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Chicago to see a mixture of sun and clouds
"You be the vacuum, whether mixture clouds and sunshine the rest of the century and hot humankind 91 Oh, eighties at the lakefront, Partly quiting tonight Sticky Lois 75 both see sunny, breezy, Very hot here. But tomorrow high 96, the lakefront temperature's 77. Midway 83. We're here. 86 up counted Sadie Mackey whether it's bars on Chicago's weather station. News radio 7 80 Water five point on FM Overall
Washington, DC - Anne Arundel police hoping to capitalize on increasing interest in cold cases
"A good mystery and with podcasts, TV shows and social media making cold cases, a draw an area Police department is hoping to take advantage of the interest by highlighting local murders that have never been solved. And around the county Police are using social media to highlight a new cold case every week. The citizens and their tips. I might not be able to get some of my cases even go into Detective Regina Collier has around 70 unsolved homicides. She wants to close some of them. Nearly 50 years old. And she says, Bringing these cases back up sometimes triggers a change of heart in someone who can help but just hasn't offered to. Yes, sometimes people's relationships with the people in question change or the suspect died, and now they're not scared anymore. The first case highlighted involved in 1970 for murder of Lois Williams. Williams and her six year old son were living with her grandmother in Laurel, Maryland. John Doman w T. O P News heads up to
Jackie Ruiz: Author, Publisher, Aviation Lover
"Get started like like we almost always liked to do and I go back to the beginning a little bit. What was your? What was your first exposure to aviation? How did you first get involved? Well you know a lot of people ask me where this passion king from. Certainly wasn't for my childhood because in Mexico growing out both you know middle class family the SIMA flying planes. So I was just not in the not on the menu and My first sort of experience was a beautiful hot air balloon. So here in Illinois and I happen to spot this beautiful lights craft I thought it was kind of a toy airplane and as we approached this day said, no you Texas fly aircraft and we immediately my husband and I purchased the discovery flights and I think it was the first time that flying that aircraft with no doors on. Feeling freedom and those wings It just like it was like Lois Recite About how long ago was that? I was probably about six years ago and I started. Sort of you know like it's almost like sometimes you find ambition find a passion and sometimes the passion finds a way to find you and I think that that's how it started to kind of fit into every part of my life with the ideation school asking me if I could do their marketing and then being invited to an island to keynote or three hundred soldiers and my finding a way to get there with the traffic that this growed represented asking. To give me a ride in but you know sort of opened up this whole world of. Possibilities I looked at a section I said What if I can fly myself to places launch in breakfast thing and see the beautiful sunset either y you know if I could do that and Anything that bug. Just seeped into my heart and never loved me. So it's been about five years and got my license, my sports pilotless inside two years ago in July. It's awesome. Yeah and it's a great great sign that when you did that discovery flight with the doors off, you enjoyed it I. I've done a couple of young eagles flights in the zenith. We we had an are flying club where we we pull the doors off which I love a pilot but sometimes I look over there and that that Young Eagle was a baby in the seat a little. A little too hard. So say there's a little getting used to. Yeah. Yeah. That's that's good that you enjoyed it Why did you go sport pilot? Why? Why did you Y how? Why was that a good fit for you? I the school that I was But I basically, with were kind of experts saying you know light sport aircraft, which is the new that BFA introducing two, thousand, four and It seemed to be you know hobby it seemed to be a wonderful way for me to get my hands but you know just kind of getting to the beginning to the industry and You know running to companies and nonprofit organizations in between my travels around the world I, Kinda wanted to see how Would you know fulfill my life and in in in this passion continues to grow. And I just found that aside an amazing stone having the responsibility of three passengers just one. Done by Katie. To to really you know to make that happen. So in hindsight now back and say, well, I I wish I would have gone straight to my private but the experience all the hours and a gain to close one hundred, fifty hours on the four aircraft You know I, it's it's just getting more confidence that I can fly bigger aircraft and now I mean they journey of getting my
John Lewis to Lie in State in the Capitol Rotunda
"The whole Special truth. services He's continuing charged this with morning the murder to honor of his a civil longtime rights friend, icon. Susan Berman, Today of in solemn her Beverly tribute Hills and home symbolism nearly 20 in Washington, years ago. CBS Prosecutors Dancing allege Court Durst This is killed the Berman body of former because congressman she knew something and civil about rights the disappearance hero John of Lewis his wife is on a journey in 1978. to the U. S. Capitol. Emily He will Valdas stop can extend at the 70 Martin news radio Luther King Junior guy Memorial. from Palmdale, who played The a guilty to casket paying $600,000 will also be in taken bribes to the to get African contracts American with Ella Museum County of for History his electrical and Culture, company. Supposed and to also Be in court he will today stop to get sentence. Briefly Prosecutors at the are asking that he Black be sent Lives to federal matter prison Plaza for three near years. the White House, Two former CBS county News employees correspondent who got the Steve bribes Dorsey have also starting both this pleaded evening guilty. through One tomorrow, is Louis already will lie serving in a state one year sentence, not and in the other the rotunda is waiting but to with be sentenced an outdoor under public study shows viewing which states because of would Corona be most virus impacted crowd by precautions. the president's order Masks to exclude and the social immigrants. distancing In will the country be required legally illegally in invitation from being counted arrival in ceremony the redrawing will also of the U. S be held House this districts afternoon at the Capitol. and what Lois state was gets honored hit over the the most weekend in Alabama, US his home state with tributes, encouraging young activists to continue his work.
"lois" Discussed on More to Life with Faith and Lois
"Welcome to the podcast more life with faith and Lois I'm faith and I'm lois. Our podcast explores the things you face in life that inspire and..
Convicted killer of woman on Fort Myers Beach back in Minnesota on another murder charge
"Woman who pleaded guilty to shooting and killing a woman in Florida so she could assume her identity. Has been returned to Minnesota to face charges she killed her husband in 2018. Lois Therese got life for killing the woman in Fort Myers, Florida Pamela Hutchinson, a
Los Angeles - USC Football Welcomes Back Reggie Bush
"Congratulations the Reggie bush football coach may be over starting tomorrow USC can reestablish their ties with Reggie bush was been disassociated from the school since two thousand and ten and maybe now this last decade which is seen USC with a little bit but not quite when they establish themselves the dynasty from two thousand two thousand and ten maybe we'll just look back at these ten years for USC football like it's a that was Reggie bush curse he was disassociated they did when they went through eleven head coaches and still counting this is what it is now starting tomorrow everything will be great pushes back you can talk about the school could be with the school could do all of these things and U. S. he's gonna win the national championship in Keaton's Lois with the Heisman
"lois" Discussed on More to Life with Faith and Lois
"Good morning, faith and good morning to you, Lois! It's a good day and and it's an also a day where we're very reflective about what's going on in our world, but it's sad both and again right both beautiful day. A day to live a day to celebrate and also to reflect inconsiderate. What's been going on? and. That's because we are living in the midst of a season of unrest. Now that's been added to everything that you and I. An all of us are facing in this corona virus era, and there's there's no doubt there's some stress around this and we want to reflect. Let's face just mentioned on that stress, and we want to offer some ideas as to how to be able to step out and to accept what is and how to move forward with those who really need our support and love right now, so you might have noticed that in the last few weeks. We have really been focusing. Focusing exclusively on the corona virus era, and how it's impacting you and all of us, and if you'd like to mortal life with facing lowest dot com. That's our website. Please feel free to check out all the podcasts we've done in this genre. We also have a more than one hundred other podcasts. You want to focus on an area that would be really important to you in your life. and every week were creating videos for these covid. Nineteen Times will, and we will be with you again on Thursday this week, so today we are wondering..
Gov. Cuomo Reports 163 New Coronavirus Cases In New York
"Governor Andrew Cuomo's reporting new York's Lois daily increase of coronavirus cases since the code nineteen pandemic began back in March one hundred sixty three new cases identified since yesterday was seventy four deaths Cuomo is continuing to urge Congress to provide states with emergency coronavirus funding and he's also signing an executive order allowing private businesses to deny customers entry if they aren't wearing masks or face coverings we're giving the store owners the right to say if you're not wearing a mask you can't commit
HOW THIS CEO INCREASED SALES AND REDUCED CHURN
"Hey everybody welcome to the PD. Revenue Leadership podcast. Hey what we do in this. Podcast is talk about what B. Two B. Sales and marketing Leaders operators experts are doing today to really break through and grow their businesses at exponential levels. Let's get it in the interview at the end. Give you an update on my courses and you can check out my website at B. Two B. Revenue Dot Com. And it's Brian G Burns. Aw on linked in they Chris. Welcome to the show was waken started. Tell us about yourself. Chris Smith on say of Happy Height shot in Melbourne Australia. We are a high CIA software that supplies league replied contract To businesses. We integrate with lots of fun software as well paying five use and emerging market later in High Chelsea S. And how do come up with this idea why he had a manufacturing business back in the day and Actually v Ceremony export market was the US back in the night and hightower's will be part of that sold that company you know you have a restraint of trade pretty tight I had the guy for manufacturing and food to something else so I started consulting and helping. Businesses grow in the export market. Very quickly are realized that they didn't have a grip on. Hi John and hi was very expensive. Lois holes contracts Blah Blah Blah. So I looked at the IMMERSION OF COMPANIES. Like zero dollars tops. Accompany site fifty dollars a month. You could get accounting softwares pretty decent somewhat. Let's do these for the CIA spice and lighter we are here we are today but it's a pretty competitive space isn't it we? It's quite a strange way. Will Wing Non added tingles guy for I think the reality of happy high CIA people talk about features features features right all the time but we are very useful feature reach grading the Gracious? That actually were sorry to take the credit but does come with human element that you get a qualified consultant Service and Services Service of its own fashion service. Sorry it's really for me. It's like competition out Bay. But you when you dealing directors or managers of Orange Prison. Whoever people just want that element all by getting get support integration of SASS product into is essentially change management and. It's hard and it takes time where we've got a very easy process sites in for lodging bars or small it can integrated very quickly and without any disruption into a company's. Y I have been doing previously so it's busy accession that regards instead of having to try to put a square peg in around how we have around. Paul Hall Ricotta Mike. It Nice and council as guess you're dealing with non technical people and sometimes the last thing they wanna do they have to learn a new system right and no matter. How Arcane their system is they probably know it is. There's right and the idea of switch into something else without that service is scary and I'm happy it was one of those ones where high chows not very happy people fear performance management. So I thought what the the catchphrase how behind charge Hijab now. It might be an we endeavour to do that and through working with out customers. Whether they're very technical or nontechnical we might that experience spies. Best spoke to them. That means that they can get on board into the subway. There's stress rings already with that. Change Management from on Pie device person with falling cabins of all these Hijaz stuff. Now maybe to the cloud all that must be really hot. It's actually not but we helped them understand that. So it's we've got ninety nine percent retention right clients so that's kind of unheard of in such sorry again it goes back to your top of China and when we say we're going to actually help you really do. Who Do you sell to certain size? Companies OR UH. Sweet spot's probably zero to two fifty employees. We have some logic companies or two thousand employees on and the saw it's built so whether it's ten employees will two thousand the largest science. It's really great. Take a sweet spot. Zero to two fifty wanted to fifty. I should say and And that seems to be where we really dominate the market here in Charlotte. Okay and what resources do you put towards marketing versus sales? It's been really interesting. I'll listen to your pod council time so to say generally without Machi solids we. It sounds you got in marketing. Really secretly putting at least ten to fifteen percent of Revenue Tamaki and you look at Sioe stuff. He'd said we'd like thirty percent of the revenue regime sales staff in the business side. Probably a fifty versus one hundred splitting you. Look at that part of the revenue but what we are doing a lot. Why very well is investing very heavily in partnership programs on main genuine partnerships? We accountant that. It's declined I pay your taxes. Do you J. Through these concerts. Okay no problem bye. Say you're using Zero Mile K. PIE or whatever? You should integrate with happy. Because they're going to be right like our. Yes but the difference is we hold the hands. Enjoy that relationship in a lot of equity with the Ken Cheese at that company. Put me onto right the captain's love us. I we pickup pickup spicy. They he will realizing now more than ever having a trusted pot and provide is it silently. GonNa do is very important is marketplace.
Will Covid-19 have a lasting impact on the environment?
"The pandemic hit air travel in the US is down ninety five percent the morning rush hour. Traffic report has become unnecessary. Many of you are asking what impact this is having on the environment. So Lauren. Summer is with us. She covers climate change for NPR. And it's good to have you back. Lauren Hi Ari. Let's start with a question that a lot of listeners have asked this one comes from Walker in Ames Iowa the oil consumption due to know car travel and almost no air travel must be much less. Is this lack of carbon dioxide production low enough to meet the goals of the Paris accord is more than enough just to remind listeners? The goals of the Paris accord that was to keep global temperatures from going up two degrees Celsius with an aim of less than one point five degrees Celsius. What's the impact of this slowdown of the global economy? Lauren yeah so as you might expect is having an effect on global carbon emissions largely because demand for oil and coal has really fallen and this is all over not just the US. So scientists are starting to put out studies projecting. What would this look like by the end of the year? If this activity continues you know we all stay locked down a little bit and they're coming up with maybe an eight percent drop in carbon emissions for this year now okay. That would actually be unprecedented. I know it maybe sounds like a small number. That's bigger than the drops during the last recession or during World War Two. But here's the thing that is about. The level scientists save world needs to be cutting emissions every year until twenty thirty to avoid the worst impacts of climate change. That's you know that one point five degrees Celsius that you mentioned and I think scientists are also pointing out shutting down. The economy is not the way to reach. Those long-term emission cuts right. It's these bigger emissions changes like switching to renewable energy. Okay we got a lot of questions. Also about some of the short-term environmental impacts of the pandemic. This one comes from Lois in Raleigh North Carolina. Beautiful spring filled with crystal clear. Low humidity days here in North Carolina because having fewer cars on the road or the factories closed affect the weather but about the global shut down factories. Might that be affecting the weather. Here I've heard a lot of people wondering about this actually clearer. It is yes in a lot of cities gotten cleaner. People are driving less in some cities. I mean car. Traffic is down forty fifty percent. Planes are not flying either so that's actually helped improve local air quality but it is very important to say. The weather plays a huge role in your local air pollution. So if it rains you know it clears the air and the spring typically is not like the summer. It's not our worst season for air pollution. Other places actually though haven't really seen much of a drop because there are things like factories and refineries that are still emitting and trucks are still on. The Roads. Goods are still being delivered to stores. I understand you've been talking with some scientists who are studying the effect of having so few cars on the road and the what are they trying to understand exactly. Yeah I mean. This is a particular interest in cities that have really problematic air and in those cities. They have to try to figure out. What can we change to improve air quality? I mean this is actually kind of just a real world test of that one. Scientists told me that this would be like if in Los Angeles for example. A third of the cars on the road were switched to all electric cars. They don't burn gasoline. They get electricity and in California. A lot of that comes from solar and renewable. So it's cleaner. We have one listener. Who wants to know whether this pandemic could cause environmental damage? The here's Valerie in Arizona. We hear a lot about the air pollution being reduced but not much about the increased fast action Styrofoam especially in food service. What about the possible negative effects on the environment from the Corona virus? That's a good point. All of these restaurants that have switched to delivery or takeout. That's a lot of plastic. Yeah I think people are seeing a lot more containers. People are also seen masks and plastic gloves kind of thrown on the grounds. The pandemic is affecting our efforts to reduce plastic. Waste for example California. Just put a sixty day pause on. Its plastic bag ban. And that's out of concern for frontline workers right. They're the ones that are handling people's reusable grocery bags when they bring them into the store. Starbucks also is is not refilling those reusable coffee mugs for that same reason. It's about reducing exposure environmental groups. They've been largely supportive of these temporary measures because people's lives are on the line but I think they're keeping a close eye to make sure that these are actually just temporary measures and these larger initiatives to reduce plastic waste comeback at some point
Trump donor will be next head of the U.S. Postal Service
"President trump supporting a Republican fundraiser in charge of the U. S. postal service financially embattled agency is often publicly targeted NPR's Brian Naylor reports Lois joy will become the new Postmaster General did you I. is a North Carolina businessman who's given millions to the Republican Party and the trump campaign and is currently the head of fundraising for the Republican National Convention he'll take over June fifteenth from Megan Brennan who announced her retirement last year the joys appointment comes as the postal service is in a critical financial state trump who has called the post office a joke has pushed the agency to quadruple its rates for shipping packages for companies such as Amazon who CEO Jeff bays those also owns The Washington Post a frequent target of trump's criticism the postal service is trying to negotiate terms of a ten billion dollar loan with the treasury department to ease its financial
How The Coronavirus Pandemic Is Affecting Environment
"Since the pandemic hit air travel in the. Us is down ninety five percent the morning rush hour. Traffic report has become a necessary. Many of you are asking what impact all this is having on the environment. So Lauren summer is with us. She covers climate change for NPR. And it's good to have you back. Lauren Hi Ari. Let's start with a question that a lot of listeners have asked this one comes from Walker in Ames Iowa the oil consumption due to know car travel and almost no air travel must be much less. Is this lack of carbon dioxide production low enough to meet the goals of the Paris accord is more than enough just to remind listeners? The goals of the Paris accord that was to keep global temperatures from going up two degrees Celsius with an aim of less than one point five degrees Celsius What's the impact of this slowdown of the global economy? Lorne yes so as you might expect. It is having effect on global carbon emissions largely because demand for oil and coal has really fallen. And this is all over not just a US right. I mean so. Scientists are starting to put out studies projecting. What would this look like by the end of the year? If activity continues you know we all stay locked down a little bit and they're coming up with maybe an eight percent drop in carbon emissions For this year now okay. That would actually be unprecedented. I know it sounds like a small number. That's bigger than the drops during the last recession or World War Two But here's the thing that is about the level scientists save. The world needs to be cutting emissions every year until twenty thirty to avoid the worst impacts of climate change. That's you know that one point five degrees Celsius that you mentioned and I think scientists are also pointing out you know shutting down. The economy is not the way to kind of reach. Those long-term emission cuts right right. These bigger and missions changes like switch to renewable energy. Okay we got a lot of questions. Also about some of the short-term environmental impacts of the pandemic. This one comes from Lois in Raleigh North Carolina. This is the most beautiful spring filled with crystal clear low humidity days here in. North Carolina is having fewer cars on the road or the factories closed affect the weather brought about the global shut down factories. Might that be affecting the weather here. I've heard a lot of people wondering about this actually clearer. It is yes in a lot of cities it's gotten cleaner you know. People are driving less in some cities. I mean car. Traffic is down. Forty fifty percents. Planes are not flying either. So that's actually helped improve local air quality But it is very important to say. The weather plays a huge role in your local air pollution. So if it rains you know it clears the air and the spring typically is not like the summer. It's not our worst season for air pollution. Other places actually though haven't really seen much of a drop because there are things like factories and refineries that are still emitting and you know trucks are still on the roads. Goods are still being delivered to stores. Right I understand you've been talking with some scientists who are studying the effect of having so few cars on the road and the well. What are they trying to understand? Exactly yeah I mean. This is a particular interest in cities that have really problematic air and in those cities you know. They have to try to figure out. What can we change to improve air quality? I mean this is actually kind of just a real world test of that one. Scientists told me that you know this would be like if in Los Angeles for example. A third of the cars on the road were switched to all electric cars. Don't burn gasoline. They get electricity and in California. A lot of that comes from solar and renewable. So it's cleaner. We have one listener. Who wants to know whether this pandemic environmental damage? Here's Valerie in Arizona. We hear a lot about the air pollution being reduced but not much about the increase fiction styrofoam especially in food service. What about the possible? Negative effects on the environment from Corona virus. That's a good point. All these restaurants that have switched to delivery or takeout. That's a lot of plastic. Yeah I think people are seeing a lot more containers. People are also seeing masks and plastic gloves kind of thrown on the grounds. I think the pandemic is affecting our efforts to reduce plastic waste For Example California. Just put a sixty day pause on its plastic bag ban and that's out of concern for frontline workers right. They're the ones that are handling people's reusable grocery bags when they bring them into the store. Starbucks also is is not refilling those reusable coffee mugs for that same reason. It's about reducing exposure and are groups. You know they've been largely supportive of these temporary measures because people's lives are on the line but I think they're keeping a close eye to make sure that these are actually temporary measures. Right and these larger initiatives to reduce plastic waste kind of comeback at some point if you have a question for NPR's Lawrence Somerset to us at NPR dot org slash national conversation or on twitter use the HASHTAG NPR conversation and our next listener question comes from Laura Intel Keaton Alaska. What effect is this virus having on? Wildlife? I'm thinking of the fact that there's less people out and about and that means there's more room for wildlife I've seen some photos of a Lotta ducks resting in a parking lot while bores and sheep walking down the street. There's a lot of this on social media. Is it just that were home more? So we see the animals more or the animals actually coming out in places that they didn't ordinarily yeah. I mean that's hard to tell right. A lot of us are kind of just looking out the window. Maybe seeing things we didn't see before but some of it is a hoax. Right on social media you know. Maybe you saw those dolphins that were. They weren't actually there. Yeah I'm sorry about that but this they're actually real effects. Scientists are trying to study. You know I spoke to one wildlife rescue center in California. That said you know right now. It's seal and sea lion pumping season. You know every year some pups are concerned because of human interference like people or maybe dogs getting too close and so they're kind of that this year they merely a reprieve for them because some beaches are closed Another really good example is Wales. There's just less shipping traffic right now. And so. The oceans are less and wheels are very sensitive to sound. It's actually Something scientists after nine eleven because there was also a drop in shipping traffic and scientists could actually measure that stress hormones in right. Whales went down during that time period. Interesting we got a question about what's happening to environmental regulations during the pandemic Mike in Portland writes to the EPA suspended environmental rules so companies. Don't have to follow them any longer. Lauren Bizarre Policy Change while everyone was focused on the disease. Yeah in in March the EPA announced that it would not be finding companies if they failed to report their pollution data during the pandemic so an example of this might be that a refinery is reporting. It's air emissions to make sure that they're complying with Federal Clean Air Laws. The agency said that this needed to happen. Because the pandemic is making it harder for staff to collect the safety data and and do social distancing at the same time environmental groups really push back quite strongly. They felt this was too broad. It sent a message to industries. That maybe they would have the freedom to break environmental laws if no one was really checking during this time period just on our final moments so many of the changes were talking about depend on social distancing when the economy returns to something like normal are the gains. We've seen going to be reversed right so we all are starting to get back in our cars and fly. Go back to work industries ramping. Up You expect these of short-term Games are going to go away. I think there's some hope that the behavioral change though like maybe we'll all work from home it's possible. Npr Science correspondent Lawrence Summer. Thanks for answering these questions tonight. Thanks
"lois" Discussed on More to Life with Faith and Lois
"You sound fabulous. Miss Faith headphones. Make all the difference right taken us at some time to figure out different things average of us so you know we were concerned sometimes about what this all sounds like. Because it's different faith and I are practicing social distancing immortal life of faith and Lois and so to do that. Then we have to find a few more gadgets and we are and they're working and well here. We are in another week faith. It's exciting it is exciting. So let's do this. Let's do this because you know most of you like us are still experiencing some sort of stay at home or safer at home order and and some days. Let's face it. It's easier to adjust. I don't know what it is. Maybe it's the birds that come or the sunshine or you get a great phone call and then other times it does feel like that cabin fever just wax you upside the head and you wonder what's going to happen. When is this going to end? It's uncertain and we are living in uncertain times face. Oh we indeed are living in uncertain times because we can't predict what tomorrow is going to be like or next week or next month and we're dealing with a lot of pressures on top of it so It's a heavy time and yet as we've been talking about these last several weeks there's so much good that we need to not just.
How Deep Does the Soil Have to Be in a Raised Bed Garden to Grow Tomatoes and Peppers?
"Says she's thinking about putting in a small raised bed small garden on her patio so she can grow a few tomatoes and peppers and she wants to know how deep the soil would have to be. Well that's a good question mark. I'm GonNa stay deep as possible is the best answer now. Let's try to qualify that My uncle and his reclining time go to Mehta's in a water. Water filled apparatus That was only. I think maybe eight inches deep at the very most now. Most people probably aren't going to go into that particular kind of thing so I would say eight inches would be the absolute minimum depth then going to best case scenario eighteen inches is better the whole point being that if if you want to stay with tomatoes and it Cetera they can be and can be productive in a relatively shallower area. She wants to plant any loan stuff carrots then she's got to get down toward that eighteen now to be let's just say as as general in terms of gardening as you can think of. I Have Lois dig down twelve inches or have ever higher young guy with a shovel but anyhow down twelve inches through through that dirt decide on a tarp or for that matter throw it out but I would be inclined to keep a bit big down to that Ten or twelve inch. Ruth range put in minimum two inches of gravel. Now this would be just plain Pulverized gravel if he could even be limestone best but it wasn't but it's okay Three inches is better than put some some landscape cloth over the top of that gravel. So that leaves her with a nine inch depth of actual soil. Now that can be when she's talking about digging or I'm thinking of her digging down. She wants to raise it if she wants to. Stay on top of the ground. Then I would say you're still dealing with what is going to be ten to twelve inches deep Bordered by Goodwood. Or what have you So that you can stay on top of the ground I know well Ash. Ritchie's has been on with me from time to time. Grew blueberries here in Central Ohio on limestone rock because he went into raised beds having been there and pick some of these various and enjoying them. Thoroughly I know that he was not more than twelve inches. Deep with those beds so either down and start. Grab on the bottom or it's still best to put down. Maybe an inch gravel on top of the cle- junk or whatever it is still used hardware cloth then build up the good soil on top of that within boundaries and borders or not Action did not have borders on his his very bad but So it tapered up on over but I think even in the very center of it His soil wouldn't have been much more twelve or fourteen inches deep. So I think that's the best leader recommend four Louis The better drainage you can create on in ground or above ground is best comes in with there being an interface between her new sales repaired. So she's GonNa make whatever And and hard rock junk
"lois" Discussed on More to Life with Faith and Lois
"As we know many states are starting to say that in the next few days and weeks and certainly month there will be adjustments and easing of restrictions. So we're starting to think about what will it look like to go back into an office if that's where we work or into a building or Getting back to work that has not been deemed. Essential going back to school in the fall for our kids and for family members who are teachers and and what that might look like and that brings with it a lot of tension in one level and just a lot of uncertainty of. How do we deal with that going forward? And there's almost no way to plot this out the way. We think it might happen because we don't know and it's one of the first times in our lives we're going. I think this is what's going to happen when I go back to my office building but I really don't know I know and whether or not you're going to be one of the ones that does go back into the office or whether you're going to be one that's still works from home for a period of time. I mean those are all adjustments. You have to continue to make 'cause now you're working with people who are in office and it's just there's so many different factors in what this is all going to be And what it's going to look like but when you do go back how are you going to be social distancing and how is going to be wearing a mask and all these different things that might be requirements for a while and getting used to having your temperature taken every time you go through the door? those are going to be probably parts are pieces to the puzzle that are going to be put in place for your safety and the safety of others and again it's going to be a new adjustment of it's going to become the norm for a while So yes in. The school factor. All my gosh talk to young parents right now. We're ready to pull their hair out and going. I'm not a teacher and they're having to try to put you know schoolwork together for their kids. I mean they're desperate for them to go back to school in the fall. But we don't know we just don't know and so Yeah there's a lot of different things we have to look at about. How are we going to adjust to whatever it may look like through the summer through the fall and into next year you know and as we look to these transitions in the next phase? I think for me as I observe all of this. I am simply no longer taking all of this for granted because I didn't even it didn't even pop into my mind. You know planning any trip you have to do right now. Even if you go grocery shopping the length of time it might take thinking about your child and how he or she is going to learn. I didn't think about what that would look like for nieces and nephews for grandkids It's just mind boggling. And yet now. I am so aware of this. So there's a heightened intention analogy that faith described earlier that has come into my life as a result of life changing so much and I don't get to take this for granted anymore because this is the new normal at least in this timeframe and when things start to ease up will everything else. He's up most likely not so. We'll we'll probably see something es and something get tighter and something easy something. Get tighter until we get some rhythm that flows within that Eb. I don't know what that will look like. You don't know what that will look like. I think we just if we can take the one day at a time and appreciate how things are opening up just a little bit we might give ourselves a little more grace in this very very difficult transition of lighten. That's really good so important to remember that that we all need a little grace right now in a little kindness because it's hard for everybody right now for sure and if you at all need to talk if you need someone to zoom with you know faith and I are available on a variety of levels. I mean we do have schedules but please reach out to us on our website. It's very easy to find us. They're more to life with faith and Lois. Dot Com. Faith is a registered psychotherapist. I'm a certified life coach and we would love to chat with you and be there so that you know that you are not alone as you know the day is coming when restrictions begin to ease around you consider.
2nd Red Cross trailer with disaster relief supplies stolen from Los Angeles, Riverside lot
"Nine seventeen thieves in riverside I'm still at a second trailer full of red cross emergency supplies according to police two men pried open the utility trailer hitch attached it to their pick up truck and drove off they were in a gray or silver Nissan frontier with an extended or four door cab and no front license plate we've we've had had people people calling calling in in or or emailing emailing or or detective detective and and he he is is following following up up on on it it all all the the information information he he has has riverside riverside police police officer officer Ryan Ryan Railsback Railsback message message to to the the thieves thieves is return the property Lois Beckman is executive director for the red cross is serving riverside county rafting boat trailers are loaded with supplies so that we are ready to respond to disasters the trailer alone is worth about thirty five hundred dollars it's contents worth another four thousand and she says the supplies are bought with donations so now they have to figure out how to replace them a few weeks ago another red cross trailer was swiped from the exact same lot but it remains to be seen if the same thieves are involved Margaret Carrero can extend seventy
"Today I'm GonNA tackle the question. Drain friendships had a few people from different devils loss. I'm sending some messages about What he's friendships main to me. So we're going to be Tilton. Old Thing is friendship This simple side Let me stop by by Dan. We need friendships in personal professional and family loves so we need dumb friendships. Obviously family friendships often comes through. Children all comes through Relatives When they dug pestle friends. It'll be that we've had monitored from school even as far back as kindergarten and of course you personal friends will meet along the line. And of course we have them. Professional whipped with friends with is school. Where the work is a university. Or whether your work is at the professional world We create friendships friendships on all three levels. And obviously all of us have friends from HBO lives And I WanNa tackle the concept of friendship. Another means to me Then condemn a little bit about that subject so let me stop outside. I'm the true meaning of a friendship. That is when you actually consider the other peasants wellbeing to be as valuable as Iran And that beautiful weather. Values comes upsets me. The true meaning of friendship is when neo considering the other person's wellbeing that they said mind that they ran the deadly would they? They ran personality dependent. They are is just as valuable as Iran? If you feel this way about a pessimist. I believe they're a true friend. You can't possibly consider someone a true friend if I'm They another person's wellbeing and it set Nathan values done a line and I think that sends a really good way to look at it with to decide whether someone is is a true friend Over the at a true friendship with the person is whether you genuinely care for they will bain and that you'll venues Alon and that's that's two things that are really really important to make when I'm considering whether somebody Is a true friend because a wig friend is thrown around a lot in as good friend wants it to me. This friendships in his acquaintances. And there's a Lotta tons at We have acquaintances in our lives. That we believe that friends and head until the difference. Well that's that tomase really good way to tell. The difference between a friend and an acquaintance is genuinely care for this person's wellbeing on all levels and do the values along with mine And if they do will win that some the friend to make the an acquaintance unsigned that. Let me give you a few wise at Johnson said nuts down on. How can you tell one of the questions? his head. Can you tell a fight front and I get that a lot of thought Jodi Denson nuts In in this is what I came out with to me on L. I can tell you know a friend And number one is at the front is always conditioned on something. The friendship is only conditional the friendship exists if conditions implies segler. Earning your friend if you're doing something for your friend if you there if you need that it's always conditional the best friendships are unconditional. The next one is your friend acts differently. When you're random people and I find that Somebody's acting differently not being themselves in Iran other people. Then there's been a fight friendship happening. Fake friends will speak polling. When you're not around a true friend to me we'll tell you who knows anything about you wouldn't say to. Faisal already had spoken to you about so. That's another one that I can tell effect. Friend friends will stop talking to you disagreement. Now that's conditional Point Number One when? It's unconditional if we're agreeing will not always going to agree. You have different beliefs on certain topics of coast. Venues need to align but doesn't mean you're always going to agree and if ahead telephonic friend is that they stopped talking when you not agreeing with them because it's okay to disagree It's actually healthy to disagree and help each other grow. As you learn and discuss things you density will agree with on the next one. Is that fight trends disappear when someone more interesting shows up this common? You'll say the specially them in gatherings enough saying this in the school scenario Whether it's social outings of Saint Missing Sporting clubs is that dumb piplo token to you rita. They talk to you the having fun the hanging out with you and then someone will interesting. The high status up. I'm all of a sudden Betcha so that's that's another jotted down is very interesting In a good way to affect friend is number. Six Site Friends Watson to want something from you In Norway spoke about is someone want to take and and the friendships? That are all about give-and-take. They did help you when you needed. You'll there to help them a nine needed and so it's all about giving saving however Into want something because when they need something the token to you and they want something said something to be aware of the number seven. I'm still hanging out with you if you say not died assists that boundaries Foot down That Tad bell sort of distance themselves from you so this is another really good way to see his girlfriend in his not at number. I like friends have tried to help you achieve your goals. So they're not there to help you up. I wish that that you've got a certain yourself with gripe table and you're going to certain people that help you achieve what you want to be entertained. You gotta be there to help them. Achieve by to ban this as part of the give and take steps to see a patent here where it all becomes a one-sided said you know the great way and the way to tell us son perfect friend is if it's all one sided if it's all about them said number nine the bring you down and this happens a lot. I talk to people in. Am they settled the person's my friend but when actually breakdown while people side a good way to do this if you're not sure this is ever conversation somebody in your dental the negatives panel the negative things that say about you in compensation and if there's nothing but there's a good weather. Vicenza notified friend. If there's lots well you know because tight friends. WanNa bring you down good friends WanNa put you on a pedestal. So something to really be aware of Another one is affect fron. Segial needs a month's as a nuisance so when you need something well once I make from someone they see you as a hindrance at they put up by That happens a lot when people say well. I've always been that help somebody but when I asked them for help that it's like I'm putting the map so it's something that you really need to look at and the final one number eleven to me Trends done accept you for who you are you know. Acceptance is a very very big pie of friendship and if people are accepting who you are than a good chance that actually not a friend And something needs to really be aware of because you again. It's all about being there for the good times. Insulin Also for the difficult times and that's why I say life is a journey and down to experience moments. So love is a journey and lock is measured in moments true friendships. Let's sit there will bet Engaging in mutual interests and also Sharing values says if somebody's a true friend that it because I really believe in your well being and they shared values. And if that's the case then you'll say that eleven things are covered on site friendships What happened so I'm a little bit of attempt like the To save somebody is is a true friend. Now why do we really need friends? And that was one of the questions that come through well. Friends are important on that. There's been studies shown that friendship's important because of the feeling a good friend can bring you. It's been proven that ventured success in life. Expectancy that Lois. Chances of have the seasons down friendships is all about being connected. Feeling emotionally engaged. Feeling valued You know having a sense of of Togetherness in earnest ship that somebody actually value in case for your well being and this is something that's been scientifically proven that friendship ignites the part of the Bryan. That makes us feel good. You know when you're having a positive friendship and having a positive moment you'll Brian Rex. Completely different to when things are going wrong with friends. And obviously you know we translate this into moods In a mood to genuinely affected by what's happening in their lives. And that's what's important great friends or manager and it's not the amount of friends you have It's the quality of friendships that you have. It's the depth of the friendship. You have so what's with friendships going date not wide It really amazes me. People talk about how many friends have but rather than the death of the relationship. So you know that to me sums up friendship and more Important but when you're looking at friends remember it's not about the the amount of friends that the debt in the quality of the relationship. Could People WanNa bring that your best and you bring in the best of other people you've been listening to fill the Bella and this is Flash Casper. Pd until next time you go and be the best she can be in. Surround yourself with amazing people that care and help you do the best you can
Snapping Shrimp Make More Noise in Warmer Oceans
"Warm temperate and tropical coastal waters around. The world are teeming with these noisy little creatures. They snapped their clothes so fast that they produce a bubble bubble bursts. It makes a loud popping. Sound it's persistent background noise. These snap crackling Aaron Mooney a Marine biologist at woods hole oceanographic institution. The shrimp produced the loud sound to stun prey. So how with these shrimp effected by Oceans Getting Warmer in coming years to find out Mooney and his colleague Ashley? Lois analyzed audio recordings of the critters in their natural environment. They also performed lab experiments with snapping shrimp collected from the wild and water varying temperatures. And they found that when water heats up. The shrimp starts snapping more and the water soundscape gets louder. They shared their findings in February at the ocean. Sciences meeting twenty twenty in San Diego. The researchers aren't sure what's causing this change in shrimp behavior but they have an idea. We don't precisely know the mechanism why they're snapping more often. What we think is that these guys are basically just echo thermic animals. So that means that they're directly responding environmental conditions around them and so basically as you increase the water temperature increases their metabolic rates. Or they're just more metabolically active and so they're able or trying to snap more. If these shrimp do make the ocean noisier as the climate warms it could be a problem for both marine creatures and humans. Many Ocean animals. You sound to communicate and both the navy fishermen rely on marine acoustics to do their work. We'd never really thought about how that that ocean or its own background noise on Fox or naturally increasing in what we think is temperature driven climate change driven so as those levels are just harder kinda see the critic fog.
IEA Sees First Global Oil Demand Drop in a Decade on Coronavirus
"The I. E. A. at the energy agency sees the first global oil demand drop in a decade or not corona virus so this is a new full cost coming through from the R. E. D. a really interesting to see them giving us they said this new assessment then of what's going on with coronavirus these morning Dimond scene forty by four hundred thirty five thousand barrels a day in the first quarter they say the monkey's face considerable surplus despite OPEC plus output costs will this lead to a more action from OPEC Andy's friends but I mentioned that at the start of this program politics is just break in and also because it is consensual coronavirus once again weighing on equity markets and other risk assets here in Europe U. S. features also point Lois a U. S. features weaker by Hoffa percent to six tenths of a percent and the equity markets in Europe down Hoffa presents as a whole the fifty one hundred down by just shy of one percent the tax down off of the sent the cat down three tenths of a percent so can someone get partly because using this change in methodology coming three from China what does that mean about as is that just going to be a a by the public unity of polls for thought it does it tell us something worrying about the way that the the rules of the of the dating game a changing made way three will focus in on that day too of course at the oil price ease weaker once again today down by one percent on friends of fifty five dollars a barrel and we have a deal in the U. SNU no surprise investors going into fixed income the deal comes down to one point five eight
Beware the Word 'Actually' - Thoughts from Kevin
"Welcome to remarkable TV. Today we're talking about a word. The word his actually are you ready. Let's get started language matters. Words are powerful. We use the right words in the right situation. They can have a huge impact on our ability to be ineffective communicator. The word that I'm talking about today actually can can actually be a problem. Even though in many ways it can be used just fine. It can caused us some major trouble. Let's start by looking at the two definitions according to Merriam Webster. Here's the first definition actually enact or in fact really trying to find out what actually happened won't actually arrive for an hour. Nothing wrong with that definition we all use the word that way no problem no the real reason for a remarkable TV episode except for definition number two. Actually in point of fact used to suggest something. Unexpected I was surprised to learn that she could actually speak German well. There's nothing wrong with that either. Really right like maybe. You were surprised that that person could actually speak. German to question is actually need to be in there because well. Let's let's think about it this way if you're playing poker and you're good poker player. You're watching other players for their tell and poker. They call the tell the thing that gives you a clue what they have in their hand or what they're thinking. You're looking for the tel.. Well I would say to you that they were actually in the second. Definition is ital- right. They tell it tells us what the speakers. Here's actually thinking you other examples. I think they may actually finish on time. They may actually succeed. That suggestion actually actually came from Lois. Okay look at all three of those things. What's it say it say? I'm surprised that lowest actually had a suggestion. I'm surprised that that person might actually succeed. Here's the subtext. For using actually in this way it says that we have low expectations or a lack of belief in the person. That person actually had an idea that that person actually can speak German. I had no idea now it may not mean we may not think about it that way but if you've ever been in a room when someone and said that about someone who was in the room you know that they took it as an insult even if the
"lois" Discussed on More to Life with Faith and Lois
"Welcome to the PODCAST. More live with faith and Lois. I'm faith and I'm lois. Our podcast explores life's as many transitions at inspire and dont`a.
Measles outbreak in Samoa kills many including children
"Now to a closer look at the devastating measles outbreak in Samoa correspondent Carter Evans talk to families affected by the disease Tina and tomorrow hopefully Lois is the measles outbreak took hold of his family in an instant the disease killed three of his five children so they got sick and four days later they died he made the cynical their mother follow so is so distraught she sleeps on her children's graves which is set up in the families front yard according to Simone tradition she told me it's our only
"lois" Discussed on More to Life with Faith and Lois
"With faith and Lois I'm Faye and I'm lois our podcast explores as many transitions and inspire and dont`a google fun to be back together it's always fun by the way if you know of someone who might be affected by seasonal affective disorder that was our podcast last week and we would love it if you would share that with them because it identifies some of the signs and symptoms so you might be able to say that's what I'm feeling and then we offer some ways to manage it whether it's things you can do yourself or places you can go for therapeutic treatment and I was just reminded of just how often triggers can send us down a spiral so more than anything this past I have been observing those things which will get under my skin and for me I know what my solution is I need to right Oh and when I write it takes the sting out of whatever is bugging me there you go more than anything else I do I can always feel better when I write and here's the weird part Phase I forget if you get what you wrote I forget to write I'll I'll be in the middle of something and I'll be bothered by it and suddenly something will say to me lowest just write it down write it down I suddenly look down on paper and I go really that would we call it heard you non-paper share it exactly hey please share this podcast after you're done listening we would just love it and we would love to hear your comments if you want to engage with us in any way we would oh definitely because we want to know what you're thinking what you're experiencing and whether or not any of these podcasts really helping you we're hearing good things back many people and we love that if you'd like to get our free weekly newsletter by the way you can do that by going online to mortals that faith lowest dot com and sign up there places all over our website where you can sign up for it so we'd love to have you get that once a week so our podcast today is one that we've all been hit by and sometimes we add to the pile ourselves it is episode ninety one transition the impact of gossip although is do I have something to tell you let's do that my mind yeah comes up so easily it doesn't it I mean and even as we joke about it we know how real it is because that's how easily it just comes up it happens yeah we have something juicy or something that we know we think somebody else doesn't know oh man it just kind of burns a hole and until it gets off our tongue out into the air wave so that people can hear it gossip technically is defined as idle talk or rumor especially about the personal or private affairs others some people call it tattling or dishing there are plenty of ways to look at it but that's really what gossiping is about in the technical sense but it's Oh Fun to be in the aftermath of gossip faith I mean how do you manage gossip when it hits you or is around you fortunately I'm so thankful many of the people that are my friends and things do not gossip which is such a just a haven of respect to have that but of course we're going to run into those times where there's people that will start to do it and I don't know there's an atmosphere change when it turns to gossip you can kind of deal ooh this is changing a little bit that's the first clue I've learned to listen to what am I experiencing what my feeling and do I really WanNa hear this I remember a time where I was the gossiper and the result that happened and I remember this so clear it's funny when this came up when we decided to talk about this a number of years ago but it was in the workplace and I had learned something about someone that everybody else didn't know and for whatever then I chose to share it it wasn't not true but it was private information that didn't have to be disseminated and when I was called out by the person whom I had gossiped about about sharing this information I realized that I was no longer the center of attention as I was for those few moments where I could share this evid- information but instead it damaged the relationship I had with this person for many years to come and it's so easy for us flip into this and not realize that what we can do at that moment is hurt a relationship even if we think it's true well I can say that and there's lots of things true that we need to keep it to ourselves but it was a good reminder to me that even though I felt I wasn't doing a disservice by lying about somebody I took a truth that did we need to be shared and I compromise a relationship for number of years oh that's the impact of gossip of how it does damage and it really did damage to you as well it wasn't just to the other person you felt the impact and that's what gossip will do once it is out there it will piggyback onto it's kind of you know a wave that comes backwards at Hugh and you get hit by as well you know unless you live on a deserted Ireland Ireland Ireland unless you live on a deserted island you're going to be impacted by because things will happen even in a passing phone conversation with even the people who have the list of intentions for US something will slip out so what do we do about that one Yale University researcher says we spend sixty percent of our adult conversations talking about people who aren't I heard that drew but it might be true but here's the here's the deal talking about others isn't always we all know when gossip takes place because there's a negative twist right exactly you can feel that sting that's the atmosphere that I'm talking about the chain changes something in the room doesn't quite feel right we need to listen to that and and people can do such subtle ways like even faith based can say I'm going to share this prayer request with the but it's just between US whoa that's red flag you don't need that information it's like no no no no we don't do that you can package it however you like with a nice pretty bow on it and it can feel right and it can feel like the correct approach it's still gossip and we need to be careful that we have the permission from other people to share we're going to share that's the difference and so when someone shares something with you it's really important to say can I share this is and because we like keeping a secret so if you're faced with this where somebody is sharing something with you and you're not sure we have some ideas on what do and and probably number one rule is don't pass it along I mean if if you hear something maybe that's the best thing if you hear it and it's too late no you didn't get a chance to run away from the situation or stop the person from saying it what can you do to make sure that it goes no further and so that's a perfect example lean stop do I have permission to share this yes or no if it's or I don't know and if you don't know go back to the person if the there's no you know you don't have permission to share it then you know right there it stops or if they said yeah you can share you do have permission then that's not gossip that's right that's right and you so you'll know the difference so the first thing is don't spread it if you can if you can stop it right there second thing is don't believe everything I mean we could really take some things that people tell us with a grain of salt more often and not take it as Gospel truth because somebody said this about someone else room and then you hear what it is at the end it's completely different than what it started to be because what we hear gets distorted and then we pass it on and by the time it gets to the end it's not what it was at all right because sometimes it's just a rumor young when somebody is sharing something with you it's not even based in complete truth there's that one you want to tell somebody a secret about somebody and then there's another where you really are making something upper giving just a little piece of that truth that isn't really true so then it just gets out breath it gets blown out of proportion and that's where the pain comes into because of the the pain that happens to the person about whom we are sharing this thing that's not true uh-huh and then keeping the secrets of someone asks you something in confidence and you agree to keep that confidence. Oh boy you better do it you better do it that is some of the most sacred space that someone has opened up to you if they have shared something that's on their heart on their mind and it's it's personal and they don't want you to share it in that moment trusting you if you share it you have betrayed their trust that's where the pain starts you know I've met people who will tell me I don't keep secrets yes so don't don't tell me them and I think that's a really fair thing to tell me anything that you don't want anybody else to know because I'm not sure if I can keep it so then we have to be wise enough to say all right they warned me I am I going to do this or not but I do love that if we do decide to keep a secret and I think in our professions both you and I we know that one thing I will say to somebody that says I need you to keep this secret or I need for you not to talk about it or Tony I will say to them I need to have your permission to have the discernment to know whether this is in your best interest for me to keep it a secret because you don't know really what they're going to we need to have the discernment to know whether or not this is in your best interest or not and so then they can make the choice in other words secrets are very date injuries they are so just know that when you hear that word secret and I think a lot of us have just thrown this off like oh it's not a big deal oh it's not and we're realizing how they specialize in Substance.
"lois" Discussed on More to Life with Faith and Lois
"Your dreams are all valuable. They're telling us something something and they're expressing something within you. Within all of us that we need to listen and not ignore because so many good things can come up out of them when we dream about how our lives can open up. It's really really exciting because you give yourself space to believe that you are on on the journey to doing something or being with someone or living somewhere that maybe you had never imagined before yes. It's it's opening up our imagination. An odd ivar imagination comes our creativity and out of our creativity comes a vision and out of our vision comes the possibility of what could become and and we walk by those moments in time and say oh yeah that's nice but and we put a little but on the end and then we never grab hold of it so what we really want to encourage you. Today is to be more aware to be more alert to those does nudge to those dreams that you might have at night or during the day to help you begin to say. I want to listen because there's something there for me so that next next distraction that may pop in your head right now as you're listening. We're going to ask you to set it aside. Anything that will trip you up including person you name it because often and the dream is the difference between sinking and swimming well. That's so good so let's start swimming a little bit today. If you don't mind faith we love dreams. I know that but share the role that dreams play in your life dreams have been so significant both my waking and my sleeping dreams and i learned to listen to them a long time ago through some mentors mentors that said faith listened to your dreams and i always kind of ignored them but they are messengers there the messengers of our sub conscious of our spirit of our mind kind of our lives and they're telling us something and i always tell my clients. If you want some free therapy get a dream journal and record your dreams because there's a wealth. There's sometimes weeks and even months worth of therapy. That's in your dreams if you'll just listen to them and so oh that's the first encouragement is to make sure that you honor them and listen to them. Many cultures throughout the world will spend time every single morning and sit together as a family and share the dreams that they had because they know how beneficial it is to their development into their growth and to actually drawing the family family together more as a unit and so here in our western culture. We've been dismissive of something. That is very rich within us. I don't know what it was for me but as i was growing up i felt that i couldn't dream that i couldn't dream out loud or tell anybody that that i had to be a pragmatist and yet starting at the age of nine nine or ten i would go into my bathroom and i would close the door and i would pull up the step stool and in front of the mirror. I would be carol merrill and you might remember her from. Let's let's make a deal and i would have door number one door number two or door number three now. I didn't look like tomorrow but in my head that was a dream that i had as a little kid and so oh i didn't end up getting on. Let's make a deal but i did end up pursuing communications and broadcasting and became a news anchor and a reporter for and talk show host so in one way that dream that i did week after week after week in front of the mirror being carol i became lois but i did did it in a different way so it's funny how sometimes those little dreams and those things we do like when i watched my brothers play baseball in the back with fake the crowd and then hitting and and and standing on podiums and all that and then they pursued math athletic dreams and whatever dream it is you pursue sometimes those little games you play as a kid ed can set you up oh they certainly do who you really are comes out as a child of who you are becoming and will become. That's why it's so important not to dismiss or put down with children do because that core of them is emerging. It's happening. I did similar things so my dad the preacher and when nobody was around i used to go over to the church and san behind the pulpit and preach and i will. I was just like i was preaching. I was probably ably seven years old. I was preaching but what that developed in what was really in me was. I love to speak and i love to express myself so all of those things are dreams that are trying to emerge and we don't want to. We don't want to push those down something to think about as we're doing our podcast today. What would you dream if you knew you couldn't fail nine. Oh and one of the key things that always comes up is money. Money is such a a huge factor for well i would if i had the money i would if whatever and so i tell my clients boy i want you you. If you had five million in the bank. Why would you do and they begin to dream off. I i had five million at bank. Will then i would and that's where you want to get to because you want to get rid of the obstacles so that you can pave the way for that door tobin and not put the but i can't because as tag line because it doesn't belong their dreams are meant to be an expression expression of what is within you very very exciting so in our podcast in the next few minutes we would love to inspire you with the belief that these dreams these visions that we all have for ourselves and for the community and the world in which we live they matter and they can become reality so this is episode eighty six transition the impact of dreams so our first question to you would be what's stopping you. That's really good and the biggest. They usually comes up as i'm scared to death. I'm i'm afraid well what if i fail. What have i mess up. What would people think you know getting into that whole thing and then feeling feeling that heaviness of kind of it's a lot of work and then we become apathetic towards it and that's where you lose the spark and you lose lose. The fire and that's not what a dream is meant to do. I think sometimes when we have a dream or we have an idea or an imagination of something we would like to accomplish. We imagine it only one way and think it has to be that the reality is that's there to tell you. There's something stirring within you that wants to be experienced and might not look exactly like that but it's taking you to it and so be broader. Bigger strokes bigger strokes in the fact that what you're imagining you know. I want to be an astronaut. If you're sixty ext two years old you're not gonna get on a rocket and go to the moon. I hate to break it to you but that's a reality but if you want to be an astronaut what is is it about being an astronaut that inspires you that awakens you. That's your dream and one of the key things you're hearing from both of us right now is this this is about your vision and your dream so when you have nay sayers who will come in and doubt you or disagree with you. That shouldn't be what your dream is. Those are the obstacles really to move aside because now you're sixty and want to be an astronaut. That's true you know. Maybe maybe you should listen to somebody but i doubt most people are taking that tack at that point but for the most part as you're getting into this idea of dream and a vision listen to yourself and mhm careful how to share win share because don't let somebody tamp down before you have a chance to even find out the possibility i know and if somebody does you know put water on it just say well. I probably needed a little water. I'll reflect on that but i'm gonna continue to pursue what i'm wanna see see in my future here because we don't know what's going to unfold and the great dreams have been fulfilled by not being stopped. So where do your dreams teams come to you. I know where your dreams come to us. I meant to not say shower. That's all so how many of them so many of them and i actually have it was given to me as a gift and i love it and it's a little waterproof pad and pencil that you hang your shower and you can take the notes now and you rip them up and it's fabulous it because it's really get them can purchase those now and it helps because because the reason the shower is a place it's the quiet reflective place your with your thoughts and your thinking and your it just becomes almost wrote as you're young you know what to do about taking your shower so in the process of that your mind is free. Your spirit is free to imagine beyond what you're actually really doing. So what kind of exercise do you do for me because i love to bike ride. That's where a lot of my visions. Come when i'm thinking about what my next step is going to be in life and that's what i'm referring to his vision but i see these things as i'm writing because for the same reason you're talking about. It's wrote. I know where i'm going and some people do it when they're running running. Some people do it when they're shooting. Hoops are just working out but it gives you this place where you're on a different level. You're physically doing something and your mind. Somehow is set free exactly exactly exactly and it's it's usually when you're alone and you have those moments i had one of the greatest dream visions waking visions i've ever had going down six avenue for about four miles and changed my life and i was on the highway and oftentimes he's been on the highway because again it's road. It's something you know to do and you're not thinking all want something opens up and it was a beautiful vision and it it came to life. It changed my life and change. Many other. People's lives as well so when you're talking about dreams. Ask yourself the question. What do you believe about yourself yourself. We talked before about where you have intention. You know where you're looking forward. Often will result in what you want and so for me. If i actually believe in my head that i can do what i set my mind to. I will do it if i suffer under the doubts and worry about that and put that in the forefront then i won't go anywhere but if i actually say i can do this and move forward on it. Even when i hit obstacles it's different mindset as i'm moving forward mm-hmm. That's so true you have to change how you think when you have a dream when you're inspired because you said a few moments ago about how the naysayers tares will come in and try to be the icon the snatchers dream snatchers that will take it away and know if you have it. It's yours and don't let it be taken away. Let it open up..
"lois" Discussed on More to Life with Faith and Lois
"You just happen to be there at that moment and the mistake we often make is that we receive it and we get upset and we join them in the negativity and then. We go right down that funnel which we don't have to do because it doesn't have to do with us but it's so hard I remember longtime ago. Somebody coaching me saying you know Lois. When someone comes up with negative words you actually can as an adult say? Stop uh-huh not even getting mad but just because it's not about you you can say stop and so she said let's try this and and she started to say some things to me that we're very negative and I was listening and she said No. No you're supposed to say stop and I said I WANNA do yeah. Sometimes we forget that we we really don't wear adults. We don't have to listen to this kind of negativity so I've got a lot better by the way I do tell people to stop and I have gotten to at this point but it took just like you're saying years of practice that saying stop is not a bad word. Rate Word is yes. It's redirecting it to. I really want to hear you but when you're negative like this. I don't think this is what you really want to say. What is it that you really want to tell me and if you let them go on and on and on they'll never get to what it is? I really want to say and then you'll feel worse because they really will dump. Yes so be careful about that if you give if people enough space if that's what you're think you're doing and that's what I used to believe was the right thing to do. I would end up far angrier at that person because they said more than they ever intended to say because I didn't stop and another thing is to stay patient not not do your best to Kinda breathe. Catch your breath and take in what is happening and avoid reacting a lot of times what I will do is. I'll just stop and I'll just I'll be listening but inside. I'm doing a lot of self talk doc and I'll be saying this isn't about you the system personal something is going on with them. Take a deep breath. I wonder you know what are the possibilities. What are the ways that you might respond not react and then that is my goal is to find a way to interact with them because something's going on that other person in that moment and this goes for if you get a text or an email that could be on a very negative tone? You know I used to be this person that well sometimes I am but I try not to be where I'm responding way too quickly and if I will take a moment breathing like you just suggested and some space it's so interesting what will happen if you get a negative email or a negative text and you wait an hour or two due to respond because by then you really are responding and you're not reacting so if you can take that time if you have the moments if you have that that ability see what comes up with that space or don't call somebody back. If somebody leaves you voicemail you can hear our anger. They're we are just wait because you know that they'll come down. Even if it's for a few minutes before you respond think about giving some space to all of this where the negative energy is someplace else to go instead of right on top of you. That's so good and it's perfect to just say a good. The question is why would I need to respond so quickly and oftentimes. We just want to get the energy off. I don't want to carry this. This is too much. I want to get it done with and we want to get it done and move on and some things when especially when we're talking about a relationship or connection action with person you don't want to move onto quickly <hes> that's so good you know if you're in a grocery store line or you're pumping gas or something happens where you're outside and there is something that happens very negatively. I have really. Looked at my own demeanor to see how I'm responding because sometimes you can't say something back and sometimes it's not appropriate to say something back if you can smile at that person now might really get them angry in the moment but it's disarming enough that a smile position at the right time can really do a lot to relieve some of the stress of someone who's really angry or upset about something it sure can and the other thing that we're on aware of a lot of times is how our face looks hold on. We don't even know how we look sometimes when we're really intense and it's oftentimes people can misread our facial expressions and that's how we know whether it's safe to relate to somebody or not we look at someone's face and if we're in deep thought awed or something it's important to know what is my face. Look like when I'm in deep thought or what does my face look like when it's disengaged and sometimes just looking in the mirror sometimes to become more familiar with what we just never give a second thought to it makes a huge difference knowing what I need to smile more. I need to put my cheek up and I need to put my eyes up and I need to be looking like I'm really engaging with you. Otherwise a person doesn't know how to read us. I've actually had this happened from people who are total strangers and I have been deep in thought and apparently I can look very angry when I'm deep in thought walking down the street and maybe I was puzzled about something and gentlemen walk the other way and he said you know smile. L. could change all that and at first I was a little peeved but at the second thought I realized whatever I was doing gave off an aura of I'm not happy with something and he was right and it made me laugh in the end you know once I passed him. I had not really observed what I looked like. When I was deep in thought and clearly it was not pleasant right right and so we can be falsely accused of being negative when we're not at all so it's another little clue blue and other little thing about being more where about who we are how we approach how we look and how engage but you're absolutely right? A smile goes a long way so if you're looking to disarm somebody WHO's really upset even with you think about smile and not don't laugh at them. We're not we're not encouraging. You know we know that things are going to bring us down and negatively will come into your life. It's going to happen. You're going to find somebody who's upset about things but as we were talking about earlier if there's a way for you to not take this personally that's the first step to being able to then breathe step away from it and maybe not react but respond in time and be intentional attentional be intentional about wanting to change the atmosphere of negativity into an atmosphere where there's positive loving kind influence. It's about waking up. Yes it is releasing your own negative thoughts or those of others isn't easy but once you start down this road you'll find it easier to let go of more so choose one at a time. Maybe if there's something you really negative about and when you've released the emotion around one area maybe you'll be ready to face another one. We'd love it. If you share this podcast with anyone you know who's overwhelmed with negativity and join us next week for transition the impact of suffering..
"lois" Discussed on More to Life with Faith and Lois
"Lois our podcast, explores life's many transitions and inspire and Dont'a. Lois at school. I don't know. It's exciting to be here today. Yes. And it's been an inspiring week with all of our words has been about you. But I've had to numerous times, literally stop the words, like in my mouth behind my tongue teeth and just hold them in there and wait for the right things to say and I understood my pausing as being there for a reason, but I just wanted to think it through a little bit better. And it was awkward at times. But I was trying to practice what we were working last week with the power of our words practice makes perfect. Well, because I know that we have all been impacted by what other people say to us, and instead, we're trying to flip it and say, well, what are you saying to the other person? Right. So anyway, it's not easy and I tried as big week for me because no problem is one of my big things if somebody text me and running late. Oh, no problem. When I was challenged last week. Well, what if you just said, oh, it'll be great to see you when you do come. Oh, what a different shift. That would make instead of no problem. So anyway, I'm working on that still. So if you would like to share this podcast, we would really like you to do that, whatever platform. You're listening to us on because it means a lot and raid, it if you would go through and just every now and then just give us a five star rating, of course. But anyway, if you wanna do that, that would be really helpful and also our newsletter, which is on our website, you can go, there anytime you want. You can sign up for a newsletter. You can watch videos, you can read our blogs, and you can listen to our podcast, you know, there's so many things that steer us away from what we want to be doing in our lives. That's why we knew at some point, we would have to encounter this next podcast, which is episode seventy seven transition the impact of distraction. Boy, do we get distracted in life. There's so many things that can take us away and, and redirect, our purpose, and what we were intending to do, and we wanna touch on that, and there's the negative context oftentimes that comes to mind with distraction, but there's also the positive and we're going to step into that as well. We really are because, you know distraction. Is that thing that prevents you from giving full attention to that? Other thing think is more important. And sometimes as we wait, these, we might discover that the other thing may not have been more important, but that's for you to discover distraction like taking that extra time to text at a stop light. Of course, no place else, and somebody honks behind you because they're ready to move on it. And you haven't gotten there yet or on the flip side like I did recently I offer taffy to my grandson, whose kite had gotten stuck in a tree, and he was so distraught. But the taffy because it was the right flavor got him removed from the focus of how sad. He was with the kite, and we could then think of another course of action and someplace else to play that was really good. Always carry taffy. Well, I mean, sometimes we need to divert because made to and other times the distraction takes us off, when we don't get done what we want to do that. So it's trying to decide what is the more important thing to be doing at this time in our lives so faith. How do you look distractions when they come into your life, occasionally or? Growing up. I actually thought I was the distraction. I thought that was my middle name or something, because my mom would always grab her head and go you drive me to the point of distraction and silent must be me. What is it distraction? And that was her phrase. So I had to work through that and therapy actually, but bless her heart, that's kind of the point of frustration that we feel when we hear that word that some how there's something that is interfering something that is causing a problem. And the reality is that distractions can be a detour for me. I can easily compete distracted win. Oh, look at the space book thing. This is so cute. I want to watch it, and I'm in the middle of doing something I don't have time for this. I usually end up watching it because I want to, but that's the choice that you begin to step into of what is taking me away from what I really need to complete and what is it that I'm finding something that I need right now? And sometimes we do need a distraction, and sometimes we need to put the distraction aside for a little while and finish what we're doing and then come back to it. So we wanna look. At it from both sides, and I'm going to defend distractions, mainly because I just had so many children had action suited. You distractions where my I just had to walk around with things, so that when they got disappointed you certain things they have to understand as appointments in life. I get it that happens. But at other times, it's really better to not have them dwell. And this is going to be a dramatic story that I'm gonna share with you. But this was one thing when I realized how important it is to be able to divert attention. We were coming back from walking our dog sparky, and this was a longtime ago like twenty two years ago with our boys and our middle son was not even five years old. And we were coming down the hill, and he noticed something up on our neighbor's porch. And so we looked up and I could see that it wasn't good. And so I had him and his father and his brothers go on. And I recommended to his father that he makes them a big breakfast. It was a weekend morning. And as I went up there, thankfully, he had noticed it was a neighbor and she had collapse. Stay and unfortunately police had to come and it was a homicide investigation. So my son saw it enough to notify us, but it would have been a very bad situation to bring a five year old up to discover what it was that he saw. And so by distracting him and getting him away and him not having to know that was a piece of his life, and his father and his brothers could deal with whatever they needed to deal with at that moment, which was breakfast, I could sit and deal with the police and have an adult conversation and try to figure out what this tragedy was all about. But I think sometimes we don't see that and so a distraction happen, we jump into it. You know, like a train wreck when we see an accident on the side of the road, in our kids, are looking at some horrible thing instead of distracting saying, no you don't have to look at that. I think that's important. Sometimes because we don't know how their minds are being molded and shaped and to this day, he doesn't know what happened. And I think that that's beautiful. That is that's wonderful. That's that's protection. And the distraction to redirect. Is such a gift in situation? So, yes, oftentimes, it is about redirecting and using the distraction for that purpose. So that can be for the betterment of the person or the situation that you're in and then there's other times where you do have to deal with it. That's right. Because sometimes distractions are detrimental to us, if they actually stop us from doing what we want to do, and to live our lives to their fullest potential because we constantly we never finish we go here, we stopped, two steps forward and three steps back and do all of that, today, we like to explore distractions and their impact, and what we can all do about them, and, you know, what distracts you the most. In other words, what takes you away from what you want to do. And the first thing that I jumped back to every single time we think about distractions. Is this beautiful thing that you've brought up and we talk about it? So frequently is to scan our bodies because sometimes I'm distracted because I'm just not all here. I haven't gotten enough sleep. I haven't. Eaten I'm emotionally upset about something. And so therefore, everything is my voice ter- right in the world. I'm not rounded in that moment, actually, and the distractions become increasingly more powerful because we aren't aligned with ourselves and we are not aware of what is going on. And so you're feeling really sad. And you're trying to move into something to ignore that you're not dealing with what's really inside and that's going to play out. So then pretty soon, the situation, the business, meaning that in becomes heavy and you can't think straight. And so then the distraction is, I think I'll have to donuts, you know, I will. I think I'll have another Cup of coffee on, now it just beginning to compound into your day about the things that we're using the distractions to try to help ourselves feel better, and rather than dealing with what is really going on. And that's why really on a regular basis be scanning yourself because some of these important meetings, it might actually be better to put them off. Rather than to be inside a meeting where, you know, you can't make a cogent decision because you're not able to exact your hungry. Right. Or something else is going on. And I think that I forget that at times, and then I blame the distraction versus the fact that I just wasn't prepared. Right. I'm not ready. I can't do this thing, and it wasn't the distraction that pulled me away. It was actually myself and my state of being that moment in, if it's urgent, and you do have to into the meaning at least be so self aware that you can say, oh, this is what's really going on with me. I do need to go in there. But here's what I promised myself as soon as I'm done with that meeting. I'm gonna take a break and deal with this now. You know, you're going to come back to it. And now you can kind of tell your brain. Okay, brain come on pop in. I need you right now. We gotta do this, meaning we can't cancel it, but I am going to come back to dealing with what I need. I'm gonna go have that big lunch. Right. Afterwards, I'm going to do whatever I need or go, take a nap. Up and take the rest of the day off or something. Well, this all stems back to mental awareness. Yes. Being aware and awake to what's going on in your life. And I think that is one of the things we are calling ourselves to, and challenging everybody with whom we speak in our podcasts because this transition, the impact of distraction is really about being mentally of where of where you are, in this moment, are you awake to what is going on? Yes. And when you are, there's a flow that happens. There's a connection that happens with yourself. And with those around you, there's a clarity of mind, your inspiration rises,.
"lois" Discussed on More to Life with Faith and Lois
"Welcome back could warning Lois. We are all over the map is especially as we've been dealing with transitions. We have been going back and forth on things that are heavy and things that are lighter and this week. I was absorbing as much beauty and sunshine and rain as possible in light of our podcast last week, which was on the impact of spring. And you know, I did I got it. I needed this dose of freshness in my life. Right. Make such a difference. When you have that hope kinda set before you that, you know, you're entering into something that is going to offer something a big bow K, not only flowers put of life itself. Oh, I love that that renewal. And we also need this dose of freshness and life because we're going to be grappling with a very difficult subject and topic this week. So if you're enjoying our podcasts, you know, would you share it with somebody that you know might? Enjoy just what we're doing and rate our podcast. It actually helps us if you could go on whatever platform you have subscribed to us on and give us a rating, it would be wonderful. So that we know better who's listening, and what you think of now we would love that at helps us this is Lois said, and it also gives us more direction to as to some of the things that really inspire you. So as we promised today is going to be a tough one. And it's episode sixty eight transition the impact of an affair. This is tough. This is tough because if you've ever had someone portray you in a fair, you know, the sting of the affair if you have been the one who has had the affair, you know, all the aftermath and the pain that you go through and you see others go through as a result. So what is an affair in very well, mind dot com. Sherry steinhoff writes, an affair. There is a romantic and emotionally intense sexual or emotional relationship with someone other than your spouse or partner, generally affairs, don't last long, although there are exceptions, and they occur between two people who are not married or otherwise committed to one another typically an affair is considered a betrayal of trust so faith that last statement betrayal of trust that seems to be at the core of what we're gonna be talking about today because that betrayal and that trust that is broken. You've given your love you've giving your trust. You've you've invested into this other person, and suddenly that is broken because of the trail because it's been assumed that what you had with them has been given to someone else, and that just rips the core of you apart because it feels like the ultimate rejection of you you've rejected me to the very core. And oftentimes that's not even the issue. But it sure feels that way if you're the receipt. Lever of the one who has been betrayed. We did a podcast earlier this year on rejection alienating and faith somebody wrote in specifically about that that when she felt betrayed. This is exactly what she went through that. It was all she couldn't didn't see it coming couldn't believe it had happened, and it took everything out from underneath, right? It feels like a su- NAMI it comes out of nowhere. And it just does great destruction to how you think to how you feel to your heart to your body to your mind, everything and the impact is huge. So and one of the other podcast we did was on regrets. If there is ever a do over that. I could have it definitely would be for the affair that broke up my first marriage. I'm sharing this. Because a very wise person said to me, you know, Lois if you'd wanted to be with that other person..
"lois" Discussed on More to Life with Faith and Lois
"Goodness. There is zest to the season. Even if it's not your favorite for some people. Not I know I have a lot of friends who fall still is autumn is There is zest to the season. Even if it's not your favorite for some people. Not I know I have a lot of friends who fall still is autumn is still their favorite or the winter is they love to go skiing. And and they love to be out in the cold. You have your favorite season. But each season brings a beautiful gift. Don't miss it. No. And we'd kinda like to share this poem with you by may fen. It's titled it must be spring. And we'll alternate on these lines to see if you can follow along hush. Can you hear it? The wrestling in the grass bringing you. Welcome news that winter days are past soft. Can you feel it the warm caressing breeze telling you this sticky buds are bursting on the trees? Look, can you see them the primrose in the lane? Now, you must believe it spring is here again that's Look, can you see them the primrose in the lane? Now, you must believe it spring is here again that's may fan. It must be spring. It just speaks of spring it sums it up nicely. What a thrill to step into spring with you. As this transition marks a change in the season of your life. Maybe this is a weak that you'll plan a picnic to see cherry blossoms or something like that a feast for your senses, and we hope you feel a sense of lightness and an urge to renew something in your life. Please share this podcast with someone, you know, and join us next week for transition the impact of an affair. Get the latest news on our social media platforms and on our website, and please subscribe more live with faith, and Lois is a podcast to support encourage and uplift you as you transition through all sorts of change, we want you to know there is more to life. We'll be back next week.
"lois" Discussed on More to Life with Faith and Lois
"We're going to offer some ideas on how to engage with and support that person because it's huge if you know someone or you're part of a community with someone they might need you. Absolutely like right now. And that has it that we have to step in because we're a little nervous to bring it up. We'll talk about that as well. Faith have to ask you why is it hard sometimes for someone who's not addicted? So like a non addictive. Person to empathize with somebody who is steeped in addiction, mainly because you're not addicted to the same substance that they are. So we tend to kind of get the higher ground mentality and going to stop it. Buck up and change it why you doing this or go get help do something about it. And so we want action and one of the reasons we wanna see them take action is that we feel powerless to help them. And so in that sense of being powerless. We wanna fix it. We wanna see change because they change it. Then it will be better for us as well as better for them. So sadly turns into all about us sense in a roundabout way. It does not doesn't mean that. We don't care love them and everything, but we feel the stress we feel the tension. We feel the betrayal the lies the, you know, the deceitfulness it goes around to dick shins. And so we want that. Stop. We want the behaviors to stop and the reality is we're looking at a bigger issue here. It's not just the behaviors behaviors might be woven into some of this. But the addiction is causing most of those behaviors if you're facing addiction or if it's addiction of a loved one one of the things I've really had to learn in my lifetime. The addicted person has to decide what they want to do with their lives. So you can be the best supporter in the world. The best spouse mother sister, stepdad, whatever you are. And if that person doesn't wanna make the change it really won't happen. It won't happen. And I think that's the other piece. That's a frustrating for a non addictive person is that you feel like you offered you've been there you've walked them to a facility all of these things, and it doesn't work, and you know, what don't give up at the end of the day as we're going to go everything we're gonna share with you, can I. Courage you from the bottom of my heart and personal experience. That's the only hope we have for those. We care about who are steeped in addiction. Sometimes you have to walk away. There's no doubt. But there will be times even when you walk away that you end up reentering someone's life. So if you can have it in your mind that yes, it is all up to them, and it's not your responsibility. Someone recently said to me, what do you have in your backpack, Lois are you carrying someone in your backpack? And I thought oh, I need to take that backpack off and give it to this person. It was a very great mental picture for me at the same time. I sometimes have to revisit that backpack handed back and say I want to walk with you on that journey. Yes. It's walking alongside not carrying them. But you can't even walk alongside if they don't want you to walk alongside, and so they may push you away. But that doesn't mean you give up and I love that. Because it's having hope in a belief in that human being to say, I believe. Leave you can be victorious. I believe you can overcome. And oftentimes, it's just that consistency. You're always they're kind of like the once you can't get rid of and eventually somewhere down the road. They go. Why did you hang out with me? Why did you not give up? I hear that a lot you know, as their best. Why don't you give up on me go because you're worth it? You're worth it. And so when you see the value of human life when you see the value that is there that exists the real person that's beneath all the addiction. That's what you're fighting for your fighting for that real person you're in their corner. I love it. So we're using a number of sources for conversation today. If you wanna check.
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"You were given a gift enjoy it use it, but don't have the regrets that you did not become the top person. And if you have a regret of something that you've done we encourage you, maybe this is a moment that you could. About is there a way to make an amend there? Maybe you've done all the amending you need to do. Maybe you've had all the conversation. It's a good thing to come back to it and say, yes, I have done what I need to do. Or maybe there's something more. I could do while we are whole wonderful people. There is always some refining and tuning we can do without introducing shame. Right. Because that's the last thing we wanna do. Shame will hold us down. It'll be a tether. It will hold you fast. And all of this is about soaring. It's taking off and being entering into. What is more for life for you? You can't if you're tethered by guilt and shame and all of that condemnation no deal with the regret make a different decision. One of my going to do now. And learn from it and move on. You know, there is something to be said about a silver lining and Ralph WALDO Emerson has fabulous quote, every calamity is a spur. And a valuable hint. That's really nice. I like that on that as you mull over any regrets. You might have facing a regrets and moving through them with humanity. Gives us the ability to face those things we may have wished we had handled differently and finding a positive value. Nevertheless, please share this podcast with someone you know, might benefit from a discussion of regrets that hover in and over their lives. And join us next week for transition the impact of addiction. Get the latest news on our social media platforms and on our website, and please subscribe more live with faith, and Lois is a podcast to support encourage and uplift you as you transition through all sorts of change, we want you to know there is more to life. We'll be back next week.
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"Right. And if we want to keep learning if our goal in life is that we either learn something new on a regular basis whether it's every day or in a season. This is a piece of that. And we can't learn expand without introducing new thoughts new ideas from someplace else that is. So fascinating language in our everyday. That would be awesome also be creative. And I don't know what that looks like for you. I think sometimes we be creative people go. Well, I'm not really artistic well, you can be creative in so many different ways. And I encourage you to look at. What brings you joy? I mean, it might be decorating your house, or if you know faith, it might be the presence that she wraps with such decorum or the way she puts together cards. I mean, those kinds of things just bring out the joy that's inside. You that is created. Yeah. You have to find the things that really awaken within you. And whatever that is. And whether it's baking or you are an artist like my granddaughter in just works at it every single day do something that expresses what's inside of you and find what that is and live out because it's a gift and you're leaving a legacy in it. And then go outside yelling. However, you can enjoy nature do it. I mean, some of us live in climates where it's extremely cold in the winter. And yet we can find ways to bundle up and get out and still enjoy the elements. Some of you live in an area where it's absolutely beautiful and warm. You can go out with very little on. Enjoy the elements. But the idea being you get something else to give you stimulation that allows you appreciate where you are in life. And that's the whole point of this discussion that we're having here. Yes, we're ever you live. There's beautiful creation all around to find it walk in it, smell it experience it and take it in because it changes your perspective, and when we can change our everyday perspective into seeing the broader picture of life that gives us life. And that's what we use the outdoors, and they are to give us his a new image of life. And at the end of it, all what do we leave behind or to our friends, or if we relocate what is the aroma that follows us as we leave a neighborhood that also is part of this growing and aging gracefully that we take so much in that we give so much back that that's what we leave people that they understood. That we love living life, whatever that looks like exactly you are not going to be remembered, and this is not to be more. But but you're not going to be remembered for the beauty that you carried on the outward appearance. What is going to be remembered is what you left your kindness? Your goodness your charitable heart. The things that you expressed in created then your brilliance in offering something a helping hand there's so many things that we can leave as a legacy. But if we are so fixated in afraid of the actual body aging, the reality is it's going to be buried or it's going to be cremated. And that's not going to live on. But your legacy will people will remember you for who you are. And for the things that you did. And that is the beauty of aging it should mature over the years have -solutely. And when you Zaman these things and look at life from. Whether or not your relationships are strong or your health, practices or your brain. What starts to happen is that you don't obsess about the next year that you're facing? And and that's when you realize how much you have to offer. And that's what we encourage you in our podcasts. More life Hm. No matter what your age. We welcome you to our year of transitions on more to life with faith and Lois..
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"So death wasn't fright. Running to me in that respect. I went to every few knows a preacher's kid. Everybody died in our church always went to the funeral. So I wasn't protected from that it was a part of life. My view and perspective of death is very different than someone who hasn't had that experience. And that's why I want to just encourage people. What ever is going on find out? What that is if you're afraid. Yes, you can't become less afraid if you know, what those influencers are and hang around with people who have this view. Can we were visiting a church recently? And the pastor actually came up and said we love funerals. This is one of our favorite things. And I thought what thing. Thing to bring up, but the whole idea of being eats a part of life. And if we think of death as a part of life versus as something so separate and tragic, and yes, it's tragic. Yes, we will grieve. But that moment where we can have this beautiful time of celebrating the life of somebody. I just thought that was a beautiful way to think about it. I also read a blog recently where somebody wrote accepting death before it arrives gives birth to a second life in us, making us more capable and willing to take risks and live. That good. I just I thought how can I get to that place? A usua- pechanga wrote that and I thought that is something I want to carry with me that to accept death before it arrives. It's so much of life. Right, right. Things happen and accept it before it even arrives. Let's good. I love that living life in every moment is our goal with more to life with faith in Lois talking about death is powerful and liberating. And we hope this podcast gives you some fresh concepts about life and death. So please share this podcast with someone, you know, who might benefit from a discussion of death and life and join us next week for transition, the impact of rejection, and alienating get the latest news on our social media platforms and on our website, and please subscribe more live with faith, and Lois is a podcast to support encourage and uplift you as you transition through all sorts of change. We want you to. To know there is more to life. We'll be back next week.
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"That's what we learn. But when I could say breakup happen. Wow. That's a very different way to look at it. Yes. So that's not condoning breakup. Okay. Never saying, it's okay. The thing that I think is so important is that you do whatever it takes to try to not have the break-up happen in the first place in the first place. Yes. But a break up means to it's not one one person cannot hold a relationship or community together or your health club together. If it's not working for you. You must find ways that you come together. And if you've done everything you possibly can to see if it can happen, and it doesn't happen. The break-up is probably the best for everybody. And it is true that sometimes the most difficult time we face as we're getting into a break-up is the build up to the break-up it because we're afraid of the outcome were frayed of how other people will feel how we will feel. So if you're contemplating break-up, or if you're in the midst of one, or if you've just gone through one we have a couple of ideas, we'd like to throw out there that might help it be more manageable and Faye. The so right in pointing out we're not saying go out and break up. But we know these things happen. So how can you prepare yourself better once again, so that doesn't happen? But if you're at that precipice here are some things that we found in our life and experience and research that might be beneficial as you're going through it and one of the first things is to own it on the brink of own the reality of what is happening, which is what you did. When you finally looked at all your journals and said, oh my goodness. I need to own this. This is not working. And when you own your part of it instead of blaming now comes more into balance like what was my part in it. What do I need to make amends for or own with the person or the organization or the community where my friendship what do I need to own? A doesn't mean that the break-up mating not still need to happen. But you own your side of the fence. And you know, you talked before about we do certain things. Like, we either get therapy. We get together. And we have these conversations of trying to get to the root of this. And you go through all of those steps you have a support group around you, and you still end up in this place. So when you have that difficult conversation what I used to do when I was really young was like, I think you really want to end this relationship. And so I'm going to give you that. And then what happens is the other person's as Lakshmi. No, no. I don't want to end that. And then do you just threw it to them wanting them to take the ownership for this break up and they're going? I don't care. I mean, I can live with this. What what's wrong with it Lois? And that is such a dangerous place to be when you're trying to please the other person. So can you own it and faith? Why is this so hard for so many of us to take this on? It comes back to the fear factor. It's going to be how are they going to react? How are they going to respond? How are they going to reject me and blame me, and if you've been brought up to be a people pleaser than that's going to be your. Role. And so often rolls come into action in serious situations. It's my job.
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"Of the situation to learn how to give yourself more security and a good foundation to step off of. And as you make that plan to move on and move forward really consider how you can rewire your brain, and the anger, you might feel toward why you lost that position if it was an unexpected loss or if somebody actually did something so that you lost your job. How can you re frame that? So when you go in for the next interview, or you share things with people that doesn't become the highlight. And people see you as someone who is angry over this loss. It's. Very difficult. And that's why faith your point of not rushing out there immediately is so good because sometimes the wounds are just too raw gonna say are. And you know, if financial situation you need the money right away. We'll maybe do some temp work. Yes. Just do something to get some income coming in. But don't make it a permanent situation until you've worked through that was feelings because you do not want to carry that forward. And that is where I would encourage you to spend a little bit of time with a professional to really have a place to go where it's sacred space where you can just vomited out and get it out and somebody will hear you and somebody will walk it with you and help put some of the understanding that maybe you can't see as to what's going on because. Yeah, you wanna leave it you want to release it and that takes a process it does. And especially if you're living onto something. That's not quite what you had done before. You might be required to learn some new skills. Yes. I mean as. Faith in. I are working this out in our second year of our podcast more life with faith and Lois. We have had to learn a lot of new skills and some of them come with amazing growing pains because it just takes time it's making mistakes and figuring things out trying something here and all these mistakes are good mistakes, by the way, there you have to learn because the only way you learn to not do it that way is by by doing that going, you know, that didn't work. Well, and so then moving in another direction, but be ready and willing to approach these new skills with this is going to be interesting is. But you need them. Have to have this process happen of we learn from our mistakes, we learn from our trip ups, but that's how we get stronger and don't give up that's the other pieces that if we feel defeated we're gonna wanna give up and you're gonna have days of defeat. So take a deep breath. Do what you need nurture yourself behind to yourself. But don't give up keep moving. We're in episode fifty nine transition the impact of losing your position. So as you keep going forward had a great conversation the other day with a friend, and it's hard, but treat looking for a new job like a job itself and have a schedule because for those of us who liked to have structure right in our lives. One of the things that happens with the loss of position is we lose that structure. Yes. And so if you can build into your day, even if it's calls you have to make or revamping your resume or learning. This new skill or. Researching something about a new profession or a profession in a different location. Those are things that can you know, if you build that into account or write it down somewhere on a sticky note, you will feel at the end of the day that you've accomplished something. Instead of this frustration that you are sitting there with what am I going to do? And you may still feel what am I going to do? But you will feel that there are certain things that you've checked off your list, and it means a lot on a personal level that really does and going to breakfast with my friends was a part of that that was kind of like looking for the job because I was lost..