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Allison Gill on the DOJ, Trump, and Seditious Conspiracy
"Adam Schiff has been as has Liz Cheney been openly. I don't know what the what's the word you'd use impatient, pressuring the Justice Department. I think that's fine though, right? It's fine for them to be outspoken about that. Yeah, I mean, as long as we're not openly bashing or spreading disinformation about the Justice Department, you know, in some large accounts going so far as to say they're in Trump's pocket or, you know, things like that. But yeah, I mean, we do need this. We need it quickly. It's just that this is the biggest investigation in the history of the Justice Department. And that was some language that changed between the last two Merrick Garland statements because he said one of the biggest now he's saying it's the biggest. And I think they have some really great prosecutors. Now Garland running this whole show. It's Matthew graves and his team. And Matthew graves was able to come in after Mike Sherwin, a Trump appointee nearly killed the seditious conspiracy case by talking about it openly, and he was going to be sanctioned, but was resigned before that happened. And he didn't want to execute search warrants on Stewart roads. He was doing his best to sabotage that case. And four Matthew graves to come in and be able to button it up. And to get Merrick Garland to sign off on seditious conspiracy charges, which is like the granddaddy of all charges next to treason. I think kind of shows that they're in it to win it, so to speak. And that they have the gravitas, the intestinal fortitude to charge something like that because I kept telling everyone chill on the seditious conspiracy stuff. It's going to be obstructing an official proceeding probably. But then they came out, swinging. And so I'm excited about that, but it is taking a long time, and I understand the frustration, particularly in the face of what we've had the last 5 years and what barred into the Mueller report. We didn't even get an impeachment out of that because of the spin and the controversy and I guess he didn't have enough pizzazz when he was on TV.
The Latest in Sports
"AP sports I'm David Shuster Friday was a busy night at Major League Baseball and no one was busier than the Toronto Blue Jays who kept hitting and scoring is a clobbered Boston 28 to 5 They scored 11 runs in the 5th inning They had 29 hits on the night and not one but two players with 6 RBIs Elsewhere Aaron judge keeps hitting home runs two more Friday night giving him 36 on this season The Yankees beating Baltimore and out in Seattle Houston ended the Mariners win streak at 14 the other ale winners Cleveland Tampa Bay and Oakland Over in the national league you Darvish out dual Max Scherzer as San Diego beat the mets four to one the other NL winners Cincinnati Miami Arizona Milwaukee and the Dodgers Pro football quarterback Deshawn Watson showed up at Cleveland's training camp but neither he nor the browns know if the NFL will suspend him college football the NCAA has charged Tennessee's program with 18 level one alleged violations and in hockey Calgary dealt Matthew kachak to Florida for Jonathan huber dough and Mackenzie Uighur I'm David Shuster AP sports
Panthers get Tkachuk from Flames for Huberdeau, Weegar
"The Panthers in flames of engineered a major trade involving a pair of 100 point scorers The Panthers acquired Matthew chuck and a conditional fourth round pick from the flames for Jonathan Hubert defensive Mackenzie Uighur Panthers prospect Cole schwinn and a lottery protected first round pick in the 2025 draft The deal was finalized after chuck accepted an 8 year contract that runs through the 2030 season Chuck scored a career high 104 points last season on 42 goals and 62 assists Hubert had spent his entire ten year NHL career with Florida and had 30 goals in a league high 85 assists last season I'm Dave
Jan. 6: Trump spurned aides' pleas to call off Capitol mob
"The house January 6 panel has ended its summer of hearings detailing Donald Trump's failures to concede his election loss and to call off capitol rioters Panel member Elaine luria says when Trump returned to the Oval Office after whipping up backers at a rally he was quickly told about the riot Within 15 minutes Yet for 187 minutes luria and Adam kinzinger said the president simply watched the violence on TV He chose not to act Instead White House aide Sarah Matthews who quit on the spot said in a prime time hearing the president poured gas on the fire with a tweet calling vice president Pence a coward for not going along with his false stolen election claims It was essentially him giving the green light to these people The president eventually told backers to go home The next day in a previously unaired outtake of a speech to the nation This election is now over Congress has certified the results I don't want to say the elections over Sagar Meghani Washington
Tucker Carlson: Two Standards, One Corrupt Justice System
"Patient. And the judge through the book at her. Here was Tucker's take on it last night on Fox News channel's Tucker Carlson tonight. The sentencing judge Lambert admitted he wanted to make an example out of the cell's lady woman. Why? Because he was frustrated that the defendant in a separate case made statements they were quote embarrassing to me. That actually happened. And therefore, because he was embarrassed by somebody else, Lambert decides to take it out on this elderly woman. And that's horrible. That's not justice. It's the opposite. And it gets worse. At the same time, this was happening. The U.S. attorney for D.C. at the same point they were sending an elderly cancer patient to jail, this same U.S. attorney's office announced that they were dropping charges against 9 members of Stephen Colbert's production crew. Now, capitol police had caught this group of producers trespassing inside the longworth House office building on the evening of Thursday, June 16th. We brought it to you when it happened. So they were walking around the capitol complex without authorization. Parading, that's a crime. Now, capitol police had warned Colbert's producers that they were restricted area, but they ignored the warning from police. They returned anyway with the help of several members of Congress. That would include Adam Schiff and Jake auchincloss. But the other day, the U.S. attorney for D.C., a Biden appointee called Matthew graves, said that they're allowed to walk with no charges. So here are the new rules. If you're a regime propagandist, you can do whatever you want. You can trespass in the capitol. You won't be charged by Joe Biden's prosecutor. But if you're an elderly cancer patient who votes the wrong way, you go to prison. Those are two standards. One justice system. That's corruption.
Former White House aides to testify at next Jan. 6 hearing
"The house January 6th committee will hold a hearing on Thursday On Norman hall two former White House aides are expected to testify at the committee's prime time hearing according to a person familiar with the committee's plans the focus will be what Donald Trump was doing as his supporters broke into the capitol former deputy national security adviser Matthew pottinger and former press aide Sarah Matthews are scheduled to testify according to the person the two witnesses resigned immediately after the insurrection Lawmakers on the 9 member panel have said the hearing will offer the most compelling evidence yet of what they term trumps dereliction of duty Norman hall Washington
Mariners win 13th in row, top Texas 3-2 in 10 innings
"The Mariners extend their winning streak to 13 games by getting past the rangers three two and ten innings JP Crawford chopped an RBI single with one out in the tenth allowing Seattle to pull within two of the longest winning streak in team history Carlos Santana belted a two run Homer that put the ems that had two to one and the third inning Ty France had three more hits to lift his average to three O 6 Reliever Diego Castillo worked at 9th and improved to 7 and one Matthew festus struck out the side in the tenth for his first save closing out the Mariners 8th straight series win I'm Dave
New coronavirus mutant raises concerns in India and beyond
"A new mutation of the coronavirus is raising concerns A contagious omicron variant called BA 2.75 is worrying scientists It's gaining ground in India and has already arrived in ten other nations including the United States the UK and Canada experts say it spreads faster than other variants a large number of mutations separate this new variant from its predecessors Matthew Beneke is the director of clinical virology at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester Minnesota He says that in India the rates of transmission are showing an exponential increase It's too early to draw conclusions as to whether it will outcompete the BA 5 variant or cause worse symptoms the concern is that the mutations will allow this variant to get around immunity from vaccines and previous infections I'm Jennifer King
Wimbledon updates | Matthew Ebden reaches another final
"Rafael Nadal has withdrawn from Friday's scheduled semifinal match because of a torn abdominal muscle It's obvious that if I keep going the injury is going to be worse than wars The injury puts Nick kurios in Sunday's final On stripper has reached her first Grand Slam final with a 6 two three 6 6 one victory over Tatiana Maria The kind of result I was hoping for so no one more much one more step and to continue and hopefully get the title Jabra is the first African woman in an Arab woman to get to the title match at a major She'll face Elena rebutt Cana who rolled to a 6 three 6 three win over Simona Halep I'm Dave
Matthew Betley on His New Book, 'the Neighborhood'
"If we reach your stuff, is it going to be woke? Is it going to be politically correct? Is it going to make us want to pound our heads against the wall because it's full of liberal nonsense? Matt Bentley. Yeah, of course, not in fact, the one thing I've tried to do is even though I'm an outspoken conservative. I try and keep my policy most part out. My books because I just want to entertain the reader that my job as a writer is to entertain the reader. Well, I've got to agree with you there, Matt Bentley. I want to entertain people with will be back phone rise of America. It is outspokenly conservative, but it is nonfiction.
Krystle Matthews Wins SC Primary Runoff Despite Crazy Leaked Call
"Support. James O'Keefe hits home run after home run, and he recently has an amazing one from his project veritas action as well, and yesterday I think was his birthday. James, welcome back to Charlie Kirk show. Great to be with you, Charlie. What a big story this isn't South Carolina. Tell us all about it. Well, this is a democratic candidate for the United States Senate, running in the primary, the primary was last night, June 28th, which is also my 38th birthday, so quite a bit. It's also Elon Musk's birthday, by the way, June 28th is quite a day. And this is the crystal Matthews using racially charged language while encouraging illicit campaign tactics. She was caught on a, in a she was talking to someone inside of a jail. And it was a recorded line and a whistleblower provided this to us. Some of these quotes are pretty incendiary. This is the candidate. And by the way, she won last night. So now she's going to face Tim Scott. The South Carolina U.S. senator in the general election. She said, quote, where's my dope money, my duffel bag boys? Give me that dope money. Honestly, and I'm an N word at heart. I love black people. We need folks that can wear black at night and take down their effing yard signs. I mean, just this is just some of the most shocking things you'll over here. Now, just this week, yesterday, the house legislator in South Carolina has put together an ethics committee to investigate this woman who has just won last night the primary in South Carolina. And a lot more to say, but that's the
School shooting suspect may testify at parents' trial
"The suspect in a deadly school shooting in Michigan may testify at his parents trial Ethan crumley is accused of killing four fellow students at Oxford high school James and Jennifer crumbley are charged with involuntary manslaughter for failing to reasonably care for their son Judge Cheryl Matthews says some text messages can be used at the trial I actually asked my dad to take me to the doctor yesterday but he just gave me some pills and told me to suck it out And quote my mom laughed when I told her unquote Shannon Smith is an attorney representing Jennifer crumley She says this is not about the charges against Ethan crumley He can answer questions that are not covered by the Fifth Amendment So we can call him as a witness Smith says calling the son to testify is not about the parents wanting to throw him under the bus or make him look bad It's about her clients defending the case I'm Ed
Update on the latest sports
"AP sports I'm sherk Freeman Tampa uses the long ball to finally beat the New York Yankees It was a career night for the ray Zach paradis who hit three homers all by the 5th inning and the rays beat the Yankees 5 to four Ray shortstop Taylor wall says the night was owned by parades It just looks like he's in total control you know I made his impressive tonight with special It was very special to watch special night for him and it was huge for us and pretty much just carried us that whole game Just the third loss in the last 20 games for the yanks Tony Godzilla became baseball's first 9 game winner as the LA Dodgers beat Cincinnati ate the two San Francisco held off Atlanta 12 to ten giants catcher Austin winds had a big night three hits including a three run Homer for manager Gabe Kepler Austin has come over and had quality at bats It doesn't always been as pretty as it was tonight you know the Homer and driving the baseball several times Chicago White Sox down Toronto 7 to 6 in extra innings Boston beat Detroit 5 to three two of baseball's best win at it as Houston down the New York mets ate the two Adam splain reports Jose Archie earned his 6th win of the season by allowing just one run on four hits over 6 innings Archie struck out 5 and the only blemish on his line was the 6th inning Homer he allowed to Pete Alonso Adam spelling Houston Nolan Gorman Homer twice as St. Louis beat Milwaukee 6 two Texas blank Philadelphia 7 zero San Diego three Arizona two in extra innings Seattle down Oakland Pittsburgh over the Chicago Cubs Miami Beach Colorado Washington down Baltimore Kansas City over the LA angels and Cleveland over Minnesota Another major champion Brooks Koepka leaving the PGA Tour for Liv golf Rob Gronkowski is retiring from the NFL for a second time leaving the league after 12 seasons Toronto Maple Leafs forward auston Matthews is the NHL's MVP and the attorney for Cleveland Browns quarterback deshaun Watson has reached an agreement on 20 of 24 lawsuits from women accusing Watson of sexual assault and harassment Check Freeman AP sports
Fr. Robert Sirico and Eric Discuss the Parable of the Talents
"Back. I continue my conversation with father Robert sirico. Catholic priest, former head of the actin institute. You're now what emeritus? Emeritus. I'm still working with the institute. I just don't have to attend every finance meeting. Okay. That's positive. Be loose. The book is the economics of the parables. You just as we went to the break, told me in my audience something which I don't think I knew this, or maybe I heard it once, and I forgot. But that the parable of the talents, the talents and the ancient world were coins. And economic unit. An economic unit. And now so we use that term talent as a gift that we have because in that parable of course you remember. And I use the one from Matthew. There are two versions of it. But I thought the one from Matthew was a little more straightforward, simpler to expound on. There are three servants. One is given 5 talents, one is given to them one is given one. And he goes away and what it says at the beginning. He was a very key but subtle thing. He says he gives each according to his ability. So the capacity of these guys is not what's in question. You can't say, oh, well, the other guy just didn't know. It was something moral. It wasn't something intellectual or something to do with experience. The failure of the one who doesn't reproduce his talents is moral. And we see it at the end. Oh, there's no question. Yeah, and it's so fascinating because like anything that Jesus says, it's so deep that it's almost frightening. You realize this is God speaking. I mean, to come up with something like this. It's deep, but it's simple. This is the thing. It's like, it's incredible. You think that you're just going to wait in a puddle and you find yourself in the ocean. And it just keeps giving. I mean, as I say, preached on these parables for many, many years. And one of the blessings for me of COVID was that I finally put this whole thing together and really was able to meditate in quiet on these things. And I kept finding things that just had escaped my notice
Politico: Matthew McConaughey Lobbies up for Gun Push
"Now I warned you about them I'm not wasting your time this morning Where do you go for what the left is thinking about What the left is pushing around the liberal ecosystem Every morning political playbook time It's like the left giving you their playbook every single morning because a Politico is run by devout left it So every morning I read it to see what the left is thinking about I'm surprised they haven't blocked me yet actually And this morning in playbook here we go Speaking of lobbying this is a quote Matthew McConaughey is turning to K street They report following a spate of recent mass shootings including the massacre last month in Yuval The award winning actor has retained a team of lobbyists at D.C. firm a Visa partners to represent him in the nation's capital Jim bob we see that one comment on why I'm a thousand miles away I mean it was a fastball We knew it was a fastball It was Houston ASTRO style We were watching and watching from the camera We saw we saw to catch your extend down to number one's the fastball I choose the deuce But three the sliders for the change up I don't really remember I was never a catcher One's definitely the fastball bring the heat We saw the sign Matter of fact to catch a whispered to me as I was up at the plane Fastball inside corner open up your stance a little bit I mean this was so obvious that this was going to happen
Julie Kelly: There Is No Bombshell Takeaway From Jan. 6 Committee
"What's the great takeaway from this Julie Kelly that is a bombshell that we were supposed to learn Well there is no bombshell The bombshell is this is a continuation of russiagate the same interests who brought us the greatest fraud perpetuated on the American people between the Department of Justice House Democrats and the media did it again this week Mark you had two indictments this week to bolster what this committee was doing last night You had Monday the grand jury indictment announced by Matthew graves to D.C. U.S. attorney handling 800 plus cases Bringing forward seditious conspiracy charges the rarest of crimes against 5 Proud Boys and then that was sort of the focus of last night's hearing Then you also have the arrest of Ryan Kelly Republican candidate for Michigan governor Mark they've had information about his whereabouts at the capitol protest since the day it happened Nothing new there But yet they waited until the day of the hearing to raid his house the FBI raid his house and announce misdemeanor charges against him This is the same collaboration We have seen for years And because none of them have been held accountable it has all been accelerated and now you see the media going along with it giving airtime Unprecedented airtime to this show performance that we saw last night that did nothing to move the needle except justify I think forthcoming charges against Donald Trump and just try to put a stake in the heart of the maga movement
Maj Toure Analyzes Matthew McConaughey's Visit to the White House
"Yeah I'm not with it at all And it's smart of the opposition It's smart McConaughey I think is from Yuval day if I'm not mistaken I think he's from that part of Texas Nonetheless it's a smart move by the opposition to get a charming guy a convincing guy to do this thing There's a movie called the devil's advocate with Al Pacino And Keanu Reeves are on a train And he's telling him like oh you're like southern slick They see you coming And he's like me you know I'm the hand under the dress of the Mona Lisa They never see me coming These guys like Matthew McConaughey Bill Gates These types of guys they're like the super nerd that you oh man he's not a threat Or he is super charming Actors generally not all because I have friends that are actors and actresses Generally there's a certain level of Hollywood like sociopathic thing here Like your ability to act as a character he's the same guy that was in free state of Jones somehow that means that we have to listen to you and your intelligence or acting ability translates into intelligence And it doesn't And he is allowed to be as charming and cool and witty and all of that is he wants to be in The White House is allowed to I don't know why but have this actor in there this prescribing what our policy should be but while he's free to do that that has absolutely no bearing on my life and my ability to defend myself my family and my community And I think people need to remind that the left has the right to be as dumb and foolish as they want to be They can express themselves that way They can hire paid guys with armed security details to do to say that we shouldn't have firearms and we are free to completely ignore them and hopefully catch their next movie where they're pretending all over again
Sandra Smith & John Roberts Swoon Over Matthew McConaughey's Speech
"Listen to Sandra Smith and John Roberts yesterday afternoon on Fox News channel. John, he went into ways he believes we can improve the situation in this country and prevent mass shootings like the one that happened there and you've all the he wants to raise the age for buying an assault rifle to 21 years old unless you're in the military. He says all gun purchases should require a background check and red flag law should be law of the land. Really interesting to hear him say there. Someone from Hollywood, calling to restore our family values and the wake of that mass shooting at that elementary school in Texas. Real impassioned plea there, and I think probably the best presentation that we've seen from that podium in an awfully long time. You know, he is part of Hollywood, but he's a Texas native, you validate native, very down to earth guy. Nothing wrong with listening to Matthew McConaughey, that's okay.
"matthews " Discussed on Asian America: The Ken Fong Podcast
"I don't think that i could say so eloquently it's bid. I just wanna make sure that. When i put something out vitit really is something that i'm speaking to honestly and eloquently ended up. I'm not upping the game and adding something to what. They've already said that i did that. I i don't think that. I wanna try to put something out to take up space. What i would rather elevate their space then tried to take up more space with another song about something that they're already doing better than the way that they're saying and that's out the say that people shouldn't try to if people need to say somebody to say something and the more voices. We have the better but i think that myself as a musician other ways that i can address it and then i'm i'm hoping i think there's other things that can talk about that. Maybe address the different okay. Now that's all fair and good. We're getting to the end of our time. And i just We're going to actually leave this episode by playing your your newest track. And so i just want to thank you before we drop that for you know reconnecting with me on so glad we actually got the have this conversation for you to share your story. Could you just set up tracks or listeners. Understand how to listen to it. I would love to and thank you. So much. Mr mr ken pastor dr john canada's fight kenneth fight. Yeah yeah. I'm just really grateful for any chance that he get to speak to amazing community members and people that are using their platforms. Elevate other people so thank you so much for doing that for myself. And the work that you're doing to elevate the community. I think it's very well needed. The song about the here is called seeking a friend for the end of the world. It's the first single from a series of singles that i'm about to put out. I'm going to be releasing music throughout the summer and the fall. And i've got a bunch of other songs to put out to this saw kind of quarantine related but it's about the size of feeling like you're floating. You have nothing around you that keep you grounded and is needing a friend to help you feel like you're connected to the surroundings and your earth and your plan and your family and your relationships it just wanting to feel connected to something so hopefully guys like it if you want more check. Spotify danny kaye. Dan instagram danny kaye. Dan and please keep on doing things. We just need. Better people thank you. You're welcome That azis sat between now. Let's say a baby. Never way.
"matthews " Discussed on Asian America: The Ken Fong Podcast
"Hey chuck. how's it going right that the top temperament white goes. Yeah totally like i picked up to. But i just didn't know what that was. Yeah it's a. I'm sure there's a certain demeanor that comes with being with say white in america and especially if you are growing up in adopting your raised by white people that a lot of those trader environment influences the way that you end up talking the way that you are so even though you forward-facing look asian you're basically raises a white person and there's nothing the relayed with korean regime around me. And even more than that you think about traditionally the way even asian american parents raising their kids at least there's an asian upbringing or or some eastern standard away. Their parents raise them. So that's why they raise their kids and so even with that. You're still raised kind of with an asian upbringing. But if you're raised with a non asian upbringing you become your environment is even if you are no matter. What you do can't deny that so it ends up influencing you. What you do see happen though is that becomes an interesting juxtaposition and weird pressure. Point of unfolded facing of asian people. Treat me like i'm asian. But i know that i'm not asian on the inside. So that's what really i think affects you and then it's kind of like he's to pressures that are going out one another enough creature identity. And that's what either forces people come to terms of being asian. Some people really come to terms with like. I don't wanna do anything with my asian background and then other people in the center. But that's i think that's where the pressure comes from. That's what turns us into the people that we are. So we're have you landed today. I'm pretty asian asian american. I think that i really dove into my asian upbringing and my ability to be around a lot of asians. I think has helped that. I'm around a lot of asian people. And so i think because of that i'm able to learn a lot more. I'm able to experience a lot of what it means to be. Asian asian american around them and so i definitely i think veer more towards that direction and then also. We're all the circumstances of our environment. As i mentioned and i grew up in southern california about our north of la. And i was able to still be in a pretty diverse location versus. If i grew up in the mid west it would have been very front. Yeah it's funny Our daughter like. I said she just graduated from college. And it was a virtual graduation so we didn't go up there but she has to white house mates. In addition to to other asian american ones and so one of the white house was there all graduated. Her parents came up and actually kind of brought food. This celebrate this so they came home for lunch and had one of those things. You pick up at ralph's so it's like a raw vegetable thing with the ranch. Dip thing which is okay. So the virtual ceremonies over. We're on facetime with their daughters. Oh so what do you guys do for dinner like this graduation college. Yeah and she said well. My roommate's peres said well. It's whatever we didn't eat the raw vegetable plate okay right and so we hung up. My wife says asia's wouldn't do that now. Nothing all white people with do that but you know my wife from hawaii and so she's like oh man because one of the roommates is asian from hawaii. She's oh man. If that asian. Hawaiian parents you know husband's parents were there. They would brought teriyaki chicken wings. they would've had spam who's ubi they would've just like there's no way you're going to eat what was left over for lunch which was really not food. Yeah that's an interesting That sounds like an asian not asian. Difference yes yeah right and so then. My wife is feeling so bad. So she's she's more asian than me. I guess she said the next day. She's like you know we weren't able to go up there. We have to do something special foods for them. So we're going to tell them you guys can order out whatever you want and just bill it to us love. I like four my wife especially that satisfy the asian american cultural needs to do something special with food to celebrate allstone. yes yeah obviously. At one of the things i am familiar with. Is that a lot of my asian friends. When they were growing up the way that our asian parents would tell us they loved us with the having eaten yet and so that's obviously a big thing within the culture. Yeah yeah do. I remember correctly because i remember watching this in real time. When your documentary was posting all these different episodes. Did you get together. I don't know if it was with your twin brother or where you were learning how to make korean food tasting things. Was that part of your journey on thinking somebody else's journey that that wasn't a part of that specific series. But i definitely shot some extra stuff where. I had a brief series after i put out that series that was called asian ish and it was with other people teaching me out to asian stuff so we we did an episode. Where a korean family or somebody. Who was korean. Tommy automate korean food. So it was. It was nice. I was really like very thrilled to be part of it. And i just enjoyed learning more about that because it just puts me more in touch with my culture and even even experiencing it as an outsider. It still feels makes me feel like i belong. I gotta ask for your adoptive parents and do you have adopted siblings. Two or.
"matthews " Discussed on Carry The Fire Podcast
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"matthews " Discussed on Carry The Fire Podcast
"Was going to ask. You have any consistent practices or habits that are helpful for you. In what sense in any sense it could be? Yeah. Could be walk could be meditating could be having a glass of wine could be like whatever it is like what? What are the things that you've found to be helpful to your soul and? I think noticing stopping paying attention and noticing. Whether, it's something beautiful whether it's something interesting someone interesting like actually paying attention in and gets lost in my head that it's actually has to become a spiritual discipline on. It's the type of meditation to stop and pay attention to something even for ten to fifteen seconds so in the art of noticing. Is massive it it. It brings me into more states. Calm and peace because there's a lot in this world that makes me angry as you can obviously tell but. With the rage that I think can is useful and can be useful cultivating. Anger rage, but also cultivating. Stillness and paying attention and quiet. On Com sometimes they use like APPs to help me do that. Meditation APPS or again it could just be. Walking and actually noticing beauty I think that's at the end of the day. That's what I want to be doing. The most with my life becoming more aware beauty. I love art and entertainment because I think there's a beauty to when it's done well, and so I'm always in wanting to engage stories that are beautiful in that. Tell the truth. And like it's like nourishing to my soul to watch TV show that's just very well done. That has poignant telling telling something truthful, even if it's hard, love it because it nurses selectively and. Yeah. I love beauty. That's awesome. What's a non? Star Trek. Example of what you're talking about. Oh I mean. Lower to start. I feel like. Head when you're saying it. What maybe I just went back and Rewatch DOUBT NAB Downton Abbey. And several other masterpiece theatre shows, which I thought were beautifully well done. thought the just the subtlety of performance writing was was brilliant, Sharp, witty, clever without being over the top. I think there's something really cunning about that type of humor. Also of these are all British examples, but the crown on Netflix is a big is a a really gripping story about Queen was. On different decades of her life and kind of told fictional own. Lens. But it's it's telling the. Truth about her lifeless stories, and I don't know. There's something really honest and guttural about it also I think if you care about power analysis, there's such such an interesting thing to watch it to see how we shifted from Godot Nappy does the same thing how he shifted from monarchy's into democracies in just that turn of the century. What that did their culture I just? For an analysis of power like I realized how much. You'll thinking is wrapped up in Christianity as well as in our even here in America and in our current political. Systems. We carry a lot of the roots of that type of colonialism in so when I watch it. That's what I'm actually noticing paying attention to. so yeah, those shows I mean I love. I love comedies. Actually watch a lot of old shows to go back. I'm watching watching cheers right now. loved years. You know to dancing health sexist. He doesn't really charming which? is a different era but the cast and the chemistry of Characters brilliant I'm also what else am I watched a taxi a love Mary Tyler. Moore the Dick Van Dyke show host old black shows living single Freshman, year I've been going back through. The exits. Feel maximum. Yeah Man. I just been like things that reminisce childhood I really love to to watch and. And some there there was a beauty in simplicity to them. Some number problematic and still are but yeah. Psyche. You can't even tell you I just watched. The politician on Netflix, which is brilliant does show is incredible. If you haven't seen it, go watch the parents. They just dropped season to season. Two has a cultural and Bette midler. And it's brilliant man. It's just about this young kid. WHO's you know writing for politics, but he doesn't have moral center. As the things get away with select run for student government in the first season in for college in Indi- season to these running for New York State Senate. As it's just brilliant. and I feel like it's an accurate representation of you know a lot of our politics right now, but it's a comedy and It's just as beautiful to seven tiger. Fay's beautiful. Have, you watched veep. I loved veep. Veep was incredible. Bro, that last season of veep was so accurate. All of it was accurate with better I felt like that. Last season felt so current I was like man to idiocy, but you know what the same thing was. Parks parks and REC really showed the idiocy of our politics. And then when trump came along as like. Oh, like this isn't just like a few isolated places like. Type of like mob idiocy, which to me. The town Polynesia's overtly represented. You know in. It's silliness Yeah! I loved doll all that stuff. All right last question total secretary should have worked in earlier, but I'm just curious are you? Have you read anything on process, philosophy or theology at all? A bit, I don't. Have grasped fully to let quite articulated just because as a form of theology I haven't like. Studied at studied it I have to it. I'm more asking because I feel like it would dig it. Yeah. I I am the funny thing about me, is oftentimes I? Intuitively come to some of those places and things and think through them without knowing there's like a formal theology around in like a formal hillary on me all the time, but because I do that, even with like a actually I don't know brain things choose like you just described perfectly so-and-so's theory it on I'm like Oh, I didn't. I don't even experience. I. I'm I'm relatively aware of process theology vibe with it so far, but I don't not enough to where I could like. Let me explain to you what I do or don't. Do that right, but I should look into it more. Yeah I can. Recommend some some good starter spots, but The way it deals with. Power like God's agency and stuff is super interesting. Yeah Anyway. Kuhlman, thank you so much for for taking the time and Yeah I. Hope. We can hang some time in. The real life once the Rona is gone, love you. Know. And then you WanNa tell people where they could find out what's going on with you or. 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"matthews " Discussed on Carry The Fire Podcast
"The franchise. was just that it was just kind of mind numbing entertainment in that way, and and even George Lucas. Admit that I've seen a conversation between. Gene run very son and George Lucas kind of talking about this reality. Star Trek Star Wars very much you know. Of course. They had some themes around, but the themes. Yeah, it's more mythic. It's more almost like a fantasy. It's just. Exactly. We're star Trek Fantasy Western yes. And Star Trek well the original series of star, Trek. Has A lot of western feels to it as well. I think in terms of the format how they shot. The template of the day. And they you know they. They use that format to communicate a lot of truth and but. Yeah I. It's a frustrating thing because I think when you really look at the legacies of both. You Know Star Trek Truly Sifi. It is everything that is amazing about sci-fi. It's theorizing about a better world in future. That's unimaginable to us. Currently. It also gave us so much technology. Star Trek also so many astronauts and people that signed up for NASA. were influenced by watching Star Trek as kids. I mean the IPAD is pretty much an invention from star trek like there's so much tech actual technology part of our day to day lives, and even the modern space program was modeled after Star Trek to the point where even this new space force that Donald Trump is trying to. Push forward. They stole the emblem for. So I duNno, it's the original and and I'm in love with. I love all the shows some more than others deep space. Nine's probably my favorite, and then the next generation, original series and voyager. And then the new show star trek discovery epic. They literally shot it like a movie. It's one of the most action packed. Great story are from whole seasons beginning to end I love I. Go back and Rewatch them all the time. And then these are the car an. Is there an order that one should approach them? You know star. Trek's a hard one because it's thirty years of. Original series sorry to count next generation deep space nine voyager. Enterprise Discovery Card there are seven star Trek shows in the last thirty years, and then there's about twelve to fourteen movies motion picture film, maybe maybe fourteen fifteen when she had more than newer ones that we're kind of the Judy Abrahams renditions, which are kind of like a different alternate timeline. So it's it's hard because I. Don't know where to tell people to the. You could start chronologically I wouldn't necessarily do that. I probably would highlight this. I would say start season two of the original series go through that just these into, and then of the of the like the old. The old old ones start making start there. They're weird. They're they're so different. They're so seventies sixties and seventies and so abstract, and just the way they're shot is just kind of cool to there. I would start there and then I would start season three of the next generation. And maybe why not start the being well? There's always kind of a thing star. Trek shows are always the best, the first season or two. Okay, but usually by season three or four they they pick up so much, and that's another thing you kind of like you commit to the series, so I think if you start there and watch some of the highlights and best you can then go back and watch some of the older episodes. They were good episodes and some of those earlier seasons. But they're still trying to find their way so to speak. You could tell by like season three. It hits its stride. It was even nominated for Emmys next generation was because of how good the acting was and the storylines. Start Season Three. They're same defacing. The accident destroys nine from the beginning. All seven seasons are incredible. the voyagers the same way it's like a lost in space version of Star Trek and then I. Don't know discovery. You could start those from the beginning. Those are very well written from the beginning, so I would really I think in this time where everything feels really dark and it feels. Even sometimes hopeless I think what Star Trek is offered is at its best. It's brought a sense of optimism about the future and a sense of hope. And it has like I said help. People work through real moral conundrums and philosophical. Issues that resonate like there's a lot of teams around. Sina Phobia and around Racism a lot of the episodes and I don't know I think it's feels more relevant now than ever has, and so I'm happy that they're relaunching the whole star. Trek Franchise they've got three marshals in the works brand new star trek shows CBS's developing. On top of the two ones that are already on air. And so yeah, they're really rebirthing. The whole franchise colleges a really exciting to me. Yeah. That's cool. Yeah I feel like. My kids would probably dig it. They're like super into everything. Sci Fi and fantasy. So. have to start intimate with them my. Not The excited, but yeah. My mom wasn't the biggest fan of it. Either should watch this they are. David fused these things called sharks which are little ten minute blow things, one or two of them are animated, and now they're about to drop a new star trek show. That's completely animated. It's called lower deck's. That's about canal. Yeah, there's there's some I think kids would would really take some star trek so cool. Yeah, as I was like doing some research to talk to you today and looking through some the star trek stuff I found. Some of the Vulcan Philosophy was Gerrad like so the whole infinite diversity through infinite combinations. real into that And then this quote from Gene Roddenbury saying mankind will reach maturity in the day learns value diversity of life and ideas. ooh is good. One I've heard that before, yeah! And then this one Is In an episode? Maranda talking to spot, and she says I understand. Mr, spock, the glory of creation is in its infant diversity, and he says and the ways our differences combined to create meeting and beauty of ood. Super into that and I I, this is making me WanNa Watch. The show was Yeah I think those ideas. I don't I. Mean I heard that when I was younger been like. Cool. Like I. Know I. I was two. And a kind of gets at at some of this the way you balance, goodness, truth and beauty but I. I I was too much way too much truth. You know when I was younger and. So those differences to me weren't. It was something to to be sorted out right to figure out. What's the right? What's yeah, and also too? I think there's. On top of that, there's a sense of. We want to be heroes so bad. And Star Trek does this interesting thing of showing you? How at times you here on at times, you you try to be. The hero makes you the oppressor. And, so there's there's real like it's showing you life and truth from multiple angles rather than you know sometimes the action fantasy stuff is just about being the hero which I think. That's why psychologically we.
"matthews " Discussed on Carry The Fire Podcast
"What he will. William Bars tried to do is he's trying to rewrite the narrative from the place of the Congress? But when he fails to realize, is that our our history will be written by by the marginalized in the people, because what the civil rights movement particularly will. Let's say the emancipation proclamation all the way to the civil rights movement what it did, and this is why black people are going to always be the thorn of the flesh to dominate white culture is we unmask. White culture dominant culture for what it really is, and now because of. Decades of of. Black people beginning to flourish beginning to to. Own their stories. Beginning to tell their stories, it's it's a Su- NAMI wave of of a black stories that have been in black resistance that is overpowering the dominant narrative myth. Of that America has created, and that's what's happening in this historic moment right now with people and the protests and acknowledging systemic racism is actually were saying no longer. Are we letting the conquerors rule? Our perceptions of reality, or they're false revisions narratives of history. Four you again, thank you for taking the time I. Really appreciate it and excited to talk to you I feel like A. Have had a few lately. Where I've talked to someone where I've heard their voice like a fair amount, feel like I kind of know them, but it's like a total false. False relationship. But. Do that in my head you're you're kind of my friend. So that's and what we've had some limited twitter twitter action. But Yeah I appreciate it. Yes the show were kind of talking about the the good that you're in the beautiful. and. just using those as lenses to look at. Everything around us, and I liked to start out asking I feel like this like a bucket for the sense but growing up. what would cause you to feel a deep sense of wonder about the world? Yeah I grew up with the very strong. Curiosity my dad. Really cultivated curiosity and me and my siblings He was constantly. Putting us in new environments environments that were made to stretch us. I mean I was I was swimming really well by two years old? and. He would take us down the street to the park in Detroit. I how to play tennis. Right or he would. He would stretch us kind of beyond like. Even some of our. Cultural values to try different types of foods on Internet. Judge it and to find things you like about it. What music was like that literature reading psychedelic group in a household that just valued curiosity and I think that was my window into. Wonder you know. Like I mean he was? He was really cultivating that as a value for you oh. Yeah, absolutely! My Dad was cultivating. Cheered curiosity beauty and wonder about God about the universe. We were a big star. Trek family too, so I mean he would like sitting down in the basement when he would like. He would be working on different things, and he would put on video tape recordings of all these old shows whether they were westerns or like little rascals Shirley Temple Star Trek. And, so I would just like soon. My Dad while he was kind of tinkering in the basement and Mike Watch these TV shows that just would like. Expand my brain and my horizons, and so yeah I think I have to give it up to my dad for. Giving me like a real sense of beauty and wonder an all. That's awesome. And it's a perfect transition into. I was going to ask you about star Trek because I feel like. I don't really know. That I know of I. Don't know any like trekkies, but I feel like you post about it a lot. Probably. No good and it. It's been like. I grew up. And I saw I would see some next generation and you know movie here there, but. I was never like way. In I think. Part of it. I didn't love the. I like the grittiness of like star, wars or something like the way that the universe felt a little more like lived in. But I think part of that is just because you know. It's supposed to be the future and star Trek and so. Stuff's cleaner or something I don't know. Like too much like button pushed about an ethics, but I remember seeing some really interesting episodes and You've been tweeting out some stuff. Some of the newer shows and just little snippets and I. I don't know I'm realizing there's a lot. A lot more there that I need to dig into so what? What draws you to star Trek? So me on it, yeah! So Gene Roddenberry. Who is the creator of Star Trek? He had a pretty unique philosophical vision of. Human history, but also our future he he was theorizing. In which humanity had overcome a lot of our baser instincts, and had put down war, famine, disease and poverty had overcome those things. And transcended them, and so he theorizes universe where our ability to lay down. Our propensity for war would actually cause us to. Want. Travel the galaxy and increase technology to explore strange new worlds, new civilizations, seeking peace and exploration. You know and so star Trek was really much a optimistic vision of the future, and especially being created in the nineteen sixties so much social upheaval gene put the first interracial cast on television. That's what Star Trek did back in the nineteen sixties had. You had an Asian American a Russian American a black woman. Of course, white men, you had you had so much diversity in the cast and crew of the original star Trek Enterprise. And and that was his point and there was. A fun little story. Nicole. nichelle Nichols who plays lieutenant you Harare was the first black female. In that role in in the Star Trek world side, no also star Trek did the first interracial kiss between her and Captain Kirk the first time on American television. An interracial couple had ever kissed own star. Trek, She had wanted to quit the show, and then she met Dr. Martin Luther King and Martin Luther King at told her. Star Trek is the only show I. Let my daughter stay up and watch, and it's so important for you to be on this show because you represent what black people look like in the future. And so she brought that back to gene Roddenberry, and that you could tell it really had an impact on them, and it pretty much became the core philosophy moving forward for all the Star Trek movies TV shows. It's the universe. That is more dealing in philosophical concepts. That's why star wars thing is interesting. Because Star was just action fantasy that's not based in any type of reality. Star Trek has has a moral guiding principle, and it's wrestling through moral quandaries. And Philosophical conundrums on the regular like that's the entire thrust of the show, so I think it was packaged a little slower and a little more intellectual which I think. If. You're into it. You're into it, but if you're not, you're like I. Just WanNa see laser fights like i. just want to see. And I think that's kind of like star. Wars kind of becoming.
"matthews " Discussed on Nicole Matthews
"Your light shine the brightest? After a girls weekend. I love it. And what is your big ask currently either personally or professionally that we can help you with My. I guess because I turned fifty recently. I can't stop with sort of obsessing and that's my word about a lack of time. Okay and I think because I have young children. Yeah. Is How to keep that in perspective. I feel like the the survey are glasses flipped. Yeah. And there's no, we have no gifts of time. We don't share it right but it is a recurring thought of mine on a daily basis that how do I stop worrying so much about that right? Is that yes and ask like how do I do that? Yeah, interesting. Yeah. It's it's I. Don't mean to be dark. But it's it's. It is something I've started talk to my girlfriend's editor of similar ages about it. And I think that's it keeps you to the place where you want as much time as you can of corn of for health and wellness and all the things. But to make a great impact seem to be going there in my head a lot about how do I get these messages across at this point in life you don't know how long right? I actually I actually struggle. If I'm completely honest every time my parents have a birthday. Because I know that that's limiting the you know my dad just turned seventy two and he's very healthy and you know very sound mind and very active and I'm very blessed. But there won't be seventy two more years you know and and I think the same with my mom too and that that bothers me when he turned seventy I've I've felt that what I think what you're describing for him I not for him he would say I've had a great life, right? Don't be sorry for me. Sure. I I think selfishly for me I realized that. I won't have seventy more years. Thank you know. So and I don't know what why that switched I. Don't know what it wasn't so much about I wasn't one of those people freaking about turning fifty that's whatever it is what it is but. It's just can't shake it like a weird and maybe it was just calling attention to being present in the moments that you have share and maybe it's about not sweating the stuff that you shouldn't sweat maybe it all ties into my earlier get. Right is how do I? How do I get that just in the day for the day and not stress so much about what might becoming? Yeah. But other than that I professionally great place. I feel fortunate to have this role and be learning about what learning about because ultimately if I do go back to a hotel environment. This will enhance right the the knowledge of this market in particular, but I can take this sort of experience to help someone develop one and I know also that your girlfriends are very important to you have a very strong. Female. Tribe I I see what you all get to. Social. But I think you know I think that that's I. It shouldn't be discounted as how much that is important to you as well and probably what a contribution that makes your life and how important that is to have that much support. That's not your husband. That's not your professional colleagues. Girls that's right. You need you need that balance and I think a lot of those girls that you see us travelling in a squad are all on me girls we all we all came together at that hotel and I think various Adrian is I mean I'm the oldest by Ma Mile of all of them but we have developed a great unique shared experience and some of you know raising kids at similar. Now I got a late start and it is it really. That's why I said how do you when your light shines the brightest I mean that's That's a that's a release like the really isn't. Anywhere else when you can really just know you're with a group that yeah, loves you and supports you in experiences the same as you, right? Yeah. Well, I think your light shines very bright when I'm in the room with you. So thank you for spending this morning with me and sharing your wisdom and your experiences and your big asks because that's It's important that we all tell our story right of thank you for taking the time to tell your story. So wonderful. Yeah. Thanks Okay bye-bye you've been listening to the big ask podcast with your host Nicole Matthews. Be Sure to stay connected to the big ask podcast.
"matthews " Discussed on Nicole Matthews
"For some of these conventions. So the larger the convention, the better the reach and I think that's that's an area that the public could do a better job of understanding the APP for sure. What about large scale things like Be Olympic bids. I've now had the privilege of working three. Olympics in having seen what it takes for city to put on an Olympic. Level Games. When? I heard a few years ago. That Sandiego was sort of noodling this idea for a bid. My initial response was we don't have the public transportation to support an Olympics because people don't understand. You don't drive to the Olympics. Right. There's no parking structure that'd be. Olympic, Park. That's not a thing right and so we're so limited on our public transportation here in San Diego that I. I see that that could affect missed opportunities or become missed opportunities for for big projects like the Olympics I mean whether wise We we'd be at the top of the list for Summer Games at by. Having now seen what it takes to put on an Olympics. Yes. I always think Oh, saying he goes not quite there yet. So we're kind of car are you hearing more conversations about Olympic bids and I haven't heard Olympic specific but there is a presentation that we heard last week for the World Beach Game, which is part of sub under the Olympic Committee. And they are coming in October of two dozen, eighteen mission bay focused but they've asked for some support and I don't know what the outcome of that will be but I understand that's happening regardless of the support. So but that's a lot of legwork into that ground. It's a knock as is the catchphrase in now the Association of National Committees I think that's right. and. So I, know they're coming with a group of delegates to San Diego for a big meeting. so that'll be great exposure for future opportunity yeah. Yeah. But until we fix our public transportation problem, it's kind of a mute point because you we just don't have anywhere that could support a games where the trolley currently goes or the buses currently go and the train system I think that at one. Point I I've heard from colleagues in the tours majority there was discussion to push forward on a direct nonstop from L. A. Train, which I think would be great and it's just you know how do you get all of the the entities in the room? The right time to actually execute and I think that's where sometimes we lose steam definitely, we need direct to lax that's what we ate that. Eddie. Amazing. Downtown. La. Lax So what are you working on right now that's super exciting for you. This process is my first of his funding. Presentation. So I'm communicating with about fifteen entities that are applying for funding for the TMD. So we need to make sure that their applications look top notch and their budgets are online with what our expectations are. So there's a lot of pre work a to get to know them, and it's exciting that part is fine to help them achieve what they need in some cases to get an event off the ground But then also to communicate to the board as to what to expect with these presentations and help them along right to be able to help US ambassador. Applying entity, and then the board of Director. So you understand what we can do to make sure that this is a great event for this use of funding and so all of it's exciting because it's the first time I'm doing it and a little bit nerve wracking because it's all public all these are open to the public have any time to watch my role in those really administrative executing the flow of the meeting, but it's a it's. A great process in you know it's a lot of money I. Mean it's a it's a nice chunk of change to be able to really make sure we're going to invest in folks that can show us. They can bring a return on investment. Are you seeing a commonality in pitches in terms of are they sports striven or they craft beer driven music festival or are you seeing just hit the three? Okay. Even talk? About the market yes. For sure there's Probably have been. we'll just call it fifteen sixteen that are presenting. I would say probably five or sports to our beer. One is food and wine. Music festivals. Rugby Sevens is interested in coming back to town they're talking to us. There's a few others that holiday. Bowl. But that's falls into the this. But yeah. But those are have great draws attack attract teams from region. Right. So that's the goal. How do you bring people send you? Yes. Definitely. I one of the classes that I teach at San Diego Mesa. College is a special events course and I challenged my students. Their final project is to create an event that's currently missing from the marketplace. Love it. That is that would encourage the. Drive market right. So you're focuses La Vegas v necks, kind of that region but what would drive that market to come to San Diego for something unique different that's not currently in the marketplace do they can't take an existing event they have to create something completely new and so it's always fun every semester to see with students come up with love to be. Yeah. So this is like you need to now come in and be the like the. Funder I give you think imaginary like pot of money. Now, you could say listen, this is what we really do, and this is the criteria. That's what I need to get from. You is your criteria. So it helps me reach my mission, right? I mean her reaching a student base, your your I don't know how many students are in those classes, but they're gonNA than under walk away knowing what the TMD is because I can guarantee you that the. Majority of the populace would yeah, and that's just because there's not. It's maybe not as relevant in their day to day. But if you were in the hotel world and there's a lot of people don't world and restaurant world here that benefit from act action in Hotel Rooms Hotel Room nights days. I. Think we would really help get the support where we need it to be definitely What would you say to yourself just switching gears a little bit. Which winner there sometimes in your life when you think you should have made an ask that you didn't make. Oh. Oh goodness I think well, you had when you were saying talking about renegotiating yourself. I think I was incredibly patient for way too long. Gee I I think you accept, right? That seems to be a word that while I'm lucky enough to have this job and they're paying me this. But really in hindsight I know what my colleagues of the opposite sex are making. How do I navigate this and I didn't I didn't act. And only until I had an opportunity to change a city then do you have an opportunity to drive the reason as opposed to just walking and saying, Hey, this isn't this is an equitable right but that doesn't come easily..
"matthews " Discussed on Nicole Matthews
"This is interesting. Yeah. Yeah. It is interesting. So fascinating though that women in general are not general managers kind of across the industry it's pretty surprising. When you think San Diego's doing a pretty good job there's a view now but honestly, it's a very, very small percentage and I think a lot of it has to do you know it's a very tough balance. Part of my reason for changing careers where did now is I do have a young family and you can't. Feel like you're heading out of the park on either side of that fence, and that's that's just not hotels but hotels don't close. Unique right right and they don't celebrate most holidays. So you always feel you're letting someone down sure and I, think that I know a couple of jobs in town that have young families and I know I get that struggle and it's not as hard as one of the partners can stay home. But does that's a nice thing that happens right yeah. That's interesting. Okay. So then you're in San Francisco down the opportunity back to San Diego presents itself. We'll I chose UTAH. Okay ooh this one I had had my first child in San Francisco and my husband, and I had the time. His family was living here in San Diego and we realized that SOC- San Fran is amazing. It is an I. will always love it dearly It wasn't really sustainable to raise children right? We lived in the city and the cost at that point was so much different than San Diego catching up with. We decided to move back to San Diego, and I started looking and Omni had my old job back. Paws Gas. Why would you ever stop back? Right? Well, I asked to step back. He is needed to end part of it was because I wasn't able to get to the salary level I needed to in San Francisco. So there was that moment of pay my worth us know what the the markets paying. Okay. I'm going to be to step out and that was where we were. They weren't thrilled with by ask to come back because GM does that wasn't was successful by the measures of which you measured. But there was an opportunity because the gentleman who replaced me initially was leaving and I. I think my handle this for the right reasons is really my priority is my family and this morning. I figured the end of the day. It may work out again that I'd have another opportunity in San Diego wouldn't that be great to be a jam so I took my old Robak, which is the director of Operation Operation and came back like it I'd never laughed I. The people were still there by my old bosses still mild boss and it was great i. mean I think I had to really check the whole expectation of. I don't have the pressure of the top decision maker, but I also need to respect the process and sort of jump to conclusions jump to action, which is my thing which I like to do So I did that for about I don't know almost a year and then baby number two came along. So the timing actually worked out great and then while I was on maternity, leave the baby to the GM opportunity came open. For San Diego. Amazing. So I ended up back ultimately where I think I wanted to be okay but it was strange path. Yep. Very strange people still can't believe I did that. Back, intentionally sometimes you have to step forward. Yeah, right yeah. No shame in that game, right you know because like you said, your priorities had shifted a little bit. You needed to be more family focused than career focused doesn't mean you're not still amazing at what you do, but you needed to make that right step back for your family. Yeah good. What about your husband in terms of all of this moving and shaking and everything has his does he work independently does he's a financial adviser so he he's able to set a schedule and obviously you know West. Coast East Coast time difference. He's done earlier in the day I with the markets closing on the east coast time line and it did help us. He's able to work from home which drove him a little crazy. Now, he's in an outside office, which is much better. But Yeah I think we had to have that flexibility with one of us because as I said, especially as a first time jam in San Francisco, I, needed to be there as much as I physically impossible cook right and and same with back to San Diego and it's just been a good partnership in that he's able to be more available for pick ups last minute or children or things that happen. Yeah. So let's talk a little bit about that balance because you know I I'm not having children of my own, but I always hear women you know say this work life balance thing you know. And so how do you you touched on earlier that you don't think it really exists right? You can't be great at both at the same time and I think that's okay. Right. Because I think you are career driven, you're you like to be successful you like to be a contributor and that makes you probably a better mom right because you're happy right in the work that you're doing my assumption. Yeah and so how have you sort of navigated it like you have a great partner in in parenting Have you navigated that sort of gap between. Professional and mom yeah, it's. It's evolving every single day. Even. Now I think for me it came down to how much time you know physical time and space as one thing when you're its presence like the the hot word right now is being present right and being in the moment and I would find toward the end of my time at Omni that I was not present at home I was either looking at my phone, which is my biggest pet peeve now And not focusing my little funny little boys, right not always what cared for don't misunderstand. But you know I know I'm going to look back at time and realize I missed a lot because I was worrying about something. So silly that wasn't really relevant at the moment and who I was letting down at the hotel by being home on a Saturday morning instead of being there and so that to me I finally realized I love the the phrase. Work life balance but I don't think it's fair to expect it and I think that if you can be really doing great in your work, then life will switch back eventually. Right and that's kind of how I roll with us. Now, this job allows me a little more balanced more balance and I'm grateful for that opportunity especially right now with my children being young. But there's moments I. I crave that crazy an era of that plan. So you know what I'm talking about yeah, and I find it and I just do it other ways right with the kids activities or over-committing at school. Doing the things that we do..
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"To reduce the amount of anxiety that seems to exist in The younger people and I see it more the younger they are the more anxiety they seem to have in. It's probably because we no longer have a velocity of change we have acceleration. Which is the next dimension of from velocity? It's moving very quickly quickly. And I I can't I don't know how they're going to be able to go to every store and have baskin robbins at every one of them. How do you make decisions? Yes exactly exactly. When does your light China brightest? I think what I'm speaking and presenting whether it's in the classroom or to a group of people I really feel good about it. I enjoy it I like relating. I love speaking with people who are responsive. They're active listeners. And I had some of those today Eh. It just made me being. There's nothing better than that. Yeah when when what you're delivering is resounding with people in your in its landing. Yeah and and you get that response that is being appreciated. This is a really good thrill. Yeah definitely so the last question is always. What is your big ask? So you're gonNA that is the is the book anything else we can help you with it all personally professionally by multiple copies of my book. Yes yes yes and and If this if this is what I do presents a need to another group that I can speak with. I'd be more than happy to do that. Great what's the best way for people to reach you A gladys at so many enterprises dot com. which is a long long word or easier a gladys g email? There you go perfect okay. Great Well Gladys. I have enjoyed our time together. So thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and allowing the the people who had the fortune of knowing you like I have to have a little insight into your soul into your wisdom so thank you very much for joining us on the big Ask In podcast and for all of you do us a favor and drop a review. I'm it helps us to grow our following on in the podcast land so have a great retain an thank you so much for everything you I really appreciate it. I had fun great. You've been listening to the big ask podcast with your heist Nicole Matthews. Be Sure to stay connected to the big ARC podcast on facebook and Instagram at the big. Ask podcast and take you to leave review that we can continue to inspire all audience. Betty yet take a picture of yourself in join today's episode and Tag us on our social media channels until next time go out into the world and let today be the day you make your big ask..
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"Okay Yeah Yeah it came from some things that will not go and not sure sure but yeah it was a nurture thing I learned how not to ask and I become very good at that. See now I have known you for a few years. I have to be honest with you. That fact fact that you say that is completely surprises me. Because I think you're so intentional in the words that you choose in the actions that you make as as somebody who is voyeur in your life at different times. I'm surprised that that's an admission that you feel like you can't ask because I'm trying to think back to when I've ever heard you ask for something and I haven't but at the same time I just feel like that because you you feel very comfortable in your skin and so the hesitation surprises me. I agree that in the most complementary way because everything about you is so intentional That I am surprised is that you have admitted that actually is a first step. Isn't it yeah I like it I like it right. I stepped in many problems. Meeting there may be an issue but I think it spawned a lot of independence and You know I really have to be fully unable unable to do something before I'll go. That route writes writes it. It was interesting. I remember when I bought my first Apple Computer. It wasn't that long ago because I was a PC GAL. I was in defense contracting and Blah Blah A- and And so I had always used a PC and it came time to leave the corporate world and go out on my own and so I sat down with my son and I said well what do you think ought to do. He said cargo to Apple. You get away from this world and I said okay. I don't know anything about it Come shopping with me. And he did and he prescribed the right machine with the right Storage and all that sort of thing and he looked at me and he said no mom. If there's anything you don't understand or if you have any questions let me know and I'll google it for you. Well what do you think I I do a lot of now I google. That's so I mean it worked. Yeah yeah no one hundred percent so okay. Well that's something I learned about you today because I'm not prepared for you to say that I in my mind you are You're very strong. You're very independent like you said you're very intentional. You're very eerie supportive. Other Women And oh I can ask for other people. Yes yeah good good. Good good yes good okay so so now that. I know that I'm GonNa pay attention to that with you. So that's that's awesome. So so what's next for you. What else what are you working on right now that excites you finally wrote the book? Which I'm proud of you because we've had that conversation for a few years so what what's next for you? I've just completed writing the next book though. This one just launched on the twenty sixth of January. Yes I finished writing it now. That doesn't mean it's edited just means it's written The book deals with issues concerning public. Speaking MHM On Two levels one dimension ghosts too The fear the gloss of phobia that exists in the other goes to actually constructing a indecent powerpoint prison and there must be two hundred tips in this whole thing of how to do it and how to do it right so it's another basic how to book limit The the first book is part of a series. So they'll be more invisible people. I mean down the road. Okay yeah people yet to be seen yeah. Invisible workers invisible professors invisible students invisible invisible clients. We live in a remote world. Yeah for sure what What tools do you have to motivate yourself? What are you reading? What are you listening to? Who who do you follow can of what brings inspiration to your life okay? Well in the morning I follow Darren Hardy K.. And he does the Darren Erin daily and he's the publisher of Success Magazine And I've always been a proponent of it he launched the magazine and every magazine had in it a CD Of Their special speakers. So you can listen to that. Go into work but his daily routine is usually just a a three to six minute spiel and and you walk away with something pretty much. Every day that's applicable to your life so that's motivational for me Cynthia Trevino's he knows book is what I'm looking at right now The she markets because she gets into the fact that as women. We don't ask what is marketing it's asking. Yeah so looking at those two primarily right. Now okay yeah plus the schoolbooks. Yeah yeah reading in Creswell yet again and then in addition to your your books being published what what other projects are working on that excites you. Anything with your clients right now. It is bringing joy to your life. client work. I swear every time one of them wins a contract. My heart just skips a beat. I'm always happy for them. Yeah so we're either working on moving them towards a big award or celebrating the fact that it occurred so so that's been interesting and fun for me. I love it love. I love my clients and that's good. Well the I'm sure they love you and the fact that you said my job is to help them make more money for them. Yes yes I mean. What a tagline that is right that will will come to you and and what you do? Yeah so what. Let's let's dive into that for the last couple of minutes here What are most people's challenges from not making more money okay? The biggest in this is a generic challenge. But you can apply it to just about everybody. it's the issue of change management assignment right now. I'm teaching a course on how to be exultant and more often than not which are helping a company do is deal with change. Usually they don't call you until they're having a problem with change in most change brings problems so the issue of change and change management is probably the one that seeks out the most. Where do they need change? They need change with human resources. They need change in cutting costs. And how people are reacting to cost cutting if you're scoping down your Your brick and mortar footprint people are being displaced and they have to work remotely outling And dealing with the changes coming up there a number of change models and you pick the right one that goes with that particular client. One of my favorite models is John. Qatar's he's at Harvard and has done a spectacular job creating a his change model but there are others that are apropos to the situation MHM Good I love it. Who's been a big mentor to you? Probably Well obviously you start start at home With your parental influence in for me. That was my mother. Her two values were religion and education. Location and I went to twelve years of Catholic school so we we got that. Check mark and Education onto the the doctoral level. So those were her two who primaries but through life probably my biggest mentor. When I was with the feds for example was Carl? He's the guy who call it three thirty and energize me to go another eight hours course. Okay he was phenomenal. Put me in the right place at the right time in front of the right people and I will be forever grateful to him for that. That's nice yeah. Do you feel alight beyond your students that you have an opportunity to mentor people right now Beyond by students. Why spend a lot of time with them? I'm not just teaching the three classes but also I have eight. Yes eight students I'm on three committees and chairing five five dissertations right now so. I spend Saturdays. One on one with my The people cheering amazing. So they're kind of students but they're not really because they're more candidates at this point so I enjoy them. I love interacting with younger people. Yeah it feeds my soul. I am not my age. No I am forty seven. I have decided I am forty seven forever. I love that I love that. Well which is why it surprised me when you said that you went back at sixty one because I know you to be twenty six g that you bring to the room so thank you all right So before we close I just WanNa make sure sure that everyone knows so the the book is called the invisible leader. Yes by Dr Gladys and can be just on your website or where books are sold Amazon on the the easiest fastest quickest way to get it. Or if you happen to know me I'll sign a copy for you and heartbeat. I love it okay. Good all right. Are you ready for the rapid fire. Questions no Komo neither the pilots. Okay so always ask my guest the same set of questions so you have people who've already answered with these questions but I'd love to compare compare answers so title of your lifetime movie how to lead a fear based life fear based Yes yes interesting. Yeah that has another story associated. Okay okay that's a whole other podcasts. That'll be the next title podcast. Okay perfect if you could change places with any celebrity right this minute who would it be. Michelle Obama I love it. Okay good when do you feel happiest. Oh God I'm so so happy. I'm happy when I'm with my children. I'm happy when I'm with my granddaughter. I'm happy when I teach. There are rare times when I'm not happy because I've constructed instruct my life around two things. Does it feel money. Art doesn't feel my pocket. I know I love that I would say that you probably are one of the most the happiest people that I know every time I and the other thing you do very well and I will compliment you on. This is that you have a great capacity for to make somebody feel like you. They're the only person in the row. Oh never realized that. Yeah Oh good when you are in a conversation you are in a conversation. You aren't checking a phone or looking across the room or anything so I thought that I could do better. If you were running for politics what would be your biggest campaign promise. I know this goes back to Reagan but free education K Ultimate Dinner Party. Which for guests do do you invite and why Oh four guess why would invite my children? Okay okay that's too right. That's that's yeah I have to. They each each have a significant other so I probably will have to expand this beyond four. Yes okay okay I think I would look at et In fighting someone who brings humor I've had the opportunity to hear Jay Leno live up in Newport Beach uh-huh and he brings a sense of joyous nece to people and so I think at a party that's that's important I would bring someone. WHO's a good thinker thinker and? I had a professor for Zine majority who was amazing he could bring heart soul and academics together in one. So I would. I would bring those to other people as well. I love it. What a gift to your to your children? Good company right right this minute. You have to get a tattoo okay. Okay what are you getting. Why Okay it's not GonNa be a tramp stamp you already have? Of course yeah right maybe maybe the name of my grand dog okay. Do I have to say wear no. No No. We won't help the rating would would be it would be probably somewhere. That's visible though. Okay if you have I love my grandma okay. I love that and his or her name is. His name is bacchus Chris. The God of wine no great surprising right exactly exactly okay. Biggest pet peeve in business. Oh my God lack of responsiveness I keep telling people it cuts the ego of your clients. You must be responsive I try to set a standard of two hours. Even if I can't do something in two hours a let them know you're on my rader thinking about you don't insult someone's mm-hmm sense of Ego Oh I and I hate when people make me feel stupid or say.
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"And I've done this before last exit plan I did was seven months long but it included things like allowing for vested stock options. Don't cut off your nose despite your face so always think in terms of exit plans to an appropriate once. Yeah I think doc you know. My parents were both lifetimes at at their profession. Now both retired but my mom's almost forty years at an organization and and to me that's like how could you possibly right now that we're in this like GIG economy. I know that my niece and nephew. Who are you know late teens? Early Twenty s will never spent forty years at no a workplace right so just the dynamics of just what it means to go to work every single day I think is changing aging. Definitely in the amount of time that I've been working and I'm sure in the growth of your career as well where people are doing more of a Gig economy where they can really sort of respond to what what makes me happy. I don't need to be for forty years but at least I can find the kind of work that I liked to do and it might be at multiple places. It doesn't necessarily always have to be the one place for forty years. Exactly right so exact graduating from college and not thinking I have to be at this one company for the rest of my life but really marketing yourself so that you you do have opportunities to jump from opportunity to opportunity and not just necessarily job to job right. There is no requirement for monogamy when it when it comes to a career we are a profession or a job earlier today. I was giving a presentation and I. I had a church that spoke to what I call gigs tres and gangsters or people who practice the the GIG economy. Some of this is being promoted because we're hearing younger people talk about. Ha- always have multiple income streams. I heard a guy the the other night you said half ten which I don't know that I can't even keep track of that. That's like a like ten children my God but you know he said multiple income streams are important case. One gives out on you so I have Some research and Statistics on that by the year. Twenty twenty seven the number of gangsters and the the number of people who have jobs jobs will be equal. It's a fifty fifty split after that the lines on the graph part and we'll have more gigs tres than we have people who have jobs jobs. Yeah so we have a horizon on the way that's very very interesting right well and it also so speaks. I think that's those are powerful statistics because now the marketing of yourself is so much more crucial whereas if I had a job job up and I can kind of get that job and then sort of park myself and maybe I'll get promoted ebay while but I still have this sort of security in the sanctity of that organization Whereas if I am gigging I now have to you know? I can't put all my eggs in one big whale. You really can't have my big fish client because with that goes away now. I'm sunk so now I have have to continue to market myself in every single to you know to opportunity that I can't so those soft skills marketing entrepreneurial classes are gonna be so important for the next generation if you will the Gig sirs because they are anticipating. I only need to do this one time. And get my Gig. You know. That's not going to necessarily fulfill their financial requirements that they need it absolutely absolutely. I have a friend and this is a career path. That's been around for many ears and it may be the first gig career And I had never thought of it this way and she said And I just sold a house. She's a real estate agent. I just sold the house but you need to understand. I am constantly interviewing for my next job. You just never know when the next jobs going to come in who you're going to have to worked for. Yeah Yeah definite profound. It is profound so your new book is called the invisible leader. Yes and I know you talk a lot about the virtual workplace workplace which I think is fascinating because your the beginning of your career obviously wasn't for no. You're very traditional in that sense right. So where did that shift come from in terms of thinking like a traditionalist versus now a were a virtual workplace guru. Actually it happened when I was employed for the feds and I was the first Federal leader on the West Coast. Start telework okay. And this was like twenty remember years ago and And I know I did it all wrong but I learned from it and And I always felt very fondly about the topic and I saw would start to grow. I saw who fit well into it and who which people were totally uncomfortable and I talk about some of them in my book. Their stories stories have changed the names to protect the innocent and But some really really interesting and funny stories about moving into the virtual workspace. Especially if it's not your thing and so when I started my doctoral program of course you course. After course. After course. But that's not the mainstay mainstay of a doctorate. The mainstay is not to be. Abd All but dissertation so you have to write the dissertation and for that. You need a topic so I chose to look at leadership behaviors in the virtual workspace not traits not traits like generosity but the behavior savior that underlines that so. That was the crux of the research that I did and I wrote up the dissertation and while it's interesting in its essence. Oh my God. It's written up in a very academic style with all the citations and references and Blah Blah Blah. So the book is a translation of the dissertation into Real Real discussion so I actually got to have a voice. Yeah and So that made needed a lot of fun and so it takes something that was steeped in lots of research and turned it into something that was more practical and understandable tangible by people who are actually doing it and people who are leading in how they're screwing up. Yeah Okay so how are they screwing up. Okay first of all you have pretty much three kind of leaders in this world you have the leader. Who says okay? You're going to work at home. Thank God you are so oh high maintenance glad to have you out of my sight now. Obviously these words aren't uttered but that's the leader. He's not going to pay any attention to that person. Wants the person walks out the door oren starts working. God knows where You have another kind of leader who is a micromanager and who worries that if his or her numbers fall the look bad. So they'd become the constant micromanager. They're the ones who asked that. You keep the camera on all day so they can watch you know crowd. Yes yes really our leaders like that. Yes and GOB. Then there's something called the transformation leader and that's leader. Who tends to do it right? That's leader who can actually get a forty percent increase in productivity by taking someone out of brick and mortar and putting them in a telework environment or virtual environment assuming that they're prone to it not everybody is right for that kind of job right. What are the characteristics for the for virtual worker her to be successful? Yes for that kind of person. very organized is able to work on his or her own. You keep in mind. A lot of people thrive off of the interpersonal relationships in in Myers Briggs difference between the introvert extrovert The extrovert derives Energy by working with people so if you have extroverts maybe not exactly suited for it those who who liked to work cerebral early on their own more suited. I found when I made the switch when I became an entrepreneur it's also about discipline and most people think it's discipline of. Aren't you distracted by so much going on at your house you know like. Wouldn't you rather be doing the laundry than working well. The laundry doesn't make money so I had the reverse the discipline problem in that I would never stop working Because because there was no natural sort of end to my day At the time I had a boyfriend who is living with me and when he would come home that would be sort of my internal final signal. Like okay I should no longer be working and probably be a girlfriend now and we should have dinner and enjoy the evening but when he went away. So did my boundary of working right so then now I am paying attention to the clock based on. What's on the television as my background noise? So when the late night shows start coming on and you're still sitting Maher. I found that I needed to set better boundaries in terms of stopping to work whereas some people would find their distracted by you know the laundry. So you're cleaning the bathroom or which never even crossed my mind but see. Those people are equally distracted when someone walks in there. So it's interesting and there's a whole host of of characteristics of the people who work better at home. It's a good idea that employees have assessment done before they embark on it. And it's a good idea that the leader has an assessment done to be sure that they're really prone to lead well that way Working virtually or allowing permitting someone to work virtually is a lot like giving a sixteen year old the keys to a car once. You've done it very difficult. Difficult to ask for the keys back or even demand them so you know. Be careful what you wish for okay. So let's talk about how you do you lead a team. That's virtual so what are some of the characteristics best practices stories in your book that you tell in terms of people who are doing that successful successful yeah. There are four characteristics that really underpin the entire leadership paradigms one is I call a give a damn. It's called individualized consideration and what it means is that you take the time to acknowledge the person as more than an employee that this is really a human being and keep in mind. Human resources are humid. So the same way you would walk into an office and say good morning it might be a good idea to say good morning to someone who's out there in the hinterland. Okay If they have a birthday wish them. Happy Birthday I have one story that I absolutely love about a company that did the following The person was working for this company on a large scale. proposal for a very very big government contract the work involved in excess of one year of working pretty much twelve hours a day seven days a week The person was working offsite but not at home so it was kind of a remote not in the office. Not at home and The the proposal was finished and they won the contract. This company did something I've never heard of anybody doing again They sent something to the employees home. It was a big big box. Every bit of three by three by three uh-huh big-box arrives at the House. It's address to this woman's children and and it was filled with toys But it was more importantly filled with a note or had a note in it. The.
"matthews " Discussed on Nicole Matthews
"I follow Darren Hardy K. and he does the Darren Erin daily and he's the publisher of Success Magazine and I've always been a proponent of it he launched the magazine and every magazine had in it a CD of their special speakers so you can listen to that go into work but his daily routine is usually just a a three to six minute spiel and and you walk away with something pretty much every day. That's applicable to your life so that's motivational for me. Cynthia Trevino's he knows book is what I'm looking at right now the she markets because she gets into the fact that as women we don't ask and what is marketing. It's asking yeah so looking at those two primarily right now okay yeah plus the schoolbooks yeah yeah reading in Creswell yet again and then in addition to your your books being published what what other projects are working on that excites you anything with your clients right now. It is bringing joy to your life. client work. I swear every time one of them wins a contract. My heart just skips a beat. I'm always happy for them. Yeah so we're either working on moving them towards a big award or celebrating the fact that it occurred so so that's been interesting and fun for me. I love it love. I love my clients and that's good well the. I'm sure they love you and the fact that you said my job is to help them make more money for them. Yes yes I mean what a tagline that is right that will will come to you and and what you do yeah so what let's let's dive into that for the last couple of minutes here what are most people's challenges from not making more money okay the biggest in this is a generic challenge but you can apply it to just about everybody. it's the issue of change management assignment right now. I'm teaching a course on how to be exultant and more often than not which are helping a company. Do is deal with change usually they don't call you until they're having a problem with change. In most change brings problems so the issue of change and change management is probably the one that seeks out the most. Where do they need change. They need change with human resources. They need change in cutting costs and how people are reacting to cost cutting. If you're scoping down your your brick and mortar footprint people are being displaced and they have to work remotely outling and dealing with the changes coming up there a number of change models and you pick the right one that goes with that particular client. One of my favorite models is John Qatar's he's at Harvard and has done a spectacular job creating a his change model but there are others that are apropos to the situation MHM good. I love it. Who's been a big mentor to you probably well. Obviously you start start at home. with your parental influence in for me. That was my mother. Her two values were religion and education location and I went to twelve years of Catholic school so we got that check mark and education onto the the doctoral level so those were her two who primaries but through life probably my biggest mentor when I was with the feds for example was Carl. He's the guy who call it three thirty and energize me to go another eight hours course okay. He was phenomenal. Put me in the right place at the right time in front of the right people and I will be forever grateful to him for that. That's nice yeah. Do you feel alight beyond your students that you have an opportunity to mentor people right now beyond by students why spend a lot of time with them. I'm not just teaching the three classes but also I have eight. Yes eight students I'm on three committees and chairing five five dissertations right now so I spend Saturdays one on one with my the people cheering amazing so they're kind of students but they're not really because they're more candidates at this point so I enjoy them. I love interacting with younger people yeah. It feeds my soul. I am not my age. No I am forty seven. I have decided I am forty seven forever. I love that I love that well. Which is why it surprised me when you said that you went back at sixty one because I know you to be twenty six g that you bring to the room so thank you all right so before we close I just WanNa make sure sure that everyone knows so the the book is called the invisible leader yes by Dr Gladys and can be just on your website or where books are sold Amazon on the the easiest fastest quickest way to get it or if you happen to know me. I'll sign a copy for you and heartbeat. I love it. Okay good all right. Are you ready for the rapid fire questions no Komo neither the pilots okay so always ask my guest the same set of questions so you have people who've already answered with these questions but I'd love to compare compare answers so title of your lifetime movie how to lead a fear based life fear based. Yes yes interesting. Yeah that has another story associated okay okay. That's a whole other podcasts. That'll be the next title podcast okay perfect if you could change places with any celebrity right this minute. WHO WOULD IT BE MICHELLE OBAMA. I love it okay good. When do you feel happiest. Oh God I'm so so happy. I'm happy when I'm with my children. I'm happy when I'm with my granddaughter. I'm happy when I teach there are rare times when I'm not happy because I've constructed instruct my life around two things. Does it feel money. Art doesn't feel my pocket. I Know I love that. I would say that you probably are one of the most the happiest people that I know every time I and the other thing you do very well and I will compliment you on this is that you have a great capacity for to make somebody feel like you. They're the only person in the row. Oh never realized that Yeah Oh good when you are in a conversation you are in a conversation. You aren't checking a phone or looking across the room or anything so. I thought that I could do better if you were running for politics. What would be your biggest campaign promise. I know this goes back to Reagan but Free Education K Ultimate Dinner Party which for guests do do you invite and why oh four guess why would invite my children. Okay okay. That's too right. That's that's yeah I have to they. Each each have a significant other so I probably will have to expand this beyond four. Yes okay okay. I think I would look at et. in fighting someone who brings humor I've had the opportunity to hear Jay. Leno live up in Newport Beach uh-huh and he brings a sense of joyous nece to people and so I think at a party that's that's important I would bring someone who's a good thinker thinker and I had a professor for Zine majority who was amazing. He could bring heart soul and academics together in one so I would. I would bring those to other people as well. I love it. What a gift to your to your children good company right right this minute. You have to get a tattoo okay okay. What are you getting why okay it's not GonNa be a tramp stamp. You already have of course yeah right. Maybe maybe the name of my grand dog okay. Do I have to say wear. No no no we won't help the rating would would be it would be probably somewhere. That's visible though okay if you have. I love my grandma okay. I love that and his or her name is his name is bacchus. Chris the god of wine no great surprising right exactly exactly okay biggest pet peeve in business. Oh my God lack of responsiveness. I keep telling people it cuts the ego of your clients. You must be responsive I try to set a standard of two hours even if I can't do something in two hours a let them know. You're on my rader thinking about you. Don't insult someone's mm-hmm sense of Ego oh I and I hate when people make me feel stupid or say something assuming I am yeah but we'll stay with responsiveness responsiveness good fun. What is your wish for the next generation.
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"Ever start it was JC Penney and they did it with customer service and they hired a lot of women who were working at home okay and the calls came in and they took care of they were able to take care of their families and that was that was a good start for them. Of course it was all very much hinged on technology. If you don't have have the right tech- you can't make it happen so they've done really well on the flip side. We've seen Yahu and several years ago go Mussa Miro. When she became CEO she actually backed off from virtual work remote work now? The press she got was that she she took it all away from everybody but she didn't which he ended up doing was taking it away from about just two hundred people they happen to be the innovators in the best and the brightest. There were also the sixteen year olds who had their car keys taken away. Yeah didn't go over well especially in light of the fact that not long after she did that she gave birth to her first child and built a huge nursery that tells isn't that working at home so it was it it was kind of an interesting situation for the people who actually worked there I don't think it turned out as well as she wanted it to. so what about a cooperative workspaces we work downtown works popping up all over. Hera hub here in San Diego if I am an independent pendant and I'm in the GIG economy sort of working for myself. How do I benefit from working remotely if I'm not going to what company like what are best practices. I can implement for myself if I'm working in a cooperative working space but nobody's working on my same project right. We're all just physically. They're together but we're all L. ducks of a different feather right so what are your thoughts around cooperative workspaces and were there opportunities perhaps culture of that workspace that some of this could be created bright those people are sometimes referred to as digital nomads because the working and Airbnb the work in a hostile there they'll to work at Co workspaces him oddly enough. I just finished a presentation earlier today. At downtown works and it was part of their lunch unlearn program and downtown works does a lot to facilitate the sense of community within the space so even though we have people working in so many different kinds of businesses they have a chance to come together and learn from each other I spoke with an attorney who focuses on on divorce coaching and helping people have appropriate expectations as they go through that we had a number number of folks that were in the luncheon from the world of it we had some nonprofits sitting in the room so but they all were looking at a sense of community now again. I talk about flip sides. If I owned a company and I had some someone sitting in a Co workspace with other people who worked for similar companies I would kinda worry about how much of my business might be shared in under the spirit community but it seems to be working very very well and they're happy people yeah and that's what makes the difference yeah yeah that that sense of competition that is interesting. 'CAUSE you're right. Most of them are sort of in like spaces. You know the certain industries that started lend themselves to being a digital new mad yeah think about coders or graphic designers or somebody who really can just work anywhere as long as they have their laptop all of the intellectual kinds of jobs it was when was it gosh two two thousand fifteen. I did a presentation at Harvard and it was standing room. Only usually don't come to these very dull dry conference conference presentations but the title was would brought them in and my title was you can't rivet an airplane in your jammies so that's it as you're alluding in two. That's one of the jobs that doesn't go home with you. it's not a remote job yeah. It's Jammie job for something else. Yes definitely the digital. Nomads faces definitely been been of interest to me. I love companies like a remote ear. that are illiterate physically moving people around the world and creating this very global work experience uh-huh again as long as you have your laptop right. It's you can be anywhere in the world. We could be having this conversation in Barcelona Rome so I think there's a lot of value value to that. I think it's again going back to you know if I'm in the GIG economy am I thinking about things like retirement and and you know much at and having to be much more diligent in terms of making my own contributions to a retirement those are the kinds of things so I think from an experiential standpoint the GIG economy the remote the digital nomads I love I'm totally on board with Ab. Within the practical side of me says there definitely has to be a piece of that where it's it's great that you're working in Barcelona this month but when you're sixty five or you're going to be able to retire or you're so having to chase the dollar because you haven't been thoughtful about your Your Business Planning Yeah and if chasing the dollar is a game you WanNa do it forever forever and if you're still intellectually sound and can do that why not not yeah for sure but we we are we have what close to five generations in the workspace right now and we've seen a cultural shift two people who prefer experiences as opposed to things things have to be cared for they have to be cleaned. They have to be fixed. Experiences senses live on forever chapter and so we we find a transition to that we also find a transition away from a lot of responsibility fewer children are being born born and that has a different component in terms of time energy and money so the idea of living more of an exponential exponential life as opposed to a materialistic life has its enticement to people absolutely absolutely so what's a what's a normal day look like for us to work work remotely right you work in your Home Office. So how do you keep yourself disciplined. How do you set your boundaries. How much of your time Ramos sort of spent at the office versus with clients can talk through. What's a normal looking day for you yeah well. I think the first thing that's really important for all of us. Not just for me is to look at my energy algorithm for me. I do my best thinking in my best work in the morning so my most important work gets done in the morning. I have a lot of clients on the East Coast. That's fine. If I'm up working at five it's eight for them. that'll conjoined just great so. I find that I'll spend my early hours doing the more intense mentally oriented work after that it's time to get up and walk the city. I love living downtown and so as soon as I can get out and walk. I clear my head and I plan for four other things. During the day then I try to get out then it's back to the desk than I teach and the morning part is generally writing and meetings okay and the later part of the day is more of the teaching and the social part so happy hour was made for me because I don't do much thinking yeah in the evening and teaching very easy for me. I don't do both at the same time by the way that's class. I sure our share yeah. I've seen you drink and I see the benefit from from all they are mutual leaks. Yesterday aren't mutually my classroom classroom. sue so the the intention of my podcast is the big ask yeah so. I'd like to kind of dive a little bit deeper into win in throughout your life. Have you felt like you've made ate a big ask and what was that process like and what was the results and what is your current big. Ask Okay. I'm really happy that we're going to discuss this this because it's a real big problem that I have asking is almost a near death experience for me. I don't like to ask for things. It's it's it's worked my advantage because I tend to be very independent. anche really try to do something on my own if I'm asking someone for something because because I really need it. I just tend not to ask I'm trying to get over the Adan. I WanNa have more of the mentality that the average salesperson salesperson has the ever salesperson says it's okay if people turn me down. I am that much closer to the yes. Why can't I live that way. I really wish I could so I thought a lot about the big ask and you know I I applied for my doctoral program that was kind of an ask but it was done on paper deeper and and if they said no they said no I if I got thrown out that was okay. There were times. I thought I couldn't complete it and I said we'll stay here till I'm thrown out and graduated with four zero and with lots of accolades so that went will but for me at this point. I'm trying to to ask for more so today. I'm going to have a big. Ask My big. Ask for today's to buy my book okay. I can say that more easily because a portion of the proceeds I ghost was scholarship foundation so I feel more comfortable asking and and I will ask you to buy the book two hundred percent so that's my big ask for today. Yes okay. I love that I love that so listen a little bit deeper though into your hesitation to ask so. Is that a a we need to bring a psychologist for that so so is that a nature or nurture. Have you been nurtured to not ask because growing up. That's what girls didn't do or is it just innately who you. Dr. Do you think no. It's an archer thing okay yeah yeah it came from some things that will not go and not sure sure but yeah it was a nurture thing. I learned how not to ask and I become very good at that. See now. I have known you for a few years. I have to be honest with you that fact fact that you say that is completely surprises me because I think you're so intentional in the words that you choose in the actions that you make as as somebody who is voyeur in your life at different times. I'm surprised that that's an admission that you feel like you can't ask because I'm trying to think back to. When I've ever heard you ask for something and I haven't but at the same time I just feel like that because you you feel very comfortable in your skin and so the hesitation surprises me I agree that in the most complementary way because everything about you is so intentional that I am surprised is that you have admitted that actually is a first step. Isn't it yeah I like it. I like it right. I stepped in many problems meeting. There may be an issue but I think it spawned a lot of independence and you know. I really have to be fully unable unable to do something before I'll go that. Route writes writes it. It was interesting I remember when I bought my first Apple Computer. It wasn't that long ago because I was a PC. Gal I was in defense tracking and Blah Blah A- and and so I had always used a PC and it came time to leave the corporate world and go out on my own and so I sat down with my son and I said well what do you think ought to do. He said cargo to apple you get away from this world and I said Okay I don't know anything about it. come shopping with me and he did and he prescribed the right machine with the right storage and all that sort of thing and he looked at me and he said no mom if there's anything you don't understand or if you have any questions. Let me know and I'll google it for you well. What do you think I I do a lot of now. I Google that's so I mean it worked. Yeah yeah no one hundred percent so okay well. That's something I learned about you today because I'm not prepared for you to say that I in my mind. You are You're very strong. You're very independent like you said you're very intentional. You're very eerie supportive other women and oh I can ask for other people. Yes yeah good good good good. Yes good okay so so now that I know that I'm GonNa pay attention to that with you so that's that's awesome so so what's next for you what else what are you working on right. Now that excites you finally wrote the book which I'm proud of you because we've had that conversation for a few years so what what's next for you. I've just completed writing the next book. Even though this one just launched on the twenty sixth of January yes I finished writing it now. That doesn't mean it's edited just means it's written the book deals with issues concerning public speaking. MHM on two levels one dimension ghosts too the fear the gloss of phobia that exists in the other goes to actually constructing a indecent powerpoint prison and there must be two hundred tips in this whole thing of how to do it and how to do it right so it's another basic how to book limit The the first book is part of a series so they'll be more invisible people. I mean down the road. Okay yeah people yet to be seen yeah. Invisible workers invisible professors invisible students invisible invisible clients. We live in a remote world yeah for sure what what tools do you have to motivate yourself. What are you reading. What are you listening to. Who who do you follow can of what brings inspiration to your life okay well in the morning..
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"You should try to find a new treatment or cure and then of course we have our walks are walks are big fundraiser and they're coming up. Yes let's talk about September Twenty second twenty third. Could we have to one and Eskin Dido on the twenty second at Kit Carson Park and then one in San Diego Mission Bay Crown Point. That's on the twenty third and and our walks are beautiful beautiful times. You can even come in not walk I say. How long does it say. It's not a it's not a marathon okay. Hey you don't have to take a step but just being there amongst everyone who gets it those thousands of people everyone everyone of them has a connection to this disease and they understand what you're going through what you went through and it's just beautiful to see if we have these flowers these promise garden flowers that people hold up that are all different colors and the yellow is pure caregiver the bluish if you have the disease the purple is view lost someone and the oranges if he support this disease and everyone has a flower and we all hold them up and we walk with them around. Crown Point and it's just so beautiful so amazing and there's really Y- you raise one hundred dollars and you get a t shirts to walk but I know we we want people to be there. We want people to raise money because the money goes to research in care and education but we also just love the event for the fact that everyone comes together and connects. That's important I as you know I do a lot of work with the leukemia and Lymphoma Society of San Diego and I'm always saddened when I hear somebody's been diagnosed in there and they don't know the organization. Shen and and more importantly don't know what services provide so to your point of you know as soon as you get that diagnosis within the family please reach out there are amazing organizations in San Diego Filling the disease Ray XYZ disease but there's probably an organization and there are people who are ready and willing and excited to help you to navigate what that is so so if it's leukemia or blood cancer or Alzheimer's I would just encourage everyone to just do research pick up the phone google. Where can I find the support because even more importantly I think that support from the caregiver side more than the the medical team is GonNa take care of the patient the person with the diagnosis but who's GonNa take care of you and navigating the rest of it so to teach huge huge education process. You learn something every single day you learn that the P. Word is the most important thing the patients you have to have patience it can and take someone get this twenty seconds. If I say what's your name it can take twenty seconds for it to go into their brain. Go through thraw plaques and tangles whatever's happening comprehend you create an answer and come out your mouth blue because you have a blue shirt so so it's not going to be. It's a processing disease so it's not gonNA come out the way you think and you have to have patience for that answer and I'll tell you a quick story about my mom. Absolutely this is before where she even got diagnosed and this is something I I like to share a lot of things that happened my mom stories and tips that I've learned in gleaned from colleagues etc along the way because I feel like if I could do anything to make the caregiver journey a little bit easier for someone else then I've done my job and that's my goal so mom was visiting getting she was visiting probably five months before she actually got the official diagnosis and how she maneuvered to planes to get from the east coast to the West Coast. I have no idea but what I'm thankful that she did but I do recall like all these things you remember now right into your call it's hot and San Diego even in January and she had a wool coat on on all buttoned up standing waiting for me outside the airport so that's even thing not addressing appropriate for the weather not realizing that to relieve potentially some of this sweating that I'm doing it could take off my coat so we were walking along the boardwalk in mission beach so that there's a boardwalk and then there's a bit of a wall and then it's the sand so I said mom. Do you want to stay on the boardwalk or do you want to go on. Get our toes in the sand. No answer mom. Did you want to stay on the boardwalk. You might hop over the wall. Take off our shoes going the sand no answer mom. She never didn't pay attention. We're very close uh-huh and she said I'm thinking oh every time I I said something to her. I restarted her thought process which is way logger now because she's got this dimension head. She's got these plaques and tangles major terms but they mean that it's harder for the neurons to connect and she said I'm thinking and I didn't know then what to do because I didn't really know what it meant. Of course I sat down the wall and then she sat down on the wall. She mimicked me so she saw it was safe which was sitting down the wall. She didn't know the right answer because I kept restarting her and this is such a powerful story Doria to share to show you have to have patience you can't keep hammering them over and over again with the same question and Gosh just what the realization what was going on in her brain. WEASING is it a hereditary disease tend to run in families so there are some genetic links but it's really really tiny this cult familial gene about five percent of those diagnosed have a familial gene and sixty minutes did a giant story France. CBS side big stories about this I think as a family in Columbia who it's just in there so then one out of the two kids all the way down. Oh Gosh you're gonna the habit and it's real young. It's hidden fifty and you know it was pretty powerful that some of the children decided not to have children because they didn't want to pass on the genetics but that's a very small portion portion. There's another gene called. Apo E four which I learned about that if you have two copies you're you're more at risk of getting the disease. I'm at risk of getting getting the disease because I have the blood direct blood relative who had it does mean. I'm going to get it and even if you have one copy of the gene. It doesn't mean you're going to get it. That's why this all. This research search is going on to find out so there's a ton of research that came out in so many things that are that are happening. especially the one of the things that really really really interesting just came out at this. AFC COP rinse is the connect real connection between lower your blood pressure and potentially attentional reducing your risk of cognitive decline so this goes back to what can you do now and they follow it. got thousands of people as part of this trial in sprint mind trial and they followed all these people for years nine thousand people for years and in the beginning it was talking about blood pressure in the new the new blood pressure numbers and then they kept following these folks and watch to see their cognitive decline and it was actually they're caught onto the risk of cognitive decline reduced by twenty percent if they kept these blood pressure number straight so that's part of what we're we that's first conclusive evidence that there is something that maybe we can actually do but the things that we push now. Are you know exercise healthy eating keeping all those things in check you know increasing your cognitive challenge challenge your child yourself cognitively do you the brain games and stay socially active because social activity the isolation. I believe kidding yeah definitely lead to bring on yeah going back to sort of social media and the fact that we all live with our faces in devices now. Is there any research that will be looking at. Is that going to be enough sort of brain game stimulation that type of thing like it'll be interesting to see if millennials because they've grown up not having anything but their face in a device is that enough of doing the crossword puzzles or that you know in the newspaper paper. My Dad is every morning. My Dad does the crossword puzzle in the newspaper. Yep but th- but is the the social media and sort of that electronic stimulation shen. Is that going to help or hurt in terms of you know where this disease go. He's not sure if their studies starting to look on your own but it would be rehashing but there's there are these great studies called the finger and the pointer studies the finger studies are kind of going all across the globe but the pointer studies are just really really happening here and they are really looking at these people people doing those four different things we've talked about the exercising the eating the cognitive tests and the social interaction but it's not just hey let us know if you did thirty seconds at the gym. It's driving people to the YMCA. Okay having them do it. You know so it's it's really really keeping close tabs on the took focusing on this healthy healthier lifestyle style to see if it reduces their cognitive decline so yeah there. There are a lot of lifestyle trials that are going on right now which is interesting exercise in. MCI MCI is it's almost a pre Alzheimer's but it doesn't necessarily need to go into MCI's mild cognitive impairment and sometimes you will be diagnosed with that so there's a lot of studies going on what can keep people kind of in that stage longer versus going into like a full blown type of dementia more decline and studies that involve volve exercise. There's actually one at UCSD exercising MCI so different things different things are happening all over the place and then there's the basic biological ICAL. Let's look at can we know something just came out about a study that he went to a certain degree and didn't finish shop and didn't come to its call it coming to line or something to to reach all the official numbers but then they kept studying and it did reduce some of the amyloid plaques that are in your your brain so does that therapy work and does it work with another pairing of therapy so there are a lot of things that people are looking at research twice. They're looking at interesting thing that came out about fertility and he may have many pregnancies you've had in does that. Take a difference in your dementia interesting sort yeah all sorts of yards all interconnected really. Isn't it goodness. Let's let's take a step back. and talk about just sort of you in general Have you had a mentor in your life. I'm sure in news probably have had lots of of mentors but talk a little bit about having a mentor. My mom was my first straight. She led me so many ways she supported me really and everything that I did even if it might have been not the greatest decision but she'd support me and then pick me up when I fell and yeah dry tears you know and I'm not talking about when I'm fire so you talk about thirty five just she was amazing. Most my most amazing support yeah pretty fantastic yeah it's news mentors people that I just really respected who really stayed true to what they were doing. And you know ask tough questions and so watching you know I just think being aware in every job that you have be could pretty much pick one. I think every position and the job that you have and it might not even be someone who's above. You might not even be someone who's of a boss or manager level. It could be a colleague uh-huh why really liked the way she really calmly response to everything as you could tell I talk a lot has done good might fear of dead air. I just keep talking. Just keep talking right but just looking at someone who you can always grow and add to your personality right so this wonderful front ahead Susan at my last job. She was like super calm the way she responded to everything on while she's way more relaxed than I am but she's really smart and she can just get things done. That's a really great way of going about things I would love to be like her regard or by this person really manages people very well. I'm learning how she's talking to this person. She's not throwing something out them. She's validating what they're doing. Maybe making a suggestion so all these the things you can yeah that keeping your eyes open definitely talk about a time when you had to make a big ask in your life. I should've prepared for this big. Ask I did did have to ask my mom. If you know leaving leaving the east coast to come to the West Coast to you start a job by I was very close to her. We'd have Saturday morning. we live two hours away but we'd meet in the middle we each drive an hour and go to the Dunkin donuts I love and have coffee and have our ketchups of so leaving her right leaving and.
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"Eight. I'm your host Nicole Matthews. I'm so excited to introduce you to my friend. Kristen Casado Associate Director of of Communications for the Alzheimer's Association of San Diego and Imperial County. What I love about Kristen is her passion for very personal reasons for finding a cure for Alzheimer's Marin Dementia Related Diseases for those of you who've been in San Diego for a while. You'll recognize Christian's name from her days as a news reporter and anchor with chaos. I San Diego in her new role away from the news industry. She is focused on communicating. The amazing work the Alzheimer Associations does both locally and beyond with the goal of one day having in a cure to a disease that affects way too many people so thank you so much for joining us today Kristin. I'm so happy to see. It's great to see you for having me. This is wonderful. I felt like I should wear my purple. I wasn't remiss not wearing my scarf. You get through the Alzheimer's Association. That's right so for those of our listeners who don't don't know a little about your background. Can you give us our thirty or thirty minutes a three hour presentation on who kristen just your quick sort of background on how you found yourself here at Alzheimer's and what your trajectory has been very interesting. I believe truly that I found myself when my mother started losing herself so my mother was diagnosed in two thousand nine the age of sixty one tender age sixty one with a type of dementia called Lewy Body Dementia and we can talk about that later as far as the different types spat dementia is the overall umbrella term Alzheimer's the most common type and Lewy body is the kind that my mom had and I was here working. Monte and the decision was made at the time the diagnosis was made that I was going to go back okay and live with her and a sister this be with her holder hand yeah because we're best friends and so we did we were together for the four and a half years that it really was racking her and she passed away age sixty five and in that process. I learned so so much about dementia that caregiving about patients about skills you don't even know that you have and put it all together and ended up actually working for the Alzheimer's Association. Can I get for a couple of years okay and after mom passed away I love San Diego. The ocean called me back. Hey I came back here and not too long later and it appeared association wonderful so talk a little bit about the diagnosis is that your mom has and how that might be different than what people understand be dementia so what made hers particularly unique or different so right now. There isn't a way ages specifically determine exactly what type you have except for symptomatic thing is so in my mother's case some of the things that she had included some early hallucinations at one point she thought that my brother and I were in the same room and neither of us were in the state she said I thought we were watching TV together. Whoa what's what's going on with that. also some a lot of gate issues a lot of balance issues a lot of false and some bit of shaking. Parkinson Tony in tremors at tend to be one of the things that kind of lumped lumped into a lewy body diagnosis and it's got some of the a lot of some of the things things that the that allows us to hear typical Alzheimer's although there is no typical Alzheimer's but some of those ten signs like a lot of the memory issues and the wandering and then getting lost and you know forgetting about losing a lot of your short term memory shares that's Lewy bodies a little bit different and what normally ends their life that I am assuming that that that's not the the disease that ultimately makes them. Is there a secondary disease. She dies from your brain stops functioning because it's shrinking neurons are dying and a a are not able to communicate so if your brain controls your whole body and eventually you stop remembering how to swallow and you stop obviously can't fend handoff things so pneumonia is a lot of ways that people pass away My mother stopped swallowing so she stopped eating and drinking yeah yeah because they ask for eight it goes. I was on the wrong hole right now. It's like do I breathe is address. Walvis while there's no comprehension of that and no ability of the brain to tell so in fact she just stopped updating okay started and it was time to go she. She was like sixty eight pounds when she passed. Oh my God this giant Downer but yeah yeah wow goodness. What did you learn as a caregiver in that experience. Do you have an hour. Yes we have plenty of so many things the one of the biggest things. I think I learned in that. I like to share with people's that you do not have to do this alone. People think Oh my God this hit me. This hit my family like a truck. I'M GONNA silo borough in in and do what I gotta do. Gosh there's so many people who've done this before you moore going through it now. But who are maybe a different stage. Whoever different outlook that net sharing tips is just so incredibly crucial so joining a support group or even going onto any website you know aol dot org that's.
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