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A highlight from 1242. Turning Your Pet Into A Social Media Influencer. Wise Words From An Expert.
"Celebrating the connection with our pets, this is Animal Radio, featuring your dream team, veterinarian, Dr. Debbie White and groomer, Joey Vellani. And here are your hosts, Hal Abrams and Judy Francis. If you're like Judy, you spend a lot of time online, social media, going through videos. You'll spend like an hour a day maybe just watching. I just get down a rabbit hole, you watch one and then another one pops up, oh, I got to see that. And it's like, oh, look at this one. And they're all animal or pet related. Is that mostly it? Yeah, I won't watch. I don't know if I'm not interested in the other ones. Yeah, sure. Sure. Yeah. So in your life, who would you say is the biggest social media influencer for you? What animal do you maybe even follow? You know what? I'm not a follower. In fact, no. And I like watching both cat and dog videos. So I don't really hone in on a certain animal and like follow that particular animal. I'm kind of like, I watch them all. Have you ever seen, I'm going to hold up a picture here. Have you ever seen this animal here? This is, this is Loki. I hadn't seen Loki. Again, I don't follow any certain animals if I happen to come across a video, but I don't, I don't, I, yeah. He's beautiful. Loki is, what kind of dog is Loki? He's like some kind of a Malamute wolf hybrid. Like a wolf. I'm not quite sure. He's a big dog. This particular picture that I'm holding up to the microphone is Loki and his guardian, Kelly. They're sitting in a hammock. You may have seen this picture. It's a picture that he just casually posted on his Instagram page. And then, uh, the people over at Bored Panda saw it, wanted to do an interview with him. Buzzfeed picked it up. Eventually he realized that his dog was becoming extremely popular online. And he decided after about a year after this picture went out to quit his job and focus on promoting his animal online to become a social media sensation. We're going to find out how he's doing on that and whether or not we should quit our jobs to become ladybugs. Yeah. Well, she has a Facebook page. It's not very popular. Maybe she needs to post more. Well, I just, you know, everybody go to her Facebook page and like her right now. So we're going to talk to this Kelly Lund coming up here. He's the guardian of Loki and we're going to find out what his secret is to becoming a viral sensation. Also on the show today. And in this hour, we're going to talk to Fiona Gilbert. Fiona, do you need to get that? I'm expecting a call from my pharmacist. Can we, can you just make sure? Cause I'm, I have to pick something up and I'm just waiting for them to call and say it's ready. So can you just check that? Thank you. Coming up this hour, Fiona Gilbert will be joining us. She has MS unfortunately, and she has a service dog to help her with her MS. What kind of dog is that there? It's a pit bull. It is a, it is a pit bull. Surprise, surprise. Well now how can that be? I mean a pit bull service dog? Is there such a thing as a pit bull service dog? Why not? Well, I guess not. Why not? I do know that Delta or American Airlines just banned service animals that happened to be pit bulls. I do know that in Denver it is illegal to have a pit bull. That's just wrong. That is wrong. I bet Fiona has a bone to pick with Delta Airlines. I'm guessing that. Or her dog does. Okay, we're going to find out about her service dog, her pit bull coming up here on Animal Radio. Lori, what are you working on for this hour? You were just a minute ago Hal talking about social media and Loki and everything. Well, I have for you a new list from Forbes. They did, I love this word influencers because I had never really heard of it before. I just thought, you're famous on social media. If you're famous on social media, you're an influencer. So Forbes had this edition where they had the top 10 people influencers, the top 10 chef influencers and on and on with everything. And they did a list on pets. So pets on social media. So I will tell you the most famous pets or influencers on social media. When Forbes is involved, there must be money involved. Of course. Okay. That list on the way. First year calls. Let's go to Wanda. Hi Wanda. Hi. How are you doing? Very good. I have the whole dream team here to answer your questions. What's going on with your pets? Okay. I have Dachshund miniature pincher mix. She's having skin problems. I switched vets like four times and they always said that it's yeast, airborne yeast. And they give her shots and she goes okay for two weeks. But then they give her prednisone. That makes her eat a lot. She still eating and she still have the yeast and she still have the smell. Okay. Yeah. I don't know what to do. So has she had any money in the beds? Okay. And have we used any medicine that specifically geared towards the yeast, either by a pill form or by a shampoo or a topical form? Well, they give me Mariset. Okay. And I have to bathe her every other day, but sometimes I can tell you the truth. I don't have time and it's cold and she gets very cold. I'll give her a bath every other day. Okay. And is that it or are they using any pills for that other than the prednisone? No. They give me Apoquel. Apoquel, she still eating and then the doctor say I will then give her Benadryl. Okay. So I'm going to kind of make some interpretations of what you've said and what I think may be the direction that your veterinarian is going here. So if your pet has yeast on the skin, the important thing to know about that is that yeast is generally not the primary problem. It's a secondary problem. So there's usually something else that's making that skin barrier unhealthy where the yeast can really grow and proliferate. So if they're using things like prednisone and Apoquel, it sounds like they're suspicious that she has an underlying allergy. So those medicines are geared towards the allergy. But the sad thing is if we use that and don't address infection and treat it with the medications for those conditions, we're really not going to get anywhere. So we're going to think that, you know, the medicine isn't working for allergies when we're really just not treating a bacterial infection or say a yeast infection that could be present. So what my consideration, and I'd ask you to talk to your veterinarian if this seems fair and like a direction that they would agree with, is that if we have yeast in the skin and it's chronic, especially if it creates some of the different symptoms I see with yeast, and I should mention those, yeast in the skin will often cause a really stinky foot odor. It smells like old man foot. I have to wash my bed and everything every day. Yeah. So it's a real strong smell. The dogs will often have kind of a greasy feel to them in those areas. And in some cases when it's present for chronic long -term periods of time, we'll actually get a thickening of the skin and it'll become kind of darkly pigmented and what almost I describe as elephantinized. So it kind of becomes like elephant skin. She had that in her tail, but then I gave her and gave and went away. Okay. So yeah, so that definitely, if those kinds of things are going on, then yeast is very suspicious. We usually confirm that by taking a sample from the skin and looking and you know, yeast show up pretty easy on an impression smear. So the thing I would ask you to talk to your veterinarian about is, can we use something systemic for her, for this yeast? And that might mean a couple different possible medicines, but they basically all fall under the category of an antifungal medicine, such as ketoconazole or itraconazole, or even one called terbenafene. Any of those are used with yeast infections, whether it be in the ears or say in the skin. So that would be something, and it does take a long period of time. We might get some improvement after maybe a week or two, but many times this is something that we have to treat for many weeks to months. So that would be something where, you know, I would definitely talk to them about that. The other thing is, you know, definitely the maliceb that you're using is certainly an appropriate one if we're suspicious of yeast, but there can be even some other things that we can use topically as well, as far as different types of mousses or sprays that we can use that contain either say chlorhexidine, which is a type of an antiseptic, or miconazole, which is an anti -yeast topical. So those can be things that we can add into the regimen. But I think the good thing in your situation is there is some things that I can suggest for you to try, and the big thing is sticking with it, because it really does take, I had just like a bald, kind of darkly skinned, very little hair. It only had hair on the tip of its tail and around its head, and it took four months of yeast therapy that we treated, and it finally got most of its hair back. It never did get all of it back, because it was so scarred, but it can really be very rewarding. You just kind of have to trek through it. So yeah, with her, she's black. When people see her and they tell me, why are you taking it? Because her top hair of her body is black, shiny, so pretty. It's just under the legs, on her stomach, at her four paws, and under the tail. You know, they don't have it, she doesn't have it anyplace else. And I bathe her, I bathe her, she's my baby. Yeah, well, and yeast is horribly itchy. Any human knows that. So it's a miserable thing. So definitely, and even some other kind of anti -itch remedies, you know, that we can use. I am using a lot of the canine atopic dermatitis immunoglobulin called CADI, and that helps a lot just to kind of stop the itch, to give pets relief while we're dealing with all the other things. Yes, I don't want to bite. I know that the steroids, they're going to hurt her a long time. And I say, what I'm giving to her is she's not going to be improving. That's why I hear you every morning. And I say on Sundays, and I say, I'm going to call because maybe I can go to the vet with some knowledge and say, hey, give me the yeast infection medication, take her away from the prednisone. Absolutely. And that makes it harder. The prednisone definitely makes it harder for her to fight these infections. So if we use it sparingly, just to kind of help relieve it, and then yeah, get her off that. I agree totally. So she needs to go to the vet and ask for something systematic. Is that right? Systemic. Systemic. A systemic and a yeast medicine. Yes, a yeast medicine. I will do that. Hopefully we can get her some good help and I wish you guys the best. Let us know how things turn out and hopefully we'll get her feeling and looking better and smelling better too. Thanks Wanda. Well, this portion of Animal Radio is underwritten by Fear Free Happy Homes. Don't forget you can get your fix of Animal Radio anytime you want with the Animal Radio app for iPhone and Android. Download it now. It's made possible by Fear Free Happy Homes. Helping your pets live their happiest, healthiest, fullest lives at home, at the vet, and everywhere in between. Visit them at fearfreehappyhomes .com. And thanks, Fear Free, for underwriting Animal Radio.
A highlight from 1241. What Does It Mean When Your Favorite Drinking Buddy Is The Cat?
"Celebrating the connection with our pets. This is Animal Radio featuring your dream team veterinarian Dr. Debbie White and groomer Joey Vellani and here are your hosts Hal Abrams and Judy Francis. I'm going to go ahead and set the scene right now. Dr. Debbie is chowing down or drinking a drink I guess it's kombucha is that what you call that? Kombucha, yeah! It's a fabulous fermented drink that's got a little bit of vinegar it. to Any alcohol in it? Technically there's a warning on there yeah so but it's not like you drink it to get you know lit it's just it's just a natural process of the fermentation releases alcohols. Can I just say it looks absolutely disgusting. It is there's a sludge at the bottom and so you have to stir it but that's where the good stuff's at. You want that. Are there any redeeming factors of kombucha for animals? Can animals drink kombucha? You know because of the alcohol in there I've never heard of it actually being safe for for dogs but you know if we could develop one for dogs that would be appropriate. I guess the first thing would be would they like it because most kombuchas are kind of citrusy flavored or they have like you know different kind of additives to them that may not be appealing on the canine palette so we might have to find ways to make that a doggy attractant. I don't know. So there's no beef or chicken kombucha? Heck no. I wouldn't drink that. Is it good? Do you drink it because it's good for you? Yeah it's got a lot of live bacterial cultures that are good for your digestive tract. So it's actually in my opinion is better than yogurt because you can't get this amount of active cultures from just eating yogurt without the calories. This is awesome stuff. It's like 50 to 60 calories for a bottle. What about probiotics for pets because there's lots of those out there. That's true yeah and I think that there's a lot of probiotics out there. We just don't really know what cultures are necessarily the best cultures for dogs or cats or people even. I think they're still really looking at that and saying plus there's the problem of getting the probiotic in through the digestive tract and not have it digested. So there's got to be this kind of gets past the stomach and can actually do its work in the digestive tract so not all probiotics are the same. So where do you get this? Do you make it or do you buy it? Some people make it and I just buy it at the health food store, the grocery store. You could buy it everywhere now but it's definitely good for the gut and you know part of your immune system. So it's good for everything. I'm thinking about six years ago when you first came on to animal radio you used to come in with a diet Pepsi one. Yeah I've kind of evolved I'd say. Things have changed. You know who we're going to have on the show today is a lady who makes cocktails for animals for dogs and cats. Okay. I know this it sounds a little strange to me. Alcoholic? Well it's a pet winery and I don't think there's any alcohol involved. No there's no alcohol in it. I have a Fetch Me Noir and it looks like a bottle of wine. It really does. I have a Meow Sling and that Meow Sling looks like one of those little shots that you'd get on the airplane. And I also have a purgandy, a Fetch Me Grigio, a dog teeny, a cat teeny. A dog teeny and a cat teeny. Yeah about everything. I don't understand. So you can include your pets if you're having a party and do it in a safe way. Exactly. So for the holidays you're coming up you can pour a little martini gliese with a little bit of the puppy liquor in there and it'd be a safe alternative. They even have a bark brew if you know if your dog likes prefers beer instead. This is Barktober right? There you go. We're going to talk to this lady who's invented this stuff is that correct? She's coming up in just a few minutes right here on Animal Radio. What are you working on over there in the newsroom Lori? Got a very interesting story. How you you could think you have food poisoning but it's really your puppy that's making you sick. Okay it's your turn to reach out to Dr. Debbie right now in this portion of Animal Radio brought to you by Fear Free Happy Homes. Helping your pets live their happiest, healthiest, fullest lives at home, at the vet, everywhere in between. Visit them at fearfreehappyhomes .com and thanks Fear Free for underwriting Animal Radio. Hey Ted how you doing? Hey fine how are you? Good where are you calling from today? I'm calling from Los Angeles. The LA area listening on coast. How can we help you? The whole team is here for you. Oh thank you so much. I've got the problem with my dog. I've got a pit bull that was left me uh that was somebody my dog was going to sell and she hasn't sold and I've had the dog for years now and I can't get him to stop digging the backyard up. Everything is a nightmare. Okay.
A highlight from 1240. A Therapy Duck? Can Kissing Your Pet Make You Fat?
"Celebrating the connection with our pets this is Animal Radio featuring your dream team veterinarian Dr. Debbie White and groomer Joey Vellani and here are your hosts Hal Abrams and Judy Francis. Well this is the show where we celebrate the animals that we love that are family and for most of us they may be dogs, cats, fish, birds, horses but for one lady it's a duck. She has a pet duck. Why not? And she's going to be joining us on the show today to tell us what it's like to have a pet duck in just a few minutes right here on Animal Radio. Let's see oh it is also week four of our new pet product special featuring the latest goodies and gadgets for you and your pets and we'll have giveaways today of today's item. Lori what are you working on over there in the newsroom? There's some interesting new research out that there's nothing definitive yet but there are hints and they are studying it if it's possible that by you kissing your pet you could make that pet heavier.
A highlight from Emotional Health: Dr. Barry Krakow on Advocating for Better Sleep and Tips for Finding Quality Care
"Hi, podcast listeners. Welcome to the A World of Difference podcast. We have so many guests on this show making a difference in our lives, making a difference all around the world with the expertise that they bring. And yet so many of you are reaching out to me saying, You want more? It's not enough. Just what we're putting on these podcast episodes for you. And so I am here to extend a very warm welcome to you to our Difference Maker community where you can join for as little as $5 a month to get all this extra content out the gate. You're gonna get 30 plus minisodes of exclusive content not available for the regular podcast listeners and an exclusive minisode every month. And you'll get exclusive voting power to help us pick podcast topics and more. And that's at our Changers tier. There's three different main tiers and then an extra larger tier. But whatever tier that you join at, you will be included in this extra content. And I know that many of you are wanting to go a little bit deeper. And so even though it gets a little wild in there sometimes because of how deep we go, I want you to join us there. This extra content is very special. It means a great deal to me to be a part of this community with you. And I would love to just exchange ideas or perspectives that you have around these different episodes. And that's the place where we do it. So please show up to our Difference Maker community. Give us $5 out of your pocket every month. And I think that you'll have a lot of fun in there because we do. And I would love for you to join us. So go to patreon .com slash a world of difference to join us Welcome there. to the A World of Difference podcast. I'm Lori Adams Brown. And this is a podcast for those who are different and want to make a difference.
A highlight from 1235. The Chicken Chick Is Back! Who Gets Custody Of The Dog?
"Celebrating the connection with our pets. This is Animal Radio, featuring your dream team, veterinarian Dr. Debbie White and groomer Joey Vellani. And here are your hosts, Hal Abrams and Judy Francis. Miss Lori Brooks working hard in the newsroom. What do you have coming up this hour? Well, you know how you look into somebody's eyes and we have humans, round pupils, right? Well, they've done some research and animals have either a vertical or a horizontal pupil and each one in the various kinds of animals means something different, so we're going to tell you about that. Oh, wow. I never thought about that. That's cool. That's interesting. That's really cool. Yeah. Like dogs and snakes and iguanas. A rhinoceros. Am I on the right track here? What are you working on today, Joey? You know what? I'm excited. I'm working on brushes and don't excite many people, but it excites me. The groomer of me just comes out, so we're going to talk about brushes. Brushes do excite you. I know that you're always bringing in the latest and greatest brushes. I thought a brush is a brush is a brush, but apparently there's different types of brushes and today you're going to tell us all about that. Brushes are a great arm workout too. They are a good workout for your arms, the big muscles, plus you bond with your animals. You know that. They love that when you brush them. That's the best present you can give them. Take this brush and brush my hair. It's the gift that keeps on giving. In just a couple of minutes, we're going to talk to the chicken chick. Is that correct? The chicken chick. Chicken chick.
A highlight from Emotional Health: Sarah Stankorb on Disobedient Women, Silent Suffering & Uncovering the Unique Harm of Abuse within Religious Contexts
"Hi, podcast listeners. Welcome to the A World of Difference podcast. We have so many guests on this show making a difference in our lives, making a difference all around the world with the expertise that they bring. And yet so many of you are reaching out to me saying, you want more? It's not enough. Just what we're putting on these podcast episodes for you. And so I am here to extend a very warm welcome to you to our Difference Maker community where you can join for as little as $5 a month to get all this extra content out the gate. You're going to get 30 plus minisodes of exclusive content not available for the regular podcast listeners and an exclusive minisode every month. And you'll get exclusive voting power to help us pick podcast topics and more. And that's at our Changers tier. There's three different main tiers and then an extra larger tier. But whatever tier that you join at, you will be included in this extra content. And I know that many of you are wanting to go a little bit deeper. And so even though it gets a little wild in there sometimes because of how deep we go, I want you to join us there. This extra content is very special. It means a great deal to me to be a part of this community with you. And I would love to just exchange ideas or perspectives that you have around these different episodes. And that's the place where we do it. So please show up to our Difference Maker community. Give us $5 out of your pocket every month. And I think that you'll have a lot of fun in there because we do. And I would love for you to join us. So go to patreon .com slash difference podcast. I'm Lori Adams Brown. And this is a podcast for those who are different and want to make a difference.
A highlight from Emotional Health: Amy Fritz on Toxic Work Environments & How Betrayal Blindness Keeps Employees Trapped
"Hi, podcast listeners. Welcome to the A World of Difference podcast. We have so many guests on this show making a difference in our lives, making a difference all around the world with the expertise that they bring. And yet so many of you are reaching out to me saying, You want more? It's not enough. Just what we're putting on these podcast episodes for you. And so I am here to extend a very warm welcome to you to our Difference Maker community where you can join for as little as $5 a month to get all this extra content out the gate. You're gonna get 30 plus minisodes of exclusive content not available for the regular podcast listeners and an exclusive minisode every month. And you'll get exclusive voting power to help us pick podcast topics and more. And that's at our Changers tier. There's three different main tiers and then an extra larger tier. But whatever tier that you join at, you will be included in this extra content. And I know that many of you are wanting to go a little bit deeper. And so even though it gets a little wild in there sometimes because of how deep we go, I want you to join us there. This extra content is very special. It means a great deal to me to be a part of this community with you. And I would love to just exchange ideas or perspectives that you have around these different episodes. And that's the place where we do it. So please show up to our Difference Maker community. Give us $5 out of your pocket every month. And I think that you'll have a lot of fun in there because we do. And I would love for you to join us. So go to patreon .com slash a world of difference to join us there. Welcome to the A World of Difference podcast. I'm Lori Adams Brown. And this is a podcast for those who are different and want to make a difference.
A highlight from Emotional Health: Dr. Scot McKnight and Laura Barringer on Pivot, Power, Character, Culture & Unlocking the Secrets to Creating Healthy Institutions
"Hi, podcast listeners. Welcome to the A World of Difference podcast. We have so many guests on this show making a difference in our lives, making a difference all around the world with the expertise that they bring. And yet so many of you are reaching out to me saying, You want more? It's not enough. Just what we're putting on these podcast episodes for you. And so I am here to extend a very warm welcome to you to our Difference Maker community where you can join for as little as $5 a month to get all this extra content out the gate. You're going to get 30 plus minisodes of exclusive content not available for the regular podcast listeners and an exclusive minisode every month. And you'll get exclusive voting power to help us pick podcast topics and more. And that's at our Changers tier. There's three different main tiers and then an extra larger tier. But whatever tier that you join at, you will be included in this extra content. And I know that many of you are wanting to go a little bit deeper. And so even though it gets a little wild in there sometimes because of how deep we go, I want you to join us there. This extra content is very special. It means a great deal to me to be a part of this community with you. And I would love to just exchange ideas or perspectives that you have around these different episodes. And that's the place where we do it. So please show up to our Difference Maker community. Give us $5 out of your pocket every month. And I think that you'll have a lot of fun in there because we do. And I would love for you to join us. So go to patreon .com slash welcome to the A World of Difference podcast. I'm Lori Adams Brown. And this is a podcast for those who are different and want to make a difference.
A highlight from Emotional Health: Jocelyn Chong on Mastering Self-Care and Unlocking Your Leadership Potential
"Hi, podcast listeners. Welcome to the A World of Difference podcast. We have so many guests on this show making a difference in our lives, making a difference all around the world with the expertise that they bring. And yet so many of you are reaching out to me saying, you want more? It's not enough. Just what we're putting on these podcast episodes for you. And so I am here to extend a very warm welcome to you to our Difference Maker community where you can join for as little as $5 a month to get all this extra content out the gate. You're going to get 30 plus minisodes of exclusive content not available for the regular podcast listeners and an exclusive minisode every month. And you'll get exclusive voting power to help us pick podcast topics and more. And that's at our Changers tier. There's three different main tiers and then an extra larger tier. But whatever tier that you join at, you will be included in this extra content. And I know that many of you are wanting to go a little bit deeper. And so even though it gets a little wild in there sometimes because of how deep we go, I want you to join us there. This extra content is very special. It means a great deal to me to be a part of this community with you. And I would love to just exchange ideas or perspectives that you have around these different episodes. And that's the place where we do it. So please show up to our Difference Maker community. Give us $5 out of your pocket every month. And I think that you'll have a lot of fun in there because we do. And I would love for you to join us. So go to patreon .com slash welcome to the A World of Difference podcast. I'm Lori Adams Brown. And this is a podcast for those who are different and want to make a difference.
A highlight from Emotional Health: Dr. Tim Fortescue on Discovering Inner Compassion and the IFS Approach to Spiritual Growth
"Hi, podcast listeners. Welcome to the A World of Difference podcast. We have so many guests on this show making a difference in our lives, making a difference all around the world with the expertise that they bring. And yet so many of you are reaching out to me saying, you want more? It's not enough. Just what we're putting on these podcast episodes for you. And so I am here to extend a very warm welcome to you to our Difference Maker community where you can join for as little as $5 a month to get all this extra content out the gate. You're going to get 30 plus minisodes of exclusive content not available for the regular podcast listeners and an exclusive minisode every month. And you'll get exclusive voting power to help us pick podcast topics and more. And that's at our Changers tier. There's three different main tiers and then an extra larger tier. But whatever tier that you join at, you will be included in this extra content. And I know that many of you are wanting to go a little bit deeper. And so even though it gets a little wild in there sometimes because of how deep we go, I want you to join us there. This extra content is very special. It means a great deal to me to be a part of this community with you. And I would love to just exchange ideas or perspectives that you have around these different episodes. And that's the place where we do it. So please show up to our Difference Maker community. Give us $5 out of your pocket every month. And I think that you'll have a lot of fun in there because we do. And I would love for you to join us. So go to patreon .com slash welcome to the A World of Difference podcast. I'm Lori Adams Brown, and this is a podcast for those who are different and want to make a difference.
A highlight from Emotional Health: Becky Castle Miller on Understanding Oppression's Impact on Emotional Health
"Hi, podcast listeners. Welcome to the A World of Difference podcast. We have so many guests on this show making a difference in our lives, making a difference all around the world with the expertise that they bring. And yet so many of you are reaching out to me saying, you want more? It's not enough. Just what we're putting on these podcast episodes for you. And so I am here to extend a very warm welcome to you to our Difference Maker community where you can join for as little as $5 a month to get all this extra content out the gate. You're going to get 30 plus minisodes of exclusive content not available for the regular podcast listeners and an exclusive minisode every month. And you'll get exclusive voting power to help us pick podcast topics and more. And that's at our Changers tier. There's three different main tiers and then an extra larger tier. But whatever tier that you join at, you will be included in this extra content. And I know that many of you are wanting to go a little bit deeper. And so even though it gets a little wild in there sometimes because of how deep we go, I want you to join us there. This extra content is very special. It means a great deal to me to be a part of this community with you. And I would love to just exchange ideas or perspectives that you have around these different episodes. And that's the place where we do it. So please show up to our Difference Maker community. Give us $5 out of your pocket every month. And I think that you'll have a lot of fun in there because we do. And I would love for you to join us. So go to patreon .com slash welcome to the A World of Difference podcast. I'm Lori Adams Brown, and this is a podcast for those who are different and want to make a difference. Today starts our brand new series where we are starting to talk about emotional health and happiness. And our guest today is Becky Castle Miller. Becky is a PhD student at Wheaton College studying New Testament with Esau McCauley. And her dissertation research is about emotions in the scriptures, specifically the Gospel of Luke. She writes and speaks on emotional, mental, and spiritual health in the church. She graduated from Northern Seminary where she studied with Dr. Scott McKnight, who is a friend of the show and has been on for a couple of times. And I know many of you have read his books. She actually also has written a book with Dr. Scott McKnight, a discipleship workbook, and it's called Following King Jesus. And she is also working on another project with him. She and her husband and their five kids and cat returned to the U .S. in 2020 after living in the Netherlands for eight years where she served as discipleship director at an international church. Today we're going to dig into some issues around emotional health in the church and specifically I'm going to be asking her about her perspective on what has gone on in recent days in the Southern Baptist Convention here in the United States. There are a lot of people around the world that have been watching this, both who are in the Christian community and outside of it. We've seen a lot of things on the news lately around women pastors. There's been a lot of, I would say, very emotionally unhealthy situations that people are trying to process in the aftermath of that. So we're going to ask her perspective on that and many other things around her research and how we can learn to move forward in a more emotionally healthy way in all of our spaces, whether it's our faith spaces, just regular neighborhood community spaces, government spaces, business, education, wherever we work and live and play and find our spiritual community. Becky has something to say to us around how to welcome the emotions that we have and what her research is showing her around how we can do that better together. So I am so excited to welcome for our first guest in this new series, Becky Castle Miller. Hello, Becky, and a very, very warm welcome to you to the A World of Difference podcast today. I'm so excited to be here, Laurie. Me too. I'm glad we're finally getting to meet. Yeah. There's so much we have in common, some mutual friends and just international experience and being women in the evangelical or post evangelical church. There's just a lot of crossover in our circles. And so I'm very excited about the things we're going to talk about today and hopeful that they can help us both be emotionally healthy, spiritually healthy about these conversations, but also find some calls to action where we can come together and really make a difference. But just right out the gate, a lot of people listening to this podcast are reeling from some of the things that we all watched, either. I mean, just even on regular news channels here in the United States and even globally, things being covered around the Southern Baptist Convention this week and a lot of nuance there for many of us. But I think for women to see that women pastors were used sort of as this sort of pawn, I guess, in a lot of ways to distract from abuse of women and men, but also to have what appears to be not an emotionally or psychologically or even physically safe place for women as they kind of took this backseat to a fight by these domineering men in our news feeds. And so I would just love for, first of all, to give you the opportunity to say, how do you feel as you have been watching this yourself? And do you have any things that, as you express how you feel, would be important for us to understand about how to kind of move forward? Yeah. Well, I think Beth Allison Barr had some really good commentary. So I would point people to her substack. She is formerly Southern Baptist, and so she's a little bit more connected to that world personally than I am. I've never been in a Southern Baptist church. I've been in many, many diverse churches and some kind of non -denominational, loosely Baptist, but never Southern Baptist. So it feels a little removed from me directly. So people like Beth Allison Barr are great to speak into that. One of my biggest concerns is Rick Warren's posturing of himself as this late convert to supporting women, but not really supporting vulnerable women. He put out a statement before the convention that he's changed his mind on women pastors, but I think he's still withholding eldership from women. And yet at the same time, he appointed a successor at Saddleback who has some pretty serious allegations of abusive leadership from his former church. And that has not been satisfactorily addressed. So there's a disconnect there between what Rick Warren says he wants to be as a champion for women, and yet he seems to be turning a blind eye or intentionally maybe even covering up abuse. So that's one concern I have about the stories coming out of the convention. I am glad that Barber won the presidency because he's a marginally better candidate than the other guy. But Barber has really been a lot of talk and not a ton of decisive action against abuse, and he is still against women in embracing their full ministry gifts. So it's like some small victories, but yet also it's been a platform for women to be demeaned publicly, like just to hear so many negative and critical things said about women in ministry. So I understand why a lot of women are leaving Southern Baptist churches, and I think that's actually a really healthy decision for those who make that choice. Yes, amen to that sister. Yeah, you know, having walked through abuse at the hands of Andy Wood, that is Rick Warren's successor, and at Saddleback, and, you know, being not the original whistleblower because there were two before me in the news last summer, but, you know, also knowing because I don't have an NDA, right, and my husband doesn't either, we refuse our NDA tied to severance and medical insurance. And so that's, you know, why I can speak, but I just personally know so many stories, and I know the stories that we told to the faux investigation at Saddleback last summer, and I say faux because a hiring agency is not a third -party investigation that just happens in a couple of days, you know, that needs months, it needs grace ministries, it needs a Wade Mullen, or it needs somebody with an expertise in, you know, something like an evangelical church with abuse allegations that are credible, and, you know, and their image management around that, you know, that's definitely something that's a specialty. And so when you're not willing to do the substantial work, I think that what I saw at Saddleback was, unfortunately, oddly consistent with what I've seen in Southern Baptist as a whole. I was a Southern Baptist for 45 years, right? I was a missionary kid all my life, and I married a missionary kid who was a Southern Baptist, too, and went to Southern Baptist University, went to Southern Baptist Seminary, worked as an IMB would at his previous church, Echo Church, before Saddleback, and walking through that, you know, multiple different types of abuse, you know, emotional abuse, physical, psychological, not physical, sorry, that does exist in the stories, but not mine. But I think that understanding emotional abuse, psychological abuse, spiritual abuse is a conversation to have in the church, but also in our society at large, and I think it's an opportunity for us to lead the way. And I think that it was not shocking that Saddleback was kicked out. I think that what is sad is that they were kicked out for women pastors and not for abuse, and therefore, Rick Warren and Andy Wood, you know, Andy being my abuser and Rick Warren being the one that covered up my abuse, and that of many others, are seen now as heroes and martyrs for the cause of women. And, you know, that was sort of disturbing to watch, even though I'm not a part of the Southern Baptist anymore. So I also, I love the work Beth Allison Barr is doing. I think many of us calling from the outside for women to be free, and also warning them about the places to go and silent complicity in bystanders and watching abuse happen to women over the years might be tempted to believe a Rick Warren or an Andy Wood if they start some new denomination or whatever happens in the wake of all this and whatever the point of all this was, to just be warned that there are some faux egalitarian spaces out there, and that's the conversation that's really going to be helpful, I think, going forward. I'd love for you to tell us more, though, about your research around emotions. We don't often talk about that, and I think what you're doing is really fascinating. You're doing research in the emotions of the Gospel of Luke. What led you to this particular era of study, and how is it relevant even to the conversation we're having right now? Yeah, I feel like I have dual interests in abuse and trauma and healing from those things and emotional health, and they're often viewed as two separate issues, but they overlap really significantly. They interweave with each other. Of course, they are different academic fields. You can do a dissertation in abuse. You can do a dissertation in trauma. You can do a dissertation in emotions, which is what I'm doing, but I'm hoping to bring those conversations together a little bit in my dissertation. I just finished my first year at Wheaton College in a PhD in New Testament, which is fantastic, and I really appreciate Wheaton supporting me in doing a multidisciplinary dissertation. So it is a New Testament project, but I'm leaning really heavily on some neuroscientific and psychological models of emotion, which is one thing that's been lacking in biblical studies is really the latest scientific research on emotion, so I'm excited to get to do that work. So I'm going to be taking some trauma and neuroscience classes in the counseling school and in the neuroscience department to supplement my New Testament work, and then I'm also hoping to bring in the impact of trauma and abuse on emotions. We'll see. It's only one dissertation, but I think those are really important aspects. When we look at emotion in the Gospels, we're looking at the emotions of an oppressed and traumatized people who are drawing on the history of oppressed and traumatized peoples over hundreds and thousands of years. So the emotions that Jesus' disciples learned from their culture are drawing from a culture of oppression, repeated you know, the slavery in Egypt and the Exodus, the Babylonian captivity, and release from that, and then in their current day, the occupation by the Romans. So I think we have to consider what impact trauma might be having on the emotions that they're constructing. When I did an analysis this past year on the emotions mentioned in the Gospel of Luke, I found 158 instances of emotion, and it depends how you categorize them, but so many of those instances were talking about fear. Jesus and angels are saying over and over again, don't be afraid. Don't be afraid. Well, why do they need to say don't be afraid? Perhaps it's because they're talking to people dealing with hypervigilance who are constantly feeling afraid in their bodies because they live in dangerous circumstances. So I think fear is a big component of gospel emotions. Jesus also talks about worry or anxiousness, and he talks about terror. So it's just a lot going on with fear -based emotions in the Gospel of Luke, and I think that the trauma of the people he's serving might have something to do with that. So that's one angle that I'm hoping to take, and we'll see where the rest of it goes. I think your work is so fascinating and so needed. I mean, you and I both spent time overseas, and so we understand in different cultures people express their emotions very differently. I was just in Abu Dhabi and Dubai earlier this year in March, and it's not the first time I've been to anywhere in North Africa in the Middle East, but we largely know that the way emotions are expressed in Middle Eastern culture versus white evangelical North American culture or even the Dutch, like very different expressions, right? And so we read sometimes things from the lens of maybe sitting in, I don't know, Wheaton, Illinois, right, with a bunch of white people around us reading it in a particular English translation, and we read things like sackcloth and ashes. Well, that's weird, you know, or with these like imprecatory Psalms that are just so full of like, wow, like, can we pray those things? Like, that's a lot. It's just, you know, we have books, you know, like Pete Scazzero's Emotionally Healthy Discipleship. We have all these things that are just, there's things that are happening right now, and the call to more lament, you know, the call to look back in our history and ask God to forgive us for our sins, not individually, but as a people. How have we been complicit? How are we currently complicit in abuse in the SBC, in racism, in what is, you know, started under racism because of, you know, enslaved peoples on forced labor camps, and how have those decisions, the root of that, produced the fruit of lording over and dominating people for the purpose of white male supremacy or patriarchy and things that are not helping any of us. So when we dig into emotional health as individuals, we have to look at it collectively too, and I think that our Western individualistic culture really makes it hard. We're very, we have a lot of blind spots if we only stay there. So the global church has really taught me so much about this. I'm so excited that you're studying under Esau McCauley. It's such a great opportunity for you. As you look into some of this area of emotional, mental, and spiritual health in the church, what are some common challenges that you find or misconceptions that you've come across, and maybe how could churches better address these issues? There's a lot of misunderstanding of emotion in just typical church conversation, and there's also a lack of knowledge of trauma, and those intersect again as well.
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She's going to be talking to us today as a trauma -informed developmental psychologist, a TEDx speaker, a coach, and a No. 1 international bestselling author. Carol brings the SASS self -aware success strategies to help you get along better in the adult playgrounds where you play. I know many of us are concerned about some of the situations and systems in workplaces and faith -based spaces where people who have been survivors of abuse or even potentially, you know, grown up in homes or faith -based spaces where abuse was happening and maybe even covered up really may not have had the tools to address those issues in our adult lives and in the workplace. And it can cause all kinds of situations that are as small as just a regular conflict or as large as actually experiencing abuse oneself in one's work environment or especially in the faith -based spaces. As many of you know, I experienced abuse in a workplace environment, which was a faith -based space, a megachurch. 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But as we talk about this, and some of this might, you know, be triggering, so trigger warning to any of you who this conversation is too much right now, just feel free to stop the podcast now or take it in chunks, because we will be dealing with, you know, the topic of how to be aware in your own self and your own body around issues of abuse that might be taking place toward you or around you that you're observing as a bystander. And so, yeah, listener discretion advised from this point forward about this interview. And so hopefully this conversation today will help us all be a little more self -aware about some strategies we can use to help ourselves flourish and help all human beings flourish. So a very warm welcome today to Dr. L. Carol Scott. Hello, Dr. Scott, thank you so much for joining us today. I am so thrilled to be here, Lori. Thank you for having me. Well, we love talking to people that do all kinds of amazing things and write things and make differences around the world and bring their differences to the table. So it's wonderful to have you and get to know you a little bit better today and the work that you've done. So for those who haven't met you before or you're new to them, why don't you give us a little bit about your own background and how you became interested in this field of work that you do? Okay, I'd love to do that. I call myself a trauma -informed developmental psychologist. And what that means is that I understand how children grow up from birth to adulthood, human development overall, but particularly I specialize in the birth to seven age range. And about how that period of our lives in particular makes us who we are as adults interacting with other adults, our relationships with each other as adults, and the unique ways in which we express our difference in the world is something that is created in those first seven years of our lives. It's a significant period of time, isn't it? And number one puts a lot of responsibility on parents and villages that are raising children together. But it also is important for us to know as adults that things that may have happened in our childhood can still be impacting us as adults, well, you know, to midlife and beyond. And there's a lot for people to unpack there, right? So, um, you might say not just can be influencing, but absolutely are. Yeah, absolutely are. No, yes. Yeah. Well, this is exciting as a topic to talk about today, because I know there are many people, especially during the COVID pandemic, I talked with therapists all the time that are professional therapists working in our community here where I live in Silicon Valley and actually was speaking to someone earlier today, and she said, if you came out of that whole COVID period of time, especially a year and a half of online school, and you aren't talking to a therapist, maybe you should because we've all collectively as a planet dealt with something really difficult. And so but your website really mentions that you specialize in resilience and change. So can you explain what that means and and sort of why that's important? Yes, sure, absolutely. So we, as young children, really have the opportunity to try out natural instincts for social and emotional connection with other people. And depending on what kind of response we get from the adults who are our caregivers and our educators, we may come into our adulthood with a great deal of interpersonal capacity for really healthy relationships that are fun and joyful and enriching and don't drive us nuts. And if we get other kinds of responses or if we have if we participate in a cultural trauma, which I think the quarantine times of the pandemic were, those can shape us as well. So absolutely kids, kids who went through that period, young kids who went through that period, have a very big bunch of baggage probably to unpack, depending on the health of their grown ups. So, you know, what I really want people to know, though, is no matter how hard it got. So in the world of adverse childhood experiences, if you have seen the list of the 10 really adverse things that impact children's development in a negative way, so much so that they create physical health conditions, heart problems, cancer, diseases like diabetes in your childhood, you can still have resilience and overcome that and have an adult life that is rich. And that's really my key messages. You're not stuck with what you grew up with. There is recovery. There is change. Such a good message. Yeah, you can't control what happened to you, but you can give yourself the gift of doing that deep work and, you know, working toward flourishing for yourself and for those that you get to interact with. And it's brave work. It's courageous work. And it takes people to walk alongside us. So what are some of the common challenges, though, that you feel like people might face when they're trying to make these changes in their lives? And how do you help them overcome those? Goodwin, and this this isn't a universal in terms of childhood across cultures, and I just want to be clear about that, that different different cultures, different countries in the world have different values about children, different beliefs about children's competence, different resources to support children and young families. And so it isn't always the same. But I work primarily with families in the U .S. where what I see a lot of is we blow toddlerhood pretty badly. We're not good with toddlers. We're not good with people who are independent and want to tell us all about what they think, what they want and how they're feeling. And we tend to give them messages. We indulge that their emotions are overwhelming. What they want is wrong and they don't they're not understandable. They can't be understood. And that is a very frustrating set of messages for someone whose whole goal every moment of its waking day is to communicate. This is who I am. This is what I'm about. Look at me, see me for who I am. And we're just like, I'm sorry, what? And so that place of not having growing up to be an adult who is not self -confident and relaxed how about I'm feeling and the fact that it may be different from how you're feeling, what I want and being OK with asking for it, even if I get told no. Or God forbid I get told yes. And what it is that I'm thinking, what my opinions are, what I understand the world to be, my stories about life and myself and you. And if I can't be comfortable and feel safe expressing that that's who I am uniquely me, I'm a single point on the map, one datum, you know, then I can't hardly let you be that either. And that is the fundamental place where a lot of relationships go awry is that I don't really know who I am. I don't really know how to express all of myself in an authentic way. And so I can't believe that you're also that you're authentic because you're in the same stick that I'm in probably. And so we from the beginning don't feel seen and don't feel like we can communicate ourselves. Yeah, it's good. I'm sure in the work that you do, you get to see people transform and overcome all kinds of things. And so do you have any story that's really, you know, been meaningful to you about somebody's successful, you know, overcoming of obstacles in their own lives? And I'd be curious to know, were there any key factors that related to how they overcame with your help? I, what is called to mind immediately is a woman I know who really heard that message of who you were when you were 15 months old and first were out walking around and taking in the world and expressing yourself as you. That person really was told that she wasn't OK. That person came away with the message that it's not OK to be who I am. And I and and she came to a place of saying, I will do that, I will be myself. And if it means that I have to separate myself from some people that I've been close to for a long time in my life, then I'm going to do that until I can be myself with them, until I can speak in my voice. And so she basically just sort of covered up the page in her address book that had all of her family members on it and just did not interact with them for a while. Until she felt that she could go there and say, this is who I am. And it wouldn't matter how they reacted to it. That was the most amazing transformation I've seen. And it was a difficult one. And here's the resilience news story. She was able to reconnect with those family members and build really positive relationships with them before a couple of them died, before her parents were gone. And so she is back in relationship with those people. But she couldn't do it as long as she wasn't being anybody. In particular, yeah, that's whatever she thought would please them. And so it's such hard work and such difficult choices, but that's the work with a capital T and a capital W, isn't it? Yes, and it's worth it, you know, we're social beings. Yeah, it's absolutely so worth it. We do need support and it's hard to find when you're making a whole different change. You know, I think about people I've known who've been in a cult, for example, and then when they don't toe the line or they leave, they get shunned and they lose people. But they have to do that deep, hard work of saying, what is it about me? You know, how was I gaslit? And like, you know, it's hard to come out of it when you don't have the support while you're doing the work. And that can be really hard. Do you have any tips for people who are having to, for example, cut off family members who are maybe abusive in various ways, physically or sexually or, you know, all kinds of abuse that could happen in a family or coming out of a cult and, you know, making those changes while you need people? Have you had to walk through that with anyone else or anything similar? And if so, what advice would you give them on how to find new relationships that support them? I think that's such a wonderful perspective to take on this, because sometimes that that walk gets really hard. I think that I've moved through places in my life like that where what I had to do was simply walk away from connections that had proven to be, if not in a classic sense, toxic, then hurtful to me and unsupportive of my well -being, my joy, my productivity in life. And I actually I was involved in a spiritual community for a while where the charismatic leader, I wouldn't have called it a cult, but it had a charismatic leader for sure. And she and I really replicated some dynamics of my birth family, some of the trauma dynamics of my birth family, some of the painful interactions. And so I had to get to the point where I could see it. It was a healing for me to get to the point where I could see, oh, I see what this is. I've done this before. I've done this dance before and this is here to teach me. This is like a new lens on something I'm familiar with. And so it took a friend. I think it's so helpful to build relationships with the people who see you and who can be compassionately honoring of your humanity when you're completely falling apart. Those kind of connections are so vital when facing something difficult. And it was a good friend who just was a mirror for me and said, you can walk away from this. You're you're a grown up now. You're not the child who can't leave. You can you can go take care of yourself and you're strong enough to do that. And so I did. And that's not the only experience that I have with people becoming connected to someone who is amazing, a charismatic person who is amazing. It's easy to do and it's easiest to do if we don't know who we are. If I don't have a strong sense of myself as someone who has her own ideas and her thoughts and her opinions, feelings and emotions that are unique to me and a set of things that I'm looking for in the world, things that I want that make me what I feel, what I think and what I want makes me a unique package. Ain't nobody else like that. And if everybody knew that with safety and with comfort and could relax into that, we would be a whole different kind of world. I believe we would. And yeah, I mean, we're sort of always talking about here on this podcast is our differences are beautiful and wonderful. And if we were all the same, how boring. You know, it's springtime here where I live in Silicon Valley and I love seeing all the diversity of just flowers in my neighborhood. And you can see one rose on a rose bush and it's slightly unique from every other rose on the same rose bush with the same color. And that beautiful diversity in the creation around us, it, you know, brings on wonder to my brain and my body and in humanity as well. And and it's hard. You know, I have three teenagers and the teenagers can be particularly challenging in human development where especially like eighth grade, you know, I have two 15 year old twins. They were 14 last year. And eighth grade in particular feels like this time where you just want to belong. You want to be like everybody else. Like you want to be unique, but you don't at the same time. And so, yeah, I think when you get in environments like especially a spiritually abusive one or a toxic one in that way, that can really do a lot of damage to us. It could take a while to get out because you might have some good feelings in that group while at the same time you don't feel free to be yourself. And so thank God you had a friend that helped you know that it's OK to walk away and find a healthy space. Thank you for sharing that very vulnerably. And you know, here's the thing with we if if in my community of choice for spiritual nurture, however, I define that I go to a Bible church or I go to a temple or I go to a center for spiritual living or, you know, someplace that seems obscure to mainstream Christians, it doesn't really matter as long as I am accepted and loved there as a unique individual, a unique incarnation of spirit, a unique manifestation of God's creativity, however kind of language you put to it. I am a pinpoint of creation. I am one data point of creation and I am as changing and as different as the roses on the bushes and the, you know, the cycles and the seasons of this planet. We're all in a creative process that is about change and movement. And so here we are. We're doing it. We are and it's beautiful and it's it's something to celebrate. And the more we let the rose bushes be themselves and not try to make them tulips or carnations, the more they get to be who they are. Right. And that's just that's really nice. But you've written quite a bit. You've written something called the resilient mindset. Give us a little bit of overview of what you're talking about. Is that right? The resilient mindset. Is that the name of one of your books? No, it is an article. Maybe. Are you just talking about possibly maybe that's what it is. Yes. But you talk about resilience. Right. How can people have more of a resilient mindset when it seems like it's just one hit after another? It's COVID. It's family issues. It's your grades in school. You know, your best friend broke up with you as a friend or I mean, like, how do you stay resilient when it just feels like there's a tsunami wave after wave after wave hitting you? It feels to me like the two keys are it sounds almost I'm trying to say it, but gratitude is one of them. And the other is to recognize that in addition to having adverse experiences in our life, we have positive ones. And it's easiest to talk about our adverse experiences. We get a lot of attention. That's another dynamic that's not necessarily healthy in relationships that we give each other attention for complaining about the hard stuff, complaining about how difficult everything is, complaining about the things that have gone, quote, wrong. And we also have moments of utter bliss and joy and great things happen. And somebody passes you, a stranger passes you in the mall and says, my God, your hair looks great. I mean, you just you have the positive experiences, too. We just don't tend to perseverate on them. We don't talk them to death like we do all the things that are a problem right now. I am in oh, gosh, I think I'm about nine weeks now into healing a broken femur. That's right. Yeah. Which is like a big bone for anybody to break. But for an old lady in my my stage of life is like, that's a really big deal to break my femur. And I thought, you know, I still think I'm thirty five in my mind. So I thought I got this. You know, I'm going back to my full time RV lifestyle. I'm going to be driving. I'm going to be rolling out the hose and the power cord and doing all the things. I'm nuts. I'm absolutely nuts. And I can sit here and complain about all the pain and all the ways hard and the fact that I probably threw myself back into this too quickly. Or I can tell you about all the marvelous things that have happened because and through the pain and the disruption to my life and my plans about how things should go have been left by the roadside like a hundred times over the past nine weeks. And that's OK, because there's still great stuff happening. There's still positive experiences for me to blend with the adverse ones. And that's resilience right there. So good. It is true that our brains can hold the hard and the good all at once. I think there's circles in life or people in life that forces to choose to only live in one. But the reality is life happens. And acts of God happen that are out of our control. There's and there's mistakes we make and we mess up our own lives like we do things, too. And so but just to jump over it and not sit in the pain for a little bit to learn the lesson doesn't it doesn't heal our femur, but it also doesn't heal our minds and souls. I have a metaphor. I'm studying in my religious, spiritual tradition and philosophy, which is religious science or the Centers for Spiritual Living. I'm studying about, you know, if if the divine, whatever we think of as the unifying principle, the God stuff of the universe, if that is omnipresent, everywhere present, then everything that happens is God is being created in the moment as a divine thing. And so I've developed this metaphor for myself that my life is like being a really clever, hardworking little beetle who's tending two square meters of bark on the side of a big tree in an endless, infinite forest. And I beetle around my little two square meters of bark all day long, very happily, making it the best little square bark any beetle could tend and making good things happen for the tree because of my little big bark. And sometimes there's giant storms that pound me with rain and knock me off my little square and the winds blow and leaves fly by and I get hit. And I think it's a bad thing. I think it's terrible. But what I don't understand is the forest needs the rain.
Doomsday plot: Idaho jury convicts woman in murders of 2 children, romantic rival
"And Idaho jury is convicted a woman of killing two children and rheumatic rival. I Norman hall. Idaho mother Lori vallo de bell has been convicted of the murders of her two youngest children and romantic rival. The verdict follows a three year investigation that included bizarre claims that her son and daughter were zombies and she was a goddess sent to usher and the biblical apocalypse. Prosecutors described valada bell as a power hungry manipulator who would kill her two youngest children for money while the defense team said she was normally a protected mother who fell under the dramatic sway of a wannabe cult leader valada bell's 5th husband Chad daybell faces the same charges, but his trial is still months away. I Norman hall
$630M Due Next Week: Is DCG at Default Risk?
"Today's best is ram alu walia, CEO and founder of luma wealth. Welcome rom. Thanks for having me, Lori. Good to see you again. On April 25th, DCG announced via a statement on Twitter that a subset of genesis capital creditors have walked away two months after what they call a comprehensive settlement was submitted to the bankruptcy court. I spoke to a genesis creditor who is in this group and they said they felt that this was mischaracterized that the two sides didn't have an agreement, but just a framework for what a deal could be. This person also said that this framework had been made with limited financial information and that the group revised the terms based on new information and analysis. Either way, genesis requested a mediator to help resolve the issue. Meanwhile, DCG owes genesis $630 million next week. So what do all these recent developments mean for genesis and DCG? Well, it's an unfortunate mess. So at the outset of the petition, the council presenting BCG and genesis as well as the creditors informed the judge they expect a speedy resolution because they've been working at this. And this is a step back. There was a term sheet that was published that outlined the key terms of the deal. It was a framework for the deal. As you mentioned, the ad hoc clitoral group has pulled back or walked away from that. As you said, due to new information, there's a lot tongue packing what information the Lawrence as well as still what significant information is outstanding.
AOC Calls on Congress to Regulate Fox News
"For our favorite socialist to be making waves again. Must crush capital only some AOC. I mean, she's cuter than Bernie. You got to admit, right? AOC, Bernie. Come on, guys. Come on. Bernie might actually be a lot smarter though. She's got some rather really wacky ideas and remember how she didn't want Amazon to come to her district, even though it would have offered all these jobs and improved the economy, et cetera. Par for the course with her. She says a lot of other idiotic things, but this might actually take the cake. Clearly, the woman has no understanding of our constitution, no understanding of our First Amendment because she's got a brilliant new idea to regulate conservative media. You see it was conservative media in her estimation that brought on January 6th and thus is potentially in jeopardy of overthrowing the country. That doesn't make sense. AOC specifically wants to regulate and none other than Fox News. Specifically, Fox News, because Fox News is the one in AOC's estimation. The incites violence. In fact, she said Tucker Carlson and some of the other folks on Fox. They do. And it's a very, very clear incitement of violence. Oh, okay. Really? Forget what we hear on the other side. Forget what we're hear from MSNBC. Forget what we've seen in the streets. I mean, I just go back to some of the horrific video that we've seen, even from just as recently as last weekend, the teen takeover, in Chicago, where lawmakers lawmakers in this case were completely dismissing it. Remember, Lori life would say, no, this isn't mayhem. Do you remember also the mayor elect saying no, this is actually not looting because it's the corporations that are looting the kids. It goes on and on. And I realize AOC and the rest of the Democrats want to have their own way and they want their own view, protected, and out there front and center, but this is still a free country, after all. We
Attorneys outline complex plot in trial of slain kids' mom
"The trial of a mother accused in the triple murder of her two youngest children in Idaho as well as the killing of her new husband's previous wife continues after Monday's opening arguments. Opening statements began with prosecutor Lindsey Blake telling jurors that Lori vallo de bell used money, sex and power to get what she wanted and wouldn't let anything stand in her way, including her two young children. Blake says one was killed for money, the other because they were in the way of life with her new husband. Jurors were also shown pictures of bodies Blake also brought up claims of unusual doomsday focused religious beliefs involving dark spirits and zombies. The defense told jurors that America you can have different belief systems reminded them that debell is presumed innocent and said the charges show prosecutors don't know what really happened. I'm Julie Walker
Guilty or not? Jury to hear claims in Idaho slain kids' case
"Testimony is set to begin this week in the trial of an Idaho woman who, along with her husband, is charged with a triple murder. Prosecutors accuse Lori vallo de bell and her husband Chad daybell of the 2019 killings of Lori's two youngest children and tad daybell's late wife, Tammy dabell, prosecutors say 7 year old Joshua vallow and his sister tylee Ryan, who was last seen days before her 17th birthday, were found buried in Chad day bell's yard, was first believed to have died of natural causes, but investigators grew suspicious and had her body exhumed, prosecutors believed the three were killed so that Chad de bell and his current wife could collect life insurance money and the children's social security and survivor benefits Chad daybell's trial is still months away. I'm Donna water
"lori" Discussed on Mike Gallagher Podcast
"Apparently chicagoans were fed up. That's an incredible story. I didn't really, I wasn't too excited about Chicago. I thought, nah. The Chicago voters won't get it right. She got clobbered. And I'm reading here that moments ago, the Democrat Chicago mayor blamed racism and her gender for her landslide defeat. A reporter asked if she had been treated unfairly and I thought, by whom the media, you think the media treated Lori Lightfoot unfairly, but the reporter teeter up for the perfect answer, I'm a black woman in America, of course. I'm a black woman, let's not forget. Shirt and folks, frankly, don't support us in leadership roles. That's an embarrassment. That's an absolute embarrassment. And to see that crime skyrocketed on her watch, everybody knows it. When you're woke, that doesn't work with law enforcement or policing. Or the judicial system, being woke doesn't work, the bad guys, what woke. They want no cash bail. They want to get away with crimes and not be incarcerated. They want to be able to torch police cars and shock cops in the mouth and not be held accountable.
"lori" Discussed on Nonprofits Are Messy: Lessons in Leadership | Fundraising | Board Development | Communications
"There's all kinds of strategies for nurturing a prospect along the way. And some of it can just involve you don't have to be in person to build a relationship with somebody. No, and it's interesting, you know, the pandemic has actually provided yet another way to connect. I think that we're going to be in the zoom thing forever at some level because it's so convenient. So correct. Well, I think sitting across the table from somebody or sitting in somebody's office or whatever is wonderful. A lot of times it's just not possible, but I've gotten on many Zoom calls where I would never have been able to get into that person's office. And it's really, really nice. There's like a level of intimacy that is different and you're very present, but the other thing I want to say in terms of, I agree about the email, I think, text with donors used obviously, you have to kind of know the person you have to be careful about that. Totally. You want to know how they want to communicate. It doesn't matter how I want to communicate. It's about how they want to communicate. But what I find been, I would say younger people and not just younger, is that people become fearful of just picking up the phone and calling. And my boss and I are both firm believers that you just pick up the phone and call sometimes. And if they can't answer, they can't answer, then follow up with a email say, try to reach you, blah, blah, blah. But you know, sometimes it's nice because it shows a level of personal care. Yes, I think I totally agree with that. I think that's actually truest bosses in their staff as well, actually. So we talk about what it takes to be good at it. Let's actually talk about what not being good at it looks like, or screwing it up. And I want to talk about this part. The reason I want to talk about this is sort of to give everybody permission to sort of make mistakes and fail forward. Because this is not a, this is not a science as an art. And I opened by talking about telling really telling a perspective donor he should give to the organization. I would never make that mistake again. It was so awful. And so I just wonder, I shared natural your turn, Lori. Tell me, tell me a mistake. Or you can categorize the kinds of mistakes. If you have too long a list, we could make it into a partner also, Lori. So I think I'm going to categorize into two groups. One is sloppy mistakes, of which I've made plenty.
"lori" Discussed on Discovered Wordsmiths
"I wouldn't be sitting here doing this video with you if it wasn't for days. Right. And that's why I reached out today because I've worked with him and he's helped me a bit. And I said, hey, you know, by the way, I do this podcast. So if anybody in the group would like to be on the podcast, let me know. And you know, and that's how it starts. That's how you get to know these people. Right. But you have to go places where you can run into people like go to the writers groups, go to the library events when they have book fairs or, you know, like I said, the south you could library, green road, you know, before this crazy COVID hit, they had like writers conferences and, you know, and you just have to go places where you can meet people that are in the publishing world. Those are all benefits that you miss out if you don't go find a good group in the area. Right, but I don't, you know, I think with COVID, though, I'm not quite sure when those startup groups again, you know. I know some of them started back up with zoom. I am actually part of a mastermind that we don't meet because everyone's across the country, but we meet via Zoom, even before COVID. So I think that makes it nicer because I know Dave, when they moved, they started they kept the Zoom meeting. So even if I couldn't attend live, I could probably get enough time to jump on part of the meeting for zoom. So I think that's a benefit that authors should take advantage of. You know, take it on these calls. You know, like you said, I'm not familiar too much with all the modern technology, but like coming to the life room speaking now, they were able to put the video on and do this because I had no clue how to, you know. And one of the benefits we've got I know you're in a Cleveland library, but cuyahoga county has a very award winning library system. And the over in south Parma are now whatever the scribble writing center no, that's where I'm at now. Oh, you're at scurvy. Oh, okay. No, I'm at the right now, I'm at the green road south Euclid, kaia haga county. Okay. Public library. Okay, that's not where the scribble writing center is. Is it? I think that's I think it could. I always forget. I think you're right. I think it is. Okay. So but that's something we've got that a lot of places don't, because that writing center is phenomenal. They have meetings and they have webinars or seminars they have author events. They have a whole section of books and materials to check out for writers. Plus, you can just go and take your laptop and write and they have a writer in residence and any writer in the area that does not take advantage of that is doing a disservice to themselves. Well, that's why I said, you have to connect yourself with other writers. Right. And, you know, 'cause you know, you may just meet somebody that, you know, can really help you. All right, so Lori, it's been really great, talk, but before we go, you have any last minute advice. You've already given a lot of good advice and new authors. Any last minute advice you would tell authors? Last minute advice would be check out my book schizophrenia guide to surviving and thriving. Feel free to leave a review. There you go. Hopefully, hopefully it's helpful. Hopefully you'll like it. You know, and I guess that's it. All right, great. Lori, thanks for taking some time and I know you went out of your way to make sure you can get the room and all that. So I appreciate it. You know, talk to people. I don't get as many nonfiction authors, especially for.
"lori" Discussed on Discovered Wordsmiths
"Wordsmiths, welcome to fall. I can't believe summer's over. Hopefully all your writers out there got all your writing goals done in all your readers, got all your reading goals done because, hey, we're into the end of the year now. We've got Halloween Thanksgiving and Christmas and then new year's all coming up. Bam, before you know it. I know that's how the summer kind of went from me. Bam. So today we've got a special episode. Earlier in the podcast run, I had someone on ran who talked about mental health. And dealing with mental health and had written a book. This time I've got another author who has been dealing with schizophrenia. And she has written a book about it to help others and her life struggle and what she's learned from it. So it's a hard subject in a lot of times people don't want to deal with it and talk about it, but that's what we can do with our writing. We can bring these subjects to light, we can bring them out and help others learn and become more comfortable about it because if you're more comfortable about it, you can talk about it. So Lori has a lot to say about her book and schizophrenia in general. We have a good discussion about it. So before I ramble on for too long, here's Laurie. Laurie, welcome to discover wordsmith podcast. How are you doing today? Okay, how are you? Good. And just of note to everyone that's watching the video, you're at the local library. They offer rooms and you can rent to get video meetings and do these types of things. So I'm a big proponent of pushing the library. So it's good to see some things that the libraries do that people may not know about. So they have meeting rooms and all sorts of great things. Right. Lori, tell us a little bit about yourself. Who you are, where you're from, and what you like to do outside of writing. I am from I was born in Warren's fellow Ohio I lived east and.
"lori" Discussed on POSITIVELY JOY
"Hi lori. Thank you so much for being with us today. how are you. i'm great. It's such a pleasure to be here. Well i'm so happy that you agreed to be on the show because you have an interest in two areas that i also have an interest in and that's crime and in faith so so this is really perfect for for the podcast and i know you know that i have journalism background. I don't know that you know that police reporter once upon a time i did not know that. Oh i bet you've got stories earlier early in my career before. I started moving into editing and managing. But i love your podcast. I love the fact that you that you take book prime books and really get to the meat of it for the podcast. I have so many questions for you but before we start. Let's talk a little bit about you. Tell tell us a little bit about yourself. Well actually a licensed private investigator which is nothing that was ever on my radar if you had asked me growing up what i wanted to be but god's funny like that. He puts circumstances in our life to get us where he wants us so true so true. Yes i had. I had been a paralegal for years and my girls were growing up and leaving the house. And i thought you know i've got some time on my hands. I wonder if some of my my legal skills. I could maybe volunteer and be helpful somewhere so i contacted a local. Pi and she probably thought i was crazy. That actually agreed to to meet with me. And so i started doing just volunteering for her and she said you know you could do this. I thought why not and so you know guys that surprised you though. Did that surprise you. It did because like. I said it really was not on my radar but i saw how much satisfaction and joy she got out of helping people and on. Oh i want that too. Yeah yeah that makes sense. So here i am and she actually has a podcast that she very specifically to drive leads to cases that she's working on and so i wanted to do something a little different. Because then she encouraged me. Well you could do a podcast. Why can i can do a true crime book review. That would be fun and very interesting to me anyway. And so i was working on it and developing it and a very wise friend said you know. There's there's so much noise out there. There's so many people in the space you got to figure out what it is about you. That would be a different perspective. And she said. I think for you that your your faith and then it really just all came together there from there. Well well she was completely right. You're right this is a very busy space and it's and sometimes it's hard to get the attention of people. But i think the unlovely truth and by the way i love the title no thank Is it will do just that. So my as i said i have a lot of questions..
"lori" Discussed on Women and Crime
"Her at the time she said that and i think there was a feeling of but then she blamed that mindset on her growing up in a bubble that she didn't understand why it was wrong and how people could be so upset about the situation least. She's being honest. I don't know. I mean i guess that's honest you know She what else could she do at this point. I don't think there's anything you can do except throw yourself on. The mercy of the court at this point until then lori was released but was removed from many shows movies and will likely have repercussions for a very long time to come but some might argue that she didn't have much of a criminal justice sentence. So perhaps that is the justice. In this case we're gonna talk about that in a minute. And i'm not sure i actually have some mixed feelings. Gianola is now under his term of supervised. Release as well but now. Let's talk about why this happened. The causes and whether or not we think the criminal justice system got it right. Let's kick out and criminological theory here. I'm gonna pose this question to you. Why did this happen. How do we explain it. But i bet i already know your answer. White privilege No criminal harry what i've got two theories neutralization theory that one of your no but that is so good can you explain big neutralization. Theory explains white collar crime nicely. No it explains it so just because it's when people give excuses and justifications for their behavior so it's almost like livia didn't think it was wrong because in her world. It's a justification denial of wrongdoing denial of injury right. Yeah it's an olive responsibility. These excuses that allow otherwise people who are good in air quotes to commit bad behaviors while neutralizing their guilt. Wow that's good that one meghan okay. Fine you want me to give you mine. Let's save get out to you again. Yes give me yours. That's the only one i kept thinking of..
"lori" Discussed on Women and Crime
"And i think you're right what people don't realize it's also a win and that's how prosecutors unfortunately are measured in terms of success convictions. You also can't ignore the fact that plea bargaining is also very beneficial for the guilty defendant in most cases. I know you don't agree i no. I don't agree necessarily. I think that people are coerced into the other. Course up charged. Or i think that people who are poor and to are maybe innocent or somewhat innocent of committed lesser crimes. Just have no options like everything else. It benefits certain people and who does it up. And if people that are marginalized communities game. With right yeah. I definitely have mixed feelings on that one lori was facing two months in prison and a fine of one hundred and fifty thousand dollars while gianola was facing five months in prison. Nfl of two hundred and fifty thousand dollars. In august of twenty twenty. A federal judge accepted the sentencing deal for laughlin for genially agreeing to the terms of two months for laurie and five for newly. Laurie began serving her sentence on october. Thirtieth twenty twenty at the federal correctional institution in dublin california. Her husband reported to the federal correctional complex in lompoc california on november nineteen twenty twenty to serve the five month sentence. But what about the ringleader. Rick singer he pled guilty to his crimes but has remained free on bail for two years. What with no sentencing date in sight and during which time he has cooperated fully with the fbi to help catch the other. He's turning deals. Left and right often ryan. He recorded all these. A lot of people were caught because of his recordings he fully reported to protect himself. Or why was he was recording. This phone calls that he was making deals with parents once he was caught by the fbi. Our your once. He was caught. He was an informant for them. Correct i thought you meant prior to that. He was recording all his phone calls. Nope he started recording them as part of his cooperation with the fbi and now he remains free while laurie was released from prison on december. Twenty eighth two thousand twenty. After serving her two months she must also serve. Two years of supervised release now supervise released to so everyone knows is the federal version of parole because the federal system no longer has parole supervised releases the same thing. She has to perform one hundred hours of community service. Pay that fine of one hundred and fifty thousand dollars and her husband was ordered to serve two years of supervised release performed two hundred fifty hours of community service and pay that two hundred fifty thousand dollar fine gene newly reported for his five month sentence in november having spent the first eight weeks in solitary confinement due to the spread of corona virus imprisons gianola lawyers tried to get him released early on these grounds because solitary for eight. Weeks is a very long time though. He had a fair argument about solitary. And this is one. I address in my policy classes. I mean eight weeks. This was also unprecedent times where prisons were trying to figure out how to handle corona virus and the spread. But did you know that there's been a real movement to limit solitary confinement. Now you probably know that new jersey actually a couple of years ago pass legislation. That said you can't you solitary for more than twenty days but the un. I'm not sure if you know this. Amy says that fifteen days is tantamount to torture. And i would agree that it's even less. There had been some really famous lawsuits revealed that prisoners at certain institutions. Most famously pelican bay in california were held in solitary for years The psychological effects the deleterious consequences the ptsd everything. We know now indicates that solitary has tremendous consequences on long-term mental health. The scandal was a surprise especially from laurie laughlin..
"lori" Discussed on We Saw the Devil
"The next thing they kind of moved into was the general belief system. Nate asks tell me like. Where were you at in this belief system. And melanie goes. Show i listened. Did i ever believe at one hundred percent no entire like she kind of. She's very vague about it. And my favorite part was she said something along the lines of i. I was a zealot. But i was never overzealous which is is funny because like being zealot is still a bad thing melanie. That's not. that's not right. I was driving drunk. But i you know i could still blow a breathalyzer fine. Like that doesn't change anything for you like. You're still not supposed to do that. What it melanie sound like. When she was talking about all of this was sherry did she make it sound like she was a full believer. What was that like. So i'm going to play the clip. Really really quick. This is in relation to charles so as everyone knows. Laurie threatened charles directly told him about. He's now ned snyder. All of that. Melania's exact quote is in relation to charles freaking out right about lorries craziness Melanie says quote. She seemed jesus. I'm really believing that she really saw these things you know and then i'm just gullible as gullible gets she stuck with me like velcro. She was such a good friend to me. You know what i mean. She was close to me. End quote now. That sounds like she. She bought the bullshit right like she was believing that her fan actually saw these things. Yup i mean for her to say and again just backing up for her to say that she believed that lori saw jesus blah blah blah. That means that she actually believed that. Laurie was on the same plane. As jesus right because in mormon religion like in our belief system we believe in order to see a heavenly being. You have to be transfigured in a way to handle that. And so that means she believed that lori really was a god the way that she described herself exactly. So yeah no i would say we just called him a little bit of bullshit. They're just like a streak in the undies though like not full full dump of shed. The next thing that got into was colt. Lots of coal talk. Melanie comes out of the gate. We were not a cold but then like later on. She kind of alludes to i. It's not really a cold but we did get together a lot and when we did get together we only talked about religion and we didn't necessarily have formal leaders but we did depend on a hierarchy of chad telling. Laurie laurie telling us. And i guess just kind of like okay. So it's kinda cold then so what sort cult talk..
"lori" Discussed on We Saw the Devil
"Help us out build this with us and let's make a tool. That actually is easy to use for everyone. Yeah it's going to be a living and breathing tool It is a work in progress. Currently brittany has slaved away and has a really really really great start on it and there's a lot more to add so please feel free to engage with us submit different incidents and pieces of documents or the story and it's she didn't amazing job as she said and thanks. Yeah because you can literally filter by anything if you want to say okay when melanie welden in idaho when does she go to utah. When does she go to idaho. When did she and lori together go to to utah you'll be able to use the filters and sort by chronological order either newest events or actually oldest events and both and both ways so is going to be an invaluable tool to stay up to date on the case and see things as they happen. Because i don't know about you but this document dump this week. It's been really confusing and something that brittany and i have discussed as drops from one source of one. News agency won't have dates or names or any context whatsoever and then the next day another new source will actually put it in place at the names the dates and whatnot. It's all been very very very confusing and also trying to keep a straight time line of events as they happened has been really difficult so we hope that a great community wide tool to keep people in the know and be a really easy pop down view of this case right so another thing. That's really helpful with this is there is a search tool where you can actually type in keywords so your wealth.
"lori" Discussed on Work in Progress with Sophia Bush
"What therapy sessions sounds like. And at the end of the session we give them concrete advice that they have one week to try out and they come back and you hear it all in in one episode and we hear what happened after the session and i think that so satisfying because you can learn so much from simply hearing what worked. What didn't And you see people making significant shifts. Maybe they've been stuck for years and they say oh. My gosh i was on the podcast and one session. I did all of these things and it really changed things for me. That was going to be my question. Is how having clients in your office on a regular basis at regular intervals differs between what you do in the advice column or on the podcast so that that makes so much sense. How does that work if someone writes a letter to the column what can they expect right so so in our offices. I think it's a lot about what. I like to call timing and dosage so when somebody is coming in with something what is the timing of when you're going to help them to see something. What are they ready to hear. Because if you come in too early and they have this big wall up because they feel so much shame around it. You're not going to really make any change for them. You're not going to help them see something because they're so again they feel so much shame around. They're not ready to look at it and the other thing is dosage. So what is the right time. But then how much in that session are you going to push them. Because you've gotta push but then how much before it becomes counter-productive so we're always thinking about that. In in the room in a clinical session on the podcast. So there's a column where i responded in writing to people and then there is an and what i really do is help them to see something as i would in the therapy room. I really kinda put it all out there. Here is what. I think you aren't seeing and here. You're blind spots. And here's what i want you to look at but the beauty of the podcast is that it takes it a step further. Which is that we get to see. What those conversations actually sounds like so it's a back and forth. it's an i thou and do it with another therapist guy win. Choose a also a fellow. Ted tucker and also fellow author and what's greatest they get to therapists for the price of one basically which is which is that. If he's pushing i can kind of hold space and the person or i'm pushing. He can do that. So you have these two people working together And i think it makes us move faster because you have both of us so we can move really fast in those sessions. And then you have that piece of you know very satisfying. I think when we go back to story What happened was the end of the story. And i think that then people can say. Oh i can use that advice in my own life. Even if i don't have that exact situation going on that was really helpful. And i can use that in different.
"lori" Discussed on We Saw the Devil
"But as britney said. that's completely unconfirmed. Okay okay interesting. Chess shoutouts were both. Tom and alex. Tammy's ted and he grabs his do kids like they were. You know awful thing and and they're all crying together then we get. The delivery of this whole thing is just so it's hidden you so quick. Now it's kinda like up. My daughter used to do this. Like she would have this story that would right when she was like an elementary school and then she goes in the end and this this feels right now because they're like oh crap we've got thirty minutes to put all of this in their go and that's how it feels like it's hitting you first of all it's okay tammy's dead you know. He's there with the kids. Always sudden alex's showing ripping up a box and presenting them the rings to laurie on one knee. And then laurie and chattering. And you know. They're having their fun in all that sexy thing i throw it out there to. They did anything. Google chad's kids named more than two kids. Tom or alex right. They got that so wrong again. I have thoughts on that but Hud you'll feel about that six three times a day so that that wasn't real quotes right in real life lori did mention to me that she was excited to marry chad. Finally be able to have sex three times a day now as the i dunno. Iris have you ever been mormon before like even like even if you just got drunk once in college tried it or other things. I did like that thing. And you're not so close to have sex until you've been married and so that quote came up because lori was excited to mary chats if she could have sex even if you are married once you're not supposed to have sex so if you've been divorced like you if you get married as a mormon in the temple and then you get divorced. You're supposed to go back to being like no sex. Not nothing at all at all. Nothing abstinence okay entirely and so obviously that's not the case they weren't being abstinent anyways and this moody lifetime is putting together. They insinuated sex happened the very first time at the hotel because they spent the night talking there an elevator so it just really out of context all of a sudden it seems lifetime started shooting the movie and started doing the research later on that. Yeah totally agree with this. I mean this whole movie shows at the what probably happened was real life lori valor. In real life..
"lori" Discussed on We Saw the Devil
"All they see is like some. I'm not saying that. Make fun anything whatsoever. I'm just saying like they didn't give context. It's a lifetime just makes. Jj look like this really crumby kid. They don't establish it right away. So you just have highly coming to step in to calm down as quickly as counting to ten and apparently that set laurie off like she can barely handle a an actual ten second jr tantrum. She cannot handle it but what she can handle. She can handle reading child's book and literally using her ever loving shit because then flash forward to like you or forwards to them at home and laurie sitting on their bed in the bedroom and charles's brushing his teeth. Port innocent charles. Just like trying to get ready to go to bed. And laurie's re losing her shit. She's like oh my god and the destruction and times and and we need to get ready. Can you please tell me we're gonna get ready in charleston. Wt off fuck down. I loved it because if you actually look at how. She's holding the book to the majority of the painters are on the left hand side of the screen meaning lorries rent four pages of this book. And she's shitting herself. Yes the casting of charles and he was just doing his best. They'd be the supportive husband lecture. Honey honey it's yeah sure we can. It's cool yeah. And then he makes me want to barf. Because whatever reason the sound editor on this decides to amp up the kissing sounds on lori shoulders as charles like trying to calm her down. I actually get to the first time. I don't know what that means. I need to do some self reflection or something like the early handle. I barely handled a sound of it guys. We were not even five minutes into this film at this time and i. This is actually when i stopped the first time because not only do. We have really nasty. Asmar which. I can't handle on a good day. So the sound editing on. This is just atrocious and editing. The very thing that i noticed is the actual cinematography and editing. The way that they actually cut between scenes there are up until the end in the first five minutes of this film. Luscious use the yard sales. An example lori. Standing there looking at a box and then the camera cuts to like a tree for like four seconds. There's not even anything in the frame..
"lori" Discussed on The Get Foxy Show
"You know it happens. All match has to all align so that the nutshell. Somebody wants to work with you. How can they find out how to get in touch with you nor do they go onto. My website has all night programs on there. It's after louis. Monaco dot com. Dr and then it's my name l. o. r. i. m. n. dot com. I'm also on of facebook at dr lori monaco. I have youtube channel. I have a. i'm on instagram. At align yourself ankle though. I might actually switch it back to dr lori monaco and twitter and lengthened so they could find me they just look dr lori monaco and find me i also have shows that i also do. I'm a co host of so they can. There's ways that they can connect and get green coaching and empowerment. But then there's also the programs that they can jump onto and all they have to do they set up for free thirty minute consultation or watch the information video and then if that if they want to sign up let's say for the health program they can sign right up and I do you think inside up any time. i do. Wednesday night's and saturday mornings coaching sessions. And they do their six week end. But i'm very accessible. So he even just googling my name you find. y'all fantastic. Well this being the get fox you show. I would be amiss if i did. Not ask you this question. And that's what does foxy and being foxy mean to you. Dr lori won't take long drawn out explanation on this. Although i can because i so it depends on our definition right so foxy especially with females usually means sexy and beautiful and but being foxy can also be just cutting you know and i. I like both definitions. You know. i'd like to be cutting you have to be eligible. And you have to really be insightful. And you have to really think things through quickly and be able to you know just figure things out right away so i love that definition but i am not gonna take away from looking good and sexy because i haven't looked this good since i was in my twenties. I even look this due to my thirties. So i will take the musical pizza foxy as well. So they both terms for me..
"lori" Discussed on Everyonecast
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"lori" Discussed on Everyonecast
"Will you came to just the right person ear. Jam crypto is my jam. Yeah you have these. Non fungible tokens for ownership of digital art. Now i actually don't quite understand why people are paying so much for these but maybe it's along the lines of people paying for act short pieces in real life people with too much money to throw around buying this expensive art. You know just to like hold their money somewhere. Maybe it's similar to that. Oh yeah you do art on clothing as well. That's new so. I started getting interested in gender inclusive apparel so just started to design some captains in wraps based on old ritual robes in different religious coulter where and some printing my artwork on fabric and selling them into these garments in the series isn't complete yet but the artwork that i'm printing on those robes don't are not the fantasy series their older work. It's more based off the fairy tales. Talking about like a like something. A priest would wear a robe but today you can wear it in style in all different ways that you can wear it over. Swimming suits kuwait as address could wear it as coat. So those are the kinds of things that have just started working on There's a nonprofit here in tempe. Arizona called fabric in they help. Fashion designers get started so while i don't have a fashion design background. I definitely have an of creativity with their hope to to get something. Small started so smack in the middle of that and then currently on the website you also have some regular t shirts with with him. So that's that's something to note and that series is just gonna start being represented by a new store in mesa called. Nash vintage collective. That just opened this weekend. They're going to be selling those purchaseable online too. So that's nice. What is the plan for the future. Is this something you're gonna continue doing. Are you going to continue making new series selling your art making a living that way. Do you have any plans of expanding down the road. Do you have completely other plans. You know the world changed a lot. The sheer with covid and a lot of galleries had to be closed in museums. Had to be closed in limited and so a whole new world opened up with virtual exhibitions and marketing for artists. Online has really exploded this past year. Similarly turning my attention to those kinds of platforms now and how i can just get my work to a bigger audience. Find the people that want. Wanna follow this kind of stuff. Yeah i have lots of ideas for new series in the future. I never short on the idea part. I'm short on the production time and be able to execute all the ideas. So that's my near goal is to work on the sapiro line. Get it out there for sale and get more active.
"lori" Discussed on Everyonecast
"Were i collage to other transgender figures. Figures in transition in their sexuality or different kinds of people. That would wear the shirt so it's collages of people wearing my own works on. T shirts makes sense. You mentioned a website. Is there one. I can check out real quick right. Now yep laurie. Melman dot com l. o. r. i. b. m. a. n. yep so that morphed into the next Larger series began thinking of how we were closed in. How many different. Men and women's clothes differ in all the way back to the religious references. How centuries ago men and priests in religious robes and garments were worn in not seen as feminine in y today they're feminine in how these garments restrict their movement or even our aspirations. So i'm now putting jesus on the runway wearing these different kinds of clothes for the series is called jesus on the run. So it's jesus. His disciples buddha and barbie as the fashion icons along with him. And i don't think that's series is on the website yet. That's all still just in progress among the website right now i see on the website. There are a bunch of pictures. And there's a caption under under them. And that is that is the series. Yep if you click on saints and sinners you'll see there's fourteen pieces in those works then all the stations of the cross and then it ends in the last supper. The whole point of each series is to follow a particular theme correct. These are all very abstract and interesting and beautifully done. It's something where. I'm too dumb to be able to understand on my own. What's going on in all these pictures. Our assistance to be able to decipher all these. I think a little bit of narrative. And then you'll learn though that. I use that a lot of the same symbols over and over throughout my series so then you start to understand my personal visual language which a lot of artists do but i think the message is getting across generally is you're trying to merge the religious beliefs and art of the past with modern issues that are never referenced in those works correct. You're right that there abstract. And i hope that it abstracts the concept out as well. When i'm trying to describe is i don't think people are different today. I don't think how we think is different or what we think about is different. I think our judgment on these things is different in always changing And i'm just asking people to buy the harsh contrast of how we used to think about things in the future. Looks like.
"lori" Discussed on Everyonecast
"The math and then to your family's dismay because they thought what are you going to do for a job and then you do that art history thing. Which made you more interested in religious studies because religious studies alone. Obviously there's no nice pictures to anything things so it's boring so the art helps at that. Then you start helping troubled teens and you bring art into that as a sort of treatment mechanism. It sounds like yeah. I think what i realized was that a visual language is how i learn so while i wasn't against learning all parents probably wanted me to learn in a more traditional way i couldn't learn that way and once you injected art into all those disciplines became very interesting to me and i could internalize them in a different way and think about them but they would have never known that because they didn't have our backgrounds in visual literacy wasn't in their realm to extend to me so you mentioned a couple of times now ba series. Some mysterious thing that we don't know what it is yet. But what. Is that. While the what i've been working on for the last few years is a larger series. Called fables and fantasies in underneath that series is about six or seven different bodies of work so it started out with a friend of mine head a commission for a church in so she's textile artisan had printed out.