35 Burst results for "Metoo"
Matt Gaetz Was Once Accused of Inventing a Sex Game in Florida Legislature
"A justice department. Investigation into representative matt gaetz in an indicted florida politician. That's the guy we've been talking about is focusing on their involvement with multiple women who are recruited online for sex and received cash payments according to people close to the investigation is has been in the new york times. And cbs news. Today others women They met the women through websites connected people with dates and gifts and fine dining and travel and all that and we talked about that early. this is from. Abc no news now though. This is new reporting from abc news. Sources said gates was part of a group of young lawmakers who created a game to score their female sexual conquests granted points for various targets. Such as interns. Staffers are other female colleagues in the state house. No while in florida. It doesn't specifically say i mean because at the state house doesn't apply to congress. Maybe it was in florida. Still your sex up. Interns and staffers and female colleagues part of this game. I thought all that stuff was completely off limits in in the metoo
Ellen Birkett Morris Explores the Quiet Power of Womanhood in Lost Girls
"In today's episode visit with ellen briquet morris author of lost girls short story collection which explores the experiences of women and girls is a confront the challenges and expectations of womanhood. Ginny awful author of whether of speculation last things called this book a dazzling collection stories. The showcases morris as impressive ability had devastating truce was seemingly small moments of. You've lost girls. In the southern review of books said vivid snapshots female struggle march demonstrates the tire women acknowledging one another and themselves in a world where they're continually does managed the woman girls in these stories. Hold the antidote to their own erasure and in turn give it to us on the way can prevent each other from becoming loss girls l. Welcome to the show. Hello good glad to be here. And you're coming to us. All the way from louisville kentucky kentucky well s the magic of remote podcasting right we can. We can stretch. Stretch our podcast around round the catching around the world here. So congratulations on the book. Oh thank you very much. yeah it's A nice collection of stories. I enjoyed reading reading the book and I want to start out with this Quote that. I just read in the opening that these stories how devastating truce was seemingly within seemingly small moments and Did you have that in mind when you started writing these stories or is that a thing that just sort of when you got the oh. Yeah okay. I'll see that now didn't didn't necessarily have it in my. Although i think i recognize it from works of literature that i've read you know i'm a big fan of the work of the writer. Lee martin and lee martin does that. He focuses on ordinary people and ordinary moments. That become waited with. Meaning you know In terms of the way he constructs the story sent so Though it wasn't a goal. I was really pleased to see that. That's how she read it. And this idea of truth surfaces another author of us to lasting truce to reside in the familiar And two other author your said you can step back. And behold the world and make unexpected discoveries As your any stories riding them in different points of view your audience and First person third person But you are the author of these stories. What did you Step back behold into this work when you get through you know. I it story my story there were revelations so in each story. I had a moment when i finished it when i thought oh. Wow that's where we ended up. You know that sort of surprise that you can that can happen in the in the course of the creative process and then you know with the collection itself at bishop. Early developed a collection and had a meal photographer from boston. Traveling through the south and it was all about him in his life and for some reason Folks that were reading it. They liked him okay. They weren't super excited about it. It occurred to me that the women in the stories not him were the most interesting part of the stories and then there was a point in our culture where people were really turning their attention to the experiences of women at through that metoo movement and it occurred to me that i had a whole bundle of stories that really featured women and so i went back toned down the photographer character in some cases elevated some of the other characters and found that when i had was a cohesive collection that simply centered on the experiences of women and girls and that in itself was really a revelation. I had you know. I didn't really know that. I had that many stories. That would hang together in quite that way. But i was really delighted to find that they did and Have felt really confirmed as readers as a whole sort of a collection. That's that's cohesive and and pulled together based on those themes yourself your woman you grown up. You experienced These moments where you are not as interesting and they interfere with what what women are trying to do. Were there any stories in this collection that Maybe were more personal to you than that other. Well you know there are a couple of them that really resonate with me Like miss not being a ballerina as about of kind of lonely little girl. At who's best friend's mother is getting ready to undergo cancer treatment. And you know. I remember being a kid and i remember having a best friend and how central and passionate those relationships can be and And and that idea that if happens to your parents at sort of up engineer world And so i feel. I feel very tenderly towards that one. The other story that that really The that stays with me. And and i wrote it kind of straight as as a sad story but people read it really a satire and ad i read it to groups and they laugh at it is the story religion about the The lonely thirty year old woman. Who goes to she thinks. She's going to a day coupons class and she had step in a breastfeed irs lake meeting. And you know it's a it's a story about really not being seen in. It's a story about being desperately lonely and you know. I just remember points in my when i felt that way and didn't feel a part of a group or one badly to be a part of a group and you know that's really what drives her. Those are her motivators. She wants so badly to be accepted that she fabricates the idea that she has this child. And she pursues this goal of breastfeeding. So again i wrote it straight but people it is funny. It's really not
February 2021 Jobs Report: U.S. Economy Added 379,000 Jobs
"The labor department reported today that employers added three hundred seventy nine thousand jobs in february mostly in sectors hit hard by the pandemic like bars and restaurants and hotels but there is still about ten million fewer jobs compared to a year
"Is kind of a pain. Sometimes if you're just trying to listen so this is a mash up. Some of its talking about the al washington turning down tennessee job. Talk about torrents gibson. What happened to him. And the metoo movement and how he was really victim to the metoo movement and also to unbelievable stories about the recruitment of torrance gibson so awesome stories and then at the end of this if you are a patriot subscriber for two dollars and ninety nine cents. You're listener you get to listen to full episodes on patriot dot com forward slash minutes sports. We have the full call in show so this is over an hour long show. I think it's almost two hours long so plenty of content. You got to kill two hours to listen to me talk. I guess if that's that's what you wanna do so check it out. Let me know looking for feedback. Go on apple podcast. Give us a five star review if you could or just shoot me a message on twitter. Anything really patriot. If you're a subscriber what you think what you think about the direction. We're heading what you think we could enhance and grow one two more things kind of clean house. We're doing a charity. March madness square box thing. So check it out on twitter. If you're on it's already on there for one hundred bucks you get entered you get a square. If the in that square plays in all sixty three of the march madness games and every round the money you win goes up up to the final. The the national game. If you hit the last two numbers of both scores you win a thousand dollars. Half of that money going to go to my grandfather's charity. The early jean. Bruce charitable benefits which goes to alzheimer's research. So check that out. And also if you're into gambling check out our minutes. Two picks on twitter patriot dot com forward slash. Mets two picks almost hit seventy percent on college basketball up. Like one hundred. Seventy eight units crazy. So if you're
Independent investigation finds that LSU routinely mishandled allegations of sexual misconduct
"Louisiana state university on friday will release a report on the schools handling of dozens of sexual misconduct cases. Since 2016 lsu commissioned the audit amid a usa today investigation that found widespread mishandling of sexual misconduct allegations by the athletic department. And also the broader administration the investigation specifically revealed that the university conducted an internal probe in two thousand thirteen a former head football coach les miles over allegations that he sexually harassed student workers and made sexist comments about others. An internal investigation released on thursday. Found that lsu. Dan tim from having contact with female students. Not decision in two thousand thirteen dame. After miles was accused of texting female students taking them to his condo alone and at least on one occasion kissing a student and suggesting they go to a hotel after telling her he would help her career though. Miles has strongly denied kissing her allegations against miles where i made public after usa today. For the records in january according to the investigative report miles was also accused of sang. That female student workers who helped the football team lower top recruits should be attractive blonde and fit and that employees. Who did not meet that. Criteria should be given fewer hours or fired.
Episode #45: "Intimacy Coordinators" and a New York Governor Fights New #MeToo Allegations
"We are again. What's happening not too much cam. What's going on it's going on your end. How are things you know. We're pretty much back to normal here. I think i sort of touched on this last week. But like everyone's back to work There's no more split. Sort of abe teams going in life. Returned to normal. Restaurants are open in the evenings. There's still a table limit of four but that's pretty good so it feels like the worst is behind us here although it's felt like that before and it wasn't that way hopefully it. Is that way this time. Wow well that makes one of us. That's not not the situation here at all. We're still pretty much the same lockdown scenarios. We've been in for. I don't. I don't even know. I mean i know you and i were talking before we started recording like i have. I have such a difficult time listening to the news. Now i kind of listen to the headlines the top of the hour and then i have to turn it off because it's just delays on facts scenes and the rollout being pushed back in. Are we going to get approval for this drug. Or we're going to get approval for that drug and i understand that the stuff is critically important in. I should be up to date with what's going on. But i'm just i'm so. I'm just so exhausted and here. I am now talking about it. And so listeners. I'm sorry i understand. This is what you're hearing from every other station but Yeah i'm just. I don't i can't do it anymore. Cam do it. It's interesting because i mean we also off the air talking about the united states and how they've turned it around so quickly. I mean kind of kudos to you guys down there you know in terms of vaccines and just how like even just a few weeks ago. It looked like we were going to go to some dark days. you know with the uk virus and the brazilian strain and so on so forth. But it. but it's really been been you know managed very well. I mean what what is going on sort of where you are you in in terms of the management. Why why do you think it's not working out so well well cam that would be an entire show. Maybe too much did not even not even an episode. I mean we'd have to have several because again you know. You always run the jurisdictional issues were not unlike the united states in that regard right you know the rollout from one state to the next is markedly different. We're having all kinds of issues in that regard from province to province and you know you ultimately have the federal government. And they're doing it's just been you know a particularly in ontario a complete and utter gong. Show i i would be shocked. If any member of my family is in a position to be vaccinated before november of this year i mean an and i don't think that is hyperbole or sensationalist. I think that's probably consistent with what the reality is going to play out as you know last point on this it's interesting here in hong kong and asia generally because there's actually a lot of skepticism about the vaccine i. There's a lot of people who aren't sure if they wanna get the vaccination you know there's there's some real doubt about it and yet i see in the us and canada and some other western countries. There's you know huge interest in it and people are getting that vaccine as soon as it's available and it's interesting to see how two different cultures or multiple different cultures can look at these vaccines differently because it seems like there's not as much sort of skepticism back there. Yeah i mean you know as you know. We have our fair share of antibiotics. They they do exist. I think you know like a lot of sort of questionable political views they're dormant they're quiet and they're not necessarily advertising their position on these issues but rest assured they exist. Yep and they'll be back. Continue the
Are You Actually Kinky?
"Lately there have been some truly salacious stories on the news about powerful celebrity men who've crossed some lines with women they were dating and these have been sort of aftershocks of the metoo movement. Where these new accusations. I'm thinking of armie hammer. And the allegations of abuse and resume or marilyn manson's rape room brought back this important conversation on the ways that power and fame can be abused but the fascinating thing this time as the way. These celebrities have responded to these accusations because the reply is essentially. Oh no you don't understand. That was consensual. We are kinky kink is one of those things that's hard for people to understand myself included. Because i think for a long time i was like whatever you have your shit you do behind closed doors and that's your business. I don't really feel the need to interrogate too deeply beyond a basic sort of understanding. That shouldn't shame anyone else's kings you know and so when the internet seized on the gripping details of army hammers supposed cannibal fetish as like. Should we even be lampooning. This is this a legitimate kink. Would there be a right way to do this. But then i realize everyone was talking about. What a wild fixation this cannibalism thing supposed to be and there was much less focused on what army hammers accusers. Were actually saying about their relationship. Which was fetish or not. Their relationship started one way and then it took this turn we at the cut. Believe these women who are making these accusations and we believe that the men they were involved with are hiding behind the mantle of kink because kink isn't an excuse for abuse but in order for us to understand where the lines actually get crossed as a culture. We're going to have to engage with the ideas of kink much more fully in all of its richness and deep deep complexity. We understand that like you can be like vicariously like excited by violence even though real violence is disgusting. And you don't want to actually hurt people but it gets like framed in this way where it makes it sound like if somebody is kinky there beyond criticism and that's not what it means. This is lux traum. And i am a longtime sex educator and an abuse survivor someone who thinks a lot about abuse kink i think people think oh la king is choking people and kids like leaving bruises on people and can be but that's not really what it is so what is case. Everyone i talked to had a different way of explaining it. What keep means differs for different people will kick is a very specific subset of the arabic and it can mean a lot of things. If one feels that one is kinky then one is kinky for lux alp. Traum kink is very much about consent in a kink. Situation it might. It might look like the dam has all the power control but the real control lies with the submissive person. Because it's not the purest iteration of like safe consensual kink. Unless you can say no or say you're safe word or say whatever and make it all stop immediately. This is a very clear dividing line right for armie hammer. The women said stop and he kept going for marilyn manson. It was an entire lifestyle. Where if you said. Stop your punished more. But just like an all consensual sex kinky or not. There's a lot of nuance and negotiation. That needs to happen between the people involved. And it's all within this context of wanting to be giving there's so much pressure on you to be compliant too. Please your partner to do all these things. That has nothing to do with king but when you are in a kink environment that can like be taken to the nth degree because so much of kink about exploration about going into a known taboo terrain you have to be on the same page. There's these moments where i'm like. Oh or like. I would be surprised with the thing that i had never expressed interest in. I maybe didn't wanna do it. Don't think there is this bright dividing line between abuse and kink. All this stuff is just like there's no like three step guide for like dealing or there is but it's like talk to people have conversations like be willing it's the easiest thing in the hardest thing to hurt the ones you love to act out scenarios aren't normally like you to play with power. It's playing with fire. Really and yet culturally kink doesn't talked about with gravity until something goes horribly wrong gets whispered about as the super freaky unspeakable thing or it has a reputation of being a gonna dorky form of adult dungeons and dragons. You know like something. Couples try to spice up their marriage after reading fifty shades of grey. I think it's almost jumped straight from being arm. Something that's forbidden to being a cliche and being a joke and we skipped the part where we look at. It has to be taken just as seriously as anything else would do as humans. And i think that was part of what we were hoping to do with this analogy
Lucasfilm fires 'The Mandalorian' star Gina Carano after offensive social media posts
"Meanwhile was fired from her co starring role or guest starring role on star wars. Shoot the mandalorian. After social media posts basically saying that being a republican today was like being jewish during the holocaust. This was the second time that the outspoken conservative and former star found herself in hot water in november. She mocked mask wearing and falsely suggested. That voter fraud occurred during the twenty twenty presidential election after being fired by lucasfilm. Khurana was immediately dropped by her
Hollywood Monsters with Mallory OMeara
"History is written by the winners by men early editors of science fiction anthologies choice to exclude by women and in doing so made many believe that women did not write science fiction in the genres earliest years. This is just one example. And by no. Means the only one mallory mira self-confessed monster lava and film. Ned discovered a similar story in one of her favourite monsters. Millicent patrick was one of disney's earliest female animators and went on to design one of the greatest film monsters of the creature from the black lagoon but a jealous smell. Coworker ensured that there was no prestigious career. A rating millicent. Mallory decided to set the record straight in her book. The lady from the black lagoon. Hollywood monsters and the lost legacy of millicent. Patrick and reestablish. Millicent of monster design mallory. Thank you for joining us. But before we get stuck into things would you please introduce yourself to our listeners. high Yeah thank you so much for having the ottoman cited to to talk about this with you. Three i m author of lady from the black lagoon an fulltime author. And i'm also fellow podcasters. I host the show reading glasses every week with my friend. brea grant. what did you hope to achieve by. Unearthing the story of million patrick and setting the record straight about her contribution to monster design. Well a few things honestly the impetus behind me working on in in writing from the black lagoon was just i wanted to know. Millicent has been my hero. Since i was a teenager and i wanted to satisfy my own personal curiosity i found out about her when i was seventeen and it just seemed creature from the black lagoon like nobody even knew if she was still alive. She didn't have a website. She didn't have a wikipedia entry. Nothing about her online. So i personally just really really wanted to know at as i started digging into her life and her work and in this book i i also just. I wanted people to know that we've always been here. You know i. I actually started working on this book before the metoo movement happened and while i think it's amazing that there's such a huge push right now to get more women in front of the camera behind the camera writing doing everything women everywhere in cosigned for me but i also think it's really important to have people know that women have always been here. We have a legacy here and millicent. Patrick is proof. That and if i could only unearth her story and bring it to the world than i could could prove it is funny. You say that. Because i remember i was a massive star trek fan still but i remember in high school being completely obsessed with original series star trek and then discovering that d c fontana was a woman and i was like women have been there from the beginning. We right star trek. Yeah so i. I definitely can get on board with excitement. It changes everything. I mean finding out that a woman who designed this incredible monster that i became completely obsessed with it changed my life. It made me realize up until that point all of my heroes in the monster world. Where met you know tom. Savini rick baker. Dick smith jack pierce. It never even occurred to me that women did those things and seeing just one single photo of seeing a woman working on the creature from the black lagoon. It broke my brain open. It was like being struck by lightning. And it you can. You can make a direct line from that moment in time in front of my computer. Seven seventeen to me becoming a filmmaker later on up reading a bit about medicine on. You mentioned that you back. Then she didn't have a wikipedia entry. She does have one now on your on it as well. Yes i mean we're competing is basically all from the bottom up until that point there was no there was really no biographical information about her and the stuff that was out there was largely false Sometimes because of Militants own she liked to fabricate biographical information about which was very fun for me to deal with as biographer But it's now now actually people who she is and she has a wikipedia. Entry people You google tons of stuff comes up. It's really it makes me really really happy. So how did she become raised from history in the first ice so the her boss at the universal studios monster shop and she worked there in the early nineteen fifties was a man named bud west more and he was part of a very very famous big family of makeup artist. The west morris His father actually. George west was the man who invented the idea of a makeup department so they were huge. Deal in hollywood at the time he had a massive amount of power and influence not just at universal but in the film world is a whole unfortunately he was also known for taking people's credit being very jealous of the other artists that worked with him if they were more successful or more talented than he was which wasn't hard to do And she designed creature and they shot the movie and it became very clear that the movie was going to be a huge hit. They the universal studios publicity department wanted to send millicent on a press tour to promote it and up until that point in history know in the fifties. There was no twitter. There was no. Imdb there is no way for people to really look into the details of of credits on films. You know back then. There was no like ten minutes end. Crawl at the end of a movie like we get now. There was only like these cards that gave the heads of department Credit for the things that they did so no matter. What but didn't design at on a movie increase in the credits creature. It says makeup. Bud west more So he never was challenged. People always just assume that he designed everything that came out of his shop
Will Cancel Culture Come for Us All?
"You heard representative. Jim jordan of ohio. Say this week as the house debated whether to impeach the president many of these republicans are calling it cancel culture. This has been a controversial topic. But we're going to dive in quality assurance where we take a second look at a big tech story in the news. Last march futurist. Amy webb predicted that cancel culture and the backlash to it would become an even bigger deal in the year ahead said now that's proving true in more ways than she even expected in the aftermath of the attack on the capital. Eric trump Very publicly proclaimed that his family. You know we're being cancelled and it's interesting to see the push pull the tension between those seeking to cancel others. Those complaining that they themselves have been canceled. You know this is one of these situations where the technology enabling all of this is both megaphone and also the infrastructure and also the stop button so the question really is. Who's the ultimate arbiter. What are the rules. They're becoming less and less clear. How do we tease apart. The arguments about cancel culture that are kind of specious and the real behavior. That is behind it right. So here's the predicament. There's a sort of glomming on when you feel like you agree with somebody. The instruments of technology of made that really easy i mean. Let's think back a few months ago when everybody was posting a black square on their instagram accounts. Away of signaling. Their discontent corporations were doing that too. That has translated to real world. Cancellations i mean we have started to see corporate denials of service ranging from aws kicking parlor off to facebook and twitter and more recently youtube silencing. Donald trump's accounts and that for some has social consequences but for other that has real world business consequences. And we're in the situation where we are both inventing the rules and playing the game at the same time. is there confusion. Do you think because there are many people who say particularly. Let's say like on black twitter that there was never a mechanism to address problems. Before and that you know what came to be seen as cancel. Culture was really almost like collective bargaining happening on twitter. It was a whole bunch of people who could like you said express the same opinion and get a result when they never could have before well. The lifeblood of cancel culture is dopamine right. It's the hit that we get from. Feeling like we're a part of a movement and you can see that visualized in metrics. There are some easy fixes to this. We're not gonna fix our culture overnight. The actual problems that we are having we can totally address the mechanisms that are helping to fan the flames twitter could take away metrics so the general public no longer sees the number of times something has been re tweeted or liked maybe you as the original poster could see that but others cannot. That's one way to reduce that dopamine head to reduce the sensation that we are feeling the sense of urgency. 'cause urgency is also part of cancel culture and the same could happen on facebook. There are addressable problems here. you know. There's an argument to be made. That cancelling cancel culture gives rise to additional cancel culture right. it's it becomes as vicious cycle. I mean that's what we're seeing right now with eric trump and the remarks that he's making about cancel culture and and specifically with regard to his dad. You know. i think that's where some of the resentment comes in. I do think that around the time of the metoo movement what has come to be called cancel. Culture right was an exercise in power by people who traditionally have not had power and that that was part of the democratizing effective social media that a lot of people could say the same thing all at once about a misbehaving man or white supremacy and get a result. And that's the tricky. That's the tricky side of us right. Because arguably the net effect of that movement did real good in society and so cancelling the mechanisms that would have led to. That may not be the best for our longer terms but the flip side is that we wind up in the situation that we're in now and if you stop for a moment and think about the words. The semantics cancel culture is alliterative. It's easy to remember. It's an active verb and it itself is conceptually easy for people to understand whereas dachshund or something else may not be right. 'cause cancel culture was a more positive reframing in some ways of targeted harassment which i think we have to be honest about. That has been the mechanism of the far-right online. And you know it's like cancel. Culture was the leftist rebrand That's you know. I hadn't thought about that before but you're absolutely right and i think that that is some of the that is currently being made by those on the far right which is that they themselves now are being targeted and harassed and listen. I'm a target of some of that. Hate and as much as it pains me to say this. They do have a point. Cancel culture impacts them through targeted attacks the same way that they are targeting others. The solution to all of this would be for somebody to come out to the playground. Blow the whistle and tell us all to settle down. We're going to get detention by that. I mean leadership which we have had very little of over the past few years.
The Positives and Negatives of Cancel Culture
"The positive side of cancel culture. Well it brings attention to inequities and justice or offense against someone who otherwise isn't in a position of power or as part of a marginalized and disenfranchised voice from the metoo movement to mute art. Kelly cancel culture has brought attention to men and powerful positions abusing their power in the entertainment industry. And those instances buried criminal activity was brought to the surface other noncriminal attitudes ideas and actions that display in society in a way deemed unacceptable or immoral by people can also lead to cancellation while this shows that certain ideals can have consequences while john. Ten ten tells us that the thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I have come that they may have life and have it to the full. So what's the negative side of cancel culture while ago it encourages a mob mentality as virtual pitchforks. Poke at a person. On the receiving end. There are the negative sides such as that reputations are ruined careers or damaged people have been fired from their jobs and have had a hard time finding another one because of cancel culture families have been destroyed. People have been ostracized by friends and the action is swift and lasting. I stated in the first part of john ten ten. This is how the fief works and we know that thief. Mb the devil as christians. We ought to participate in the work of jesus as co labor's with god
A Conversation between Tara Brach and Elizabeth Lesser
"Elizabeth. We are so delighted to have you with us. Thank you thank you thanks. It's a pleasure thank you. Hello everybody from all over the place. It's lovely to be with you. Yes i wanna jump right in to do your new book because i fall. We get grabbed by the tidal. Cassandra speaks can you just have to come up with that title. Who is cassandra. Let's just start writing with that. Well i've always loved mythology and religious texts. You know. I just love reading whether it's the bible or the koran or the buddhist texts or the hindu texts. I've just always just because humans learn through stories. that's how we learn. So i've been fascinated with stories and i didn't take me long to notice even way back in college that wow most of the books we love. Heroes tales the parables the myths they're written untold by men because back in the day. Ps also a lot now. The storytellers were men. And there's nothing wrong. With the stories. Men tell and the values men tell their stories from but a big swath of humanity was left out of the storytelling so when packing Reading reinterpreting everything. From adam and eve to chinese stories to the greek myths and as i was writing and i was writing about one of the greek town. The tale of cassandra we were in the midst of the metoo movement. Now i know that seems maybe like ancient history. Now we've all been through so much but really it was just like a year and a half ago and one night. I was watching television on. I was watching the televised trial of those young girls who had been molested by their doctor. Dr larry nassar and the judge in rare way of dealing with the trial. First of all allowed it to be televised and allowed one hundred twenty five girls to tell their story in front of the cameras with dr nassar sitting there and for years and years thirty years he'd been at it for years and years. These young women most of whom were olympic athletes had told their mothers had told their parents had told their coaches that college coaches the us olympic team coaches. They've told them that this man had been molesting them but no one believed them. And i was reading the story of cassandra. At the time. Cassandra was a princess. She was the most beautiful princess of the king of troy and troy was an ancient city. That was often at war with greece and she was so beautiful in lowering all the men wanted to marry her including the gods apollo. The son of zeus wanted to marry her. Zeus wanted to marry her and apollo offered her a gift. The gift of being clairvoyant. That she could be able to see into the future. She would see what was going to happen to her family. And her countrymen and her world and she wanted that She's very spiritual person she she wanted to be able to see into understand so she accepted the gift but he neglected to say that she would have to have sex with him right away after she got the gift but she didn't want to and he was furious so as the story goes he spat in her mouth in put a curse on her. Cassandra you will be clervoy int- but no one will believe you. And for years. She saw what was coming. She saw the war. She saw the trojan horse. She saw her brother's all dead. She saw her city in ruins and she would say it but no one would believe her. So as i was watching these young women. I thought they are cassandra's. They are telling their truth their experience but this time they're being believed and i thought that's what i want this book to be about changing the way the old story ends so it doesn't end with women not being heard women not being believed so that we had meant to who knows their inner feminine. So that finally. We respect that part of ourselves so deeply. It's really this part. That i was leading in the meditation and we get so much clout in musculature. That are stories begin to matter an actually change what it means to be human
Peter Kozodoy Talks About How Great Leaders Use Brutal Honesty to Succeed
"What an honor to have you on dose of leadership. Welcome to the show. It's a pleasure to be a rich excited for your stuff man. This brutal honesty. Thing is is something that i've it's one of my pet peeves particularly in the world of business but managed just seemed like it's something that so needed and so lacking in everywhere we look. Right it depends. I've had folks say to me like you're out here championing strategic brutal honesty as if that's going to help in meanwhile i turn on tv. And i see scandal after scandal in both the public and private sector. And they're like so. Obviously it doesn't work. And i'm like no no obviously it does. Yeah look at all of the scandals that we now know about that. Twenty thirty fifty years ago. We had no idea that is honesty and transparency at work. That's the whole point. Is that you know how does a leader achieve outcomes in the twenty first century where everyone has a smartphone. Where everything's being recorded you know. Some way are In a world like that the entire point is that it will no longer pay to do anything but be honest and transparent and the evidence. That is all around us. Yeah what things i appreciated. I agree with you hundred percent and one things i truly got. My listeners have heard me say this cal time on the show but one of the great takeaways. I got from the marine corps. It was a very brutally honest when it worked. Well it was firing. All cylinders are brutally honest culture. Meaning i walk in the work. And say i look like a bag of doughnuts. There was no whispering it was in your face. Get out of here. You'll like a bag of doughnuts and go fix whatever i mean and i love that. I love that kind of you know out in the open standards expectations. And if you don't live up to them you're going to get called out. And i think there's something to be said for that. Yeah in culture after culture that a profile in the book and honest to greatness. I show that you know essentially cultures that get out of their own way. You remove that sense of ego removed the self-doubt and really get to brass tacks. What happens is they're far. More efficient shouldn't be rocket science to anyone. Writes like if we're not farting around figuring out how to sidestep in around cathy's ego than we can get a lot more done. You know what i mean. It's not i say in the book think said my tedtalk is. There's all kinds of research showing that positive reinforcement works right like positive as reinforced people. That's what helps people who Come together and she better. Let's not confuse the truth here. The reason why that's true is because of our delicate egos that does not mean that. If we can remove our delicate he goes and have the culture you described where we can just actually be brutally honest. That actually is the more efficient way to go. Did you see what i'm saying. I know exactly what you're saying. It you the whole. I have used the term. I love the turtle honesty. And i've used that a lot in in my coaching and even when i was consulting an organization that twelve month gig i used that word a and then i was had somebody on my show and i can't remember who it was and they did not like the word brutal because it gave these images of people's feelings getting hurt or people kinda cowering in the corner And they almost argued that the term brutal honesty kind of reinforces the kind of the dominant culture. That's kind of the metoo movement as has effectively exposed. What are your thoughts when you hear me say that. Yeah that's that's one of the most important questions and let's unpack that. As i started down this road which by the way surprise me like it should be a shock to anyone that meet like if anyone knew me in high school i am the guy talking about like brutal honesty and transparency and all this crap that would be a shock to anyone right so say if i can learn this anyone can but one of the things that happened started writing. Speaking about this people were like. Oh wow fantastic brutal honesty. I'm brutally honest. I just tell it like it is. I don't care. And i look at them like. Oh that's cool. That's not really honesty. That's just you being an asshole right. That's a different thing. And i think one of the one of the things i needed to do right out of the gate has redefined. Honesty even means in front of you read the book like i spend the entire book really weaving through that explanation. Because it's not as simple as you might think One of the ceos makes a great point. Says if you're flying in an airplane you're aviator so you're going to get this one rich. You're flying in an airplane and pilots come over the intercom and they say well folks that we've never seen stormclouds like that before. So please a buckle your seatbelts. Not quite sure if we're gonna get burned to the ground but we're going to try our hardest. Is it honest. Yeah maybe but is it helpful. No right honesty is only as good as the trust that it creates in the outcomes that achieves so one of the things i had to do was re define honesty and in sometimes does mean being brutally honest with right. Hey i messed up. i'm sorry. Hey demand by giving the direct feedback. It's not pretty so on and so forth. Sometimes that is the best thing. And there are many instances in my book of leaders and organizations who who took that route got brutally honest with their vendors with their customers with their partners and investors right right but other times rich very important we need to be brutally honest about others.
All Things Mental Health with Psych Nurse Kaitlyn Eder RN, BSN
"All right, everybody. Welcome back to the WOOL MED. This is a topic I've been wanting to get represented on the woman for a minute and I've had a lot of y'all messaging me like when you're going to have a psych nurse on which I love because it's so under represented and I just wanted to find the right person to speak into it so. I bring. y'All, Caitlin. She is a nurse down in Alabama right? Yeah. Alabama. Okay. Well, everybody welcome Caitlin I'm so excited to dig into psych? Nursing. Yes so excited to be here. I'm so excited to talk about kind of my world in nursing what's leading psychiatry and it's been a great experience a fun journey and you're right. It is underrepresented. There's so many things that people don't know until you Kinda Mercer yourself in field. So I'm so excited to get talking to shed some light on some of them for things that are going on today. Oh. Girl. metoo. Okay. So you told me you've always had a passion for psychiatry in Psych Nursing but. How long have you been in the field through I graduated at? Auburn University in two thousand. Sixteen. I've been a nurse for four years but I've worked in psychiatry for three years Nice I actually I, think it kind of an interesting story how it started for me getting into fights. So I did not start there when I was in fool there were two clinical rotations that I absolutely loved one being pediatric and secondly I most importantly love psychiatry. I had to wonder Nicole instructors while I was. Doing my clinical rotations that were so passionate about psychiatric nursing and their passion. Honestly made me think to myself one day I. Want a would I do that much and it was It was so contagious and I it just made me. So engaged in rotation when I started nursing school. It actually always a dream of mine to work at Vanderbilt with the top institution top Teaching Hospital. I. Went to High School in Nashville when a graduation was approaching I applied to the nursery agency program and was expected to a pediatric track there and the reason I should theatrics over by kind injury was pretty much everybody in the medical field told me to work in a medical I guess floor before going to fight so. Interesting Okay Yeah. Yes. Only listened to that. I worked on key mark at the amazing time there. I. Learned so much. really set the standard on evidence based practice research but. Despite thinking that I landed my dream job and I thought it was GONNA be my dream job a few months and I really. Felt like I wasn't in my and I wasn't working like what I was super passionate about and I found myself on really gravitating towards the because we'd get citations on that war at Children's. So I was really gravitating to those patients on the unit and it totally reminded me of how much I love my psych rotation when I was a nursing school. So, I ended up taking a huge leap of faith and I ended up accepting a job at the hospital that I had my psychiatric clinical at as a student who attacked apartment in Nashville and moved back to Auburn. Wow. Yeah. And there was a lot of nerves you know because this is a huge like emmy of course, is going to be a nurse, but it was a completely different field people were like. Doing. Yet. You're working at children's, and you're GONNA go work in psychiatry. See. You might get paid more in Alabama. Yeah. So you know a huge change for me, but I totally thought he's Auburn. Is kind of wary became an adult I went to college I feel at home here. So I kinda just said you know piece. Okay. I was like this isn't going to do and if I hate it, I can make a change you know. So yes, I ended up back Back Down Auburn, but this time as opposed Brown and working to a completely different field.
Life in Front of the Lens
"Hey. Welcome back to another episode of this week in photo I'm your host, Fredericton Johnson. Today. On this interview I'm talking with Mal, reilly jade about well first of all, she's written a book called in front of the lands in it. Sort of goes into the the world of a model in front of the Lens and some important tips and tricks on how we as photographers behind the lens can have a more successful relationship that results in great photos. So she's put that together. So I thought it would. Be Great to have a discussion about that and talk about it. You know what are the pluses? What are the minuses where the landmines for photographers that are looking to get into this genre photography? You know shooting models and it's it's it could be a minefield especially in these days with the metoo movement and all that a lot of photographers a move into this genre, but don't for fear of doing or saying the wrong thing. So Riley is here to help us hopefully not step on any landmine. They. Well, welcome to the show how are you doing and get. Thank you. Thanks for having me on here. Yeah. Yeah I'm excited to dive into this topic. This is like I said a little intro there. This is obviously an important topic and photographers deb you look at all these gorgeous images of beautiful women in magazines and online etcetera and they dream of one day shooting like that. You know. But the hurdle to get to that as a where do you find people? You know there's a lot of amateur models but not a whole lot of professional models that that that know how to pose I wanNA talk about that, and then also some of the. Pitfalls that photographers should avoid win trying to shoot this kind of genre. So let's let's start with just a little bit of history on you. So Riley Jade, who are you in where are you from and what brought you to this world of modeling? Yes I must trillion. And side muddling about eight years ago Mazda Uni and I just did as a hubby about full years and then I started to get into more paid work and yeah when Kobe not happening I'm traveling around and around the world. Shooting which I absolutely love. So Yan and obviously during lockdown I was stuck in one place so I decided to put. Together. And how's it going? How's it going so far? Yeah. It's honestly going so much better than I expected. I hit one hundred styles not long ago and I had so much amazing feedback which is what's really important. So yeah, really scared we'll let let's to help get the word out about it because I think it's like I said I think it's a really important topic for photographers to sort of understand how to move into that genre. So let let's talk about that a little bit. So you've been photographed many many many times you've worked with many many many photographers of all skill levels I'm sure. Out of all the people you've work with what are some of the some of the traits of the more successful photographers out there you know is it is it become Organi, their assertive or their collaborative would you feel the trade of the successful photographer? Say like the key to any successful she is communication and respect you know if you've got those two nil been, you're gonNA have a great shoot. Definitely. You said being a collaborative if it. You know no matter. Even if they took the race specific idea still including the models ideas hiring mannequin you hiring a person with ideas and experiences the IT'd be a waste not to you that. So definitely, like communication respect and having that sort of teen collaborative approach to shoot is key. Yeah and then that what does that collaboration look like? There's like you know when when the photographer first contacts you and says, Hey, you know that. Is it. That, they know what they want and they allow you to input your thoughts into what the the final shot is going to be or. Does it manifest differently. Ya. Think it depends on the type of you know if it's T.F. p. then it's obviously the models ideas really needs to be included. But you know if a photographer contact me for a page with a specific idea that collision comes in the fact that they still they get my agree I agree to those ideas really communicate them well. Is that okay with you excetera. So that's just not a big. Information Dump on me, it's back and forth communication like agree with that. And then we get to the shoot. Odd Do you have any ideas to add to this exemption it just really makes for a more enjoyable experience everyone and great sheets. Great shots. So yeah. Yeah. It should be fun. Right at the end of the day is should be doing a shoot should be you're having a good time you know it's work obviously, but it shouldn't be stressful or shouldn't be attitudes on set in that kind of thing if you had that kind of thing happened where you in the photographer. Just didn't gel in the final shots reflected. I get along with very much. But I think. The issue is when people micromanage. That sort of when it. makes it a bit hard. You know they don't give me a chance to even post it all this a movie hand up here and there, and so I think it's important just to you know you're hiring someone with experience and you know who knows what they're doing. So give them a chance to show you that anticipate of show the you this skills setting micromanaging is when it does kill shoot a bit.
Harvey Weinstein faces new sexual assault charge in Los Angeles
"Convicted rapist and former movie producer Harvey Weinstein who became the face of the METOO movement faces new charges in Los Angeles NPR's Rose Freeman reports Angeles district attorney. Jackie Lacey announced six new charges of forcible rape and forcible oral copulation against Weinstein. He was already facing multiple charges in La. This brings the total to eleven they relate to five victims in crimes alleged to have occurred over a decade ago. Weinstein is already serving a twenty three year sentence in new. York after being convicted of multiple sex crimes prosecutors. In Los Angeles want to have them extradited to La. If convicted in L. A., once team could face an additional hundred and forty years to life sentence an extradition hearing is set for December in
Good Habitat Keeping
"Hulu. Better. Good morning everyone and welcome to Animal Architecture neighborhood to today I shall lead you through hey curated diverse on. This tour will focus on the animal. Own. Building. Homes take many forms, Miss Boroughs Dunes webs. Hives. Caves and Mindy. Earhart your. By. By by five five I. Five, five one. Big. Big. The where are you tour is about to start. Reach My. Sorry. I. Can't get to the phone right now believe leave me a message. I'll be sure to get back to you in two to three months. Mindy. Where are you? The Neighborhood Tours A. Night on C. You anywhere. Supposed to be coming. Here. With. Take your hands off my eyes I can't. Danis. That small group of amateur architecture enthusiasts will stop us. Oh Did it work. Are we stopped? Oh. Wow was that. What do you mean? What do I mean Dennis just came barreling down that hill on a pair of rollerblades with new one is back. Oh, right. Yeah about that. So I was running late for our tour and asked Dennis for his rollerblades in he said I. Know what I said was I rather scape twenty miles with a dolphin on my back. Then give you my blades and you said I've always wanted to be a dolphin and jumped on my back tomato tomato. Mole last minute. Thiry. Let's begin to. Whether it's a nist. Then there's no place like home. Stop is a beautiful structure built by the Australian. No well, I shot glad you made it mindy I've been looking forward to this tour for weeks. metoo hoping it can get a couple of ideas for my newest expansion of my gingerbread mansion expansion and building an Olympic sized ballpit in the bathroom arcade. Ha and I'm here against my will. Of course. Oh i. think what our first stop. Are many reasons for anatomy to roll up their sleeves and build the room domicile well, shelter and boosting the local economy by hiring neighbor would contractors. Be APPS. One of the strongest reasons of all. Is Love God's right love. It happens all over the animal kingdom. But nobody builds a whom to impress quite like off feted friend the bow. Take a look at this. Looks like a modern art sculpture. Wow. Of, well it looks like it's made of twigs. Yeah. But they're all twisted together in this pants you. Hate. Many birds in the animal kingdom the. These. Extravagant nece to attract a mate. Kid, a guy rise these bauer birds be structures to show off to their potential mates to prove they're ready to settle down, make a home and raise all of their future Bauer. Bird. Exactly, look at this one. Wow this guy really went all out. As you can see, the architect of this nest has decided to adult it in the traditional bow booed fashion by placing objects of great. Around the. Get all of these things the. Collected Mindy. Colorful bill connects colorful objects from its surroundings in. Those bright colors attract meet. All of these colorful objects here's lemon. and. Hey their was earth your highlighter marker. My Limited Edition Two Thousand Twelve Signature highlighter I've been looking for those. Little. Birdie. Thought that they would make a great addition to
One Priceless Lesson We Often Forget About Love and Life
"One priceless lesson we often forget about love and life by Mark Chernoff mark and Angel Dot Com. Everything, we need. Jose's wife Maria was born in a one bedroom stand alone home on the outskirts of Playa del Carmen Mexico. was a fine little home, but her father Oscar wanted a real house. So he worked two jobs a sixty hour week factory job, and then another twenty hours or so a week as carpenter. Oscar say fifty percent of his income for over a decade to build his family of four bedroom house like the ones in the better parts of town he put half his family savings and a low community bank and he talked the other half away in a safe he kept hidden on their property. On the morning Oscar plan to break ground on his family's new house, the local community bank shuttered stores just hours after law enforcement declared the bank was running an illegal and uninsured Ponzi scheme ninety percent of the deposits Oscar made were lost. Then the very next day. The little home was robbed at gun point in exchange for his family's safety Oscar for the rest of the money he had hidden in safe. In the short window of thirty six hours, the family lost a vast majority of their savings from years of hard work the night for the first time as Mother Olga watched Oscar cry. She approached Oscar with their infant daughter cradled and rocking in her arms and said, it's just money minister just a house. We've so much more than that. We have a truly loving home. Oscar looked at Olga, dried his eyes and nodded his head in agreement. He spent the rest of the night with his baby daughter holding her tight to his chest reminding himself that he might not be able to give his family, the house he dreamed of, but he can continue to give them a truly loving home. And for the nine years that followed Maria grew up in that small loving one bedroom home. After the first year, a sister Andrea joined her after the third year brother Roberto showing to the memories share of that time are truly heartwarming for example, everyday. Of Maria Early Grade School years she remembers her father coming home from work just before dinner giving her and her siblings, individual hugs and kisses, and then asking them to questions. More you loved. Do you have love in your heart? All three shoulder would nod their head smiling then he'd gather them all up in a big group. Hug and call out Metoo we are blessed. We have everything we need. With that house. Even. Though Oscar sincerely believed what he said to his children. He was still pursuing his dream of building a larger and more comfortable house for his family and nine years after losing all of their savings Oscar. Once again, saved enough money to begin building that new house twenty feet behind their little one bedroom home he started with framing out the foundation of the kitchen them Ria's mother had always quietly dreamed of. One Cement Block at a time paycheck by paycheck. Slowly, but steadily built a house he'd come. So close to building nearly a decade beforehand I a kitchen, a large family room and two bathrooms than a master bedroom bedrooms for each of the children and a nice covered front patio. In two thousand, two, win Jose Maria and start falling in love with her Oscar was still building that house. Soon. Thereafter, he put the last few finishing touches on it. The, entire family celebrated for weeks on end and Nowadays Oscar Olga still celebrate holidays and special occasions at the House with all three of their children and their children's families several times a year. But, the stories prizes lesson has nothing to do with that house. Just, a bonus the first day Jose met Marie his family. He noticed how sincerely loving and happy the whole family was. He praised Oscar for the beautiful family. He had asked him what the secret was. Oscar. Spent hours sharing interesting heartfelt stories about why his family was the luckiest one in the world. Never, shared all the details about how their house was built. In fact, after years of knowing Maria and her family traveling with them and even living with them for a short time, no one ever thought to tell Jose about how their family's house came to be. They ask questions about the construction few occasions and he received replies about the construction it until after Jose Maria got married and close on their own first house in Miami. Florida that Oscar took Jose for a long walk. He s does a about the details and Jose excitedly shared information about their new neighborhood in the House Oscar listened intently smiled and then finally he shared the story you've just heard. My daughter does not need a house Oscar concluded she needs a truly loving home and when you fill that home with children, your children will need exactly the same. If you that no matter how big or small your actual houses, your children will WanNa come home to you. The rest is just bonus. I know all of this because Jose ms one of my best friends and just this morning over coffee. He asked me where I was going to write about today. When I told him I hadn't yet decided. He smirked said Mama story for you, and then he proceeded to tell me the story I just told you.
"metoo" Discussed on The Lead
"Can you give us a sense of the build up to the publication of this report? So there's been a lot of drama swirling around the Washington football team, but suddenly started to get all of these dots that you could start connecting. There's a lot going on within the front office. That really doesn't add up firings in retirement in July in the NFL. Rarely happening tonight. We're! And we're too high level personnel executives who were abruptly fired and Alex Santos in Richard. Man were fire. No reason was given as to why they were fired. Then today, longtime radio announcer for the Washington football club Larry Michael announcing his retirement, he spent sixteen years with the team, the man who had been there the radio voice, he abruptly retired without any sort of official comment from the team, and he started to hear this buzz rumors flying about a potential bombshell report on Washington's football team and owner Dan Snyder. This is absolutely taken over social media with speculation running rampant then by Thursday afternoon. The Washington Post dropped the story. There fifteen women who went on the record, alleging widespread sexual harassment within the Washington football organization that spanned just about Daniel Snyder entire time that he is owned the team, so these were women who works across the organization in marketing and ticketing and finance in there were also two female reporters, one who formerly covered the team for the Washington Times and Rianne and Walker our colleague from the athletic, who also went on the record to accuse one of the men who had? had been fired of sexual harassment as well. It was the sprawling account as you mentioned fifteen women accusing sexual harassment in Washington. Can you summarize some of those accusations? Yes, so it was a lot of the very classic cases of sexual harassment things from making lewd comments about women's bodies about their breasts about their rear ends about the the clothes they were wearing to very overt sexual comments, propositioning requests to go on dates, just a lot of overall inappropriate workplace behavior. Behavior from superiors directed at female employees, and it did not seem to be a secret. Some of these women who went on the record with the Washington, post talked about how the other people who worked in the organization knew about it. They talked about it amongst themselves. There were places in the building where women were advised not to go. Specifically, there was a stairwell that had basically transparent stairs and women were told. Do not go there because there were men who. Who would stand underneath that and look up? Their female colleagues skirts all of these things that are blatantly inappropriate and wrong and workplace environment, but had been persisting for more than a decade, all fifteen of these women went on the record, but one of the few who allowed her name to be published is a woman named Emily applegate. What was her experience like working inside the Washington Organization? It was miserable it really most people know times a comment on my appearin. Screaming at you for something that you, it's not your fault. And then somebody makes a comment to you about what you're wearing and it just snowballs from there. <hes> she cried at work regularly, she felt belittled, imagined us being called stupid on a daily basis, and then also almost in the same breath being hit on for your appearance. It's a miserable work experience. Experience to the point where she no longer wanted to work there anymore and no longer even wanted to work in sports, and we should note that Emily applegate's former boss Mitch Gershman who was the team CEO at the time both denied and said he didn't recall conversations referenced by Applegate, telling The Washington Post quote I can't comment on something I can't remember. But Lindsay what actions has the team taken in response to these accusations from emily applegate, and the many other women, well many of the men who were accused in this story, all ready been fired, and we're kind of fired in the process of the Washington Post. Reporting this story, the team can say that has taken measures to address this because some of these accusations date back to the early to mid two thousands, so some of these people no longer actually work with the team and then some of the people. People that had new allegations have immediately been fired or left the team. They've started their own investigation. They hired an attorney Beth Wilkinson. The name might sound familiar over the last several years. Wilkinson took part in notable cases involving Hillary. Clinton Brett Cavenaugh and Michael Flynn and she told us we can confirm that our firm was retained by the team to do an independent review of the team's culture policies and allegations of workplace, misconduct and Daniel. Snyder and his wife sent an internal email to everybody who works organization to. To apologize for the culture, the statement saying in part, the behavior described in yesterday's Washington Post. Article has no place in our franchise or society. The story has strengthened my commitment to setting a new culture and standard for our team, but without specific apologies to any of the employees into these women, and there have also not been any public apologies to the two female reporters who were not team employees. The team has not publicly addressed them as well
"metoo" Discussed on Black Passion Podcast
"I'm back with another episode. I have to. Forbade decided that. This is just not going to be a consistent So. Let me say I was just happening. So I yeah, working a new job. I could work from home great. And On the way, I needed to get a test kits for like. A mouse lab or something. Client. Oh. On my ways, my friend's house to pick up just tested that she has. and. I. I. pull. This Mariano. And I think like my mind is still go to. Last year. Weekend. and. Body. all that thing happened and I was talking about I don't know rape or not because I was job. Why wanted because. I was drunk but he knew he was. Like Movie One me because I was drugs like it's like. was. I raised it was he tried to I. I was confused about what the caller. Any who? Is More handles Oh is, is this I am I nervous how 'cause I remember member? Like certain details about where I was that. Every time I see like. Kind of building a parking lot prepare way I'm thinking lab oh and my. Kinda. Off Route going back Red House drive around the block. It wasn't it wasn't the same thing. But. Yeah. So now I just want my friends place. Right around with hole. Somewhere. I can kind of track down where. I ask. I'M GONNA. Why am I doing I was thinking? That's my. Doing. It happened and I got an apart- hassle talk about. Situation asked about like. Maybe people could say that I was that I wasn't. I wanted to. But because I, some other people were saved because I was drafted. It was great because I can't consent when you're drunk. I'm Kinda wondering could that be suggested by? No? That is what I want to do at the time. Like I don't know if. They're to blame somebody else for taking advantage of what are already known that I wanted. So. The yes I'm trying to find. This place right now. Just for my clarity I don't know why I'm doing this where I'm going there's no like I'm GonNa go to the. Apartment, and. Knock on doors. I don't. Really have much a motive. It's just something I want to do since it's on my mind so I can just like go check it out. See if that's the place it's not then we'll go home. Go to every hole from. But Yeah. I also yeah. That's another reason why I wanted to start this episode because I remember seeing opposed And it was of this girl who was crying a mad about her ex boyfriend's. You love. I think he said like you've gotTA. But she basically had her exit. Accents on my his friends run the train on in a few months prior to her. where she made a video crying about what happened. was basically both about it on facebook or Whatever lives? Talking about how you know yet renna train on me. And it was good. They took me out to eat afterwards..
"metoo" Discussed on Alyssa Milano: Sorry Not Sorry
"metoo" Discussed on Alyssa Milano: Sorry Not Sorry
"Me too made me feel like the internal battle that I had been silently waiting for years was finally coming to light it felt like a burden was lifted off my shoulders and then I finally had a hand to grab onto in walk with I knew then that change was coming and that history was being made my name is Chantelle Kusano I came forward in October of twenty seventy gene to out Predator James Toback after having worked with him on a movie called Harvard Man in October of twenty seventeen came forward with eight women to the La Times and within forty eight hours vertical coming out there were over four hundred we stopped counting I came forward after the Harvey Weinstein survivors came forward and thought they were Oh brave I thought well if we're addressing this issue let's talk about James Toback he's a Predator and I just didn't know how right was because until then until Metoo women men and children were isolated with author trauma so this was an enlightened moment a shift in the universe where we were no longer alone and I and moreover we were safer and stronger together I've been working with Sega Tra to bring awareness to this issue Create prevention measures provide resources for survivors and also an education Newsham that can help grow our safety infrastructure and I'm just I'm really proud of all of us and are loud as voices getting this work done as fast as it's going I know it seems slow sometimes but two years short when you think of how long We have been vulnerable so I hear survivors my name is Wendy love edge and I am childhood sexual abuse survivor not only did my dad's sexually abused me but he sold me choose friends outside of my home they told me they would kill my mother if I told her it was the seventy s and no one was discussing anything like this sometimes was lift to wonder where I felt so weak unable to endure any more pain abuse I remember also weeping for other children in the room as it frequently in a room with several adult males abusing children and taking photos of US years past had many the memories were tucked into my brain I remained in the victims state and behaving like a victim for many of them I didn't understand victim behavior conditioning or grooming at the time and the pieces of my life had been strewn like puzzle pieces in between the ages of thirty and forty a found a nontraditional healer his wife who helped me to overcome a lot of the results of this abuse it was able to put together the puzzle and figure out who my true self ways the long journey of understanding everything that happened to the continues okay so what did you tell us a little bit Tony about how metoo has shaped and change your life so October fifteenth two thousand seventeen you ask survivors to reply me too if they've had a sexual harassment or sexual assault the next day October sixteenth two thousand seventeen I send out a tweet saying that you had magnified a mess judge that was established about ten years earlier by women named Toronto Burke and I'd only heard that name earlier in the day because twitter was a buzz with American women of African Ancestry and that name so I looked up and on her side it said empowerment through empathy and my heart sang as empathy coach my heart saying I think the words Metoo are comforting to people and I've said this before because it can be now particularly because it is a part of the popular lexicon is giving people language right it's given people in some regards shorthand too talk about things or to not talk about things that are deeply uncomfortable for them particularly around sexual violence so you can save me to now is always our goal for people to be able to say me to leave it at that you know that's why we have a period at the end of it or to say it and people and understand exactly what you mean I think it gives people the space that they need in the cover that they need while there figuring their way through survival out but it's also a declaration you know one of the things that has shifted or it's ideas as sort of expanded into Enviros that part of what happened when it went viral it became a declaration right to identify a community and so I always thought it would be just known among survivors that it would be our way of identifying each other talking to each other in declaring to each other but it's now an outward declaration to write says we stand together we we identify with one another in an immediate we says to the person I think the in it's really really really basic Sanson the idea of empowerment empathy comes from this place which is that in a basic sense when somebody says Metoo to another survivor it's the same as saying I believe you yes I see you and I'm here with you we can't all be slaps we can't all be asking for it I'm here to give you permission to be angry this -ality might not have to be our reality anymore I felt this crushing sense of powerlessness this is the time to take power here's my story the sexual harassment suit is cutting its ties bill felt it was my duty for the women who are silent worked at the plaza it's okay to stand up for yourself swift appearing if only I could save you help you remove that weight from your tired shoulders and become the joy of an unbiased into you I would I also WanNa talk to you about this this Hashtag that was sort of a secondary thought on that really hit its apex during the Cavenaugh hearing and it was the Hashtag believe women that many people saw as a you know believe women even if there's no evidence or believe women no matter but so can you just briefly talk about those words believe women in the Hashtag and what you see them to be and how it's not at the events of a man's innocence this notion about believe women has been so controversial and actually we don't say believe women we say believe survivor it's really important that people recognize that me too is not just about women in it's not just about it's not a women's movement yeah but saying believe women or believe survivors is not at the expense of anybody else it's not to say believe people guardless of WHO says it without investigation is to try to shift away from what was the the norm before this moment in the norm before the home it was that when anybody declared or had the wherewithal to stand up and say this thing happens that they have dealt with sexual violence in some way okay we even sexual harassment the People start off with the premise that they're lying right right they start off from the place of questioning and not believing in so if you automatically don't believe them then you're not going to investigate further and you're not gonNA crew by the kind of resources that they need and so saying believe women or believe survivors about starting from the premise that people are not lying and giving these declarations in claims and disclosures the kind of gravity and seriousness that they deserve right leave women in mass when we're saying that this is what our lives are life the lived experience that many us have had multiple run INS with harassment and violence unprovoked a net we all all can't be lying when we say this is what I live a life so it's not about doing away with due process it's not about we can't even get to due process if you don't believe it happened then he won't even investigate enough to get to a place where we can look at all the evidence look at both sides right to start off by believing that something happened before you can even get to the level of investigation so that's that's where that notion comes from.
"metoo" Discussed on Alyssa Milano: Sorry Not Sorry
"Two years ago after stories began break about Harvey Weinstein and the abuse of power by men in my industry I tweeted if you've been sexually harassed or assaulted right me too as a reply to the this tweet which boosted the work of the Great Toronto Burke in the time since then more and more people have come forward to share their experiences is and finally we're starting to see some things change this episode is dedicated to all the survivors of sexual assault and I hope it will spiral you to either share your own story or just take the time to listen to those who are willing to open up and be vulnerable I also wanted she would trigger warning because some of these stories may be difficult to hear me too rose is out at lower has been filed cosby guilty guilty gale it felt like getting my message right this moment was more important than anything Mr Chairman key member Feinstein members of the committee my name is Anita F Hill my name is Christine Blasi Ford you told the world that times up on violin you told the world Azazel attacks from the White House Rally Internet troll heart wrenching testimony and marches. I'm faced with my own heart truth I am numb.
"metoo" Discussed on The Daily
"So after for leaves. I continue to spend the morning with Debbie cats and her law partner Lisa banks and basically they're waiting like the rest of vice. They're waiting to see what the Senate Judiciary Committee is going today so we go back to their office and we're in a big conference room and the TV is on and they're weeding for some sort of news development. She got the opportunity to testify. After life turned upside down it for what so that he could be placed on the court shows like he would have been this yeah even though there at the center of the thing they're like the rest of us. They don't know what's going to happen next. If there's a sixteen year old girl in a few months he undergoes something similar will. She be encouraged to somebody. HAS IT Christine instead of keeping it to herself. The encouraged my questions as the same effect is to what is going to change any these two women in have worked together on these kinds of issues for years but as we're sitting there in the conference room they sort of adopt different positions debbie cats plays the optimistic commute valuated where we are today versus where your question that you're again just testified that that support at insisting she heard. I'm not saying the movement's failure. I'm really I'm Lisa banks or partner kind of place the pessimist and she says spite the power of the movement and how everybody in this country has woken up and recognized Mitch how women have been treated forever right now. We're we're awake to if you you were energized were mobilized and yet because we have these institutional. Some results seemed to be the same literally. The message is different sprint. Maybe the messaging is different and they cover their ass different ways. My problem is the result is exactly the same and even after the backlash after trump's election even after Harvey Weinstein Metoo Movement and the Senate hasn't changed the White House hasn't changed and we am Supreme Court and that's what matters and all of those entities seek to maintain the status quo clo in terms of white male power and privilege and so one of the movement. We all energized. We are all angry we are aw I will vote to confirm Judge Cavanaugh and by the next week. We have a much stronger sense of where this is headed. We need the former protests and go to the polls and protests votes. Some of these people are and bought for Republicans. The display of rage that cavanaugh had shown during his testimony testimony had really given many Americans permission to voice their own discomfort an anger at where the metoo movement had gone Tadeusz Kevin off tomorrow. It could be your brother your husband your father or your son who don't like what I just saw here. Anybody can be accused of something and even if they're trying the fan of stuff you still WanNa make and that's not right. So what do you think Mike Davis. Who was the head Republican staffer on the Senate. Judiciary Committee later told me in interviews interviews that you know avenue weighing in with the allegations of gang rape had been a gift had been a gift that this had provided you know Kavanagh's defenders Jurors and people more broadly with the claims that this whole thing had gone too far and that men were being unfairly accused and targeted and victimized and so this is really the mood. That's taken hold on October six the day of the final vote on Kavanagh's nomination when I'm in Washington. DC WITH LISA banks and Debbie cats what's their office because at least with need a hill is insufficient bi investigation before here in at that and they're very upset about what's happened over the past week they re to it because they knew only interviewing people who I know it's in some ways nineteen ninety-one and now are not that different shelves came forward really service Barry's vision and the younger piece to win is how they use an ATI as a way to listen to the others yeah it was just great stage and so they are resigned to what's going to happen on this afternoon but they're also determined to show a- and represent their client sitting here is going to be very hard but she deserves council who will witness nets what today feels like it feels like uh-huh and look and then we got in the car and drove to Capitol Hill to watch the confirmation vote. Oh can you have this. I don't know any trailer does campus. If I try three week case it takes me three weeks to the day it regarded to go through every single moment of what we could have done differently and it's clear that they're trying to find ways to make sense of this. Whatever's happening getting in there? Today has been affected by what she was done. Even Coco's the wrong way. Well write but it's it's the process success has been affected and she did as a reminder to our are guests in the galleries expressions of approval or disapproval are not permitted in the Senate galleries so we you walk into the Senate Gallery. There are sort of big wooden doors. You walk down these white marble stairs and soon we're all seated in this almost majestic. Senate Gallery and Don mcgann trump's White House counsel is sitting across from me watching the proceedings with a smile on his face a good man a good man with sterling academic credentials and one by one the Republicans are getting out and but imagine what this has been like for Judge Kavanagh's parents talking out for his wife. How Kevin is such victim or as children you know. Democrats are during the exact opposite the fact that this touched a nerve to so many Americans and particularly to women who've gone through this experience should put this whole debate in context. I we ought to understand the gravity of this debate. In light of the cultural change we are now facing in America and then in the end the vote is taken and on this vote the is fifty the Naser forty eight at lines up almost to a T. Republicans in favor Democrats against and the nomination of bread M Cavanaugh of Maryland to be an associate justice of the Supreme Court of the United States is confirmed. Kevin Avenue is confirmed.
"metoo" Discussed on I'm Not In An Abusive Relationship
"Hello. This is rose Ludwig with domestic and sexual abuse services. I'm here with abbey today and Evie survivor of sexual assault and would like to share her story with us. Hello, abby. Hello. Why? Did you want to share your story with us today? Just so it is brought the attention of more people not so much my story, but sexual assault victims in general, and can you tell me about your personal experience with sexual assault. I have a kind of two instances that I believe shaped my life. And who I am today. I was sexually assaulted as a child by a right up relative female babysitter. And that just kind of didn't really surface in my life until I was older because I didn't know what sexual assault was or what child molestation was and did not bring that to the attention of my family until quite recently. And in the second time was I was a freshman in college and studying with a classmate that had been paired up with and. I honestly can't remember his name, which is sad. But also happy for me as well. And I did not tell anyone about that at the time either. So when you were a child you kept that a secret for many many years, I would say I wasn't necessarily keeping it a secret. It was more along the lines of I didn't know it was wrong. I didn't know that adults shouldn't be doing that not necessarily adult. She was she was in her teens, but not realizing that it was something that was wrong or wasn't supposed to be happening. Yeah. Okay, abby. So if you feel comfortable would you share with us a little bit about your experiences as child? On. So I believe I was around the age of I can't remember for sure between ages of foreign six. My. Parents had just gotten divorced, and I was living with my mother who hired a family member of my fathers to babysit us. I don't know how often or how many times that person babies at us. But I remember specifically one time I was there, and she was putting down for a nap. And I just remember hearing my is on the outside of the wall of the other side of the wall. They were trying to give you like my watch or something like that. And she just kept saying that I was sleep. But I was clearly awake. And she sexually assaulted me. And that is the only instance that I can remember from that victimization. And like I said earlier, I didn't realize that was something that was wrong. And I don't think that I'm told anyone in Ryan tire life until I was. Seventeen or eighteen years old? I told my boyfriend at the time, and he basically told me to keep it a secret it had been so long that he didn't want me to traumatize my family members or to bring up even the emotions in myself again and Intel anyone and when him, and I broke up that kind of almost made it feel like I was allowed to tell my story and was not encouraged to tell my story until I had a new boyfriend who was more empathetic sympathetic with me and said that it would probably help me to talk about it or to help. My mother understand who I was at a child. Why I was the way I was and. It was weird. When I went to go, tell her for the first time, she is kind of looked at me and almost with confusion because she felt like she knew the whole time. But didn't want to bring it up to me in order to trigger me or to upset me if it didn't actually happen. So she had questioned it. And. That's
"metoo" Discussed on 850 WFTL
"The metoo against Smith. Is this the best a man can get? Is it? Okay. So those few seconds they show like one kid get beaten up in the backyard, and you know, people picking on other people and really what they're going after and hate to say it this way. There's no other way to do it douchebag ary is what they're attacking. You know what they should do? And you brought this up earlier is this a preview to what a Super Bowl commercials going to be. And then they should highlight. Some of these NFL players have beaten, the crap out of their wives and their girlfriends. Match the NFL approving new magic. Can you imagine sneak in that in that would never see the light of day? But that's what they should focus NAT would send home a message. It would shut the NFL up. Right. You're not kidding. I'm just saying because that's what it's about. It's not about because they're trying to make you guys. Oh, you're going to be able to cry and could be touchy feely. And now I wanna I wanna man's man. It's a little bit of that. And granted they're trying to capitalize on the metoo movement thing. And he mentioned that they do have a couple of scenes in the sixty second commercials. There's the guy in the boardroom you eat. He goes what she meant to say was. Yeah, it's okay. Stepping a jerk. There's a little bit of that. But it's not exactly how it's being hyped up. Here. You've got Piers Morgan is where you know, the English guy. He didn't like anybody though. Let men be dead men, which is ironic because he's probably the furthest thing from a van, I can imagine. It is what it is. But they're going to be talking about it at work today. So we're just trying to save you the height. It's not toxic masculinity. I think you're right. It's get rid of the jerks of the world can exactly works for me. I cannot believe this was ten years ago. A huge American event was ten years ago today feel old. So we got sully next Florida morning show. In the meantime, there's this here today. Thank you, the first responders without them. It's not a miracle. Ten years later. There's still resonates about the meaning that you attach to this. I touches a blessing. How in the world was the miracle on the Hudson ten years ago? You're getting old started sound is starting to sound like your parents, parents that is true. Of the year. It's almost over. I'm sorry somewhere along the line. We lost time. Something happened. This is like manifest we all woke up one day. I was ten years five years later. It's like, wow, you're right though. I was ten years already the guy we heard from survivors, and he showed up at the big memorial know, really memorial. But just a thank you mainly to the first responders because they're amazing. I can't by I would've been thanking everybody to by the way the Carolinas aviation museum. There's a big party plan there today because that's where the plane is now on display. Clearly, I never knew that. I'd media to be out. It's got to be a big building. If you could fit that plane plane is what is it? Okay. So that would you remember the Tom Hanks movie sully, right? The end of it. They were all gathered around like a year or two year anniversary or something and they were looking around the plane. Right. Be where it was. I remember they took it apart member was going down the street in New York without the wings. Bad drivers honking at it. So they took it to the Carolinas. In the meantime, that the Tom Hanks movie was pretty accurate, which means they grilled him. Over lou. Did you lose our plane? I saved your passengers. They don't care. They it's all about the bottom line and money. That's all the airlines care about don't let them don't let them fully into thick it, otherwise, man. And if you didn't believe it watch that movie ten years ago, maybe it seems like not too long ago, the movie in between, I don't know. But it's really ten years. That's a long time ago was just a couple of months ago. Twilight zone stuff we're losing time. It's it's scary is what it is boy governor onto Santa's effectiveness goes on into week to remember last week. He called for the resignation at first for everybody all the board members for the south Florida water management district. Well, he's to two fifths of the way they're two board members have resigned because they can read they realize now the governor's messing around you look at Ron in. This is no, you know, scabbard our governor by any chance, but you look you look at you look at Santa's he doesn't look like a menacing, man. He looks like, you know, his real sweet. Unkind? He talked to you so nicely that all of a sudden he comes in. He was like, man. It's like, wow, we.
"metoo" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside
"I'm going to try. We'll see what happens. It luck. All right next question. Drew neumann. What is your take on the metoo movement? Me too. Ryan metoo. Subject. I don't even know what me too movement is you don't know. Me too is the movement by women who have been sexually abused by men. Oh, and so once once I hear something about Donald Trump also night come out of the woodworks and go oh meet under. No, no, the metoo movement was created by women. Okay. To basically said as a rallying cry like me too. Like, I have been abused too. So we're in this together. Okay. Okay. So I think the premise of it. I think is as good. Yeah. I think I think that that people who band together who had been unjustly served or delta hand, or whatever it may be by other individuals auto rally together and fight against that thing. I think that's great. I just think that things like this have a tendency to get hijacked by the social Justice warriors. Yeah. And I think that's what's happening is that it's it's not necessarily so much more about me too and sexual abuse. It's about I think extreme feminists have have taken over. Over the movement, and we'll continue to take over movements like this and say that it's not just about sexual harassment or sexual abuse. It's now about men everything else and how women are treated horrible. And there's no rights for women and everything else that just that clearly aren't the case. So it's been it's the metoo movement. Although I believe the premise is good. I also think it's been weaponized. It's been it's been made extreme, and it's been weaponized by third wave feminists who are well they're misguided at best. They're completely ignorant to actually what's going on. And they actually are doing. I think they're doing women greater injustice than they are doing any good, frankly. Yeah. So the premise is good. I think that sure there's plenty of women who have been abused in in sexually sexually abused by men, and it's been dismissed it's been covered up in a lot of cases. It's they've been mom. What? And I think anytime you empower an individual to bring up their story that is legitimate incredible. I gotta make sure I throw that in there because there's a lot that aren't I think that's a good thing. I just think that it's the these things have a tendency of being hijacked by organizations who aren't actually real concerned about the initial premise of a movement like this. Yeah. Yeah. There you go drew. All right, James Tatler. How do you? How do you or have you created family traditions? Do use holidays or birthdays, jazz,.
"metoo" Discussed on Can We Talk?
"Of the the Jewish women's archive honey routes and I'm Judith Rosenbaum. The metoo movement has been gaining momentum for a year now and it's had global impact more more and more women are speaking up publicly about sexual assault and harassment refusing to be ignored and they're proving that their stories can create change but what does me to look like in the Jewish community. What are the obstacles we face in our community our citizens when it comes to speaking about sexual misconduct this time on can we talk doc me too in the Jewish community will hear stories from archiving me to the story collecting project created by the Jewish Women's archive. We'll get Judas. You'd have steak and how the metoo movement is. Impacting the Jewish community and later in the show historian Karen mcginnity talks about being sexually harassed and assaulted ed by a prominent Jewish academic and what happened when she came forward. This is not the Shun Hurrah. This is not gossiping or you're hurting. Someone's good name. This is about what's right and what's wrong. This is about what is unhelpful and what is hurtful nine months ago the Jewish women's archive launched a project called archiving metoo Judith. Can you tell us about the project sure so as soon as the metoo movement started to unfold we recognized that this was going to be a historically significant moment men and that it needed to be documented in ways that were more permanent than social media so we created the collection to provide a place for women and people of all genders to share their experiences with sexual assault and harassment both within the Jewish community and beyond it. There's a web form on the site where people submit their. May Two stories in writing or audio and people who share their stories can be anonymous and can set the permissions and restrictions as to how their story can be used our goal is really to document the the depth and the texture of gender abuse in our society and to preserve this moment in history and what kinds of stories have you been collecting so many different kinds and the story respond more than fifty years several generations and they're from multiple countries they range from daily indignities too violent rape a lot of people have shared their stories anonymously and most of them don't name perpetrators and which is we asked people not to name perpetrators because the goal of our collection is not tout offenders but rather to create an archive of collective experience so let's listen to some excerpts read here by members of the J. W staff and Dan just a note to listeners. Some of these excerpts contain depictions of sexual assault. When I was twelve I was raped by an older boy at Jewish summer camp he he was my boyfriend but he was sixteen and had a good foot on me. We escaped one night to go kiss in the forest but he had other plans. I didn't realize what had happened to me until it was over this happened at a Jewish summer camp. It's happening in our institutions where children should feel safe and joyful. We have to be more vigilant and teach young men what not to do on January thirteenth. Two thousand seventeen the director of my campus. Hell sexually assaulted halted me. I spoke to the rabbi and she just wanted to keep it quiet. I filled out a police report but it went nowhere. I didn't get any results and there could be more more victims. It's a mistake to think you're safer. In a Jewish environment. My Temple Youth Group director invited his friend to a youth group of that the two of them men in their early thirties invited me and two of my friends to a hot tub with them. They had us it on their laps. We were twelve. I'm a cantor in a previous congregation ten years ago. The temple presidents husband always creeped me out but I was always nice kept a smile on my face. He would always try to put his arm around me. Even in front of my husband one era of Chabad. This man was assigned to be my duty and sat next to me during a moment when I was not at my legs turn and was sitting next to him. He leaned over and whispered. I finally have you alone alone all to myself. I said nothing and just laughed it off. During that week. I reported it to the rabbi who said if he hadn't done this before war he wouldn't have been believed. I was floored. Why would I make the SAP. What would I have to gain. If this man had a history of being inappropriate appropriate with young women why was he permitted to sit next to me and why wasn't I warned about his behavior. These questions appear a lot in the archiving having me to collection. Why wasn't I warned. Why wasn't I believed why as a man's reputation more important than my safety some women have wondered if they've helped normalized sexual misconduct by not acknowledging that certain experiences counted as harassment or assault and these questions were posed again and again with a lot of pain gene and a lot of incredulity and a lot of anger there are other projects currently underway in the Jewish community aimed at addressing sexual misconduct and and we'll talk about some of them later. What's different about the archiving metoo project? It's tempting I think when you're faced with painful Catholic those of the Metoo you too have meant to WanNa turn immediately to solutions and policies. It's really hard to listen to me two stories to take in their magnitude and their deep roots but we really believe that these stories demand time and attention and we WANNA make sure that they are recorded and that they're heard we believe that there should be many any different ways to share me to stories and we believe that the act of storytelling itself can be a source of strain. Some people want to share their stories publicly and pursue justice through the legal system others others don't WanNA relive trauma or face abusers and that's their rate so we've created a way for people to share their stories in whatever way they wish and we think that's important because it allows people who might otherwise not speak up to share their stories to add them to the historical record and to be heard in a way that feels safe but obviously testimony has played a really important role in this movement. That's true and that's a good segue into Karen mcginnity story. You and I spoke with her recently. Can you tell our listeners who she is. I can and Karen is the director of the interfaith families Jewish Engagement Graduate Program at Hebrew College and she's the author of two books about the history of intermarriage. She joined us recently the latest share her own metoo story and talk about how that movement is affecting the Jewish community Karen. Thank you so much for joining us. Thank you inviting me so let's let's go back to two thousand eleven. You were reaching the end of a fellowship and were entering the academic job market you were at a Jewish studies conference and went to dinner with a senior colleague who had offered to discuss career prospects with you and this was Steven Cohen. You told us that when you met with him you expected to have a conversation about your career basically that you expected to be taken seriously as a scholar. Can you describe what happened. the dinner did not transpire as I had thought that it would during the course of the meal he reached across the table and took my hand in his kind of held onto it and asked me a lot of probing personal questions I was greatly relieved when the dinner was over and we walked many mini blocks back to the conference hotel at which point he wrote up in the elevator with me and got off the elevator with me and mentioned something about going back to my room with I no firmly I said no and good night at which point he gun wrapped his body around me and kissed me in in a manner that would only be suitable for people who were consensually lovers at which point I rushed back to in my room what happened next. What what. How did you react. Did you confront him did you well. I reacted initially by being being extremely shaken and sat it was a kind of betrayal trail that I hadn't experienced before from someone who worked in the Jewish communal world I had like many women had experiences with sexual harassment and assaults assaults over the course of my lifetime but never from someone under a pretense of of professional guidance since I was kind of paralyzed in the sense that I didn't know what to do it given.
"metoo" Discussed on It's Been a Minute with Sam Sanders
"From NPR. I'm Sam Sanders. It's been a minute today on the show we're talking me to. We have discussed the metoo movement. A lot on this show me to in politics, metoo in Hollywood, metoo journalism in NPR's, newsroom, even now we're gonna talk about me too, and supports and the dozens of stories you've been hearing for months of young elite athletes being abused by their coaches and their doctors and their mentors. People, they should be able to trust an explosive. New reports has USA swimming covered up hundreds of sexual abuse cases today, the US center for safe sport Banda, former Olympic taekwondo coach from the sport. The organization found Jean Lopez guilty of sexual misconduct against athletes. In some cases, those athletes were minors shakeup at USA gymnastics this morning to CEO. Kerry Perry is out after just nine months on that job. She was reportedly forced to resign as the organization continue. Us to struggle to recover from the Larry Nassar sex abuse scandal. Larry Nassar, of course he was the former sports doctor for USA gymnastics and Michigan State University. He was convicted of sexually assaulting numerous young women under his care Nassar was recently sentenced to up to one hundred seventy five years in prison. You can probably recall that trial more than one hundred and fifty victims confronted Nassar in public, including Olympic medalist, Aly race, men. The reality is caused me a great deal of physical mental and emotional pain. You never healed me. You took advantage of our passions and our dreams. In the wake of Nassar's trial. There have been lots of other stories like that. One and lots of other sports top officials have been forced out of their jobs for not dealing with reports of sexual assault and others are under new scrutiny. Today. I'm going to talk with one elite athlete about what it's like to come forward. It is not been easy or fun. The last five and a half years of being public with this story. But if it's on. God, if it stops one person, it's worth it. Bridie Farrell is a former speed skater. She was sexually abused by another skater when she was underage before we get to that conversation. I wanted to know what it is about elite sports and elite sports training. The makes it all seem ripe for abuse. Alexandra Starr is a reporter who's been covering all of this for NPR and Harper's magazine. And she says, a lot of it has to do with the lack of a single governing body for the Olympic clubs and universities and private gyms. The train these athletes. The US does not have a ministry of sport in England. They've a ministry of sport, they kind of supervise, you know, there's like an entity in charge exactly, and we don't have that. So what's weird right is that if a kid goes to a school a university that takes title nine money and everyone takes title nine money, they are required to report on. Sexual assault cases to report when a coach has engaged in unethical behavior, you know they're like regulations on them..
"metoo" Discussed on The Daily
"That it is belief that brought them to this place but it is also belief that brings them out it is the contradictions that parker see and the moments in time when the islamic state those not live up to its theological message that finally propels people like say to leave the australian good so right right as he's sitting with these doubts he says his buddy muneeb walks in when he was young lake metoo muneeb was indices training courses are until he was not a guy l on your he was really chill guy and i miss him so much right now and he feels comfortable enough to share with him the doubts that he's feeling what did you tell him only doesn't like new i i don't feel comfortable with killing her that tell him about my family history how i'm not that type of guy you know if i die after doing something like this will how if god no and it's just making me feel really sick and he'd show that he'd tell me about himself and everything's how he has his doubts he was more of a garly but i've really did leave everything behind so i can't go back and he was the one who gave me the idea that you could possibly go back good run from just leave i can't go back because he had problems but you will your family loves you that are that i could go back i have somewhere to go back to.
"metoo" Discussed on Allegedly NYC
"And she for to the metoo movement as the festering hemorrhoids on the ass of the entertainment industry and then onto tell her own encounter of charlie rose who she said greeted her a stranger slash colleague with a kiss square on the lips with just a hint of tongue like a turtle softly eating an apple core oh my god she said at the time i thought he was just the average gross old man but it turns out he was so much worse so no more tv shows for you so charlie rose was fired from cbs this morning and his pbs show last fall following allegations of sexual harassment from multiple women and he is allegedly trying to make a return how by developing a metoo series where he interviews men who have been sexually harassed by women really to me more and fairly really know it was called disclosure anyway really really are you going to do that but so grows that's so weird charlie rose like bad bad idea idea bad idea why don't you admit to what you did so we will like at least give you a not even respect but at least we see that you're human by admitting to your disgustingness and then maybe go go into a documentary about what you did and other people not just a he is such like you to chew him to him chew renegotiate men do go to they're no i'm not saying that they don't but this is what to do only allegedly also ryan murphy did the show who's doing.
"metoo" Discussed on Here's The Thing
"I'm afraid of revolution without a successful outcome right this is the thing that i find frustrating about times up in metoo and all this stuff this culture of victimology among women right that women have no agency they have no ability to control these situations or get out of them and i understand there's a power imbalance and you felt indebted walk out the door and like there's certain things where you're reading them some of it's generational i think the season sorry thing i'm reading and i'm like okay where's the bad part where's the bathroom like what like that's it's done and like i'd like an and let's focus less on z's and sorry ignore that because because men need to learn how i see this to my daughter who's twenty two i say that remember when she was fifteen member sitting to her down and i said to her remember i said it's not only that men will say anything to get you to do what they want then we'll say any yes to get you to do that right i said some of them are very good at it writes like from a very young age how do you teach girls to not feel disempowered and these relationships they have when they go into work and and with boys and with men and people at a higher level men they've been you know painfully silent on these issues and it's sort of women losing it over this stuff and scaring men to death and so it's how you actually move this conversation to something productive where you actually create a path for better gender representation in positions of power making a very striking kind of bold move that's going to have some residents for example i mean i'm off decisions off the top of my head the famous movie star is on the set of the film and she says i'm not gonna come to work tomorrow right until you have the head of the studio lunch with me i'm gonna shut down the film have bob so and so come to what are you guys going to do.
"metoo" Discussed on Stuff Mom Never Told You
"Think again has i am excited and motivated for this witchhunt because this is the kind of bs that we need to call out and people like that should not be able to get away with that as lindy west wrote in the new york times it is a witchhunt for witches and were hunting eu itself one point one point it's like oh i just masturbated in front of my hair dye macerata one of a coberger and thorpe against a wall try to kiss her and knock it anymore what is nazi germany is such an emotional women are overreacting oh my god also if you listen to our silicon valley episode you know that sexual harassment forward tech employees is a is a real problem and the earlier this week we saw blogger and former microsoft tech evangelist robert scoble get some pretty intense allegations from women saying that he groped them that he would attack them and he ended up sort of blaming alcoholism for those for that behavior sad rail but also not an excuse i mean i i don't alcoholism an addiction issues cause a whole host of things and he lives but i think he can be both like oh he has a serious mental health problem he needs help and you're going to have to actually like be responsible for your own actions anyway exactly actually just yesterday kevin spacey um it he came out that he had made advances to an actor who was just fourteen at the time and you know people then there's been rumors about him for the longest time that he's been part of a toxic predatory person and i think that it just goes to show you that it's not just to women it's a prevalent issue for all kinds of well i guess the gay community is up in arms today because his response it was sort of delaying excuse me i'm gay.
"metoo" Discussed on Stuff Mom Never Told You
"Where quote according to any rate crisis centres and sexual assault workers weren't even going so one thing to note that when she started this campaign she wasn't thinking that it will be a viral campaign or a hashtag that was short lived here today gone tomorrow but she says it she's really really happy to see what's happening now she says what's happening now is powerful and i salute it and the women who have disclosed but the power of using me to was always bad in the fact that it can be a conversation starter or a whole conversation but it was uh talking to us and so she really started this as a black woman talking to other underprivileged communities but then she writes of her website that she felt the need to take this conversation further and so while she started it for under privileged communities of color because that some she worked with she realised just how prevalent this laws and wanted to take that conversation on a more broader level i wonder if that we're losing something in mainstreaming it you know what i mean i wonder if we also need to bring a more specific lens to the conversation around women of color and in a we know that certain women get assault a lot more than other went in totally and i think you know we talked about this or episode for hpc use right black women are much less likely to report sexual assault sex crimes i think the conversation is great but i i'm mindful of who it leaves out outright so i think right now the conversation seems to be very focused on like white powerful alist within actually it was jane fonda who made this point on msnbc that so she says it's too bad that it's probably because so many of the women that were assaulted by harvey weinstein our famous in white and everybody knows them this has been going on for a long time to black women and other women of color it doesn't get out like the same and so i think that she is right in that it is an issue for other communities but that.
"metoo" Discussed on Stuff Mom Never Told You
"And i think i've heard from the men in my life that that was even more eye opening for them to see all of this meeting you for me it was like obviously obviously mean to i think when ellis milano after the weinstein story broke she called on people on twitter to use that hashtag me to if they'd experienced assault or harassment in the workplace and according to intercept the hashtag me too has been tweeted well over a million times in eighty five different country is basically milana was saying maybe if people knew how common this experience was we care a little bit more about it and that was certainly the experience that i felt but i also saw when everyone is using the hashtag i had this really weird mix of emotions i was experiencing sort of like obviously da like if you aren't aware that this is a widespread issue wherever you ben but also exhaustion at the need for us to again be sort of trotting out our war stories our wounds to be like look tell me i'm valid tell me this is a valid issue and i don't know i just i felt very conflicted over the popularity of the hashtag which by the way was initially a movement started by a black activist tirana burke who back in two thousand six on my space access started this me to campaign as a grassroots movement to sexual assault survivors in underprivileged communities.