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"merrimack store" Discussed on The Mary Mac Show | Grieving After a Loved One's Death

The Mary Mac Show | Grieving After a Loved One's Death

08:20 min | 6 months ago

"merrimack store" Discussed on The Mary Mac Show | Grieving After a Loved One's Death

"Morning good afternoon. Good evening wherever you find yourself in this entire world. I welcome you. So how are you doing. My friend my warrior. I certainly hope this week finds you much better. We'd like to welcome our newest listeners. From the countries of nepal denmark and ukraine. Thank you for listening to us and please share us with your friends. Who may be grieving. Also i'd also like to take a moment to acknowledge my grandmother's anniversary of her death. She died today. March fourteenth in nineteen ninety five at seven thirty pm. I was so grateful that i was able to be with her when she moved from here to heaven. I miss her. I think of her often. She was so precious to me. As i'm sure your loved ones were so precious to you. And i just wanna take knowledge. This day i'd also like to remind you to visit the merrimack store and find some beautiful products not just for yourself but to give the gift to others who agree leaving and you can go to my website. Mary mack dot info and find the store tab at the top so today i like to talk to you about how to live while grieving. Now that may sound a little funny little silly almost but over my thirty five years of helping the bereaved. There have been many lovely folks who i've met along the way who after they've experienced the death of a certain person in my life well they've decided to emotionally bury their lives also. So what do i mean by that. Will they've buried so many parts of themselves for so long because the person they love is no longer with them. They may have buried their emotions by putting on a mask and acting. Like all is okay. When it clearly isn't they may have buried their physical body by using food as their crutch they may have buried themselves inside the house and isolating by not connecting with other family and friends. They may have buried themselves in work by becoming a workaholic. Working many more hours than is necessary because they can't stand to be home alone or they can't bear the grief that all their other family members are having. It's just too painful to see all the sorrow each night when they arrive home they may have buried themselves in housework to keep themselves busy to not think about the death of their loved one. If they stay busy they believe they can override their pain. They might even numb themselves with alcohol and drugs so they won't feel their overwhelming loss. They might you shopping or retail as a way to add more stuff to their closets and decor as a way to themselves all the while building debt that they don't need or can't pay off from their credit cards. There is no doubt that when we have experienced the death of someone especially close to us we grieve deeply and for a long period of time our whole world is turned upside down and whether we anticipated their death as in the case of a long perhaps chronic illness or whether it was sudden we are still shocked that they died when they did and how they did and that death and the shock it produces throws us into a state where all we can think about is our emotional pain and when and if we will ever recover from it. So how do you hibernate from your grave. How do you escape. What do you do to sidestep all this pain. There is no doubt that we are entitled to feel always feel for as long as we feel it yet. When i hear of people who cannot function in life cannot work cannot go outside cannot visit with people or those who choose not to. I am left wondering why it is that they have decided to basically exit from the rest of their lives. Now you may not do this to the extreme. You may just choose to do some part of it but if you really truthful with yourself you might ask yourself what part of my life have curtailed either temporarily or permanently since my loved one died. And what has this cost me. I recently watched another biography on. The life of queen victoria of great britain who lived from eighteen thirty seven to nineteen one before the current queen elizabeth the second she was the longest reigning monarch in the world. She became queen at eighteen and married her beloved prince albert yang and had nine children. They had a wonderful love affair. While handling the duties of queen of the british empire which included among others some caribbean islands india and hong kong at the time but at the age of forty two albert succumbed to typhoid fever and died leaving queen victoria inconsolable. From that moment on she wore only black and secluded herself completely for fifteen years. It wasn't until she met mr brown. Who befriended her that. She started to come out again and live her life with more joy when we love so deeply we grieve so deeply and we have a hard time acknowledging that they are no longer here with us. Perhaps it was a miscarriage or several. Perhaps it was a stillbirth or an infant death. A young child staff a teen staff a young adults staff. No matter how old you are when you lose a child it makes no sense. Children aren't supposed to predeceased their parents and he leaves us confused shocked that this could happen to us. Oh yes you've heard of others who became bereaved parents. But you never thought it could happen to you. Maybe it was your best sibling. A brother or sister who you shared everything with you. Thought you'd grow all together and your families would raise children together and go to graduations and weddings christenings together. Perhaps it was your parent or parents. You knew they'd probably die before you but did you ever think it would be so soon. There was so much more living they needed to do. And now you're alone and have become the matriarch or patriarch of your own family. Maybe it was your love. Your boyfriend girlfriend fiancee. Maybe even your spouse you had made all sorts of plans to live your lives together all the vacations you plan. Perhaps the wedding. You're planning the life you wanted to live together deciding on where you live and what type of home you share. How many children..

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"merrimack store" Discussed on The Mary Mac Show | Grieving After a Loved One's Death

The Mary Mac Show | Grieving After a Loved One's Death

07:20 min | 8 months ago

"merrimack store" Discussed on The Mary Mac Show | Grieving After a Loved One's Death

"Good morning good afternoon. Good evening wherever you find yourself in this entire world. I welcome you. So how are you doing today. My friend my warrior. I certainly hope this week has been a little bit better for you. I wanted to take a moment to acknowledge our newest country. Romania someone in romania is enjoying our podcast now and we'd like to welcome them. So thank you for coming on board next. I'd like to express my thanks again for everyone. Who's coming to visit the merrimack store. I appreciate your time and attention and that you've taken some time to order some products and that means so much to me. I'd also like to tell you about this wonderful mug that we have a coffee mug or maybe even for t. It's one of my favorite products at the store. It has a beautiful purple heart on both sides with the smaller golden heart signifying the little children that the larger hearts are looking after we call it our heart of gold mug. It comes in both eleven and fifteen ounce and. I think you'll really love it. It's beautiful so. I hope you'll make a few orders for yourself and for others and thank you for listening to that so today. I wanted to take some time to talk about valentine's day. At first i wasn't aware the valentine's day was celebrated in so many places around the world in addition to the usa. I found out. The valentine's day is celebrated in canada or stralia denmark austria spain greece britain japan france scotland brazil germany iceland italy india china africa singapore chile and even in mexico. I think that's amazing. A lotta love to go around to everyone. Valentine's day symbolizes love and hope for the future. But sometimes we've lost someone special. It can be difficult to enjoy this day. And this is thoroughly understandable. It might be the loss of a boyfriend or girlfriend fiancee or other significant person in your life. Who has left you way too soon. Maybe you live together. Maybe not you spend so much time getting to know them and the loss of your sweetheart. Your honey is so deep. If you're grieving the death of a spouse whether you were with them for a few years or decades holidays especially valentine's day can be quite a nerve ing. You celebrated so many together and appreciated all the kindness care gifts and love that. This day symbolizes every day. Life after losing your spouse or sweetheart can be quite difficult but handling holidays. Such as valentine's day makes life even more difficult. We start to see the advertisements on television for roses and jewelry and heart shaped boxes of chocolates weeks before this day restaurants feature special dinners for two on that evening and when you were paired with someone you love chant sir. Good that these ads didn't affect you. But they do now the anticipation of a significant holiday or date such as the anniversary of your loved. One step or their birthday can bring many emotions that you might not have expected but please know that they are natural and normal most of us feel such intensity around holidays because we are sad that we can no longer enjoy the closeness experiences and the love we once shared with our honey. Some of us also are angry that they died before us others of us struggle with the unfairness to the point of cloistering ourselves and in effort to never be hurt again. But there comes a time when we consciously except that we are still alive and if we were supposed to go first then we would have and since this is the way things have turned out why not live life to the fullest. When that turn in thinking eventually arrives gloriously. Begin a guilt free new life whereby you take a long deep breath and with a loving kiss planted on their picture. You decide to consider new adventures. It doesn't mean you won't miss them. It doesn't mean you will not honor their memory for your children's sake. It only means that you are now beginning a new and perhaps a somewhat scary life where the unknown weights as you remember someone who is no longer with you today. Try to remember the special valentines days that you did get to share together. Try to remember the happiest moments instead of dwelling on their absence. Try to dig in and think of all the little things that you made special with them. The funny notes the chocolates. Maybe the gifts and definitely the laughter. Yes to may not be like other valentines days that you had in the past yet. You can try to do something special for yourself now. Could it be a lovely bubble bath a special meal a new pair of soft slippers. Hide coco and maybe a movie to move your mind toward hopeful things you wish to experience in create so in valentine's day find the right thing that will make you happy.

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"merrimack store" Discussed on The Mary Mac Show | Grieving After a Loved One's Death

The Mary Mac Show | Grieving After a Loved One's Death

07:07 min | 8 months ago

"merrimack store" Discussed on The Mary Mac Show | Grieving After a Loved One's Death

"Good morning good afternoon. Good evening wherever you find yourself in this entire world. I welcome you. So how are you doing. My friend my warrior. I certainly hope this week has brought you a little bit more peace. So i i wanted to thank you for all your support your notes of support for our new store the merrimack store. We've had listeners telling us how much they appreciate having something so special for themselves or as a gift for others who are grieving. We're especially excited to share that. We have t shirts not only for adults for children who are grieving and that was really important to me. And if you didn't know the mary. Max stores main intention is to help fund the foundation for grieving children which i established many years ago. I wanted something that would always plant dollars into the foundation for its work to benefit young people who have experienced the death of a loved one. So thank you for your purchases and your love and please share the merrimack store with all your family and friends. You can find it at mary. Mack dot info and look for the tab at the top that simply says store so today. In part two of disenfranchised grief. I like to continue with my thoughts on this subject to certain types of relationships. 'cause this complicated grief whether it's a boss perhaps who's married and who's having an affair with another married co worker. When he dies she simply can't openly proclaim her feelings for him and of course she needs to harbor her grief inside trying desperately to act as if nothing is wrong. How does she handle. This could also be a female. Mary co worker. Who dies and her married. Male colleague is great stricken or even one party was married and the other was not the point is that the survivor is heartbroken and needs desperately to act like the person who died which just another colleague to them even when a pet is killed. People make us feel. We're crazy for being so affected by their death. This was a for baby who made your life so wonderful. They were there for you every day when you woke up when you came home even when they slept with you they traveled with you and you loved walking them and suddenly they were taken from you. You're in shock. How could this happen and on top of it. Your family and friends really don't understand your pain and why you were so affected and can't stop sobbing. Sometimes you even endured the death of an adult sibling and people think it's normal for this to happen and you shouldn't be so sorrowful. why is that about. As i mentioned last week you might have endured the suicide death of a family member or friend. Maybe they overdosed on drugs or murder among others and you feel their judgment. Which stops you from sharing your feelings. The problem with suffering in silence is that you don't have the support when you need it. Most bottling up intense feelings often lead to a deep sense of resentment not to mention all the stress can take a toll on your body which can make you vulnerable to illness when you can express yourself openly. It's hard to move through the grieving process. Disenfranchise grave can produce anxiety shame depression insomnia misuse of drugs and alcohol and stomach pain. It can also cause problems with focusing on your work and everyday tasks and obligations emotional overwhelm and mood swings and problems in relationships. You might feel guilty for their relationship you shared and now you're feeling overwhelming grief. People may be wondering why you're having such reaction to their death. You might be walking on eggshells trying to show your pain if you can confide in others. Who already knew of your loss and pain then do so but if nine you can create rituals to help as well as these suggestions develop a box with all the cards gifts memorabilia that you share together to go back to later on. At least you'll know it's altogether in one place and safe. You might write a good bye letter which you can attached to a balloon or place in your special box. You might make a collage of photos that you shared and freenet hold a lovely memorial in a significant place for you plan to bush or a flowering plant or tree in their honor. Light a candle in a certain place in your home just for them. Visit the cemetery long after the funeral. You might also ask for what you need from others that you trust why you're feeling is natural and normal. All grief is messy. And sometimes in cases of disenfranchised grief it's even messier it's important to be wise whom you share this pain with so. Please be cautious. Let's look at a few other ways to help yourself if you want to attend a bereavement support group to express your pain. You can always find one several towns away where no one knows who.

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"merrimack store" Discussed on The Mary Mac Show | Grieving After a Loved One's Death

The Mary Mac Show | Grieving After a Loved One's Death

07:26 min | 8 months ago

"merrimack store" Discussed on The Mary Mac Show | Grieving After a Loved One's Death

"Good morning good afternoon. Good evening wherever you find yourself in this entire world. I welcome you. How are you doing my friend. My warrior. I certainly hope this week is better for you. I thought you'd like to know that we've added three more countries that have signed on to listen to our show. We now have audience in botswana in africa and nepal in asia. And we're very happy that you could join us. We're now up to fifty four countries and one of the things that i very much like for you to do for me is to go to my website. Mary mack dot info and sign up to be on my mailing list. You can do that in the left hand column. you'll see a book. Click on the book and add your name email and where you're from and this way will always be able to stay in touch unfortunately in the united states there's a censorship that's going on here and we never know who's next in line to lose their platform and i don't want that to happen to us so it would mean a lot if you go onto the site. Mary dot info sign up for my newsletter and this way will always be in touch through email. Thank you for that. I really appreciate it now. Another thing i'd like to share with you. If you're not aware is recently i started. An ecommerce store is called the merry macs store appropriately. And i wanted you to know about it. Excellent gift that you may either give to yourself or to someone that you love who is grieving. The death of a loved one and it's a beautiful heart of gold mug. That's what we call it and it has the words i remember underneath it so beautiful. And if you go to the merrimack store or you can just go to marry mac dot info and find the tab that says store at the top. It'll bring you there and you can look under the heart of gold collection and find the beautiful mug. I really hope you'll take the opportunity to pick one up or to send it on to someone who would love it. Thank you so today. I'd like to talk about disenfranchised grief now if you've never heard of that before let me explain what that is. It's grief that is not acknowledged by society and you might say to yourself. Well what exactly is that. And what it is is different types of grief for instance when you have a suicide death. Or maybe someone's overdosed. People make us feel less than because of the way the person died. Ore they make us feel less than because we can not ourselves to that particular person so as we move forward. I'll give you all different examples of that. In february of two thousand and nine. I was interviewed for oprah magazine by a lovely reporter. Who wrote an article about this and in this article. I explained exactly what disenfranchised grief was and how to help oneself. When you're going through that in your life there are times when we're mourning. The death of a loved one and people in society will make us feel and we ourselves may feel guilty because we think we should be grieving for the staff. Maybe it's not our place. Maybe they don't have the right label but regardless your grief for anyone who has died is valid. That person meant something to you and it is appropriate to mourn them in a way. That feels right to you. So let me give you an example of disenfranchised grief safe for instance. Your ex pows has passed away. Maybe you're married for twenty five years but because of infidelity your marriage died. He remarried and that woman. Maybe she was a friend of yours. Maybe she was someone you absolutely knew. And you couldn't believe that he would fall right back into a marriage with someone like that but soon after he married he developed cancer and now two years later he's passed away. So exactly what do you do. Of course you had feelings for him. Sometimes when you love someone most times it doesn't go away unless you've been severely hurt and you might even have children with that person and they are grieving for the death of their father. But you're really not sure how you're supposed to take this. So if this has happened to you some are congratulating you for his death because they saw all he put you through and you did feel back to a degree but you have children with him. How are you going to support them through the death of their father now. People just didn't understand why you actually retrieving so you lost the support system that you really could have used. Your friends. couldn't see why you would even want to mourn that death and so they pulled away from you when you needed their support. What happens if the person is engaged to you. You're not really the spouse or maybe you're living together you've been long-term daters or you're in a deeply committed relationship. You still felt a significant loss. You felt so misunderstood as if not having a label and official label. Such a spouse didn't give you the ability to grieve the right to grieve and the support. Wasn't.

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