20 Episode results for "Lindsay Anderson"
Personal Development Strategy
"Welcome to the kingdom podcast. I'm your host lindsay anderson. I help moms put an end to what stressing them to. They can regain control of their life. Be sure to check out our popular free training. How to put an end to it stressing you at kingdom podcast dot com. Are you ready to take back your territory kingdom. Moms let's begin. Hey hey kingdom. Moms and welcome back to another episode of the kingdom mom podcasts. I am really fired up about today's episode. Because we're gonna be talking about the cost of personal growth. And i've been this is coming from somebody who over the last. Almost decade has been investing thousands. Yes you are thousands of dollars per year into my own personal growth. I am a big believer. In paying to learn new skill sets paying to learn new mindset a new ways of thinking. I'm a huge huge believer in in learning. There's lots of things that i've learned along the way both good and bad. I have learned from some really amazing coaches who have sown so such a great things into my life. I've learned from some people that were just like literally fulla baloney. And i also learned from that but i wanna talk about really investing into yourself and what that looks like because when i first started and maybe you are just starting out on your personal growth journey. And you're like you know you don't really know where to start right. Where i started was just reading books. I would spend fifteen dollars here and there on a book and that was literally all i did. I remember probably the most expensive personal development thing that i bought that very first year was a ninety nine dollar course and it was like. Dvd set that got delivered to my house. That was like the most expensive thing that i purchase that year. But that one hundred dollar program help to pay off a thousand dollars of debt two years later so there. I work with a lot of people. I work with a lot of moms. And i think that there's a lot of moms who really struggle with the concept of investing into themselves and they feel really guilty about doing that. They feel guilty. They don't feel guilty about the fifteen dollar book right but they feel guilty about the ninety nine dollar course or they feel guilty about the thousand dollar course or they feel guilty about the five thousand dollar investment into themselves. I've made ten thousand dollar investments into myself. Yeah that those purchases. They always kind of make me wanna puke. But they're always really exciting at the same time and they've they've always paid dividends. They really have not everybody's ten thousand dollar program. Should you buy. We're gonna talk about that bit to talk about the dark side of personal developments and coaches and things like that and pricing. gosh l. I get fired up about it but they most moms feel guilty about about those price points and what i'm going to ask to do is to really start thinking not from an expense perspective but thinking from an investment perspective now if you are super duper struggling financially and you don't have like you are maxed out on debt and you are looking at possibly a five thousand dollar program and you don't currently have a way to do it. What i have a really hard time telling you to do that to go for it now. I went to a thousand dollar events when i was maxed out on debt. I absolutely did. And it was one of the greatest decisions that i ever made it hands down. It was but they're so much that you can do in the meantime and you really work your way up to these more high and programs but there have been many many times throughout my career that i have seen people who are not yet at the skill level that they should be app before purchasing a ten thousand dollar program. Do you know what i'm saying like there's a certain like i. I didn't start out by a ten thousand dollar. Coaching program came. I started out with the ninety nine dollar program. And then when i had that skill set then i was ready for the thousand dollar program right then once i had that skill set and then i needed to take it to the next level rate. That's when i was ready for that next skill set like legit just this week. I got pitched. I was in a free workshop and i got pitched a thirty thousand dollar program in its further the entire year. And i i. I'm like i'm not at the skill set yet where i the that. I am going to invest thirty thousand dollars. I believe currently where i'm at is. I would invest ten thousand dollars but friend okay. I'm going to be real real honest with you so now. I'm not talking to like the new people personal development. I'm talking to people who may have been doing it for a while. This is like big sister moment. Okay this is a big moment. Feel like if you're not making six figures a year already you probably should not be purchasing thirty thousand dollar programs. Okay if you're not making. The thirty thousand dollar programs are aimed at taking six figure people to seven figures. Okay the thirty thousand dollar programs should be aimed at taking six figure people to seven figures and only people who are at multiple seven figures should be charging you for thirty thousand dollar program okay. The oh y'all i've seen. I've seen people who are not making a million dollars a year trying to sell these ridiculously high priced coaching programs. Okay and they're. They're telling people that they're going to help them make seven figures when they aren't themselves now making seven figures. Okay and i'm not talking seven figures in sales kay. I'm not making seven figures and sales. I'm talking seven figures in. Come because you can do. I've probably i would have to look back. But i have probably total in my career. Done a million dollars in sales. I probably have. But i've not a millionaire. Those are two very different things now. If i was a millionaire right and i was helping you get from six to seven figures. And i wanted to charge ten thousand dollars for that way then. Then that's different. Okay that's different so let's talk about this a little bit more. Ram because this is one of the things that makes me crazy is that you have the people who want something different in their life but they will not invest into themselves and then you have the people who are paying somebody thousand dollars when they should not be doing that. They're making poor choices. Okay so back to like being scared to invest into yourself. Okay any time that i have invested into myself as far as like a course to increase skill set in a certain area break like right now. I actually have invested in several courses right now. I took a course on instagram. I'm taking of course instagram right now. I'm also taking. I'm part of a membership site and like it's it's a high ticket like it's it's like almost a thousand dollars a month to be involved in this membership community that i am a part of. I've also been a part of membership communities where it was like fifty dollars a month and consuming that content right and so but but okay. I'm going to look at those things very differently because like instagram. Bray is a skill that i wanna learn so i might pay and it's something that i'm going to use for sales in the future so i'm probably going to pay you know a few. I'd be willing to pay a few hundred dollars for that. Because in the coming years i might do. Thousands of dollars in sales from instagram makes sense so the return on the investment is bigger than the investment itself and its many times bigger than the initial investment that i made so. Let's say that. I spent three hundred dollars on an instagram course. My goal is that three hundred dollars. Better make me three thousand dollars within the next year. Okay now the membership site. That i'm a part of right. So like over. The span of a year is like a twelve thousand dollar investment. If you think a thousand dollars a month right twelve thousand dollars. That's a that's a lot right. But what i'm investing in with. That is a process. That's going to increase my income by over six figures a year. So like do you see. What do you see what i'm saying. It's like the ten thousand dollar program better yield one hundred thousand dollars right now. That's like if you're if you're learning business skills and business strategies and all of that right now if let's say because some people like do mom coaching and stuff like that. So it's not necessarily that. They're making more money so it's not quite a tangible result. Does that make sense. So like if you're if you're going to a life coach or a therapist you know what i'm saying like if you're if you're going to somebody to like work on your mindset like or you're you're learning parenting strategies from somebody or something like that you have to ask yourself if i'm spending a hundred dollars and my getting a thousand dollars worth of results is something that i would have paid a thousand dollars to learn. Do you know what i'm saying. It like i simple. I went to a personal development conference about my marriage. One time okay. Well my marriage really doesn't make me any money. Okay but you know. If i paid a thousand dollars go to that marriage conference and it heals my marriage and now i have a happy marriage i can look back and say i would have paid ten thousand dollars to save my marriage. I would have paid ten thousand dollars to save my marriage. So i believe i got ten x. results from now okay so this is how this is how i personally invest myself. And i think there's been i've had a lot of questions at least from my circle and from our clients and even just from the the moms in sight of mom and her masters people asking lake. Should i invest in this. Should i invest in that right. And i just wanna share with you. Like my rule of thumb. Would i go by is like if i'm going to spend five thousand dollars either. Get a fifty thousand dollar results. If i'm gonna spend ten thousand dollars a better hundred thousand dollars result and there are coaching programs out there. Y'all that are one hundred thousand dollars came. I know ten that just make you wanna puke. But it's true and i know people who have spent a hundred thousand dollars to be a part of a mastermind group but they know that by going to that they're going to learn how to make millions okay so the value component has to be there and now let's talk about this. Did they have to have proof of the value that they bring okay so like for example Like any time that. I'm going to hire a coach for something so like this person than paying a thousand dollars a month to it's a it's like a twelve thousand dollar program right. She showed me proof that number one. She had done what she had said she had done. Right and proof that she had helped other people achieve the same results k. This is important because it's one thing to do something yourself. It's a completely separate thing to be able to duplicate that. Duplication is a big thing like like for example. Like if you're looking like a home business for example you might want to go learn from the person who did top sales right but did that person help other people become top sales people. Did you him saying like it is one thing to do. Something yourself isn't completely different thing to be able to teach it and duplicate it and other people. It's it's totally different. So just because somebody has done something have they duplicated that same result in other people if they have not and if they don't have proof they have absolutely no right to charging you ridiculous amounts right so that's very very important okay. So that's something to look for. So when i hired this coach number one. I made sure that she had proof that she had done it herself so that she wasn't just lying because they're sadly there are people out there who do it. I know of a very well-known coach who literally like is teaching somebody else's content. They're just literally regurgitating it word for word saying that it's their original content and it's not it's the gems. It's danny johnson's gems program. Which is danny johnson's original content. Danny johnson is creator gems. There is a man out there who teaches gems as if he is the one who taught it like who came up with it originally. It's like copyrighted information. I don't know why shouldn't the crap out of him anyway because she's a nice person she's nicer than i am anyway but so so there are people out there who are charging tens of thousands of dollars that are full of crap. Y'all i can't tell you. I've seen him multiple times. So it's okay to ask for the prove. If i was charging ten thousand dollars for a coaching program. I would expect the people to ask me for proof i would expect is almost like an interview. Like why would i hire you. Show me what we are going to do. So and then proof that they've actually done it for other people if they're if they're if they are charging premium prices. Okay if they're charging a few hundred dollars no okay. But if they're charging you thousands upon thousands of dollars better frigging have proof that they can get your results. That's my that's lindsay's rule of thumb. You can take it with a grain of salt. Okay now. I have one last little thing to say and this is like this is like a little bit. My soapbox muscle box okay. There is this now. i'm not now. I'm not talking to the people purchasing personal development. I've already shared my rule of thumb with you. This is me talking to my fellow coaches. this is me talking to my fellow. Entrepreneurs course creators. We have a lot of people inside of kingdom mom who are trying to build out a course there may be trying to build out a side hustle. There may be thinking of doing a launching a membership site right. Okay and there's this teaching out there that's charge what you're worse charge. What you're worse k and you're worth a lot right. It's always somebody who's charging you like five thousand dollars. Who's teaching you to charge other people five center in sabah. True okay because you should charge what you're worth but realistically is the market pays for value. The market pays for value. If you're teaching a skill set if you're teaching somebody how to make ten thousand dollars. You might be really really good at teaching people how to make ten thousand dollars but you have absolutely no right to charge ten thousand dollars for it. I mean you can you can. I can't stop you from doing that. But ethically okay. Let's talk about business ethics here. If whenever i am pricing something out i always make sure that what the per that i like. At a minimum the person utilizing the content will get ten times minimum out of what they're purchasing so like for example. We charge for our stress elimination method for a year's worth of membership. Okay you can do it ninety seven dollars a month. We do offer monthly pay so that'd be about twelve hundred dollars a year but if you pay for an entire year like eight ninety seven so let's let's in fact let's go on the high end. Let's talk about the twelve hundred dollars if you're to pay for it monthly when we were pricing this out. I was like okay. If i'm going to be charging twelve hundred dollars for something they better be able to get at least like minimum twelve thousand dollars from now. Twelve thousand dollars okay. And and they do so just in our debt content just in paying off debt. We have a twenty dollar money. Mini course that's included as a bonus in that and just with that people make their the twelve thousand dollars just from that because they pay twelve thousand dollars worth of debt. We have an affiliate program so that people can earn while they learn right. So they're they're making money we have. We have kingdoms who've made a completely new income stream like it doesn't even cost them anything anymore. They're they're making a profit from it because they've referred so many people from the side hustle content if they want to they can grow right but not just that just the just like i want somebody when may even just going through the content about relationships and all of that i want them at the end of that to be like i would have paid ten thousand dollars to learn that. This is life changing. I would've paid twelve thousand dollars to learn that okay like our content has over ten thousand dollars worth of information like it. I've paid tens of thousands of dollars to learn the stuff that's inside of stress. Elimination method membership. Tens of thousands of dollars worth of my brain is in that case you but i cannot in good conscience charge ten thou- like if i were to taste somebody hold their hand and help them build their business like would it be worth ten thousand dollars. Yes i could hold. Somebody's hand for an entire year and teach them identity and relationships and boundaries and all of these things character like how to manage their home. how to budget. How'd you like would that. We were ten thousand dollars. Yes absolutely would be. But i'm not gonna charge ten thousand dollars for it you need to over deliver. And here's the thing the reason. This is my personal opinion again. Take with a grain of salt. The reason why people charge ridiculous amounts for like. If you're charging ten thousand dollars you'd better have one hundred thousand dollars worth of content in their have one hundred thousand dollars the content in their charging two thousand dollars but when somebody charges ten thousand dollars ten thousand dollars worth of content. It's b it's because of a scarcity mentality and i'm just going to call this out is because of a scarcity mentality where they don't think that they can get enough people okay but if you focus on just giving like insane value to your people you will not lack people if you focus on changing people's lives you don't care about the paycheck. The paycheck will come but the scarcity mentality. Plus you're setting yourself up like like i would rather have a hundred mind blown people saying oh my gosh. I can't believe you only charger thousand dollars for this. Then have somebody pay ten thousand dollars and not get results not get their ten thousand dollars worth of results like that like that. Can't be good. So now i know people who close ten thousand dollar coaching programs and they like will. Do you know one hundred of them at a time. They do million dollar launches right and but they're offering a million dollars worth of content. Okay so this aisle. I hope this was helpful. I'm sure i take somebody off with this one. But that's okay. Because i feel like it needs to be said so if you are somebody out there if you're one of our kingdom all members if you are somebody who's thinking of starting a course or something you need to have good business ethics. You need to make sure that you are not gouging people and trying to squeeze money out of them okay. Okay set a fair price. Set a realistic price. Make sure that you're results okay. Offer insane value and this truly going back to the people who are investing and personal growth. This is what i look for in coaches. This is what. I look for in people to teach and train me and i have. I have never regretted investing in myself. I have never regretted learning that new skill learning how to up level my mind learning how to build a landing page that converts like things like that learning how to podcast right so whatever you gotta do whatever that thing is or maybe it's even just buying the fifteen dollar book do it. Invest in yourself are helping is have a great amazing week if you are part of our mom binder masters group on facebook. We are going to be doing a free money workshop inside of that group. The first week of january starts january fourth january twenty twenty one. Okay if you're listening to this like way later don't worry probably go catch the replace somehow go into mumbai in her masters and ask well. We'll hook you up okay. But there's going to be a workbook. There's gonna be all of this. You're going to have homework like it's an actual workshop. But it's completely free and our goal is that that free workshop will either save you make you. You'll put it in savings account. You'll pay it off the debt a thousand dollars. That's our goal with free workshop in that first week like you will have thousand dollars worth of debt in that first week. That is our goal. So i hope you guys have an amazing week. God bless we hope you enjoyed this episode of the kingdom all podcast. Don't forget to check out our popular free training how to put an end. To what stressing you at kingdom on. Podcast dot com. Cnx time kingdom.
Boundaries and Time Management
"Welcome to the kingdom podcast. I'm your host lindsay anderson. I help exhausted. Moms put an end to what stressing them to. They can regain control of their life. Be sure to check out our popular free training. How to put an end to it stressing you at kingdom podcast dot com. Are you ready to take back. Your territory kingdom moms. Let's begin here and welcome back to another episode of the kingdom on podcast. Today we are continuing on with really our time management series that we're doing leading up to our free time management workshop that we're gonna be doing inside of the facebook group mom binder masters. So if you're not part of mumbai masters yet. I just don't know why you aren't so go be a part of it. It's an amazing group. We finally hit over four thousand members which is super cool and we do free workshops. We do free accountability. There's a free course inside of that group to teach you how to create your own mom binder your own home management system. There's tons and tons of resources plus tons of amazing mom's inside of that group that offer encouragement and inspiration all that jazz. But today we're gonna be talking really quickly. It's going to be a shorter episode about boundaries and a lot of people might be saying what do boundaries have to do with time management. Well we actually do a ton of training on boundaries inside of are paid. Coaching membership the stress elimination method and boundaries are such a huge issue for so many women they either don't know how to set boundaries or they set what i like to call on healthy boundaries so boundaries come in all different shapes and sizes. There's lots of different types of boundaries and one of the first things that we really dig into. What are the different types of boundaries. Okay so there are different types of boundaries. Some of them are more spiritual and mental boundaries. Right and then we tend to have these are the ones these are the boundaries that are kind of going on internally inside of us right. They're going on inside of our head. They're going on inside of our heart. They're more mental like we have to mentally overcome. Something's in order to set an established and keep these types of boundaries. Right and then we have what i like to call physical boundaries right and this might be like if you go no contact with somebody. That's more of a physical boundary where you are not going to be interacting with that person and we have physical boundaries in our homes right like we have doors that shut and lock. That's a physical boundary right. And in regards to time management our time management and our priorities tend to be more physical boundaries right. It's not something that we're necessarily doing in her mind. I mean it can be really in reality. it's probably a little bit of both. It's probably a little bit of a mental boundary but also it's a very physical boundary so when we say no to things even good things right we are setting a physical boundaries so when somebody let's say somebody asks us will you be a volunteer in church nursery. Okay that's like a good thing. That's a good noble thing to do right. it's good to serve. It's good to be serving inside your church community right but let's say that in your life in that moment you don't have the capacity to add something to your list or if you did add something to your list it would cause stress chaos right and so sometimes we have to say no to good things and set a boundary right now for some of us that may be more of a mental boundary where we have to mentally overcome our guilt that we feel for saying no right. We have to mentally overcome and give ourselves permission to say no right but in reality it's more of a physical boundary like. We are saying to that person. I'm so sorry. I got to be a no right now. I don't have the capacity to add something more to my schedule right. And if somebody doesn't respect that boundary than they have then there problems if somebody came to you. Think about this. If somebody came to you you ask them to do something and they said i don't. I don't have the capacity to add that to my life right now. You would be understanding most likely like if you're a decent human being you and be understanding of somebody saying i don't have the capacity to add that to my life right now. I've said this to good friends of mine. Who are like. Hey do you wanna do this. Hey do you wanna do this. I'll be like i would love to do that. I don't have the capacity to do it right now. Right and they're honoring respectful of that right so saying no is really establishing a physical boundary. Like no. I'm not going to be doing that. And it's a setting a boundary based on your priorities. Okay which is what we talked about in our last time management episode. We're gonna be talking about this heavily heavily inside of our free workshops and we talk about this in depth we go We go deep into this topic inside of our paid coaching membership inside distress elimination method. In fact we often talk about these things on our group. Coaching calls where women will have like a specific situation. And they're like what do i do here. What's the boundary. That i need to set. And we can kind of help them customize a game plan as to how to set certain boundaries or when they need to set certain boundaries right so another really good example is this is something that happened to us in real life right so we recently signed our girls up for soccer okay and they actually haven't started yet but we were. We wanted to get them involved in some sort of sport or some sort of extracurricular activity. We're home schoolers. And we just wanted them to like have something to go do like physical activity with other kids and we're looking into it and we were looking into city soccer and on the website it literally said that. They practiced every single night during the week and then had games on saturday. Now you know it's one thing if you have a teenager who drives themselves to practice and it's their commitment and it's the but when you have a six year old spread every night Okay so we as a family decided no that we were not going to be doing that. That we were going to be setting a priority physical boundary that we are not going to be participating something even though it might be something good for our kids that because it doesn't line up with our priorities. Were not going to be doing that. We actually found out that they don't for the six year six-year-olds practice every single night one night a week so we did decide to enroll our kids in soccer. But that's a perfect example of what does fit into the priority and what doesn't fit into the priority right so you are going to find these examples sprinkled all over your life but we are going to dive into this. Even more insight of the workshops so what are what different types of boundaries are. Some people are really good at setting physical boundaries and really bad at setting mental and spiritual boundaries. Some people are good at setting mental and spiritual boundaries. But they're not so great at setting physical boundaries and what. I have found in working with hundreds of women is most people are bad at both. I was bad at both before. I wasn't now i would. I'm getting much much better as setting these boundaries. I hope that that was how we're super excited to see you inside of the workshop if you wanna download the workbook as long as you're in the group who can participate but many people find it to be more helpful to actually have the workbook so the workbook link is in the show notes that you can download it and you'll be ready to rock and roll when we get started in february all right. Hope you guys have an awesome week. And god bless we hope you enjoyed this episode of the kingdom of podcast. Don't forget to check out our popular free training how to put an end. To what stressing you at kingdom. Podcast dot com. Cnx time kingdom.
"Welcome to the kingdom mom podcast. I'm your host Lindsay Anderson Founder of Kingdom coaching and helping homeschool DOT COM. Here are King Demaim we grow together in identity marriage parenting home management, and in our finances we would love for you to join our community go to kingdom on podcast dot com to join paid monthly coach community. It's basically like the podcast, but on steroids and you get to hear weekly coaching halls plus you get live the IP QNA's, and we also have an affiliate program where you can actually earn while you learn but you can also join our tribe of mom binder masters absolutely free by taking our free ultimate mom binder video course just go to kingdom MOM PODCASTS DOT com. All right. Are you ready to take back your territory King Demaim? Let's begin. Hey Kingdoms and welcome back to another episode of the Kingdom Mom podcast. We have super exciting news today is some of Y'all have been waiting for this for a while and we're super excited that we get to finally announced the kingdom mom money minicars is available at Kingdom podcast dot com were also go ahead and share a link to the course in the show notes but here's the really exciting thing about it. We are doing really special introductory price for it. It's only twenty bucks It's probably worth hundreds and hundreds of dollars. But we wanted to make sure that the people who really needed this the people who are really struggling financially could afford it and could afford to go through it. So we made it available for a limited time for only twenty dollars that price is going to increase eventually. But you can definitely go ahead and take advantage of that. Now the course is live, you can literally go purchase it right now we're super excited, and one of the things that we talk about in the money many horse. One of the many things we talk about budgeting and I just wanted to make a quick episode about budgeting because I think that sometimes when we think about budgeting, some of us kind of just shut down. We hate budgeting. We don't enjoy it at all. It seems super restrictive and that's really where I was at. In fact I actually thought I liked budgeting I thought I, did. But the truth was that budgeting caused me such extreme anxiety I became. So obsessed with the budget I became so obsessed with making sure that we weren't spending too much or making sure that every single dollar was going exactly where it was supposed to be. And, I actually didn't realize back. Then there's more ways to budget. Then what is called zero based budget? So a zero based budget is kind of the traditional budgeting that most of us are taught if you go online and Google budgeting, you're probably more often than not going to be taught about zero based budgeting and that means that every single penny coming into your account is a for and it's got us a certain category that it's going into. There's actually Other ways an Irish believe better ways to budget. I believe a zero based budget can work I'm not saying that if you do surveys budget, that's wrong a zero based budget can work but. There's there's several situations where it's not going to work number one if your personality. Fines. Zero based budget to be incredibly restrictive and you're actually more likely to overspend because you are supposed to if you tend to be a rule breaker. You might be setting yourself up for failure using zero based budget. Another situation is if you're married and one of. The two of you. Is a rule breaker, which let's be real. The chances of one of you being a rule breaker is pretty high. It's pretty high because if one of us not rule breaker, other one probably is so there might be one of you. That loves in the thrives in zero based budget and the other one does not, and if you're anything like me and my husband working with a zero based budget and trying to force two very different people with different strengths and weaknesses. into the box of a zero-based budget can actually. Take a toll on your marriage I. Know it did for us. I became so obsessed with the budget and I would get so angry and bitter towards my spouse when he would blow the budget and he would get angry and bitter towards me because I was so obsessed with the budget right and we didn't realize that there was another way. But when you know better you do better and so there's other strategies that you can use. There's not a one size fits all when it comes to money systems, there's not a one size fits all when it comes to budgeting. Okay. We do something called a percentage base system, and this is something that we're going to talk about. We're GONNA talk about all the different systems that you could potentially do in the money many course. But what works for my husband I is a percentage base system and you can also create hybrid systems maybe for certain types of spending, you do really great with zero based maybe. Just overall in general, you do better with percentage base, you can do a hybrid situation. The important thing is not necessarily which camp you fit into it's about how to identify. What is going to set you up to win you see the thing with money and this is something that I learned from Hans Johnsen many years ago. He's the creator of something called true up formula. And he basically taught taught me that money is so psychological. Our behavior is so psychological when it comes to money that we have to almost put systems in place to trick ourselves and to force us to win. We, create a system based on our strengths and weaknesses that will force us to win, and so the system that my husband and I have. It makes it. So that stupid pill proof how many of you ever swallowed a stupid pill with money? Goodness Gracious. I have but creating a system that's stupid. Pill proof four you. is going to make it so that your accounts grow on autopilot and your debt decreases. On autopilot. And you will find that you are winning. By kind of tricking yourself and so. The main thing I want you to take away is maybe you have been trying to work inside of a system money system that's not working for you. Maybe you need to figure out what works what doesn't based on your strengths and weaknesses based on your spouse strengths and weaknesses. and Go with that. Create assists You're not going to create a system I'm not gonNA, teach you to create a system thus just like mine why? Because my system probably is not going to work for you because you are a different human being your spouse, your relationship, the dynamic in your relationship is different than me and my spouse, and so you are going to get the tools to create a system that works for you I. AM super excited to see what your results are from the kingdom money mini course if you are a member of Kingdom. You get the course for free. So if you apply to become a member of kingdom or you are a member of kingdom, already, you will get the course included as your gift for free forever even after your membership is open, so the membership enrollment period is going to be closing soon. It'll be closing a little bit I believe in like a week and a half it's going to be closing from the time that this podcast airs. So if you've been thinking about kingdom membership, now is the time to apply, and then once you purchase that membership, you will get the money many course as your gift for free. But for those of who just want the money content, you can go to kingdom podcasts, dot com, click money course, and right now it's only twenty dollars i. hope you guys have a great week godless. We hope you enjoyed this episode of the Kingdom mob podcast. Don't forget to head on over to kingdom on PODCAST DOT COM and click membership to join our community. King moms. You can also check out the free ultimate mom binder video course. We'll see you next time kingdom mom.
No to Balance, Yes to Boundaries
"Welcome to the kingdom podcast. I'm your host lindsay anderson. I help moms put an end to what stressing them to. They can regain control of their life. Be sure to check out our popular free training. How to put an end to it stressing you at kingdom podcast dot com. Are you ready to take back. Your territory kingdom moms. Let's begin hakin two moms and welcome back to another episode of the kingdom mom podcast today. We're gonna be talking about unietd. You don't need balance you need boundaries. Now i have worked with a lot of moms women in general at this point in my career and i can say that i interviewed tons of moms and before they go through what we like to call the stress elimination method before they kind of joined the kingdom community one of the biggest things that they think they need is balance. They feel like their life is so out of balance they feel like they can't keep up they feel like they're behind or they feel like you know they're maybe doing really good in one area of their life with the other areas are all feeling like maybe they're doing really great as a mom but they feel like they're failing in their marriage or they feel like they're failing in their finances or maybe they're actually doing really good in business you know. Maybe they have a side hustle or they're working moms and they're doing really good at their work in their career but they feel like they're dropping the ball and all these other areas and what so often they say is i feel like i just need to figure out how to balance it. All balance is a word that gets thrown to me quite often. And i feel for these moms because a you might be like. That's how that's exactly how. I feel like i feel like i need balance. I feel like. I cannot keep all of these plates spinning all of the time. And what this leads to is guilt and chain and so what we think we need to do is just learn how to balance better right and we start to try to kind of figure out how to do better in these other areas. But what we're really doing and we don't realize we're doing it is. We're just causing more plates to spin right and at the end of the day the we know how this works right. We crash the plates off all. We're crying in our closet like you know exactly how this plays out right. You know because you've done it times. And i know because i used to do this all the time. This is i this. This was my life. I literally was fee. I felt like i was doing pretty good as a mom. I felt like i was doing okay as a mom sometimes until i would get stressed about things than snap at my children. But that's another story. But i felt like i was doing pretty good as a mom. I definitely felt like i was failing and marriage. We were definitely failed with money. It's not a maybe we were failing with money. I was failing in my businesses. I was failing in everything. And i was like okay. I just i need to figure this out. I need to figure this out. And in searching for balance i actually realized that i didn't need balance. I didn't need balance. We were not designed to balance everything not at all. And what i really discovered was that i actually needed boundaries. Now i teach heavily on boundaries. I have found in working with moms but also working with our clients and the members inside of stress elimination method in like over the year and a half or two years. Almost of us like digging through their issues and finding the root cause of their stress. I started to realize that there was this theme and the theme was that most women had no clue how to set boundaries. They didn't even realize that they didn't have any and and they didn't realize that boundaries were healthy. There were so many women who when you say the word boundary. They think it's a bad thing. They think it's an unchristian thing to do. Is to set a boundary. So let's talk about this for a second because it's actually not true because if you actually look at the life of jesus jesus himself had boundaries. There were times where jesus would be like and this is the lindsay version okay. This is not me quoting scripture. This is lindsay version of what was going on. And jesus said he would be like. Hey guys i'm gonna go like i. It's been great talking to you. But i'm gonna go take a nap or i'm going to go be by myself for awhile and pray right and they would. All of these people wanted him. They wanted him to do so in fact when he went to nazareth they were like perform miracles. Like do we wanna see it. And he was like no. I ain't doing it for you. People like with again lindsay version right he had boundaries. There were there. Were people that he did not give his time and energy to there were people that he did not give time and energy to does. Jesus loves those people. Yes did he die for those people. Yes but did he have a boundary. Yes you can see all throughout scripture. Where god has boundaries with his children came so boundaries are actually scriptural. Now there's healthy and unhealthy boundaries. Yes you can have unhealthy boundaries. Absolutely so let me explain what are some unhealthy boundaries. Okay an unhealthy. Boundary is when you're just setting a boundary just to be a jerk. Okay like you're just setting a boundary to be a jerk or when you set a boundary with somebody who you actually really do need to set a boundary with but then you sit and harbor bitterness and resentment still against that person instead of moving on instead of walking through forgiveness you still like you have the boundary in place. Maybe that person's no longer in your life but still you. You have not healed from that. That's an unhealthy. Boundary came now a healthy boundary. Let's talk about an example of that right. You recognize that a boundary needs to be set right so you set the boundary. You walk through forgiveness and you move on you hold strong to that boundary okay because the most of the time most of the time boundaries are going to be tested. Because that's the reason why. I have the boundary in place in the first place is because somebody usually steps over boundaries. Okay this is why you need to establish boundary came now boundaries also are not always with people. This is something that. I feel a lot of moms. Don't understand and we walk them through. What does this look like to set these boundaries. Like with people but also we need to set boundaries with ourselves we need to set boundaries with our own behavior we need to set boundaries with our schedules right. We i so often i have the burnt-out mama my doorstep say right. She's burnt out. She's tired and most of the time it's because she has not been setting boundaries with her time in fact she probably doesn't even know how to do that or what that looks like. Or what kind of boundary should be setting. But she thinks she just needs to be better spending all the plates and holding all the plates up but really what she needs is boundaries in her life boundaries with people like a lot of times in relationship issues. There's one of two things going on either. Somebody doesn't know how to set boundaries or somebody doesn't know how to accept boundaries because as a whole 'nother oh girl that's a conversation for another time another time but a lot of people don't know how to except somebody else's boundary because we like to make things all about us and we tend to feel hurt and rejected when somebody sets a boundary with us when really their boundary. If it's a healthy boundary has nothing to do with us. It has to do with them with their sanity with what they allow in their life. And oftentimes people who cannot accept other people's boundaries are bad at setting boundaries themselves. Because they are afraid of the backlash that they will receive when they set a boundary. Why because they give backlash when someone sets a boundary with them. So i encourage you if this if this hits accord with you strikes occurred with you anyway. And you're like yeah. I'm real real bad with boundaries. First of all. I highly encourage you to go through the free training on our website. It's the stress. Elimination method training. And you go to kingdom podcasts dot com and right at the top. You'll see free training. You just click on that. It's a free forty five minute class. Grab a notebook take notes. We're going to be talking about that. But if if you're like oh my gosh. I need somebody to teach me how to do this. I need to set boundaries. Of my time i need to learn. I don't even know how to set boundaries people in z like. How do i do this. I highly encourage you to join the membership. Joined the membership and you'll get details on that in the class but also you can go to kane. Demaim podcast dot com and click on membership and just apply so. I hope this helps hope you guys have a great week. God bless we hope you enjoyed this episode of the kingdom all podcast. Don't forget to check out our popular free training how to put an end to. What stressing you at kingdom on. Podcast dot com. Cnn time kingdom mom.
Keeping Your Head in Chaos
"Welcome to the kingdom mom podcast. I'm your host Lindsay Anderson Founder of Kingdom coaching and helping homeschool DOT COM. Here are kingdom. Mom We grow together in identity marriage parenting home management and in our finances. We would love for you to join our community go to kingdom on PODCAST DOT COM to join paid monthly coach community. It's basically like the podcast but on steroids and you get to hear weekly coaching halls. Plus you get live the IP QNA's and we also have an affiliate program where you can actually earn while you learn but you can also join our tribe of mom binder masters absolutely free by taking our free ultimate mom binder video course. Just go to kingdom mom podcasts. Dot Com all right. Are you ready to take back? Your territory King Demaim. Let's begin. Hey gained a mom's welcome back to another episode of the Kingdom Mom podcast. This is Lindsay Anderson and this is going to be different episode. We're not doing an interview this week. In fact we have been planning a series of episodes. Where it's just GonNa be me talking to you and we're going to kind of be going through the five different phases that we have in keenum so in our kingdom on membership in our online coaching community we have five phases five pillars. That we have our students if you WANNA call them that That we have our new students start with and then we kind of build on those things as time goes on But the the five phases or consider them like five pillars of kingdom on a really the core of where everything starts and stems from and then We can kind of like elaborate on certain things and those five phases are density marriage parenting home management and finances. Those are the things that we focus on. That's where we help people be victorious in their lives. And so today I was actually going to start talking about the first phase keenum. I was going to be doing an episode and identity however Comma as I'm recording. This is March Fifteenth of Twenty Twenty. The this is not the day that we're actually going to release this. Podcast is podcast will be released about a week from now and The world is a very interesting place. Right now And I literally have no idea when this episode comes out where the world will be then but I wanNA talk a little bit about How we as Christians can manage chaos and can manage uncertainty and can manage I'm going to be real with you. It's a really I don't even know if interesting. 's The right term. I would say more concerning I'd just want to share with you. My own experiences From this week with this whole corona virus thing in all of that Just my experience Out in the world this week As you know they've pretty much shut. Most things down. We did not have churches week. Today's actually Sunday we livestream church. We didn't have cough school. They even are homeschool. Group is not getting together next week. And that's kind of indefinitely right. I went to the grocery store last Monday so that would have been just for the sake of historical accuracy. I'M GONNA look at my calendar that would have been marched night. I went to the grocery store I went to Costco and went and bought Actually needed toilet paper and I went about toilet paper tons of toilet paper. There were there was tons. They were still limiting it. They were limiting to per customer. But there's tons of paper and You know I kinda bought some stuff. Whatever did my normal grocery shopping and Then throughout the week started hearing about how you know grocery stores are starting to be empty. I thought you know what we should probably go. I want to make sure have just a month of food on hand Because we don't actually we don't stockpile things Like we have certain things that we have plenty of but we don't tend to stockpile we mostly just by what we need for the week and usually by the time go grocery shopping. Our Fridge is empty and I went to the grocery store. I went to Costco again so keep in mind that had been there Monday. It was now Friday and I went there and it was a much different scene. It was much much different And I have to say it was a little unsettling it was quite unsettling. I was there with my daughter and we were both kind of having this experience of. Wow this is bare and We quickly quickly realized that our plans for what we were going to get. We're going to change so we did. We have we have plenty of food for our family on hand Thankfully I had bought toilet paper on Monday. You know the toilet paper Scarcity of twenty twenty is currently what we're in But I have to say like I got home and I was. I was really unsettled. I was really unsettled. I sought out some wise counsel from some friends of mine I have. I have a variety of different friends. I have friends that Some would maybe call peppers. I have friends who I believe are logically Prepared we'll call them that I I wouldn't consider them like doomsday. Repors but I have friends who are. I've I feel like they have they. Preparation is just something. That's always been on their heart I have friends who are like. Oh this is nothing this is going to blow over. It's all going to be fine and then I think a lot of us are kind of like somewhere in the middle there right and so I just I wanna talk talk to that. I want to speak to that because I think You know this is our generation. Hasn't really ever had to deal with anything? That is this unsettling we haven't had to do with. In fact I talked to some six is people who are sixty some years old and they've said they've never seen anything like this just even in their life which fascinating to me and who knows you know. You're listening to this week from what I'm recording it. Maybe the world's totally different place for the better. Maybe it's a totally different place for the worse. Maybe it's kind of the same. I really don't know Because I don't know what tomorrow holds. So here's here's what I would say To my fellow kingdom moms out there who are listening to this. There is wisdom in preparation. There is wisdom in being prepared. There's wisdom in Being logical there's wisdom in Having a plan there's wisdom in having a plan however comma there is also great wisdom in laying it at his feet. There is also a great wisdom in in understanding that. You don't have to know how it's all going to play out you don't have to know. Because at the end of the day his plan this is all being redeemed he he will redeem all he will redeem at all and this is all part of his plan. This what's happening in the world. Right now does not shock him. What's happening in the world right now? He's not surprised by he. He knows what tomorrow brings when we don't and I think this is the time we really need to take a moment and sit and say do I trust him. Do I trust him with myself? Do I trust him with my children? Do I trust him with my husband? Do I trust him with my friends? Do I trust him with my stuff? Do I trust him with my future? Do I trust him? That he is who he says he is. Do I trust him? And we really need to course correct and get our heart rate if there's places where we don't trust him because I'm not gonNA lie friend. I was very unsettled. After I went to the grocery store I was very unsettled and in fact on on Saturday to keep in mind what Gershon and Friday and Saturday which would have been yesterday my husband and I we went. We went a drive. We took the girls and we went for a drive and we got some food and we did some different things. Still practicing our social distancing which is the word of the phrase of the day lately and You know I got to the point. Where he he looked at me and he's like are you okay. Are you okay and I just started crying and I said I know this seems dumb? I said no the same as dumb but it's one thing to see on TV and senior social media feed. I suppose it was totally different when I was actually there in person and you start to realize that human behavior the stuff that you've learned about human behavior the stuff that you learned about history that that stuff is real. This is very different and I kind of started crying. I said I just I need to feel this for a second and we got home and you know my husband. God bless him. He was very sweet with me. And I just dove into the word I stayed up super late last night. I stayed up super late last night reading my Bible praying saying God. What what's my purpose in this time? Because this is part of your story what do what would you have me do and I think we all need to ask that question. What would you have me do to prepare? What would you have me do with my heart? Where do I where do I need a heart correction right now? And what would you have me do to build your kingdom? I want to repeat that friend. I want you to hear this. If you're a Christian I'm this. You might be listening to this show a week from me recording it. I'm telling you the world could be great now. The world could be much worse now. The world world could be somewhere in between right now. I have no idea because I don't know what the future holds. But this is a question you need to ask yourself no matter what is going on in the world whether it's getting better whether it's worse or whether it somewhere in between you need to ask yourself what would you have me do. God what would you have me to? What would you have me do to prepare whether it's prepare for what's happening now or prepare for po? I'm hoping this is just a wakeup call. But maybe you need to prepare for next time. This happens what would you have me do to prepare? What would you have me do to prepare? What would you have me do with my heart? Where do I need a course correction? Where do I still not trust you? Where do I have ego? Where where do I need? Where do I need to lovell up in my thinking right now and then because you have to get your heart right before you asses last question? What would you have me do right now to build your kingdom? This is shorter episode friend and we will I do have plans to record these upcoming episodes about identity. Marriage parenting home management finance. All of that but I felt like this was a tally. Message that needed to happen. And I really do. Pray that That this gets better if if it is better if this is a week from what I'm recording this and you're listening to it in the world's a better place Hope that that you don't forget the wakeup call. God gave his children so many wakeup calls before he delivered. True Correction. And so I I pray for that. Correction pray that you heed the warning. If the world is worse I just want you to know that he is still in control. He is still on the throne. You know. There's a song that I listened to often on Youtube It's the King of my heart. I love it I love but she says something she kind of just starts praising and like worshiping just You know randomly like shoot. She is not part of the song but she starts singing. He doesn't fall off of his throne. He doesn't he is still on the throne. He is in control of all of this. None of this surprises him. And I'm going to ask you to just trust him to just trust him and ask those questions. All right God. Bless your weak. God bless your family. And I'll talk to you later. We hope you enjoyed this episode of the Kingdom mob. Podcast don't forget to head over to kingdom on PODCAST DOT COM and click membership to join our community of Kingdom moms. You can also check out the free ultimate mom binder video course. We'll see next time kingdom mom.
Top 3 Money Hacks
"Welcome To The Kingdom mom podcast. I'm your host Lindsay Anderson founder of Kingdom on coaching and helping homeschool.com here at Kingdom mom we grow together, and I thought T marriage parenting home management and in our finances. We would love for you to join our community go to Kingdom on podcast.com to join our paid monthly coaching, T. It's basically like the podcast but on steroids and you get to hear weekly coaching calls. Plus you get live VIP q and A's and we also have an affiliate program where you can actually earn while you learn, but you can also join our tribe of mom binder Masters. Absolutely free by taking our free ultimate mom binder video course, just go to Kingdom mom podcast. All right. Are you ready to take back your territory Kingdom Mom. Let's begin. Hey Kingdom moms and welcome back to another episode of the Kingdom on podcast. It's me Lindsey and we are continuing on wage. In a series about money, I get lots of questions about money all the time and that's really why we ended up creating the Kingdom on many many course. You can go check it out. It's a super inexpensive course at Kingdom on podcast., Of course, we'll also Link in the show notes so you can check it out, but I want to talk today about my top three money hacks. Now, we are completely debt-free wage went from literally broke broke to completely debt-free. We've got six streams of income. Currently. We range anywhere from 5 to 7, depending on the time of year and we are finally Financial secure. I don't consider us wealthy. I consider us on our way to Building Wealth. That's what I always tell everybody. But I do have some money hacks as to how we got there. Now. I see if you want all the money hacks. Go ahead and take the Kingdom on money many course, but here are my top three favorite money hacks that I recommend everybody. Try number one song. When is separate accounts now, you're going to find out pretty quick that we do not do zero based budgeting that means where you literally have a category for absolutely every single expense and there's a dollar assigned to every single category. We don't do that. We actually budget us personally we budget and percentages and I highly highly recommend home to be successful with this you need to have separate accounts. So we budget we have 70% that we actually live off of. Okay. So that means any time we get paid 70% actually stays in our checking account 10% immediately gets transferred into a giving account 10% also goes into a wealth account. And right now we have 10% going into savings for big purchases. We might be adjusting those at some point. That's the beauty of it is you can just it how and when depending on your personal needs and as your income increases your job. Going to need to live off of 70% and so you can live off of 50% if your income increase is enough and then you can maybe invest 30% Okay, so you get to change it as needed. That's the beauty of it. So but here's why you want separate accounts. If you try let me tell you friend. If you try if you think that you're going to keep it all in one account and actually stick with it. You will not you will not okay. So yes, we have a giving checking account off and that money gets transferred into the giving checking account. And when we tithe we pay with a giving debit card out of the giving checking account, and we also have a wealth-building in accounts. Okay. So again that money gets transferred to the wealth-building account. And now some of you might say, why don't you just transfer into your investment account? Well, sometimes we want money to go to an investment account and sometimes maybe we're saving up for Real Estate or maybe we want to make an investment into either one of our businesses. Right? And so that money goes into the wealth-building account immediately and we make the decision about where that money goes later. Okay, that's a separate division. But the money needs to immediately go into that other account same thing with savings. We have a separate savings account. We don't put our wealth building in our savings together. We don't put our wealth building in our emergency fund together. We don't put are giving in our emergency fund together. It's all separate accounts. If you open up y'all my Wells Fargo bank account. I bet any time I go to the bank they are just like well this lady is got so many accounts because we do we have our checking we have our business accounts. We have business savings accounts we have well that like every single month. Of them has separate accounts, but that is probably one of the number one things that has kept us on track and kept us from cheating. Okay, and it's really kind of fun to see all of those accounts grow it brings you a whole new level of security to know that the money that's in your checking account is not your only money right off. It's super fun to see those counts grow. So hack number two is pay yourself first. That means don't wait to do the transfers. Okay. Now obviously the very first one that you need to do is giving okay. That is always okay I sit down and no joke every single time. I do it in the exact same order. There's a psychological principle to it. The very first transfer that I do is to the giving account why priorities I want to make sure Sure. That giving is in my number one priority. It's making its showing God that I am grateful for the blessing and I'm given that 10% back. Okay, so that's that's a very first transfer every single time. I never do this out of order. I'm almost a little OCD about it. I mean I'm you know Grace with everything. So if you happen to do it a little bit down ordered don't sweat it but it's a heart. It's a posturing of my heart. So I always do the giving transfer first. Then the next one that I do is to the wealth account I pay myself Before I pay my bills, I do not go into my checking account and pay all of my bills and then do my transfers the transfers happen June 1st. Why because if you don't do the transfers first, the transfers won't happen. If you don't do the transfers first, the transfers won't happen. Trust me on this do the transfers first before you go grocery shopping before you go regular shopping before you buy the thing that you think you need em, do the transfers first pay yourself first and you will we won't lack for anything because your wealth account will always be increasing your emergency fund will be funded back if you do not cheat him. All right, and then my number three pack and this is more of a recent one that I have absolutely fallen in love with there's going to be a link to this app. Show notes highly recommend it and if you'd use that link, we'd really appreciate it. Cuz we are an affiliate of theirs is the acorns app and I talked about this a little bit last week when I was talking about kids because on the acorns app, you can actually set up an investment account for your kids, but it's an app that you download on your phone. Okay, and it we you can tie it to whichever Club cards you want. You can actually get an acorns debit card. If you want to we don't have that but we have it tied to our credit card. So we have a credit card that we use for airline miles. We put almost everything off and we pay it off every single week. That's just our comfort level. We pay it off every single Friday I go in and pay that sucker off cuz I'm not having any credit card debt. Okay, but then we get the award that we get the rewards we get the free flights. Okay, so we do that so we have our acorns app attached to our credit card. We also have it attached wage. Debit card, okay. Now you can make one time transfers into your investment account. So you can set up an investment account ended a retirement account like an IRA. Okay. So different tax things going on there depends on what you're going to be using that money for. Okay. So you set up the investment account you get to decide how you're investing money investing aggressively. Are you investing moderately you get to pick based on your comfort level. I love it because a lot of it is in EFT is dividend-paying stock. I absolutely love going there and seeing that. Oh, look at that. I got paid some dividends. I love it. Okay, so you can make one-time transfer you can make a monthly transfer. So if you want to transfer $100 at the end of the month every single month or a weekly, you can do that. Okay. However, this is my favorite thing about this app. There's something called roundups. So that means that when I swipe my credit card at the grocery store dog It rounds up that purchase to the next dollar and invests the change. This is such a sneaky way to boost your home health such a sneaky way because you don't even notice it. You don't even notice it you don't even miss the money. I absolutely love this app. You are subconsciously. Investing you are subconsciously building your wealth absolutely loved it. So there you go. Those are my top three money hacks that I highly recommend you do see that there's more information the show notes. Hope you guys have a great week. God bless. We hope you enjoyed this episode of the Kingdom mom podcast. Don't forget to head on over to Kingdom on podcast.com and click membership to join our community of Kingdom mom's you can also check out free ultimate mom binder video course. We'll see you next time Kingdom mom.
Kingdom Mom Story
"Welcome to the kingdom mom podcast. I'm your host Lindsay Anderson Founder of Kingdom coaching and helping home school dot Com. Here are King Demaim Demaim. We grow together in identity marriage parenting home management and in our finances. We would love for you to join our community go go to kingdom on PODCAST DOT COM to join paid monthly coachie community. It's basically like the podcast but on steroids and you get to hear weekly coaching coaching calls. Plus you get live. VIP QNA's and we also have an affiliate program where you can actually earn while you learn but you can also join our tribe of mom binder masters absolutely free by taking our free ultimate mom binder video course just go to kingdom mom podcasts dot com. All right are are you ready to take back your territory king. Demaim let's begin. Hey Kingdom mom so This episode is going to be different different and you may have noticed that we have a different intro. Yet because we launch our new Website Kingdom coaching dot com or super duper excited about it It's been a big undertaking over the last few months And I'm GonNa talk about a little little bit today about the transition that we're making but this episode is GonNa be different because we're not doing an interview. You're actually going to be hearing from me today. So if you're new to the kingdom podcast welcome welcome a usually we do interviews in fact the only other episode where it was just me talking was literally our intro episode which was the very first episode but when I started the kingdom on podcast I actually had this vision of it being kind of a hybrid podcast odd cast. which if you don't know what that means that means that we do a combination of interviews but also just delivering like coaching content to you and so But we just have been doing interviews because the interviews had been being so powerful and they've been having such a positive impact on people But we decided to kind of start to sprinkle in some episodes where is just me talking. And so we hope that you will will give us some feedback. You know message me on facebook or send me something on Instagram at home school which might actually be changing soon because because we'll probably create a kingdom mom INSTAGRAM but Send me a message and let me know like. Do you prefer the interviews. Do you prefer the ones we're just I'm talking Or do you like the fact that we're doing both and that we kind of have a little bit of both. You can learn a little bit for me. You can learn a bit from some of these other powerhouse. Women like Aaron Hudson and Taryn Laker and some of these awesome people who've been hearing from so let us know because we want to serve you we want to deliver liver content that you actually Learn From and enjoy and so let us know what it is that you like but Yeah we have a new platform so today I wanNA talk about I'm going to do a little storytelling and I wanNA talk about a kind of the journey of kingdom mom and how it's developed over the last year in in other like future podcasts episodes. I'll probably talk more about like actual coaching content. But sometimes they think story Of a brand and kind of how this all developed can actually be a lesson in itself so today We're GONNA chitchat about how kingdom mom came to be so for for those of you who don't know me like you haven't necessarily followed me on facebook Or because facebook is kind of where hang out like you know we all kind of have a social media platform where we just just hang out more often and I hang out on facebook and it's not I don't even have like yes. We have pages for our brand but honestly hang out on a personal profile profile Lindsay Anderson. So that's where I'm at We also have a an awesome group called MOM binder masters Where because we have have a free course on our website that's called the ultimate mom binder? It's a video courses like a three day video course and we have faced but group of like at this time the the time that I'm recording this it's like over seven hundred people at this point which is mind blowing to me But it's like this awesome community where we all talk about the MOM binder. It's a group of MOMS and so that's where I hang out so you can you know message me there or whatever but if you haven't followed me on facebook if in you like really just don't know who I am. You might be like who. Who is this kingdom? Mom Lady who is Lindsay Anderson Today. I'm GonNa talk about that so a few years back so we're going to go probably like seven years back I was broken. I was a broken person Marriage was falling apart ahead just given birth for my first daughter and I was definitely suffering from some postpartum stuff. We were broke in terms of money. We were living in a small apartment. Ed's we were renting it and we just didn't have enough money. We were super stressed out Like I said I was suffering from postpartum issues and my husband was just not being the best guy at the time and our marriage was kinda fallen apart and I was kind of convinced that money was Gonna fix all my problems which tends to be a theme and humanity that we all think money's GonNa fix all of our problems But actually what I didn't realize is is The journey that I was going to go on because of that mindset was actually going to be life changing for me I started did a home business like many women. Do I started a home business and I thought I'M GONNA figure this out. I am going to make a bunch of money in this because my husband certainly not going to make any money Because I kind of had decided that he was just GonNa be you know. Worthless is Kinda. It sounds awful now that I say it. But that's what I had decided at the time. was that my husband was basically just going to be worthless and I was going to have to figure out how to support our family because if he was in charge we were never gonNa have enough money and that was literally the mindset that I had about my husband it was awful and wicked and terrible and I was so so wrong but I couldn't see that at the time I couldn't see that I was maybe part of the problem because I didn't want to admit that I was doing anything wrong and so I started doing personal development because I had a mentor Who helped me get started at my home business? And they do ten minutes of personal development every single single day and I didn't really follow any of the other directions at that person gave me but for some reason I've followed that one and I started doing personal development development and I read a few books. One of those books was called the compound effect by Darren Hardy Great Book highly. Encourage you to go read it But I learned learned in that book that About the compound effect and so it's like a little behavior. Every single day compound it over time. It's like compound interest with money right. It grows and grows and grows. And there's this huge snowball effect in your life and I remember after reading that book. I decided okay. I'm going to like keep doing this personal development thing and I'm going to have the compound effect work on my behalf and I'm going to do ten minutes of personal development every single day for the rest of my life. I don't know why I made that decision but I just did and it will literally change the course course of the rest of my life in my life has never been the same sense. It's definitely had some rocky seasons but it's never been the same sense and so I started doing more and more personal development. I started attending Danny Johnson events. which if you've been listening to the podcast you've heard several people talk about any Johnson because a lot out of the people that I've interviewed are actually people that I met From the Danny Johnson Community Just amazing awesome people who have been on a very similar journey to mine of self improvement and personal development and just all of the things that have happened in their lives. A lot of breakthroughs and relationships a lot of breach breakthroughs in parenting parenting and marriage and in business and I just I just dove into the personal development world and I started to see some success in that business but definitely You know Kinda kept hitting some brick walls and My husband a few years later after our marriage was healed because I started to do some personal development and realize that I was maybe part of the problem as well. I mean he definitely had some issues that he had overcome as well but I was also a huge part of the problem and I started to take ownership for what I was doing wrong in my marriage and in my life and once I started taking ownership and stop playing the victim card and started looking at. Okay what is it that I can. Actually you know fix six and control. My life started to get a lot better and we paid off. Eighty thousand dollars worth of debt. We bought a house and and we had two more kids and my life just started getting better but my husband got in an accident. He was hit He was in a crosswalk when he was hit by a drunk driver Miraculously he survived. He spent several days in the ICU. He suffered a traumatic brain injury. but by God's grace he was completely healed and Other than some word recall issues. He he was he. He does not have any type of brain like permanent brain damage. In fact his word recall has gotten better too so Yeah the fact that he is alive is a miracle but the fact that he is alive and does not have permanent brain damage also miraculous. And I'm so grateful for that every single day of my life but The day that he got in that accident I actually stepped away from my business and for about six to nine months. I did not have any type of side hustle and it was the first time in years that I hadn't had some sort of side hustle and I wasn't making any And money because I had worked that business enough that I could leave my job and so I was no longer working fulltime as working from home but then I decided to step away from that business and so we were kind of starting to have some financial struggles again Because I wasn't making any money and my husband couldn't work because he had just gotten into an accident and so After about six months I was really starting to feel lost and frustrated and I I I realized through some self reflection that I actually need some sort of side hustle. Like it's a desire of mine to be making money In some aspect and to have some sort of work that I am doing and contributing tributing A real is not. Everybody has that and if you don't have that that's okay But I definitely have that and so I wanted to be working and I needed something. Something outside of being mom Two three beautiful daughters at that time it was just too yet but I needed something outside of being mom 'cause I was also home schooling and I still homeschool. I needed something outside of that. I needed some sort of whether it was a hobby. You know whether made money or not. I honestly didn't even care at that point. I just just needed something and so I started a clothing Boutique Out of my home. I started a clothing boutique and a a youtube channel. And I was really starting to see some success in that I was You know doing in home boutiques I was having people. Oh come shop at my house. I was doing online sales and I was starting to really put myself out there on social media For the first time in like actually Shauwie being valuable on social media adding value to people's lives. And doing you know the facebook lives and just actually creating content and I was starting to Z.. Might influence grow and I was starting to see my audience grow and My Bank account was starting to reflect that. And so I hired an assistant for the first time and I was really starting to see some of the stuff flourish and then My health took a dive right because as soon as life gets it's all rainbows and butterflies. Something comes out you doesn't it That's just the way life goes and so my health really started to take a dive and I suffered two miscarriages and and I was having support Onell issues anyway and so I was supplementing With progesterone because my body wasn't creating enough on its own own to to hold onto a pregnancy and so I got pregnant with our third daughter and I was supplementing with progesterone and then on top of all my health issues that I was already having I was now first trimester pregnant. And for those of you who've ever been first trimester pregnant You know that can actually be a really rough time so I was so tired. I was nauseous. I was just like plus ahead all my other health problems going on to so I actually had to stop working And I took a step away from my boutique Because I couldn't do it. I literally couldn't physically function and take care of my responsibilities. We actually even stopped homeschooling for like a month because I just couldn't do it and so I actually had a girlfriend of mine introduced me to A health product a health regimen. I should say that was was full. Disclosure was part of an MLM network marketing type of opportunity. But she wasn't presenting it to me in that way she was literally presenting it to me in the respective like. I really think that this might help you. And so I got started with that and it really was helping me had no intention of really doing the business because I already had my clothing boutique and I was finally able to do my clothing boutique again and I was making sales. I was making decent money with my clothing boutique at the time And had no intention of doing another home business But I started to see how it was helping me how it was helping my family and my mom got great results with it and so I thought. Okay I'm just GONNA share this with people and Have to tell you friends when you've done personal development and you've done sales training and you've put in the work to learn. Learn those skills. They kind of just naturally come out of you and when you've worked to build your influence and I'm not going to say that this accidentally happened because it didn't I put in the work for this to happen but it was because of the skills that I had learned in the prior years that I started lid just a couple of hours a week like literally maybe two hours a week sharing this health product with people and within in six months I had earned a cruise and I had gotten on the leadership retreat with this company and the leadership. Retreat was a trip to Bora Bora. Now I don't know if you Know where Bora Bora is or have ever done any research about vacations to Bora Bora but we. This was the leadership retreat that was at the four seasons in Bora Bora which is like one of the most sought after resorts in the world and literally. If we would have a bucket list trick always wanted to go to Bora Bora but it literally cost anywhere from like twenty to thirty thousand dollars to go to Bora Bora because if you're going to go to scoreboard it's an expensive flight Because you have to yeah. It's it's expensive and then like it's the place with all the over water bungalows and like there's not a cheap hotel in Bora Bora. There's not a cheaper resort and Bora Bora. It's like all of them are like two grand a night so like none of them are all inclusive so like the food and everything is extra. You guys get what I'm saying and it's not cheap to eat in Bora Bora. It's like your breakfast is fifty dollars. So yeah so a trip to Bora Bora Flights Hotel Food and everything for a week is definitely going to run you up late. Twenty to thirty thousand thousands dollars. It's a lot And I earned that trip through this network marketing company and and That was really eye opening to me because I was I had never really pictured myself as was a leader in that way like I had been Building influence but I never considered myself an influencer. If you know what I mean like people throw around the term influence or nowadays like Youtube influence or Instagram influencers social media. Influence there right But the truth is is that we actually all have influence. Lewis is just a matter as to like how are we using it and are we doing it intentionally or are we just kind of being random about it and so for the first time. I started to see that. Oh Lake I have influence like I've been building building influence and I had been building at like just Kinda naturally because I had been doing all these facebook lives and I kind of like been just providing value in like coaching people in like teaching people what it was that I knew and I'd been teaching people in business just like for free on social media right and and through my facebook and all of this and I started the to realize like people were reaching out to me for advice and they had been for years at this point. People would ask me to sit down with them and go over their finances finances and like help them pay off debt and help them figure out different ways that they could make money in different income streams and where were they overspending and and I had women coming to me asking me like how do I fix my marriage and hey I just found out. My husband's been cheating on me. What do I do 'cause I don't WanNA leave him ORLYK? Hey you know this is going on in my marriage. Can you help me walk me through this and I had just been helping these people and I have just been like having these conversations and then based on those conversations I would do I would create content like around those subjects and people were like your your contents like changing my life and so Yeah that's that's what was going on. Meanwhile L. Keep in mind the compound effect rate every single day I was doing personal development every single day I was doing personal growth. I was going to personal growth events. I was is reading. I was listening to podcasts. I was paying for courses. I was doing all of this work on myself at the same time. In having all of these breakthroughs in my life And now I was making money with multiple streams of income. Now after I earned the trip to Bora Bora. I did end up up closing down a boutique because I realized that because the boutique was a lot of lake. Physical Labor like it was a lot of time and a lot of manpower because we were shipping out stuff and it's taking up a lot of space and You know I was constantly having to do inventory like it was time consuming man. I was quickly realizing that. There are other ways that I could make just as much if not more money without actually putting in all of the time and energy and Labour There were other smarter ways for me to make money so I ended up actually closing the Batik and I was working on the network marketing business but then at the same time Trying to come up with 'cause I I'm a believer in having multiple streams dreams of income if you do you know any research into wealthy people. A lot of them have multiple streams of income We also had had a you know a rental property at the time so we had we had different income streams going on. We had you know we were learning about wealth building from Aman named Hans Johnsen. He has a great APP. If you go download it's called the wealth builder APP. And he has this great program called True Wealth Formula and he doesn't tell you what to invest in or anything he teaches you how to create a wealth-building system that works for your personality. Works for your marriage just a great honestly a great system awesome. He teaches you how to be a smart investor. No matter what it is that you're investing in and so we were doing all of that. So we had created several streams of income anyway and so Two Thousand Nineteen the your that. We're currently in the Azam recording this. It's currently October over or when you're listening to this it might be November of two thousand eighteen but two thousand nineteen was about to start and I thought okay What do I want to do it because I had already kind of created a base of income from my network marketing business and we had some other streams of income going? I was like what I WANNA learn how to do now. Like if power to create another stream of income. What would I want to do? And I thought I've always wanted to learn sales funnels and I know what sales funnels are. But I've always wanted to create my own sales funnel so I was like how cool it'd be to have a blog and somehow like create a funnel so that there's automatic sales happening like while. I'm sleeping like that. Sounds pretty cool. That would be a good skill to learn and so in two thousand nineteen. I was like I'm GonNa Learn blogging and I'M GONNA learn how to monetize a blog and so I did some investigating decided who I was Gonna learn from because you know you ha I realize In personal development that you get what you pay for when it comes to education and so I knew that I was probably GonNa have to pay somebody to teach me how to monetize a blog and to do it well well and I wanted to learn from somebody who didn't just blog about blogging. I wanted to learn from somebody who had built a blog and now mentored people so so I learned from the people at create and go and I'll put the link to that because we are an affiliate for them. So I'll put the link to that in in the show notes but if you just go to hoping homeschool dot com slash pro blogger. Bundle pro blogger bundle You'll find it so hoping homeschool dot com slash pro blogger bundle and you'll see like the different courses that they offer but that's who I decided to learn from I've done my investigating And I was was happy with the reviews and I thought okay. WELL WE'RE CASE SCENARIO MATT A few hundred bucks if this totally stinks But I learned from them and I said to myself at the beginning of two two thousand nineteen so keep in mind. This was you know. Eleven months ago I said okay. I'm GONNA give myself a year to kind of work on this as like a fun side project. I'M GONNA dedicate time to it but I'm GONNA give myself a year before it actually makes any money. That's what I'm GonNa do and so I started a blog. I decided I was going to start a blog about homeschooling because I don't know I just thought that that seemed like a good idea because I was a home schooler. I was like okay. This is I feel like I have maybe some knowledge in this area so I started a blog called hope and homeschool dot com. And you can go to hope at home. School Dot Com In fact it's a great website. Go check it out. So I started that blog and I started to implement the things that the create eight and go people Alex Lauren were teaching me and these people had built. You know several six-figure blogs in fact they make six figures a month now now blogging. It's kind of mind boggling. To me but They they know what they're talking about. And so I started started the process and within just a few months I was already seeing that I was making some affiliate sales which was pretty cool Like not a lot just you know maybe like a few hundred dollars a month but I was like hey. This is actually happening in a little bit faster than I thought it was going a two and so I started Because they say you know like build your email list you need to have you know some sort of if you're GONNA do a sales funnel most of the time not always but a lot of times you have like some sort of free content at the top of your sales funnel and so I was like okay. Well I don't necessarily know what to do. And they say you build a funnel towards somebody else's product before you we'll insert your own product before you create your own product and the reason for that is because you wanna see what it is that your audience actually responds to you Before you create your own product I was like okay cool and so I created a video. Of course 'cause you know a lot of people like have their freebies like free pedia for the free this or free that and I thought so. Here's a little business tip little bonus business tip. I thought I they never give my email address for a pdf. I never do because I'm like I'm going to get emails from this person and I I don't want their stink in PDF. I don't want it. It's just annoying and so I thought what would what would I be willing to give my email address for for now. It's like a free course like a free like course of content. That's actually valuable and actually GonNa fix something in my life and so so I had kind of created this. This mom binder I had learned from the Fly Lady and a few other people. I had kind of combined all of these things that I learned earned in my personal development. You know journey and I had created kind of the system for myself That was my mom binder and I was like I am going. They do a video course teaching people how to make this how to make one for themselves because it's true all formula it's a system so everybody's is different rate based on your personality but I can teach them how to I teach them the system of how to create their own for their own life and so I created a three Step like a three day video course. So it's actually videos where people could get to know me decide if they wanted to hang out with me so I created a three day course called the ultimate mom binder video course and if you go to hope and Homeschool Dot Com right now you can sign up for that course. It's IT'S A. It was wildly successful. I could not believe Steve How many people started signing up for it and then people were using it and implementing it and then like raving on social media about the free course and I was like okay? This is good and they're like you should charge for this and I was like well. No because I want you know I want to build a relationship up by crew creating value and having good content which is huge. Like business. WanNa one you have to. You have to give valuable content and have to put value out into into the world and a lot of times. You have to do it for free because you have to build trust with people and so that's what I did and I was funneling. I I was like what do what product do I funnel to. And so there there are only a few people that I really really recommend out in the personal development worlds and one of them add like like literally right. Now I'm GonNa talk about probably my biggest competitor but I'm going to talk about her because whatever she doesn't have a scarcity mines that neither do I Her name's Hannah Kelly and she has This program called Mastery University and I had been a part of it and you know I learned a lot of valuable things from her. It was really good personal development. You know she's a Christian and I liked that. It was like biblically based and got a ton of value from Hanna. Kiely is a great human being And she also has a podcast that you can go listen to. I think it's called that mom show but she's awesome Have nothing bad to say about Hanna. Kiely even though technically she would be considered my competition competition but I started funneling people towards my mastery and I became an affiliate for my mastery because they told me the creek and go people said you know funnel towards something else else anyway and so people were I had created the sales funnel people were signing up for mom mastery. I was getting affiliate commissions and I went on a cruise because remember that cruise that I told you that I earned I went on that cruise and I brought my girlfriend. Tina Gina with me. which if you've been listening to the podcast you know we did a whole interview series with Ecksteen and Taryn who I also did an interview series with was was also on that cruise? Also Michelle masked who we just finished having An interview series with these three women were on this cruise with me and We're all three not huge on cruises like we're just not. We're just not like the party girls and so we bought passes to the SPA. which did you know that if you go on a cruise you can just buy spa pass for the entire week and then you can just go hang out in the SAUNAS and stuff and so that's what we did and we were sitting in the Sauna? One day we're having this conversation and we were talking about how sometimes the thing that is. Show that that is is your area of expertise is so commonplace to you it so every day to you that you don't even see it right. You can't even see it because it's so right in front of your face and I was like okay. That's true and it really got me thinking and so I said okay ladies. What's the thing that's right in front of my face that I'm not seeing seeing right because I had an epiphany I was like? Oh so maybe. There's something that I'm not seeing here and and I said to them. I said okay if I was going to teach people something if what what is it and my girlfriend's God bless them so the fact that you're listening to this podcast. You need to thank my girlfriends that were on that cruise because it was. They're the ones who were like adult. Lindsey they said Lindsay. You need to be coaching women. You need to be coaching MOMS. They're like we see you with your kids. We see you in your marriage ridge. You need to be coaching other moms. And so I sat there and An immediately ahead an objection because we all tend to come up with excuses right away and I was like well but I don't want to compete with mastery because I love mom mastery So that was my objection. I don't want to compete because I love and respect Hanna Kiely so much I was like I don't want to compete and then I was like but really I'm a freckle on a but compared to Hannah Kelly was like she probably does not view me as competition but that was my objection and I went home and I was started thinking about this and I I was like you know. But here's the thing is it's not competition it's different perspective and it's different because because they're things that she teaches that I don't teach and there's things that I'm going to teach that she doesn't teach and so I thought okay. There's a way that I can do this respectfully so I actually I actually like reached out to to the mom mastery people and let them know that this is something that I was going to do and they were so awesome about it. This is why I'm actually talking about Hannah. Kelly in this podcast because the way that she she her staff responded to what I was saying was so honoring and respectful. I was so impressed by the fact that they do not have the scarcity mentality talapity because That month I was literally one of their top affiliates and basically was saying. Hey buy 'em leaving and the they they were so supportive so incredibly supportive. And so that's why I I literally have nothing but amazing things to say about them because I just so respect the way that they handled that situation and so I always tell people we'll do both do both have more than one. Peer Person Speaking into your life please. In fact that is just a wise thing thing to do is have more than one person speaking into your life and so I was getting ready to launch a thirty day. Mom binder challenge group kind. The thing and I thought okay. I want to at the end of the Screw Funnel People Towards my coaching and I thought Oh crap I have four four weeks I have four weeks to either create a course or create some sort of membership website to be a coaching platform. I I don't even know what I'm going to call it and so literally kingdom mom was birthed within three weeks because it actually only took me three weeks to get. The website launched had no idea friend. I had no idea how to podcast. I had no idea how to record coaching calls. I had had no idea how to start a membership website. I had I had never even created my own shopping cart or anything before and like the blog was only a few months old. I had just created the MOM binder course and people were starting to do it and I was like Oh man I have have just a few weeks to like get my you know what together and get this launched but we did and it's called Kingdom and we started this coaching platform and I honestly did not know what to expect. Had No idea what to expect I was like I'm GonNa launch this thing and like three people are going to sign up. Anybody signs up like three people are going to sign up. I was so like nervous. I was like I'm going to pour all my guts into this thing and then nobody's GonNa like care right. How many of you have ever had that fear and so Within the first a few weeks fifteen people signed up like this is awesome. Okay fifteen people of like this is good because my original goal was ten. I was like if I can get ten people. That's GONNA be awesome. And so oh I have to tell you friend. Is Ben such a crazy journey because the podcast started shortly thereafter because I wanted to create some sort of free content for people to plug into as well But also you know like I said you need to put valuable content out there for free for people as well so that they can get to know you and get to like they get to decide. Are you somebody that I wanNA hang out with. Are you somebody that I care to learn from. And so That's what I did. And we launched the kingdom on podcast and within the first few weeks it was well actually within the first week it was on the new note worthy less and people were like raving about on social media. And they're like these interviews are changing my life and I was and then people that were in the kingdom mom paid community in the membership website kept kept talking about how that coaching was like changing their life and they were talking about how their marriages were healing and about how their homes were peaceful in about how they finally had like peace within themselves and their relationship with God with strengthening and I was just like wow people actually care about this and then the memberships memberships kept growing and growing and growing to the point that we actually stopped like we we close enrollment so enrollment only opens every once it's in a while and the reason why I'm not saying certain time as we're still trying to figure out what the sweet spot is like. Do we open it once a month to we open once a quarter so we don't actually currently no at the time that I'm recording this. What that sweet spot is yet? We're still trying to figure that out but we only open enrollment every once in a while now so that new waves of people can kind of start at the same time time but we've grown to like seventy members in the last few months just because people keep talking about it and You know I know of membership websites that have like five thousand people so realize seventy is like whatever but seventy to me is huge. Considering the fact that when when I started that I was expecting ten but It's just been such an awesome journey and I. I wanted to do this podcast episode. Because I wanted you to kind of hear the story of what is Kingdom Lake. Where did this come from wise? This podcast here. Who who is this person? What Is Kingdom Coaching but in Kingdom coaching we talk about identity is the core of everything we talk about marriage? We talk about parenting. We talk about managing your home so like the mom binder but on steroids and then we talk about money we talk about paying off debt. We talk about Creating creating income streams and The different solutions we talk about wealth building strategies and the systems that my husband and I use to bill wealth And it's just been so much fun we actually At the time that I'm recording this by the time you listen to it the event will already happened. But we you're actually putting on our very first event This coming weekend. So we're really excited about that is just spend like such a crazy journey so Like like I said in some other episodes where it's just me talking. I'm going to be doing more like kind of coaching content. I guess but I felt like I owed you guys an explanation Shen of like. Why am I even here? What this is how kingdom mom came to be about To see you Kinda just so you Kinda knew so let us know now If you like these kind of episodes where it's you know me talking or if you're like Lindsey we don't want to hear from you we want to hear from the interviews or if you like the combination of both I so WanNa know so send me a message. Let us know We would love to have you as part of the Kingdom paid community so we have A basic membership in a VIP. Salami explain that the basic membership. We'd we do coaching calls every single week. And we upload them came But then as basic number you get access to that you could access to our facebook group. you get access to principles different things like that different worksheets. And then we have a VIP membership now the VIP membership actually most people end up doing the VIP membership for a few reasons. We do live coaching calls. where it's QNA and you can literally early asked me anything and people do? y'All have learnt pretty personal things about me but We do q a where you can literally ask anything we can talk about your specific Pacific. Business your specific intellectual property your specific courses. You know like whatever it is that you want to build your specific marriage your specific kids. We talk about that and it's a group coaching but you can submit questions but also with the VIP membership you also get access to an affiliate the at program. Because you know I'm all about income streams if you haven't figured that out already and I believe in affiliate programs like I told you affiliate for that blogger. I wasn't affiliate for mastery. I'm an affiliate for several different things but then we also created an affiliate program so as a VIP member when you refer other people to kingdom mom you earn a forty percent commission so that persons Membership you get forty percent of that. Every month there are member so it's not just a one time it's every month so we wanted to also you make it so that people could pay for their memberships and actually earn money. Because I don't have to put in the work of lake signing those people up because you did it is so you get commission for that so We'd love to have you as part of that community you can go to kingdom coaching If enrollments open because as
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"Welcome to the Kingdom Mom podcast I'm your host Lindsay Anderson Founder of Kingdom coaching and helping homeschool dot com. Here are King Demaim we grow together in identity marriage parenting home management, and in our finances we would love for you to join our community. Go to kingdom on podcast. Dot Com to join paid monthly coach community. It's basically like the podcast but on steroids and you get to hear weekly coaching halls plus you get live the IP QNA's, and we also have an affiliate program where you can actually earn while you learn but you can also join our tribe of mom binder masters absolutely free by taking our free ultimate mom binder video course just go to kingdom mom podcasts dot com. All right. Are you ready to take back your territory King Demaim? Let's begin. Hey King moms and welcome back to another episode of the Kingdom podcasts. This is my favorite topic that we're about to talk about one of my favorite topics if you've listened to any of the podcasts or if you are one of the members of Kingdom coaching you now that I totally thoroughly Geek Out about this topic and it has to do with creating income streams, I have a lot to say about this and I'm GonNa try to get it all. In one episode we'll see we might have to end up making this to episodes, but I get asked a lot of questions about this because I think. We just naturally attract who we are. So I tend to get a lot of MOMS especially homeschooling MOMS, but a lot of MOMS who have a desire to build some sort of an income stream. Now, I always like to make this disclaimer in that is if you do not desire to create some type of income stream, that's okay. You're worth as a mom you're worth as a woman you're worth a human being on this planet has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not you create income streams is something that I thoroughly enjoy and I like to share because I, have found of freedom and peace in creating multiple streams of income. So. Many of you have probably heard about diversifying your portfolio. I never used to actually know what that meant I. Didn't even I didn't know what they meant by portfolio, but basically diversifying your portfolio essentially means that you have all of your investments whether it's stocks real estate, all of that, and the point of diversifying them is you manage your risk more and you create more security so that if one of those investments flop, not all of them will so like, for example, if you put all of your eggs in one basket like all of your eggs and real estate. And the the the real estate market tanks right. Then you might have issues but if you have some dividend paying stocks ETF's some real estate, whatever you diversifying your portfolio well I actually. Believe in diversifying your income streams which can have to do with investments but I think there is so much power in diversifying your income streams and we've actually been working on this for several years. Now, probably for the last five years with working on this and I really have to say that it's been a huge blessing to us this year because of Covid, nineteen my husband he was still working fulltime job when the pandemic started he's actually working fulltime from home now. But when the pandemic started, he was working a fulltime job still and he got a furloughed. And so his income was basically gone from that job however because we had been diversifying our income streams for the last I, don't know five ish years. We were fine. We were fine and we were so so fortunate there's nothing special about us or not better than anybody else. We just happened to have more income streams and so I'm very passionate about teaching people how to do this because it's not actually. It's not actually really as out there as you think it, it's something that's actually really quite attainable. Now, income streams right now we usually range anywhere from five to seven depending on. The time of. Year. Income streams can really be anything. Some of them can be small. You can have an income stream that's like one to five hundred dollars a month, right? That's an income stream. You have income streams that makes thousands of dollars a month so it's not necessarily that. They're all GonNa make the same amount some make more than others, but the goal is to have it so that You can pay your bills if one of them went away my rule of thumb is that if our biggest income stream went away. Could we still pay our bills? That's that's my big question that I always ask myself especially before we take on additional expenses or before we make transition like, for example, my husband working full time from home it's like okay. So if we if you're working fulltime from home and our biggest income stream disappeared tomorrow, could we still pay our bills and until the answer that question was? Yes my husband actually kept US fulltime job. So this is definitely i. mean this is kingdom mom podcast. So this content is going to be more for months and a lot of these things and share with you are things that you could do as a stay at home mom if you so choose if you so choose. Okay. So I'M GONNA go through this list. And these some of these I've done some of these I have not personally done but I know lots of stay at home moms who do these things okay. So the first one is some sort of ECOMMERCE. So this would be where you actually have flake physical product that you sell online. Maybe you have an FC shop, maybe you're doing drop shipping or something like that. Okay But. It's where you actually buy the products wholesale and you sell them online. So that is one example, another example. Is Blogging. Blogging I actually when when people would talk about blogging I had no idea that bloggers made money literally had no idea and then I would hear about people who like blog D- fulltime for a living I'm like, how like hoop? Who's paying you understand so here's how that works. Okay. So bloggers, it's a lot like any type of influence or if you're an influence or an instagram or youtube or Tiktok or even facebook sometimes. If. You're. If you have an audience companies will pay you. They'll do partnerships with you. some people, call them brand deals where a company will approach you and say, Hey, would you represent our product and if it's a good fit with what you do, you do that I have actually had a few offers to do that for this podcast. I've had a few offers for instagram with I don't even understand because instagram is literally my smallest. smallish social media following. But Had A few. But a lot of times especially in the beginning lake, I don't know like they just haven't been products or companies that really line up with my demographic or with the message that I have and so Yeah. So. Eventually, maybe that will be a stream of income for me but currently it's not but that is one way that that brands can make That influencers can make money is through brandon, however like a blogger influence or something like that. They can also make money from affiliate relationships and so what is an affiliate relationship? Okay. So what I love about affiliate income and one of my income streams is affiliate income. I am an affiliate for a blogging course. So if you go to hope and homeschool dot com for slash pro blogger bundle, you'll see it's the course that I took to learn blogging. I'll link in the show notes if blogging is something that you're interested in but I'm an affiliate for their brand. Okay. So it's not my product, but the people who sell that product have an affiliate program and that means that if you're approved for their affiliate program. You can refer people to them, and then anytime somebody purchases something you get a kickback from that kind of like a commission. Okay. Is Different than like direct sales or network marketing. It's different because it's just straight commission I selling a product. There's no building a team or anything like that. There's no recruitment. There's no like leveled levels to it where you earn off of the people that you recruit or your customers or anything like that. You just get that commission and that's it. Okay. Now, some companies have affiliate programs some don't, but a lot of companies have affiliate programs, a lot of companies some that you would not even think would have affiliate programs do and the best way to find out is to go to their website scroll all the way to the bottom till you get to the little menu and see if they have some sort of affiliate program. If it does not listed there, reach out to the company and and see if they have some sort of an affiliate program and the reason why companies do this is because you are doing, you've done the audience building you are basically giving them free advertising and so. They're just paying you a commission versus paying for some sort of marketing and actually brands that do this. It's incredibly smart. We are actually started doing it with kingdom is brands do this are really smart because they get the influencers right to really get behind their product and and the influence or is selecting them. So it's a perfect match for their audience. So this is how this works. We have an affiliate program for. Kingdom someone explain how that works. Okay. So for example, and we only offer it to our VIP members. So VIP only are the ones that get the affiliate program. So what what we do is we give them a link. Okay and whenever they refer somebody to kingdom mom and that person signs up for an account that affiliate earns a forty percent commission meaning that the person's membership fee, they get forty percent of that paid back to them every single month that that person's a member. Okay. So like And also people have to apply to kingdom. So when somebody applies and they say, oh, sally sue I heard about you from Sally. Sue and we were like Okay Sally Susan affiliate. We will actually send that person their affiliate link. So that gets attached to that person. Okay. So what's great about this? What's amazing about this is let's say that there is let's say that you have an instagram account with you know ten thousand followers. Okay. and. Kingdom something like kingdom you have maybe used and you like are like, okay. I can get behind this this product and it's in line with your target audience this. In this case, your target audience would probably be MOMS right? And then. All you do is mention it and be like hey. I have an affiliate link you tell people that you are in affiliate tell people that you're in partnership with them and say if you get started boom, there you go or like if you're a blogger, you would write a review blog. About the program and then attach your affiliate linked to it so that when somebody goes and signs up, if you're a Youtuber, you do a review video or you talk about it and some video and you link the video below so. Amazon has an affiliate program. but each affiliate program has certain requirements you have to sell so much as an Amazon affiliate to keep your affiliate with them. So but like big youtubers, for example, the microphone that I am holding in my hand right now. I bought from somebody's affiliate link on Youtube. So her name's Jessica stanbury she's the host of the grip podcasts hostess of Grip podcast and she's a huge youtuber and I was looking for podcasting microphones and a came across her video where she was reviewing the microphone that I have in my hand and I she said the link for it is below I knew it was affiliate link. So I click on it and purchase it and boom she got paid she doesn't even know me and she made money. So this is how a lot of these influencers are actually making money and then affiliate programs vary so some affiliate programs. You probably only GonNa make ten percent, and then I've seen him go all the way up to fifty percent before. So if you can get anywhere from like twenty to fifty percent, that is awesome. Especially, if it's a higher price item, highly highly recommend affiliates income is definitely not my biggest stream of income but it is a huge stream of income for me and and it varies month to month some months at the lots and months it's not but it's made a huge difference as far as diversifying our income and it tends to grow over time to as your audience grows your affiliate income growth. It's really quite cool. Okay. I am going to talk about direct sales for a second and direct sales really does get a bad rap and there's kind of a reason why gets a bad rap y'all but direct sales is actually huge income stream for us. I think it's probably one of our bigger ones this month. It's it's. Such a blessing if if you do direct sales correctly and please hear me if you do direct sales correctly, it can be very, very beneficial. I recommend that you treat direct sales like an affiliate relationship. K. You treat direct sales like an affiliate relationship and you build a customer base. Please hear me you build a customer base. This is what I have done, and here's what happens when you build a customer base. And you help customers get results with whatever the product is that you represent. Maybe it's skin care maybe it's vitamins maybe it's oils I don't care. Okay. You help them get results with that. You will get customers who are passionate. About, the product and they will they will activate themselves. meaning that they will say, how do I sell this? They will upgrade to maybe a team member or a a rap for that company on their own. And then you help them when they have the desire to do that. But my philosophy has always been and I'm very very blessed to have a really good friend who is very very successful and direct sales, and this is how she has done it and grown it, and it's amazing what she's been able to accomplish and the type of team that she's built because she has built a team of people who treat it like an affiliate relationship. Instead of trying to recruit business people. They just help people get started with the products and fall in love with the product and use the product, and it results with the product and those people tell other people either they get more customers out of that because they're referrals or that customer is needed to a Rep. Okay. This is how we've done this When I. So I had a boutique for a while that I was it was primarily online that we were selling stuff out of our house but I actually started using a product because again, I had somebody who just turned me into a customer Acquai- they just had me turn into a customer for this product and I started using it got really really good results with it and I started sharing it out with other people well, I, started getting customers like I was just like well, I might as well be treating this like in affiliate relationship. So I get customers pain and then I have people who also want to refer people right so I built a team. And within that first year, we actually earned the leadership retreat to Bora Bora. Early like an affiliate relationship I do not like I help people with sales I teach people in kingdom, how to do sales well and ethically. But I am so like when somebody comes to me and ask for help I, helped them y'all I don't recruit business people into direct sales I don't. I teach people the fundamentals of business and kingdom mom and I've seen many many people in direct sales, various companies that have activated and. It's just gone crazy what they've been able to do. So you can have success in direct sales and what I like about direct sales. When you treat it like an affiliate is it's actually better financially than an affiliate relationship because of you earn income off of other people's efforts as well and so it really that really snowballs overtime affiliate like you have to do the same amount of work every month in order to make the same amount every month. That's not the case in direct sales. So That's another one too. Again, don't put all your eggs in one basket if direct sales is the only way that you're making money. What happens if that company goes away tomorrow? What happens if the biggest leg on your team decides to quit? Right, so all of your eggs should not be in one basket. Now. The last one that I wanted to talk about it's not really the last one. Because there's lots to it is intellectual property. Okay. So this is your own skill set maybe you are a master quilter. Maybe you can bake bread like nobody's business. Maybe you're like me and you teach people about various different things right. I, teach people about money teach people about business I teach people about creating income streams. We talk about identity all of this stuff, right? and. When when you have something that you are really good at, you can actually market that as a course, you can market as maybe one on one coaching of some sort. something that we do obviously is our membership website. We also have some course. That's in the works for release probably later this year. Probably. WE'LL SEE COVA kinda throws a wrench into some things but. You can you can market these things based on? How you envision your workday okay and this is where. You could do one on one coaching or you could do something like I do where it's more membership what you do. Is GonNA Okay what you do is going to be determined by how you want your workday to look. So if you want to literally one time create content and then just drive traffic to it for the rest of your life course. A one and done course right and maybe it's a cheap. Maybe it's an expensive course doesn't matter. It's not neither one of these is necessarily more. Money. Making than the other. Okay because as your audience grows your income's going to grow with at all of these Okay One on one coaching you do limit yourself a little bit because you can only fit in so many people right. But if you love that one on one interaction, right? Then, that's what you can do if that's what you WanNa do if you like to work with people individually absolutely, you can do that one on one coaching. You're probably GONNA be charging. Subscribe. Substantially more then you would, if you're just selling a one time course where they don't have one one access with you. Okay. A membership site of some sort pen if you like putting out frequent content rate if you if you. Don't necessarily want to work one on one with people but you have no problem creating content kind of on a consistent basis and constantly rolling out some sort of content you can do that. Okay. So a course might be better for you. Membership might be better for you. One on one might be better for you totally depends on you. There's not one that's better or worse. Okay. Now, there's more Ingram's in this you can have a job. Like if you're like this, all seems overwhelming to me. You can go get a part time job or any kind of job bright. There's tons of work from home options as well. You could become a V. A. if you if you have skills like in Admin Steph, my sister, that's what she does for a living she does fulltime va work from. Home her company is called six zero, five assistant solutions. You can go find him on the Internet six. It's the numbers six, zero five, and then assistant solutions dot com she actually even has course. So she does va work she's got clients that she does va work for 'cause she loves that stuff but then she diversified her income and created a course. To teach other people how to start their own business and all the legal stuff that they have to do and how to go about getting clients into and doing all of that. So she technically has like a job, but she's self employed. It's her, it's her business, but she's working typical nine to five. From home. So that's totally an option to. There's there's not one right way or wrong way to diversify your income. I recommend that you do it because there's a lot of security in there's a lot of security in having diversified income. Now, one thing that I do want to say. Regardless of what you choose to do. It's really important that you learn how to do it. Right you're not just going to say I like that that blogging thing sounds good right? The blogging thing sounds good. I WANNA know how to do that. I'm just GonNa I'm just going to do that. Okay. But if you have absolutely no idea how to blog. You're you're going to be like the millions of blogs that are out there that are sitting out there on the interweb and nobody reads them nobody. There's no traffic going to them. They're just empty pages that are sitting there. Nobody ever reads them. There's millions of them out there. You have no idea that they exist. They have really great content on them. The people don't know how to drive traffic to a blog. Okay. That's a skill that you have to learn which is why you would take a blogging course like the one that we have in the show notes. Okay. If you want to become a va right, you've probably should learn how to do that. If you want to start an ECOMMERCE website probably learn how to do that. Right. I had no idea how to start a membership website so I had to learn how to do that. Direct sales you should probably get training in that if you need somebody to teach you i. have a friend who I think she only does for people in her team, but she has like an actual course that she sends them through. That shows them how to do it ethically how to do it tree to kind of like an affiliate relationship, how to honor people how to not be gross like. You're probably learn how to do that if you. Okay this is the one I know there's a lot of you listening. Where you follow me on Tiktok Okay. Or Some of you may be came from instagram a lot of you came from facebook, right? And you're like I want to I wish I could be one of those people that Scott like fifty thousand followers and just has brand gills that would be really cool. K. So what you probably need to focus on is not learning how to get brand deals unless you already have a fairly big following K., you already have like ten thousand or more you can start learning that stuff. Okay. But if you are sitting there with. A thousand followers. Okay and here like I would love to do some sort of a brand deal. The first thing that you need to learn is how to grow your audience the first thing that you need to learn. And I'm I'm GonNa say this and it's going to sound like I'm tooting my own horn but I want you to i. want you to hear what I'm going to say after. Okay I joined TIKTOK. In. The middle of. June. So at the time that this is getting releases about a month and a half ago, maybe about two months at the time that this podcast being released. Okay. And right just today just today at the day that I'm recording this I hit ten thousand followers on Tiktok huge day. So excited and blessed. So pumped about it right. And it even took me by surprise. How fast that grew. But here's why grew. Is because I've been doing so much like. Marketing personnel development and learning that. It just kind of naturally comes out me not that I'm trying to sell people anything on Tick Tock but. Just, understanding like. When you get on camera have good lighting. When you start a video, you have to have something in the first second of that video that makes people want to watch because you could literally have the best content in the world like a be super informative it could be hilarious. But if you start a video with, hey, guys, nobody's GonNa. Watch. Your video or if you start a video with just silence if there's an an an or even if you start talking and there's not like a text that catches their eye and makes them look at that for a second before you start talking and hooks them into that video, they're not gonNA watch it. So, there are some MOMS on Tiktok who have funnier stuff than I do, and they have really good content, but they don't have a lot of people watching their videos. They're not getting a lot of us because before they can even talk somebody's scrolled and did not even give them a chance. And because the human brain like that's how short attention spans become especially with like social media. So it it's it's not even about. Selling anything when I'm saying marketing, it's not even selling anything. It's just knowing what the audience wants and what they want is something that draws them in right away so So that stuff like I don't even think about it really anymore is just kind kinda naturally what I do and so I actually think. that. That has I mean, some of it is the content I'm not going to sit here and say that my content stinks. Funny but like really a lot of it is just that I knew how to start the video. And that's just from knowing psychology and marketing. So. That was definitely an edge that I maybe had. People who've been on Tiktok for a long time. So whatever what the point that I'm trying to make is whatever it is that you decide you're going to do as far as an income stream. You've got to learn. How do do that thing so if it's becoming an influence her on tiktok or youtube or facebook or whatever you need to go study that platform and maybe go learn from people like for example on Tiktok I. Think we're GonNa do some coaching content in King Demaim about Tiktok because I've had people asking about it. some of our clients asking about it but I know Rachel Peterson on Tiktok. She has built a brand on dogging. Go learn from her she'd be able to tell you youtube totally different platform. Totally different platform with different rules about how to be found and I went and learned you can learn from Jessica stands very She's got a good one. There's lots of really good youtube channels that also have some courses available for like how to do those things But but right now, if you go search homeschool and Youtube, you'll find one of my videos and it's just it's not because my again it's not because my contents any better than any of the other homeschool moms on there is just because I i. learned the skill of like how to take it so that people would actually see. And that it would actually show up in search results. Those are and you'll find like our hope and homeschool content on there. So. That's the stuff that you want to learn if that's your cup of tea if you if writing blog posts is something that sounds amazing to you need to learn from the people that I learned from because we drive traffic to our home school blog. It's on autopilot. I haven't even written a blog post in months and is to just on autopilot. So I highly highly encourage you find something that you. Can get behind something that you're passionate about and learn how to do it. Well all right I. Hope you have a great week, God. Bless. We hope you enjoyed this episode of the Kingdom mob podcast. Don't forget to head on over to kingdom on PODCAST DOT COM and click membership to join our community of Kingdom moms. You can also check out the free ultimate mom binder video course. We'll see you next time kingdom.
Stop Thinking Positive
"Welcome to the kingdom podcast. I'm your host lindsay anderson. I help moms put an end to what stressing them to. They can regain control of their life. Be sure to check out our popular free training. How to put an end to it stressing you at kingdom podcast dot com. Are you ready to take back. Your territory kingdom moms. Let's begin. hey came to moms and welcome back to their pursuit of the kingdom on podcast. Today we're gonna talk about something. That's kind of a polarizing topic. And i'm going to tell you. Stop thinking positive. Yep yep i know we've been told think positive positive vibes. Think positive. Be grateful all these things. And i am going to kind of call baloney sandwich on this one now. I have worked with over one hundred one hundred moms probably hundreds of moms at this point chinese to help them get to the next level when it comes to getting rid of their stress creating the life that they want living a life. That's more by design and being in control of their life verses life kind of just being in control of them and then reacting to it all the time. Okay and i have interviewed many moms. I've talked with many moms. We've worked through some of their step and a lot of moms come to me. And they think they know what their solution is. A lot of times moms will have some sort of stress going on their life. Maybe it's time management. Maybe they're struggling with that. Maybe it's money right. Maybe it's their marriage or their relationships or maybe a certain interactions with their kids. Maybe it's their health right and so many times. They actually think that they already know what the solution is and one of the solutions that they often present to me is. I just need to be more positive. I just need to focus on being patient. I just need to focus on what's good. I just need to be grateful. Okay and while yes. Those things are great. Thinking positively is not a bad thing. Okay being grateful not a bad thing being patient again. Not a bad thing however i have to tell you that if that was actually the solution if you if you are in a state of stress and that's the same stress that you've had for the last six months if you think you know the solution i have to really challenge that because if you knew the solution you would have solved the problem. Okay and there. i remember. Recently i was actually interviewing a super stressed out. Mom she was totally stressed out by all of the chaos going on in her life time management. She was having trouble balancing it all. And i'll never forget. She said to me she's like you know. I've actually been working with a life coach and i was like okay. We'll tell me about this right. And she said that that life coach told her that she really to focus on gratitude and she needs to focus on. What's going right. And i encourage her and i said you know that's awesome. Go with that but in the back of my mind i was like oh my goodness thinking positive is not going to solve this problem. I was like girl doesn't need positive thinking. She needs tools. Okay so here's the thing it's it's really good to think positive. It's really good to think positive. But if you think thinking positive and being grateful and doing all these things and focusing on patients is going to solve all of your problems. You are sorely mistaken okay. That isn't gonna solve anything. And i actually would say that. It's basically trying to slap a band aid on a gaping wounds. Okay the band ain't gonna do nothing except make you feel like you're may be doing something but that wound is not going to heal if you're just slapping a band aid on it okay. We need to go see okay. What actually caused this wound in the first place. Let's maybe get out of the space where we are getting hurt. Let's maybe get out of the of the environment. That's causing a gaping wound. Okay so we need to go find out what's causing the wounds. And then we need to actually go heal the wound. We need to go find the root of the issue and this is what we work on in our stress. Elimination method this part of the stress elimination method. In fact. it's the first part. Okay now there are there. There is something to focusing on the positive and being grateful and having like maybe a gratitude journal and even having strategies like meditation and all of that. But here's what i will say. Those are things to do. Those are systems and strategies to have in place once healing has occurred once. We've solved the issue. Then we can apply the strategies of positive thinking and gratitude ripe and even focusing on patients but if we try to focus on being patient when we haven't solved the problem of what's been causing us to lose our patients in the first place. It's not gonna work. It might work for a little while. And then it's not gonna work if we tried to slap a decluttering program you know. We have a free facebook group of over thirty two hundred moms. It's called mom binder masters and we have this free correspond how to create your own mom binder. It's a home management system right and it's a great system but if you try to implement that system without having the core issues of why systems don't work for you and why what caused the clutter in chaos in the first place. If you don't fix that issue. I the system's not going to help you but if you fix the issue first and then apply the system if we go heal the wound then. The system works right. It's kind of like you know my husband's a personal trainer. So i tend to think of things like you know as far as like biology anatomy and our bodies sometimes. So let's stay. Let's talk about this wound thing again. Let's say that you have injury in your leg and you want to make your legs stronger. Okay now if you go try to do a gazillion squats lunges right which are good healthy things to do but you are ignoring the injury that has happened to your leg and not healing that injury. I you're going to cause more damage to your leg by doing the things that are actually good things to do squats and lunges or great things to do but if you do them on an injured leg you're going to hurt your leg even further however if you go solve the problem what's causing your legs to be injured. If you get your leg healed then who girl you can do squats lunges and you will be at the at optimal health but this is what we tend to do with our life. We tend to try to do the squats lunges which are the strategies for patients. We try to do the gratitude journal. We try to do the decluttering. We try to even try do budgeting or something like that right. We try to sl- we try to do these things that are good. The we tried to do the squats lunges of our life. But we haven't fixed what's actually injured in us. We haven't fixed the emotional wounds that we have. We haven't fixed the words that were spoken over us when we were younger. We have a fixed these core things and so what we do inside of stress limitation method. Is we we go figure out. What is the injury. We go figure out what what caused the injury. What is making the injury worse. What are we doing to aggravate that injury. What do we need to do to heal that injury. And then once we've healed the injury then we go figure out. Okay now. what systems do we put in place. Now what strategies do we put in place. Now it's time to do squats lunges. Okay now if you are like oh my gosh like if you just had a lightbulb moment with that and you're like i have been stressing out about money. I've been stressing out about the clutter in my house for years. And i've been nothing ever works for me. Budgeting doesn't work nothing works. This is why right so if you have not already go. Listen to we what the steps are in stress. Elimination method and some other mistakes. That you've made been making along long way. We explain that we have a free training on kingdom on podcast dot com. Go listen to it. And then in our membership in this dress limitation method membership. We literally hold your hand through the entire process. We go find first of all. We look at your life from an honest perspective for once. Which maybe you haven't done in years. Then we go figure out what the wounds are. Go figure out how to heal them. And then we figure out what strategies to apply so. I hope that this was helpful. I hope that this gave you. If you've been feeling shame about your strategy is not working. If you've been feeling shame about positive thinking is not working. If you've been feeling shame about i. Just maybe i'm just not grateful enough right. I call baloney sandwich on it. That's what we say in my house. We say something's full baloney. I say i call baloney sandwich. On that right i call. Baloney sandwich mindset a baloney sandwich on that strategy of slapping a band aid on a gaping wound. Our hope that was helpful. Have a great week godless. We hope you enjoyed this. Episode of the kingdom podcast. Don't forget to check out our popular free training how to put an end to what stressing you at kingdom mom. Podcast dot com. Cnn time kingdom mom.
Affirmations for Moms
"Welcome to the kingdom podcast. I'm your host lindsay anderson. I help moms put an end to what stressing them to. They can regain control of their life. Be sure to check out our popular free training. How to put an end to it stressing you at kingdom podcast dot com. Are you ready to take back. Your territory kingdom moms. Let's begin. Hey aching demands and welcome back to another episode of the kingdom. Mom podcast today. What are we talking. Real quick about affirmations as moms. Now i think sometimes especially as christians. We tend to think that affirmations are kind of like this new age thing and we don't tend to do them right. We hear like the one that. I'm that comes to mind for me like money affirmations like if i just think about money and how money flows to me then. I'm just going to randomly get money. It's can fall out of the sky right We are definitely not of that school of thinking right. I'm not that money is bad but it definitely does not fall out of the sky and you can't just manifested into existence but there is something to this whole idea of affirmations and speaking things so the bible tells us that we speak life right life and death is in the power of the tongue and when we speak things they tend to happen right they tend to come into existence god spoke and he created and we are created in his image and we speak. We are actually creating realities with our mouth. That's that's why like if you're somebody who's always complaining right you tend to get more stuff to complain about if you're somebody who creates excuses all the time you're somebody who you know what you like manifest those things into existence. If you're always saying. I'm broke then. You tend to always be broke right so i wanna talk a little bit about how i have used affirmations in my life but how i believe that we can all use them as christians because we really do create our realities with the because life and death is in the power of the tongue so one way that i think is great to do this. I one way that i do. This is in relation to money. You see. I used to have a lot of guilt and shame around spending money and we recently talked about this in the money workshop that we did inside of the mom binder masters. Facebook group is a free money workshop that we did and it was super duper powerful. The last the last session that we did was all about money mindset and so many women throughout the week talked about how they have guilt and shame in relation to spending money. Even just buying groceries at the grocery store like there's either a neutral feeling towards buying groceries or negative feeling like the either. Don't feel anything about buying those groceries or they feel a guilt like. Oh here we go. We're spending more money. There's more deductions for my bank account. Right and we talked about what if we chose. What have we consciously made the decision to focus on using how we use money for good and so one of the affirmations that i have started speaking for myself is i use money for good. I use money for good because if you think about the grocery store for example when we are spending money at the grocery store who are we blessing number one. Were blessing our family with food right. We're blessing the owner of the grocery store. We're blessing the employees of that grocery store. Were blessing the truck drivers that drove the food to the grocery store. Were blessing the warehouse that supplied the food right. We're blessing the farmers that grew the food. We're blessing the people who may be work in the plants that are packaging the cereal or whatever it is right. We're blessed those people every single time that we spend a dollar at the grocery store we are blessing a variety of people and i said what if we thought on that when we spent money right even like some of those luxury things that we have enough money for right. Sometimes we still feel guilty about spending that money right but what if we looked at how we were blessing someone while we were doing that so another another great affirmation is an us to speak this over myself all the time i have something called the five minute journal and actually got it from the same where we got dream. Pin it live. It talked about a few weeks ago. He can get it from. Fancy that boutique Search for them on facebook. Message on say. I wanna five minute journal. There the five minute journal is super duper awesome. Because it's just really super-quick but in the morning you actually write down affirmations about yourself and and for probably a solid year. I wrote down. I'm a good mom. I'm a good mom. And i chose to speak that over myself. You see. sometimes we don't realize it but we are subconsciously in her brain we have such negative self talk. We have such negative self talk so you might be saying to yourself. I'm failing you might be saying to yourself. Oh my gosh. I can't keep my house clean. You may be saying. Oh my gosh. I feed my kids junk food all the time right because what was happening is like fed them junk food like once or twice this week and you are speaking so poorly to yourself see of all. Never forget what somebody said this. There were like when when i was saying something bad about myself. They're like hey. Don't talk to my friend that way right. We wouldn't speak to our friends the way that we speak to ourselves. And so it's super important just like it's important to edify your friends and tell them. Hey you're doing a great job. Hey you're a good mom. Hey i'm here for you. Hey you're doing awesome great. We need to speak that stuff over ourselves. We need to speak that into our life. And so i did for a solid year. I wrote down. I'm a good mom. I also wrote down. I am learning to build wealth right sometimes. Here's the thing with affirmations rape is you can save an affirmation and then immediately your brain is like. I don't believe that so let's say for example. The affirmation am wealthy. Okay i am wealthy. Okay well if you say that and you don't believe it k- so what you could say instead is. I am building wealth or i am learning how to build wealth. We were talking about this also in the money workshop. Was there like if you say. I am good at managing money but if there is still a part of you. That doesn't believe that immediately. Your mind is going to go to negative right after you say it. After you say you're gonna have condemning feeling so instead of saying. I am good at managing money you could say. I am learning to manage money. Well i am learning to manage money. Well and what happens is is when we kinda speak these things into existence when we say them out loud we tend to move in that direction on. Never forget when we were starting this new business and there. Is this bora bora trip. I i think one of the most powerful things that i did is. I spoke out loud. I'm going to go to bora bora. Like i spoke out loud because when you speak it and you declare it your body your mind. Your energy tends to move in that direction right. You've ten to when you're saying something repeatedly every single day you tend to move in that direction so whatever it is in your life that you're currently struggling with right. So maybe you're stressed about time management. You could have an affirmation you say to yourself every day is. I am learning to manage my time. Well i am learning to be wise with my time right instead of saying. I'm good at time management right. If you don't believe that is not actually going to work so if you say i am learning or i am doing my best right you are going to move in that direction automatically so i would love to know what are some of your affirmations if you say them if you don't say them. Are you going to start doing that. A great way to get started with that is the five minute journal. If you don't have on like you said go to Fancy that boutique on facebook and tell them lindsay sent you and they'll get you hooked up with a five minute journal there. It's it really is helpful. And it's a directive so you won't forget to write down your aspirations every day all right. Hope you guys have an amazing week and we'll see next time. We hope you enjoyed this episode of the kingdom of podcast. Don't forget to check out our popular free training how to put an end to what stressing you at kingdom on. Podcasts dot com. Cnx time kingdom.
Why I Started Bodybuilding
"Welcome to the kingdom podcast. I'm your host lindsay anderson. I help costed moms put an end to what stressing them to. They can regain control of their life. Be sure to check out our popular free training. How to put an end to it stressing you at kingdom podcast dot com. Are you ready to take back your territory kingdom. Moms let's begin. Hey hey kingdom moms welcome back. Welcome back to another episode of the kingdom on podcast. It's me lindsey. So i feel like sometimes as somebody who creates a lot of content. I think anybody out there who makes podcast. Does you to does social media anything like that. I think everybody can probably say that. Sometimes we just like get into like this funk where it's like we feel like all of our content is just like you know what i mean. I feel like everybody has this at some point when they're creating like writers. Do this musicians do this where they just like everything that they make the and which is really funny because as somebody who consumes their content. You might think that it's great and it's just you know as per usual but it's just really interesting because i feel like i've definitely been going through that. Where like lake the podcast. I've just been like. I feel like it's not been the greatly so it was like okay. How can we. How can we fresh in this up. How can we spices. How can we make this a little bit better so we got some good cool things coming for you but i wanted to start out by sometimes like when we're not excited about the thing that we're talking about. That's how i feel like it's totally stinks. And so sometimes you know talking about things that i've been teaching for a really really long time is kind of like you know. Not that exciting I do get excited. When i see the change happening in people's lives that that gets exciting and like when people have light bulb moments dots exciting but like sometimes i feel like a broken record where i'm literally repeating the same thing over and over and over again so today decided to talk about something that is kind of new and fresh and something that has been really really exciting. That's been going on in my life recently and that is i recently started training as a more of a body builder type of training now. my husband Many of you know this. My husband is a personal trainer. He's also competed on stage as a bodybuilder and in classic physique he's actually one classic physique trophies and all of that really cool guy he's also trained other competitors. He's trained Even like bikini competitors and things like that now. I think that And maybe this is a conversation for another time. But i think that there's so much confusion or the sport of bodybuilding. I know i definitely did. Not understand bodybuilding when i was first exposed to like when my husband told me he was gonna go on stage. I was like so you're just gonna put on a speedo and go up there and flex like i literally thought that that was all that it was was like just people who were super duper fit getting on stage like prancing around really skimpy outfits and i was very very humbled when my husband competed in his very first competition. And we got to. I got to see behind stage. And i got to meet these people and i got to see what actually goes in to preparing and prepping for a bodybuilding competition like these people are serious athletes. They do not just put on a speedo and go prance around on stage like there is so much detail about that sport that i just didn't even know i had no idea how like you have to train specifically for it. How like literally like twelve sixteen weeks before the competition you have to be super duper dialed in with your nutrition and your and your food and your all of it and like getting stage ready like a stage ready is not like how these people are really like out and about like normal life. Stage ready is definitely like a different type of intensity and so it's very very interesting. I have matter respect for bikini figure and physique. Female competitors a i i was like just women like prancing around in a bikini like showing off their body and now that actually understand it and i'm not as ignorant about the sport. I actually realized that these women are serious athletes so anyway. It's really really cool. So my husband's been doing bodybuilding for many years. He's been personal training. And i don't know why for some reason. I just got to a point where i was just like done. Jurors gets to that point. Where like something's bothering you for so long that you just it finely like the straw that breaks the camel's back it happens and you're just done. That definitely happened to me in my health this year. So i i'm actually very very. I'm pretty healthy person. I shouldn't say that because like physically on the inside. I am actually very healthy. I was very very sick a few years ago and know i've worked really hard on my nutrition and all of that over the last few years and i've been actually very very healthy but my waist line was increasing so after my third child was born after the first two. I just like i bounced back. Pretty pretty fast And after the third one i kinda like bounced partway back and then it just kind of stayed there and it was like gradually getting more and more and i was just like not dig in what i saw in the mirror not because i was necessarily overweight not because i was unhealthy necessarily but because i i'm a big believer in self discipline and it it. My lack of self discipline was. I was starting to see the fruit of my lack of self discipline. I was starting to see it in that area. Of my life on my waistline it was also certain to see in other areas. And i think i finally got to the point where i was done and i. I wanted to. Really focus on being super-duper disciplined. Not because i need to be disciplined. Not not not for any of that. It was more so like just something that i wanted to do for me. I wanted to do it for myself. Also another side of that. Is i love to study proverbs. Thirty one is one of my favorite chapters of the bible i read. It's one of those. That i read over and over and over again and i've done lots of in depth studies. We've done a complete study of proper inside of our membership community. But there's one one line one verse in proverbs. Thirty one has always stood out to me. And i'm going to read it to you. It's verse seventeen and out of the version of the bible right now because it's the one that was sitting on my desk and so some translations are different but says she sets about her work vigorously. Her arms are strong for her tasks in other versions. It says she girds herself with strength or she girds her loins strings and strengthens her arms. But it says something like says that she has like physically strong arms. And i've always thought that that was really interesting. It's like the proverbs thirty one woman like she's she's got muscle right so that's always been always been in the back of my mind like i always try to implement allowed this proverb thirty one stuff into my life and kind of gradually over time but that was one that i definitely had not done yet. But it's always been something like on my to do list like get in shape and so you know my husband had talked about potentially getting on the stage again this year. And you know i first of all i was literally the most. My physique was literally the worst that it has been in my adult life. And i just i was felt like i was lacking the self discipline and i don't know i just i said to my husband i was like something's gotta change and he's like you know if you would train like a bodybuilder. If if you would do this he's like give me eight days. Give me eight days of super dialed in nutrition. Give me eight days of bodybuilder type training. And i for some reason i said yes because i was just. I needed something to focus on. I was like eight days. I can do eight days so i did it. I focus for days. I did heavy lifting. It wasn't my first time ever doing heavy lifting the gym. So i kind of knew what i was doing and within eight days i could tell that i was physically stronger like my clothes weren't fitting the best and all of that but i could tell that my body was starting to change and then i did it for a month. I've been. I did it for a solid month and like within that month like my body completely changed completely change like i have been probably more muscle on my body right now than i have ever had in my adult life and it's literally only and like i probably like six weeks at this point now when my husband challenged me to these eight days i had some thoughts in my head and i didn't say them out loud. I didn't tell him my thoughts on purpose. It was like something that i was just like. I'm gonna just keep that thought to myself. Because if i say that out loud you know how like life and death is in the power of the tongue and if you say something out loud sometimes you give it life. I was like. I'm not sure that. I want to give that life yet. And but like quietly in the corner like lake when my husband wasn't looking or like ahead my headphones in I'd be watching youtube videos of like female bodybuilder. Competitors and bikini competitors physique competitors Figure competitors now. When i say that if you don't know what that means that's okay. There's three different for the wilders. Multiple different types of categories for female competitors to compete in bikini is just it. They all are wearing bikinis when they're on stage. Because you have to be able to see their muscle just like the men will wear like Like short shorts or a speedo type thing so that you can see their leg muscles but the salt lake all of the women wearing bikinis. But they're different. They're different categories of competitor so bikini figure and physique They also female bodybuilding that tends to not be as popular one but they're all bodybuilders if that makes sense bodybuilding is just a category of female bodybuilding. I know it's kind of confusing but I was watching like bikini. Competitors prepping for competition like their youtube. Channels i was watching figure competitors like different things like that and in the back of my mind being like okay. Next year i turn thirty five so i'm thirty three right. Now i'm going to be turning thirty four About a month from now and next year be thirty five. I was like wouldn't that be an amazing gift to give myself for. My thirty fifth birthday is to be competent. like to like such diligence. Like because i know how much diligence those people like half to have to get on stage like it it. It's a lot it's a sport it is a it is intense and i was like that requires so much discipline i was like. What if i gave myself the gift of that for my thirty th birthday and i was thinking this in the back of my mind and i was not telling anybody about it because did not want to give that wings to fly still like. I'm not sure if i want to do that. But i've done my research and everything. So i actually do think that at some point after i turn thirty five. I'm a ways off from being any type of competition. Writing like have to put on a crazy amount of muscle. Before i would be ready for competition and then i would have to do a full competition. Prep like i said is about twelve to sixteen weeks prior to the actual competition. So so i would definitely be doing this over a year from now but it has been so cool. It has been so cool. I have learned so much about myself in these last six weeks so like i'm not in this podcast episode. I'm not trying to be like you should go be a bodybuilder. You should go do this. I'm mostly talking about like self discipline. And i have learned so much and like pushing yourself to do something. That's really uncomfortable. And out of your comfort zone and something. That almost can be a little painful. Has its time and place in your life. And i have learned that i am a lot stronger than i thought. I was both physically and mentally. I'm a lot stronger than i thought. I was both physically and mentally. And i've also learned that i'm a lot weaker than i thought. I was both physically and mentally. And i know that. Sound like complete opposites. But there have been moments. Where i i have been super duper strong and i can really push myself really focus and there are moments where i find myself making excuses and getting my ego checked because i'm not actually physically strong as i thought i was sick trying to go do a push up in your arms are compl- in your arms and chester. Just completely dead is very humbling. Especially when you're doing it in front of a bunch of people but also just like i find myself in certain times at certain times trying to make excuses for myself and it's like wow. We didn't know that you were still super is that you were still the kind of person who is going to make excuses. And so it's also been really cool to be able to self correct and to be able to kind of adjust some of these things and to really push through empower through. So i don't know if you'll ever do bodybuilding. I don't know if you even if it ever even you but maybe there's something that you can take away from that story of that journey that might you might somehow be able to apply to your life so just wanted to share part of that journey with you. I will keep you guys updated. As time goes on as to the journey as to the things that i'm learning we've also been kind of playing around with the idea of lying documenting. The journey on youtube a little bit. So we'll see but just wanted to share that with you We love you guys. Be sure if you wanna hang out with some really amazing women. Be sure to join our mom by her. Masters group facebook. You guys are so much free. Content in that group is literally like the podcast except better. And there's like thousands of women there to route you on and support you the entire time we do. We have a free course but how to create a mom binder in there but we also have been doing all of these free workshops in there so like the time management workshop. We just finished. We also have a money workshop in there. Were also going to be doing other workshops in there so if you haven't already be sure to hang out with us they're hope you guys have a great week. God bless we hope you enjoyed this episode of the kingdom of podcast. Don't forget to check out our popular free training how to put an end to. What stressing you at kingdom on. Podcast dot com. Cnn time kingdom mom.
Throw the To Do List Away
"Welcome to the kingdom podcast. I'm your host lindsay anderson. I help costed moms put an end to what stressing them to. They can regain control of their life. Be sure to check out our popular free training. How to put an end to it stressing you at kingdom podcast dot com. Are you ready to take back your territory. Kingdom moms. let's begin. He came to moms and welcome back to another episode of the kingdom. Mom podcast today. We're gonna be talking about one of the biggest mistakes that most women make when they're trying to get rid of their stress. I have worked with hundreds of women at this point. I'm talking to them about what. Their deep desires are the kind of life that they want to have and most women that i talked to when they come to me. They're in a state of stress there in a state of exhaustion. They are in a state of overwhelm and one of the mistakes that i have seen over and over and over again that most women make they think it's going to solve their problem and i understand why they think it's going to solve their problem but it never actually does and that mistake is constantly adding more to your to do list and working nonstop. Because you feel like you have to. Otherwise you're gonna get behind okay. Now we believe that if we want to have less chaos we need to work twice as hard to get ahead somehow. But i just want you to think about this first second. If you're an exhausted mom which most moms are right. How is doing more going to make you less exhausted. But i understand the logic. Okay because the idea is is we feel behind so often as moms we feel behind and we have this thought that if i could just catch up if i could just catch up right and so what we do. Is we try to run through our to do list like we sprint. We're trying to dig ourselves out of the to-do list whole as i call it right and so we're running running running and what happens is i want you to picture in your head this cycle. Okay like you can picture like a loop in your head right and it starts with the to do list and then it creates you running k the next step. Is you running to try to complete the to do list. So you don't feel behind but what happens is is. We get overwhelmed and exhausted because we're working so hard constantly that we'd crash right and the crash can look a number of ways maybe it's literally you crashing. Maybe it's having your meltdown. You're crying on your kitchen floor. Like i always used to your crying in your closet. You are closing yourself off in your room and just having a good mom cry because you're so overwhelmed or so exhausted right and then this is what happens. We don't like how that feels. We don't like how it feels to be crashed and exhausted and and then we feel behind again right because we're like. Why should i feel this way. I need to get ahead. So i don't feel this way. And then we start running again to to get ahead and round and round and round. We go continue through this loop so it's like adware to do list run crash adminstrative to do list run crash we go through this cycle over and over and over again when in reality the life that we actually want this kind of peace that were seeking or this balance that were seeking is somewhere completely out of the loop. It's not in the loop at all. We think that we're gonna eventually get there but what we're actually doing is actually just creating more exhaustion. We're creating more brain fog. We're creating more decision fatigue and that actually leads to feeling more failure and more guilt. And so the thing that we're trying to do that we think is gonna fix. It is actually making it worse so seven days a week working harder and faster and we still feel behind. We get what we need to do. And this is what this is what we teach and stress. Elimination method is to get rid of the to do list. I mean there's a time and place for to do list right but we gotta get out of the to do list cycle so our goal is to get you from a crash crying on your kitchen floor to the life that you want and we create the roadmap and the system in order to do that because if you keep just trying to do more faster. What's really going to happen. It's it's not gonna work the harder you try does not mean the less stress that you're gonna have it doesn't and so what we really need to do. Is we need to apply what i like to call the stress limitation method right where instead of just co crawling and flying and trying to get ahead we go back and figure out what is actually the so the real source of this chaos was actually the real source of the stress. And we go deal with that. I and we start to prioritize and we start to a deal with the root of what's causing the issues and when we do that then we can figure out what systems are gonna work. Then we get to do that. So stress elimination method. There's three parts to it. There's auditing your stress. Auditing your life really auditing. What's actually happening and getting a bird's eye view of our life from an outside perspective. Then we go in and actually fix the thing. That's the core of the problem. That's the root of the problem. We actually go in and fix that thing right and then we move into what's called stress control which is where we learn the strategies and the systems right. This is where you actually where your to do list might actually start to be helpful is when you get into this phase right we've dealt with what's causing the cycle over and over and over again and because we're no longer in the cycle instead we do a roadmap that's a straight shot okay. We create a bridge to where we wanna go instead of just spinning. Our wheels like being on the hamster wheel of stress or being just around about right. Some people some people. They think they're on the road to where they wanna go but they're really just going around and around around the roundabout versus just a straight shot. So if you wanna learn more about this. I highly encourage you. We have a free training on our website to go to mom. Podcasts dot com. You'll see it right at the top free training if you wanna learn more because there's actually more mistakes that we make. This is just one of them. This is just one of them and in that training we talk about the three different mistakes and we talk about how to actually utilize a stress. Elimination method step by step. All right hope you guys have a great week and god bless we hope you enjoyed this episode of the kingdom all podcast. Don't forget to check out our popular free training how to put an end to. What stressing you at kingdom on. Podcast dot com. Cnn time kingdom.
"Welcome to the kingdom podcast. I'm your host lindsay anderson. I help exhausted. Moms put an end to what stressing them to. They can regain control of their life. Be sure to check out our popular free training. How to put an end to it stressing you at kingdom podcast dot com. Are you ready to take back. Your territory kingdom moms. Let's begin here making moms and welcome back to another episode of the kingdom mom. Podcast super excited. That you're here today. And i actually just at the time that i've recording this. I just finished session number four inside of our free money workshop that we're doing in sight of mom byner masters on facebook. Now if you have not taken part in this money workshop you are completely missing out so we decided that for twenty twenty one. We wanted to just give massive value inside of mom byner masters. It's our free facebook community. There's almost four thousand moms in there at this point which is mind boggling to me we have over thirty five hundred bombs right now and We decided that we're going to do various workshops inside of that group throughout the year and one of the workshops the one that we kicked off two thousand and twenty one with is the free money workshop. Now many of you have listened to some of our money content. That we've done on this podcast. Maybe you did our money many chorus. Maybe you are kingdom inside of our stress. Elimination method membership. And you've done all of that money stuff. This money workshop has been so crazy powerful so we set a goal that we want it to be worth a thousand dollars to people. We wanted the moms who went through this free workshop to find. Save invest or. Pay off a thousand dollars in the month of january and day three with three of the workshop. We already had people saying. I found a thousand dollars. I found five hundred dollars. I found fifteen hundred dollars so we were super excited about that. So people have been getting like crazy crazy results with this. We've also had a lot of feedback like holy cow. I didn't even know that that was an option for me. I didn't. i've never heard of this before. This is so cool and people being like. I feel like like i was not expecting to get this out of this workshop. So we've been over the last few days now if you're like what is this workshop. I missed it. Don't worry we're going to. You have a chance to catch up okay. So there's like this work that goes with it so on day one. We talked about money vision in finding that thousand dollars fast and people found thousand dollars fast. It was so cool we had a we had so many people like messaging us or commenting that were like. Oh my gosh. i had no idea. And they found their thousand dollars right and some people like joost setting money vision and money goals for the first time and really actually putting numbers To some of these thoughts that they've had in their head on day two and day two was probably the most powerful days so far. We talked about budgeting styles because most of us have been taught one way to budget. We've been taught that there's one right way to budget and there's actually several right ways to budget and and there's a way that you can budget without budgeting and there's a way that you can set yourself up to win. How many of you. If you're told that you can't do something it makes you want to do it more. And so just the idea of a budget and like setting a certain dollar amount like you can only spend x. amount of dollars on food. You automatically want to spend more than that right. So it's kind of like a lot of us are setting ourselves up to fail for some people that works awesome but for some of us is really setting people up to fail so day to. We talked about budgeting styles super eye opening for a lot of people day. Three we talked about how to pay off your debt day four. We talked about what to do. Which was today. We talked about like what to do when you're underwater financially and you literally can't pay your bills what to do and you're in that situation and we talked about giving and we talked about savings and different saving strategies different savings styles how you can find that money right so good tomorrow which it will be passed we will have earned it recorded this by the time that you're listening to it tomorrow. We're going to talk about like the awesome part about money stuff talking about money mindset or be talking about money trauma. Yeah money trauma. I'm not sure if that's like a real thing. Or if i just made that up but i call it money trauma and we're gonna talk about spending attitudes. I cannot wait so if you have missed the boat and you have not been a part of this workshop or if you were part of the workshop and you're like i feel like i didn't realize it was going to get quite so much out of this workshop and i want to tell my friends about it. Okay so here's what you do. Okay we're gonna put a link in the show notes so that you can download the workbook your girlfriend's download the workbook however right. So people can download the workbook. Click on that link and you enter email address. We're gonna email you the videos okay. So each day you're going to get a video came or or you can pop into mumbai binder masters on facebook and we have a h- unit set up inside of mom binder masters where you can go through the entire workshop so the entire workshop is there. Were gonna be leaving it there for quite some time so until we do our next money workshop. Because we're probably going to do another one later on this year. So in the meantime you can go and go through that workshop inside. A mom byner masters plus mumbai masters is itself a free course so there's an entire course for free inside of mom byner masters to teach you how to create a home management system that works for you and we teach you how to create your own mom binder plus. I don't know if you caught this the beginning. We're going to be doing tons of workshops inside a mom viner masters this year. There's gonna be tons of free content in there. Okay now again. You can also upgrade your experience. We have the stress. Elimination method membership. It's a monthly or yearly membership. However you want to do at some people pay monthly. Some people choose to do the discounted yearly rate. We promised that you were gonna get tons of value so much value out of that membership. Literally i had a husband. Tell me a few months ago that his wife joining the stress elimination method membership changed the trajectory of their entire family. Because we believe here at king. Demaim that we're not just mom's we are matriarchs. We are matriarchs of an entire family system and that that reach spans generations. We believe that the decisions the choices the habits that we establish today in our lives and the identities that we except for ourselves not only affect our children they affect our children's children and generations and generations after us and so honestly it's an amazing investment for you to make into your family and just even just into yourself even if it only helped you but it's impacting generations. So i hope that was helpful. Let us know what your results were from the free money workshop. We hope you guys have an awesome week and godless. We hope you enjoyed this. Episode of the kingdom all podcast. Don't forget to check out our popular free training how to put an end to what stressing you at kingdom on. Podcasts dot com. Cnx time kingdom.
Outsourcing for Moms
"Welcome to the kingdom podcast. I'm your host lindsay anderson. I help costed moms put an end to what stressing them to. They can regain control of their life. Be sure to check out our popular free training. How to put an end to it stressing you at kingdom podcast dot com. Are you ready to take back. Your territory kingdom moms. Let's begin here making demands. Welcome back to another episode of the kingdom. Podcast it's me lindsay. And i'm going to do my best to record this. Podcast episode without being interrupted by any tiny humans or people mowing their lawns and stuff. Outside one time. I went down to do a podcast episode. And there was a wood chipper out like getting rid of stumps in my neighbor's yard. Anyway mom life right mom life so today. I wanna talk really quick. We're going to kind of wrap discussion on time management but really we're just starting our conversation on time management because as of literally right now so the day that we released this podcast episode is the day that we are starting the time management three day workshop inside of mom binder masters on facebook. So if you're not a part of that group why not join the group. There's a ton of free resources in there. We do all sorts of workshops plus the group itself is just a free course on how to create your own mom binder but we have money workshops. We have time management workshops all sorts of stuff in there so it is starting as of today. Which is the fifteenth. Open up my calendar. Because i'm actually recording. This on the ninth. The fifteenth of february is the first day that we're doing this but like let's say that you're listening to this podcast. And its way past the fifteenth of february twenty twenty. One don't sweat it go into mumbai. Masters go to the unit section of the group. And you're gonna find the free workshop in there you can. Also there's a workbook that goes along with the workshop and they'll be linked to that in the show notes but you can also get a link to it inside of the group so it's just a workbook. You don't necessarily have to have the workbook to do the workshop. It just makes it a thousand times easier to like follow along take notes and go back in quickly reference things that you learned inside a the workshop. Okay but today we are going to talk about outsourcing. So we've been talking about time management over these last few weeks we've been talking about boundaries talking about priorities were definitely going to be talking about those inside of the workshop but really talk about those inside of our keenum on membership today. I want to specifically talk. About outsourcing things and when i really personally learned about outsourcing it was when i was doing a study of proverbs. Thirty one proverbs thirty one is like my chapter in the bible. I love to read proverbs thirty one. I read it often. I probably read proverbs thirty one at least once every few months just for a refresher but the proverbs thirty one woman is actually not a real woman which i find very interesting. She is basically like the ideal woman and so the person talking about the proverbs. Thirty one woman is the mother of the king. Okay so you have a mom. She's talking to her son. Who is a king okay. And she is basically saying. Listen if you're going to be looking for a queen if you're going to be looking for your ideal spouse you're going to be looking for a queen you want these things okay. And she lists out the ideal characteristics of a proverbs thirty one woman so important things to note she was not actually a real woman that existed and number two. She was a queen so she wasn't saying like this is the ideal person for this is the ideal way to be a great woman. She was like this is queen. The queen characteristics. This is who qualifies to be your queen right so i just. I think it's really really important to kind of have the context of what was happening during pro like thirty one. Okay but one thing that i found about proverbs city and just the queen status like royalty status is if you're part of our kingdom membership are stress. Elimination method membership. You know we talk a lot about royalty. Being a part of a royal bloodline like what that means. And they queen status queens. Don't view themselves as just wives and just moms queens view themselves as rulers and they view themselves as a matriarch of a family line. Okay so this is super important when you're thinking about kingdom mom do you see where kingdom mom is starting to come from. Are you putting the puzzle pieces together so kingdom mom we talk about royalty a time and so proverbs thirty one woman. She is a queen or ideally. A what i deal queen would be like okay so when i was reading proverbs thirty one. There's many things that stick out to me and we do an entire breakdown of proper one inside of our membership. We spent a lot of time. Just digging into that specific traffic but one thing that she does is it. Says she tells her servants what to do now. Granted we do not have servants nowadays which is probably a good thing but she says she tells her servants what to do. When i read that it popped out to me like she was not the one doing all of the things she had heard things to do but part of her job was outsourcing jobs to other people. Now let me just share with you. A few ways that. I outsource because granted like i'm not running a kingdom per se but i do have my territory that i am personally responsible for so i tend so like my responsibility. One of my responsibilities is meal planning and cooking and stuff for my family. Sometimes my husband doesn't in fact. He just spent all day yesterday meal planning and doing all of that. But most of the time most situations i am the one in charge of that. And so i one thing that i out source is sometimes. I will do grocery pickup or grocery delivery. Okay now i am responsible for making sure that we have groceries right. I'm responsible for the budgeting of the groceries. I'm responsible for what the groceries are. But i can outsource how they get to my house. I can outsource up in my business right. I am responsible for this podcast. But so i'm responsible for making sure that this podcast gets edited uploaded. But i don't have to be the one to do the editing and uploading right. So i have outsourced editing of this podcast that makes sense so i am responsible. I it's my territory that i'm in charge of but i'm outsourcing things so one thing that i often get asked about is like the meal planning boxes like blue apron or what are the other ones. Why for some reason. That's the only one. I can think of freshly stuff like that. Okay now for that okay. So let's say that you are the one responsible for the meal planning okay and the cooking and all that you'd like that's something that you have determined is your deal. It's your home in your territory. Okay so maybe but you're also responsible for money right so a lot of times like if you're in a massive amounts of debt and you're really trying to cut back. It's probably not the wisest use of your resources to spend money on that right because food is generally where people tend to overspend however if you're financially stable and all of that rate and you are wanting to provide healthy meals for your family and you need some stuff taken off your plate. You need to increase your capacity right. Then that's when like a meal delivery service would be appropriate right. You're outsourcing something camp so there are definitely ways that we can outsource another way that we can outsource is hiring a cleaning service now. I know i can already hear him coming from the bleachers. They're saying lindsay. You also talk about paying off debt and you also talk about like not spending money on luxury items is having somebody come clean my house a luxury item. And this is wary. Say there's no right or wrong answer. There's only right or wrong for you if you are using a cleaning service as a luxury item like you have time and capacity. Clean your house and you just hate scrubbing toilets and so you are paying somebody even the you can't really afford it right now. You're paying somebody to come clean your house okay. Then no that's a no go right because as queen right as the ruler and rayner over your territory as princess of everything as we talk about and kingdom mom you're responsible also for the finances okay but if you are financially good and there is room in your budget for that and you don't currently have the capacity to be cleaning your house. Then yes then it is. Okay right what happens. Is we as women and this is why we get stressed out in chaotic is we tend take on everything and we feel like a we have to do it. And we get linked to this martyr place and yes. We are supposed to work hard but there is a difference. There is a difference between busy and working hard. Those two things are very different and in our society. We have equated them as the same thing. That being busy means that we're working hard. That is not true. That is not true. I've been sitting here working for the last two hours. And i have gotten a ton of stuff done. I have gotten more done in the last two hours than working than like production wise than i used to get done in a week then able to like laser focus my work time and i literally got more done in the last two hours than i used to accomplish in a week okay. That's working hard. But i'm not busy. I'm not busy. 'cause i've literally only been working for two hours and like after i'm done with this podcast. I'm literally probably done working for the day. And i'm not going to be busy. I'm gonna go spend some time with my family. I'm gonna go workout going. Go take some time for myself right. There's a difference. There's a difference. So what i'm saying is is like if you are a mom who let's say you work fulltime right and you are working hard to get your priorities in line right and like you start doing all of these sort of time management things and you're like man. I am struggling to get my house clean like this is a stress point for me and you have enough room in your budget to hire somebody to come clean your house. You have permission to do that. You don't need my permission but you have it okay. If meal planning is a huge huge stress for you and like it does not come naturally for you. You're not the best cook right. Are something like that. Go ahead and outsource it. So i have never used a meal planning service ever i like i just i never have. I've always meal planned and done my own thing lately. My husband has made my husband's a personal trainer has his own personal training company He has convinced me to do some bodybuilding. Yes you heard correctly mostly for just changing the shape of my body like. That's something that i wanna do. Because it also says improper proverbs thirty one that her arms are strong and so i would like some strong arm. I wanna be strong. I want to be fit. And i want to be healthy and so i am doing sort of what you would call a cutting season. Okay so cutting in the bodybuilding world which is its whole world is basically where you are. Cutting fat percentage off of your body okay. So you're still eating a decent amount of calories but you are focused on more of your macro nutrients. okay. I feel like we're everywhere on this podcast episode have talked about so many different things. And now we're talking about. Mac rose but whatever. If you're still hanging out with me thanks for hanging out. Okay so i really really struggle. When i'm in a cutting fades. I get really really bored with my food. And i tend to end up falling off the wagon because my food is boring because i'm literally eating the same thing over and over again right because that's easy. That's where that's where meal plan. That's where i do that. And i thought okay if i actually want to set myself up to win gonna need a variety of food and i'm going to need it to be quick easy fast because i don't take a lot of time to make lunch during the day because i'm home schooling in the morning and then i'm working in the afternoon right and then if i am eating boring food by the time nighttime rolls around like i just wanna eat everything so. I am actually investing in a meal. Delivery service like the meals like they actually make them and send them to you. So it's not even like one of those where there's anything to you and you make it like it's like here. Lindsey here's your food heated up. Because i'm only doing it for a season. I'm only doing it during this cutting season. But it's a way for me to outsource that rate because i have determined. I know myself well enough to know that right now. I do not have the capacity for that so right now this season i'm using it makes sense but like you know back when i was paying off debt and didn't have to dimes to read rub together. That's when i was like no. I'm just gonna go ahead and meal plan and we're gonna try to do this on a budget. So bats kind of how you determine whether it's appropriate or not so there's not right or wrong. There's right or wrong for you. So i would love to know ways that you outsource or ways that you're planning to outsource so if you are inside a mom binder masters like shoot us a message. Let us know comment. Also we would love it if you leave us a review for this podcast and raid. It helps more people. Actually find the podcast. So if you would give us be ever so kind and guess a five star rating and leave us a review and tell us what you've learned from this podcast or tell us what your big takeaway has been from this podcast. We would absolutely appreciate that all right. I hope you have an amazing week. And god bless we hope you enjoyed this episode of the kingdom mob. Podcast don't forget to check out our popular free training how to put an end to what stressing you at kingdom on. Podcasts dot com. Cnx time kingdom.
Episode 498: Mick Travis Trilogy
"Christopher media let's make some noise is she'll people pay good money to see this movie when they go out to a theater they walked. Close sodas popcorn in no masters in the projection booth. Everyone for ten podcasting isn't boring This is at english public school. This is where britain raised its empire builders of yesterday and still trains its leaders tomorrow. This is the unchanging english public school. This is where you still learn to play the game one angles the reading good far from home far from your family. You learn what to expect from life. Nba live here as a metric. Given take we i own new family and you just expect the rough from tom. That goes with any family. Live in this world who have to watch out for yourself and obey the rules as in the world outside what some people are born to break the rules. New three have become a danger to the morale of the whole house. And we've decided to beat you is serve the nation. You have the slightest idea what it means. Have you mean that. Bit of wood on your tit with its freedom and excitement visions and dreams the world of youth a world of fantasy that sometimes turns to strange violence. Can't you won't forget them christine. As the girl malcolm mcdowell as the rebel richard. Warren and david would as his friends who share a secret loyalty young people who reject a world that the old have made and decide to take things into their own hands. If may shock you will surely surprise you. It's a film that will make you take sides. Which side will you be on. Aw swell come to the projection booth. i'm your host. Mike white joining me as ms sam degan. I'm so excited to talk about lindsay anderson also back in the booth. Mr jonathan it. Hello me to in this episode. We are going to be looking at three felt by lindsay anderson. That all star malcolm mcdowell as michael mick travis some people including me call them the mick travis trilogy but they are as different from a trilogy as the evil dead films in if mick is the leader of a student revolution in lucky man. He's a coffee salesman and britannia hospital. He's an investigative reporter will be talking about how mick changes through the three films along with their possible connections and contradictions. If you can believe it we will be spoiling the hell out of these movies. Let's try to stay on topic with one film after another to that end jonathan. When was the first time you saw if and what did you think i personally on tv. I think Bbc two in late. Nineteen ninety-four. I remember show around christmas time and i was about seventeen at the time and i heard about the film before and i think i was quite interested in it because as you may know car inge who's actually banned still in the uk at that time and so. I think anything that was connected in some way to call. The car in which i hadn't seen yet was very exciting. So i think the presence of malcolm mcdowell and the fact that it was meant to be a little bit violent. I think intrigued me. But i'm ashamed to the time i saw. I didn't really sort of stay way. They didn't really click with me the third time. It just felt a little bit episode. They didn't even finish the first time. I think tied kind of tight then said to myself. Well i'll come back to it than i did. Come back with a few years later. When i was in my early twenties and this was about two thousand three unexploited cinema when it was re released that it completely clicked with me not just fell in love with love. They said rebellious style of it. I think it was you know as many people is probably a quick celtic experience for anybody who didn't really enjoy school. It was also you know the style that i loved. I loved the use of music that very unique striking use of the missa luba. I think was very impressive for me to this day. It really remains. I think favorite filled with mine along with our lucky man. And i just think they represent a kind of cinema. That britain doesn't really do very well. I think to be they all the the epitome of a certain kind of or to sima. That britain doesn't really have a lot tov. I think doesn't have enough. Oh so Yet at that very special fills how sam. I saw for the first time sometime late in college. Because an i know. I've told stories like this on the projection booths before but when net flicks. I became a thing and you could get discs in there was no streaming service. I just had this like giant q probably like five hundred movies. That were all things that i had heard. I should see but most of them. I didn't know anything about i. Remember running if because malcolm mcdowell was in it m because clockwork orange is one of the first movies that i was obsessed with when i was like twelve or thirteen like way too young probably to be watching it and so i thought like okay. This is probably gonna be some sort of like boring. British school drama. Malcolm isn't it so. I'll give it a chance and like my mind was blown and much like jonathan. It's definitely one of my favorite films that i think it's absolutely perfect. And it really made me fall in love with lindsay anderson. And listening to malcolm mcdowell. Talk about it later on. Like i don't think. I heard any of these interviews or commentaries until probably like five or six years ago. He gives these great interviews where he talks about how impactful the film was for him in like it. Just how much. He loves the anderson. And i find them the whole trilogy but especially if i find it. Weird lay moving in an emotional way. That doesn't make a whole lot of sense. I have gotten a lot of shit about what stuff had cover on the show. What stuff. I don't and i don't think anybody has noticed. But there's a huge glaring gap when it comes to british dramas. I've never really talked too much about british dramas. I've talked about some british comedies. Your monty python things older british films but when it comes to like stuff that was coming out of the british new wave. I've never gone anywhere near it. Because i don't know jack shit about it and i was feary scared of talking about lindsay anderson in about these films because these are all brand new to me for whatever reason i never seen any of these movies i had just stayed away from them or they just never crossed my threshold so i if for the first time a few weeks ago in preparation for this show and then i have dived in and just been reading a whole lot about it. Been watching documentaries about it. And about anderson There's a great it's filmed. Stage performance of malcolm mcdowell telling stories about working with lindsay anderson highly recommended. There's just so many good things around it. So i feel like i'm more familiar with these films but i'm still a little scared to talk about them. Because anderson as a person feels like if he were here he would probably be smack can be upside the head with a very large binder right now he just sees hope so. It just seems like such a cantankerous guy and i love that he comes out of much like some of the filmmakers touch about from the french new wave and italian neo neo realism. Oh he's coming out of film criticism and he also has this huge body workman and comes the theater so like when it comes to the movies that he made. He didn't make a ton of movies but he definitely knew his shit and how to get around a camera and then if presents all of these interesting things as far as like the switching of the formats going from color and black and white. And you guys know me. I'm just like okay. What does that mean. I'm just taking all these notes like. Okay we've gone to color now. What does this mean and then at the end of the dam like. I don't think it means anything. There's no coding that i can possibly get out of this. I don't even know when this was maybe like a year ago we did. The three of us didn't episode on jacker vets lamar foo. I feel like a lot of the conversation or a lot of the broader points. We talked about with Also kind of apply to lindsay anderson and to me. he's the only sort of english equivalent to somebody like revette. That background as journalist has like the sassy est personality ever and just would decimate people but maybe a more loving in less insane way than jack revette and that black and white switch. I also have tried to find a reason for it. And i think he was experimenting the a few different accounts from what i've read and heard about it. I don't think everybody agrees with the reason for it. I mean i i. I think long story that. I've heard repeated a few times is that I think he began with the filming of one of the chapel sequences and that that was basically a problem with lighting in cola just couldn't film in colour effectively. And so i think anderson will maybe all-star in collaboration with the cinematographer just made that decision there and then to to shoot some of it in black and white i think from that point all i think he basically embrace that is a kind of stylish the joy so i think he was kind of off something that was initially produced by necessity. Nothing hall a kind of a deliberate device on from what i can say. I think the undestand didn't intend that to be a specific reason. In each case you know why is this sequence black and white in color. I think it was more. Just create a kind of distancing effect. Nothing he was really he was ready. Brek ideas so i think is very much just kind of general kind of braxton distancing device raw van beings of specifically meant to indicate dish fantasy. Is this real ally is just to see. I think he's kind of just really meant to just keep you aware you're watching fill and I think there are some really striking facts to that. He produces without. I think one of the scenes auburn really struck me. When i it in two thousand and three was defensing sequence in. Is that great moment. Where i think malcolm dowling. Just bursts bursts through the door with the Saw changes to color about moment. So i think it's also one of those devices that were wealthy striking king. Visually facts like that. It reminded me also of the way that he uses those really strange cuts in lucky man. Where it's almost like an is really hard to describe if you haven't seen the film but the way that a director would often or sometimes end to seen were kind of like to black before switching to the next scene once he does that in a lucky man but it comes at totally random times and it is super brechin. And i think that's maybe what like if i had to pick one thing that i especially love about him as a director. I think he's probably the one who manages to translate wreck in theatrical. You to film better than anyone else there. Times with those cuts to black in a lucky man. And i know that i'm jumping ahead and we'll get there but it does have a purpose. It reminds me punctuation. And then i think about the title of if which is very deliberate in the four dots. After if it's not an alexis it is four dots afterwards. And i always think is that supposed to be the four crusaders but then there's the fifth crusader so it doesn't line up that way. Some guy. I wish it was five dots. That would make more sense. And of course. Different from kipling poem which i think he's a dash and i think that was lindsay amazon's very deliberate idea to use those dogs so young that that possibly is a significant yes. I've never worked that out. But the title i think comes up at the end as well desmond and i think. The same thing happens with britannia hospital. You've got that hundred image of the brain. Sorry i'm jumping ahead a little. But i think that seems to be a technique that he liked bring the title up again after the final image will not only is this. Men's anderson and malcolm mcdowell that we have as a constant we also have david sherwin as a constant through this whole thing to he is the screenwriter co-screenwriter of if the original script was by him and a schoolmate john howlett and then he would go on to work with lindsay anderson on a lucky man and on britannia hospital. So it's like these three pieces. It's not just this two legged device that we have it's he's the third leg of the stool and so he is bringing this stuff to bear as well and he is a interesting dude. I read a lot of his autobiography going. Mad in hollywood. And he is super neurotic and just so many issues in his life that were going on at the same time as these movies were getting made. I'm amazed he got any work done at all. He just has all of these like romance problems and huge rows with his wife and girlfriend and all this cheating and having affairs secretaries and just all of this shit going on and yet he manages to make these screenplays and make them to lindsay anderson's specifications. Because like you said he seems like he is very specific. He knows what he wants and he uses these two terms and these terms just kept coming up through everything that has reading many an epic and there were many is just like. It's silly. don't put that in there. It's just you know we need to have this thing. Be epic and epic was like the thing that he was going and it wasn't just running time even though all lucky man is like three hours long it just it wasn't just you know like big set pieces because some of these smaller things that are happening especially if these are epic to linzie and they're definitely epoch to sure when he lived a lot of the stuff as well as john and. I don't think it's any coincidence. That one of the characters name is johnny and then for a while there was just the other character who is like. Come the mix slash wallace character and eventually they broke him into two pieces. Which i think really works well and so again it kind of fits back to those three legs of the stool where we have now in the three characters who are taking on the world rather than just the the two characters just their ins and outs and it helps balance the film a lot more by having this essentially one protagonist. But it's broken into three pieces with these three guys. I'm not surprised that you're you either are or were nervous to talk about them. Because they're really hard to discuss for people who haven't seen them because so much insanity happens especially in owaki man in britannia hospital like not that. If isn't insane but out of the three. If you can kind of reduce down to a sentence plot description may be with you know semi colon an additional sentence punctuation again. Yes lots of punctuation. It's so hard to describe what it is that he does in his films. Especially this trilogy without somebody experiencing it for themselves. Which i think to me is the mark of a great director or at least an exciting director who's pursuing a really unique vision. I think if is different in the sense. I think the way starts quite realistic is really and it. I think In certain ways. Because you know you get this. I think quite grounded account of the public school life and you know you get certain characters who seem to follow initially and it's almost like it's docs out kind of film that i think he kind of gradually builds on testicle or the dreamlike elements whereas i think i look man. I think from the beginning. You're already on High plane of reality on. I think pretend you're hospital too. So i think that true that i it somehow as the access point really is the first three. I find it very interesting that this was made in one thousand nine hundred sixty eight folks who have listened to the show that i drone on about nineteen sixty eight all the time and then we did this year so many films from nine hundred sixty nine over the course of twenty twenty this kind of bridges those both of them because it was made in sixty eight and then played in khan and was at april of sixty nine one con. So it's kind of bridges both of those and this is actually being made while the strikes are happening in paris. So this is right. They're kind of like preceding a lot of stuff in. It is no coincidence to me. That as you look around the sets of if you are seeing so many revolutionary images. You're the the only thing that i think was missing. The black panther spent there's like mile and there vietnam and there's just like so many different things happening you can kind of use. The sets is almost like a commentary upon the action that is happening in the sets. Me a while to realize that the to the manning a cat which is quite prominent among the collage images. And it's actually land so And i think it makes a point of showing that when in the sigma firing the little dogs. The gun various pitches. I think you see behind him and it. It's the yelich a younger lennon those collages to a really interesting. Because i think maybe the while the pitches are all. But i think just that idea of collage me very much pot Six days sort of youthful aesthetic really reminds me very much of a playwright. Joe autumn who anderson date direct. Some plays by bit late to to kind of a very iconic figure of the six days and he actually decorated his own. And he's i'm flat in that way with all these kind of technologies different images cold from books and magazines and today that in itself. I think speaks ready to that sensibility. About eragny what is so striking to me about a lot of that context is it's one of those films that remains kind of like relevant or it hasn't aged the same way that maybe britannia hospital has because even if you don't really know any of that like nineteen sixty eight revolutionary contacts or you go into the film and you have no idea that lindsay anderson is this like leftist political figure. They're still so much about it that resonates like washing it right now. It feels weirdly very topical. But the first time i saw it. It made me think of something like columbine like a school shooting basically and so i think it has all of these different possible readings that yes. Of course it's a nineteen sixty eight film and does date itself in a really strong way. But it's like it's almost like that doesn't matter it's you know what i mean. Every i really was to ask about that about the ending. Because i think even when i still in two thousand three i guess this is after columbine but i think even in two thousand three. I think school shootings were not as regular as they are now. Sadly on i guess nineteen sixty eight that i mean that is now ready. I guess not have been something that was happening in the uk on. Also this is sixty eight savage really just before they ira bombings stalled like in on the mainland in in england. And so i guess at that point you could still relegate these two fantasy you could still say this operating as a magical. It's not something you taken literally. But she now has a completely different resonances. I think it's interesting because i was watching Heather's recently which was made. I guess twenty years after this and interesting i mean i believe have a have trouble in terms of getting the original ending the intended ending produced. Which was the school would be blowing up and it's interesting if he's made a lot earlier and that doesn't cop-out that goes ready for. The you know the violent confrontational ending. But i guess the contacts may be take. I mean now owned since the time it was made. If you're making a film like that you you know. You can't really and like this like sixties. It was just the bow. You know something you could say. Well you know it's not really the true. It's not really something women to see as an actual possibility but yeah it looks very different. Now i think randomly a couple days ago. I watched this japanese movie called panik high school or i think one of the alternatives like panic in high school. And it's i wanna say it's from exactly ten years later in seventy eight and it has a similar plot about this this high school student who basically gets a hold of a gun from a gun store which like it. It's a total fantasy in a similar way because like you can't just stroll into a gun store in japan not like america. God damn it no we. We need our guns and our freedom. It has so many parallels that i didn't expect and it's interesting you bring up that sort of like dividing point sometime in the eighties where it's like okay. This is to real. We can't really show things like this in films and so to watch if from sixty eight and pentecost eight and have them both go super over the top with the the like teenage violence. Basically even though in this film they definitely look like they're in their early twenties. It's interesting to think about ways in which that has changed in ways in which it's taken on a different context. I mean i think all of the kind of writing that we've had this year and sort of like people in various cities across america like destroying police stations things. There was a period where it would be really difficult to show and talk about if because of the school shooting connection. But i think now sort of come full circle in a weird way to maybe be more politically applicable again because of those sort of like fantasies of revolution when they came out with those guns at the end because there's a few scenes of violence in the film. I mean the first one that i recall is the violence with mick and the girl and the wrestling fantasy yes well the slap in the face and then the wrestling and the music and the tagger sounds and all this and i feel so bad. That christine june has christine. Noonan has no name that she is literally the girl those that violence. There's the violence against mick. Johnny and wallace with the The caning scene. And then there's the violence of the i guess like the warm maneuvers that the school is doing. It's just seemed so out of the blue that they're doing this and then the big violence at the end. And i was just like i was kinda surprised by the big violence at the end like when they found all those guns as they're cleaning out underneath the stage. I was like okay. That could be bad. And then when you know so there is a plus b. you know. They're a guns. Plus be the violence that had been enacted upon them but then see just felt like it was really big like wow. They are killing everyone in the school. This is really wild. I did not expect them to go this all out like i'd heard if as a movie about a school shooting and that was about all i knew coming into this so i was like all right. Yeah and then that it happens right at the end and has just so sudden. It was a little shocking to me. And i was kinda questioning. Is this earnt and it might be. Because i've seen it so many times now but to meet the ending feels weirdly triumphant. A with like a touch of. I don't wanna say touch of comedy but like you can feel that it's satire and that not. Everyone might feel that way. That might just be. Because i'm a huge Sanderson fan and i've seen a bunch of his films. And so i sort of know what he's going for and so i don't know if somebody who saw it for the first time with say like oh yes that that felt like triumphant but also satirical but i do think that super over the top ending is what makes it feel fundamentally different from like an actual school shooting film. Yes i think there is a level of saw so most isn't there in the way that it's betrayed. I'm thinking of that marvin with the elderly. Very respectable looking lady. Who's just got a machine gun in his yelling. Not even yelling boston boston. Cbs and i yeah. I do that as well. But i think there is some things bowl than realistic. I think. Some fatty bloodless to isn't it really a minivan. When had math to get shot is just these nari need little bullet hole as you. The graphic detail people have objected to the way that as you say they do go for everybody so it's not just directed against the horrible prefects and the headmaster but it seems to allow assault amina. I think that to me. That's not something that should be labeled as criticism. Because i think that these young boys and it needs that conception of revolution which i think he should necessarily be taken as a very united of correct moxie style class revolution. Nothing this is about kind of romanticism. And i stayed him as a the rebound of romantics. it's as much about that liberation of the kind of primal energy. I think that motivates them. I think that's really the source of the rebellion against the consignment constriction on repression. The school represents so to me. It's also just let his outbursts of rage of a kind of wild romanticism as much as as kind of a revolution in kind of political sense. He sort of either nods to it or makes fun of it a little bit in at the very end of o lucky man. When malcolm mcdowell walks past this rafidi on the side of offense that says like something like revolution is the opium of the intellectuals or something so like it's clearly meant to be kinda juvenile fantasy from people who don't understand the rio conception of violence but it's more powerful because they Target everyone and it's not just like a specific enemy that they're they're trying to destroy its. Everyone is complicit in this system in which they're made to be so miserable. It's interesting the idea of complicity. Because i i agree with that too. I think there is a sense in which everybody is complicit on. It's not just you know taking out the the ringleader taken out. The headmaster and to me almost relates to the scene of the history. The when he's talking about History on his saying about You know not. Just a matter of evil dictators that kind of rejection in that In that moment of this great man theory or described villain theory of history on. I think the gist of what he's saying. Is you know all wheel complicit in the terrible things happen throughout history. I think in a way. That's almost like a comment on. I think the stance that they take the end where everybody somehow he's guilty. Everybody's involved in this. We should probably already call out this guy. This is graham crowd playing this history Master here and he's going to show up in the other movies as well in various capacities and he is fucking fantastic. He is such a joy to watch and love his introduction in the film when he is riding his bicycle through the halls and just has the kids like waiting there for him to take his bicycle before he just kinda saunters up to the front of the room is fantastic in a way. He kind of reminds me a little bit of of sort of like a donald sutherland type performer. How he he's such a great actor like he can be kind of goofy and kind of restrained but he's very charismatic at the same time and one thing that i don't think we've mentioned yet if haven't seen all of these movies lindsay anderson. Does this great thing where he has. A lot of people returned for different roles. Like not only malcolm mcdowell. It's like yes mick. Travis has the same name in all three movies. But he's so different and he does that with all of these sort of minor characters to in a way. That is very very funny and you know you mentioned the headmaster being shot in the head. Peter jeffrey he plays inspector trout in the abominable dr fives movies. And so. I can't see him without thinking of trout. And so i i think he plays up some of that satire intentionally. Especially as you get through the series like. Oh we're seeing this guy again. But they're all amazing yet that that that reference to activism that recognition factor. I think is really interesting because Another epa kind of cherished full knows that anderson had was that the low who i think he's basically in all but wall around the sins trickle films and he plays here the housemaster and i remember the first time when i saw that the city mayor in two thousand three. I mean when soon as awful the low appeared on screen. That was a a teacher in the audience. I mean not not of any disrespect but because he so much associated with the figure of character captain manarang in the sitcom dot com. Which is one of the most beloved richie sitcoms and he was always the complete embodiment of just compass. But but like undeservedly pompous authority. I think that's kind of the character. He plays alter the opposite films. Really vary another including dr monday in Lucky man and i think that's one of the things that i really like well about how films interact with each other. Because i mean they're not really like instead of a sequential trilogy in the sense that they follow linear story. But it's kind of like a universe in a way why you have these types of characters recur. I mean sometimes that have the same names. Sometimes just type of character played by design actor and are few on the lead byles. I think he's all of them and Dr miller courses into them. But i think he's the stand up. You will meet the same kind of characters in different forms in different circumstances. Keep doubles down on that in a lucky man by having these same people from the other movie show up and then play multiple characters. So you like at first. I thought it was going crazy. Because i was like wait. A second so surrounded richardson. He was earlier in then. Here he is here. And then i started noticing other people that were showing up in multiple roles as well as like okay. This really changes how. I'm seeing a lucky man and then there are times was like well. is helen. Mirren supposed to be the same person here versus here. But i think she is but then yeah other people will switch it up. Play to sometimes even three roles. It's incredible there. i. I can't think of another trilogy or even film series attempts anything like this. No the closest i got is the you know. L. mariuchi desperado. And once upon a time in mexico. That's about it dead. Silence jonathan you mentioned how episodic this film is that was one thing. That was kind of keeping me away. The first time. I watched it was just that it is like little episodes. It's not even like major things and sometimes they'll speak to each other in sometimes. It's just like okay. This thing happened. And i think some of that might be coming from that original screenplay of sherwin and howlett's just i mean they brought this when they were very young and some of those things i think stayed through the screenplay all through the evolution of it i think it took what eight years for them to finally get this made but then other things. I can feel more of that after having seen than andersen stuff. Now i'm like okay. That feels more like lindsay anderson thing but then you hear some of the dialogue and it's like okay. That feels very much like david sherwin thing. Especially when you've got watching these with commentaries and you hear mcdowell and that's david show when that's his style it's like okay all right malcolm. I know i think you totally can tell the difference. I mean maybe not the first time you watch if but even if you just watch the trilogy and then go back to. If it's very clear what parts are like classic lindsay in what parts are not an in a way. I think that maybe that makes if a good place to start because it's a little bit more accessible. Maybe like this. Sporting life is pretty accessible. But it's maybe more grounded in a specific narrative whereas the other two are just all the fuck over the place which i love about them. But it's it's so hard to set. Like if i was trying to Did retain a hospital. I was trying to explain to someone the plot of lucky man. And it's like every every plot description you see it's like malcolm mcdowell becomes a coffee salesman in it's like that's not the movie though it's like he does. That's true is factually correct. But like how do you say in a sentence what a lucky man is about. I mean you can say if it's about a revolution at a school but that's basically like the last five minutes. I mean it's really all of the other stuff that adds into it. That is like okay. This is the interesting stuff and to see these episodes and to see how these characters are in iraq and or not. It's interesting that we don't get like a lot of the relationship. Between the bobby phillips character played by rupert webster and the wallace character played by richard warwick like we know they're in the same circle at times and then there's one moment where they're both in bed together and i'm like okay. This is interesting. Is this supposed to be more than two people sharing the same bed. I think it is but it just feels like it kind of goes there. Especially when i'm reading sherman's book and he's just like oh. Yeah we were writing about all the buggering that takes place in the school. I was like oh okay but but with them it seems like an actual relationship. Because and i think you see this so rarely in films in general but especially films before. I don't know like nine hundred ninety five. The this sort of attraction flirtation seen that happens right before that fencing sequence when they're they're on like different levels of the gym The younger one is getting changed. And he's watching that. Like solo gymnastics performance in such a typical. Like you know there is meeting. They're attracted to each other. But you ve very rarely get something like that for gay characters especially younger gay care. I mean it's it's sort of left ambiguous about whether anyone in this film as actually gay or just. This is the environment that they're living in. There are no girls there. But i love the way that the seat the film sort of quietly develops those scenes. And you don't get all of this expository dialogue about it. Which is refreshing. But at the same time you have that really nice scene of them in bed together. Which i love. And then they're sort of together blowing up the school at the end of the film under the compensation within well Point is there. There is not sansa they really equals to one another. And i agree about that idea that i think this represents a kind of positive sexuality or positive relationship where you see the relationship between the went into the prefects with what they call scum which is again sexualize but in a kind of Quite unpleasant way. I mean these radio about power on this kind of abusive exploitative relationship so again i think is the contrast between you know these different expressions of sexuality i think with the prefects really about just the exercise of power. I know poker in the a meant to represent this upholding tradition. This appalling standards but actually they have this other side to them and i like the way that that is just taking the ground as well though the in the gym does site doesn't give you a lot of exposition about that. I think another thing actually does it does date the fill in the time is the representation of justice sort of casual affiliate radio. Well when you see like the master tweet. I think it's the chocolate isn't new tweaks nick. Poll of one of the young boys and I think i read some weather I believe cheltenham college. I think a lot of complaints about the film i think. Maybe they were very unhappy after they. Now people saw the finish phil and but apparently there was no objection to the representation of the opposite of paedophiliac elements of the master power. That wasn't something that was really even an issue. You know that tells you something about how prevalent this walls reading. Even in even in the late sixties. I think what we should mention that this was shot at a real school. A lot of it and that they did use a dummy script in order to shoot the stuff here so they left out all the gun violence and things like that and then they had copies of this dummy script that were floating around just in case anybody ever caught wind of it. And you know managed. Pick up a copy of the script. They wouldn't have the objectionable parts in it which i absolutely love. I love when films are shot like that. I know we talked about the violence being really daring unexpected. In all these experimental things he does with switching to black and white. but it's just like every aspect of the movie is really out there and in your face and it just like. There's i can't imagine anything else being quite like it in there are definitely sort of maybe kind of transgressive films shot at china boarding schools and i'm trying to now think of the german one unical. It's not what i was thinking about. That is definitely a good example of the harry potter series so mic is a griffin door and roundtree is a slither indefinitely. How it in britannia house below. So i guess that is true. I that is true. No it's okay. it's it's on the tip of my tongue. It's a volker schloendorff film. Young young tour less so young tourists has a lot of and that's i think nineteen sixty six that has a lot of weird parallels in terms of these themes of like power and sadism and homosexuality but this is just so much more insane than young tortoise like. This movie makes young tortoise. Look like it's kind of like a restrained. Gothic melodrama comparison even with barbara steele still doesn't in also kind of half inch cake and eat it too. Because i think it routed enough in the reality of british public schools which gas are already situated institution that it just gives you enough. That's credible and disclosable. I'm just. I think a lot of the time as well as just twisting things slightly or inventing slightly but based on a real thing so you got some of these bizarre to like bumped you to for instance which i i did look for and i didn't find any reference to other than the film but he does sound like something that would have been real thing in a public school and I mean i think the the the the terminology to the the whips and the scum. I think which is an existing firm i think scum. I'm not sure maybe was invented. The base but the real name that system of basically having younger boys to the older bombs in his co. fagging which shelby's resolve the film i think Yeah and can we talk about how. That's the first time you see the. This is admittedly kind of confusing but how it's established within the first like five minutes of the film because the one professor actually. I don't know if he's a professor or if he's one of the older whips now that i think about it but he tells the younger boy to go warm. A toilet seat forum. It's perfect. Yeah you kinda now immediately you know how each intended to do that. As well a munitions i think that's roundtree. Isn't it his head prefect yes he's not. The most pleasant on city stake in fact. This may be a bizarre connection but that you have the full next group before which is that. This may seem bizarre connection but it almost reminds me a little bit of sallow in all these full guys with completely unchecked power who actually even seem to dominate the masters. It's not like the masters ready behind the over them. They are belongs. Who represented and full superpower. I think it's the thought that kind of living in these cool to in kind of relative luxury. I guess you know as as boarding school pupils go and we do have been struck me watching it again really. You're not really in. I think this is one of the complaints that i read somewhere. That people felt unhappy that they didn't really get that. Come up at the end. You know you do want to see them go down. I think. I wanna talk about the moment that made me realize that. This was absolutely brilliant. At first i thought it was going to be the way that they shot the actual caning thing. Because that's exactly the way that i would have shot at if i were a film director. The whole idea of keeping the camera outside of it until mic. It's his turn and cutting inside love that but what it was was when they end up. Shooting one of the staff members was that the chaplain. I can't remember who it is when they have to apologize to him. They opened up a drawer and he pops up and they walk over and shake his hand. I was just like my mouth is on the floor going. Wow okay. i didn't expect that. But i am absolutely loving this part of his story that harold pinter really hated that scene and he tells than they understand this is just like so bizarre instill nobody's ever going to buy this gets I think he's just laid in the film. That i think you know you can act staff that sort of complete light completely unrealistic but i think also symbolically quite accurate sort of moment because i think the issue this idea that you know religion is this thing you keep drawers you just out for in convenient purposes many chevik back in and i think represents the place the chocolate highs you know within this power structure. I think he's the shaking hands as well as just the just the gentility. And a look. The headmaster's line tight the seriously yet. They're so much like not that we shouldn't think about it as its own film but like when you look at the trilogy as a whole there's so many of those great moments where he just likes skewers figures of authority. It's in such an interesting way. Because unlike in something like solo where you have these really distinctive individual characters who are painted a certain way as maybe being you know corrupt or statistic or just evil here. It's like even the sort of qualified well-meaning people in positions of authority it's like they're all complicit in this system that we've been talking about and even if they're not like violent or threatening they are perpetrating. This just like totally toxic system. I think if shows that in the most literal non satirical way because when by the time you get to pretend britannia hospital is just fucking ridiculous. That's one of the things is really great about the way that they show is the headmaster. Because i think he would have been much more conventional just to make these very stuffy traditionalist kind of figure but it is a brilliant touch to make him. You know somebody who sees himself as a kind of reforming liberal. Dvd represents that idea of you know technocracy of progress. Because he you know. He's the one who is singled out shooting at the end. Which i think is something that maybe no the film make. It might not have done. But i think in a way. He's almost the most contemptible because he's the one who lennon's that baena of liberalism to this very sort of corrupt and unpleasant system. So i think it also reflects that era too because i mean the prime minister of the time this was made was harold wilson who was a labor prime minister and i think he espoused a similar kind of belief in progress. Progress through technology on this idea that britain and now he's moving to this more syrian. You know Progressive society and. I don't think he's meant to be a direct parody of wilson because he doesn't local sound like him but i think he's meant to represent that rather smoke belief that britain. How this time that you know. Things are progressing that we're moving to this small equatoria free society of course completely illusory in many ways and Yeah i think he's a great character arc thing and apparently some of the dialogue that he has taken directly from colorado the name of the book but it was basically blockade guidebook produced by each college by the school. So i think some of actually the dayton. Let's go ahead and take a break and we're gonna play an interview with johnny. The crusader himself. David would the author of filming f. and we'll be back with that right. After these messages dark destinations is travel on podcast. Unlike any other cities and towns distinguished by their oddity and the fact that they don't exist. Join us at dark destinations. 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Would and i asked him first off how he came to write his book filming f lindsay anderson foundation. Now it was started by a number of people who either the hood works with him. All admired him. They started inviting along to meetings a run point. Somebody said oh you do realize that in two years time. Appleby fiftieth anniversary so this would have been in two thousand sixteen. I didn't make me think that he is. I been telling various stories because it was a very very impressionable. Time for me was the first film i don. I live a certain things that universe again. I don't feel right them down ready. But i knew. I couldn't write an academic a book either about filmmaking all about the political situation which may have inspired some aspects of the film like could do is to look at it from the point of view of young actor working on a film on observing what was going on and Under remembering that. So that was what i did and Quite a few people said they enjoyed it so it was worth doing. I'm told that there is very little else like i mean. There are a number of books which two minute play. examines aspects of the film looking at it from various points of view particularly. I suppose the political point of view and And i have been asta all sorts of questions about you. Know what were you thinking at the time about what was going on the the rioting that stuff going on in harass the students in paris when you were filming and it's always been very difficult because that aspect of it was never a major thing. Lindsey didn't talk about that much Although it is true. I think i say in the book that on the day that the parish riots took over the headlines in all the newspapers We came into work and he was delighted and he was saying of course that he knew that he was being Prophetic under. An i think an element of annoyance with him people would think that when the film came out it had been inspired by the paris. Riots caused we were we. Did he finished making it. And i think that the timing for him was not quite appropriate but He felt he was picking up on a a movement or like guy stole it. Have you might like to call. It was Particularly relevant at the time but No as i say the book is much more to do with the day to day Filming a routine on the the challenges presented. You were coming from more of a theater background and when you move from theater into film. I mentioned that you're acting style has to change just because of the medium itself. Well i suppose that's true but it was never mentioned over any but i was twenty four malcolm with two. Oldest boys were On the film that we were older than the prefects. The unpleasant twix as that called but boy played hugh who played denson news the rather him like run in in the little glasses very unpleasant superior authority figure He was only seventeen. The actor playing we were twenty four. That does show really that. It's not just a question of age in terms of numbers. Some people do look a bit younger. Some people activate. Y'all all that. But i had by then done quite loss of theater particularly university but also professionally not that march and when i had what became I suppose still test without me realizing ask. It was when i'd already had the audition for the film Which involved Leaving the theatre. Where i was working which was hundred and fifty miles from london Any men on early train to go to this audition and then get back on the. We were hurting One play and performing another so. They weren't very pleased to see me leave for a day but they gave me the deal had gone as far as one could tell okay but i had no idea that they were interested. And that's how many this strange requests came through on a sunday to go to a sort of viewing studio in in soho where they were Looking at costume ideas and they wanted me to try on the school uniform and mobile it as it were. And i've been thinking it's very odd here my in in in worcester in in the midland's of local to go down to they couldn't they found a young actor who lives in love but obviously i put the uniform on and lindsay. Hey man and they had the camera england and he suddenly said always said they must pay very boring for you. This is have one. Look at the there you hate it on. I tried and he said do something else. And this became. I think of Of a film test. But at no point did i really realized what was going on. I thought it was a bit of a game later on. I think it's true to say that. One thing i never learned particularly was that it's better to do less on film than they do in the here so i was in a film some years later. roy moore and anthony perkins and james mason in your country. It was cool for folks. Yes over here was cold. North sea hijack andrew v mclaughlin was the giants director. He was about six from a lovely mind. It was one particular scene was a night. Shoot and we were on an oil rig. Supply vessel a boat which was moored. We had to pretend that a helicopter was coming. Ernie i think four of us in the scene it wasn't for me it was extraordinary because there was anthony perkins who i i got on rather will be used to do. Would games together. Apparently in stephen sometime used to do a lot of word games and and so he introduced some when we were boring waiting for filming stop but he was there and roger moore was there and and james mason and each of us were given a close up and the way the sort of usual way of doing things the junior person thousand. I closed up on it. Progresses through hierarchy until the star does the final one of mclauglin said. Okay so they are the helicopters coming in and he said i i look at the stick and he had a piece of wood and he said look at the top of the stick. That's the helicopter and he would walk along and one to follow the progress of their helicopter. So they did my close up. And i being still pretty green really. Not having the the savvy to know any better i was looking up and screwing. My eyes as if to say now is not the helicopter. Yes yes. I think we as it is. And i'm not doing little note of head and then looking round in the head with a baton and scrunch is again about was that will of course the next one was james mason. He hardly moved a muscle but he did it. A liberal sub little look and a slight farrowing of the eyebrows and is for it or not was that and then the anthony perkins he had the sort of frown on from the start and did absolutely nothing. Toll like say he's placed didn't change at all course when you looked at the film later on everything was there. It was all working. He he was following this thing on that he was concerned about this reason. I undo within the story. You knew exactly what was going on in that head but create. He did nothing. And then it came to roger moore who did a sort to a raising of an eyebrow which was any usual thing to him to do on a slight. That'll smile very slight. But i learned a lot that day because it was too late to say. Can i do mine again. The lindsay on all if he wouldn't really direct in that way he wouldn't say you'll being too big. You're moving your face too much. I don't remember really Any of that Ever and yet. When i see the film again which i have seen it a few times that he recently because having written my little book i do get invited to screenings at festivals and so on when particularly during the pitching versus the film. And i have to say. I don't feel that i'm over doing it too much. Whereas later on the were television performances. I gave where I back a look at them because my face is so ridiculously mobile but But yeah i think. The technique is slightly different obviously from theater. And you're not being required to project your voice in quite the same way. The reality that you'll presenting doesn't have to be quite as heightened in the stage performance. Certainly now i look back and wish i'd studied film techniques. I wish there was a way that one could have learned a little bit Michael cain wants did a brilliant television program where he was working with students and He was just giving them a master class and And if i'm honest what he was saying was do as little as you possibly hand on him it it. It works and As long as the the brain is working and the the The thought processes there i think probably the truthful amounts but I really not. I have to admit those days having one spending young man myself. I know that. I was usually up to no good in. I have to imagine that with so many boys and young men on the set for this there had to have been a lot of shenanigans happening. Not as many as you might think the morning then than us to begin with all the young actors playing boys who were being used that they being cold so the satchel quite near the on stood up in a line and stephen frias who of course later went on to become a very director himself. He was the third assistant on the film. He would go down the line inspecting everybody to see whether their uniforms were looking all right and It was almost like being a very strict boarding school which indeed we were meant to be in within the phone but it was almost those looking to see if our fingernails were clean on this if if our shoes well-polished of malcolm mnay use to resent the study amount and richard warwick as well who played the third one of us and we used to escape this events very often. We used to pretend we were busy. Being made apple something else took precedence. So i suppose we were bitten all on on the set on the whole we were very good. Malcolm used to be a bit not because he always used to Drawer attention to himself. If he could he wants to make absolutely show everybody knew who he was. And so you're just ready to take and you've been rehearsing and you will really geared up to do it and he would suddenly asked for a glass of water attention on the the mood completely evaporated. No the sort of things that i remember on the very first day of shooting or wasn't even the first day was the day before those and we'd arrived in cheltenham. Which is a town where we were filming at cheltenham college. Which is big as we call them. Public schools In the caribbean old historical once and indeed was the school than the anderson himself. Had been malcolm. Richard and i were in a guest house We weren't in a hotel and we were in different hotel from the one in which they prefix the whips Adversaries in the films were those were they they. The the idea was lindsay. Didn't want us socializing too much because he wanted to encourage her a distance. Sort of free soul between us and The when we found this out which was on the very first day we arrive and we were told that they were somewhere else. Malcolm and he said oh. Come on. let's go and see them and so we did and we met them in the how to drink with them. We didn't dare tell lynsey does of course have to pretend that we'd never met again before we be on the set for the first time with them. It was another time which was great on the scene. In the headmaster's study Where we're being total of shooting the chaplain Very surreal scene which A lot of people have a bit difficulty with that scene. And even the harold pinter apparently who loved the film but jairo pins being the time The greatest playwright we had but apparently he was slightly baffled by the scene. The chaplain coming out of the drill. In the headmaster's study shaking hands with the boys. He who apparently being shot answer. Apparently at that It was taking the surreal a little bit too far. Maybe that was the one moments in the film which was a not quite working in way. I didn't think lindsay quite soy that way. But i think it was always interesting with audiences because somebody's gonna find that terribly. Funny when the chapter. And the others would be absolutely bemused by because they thought he was dead on the idea that being a fantasy scene of the shooting of wishful thinking. Whatever you like to call it had entered the heads but Shooting that scene was in itself quite difficult because jackson who was the wonderful man who played the chapman him raising himself out of the drawer to shake hands. It was very funny. I'm we found it very very difficult not to laugh. And it was on one cake whereby he would lifting so often the three of us one by one would go up and very formerly on seriously shake his hand and then walk away Be done in one. Take and time out time. One of the three of us would break up and cope some on laugh from lindsey. Go perry cross. I remember and said you know you'll to be professional and Veggie we got it done. But they were shooting it only seen that was shot in of Rather grind house in knightsbridge in the west end of london weeping older in all sorts of other places. But we'd never been there before and it was very near harrods harrods. Is you know the big department. Stores are very expensive store and we were allowed out for lunch in school uniforms. We went out for lunch and we were so near. Harrods we pull. Oh we'll go in here and there was a right. At the top of harris there was a department store of of men's clothes called way in. I think it was mentally way out. You know they were close with any way out of we were in the sixties and So we went up to the top floor. And i didn't know that we were doing anything to take the offensive but we were making quite a little noise and looking at the close and i think the assistants were worried about this and i think we were asta leave but other than that. I can't remember an instance where we were misbehaving too much. And i think we were pretty good. Really much of the film was shot on. Location versus on a sound stage was any of a shot on a sound stage. What we called the study seems studying of the the little bedrooms as it were the the the the boys have. Then you see malcolm in is you see may arrive and talk to him and you see various scenes. Where the bonding against authority. Where we cut each other's wrist some bond with ludden lazy all those teams did take place on a sound stage at merton park studios on merton park studios funnily enough is probably a mile or a mile and a half away from where i'm sitting now. I'm at home in wimbledon which is where they play the tennis And merton park is just down the road and the studios of long since gone under the an apartment block on the site but the was not obviously one of the biggest studios like that will stray or shepperton pinewood but they did have enough room for them to create these studies. I suppose they were cheaper to than going to one of the main ones we what that but that was right towards the end of filming the reason for that was that lindsay thirteen that we should get to know each other the three of us and gradually he as filming progressed. Because i think the whole thing only took six and he didn't want the more intimate scenes between us to take place too early in the shenzhou so all those teams were done one after the other as it were at the end but otherwise we were at times i say of cheltenham college but a lot of people assume that we were there for much longer than we were cheltenham. College was used for the exteriors. So there are some rather beautiful. Almost nostalgic through the mistakes type shots establishing shots where you were Which would not necessarily featuring actors at all but we're just that ferrick picture postcard type shots and they were all done at cheltenham as were the scenes of the shooting of the end Near the end when we were up on the roof shooting down that everybody coming out of the founders day ceremony that was a cheltenham on what we call the. You'll pay when everybody's dressed in army uniform. The male true hours and the japanese on a horse and so on and you see knows that was old on you know and The the scene where the founders a speeches are made and where we are under the stage bringing smoke up in this chaos. That took place in a church hold. It was within the school but it was a church hole round the corner which has since been demolished. I think that was in cheltenham. The city is it worth on the scenes where malcolm and i are escaping from the football match and we're seeing crossing over. There's a a roundabout and we're pretending to gangsters in a film or whatever we're doing and I'm rolling on the ground and malcolm's fighting in those ruled on in cheltenham stops the majority of the school savers. Funnily enough were done another school which was very near l. street and i don't know whether the unit was based they'll street studios but certainly oldham school near what stood and l. street was where the gymnasium seeing the the beating seen so place there the shower scenes which were done in these strange open. Air showers that the school used. I mean that that school was fairly spa and unfairly prematurely and the dormitory scenes were all done at all. The numbers well. Apparently the story goes that when they were looking at the school to using it as a location. They looked at these interiors particularly the dormitories them. They were so badly decorated. I'm they looked so terrible. Lindsay said we're gonna have to redecorate these otherwise people won't believe it. They'll think we're exaggerating making them far worse than they really are The school agreed to this redecoration. As long as they were put back to their original state afterwards they had to go back to the sludgy green color. Whatever they were. I think we will probably filming an older them for a bit longer than we were cheltenham and then there was a good school which is In a place called beddington park and the reason that school was chosen was that it had very long corridor grows and so all the corridor shots of going walking down to the prefixed study and the shot right at the beginning rat. Older boys a reassembling for school and going up the stairs and so they they were done in this school but we were only there for probably A couple of days the transport half as we would call it where the famous cafe scene takes place where we need to go play by the wonderful christine neumann and that was on a main road of a real one. And i'm not quite sure exactly where it was. I have to admit we were driven there. And then we we shop for the day and then we drove back. And i'm not quite sure where it was but we were faced Some cheltenham at the time. I think that was a real location. It wasn't a studio and all the truck drivers who usually had their breakfast of this cafe. They will sent round the back and they opened up a window and they were served from the back while we were filming in the actual cafe us. That was good. It was it was always quite good when we went somewhere. New just for the day or two days was but it was all very exciting but the whole thing was quite challenging to because the motorbike seeing part of which was that cafe. That was pretty terrifying. 'cause malcolm never driven a motorbike before. They brought along a tiny little machine. I didn't know what it would have been. You know fifty nine hundred. Cc him to learn on then when this thing arrived that he had to actually drive with me on back It was a eight hundred c. See this monstrous machine. And we had no crash helmets. The bike wasn't taxed on licenses as we were on a public road. Half the time. I had a scarf on rather like it's a door duncan scarf beloved which she strangled us okinawa cough and i had visions of getting cooler up in the wheel so quite terrifying but at the same time of course very exciting and lindsay would do every we finished to one of these tapes of roaring along the countryside and going round around about he would say is right do it again foster plays faster and the the the stunt man Who was in charge of us doing something like that Mangku ain't bram. He was overheard by me. Talking to michael. Med win one of the produces just before we did it saying Mr mode i. I will not take any responsibility for what happens today. He said You know when you have two people on a motorbike on their own. There is nothing. I can do to make it safer or make it easier for them and of course not only that we were shooting it right at the end of shooting. They already had a film in can even if we were killed and we were very aware of that but malcolm was very good because he He you know he was very devil. Make the in a way. I'll characters in the film. were some to our own. I suppose that i was I was the most sensitive to but malcolm was that. They've actually a shops. That where you can see in for the looking over your shoulder zooming all really fast on these sort of saying to me. You're right you you okay and And i sort of do a attentive. That will know putting on a very wholesome smile though. I'm enjoying every second. You talk about the the rooms swear you were quite living. Tell me a little bit about the decorations of those rooms. How much of that was you guys versus. How much of that was production design. Especially i'm talking about the all of the photos. That are everywhere in those rooms. When i knew i was cost. I was invited along with malcolm. On richard to meet lindsey and some other people connected with the home for lunch in soho in in london and i think it must have been at a weekend because i'm sure i would have been working on stage during the week. It was a very old lunch. Because i had not seen a script and as the lunch progressed i realized that the other two had and i was a little bit nervous to say anything i i should i tell them that i have made. Maybe i'm not meant to have one. And i hadn't had much experience in the business and i was reluctant to push myself would so i didn't mention it And we will asked if we would look out for pictures in newspapers which We would like to put up on the walls of our studies of the bedrooms at the school. Of course. I didn't know what was meant that because that's what all these pictures the character would choose. All the i david would act to choose so blindly started looking magazine of finding a few Should've animal i think that's not quite realizing was it was awful now when it came to it and we were taken to the moon pop studios where the study's had been built As a set we were taken there the day before i think and asked to actually decorate our own rooms so i see pictures off which They might have included the old film star. I suppose i really remember but they might have been views of Nice places certainly. I work from thinking of putting up anything to do with Lending north to do with the royal family to do with a guerilla warfare person with a machine gun. That wouldn't have entered my mind does david would. It might down this journey the character but i think what happened was that a design and lindsay lindsay was very much involved in pushing off of these pictures and i think that they have and indeed injustices adjusted and improved and eventually got what they wanted so that the pictures were in the right position and the right sort of pictures for what they wanted but we s we. We were invoked. But it wasn't until. I go to an i had been meant to receive a script. I found out later and they were surprised if i hadn't got one but it it become a little bit clearer. Then we weren't simplisafe. Puppet so i think we were off to use our own intelligence to a certain extent. But i think that's my choice of pictures would have pleased lindsay a tool and nothing like what he wants. You talked a little bit in the book about the black and white versus the color. Are they using two different cameras for that. or what. What's going on with the switching. The format there'd be many many stories about the black and white stroke color. The room was that then. Iran out of kulla stock and they'd run out of money And so they had to resort to black and white that that wasn't true at all that was proved as i was concerned very early on. We were at cheltenham. Where as i mentioned we stopped filming and one of the very first shots was in the chapel. The chapel was an old and very beautiful and gothic. Had a big stained glass window really very of the back so we shot in per day and Lindsay used to like us going to see the the rushes every day of what happened the before. That didn't continue. Actually we didn't do that all the time. But near the beginning he wanted us to see what we have from the day before and we used go to the odeon cinema in cheltenham off to the final showing of whatever film was serving on that day. We the actors would be upstairs and the The powers that be downstairs in the in schools and you could hear them talking down below and do remember that you would see out of the chapel seen. It would be in color to be honest it looks. It looks like a stage set. It did look like the real thing and We heard lindsey down below saying. Let's see it in black and white and so they showed it in black and white and he said right. Yes we'll go for that and my media was well. He won't sit in black and white because it looks more real more documentary almost and he doesn't love this big stained glass window at the back to look though it is just a piece of scenery from a stage set and indeed was seemed to happen as time wore on that. It's something to him. Look better in black and white then he would do it in not look better in color it would be in color. I sense that there was mischief in this as well because a lot of people think. Oh well the fantasy scenes must be the one that's in black and white and the reality are in color. Well actually that the work when you go through you can see that. That's the formula or the plants. And i get the that maybe part of lindsey was sitting you know in fifty s time. People are still going to be wondering why on earth that black. I'm not gonna tell them is true to say that because the film was on a limited budget and they'd had problems and they did have problems with paramount not wanting to pay for it for a while and because of that miratec miroslav under check who was the lighting cameraman brilliant czechoslovakian work with former and On others who lindsay had met at the film festival. I think he apparently did say that. In order to light the chapel successfully and to make it look real and to make as he would like it would take an awful lot more equipment and also more lighting stuff and it would cost much and it would take much more to do it. The decision was taken not to do that. So you could say that money was part of this. But i don't think it was all of it by any means as i say You can't look at the seams chronologically from the filming point of view and say. oh well. they're all black and white at the end of the filming schedule. That just wasn't true and you also say that filming chronologically through the scripts. There was never anything in the script which said oh this must be in black and white this in color so i think it will always an arbitrary decision which he took probably as much off the shooting On probably during editing with quite a lot of. I'm not quite sure you've made an interesting point. Just that you said. Was it a different camera. What i don't know is whether on one print that you do in that you shoot in color whether you commend. Look at that same print but in black and white somehow or whether it has to be two different prints which should been shot at the same time because the presumably the actual content would be the same I don't know you've opened the kind of worms. I'm very curious what it was like for you to meet the queen. That was nothing to do with this. Was that other thing. No i've been a condition of meeting the queen five times in my life. The first time was i was in a film called aces. High aces high was directed by jack. Gold and malcolm mcdowell was also in it and it was about seven years off an malcolm. And i were reunited which was great because by then of course his career had taken off he had done on the landscape for lucy. Done cook work orange so He was coming in as The lead actor in aces high and we had christopher plummer. Simon would within it. There was small Sideshow they small cameo rose. Raymond land amazing. I have a photo where all of us sitting. And there's ray maligned and howard and even john gielgud was in it saying the headmaster of the school but We would suddenly told off to chart it that there was going to be a royal premiere and so the queen and the number. We're going to attend so I needed older a brand new. Dinner jacket tuxedo tied. Because you have to have one ready by a strange synchronicity. My wife was about to have a first child and in fact Door was born the day before the royal premiere so we didn't know quite what to do but the hospital said that she would be allowed out to come to the premier as long as she came back to the hospital off to us on the so within article twenty four hours or thirty six hours of giving birth she came along and the queen came down the line and I made a terrible mistake because when you when you meet a is extraordinarily Powerful in the sense that you can't take your eyes off from rarely so she asked me one or two things. Did you really fly in the planes or something. And i have to say no. No no i don't think insurance would allow and then she carried on down and Richard johnson the actor was next to me and suddenly doug me in the ribs because my eyes had followed the queen down to meet the next person When i swung back in dug in the rid of coastal the duke met and we were standing in front of me wasting to talk of that completely that he was going to be there as well but then it was of the nice because the Immediate relatives of the actors had been put into a little the ten th they. They put a rope around a little area. And so jackie. My wife was there and the duke of edinburgh very kindly did go over and On speak to them so she had a quick word him so that was the first time and then i had this other extraordinary experience. Where in two thousand six. I think it was It was the queen's eightieth birthday in my other role as a children's play right which roundabout the time of s. I had already written my first children's play in nineteen sixty seven. I'm sitting. I've written about seventy five more and i have my own company and Children's here has become arguably the most important thing that i do. I was off by the bbc and also by an organization Who was setting up Celebrate ray thing for the queen's eightieth birthday to write to play and the idea was that they just huge poverty in buckingham palace gardens which would be converted into a sort of theme park celebrating british children's literature so there would be big things about alice in wonderland and Peter pan and Everybody was to be involved. From the children's book world giving their services and getting their copyrights to allow me to rise played. Which would include as many iconic characters from britishness church possible. From children's. there was seven months of my life and it wasn't an easy time but it was i wouldn't have missed it for the world But we had a lot of problems we we have to negotiate with disney which was quite interesting because they do a chief executive of disney over to meet me because i wanted a scene where tree baz three famous bez and coolest. Goldilocks and the three bears. is is a a sort of famous fairytale. Whatever and i wanted. The three beds of was paddington bear. Who is a famous literary that. In this country. Rupert there was another one and winnie the pooh and of course winnie the pooh is owned by disney and winnie the pooh It's not allowed by disney to share the screen with characters from any other stable. So this man flew over specially to see me and we had these tokes and it was very difficult because In the end the only way that they would allow it to happen would be if winnie the pooh was i related and The like the pandemic actually take offense around him and the other two baths were allowed to come in waves to him and sort of asked the question. Have you seen the queen's handbag. Which was the plot was going on the queen's handbag stolen and winnie the pooh way to them and said no. I haven't been. They moved on but they were not allowed to share the same shot as i want them to do. But after that The actual performance took place. Where staff studied. I mean we had a lot of very very well known. People taking part on a huge stage in buckingham palace goblins sunday was broadcast live on a sunday afternoon to eight million television viewers and had the harry potter people. We actually filmed the contribution as possible. The story on the set of harry potter all sorts of people playing all sorts of characters. And it was. It was an extraordinary thing. And afterwards i was presented to the queen alongside trevor nunn. Who's the sir trevor. Nunn the famous theater director. Even here i don't know whether she'd enjoys but she she said. Oh you are your responsible for this. I i think my mama told my full but she smiled nice in an envelope. There was another occasion which was thirty years ago. When there was a big thing buckingham palace to celebrate young people in the us and the whole thing of young people and training in the arts some say drama schools and ballet school so there was a show and then the number of were invited. I wasn't quite sure why i was invited. Me but We hadn't realized we will be presented to the queen and prince philip but we will file through and a lot of us there. I just stand there shaking hands on a wish they do. Of course terribly. Toby will but When it came to me. I've shook the hand and she you call you also have to say anything unless she said something to you so I just south of smiled and there was a a bit of a delay because the duke of edinburgh become rather interested in the person next to me who was having an animated conversation with them. The queen looks over on rather irritated. I think that The line had come to a stop and then look back to me and raised her eyebrows and just said q. and of course We a very good at doing our country as you probably know which means standing in line but she just use this one would q. And that was it but the other time that was when i received the ob which is the order of the procedure impoverishes. One of the owners. The queen bestows on people who apparently have done things. So i was very. I was very flattered to receive that that was Two thousand four. It was a services rendered to literature. Something else i mean. It all sounded far important and grants. And i really fell. If they'd said it was my services to children's i would have approved of that because Children standard is one of those areas. That has been very much. The cinderella of the theater world for many many years and things are better now and indeed in america. A lot of my place. I'm delighted to say have done quite a lot. I adopted roald dahl books including the bf g on witches just folk some are done in In the united states Quite a loss on peace. And i did come over to new york. A few years ago i play mine was not uptake of a wonderful book called. Tom's not gotten on that was on the new victory on forty second street which is a wonderful which is solely for young people. I think come over to quite a lot of Conventions and conferences What about children's santa in there places chicago. so i particularly enjoyed and even albuquerque. I did a conference on an. It's a far cry. Maybe for my acting career but the they do sort of tie. I think because i've always wanted to be an entertainer of some kind and And i did find eventually. That entertaining children was something i could do. And i I get a real buzz from. What are you working on these days. Are you able to do anything especially during the pandemic time. Well has been a very strange time. And i have a a show which i wrote and I direct as well. Not updating the children's picture book by judy come on extraordinary woman who died last year aged ninety four i think and there was a book written over. Fifty years ago called the tiger. Who came to tea fumble. Enough judah who wrote an illustrated. As she and i met at buckingham palace own mckay when my play was going to be put on the eightieth birthday and there was a reception for children's writers in the palace which I was austin sorta co host. Because i was there with my play and Do just call. I didn't recognize Although a my daughters. Both georges when they were young The interesting was their favorite book so when she was pointed out to me and i immediately went up. Wins on one knee. And said you know wonderful to meet you and It and she took the wind out of myself by saying Or it's very nice to meet you too. My husband sends his best. Because i couldn't. I know who knows but she very kindly right. husband was A writer brilliant television. I took who nigel kneale. Nigel kneale had written some years before The quite a mass series. And i didn't know whether that had an impact in the united states but quite a messy became a film several films. I think it was originally a television serial. Sort of a sci fi scifi thing which went out live and was hugely Sensationally you know here and by coincidence about thirty or forty years before. This meeting took place. I had been in one of nigel. Neal's television place as an actor on the east come into russell's and we had met until an amazing the remember them had linked up the fact that i've is the same david would as is the act was also the children's writer. He had followed. What i've been doing eventually do justin. I met sadly he died before the meeting but we met. She mentioned the fact that produce was interested in turning her book. The tigers t into a children's play. And i said well if they want someone to have a go i will. The result has been extraordinary. Because we've been doing it now for twelve years. It's been on the road that should be all that time and It's been in the west end saying season either christmas or in the summer now. Eight hundred nine times so going back to what you asked. Which is what i've been doing. In the pandemic. in march tiger was happily touring. They were up in the north of england in huddersfield and suddenly Prime minister decided to tell everybody that they shouldn't go to the anymore. And the whole thing came to a whole and it hasn't been a performance oversee since some. We missed out on the tour but also on our west end season. That the wonderful his royal haymarket which is beautiful beautiful theater. And we're still waiting hopefully be able to resume. That was a bit of a blow. But i had the fall in working on the new show and that is now ready and waiting to be produced. Although i think now it's not gonna be produced. Probably until twenty twenty two to show for children of families really based on a wonderful book called coming to england by flow ella. Benjamin and benjamin came from trinidad when she was ten years old with family and Experienced quite a lot of racism and difficulty but survived and came true in until now she is a baroness in the house of lords hugely respected and pushes the On does all the right things of in parliament Anyway i will used to be on children's television over forty years ago and we did several things together. We've known each other all that time. And she one day said would i think about adapting her book from so. That's what i've done. I've been reasonably busy but it. It's it's a loving this pandemic really because low. We're very lucky. We got a nice home. We put a a garden outside grass and or restaurant. We are extremely fortunate. Much more fortunate than some of the younger people i mean. Now you know. I'm i'm seventy six years old now and I just feel incredibly lucky to have my life and my chances whereas i feel the loss of the younger ones just missing out The unable to achieve what they might but Malcolm and i mess up about eighteen months ago which was really wonderful. We haven't met for a few years. He was over in london Little to do with the anniversary of clockwork orange actually He was doing a few personal appearances on. Anyway we agreed to me. And then these two revolutionary schoolboys from nineteen sixty eight decided to have Don't just hotel which one of the most expensive hotels i. i think. Our image was rather taken away from us as we sat there with my cream tea and our schools and our cakes and no it was lovely to see him and of course he has had going incredibly. Well he's had a great career. We've had very different lives but I feel that i was never as i'm vicious. I suppose as an actor as he was after we shot. I went straight back into rap. What you probably coach stuck in so I would be somewhere in the north's doing a play in manchester aware of it might be you know. Went back to what i've been doing before and then television came along and i did a lot of that. Meanwhile malcolm Refused to accept anywhere control unless it was a major feature film and he was almost starving. Not no money in this very small flat. I sometimes used to meeting and i think i used to pay for lunch. Because he couldn't afford it but he was so determined that he was going to be a film star and it paid off because although obviously month a month went by before the film was released after we finished shooting because they have to and it his little the problems of where it was going to go on and how it was going to be released so month a month went by but eventually he did get figures on the landscape opposite robot shore and strangely It was really quite spooky. Because in that film he enrolled the shore are handcuffed together and That's part of the. If malcolm and i were handcuffed together as a sort of jokey thing when we pretend to escape from the supporting the rugby team cool and we went out on our adventure eventually stealing the motorbike i was that was destroyed in this image. You've malcolm handcuffed to happen twice within but no it was. It was great to meet up with him. Because sadly of course. Richard worry Third musketeer he died some years ago and christine noonan played the girl she has died. And the real. The swan who played the head. Prefect roundtree very spending performance. He's gone and On a course. I think all the older members of the cast Have have now gone so We're clinging on in the mr. What thank you so much for your time. I'm sorry ask for half an hour. You gave me an hour. So i really appreciate your generosity with that. No i've i've enjoyed it. I hope i haven't spoken too much. Yeah people up four people and they don't stay a man's got to make whatever you will and take it with his own hand people stay people. They never get to see some got to win in the human race given is a huge at has been measles smiled while you take eba go and nobody has gone novak. Who's my that's your man. I'm giving you the northeast. It's big judge. You think you're up to it. I know i am sir. The entire population that india could be rehoused on the moon but in ten years is learning to live in a new way. Same greeting two dollars. Compensation is our maximum decision of 'cause but if you'd things could be pretty upsetting for kitty uh four squad. Plus we are back. We're talking about the mick travis trilogy specifically we're talking about a lucky man and i do want to ask you the same question i asked before. Jonathan was the first time you saw a lucky man. Well i on videotape. After seeing f i must admit again. It was similar experience malcolm. I didn't really work as well for me. i think those away. I just found it very orienting on. It seemed the meandering on a bit too much. Like a series of comedy sketches. I think that was You know paulie by reaction to the fact that a lot of the actors minneso- famiglia from sitcoms on tv comedy. I think where he did start to grip. Ready was in the final scenes. I think the with the huddle with the salvation. Aw may did begin to feel. There is something very powerful about this on that again how to similar kind of enlightenment process while i store again and by this point i was living in canada and this may sound verse but in a weird way it almost might be a little bit homesick britain because i think that there is something so british about the sensibility behind this and i think what really i really love. The second time i saw it was just some about dialogue some about a sort of humorous low key bizarre dialogue. The david show in rhode yacht the second time amazing way because in a way it is such a you in film but i already felt very emotionally invested in it. The second time so again completely changed my opinion writing the second time i saw another say i think now is my favorite one of the three. How about you sam. It took me much longer to see a lucky man britannia hospital. I think maybe at the time. I watched if they were just harder for me to get hold of so it was probably a couple of years after that that i watched a lucky man and it really was not what i was expecting. I guess i kind of i would say with anderson's films and this is not true of the way. I approach every new movie. I'm gonna watch. But i try to find out as little as possible and so i think i assumed that it was just a direct will somehow to if like they were going to spin it so that the events were a fantasy and now we have them. You know make a couple years older in college or something so when i saw it i was like what is happening but i love it. I mean i agree with everything. Jonathan said i just. It's one of those movies. That i think is really hard to sell people. Because it's hard to describe what exactly it's about and it's very very long. It doesn't feel at least not to me. Granted you know as we've talked about before. I like six hours. Jacques revette movies. So i'm not a good judge. But because it's so episodic and because malcolm mcdowell so charismatic and the direction is so perfect it doesn't feel like you really get lost in the world and you get very emotionally connected to. What's happening with him. Even though he's such a quirky character i know i. I really love it again. I will watch for me on this one aunt as i'm watching it. There was a moment where i had to pause and get up and like now get more water or something and i was just like what the fuck three hours. There's no way this movie. I had no idea what i putted at. I wondered why the dvd's set that. I bought of this. And as far as i know. This isn't on blu ray anyplace. Please correct me. If i'm wrong but i don't think so. I've got a two disc set and motherfucker. That second disc would not work. I had to go out and get another version of it. Because i try to put it in and it just wouldn't read it so i was sitting on the first half of the movie for awhile and then finally got to see second half and wow i was really taken aback. I was very glad though. Jonathan when you and i were talking via chat on facebook because i kept getting little whiffs of clockwork orange through this movie and it was just like am. I crazy for thing. You're not crazy at all. It's definitely yeah. I think this is. There are d- seem very similar on the with the interrogation where he suspected spy and he's in that kind of device in the chad which evokes aversion therapy and clockwork orange. And then the scene. I think towards the end with the homeless people which i think really if the second half of a car and i think i think like a lot of that second half of clark arranges is very similar is not and again. I think he's the. I mean both of them that picturesque narratives. I think it might have been the fact that i mean that that i think indebted to similar kind of literary tradition. But i do think that they're also direct. Homages i think i think malcolm mcdowell said that there are a few little sort of knobs because there is a character tickle stanway who is i think one of the students in the medical center and as another character. In fact i think. The tycoon played by ralph. Richardson he's james burgess. So i think there are. Few nicholson wings. There i guess. The fact that malcolm mcdowell was the one who originated today. I mean my do with that because it seems he said starting off with his. He's the story about his experiences. Coffee salesman doesn't he was involved late to too. So he may have drawn He's experienced car in this. I was also reminded of the cocaine. And just him talking about coca cola. I love his little monologue about coca cola. It kinda reminded me of them talking about coffee and just that it is this thing and it doesn't dawn on american watching this jonathan. That coffee sales selling coffee in britain is probably a lot tougher than selling coffee in the united states. I think there was a finally there was a moment. When malcolm mcdowell and something maybe it was on the commentary was just like of course. It's impossible so coffee in britain to people that just drink tea. Oh okay yeah. That is a really horrible task. Okay i get it now eat me. That's a little bit alien. Nasdaq definitely i think definitely would have been time yet. Coffee especially in the north of england to which is why this is starting now i guess. Yes hof and tea drinkers. Yeah i think. Even the russell dr g so the thing i was reminded of a little bit was apocalypse. Now we're really heart of darkness. This whole thing of him being sent up the river. Yeah we're oswald. What used to be an. I kept thinking like. Are we ever going to find out what happened oswaldo. We're gonna find like skeleton somewhere or something or like him ruling over like a group in northern england or something. I don't know but we should talk about the way that this movie is structured. You know it is again. We're going back to very episodic stuff you mentioned that but also we have a narrator kind of in this by having allen price performing songs throughout it and then. I love the moment when alan price actually comes into the movie because most of the time. He's in a studio with his band recording songs and they have something to do with what's going on most of the time that they do and then when he just suddenly shows up in the movie. It's like oh okay. We've just crossed this weird light. It's not necessarily as surrealistic as the chaplain sitting up from the drawer. In in the headmaster's office but there definitely is that moment. Where i'm just like. Oh we're we're going to go there now. This is very interesting. yeah. I love his presence in the again i subtract to you device that he liked the I think he's been compared to the streets in the opera in that he is kind of out. He's outside the narrative say all sort of moved inside as well and some of the things i've read. The interpretation of him is he is kind of in a way. Almost like a counterpart travis in the tropics. Is this naive. who yet experience. The ways of the world price represents somebody who is a bit more worldly wise and he's kind of seeing everything back on everything with this very ironic perspective. And i love his presence in the movie as a character to because i think again he reflects outside san solve coal wisdom and he has some great lines as well disney. I thin can. I think telling to me as well the way. He appears at that point the way that pop group peers. Because i think that's the point. Where make he's going to the south. He's moving north to south. And i mean that whole narrative of cools not whole project tree of north to south. The may not really. I guess what the experience wall spoil generational singers and autism who were stiff the northern working class backgrounds and mean going not going south was ready to the success story and i think you have that sort of early part of the meeting which is almost a bit like kitchen. Sink type of nelia isn't it with the The factory in with the boarding house and he's almost like the movie east of shifting into a different kind of will really when the pop group appears so today severi kind of nicely placed elements being the way that the pop group peers about point when he's on the way to london. That's definitely another thing that made me think a little bit of revenge though how he. Sometimes i think he does us in merry go round. Maybe where he sometimes has these like musical interludes. That don't have to do with anything that's happening but here. It definitely feels a lot more grounded because he does wind up meeting up with the musicians and of course there's that wonderful helen mirren character but something that i just wanted to say before we move too far from it i love how is specially in the opening when he selling coffee and i have to wonder if this is something that malcolm mcdowell like must have experienced personally but he has all of these kind of scenes early in the movie that kind of continue to route where women particularly older women are hitting on him and making is at him. And you get the sense that he's aware of that and might be a little ambivalent about it but like use it because it's a way to get ahead and i don't think you see that very often in movies where it's like. A male character is defined by his attractiveness to the opposite sex like usually. It's a young woman. So i just thought it was really interesting. The way both malcolm macdonald lindsay anderson used that in this film and how it kind of connects to some of the gay themes in if in sort of like latent gay themes in the whole trilogy is definitely very attractive to the opposite sex. I did not expect during the coffee tasting seen that it was gonna go that way the other thing i didn't mention is you know you talked about the the journey from north to south. And we've got these tidal cards that are throughout this thing as well which also always appreciate a good title card and just that it is kind of charting his journey as he is going along because yeah like you said it starts off and a normal. He's working in this factories getting trained with these other guys. I love this white hat and the white coat that he's wearing. And just all of these things going on with this and then getting sent on this other guys route and then it just goes fucking crazy at one point and i can't even pinpoint one that is it just starts to get wilder and wilder and wilder. And i don't know if the wildest part of this movie for me might be the hospital stuff which then plays into britannia hospital especially because we've got the same doctor that was so good and so unexpected. It's just so horrific new i think the Sort of sign of of of snotty. Bizarre element is the next club as well. I think that's kind of me to go beyond just kind of standard realism could be could be a real estate thing and i feel the movie also get darker as well as it goes on so i think that's maybe something. I didn't appreciate the first time i saw where it fell. Ready very structured. But now when i looked at it. And i feel that there are two halls. And it's like what you're saying in that first half What happens in the second half because when you type for instance like the sex club you see all the various representatives of local authority that will kind of hand in glove with each other on the policemen. The ma- the coffee company in a way almost reflects what what you later anticipate what you see. Lay to get the businessman with politicians african dictator and islamist line. Setting up these these bowl. I guess most finished the reality is that you see like jerome but that hospital sequences wylie's israeli israeli religious so striking. But it's almost like battle though aged Because he's so surreal. It's almost like you just did a flashing past year. And i think again should've stat so i think those kind of longer sequences of despair or of kind of horrible things in the in the second half. I think although as horrible. It's to brief to register somehow. I i actually when i when i can rewatch you. Kind of almost forget that that policies that really shocks me every time and it has that those really great like stunts throws himself out a window and so it goes from being really horrifying. It's like there's this kind of mounting level anxiety when he's in the hospital and maybe that's just because hospitals cre- out you know even though i work in one but it's like it quickly takes turn into this sci fi horror movie and then he throws himself out the window and gets into a van with abandoned. It's just like you process so many emotions in such a short amount of time as dizzying but so perfect. The way he's also trying to negotiate with dr miller or anything. He's really happy that he's managed to get hundred pounds out of him and it's just that kind of myopia resonate about focusing on his his negotiating skills. You know not not having any inkling. He's actually going to happen to him. Really if i think about it the moment where things kind of take a turn in the movies when he puts on that gold suit and i know that that was based on something that really happened to mcdowell in real life by yet the gold suit and his journey and finding his way onto. What is that an army base. And they interrogate him. Torture him than. There's something that happens in men running around like crazy escapes and it. Just it's one thing after another after another in their very few times in the first half of a half of the movie that even allow you to breathe because it has just one thing after another after another. It is just wild and i was floored again watching this for the first first time is just like. Where's this going like. I had no idea especially you know. Tell me watching it in the first ten minutes that you're going to be able to predict anything that's going to happen after that you can't because it just takes these wild turns but yet it earned like of this stuff feels like oh well when he finds the guy who's got his human head grafted onto a sheet body. That's just too much for me. I can't take that. I checked out of the movie. No it all works. That point might be why it doesn't feel three hours it's relentless but it's not fast paced in a way that feels rushed or like you know if you watch action blockbusters a lot of the time it feels like they're just like sprinting through this plot to get to other explosion scenes but here i think maybe that's why it resonates with me so much emotionally is it's like it does jump from all of these different completely unexpected adventures but at the same time year with mick every step of the way like i. I don't know how else to explain. This movie is so hard to talk about. The songs held without as well. Don't at the songs. Do give you something of a breathing. Space is like a moment to reflect gaseous berry The idea that you know you need the space in which to critically take in to the on you've seen so i almost feel like this without the songs. I think. This might be a lot harder. I think to take in totally n. They're also and this is something that i think. I focused more this time around is there are at least in the first i. Maybe actually. maybe they're throughout out. But there are a lot of these really unexpectedly beautiful scenes of him just like traipsing through the countryside. That i think also give you a minute along with him in a minute to slow things down that i think really helps with the pacing on really appreciated Watching it again the landscape sam. You get that sequence of nuclear explosion with Gives you this kind of post-apocalyptic by aman used vehicles to verdant landscapes. And i think he's playing a lot with symbolism of death and rebirth and so there's a lot of sort of symbolism woven in there as well really which i think does give you some kind of point of orientation where i think. It doesn't just feel purely arbitrary. So i think the way that three instances dot same with the church comes in after the nuclear explosion. It does have a certain kind of symbolic logic to it. So i think there is a. There is a kind of structure somehow dieting. We talked a little bit about a clockwork orange. And the other thing that. I don't wanna say it took me out of the movie but i was just very happy to see it was philip. Stone was one of the two people that interrogates him. And of course whenever i see him i think of mr greedy the caretaker from the shining so i was like. Oh okay i was like. He's back from the dead again here. He is torture torture. Little alex i think damaging is about as neighbouring claw. And i totally agree with you that it feels like sort of a nod to clockwork orange but in a way. That's not obvious sir. It doesn't feel repetitive. It feels like a totally different thing. That's happening but can we talk for a minute about the black face. I was just about to say this. Movie's cancelled only cancel. The first movies cancelled too. But i think they're all canceled for different reasons. We'll talk about the drag queen and the third y. Yeah the black face on arthur lowe. At first i was getting ready to be a little offended but at the same time i was just like this is really speaking to colonialism. And this whole idea of what i can only assume is this british educated african dictator. Who is buddy buddy with this other. Ralph richardson character. Sir james burgess as you mentioned and i was like okay. I guess it actually kind of makes narrative sense to take a white guy and put him in black face because it's almost like they have taken certain people from africa and anglicized them so much that they might as well. Just be a white person and black face. I know that sounds a little offensive. But that's the way that. I feel watching this and to hear him talk about just all these awful things like how he almost hanged his brother how they're going to use this chemical called honey to kill all of these people and you've got this german guy running this slide show and i'm just like okay. I think he's a leftover from world war two and he's just so happy this the honey that he's trying to acquire it but i think that is maybe for me one of the main kind of political differences between if and the second to films. There's all this really kind of scathing stuff about british colonialism and the british attempts to remain relevant when they're no longer an imperial world power. And you. I mean you've got a. I'm sure we'll talk about this more in a little bit when we get to britannia hospital but all of that stuff i think is really intentional. And i totally agree with you. He wasn't using black face to be offensive. He was using it to make a point. And i think if you don't know a lot about lindsay anderson's life. I mean he somebody who was born in india and travelled around serving in world war two and i think he spent a lot of time thinking about the effects of imperialism and colonialism which is also partly why. I think this trilogy could resonate with a lot of people. Now who are thinking about those legacies in things like you know you ask politics and stuff like that colonial Of running the business as well because you have imperial coffee. I think there is not referenced. At one point to the fact that taking his coffee from nigeria. And then selling it back to the nigerian. So it's both you know. He's both exploitatation. Countries also commerce as well and it's likely exploitation in two different directions of them. You have that sort of sided film nations. That's where you have that. Why judge and dr moosa even though he is actually african he's just like another version about wide figure. Father is played by off the Whom you see in other guys as authority figure. I think he's just that idea. That will not quite with the song. Everything changes faces but it sort of stays insane. So i mean he's just like another variant. He's african he's just another barrier of one of the characters that you've seen anderson is trying to suggest that he's not really african. He's just another one of these kind of rotating faces who were basically all the same corrupt person i mean. I didn't mention that if there was a very big deal. I read about this and woods. Book very purposefully. They had the Red white and blue kind of a union jack on their school ties and so it was just like hey. This school is representing england. And when you come to a lucky man. There are a lot of things that are representing england. And of course britannia right there in the name. So it's like we are constantly taking shots at the powers that be and just saying this is all fucked up and you really need to pay attention to it. I was also kind of happy that the fictional country that he is a head of is in zinn gara and i had to go and look ups in gara gara and find out that it was a fictional land in one of robert e howard's conan books so talk about We're talking about racism. And i thought that fit in pretty well since robbery. Howard was accused a lot of being racist. That's something that. I had no idea until i learned it from you. Mean it could just be a coincidence. I'm it might have been just slightly different spelling and there was also nothing about that insurance book. So i could just be pulling that right out of my ass. I wouldn't be surprised. Because i feel like he weaves in so many literary references like into but it's also really hard to picture lindsay anderson like sitting around reading conan. Comex i just like i can't. That's what that's what's in the binder at the end of a lucky man. Those are conan comics of the other hand. I feel that one of the problems that british critics tended to have way of his films is often but they do kind of pitch themselves in a way. This bar. kind. Of highbrow and lowbrow. So i think the way they do kind of work in pastiches homages to i guess what would have been seen as low brow kinds of entertainment. I think was one of the things it does tend to confuse critics. I think especially in britain who tend to like that kind of clear of division between this highbrow. This is respectable. He's a main. Take the carry on films. I mean it's interesting that the time out film guide. Which was i think was quite a prominent of publication in the sixties and seventies. Night is i mean. They mentioned the carry on films both in relation to look on britannia hospital and both times as a way to attack the films you know about in both cases as a sort of critical reference. But i almost feel the bass may. I don't think of that as a drawback really. I think that the films they all work with conventions of popular culture and as you know low brow. Comedy with false instance and. I don't think that that you know it. I don't think there's any need to be apologetic about that really. I think that You know so. I think a lot of these cultural reference points. I think part of what he was trying to do. The scene of him and helen mirren rooftop. Apparently that was the toughest scene for sherwin to right. Which is odd to me. And it's such a great scene. I love this whole thing of him getting up in the morning meeting the band you know again. He's actually interacting with alan price in the band and then going up and seeing her and the interactions with her and this whole idea of the building that is just looming over everything and her talking. About how much money her father makes. And finding out that. She's the daughter of this rich industrialised. And then that. Oh my god surround. Jason is just such a bastard as purchase metairie especially when he sets he doesn't necessarily set up mic to fall but mc takes a fall and. Yeah well and ralph ritholtz just like. Don't worry about it. We'll we'll help you out buddy. No problem does that throwaway line on the telephone listener in the car. He says otherwise. Things will be pleasant. Not and it's just you know you don't really know what the context is chilling about the casualness away says the i love that line so much and i think helen mirren character is so perfect because i feel like we still have those kind of entitled hipster trust fund kids. Who have this sort of attitude of. I'm just gonna wander round and make art and her. She has his one line. That i love so much where she basically tells him that. He's like fashioned conservative because he cares about money and he cares about making money and her Her response to him as something. Like if you want something you just go out and take it well. Thank you trump child or grandchild. I love the father is concerned about her either. Is it on some frightfully busy. And he asked she asks. Are you a psychiatrist. This is i. Can i question when he gets out of jail. After taking this fall he justice. Oh beatific it is like. He took that the ludovico treatment. And is just. So you know happy about things and hanging out with the salvation army band and trying to talk the woman at a committing suicide. That part is so funny though. Apparently you couldn't see that for a lot of years like they cut out an entire reel film like i think it was real nine was just taken out when they had to make the movie shorter well and i also love that moment where peter. Jeffrey comes back yet again. As the prison warden. Who gives him a book of philosophy and tells him that. I don't i i can't figure out if he's trying to hit on him or what's going on but he tells him he has is just like steve mcqueen and then kisses him in hawaii. I believe that was a remark by pulling kale. I think in a review if they just took stray from that i think now i think he felt happy about that. That comparison so i just put it in the script him hilarious. I had no idea. But in the strangest strategist character to give it to the original like they could have given it to any one of the female characters that openly hit on him or that he kisses or has sex with but now it's the prison warden lindsay anderson. I love that when he gets out of prison. He's getting out of prison with the same characters slash actors question mark that all were in who all in that coffee class including poor. He's always kind of like on. The receiving end of everything makes sense. That he's the holidays. Headship down the toilet in prison as well. Probably i mean. That's a shame. We didn't get to see that sequence. But i also i love that. His little desk with all of the books in prison is kind of reminiscent of their desks in f- while i love that To jump to the end a little bit. I love that when he ends up being in the movie a lucky man or trying out for it that they give them a machine gun and all kinds of school books. I'm just like okay. That's definitely a nod. If right there. I can't imagine this ending a better way like it although it's weird because so for anyone who hasn't seen it a like. Mike said he stumbles he. You know he's been through all of these ordeal he's been assaulted and he's sort of like stumbles into this casting call for the movie. Oh lucky man. Where lindsay anderson is an actor playing himself basically and then it just becomes a big cast party so it like in a weird way. It feels like this should be the last film of lindsay anderson's career or should maybe be the last film in the trilogy or something because it has this like weird celebratory note of. I don't even know it. Just i i love it. And i was saying before we started recording that i forgot that the basically the first thing to happen once the sort of film itself ends and they go into the kind of meta party ending is lindsay anderson. Walks forward and gives malcolm mcdowell the biggest hug and it just like it makes you tear up. A little bit is up before after belts him about the head with script. Okay but just that whole smile now. Smile i beg your pardon smile. Why just do it. I'm afraid i can't smile without a reason. Smile smile about just do it. Why don't ask why. What's the the smile about that back and forth between the actor and the director it. Just the tone. What is there to smile about it's on big dismantle that day that instruction to smile. I believe the intention was that it was like this. Zimbabwe was meant to reflect this moment of realization. That you know happiness depends on how you look at things that if you look at things in a happy way you will smile but to me. I think the way. I'm the sun i mean. I believe that he was a little bit nervous about doing it. And apparently he comes across a little bit more domineering that he wanted to be. I think he bought. It seem a bit more like they did nine at all. You could take that. He's just going to be another of the many should've tormentors the travis had and yeah i think the actual smiled itself is ambiguous to that because it may need watched it a few times on a main taught to save me a smile. Is it like You know a half smile you know. What is the expression that you're getting at the end. I mean i guess it is meant to reflect some kind of understanding but of course you know you know what the understanding is but the some kind of watershed moment of is clearly happening. Him without part yeah. I'm my assumption. Honestly is not the more positive one that you just explained but my assumption about the ending is that he he keeps asking. Why should i smile. What is there to smile about. And i think the way i read it is. He comes to the realization that there's nothing to smile about. You just smiled. Because that's what you're being told to do on. That's what everyone does. So i guess my interpreters little more nile status will more senegal and it comes full circle. Costa's next at the beginning you know recitals men that toll to smile and that if they basically they i can't remember the William blake quote. If if you believe it it will become real so you can smile your way into believing i guess in the line in the song is note smile while your what is smile. Lago taking it even. If you're faking it it's the whole thing's pretty damn senegal. Probably why i love it. I guess she's not cynicism. Lets you off. The hook is medically stable now. We can enjoy ourselves. We know illusions left. You know we could just take. This will be wise stems on something liberating about losing all of your illusions. Definitely all right so maybe just put a positive twist on the cynicism. But i do think that that also not to keep hammering this home but i feel like that perspective which i'm sure seems very on brand for lindsay. Anderson is also very breakfast in. Is this idea that in order to be totally free or totally liberated you have to be fully aware of the society that you're living in and ways in which your complicit in this system like you can't break out of it unless you're fully cognizant of it yeah i mean that relates to the epigraph of the beginning of doesn't it which is about getting wisdom and understanding and you can say that through. The three films is ned and that is the crucial thing that the thing that will genuinely liberate us getting wisdom about your circumstances in about the of the world definitely. It's also very kind of extensive list on one. Nine at gone whatever's happening in britannia hospital data geriatric hypothermia now admissions except by union dispensation. A major confrontation stick. This is not what was. I'm his mango slices. Intensive you can't looks like koga. Okay passing through. Come in semi coming read. Are you receiving me. That's make movies come back as games. And you'll have to be out of by ten at the latest refusing to admit that roy luncheons memory location today picketing the forums ban fifty years in india drained up bedding with a lot of walks nairobi. Healton where the hell of you made his british promise on something. Big one of his exclusives. Today the human experiment to mario shit is off. Remember the cloth will never grow march of socialism. Tiffany came the new guaranteed. The safety of hr is a safe hilda's in being provoked beyond insurance is graceful. H h must be particularly looks. Catering now lucky man was one thousand nine hundred seventy three and it would take a lot of years. Before david sherwin and lindsay anderson would work again together. Same thing with malcolm mcdowell and it wasn't until one thousand nine hundred eighty two that britannia hospital came out. And i have to say i was not familiar with britannia hospital at all which is kind of remarkable looking at the cast of it. When i was a kid i would go out. And i would hunt down movies because i was such a huge star wars fan. I went hunt down movies. that mark. Hamill carrie fisher and harrison. Ford were in. And i was just like oh i need this so somehow i managed to see heroes where i think henry winkler is a warm farmer i managed to see you know force ten from navarine i to see corvette. Some are but i never saw britannia hospital in mark. Hamill listen this. It's a tiny role but he's in this movie and he's highest fuck. He is high throughout almost the entire thing. What a strange jonathan. When did you first see this one. I saw again when i was in. Canada is in about two thousand and thirteen. I think the order. So yeah. I guess this last one i saw and i fell. I still feel now is probably my least favorite of the three steel. The two two of my favorite films. That's not to say that. I i dislike it in any way I think that. I take away for me when i was just graham crowd and i just think the escalation of his character the allegation of him as an actor. I think is is so wonderful. Because he's one of those actors who i guess he in the uk. I mean he was. One of those stool will british actors. That you would see in many tv shows things. But i guess with somebody who is of too eccentric to ever been like a really a big staw and he was he was. He was a star in a sitcom kuwaiti to god which i remember in the nineties but otherwise he was usually like supporting accidents so i i really love the way his character become so dominant and really kind of house would be a second to last word in this against the brian. Hostile las word. But i mean he's almost like the mouthpiece of understanding himself i think is being that final diatribe so i think that was the thing that i'm most was impressed by when i saw a again. I think the more i've seen it. I've kind of become a mamedov. The off just i think just the way it stroke degree. I think first time i saw it felt a little bit starting ipads at the i team but now now i watch it again. I can feel the waist built up. I think it's pretty skillful. In you know you do get a lot of like stock exchange halio early early on. But it's kind of building to this kind of outbreak of rioting and violence and i think there is something very skillfully handled about that. So yeah again. I think appreciated it more the more i watched it. I am just so glad sam that you did the commentary for the kino lorber disc on this but yet you deigned to share your wisdom with the rest of us mere mortals about this film him. When did you first see this one. I feel like. I would need to address what you're referring to there will. Some people will go on podcasts and talk about movies. They've done commentaries for yet. Which is the most insane thing i've ever heard I much like jonathan's saw this. I wanna say probably seven or eight years ago and it was also the last in the trilogy that i saw. I saw it a couple years after a lucky man. And i think maybe i just needed a minute to process a lucky man. This movie is so insane. I mean it's like sort of politic is very much a political satire is very overtly leftist and anti-colonialism at anti-british government an anti administration and it's like against any form of authority whatsoever using the hospital kind of as a microcosm. But it also is a frankenstein. Movie end like kronenbourg body horror and there's a giant brain at the end. I mean this is a movie that truly has everything like if you as you said it has mark hamill who is sort of so if this is another one that like oh lucky. Man is extremely hard to explain. But it's the premise. Is basically that mick. Travis who does not have a major role but is it like. There's really no protagonist. I guess he's an investigative reporter who's trying to do a story on the practices going on at this hospital. Which i think everyone sort of knows is corrupt and marc. Hamel is working with him but he just spends all of his scenes in the news. Van getting high pitched Which is incredible. But so it's sort of like for part of it. You follow mick as he starts to uncover more things and get some evidence for his story but then much like a lucky man. It's like he gets swept into yet another mad doctor. Experimenting on people kind of plot in there is one of the best frankenstein's sequences ever with like naked malcolm mcdowell. I always forget. How kind of gruesome brilliant. Sequences is valid. I think the effects look pretty. Good down there. You know you do get that sort of convincing impression. That he's just been stitched together. On the other skin tones are the scene with the head coming off. A main incredibly incredibly effective is not really a young. I always love. It always takes me by surprise whenever i see that. It's so unexpected. I mean especially if even if you're somebody who is crazy enough to wanna watch all three films in a row at like for the first time yes like like everyone here but even if you somehow have made it to pretend hospital and you think okay. I just saw a lucky man. I know what to expect. You indeed do not know what to expect. One of the things at the Special is just the way throws everything. Doesn't it another thing that i think this was really the the wall of the three films that was most likely condemned immune especially in england. I think he had a better reception in america. And i think also in your But i think in england the todd it was really just critically destroyed and i think paul because of the fact that it's just doing so many different things and i think as you say this hora element has this. I guess You know faucet. Cole sort of light. Low huma to it. You have people at robin ask in the movie. From the confessions films animators just throwing in these kind of comic alabamians. I think also tended of the politics too. I think the again it just throws in everything is just taking shots at everything and it really just upset everybody because i think the i guess the contact came out was the focus wool which i think was at its high when the movie was released ninety two so i guess you know the fact that it's really taking a they The classes at the both the administrators at the hospital and then the representatives of the royal family. I guess that wasn't welcome. The way represents necessary decrepit hospital. I guess again wasn't well but also sort of skuas. The unions on the revolutionary figures to so this kind of panoramic attack on everybody. So i guess it didn't really give comfort to any particular quarter whereas i think know you think of like british film making him. Unusually political cinema is represented by people at ken loach say who has a very definite kind of Political stance where. He's he's kind of on the side of some of these card says he has a clear target this just to everybody. I mean the politics. I think are interesting because i mean famille. She's married in the time of margaret thatcher. I almost feel it's a bit more like vision. This kind of might in the seventies i think in that context of industrial strife really. Because i think the story that inspired it was from hundred seventy. Four thirty may initiated production. I think about seventy nine something like that. I think they got the deal for it. I think that does deserve a bit of explaning. Because i mean i think when you look at it now i think some of that stuff comes in a little bit suspect away kind of attack the union but i think that relates to that specific context of the seventies wherein for whatever reason that there were a lot of strikes there was a lot of industrial unrest. And this is kind of like before margaret thatcher Destroyed the unions power. So i think that it does belong as much to the seventies i think in it's in its satire us as to the eighties and again probably it was just a little bit out of stat would be that. He was released in jonathan. I don't like this. I don't like that thatcher and reagan were doing the same things both of our countries. And now you've got that Not you but the we've got fucking boris johnson. Then trump. i mean it's just like what the fuck i can't if i wanted to. I couldn't run away to england and escape the troubles because it always feels like whenever shit were doing. You guys doing the same thing Yeah but boris johnson can at least speak in complete sentences. That is true. I mean somebody might write them for him but at least he can read them to your point earlier about the difference between lindsay anderson cinema and ken loach. I could not agree with that more. And it's also like why. I much prefer anderson because this is basically a much larger version of what happens if where it's not just we're going to attack the people who are bad. It's everyone is bad. Everyone must go. But it's on such a big scale here and this one in a way might be the funniest one mean. You have some of these hilarious sequences where they're trying to get the queen in out of the hospital and like they hide her in a coffin but it is very. I think something that if like britannia hospitals one of those films that i really like. And i think we talked about this type of cinema on our jacques revette episode. But it's like are certain films. I love and that. I have a lot to say about on that. Makes me think about a lot of things. But they're really hard to recommend to people and this is definitely one of those but the way that it attacks class systems could appeal to a lot of people watching movies today who are very frustrated about what's about the parallels between now and fatter era. Yesterday i think the critique this made i got a also majol light were compliant cells. I think these bowl focused on those union representatives. Isn't it like the robin ask. Quick carrick to completely dino just wants to get an idea and he's happy to you know to to to participate in the oil if people get something out of it so i think he's as much about you know that kind of power as much as tobacco you representing a particular class critiquing Class i think he's just any representative power of whatever full. I think that he he's attacking. And yeah i. I think you can see it in those time was really than it is about human stupidity Ability to corruption as much as about specific institutions specific figures and. I think it also he. He really had a lot of vitriol. For this idea of political compromise like making some sort of deal to get part of what you want is in any way moral or in any way aligns with like decent political values. That's something i feel. He attacks in all three films is like this idea of trading your values for power is sort of the ultimate sin although as we know from the end of o lucky man he does not believe in sin. at least mick travis does not reflect on. This approach are the filmmaker disney as and artist and as a public figure. I think he didn't mince his words. He didn't make any compromises. And i think that pot of i think part of the reason why i think these received especially pretending to hospital. It was received such a style way i think was because of the fact that he didn't really he didn't really care. I think about making animated in the film industry. I guess he was all about he was he was all about. You know not compromising. I think you need to to really really lived there. I think as much as he put it in his work. The place that went over the best was in france. And they're like. Wow this is this is something the longer i do any kind of work as a film critic or or writing about them the more i hate mainstream critics. Because it's like they just they're given so many gems and they're like what this garbage and that's definitely the case with a lucky man especially britannia hospital. People were just like frothing at the mouth. They hated it. So much dispensing strange thing. Here i think was the i think one of the critics who did really love it was vincent com- be able people and similarly i think with lucky man i believe leonard maltin visit goal stars in his film guy which again is not something you would expect really on. Yeah the critics who you might think would like say like say the time out film guide timeout review which is quite a sore itself is quite a hint publication. I mean they just tore into into the first time. I saw this. I didn't know what to think it was just so different. The the very first time. I watched it. I really didn't know what to think because this one before it was put out by kino lorber in the us and indicator over in the uk. There was no real way to get this. I ended up buying a copy that was imported from some place where they speak spanish thinking that there would be an english track on this. I almost said english channel. That would have been a little bit of a joke. Only to find out that there was no english whatsoever. No english subtitles. No english language track. I could watch it with a many different subtitles on there but they were like brazilian portuguese portrait as Spanish of these malcolm mcdowell sound in spanish. I didn't even make it to his part. I was mostly watching the beginning with robbie coltrane and as soon as he spoke. I was just like okay. Yeah this isn't happening here. The menu kept playing. I was. I was giving platelets. So i didn't have access to the remote right away. And the the menu kept playing over and over again and it was playing the pretend theme and then had mic and the other guy on the roof as like the background video. That was going over and over again. So just like okay. Yeah mixing this movie. This'll be great and it takes so long firm to show up and then when he shows up he's barely in the movie and i was just like okay. This is really strange because coming off of a lucky man. I was like okay great. Oh lucky man. he's in. What ninety five ninety nine percent of the scenes maybe more navy hundred percent. Yeah and in this one. I'm just like where's mick. What's going on. And i was so confused by it so i can see some people having a negative reaction to it. But if you just kind of like except that. This is not a mick travis. Movie that he's just a character within it okay. Cool and again. He's not selling coffee. He's not he hadn't shot up his school when he was eighteen. He's he's coming over from america and is this like you said investigative journalists and. I think that the plays the nurse. That's helping him out like his compatriot within the hospital. I'm gonna say she might even have more screen time than he does. I think she does. I think the doctor is the one who and jonathan made this point earlier. But i'm pretty sure even though i don't really consider this movie to have a primary protagonist. I think the doctor is the one who is onscreen. The most maybe yes i think they taught. Billing goes to let it russia too. But i think that was policy just because of power from about command battle laughing at the time especially in the uk heat would have been the most famous face readiness. So yeah i mean. He's administrator. I guess is the closest to character. That you i guess you can identify you. Feel his exasperation but i think crowd dr miller. I think does That he is kind the closest to kind of spell in this movie in a weird way. I wonder if that has to do like if the lack of mic has to do with the budget. Because i know malcolm mcdowell said that he took expenses like he didn't charge in actual fee for appearing in this film because there wasn't enough money in the budget and i wanna say Camel did the same thing they both just like a mic. You know loved working with lindsay. Anderson wanted to again and so i think maybe if it had been a budget or that scenario had been different there would have been a bigger part but i'm not totally sure. Why no for awhile. It wasn't even mic in the script. It was some kirk named jeff. And then i think it was. Once they got mcdowell to sign up for than they changed it to mick so it this originally wasn't even written for mic which is a shame that we didn't get a third foal mic movie. But this is still mind boggling and wonderful. It's a wild wild film. And you're right it's skewers. Everybody it's skewers from the beginning when a ambulance is trying to get into the hospital and there are protesters who are union members blocking the way. And you're just like oh what terrible people how. How can they do this. And then it's just like everybody's terrible everybody throughout this entire movie is terrible b- at the you know the people that are sucking up to the queen and just making all of this to do about getting into the hospital ready for the hr h visit. Oh my god. i'm vivian. pickles as matron. He's so funny this whole thing. I mean there are moments that smack of monty python to this talked about how there's a woman that has plagued by a man and then you have a dwarf character in here and it's just like okay you know. Like how much more crazy can we go. Let's do everything they do of. Characters also throwback to john biegel zero the country with the political headmaster. Not again to jump ego which is wonderful emmett. Obviously we talked about how mic is this journalist but the movie even paints the team of investigative reporters as also being kind of terrible people. Or it's like they do want to expose what's going on but they all seem very self interested. I think he's telling the just completely oblivious alibi to the things that are happening demand themselves watching. Tv all sorts decided that the media is just just the on excel. But he's not ready aware. What's happening not bothered. When they the big protest breaks out and i one of them says the gig. This is again. I think he's not citizens investment of just treating it like it's something to advance your career something you know you can feel it. Will it will be popular. And yeah i think the media team is not bad. No one is no one is safe no and it just and it just gets wilder and wilder as it goes through. It just feels like they're amping it up constantly. there's again talking about the colonialism stuff. There is a american dictator. Who's in one of the most posh rooms that they have in the place. There's so much to do with class in this movie. Having this whole protest against the people that are getting the better meals than other people. And it's wild. I couldn't get over. Just how different this movie was from the rest of the films in the trilogy and just how crazy this. This movie was it. Just it keeps amping it up all the time and i do have to say. I was on the edge of my seat when it came to. What is graham crowd. And what is professor mel are going to unveil because those scenes of him in the way that he just the dialogue is like poetry reading these things and i thought for sure that it would just be one invention that he was doing but then it up being two things really took me by surprise and both of those wow This is a movie that really needs. I think even more so than old man this needs to be seen to be believed because every scene is insane and totally unexpected as you were saying earlier this one probably goes the most at attacking the media in different ways for sure especially towards the end. I mean the way that you're talking about how the media feeds upon itself that they are so unconcerned with with mec that they're just in the van getting high having shrooms all. I love how one of them their last gig was in the west and one of them are last week was in the east and they're all the drugs that they've they managed to get under journeys together and they just like let's get wasted and that's it. I was also glad to see brian. Glover in here. He is Dream under the alamo. I have to ask since you basically watched all three of these for the first time in what the last month. How did you feel. I enjoyed these. I feel like. I'm much better off for having watched them. I feel like. I'm much better off for knowing more lindsay anderson. I was expecting kitchen. Sink drama angry young man kind of cinema and it was so different. Like i thought if i if i was like oh we might be going down that path but man oh male to surprise which if you do watch this sporting life which you definitely should because richard harris is incredible in it. That is much more like traditional kitchen. Sink drama. I think what's interesting to remark is even bad. He's actually doing different. Things stylistically is using flashbacks using sort of slapped expressionistic techniques. So i think even when he was making while is yes in. Many ways is very much. The stereotypical kitchen saying Even that he's doing something different really and the in the film he might ask the tasks which is what anthony hopkins Like i feel like he had this string of brilliant actor. Debuts rang i think that might be anthony hopkins film debut. Did i make that up. Nothing that's true yeah. I think he's in october member where he appears understatements breakfast in. I love it. That's why i think he's harassing on a train. Yeah that's right. He's rehearsing with a group of actors. Trying i think. And that's what must lie. The transitional points. I think between mechanic kitchen style. And the kind of mole fantastical style a bit because that will also not predominantly black and white but again. He's he's shifting between black and white and color on your. You just have licensed these look flashes of surrealism that was also the first of his fills where he used to check the check. Cinematographer just him over from prague. I did actually the two films as well we with. If look man he would just get him over from prague and go through all the bureaucratic hassle of getting in from czechoslovakia to come and shoot these films. And like you have to really wanna work with that cinematographer to go through all that red tape. Not that i am. Criticizing well worth at the all like these movies are beautiful. Will they're beautiful and they also have that because he worked a lot with meals for men and forman you know had that kind of quasi documentary feel in. There are moments in these films that have that same quasi documentary feel and he's got combination with that. I guess attention to composition and to his. You will beauty as well. I think the fact that on detect could do both of those things. One thing what you look man was that struck me. Was that long tracking shot after this the the fires in the nuclear side where you have is incredibly long tracking shot where he's going uphill explosion. That reminded me of the shot in diamonds of the night. Which i think on the walls i think he he was one of the two cinematography but i think he was one of them so i was wondering. Was this some united some sharing of knowledge basically from diamonds at the night to look him out. Was that a technique that he knew about the he was able to develop this. You have this. I think they basically build this big truck and then he was sitting in a box with the camera on somebody who just people just pulling up hill so he was kind of one of those connections that i saw this time. That's also the thing watching these repeatedly. Is there so much happening. Not only in terms of acting performances and cinematography and editing. And like what's going on with the individual set pieces. I feel like they're such busy films. And i don't mean that in a negative way. There's just like so much going on that you can watch them many times in still find. New things is so striking. Nothing can the british context is that they also cinematic. Because i guess that's another connection with re bad because guess both anderson in rabat. Very much involved in theater on signature is a constant point of reference and yet neither of the night theatrical films i mean the films that use the optical device as and they're interested in stage bound they offered him to be. That's quite unique. I think in relation to british cinema. Where i think like a lot of a lot of the most interesting that have british films i think could by the late sixties early seventies mean do basically come from theatrical contacts so i'm thinking things like borrow saw while the ruling class nine. I love both of those films. I mean they. They were basically innovations withdrawn from the where these are. All of you. Know originated as as film work's matic. They all poetic visually than not static than not stagey. And you know. I think there's not many of the films and britain notice nominee other filmmakers. Who achieved that kind of style. Really i mean i would say ken. Russell is probably the other obvious figure. Who's kind of comparable maybe nicholas roeg. But it's interesting. I think all of these filmmakers found. They felt that they were outsiders. You know so. I think that tells you something about british cinema rooting. Thank you for. Humoring me with that connection between between henderson jacques corvette but yes i i totally agree and i sometimes feel bad thinking this way or feeling this way but those three are probably my favorite british directors. Because of that. I guess michael powell would be degree in a way but again you know. They all felt that they were. You know not appreciated enough however men will they. Weren't i guess to some extent. That's true of many filmmakers. But i think there's something particularly about about britain which does tend to stifle his most. It'd be maginitude figures interesting. I think both if lucky man. We're actually like american finance where i think it was paramount. Who used if. I'm ben wanna with lucky man so i think that wasn't unusual at the time because i guess a lot of big british productions were american. Finance a does seem appropriate. I really it does. But i think it's also something that kind of graded on him that he didn't necessarily want to be connected to hollywood and get the hollywood funding and you definitely see similar. Things happening with ken. Russell i mean you know the sort of legendary warner brothers control over the devils is still a thorn in everyone's side to go back to your question sam. I do have to say that. I count myself very fortunate to have watched all three of these movies but especially a lucky man and if i were to go back to one of these like tomorrow a lucky man is probably the one that i would go back to. I was just so bowled over by it. And i feel like i'm better film watcher for having seen it makes me very happy to hear me too. I wonder how you guys would run them. Because i think for me. I would say oh lucky man if the then britannia hospital which is ready. Just my arm preference something rather than the inherent qualities. Because i think they're all gray i would. I would are lucky man and then if and then each time you hostile mine is the same exact order. Yeah would probably say the same though. I wanna give britannia hospital yet. Another shot just to watch it again. I can't say that it's a bad movie by any stretch is just a very different one and i think it might have been so different that i was kinda thrown by it so i will give it another shot some day. It's very overwhelming. And i agree with the point that jonathan made much earlier. Which is i love britannia hospital. Obviously i did a commentary on it and it's extremely long so you don't sign up to talk that long about a movie that you don't like or i mean i'm sure i know there are film critics. Who do and. I think they're jackasses. But i feel like if an lucky man are perfect films. And they're two of my absolute favorite films so me ranking britanny hospital. Third like i. It's it's not that. I don't love it it's just i don't think yeah. I just don't think it's a masterpiece on the same level. And i think anderson felt the same way. It's kind of how i feel about the python films That i think that if you just hop meaning of live without howdy grad life. Brian would it would just be you know Amazing film from merely eight teams with these crazy group people. But i think he's the creator you have to is always gonna be the third wall not doesn't name that it's not you know fantastic. Nissan ride totally agreed. And also about those street films. You should totally play that. Graham chapman clip. I have to admit that sometime before this movie was made. I was given a copy of the script to read in case i was interested in writing some additional material for it. I read it and thought that apart from a couple of really rather good speeches. There's very little of interest in it for me. The characters seemed dull and stereotype and the plot used as a thread on which to hang overdrawn character portraits. Each character being used to represent a comment about citation the union official. The policemen the militant extremist. The boys who are middleman et cetera comment expressed with the kind of heavy handed. This one would expect at a political parties. Christmas pantomime but i was wrong. Not to take into account. The director lindsay anderson has almost completely turned piece of adolescent political fervor into an interesting and sometimes very funny perry all the characters are self seeking unfortunately true to life this and even the professor of surgery played by the brilliant graham crowding who has a way of saving the world by increasing its brain. Pa is more prepared to kill to achieve his aims. When you watch this tape just listen. To the speech he makes three quietens down the writing rebel at this hospital of life. A more subtle script with a more oblique approach might have preached less to the converted. But i couldn't have wanted better or more exciting direction. So this movie which disappointing few people saw when it was released in britain but which is rapidly on its way to becoming a coke. Movie in the states is a well worthwhile video. All right guys. We're gonna take another break and play a preview for next week show to a delightful weekend the comfy. You are cordially. Invite to spend a carefree weekend in the english countries in the warm sunshine regarding holiday by mistake and enjoy the rustic pleasure of country. Living the be so cold here wants to get down there and have sex with those cows take a five riot who heads around and then had a few ales lunch at a charming the finest wise available to humanity. Want them here we want. Try to nyse with cheery locals experience culinary die you would agree something Club about a firm young fish in the region's tree sent me that fish. A trip worth taking absolute that's right. We're going to stay in fair britannia next week as we look at with nail. And i until. I think this week's co osama jonathan. So sam what's been going on in your world honestly. I am trying to think about what everything i've been working on recently. Hasn't been announced. I think because there's been like a little delay because of quarantine Twenty twenty is that exciting. Were basically living in britannia hospital right now. I don't think i can talk about anything. Recent that i've done Yeah i guess. All i will say is i have a book coming out soon. Hasn't been announced so. I can't really talk about that very much I i'm working on a book about rabid the cronenberg film which i've mentioned before and i also catt an eye and anyone who listens to the show. I'm sure now knows who she is because she is also a regular guest host. She and i have our own. Podcasts called daughters of darkness. And we've started doing video episodes And we should have won. Probably a new one on the incredible spanish slasher movie pieces out by the time this episode goes live. Will you be moving your hands a little bit more. Lots of jazz hands. Excellent ex- meiling. It will be like in the beginning of. Oh lucky man when she tells you she tells the coffee salesman to smile and just pushes his face up. It's going to be like that much prettier. Few smiled true. Whether i was just thinking has said that that to cat. I think maybe he was imagining that. He was saying in the voice of rex. Harrison only was except we're gonna all also be putting marbles in our mouth to work on our elocution and jonathan. How is everything in the great white north. I've got a few things still to be announced. And i believe the essay that i've come to beauty on your. I heard to the book about barrandov studios should be coming out beginning of next year. I hope and i'm also continuing to the search tomorrow. I will wake up myself. T but now i'm doing it in a kind of a wider context of Lacks the films. And i'm looking at coal reception. His sci fi films. So that's going to be for a collection on global colts anymore. Which i think may be will appear next year at some point maybe at the end of next year i also have a piece. That's coming out soon on film Lead which is the website of the national film archive check national film archives and that will be about yorislav. Papu checks a trilogy of comedies about the multifamily family which is very much similar to you. Meet films so young hope that will appear may be maybe at the end of this year. If memory i want say that Miroslav under check also one of those homolka films. Yes i think it was the last one. Yeah i think our. I have had those sitting on my shelf forever. I'm so excited to finally have an excuse to watch them. Not that i need. Excuse no but life is busy. Exactly sure as relief after britannia hospital because that a lot more low key and gentle so nice. Nice change of pace second. Well thank you so much folks are being on the show. Thanks to everybody for listening. Please had over to the website projection booth podcast dot com or. You can find out more about today's episode. 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We're going to talk a little bit about money in this episode but before we get to that I, just WanNa share with you I wanna say thank you to all of the people who listen to this podcast weekly there are. Hundreds and thousands of you that listen to this on a regular basis and I'm just so grateful for you. The reason why I wanted to mention something today is because we're going to actually making some changes to the podcast. So your enemy noticing. That podcast episodes are mostly going to be me talking We're kind of moving away from the interview aspect of the Kingdom podcasts. So it's mostly you're going to be hearing from me and the podcast episodes we're going to be shorter they're going to be anywhere from five to ten minutes and it's just going to be little blips. Of Advice and information. The reason for that is because we want to focus all of our really intense content in our kingdom coaching community. So Mom. We are going to be releasing in the coming weeks of. Course. It's going to be a very, very affordable mini course about paying off debt and all of that. But then are kingdom mom membership are are only membership is always open for you. If you want to dive in more if you want to be around a community of other moms who are investing in themselves, we're learning about identity marriage parenting finances, home management we talk about building income streams, and all of that from a Biblical worldview perspective. We also talk a lot about some kind of issues, things that a lot of women struggle with lake boundaries like toxic behaviors, different things like that so. And we are going to be saving some more of that intense content for our kingdom coaching community but we're still going to be here for you weekly delivering valuable content today i WanNa talk about money mentality, and this is something that I really been. Studying quite a bit and kind of reflecting in myself because we've been putting together this kingdom mom money mini course right and one of the things that we talk about in the course is your money mentality because here's the thing. We can have all of the skill sets for something all day long you can go Google for free how to pay off debt you don't need to buy. Of course, right? You can go learn for free how to pay off debt. But. If your mentality. About money. Is that it's hard to make money is that you've made so many financial mistakes that your money screw up that you overspend that you can't be trusted with a credit card. If that's your mentality you are going to seriously struggle, and here's how I know. This is fact it's because my own personal experience. So I want to share with you. An experience that I recently had okay. Just to show you that it does not matter how much money you make. It does not matter how much. You've changed your behaviors. It. Doesn't matter what system you're using. If your money mentality is messed up, it's going to affect you. We are completely debt-free. Okay. We paid off our debt a couple of years ago I believe at this point, it's been a couple of years. So we've been debt free for a while. Okay and I always tell people I. don't consider US wealthy I consider on our way to building wealth. So we're currently in the process of building up that wealth account. In building our streams of income in doing all of that do not still don't consider US wealthy. Okay. But. Even with all of the progress that we have made even with all the systems that we haven't place even after paying off like over one hundred, thousand dollars worth of debt right even after for increasing our income. and increasing our income streams. I still sometimes behave. Or think like someone who is in debt and Spencer money poorly. So I WANNA give an example, I just bought a dining room table. Okay. I am thirty three years old at the time that I am recording this. And I have never bought a dining room table. Any dining room table that we've ever had has either been a hand me down or. Actually, every dining room table I've ever had has just been handed down. I've never had a formal dining room table. So this new house that we're living in. It has like a kitchen eat in place which we have our hand-me-down table at fits for people but it also has a formal dining room and I desperately wanted a dining room table for like when we have guests come over or just like when we're having a nice family meal to sit around their place to play cards at like I have such fond memories of my childhood of when we would all sit around my mom's formal dining room table. And I wanted a dining room table and so what did I do I saved per the system that we're teaching in the money many course I had saved up about a thousand dollars to buy a dining room table and that's what that money was was earmarked for it was four dining room table. The money was in the account. And I said Okay it's time to buy dining room table. And immediately, I start going onto facebook marketplace looking for a used dining room table. And I'm like, Oh, I could actually get a dining room table for like a few hundred dollars in. It's good enough. It'll be good enough right. It'll be good enough for me. And my husband is actually the one who said, Lindsay Lindsay. Why are you looking on facebook marketplace for dining room tables that are only a couple of hundred dollars when? In your heart, you want the thousand dollar dining room table that you have to buy it the furniture store. And I said Yeah but I could get it so much cheaper and he says Lindsay yes you could. You could go get a dining room table super cheap on facebook marketplace you absolutely could. You could, but you are debt-free. He's done all of this work and you saved a thousand dollars four, the dining room table that you want. He's like go to the furniture store and spend your thousand dollars that you saved. And by the dining room table that you actually want. And I said Okay and so I went and got the dining room table that actually want got delivered yesterday and I'm so glad that I actually don't think spent the full thousand dollars spent like eight hundred and some on this dining room table. But I'm so glad that I listened to him and the thing is is looking back. There's nothing wrong with buying a dining room table on facebook marketplace rate. But looking back the reason why That was my default is because they're still a part of me. The didn't think I deserved the Nice dining room table even though I could afford it. Another example. Is this happened about a little over a year ago. And we again, we had already paid off Oliver Debt. We were debt free. And like we do when we have money come into our count is we divvy it up and we have a system again, that's what we're going to be teaching in this kingdom on many many course. I divide up the money and I sent it out and I actually I actually thinking all of our bills had come out of the account thinking like our mortgage or rented can't remember if we were renting or still had a mortgage at the time. Thinking that it hurry come out I transferred extra money. To our wealth. Account. 'cause like we have extra money. Let's put it in the wealth account. What happened is is the auto draft then went through for our rent rate. And it over drew my account and I get an email saying it's overdrawn. And keep in mind I have the money. It's just in a different account. I have the money it's just an other account. It's not in that particular account but the shame response I had when I got that email saying that my account was overdrawn. was very very telling to me. because. What happens is we get very emotional when it comes to money. And It's important to set up a system that really takes the emotion out of it but also when we have these kind of emotional responses or these emotional triggers, it's important to say what is that about and really dig into what's behind that emotion so I realized like my physiological response to receiving that email about an overdraft it was not pleasant. It was anxiety. It was shame. It was all of these things and I really had to take a few moments. And really kind of navigate why I had that response and looking back it's because I had not forgiven myself for the old behavior. And forgiven myself and I hadn't given myself credit for paying off the debt. and. So while you're on your financial journey, you might find some of these kind of triggering things right and I encourage you lean into that and maybe say what is that about? We hope you enjoyed this episode of the Kingdom mob podcast. Don't forget to head on over to kingdom on PODCAST DOT COM and click membership to join our community of King of MOMS. You can also check out the free ultimate mom binder video course. We'll see you next time kingdom mom.
Boundaries & Grudges
"Welcome to the kingdom mom podcast. I'm your host Lindsay Anderson Founder of Kingdom coaching and helping homeschool DOT COM. Here are King Demaim we grow together in identity, marriage, parenting, home, management, and in our finances. We would love for you to join our community. Go to kingdom on podcast. Dot Com to join paid monthly coach community. It's basically like the podcast, but on steroids and you get to hear weekly coaching halls, plus you get live. The IP QNA's and we also have an affiliate program where you can actually earn while you learn, but you can also join our tribe of mom binder masters, absolutely free by taking our free ultimate mom binder video course just go to kingdom. MOM PODCASTS DOT com all right. Are you ready to take back your territory King Demaim? Let's begin. Hey welcome back to another episode so first of all. I'm so honored that you tune into our podcast every week. It always amazes me when I'm looking link at the stats for the podcast like the analytics. How people literally from all over the world like we've got obviously a lot of people from the US Canada but I'll. Listen from Australia and the UK, we have like quite a few listeners from South Africa Mexico Jamaica. y'All are listening in from Jamaica and Germany Turkey I. Just think it's so so cool, and if you're from one of those countries and you haven't connected with us, you should like be sure to join her mom. Binder Masters Group on facebook because I want to know like who is from. Who is listening to the Kingdom on podcasts? Anyway today. I want to talk actually about a pretty serious topic, and it's about a boundary versus a grudge. This is something that. We teach on heavily in our coaching membership at Kingdom on podcast dot, com, so we have a membership site. Where you can. Pay, for like a monthly membership and then you get access to like an archive of coaching calls live coaching various different things, but what I have found in working with women is a lot of women. Have trouble setting boundaries. They really have trouble setting boundaries and I so get that because I used to like honestly if you said set boundaries Edwin like water boundaries I'd I really was so bad it setting boundaries? I yeah. I didn't know like who I should be sharing stuff with who shouldn't be sharing stuff with I said yes to everybody I was definitely such a people pleaser and I never wanted to let anybody down and I would so burnt out and so stressed out. Friend I totally can relate if you're somebody who you're like, I don't know how to set a boundary, or you just have like certain people who might just walk all over you. or You might walk all over people. Because you didn't have boundaries as to like what you are willing to do not do. It was. It was just really a mess. I didn't know how to set boundaries and relationship. I didn't know how to set boundaries with my husband, which is often a place we do actually have to set boundaries with like healthy good for us boundaries, but I didn't understand boundaries at all, and there's a lot of great people who teach on boundaries. I! Have learned a lot from reading books listening to podcasts like this. But. I haven't really heard anybody. Teach on a boundary versus a grudge, and the reason for that is because it was actually like a lightbulb moment that had one day was that. People don't know the difference I saw this post from Mel Robbins where it said toxic people will make you think you're holding a grudge when you're actually holding a boundary, okay? and. I. Don't know why I just thought on that. For a second and I was like a lot of people don't realize that those two things are different that a healthy boundary actually does not involve any type of a grudge, and I want to explain that a little bit. We have several options in relationships, especially in relationships that maybe there's some toxicity there. And so our first option is to not set any type of boundary, but just to like harbor, unspoken bitterness and resentment. That is one of our options. That is an incredibly toxic option. If you think about it, because not only are you still allowing the to talk city to happen, but your spirit? Your soul is being affected by that negatively. It's literally eating away at you from the inside out, so that's option number one. Now, you might sit there and say well. That's stupid. Why would anybody do that yet? We do it all the time. It actually used to be my favorite option. It was the one I I wasn't. My favorite actually hated it, but it was just a for some reason I thought it was easier. I thought it was easier than setting in boundary. Why because it did not have the skill set to set a boundary? Setting boundaries is actually a skill set. That took me several years to learn. This is why we teach on it in our in our coaching, because so many people do not know how to set a healthy boundary. They don't know the words to say they and sometimes you don't even need to say anything. Sometimes, you shouldn't say anything. Sometimes. You just need to have the boundary. Right, so you know especially, if you're dealing with an abusive person, you, you should not necessarily say anything, but sometimes you do actually need to say something, and sometimes it's not even a toxic thing is sometimes not even a toxic person is just. Being a human being with self respect and having boundaries with your time like having boundaries of what you're willing to do so, but a lot of people don't know how to have those conversations, so that's something that we teach so your second option, so that was your first option right? Our first option is no boundary and harbor bitterness and resentment. Our second option is to actually set a boundary right maybe. It's an abusive relationship where you're just walking away and you are completely like cutting that person out, and there's there's a boundary there, or maybe it's like boundary that established through conversation with someone right. Maybe you're establishing boundary for your time, or maybe you're establishing a boundary for what you're willing to accept, not accept rate. What you're willing to have somebody speak to you and what you're willing to have. Somebody speak to you, K.. What you're willing to do for work and not willing to do for work. Those kinds of boundaries that you actually speak out loud. But so you set the boundary the physical boundary, but you're still angry about it like you're still harboring bitterness and resentment. You still are going to hold a grudge. Towards that person. Okay, so like. Let's say that you have. Like a your I don't know your in laws or something. And you have to set some sort of boundary with them. So you speak that boundary out loud. You set the boundary. But you still get irritated every single time they you see them. You're still urinated by the fact that they would have disrespected you in that way. You're still frustrated by right, and this truly is not a healthy boundary, either it's a boundary. It's not necessarily healthy one okay. There's certain boundaries healthy boundaries because if you are still harboring better, nece and resentment. There's really nothing healthy about that. Right because it still eating away at you so in Kingdom on we talk about these things called mental and spiritual boundaries right so you have an actual physical boundary with somebody, but you also need to establish some sort of mental and spiritual boundary where you're no longer going to allow that person or their actions to affect you a perfect example of this. As let's say that you have someone that. I think most moms can relate to this so many. Use this example. Let's say that you have like a friend. Okay that you is. Nearest known really friends anymore. Okay like you're no longer friends and there's been a boundary established there or maybe a really good example is like a business partner. Okay, somebody that you may be did business with a lot of y'all been like direct sales companies, and you may be had an issue with the leadership or something, and you're no longer doing that. Direct sales company anymore. K., you've set a boundary. You've kind of cut. Something off came. But. Anytime, you see somebody posting something on. Social Media. Related Chew that person or that product or whatever it was you get like this gross feeling in your stomach and you get angrier, you get better. You get frustrated and you kind of like. Go off even if it's just in your head because if you can't relate to that. I'm calling blown JAGNA. But. What this is where I really had my lightbulb moment one time is because. When we do that. We have set a boundary, but it's not a healthy boundary. Why because we are still holding a grudge? So truly boundaries and grudges are two different things, but to truly have a healthy boundary we must. Get rid of the grudge and the way that we do that is through forgiveness. We have to and forgiveness. That's another thing that people don't know how to do that. We also teach on a lot of people. Don't know how to forgive. They think that if they just say magic words and say I, forgive this person that boom, it's done, but forgiveness is an active. Overtime. Process it's an active constant decision process, and so when we actually forgive, and we set a mental slash spiritual boundary that this event or this person or this. This incident that happened is no longer going to negatively affect me. It's no longer going to have a place in my head. It's no longer going to control how I think in ruined my day. Do you get what I'm saying. That is truly the only way that you can actually set healthy boundaries if we talk about like the inlaws. Okay and I'm using in-laws as an example, actually have really good in laws, but I'm just using it as an example because for a lot of women. This is a really hard relationship for them. Okay, so let's say that you set a boundary with your in laws, but literally every time that they come to your house. You Get mad even though they have even though they're respecting that boundary that you sat right. Every time they come to your house. You Get mad. But what if we walked through that forgiveness? And then you could stand to be in their presence again like and not be frustrated every single time now for those of you who have maybe walked through abusive situations right and you have had to walk away instead of boundary there, right? Now you're probably never going to as they say. Break bread with that person again. And in some relationships you should not. You should not. Do that prime? But. If that person is still taking up space in your head. If. That person is still negatively impacting your mental state. Friend. They're still abusing you. And so. The only way that you get truly free from that situation is through forgiveness and the only way that you actually establish a healthy boundary a healthy boundary. Is when you can have a boundary. and. If you must set the physical boundary, I at least get the physical boundary out of the way and work on the it being healthy boundary afterwards, okay? But. The only way that you're going to have a healthy boundary is if you're also getting rid of the grudge. We hope you enjoy this episode of the Kingdom mob podcast. Don't forget to head on over to kingdom, mom, podcast dot and click membership to join our community of Kingdom moms. You can also check out the free ultimate MOM binder video. Course we'll see you next time.
Debt Payoff Strategy
"Welcome to the Kingdom Mom podcast I'm your host. Lindsay Anderson Founder of Kingdom, coaching and helping homeschool DOT COM. Here are King Demaim. We grow together in identity, marriage, parenting, home, management, and in our finances. We would love for you to join our community. Go to kingdom on podcast. Dot Com to join paid monthly coach community. It's basically like the podcast, but on steroids and you get to hear weekly coaching halls, plus you get live. The IP QNA's and we also have an affiliate program where you can actually earn while you learn, but you can also join our tribe of mom binder masters, absolutely free by taking our free ultimate mom binder video course just go to kingdom. MOM PODCASTS DOT com all right. Are you ready to take back your territory? King Demaim? Let's begin. Hey. Look back to another episode of the Kingdom Mom podcast today. We're GONNA be talking all about. Debt we've been. Receiving a lot of inquiry and questions, and a lot of traffic to our content, on Tiktok, recently about paying off debt, I've been getting tons and tons of questions and so I wanted to do a special podcast episode. Just talking specifically about this topic so real quick just want to. Give a quick rundown of financial story so six years ago, we were completely broke. We had tons of debt. And now we are completely debt free. At this point, we don't even have a mortgage payment. We we rent currently, and so we're. We paid off all of our student loans we don't. Lease or have loans on any cars anything like that? We are completely one hundred percent debt free, and it is a good feeling friend. It is a good feeling, but today I wanNA talk about what that process looks like for people paying off debt. And the way that it looked like for us so when we started six years ago when we started this debt half journey, we actually started by doing the Dave. Ramsey financial peace university. Now if you don't know about Dave Ramsey's program, you can literally go to his website and look it up because all of his. He has something that he calls the baby steps. Okay, you can read about in his books, but the information is literally there for free on his website. Financial Peace University obviously gets more into the nitty gritty of it and we did. We went through that entire program, but his baby steps are available, right online. And if you look at his baby steps, the first one is to put money into an emergency fund so that you have something to fall back on while you're paying off debt and then baby. Is something called the debt snowball. Okay, and this is what we were doing and we were doing the whole system. Dave actually recommends paying for everything in cash. Why because there's the psychological principle that when you're paying for something with cash, it hurts more than if you're just swiping a card, and so you will actually spend less if you are paying cash. And so we did this for a long time we wrote out zero zero-based budget and we. We did pay off some debt with this system. However, we totally fell off the wagon one hundred percent. Truthfully I got really burnt out of doing the cash envelopes because it was a lot of it was a lot to keep track of. And going to the bank every anytime we got paid and giving that out like it was a lot to keep track of, and then it was also not so great for my marriage, if I mean completely open and transparent, it was it was rough for my marriage because. I, am the probably the more structured of the two of us. My husband can be incredibly disciplined, but as far as structured I'm definitely the one with that likes structure, and so I was the one who wrote out the budget every month. My husband would approve it, but I would write it out every month. And every single month every single month my husband will get so fresher because he'd feel so trapped by that budget and truth be told I also felt supertramp. Try The budget, but he felt really trapped by the budget and he would overspend. and. We would just argue about finances all the time. He thought I was being too strict with the budget. I'd be mad that he broke the budget. And Round and round, the cycle continued over and over and over again, and then we plugged into a system called war on debt. And wore on debt. is by Danny Johnson. I think it's like ninety nine dollars. If you go to her website, you can buy it. But Warren debt. The method is essentially the same where it's the debt snowball. The system is completely exactly the same, but what I would think Warren debt taught us was where we could cut our spending so that we had more breathing room right so that we have more money to accelerate our debt payments and we started to spend less money on things like food. So I have personally. Helped over one women at this point where we've gone through their finances and helped them see the spots where they could maybe not spend so much. We've helped them create a system for paying off their debt. Help them create a game plan. Help them create of budgeting strategy that actually works for them and their spouse so that they're not going to be crazy right and I can tell you based on with the women that I've worked with I would say ninety percent of the time, not everybody but ninety percent of the time. The number one place where people overspend is food. Most of the time most of the time. The average American is going to the grocery store multiple times per week. They don't have any type of game plan and they're going to the grocery store when they have like probably five to ten or more meals that they can make based off of what's already in their house when we after we listen to Warren debt. We took. took the challenge to eat everything out of our pantry and our fridge and our freezer. Before you went to the grocery store now we went to the grocery store for things like milk and fruit like stuff. That was you know goes bad every week. But otherwise we lived out of our pantry and we did it for like four months four months. Now I want you to think about how much money you would save. If, he did not go to the grocery store for four months. Just think about that second. How much money would you save? Another thing that we did is we started to use up like all of the cleaning supplies that we had. Like I used what was already in the house, the soap, the lotion, the makeup like all of it. I just started to use what we already had before I went and bought more. And that's when we really really started to pay off debt, but there was still this issue of the budget. The budget was so super frustrating to me until we then learned from another program called a true wealth formula, and that is by Hans Johnson, which is actually Danny Johnson's husband. Hans Johnsen. He teaches a system called true wealth formula. and. He was the first person who would ever explained a percentage based budget to us so essentially. What percentage based budget is and I kind of explain this a few weeks ago in the podcast is where you pick a percentage that you're gonNA live off of for most people. It's like seventy percent. Okay so anytime you get paid. Ten percent would go towards giving it would be like Taif. Ten percent would go to a wealth building out so whether that's your investing in dividend paying stock whether you're investing rental properties. Whatever you know whatever you want to invest in as long as it's something that's growing right. An investing is a whole different topic that we are actually still learning so I won't be teaching on that, but there's lots of places where you can learn about good investing Ryan how to be a good investor. But then the other ten percent can go towards debt acceleration in now if you've paid off your debt, use that towards whatever, but the ten percent goes toward the acceleration. Now, then the seventy percent that's left over is what you use to pay your bills what you used to buy food. What use for fun what you use for your minimum monthly payments on your debt? All comes out of the seventy percent. So then what you're doing is you're doing your debt snowball. And then. In addition to your minimum payments, you're taking matt ten percent and adding it to your minimum monthly payments so like. Let's say that you made three thousand dollars a month. Or three hundred dollars would go towards debt acceleration. Now a percentage based budget can look however you want. I know several people who just do the seventy thirty thing I know some people were they do more eighty twenty and they don't do a wealth account while they're paying off their debt. I know people who do twenty percent toward dead acceleration. I know people who. They the seventy percent that's like what they're paying bills and stuff with. They have to break that up into percentages in order to stay on track so like they have a maybe a percentage that goes towards fun money right so that they like if they want to buy new clothes, or they want to buy some new makeup, or they WANNA buy new shoes whatever whatever they want to do for fun that it can come out of that fund account, and they have actually separate bank accounts where that goes. We have separate bank accounts for all of ours. But then essentially what you're doing in a debt snowball is you're taking your debts, and you're listening them from smallest to largest, and I'm talking about balances I'm not talking about interest rates, so you would list them from smallest to largest, and then you would add that ten percent to the minimum monthly payment of that first debt. And you could completely get rid of that debt in a matter of months usually, and then you take that minimum payment that you're used to paying an added to the minimum payment of the next one plus your ten percent, and the idea is that it's the compound effect and it just snowballs, and before you know it by the time you get to your last and biggest debt. You have a huge payment going towards that. Now. That's all great in theory, right? You might be listening to this and you're like. Yeah, that the math of that sounds great Lindsey, but honestly I can't even lake. Get all my bills paid now. What makes you think I'm going to be able to live off seventy percent off sudden? Okay. This is a very very common question that we get asked. Its like okay Lindsey, I can't even breathe right now like I'm so trapped under this financial pressure. There is no way right now I'm living on one hundred and ten percent of my income. Which is why I'm in debt. So? Please tell me how I'm supposed to magically start living off of seventy percent of my income. Okay, so there's a few things okay and in Kingdom. We have this whole series where we talk about what to do in this situation. But I'M GONNA. Give you two ideas K. to ideas just to consider K. number one. Cell the crap you don't need. On one of our most recent kingdom VIP calls, we were working, and we were going through the finances of one of our kingdoms, and we were make creating her custom plan for her. And she had a credit card with over thirty thousand dollars on it, okay. And I, said to her and she she was like messaging me because we were keeping it all anonymous for the group, but she's messaging me behind the scenes. And I said to her I said I guarantee that you do not get into thirty thousand dollars worth of credit card debt buying a bunch of stuff that you needed i. guarantee that there's stuff that you could sell. There's close their shoes. There's TV's. There's electronics that you're not using I guarantee that there's probably stuff to sell and she messages back. She's like Oh. Yeah. There's so much stuff so. Possibility number one is to sell some stuff to knock out those first few smaller balance debts. Okay, another one is if you have a car payment right now came. This was what happened with the lady that we were helping. If you have a car payment right now. What if you sold the car? What if you sold the car? Let's say hypothetically you have a car that you could sell for ten thousand dollars okay, and you still owe six thousand dollars on it. Okay, sell the car and then take the four thousand dollars that you have leftover and buy a car for cash. Yeah, it's not gonNA. Be As nice of a car, but there's no debt to it. There's no way you've knocked out. You. Six thousand dollars of your debt so there you go, and you probably got rid of a two hundred dollar payment every single month boom. You're giving yourself breathing room also when you start to cut back on your food budget and you start to be much more reasonable with that. You're also GONNA. Find that you then have some breathing room. All Right? Now if you're listening to this and you're like okay, this is making sense. And maybe this is hype and you up and maybe you're going to go. Look into the snowball method when I'm done. Maybe you're going to go. Look up your wealth formula. Maybe you're. GonNa by Warren Debt and kind of do that, right? Maybe. You're totally hyped up about a right now on your super excited. But. You're like I. Somebody to I would love it if somebody would like, help me and like walk through this with me okay. Highly, recommend you look at the Kingdom. VIP membership K. because we do this for our VIP. Members also if you are going through this process right now like you're trying to pay off debt and you find yourself. Running up against a brick wall like you keep falling off the wagon. There's something that's quite right. You just you still have so much anxiety about your money, right? I again would highly recommend a VIP membership because of McCain go through. We can look at your specific situation bright. We do these on our group. The IP calls okay, so we answer them anonymously, but they are. The whole group can learned so you're going to be learning from other people's financial situations to. Maybe it's need to tweak the way that you're doing your budget navy the way you're doing. Your budget is setting yourself up to fail. Maybe the way you're doing. Your budget is triggering your spouse every single month and we need to make some sort of plan makes them sort of adjustment. Maybe, it has to do with the fact that you're still using a credit card when you shouldn't be using a credit card. Maybe it's because you are you know you're you're? There's a cycle of behavior that you haven't been able to stop and we need to figure out okay. What's triggering this behavior? What's causing you to self sabotage right here? Right, or maybe you are in that place where you're like. Breathing Room I need the breathing room to figure this out and the way that we do that is. By looking at your specific budget, k., But the very very first thing that you have to do you have to look at it. The first thing that you have to do is get really really real with your finances. And actually take a real look and I will tell you. Every single person who does this has an I want to puke moment. So if you have that good, that's the first step. Okay, but. We want to like here. Here's what I want to I. Want to paint this picture for you K.. You? Most people pay off their debt within five years. Most people can pay off all of their debt within five years and a lot of times. It happens faster than that and you might be thinking nope Lindsey. I have one hundred thousand dollars. Worth of data and I only make sixty thousand dollars a year. There's no and pay this off in five years okay Y-. I guarantee that you probably paid off in five years. Probably sooner than that. K every everybody. I'm telling you everybody. But then what happens is is I want you to look at what you're doing for. Your minimum payments every month, then I want you to imagine if you didn't have those payments anymore. How much money how much more money would you have and then what if you invested that money? And you could. Do something like buy rental property. Do something like have dividend paying stock where you have another income stream. That's paying you every month. Then there's more money coming in right. So. Take some time. Visualize it and if you have any questions about this. There's a few places where you can get in touch with US number one. You can go to kingdom on podcast on instagram. You can go to kingdom mom on Facebook, and you can find us now on Tiktok on kingdom, mom, all right hope. You guys have a great week God bless. We hope you enjoyed this episode of the Kingdom mob podcast. Don't forget to head on over to kingdom MOM PODCASTS DOT COM and click membership to join our community of Kingdom moms. You can also check out the free ultimate MOM binder video. Course we'll see you next time. Kingdom, mom.
Teaching Kids About Money
"Welcome To The Kingdom mom podcast, I'm your host Lindsay Anderson founder of Kingdom on coaching and helping homeschool.com here at Kingdom mom we grow together and I thought T marriage parenting home management and in our finances, we would love for you to join our community go to Kingdom on podcast.com to join our paid monthly coaching, T. It's basically like the podcast but on steroids and you get to hear weekly coaching calls plus you get live VIP q and A's and we also have an affiliate program where you can actually earn while you learn but you can also join our tribe of mom binder Masters absolutely free by taking our free ultimate mom binder video course, just go to Kingdom. Mom podcast. All right. Are you ready to take back your territory Kingdom Mom. Let's begin. Hey Kingdom moms and welcome back to another episode of the Kingdom mom podcast. It's me, Lindsey and today wage. We're going to be talking we're going to actually continue our series that we've been doing about money because we are celebrating the launch of the Kingdom on mini mini course. It's a really inexpensive course that teaches you step by step how we went from really being burnt out with debt payoff programs like Financial Peace University were on debt and all of that. They're great programs, but we were getting so burnt out. So we need to step by step about the system that we use to pay off all of our debt become completely debt-free and what we are actually now using to build wealth. We I always tell people I don't consider us wealthy. I consider us on our way to Building Wealth and we have finally reached a level of being like financially secure. So I teach you step by step how we did that how we budget based on your personality and our strengths and weaknesses and how you can create a system for you and your money so that you are not going to burn out and so that you are set up for Success. So we will have a link for that in the song. Notes, but then we will also you can also go to Kingdom on podcast.com and it's right at the top of the page. It's money course go ahead. It's a really quick easy to navigate course and you'll be getting results literally within the first day. We're super excited that we can bring that to you. But I want to celebrate that by talking today about how long we have personally been setting our kids up for success with money. Now before I tell you what we're doing with our kids I want to talk about what my parents did with me because I can remember being twelve years old and going to the bank in opening opening up my first checking account. Did any of y'all remember when you opened up your first checking account and you got your book of check, right? This is before debit cards were really thing you got your book of checks, and I deposited money and I had to checking checking account and a savings account. And I can remember going to the stores and writing checks for things and keeping my check Ledger and all of that. Right and my parents they did pay us an allowance. We were expected to help buy food. So we bought food with our allowance. Yes. We literally went we grew up in a small town. So you would go put money on account at the grocery store. So we would do that and then we had so much that we had to budget for for clothes and then we had so much that we could spend we had like $25 a month, you know, keep in mind. We were like teenagers of the time we had $25 a month that we could spend on whatever we wanted dead. So, I mean we had to budget that we had to say but for Christmas and all of that and then if we had a job we could also you know use that money, but my parents were very very good about teaching us how to save now my parents they didn't talk a lot about investing which is one thing that I believe my parents did a great job teaching me not to eat all of my seed meeting not to spend off. Of the money that I made they did a fantastic job with that. I had a really nice savings account going into adulthood and I'm so so grateful for them. However, we just we never were taught much about investing right? And so this is one thing that we are doing a little bit differently with our kids. Another thing that we're doing differently is we first of all it's really hard to find a bank at least a big chain bank that's going to open up a checking account for them when they are under the age of Thirteen. I mean, you can still find banks that will but it's just, you know, a lot of them they have like safety things in place and so they don't really do that. Another thing too is nobody's using checks. Right? So I you know handing kids a card is much different than handing them a paper check or a checkbook or just them having cash, but we wanted to teach our children how to do that. So we have a few too long. That I want to share with you. And the first one that we have been using and this one I would like to say I am not an affiliate for green light but we have been using the green light debit card. Okay. Now the Greenlight debit card is an app on your phone. It's an app that you download if your children have a film they can download the app to use our kids do not have cell phones. And so I'm the one that controls it on my phone and what it is is they each get a debit card. Okay, and then you can transfer money to change their debit card account, right but then they can and they have to do it on my phone granted because they don't have access to it. They don't have a phone but they have a spend account page of account a give account. Okay, so they can spend save and give and they can separate it and it should it teaches kids how to budget their money. It also has a job. Of parental controls on it. So if you pay your kids a weekly or a monthly allowance, you can set that up to Auto deposit into their account just like a paycheck would right so that they learn how to transfer into those separate accounts, which is actually what we teach in the Kingdom of money course. So we're teaching that two kids right away. So it's an automatic thing that they do when they head into adulthood absolutely love that. I'm not seeing them how to give so we're teaching them how to take 10% and to automatically set that aside so that you can give that money but then also as a parent you can turn this debit card on and off also control where they spend money they have like you can set it so that they have to request the money and you allow them to spend it. It's a really kind of a cool thing. You can customize their cards and everything. We didn't did that. It's $5 a month, but it's as many kids as you want and you again you can control that. So we're doing this with our kids and it's basically teaching them how to handle an account. Now. Keep in mind our kids are young? Okay. So the kids that were doing this with our nine and 696 and we're mostly using it with our nine year old are six year old. I don't feel she is responsible enough yet to actually be in charge of her own debit card. And so we do this with our nine year old now, the only thing that I don't like about the green light app is it doesn't teach them anything about investing? Okay. Now this next step that I'm about to tell you about. We are an affiliate for them. So if you do decide to download this app, if you would use if you'd be so kind as to use the link in the show no juice. Because we are an affiliate for them. I've been using this out for several months now for myself personally, but it has a kid feature that I absolutely love. Okay, and it's called the acorns app and I love the reference because it's it talks about growing your Mighty Oak. It's about building your wealth and the acorn is obviously the seed that grows out of the the, you know entire Forest of trees and I absolutely love that. So the way that it works is you can set up an investment account and you get to decide how is it going to be aggressive? Is it going to be moderately aggressive moderate, you know not aggressive at all. You can kind of decide where that money is going. You can also set up a retirement account. Okay, so you can do a regular investment account or retirement account. Okay, they will also send you a debit card if you want one. However, we just hooked up so that it's connected to our credit card where we put most of our purchases on there. So we have a credit card that we put almost every single purchase on and then we pay it off every single week. That's our comfort level as we paid off every single week this the acorns app is attached to that card. It's also attached to our debit card that comes out of our joint checking account. And what it does is you can make one time transfers into your wealth account. You can set up automatic transfers. So if you want to put let's say $100 a week in June investment account, you can set it up. So it automatically does that but it has something that I absolutely love it's called around ups and what this does is any time you swipe your card. It rounds that up to the next dollar and invests the change. Okay. So let's say that you go to the grocery store and the total is $50.75. It's going to take it's going to round it up to $51 and the skate going to take $0.25 and throw it into your investment account. So cool right. Now, you might be saying okay Lindsay, that's great. What does this have to do with kids what I love about it is that you can set up an investment account that you control as a parent for your children. Okay. Now when we lived in South Dakota, we live in Texas now we've lived here for about a year. But when we lived in South Dakota are nine years old had a candy machine business. Okay, and so she owned a candy machine. Okay, and the candy machine we had some friends who found a laundromat and they had like a laundry service and they allowed her to put the care candy machine in their in their place of business. Okay. And so I thought we would go fill it, you know once a month, we'd empty it out and you know, it probably made I don't know like fifty bucks a month. It was actually pretty good for just one candy machine, you know, you're in a laundromat everybody's a.m. Quarters and what we told her that that money was for savings and investing. Okay, so it was to grow her own individual wealth because it was an investment. Okay, so that's not money that she spends so all of that money that she had made from her candy machine business. God put into her own Acorn investment account. Okay. We also set it up with our so she gets our nine year old I made a deal with okay, my kids don't get an allowance. They might at some point but my kid gets paid to do something that I don't want to do and that is folding laundry. I hate folding laundry with a passion it takes up so much time. It's my least favorite chore. And so I made a deal with her several months back and I said listen if you fold them. Laundry every single week on Friday. I'll give you $5 I said but you got to be on top of it as long as you do really good job. I will give you $5 and she said deal. So the way that I have it set up is that $4? Every single week goes into her green light account. Okay, and then she divvy setup give song saved some spend some and then a dollar goes into her investment account. So she's already learning at the age of nine to separate her money that when she gets $5 that doesn't mean she has $5 to spend. Okay that that $5 is going to get divvied up and that she is going to give some that she is going to save some for big purchases that she wants to make some day that she is going to invest some so that that can grow and she's going down. To watch how that money grows over time. It's so cool to see because acorns will actually show you like how much that will turn into by the time she she's eighteen. And then she also gets to spend some of it because how many of you get burnt out. If you don't actually get to spend some of the money that you made on something fun. Right. So these tools have been so so helpful and we talked to our kids about investing now, you might not feel if you if you have not maybe learned how to invest right? Maybe you don't feel financially literate yet. Don't sweat it. Okay, don't sweat it. But once you feel financially literate and once you've educated yourself, how are those conversations with your kids? Because I'll be I'll be real Frank with you. My parents and them teaching me at twelve years old that I should be saving money was life changing for me. It has changed the way that I look at money even now at 33 years old. So don't be afraid to have these conversations with your kids. I hope that that was super helpful. We are going to link page you can find information about these two products. We're going to link them in the show notes. If you have any questions, feel free to reach out to me and we'll hook you up. Have a great week. God bless. We hope you enjoy this episode of the Kingdom mom podcast. Don't forget to head on over to Kingdom on podcast.com and click membership to join our community of Kingdom mom's you can also check out free ultimate mom binder video course. We'll see you next time Kingdom mom.
Fluctuating Income Budgeting
"Welcome To The Kingdom mom podcast, I'm your host Lindsay Anderson founder of Kingdom on coaching and helping homeschool.com here at Kingdom mom we grow together and I thought T marriage parenting home management and in our finances, we would love for you to join our community go to Kingdom on podcast.com to join our paid monthly coaching, T. It's basically like the podcast but on steroids and you get to hear weekly coaching calls plus you get live VIP q and A's and we also have an affiliate program where you can actually earn while you learn but you can also join our tribe of mom binder Masters absolutely free by taking our free ultimate mom binder video course, just go to Kingdom. Mom podcast. All right. Are you ready to take back your territory Kingdom Mom. Let's begin. Hey, hey Kingdom moms and welcome back to another episode of the Kingdom mom podcast this song Prior month we are celebrating the release of the Kingdom mom money mini course and we're talking all about personal finance. So the kingdom of money many course, you can go to Kingdom on podcast.com right now will also link it in the show notes. It's a $20 course $20 for a limited time. The price is going to be increasing in a couple of weeks. But for right now, you can literally get it for $20. It should probably be worth about five hundred if I mean completely honest, but I wanted everybody who is struggling with finances to be able to get a hold of this course. It's of course about paying off debt. It's about budgeting and different budgeting style based on your personality based on your strengths and weaknesses and your spouse because most of you are also trying to create some financial success with another human being who has other Financial strengths and weaknesses from you. It talks about what to do when you can't breathe all of that and on the podcast we're going to be talking about some different Financial things were going to be answering some of your home. Cancel questions. Today. We're going to be doing a quick episode about a question that I received and this is a very very common question for people. I'm related to their personal finances. It's what do I do if my income changes every single month? Okay, and this is there are so many people. In fact our income me and my husband's income varies from month to month may have seasons of Plenty. We have seasons of less. It can fluctuate different times of the year. Especially my husband. He's been in the fitness industry for years and that fluctuates. It's usually be much busier the first of the year and then it kind of tapers off. It's usually really really slow like around holiday season, right? So it naturally your income that might have been flow. We have Farmers. We have all of these different people where the bulk of your money might come in at a certain time of year. And I got the question. What do I do in that situation woke? Comes to budgeting. Okay. Now this person had not gone through the course yet. And and I'm sure after they went through the course they had kind of a different Revelation but the thing is is most of us when if we were thought if we were taught any type of personal finance in our younger years in school or even quite frankly if you go through the Dave Ramsey system, which I'm not harping on Dave Ramsey cuz I think he's great and I think he's helped a lot of people and I use a lot of his strategies. But when you go through those systems most of the time you're going to be taught how to do a zero-based budget and what that means is that you have X amount of money and you put x amount of money into each separate category. So you might have say $500 for food. Okay, you might have $1,000 for rent or your mortgage payment or whatever. Okay, you might say okay every month. We get $75 to spend on clothes. So you have all of these different categories that's a zero-based budget where it's every single dollar has a place where it goes. However, there's also something called percentage based budgeting which I think quite frankly at least for me. It works a lot better, especially if you're somebody who your income can fluctuate. Okay, so the percentage based system you live off of a certain percentage now, I know people who take they just thought maybe 70% of their income put in a bank account and they just live off of that right? I know some people where they they're living expenses, like food bills utilities all of that come maybe maybe it's 50% and then 30% is like all of that other stuff like clothes fun stuff, you know. Vitamins, you know all of the stuff that's not like necessary for life. But you like kind of fund Money Entertainment type stuff, right and that your percentages are totally going to depend on how much you actually make great. I know people who take the percentage based system and they literally have a percentage for everything. So like they might have 1% of their income going into a certain category now, I don't take it to that extreme personally. It just doesn't work for us. It might work for you, but it does not work for us. And so we have a certain percentage that we lived. Now. Let's say that you're somebody who you have money coming in once a year. Okay, like you maybe work like three months out of the Year box actually is a thing that happens with some people then they make most of their money like the big money comes in within those three months and then they might have like other jobs. They kind of do throughout the year, but mome. Their money is coming in once a year. Okay, here's here's what you do figure out how much money that is divided it by 12:00. Okay home and put it all in an account and then just pay yourself out of that account once a month just pay yourself out of that account once a month and do what you do is zero-based budget or percentage-based budget again, totally depends on your own personal strengths and weaknesses. But that way you're giving it all up because here's the mistake that most people would make they would do they would spend it all off before they would spend it all before that. Next three months comes around right? You might get say $10,000 one month and you know six months from now, you're only going to make $2,000. So instead of giving it up you spend it all why it's it. You know that this famine time is coming right but it's human nature. It's human nature most of us. If the money isn't an account where we can spend it. We're going to spend it. That's how most of us operate psychologically so we have to trick ourselves. Okay. So what I would do if it was me, this is if it was me, okay, you might have to tweak things a little bit, but I would have a separate account for that money a savings account something. I'd have a separate account for that money off. Figure out how much it is each month and then once a month, I would pay myself from that account. That is how I would handle that situation because it also gives you it helps you but because you know exactly how much to expect from that account every single month, but also it helps you because let's say that one year you have you know, you make less right? Let's say you were expecting $30,000 in that three months and you only made twenty right? Well when you divvy that up, you can figure out okay, what do I need to make now to make up for this month? Maybe you need to have another little part time job. Maybe you create some sort of side hustle some sort of income stream, right? So that is how I would handle that particular situation. I hope that that was not helpful. I hope you guys have a great week. If you have not purchased the money course yet go for it. Also one thing that I have not mentioned, but I want to mention here if you disown no, Need to upgrade because the Kingdom on money many course is actually included for free in any of our memberships. So if you have one of our basic memberships or VIP monthly coaching membership off you get the mini course for free, but let's say that you do the mini course and you're like, oh my gosh. I need I have so many questions. I need to find out more. I want Lindsay to go through my finance is with me and you want to upgrade to maybe the VIP membership is what I would recommend in that situation. We will you have 30 days and we will credit you that $20. So if you paid for the course and you're like, I want to upgrade to the membership, we will credit you back that $20 so that you will get $20 off your first month of your coaching membership. All right, y'all I hope you guys have a great week. God bless. We hope you enjoyed this episode of the Kingdom mom podcast. Don't forget to head on over to Kingdom on podcast. Dot-com and click membership to join our community of Kingdom mom's you can also check out the free ultimate mom binder video course. We'll see you next time Kingdom mom.