20 Episode results for "Meany"

Clarity

The Daily Meditation Podcast

10:12 min | 2 years ago

Clarity

"This is episode when seven hundred and seventy five welcome to the daily meditation podcast. I'm Mary Mickley. And I honor you for giving yourself a little more peace, energy and clarity. As you get ready to meditate today. In today's episode we launch into a brand new meditation series, and we will be exploring this week as our theme. Your higher state of consciousness that part of you that is your true essence. It's wing you feel in flow with your life, the rhythm of your life, and most importantly and a higher state of consciousness. You feel connected with the world around you. So it's not so much about. You and your preferences, and your more ego Centric qualities, but rather it is about you feeling as though you're an integral part of the world around. You were you contribute? You have a purpose in your life. That has meaning. You may have been drawn to meditation because you could feel as though your life didn't have much Meany, and you could have been in a lot of pain because of that. And so when you reach a higher state of consciousness and meditation is one of the best ways to do that. So you are in the right place doing the right thing for yourself. Sometimes when people sit down to meditate, they may feel a sense of disappointment. As though that didn't really do anything for me, or I wasn't really feeling anything. Win. You let go of a focus on your own needs, and your preferences and your likes and dislikes you allow yourself to open up to a higher level of consciousness, and this will give you a deeper more meaningful experience of meditation. So every day this week in this series. You are going to discover a meditation technique, you can do as you meditate or even as you go about your day taking this technique off your meditation cushion or chair and to your day to day life. And as you go through this series. You will open up to new possibilities for yourself may. Maybe a new way to approach not only your meditation ritual by. The way you may think about your life. So so this series will take you more deeply in word as you're guided to a higher state of consciousness this week. I'll be sharing at different meditation technique with you each day here on the podcast. And if you want the full guided meditations where you can meditate for up to half an hour. I wanna let you know, you can find those on the sip and ohm meditation app where you can try for two weeks free access to over seventeen hundred guided meditations, and you get a journal that's customized for each week's series. So you'll get a higher consciousness journal for this week and you receive a daily reflection question within the journal each day. You also receive a slowdown guide with each meditation technique, I share with you throughout the entire series. There's even a yoga Asana a yoga posture for you there and an herbal tea. Speaking of herbal teas we have and. Herbal tea subscription box where you can find the herb that I customize for each week series. So along with a meditation techniques to help you with higher consciousness. There is an herb that may help you as well and the earth for this week is rose hips now rose hips symbolizes patients in love it also represents quiet wisdom now. As with any herbs you want to check with your physician before you sip any or because they are powerful. And this is especially true. If you take other medications are pregnant or are nursing. Don't be afraid of the herbs but just use caution with them. Now. This is a fun way for you to celebrate and go through a meditation series together. So rose hips t for a higher state of consciousness. The buds of rose hips are hard as their dried, and they are very fragrant. They're often sipped for spiritual renewal. We have a subscription box where you can order a full months worth of herbs and herb for each week that I share with you that's customized along with each meditation series. And you also get some meditation cards their cars with all the different techniques on them. They're laminated as well. As the herbal tea with different recipes in ways, you can use each herb. Herbs can be used in a multitude of ways, and you get a calendar with a meditation technique every day for an entire month as you explore the different series here on the podcast. So that is a way for you to have more fun and to go a little more deeply into the meditation series. You can find those on CYP and own dot com. So I subscribe Shen herbal tea box with meditation cars and a calendar for you to go along with the weekly series. So Asha get ready to settle down. And do you were meditation today for higher consciousness? Closure is and begin to notice your breath. Keep your spine. Nice and straight. Make sure your body is comfortable win. Your body is comfortable your mind can relax. And for your meditation technique today. Consider. And underlying theme that may represent your life. What is your higher purpose in life? It may be something that you are already engaged in doing. Maybe something you do for work or the way you raise your family or the way you contribute to society. Or maybe you don't really share your higher purpose? Reflect today on your higher purpose, making sure at some point to stop your reflection and allow yourself simply to be. To be in Stonehouse. You are so worth slowing down for.

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S5 E2: Saturday Morning

Uncover

29:12 min | 1 year ago

S5 E2: Saturday Morning

"This is a CBC podcast. The walls are different and we were watching the kids come out and it was I love their noise right there shouting and laughter and it all straight ahead retinues runaway Yup. Yep Yep so I'm GONNA cry but I guess everybody puts their desk in the same spot so it's kind of humming bacteria twenty years is a long time. Please please give whatever will please. Lee Way to the police. I big charming left home that morning. Go to a brand new job rob. We have not been able to find that jock on the weekend. Police found skeletal remains in a North York Park. They matched Shar meany the narrative that was developing was that she left home in the morning to go to job at North York wreck but her friends are you're saying no no she was going to work as an undercover drug offer both for Stanley Tepid <music> <music> <music>. I'm Michelle Shepherd and this is uncover cover. Cher meany chapter two Saturday morning <music> <music>. How are you good. How are you Michelle these to you you for coming here. Collin braddock sat beside charming in grade nine homeroom class at woodbine junior high. I'll just tweet out there. She was my she was my crush. Another reason why you can really still see fifteen year old Colin in his thirty five year old face today the smile while the huge smile that takes over the lower half of his face is exactly the same. Oh Man I remember the I remember the first time she gave me like she sat beside Asya just totally like white my nose with my sleeve and she says like Oh calling into their homeroom teacher had placed Colin besides Germany she knew army would be a good influence on him yeah. She was just she so. She just had to smile that could light up the room is is really and <hes> also have a personality. She was never mean to anyone or anything like that. The whole grade nine class was excited about their upcoming graduation and caller remember Sherman being anxious to find work. She had told other friends that she needed the money to buy shoes to match her mauve dress. That's the dress her mother had been holding during my first visit to their apartment. I remember on the Friday she said to me. I got a job job. You know when I was like wow you like you. Were so young I mean nobody really adding jobs back then no so we were surprised woodbine junior highs in don mills a neighborhood just north of downtown. Toronto Senior when Colin and charming he lived there in the late nineteen ninety s the area was a mix of cultures and incomes walk back then it was just it was almost like come. You know that movie coming to America you know what I mean. It was just every every single different type of person from every different walk of life that you can imagine I mean it developed after World War. Two Don Mills was originally white and middle class clusters of postwar bungalows lows manicured lawns sensible cars over time it became one of Toronto's most diverse neighborhoods striking in a city famous for its diversity versity. The neighborhood is bordered by ravines that meander through Toronto at the center of the neighborhood is the peanut plaza and yes. It's called that because because it sits on a parcel of land that looks like a peanut I really don't come up often so and then we passed fairview. Fairview is a huge huge shopping mall and these malls were big touchstones for teenagers in the area Sharman. Her friends often grabbed lunch at the Peanut Plaza Fairview was where she got her grad dress. I think I remember someone telling me it was from Liz Chateau. I think that's it the the white one of their think. That officer served me up on the West Side of Don Mills Road Standing Sentry over the Peanut Plaza. There are high rises with affordable units. It was here that Armey's family settled would by junior high was right across the street. I actually have changed that much the well. How do we make yourself comfortable. Jody White Ms White students with Sharman Collins Grade Nine homeroom teacher today. I'm meeting her in the same room where she greeted her class. Every morning. Great nine is super took important time in your life and there are big changes in its. They're teenagers very hormonal time. Ms White is one of those teachers you always remember. She's the kind of teacher who talks to students not down to them and she thinks thinks about their lives outside the walls of the classroom especially at woodbine where a lot of the kids struggled with poverty or their identity or relationships with their parents not to mention everything else that plagues teenagers. She's fit big blue eyes curly hair that she wears cut short. She's wearing sensible running shoes fuchsia fleas and you you get the sense. This is how she's always dressed. It's easy to imagine her being strict but fair a little quirky. Maybe not a big fan of authority so sharpie meany stuck out because she was such a <unk>. S- intelligent loving person she wasn't perfect right. She's a teenager and she could be very Sassy <hes> but in a good way she wasn't someone that would let people <hes> runner over she had pinions and she wanted to be heard and she she cared for everyone in the classroom. She was the one we often get in a room of thirty kids that there are a couple who caretake who notice you know someone's someone's not well or something's not right and she was the one who would notice and move in and help and and a good student too. It sounded like it was a good student. Yes smart fishy was smart. Find that hard to say <music> hello. How are you good to me. It smells Nice. Jason Dean Malik and A to Sipa bullion went to school with Shami. They all became good friends. Dina and a Tusa are in their mid thirties. Now a Tusa has two young kids. DNA just got married. They've actually stayed really close. They reach others bridesmaids. When I met Armenia's meany she was the sweetest girl and this is a Tusa we had Jim together and that's where we bonded and then there was cost country and we look through the Dina's on every every single team. It's been twenty years but their memories of woodbine junior hi Shaar meany and their last year together are still fresh but some stickies in here uh-huh. This isn't what by near shore meany <hes> thinks she'll either be a lawyer or need a lawyer. Her nickname was scare. meany scare meetings brothers are her pet peeves and then <hes> this is her class picture was the ad everyone looks so yeah there's MSUIC. She actually looks exactly the same and yeah you're right. There guys look like baby's. Yeah yeah grade nine that young. Are there any stories about her that you like to remember number like vivid memory. I have of her. We all got together me her. A whole bunch of us like the class was just together in the morning before we got started and the backstreet boys had just come out with. I want it that way. Every time I hear that song it Kinda like triggers that memory nobody was a happy memory and that was good and she was just I remember us singing along to it and like dancing to it. We were just in class goofing around like in the morning being and just listening to the backstreet boys. What was what by NYC Woodbine Woodbine was amazing. Honesty was the best three years of my life grades seven eight and nine there <hes> I met her angry seven like right away like first day of school <hes>. It was just one of those things where you wake up. You're so excited to go to school. Like everyday was so fun. It was a very multicultural school. Where are your pants from. Iraq and you're you're in Iran and did you. Were you guys both born in in Canada. No neither one of US almost everybody. I know right. Woodbine were immigrants. Yeah like a Tucson Dina. Many of Don Mills Residents escaped Warren conflict to come to Canada mainland it was I know different for Charlene's family who came from Sri Lanka leaving behind a relentless civil war <music> parent's nightmare because as immigrants all their parents over told that says white we left everything behind free. Utah good education here and for someone to leave their country to come here for a better life for that to happen. It's probably like appearance neighbor. It's just horrible. <music> mini walked home that Friday night when she went missing and we're talking about. We're so excited. I walked her. Home said have a good weekend and I took the bus home. Two days later. A two-set got a call from a friend front should told me shirt means missing and right away. I'm like okay. Who's on the phone with you. You're doing a prank like I didn't believe her at all. It and she's like I'm not making it up. She's missing. The police came interviewed her like she was going for a job interview. She never showed up and again. I never believed I'm like okay. Whatever I'm like sued see you tomorrow like I gotta go like going in the card out and I hung up this was years before instagram and facebook new spread by phone parents. It's called <hes> other parents. One friend called the next and the next. What was it like when you guys got to school on Monday. You realizing that your friend wasn't lying that this. This actually happened like what was the mood like there. Everyone was just scared of and we all thought okay she'll be back by. We had a staff meeting in the morning and we were told and <hes> that the police would be there on Monday morning. June fourteenth nineteen ninety nine Sherman e seat and Ms Whites homeroom class was seventy and they interviewed the kids and the teachers I think for us we were in disbelief because we on new charmian wouldn't run away. She had plans she was she was going places. So it was to all of us it was at disbelief that anyone could ever harm her and which she come back to US UH MS white had to go back to her students and help them cope with the news you so you can imagine how every was reacting and the kids and the staff. It was very hard to keep teaching math or it seemed don't absolutely irrelevant. It was hard to to keep going and there were all sorts of rumors floating around it. It was very hard to stay clear of that and just hope. How do you deal with that. The first time that homeroom gets together and there's an empty desk there was a lot of hugging talking. We we listen to music. We talked we you of course could speculate and we didn't really get any work done it. was I mean I was the teacher but we were friends. I think Shar means disappearance changed the nature of our relationship. It broke down that lasts barrier between teacher and student. It was person awesome when you think of her today. I remember sharp meany every Jim Dan in the fall. All I'm sure that everyone in our class and everyone who knew Armenie which is changed but I think it goes for any of us who have lost someone new. You carry the menu and you are. I I am a different person because of Xiaomi <music> <music> ooh <music> they could do. I've seen La Professional Corporation Gratien. How can I help one amid abby singer. I'm in the mid nineteen ninety s we were both in her early twenty s he was active with the Tamil youth community and he was an outreach worker with the Toronto School Board today. He's a lawyer and father of three staff about ten people. I mean I know no. It's been good. I've been blessed when Charmaine was reported missing. The school board called Abbey to help. I don't remember the emotions is that I went through. I was just getting things done right so it was mostly just you know getting out there putting posters and connecting with people going on the media just talking about the fact like that she's missing. You know trying to find a way to get her back Abbey. Had An instant bond was charming as family they both had fled Sri Lanka's civil war and abby new almost everyone in Toronto's tight-knit Tamil community especially the kids bills considerable youth violence involved in the community of that time so I remember at that time because because I remember I I can remember if it was that year or maybe the the next year but it was it was Aviva K Kannan extensive news reporting on god-like so the the the violence was started with ninety <hes> seven and some group was in those days the Vita Canon or some Metron owes most active streak things their membership was young and mainly Tamil. One group was based in the east the other in the West. Sometimes their rivalry erupted opted shootouts on busy city streets at the end of one thousand nine hundred ninety eight was when we know we were trying to sort of get the communities together do not you know <hes> continue the violence so that all happened on that time right so there's a lot of them cops. I remember that year but they had the Tampa was one of the the Tamil task force a controversial police unit set up to track the Tamil gangs at first the community was thankful for the help the community community there was a need for policing and community but it didn't take long for the relationship to sour many fell. Police targeted the entire. Tamil community not just the gang members resentment built those <hes> confusion within the community with the police actually trying to help her right so essential amino was Tamil. The task force was immediately called in when she went missing in some media police circles. The assumption was her case. He's had to be related to the gangs. If not that that it must be cultural. The parents of missing teenagers Sharma knee an end the Ville say reports their daughter. Her was in Montreal for an arranged Tamil wedding or a hoax the fifty the rumors were rampant. Detectives working on the case say that is just one one of a number of tips. They've received she had been sent away for an arranged marriage. She had been killed by a relative. This is the second time in a week. The family has had to endure false false reports. Each false story brought new pain for the family. I remember the the person responsible for the town was the and the commanding officer attending to the home and having a conversation conversation with the family and I was sitting in the living room and then I was listening to the conversation that was happening in the kitchen and <hes> <hes> you know he specifically mentioned that he has been spotted in Montreal. He was implying that she had somehow ran away and I think it was very hurtful. It full the family. The family was very clear from the get-go that you know that that she did not have any relationship. There was no sort of guys involvement I think in one way a this kind of stuff distracted the whole investigation. <hes> I believe leave that I spent some time chasing those other stories too so does Germany's family. Her father even went to a Toronto jail to talk with an imprisoned gang leader in the hopes of hearing something anything that could help it all went nowhere Matt Krohn. One of the lead homicide detectives remembers the numbers. All those rumors police had to track them to in the end. Those investigations turned up nothing yeah it was <hes> cashew. Sri Lankans she was locked into a Sri Lankan gang or boyfriend was a Sri Lincoln gang member and the other one was she was escaping a <hes> an arranged marriage aw I went and asked the parents directly and this is nothing like that never an more you learned about this this young Gal some of it's just ridiculous on its face this. This is just a nice nice kid so we're was army going that Saturday morning. ooh So far. The only solid lead is the phony job offer. She tell you about the junk very little because I I was surprised the closest thing to job as a paper and I was happy for calling the boy who sat beside army in their homeroom class last saw her the day before she disappeared. I remember that Friday like yesterday telling you and she yes. She was really excited about got. It is normal Friday. Were this was after school. After class in class was just about to get out and <hes> yeah. I was just like you know because we excited to those. What are you doing this weekend and then she told me I'm getting a job part time job and I was like wow that's that's great. That's awesome me be getting money girl and then <hes> yeah Saturday happened <music> there were conflicting stories about where Sherman he was going to work her parents had told me she would be answering phones once and it was their neighbor Stanley tippit who had arranged it tip tonight that now the police their theory was that army thought she was going to work undercover for a police operation and this is why they did find a phony job application form in her bedroom an application for working working with the Metro Search Unit as far as we're concerned. This is a fictional outfit. We haven't been able to find anything even close to a quote unquote metro search in Metro Search Unit. It was obvious the application wasn't real. It had a typo strangely worded police had held back on publicizing this piece of evidence the press conference to announce it was six months after Shirley's remains were found. The police told us the application was undergoing friends testing. Although the tools they had back then weren't as advanced as they are today. Police want anyone one who's heard of the Metro Search Unit to call them. They believe a Reuss may have been used to lure Shar meaning to the East Donlan Park a feel. She may have been told she would learn how the fictional title Search Unit operated but who lured her this. This is why police were so suspicious of Tippett. They knew he had impersonated cops and that he had a relationship with kids. In the building. We go all the different stories that he had told people in the building about who he was and what he was and what was his background was and he used to actually have. I had a jacket with police on it. <hes> you had a night's decades to carry around as well and he would patrol the building. He was in from time to time. This is former homicide. Detective Matt Krohn again the the building itself had a lot of <hes> people in it that were new to the a new to the country <hes> when he told parents that he was a police officer an ex police officer they they accept it <hes> the obviously felt safe enough to to allow their children to go swimming withstand. Teach them some karate which I think he tried to turn into a regular regular thing but I don't know often that happened through some digging in court records. I learned there's a history of tippett pretending pretending to be a cop in nineteen ninety eight typic- told a group of young boys he was a police officer and took one of their bikes as part of a supposed investigation this happened when he was still living in chumminess apartment building just a little over a month later tip. It was in trouble again this time. It was the building superintendent who called police after tip made a fake arrest and his run-ins with police go back further in one thousand nine hundred eighty two when tip it was sixteen. He followed a teenage girl office city bus and attacked her. The court record says he approached her from behind put his arm around her waist and a pellet gun to her head. He then pulled her into a lane way and told her to lie down. Luckily she got away before he could do any more harm and twenty years ago when I was writing about Charlene's murder. I didn't know all of this but the Toronto police they did <music> brutal rate and like I said it was until I was a little older and I was like I want to know what really happened. What really really talk get a lot of answers when we were young and he's just like I wanted to know needed to know and that's what I found out about everything all all the crimes from that man and other lives ruined. I don't even know how he was able to run around the city. Causing Causey met havoc <music> coming up on uncover Shar meany hi Michelle Hanley Tippett Hypica- calling I just wanted to call and <hes> I'll try again later or possibly tomorrow. Take Care uh-huh uncover. Shar meany is written and produced by myself off. Michelle Shepherd and Kathleen gold her our associate producer is Alina Gauche. Our audio producer is Mitchell Stewart. Our digital producer is Judy Z you Chris Oak is our story editor are video producer is Evan Guard transcripts by Russia Shahada Var Meta and Carol Park our senior producer of CDC podcast tiny springer. An executive producer is not <music>. If you're liking king this season of uncover check out our first season uncover escaping nexium taking you inside the bazaar self help group that attracted actors politicians nations and the super wealthy escaping nexium is one woman's journey to take down the secret of personal growth organization. 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S5: Sharmini - Trailer

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03:16 min | 1 year ago

S5: Sharmini - Trailer

"This is a c._b._c. Podcast charm meany stuck out because she with such intelligent loving person she was so kind she decided to smile that could light up to sharm meany <hes>. Thanks show either. Be a lawyer or need a lawyer. A hundred nickname was scare meany scare. Yeah meanings brothers are her pet peeves. We were just in class goofing around like in the morning and just listening to the backstreet boys <music> poynton morning. Did you realize should made a horrible mistake. <music> showman is a top student at woodbine junior high. Who everyone says never gave an answer trouble. The please fear the worse but hope for the best on the weekend police found skeletal remains in a north york park to me. Justice was never served for they think we know who did it and i'm in no position to point the finger but i don't have to be a detective to put the dots together. He was famed amiability this very deceptive. Just don't think there's a shred of shame or humanity and never ever how mapra man mike him. Don't you have to acknowledge that. He's not really the perpetrator that he is innocent. Not found duct tape ties drought awesome all sorts of dr the year i'm dark get one of one. There is evidence that supports since the shelf shaped your head pleased. Come on now. Put yourself in that situation. It could happen to anybody. I don't recall all making that case so i'm telling you that you that's fine if you don't recall it but i'm telling you that's what you told me. Uh one saturday morning in june one thousand nine hundred nine fifteen year olds charmian undeveloped disappeared and never came home. No one has ever been charged with her murder. I'm shepard and this season on uncover. I'll we'll take you back to where my journalism career began toronto's crime beat sherman. He's killing was one of my first big stories and has haunted me ever since join me as i re investigate her murder. That's on uncover charming <music> <music> for more c._b._c. A._b._c. original podcasts go to c._b._c. dot c._a. Slash original podcasts.

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RHOA: Dissenter Square

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57:11 min | 11 months ago

RHOA: Dissenter Square

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Oh yeah everybody. Thanks so much for being here as usual. We will be doing a couple of videos this week. You can find over on our Patriot on just go to patriots dot com search watch crap into tussle where your find are bonus episodes this week We had some time on the weekend as most of us did and we both watched a couple of the first episodes of selling set. I know we're really eight K. But we finally the for a couple of episodes of the first season. So we're GONNA talk about that a little bit and then you know. Video recaps are superfund ago. Check those out and that yeah sweet Before we dive into today's recap of the real housewives of Atlanta Reunion. We just wanted you some small business shoutouts for all those people who are in need etc so. I got one from Amanda. Who wants to recommend her friends? Business Test needs life. Coaching holistic healing and distance ricky business and Basically what Tessa does is that she She provides life and relationship. 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I just like this is this week is terrible so like that's why. I woke up and I made myself pancakes. I was like I need. I need some need some carbs. Yes I went from having like a skin blanket of my skin to like this quarantine skin igloo. Just dragging around with me like snail in my own body. Just carrying around a fucking IGLOO. But anyway I watched the joker and his. He's kind of you know kind of. He's mentally disturbed. Obviously and his thing is he can't stop laughing back no matter how bad things get and sometimes. I wonder that's basically what's happening to me you sell. Yes I guess. We'll see just left. Just left us up. I'll tell you something. I always joke about how I'm getting Karen Hair in quarantine but I actually discovered something really amazing with my hair last night. Which is that if I brush it against the part because it gets brushes this to my right side normally but if I brush to the left instead it gets this bizarre volume and shape that is official Karen hair and I think I'm GonNa do it on our crap on demand to really show people how you can have instant Karen here. It's kind of amazing. So that's where I'm finding joy. Oh my gosh. I don't know that now's the time to really revel into carrying here. No it's not that I'm not I'm reveling in it. I'm reveling in the fact that I can get Taryn hair so just like turns into a mass a week of of killer. Karen's this week Taylor Karen from outer space seriously killer carrots from central park fucking. Can't we're not going into it now? We're GONNA talk about this epaulette real housewives by the way. I just realized I was like the headlines. Were so bad. I said go hug somebody. We can't even do that Do people go stab each other in the streets? Been you know what I'm GonNa say this in case you didn't see on Instagram My isolate poster came in and framed input on the wall on looks. Awesome okay so we are actually selling you know. We always joke about gather gather. It's like our least favorite sign in all of them goods the gather sign so Ronnie made the perfect anti gather sign and so perfect for the Times. We're living in right now. It says isolate in the gather font. And if you want one like teach you can do it like t shirt or hat or post however you want it go to crap and Smerch Dot Com and get our exclusive isolate merch. Because I have as awesome and I sat there eating my pancakes this morning looking at that little sign and that just made me so happy so funny. It's a public service announcement. Yeah I mean to get get a little isolate shirt God. People need to hear it around my neighborhood. Jeez okay so here. We are over in real housewives of Atlanta. Tom Final Reunion. They brought in. Giovanni the big games the begins. Let's save the three union by bringing in that bid from Clark that's right so we're back at the big cliffhanger which is where's leany. Where did he go? Where many nate. How Down Marla? Like little texter. Yanni's abby just look so confused. Andy really does look just like a guy who's waking up on the side of the park you know and you're like I'm not sure if he's just had a long died or a long life you know like what's wrong with Ambi. Andy looks confused. He's off centre-half at this reunion. Yeah he's kind of off to the side he just his is a really widen. I mean you just six confused and sad reading twitter sponge. Yeah yeah he probably Hamas So either yes so it's gone But oddly enough. She didn't really turn off our computer. She just sort of like mostly closed it. She didn't even close it all the way. So we just have this the entire hour. We just have this close up of some of her notes for for her Spontaneous impromptu reeves that weren't so impromptu so You know going on this thing of like when it gets hot in the kitchen you have to move to another room And she tries to really nail that saying but never quite gets it. She's like when the heat gets hot. It's time to go to a room. That's not in the kitchen of it's hot but it's too bad centrally. See in your room and your kitchen because now it's hot because it's hot in the kitchen and you're a little overheated. You never quite get fat and can you guys. Yeah well when you keep starting fires. There's going to be heat. Which means that it'll be in the kitchen so you'll have to move to a different room that hopefully will be a lower temperature. Ideally Room. That's harder away in the house. Bill Andy Goes. Has Anybody just been cut out of a reunion like? Can we just cut her out already? This is ridiculous and I. It's like well actually one time. I did only one segment and then I was gone. And he's like no you were sent home. We get a clip of Andy kicking her off and being like go home and take care of yourself. I would go home to take care of myself but I'm already at home with my baby which I have. Maybe they won't be as baby this episode at all so so he's like all right. Well let's get back to that but clip package of Kenya being an awful friends in the el-Rol it. Yes we see this whole clip again Kenya saying that. You know now. Cynthia's attached herself to eva you know she's always just switching friends up and all of this and I forgot some of this. Can you think. Let the man propose when he's ready like didn't you have your eggs frozen on like the second date could you please? Yeah you hypocrite so so basically asking Cynthia like Do you don't use think that sent the. Do you think they can trying to ruin your proposal like chat? I didn't think Kenyans trying to the proposal at time but watching it back in seeing that she was blatantly trying to ruin the proposal. Yes I actually do think. She was trying to ruin the proposal. Good and es Kenya. He's like well be revealed. Gye looper Bozell. And she's like well let. Obviously I've been told about the proposal every day so I didn't think it was a big deal and the I would never ever ruin someone's engagement. Never Advert Mandy. Abe and specially never ruined engagement of a friend of mine who seems to be a little bit more of a star of the show. At that point of the season. I would never do that was like yeah and Windy. Brought the cookie lady. You had no problem throwing Cynthia under the bus and saying that it was filed. So why are you so comfortable doing so? It was like look Andy getting all getting his anti was going after. Kenya since knee was gone. I mean it's so. Andy so blatant when he plays favorites and people got really mad when Andy played favorites with Bethany during that famous reunion With Bethany and Carol dressed like Tutsi and so he got so mad including Carol at Andy but no one has and of course. Let's not even mentioned the below deck reunion like this. What this reunion episode. I'd be like really goes down in terms of favoritism for Mandy about like when the because he goes after. Kanye really really hard this hour so Kenya basically is like well. I felt like my friend Cynthia. She told me about the conversation. She antenna had in Toronto and she also disclosed that she met the cookie lady. I and also invited her cookies to Brussels Brooklyn's party. Yeah I think Kanye has a point with that one because we see the clip of them cookie ladies place and Cynthia. Bring like Oh. You're just so beautiful and then goes you know. I love a natural beauty. And she's like so. Why don't you come to the baby shower because Kenya loves natural beauties so to come on come on yeah party by the way like just scathing indictment for a how Like SUPERFICIAL CYNTHIA'S. She literally says you're so pretty you should come to Brooklyn's party. Oh so based on her prettiness she should come to this important life event for basically someone that like. No one knows who? Kooky lady as cookie lady doesn't really know who Kenya is or Brooklyn. But because she's so pretty. She earns a spot at the table. And I don't see the difference between her inviting her to shower me inviting her to a lunch. I mean I'm sorry but of course there's a difference. I mean yes it still would have been a confrontation from this lady either way but they have a makeup Lynch plans with they. Were all supposed to sit there and make up and kid you. How a big thing what Portland is also messy here. She's so messy anyway. She's trying to describe it. She's like listen when I met the Kooky lady and she volunteered all this information. I thought wow. You're like a real open mic right now available in bookstores as I thought you know what you're telling us all this stuff y tell me just come to Brooklyn's party until face to face so you're you're just like you. She's she's almost made. It sound like this. Like perfectly benign thing to force an force a confrontation at a at a baby shower. And it's so funny because wasn't Kenya's whole thing not at my baby shower like didn't she have a real protective vibe over that party anyway. And here's the talking about how she was. Just GonNa you know engineers some sort of face to face And Cynthia's I thought it was just going to be a fun. Kiki Andy. How did not know this woman was going to be on the show like you were being filmed and you think that was being filled and candies like I love you but what you did was worse. Cynthia and then Candies like yeah. You said. Tell her on camera. I mean that seems worse because then you're trying to get her ambushed at this party and then everyone starts talking at the same time. Cynthia's big defense is well. How do you know that I wouldn't have called and told Tanya she was going to be there? Nobody knows nobody knows how would you? How how do you know that I wouldn't have been even more messy than I already would have been theoretically at how? How do you know that I wouldn't have been as faces I've always had? I got the chance you know. Yeah that's the was such a strange defense and then like you call until Tanya that she was coming in Cynthia's light know Cynthia does have finally land on a little bit of a better defense which is like. Listen if I have a problem of you and I bring a woman to confront you. That's one thing but if I don't have if we're cool but I bring a woman like I'm not trying to expose. Yeah I'm just trying to like you talk about it. Which is a little different. There is a subtlety there which is like bring someone to to basically be your cannon fodder and also take the shrapnel which is basically Kenya did well meanwhile porsches up in the corner going well Andy Tube people had a loaded gun and on the one gun went off but then the other didn't go off but they were still too loud. It like. It's hot. The kitchen rollers throwers. When he ate is gone so then so then Cynthia pulls Anini and she's like next Andy. Move on move on now. What else. Yeah it was weird seeing Cindy get so matt Cindy. Cynthia was very snow. Is there forgotten sister from Three's company? Sorry it was weird seeing Cynthia. Get so ruffled yeah. It was nice. Then and now rebelled. We got from you what we needed. Okay you're fired by now. Yeah you're fired so so then ante start asking Kenya her jokes about the one. Like Bazeley Cynthia's like it's like well you said that's India's basically a wine retailer but all your questions. We're we're asking questions that ask a years. The what's up of our while you being undermined kid. I agree with the view and I am a natural beauty. Thank you yes. She basically says well. It was a rose. What was the Kiki at first but at some point? I should have just taken accused of her being uncomfortable. Just stops but but I stand by the fact that I wasn't coming for her business. I was just trying to make her be more uncomfortable with the fact that she knew nothing about our business and we were one hundred feet in the air thank you. I am a natural beauty so then the next question is India every season you seem to be kind of upset about something can use done as friends with her in West. Need your problems. She's like well Kanye says well she's not. Yes man Andy She. She calls me out but she doesn't embarrassed me because I told her not to. And she said yes she will call me out and she doesn't try to embarrass me in front of a lot of other people you know. Yeah like what sort of friendship do you really have? I mean if you had to rank it would you say? It's like me when Sarah Jessica Parker would you say it's more like me with Barkan swailes and where does lady Gaga is love of me fall in this whole scheme? Nothing so he's like you hold Kenya Different Stan. You'll need to a different standard than Kanye and Cynthia's basically like no Kenya does match. But then she says sorry. Amini doesn't ever say sorry and I think that's a pretty good point the anti it's just look so confused by that answer which would love. And he's just always confused like what he's confused but also it's like Cynthia. Maybe you shouldn't be friends with either one of them considering that they both seem to do things wrong on a consistent basis okay. It's not not the best but I would have to say that Nina's the more toxic to even though Keti as the I don't know what Machiavelli and I would say. I don't think you need smart enough to be Machiavellian but I think I think Kanye is. Yeah while Marlow is like. Would you still be friends with needy? Can you wasn't here and Cynthia's like no so Marla just keeps going back to refund. Wait for her. Next Order Right Benita from New York has this question. Kenyan needier the same. They both have issues with their mom. They both can't take accountability They both aren't Francis. Sarah Jessica Parker the way I am and neither knows out. Be A real friend. So Cynthia maybe you're just attracted to toxic people. We could also through Peter in that mix will and probably open Mike. What do you think well? If he didn't have a good side to her. I wouldn't want to be around her and if Kenya didn't have a good side to her. I wouldn't WANNA be around. Her and Mike Chill has had lots of sides and definitely want him open mic. Thank you. I also like to serve a lot of sides kitchen island so so that's the scancen islands. Kitchens can be out sometime. Okay you look companies getting hot in here so take off all your zoom recording equipment. So we got a commercial and We getting close up of knees notes. And Andy's does anyone even tact in any and even says no but I saw instagram be end. It is spicy like something hot in the kitchen. Yana said she's ready to clear the air. And then one minute after that posted meany ghosted us. Yeah you're GONNA was every see like a like the the I g post where you'RE GONNA. I don't remember really Roche's Dante but my memory of it is that she's standing by a window with like Venetian blinds or something like that. Might but all glommed up like I'm GonNa tell all the all the spill all the T- next my Benicia blinds. Yeah her homemade telenovela commercial like kind of like a really Glo e filter it just funny to me of like the idea of like someone glommed up next to something very mundane and like ordinary like Venetian blinds and also asterisk. There's no I have not yet gone back to verify whether or not there were blinds just in my mind. There were an event. So Andy's Phil Ed thought she was friends with you von. I'm so confused. And even like only one that hated her was me. Oh so go. Ahead then starts filling with his earpiece. He's acting like he's Diane Sawyer. Getting breaking news on like alright. Well we got something here. All right okay okay Love Connection has been canceled. Alright that we know that are what else Yeah there is another photo of me on the Internet. Just looking at the camera going. Hey All right. What else okay. We're in two different jus today my okay got it all right. Well she didn't any did tell one of the producers that we need the plumbers facts on her name and she's not she's GonNa just leave the laptop on her porch. Got It so anyway. How about put some respect on your electrtonics who just leaves a laptop on a porch? That's ridiculous expensive you. Don't leave them out there. In the elements unattended enclosed to still honesty. No respect for battery life. I'll tell you that much also When he said when Andy said that wants respect on her name either because yes Berg which I don't know in my mind I was like as she making reference the movie Birdman or as you making reference to like the wrapper or somebody else. This moment where I like the cultural reference sort of went over me but I chose the Bergman the movie option which I thought was funny to think of like need thinking that maybe she was Michael Keaton deserving respect life. Well I just got him voicemail for meany. Let's play it back. Ok Birdman all right. It could have gone in many different ways and I think Joe's the most bizarre one Sell meaning can were friends years ago but this year the spat almost with loud. So we get a montage of Ninian Kenya fighting and definitely the montage was more skewed to making any look better. It was very much. Uh need trying to be apologetic Nina trying to reach out and Kenya. Just shut her down. Which admittedly that did happen. But it all but also seemed like was coming from purely a good place so full of Shit on this show like you're really did we. Just forget everything that happened there. They all fight for meaning like we'll need did say sorry on that trip. Yeah two seconds after telling everybody you guys said okay. Don't come after Anini of or don't come after Kenya about her divorce because she's really upset about needs like well it's turn now you're at tear beep beep Beep Beep. Yeah so please stop pretending. This is all real. So Andy like so. What's the core issue of this of this? My Andy. You're the one with all the footage. So why don't you make a montage because honestly I can't remember and no one really can either by Kanye by Kenya's not off the hook either because she she also has such a but she has a bullshit retelling of the past but I find her bullshit hilarious. Because it's like a soap opera. It's like those ridiculous like self thing where she's like well. It goes back several years. You know I tried to be very supportive of her as a friend and I said she was an asset to the show and I never got anything in return. She's never been a loyal friend to me and you know she was just befriending just as she could have an ally. I'm like okay. You're awful to Cam. Let's not forget that. Don't don't act like you were a modern this situation. Yeah Ambi says well even in the worst that I will say this for any The worst of times. She's advocated for you to be on the show because she thought it would be good for the show. So you know what I will give that all. Just press the remote control which made the ball in my bud. Buzz that right yeah. I'm so glad that advocated for Kanye to be on the show as if this was a novel idea exclusive in any leaks. Guess what like all of the audience advocated for Kenya to come back? We all what happened last season when she wasn't on it was terrible. Okay this is not like well. We didn't really know what direction to go with the show and who to bring back. I mean we're thinking about the Sean Snow. Because she was pretty magnetic and the media does brilliant idea would like come on Andy. How can well? That's interesting because she didn't even want me on the show initially and she's incredibly threatened by my presence and the yeah. Yeah she's always bothered by me and she's been bothered stays bothered so no one could really remember whether feud started. I think it started. When can Kenya became popular? And you need realize that basically someone else could be as popular as she is and I know Ronnie you hater but the truth is Kenya's kind of like you know she just kind of I think that like the of the of the big personalities on the show. It's always going to be between Kenya and I mean you could make an argument for Candy but candy is still not really at that. I don't think she's at the level of of and Kenya in terms of the Egos too big goes off the show. Yeah because Candy's ego but she actually like works and stuff. She's not yet. I don't think counties an asshole candies. Just you know like she can just being around the assholes but I mean I think he's a nice girl. I like her. Yeah as far as well. Yeah Yeah Yeah but you know. It's like the to yell the loudest. I don't know that that's necessarily necessary. Especially after Kenya was gone for that season. The season sat but now Kenya's back and the season's still sucked so I think a very important point has been proven. Yeah I mean I think it's just like it's just a real housewives of Atlanta. You're the first person you're probably think of either going to be needy or Kanye and for a long time. It was only maybe there may have been a early on array actually could have had a claim that Kim's all CEAC could've but knee really and Kenya came along and he got threatened and that to me is the status the Dutch. The lights went out in Georgia. That is when King Cute. I don't know why I'm suddenly becoming so academic about the history of the steepest view. It's time for commercial. It's time for crap. Show so Cynthia Well Cynthia Win Here's a question for you. Say something's Cynthia says Well when we start filming Nina was very interested in meeting with. Kanye and Andy is like wow. You are so Kenya were you. You're mad that me never reach out during your highest pregnancy. But did you ever reach out to her? Doing Greg's cancer marlow just over there going though because now I have the tax and the missed calls to prove it and I did and the but she tried to talk to you. The bowling event and in Greece many was just being so I remember when she showed up two hours. Later your bowling event that she wasn't invited to in the first place and then got really snotty in front of your husband about. I mean you try to be as laney all it was fake because of our history and I can see fake a mile away. I mean why. Why should I accept an olive branch when it's covered in Poison Ivy League? You that now no mb. I just read it off the open computer at Mimi's acid still written down there. He goes but she death June. Then you just ignore her. She's like she was blocked. Andy and so then. Andy keeps on with his knee was coming from a genuine police increase. Yeah Yeah it's just ridiculous can use legitimate nice. I mean look you could see the tears almost in her eyes. Well she's so friendly and then you were so mean to her little defenseless leany young. Kenyans like you saw her a with me the second she could and kick me while I was down like. Give me a break. And she's like Piston Bambi at this point which is really funny. Because he's still clue he's just move new so then he's like well. I've spoken meaning now and meany says that she did not spit and watch what happens. Live you said that she did spent ladies ditches been or did she not spin. And he's like no Andy that is not true and that is not true. I never said she's been on me. I said she walked up spit and most and like she was going to spit on the andy amp. She did lunch at me and she threw food at me. So where we even having this discussion and this is disgusting. Not threw a peanut. And she's like she threw food at me. She threw food. She shoved molecules face. Candies like well. Listen if she spit it. If she tried spitting food to anyone else it would have been on you know. Yeah so then so but then Kanye. Why did you get into Nina's personal space candies? Baby shower those personal space that private to her and she such a genuine person. Genuine people need their personal space. And Kenya's just not having it and she's like well good question because that's not what happened and anyone who was there and those people are here right now. Andy knows that that didn't happen. It was edited to look that way because I was having an active conversation with Samantha and then Porsche sounds like Cami. I don't speak for me and she's like I wasn't even thinking about Nina. I'm not some animal. Andy Uncouth and actually defends her even as Jewish. Trying to get away from the argument. Some would say there was he and she was trying to get out of the kitchen. Know what I'm saying. You know what I'm saying and be. She was basically an oven. Mitt and there was smoke coming out of oven and so she thought. Why don't I just thought smut from coming out of the oven? Which is why. She was taking out fired logs from the living room with her oven. Mitt and the kitchen right. I don't know if you really know how kitchen fires work but I'll take that But anyway you you have. You've provoked people many times. Kenya many many times including sweet innocent needy you promote so many times and people have tried to provoke me. Many Times Andy. Get that records a. Tim feels did Backup that famous chair seeing with Kim Fields. Which is so funny that that's like famous in. Were Jump Kim. Fields into a chair pushes her forward. Whatever that was. It's the context of everything on this show. It's so small but it has ramifications of being being so like aggressive because in fields such a wide. I like her what what's happening. Just so nice and Kenya was just such a monster to her for. No reason just coming after her for no reason. And that really embodies. Kenya Kenya such an asshole and I think she's right in most of this line of questioning but at one point she's like where's the outrage from everyone else? You WanNa be outraged about the cookie lady. While be outrageous. Someone tried to spit on me. Wary tacky about that. It's like okay but the cookie lady is still in play here. Like things can be wrong at one time. Kenya so portions like well. I saw what I saw and by the way after that Shamiya texted me and she apologized about stop and can is like. Oh God now about that. She's like you're not GonNa Shush me. I've listened to your square for forty five minutes full color print bench. I love how in this episode of really felt like they kept on like referring to everyone as squares or get. Get back at you box. I listened that square like well. Now she's calling me a bitch again. Now look look just. Call me a bitch again. Yeah and then. It's like coming up next and Kennedy's like yeah. Everyone bits and pieces like you've left the show. You let the show. I never left. I never loved the motive for one season but I never left my own accord. Okay because I feel had marsin than so Yes so basically Porsche Porsche. Basically things that Kenya walked over to Shumita provoke knee. And I they start. I'm so Brit Yacht because I'm so brilliant attending well. No one said brilliant tenure auto but then basically Porsche Marla dot accusing Kenya of producing Which I I'm assuming men producing her scenes etc content and trying to like you know not be not being herself trying to make stuff for TV. Yes and she's like you've been producing since before we got pregnant. And can you guys you seem bidder? And she says I'm not better. I better get that straight band. So then and he's like well. Everybody's yelling screaming. Here's my baby. I am baby baby. Your little baby got a baby. This look it's this is the way for me to quiet all you ladies up and also remind everyone. I got a baby. Tana's like kids are off limits. Oh He's cute little baby so then we go over to this season. There was a secret recording on. Everyone's lips even though it didn't hit their ears law that's called snake gate and snake eight does not have a baby like me so lift. Please welcome that. Bid Vodka is okay. Bye Call you that Bitch Ivana. I just realized I could sound kind of problematic. Okay Great Joe Montana Cop People Bitch okay. Good you WanNa tell me about your boobs. They mean tell me about how Your favorite food. I guess Andy's not met for twenty twenty. Tell me about that new newbridge game you got to play will your boyfriend so tubby so woes loss you had sex sex. The tent sexwale second plot. Well welcome the lowest point. This show is hitting a long time. So you'll Vanek comes on and she's just like she's got eyelashes glue all over the place. I mean girls a mess. Okay Carolyn clumpy. I agree mess so So still you Lotte when you both it on Instagram They'll think that Nina ran scared. Wall would meaning not WanNa be your thought you guys were best friends the entire world because she genuine. You know that she's a very genuine person. And you'll Vonda is talking in this weird town like she did he notice he's like I am going to be fancy on the reunion. She's like Andy Sita's not what to address. What we came here to talk about quitting. Downton Abbey where are you talking like less than three minutes before she's like? Oh you know back to regular yovany but it's comes on she's like I'm going to be the lady the Lady of the night. Yes she's like well she's probably not here because of over the past couple of weeks not only have. I been receiving threatening text messages and threatening phone calls from her calling from block numbers just two days ago. She sent me a letter from an tore. Knee ceased and Desisto. I love the Theresa has made cease and desist really spell. Says that was that was? What was that cyst? Deceased sister deceased. She gave me a system and I was deceased but this one is a ceased ed assist. She's like well my attorney Mr Michael. What's his name Michael Sterling? Yeah Has responded and then me requested that I destroy any alleged audio on her that would portray her in a negative light or defame her. Kara of never recorded meany but clearly she's afraid You have on the bump. So and what is the truth? What does leaning not want you to reveals about? Just how genuine and wonderful she is and he's like well by the way Michael Sterling as your attorney our ironic not really ironic ironic. Don't you think no no stop it? Five Michael on your fans team. She's like well. I'm here to clear my name on there because this is a situation are allowed my loyalty to too far in the beginning. I was supporting a framed. A genuine fred. Yeah she starts this whole thing. That meany Ni was having trouble because no was talking to her so she wanted yovany go around spy on everybody so she would have ammo to use against them and she's like well she was my friend and so. I thought okay and so tend to go. So you're snatch snitch. Then and did she tell you to record conversations and she's like absolutely it's like. Oh whoa wow. I can't believe I needed that. We see here's here's what you're gonNA is losing everyone. Because she's still. I actually believe this. But you ve ANA is not just still being dishonest and really the dynamic which is a News famous and I was kind of starstruck and I was thirsty and I wanted to be on the show and I sort of lost myself in this and she told me. Okay you can be on the show but you have to record the women and so I was like okay. I'll record the women And and that's why I told her because I want to be on the show which is really what it was right. But she's made it sound like I don't know she's being such a good friend and I was drawn in by our friendship. You're thirsty you WANNA BE ON TV. Show yes yeah pretty much and so she was getting all this dirt for Anini and she was telling Mimi but he was like no. I need this record. It like actual recordings and she says she didn't only want me to record Cynthia. She wanted me to record everybody. And MARLA goes. It's Marlow who speaking me. Why would she record people? We already have interviews where we give our point of view. This is a sad. There's something wrong here and be yeah Yeah and so you're von base by the way you're GonNa says that she never actually record anyone because she just couldn't do that it was you know. She just told me she was going to do it. Which I don't know if that's true or not I can't tell I'm not sure if you have ANA as adept enough to really record anyone and I can measure being while enough to saint say recording I like that. She's trying to exonerate herself by saying I'm not Aligarh. This is the truth at my truth is that I lied to me so little. Yeah also just said that meany demand all recordings will be destroyed or she's GonNa get her ass off so you know who knows but then again if if there were no recordings Ni maybe meany would make that sort of claim which makes it seem like there are. Yeah I the Yovany has just lying to everybody. She's like she's the worst. Okay it's like you're not. You're not entertaining. Andrew terrible at lying okay. Just get out your the lowest of. I think there's some truth I think I actually do. I kind of believe her story. Believe it or not I do especially when they're like well. Why would anyone to record? When we all say are all talk interviews and Vonnas like I just. She wanted proof that everyone else is talking shit equally as much as Nina Talk. Shit which actually seems very much like Meaning logic yes it does. Yeah so someone tells her look. We heard so many versions of your story and you've cried wolf so many news outside by the way sorry In case you can't if you hear that that was outside of being very mad okay. She's it was a car. Horn honking incessantly. Alright media Sick so you have honest like we've heard so many versions of the story you know come on like we don't even know what to believe and she's like well. I was trying to protect meany. But then she said she heard audio and I knew that was weird because there was no audio like I never played her audio. Marles like well. You mentioned that you recorded Cindy. Oh you don't recall that you don't recall that. She's like and Cynthia said well. If there was a recording it would have been played one hundred times. I mean hello like we're on a TV show. They would've used that like crazy and it doesn't even matter because I admit that I talked about her because we weren't friends. So who cares if I talked about her? You know yeah I mean I think it has a pretty strong point if there was audio if if you von is as thirsty as she it is now right like she's as she has now like if she had the audio she would have one hundred percent. First of all given it over to ne-near Anini would've one hundred percent leaked it to a million different places. And the producers would have gotten hold of and they would've played it a million times and even if she didn't leak it. Anini the producers probably would have said like listen will offer you a big role on the show but you have to give that audio need you to be transparent have clearly clearly turned that over if she could have to get just a waste of time. She was like a Domino's guy showing up at your house with a bottle of water like this is not. What are you even doing here? I just wanted to say hike. The Fuck Outta here okay. You're not delivering shit. Get Out. Yeah so. Andy is like so. You'll Lana. How do we know that you're actually telling the truth? I can't really tell if you're genuine. Unlike someone like I dunno like a mini League for instance. And she's like well Nina. Not being here is proof enough and I have receipts and poor. Say you might need to make sure that you're on the on the right team because I've texted meaning want to take you down to and I'll just say it she's like I don't even care to say whatever whatever the concerns and say this is hearsay. And you're gonNA says she wants. She knee wanted her to record porsche. And then Kenya's like other receipts imports Bennett candies. You admitted you made up the story of the snake audio and you made it up and now you're making this up and I just don't get it what's going. Why do we care and I agree? Get rid of Yovani. It's like you have no proof. You have nothing to offer your. You can't even stick to a story from more than five seconds go away. Yeah I think I think that her issue is that she got tangled up in her own lies and so now even what she says is one hundred percent. She just lost all credibility and she's still not being fully forthright with like her intentions and I think everyone can sniff that out like again. I think if she said I just really wanted to be on. Tv caught up that. I think people would respect that. But she's still kind of acting like she had a real friendship and so everyone's like what I mean. Cynthia does have good point also again. She's like listen. If you WANNA lying why would any not to expose your GonNa the fact that you von is here and chooses not to be here is all I need to see? Yes so you ve honest just not doing very well and so people are just basically not buying and she starts kind of twitching and is starts twitching and then she just keeps sipping from this Straw. It's all just a mountain touching her earpiece because they're a little her Airbud keeps falling out so she keeps like push back in. She's up there like talking. She's also singing on American idol. A little bit you know so Andy does a show of hands for who believes you. Donna and Kenya of course raises her hand and Eva Casinos. She's now on the payroll and then Tangent to stand you believe her and then sit down. Candies like half-and-half Cynthia. It's basically whoever's on Mimi side. Yeah basically is like well. Here's the thing goes are both snakes and you know she was using you and you willingly did it. And that's what annoys me about the situation. You know we thought you were generally trying to hang out with us. And she's like she's getting really mad at your von now and you vonnas like well when we did meet those times that was genuine and that was way before. Nina was telling me to get that information. Can't well that makes it worse. Because then we actually have essentially like like a friendship and we had a good time and then like we're having like we like we're building something and let those women say. Hey go record. These women like that's fucked up and speaking of not delivering on promises and because Eve out too because she went on watch what happens live and he said you advocated for. Yovani to tell the truth. Is this what you were referring to? Because there's nothing here and she's like. Yes Andy because I love Cynthia and the snake gate thing was speaks merging wealth. There's no information eva. There's zero information being given so you're promising things like well. No I think that there is. There is something that came out of it. Which is you know. Ni-ni was more involved than she let on. I think it'd be probably all suspected but you know knee was acting like GonNa just brought us tour. You know but we're what we did what we do learn and what I do believe is that knee was an active participant. In snake will then candies like well. Listen you're a example of why it takes me so long to be nice to people because people come on this show and just act like idiots and that's what you that's what she did so this is why anybody asks me so then gets a phone call and its meaning and I was still filming? I had come back and she's like I got on the phone shepherd her on speaker at which point like andy gets his wine face. You know when he gets annoyed know he's always like Hey. I'm small and they had to go. And just your your your regular buddy but when things don't go the way he wants to like you starts to get real the real anti-gun face so that's our pop up and he's like She has a laptop in a room. It's stupid vertebrae on a cell phone. Okay which us one hundred percent correct. I mean it's such A. She was busy trying to a power. Move Two things I should leaves the reunion like acting like she's all above it saw above it and then when no one comes chasing after her texting her come back. Come back come back. So then she has the call to be like you know like To basically insert herself back in where she's not fully going back but she's GonNa Burst. Open a situation where then they can say come back back back but then still no one's biting it's like classic meaning so it's so sad it's a child. You know so childish so she has a laptop and Yeah anti-science Wang to here come to the laptop and Kim's like why are we giving you the floor and she's not even here she shouldn't have the privilege of calling in be gone? She's totally right and I'm glad he didn't let her on because she actually really glad Andy didn't and I knew he wouldn't you know why because ultimately I mean and Andy if they speak to Neon speakerphone. It's basically saying like okay. We're going to on your terms and like in his mind as we learn later on they had like hours and hours and a lot of effort put into this reunion with tech rehearsal and everything. I'm so for her just to leave at this carefully. Planned events is kind of like fuck you. And it's like Oh so there groveling back just because she blessed them with the opportunity over speakerphone. Astle and I hope they fire her but from the way he's acting I'm sure she's not. I'm sure she'll be so porsches like well. She says she'll trappists seats in my mailbox. The cares so now. Now you get to fight for ni-ni. She's so weak she's so weak and worse thing about her you know she's Niimi and the fact that she's fallen to this point where she's just. A weakling is pathetic. Get her off my abby versus killing the so yeah. Eva says good your box. Meany go to your box which could mean many different things in this case. I think it meant just window on Zoom so. Yeah so like guys. We're wasting time. I could be talking about the fact that I got a baby. So they get rid of knee and then he also says by two All the friends of so marlow. Tonya Tonya. Ivana. They all go in. You know and then even apologizes tomorrow on the way out for thinking for accusing her of having something to do a snake gate. It's like it's just a boring LETICA. So they hang up on them and MARLA leaves goes by Bob Marley. So let's see here so he's like all right we'll guys. I want to close with the five of you because it's been such a huge year. Had yet another baby. She's got two houses. You know not greatly decorated but then he loves like bla-bla-bla or Borbor Kenya you've had Iraqi year you gotTA Dream Baby Dream Marriage a dream classic filled with close with the tax still. Hamad drive of the two. Were really married to this. That was pretty. The honor of having many leaks try to be genuine to you. So where did we leave you now? And she's like well. You can leave me with your blessings. Because I'm a mother and I'm so in love with Brooklyn Daily and pleasure. You other dramatic year a baby hotdog rocky time with hotdog hotdog King Regular dogs in the neighborhood. Being terrified of your husband combined. How do you feel bad? Astronomy cookies like going on any feel about everybody being mean to me. He doesn't deserve it only here in India. What's going on with you and you're very boring engagement. Well Andy Just trying to stay chill right here in Los Angeles and just praying. That are perfect. Wedding Day ten. Ten twenty will work out because If you think about it templates ten is twenty so I mean I mean what are we gonNA do like wait a year so we have ten eleven twenty one? I mean I guess that math was working out there too but you know what I'm saying. It's just not Zeros. At the end of all the all the numbers and she goes. I'm still thirsty anti for channel. And he's like all right Gandhi. Your mother hate your husband. Your husband hates everybody and I don't know what do you have to save yourself? Do you think everybody's mean to and she doesn't deserve to and candies like everything's amazing me. Todd have been having so much fun in quarantine. We're GONNA actually keep some of these same habits and be like now we know eat together or Like we'll work out sometimes together Mike. Oh Wow so. Tom's books and behold hands and and just enjoy looking at all. The money blossom. Todd's endeavors by the way. Is it me? Did Andy Never really probe into candy and todd their whole late season issues. Where Todd was lake. You're not spending enough time with me. We never got into that. And that was actually one of the aspects of the season that really riled me up the most God Glad we didn't get into it. I I would have liked it just a but yeah are like domitories being mean about todd and all that stomach joyous. We got a little bit of that. But we're kind of like an update but it really bothered me when todd was like you know you're not spending time with the family when he does all the same. Bolsheviks accused candy of doing that. I wasn't when they have this long of a reunion but I guess so much of it was taken up with knees bullshit so not to beat a Dead Horse. But it really is a bummer. That means he's never done anything wrong. Anybody left her square man. I'm really makes you think about. How often can you must be a driveway such a genuine nice person anyway? Hey I just WanNa say thank you guys for joining. You guys are real trailblazers. Wow the first ever ziemba reunion. I mean there was summer house but you guys were the first ones ever do it. I mean after some house so I just WanNa say. Thank you so much for taking hours and time the way to do this. 'cause you guys a real pied and history books people are GonNa Remember. You guys are not Summer House. Thank you and that brings us to the end of the season. Well not quite because right before it all ends. Andy's like battle guys. Here's something funny. I'm in boxer shorts. Yes and then Kenya's like Oh and also before we go dark. I just wanted to thank in San Candy and not Porsche for being my friends to a very difficult year. Thanks guys you know Matt Lauer's watching at home like why is Eli to stand up. And so everybody wasn't wearing pants this whole time so he gets a trap door also great God well there. We go the end of real housewives of Atlanta. Thank you guys so much for being with us this this entire season. We're going to get another one back. Not sure but I guess There's GonNa be lots of question marks after all seasons wrap up but you know around the corner. We got on Sunday nights. We Got Potomac coming back pretty soon. I guess in July Right. Yeah and we got mad coming back next week. So we'll see we'll see what else is in Bravo's hopper we'll see you guys later everybody two.

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Lantunan Ayat Kursi (Verse of The Throne) Versi Bahasa Arab Podcast Edition

Jannah Firdaus Mediapro Podcast

11:26 min | 2 years ago

Lantunan Ayat Kursi (Verse of The Throne) Versi Bahasa Arab Podcast Edition

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RHOA: Talkin' Spit

Watch What Crappens

1:00:28 hr | 1 year ago

RHOA: Talkin' Spit

"The craft have bed off rabbit. S Hello and welcome to watch her. Crap ends a podcast about all that Crap Bravo that we just love to watch. I'm Ben Mandil Ker of the real housewares kitchen island. Go check out the new episode. It's on Youtube joining me. It's wonderful talented safe and sound man. It's Ronnie Carom from arose bricks. Bachelor's podcast what's up Ronnie being. How is How is Staying at home treating you right now. Oh just Levin having the time of my life actually do. I am having fun. It is weird being stuck in like not being able to go to homegoods instead but Yeah I'm having fun and being very productive. I'm organizing my cabinets and talking to myself making Nancy videos great so I mean there is I will say like a a small silver lining that I'm finding is that by removing all declutter of Whatever obligations there are outside the house you know like haircuts and useless shopping. Like homegoods etcetera. I do find that I have more time to do things so By the way I I I have been delinquent on putting out the new so my plan is tomorrow to get the newsletter. At least get that dot ball rolling you know and You know it's been fun cooking shit every all the time There's been there's definitely been an upside to hunkering down. I think yeah. I've been doing a lot of cooking too and I've been doing a lot of youtube video cooking video watching that's for sure. Yeah I think the sad thing is. I'm definitely going through my food much faster than I anticipated. So that's like a little stressful. But it'd be nine thousand pounds nine thousand fucking counts like I cannot stop. It doesn't even matter what it is. It's like the Lamest Shit ever 'cause you can't go to the grocery store you know so it's like Maybe I'll have some potatoes with What else do I have a man as and chocolate chips sands great all right. That's the great snack. Turns out if you like to bench doesn't matter what your binging on its food and you can eat it and yeah you can still gain nine hundred thousand. It's amazing I know I am just I could feel my clothes tightening around me just all the carbs just nothing but carbs and the first week I was like you know I don't taking on a lot of carbs but I'm also not eating out as much and I actually think that like even eating carbs at home. A lot is better than eating out meals you know etc. I was trying to rationalize that by cutting out all the food that I normally get ordered in or go out to eat that I'm actually eating healthier overall but then today I woke up and my shirt was like back and I'm like Oh but there's nothing I can to do about it corona virus but that being said just a public service announcement people stay home. Okay stay the fuck home. I don't WanNa hear any excuses. Like literally the excuses. You have to go to the grocery store or the pharmacy Don't want to hear anything else or you're an essential employees because this weekend I went onto I went onto the instagram Unrolled this new sticker. Did you see this this sticker? That says stay home and basically when you use that sticker on your I-I'VE POSTS. It's a tag and so like it shows up on your feed like you can click on everyone who use the sticker right so I clicked on it. I was like what what what are. What is this and the first thing I see? Is I see three muscle gays cramp together in a jeep and they are headed to like Venice beach to do a beach workout. Because they're going to be they. They're going to be socially distant because they're working on a beach but they're cramped together in this jeep together shirtless great bodies of course but sure list so i. I'm just I'm I'm not a doctor but I imagine it's like more opportunities for sweat and things two-wicket off of you and they put the thing that says stay home. You're literally not even home. You're actually doing the exact opposite. You're in a jeep huddled together shirtless using stay home. I mean please. They just need to have a stay shirtless specs thing for the game. Stay shirtless I mean. I'm okay with that stay shortlists. They hot but like to stay smart to you. Know the and then I Runyon Canyon you know went on. I was like I saw enough. I saw enough stupid stories where people were putting stay like stay home while they were out in public with other people. I was like you guys. Not even realized that sticker means did not understand English language. Stay home and so I went on. I went to click on the tag or the location for Runyon Canyon. Just see all the GRANDPA's as just like post after post after post of people proudly declaring that they're staying there. I'm I'm being. Socially Dent said that I'm six feet away. She just didn't I'm like do you realize that you while you're saying that your distant all the people around you are also declaring that they're socially distant and if you all turned around you'd realize you're all next to each other declaring that you're socially distant. I mean it was just drives me nuts. Good at this point. I'm just worried about keeping my own. Damn family inside. It's like okay. That golf is not socially distant blank and ask with your friends not mopping so suddenly this Dan. Okay let's all just relax. Maybe people are confusing emotional distance with social distance. Okay but honestly honestly like don't be cavalier about this if your community is like kind of Chile right now and you're lucky enough to not have a big outbreak. That's great but it's GonNa probably come to you and you need to say social distance that way the communities that are really suffering that have like explosions of cases can pull resources from you guys. Help over there. Okay so everyone just like set the fuck down watch some TV will be here to recap for you. That's what we do. Stay inside. Pick up a Hobby Organiz your organizer Cabinets Ronnie like really. It's not that important that you that you go to Marshall's today just stay safe. Y'All well now. Let's go to check out the worst virus on Bravo neely we buy. We should also mention Andy. Cohen came down Corona Virus Thousand Big Bravo News. That happened between our between now and our lascaux so there. It's impacting our community. It's officially gotten to us. Yeah and in College. We have nothing else to say about the. I have nothing really to say. I mean feel better though better for sure. I hope I hope he's Okay. I I I guess we'll find out soon. Love making funny. Don't want you to die Feel better yeah. Let's go over to real housewives of Atlanta because if I hear about corona virus for five more seconds I'm GonNa poke my eyes out and okay. Let's go to the the cliffhanger. The Hat us in suspense for an entire week. We'll any leaks thorough peanuts and Kenya. More calling popcorn peanut like why is she calling that piece of popcorn? Peanut does not see it. Is She just avoiding snacks? General says she doesn't know what's next on the table. What's really happening? They basically low key gas lighting. She just wanted to gaslight Ni news like bitch. I have popcorn that and I've been waiting this whole season to see Mimi spit on Kenya. Because that's been in the say the news but you know the blogs or whatever and This was it she. Hasn't she pretended to spit a popcorn seat? At her very small. Honestly it was a very triggering thing to happen in this age of corona right. Now when we're trying to really keep our spit to ourselves they'll as we really need to see as Nina fake spitting Yakuza Nannies Corona would the NASTIEST. It'd be the meanest version of Kerma Sarcoma. God that Corona everybody else's some people got it mild but God that meany version frilly hurt my feelings. The Need version wouldn't even admit that gave it to you. Be Like I did not give it to you. I didn't give it to you. You call me a toxic virus and then you eat that ice cream and not just as bad for you. It's like no you're literally a virus sneak around You'd be like coughing and then be like. Oh my God that cough sounded like seventy just called me a buffalo. That's so weird. You're like coughing and the viruses. Like but what about me? What about me what I'm going through? I'm like but I'm going to call and you gave me like Dr. This virus is calling me fat. Is there anything we can do? It's so funny that you see. The general population was infected about four hours ago. Like yeah I know I'm I've got the virus. It runs about four and a half hours late. God okay so ruined peaches at ruins party. Yeah please assault me with the plane. A peanut plays gonNA tell again. So yeah she does. And then there's a lot of Cross Hawk and Kenya sailing. All you do is Talk Shit. Go Away Go away. And he's just going fuck you bitch fuck you bitch and Kenny just starts going by by by by the they just keep repeating themselves over and over and then. Nina's doing that thing where where she's pretending people have to hold her back whilst you spreads while she spits visible seeds over it. Yeah and then Means like spend your fucking face and she's like who tries to spin on someone and then we every time something you said we get another. Slo Mo shot of Nina spitting an invisible popcorn seed keeps coming over and over and over again and include audio too. So you you her going. I'll spit all your ball of arguing for g also says at one point. I guess she has like a pen or something and she goes. Stick this up your dry policy and then custody cat watching. I missed a lot of the the terrible stuff that means supposedly said was while they're screaming over each other because everyone was like that was bad. What Nina said because really sounded to me like meaning was just doing what she always does when she's up against someone she can't be. She just screams fuck you over and over again. Yeah she starts screaming over you. She has nothing really witty to say. But she can be louder and more of noxious. So yeah. That's that's Nina's thing. Is She just loud and then later on says that she read everyone to fill but it's like You were just loud. So it's an Cynthia's like the Anini I know is definitely throwing popcorn and pretend you she's going to spit like what meaning do you know. Yes that is the meany year now. It's the same meaning. We all know Kei cars by the way did you. Listen for Cynthia's Popeye laugh this week. I hope you did. I didn't hear okay. I look for no. I saw what she laughed with her shaking her head but nothing coming out which makes me wonder. Do I just have a blind spot though by laughs? No no she only did it once this episode that I heard maybe she did during the The games part but then there's so much going on that. I don't think I was paying attention to tension to that. But keep an ear out. I swear to God she will. I felt like I felt like they heard you on the show because Kenya started yelling. At meany Okay Papa. That's true that's true. The need tries to explain her behavior. She's like in. Greece is a good thing to be spit on. Okay we're in Greece. We're in Greece. I've never heard that but I did not hear that. Either so candies. Yeah you guys have got to be willing to converse with each other news like look your friend. Don't look at me and Kim. You're the at something people you get solved by me bad. You know if you've got something by me. I think because if you feel Improv even jump which is yeah. That's I remember. She did that like a few years ago and I was like. What does she even mean? By that of your feeling froggy. I mean. Why don't even get that? And then people online Ben. That's the thing that people say I was like. I like it if you feel in Prague in job as Anini just screams fuck you allot and Kenya says the weather party without you know that. She's the party goes on without you. Yeah Bitch you dried up bitch bitch which basically having a fight over how well can the show succeed without each one of them right and I mean can you can you. It's funny because Kenya's like while I guess well we've proved that the Party. The show can be perfectly good without you. Right which has been proven. In fact. One of the best seasons was without any was the season with the whole when favorite had that crazy for part reunion a non Nina Season Right. And then any when. She's the party went on without you bitch. I'm like yeah for one season and they had to bring back Kenya Nina. So good job there. Yeah I just think they can do fine without both of them and I. It's like hypocrites fighting. They just keeps screaming. You are you are. And they're both right actually. I feel like they're both wrong. And they're both. They're both so wrong but they're also both right because the other person is trash so true. I think is more Disposable I think that Nina can be Super Fun even even when she annoys me so much she still has some of the best confessionals however the rest of the cast has really come up especially Porsche to the point. Where like as funny as Nina is? She's not like it's not like she's an island of of comedy on a show of otherwise very boring people like everyone's really funny. They don't need her and the Kenya is just. I just think that Kenya's much better about do. She's better about staying in her lane and knowing what her lane is which is to be awful and to create terrible drama in a way that really moves the show forward Yeah I their best so gross. I just need them both to be gone. And it's like they're both such hypocrites they just yell at each other for the other one does and they don't even wait for episodes to be hypocrites. They can do it in the same episode Mike. Now Kenya's like well I will not have this talk or whatever. Well I mean. He's trying to leave right but then later Nina's like Oh look at Kenya. Always leaving there. She goes against. He leaves every fight. But then we get a montage Anini leaving every fight and then Kenya leaves again and then Nieves against constantly vers so Marlow tasting downstairs. All I think that we need to talk. Okay right now and then is trying to calm. Kenya down And everyone's everyone's basically getting on. Kenya wits Kenya's not the one who yelling screaming at people and I don't like standing got for Kenya. But why are they telling her CDs to be seen needs to be more forgiving because he was the one who initially try to have? Some sort of friendly moment was the night before I don't I'm going back and forth. I don't even know where I stand on this. Maybe as I discuss it. I'll come up with a better while I'll decide where how I feel about it because I do feel like on the one hand. Nee- was basically saying all Paul Bush. Aside how are you doing? I really do care and I kind of feel like when someone does that like that is nice. That is actually a really nice gesture. But then Kenya's kind of totally right 'cause she's like me and he was being totally fake and if she weren't being totally fake then why did she immediately. When when I said I WANNA talk. Why did she the very next night? The very first thing she does is basically say. This is why you got divorced. You know like that's not someone who wants to be there for you does not say that shit the very next day right so I get that but then I also understand any feeling really upset that Kenya totally her gesture so i. I'm more in Kenya side with this. But it's gray area. Yeah well meaning. Only did that because Cynthia made her again and and also doing it on her own and then she came up to her before that charity event and tried to break mice only because she wasn't going to be able to go to this event and she had to make mice in front of mark so yeah well the charity events use fucking with Kenya for sure. She was definitely being Super Nice. 'cause she knew she had the power. She knew that mark her back so she could. She knew it would drive Kenya mad so she's being over the top nice but here. I mean yeah I think ultimately I'm on Kenya side because Nina has been attempting to be this new person who seeing a life coach that she found off of craigslist and is now like. Oh I'm calmer gentler Anini and and this was I think she was trying to get back on track with that and Kenya was like no and now we're seeing the real knee again. Yeah So they're like Kenya. Where are you from mad? You guys were friends and can you again. It's like listen. The only thing I'm holding onto the ice to have an issue with is nearly calling my baby. A Buffalo. I started started laughing so hard. This is sally. Let me tell you something. That's the same problem I have. She did back called your baby a buffalo and she says she called me a big fat baby elephant and then she's an important. She didn't call you baby at Buffalo. She called you up our fellow like that's like the big semantics issue in this episode is like No. You're baby's not buffalo. You're the Buffalo. That's all but we do see a flashback. And you need did say she's going to have the buffalo although I mean it's a cruel thing to say about someone who is pregnant because you know you're pregnant like that's what happened yet based disgusting. I mean it's a it's a cruel thing to say but at the same time I do not like saying. The baby is a buffalo. She's making analogy accrual analogy to pregnancy. Which is really what the issue is saying. She's going to have a buffalo well. That is calling her baby buffalo. It yes I feel like. I mean what Buffalo's birth to chicken Buffalo. No No. I'm not if any I think what she said was terrible. I can understand the distinction between if you see a baby and you pointed and say Europe Buffalo. That's the one thing versus like someone so big. It's like wow. She's a big. It's like she like. She didn't give birth to a buffalo. I can see how that's like like a comment on like wow like when people say wow. She's super praying into whatever again. I'm not saying this isn't defensive but I can understand in Nina's mind why she probably thought that there was a distinction but either way like don't call a pregnant lady don't say she's having a Buffalo. Yeah well that's neat. That's the kind of person in the so-called pregnant women fat. I mean that's where we that's where we're at with meany okay. He comes what what crap ins would like to think. It's premium sponsors. 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I apologize because I don't ever want hurt another woman so I apologize. I'm like why are you screaming? Does apology right. Now it's like in the tone of like fuck you fuck you bitch. I'M GONNA throw another popcorn at you and it is not a peanut but what she's actually saying. I apologize that I heard you or if you see saying she apologized if you felt that way. Dini apology non apology and she goes and I would never hurt a kid and you just want to use your kid. Sympathy make you need to work on apologies? Gotten better at that so of course it goes. I. I'm GonNa talk years like Kenya. Kenya here the apology. Because I had to receive the same apology and can it goes okay. I will say I received Jesse you'll stop just now. Kenya that is passive. Aggressive of Kenya does an imitation of the apology. Accept my apology then. Porsche. It's like sunlit becomes like victims of Ninian non image because she's like. I was called fat but she apologized narrow k. Like I don't just because she apologized to you. And it was a much more meaningful apology and you have a different relationship with her as very different. Just because you're called Pat we're okay with does not mean that Kenya's under on any obligation to feel better about it And also in some ways I would think that what he said about. Kenya was much more insidious because nene called Porsche. Piggy face in the heat of an argument when they're texting When when Kenya showed up at this at this party Kenya wasn't doing anything to Nishi just showed up and he was like she's going to Buffalo. That was unprovoked. That was just cold cold buffalo fat shaming while. She was mad because Cynthia didn't tell her that. Can you is coming. So that was there. That was a big. That was the big Kenya surprise. Me was very but she was just. She was mad that she was mad. But she wasn't in an act of beef with Kanye beyond that she didn't like Kenya. You know they were in some twitter. They were mad at each other for something on. There was a twitter number so then forces like. Didn't you hear the apology? Which by the way not an apology. Not that they're dealing with me so like she did say sorry in there somewhere. I can use like rally people trying to Hello People. I get an opie dry dude arguably is and marlins like up to your policy and can't will you accept the apology or not kidding us. It's done. Let's just say it's done okay. And so now. They're all against suddenly there. Okay well let's just talk so then meany tells us I would never say things about a child but you know when you're beefing sale kinds of things I never even realized I said that So it's over so now they had like let's get back to this ridiculous you know. Tiara thing or crown and Kenya does not WanNa do it anymore. Portions like you've gotta say like no you don't have to worry it doesn't have to be a beef. It can be a positive thing that you say about each other because basically marlow has it on and Marla wants to address Kenya and Kennedy does not want to deal with that so finally like okay fine some are Lagos. Feel like what you did to. My event deserves an apology. And Kenya's like okay. I feel like I feel like I have to say a lot because if you don't remember the things that you say and you to me. I don't know where I can go from there you know. She's like things are off limits. My mother my daughter and you sit there and you want an apology now after you came in and tried to destroy me the way my family did and poorest like she's I am Arles like no. Let me speak to you for real now. I know you're good at acting. It was like okay. So it's like Oh God enough. So she gets up and leaves and the Marlowe applauding her like crucial. Yeah do I look like? I'm acting when I'm talking to you. I'm like no because you actually speak in a much more awkward and strange way when you when you try to act so you don't look like you're acting so candies like fifth. Sit down come on just finish. A and Kennedy's candy tells her stopping the person that walks away. Just stop so. She runs after Kenya and then Marles like listen girls. I'll tell you right now. The things I said about her mother were awful all all Yucky. She's like I apologize. It was wrong like well. If you were going to apologize for why did you open it? Up with a with a bar like micro aggression about her acting unless she was trying to unless he was trying to queue up something like. I know. You're a good actress but in this case I know you're being sincere like but there was no indication that there was like a but after the actress comment right Marlow. That's not how you apologize either. You don't you don't front loaded with something that's GonNa make some defensive and not be ready to hear your apology. Yeah so candy. Chain chases after Kenya in Kenya like she's slapping candy. Ua being all dramatic And I don't feel for you can. Yeah okay I don't care if you're getting divorced. I don't care if somebody says something about your baby look at all the Shit you do to other people. Okay so you should sit and have to take it to and yes everybody's attacking you but you've attacked everybody. So yeah I really feel for you. I don't know I I wouldn't say that I feel for her but I I guess I understand her frustration. I mean she literally literally filed for divorce like three days ago. I it's just. It's so fresh and she has to go on this. She asked me on this trip with someone just like one or two people that she just hates but someone that he really detests someone. Who has her her soon to be XS back. I mean this is like many marker pals and she has to sit there and then she has friends telling you to play. Nice with her and she and then they're coming at her an awful as Kenya is. I can understand why she's just like you know what fuck this. I can't my fairytale life that I put blinders on for the past two years two or three years and is now falling apart and I'm now the laughing stock of the Internet and these women. It's all falling apart. I had to put on this facade. I don't WanNa deal with US anymore and so I I'm not saying that I have compassion in the sense of like she you know she replied her. She sewed but I understand why she's just like fuck this yeah So see re runs off. And he's like well. If this is how you wanted dessert honey go to a bakery. Because that's how you that's how you bring dessert every time I hear Imbaba dessert dessert. Yeah it's like. She's saying she deserted. Um Her whatever but okay I. I took it like if you want dessert. Honey go to a bakery. I'm sick of your dessert dessert. Or maybe it was like the ruins party was supposed to be dessert after dinner or like this is the it was it was it was unclear is unclear comic moment so. Tanya throws her crown of the water. And then it's done and then in the morning Cynthia's doing some weird sitter eggs thank you. Thank you bye-bye Francais. Because I think she's friends with the with the wind but yes not really weird ass shit because at first when you first see her. She looks like she's making standard scrambled eggs. They're fluffy and she's moving them around. But then the very next shot they are like flat like a crepe and then she's got her spatula scraping into them. It's almost like she overcooked them and they were flat and just try to scrape it off the pan. I was like this is a woman who has never cooked egging her life. And I think she's using a foregone pant very bad for you Ma'am yes the Porsche. Sit by the pool and talk about what a disaster last night was and they believe in our intention we were. Yeah Porsche like how you doing this more so wrecked I'm GONNA have to go back to ten yawn to to recover. So Nina comes out dancing in her Kaftan because she basically went to sleep getting what she wanted which was destroying so since. She's got her hair back. She's backing legless pure leg. Alas Yup there's something she's doing at night when she goes to the bathroom because every morning. She's like wow. That was crazy. Wasn't it and I thought Kenya might shoot me like do you. Do you not remember anything that happens the next day. What's her what's her deal. She's so different by then she is in the day. She's basically like Ma on on thunder cats right like mumma spends most of the show just like this decrepit like weird mummy figure. I'm Carol Rats like I'm but then like number does something right that does remember how pool or some water or something like that gets activated and then mom raw. Because like that's like meeting means Memora- I didn't watch thunder cats. Now I never will. So thank you for taking away from me during quarantine wow. I cannot even believe that I've seen in my lap cat. I don't know how to respond to that so you don't even understand about Lion Panthera nope kitten hat because what I don't care K. Wow kitten cat. I had kitten cat lemon flavored the other day quite delicious aide whole bag. Thanks doing what I did yesterday. watch cats not the movie but the musical and wow. That's you know we'll we'll circle back that. Yeah it's pretty funny. 'cause everyone's acting like the movie is so bad. I'm like do you remember the musical Ari? Are we not remembering what this is? Based on people there was okay. There was literally in towards the beginning. There's that white cat that like comes out and does a Solo dance number and she is just doing yoga and like I guess in the eighties. That was that was like who was like unheard of because Yoga had not caught on. And so she's literally just doing trio's and it's like ooh. The Majesty a cat on one leg with another leg up in her crotch. Wow like this trip. This is dance. Yeah there you go cats retail okay. So speaking of meany. Daffy Priscilla. Yeah so then Cynthia in Kenya talking And and Candy comes over and I'm sorry Cynthia and candy go over to Kenya's house. Yeah and they WanNa talk about last night we oh Jeez. Kenya Lahser footsteps by the way one finds them so so now we have like a cross cutting between the two groups. Right Candy Cynthia Kenya and then everyone else. So then we go back to Nina and Hanya and Knees asking Tanya if she felt like she had any closure with Kenya and Kenya's like it was going well into we got interrupted at. Then you know kind of like No like she didn't she didn't get didn't get interrupted. No one interrupts. Kanye okay that she found a way to duck out of that conversation. Yeah and then. She just laughed typical Kenya. You have to do you remember that point. You literally left the same fight alot reports. It's like well my thing is with Santana. I if you're not going to tell you the real issue you have to bring it up. I mean it's not like she's just teasing she's going for Your Business and no one's GONNA come after hot dog hair care how many you have right now. Maybe that doesn't have a real issue with Kenya. Because as far as I could tell Kenya was shaking her a better business. Cynthia wasn't really minding until the girls will like. You should really be upset about that since it was like. Yeah that is sort of annoying so then. She told Kenya. Don't do that anymore. But they don't feel like basically. She was assertive enough about it. Even that was more their issue than it was. Cynthia's issue I know but I love how all the girls are acting so innocent like poor Kanye. Let's be there for Kenya when they're sitting here. Like okay tenure. You were supposed to get her. You didn't get her. Cynthia was supposed to get her but she didn't get her well. That sox they're planning on going for Kenya but that said I see that the Kennedy desert in my mind so then ten years like well. What did she get so mad? G MEANING SAYS I don't know I mean. I said her hips for fake. So maybe that's why they all start cracking up so then meanwhile Kenya's talking to the latest bout Nina. She's like I mean any. You aren't fifty two years old. You have to find a better way to communicate true although Kenya is not the Paragon of communication either. Okay I think actually doesn't group may need some tips on how to communicate. It's bad when Porsche has suddenly Become ascended to the to the role of of group communicator. That she can sort of like moderate or mediate these fights now that Porsche is the one doing that. Something's something's off. Yeah and Cynthia's like well you know. I will say this Kenya last night. Meany really was come to show. He's a guy and when I say genuinely I mean. I made her do it and she didn't want to but I made her again. It's like that's bullshit. How can you say it's January? When the first chance she gets you hurts me and candies like yeah but now she's now she's GonNa have all this because you said so much too relaxed night now she'll be able to hold that against you today. Yeah exactly and Kenya's like she's basically like did she call me and can like well. She said it's you face to face because what she didn't reach how and it's like well yeah. But even this weakening he was trying to have a conversation with you before conversation Porsche and I mean I will say that when when it comes to things like this. I did she calm did she. Call me it's funny because if people don't get the call they're like oh they didn't even call me but then it's like it is face to face but then if if someone gets the call they say well they called me but they didn't even give me the respect to talk to me face to face you can like never win in those situations also not. I hate defending meany but people when people start doing that thing so then tanny. It's like well. She still holds herself up to different standards. And that's not fair and purchase like yeah that buffalo comment was reach. So yeah they're all basically planning on ganging up on Kenya which is funny because they all have to choose one side. You know why. Why can't you up on both of them? Like why are you so okay to fix meany or forgive me Whatever so forces that I I was a key and now you know now Kennedy is going to be. She's GonNa pressed on the insults last night to be mad as well. Those are like genuine things to rest on. I don't know where you're calling on them. But yes but but she's right though. Because and that's what happens with these feuds on the I mean on all shows but especially on this show. I feel like like you said this all started with some stupid twitter thing you know because Kenya is always so good at delivering some shade on Twitter. And then he falls into the trap each and every single time like every single time and he gets so mad and then they have a feud and then it could be squashed so easily but instead he does something and then Kenya. Susini does something. Kenny is just all too happy to then play the victim in some way like. Oh my God is what she said about me. And then that's a big feud and the point. Is that whatever? Whatever it was the initial problem gets forgotten about because now you have like a lack of of insults over and over and over again so now the new fight is going to be about what he did last night to Kenya as opposed to really what the core of it was. I know they need to have rules. Because I'm so sick of having to remember what happened last season. You're mad at something it's too much. It's too hard. I need a Van Dyke checklists. We need a checklist of things. Need to be apologized for and would they don't even remember them. You know when you are reaching back for the buffalo comment it's like Oh my God you have to reach back that far. She said Shit about you. This season you can use. I cannot so Cynthia's Cynthia's like well why don't we just all force it down because that always works? Listen people in this group have got over worse things than you guys than your fight and she that I never had a husband. I never had a child and she wed for bow. I'm sure well you've never been accused of rape sell Porsche can't is like I guess it because you couldn't read between the lines of what I said in my last comment that people have gotten over way worse things. I'll just spell it out for you. I was accused of rape by Porsche. Okay we're on a trip together so get over it bitch. Yeah and I get what she's saying because yes she did have to speak to poor but it's not like they're letting favor back on the show or anything like true. Like how far does this forgiveness last really totally find with pager that too well the difference is that fair dra favor was conning and Ninian Candy? Aren't really coming. You know can you can you? I think is shrewd and what she does and she's shrewd and being able to manipulate a situation where she's the victim but she. She's not she doesn't work at that high level of failure in terms of hatching plots that are so intense that people can literally wind up in jail because of them. I don't know about that. I think Kenya's pretty cutting you think she says cutting US Pedra. Well no one. Is this kind of major? I mean it's true famous famous one of the masters. You know although like that. Yeah yeah she's she's the lowest for sure although I also don't know exactly how conning failure is I mean we elevator up to this level of this like this mastermind but it's more like she just around herself with people who are allowed dumber than she is so then she looks a lot more cunning than perhaps she is. It's kind of like if I say here's the plan. Hey Hey buddy. Why don't you go rob that bank? Most people say no. Why would I do that? But if you got a real dumb person says okay. I'll do that then. I look like a mastermind but I just made a very stupid request and someone was dumb enough to follow it. Yeah I'll give you five dollars to steal five million dollars. Okay you give you a baby to you before I go to prison. Okay sounds great. Yeah it doesn't make you. That doesn't make you like that. Cutting sharp just means that you just were smart enough to find people around. Yeah you're better at hiring. Basically you're really good with personnel. So can't be is like look I had to get over. Get over it with four. You know so. Guess what I don't care. We're going to have fun today. And you know I was on big brother with Lindsay's mom and Lindsey has a club here coke not expecting. Yeah you're going to Greece to publicize the low hand. Beach Club really. This chose Greece. I didn't even realize that. That club existed outside the TV show. I thought that was that show was done like the low hand beach club was turned back into what it was before which was like the low end. You Know Muffler Stores. Whatever it is over there but she says that she wants to do a whole bunch of fun team. Building Games which made I'm like immediately dreading that. I'm having flashbacks to like every year on marriage medicine when Dr Simone shows up strangely patterned asymmetric bathing suit being like today. We're gonNA find the shells and every shell that you find Houthem after the Shell and if you can ask the shells then you don't have a good relationship Well it was that so everybody goes goes to get ready to go to this thing and then they all jump on the van to go to this team building exercise and they announced is this when they announced they're having a goddess part. Does it really matter? Yeah the sort of in the mix here maybe later. I don't know somewhere. I'm one of the Van Rides Goddess Party announcement. All I know is I can't in the van sitting up and they all think that she's awake now. They realize that she's asleep. Which is so candy so he gets a Lo Han seaside and is there. Hello Panels Jeez. This queen really works as he from the show. Ya ever watched the show. Yeah he's the he's the main guy on the show. He's like Well I guess Lo Han is the Lisa Vander prop of the show. He's basically the least. He's one that works Lindsey. He has a big part. Peter doesn't have a big Oh so he's like he's almost like thom sound of all if like if Lohan if Tom Tom and Sir where the same restaurant yeah. He's the one who's like you know what Lindsey one like this. I'm going to have to tell Lindsey goes meeting and Lindsey has to drag us off the bathroom floor. You know he's like get your nose. Get your nose off the bathroom floor Lindsey stunt ago and she's like I wide bad for my people my feeling so yeah so anyway they get they get there and The the Women Candy is GonNa be. She's going overseas activities. And she splits everyone into teams Kenya and Tanzania Ninian Porsche and sent the marlow and they're going to be doing They're gonNA be doing these like fun. Little activities like the first one is. It's almost like from survivor. Where one person is blindfolded and HASTA LIKE TALK? Walk around a chair. He's like basically it's like now you to sit on the chair and then walk around the chair but you have to step out of this effort step on the discovery rights and then you have to build a business proposal for. Todd's new Mexican restaurant and then step on the leftist minute other right disc on the chair and she basically stole games from Big Brother noticed. I notice that I was like this feels so big. It's actually. She actually did them. Better like the production quality was actually better than the big brother gambling. The honest see that one where they have to link up arms and go get water and then come back and fill up the water jugs I mean that's like straight out of Big Brother Candy. Come on like we know big brother but come on you go on big brother and you have some plan with low hand to come suit in in this fucking club and now you're doing big brother. Games. What is going on here is candy getting money from Dina to do all this. I was just wondering why there wasn't like a Phallic object spitting like milk at them. Something because that would be truly badly. That marlow would win that one. That would be blatantly unfair. Yeah so so this first thing so basically one person's the caller and telling the blind the the blindfolded person okay to the left of the right and Marlow is just like standing there. Cynthia trying to yell at her and Marlow is standing there like the twins in Shining. She just like welcome to the game. You know very scary. I didn't take a lot of spark so I was like. Oh thank God nothing for a while. That's literally all I wrote down. I just wrote down. That Marlo looked like both of the twins in the shining standing together. Like those twins if someone told those twins to team building exercise this is what it would have been marlowe standing in the water waiting for direction. this is what the scene looked like to me. Whatever was on Instagram? Because that's what I was doing while. The seamless flying. I wonder how everybody's dealing with bikini buying into the Roth Mira's there were there. Were some high like there. Were some funny parts lake You Know Cynthia being just terrible lead on all. These things was hilarious. Marla makes sit down on the stool but intentionally tells her to sit down away from this tool so she falls on her ass and then needs Titi. Just goes like flopping out at all times like this big Lake it looks like it looks like a paddle on pinball machine right like right at the bottom of the ball like you have to hit the ball up again it was just like flapping up and down like there should have been a button on me to make her titty just like flap and then when they got into Did you watch when they went into the back to back thing? Yeah watching Porsche just Yank ne-near around was hilarious to me because you know me. I hate these. I hate to team building segments of Wacky Games but Porsche just dragging all around that beach. It was kind of amazing so you really did. I forgot how strong Porsche was. It took me back to that reunion where she dragged Kenya across the floor by. I mean she picked up meany. Animas la like it's for. It was in Kenya actually worked together really well. They're like let's just walk sideways. Yeah they figured it out. after the everyone's like. Oh my God we're sisters. And then after that everybody goes to get ready for their big. Ghana's party yeah so it's now we're back at. The villa and Cynthia goes into candies room in this like of course like looking beautiful an dislike gray shimmering God stress and she's got cheekbones gotta cheekbones also the God of Jail Jail Digital Goddess. So candy the size that they're gonNA do some Greek theater tonight and they're gonNA play meany and Cynthia having a talk since they are meany and Kenya having a talk since they refuse to do do it themselves. It's just sounds like a great idea. Guys sounds like this is GonNa work out in your favor. Yeah because can use like. She's like now if you go in. You have to have got his party. I mean that's what they're known for mythology alert. I don't know why that was so funny to me her saying that's what they're known for. Mythology Hiller so she wanted to. She said she wanted to a Greek tragedy with Cynthia where I think as you just said where they play Ninian Kanye. She wants to a Greek tragedy. Because she said she wants to make everyone laugh. I'm like you know that's not how tragedies work right. That's literally a different genre. And then she's trying to feed lines to Cynthia which aren't really very good lions. She says she says look a so. Say that. Look honey try to talk to you. And then you're saying everything's just fine. And since he was like piece to commemorate please why do I have to? Please don't make the way to do this. Please yeah and then like candy is going to be doing. A Kenya's like pumping. She does like a little karate chop which I never noticed. But it's so true that she totally does this thing with her hand and so they're like okay. This could be fun. Isn't feels like okay? I'M GONNA go downstairs to get a drink so and so I can quote unquote stay in character. And so can't he laughs jokes because and then the scene just cuts off on her so next candy is standing at the buffet which is covered in tin foil and trying to eat stuff on it but then the cats keep coming back and trying to get it in cats away. I know I was like get out of there was a bellow. Yeah and she's like you're not even our guest like Suray or it's like a mini trying to get into race party so then all the girls arrive. And Portions I. And then you need slopping Sangria around all over the floor because she's meany and that's how she does and then they have a little activity where Kenya and candy. We're gonNA give everyone got US names. But they're like you know what for the first time in the history of this show? We realized that this will just be too incendiary so everyone gets the name themselves so Porsche chose Aphrodite. E because she's the goddess of love and beauty and Candy of course is. I don't know how to pronounce this. Tice teach type. She wise. I teach teach to frame. Teasha so I'm going to go with Teasha got because she's the goddess of Fortune Prosperity and TACO TRUCKS. GotTa Sports Goddess Gossip Fortune Prosperity and Brunch spinoff restaurants. And Kenya's thing because she has wisdom and her real hair would never wear way and unions girl. If you had any wisdom would have made up with me a long time ago like I don't know a lot of people have made up with you and it still hasn't worked out so well for them. Well this whole Greek trip. It totally makes sense now. Why knee is dressed. Like the Guy. From little caesars in her confessional that WIG with bangs true. Hit me watching this peanut pinup pizzas. I had people that little caesars guy with his amazing jostles meany associates like a scene. It's also the kind of support I am easel. Which is the Aeros else? Does the Goddess Jeff Bezos? I cost one hundred dollars a year. But you don't have to pay for shipping. Marlow is automatic. Got Us at the hot ornaments is like one of my least favorite of the major twelve gods and goddesses. Unlike marlow WHO's better. Tanya is huby goddess of youth is that he be or Heeb. I Dunno Cynthia's hero goddess of marriage Gaza marriage and also the goddess of microphone has been when Mike Open MIC got us have hashtags got us a kitchen island and since he was like. Hello. Who's getting married now? And she shows her ring to the camera and she goes. Who's thirsty now? Not just want everyone to know that in Greek in Greek mythology here as mayor Marion disease and they have a long history of Zeus cheating on era. Like like me like like. It's basically I feel like every other myth is here hero finds out that Zeus turned himself into a swan so he can have sex with a lady and then she goes in terms of the lady into like a piece of moss or something like that. It's like everything's like yours. Fuck this fucking around. Yeah I think here is not a great one. Maybe like dyonisis. Just have fun. Drink wine you. She should be denies this year. The frigate mind seller I. I literally just got so mad right now. I have to calm myself down. So many psych well. I wouldn't eat manna that. There's cats up there trying to eat the food and she's like well. I wouldn't need that anyway. Okay candies like I am over. These cats like hasn't the movie gone through. Enough commodity. I assess this place got more positive and so now they announced that. There're there in Greece so candies I you know I gotTa Roll on the Chai. So no kiss. You haven't heard on the side so they did Greek theater in Greece. And so right now. Cynthia and I would like to perform a Greek tragedy and Tannock you're because you're amuses Since he is going to be any and I will be Kenya and Kenyan meany both of course totally pissed mission and so needs like the tragedy is being on the triptych recently. Kanye so she is not happy at all and and candy is like well. Or they're best like Wilson Union. Kenya won't have conversations. We are going to be you guys and we will have the conversation and Indian Kanye. Just have the biggest tank faces on like. Oh fuck these bitches like. It's bad enough that we are like we are subjected to this and now they're going to do this and their innocence. It's kind of like they're angry. That they're gonNA they sense that they're going to be mocked and they're gonNA be pitted against each other but also I feel like on a certain level like the candy. The the knee Kenya makeup seeing will be a big scene and in a weird way. Candy and Cindy are taking it over. So that's probably also some of their stank. Yeah and Kenya tries to pretend that she's okay with it. She's like I'm going to record. This was like that is going to the lawyer like live streaming this right now to her lawyer. Yes so suddenly unions She's like oh I've got to go pee. I'VE GOTTA GO PEE. So she gets up to to leave and she's like well it's Okay. I don't have to be here for this. Has Let me know how it goes sin. Everyone's like oh well now. That's this was fun but now it's not fun anymore because she left. Yeah and then we see ne- yelling at the producers because there's there's a group of producers trying to keep her there and she's like listen who the fuck do you think you are. What are you going to try and guard me and tell me what to do? You don't back with me. I mean real here do not fuck with me and I was like meaning. Do you really need to punch another producer seriously? I think he has like I think. Menial terrified to see herself. And the monster she been to me So Porsche goes what is she. Is She going number? One or number two and number three number three is when that bathrooms in Atlanta. Honey Yeah and then we have a montage. Yeah leaving parties meany leaving Montana's so then so then then I'm gonNA check on the baby and now like I said I was only going to represent her in the best light possible. Which is the light of kitchen island kitchen island which is new island in Greece? I don't know what I'm talking about child. I'm just trying to improvise theater. Also this this trip ends on a big fail but you guys need to. You guys can't prove that you can do a show without meaning and Kenya. Why you insist on making meaning Kenya at the center of everything at all times. Like it's a bad by the cast like you shouldn't be giving no one cares if Kenya Anini makeup like literally. Nobody cares nobody needs it in their life so that you can be interesting on your own you know when these idiots go to bed. Stay up and do something fun you know. It's like just keep giving the show up to them. Well I mean I mean it's a it's a good rivalry. I enjoy it because they are kind of like the Q. Queen's the show in a sense of what's funny. There's there's several different queens on the show but they are like the two big the big marquee names. I would argue on the show. So it's like watching Godzilla and Mothra go at it for people who care about that. You know it's just it's it's IT'S. It's like an epic war and you know. What is the latest in this epic war but that being said I will continue? I will continue say Nina. Her time is up she. We don't show does not need her. It gets more annoying with her and she can be very very funny and she has moments where you really do. Love her again. But ultimately Kenya is the villain that the show needs and it Nina's irrelevant. He has a get rid of a and that brings us to the end of real housewives of Atlanta Well you guys. Thank you for listening. Stay inside otherwise. I'm going to berate you more. And we'll be back Our next episode to discuss Shaw Sunset. Oh and I didn't even mention at the top of the episode but in case you're wondering if you subscribe you already know this due to everyone being so cool about it everyone. We had such a great response to our love is blind bonus episode and we decided you know what we are just making that available to everyone. It is no longer a patriotic exclusive. So go check it out. It's on the feed but we did record another bonus episode To check it on runway and Family Karma and blow deck Selling selling not to make up for US putting this one on on the on the main feed so go check that out. Everyone and we will talk to you on the next episode.

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The Entrepreneurs - Eureka 239: Depuravita

Monocle 24: The Entrepreneurs

11:58 min | 20 hrs ago

The Entrepreneurs - Eureka 239: Depuravita

"You're listening to eureka monocle. Twenty four with daniel hosted the entrepreneurs sondra and osama is the founder of dip your vita an italian company that in twenty fifteen began selling a range of detox juices and smoothies packaged in a smart and sustainable design. They use fruits and vegetables source from their own farm and local suppliers. Something that has helped the istanbul native turn a healthy profit in two thousand twenty cm decided to look again to mother nature when she added a line of natural beauty supplements powders and elixirs in her quest to avoid the glove chemically enhanced products on the markets. The cement looks to organic ingredients to create a range of nutrition and skin care products including probiotic chocolates and a passion flower liquid to eight with getting a good night's rest. The brands products are now carried at dozens of retailers across europe asia and the middle east for this week showed innoshima sat down with monica. Milan correspondent ivan value. To tell the story of dip your vida. It's an evolution. Because when i started like how i start at the real stories. I read an article coming back from new york to milan saying that. The juicing business reached five billion dollar i was like what is the juice. Business at the timer was working for fainted. Gaza's a consultant for marketing. And i looked around and italy. I realized that nobody's doing this business. Oh this is how i started with the idea like meany start offers to do a lot of money right and then i realized that was not my mission really in my mission was to contribute to people's lives by Giving them a wider awareness on nutrition on longevity in how to have a better and healthier life we do a lot of feedback with your a lot of consultancy with clients. And when you ask the most common problem with the people table all tell the or they have crohn's disease which are diseases related to interest in or they have problems with the digestion or blotting percent of women with whom we are daily interacting suffer from blocking problems since ten years already. There are just a huge researchers on how micro bio is the new brain. So what are the effects of a healthy interest in got held for your mood for your intelligence for your sleep for your skin for your immunity. And i wanted to create products easily to include in your lifestyle. So this is how we started with the first juices made with probiotics and then little by little we expanded that collection. According people specific needs i m super detail oriented person so when i decided to do my products they need to be the best in order to do the best products other that thinking about the best design for packaging and everything in the function of functionality. The raw materials need to be the best. So if you want to do the best jews you need to farm your own ingredients because if you go buy them from somewhere you're going to lose some time but if you say hey this monday. I'm going to do the production. I'm going to go and cut in the far my own. Kale and i'm going to press. That kill immediately is going to give you totally different results. Yours actually are juices. Never taste the same because it depends a lot. The balked raw materials that we are receiving every week about the season because not each season we are able to find the same raw material so we change Very often the formula so we are living in a country where we can outsource the best of some products for instance. If you wanna get good citrus. Lemon oranges you have to to city so you cannot grow actually in the north your citrus. So we buy all our citrus from sicily. The apples where you get the best apples you get them from by st lena. They have to come from mountain area or alto adige so we are giving all the green apples because they only grow in alto adige and all the red apples invited so going to the provider. Ticks also it is important. What kind of sport you are using in your provider takes because not each probiotic. So they are many sports like lactobacillus bustillo. Skoog lands evil. They're not all the best. Why because they have to be very sturdy to resist in your stomach area. There's this belief that prebiotics of let's say cultures. Yogurt cultures people tend to use them only after they get sick because the doctors tell them okay. Did you have a influence of flu. Whatever it use anti-biotics then you have to replenish your interest in flora. But it's not about that like if you think we don't. We are living in a city extremely politics. We don't have the possibility to always eat healthy. and organic. and whatever people are people nutritionist. Not as clean. So you're interested. Needs that all the time. It's not something that you have to use it occasionally but you have to use provider takes depending on your problem. You can change the quantity intake but you have to use all the time. This is what we try to encourage when i decided to make a switch from the juices to the supplement business. I wanted to do something lighter. In between because supplement is a part of pharmaceutical. It's way more complicated and the juices food so the idea was like which product can be so cool and so like a luxurious but not in a way luxurious for itself like the sensation that it gives you that you never forget. Take your supplements. So this is how the idea of chocolates born because it's a food. It's a superfood because we are using roca cacao row chocolate not the normal chocolate loss. There are highly innovative ingredients inside the chocolate. That makes them even more unique. And you have this authority chocolates. You eat one per day for your skin or for your got. Of course we are still in the field of food not food supplement and that was a very lake an idea that made us business booming. Actually so our cacao coming from ecuador. it's not soon ariba. And it's one of the most top quality cacao being in the world when it's cacao is role it's means that it's processed minimally so it's not roasted artificially. It's roasted with the sun. Actually so 'coco is a superfood itself it's gives you serotonin in many minerals and vitamins if you don't kill the cacophony it's not cooked. It's real you will get all the benefits from the cacao itself. The idea is always to do something special. In innovative that people are actually looking for and not doing a copycat of product that already exist in the market and usually it starts from the question. Like what am i looking for for myself. What are my personal needs for my beauty or health concerns so four disc collection. I wanted to divide it in different segments that we help the chocolates. We have the pills we have liquids. And we have the powder's there are people the hate to take pills. There are people they cannot use the powders because they think it's too dirty they mix with their smoothie and then there are people who prefer to use liquids because then you can put in your drink and whatever. It depends very much on how you like to take your supplements in spring this year. We are lounging this New brand called beauty charger powered by the vita. Always our own breath and they will be in the form of sasha that you put in your water in the first one is going to be called helo wrinkles so the idea is not fight with your wrinkles and become a monster because you are doing so many weird things to yourself but just to embrace them in age gracefully by taking the right supplements in the right place and right moment inhaler. We put electrolytes q ten and sign which is very good for your energy and also for anti-aging and we also put collagen peptides. Since the very beginning. I am collaborating with professional people. So it's not me in person who is formulating the juices or two supplements. But i always pick the expert person in that field to help us to to do the formulation. For instance we have a nutritionist. She specialised in boss chinese medicine and medicine in with her we are formulating most of the products related for the detoxing. When i decided to make the first clean hair supplements. I collaborated with a static. Surgeon who specialized especially in hair implants. So this is what we do for myself. I read a lots scientific researches or nutro-ceuticals business all the new ingredients. And i do also participate to certain fairs where i'm meet young people young companies who are specialized in different raw materials because dot also very important like i said your own farm where you grow your raw materials. Recently i met with this girl. She's amazing she's just found the company estonia and they are cultivating alpha alpha in sebok door. On the indeed you to best sebok down and alpha alpha so it is important where you are outsourcing your raw material. We pay attention to this aspect as wall. Alfalfa is very good for immunity because it strengths. Allot your interesting. Flora interest in this directly connected with your immune system. Is the door putting system. If you have a healthy interest in you have a healthy immune system so all fell face very very important for the interest. Sandra innoshima founder of dip. Your via speaking to monaco's milan correspondent ivan value. My thanks to both you can learn more about the brand at pure vida dot com. Thanks as walter. Christie evans mixed edited. This show daniel h thank you so much for listening in goodbye ooh.

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62: The Too Hot to Cook Episode

Hungry Girl: Chew The Right Thing!

44:24 min | 1 year ago

62: The Too Hot to Cook Episode

"<music> hello hello. It's me Lisa Lillian also known as hungry girl here at Hungary land with Mikey and Jamie. Hello Hi how are you. I'm laughing because I hear you. I thought I was adjusting my mic level and I just blasted. I'm like it's not working again. I would just blasted. Mike's ears okay. No no no you're okay and it didn't harm you not permanently so very excited about today's episode because it is freaking hot outside like and that's not why I'm excited but cited guided because it's the it's too hot to cook episode yeah because it is too hot to cook cannot have been better times. I know I don't really in degrees out. I don't like the heat the heat I like it when it's about when it's one hundred one below but one hundred one below acceptable anything above a hundred it's just unbearable like eighty. Seven is my day to day tolerance. You know it's hard. Jamie East coasters so like back home. Eighty two with humidity is like crazy dot fat but here eighty two is considered cool because we don't L._A.. Right we have no humidity but it's it's been over one hundred here in L._A.. And today is very humid so yeah but at least the first situation is not quite what it would be on the east coast well. That's true because I have my hair professionally straightened. What what's your it's true the Frizz thing I used to be so crabby when my hair frizz like I would cancel dates especially if I didn't know the guy well it was like a boyfriend? I'd be okay. I would stay home. My frizzy hair are made me miserable a Milo no and there was nothing worse than going out and if it was like warm out and then it rained and your hair like the humidity just like you'd go out on that date thinking you were set and then the humidity hit and you turn it it's like Jekyll and Hyde totally straight for come and I would put like I would hold my hand over my bangs to try to protect them and then I had this idea that with my frizzy-haired nobody would like me and I swear to you. There was a guy that years later came to me and said I was really bothered by your frizzy hair. He's bald now. I don't know whether he's single. He I don't I I'm not gonNA say his name wow but he he was bothered by frizzy hair anyway. I don't have that hair anymore. Luckily how did we get into that conversation off out so hot all right but we're we're GonNa talk about things that you can have. I'm excited because this is like an episode where we're going to chew a lot and eat a lot. We're going to give you some classics things. You need to keep in the house and then we're going to do a big time. Chew Intel with a lot a lot of great product finds that we have located that are going to help you not cook yet. Eat great meals and I'm excited but we're GONNA start off with a little bit. You know all right. macy's has pulled a line of the plates from all their stores. They'll plates you eat on like I don't know there any kind of plates I guess never mind from all their stores. After people complained that they're promoting body shaming okay so the plates had a diagram written on the top of the top of the plates with portion Russian sizes so one of the portion sizes said skinny jeans and other ones favorite jeans and then the other one says mom jeans so I guess people got upset because they're different site types of genes. I don't know too much about these genes but the Mike doesn't understand understand the controversy explain. It looks plain the G. Men menges where genes I mean we don't have like different types of genes but anyways the conversation was brought up on a podcast and so yeah and so the host asked people to Ryan to macy's and within hours macy's remove the plates okay that's so just to we'll explain the joke to Mike or whatever their their humor to Mike. I guess the small portion is going to be skinny jeans in a bigger portion favorite jeans and then mom jeans are like the higher ones that are more forgiving so they probably say that's the bigger portion and I guess people got offended by that because what is offensive about that in your mind Jamie. I actually don't think it's offensive but here's the I read a little bit about the story to its. They're saying it's body shaming so is do you you feel that it is body shaming. I just feel like it's humor and people need to lighten up a little and if you don't like the plates don't buy the plates I mean that's how I feel like skinny. Jeans are thing they don't necessarily mean. Actually I'm going to be completely honest with you my skinny jeans or the most forgiving so skinny jeans these most stretchy. They're almost like diggings. You could gain twenty five pounds and still were the same size which is dangerous but that doesn't mean any it doesn't mean anything and they're just being playful. Yeah I mean I think it's cute. I feel like in terms of body shaming. It's an lets you buy it for your friend and say watch out for that mom Jean portion right like why are you going to like. I understand if you if you buy it. It's because it's funny and appealing and money right and you can put the Broccoli the mom jeans portion to see more of the Broccoli. I just people in general I think people need to lighten up a little. I think our society today is a little it's a little overly sensitive and people are looking to be offended and that is that makes it. It's just sad because then will forever be comedy like is it going to be outlawed would've been offensive if it said like if it had like normal diet day normal day cheat day you know like is that still offensive like sexually cute macy's place. You're was a not I mean it's the exact same thing right I think it would be I think people would be offended if it said size for size eight size twelve you know and that's what it wasn't even ring implying implying. This is now English class anyway but no I get what you're saying but like any way you slice it. Nobody would put anything in that literal right there it would be. It's a joke. It's just a joke so the the fact that the thing that upsets me the most I think people should be allowed to make the decision to buy the plates or not and then I don't think macy's should have been bullied into pariah the plates I agree. It's the bullying that bugs me. I think I put my finger on it. The only way that this would be to me considered body shaming offenses offensive is if I went to a restaurant and they serve that to me and they said would you like the skinny Jean portion portion of the mom jeans. I'd be like you Sir have offended me like I speaking of offensive things at restaurants. Don't you hate when the waiters like comment on the amount you've to eat. No you didn't like it at all. You want to order all that they do that restaurants. When you go to like a fast food place? Do you WANNA large small fry medium fire large fry but they're not attaching. It's your size not saying small pants fry large pants do absolutely hate when they come by and they're like wow you ate all of that where you put it and I I hate that so upsetting all right. That was a pretty controversial news story but we're GONNA move on now for the people who are still listening which I hope is you and I mean you the person on the treadmill okay the deal is this it is hot out. We want things in our house that we can throw together and make a meal out of. And it won't feel like we're cooking. That's my goal every day. <hes> like honestly like I'm not believe it or not like people are like Oh you have all these cookbooks. They think I'm a chef from which I'm really not <hes> I. I like to cook but in general I'm more of a food assembly person and I like to make things in the microwave. I use the skill at a lot <hes> and use a lot of ready to go products that I throw together so this episode is great for me in particular and I know probably because you're a big salad eater yeah and I think it's good to have that gray area too because if you feel like Oh if I'm going to go to the store I have to get all natural whole foods and cook up my keen Wa- from scratch and do all that you're going to order burgers and fries because it's too hot to cook and you're not GonNa do that yeah so it's like the inbetween is it's okay. Hey have some partially prepared or packaged. Whatever because it's going to save you and you you feel like you're eating a home cooked meal with a lot of these things and so that's what I like so there are things that we should just let people know because there's going to be a lot of obscure the things that we taste that will be like a little bit of like Easter eggs at the supermarket or on Amazon but in general there are things that we should keep in our fridge at all times those things those things are Broccoli slaw k that is like a standard? What if someone doesn't know what Broccoli slaw is then? They're lucky that you're in their lives because now I'll explain is Broccoli. slaw was actually a mistake. It was like an accidental product but it's just <hes> Broccoli stems and carrots and cabbage that have been sort of shredded and it comes in bag. It's raw you can eat it raw. It's great <hes> you can also just put like dressings on them. Sit does often or you cook it. I make it in the microwave and the skillet and not on this episode is needed but it does it can turn into like a pasta like <hes> consistency and you can eat it with red sauce or any way you'd eat pasta or you can turn it into a salad. It can enhance a salad. You can use it instead of noodles and soup. I feel like it was the original veggie noodle before Sakina noodles for sure and so easy wasn't wasn't there somebody in the community that was like they just discovered the Broccoli slaw from us and like Burr. They're using it might have even been from the podcast really good remember everything now like. They couldn't believe that existed in now that it's all the US go buy awesome and I learned about it from my bunnies. I started buying it for the buttons and then I was at the rest is history also coleslaw mix and a lot of people think isn't Coleslaw mix. Doesn't it have may oh no it's just shredded cabbage and carrots and it's the same type of thing you can and do so much with it bagged salads that Jamie's best friend. Oh Yeah love some lettuce in a bag. A bag of nothing makes Jamie Happier and nothing makes me angrier than what might come home from the grocery store with a head of lettuce. I used to do that because it's cheaper. It's like a dollar for I had a lot of things that are worth it and it's but yeah it hasn't happened in years because the headlines just sits in the fridge and with doesn't bite it like an apple on that orangey color on yeah then so you can cut off like that part and long story short bagged lettuce. Yes I just had some last night <hes> salad kits usually when I get a salad I throw away half the little extras or I keep them in a little portion of the fridge and they just sit there they can open a drawer and find like bags of tortilla strips and and fatty dressings and stuff. I know only use half of the TORTILLA strips. Now that's smart. It's good for control freaks like us. You can use part of whatever they give you <hes> and then veggie noodles which luckily come now just either frozen or fresh or you could spy realize him yourself but that's sometimes that's a pain. These are all great things that are sort of meal starters and a lot of stuff that were tasting today. If you combine it with these things you have like a full-on amazing amazing entree and by the way so today if you're listening to this of just debuted it's Friday on Wednesday. We're going to have a roundup of some of these classic products of new favorites next next Wednesday yeah. Yes like the very next Wednesday Tuesday that occurs for you if you are wow okay well so so people need to sign up for the daily email exactly girl dot com slash subscribe and if you're listening way into the future it'll be on the food cast page yeah or I guess it'd be the Wednesday Wednesday July thirty first email helpful oh yeah if you just go to Hungary dash girl dot com slash food cast and you click on this episode. We'll link you to it once. It's available yes all right well another one of my favorite things Paul meany oh every time I say Paul meany into my speak text. It says Paul meany this Paul meany you don't know but he's more popular in my phone than Paul meany should find him. You find et Cetera while we talked about how many how many hearts of palm that have that's just like shaped like pasta used to come into. Can it's still does but also make it in pouches. A lot of people don't love cans <hes> and it's it's just a great product to me. It really works in an hot and cold dishes and you just have to rinse it a little bit. It has a slight light sour taste almost like a canned artichoke. Oh yeah yeah but I I like it with those kind of flavors like you can put it with like <hes> like sun dried tomatoes and Fettah works perfectly with that and if you want to get rid of those flavors that works to rinse it yea some people do it works laughing cow. It's just a great product the whole I think it's like a double serving for Sixty Calorie Mr Paul meany you on facebook that I found a Khomeini's. He's found all the ball means. Let's send themselves some plumbing. Um you see how it makes them love us okay and then also things that you can keep in the freezer. Things like stir fry mixes. The Rice veggies the veggie noodles that I spoke of. I especially like those like the themed veggie mixes so it's like like you have your Asian theme of your Mexican. You're Italian theme. They're great yeah. I like those two. You just got to be careful for like sauces unless mostly check the stats and they're decent yes but usually I just buy now. Luckily it used to be they all came with most of them in the bags probably like I think the ones in the boxes may be still losses but they might give you a pouch a sauce and a pouch situation which you could just you know either choose to use or not or use part of it and so for the purposes of this episode microwave is not cooking right right so those frozen veggies you can you can throw some of whom come in microwave friendly bags. You just put the bag right in there. That's true. If you don't WanNA use your microwave you can just thaw the veggies yeah and use them as part of a chill but just microwaves plan your dinner eight hours ahead of time but like just to tell you why the microwave doesn't count because if it's too hot to cook the microwave doesn't actually get hot. You'll never feel the heat not like standing over a stove so that's our excuse yeah right acceptable. Okay <hes> <hes> tastes things yes. I really think we should taste things but one other category I WANNA. It's actually GONNA lead into the first thing we're gonNA taste so if you don't just want a salad or a big bulla vegetables with stuff on it. Sandwiches are good too. I'm person and I know you are to Mike. You're not this person but we are. We don't really eat a lot of bread. We like bred substitutes. We're making cucumbers pickle sobs. We use high fiber low calorie tortillas. What's how do you make cumbersome you? I have no idea everybody is always like Jamie. So good at asking you those questions. I'm like doesn't she sound like she doesn't know how to do anything when she knows everything you just take a big hunkin cucumber or a small one and you just cut it you you could take the seeds out. Go overseas or not sometimes I just leave the seeds in and then you make a little sandwich out of it I throw mustard on there and <hes> you know it could be there tune our Turkey tomatoes and you make a little like a like Assab O._C.. Literally like slice place it down. The middle looks like bread you make a sandwich out of Mike is Eden Good luck them you can make him at a pickles to the sodium. What about <hes> like lettuce buns? Lettuce buns are great. <hes> the best <hes> that works with the head of lettuce don't not not point but let us bonds are great lettuce wraps <hes> and we also great new products out. There's always something that's being turned into a Tortilla. There's like the Crepe Pini egg white but we have our first product today which is just a great example. <hes> these are N- Origami Gluten Free Soy wraps. I just realized it's Nori an origami combined oriented seaweed right right yeah Nori Yup so you can turn these into little origami things actually not but you can you could make wraps out so we're going to try them. The reason why we fell head over heels with these of for these sorry they're they're just like what you get at the Sushi bar when you get like soy paper if you ask for a soy paper instead of a seaweed wrap so they don't have any fishy flavor on they have twenty calories so for that whole thing. It's gotta be like she gotTa be like eight by eight and I was going to say it's probably yeah I would say it looks like a loose leaf piece of paper it does with little sesame seeds on it. It's pretty do you wanna break a piece off off a piece of that. Oh my God it's it is paid for it. Tastes like paper we we we made a rap out of it soya sauce. We'll sweep so thin twenty calories on its own tastes. A little accessory seeds slightly sweet. It's all right. I wouldn't eat these on their own. Let's try it on the route so it's just like a vehicle like I loved something that can make you feel like you're eating a sandwich sandwich and so this is Aaron has made us a wrap with chicken creations <hes> which is the its its chicken salad by <hes> star Kist and then it's got some lettuce and some pickles nice. I thought it was going to be too long. Thanks for the heads up. This is young. It's so I'm glad this is lunchtime. This is beautiful new streaming ours splitting. I love it totally fits the bill it. It is a Tortilla swap with probably one fifth of the calories and slightly sweet work. It was excellent you the recipe or can I have a come on you. Don't need this. You know. It doesn't feel like two Japanese like Oh not at all so I'm glad you pointed that out. I wouldn't have yeah you can put anything in it and meeting Turkey Slices Yuna Salad Bill Bill Bill's just getting don't eat money okay twenty calories one gram of fat and they're available on Amazon. Yes they're also available on Kroger ship. I didn't know that kroger has their own like. Is that a boat yeah. It's like the Amazon truck like it just like those from like short ashore. Kroger ship has arrived. No He's going to be in Malibu. You can get things shipped to you from Kroger but anyway I think Amazon is probably your best bet and we will link <hes> like you to that from the food cast page great okay now we're going to dive into ready to eat proteins or proteins that are non you don't have to cook them and the stuff that we would always go to you know the the tuna pouches we love star Kist. Tuna Creations Ends Deli Turkey anything that's already pre cooked and there's a lot of great <hes> chicken options wherever you go but we're trying this new product. It looks so good Paul Chicken breast with rib meat in smoky barbecue sauce from trader Joe's Jose we love trader. Joe's pictures a little frightening. I think it looks beautiful. Looks like <hes> like real traditional pulled barbecue chicken. I see you're saying that that that front piece or a creature group ties. It's a little it's weird. I would have retaken that Fono but it's great pr. I know it's going to be a great product. We haven't I have not tried it but well and you and I had a discussion about this because I said I would eat this cold and you're like no way you have to warm it up in the microwave but I mean you probably could eat a coal but there's something about it. That makes me. You feel like you should heat it up. I don't know I could be totally wrong but it is. Let's talk about the with rib neat because I did not know what that meant because I wasn't sure about chicken rib meat but apparently it's just sort of another part of the chicken breast abreast. It's like another piece that's attached include it and it probably is a less expensive cut and that's why they included but the stats are exactly like chicken breast and I'm so glad that you pointed that out and said let's look it up because I would think whenever I see me and I'm like Oh. It's got to be more fattening right. It's not no not in the way of chickens. I didn't even know chickens had I know they had ribs but I didn't anyway whatever let's try it. One big one smells delicious. Yeah let's talk. Won't you talk stats for this baby a third of the package. It's a really large package. A third of the package which is like three or four ounces has one hundred and forty calories grandma fat eighteen grams protein how much sugar so sweet twelve wow. It's sweet okay. It's good crazy sweet crazy sweet. I like it but what I would do with that is put like a few ounces on like a big salad. <hes> 'cause I like sweet. I like sweetmeats but that's like I would take down the sugar by thirty percent. <hes> okay so I agree they do have to say I tried a similar product. That's available at Ralph's. It's that del real or Gel riyal. Oh yeah brands that we tried there be far COA and flips for it. They have the same type of product and it is way less sweet really yeah but this is good. I mean trader Joe's can do so wrong me. They're like my. I don't know like my sibling that I love so much I can do no wrong and and again the stats are really great except it is high in sugar but it's unlikely that you would eat it straight with a fork like we just did so yeah like likely Lisa said if you put it on a salad or mixed it with some Broccoli slaw that'd be good if you nuke some Broccoli slaw just mix them together great or Veggie noodles or over cauliflower rice hall meeting poem. It'll be great with Paul meany. That would work so well yes I I would just throw it in the microwave. I was GONNA say the skillet not today not today no skillet okay. Are we ready for the next item excited cautiously optimistic about this one. This one is a little frightening but we are very open minded here at hungry. Hey girl and this is made by a brand called simply shreds S. H.. R. E. D. Z.. Not as premium dried pulled pork spicy Saracho flavor is five grams of protein. This whole pouch has has two hundred and sixty calories two servings so what this is. It looks like a pouch like I dunno like a pouch. You'd find in the supermarket. Maybe uncle Ben's Rice or yeah and when you peel open the pouch there's a little ziplock abortion a bag of jerky and it's dried pork. This is like a shelf stable product shelf stable does not require refrigeration smell that sniff sniff like shredded Jerky it is it's like shredded but Mike my question is going to be like I wanna see what it feels like. I know because they they have a picture of it on a sandwich and it's hard for me to imagine shelf stable shredded meat on a Sam well. I feel like you'd have to like you might need some sauce or something some liquid. This reminds me of haven't tried it yet. I everything I mentioned this in other episodes of when we're eating jerky jerk as they come in like that almost look like chewing tobacco but it was Turkey like that astronaut food like little well. It's not crunchier dry but it I mean it'd probably would be to take this up. I I like no moisture. I know it's tasty though he's just going to start to say I would never go on the space shuttle getting on subject by like who the hell wants to do that all right. It's okay like this is like in a pinch. I think it's okay I would eat it like Jerky I would never actually you know what it might be good on a rap. Do you know where it'd be really good. Don't say on my salad no but it might be okay on your cell. I'm going to tell you it'd be really good in like chicken broth because ooh hydrated rehydrate a great idea like it. What about like on a baked potato or Omlund yeah? I would think it'd be really gonNA in in a scramble perfect in a scramble would rehydrate scramble yeah. This is good to make it work for no cook. Let's link them to our classics so that they can put this in a microwave eggnog. That's right no skillet required so you can get this where do they at this Amazon. Amazon's your best bet for this one. It's in a few specialty shoe stores mom and pop shops but mostly Amazon or you can go to simply shreds with a Z dot com simply shreds okay next up with a product that some might consider frightening. I am excited to embrace it because I live with a Vegan human and I'm always interesting for clarifying yeah I don't. I don't support Vegan animal. ISM does that make sense. I don't support making your animals Vegan unnatural. That's another story. This is called Harmless Ham. I've been jokingly referring to it as hamlets Ham uh-huh all week or what else do we say it was harmless harmless harm. You don't know until you try it but it's made by sweet earth. They make a lot of the plant based products that are good to about one hundred calories a serving with twenty five calories from fat fat which means it has like three grams of fat and we're going to try to supposed to mirror the flavor of Ham are the tell you I've had swear before they make a breakfast sandwich lease to get all the time and they're fake meat is really good so I'm excited about this. I hope it's good. Let's try the Deli Basically Sam. Oh Yeah Oh yeah they're slice so there. This comes chilled if you've probably would eat these children and they look the color is like a little suspect. It does not look quite him. It looks like the color of flat sausage pounded. It looks a little weird but I bet it's going to be delicious rather harmless Ham. Oh boy careful. Oh no wait a timeless. You're okay they got me the texture and my hand feels lacob meaty. Look how thick the slices compared to the one you talk to just break it. <hes> it's true we <hes> it's a little smokey does tastes like ham not really. Here's the deal Mike if I if I chop this up and put it in like an Eggnog or like a some kind of an Omelette you might think it tasted a little like Bacon breakfast but I wouldn't put this on a sandwich. <hes> maybe getting feel harms. It required way too much chewing. I feel like I just burned one hundred calories chewing. It will there. You're that's the purpose of it and that's a little like a tire. It could work on like an APP like a Muffin. You know <hes> to make a often meatless or something like that but to skip the HAM. I think this is a good product for the nobody's for vegans vegetarians that it really just want a protein source or Lawley begging volley. We have discovered a sudden rallies eating it. Let's see if she spits it out. I feel like it's not as bad as we have implied that it will if we were being. We'd be going crazy for it right now. I bet maybe begin. We'd like it. Maybe I wouldn't say going crazy for it so if that didn't <hes> dissuade you from trying it you can find it at target. That's true but I don't know that harmless. HAM IS GONNA be selling lots of boxes because of us today but we do love sweet earth lower fans of sweeter. They won an award in one of our <hes> thing we did like a meatless product and the magazine and they want to know where it was talk to. We can all be winners all right next up. This is a product. I am not going to lie to you. I eat this product all the time. I am bringing it onto the podcast so I can share this with you guys and then tell the world world about it. I learned about this product. It's called good catch. which I think is a really cute name? Plant it says plant made that's interesting plant made chef mastered so it's a plant based fish free tuna so it was not a Venus flytrap trapped like assembling plant made. I'm skeptical of this listen to me. I have tried no tuna tuna before that has been discussing this is phenomenal the hope the whole pouch ninety calories two point and five grams of fat one gram of fiber. It tastes like tuna. It's not fishy. It does not smell fishy if you show up with this on a plane or wherever you are I know Jimmy likes to travel with tuna. This would make way more popular truly. That's the first first thing I thought was really large. Patch it looks larger than your average to patch a yellow. Oh because I insisted on adding my favorite thing which is still mustard oil mustard <hes> walmart or anywhere probably Mike you have the texture spot on truly. It's so good taste. It doesn't taste weird in any way like this. I was so happy when I found this well. I bet not not tuna. It's just even less fishy. Did you cover that. What is it no? It's a good I think it's like chick peas. I don't care what it is. You're no yes six plant protein blend so it's Pea protein soy protein chickpea flour our lentil Thaba protein navy being flower well. How did they get the texture so spot well yeah? That's that's a little disturbing. L. Spot on it is but it tastes fantastic. One more of these men are give these are these two men on back of the package. His name is Chad and there's chat and Derek and they look serious their arms or folded zone they might one of them is wearing an apron. <hes> these are the men that discovered good catch and I did Google the company company. They're they're coming out with a whole bunch of other products crab cakes and things so they're not home run home run. It's funny. Is that a pet two hundred hundred like like three hundred pounds. Aren't they like really big fish huge not all. I don't know if all tunas are three hundred pounds or just. The ones that need help but like a big tuna and go for like like ten or twenty thousand dollars well over two thousand dollars in those Japanese auctions. I went to one of those. It's crazy Japanese auctioneer probably on here that would be an interesting to do is to go to like <hes> like one of those fish <hes> really selfish like roll of Sushi chefs go and get the fish for the day like it is much been there and it's fun so this product fantastic total home run plant made aide fake tuna. which is you know have another brand not their brand but it's something called to know which we did not enjoy? This is great catch and this is a good catch where they find it. That is a good question so they answer my question. I I mean I know it's at whole foods food world. Is that it whole foods or online at thrive market or freshdirect. Oh Yeah I ordered some from thrive. I ordered like a dozen of them from thrive. Yeah these are really good okay. We are still on proteins but the ones we're moving onto now are solely served hot. You have to heat these somehow. This is where you employ your microwave which is okay for this episode <hes> we we all know about the classics meatless Burger patties whatever low fat trader Joe's Burger Patties soy crumbles but like like there are some new products that we just want to try so I won Hormel Taco meat which is fully cooked this beef crumble so this is real beef right. Now we usually use soy crumbles but now this is beef crumbles with with good stats a third of a cup ninety calories seven grams of fat seven grams of protein and you can get these pretty much all over there at Kroger Stores Ralph's Hi V. Fries and more so let's try them kind point out two things yes please one. There's a giant banner on this package that says made with one hundred percent natural ingredients which is unexpected an awesome for Hormel yeah but even better look at this adorable packaging it says all it needs is to be hugged by Tortilla. Oh and then on this side. It says your Taco is just just a shell without it very packaging personality. That's so cute and you could do more. I mean you could put it in a shallower Tortilla or you can use it with your like lettuce wraps or even tell you I would do. I would make little enchiladas using those little Nori wraps. That would be so you could smother those that that's a great texture. I I would totally nicely spiced. I'm so excited for like precooked ground meat. Eh quite salty. What's the Sodium Jamie keeping them from me? What's the sodium Sich Norway salty none terrible for fifty for a third of a cup really really good? I'm impressed those it tastes not lean and it is. It's very lean well. It's lean I wouldn't say very I mean I don't know seven grams of fat following very linked but it tastes like kind of decadent <hes> yeah because it is. I think there's a fair amount of decadence in but it's very salty I like it them. I would use these pinch. I think too. It's like if you put that over a big plate of shredded lettuce. You probably wouldn't need that much dressing so flavorful <hes> yes and whatever like like use it however you'd use your little ground beef. Okay we like it thumbs up love it well how Mike's obsessed with it and where do you I said where to buy these fries kroger rows hy-vee and more okay on the way home from Work Holy Moly. Maybe they'll deliver it. Won't you call like door Dash Mr Hormel okay next up Gilbert's aloha chicken sausage now I was like making fun of these in like who is Gilbert and what is the story with the Aloha sausage but the beauty of the sausage other than it being a beautifully fresh looking no antibiotic all natural situation these are craft sausages and they are individually wrapped for freshness so one of the things we don't love about sausages you open when the pack and then there's like six sauces that are breathing air for the next. How many days I like to rephrase? I Dunno it just gets these are just individual so they stay fresh and they have one hundred twenty calories each. This flavor is chicken sausage with pineapple ginger brown sugar. Wow that's that's on these a hundred twenty calories which is not bad five grams of fat and <hes> zero grams of fiber eight six. Now I think six grams. It's really takes earnings sugar. I need my glasses. Oh Wow it's only five so that's even better hold on these are really good. Sets usually chickens tries to just like little higher yummy. Wow I love these. Gilbert is sweet very because that's the pineapple and the brown sugar a lot of everything we've tried today would be good in an egg scramble so we graydon and scramble or in the salad it totally or with cauliflower rice. We Love Gilbert. I would try all his other sausages and it tastes really good like that was microwaved. It didn't need to be cooked in a skeleton is really yummy and these are also at FRY's Ralphs Albertsons shoprite right Harris Teeter and more so the product availability does vary by store so you might want to call and say hey do you have Gilbert's craft sausages and I guarantee you not one person who answered the phone. We'll know so you're GONNA have to go there to look forward to store or go to the store locator but they're yummy. I love that yeah that might I wouldn't my favorite so far. Now we have some fun things microwaveable meals what not like we're not like bringing back not that there's anything wrong with lean cuisine or healthy choice but these are things that are a little bit more sort of unique and the first one is a product by man man's there the inventors of Broccoli slum now everybody makes Brock's law now and a lot of people just buy whatever's on sale which is totally fine but man invented it. There's a lovely company out of Northern California. I believe <hes> and this is a nourish bowl. This is a breakfast bowl fiesta scramble and you buy this in the produce section in the refrigerator in the refrigerated section and the photos that yes it is heavy and what what it is it's a kit and it has kohlrabi cauliflower butternut squash Kale chicken theriault in Pico denial and Mexican blend cheese then you add egg and you cook it in the continue and you have to understand like because there's products like like this that are really like small little cups. This is a giant container. It's pretty packaging. It's very unique. Even what's Kohlrabi. Kohlrabi is a vegetable. This is cheesy. There's cheese strings. Kohlrabi is a vegetable that we don't use very often. I wouldn't even it smells weird when you keep it in your fridge that I know what does it look like very cheesy. <hes> you know it's so funny. I'm waiting. I want her. I am because I want more salt with that. She's using her beef. Crumbles into salt scramble. Look impressed. He's usually don't breakfast is not my my meal. I don't I'm not a person anyway so this a few comments I have one. I like all the veggies that are in here. It might need more egg like the egg is not really doing anything for it like I would probably add twice as much egg but it's fun to see all these veggies in one place where I would add some like brings red hot or something to it Yup packages one hundred and fifty calories in seven grams of fat and then whatever throwing Oh that doesn't include the I don't think so <hes> okay I mean not that we probably that probably only has like forty calories. Worth of eggs is probably two hundred calorie thing I would be good. I know I'm I I like it. I like the butternut squash. I like that it's cheesy. I would do a lot with this like I probably would be a rule breaker. I would not follow the directions I would use it and abuse it however I wanted but it's not bad I'm it is sold at select Kroger Safeway Albertsons and more and there is a store locator which we will link to right correct. Our final tasting product of the day is Della Global Kitchen Dila. Am I saying that right Della Della kitchen honey Serrato Dr Salmon Della Global. You don't remember her. Where's the salmon? I don't know it's in there. Hopefully somebody did not eat it but it's honey Saracho Salmon. I hope it's not this kind of thing where you have to buy your own salmon. I am an ad it. That would be hysteria. Enjoy look at it. It's like a hash almost <hes> I have news for you. The whole thing has two hundred thirty calories so how much salmon could be in their salmon's kind of high in calories so it's probably going to have a little dots of Santa. It looks like it's it. This is like what is it like rice. Hang on. Let's let's look at the baggage and see what we're getting into. This explains more okay. It's honey Saracho salmon with stir fried cauliflower rice and vegetables. Oh that's why we picked it up because it's like a cauliflower rice-bowl. It looks cute. It looks very teriyaki. Wow leases got the face. Oh it's a good one one. I'm wrong. You're on your bed. Fish easiest salaries the fish easiest fish I have ever ever some people will say to me. What does it mean when your fishes fishy? You'll know this is the fishies fish I've ever had scared Oh boy I know. I almost wish I tried it before. She said that you might like it. If you like fishy fish oh does she dish swallowing but the veggies are good nervous. Should I still taste it but don't be embarrassed if you like it because you know what that's why they make chocolate and vanilla. Jamie always thought I was crazy. I don't like microwaved fish. I like fish that weight it taste from a microwave and that's exactly what I'm that's microwave. It's not the Mike. The microwave is a problem. I never thought you were crazy for that. You won't eat fish the next day because you won't yeah you could solve that by like steaming it. Okay that would help it but this is just this has a whole other set of problems. I like everything about it except the salmon but that fishy flavor has like really kind of permeated the whole thing sweet. Oh just give him some take this this jerky this will work this <hes> Jerky situation. This is a very informative taste test <hes> della global kitchen we'd ever heard of you before. Did we and we will never hear from you again. We would try other third thing else about that. Fish that hunters Roger Salmon is not worth trying okay well. This concludes our taste test. <hes> there's a lot we went through a lot today yeah. Can we go back and get your ratings. Should we do people like the ratings. I'm sure they'll tell us I think it would be good because then we can put it on the jump page two okay because that way we're not just listing sending them into the abyss okay. Let's rate them all right so starting with the first thing we tried was the nor Gami gluten gluten free soy wraps available Amazon and the Kroger ship. Those are a ten wow there are ten. I'm feeling generally started. Strong moving onto trader Joe's pulled chicken breast with rib meat in Smoky Barbecue Seven. It's good little little sweet simply shreds with Z.. Premium dried pulled pork. You know I have to tell you. The creativity of this is going to push it up to an eight wow just because it's creative and if you need protein it's worth like you could use this you could I like it for scrambles more functional than jerk your average dried meat yep. Maybe seven to eight seven to eight it is how about the sweet earth hamlets harm. Oh boy harmless the harmless him. I am sorry I give that before I give it a four moving onto good catch fish free tuna. That's an eleven out of ten by ten Hormel Taco meat fully cooked beef crumbles. <hes> I know Mike is giving manitain. I'm giving it a seven and a half. Maybe you could say might give it a town. I just ate a P. It tastes like fish. Oh this being fish p always drinking in the ocean. Oh Boy <hes> Gilbert's aloha chicken saw nine. I like Gilbert me to moving onto the microwave meals man's nourish breakfast bowl <hes> seven and a half. Jamie probably gives it a nine nine. I liked it yeah. That's why Jamie probably gives you the knife and last but probably least della global kitchen honey Saracho Salmon. I don't think it's nice to give something zero so I'm giving it a one. No I don't like it. I liked the rice you can pick out the salmon. The sevens too fishy they gonNA we. We're GONNA try something from the then. That's not fish yeah. They need a redemption okay. I think fish is just a hard thing to to heat up so <hes> we're ending the podcast now but I want to say everyone always says you don't tell people to tell their friends enough and everyone we should do this in the beginning. We didn't if you're still with us after that salmon still here. Tell your friends about the podcast because it's a fun podcast. We give you a lot of information. 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#174: 73 Questions w/ Lauryn Evarts Bosstick - Goals, Random Shit, Past Relationships, The Works

The Skinny Confidential Him And Her Podcast

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#174: 73 Questions w/ Lauryn Evarts Bosstick - Goals, Random Shit, Past Relationships, The Works

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Welcome to the skinny confidential him in her podcast, featuring Lauren Evert's, and we have a special guest today. Mimi Evert's, I hate is. What's up Taylor wanted to do that creative intro? He directed that himself. I'm sorry. Today. We have something different means here. Meany say what up you gotta talk into the mic. You gotta really get with it into the mic. Hello everyone. I'm here. This nice second time last time. I said one word so she's movement. You're going to talk more so Meany if you guys don't know is a my sister. And she's also my right hand man when it comes to the skinny confidential she helps with a lot of the creative. And she really keeps us on pulse. You know what? I mean. Don't you feel that? Maybe. Yeah. You guys use me for my youth. I keep young you do keep us young. She keeps us young. She keeps us fresh. She keeps us vibrant. Which is why today we're doing seventy three questions and where did this originate from from vogue? I had to watch maybe forty five different vogue, seventy three questions to gather, all these. But I got the best. She got the best questions from. It's like a vote YouTube situation. Right. Yeah. It's like they interview. Celebrities. My favorite was when they did Xueliang under with what's his name? Ben stiller. Yes. That was a good one. And then actually where we. I really got inspired to do. This episode was Stoskopf Schroeder of Andhra paroles did a podcast with her friend low, and they did seventy three questions, and I thought how fun is that? Let's do it on the skinny confidential. So here we are live Taylor. I feel like is going to chime in too in the background better. Believe it what it's appropriate though, only when it's appropriate never appropriate from you. That's your specialty one it's appropriate when it's appropriate like at my wedding. When you went to a strip club and pissed on yourself. It was appropriate. Okay. Strip dance on the. So you've got me got Mimi got Taylor. You never know. What's gonna happen with this medley with that? I'll have meaning hop right into it. All right. So the first question is what is your favorite food? Okay. So this is so hard. Are we talking healthy or Nadi? I feel like for healthy. It's definitely an artichoke salad specifically from Alpes Tayo. You do know a Ruge extra artichoke you like this one to a whiz like an olive oil champagne vinegar lemon dressing, and then I'd love melanin Brochu to- after being honest. But if it's unhealthy chips and salsa guacamole, what is your guilty pleasure skinny Margarita, lemon lime half from salt. You know, maybe some Cointreau maybe some jalapeno to you know, I love a CBD pen at night to you got me onto that. What's the one? We use babe. Oh, babe. Oh, we love it. Yeah. What's your favorite dessert? Favorite dessert is I'm probably going to miss pronounce this Bramble berry. I think that's right. That's right. Jenny's Jenny's, it's this ice cream, and it has chunks of Bramble Bury's. Oh my God. It sounds so good right now. It's so I put lemon on it. And it's I can only have one scoop because I'll eat the whole fucking carton. It's so good funniest thing. You've ever read about yourself funniest thing. I've ever read about myself is on people right on my Instagram, photos and say, wow, this girl has fake tits. And I'm like, yeah. I only documented my entire boop surgery. Go check out my highlights under boobs. And if you wanna Google the skinny, confidential boobs, there's one hundred posts too. So thank you for telling me that I have fake tits. What's your secret talent? Should I do it? No. Yeah. You love this. Is it when you sing? Yeah. Oh, no. Yeah. Taylor. You like it. Let's go to see. Oh, I know you're going gonna do. Okay. Hold on. Oh god. It's breathy in your fins. You don't get too far legs are required for jump in dancing. Honestly, those high notes are quite impressed. That was one of your better a Y. Yeah. I'm also working on Kenya. Feel the love tonight. You know, I have a weird hidden talent that nobody I've never been able to find anybody that has this. And this is true. I'm to think of YouTube video on the internet, not by double jointed pinkie toe on my left foot. Double jointed penis. I never needed to know that it's moving these weird motions shown it to people. And everyone's always like, oh, that's easy. I can do it. But I've never found somebody that can do what I can do with my pinkie toe. Okay. You are so fucked that you just said that because now in this episode comes out, I'm gonna make you do an Instagram story of you with your double jointed pinkie till the promos going to highlight the to- ability. We can we put the toe on an Instagram pitcher. That's a great idea like dune aesthetic with it like maybe like a pink border, like glitter gap. I'm loving you loving it because you want the tag. All right. Let's stay on track. What question do you wish? People would stop asking you. How bloggers make money? What is something you know, that no one else knows? I like alone time, and I like to be silent. Like, I could go silent for days, which no one would know that you know, that I would love if you would you don't get to how do you describe yourself? In three words intense. Relentless does because of the Tim Grover episode and curious now described this getting confidential in three words inclusive cheeky and non-judgmental heels or flats both heels are definitely like a tall tall tall towering over Michael. Nicole Kidman, Tom Cruise circa nineteen Ninety-three YSL heel boot. And then for a flat. I love white Todd's. I love white Rossi's. And I love white tennis shoes. What is the worst fashion trend of all time? I don't know if you're going to remember this because you might not have been before my time before your time. I like or I hate those pendulum skirts. Do you know what I'm talking about? No, they like, they they're like a skirt and they pendulum out at the hips. I have seen those. Yeah. And like, I'm not if you're wearing a pendulum skirt right now. Like, I'm sure it looks good on you. But for me, I know maybe not like probably not a pendulum skirt. And then I also don't love those bandage her. As dresses that everyone was wearing like five years ago. Like all the housewives was wearing on. You know what I mean? They're like the thick. God are you that young? I didn't watch housewives a couple years ago. I just started you need to catch up. What is your number? One must have BB product come on Mimi. This is so hard. I'm gonna do three really quick the Langley that don't you say it Langley. I wanna say it's Lullin what I would say nothing like I just announced it let mask it's awesome for lip gloss. A really really obsessed with the oil free high Laurent ick. Dr Dennis moisturizer? And then I'm loving elements is SuperFood missed in the morning wakes me the fuck up. What did you wanna be? When you grew up. I wanted to be actually this is really weird. I told you this the other day we were just talking about this. I used to scrap book when I was little which is so funny because essentially MS crop Booker now, it's just online. So I wanted to be I could always knew I wanted to be something in branding. I left branding. What is the? Most American phrase you've ever heard I saw it on your instrument captioned, the other guy what you were like, my salt. Lamp gets my shock Ryan and order or something along those lines. Everything I say on and the skinny was like the most American what is your spirit animal? Ooh, I want to say a Flamingo because it's pink, and it's working. But if I'm really honest with myself, you're gonna say a crow I mean that's on spot on for me meeting. Lots of squawking bird like also to actually a bird, Bert will crows a bird. I think flamingos a bird. I'd like to something a little more romantic, and like like sultry, you know, your voice has such a range like a crow, you know. What about a mermaid my grandpa used e crow? Oh, K explains. What is your biggest fear? My biggest fear is when someone eats apples in front of me. And like crunches them. I can't deal with that. Like AS Amar. That's is yatzik sensory or whatever that is. I can't you with that. When someone scratches things weird or Michael's China on a think about it like, you know, how impounds around in the morning, and it's like deep size and he's like shit. Oh, I forgot my water bottle downstairs, Lauren. Whereas my, where's, where's where's my pants? Another fear. Just like being real another year is probably gilts. I've talked about this a lot on the podcast. So that's another fear. Can you do any impressions? Again. You want me to sing? No. I would like you to do an impression of my aunt. Yes. My aunt house. Like aunt is amazing. She's so funny. I feel like you need to know her. But I'm really good at the impression. It's amazing. So I if I haven't seen her in a while, she's like smooth. Did you browse done, sweetie? All I've never seen such beautiful eyebrow. So did you wanna go grab a the in Rita half from assault simulating? So I love my aunt somewhat. She's so pretty okay? Are you enjoying interview? Yes. What advice would you give to your eighteen year old self? I say this all the time but get off the bar and take that fucking playboy bunny sticker off your hip and get out of the tanning bed. What is the best in tap to you this year spending time with my nephew docks becoming a God mom of cocoa and really saying no to things to create space in my life. So I can scale my business. You're an overachiever you always give three answers. Sorry. I can't help it. What is the best thing that happened to you this month our office space? We got the TSE office space, which is going to be like Barbie pink dreamland. Finally, I don't have to work out of your kitchen anymore. Crimea river, the best Halloween costume you've ever worn one time fashion. Lushan I this is like when we were twenty one. We're flowers, so fashion. Lash was air. Cal caller was a sunflower, and I was a rose. And I just thought it was really creative costume the way. We did it. I have a photo of it somewhere. Maybe I'll post it. What is your favorite holiday? All right before we get to the rest of the questions, I want to talk to you about cured nutrition. So I've talked you guys about this on the podcast before. And if you're stressed or you have bad sleep like I did or you're dealing with inflammation. You have to check out your nutrition. So basically it straight out of Boulder, Colorado. And it's this organic heme derived CBD product company, they really have it figured out. These products can be implemented straighten your wellness routine. So what they're gonna do is improve your sleep. They've really helped improve my sleep decrease stress, and inflammation, Michael is a huge fan of cured Zan. It's this nighttime calming supplement and helps with relaxation and sleep which I'm also a huge fan. Of I used to go to bed at two AM. I'm not even joking and the implementation of CBD in to my wellness routine is made such a big difference. So what I do is. I get in bed around nine thirty. I like to make a Cup of freshman t so I do tons of mint from the farmers market in a hot Cup of water with lemon. And then I add the peppermint CBD drops to my t and you guys it is so good. I have the best sleep ever. And now I am up ready to go at like six o'clock in the morning, which is so weird for me to say because they used to be one of those people that would sleep until eight and getting bad at to him, which is crazy like I said, so if you're a little anxious before bed, and you need to calm down CBD is such a better option. It's even a better option than alcohol. I feel like, you know, it's natural you get quality sleep. And these supplements are going to give you some really really deep REM sleep, which is what we want. So to try my personal favourite and the Kurds. Then Michael likes that one to cure nutrition dot com slash skinny and enter promo code skinny for fifteen percent off again, that's cured nutrition dot com slash skinny and enter promo code skinny for fifteen percent off your entire order. As always linked this offer in the show notes. And definitely pick up the peppermint CBD. It's so good. Probably my birthday a holiday. No, my favorite holiday is Valentine's Day because I get spoiled, and I love that once an obvious answer. What do you want me to say what's your favorite holiday president's day because nobody celebrates you can get left alone. What's yours? Honestly, I don't know if I have a favorite holiday, honest. I know it's kind of a lame answer. Really? I feel like it'd be Saint Patrick's Day for some reason like it would be off the cuff like some holiday that. No one celebrates some weird creepy. Honestly, I can't even want to lie any holiday that. It onto work is always great. Agreed. What is the best surprise? You've ever had when Michael recreated our wedding in Kabul. We went down after we'd been married for a year and he hired someone to recreate our wedding. And I thought it was so cute because it was extravagant. But then the cutest thing was is he had this little tiny speaker was like the little value on you know, what I'm talking about. And he pulled it out, and he hooked his Frank Sinatra to this tiny speaker, and it was really sweet. And then he put on boss Nova. Sometimes he's cute. Did you know that that I was the one that actually came up with that idea? No. You didn't like my promise you he was gonna make up for the wedding. Do I don't know what to do? And I said this is this is what you should really do. I said you should go down there. You could recreate it. Wait. If he was my idea on if you were going to recreate my wedding than you would have been on the strip poll with running down your. Okay. I'll do everything. But that okay. What about when you told me that I was the beast and Michael was beauty came out. Because I was talking about the cost. What is your least favorite food a hate dill camp deal dill? It's it tastes like you're eating grass. You know what I mean? And I'll do anything for beauty, but I'm not adult Verson. So you don't want to cucumber sandwich at Claridge's. I do like that. It doesn't Lenny batch. Sorry. I'm sure you love cucumber sent which we know you do Taylor. NC X. Okay. It's four AM on Saturday. What do you eat four AM like I'm drunk? I mean, I would assume you know, or thoroughly morning if we're doing drunk moment Mamiit, I love Annie's Knockin cheese. Let's so good with like a ton of lemon a little chilly flake. And if we're going hard at four AM like vine onto chilled glass who say absolutely, you know, I'd also love someone that Jenny's ice cream. Maybe some flaming hot Cheetos, you know, maybe a whole thing of Shuto. We know what Taylor would like he loves weird random chip flavors. The Hawaiian I'm surprised this. So tame I was gonna say late night ate tacos from Jack in the box and you'll poppers and curly fries. Oh, no. That's not what I do. French fries tuition. I would do a French fries, which I love happy meal. Just cheese in me nothing else with a small side of fries like the kid size. So I don't eat too much. And then a diet coke. You have to have the coke. You have to have the diet coke. There's something about the straw. And the Cup. Sometimes people say that they go to in and out and then go to McDonald's just for their coq hundred percent. What is your last meal on her and having a hundred things I know you get one? Oh, I only get one. Yeah. You have to pick my last meal on earth is one hundred percent ship salsa guacamole, spicy salsa. Exercise jalapeno skinny Margarita. Half Rome assault. I'm going have from because I don't want to go out bloated. Yeah. And you got to think about your coffin situation hundred percent had like a Matt white coffee at touches like neon pink. I'm taking notes keel, who is your fashion icon. I know this one Victoria Beckham love, Victoria Beckham. But you know, who my real fashion icon is I do Pat from southern charm. Oh, that's not what I was going to fat from southern charm wrote, a book called the art of southern charm, and she I wanna die and comeback is her. She gets it. She so specific I took so many notes from that book. It's scary. What are three things you cannot live without I'd love forty ounce. Hydro flask. With lemon and mint water in it, maybe some slices of ginger definitely iced definitely would like sunscreen. Can't be getting wrinkled can't be getting wrinkle. The I'm going to go with sunscreen in like just out of a hat and there as like an extra half. Yeah. Probably facial manipulation or much walla's. We're not counting Shula's though. Yeah. I don't think we should count living things. So probably facial manipulation. Who would you want to have coffee with if you can have coffee with anyone alive or dead, Pat from southern charm like the while there's so many people I'd want to have coffee with living or dead her logger 'field, Tim Ferriss? Oh, I know Tony soprano James Gandolfini. I love him or than life itself. My grandma song. All who referred that Taylor was shot. I got my wedding. I don't know if she spoke English, I dunno planet. You thought it was a good idea to go to strip club on my wedding. But there we were I sat one out just to set the record straight. I threw banana in your face. I was being beaten with a banana. She the best part was there was a key on the ground. And you were so pissed off that you squish the Kiwi. With your bare foot. I wanted drama. It's burned into my mind. Thank you. And it's my wedding who should everyone be following right now. Everyone should be following Heather McMahon. She spontaneous Faulk, everyone should be following Taylor struck her. I like our lot. She's a cool chick. Everyone should be following Pat from southern charm. What about someone I like, Robert Greene? He posts a great quotes. It's inspirational Robert Greene is insane. It's official Robert Greene or Robert Greene official. And then I think everyone should follow the daily stoic, or it's I think it's daily stoic actually in something. I read every morning have you ever had anything stolen from you? Well, this is fitting, isn't it? Did you pick this question on purpose? This was before the incident. Okay. I have had so many things stolen from me. Like we can go back to when I had roommates. When I was twenty one years old. And I had all my mother's, jewelry stolen. I had. Five thousand dollars worth of stuff taken out of my room. And then I had stuff stolen all the time. I mean, my car's been broken into the works. But recently, Maya sustain Emily just had her car broken into in these stole my huge brand new garment bag with a bunch of clothes in it. So I'm for some reason people's have stolen from me. A lot core you hear favorite country to visit south of France a country you wish to visit. I'm actually going to go back and also say stod, Switzerland. Okay. Okay. Stock Switzerland in the winter in south France in the summer a country wished to visit Russia. Favorite disney. Character you want a Bob's? I've got plenty. That's a song. That's not here entering. No big deal. I one. A lot of singing in this episode. One hundred percent knew that was coming. So is that Ari L is at your answer. I think it's aerial favorite Disney. Character is yeah area. You know? Can I say, I know that's basic bitch. But I've always wanted to brush my hair with a fork. And I feel like if I was a Disney character. I would have all those specifics like underwater, I've always seen any more of a grumpy from sweeping baby. Yes. Yes. Only in the morning. What are you most excited about right now? I'm most excited about continuing to scale the skinny confidential and build the community in a meaningful way. What is your favorite movie? What's that one movie with Cameron Diaz that really narrows down? Why can we think of the name hold on? Let me get the song the best movie. She's ever. What is it the the mask? I remember when as a young kid when she comes out, and she's in that red dress. And she's she was looking hot rain. So Taylor put on the sweetest thing. The Pena song, I'll put it on Sam, not even certain sweet this. Hey, what's your favorite movie? Honestly, I have so many favorite movies that we could I could get such a hard question. What's my favorite? Okay. And the much move on. Aliens aliens is your favorite movie. Of course, it has James Cameron mazing. Wait, what's like, my favorite movie? This is a good question. Probably. I love the godfather I like mob movies. This is sweetest thing was my favorite movie when I was little and now we're gonna move onto the godfather concerning I like crime mob movies movies about drugs in criminals, if your life was a song. What would the title be what's up Frank Sinatra song? It's like isn't. It not what it seems. There's something ago. I don't remember. I don't know L ain't that a kick in the ass or something. I don't know d you gotta Google. You're not yourself. Yeah. I'm not probably my song would be called. I don't ask for much best gift you've ever received best gift I've ever received is one time someone that works for me made paper dolls of me, and Michael, and I just thought it was so sweet because every single detail was drawn out. He had everything from, you know, the color of my shoes to my nail polish to what airings I wear and Michael is all you know, pimped out in his leather jacket with Hawaiian top. It was just very thoughtful. And sweet George. Judge. I love you another sweet gift that I haven't received yet is her Mimi that I'm waiting on. What is it? My bergdorfs. Oh, there's a little cartoon comic at bergdorfs that I've been really wanting. And the girl is wearing a huge for coat and she's in bergdorfs. And she said, I got it by saying Berber outside bergdorfs. And I've told me me I want this. And she hasn't gotten it for me. Well, let's make a deal next time. We go to New York, you can take me to lunch if our door panel get it for you. You can't buy it. No. But I'll take a picture of it in Photoshop it. We've been waiting for that. I see the photo. I took of it isn't good. I have to redo it. My barefoot dreams blanket. That Gillian got me was good one to really wish I could have lunch at bergdorfs. What is your most used emoji the cart wheel the first thing you thought of this morning when you woke up light movement hydration? That's the first thing. I think I think those words when I wake up because I'm media like to get light. I like to get my water in to do my meditation in I liked to move if you could solve a mystery. What would it be? I've always wanted to have a murder mystery dinner like clue Michael this is a great surprise birthday for me. And I want to be like MRs peacock with the lead pipe in the billiard room. What is Michael's worst habit? So many who the liberal let's do a couple. Okay. I'm an edgy three three and Taylor. You can do ten mumbling. Oh, yeah. It's bad saying shit. And let me give you guys an example of how he says it everything silent, right? Shit. That's exactly I think the world's ending the family's been murdered. No. He just remembered that he had a call at eleven and it's eleven to one another bad habit. Is he likes to drink water in the shower? So that's fucking weird. No, it's not what he's in the shower. Drinking water bottle or he's drinking from the shout in and now he's drink hot water in the shower every morning, I could have gone either way. Yeah. So he leaves the bottle in the shower. And so every morning there's like five bottles in the shower. Sometimes I feel like he drinks his protein shakes in there or something because I go in there and then take a protein shake. That's you get separate bathrooms. What do you think is about habits are I I'm trying to think there's so many, oh when I used to stay your guys this house and the dogs would wake me up at six o'clock in the morning, and I would open my I one bit and he'd be like well like where those podcasts assets. And that was the first thing I'd wake up to. I agree. That's not. He does that to you to killer Taylor. What else go on? I'm pouring. My wife would say on the worst is that he he wakes up super early. And then he holds it above everyone's head. Yeah. Waking up right now. I've been up since five, and I went did this, and I did this. I went and ran I answered all my emails. It's like, okay. I get it. But it's not super late. I feel like we should get him a gift for Christmas and all pitch on it. And it should be like a plaque. That says I wake up at five as if we could ever forget, you just drug him with some Xanax or something. So he sleeps in and wakes up at one o'clock and then for one time in our life. We could all go. Wow, you're still sleeping. Yeah. We do that. We do drag 'em. We told him that the CBD pen was just CD, and he was taking it every night. It has a hint of and. Yeah, a little -lica- vet little before we get into that. I want to tell you guys about fabrics. I have been talking about politics so much on my Instagram story. And I posted my favorite hot pink bra that they have the other day, and you guys loved it. I was messaging a bunch of you about it. 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I feel like you'd be like Snuffle off a against or something. I'd love to be Batman actually, wouldn't that? Be fun. Yeah. That would be fun. If you were not in this career. What would you be doing? I would one hundred percent be a branding expert, a branding consultant. I guess is the better word, I would love to consult people who are interested in outsourcing, their branding. It's one of my favorite things about my job right now. But I don't get to do it enough. Who do you go to for advice? I go to my dad always go to my dad because I like that my dad's an outside perspective, and he has wisdom. Wisdom is the best example that I could say we're waiting time. He actually gives advice. Yeah. He is. Really good advice. He also he reminds me always to have humility check my ego and. He's compassionate and empathetic, but also smart with business, and I go to Michael too a lot. I go to you. Come to me. Really, what do you remember? For saving tips have come to. Yeah. Like when I wanna know how not to get razor burn it onto you. Yeah. You mean how to get ready to get raising? What is the best advice you've ever received be you do you put your blinders on stay in your lane? Don't listen to what everyone wants you to do or be mine was to take a motion out of things and be more logical from Michael. Are you kidding? I tell you that to my listen to him more though. Really? Yeah. I don't know. What it is. You tell me things and I don't listen. And then he tells me and I listen about oh annoying. Yeah. Sorry, you practice stoicism now though because of us I do say, that's Michael it's true. Lauren actually convinced me because Michael gifted me the book, and she said you need to read it. Did you see the note in the book? Yeah. It was so sweet. I know you missed the no I had never noticed because it's been my storage unit. But I just got the book out, and I love it. It's a really sweet daily stoic by Ryan holiday one pager day start on the date you start. So if you start March third start March third, actually, what you had said to me is you it said, I don't know why you're not. Reading it. It makes us really disappointed that you don't want to better yourself. I didn't say that. You did. Yes. You yesterday disappointed. I said Michael's bummed because he gave everyone that gift in his family and my family for Christmas. And he wants everyone to read it when have you been starstruck Oprah, I met Oprah Chakothi's totally star struck. What are you scared of losing people around me or my phone? Or my dogs. You've never lost your phone though. What are you talking about? Never like for good. We've never had to buy the new one Twenty-one. I lost my phone seriously forty times. Well, that was ancient historians everything that was in the stone age. All right. You weren't born. I was literally three. What is the biggest moment of your career? So far. I don't have one moment that there's never been an epiphany. I think for me, it's just been slow steady strategic Brinson, repeat growth. I mean writing a book was really cool. The book launch was awesome. However, like, there's so many steps to get there that it didn't feel like this huge thing. So I would say the biggest thing has been just being able to meet the people that have supported the skinny confidential in person at once. So like when we do meet ups in there was like five hundred people that showed up that was amazing to me. And so cool. What is the most awkward situation you've ever been in Taylor? Let's just insert a couple of clips from your site at the wedding. That's what we'll do there. I don't even know if visit audio even still exist, and you can pull it. So hopefully, it'll be on here. I have tried to try to find some even remotely like Lauren. Awesome never ever anybody. Everybody should always try to drive their life for trying to find a girl like Lauren because I actually think she's an awesome bureau. Michael. I shutting it here. And I was like well, okay. He's he's pointed together tonight. Like, he's he's he's got it. He's doing a good job. Certain. I'll get actually and then the second part of the speech happened. Let me suck down. We still. We're supposed to please. How tell us there. My goal. Okay. Thorns cake is much bigger than a six point five. That's a big. My dig is gonna wanna get. It's funny because she asking for Lear Disney Princess, she asked what look like I figured it out. I know setting what it is the beauty. She's the beast. That's next. What do you regret spending too much or too little on? I would say not spending enough on your skin when you're younger, although your skin, it's fine. No, I wish spent more money on my skin when it was like five. Yeah. Spending too much spending too much mine would be food and post mates spend too much on post mates. Can you spend too much money skin? If you like that's not even know what we said, we always want to spend more money on skin and less money on oppose makes Newburgh. However, I do spend money on my time. And I don't regret that at all. So and post meets is time. So it's all in the way, you look at it. Yeah. What negative experience made you better my sister's drug addiction, my mom's death any breakup that I've had any failures that. I've had I think every single thing that's ever happened. Happened in quotes to me. That's negative has made me better. Do you have any pet names for Michael? Yeah. Call him pop. I home pop all the time. We also call the dog. Pop and Papa and one time. I was talking to the dog. I'm like Papa and Michael. As a little creepy. And when we were little I would call him mini me. What is the greatest thing Michael has ever taught you he's told me so much. He's Michael has really taught me how to fully go after my full potential in life. Always pushing me to be better to be the best version of myself and in a teammate and partner. That's what I want is someone that pushes me to go harder to go better to do better. What is your favorite color? No one has any idea or be pink, minus white. Okay. What is your favorite flavor of ice cream of anything? I love mint chocolate chip ice cream. I also love dark almond chocolate. And then I really just like the flavor of Margarita. It's done. Right diamonds. Pearls diamonds. How do you get dressed in the morning? Do you put on socks then leggings like what's the order? Definitely underwear. Leggings bra walk around in that for five minutes top. And then peds when I'm walking out the door sometimes in the elevator. What is one question you wish people would ask you more? I wish people when I interviewed would really go into the depths of one. I was bartender like really get there with me instead of just glazing over the story. I wish they would really go back, and we could go through it and talk about tangible steps that I took when I was a bartender living at my parents house broke I would like to go back in like really get into that. Because I think there's a lot of people that are hustlers that are in the restaurant industry an industry in want to change into a different industry. I think there's a lot of value there. If you could have superpower, what would it be to control time? My superpower would be to control time. What a coffee cut, I the pin care now this. I would like to control time because time to me is is the most important thing in my life, and my business time a lot of you guys don't know this. But Lauren copies me on a lot of thing. Do I just copied her update? I can tell but I can also teleport to different time periods. So I could go back in time. If I wanted to could go back to the strip club. So basically, everyone here just copied what I said. Yeah. What age were you the happiest now could answer. I don't I don't look back. Like, I don't do that. I don't live in the pastor nostalgic. I think I'm happy at all ages. I think happiness is choice. What is the definition of misery not being able to create your future? That would drive me nuts. I know that I have the power to design my life and having that freedom of being able to wake up and beat the tune of my own drum would drive me nuts. If you could teach any subject, what would it be entrepreneurship or branding? Okay. Here's the last question. What is one thing and Michael's closet? You throw away. Oh, one thing we gave Michaels things away secretly very often slowly go slowly like one time, we showed up and my brother was wearing Michael sunglasses. And he's like where did you get those miles hide that I sent them two miles in the mail, and he wasn't supposed to show. Michael. I'm like you look like the three bind mice in. This is Michael you don't need to be wearing that. You know, what I mean right now, I'd really like to get away. These aqua- sock city has he has them an eighteen colors and they're just not flattering on the foot. I'm serious. I think I was wearing a pair of his old boots the other day to oh my God if things away slowly like it's a slow strategic giveaway. I would definitely get rid of all of his fidora's like all of them should go. Why does he have fedora? He's never worn it for door. Listen, no hate on anyone that likes the fedora, but fidora's on Michael aren't cutting. It has had his way too small fats Harris a helmet. He's got a new haircut. It's working. All right. That's it. Thank you guys for listening to my seventy three questions if you guys like this. Maybe we'll do another seventy three questions or we turn the tables on Michael company through questions. Maybe you do this with Michael. I could. Yeah. That'd be you. Gotta give him like different questions. But some of the same ones I like to compare the answers. Yeah. 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Bye-Bye Savings Bonds and Hello Modern Savings for Kids with Mimi Chan

Millennial Money

39:47 min | 2 years ago

Bye-Bye Savings Bonds and Hello Modern Savings for Kids with Mimi Chan

"We are generation of experiences. You can take your stuff, but gives us our memories and our experiences that are gonna last for a lifetime. The stuff that we can sink our teeth into we can go back to you over and over again for also generation of innovation and technology and our podcast guests today Meany Chan from little funds. She decided one day, you know, what I'm gonna throw out the old school savings bond idea from our grandparents, I mean, do we even know what savings bonds are anymore? And she wanted to bring innovation and simplicity to gift-giving for kids of the future. I'm Shana Compton game. This is Montiel Omani. And today, we're saying we can we have Bye-bye to savings bonds of the past and say Hello to modern savings for kids with meaning Chan. Millennial money with Sean. It will expand your brain. So I've had an interesting couple of weeks. I hoping that yours have been much better than mine have been I woke up a couple Saturdays ago, and I could not hear anything through my left ear like nothing. It was just like someone had come and flipped a switch and the entire left side of my head had been turned off. It's the most bizarre surreal unexplainable feeling to not be able to hear through one ear. So the last few weeks have been doctor's appointments, doctors appointments to try and figure out won the world might possibly be wrong with me, and we haven't figured out anything yet. I have a flu shot a couple of days before we don't know if it has something to do with that or crossing all my fingers and hoping it's not something more serious. So if you're the praying type or the good wishes type of person, I would love for you to send any positively my way while I'm trying to figure this out. And trying to run a business. And of course, trying to continue to bring you amazing podcast content. It's a little interesting to do interviews with one ear. I must say it's a little interesting to podcast hearing through one ear, but we're doing we're making the best of it. I'm adjusting now to this new very strange sense of normal that I have and hoping and praying, of course, that one day my ear decides to just magically open and all a sudden Mike and here again, and I have perfect balance and life goes back to how it was before. But if it doesn't I've decided that I'm going to use this experience to push myself to push myself to really define what I want to focus on and also to focus better to drown out the ferry strange noise that is coming through my left ear that sounds like a mix between a high pitch noise. And also. Static on the TV to use that to my advantage to be hyper focused, so I had a really really fascinating couple of weeks. But you know, what we're here we're doing we're podcasting. And I thank you for tuning in and listening, and like I said before we have amazing content coming at you in the next few weeks all the way through the new year. We have an incredible challenge coming to you in the beginning of the new year. So I'm excited for all of that. That is that is coming ahead. So today's episode was inspired by an ask Shawna question. And this one was sent in by Derrick Derrick says, hey, Shawna, love the podcast, and I've been listening for a while. Now, honestly, I tend not like to think or talk about money before I started listening, and now I go around quoting episodes and throwing out what I learned to all my friends. They're probably a little annoyed by now. But I think I'm helping a lot of people. Thank you for opening up. My thinking about money it helped me in. My partner a ton and we had a baby this year. So now, I'm thinking about everything so differently. I really wanted to give my daughter a cool gift for the holidays. But I don't want to buy the same old stuff. I want to give her something for the future something that will impact her. Do you have any ideas other than contributing to a five twenty nine plan which were already doing? We'd love for grandparents and anybody else to be able to gift easily as well to or for her future gray question, Derek, and I'm so excited that now you're excited to think and talk about money that is the ultimate goal. I have for this podcast if nothing else it's just for you to have a positive relationship around money to be thinking about money differently, and hopefully to inspire people around you to do the same as well to not be mired in the stress and the fear on the shame the guilt and all those negative emotions. But to really see how you could empower yourself, and you can take these small little steps and really big changes start happening. Your finances and your goals and your life. And this is not just stuff like I'm blowing out at you. This is stuff that has impacted me that has changed my life. So I know if it's changed my life, it certainly can hopefully change somebody else's life. But this is a great question. I think about this all the time when I'm giving gifts to friends who have kids I'm trying to think of what is something different. I can do where I'm not just giving them a toy or a new place at or something, you know, close or something that is not going to be useful for them in a while. How can I give them something really positive for their future? And there are lots of things you can do. I think it depends on what your goal is for savings and funding goals in the future. How you want to use your gift there's everything from life insurance to of course, you mentioned five twenty nine giving you can even give stock. There's a company called stockpile where you can give fractional shares of stock to a child or really to anyone. That's kind of interesting gift all make sure and put a link in the show notes. And then there's everything from giving gifts like little fund and our podcast guests today. Maybe chan. Mimi had a child and she's a millennial. And she thought, you know, I wanna give my child experience. I want to give them something really powerful. But there were many options out there for give getting in a really easy technology savvy innovative way, and so she thought well, why not just change it? Why not just throw out the old school savings bond way of giving savings gifts to children and come up with something that is more innovative and that will meet the goals? And so that's what inspired her to start little fun, which is just it's a financial gifting platform that makes it easy for family and friends to give savings towards goals and dreams for your children. It's that simple. It doesn't have to be revolutionary. But it's a way to give gifts that I think is really powerful. So Derek you might check out little fund as well. And anybody else who's looking for a unique gift giving option? I. I think that this is such a powerful way. I know there's already four or five different kids of friends that I have thought of okay. This is a powerful way to give gifts for the holidays. And it's something that's going to positively impact their future. And how cool would it be? I mean, you probably don't think it's cool now on your kid, but how cool with it be if when you turn twenty or you graduated college or he turned three I don't care what the ages. Suddenly you found this pot of money and with this pot of money. You could do lots of things you could start a business you could travel abroad, you could pay off debt you could put it towards your down payment on your home. I mean, I don't know about you. But I would have loved to have something like that. All right. Maybe I'm so excited to have you on the podcast today. And I understand this is your first podcast ever. So welcome here. Thanks for having me. I'm excited to be here with you. Hopefully, we'll we'll make this good. Podcast experience for you. I always whenever I have a podcast virgin, I know can be a little intimidated. But but I love having conversations. And so I think this is just such a great topic. I can't wait to to talk about this. I'm excited to also talk about it. And I just think that it's something that moves we talked about to thank you again. Absolutely. You know, I think what really caught me is for thinking about like our grandparents they used to use savings bonds. And I think millennials now are might even be thinking what is the savings bond. We we don't use those anymore, or you might have some old ones that maybe grandparent gave us, but that was certainly kind of like the old school way of of giving gifts and saving money for the future. But I know you started little fund really to bring innovation and technology to children's gift-giving and build a whole new system of gift giving so we can have strong, financial futures. I'd love to start out with, you know, why do you think gift getting needed this evolution or for starters? Exactly what she said, you know, savings bonds or no longer supported it's kind of funny. That was actually my first introduction. Shen to the gift of savings for someone other than you know, my own parents talking about money in the house it with things that I will never forget I received a savings bond from my Foale, I Wanda citizenship award in first grade, and they presented me with hundred dollar savings barn. And I just remember how cool that felt in off. And I was I was in first grade crazy. I was in first grade. I remember how that felt didn't really understand what it was. But I just knew that. This was something that was gifted to me. And it was that the people my school, and the teachers that were surrounding me telling me that hey, we believe in you. We believe in the future for you. And we know that you're gonna make it college one day. That's what we hope that you'll use this were and so for now, this is gonna stay very safely for you in till you're ready. So that that. Simple behind that. Now, looking back is about this this this potential that someone else was investing in me. And so in building rural funds that was really like, you know, that was kind of like part of the inspiration. As to what I wanted to do is to be able to find a modern way to like to share the installation of what a gift could mean. And and and because you know, gifted off the way to show up an appreciation. It's it's a symbol in that the bond, but it has changed the the wake if being has changed that today. It's become more stuff in the sentiment. So really I wanted to call us back to what you know, the gift really is meant to be an how we could like continue to get in a way that is inspiring as a savings, blah and children. And really why we need at this red. You know, the. New evolution of gift giving list because there's this whole new set of. All the radios that are becoming parents. There's actually a verse sixty million about becoming new parents. And you know, we've kind of been burned from a past taking on financial burden that have now for stuff to think about what it is that we want to you know, to four children and how don't want history to repeat itself. Do want to think about building all natural foundation as early as possible that includes not only the money, we're setting aside. But really how do we build in the financial this capability for children to one day manage that futures Senate stuff, and there's no real clear answer to that. And that's what I figured out when I became a parent. Like there was no real clear answer to that. There was this. What walks up people call the savings account, which you know, now days, we don't even go to our banks anymore. So how? How were we going to basically instilled this idea of modern a weirdness to our children into set them on the right path, and it was really more. And I thought as a problem with more helping parents do that so that they could help their children because it's an overwhelming type of of thing to think about so along with that many of the families find your two options today are integrated the restrictive or their Crump located. You know, there it that causes delayed or inaction by parents in savings bonds in longer supported which used to be the easiest way to give that gift of savings auctions. Julia. And that's where a little fun steps in. We wanna take the worry out of, you know, a lot of the things that I just mentioned we are doing it with our savings oriented gifts to get parents started on this past Leslie, we wanna make some money talk friendly and very real every family, and we do this by combining. King behavioral economics along with the recent technological innovation in banking finance. And and and also doing it again, you know, different mass massive cultural shift away from hyper consumerism, really aligned all three of those things into a product. That is what little fund is is a gifting puff one for a family and friends to give the gift of saving. You know? What's not so smart hoping you're going to win the lottery? So you stop saving for retirement. And it's probably also not so smart to let your friends pick your karaoke song. I'm just saying, well, we were looking to hire someone millennial money. We had no idea where to look to find good candidates for the job. And we ended up wasting a ton of time. And we didn't find a good employees after all that time. That's also not so smart. But you know, what is smart going to ZipRecruiter dot com slash my money to hire the right person. Ziprecruiter doesn't. Depend on candidates finding you. It finds them for you. It's powerful matching technology scans through thousands of resumes identifies people with the right skills education and experience for your job. And then actively invites them to apply. So you get qualified candidates fast. That's why ZipRecruiter is rated number one by employers in the US the rating system comes from hiring sites on trust pilot with over a thousand reviews and right now, my listeners can try ZipRecruiter for free at this exclusive web address ZipRecruiter dot com slash my money. That's ZipRecruiter dot com slash of my money. Supercrew is seriously, the smartest way to hire. So I remember so clearly walking into day two of my job at a mortgage company, and my boss said okay, now, you're charge of all of our Email marketing and the Email marketing for the rest of our real estate partners. I was like what tied no idea even where to begin. And I had quite a freak out moment. And we're all bound to face these unexpected hurdles at work, and I know you can relate. But you don't have to let finding the right software be one of them with two thousand nine hundred. Yes, can you actually believe it two thousand nineteen fast approaching you don't have time for these unexpected hurdles to derail you in your career? You can find the software you need fast. With capterra's new free book, the big book of free software, which you can download for free at capterra dot com slash my money. So what does capterra will? Capterra dot com is the free resource to help you find the software you need for your business. I mean, they have everything with helpful information on over three hundred different software tools. They're big book. A free software help you. Find completely free tool to test today, and yes, it's absolutely free. So you won't have to ask your boss for a penny ordering your business account. Whether you're looking for a new project management tool recruiting software or Email marketing solution like I was. Was capterra's big book. A free software has something for you. Visit capterra dot com slash money today to get your free copy of the big book of free software. That's capterra. C A P T E R A dot com slash my money. Capterra dot com slash my money. You said so many great gems in their first off if somebody gave me a savings bond when I was in first grade, I'm not sure I would have the wherewithal to save it for college. So big kudos to you for that. But my mom, my mom took it my mom ticket to her putting it somewhere. But I I never knew where she put it. Yeah. That's good. That's good too. You said, you know, we're not we're not going to the Bank anymore, which is very true. I don't remember the last time I actually went to the Bank. We have mobile check deposit. We can do everything online. And if you look at the the national statistics of saving, we are saving. Either. So I think there's an overall trend of not saving, but I loved the idea because I think it's so powerful anytime I'm thinking of a gift for a friend's child or something like that. I'm always trying to think of what is that unique thing that can do that. Maybe they can't play with right now. But in the future there is something in there that is powerful for their financial future. So I think that that is it's a really innovative concept. And you you talked about millennials, and how Montiel's are really leading this change. What do you think it is about millennials? Is it really just that desire to have these experiences, and then trickling that concept down to children, or what do you think is kind of leading this charge here? Like, I thought there has been this next the ultra shift away from hyper consumerism, but let's take a few stuff back before that too where no we are digital natives. We are used to giving. Money to one another online. That's become very familiar to us. Then we'll kind of opened up those doors for us making it very, easy and friendly to pay back. Ecommerce shopping online has given us the comfortable of making payments to vendors and line. And and then there's things like crowd funding that have also opened up hearts to giving money to strangers. And so this interaction of online money exchange has paved the path for something like little fun to exist. And before you know, before parenthood, there is the the life stage that, you know, many of my friends have either, you know, already been through like myself, which isn't you know, newlyweds stage we were using on many of my friends, including myself were using cash registries. And so again, there's this whole idea of interacting online, and and then using money not only as a way to pay for things. But then now using money as guests, I think that that's really important to think about how the money is. Now socially accepted as it gets. It used to be, you know, this thing of taboo, or eastern countries were gifting money, they as as a guest. But now, it's moved into western culture. It's become the more. It's become something that we are open to. So there's that massive culture ship. And then there's the other piece of that. Which is you know, we are an experience driven. Generation we pride ourselves in the experiences that we too late not on the things that we've seen. Wait. We're seeing a lot of startups popping up around the experience all that are experienced as like, you know, you could even call Airbnb experience face type of quote form. And we that's you know, or or, you know, another word for that would be also like a shared economy we wanting to own and fees who trends that. We're seeing aren't you know, at first we thought that they were trends, but they're really cute. A stay people are okay with not owning their okay with sharing resources, and they're okay with giving money at the easiest way to be able to get that experience. Like you. You know, I will give you the money because what I'm doing what I'm giving money is I'm giving you the resource. And the time in the freedom to think about how you're going to use that money for that special experience that only you know, and only you can figure out that you want to take on like, that's what I wanted to do when I'm giving you this this the funniest you'll contribution that it's about, you know, us now like having a really new perspective around money. And that's what's exciting about, you know, us being in this new generation of values in need and then living that way choosing that lifestyle in wanting to pass onto our children. We don't want to change the way we're living. Well, already living like that. You know, what we're choosing to live or that's how we chosen Switzer now that we're bringing children to this world. We're gonna continue that lifestyle, and it just makes sense. But like, you know, we don't want more Twain's. We'll want more things that could potentially go unused. We actually. Want to do the things that the gift was intended to do which is to help raise our children to be better at anything to be better at either for be better to go to, you know, set of college anything like that we wanna be able to use those resources in a way that will actually be beneficial to our children and to raise them as the leaders that we hope them to be trying to figure out the right way. I want to phrase his question, but you made a really powerful point there and something I talk about a lot on the podcast, which is really redefining what being wealthy means. What what wealth means what it looks like what the stuff we have does that define. Well, does that not define wealth? And for me. It's particularly interesting to look at even the younger millennial generation that really is changing. I think we're almost going backwards a little bit. But in a very progressive way to what wealth. Looks like do you think that this is sort of happened on the whole because of what we saw happen two thousand eight two thousand nine and just the greed and access or do you think there's something else that maybe he's come along as changed that definition? God, I think it is. I think it is. It does have to do with you know, those that financial. That financial burden that we were living through. I mean, I was through it. I was in the real estate industry before I had started from the promise. I you know, I definitely felt the neat. Burn of what had happened, and I follow the crumbling of the real estate industry, and the greed that women to it. So I think that it's really going back to basics like what really matters most like in the end after all of all of, you know, all of the things washed away after all the things that we had accumulated washed away. We realize that, you know, the it wasn't you know, the money that was left. It was it was our friends that was our connections. It was the the memories that we had the experiences that we have those were things that can never be taken away from us. He thinks like that just made us realize what was most important in life. I also just personally no have. I've been through a few a few setbacks from you know, as of. Yeah. A few years ago. My parents, my family home burned down and oh my gosh. Completely completely to the ground. We there was nothing left or no. But, you know, in the end that also made me think, well, what is it that really matters most, you know, you can't take their aren't things that you can, you know, you're not going to be able to take the things degree because we heard that before you're what what really matters notice in the thing that I kept coming back to was, you know, the experience I have even though I didn't have the photos albums in the more of us going to Disneyland or doing any fat, those guests those experiences that my parents had given me or always going to be in my heart. There always going to be my mind, and those were things that I could also pass onto my child. And so that reset that correction in the financial markets. There was also this corruption in our values of millennials and. And also like, you know, where did the Greek good you think at us anywhere. So I definitely think that that played a big part in resetting all of our all of our values and high wear ties ING most importantly, and as parents now that's the naval us to really think about what matters most. And and and this, and I know as a parent, I don't want my child going up with a sense of entitlement. Either know that's probably what led to a lot of the greed and the the pitfalls that we saw in the financial crisis. Its you know, it's going back to basics and knowing what enough is and then also living our lives. So that we rich ourselves with through learning through experience in exploration. That's what we want for our selves. And that's what we want for children. Wow. I mean that is I've only known a few friends who have. I've lived through a childhood home being burnt down or something like that. And that is just an incredible experience in off top of it. You your childhood was very fascinating, you grew up in refugee camp and Philippines. Your parents escaped Vietnam, you moved to the US in Houston, Texas someplace I used to live. I'm curious. I know what part of Houston. I did. I lived in spring, Texas. So on the north side of the city, but I loved my experience in Houston. I my parents moved us from Houston to Los Angeles. And the first day we got here in Los Angeles. I said I wanna go home. I wanna go back. I just there was something about the, Texas, food and charm. And of course, now's in adult. I don't know how I survived the heat of taxes. But it's going to ask you that. I said so you did you actually miss the heat. That's the one thing that prevent one of the biggest hurdle for me in ever thinking about. No could we ever move back to Texas. I just can't get over the seat. It's the heat and the giant cockroaches for me. If anybody who's been to Texas snows, I have horror stories those. But I'm curious if coming from this unique childhood, how is that different culture? How did the influence your own money story is that some of this as well as what you just described that that have led you to to children having a heart for children led you into starting a business like little fun. I I think so you know, I. If I had to think really deep about it. I it it all does start at home like the influence the impact that now your parents or whoever your closest social circle as that impacts that they have on you that influence that they have on your live on forever and growing up. My parents struck three things to my sister. And is they believe that the path to success? Mike was and regardless if you're beginning, the three that three things to focus on what karma a college degree and stayed in buddy. They step is tough all the time. That's not you. Don't forget don't forget to help others need as we have been help focus on your education and save as much as you can because Lenny until freedom is power. And of course, point, you know, they they start saying they're very very young age. And so this was. That they had planted us from very early on. But also the other thing was I thought with my own eyes. I could usually see the impact of these things through my parents have a living example coming to America of Hans had no money. No job. They barely speak the language, but that didn't last long eventually as a family will able to par each of those things, and they raise my sister. I in what I look back as a comfortable upgrade, we had our basics. Socities we have a roof over our heads griping about Texas as they thought amazing public schools, and and my parents lived most of what they earned from their laborious clears my mama Taylor. She's still today. Same thing with my dad, he was simply line worker till this day, he is working for an oil piping company. And through our Bill are bringing was comfortable. There was always understanding. It's like scarcity like where our money came from how hard my parents worked for it. I could yet, you know, they were I didn't get to be involved in some of the things that I wanted to be involved in like row needs or you know, which is the beginning before girl scouts, or my mom wasn't able to show up to PTA of the time. And so I grew up without a sense of entitlement. I knew we had. But I was also with it was never comparison. It was just that. I just knew where we stood and I also knew how hard my parents had worked provide for us and what money meant for us. And when I graduated college think for my parents gave me the biggest gift that they could ever give me which was starting my next chapter wildlife debt-free in addition to that I had already worked three jobs in college to save up enough money for. Myself to be the world, which essentially meant moving off to New York to begin my career. But you know, that that is the gift that I will never forget because it was really foundation. It was like they've built the foundation for me to take this next step and vice and I couldn't have probably done it. A while. If I did if I didn't have you know, that that that head start that edge from them. And and and I will remind you we are in no way, you know, wealthy in terms of like income bracket anything like that. I would say, you know, growing up. It was middle to what we're Bill how class, but somehow my parents just indiscipline were able to save aside enough money for me to go to college. And then afford still that example that lifestyle or that that financial wariness they were able can still in my sister. My for to, you know, be the next chapter. Our lives with the right, skills tackle and financial challenges that have come way. And I think that that's important to like so-called'dock to low funds. That's basically what we're trying to get. We're trying to kind of take extract a lot of the a lot of the skills and the longing that, you know, my parents I to give me which would it or they, you know, did it in a way that I didn't know they were they probably didn't know that they were teaching me, but you know, just kind of extract some of the things like the lake broth pation clamming discipline important role. They were extracting those skilled, and we're putting it into a product this gifting pot form. So that parents when they're using little fun. It's really not just you to it's about living the lifestyle. With your children like helping door children and raising your children in a way that is much more mindful, and that's what's really cool about our community is like worked movies that is fires two separate foundation upwards and onwards like we all want to do this. We all wanna live this more mindful lifestyle. And it's funny that I I say this a lot, but you know, technology typically tries to remove for Shen from anything that she do. And it's like, yes, we, you know, we're we are removing some friction we're removing friction in the utilitarian sense of exchanging money in sending off the gift and make been doing in a way that safe and trackable, but adding which in in terms of like, you know, children not having growing up with such quick access to that money. Also, you know, adding that delayed gratification where they have to kind of think about it. Same for. Parents have to think about a little bit plan with goals, or you know, before they just like stinted or let it burn a hole in their pocket though. That's the friction that. I think it's kind of funny that we are adding back even though we're we're supposed to be an innovative technological company. But that's you know, that's how it's all kind of throw Holden the impact from my upbringing has really mud me on this path that Lau is little funds for sure. Yeah. And walk us through just a little bit. If somebody wants to give gift on little fun. What's the process? How does it work? They're easy. Of course, they said, but through it. So if you want to give a gift to any child on either use their bull fund link or appearance EMA a guardians Email if a child says it yet have a little fun that doesn't stop you from being able to get moose still continue using that gardens Email. And it works like a gift card for them to dean into a new brutal fund on. 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In A Pandemic, Who Knows Where The Time Goes?

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In A Pandemic, Who Knows Where The Time Goes?

"Thank you for listening to on point. We'd like to better understand who is listening. And how you're using podcasts. So please help us out by completing a short anonymous survey at NPR dot org slash podcast survey. That's one word. It takes less than ten minutes and it really helps support the show that's NPR dot org slash podcast survey and thanks from NPR and WB. You are Boston. I'm Meghna Chakrabarti and this is on point to end what days it again. But we turn to Cleveland Ohio News Anchor. Todd meany for help. My boss came to me and he said I have this problem and I think you probably have experienced to. Nobody knows what day it is. Wouldn't it be great just to let the viewers know what day it is now obviously weren't TV news? The beginning of the nukes cast starts off every day with good morning. Today is and it's the day and the date but we wanted to do something a little bit more and we're six our morning show so we'd like to have a little bit of fun sometimes. What Day is it with? Todd Menia Wednesday that was march thirtieth and we went right into April fool's day and everybody thought it was a joke and then we just kept doing it and got great response from it and we said let's keep it going. Welcome back to the big show now time for the most important question of the morning. Yes what is it with todd? Meaning Tuesday but I'm suspicious for me. It started to get a little bit. Stood there guys ready. It's Friday Monday so I said I'll let you let it rest for a couple of days and see what happens in boy people were. Where's what day is it? I don't even know what it is. Was Todd meany okay is? Can we do a wellness check on him? So yes we'll be kicking back into gear role stuck in this shutdown freeform kind of world with no routine. There's dentist appointments. Doctors Appointments and are over. Scheduled lives that we have had for years. Just shut down completely and we're all Kinda wondering what day is it. It's Thursday. Thanks Todd because I wasn't quite sure to be perfectly honest todd. Meany provides vital service to viewers of Fox eight news in Cleveland Ohio. Every and so so many of us are feeling this way. What Day is it? What month is it for that matter? I mean well. Today we are going to talk to take a combined cosmic and cellular approach to answer this question. We will bring together a physicist and neuroscientist to help us understand why the pandemic has so powerfully warped our sense of time and we are going to start with a physicist Carlo. Ravelli joins us from London Ontario. In Canada he is a theoretical physicist and director of the quantum gravity group of the center of Theoretical Physics at Marseille University. He is also author of the beloved two thousand Seventeen Book. The order of time Carla Ravelli. Welcome to on Point Loma. Linda thank you very much for having me. It is an absolute delight to have a chance to talk with you but let me check. I have you as well experienced any any shift in your perception of time or not. Yeah I think so many people you have okay and how? How has that that shift in perception manifested in you? Do things seem to feel as if they're moving more slowly or has time felt accelerated? I I feel privileged. I'm GONNA Beautiful House. I love to stay home and so finally I feel I have time for myself. So time is here. It wasn't there before and I have it in my hands. Okay okay so that. That's that's great news. Help us Let's start with some basics though as a physicist. How do you define what time is? This is a great question. Look if you look at the ranking of the most common nouns in English used in when when we speak the number one word that we use is time in fact among the first five the most five used in English this time year days. So we talk about time all the time anytime. I'm bet precisely because of that. There was an old song that says 'cause 'cause you know. Sometimes words have two meanings were time has many meanings and with tend to confuse everything in a single women. Vague idea time thing that and that's time and there's nothing to say about it but in reality the all sorts of different times. End Your question. What is time has many answers because many times in the time of experience what we feel this thing. We feel is passes. But that's implies memories expectation yesterday today. What I'm doing. How far is how how. How fastest flow at flying? There's something else. That's clock dine Which has nothing to do with me and expectation and in physics. We talk about space and the relativistic nature of time. Clarkston go the same speed so all these time so of course connected to one another but that different different notions okay so about Clark time here. I'm trying to really understand what it is. Because for example this morning I was looking at the National Institute of Standards and their new. I guess a couple of years ago they. They created a new atomic clock. Right a new cesium based client is a fountain of Caesium Atom any Caesium atoms quiver they vibrate and and and it's the. It's the space between those vibrations that is somehow used as a measurement of time right so in in in the physical universe the from one quivering of this caesium atoms to the next. They're not the same thing right. It's things have changed. And is that change what we call time? That's perhaps the most basic meaning of what we call this change so things do change. That's fucked in the end. The simplest understanding what time is is accounting of a change since ever right and what is time time is date night. Date night is accounting of the days. This is traditionally a time and then we go more precise hours seconds nanoseconds. Whatever and the Caesium clock which is something that also needs very rapidly the counter situations end here already if I may. The magic happens about time because you say oh good now. What is time except that? We realize that. This is a very bad approximation. Because if we if you take two of these clocks and move them apart and you bring them back together they have not measured the same time The one who moved to more faster has measure less time. That the one who just stays put and you want the mounting eight measures more time the one who stays down in the valley so we realized a time. It's isn't it what is measured by Glock. That's great what was counting. Something happens but this country depend on where you are so they deal for common. Time is because this difference are not very big so we sort of agree on a common time that it's a good enough approximation about this different counting of block that go right at different places. I'm curious did you ever see the movie? Interstellar professor yes. Of course yes so you know. There's that scene right. Where they they go down to a planet that's close. I guess closer to the event horizon of a black hole and like seven minutes passes for the crew. That's on the surface of the planet but in that same seven-minute the crew member. That was still on board the ship. I think somebody like twenty eight years past for him. Good very good. That's exactly what's the token about any in that same move through remember at the end of the main character comes back to Earth after his treat per outside in the cosmos and he finds his little daughter who is older than him. He's still a middle aged man and his little daughter which at the beginning movies. It's now an old woman older than here. And you know this is not Hollywood fantasy. This is absolutely the way the world works. We're sure about that. In fact consulate for for the movie was keep on was very well known relatives who got novel prize later on. Not Because of the movie because because the go digital wave detection so that's part of the movie the sciences solid. So what does it mean? It means that while the main leave the few years the daughter leave the much longer time every each of us or each clock each physical system has its own proper time and the reason we feel the same in this conversation is GonNa be the same time for you and for me is because the difference is very small but we were near a black hole for a sense of another situation would be much bigger. Well I am not going to let us get bogged down in my quibbles with the plot of interstellar and the insoluble paradoxes. That they throw at us at the end of the movie. But but I but this idea that if our perceptions of events or even the the measurements between events are relatively similar right and so therefore we have the same perceived passage of time. Does that then? In part x begin to explain why it has felt that time is turned into something of an accordion intern in my day to day. Experience that things that seem to be predictable and measurable have been removed and so therefore. I don't really know what time it is a lot of a lot of the time. It's two different things. So He's relation. Relation is this. There isn't a single thing which is fine. That's appoint a there are many things that we call time vaguely relates to one another now clock time. It's pretty much the same for me and for you okay. This difference was talking about the absolutely real but they're negligible between you. However at the time that we feel is not clock time. Definitely we are not clocks. We are much more complicated things. We have neurons than we ever with brain with memories and I think the time we feel is a lot based on emotions and memory. Expectations is more a psychological fact. Which of course is grounded in clock time? It's not unrelated to eat but vaguely related Professor Valley. We will be talking about that neurological time when we come back so stand by for just a moment. We are talking about why. The pandemic seems to have warped our sense of time. We'll be right back. This is on point. This is on point Days a week days a scenes and that is a song that arrived in my inbox yesterday from on point. Listener Peter Marado his original song about how he's feeling about the passage of time and yes every day is a Monday and everyday does indeed feel a week these days and we are talking this hour about why that is why our perception of time seems to have been warped by the CO bid nineteen pandemic and. I'm joined today by Carlo Ravelli. He's a theoretical physicist and a bestselling author author of the order of time and seven brief lessons on physics and a professor. Ravelli I'm going to come back to you with a lot of questions about how time works even if it exists in the at the quantum level but since you did mention about the difference between clock time and And experiential time. I WANNA now turn to Peter all recceive. He joins us from Hanover New Hampshire. He's a professor of psychological and brain sciences at Dartmouth College and Guggenheim Fellow and author of the neural basis of free. Will Peter Welcome two point? Oh great being here. Thanks for having you heard. Professor Ravelli talk about the physicist's view of what time is at the neurological level. How would you define time? Okay well we have to make a distinction between three different sets of things. One is objective reality reality in itself to which we have no access and then we have our consciousness our subjective experience of that and hopefully. Hopefully they're in some correspondents that is reasonable and then on top of that we have our models the narratives about The nature of reality or the nature of ourselves unless talk about subjective time. Yeah please go ahead. Yeah so evolution came up with this consciousness which is basically all we have access to and in our heads. We don't have a caesium atom clock with quivering caesium atoms. All we have is our rate of information processing. We don't have an objective. Kind of clock so we have some kind of counter. That's counting the number of events that goes by and our subjective duration of time or perception of time depends on how much information has been processed per unit objective time. Now why does time seem to slow down? When you're paying attention when your attention you're processing more information per unit objective time to US subjectively feels like time is slowed down. Wait so say that again. So the a rate of information processing has changed. Yes so for example. We did these experiments lab where we tried to get people really bored. We'd show them some events like a little black dot appearing on the screen and then every so often a really weird event would happen face would appear or some other oddball and people who have to judge the duration of that oddball and we found that that oddball had to be on the screen for a much shorter objective duration to feel subjectively the same duration and we infer from that that when people suddenly pay attention the processing more information and the counter in your head says well more information has been happening. Therefore the duration has lasted longer. So there's a a deep connection between our perception of time and paying attention or not paying attention so much of the time we're not paying attention. We're kind of in Zombie mode and time kind of seems to fly by then. Something really shocking happens. Let's we're about to hit the back of a car on an icy road in the time seems to slow down right and it seems from your experiments. You're finding that it takes a very short period of time or a very short perturbation to focus attention. Yeah and I think that this evolved so that we could actually process the world in greater depth when we need to. And so yeah. Sorry it's almost like we have a phobia so are your processes of the world in great depth. And then we have. A periphery now. Why don't we process the whole world with great Acuity in our vision while we'd have to have a a brain the size of a building. We had the sort of compromise solution. Attention is very similar to the phobia. We can move our internal phobia so to speak of processing around and then give greater depth of processing not subjectively when we do that to an event. The event's seems to slow down for us. I see so here. We are though. In an event that is all encompassing and long in duration in terms of how the pandemic has changed the experience of our daily lives. So is it that we are putting extraordinary amounts of attention on all manner of things that we wouldn't before and therefore things feel like they have slowed down will absolutely I mean. I think that we're paying attention to things for which we previously were in kind of script mode. We could just operate according to our automated scripts but now suddenly doorknob might have the virus on it or somebody over there. It's sneezing. We're tending to things much more so than we normally do. And this seems to expand our days and yet we have to make a distinction between time as it is currently experienced in time as it is retrospectively experienced those are two different things so the latter retrospective attention is based upon memory so now when every day seems like a Sunday when we're kind of almost in a spaceship Looking down at the Earth we have no reference point anymore. What Day it is an everyday seems to be basically Sunday. And in retrospect that they seem to merge into a blur. Okay Professor Valley. Let me bring you back in here as a physicist. How do you how do you think through what what a Professor Rick See is talking about? In terms of retrospect even retrospective experience of time. Well my first reaction is that it's absolutely fascinating. What would people saying about about? How'D WE Experienced time enter? It seems to me that ultimately is very similar to what I was saying before. He's standing us that for us. Time is sort of the counting of information that we have that we Process more information time goes at different speeds to say that if we possess less and what was saying before is that is. There's no real time in itself just the counting of things that happened. Like a clock AC- leading or something so lose a time relative to the clock in a different time relative to my brain and I think that's the nature of time. There isn't an apps these in an objective. Outside thing which is time there are things that happen in different ways of canting that gave us different notions. Of what time is. That's the profound flexibility of the notion of time at the quantum level does time even exist. Is it a factor that is is part of your consideration as a as a theoretical physicist old that becomes really the pull me for this? Is the most fascinating part of the story. Because when you when you go to the full blown knowledge of the way the universe will. He's universe work namely relativity in general relativity and quantum mechanics. And you try to bring everything together is not that we have totally clear ideas but we have tentative theories and in this tentative theories kind become so complicated just prefers to forget about it. You don't talk about time in fact in the main equations on which me and many of my colleagues are working in quantum gravity. There's just not time at all the clocks there in your own Things that happen there change as you were saying at the beginning and you can count change but there are so poor so many possible notion of of times because in a sense each little things dancing by itself that is easier to just write the equation that describes the relation of doing this and just forget about any fundamental notion of time so Time does not exist at the fundamental level. Which does not mean. It is an illusion. The time for us is totally real. Very real of course and for clock is very real but there isn't a peripheral time okay. It's making me think I should have stuck with my physics studies because I could have been reached the point where we abandoned tea as a factor in any equate correct. That's correct the basic equation. Which were working there is not. That's so amazing to me but per professor Rick see how does that. It almost sounds. This is a stretch. I will grant both of you in advance that this is a stretch but it almost as if the two of you were talking about the same things from your respective disciplines right that the relative nature of time and so in terms of how it works in our in the context of our neurobiology Peter. It seems that we have this ability to slow unconscious ability to experience a slowing of time. But then there's also the acceleration or even the freezing of time which I think it's one of the reasons why people say there's this thing that happened to me. Twenty years ago I literally remembered it as if it were yesterday. Yes so the probably the most powerful form of memory that we have is called a flash bulb memory and this happens when we pay incredible attention when some very dramatic event happened so for example you know. Where were you on nine eleven? You can probably say the color of the room the people you're with what you are wearing you know. This is an extreme version of what's episode called Episodic Memory and this also is tied up with attention so are feeling of the significance of events is very much tied up with what we attention to now. Most of the time you know in our pre Koga lives a lot of the time. We weren't really paying attention. We were sort of operating on scripts or Schema is because we are so familiar with what's going on and that augmentation is beneficial in the sense that we are efficient and we're not spending a lot of attentional resources but it is also a bit of a danger in that we are not paying attention to what's going on now little kids when they come to the world are full of attention. They're noticing all kinds of little things so a kid might say. Hey Mom look this this. This tree has white bargain and she says yeah that's Birch but mom. This caterpillar has red eyes. Look at it Jimmy. You see I'm busy. I'm on the cellphone right. So what does Jimmy Learn? Learn actually become altas. Oh yeah that's just a caterpillar. Oh yeah that's just a birch instead of paying full attention now a child though before automatization and becoming sort of categorical being pays attention and experiences the world very slowly in its extreme detail whereas adults often we'll have lost that and lived now lives now in this world of Schema. It's rather than things as they actually are. I mean we call that childlike wonder right. And we'd sometimes lament the loss of it but now I feel like many millions upon millions of Dolor Delta lamenting the loss of the external indicators right that we used to to measure time to to understand how the world was moving from day to day. I mean. Isn't that part of what makes everyone. Is everyone feeling fuel so uncomfortable? At this moment the feeling of discomfort is not necessarily a bad thing right because living in a Zombie mode where you are your persona rather than your person. You paid a certain price for that. And maybe there's a inability here now in this very strange situation of lock down to turn lemons into lemonade and start paying attention again. Like a child you know instead of just saying. Oh that's an ant colony across the table attention to that end and then you'll notice it's extreme particularly well. I mean to interrupt you there professor but we have some voicemails from some listeners who who talked about experiencing this moment with their children here is Liz from the Hudson Valley in New York and Liz called us to say that even though she is staying home with her two kids just like she does. During summer vacations. This time period feels different previously during summer vacations or time when the kids weren't in school the days felt so long during any breaks that they had from schooling when they were home with me and now it feels like the day goes much faster for some reason and other friends of mine who have young kids remark meet. I can't believe I've been doing this. Per almost seven weeks already. Also shared with us ways that her family is coping with the change. We make sure to celebrate. Friday's because after a while the week and start to feel like one big continuous circle and so we demarcation weekends by really enjoying Fridays. Maybe ordering pizza and just celebrating as though it was something different when the weekend comes even though it's the same vendors during the week that's Liz pointless nerve. From New York's Hudson Valley Professor Rick. See is the. I mean you heard Liz. Basically saying she's instituting reinstituting some kind of regularity. Some kind of schedule I mean. Isn't that a good thing to help? Help US manage period of warped time. Yeah I think. She's basically giving her time landmarks defining reference points so that it doesn't all seem to merge into one giant Sunday which is a good thing. I thing we've all heard the saying especially from people who have kids that you know the days go by slow but the years go by fast and I think again with retrospective time we we hang our sense of duration upon these key events now nine eleven was a huge event and so that seems to really stand out. What really you know in our normalize. We say okay on Monday. I have this meeting on Friday. I have meeting. We hang our sense of time on those sort of temporal landmarks and in the absence those landmarks it all merges together retrospectively. Even though in the moment it might seem actually lasts longer. Professor Ravelli. I wonder if in the extreme discomfort that many people are feeling by being confused. About what day is it? And the blurring together of events Days months weeks his they're potentially something Positive about this that we have an opportunity to reassess even sort of how we measure our own existence if time itself can be a thing that so easily changed experience of it. Maybe we ought to be rethinking You know the some of the things that we presume are foundational to our existences There's so many levels in which we are temporal beings and we have long memories about ourselves of strong moment of the past but also a narrative over entire life and I think if I may that one of the things is happening in this in this difficult situation we hear people dying count accounting number of people dying every day with the news. Of course people die also when there's not a pandemic around but we don't think about that unless it comes very close unless there's some some somebody in our family of friends and then we think about this now. We are seeing this much more so I wonder if this factor isn't sort of bringing closer to our is something we know rational exists but we usually prefer not to think about which is the finances of our life and that changes our sense of time because the future. We'll leave us if we were immortals right. Now it's a little bit more difficult than usual to leave as if we were immortal. Itself some house something. Which is there is coming in front of our eyes. I don't think this is bad. In fact I find this makes me more serene not more worrying. This is our life is short is beautiful is marvelous. And we're all struggling together to allow each one of us to have it a little bit longer and We're aware of all that. So perhaps these also collectively a sense of recognizing the helpless uses over life. Well we are talking this hour about what the pandemic is doing to our sense of time and I'm joined today by Carlo Ravelli and Peter Rick See. There's so much more to discuss when we come back. This is important. This is on point. I'm Meghna Chakrabarti. We are talking this hour about how. Kobe pandemic has warped our sense of time and now in the course of the conversation. I'm even wondering what I mean by. We're talking this hour because what is an hour now. I'm joined today by Carlo Ravelli. He's a theoretical physicist and bestselling author of the order of time and seven brief lessons on physics. He's among the founders of the loop quantum gravity theory and also with us as Peter. Will Rick see a professor of psychological and brain sciences at Dartmouth College and author of the neural basis of free will? And here's what on Point Listener Rama in Gloucester Massachusetts told us. He says he's feeling time. Speed up. Days are flying by even though I'm not working per se Still getting up early the days of flying by. It's like Whoa. It's already nine thirty ten o'clock at night and all these things I still wanted to get done to and put in a busy day of doing lots of cool stuff and the days of flying by so I think the clocks going even faster. That's on point listener. Rama in Gloucester Massachusetts Professor Ravelli. There is something that you told our our producer. Annabel men in the process of preparing for this hour. That love you to share with us that you mentioned you heard Mottaki about the clocks. We just presume that the standard for twenty four hour clock and the equal sort of slicing of that twenty four hour clock across the day is how we have always perceived or even measured terrestrial time. But that's not necessarily true that in the Middle Ages did we. Did we look clocks differently? Did we call hours? Different things in the Middle Ages hours were real flexible than I was This is a story the the division of timing days night of course is completely natural. And it's over over the planet the Division of in twenty four hours. It's very common in the Mediterranean civilization. Very answer to goes back to a Bologna but so there are twelve hours the date when I was tonight. But in the also the centrists of Middle Ages six o'clock was sunrise and six o'clock in the afternoon was sunset. Now if you think for a moment this means that in the summer of course in summer the no semi's fear is the days is much longer than the night and the winter is was it so that means that in the middle aged one hour in the summer was much longer in clock dine than an hour in the winter so the notion of our for very long time was sort of flexible depending of the season hours longer in summer and shorter in winter. And it's all only when clocks started to do. Mechanical clocks started to be widespread at the end of Middle Ages Sir that our sort of standardized and became attached to to the clock time in the not too the separation between sunrise sunset. So this is all this. It's settling on me right now. You're saying that in the Middle Ages in the winter when the period of daylight was the shortest as you said. Sunrise and sunset were still pegged to six o'clock. Every an hour wouldn't be an hour then took it would be like forty five minutes shorter and if you read the Gospel Effecting Matteo. How'd you say in English Matthew? Yeah it's it's it's pretty clear. Some point one at one of the stories is pretty clear that six. Pm is already. Enroll maintains its sunset. By definition I feel we were already. We're already so we have. We have had a world in which human beings Work perfectly okay. With the fluidity of even of basic definitions of what time is yes. Yes and of course another thing. That happened much. More recently. Is that until centuries and a little bit more goal lesson that every little village was a little bit out of time with respect to the next one because New was when the sun is just on top of you design it a so one of the reasons for which many old churches have sandile because you would adapt you regulate the clock of the Church on the on noon but of course noon on New York is not the same the Newnham Chicago just just to just to move a few miles and his little different. So if you had a good clock you had to rearrange. Every time you do a few kilometers and of course we've we've subsequently seen that much of standardization of time has been driven by the railroad and stuff that's happened that's happened at the moment of the railroads. Where sort of agreed to standardize? And what is remarkable? Is that when we agreed about that? Just in the same years. Einstein realized that sucks inquisition of clocks impossible. So it's really a compromise. The agreement we say well. Let's all have the same time. The physicist is not really possible but doesn't matter because too small the corrections so time is really a lot of conventions I see well professor or exceed. Let me turn back to you here. Because the the history of the change the way that humanity has changed how purse collectively perceived time is absolutely fascinating. I'm wondering what you think. The long term effects of this current disturbance in our perception of time could be for individuals. Yeah I think that this could be a quite momentous actually for our civilization in the sense that well we know that millions tens of millions of people are now suffering. And it's really terrible and yet you know pain whether physical pain emotional pain is a signal that we have to change something you know if if I stick a knife in my thigh the signals as you gotta get that knife out of your five but now I have this terrible suffering of having lost my job well. Of course there's the pain of having lost the job but there might be as Carla mentioned a more existential suffering. Were start asking ourselves? You know I what what is real you know and I think that long-term well there's a Jewish thing like that suffering teaches us to to want the right things now. Of course if you gotTa break on your head that's the kind of suffering and not much but other forms of suffering can really teach you as a signal. Hey I need to change something now. I think we're very different from other animals in that our consciousness is bifurcated. We have one form of consciousness in common with say a tiger or the dog and that we're very perceptual beings with emotions that feel our body in the world. But in addition human consciousness is bifurcated in the sense that on top of that we have mental models and narratives about the world and you know science is all about creating such models with a world which may be right or wrong but some of these narratives are are about ourselves and some of those might be fought. So let's say I'm a business woman who just lost her job on Wall Street so my narrative about myself has gone from. I'm a successful businesswoman on Wall Street. Who went to Princeton Blah Blah Blah? And then. Suddenly? I lost that story about myself. And that's extremely painful. Maybe you have to replace narratives with something else. Maybe that Narrative is oh. I'm a loser or something but there's great hope I think in that people can realize head. There's all these narratives about myself and about the world and those might be right or wrong but really what is really real is my perception of my body in the world with its emotions and if we attend to that we can start to see reality maybe in a different way that is free of all those narratives so I keep coming back to what you were saying earlier about. How all of so much of this in terms of our perception of time is determined by what we pay attention to and how we pay attention to it. I understand that you have maybe a home that that might capture the opportunity. That this warped sense of time is presenting us with. Yeah so. This is my favorite poems by Mary. Oliver one of the great poets of the English language. It's called the summer day and I'll read it all right here. He goes who made the world who made the Swan and the black bear who made the grasshopper grasshopper. I mean the one who has slung herself out of the grass. The one who is eating sugar out of my hand who's moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down who's gazing around with her enormous and complicated is now. She lists her pale for arms and thoroughly washes her face now. She snaps her wings open and floats away. I don't know exactly. What a prayer is. I do know how to pay attention how to fall down into the grass. How to kneel down in the grass has to be idle and blessed how to stroll through the fields which is what I have been doing all day long. Tell me what else should I have done? Doesn't everything die at last and too soon tell me what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life as the Mary? Oliver Classic how why why that one. Why now because by paying attention we don't focus on our models of the world and you know stories about ourselves. We focus on the here and now and we look at that little Callup Caterpillar. That is where this grasshopper and we see the amazing. Nisa reality so maybe we can turn the lemons of the suffering of our financial crisis and people being fired and dying left and right from terrible virus into the lemonade of focusing our lives again. On what is real. What is authentically real for us? You know it reminds me of I grew up in Manhattan and the saying when something like this. Why do bankers gets paid so much money and the answer was because they're getting paid to live somebody else's life and I think many of us you might discover. Actually I was living somebody else's life. Maybe I can take this time to reevaluate and focus on what is real for me who I really am. Well Professor Ravelli. We have a minute left conversation. It's been absolutely amazing. What what would you suggest that we do with this new knowledge of time and how we perceive it? I think Peter has been saying is great book the title is reality is not what it seems. I think that this disruption like all disruptions my allowed US. He's saying to solve a step out of our mental habits and the disruption of time structures in particular and view things differently and that may be an opportunity an opportunity well. Ravelli is a theoretical physicist and a writer among the founders of the loop quantum gravity theory and director of the quantum gravity group at the Center for Theoretical Physics at X. Marseille University and author of a number of bestselling books including the order of time and seven brief lessons on physics professor. Ravelli thank you so much for spending this time with us. Think you match me and Peter. Rick see professor of psychological and brain sciences at Dartmouth University and author of the neural basis of free. Will professor. Rick See thank you so much for spending this time with us as well thank you. It's been my pleasure. Well folks I know it is hard to imagine but one day in the future. This pandemic will be history. 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I haven't had many shitty seasons, and this I think could be argued wasn't really shitty. It was just trying to get used to new people and stuff like. I'm over it. I'm over Ben over it. I've been screaming and yelling on this amp show. So I'm sure you're all super happy that I'm only screaming and yelling get Kyle Richards and Katie Maloney, low unless person to scream map, but man Meany makes it difficult. This was a rough one you might be screaming at someone else. I don't know if you saw did you see the hot gas that came out about real houses of Atlanta. No, yes. I did. I don't know if I believe it yet the gossip, according to blogs is that Kenya. More is coming on board. She's coming back replacing Chamari Chamara was downgraded and she was offered friend of status. But then Ronnie is like no don't do it. That's an insult. But also, by the way, Ronnie like what else this Chamari have going on let her be a friend of a friend of she's better as a friend of. I don't wanna watch the Ronnie scenes anyway. Shomari actor Maury scenes are good when she's in a great. Yes. She really excelled when really wasn't about Chamari, and she's just sort of on the side getting drunk and throwing up on people. I mean, her throwing up on shoes that was a power move. And I respect that. So so it looks like according to the blogs that Kenya will be coming back. And I believe it. I, you know, apparently, the producers were so apparently the people were trying to get Kenya to come back and the producers like now and candy and Cynthia they wanted candy come back. I'm sorry, candy and candy and Cynthia wanted Kenya to come back for some things and producers were like kept on saying. No, you can't do that. According to this blog. I'm sorry. I'm not referencing it by him. I just remember it. But then, but then they were like, okay. Well, we're going to add we're going to add Kenya to the guest list of this Bolini party and can't do anything about it. And so then when the producer saw like the great response from the audience. That can you got and how excited people were there like OSHA? Yeah. We gotta bring her back. I think it was always a plan to bring you back. I remember back when we heard she was fired. We said on this show. He'll be back after year she's going to take a baby year. And then she'll be which is actually is totally understandable. Yeah. And I can you makes me fucking crazy. She seems like a pleasure cruise compared to Mimi this season. I'd much rather. Kenya? At this point. You know, at least she does something. Yeah. We need to cancel any needs to be done put out to pasture. Put her in the Kim zal Ceac cemetery for reality stars who have gone past their prime. Yeah. And the other rumors Tamar Braxton might becoming so really making that she I wouldn't be surprised if she did some friend of stuff because she and candied mended things on big, brother. I don't know. That's a pretty big jump going from we TV. Although watching her on big, brother. She is Kuku. So I hope they bring her on because she's hilarious, and she'll just start screaming crying. And you know, I love that kind of a housewife exactly we need a little bit more. We need someone like with. Tamer? What's good is that I don't feel like she can control herself. And you know, me and my own thing about New York is that those women can't help themselves. I feel like tamers like that. So and she's also very like, she's so extra about everything in a hilarious way. That I think should be really great on the show. Well, here's hoping okay for now. We've got to wrap up this bitch. So let's do it with. On on plants like very like the white walkers are almost at the gate music, and they're talking about ne-near in the closet. So and is like, well, I wanna talk about that closet Porsche. Did something happened with your belts. I'm not going to beat this thing you so I had a breakdown either not need to here. Oh, I can't do. Well, so who hey from Denver says, you know, you once criticized Porsche for getting physical on camera. But didn't you do the same thing? And we see that clip again of of a knee scolding Porsche for being physical on camera. And like, and like at least like when when knee's been physical people she had the wherewithal to not do it on in front of cameras Mimi logic. Yeah. So then when it comes back, and he's like beats up a tree and a forest, but there's no camera there to catch. It does the tree really have a complete. Yeah. Ninian the tree ever really friends now. So so Nina's like, oh so what so now because this happened? I can't give vice fine. Does that what that means? No just means that like, can you least cop up tonight ninety being hypocritical. But can you say things like well when I made when I said that advise I realized now is being a little naive because sometimes things take over know. But she's just like, no, sometimes you just gotta hit a couple of cameramen, but he want just being honest, but they can't be honest and she lies every single. That they bring up any. She just lies, and then they have a clip to back up that she's lying. Yeah. So hilarious because to go. While when listen when Porsche driver Kenny off this cats, I was the only one who is down there on their side. They with imports, and that it cuts all the ladies like gathered around for being there for exactly exactly. And then niece as the gall say, listen that was good advice. Just because you know, whatever happened this season doesn't make it not good advice at that time. Okay. The only thing I regret out of all of that happened. With me is cursing. That's all you regret. Like, you curse so much all the time. Why do you regret the cursing there? I don't understand. Yeah. He's like, but what about putting your hands on people? She's like what about it? And he goes that didn't bother you. She has. No it didn't. I said we're not going in my closet, and that was a rule at front, and he's like, but does that really gonna handy squint Cise like that really give you the right to put your hands on someone? And she goes, no, it doesn't. So she's just arguing herself in big stupid circle. And then. Don't you feel bad and she gets up, please. He was wearing a t shirt in it rent. This assume e right, which is sort of true. Although at the same time like what if that was important to him. So then. Then we find out that like another person a producer apparently got like choked and scratched and then was sent to the hospital and got his tooth knocked out by Nina in her like madness. Well, she's she's like, oh he did. He did. I didn't know that. She goes can is like. Rally like apparently, his tooth got knocked out. And she goes I heard his tooth got cracked cracked as if. Oh, that's better. It's just a crash tooth just it's just the flesh wound, right? So then Eva jumps in for whatever reason. I don't know what even thinking she's just been fucked over like a zillion times. Of course, Eva is also a compulsive liar. You know, something someone like Meany makes you you fight so hard against any the forget everyone else's fault. So I feel like on any other reunion. Either would be dragged a lot harder because she's obviously just a life ace at this point. But anyway, she jumps in and she's like, well, she was disrespected in her home. And so he deserved it. Yeah. I mean, I guess you this respected in her home. I don't know. I just you're getting paid like two point something million dollars a year. Clean your closet. How about that happened on a reality show, clean your fucking closet? Hiram aid case -actly exactly also don't set the scene in your bedroom. That scene wasn't supposed to be set in your bedroom. Anyway, you left your own party to go up to your bedroom and made everyone go go up there to kiss your ass in the first place. So I mean, I can understand being upset because the closet was like not supposed to be filmed that was messy, etc. Etc. And then someone in the cameraman's to go in. And honestly, she was he was pretty calm up until the cameraman. I will give her that. She was like come on. Don't go in there. She was like for ni shoes being pretty cool. And then when the cameraman went in there, that's when she lost her shit. So like, I get that. I think what I don't. I think the thing that exacerbate exacerbates. This is the knee is totally unwilling to say. Yeah, I really lost my shit, and I definit-. Should not have liked pulled. That guy's shirt, and my reaction was probably like over the top. But like, I don't want my closet, and that's that. But she's not seeing that really. She just she just does after they griller for a while. Then she's like, well, I didn't have Reggie touch him. And. He's already been an asshole for solid five minutes, and then they get deeper into this. And even like because what happened was Shakra shirt. And then they grabbed Meany imports is like, no, they grabbed her after she chokes, the producer. He was putting his hands up to standing between Meany killing everyone else and says she just took it out on him because he was in the middle, basically. Right. And. Low you were just egging Amman. She was just being sarcastic. You know? You're adding big Oleg big old twelve pack of eggs. Yeah. And so I've always been a good friend to need. He's like not true. Not true. Not a good friend good friend and so- candies. Like well earlier she'd been saying just go into my closet and see. And she's like, I never said that in the show her doing exactly that full clip of news saying like, you need to she's little says you need to come into my closet into my closet. Yeah. And the Gandhi's like, well, I thought she was just trying to be fun. You know, like, oh guys. Stop it. Yeah. Fabulous whatever and portions like. Yeah. I thought if I knew it was going to turn out like that. I wouldn't have gotten in the way she treated us was wrong to put her hands out of. So she's you know, Porsche is. I just can't tell it's like this so much bigger than it was now, I can't tell how casual it was because up to now it seemed like, yeah. Meany how to fit and stuff, but it was still semi casual. And now, it's the she's joke. Somebody mock somebody's fat. So right will Porsches basically saying no we were downstairs, we're comforting. You were all friends this tight circle. And then you act like we're like women off the street like, you don't even know who are like just going through through your clothes like it was just kind of like crazy, and that and, you know, says knees lack of remorse 's is basically wrong, and she's like if someone says they weren't terrified they're lying. It wasn't scary. Okay. It wasn't scary. Yeah. And Milos goo. Who? And candies. Like, then why did you say watch out because Porsches pregnant and Marlow remember saying that as since he just goes. Wasn't one of the issues why we were talking about this week or two ago about why knee is upset at Porsche. These days is because she thinks that Porsche recorded in post production that line at the end of that where she said I'm scared wasn't that like an didn't didn't need feel like Porsche made that up too much worse. Right. Yes. She said that they voiced that over and that that never happened. So guess what we then the unseen footage of Porsche like taking off her Mike and telling the producers, I'm scared, but to be fair, she was also saying we're gonna jokey way. Like, I gotta get outta here. I'm scared. Yeah. But you know, there was a tooth and so much. You can say whatever you want. But yeah. And the point is that this was not something recorded like a month later a week later. You know, she did say that in the context of the brawl. Yeah. And then Meany starts trying to like lawyer herself out of this like she can't decide how she's gonna lie because she's already said for different things. She didn't do it. Okay. She did do it. But they deserved it. But now she's saying again, no this is wrong. 'cause Porsche says then I walked out of the closet, and I saw a master writ. And then she choked the producer end. He's like, wait a minute. Wait a minute. You said I was behind you. Well, that's a lie. I wasn't behind you. And I'm like God her. Talking about them how to they happen. So you're saying someone else pulled off our belts. Yeah. Because that's what that's Porsche choose in there, and she felt someone touch her back and then her belts came off. And so then it's like did anyone see the poll? Did anyone? No one's God. So then yeah, I can't he's like why was out of there before? So I didn't see the poll, and he goes the poll. That's what it is. Now the. Seriously. And yeah, yes, any it is kind of a big deal. So then candies like well. I saw the rest of it. It was finding a producer for me. I was like this time to go. Okay. So we go downstairs the Nina comes down, and I'll say it was aggressively because it was aggressive and Andy's like, and then you said when you live you call someone but answered imports is like, yeah. Push. It tells the story of her nearly going off and calling the motherfuckers saying if I see those bitches again, it's going to be bad. And so then they talked, you know, so we know pretty much all the rest of this stuff from the season. But then Meany starts flexing her muscles. She's like, yeah. Yeah. She has not fired. Well, because she has his moment because candy texted ni afterwards to like clear the air, and they both apologize to each other. And then Porsche Porsche felt like Porsche was annoyed because she felt like she and candy were kind of going to do it together. And the fact that candidate for. Porsche look worse. And that's when needs to like do that like arm flex like. You just have to go shot up mountain. Here's a one way ticket to shut up mountain you and your women lines fire her who who gets to do that at work like who gets to choke somebody at work and send him to the hospital and that they're they're punished with one episode off. I mean, give me a break. There's almost I mean, there could almost be an explanation actually could be a pretty good explanation for the t-shirt thing because she basically is like I don't wanna camera is one thing for the girls to be in there. But now cameras no she's going into try to grab him to stop. And then at polls, and then it's like an accident. Okay. But choking someone like losing their tooth. Punching a that's like permanent. Okay. That's like expensive out dental fix. No. Did you mean to take a commercial break bread? Now. Americans. Don't care what you think any more. We never did. 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And then they're talking about how candy was supposed to wait for Porsche to talk to any set of calling her on her own like, you just said and portions like, well, I'll you this much can't unite bonded now. The great meeting closet or thank Kevin just started cracking up. So then simply God, we get a nice break from this. 'cause I was just typing notes furiously we've seen most of the stuff before. But I'm topping so bad and the second they said, it's a Cynthia segment. I was like baking potato. Yeah. Potato. Certainly like making rise. Let's just started like doing my carbs the weekly. Yeah. So Cynthia you had a turf transition at the beginning of this season when Noel went off to Howard University, and you had to record scenes away from your kitchen island. Let's take a look. Big shock about the door. Mantilla's? There's no. Lettera a little box and said, you can stand on the stand around this island. But honestly is not the same. I'm concerned about her. So he's asking about chill hill and Meany has mad face stink face like she doesn't whole and like she. Does everybody approve of Mike and he looks at Nina. She's like I have been with them more than anyone up here. Graduation is lovely over. Mike is great great send me backstage at this point. She's just killing the fun. Bantering or something she's angry. And I hear myself just repeating the same thing over and over again in this episode, but it's literally meaning just propping up over and over again doing the same shit, just centreback states. Exactly. So then there's this. Honestly, I didn't write a lot of notes in this part because it was it was a Cynthia segment, you know, at my alien, and they like each other Cynthia would contemplate to LA for hill. Listen, if she moved to LA for chill, I wouldn't mind because you know, what Mike hill is the the first guy that she's been with who seems to have like a legitimate career. The leon. I mean Leon was he was black Jesus in like a prayer. So there's that going for him. But still I mean, Michael he's like, he's definitely upgraded from Peter. And from will not will what was his name. Oh with chill yet. Because he seems very overly. I get like a really weird vibe from him. But he's he's just to his a little bit much for me. I'm getting a strong thirst vibe from him. But you know, what I think he refused ball. I don't think he's thirsty will was will was thirsty. Peter was extremely thirsty. I think that Mike he'll he's already on TV already has a successful career. So I don't think he's like thirsty like that. I think he's just a cheese ball, which I'm fine with because honestly, I'm achieve ball. Yeah. Little people on TV are sated by being on TV. Okay. The need more you need more than more TV Osimo television. Please their sickos fin goes look at us. That's why we have my million podcasts. I know. It's a it's on a much smaller scale voices her on every single topic. Okay. So let's switch gears to something totally not boring at all Eva, Dan, very little gang except lie about wedding staff, and we're make us it's wedding stuff. I guess I should say Andy is like what can we believe when it comes to your truth? It's like this is a new low a new low for the reunions, even one of those belly up. The core you're killing themselves. Like I've had enough. Six years out onto the floor. Like, listen, it's been good eighty six years. Don't need to listen to this. I'm just gonna go out before it gets worse. Another talk about even stupid wedding outta here. I know so either what do you do three dresses? If budget is an issue for most one is fine. She's like budget wasn't an issue until we had a lot more people coming. I'm like, well, how are yeah. Why don't you? Why don't you restrict your guest list Eva thousand dollars a plate Eva? And she goes. Well, I mean, it's not just for the plate is for the whole wedding. We know weddings, murky. Thank you. Yeah. We're we're not saying that you're actually serving food on plates that cost thousand dollars, the we'll leave that to reach goalies goods. So Ambi is like so you said that you paid for your wedding free and clear because you have gigs before the wedding what gigs exactly worthy. And why are you still living in a tiny condo, would you have gigs? Like that. Basically. That's what I was asking it home. I was like gigs. So she's like, well, I make forty grand off Instagram post. And that's when I officially started, cutting, my inner thighs, really how many followers she have. I can't check as a tea party. But if someone on TV product, let us know how many followers she has. Because I wanna know when I concerning forty thousand dollars for posting something on scream granted. I'm really not even close and Instagram won't verify me as even sell. I'll just be like. Hi, I got an each wetter. Old navy? I would pay that's four grand. You didn't have before. No, forty Graham, forty grand. Yeah. They'll although grand trampoline nine that'd be like what even has two point nine million other. So. Awesome. I think she's earned it. Yeah. She's earned it. I mean, she's like if she puts basis you like promote something on her Instagram. She's like promoted it's like more reach than a commercial in. This w it's more reached than the real housewives of him. I to that's for sure. That's right. That's a little bit. Their ratings are around two million. Right. A little over two million says probably the same reason. I don't even know honestly, I actually don't even trust cable ratings. I feel like they're not attended to the same thoughtfulness as network ratings. And then these days with DVR's and everything I just don't trust the numbers, and there's so many different sources that are like real house was of New York is having its lowest seasons in season seven, but this one is having a huge season. But then someone else's like New York is killing it. I just feel like with Gable ratings. You just can't even trust them because they come out with the overnights, and then three or four days later, they come out with DVR ratings. And so they're like wildly different. Yeah. It's annoying. Yeah. You know, what else is annoying evens wedding live because she will not just even if you're gonna this isn't real housewives of Beverly Hills where you can just pretend everyone will back you up like just be honest. I would much prefer Eva storyline. If she had one and this whole bridesmaids turning against her trying to ruin her life is actually good. Why wasn't this shot? And why aren't we seeing it? And why isn't she Nita on TV right now? Rest slided like all the interesting stuff this season happened the last two episodes. That's what I'd like to know. Why did they wait my they drag all off ama-? They didn't get anything on camera or they did get it. 'cause they showed a little clip of the bridesmaid's talking shit about her. But they barely use it. It was like a five second clip. What I need from Eva next season is either the diva to really come out because we see that when she reads people, she's actually brilliant, you know, and her shade is really excellent. So we need her to be like that and not just like crying about wedding dresses and just trying to be like this cool chill. Bohemian czech. You know, like we got that. Eva who we understand it. Now. Now, like have you something crazy because just like just attack these people? Okay. Just go to town. Please just have to mention that. When she's like, I make forty grand off that post Marla goes. Shomar is like, yeah, I need to get need to get a post like that Marla. Goes you definitely broke definitely. I can't imagine. What tomorrow it would be Hocking like fish sticks or something like that five dollars, wine, wine coolers, or something? So then oh now, I guess that cynthia's now. So they start talking about the bridesmaids and Andy's so what's what was up with your bridesmaid? And she's like, well, it often happens to brides in their party Andy at weddings. I love that you've pretends that she's the only person who's had a wedding like thousand dollars doesn't mean only the plates and often at weddings bridesmaids get mad at so. Caused the fronting analogy. Yeah. And Marla like it was three bridesmaids, Andy. And she's like, no, it wasn't and candidates. It was definitely more than one. So. Yeah. So so they're talking about all this stuff at the bride's maids were like digging up or sayings everyone, and even like notice the bridesmaids only reached out to the one person who's messing doesn't have a peach. That's my point. That's my point that just cut tomorrow. Marlow job. At least I'm not just driving by rented car around a parking lot and circle crying because I don't have money for reception. I wonder if they get mad. They say things like my rented car when like all of them are renting everything, of course. Ran a Lisa Konomi. Yeah. So. I'll save it for the bonus up. So I was a little anecdote. So so anyways, now's like, so even or you would lesbian were you a part time lesbian in LA. What the deal? She's like, I am not lesbian. Not fulltime part time. Not these two conomy time. Just not. Screaming, and she's like, are you saying have I ever had sexual relationships? Like, you are not the president. Why are you talking like this just answer the fucking question? So she basically says she's had sexist women and Marlow like it was one of them married and her name starts at the C. And she's like, you know, what I don't have to lose Royce cetera. Name. Gary Bradshaw await she's fictional. So then Eva just changes the subject, she's like, well, my problems that need had a Mike on when she came to confront me. And she said she didn't she wasn't supposed to meaning. Wait a minute. You say you're mad at me because I had a Micon. Yes. Meany that was kind of how you betrayed her in that scene. Also like, that's really bad people get killed for that the actually get murdered wearing alarm shows. Yeah. On rhyme hearing. But that's still not really been accepted by Hollywood. Yeah. Yeah. I like that needs sometimes needs to fence if you just repeat something and then like ads like this sort of like. Incredulity to it. It's like at some house a defense. That's like, you know, what I didn't. Really appreciate is that like you came to my house and slimy in the face and left. Oh, so I came to your house and slapped you in the face, and then I left, and that's why you're mad. It's like just because you repeat it doesn't mean. It's like any like less legitimate. Yeah. Yeah, it's ridic-, and guess Meany you totally betrayed and he's like, well I stood up for you at Tanya. No, you didn't you had a messy scene on camera talking about Eva with Marlowe who you know, hates Eva. And you totally gave her that opportunity. Then you called this bridesmaid on camera. You let Marlow collar on camera to fuck over Eva. And then you didn't tell Eva that all of this was going to be coming up in a group seen a candies restaurant opening. I mean, how many times can you fuck one person over in the span of a week? Then after you, then you get mad that you weren't the win to get to bring it up on camera and yell at somebody else, then you chase her out and try to calm down by lying about not having a Mike on what is wrong with your own human being you're terrible. If Cynthia had promised needing that they were going to have a conversation off camera with no Mike's at the foreign of the parking lot. And then Cynthia kept her mic on and allowed it to be recording. I guarentee needy would lose shit. And the reason why I know that is because the entire second half. This reunion knees losing your shit because Cynthia was not totally up front about something real stupid. Yeah. And then she's like you're trying you're trying with me. Why don't you talk about your shit like your house that you can't pay for your car? The you know, she starts getting nasty, which is typical Meany. It's like, I'm wrong. I'm gonna call someone poor, you know. So then eve as like, yeah. I just wouldn't do that to you have to learn all this shit on TV as wack you could give me a heads up. And then Nina's wrong already called her poor. I'm surprised she hasn't called her fat Gak. That's her. That's your latest thing. So she just sits there and Addy's like, do you have a responsibility. And she's like sorry. She feels wasn't. But it was not even just that. It was that she so any what's your response? And he goes there is no response watch. And he goes, I'm sorry. Feels that way. See say, yeah. And then and he's like do you guys have a packed about what you're gonna talk about on camera and sank no dumb dumb knows. Everybody all have a packed every single show. Well, you know, if your friend on if you're ally on the show is about to be blindsided on national television, yet, you usually give them a heads up, especially if you just saw a whole scene laughing about it you dick. So even talking about Marley's dad who she calls the donor, and she's talking about the how awful relationship was. And it got violent towards the end. And you know, she has a five year restraining order at Star City rolling her eyes. Yeah. And so starting to get choked up talking about it and so need plus the tissue from next to her and gives its Andy give to Eva. But she plucks it with this smirk on her face. Like, see I am a good friend like shut up eighty this this tissue means nothing, you're passive aggressive Kleenex moment. No, especially when you spend all of two ago on the reunion talking about how like she wasn't friends with any of them. And now you're going to try to be like a friend like you were not a martyr. You're not a victim. Let her get her own Kleenex. Okay. She's not even real crying. Anyway. Well, meany. Yeah. So then Eva is trying to get in it again. And even crying, basically this and this guy was just arrested this week for domestic violent relief. Kevin mccall's. Yes. So this guy's fucking crazy. And look when it comes to domestic violence shit. This isn't like a fun little housewives game. Okay. This is not something to like sit around and make fun of it's crazy that they're even sitting there acting like that I feel like this is only show that could get away with that. Exact just can't believe Kevin McCall is is like a like a wife beater, you know, because like, you know, he he's like worked with people like Chris Brown stuff. I'm just shocked. I'm shocked. I'm a fight. You're being serious out. Like, oh my God. I mean, if not not a laughing matter, I'm just making fun of Kevin McCall right now. Even though I used to think he was really hot till I found out. He was awful. Yeah. He said, they would hop people. Turn out to be awful. Just me nuts. Well, just watch lifetime. You get used to it. So then eve is like rolling is eve. It's like roll your eyes. But I'm going through this Marlow, you know, and you you're always making fun of me about moving, but I have to move because people keep blasting up my fucking address, you know, and Marlow is like will listen me needy felt for four years. And you know, I didn't even get nasty with him are list was like bragging about how close she is with. Meaning like, I think the power of that move is gone now Marlow Marlow also just trying to get to slip. She's like your engineer relationship. That's why she was talking about it. She's like where you guys into relationship because mean, anywhere not talking for four years. We didn't even get that nasty with each other and candies like a, please. You did some pretty jacked up stuff Marlow. Okay. So so Marlow like, why do you just why do you not believe anything that? You've says, I just don't think that you've as honest, honestly. And so. And so then they're asking Yvo. Why did she for example? Like, why did she move so quickly right after her wedding? And so she has this whole story about like, they didn't know if they're gonna move to the city or the country, but then her address got out because basic Shahida so they had to move anyway, really quickly or something like that. I don't know why it's still like such a pressing issue on the show. But because Eva Eva doesn't just tell the truth about anything. She she can't just be like, well, we don't have that much money because we spent a quarter of a million dollars on a fucking wedding for a TV show. Okay. That's why. So we, you know, like, she won't just be like out there with everything. And so she just she looks like a liar. You know, and the Marlowe just jumps on anything the Marlins the biggest fake out there. I don't know why anyone would care what she thinks. But tomorrow. This long, but at least Marlowe is a fake and hypocrite and ridiculous person. But she's sitting there having fun. You know, like she's just pushing buttons you can see she's having fun. She's not sanctimonious. Well, she's well, she's like fo- sanctimonious. I just think that like Marlowe being a hypocrite is much more entertaining than Niimi because I need Tony believes Rhone ship Marlow when you really confront like, oh, you know, me I saved. I just saved like like what what do you say to that? You just have to say. Okay. Cool. So now speaking of hypocrites and craziness now we move on to the real the real deal, Cynthia Anini their friendship and the so great. But now it's falling apart. So after we watch a video package of being friends, and then the portraying that the Bellini party, we we come back and Andy's leg show, Nina. What's wrong with Kenya? Coming to that party. And he was like nothing absolutely nothing which is alive. But then she really gets into it. Which is that she was upset because when knee had or by week parties, and she was inviting Yovani Cynthia have been very adamant that Nina give Eva has Ivana will be there. And then we see a clip of Eva saying, you really should let I'm not of Scindia saying, you really should let even now you should let you give her a heads up that Uganda's going to be there. Yeah. I hate to agree with Meany, and I would not have acted like Meany active. He's acting like a total jackass, but that is shady of Cynthia and since he has obviously lying about this. And what they started when they started going after Cynthia for an anti wouldn't let her off 'cause she just keeps contradicting yourself. She went to the media leaks school of lies. That's for. Sure. Well, this thing just keeps lying over and over again hoping it's going, but that's why she gets a pass for me because. Yeah, you're right. It was shady there was an element of shade from this. But he is being such a over the top hypocrite this entire reunion and just being such an awful person that my gut is to say, yes. And he was being shady and she was being hypocritical though needed serves it. She deserves it. And I just think that Cynthia should have just been able to say I invited Kenya. The problem is needing such diva. She wouldn't come or she tried to make this big huge thing. But did she tell me that she invited Cynthia invited Kenya? But Kenya's not coming or no, she didn't tell anything. But like I said this ad that conversation where she's like, oh well since I'm Cynthia Fram. But she has this other friend in this other friend, and I have been all social media. Why did they have that scene where she's talking about how much she hates Kenyan? How cynthia's totally betraying her by even being friends with Kenya. After the fact, maybe it's too so random. Yeah. Just you know, I at the end of the day. I do think that like Cynthia is a little bit more of like a beta personality than now for personality. And I'm not saying beta like Everett like beta meaning that like, she's not type A, and I need is just like overbearing, and she's like, I don't know. I in my mind, I think that Cynthia didn't tell ni. Because she didn't know that Kenya. If Kenya was even coming, and then was told that Kenya wasn't coming that rather than even stir up that Hornets nest 'cause knee would make her life. Hell she was just going to be like, I'm not going to even broach this because Nin because Kenya's cynthia's a little she's weaker. That's not even being weaker. She just more afraid of meaning means the aggressor in that relationship. But it's different. When means power position with like or she needs hosting a party Cynthia can give that advice because there's no blowback on her. So she can actually be her own self by saying that advice, but once she is action in a potential hotseat. I get it because unfortunately, I'm actually bit similar Cynthia in that way. And sometimes like, I don't want to deal with the conflict, whatever. So I try to keep as much information like situations like that. I'm like, I don't wanna tell someone because I don't wanna start because I don't feel like dealing with that. Also different situation because you on is just that bitch. You know, what I mean like who's your vomit one knows her know what's going to go to bat for your role and she's some random. That's addition could be a guest that's a little bit different than someone who was like a lead on the show and is still friends with the other lead on the show. That's like a different kind of friendship to even compare it to for meaning I think needs just like constantly inviting shit stirs select fucker friends over and that's not necessarily with Cynthia was doing, you know, she was just inviting her friend, although that's pretty, you know, stupid of me to say because of course, it's Kenyan she's gonna totally comfort any, of course. Then who are you going to stand up for between? Kenya? Anini, you know, like Kenya walks in. And he's like, oh, what does she pregnant with a buffalo? She's fat shaming got pregnant lady. But now needs all offended that Kenya. Didn't say to her. They showed of Kenya. Just totally ignored Meany while Laney's trying to smile and get some attention was whole areas. It will, you know, needy went all of on Kenya's. Social media was writing on his bullshit, of course, can is going to ignore her knee. Always just things that these hap- these things happen in a vacuum. Like, there's no conduct to it. It's like there's a lot of contacts. You're an ass. And also the other like, the simpler context is a pregnant woman walks in. She's like eight months nine months pregnant, she gave birth soon after this like a day later walks in and he just sits there on her low couch. It's like if you wanna say, hi pregnant woman. You don't make them bend all the way down to say. Hello to you you brute ask get. Yeah. Takes takes Tango, you know, and digging up for Kenya. That is what Meany is done to me that love Buckingham forgivable about this whole season. And what I like though is. So you know, Andy, we'll why did like knowing that knee. And and can you have issues? Why didn't you give me a heads up? And cynthia's response was I don't have anything to do with Kennedy's issues on social media, which was like kinda bradey response. But but I was proud of Cynthia like it's ticket like taking about almost a decade. But like let that bitch flower bloom a little. Little little little leave popout. That's good. Good for you. Yeah. It's a long way. I barely know her. Yeah. It's just other. Can you answer? Look back on could've said Kenny was invited. But she's not coming. But she told me she wasn't coming. And so I believe during candies like typically, I did not tell her that. Can you was coming? Okay. And then poor. She wrote comes out of the woodwork. What about that part where you said, I might and he's like well before we walked into that dinner with Meany, I was getting miked up and Cynthia called, and she said she wanted to be on the same page, and she just met. She didn't want me to throw her under the bus. With this is where it's like that. I believe that you know, why because means a monster. And when you're about to have like a confrontation with knee knowing how irrational she is knowing how she will take one little thing. And then use that to dismiss everything else you're saying, you kinda wanna line your ducks up. Make sure like our stories have to like our stories have to really we have to make sure that we're on the same page third stories because if we have any discrepancies than need is going to just be like, no you guys were coming out to get me. You know? So I don't think it was necessarily an indication of guilt. But what it is funny is that when in response to that that like audio clip at that like soundcloud moment knee was like she felt hurt and betrayed by seeing that I'm like, well, you know, again, just a reminder. That's like not so different from what you did to Eva when you might yourself up and then go. Yeah, different. But it's not. It's like, yeah. It's like secret conversations cetera. Not cool. It's. Yeah. And so then Cynthia Cindy goes, yeah. I was calling candy because I wanted candy the say that she's the one who convinced him the come right so many. Yeah. Hurt betrayed. And then so what do you think about the explanations because I don't believe a word of that. And can't he's like you think I'm lying, and he goes candies. Not important. Okay. Candies. Not important can go game. He goes. She made a little candy squeal. Means like I saw the show. All I need to see. That's all I need to see which you know, is hilarious housewife saying that because they're always blaming editing for everything as though cynthia's like, you know, Cynthia kind of common she's still fighting back with Meany and Cynthia. Well, I'm looking at it the way it is too. She goes, well, they both like he Larry heal our new I Cynthia won't give up and finally the United lick. If meeting must've fall out over this petty shit, fine. Okay. I can invite who I want to my party. I'm sorry. Didn't tell you. I knew she was coming. But I didn't know, and he's like gosh hurts to see this friendship over. I'm like you. Did this do people did this? That's my favorite thing is when Andy acts like Andy executive producer is like oh, God hit really hers to see you guys throat like torn apart, man. I wonder what what caused this. It's like, you're you oversaw this. Okay. That's like Philip Seymour Hoffman being like, oh my God. I hate to sing all those kids dying the hunger games like you designed this shit. Philip Seymour off men are I p. Yeah. So yes, I was like is it really worth ending your friendship over Niimi. And she's like at first because each like, and then she was like, oh, yeah. I forgot. It's a betrayal. It's a betrayal. So yeah. It's a betrayal then cynthia's lie. Well, she throws people way like Marlowe over there. Malo was thrown away. When is Marla even say here, she goes no throws me away. Because don't she goes? No one throws me away. 'cause nobody made me. I don't know what that means. Do I have to ripen Philby tried to have the right to feel betrayed in? And he's like, well, I'm not a chart your feelings. She goes. Well, good. Thank you. You're not charging my house a conscious shot up on my God. I know. So then Andy's like, okay. But we do have discuss some things like so Cynthia what was the deal with you whispering to Mike saying I was both act. Like, I didn't know Kenya was coming. So then Cynthia has the most hilariously were terrible response. And even though I'm really on the aside. It's just a terrible terrible response. She goes, well, I could see he was here can you over? There wasn't the kitchen island in between them. And I was like, you know, what I could tell I tell those pretensions the phone can act like I didn't know she was coming. And he's like, but you said, you didn't know she was coming. No act. Like, I didn't know she was coming like. He's huge. Just sent you didn't know. But I didn't know she was coming in Portugal. Second like our little notebook with a pencil I called on stack. She's like taping a body on the floor. She's like I have another question. There's one more point to clear up, and he's like, gee, just want my job at this point. Sherlock porsche. Because I think ultimately that what Cynthia had been trying to say, well, she didn't know if Kenya was coming or not. So she was just going to act like, you know, I just didn't know. I just didn't think she was coming. That's what I'm gonna do. I'm not gonna I'm not gonna say like, oh, maybe maybe I'm just gonna say like I'm just pretend like I didn't know she was coming at all so supporters like so why is it though that when you saw when you saw Kenya? And you said, I didn't know you were gonna come and Kenya said yes, you did. What was that all about? Yeah. And cynthia's like, well, you know, she did say that. But she was saying it in the way like, you know, I wouldn't miss this. She wasn't saying it, you know, she was saying like, of course, she's going to surprise me and calm and candies. Like, yes, she just wanted to make surprise imports. Oh, okay. The objection rests. So then we get the question. Like, what do you think about Kenya? Ignoring any? Fuck Meany got the good for her for ignoring any. And starting a big fight with knee, which is probably her first instinct was to go in there and read needy. You know, yes. Yeah. Meaning, of course, you know, the ultimate victim is like, you know, I I tried to muster up all the energy. I could talk to Kenya several times and can't use like was that before you called her monster or. Sample for you called her a month his pregnant with the buffalo, and he goes, what do you care? You're not important. Yeah. Don't don't. You dare say that to our candy. Our beloved candy. Also, you know, it's in a way, it's a shame that this reunion was filmed, you know, about a month before the final episode aired because Nene got a lot of blowback about that buffalo comment about shaming pregnant woman. And I think that if they realize that they probably wouldn't grilled nearly a little bit more about that. Because it was pretty rude. You know, it was like what are you going to constantly does it she doesn't support to who fat shames pregnant people? That's like the lowest. I mean, not that. I'm surprised. So then he tries to say some like pseudo therapy stuff. She's like I'm more mad at myself than I am with Cynthia. Although I would have to say I'm really mad at Cynthia probably. For you haven't taken accountability. Myself for trusting Cynthia more. You know, it's like shut up an empty gesture. Yeah. So then Andy's like you said like, you don't seem like you. You know, you don't seem like you feel that way. You seem like you're really mad like maybe don't let the door hit you on your way out. You know, she nantz and cynthia's like that door close enough and the model. Why can't you be the bigger person said the ends? And this is what I loved it cynthia's just like fuck that. Why do I always have to be the bigger person? I can't be the bigger person once. Oh, I guess you already is then earner. No. But like, honestly cynthia's, right? Why does she always have to hate that? When someone always has to be the bigger person. And then someone gets just being asshole in the relationship. It's not right. If you're being certain point, you're going to get asshole back, and you just have to deal with it. Yeah. And so needs like, you can't even say that that didn't look wrong. And since he goes, I don't even care anymore. You know, she's like, whatever. And he goes you don't have to Chris me down. Yeah. Didn't even say anything. And he's like why are yelling at me? Like, the typical bully you punch them, and they start crying, you know, exac-. They simply an cynthia's tons. Yeah. It goes on for a while. And it's sort of like you can't really decipher what they're saying. But Cynthia does actually clock need for telling for saying that Kenny look like a buffalo. But there really was nothing beyond that comment. There was no like no one jumped in on that. And didn't ask follow up questions that cetera? All Indiana's still you're going to throw away your friendship without even hearing your explanation. But of course, news like doesn't have to explanation because she just doesn't believe Cynthia. Anyway. Yeah. Mean everyone's getting for me. I'm that. I'm that bitch. Everyone's coming from me if anyone else did that to anybody else. I'm like, no, you you barely been called out on it. And you did way worse. Just this season alone. Just in the past two weeks alone. Though, she is the biggest victim, blah. And then Eva is keeps trying to come in and save any for some reason, which I don't really get. But whatever you may be trying to be to show that she's like a rational person. So she'd be mad any. But also defender, I don't know. Yeah. So basically cynthia's like lick my question is if we're such masterminds that are trying to screw knee over at this party. What we get for it. Like, what do I what do I win in this like it ruins party? Like, it ruins a friendship. What do I win doing this? Nobody wants to pick up with meaning no one like everybody's been walking on eggshells around any for you. Years. No one is purposely starting a fight with knee and only one that did is fired Mike. Hi, Claudia Jordan. Yeah. Exactly. So then Andy asked this question where once again, you need does that thing where she just repeat something. So he goes, so Cynthia would you get out of your friendship with Nina? And he was like that's a great question, quiet. Eva Diego's how about this. Why don't you ask any what she gets out of her friendship with me? And so then he goes, well, he should ask you what you get out of a friendship with me. And so he's like he did just as and I told you ask you what you and I just wanted to ask you, Andy. Okay. Yeah. This is fun. Okay. I'm like, I'm literally exhausted talking about it. Clearly, it was not listening. I just love that. Like just like set it back to work. To be. So then we go to this crazy place. It's like the final moments reunion. Andy's let's read sins. Like. Are you nuts? So they read their terrible fortunes. Nobody's into it. And then he's like, you know, what would really help? Let's pray. Yeah. Well, we should we should also say before the fortunes. Yeah. There was like a few more little things with Cynthia ni nothing important. But but I did like that since he was like if I were weak would I be on this couch for nine years like will actually as you have been on the back of Meany for most of those years. So yeah. And then when you couldn't be on her back you were on Kenya's back. So. Yeah. Week people can make it on the show. It's like frogger you just jump on the right piece of wood and you'll make it across the lake or you're just physically weaking can't get off the couch. But then and then we hear from Porsche and portions basically like she basically says once she has the baby she'll start coming to advance again. But she just wanted to protect the energy around PJ. And and it just seemed like candy and Porsche where action of really good place which made me happy because at the end of this reunion that there's much favorites for sure like Porsche is just like I hope she gets the center peach next year, she won't, but I hope she gets it. Yeah. I agree. It was nice to see them kind of come to the. End of that. And I love it with camp Porsche, really learn how to speak candies language now. Because he's like I'll deal with whatever employees have to deal with even care come to your events and Canada. And now, we're friends you support my products, and I will support yours. So they read these fortunes as you mentioned, and they're all like having fun with them except for Nina. Andy reads hers, and it says you will go to go to someone's party and throw up in their bathroom and Andy. That was great. And he needs just like. Too soon. It was it was it was a tough moment when there was puke on my bathroom floor that was easily wiped up too soon too soon. Yeah. And then anti psych. Well, where do we go with Cynthia ni now, she's like listen I've had enough. It's like I'm exhausted. She's exhausting. I've done. It means like, oh, Nina so difficult, and then she. And you know, they just start into it again. And then and he's like, why don't we just all pray? Now what the fuck and the like. Yeah. You do you. But these women situations and actually are caught orchestrating so many MNO hit not him personally. But either him personally. And then it's like you. You know, you cause a war. Then you like, let's pray about it. I don't see people preying on a real housewives. So it's like the most hypocritical sit I've ever seen in my life. Exactly. Like, let's get back to some like superficial toast between frenemies. That's what I need not a prayer prayer for PJ, but still we don't need a prayer. Don't need. I don't need a prayer. Okay. Yeah. Thank the Lord. Speaking of praying little Lord Jesus. Thank you for ending this fucking season. I've had it. Okay. I need to go, relax. It's a stressful tire now about it. And like it was it was torture. Honestly, it was really hard all season long on my end to recap some of these episodes. It was like a really really tough time. And what we showed it for like a few weeks. You know, it just was so bad that we had to be had to shelve it sort of. No never done that with Atlanta. I don't think or not not in years. Well, now, we're going to have one of our favorite shows coming back real Haas Potomac. I know, but next we actually have a Potomac dozen star for two more weeks. So next Monday we're going to do project runway. I believe right. Yeah. 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S5 Sharmini Bonus: Potential Witnesses Emerge

Uncover

27:29 min | 1 year ago

S5 Sharmini Bonus: Potential Witnesses Emerge

"This is a CBC podcast. All right. I go yes how are you. I'm not that tired long day. You know I was really intrigue to get your email today. Thank you for reaching out. So why don't we start at the beginning. You believe. He saw her that day. So June Twelfth Nineteen uh-huh charming. He left home that morning to go to work. We have not been able to find that job. She was going to Please please release go kick we. They were really please. At least my somebody I have that or keeping in someone. Please please please please I beg you. The we never did that was developing was that she left home in the morning to go to a job at North York wreck but her friends were saying no no will. She was going to work as an undercover drug operative for four Stanley Tippett. I'm prepared to assume Stanley is telling the truth and I think everyone should. I wasn't charged in. I have nothing to do with should meet. I'm Michelle L. Shepherd and this is an update to our series uncover Sherman. If you haven't heard the series yet you can go back and listen to all six parts as we investigate the unsolved murder a fifteen year old shammy and undeveloped Sherman's killing was the first big homicide cover back in nineteen ninety nine when I was young crime reporter at the Toronto Star. I never forgot Cher meany or her family and I never forgot the suspect. In the case either Stanley Tippett Tipo was later convicted of crimes for criminally harassing to women and the sexual assault of a twelve twelve year old girl. He's in jail now indefinitely as a dangerous fender We started this podcast. Hoping we'd find something thing new something that would lead us to sharp means killer We spent a lot of time going through the evidence in her case including being examining allegations against it and looking into his convictions and we talked extensively with Matt. Krohn retire trotter homicide detective. He he spent years trying to build a case against him. Charming as death still haunts him GonNa. When I retired found myself apologizing to the family that we never solve this we never Resolve this issue for them so I think think they deserve resolution for this which they haven't had which nobody's giving them so that would probably mean more to me than any anything more you can do to Stanley Tippett job. But the evidence was circumstantial. There was nothing concrete to tie. Tip it to sharp meany. On the day she disappeared chrome brought his case to prosecutors anyway. But there wasn't enough for charges after podcast launched. Two people contacted to me. Joe Becker was the first. I was really intrigued to get your email today. Thank you reaching out. Yeah well story on the news last night galvanize me and push me into action on this okay. So why don't we start at the beginning. You go easy saw her that day. So James Twelfth Eighty nine. I was driving down Jane Street. Great and I stopped at the light at Lawrence first car stopped at the red light and and a bunch of people started walking across the road. Towards you know my vehicle crossing the road and just to be clear. We're going back now to to twenty years ago. This is what I was just looking at the people crossing. You promised me and I saw sure me who I recognize immediately when I saw her picture on the news reports later I saw a man walking across the road. You know not towards me but right in front of me and As looking at the guy a bit because because He caught my eye kind of weird. But I notice most of these iceberg like really too far apart and kind of down on the corners. If that makes any sense I was wondering how can you just killing time in my head we put late Jason. How come together like he looks like he should have a care worker? Something take him for a walk and then when I looked at her that she was assumed so she's much too young step. Yatir tater and light changed and I drove away. You remember anything else about him or maybe her what she was wearing or anything if I I if if I can say anything I think she he was she's wearing a white top and any it could have been like top and him he this'll normal except for stories facial features. No I'm asking you to remember something twenty years ago but that was when I wanted to impress upon Michelle I. I know that I saw her that day at that time. And I've known I've known for past one years. Joe Says he certain he saw sharp meany and Tippett that day tip. It has a condition that's known as teacher Collins Syndrome. The facts the bone development in his face so he's quite distinctive and that was always a big hole in the case that police had against it as far as we know no one his ever come forward to say that they saw them together. The daesh army went missing now. Joe Did see news reports about Charlene in nineteen ninety nine in the two days after her disappearance. He says he recognized her right away as the girl he saw crossing the street. that Saturday June but she didn't call police. No I didn't call the tweet. I always had a different place in my life at that time and you take involve. Whatever it is? Joe's life was just complicated back then. Essentially the way he Described it to me is that he says he didn't have it in them to get involved in a major police investigation. He was recently married and deeply involved with a former girlfriend and who had multiple sclerosis and not much longer to live. He was on his way to visit that friend at the hospital. The day he believes he saw tippit and Scher meany. And that's where I was going at the time so the thing was with the whole situation with my wife and this girl was very. Are you devoted to. I just went stretch pretty thin and I couldn't think I would allow anything else to come. I'm into my because my time was taken up one hundred percent just as a reminder Sharma went missing on Saturday June Twelfth Nineteen Ninety nine. She left her apartment on. Don Mills Road around nine. AM on her way to a job that didn't exist. Police believe leave. That offer of a fake job was a way for someone to lure her out of the apartment Matt Krohn the retired homicide detective believes the person who offered that job job was tip. It and the job he offered was for some type of undercover police. Operation the interesting thing was that he picked the job which in reality would have a certain amount of secrecy attached to it. So I'm going to give you this job as a place operative where where we are GonNa take you give you all the equipment you need radio and an pad and paper binoculars and we're going to put you in a place and you're gonNA look for drug dealing and when you see you call me on your radio and I'll swoop in with my team in arrest the drug drug dealers but because it is this you know secret police investigation. You can't talk to anybody about it and you can't even tell your parents about it. Uh so certain certain crooked genius to that Sherman did tell at least two friends is that she was doing undercover work and after she went missing police found this bogus job application in her room for a place called the metro. Search Unit Tip It was an obvious suspect because he knew Germany and he had lived one floor below her family's apartment and he did actually have a history of impersonating police police officers. I interviewed Tippett extensively back in one thousand nine hundred nine and again during six hours of jailhouse interviews for this podcast. He emphatically denies that he saw Sharma the day she disappeared or had any involvement in her death. He says that police they just had tunnel vision. And they were targeting Only him well. Joe Didn't contact police twenty years ago. He says he did tell some and family and friends about what he saw including his wife. There rose do you remember him talking about this case and sure meany the way back when I'll say he mentioned it because it's sort of an unusual thing for someone is to say and he brought it up last last year and he felt like he should have done something you know. Get it off his chest and I think Joe's Kinda relieved that he's done that but now after twenty years author details missing. Joe Says he saw her meeting on a Saturday and it was just before news broke of her disappearance but he can no longer say with one hundred percents certainty not that it was Saturday June twelfth. Whenever I happen to be watching television at an when this was broadcast it happened? Then what is it the next day or the next week. It was fairly quickly afterwards but I can't say exactly how many days Caesar anything like that. He can no longer be sure of the exact time either. Although he believes it was morning or early afternoon he also vaguely recalls halls that she was wearing a white knit top but her family told police. She was wearing a blue top with white stripes and Joe says he saw them at an intersection. More than twenty twenty kilometers from Charlene's apartment or the park where her remains were found. The second person who got in touch with Charlie Desouza so he found me on twitter and asked that. Give them a call. Hi Charlie Shepard. I'm I'm good. What are you doing? Charlie told me he saw Charmian Tippett together in the East on Park Land when he was jogging. That's a park where Sherman he's buried remains. It's profound in October. Nineteen ninety nine four months after she went missing. Charlie is a sixty four year old Tronto Transit Commission employees. He worked as a ticket ticket collector in Toronto subway system and is now just a couple months away from retirement. Unlike Joe Charlie hasn't spent years bothered by the fact that he didn't report what he saw to police. In fact he says he didn't even know what he saw until now he wrote it down in a letter that he read to me. Okay photograph. A Stanley was published in September. Two Thousand and nineteen. I recognize him as a man. I felt all in the East Don River Park twenty years ago was talking. Disarm any This incident locked in my brain and I could never remember it. I'm ready to take lie detector tests and kind of test w I'm telling you. The Charley says a newspaper paper report about our podcast and picture of Tippett triggered this long buried memory of seeing them together in the park when he was jogging. Once the memory came back back he said it was vivid was always embedded in my brain. I was running that. Be in the PUCK. I ran past them. I don't in my left. I saw him standing. Lean answer many sitting on a boulder Iraq was spending five. Yod Awed away from her now. When I heard this I was thinking what you're likely thinking? Now really come on. I can barely remember last last month. Let alone a tiny detail while jogging in nineteen ninety. Nine but Charlie is so convinced so we arranged to meet him in person and ask ask them to take us to the place where he believes he saw sharp meany and tip How do you take down criminal network hidden in the shadows? I tell them. I know that they're the ones who are running the largest child abuse website on the dark. What's the journalists working to expose the darkest corners of the Internet? That's your playroom for. That's your baby's clothes. That's my house. The police hunt down online predators. The environment the no we didn't we didn't make it. They made it hunting. MOORHEAD subscribe wherever you get your podcasts casts. We meet Charlie at the Leslie Street Station where he works and walk outside along very busy Bayview Avenue. He's walking pretty quickly. He's still has the gate of a runner with just a slight limp from Sony. So if you're going east right now rausing the street and this is the East Sunland Park. I always kept the name wrong. It's the East Dawn Parkland. It's huge a beautiful urban oasis north of Toronto with kilometers of trails following the Don River. Charlie used to jog here sometimes during his lunch. Break Fifteen to twenty minutes. A are you a random about fifteen minutes a day. Fifteen to twenty minutes Fresh if it's hard I know it was hot. Maybe I'm from India. Thus what I'm used to it Charlie. Says he knows the exact spot where he saw them that you can distinctly remember. The Boulder. Shami was sitting on. He's taken us to an area. That's actually not far from where her remains were buried. Charlie sees the boulder he recognizes and stops. Visit a place where she sat down and got. I wish I could do something. Sorry okay if he didn't came to me again and if I had known I would have put up with that I would have given them a tough fight no matter what if I only knew that. Okay or something I could have done to negative health for. I would have a good about showed up to that. She's GonNa Charlie knows people are unlikely to believe him and he says he's not worried about that about his reputation. He just really wanted to get this office chest and he hopes he can help. He contacted police and they did record a video statement at Toronto Ronald Police Headquarters. I was curious to know if this was common to recall something so seemingly insignificant so many many years later so I reached out to Morgan Barons. She's an assistant psychology professor at the University of Toronto and she founded. What's called the memory and perception lab Bob which researches just what it is in the brain that enables us to think and remember? It's kind of a very specific question that I have this podcast Asu working on and we look into a cold case from twenty years ago that I walk her quickly through what Charlie told us. He believes that's what he saw but he's not possible. I mean nothing is impossible. There are lots of memory that are lurking and we won't know that they exist unless they come to this effect there brought to the surface by some really rich huge but no reason I would think to store. I completely banal memory of having been jogging in vivid detail. Twenty years ago and the face of the individual who has been the victim. Morgan asked me how Charlie's memory was triggered and I told her it was from seeing a picture of tip in the newspaper which identified him as a suspect in Sherman. He's homicide so I could absolutely imagine if the Nereo Ilitch he saw this in edge edge and maybe hearing about the story cute a memory of having gone in the park so that everything is activated and then he moved. It was image of this then the picture that I also tell her. That tip is appearance is distinctive due to his treat your Collins Syndrome and people tend to remember seeing him if they were together maybe they looked like an unlikely pair. That's what Joe Becker said made him take such a close look would change things a bit And again go not saying that. It's not possible that this that he did that he did recall. The memory are that he did see what he says that he said. I'm just saying that. It's the more likely explanation that his memory was reconstructed with the information. That was right in front of him. Being the image of the of the suspect and with the best contention integrated that into what we call which is a vivid memory and for seeing the suspected victim. Morgan he says that's how our memories work. Sometimes they got sort of updated so what you remember may not be exactly how it was especially after twenty years. You think that's what you saw and maybe you did. But it's impossible to know for sure. I have no reason to believe that he does did not have the memory. I just think that it is unlikely that that memory is a perfect depiction of what he says it would stand up in court So let's go back to Joe Becker. Who says he saw Sean meaney and Tippett at the intersection intersection? Joe Contacted troubles. Homicide squad the same night. He reached out to me. We've been talking for a while before they did call him back and I said he come. I'm to police headquarters. So he did arriving at eleven. AM on a week. Day to give his statement. I called to see how it went and he says he was brushed off the detective. Who met him said he wasn't ready to take the statement or he didn't know the case file very well Joe to put? It politely was not pleased. He lives in King City about an hour outside of Toronto and came into town specifically for this interview. So I reached out to detective Sergeant Stacey Gallant head of the cold case unit. He sent an email disputing Joe's account saying his detective was fully prepared but Joe was in quote. No state to talk to police. Mr Becker upon arrival was not in any condition to be formally interviewed due to his physical state believed to be From alcohol consumption he wrote. I relate this to joe now he was really Matt. He vehemently denies the implication. He told me he doesn't even drink as our background across. We decided to go see Joe in person and Matt he wanted to come to. He was disappointed that Joe was brushed off off when he tried to give a statement to police. You got quite the buzz cut. Got Sick of the Santa Claus jokes. Yeah could you spell your last inform me e C K air. I just want to kind of go over the the why we're here today. And what we hope to achieve and as a result of the podcast from the CBC on Charlene End Ville case you reached out to Michelle was information and then in an effort to contact the police who had some frustration with that so as a result of that what we thought we would do. You is Would undertake an interview now just to Sorta get your information. Get an accurate record of your information but I want you to an I know Michelle's Dell's probably already explained this but I'm retired. I have no official connection with the case I have a big unofficial connection with the case. And uh-huh what I'd like to do with the fruits of today's interview. Send that to the police so we put it in a format that they're familiar with. That might be more helpful helpful so good with that now. Not Ask Joe Series of questions where he thinks he saw Sharma knee me and Tippett what they were wearing what was going on in his life at the time. And you recall what it taking you down to Jane and Lawrence Down there on a regular races. Joe's answers were pretty much. Exactly what do you previously told me. I'm just curious for Matt like what's your next step if talking to your colleagues about this and putting Joe on the stand well the difficulty is the timing of it. Based on the passage of time it's difficult to make it any better than it is and you seem like a credible guy. If I was a defense lawyer I wouldn't have a lot of questions for you. I would just put on a memory expert and say walk through this because Joe is not certain of the exact date when he believes he saw them his testimony Moni would carry less. Weight typically did not deny knowing Germany. Like if you were to say I didn't know or had never seen before we go wait a minute. We have a witnesses together other then it becomes much more significant. But and don't get me wrong. I really appreciate you talking today in than telling us this. It's just that the probative value of your evidence has diminished. Just what time can we just quickly address. What happened at police headquarters in terms of the he said He? He said what happened and Joe remains kind of upset about that. Did you find a way. I can't offer any explanation and I don't know what to say to you about uh other than offer you my apologies. You shouldn't have been treated that way. When Joe and Charlie reached out we were optimistic if our investigation prompted to possible witnesses to come forward while? That's one of the reasons. Why did this podcast to uncover the truth but dissecting their testimony really brings home the reality of how hard it is to investigate historic cases? We asked him fit if he would speak with us again. He declined police. Tell us now that they're reviewing this new information to see if it impacts the case determine if it's credible and if it would stand up in court is there enough dass prosecutors take another look. We'll continue to follow up. And if you want to reach US please write to who uncovered at CBC DOT CA in this episode of uncover. Shar meany was written and produced by Myself Michelle Shepherd and Alina Gauche or audio producer was having Kelly transcripts by Kelsey Cueva the senior producer of. CBC PODCASTS is Tony Springer an executive producer is our nor any thanks to our lawyer Farid Matala Kathleen Gold Har- and Chris and thank you for listening if you enjoyed our series stay tuned for the next season of uncover. Coming February fifth uncover satanic. Panic follows a disturbing phenomenon that was sweeping North America in the eighties and nineties. Satanic cults were torturing children forcing them to take part in gruesome rituals and then covering it all up hundreds were charged and scores convicted. The allegations were horrifying but the truth was almost as disturbing. It wasn't really happening and now nearly early thirty years later the people touched by it all are still picking up the pieces uncovers satanic panic unraveled. What really happened? And if we've learned fandel listen to the series trailer in this podcast feed in the coming days. Sh for more C._B._C.. Original podcasts Goto C._B._C.. Dot C._A. Slash original podcasts.

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Coachcast #1216  Seja produtivo de verdade

COACHCAST Brasil

07:58 min | 5 months ago

Coachcast #1216 Seja produtivo de verdade

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Fair use - what it means for podcasters

podnews

04:02 min | 2 months ago

Fair use - what it means for podcasters

"The latest from our daily newsletter at news dot net is on how to use commercial music in podcasts. Mainly says the words. No you come in a variety of different ways however the people who wrote the book on fair use literally respectfully disagree and say it's not risky at all to use music under fair. Use as long as you understand and use the courts interpretive logic there article may come as a breath of fresh air. You'll find it. Linked from our episode notes today and our newsletter and emails has resigned from the new york times almost two months after a significant issues discovered with cafes podcast which mills was a producer and co host. Well host rick meany kinda marci was publicly censored and removed to a different reporting area mills. Who accepted the peabody award. On the papers behalf for the podcast had not seemingly being disciplined. He's posted a full statement. Michael barbaro has not yet addressed the fact that his coverage on the matter didn't disclose caliphates executive producer. Lisa tobin is his fiancee which is in contravention of the editorial standards has written two. Npr stations and publicly apologized for attempting to silence critics. Meditation and wellness. Podcasts are on the rise says new data from spotify. The company reports two hundred and fifty percent increase in people listening to meditation. Podcasts where is my mind is a spotify exclusive show which the company mentioned as one of the most popular media personality. Paris hilton is to make a podcast says former vice president. Mike pence says actress and lgbtq plus advocate laverne cox and so odd drag superstars courtney act and vanity in facts. Everybody seems to be making a podcast apart from us. President joe biden is making something that looks like a podcast but won't be one. Spotify has been hosting anti semitic content according to joseph cohen writing in the jewish chronicle rising for news rebecca wolcott. Podcasts helping caribbean people. During the pandemic nathan best chance formerly gimblett writes a quote post mortem for social podcast discovery. And how did two thousand nine hundred twenty influence podcasting zeh nap. Hasaan notes that some categories saw increased listenership as a result of the difficult year. It's time for some textile twelve point. Three percent of all podcasts. Now use a podcasting. Two point hundred namespace tag most of them using the locked tag nine point three percent but a further one point three percent used both locked and funding hats based on a sample of over. Forty two thousand. Rss feeds the pot. News inspected last week a week ago. The figure was just ten. Point seven percent of podcasts. It's rising quite fast. Now we're at the end of phase two person location season and episode. Our tags that have been formally adopted into the new podcast. Namespace will linked to their full implementation details today. How i built a complete p. two p. r. s. podcast app and a single html file. It's a blog post. Which is fascinating discussing a thing called tailored flow a podcast app in a single html file and podcast news today from cbc. Podcasts me is transforming the way we experienced theater by turning contemporary plays into apple audio dramas and we thank the cbc for their support. Sounds profitable this week. Has dave zohrab from charitable as a special guest and a familiar voice. If you listen to this podcast. And in the bbc's friday night comedy podcast a lockdown panel show with age difference and a live audience on zoom. Listen to see how zoom could work to provide feedback. And that's the latest from our newsletter. Subscribe all the links at pod. News dot net.

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The Curious Origins of Eddie Van Halen's Two Hand Tapping Technique (Rockin' Rant #18)

The Loudini Rock and Roll Circus

08:03 min | 2 years ago

The Curious Origins of Eddie Van Halen's Two Hand Tapping Technique (Rockin' Rant #18)

"Uh? All right, everybody. Just caught me practicing a little bit of my two hand tapping technique. By the way, do you know how and where the two hand tapping technique, gut started most people think even Halen well dates back a bit before even Halen. That's the subject of today's rock and rats stick around. You're listening to the Lou Dini rock and roll circus changing rock history one podcast at a time. Art, everybody. Welcome back to the Ledeen rock and roll circus Rockin ramp is I believe is rock and eighteen already. So you can find out all about that. But going to Dini rock and roll circus dot com. That is our super fantastic. Excellent amazing website. That has all your Lou Dini needs will be met there with wild exhilaration and intimidation. The lot of a great shows like the Lou Dini, hard rock and metal circus, which goes live. Every was it every Tuesday on rock radio. There's tons of interviews there. Plus, there's this thing some guitar stuff all kind of calls and this is speaking of Qatar. This is a Qatari thing here before the beginning. I'm not I'm not a great tapper, but you can't have grown up in the eighties plank. Atar not done a little bit of. Okay. Little bit of that something. But a lot of people feel are would say that they're I experience with to an tapping came from Edward van Halen. And of course, eruption, you know, the guitarist rise to man have learns at least some of eruption at least at that time. You did. But actually the technique dates back way. Let me get my notes up. Sorry. If I'm looking from screen for secondary. Are let me get my notes up the technique actually dates back pretty far. First of all, it's not all that crazy of an idea if you think about it guitar player a guy sitting down, he's planning ATar babies practicing three four five hours. Today's getting pretty good at it. He knows that you can do this. Hammer on and pull offs. So it isn't that far stretched to go. Leewards store. Isn't really that? Big of a stretch. I suspect that tapping on the neck of the tar was probably the first things that happened on the Qatar wants people, you know, look comfortable with strumming and plucking the Netflixing notes and finger picking or whatever that tapping probably wasn't all at far behind. Now. There is a classical connection to this technique with violinist pag Meany and pag Anini would perform left-handed hammer on and pull offs on the violin while tapping other notes with the bone sort. I'm trying to do a violent and I'm not a violent at all. But I imagine it would be if you're looking at me, I have a the left hand up and say, the right hand would have the bow. And he would tap against the next to the neck of the violin to get additional notes to play, you know, more intricate involved, our page ios and things like that. So we're while ready way before way before van Halen when we're talking about pag Anini. As far as guitar goes. It is known that towel for the jazz are towel. Follow used to hand tapping Harvey Mandel, not to be confused with Howie Mandel Harvey Mandel of canned heat was witnessed doing to to anti by both by George Lynch. Eddie van Halen both said they saw him. Do it that goes pretty far back now Steve Hackett his claim that he's the first guitarist to record to do studio recordings using that tech neek. Recently a couple of people called into. Eddie trunk show and said that they saw ace doing it, you know, like in the early seventies. So it's not it. It's really it's really not all that unusual of a thing. What really popularized? It is Eddie sound when you have a sound. By way, I'm using the Moore preempt pedal that is based on van Halen sound the Brown sound. Not that Brown's out when you have a great tone. We get a lot of sustained in a lot of gain. It makes the two hand tapping will kind of pop in a way that just couldn't get without having like more of a high gain type amplifier type pedal setup or whatever. Let me play this with clean sand tray the difference. It's cool. But it doesn't have the same impact. Okay, because you had harmonica, and it just makes the whole thing richer fuller beggar, and you get more sustained and gives your I it gives you the ability to actually do more Edward and a lot of these guys can play chords like that and whole riffs and everything. And it really was the advent of the high gain sound, which by the way van halen's responsible for as well that really popularized the two hand tapping on the neck technique by many other artists going going down the line. Steve Lynch from autograph a lot of lot of Steve Vai. Of course, there's a great scene at the end of crossroads where he actually playing. A pag any peace in he's using two hand tapping with it. So kind of bringing that whole thing full circle. So guys that is a sort of whirlwind tour of the history the origins of two hand tapping. So now, you know, all right, this what you get when you listen to the Dany rock and roll circus. Speaking of that, the Ludi rock and roll circus, our websites, Lucchini, rock and roll circus dot com. If you would like to party with me live while I'm doing these rock and rant and some of our other stuff, you can go to my inner circle in my inner circle. I do I'm actually recording this live in my inner circle. Group on Facebook. And then it gets edited down and put up all the places, but there's people hanging out with live, and we talked before and after it's a lot. It's a very cool thing. And you can get more information about that, Lou Lombardi music dot com, backslash inner circle and along with that you get some exclusive music. There's some stuff that that you can't get any place else cover releases and things like that. So check all that Lombardi music dot com slash inner circle. All right, guys. Thanks for hanging out. I love it. Keep the get those two hand. Fingers two hand tapping fingers going and catch you guys all on the next Lucchini rock and roll circus.

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84: The Carb-Slashing Episode

Hungry Girl: Chew The Right Thing!

43:05 min | 1 year ago

84: The Carb-Slashing Episode

"Hungary oh Ooh I'm so hungry. Hey hungry humans. It's me Lisa Lillian. Also known as hungry girl. Aw I love that theme song. I called the office the other day and that theme song as the whole music but it played like thirty times row. UH-HUH I was like. Oh are we really doing this to people the weird to put you on hold. I was like ball to put lease on hold. Just doesn't seem like something I should have done. I loved it. Felt like the seven version uh-huh Anyway it's good to see you guys. I'm here with Mike and Jamie. We are at hungry land where we always are. You could always find us here. Have a purple table at the PERP. Everyone's always like weighty media record the PODCAST and I'm like see that purple table. That's it anyway. It's very exciting Today's episode I am thrilled about it is the carb slashing an episode and CARBS. Lashing is I don't know it's just like probably one of the most popular things we hear all the time. How can we cut carbs? What he got as far as recipes were food fines that are carved slash easy if there is such a thing I know we've done a carb episode like a card swap episode in the past but it is something that just keeps popping up right we hear about it all the time now nonstop and even if you're not carb conscious it's just the way to cut calories because they're all these swaps are generally lower in calories generally they are and healthier too so and even? If you don't know I don't know everybody should just listen through this episode and it's a really important one because it is so near and dear to in my heart and as Jamie was saying like even if you don't think you're watching your car you can drastically cut carbs and cut calories at the same time. And then all of a sudden you're believer lever in the carp slashing right yeah or you can moderately slash carbs every little bit every little bit counts. It sure does it does Mike and you count to. So what are you right now. I know you have some interesting news for us. I do. This could actually help I guess with carb slashing labeling food with the amount of exercise needed to burn off the calories in it can help people make better dietary choices. That's according to a study published online in the Journal of Epidemiology Epidemiology Penola Santamaria Epidemiology Journal for example Two hundred and Fifty Calorie Candy Bar might tell you that you need to run for twenty five minutes to burn off the calories. The study found that when people selected foods and drinks using pace labeling. They're calling you pace labeling. The meals they select to contain about sixty five fewer calories than when there were other types of labelling blink or no labelling so you'd look at the package and it would say like this serving of potato chips. You have to run for thirty minutes when you eat it kind of would work for Ma'am. AM Super Lazy so funny because that's like the content we do. We've been doing this for years now. Here's a fetus. Here's how long you have to vacuum your living room for four Bern that on I think it's effective in many ways. It's more effective than just giving the calorie counts because some people they don't understand that information they don't know how many they burn what it takes to burn that amount of calories so could be helpful. I just don't think it's actually going to happen. No I don't know who would really say context and also. How do they decide what activity? AH JUMPING JACKS RUNNING vacuuming file. Your nails for thirty two hours if you eat this bite of this neck anyway. In theory it sounds fun and it goes in line with the The thing we did last week with the The full portions you know like the the labeling. It says dollars with a whole bunch more realistic and that'll happen but on top of that. That's a lot of information on the back. Where are they going to put the ingredients anyway so we are talking about carbs lashing this week we a lot to cover? I think what what we'll get into is staples and hacks and snacks and tips and food finds. We have a lot of things to taste. There's a lot going on. It's like an the reason why we're GONNA go into such detail. Here is because this is truly how I live like I. Since since probably two thousand and four have gone very light on what I call starchy carbs and people are always like what the heck is starchy carb. But it's like you know Pasta. Rice is potatoes chips things. I do eat a lot of fruits and veggies and they're loaded with carbs but the starchy carbs. Those are my trigger foods and so I don't really eat bread and I don't really eat potatoes very much and I don't really pasta but I have swaps for all of those things and they just make your life so much easier and I find when I incorporate those things into my life. I will naturally just eat fewer calories and feel more satisfied. Yeah I'm the same way it's helped me maintain my weight like I don't track as religiously as I did when I was losing weight but by kind of filling my diet with these foods it just it makes it easier. You reduce your calories without even thinking about it. Yeah it's better and smarter so we loaded up today with stuff so we're GONNA start by talking about our sponsor of the week. This is very exciting. It's a new sponsor. PARM CRISPS PARM crisps. Rock my my face off. I am person honestly. I love salty. Crunchy snacks and I've always said this. Probably in a million interviews. If left to my own devices I. We didn't entire bag of chips so I don't really keep like potato chips in the house. I find that these type of Chris by the way they. They're all cheese they're crunchy. They're low in calories no carbs no zero to carbs nagging like no carbs and the thing thing about them is because they're slightly higher in fat they really fill you up so I feel like A. I don't feel the need to eat the entire bag of these and be they satisfied Fidai like savory really flavorful crunchy snack urge the ultimate low carb chip swap foreshore. And these coming. I duNno Brazilian flavors. We have a ton of flavors here. Today they come in original they come in like potato chip flavors like sour cream and onion Cheddar Jalapenos in your sesame pizza these are all separate. Flavors it's not like it's one long flavor so therapy non charter Jalapeno sesame pizza original and maybe maybe we should just bite into one of these. Because I don't think I've ever tried the pizza. 'cause I'm obsessed with the original and the Cheddar who wants to try the give us. These are probably really high in protein too because it's it just changed their totally high in protein. In fact let him finish chewing. I'll tell you nine grams per serving. That is so good. They're so crunchy and you can put them in a salad you can do. You don't have to snack on them but like five of these. Were six of these there so satisfying after Cheddar one. I can't even even think straight. That's so good. That's more satisfying to me than like chips or cracker. Like I would reach for that every time because the flavor is just so they're so present and what's Mike trying. How come he gets threes? Trying Cheddar I will try. I love the Cheddar and sour cream and onion so good where do people get these You can get them almost everywhere. So that's the the thing about these sure they're on Amazon. If you're like me a one click maniac but these are found at like whole foods and Kroger and Safeway and target and walgreens. Check your local stores if you WANNA find them. They're called parm crisps accept no substitutes. He's my teammates. Happy do more base happy and they are big Din oven they are not fried and just over the stats again. Ninety to one hundred calories per serving zero to two carbs seven to nine grams of protein about three points. It's I would put like to Chris on a hamburger as I can. Sit with all dill pickle flavour. Punch they go find them. Kito friendly oven baked. Okay moving on we are starting today's podcast of Carb slashing Ching with some staples because why not review the staples and the things that you can have around to help you succeed in the world of cars lashing right. We all want to be successful fall so bring it on. Bring it on first thing is rice cauliflower I love Rice cauliflower because I am all about things that will fill me up. That don't add a lot of calories to my world and rice cauliflower. It may be the number one thing these days. 'cause it's just good in any way shape or form. I use it in breakfast bowls. I use it in stir fries I just love rice cauliflower and a cup of regular rice just to put it in perspective has about two hundred calories and forty four carbs but a cup of cauliflower rice thirty five calories and six and a half carbs. Oh my gosh so think about the difference. There you get a three cups and not even come close Tsk right and I do. I usually have so I will have one hundred calories worth cauliflower rice industry like wow. I've eaten a lot and you can do like uh comes just have oh cauliflower rice with truffle salt or I throw a wedge of laughing counted or obviously a bazillion hungry recipes. Call for it you can get it frozen. I feel it's a safe bet to just keep bags of it in freezer I have a blender. I'm a person I can buy ahead of cauliflower and I make my own sometimes but green giant rice cauliflower. Ah You know I keep that in my freezer all the time same and you could buy fresh if you really WanNa bite in the produce section. You could do that too. There are just so many options for it. There's no excuse not to have it right in love it okay. Next staple spiraled veggie noodles. Same thing here only to me. This is even better example apple. Because I'm not a rice-eater so I eat cauliflower rice. You know. Of course I do love right race. That's another product but we'll talk about that another day because that's different for me a different different eating occasion but it's one of my absolute favorites but I don't typically eat real rice to me eating right Rice's my version of but cauliflower is I think of it more as like oh it's a Veggie but when it comes to when it comes to noodles I would really in a perfect world. I'd love to eat Spaghetti Spaghetti so as a small serving of spaghetti which is probably about a cop has around two hundred calories. It's like a joke. You would never get that at a restaurant and right the thing who could stop it a top of spaghetti I am not. I would eat three or four cups of Spaghetti. I would on average think I would probably be having a thousand calories worth pasta without the sauce or whatever else you meet with it and that's probably what you get served at a restaurant. Yeah you're you're probably right. I can and think about how many carbs because it's forty cars per cup per cup. Yes so it's probably like one hundred to one hundred and fifty carbs getting. My mom would say vay foyer as everyone's mom like when I make pasta you get those the boxes right. And that's what four servings is in the box again. I am doing like the half the box and eight that eating a lot. Oh my again But the veggie noodles like Zucchini noodles thirty five calories a cup seven carbs. Oh that's like think about how many cups you can have a lot And we do those again. You can buy those frozen. You could buy those fresh or you could just make it yourself. That's even easier because I have a little. It looks like a pencil sharpener. It's like the Big Eddy. Eddie or have the hungry girls paralysed or I have millions by allies irs. You just use it like a little pencil. SHARPENER Yukimi turns into spirals Akini noodles. You throw them in a skit for like two minutes. They could not cook up faster. There's absolutely no excuse. You know one of my favorite ways to eat them is Are Low main- recipe to me like I think you could fool someone. I think it tastes just like low. Main- does without the grease. Yes but it does. You're right because you know what with the flavors with the soy sauce with with the scallions with the chicken all the like you know. Water chestnuts. it's just there well if it takes on the taste of what you cook it with so even when Marinara gets like that. Savory you know deliciousness agreed and of course you can't is not the only veggie can spy realize I mean there's paralyzed carrots which I prefer to buy then make because that's you need the big ten by relies on which basically sits under my counter for most of the time And Spaghetti squash wash now giant Spaghetti squash you just out of the bag. God wait. Is it not out yet it just just just debut. It's so we've how did here for a while but it's a little. Just throw it in the microwave and it could not be easier because we hear all the time. Spaghetti squash is so cumbersome how do you cut it. Why don't even know what it looks like? How do you get the seeds out if you want the easiest spaghetti? Squash green giant makes frozen. They're like little pieces spaghetti. Squash throw them into the microwave. And you're done that's it. Yeah I'm pretty excited about that. One as his everyone look Mike. Space Pseudo excited all right the third state bowl. This is a product that I probably probably discovered maybe a year year and a half ago was truck tank product. We've written about it a lot. It's we've run ADS for this product but it's just in my life all the time and I I I pull it. It's like the rabbit that I pull out of a hat full people with all the time. Paul meany Paul meany. I remember the first time I tried to. I was you're into them. Like no one one had ever heard of them they were such an obscure product. And the first time you put a can on my desk could not believe how good they are. It's just hard to palm right. It's hard to palms by realized until like Linguini shapes and one of the things I like best about it is when I talk about it which I do when I use my speak text. Siri things I'm saying. Paul meany Paul meany some some guy in social studies class. That was telling you your hideous or Paul meany anyway. But it's Paul meany p. a. l. m. i. n.. I I get mine on Amazon. It's easiest and you're there in pouches now and lasagna shapes. Oh yeah the sheets yeah. Those are great. Yeah they are great. They're more specific but they're great to. We showed my mom because she makes lasagna. It's the most fattening lasagna. It's good so the whole pouch or Canepa many any sixty calories. Think about what you can do the fun. You could have with that what you could add to it how you could spruce it up. I mean I again use Marinara I use laughing cow creamy sauce. Red Sauce sometimes I make a cold salad vinaigrette and some tuna with I like it real you take. Did you feel like it has like a what is it. Tastes tastes like hearts of Palm. So if you the the way people probably come in contact with hearts is at a salad bar or something like in the salad so it does have a slightly sour taste to it but I just mask the sauce intentionally sour tart. I don't know I mean I don't know where it comes comes from to be honest because I don't know if it's if it's the way it's what it's packed with or if it by nature has a sour taste I I wish I knew more about it but I always mask it. Whatever whatever it is it's awesome and it always taste good when you have you make it for me when you put the stuff on it? You know. Happy to make it for anyone if you haven't tried it We on the podcast a a few months ago and I loved it now. It's great we did try. I'm glad you remember because there are people listening that are probably like hey. I heard Mike eating that anyway. The fourth staple somebody. I always have around. And this is an Oldie but a goodie house foods. Tofu Sheriff Turkey. How Retro I know a lot of other people make sure talk lucky just to remind people? Those are the Japanese noodles. They come in a bag floating in water. Sure Talkie is a very traditional Japanese staple when the sheer talking noodle came to America people were saying I don't like it they didn't like the texture. So how's foods brilliantly infused a little tofu into a traditional shirt talking noodle to make it taste and feel a little bit more traditional pasta and it has a tiny bit of calories. Maybe like twenty calories a serving or and it's it's from the Tofu because the Yam flour is practically you know the Coney Aku Yang flowers calorie free but the addition of that. Tofu makes all the difference in the world. And I I just love these noodles is so much you can do with them. I've been eating them forever. I remember we like broke their website. We broke our website. We broke the extra television website when I first I brought them on. TV back in the day. But they really. I don't know they hold up. Yeah they're very polarizing. Though I like that they have like a nice al dente taste to it but I feel like the people bowl. He always say this when when people say they don't like it you always tell them they're not doing it right. What's it's about well? The thing is the day Nisus the texture of the YELM flower. So that keeps it. It's it's not super soft. They're a little chewy but some people I feel like there's two big mistakes. People make one. They sniff neutral when they they open the pack. Don't do that keep your nose to yourself people like you don't need to sniff everything before you eat it if you sniff. The bag has sometimes as a weird smell so I never really sniff that. I don't help them not putting people off but just like throw it in a calendar. Rinse them very well If you don't rinse them you're not. There's nothing bad that's going to happen to you. But that'll get rid of a little bit of the weird smell and then another problem which is even bigger that people don't dry them enough. They're very watery so like I would use dozens of paper towels like just squash him. One time. I had a clean like a bath towel. I know you think it's a weird thing but you have to get the moisture out. I like them in a skillet. 'cause I feel like I do like sort of medium high heat and it just evaporates. That's great too if you WANNA break out the skillet even better so it all works. And they're very long long. Cement WanNa chop them a little. Because I once was twelve feet long my mom too. I have a picture of her holding up above her head so big. I don't know I don't know what happened. And I think the chopper at the factory failed. I don't know how it passed inspection but it happens and those are just like six grams of carbs back for the whole bag. Yes yes six grams of carbs so in palm just four. I don't know if we said that. Oh I don't know if we did either but these are great swaps paddle truly and they will make they will make your food go further. So let's talk about meal expanders volume metrics and things of that nature. All of these things are perfect. Okay the next just the next staple is this one boring. No it's Jamie's favorite jet will give you a hint it's green. It's crunchy Jamie's favorite food. It's so I think let us the me. I'm always like searching for vehicle. Like what can I put my Turkey. John what can I put my this or that on. Lettuce is a good go-to for that so instead of bread which I really avoid a lot of time if you have let us in the house I like to keep like big Romaine leaves and I use that as a bun or you chop it up and you make a burger bowl or salads. It's just a good base so I I mean Jamie could definitely speak to the joys of lettuce more than I could well. I like any kind of food that you're craving. You can sell it a fire lettuce virus like cheeseburger Saleh. That's one of my favorite things. I'll do like ground meat and some laughing cow. Put that over with like pickles. That is the best burger fix. I mean you can even do it with like Turkey. Pepperoni the and Mozzarella on your salad gives you like pizza fix. It's true but that big Mac Burger Bull. We're putting could we please put the rest of the plunger percent on our page. twitches hungry dash girl dot com slash food care Speaking of the you know I'm GonNa Break Right now and and ask the audience a question that I meant to ask up at the top of the show that I didn't before we get to the next SWAP or staple. We're thinking of moving the podcast to Wednesday's at that you were gonna I say to another building. I was like really like it. I like it in my office butcher but like earlier in the week so people can get it sooner instead of on Fridays. We heard I don't know Mike is always doing research. Because he's like the podcast Maven of the group and he said you're that people listen to podcasts Wednesday Thursday Friday or big days but the weekend really drops drops off so like why not drop the podcast earlier in the week. Yeah kind of like that because then I feel like even if I don't listen to it the day debuts it's more like on my radar throughout the we can listen listen to it on my lunch break. Yeah so what do you guys think this is. I mean I ask you to. Please text Mike and let us know what you think. Do you think we should start dropping the podcast on Wednesdays instead of Friday's eight. Oh five three zero eight. Oh seven five you said let us let us know. Let us this James. He's got lettuce on the bridge too. But you should let us know Mike again. That number eight. Oh five three eight. Oh Eight oh seven five please please please texts Mike and say hey I like the podcast any day of the week or keep it on Friday or Wednesdays at is we really are depending on you. Okay we ready for the sixth staple the number six number six lower carb tortillas so these are like Tortilla swaps and we have a bunch here actually. I know I'm so excited. We're finally getting to the eating part. I know I'm so freaking hungry right now. 'cause I'm still intermittently fast answering today. went over seventeen hours. Break your arm crisp. I didn't I broke my fast right before guys with with one of the snack finds from later in the episode which I will tell you about But no lower carb tortillas again like I love to find a vehicle and these are brilliant. So what are we have here. I we have fresh Hickama to you. I can't wait to try these low Hickam how Emma did they do it and Mike Enzi means before even how do they do that. How many calories are there like one eight eight account? They must have like a giant machine and they need a giant Hickama. They do need a giant glowing the pieces together now so it's so thin it's so thin and about one or two carbs. crunchy sweet Hickam us. This great grandma's like an apple. I don't know why but it feels like an apple like texture as an apple but you can do a lot with these truly I my favorite thing to do is make Turkey roll ups with them and the sweetness of the Hickama our for a little bit of a pickle like a dill pickle and it's Leisa Turkey roll it up done and you can buy these supermarkets like Heb Vons role. I'm getting those like a real down the street. I'm going on the way home. And they're a little scared but they are worth seeking out and they're just made of Hickam on there in the produce section. They're chilled so it's basically eating a vegetable. That was sliced cleverly. Yeah it's literally one and a half to two crimes of carbs crazy next up. We've got CRA Pini Egg vins every time I hear creepy. I think of like very fancy magician the great gripping these are the the ones that are maybe sweet potato but they make regular just egg white than's and then they make sweet potato version and we're going to taste these tribal sweet potato. One okay to me is going to open them should they give the stats. I'll give this. That's eight to ten calories. How many carbs zero carbs? I was GONNA say paper-thin in but they're even thinner so this cauliflower gluten free grains or sweet potato by them at grocery stores like Publix Publix sprouts and select select Walmart locations. And I'm going to describe these little. They are like very very very thin very crepe lake so I don't if I've tried the sweet potato ones. It's really good really good. These would be good cinnamon like with like Vanilla Greek yogurt or a Cottam and you like flavor up so young. We'll talk about that double decker Chalupa years ago. You could take you could take that Crepe Pini with the Hickama And do like a double decker. Wrap with those together. That'd be really tasty. I think maybe Mike wants to recipe. What you think? That's good no. They're good though. That's really good with cheese. Pair that with cheese out of this world next up we've Got Outer Isles Sandwich thins. An I wouldn't wanNA say an Oldie Goodie but there's this lovely woman from Santa Barbara who created this brand outer I'll she was the first to really be creative cauliflower before anyone else's far as I'm concerned and she makes these amazing cauliflower a little flat tortillas and have fifty calories to carbs they come in original Jalapeno Italian Howlin these are thank Jalapeno ones. I've never tried New York tasty pizzas entities are all. It's the best for these are Sturdier than the things we've tried right so far. We're we're going up in starting wait grab a piece of that they are much dirtier so and and I guess we should probably have a rating system like one is just a vegetable on its bitter. ooh That's the Hickama and then the crippen is like a crepe. This is like a crust. It's almost like a skinny pizza that Guinea Lago. That's great I want that I like it more. I WANNA put apple sauce on it. Oh Yeah Oh it's really good Do it Mike. We should stock up next. Go to whole foods. That's the Jalapenos. A slight bit of heat cheese or laughing. How so good? You can do anything with those. They're very rich tasting I don't know how she does it but she's a genius Again by those in a whole foods I think that may be the only and then online online. Find them on the outer island. Okay and if you don't like these amazing swabs I can't imagine why he wouldn't if you WANNA go full Tortilla Tortilla. There are carb slashed tortillas on shelves a lot of brands may come. We like to Moreau's they make a car wise Tortilla that is only three to seven net carbs. which is pretty low for real tortilla? Yeah but you can look at your local store for that. Just read the labels okay. We are loaded up on staples tables. I think everyone feels like they can get moving now but but we're not done yet. We have a lot more of the show. Love next up hacks X and snacks packed John Sachs. It's fun to say we need. We need a little theme song hacks and snacks what we do. Should we go back. He's in a long time. We need a snack version Anyway that was pretty fancy. I thought it'd be good to focus on some foods that I personally am obsessed with and ways that you can enjoy them them because these things have been lifesavers for me and one of the things that I love more than anything is pizza And I think everybody likes pizza down pizzas one of those things that like to this day like. I take lolly lolly therapy dog and we go to the hospital every single week and visit people who are bedridden a little bit older this one thing the one common in denominations everybody loves dogs but I think even more than they love dogs pizza when I bring pizza makes everybody happy so I don't care if you're two or one hundred and to pizza makes you smile brings us all together until your pants don't fit and then you're like well how the heck do I get to eat pizza and finished my pants and that's why I have these pizza acts today so The problem with pizza is usually the crust which is overly carby and this is a carb slashing episode so here are some carb slashed crusts. One is Portabella mushrooms. So very cute. She's like Ooh we have heard that war awar- recipes for portability pizzas mini ones. Big Full size white pizza red pizza seventeen books anyway. This is something we've been doing forever but in in case you're out there and you don't know about it a portabella mushroom cap like a big a big one is thirty five calories and six cards. It's a fantastic pizza crust. And you probably I'll be thinking how the heck do I do that. You just bake it for like ten to twelve minutes at four hundred degrees and then you like I want to get the water out of it but then you top it and bake it until until your pizza toppings melt and it's that easy. There are real official recipes but you could just wing it. I promise. And it's like it's like deep dish. It doesn't taste like a pizza it's across but it's just a great way to get a pizza. It's like pizza. Doesn't necessarily take pizza grasp but all of these things that I'm going to talk about probably it's the same but I I will all say it like I feel like with pizza. It's all about the flavors. It's like the Marinara sauce. And the Italian spices and the gooey cheese and the Turkey pepperoni or whatever liberals you put on it. Those are the things that matter. The bread does not matter so the next thing you can use as a pizza crust egg whites or egg substitute and that's more a little bit more like a breakfast pizza but you just cook up a little like egg patty and your skillet make sure you use a nonstick pan or some Some Pam just is to make sure it doesn't stick so you just cook up a little crust and then you're good you just top it with your toppings. Probably use some of our Tortilla swaps like the egg thins. You could use a little crowd absolutely absolutely for sure. That's even easier But yes any of the things we just talked about. They work as across. But they're not on this list but yes they all they all work work but the next thing on this list. Green pepper halves. My husband actually discovered that he's the one that started making green pepper pizza. Back in two thousand. I remember Dan good pepper pizzas excape snazzy. Anyway you just like slice your peppers you get the flat part of the Green Pepper Bake it for about twenty minutes again. Topping the pizza and Bacon total whatever it is melted and delicious and a medium Green Bell. Pepper the whole pepper twenty four calories so yes really yes even the big ones. Yeah I mean I don't I mean they're not all exactly twenty four but they're roughly like twenty to twenty five gallons. That's why you see me. Put them in my Omelette every oh ooh watch and learn another great top another great pizza crust swap just ground meat. That's a little more complicated. So like I I. I would use a chicken breast before the ground meat but but any kind of meat or ground meat is good as I. It's just slightly more complicated. The recipes we have for me to we should just link. Let's put that. They're so good because they are riva sheet pan one. That's going on with the big giant so good and the serving sizes is tremendous. Somebody said you know. This is just a flat meatloaf. I'm like well it's delicious and tastes like pizza so go home Karen. Yeah why it and enjoy. It was her name. Karen Karen Jamie would never out Karen like that and never the next hacking snack snack. This is just a really good one and it's very hungry girl. I just wanted to talk about them again today. Because I wanted to eat them in the pike and I'm so I've been steering them. I loved it. There's one for each of us. They're so oh beautiful. These are cucumber pickle subs we. I think we only have pickles ABS. Yes we only made the pickles. I did a facebook live with the cucumber sub. So you're probably asking what's a pickle Saab. What's a cucumber sub in case you don't know these are sandwiches that you make using pickles or cucumbers as the the bread so it is so smart so you slice your pickle or you cucumber and you take the seeds out or you know if you really lazy put a little mustard and then throw whatever you want these have like lettuce tomato and Turkey inside the pickle and a little mustard do not easily? That's a good one. Yeah with the cucumber. That's that's the Michigan do that and then you know what else I use it for. I do smoke salmon ones because I love smoked salmon but I will never eat bread with it at so go with cucumber and if you add everything. Bagel Eagle seasoning. Done six. I mean you don't yeah you could or you don't even you don't even have to be that fancy I do. Every I sliced cucumber throws smoked salmon on it and whatever you would normally put with your smoke salmon just use the cucumber instead of the bread. There's some oh wait we're we're going to eat a pickle Sino but first let's have our ooh number and smoked salmon and everything bagel cucumber bite moves Bouche out. People notice what happened about a minute ago but you guys were coming up up in new recipes. This is what happens here at hungry land. You all just start talking and new recipes. Come up behind the scenes just happened to you on the podcast in front the CEO behind the scenes happened. We can try the pickles lease. Look them we get plates or I don't care giving so I'm good today. So this pickle sub has like I mean what like twenty calories daily is no no. I think just the pickle pickle bunt onto because I bet it's a half maybe I don't know you let's so these have hardly any calories like you make big subs the whole thing. Probably have less than one hundred calories. Sixty st calories counting creepy. I'm sure we sound like animals. Probably that's perfect. You who needs bread I was. We're we're literally just going to say that you do not need the bread and pickles. The reason why we went with for cucumbers I was because we always hear from people saying we need to cut sodium. If you're not watching your sodium pickles if you're watching sodium US cucumbers and next up a snack and hack situation. It's it's just the joys of using eggplant I like implant. I love eggplant and eggplant. I just feel is very underrated. A lot of people are put off by eggplant. They think they don't like they don't realize what it's in that they do like they feel like it's hard to cook They feel like it's complicated or they don't like the way it looks at the store because it's big and purple all and you're like how do I cook that in slice it the thing is you can do so much with it You can make little eggplant sandwiches. Where like the plan is the breadth? Oh how cute cute but usually it works well with cheese and we've got some great rams. That's a fork and knife one. Yeah or like lasagna. Just like sliced eggplant or you can just bake Baker and eggplant loaded up like lasagna You can make eggplant pizza. That's another thing you can use it as your pizza crust role. Latinas you roll I love your ricotta and make an Italian dish out of it and to Ladas with eggplant instead of the tortillas. It's it's just great. It's just the thing is people think it's difficult to work with. One of the big problems is they. Don't get the moisture out of it so you have to really bloated well to get the moisture out and then sprinkle it with a little salt just just to absorb more of the moisture pat with paper towels. That's how you get it as dry as you can. But do the paper towels I than the salt and then cook for about six minutes per side in. Okay Grill Pan or skillet just like you have to cook it to death risk longer. Yeah Yeah if you're impatient you're gonNA chewy eggplant that like makes a noise when you bite into it and you're GonNa be put off by now. I hate noisy food. Well actually those palm cursor noisy and delicious but you want your replant to be tender You can also just bake it in the oven. Three seventy five for twenty or twenty five minutes and flip it halfway when you have your slices Not just the whole eggplant and try it plant and let us know what you think because it is too good to pass up all right. We've got another hack and or snack. ACT COMING OUR WAY and we're going to try this one as well. These are two ingredients protein crepes again. This is like another kind of I. Don't want to say it's the tortillas swap but it's just a way to make your taste I want you to kind of is like a Tortilla Saab. You could well. It's like the creepy. Actually yeah but I made these at the New York City wine and food festival and people people loved them. It's just protein powder and egg whites and you cook. You Cook these things in a skillet for less than five minutes. I keep these in the fridge as is just like a snack on them alone They have like forty five calories and less than a car. It's like all protein protein plus protein protein protein and protein. One Carp. Well I won't the other one of my hands and you can make him sweet or savory like you can add cinnamon you could sweetener. You can make desserts out of them. They're always ahead. Everybody loves them and they're just very easy to make. I would definitely Paul uses like a Tortilla. I would put all the things that are on our pickle sub so like tomato lettuce I would put that. Why not? Why not all right the next hack? And this is another one that's near and dear to my heart veggie fries. ooh La who. I know. We can get some applause. We need my Mike Brooks. I mean kind of it makes me feel better because I love French fries and just try very hard not to eat them because usually they're really greasy. The potatoes are very star cheese so every now and then I'll treat myself but in general. I use things like butternut squash carrots turnips delicado squash Josh Hickama. which is hard to make into fries? Actually but it's probably the lowest in Carb's of of everything Maybe it's not a second nonetheless it is it's it's the lowest known what Tucker there's the most moisture it's the hustle and takes forever and you can't always get the texture right but like but our squash carrots turnips delicado squash the best truly and we have a lot of recipes for fries like that or you can buy things pre cut. I will often get those zigzags. Butternut squash I exempts from. TJ's from trader Joe's and throw them in the Air Fryer they shrink a lot. Become many you feel like a giant eating tiny crinkle cut fries. But they're good and you just throw them in for like ten or twelve minutes and they're delicious. Yeah Salt Ketchup. It really satisfies your urge. Pretty sad we don't have any here today. I know I was. I was looking at the table thinking why no Veggie fries. I wonder if you took. The spiral sliced carrots that they saw like in the trader Joe's in their jurisdiction over there and just put them in the air. FRYER headlight shoes features. Yeah maybe I think we tried them before the Air Fryer. We try them a long time ago. But maybe Donovan Air Fryer. We would try them. But they're good as pasta swap no matter what so. I don't know you can try to do that. There might be a good idea. Actually Mike's really into the recipe development today mind what's what's going on. Who is this? Where's the real Mike? I mean it's twenty twenty and I want to expand my horizons a little bit so no I don't know I'm I'm GonNa Start Editing the podcast. Oye and Mike's gonna not eat peanut butter anymore and it's like okay and then the final line all hack of the day like a snack or a hack and what you could use is Zucchini Zucchini is like a magical thing. Because there's a lot you can do with Zucchini. So of of course. We turn into noodles by spiralling it. But you could make it like a vehicle for other things so you can slice it into little rounds and you can make little pizza bites. Oh It's another good pizza crust. See you just sliced them and you bought them and you bake them a little and then you top with pizza toppings and melt the pizza toppings and that's amazing or even if you slice it the long among the long way like make little boats out of it scoop out a little bit of the inside and then just loaded up with either either like lasagna type stuff or pizzas stuff and bake- those that you can do Mexican flavor refried beans and Cheddar and just Zucchini is a vehicle. That should not be overlooked. You're really a man scientist Tad so were you Jamie Role Mad. Scientists and Mike is becoming one training. It was an M. I. T. Mit well anyway One medium Zucchini only thirty five calories and six CARBS. And that's a lot of they're big. Now I've been the mediums big. So that's that's good. Bang for your Calorie Buck. I'm tired I'm hungry. Well I'm GONNA eat that pickle. Michelsen me to eat everything. This is such an info packed episode. I think it was too. Can you bookmark podcast episode I Dunno needs to savors. Listen to it in your sleep. It'll be like osmosis. Yes or listen to it when again with a pen and paper like a pad and a pen I listen into like sleep time music stuff when I fall asleep. I feel like if you listen to this. Kelly absorb your wake up and you'll just be like a carb slashing master astor but I would think that we're so entertaining hard to fall asleep. We are pretty also put you to sleep but we'll see so wait what are people's takeaway. I they need to text Mike. You can text my anything but we want to know if you're okay with the podcast dropping Wednesday instead of Friday a little earlier in the week so you can reach Mike at Eight. Oh five three eight eight Oh eight oh seven five you can also just drop us a note to say hi at suggests at hungry dash girl dot com or podcast at hungry dash girl dot com. You you could go to our podcast page. That has probably mostly everything we talked about today. A lot of good information from today at hungry dash girl dot com slash food cast. You should if you're not already. I can't believe you're listening to this if you don't get the daily emails but if you're not signed up you need to sign up for the daily emails at Hungry Dash Girl Dot Com. Do you have to just subscribe. Every single day will send out emails Monday to Friday. And it's their great. You need new recipes all the time all the time and then you can find us the facebook community which is fantastic and now has almost seventy thousand people which is crazy. They're the best because the facebook page itself that has well over a million like over a million lean and a half people but this community is like forget it. Everyone's best friends with everyone and it's called. What's chewing and you can find that on facebook or else on instagram? Where Else World Wilson Elsewhere everywhere on the magazine stands? We're in Los Angeles. You can come to talk. You can come see us anytime you want your shirt Mike. Look every now and then Michael Come into my office and say all is a podcast listener. That is coming to La can visit. And what are we always say yes. We don't hide. Don't run screaming right right and if we're not around off we can't. We're not here to let them all right. Well this concludes it's another fantastic episode of our podcast right. This one last hack yes. I WANNA put Parma Chris on my tickle sub. Oh that's going to do that to us. Well Jaime it's brilliant already. You can have another one. We're just eat some farm crest all right. Well we're signing off From Hungary land again I am Lisa Lillian also known as hungry girl till next time to the right thing.

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Motel 6 saves again !

The big d zone

05:23 min | 5 months ago

Motel 6 saves again !

"Okay this is prince. Dj and that by birth hoping to go somewhere now. I have a plan for emergency. Meany about the water being shut off on seventeen. But i able to find that the hotel that i stay at when i was first Looking for a place here. In saint. Louis i founded that I could go back. I could go back to the same hotel and the price is usually read the boat but a you know the taxes always kills you and they don't they don't have no They don't have no incidental or do before the roman and all that debt and you know hopefully water will turn back now. I have seventeen to the twentieth. I paid for three days also three nights. I hope the water would be back on the twenty you because i didn't plan on doing doing an emergency hotel today. I was hopefully going to seek flat but being the fact that it's going to be cold and you turn the water and don't be cold at well. I mean what the cat man we out a cold front coming in well no storm but it did rain. A little bit but Oh my cat. I mean why why. He's doing it why i was open to do stuff. That rail is fun. But now like down. My last twig to the art of the to mike Unemployment come in. I started say life insurance. Because i'm practicing for license yards exam and i'm on Types of life insurance like with the term whole universal. You know i'm not an auto reagan and wealth. Well i know they're wi fis. I like these spanish decor on a building. It was one of my favorite motel six. The when i stayed arrogant because also it had the denny's right next door. I might have the mind up getting a denny's card or somehow Howling to do this. How to do this crap to i get the unemployment and put it on my denny's card so i can have it for on netflix. But that means. I can't go to church this week because i need money to go to. Hey the would think of the now. I mean i know that the bus that goes up there but it had the both by I didn't see what. Then i just went over because i didn't know louis i you know i'm just i'm just living here now. I mean already got a path for six flags already got a pass. Updating within my birthday practical now going up i want and especially if they I down. I could go when they When a stupid restrictions over with children anyway anyway I got the passes. And i found a bowling alley in the dome are loop. They got a bowling alley. Open nonni at night from five to ten. So i go there. I want to collect i wanna bowl. And all like that. And they have a beginner. Bowling league and I think that's really cool. I think that's really cool. Maybe i had some funny in stories like that but You know this. Share on a podcast. But i gotta spend my. I had to spend my last hundred dollars on emergency. Because they're gonna shut off my water anything that they don't know how long that's going to be the letter and bring it and show you what happened so it happening in happening in. I can't believe it this time the week after my penn state literally at the week after my birthday i gotta go to a hotel. I mean not so fun but because of the -mergency wow so. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do. Better not shut down or anything like that but otherwise i got to stay. I don't wanna get sick though prince. Dj pray for me. Y'all so this tonight but Until next time. When i have to say you know me i'll just open my mouth in state on this program. Home of the best on the that day is it w d.

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Second-Listen Saturday: The Sting of Rejection

Parenting Roundabout

13:54 min | Last month

Second-Listen Saturday: The Sting of Rejection

"Welcome to second. Listen saturday on parenting roundabout podcast where we share some fun moments past episode for your weekend listening. Pleasure look for new episodes every monday through friday coping with rejection he. It's hard enough coping with rejection ourselves. But then when it's your kids being rejected it's like hundred times worse and i've just every now and then i get a little steam in my engine and decide that my kids need jobs. They've had trouble getting fulltime. Haven't been able to get full-time jobs. They both got some sort of part. Time job at its hugely insufficient. And given that they both have. I think fairly monitored disabilities and huge potential. It apparently does not look like that to the outside world. Because the jobs they've been able to get are very short term and not enough hours and they just can't seem to get the jobs. I think they deserve. So you know we go through these cycles where mom gets a banner bonnet and says you are to apply for jobs. Apply for jobs. Apply for jobs. And then they go through a bunch of rounds of interviews which are heartbreaking. And then i just leave life for. We seemed to be at another cycle. Now they're going for job interviews and my daughter was really really excited about this job and she you know. She researched the place and she found out some interview questions and she studied and she practice. She was so sure she was gonna get this job. She went for an interview one night the next day she got an email saying now which is usually they. Don't tell you at all you just never hear any eventually eh. will. I guess they didn't like me so like come on apple to be so hard and it's you know when they were young and in school and this sort of rejection came around. They didn't know about it. it was happening in. Iep meetings it was happening in teacher conferences. It was people telling me they're never going to amount to anything. And i would put on my armor and i would fight that like crazy but i can't do it now now. They've got to do it themselves. And it's so disheartening. And i don't know what to tell them. And you know there's other parts of life in which they're experiencing rejection too but this is just the most obviously we don't see any value in you. And i don't know i mean i say all my little platitudes. Oh it wasn't meant to be. There's something better out there. You wouldn't have liked working with those people anyway but not enough. I don't even really quite by it all right now. My daughter feels really bad about it. My son doesn't say anything. But i think that it causes him to just not want to try it all. So do you guys have these experiences. Objection with your kids. What do you do. Is there a good way to handle it or do you just is just the dark room the best soc i because it's like i feel like i have to push them to do these things even though there's a pretty good chance it's going to end up with somebody saying not you. Yeah i mean. Recently my son has been upset about. It was mostly about the middle school museum. How so he last year. He tried out he did get a part and then he ended up deciding that he couldn't do it because it was just conflicting salman and he had to stop and so this year the we knew in advance that the musical was happening the same weekend as his state tournament perhaps and so there was really no way that he could do right in direct conflict and so he didn't try out and he had people telling him that he was a quarter because they knew because they knew that he didn't do it last year Are that he did and he and he stop you know he. He did drop out last year. Now and then one of his friends Who had any you know the back story that my son is He son likes theater camps in and he is in choir like he likes to seeing height and then this friend his who isn't really it was just like a fluky thing that he's like sure i'll try out. And then he got the lead the mail lead so he just end you know last weekend when the show came out he just was so discouraged about the whole and and i didn't really you know he's like i just want to be the best at something. How is okay or not that good. And i just want to be really good at. There's nothing i was just heartbreaking. it's you know. I don't know what to say and i even said i jim. You know we have this. We work really hard on we. We really liked doing. And we wish we could have more people with some highway. It and is ever says if you do if you do good work on than people will come to you and find you. And i said that doesn't necessarily happen really so i use the. We are tired to be your model parents but that it didn't really know they'll buy that necessarily get him anywhere. It's really hard like what you said. Now most kids are not going to be the best you know. And that's really hard pill to swallow all right. Let's financial scene because when we first moved here my kids took a big hit in terms of just not fitting him so i guess being rejected or being told that you know they didn't know something or fit. You know the for example. My son went to school in his first days. Middle school here when we first moved here it was. I think it was his first day. Actually in the kids altered the pledge of allegiance will. he didn't know it and had never had more and obviously and he didn't put his hand over his heart and he got sent to the principal's office. Oh my goodness because you know. They just assume that he refused to do it right. Yeah right so that's just one example but and then of course my daughter In elementary school she went through grade one and grade two and none of the teachers. And even you know. I didn't i knew something was going on but couldn't figure it out at the time but nobody picked up on her. Adhd and they just kept telling her and telling us that she was a slow learner and that she might need to be held back and and so she kept hearing these messages so eventually got all that sorted out and she excels now above and beyond what we ever expected and still holds that you know that in her heart So fast forward to actually just this past week where she applied for a board position for an organization with Been with for five years going on five years volunteer organization and And she lost out to a freshman is going to be. She lost the position to a freshman and so she was really disappointed. That i think what that does for me is light. Typically i would go into room with a cloth. Over my instances. I find that it really brings out the okay. Well we're gonna find something that you excel at kind of attitude and Let's find what you're good at. Let's put you in something where you can feel good about yourself but i guess that just comes from you know those first couple of years when we're here just having a million kids having to prove themselves and you know kind of really show what they were capable of and just kind of now stuck in my head like okay. Well what do you really need. That board position is gonna get you anywhere. No let's go find something that you know. She's really great at computers and aha Working with computers. So let's go finding something that you can do and it will actually benefit you more university. Yes so yeah. I think i think it makes me more determined normally i would just roll over and give up but i think you know in recent years having moved here and having to to force our way into fit in an to prove ourselves it's made me take on the attitude of. Let's find something that you're good at and can do overnight. Obviously but that's kind of the attitude that i take now. The love that idea. I just worry about finding that thing and also of course. I'm warranting young adults that thing that i can see being the thing. They do being something that they feel they wanted to. You know when you're in that position it's like i can think of ten things you could do and you could be really successful at but i understand that sitting in your room looking at your computer. Probably is more appealing because there's less risk and there's less embarrassment and there's no guarantees that anything is ever going to work out right and the older kids get. I mean. I'm sure. I was the same way when i was in my twenties. Although i always had things that i feel like i certainly had some rejections but i also had some triumphs and that's not necessarily the key and i was also very driven and that's not really the case in my kids and i just feel like a few rejections and they're just going to say that's it. I'm just saying home. Get stale meany. Davidge job unions. You know you gotta keep trying not only just jobs but socially i mean friendships have been very difficult. There's been rejections in friendships and rejections of by people. You thought were their friends. Who weren't and that's you know why i just keep wishing amazon prime would get any. We will send you a guaranteed friend of business. Because that's hard to. There's just there's just a lot i think especially for. I mean for all kids but your kids with disabilities. It's especially difficult. Because i think there's fewer there's fewer movies so if those don't work out it's hard to know what to do to stumped while and also with your your young adult looking for jobs i mean you've got to somehow convince the employer. Yeah you know it's it's like with a kid like with kristin with my son like trying out things not getting them. That's hard too because there's nothing you can do. You can coach tom. You can help them down as you can. Yeah but that's that's in here. Yes other people would just cooperate. None of us would have these guys earn more. I am thinking that other people can't use that word family podcasts. Let's say stink. We were driving past the place place. My daughter went for an interview and then immediately did not get it. We have a drive by the later that same day and my she and my son and i all yelled expletive and the name of this business is we drove by. So that's going to be a thing now. Felt better after. Yes yes so we may. We may be doing that freely for a little while. I'm trying to teach her. The good place expletives. So yeah we'd be southwark this particular blaze. Sometimes they get mad and live with. That is just i will eventually i keep saying eventually there will be a good place a place that'll be accepting and i hope that's true but i don't know i know people i mean. Nietzsche open their heartless taken. I've just. I've just taken on that from the so you it now like okay. We'll find something else. You know like she smet unicorn. Yeah but i don't know. I just feel like there's something out there. You just have to see this. What we should do is we. Should i feel like like parents should periodically rotate like. I will find something young kids to do if you find someplace for my kid to work. Let's each call imaginary company right. Pretend that we're calling on behalf of this person.

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Foundation of Healthy Relationships

Awakend Wife - Marriage Advice for Successful Women

41:15 min | 1 year ago

Foundation of Healthy Relationships

"This is your weekly spark to live life. Line somewhere along the way we have forgotten what is most important to us. How can we remember who we are fine. The way better purpose and truth join me young area and attaches coup to uncover your joy. Encourage the truly live to live life aligned. Hello everybody welcome to another episode of the live life aligned. Podcast on attaches your community. Today we're going to dive straight in to this topic of relationship that were coin to uncover with you. More and more on this podcast. So your name taken away. So i thought it's a good idea to look a little bit at. What is it good foundation of having a fruitful relationships and relationships that are aligned to you and who you are and how you want to show up and relationships where you can be yourself. And i think maybe it's a good idea actually to talk about what is your definition of good relationship. Like what does that actually mean to you so for me personally. It means that. I have a relationship which is built on honesty and trust and where i can be myself in terms. If i don't have to hide. I don't have to micromanage. She had a person or think about being micromanaged. It is simply a honest encounter with the other person and it is something that nourishes my soul so when i leave the interactions most of the time i feel nourished. I don't feel drained. I i am looking forward to meet this person again and this mutual. It's it's a mutual way that we want to build something together and that we want to grow this friendship or relationship so that that is my definition. what is yours natasha. I agree with the qualities that you're already mentioned but most recently have learned that good relationships are actually build on the foundation of two individuals who are actually independent individuals. And i say it in this way because in the past i wasn't always so independent in independence in this sense Means that you take full responsibility of your actions you take responsibility for the consequences of your actions. And data's actually really huge. If you take full responsibility busy. I know that in the past. It's i used to be in relationships. Many relationships with colleagues friends and not just romantic of course but i always if there was a conflict. Sometimes just blame the other person so easy for me to point out. Who did what who did something wrong. And to give thought power away and just say oh they did it. so so. that's that's that is the problem. And i learned recently that having a good relationship actually means that the two individuals are acting more or less like adults taking full responsibility for what they are doing. Because when you do that when you become an adult in this way emotionally become an adult and you're unafraid to own your own stuff. Then it's a solid foundation to have honest conversations to have even if it's conflicts or there's a friction relationship. There's enough honesty within each person that you're able to have a transparent conversation and it would actually go somewhere because it wouldn't very quickly go into this. You did this but you did that. Kind of Dynamic so for me dot is tree really really important and at the same time. It's not something that i see around very often to grownups. Real grownups owning their own stuff. I just see a lot of Relationships were like. Yeah kim said. You're either micromanaging. Each other like you're trying to make them act a certain way or you're trying to like suppress your own emotions or trying to navigate each other's emotions almost like a land mine and i think that when you actually own the full responsibility for for you fool me then. There isn't any necessary kind of manipulation that kind of tug of war type of relationship interaction. i think it's just a good basis for real growth real progress real conversations and that has become really important to me and not anti actually do recognize that that means that there is a great deal of internal work that you have to do first before you can reach the point too comfortably Responsibility for yourself because a lot of us are running away from the the problems that we say other people have given us that we blame mothers four but we're running away from the problems within ourselves that we are unwilling to face so i think that is the first step so many ways to a good foundation for a healthy relationship that you enjoy means the or is that you yourself are in a place where you can actually mature lee. Interact with yourself and that you see what is happening within you rather than just projecting it onto other people and the quality of the relationship is in my opinion directly depending on your maturity and the other person's maturity and in and when when two people can come together where you can be really open and honest and you can you have created a space together where you are meeting each other's heart with tender love and care and openness and this may sound you know fluffier whatever but it really doesn't have to be in any can happen in friendships as in romantic relationships. But how can you meet someone's heart when your heart is closed down and when you have all kinds of issues relating to people that's going to be quite difficult so you really are two foundation of a healthy relationship and that is important to recognize because it is so easy to blame on people that they are responsible for the relationship that they are treating you this way and that way and they have done this to you and that to you and they are people around you. That are good and all of this and when you are in that place and you do that you are completely disempowered and is completely outside of your power what is happening and so coming back to yourself is so important because how people are treating you especially in long term relationships a fairly depending on how on what you have allow those people to do because if they cross your boundary and you don't communicate that they have crossed boundary howard supposed to know that if across the boundary. How are you going to grow together if you're not going to bring it forward and so the boundaries that you have they're important and they are not something that you make up you don't sit down and make up those boundaries you discover those boundaries by feeling in yourself what what's a certain interaction and certain habits and feel to you and you communicate those things. Don't just let everything happened because everything happened yet. No wonder that people are treating you however they want so this is this is really important and also i feel it's so so important to see friendships and relationships not in a transactional view like like. Oh i have given you this now. I'm expecting you to give me this. Then you are in a transaction you are new transaction that is not running with money but with deeds or words and when something does not get fulfilled because you have scratch your back but the not scratching me back. You're going to be the one who is hurt so and that is again it comes back to you. It comes back to where you're at an are you independent in the sense of that. You are not looking for validation to hold time outside a few from your friends. But you're grounded within your own self your grounded within your own being and you're coming from a place of giving you coming from a place of lack and so you're giving to to the person because you want to because of the joy of giving the not because you are looking for payback for it as a transaction because there's nothing to add a to yourself you are self sufficient in a way as in. You are grounded in your own love in your own peace and from that place you can actually half beautiful relationships that's right so when you are actually independent emotionally independent person than you won't be in any relationship acting like you require somebody else owes you a certain service or certain things that they must do for you and that especially is prevalent in relationships where someone innately does not feel enough. They are acting out in a really needy way because they feel like they are able to demand a certain you know giving a certain reaction in a certain behavior from another person and that the other person owes it to them now. They should be serving them. This should be acting in that way. In order to fulfil whatever it is that you need and so that's why being responsible for yourself and actually being independent self completely eliminates that kind of needy clingy sticky relationship and of course. If you feel like somebody owes you something already you know. No one has written you a contract of like what exactly you need to give each other in the drop is that has to do with your actual work out come right what you crank at work but emotionally were not really signing any contracts. Once we become friends when we become neighbors mostly become partners of what exactly that we're there to do for each other and a moment. We assume that the other person owes us a certain feeling or that. They are always there to give us a certain feeling. Then that disempowers ourselves and that makes us in a way Completely immature because we're just helpless child at least emotionally and were dependent on other people to feel a certain way so that's when really tricky Things begin to happen in a relationship because it becomes codependent in a way. That isn't healthy. And we have forgotten to question whether what you actually are wanting and demand and for the other person if that is actually something true for you or not and another point about actually being responsible for your own actions and being independent yakim already mentioned this kind of want to unwrap a little bit. Further is to ashley. Stand up for yourself and know what it is that you want and able to verbalize. That and i just realized how counterintuitive this all is because i just set that being responsible For your own actions and being an independent person means that you are not needy and then suddenly here and the next phrase. I'm saying that being independent means that you know what you need and you're willing to speak up for it and so the reason why it looks like it's like flip coins in very contradictory is because on one hand if you actually know yourself if you're actually tuning into how you feel in each moment and you're speaking up for yourself so you know like i said maybe someone has crossed your boundaries. You feel violated. You don't feel comfortable. Well then it's time to maybe speak up and say that you feel that way right so you better not feel that way so it is okay to speak up and to shave voice to the person that you're in a relationship with what is that you need. What is healthy for you where you want a relationship to even go so in one way in the pennant means that you actually are aware off your desires euro aware of which direction you want things to go. You're aware of when things don't feel quite right and you need to readjust and being independent and being responsible for your own actions means that you're responsible for how you feel inside so that you don't let collect yourself you don't neglect point to you. What you value in order to go with the flow right so that's really important because otherwise if you don't speak up if you don't have a voice if you don't listen to yourself and you don't express that then who the heck is in a relationship no one is representing anybody then because there is nobody there so being independent and being responsible for yourself means that you're responsible half for how you feel and what you need what you ultimately need and and this whole thing gets a lot simpler may begin to feel what it is that you need versus kind of superficially leaning on the other person and expecting that everything that you need in life comes from the outside comes from the other person so one is feeling into you taking responsibility for what is true to you speaking that out loud so that you can co create together and the other case where you're too dependent on the other person and you're no longer responsible for yourself. You're very dependent on the other person not ho creating anymore. In fact you're giving all your feelings all the outcomes of your life how your day is how you you're giving it all away to the person so you're not creating at all you just dumping the responsibility of being a human onto the person who's in a relationship with you and going here give me everything and of course then problems will arise because nobody knows you as well as you do and nobody can ultimately give to you what you truly need unless you give it to yourself first so that is the ultimate distinction between the two. I want to clarify word that you have used responsibility and and put a spin on it that i sees as helpful and of course you can. You can disagree with me natasha. If that is what you actually meant. When when i hear responsibility and what i believe that you meant is that we are taking responsibility for our emotions in terms of like you're taking ownership as in. This is a rising within me. This is happening within me. It is not based on data person is to blame. It's all at a person's fault but this is what is arising with me within me so these are ownership twit. I don't believe that what is meant. It is that you are responsible for it in terms of you did. Xyz that action. And now you're feeling this way you are want so call to blame because responsibility can easily turn into blame on yourself and say well. It is my responsibility. I'm feeling this way. I cost it this way. And when you actually pay your attention to your inner experience what you'll notice that your experiences surfacing did is occurring to you. You're not really creating your experience consciously meaning the false the to you they just arise to you the reactions that rise the arise to you and so in that sense it. I wouldn't use the word responsibility. However the word ownership which also can be used or can be understood as responsibility ownership of that and seeing all case this is what's coming up and being with that and going into that healing that whatever that the resonate with me quite clearly. Is that what you meant with what you said natasha. Yeah i think that is right. I can't quite decide which one serves better. But it is ownership ultimately your. It's your life either you you did. Something used something. You felt something it's happening within you so you are. That owner of the current experience is nobody else's but your experience. So what are you going to do with it right. I think another good foundation to have when you want to create a really good and healthy relationship is just respect In many ways one is to respect that the other person is going through their own stuff. I feel like a lot of times. how i currently experienced life were my own journey. Sometimes there's that expectation that the other person needs to feel things do things in the same way but the fact is that every body is so different and some people perhaps needs more time. Some people need a lot more communication in order to find common ground. A some people need a lot more space. Some people less of so so everyone is so different that makes every single relationship Really perfect place to practice feeling listening and being present because just because one thing worked for when doesn't mean that it would work for another person right so for me that really much mutations that behalf to respect what the other person is going through the respect their own unique experience and that might look really different and how we understand the world and how we go through things so that is something that i had to learn for myself because you know not everyone processes things as quickly as me or understands things The way that i do sometimes even just communicating requires a different set of vocabulary in order to for two parties to actually one understand one another and you can only do that with such patients And openness if you have that respect for differences and i think for many relationships I think we are just people who often look for commonalities between each other. And that's how we bond but at the same time there needs to be so much more empathy and respect for the differences and that will take a relationship really far too. Because you're no longer just looking at the person as like a complete reflection of yourself like you're seeing them for who they are your accepting bear experienced for what it is not just forcing your own way of doing things upon the other person. You're really seeing. The the other person for who they are is quite an important point that we can easily lose sight off that there you are in relationship with someone else and they are unique in how they're perceiving you and the world and the situation and what you think has happened does not mean that this actually what has happened so good habit to get into is to check in and say look. This is what i've heard is. What i've noticed is is what you meant or what was happening there and you can be surprised. Actually when you think. Oh my god this personal disrespecting me or doing something to me you whatever and realized that the actually really weren't and there was no malicious intention behind it. That just kind of happened and he was. They had they had nothing. No thinking behind the whatsoever was not where i had no bad intent but you took it as a bad intent and so they that is where you can start exploring so that that is where you can go deeper into and okay so we are talking about here of course deep relationships not just surface relationships with people that you meet on on the road. You know But actually wish with someone that that you know you trust and that you're building a deep relationship and so this with without knowing this we you. How are we going to to address this now. of course how. How are you able to bring your point and open up and share. What's happening within you. It can only really happen when you are grounded within yourself and when you comfortable in yourself when you're comfortable with yourself when you have accepted yourself because sometimes when we need to discuss things that are deeper and more closer to how hard it can feel very vulnerable can feel challenging can feel like you hate this of yourself or you hate that even this is happening and that's totally okay However when we can just accept it a bit more and we can still find the communication and find the contact with iota person then we can transcend what is happening within us and star to embrace it because when something is happening within you and is bothering you. There is also a chance that they something happening in the other person and that the other person is well unhappy with some of the dynamics that have been happening in the relationship and even if they are not just checking in with them is really good so you are showing respect to the other person as you're in your respecting their uniqueness and a unique in the world and you're also need to respect yourself meany you need to feel yourself where am i at what. Where am i standing in this in. How does this feel to me. This is not an intellectual exercise. But you're respecting what is happening within you and communicating that rather than just not getting lost in the dynamic. Another thing that i think is so crucial for good and healthy relationships and it might be so contradictory to what you're aiming force so it's like no don't say that as the foundation but it really is if you want something sustainable than it's so crucial and what i think it is is. Do we have to draw any mental idea of perfection. Or what peace means. It's not this goal of perfection that makes a healthy or good relationship. Good it's the continual messing up and getting back on track so this readjustment happens for both parties. That makes it how him makes it good because if you have this mental idea that a good and healthy relationship means that you never have conflicts. There's never any pushback from the other person everybody agrees with each other. Everybody's serving each other perfectly. Everyone's taking responsibility for themselves perfectly. Everyone's communicating perfectly. There's perfect understanding all the time. You know that does not actually exist from what i've seen like emaar human life and i think that's because every individual it's so different like how we understand ourselves how we understand the world how we even use words. One word means completely different things for other people. So that's why we even have a dictionary even tried to get us to understand each word at least as close in meaning as possible yet. We all all understand the same word differently right so when it comes to a relationship. It's not this one state of perfection. That makes it good. It's the fact that we let go of needing it to be a certain way right. It's not as this goal that we have to achieve but it's a constant readjustment to the joy to the peace to what feels right to you know dealing with things in a mature way having more awareness having more kindness have more respect More honesty within yourself. It's all of these things one step at a time both internally and externally and in meeting together that makes a relationship so good and the moment you put a relationship which is for me is alive. It's like a growing a company or an organization. It it's alive because it's ever changing it's being created in every moment the moment you try to stuff it into a box and this is the way it has to be. This is the only way we can react and and be with one another then. It stunts the growth and it's just suffocates. There's no room to explore other things. And i think that makes a relationship ultimately healthiest when you have this room to grow. Went to experiment and to mess up and then to come back together and forgive and then find a better way. That's what a healthy and good relationship is all about is changing with you as you grow in life and is changing with the other person as they grow and then the relation grow ship grows with. You is not just one state of perfection. One st of no conflict no resistance. You know it's a living thing that requires your attention. You know moment to moment and it requires your efforts. Eric quieter tension. It requires that awareness within the honesty and then to address things with action. But it's not this one. St of like a standard that you have to achieve to make a good all the time and that's gonna make the relationship a lot worse because then you're chasing after something that you've you're making it to be and you're not respecting the other person respecting yourself and respecting the relationship. Because dr is what is calling your attention. That's clinging to make it good and healthy. I totally agree. It's an easy easy trap to fall into think that you have to have some kind of perfect relationship or that other people are supposed to have a perfect relationship that you kind of look at people and judge them and say oh you know they should be better blah blah blah. We are all human beings and we all are making our way through life and we were in no way perfect. We are all growing hand. That's the beauty of of being life and going through this life and you know that whole point of respecting yourself as well as really quite vital because we can get lost in trying to police the other person and respecting their boundaries and what they need and not respecting where we are at so when you have someone you know that you that they have a request as in the you can notice that they are living a bit differently and they have other preferences than you that you start completely forgetting about yourself and what's actually comfortable and good for you and you just blindly take on how they are living and it is important to to notice that and to bring that into the conversation and say look. I understand that you would like to. I don't know have your clothes 'iran or something but for me. This is really not that important. That is not something that enjoy. I don't want to do this. And then you can have a conversation. You can have a conversation from a mutual respect for each other's positions so you can actually have a so called conflict but it's it's coming from a very different place. It's coming from a respectful place in open place and a way of actually looking how you can find a way forward that is suiting for for both people. So you're not. You're not coming from a place of off of hardship and anger and often when we use the word conflict we believe conflicts is violent and and needs to be hot debate. And you know lots of emotions and whatever and that is one way that conflict can happen but the other way conflict can happens what i've described it. Yes you have conflicting positions but both of you have emotional maturity to bring them in to seal so that you know this is your preference. This is your responsibility or what we said before. It's also that what you own. And the other person the other person knows. This is their responsibility and their ownership. And you see as well that this is the other person's and the other person sees is yours. You know so. It is not all this projecting going on and it is coming from a much gentler place and at the same time there is a certain friction that is happening and through. That friction growth can happen. You know so so so. It is a good way of actually having a healthy conflict or a healthy difference in opinion of an end living life. And just seeing you know the like we said before if you are in that state in that space of being emotionally mature than you can find also way when you realize well look. This person really can't do what i what i want them to do. That is not their strength. That is not what would serve them in actually would violate the own boundary. You can find another way for yourself so it stops being you just deposit all your needs at one place except that this person's going to it all for you. It becomes a place where you know some of the things that you enjoy in your life do with people you're going to do with this person and other things that you want with this person because that person is just not into it and that's totally okay and you can find a way of being together that is beneficial for both and as i said at the beginning that nourishes your soul you feel nourished through those interactions. You don't feel depleted or disempowered. You feel empowered. You feel strong and do something. That brings joy into your life. And that. I think that i want to explore more with you about this. That respect and that being independent individuals and what that really means came earlier already mentioned that relationships if you want to be healthy and good for everybody involved can't be transactional so what is means when when we are respecting one another right now for a whole we all are is that we did not demand that because we are in a certain type of relationship where we're because we have been friends for so long that we expect and need the other person to act a certain way to speak up for us to do certain things for us or just to behave in a way that we expect them to why because they are their own people bear not here to have a relationship with us because we're forming colt like defense mechanism against the world. That when maybe one day you get a tat or one day you need. Someone's someone to speak up for you that suddenly there's mob of like i dunno opinion. Like warriors ready to to to do that for you. you know. that's not what relationships are ultimately about. Because if that's what we expect from the other person this kind of reaction that we expect them to always say this to always have this kind of opinion or that when they take action is always for this or when i need them they will always act like bis than we've boiled that other person down into such a small tool ultimately a tool that we are using in case. We need them monday right. Which is going to wipe them out and like a little puppet. It's gonna do the thing that we want them to. And that and that in itself does not have any respect because you're not respecting the other person for being a real human being whose opinions changes from time to time. Who has free will to do what they want to. And that they ultimately do not. Oh you anything he had just because we have had a pass with somebody we have shared good moments have given to one. Another does not mean that the other person owes you any type of behavior that you think they should do in certain situations and that is so so important. That's kind of the difference between a relationship where we're so codependent. And there's no room for growth there. S alternately no respect but justice bondage of what we expect from one another and who we should be in certain situations for one another in when we don't then we're disappointed or we feel like they owed us that and that was disappointing. That was disrespectful. And just this big snow ball of all this expectations all these responsibilities that we have actually given away to the other person because we're not respecting the other person for who they are and the reason why we would even project such expectations and things and try to force another person to do. Those things for us is because we feel like we can't do it for ourselves so again it goes back to being independent emotionally on your own first of all so that you don't need to force anybody to step up for you in that way because then it's not really a relationship a healthy good relationship that you're looking for you're looking for emotional security and you're looking for emotional bodyguard and if you want a healthy relationship do not train do not emotionally blackmail do not manipulate. Do not do certain drama tactics so that you make every friend every person at work everybody who you have you know relationships with to be your emotional bodyguard. Do not expect to hire them through your giving. Don't pay them through your giving your so called selflessness in order to get their body guard emotionally bodyguard tendencies when you need them in those emotionally dangerous situations so i hope that makes sense but that is huge and other end of that is making sure that you know yourself nor shing yourself. You're giving yourself what you need when you are full and you're independent and you've grown up emotional in that way you won't need those people around. You does dysfunctional relationships to serve that purpose. I think this is quite plenty what we have covered just now and i hope gives you a a good idea of what a healthy relationship requires and you know to see it as as journey rather than something. That's fixed destination and when you want to actually create healthy relationships and that's something that interests you just know that it is of course possible that they are many people living and having relationships that are beautiful and that are nourishing and it is really just a matter of of growth and evolution. Just like when you grow up as a kid in the can read and write and you can't distinguish certain things you can't discern certain things as you grow update they come and so our emotional evolution is also something that continues is not something that just halts it is. If you want to engage with it you can so. If you a place to do that you can reach out to us. You can join our facebook community or it can write us at info at into line dot com. It's been a pleasure to talk about this. And we'll see on the next podcast. Want to continue the conversation with us. We'd love to hear your thoughts have any questions. Join the insightful. 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