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Fresh update on "menendez" discussed on BBC Newshour
"BBC World Service. We're coming to you live from London. I'm James Menendez. On the campaign trail. Joe Biden made some big promises to reform immigration laws and to undo some of the policies of his predecessor, Donald Trump, especially when it came to the treatment of Children crossing the border. Since coming to office. He has presided over a huge increase in the number of people, Children and adults crossing and trying to cross over from Mexico, and there have been greater efforts to reunite migrant Children with their families rather than separate them. But the BBC investigation has found that many of the Children arriving in the U. S unaccompanied is still being held in dreadful conditions while their cases are dealt with One camp housing more than 2000. Migrant Children in the text and desert near El Paso is said to be overcrowded, riddled with disease, including covid and lacking in basic medical care. That's according to staff working there. They also talk about incidences of rape and other sexual abuse between some stuff and the Children. Well, those staff spoke anonymously to our correspondent Hilary Anderson. And their words have been spoken by actors to protect their identities. Deep in the Chihuahuan.
As COVID-19 Crisis Ebbs, Some Seeking 9/11-Style Commission to Investigate Virus
"With lingering questions over the origin of the covert nineteen pandemic there's a push on Capitol Hill for a full blown investigation two senators one Democrat and one Republican have introduced a bill to establish a National Commission to investigate the corona virus outbreak that's killed more than six hundred thousand Americans senators Bob Menendez as in Susan Collins say the pandemic's death toll is more than two hundred times that of the nine eleven attacks but Congress has yet to establish that type of Blue Ribbon commission to investigate vulnerabilities in public health and issue guidance on how to better prepare for the future but the bill has an uncertain fate just like the failed attempt to create a commission to study the capital insurrection earlier this year Jackie Quinn Washington
Fresh update on "menendez" discussed on BBC Newshour
"Voters could rank up to five candidates and those selections will be taken into account in the coming weeks. Judge has struck down in New York City law that banned the NYPD and its officers from putting pressure on a person's torso while making an arrest. Manhattan Judge Lawrence Love said in his opinion that the measure was unconstitutionally vague. The law passed in the wake of the murder of George Floyd barred officers from restraining people in a matter that compresses the diaphragm. The ruling came in a lawsuit brought by police union to oppose the law. Officials from the city's Law department said. They're reviewing legal obligations. Overnight service on the stand. Diner Ferry will return to operating every half hour on August 16th Staten Island Borough President Jimmy Otto says that vital to helping residents We can't have a recovery for all without a fair, a Staten Island ferry that serves essential workers and other folks who work outside the 9 to 5 schedule In March of last year, the ferry began operating hourly service overnight due to dramatic declines in ridership. A B C and D subway trains delayed this morning delays on the L I Ars Babylon, Oyster Bay and Port Jefferson branches 59 this morning and cool going up to 78. Hello and welcome to news from the BBC World Service. We're coming to you live from London. I'm James Menendez. On the campaign trail. Joe Biden made some big promises to reform immigration laws and to undo some of the policies of his predecessor, Donald Trump, especially when it came to the treatment of Children crossing the border. Since coming to office. He has presided over a huge increase in the number of people, Children and adults crossing and trying to cross over from Mexico. And there have been greater efforts to reunite migrant Children with their families rather than separate them. But a BBC investigation has found that many of those Children arriving in the U. S and accompanied Still being held in dreadful conditions while their cases are dealt with one camp housing more than 2000 migrant Children in the Texan desert near El Paso is said to be overcrowded, riddled with disease, including covid and lacking in basic medical care. That's according to staff working there. They also talk about incidences of rape. Another sexual abuse between some stuff and the Children. Well, the staff spoke anonymously to our correspondent Hilary Anderson, and their words have been spoken by actors to protect their identity. Deep in the Chihuahuan Desert is a tented camp holding thousands of migrant Children. Conditions have alarmed some employees. It is heartbreaking to see them very plainly suffering. We heard one of the contractors raped a girl at night. Well, I'm standing basically out in the middle of a desert. It is over 40 degrees here. It's searing this heat. It's very sandy. The wind is blowing and in the distance, I can see the tents that the Children are being held in their huge some of them hold. Up to 1000 kids, and these are very, very difficult living conditions because of the Arid, hot.
Hong Kong Media Mogul Sentenced to Another 14 Months for Pro-Democracy Rallies
"This is James Menendez with news that life from the BBC Let's head to Hong Kong now where the media tycoon Jimmy Lai has been sentenced to an additional six month jail term for his role in an unauthorized gathering in October, 2019 at the height of the pro democracy
Fresh update on "menendez" discussed on BBC Newshour
"Russia says one of its patrol vessels has fired warning shots at a British destroyer off the coast of Crimea in the Black Sea. Russia considers the waters of the peninsula which is an extreme Ukraine in 2014 to be its territorial waters. Jonathan Bill is on board the Royal Navy destroyer in the Black Sea. This was a deliberate move by the wrong navy warship. Defender. But while it was carrying out this How's that? That is I'm not Russian aircraft crossing the horseshit here in the Black Sea. They've been at times within 20 aircraft of the warship, and indeed we have heard shots fired. We believe they were out of range. The patron. Mr Friend continued its journey, and now it is back in international waters. But we're still being as you can hear it does by Russian jets. They have warned the ship and not to go into Crimean territorial waters. Training that they are Russian waters. Of course, Russia and inscribed Yeah. But the warship went through that trends report that international recognized trade route and is now what it's where there's a to Georgia. Health workers in Ethiopia say dozens of people have been killed in an airstrike on a market in the northern Tigre region. One report said more than 80 civilians had died. Mary Harper reports, a doctor said. Health workers at the scene said more than 80 people have been killed when the plane bombed the busy market into Google town. People are still searching through the wreckage for more dead and wounded. Soldiers are reported to have blocked a convoy of ambulances from reaching the site of the attack. Some of the injured have been taken along rough roads to the regional capital medically, where doctors say they're treating dozens of people. The Ethiopian military denies it bombed civilians, saying it carried out the strikes to neutralize what it described as terrorists. Mary Harper reporting Hong Kong's leading pro democracy newspaper. Apple Daily has confirmed that its last edition will be published on Thursday. The 26 year old paper has been critical of the Communist Party leadership. Danny Vincent reports in Hong Kong. The pro democracy newspaper had planned to publish its final edition later in the week. But the morning arrest of one of its lead writers spot new fears that the paper would be raided once more by the police. The controversial tabloid has run for 26 years, Hong Kong has seen more than 100 National Security law arrests since the law was introduced a year ago. 12 of those arrests are related to Apple Daily. Its owner, Jimmy Lai, was one of the first activist detained under the new law. Danny Vincent. This is Chris Barrow with the latest world News from the BBC. Officials in Pakistan say At least three people have been killed in a bomb attack in a residential area of Lahore, 14. Others were wounded, including several police officers. They were manning a checkpoints next to the house of Hafeez Sayeed, the jailed founder of the militant group Lashkar e Taiba. This police spokesman said. It was not immediately clear whether the explosives were remotely detonated or if it was a suicide attack. Nine Catalan separatists have been released from jails in Spain after being conditionally pardoned by the government in Madrid. They were sentenced to long prison terms for sedition for their role in an unauthorized and ultimately unsuccessful bid for independence in 2017. From Madrid. His guy Hedge Co. The first prisoner to be released was karma for Cadel, the former speaker of the Catalan parliament who had been serving a sentence of 11.5 years. The other eight were released soon after some of them holding up a banner that said Freedom for Catalonia. The government of Socialist Pedro Sanchez has argued that the pardons will help calm tensions surrounding the issue of Catalan independence. And open a new era of negotiations. However, the political opposition has fiercely attacked the pardons, warning they will encourage the break up of Spain. Iranian state television says a sabotage attempts on a building belonging to the Atomic Energy Agency has been foiled. It said no casualties or damage have been reported and investigation was underway. There have been a number of attacks on nuclear sites in Iran Over the past year. Iran has accused Israel of being behind some of them. The organizers of the Tokyo Olympics have said they will have to come up with creative ways to generate a party atmosphere for Spectators After unveiling tough new covid restrictions, alcohol hugs and cheering have all been banned along with talking loudly. The Tokyo 2020 president told reporters that Spectators could feel joy in their hearts. BBC news. Hello and welcome to news from the BBC World Service. We're coming to you live from London. I'm James Menendez. On the campaign trail. Joe Biden made some big promises to reform immigration laws and to undo some of the policies of his predecessor, Donald Trump, especially when it came to the treatment of Children crossing the border. Since coming to office. He's presided over a huge increase in the number of people, Children and adults crossing and trying to cross over from Mexico, and there have been greater efforts to reunite migrant Children with their families rather than separate them. But the BBC investigation has found that many of those Children arriving in the U. S and accompanied Still being held in dreadful conditions while their cases are dealt with one camp housing more than 2000 migrant Children in the Texan desert near El Paso is said to be overcrowded, riddled with disease, including covid and lacking in basic medical care. That's according to staff working there. They also talk about incidences of rape. Another sexual abuse between some stuff and the Children. Well, they staff spoke anonymously to our correspondent Hilary Anderson, and their words have been spoken by actors to protect their identity. Deep in the Chihuahuan Desert is a tented camp holding thousands of migrant Children. Conditions have alarmed some employees..
Belarus 'Diverts Ryanair Flight to Arrest Journalist', Opposition Says
"Authorities scrambled a fighter jet and flagged what turned out to be a full spam alert to force orion airplane to land on sunday and then detained opposition minded journalist who was on board during condemnation from europe and the united states in what was described by some e you leaders as a hijacking. The passenger plane flying from athens to lithuania were suddenly diverted to minsk the capital of belarus escorted there by a soviet era. Mig twenty nine fighter jet on its landing. authorities journalists roman protas savage into custody productivity had his head in his hands and was shaking when he realizes the flight was headed for minsk. Lithuania's delfi news outlet said quoting passenger later as lead away. According to the report he remarked all the death penalty here. The twenty six year old journalist worked for poland based online new service nexta which will cost of mass protests against belarussian president alexander lukashenko last year via the telegram messenger app at a time when it was hard for foreign media to do so pro to seven who now works for different telegram channel could mover is wanted in belarus on extremism charges and stands accused of organizing mass riots and of inciting social hatred allegations. He denies data showed. The plane was diverted just two minutes before. It was due to cross into lithuanian espace. Us foreign relations committee chairman. Bob menendez issued a statement with the heads of seven european parliamentary foreign affairs panels denouncing the force landing as an act of piracy. They called for a ban. On all overflights of belarus including to and from the country and for nato and easy you states to impose sanctions and suspend better russa's ability to use interpol poll. The us demanded a full investigation of an action. They said endangered the lives of the passengers including us citizens
Fresh update on "menendez" discussed on Steve Trevelise
"News starts now. It's 10 o'clock. I'm Natalie Migliore topping our report this hour. There's growing concern about the Delta variant first discovered in India at the end of last year, State Health Commissioner Judy Person, Kelly says it's 40 to 60% more transmissible and Children and young people seem to be spreading it. However, the vaccines authorized for use in the United States have been reported to be effective against the Delta variant as well as other variants. Health experts predict the delta variant could become the dominant covid strain in Jersey and the U. S. By next month, Jersey U. S. Senator Bob Menendez is renewing his push for a commission to look at the nation's response to the pandemic. He wants them to come up with recommendations for future wide scale health emergencies. State police are looking for whoever shot a man in the hand Sunday afternoon he was driving his Chevy Tahoe north found in Camden County. When multiple shots were fired at him from a dark colored sedan. The victim, drove himself to the hospital and met with cops there. A new bankrate dot com report finds 43% of homeowners have at least one regret about buying their current home. And that top ownership regret is maintenance and other hidden costs being more expensive than expected. Ken came in president of Marc Etienne Asset Management in Hamilton says it's a good idea to set aside an extra five or $10,000 for unexpected items that you're going to want to deal with whether that's buying garden hoses for the front or a ladder for insight to reach a lightbulb. There's always going to be expensive that you never figured that you're going to want to have some dry powder for. He also says buying the house and filling it are two different things. If you don't live in Toms River, you'll be forced to dip further into your wallet to go to snug Harbor.
A highlight from S6 E10 - Real Conversations on Mental Health (w/ Special Guest: Patricia Perkins)
"May is mental health awareness month. And i felt it only right to release an episode focusing on the topic of mental health. Now if you've listened to the podcast for any length of time you've no doubt heard me talk about my own struggles with ptsd depression and mon experiences. Not all that uncommon in the veteran community. What you don't often hear though is from the veteran's spouse and on today's episode. I get to sit down with my wife patricia. As she shares the story of her own emotional journey with mental health diagnoses medications. Hospital stays and a whole lot more. This is the we serve now. What podcast where. I do my best to answer the questions. Veterans and their families are already asking so you can make your post military life your best life by way of introduction my name is aaron perkins i am a us army combat veteran daddy to amazing kiddos. Host of this podcast. If you hadn't guessed. And i am joined today by my beautiful bride patricia. Welcome to the show thank you. I'm so glad to be here excited to talk about a subject that i'm passionate about. Yeah absolutely absolutely well. Great to have you here. I'm i'm incredibly happy that you agreed to be on the show. Usually it is me saying. Hey i'm going to be recording tonight. So if you you and the kids can kind of keep it down a little bit and but really really grateful that you here today. So today was one of many days where you're going through this. I don't know call procedure or treatment treatment. Okay so so. Obviously i went with you. Today is able to accompany you to that treatment and it specifically four depression right and so start with today. Let's start with today in a kind of what happened today. And what the treatment is. And let's start there. Sure okay so. The treatment is called. Tm s it means trans cranial magnetic stimulation menendez Treatment that oddly. Enough stimulates your brain. It's post what is supposed to do is to help the neurotransmitters talk to each other better and it is usually reserved for someone who's tried a few different types of medication for depression but it also helps with like anxiety. Ocd and sometimes even physical pain. Okay so so so. This is not a it. Sounds like it's a noninvasive. It's not a surgery type of thing so basically the way they explain it. It's like electromagnetic therapy. Where like in the old days where they would maybe cut. Open your head and maybe electric your brain things like that but this obviously they're not doing that. You can sit down in this chair. It's kind of like the big dentist chair. They strap you all in and they put this big magnet next to your head in a certain spot at a certain level. It's already been determined by your doctor and it made me last twenty minutes. And then you're you're on your way okay. So is that it's not obviously. I know this right before listeners. This is not like a one time thing. This is one of how many treatments you have to get. Okay so today was off my fourth treatment and i think if i did the math right i have at least thirty three more to go. So it's over a nine week period and because of where we live. I have to drive basically an hour and a half to get there. And then i'm there for fifteen to twenty minutes in the drive an hour and a half and and yeah i i definitely know that. That part in itself is frustrating. The drive so let's go back a little bit now so you're having this it might not be invasive but stewart pretty extreme treatment of kind of remapping your brain right yes. It's it's had some side effects already some some anger some tiredness Brain fog lightheadedness. The way the only way. I can explain it. It's like there's a big garden with a huge gate and there's all these locks and each treatment seems to slowly work open a new lock and then hopefully by the end all the locks will be open and king come open and i can be free of depression anxiety. I don't know if that's going to happen. I have faith that it can happen so hopefully it does happen. You me both you both so so take us back a little bit. How did you get to this point. You know obviously you. Have you know some sort of depression or anxiety or whatever take us back to diagnoses and that sort of thing so i i got diagnosed probably sixteen years ago like actual clinical diagnosis of major depressive disorder and house have severe anxiety. I have d. c. Ptsd so what is so ptsd. I know what is cd. Basically childhood post traumatic stress disorder. And then i have. Ocd okay so so ptsd. Veteran community intimately familiar with cps d c p s de. It is then the so. How did that come about. I mean this this is like you know really getting into the nitty gritty of it a little bit but i had parent you know. I had parents that. They weren't believers not that that makes you any less of a good parent but they were involved with things that they shouldn't have been involved with and they didn't have a good relationship with one another so that meant a very rocky relationship with their children and so without getting into too much and making people uncomfortable. This is a really bad childhood really bad and even in my teenage years there was some other stuff that was really bad. So just you know things that people don't really think about as being post traumatic stress disorder. I've heard other people say. How can you even have that. You weren't a soldier. Well that's not reserved for soldiers or servicemen period. Post traumatic stress can happen after a car accident after your home gets broken into after a traumatic. Any traumatic experience you can. Pdf st right right so so with depression. You were diagnosed. She said sixteen years ago crack and so did the anxiety diagnosis. Come along with that or out of that will work. It was shortly after. I think they at i thought maybe it was just really bad depression and they realized that it was both mint so they started treatment to different treatments who different medications and over the years between the two just the depression and anxiety. I know i've had over sixteen or seventeen medications and sixteen or seventeen. I didn't know there were that many others time for i mean i know. There's a lot of medications out there right. But most i know i i'm gonna go out on a limb here and say most people when they're struggling with anxiety depression or even if they do have a legitimate diagnosis of anxiety. Depression or both. It's okay let me go get this. Let me go try it. You know and then if that doesn't work maybe they go try something else but sixteen or seventeen that that just sounds like an extreme number is sensitive to medications and so what may work for a lot of people. Just doesn't seem to work for me. Or i ended up being allergic to it but i will say that i did. This test called a g. e. n. e. s. t. and it's a dna test and that's something that you're psychiatrists can do for you. There is a cost involved but it will tell you which medications and you know. They're all different classes. Work for your dna type so you have a red section and you should stay away from those. You have a yellow section. That may help. And then you have. A green section is more likely to help with your dna type so that can help a lot of people. Stay away from having to try sixteen or seventeen different medications. Sure sure that that's a really good point. And obviously you. You didn't take that 'til later. Right actually took it last year. Yeah so the break i. I wish i could have taken ten years ago. But i don't think even knew about it and that's another thing i would say. Is you know educate yourself. Don't wait on your doctors to find all the resolutions for you. Like feel free to look and research and bring it up to your doctor. you know. it's a good point. So medication is just one side of the depression anxiety. Ptsd just one side of it before the medication happens. There's something that either. Your doctors realize your families realize or you personally realize something different in me. Something is not working as it's supposed to or it's manifesting in in a certain way and i know that when it comes to ptsd specifically it manifests itself in a lot of different ways. They can manifest itself in anger in inability to focus and chronic pain. In a guilt it can manifest itself in different ways. So let's focus on the. Let's say let's. Let's go with depression right the major depressive disorder. How did that or does that manifest itself in your life. The first time. I realized that i might have an issue with. Depression was actually. I had a really bad episode. After i had caitlin so caitlyn's daughter. Sorry caitlyn's her daughter. Yeah she's fourteen now. After i had her. I was sitting just watching tv. And she was sitting there beside me and her little old bouncy seat. And i actually started having these really dark feelings kind of like oppression and actually that coincided with an anxiety attack as well and actually got rushed to the hospital because they thought i was having a pulmonary. Embolism so they thought that. I had blood clots. I was about to die. You know there was but it was a mixture of depressive episode and anxiety attack which i had never felt before and that really scared me and the doctors were able to put me on medication to help with that. It did not stop it but it did help. Sure sure so what what happens next. You know you're you're on this medication. It's helping look what happens. Is there a point at which you realize. That medication isn't working or isn't working as well as it should. Yeah most doctors will tell you you know. Give it two or three weeks to really get in your system if you don't see any changes or if you see getting worse than you're to want to let us know so that we can adjust or change that medication and over the years. That has happened so often. That i i got to this place and i'll say that it's okay to do this if you need to. Own your closet by yourself and cry for a little while. 'cause you're just overwhelmed and nothing seems to be working and you want so badly to be quote unquote normal. Go have cry. Go eat ice cream or chocolate or something. I don't even care. It's okay to do those things. But i got to this place where i was like. None of this is working. I need something completely different. And i think that's when. I did the insight site testing because most of the medications that i had been put on. Were in my red list more in the list that was for your dna. These are not going to work for you. Oh wow so going through this process and the truth is i didn't even realize this at the time we've been married for fifteen plus years and i knew that kept having different medications tried and you like oh. This is not working but we had no idea why. It's not working until this test. You didn't says hey this might actually work for you Yeah that's that stuff okay. So what about the anxiety piece you know. It started with an executive attack How does that manifest itself or did it manifest itself in your life. So i have an odd anxiety like i have panic. Attacks panic attacks but generally speaking. I'm just anxious and it's like my anxiety and my ocd. Like to just hold hands and frolic through my brain and so what. I'm feeling extremely anxious. I have to clean everything so it's kind of like since i can't control my emotions i can't control what's going on in the world. My brain has to find something that can control and the cleanliness in my house. I can control thankfully because you and the kids are pretty neat people. But i have to do have to be able to do something. Control something to calm down. If i don't do that ended up in the closet crying eating chocolate well like you said. That's okay if you have to do. It's not not not every day but so talked about the depression. Talk about the anxiety. Ptsd how does that manifest itself in your life on a day-to-day basis weekly basis. How how often what does it feel like said the. Ptsd is like a whole different monster. That lives somewhere inside of my person. And the worst episodes i have with. Ptsd is when my children especially caitlyn our daughter when she reaches those age those ages where you've espn we. We had talked about this a little bit today. As we're preparing for the podcast but it was as a recall kind of like the same ages or proxy ages where something traumatic happened in your own childhood right so so then. My brain is like imagine that happening to kaitlin. Imagine that having to our son. Christopher and then it's like this overwhelming like it's not a mama bear feeling is a mama dragon. And it's like i will. I will died to protect but at the same time. It's then there's this the the little girl in me is like. How could my mom have let that happen. How could my dad have let that happen. Where was the the parental. where were they. Why did these things even happened. That i have this trauma but we're all human doing the best. We can now. That i'm older i can. I can look at my pass without being completely angry with my parents because they were just doing their best as well. Sure sure so. We're won't take a break real quick but coming up after the break and now you have a few things that you want to share with our listeners. More as encouragement and continuing the story obviously but also practical steps. Stay with us. Many americans today don't realize the stress and anxiety. They feel is likely because of their finances. According to bankrate.com more than six out of ten people couldn't cover a one thousand dollar emergency seven out of ten. Don't budget regularly. An eight out of ten are living paycheck to paycheck to these describe you. Are you ready to live like others. Can't too many make the mistake of budgeting their lifestyle instead of budgeting their basic needs. I my friend. Marco over at mc business lab has a simple process to automate the basic things. You need to live and then never looking at one of those bills again. Head over to live like others can't dot com to get on the wait list for his own line course to learn this automation skill. That will significantly reduce your stress anxiety. And if you think one on one attention could be the way for you. You can also schedule your free consultation with marco once again that's live like others can't dot com get on the path to your dream life today. Alright so here we are back. Second half of the show here with my wife patricia talking about mental health. And it's okay. She's looking at me right now. She's like oh just made a noise like it's okay. Well we'll cleared up. It's fine and so so anyway so here talking to my wife patricia about mental health and about her own challenges and struggles with it. And so obviously there's no one in your corner so to speak. I mean there's the stigma associated with it but there's also no one kind of coaching. You through this of like okay. Well if this isn't working here's what you do right not currently. I've had counselors in the past. You know and they've we've tried to work through things. I have been the hospital couple of times. And i think there's a lot of people who mean well but it doesn't mean it's going to work for you and so i feel it's important that people understand that if you do have a mental illness. It's okay to research an advocate for yourself. You don't have to wait on a doctor or counselor or someone who you feel like is more intelligent or just because they have letters after their name that they know you better than you do feel free. No not feel free. Please speak for yourself. that's huge. That is so huge. And i think that advocating for yourself is such a critical element of getting the help you need. Because when i think of veterans who are struggling right. You know whether whether it's a physical health or mental health concern. They know themselves like better than anyone else knows them and so when they go to the doctor when i as a veteran go to the doctor i have an obligation to myself right to be as honest and as really a as direct as i can like look. This is the problem. This is how. I'm feeling. I'm here for you to help me fix it right. But then there's the stigma especially in the military community. Where if something isn't working right in your brain you're not working right. Oh absolutely that is the stigma is is really and i think the worst thing about mental health diagnoses today at least in america. If not all over the world it absolutely needs to be normalized that your your brain is an oregon and just like your heart and all your heart muscle but you could knees your liver. If any of those things were failing if they weren't working like they were supposed to have so many people around you. Hey what can i do for you. What can i do for your family. Could i get my blood tested to see if i could be donor. How in the world could make your life better but you hear someone is in a three month depressive episode and they can't even get out of bed. I don't see people lining up with casseroles. I don't know. I don't see that happening. You know if you have to leave an event because you had an anxiety attack there's whispers. There's not help this is strong. It is so strong. And there's a you know within the military there is a fear and i will say rightly so that if you say hey i have this particular mental condition it can potentially impact your career and in the civilian world because well as a mom i if another mom i don't know maybe somebody's going to hear this and maybe they don't want their kids hanging out but as a mom you think. Oh can this person actually take care of my kid. While i'm away or is everything issue going to be too overwhelmed. Is she going to have some kind of attack. That i don okay. If you know somebody like that. Just educate yourself right and know that that person wouldn't take on that responsibility if they didn't feel they could handle it. Yeah absolutely and you know. That's a critical point to is. There is so much misinformation out there about mental health. And you know here's the thing. Hollywood doesn't help and i'm not going to rant. I'm not. I'm not trying to say like oh. Don't make movies about people with mental conditions. You know but there is this you know. The joker movie that just came out with a joaquin phoenix. That's joker yeah. Okay so you know. He obviously has a mental health problem. It looks like severe depression and he turns out to be this mass murderer. Right and so people associate edison. He's bipolar but go ahead. Fair enough fair enough so people associate those mental health conditions with something so extreme that they saw on a screen or read an article. now there are extreme cases. it's true. I mean you can't just say that that. No one is that bad off but there are people that bad off that they're not usually the people who look like they're doing okay. There those the people who are really struggling there are more signs right than than you just meeting them. Like if i just walked up to you and said hi. My name's patricia. Perkin tie you doing. You would never think i had five mental disorders right. You know someone. who's that far gone. You know they're going to be showing signs. Oh yeah absolutely for sure for sure and you know the thing is when it comes to mental health when it comes to you know having a a severe enough level of mental health challenges concerns whatever. You wanna call them. If you don't have an official diagnosis right there are so many. I guess levels is probably the best way to put it of of severity. Because you know like saying. Hey i'm feeling depressed for a couple of weeks is a far cry from major depressive disorder right okay. Yeah may i believe probably should have been a little more research but it would be depressed for at least six months before. It is a clinical diagnosis. And so there's going to be events someone dies. A friend moves away. You have to switch jobs then you could go through a you know a few days or a week of feeling depressed. That's normal. yeah exactly. That's the normal depression. That's not the go quick. It'll medication so you can feel better. That's right it's just a normal life happens and you get down and i've even had people say to me. Well you know you have a lot of stuff. You're very blessed. You have a nice home. You have a great husband. Smart kids you you you have you have you have you have. That has nothing to do. With what my brain is doing. I have the intelligence to know that. I a blessed person a blessed individual but that does not mean that my brain is going to let me enjoy all the time. Yeah that's so true. That is so true. And so i just saw an article earlier today from cnbc said fifty one percent of young americans are struggling with mental health. Fifty one percent. I can believe and i think a lot of that if i can just put in. My personal opinion is social media. I'm sure you constantly see people who are throwing up. There highlight reels on instagram. And some of them still on facebook and then those who are throwing out things on twitter but there you're not getting their whole life you don't read what's actually going on. I mean if people looked at my facebook they would see highlights. Because i want to show the good. I don't want to show the days. I don't wanna get out bed. Showed the days where. I'm like begrudgingly. Driving my kids to school because i have to. I'm an adult to do these things. You don't see those things and especially the generation under us. They're so obsessed with social media that they think that's real life. I mean i have a good life. But it's not insta worthy like everything. I do isn't gonna be popping up on instagram. Because it's not real life right. That's just advertising then like you said it's just highlights right. Yeah and so. I want to go back to the stigma piece for just a minute. Because that's a piece that i'm really passionate about and you know in the military you know being healthy being fit to fight. That's part of the job if you're broken your broken leg unit can't use you to go to war right. You have to get that leg fixed. I if you're broken mentally your unit may not be able to use you to go to war because like there's something wrong with you and like the. The thing is with the stigma. It's okay in you know outside of the military that things that your body or your brain is not working like it's supposed to and i've heard so many veterans so min- countless veterans really be rating their brothers and sisters in arms when they talk about having. Ptsd like your combat. Experience was different than mine. Therefore you don't have ptsd or you can't be depressed or you can't be anxious like you're just whining because you want to get paid from the va. You want the va to take care of you. That's ridiculous it. It really is our veterans out there who just looking for that that extra little bit of money out a month sure. There are but by and large the majority of veterans who who are having the courage to stand up and say. Hey i got something wrong in my brain. It's not working like supposed to. They should be applauded and say you know what that is. Surreal courage that you having right now to go and say i need help. Yes it takes a ton of courage and just in time out of being a military spouse and then my time out of it and interacting with veterans and even people who are still currently serving. They they have these but they don't even know how to say it out loud. They will become an alcoholic. But there's nothing wrong with me. I had no problem with war. Or when they get out of the military you know they get hooked on drugs. Oh in the military didn't affect me very much. I'll have i don't have any. Ptsd that that crazy stuff you know or all of a sudden. They're wife isn't good enough. Their kids aren't good enough and they want to be away from them at all times. They don't want that interaction but they say they're fine because they're afraid to say i might be broken inside and might need some help. So instead of having the courage to say that they are literally ruining their lives in other ways right what alcohol would drugs with breaking up their homes with neglecting their responsibilities. That's may there's so much i want to. I want to fix it right. I want to fix the stigma. Problem wanted but there is no easy way to do it. But i think what we're doing right here is having the conversation for the world to hear that. Look it's not just veterans. It's not just veteran spouses. It's according to that article. Fifty one percent of young americans who are struggling with some sort of mental health condition right regardless of what title you go by better in active duty man woman boy girl. Mental health is no respecter of persons. I'm sorry mental illness right. No you're right and mental health needs. You know it doesn't matter who you are. What are what color you are just like any like. I said any other body part in any other thing. That may need attention. Don't be afraid to give it that attention. Don't be afraid to speak up and speak out. Don't let the stigma hold down. Yeah for sure so from our conversation today. I know we're running up on time. So we're gonna wind this down and you know. Obviously you and. I have talked about this a lot and me in the future. I'm sure we will get you back on the show and talk and talk about about this and how fixing your life especially how the team s treatment is grain because he you know. I'm not afraid to talk about right. My inner demons especially can help somebody else. I feel like i feel like god puts us through situation so that we can help other people and if we can't take the bad and turn it around and help someone than what's it for and i have to have faith that it's it's to help others. Sure sure so. We have alluded to these three big takeaways right like the big takeaways from this episode. We've alluded to them throughout the episode. We've talked about them. We've even said them but remind us remind listeners. What those big three takeaways are from listening to this. I would say the first one is to advocate for yourself like i said. Don't be to research. Don't be afraid to figure out what might work for you. Ask for the jewish site testing. Ask for even if you've been on medication for a long time talking about the s you know there are other ways to go about it than just constantly saying in that cycle of pill after pill after pill with no results there. There is light at the end of the tunnel. So don't be afraid to say. Hey i think this might help me. What do you think. Don't wait on them. The second one i would say is. Don't let the stigma prevent you from seeking help Let's there is nothing wrong with you. If you have mental illness nothing like innately wrong review. You are just a person who is struggling and number three. I would say no that you are not alone like you were saying that article fifty one percent of young americans. This isn't even us. The older americans during these are young americans who were struggling. You're not alone. find group. fine fine started group. It right to you know. Don't don't stay alone either. When you isolate yourself things. Things often get worse so definitely seek out others who may have similar problems going on that you can talk through to to have some sort of accountability with and accountability is huge. It is huge and those are the three big ones. But i wanted to add one more. And it's something that i've done personally and it has to do with what i was talking about with social media and it's so funny because our pastors just said at this sunday delete block. You do not have to look at sally. Suzy sampson's and wish it was yours. Delete her blocking her. If if watching her highlight reel is taking your joy. Delete her if mr man who has it all together all the money all the muscles and the most beautiful wife you've ever seen if that stealing your joy delete him bought him because you need to focus on you and yours is so good. That is so so good so patricia. It is been an amazing conversation with you. I wanna thank you personally. Thank you for your courage to come on the show and talk about not just health in general but your own mental health your own struggles with the diagnoses. You know you've had hospital stays as a result had so many things going your life and so thank you so much for talking about this important topic with us you know. We all have a lot of questions but the most important question you can ask yourself is. This have accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith in jesus christ and before we go one thing. Patricia wanted me to point out was earlier. she referenced. cpt. St and she called it childhood. Ptsd it is actually complex. Ptsd would she informed me of later in complex. Ptsd is brought about from long term trauma that might be physical emotional sexual abuse own going childhood neglect things like that. It could even be a prisoner of war type of situation that brings about complex. Ptsd so just clarification. There that that was what she was referencing in the second. Half of the episode. You may have heard probably did hear a lot of clicking in the background while that clicking was my burien husky running around on a hardwood floor and unfortunately we can't edit that out he just kind of made a cameo appearance on the podcast so that dog is the way i deal with my ptsd and depression having a pet. It just helps a lot so anyway. Thank you so much for listening. It has been a joy sharing our hearts with you today. Be sure to check us out on social media. We at facebook at courage to fight again. Instagram also occurred to fight again and twitter at courage again and check us out on our website at courage to fight again dot com a whole lot. More resources there well until next time. Thanks for listening. We served now. What is a production of courage to fight again.
MEL Magazine to Stop Publishing After Mass Layoffs From Owner Dollar Shave Club
"The main story which is focused on is the fact that Mal magazine has been funded by ohad rather been funded by dollarshaveclub since its launch in twenty fifteen butts on the twenty or god. When was it now. The announced that she was going to an end turn his sixth of much rights as was result. Tweet wasn't a tweet was was that twenty. Three staff has been left without jobs. So what does this mean. Does this anything about the wind branded content model or is this just a blip in terms of both malam magazine. And how we're gonna fill magazines. What is fundament. What's going here is fundamental to the brand to the brenda content model because the core and not from editor in chief. Just show mayer. He says let me put it this way. I don't think as aggregrate to have a single source of funding. Every every day of the company was praying sustainable. For me we part of the core dollarshaveclub business announce excite with a point. That's why you know. The print magazines that the matches company stopped all of these things. They're the male ceos whose funding will there. They're marketing channel effectively. And you know we've seen a particular last year we've seen so many marketing channels and platforms just kind of get excised from plans so to the point. That magazine was integral to dull shaped walls as a kind of you know obscure marketing channel. The i i didn't notice soon as it turns out. They didn't actually have the opportunity they weren't given the opportunity to fulfil they could have done it monetization cause remember thinking. Pt spoke to josh a couple months ago. And i remember listening to entering. Just thinking does a lot that they could be doing. Hasn't monetization head. The dollar shave dancing to be interested in pushing and that's great menendez's perspective and they got the chance to develop really restore voice without any financial pressure but the end of the let don't shape never gave the chance to really mayton self-sustainable
"menendez" Discussed on 20/20
"Coal from a big time producer with that one big lucky break a lot of different scenarios happening without production to conduct. It was a voice that it strong along so many dreams and looking for someone who can work with a voice impersonating female power players in hollywood but investigators said it actually belong to a man. I was obviously completely gobsmacked. Just the first of many surprises i had heard recordings no point that i ever think that it was a man i i really did believe that it was a female. An elaborate stranger than fiction scandal unraveling with more plot twists that thriller. I was barely able to keep track of it myself in a spreadsheet when a little known screenwriter enter the picture. The doubts started connecting. Greg monroe turns out to be the blocks of the secret. He's been working for fifteen years writing scripts and greg really believed that this was his big break what they were having developed. One hundred plus million dollar. We were tasked with Visiting different sites all over the country to learn everything. He could about indonesian history and develop. The project and one trip wasn't enough. I travelled to jakarta six times so it comes out to between eighty and a hundred grand a lot of money to pay for the dream of making it but in a surprising twist he met with the hollywood conch clean face to face yes instead of just voice there was a real person. He had a la style to him. He was dressed casually khakis. Button-down shirt sweater vest. A friendly persona. I just got a sense of this man. Greg even recorded conversations they had about the film's lead the protagonist who sounded awfully familiar. Chameleon committee committee defined every aspect was fisted amount of paperwork involved. We had lawyers looking everything. Everything seemed legitimate. The only red flag was that money had come back yet. Greg spent months trying to get reimbursed when he never got his money and the producers stopped taking your calls. That was the end of it. It sort of just fell into place that it was this elaborate con. We tried contacting the fbi. We tried contacting interpol no one cared about. It didn't matter so greg. The investigate on his own came across a major pollute got his passport. He used a passport at travel agencies. That were booking. The travel guides in the places and his passport was go. Bin lull to heal and his birthday was halloween. And it was the guy at that point. I shared the information again with the f. b. i. Interpol nobody cared. That is until josh. And vanessa found out. I still remember like looking on my phone and seeing the picture. I think we both thought like. That's exactly the person we were picturing. The passport name turned out to be fake led to an old indonesian prison record for fraud charges. That revealed his real name punjabi to he'll say no is full name a lot of interesting things up it turns out the suspect. Con artists was living a double life. Flaunting it on instagram back campaign. As far as we know he had a fairly high living life in london. As a food influencer. He certainly was going to a lot of fancy restaurants and he was painful. Freight can feel fresh new combat restaurant in london even on instagram live to reconnect with an old friend. How's it going. Hey hey there how are you how are you. He went on live and showed his face. It's unbelievable i had heard for my attorney that the fbi knew the concrete wise and it was only a matter of time. Golden was seemingly hiding in plain sight. But it wasn't long before he was caught the news making headlines. Josh and vanessa discovered that the hollywood concrete was actually a forty one year old man named harbin to heal ramani and finally the morning of november. Twenty six twenty. Twenty govan is arrested in manchester united kingdom. Andy in the podcasters ridden meeting back in hollywood on the phone's like beeping. Oh wow he was arrested. And it's over andy. The real andy sends me texts. Just saying god him and my and i jump off. I'm like yeah this guy you know. He needs to answer for his crimes in that respect. It's the end of a long journey. No one believed me. No one wanted to hear about it for the longest time the classic con crushing hundreds of dreams but still one key takeaway for me. It's just as important for people to know. Hey if it's too good to be true. It might be too good to be true. That i think is justice. Important this guy behind bars and finally tonight. An update on the man charged with the con- goldman is awaiting extradition to the us to stand trial. He's been charged with conspiracy to commit wire fraud two counts of wire fraud and five counts of aggravated identity theft through his lawyer. Govan has no comment to make it this time. And that's nightline for this evening watch full episodes on hulu. We'll see right back here same time next week. Thanks for the company. America have a great weekend good night during the state went too much looking down. And i thank you fast. How do you feel about reports from best-case studios and audio listen to in plain sight. Lady bird johnson. A new podcast about the power of a political partnership one. That somehow doesn't show up in the many many accounts of linden johnson's presidency told through ladybird own audio diaries and available now wherever you listen to podcasts..
Democrats unveil immigration plan with 8-year pathway to citizenship
"Congressional Democrats today introducing a bill to remake the U. S immigration system. It's called the U. S. Citizenship Citizenship Act of 2021, unveiled by Senator Bob Menendez, Democrat of New Jersey, and California Democratic representative Linda Sanchez, among the highlights that includes an eight year pathway to citizenship for those people in the country unlawfully. If they arrived by January, 1st of this year. It would also lift hurdles for those workers to legally immigrate to the United States as well. Azad financial resources to border screening and replace the word alien with non citizen in law. Senator Menendez, announcing details during a zoom called earlier today. Under the status quo. We still prevent family members from reuniting legally in the United States because of lengthy backlogs and delays. We still send graduates educated in our great universities back to their home countries, instead of allowing them to drive innovation here in America, and we still make it too hard for companies to hire the workers they need to innovate and force American workers to compete. With exploited undocumented labor. That's why we today collectively are introducing the U. S. Citizenship Act in the Senate in the House legislation that brings to life President Biden's plan to restore humanity and American values to our immigration system. It's our vision. It's our vision off what immigration reform should Look like and it's a bill we can all be proud of. It will modernize our system or for a path to citizenship for hardworking people in our communities, reunite families, increase opportunities for legal immigration and ensure America remains the powerhouse for innovation and a beacon of hope to refugees around the world. I can tell you is the chairman of the Senate Foreign Relations Committee. But I must say that beyond enhancing security and improving management of the southern border, our legislation also finally addresses the push factors forcing so many families to flee Central America in the first place. Transnational crime, violence, corruption, poverty, lawlessness, the prior administrations. Naive fixation on the wall failed to alleviate these horrific conditions. We must address the Underlying root causes driving migration and create safer processes for those in danger to apply for asylum. That's how we stop ourselves from winding up in the exact same place down the road, and that's what this bill does. Now there are some in Congress, I'll say from both parties who argue against going big on immigration reform. Some still believe the answer lies and blocking all legal channels of our immigration system until we get our house in order. Others say we should leave the bigger, tougher questions for another day, pursuing narrow reforms that nibble at the edges and leave millions of people behind. Personally, I couldn't disagree more with both approaches. That from Senator Bob Menendez, Democrat from New Jersey, the chair of the Senate Foreign Relations Committee. The bill does have the support of President Biden issue his statement earlier today, available on the White House
Path to citizenship in new Democratic immigration bill
"President Biden and congressional Democrats have proposed a major immigration overhaul but it faces a tough path in a closely divided Congress our system is broken senator Bob Menendez says it's finally time to fix it after four years of trump terror among other things the bill would offering eight year path to citizenship for the eleven million people living in the country illegally but without enhancing border security something Republicans see as vital immigration policy expert Casey Higgins says the smarter Pappy is to break the package into smaller bills starting with something sure do get bipartisan backing that could break the dam and really show people that the world isn't good and politically because we passed an immigration bill president Biden said he may accept a piecemeal approach if a separate major elements can be approved Sager mag ani Washington
Immigrant Detainees Held by ICE Are Going On Hunger Strikes
"Customs Enforcement will soon operate under a new administration. President elect Joe Biden has promised to return to quote sensible enforcement policies. But that change will take time. Right now. In New York and New Jersey activists do not want to wait. They're calling on ice to release undocumented immigrants from jail that's led to clashes with police, hunger strikes and a restraining order from member station W. N. Y C. Matt Katz reports. Right after the election. I start getting calls from immigrants like Carlos Gomez. He was on hunger strike at New Jersey's Bergen County Jail, which has a multi million dollar contract with ice to hold detainees. It's just hard boys just You know you feel easy. It seems like they don't care about immigrant detainees say they're being mistreated, and they're scared of getting the coronavirus, the first covert 19 case an ice detention was reported here. Detainees are demanding immediate release. They say they could be given monitoring bracelets to make sure they show up to immigration hearings. Frederick Body told me he hadn't eaten for nine days. They are human beings right now in the United States just start being treated. Very badly, simply because they don't have a paper that state that they are. US citizens. Gomez body and other immigrant detainees in the country illegally are often held by ice and county jails. Many have lived here for decades and have us citizen spouses and kids. Some were transferred from prison after they finish sentences for crimes. Last month, Rabbis took notice of the hunger strikers and began praying outside the Bergen County jail. Racial justice activists soon joined them. This wasn't something that Bergen County, a wealthy Democratic suburb usually experiences, but the protests are now held almost daily with live music and occasional confrontations with the police. One night earlier this month, officers in riot armor arrested nine activists. Sheriff Anthony Cure It's in appeared before television cameras in the next day and alleged that protesters actually bit two officers. It was not a productive act of political expression. What we saw yesterday was not, in the words of my hero John Lewis. Good trouble. The sheriff is a Democrat who said he opposes President Trump's strict immigration policies. But he argued that detainees are treated well in the county jail. Bergen, another nearby counties. Local officials also defend the lucrative ice contracts. They say these deals help offset property taxes and provide jobs. Puritans department gets $110 a day per immigrant it holds for ice. Next door in Hudson County. Immigrant advocates bombarded zoom meetings of the All Democratic governing board after it voted last month to extend its ice contract. 10 years. You just love that money, right? Love the money. They don't accept money where you're going, though you all make me sick. You know, brothers say you should be ashamed of yourselves. Shame, Shame, shame that was Andrew John Michael Watson and Danielle Harari. Tensions are high throughout the region. Six protesters rallying in Manhattan for ice detainees were injured after a woman drove her car through the crowd. In New Jersey, local officials filed a restraining order against activists. Even as the state senators came out against the contracts. Senator Bob Menendez called them blood money. Local leaders aren't budging. Democratic Hudson official Curry Dodd Rodriguez points out. Some of the detainees did commit crimes, and it isn't safe to release them. Safety for me. My family is priority in 2018 Hudson. Democrats actually voted to stop jelling detainees by 2020. But when Joe Biden won the presidential election, the local Democrats figured ice would no longer be is controversial. They were wrong for NPR news, Matt Katz.
Immigrant Detainees Held by ICE Are Going On Hunger Strikes
"And Customs Enforcement will soon operate under a new administration. President elect Joe Biden has promised to return to quote sensible enforcement policies. But that change will take time. Right now in New York and New Jersey activists do not want to wait. They're calling on ice to release undocumented immigrants from jail that's led to clashes with police, hunger strikes and a restraining order from member station W. N. Y C. Matt Katz reports. Right after the election. I start getting calls from immigrants like Carlos Gomez. He was on hunger strike and New Jersey's Bergen County Jail, which has a multi million dollar contract with ice to hold detainees. It's just hard boys just You know you feel d C. It seems like they don't care about immigrant detainees say they're being mistreated, and they're scared of getting the coronavirus, the first covert 19 case an ice detention was reported here. Detainees are demanding immediate release. They say they could be given monitoring bracelets to make sure they show up to immigration hearings. Frederick Body told me he hadn't eaten for nine days. They are hitmen beat right now in the United States that are being treated. Very badly, simply because they don't have a paper that state that they are. US citizens. Gomez body and other immigrant detainees in the country illegally are often held by ice and county jails. Many have lived here for decades and have us citizen spouses and kids. Some were transferred from prison after they finish sentences for crimes. Last month, Rabbis took notice of the hunger strikers and began praying outside the Bergen County jail. Racial justice activists soon joined them. This wasn't something that Bergen County, a wealthy Democratic suburb usually experiences, but the protests are now held almost daily with live music and occasional confrontations with the police. One night earlier this month, officers in riot armor arrested nine activists. Sheriff Anthony Cure It's in, appeared before television cameras in the next day and alleged that protesters actually bit Two officers. It was not a productive act of political expression. What we saw yesterday was not, in the words of my hero John Lewis. Good trouble. The sheriff is a Democrat who said he opposes President Trump's strict immigration policies. But he argued that detainees are treated well in the county jail. Bergen, another nearby counties. Local officials also defend the lucrative ice contracts. They say these deals help offset property taxes and provide jobs. Puritans department gets $110 a day per immigrant it holds for ice next door in Hudson County immigrant advocates bombarded zoom meetings of the All Democratic governing board after it voted last month to extend its ice contract. 10 years. You just love that money, right? Love the money. They don't accept money where you're going, though. You all make me sick. You know what else there is A you should be ashamed of yourselves. Shame, shame, shame that was Andrew John Michael Watson and Danielle Harari. Tensions are high throughout the region. Six protesters rallying in Manhattan for ice detainees were injured after a woman drove her car through the crowd in New Jersey. Local officials filed a restraining order against activists. Even as the state senators came out against the contracts, Senator Bob Menendez called them blood money. Local leaders aren't budging. Democratic Hudson official Curry Dodd. Rodriguez points out. Some of the detainees did commit crimes, and it isn't safe to release them. Safety for me or my family is priority in 2018 Hudson Democrats actually voted to stop jelling detainees by 2020. But when Joe Biden won the presidential election, the local Democrats figured ice would no longer be is controversial. They were wrong
US withdraws from open skies treaty
"Treaty that shares air surveillance data. Teri Schultz reports Open Skies treaty signed and ratified by 34 countries other than the U. S allows members to conduct surveillance flights over each other's territory. It's considered an important confidence building measure. US notified the other members six months ago that it believed in Moscow is violating the treaty by blocking fly over access to certain areas and said it would pull out. As a result. Almost a dozen European countries issued a statement at the time expressing their disappointment at the US move. Then candidate Joe Biden also criticized the decision as exacerbating tensions with Russia. New Jersey Senator Bob Menendez, the top Democrat on the Senate Foreign Relations Committee, says he expects President elected Biden to rejoin the treaty for NPR News. I'm Teri Schultz in Brussels. This is NPR news.
Jockey John Velazquez on his third Kentucky Derby win in his first competition with Authentic
"We have John Velazquez the hall of Fame Three Time Kentucky Derby winner on the phone now Johnny. Thanks for some time this morning the industry star of the week at the by Stuart Morris Congratulations. Thank you. Thank you for having me. Yeah. Three and ten years I think that's something that's getting overlooked here. animal kingdom always dreaming. authentic. Things did not go as planned when that gate opened on Saturday? Well I tell you. I was expecting that the we're GONNA break a little slow and I? Even said it. Before they raised a couple of his did I did you know? I get in like the position that we had just because being last one indicate normally once you get into gate. kind of like to get a sausage facets of canned really wants to live circuits. So horse is not. Hundred percent spending properly, and You Know Eight, hundred, ten, th there for jumping number good and even. He's not very quick from the gate. So with watching he's prior races and being the last one and go into the I I was back to not. On the other hand I knew he was going to be quick. you know to to get too close to the lead or BMW before we get, we get to the to the turn. So you know I didn't wear so much and I think even if you the way broke, I kinda wane gradually you know going into the lead before we get to the first time. Were you surprised that no one took advantage of the lackluster break and that you were able to clear by the time you've got that I I. Well I. If we look back at the race really there was only one. One speed horse in and teeth the law and I knew he was not wanna go to delete or you know that's not the way they they actually wanted them to you know and listened to Berkeley and and and prior to that you know the just like to suck somebody and so on. And other words Park elope is I thought he probably go to the lead and and I was willing to let him go if you wanted to do obviously when we pass it pass the wire for the first time in and see him and he wasn't going to delete it. So that was my turn you know to. Okay. Let me go ahead and do what Mars you want to do. You always talk to us here on the network about playing you leave the paddock with plans a to Z with a horse like authentic. There's really not much and you know you know he's GonNa break a little slow at least you did he's not going to break that sharp. You're going to be on the lead I'm sure after you watch the Haskell. You. Likely. Did you have some concerns about the mile and a quarter after watching the Haskell? We always have it. You know and and. Talking to by he, he's just like you know what I think I haven't much ready this time know for going on quarter. We always had a question whether he can't go out on any tips like, but you you you bob. You have to carry the source now he goes to putting the pressure. And he says that when you get to the stretch I, want you to to get you let handed ready for this. Okay. Make sure you get you get his attention and I mean to territory worked out. Perfect. You know talking about we planning with we were just rubies. Have dinner like three, nine, five bike and we keep talking about it. Then it's like you'll make sure you haven't left hand to you know get attention and if you look back from the house cold to the Derby, Mike, Never hit him though Mike he just GonNa kick. Showing the weapon and kind of top him this time you know I got the. Price Him and he responded right away i. that was the difference dry. They're actually afterwards Bob said to me if he makes had hidden his left handed in this house. You would never be on him on the Derby because I don't think he would have got off of them. You know what I mean, and that's why they thought. It was that he might not want to go the distance and. He's a little quirky so he kinda gets distracted very very, very easily and he looked he looked like he was GonNa win easy and and the has over. So it kind of you know the other horses going back to him so. If he had, he had a ham handed I think he would have gone on and You would have been in these stories. So I'm glad he did. Now Three Kentucky Derby wins that that is rarefied Air Bob said after the race when he wants six, it never gets old, you feel the same way. Absolutely. You know. They ask me that the obviously when month derby ends like if it gets old you into something else go and retire and something now absolutely that that feeling that you get. The satisfaction you get, it's incredible. There's just no worse due to this drive it you know and I mean if you get up to to be in this kind of thing, Menendez GonNa. Racist It's incredible. It's just no words to describe it. You know. Got To be. Blessed.
Senate Holds Confirmation Hearing For Trump's New Pick For Ambassador To Ukraine
"Update now on two important diplomatic vacancies. One is the post of U. S ambassador to the Ukraine. The last woman who held that Senate confirmed job was a central figure in President Trump's impeachment. And now the president's pick for the job is facing some lingering question in his own confirmation hearing. NPR's Michelle Kelemen reports President Trump's ouster of the ambassador to Ukraine featured prominently in his impeachment trial. Marie Ivanovich face to smear campaign by Trump's private lawyer Rudy Giuliani, who had been pressing Ukraine to get dirt on Vice President Joe Biden. Senator Bob Menendez, the ranking Democrat on the Foreign Relations Committee, says that's still happening. Giuliani Esteban, Savory Ukrainian characters have not let up their efforts to use Ukraine to interfere in U. S politics. Others in the Senate seem intent on amplifying their efforts. Menendez wants the new nominee, retired Lieutenant general Keith Dayton, to avoid playing into this and avoid any meetings with Giuliani. Senator I'm not going to commit to that, because I believe that as an ambassador, I would have the obligation to meet with any U S citizen and hear them out. It was a home. Dayton has been a defense attache in Moscow, a security advisor for the U. S on the Israeli Palestinian conflict, and, in recent years has run the George Marshall European Center for Security Studies in Germany. He's well versed on Ukraine, but his answers frustrated both Menendez and another Democrat Chris Murphy. So at the end of the hearing, he did offer this reassurance. Ify is the U. S ambassador and key Have any indication that there is any kind of election interference going on using Ukraine as a azalea ever to do that? I would, of course, report that directly to this committee. I think you have a right to know that I think I have an obligation to report that to Dayton says his priorities in the country, if confirmed, would be to help Ukraine fight corruption and beef up Ukraine's Navy and Air force. Next door in Belarus. The U. S is reviving diplomatic relations in part because of Russia's aggression. In Ukraine. Career diplomat Julie Fisher has been tapped to run the U. S embassy in Minsk. Our relationship with Belarus languish for more than a decade. But after Russia's illegal seizure and occupation of Crimea, and it's manufactured war in Ukraine stone best region, we began to see signs of interest from the Belarussian sign. Belarus recently bought US crude oil to decrease its dependence on Russia and Secretary of State Mike Pompeo visited Minsk earlier this year. But the's warming ties will be tested by an election this Sunday, and Fisher face questions about that the first component to ensuring that we can continue to grow this relationship. Not see steps backward in the conduct of this presidential election. The long time ruler Alexander Lukashenko is facing a united opposition in the run up to this election, and his regime has been cracking down. There will be no international monitors, though Fisher says the U. S embassy will be watching the vote closely. What we are trying to get Johnny is basically to ensure that there is space to ensure their space for more than one voice. In this country. Lukashenko kicked out the less U. S ambassador to Belarus in 2008 after the US accused his government of human rights violations and tighten sanctions. Michelle Kelemen NPR NEWS Washington
"menendez" Discussed on Parcast Presents
"Due to the graphic nature of these crimes. Listener discretion is advised. This episode includes discussions of sexual assault violence and murder that some people may find offensive. We advise extreme caution for children under the age of thirteen. Thirty six year old Judy. Lynn Smith opened her front door cautiously shotgun in hand. She, left the light off as she surveyed the living room. Everything looked the same as it had before she left but still Judy Lynn felt anxious. She cocked the gun and tiptoed towards the bedroom holding the weapon. The way she'd seen police on television shows carry. There's. Arms Straight out in front of her. She checked each corner of her tiny apartment. Finally. She let out a sigh of relief. She was indeed alone. She Shakily put down the gun and turned on the television hoping for a distraction. But the news only meter fuel worse. Every channel was playing footage from outside the Menendez Family Mansion. Unable to stop herself. Judy Lynn listened as the anchors described the brutal murders it meet her sick. She stared at her phone. She could call she could put an end to this. If she told the truth she could pull herself out of this mess for ever. At last. And took a deep breath, picked up the receiver and dial the LAPD. As soon as someone picked up, she told them. I, know what happened to Jose and Kitty Menendez..
Trump administration begins formal withdrawal from World Health Organization
"Virus testing. The Trump administration has officially with John the United States from the World Health Organisation in the middle of the Corona virus pandemic. In May, President Trump announced that the US would terminate the relationship because the W H O has quote failed to make the requested and greatly needed reforms. The Trump Administration official confirmed that the U. S withdrawal was effective as of Monday and submitted to the United Nations. New Jersey Democratic Senator bomb Menendez. We did that the administration informed Congress of the withdrawal but called the move
Trump moves to officially withdraw U.S. from WHO
"Has officially notified the United Nations of plans to withdraw from the World Health Organization. NPR's Kelsey Snow reports lawmakers from both parties or criticizing the move in the midst of an ongoing global pandemic. The notice has been submitted to the U. N secretary general with a final withdrawal date of July 6th, 2021 according to a State Department spokesman. Bob Menendez, the top Democrat on the Senate Foreign Relations Committee, tweeted criticizing the move as quote, chaotic and incoherent. Republican Senator Lamar Alexander, the chairman of the Senate Health Committee, has also criticized the move, saying withdrawing from the group could interfere with clinical trials and vaccine development. Trump has aggressively criticized the W. H O and has threatened to withhold US funding for the organisation. Democrats in Congress say it is illegal for Trump to halt congressional E approved money for the group. Kelsey Snow. NPR NEWS Washington Move
"menendez" Discussed on Crimes of Passion
"menendez" Discussed on Crimes of Passion
"Knew the truth. The Beverly Hills Police Department remained in the dark. Jose had been a man with. Wealth Power and plenty of enemies, so the possibility of a Mafia head wasn't entirely ruled out, but it did seem unlikely. Mafia executions were fast and clean nothing like the grisly scene at the Menendez Mansion. Police were suspicious of Lyle and Eric Story about mafia involvement and their lavish spending in the months following the debts. But they couldn't find anything more than circumstantial evidence of their guilt. There was plenty however that the police didn't see. Eric's primary care doctor diagnosed his chronic stomach. Pain s stress related. Eric didn't want to live by himself, but lyle was always travelling, so he moved in with his cousin Henry in the San Fernando Valley. Entry would frequently wake to find Erica sleep on his bedroom floor. When he asked if there was something wrong with the guest bed Eric said he had terrible nightmares and couldn't sleep alone. Meanwhile, lyle seemed entirely unconcerned about everything. Normally family members of the deceased are nearly constant contact with police officers, but lyle couldn't be bothered to return phone calls from investigators. He was too busy flying from the east coast to the West buying whatever he wanted on his late father's fortune. Officers interviewed Lyle and Eric Close friends and family to find out more about the brothers. These interviews painted a disturbing picture of life in the Menendez Mansion. Family members described his am. KITTIES marriage as one entirely devoid of affection. The never so much as held hands unless a photograph was being taken. Violin Eric's friends said that since Jose and kitties deaths, the boys had been making strange comments about how nobody knew the whole story of what happened on August twentieth except for them. As police closed in on Lyle and Eric Judy Lynn Smith was reaching her breaking point. She was constantly paranoid that lyle and Eric would discover her relationship with Dr Oziel or that. She knew they were guilty. She carried the shotgun with her everywhere. She went and felt her stomach drop every time. She saw an article or news report about the murders. Keeping, the secret meet her feel complicit in Jose and kitties debts. Dr Oziel convinced her to stay quiet for months. They were still sleeping together and she cared for him deeply. She knew that if she contacted the police, she would be going against his wishes. But the stress and guilt eventually became too much. On March fifth nine hundred. Ninety Judy Lynn called the Beverly Hills. Police Department and told them things she knew. Two days later on March eighth twenty two year old Lyle Menendez was arrested. Eric was in Israel playing a tennis tournament, so he didn't hear the news until the next day. On March Eleventh, he back to Los Angeles and turned himself in. The brothers were separated from each other and held without bail. Less in twenty four hours later, the case became international news. Up Next, the Menendez brothers finally face justice now back to the story. After nearly seven months of lying spending money, and arguing amongst themselves twenty one year, old lyle and eighteen year old Erik Menendez were arrested for murdering their parents of Zan Kitty. Judy Lynn Smith who learned about the murders from Eric's therapist, told police at the brothers had confessed to the murders in a recorded counseling session. Within a week both brothers were held without bail. Three years later on December twelve nineteen ninety-two lyle and Erik Menendez were formerly indicted on two counts of first degree murder, the state of California salt the death, penalty. In August of the next year twenty five year, Old Lyle and twenty two year old. Eric arrived for their first day in court. Eric would normally have been sweating with anxiety, but the xanax he took his heartbeat calm and his breathing sedated. He sat between his brother and his lawyer Leslie Abramson and try to relax. He looked over at lyle whose jaw was clinched firmly. Eric could practically feel his brother's nerves radiating through the air between them, making it harder to breathe. He looked away and chewed on his thumbnail. Judge Stanley Weisberg a stern man with round glasses and receding hairline glared down at the brothers. Eric dropped his hand from his face and felt his heart. Skip a beat. He wished he'd brought some pills inside with him. He, glanced back at Leslie on his other side, she met his gaze, and gave him a small, but infinitely reassuring nod. They'd been over their defense a thousand times. He had all his lines memorized. All he needed to do was stick to the script and everything would be all right. Leslie, Abramson spent months carefully orchestrating the Menendez brothers defense. Her strategy was to characterize. Lyle and Eric s good. American sons driven to murder only because of the horrific abuse. They endured. She appeared to have curated their appearances accordingly. They were Pastel sweaters over meticulously ironed and press collared shirts. She frequently placed her palm on lyle shoulder or the back of Eric's head in gestures of evangelization. Abramson never argued the brothers didn't murder their parents rather. She argued they should not be found guilty. Because of the abuse, they experienced as children. Many found this defense dubious. According to the prosecution, the alleged mistreatment was impossible to prove to them. Jose's fourteen million dollar fortune was ample motive for murder. Testimony from Eric's therapist. Dr Oziel was key to the case. Recordings of his therapy sessions were ruled inadmissible due to doctor patient confidentiality laws. But oziel was allowed to testify using only his handwritten notes from their meetings. Meanwhile, Eric supplemented Oziel statements with details about the sexual abuse his father had subjected to. Lyle claim that Jose had molested him and kitty was violent with him. After learning this behavior from his parents at such a.
"menendez" Discussed on Crimes of Passion
"Fulltime tennis coach for fifty thousand dollars. The boys also secured side-by-side condos and Marina del Rey and were often seen joy riding through Los Angeles and their late mother's Mercedes Benz convertible. Police bound the brothers spending habits highly suspicious, but chalked it up to their privileged upbringing. They had always been wealthy. Perhaps officers thought this was just their way of grieving. Grief was a tricky subject for lyle and Eric their father had forced them to suppress the re Shen since they were toddlers. They had a hard time articulating the tornado of complicated feelings that emerged after they killed their parents. Lyle didn't seem to show any remorse for his actions. He either truly believed he did the right thing or his hatred for his parents was strong enough to overshadow any regrets he might have held. Eric on the other hand was sick with guilt. He regularly met with his therapist Dr. Jerome Zeal. During their sessions Eric reported depression and anxiety so extreme that it made him physically ill. Dr Oz zeal wasn't surprised that his client psychological health deteriorated after his parents debts, but Eric's reports of suicidal ideation concerned him. The therapist pressed the boy further, trying to uncover what was causing such destructive grief. It didn't take long for Eric to crack less than three months after the murders. He confessed that he and Lyell had killed Jose and Kitty. According to Dr Zeal Eric also claimed that they had planned the murders for weeks in advance. Eric and lyle regularly discussed how they could escape their father's domineering grasp. The eventually decided their only option was to kill Jose and Kitty to make sure there were no witnesses. Dr Oziel didn't know how to handle the confession. California law promises psychotherapist patient privilege, which means all communication between counselors and clients must be kept confidential unless the client poses an immediate threat to themselves or someone else. Since Jose and Kitty were already dead. He was legally obligated to keep the confession a secret. Dr Oziel told Aric. It would be best to call lyle to the office, so they could work through the issue together. When Lyle ride, he was red, faced furious at his little brother for spilling their secret. With his finger pointed at Dr, Oziel who sat just a few feet away. Lyle told Eric. I hope you realize what we are going to have to do. We have to kill him and anyone associated with him. Eric broke down into heaving sobs. He told his brother he couldn't bear to kill anybody else and ran out of the office. Lyle gave doctors zeal a cold glance before following eric out. In the parking lot outside. Eric stared at his brother. speechless. Lyle looked crazed. His hair stood on end. His face was contorted in anger. His eyes were huge. His voice began at a deep growl before it rose to a frightening high pitched scream. Eric hardly even recognized the raving man before him. But no matter what Lyle said. Eric wasn't killing anybody else. Just the thought of it made him nauseous. Every night images of what they had done kept him awake. He saw moonlight glinting off. The shattered glass is mother's blood pooling on the hardwood floor. His father's skull blasted open. Even so eric was confident. They could get away with it. They had been careful. They weren't going to get caught. Seeing how callously had become since their parent's deaths and how quick he was to suggest killing another person made eric feel like his therapists was more trustworthy than his own brother. While Lyle and Eric argued in the parking lot another of Dr Oziel clients, a woman named Judicial Smith Sat in the lobby, waiting for her own appointment. But she wasn't just an ordinary patient. She'd only been seeing the therapist for a few months, but their relationship had quickly become romantic. When the brothers stormed out of the offices, Judy Lin went into find her lover Frantic. Doctor told her everything that happened with the Menendez brothers repeating over and over that they were both endanger. Told! To go to the police lyles threat on his life clearly negated the brothers right to confidentiality, but hozeal refused. He called his mentor who suggested he make three copies of his notes from the meeting and put them in separate safety deposit boxes. At their next therapy session he could inform the brothers that even if they killed him, their confessions would still be found. Dr, Oziel took the advice at their next session. He told Mile and Eric about the copies of his notes, but also said he didn't want to report them. He just wanted to resolve whatever issues they had emotionally that led to the murders in the first place. The brothers were skeptical, so zeal changed his angle. He claimed that if they ever did get arrested. Records of their therapy might actually eight in their defense. It could help them paint a picture of. They're abusive homelife. Leader Dr Oziel recorded audio notes in which he said. It struck me that lyle was almost a complete sociopath with no evidence of remorse, whatsoever that I could detect and that he had even considered killing Eric after. Eric confessed the murder to me. Eric seemed to be much less capable of committing such an act without lyle, and was clearly overwrought by scope of what he had done to his own parents. While was clearly the driving force in the murders Eric may have ultimately participated because of pressure from his brother. In her paper. The influence of peer pressure on criminal behavior doctor May Assyria details the influence of social groups on the actions of individuals. Since, they were children, Lyle and Eric were forbidden from having many friends possibly due to Jose's desire to. And keep the abuse a secret. As a result, the brothers formed their own peer Group A partnership with a set of unique behavioral expectations. Those rules were likely created and enforced by lyle. The older brother Eric always deferred to. According to Dr a Seri- peer groups are so powerful that members are willing to deviate from the norms of the society in order to protect the interests, values, norms and expectations of the group. In other words, people can be driven to commit crimes in order to maintain group membership. Despite the years of abuse Eric had endured. It's possible that his brother's influence was the deciding factor that drove him to take part in his parents murders. Dr. oziel tried to sort out the dynamic between the brothers all too aware that his own life might depend on it. Even though he told the Menendez brothers about the copies of his notes, he still agonized over lyles death threat. He worried. The brothers might target his wife, his children or his mistress. Judy Lynn. He bought a shotgun and hit out in a hotel with his family, he gave Judy Lynn a shotgun as well and repeatedly reminded her that she was in mortal danger. But while Dr Oziel and Judy.
"menendez" Discussed on Crimes of Passion
"Their tennis coach and asked him to meet them at the cheesecake factory, but he was busy. The drove to a movie theater. Instead hoping they could buy tickets to Batman and establish an alternate timeline, but the cashier wouldn't sell them tickets for showing. For a while, they drove around. Beverly Hills unsure what to do. Finally. They decided to go home pretend they had stumbled upon their parents bodies and call nine one one. Police arrived at the gruesome scene around midnight. Skull had been split open pieces of his brain. Matter stuck to the ceiling while kitty face was an unrecognizable mass of muscle and bone. Violent herrick feigned grief, sobbing and pounding on the ground outside. Police were so convinced by the boys is performance or perhaps so aware of the menendezes wealth and status that the didn't bother to test their hands for gunshot residue. There were a few things, however that cause police to be suspicious right from the start when he described finding his parents bodies. Eric repeatedly referenced how smoke either room was which officers new was inconsistent with the broken windows. It, was also strange that lyle and Eric had called nine one one from their home. After discovering the bodies, the vast majority of the time that someone finds a dead victim. They call the police from an alternate location for fear. The killer might still be in the area. Lastly the boys were way too eager to get back inside the House and grab their tennis bags. The ones that unbeknownst to the police held the murder weapons and shotgun shells. Officers couldn't understand why the brothers would be thinking about tennis at a time like this. But getting rid of the evidence couldn't lessen their guilt. Eventually, it would consume them. and expose them. When we return the Menendez brothers struggle to cover up their crime. True crime fans. 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Now back to the story. August Twentieth Nineteen Eighty, nine twenty one year, old lyle and eighteen year old Menendez murdered their parents, Jose and Kitty in the family room of their Beverly Hills Mansion. Police were shocked by the horrific crime scene, and were brokenhearted by the brothers dramatic displays of grief. Although, some of Lyle and Eric's behavior struck officers as strange. They did not test the brothers hands for gunshot residue. If they had, they would have called the culprits that same night. Instead, the brothers went free immediately after the deaths of their parents, they each received a two hundred and fifty thousand dollar life insurance payout to them. It was a just reward in the five days between their parents, murders and the memorial service. Lyle and Eric spent over fifteen thousand dollars. According to his extended family, while wore a brand new eighteen CARAT, gold, rolex, and a pair of hose, as low I to the surface. At one point he nudged Zandt smirked and said. Hey Marcy said I couldn't feel my father shoes. lyles Konki behavior at the funeral didn't sit right with Jose's brother-in-law Carlos the day after the service Carlos went to the Menendez Mansion and found Jose's will and a bathroom door. It was dated nineteen eighty and designated. Lyle and Eric would have been just twelve and nine years old at the time as the beneficiaries of the entire state. But in more recent conversations Carlos remembered Jose talking about removing his sons from his will altogether and suspected, there was a newer version of his last wishes somewhere. He contacted Jose's lawyers who found nothing. However on the computer in the master bedroom, Carlos reportedly discovered file titled Will. Unfortunately it was password protected and he was unable to access it. Carlos made an appointment for a computer expert to come in search the hard drive on September first clear up the inheritance issue. It's unclear whether or not lyle and Eric New with this file contained. However, lyle did find out his uncle had been poking around and was apparently worried about what he might find. He rushed back to Beverly Hills from New York where he'd been traveling and hired a computer expert of his own. The specialist reportedly came to the mansion on August thirtieth, and erased every file with the words Lyle Eric will in it. Meanwhile Eric had no idea what lyle was doing to cover up their crimes. He spent the last few days of August staying with his friend CRAIG CIGNA RALLY IN, Calabasas. While, they spent time together. Craig tried to broach the subject of Jose and Kitty a couple of times. Eric told Craig he believed the mafia was to blame or maybe even Fidel, Castro! Whoever? It was Eric said he would pay a million dollars to see them. Put behind bars. But. Their debt seemed eerily similar to those screenplay had written in which the protagonists murders his parents for their vast fortune. When Craig asked Eric if you would be interested in revising the script, Eric Space became deadly serious. He reportedly told Craig not to touch the screen. Play saying you know I didn't kill my parents. Less than a month after the murders, a third memorial service was held in Miami where much of Jose's extended family had settled. Lyle and Eric told their relatives. They couldn't emotionally handle another funeral and spent their time in Florida at Daytona beach instead. The brothers often made dramatic shows of grief, and then followed them with contradictory behaviour shortly after returning the beverly, hills, lyle and Eric hired bodyguards. They told family friends and police that they feared the mafia would come after them next yet. Neither of them acted particularly afraid in public. They frequently went out to shop and play tennis without a care in the world. By mid-september less than a month after the murders, lyle and Eric had managed to spend over one million dollars. Lyle bought a sixty four thousand dollar Porsche and put a three hundred thousand dollar down payment on a chicken wing restaurant in Princeton New Jersey. Eric replaced his forward with Jeep Wrangler and hired.
"menendez" Discussed on Crimes of Passion
"On the evening of August Twentieth, one, thousand, nine, hundred, eighty, nine, forty five year old, Jose Menendez Lounge in the family room of his Beverly Hills Mansion next to his wife, forty seven year old kitty. They had been watching a movie together, but kitty had long since fallen asleep, and Jose wasn't too far behind her. Though it was only around ten PM, he was exhausted. The last week was a blur of arguments and fistfights. His oldest son, twenty one year old lyle had recently come home from Princeton for the summer. He and his younger brother eighteen year old Eric had been terrorizing their parents ever since. Every morning Jose woke up to another disaster. One weekend the boys litter the yard with beer cans and cigarette butts. They couldn't keep up with their house keys, so Jose and Kitty had to climb out of bed to let them in at all hours of the night. Just a few days prior lyle made Kitty so angry that she ripped the fifteen hundred dollar hairpiece. He wore clean off his scalp. Jose didn't know what to do. He tried to teach his sons what they needed to know to be successful. When he was their age, he lived in a tiny apartment and could barely afford groceries. He had worked himself to the bone to give them the opportunities he never had. But they had no idea what it was like to struggle. When his boys were born, Jose had such high hopes. Now when he looked at his children, he only felt disappointment. According to some claims, he'd even recently decided to remove lyle and Eric from his will. If they were ever going to work hard and learn respect, they would have to earn their money just like he had. They didn't deserve to inherit a penny of his millions. Those tried once again to focus on the movie an Shutout, his troubling thoughts soon his eyelids got heavy and he was snoring next to his wife. As Jose Katie Lee dozing in the family room. The Menendez brothers sat nervously in lyles bedroom. On his desk were two twelve gauge Mossberg shotguns in ten rounds of Buckshot ammunition. Lyle picked up. One of the guns loaded it and looked at Eric expectantly. According to the brothers days prior on August fifteenth, Eric confided to Lyell that their father had been sexually abusing him since he was just six years old. Lyle was enraged. He Knew Eric was telling the truth though he didn't tell his brother Jose had. Lyle to from the ages of six to eight. It's easy to wonder why the brothers kept these kinds of secrets from one another alber researchers found that abuse can actually drive siblings apart. Before it continued with the brother Psychology, please note. I am not a licensed psychologist or psychiatrist, but I have done a lot of research for the show. Contrary to what one might think, both brothers being molested. Reduced the chances they would report the abuse or confide in each other. This is in all likelihood due to the shame fostered by domestic violence. According to researchers Julianne Oleander and Kenneth, chew perpetrators of abuse. Seek privacy effectively isolating their victims to discourage possible reporting. Moreover in an article published in the Journal of Family Violence, Doctors Colette Hoaglund and Karen. Nicholas von medical to emotional abusiveness was significantly related to hire shame, overt and covert ops. And expressed and unexpressed anger. The emotional, physical and sexual violence, lyle and reported experiencing as. Isolated them from each other and left them with feelings of unresolved anger. Their father had allegedly threatened to kill them many times throughout their lives after Lyle confronted Jose about molesting Eric both brothers feared. Jose might follow through on his threats. According to Lyle and Eric. It was kill or be killed. Eric studied the shiny black gun sitting on the desk. He had never actually fired it before. Just practice loading and unloading its chamber. He didn't know if you would even be able to pull the trigger when the time came. He could feel lyle staring at him, but couldn't bring himself to meet his brothers is. There was suddenly a stale acrid taste in his mouth. All he could hear was his own heartbeat occasionally interrupted by lyles Slough breathing. With his is still on the Weapon Eric trying to think happy thoughts. Nothing that came to mind involved his own family. Every memory he had of his father or mother was soured by an all consuming anxiety. Every moment he'd ever spent with them just felt wrong. His father was cold, intimidating and impossible to please. His mother was pitiful, spiteful and made desperate by decades of domestic abuse. Then, there was his brother only lyle had ever wanted to save him to make things right. Eric had to trust him. He picked up. The gun, loaded it and followed his brother downstairs. These stopped outside the double doors that lead into the family room and locked eyes. Lyle asked him if he was ready. Eric tightened his grip on the shotgun swallowed and nodded. The door slammed open as lyle and Eric Bursts into the family room before either of his parents could react. Lyle pressed the barrel of his Mossberg against the back of his father school and fired. Meanwhile shot erratically. The window shattered, and the room was obscured by clouds of thick grey gunsmoke. Kitty tried to run away but one of Eric stray bullets pierced her leg. She tripped in the blood that gushed from her thigh. As. She floundered helplessly on the floor. Her sons shot her in the arm and chest. In a matter of seconds both guns were out of bullets. Jose was dead, but kitty still clung to life moaning in pain. Eric shook violently sick to his stomach. Lyle ran outside to his car and grabbed more ammunition from his trunk. Inside, the smoke cleared rising out of the broken windows. When Lyle came back in, he reloaded his gun and shot his mother in the face. Finally Lyle turned to his brother breathing heavily. Jose and Kitty were dead, but the job wasn't finished jet. The each fired. One last shot into their parents left kneecaps in an attempt to make the murderers look like a Mafia hit. Then, they picked up the shotgun shells from the floor and pack them into their tennis bags along with the weapons. Still buzzing from the adrenaline, lyle and Eric Rush down to their front porch and waited for the police to arrive. They'd fired thirteen rounds in a quiet neighborhood and one of the wealthiest cities in America. They expected cops to swarm the area within minutes. But no officers ever came. There wasn't so much as a siren in the distance when neighbors were interviewed later, they said they heard loud explosive sounds, but assumed it was someone setting off fireworks. Nobody in beverly, hills a city that averages, just two murders. A year could have imagined what was going on in the Menendez Mansion that night. Realizing, they might actually be able to get away with murder while and Eric decided to establish an alibi. They called.
Global alliance formed to counter China threat amid rising tensions
"A group of senior lawmakers from eight countries including the United States has formed an alliance to help counter what they say is the threat posed by China the inter parliamentary alliance on China says it will focus on what China's growing influence means for global trade security and human rights Florida Republican senator Marco Rubio New Jersey Democrat Bob Menendez are among those leading the group
Pompeo denies retaliation in firing of State Dept watchdog
"Secretary of state Mike Pompeii owes denying he recommended president trump fired the state department's watchdog in retaliation for investigations into Pompey's conduct Pompey was not saying exactly why Stephen Winick was dismissed last week but he says it was not pay back for a probe into allegations Pompey ahead staffers run personal errands saying he's unaware of any such investigation I don't have access to that information so I couldn't possibly have retaliated would have been impossible he's taking an unusually harsh shot at the Senate foreign relations committee's top Democrats saying the allegations came from the office of Bob Menendez who once faced a now dismissed criminal ethics probe and is calling for an investigation into the watchdog's firing I don't get my ethics guidance from a man who was criminally prosecuted Sager mag ani Washington
Europe holds low-key VE Day commemorations due to virus
"Welcome to these after the BBC world service hello I'm James Menendez coming up today as the coronavirus tightens its grip on Brazil the world renowned photographer Sebasti O. Salgado tells us of the grave threat the virus poses to the country's indigenous peoples and takes aim at president Boston on he's bring more conflict mall destruction is becoming just as federation president also scaled back events to mark seventy five years since **** Germany surrendered to the allies victory in Europe day will have members of that moment here we are victorious exhausted my Darling we have really won the war I can't believe it the actor and the circus on the pitfalls of reading out all of the whole bit online for charity they'll be trips and stumbles on shore and it's it'll have a live feel to it including yes probably having to put up signs like back in five minutes festivities BBC news with sue Montgomery severely scaled down events are taking place across Europe to mark the seventy fifth anniversary of the defeat of **** Germany in the second World War big public commemorations was scrapped because of corona virus related restrictions Dania behind has this report investors still resonates these highly constrained circumstances where the final **** surrender was signed Germany's president Frank
"menendez" Discussed on IN PURSUIT from Glassdoor
"The newer contending with the reality of standing out in a very obvious way and there are people who love that and thrive on that and that is for them and there are other people feel like they already stick out in so many ways that that is just another way in which they're contending with otherness and so I trust you to do you the best you can and what. I'm almost be more more. Mindful of is when you are working for an organization and you feel like you keep running up against this feedback. Are these questions of the way you are naturally being a fit with the organization or not being aligned with the organization. Are you being asked to change? Are you being told that there's not opportunity for you because of the way you are when people tell you those things believe them in the sense that that may not be the place for you I would like to to live in a utopia where all organizations were built for all people? That's that's not the way things are built right now and so if you have spent a significant amount of time somewhere if you have gone to your you know group of trusted friends and advisors your kitchen cabinet and they have said to you. I actually don't think this is you. I think it is the organization at some point. You have to decide if you WANNA stay if that's really serving you and if you will ever be allowed to fully show up as yourself and be valued in that place it's making me. Think a lot about a quote that Oprah said and she says it often she says when someone shows you who they are relieved them the first time and I think it doesn't just go for you know relationships. Are someone that you're trying to be romantic with but it also goes for the workplace when you're starting to get those clues and you're picking up. What is or is not culture fit? What is or is not considered correct. And that doesn't align with you or it does and you're figuring it out you know really believe what you're seeing believed the culture that you're seeing at the time it's also amy. Why think that you see a lot? More people of your and my generation having the types of careers that you and I have where there are various pieces that are put together to form a composite because I do think it's also hard to assume that we can be our full solves or an expression of our full selves in any one place. Correct or that we can have the full value and fulfilment of our work in one place and so. I think what you and I have done is often harder because it is harder to find those opportunities and harder to cobble them together in a way that makes sense but a lot of the people I know. Who are happiest? Have some version of what you and I have exactly. It's weaving a tapestry of a career that you can really be proud of and picking and choosing locations and companies and projects that really fulfil you to create the career that you want as opposed to really wanting to one hundred percent fulfilled by one particular company. One of the undercurrent of our conversation is really around. The emotional cost of wanting to be liked right. You don't navigate likability or the likability trap without some emotional tax whether that's a sleepless night worrying about whether or not your team really likes you or the direction that you're taking the company in or whether you're just at odds with whether or not your boss really likes you. All of these things have an emotional cost. How have you sort of navigated the tax of the likability trap if you will? I found it so helpful to step back and recognize. How much of this a systematic? I always approached these questions as if there were something wrong with me right if I were just like not showing up the right way or if I were reading all of these career guides and just somehow not executing it the right way I really thought this was on me and it has been so so helpful to realize that a lot of this is about the way that systems and realizations and structures are set up that has taken a huge weight off of my shoulder. Self care has become such a fuzzy term that I like can barely get it out of my mouth without rolling my eyes because like folks like a hot bath and and that may be it for someone but having enough time away from work enough time for yourself enough time tuned into things that enrich and fulfil and being surrounded by people who allow you to be your best self. I think that for me the best inoculation against the emotional cost of being a person who cares you know I I will have end. Also being really able to say like this is bugging me. This happened today and I feel weird about it and I think this is what went down and so often just sort of having somebody on their side is is that actually happened. Or is that your interpretation of what happened because those are different things and you know. I like to pride myself on my reading of others and my intuition I am not right one hundred percent of the time as much as I hate to admit that end so remembering that you can have those interactions and the feeling that you walk away with is often only your interpretation of it and coming back to that constantly I think is a powerful reminder. It's funny that that you're saying that your natural tendency was to read up on everything you know with with likeability and and try to understand it and really you know identify the problem in yourself etc but my when I sort of think about my grappling with likability. I'm almost loathe to say. Oh it's the system or that there are these architectures that are sort of built up that sort of make me feel this way or make me wrestle with with likability. I'm almost like I don't want to admit there's outside forces I can't do anything about especially if you sort of abide by the victim player mentality where you WanNa be a player in your own life then an and I don't want I don't want to suggest every to victimize I think though an order to be a player and in order to navigate you have to understand the field and you have to understand the plays and so much of what I wanted to equip people with was that what are some of the ways that you know. Managers or employers can address the likability trap. I think you outlined a couple of ways we as colleagues can go to bat for one another but what really needs to change in the workplace to start to address. These outdated notions so much of the way this is all communicated in a formal capacity is in the form of valuations and reviews and so often those reviews really for women focus on critical stylistic feedback so one way is to do really in depth review of your assessments of how you evaluate people making sure that evaluations are three sixty. So it's not if just your manager is evaluating you than you have one person's assessment of you and if that person style is the same as your style. The new might get a great review. That doesn't have anything to do with your results. If that person style is diametrically opposed to yours you may get a review that seems horrible but is really only reflection of that person so having reviews that are done by multiple people who can look at a person from various perspectives and that really focuses on results and outcomes so that there may be something in your style that does impact the results of your work but that feedback is most valuable when those two things are tied together. If someone tells me that I'm to a sort of I have no idea what to do with that if someone tells me. I am too assertive. And that means that my team spends more time working around me than actually doing their work. And that's creating a delay in projects and presentations. Okay like that. I can actually sort of begin to wrap my mind around and other things. There is such an incredible value in sponsorship this is idea from Sylvia and Hewlett. She has an incredible book that I highly recommend to everyone. I think our generation was raised with this idea. That like mentor. Ship was the golden ticket in our careers and mentorship is incredible. You know someone who can give you advice and counsel but there is a fundamental difference between somebody who does that and sponsor someone who actually introduces you to people opens. Doors puts you on the most important teams is constantly talking about you. Those things someone who will go to the mat for you and specifically around the question of likability someone who will provide cover for you know someone who allows you to take big risks. Knowing that it won't be you always hostile to defend the outcomes that will always be you who has to defend the way that you did something. That's huge and a lot of that comes down to whether an organization makes sponsorship or just that type of relationship because I also heard from people who felt that sponsorship was very transactional but who make that really important and that is particularly important for people of color because we want to be sponsored disproportionately and are under sponsored and. That's for a few reasons. One of it is other people of Color in the organization may not want to sponsor someone who's also a person of color for fear of the fact that a look like it's favouritism based on shared identity rather than on merit. There's also a concern on the part of people of color that they just don't have the social or political capital to pull themselves through much less to pull somebody else through sue. Those organizationally are things that may sound really basic but can change a lot of the way that we find ourselves talking about the way that people lead. I like to think of sponsorship as opposed to Mentorship. Mentorship is sort of what you're saying to someone while they're in the room and sponsorship is what that person that that sponsor is saying about you when you're not in the room. I love that and advocating for you in rooms that you either cannot be in or not in especially feel that way as a woman of color how important that is to have sponsors. That don't just look like you but have your best interests as well as your your best career move in mind. I just think sometimes being a little bit transparent about the move. You're trying to make in your career whether it's a promotion a stretch assignment project. A having people who you know will go to bat for you in a room that you can't or won't be in is invaluable. I mean one of the weird things about being in my mid thirties is that sometimes I also have to remind myself that I am now. That person right like you say if a switch. I don't know that anyone tells you when all of a sudden you no longer have a mentor or have a sponsor you like now. You need to start mentoring and sponsoring and so I say that to you know once I am when when I was at a post live I interviewed star Jones and she has a great little tidbit. Which is that if you want a mentor. And she was talking about mentorship but it certainly applies the sponsorship. The you really have to ask someone like will you take me on and will you help be responsible for my career and that a lot of the work and action is actually on the part of the men?.
How '1917' filmmakers made WWI film look like a continuous shot
"A gasp inducing feet of cinematic immersion for director. Sam Mendes Mendes grenades. Movie nineteen seventeen dispatches two British soldiers on a do or die mission across the battle lines and house gates of World War capturing every every step every spine tingling explosion when you walk. She's filming not just watching. Genuinely are experiencing a war film like few in recent memory the second due to attack the line shortly often dawn tomorrow nine hundred seventeen is wage at a time before nations fought with missiles fighter jets. It was unlike any other film I've ever made and and and ever will make probably it's images depicting brutal combat from one hundred years ago as soldiers and their horses came. Face to face with with weaponry are story that you can get lost in can get thrilled by its thrills. Gunfire and perilous adventures made all the more mesmerized because the film appears to consist of a single continuous shot Herculean undertaking conjured up by the mind minded Mendez. What made it the right idea for this movie? It seemed a natural thing to not have any cuts. And that's how I prefer to describe it. A movie with no cuts net rather than one shot movie experiencing every second passing in what is effectively a race against time to aw a century old conflict captured using twenty first century technology cameras carried through muck and debris strategically mounted on techno cranes cream cars and motorcycles. Moving in choreographed chaotic symphony by feel in some way it requires is a different level of emotional investment. You feel okay. Well if I'm here with these guys I'm just GonNa have to live with that and so it seemed to me to put the audience in the shoes of the characters were they. They literally don't know who's telling the truth and what the reality is. What's around the next corner because there's no way of finding out of than going? I got the heart of the film buoyed by solid performances from its to lead roles betrayed not by a-list actors up and comers George Mackay and Dean Charles Chapman Films. You know it's not ah just about the first World War. It's about the human experience what is to be human and I think the context of war is one in which humans are stretched physically and emotionally the absolute limits with such long takes for every shot the cast and crew rehearsed for months before filming. You understand that the focus puller. He's expected to get. Ah every time. The boom operators the cameraman capturing this if his. Timing's out just by a hair. That takes unusable. I think Sam just did a really good job in Mike and Phil let pressure and then a why everybody had pressure even the camera department. The sound caused by out there on Lou. Choreographed down on his weathers waited a carefully. Calculated dance dance but for nine hundred Seventeen Mendez was also drawing on personal history dark tales of the great war as told to him. Once by his grandfather Alfred Menendez it was the and my cousins pestering him thinking we were going to hear stories of heroism and bravery in and you know how he won his medals and it was going to be cool and instead he turned around and and told stories of absolute chaos World War One was supposed to be the war to end all wars golfing dozens of countries and costing millions of lives lives at such a massive scale filmmakers had to construct a world bill to mythic proportions. It built the end over mile of trenches and we filled them with thousands the people and all built around just the actors just these two camera. Operators waded through treacherous terrain. All under the watchful eye of Academy Award winning cinematographer Roger Deakins matching marking his fourth collaboration with Manda every trench had to be measured the exact length every orchard of Reform Foam House. Every town street had to be exactly the right length of the scene because there was no cutting distance jumping
"menendez" Discussed on History of the 90s
"But in the cases of the Menendez brothers their allegations of abuse were not only not accepted as defense. They were wholly dismissed by the the prosecution and in the second trial not even allowed as evidenced by the judge in fact Justice Weisberg referred to the allegations as trivial matters. Attitudes have changed since the nineties but allegations of sex abuse are often still subject to extreme mm scrutiny. Experts say sometimes they're dismissed simply because some people are not psychologically prepared to accept how common common harassment and assault can be and that sometimes people look for reasons to disbelieve. In in the case of Erik and Lyle Menendez people had a hard time believing or comprehending that a father could sexually assault his son during the trial. Defense Attorney Leslie. Abramson suggested the jury would have had a different take on the abuse if the defendant's name was Erica. And Not Eric. The brothers claims were also dismissed in part because they had not been reported before the murders. We know now that child. Sex sex-abuse is widely on reported. In fact only thirty percent of such cases are thought to be disclosed during childhood another reason the prosecution dismissed the self defense case by the brothers was because of how they acted after the murders mainly that over the top shopping spree but does that mean. They weren't tormented by their father today. We know there isn't a correct way to be victim. How people will react to sexual assault or trauma can be vastly different? Those affected can appear calm or flat. One Minute or distraught an angry the next all reactions are possible and maybe we didn't understand this very well in the ninety S. Luckily we do now in the year. Since the Menendez brothers were sent to jail they both got married in fact. Lyle is on his second wife. Lyle L. married former model Anna Eriksson on July second nineteen ninety-six the day. He was sentenced to life in prison but they divorced in twenty eleven after he was reportedly caught cheating by writing letters to another woman. Lyle married Rebecca sneed in two thousand and three and they've been together ever since despite the fact that California doesn't allow conjugal visits for prisoners convicted of murder. Eric found love with single. Oh Mom Tammy ruth soccer men who had been writing to him since his first trial they got married in the prison waiting room in June one thousand nine hundred ninety nine after twenty two years apart. The brothers were reunited in April two thousand eighteen when lyle was transferred to the Richard J Donovan in Correctional Facility in Southern San Diego County where Eric was housed and I would be remiss. If I didn't mention as well that lyle well no longer wears the to pay that he became known for during his trial. The fact that the handsome young man wore a toupee came up during the trial and and became one of the many distractions in the case and it was a bit of a public fascination at the time today lyle has dropped the hairpiece and is completely bolt also. Recently Robert ran the man whose work has helped put this episode together. Spoke with Marta Canto Jose sister an aunt to the brothers. It was her son Andy. Canto who testified at the trial that Eric had confessed to him about Sexual abuse when they were kids sadly anti died of an accidental drug overdose in two thousand three at the age of twenty nine. Marta Canto recently remembered that Eric had written many letters to Andy over the years. Starting when they were kids she invited ran Dan to go through them and he was shocked by what he found. Here's rand reading one of the letters written by Eric to Andy in December nineteen eighty eighty eight eight months before the murders. They've been trying to avoid dead. It's still happening Andy. But it's worse for me now. I can't explain it. He so overweight. Wait I can't stand to see you never know when it's going to happen and it's driving me crazy every night. I say up thinking he might come in. We need to put it out of my mind. I know what you said before. But I'm afraid just don't know dead like he's crazy. He's warned me a hundred times about telling anyone rant has turned the letters letters over to the lawyers representing the brothers. Now they're considering whether to file a new appeal in the case rand is also working on another another possible revelation in the case and suggests that we stay tuned..
"menendez" Discussed on History of the 90s
"Jurors later said in interviews that they would not have gone for murder if they had known own the extent of the abuse before the brothers were sentenced. They gave a memorable jailhouse interview with Barbara. Walters you might have seen it. It's the one when Eric told Walters he was just a normal kid in response. Walters looked incredulous and said Eric Eric. You're just a normal kid who killed his parents. Because the prosecution asked for the death penalty the jury had another job to do after the verdict predict was reached. They had to decide whether the brothers would be executed for their actions. This time family friends coaches and teachers were called to testify about why the brothers should be spared from death in the end. The jury voted for Life Without Parole. After six years of courtroom wrangling. The fate of the Menendez brothers was finally set. The prosecution also asked the judge to who ensure that the brothers were not allowed to serve their time in the same prison. Because they might commit other crimes together this outrage defense lawyer Leslie Abramson Awesome and this is just an attempt to last ditch attempt by the prosecution to inflict even greater punishment on them then with the law prescribes and I see it as is exceedingly cruel and heartless. I don't hear them. Making statements like that about serial killers about baby rapists but because these are highly I'm notorious defendants. Thanks to Y'all they think it's a it's a free for all for inhumanity. The prosecution was granted its request and the brothers were sent sent to separate prisons. The Menendez Brothers did appeal their convictions and in the first one in one thousand nine hundred ninety eight. A state appeals court upheld howled their convictions stating that judge Weisberg did not make any errors when he limited defense testimony about the brothers upbringing. Then in two thousand thousand five a federal court also upheld the convictions but the appeal judge made pretty shocking statement while he was hearing arguments justice. Alex Kozinski suggested there may have been collusion between the La County District Attorney's office and Judge Stanley Weisberg to convict the brothers in the the second trial remember the. Da needed a conviction because of the embarrassment of the not guilty verdicts against LAPD. Officers in the Rodney King case and the Oj Simpson case despite making the comment about collusion. The judge voted to turn down the appeal thanks to a slew of TV specials about the case the two affluent brothers accused of killing their parents have come back to the public's attention there were three Menendez specials in 2017. ABC News aired a two hour documentary called Truth Truth and lies the Menendez brothers American sons American murderers lyle provided a jailhouse interview for the show and he maintained that he'd been abused abused. There was also a lifetime. Movie called Menendez Blood Brothers. Starring Courtney love as outspoken defense. Lawyer Leslie Abramson. And in November twenty seventeen Dick Wolf ventured into true crime for the first time with law and order true crime the Menendez murders I for NBC. If focused on the molestation of the brothers and possible collusion between the DA's office and the judge during the second trial Robert. Ron Who you've been hearing from on this episode worked as a special consultant on the eight part series. Rand was surprised at the reaction to the show. How enduring the law and order? NBC Series Social Media was loud noisy. Every night of the series was on in the fall. Twenty seventeen social media was almost ninety. Five percent. Free them brothers. This is horrible. You know what was done to them during their trials in one thousand nine hundred ninety s Dick Wolf told the Hollywood reporter in August twenty seventeen just before the miniseries aired that when people see this version of events they will reconsider the case he said Yeah. The brothers did it but it wasn't first degree murder without parole it should have been first degree manslaughter. You can't help but wonder if this case was heard now would the outcome be different. Robert Rand believes yes. It might have a different ending today because we have a greater understanding of sexual abuse and family violence. He believes leaves. The brothers should have been convicted of manslaughter. Which means they would likely be out of jail today? A buzzfeed article in two thousand seventeen highlighted that the trials took place decades before the media's exposure of the Catholic Church Sexual Abuse Scandal or the Jerry Sandusky Penn state story in those cases didn't focus on whether the victims were believable or not but that was always at the center of the case against Lyle and Eric were they telling the truth about years of abuse by their father. In fact the buzzfeed article points out the abuse. Allegations were mocked on Saturday. Night live as a carefully. stage-managed Reuss in a sketch where John Malkovich Rob Schneider acted out a parody of their testimony author Dominic Dunn All so suggested it was all an act when he wrote in Vanity Fair. That lyell has all the instincts of a great neurotic actor on the order of Marilyn Monroe. Montgomery clift or Judy Garland of Eric. He noted he did break down but only once in it had but none of the pathos or drama of Lyles I cry. It seemed in the nineties. It was either or when it came to the Menendez brothers. Yes they were either cold blooded killers or tortured victims. They couldn't be both or could they can. Years of sexual abuse use lead someone to murder their parents and then go on a shopping spree afterwards. According to an article in psychology today more than ninety ninety percent of adolescents charged with killing apparent had been a victim of abuse and these youths frequently killed because they could no longer tolerate conditions at home. The killings represented an act of desperation. The only way out of a family situation they could no longer endure. This sounds pretty similar to what has at times been a successful defense in. US and Canadian courts for battered women. The concept of the battered battered women syndrome refers to a woman who following years of abuse has become so traumatized that she is trapped by her own fear and feel she must just kill or be killed. It was legitimized in Canada in Nineteen Ninety six when the Supreme Court of Canada upheld the acquittal of a twenty two year old Manitoba Kobe residents. Who fatally shot her? common-law partner after being terrorized.
"menendez" Discussed on History of the 90s
"Eric testified when they confronted their mom about the abuse. She brushed them off and said she had always known it was happening. The testimony from the brothers was incredibly ably gripping it was hard not to watch this real life miniseries unfolding right before our eyes renowned author Dominic Dunn covered the trial for Vanity Fair. As he would later do with the OJ trial in his eyes. Leslie Abramson was the star of the show the epitome of a tough lady defense attorney. This is what he wrote. There is never an instant when she is not performing and she knows how to play due to the court. TV camera as well as Barbra streisand knows how to play to a movie camera. Up a parade of defense witnesses which included teachers coaches his family members and friends all recalled the brothers childhood as grim and oppressive. They grew up in a house. Where hugs and smiles were rare Jose? Menendez was portrayed as domineering an authoritarian. Well Kitty was depicted as a cold rage filled in with a drug and alcohol. Alcohol Problem Andy Canto. A cousin testified that Eric had confessed to him that his father had touched his privates when they were kids and that he begged Andy not to say anything to anyone. A string of experts in child abuse psychologists psychiatrists and several professors. There's also testified that extensive jailhouse interviews persuaded them to believe that the brothers were telling the truth in the Dan. The two juries spent several weeks trying to come to a unanimous verdict but they were deadlocked split between manslaughter and first degree murder. Finally the judge was forced to declare a mistrial defense lawyer. Leslie Abramson was lauded in the media for the outcome the four foot eleven of an attorney known for her take. No prisoners approach was called the Queen of Miracles by the New York Times. The Washington Post described her as a fire eating mudslinging being nuclear strength. Pain in the legal but Marie-claire magazine declared her one of America's foremost ball busters after the Hungary injury Abramson was sworn by reporters and she was just as feisty outside the courthouse as she was inside. You're able to literally say he or convince some. Some of the people on the jury at least chop abuse here was an excuse for murder. Yeah we never argued that child abuse is an excuse for murder what we argue this child abuse. It creates a terrible fear and that that fear is in a certain set of circumstances can cause people to act because they feel they have no choice we have never said child abuse uses an excuse for La District Attorney. Gil Garcetti who was still aching from the disastrous outcome in the Rodney King beating case and subsequent Quinn La Riots and now that the brothers would be tried again for first degree murder but before the second trial could be scheduled L. A. was gripped By another high profile murder case in June nineteen ninety four five months after the first Menendez trial ended Nicole Brown Simpson and Ron and Goldman were brutally murdered outside. Her condo in Brentwood five days later. Nicole's ex husband. OJ Simpson was charged with the murders following the now infamous slow speed freeway chase and sidebar story OJ and the Menendez brothers both spent time in the La County men's in central jail as they were awaiting core proceedings according to Robert Rans Book at one point O.. J. was in the cell right beside Eric during the week that they were neighbors. The pair talked frequently and Eric even wrote. OJ A letter with advice on how to handle life behind bars. The second trial for the Menendez brothers wouldn't begin for about a year and a half and during that time the spectacle of the OJ Simpson trial and acquittal had taken place in one of the more shocking verdicts of all time. OJ was found not guilty on October. Third One thousand nine hundred ninety five the L. A. District Attorney's office led by Gil. Garcetti took a lot of heat for fumbling. What seemed like an open and shut case ace so that was probably on the? DA's mind when opening statements began in the Menendez brothers retrial. On October Eleventh Nineteen Ninety Ninety five just eight days after the O.. J. Verdict within twenty minutes after the mystery was declared in Menendez one said he was on live. TV stations in la saying we are going to retry. This case misses first degree murder case. We will never back down from his prosecution. The reality is if this had not been a high profile case there never would have been second Menendez trial there would have been a plea deal per maybe second degree murder and everybody would have walked away but because the politics involved immediate wall you know Gilder said he was going to. The second trial was vastly slightly different from the first one. This time the brothers were tried together with only one jury panel and more importantly cameras were banned banned from the courtroom judge. Weisberg who was hearing the case again said. He made the decision in an effort to protect the dignity of the proceedings without the presence of court. TV The twenty week. Retrial almost resembled a regular murder trial with only the occasional moments of drama many legal observers believed that the brothers were at a decided disadvantage in the second trial mainly because the judge excluded most of the sex-abuse excuse evidence prosecutors persuaded the judge to cut short. What they said was unflattering gossip about the parents and the brothers tortured? Richard family life by teachers coaches and acquaintances which often sidetracked the first trial. Basically the most crucial parts of the defense's says case were not allowed as a result the final outcome was completely different on March twenty first nine hundred ninety ninety six five and a half years after the death of their parents. Lyle and Erik Menendez were found guilty of first degree murder..
"menendez" Discussed on History of the 90s
"In July nineteen ninety-three two weeks before the trial was about to start defense lawyer Leslie? Abramson went public about the secret. Krit life of the Menendez family in an article published on the front page of the Los Angeles Times Abramson conceded that the boys had killed their parents once in self defense because they feared for their lives after years of psychological physical and sexual abuse. Aw Story family that D- intergenerational sex-abuse had mental health problems and it was a story of two to dysfunctional parents that raise two very troubled kids and everything ended in terrible tragedy rant believes it was a tactical error for the defense is to wait so long to reveal this information because for many it appeared to be a last minute attempt to explain their behavior something legal scholar color and renowned defense attorney Alan Dershowitz coined as the abuse. Excuse the public had a hard time turning away from the narrative that had been created during the three years between the arrest and the trial in that time several books were published and movies were made and they all portrayed. The brothers as is greedy playboys the media coverage of the case was so pervasive that when jury selection began nearly all of the potential jurors new of the Menendez family and some said they were sure. The brothers were guilty in an effort to change the public perception. Their defense lawyer Leslie. Abramson had the brothers come to court. Each day in matching Pastel colored sweaters. That made them appear younger than they were. Throughout the trial she also referred to them as the boys in an effort to remind jurors they were just eighteen and twenty one. When the crimes occurred? The brothers were tried together but in an unusual move to separate. Juries heard the same case one for the Eric and one for Lyle. That's because some of the evidence didn't apply to both defendants in another unusual move. The judge allowed the trial trial to be carried. Live on court. TV One robotic camera would be set up in the courtroom to cover the proceedings court. TV was fairly new. It was launched in Nineteen ninety-one by lawyer and journalist Steven Brill and it provided viewers with live coverage of trials and commentary from experts. The first big case they carried gavel-to-gavel was the sex assault trial of William Kennedy Smith. Unfortunately for the network that case only lasted ten days days so they weren't able to fully test the public's interest in watching a lengthy trial from start to finish the Menendez case which was expected to last for months would be the first true test of the format and it passed with flying colors. Brill told rolling stone in two thousand seventeen. The Menendez trial was the one that proved people would be interested in watching big trials even without a celebrity. If the circumstances were dramatic enough people would be captivated critics of cameras in courtrooms have argued they add pressure to the proceedings and ultimately turn trials into into entertainment similar to sit coms soap operas and game shows. The Menendez trial proved that to be true to in fact people watching the trial. I became so obsessed that the La District Attorney's office got fifty calls a day from citizens offering opinions on how to prosecute the brothers for viewers. This case was like watching a reality show that asked for audiences input think about American idol or dancing with the stars When opening statements began on July Twentieth Nineteen ninety-three spectators lined up to get seats inside the courtroom for one of the most talked about trials in in the country reporters and crews from around the world arrived at the courthouse in Van Nuys? California to cover the case. There were just twelve seats reserved served for media inside the small courtroom. The rest of the reporters had to watch a satellite feed on TV monitors in a building a block away author. Robert Ran Dan. Who you've been hearing from in this episode one of the twelve reporters inside the courtroom watching the proceedings? Giving him a front row seat to the case as has the trial began the lead attorney for the prosecution. Pam Sandwich painted a picture of young men driven by greed and the fear that their father had written them. I'm out of his will prove to you. Allow men is planned. This murder provided false identification for the purchase of two shotgun. Set up an alibi. Acquired ammunition repeated the alibi to the police shortly after the crime and then set off to spend the money which he had acquired through the killings of his parents parents. Based upon this evidence it will become apparent that this murder was unlawful unjustified and wholly premeditated and that it was accomplished conspiracy into which allow Menendez entered with his brother and that but for a few mistakes they made is was almost the perfect murder. Thank you the defense countered that it was far from perfect murder. Leslie Abramson told jurors that experts would testify that the crime scene was was a prime example of an overkill committed by someone who is experiencing deep fear. Someone like Erik Menendez. Who had lived a lifetime time of sexual abuse by his father? The defense admitted the brothers killed their parents. But said they were reacting to a lifetime living in a shared warzone. Abramson said they killed in pure terror. An pure panic Erik Menendez was the abused son of wealthy a fee parents. He killed his parents because he could no longer endure their abuse and had to stop it when he did that. He unwittingly made himself a threat to everything his parents valued. He put himself in mortal danger when he sensed that danger was imminent his instincts to survive. Took over this would be the crux of the defense case. The Menendez brothers killed their parents because they were afraid. It was an act of self-defence so first degree murder should be off the table in the week before the killings air confessed to his brother that their father was still molesting him on a regular basis. Something that he had said started when when he was six years old. Lyle testified that he thought that their father had stopped abusing eric so he was surprised to hear otherwise he he told the court that he too had been a victim and that their father had sexually abused him as well between the ages of six and eight when lisle took the stand he told the court he confronted. Jose Menendez three days before the fateful August night. He threatened to tell outsiders about the alleged alleged abuse. If it didn't stop said What I do with my son is none of your business and I warn you? Don't throw your life away to stay out of it. I told him that I would tell everybody. Tell I would tell everybody everything everything about him. I would tell the police and that I would tell the family he said we all make choices in life. Son Eric made his. You've made yours. And then it just looked at me and he got up. We've I thought we were in danger. I thought he he had no. He felt he had no choice but to what that he will kill us that he would get rid of us in some way because he thought I was going to run in extremely emotional testimony. Both brothers described the abuse. They had suffered over the years at the hands of their father. They struggled to get words out often fighting back tears. Here's Leslie Abramson Abramson questioning Eric. What do you believe was the originating cause of you and your brother ultimately winding ending up shooting your pants me telling you telling taught me while that You telling well. What visit you telling lyle about something that was happening?.
"menendez" Discussed on History of the 90s
"As their parents tucked into watch a movie on a late August evening in nineteen eighty nine. The Menendez Brothers Matt at Eric's car parked on the street in front of their house inside the car were a pair of Mossberg twelve gauge shotguns. They had bought the day before the brothers loaded the guns and and rant the house. They burst into the family room where their parents were watching. The movie Eric entered. I began firing. Lyle followed followed behind. Jose jumped up and yelled no no no a shot. Blew away his left thigh. He fell back on the coach which the brothers kept firing. Jose Menendez was shot point blank. In the back of the head. Kitty Menendez managed to survive the first round out of bullets and attempted to crawl away but neither would escape. The barrage of bullets five to Jose's hadn't body and nine to kitties face and body. According to witnesses it left them virtually unrecognizable. Lyle and Erik Menendez says rain fire on their parents stopping to reload when they ran out of bullets then they calmly picked up all of the shell casings and left after dumping the weapons and their bloody clothes. The brothers I drove to a movie theater and bought tickets for the movie Batman next they drove to a food festival in Santa Monica to meet up with a friend in an attempt to establish an alibi but when they couldn't find the friend they returned home around eleven forty seven seven PM. That's when lyle placed a frantic call to nine one one problem. Ask people it shocked. When the first officers arrived on the scene they found the brothers? Were hysterical Eric Punch the ground and rammed his head against a tree you at the time Beverly Hills was not exactly a hotbed for crime. Logging only two murders a year. This might explain why investigators Peter's didn't think to check the brothers hands for gunshot residue instead. They focused on something. Lyle said he suggested that his father's there's business dealings may have provoked. The killings officers had noted that the scene looked like a gangland style massacre. They thought it wouldn't be not much of a stretch. If the killings were mafia related. You see there was something else. Police believe the previous owners of the company Jose worked worked for had mob connections. which wasn't that uncommon in the video distribution business because of its ties to the adult movie industry the rumors and innuendo spread pretty quickly? There were even a few people who thought that Cuban dictator Fidel Castro might have been behind the slayings slayings but at least one officer thought something was off about the brothers. Their hysteria seemed overboard and there. There were some inconsistencies in their story. Plus not long after the shocking murders. Lyle and Erik went on a crazy shopping spree. We just four days after the killings. They use their Dad's American Express card to spend about fifteen thousand dollars on three Rolex watches. They stayed in a thirteen hundred dollar a night suite at the Hotel Bel Air. Then when they received half a million dollars in life insurance money they bought new vehicles vehicles. Lyle Gray sixty four thousand dollar special edition Porsche Carrera. Replacing his old Alfa Romeo and Eric bought a Tan Jeep Wrangler. They even spent money on courtside tickets to the Knicks at Madison Square Garden. which at the time was one of the hottest tickets in town? Evidence of their spending was well documented. But if you don't believe me just check out. Legendary Point Guard Mark Jackson's nineteen ninety trading reading card. You'll see lyle and eric sitting front row as Johnson sets up one of his mythical teardrop shots crazy and so was the spending by the brothers about seven hundred thousand dollars in five months not surprisingly that raised a few red flags journalist and author. Robert Rand had his first meeting with the brothers during this time period in October. Nineteen eighty-nine two months after the murders orders. He sat down with them at their parents mansion. They were fit tanned and dressed in their tennis whites so we spend about an hour talking working together. They told me loving stories about the parents. Lyles did ninety percent of the talking a few times. Eric did talk. You would look over to lyle as if am I doing okay but I had no reason to be suspicious than they were not suspects publicly Their stories were emotional channel loving and caring but police were suspicious and in March nineteen ninety seven months after Jose. And Kitty Menendez were gunned down. They announced the arrest of their oldest son Lyle. Eric was out of the country at a tennis tournament and was on his way back to the. US would also be arrested. Did in connection with the grisly killings within twenty four hours the story blew up around the world up until all the arrest the murderers of Jose and Kitty had mainly been a local Los Angeles story but now with the arrest of their handsome young sons it was an international national media sensation. At a news conference. Police told reporters they had investigated all potential leads. The focus it became very clear on The two sons and I might say that Over the or the month we've gathered a lot of evidence Has Been Very circumstantial and we were waiting for the glue. You will find it all together and just recently that glue has come about and I feel that we have a very tight you might have heard. Reporters asking almost in unison. What is the glue? Police wouldn't answer the question publicly. Then but here's what was going on behind the scenes they. They had found out that on October. Thirty First Nineteen eighty-nine ten weeks after the murders Erik Menendez had met with psychologist. Dr Jerome hozeal remember. Remember him he was the one who counseled the Menendez family after Eric was caught burglarizing houses with other rich teens in the valley. Eric told the doctor Dr he was having an extremely difficult time. Dealing with the death of his parents he'd lost weight and was having vivid nightmares with images of their bodies after talking for about an hour. Doctoral zeal and Eric went outside for a walk. According to Rans book as the walk was ending. Kirk leaned against a parking meter and let out a deep sigh. Then he said we did it. Ozzie lost you mean you killed your parents. Eric answered I answered. Yes over the next few weeks. The doctor met with both brothers several times. Sometimes he taped the sessions and other times he he made recorded audio notes after the fact about what they had told him under California law the doctor was not obligated to tell police so he didn't now this is where things start to get a bit complicated and pretty distracting to the case. Actually there was a lot of things about the story that were distracting and if you followed them all the way they could lead down a path that to be honest lead you nowhere sensational tidbits that that might be true but aren't totally relevant to this story. So in some instances I have left them out focusing on the evidence that matters most for example doctor. Zeal married father of two was having an affair with a woman. By the name of Judah Lon Smith you can go down a rabbit hole about Dr Zeal and Smith crazy allegations from both about the other everything from kidnapping to drugging allegations that would later seep into the Menendez trial L. end bogged down. But what matters most is that Judy. Lon Smith would be the one who eventually went to police and told them that the Menendez brothers had confessed. Here's Robert Rant Jude Lund. Smit rack the Menendez case and she told the police the Menendez brothers. There's did they killed their parents and doctoral. Zeal has notes and an actual so-called therapy tape with the brothers voices confessing other than those tapes. Police didn't have much more to go on. There was no physical. Evidence tying the brothers to the murders the the whole case basically hinged on the tapes. So that's why the defense fought tooth and nail to keep them out of court for three years between nineteen ninety in one thousand nine hundred ninety three. They argued that the tapes were covered by doctor patient privilege in an unprecedented and controversial decision. The courts eventually ruled against the defense and allowed the tapes to be used as evidence because Dr Oziel believed that the brothers had threatened him. I'm during the tape sessions. The doctor patient privilege was waived under California law. The privilege ends if the therapist believes the patient and is an imminent danger to himself or others while lawyers were in court battling over the tapes. The police and district attorney were. We're steadfast about the motive behind the killings. They said the brothers killed their parents because they wanted to get their hands on. Jose's fourteen million dollar estate state. You have to remember. There was no internet. There was no social media in high profile cases back before the Internet and social media the typically. DA's office or police department would set the agenda in a high profile case the DA's office has a dozen people catoon nothing but public relations in their job is to put out their spin on the case and I believe personally that their job is to poison the potential jury pool and so the combined a message from the Beverly Hills Police and the DA's office was really rich. Kids Kill Ozzie and Harriet. On a Sunday night Beverly Hills in. That was never the real story behind the scenes Eric. Lyle had come to a decision. They must reveal what had been happening behind closed doors for many many years it was time to tell the world about the burden they had been in carrying the brothers. I disclosed their secret to their lawyer and then their family soon. They're shocking allegations would stun everyone in. who had been following the case.
"menendez" Discussed on History of the 90s
"The ninety seemed to be filled with high profile criminal trials that captured the public's imagination the OJ Simpson. In trial. Is probably the first one that comes to mind. But before Marcia Clark and Johnny Cochran were battling it out in an l a courtroom there was another another jaw-dropping case that unfolded live on TV. One that featured a lively cast of characters and turned real life tragedy into entertainment. In fact it was this case that cleared the way for a televised trial and first foreshadowed our fascination Shen with true crime docu series and reality TV on this episode. We're going to take a second look at the murder. Trials of Erik and Lyle Menendez and ask the question if the brothers stood trial today would there be a different outcome in light of our current understanding of sexual abuse use and family violence. You'll hear from journalist and author Robert Rand. He's been working on the Menendez story for thirty years. He was one of twelve journalists allowed in the courtroom in one thousand nine hundred ninety. And he's uncovered incredible new evidence that could have altered the result of the trial l.. But first let me take you back and tell you about the family at the center of this case. Jose Menendez a Cuban urban emigrant was living the American dream as a successful Hollywood executive he moved to the US when he was a teenager and he went to college on a swimming scholarship. That's where he met Mary Louise Anderson a former beauty queen who everyone called Kitty and soon they were married Jose was ambitious. He was smart and sometimes pretty ruthless but his drive was undeniable and he went from being a part time dishwasher at the famous twenty one club to being chief operating officer of RCA records. That's where he helped sign a few big names including the ARRHYTHMIC durant Iran and Latin boy. Band menudo meanwhile. Kitty was a stay at home mom and was raising their sons lyle. Lyle and Erik Jose drilled into the boys the importance of success and achievement. He made the memorize passages from self help books. And he demanded they carry on intellectual conversations at dinner. Jose Menendez was nearing controlling. There were eye witnesses Sousse to physical verbal and emotional abuse. That's journalist and author Robert Rand. We'll be relying on his book. The Menendez murders for many of the details in this episode. He says when the brothers were twelve and nine Jose started them on a physically demanding regime in an effort to turn them into tennis pros does he hired expensive coaches and he supervised practices. There were several Anecdotes told by people. Jose just lost his temper as matches he'd be He'd be on the sidelines pacing back and forth yelling at her son during bestmattress and there was one incident worthwhile Lost an important test match and was punched him and then knocked him down to the ground and broken shoulder. Jose didn't allow his sons to have close friends. He said they were a distraction and as they got older he controlled who they dated. And what and and where they studied for him it was imperative that the boys got good grades so much so that Jose and Kitty would do their homework all the way through high school to ensure top marks in nineteen eighty-six. Jose moved the family from New Jersey to California. He had landed a new job at the movie company. Carolco pictures which among other things produced the Rambo movies. Eventually Jose would run. The company's Video Distribution Distribution Division called live entertainment in California Lila. Eric who were now handsome. Athletic teenagers started to rebel against their father. They fell in with a crowd of rich privileged teens in the San Fernando Valley who robbed houses for fun much like the lingering in the the two thousands. The teens including Eric were caught by police. Jose hired a high profile criminal. Defense attorney to arrange a deal for Eric it included probation community service. Plus the family was required to seek counseling. That's when the Menendez family I met a Beverly Hills psychologist colleges by the name of Dr Jerome Hozeal. He would soon play a much bigger and important role in the lives of lyle and Eric after through the robberies Jose decided the family needed to get out of the valley so he moved them to a spacious mansion. Block away from Rodeo drive in Beverly Hills during this time Kitty Menendez struggled. She had discovered that her husband was having an affair and she turned to alcohol Xanax as a way way of coping with anxiety and depression. She'd never been a very warm parent but now she became even more distant blaming her son's funds for her marital problems. In the fall of Nineteen eighty-seven Lyle Menendez got accepted at Princeton University for Jose this was the culmination of all his hard work. His dream of having a son attend an Ivy League. School was coming to fruition but soon that dream became a nightmare nightmare when lyle was accused of plagiarizing a paper in his first semester. He was suspended but he was allowed to return the next year. Meanwhile back in California. Eric completed his senior year at Beverly Hills High School. He was on the tennis team and he had a solid B. average he planned to attend. Ucla the next fall. You wanted to live on campus but at the last minute his dad had told him he wasn't allowed he he would have to live at home. By the summer of Nineteen eighty-nine. Despite their many ups and downs. The Menendez family seemed to be doing okay at at least from the outside Eric was spending his summer break playing in tennis tournaments around the country. Well Lyle was back from Princeton unwinding at home home by the end of that summer the family would be rocked by an unbelievable tragedy.
"menendez" Discussed on The View
"New bombshell. We'll be right back. Welcome back so salmon's reporter Manu Raju asked Arizona Arizona. Senator Martha mcsally about new evidence for the impeachment trial. It didn't go. Well Watch in your thoughts. Look honestly know senator. No Congressperson likes to be Followed in the hallways asked a question. It was a very reasonable question he was asking should there be new. Evidence considered considered by the Senate Laura Ingraham mass last night to her as well. It was a it was a very legitimate reasons. I'm just saying it's a question that shouldn't be difficult one if you're adding. I'm not a lawyer while she trial what you do. I don't know why she did it but I I can tell you I you know if you're in Arizona and if you're in the rest of the country you like what she did. Did you know what you can do. You can donate to her if you don't like what she did. You can donate to mark Kelly. Who is currently leading her by two points the Arizona member Martha Marceca Kabq? Sally lost by a little bit over two points to Thurston cinema. The first Democrat to be elected to the Senate Arizona in decades. Yeah so she's on Thin Nice. She noticed the mega from your stage. She was actually appointed. She didn't not see that's important after you. Yes she. She didn't earn it. I mean in the traditional sense with boats and she doesn't have an extremely tight race Arizona can turn blue. which will I mean like Duh? You know pigs are flying around the studio that ends up happening. I never thought I'd see the day day but it she is fundraising off of this With trump supporters. But unfortunately there's a lot of states like Utah like Arizona like Nevada chased just assume are going to be full red forever and it's not it's very independent. It's sort of fringy and I think there's a reason why it has such a long history especially in Arizona with people like Barry Goldwater base and I actually think she's playing her cards completely Lee wrong. And You do Co. one hundred percent. I think this is not the right way to do it. But do you know who's playing it completely. Right is my other senator. Kristen cinema with her fashion choices on the congressional floor. I think we have it. Look at her other center. We'll get that outfit and how I love everything she's doing she's very independent. She's a Democrat but she's like very votes on the right as as well and I think she should take more pages from Kristen's this mix. Sally took a page from Trump's book by attacking the press. It's like a dictatorship move. You know you attack attack the press. He's a good but she was going after CNN not motto thankless job being Capitalistic Wash. The enemy is the question ashamed on behalf of the people of the United States and the people of her State. Yeah so if she you know she can't answer a simple question. He's the wrong journal. Out of the kid hack maybe Sarong type of guy.
"menendez" Discussed on Today in True Crime
"Now back to the story on December Seventh Nineteen Ninety two twenty two year old Eric Menendez and his twenty four year old brother. Lyle were indicted on two counts of murder for killing their parents. Despite rock solid evidence from the prosecutors. The case wasn't as simple as is it should have been although they were charged with the same crimes Erik and lyle had to be tried separately however because many of the witnesses would would be involved in both trials. The two juries would hear testimony at the same time. The trials officially began on July twentieth. Nineteen ninety-three if Erik and lyle were found guilty they would be eligible for the death sentence. The defense new denying denying that the brothers had killed their parents would be a fool's errand rather than fight the facts. They decided to re frame them. If the lawyers. Here's successfully introduced enough doubt in the jurors minds. It could save the brothers lives. The Menendez brothers weren't too deranged arranged siblings who killed their parents in cold blood. No they were traumatized. Children who suffered years of physical Oh and sexual abuse at their parents hands. When the Brothers Killed Jose and Kitty Menendez Day. Were merely fighting back. According to their testimonies they planned the killings After Eric revealed to lyle that their father had been sexually abusing him for twelve years. Lyle to had allegedly suffered their father's abuse as a child after confronting their father for what he did. They believed they had to kill him in order to save their own lives for the argument to stick. The defense lawyers had to prove ooh Erik and lyle were in imminent danger if they could convince the jurors then the charges could be reduced to manslaughter. Instead of first I agree murder because there was no hard evidence to prove their case. The defense turned to testimony from teachers friends. Family and the child abuse experts the goal was to paint Jose and Kitty Menendez as violent monsters. Who repeatedly threatened their sons lives chiefs however the prosecution was ready for them under cross examination. They were able to poke holes in Eric and lyles stories on several occasions. The brothers got caught in lies and inconsistent stories. It was a long drawn out battle after a six month trial on January tenth. Nineteen ninety. Four Eric's jury announced their verdict. They hadn't and been able to come to a decision. The jury was officially deadlocked. Even though the evidence that Jose and Kitty Menendez were abusive was flimsy. At best enough doubted entered the jurors minds that they were unable to come to a unified decision. The jury in Lyles is. Trial was deadlocked as well. Against all odds the defense's Gambit had worked for the moment. Aw because the juries were deadlocked the judge presiding over the case ordered a retrial. But this time Erik and delile would be tried together. The case was far simpler the second time around with the new judge restricting media in the courtroom the joint trial had much less publicity and although it took a further two years Eric. Lyle were declared guilty of murder on April seventeenth. Nineteen Ninety six. The entire process had taken seven years. The Menendez brothers avoided the death sentence. But we're still sentenced to life in prison with no real evidence to back up their claims that their parents were abusive. The impression impression most people took from the case was that Erik and Lyle Menendez were little more than two spoiled brats who were so delusional that they thought they could get away with literal murder but even with all the money in the world the Menendez brothers were unable to escape escape justice for them. The days of Rolex watches and fancy cars are long gone replaced by a tiny cell..
"menendez" Discussed on 10% Happier with Dan Harris
"She's a TV news anchor currently on MSNBC but she before that has been on vice ABC News Fusion Bustle PS. She's young. We'll young for me aged mother of two Harvard degree or dad is a US senator. So she's on the surface at least she's she's got her stuff together and yet here. She has struggled for a long time with specific the civic kind of insecurity at work just weighed down by overthinking an excess focus on likeability and what others think of her. She has written a new book called the likability trap which was just published yesterday. And it's all about and I'm going to quote her exactly Ackley here. It's all about this dynamic in the workplace where and I'm quoting women are constantly doing this dance of being told there too much or not enough and they need to modulate. She calls calls it the goldilocks conundrum. Where either you're too cold or too hot and it's never just right Before if if you're a dude and you're listening to this and you're thinking okay well there's not going to be anything for for me here. Let me just say that if you are married to a female or you you have a daughter or a mom. WHO's in the workplace and you want to play a useful role? This is an interview for you to listen to. And if you find that Psychology is describing describes how you are in the world. She's got lots of interesting strategies that she has employed. Personally that you'll be able to hear about in in this discussion we talk about the aforementioned likability trap which is Actually a series of ability traps as she explains. We talk about the structural imbalance in feedback for women and men in in the workplace. which got me thinking about the the massive difference in the kind of feedback I get is a male news anchor as opposed opposed to my female colleagues and we talk about As I said things for men to consider in how they perceive and engage with women in the workplace. Replace a lot here and she is as you're about to hear just a sharp mind and a really good storyteller so here we go. Here's Menendez thanks for doing this. Thanks good to see you. Tell me your personal story of why you got interested in this issue of likability I am a very sensitive person so so I am probably just very naturally predisposed to caring about other people how I make other people feel some of. That's probably because I am cancer. You're an I N F J like I'm very I N F introverted intuitive feeler judger. It's one of those Myers Briggs things but but if you say they had to someone who does that type of organizational psychology cancer. You know what I mean is that when I was young and reading the back of Seventeen magazine and they would tell me my astrological sign. Oh is sort of added up hard on the outside soft on the inside and then I am a woman who grew up in America America and across cultures and certainly in our culture. We socialize girls who become women into carrying about other's feelings and what others others think of them and I think there's value in that right like I think it is good for us to be aware of others. The challenges when that becomes hyperfocused is that dominates the choices you make in your life if you add then on top of all of that. I'm a public person and I think more and more of us are public people these days. Meaning you if you have a twitter better accountant instagram account. That's public facing. Then you're a public person and so I was getting not just the feedback that you'd get as a worker in an office but also all the feedback. You got as a person who appears on people's televisions in smartphones about what I wore what I looked like what I was saying And how other people felt about that. I felt the need for myself to put that all in context in order I originally imagined the likability trap to be one of these like eat. Pray Love Books. I would go on some incredible life journey and Comeback Not caring about whether or not other people like me which I was. Sounds Way more fun than the book that actually wrote Because once I started talking I sort of imagined as a care that all women care and then I would meet women and interview interview them and they're like oh I don't give him. But even those women felt that they paid a price for being so brazenly themselves and what I came to realize. Is that if you live in a society where women are supposed to care if you go into a workplace where women are supposed to care and you don't meet those expectations than you still pay a price. And that's when my focus shifted to the workplace so you you saw that even if you were able to magically convince yourself not to care it wouldn't fix everything because people you'd be punished for not caring correct so at work a minute this when it feels like we sort of know this strong women women who are assertive who are comfortable with. Confrontation are constantly given this feedback that they need to tone it down smile a little bit more talk about things in the context of the team. Mirroring Mirroring A to you as I do it. And then that women who are very warm communal who sort of meet all these expectations of what we have of women are told that they need to dial up their strength. Frank set a certain way and a meeting so that they're taken more seriously and thought of as leadership material and so women are constantly doing this dance of being told there too much or not enough and they need to modulate women like myself have confusingly been given both sets of feedback which tells you how subjective and context specific that feedback is and so you know a woman who is like screw it. I'm just GonNa do me often then runs into you know penalties in the Office for being not GonNa fix the printer. You fix it. You know like those those things add up over time and then the other problem which you will totally really get is not caring is an active process. We talk about not caring as those just like. Just sit down. Make a choice for yourself like this. Instagram me. m- about doing you and then you'll be fixed and you can't be someone like me who for thirty six years has cared what other people think about you and then make a one time choice to not care and suddenly be alleviated of this problem so I want to hear more about how this played out for you totally so interesting because I mean I don't know you well. I met you a few times but see watching from a distance. You're surprised that I care this much. Yeah I mean and not that you come off as somebody who's doesn't care but you just seem like you just got together so you to me you seem like a star and so Not that caring makes you not a star but you you project an intelligence and a confidence and put together this that I wouldn't have guessed I'm makes me. It makes me like even more now that I know of what's going on beneath the surface but it's so interesting for small. Thank you for that because I think that is part of the the irony so I'm glad that my performance of self-confidence has landed so well But that is part of what we learned so for me I think part of his. I grew up in Union City New Jersey. It is the best people are from Union city and You know it's a it's a working class community. I I grew up upper middle class. My Dad is an elected official on my mom's a public schoolteacher at it. It's not a tough town. But there are elements of it that are Gritty Eh. You know because people are doing what they need to in order to survive super-sensitive kid was taught sort of very early like you need to deal with the sensitivity like you can't be crying every day in class like you're GONNA get your butt kicked in some capacity in so toughness for me is in some ways something that I have learned Or at least learned the performance ornaments toughness. And I think for lots of women. It's a performance that we learned. We go to work that all of a sudden you need to be able to operate in a space where leadership has been defined by what we perceive as very masculine qualities And that you can't ever say I'm overwhelmed or I'm I'm not sure because those then become their own vulnerabilities so for me. I think yeah part of what I've always liked being being on air is that it means you've got to be on for what forty five minutes a day and then you can go be the self. You are a lot of the other time right where it's like. Oh there's a sort of a mess and unlike wearing stretch pants and I didn't do my hair and I and you know and there's a there's a tidiness to being on air words like that light goes on on and you're on and then it goes off and you can. You can be off like if you're sort of a quiet introverted person. You can go back to being a quiet introverted person. For a part of the day I wanted a management assessment. That I thought was really helpful to where they would that you answer all these questions and I have no idea what these questions things are adding up to. Have you ever taken one of these like multiple choice and and and you know this person comes back to you with an assessment and it shows you sort of a dot of how you naturally are an dot of how you present in the office and then an Arrow and it shows you how much you're self correcting erecting from the way that you are naturally too the way that your office environment asks you to be in so the person doing analysis was like so. You're very introverted. Introverted person who was overcompensating to be very extroverted in the environment that you're in and I was like yes like that is exactly right. And he's like you're really really tired at the end of the day. Are you and those like. Oh my God yes. I'm so tired every day and I thought that was just because you know my life's busy and there's a lot of work and he was like no he's like this is a big big part of it. Is that you correct. And he's like. You're probably not wrong that you need to make that correction but that correction does come at a price. The other thing you said that I found really illustrative to your point about seeming one way and feeling another is that he's like you're very comfortable confronting people in power our and you're very comfortable confronting people on behalf of the group. You have a lot more trouble with confrontation that is lateral to you or even with people that you manage Um and so I think that is some of it is that the like self presentation is is one where it's imagining that got that dynamic with someone who who has power questioning those in power in an actual office environment you know. I'm not as good at saying like I needed at that. Ten minutes ago to somebody who works for you are there signal moments that stand out in your life where this desire to be liked. It really messed you up jammed you up..