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Turning Social Isolation Into a Creative Outlet With Martha Alderson
"Good day and welcome to episode two hundred sixty of live happy now. This is Paula Phelps. And this week we are going to tap into our creative side. Using our creativity is a proven way to increase our personal well-being. It can put you in a positive mood and that starts an UPWARD SPIRAL. That makes you feel more creative. And thereby further increases your happiness for somehow life creeps in and takes over the time. We'd love to spend exploring creatively before we know it. We feel like we've lost touch with our creative side entirely. This week's guest is an expert in tapping into creativity. Martha Alderson is an author who also works with bestselling authors Hollywood directors artists and performers all over the world to help them find their creativity. Now you can try this at home. Her New workbook boundless. Creativity is a one month exploration into your creative side. So let's hear what Martha has to say about it. Martha welcome to live happy. Now thank you for inviting me. I'm thrilled to be here. This is such a great work book that you've written for us. And what a great time for us to work on our creativity. It seems like it. I know that a lot of people are under enormous stress for all sorts of reasons because of the virus but if people do have free time and they're looking fill it creatively. I think by going through the program in the workbook. It's just a great way to let go of. That's happening around us. All the news all the problems of the world and just sink into your creativity and into really your spirit sh and who you are at your core beyond all the material things the problems and everything else so. I think it would be a great place for people to spend some time. We'll obviously when you wrote it. He didn't say hey. I think everyone's going to have a couple of months you know. So what was your decision behind writing it in the first place? Well I been a plot consultant for about thirty years for riders every story whether it's a memoir scream player. A novel has to have a plot and I'm passionate about empowering women's voices and women traditionally have had a lot of trouble with plot because it's a very linear logical progression and of Women. Writers are highly creative somewhat disorganized and are very interested in character development. But they don't really get plot in so. I just became passionate about teaching everybody but it seemed like it turned out to be the majority of women and then in doing that. It soon evolved into working with all kinds of creative people because what I found is we're all sort of on the same universal path. It's a universal story. That has certain markers in them that we pass through along the way. And what I found is that it's great when you're in the creative muse and everything's flowing in your feeling that euphoria of feeling like a conduit or a medium for the creative news to come through you. But at some point we stumble and all of a ten. We read over what we wrote. Are we look at the painting we painted and think? Oh my gosh you know. It's not what I thought it was going to be. And we started to doubt ourselves and self sabotage come up with sorts of reasons why we should put the project aside or give up or whatever and this is especially true for anyone who has perhaps suffered what. I call a backstory wound. Which is something that has traumatized them? In some way you know it can be a divorce or apparently being when you're a child or some kind of abuse or whatever and that really influences what we say to ourselves about our worthiness in our capabilities and our potential and that really interferes with the creative flow. All of a sudden that flow is stymied and our spirits. Can't really get through to be able to give us the support and the encouragement that we deserve. I wanted to write a workbook to be able to help people to become unblocked it to be able to get rid of all this self doubt and insecurities and unworthiness and to really live a life of passion and excitement and happiness joy and that really is something that I'm devoted to and with this workbook. You really prepare us for what we're going to do. It does such a wonderful job of asking these deep thoughtful questioned. Where did that come from over the course of time? Did you develop that? These are the questions that are going to help drive us into our creative selves. Well I think it's just sort of evolved over the last thirty years or so probably my whole life to tell you the truth but when I came up with the idea of the universal story I had a really hard time bringing it down to the concrete was very cereal and spiritual in all of that but once I started writing more about it and seeing these parts you know the beginning the middle and the end it really correlates with the Hero's journey that Joseph Campbell came up with but I take it a step further and called the universal story because I see it in not just what we move through as humans on our human path but nature you know the seasons of the year the moon cycles plants growth animal cycles. All these things have the same beginning middles and ends. And if you're aware of where you are on that journey and what's expected of you. It just makes the journey easier. Yeah I did want to talk about the universe story and can I guess you explain a little bit of that is Kinda give us a reader's digest version of what the universal story is so it. Is this energetic? Pathway that moves through everything this is what. I believe anyway and we travel along on this. So if you're at the beginning of the universal story at any point of your life you're in a comfortable place where you know what the expectations are. You're doing okay. Everything is moving along but at some point something happens that thrusts you into an exotic world of the unknown. Something you're not prepared for. It could be this virus. It could be all sorts of things as simple as when kids go off to college. You're moving from a comfortable world into an unknown world where you're not sure what the rules are what the expectations will be. And that's the middle becomes is a ground for learning. And as you're doing that many times you come to a place of crisis that things don't turn out the way that you expect them to. You know if we're going to go with the analogy of college you flunk all your courses you lose your funding whatever happens in. It's the dark night of the soul where you want to give up in. Everything turns stark. And you're in this GORTEX and once you come out of that if you learn what happened and why and all the skills and the abilities that you need in order to prevail you then make the essent rather quickly to your triumph or the climax which is where you're able to do something you kind of done at any other time or place in your life but because of everything you suffered through in the middle you learned the skills the strength the passion the whatever it is you needed to learn in order to do this thing that comes at this triumphant moment and then you cycle back through and you start at the beginning again of something else and you go back through this pathway again and how knowingness going through this journey really open us up and connect us to our creativity. Well it's so what happens is when you start creative project at the beginning. You have a certain amount of confidence. That's why you're undertaking it. You think oh I'm gonNA write the great American novel and I've got this great idea in this great character and you sit down and start writing. Well once you start writing you then can move into this middle portion or something may happen. You know you'll join a critique group and they'll just trash your work and say what are you talking about and so then that becomes the learning ground. That's the place we have to learn about characters about plot about pacing and dialogue. And all of these things that are expected of you as a creative writer and that brings up a lot of emotions that brings up self-doubt emotional traps negative. Thinking all of those things that can stop us and and being a consultant. I found that so often that most gifted writers that I worked with wanted to give up because they didn't believe in themselves and so their spiritual journey became learning how to believe in themselves trust in the process and go the distance to be able to find that place of joy again which then comes at the end as you're coming up to your triumph but lots of times. You have to go through a really really dark time to be able to. Shed all of the stuff that's holding you back. You just have to go into the cauldron and have everything burned off in order for you to free yourself to be able to do what you came here to do. And does it help just knowing that? That's all part of it. Yes yes because instead of saying Oh my God. This is horrible inside all right. This is just part of the process and this is what needs to happen and this is where I am. Look at where I am. I've already moved out of this portion into this part so I'm making progress. This is a universal conundrum. So it's not just me which is what I think we do. We personally said. Oh my gosh. I'm not good enough. You know I don't do enough. I don't deserve this. I don't whatever without realizing this is the process. This is where you WANNA be. If you want to get to your highest truth in the workbook as you go through it. It's a month process. Can you set it up for us? I'd how it works. Sure so at the beginning. It's a lot of getting ready. So that's the beginning portion that I was talking about. I'm not taking you out of your comfort zone. I'm allowing you to stay where you feel okay but I am asking you to start to consider what may come up as we move into this and you take on a creative project so I want you to think about the opposition that you might meet lots of times. We get excited about wanting to be an artist but then family can react and say wait a minute. You're spending all your time painting that painting what happened to dinner. You know we're to wash are closer whatever especially if you've sort of lead everybody on to believe that. This is the way that the ordinary world works. They expect that so. You have to sort of get them ready. That things are going to change and then I want people to start to understand their internal opposition because that is the most deadly. It's not what happens on the outside because it's how you react to what happened on the outside but it's really you're internal world of your beliefs about yourself about your position and place it in the world and then I ask you to think about what you'd like to do to take on a creative project something that you think might take a month to complete so if it is to paint a portrait or you want to learn how to throw a pot or you. WanNa do watercolor or write a story or whatever and so then when she got your information together then we move into the heart of the program. Which is the Middle. And that's where things will get harder because all of a sudden you're gonNA find out what you don't know and and how much effort it can take. Things don't just manifest. We all hear about these unbelievable stories about oh sat by a river and this story just came to me. You know I my pin across the notebook and here it was a bestseller and look at me. Well that doesn't necessarily always happen. Plus it doesn't necessarily move that person in a spiritual way to be able to tick become a bigger more self actualized person because they didn't have to go through all of these steps to get there and what does it do for a spiritual when we connect to our creativity. Because you talk about that a lot. I that's very important component for. You is the spiritual element of connecting with creativity. Well because I believe for humans the human spirit is the non physical deepest part of you. It's your life force that's connected to everything else. And that is a pure place that is a pure energy source and then our humanness is sort of layered on top of that and the longer were here on earth the more layers are placed on top of your spirit. That can be suffocating. Really to that energetic force of other people's expectations have you. All the should could woods of the world all these different expectations people had that you have yourself and those are all human expectations which are fine. I mean you know humans on Earth but were also here on a spiritual path and energy and aliveness come from your spirit so if you wanna be happy and joyful and uplifted and believe in miracles and wonderful things in life your spirit has to be able to be free and you have to be able to access that and so one way to nurture your spirit. I believe is through creativity. Because when you're in the creative muse time stops the whole physical world disappears. It doesn't matter who you are or how much money you have or what car you drive or what your job description is. You're just in the moment of creating and it's really this. It gives me goosebumps just thinking about it because it's sort of when time and place disappear and times you can read what you wrote the next day and think Oh my. Gosh. Did I write that. Because you're not in it you've removed yourself and your spirit is sort of taking over and then what happens is that you end up with an artistic work and a sensory reality. That is the coming from your spirit through creativity and then that gives you the confidence to just keep feeding it and keep trying new things and it because I think that every time you go through a cycle and the universal story it feeds your confidence it allows you to realize. Hey I went through all this dark time. All these challenges all this rejection or pulling my hair out or whatever. It was because of your emotional baggage that you're carrying around the you've got to try to get rid of but every time you pass through that you come to your moment of triumph you can then start to take on anything because your spirit is lifted and you believe in yourself and I really believe that s she take a step forward. Everything that wants to manifest is going to rush toward you because if anything needs to be manifested or any ideas or whatever it has to come through us as human beings so if we prove that we're an open conduit or that were a willing participant I think then the whole universe or whatever it is out there within become active partners in we. Just keep proving that we can do whatever is being asked of us and that just makes our lives better and better and happier and happier. Nana's building that muscle. It just keeps getting stronger. Their weekly back. So how can doing it in this environment? More socially isolated and for one thing. Most people have a lot more on than they expected to have so to me. This is an ideal time to do something like this. But it's also where we're at mentally and the pressures that were failing. How can pursuing this workbook having completing this turn all this into a positive experience so in the workbook the reason that I put a time constraint on it like I ask people to decide on a deadline of when they want complete whatever creative project that they take on and I recommend a month just because it's something that's manageable for the workbook but it can be any length of time but and the reason I do that is because I WANNA put pressure? I want to challenge you to the point that you have to confront what's going to get in your way so the fact that we're now forced into that in two `isolation and have this pressure on us. That's just an added bonus. Almost I know that's word to say but an added bonus to the program because what I want is to be able to bring up all of this stuff baggage. That's within you to be able to learn to burn it off so that you're free of it and when we come out of this you'll be a different person because what the universal story really is is a journey of transformation so that you can transform a from the small you who's tripped up by your emotions and negative thinking or your belief systems or whatever into this greater being you become transformed and become closer to who you came here. You know that you manifested here or incarnated here to become. It's such a timely and powerful workbook. They you've created in some ways. It reminds me of the artist's way but it's very different from that. It has that same kind of feel to it though in terms of helping you move through this part of your life well and I want people to take on as something exciting because the payoff at the end. I really can't tell you because I've worked through a lot of my own baggage. I've had a lot of things that I've had to get rid of in order to manifest the dreams that I have and so. I know that euphoria the excitement the sense of confidence and security. That comes when you believe in yourself fully and when someone gets through this. How do you hope that it would change? And once they complete the work book. What's your greatest vision for them is it? It's empowering that it gets them charged up and energized and to get them to think differently to believe differently to let go of the mundane around us of banality of life and not judge who they are but the standards of everybody around us by our jobs or who we hang out with or what we look like or whatever it is but that year so connected to yourself and your own strength and belief in yourself that you become a more compassionate open hearted. Joyful person in life just changes. It's not this drudgery but it's a place of unbelievable possibility. That's fantastic and I know it's written for an individual but is this something families could do together. I mean we're stuck together right now anyway. Is this something you could do. As a unit I have thought about that and I think it would be so powerful. If young people could learn these ideas and could delve into who they are emotionally and step away from the belief systems that they've been raised bit tap into the beliefs that they have at their core because they're not as layered with all of the human experience that those of us that are older are they're much more connected to that place where we came from whatever that is and they can access creativity in a way that. I don't think adults can and I think it would be a really exciting thing to take on as a family to move through and I just think parents are going to have to step aside sometimes and let the kids race forward as they grapple with all the things that they have to release before they can catch up to the kids. Yeah and it seemed like it can build so much closeness and respect for one another. I think so too. I think that it would give a lot of insight for both children into the parents which I think is an interesting dynamic to be able to see them as human beings is flawed human beings and then his parents to be able to see their children's gifts and also the things that are starting to develop. That could really get in their way further down the line. And if you could nip that early you're going to help the child to achieve greater success earlier and not have to struggle may be quite so much. That's terrific. Well we're GONNA come back and we're going to tell people how they can learn more about where to get your book and find out a little bit more about it but Martha it was wonderful to talk to you. I really excited to dig into this workbook myself. Because I've been going through as prepared for best and it really is a fantastic tool and as I said what better time you know. We've all finished the tiger gang so we can now move on to something else in. That can be your workbook. Oh thank you. I'm so grateful for this opportunity. I can't express my gratitude enough to you and also your enthusiasm about the workbook just makes my heart feel so good so take wonderful. That was Martha author of Boundless Creativity Spiritual Workbook for overcoming self doubt. Emotional traps and other creative blocks. You can learn more about Martha and her workbook by visiting us at live. Happy now dot com. We also wanted to tell you about something brand new that we have going this week. 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#47- Boundless Creativity with Martha Alderson, MA
"If you've ever felt stock with supporting creativity in children, then you have hit a gold mine today not only is this episode GonNa blow you away, but I also just released a course called cultivating creative resiliency. This is a course for therapists who work with children, and in this course we go through tons of different experiences, techniques, reflections and activities that can directly be applied in the therapy room. The focus of course is to help you support the skill of creativity in your sessions now as creative arts, therapist and creative therapists were doing lots of creative and artistic work intercessions, but we also have an immense opportunity in helping children learn and grow the skill of creativity. This is kind of the Meta. creative problem solving thinking outside of the box how to invent something out of nothing. These are skills that we can support as therapists and the world needs so much more of we can support this and not only improve the mental well-being of the children that we work with, but also create a ripple effect of creativity into the larger community. This course will teach you how to do just that. It's on sale until July thirtieth for twenty dollars off, and if you order before, then you'll also get two bonus downloads these are most requested interventions, also, if you're looking to boost your own creativity than stick around for this episode, because it's perfect for you and I highly suggest you go get a copy of Martha's book, a s, a p balanced creativity, but I will save that for the episode. Thank you so much for what you do and enjoy the episode. Do. Do. Welcome back to creative therapy umbrella. This is a place where we talk about all different types of creative arts, therapies, expressive therapy and creative approaches to therapy. Today is a perfect example of that last part creative approaches to therapy on today's episode I speak with Martha All Dirksen and she is known as the plot whisper for one of her bestselling books. The plot whisper secrets of story structure and he writer can master. Martha has recently published book that I absolutely loved and found so so helpful for my own creativity, and it's called boundless creativity, and it's a workbook for overcoming self doubt, emotional traps, and lots of different creative blocks and I found it really empowering and so wonderful to sit down and kind of spend that time with myself and figure out. Different things about me and how I could learn from creative mistakes and could make. In creativity, and it was really wonderful, so in this episode we dive into. Boundless Creativity, but we really also talk about. Martha's background because it's so unique. She is an author, but she had spent time as therapist, and so she has this really wonderful full circle kind of story that comes together so beautifully in how? She can offer all of this content and all of this support in these resources to help therapists with their creativity, and she has some really awesome video courses that are those are linked in the show notes as well as all of her books and the video courses are really cool for a lot of different kinds of things that you could you know writing your own children's book? which I think so many creative arts therapists I've heard lots of creative arts therapist. Talk about that, so there are those video courses linked below in the show notes so take a look at all of those links and enjoy this episode. Okay, Martha Welcome to the PODCAST. I'm thrilled to be here. Thank you for inviting me. You are so welcome. This is A. Topic, near, and dear to my heart, and you have such an amazing perspective, and your work is really awesome on this topic so I'm excited to dive in, thank you. I am too awesome well for our listeners. Can you tell us a little bit about what you currently do sure? So My name is Martha Alderson I'm also known as the plot. Whisper for work. I've done with riders over the years. You know every writer needs a plot and so everybody's sort of started coming to me for help and but what I'm currently doing. Is I just right win? The virus started in in California. We were asked to shelter in place. Almost the exact same day my publisher released my new workbook called them boundless creativity as spiritual guide for overcoming self doubt, emotional traps, and other creative blocks so That's been interesting to You know get the word out and also sort of adjust to this new reality that we're off facing together. And then at the same time I was working on a novel Historical Bicultural Twentieth Century Love Story that well actually release at the end of August, so it's been a really busy, exciting creative time and And also interesting because of what's happening in the country. Absolutely. I. Think a lot of people I don't know how you felt with this experience, but some people have said Oh my creativity is like through the roof now that we're doing more shelter in place in quarantining and some people are saying like I, have lost my creativity completely. Have you fell? which have you felt kind of on that spectrum I would say on that well, I've heard the same. Same thing in a really makes me sad when I hear about the people who have sort of lost that spark, because it feels like such an incredible time to be creative, and that our world needs innovation and change in the status quo just isn't working, and so we need new perspectives in you know for people to step up and to be creative into think differently, so that really. Inspires me to. Try to support people in to get the word out on social media ways to Lift your energy into Walk into you know inspiration in your spirit and the things that can really make you feel. During this time, when sometimes it feels very dark so for me, personally, it's really pin high energy I. Keep Looking forward to the day that I can start to be bored again. which is something I love to do in the Monterey Bay where I live and you know just calm down because it's been a nonstop, which is very exciting and you know it's bad energetic wave talk in my workbook about the universal story, and how the energy rises and falls in whatever we do, and so I'm at the peak right now. I would say I'm In that phase of the prize in you know at that triumphant place it and I look forward to when energy starts to Wayne a little bit, but for right now it's fun. I loved that you connected to riding the wave. That's a great analogy for it to you. For, you mentioned the universal story, which is a big part of your workbook. Can you explain that was actually my favorite part to I? Even loved the little visual. That's in there. It was visuals. Lock into my brain, so I'm wondering if you could explain a little bit about what that is to our listeners sure. And the visual is there because I did work with special, education kids in my early career and really appreciate how we all learn differently, you know. Some of US are visual learners. Auditory learners can static whatever and I learned a lot better visually than I. Do of orally so I'm very sympathetic to that empathetic, and wanted to provide sort of a multi sensory approach, so the universal story is something that really came up out of the work that I do with Pie because when I first started writing fiction. I just couldn't get plot. I was dyslexic nonverbal as a kid and. A very concrete learner, and the you know just it was I couldn't understand it, and this was sort of backing the Dark Ages in. There wasn't a lot written about plot today. Everybody talks about plot, but back then it was not there were a lot of. Books about Kloden. screenwriters, males screenwriters were really good with pot. Because Hollywood has very specific sort of. Format that that story's really take place within those confines. Started, analyzing all kinds of classic in literary and award, winning novels memoirs in Screenplays, and I finally really got plot on a very concrete level, and once my friends writer friends started understanding that I understood it I started teaching it. And you know so. My whole life went off on this tangent but I at never ever expected in i. was you know that whole expression of follow your bliss? That you get hooked by something, and then you're racing to try to keep up with it and I feel so. It's happened to me for half of my life now, but. Anyway, I digress, so the the universal story is very. It's started with just of Campbell's the Hero's journey, which is something that writers are very aware of, and but for me I. Call it the Universal Story because I wanted it to be broader. Think. We get so caught up at the human level and I see the universal story beyond just us, but I see it in nature I see it in the seasons of the year, the lunar cycles animals, we all are on this sort of universal halfway. That's it's an energetic pathway and. If you can understand where you are on the pathway. You can much better understand why you're having the difficulties or the successes that you're feeling so that it doesn't so that you can let go that feeling of Oh. You know I'm. I'm not meant to do this or it wouldn't be this hard or. Why am I being blocked and you know wiretapping? Why's everybody else getting it and I don't get it or whatever there are gifts that are within those emotional block blockages to creativity, and if you can be aware of that, you can really grow emotionally spiritually, and other ways and embrace what's happening and bring it into your creative juices so to speak. Oh I love that and at the idea that. There's something to learn in those moments of those blocks of you know digging deep into those and finding more out about those, and I also like the idea of opposite of the same success of kind of learning more about that, and how that can continually impact your story. Well I think think when you. If, you know so many people start very energetically and very excited. You know you gotta hit of inspiration, and you're just wearing to go with something, and so you're filled with optimism and strength, and then once you leave the beginning and move into the middle, which is where you know you're confronted with all of these obstacles in Struggles in conflicts than antagonists. And it's supposed to be that way. There are very specific reasons why, but if you can work your way through that, and actually reached the end and your triumph, which is when you have completed whatever you started, it may not look like he thought it would look. You may decide in the end well, you know it's not really quite want or whatever, but every time you reach the end your power. It's like the universal. Story AKNOWLEDGES that you're willing to go the distance almost and so you're gifted again with warrants ration- psycho. To manifest these little seeds, then we wanna work with you because really if they're is-is force out there somewhere the only way that that that the new ideas or the evolution or the transformations can happen is through us. We are the ones that bring it into the physical form, and so Every time you reach your triumph, you become more empowered any realize the next time through. Oh, I know where I am. Everything's GonNa be okay. I just have to figure out what I'm supposed to learn hair. What's going on and it really becomes smoother and smoother, and you know all these moments of serendipity start to happen and sort these miraculous moments an it's. Quite exciting which is why I really support people and being creative and to To believe in themselves you know to go the distance and not fall into that trap of I'm not enough I'm not good enough. I'm not worthy. Think I am this is a waste of time. WHO's ever GonNa Care and actually you know, play small instead of moving into their greatness. It's so empowering, even just hearing you talk about it. It's like yes. That's what I WANNA do. Yes just hearing you talk about it, and from my experience with the book to their that empowering element just the also. It gives momentum. You know it's like Nah. Okay, let me re. Yeah. Which is I? Think sometimes which feels to me anyway. Creative when I get stuck. It feels like a loss of momentum, but it's like sometimes you just need the push to keep going and understand, and then it's like okay. We've got it rolling. We can keep going. Yes into really believe that that is part of it that in those moments where you lose that momentum. To. Go inward into figure out. If it's something that has to do with the craft itself. If you're doing a specific creative endeavor you know like. Learning how to painter sculptor. Whatever Perhaps you need to learn something to help. Enhance your your craft for riders, you know. How do you create plot? How do you create a character? How do you create demotic significance email? At some point you realize. Oh, my Gosh I! Don't have everything I need to do what I need to do, and those are were external, but then there's also a lot of internal, because once we set a goal for ourselves. We meet ourselves because we will. All of our old stories and our old patterns and habits are GonNa. Come forward of you know giving up or losing energy or you know. I work with people sometimes who are great at talking about it you know about the stories are GonNa ride this. They're GONNA do, but they use all their energy in talking about it that when it actually comes to doing it, they just peter out with psycho, and then they wait for the next inspiration. And then they talked at up and so so those are really worthy things to learn about ourselves, and to embrace about ourselves, and to dig or dive deep into ourselves to. To learn more about why and what can we do about it and Yeah it's it's it's a great. It's a creativity has so much to offer, and we're borne to be creators. And we need it, but we need it as we were talking a little bit about this before, but as individuals and as a greater. Community and as A. As humans. When you think about how many things that people have created out of nothing but thin air that have changed the world, you know even a speech that someone gives or a book that someone writes or a you know something that somebody could on any level, and you know like even music, a symphony, or in causes people to weep for joy because of this. Energy that the intercessor body lifts their spirit so what we create has the potential to change the world, and it will always change our world, our own personal world, and that in itself is enough. Yes, that in itself is absolutely beautiful. You also mentioned You mentioned in your book that goals and those. I think that you have a really interesting. Take on goals, and how you kind of use that in the book. Can you explain a little bit about what that the use of goals in this workbook? Sure so what I wanted to do was to. Create tension within the person reading the workbook because I want to bring up all that stuff, it's down there. That's interfering with us. You know living our greatest lives are most creative, wonderful, exciting, energetic lives, and so I ask people to come up with a goal a creative goal. You know I want to write a book. I wanted you know. Create a website I wanted. You know whatever it is I. Want to create a program for children that I'm working with. I want to create a curriculum for teachers. And then to give themselves a deadline, because deadlines create tension. Like what I have to do this by a certain time? So and I suggest in the book. A perhaps a month that you know that that could work for the WORKBOOK, and and so it's for the first time through the workbook, and then to come up with short-term goals and be short term goals are what you envision that you're going to do every day or how often you decide that you're going to show up for your creativity. You know there's a lot of people who Who say well, I don't ride every day I. Wait for inspiration to hit before I right well the for the Muse or whatever it is that. The visits US gives us the energy to you know. Come up with these things in our imagination that like over that come from. the museum will visit us. More You know easily if we show up at the same time as the same place every day or three days a week, or whatever it is that you can manage and for parents who had children. Know Lots of times they'll do it at four o'clock in the morning, or they'll stay up and do it at eleven o'clock at night, or whatever you know, a lot of times by having only a specific amount of time. That's available to you is better and I think that sometimes the reason that a lot of people are running out of energy to do anything it's. His big expanse of time to fill hand, so they don't do anything at all. Whereas if you have to delegate your time, you know sometimes it's it's You do better, but anyway so that you then decide every day. What you think you're going to do what you need to learn how it's going to unfold and I suggest that that they Put, those short term goals on A. Universal Story Template, which is in the book in of this energetic pathway. So that you can see where you're going to run into some problems potentially and the sorts of. What's going? Be asked of you energetically because when you start out. You know like I said you're going to have a lot of energy for, but as you go. The energy of the universal story does grow and get higher, and so more and more is going to be expected few, and so the tension is going to increase, which is going to bring up all kinds of emotional staff. You know resistance, denial frustration anger. All of these emotional things that are worthy to Silla and to. visit and to get to know about yourself because if it's happening in this program of the boundless. Creativity Work Program. It's happening everywhere in your life. You know this is. Something new, and so even if you resist it and say this isn't the way I always. Am You know if you talk to your friends so probably say oh. Yeah, this always have to. Do you know it's sort of these? That, we want to bring up. We want to eliminate and we want to create new patterns new rituals new routines that better enhance our lives. I loved that. Oh my goodness. The I love the idea of tension, and how much that not only brings up, but it's like when you're up against a wall. You're kind of like. Oh i. have nowhere else to go, but where I'm facing, you know all of this behind me. I can't go that way to go this way. and I didn't think about it when I did the book, too, but now going back and like Oh see you. Could see how that was. That was designed in there so So right because when you do, go back, there's something lost. That's it's sad. You know it's. If you give up on a creative project. Essentially you're giving up on yourself and there's something really tragic about that. And so. That's why I wrote the WORKBOOK is you know I've worked with so many creative people? Some of whom are? So brilliant and so you know filled with so much potential and the things that they would say about themselves. You know the hurtful things that we would never say to somebody else, but they say about Oh you know. On no good, this is a mass of. Why do I? Even you know all of those things? That are going through our mind million miles an hour over and over again, and they're just stories that we've made up based on our reaction to things that happened in our, or what other people have said to never and their stories and the stories can be revised just like a story. If you're a writer, you can revise your story at any time and come up with a brand new story where you are the main character of your story. You are the heroin you are. You know you are the one that changes the world. He writing that narrative, yes, so powerful so your. You touched a little bit on that catalyst of creating this book. Was the catalyst in its self that you experienced people. Who you wanted to support and empower like you said earlier, and that's kind of where this came from. Yes, so I also wrote years ago. The plot whisper secrets of story structure. Any writer can master, and that was a plot book for writers memorized. You know screenplay writers. Novelist and in that there are two elements. One is the plot for the protagonist in your story and the other characters, and then I also did mention the writer, and so they're sort of two tracks that this that the book goes through and the track about the writer really caught on I mean that book with my breakthrough book and got a lot of attention, and did really really well and but it was this other. It wasn't the plot for the protagonist much, although that really helped a lot of writers. But it was the other side that you know I I remember going to a conference in Arizona or somewhere in you know. Somebody flew in from overseas, and said I just had to meet you in person. You change my whole life, and so anyway was sort of like a cult. This thing that happened and so from that point on I really wanted to write this workbook in I started working on it I made A. Video series sits up on my website and I am and then my agent at the time. sold it to a publisher and. I was given the opportunity to write it in it, just it. It really transformed my life. being able to write it and. I really my greatest hope is that it lands in the hands of people that it's going to really help and In help inspire people to believe in themselves. Yes, and this book I. Think could be incredible for creative arts therapists if they haven't gotten a hold of it, already and we'll dive into that a little bit of how this book specifically can help creative arts therapist, but I'm wondering if before you can tell us about your experience as therapist to because that goes before becoming an author. Can you tell us a little bit about that? Sure So because I was nonverbal in dyslexic when I was a child, I remember when I was in college, and I was getting to the point where I needed to declare a major and I was somewhat ambivalent about what I wanted to do. and My mother at the time. What my mother She She I don't even remember who the therapist was, but anyway she had been therapist because I had had therapy lots and lots of therapy when I was a child and so I followed this therapist around and I thought wow I, really like this, and it felt like if I went on to become a therapist, I will complete the cycle, which felt really right to me. and so I got my master's in communication, and you know all kinds of degrees, and then I started working with children. When I was in my. Graduate Program I worked with autistic kids, and actually in this novel. That's coming out at the end of August. The, female view character works with autistic boy, and it's very much based on a relationship I had with a little boy that she sort of falls in love with. WHO's autistic and Anyway so I, so I worked at the public schools and I was a speech language learning disability therapists I sat on whatever the committee was where any child that needed to go into special program would come before this committee. And Hunt Remember. Walking out of the first meeting, and it was at night, and I was just kind of overwhelmed by some of the stories I heard that we're just kind of really grisly stories. about parents and children and We were walking to my car in the parking lot, and there was a hole, and I tripped and fell in the whole. I couldn't remember how to get out of the whole. It was like I was so overwhelmed by it was sorrow. You know and. And I, and so I really. Felt this sense of? frustration and loss in. How can you give what some of these children need? We can never do enough. You know we can help in lots of different ways, but it's really helping parents to help. Because you know most of what takes, place will take place at home. We hold and And then I started a clinic for children. In my area, we provided special services to all the private schools in the South Bay area and Santa. Cruz, and it was a speech language learning disability therapy. Clinic and I had I don't know about five seven therapists in a couple of psychologists and so Yeah. I just I really. Loved working with kids when I left. That the therapy, we moved for a short time. To Colorado and That was where I. My dad had started doing a bunch of research on one of our ancestors. He wasn't getting anywhere. He wanted to write a biography I said. Send me all of your stuff. I'll organize for you. And then this story just sort of swept out of me. And I just got hooked with writing and so I sold my practice, and I started writing, but I really had a lot of anguish about giving up. What I you know you learn so much. You become so wise and experienced about working with children and parents and so then I started. Teaching writing workshops, two children, both in my community in children's shelter for kids that were abused, abandoned and neglected and That was again, you know. Tune incredible eye opener. But it was wonderful to feel like I was still using the gifts that I had been Given you know working with kids in both public school in the clinic, and continuing with that and I don't anymore, and I do miss it, but But I also love what I'm doing now and It feels like. Like it's okay, That is so beautiful to hear. Your whole story of how that evolved, and you know where you started and coming full circle and I even think it's interesting. Even you know this book. Is You know we're talking about it to a bunch of? Our listeners are all therapists so that when I heard you. Cole my God. This is the way I could. Coming full circle again in a really cool way. Yes I think that having that experience to get you. We talked a little bit about this of how therapists can utilize this book in their own work, whether it's for self care or for learning about their own creativity or supporting their clients Can you speak a little bit on how therapists can take? What's in this book and bring it into their personal and professional life? Sure. So again I think that. You know working with kids can be uplifting, and it can also be challenging because of the limitations that we have. And I think that it can be exhausting sometimes, and we really need a way to care for ourselves in order to keep our energy high our belief in the miraculous, our sense of worthiness s that what we're doing is enough. You know we'll never be able to do it all, but what we do is enough. And, so I hope that the workbook would help therapists to. You know get into feel. In no themselves on a deeper level about when they reach blocks in there, working with kids or they start to flounder or start to tout themselves are WanNa give up or change. Professions are or even have great success. You know to be able to know what did I do to get to that place success with this child, so that I can replicate that and I can use. Use the skill the skills that I learned in order to broaden my base and my you know my my set of talents that I have to offer kids which I think is really critical that we can be able to tap into those parts of ourselves to both no delimitations, but also to be able to embrace our strengths, and to own those strains and not down. Down Talk Them. You know not to say Oh, it was nothing our own anybody could do it or You know those things that we do say. It's just blows my mind, but. to be able to re embrace and celebrate in to have a party and upright. You know on a zoom caller. Something of Oh my Gosh, you know I had this big breakthrough I want to share it, and and this is what I did and this is what I'm going to take forward with me that this is a skill set. That's mine. This is what I know I need to learn more about patients or you know encouragement, or this or that, but I know that I am rate at this, and with that impairment. It allows you to be a much better therapist. So I hope that the workbook could work on both levels because we all have a back story in novels, a story is everything that has happened to the character before the story begins, and you don't always tell all those things, but you WanNa know them so that you can sort of bring it out in the story in the development of the character, and we all have back stories you know depending on how old you are and extra backstory. It could be really long like mine. And you. Can Be sure that you look so young, but. We all have stories and we all have suffered pain, and if you haven't I really can almost assure you that it's no pointing along the line you well, and it's not a bad thing. I mean yeah. It's GonNa hurt. It's GonNa, really crush you and you know things are going to fall apart, but that's part of the universal story, and if you can embrace that and. And hold that you. Can you know because sometimes in order to find True Path, we have to lose everything. We have to be stripped of everything. Because sometimes we're just off in the wrong direction. You know we've got lost where making poor choices, or were you know going down the wrong path or whatever and the only way to get us back and get us? Towards our destiny, or towards are truth, sometimes we have to really suffer great loss, and in doing so we burn off all that which holds us back, and though it's very painful at the time, the freedom that comes with that is. Incredible and it's really. At quite an empowering situation, although it's you know the dark night of the Soul Kinda going through hell, it's you know it's a very dangerous time for people if you go too deep into Dr but you know there are a lot of people that are suffering from depression and you know sadness and a lot of negative emotions, essentially now and I think if we can. Dive deep which I talk about in the workbook and embrace some of those learn from Bos- don't run from Bos-, but expose them to the light in the more than we let paying. Sit In our bodies, the more it's going to really harm our. Our health and so if we can bring it out into the lake, we've then can free ourselves and become. Who came here to be? Someone I, I love the idea of bringing the light to those feelings. Someone our actually might be Tara Brach. WHO said this of love, her podcast and her books, but it's a reimagining those feelings them as a person that you're sitting on a park bench and like they have. Yeah, they're important. You know there's important wisdom to gain from those feelings and experiences and It's natural to want to run away, but we can perpetuate so much creativity, and through that so many ripple effects, but if we spend the time sitting with. That bringing light to that and sitting with those feelings, we'll because it's us. I mean that's part of us. You know we only show the good parts. How do you feel? How are you doing I'm great humor, though maybe inside you're not you know it's. We don't really have an opportunity to be able to express a lot of that darkness, and and yet that is as much a part of us as valuable of us as any of upbeat, you know gifts that we create give out to the world, and the more that we can embrace them and share them the more that allows others around us to embrace their flaws and their doubts, and allows them to also. Be More empowered. See Yes that ripple effect. The your with some of the the things in the book, the more experiential components do you think those things could directly apply two? Interventions within therapy session. Sure because when you're working with children, you know no matter how well organized you are, and how you have everything set up and you know you never know what's going to happen or how they're going to react, and you have to be able to access your creativity, and you know be able to adapt to what's happening now in the moment with the kids, and so the more that you're able to do that for yourself, the more you'll be able to bring that into the therapy session with children. and. It's also I think important to allow those moments to happen because again you know instead of trying to direct everything and have it be our way. We're not allowing the children to express express themselves fully, and allowing them to be able to walk into their own power of directing and in allowing them to. Create some of the dynamic. That's going on, and it's scary because chaos is never easy and yet that's sometimes where some of the most profound happened is when we let go of his rigid control because most of us are afraid of that. You know were afraid that we're going to lose control. Everything's GonNa go crazy. We're GONNA. Lose reputation. You know. Everybody's going to talk about this and say Oh, my Gosh, did you hear what? and yet if you really believe in yourself and you believe in the child, and you believe in the process of what you're doing, you. Can you know effect change at a level that? Maybe you been really expect so I would hope that this workbook would allow people to therapists to be able to embrace that about themselves, but also to let kids you know kids. especially young children still seem like they're connected to the great beyond you know wherever we come from or whatever that sort of energy is, and they have vivid imaginations, and you know lots of times, those imaginary world or imaginary friends, or some of the things they say can be ridiculed or that silly or come on buckle down were working on this right now, whereas those are really mystical, magical sort of moments, and the longer than we can help a child. Hold onto those connections. Shoes that imaginary place. The more the the the deeper, the child will be able to access their own creativity, because it's really the connection to the spirit you know I talk about. You know this is a spiritual guide and what I mean about spirit is that it's that non physical part of us. It's that part of the perhaps goes on after our physical form dies and s humans were caught up been. All the human pursuits of you know. Whatever it is working with kids creating a family having a home working to make money to buy food and this, and that those are all you know physical in the here and now, but there's also this other hard of us this spiritual part of that. Is In awe. When we see the sunset you know, and it's just brings tears to our is, or we get those goosebumps when we hear a certain song or you know it's at that connection to everything else in the universe, it's sort of this energetic force that this energetic universal story, and the more that we can access that because that's where our intuition comes from our wisdom comes from. It's not from our head. And even it's not always from our experience, but it's from being able to listen and value. What's coming out of us, and if we can do that for children on my Gosh, the world could be a really magical different ways. If we could remove that judgment of thinking. Placing judgement on what comes out in those faces it. Would I think it could change the world it really could. Well because I think there's such a push for conformity. Oh, what of the neighbors going to say? Oh, you sound ridiculous. Oh my Gosh! You know that's not what everybody else is doing. You have to do it this way or Not Allowing for that unique quirky different. You know because we're so afraid of our own insecurity in that we want to fit in that. We are overprotective in want the children. To all so you know fit in and do the right thing. Act Normal he no. But I think that it can really crush the potential. Yes, the child and we will be happy, but we won't necessarily be all that we could be if we allow ourselves and our kids and the kids that we work with the freedom to express themselves fully. Yes, making that space. Yeah, yeah yeah so with We touched on a little bit about this with self care of how how much this book can really. You're putting so much energy into yourself into reflecting on your own the way you tick, and how why things are important, and can you tell us a little bit about why? This is important during a time lake now with Kovic happening. At four months ago now. With this creativity, and why now it's important to be really. Tuning into that creative spirit. Well and I. Think what's fascinating is that it's not just cove it, but it is this whole You know. All of the demonstrations in the marches, and the out cries for justice, and for inclusivity, and for diversity, and to right the wrongs that have been done in the past, and there's a lot of that in the novel that I wrote, which is parallel lives sixties love story, and it's based in the San Francisco Bay area in the nineteen sixties. which was you know? Sort of a hotbed of? The Peace Love Generation during the Vietnam, war and And a lot of similar things happened. You know there were a lot of marches. There were a lot of demonstrations. There was a lot of trying to suppress it. You know there were. Kent State, you know. Kids were killed I. Mean they're just a lot of sort of similarities. I know it's very different, but there still this this. Out crying this these demands for change, and so between these two. Elements that are happening in the world today. Really, what's happening is the status quo. The way things have always been done is being stripped away whether we like it or not. You know everybody is trying to go back to the way things were before. To be hit even harder with the virus. It seems like I mean I. Know This is all sort of political, but and so. we are being asked to change, which is never easy. Everybody wants to do things the way they've always done it, so now is the time to come up with creative solutions, innovations, new attitudes new ways to embrace reality to have reality, look and feel differently, and not to be afraid of that. You know to really allow the newness like we were just talking about with kids, the space to be able to expand and to listen to our intuition. We know so. There is a sense of knowing. There's a sense of thinking then. There's a sense of knowing, but then there's also this deeper sense of just Were you Were you know something? It's such a deep level, but somebody could say something, but you know in your heart of hearts, or in your spirit, what the real truth is, and if you can hold onto that and create through that power. You know who knows what could happen I. Just think there's so many opportunities. I was working with someone the other day. WHO Is a photographer and you know. She does her photography sessions in person while that's really tough now although she's adapting in doing things, but there's also these opportunities of will. What could you do online? That will look totally different. Be The on the cutting edge of something so new and so innovative that you'll transform this forever. I mean that is what we're being offered right now if we will only step up, but it takes a deep belief, because when you go outside the status quo, and you know what is conventional, your brand brandit as oh look at her. She's gotten off the deep end this through that, but you know those are the people who will change things for the better, and and but it takes normal courage and strength and belief to do that and I really hope this workbook can provide a little bit of that before. And as their best, you know doing this workbook as a therapist. What more amazing thing than to be able to create a similar space for kids? So that when they are, you know in their thirties and forties. It's not a barrier for you know. All of those things of the status quo is. It's different they've you know they've been able to think outside the box and not had that. They've had a space to feel that It kids are going to grow. This is their reality. They're never gonNA. Know a lot of them are remember what it was before and we allow them the opportunity to you know to think broader and to do things differently. No matter how scary it might seem, you know we're allowing the future to change because they are the ones that will go forward and know. This is their reality that they're going to be moving into so if we really try to box it in and do things as we've always done it and have the same expectations, and you know all of these different things Were not preparing them for a future of enormous change. That's the most. I think as a therapist working with kids that's empowering, and there's a lot of responsibility you know as therapist. We know that, but then there's so much potential of what. Not only the effect we can have on the individuals, but on that larger community scale on that huge huge scale. Well and that's why I think a podcast like this is really exciting because you're inviting therapists who work with the future. Opportunities to think differently to do things differently and to really think about Their therapy sessions and the materials that they use and their expectations and all of those things. Differently and to support the parents to think differently and the home environment is different. I mean it's so different, but we're clinging to the past. Oh, it's going to go back to normal while I. Don't think it's ever going to go back to normal. I mean whatever the heck normal us you know it's just different, and it's an opportunity it doesn't have you know we can warn and we feel bad for what we are losing, but we can also embrace. All the great things that could be waiting for us as well. Oh. Yes, all of the great things that are out there. Who knows what they are? Who knows I know that's it's so exciting. It really is yes. Yes, well as we're coming to a close. Obviously in our show notes, there will be a link to your book, so people can easily go and access that but I'm wondering if you can, and there'll be links to all of your social media as well, but I'm wondering if you could tell us a few places to find you whether that's email or your website for listeners, if they wanna hear it first and quick type it in If you could let us know how to get a hold of you for our listeners, who want to know more sure and I hope you put my novel up to I, will all? Going in the ACA writing them down where they occurred so there's a lot of books. I mean I've written published a lot. In doing this for a long time, but yeah, so my website is Martha Alderson dot. and. There's a contact page on my website that you can email me or Martha Martha Alderson. Dot Com I'm on all the social media, either as the plot whisper like twitter on the plot whisper because that's where I started and on you know I have several groups on facebook I'm on Pinterest I have a lot of boards you know if you're interested in writing or creativity have a lot of different. They call them boards and. I'm on instagram although I haven't been on that long and one is Martha s Alderson in the other. Is the plot whisper so really? You can find anywhere on on Youtube I have I have a channel Youtube with a lot of free videos I also because of covid. was desperate to WanNa do things to I wanted to do something to help and I didn't really know how to do that so I have these online programs for programs Three of them were for riders in one is creativity. And they're free now. Usually I charge money for them, but now they're free, so you can feel free to go to my website and and. You check those out and see. You've ever wanted to write a novel, or you want to try to picture book. A lot of you might have picture book. Ideas is a picture book on video series that I did with my agencies. No longer ancient being you know works for the Smithsonian but. That's awesome. I'll be sure to link to those courses I'll put direct direct links for those to. Those sound fine. I think so I've heard some really great feedback from people who? Have taken advantage of filling their days by watching the videos trying something brand new and taking a risk going into the great unknown and been pleasantly surprised, so it's it's very gratifying. Awesome well Martha I WANNA. Thank you so much for coming on and sharing it now only. Three but your passion and I'm so excited for this to get out there and for listeners to go dig deeper and take advantage of the. These in that new change. Will. I really grateful? It's wonderful to get to connect to. This population and I. Feel like I'm. Connecting to my past. Everybody that I used to know. Were all therapist so good? Luck to all of you. Wonder Fall! Right I hope you guys enjoyed that episode. I know that I feel very inspired to go. Be Creative and digging into creativity, and what it means to be creative I can't recommend a boundless creativity enough. It was such a wonderful wonderful book for me. I felt like it was a really deep deep dive into creativity, especially with having a specific goal and I really really enjoyed it, so that link is in the show notes so you can check that out there also. Is just a reminder that there are anonymous survey that's located in the show notes to, and that is for you to vocalise your thoughts, your concerns, your suggestions anything. You would like for us to hear. That comes directly to us, and we wanted to put that up there as a way for. Your Voice to be heard, so let us know. Hearing from you is my favorite thing ever so please use that. Also a reminder that our course is on sale, our cultivating creative resiliency, which is for therapists working with children. I'm not talking about how to support. Creativity and lots of the stuff that Martha I talked about in this episode is of very relevant for this training in how we can support children how we as a therapist can open our minds to creativity I love what Martha said about how kids have this connection to creativity, and unfortunately sometimes that diminishes as they get older and creativity really is a resiliency factor that we should be targeting more frequently, so check out the course if you are interested in learning how to do that more. Thank you guys so much for listening? Take care and be creative.