupted. 'cause we didn't get to do our Art Project that was painting. That was kind of sad but.
"middle school" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast
"Fatal says is a stew of simmering during warm owns shifting relationships and increased expectations. It is also a time of massive confusion and overwhelm home both for middle school boys and their parents. Today we are talking with Phyllis Fagel parent counselor and author third of Middle. School matters the ten key skills. Kids need to thrive in middle school and Beyond and how parents can help welcome. Welcome Phyllis thanks for having me today. We should mention that you are not just an author. You are not just a school counselor. You are in the trenches with the rest of US parenting teens and a middle schooler. I believe yet I'm on my middle school number three. He's my last to go through. He's in sixth grade now. So does it get easier. I think third children in general are easier because they have to go through through a gentler way they just sort of know that everyone is tired and they tend to be more easy going. I could have just gotten lucky. He but he seems to be a pretty chill middle score. I think that third and fourth children might be a little easier partly because we have lowered our expectations -tations dramatically. You know you know a lot more now about what is reasonable to expect from a middle school boy than you did. When you started this journey journey at one hundred percent true so middle school boys one of the most fascinating things to me as a pair of Boyce voice has been the insight into what middle school boys are really thinking about and how I perceived middle school boys say when I was in seventh grade? You work with a lot of boys. I know you facilitate boys group so share with us. What have you learned what is on the minds of middle school boys? I think the misconception about middle school boys. That's most prevalent is that they're really immature that their ears they're not interested in unloading the psychological burdens that they're grappling with and that they had here and enjoy adhering to a lot out of the gender stereotypes that we hold about boys and one thing. That's calm clear over the years particularly through the boys group which has been a safe space for them To admit what they're really thinking about and what they really care about is bad. Boys very much wanted to connect with their friends. They very much want you have meaningful bonds. Where they can confide in their friends and know that they can trust their friends they really want to be able to be their authentic selves in? That might mean they really like school and they really don't like sports courts. I think another misconception is that they don't worry about things like body image. What I've found over the years and I think social media is in part responsible responsible for this is that boys are getting subjected to all of these unrealistic images about who they should be in what they should look like and I'm hearing more from boys about body and security? I think that whole body image issue is so tough for boys in middle school because they're such a drastic range. I've gone to middle school basketball ballgames and some of those kids are shaving and have full mustaches. And then there was like my kid at that point in time who still looked like he was in third great but he was actually in seventh grade. Yeah then what makes it even harder is. You're suddenly in a new developmental phase where you're acutely aware of exactly how you stock doc up to everybody around you so a year earlier you might not have cared that you are half the height of the kid standing next to you on the bleachers during the chorus concert but suddenly all you can think about is what if I never grow. What if I'm the shortest person on the planet for the rest of my life and that matters in a way that it didn't matter before And and you are very aware of other people and you're starting to help other people like you and when all the images you see are of these very attractive attractive very mature men. That's tough yeah and then on top of all of that. They're starting to get interested in romantic relationships chips. So they're more aware of how they stack up to their peers. In terms of their level of attractiveness to whatever gender they happened to be attracted to but that also so come into play at this age. And how do we as parents support them. We can reassure you're gonNA grow you. Will you know oh you will. By the time you graduate from high school you will probably be shaving but as you say in the meantime so I think that very well meaning instinct is to reassure them that their time will come and that they will become taller and that this is a short-lived phenomenon and that they're great and perfect just the way they are but that invalidates where they're coming from and so more effective approach for helping them feel better is to say. I felt like the shortest kid and the clash. That would bother me too and I can understand why this is troublesome for you and then tell them perhaps. There's a story story of someone else in the family. He was a late bloomer. Who started out really short you now you know Ankle Bob is six four but also reassuring them that whatever or they are? We'll be good enough and that's really what they're looking for. Not for you so much to say you're going to be this high or that hike but just to let them know especially at an age when they're forming their identity. I'm trying to figure out if they're good enough to really reassure them that they're perfect just as they are that. Am I good enough question. You write in. Your book is a AAC core question for all middle schoolers boys and girls. But I think it's something that's really important for us as parents and educators grandparents to to keep in mind that these kids are looking all around them for reassurance. Basically that they're okay. Yes and with boys the way they tried to you get that reassurance can sometimes seem Veer toward the obnoxious. So they might yell something out. That's an appropriate. They might push someone together right. Hey that's been. They might use humor in ways that others think are rude and so we have to also remember that while they're trying to figure out if they're good enough and they're doing everything they can to make sure they're good enough and funny enough and well like you're not they also are lacking and skills and we have to cut them a lot of slack as they are developing those skills else we have to dig into this obnoxious part. Having lived with four boys I am acutely familiar with what you're talking about and you wrote a few things in in your book that just cracked me up. In one sentence you wrote a mature eighth grade. Boy May baffle his parents by sticking his head in a toilet for fun on social media And I was sitting in a public place that I just burst out laughing because yes boy mobs especially this does not make sense to you us. How break this down help explain it and how do we know like should I worry about this? Should I let this happen. How do respond so I completely understand that as a boy mom myself they are capable of doing things that are battling one of the other stories I share in? The book is about a kid. Kid who four or five for shock value started exchanging pictures with a friend on on his same sports team of his private parts parts and they were just moving around. It wasn't sexual. It was just silly and then the mom was spot checking his own team across a bunch of pictures of her kids kids private parts and some other kids private parts and was like what is best. She just really couldn't make heads or tails of that but felt he had gone too far. Lauren knew that there was some teaching that had to happen. Related to to what they were doing to expose themselves in that way and permanent and all of that so it's impossible for us as adults who are rational logical thinkers. Choose to view something like most of the time or we try. We like to think of ourselves that way. It's hard for us to see something like that and make sense of it. But if you're a bad boy and you think it's really hilarious. Then you're going to want to do more of it. You might even want to send it to like some other people so other people can appreciate how funny you are. Yeah because it's really funny. No I just shared this story the other day with a group I was talking to my son. And although maybe don't turn me in Tom for sharing this story other than to your podcast listeners. So he came home and he said I want to tell you something but I'm afraid that if I tell you then you you will never get me a phone and I said well. I'm never getting your phone anyway. So you may as well tell me this story and he said well. Here's what my what happened between a couple of my friends. And he shared this story of it with a story about an hour and a girl and the boy had asked the girl to send him a picture. Sure without her shirt on and they kind of knew better and I guess they decided to include the keeney top so it wasn't quite as scandalous uh-huh and they loved each other. 'cause they're sixth graders and it's true love so she sent the picture and then they thought it would be really funny. The the two of them together totally consensual totally in good fun. Thought it would be really funny to doctor the picture and give her a porn star beads. Oh and yeah. Yeah and so when they did that then they were even more amused by their extreme creativity and it was hilarious and because it was hilarious area decided to send it to the forty five students boys and girls in their shared kept. Yeah Oh and it actually gets worse believe it or not but the way it gets worse I think says so much about boys and how they love hard and they care hurt and they mean well and they're just making some blenders along the way. So what next is the kids in this text. Groups didn't give them the reaction that they wanted there. Is this kind of stunned silence. Yes you know sort of a dude. What are you thinking? At which point the girl was no longer happy with the decision and the boy was feeling bad that she wasn't feeling good about it so he did the most logical rational reasonable caring loving thing he could possibly do which was to host a doctor picture of himself. Oh boy oh it makes sense in like Sandler and boy world right right. It made a lot of sense to him and it was it was loving. It was really caring. And he's so bad that she was embarrassed and he didn't want her to feel alone so he did the same thing and of course his gesture was met with the exact same response as hers. Only at this point I think a mother who was monitoring somebody somebody in that group chops tax. Shut the thing down and that was the end of it but what I love about that story that it reveals so much about boys at this age you know. Are they love hard. They care her they mean well they WANNA be funny. They wanted he like they want to connect to and impress but they don't really have that skill L. set to pull it off in a way that doesn't sometimes occasionally result in humiliation and embarrassment and odd shock on the part of the parents right that that story also reveals to me why parenting these children is so challenging because when we put our lens on that without talking to the children we can get a whole different narrative out of that and if we start reacting based on that then we create eight misunderstanding and distance in anger and that's problematic and then the other thing that makes me think about in your book you used the term hinge generation a hinge generation to describe this generation of boys. And.
"middle school" Discussed on PsychChika
"Lake. I'm gonna fight you right now. Like for real because he was let me but not much older than me. But i was like a straight fight you right now and i promise you your boys will not help and you'll be the laughing stock of the school because i fucking beecher s so i was straight like angry and i don't think he's ever seen me angry and i can get really angry. Okay like i have had people tell me that. They didn't want to get to know me because the only time they had ever seen me was when i was in a debate with somebody or arguing with like my siblings or whatever. 'cause i get scary when i'm angry. So he legitimately was scared. And i was like thank fucking god and he left me alone. He left me alone. The rest of the school year wasn't much left. But he left me ron alone versus school year. He would avoid me in the hallways and he wouldn't talk shit anymore and then as like middle school went on because i think he was. I think we graduate. So i think he was there the other two years but like he would make fun of me sometimes but he for the most part left me alone after that like i had other issues but he left me after that. Because i'm like. I promise you i will beat your ass right now and you will not have a good time at school if you keep fucking making fun of me and you're not about to follow me home. Because he was straight like. I knew when he walked home usually. It wasn't the way that i go. So i'm like why are you walking this way. And he couldn't say anything to that so he just left me alone. And i was like hud luhya. Oh and his friend who asked me out like later Dating this really pretty girl ovals like you is like a good couple him. And i probably wouldn't have made a good couple because like i said the disparity of like how popular and cute. He was me. And i know that sounds like being myself up. But like that's truly how. I felt and he ended up dating a girl that was so pretty in so sweet and i was like there. You go the yes. You guys are good so happy for them. But i guess the moral of the story is if someone's crossing a boundary with you and they're trying to make you feel like shit like i really don't know why this kid felt the need to make me feel like shit every day. Because i wasn't doing. I never even knew he was there until he started bullying me and even his friends were like what are you doing here. And it was just like excessive right and so moral story is is when you get to a certain threshold like you got to stand for yourself personally. Recommend sanford's of before you get to like the ultimate threshold. I'm gonna beat this kid's ass but as someone you've for yourself because even like because i was a kid then. The adults weren't doing anything about it. Like i know that they knew that he was making fun of me all time. I know that they knew that because he was not slick with it. He was not like secretive. He was every single kid new. So there's no way that the teachers didn't know. And i don't know if he was ever like talked to about it but he was literally in every single class like in the library in jim especially jim Literally every single glasses. There's no way that one adult new and it never stopped. Until i was like. I'm going to beat your fucking ass. And we're not on school property anymore and i do know how to fight because my dad was a boxer. So do you wanna fight. I will fight you right now. I don't care if you're a boy..
"middle school" Discussed on PsychChika
"But i just couldn't believe that this popular guy like me like even wanted to be seen with me stuff like that like it wasn't like it was that deep and so obviously said no because i didn't wanna go to the dance and it turned out like kerry word like every it's a whole prank against you. I didn't want that. So because i still to go to the dance so i told him no and he honestly looked like a little disappointed he probably thought i was gonna say because like i said he's a popular kid asking l. a. Girl that no one else would ever ask out so he just assumed that i would say yes but i was scared. But somehow What did randall was the bully. That i gave his name for this Randall ended up making fun of his friend for asking me out and he ended up saying you know this stupid shit that the middle schoolers say about like them to new tree Like like he would say stuff. I go you guys. Were married in like all this stuff and his friend would never like be like. Oh shut up. I don't like her do that. So i felt bad for saying no and at the dance we saw each other and it was cool like he was cool. And but the dance Randall kept saying stuff like that. Like he was like you guys are together and then he would follow me around like he was falling around for some reason. It's like broke. Go dances your friends. Like go do other things away from me. And i remember telling him like get the fuck away from me which mind you i. I was a good girl. I did not swear. I know i swear a lot in my podcast but i did not swear i didn't. I had never been suspended. The only time i ever got detention was because i was late and that was twice my whole life..
"middle school" Discussed on PsychChika
"Worked as all. Your whole home room went to the same class everyday so throughout the day. You're in the same exact class. The same exact kids. So i had no point was ever away from him and he would like make fun of me like if i like in the cafeteria for food he would make fun of that and then if i didn't he would make fun of like. Oh you're trying to go on a diet like shit like that like it was constant and it was brutal like thinking back like it was brutal and honestly i was a little impressed with how much new material he came up with because sometimes he would use the same things but he would come up with new material like every day like it was weird but so it was like the entire school year right and it was constant and even like other kids were like. Why are you doing that. Like his friends obviously would laugh but even sometimes they'd be like bro lake. You've been over this already lake. Why are you so talk like many other kids. It's not like he was the bully of the grade. He like all the guys. He was friends with mostly like he wasn't friends with the super popular kids or the super athletic kids. But it's our grade was so small like are. The sixth grade was linked to classrooms. The seventh grade was willing to an eighth grade was willing to so it wasn't like a huge thing and the sixth grade was kind of like cut off from the seventh and eighth graders and from elementary school. Like it was weird. We were like in limbo but it wasn't like he was making fun of everybody else like all the other nerds and it was really weird and i know some people might listen to this in be like. Oh he liked you that. I promise you was not the case i promise you. He was straight disgusted. It was not like a fake. Like oh you make fun of someone because you like her. I promise you wasn't bad. But anyway the part that i remember the most because like i said his bullying wisconsin the part that i remember the most was.
"middle school" Discussed on PsychChika
"Like that and Loud enough for the whole class to here but quite like it's a teacher called him out like he couldn't really say anything so he did stuff like that. And i remember one time we were lining up for lunch and he was for some reason behind me. Like get away from me if you don't like me. But he was for some reason behind me and he was with some of his friends and he went he went to go smell my hair and then he acted like it was like a sewer and he was like coughing in like putting on this dramatic show and his friends were laughing and it was just like i had to pretend. I didn't notice that he did that. And i felt really bad. And it was just like that wisconsin. It was like a constant bullying situation and he would bully me for everything other than my height because like i said he was shorter. He would bully me for my weight. He would like make he would walk around like trying to imitate being fat because he probably weighed. You know not. Like didn't i don't know how much six years away but like he was very small and so he would imitate like Waddling in he would do that and just pointed me laugh and he would make fun of my hiding which i mean fair But like he he made it so like if like even if i need is work mahajan he was like as if i never showered my life and i never did anything in my life like buffering teeth or my hair or anything. He was very like overdramatic about things and humid acne which i had pretty bad acne but it wasn't like literally it wasn't like how he was saying like he would say it as if like my whole face was red and it was just like one big blister or something like it was pretty bad like it was cystic acne but it look like.
"middle school" Discussed on PsychChika
"I'm your host jasim. Valentine and today story is going to be about a middle school bullied. That i had that i. I just couldn't shake all right. So i i'm gonna paint a picture of what i look like in middle school and you'll understand that aids honestly surprising that didn't have bullies. I am short at not. Exactly how short. I was in middle school. But i reached two hundred pounds by middle school k so it looked really bad on me and they had a lot of acne and honestly i could have had a better hiding so i was obviously a big target for beliefs and my school's pretty small so there wasn't a ton of people there.
"middle school" Discussed on Focus On the Family Daily Broadcast
"A parent observe our boys and their friends as they begin to find their voice and guys guys you can now speak to this has one thing that we expect in our family is that you can say anything. You need to do it respectfully and agree or not agree with you. We'll still hear you out. There's nothing you can do to make me love you any less right and i think that plays into the component of faith to parents because that's the way lord has relationship with us think about how many times we've disappointed disappointed god yet. He loves us. No less fact i'd have to believe every day there's more they're considering grace and forgiveness and as a parent we're supposed to be modelling and now these guys take that message and go to school in their friends are all finding their voice but there's not always that respect factor there. I think we've had a few coversations about that. I think like it's not like one particular drum. It can just be like spread throughout middle school pretty much theme of like if you don't do something that somebody wants or if you were. We're doing something different but used to be friends. They're going to kind of poke and prod at you if you aren't exactly the way that they thought you were. They want you to be sure i mean that's got to be some pressure. The social media is big pressure as well so i mean. How do you manage that <hes> with your friend groups. Luckily middle school instagram was already. Are you start out but it wasn't like yeah. I wasn't allowed to have a little bit later on to <hes> middle school yeah. How about you on the other hand what was going on a little more <hes> impact with social committee i mean i didn't really care about social media that much until i got older i mean what about your friend group and junior high did they were they already diving diving in all my friends had social media like snapchat was a big thing. Everybody can get that for much after everybody else did so. I was kind of behind on the crew to right yeah. One of the things that i remember seeing the book is that you had a group that you called the squad yeah. Oh yeah that was pretty important to you. Yeah i liked the front in group and then after a while everybody just split off and form though i mean what's the genesis of that so it was just a bunch of people with similar mueller likings and then i met one person from the squad and then i kinda got like grouped in and then it just grew from there started out with like five people grew to like almost sixteen and yeah just went from there and then in the end of like eighth grade through eighth grade to kind of split off because everybody had different classes and that's a tribe that you get to be a part of particularly important as you enter middle school jonathan. How much intention -ality did you and your wife apply. I to the friend development side. These are the pillow talks parents have about you. Do you know do you know the friend read has. Aren't you worried about him. I mean have you noticed what he says doc over at our house okay so here's something eric and i did when the boys were still in elementary school. We started telling them things is that we knew would stick and one day would would they'd have to contemplate one of the phrases we say as be more influential than you are easily influenced and i would believe the best compliment apparent here would say will you have your child spend more time with my son my daughter because your child be a good influence on them. I've never quite understood. I don't want you hanging out with little tommy over here because he's a bad influence. Sorry buddies names. Tommy want you hanging out with that kid because he's a bad influence. Basically i've just told my sons that other child that other middle schooler is more influential on you then. You're on yourself and more influence on you than we can be so i gave them. The power be more influential than you are easily influenced that means you can be friends with anybody right. I like possibly influence them for the positive. You did that work out for you guys. Did you apply that. When did that light come on that okay. I get what dads they raise us. Those sayings at just helped us find people who were like who were kind of close to what we liked like. I like theater and middle school so i found people like that but but i also wasn't afraid of like oh are they into something different or something. That's a little bit sketchy. Now i can influence them more than they will. Influence me. I won't do anything that i would not want my parents to not see that. I wouldn't want my parents to not hear me. Do i would want to do what i'm trying to say. Is i would do anything with my friends that i would do with my family. You know i wouldn't want to do with your family watching a good axiom and that's a good rule of thumb to follow. Did you always follow lewitt daddy. You know it's just sometimes those difficult spots in junior junior high what typically young people lack confidence to be that influencers so jonathan as a father. How how could you even even in addition to what you said. Which is one thing half the time and i don't know about you boys but half the time you're not even sure your sixth grade or seventh graders actually listening you know they're doing something else and you think they're hearing you but i'm on behalf of many parents that are having these discussions with them. Sometimes it sounds like like a lecture and they can turn off rather than a dialogue zeph fair. Call that's fair. You're reacting to that okay. Sometimes it's like i'm in a bad mood or something. I don't don't wanna listen to what he has to say but it's usually important but it's just kind of going in one year and out the other and that's why he kinda after a pita. Sometimes it gets annoying. It's still in there somehow and then you you remember that and it's let me ask you this question. How is young people and you know fresh off of the junior high experience fifteen. Let's not long ago now. What would you say in coaching parents. How can we do a better job communicating. I think that you got to communicate to your your child into your middle schooler through love and understanding and like understand where they are talk to them. Ask them instead of saying go. Do your homework or go. Read your book you. How can i help you. You know what's what's giving some troubles. Do you need help with that. You know that's good advice and this is focus on the family with jim daly. I'm i'm john fuller and our guest. Today are the katherine men we have read coal and jonathan catherine. They wrote the book the manual middle school the do this not that survival. I will guide for guys. There's a lot of great stuff in here and we're going to encourage you to get this. We're going to bundle it with the c._d. For you to review and maybe listen listen to with your kid and the website is focused on the family dot com slash broadcast and our number is eight hundred the letter in the word family. You know in the book. I i think it's you call. There's an incident where you did some damage to the garage door or was there any damage to the garage. The damage to the house garage door explained the garage door problem and what that taught you so for context. I was yes i ended bowen arrows shooting the narrow <hes> don't know what got into me thought that it would be interesting to see what it would be like to like pull back with the opposite hand and does it work well with doesn't work well and you shouldn't try it with an arrow in the i don't even know living shot off went into the garage and i is like i'm going to die like my friends are gonna luckily they didn't but what happened was they. Were doing a renovation on their bathroom. So my smart self i went to the bathroom got some of the wall putting drywall putty spackling put it onto holders and textured it but some dirt on to make london with the garage door or you know and then you know it was good for a couple of weeks and then we were driving into the driveway. My dad was like is that a boat on the front or front door <hes> it's like. I don't know what that is. No there's something on the garage door and we went up and checked and of course it was bumped from the exit yeah exactly so then what happened so okay so instead of yelling or instead of getting mad at me i mean i guess he was like why didn't you tell me weeks ago uh-huh but after that he taught me how to fix the problem and we together yeah so it worked out so dad's ah driving up and seeing the garage door with this dimple on the outside. I knew immediately what had happened and we asked. Does anybody know what happened to the garage door. And of course nobody could remember so. This is what i appreciate about. The boys is i could see in their faces. They both knew but they weren't ready to tell me. I didn't know i read shows up shortly thereafter. I have to confess. I shot an arrow. Uh store and i could see the fear in his eyes and this is where you go. Okay yes discipline right and so it's time to be disciplined. Now we believe if you are either self disciplined or somebody else has to discipline you either way. You need to be disciplined and so i said well you need to be disciplined and the discipline and this is you need need to fix a garage door the way the garage door needs to be fixed and i will show you how and we'll discuss from there. What follows and i was thinking okay. It's going to depend on his attitude now does he. He you know go off the deep end and tell me something. I'm so bad for making a fix garage door. He dove right in that garage door. Got the full treatment. It looks great. I mean he had multiple layers of paint on the whole thing it was. He did a great job so we learned a really good lesson. Now jim a moment ago you asked about confidence in his middle school school a boys' in middle school competence important it absolutely is important but how do we get confidence right. I believe competence follows capabilities so if we can teach these these young men capabilities. They know they're able that means. Their confidence level increases so using i i don't care karaj doors. I mean i do my house but he is more important than a garage door and i know he's already learned a lesson about firing a narrow through the house into the garage but it's the so what can we do with this. Now i teach him something to make him more confident through a capability which would be in this case repairing the garage door and also maintain our relationship lasting. I wanna do is fixed. <unk> break our relationship. Let me on that serious subject that we you know handle the little light-heartedly the bullying issue because boys can be really hard on each other especially at the junior high age which is what we're talking about. Did you ever encounter that. How did you deal with it. Maybe jonathan from your perspective is dad. How did you even inquire about whether or not it was occurring so let's start with the guys here. Did you ever experience it. I had a couple of people who are mean to me. Me bows like more of trying to pick at me to see how far they could go. Tigana like really mad and i'd like patience enough to not care but there were some kids kids that just really got on my nerves and i would yell back at them like not anything bad. I would just get mad and be like shut up. Shut up be quiet and nothing really past that but some were just picking you to get on your nerves so that they could be better than us. Somehow right that's true. I mean it's a tough time alive for me. It was more name name-calling and just like you know just dumb names and so i think my experience with that and my memory of that is just that love and trying to see what's going on in their lives is more powerful than heat and trying to break down somebody else's life and so i've it actually made a few friends yeah not naming names but you know somebody was picking on me. I talked to them so i was going on and and found out that like you know they weren't having a great time in their life at that point and we became friends and we were this day off on and then also just the people people we may not be friends but you know some other people i've just talked to them and it stopped because just communication and simple acts.
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"When trenton troy started middle school. I think it's all that apprehension you know. They don't really have enough confidence yet. They're trying to figure you're out what they're good at what they're strong at doing and there's a lot of doubt and that's certainly true on the boy side. I remember i mean some older kid. Kinda kinda hit me in the chest and a p._e. Class because he was defining for a friend of his how well built he was kinney. I tracked my my sternum and then he said oh. I'm sorry i didn't know you couldn't take a light punch which made all the words yeah but that is that's kinda middle school. That's what happens. I mean guys boys always trying to figure out the pecking order who's who and who's good athlete and all that stuff and it's rare for a young man not to go through some kind of torture there but it's it's great to hear what many schools are doing like in that clip. We heard where older kids are mentoring the younger kids yeah. We didn't have a lot of that no no it. It didn't happen that way right and today. We want to give you some tools to help you. Guide your child and you as a parent through these transition shen phases like from elementary school to junior high school and you may be going through that right now and we have some wonderful guests. The catherine's jonathan kathrein who has two sons read and coal reading coal are both middle school survivors so that's a good thing and they have lots of great insights to share with us they do and they've they've written. A book called the manual to middle school the do this not that survival guide for guys and we're so glad to have them here. It really is an insightful book. Jonathan's been here before and it must be fun to have his boys with him. Welcome to focus walking back. Thank you thank you. It's great to be back yeah. That's fun. This is kind of unique. You know having a dad with us to <hes> almost adult sons right. You guys are on that pathway now. How old are you. I'm fifteen eighteen eighteen okay. We'll talk about that later but welcome in it is a good thing. How did you decide to bundle all this this advice into one book for young people young men particularly who are about to enter middle school or who are in the throes of middle school. Whose idea was it so you remember when i was here last time we're talking about the manual demanded and i had written that book for my sons right shortly after returning back home and contemplating. What's our next project. These two guys were sitting at the dining table over dinner. Talking about middle school because coal was just leaving. Elementary school headed into middle school and reed was just leading middle school headed into high school so over. A couple of dinners was likely what should i do. What should i do advice was flying. I looked at each at the guys and i go adding. We've got another book here. Guys yeah right no kidding so read. Let me ask you in that transition especially into medical school if you can reach back that many years now what were those sir those feelings those emotions that you had read. It's all good on so going into middle school so i think it was kind of stressful stressful. It was like what am i going to do. I'd been in elementary school. How many since kindergarten fifth grade so that's about six years that that was where my homeless that's what i was comfortable with going into a sixth grade and into middle school. It was like it's a much bigger school. There's way more kids there. I don't know what i'm going to do. I'm worried that i'm gonna mess up or them. Not gonna make any friends. Friends will sure and so fear is one thing you don't the unknown. How 'bout you call. I luckily had to read to help me watching at that session blake okay. What do i do like it there so you were observing your older brother. Yeah parents don't always get that. We don't know if you're watching to watch. I was freaking out and what was causing you. Strain or anxiety lockers were scary. You get to put yourself in a box that was like behind metal door. They can't always open. That's just freaky yeah and then you had to remember a combination which you thought you'd never remember exact. I can remember that also just the canada for the guys particularly that pecking order would i alluded to in the opening is true isn't it. I mean it's maybe unspoken but you're trying to figure out who who's who. What group do you fit in <hes>. Did you have some of that anxiety exile as well yeah i think so because i had a friend <hes> i think he was in some great at the time but he was talking to me about how like like guys are gonna find out who they are and like kind of like mess around with you. If if you know what happened to yeah exactly yeah they think that you're weaker your smaller or you're a little bit different than the kind of like you know exactly. I mean that's not it. Sometimes it's very serious so i don't wanna make too much light of that but there there is something about the male orientation that you know you. Just you testing each other. You're trying to figure out who's the guy he was nice to me and he kind of like helped me through that. He was like oh yeah. I'll make sure not messes with you yeah. Well you know johnson being the parent. Let's go to that part. Wise an important for parents even pay attention. This is kind of the stuff that normally happens. Do we really have to be that engaged because kids are kids and they're going to learn the ropes well. These are some really critical formative years both four how are thinking and how other acting and going through middle school. I think a lot of it is a whole bunch of experimenting on. Does this work and should i repeat it does not work and how do i never do this again so as a apparent to give our kids the kind of advice that we believe is going to work but we can't force him. It's kind of like you can direct you can't steer for them and so what kind of direction action can we give our children as they make that big transition between elementary school middle school to set them up for the best potential success now. They're going to have to give it to go but if they don't know no often today they'll pull back and just not even engage right so i'm going to give them the best advice i can and share with them in any way i know how without forcing rushing down their throats so that it's their experience not my told them to experience yeah i think they every parent needs to go through the sharing gene versus forcing their kids and i think the you've got to build that relationship so it's not just happening at the middle school transition i mean in other words the happening sitting in the conversation you've got to build as a parent you got to build that trust and that open dialogue and how did that work for you three. Let's really unveil it here. Did you guys have a good did kind of communication line with an open with our family. It doesn't really matter. There's no huge walls between us. Don't you think that's the ground floor. You gotta able to communicate what happens. In a family where there is a lack of that communication. There's a distrust between the parent and the kid and there's not the ability to like talk about all your feelings to apparent which is always knock good for the cup and like that can build up and that can crumble relationships in a matter of time so oh. I'm sure you've had friends that fit that description. You guys talk about it at that level. When you're sixth seventh grade eighth grade you guys. Did you remember any conversation behind closed doors doors but then once we're once like i i realized that once i went into high school that's where we started to become comfortable talking about family life and like what's actually going interesting the truth ruth not just like brushing it over like oh yeah everything's fine. This happened but it's okay but you're right. This is what's going on now. That's good <hes> <hes> let me go to the faith component because that plays an important role obviously the role in christian homes and i guess the right questions what role does does faith play in preparing for middle school. How does a parent make sure that their kid is grounded. How many moms let me speak to the moms listening. We're are fearful fearful of that moment especially when their son and we're addressing sons today but you can apply these things to daughters obviously but when their sons are making that transition transition. I'm sure a lot of moms allow right so let's go back and look at faith. Context faith means. You've got to believe in something that isn't necessarily always seen seen in and it can't always be proven think about this. If you are consistent in your faith in your family through elementary school and then you get into middle school with your kids and they hit hit that thirteen year old age. Let's just call it what it is. It's cray cray. Thirteen is the craziest age ever thinking. What did i do wrong because now everything i've shown them seems to be thrown out the window or in my face or or i can't do anything right as a parent and don't take a personal but to be faithful through the time the message you shared a growing up to this time the message you're gonna share as they move through those on those chaotic ages of life though the middle school and high school time so the context of faith love the lord your god love your family be consistent. I think that's the biggest thing don't try to then do a mass of course change because you now have a toll thirteen fourteen fourteen year old. You've got just simply be faithful through your processes work to his point continue to raise a child up on the way they should go when they're old all they will not depart from it. Noticing that scripture doesn't say in the middle it says when they're old if you were to add to that which we're not going to raise a child up when they're middle school go crazy and then they'll come back around but the reality is this is a tough time so the faith component in the family is consistency. Yeah i like that and <hes> that's probably the best way approach faith. Is that consistency so your kids see it right and they may not always follow it. I guess is my point. I mean your boys. These are doing well. It seems and there are families where there's going to be struggle and john <hes> you know you home. Schooled your kids so that's a whole different environment but when and you're young people are in public school you're being exposed to a lot of things that maybe your faith contradicts what about that component with friends and what were some of the the drama aspects of your junior high years one thing we saw as.
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"Mr kylie he can. It's totally legal. Bring your bible to school. Day is coming up thursday october third learn more by visiting. Bring your bible dot org. That's bring your bible dot o._r._g. Bring it sherry lift. Finding trusted faith-building entertainment for your kids is easy with the adventures in odyssey club. It's an online community with almost every episode ever and focus the family clubhouse magazine subscription a._o. Club dot org slash radio. I'm getting ready to start middle school and i'm worried that i won't have have any friends. When i first started school. I was nervous but excited at the same time. I'm also worried about getting around because a much bigger your school was worried about being bullied or walker not opening in gym class and a little worried about the classes and how they'll be hard on me. This has helped the incoming sixth graders. I'm excited about being an incoming sixth grader because i feel more grown up well. Middle school is a time of transition. I think i heard the word worry in there at least seven or eight times. There's a lot to worry about <hes> when you move from elementary school to middle school to junior high in we're going to ease some of those fears today on focus on the family. Your host is focused president and author through jim daly and i'm john fuller john. I can remember when.
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