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Fresh update on "melissa" discussed on Wisconsin's Afternoon News with John Mercure
"Earlier today this morning, joining us in studio Steve Wexler v P and market manager for M. J and ESPN Milwaukee Craig Karmazin's here is well, the CEO. Good common brands, and we have some two new teammates in the studio as well. Wax went on, lets you kind of set the scene again. What happened today? Yeah, well, hey, Eric Melissa, We've been making the rounds today talking about something that you don't get a chance to talk about, often in broadcasting, which is the launch of a Randy Radio station. Ah, brand new idea, actually for our market, And it was an idea that Craig, our founder and CEO first brought to me. I guess that was made Craig when you and I were chatting outside the Milwaukee Police Department administration building, and since then it really grew. It went from Could we should We, too? Yeah, we kind of need to and have to as a locally owned. Locally operated broadcaster and company that has such deep roots in our community. It's rare that I hear from so many people around the country about Wisconsin, which is amazing that we were already on a path. To doing what we're doing Well before Jacob Blake and everything that happened there, you know is the painful year for so many people first with Cove it and then you know everything. That's happened from George Floyd on through, and so once we decided to do this, we knew we had Teo. So it was. One of those things were like we have W. T. M J, which is Wisconsin's radio station. But what if we could create Milwaukee's radio station for Ah, a city that You know is you know is predominantly black and didn't in my opinion, have a voice or that community when things were terrible, right, And that's when you realize that there are so many voices out there that want to be heard. But there is in that platform for those voices, and that really was the driving force to do this. So for those who don't know what's the new radio station, so 1017 the truth will be the new radio station. If you put it on now, it's It's not it is you'll hear soon. He has the end radio for now, which is fine with Major.
WW2 Era Bomber [B-25] Crashes Near Stockton Airport
"World War Two era bomber a B twenty five crashes near Stockton Airport. And this is from ABC ten dot. COM Stockton. California World War. Two era bomber crashed about five miles away from Stockton Metroplitan. Airport on Saturday night San Joaquin County sheriff's officials said Sheriff's officials said the pilot tried to land and a field before striking a ditch the plane received significant damage in the crash officials said, three people were on board the plane to receive non life threatening injuries while another person was able to walk away. Fine the fine the two injured occupants were transported to the local hospital. NTSB and F. A. A. Officials will take over the investigation into why the plane crashed. And we have some audio and let me set this up a little bit from live ATC dot net when they're traveling on these these old warbirds warbirds. They usually have like a chase airplane somewhere following them for support and such, and in this case, it's a bonanza. The the the be twenty five started in Chino and flew up to northern California stopped at the nut tree vacaville airport for a bit, and then took off again and was heading over to stockton to have some repairs done to the airplane. There's A. Depiction of the of the flight, the latter part of the flight to nut tree in Vacaville, and then over the Stockton, and then after the repair work is going to be accomplished remains work whatever it was. They were GONNA do at Stockton they're going to return to the east coast where it's based. and. Let's see. So let's play a little bit of the live ATC video. Audio and again, you'll hear the bonanza flight. That'll be the first thing you here and then you'll well as the only thing you'll hear and then the. Conversation with air traffic. Control. And Five for. This house was. Hurt another aircraft on have had mentioned barriers end up in a real you have A. Four six Charlie on your. Show. Costs on my radar. because. Go beyond. Their. Back. 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There's the. Exciting. audio there in the chase plane. Giving the information thankfully. The chase plane was out there and was able to locate. The be twenty five in help direct emergency services to the location another your news reports say. The injuries are not life threatening. I don't know if you call it minor or not. It depends on. Report you're looking at here. Bet. The third occupant was not injured. I'm hoping that it looks like. By the way if you have a link to this in the show notes. One Brown the Block Leo. Channel did. A really nice video of this and he has got a lot of interesting information about the airplane and the fact that had just returned. Remember we talked about earlier show the World War, two era bombers or aircraft that were on the Essex L. HD navy ship that was heading over to Hawaii. To Commemorate the seventy fifth anniversary of the end of World War Two and Hawaii It had just that was one of the airplanes they. Put It on a crane and put it on the the deck of the L. HD and it sailed over to Hawaii. They did the comeback. So basically, this is all glories getting ready to return all the way to its home on the East Coast and. let's say the. So he had some other interesting photos of where the be twenty five ended up in a ploughed field, and if it hadn't been for that irrigation ditch it would have been a much better. Outcome and does you know it still doesn't look like there's a Well I. Guess. If you're looking at the engines that were torn off against the damage is quite extensive on the engines but I'm hoping what I'm trying to say is I hope that they'll be able to. Scrap the thing completely, it'll be able to fix it but I don't know. It's great. History. Escape. Doesn't I. Mean. There are people out there who are willing to build a new aircraft will build well, two aircraft. A very small amount some the this is a complete more or less So I'm sure that somebody in who who has got the money and there are plenty of people out there who loves this sort of thing Bail to fund it, but it's just a it's just a tragic. Result
Fresh update on "melissa" discussed on Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network
"The small boy thoughtfully. You mean it's a female. And in Boston, police are looking for a thief who did his dirty work in the downtown store window before hundreds of shoppers, the man took a five, hundred, eighty, seven, dollar mink stole from the of a dummy at noon. Shoppers watching an eight hundred with somebody working. In those, some of the day's top news stories reported in the newspapers Tuesday September twenty ninth nineteen forty-three on your Radio Dragnet, which continues now on Classic Radio Theater you WanNa Stack in the beginning and tell me what happened. I said I forged man's name with check digit. Yes. But you've got to understand I didn't have any money. GonNa, take my car away from me. I'm behind my rant here I owe money all my credits were hounding me. I thought if I could just get a little money to pay the bills and I could pay it back when I got a job. I was GONNA pay back all of it. I really was how much was the CIA two hundred and fifty dollars whose name did you sign a man? I know I gotTA check and signed his name. He has the my I was gonNA pay him back. I have a job coming up soon as I got paid I was going to put the money back. I didn't mean any harm. I knew it was wrong but it was the only thing I can think of they were hounding me. What about that car? Couldn't you sell it I suppose. So but then if I did I wouldn't be able to get my job I needed my car for that. I had to keep the machine. You'll have a trial if you tell them what happened, they'll probably understand the coral making the lounge. I've had a trial I told them I was guilty that I. Did for a check told me I had to go to jail. You said you've been imprisoned before. Yes. Five years and ask it where was that in Czechoslovakia? Put me in prison because I wouldn't do what they told me. They killed my father and my mother, and then put me in prison. I know what it's like I'm not going back on the prisons here aren't concentration camps you all that is what you say I know different I've lived in them you see here. She is fourteen front. Yes. I. See them La. False. Is that right? My last when I was kicked by God you know why was kicked? You know why he did it no because my clothes were torn that's the reason he kicked me I told my clothes. So knock my four front teeth that's all over now and things like that. Don't happen here maybe not up in front of people but the happened in the prisons. I'm not GonNa Happen to me again there there were eight hundred of us all arrested at the same time eight, hundred Mr us. Eight hundred men people I knew. Eight hundred human beings, homes, and families. And I'm the only one alive now all the rest were killed. All taken a book of model run through the showers and don't tell me about prisons Mr Hughes I know I've lived in them. Yes you remember the name of the judge sentenced to here on the forgery charges. Let me call them. Let me get him over here and talk this thing over we work something out. There's no reason for you to do a thing like you're planning here. It's not that important maybe not to you isn't anybody we can work something out here. Let me call know sit down Mr us. Look I'm not a stupid man. I have degrees from three universities I speak four languages. I spent five years jumping every town regard looked at me five years wishing kill me. Five years wishing I could live in hell because it'd be much better than the way things were now they think they're going to send me back. They're not. You understand that don't you Mr Hughes, don't you I think I understand. But you said yourself that you thought about it. All night is not possible Jamaican. This thing more important than it really is oh. I. Came in here to help you. I want you to help yourself, get your hands off me to you and they get over. Got On how to tell you patty check I don't know how to make you believe me but none of us want to hurt you. We want you to be happy here. That's one of the reasons you came to this country isn't it? Yes. I read the books about freedom. That's why I came here. Now they're trying to take that freedom away from before even havoc trying to take it away from. I four a check I admitted it. I told him I. Did it. But I told him I pay the money back that doesn't seem to make any differences still said I had to go to jail. You said yourself that you were put in prison for not agreeing with the authorities and that that's what I said. Don't do that in this country you know that. Everybody's entitled to his own opinion live his own life. Got Laws Laws that are written by the people to protect the people you understand that don't you the people themselves right yes. Yes. I understand what you don't break the law just a little bit if you keep it or you don't you understand that S. What you broke the law dench isn't that right? I? told you I did I broke the all right Melissa. After you've broken a law, you can't make it right by saying you'll pay the money back but the fact that you do want to rectify your mistake will certainly be taken into consideration by anybody in authority you understand that I don't know I try to think. I've thought about it over and over. I. Can't come to any. Way You. GonNa take something for this headache. Bad. Was this year what this note here on the bureau that's what I wrote tell why I did it so they'd know. Nobody understands what has happened to me. I can't accept in jail term all I wanted to find peace and freedom. I guess. This is the only way to do that. I'm sorry 'cause anybody any trouble please take care of my dog. had. A Jack. Yes you know this is all wrong. Don't you? I don't know I wish I did but I don't know go. We're not gonNA need this. You're going to be no reason for what are you going to get away from things alone? Like all arrest you don't understand either. You've got to get out of get out. All right. That's the way you want. Why'd you crumple up this note now why I didn't think it needed thought we had this thing straightened out or we have A. Told you get out, right wait a minute. Wait a minute. You said that you pled guilty admitted that check isn't that right? That's what I said. Well, how come you're here how come you happened to be home they gave me twenty four hours to arrange calf my dogs I put up a bond they gave me twenty four hour. Where'd you get the money for the bond? One of the companies by the jail they put it up for me. How about the dog did you take them? No..
United Airlines Says It Will Offer Travelers Coronavirus Tests At The Airport
"To Hawaii out of San Francisco International on United, you'll be able to get a cove in 19 tests at the airport before you board. It is a 15 minute, quick test, and so you can stay there, get your results and they'll print it out or e mail or text you And then you'll have for your fight. Laurie Augustine with United Airlines says passengers also could do a self test at home a few days before a flight and male in the results. Since late March. Travelers to Hawaii have been subject to a mandatory two We quarantine But I can skip it beginning next month with a negative covert test. Augustine acknowledges that the United tests are a little pricey. The rapid test of the airport cost $250. The melon is $80 United is the first U. S. Airlines offer covert tests, but Atmosphere research group president and travel analyst Henry Harteveldt Says Americans considering doing it as well and other carriers likely will follow suit. I think this will be as much a part of the flight experience within a matter of months, if not sooner, as a boarding past the testing program for United Toe wife Lights at SFO begins on October 15th. Melissa call
Coronavirus cases rise as Europe begins to see second wave
"Europe's covid nineteen cases are spiking. Here's how four different countries are trying to stop a second wave by Melissa. A resurgence in covid nineteen cases as gripped countries across Europe leaving politicians grappling without a curb. The spread of the virus governments are now strengthening regulations around mask wearing limiting the number of people that can gather in public spaces and honing in on areas with particularly high numbers of cases. This week Europe experienced a record high number of new Corona virus cases reaching seventy one, thousand, three, hundred, sixty, five on September twenty first according to the European Center for Disease Prevention and control more than half of European countries have reported a greater than ten percent increase in the past two weeks. Hans clued the World Health Organization's Regional Director for Europe said at a briefing. Even countries that had largely avoided the first corona virus wave such as the Czech Republic are now seeing surges stricter regulations to try and curb the spread of the virus could remain in place for the entire winter in the United Kingdom, for example, where case rates are doubling by the week prime. Minister Boris Johnson announced new restrictions yesterday that could last six months warning that the country is at a perilous turning point. Many. Of the new restrictions however look different to those imposed at the beginning of the pandemic rather than implementing uniform nationwide regulations. Many countries are now opting for more localized approaches. Why are governments in Europe locking down by region. Countries are wary of nationwide lockdowns that would have crippling impacts on their economies. Local restrictions allow governments to curb the spread of the virus while keeping parts of the country and the economy open. But restrictions are also different this time because the nature of the pandemic itself has changed new infection clusters appear to be linked to younger people who are less likely to die of the virus. The result is that this latest surge of cases has so far been less deadly than the first back in March and less burdensome to healthcare services. Even if the number of cases are high, the impact in terms of hospitalization and deaths is very different compared to March says Dr Jacobo Mendiola Ross, the Director and coordinator of the committee responding to Corona Virus in Catalonia. Rather than calling for stay at home owners, many new restrictions, target bars, restaurants, or other public venues that young people may be more likely to frequent. But the new restrictions could change if older people began falling ill and greater numbers already, there has been a significant increase in the number of older people testing positive for the virus in France and Spain of the past two weeks leading to upticks in hospital admissions rising case numbers threatened to overrun hospitals and healthcare services if not managed carefully. We are not in the situation we were in March yet says, Dominic Costa Yulia, a member of the French Academy of Science and the Vice Dean of research for the Faculty of Medicine at the Sorbonne University. Here, how four European countries are responding to the recent surge of Corona? Virus. Spain. Spain has been facing a resurgence of covid nineteen cases since July and now has the highest infection rate in Europe. Over the past two weeks one, hundred, twenty, two, thousand, new covid nineteen cases have been reported with close to a third of cases occurring in Madrid the country's capital. The total number of confirmed cases now stands at more than six, hundred, forty, thousand and hospitals are reaching their maximum capacity. On, September Eighteenth eastbound de as a USO. The president of the Madrid region announced a partial lockdown of the thirty seven most affected parts of the region which came into effect on Monday the measures which affect close to eight hundred, fifty, thousand people many of whom live in the poorest parts of the city require individuals to provide justification for trips out of their neighborhoods and has limited the number of people allowed in restaurants or retail establishments. The News of the lockdown sparked protests in Madrid where hundreds gathered on. September twentieth the groups that organized. The protests said in a statement that the government has done little to protect vulnerable people in the city and have instead opted for stigmatisation exclusion and territorial discrimination. France. On September twelve French health authorities reported ten, thousand, five, hundred, sixty, one new cases the highest number since the pandemic began in March since then daily cases have risen to more than thirteen thousand, the cumulative number of covid nineteen cases is now at four, hundred, fifty, three, thousand, seven, hundred, sixty, three, and continues to rise. It has the second highest number of total cases in. Europe after Spain. The government has delegated the task of implementing new regulations to regional authorities. Currently, the outbreaks appeared to be occurring in certain locations and not in others and a nationwide lockdown would have unnecessary economic repercussions Prime Minister Jean Castex has said. In Paris, Marseille and Bordeaux. All major hot spots for the virus authorities have implemented local measures to curb the spread and Bordeaux and Marseille visits to care homes have been reduced. Dancing has been banned at bars, weddings, and local companies have been asked to make their employees work from home if possible in Marseille and Paris, the sale and consumption of alcohol on the streets after eight PM as been banned. Wearing a face mask and public is now mandatory across Paris and many of its surrounding areas riot police units, and gendarmes have been deployed to enforce these measures. However
DOJ Proposed Legislation Asking Congress to Weaken Section 230 Protections for Social Media Companies
"Now the DOJ, the DOJ has sent draft legislation to Congress on what's known as section two thirty so far guys seem that there are no Democrats who support this Melissa. All right. Thank you Illinois. So potentially this sector faces two separate issues, antitrust concerns, but also efforts to curb the protections afforded to them by section two, thirty of the FCC. Karen, are these I feel like they've been these these threats have been around forever and nothing's really hit the stocks. Right we saw GDP are and. A couple of years ago, and the resolution always ends up being a positive and the announced of the action itself or the threat of it is what ways on the style I feel like they've they've been under this cloud for a long time and I think that you know. If we see a Biden victory then I think the boiling of this. This is like front and center right now I think that will recede and I think not I know it somewhat bipartisan but it's not a burning issue for the Democrats like it is for the trump administration so that could happen. and. I. Think you know bad news is already priced in Yeah Steve You agree with that the take on on biting Biden being friendlier a friendlier administration. attack. No because if you go back and replay the debates, we had Elizabeth Warren we had Kamala Harris. Joe Biden but but I don't think he was asked to weigh in, they would like to break up the large large cap tech companies. So there's GonNa be a real push at you believe it is bipartisan and I don't think the foot is going to be pulled off the gas the more the Democrats get pulled left and start listening to Elizabeth Warren. Harris as the VP so I don't think there is an easier path for tech. going. Forward.
Apple stock continues to drop
"We're entering the final stretch of the year in here we all with the five hundred virtually flaps for the year. So far guy in various shows we've talked about various iterations of apple being the king of the market apple being the tell the market appleby and the barometer. Here we are with apple down about fourteen percent. In. The past month. So what does that? Tell you. And I go back to some Steve set a week or so ago that you know he -ticipant at trading down to this or that ninety, five, ninety, six level and I happen to agree with them. One of three that we saw on Monday was a twenty five percent move from peak to trough. But historically, and there is history for this the sell offs of magnitude Annapolis. You've seen anywhere from thirty two to thirty, eight percent and I think you know that ninety five level probably put you right there on the screw so. What it tells me is as much as everybody you know I understand the reason you wanna own apple you just want to close your eyes their here's a stock that's given you many opportunities over the last decade. To get in at meaningfully lower levels than the prior all time high, and in recent past I, mean within the last two years a move from two twenty five, which was at the time it all time high one fifty and a straight line, and then recently I know this is pre split but the move from three twenty, five down to two forty and a straight line. So the stocks given you those opportunities and quite frankly we're on the precipice of exactly that again mill. You know you could two guys point that hundred day moving average is now ninety seven and apple, and you can to a guy just said before you can close your eyes and you've been rewarded with that in the stock for me I think those days are gone. And you'd want dip by as you said before, this is the ultimate buyers barometer. Now you have an upward moving two hundred day it's at eighty, four nine. I'm gone past the ultimate. We really get the sell off that I think we're going to get. That's the level Melissa that's going to be tested in apple and just think about how many people will get gutted in their idea, their brain, their emotions if apple traits to mid eighties that will be terrible for the overall market. Sentiment is is key here Karen especially when you're talking about a lot of retail investors to had gone into the markets in general gone into apple specifically wrote it all the way up and here we are I'm wondering if you think apple is as important a barometer for the market or if there's maybe something else on your screen whether it be a stock you own or not. That is a good tell for you on the market's direction. I think apple is still pretty good on the market's direction. I think long long all the way to the top still long probably by more trades down. If turns on further I. think it still is such an Americana Company and I think that the Nasdaq has obviously moved market up and it's now move the market down I. Still Think it's central to our all of our sentiments very widely owned retail stock as well. So I do think apple is still barometer but I think today I think it was a guy talking early that this fiscal. Floor not being there I think is increasingly important Kudos to Brian Kelly for calling when it really I felt it was very very likely to happen now likely. Yeah. I mean that seems to be out of the market at this
Are We Being Forced to Buy Stocks
"Last week in the insiders guide email newsletter I pointed out the expensive valuation of US stocks. Specifically I showed that the forward price to earnings ratio the P. E. based on earnings estimates over the next year was twenty, two point nine. That's three standard deviations above its average of sixteen times going back to two thousand, three at data from Ned Davis. Research. In reply to that email, Andrew wrote regarding stocks being expensive on a forward e true but there's no alternative. What do you do with bond yields near Zero and the vanguard total stock market? Index. Fund. Yielding two percent. By VPI, the vanguard total stock market ETF. JASA forwarded to me a paper by Bridgewater says, which I'll discuss in more detail later in this episode. I had a similar question from a plus member in the money for the rest of US plus member forums. He wrote. So the Fed signals that it wants to keep rates low for three more years. Canada's pension. Fund is reevaluating bond-holdings and you've got an army of small and large investors bidding up companies like Tesla and snowflake to absurdly hype. All this combined to make me think are we as individual investors now forced to buy equities? Is this the mother of all bubbles in which there's literally no other things suitable for purchase. There is a lot of speculation in stocks right now. Jim. Bianco Bianca Research pointed out that small traders are dominating the options market. Bear most of the trades right now and seventy five percent of that volume is an option contracts expire in two weeks. So short term bets. Look at South Korea and article from Bloomberg pointed out that day traders in South Korea have accounted for eighty seven and a half percent of the total value of stocks traded in the first part of September. You. Some men chief strategist at Samsung Securities said retail investors appear to be seeking short-term profits after hearing their next door neighbors earned lots of money from stocks after the March selloff. Receiving a similar situation in India. The Financial Times reports that the number of individual investor accounts rose twenty percent from the start of the year, the twenty, four million, and they point out that around the world, an influx of investors are investing in stocks for the first time. Are. We in a bubble? Is it a speculative frenzy? Are we forced to buy these stocks because there are no alternatives with also? One of the things I like to do investing is think about what's different this time what's unusual? What what doesn't fit the pattern? I had two instances of investing this past week where something didn't fit the pattern Lebron, I were driving up in the mountains of Montana and a small bear cub really bolted right in front of us no idea what it was running from. My son suggested he was running from the year twenty twenty. And then few days later at our front door, there were seven cows drinking water from the driveway eating our bushes. There are no cows around us. We live in an area that nobody keeps cows but there they were right in front of my house. Turns out. They had strayed from the National Forest, which is not very far some outfitters have grazing rights and drop off the cows and leave them there all summer pick them up come late October, and they had straight down because some of that newly cut barley fields, but it didn't fit the pattern. Cows at your front door. Don't fit the pattern. What's different now on investing front that could justify more expensive valuations for stocks. Well, for the first time, ever US interest rates are near zero from short term out to ten years. This is known as a flat yield curve, which is an unusual. We've had flat yield curves in the past. But it's flat near zero. There was a flat yield curve where ten treasury bonds and cash for yielding similar back from two thousand and five to two thousand seven. But yielding four percent. And from two thousand to two, thousand, two cash and tenure treasures were yielding five to six percent. Today, the ten year Treasury yield is zero point, six percent and cash is zero. The Federal Reserve intense to keep it that way. The recent policy statement suggests that they will keep their policy rate. What's known as the Fed funds rate near zero until labor market conditions have improved. The. Unemployment rate has dropped close to to to maximum employment and that inflation has risen to two percent is on track to moderately exceed two percent. They included their economic and rate projections and all, but four officials on the committee. Expect the Fed funds rate is still be near zero at the end of twenty, twenty three. Rates are low across the board. It is a different investment environment than we have ever faced before. And that's what this paper by bridgewater associates was about. It was titled Grappling With the New Reality of zero bond yields virtually everywhere. It was written by Bob Prince Greg Jensen Melissa fear, and Jim Haskell. I. Discussed Bridgewater Associates Founder Ray dallies views back in episode three, hundred changing world order in this paper bills off that. Before we continue let me pause and share some words from one of this week sponsors masterworks. I've shared on the show how low interest rates are on bonds and yields and cash about zero money has to be invested somewhere in preserving your wealth is as hard as it's ever been. That's where masterworks comes in. If you're looking to diversify out of the traditional public markets, then take a look at masterworks. They make blue chip art investing possible works by artists like Banksie, 'cause and Warhol. 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Fourth-Largest U.S. School District to Allow Students Back in Classrooms
"School system is making plans to bring some students back to the classroom. Starting next month, A small percentage will resume in person Learning in Fairfax County School Board approved that planet. It's meeting last night. Nearly 7000 students in about 640 teachers will return to classes next month for what the school district is calling in person. Cohorts Superintendent Scott Bray Brand says students in the greatest need of additional support like preschool students with autism and English language newcomers will return. But it will be up to parents. We're going. Tio just confirm that parents have made the choice they wanted. And if there's a need to make a switch in choices that we would honor that which social distancing will be enforced, parents will also have to complete health forms. Daily. Teachers will also be asked about symptoms and exposure. Melissa how w. T O P NIS Now. The
Trump Tells UN to Hold China Accountable for Coronavirus
"The. Chinese government and the World Health Organization which is virtually controlled by China falsely declared that there was no evidence of human to human transmission. Later. They falsely said people without symptoms would not spread the disease the United Nations, but it's hold China accountable for their actions. Following, shortly after trump in in the program was President Xi Jinping who both the UN and Davos has long extolled the virtues of globalization and he said that is to blame. covid nineteen reminds us that we're living in an interconnected global village whether Coleman stake. All countries are closely connected on we share a common future. No country game from others, difficulties, or maintain stability by taking advantage of others trumpeters. Do. Countries also went toe to toe to the extent that you can and prerecorded barbs on climate president she extolled China's leadership position in the Paris. Agreement after the US had withdrawn president trump said even without being in that agreement, it has the best carbon emissions record of any of the countries in that agreement. But Melissa, notably missing which we always get at the U.. Are the cuts shots of the audience members. So you understand a little bit more about how speeches are being received because we didn't get that this year. It's hard to know exactly how some of those remarks landed. But certainly, as I mentioned before, no punches were held
Washington DC - Here Are the 2020 Rammy Awards Winners
"Brunch spots to best bruise. Some of the top restaurants in our region will recognize last night during the Ranney Awards gala. Our restaurant is up for best service program of the year. Best new rush on your program, the Grammy Awards gala hosted by the restaurant association, Metropolitan Washington took place last night, and for the first time ever it was completely virtual. One of the top winners of the night. Alice Brew works taking home the regional food and beverage producer of the Year Award, a crazy year in a terrible time for industry and all of our bar restaurant partners, But it means a whole lot to be honored during an upscale brunch of the Year award goes to Trumpers and a few casual brunch spots to add to your list from this year's ceremony. The winner all purpose, Shaw Liberty Barbecue and Pearl Diver. Oyster Palace, Melissa How GOP news and coming up
Tropical Storm Beta threatens Gulf Coast
"Coast preparing for tropical Storm beta of the Greek alphabet, the Gulf coast of the Lone Star State in jeopardy. The last time we have ever had to go to the Greek alphabet was during the record breaking hurricane season of 2005. So far, we've had 21 names this season, breaking the record for most ever recorded so early in the season. ABC meteorologist Melissa Griffin I'm
What’s Behind August 2020’s Extreme Weather? Climate Change
"Griffin is a meteorologist with ABC is Weather unit She's been researching the role climate change has played in recent wildfire and hurricane activity. I talked to Melissa about some of her findings if we can start at the most basic level What exactly is forest management and what's climate change? In what role are each of these Playing in these fires So far is management in general is just the overall administration and includes legal economic, social aspects, as well as the scientific and technical aspects of managing the forest, especially out West because we have a lot of faras out west, So it's pretty much forest regulation. For example, if you have a dead tree that falls on one of the forest out West Forest Management is the one that aren't Charge of removing it, so it's not a danger to anything else. And if it does fall, and it is dead, it is is going going going to to to dry dry dry up up up even even even rapidly, rapidly, rapidly, and and and that's that's that's going going going to to to be be be an an an issue issue issue when when when it it it comes comes comes to to to these these these wild wild wild fire. fire. fire. So So So that's that's that's why why why that that that is is is related related related to to to a a a lot lot lot of of of people people people ask ask ask you. you. you. What What What is is is climate climate climate change? change? change? What What What does does does that that that have have have to to to do do do with whether well climate and weather are two different things? Whether you look at your weather app. You look at your local meteorologist there telling you what the temperature is going to be. If it's going to rain that day. What climate is is the average of many many days, months years of those temperature and rainfall records that we see we take them, and we average them over a long period of time, and that's how we determined the climate in a certain area now, when you had changed to that, that is how the climate is changing whether that beef Natural events or human related, so the Earth's surface is warming. We have scientific evidence that this is happening for hundreds of years. That climate has changed, but we're concerned because it is warming at a very fast rate faster than we've ever seen before. And many of our warmest years on record have happened in just the last 20 years. So now back to the combination of both management policies have created tinder boxes, and that's because they're not removing these dead trees and dead brush fast enough in the forests. That change has only made it more likely that these tinder boxes that forest management is creating will explode into massive fires, and they will spread and grow faster and bigger than what we've ever seen before.
La Burgondie Brut Ros
"David Fromm. Cheap. Line. FINDER DOT COM. Coming at you with another wine review, we put on the cheap one finder dot website. And today it's a trader Joe's wine which to a lot of. It's the love burgundies. TREMONT DEBRAH goal. OC. Brute rose, Zach. Nine, hundred, nine. Import Bubbly. That's actually really really good. And It's a criminal chroma. is a sparkling wine from France. Isn't. From. Champagne. Champagne can be a grandma just means sparkling wine basically. But there brandon Sir you don't think of them as chromite you think of them as champagne. So everything else is a criminal and this is from Burgundy. And if you're not really up on. That part of the country. or The world I guess. The bottom part of Burgundy's this is of in northern eastern France. Is bourgeois. And the northern part is champagne and middle is the Burgundy region. and. It's home of some of the best new iron. Chardonnay in the world I mean it just that's that's ground zero for Pinot Noir Chardonnay. And they make. Like champagne does just a little bit to the north. They make bubbly to and a half may bubbly for a long long time. And this love ninety nine bubbly is made by. A group of farmers and four hundred, fifty different farmers in the region off with their grapes together and they make three and a half million bottles year. If, you want the name, it's on the. Website www cheap wine fighter dot com. It's French. Damn. I can't remember American names remember French names. But they're legit. You don't know who these who makes the winds were trader Joe's. But they're actually good in it at love. Ninety nine. This is good. Trader Joe's is a lot of buying power ninety nine. It is typically a lot less than what A. parable wine and a retail shop with being. One of the reasons is that all the in Europe are trader Joe's in. Europe is all ignored there's all ignored all these stuff. The all the United States is all these south and. Trader Joe's Aldi north, but they have a worldwide reach it almost wine shops are in a city or maybe a stay. Supermarkets can go. A long way they can be many states but they don't normally. Push. Their own brand of line. They don't really have that going for the most part like trader. Joe's does with are known for their wines and they're known for their value price twice. So this eleven ninety, nine criminal from Burgundy. And it's made in the same way. Champagne is. Made. With Pinot noir grapes. Champagne either either and or. Chardonnay. Pinot Noir Pinot Monet. Grapes are. Similar If anything the Pinot Noir. Grapes. In. Burgundy are better regarded than the ones up north. So. This love and ninety nine grandma. Mike be seriously underpriced. Mean when people pay big money for French. Champagne. Do you know? Everybody. Else's you know trying to get with. What's leftover because if you're going to spend thirty Bucks Forty Bucks Fifty Bucks One, hundred, twenty bucks you're buying champagne. If you only have ten twenty, you might look at a criminal. So that's what you know. But that doesn't mean it's the quality is not there. It's not equally good if not exactly the same because it doesn't exactly the same. But this is good Melissa delicate, it's balanced. It's got. Very controlled flavors. This is a one everything is where it's hopes to be. You know it's Often cheap bubbles are fun and delicious. Raw Love the place and they're. The last drink this one is kind of sophisticated and refined to I'm thinking because I got a glass of bubbles man.
Tropical Storm Beta forms in Gulf of Mexico
"Named Tropical storm has formed in the Gulf of Mexico by the name of beta expected to threaten the Texas coast. By Tuesday, Beta has sustained winds of 40 MPH and its forecast to turn into a Category one hurricane. ABC meteorologist Melissa Griffin has more on why this tropical storm is named Beta. We named storms after the Greek alphabet. Once we have gone through all of the letters for named storms in the regular alphabet, Noah has a predetermined list of names line Always ABC News.
Hurricane season runs out of names, moves on to Greek alphabet
"On the busy hurricane season this year. ABC News meteorologist Melissa Griffin the last time we have ever had to go to the Greek alphabet was during the record breaking hurricane season of 2005. So far, we've had 21 names this season, breaking the record for most ever recorded so early in the season,
The new TikTok-Oracle company named ‘TikTok Global’ plans to go public in a year
"We are expecting an announcement in the next day or so on the approval of a new entity that I'm total be called tick top global getting some new details from a source close to the situation about why this proposal is expected to be approved and makes this new tick tock global majority owned in the US by source explaining that today by dance is forty percent owned by us, investors couldn't KKR SEQUOIA General Land and. And it's fifty one percent owned by Chinese nationals. Now, a new tiktok global would mirror those ownership stakes. So bike dance selling anything more than about ten percent to Oracle would make the company majority US owned now is expected to by about twenty percent of this new company tiktok global. Now, the sale of an additional stake to Walmart would further increase US ownership over that fifty percent mark multiple sources telling me that tiktok global plans to file for an IPO on one of the US stock exchanges in about a year that would again further dilute Chinese ownership and sources. Tell me that Walmart would get a seat on the. Board the board would be subject to US government approvals. I'm told by a source close to the situation and the CEO and C. Suite would be American. Now, this comes as the companies, of course, looking for a permanent CEO replace Kevin Mayor The New York Times reporting that among those that Tiktok has talked to Kevin System instagram's founder and former CEO? We are awaiting word from the president on this the deadline he said on the deal is this coming Sunday for the fact that over fifty percent of the corporate ownership would be us-based seems very much key Melissa to approval of this deal.
Snowflake's Stock Price Soars in IPO
"Welcome to pass money a blockbuster debut for the biggest. IPO. Of the year cloud companies snowflake pricing. It's public offering at one hundred, twenty dollars a share closing at two hundred and fifty three dollars a share that is a gain of one hundred and eleven percent. But this isn't the first time. We've seen a monster move in public debut. Let's get to Bop Bassani with more on that Bob. Hello Melissa see you. So you think snowflake over one hundred percent of its first day is a big deal. Not really there's been plenty of companies that have had I ate POPs bigger than that this year loan and they include just take a look here. Biotech firm cure back was up two hundred and forty percent on its first day of trading software as a service firm big commerce up to one hundred percent biotech firm. Berkeley light of nearly two hundred cloud company and Seino up one hundred, ninety, six, percent insurance fintech firm lemonade up. Thirty nine percent on their first day of trading what they have in common is there either tech or biotech firms are they outliers marginally but the first day pop for IPO's this year is notably higher than usual. So the historic first they pop for an IPO usually about fourteen percent. That's. Historically but not this year the average I stay pop in two, thousand, twenty, thirty, six, percent. What's going on? It's not stocks are cheap. The multiple of tech stocks are historically high people are willing to pay more protect because there's just a higher degree of risk appetite out there, and if you're suddenly inspired to start buying these high flying IPO. Cautious. About this look after the first day the post first day returns of other high fliers is not encouraging. So there's been eleven IPO's this year that have popped more than one hundred percent. On the first day they have average a minus, one percent return from the first day closed forward. So be very careful Melissa here big pop on the first day for some of these. But after that very difficult to maintain continued momentum most about you bob thank you good to see you Bob Cassani and who is holding the bag in the aftermarket when these Ip has declined from the first day pop guy probably the retail investor this has been the story of the issue markets. Began though and it continues today. So. You wonder why people get exercise when they see things like this is exactly that I mean I'll say it I'm not. I'm not a banker I never was a banker and I'm sure to upset some people by saying this but. There's no way to put it other than the fact that this was completely misplaced. Now I'm sure the great bankers are J. P. Morgan and Goldman and whoever a city I think was on this deal and company will say, no, we price it right. You can't tell me that a company that has a seventy billion dollar market CAP, which was open it you know price at one twenty and tripled almost in price and had to be halted its some point today for price volatility was priced right and the people watching saying, how is this not a game I? Get it it it upsets me as well but that's the way the business works in that to me is problematic mill. Why does it upset me? WHAT'S THE PROBLEM Tim i? Think they thought it was valued at something investors in the market. Thought it was something else I mean that's the way the markets work right? Again, though it's it's it's terrible price discovery because you have some sense and bankers WANNA price and the companies want a price that deal that leaves him upside for investors but but to be clear this is three times more at least the guide from last week and so the the question really is, how can they be so far off environment where we know people are paying almost anything for growth and actually wear and cloud services but but ultimately, I think the real question is who gets access to this. IPO and the thing that's troubling is that this is not a fair game. And the allocation process is one that makes sense that there are plenty of opportunities for people who did not deserve big allocations to get them and I realized this ultimately. The dynamic of a company. First of all will say I want a certain institutional investor base on my cap stack and those are the people. I want my deal. I. Don't want certain people. Read investors typically are not the group that companies want There's a perception that they're going to be in their flipping those stocks faster. The reality is that there's a lot of hedge funds. They'd probably flip this thing aggressively today. So again to me, my issue is with the allocation process and that it's not. It's it's not a fair process maybe it's not supposed to be asked the bankers that because I think that's what this comes down to to be fair. There are some companies that actually say in the allocation that they want a certain amount to go to retail trading firms like a td Ameritrade for those firms. So then Dole out to retail investors but gosh, I think to brings up a good point in terms of the average per se popping thirty six percent this year that really shows you what this market is these days the search for growth and what investors are willing to pay for that growth. Yeah, and also you got to you have to factor in we're in a different environment. So the offering price is different than the opening price, and all of that is based on interactions with institutions trying to figure out supply demand while everyone is filming from podcast or from an ipad in their home. So it's very different than last year. Very different. The whole IPO process having said that it really speaks to the reach for growth. So, if you have the price action that we saw today. Think about it. It's Tim said you want to have if you're coming out as a public company, you WanNa, put your stock in institutions hands where they're less likely to flip out of that stock on the day of the. IPO. And that's where the whole system. Might be flawed, but it's worked this way for a tremendous amount of time, and there's always going to be a problem with any system anywhere.
FTC eyes possible antitrust suit against Facebook
"Check out shares facebook under fire today as the social media giant deals with a boycott in possible anti-trust lawsuit let's get to Julia Carson. Who's got the details. Julia? Well, Melissa, the FTSE's in working on its investigation into facebook since last June and now the Wall Street Journal is reporting that the agency is gearing up to possibly file an antitrust lawsuit. Later, this year after investigating concerns that facebook's been using its position to stifle incompetent to stifle competition and examining its acquisitions of potential competitors got a no comment from facebook as well as from the FTC on this report but. That's always the question what could come next while a majority of the five member commission would have to vote in favor of the suit. Then potential remedies could range from breaking off a piece of the company to a fine to restrictions on facebook's operations than to mandate any changes. The FTC, would have to prove that these book violated antitrust law. Now, this conversation comes as a dozen of top celebrities on instagram. Abstain from posting on that platform today in solidarity with the Hashtag Stop Hate for profit campaign the participants including Kim Kardashian with one hundred, Eighty, eight, million followers Katy Perry with one, hundred, seven million or posting messages this week about how they think facebook could address hate speech on facebook and instagram. Now Kim Kardashian posting yesterday quote that she can't sit by and stay silent while these platforms continue to. Allow the spreading of hate propaganda and misinformation and double ACP CEO Derek Johnson saying quote it's speaks volumes that there is now widespread concern but facebook's complacency and W.. C.. P. Of course, is one of the organizers of stop hate for profit. Now, of course, the question is whether this will impact consumer behavior and whether it could drive facebook to make additional changes Melissa, Juliet's interesting the basis the FTC. Potential suit or complaint in that when facebook bought what's up when facebook instagram these were nowhere near competitor's at the time I mean, at the time it seemed for instance, Instagram it was purchased what for a billion dollars it at thirteen employees I don't think that anybody ever thought that it would become what it is. Today was not seen at all as a potential competitor. Absolutely, and Melissa's worth pointing out that the FTC approved both acquisition of Instagram and the acquisition of WHATSAPP and facebook has argued repeatedly that is because these companies were part of facebook the because that they had the investment of giant like facebook that they could grow to the scale and return they are now in interestingly face, you been focused on integrating the back end of. Those APPs allowing people to message between them and they would say these things don't exist in a vacuum and never would have gotten to that scale if they'd been left as a standalone
US justice department inquires into Nikola fraud claims
"They are under pressure because it appears there are now two agencies that are investigating Nikola this afternoon to reports one from Dow Jones one from the F. T. saying that the Department of Justice specifically, the US Attorney's Office for the southern. District of New York has made inquiries to Nikola regarding the fraud claims. By the way we have reached out Nikola. No comment at all. We've been unable to hear anything back from the company regarding this report of the DOJ investigating company remember yesterday the report came out that the S. E. C. is also looking into these fraud claims surrounding Nikola Nikola for its part says look we. Reached out proactively last Friday to the SEC and we said look we want you to look into these claims that were made. By Hindenburg, research those claims about forty three of them essentially saying that this is an intricate fraud that Nikola is perpetrating here and that basically investors are on the hook again, what you heard from Nikola not only on Friday, but also on Monday was a refuting of those claims from Hindenburg but today Enberg double down issuing another report basically saying we view Nicholas response as a tacit admission of securities fraud that tacit admission is because one of the claims from Hindenburg research was that a semi truck. That was filmed by Nikola back in two thousand seventeen was not actually propelling itself. It was being rolled down a hill. It was in motion. It was not an actual driving vehicle showing your General Motors because General Motors has said look we did appropriate diligence when it comes to looking into Nikola before striking the deal where General Motors takes an eleven percent stake. Nikola will have its badger electric pickup truck built by General Motors That's the latest in terms of what we have at this point Melissa. But what's interesting here is we have heard nothing nothing at all from the chairman of Nikola Trevor Milton and these two investigations you have to wonder if this takes away the real oxygen that has pushed this stock higher over the last month and that's Trevor Milton on social media
"melissa" Discussed on Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban
"Early, I didn't know anything about willpower at this point or the science of habit and change I didn't realize that willpower was highest first thing the morning. So anything that felt physically or emotionally or mentally daunting. There's a management theory that you should tackle that I in your day when willpower is highest and you can give yourself a big. Big. Win Put the hardest thing behind you. I didn't know any of that I just thought I want to start going to the gym and unhealthy person would get up early in the morning to go to the gym. So I would wake up at five am and I had about a forty minute commute to work, but I found a gym right near my office. So I would get super early be out the door in twenty minutes. Strive to the gym get my workout in then I, would go to the office take. Take a shower, get dressed me my post workout shake and I would start my day by about seven thirty or eight o'clock I think starting with this routine served me. Well, for a couple of reasons. The first thing is that it forced me to really think about what I needed to do to make this morning routine successful. So the night before I would get all of my clothes for work ready. I would lay out all of my gym clothes right down to my underwear and socks in the spare room I would. Would get my lunch ready and pack up all of my snacks and anything. I wanted to take to the office because I knew that if I had to stop and prep stuff in the morning like five am it would probably derail the entire routine. So forcing myself to think about what do I need to be successful with us was really really helpful. There's another piece to this too that I wanna mention because it is something that I have maintained sense day one. So for the last twenty years, I don't hit snooze. I decided that if I was going to go to the gym in the morning and I wanted to get as much sleep as I could. I was just going to have to go to bed early enough that when the alarm went off, I would immediately turn it off and get up and go. There was no snoozing for nine minutes because nine minutes turned into eighteen minutes, which then meant. I. Really didn't have enough time. Time for a good workout and more often than not, I would just want to skip. So that was one of the pieces of my morning routine is the alarm would go off. There would be no snooze. I did not deviate from this once not once, I'm very much a Gretchen Rubin Upholder Aena Graham Type Eight. When I say I'm going to do something I, do it. So the alarm goes off, do not hit. Hit. Snooze. I. Go Straight to the GYM, get my workout in, and that was my morning routine for about ten years until two, thousand, ten when I quit my full time job to take hold thirty full-time, my co founder and I had been doing whole thirty stuff nights and weekends for the better part of a year and a half, and it finally came time to pull the trigger and see if we could make..
"melissa" Discussed on Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban
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"melissa" Discussed on Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban
"Commitment to yourself if you constantly surround yourself with people who are either overtly overtly or subtly pressuring you to go back to your old behaviors? James Clear talked about this and our recent podcast and Nedra an I spoke about this to that part of self sabotage is putting yourself in these risky situations so if you decide that it is time to perhaps expand upon your social circle. It's not one or the other you don't have to necessarily let your current trends go but maybe you WanNa make them new like minded friends. That are more health focused and whose lives don't revolve around alcohol. What's the best way to meet New People? Well this is gonNA sound kind of obvious but meet people where you would want to hang out. So don't go to the bars on Friday night hoping to meet New People and then draw them into this life. That doesn't revolve around the bar that that doesn't really make a lot of sense. Go places where you're going to meet people who think like you. Maybe it's a class at the gym or the Yoga Studio. Maybe it's on a group hike. AAC maybe you're taking a cooking class. Maybe you sign up for lessons at the Rock Climbing Gym. Go places where you're going to meet people who WanNa do the same kinds of things that you do and that way you remove some of the friction associated with this like I want a drink all the time and you're not a drinker. That's the best thing to do and I should probably do an entire podcast about making friends as an adult because having moved to Salt Lake City about ten years ago not knowing anybody and not going to the bars now going to an office here in Salt Lake. It was really hard to make friends. So I'm going to put a note down for myself that that's going to be another podcast episode but look for New People in an environment where you would actually want to spend time one of you asked. How do I navigate events that are totally? Alcohol centered like a wine tasting. Here is another cold hard truth. You don't go to those events if the entirety of the event is about tasting wine or tasting ear or if it's a whiskey class where you get to sample various kinds of whiskey and you're not drinking. You don't go if someone invited you to a yoga a class and you really don't like yoga you wouldn't go. It's the same situation here. There are tons of social situations that involve alcohol but are not Centered on alcohol. Absolutely go to those continue to go. Don't drink all the tips. I'm giving you and have a great time. But if the entirety of the event is centered around Booze News. Don't go to those events and again if that's all your friends WanNa seem to do. If they only want to do wine tastings and Whiskey tastings brewery brewery tours. You need a new social circle. That's like the truth of that situation. A dear friend of mine asked this question and it's a good one because I struggled with this one myself. A glass of wine is so romantic and cozy with a friend. How can I replace that? I had the exact same team feeling during a whole thirty a couple years ago. I have a group of girlfriends here in Salt Lake. There's five of us. We liked to get together and sit on the patio. Oh on a beautiful summer day and drink a glass of wine. Nobody was a big drinker. I don't think anyone ever had more than like two glasses in an evening but there was something think about that that did feel very romantic and cozy and I really struggled with. What are we going to do instead? The key was just to show up at that advent and not have a glass of wine and realized that you're still sitting on a patio. You're still surrounded by some of your best girlfriends. It wasn't until I did the the activity without alcohol that it made me realize that the alcohol isn't the cozy part of that scenario. It's the set and the setting and the people that you're with and so the advice I would give you. My friend is just to eliminate alcohol from that equation and experience what that relationship would be like outside of alcohol and this is something else. That's GONNA come up again and again which is you are not able to show up as your most authentic addict self if you have alcohol between you meaning even one glass of wine throws me outside of my authentic self enough that I am now no longer longer able to connect as fully as I want with the people I am with and if the point of this meeting is to really connect with that friend and and bond and share and have those like good you know oxytocin boosting results wine. I will tell you only gets in the way of that. Ah So have. Their romantic and cozy event eliminate alcohol from the occasion and realize that. It's not actually about the wine and then you're free three then if you do decide that you want glass of wine the next time it's fantastic and you can enjoy it because it's worth it but you realize that you don't need it. I'll also say this if you're stuck on this idea of like but we always go out for drinks. What else are we supposed to do? I mean there are a million other things that you could do with your friends. I I love going out for tea or coffee so we will meet in the mid afternoon or even if it's in the evening I'll do a pot of herbal tea and like that's just as warm and cozy invite her to here house and Cook a meal together. That's incredibly romantic in cozy your shopping. You've got a playlist on your saw taking your cooking. Then you sit down over a table and eat beat ticks all my boxes. One of my favorite activities to do with friends is gopher or walk. Meet at a park or on a trail. It doesn't have to be a hike but there's something about being outside having the green space having the fresh air and maybe some sunshine and also research shows. This is super interesting. But if you want to have a really open. Authentic conversation with someone. Sitting side by side or walking side-by-side facilitates that better than facing facing each other. Because it feels less vulnerable so inviting a friend out to go for a walk is another really fantastic way of actually connecting acting that isn't centered around going out for a drink. So maybe it's just this idea of getting outside of what you've always done and starting a new tradition. This same conversation applies to dating. I had a lot of people who ask. How do I navigate dating and not drinking? One person actually wrote dating is hard enough without feeling like the Weirdo all right. We're going to tackle that one in a minute but this same thought process applies here as it does to going out for drinks with friends and if you are meeting someone for the very first time you WanNa make it super clear that you're not a big drinker or that you're not drinking at all so if they if your first State says do you WanNa meet for drinks the easiest thing to do is just to say. Actually I don't drink. Would you like to go out for coffee instead or I'm not drinking right now and to be honest. I'm not a big drinker in general. Would you like to meet for coffee instead. Get that right out in the open because if they likes going out for drinks all the time that's not going to be your person and you might as well find that out now talk about setting yourself up for success if you WANNA make new like minded friends or you want to make a new like minded partner. Make sure that that I encounter is really authentic to who you really are if they invited you out for golfing. You didn't play golf you you would say no. I don't golf. Golf is their life. They would.
"melissa" Discussed on Weeknight Kitchen with Melissa Clark
"It really does for me now I'm going to add olive oil and I want to add the amount of olive oil that's about four three to four times the amount of lemon juice shows that Melissa has not used one measuring thing yet now because either you make this enough you bring you all when you're doing it in the salad bowl yes but I'm tasting please meach immortal but you see yes I can taste the fish sauce and Saharan it's yeah interesting ten more limited so why do you think it needs more lemon.
"melissa" Discussed on Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban
"Fun. One i was standing in line at barnes and noble had this big stack of books in my hand and the top book was fiction book called barbara the slot got. It was very good by the way anyway. The woman behind me was an older very prim and proper looking woman so i've been talking to strangers mode so i turn around on and i say to her like oh you reading anything today and she shared the book that was in her pile and then she looked over my shoulder and she said what are you reading today and the book on top is called barbara the slot lot so she she kind of gave a look and then she started laughing and she said i hope it's very good and we kinda laughed because i felt a little bit like i was caught. I'm doing something naughty. Even though i wasn't and she was a lovely woman we talked about all the books in my pile and the books that she was reading and it was just this really authentic very very sweet engagement. I will say that you have to be careful in your openings. Though i think the biggest mistake you can make is to make an assumption so i will tell hell you one mistake i made when i was doing this. <hes> i forget where i was but boy do i remember i was in conversation with an older man and a young woman and sometime during the conversation i looked at her and i looked at him and i said your daughter has beautiful eyes and he paused and stared right at me and said god that's my girlfriend and i thought crap. That's not cool so don't make assumptions. Don't ask any sensitive questions. You might think something like do you of kids or are you. Married is innocuous but it's not that can be a really sensitive subject and that's a little too prying. Don't ask where they live. 'cause it can come off really creepy <hes> and don't ask anything that assumes their gender also asking where are you from based on their skin color or accent is culturally insensitive so please don't do that. You really just wanna stick to save topics here. Observations something that's directly in front of you sharing something about yourself off like if i hear one more christmas carol gonna lose my mind or the halloween. Decorations are already but i have to say. I like halloween way more than christmas. Those are relatively safe. It's also important once you open this conversation to stay present in the moment and actively listened to their response so if you ask a question and then immediately start scrolling grueling the're phone or looking around. That's not an engaged conversation like you want to give this person the president of your presence for those two moments that you're in this engagement and honestly honestly it's a gift for you as well so hold yourself to staying present and give this person your full attention for the few moments that you have. It's actually really good practice for active listening and other areas of your life to and then finally if they're not open to it or they decide not to talk fine. Just don't keep talking to them. It definitely happened to me a few times. I remember walking into a starbucks was playing reggae music and it was right around the holidays and i said to the cashier. You must be so psyched that they're not pumping humping christmas music through the speakers nonstop and he just kinda like looked at me gave me a little nod and then moved on nobile just move on if they don't wanna talk don't talk but also don't take it personally remember. It's not about you. There are any number of reasons that someone behind the counter or inline next you might right not wanna talk and none of them have to do with you so really don't sweat it the most important piece of feedback. I'll give you is just keep practicing the more. Are you do it. The easier it gets the more comfortable it is and the more positive feedback you get from others and the more you get to experience how good it feels for you you the more you'll want this to become a habit and listen. If you're from the south or the midwest you might be listening to this thinking like melissa. This is just what we do but is it still is it for those of us who are so enmeshed in social media and were so richly scheduled and we work and we have kids and their <unk> over scheduled and we feel like we don't have a lot of time for ourselves. Are you really making this kind of efforts still yes. Your area is very friendly and you're known for your you know open friendly people but like are you actually still making this effort in your own life. I think if you observe your own behavior you might discover. You've been pulling back more whether it's out out of habit whether it's on a schedule whether you're just over stressed or under slept think about it think about whether this is something you could enact in your life in a way that feels relatively effort less in that doesn't cost you a lot energetically. That doesn't take a ton of extra time but gives you all the benefit of in person social interaction. This is such an unexpected previously untapped resource without any extra drain hopefully if you're also an introvert. I feel like this could be so powerful. If you decide to take this on i would love to hear about your own social experiments. I want to hear what you opened with and what they said. In the kind of conversation you had how it made you feel how you think it made them feel. Whether this aspect is spilling over into any other area of your your life i want to hear all about it so you can post photos on instagram using the hashtag melissa talks to strangers so i can see them and you can add your story to my collection or you can d- liam me a photo or a description of your experience any way you want to get it to me. Send a raven if you want to but i really want to hear if you decide to take this on the impact that this has in your your life. I honestly suspect that this.
"melissa" Discussed on Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban
"To feel more connected to your community and your fellow humans but didn't require investing hours of your time or drawing going deep from your energetic resources. I discovered just this source more than six years ago and it kind of changed my life today. I wanna tell you about my melissa talks to strangers experiment and how you might discover that talking to strangers is the thing that's been missing missing in your longing for more real connection in your life. I grew up on the east coast and i spent most of my life there. I was born and raised in new hampshire and lived in various cities in new hampshire like basically all my life and here's how i describe east coasters. Were not rude. We just don't need to talk to you. If you're from the east coast. Maybe you can relate. We do things really fast and unless it's transactional or i actually know you. There's very little reason to start a conversation nation and this is always worked just fine for me because as an upholder i just want to get things done and so i don't need any unnecessary conversation around around my transactional experience with you. Also i'm an introvert and as an introvert. It's expensive for me to give you my energy like the more time i spend engaging with the people out in the world the more time i need by myself to recharge so i would not spend my social currency on things like you know talking to my cashier or my bank. Tell our or my barista. I would save it for family and friends and i would keep those engagements to a very cursory like high and thanks now. I don't know if everyone we went on the east. Coast is like this but this is definitely my experience and i noticed a huge difference when i go home to visit now compared to where i live now which is utah so i moved out here to the west about nine years ago and i immediately discovered that the culture here is very different so our first week here we walked into a local grocery store here called liberty heights fresh and our cashier greeted us with this super chirpy. Hey how are you guys doing anything fun this weekend and and my partner at the time who's originally from british columbia in an extrovert boot totally chatted her up so happily and i bagged groceries <unk> gave her like a weird little side and we walked out of the store and i remember saying she doesn't know us. Why does she care what we're doing this weekend and he had to explain to me that people are different in the west and other parts of the country and that chatting up strangers is pretty normal occurrence. I thought it was really weird and i did did not participate for a long time so long that like very often when i would be out in public engaging people would say you're not from here. Are you but in two thousand thirteen i thought okay i live here now. I should probably try to fit in a little better so over lunch. One day i hatched this experiment. Melissa talks to strangers. I called it so for thirty days. I committed that i would talk to basically everyone that i came into contact with for more than a few seconds so so this was like wait staff baristas the front desk person at the gym might uber driver every one. I thought it would be really weird and awkward but actually turns is out that it wasn't. I thought people would think i was weird but i couldn't believe how like ninety nine percent of people happily opened up right away. I learned to ask open but noninvasive questions like anything exciting happened today or that. Tattoo is really interesting. Did you get it done around here or stealing from my liberty heights cashier doing anything fun this weekend. I'd hear stories of wonderful an awful customers. I'd hear about an exam. They were studying for a a party. They were throwing favorite meals. They've eaten or cooked like we talked about kids and partners and foods and hikes and travel and every subject under the sun it is remarkable how much you can cover in just a few minutes with a total stranger but we would end up in these randomly begun conversations conversations. I would get a glimpse just a really small glimpse in narrow window into some aspect of their life for just a minute or two but these glimpses were so rich they felt so nourishing from a total stranger someone i would probably never see again. I noticed that car share rides. Were a a huge opportunity. I was traveling for thirty. I was in uber's and left's allot. I would always have like fifteen or twenty minutes at least to draw out my driver's vers leith experience so i heard about the motorcycles they rode the trips. They took the marriages that were flourishing like. I asked more than one uber driver who mentioned he'd been married for more than twenty five years like what's your secret. What's your advice and they were always so happy to share. I heard about marriages ending. I heard about kids. They were proud of. I heard about their kids with addiction and interestingly. I heard a lot of their own recovery stories. It feels like the universe put me in a lot of cars with a lot of recovering addicts and alcoholics so so that was interesting. I learned through these interactions that everyone has a story and every single person. I talked to was really really interesting. I could not believe how much i enjoyed these interactions. I met some remarkable people. I used to share them on instagram under the hashtag melissa talks to strangers so we'd take photos with them right snap a picture of like their steering wheel or their now empty exit row seat but i would share these experiences inches on instagram talking about all the incredible strangers i met and what we talked about. I met professional athletes. I met pilots. I met authors parents grandparents. I was going back through my old photos does and i remembered a dashing former race car driver named gus so apparently if you watch my instagram stories you know i have a soft spot for older men named gus but i remember when i told gus what kind of motorcycle road he laughed and said that's the first bike i ever stole does might be the coolest person i've ever met. I i also learned that these interactions didn't have to be particularly meaningful to fill me up. Sometimes they were really meaningful. So once i it was in california on book tour and my escort was driving me back from an event we had a significant amount of time stuck in traffic and she mentioned how much she really enjoyed hearing me talk hawk because her daughter is also recovering addict and that led to a long very heartfelt conversation about how helpless she feels and how much she default like it was her fault and it was me reassuring her that it wasn't and telling her all of the ways that she is already supporting her daughter and how she can support her daughter. It was a really he leave meaningful conversation and a few of those where it was obvious that god put me in this person's path for a reason but without my talking to strangers experiment everyman we never would have really connected. I would say most of them. Were just surface level connections a few like chit chats back and forth and then i left there line or got up from the table but still i was completely surprised by how much i gained from each and every one of these experiences one minute here two minutes there a couple times throughout my day. It left me feeling so good. I was so much happier after i left those engagements and i feel like the people full i left. Were happier to like. We were both smiling. We were both laughing. I feel like i made someone else's day a little bit better and i absolutely know that it made my day better. Another unexpected benefit was that it made me really good at small talk for things like parties or work events. I was already like pretty comfortable in that environment environment but when you get to practice several times a day in these completely safe environments it really bumps up your small talk game like no matter what in these talking stranger experiments your interaction is limited like at some point. I'm walking away and i may not see them again. Chances are never going to so. There's like no pressure whatsoever. It's awkward. If i say something don which i'll tell you about later 'cause i have said my share of dumb things. It's a cautionary tale years years learn and do something different next time but eventually i moved away from like how's your day going to coming up with really creative ways to open conversations nations and i practised staying really present for just those few moments which made me even more comfortable to walk into a party where i didn't know anybody. One of the most common questions i get when i talk about this experiment is what do you do if someone doesn't wanna talk. I honestly can only remember like maybe one or or two times where someone didn't wanna talk like i would open with like something funny or at ask a question and they would just sort of brush it off. Maybe it happened more often than i'm remembering like honestly ninety nine percent of the time. People were really happy to engage with me. I would say it was way more frequent that i didn't wanna talk. I would be in a bad mood. It'd be cranky. Rinke would be overtired. I'd be like over socialized and i would think to myself like i do not wanna come up with something nice to say to this total stranger but i'm gretchen rubin upholder holder so for the sake of the experiment. I would force myself to do it anyway. The most interesting part was that when i was at my crankiest or the most down talking to this total stranger even for just a few minutes completely lifted my spirits. It was an instant and powerful transformation. I was so whole again. I keep saying blown away but like this whole experiment was just so shocking to me that these short interactions with total strangers could affect me so much it was such a powerful lesson in the beauty of human connection and occasionally. These interactions did lead to so much more than just a two-minute interaction with a stranger. My waitress takashi became a friend in real life and now owns my favorite breakfast pot where i see her regularly. I follow more than in one of my starbucks baristas on instagram.
"melissa" Discussed on Weeknight Kitchen with Melissa Clark
"Hey it's Melissa Clark I'm a food writer for the New York Times which means my job is to think and write about food all the time your rubber you get your podcasts
"melissa" Discussed on Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban
"She writes, dear Melissa. I need help with self-care particularly around saying, no when work family, friends or life events come up that I don't wanna go to or feel to drain to attend. I always feel like I have to go like they're all obliga- Sion's. That's a really great question. Amanda, in fact, when I asked you recently, what topics, he wanted me to cover in these, dear Melissa segments boundaries, how to set them how to hold them was the number one requested topic? I think this idea of setting boundaries around saying, no it's difficult one. If you're a Gretchen Rubin, oblige her oblige URS respond very well to external expectations. So someone invites you, you feel like they expect you to come, and it's very hard to resist that it's also very hard for obliges too. Hold their inner expectation, which is I actually need to take care of myself right now in saying no to this event would be self care. I do not have this problem. I'm Gretchen Rubin upholder. I've never been a people pleaser. It's not hard for me to say no, it's very easy for me to evaluate my own need for self care against this opportunity to attend. Whatever event happens to be around the corner, but I have learned some tricks along the way because it's not always easy, especially when family or work are involved. And so I've learned some ways to, to help me figure out, whether I really do need to say, yes. Or whether I can hold my boundary instinct to myself care. One thing you can do is questioned. The stressful thoughts associated with attending the event so the first one you could question is I have to attend this event is that true. Like, do you really have to attend the event, if it's your own wedding or your mom's fiftieth birthday party, or a mandatory worked meeting, then, yes, you probably have? To be there. But when you really think about it in my own life, I would say ninety two percent of my social invitations are actually optional. I don't have to go. So thinking about do I really have to attend? This event helps me understand the significance of the event, the impact if I do say, no. And I can then way that against my need for self care. You can also question the stressful thought I don't want to attend this event, ask yourself. Is that true? Do you really not want to attend? Or maybe they're just a particular circumstance in that event that you're avoiding, like I don't wanna be out late tonight or my conservative uncle, and I are going to fight again, or I don't want to have to talk about my break-up, if there's a specific circumstance. That is preventing you from wanting to attend or is draining your capacity to attend. Now, you can ask yourself will do anything to mitigate that I might wanna go to this thing. If. If it wasn't for this doctor. So can you create an if then plan like if someone asks about my break-up, then I'll say it's been tough, but I'm getting through it. Let's talk about something else. Or maybe you can tell your mom to run point if you know, this family member you disagree with starts running their mouth, or you can set an expectation early that you can only pop in for a while. So if you don't wanna be out late. Yeah, I'd love to come. I can only stay for about an hour or so. And then if you find yourself having a great time, there's no reason you can't stay for longer. So questioning the stressful thought around the event might help you get clarity around, whether you do actually want to go and what the consequences might be if you don't go. In fact, that's one of my very favorite tricks. And it's something that my dad taught me a couple months ago. So I was up against my book deadline, but I was also battling the symptoms of my concussion, and I was working myself into the ground to get the book deadline. Don and work on the podcast and work on the way. Website, redesign, and keep my kid alive, and I was doing all of this to the detriment of my own house. So my dad was visiting one weekend and I mentioned during the weekend that I might pop up stairs to write for an hour. And he knew about the book deadline, any looked at me and he said, what's going to happen, if you don't and I was like, what do you mean? And he's like, what's going to happen if you don't turn the book on time and immediately, I was like, oh, well, it's going to be awful. I'm under contract and I have to turn it in on time. And if I've never met never missed a deadline in my life, and he interrupted me and he was like, what's going to happen, if you don't and when I really sat and thought about it. I said, nothing I'm going to tell my editor I need a few more days, and he's gonna say, no problem and that was like an eye opening lightbulb moment for me because I feel like book four we ask ourselves this question, what's gonna happen? If you don't we tend to like, have this airy cloud of dread. Surrounding what would happen if we said? No. Right. It's my first reaction when my dad has the question, which is all my gosh. Everything will be horrible. It's gonna fall apart. Life is going to end as we know it. But if we really dial in on the question when I really stop to think about it and came back with concrete. Realistic answers I realized that saying, no didn't actually have major repercussions, so you know, won't always be like this sometimes saying, no will actually be problematic, like you can't say no to your sister's wedding, even if you don't really wanna go you kind of have to show up. But in most cases, the actual consequences of saying, no are probably pretty minor, like you might miss the opportunity to connect with co workers at the happy hour, or you might get some good natured flak at the next family event for skipping out, or you might hand the book in a few days late. But once you realize the world isn't going to end. You may feel empowered to weigh the car. Quences of saying no against the benefits, you'll gain from holding your boundaries and sticking to yourself care in that instance I did take the weekend off. I did spend it with my family. I did hand the book in a couple of days late. And literally nothing happened. Like what a wow moment for me. Slow clap for my dad now after going through some of these tricks, if you do decide to say no to the event who is don't make up some kind of generic excuse or lie or fake illness to get out of it. You need to practice sticking up for yourself and holding your boundaries and that has to start here. So if you do decide to say, no, Tele truth, and keep it personal. You can say things like my schedule's been really full and I'm rundown. I really need a night at home or I wish I could but you guys are getting started too late. And I've got to get up early in the morning. Sleep is really important to me right now, you can also leave yourself out when you get the invitation. If you're not sure whether you'll have the energy. Event day. So I recently gave this advice to a friend of mine who travels a lot for business, every time, he travels, he's fielding invitations from people saying, oh, you're a see, you're in my town, do you wanna meet for dinner and he texted me from the road a couple of weeks ago when he said, how do you handle this? Like I know I'm in your town. I know we're friends, but I have a really busy schedule, and I don't know if I'm going to be up for this. So what I said to him, was just say that. Hey texter, my schedule's pretty full when I'm in town. But if I have the capacity for meat up, I'll send you a text. And if you happen to be free would love to get together. So no expectations, it leaves the door open should you decide you do want to attend? But now you don't have this obligation during a time where you are already probably stressed or overtired or slightly run down. Finally, if you've been a people pleaser all your life. Don't be surprised when people get mad when you start setting boundaries and holding them. They are very. To you responding the way you've always responded, and they know they can count on. You even if they're kinda taking advantage, or even if you don't wanna do it. And when you change that behavior, and you start standing up for yourself and putting yourself care, I they may not like it. But remember, their reaction is not your problem. Stay in your integrity, communicate effectively an openly but hold fast. You might find that releasing the expectation that every time they ask you have to go makes you even more willing to say. Yes, so there you go. Amanda, I hope that advice helps thank you so much for writing in to do the thing..
"melissa" Discussed on Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban
"Hi. My name is Melissa urban, and your listening to do the thing, a podcast where we explore what's been missing every time you've tried to make a change, and make it stick. Today. I'm answering three of your questions. Dear Melissa style will discuss whether staying on the whole thirty longer than thirty days is the way to achieve additional weight loss goals, how mentally hurting disaster when you find things going well in your life can backfire so hard and how to gracefully, but firmly respond to people asking, if you're pregnant, because you turn down a drink. There's a common thread in all of these discussions about the stories we tell ourselves in stressful situations. I hope by exploring these stories, you'll have your own lightbulb moment and be able to hold your boundaries. Shift your perspective, and successfully do the thing, the first dear Melissa question. I'll answer today, I've received so many times since the release of food, freedom forever in two thousand sixteen and it goes like this, dear Melissa, if I still have additional weight to lose shouldn't I just stay on the whole thirty. Can I really afford to move into food freedom? And the essence of the question is actually this, if I have additional weight to lose do I get to move into food, freedom. The I think premise of this question is I'm doing the whole thirty. I know it's not a weight loss diet, but by changing my habits and my health, and my emotional relationship with food, I have lost weight. And if I still have more way to lose shouldn't I just stay in the rules of the program to facilitate me achieving that goal? And the answer is no. In fact, there are so many reasons why staying on the whole thirty because you have a goal weight in mind is actually counterproductive to that goal. So the first thing I'll say is this. I'm not going to tell you not to have a weight loss goal. All that is your business, and though, I will encourage you to approach your health goals in general, from place of self love and self care to do it, helpfully and sustainably to really think about all of the other factors that go into health and wellness and happiness, besides body weight. I'm not gonna tell you not to have a weight loss goal that's entirely up to you. But I will tell you that if you do still have weight to lose according to your own definition staying on the whole thirty is not the answer. I if you decide to stay on the whole thirty until you reach your goal weight. What does that sound like to you, you're on a diet, the whole thirty is no longer a reset? It's no longer an elimination diet. It's no longer about changing your health and your habits and your emotional relationship with food. You've now essentially turned the whole thirty into just another crappy diet, which has never. Worked for you before so thinking about the whole thirty even for the first thirty days, you do it for the right reasons, and in the right way, and you're really embracing the spirit and intention of the program. If you extend to a whole sixty or whole ninety specifically to see if you can lose more weight, you are now bastardising the program to the point where it will not be effective for your purpose because it wasn't built for this, and you didn't sign up for it for this. So don't try to shove this kind of weight loss goal into the framework of the whole thirty because it's not gonna work 'cause it's never worked before, you know, it also feels to me, very punishing. Do I get to move into food freedom? If I still have way to lose no you do not. You must stay in the whole thirty until you achieve your goal weight that is your punishment for your body weight. Like that's not the language or the intention or the mindset that we embrace that whole thirty. And that's not the mindset. That you embraced when you began the whole thirty this is not about punishing yourself. It's not about as signing worth or value to your body weight. And so even asking the question makes it seem as though you feel like you still need to be punished for your body weight. And that is not at all the message that I want to send through the whole thirty another reason I don't want you staying on the whole thirty with the express intention of losing more weight. Is that staying on the program for this reason keeps you obsessing about your body, weight, you know, for the first thirty days, you are embracing the spirit and intention of the program, you were looking for non scale victories, you are denting all the areas in your life, including habits, and your emotional relationship with food that were getting better. But staying on the program specifically because you think you have more weight to lose. Now means you're on the program for weight loss. And the only thing you're going to be focused on is your body weight. So on thirty six
"melissa" Discussed on Do The Thing, with Whole30's Melissa Urban
"My name is Melissa Hartwig urban. I'm the whole thirty co founder and CEO and today. I wanna tell you about my very first podcast, do the thing my thing is helping people change their health habits and relationship with food. But this isn't a podcast about food through the whole thirty, I've used as a conduit to open the door to other topics addiction and recovery. Entrepreneurship money, relationships and self care. See all of you right now have a thing, maybe it's something you want to start doing going to the gym working through trauma saving money or pursuing a career you love. Maybe it's something you wanna stop doing eating too. Numb your feelings putting up with toxic relationship or comparing yourself on social media. It's the hurdle, you can't clear, the story that won't go away the goal, that's always just out of reach you need it, you want it, but you still aren't doing it. And you don't know why this podcast is about exploring. What's been missing every time you've tried to do the thing together with my guests authors? Doctors, trainers, therapists, and people just like you. We'll help you find your voice take the first step chart, a realistic PA and level up for good. If your ready to overcome negative patterns and empower yourself to finally do the thing, here's your first step. Visit whole thirty dot com slash podcast. Subscribe, yes, I know I'm starting you off with an easy one, but doesn't it feel good to do something will start rolling on April, thirtieth so subscribe, and stay tuned?
"melissa" Discussed on Melissa Hunter
"Podcast. Episode one. Oh, five. I am Melissa hunter. Your host also known to some people on the internet as mommy and this week. I want to talk to you about gratitude now I know this is an overused word technique law kinds of stuff in the self help world and the success world in religion and everything else that's out there. But you know what just shut up and be grateful. There's a reason sometimes that things get overused. Sometimes it's because it's a buzzword, like low hanging fruit or take it to the next level, or we're going to ten exit and sometimes it's because it's a tried and true throughout eternity thing. The people just need to do, and that people are not doing the reason why gratitude over. In the past decade, or so has become such a hot topic is because people have stopped being grateful. We have just become a society of complaining babies. I'm sorry. This is a little bit negative for me. I'm usually a lot more positive because I'm actually really grateful to be here. Folks, you know, people think that I'm just sometimes a little bit of a pollyanna that I see things as positive all the time. And there's a reason for that, it's because I've spent my entire life battling depression anxiety, in, so I have to be consciously aware all the time of what my mind is doing. That's how I mean tain my mental health and it's interesting Jared pedal aqui from supernatural. Don't laugh at me. I'm a supernatural. Fan and jarred is an amazing mental health warrior, and he said at a supernatural convention last year, that you need to get aggressive about yourself care, and your mental health, and that's absolutely true. You need to be really aggressive about this, and you need to get aggressive about gratitude people because if you're miserable, the reason you're miserable is because you don't realize how awesome your life actually is. So let me kind of try to give you the Melissa perspective, and the maybe you can apply this to your life. So for two years while I was well, I still am. But so for two years, I was going through an MS therapy called Teis Avary was a once a month infusion the stuff was great. You can only do it for two years, though, because after that, then your risk for a brain eating infection that. Would leave you a vegetable or kill you and my risk was particularly high because I had a high tighter this particular virus in my body, but I could do it for two years, which was awesome that two years bought me time until other therapies became available that we're able to get me under control. So I'm very grateful for those two years. But during those two years every month, I would go to the chemotherapy center at our at our medical center. And I would be sitting there me, you You know. know dragging a foot a little tired. A little numb as spasms here, and there me poor little me surrounded by women my age, who were skin and bones who were hairless vomiting, struggling, they were fighting for their lives against one form of cancer or another. And sometimes, I would see the new people in this was their first chemo treatment, and they had all the questions and they would look around at the other people in that room. It's not a private situation. I'll just sitting in these chairs sort of arranged in a circle staring at each other. It's kind of a very strange situation and, you know, and I could see the look in their eyes. Like, oh, my God, that's gonna be me and six weeks, twelve weeks. And I would sit there and I would thank God I would be so. Grateful that I only mess, and that MS while inconvenient was not going to kill me. And so I was really, really grateful. And I was reminded every month to be so grateful, that this is what I got in God willing, this is all I will get. And I'm good with that. I am totally good with that. I could be in a wheelchair five years from now. God forbid, it looks like that's not gonna happen. But if it happened, I would still be grateful, because my brother reminded me when I first got diagnosed they were, they were looking at the time to decide if the big thing on my spinal cord was a lesion MS, or if it was a spinal cord tumor, and I said being rational frame of mind, I really wanted to be a spinal cord tumor because then they can cut it out. I can. Radiation or chemotherapy, and then I'll be able to dance at my daughter's wedding, and my brother. Michael said. If it's MS he'll make it to your daughter's wedding. Even if you're in a wheelchair if it's a spinal cord tumor, you might not live to see your daughter's wedding. And I was like, ooh reality check your right? It cancer actually is worse cancer, Trump's MS every time. So that's kind of the way I look at things, I'm like a super grateful person. And I spend an awful lot of time in my consulting practice coming across people who complain a lot, and, and people like to come to me to complain and more and more. I've been shutting them down because it's like don't harsh my mellow. If you're coming to me, because you want my systens you want to hire me, you want my consulting, my coaching my advice. Hey, I'm here. But know that I'm going to give you a pep talk crying. And we're gonna talk about the first. Thing that you need to do is to stop with this complaining thing that you're doing the over problem. It's deal with it. Let's look at how we can fix it. Let's talk about some techniques so we can get you to a better place. Don't just keep coming to me, complaining and complaining and complaining and complaining. I mean you need to put perspective around your life. Sometimes you're listening to a podcast right now which means that you live somewhere on this planet where you are able to listen to a podcast keep in mind that millions if not billions of people. Do not have the technology to listen to a podcast. As a matter of fact, they don't have clean water. Take a moment. Take that in and be grateful. And I'm asking everybody in life to just stop for a second and be amazed because if you're listening to this podcast believe you live in, in society where you can listen to a podcast where you have enough money to go buy a latte, half calf. Allman mill splendid of Frappuccino over ice with some cold foam, right? I mean you live in that world you live in a world where you don't just make a Cup of coffee in your mister coffee at home anymore. You live in a world where you're walking around with this lake amazing electric device with these thing in your ears. And you're listening to someone talk to you while you're going to a job or picking your kid from school or. While you're going for a walk or exercising at the gym, because you have to exercise at the gym, because getting old, and you're gaining wheat, and you gotta lose weight because you don't walk five miles each way to get probably cholera infested war. Let's let's get you'll gratitude hat on. And while you're walking on the treadmill or, or standing on this crowded subway, which in July smells, heinous be grateful for the fact that you're there, and that you're not somewhere else. How about being grateful that you woke up this morning, less Brown said, you know, any day above ground is a great day. Sometimes it seems reductive I know. But guys, it's true. I mean you can be part of the heard of bleeding complaining cows, who are just logging around in the field all day. This axe move move. My life's moods grass every day, right? Or you could be brave and you could be bold and you could become a bird and you can join me up here in the sky. Now, I will tell you that I've fly alone a lot, but it's really cool. The view from up here is amazing. It's breathtaking. It's all inspiring, and I'm, I'm so happy, and I feel so blessed because I'm grateful. I'm grateful for everything. I'm grateful that I'm sitting here doing this podcast right now. I am grateful that my husband put together these really awesome at Iran, dictators that thanks to having a YouTube channel we were able to purchase because if we did not have YouTube channel things would be a little bit tighter around here, and there wouldn't be money to do extra, get really cute at Rhonda chairs for the backyard. No, I'm not making millions of dollars on YouTube now I'm not making the tons of money that we were making in two thousand fifteen so we were able to go on huge first class trips to Disney every years sometimes twice a year. But you know what I got to do that. And. And I'm got these really cool Adirondack chairs that really excited about as a matter of fact, I may take a picture of them and make them thumbnail for this podcast. I'm so grateful for those chairs and for the money to have those chairs see this is where the magic happens with gratitude when you're grateful things start to happen. And that's not why you should be grateful. And a lot of people teach gratitude as a success strategy, not me. I teach credited because you just should be you may or may not become successful, whatever that means to you, you may or may not become rich because you decide to become a grateful person in join me up here as bird being all grateful, and riding the clouds and all that kind of stuff, and that might not happen. Might not, but you'll be enjoying life, and I don't know to me that seems like success enjoying life. Always seems like success to me as a matter of fact, being alive to me seem successful, although I do believe in an afterlife, and that it's a great place. But at the same time, I'm like, not in a big hurry to get there. If you want to have a successful life, happy, life of fulfilling life, you need to get grateful. You need to shut up and be grateful. The first thing I'm gonna ask you to do on this podcast. And we will revisit this topic many, many times. But here's what we asked. You really simple. I want to get a little notebook. Yes. A notebook. Now there is a great gratitude app that I use. But, but pen and paper really is more powerful. I hate to admit that too, because I have trouble writing because of the so I can never read, what I right, but I still right. Because it is a powerful thing that happens with your. When you put pen to paper or pencil to paper in my case anyway, so I want you to start an end each day for thirty days by writing down five things that you're grateful for these do not have to be big things. Okay. I'm very often especially right now in July very often on my gratitude list is air conditioning, and I write it a seat, because I wouldn't be grateful for men immigrate air conditioning. I'm grateful for things like clean water. I'm often grateful for my bed. I really like my bed. I'm grateful for my house grateful for my computer really grateful from iphone, really loved my iphone. I'm grateful for my cats. I'm grateful for you know, if it was a nice day. Sometimes I'm grateful for rain because we needed it. I'm grateful for my dolls. I'm grateful obviously, for my husband for greasy for my family, but it can be really simple stuff, whatever. Just in the moment, you're grateful. For what I'm trying to tell you, as you don't need to write war in peace about what you're grateful for just want you to pause in the morning when you wake up and right before you go to bed and rate, a minimum of five things that you're grateful for they don't have to be things that happened that day..
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"To everybody's mommy this week. I wanna talk to you about priorities and what I like to call. You can't actually have it all. Well, see the thing is, is that you can have it. All you just can't have it all at the same time and priorities, like plural is actually impossible. So I looked up the word priority to understand what a priority really is. And it's a thing a thing that is regarded as more important than another. So I know that when we talk about priorities in business and work in life. We talk about prioriti-. Ising our life. And so we're going to say that, okay, this thing is the most important in this next thing is the next most important. And then we've got this third most important thing in this, like, and then you're like we're on the eighth. Most important thing in the problem. Is that anytime we call something a priority in our minds? We're saying that this thing is like super important, and more important than almost everything else in our life. And as entre preneurs, we have a tendency to have multiple priorities, and that leads very quickly to overwhelm while. It's okay to try to be juggling multiple projects and in life. I mean is a multiple project. I mean, your, your apparent your spouse, your employees or a business owner, your daughter, your sister, your friend. I mean. Those are roles and within those roles obviously, we have some built in priorities. You know, family comes first kids are the most important thing. But when we're talking in terms of business, and managing projects, then we need to really, really get saying here about what we're prioritizing and how we are prioritizing guys, you can't have eight priorities. You just you can't. I've tried it can't be done. I realized that a situation that I had put myself in was that I had three priority projects. Well, okay, originally, I had five priority projects, even though I know better, two of them were events and then the other three were new initiatives that I'm working on. And I was trying to do the two. The most important things. Well, okay. I was trying to do those top three Harry. Let's be honest. I was trying to do. All five of them at the same time, I was treating all five as if they were the priority, because you see, they were my priorities, and that was not working out for me now we're gonna end at all. So I had to take a step back. Take a deep breath. Get out my notebook. I'm with I can still do paper. I like paper. I can't read a thing. I right. But just the activity of writing gives me some sort of a sanity. But if you want to do this type and really sit down and write out each project. Why it was a priority. Why is this one of my priorities, and why does it have this date associated with it in three out of five of those cases, those dates were set by me, because in order for me to not procrastinate it's very important for me to put due dates on projects now two of them were events. So they kind of had their own built in urgency. You know, but the other three were mine, and I had assigned dates and those dates were all sort of clustering together here in July and August. And I was freaking out because every day I was feeling so overwhelmed. And I realized that the more overwhelmed and freaked out, I got the less productive. I was becoming I sat down last night. Did breathing. I got centered Agom focused got my notebook and I asked myself, why? So I'm going to share with you. What my priorities are were working on launching online, courses, I've got rebooting and rebranding my YouTube channel, and I've got building a new branch of family video network. And these all three of them were kind of clustered together, and I was trying to get them all done by July thirty first and because that's the date I said in my head, so I sat down. And when I asked myself, wise this priority for each one of those things I realized that what I originally thought was the number one position priority, which was launching might online courses. And that whole new piece of my business was actually not number one. What was really number one was the rebranding and rebooting of my YouTube channel number two was actually not the launching of my online courses, but. Launching and growing this new branch of family video network. And then in the third spot is my online courses, now, the reason that originally put the online courses at number one was because this is something that I have always always wanted to do. And I have always put off and I said that this was the year. I was going to do it, and come hell or high water this year I was doing it. I was going to put it out there. I was going to start teaching and start doing webinars, and it was going to happen this year and you know what it's still is going to happen this year, but because I put this pressure on myself, and I tied it up with all of this emotion and stuff. I didn't realize that when I stopped to look at the ROI of these things that one really didn't need to be number one, now return on investment for me doesn't necessarily mean how much money am I going to make return on? Investment for me. The payoff for me is, what is it going to give to me, not just financially but in terms of joy and fulfillment because I have found that when I'm joyful and fulfilled I make money a successful. Mommy is a happy, mommy but really a happy. Mommy is a successful, mommy. When I looked at the priorities again. And I asked the why the rebranding and rebooting of my channel is something that gets me so excited, and it's going to be so much fun and have all of these really fun ideas for it, and I haven't been focusing on it because it wasn't the number one priority. But in reality, in terms of payoff of joy, and excitement and fulfillment, and a whole bunch of other personal stuff. It's number one. And here's the thing in terms of finances. It is also number one, because my YouTube channel is my venture capitalist for all of my other projects. And there is a time sensitivity to it because I wanna get this puppy relaunched enrolling in time for it to be super hot and happening for q four for the holiday shopping season because that's when all of the sponsor deals are going to come in for a channel like mine that has to do with dolls and toys. Ding priority number one. So then courses became priority number two, but then I was asking myself. Why on my family video network new branch and the why there is really compelling? It's about helping other people. It's about serving a group of under served people in the YouTube population that it's their time. And this is is the people that I'm working with are so jazzed in so excited and so ready to go, and I just, it's just going to be so exciting. And so fulfilling to see this come together, and there may be zero financial ROI behind this, especially in the beginning. And that's okay because what the ROI what the payoff is going to be for me in terms of fulfillment, and joy, and excitement is huge. So ding priority number two, and then they've got the courses. Yes, this is still a priority for me. And the why is still the same. And yes, there could be a significant ROI financially on this. And it does mean a lot to me, emotionally and spiritually, but it doesn't mean as much. As those first two. And so to make sure that I am focusing on priority number one in making progress on priority. Number one, not only if I set a date for it. Because because that's all well and good. I've also got myself a little notebook I'm into little notebook. So got a little notebook mccarey my purse, and I am going to track and rate down. Everything that I do every day for that priority to make sure that I am doing things every day for that priority, because you see, that is the priority that is more important than anything else. And so I better be spending more time on that every day than any other project. I'm working on. Yes. See how that works that's prioritizing, and you cannot prioritize five things. You just can't. You just can't prioritizing means there's one thing out there that is giving the bulk of your attention. You've got a secondary thing that gets some attention. And then at most. You've got a third thing that you touch a couple of times a week, if you've got more than three things and you don't have like a team that you can assign things to you're gonna go nuts and you're gonna get so overwhelmed. And if you're like me, you're just gonna like freeze and nothing is actually going to get done because especially if you're prioritizing five different things means you're doing little bits of it every day, when you do little bits of little things every day, nothing ever gets done. You need to just get in there digging gator done. And now I invite you to do the prioritizing project sit down right up all of whatever you think your priorities are right now and you can include your family and your relationships and all that stuff. But those fall under a different category, and they always take precedence, but right down your priorities, and right out why they are priority. Why does this need to be? Be the thing that is the most important consider each one as if it's going to be the thing, the priority, and then consider the ROI not just financially, but emotionally and psychologically, and then look at all of them and figure out which one really is the priority, and then which one is your secondary project, and then what's the third one that you can sort of work on couple times a week until you finish priority? Number one, and then it can move up the ladder that is your assignment this week. And then I invite you to enjoy the I cannot tell you how much there was in my life last night. The Cy of relief. The letting go the being able to breathe of having one priority. One thing that I am focused on completely like I'm so zen right now. I'm so relaxed and it's funny because after I did that I immediately just jumped into all of the things that for some reason, I haven't been doing on that, that were so easy to do like getting the stuff out to get my logo done, and sending the color palette to the production company and like all this stuff that I just like why didn't I do the easy stuff but somehow it wasn't getting done. I did it because, you know, once you figure out what your priority is you just go for it. Thank you so much listening. You can find out more about me at Melissa hunter dot com..
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"I was about a three hundred dollars short of the twenty thousand dollars and someone paid me in cash for some consulting work that I had done. And I said to Bill, I was like, hey, so it's so paid in cash, how cool is that? And he's like, and with that just hit your twenty thousand dollars. Kinda crazy. So I have written another check for something very specific that needs to happen by October first, and I, I don't know where that money's gonna come from. But that's not my thing. I don't need to figure out where the money's gonna come from God in the universe takes care of where the money comes from how the money happens. You just got to believe that it's going to happen, and you have to believe it every day, and I look at my check every day, and I rate it in my planner every day. And until I manifested all twenty thousand of the twenty thousand dollars. I looked at that check every day. I visualized giving the check to Bill every day. I wrote in my planner every day that I was manifesting twenty thousand extra dollars by may. I it was in my prayers every day, I thank God for helping me to manifest twenty thousand extra dollars by may. I noticed how just rolls off my tongue because I said it constantly and I visualized it constantly it works. It sounds stupid. It sounds woo. But when you. Get past the stupid in the woo. When you get to the place where you realize that there is an actually, there is an infinite amount of money out there and that whatever you need. You can have you just gotta believe it. That's all. It's that simple stupidly. Simple, just ridiculously simple, and I am working through, and you have my stupid stories about money. Even if the stupid story is a little bit sad about a little girl who got money in love and abandonment, all kind of smushed together in her little head. Even if it's that kind of stupid story, even if it's like a tragic back story you can still work through it. And when you work through it, then the money just keeps coming. I just keep getting money from nowhere. And by the way, after the after the seventeen thousand dollars, I just would randomly I it's funny because I told my friend that night I'm just I'm I just keep sitting here, clicking refresh on my Email. I want more money to come in the Email and it did. And I also got a check in the mail from some class action settlement with AT and T for fourteen dollars. I got another check in the mail for some sort of refund for something for seven dollars like I would just get these random checks from nowhere. And just I would just laugh cashed. Every one of them I got a check for like a dollar something. I cashed it. I'd find money on the ground. I'll pick that up. And I was at going towards my twenty thousand dollars because you also have to respect it and know that it's coming from a bunch of different sources. But guys, it works just whatever your stupid story is about money. You try to look into the why why what, what's going on with me and money? And I highly recommend sitting down and writing a letter to money, I highly recommend the book. You are a bad ass that book looks a little silly. And the title might put some people off my gosh, I have read that book, three times now that book is amazing Jensen zero is a mazing. It's absolutely amazing and whatever you're stupid stories. You're limiting beliefs. Your tragic back story about money, your reason why you think that you can't manifest money or that you shouldn't manifest money. Let it go okay in order for you to do good in the. World. You need to be okay? You need to be taken care of to be. Oh, came be taken care of, especially in the western world. You need to have money. In order to employ people, you need to be able to pay them in order to give to charity, you need to have money. You need money. Money is okay. I promise you, you will not become an evil person. If you have a lot of money you are already a good person. So when you have a lot of money you will do good things with a lot of money. I know you will just like I know we will because we do, and we have, and the more money we have the more money we can give the more jobs. We can create for people. The more we can give to the world. So I'm good with it. I'm good with manifesting all the money that I need. So I encourage you to do some manifestation. If you do manifest, let me know I wanna hear about it. Send me an Email at. Manifest at Melissa hunter dot com. That's right. I created Email address just to hear your manifesting stories. So that's manifest at Melissa hunter dot com. And thank you guys so much for listening to the just go for it podcast. That's right. I want you to just go for it when it comes to manifesting money. And whatever it is that you want to do in life. Don't wait any more just go for it. Thank you so much for listening. I'll talk to you again next week. Bye..
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"This week on just go for it. I get so excited that I found on the desk so much you can hear it. Welcome to the just go for it podcast with me, your host, Melissa hunter, aka mommy to all the nice people on the internet this week. We're going to talk about manifesting money and what complete and utter nonsense. That is until you manage to manifest seventeen thousand dollars while you run out to get burgers at five guys, I have been a self hell self exploration personal development growth person. Whatever since I was about thirteen years old in our family, counselor gave me a book called notes to myself, and I discovered that people wrote books about how to become a better person or a better me and I just I got hooked. So I'm fifty years old. So what does that like thirty seven years? So it's a long time. And so I've read oh gosh. So many books and listened to so many. Tapes. Yes tapes. They used to be on cassette tapes, and then they were on CDs and now they're on audible and read the books watched videos, I've gone to events, I've gone to Tony Robbins events. I've gone to so many events, I've seen John Maxwell, and I've learned so much, and I've gained so much and, and become someone that I'm proud to be over the years, and the one little sticking point that I've had along the way had to do with money now. I grew up without money. Money was a struggle in our home. My mom was a single mom. My grandmother helped her raise us. Didn't live in. We didn't live in the gutter, but we didn't live in greatest area and it was a bit of a struggle. So I, I grew up believing money was a struggle and a carried that into my adulthood, and even as I studied with all of these people who kept talking about, you know, just changing your mindset about money, and manifesting money, it that one piece never exactly clicked for me. And then, you know, the secret came out, and there was all this manifesting talk, and manifesting became like the buzz word, right? You could manifest anything you could manifest a Maserati, you could manifest your perfect mate. You could manifest anything and honestly over the years, I have manifested just about everything except money. I manifest people like you would not believe when I need people in my life. To help me, grow doubt me do something or to learn something, I just turn around and I am meeting, some new person somewhere at an event door randomly in a store, and just meet people, and I need the perfect people. When I need them, I manifest people. No problem, I manifest success with no problem, I manifest. I manifest did my husband. I actually thanks to twenty Robins. I sat down or night road out exactly what I wanted in a mate, it was like it was like a shopping list. And if he were to go look at that list, and talked to my husband, you would realize that I manifested my perfect meet exactly. It's actually kinda creepy, but the money piece and every time people would start talking about manifesting money are manifesting things like houses, or cars, or anything that had to do specifically with money or financial gain. I would always sort of switch that off in my head. I would I would get this lucrative be feeling. I get this like the vibe right? And you might be there, you might be there with me like I can believe all of this other stuff, but the money and for some people, it's that they feel like asking God for money or manifesting, money is not spiritual. That's for some people. That wasn't really it for me. I didn't think that money wasn't spiritual. I just it just felt itchy because I had a lot of limiting beliefs around money. So is reading the book, you are a bad ass by Jensen, Sarah, and Jen, great big hug, and squeeze you. When I finally meet you in, in the book, Jen has a lot of exercises. And one of the exercises is to write a letter to money. Now it sounds really hokey and stupid. But I in, in this wonderful year of two thousand eighteen I decided that I was going to once and for all. Paul address and work through my issues around money because I realized that I had some deep seated negative issues around money, and that, that was affecting the financial success and stability of my family. So an notice I just made that about my family. I didn't make it about me. I'm working on that. It's like still I'm doing it from a family of not for myself still working through these things guys. But see I notice it when I do it now. So I wrote sat down got my pin got my notebook, and I sat down to write my letter to money and I did not expect it to go where it went guys. And I know what you wondering right now. You're, like, are you going to tell us about how you manifest seventeen thousand dollars while you were getting hamburgers? Yes, I am. This is the story. So I sat down and wrote this letter, and it went to this really. Early unexpected place when I was a little girl I lived with my grandparents, and my mother and my brothers. My grandfather was the light of my life. He was everything to me and pretty much whenever he was sitting in the living room, at least once a day, I'd walk through the living room. And my grandfather would say baby here, I got something for you. And I would climb up on his lap. And by the way, I was the light in his life, because his only son died of a heart attack when he was thirty years old when I was baby and, and having me in their lives to take care of kind of helped my grandfather go on. And so I'm climb up in his lab. And we would do whatever nursery rhymes story is got your nose. You know, the kind of stuff you do with your grandpa, and then he would give me a couple of pennies a nickel dime. Wooh. A quarter. You know, whatever kind of little change he had in his pocket. And he had given me this plastic piggy Bank, and he would tell me go run and put it in the Bank, and I would go run, and I would put the money in my piggy Bank and. You see what happened was, was that for me, money and love became connected, and you're like, well, how could that be a bad thing? Well, when I was ten years old without any explanation without talking to me without anything I went to school. And when it came home. My grandfather was gone. He left my grandmother, he left all of us. He left us. He left me. He just left. And I didn't see him again until five years later when he had died. And it. You know, crushed little Melissa. He was my world. He was my light. He was. He was my grandpa. He was everything to me, and that, that was the first in a series of distabilise ations in my life. But that one was really, really hard hitting. I realized and I had not thought about any of this until I was writing the letter to money as I was writing the letter to money. I think one of the instructions was to think about sort of first memory of money, and I realized that my first memories of money were of my grandfather and sitting on his lap and the love and the piggy Bank. And he left me. And I completely fell apart completely fell apart writing this, this letter, and they went into other things with the letter, but I realized that. Wow. Who did not expect it to go there, right? It's kind of heavy kind of heavy for this podcast. Melissa usually a lot of funnier. You're stupid stories are usually a lot funnier. This one's not so stupid. But it is a stupid story. Guys. This is a limiting belief me believing that somehow money and love are connected, and that money can leave you just like love. Can leave you here's last stuff going on in there that, that I needed to work through. And so, I started to work on my, my relationship with money and I decided that I was going to manifest money I was going to do this. I can do this. So I sat down and I decided that I was going to manifest twenty thousand dollars twenty thousand extra dollars. This is very important. Twenty thousand. Extra dollars for my husband by may, I, I was going to I was going to manifest this money because I wanted him to be able to go. Join this golf club that he he liked and we weren't gonna be able to do that this year. And I thought that something that he really wanted. And so I was going to do that. I sat down. I got out the checkbook. I wrote a check out to my husband twenty thousand dollars. I put a date of may I on it. I clipped it onto my planner and I was going to every day I was going to pick up that check. And I was gonna kiss it and the whole thing I was I was in, man. I was so in. So I did this wrote the letter, I wrote the check, and then I had to run out to five guys to get burgers for my teenager. So I get in the car, I go over to five guys get a burger a job home give the burgers to the teenager. I go look at my Email in I have to. Emails from two different brands one, offering me, ten thousand dollars for video and one, offering me six thousand dollars for video that my friends is sixteen thousand dollars. I was gone for like twenty minutes. So, like within an hour of writing the check for twenty thousand dollars. I got sixteen thousand dollars in my Email that six thousand dollars turned into seven thousand dollars because they wanted it rushed. And here's the important piece of this puzzle. I don't get brand deals. You know, let me change that I didn't use to get brand deal, offers just randomly out of nowhere, by the way, since I've changed my money manifesting mind, set, I have gotten more sponsored video requests in the first seven months here of two thousand eighteen then I got in all of the first six years of doing the mummy and Gracie show, because I changed my money, manifesting mindset, it's absolutely insane. I would I gotta tell you guys when I came home and I got those emails like now I'm all like. To. I'm like one of those people who's onstage go. And that's right. And I had a Lamborghini, by the end of that you guys I had chills, I was freaking out. I was texting miss Robin. I was jumping up and down. And telling my husband, I was telling the teenager who was looking at me like. I tell my mother had to tell everybody I was so freaked out. It was so quick, and specific and God knows that I'm a little dense sometimes in. So when he's going to try and show me something he does ri- call. What can the across the head with a two by four like Bong like okay, do you get it? Now. You can manifest money. Guys, you can really do it. He just got to get really specific about what you want, when you want it, why you want it. And then you have to believe that it can happen. It really all you need to do now. I know that sounds so simple. But, but, but, but, but the thing is for the first time I really believed it. I wrote that check, I visualized myself handing the check to Bill on may first and saying to him. I manifested this for you, because I love you and I want you to be happy and handing him the check and I believed that I could do it. And so I did. You know, I think that's a quote. She believed that she could do it. So she did guys I it. It's really that stupidly. Simple. It really really is. I mean, I cannot believe it. It was that easy now to continue to manifest money and stay on the good side of money. I do need to continue to work at it because it's easy to backslide. It's very easy, and I actually did hit the goal of twenty thousand dollars but I actually hit it the second week in may while I was at an event called clamor..
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"Amy porterfield. Oh my gosh. She din yellow port Gabby Bernstein. All these wonderful women. I follow. Tony Robbins been like a Tony Robbins. Acolytes and smacked twenties with other referral for twenty five years. Tony. But they are not the secret to my success. I am the secret sauce. You are your own secret sauce. You are the secret sauce in your life and your business, and you need to realize that I want to share a stupid. Little Melissa story with you, and it's really sweet, and it's really funny, but it does tie into foam. Oh, because I was I was, I had the worst foam. Oh, this might have been my first case of foam out. So I was about three years old somewhere somewhere in there. Very little. And this is actually my first memory of, of being in church and, and we're Catholic, we were raised Catholic twelve years of Catholic school. I was at my oldest brothers. I think it must have been his first, holy confession which I think now is called the sacrament of penance or something or no. I'm sorry. It's now called the Sacramento reconciliation we like to change the names. We like. To change the names, mechanic church like to keep you on your toes. So I must have been about three and I remember his soul, clearly forty-seven years later, because it was my first case foam. Oh, so we're all sitting there it's a packed church and it's very important ceremony. I got that I knew I was dressed up. I knew that I had to be like, super quiet and good. There was at some point that the priests said any, who's probably Bishop, if it was a confirmation, but doesn't matter. He said, you know, the important mandatory to God told me that God was now going to. Descend, an and be among us. And I was so excited because this was the moment. This was the big moment. The big man was coming. I was finally going to see God I was in his house. Right. And the priests said he was gonna come and be with us now. And I was so psyched. I cannot tell you, I still remember. I sat there and I was looking around the church, and we, it's very old school Catholic church that I grew up in and the relax of statues, and so now looking at all the statues, because my dad used to take us to a lot of those Herri Henry housing movies, like the Sindbad movies where the statue would come to life like claim Asian stuff like stop motion. So I'm looking at all the statues, and I'm thinking, maybe one of the statues is going to come to life. That's god. Right. This is what I'm thinking. And then look, I'm looking around. I'm like, okay. That's not happening. Oh, maybe, maybe he's just going to be like a ghost and he's going to come down from the ceiling. So I'm looking at these this very ornate ceiling that we have, and I'm looking for I'm looking all over the church now and they're still, there's just droning and they're singing people are doing stuff and kneeling and I'm looking around and I'm waiting and he's not coming. And I remember I was looking at my mom like the she him is like can everybody else? See him. And I can't am I am. I too little to see him. So I never actually asked. But for very long time after that, I was too embarrassed to admit that I didn't see him by the way, anyone tell anybody that, you know, when God came and y'all saw him. I didn't I don't know. I, I was just it was. It was about. But I you know what? I really felt like I was so mad after that because I felt like I got gypped, that's right. I got gypped everybody else saw God. I didn't I missed out foam. Oh my first foam. Oh and, and I was really annoyed for a really. And I still get foam. Oh, I mean, I still do it's like every event that I up for I go to an event. And I know that there's a piece of me, there's a part of me inside. That is saying this, this is going to be the event that, that, that, that mega shift that huge shift inside me happens in, I finally break through all of my blocks and emerge triumphant like the butterfly out of the chrysalis, but that's not really how it works. It really doesn't as I said, it's just a series. It's just a series of moments in our lives. Like I missed out on B school. Right. Marie four Leo. Does discreet be school thing? I didn't know about Marie folio or be school until right after be school registration closed this year. I was so upset only go. No, but you know what? I don't have to wait until next year to launch a successful podcast or coaching business because I missed be school. I don't have to wait for be school. Am I going to go to school next year, certainly hope? So I think I would like to, but I don't need to wait until I go to be school to succeed. That's a stupid story. Okay. I don't need to have the most perfect Email funnel. Right. I don't have to have the biggest Email list to be a success. I don't need any of those things. Everything I need is inside me. Everything you need is in side of you. We are all that we need to be successful to be happy. And by the way, if you do want to see God, I know where he is. Now, I figured it out, you know, fifty years been around for well, I figured out how to see God I look in the mirror, f why the secret sauce to everything is in side of you. You are the magic pill knowing that you are God, knowing that you have everything you need right? At your fingertips anytime you need it. That's the magic. That's the magic and anything else is a stupid story. So I'm not saying you need to stop reading, and stop going to events, stop listening to podcast. Oh, no. Please keep listening to podcasts. Make sure you are following the just go for it podcast. But don't tell yourself that if you miss an episode of a podcast that everybody's talking about everybody's talking about this podcast. And I missed it. Everybody was talking about this event that I didn't go to now. I can't be successful. Please don't do that to yourself. Use your tools but don't get obsessed with your tools. Don't do what I did. I spent a year year at least year trying to decide which platform and funnel system at cetera. To launch my online coaching business year league really seriously, just like whip up a WordPress site. And like just tell your friends, Melissa lake, you know, a lot of people what the heck, and I'm still sort of procrastinating on it. Honestly, I'm still this message is for me as much as for you. You know, this is a stupid story them telling myself that my website has to look just so before I launch it, and, and, and that my courses have to have this certain look before I put them out there, but over it because, you know what my real foam is real foam. Oh, is lying on your deathbed and not having done everything that you could have done and everything that you wanted to do. That's the real foam. Oh. Real foam. Oh hits on your deathbed until then there is no foam. Oh, there is no phone ABI K. There is just you. And just going for it just know that you have everything you need, and the most amazing things happen, when you step out in faith when you just go for it when you start moving forward, when you give yourself forward momentum and, and just go for it. Everything starts to fall in place. And then not just say that because is the title of this podcast I'm saying because it's true. So say no to foam, oh, become a recovering foam hallock with me. Let go of phone to be you can do it. We can all do it together. You are enough. I am enough. We are enough. We just gotta go for it. I thank you so much listening. If you enjoy this podcast, please tell your friends. Please tell them about the crazy woman who thought she was going. See God when she was three years old. And until we meet again, remember, whatever you wanna do whatever idea, you have don't we just go for it. But..
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"Episode number two with your host, Melissa hunter. That's me to the people and the internet. I am known as mommy, but you can go ahead and call me Melissa or mommy, whatever works for you today. We need to talk about a really, really important thing. It's foam. Oh, do you have foam? Oh, do you know what foam is foam? Oh is fear of missing out now? This is a term that sort of joined the lexicon of our modern world because people watching other people do things on social media were getting foam. Oh, they were seeing people at parties in having what appeared to be beautiful. Wonderful lives in there. They felt like they were missing out so this term foam. Oh coined. And I kind of like the term foam. Oh, but we're not going to talk so much about. Seeing people on gorgeous vacations or at parties that we weren't invited to and dealing with foam. Oh, we're gonna talk about foam, oh, and the work Hollick. Now, I am a recovering alcoholic, and I'm an entrepreneur, and we will at some point talk about how the heck do you manage to do those two things? But today we're talking about foam. Oh, so I want to just throw out a couple of blog headlines that I've seen lately, and I want you to think, when you read these, how do you feel? So we've got five productivity hacks. To guarantee success, the three things all billionaires do in the morning. The one change that will ten x your business. Entrepreneurs online, these headlines will sound really, really familiar. There's things like if you only read one book this year for your business blank, how I grew my Instagram following by one hundred thousand people in three weeks, and you feel like you gotta jump on. You got to read it. You've got to use this tool. You've got a follow this system, because if you don't you might be missing out foam. Oh fear of missing out now. You need understand that all these titles are designed to prey on your foam. Oh, and I know this because I write these headlines, I know how to pray on foam. Oh, I also am a recovering foam. Oh, hollick. That's right. I've just going to new term foam, a holic. So there's workaholic which I am. Covering from workaho ISM, but I also realize I am a foam Hollick, and, and it's really it's really not a fake thing because what happens is you become so obsessed with this fear that you are missing out on the one key thing, or the three key things or you're not doing the three things that could change your.
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"So I have a confession to make my hair is not spiritual enough. See if you haven't seen a picture of me, I have this really short pixie cut like really, really short. And it's not one of those pixie cuts where like you gotta leg blow dry and flat, iron and use product and all kinds of stuff like that. Ain't nobody got time for that. I've super straight hair, I super shirt, pixie cut. I basically wash my hair I do condition. I do condition. I'm proud of myself. I actually put conditioner in my hair, and then I let it dry. And if I have to do something, I spread some stuff on it that I got at the salon that makes it look like it has some texture and I'm good to go. So what does that have to do with being spiritual or not being spiritual? Well, I was at Gabby Bernstein, spirit junkie. Masterclass. It's a three day event, and I was looking around and I was noticing, everybody's hair, and everybody had this really nice long hair. There were a few ladies like myself, who were rocking pixie. But for the most part, people had pretty nice long hair, and in general, I notice most of the female entrepreneurs that I follow had this really long luxuriant hair, like Marie folios hair. I just the whole time. I'm watching TV. I'm just looking at her hair. It's so luxuriance and like Gabby Bernstein, long blond hair Danielle LaPorte woman's got here for days. So I was sitting there and I was thinking to myself, and I think this was kind of like on Saturday morning, I was thinking to myself. I'm not spiritual enough and nobody's going to take me seriously as a spiritual entrepreneur, because I don't have long luxury, his hair, and maybe I should think about growing out my hair. Let's stop for a minute. And think about how ridiculous it like when I say it, it sounds so ridiculous. And so I turned to my friend Jennifer who met at the spirit junkie masterclass, and we room together, shat out, girl. And I told her, and I told the other ladies around us what I was thinking, and we'll had a good laugh about my lack of spiritual hair. And so the joke for the rest of the weekend was Melissa. Your hair isn't spiritual enough. You can't be spiritual. You don't have spiritual hair. So guys, I don't have spiritual hair. So it sounds ridiculous. Right. But here's the deal. That's a stupid story or what other people would call a limiting belief. I'm I'm more real. I call them stupid stories that we tell ourselves can we tell ourselves a lot of stupid stories in life. And that's one of my stupid stories was that nobody's gonna take me seriously as a spiritual entrepreneur, because I have a pixie cut because I've short hair because I don't have long luxurious speech. Ritual hair. There's all kinds of stupid stories you might be telling yourself stupid stories like I can't start my business because I don't have enough money yet or can't start podcast because I don't have a good name for it. Are stupid stories are things that actually keep us from achieving peace in prosperity, and they're just our egos way of holding us back. And they're also based on our fears, the real thing behind my stupid story is that it was yet another way to keep me from trying to live my dream because I'm afraid that if I try if I just go for it, I'm gonna fail. You might be tying yourself things like, oh, I can't, I can't start this business. I don't know enough yet. I'm not connected with the right people. I don't know the right people yet our need to lose the weight. I before I do whatever it is. I. I need my energy, get some investors. I need more money. I can't just I don't have enough money to start this business. I just I don't I need to wait. There's too much competition. It's too late. I'm too old. I'm too young have kids, I'm too busy. I don't have a good enough idea. You can tell yourself stupid stories for ever about why you can't do whatever it is that you really want to do. But you're telling yourself these stupid stories because you're afraid to fail. I'm telling myself stupid stories about why I can't start a podcast because I'm afraid to fail. I bought like a fancy podcast do Hickey. And, and I haven't set it up yet. So I can't record my podcast. Of course. I could just set up this microphone thing that I haven't put a pillow behind achieve the same result. Right. But no, that's not professional enough. Guess what? I need to embrace the hashtag, so profession it got me through mommy, greasy show on YouTube, everybody. Loved. Us because we were not professional enough. Well, we were not as professional as other people on YouTube, they embraced our imperfection. They loved our imperfection because it was relatable. Guess what your imperfections are relatable? My lack of spiritual hair is relatable. I told myself stories stupid stories about why I cannot be motivational speaker and a life coach for twenty five years. I'm not gonna go into all of the stupid stories trust me. They were more stupid than I don't have spiritual enough hair. But I'm not doing it anymore. I'm here I'm here with a pillow a kiss mouse pad underneath a microphone, some notebook, paper, scribbled bunch of stuff on it. Can't read, and I'm recording podcast. That's right. I haven't been starting this podcast. I have a lot of ideas for the. Podcast. I have a whole trello board full of podcast ideas and notes. And I've had this board going for months. I've learned everything there is to know about podcasting. I listened to podcast why haven't I started a podcast because I can't think of a cool name for my podcast. I mean, Jenner cookers got gold, diggers and referrals, got Marie TV, and I can't think of anything, and all the good names are taken, and there's nothing that goes with my name, my name doesn't rhyme with anything. So I'm lying there after doing some yoga this morning. And I'm lying Shiva's where I'm supposed to be quiet mine, quiet body. But of course, my head is spinning about need to come up with a name for my podcast. And while I'm lying there. God, said, well, okay, God's voice sounds suspiciously. Like my voice in my own head, by the way. But God said just go for it, and then I thought that's the name of my podcast. Yes. It's a stupid name, but you know what? I'm just going to go for it. Because if I we until I come up with the perfect name, I'm gonna be ninety nine years old, and starting a podcast, so here I am just going for it. And here you are listening to me soc-, it worked whatever stupid stories you're telling yourself about why you can't do whatever it is that you want to do just know that they're just stupid stories and their stories. You're telling yourself, it's not anything that anybody else's really thinking or believing. It's all in your head. It's all you, creating your own blocks. Your own speed bumps and detours to keep you from finding peace and prosperity. Because you're afraid you're afraid that if you put yourself out there gin you'll fail. Guess what you might fail. I have failed so many times, I have failed. Spectacularly in fifty years of life. Trust me, I have failed. I have gone down in a flaming blaze of glory. But I have also succeeded massively I have a chief things I never would have dreamed of and every time that I did that every time that I exceeded my expectations succeeded on a massive scale blew my own mind. It was because I just went for it. And I just I swear to God, I got offered a promotion they were like we want you to go and take over Manhattan operations in fix Manhattan Manhattan's in trouble, Melissa near the person to fix it. And I said, I'm going for it. I'm gonna get on a train yet, I'm gonna go to Manhattan every day. Guess what didn't even know what trained to get on had no idea how to use? The subway wasn't even exactly sure how to a cab didn't know where the. Treats were, but I figured it's a grid. How hard could it be cannot tell you how many times I went to the wrong location? But I never lit onto the people who work for me that I didn't know, everything there was to know about Manhattan, and I learned learned as I went along. And you know what I succeeded massively massively I took Manhattan which was a region. That was in the red. That was hemorrhaging money. And in twelve months, I turned that puppy around into a hugely profitable region because I just went for it, whatever you're stupid stories are that you're telling yourself, just know that they're stupid stories you may not be able to stop them. Trust me. I still think about the spiritual hair, but now I laugh now I laugh, when I look at Marie folio, and I'm like, gosh. She's got such beautiful hair, I think to myself, and I've got hair. It doesn't matter that my hair isn't long and luxurious, nobody's going to care because it's what's inside me that matters. I could be bald, bald in spiritual vote is monks are even the Buddhist nuns are bald, right. Who would tell you that a Buddhist nun is not spiritual enough? Right. Whatever your stupid story is that you're telling yourself or stupid stories that you're telling yourself, just kind of let them float on by, but don't listen to them, and don't let them hold you back from doing. You just gotta do it. Just go for it, whatever it is decide right now. Right. This minute. That if this crazy woman sitting with a pillow behind a microphone with her unspiritual pixie cut can put herself out there with a podcast with a stupid name. I can do whatever it is..