35 Burst results for "Liam"
"liam" Discussed on The Podcast On Podcasting
"After we've reiterated it and now it's all focused on giving back, great, trying to enrich people's lives currently in reaching my own life in terms of learning. The question set becomes much more natural and inquisitive. There's a rough structure and some rough guard rails of what we want to stay in. And we have that conversation with our guest ahead of time. So it's, hey, we want to live in this area. However, it's always geared towards what your area of expertise, what are you most passionate about? What are you interested in for the guest? And when you dive into that and you're really hitting on those things that are passionate about them, that they want to share the energy, the excitement, all of that become so much more organic and translates very well to the audience who appreciates that. And so I think the question set becomes more these open ended questions that get at what that core expertise is. What are the most exciting things that you're working on today? May not have any correlation directly back, but if you set it up properly and you do your research with the guests to know what their area of expertise is, you can create those ties within the rough guardrails that still resonate with the listener but allow your guests to be able to express themselves fully. And I think getting them comfortable and allowing them to express themselves fully through those questions that are open ended and really laying into their passion speaks volumes. So I'm getting two big things that maybe a new podcaster would learn from. One of them is when Liam started his show, he was scripted. The second one is that he was utilizing a funnel and it felt forced. So he wants to avoid the F word, the force toward the funnel word. And instead of going ABCD, we're just going to be
New York Sees Rise in Anti-Semitic Incidents
"New York New York New York By Liam's stack near times Orthodox Jews on busy streets in midtown Manhattan In a quiet neighborhoods in Brooklyn Swastikas drawn on Long Island home and spray paint onto Wall Street's charging bull statue A bomb threat against a Jewish community center in Albany and flyers and duchess county the warned residents choose want to take your guns The number of anti semitic incidents in New York increased by 24% last year to the highest level in decades including a surge in the number of assaults as well as both criminal and non criminal incidents targeting Jews according to an annual report released Tuesday by the ADL 416 anti semitic incidents across the state including 51 assaults the most physical attacks recorded Since it began compiling such data in 1979 the report was based on information collected from local law enforcement agencies and so forth The surge was part of a nationwide trend that saw 2717 anti semitic incidents across the United States Including 88 assaults and increase of a 167% from the year before
Stowers' HR in 9th ties it, Orioles top White Sox 4-3 in 11
"Anthony Santander delivered a walk off single in the 11th inning completing the Orioles come back in a four three victory over the White Sox The birds were down to their last strike when Kyle stowers hit his first major league home run I kind of blacked out a little bit I just knew I was really excited I haven't necessarily been swinging it in my best last few days so to have a moment like that was really special It came off Liam Hendricks who had converted 19 straight save opportunities The tying blast came after outfielder Adam engel dropped a Star Wars foul ball I'm Dave ferry
Cueto sharp for 8 2/3 innings, White Sox blank Guardians 2-0
"Johnny cueto worked into the 9th inning while leading the White Sox to a two zero shutout of the guardians Came within one out of a complete game allowing 5 hits and a walk while throwing 113 pitches Liam Hendricks got the final out to notch the save putting Chicago two and a half games behind the AL central leading guardians Jose Abreu opened the scoring in the 6th with an RBI double Cleveland starter Shane Bieber had his four start winning streak snapped allowing two runs on 5 hits over 6 and a third I'm Dave fairy
Kopech Ks 11, Vaughn hits 2-run single as ChiSox beat Tigers
"Michael kopech worked 6 no hit innings in Andrew Vaughn singled home the only runs as the White Sox blank the tigers to nothing Kopech was lifted after 85 pitches striking out a career high 11 and walking three The no hitter ended when winning pitcher reynaldo Lopez allowed a single to have a Baez leading off the 7th Von broke a scoreless tie in the 7th Alex Lang who was tagged with Detroit's 5th straight loss and 8th and 9 games Lang allowed three hits in the 7th Liam Hendricks worked the 9th for his 24th save I'm Dave ferry
"liam" Discussed on Code Story
"This message is brought to you by web app IO. Web app IO helps developers build world changing web applications faster than ever before. Add things like product screenshots, technical SEO health, and full stack review environments for feedback without being blocked by staging servers. Try it for free today at web app IO slash code story. Today's episode is sponsored by immediate. Your employees financial stress is costing you money. In a rapidly changing job market, immediate helps businesses recruit and retain employees by allowing them responsible access to on demand pay at no cost to the employer. Find out more about immediate at join immediate dot com slash code story. One of the biggest challenges we face, which I guess forced our hands in the early days to make certain tradeoffs was the technical challenges that came with building a meaningful product that actually gave a merchant ultimate flexibility to reach their customers on all facets like email and SMS. How can you have a hub with so much intelligence on each instance of every store with our building a server and archetype that is financially viable for a bootstrap startup at the time. The solution for this is obviously in a very technical but we basically designed our earliest MVP in a way that we only use resources when needed. My name is limb rodder and the cofounder and CEO of grappling. This is code story. The podcast bringing you interviews with tech visionaries. Who share in the critical moments of what it takes to change an industry and build and lead a team that has your back. I'm your host, Noah lab part. And today how Liam dorado has built a scalable and flexible platform built for modern ecommerce experiences. All this and more on code story. Liam dorada comes from an ecommerce background, building websites, stores, et cetera he is passionate about providing people ways to find cheaper products through online commerce. Liam loves to solve problems and finds it is hard to find a replacement hobby. Now that his hobby has become his full-time gig. He and his brother have worked together for years as they do now on their current venture. They grew up in Malta, which is an amazing gem in the Mediterranean. Liam and his brother were merchants, building their own ecommerce store around 5 to 6 years ago. From that perspective they saw very early on that there was a movement towards a headless platform. They weren't developers at the time, which most merchants aren't, and they struggled. And felt there must be a better way. This is the creation story of crippling. Grappling simply put is a no code ecommerce platform looking to enable the next generation of ecommerce. You've seen this, this wave of different commerce platforms coming out. The way ecommerce is you can imagine it's changed rapidly over the last even last two years, I'd say nowadays, but over the last ten years, things have really just taken off in terms of what it takes to run any commerce store. And what crap really is is we're bridging the gap between what is considered enterprise commerce and no code commerce. Nowadays, if you want to create a modern ecommerce that of matching the like of Nike or other $1 billion companies or DDC companies out there, that usually requires hundreds of thousands of dollars in monthly fees for engineering teams for the platforms for multi multifaceted integrations, we're bringing that to democratizing that to a brand. A $35 a month fee was not writing a single line of code. So that very simply is that is grappling in we call the no code, ecommerce platform, democratizing, modern commas. We love as an ecommerce from a merchant standpoint for a long time. We started off building our only commerce store, almost 5, 6 years ago now, and being on that side of the spectrum, you're kind of inclined to see what web industry is going, what the traits are, whether the trends are going. And we saw very early on, there was this wave and this movement to a headless based platform or to a much more intensified platform that merchants were looking for. Being ecommerce merchants you want to keep up with the pace you want to be able to reach your customers on email SMS and be able to be as competitive as you can. So we ended up graduating from our local platform and moved to a headless platform. And of course, we weren't really developers at the time and the most merchants on developers. And we struggled. So we thought, you know, there's got to be an easy way to do this. And I think it just came up as an idea. Let's try and build a prototype that is that is an easy way to launch and run a modern ecommerce store that can integrate with all the best product that's on all facets and that is completely no code. So it was just kind of a prototype to solve almost our own problem in that sense, which eventually became a problem that many other merchants had as well and we made that basically our MVP was our own prototype. We began giving to other merchants that we knew within our spaces. Our previous company then got acquired, which gave us the ability to focus full time on this problem we wanted to solve. A newfound passion for the SaaS side of ecommerce was pretty much born in that point. Tell me about the MVP so that first product you built, how long it take you to build and what sort of tools did you use to bring it to life? We started off building the core infrastructure and all the core functionalities of our modern ecommerce store. What you'd expect to see in a modern ecommerce website like Nike or any of that and building a system that can support all the scalable resources that merchants are demanding. As you can imagine, building a full scale MVP is very, very difficult. One of the challenges we face early on was, you know, if we had to rebuild ecommerce platform in this age in this new era of ecommerce, what would that look like? And this obviously took around two or three years to actually build the product that we could go to market with. You know, many decisions we made, many of the archetype processes we went through were quite complex at first, but eventually I think after two or three years we had a product that we could hand on heart say is competitive and we could actually build and provide value to merchants. So with that first MVP though, you have to make certain decisions and tradeoffs around maybe technical debt or feature cut or what you're going to focus on first. Tell me about some of those decisions that you had to make and how you coped with them. One of the biggest challenges we faced, which I guess forced our hands in the early days to make certain tradeoffs was the technical challenges that came with building a meaningful product that actually gave a merchant ultimate flexibility to reach their customers on all facets like email and SMS. How can you have a hub with so much intelligence on each instance of every store without building a server and archetype that is financially viable for a bootstrap startup at the time. The solution for this is obviously in a very technical but we basically designed our earnest MVP in a way that we only use resources when needed. Of
Cease pitches 6 strong innings, White Sox beat Rangers 2-1
"Dylan cease and eloy Jimenez led the White Sox to a two one win over the rangers Ceases 12 and four after winning his 5th straight start holding Texas to a run and two hits over 6 innings He lowered his ERA to 1.98 Second only to Houston's Justin Verlander in the American League Jimenez homered in the fourth inning to break a one one deadlock Liam Hendricks closed out Chicago's 13th win in 20 games working a perfect night for his 22nd save in 25 chances I'm Dave ferry
Jose Abreu, Eloy Jiménez homer; White Sox beat A's 4-1
"The White Sox are back over 500 following a four one win over the a's Jose Abreu and eloy Jimenez Homer to back Dylan cease who allowed a run in four hits over 6 innings of his 11th win Cease hasn't allowed more than one earned run in any of his last 12 outings Abreu and Laurie Garcia had two hits apiece for the White Sox who have won ten of 15 to get back into the AL central race Liam Hendricks pitched around Ramon L'oreal's double in the 9th for his 20th save in 23 opportunities L'oreal homered for Oakland I'm Dave ferry
Sheets homers, doubles late to lift White Sox over A's 3-2
"Gavin sheets holmberg and scored the winning run in the White Sox three two downing of the a's Sheets went deep in the 7th inning with a two run blast to a race Oakland's two zero lead He led off the knife with a double moved to third on a bunt and scored the game winner on a wild pitch Liam Hendricks worked around an Elvis Andrews double to get the win The outcome puts the White Sox back at 500 Seth Brown and Sean Murphy homered for the athletics who ended a four game winning streak Paul Blackburn tossed 5 scoreless innings for Oakland I'm Dave fairy
DNC Chair Jaime Harrison on the Need for Leadership Change in Texas
"Sorry, we just covered the story of Texas suing the Biden administration. So to allow women to die in abortions. I mean, the federal government is just trying to say to save the life of the mother. We have a duty. And so Texas suing to make sure that what women get to die in Texas. I don't know how else to say it. Listen, you know, I live in South Carolina, I grew up in South Carolina and I couldn't think that you could find a state where you had worse leadership than the leaders that we have in South Carolina and McMaster and Tim Scott and Lindsey Graham, but then Texas does it bigger. Yeah. Abbott is a disaster. We all know about cancun Cruz and the walk in disaster that he is in corn and has no backbone. This is a state where the AG to the lieutenant government. Remember the lieutenant governor in this state was when COVID hit was, he was a guy who said, well, we should just sacrifice our seniors. We should just let them die so that we could save the economy. I mean, these people don't care about the people here in Texas. And they don't care about women and women's rights. And we've seen it time and time again, they don't care about voting rights in this state. And that's why it is so needed for a sea change in leadership here. And hopefully with beto at the top of the ticket, we could see that what I've heard my entire life, the sleeping giant, actually. I just heard someone say, and again, you know, his lips to God's ears, but that is sadly a game changer that they really feel like beto, it's beto's time. Liam on Twitter said, I'm sorry. It may sound harsh, but standing around in the hallway while children are shot in the next room is exactly what Republicans have been doing for 40
Most American men reach Wimbledon's 3rd round since 1995
"Ego shrink has continued her victory streak to reach the third round at Wimbledon The top ranked tech has won 37 consecutive matches The longest run since Martina Hingis also won 37 straight in 1997 Other winners on the women's side Thursday included fourth seed Paula badosa along with Petra kvitova Jesse pagola coco Goff and Simona Halep but 6 seed Karolina Pliskova was beaten by Katie boulter Men's second seed Rafael Nadal won his match in four sets Joining stephanos sisi poss and Taylor Fritz in the third round Number 12 Diego Schwartzman lost to Liam Brody in 5 sets I'm Dave
Robert RBI hit in 9th, Chisox end Yanks' 6-game win string
"Louis Louis Louis Louis robber robber robber robber drove drove drove drove in in in in Tim Tim Tim Tim Anderson Anderson Anderson Anderson with with with with the the the the game game game game winning winning winning winning run run run run in in in in the the the the bottom bottom bottom bottom half half half half of of of of the the the the ninth ninth ninth ninth inning inning inning inning as as as as the the the the white white white white Sox Sox Sox Sox defeated defeated defeated defeated the the the the Yankees Yankees Yankees Yankees three three three three to to to to two two two two it it it it was was was was Robert Robert Robert Robert second second second second RBI RBI RBI RBI on on on on the the the the night night night night and and and and the the the the second second second second run run run run scored scored scored scored by by by by Anderson Anderson Anderson Anderson who who who who also also also also had had had had three three three three hits hits hits hits for for for for the the the the Sox Sox Sox Sox who who who who got got got got back back back back to to to to the the the the five five five five hundred hundred hundred hundred mark mark mark mark it's it's it's it's still still still still early early early early in in in in the the the the season season season season is is is is still still still still a a a a long long long long season season season season on on on their their their budgets budgets budgets you you you know know know continue continue continue to to to you you you know know know keep keep keep working working working and and and you you you know know know keep keep keep trying trying trying to to to get get get healthy healthy healthy and and and you you you know know know hopefully hopefully hopefully we we we get get get to to to trying trying trying to to to go go go the the the Yankees Yankees Yankees who who who saw saw saw their their their five five five game game game winning winning winning streak streak streak snapped snapped snapped had had had tied tied tied the the the contest contest contest in in in their their their half half half of of of the the the ninth ninth ninth inning inning inning off off off of of of Liam Liam Liam Hendriks Hendriks Hendriks as as as it it it turned turned turned out out out Hendricks Hendricks Hendricks got got got the the the victory victory victory with with with around around around this this this Chapman Chapman Chapman suffering suffering suffering the the the loss loss loss David David David Shuster Shuster Shuster Chicago Chicago Chicago
People Need to Give Their Sons Better Names
"I'm searching today and I come across the most popular names of 2021. Now listen to this. Those popular boy names of 2021 were Liam, Noah, Oliver, Elijah, James, William, Benjamin Lucas, Henry and fedor. The girls were Olivia, Emma, Charlotte, Amelia, Ava. Sophia Isabella, Mia Evelyn and Harper. I love that I think 6 or 7 of them ended in a a lot of my ex-girlfriend the next large names ends at a's. I don't know why. I think that's very feminine and beautiful, but those boys names sound like the perfect fit for the new generation of soy boys. Do they not? Come on. Where's Debbie? Where's Donna? Where's Joey? Where's John? I'm not even gonna ask where Frankie Vinnie Morocco are. But we need those names back in circulation. Listen, if you're home and you can't get your car started, you're not gonna call your buddy Elijah to help you. If you're on the side of the road and there's some fucking problems going on, no is not coming. No it's not coming. Benjamin, I don't think Lucas is going. You know, I was coming, Frankie Joey and Vinny, they're gonna come help you. Frankie joining me are gonna bring the shovel and the bag a lot, and they're not gonna ask the question. Just gonna start digging. These fucking names, Jesus. I will say I'm happy to see the name James making a comeback because I was getting tired of coaching kids named Declan and durban and all these,
Gov. Larry Hogan Comments on a Florida Bill He Didn't Read
"So Larry is in the useful idiot club May I call you Larry I think I will Could call you worse but I'm calling you Larry Go ahead Take a bill which bans certain instruction about sexual orientation and gender identity in the classroom What's your reaction to that And then more broadly It doesn't ban certain Instruction as you're suggesting miss bash did you read it I know it's hard for you journalists so called to read It bans all of it She says your fellow Republican governor desantis and Florida he suggested that he will retaliate against Disney after he criticized Florida's so called don't say gay Bill You see how the media are corrupt says nothing about don't say gay Bill I'm challenging bash right now $1 million you and me Where does it say don't say gay Bill in the Bill Where is that language Where are those words Which bans certain instruction about sexual orientation and gender identity in the classroom Go ahead Make up that legislation Well I didn't really actually see the details of the list So if you didn't see the details shut your big pie hole What does it say you should say I don't know what that Bill says I didn't read it I'm running my own damn state But he couldn't Go ahead The whole thing seems like just crazy fight Oh yeah just the crazy fight you know Liam Marilyn we're all above this thing You know Larry Hogan it's just a crazy fight you know Just because the Florida legislature is Republican the governor's Republican And the way ahead of me Larry Hogan
NutraMedix Founder Tim Eaton Describes Exciting New Product GlucoMedix
"You were just talking about, what does it gluco medics? It's a product we've been working on for it's been under development for many years. And it's a combination of cemento and stevia. Stevia. Yes. Stevia has the sweetener. The sweetener, if it's a whole leaf extract, it has blood sugar support properties, cardiovascular support properties. Does not have that. Saccharin sucralose does not have that. I don't think so. Aspartame does not have that. No. So most people think of stevia as a natural sweetener. But a whole leaf extract of that of that leaf can, as I mentioned, have blood sugar support properties, et cetera. So we combine that with cemento and we did some research and our university did some research and what do you mean our university? Your university now. The one you work with. A university in Peru. Actually the top university improved is doing research and publishing the research is called the calle tano university in Liam Peru. And they did several studies comparing glucoma medics for metabolic support, blood sugar, support, cardiovascular support, and it was very comparable to these other remedies that it was compared to. So that has all been that research has been compiled and it's been submitted to a very high level peer reviewed medical journal in Europe for publication. We're waiting to see if that's going to be accepted for publication. But that's really helped a lot of people, gluco medics,
"liam" Discussed on Terrible, Thanks For Asking
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"liam" Discussed on Terrible, Thanks For Asking
"So when we got back from that, I was like, I can't be around them anymore. And so I wrote them this long letter. Pretty much saying, I think you knew all along. And you've been trying to squash it out of me ever since then. And pretty much was like, if you can't call me, Liam, or he, then I'm not coming home. I'm not talking to you. No holidays, no parties, like I just can't. It's too detrimental to me. And I thought that that would be like the catalyst for them to change this, I'm literally never going to speak to you again. Shouldn't you want to change if you're going to risk losing your child? But they wrote back to Kayla and pretty much defended their side. My mom's was a lot more like defensive. My dad was a little more apologetic of like, we know this is hurtful for you, but it also hurts us. You know, I was talking about how much it hurt to be called Kayla. And he's like, it hurts when we hear other people call you something that's not Kayla. To protect his peace and his mental health, Liam decides to take space away from his parents. But it doesn't last long because his parents are a gateway to his grandparents whom Liam loves so much. And then my grandfather was sick. And I was feeling guilty too at that time of not being around as much because my grandparents lived with them. So it's like in order to see my grandparents, I'd have to see them. And I'm like, wow, this kind of sucks for me too, to not have my family anymore. It's on my grandfather. He's like, maybe you need to change the way you're going about it. You know, he's getting sicker. I don't want to like not be around for the end of his life. Like, I will regret that. So I ended up reaching out to them and being like, hey, do you want to get dinner and whatever we agreed to come to this middle ground place where? They call me red and neutral pronouns. is hurt. Because honestly, I felt disconnected from my family for like as long as I can remember. I felt like an outsider. And then for like one British moment when I was going to come out, I'm like, maybe this is it. Maybe I can finally feel like happy and connected to the family because I can be happy within myself. And I'm like, imagining game nights and I'm imagining my dad teaching me to tie a tie and I'm like, imagining all these things and like, that got crushed right away when their reaction was like, no, we won't support you. It's literally as simple as saying, Liam. I don't want you to become like crazy allies going parades or nothing. It's literally just call me Liam. You're still still stuck. Liam allows his parents into his life only when it allows him time with his grandparents. They remember to call him red most of the time his nickname from when he was a kid, red hair, red nickname, but Liam eventually realizes that this doesn't feel any better than when they call him by his birth name. And at the same time, Liam's life is also joyous. He's finally able to live his life freely. He feels comfortable in his body for the first time that he can remember, and when he meets new people, they know and love him as Liam. And that's how he meets his partner, Han. In 2018, I was involved with the House bill in New Hampshire that was going to add gender identity to the protected groups that were in the discrimination protections already. They saw my story and replied like, oh, thank you for sharing your story. And then we just like mutually followed each other and flash forward to April 2019. I had made a series of tweets being angry at my parents for misgendering me all of Easter. They sent me a master's the next day, like, hey, just wanted to say, hope today's better like I know holidays are hard for us, LGBT people. And then we just started talking from there. And it was like instant connection. We talked all day long over instant messenger and then I gave them my phone number before we went to bed because they're like, oh, well I'm signing off to go to bed and I was like, oh, here's my phone number if that's easier. They gave me their phone number and then I waited till like 10 a.m. the next morning to tasks. I was like, I don't know what time they wake up. I don't want to be like too creepy, text them at 6 a.m. when I wake up. I'll text them at 10 a.m. and be like, hey, it's Liam. And they'll tell me now. They're like, I was in a meeting and I saw your text and I was like, yes. And we've been talking every day since then. Less than 6 months later, Han and Liam are engaged. And to Liam surprise, his parents tell him that yes, they do want to attend the wedding. But first, Liam's sister gets married. Liam is one of the groom's men, and it's been about three years since he transitioned. My dad obviously my brother in law and his friends were all doing photos beforehand. And he's calling me Kayla during that time. I'm like, I'm literally sitting here in a suit next to you with the groomsmen. And a few weeks later, we got like this sneak peek pictures and the picture from my dad's first look with my sister. It was like, it's a beautiful photo. A beautiful photo. The photographer was amazing. But it just broke me into a million pieces when I saw it 'cause I was like, there is nothing, like I'm never gonna feel that way about them and they're never gonna feel that way about me. That moment of just like love and happiness and excitement and I'm never gonna feel that. When I get married, I'm not gonna have that. They're gonna be there maybe reluctantly. They're not gonna hug me and be crying about how good I look. Like that feeling that at that moment that they shared is something I have never.
"liam" Discussed on Terrible, Thanks For Asking
"Conversation in a few days later my mom came to take me to lunch and had this whole conversation she was like, so we'll support you like if you want to go to therapy to like be okay with how you're born, but like we can't support you in anything else. Just like when Liam came out to his parents as a lesbian, his parents continue communicating with him through letters. Here's one from Liam's dad, written in 2019. What we honestly struggle with is that people don't see that in your choice to change your identity, we are forced to change an identity we loved and wanted to keep. Our identities always been that we are the parents of two daughters. We are now the invisible ones because of your change of identity. We're confused why we don't have just as much right to choose not to change our identity as you have to change yours. We are looked at as the bad people, the horrible parents, the ones who don't care, and that is just not the case, we do care. We care enough to share our true hearts with you. We care enough to say we don't think this is the best course for you. But we accept you have every right to make this choice. We just wish we had the same right to choose not to change our identity and have our choice accepted and understood. What we are being expected to do is accept that our oldest child as they were born as dead. And to forget about the name and the memories that go along with that name, which is impossible. In their minds, like I was saying that God made a mistake. I'm like, I've never once said that. You say that. You say that I'm saying that, but we're pretty much like, you know, always be our daughter. You always be our little girl. We won't call you Liam. That was their stance. Liam's parents have told him where they stand. And then they tell their church as well. In a letter sent to members of their congregation to friends and other family, Liam's parents, once again, ask for help in saving their daughter. Our strong sense is that her transgender feelings and desires, while absolutely real and valid, are another symptom from the trauma. It isn't safe for Kayla to be a woman because she has suffered repeated abuses in that gender role. So we believe her mind is telling her that being male is the best way to be safe and finally have peace. We have spoken to Kayla about our fears and concerns for her well-being. We have let her know that we love her and accept her without reservation, but we can not support this decision because it's so dangerous emotionally and damaging physically. We let her know we feel it as a hopeless pursuit because it's impossible to ever achieve the goal of becoming biologically male, which is what she's seeking. She is convinced she will be the exception of the rule and will turn out to be one of the happy ones after going through this plan, gender transition. Part of what makes these letters and his parents responds to Liam's coming out so hurtful or the conflicting messages. They say Liam's feelings and desires are quote absolutely real and valid and that they love and accept their child without reservation. You don't have to do what I say to have my approval, and I couldn't be prouder of you and all you've accomplished as an adult, whether as a male or female. You will always be worthy of all my love regardless of your choice in this situation. They also discredit those same feelings and emotions when they tell Liam that they can not will not support him. If he lives life as a transgender man. Not using your chosen name is not a matter of disrespect in my mind or my intentions, but rather a matter of being truthful about who you are in my eyes and how you were created by God. It's clear from these letters that his parents believe that everything they are doing is out of a deep love for Liam. They worry that transitioning won't make him happy, they worry that his Salvation is in question. But their love in their concern only hurt Liam more. Because they're not just disagreeing silently amongst themselves they're invalidating him and his existence out in public in front of family and friends in front of church members that Liam doesn't even know. Yeah, so that was like 6 months after I'd come out and we had just been away at my mom's parents 50th wedding anniversary. So my other grandparents also were super supportive of me, but I don't see them that much. So we were all together for the whole weekend at this point. I'm like one month on hormones. Most people at the party are just like gendering me male. So I'm like passing pretty well. I probably look like a 14 year old, not a 22 year old, but I could hear my parents talking like, oh, we got the girls a hotel room for themselves. And things like that. And I remember, it was so hard because of the whole weekend there calling me Kayla, they're calling me, she just like an early transition, everything feels so much more like painful and fragile. Because you know so much who you are, but like the world can't see it yet. So then every time that you get gendered incorrectly, it's just like devastating because you're like, no, that is not me. I sat in my grandparents bathroom for like 30 minutes and just cried in the middle of the party. So I was like, this sucks. I just can not be around them. Whenever I'm around them, I feel terrible about myself. And I can't keep doing this back and forth thing..
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"Okay. So this is me. And I'm transgender. I started texting some friends like I didn't do a lot of face to face, which I do recommend. That's what people because it gives you time to think about what you're going to say. It gives the person time to think of their response versus having to deal with. They're like a media reaction if you're face to face. The total amount of people over texting or like Facebook Messenger. Before I came out publicly, I wanted to tell the people that were important to me so they weren't like surprised. And just kind of get a feel for how my family was going to take it, like my extended family. And I knew going into it that my parents weren't going to be okay with it. So they were like the dead last people that I told. And the other person I was afraid to tell was my sister. Because we had been very close. Not so much as young kids, but once we got to like middle school and high school, and I was worried that she would feel like our sister bond was going to go away. And that's like one of the only ways I still misgender myself today is to always introducing myself as her sister. And then I'm like, whoops, I mean, she's my sister. It's just like my brain can not get sisters out of it because we were sisters for so long. So it feels weird to be like, I'm her brother. The lord brother's not familiar to me. Next on the list, Liam's grandparents. My dad's parents, we grew up living with them from the time I was four until the time moved out. So for pretty much my entire life. And I saw them every day of my life. So I wanted to explain it really, really well, so they could understand his grandparents responds came to him in the form of, you guessed it, another letter. An email. This time it read in part. We love you. We're not really surprised at your letter, just relieved you're ready to talk about your feelings. You and your sister are closest grandchildren, and we've always felt blessed to be such a close part of your lives. We'd love to talk more with you, so let's set a private time when you're home. Nothing you say or do will stop us from loving you and admiring you for the person you've become. My grandfather was like, I need to know more about trans stuff. She was not into computers. He retired because his work made him use computer. So he was like, I want to go to the library. I'm going to find some books about being trans. And he was mad because there was like two books. And they were both written by trans women, and he was like, there needs to be more information. Like, I'm coming here to learn about something. Why is there not more books here? He would like send me newspaper clippings anytime there is something translated in the newspaper. He just wanted to know more. And understand more. Right before he died, he just teaching me how to do a proper handshake. Just one night randomly. He's like, come here, let me see your hand. He's like, okay, this is how you do a good handshake. Giving me this man lesson. And my grandmother is like, been with me to like every talk I've ever given and was always with me at the state House when I was promoting a discrimination bill that passed in New Hampshire like super involved has always been 100% on my side. And I talked to my grandmother about it now and she was telling me that she used to want to ask me and be like, what is wrong in my grandfather was always like just wait. She'll come to us when she's ready kind of thing. Everyone that Liam has shared the news with so far has been supportive. And now it's time to tell his parents so I did it over Skype because obviously face to face was going to be too much. This was a face to face as I can handle. And I really liked it because my sister was like getting to tell them before spring break and we're all at home. I started crying like immediately as soon as they got on the call because I just knew like they've been so against my life up to this point. Like this is extremely below their minds. I don't know what I said probably said something like ever since I cut my hair like feelings that I've always had came back like I always felt like a boy I just didn't know what it was. And the first thing that my mom said was you'll never be a real man. And I can still see her expression. She's like that the wrinkled forehead she's leaning forward like one hand on her cannon and my dad is sitting back in his chair like arms cross just like looking and I can't remember much else that they said after that. I don't think it.
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"My classes and I was just like, those feelings did not go away. They were like stronger and stronger and stronger. I was very fixated on the male body, but not in a sexual way, but in like an aesthetic way. It was like, what is it like to have one? What does it look like? It's just like a curiosity. And I couldn't get it out of my mind. But I felt like, am I not a lesbian anymore? Like I was very confused why I was thinking about it all the time. Those feelings didn't go away. This is a lot for one person to process and Liam is processing all of it alone. He's trying to make sense of who he is at a time when he still has to go home for holidays and special events and be around his family. Family who had tried to pray his gay away, who fasted to try to save his soul. I can remember it was like right before Thanksgiving, we had like an early Thanksgiving with my childhood friend who came home from the military. The same one who had grown up with. And I just was feeling so mentally distraught that I was like, there's no one I can talk to. Nobody that I know that I can even try to explain how I'm feeling and I had a mental breakdown and I was supposed to stay the whole weekend and I ended up leaving after like we ate lunch and I was like I can't be here. I drove all the way back to my school just like crying the whole time just being like, what is wrong with me? I don't know what is wrong with me. I have no one to talk to. What is the point? That was like the last time I was very actively suicidal. I was like, I can't see a future as a woman. Like, I don't know what I'm doing when school is over. I don't know what's wrong with me. So distraught. Liam can't see a future in a world where he has to live as a woman. He struggles with a near constant sense of discomfort and dysphoria. He's self medicating with alcohol to soothe the pain, and it helps a little bit sort of for a little while. I had realized that like, oh, being drunk, I don't feel any of this discomfort and chaos that I feel within me all the time. Then I don't feel numb either. I just feel like I can't remember anything. At first, only like at parties and stuff, I would get really, really drunk, and I was like, I'm not going to say I have a problem till I'm drinking by myself. And I started drinking by myself. But yeah, it might senior year, I was like drinking all the time. There's like this senior dance that happens in the fall. And I don't even remember going or getting in or taking pictures. Because I was black out by 7 p.m.. Numbing the chaos doesn't make it go away. Liam needs something to fix the discomfort, not just to mask it. January 2016, I was like, I want to shave my head. Something I had thought about for a long time. And I had a bunch of female friends at the time that had shaved heads. So I was like, maybe I could just be like a cool shaved head lesbian, you know? That was really what I was thinking. I was like, still trying to not think about the whole gender thing. But then I shaved my head and I can remember like halfway through everyone. I had like 5 or 6 friends that were there and they were like, wait, are you sure you don't want? Just like a pixie cut and I was like, get rid of it. Get it all off. I'm ready. This is happening in the dorm lobby of my friend's dorm. So after my friend is Don shaving my head and lobby, I just go around into the bathroom. And it was like a lightning bulb. I can't even put words to it. It makes me emotional still to remember that just like, oh, there you are. Feeling that I had of like, oh, this is what I've been searching for. This is what other people experience when they look at themselves. I was so excited to have no hair that I had bought a bunch of hats again because for so long I had my hair was wicked long and the only way to wear it in a bun is on the top of my head and I couldn't wear a hat and I missed wearing hats like I had when I was a child so I bought a bunch of hats. I was so excited to be able to start wearing hats again. And I went back to my room to take a shower because I was like covered in little hairs and I took a bunch of selfies wearing this hat and I was like I felt so good. Like my confidence was like the highest it had been at that point because I was like wow I feel like me just even in these pictures like just as simple as the haircut. Like all the things that I had experienced in my life, all the little moments finally made sense. It was like ding your trans and it was like the first time I actually like saw me in the mirror instead of just like a person in the mirror. Okay, this is what this is like I can't ignore it anymore. I have to do something about it. Which was scary because then it was like, okay, I'm trans and I was like, okay, I'm trans, oh shit, like what now what? Now I have to tell people. We'll be right back..
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"Stand up on the toilet. So I was dating this girl and her parents were Catholic and she danced with my sister at her dance school and they somehow found a note that I had written to her and gave it to my parents who then brought it to me, so they sent me down and they're like, oh, so you're gay. And I was like, no, I'm not, and then they just pull out this love letter. This other girl, and I'm like, oh, and I can't remember anything after that. I know they read to me from the Bible. I was crying. That's really all I can remember from that moment. And she was 15, I was 18. And in the Hampshire for same sex couples, the age of consent is 18 and 18. Not that we did anything beyond kissing. But they were threatening to have me arrested and put on this sex offender list because I was like dating their daughter. Oh my God, her parents did? Yeah, and mine, we all sat down together and my mom would print out the list of things I could never do again if I was put on the sex offender list. And at that point, I wanted to become a teacher or like a soccer coach. And she's like, I can't do any of those things. And I was like, what? We just kissed like one. Yeah. And then this is how my family communicates is like through letter writing. We don't do face to face confrontation. So then I started getting letters from them. I'm a senior in high school. I'm still living in their house and they're just like leaving these letters on my bed to come home to like, oh, you're going to have a lifetime of shame and misery and separation from God. One of the letters that Liam's mom wrote to him at the time said this. I feel strongly that God is leading me to do this to bring the secrets into the light to expose it to those who love you and desire only God's best for you and will actively pray for you. I will not hide this because hiding it will allow it to fester and overtake you. They wrote a whole letter to all of our friends and family being like, we need help praying for her life our families under attack and all these kind of things and saying how like for a while that someone had had a vision that there was like something lurking in our house waiting to devour my mom and that oh my sexuality was that thing that had been there waiting and I was like, this whole thing, they're like fasting to try and save me from it and I was like what the fuck? We want to make a note here that throughout these letters and at certain points in this episode, Liam's parents and therefore the people reading these letters refer to Liam by his birth name. This is something that we discussed with Liam directly and he gave us explicit permission to refer to both his birth name and the sex he was assigned at birth. The letter from Liam's mom also says things like, it is also our hope that you will consider expressing your feelings about homosexuality and God's views towards that lifestyle in a loving but direct letter to Kayla. If she is confronted by those who love her most, she won't be able to deny the truth or rationalize her choices as acceptable. Kayla is under extreme attack from the enemy of her soul, and we are asking you to join us in committed warfare prayer for her deliverance from same sex attraction. The.
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"My junior year, I had a friend a year older than me. Neither of us could sleep well, so I would like sneak out. She picked me up and we just drive around listening to music. And one night we're parked, just like at the school and then she tells me that she's gay. And I was like, oh, that's cool. And then like a few weeks later, we're at our House watching, I think Criminal Minds. We would stay up till three in the morning, watching Criminal Minds, and then scare the crap out of ourselves, having to drive me home with 3 a.m.. It was like, I would like run down the driveway. I'm going to get murdered. But she just leaned in and kissed me. And it was like the best thing ever. I was like, wow, 'cause I'd had a boyfriend's prior to that. And it like kissing was just kind of like bland and not exciting. And I was like, why do people like kissing? This is weird. But that was like, wow. But then I like freaked out, not in the moment, but like a day later, I was like, oh my God, I'm so disgusting. Like I can't believe I did that. How could I be such a sinner just because of the things that I had just heard throughout my life that I couldn't even give you an example. It was just all the little things that were said from the time I was in church to that moment. And I didn't talk to her for like three months because I was so upset at myself. What could have been a really beautiful experience of young love was instead tainted by shame. But Liam now knows at least that he likes girls. So his senior year, he starts dating one. I honestly can't remember how it first started, but she was experimenting I was experimenting. I don't even remember how the first moment happened, but I do remember that we would like meet up in the girls bathroom and just like make out before school. Because in the basement bathroom was like not so much traffic, so we would do that no one would really come in, but then if somebody come in, she'd just.
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"Ten, we didn't do a Halloween anymore for whatever reason. Is this a family rule? Yeah, it was. I don't know why. Even just like when I was playing with my friends at that age, it was like, I was always the dad or the brother or the dog. If it meant that I got to be like a male name, then it like made me feel better. I didn't know why, obviously, at the time, all kids do play the different roles, but for me, it was like I was always one of those roles I was never the mom or the sister, you know? They just knew that I felt better when I was being called a male name. Those traditionally male costumes, male names, and male roles make Liam feel good. They feel normal. But these aren't feelings that little Liam can share with his family. So my parents are like evangelical Christians. So extremely conservative, extremely strict. Which is just weird because honestly, my dad grew up in which is pretty open minded and my mom grew up episcopalian, which is also very open minded. But then they went off to college and joined some group that was like very extremist. And so, I mean, my dad was a pastor in the church, so we were a church every Sunday, and then every Wednesday was like a small group meeting where you would talk about the sermon that had just happened on Sunday. In more in depth with four or 5 other people. So it was every three days we're doing something church related and once I was in like high school and college, it was like, if you want to live in this house, you have to go to church every Sunday. Like, I don't remember any specific conversations being like, you can't be gay. And nobody even was talking about trans. At that time. My mom has a gay sister and when her sister came out to her, she told her to go to a pray away the gay place. So it's like my aunt, her partner would come along and I knew that she had a partner. But no one ever told me, that is her wife. Obviously it wasn't legal at the time, but I didn't know. I just knew that it was like my aunt's friend who came along all the time. So it wasn't like a discussion that we ever had. As he gets older, Liam starts to comfort himself by doing little things, making small changes to his appearance to help him feel more like a boy and less like the girl everyone seems to think he is. I wore my hair in like a small bun on the back of my head, so if I looked in the mirror, it looked like I had short hair, which again was like a comforting reflection. Which I didn't know why it was so comforting, but it was just like a way to self correct the discomfort I had with myself. Over time, the small changes start to become a big problem at home. A problem that Liam's parents feel like they need to confront head on. Starting high school, I had like a really short haircut I had cut off all my hair into like a little Annie Afro. And that summer was always running backwards hats and we were at a birthday party and a bunch of people that we didn't know that were friends of the family were there and they thought that I was their son and my parents had a total flip out about that. I was like we can't have this happen anymore like you need to grow your hair out like we can't have people thinking you're our son and I remember feeling like so good when I would dress like that. So they made up these rules ready to get rid of all my clothes. I could keep my two favorite shirts and I had to get all like feminine clothes. I mean, I had this contract that I had to sign that was called the life challenge covenant. The.
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"I'm Nora mcnerney, and this is terrible thanks for asking. If you're a longtime listener of this show, you know by now that we often start our episodes by talking to our guests about their childhood. I am not a psychology expert, but I have been to a lot of therapy, so I know that the things we go through as kids, shape who we become as adults. But for Liam and maybe for some of you too, there's just not much to talk about, because Liam doesn't remember a whole lot about his childhood. Not in any major detail anyway. I feel like other people can be like, oh, I remember doing such thing as a kid and I'm like, I remember a photograph of me as a kid. Like I don't have like memories where I'm in a child body. But it's like kind of just like a black hole of nothing when I try and think back on it. And I'm sure that has to do with trauma. The details surrounding specific moments can be hard for all of us to recall. It sometimes easier to remember the general feeling of a time in your life. And for Liam, that feeling was disconnection. Like something just wasn't right. I would say that first time I really realized that was like around probably age four or 5. When I started going to school because it was like back then they'd make you line up like boys in one line girls in the other line and I was always just like lining up in the boys line and then they'd be like, no, you go in this line and it was like what? Like I never really thought of myself as a girl. And growing up, I had one childhood friend who was a boy a year younger than me. And as we got older, we stopped having sleepovers and we stopped taking baths together and we stopped doing all the things we had been doing when we were like young kids and I was like, why? I thought we were the same. And I can remember being like in the backyard of my parents in the little shed where they stored the lawn mower and was like, okay, you show me yours and I'll show you mine. And it was like, oh, when do I get one of those? Like it was a moment where I was like, oh, we look different. Like why is that? Because for me, I just felt like we were the same. The one of those that Liam is waiting to get is a penis. He's surprised that he doesn't have one because he feels like he's the same as all of his friends. Liam is being raised as a girl. He was assigned female at birth the way all of us are assigned a sex at birth, according to physical attributes. But for young Liam, that just didn't make sense. When you're 5 years old, you don't always have the vocabulary or the emotional capacity to explain why something doesn't feel right. But in certain moments, you're allowed to choose what does. Like during Halloween. I was a blue M and M and then I was a Tiger, a bunny rabbit, a prince in second grade, Peter Pan, and then an army man. And then after we turned.
"liam" Discussed on Goodbye to Alcohol
"Maybe it should be. He decided to move to a different country. You could mess Geographical reset leeann muchly moves to germany. Where he reinvented himself Liam he created men's highly new friends circle. He rejected anyone who did not accept his sobriety as they just didn't fit in with his new life. This approach reminds me of the pregnancy principle. Which laura mcewen talks about in her book. We out the luckiest. She says trio sobriety as pregnancy. Something to be checked. It has to be protected above anything else. Anyone or anything that doesn't fit in with your sobriety has to go. In spite of his strong resolve it was obviously not an easy of an human since the sobriety liam found himself desperate to drink again just to help a bit of fun. Lucy power through this difficult patch. Install she'd writing. The writing really helped he was writing about sobriety and it gave him some accountability. It was researching his articles in educating himself about home that 'alcohol dolls which helped him to resisted. Liam is such a talented writer. And i discovered him by his articles on medium. It's stupid buster is next month. Some hoping he will rise a good advice. All approximation. If you haven't discovered our goodbye while call letters than please go to try super dot com and hates inspiration. We talked about liam's future. He has many happy and healthy years ahead of him which certainly wouldn't have been the case. Had he kept drinking. He even gave us a few tips. He find a community of people of the same pulse. People who will understand you. If you broadcast you'll sobriety totally your family and friends to early than you may find that. Some of them are just not supportive. How feel story ready if you sound confident when you say you're not drinking than people will be less likely to persist number three. Accept the fact that you will never be able to drink. Make peace with it and make your surprise here priority for awhile number fool. Don't waste until you hit. Rock bottom would be the first to admit that he did help a role bottom guy so have many people in our community. But you don't have to if you're worried about your drinking if it's on your mind than do something about it because one thing you can show off. It's going to get worse over the years and finally. I'm suggested that we spent more time alone key journal. Try yoga and meditation Activities that will bring you choi so thank you liam thank you for sharing story. Unforgiving us those tips here in south africa. We've just moved into spring every year. Trump sober around sopa spring challenge which consists of sixty six alcohol free days with online audio and community support..
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"Give up. Its older. nothing approach yet. Olo nothing kind of people. I think most of the people that drink exactly ends as well. You don't have to reach bottom or hit rollbacks. I'm sorry to quit drinking. And that's another association that's being almost into our brains from society is ill. You're on alcoholic. You hit robots in your life is falling to his. That's why you don't drink. That's probably not probably. That's maybe why a lot of people don't want to admit they're not holik because again i can even remember and i would get a few comments from site colleagues. Will things like that about about me being an alcoholic or functioning alcoholic though the realization. Be there in my mind. But i wouldn't want to admit it to other people because then that would mean i'll have to moderate my drinking and i wanted to carry them drinking freely. It was always my emission. 'cause you a hundred issue for long long time and i was still going to control this drinking thing because if i really over the top i'll have to give up drinking. Can you know you look back and think what was i think. Yeah yeah it's it's such a relief being on the other side is it's like freedom so how are you keeping it all together liam however you stay on track. Tell us some tips people can use. Some trips will good question. Well i mean upper your life and move to a new country the your exactly but no. I'm it's dedicated to the decision to quit. I acknowledge that you have a problem. You don't have to say you're alcoholic but you just need moderate drinking and then dedicated to that decision on side. That's the first step then prepared. You'll you'll cool action such Triggering situations for example. I used to drink a law in awkward sexual situations at Social lubrication and then end up blackout drunk saying something of noxious or doing something stupid so find out those triggering situations and avoid them for the early stages of sobriety definitely and then if you do find yourself in sets situation than.
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"As that stage and evolves it turns into dependent use. Which is when you feel the needs to take drugs. Decipher john pu. I felt the need to carry on drinking. Because i didn't enjoy my life and wanted to to find some way to escape and then eventually that tending to addiction. So that's when the chemical who build up of the brain changes and then basically you needs which have the substance that is to survive because the body feels like it needs the end. Luckily i didn't get to that stage which i'm very thankful and also very shocked because of the span of time it was from thirteen to thirty two. The drunks almost two decades thankfully my brain is together. Didn't break down into into addiction. But i mean it broke down. And i wanted to commit suicide. We'll come back to that later. Yeah well what kind of age were you. When you started thinking to make a change. I would say a roundabout wendy full twenty five. That was when i really noticed. The habits evolving would be the drinking every week tends drinking for a birthday coming home after stressful day of work in drinking and just any excuse to drink it was you need to have some. Yeah yeah i'm what he realized that. Liam d did you try to cut down. Did you try to go through weekends without drinking. Did you have any periods of sobriety honestly. I couldn't tell you how many times try it's. It's ridiculous. And when i really started acknowledging i had a problem was when the relapses would be saved from like a week to a month of purely being drunk on our mean from waking up and drinking to string of the night and then i realized how ridiculous that was so then i try and moderate bowl cutback completely and then have one or two boob the panicles in my brain Okay now we one more alcohol and yeah yeah. I had great analogy the other day about certain those of us that call moderate. Basically if if we've got this dependence on alcohol and we we try to moderate We switched back. Even though we can manage it may be for a week for two weeks will eventually switch bats while previous patterns. Because we've got that drinking neuro. Pathway the so powerful it's almost as powerful as mother tongue while you live in germany's when you're chasing. Co german friends. You know you can switch.
"liam" Discussed on Goodbye to Alcohol
"I could never get a draft but after during the trump with the inspiration and the continuous support. Our any wish. I'd joined sooner. Being with trump cyber made me see that an have a problem but rather an opportunity to create a laugh. I didn't want to escape from it. Took me a whole year and eighty four day ones. But i never gave up in. The trump never gave up on me. I'm happy to say close to four months sober and eleven months ober laugh and continue to grow with much. Rob thank you job sober for saving me from the toxic relationship. I had with alcohol. I don't ever see myself going back so if you want to join all community sanders sober spring. Just go to try sopa dot com and check this out. This week is quite a bit younger than many of my guess. He began drinking at the age of thirteen and after a couple of hectic decades finds himself in recovery in his early thirties. Neom is a brit living in germany and describes himself as an all taste of thinker. A musician underwriter. I came across simone medium. As he's written some amazing articles for that platform. I shall hear from his story. His creativity and particularly his writing is playing a major role in his recovering. Saw began by asking them to introduce himself named liam. I was born and raised in the uk in southern england. My upbringing was bright. Skateboarded soft was outboard outside a lot. very creative read aloft. Generally enjoyed life as child's was very very reckless. My my mom used to join can say. I had a membership to the hospital. Because we'd been there once or twice a month and i break a bone. Oil fractured my skull yet. Just being being a boy us by skating. Skateboarding came into it because it was still kind of reckless activity but a tiny bit more structured not just climbing the cliffs so climbing up trees and that gross my my heart for wile but thinking back that may have been. Some of the problems started. Because i go ahead and with a group of people who skateboards And they drunk and smoked cannabis cigarettes. Because i want to be part of the group unaccepted. It's a went along with that. And i have a very vivid memory of my first time drinking in in my mind. Gang drunk was drinking to blackout. Because i'd never been broke before. That's how i perceived the safety today So i drank hopefully vodka. Which i mean feel fast. Time is very dangerous..
"liam" Discussed on Alchemy This
"It's bad might happen. I think my parents simultaneously have gotten dementia or something simultaneously luck. It's thursday night right. There's an olive garden ryan. Is you get a call time. I love you. I we say like you know like unlimited or whatever. Yeah i've heard of us and they've just kind of gone off the deep end we'll give be one reason the sense that they said they were at me emotional because it's like so fucking crazy there at the guard. It'd be different. They said like we're at like the olive restaurant or like the mediterranean diner but that garden. Place ya yeah. They sell your. They said they were at liam. Neeson's welcome to liam neeson's banana ramu banana no liam neeson's banana cavanna. I'm sorry i'm kidding. Well neeson's banana bandette. I'm talking to bail. Okay okay. it's okay. I'm just training but honey you're doing great that okay. Who oh goodness. If if this was olive garden we'd already be at the salad bar experience. We said we wanted to experience. New things Does everything on the menu. Have a banana compound. I knew they were losing it. Because my dad olive garden has a salad bar. You know and i was like certain slip already. You don't have been have that. There never did. My name is stacey. And i've got a set of skills to serve you up very well nine. Oh that was good doing it. Here at liam. Neeson's banana cabana now. Is it all like. Is it all taken references. Or are you also. Is there like schindler's list of going on to. There's some of that we're all. We got a taste of all of his movies as well as all of these delicious banana trees menus here for you and i'll be back sure is calling. Hey dad we liam's there with you saying liam's they're not lamb knees here. I'll put it on speaker dead. You there. He says he has a very particular set of skills. Mom are you okay. i'm fine honey. Were liam neeson's banana cabana there. Now liam neeson's right here in honey are you okay. Are you guys. ok sleep. fred plantains. Appetizer hold on. I just have to these plantations. Well okay then put on liam neeson. I'm so sorry. This is not. Mr nikkei putting his. Hello hello. I don't know who you are bertha. My parents okay. And you are count dot leeann. He's got a long. I've got a long list of people and you might be on it. And i hope that you're not say something. Say something just is a good to save them all try. Some of them will already eat dead but some of them are going to soak in my parents. Mr newsom what so yes. I'm here to actually have them have a wonderful time at my banana cabana. Very good times and delicious food great. It's great good. Okay thank you so much. Only gosh thank you thank you i love you do the fuck i guess okay. That's the good news but what was the salad bar thing then. Yeah that's a good point. I don't know it all sounds so good. Can you read the specials. One more time i can but i just say like i can't do anymore phonecalls honestly just sweat so much. I had to switch my uniform and we don't have that many in my size. So tiny very tiny. Your you need to eat something. Do you not eat the banana bread. Oh is she doesn't eat the banana bread. I love the banana two baskets already and i'm getting full. Don't feel as we can. We take some to go if we if we can we. Can we get the banana bread. And in one of those. I could have saved one more bags half absence there for you. And i'll read you the specialist just more time creeds. We've got a very dangerous banana oster and also and also kurt. Kurt familar hi. It's come to our attention. i don't know okay. It's come to our attention. That i might not be okay. Okay and you might be the only individual who has the skills to save me. I have a certain set. All right and I i'm here to ask for help. Who sent you a friend of ours. Mutual front you might know tim unsuccessfully. You met with them a couple of days ago. He's talking about limited and he said he would give you a certain word said to me and then i would know your spaghetti. That's that was. The big surprises toured hyphen. I assume that anyway. How can i help. I need them. Just need you to rob roy me okay and and today yeah okay okay all right and use your free me all you to free me. A duffle philo socks kilts. Macy's long swords you name great. I just need you to paint advance. And of course ready to go six. Seventy six eighty six ninety two stops for it. You're saying olive garden never had a salad bar now. Honey olive garden's never had a salad bar. Maybe it's a mandela affect thing. Going on just i remember being at a salad bar at an olive garden honey. I'm i'm getting a little worried about you. Know i had. I had a long talk with our son yesterday. And which one off the the the taller one of the two. Yup i can sam. Yeah well now. This is all i can think about. How how's everything going for. Y'all oh it's great. It's great please. No more no more banana bread. I realized that i finished. i've finished. I topped out that last basket. But i don't need any of course we just we just want to make sure that just in case you want it detroit. Here luminescence embiid banana. I actually i have to apologize to you guys. I just remembered that liam niessen is in love actually in that. I should have been doing an accent this whole time and i have to apologize. We also want to say we are so we will comp the meal. We will call the entire meal because stacey it's not necessary it's your first day. She's so good. I mean if my parents are in such a good place maybe go there and celebrate. I mean i wanna see liam niessen meet liam neeson. Yes yes yes let's go. Hey you're not just my like my stone or pow we're like we could do like outdoor stuff. You know uber. How should we get there. Yeah i'll i'll call the neighbor okay. Cool because they got escape. No i know but that'd be low over. How can i help you. Hi their schedule. 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"liam" Discussed on Alchemy This
"Or more back to another seven politics. You know that your ears are not what you talk now. You understand me. But i digress. Let's peter hocken know order. Let's go to jacqui jonzon student loan better than all the rest and still humble. Toss what you need to get done before. Labor day well weirdly. We're less than a month from labor day. Yeah which is so crazy My husband and i are shooting a short film. Keep talking in a two weekends so we have to get that done before labor day. Those are big plans retiree writing it. That's good we just keep tweaking it because we wanted to speak more heaven. You know sure you don't want me acting for sure trying to be right it so that you're like simultaneously atta tennis court and tossing pizza and fishing and can do all of that. Yep the know how to use a phone booth. please say hello to chris. Anthony varotto too pretty to be funny. If you're even more handsome sixty year old self could come back and in time and say anything to your current self. What would it be. You don't need to be so afraid you don't agree so for what are you so fucking free. No let's go do it. Just short film can short thank you. That's beautiful. I'm no shoot now okay. Hey it's mark ganglia already aloe django johnny. Jim have you fired. A weapon Yeah fire just today no I fired when i was in high. School my drama teacher taught me how to make potato cannon which is amazing you get a big length of pvc pipe and you attach a slightly larger End of its looks like a medicine dropper. Then you spray hairspray into it kick the barbecue. Ignition lighter and the potato that you've loaded in the other end will shootout at a velocity fast enough. We found out to raise a barn that needed to be raised. So we We took down the walls of a building with a potato gun. It was awesome to other than just teaching all of our listeners. How to do that may ask. Follow up making sure. What was your drama instructor doing teaching students to build weapons. Well my drama instructor. This is in tennessee and we needed the would To make a set for the delightful play the diviners can movie plush to get the would He was like. We're gonna tear down this old barn but if we're gonna do it we might as well have fun doing it. So he taught us all how to use a potato. Cannon wins ways right and last but only burnt toast smells for you. If you think. I'm lease it's joey grayer fart stats brat defined your core for us I'll tell you gore one two three four five six seven eight nine ten eleven twelve. All right that's somebody absolutely gotten. I'm not even talking about the exp. You know what i'm saying. Get in and when wash core if we could of course suggestions gathered from your listener emails. Yes if you was. A listener would like to participate by email again suggesting seen suggestion. I personally will be grateful. Just write to us at alchemy. This email at gene now dot com. Or if you'd like to support the show by becoming a patriot. Member head on over. Get all them. Special perks at patriot. Dot com slash alchemy that email for listeners. Again as automated dot seed. One comes from patron. Mike del rosso who wrote. Hey james found my review and read it aloud. I am the buttermilk jones. You guys are great. Then he added. Hey kevin are these donuts for everyone. Then he added good evening. This may get a bit lengthy. So feel free to edit as you see it as you see fit. A while ago i fell into a youtube wormhole of comedy clubs and came across a bid of you doing impersonations but only using one word to capture their essence. Liam nisam the one word bananas so there. It is my scene suggestion. Liam neeson's banana cabana. Every banana i see is a banana. Also are these donuts for anyone We're still waiting on mr nielson Can you just keep an eye out at the front stew. The niessen i cannot get we're gonna need to do liam neeson's okay because this is the grand opening of liam neeson's banana cabana. Okay so everyone needs to get the best liam knee. We can be okay. For when mr nissan comes in he's expecting all of us to be liam nathan okay. He's doing seven minutes then then then. Let's let's be teach everyone to do him in that time. Bow rough no. You're supposed to do this already. We've those in the handbook if you don't already have a liam nathan. What are you even doing here. Yours banana great. Those great it takes thank you. That was really really good. Needs to be an accent coming from it so deep it's was from the heart. 'cause i love him so much i actually. I'm not qualified for this job at all Moguls best friend's son found out how much love nissan. And he looked me up so wouldn't even well meaning that i've i've service. Experience no is seven babies. What mike god okay. All right well then just just just sure like all girls. Yeah all girls aqui. Okay just just just restock brit just restart brat the banana bread. Restock the banana bread. Okay when people out here in the sun. They're going to want their banana. But just bring it out. Okay golic yeah i mean. I don't worry. I've got this worry. Dude he doesn't know how to do liam neeson's you're not a server. I think of ralph deep like dug a deep into his heart. Eakin find one may try our little. Oh that was really really bad and if you didn't friendly niece and he's still you're doing the same. Excuse me. is this no longer in olive garden. No it's not no it's this is a liam neeson's banana kwabena What hell is that Well is there unlimited breadsticks. There's unlimited banana bread but only for the people that commanded by the pool. Oh how do you. let's stay. Let's stay could. We always eat olive garden. I was trying to take my wife out for our anniversary dinner. This would be a perfect place one on sunday so romantic as liam. 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Robert Has 3 Hits, 2 RBIs To Lead White Sox Past A’s 3–2
"Louis Robert had three hits and two RBIs as the white Sox completed a three game sweep defeating the age three to two lance Lynn was the focal point in this game even though he didn't get a decision Lynn labored through four innings and never had a chance to come out for the fifth because he was thrown out of the contest by the home plate umpire usually over so let's make love my hat and then was going down the dugout trying to see the trainers some deal with something he doesn't mean any similar bills so it's all set up an anti trust now technically he was tossed for throwing his equipment with Lynn Kinley saying you also heard the umpires feelings Liam Hendricks finished up against his old team recording save number twenty eight with Garrett crochet getting the victory David Shuster Chicago
Jiménez, Hendriks Lead White Sox Past A's 5-2
"Louis Robert had three hits including a home run as the white Sox rallied for a five two victory over the eighties trailing to nothing the socks scored solo runs in the third and fourth innings tied the contest then added solo tallies in the fifth sixth and eighth frames Dallas Crichel lasted long enough to get the victory improving his record to eight and six cockle enjoys beating the aids that's a great line up so I look forward to two days like this where you get to to face a quality line open and now they were with us last year so that's nice Craig Kimbrel and Liam Hendriks each struck out the side in their one innings of work Kimball reaching one thousand strikeouts for his career and Hendrix recording save number twenty seven on the season David Shuster Chicago
Goodwin Homer in 9th Gives White Sox 2-1 Win Over Indians
"The white Sox earned a two one win over the Indians on Brian Goodwin's walk off Homer with one out in the ninth the thing is really the most important part of this whole situation in order to come out on top of the series and and get a win we were we were excited we we Adam you know big time I gotta give him props for coming out and and plan is tough Liam Hendricks allowed one hit in the ninth to complete a scoreless sixth an extent by the Chicago Bull pent beanies didn't score after mile straws home run leading off the third Chicago tied it when Jose Brea was hit by a cal Quantrill pitch with the bases loaded in the fifth watch gave up one unearned run on three hits and four walks over six innings the outcome restores the white Sox nine game lead in the AL central on the ferry
White Sox Top Brewers 3-1 Behind Lynn, Avoid Sweep
"Lance Lynn worked six strong innings and had a key hit is the white Sox defeated the brewers three one to avoid a three game sweep good night I got lucky got it drove in two runs and we want so that's all it's about Lynn struck out six and allowed one run and six hits blanking the walking until Jackie Bradley junior RBI double in the fifth he also collected his first hit since two thousand seventeen a two run single in Chicago's three run second and what kind of pitch was Lynn looking for anything that I will find my back and go fair lends it came off loser Brandon Woodruff who is reach for five hits while striking out nine over seven innings Lynn is ten and three well water if it's seven and five Liam Hendriks struck at three in the ninth first twenty four to save I'm Dave Ferrie
King George Preview: Racing Tips
"Is three thirty five askar on saturday. It's the king george. The six and queen elizabeth stakes over a mile and a half only six runners. If i told you that the forty two one outside and one group one last time you will realize it is a good rice. And here's the betting. The brilliant love heads the betting at thirteen to unreasoning out. Best prices as per racing post dot com and a quick plug. If you click on the best book price button it immediately brings up the latest odds and each way terms from seven of the leading. Mike is a great way to get the best value. Nice and easily. Love is thirteen right. The darby -oday our is five to two lone eagle six to one eight to one wonderful tonight. Nine mishrif and forty. Two one broom silent water. Rice is a rice to watch an enjoy or is it a race to get stuck into from betting spectacle. Start with keith melrose. Yeah think he's more of a risk to enjoy Likud this reysen. You've alluded to let elba oven there. That broom as forty to one. He wanted to grown predeceased clue. Last night i was less than three weeks will not a level. We're looking at here and can you. Can you realistically back horses. Short love than an i. i'd really. I'm a big final of i. Think if you ever beats new foe. She'll be are unbear- handsomely. I think she is a really really good horse. And i assume brooms a pricey as he's sort of presumed on pacemaker. Jd potentially because i think he made all it saw include so we've got the tactical element the only thing. I'm certain industries that every time i look opinion changes slightly. The only one that stays the same. I think a diaz to short. I don't think he was white. The best source on the day darby by suspect key lane would be fifty matt. Husky lost two front shoes that day. Adam kirby saved every autograph on nubian individuals Italian i don't think anything really got the chance to show why it could do. Even though he doesn't he's five to two legal sex to one if they were both see for one it'd be taken roughly the same amount of the market and i think it'd be closer to fee are not regard the deserves to be shorter and on him by just i think five to two is too short and our resolve this qualley will go as far as liam adult. I might just ball it and by club instead because massive fun but it's a really competitive and tough race as going to be mostly by watching for me.