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"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

06:17 min | 1 year ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

"One is to dream big on work. Small works small number two. I call it focused variety focus variety. We actually talked about this on our me thing on wednesday with regards to people losing focus because easy to lose focus. You know we get distracted. Or things aren't as exciting as they. Once were the luster wears off. You get distracted with life and everything else that you have to do. And so it's very easy to fall off of the path that you're on because of everything else and it's hard to focus at times. I get really hopped up in hyped up about projects and things that i have going on and unless i can focus over long periods of time. I'm never going to achieve the results. That i want so. I've learned a tactic that i've applied in my life called focused variety and so it's not haphazard variety it's not just random whatever pops into my mind variety it's focused variety meaning that all of the variety and the very abilities that i'm going to engage in on on my track to grow the business or to build a canoe or to be on my jiu jitsu path or to improve my health or to develop relationship or to build out. The barn is all all the work that i'm doing is focused on the final result vision. For what i have. It's all focused on that. But sometimes i need to take a break from one particular tactic or strategy outlet. And i need to focus on something else now. A lot of people might say. Well that's wasted time and energy and if your metric for success was purely staying focused on one task until it's done that i would say yes but that isn't the metric for success the metric for success. I assume for you as it is for me is to actually complete the project. So if you're so focused on one thing and you burn yourself out to the point where you don't complete the project or you don't realize the vision then were you a success. I guess you were successful. Maybe to some degree in doing one thing really really well but again it's about completing the objective and realizing the vision. So for me what i need to do is i need to to task some very ability tests some variety in my work and so i might be working on one task in and i'll do that for a couple of weeks or a couple of days and i'll get really really bored with that and then i'll move on to something else that still needs to be done. That will still move the needle in the right direction but recharge in reenergize give me a new excitement and passion about what it is doing because passion is important in a lot of people will say well disciplined disciplines greater the motivation while it can be sure when the motivation expires. Sometimes you're going to need to be disappointed. I need to get a trench through and get it done. But i don't know that motivation is inferior to discipline necessarily because maybe you can keep yourself motivated by changing things up focused still working on the task at hand but doing it in a different way or focusing on a different elementary dynamic of the task in order to achieve your big results and in that case motivation survey very very well so i'm not willing to throw a motivation under the bus. Just because i'm supposed to be as disciplined as possible to be now. I want to complete the objective and that means that some need to trench through. And other times i need to mix it up so i can stay engaged in. Stay on target all right and the third one guys. I wanted to share with you some number one again. We have dream big works. Paul number two. We have focused variety and then third one is honored. The journey honor the journey. Somebody had told me the other day. I think michael chandler. When i had him on the podcast released on tuesday. He said something like an paraphrasing. He said that maybe the goal is the journey. That's a pretty interesting thought that maybe the goal is journey because most people will talk about the goal being the goal like. I need to reach that destination. If that's the only thing you're worried about than what are you going to do. In the meantime in order to achieve that objective. Or you're gonna lie cheat still your morals and your standards. Maybe that's all that matters. But what if instead that the goal that you should be having the journey is honoring the journey honoring the path knowing that. You're getting better knowing that you're improving knowing that you're working towards something. There's the the kaizen method which is a fi remember correctly the one percent better each and every day and you honor that hey. I'm not a pinnacle of where i need to be. But a one percent better than i was yesterday and tomorrow one percent better than that one percent better than that one percent better than that. And isn't that a beautiful thing. Can't you find joy and satisfaction fulfillment and meaning and purpose in getting one percent better every single day. Because look when. I look at the gap again to go back. That integrity gap the gap between where i want to be where i currently am. That can be disheartening. And it's going to narrow overtime. Hopefully it's going to get smaller. Hopefully does get wider. But what is instead of worrying about that gap in it may be diminishing demoralizing my goals and ambitions and desires and even actions. What if instead. I just focused on. I'm a little better today. A little better today. A little better today on a little better today and what that requires is an after action. We talked about that length. But just recapping your day. What did i get done. What didn't i get done. What do i want to do better tomorrow. Where did i thrive. Where did i fall behind and being very honest with yourself about where you are and as you do. I think you're going to realize that you can get one percent better every day and that you do honor the process in you. Honor the journey because what most people will do. They despise the journey. Most people do they despise the journey. They want the journey to be over. Like just gimme the result. No work no effort. No time no progress. I just want the result without the effort. And that's the natural man that i've talked about. You know go go ask one hundred people that hey how you doing what's going on. They'll say oh you know here. We are on well. It's friday now. But as i'm recording this here we are on tuesday and i just can't wait for the weekend. Okay we'll you're not honoring the.

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"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

01:43 min | 1 year ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

"Podcast leno take a screen shot very very before. This one is a raced from muira. Podcast player takes right now and then you can post it up on instagram facebook twitter. Wherever you're doing the social media thing let people know what you're listening to Not only is it going to serve the people you care about well but it also helps us because this is grassroots movement of reclaiming and restoring masculinity in this society. That is ever dismissive of it. it's just a good way to build what we're doing here so take that screen. Shot share tag ni tag. Michael send michael message on instagram or facebook. Wherever you're doing again the social media thing let him know what you thought about the show. Let me know what you thought about the show tags up And let's continue to grow this movement that a lot of work to do this the society that we live in like i said earlier is increasingly dismissive of masculinity. But it's way worse that it's way worse than that and We we frankly we have the solutions to it. Because we're talking about real issues important topics and then most of all were calling each other to do the work about Fixing it so make. Sure subscribed lead the rating interview. Check out the council share where you can hit up. Michael hit me on instagram or facebook or twitter. And let's keep getting. After our. I guess lou back tomorrow for my ask me anything with Mister kip sorenson. Who is a new black belt. Which i'm really excited for him. You talk a little bit about that on the podcast tomorrow. Or i guess until then go out there and take action and become a main youth are meant to be thank you for listening to the order of man. Podcast you ready to take charge of your life would be more of a man you were meant to be. We invite you to join the order. At quarter of man dot com..

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"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

06:47 min | 1 year ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

"I think i kind of goes back to embracing the process. You know not not even. What if the goal is just the process you know. What is the goal. What if the goal is just embracing the process. You know it's not the it's not the gold belt. It's the process for me to get to the gold belt. It's none the million dollars. It's the process for me to get to the mill. The million dollars. You know And i think having that kind of perspective helps you as you said live in the moment more and also deal with adversity. You know. Just because i failed today doesn't mean that i'm never gonna win that belt. I'm ever gonna make that million dollars. I'm never gonna be be successful in this thing. I'm never going to be able to capture an acquire. That thing that i'm chasing just because i failed today doesn't mean i'm not going to be able to close the door on that. The sun really does come up again tomorrow and get another opportunity another crack at another another chance and you gotta have that. In my sport. I had a bad day today. You know. I might have a bad night's night here a couple of hours training again. So you just gotta you gotta get that you you roll with the punches. You'll literally and figuratively right. It's it's metaphor. And it's it's and that's why i feel so blessed that this sport is is what it is and it's and it's different in it's impactful and it's and it's gonna be a great opportunity so i'm forever indebted mixed martial arts. How big the promotion is how big the platforms are so. It's it's awesome humbling. Fearing what do you say to those people to go back to what you were saying a minute ago about. How can you be christian and pursue this lifestyle. Would what what do you say to somebody who who might bring that up or mention matter. Think the no. It's a great. It's a great thought I can tell you right now. I've spoken at more churches about my career in about my about my my path than i than i have in in secular venues you know. I've spoken at more churches. More men's more men's conferences. Men's retreats then i have Any other then you you know. There's a there's a place in christianity for for my type of of career. You know first of all trained and a lot of people that are they trained with a lot of people who loved trained. And and also i in in a non in non-confrontational way without sugar coating it i would say to you. Who are you to tell me what my mission is. And what my way of of spreading the gospel is no. Who are you to say that just because like fighting a cage that it must not be. God who are you you know i. I don't think. I don't think tim tebow ever wants apologize for running over somebody on the goal. Line on a quarterback sneak. Maybe a concussion maybe flat back in you know. I don't think. I don't think christians in other sports who may You know be in other context. I don't think they've ever apologized for doing bodily harm. Within the confines of the rules of the sport and mixed martial arts is no different if mixed martial arts is my vehicle to have a platform for my voice to be heard an intern. And i don't talk about my faith. Time i don't i don't i don't preach the gospel on a lot of platforms. I don't talk about my faith a ton i think. I think people see the way. That i live my life here a little things that i say here and there i referred to my face way that i referred to the way that i lived and That's my way of doing it. That's what i've i've never felt conviction about it. That i need to speak about my faith for and i've never i've never felt led to speak about it any more than i already do. I feel i feel confident. And i feel Comfortable with the the amount of the amount that i that. I speak about my face and i think people can just see in the way that i live and the things that i do. If they don't they don't like it they were never really going to like it anyway or just eventually. Wear him down when i came into. Mike's a lotta people did like these. Because i immediately got up for the world title shot. And i then i didn't hook and then i got a title shot my second fight and ufc. And everybody's like i don't like this guy. Why is he getting these opportunities. All these other people deserve it. I completely agree with you for that for that notion of for that that that process that thought process But eventually the amount of people that have sent me messages are reached out to me and said you know what i did like you earth but now after hearing this interview or listening to this works she in the way that you love your son or this about you man. I feel like you're my favorite fighter. Now and i and i silently chuckled with a little smile on my face because these things take time. You're not you're not gonna number one not gonna be everybody's cup of tea but you're also not going to be everybody's cup of tea right away eventually. Keep doing what you need to do. Be authentically yourself and the ones that want to attach themselves and the ones that want to pay attention and and kinda jump onto what. You're what you're thinking about talking about. And and what you stand for will eventually become Part of your kind of part of your circle. Yeah yeah we'll brother. I'd love to get you up here to maine some time. I we're actually doing Origins immersion camp right. Now i snuck away for a couple hours. So you and i can have this conversation But we gotta get you up here. Maybe when you're not in fight can't jock goes up here and all the origin guys are up here so we'd love to have you here in person at some point i would. I would love to manage so cool i love. I love your platform your message. What you're doing so thank you for the great conversation. Thank you for what you're doing As we continue to try to Bill men up and bill great leaders because without on the world balls pretty quick so thank you for being you are and exactly what this podcast this platform itself appreciate you man thank you. We're going to be rooting for you. come november. I used to say good luck. It's not about good luck. I'll give you best wishes. I know you're gonna take it within your hands. At god's hands make the most of it whatever comes so stoked about forty br drive. That's why we say. I'll see top. That's right that's right thanks. I appreciate you drive all right. You guys michael chandler man. One incredible conversation. I feel so fortunate. An honor to be able to have conversations with guys like michael and everybody else we've had on the podcast and and frankly it isn't lost on me that it's You who are making this all a possibility for me. And i want do offer you that. That's my that's my sole objective. Zyppah i want to give you the tools and conversations and resources that you need to thrive in your own life and i think this one will will help you do. Just that if you apply. That's the biggest thing. I don't want us to be a bunch of as andy facilitate would say learning zombies. I want us to apply this information. So if you enjoyed the.

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"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

07:46 min | 1 year ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

"Did back on when i fought for the ufc. Tidal the way. That i'm able to pull myself back up. Dust myself off may fifteenth the sun. The sun went down and then it rose right back up on may sixteenth. And i got another opportunity to move forward and in the face of adversity and and with complete disregard to that previous failure and my future opposition. And that's an opportunity. That i that i don't take lightly. That's an opportunity that people can see That this small guy from the small town normal everyday guy threw himself into the fire yet. He fell short but at least he was the man in the arena who who dare who failed while daring greatly at best i walk out of there with the ufc belted on my shoulder at worst. I failed while i while daring greatly the old the a man in the arena quote. You know it's just. It's it's a metaphor for this life and it's a metaphor for the sport and that's why i think people are drawn to mixed martial arts because what we do inside that act gone is a physical manifestation of the fights that all of us are going through every single day and i'm just so thankful that i get the opportunity to having done having done it as long as i have and every single fight is another blessing In another opportunity to kinda just capture the attention and and hopefully instill The taking chance taking a chance mentality into other people because it has served me well over the last decade and a half and I got a lot more chances to take a lot more. Petro myself and it's gonna be a lot more fun then you're so right about people wanting to see somebody get back up. You know you see. We see champions. Get knocked down and i'm talking about champions in the ring or just champions of life get knocked down and i kind of like hold my breath a little bit and just look and say hey. What's this guy going to do now. You know what's gonna do now because that's really to me. What actually matters. And that i think is more reflective of his character than what he did when he was on top of everything. One hundred percent. If the reason the rocky franchise is one of the biggest franchises of all time if rocky there would not have been iraqi or was in six rocky movies or whatever it is i would say four. Four is my favorite but cancel a matter right. Somebody is going to be upset. I just said that. But that's all that matters but there's not there would not have been so many rocky movies rocky just one every single time you know. It's i hate it. It almost sounds counterintuitive because of course as an athlete i wanna win. I wish house actually no. I don't wish almost. I wish i was undefeated. But i don't because the losses have our what has galvanized the falling short in the setback. That has what has fashioned to be through for better or worse through pain and through trial and tragedy and triumph through through it all all the mixture of motion those losses those setbacks and those injuries and all that pain and the tears were shed and the bad days. Those were the things that fashion being the man that i am today So it's it's exactly like what you said we follow. We almost are more intrigued when people fall short because we all have shortcomings. We all have setbacks we all have doubts insecurities and fears so when we watch somebody from afar fail. We get the opportunity to be inspired by how they respond. You know And luckily for me. I've luckily and unluckily i guess whatever it is. It's it's all just part of the process that i've had these losses that have had these setbacks and have the opportunity to you know hopefully touch some people with with my performances with my with my wins with alex with great highlights but also with my setbacks on my you said lucky or unlucky. I think it's subjective. It's it's it's going to happen right like the loss or the wind happens either. Happens or doesn't happen. And here's how it played out and the way that you view it or how you define. It is really just the way you're looking at it. If you want to say that's unlucky then yeah that's lucky if you want to say for the most horrible thing that ever happened to you then maybe it is but view different way. Yes the old jaakko good video. Brian bliss right. That's right thing happened good. I had a bad day. Good right and it's it sounds. It's almost so it's it. It that to me is is hard for maybe a lot of people to understand but you only can build. You can only build that kind of mentality by throwing yourself into the fire and having so many failures that you eventually become numb to them and you almost you. You have the ability to embrace them. And you'll never be able to fully embrace change failure setback And losses without going through them and constantly putting yourself in situations where you have where you have. Maybe a fifty fifty chance of winning or losing. You know we have seventy thirty chance of losing right. Put yourself into those kinds of situations. Find ways to expand your shuman capacity through failure. You know so Because obviously as an athlete. I always want to win. That's the goal every single time. I don't train. Like i do and go with my family. If today paychecks. But man you gotta you gotta be okay with the uncertainty. That's about to happen. You have to be you have to embrace the uncertainty and win lose draw. I always go back to my god still loves me. My family still loves me. And most importantly i still love me because now Without me truly loving myself in accepting myself those other two are not gonna get the love and the attention that they truly need. You know and and and i only say that. Because i've been that guy who didn't love myself. Like i should have had all these all these abilities and all these gifts and all these opportunities and such a blessed life yet i kept looking at myself like i was less than looking at myself like i was like. I deserved the short sticker. I deserved to not be wildly successful And i've gotten to the point. Now where i want people to live that abundance that abundance type of lifestyle and having abundance mentality more than the scarcity mindset of pabst one of the words you use was was numbness and i and i just want to be very clear because i didn't take it this way. But you're not talking about numbness ring difference to loss like each one of those losses stings. But you're not attaching weird sorts of meaning like i'm i may perpetual loser or i shouldn't be doing this anymore. That's what you're referring to absolutely no great great clever quick clarification because yeah it it brings me back to one of my one of my favorite ideas of all time. The great big said failure is an event. Not a person. And that's what. I mean by by numbing yourself to it. You got a number emotion out of it because we're all emotional creatures. You know we have. We all have these emotions and we have to be in control of our emotions that we also have to to no winner. Emotions are a good thing and when they are bad and after a loss. It's okay to feel the emotions. I sobbed baby after this last night. It was just me and my wife you know i stayed up all night reliving the moment plus the fight adrenaline plus everything i couldn't i couldn't sleep. So how many hours that night think about it. but i've changed my mindset to realizing that may fifteenth was an event in which i failed but i am not a failure and the old michael would've would've immediately started to attach. Well i guess. I'm not as good as i thought i was. Or i guess the media was right. Now this guy said. I was gonna eventually fizzle out or i didn't do this. I should have done that and realizing that failures and event not a person and realizing that every single person that you look up to every single person that you love every single person that you admire has at one time or another been a quote unquote failure went down a road. They threw themselves into the arena and they fell flat on their face..

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"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

07:25 min | 1 year ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

"The people who consistently show up when it when the lights turn on. That's either just in innate inherent ability to just show up and do it and not think twice i think some of that has god given some of that is just the way people are designed. You got certain people guy on my team who's fighting next week actually who he He doesn't take training. I don't wanna say he didn't take training seriously train hard and whatnot. But he doesn't he doesn't over think it he if he has a and you never see him have a bad day you never see them down on himself whereas me. I'm over here in the corner wanting to kick a hole in the wall. That's how i am. Rip it off my gloves in. And i'm not saying i'm right or wrong where i'm sure hashing it or less fashion. He is but then but then fast forward to his fight night when the lights come on he goes out there and he performed so dang well and he performed over performs under the lights whereas so many people underperform whenever whenever the lights come on so it all goes back to that mindset of being being able to show up when the lights come home but also just realizing that man. This whole thing is a journey. You know i want early in my career. It was such a blessing to get shot out of a cannon and become top three and world champion with an eighteen months of beaten eddie alvarez. Who is the number three guy in the world. The time it was it was on her thousand to one underdog right. So i beat him and i immediately put myself in this position of world champion. The guy who's the new guy who everybody saying. Hey i he needs to go to. Us bypasses henderson was the champion of sun and immediately i went from loving the sport having a blast enjoying the process to trying to be perfect every single day because as soon as i won that belt i showed up the practice and if a guy lanza punch on me all the sudden now i'm not perfect if the guy gets take down on me or i don't get a takedown him all the sudden now. I'm not perfect back. Focus so much on being perfect instead of just showing up and trying to be successful that they trying to be better that way better that they embracing the process. So i think that's that's one of the aspects that doesn't get enough attention because so many people in and there's this idea that people that people boast about being a perfectionist just a perfectionist. You know. I gotta get that that to me is always going to lead to pain into failure. Because you're never ever going to be perfect. you're never ever going to perform perfectly. You might perform near perfectly. Might be a a flawless performance. But it's never going to be perfect. And that's what happened to me is one that first world title i took. I took on the pressure of the entire intimate media. That was touting the the next big guy and all my training partners and all my coaches and all you know my my coaches from back home at mizzou who you know. Were excited for to go into mixed martial arts. I started shouldering all this pressure which which propelled me into perfectionism. When really. I just need to be so focused on being successful Instead of being perfect and and and that goes also goes back to now. That i'm saying this. These young men or young women who are pursuing something of talent. It's so important to work hard and be mentally be mentally built up your self image but also who you're surrounding yourself with the idea. The idea of success not perfection came from my best friend and mentor. Chris paterson one day. I called him. Just freaking tears in my eyes just probably cussing up a storm not very happy. You know just Any and he's just like michael. would it. sounds like you're trying to be perfect. I'm like yeah. I gotta be. You know. I got to be perfect. I'm the world champion. I'm this i'm that era. Hawaii said that this will sounds like you just need to focus on being successful. Not be perfect. You're never going to be perfect. And without having that type of person in my life that type of mentor that type of voice that was probably his straight discernment got it in to have that wisdom in that moment to excel or spread into my soul. At that moment i immediately was like okay and immediately i felt a lot less pressure. That eight hundred pound earlier had been on. My shoulders immediately fell off. And i was able to turn things around and get better. You know so Working hard focusing on your mental health your your mindset and then surrounding yourself with the best people possible. That's kind of the recipe go from extremely talented to extremely talented and a guy or a gal form whenever the whenever the lights. Come on this This concept of of perfectionism is very interesting. Because what i've seen in in myself just as much as anybody else. Is that if we want to be perfect. It's usually a perception thing. Like i want people to see me away. A certain way right it's manufactured and then what i think it causes people to do at least this is what's been true of me is. I won't put myself into. Arenas where i can't be the best. I can't be perfect even thought about that to a lesser degree. Of course than you with jujitsu over the past three years which is how long. I've been trained in jujitsu. It's very easy for me. To go to a default position or a default submission attempt. Because i know i can get it like but how is that going to serve me. If i'm not willing to experiment to try something new or get caught or to put myself vulnerable position where somebody else might get the better of me. We don't want to deal with that. We just wanna deal in the arena where we know we can get and that's it. Yeah you know in. Unfortunately you know we all have to admit that that's derived from from ego right. Yes it's And i've done it to trust me. I only say that. I'm not calling you out. I'm going both of us out in all of us out as men especially you know we we default to these things that we know are comfortable but if you really were able to look back at all the different decisions that you made where you played it safe or where. You didn't take a chance where you didn't go into an arena where you knew there was a good chance or a high likelihood that maybe you're not gonna be be successful. You're not gonna get the gold medal. You're not gonna get the results that you want but you become a better man a better competitor. Better father a better husband more galvanized man by throwing yourself into that fire you know. And that's that's one thing that's mixed martial arts has taught me and people always ask me. Why why are you you know. What are you thinking before you go out there. And i really don't get nervous because i get excited about the opportunity of throwing myself into an arena literally and figuratively inside the cage in inside of the fire excited win loser draw that. I'm becoming a better man and being galvanized on a fire that i'm throwing myself into you know and it's I have an ego. And i have confidence and i'm proud of who i am and what i've what i've done but i never let the fear of looking bad. Hold me back because back. That was what the young michael chandler used to do. I would shrink myself. And i would pull myself away from things that i was afraid of. That are where i knew. I couldn't be a hundred percent foreshore successful you know. We don't follow people because of the virtual certainty of their unblemished record or that there that the virtual certainty of them be accessible. We follow people because they take chances and we see them take those chances and an inspires us and then even more so when they fall flat on their face just like..

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"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

05:20 min | 1 year ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

"We do that. Exactly but these are the kind of things that are happening in. It's so great because people can pad their wallets. But but how do you become a a a thriving. Spirit not just a thriving bank account and a thriving number of followers. But how do you. How do you have a thriving spirit and unfortunately we're gonna we're gonna continue to grow up in a in a day and age where it almost becomes so easy to become successful that we're that we're forgetting that hard work doing things right and operated with integrity or the are the three most important things that you can possibly do. So i don't. I kind of went on a tangent. Went went that way. But i think it all still goes back to looking at yourself as just a normal human being Just a regular guy and I just pray and keep that same mindset and humility throughout the rest of my life. Yeah well. I think that's gonna work because you're aware of it and so you wrote. I wrote that down. I'm just taking notes as you're talking to saying you said you're not making these bigger than it is but then there's the other side of it too and i think a lot of guys by this that they'll say to themselves. Well i am just a regular guy. And they'll put so much weight on that that they limit themselves to what they could be. And you said. I didn't buy into that. Where does that mentality come from. Is that something that is. Inherently you know relationships that you had a lot of the guys that i've had on the podcast have what i would say is a healthy chip on their shoulder. Where they they've had an experience and they vowed never let that happen again. Where does that mentality for you. Come from man. I tell you what. I've 'cause 'cause i talk about this story. Lack of it's my story and i do. I always get asked question. And i could honestly say there's nothing in my past or in my circle of family and friends teammates training partners That would ever point to me making that decision. When i say i'm the only person that made made that decision that i know of from where i grew up. I am literally the only person that made that decision of the people in my in my high school in my town. I was the only person so it didn't make sense that i didn't make sense why i did it. All i can say is that you you pray for wisdom and you pray for discernment and you pray that you can make the best decision possible whether that decision is the thing in the world whether whether you see an open door but you're afraid to walk through that open door but for some reason you you have to make that decision. And that's why it's important. Just pray for the discernment. He who lacks wisdom pray for wisdom and it will be given to you by by your god. I think it's james one five and that was a that was a scripture. That my my My father-in-law actually sent me as i was going to my meeting with. Ufc because Pretty cool your father-in-law say that to you. Father in law sent that to me and it was just so cool because it's and it was and it was really actually the first time that i really read that scripture. I think but there it holds so much weight because instead of just trying to have wisdom instead of just praying you know god let your will be done. Pray for wisdom pray for constant wisdom and discernment because now since making that decision now. The proof is in the pudding by making that decision. My life has changed to a trajectory. That i never thought was possible as a young eighteen year. Old small guy from the small town who was talking to small things. Mike that you're director of my life is not just tenfold. But a hundred folders thousandfold bigger and more impactful in a bigger platform than i ever thought was impossible So it's having gratitude for that but I think it goes back to pray for the pray for wisdom and the disarming to make those decisions and just kind of unbelievable courage if you will because to me. I look at that eighteen year old. That was unbelievable courage. I don't even believe that that young man was able to make that decision that kind of courageous decision So pray for unwavering. Unwavering an unbelievable courage you know In in your decision making in the in the past that you're going to go down because it will it may not. You may not see it today or tomorrow or next week. But eventually it's gonna it's gonna come to the point where you make that decision you look back and say it was that decision the catalyst to me becoming a man that was supposed to be You obviously talk a lot about your faith in god and one of the things you said earlier is that you have these god-given ability abilities And then there's this other side of things where yes i. I believe that's true. And i believe all of us have these certain abilities some different than others of course but then there's also the enhancement of those abilities because there's a lot of people out there who have been given abilities but don't use them don't train them don't develop them. So how. how do you find that relationship between what god has blessed you with naturally and what you feel like you. Developed or have the responsibility to develop it always back a mindset a hundred percent it goes back to mindset. I've being an athlete. Now since may be believe investing myself in athletics from from the time that i was fourteen years old. I've seen so many young men that were more talented than me over the most talented kids on the teams over the most talented kids in college. And now the most talented kid and mixed martial arts Young men and next.

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"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

07:10 min | 1 year ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

"Marketability late. How do you show up where where you actually draw a crowd where people because you're you're easy guy to root for there's a lot of people who are great and exceptional fighters who are hard to root for because you know they're a holes or whatever else you're you're easy got root for. Is that something that you're thoughtful about that. You're mindful about is the performance aspect of the game not when it comes to promoting for the fights and trash talk or or saying certain things through to get people to talk. I mean truth truthfully. It's so it's so interesting too. Because now that there is such a large crowd of witnesses seeing everything that i stay and everything that i do. There's a lot of people just think i'm in genuine or i'm not my genuine self from being fake or or i sound scripted. Sound you know. I sound like i wrote it all down and then regurgitated but the funny thing about that is by me being my authentic self. Some people just don't understand or don't quite grasp that this is just who exactly am. This is exactly who i am. I'm being authentic self. Because a year or two ago. I work with a a a mindset coach named jim hansel Who works with rich phoning and a bunch of other people And and one of the biggest things that we always came back to in me trying to find my find. Find a way to organize all my values and me being the most successful. I possibly can as me always showing up as my authentic self I have a. I have a tendency to shrink at times To to not make myself found to over overconfident or over boisterous not to not to make other other people feel insecure around me I have. I have an ability to to show up into a crowd and and shrink and not be my authentic self. You know so. I made a promise to myself after going through. That is no matter. What be your authentic self. Be exactly who you are and if that means you need to show how confident you are you need to show. How eloquent lead that. Maybe you can speak answering this question. Just do it. Don't mince words. Don't be afraid to rub people the wrong way because at some point pleasing. Everybody only leads to disaster. You know so. I don't think a ton about the marketability aspect. I just i just try to be my authentic self and let the cards fall where they may. I think it just goes it. Just it just so happens that you know a guy like yourself or guys guys like us who have similar values similar similar interests We love our country we love. We love what we're doing. We're passionate about what we're doing. We're passionate about our our marriage or passion about being fathers We're passionate about finding the best version of ourselves that resonates with a lot of people. You know it resonated. A lot of people. I was just a small guy from a small town. Who was taught to do small things that i somehow didn't listen to the limits the limiting beliefs in story. That was that was being told to me that i was going to eventually live out I was able to break free of that. And i think there's a lot of kids Especially young men around this country in small towns everywhere and big cities everywhere around this country. Gatorade that that that that story in that Kind of that thought process resonates with and and i think that's where i've gained you kind of the biggest platform and i really enjoy it. Because i think. I think we're all born with so much more than we give ourselves credit for So much more talent so much more ability and so much more capabilities and I lived way under those way under those for for so many years. And i'm trying not to do that every single day now but that's all i really like and i think this is part of the reason people enjoy watching you watching your career is because you talk about being this small town kid in one of the most interesting comments that i get from other people who listen to this podcast. Is they say things like you know. I would like to hear from a regular guy. And i hear that i think michael chandler's regular guy you know jaakko deli andy. Priscilla like david goggin. These are all regular guys like. All of us are regular guys. It's just that you've taken your skill set and you've improved it you've adjusted it you've developed it you've enhanced it and would you. Would you say the same thing i do. Yeah i would say the exact same thing And it is true. I whenever some some kid from some Some small town who who had dreams of leaving those county lines and going somewhere that we that was me. You know i was. I was a wrestler for crying out loud. I wasn't a star quarterback. You know. I wasn't a star point guard of one of the big sports that that people go to the nba. And and it's so. I think for for me. I always had that kind of just blue collar work really hard. Small guy from a small town Kind of mentality. I didn't listen to that. Thank god but i think i am just a regular guy who somehow found himself where i'm today sitting here talking to you and But it's only. Because i i didn't make it to be. I didn't make it bigger than it needed to be. I still look at myself as a normal guy. I still was walking through targets yesterday and three dudes three younger dudes came up and they were so pumped meet me and i was like holy cow like this is just. This is nuts. 'cause i'm just a regular guy i i i i wake up in the morning i put my pants on one leg at a time just like everyone else just like the rock. Just like your favorite rapper. Just like your favorite country artist. Jeff bezos you know i we all are are just human beings on this earth trying to figure it out figure out exactly what it is that makes us tick. What makes us passionate. What makes us. What makes us wanna wake up in the morning excited for me. Thank god i found it for now know over the next couple of years. I'll be you know. I'm gonna retire in the next couple of years and then i move onto the next thing that drives me the next thing that that that i can live out my purpose but I i just think we especially in this day this day and age the social media even this opportunity to be on your platform this elevates me even more because i continue to get more and more opportunities like this and i have a large following on social media. But you gotta remember that that large following the one million followers started at one just one you know then went to ten long right exactly right. It was my mom. My couple of high school buddies. That's right that's where it starts. And i think this has been a long long process. Well i think this the the idea of looking at somebody's chapter twenty instead of ca in comparing yourself if someone's chapter twenty if there's a twenty year old kid who's a who's a young mixed martial artists who has the goal of becoming a ufc champion. He can't look at where i'm at today. He has to look back at my chapter one. Where i started and i was just regular guy and i still am just a regular guy but with the age of social media. Everything is just constantly being thrown in your face and we see other people's success constantly and we're seeing an eighteen year old kids making two hundred fifty grand a month selling gummy bears on tick-tock and doing silly video. It's so the the idea. I don't know about that actually..

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"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

01:33 min | 1 year ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

"So as i said my last friday field notes last week making better decisions will inevitably lead you to better results. And that's exactly what we're talking about for. The month of september inside of our exclusive brotherhood the iron council We're talking about creating your new reality. And we'll be drawing from don. Miguel res book the four agreements. Lot of. You guys are familiar without work. So when you ban with us not only you're going to be participating in this discussion about creating your new reality but you're going to be challenges and assignments that are all designed to push you further. Then you've gone before and of course you're going to be able to reap the benefits that come with it. So if you want a great and lively discussion and also most importantly you the accountability in the camaraderie and the brotherhood. That comes with it then. Join us inside the iron council. You can do that at order of dot com slash iron council again order dot com slash iron council. Do that after the conversation for now. I'm going to get back to michael. One one of the things i'm curious about is obviously anybody who's followed you or knows a little bit about you obviously knows you're an exceptional fighter. Your work ethic. I mean look see on instagram. Doing your workouts in. It's unreal to me in most normal people so i don't think that's a question but i'm really curious about your your skill. Set or your your thoughtfulness about.

"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

04:59 min | 1 year ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

"Then there's a lot of animosity and contention that builds up over years if not decades and see marriages that have lasted thirty years. All of a sudden you know they they crumble because they never had these conversations. And there's this this contention is built up between the two. Yeah and that's and that's a place and there's been there's been moments you know. Don't get me wrong. You not to get too personal into our relationships. But obviously we we. We moved. We started our life together in san diego. We moved from san diego where she had friends job had everything and then we we moved because of my career and then we made another decision based upon my career. So i it's not a hundred percent fifty fifty when it comes to us make decisions. Obviously if i i am the breadwinner i have a short window of opportunity to make the greatest impact. I possibly can with this with these abilities. Got have given me. So therefore the the decision making kind of lends itself towards my career. There's i mean it's it's it's constant you know my even to this day. I just now sign my 'bout agreement a couple days ago two days ago for this next fight and we it's been kind of in limbo for last couple of weeks so you don't know exactly when you're going to get the phone call when you're going to training camp when you're leaving your family so my my career up ends a lot of A lot of the normalcy and kind of the security of of of not having to make quick decisions. We constantly have to do that. You know and i think one thing that we that. I think couples a lot of times for get to in relationships. We kind of think we come together. And then we make every decision based on e. on this union that we've created you know were guy and and while that is extremely true we all. We both still are children of god. She her own life. Gold ambitions passions purposes and. I have the exact same thing so we should also be pursuing those things to the best of our ability and never let each other hold each other back and there's been so many times where man you you'd be surprised if as a man if you stay if you stay silent and stay quiet on the things that you may or may not disagree that you may may disagree with only to let your wife go pursue something even if it does or does not work out no matter what you gave them the opportunity you gave them the keys to the kingdom to go do what they felt in their heart and i think that gets missed a lot of times in marriages because because we we think okay now we're married and now we have to make every decision based upon this marriage and while that is always true we should always be thinking about the healthiness of of the marriage and the thriving nature of of a marriage. You're still to individuals that need to continue to pursue those passions and even me now a man one of my favorite books of all time. Is john eldredge wild at heart and he says every man needs a battle to fight and adventure to have in a beauty to win. I won the beauty right. I got her. I love her and she loves me. And thank god. We have a phenomenal marriage. But i'm still always even after this career is done i need to. I need an adventure to have any. And then i need a battle to fight. So if she takes those things away for me it's going to only end up in me becoming a subpar version of myself and. There's another book that he that john and wife wrote called captivating and i'd be lying if i said i read it which i probably should have read it just to understand the woman's soul more But there's another three things that a woman is designed by us as a marriage. It's such there's two great books one for the male one for the female to realize how we are designed because we were designed differently In so many different ways and it's about it's about the yearning to learn about your partner the learning to to learn about his or her Aspects of life in in to make them the best person they possibly can be because you know happy wife. Happy happy life. You heard a thousand times. I won't be as happy as possible. So we can thrive have a pebble blast together. I'm glad you're talking about wild at heart because that book actually transformed my life as well. John's been on the podcast a couple of times now. He's an incredible incredible human. You did say something. I wanted to challenge a little bit. You said you know if. I allow my wife to take that thing away. I i would contend that maybe we as men don't allow our our wives to take it away necessarily but we we give it away right. We say well. I guess i'm not going to pursue my dreams because and we come up with all of these reasons and then what we end up doing. I think a lot of the times is looking back on it and say well my wife. You know she wanted me to do this. And we put it on her shoulders when it was us who actually relinquished control or gave up a bit of ourselves or a bit of our dreams and now were putting the responsibility on her shoulders. And it's not hers to bear the up in. You used the perfect word earlier communication. You know if it. I think it's communication and trust. I think i think my wife. And i have have.

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"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

07:00 min | 1 year ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

"I wanna be a man of my word to you let alone my wife and my son who i made this commitment to so it's it's It's a hard. It's a hard process but it's Eventually i'll look back. When i when i retire and take those gloves off to the last time and some arena somewhere and i will know without a shadow of a doubt that i did everything that i possibly could within the sport of mixed martial arts and i put my best foot forward and sometimes that was being self woukd selfish so that i could be self less from my family and i just I pray that when that day comes i You know. I don't have any regrets and it's I'm doing the best that i can. That's why you've gotta paper every single day and how how to handle it all yeah wisdom and i think also the ability to communicate effectively because i wanted to ask how your wife handles it. All you know we obviously as men that have conflicting desires at times Can can justify not the right word but come up with a scenario wyatt makes sense and why we're okay with it But then our wives may interpret that differently. How how does she handle that. When you're gone for eight nine ten weeks yeah no. It's a good question. And i do think the word justify is a word that you kind of have to you kind of have to look at and say that that kind of what it is. But it's what it's justifying through love and it's justifying through purpose. There's a different main justifying why you didn't do something because you made an excuse or why you have to do something when it's really an excuse. It's shimon empty promise but luckily for me. My wife is a career woman. My wife Works fulltime and has two different jobs and and and it's not because she needs to work. I've been afforded great opportunities with a mixed martial arts. She could be a stay at home mom if she wanted to but she she was a life. She spent her her first. You know twenty twenty something years of her life in medicine and working towards medicine and works in medicine now so she understands that you know as much as a as much as women and men are different in so many areas i think me and my wife are very equally yoked when it comes to work and you know we even even kinda came up with this thing in the last couple couple of months like grind until we're fifty you know like we wanted just grind into if we've made it we've made a commitment we're going to grind into fifty both hoping hoping and knowing that hopefully it's before fifty but grind as hard as we possibly can to one day we could say you know what i'm not gonna take this job this opportunity. I'm not gonna take this this Disappearance i'm not gonna. I'm going to be done with fighting what i want to be done with fighting. Not because i have to continue to patriot and same same. Same thing with her. You know so we. We've were very equally yoked when it comes to supporting one another's workaholic. Tendencies you know i. I identify myself as a guy who tries not to. But i very much toe. The line of workaholic workaholics him. You know I and my wife does as well so in a in a weird way since we're both wired that way we we find and we find grace in certain scenarios. We're like we're like just today. I was speaking to her on the phone. She added three more things to replay. That i i probably. I can't tell her she's doing anything wrong. Because i probably would have done the exact same thing. Moments of grace almost just empathy. Because i also understand why she does it and and when she does it and i also trust her to make the right decisions for her her well-being you know because me taken away. Her career would absolutely sent her into a downward spiral. I want her to have her. I want her to be away from me if she has to be a way for me to go work because that's our purpose. So it's a delicate dance and We've done a pretty good job of it and I can't say hasn't been tough at times because it sure has has and But we work through it just like every march. I do like that. You're talking about the fact that you understand each other and although you're on different pursuits you're walking through life together. But you understand what she needs. She understands what you need. And so there seems to be just some level of understanding and comprehension about okay. Well yeah. he's going to do this thing. It doesn't mean he doesn't love me. She's going to do this thing. It doesn't mean she's not interested in the relationship she just has her own pursuits. you had your own pursuits. That seemed to work out pretty well a thousand percent and and i think i try not to live in regret ever But i think it's healthy to look at the future and how you could regret something and it will buy unpacking that. I mean if i don't do do everything i possibly can in this career. It's inevitable that when i take those gloves off for the last time i will look back and i will regret and it's kind of like go into the ufc. I was in bella tour. For very long time i was into was indispensable asset. I was kinda wanna faces abella to where i was being. I was being taken care of very well. But i knew that the forty something year old michael would be laying on a pillow at night. That felt like a cinderblock every single night because it will constantly be wondering what if i would went to. Ufc same thing with this career. I don't poor everything into it. i don't wanna have. I don't wanna take the chance of me having those regrets. I mean i could very easily be in nashville. I own gym in nashville tennessee. I don't have the coaches or the training partners or the opportunities that i have in nashville that i have here in florida. Therefore i make the sacrifice to come to florida to mitigate that risk of having that regrets at the end of my at the end of my career. Same thing with my wife. If i said hey we are taking care of bank accounts are doing good. Investments are doing good. You don't have to work. Why don't you spend more time at home. And take that away from her. It might be okay for a second. She'll stuff it down. Might be okay for another season. She'll stuff it down but eventually that boils over and then now we've put ourselves in a scenario. Where by taking away her purpose and taking away her passion and taking away her vision for what she wants to be is not only going to affect her personally. But it's going to affect our relationship and that's not a place you want to be and and that hasn't happened. But i could very well see so clearly in the future the regrets and the the turmoil that would ensue had. We made those decisions based on. You know taking those things away from her. So that's what we've done and we keep throwing ourselves more and more into things and It's a beautiful crazy chaos. But we do pretty well in the chaos. Yet you know you talk about regrets for her and donnelly. Would there be her regrets. There might be your regrets for potentially being the one who you know. 'cause that for her not to be able to chasing and pursue her dreams. Then also there would be a level of potential contention right so well. You know the reason i left. My career is because michael. Ask me to where. Michael wanted me to do this or he wanted to take this direction. I see this a lot with couples where they don't talk about these issues. They don't communicate very well..

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"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

04:52 min | 1 year ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

"E. r. at checkout. Our guys introduce you to my guest today. Have been working on this one for a while. And finally we're able to have a conversation michael chandler's harmony get ahold of course because he's busy. He's got a lot going on all good things But we were able to pin them down and get them on the podcast. He's a three time bell tower anime champion. Who in twenty twenty. I believe or early. Twenty twenty one. I think it was twenty twenty Signed on with the of c- he won his first fight against hooker in which he won Performance of the night and then subsequently lost to charles olivera For the ucla championship But he is scheduled to fight. just engaged. which. I'm very very excited about in november but not only as chandler and extremely successful fighter. He's also a devoted family man to his wife and his son and we spent a lot of time talking about the dichotomy between the two. How handles it. And how he's come to terms with Living on both sides of the equation in some ways so hope you enjoy this one guys. I know i certainly did. He go michael. What's up man. Good to see you. Are you in florida now. I'm a florida. Yeah down here Training for a week. And then i go back home for a couple of days. Spent with my last couple days with the family and then Down here in florida for nine weeks trying to november sixth. Yeah then i'm excited for you. How's things been going. Good man you know Fought for the title in in may which was obviously the The opin me of opportunity in this sport fighting for the ufc title fell short. Lost the fight But luckily i've had a couple of months now to you. Know recalibrate reassess refocus. Spent a lotta time with my family. Which is such a good thing. But it's also a tough thing to 'cause you know you come now you come you go away from the way from them again. And i'm down here on my training camp home down in florida and it just reminds you of those those painful feelings of what it's going to be like being away from the family especially when you've been with them for so long i. I was in training camp for like sixteen months. Essentially four fights back to back to back So i almost numbed myself a little bit too The pain or the you know the the pain of being away from my family. But then i got to spend time with them so now. It's even harder so it's it's always a constant up and down ebb and flow each different season of this of this career. That i've been now for thirteen years but it's it's a huge blessing and i get to do awesome stuff like talk to you and i can't wait to get this conversation going so then at such a weird dichotomy because you you hate to say things like or even allude to the fact that maybe your family is distracting you from training. Because that's that's not the right thing to say but if such a weird dichotomy to wanna be fully vested and and they're in present with your family but somebody like yourself who is so driven and so motivated on has so many goals and ambitions within your career. It's gotta be a really strange thing with both desires tugging on each other. It is too because it's the two extremes you know. I take being a father and being a husband so seriously. But then also when it comes to training and all of the all of the hours and the disciplines and the training and the recovery that it entails and the sacrifice that it entails there to complete opposite ends of the spectrum and they really truly for me. I've never had to live with them. Both coinciding i've always kind of been away from my family for you. Know eight weeks at a time. Ten weeks at a time. And and luckily for me florida's not very far from nashville. So i'm able to go home every weekend. But there's a. There's a party every single day. That wonders you know everybody. You've heard it probably a thousand times on this podcast and just listening to other people. You don't wanna miss your child growing up. You don't wanna miss those milestones. You don't wanna miss that time. Same thing with dating my wife. And you know when i when i stood there at the altar with her promised i was gonna love and protect and take care of her in and serve for the rest of my life. That was a promise that i made that. I wanna be good. Wanna make good on. So how do you leave her for weeks at a time in months at a time and whenever we adopted my son back in two thousand seventeen. He didn't know what i was saying. I look in the eyes. And say buddy i'm gonna love you and serve you and lead you and take care of you the best of my ability for the rest of your life till my dying breath so you make that promise but then in order to put food on the table in order to to truly serve them and take care of them and set them up the way that you you know that you need to it. Also one of the byproducts. That is me being away. And so it's a constant you know revolving door of emotions that i do really well with a lot of the times but admittedly do not do well with sometimes because i wanna be a man of my word especially.

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"michael chandler" Discussed on First Class Fatherhood

First Class Fatherhood

08:13 min | 1 year ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on First Class Fatherhood

"It you know and not be too hard because it is a failure on their part when they lose lose a baseball game at the failure on eleven kids or or you know can kids or five kids on a on a basketball court But when they lose a wrestling match ups you imagine. It's a little tougher to deal with digest. Which is a good thing Practically all knee losses. We all need setbacks. We all need to pull ourselves up. Dust ourselves off but it's all the mentality in the fun aspect of it until it really gets serious towards the teenage years. Yeah well said michael. How about as far as disciplined. What been disciplinarian are you as a dad and is that different than the discipline. Style that you grew up with So i we don't we don't spank our child I also didn't get spanked We we do. I think we do a really good job of of holding him accountable and not let not letting him get away with a lot unless he's going through. You know some things because that is the hard part about my specific I guess our specific situation as i do travel for work for months at a time. And i'll be gone sunday night through thursday night. Come home on friday friday. Saturday co leave again. On sunday in florida do my training camps away. So there's gonna be times and seasons and ebbs and flows where he's just you know you gotta love on them more than you gotta just continue to discipline and discipline and discipline him and love him through the pain that he can't quite quantify he doesn't know why he said why he's upset. We know why it is because dad's not their dad should be there and dad's favorite human on earth right now especially when i'm gone all the time Just trying to ride that fine line of not being too hard on him but holding them accountable and and he will know right away. He knows the value of accountability responsibility at a very young age I think that's really what you could. That's really the most important thing because the the discipline the disciplinary in nature or the discipline We'll we'll show itself in a positive light later later on as it continues to grow. I believe But more more importantly the accountability of. I made this happen. I made this mistake. I made a bad choice. Therefore there are negative consequences to every action just like you and me the dolts just like him as a four year. Old just like Anybody on earth so we were trying to figure it all out as we go. I'll just like we all are. I think that's one thing you know if there's a brand new. There's a brand new parents on here. Listening brand new father liked. I think that's one thing. I can listen to this podcast for the next ten years and still not be prepared enough to be a father because there is no owner's manual. It's it's you know. I feel like i feel like it happens. And then all of a sudden you can take you can take advice and you can hear you can hear the youtube in the in the podcast and listen to books are read books and all of a sudden need it. Throw it into your like. This was nothing like i expected. I'm trying to figure it out. Yeah definitely tyson said that best. We said we're gonna play it. It's like get punched in face right. I mean it's perfect i got. I got four kids myself. My oldest is fifteen. I'm still figuring it out here as i go along. Benefited so much from listening to so many of the dads you get new ideas. You hear different philosophy. So i mean it's all beneficial and What is your. What's your bedtime routine. Looked like what happened. You will book reader. A lullaby guys storyteller. How do you kinda work bedtime. So we. He loved three books. A talk about it which is yeah essentially. Just i'll say hey. What do you want to talk about. And he'll say half got ouchi. Or i got a biter. I fell on the playground. Or whatever you know i he loves cars trucks. Automobiles playing the ambulances. So i'll get the bug bite. I'll work in a doctor. Dr drew usually call. Dr drew in an ambulance. Or he's walking through the woods or just make some kinda crazy story and we pray he prays first and then i pray and then we do a last minute and he always wants a last minute ride. Just lay there with them and kind of kiss kiss is to just kind of. That's when i really kind of speak speak into his life and just tell them how much i love him. And how much how much. He is going to be a leader. I want him to closes eyes and visualize the man that he's gonna be some day and i think he's gonna i hope he wants. I hope he's able to do that subconsciously without even knowing that it's happening because i've painted a picture inside of his mind Because i believe that visualization and that that positive affirmation in speaking things into existence is so important at such a young age. And you know well time. We'll tell we'll know how you know how his his self image and self concept continues to grow as he as he grows into a young adult But that's my plan. Thus far and kind of the bedtime routine three book. I talk about it to prayers. In a last-minute my youngest is six and she's the only one right now. I still do the storytime with at night before bed. I love it. I'm gonna miss it when it's gone but i'll tell you it's a lot more enjoyable reading to them than reading with them when they're starting to learn how to read. It takes a lot of patience to sit there trying to get through these words so It's enjoyable to read them the bedtime stories. Now obviously your career careers going strong here. Top ranked fighter in the world. But what does it look like you any idea on next opponent when you're gonna be fighting next. We've got any word on that yet. Yeah no word yet. I wanna i wanna take a little bit of time off as in you know a couple of months before i go back in the heavy training. I've always training. I run every day now. Lifted some weights and Doing some different business stuff. Outside of training but I probably won't go back into a fight camp until september october for a november december. Five is kind of the plan right now and a couple names being thrown around. And it'll be someone in the top five someone ranked ahead of me hopefully win one fight and get back into title contention and That's the goal so we'll see. Yeah very cool. I look forward to that and last gonna hit. You would hear michael. You talk a little bit there when you mentioned it before but i love to ask all the data. Get on the podcast. What kind of advice do you have for that new dad or for that about to be father. Who's out there listening. I think i think the best advice is to pray for just just pray for discernment wisdom in patients I think the one thing as we said there is no. Oh i love appreciate what you do. And it's such a great resource for for dads. But as i said it's it's also once it becomes yours your child you just like where was i. Need all the information to figure it all out. I think the biggest thing is is be prepared. And maybe this is just my mentality. But i wish i would have been more prepared for the dad kind of the dad guilt of you. Put them down. And then you then you you go through the you go through in your head too hard on gear could i have. Just you know. Dumbness thing for him instead of saying no. Could i have done that. Could i have done this. Because it's it's one thing with your spouse. You know my wife strong woman she can. She can handle herself hannah when i'm going. She's very emotionally intelligent secure. But we have a child and a a young man in my my favorite thing on earth you constantly go through the what. If could i have done this better. Could i have done that better. I hate to use the word guilt or shame. Because don't wanna you don't wanna live in that but it's just human nature you know it's human nature that Gosh you're just gonna second guess. Should i should have done this or should i have done that. So in that be prepared for that and just pray for the disarmament the wisdom and the vision to be able to make the right decisions at the right time and have extreme amounts of patients. Because you know look at your child just like you believe your god looks at you And those are just kind of my things. I would say there is no like i said. There's there's no way to quantify how. How beautiful but also how challenging. Also sometimes how how blissful but also how frustrating the whole the whole thing is that. It's it's just a beautiful. It's the most beautiful thing on earth. be prepared for be prepared to expect the unexpected and it's beautiful very well said i love the message. There's been an honor for me. I gotta say michael chalier first-class follow all the way. Thank you so much time here. I fatherhood yes sir. Thank you outrage man..

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"michael chandler" Discussed on First Class Fatherhood

First Class Fatherhood

05:59 min | 1 year ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on First Class Fatherhood

"To help us do do the right things Even when it's the hard thing to do be a man of character. A man of good reputation You know these are the things that i've tried to build my life on. I fail all the time but continuing to try to be a better man every single day and and he will lead his generation. And i think most importantly you know with my career and as you as we see all the all the plethora of high functioning individuals you've had on this podcast you you you seek out hyde functioning fathers who are trying to be good fathers but they're also trying to create impact in this life. It's a hard balance but my son will know that every man has to work and every every man will fall but every every man will get back up. It's that resilience and that hard work into really trying to find. God's best for your life to be able to make an impact is really where the where the impact in in the The pursuit of that joy and happiness is made. Yeah really great stuff mike. That's the biggest reason why bring high functioning individuals like yourself. Guys that have achieved a lot. Life that just testified. It's been through experience of fatherhood. That's given the greatest sense of fulfillment. And i'm going back to the fatherless problem. I think that we're trying to solve so many other social issues in our country but at the core of it is our our our family units and if we don't do anything to strengthen them we're just going to be running around in circles here. So i think too. Many young men have this idea that starting a family is something to avoid and not something to embrace so hopefully that becomes more of a goal and a mindset of the young guys as it goes along and hopefully listening guys like yourself as an encouragement to that and then i. It's what you do here. Has becoming a father kind of changed you as a fighter at all michael has put a limit or a number on retirement for you and leaving the game. No i've always kinda kept both of them separately or keep them both separate. I mean obviously I will be more inclined to walk away if i do start suffering any kind of You know negative negative impact healthwise from from mixed martial arts. You right now. I feel great. Feel a healthy wealthy and wise man i i really feel i feel like my best days are still ahead of me And and i want. I want my son to see this masterpiece painting through the ups and downs of through the struggles through the winds over losses. And how i carry myself through it all So i think it really is a huge blessing. Obviously right now at four years old. He's too young to really understand But luckily because of the beauty of the internet and platforms like like. You're giving me right. Now he'll be able to see the things that i said how i cared myself how. I came back from setbacks. How i how. I handle success. How i handle failures And most importantly the thing that the people around me or the people who are out outside of these four walls of our home. How how they speak about me So it hasn't really changed things. i've enjoyed the process thus far if anything it lit lit an extra spark underneath me because i i really now fighting for more than just myself and my wife and a paycheck and a living in a platform. There's now there's two eyeballs that are better glued to what daddy's doing there glued to how i wake up in the morning how i go to bed at night and everything that i do in between Now it's just put a little bit more emphasis on trying to be a better man every single day and try to be a world champion inside inside become of sport and at my job and then trying to be a world champion father outside of it. Yeah great stuff mike. Glennon think is so important. What you say there are two is because it's so easy to be on the guy when things are going right and you're succeeding but how you respond and how you act when you have. Obviously you suffered a loss there in the title of fighting the way you carry yourself. Inhaler yourself is a to your character. I think it definitely speaks more. I mean i. I think there's every kid gets a trophy. Philosophy has been a colossal failure in our country. I think rewarding kids for not doing anything leading detrimental decisions down the line in life especially we see you know unemployment the way it is rather stay home than go to work and get the money. So i think that all carries over so the way that you're able to overcome these obstacles. I think meet means a lot more and then you met. He's only four years old. Now i know but Listen brazilian jujitsu has blown up in the last decade or so here it become very popular. A lot of parents want to get their kids involved in. What do you think is a good Safe age for parents to start getting their kids involved in brasilia jitsu or into some mma. I think it's so it's so dependent on how the child is. Truly of course me being a professional fighter. I mean My son has seen videos of he'd come to my training sessions. He goes to the gym so he sees what his dad does. And he's ultimately going to want to be like like his dad. I mean we can. We can try to. We try to kid ourselves and water down the role of the of the man in the household and we could try to water water down. How important a man is too young man or to a young woman to a daughter to a son but ultimately he's going to see what i do and he's going to want to do what i do Well i encourage it. Of course i will if he wants to if he wants to do it. But i'm definitely not going to. You know put him into it if he doesn't want to just like football like baseball just like karate just like soccer. All all of the different things So it's so hard. It's i will say those individual sports for me. The sport of wrestling. I started at five years old and quick. By the time i was eight In an started backup is a freshman in high school which i thought which i think was probably the best Kind of the best route to be honest. Those five six seven year old kids are so young to be handling that much pressure. That many eyeballs that much kind of uncertainty inside the one on one competition when they can just have fun. Run around the soccer field. Have fun hit a baseball And maybe that's just my devil's advocate view. Since i grew up in wrestling and grew up now in hand combat one one person versus one person sports and do a lot of team sports but I think it's all case by case basis but that the discipline toughness the the getting outside of your comfort zone that you learn through the sport of wrestling or or do jitsu it's it's second to none. It's just gotta be the right time and as parents as fathers especially we need to have just a very spun approach to.

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"michael chandler" Discussed on First Class Fatherhood

First Class Fatherhood

06:29 min | 1 year ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on First Class Fatherhood

"Me now. First-class father michael chandler. Welcome to first-class fatherhood. Thank you for having me. And i appreciate the opportunity all right. Let's start right here. How many kids you have how old i have one son and he is four years old. He turned four in january. So he's almost four and a half involved in any sports activities yet. i do. Yeah so he's he is in flag football and he is in t-ball and we've got a couple of different. He gets to school this week and we got him involved in a summer camp. Every single week associated with our our school which is right down the street and keep busy. Keep him around other kids socialize and having a good time running all over the place just like oh boy should be doing. Yeah very cool. I love that. Michael if you could just take a minute here to hit my listeners. A little bit about your background. What do yes. I mean i. I've i've been wrestling. And then now i fight for a living For about the last twenty years. I wrestled in high school wrestling. College was an all american at the university of missouri in two thousand nine. Then i transitioned in to mixed martial arts right away in two thousand nine Fought outside the ufc for a very long time won a couple world titles and bella tour and came over to the ufc just fought for the world title in the ufc. Lightweights on top five lightweight right now and Chasing the gold and also trying to be a better human being at all times. Yeah it's inspiring to watch you over your career here. Michael been crushing it. In the octagon outside the octagon and along this journey about. How old were you when you first became a dad and had to becoming a father kind of change your perspective on life so i was right about thirty thirty one when i became a father We adopted our son actually so he was He was already about ten months old way him. So we got you know. Skip those first ten months of Of his life which was really just the baby stage and whatnot so we So kinda got thrusted into hood pretty quick even though it. Was you know for any of the listeners who have gone through the adoption process. Which is Its grueling at times. Because it's a long process a lot of A lot of paperwork a lot of background checks. Physical health background checks. Fbi criminal background checks. Financial background checks physicals All of those different things and make sure you are Fit to be parents of the daca child so It took about a year to get the process going and then at at one forty pm on a certain day we got an email saying we were down with our paper book paperwork and eligible to adopt them at one forty six pm. Six minutes later we got an email. That said congratulations. You're eligible by the way there. This this down in texas that fits your preferences perfectly and within forty eight hours of that phone call down in texas. We were waiting at a hotel room. waiting to receive and and take custody of are the greatest blessing on the entire planet so Although it was a long process of you know getting all the prerequisites done for adoption of six minute match was very quick so It was used blessing. In god's time and it was absolutely perfect of us use the greatest joy of our lives. Yeah very well say. Got quite a few dads out here. Who have adopted. I understand the process can be long and painstaking but definitely worth it and thank god. It is as extensive as it is so that the kids can find homes. I think no greater formula from apparent to adopt a child and give it. Give that love to somebody. That's not their own and make them their own saw props to you for you. Do you guys planning on having any more kids or adopting any more kids. You guys one done here. We are we. We've played around with the idea. I think i think we we were both in in the position where we thought man. We're like we're so happy so content with with just our son have like. I don't need love any more children. You know like we we. We didn't necessarily want to have a a huge family. I think. I think maybe one more might be on the horizon. You know Still kicking around the idea of my wife and extremely busy and we just love loving on our son. We love what he's involved in and haven't thought too much crazy forward thinking into the future but it been huge joy and you know as you know probably talk about a lot on the on this podcast. It's becoming a parent is it's the most important thing that you can do as a human being You know fighter world champion and businessmen and even husband is those are all great things but the being Being a father in leading child. Especially for me. I have the joy of having a son and i i. I want to turn them into a a wonderful young man a high functioning individual. Who's gonna yeoman is going to grow up and be a leader of his generation and Really excited about that and also excited about maybe expanding family. So we'll see. Yeah very cool. And i talk about on the show a lot. Michael is the fatherless crisis we have going on we have so many kids are growing up without a father or father figure in their life and it's having a devastating result on our society so It it's awesome to see you know people that do adopting give kids an opportunity to have a father grow up with a father figure so it's cool that what would you touch down a little bit there. But what would you say are the top values that you're hoping to it. Still unhappy growing up. I think more than anything. Hard work and accountability. You know not not hard work. Because i'm a fighter and i'm a guy who's going to work hard and do all that but we're just d- Wiping the sweat off your brow and being able to get done with day of of of work not because of You know not because of building finances not because building treasures up here on earth but but but doing the most with the talents that you were given and finding his purpose and finding what that what that thing is that makes them tick what. What is the purpose. That is on his life. And and finding god's best for his life and i truly do believe that i speak over every single night that when he walks into a room people will take notice when he walks in a certain direction. People follow him when he speaks. People will listen. I wanna speak these things into that so that he is so confident and so Secure in himself Things that i didn't really get growing up i had. I did have a great family mother and a father both in the home. A great father But it wasn't spoken to me. That i can really take the world on an take. Take everything squeezed. Every ounce of joy and happiness and success in in accomplishment. Out of this life I want him to believe those things about himself. And then through osmosis through the people that he is around. I want him to be able to to rub off on to other people just by being around him I wanted to love Fiercely want him to be a leader. As i said in his generation..

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"michael chandler" Discussed on KOA 850 AM

KOA 850 AM

05:36 min | 1 year ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on KOA 850 AM

"I'm familiar with with hooker. I have not. I don't know that much about Michael Chandler. What can you sort of give our listeners in terms of what to expect in that about I'll try to set up a sufficiently if possible. Michael Chandler won a major title with Delatour. He has been biding his time and sort of waiting for the right time to come to the UFC and man did. He hit a home run in terms of free agency, not just with the contract, but the fact that he's sharing the press conference stage with Connor McGregor, the biggest superstar, mixed martial arts history. If he gets ready to make his UFC debut, he has credentialed. This is a guy who walked on, was arrested at the University of Missouri and went on to become an all American with 100 collision. And he is one of the best human beings I have ever met in my life. He has an adopted from half that is the light of his life. He's just a tremendous human beings for the brothers concerned, you know, he was on the wrong end of the size equation here. He's got an awful lot here. Dan Hooker is long. He's a switch stance fighter with a lot of tools and great takedown defense. She was like most people expect Channel to try to take the fight down. But I think Channel has more power on the feet and Dan Hooker so I wouldn't be surprised if I am Michael Chandler find a home for that big right hand, but it's essentially picking fight, according to Las Vegas, which tells you that Sandwiched in the whole lot of respect. I kind of feel like hooker maybe deserves a little bit more love on that getting lines, so to speak, but You know, Chandler's is very much alive Underdog, and I think he could have been closed as the favorite. Ah, fascinating co main event. And most people believe that the winner of that committee that will have an inside track to challenge Connor Dustin for the vacant try to listen like a beach steps away for good. And Jake. It's interesting. Hey, John, always a pleasure to catch up with you. We appreciate you carving out a few minutes for us. Especially late at night. We'll be watching tomorrow. Look forward to catching up with you sometime soon. Any time, guys enjoy the weekend. Thank you. Appreciate this, John Annik really good at what he does the voice of UFC action. Um he's just he's an ex one. Announcer. He can paint a picture. He's concise, the way he does his home called play by play, but that's basically what it is so looking forward to seeing that tomorrow night and bring some block. Rick. I'm on it, Dave. Yeah, I'm trying to figure out what story I get it from. Once she does make it Don't make work it. Look, It's so easy to make clock. What do you mean, is it you're not gonna make it? Whole foods does have a killer guajillo, okay? Good. My wife makes clock. If I'm bringing a Glock it'll be home made. Not quite like there was a question on that. I know I'm bringing Glock. It'll be home made. That's what I'm saying. But sounds like he's not coming over. Dave, if I come over, I'm not sure that questions that was in question. Yes. Well, okay, but I I think it's gonna be an interesting night for sure. Better to employ a isn't getting a whole lot of respect. He's a 3 to 1 though I I thought I saw nine toe wants what you said when we started the show and say Whoa, Okay, I'm all over that 3 to 1. Maybe not. But I, you know I like underdogs. And I think Connor McGregor comes in almost every fight as the villain. Character in the fight where he's one of those guys like when Mike Tyson fought you watch to see him get beaten in this probably the same case here. Yeah. For sure. 79321 Logan. The main reason minorities have a hard time getting into the weed business is the license fees or incredibly expensive, But when that be for everybody, not just for minorities. Yeah, I didn't realize the wife. I mean, what Since we're talking about Asian persuasion, Maybe we should find out what license fees cost Gettinto weed store. E guess That is a good name for your weed shop. If you do open one up, I e. No, I think it's a good name. Yeah, but then it kind of Connotation is on Lee Asians can shop. They're going to have somebody at the door. That explains exactly what the customer is going to get into. When he walks through the door. I think that will Does it depend of sounds like a happy ending massage parlor? That's what I mean. You guys have a dirty mind. Most people don't know about happy any massage places she's looking at. You ripped. She's not looking at me. So license speeds for like a medical marijuana stores is 7000 for the application, the application fee and the license feet. What does that go to the state for the county or in the Department of revenue? They could take 7000 and then still turned you down. It's just that's what's his initial application fee and license fees. That's a nice racket if they could take your money and go now. Way money back if they don't give you that you care about No, it's his retail marijuana storage 5000 for the application fee in 2000 for the license fee. Yeah, but if they if they say no, they don't keep your money. They don't keep the application fee. How do we know? Maybe the application for your application fee is 5000. That's a lot to just keep that. I thought I would say no, they don't keep that. Okay. Sieving. Find that out. 7 26 the time thistles cater waiters radio this summer. 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"michael chandler" Discussed on Todd Durkin IMPACT Show

Todd Durkin IMPACT Show

11:59 min | 2 years ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on Todd Durkin IMPACT Show

"So I think it's number one. I'm number one. I'm not I'm not scared of the man in front of me because I know I've trained extremely hard number two. I'm really not afraid to lose. I think now the older I've got. I'm not afraid to lose because when I lose I will promise you that my God will still love me. My family will still love me. I will still love me and I. I wasn't able to say that a couple years ago. You know just five years ago I I. I was so wrapped up in the sport of mixed martial arts. It was my identity but men I lose now and I can go home to my wife and my son and they don't even care you know God definitely doesn't care he just a he's like come on dust yourself off. I promise I promise the better things are in store and better things will come from. This and I will still love me because I know that every single person I've ever looked up to has been a failure at one point or another. They have been a failure of a competition. Failure of a of a an account. F- failure business failure of X. Y. Z. Yet when I look at them I think well. That's just part of the process. He's going to be back or she's going to be back but when I looked at myself I thought it was a death sentence. I lost a fight. I lost that first. Bite Eddie Alvarez. I thought it was a death sentence. I immediately went into hiding immediately. Forgot how good I was and I immediately put myself in the metaphor jail cell of getting comfortable in the self pity you know so now the older. I've gotten it's not that I don't care if I lose but I I really. I know it doesn't define me and I know every single time lost. It's all it's been revealed to me every single time I've lost I've gained more following more respect a bigger platform and then ended up with a bigger contract financially. Then if I would've won. Yeah so the proof is in the pudding. Don't be afraid to lose. Put yourself out there. Fall flat on your face and that is. I think that's the beauty of what mixed martial arts is too because you've ever ever looked at somebody and been like Dang that's that's tough to take That's embarrassing ooh. That's that's rough especially you watching all these guys. And but there's an inkling inside you that says but I wish that was me You know why because he took a chance. She took a chance. They put themselves out there to get embarrassed and fall flat in a flat on their face in front of millions of millions of people. And that's what people are drawn to whether they're admit or not. We were designed for a battle to fight and adventures to have. And if you're not doing that not pushing yourself. There's an inkling you when you watch other people do it. That even if they're getting embarrassing getting crushed. You want that man. Parents look down on time stamp right now and mark that tape and share that clip with your kids that is gold. Right there I think that I think of John. Wooden thought about preparation treasury preparation and the process. The practice has got to be harder than ever before. And you know my my High School Football Coach Really Warren Wolf talked about the five p's perfect practice produces peak performance. It almost sounds keep a sense of peace. And when you go into the ring that you've done everything you can you can lay it all on the line and it's the man in the arena or the man in the arena. You'd rather be in the in the arena competing and fighting and that stuff so I'll be sure to make sure I let McKenna. No you're not scared going here at peace because this is the practice in preparation I want to end it with just talking about Your Life. Mike and I know fighting only one part of your overall life and I know You Know Your Wife. Brie and and Your your son. Hap. What brings you the most joy today out of everything you do. I think it's I think it's watching my son grow you know watch- watching my son grow and also watching my relationship with bree as our son is growing you know. We went through a really tough time over the last two years moving across the sea. I mean we. We had so many life changes in and it was funny. You and I had this conversation and I told you okay. I'M GONNA move to Nashville. We're going to build a house. We're yeah we're going through the process of adopting. We're going to open a gym or we're going to go into all this debt and we're GonNa do all this stuff and you're like hey you think that's a good idea and I'm like todd. Trust me I got this Bro. You know and in a lot of ways we come out smelling like a rose on the other side and we did we. We handled it with grace and did really well but it was a very tough time because we had so many life changes in such a short amount of time and and what what I have now on the other side of it is. I gotTa make sure that I am living my life within my strengths and doing the things that bring me joy you know and because like I said what were my three things joy into nasty bridged bridging the gap with the discipline of sport and of my profession. And if I don't have that joy I can't have the tenacity and I'm definitely not going to be disciplined. I was I was in a place where I was so undisciplined because I had so many things going on so now. Just simplify my life and watching my son you know. He's he's adopted so he he isn't he wasn't supposed to look like me or any of that kind of stuff right but he looks exactly like me. He acts exactly like me. He's facial expressions are exactly like me. So it's just it's so cool and I'm painting this masterpiece when I'm going out and fighting and I'm or I'm doing these types of things. I'm painting this masterpiece. And and hopefully putting out a blueprint that he can see. And and I don't even want him to form his own opinions of me. I want him to hear from my peers from my fans from my co workers from the People. I've trained with from the people that I've touched. I want them to be able to say happy. Chandler Your Dad. Is this this and this? And this is who he is to me and I want him to be able to form his opinion of WHO. His Dad is because of the reputation that I've been able to hold myself to and that I'm not always going to do things right and heck I'm GONNA fail a lot but soon you're gonNa Watch me fail and you're GonNa Watch me come back from it and you're able to watch me as a man continue in the course of action with complete disregard to my previous failures or any opposition had had an M. I. Direction. So just you know when we met I. Was You know? Twenty Twenty six or twenty seven years old right and now here at thirty three going on thirty four I got a son and a wife. And like we're just were settling into this next chapter of our lives and I still feel like I'm that twenty six year old kid who came in here Fitness question the first day because I still have that fire me to compete but the thing that brings in the most joy is being dead world. Champion Amazing Hope Millionaire and and author and speaker and all these different things that I wanna do is awesome but the greatest title than I will ever have his dad his dad his father. You know his POPs is whatever he wants to call me. That's that's where I really get the joy and that's where I really realized that I was put on this earth for that more than anything. Everything else is just a cherry on top. Wow Mike where can our guests follow? You learn more about you. Watch your training. See what you're doing. See HAP- jumping around the living room. Because I love watching that. Can you share some of your your handles please all all my hands are actually just at. Mike. Chandler Manet So at Mike Chile instagram's where I do a lot of my stuff You know I wanNA start. I'll start getting more active on youtube in that kind of stuff. I want to start doing more long. Form stuff As I started doing more speaking in a more more of that kind of stuff. But that's kind of an inside look of my training my nutrition my mindset my life my my son and my wife. Yeah well let me tell you guys. Follow him because he is putting such amazing positive content out into the world. Although he is a professional fighter. Who'S IN THE CAGE? Fighting for a living it goes even beyond the routine with his training is nutrition because the literally the nuggets that quotes the mindset that you are sharing. Mike I know is literally impacting. Millions of lives and to me. That's why we call this. The impact show is because it's all about impact and you are a man of impact so follow Mike Chandler at Mike Chandler. M A at the end follow him. Light him up the him. He's an amazing man. Final question for you Mike. We talked about impact. Impact his legacy. What's the legacy of Mike Chandler? All about I think it's you know it's it's it's somewhat of an underdog story somewhat somewhat of a rocky story somewhat of a somewhat of a story of of a a guy who like. I said I was a small guy from a small town. Just like hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of thousands of people that are listening to this or or waking up every single morning thinking well. I'm just from Mississippi. I'm just from you know Gary Indiana. I'm just from this little town. I'm not from you know because I never had had never been to. La Never Been in New York had never been never traveled outside of Missouri for twenty something years. But whether you're a little guy from a little town who was taught to do little things or you are on the complete opposite end of the spectrum you have so much to give this world no matter what no matter what you choose to. Do you have so much to give this world as long as you operate with integrity always protect your character and stay and stand guard at the door of your mind because you are what you are where you are because what it goes into your mind and that's what we're doing today and I I just want to be able to. I Wanna be able to let my fights be a metaphor for all the struggles. Everybody's going through no matter if you lose the first round and you lose the second round you lose the third round you lose the fourth round you can come back in that fifth round you know and even if you lose that fight.

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"michael chandler" Discussed on Todd Durkin IMPACT Show

Todd Durkin IMPACT Show

12:25 min | 2 years ago

"michael chandler" Discussed on Todd Durkin IMPACT Show

"It's it's part part me and it's part what I do because at my core. I'm a fighter and I always have been and I didn't even realize that 'til almost thirty years old I've been fighting for for what I want to bring to this world. I've been fighting for now. My family my wife and my son. I've been fighting for. I think I think what we mean what we miss. We think we're just meandering around this earth. Just kinda these creatures walking around you. You have a birth date and then you have a death date but man you should be on this earth trying to fight for every single drop of happiness insecurity and and end funds. So what does he wanNA bring this world? What is it can they bring this world? I think you know I started out and I and I've struggled with a lot of self image issues and it stems from it stems from just being a small guy from a small town who was taught to do small things because trying to do big things. Matt you're probably GonNa fall flat on your face and where I came from Jefferson County Missouri. Leaving leaving outside those county lines met you. You were taking way too big of a risk and you're probably gonNA fall flat on your face and you should probably just work your way up to middle management of Dobbs tires or you should probably work at pizza or of the local places. They're here in there in Jefferson County and in that and I love where I came from. I love my mom and Dad Betty Chandler and Mike Chandler pull themselves up by their bootstraps. Since I'm not joking to three jobs at a time to make sure myself and my two brothers had every opportunity had had this opportunity to sit here and speak to you and your and your listeners. Today but where we came from there wasn't a lot of upside there wasn't a lot of there was so much fear of the unknown that you should probably just not try and luckily for me. God has had me in the palm of his hand when I made the decision to go off to university Missouri Walk onto the Division. One wrestling team where everybody told me I was going to probably be a non-starter. Probably quit probably ride the bench. Probably just be a punching bag for five years. I didn't care I I knew there was something tugging on my heart. That said I had to go take that chance. And then to take the chance on myself to go in the sport of mixed martial arts now here I am one of the most successful lightweights in the history of this report and and doing a phenomenal job taking making a phenomenal living for my family. You don't do that. You don't get to those positions without taking those chances that I was told not to take since I was a young kid so I think that story the small guy from a small town. He was taught to do small things who who didn't listen to those small things. That's my story. And that's my that's my witness to the world which is interesting to me because you talk about the self image you are also one of the most devout guys when it comes to personal growth and self development that. I know you are constantly asking me. Hey books you're reading. What do you indulging in a podcast and everything else so that you can continue to grow? How how did you go from a young man? Who's struggling with your your your self esteem and who you are to like a personal growth junkie yet. I think I think at some point. You start to realize that some dragons you slay and some dragons you just pushed into a corner and you and you get you get good at mitigating. The risk of them popping their head out at the at the wrong time so I know for a fact that I will never get rid of this small guy from that small town at thirty almost thirty four years old. I've realized trying to beat him over the head and stuff them in a corner and chain them to a basement somewhere. I've never been able to just get rid of him so I realize I just need to duct tape him to a to a to a chair in the basement of my mind and learn to keep pushing him. They're leaving him there. You know so and you can't do that without constant self-help without constantly building yourself up so much that whenever he does try to rear his head. It's almost like you're able to flip them away rather than getting to a position where he almost becomes head to head with you and you start to believe the lies that he tells you you start to believe the salt that he's throwing on old wounds you you start to catch the glimmer of the spotlight that he's shining on your insecurities in your deficiencies. Those things that you know are there yet if you don't acknowledge them and you can just learn to push him into a corner and manage them and you can only do that by constant. Self-help surround yourself with the right people. Don't you think most people have something from their childhood or limited belief system or something that is that that underdog mentality or they been through some tough times adversity that if you change the perspective of that you can actually use that as fuel. Yeah and I think that's and I think even my story is very similar to that. I have realized I don't care if if the most confident person that I've ever been around in my life if they walk into a room of me I know they're absolutely lying to me if they if they tell me they are. They don't have any fears. Any doubts insecurities we all have it and I think and I think it's. It's one of our greatest weapon because I think that's how we have all been you look at history and you look at every single person who has who has accomplished something great. It comes off. It comes off of the springboard of their failures. It comes off the springboard of of them being Written off as someone that will never get to where they want to be or all the stories in the Bible all the stories at all the stories everybody that we've looked up to an an researched. Everybody has had those those things about them or those moments or those people that said they would never make it by So yeah I like I like to say use your adversity as your advantage. Because I've often talked about in the earlier episodes episode one and two of this podcast. I talked about my upbringing. Youngest of eight kids poor family. I was the lunch ticket. Kid I still use today that mentality of everything I do. I got a scrap for everything I get in. When it's that climbing the mountain mentality you always keep climbing even when you get to the top. I remember asking some of world. Champions like yourself Lt drew. Hey when you get to a certain level of success how do you stay hungry What's your adversity white? Yeah One and I think that's that is so important too because you've had so many awesome successful people on this podcast and you're surrounded by me so we just walked in here and there is when you talk about accolades and world records and you talk about bank accounts and you talk about the success of the lot of the people in here. I think I think where people can lose. Sight is that they just continue to look for success instead of significance as well right you know the the amount of significance you can make them in. Obviously when you're young you're just trying to survive you know and then you start to get then you try to get a little bit of stability in that position where I'm having stability and success right now but I know the next chapter in my life while still fighting what I do after fighting. How am I going? To be significant down. In People's life individual people hundreds of thousands of millions of people insignif- are significant here in the N. People's life and. I think that's something that that can be sometimes overlooked people. Just try to get more and more and more success but you can only eat so many stakes. You can only drive so many cool cars and really. It's more about you than it. Is anybody else so and you know I. I love that the four stages of life. But you think about those who have tasted success. I give the analogy of a windshield and vision. You WanNa be looking through the windshield of life where where you're going looking forward and not so much spending time in the rear view mirror because when you look in the rear view mirror and you're reflecting on your past good or bad maybe that a lot of successes or maybe a lot of losses that can actually hold you back because of too much time spent in the past whether you look at your vision your windshield and where you're going you want to get excited about your dreams and get emotional about your dreams of what you're doing because when you get emotional about your dreams about your vision about moving forward well then you are living your best as knowing that your best is still yet to come and I know your best is still yet to come to and the older you get to. 'cause 'cause I always thought it'd be done fighting thirty five here. I am thirty three. I'm turning thirty four here in a couple of months. There's no way I'm GONNA be thirty five right now and and then even after that now the the more success that you have or the more significance that you're looking for the more the more your imagination grows and the more you're you're blessed with more and more opportunities to so you can't see where you're going and get more opportunities with this very very large windshield that you could be looking through. When you're looking through that little bitty tiny two by four. That's right rear. Amir Link Shield ten times bigger in their view mirror so in in your fighting career. There's a lot of different components to fighting. What's your favorite part of being a mixed martial arts fighter? You know. I think there's different seasons back back in the day I would have been like. Oh It's the competition competing I love. I love fighting and and and let me also true preface with. I don't I don't like to hurt people like I'm of nasty human being when I'm in there and I will hurt. I will hurt somebody badly. But I'm never actually consciously thinking about hurting anybody you know just like just like Ray. Lewis wasn't necessarily thinking about doing really badly bodily harm. He just wanted to get a really hard tackle right. He didn't want to hurt the guy he didn't want to. You don't WanNa take the food off the guy's table like but and I'm not thinking that either but in the in the the movement of people are going to get hurt so back in the day I would have said it was that it was the competition. Now I think it's being in a position where you know selfishly. I think there's just not. There's not a lot of people who do what I do. So it is the guys who who compete in the. Nfl really really cool guys who do the MLB play baseball playoffs other sports? That really really cool. But what I'm doing is somewhat the enemy of manhood. You know it's the epitome of of the fight for life so it's it's being put in a position where people look at me and they're like wow. I don't know if that guy is kind of a crazy psychopath or fees like kind of sick in the head and then you have a conversation with me and they think Manny's just a normal guy like me so I think being able to just be somewhat of a chameleon a nasty human being inside that cage but also sit here and hopefully people are getting value out of what the words that are coming out of my mouth and I don't sound like a professional mixed martial martial artist who fights in front of the inside of the cage. I think that's I think that's where I realize I've been putting an awesome position. And that's what I love most about the sport that I my sport is such a such a crazy outlier yet. I can be a normal human being inside of it and relate to so many people on a personal level where people thought I would never be able to relate to them right. That's the biggest misnomer Mike. I think that happens to the public. That doesn't follow the fight game as they think that fighters are often just thugs and I realized that in two thousand eight two thousand nine and my first guy ever worked with was brandon. Vera and Brandon came in and everything was. Yes sir no sir. Yes coach no coat and Mike. Wow this fighters then I was like it's the Martial Art Sidon. It's the respect side and and when I hear you and I've always heard you Present when you do your talks when you you are a man with a dignity and pride in respect of even a your opponent knocks them now that you help. I'm giving them. I believe from what I see and sometimes the best in the world. You don't even know what you're doing why you're doing it. The thing that I see with Mike Chandler is your embracing of the process. The work that goes in that no one knows about you. Have to do two or three sessions. A day when you're really heat enough for ten twelve weeks before a fight between the weight room between your sparring and you're grappling and your boxing and you have different coaches in the nutrition and to me. You've always embraced the process at hard. Of course it is but to me. I look at you in one of the reasons why you've been a champion several times in. Mma is because of the time and discipline that you put into the process. And I think and I think that's the other side of it as well knowing that they just just taking pride in the fact that I know I have to do ten times. More than a lot of other people in a lot of other sports Or in a lot of other vocations whether it be business or whether it be other vocations I.

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