17 Burst results for "Marshall Goldsmith"
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on Bloomberg Radio New York
"Two To get to it Victor frankel's man's search for meaning is another favorite And you mentioned Marshall goldsmith what got you here won't get you there And finally I have to mention my wife's book called aligned becoming the leader you're meant to be and her name is all chancellors on tier one of the best leadership book that I've ever read But of course a little bit biased maybe Maybe a little bit by a stem So you work with grad students in college students What sort of advice would you give to a recent college graduate who is interested in a career either as an executive or in leadership or or even in retail I think the advice is the same as we give the new CEOs Right your retirement speech Or even better write your eulogy And I know my good friend John donahoe is now this year of Nike This when he graduated and is always kept it and I understand he goes back to it every year And it's hard you know you have children there between the ages of 26 and 34 Early in your adult life you don't necessarily know everything but try to write it and see what journey you want to be on and how you want to be remembered That would be one shot Quite interesting And our final question what do you know about the world of leadership and executive management today that you wish you knew a couple of decades ago when you were first getting started Well there's so much over the years I think it has to do with profits being an outcome not the goal It's about importance of looking at drivers of performance It's about my role as a leader is that to be the smartest person in the room but to create the right environment Notify being perfect Nobody's perfect And I think that the quest for maybe I'll finish with this The quest for perfection can be very dangerous can be evil right Because if you're trying to be perfect guess what You're not going to be successful You're going to be incredibly demanding and harsh with people around you because you're going to expect them to be perfect And so you have to be like be kind with yourself and others around you And be able to open up and share what you're struggling with understand what they're struggling with and help each other out That's the I think to me that's such an important consideration The quest for perfection can be very dangerous Be kind be kind to yourself You know during the pandemic we learned so much right When we used to fly around very long time ago on planes right And we were told by this to it or there's two of us is the oxygen mask comes down Put it on yourself First before you help that is So as we continue to go through challenging time taking care of yourself as a leader Making sure you meditate You reflect the exercise The actual.
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on Heather Dubrow's World
"Sleep. Deprived your phone your focused on the house. Your focus on the kids. You're trying it's like somebody has to come in and that's like that's like you and i do that for people. We give them awareness than we empower them to get a little bit of an aerial perspective and you see things from a whole new light. And that's what the book is about is getting an aerial perspective. So you can see the gaps that need to be bridged and then figure out how to bridge them and everything starts to get like who decompressed lighter. And you have like god's a mental space for once you know it's so true. I used to be that kid that in in junior high or high school. Before i could study i had to clean my desk and my mom always said it was just a way of procrastinating. Actually wasn't i realize. Now it wasn't i mean i probably was progress any a little bit on full disclosure but i think the truth is is that i needed decluttering. I like a clean empty space so there is nothing to distract me and i could just focus on the task at hand. My house is very like that. I don't like clutter at all and it's funny because my mom. She's such a hoarder. Kill me if she heard this. But it's i mean a hoarder. So where did you come from like. What was your family like It was pretty normal like my mom likes house clean and we all did chores like it was always like a family value. We all helped But i think that it was chaotic. Like i can see my mom my mom has. Add and she talks to me about that a lot in her process now she was figuring it out and so i i always wonder like man if somebody would have shown her. Hey your environment creates you. So let's use that to your Not burden that's a superpower as a tool in your tool kit. You can use to be better and feel lighter. I'm i always wonder you know how that would have affected her. We because we were all pretty close in age to you. Know like it's just it's hard and when you get off cycle but that's why i feel like if you and we'll get into the actual decluttering and how to do that. But i feel like when you're organized. If as long as you have like a plan to start with you can follow it. And then you know it's easier to sort of maintain it and go back and do little tune-ups and stuff like that. But i like my family was like the house always looked fabulous. But you know if you open the wrong closet it would be like a movie like everything falling out and the junk drawers and all that like i and maybe even product of my environment but like i can't stand that i don't have that everything is i've gone the other way with a little bit will also like to your point earlier. It's natural like have you ever had a day where forget the house but like that's parliament but other stuff is going on or something really catastrophic happens in your family work stress and you kind of freak out and you're just like everyone gets down here. We're cleaning off like you naturally want a clean sweep a clean slate. You're drawn to that because everything else is sometimes so out of control but you can join environment and marshall goldsmith says if you do not create in control your environment it will create and control you so it's natural to like let me get control of something and if we just had that inflow automatically like almost like putting that on autopilot in it being like all the time for you because of things. You sat up one time. Wouldn't that just be something off of you that you didn't have to think the laundry 'cause you've got it rhythmic ties in it's just going like let's of that much frigging time on this brain space on this. You know. I love what you just said. If you don't create and control your environment it will create and control you. Yeah genius yes yes. That's so true it's so true. That's why there's something to be said for being a control freak. I mean some people can look down on us. But i'm just saying i think it's i think it's actually necessary. Yeah especially when you have four kids. I mean it's like having ten. I mean he's got to do it gotta do it all right so how. How can people incorporate minimalism into their life. Because i think for some people. Like i mean i think that was very brave of you to throw it all the honestly very very brave. I'm a good perjure. And i like at the end of the stages i donate. I give like. I do all that. But i remember when the twins i had the three under three and even before the fourth one game when they were little there was a lot of shit around. I mean there was even though it was organized. There was still a lot around. Sure yes well. How do we move into the minimum the more minimal estate so first of all define what that's gonna look like frio. The word minimalism can is so annoying and has taken on so much. That might not serve you so forget that word if you need to what is what do you need what the simplicity look like for. Who you are is using your end at that season of my life. I was ruthless. Like you say. I was brave to do that. I was desperate. So i needed everything to be as minimal as possible. My husband was gone working all the time. Like i was in the thick of by myself. Now like he's here with me. We worked together. The kids go to school. They're older they help like i don't need to be that ruthless about my space is still honor myself on a c. Had this is actually an act of self love. But i'm not as we got. Be careful because every single link is my time so kind of define what is gonna look like and what you need and this is a tool. That's a postal work for you. You gotta be careful because there's so many other influencers leaders in this field that are teaching so many legalistic rules. And you feel like you're doing something wrong if you don't have twenty bucks or less or this many genes in right it's just it's so legalistic in controlling now you're still controlled by your stuff but just in a different way so Bats the i teach is. Let me empower you. Wear your at your family your climate. How many winter clothes and summer clothes novice in that. You're gonna need like you figure it out with me instead of me being like. Listen to a minimalist. It just doesn't work. Who am. I don't know you might tell you that. Defunct percent i my best. Parenting advice is always listen to your gut and do what's best for you. I do think it's good. I love that you went to. I'm sorry they didn't help you. But i do love that you went to parents that were at a different stage because i really do love having friends that are older than me with older kids or even the same age and younger than me with younger..
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on The Astral Hustle with Cory Allen
"Need today and that becomes your metric so really anything you want to achieve you can create a metric for. I give the example in the book of marshall goldsmith. Who's an executive coach very well-known writer. And he has a scoreboard that he keeps for himself. I think it's something like twenty six items and actually has his assistant call him every day before in the evening and they go over his metrics he has to report what number he gives himself on that day on that metric and he does he really has involves assistant is he finds if he's relying on himself. He's not going to do it but if his assistant has to call him he'll he'll do it and then he's got all these Spreadsheets that show him his performance on that day and one of the things that i think is so important about this approach is. It's not so much about the score per se. It's the fact that you're reflecting on the score every day. That keeps you more mindful of your behavior so just keeping track of your behavior keeps you more mindful and just make this concrete. You know if you are someone who's considering after lunch one day you know. You're kind of tired after lunch time. We all have a different energy And you're you're tempted to go and tick-tock for forty five minutes. You're much less likely to do that. If you know you have to report it to yourself on a time sheet so having metrics for the things you're trying to avoid are also is also useful. So how many minutes that. I spent on today the answer. That's forty five. You feel kinda lousy. Right so i just think that this is something that we can a tool. We can all use to improve our performance in. Its the first chapter in that second section of the book on how to shrink the gap between your vision and your ability. That's really great stuff. Yeah i I love how effective what you're talking about is for example. I always have time check on a few apps like instagram. And read it and things like that just to make sure. I'm limiting that to thirty minutes a day or fifty minutes a day or whatever it is and just that little type reminder that's built in is amazing how much it really just brings you out of that chance of getting sucked into a giant time. So it's time checking app. It's a feature of the iphone so basically you can go into. I don't know where it is in the settings but you can select like you can use this app for x..
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on How'd It Happen Podcast
"I've got this little business going and probably twenty twenty six years old and tom's salty old sailor and he's an old designers at a company for thirty forty years done well and he goes michael. You know how i know. You're going to be successful i go. How's that town. He goes 'cause you goddamn stupid to know that you shouldn't be doing what you're doing. That's it right. You have to be kind of an idiot. John have to be sort of a narcissist. You have to believe that That you can actually Make a dent in this industry. That is being run by these multinationals. That's the courage and the naievety that it takes but that's the same thing that becomes your big blind spot when it's time to go. Hey maybe i need a little help here and so the i think that you know there's a reason why most the most successful businesses are started by people in their fifties One of the reasons is humility. They've they've been around the block enough time to go. Hold on a second you know. Intelligence is painful and leaves bruises a dense. Wisdom is much easier. I need to go find someone that has done this before. Who can make it. You know less painful. And i think that's what happens. But so there's this balance that happens in really good executive teams and Most of us don't have it because we surround ourselves with people that are reflections of our own goodness whether we understand it or not in you mentioned marshall goldsmith a bit ago for people who don't know who he is mike who who is marshall goldsmith so marshall. Yes marshall goldsmith is a friend. He's a he has been called the number one executive coach in world he is a Somewhat of a maverick in the coaching world. He was the person that that was a pioneer in three sixty evaluation. He also pioneered the idea of. Hey it costs a million dollars. Hire me as a coach and If i don't do what..
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on Trina Talk
"How well's individual going to communicate with others within the organization to drive the change and so communication styles need to alter slightly also another one is being able to delegate effectively and When you go up the ladder you have got to start doing less. And so it's sometimes. It's a shock to people that your new job is sitting in meetings and listening to other people and finding themes and when you figure out what the theme is figure out how to break that down to solve. so it is is communication and In like marshall smith likes to say what got you here won't get you there. And so you know you you get a certain point and you've been pigeonholed. Maybe that you're just a really good manager. But they don't see you in that light of of executive presence and being able to lead a a large room of individuals and so the process of coaching. That i use. A stakeholder centered coaching and it was developed by marshall goldsmith and few of his very close friends and as studied it and and was able to get certified for individuals and the teams and a love the process because it allows the leader to become recognized by their peers and their stakeholders as improving and they actually take a survey the stakeholders take a survey. And say you know. Did they improve on a neck and a negative three to positive three. How much improvement did you say since we've been working on we know xyz leadership and so one hundred percent of the folks. I've worked with So far they've all accomplished those measured results as seen by their peers and their stakeholders and Know to break down the process. It's it's called. Ask listen thank in so you can think of all keys lt keys. That are next to the The space bar on most computers. So you've got alt- ask listen. Thank this kind of the way to get it. Started and you would very simply say you know. Trina i wanna get better delegating water one or two things that i can do in this next meeting. That's going to help. That helps me improve delegating in so you would give me one or two ideas and so that's me listening does not meet. Arguing does not me saying train. A you didn't see me do xyz in before and you don't understand. I can't ask. Joke is shows like i can't get him to do anything so you don't give excuses but you ask very clearly. What are one or two things. I can do in the future to help my delegating. You listen actively listen and then you just simply say. Thank you and i sang. Thank you you're not committing to anything. You're not promising anything but you say thank you. You go back. You reflect you respond. You change if you want to and the laszlo piece of gold is the follow up so you follow back up with the stakeholder and you say it much like the army with your After action assessments This is what happened. This is what i learned from it..
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on My Worst Investment Ever Podcast
"Philly for the tidbits about your life. Today i am an executive coach in southern california. I build mastermind groups for business owners. I create an advisory board for them. They're mostly privately. Held companies middle market businesses growing. And i bring them outside perspective and understanding for a group of peers who are running non-competitive businesses. That's my core business. That i do as well as i executive coach. Ceo's in business owners here in southern california yeah and for the listeners. Out there there's much more to to rick's bio including this idea that he is the ceo pure groups and what he's doing there. I'm personally. I'm very fascinated with that. One thing that big companies have is they have boards of directors and one thing that small company doesn't really make sense sometimes for medium size company to have a big powerful board of directors and also one thing that's changed a lot here in thailand and i think it's around the world is the liability for directors is very high and getting advisors on the other hand. Seems like a really smart thing to do now. I wanna ask you a specific question for my coffee. Business coffee works. We've been in business now for twenty five years. We've never set up a board of advisors. We've talked about it many many times. And if we came to sit down with you and said we know that you're an expert in this area. What would you say. How would you guide us or the listeners out there that do have businesses that are thinking about this well. There's a couple of different ways to go with that andrew as an executive coach. It's really understanding what your goals are. And what you've been able to accomplish and try to understand the gaps that you both have to great people running a successful business for twenty five years. You've obviously figured out a lot of it. But what i found. Sometimes what marshall goldsmith said. What got you here won't get you there and so you always have to be reinventing if you are open to an advisor..
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on Company of One with Dale Callahan
"So let me ask. Are you a burger flipper or you're the boss. Was that mentality that you have today. We're going be talking about triggers book specifically triggers by marshall goldsmith and some of the piff anies out of it about using powerful questions to help change so asset once again. Are you a burger flipper or you. The boss and what he preparing for so welcome to the company of one. This is episode number two hundred and four. This is the show where we teach you to look at your career all of your income as an entrepreneur. You in fact are a company of one. Just as i am. Everybody who makes money. We're small businesses. And that's the way we empower ourselves to may more money to have more impact for more people. So let's jump into day to that question. Are you the burger flipper the boss. I asked my kids this question all the time or at least i talk to them about making decisions to be the burger flipper. The ball sent. It usually goes something like the has to make a thousand decisions day. The boss has to decide what's important. The balls has to have the drive and motivation to make things happen. The burger flipper just shows up and wait for somebody else to tell him what to do. At what time to show of how to dress everything else. You're being told what to do. Both of them are fine. And there's extreme versions of the burger flipper and extreme versions of the boss. Right you can be a very high paid burger flipper and a lot of corporate jobs. But you have to decide which one you're going to be in which one i which one you can live with right. So many people tell me they wanna be their boss and they won't be their own boss but now they really like being told what to do. It's a boy. That's a big challenge. You know how you going to pass that but it goes a little deeper goes a little deeper because as an employer. Your and i'm saying i'm an employer. You're an employer. Anytime we pay people money for something in may be a dentist it. Maybe a car mechanic. It may be somebody who's doing repairs on our home. Then they are our employees at least in the company of one model. We are paying for service. And they're providing. We are the customer so in that model we want something we want the burger flipper to act like the boss. We don't we want them mechanic. That's working on our our car. Even if it's a big giant. A car dealership in the mechanic dispatch. They're working on our car. We want them thinking like the boss. Light pleasing the customer and taking good care of the customer and ownership of his or her work is key all of us won't and especially in corporate america. We're seeing this idea of. We won't more engaged. Employee says the term that's being thrown around all the time you see. Engagement is a big discussion matter of fact in the university.
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on 860AM The Answer
"In fact, new research reveals that people are less likely. Spread to express gratitude at work than any other place. Today. My guest mentor is Chester Elton. Co author of the Just released gratitude. He is also the co author of the bestselling The Carrot Principle. The best team wins and all that. Today We're going to be discussing eight simple ways that managers can show employees they're valued, which will bolster employee morale, efficiency and productivity. Just er, thank you for joining us from Florida and serving as our guest mentor and let's get started. Tell us to get started about you're just released work. Yes, the leaving with gratitude. We're very excited about it. And thanks for having me on your show, Tom. It's always a pleasure to be with mentoring. I'm a big fan of be mentored in business. I wish when I was younger, I had More mentors. Anyway. Back to the book. You know, This is the culmination of 20 years of research and writing with my co author Adrian Kostic on, You Know, how do you create those great cultures, one of the differences between good leaders and extraordinary leaders. What are some of the simple things they do that to your point on the intro can attract and routine great talent. So it was great fun talking to some extraordinary leaders and how they led with gratitude, not own. And their organizations and their business is also in their personal lives, which we found very affirming. Who are some of the people you talked to. You know, we had a chance to spend a lot of time with actually Alan Mulally. And for those of you that are big auto fans even is the guy that saved the Ford Motor Company during the big downturn. In 7 4008. We got talked. Very Julie, who is the, uh, just just retired to CEO is now the chairman of best Buy. Took them from a billion dollar deficit to a pimp billion dollars surplus. Not bad. And one of my favorite videos of all time is Gerry Rich, the C E O W, the Florida I guarantee everybody who's listening. The can of WD 40 somewhere, and he just that organization from 280,000,002 400.8 billion. So ah lot of a great leaders Attentional, the recently retired CEO of American Express that took them too. All time highs in and their value and stock prices. Well, so those those air just a few So those are great people that lead with gratitude. But then you also talked about transactional leaders. What? What is it, transactional leader? Well, you know, Transactional leaders are those that are really good about checking the boxes. You know they they're getting stuff done. There's not a new emotional connection. There's not a real relationship. It's very transactional. You do this. I pay you for this. You do it. And it is effective to a certain level. If you're looking for really, you know, hi engagement, high enablement and employees that are energized. It has to be more than a simple, transactional relationship that does that make sense. It does. And I think all of us probably worked for some transactional people or worked with them. So we know what you're talking about. Now you you talk about the gratitude gap talk a little bit about that. And why. What is the problem that most people have in expressing gratitude night? I I suspect this isn't just in business but in life in general. It is, you know, it was one of the most fun studies that we did. And it was that as we surveyed senior leadership, right, and we asked him a very simple question. Do you think that you are above average in giving gratitude, appreciation recognition, Whatever. Whatever word you want to use and almost 70% that? Oh, yeah. I'm really good at that. And then in asking that same question to their direct reports that people that work with them for them on Lee 23% agreed. So there's this perception, you know, as a leader that were really good at doing certain things. And yet, in reality, we're not it Z A Z. You and I were talking off line. It's that being able, as a leader told that mirror up and really find out where you are in your relationships. And particularly the gratitude scale. So that's what we call the gratitude gap. It's a perception. Yes, I think I'm really good. And yet we can all do a bit better. It does it and his gratitude is that Just about being nice to people. You know, I am so glad you brought that up. Come because when we talk about leaving with gratitude, lot of a lot of leaders, particularly the transactional leaders, right? Say, Oh, yeah, That's Miss Austen. I asked to come by and you know, we knew hard stuff here. You know, I have hard skills, and here's what's fascinating is we found that the difference between the good leaders and extraordinary leaders It was never their hearts skills, you know? Yeah. Yeah. Had to be able to do the transactional stuff. Like yet things through the system, right? The difference to extraordinary was always a softball. How you communicated how you inspired unless you think that means that your soft You know? Oh, contraire, Right. And our best example of that, by far was Alan Mulally, who came into the automotive industry. You know, sharp elbows. I mean, killer be killed. And and he led with gratitude. You know, his first principle of management is it's your people love him up. And you know, if you think l'm a lolly was something they wrote about it in the trade newspapers. But he was known to have a spine of titanium. You know, you can hold people accountable. You can be demanding. And yet you can also be very much a leader that leads with gratitude, encouraging people along the way, and when you put it in that perspective, It brings a lot more true, Don't you think? Oh, yeah, Absolutely. And I know you're you do you're in some kind of a group with Alan now, aren't you to some organization that you're part of that? Inspires you as well. We are. It's the Marshall Goldsmith 100 coaches paying forward group, which element remember because Marshall was at one point his coach, and it is fascinating to No. There are executives past and present. There are executive coaches and there are thought leaders and Alan is a part of that group as Dr Jim Camp, the the past presidency of the World Bank, doing hard things trying to eradicate severe poverty. You know in the world, so these air leaders that get my need to engage people and yet very demanding at the same time? We're going to cut away for quick commercial break. And when we come back, we're gonna talk about the myths about gratitude. Thank you for.
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on Coaching for Leaders
"Steps you'll hear in these lessons won't make that behavior change easy but it will give you a clear framework to create movement almost immediately a friend of Mine Reta comment I made about people confusing learning and knowledge and sent me an email she said on strengths. Finder input is one of my top five talents I love to gather knowledge but how could I possibly integrate? So, it becomes a problem. What do I do with it? How do I manage it? How do I decide what to move on and what to delete? I sent a reply back saying I don't think it's just people with. As a top strength through struggle with us in the digital age were all being bombarded with tons of input data each day. So how do you actually start to get traction on creating movement? The first step is deciding one place to start over the next ninety days in zeroing in there. Even, though this is the first step to generate movement, it's probably one of the hardest parts that's because a lot of our organizations families even on social media have convinced us that we can have it all. We can do everything and we can do a lot of it really well, and here's the odd thing. The smarter you are in the more success you've had in your career up to this point, the harder it is actually zero in on one leadership skill. Many of us got to where we are by holding a lot in our brains, sharing tons of useful knowledge. But. That's why you also see a lot of people hit a plateau in their careers once they've gotten as far as they can with their technical skill, set an entirely not an accident as to why Marshall Goldsmith probably one of the best known executive coaches wrote a book for leaders called what got you here won't get you there. Often, when I invite high-achieving people to zero in on one place to get traction I, get a bit of pushback saying that such a strategy would ignore the other nine things that are also important.
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on The Workr Beeing Podcast
"And help them think about ways to help their sleep, and then you're going to see an impact like people are going to feel like they are sleeping better because of your leadership there. So I think that's pretty pretty impactful. Yeah that makes a lot of sense to me, and I also think that like if you're a leader, you may not be good at. If, you're actually doing this well so you should probably ask people to give you feedback if they've you as asleep leader also because since the correlations were kinda low, it's like do your best to do this. But then also asked people like, do you think that I'm doing a good job at this because you might not be the best judge of whether or not? You're actually doing those behaviors. Agreed, and I think from an employee perspective, you know A. Relationship with your that you feel comfortable enough talking about wellness issues you bring it up say like honestly I haven't been sleeping that well, like I feel like I do that all the time I always tell people like the worst night sleep like knit. Yeah. Me Up by lake poking me in the face or something. Weird. Like I feel like I talk about all the time and I think it's totally fine like. At a balance to talk about whether you slept weird or great got enough sleep. So I think bring it up with your leader and you can model that behavior and could also share this information with them. You know maybe you know that across your team People are struggling because of covert or whatever's going on or you have a really busy schedule with a lot of projects going on your whole teams got a lot going on maybe you can model that and you can talk about this and help people understand that you know we need to support each other sleep and start thinking about resources. So I think from an employee perspective, it's a pretty easy. Ask to bring up and yeah, it's not like you're saying, Oh, well, I listen to this podcast like immediately I should be you know. Paid differently or working in a different situation or I should be promoted or whatever like those are easy to fix. But I think having your leader understand that sleep and having conversations around sleep is inbounds and can be very helpful. I think is very simple to to do. Yeah and I think actually going back to the. Initial Marshall Goldsmith thing like the idea of just having some check in questions at the start of. A weekly meeting or something you know how are people doing from a wellness perspective and adding sleep into that and you know or asking people if you have individual meetings like incorporating some wellness early questions including sleep into the way that you're checking in with people so that they know that they can bring it up with you but also so that you know you're opening the dialogue and also I would say I, mean, probably another thing would. Be To model good behaviors so that you're not like emailing people in the middle of the night and making them feel like they like can't go to sleep because you're expecting that they're going to be responding to you know you at all hours of the day and whatever like there are also probably behaviors that you can do in addition to creating a culture climate that people feel comfortable within. But there are probably also here that you can do to. Demonstrate that this is something that you. Care about it or actually GonNa you know. Walk. The Walk I agree I think that's usually I think companies can also do something here. You know Tomo Consulting Projects Right. Let's bring in the resources help people how these conversations sleep I mean every. Not Everybody but a lot of organizations have some sort of health care program some initiatives there I'm sure there are resources I'm sure how the insurance companies have sleep.
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on The Workr Beeing Podcast
"Leap leader can look like but basically what it is, it's the types of behaviors that a leader can take to actually help, improve and employ sleep. So it includes what they called path goal clarifying behaviors, which is basically helping employees see what they need to get themselves more sleep. And then emotional support, which I think is a little more self explanatory but showing concern for employees sleep So it's some examples like the path goal side. It'd be like helping educate employees about what good sleep is like like how do you get that sleep? What are some good practices before you go to bed? What can you do disconnect in the evening things like that, and then the support of behaviors are more like asking you did you get a good night's rest hurry sleeping? Can you know how can we support your sleeping things like that? So it's all actually very sleep focused. So it's not like supportive just in general it's supportive of your sleep specifically, which is interesting. That is interesting. So it would be like you know a leader who? Checking in on basically other, you know vital, are you meeting your basic needs and ensuring that you're actually having a conversation about that I remember? I don't even know now probably ten years ago I saw Marshall Goldsmith speak at something and Tom he was saying that as a coach. One of the main things that he does as a practice is he either makes the person that he's coaching ghetto body or he serves as that person's buddy. If they don't have someone, they want to have his buddy and he has them ask like a few questions every day of their buddies. So at the start of every day, they have to ask a few questions and one of the questions was, how did you sleep last night? And so he said the questions were like, what are your goals for today what might be some challenges to facing those goals? How do you plan to overcome those goals and then it was how is.
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on The ROI Podcast
"Now, there are many things that that hold women back their cultural things there structural things there things outside their control, but I was particularly interested in that which does lie within our control and knows our habits and behaviors and I kept hearing over and over about the same. Issues that would arise that were problematic for women. Great colleague of Mine Marshall Goldsmith, who is the CO author on this book had written an international bestseller. What got your won't get you there, and it is about the habits and behaviors most likely to get in the way of successful people as they seek to move to the higher level in their career. That is make that transition from early or mid career up into leadership positions and Marshall had the brilliant insight that the very habits and behaviors it can serve you well early in your career can be problematic as you move into leadership I thought that was very impactful, but I did notice not surprisingly given that Marshall's base as an executive. Coach is about eighty five percent male that many of the habits that he focused on didn't seem to me to be that Germane to women or to to be much of a problem for women at things like learn to apologize and don't always talk about how great you are, which reflected his own CEO male base but certainly not the woman I worked with. So I suggested to him that we collaborate take that model he had and look at it for the Lens of what would habits and behaviors most likely to hold women back and how women rise is the result you know everyone like said in the intro has barriers that they must overcome. But you mentioned that women face specific and even different road blocks from men. What is it about these robots or what makes these roadblocks so different? I think it's basically the different experiences. Women have women. One of the habits look at in in the book is reluctant to claim your achievements that is hoping others will are late. Oh, she did a great job on such and such without your happy to do it yourself and what is this based in? Of course there there can be aspect of upbringing that come into. But it also is that many women have the experience of having talked about an achievement and having had somebody say what you certainly seemed to be proud of yourself or you know that's really quite inappropriate. The way you were talking women often get tagged as arrogant or self centered or being all about me for behaviors that are otherwise accepted in the workplace also with overvaluing expertise and other of the habits. women have often had their expertise right to be in the position they are really questions. So they feel that they have to do everything they can to make sure everyone knows they deserve their in the position. That they're in. So I, it really comes often down to the experiences. Women have early in their careers sally I'm curious. Were there some of these habits that you felt at a personal level and and a worthy? Oh my goodness. I would say that. You know I probably at some time in my career exhibited practically every one of these habits the perfection trap certainly overvaluing expertise feeling like I needed to to put out there that I needed to earn every single thing I did and. Talk Too much about you know what I don how I done it and trying to earn my place expecting others to spontaneously noticed value your contributions that was certainly I had and I had communication behaviors in particular there to communication behaviors in this book and one is. Minimizing what you do and the other is too much too much background too many words to to. Too. Many ideas at once just you know that sold flow. In the United States we do know that studies show that women use on average twenty, thousand words a day and Menus on average seven thousand words a day..
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on Power Principles Podcast with Maleah Warner
"Now unresolved conflict not a good thing but conflict flicked resolution actually deepens intimacy and strengthens the relationship. So could that be a blind spot of yours. Do you avoid conflict flicked. Do you avoid having the difficult conversation. This is closely related to not taking a stand. This person has a lack of commitment to anything you think and this could be for a lot of reasons. Fear of making wrong decision for being ridiculed. Whatever the reason this person likely doesn't know abysses? They're blind spot that they lack ability to take a stand number. Six blaming blaming other people blaming our circumstances this person plays the victim refuses to accept responsibility and accountability for their own life their own thoughts their own feelings for their own actions and their results. This is a huge blindspot. And how do you know if it's your blind spot. Listen to the sound of your own voice. Listen for when you hear yourself blaming just listened for blame. Just observe yourself. Listen and see if you catch yourself blaming number. Seven treating amendments casually. This is the person who doesn't honor other people's time they show up late. It doesn't matter to them if people have been waiting if they've put somebody else out they don't respect other people's resources this person who is blindly careless about life number eight conspiring against others. This person is driven driven by a personal agenda and somehow has the beliefs that bringing other people down will raise them up number nine withholding emotional personal commitment. This is the person who engages in emotional blackmail and maybe you can immediately think of someone who does that. Someone who is a manipulator later someone who holds back their love until they get what they want and number ten tolerating goodenough someone who has low standards for performance. Now what I want to say about this is that I think there are about seventy percent of areas in our life. Where good enough is good enough but to be healthy? Each of US need a couple of areas that we care about to do our best to put our whole heart and soul into those areas USC. So you have a person that nothing in life matters. Everything is sloppy that is a blind spot of tolerating being low standards so there is a list of ten examples of behavioral personality trait blind spots. We could make take a lengthy list of hygiene blind spots which I won't because I think it will be disgusting conversation. And because in pouring my heart and soul all into these book edit revisions my hygiene impersonal parents have been lacking. So who am I to point fingers. I guess at least the good thing is I'm aware of but it's not blindspot. I know to send someone else in my family to open the door. So I don't scare our friends away. So let's ask the question. Why is identifying defined blind spots important? Isn't it okay to just go through live. Just consider through life not being aware. Well No. It's not self self. Awareness is a crucial key to happiness and success without self awareness. We move through relationships and experiences disconnected unaware of how others receive US and perceive US and were unable to take full responsibility for outcomes are blind spots are barriers that limit our life experience. So how can we see our blind spots. If they're blind to us how can we we see them just like driving the Mazda. That blindspot doesn't make it impossible for me to see it just means I have to look around it just because our car has a terrible blindspot does not mean we have to settle for colliding into cars next to us we. We are able to look around blind spots a really good way is mirrors. This is why vehicles have mirrors. They help us to see angles that we normally wouldn't be able to see and where are the mirrors around us our relationships. If you're really brave you can pick a blind spot buddy and ask them what is a blind spot that you think I have that I could be more aware aware of if you do this. Be prepared because people will be honest with you. Maybe you're not feeling quite so bold and that is okay. People people give us feedback all the time. The problem is we're so much in our own heads we don't notice it if you can get out of your head and be present and observe other people's body language what they say how they position themselves when they stand near you. There are all kinds of clues to Howard behavior and actions are affecting others one of the most effective ways and I love this is to surround yourself with diverse thinkers with the intention of learning from them. If you only associate with people title who think exactly the same way you do. You're going to have a lot more blind spots. CEO's and bosses of companies. He's make a mistake of hiring people who are too much like them and that actually damages their companies communities and companies are stronger when they reflect a variety of perspectives experiences and approaches to problem solving something we could all all benefit from a lot in our country is the ability to learn how to disagree better that instead of believing that I have to be right to understand that I can exist happily and healthily within a community of different perspectives chiefs. Another really effective way to reveal blind spots is to examine your past. Are you on your third marriage and are the same issues from your first and second marriages resurfacing in your third marriage. That's probably a good sign that the problems aren't in your spouse but in your own on blind spots are you in your eighth twelfth. Twentieth Year of marriage thirtieth year of marriage fortieth year of marriage and an are the same arguments in issues from year. One three and five still coming up in your marriage really good indicator indicator that there are probably some unresolved blind spots happening there to more ideas here. Identifying Triggers Marshall Goldsmith Goldsmith wrote the book triggers. And it explains that we all have triggers. We all have situations that cause us to impulsively or instinctively. React Act without thinking again without being present and when we can learn to identify these triggers. Then we can master our responses and make those triggers work for US rather than against us and a podcast episode about triggers would be fantastic stick discussion for another time so I will make a note of that to do a podcast. Episode about triggers. Final idea here is to seek seek out a mentor. A coach and advisor a teacher. A Counselor at thorough pissed I think in the past the concept concept of therapy has really had a lot of negative connotation associated with it but there is power in being able to talk to someone who is neutral. Who isn't a family member or a spouse who isn't so closely intertwined with your blind spots and the effects that you're blind spots are having on them being able talk to someone neutral where they can really help you to hear what you're saying and see what you're missing? It is predicted that over the next few years mentors life coaches therapists are going to become as common as Jim's if you think about it in in the nineteen sixties people didn't buy memberships to gyms. There wasn't a gold gym or a boss fitness center on every corner. Mike Parents never bought a membership to the gym and went to work out yet. They're so prevalent now. More people understand in value the importance of cardio exercise cise and stretching and weightlifting. And we don't work on farms lake. We did back in the day so we don't have the opportunity for physical laborer like people in the past did will in the future people are going to increase understanding and value of. I've thought health and emotional help. Perhaps we'll need more coaching and mentoring as the future progresses because we are getting in more socially disconnected in any case. If anyone asks me about therapy or counseling individually or marriage I am all pro. I I am all in favour I. I saw a therapist counsellor individually when I was healing from postpartum depression and it was so enlightening and I actually felt like I was getting the most amazing Sunday school lesson every week and I thought why don't we all do this and then I brought my husband along and we did some marriage counseling and other times. We've done marriage counseling together and it's great. It's like the best education for me. I really value life education education. We send our kids to school where they learn how to calculate the area of And how many of them are going to use that very view but we don't educate them about their minds and their emotions and their relationships and for me I think we can all really benefit from getting life education. So seeking out a coach a mentor. A counselor can really help you to discover and see your blind spots in conclusion. I think it's so important to emphasize that this is not an invitation to get down on yourself to have a pity party because you have so many faults not at all this is not about being self critical. This is about being self aware. We all have blind spots all all of us. We are in this blindspot boat together. So why should we even make the effort to discover and change these blind spots behavior because blind spots are barrier that limit our life experience and prevent us from living a full and rich life. So my friends. I hope this episode has been enlightening to you and that by listening. You've been able to see a couple of things that maybe you were blind to. Who before? That's my goal. That's what we're all working for here at the power podcast to develop twenty twenty vision the week with New Perspective and I will meet you back here for another episode of the power podcast feed you. Bet Bye bye..
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on The Culture Soup Podcast
"I've noticed that ton of people on the Internet especially people who are in professions or ear. Audrey words pardon me models. It doesn't matter. People are talking about building. Your personal I think is up intensity because no often people think that building your brand is just about what you put out there and not necessarily about what he's things done that have made millions and made a Bradford themselves after not really do much for say three you. You actually do have to do something and do something. Extraordinary in order to start crafting. A brand that sticks. Oh absolutely and you know almost held the the the the thing is is that Personal branding is not new. What is new is that the market has shifted the economic Situation the global economy the the fourth industrial revolution is caused every company to you be in a state of transformation so we talked about personal branding. Today we really have to say what is the value proposition they people. UC's live descriptors. That really didn't have substance and and what I really want to encourage people to do is understand. Dan How what they do on a daily basis actually contributes to the bottom line Roi and profitability of the organization. And so it's it's not about You know this notion of. I'm going to represent myself in this elegant you know will Thought out way it is about the value and the impact that you can talk about directly and it's GonNa be quite an audible so so so. I think that that we're a new era. Where we talk about personal branding and we're talking about and we're talking about leadership sustainability and Dan impact right and so what you know the Marshall Goldsmith whole notion of what got you here won't take you there? Yeah I think we've reached a point that a lot of the leadership lessons that we learned ten years ago or no longer relevant and and because the workforce or course has changed and because the marketplaces has changed and most importantly because the consumer has changed. We need to rethink. What personal personal leadership branding really mean? Wow so how does authenticity klay into it. Because a lot of folks that are out there trying to brand themselves. Als pensively yeah works as you guys. Do you remember the fake it to you make it. Yeah okay so so you know that was A phrase that came out when people didn't understand that their power really come from their authentic diversity. The we we really weren't celebrating reading each and every individual's contribution at that time it was more like okay. Let's just you know. Get along to be along and whether the And I it wasn't really at the core of who you are as a you're brilliant. Each of us has a natural actual Sphere of brilliant and that really is is connected to who we are authentically and the thing that I really want to encourage anyone one. Who's listening to our conversation? Today is to get in touch with the blood that flows through your veins. You see particularly as women of color particularly African American. We have been subjected to all kinds of Rhetoric about about who we are and that rhetoric sometimes has suggested that who we are is not good enough but the truth of the matter is is that African Americans in particular. Victor are some of the most resilient people on the face of the planet. We know how to navigate change like nobody else's business and and what organizations need now. They need leaders. Who can help others navigate so so if you can get in touch with with who you are authentically and you've heard me say this before? I'll say it again for the benefit of everyone is listening. You know one of the most important important activities that ever did in my life was to go back and look at the ten most defining moment in my life and as I reflected selected on those defining moments where asked myself was what was the lesson that the defining moment poppy. And how does that lessen shape who I am authentically. And how can I now own this unapologetically right and say to the world. This is who I am And this is why you WanNa know who I am this is. Why is good for you to know who I am and this is why I need? Who be who I am because when I'm there I'm really good but I'm trying to cover and be like somebody else? I'm not so good guys. Say This is a great point to interject how we even know each other often through this very exercise as as a part of strategic pathways during leadership we during the executive leadership councils leadership and I remember man. The tissue essay is the time to look at those ten most and I'm moments whether they're above the line or below the line. Yeah there were bally's or peaks right you. It takes you back in a way that makes you own. Your story story started. Yes it is yes it is. Who's a moment for me because I probably had voice out loud that new itself that needed to be voice and on your Abole Gee let me be proud of it? So yeah ain't for me. Yeah Yeah same for me. Yeah I mean I you know I think. A lot of women particularly Women of Color we are about the business of doing. We're rear really good at working right. We we know how to be workhorses right And to do what other people say and thinks that we should do do but I think the proposition and the invitation that you're extending to people is hey you can be authentic and you can be extremely successful and you can go from being successful to being significant when you are playing to your authentic self because because when you reveal those stories you know like I shared with with you about Being twenty two my special needs funding born and knocking knocking me on my my behind and Me You know having to reconcile with what really is truly meaningful in life and and discovering in my own resilient and my own appetite for equality and so much of what I do today really comes from obviously being raised the deep south being born into segregation. But then having you know especially son and then having a daughter who ultimately married A wonderful man who is Caucasian and my family you know is real and Just trying to ensure that people understand that at the core of everyone is a story and if we could slow down enough to hear and listen and really understand the stories my goodness gracious of life. What could we do to change this planet?.
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on 77WABC Radio
"Trading Academy, really shed some light on our overall market activity, and what we need to be doing individual investors out there to really be able to benefit from what's going on in the market, whether it's going up whether it's going down or whether the market is moving we're joking around a little bit at the beginning of that about being able to predict the market, and that's one of my favorite things. They'll just kind of talk about because it does really help simplify the market as individuals. We've spent the last two hundred years overcomplicating things really and saying, oh, it can't be that simple. You know, rather than just going? Well, you know, what it's either going to go up or down. Right. I mean, that's it. It's going to go up down. We need to have a plan for that could stay the same as well. But for the most part it goes up or it goes down. We have a plan for whatever either one of those. And then no one to execute. It really what ends up being kind of the knowing when to execute it. And having the ability to execute it ended up being the things that really have to work into and getting. Process in place. But one of the things Larry we were just kind of ending that last segment you're talking about, you know, do people have do people have all of the luck. People have all the luck know people make their own luck even kind of left with a a tagline that one of my mentors said said to a group at one point the harder. I work the luckier I seem to get it kind of ties into some of those kind of fun cliche things that we talk about. If you always do what you've done, you'll always get what you got, you know, those kind of fun topics if you want something different, right? We've got to do something different. If you're completely satisfied with your financial situation, and the and the trajectory that it's on one hundred percent, you don't have any worries. There's no reason to change anything. However, if you want more it's safe to say, you have to be willing to do a little bit more or do something different. Right. But what are some of the things I guess when you're talking about people have all the luck. When you're talking about, you know, skill sets different things like that. What are some of the keys some of the points? You really wanted to hit on as we were kind of ending that last segment we talked to people who are really sick. Zestful tends to come down to one thing their commitment is greater than their I q. And so when you think about it, and you think about people who are out there, and you can take a number of people like Steve Jobs. Mark Zuckerberg Jeff basis, they didn't start off being multi-billionaire as they had to sit down come up with a plan commit to that plan. And then figure out whatever it took to implement that plan. And what you think about is the fact that if I gave you give Ryan same quiz. I give a lot of my students when I start off. Okay. What do Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg and Bill Gates all have in common? It's not that they're billionaires. They started multibillion dollar companies dropouts. Yep. They all dropped out of school. And when you think about that when you probably ask them, they probably would tell you. They didn't learn what they needed to learn to get them to where they are today. And so it really comes down to is. It's not about working hard. It's not about working smart. It's about learning how to work, right? And one of the things we do here at the academy is that we allow our students. To come to a place where they can learn step-by-step strategies designed to help them make the right decisions and side the financial markets. And so we help students develop skills that can help them generate income and build their confidence toward their retirement goals. And so if you're somebody out there that has felt like you've been stuck you have obstacles. And by the way. May I digress. For a second. -absolutely a lot of times you got to remember. Okay. That people think making money in the markets is about making money. It's really not about freedom. And you've heard me say this a lot Ryan a lot of our students come in. And you ask them what they really want. They want more time. They want more time with their family to do the things. They love take vacations. Donate their times help others, and sadly because we seem to be in this hamster wheel world right now, especially here in the states where every moment, we gotta be doing something. We don't have the time anymore. This kind of sit back and enjoy life. And that's really I think the goal of most people is how can I get a life that I love every single day surrounded by people who love and support me and one of the ways you can do that by investing in yourself and getting the education competence to be able to do something doesn't require you to take a lot of time in dated -ccomplish. Yeah. And I mean, we both think some of these studies million times where it's like if you have one or the other would it be? More time or more money. I mean, it's a landslide victory people always say more time because usually they need to generate more money. So they can have more time if they could just get more time that'd be even better. But still be able to kind of make ends meet I guess and be able to reach those reach that specific lifestyle or have those those basic needs actually being met while still having that free time. But yeah, landslide across the board. It's all about what the money can do. It's not about the money. And so many times I've had the conversation with the new students. You know, what are you looking to do what you're where some of the goals? What are you focusing on the? Oh, yeah. I wanna make a little bit more money. But so then we talked a lot about the why we talk a lot about the why they won't. But why do you wanna do that? Because it goes back to, you know, having having a how sometimes well, that's how I have to do it. Well, that's that's that's maybe takes a little bit of time. Takes a little bit effort. Right. Take some commitment. Right. And so the why has to be bigger than the how the why the reason for doing something the motivating factor has to be bigger than more important to us than the work to get there. It's not about I q it's really about why q. Yeah. Absolutely. And it just ends up. We have to have that drive. And there's an interesting book the read a while. I wish I could give the author credit. I can't remember my head. But what got you here won't get you there. And there's so many great pieces of information that that talk about really continuing your Evelyn of as an individual, whether that's spiritual. Whether that's financial whether that's you know, we could go through all these different kind of points where it's always keeping the ball ball rolling. We'd go back to one of the oldest cliches sayings in the book the Rolling Stone gathers. No moss. Right. And so as long as you're keeping that momentum going, you're growing, your growing, your growing Marshall Goldsmith think tank, you just had a little little tweet in my ear of to give Marcia Smith credit for for the book. What got you here won't get you there. Right. Keep the momentum going keep your foot to the to the pedal and keep growing, you know, financially, spiritually, however, physically whatever it is that you're trying to accomplish you have to keep that momentum. Going all starts with number one learning how to do it right in the number to doing it. No me. Matter what it is. No matter what kind of part, we're talking about in their learn how to do it. And then go in apply. Right. Because knowledge is not power applied knowledge is power. But one of the things that we could do right now if you are up for it. We could do a quick little giveaway and help a few people get that that knowledge base started as far as the financial markets go with tickets to one of our half day classes. Let's get started. All right. Well, right now, I've got.
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on Leadership Biz CafÃ©
"And when I heard that you were collaborate with Marshall Goldsmith on this book. It was not only very eager to read it. But to have you on my show to talk about it as well. And while your book is written primarily for women. I have to say that it's still founded a very revealing read because I think it helps me understand where women are coming from which I'm not afraid to admit. I don't get sometimes to be quite honest. I don't think most men do which is why we continue to see debates over equal pay and representation despite various studies and attic to Odal stories. So I'm really looking. Forward to this discussion, which I honestly believe will benefit not only women, but men as well in getting a better understanding these habits that you write about in your book, of course, when it comes to the topic of the various challenges schools women face in the workplace speed equal pay sexual harassment or having the same access to offer to these promotions and Lucia positions as men do the tendency is naturally on what institutional societal or cultural norms might be behind his issues. But in your book, you do note that while this is a problem. There is also another aspect that women should address especially because unlike the common challenges, we often talk about women having to deal with in the workplace, this is a measure that is within every person's ability to affect change because the power to make that change for solely within them. Namely, it has to do with behaviors we develop over time that have clearly serve as well. But as we move forward at our career ultimately end up holding us back in what you call in your book stuck nece. So before we discuss some of those twelve habits in your book as wondering Sally, if you could set the stage in terms of women being stuck and why it's important to make this behavioral shift, certainly tambi. Aaron I all I want to start by saying I love what you said earlier about the book being how women rise up being useful for man because of certainly finding that since I been on the road almost constantly either doing promotional in spraying or or now speaking engagements off all along and what I'm finding is that this book has as much value for man in terms of being effective mentors..
"marshall goldsmith" Discussed on Conversations with Phil
"You just never know. What's going to happen? Right. Just try and so put the things out into the the pot world of possibility. You don't ask it will never happen. Right. So. Absolutely. Well, that's how I got Seth Godin and Tom Peters on the show. This year is awesome by. Crate. Thanks. Yeah. It was fun. And you know, and I knew their books were coming out and for me. Yes. I wanted them on my show for me. But I also wanted to help them with their books because it's an honor to be part of a successful book. It really is. And it's really fun. And it's great to get an early copy of a book and read it before most other people do and they have some questions about it. So it expanded my thinking and expand my world. And it's funny because I have people that are like, wow, you got to talk to Seth and Tom and frankly. Yeah, I mean, I'm wow to don't be fooled. But I I knew that over time. It was going to happen. This is not that, you know, if you ask enough people eventually you get what you want. And I asked Marshall Goldsmith this year Marshall said no. But he connect me with Sally HOGAN who was a coffee book. So which is great Sally was a phenomenal. Guess I love talking to her. You know? So absolutely that totally totally works that totally works. And it's it's not as hard as it sounds because the the worst that happens. I'll tell you. It's not even know it's just being smart, right? Which who cares like get over yourself because I've been plenty of times. That's no, yeah. Get used to it. I guess so which is cool. So one of the things though in the book, so that you talk about that. I really love is the whole idea of daily practice, which I think is it is the most powerful piece of the book, I've said that before when the book first came out, I know that I wrote that at least one hundred times the people that asked about the book, but talk about the daily practice, and how that is set up and then how that works out being. So beneficial shore daily practice. Deceptively simple, and it is very very simple. But what it does for you is actually pretty profound magical. But it's basically this you share what you're up to your goal your intention with two people. You take two actions, and they could be tiny actions. They could be really chapter in a book write a chapter or write a paragraph could be send two emails to get podcasts, etc. They could be smaller larger action so to actions make to requests. Right. And so here's the idea that when you share what you're up to with folks. People wanna be part of what's going on and talk about reverberation, the the number one way that you can make the reverberation starter occur is to communicate and connect with people about what you got going on. Right. And so now, I you know, you could do this person you can do this over the phone. You can do this virtually do an Email. But you wanna say, hey, this is what I'm interested in. This is a project going on. This is what I'm up to. And I you know, I love. To get your thoughts on XYZ right in or want to share with you. Because I know, you know, lots of people the area who should I be talking to. And so you wanna share what you're up to? And then you wanna take a little bit of action. And then you wanna make a couple of requests. And here's why it's both simple, but also magical is that every day, even if you do this just a little bit. And by the way, this doesn't take long at all the daily practices. Just a few minutes every day. But you keep reminding yourself about what you're up to..