17 Burst results for "Laura Vander Cam"

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The Accidental Creative

The Accidental Creative

03:15 min | Last week

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The Accidental Creative

"No flying cars like you're not allowed to sleep four hours a night. This has to be you. Your best self, but your actual self. So And then you say well. What would I want my work schedule to look like? What would I want? My personal scheduled to look like if I was sleeping the a good amount. When would that be? You know what would mind warning routine be? When would I exercise? What sort of family activities would I be doing? What is a good template for a weekend? And by asking these questions in having a good sense of where you'd like your time to go well, that offers you know a roadmap for how you can plan in a given week as you're. You're sitting there, saying Oh, I've got some open time this weekend. Like what would I like to do with it wo- The here's my template for an ideal weekend. I Bet I could make some of those things happen in your workweek to you know. If you've found like well, it would be really good for me to spend Monday morning focused on this big project like I the kind of work I really love to do sort of things I would tell people at parties I do with my job and yet I. Never seem to spend time doing. Great will now as you're planning your week, you can push back on that sort of inconsequential status meaning that somebody wants to set for ten am Monday morning and say. What could we do that nude? So I could have Monday morning open for for this other stuff that I wanna do, and and so it just gives you a road map for creating life. That looks more like that ideal. Fantastic and that has been a done that exercise in. It's a wonderful. If nothing else used to template to compare how you're spending your time against what would be ideal you know and it's something to aspire towards even if you can't. I don't know about you I very rarely. Every week hit my ideal week. But. Yeah but but I'm moving closer ram moving closer all the time. which is I think the that's the goal I. Want to spend more time doing the things that create more value in less time doing things that just maintain the value of already created. So Yeah I love that. Laura the book is called the New Corner Office, where can people go to find you? If learn, they can come? visit my website, which is Laura Vander. Cam Dot Com I've got information there about my books including the new corner office in my various podcasts that people might WanNa..

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"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The Accidental Creative

The Accidental Creative

04:13 min | Last week

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The Accidental Creative

"Yeah! Yeah, that's fantastic. I think that we. Often reference Paul Graham's maker schedule. Manage your schedule Essay, which I think is a phenomenal essay talks about the benefits of being a manager as you can call speculator. Let's get together and talk about all the work. We might WANNA do the probably all the people who are in the meeting. Thinking I'm still trying to do the work. We talked about last time we had a speculative meeting. You know so I think that is an excellent excellent bit of advice that we need to make sure that we know not. Only you know what we're doing. We're getting together. But why are we even here? Why does this matter? That's phenomenal. One thing that you talk about in the book that I would love to touch. We have the leaders who are listening right now. I know I've received several emails recently from people who are really struggling with. How do I continue to develop my team? How do I continue to create a teen culture when we're all working remotely and yeah, we can this each other on zoom, maybe for an hour a day, or or so, but how do we continue to develop and grow the team in the midst of this issue? have for leaders were wrestling with. With that there is this idea that somehow working from home is is going to be less social than being in the office and I agree that being face to face is great I also think that there's a point of diminishing returns and the upside of all. This is where resetting where that happens. I think long term. This is going to be less of an issue because a lot of companies are. Are GonNA wind up being in the office two to three days a week at home two to three days a week. And that means you don't really need to worry about this. 'cause you focus the in office days on social activities on building that face to face sort of trust in collaboration, and then you know you're working from home two to three days per week, and you really drill down and do your..

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"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The Accidental Creative

The Accidental Creative

04:26 min | Last week

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The Accidental Creative

"So challenge yourself to make it short because you are gonna do everything that's on it, but once you start getting this habit of getting to everything that is on the list. You feel far more certain that you can get to. The things on the list and work becomes more of a sense of accomplishment as opposed to like I feel failure yet again it's five o'clock. I haven't gotten through everything either I work later I. Don't get to it right and that's not a good way to end the day. So I keep us on the focus for my my main task management software, and that has a bazillion tasks in it, but to this to your point, one thing that I've adopted over the last couple of years is I have daily planning sheets, and I only write a couple of tasks on those sheets, and those are the ones I absolutely have to do today, so I might have fifty tasks Omni focus, but like the ones on the sheet or the ones that I have to get done today. If I don't get those done, today is not successful, and so I think that is an illustration of the excellent point. You're making the book which is. That yields momentum when I see them checking things off the list I'm checking all of my off everyday. That yields a sense of momentum like I feel enthused about my. And, if you finish with your tasks, like if everything has gone perfectly finished with your tasks at eleven. AM WE'LL? You can go pick some more stuff like unsure you can come up with other stuff if you feel like it. But by Holding Yourself Limited you can get through the even if things go incredibly wrong like even if some huge crisis happens personally professionally, you can often get through the stuff that's on your list, and that sense of progress in momentum just like power that comes from knowing like even as the world falls apart. I am going to get through this stuff is just you know? It's a much better head space than the idea of being like well failed yet again. Right right exactly all right, so one thing that is I think on everyone's mind right now. It's something I'm dealing with, and who probably you're dealing with all of us listening right now or are dealing with. This is just the. Sometimes joy and sometimes incredible pain pain, virtual meetings I've I've been on some excellent to the point. Wonderful collaborative virtual meetings, and I've been part of some just incredibly painful virtual meetings, and you could tell like people are reading their phone underneath their computer, right? They're reading. They're like they're surfing ESPN. Or you know CNN or something on their phone of the night. Really paying attention, you can just tell you can see so..

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"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The Accidental Creative

The Accidental Creative

04:23 min | Last week

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The Accidental Creative

"Yeah, you did your job. It's okay, that is a lot less apparent when you are working from home, and so we need to figure out a different lists that will what was a good day and I think the best way to figure that out is not say it's five o'clock. It's to say what did I get done. Did I get a challenging but doable amount of forward? Forward motion toward toward Michael's my organization schools. And when you managed that way, you could capture some of the benefits of efficiency You can work how you work best, and you'll get this incredible sense of progress. If you have five things on your to do list that are important and you do all things you can end the day feeling like you climb the mountain, and it feels great, you know whereas there's a little bit less of that sense of satisfaction when the only way you know that the end of the day has arrived is that it is five o'clock. And we need to. We have his opportunity to rethink how we manage both ourselves and others, and so challenge people to set these very clear daily test lists priority list whatever you WANNA call them, but you know what would make us say. This has been a good day, or this has been a good week. You know what what can we say are these tasks that needs to get done you do them you hold yourself accountable for them, and then you celebrate your your sense of victory. Yeah I, love that principle in the reality is we all know that we're not paid for. Our time were paid for the value that we create and yet like you said you were all working together in an office. There is this invisible pressure that will if I leave at four thirty people are GonNA think I'm slacking I'm not doing my work right. The reality is that may have produced five times as much value as the person next to me, but it doesn't matter because there's that sort of invisible..

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"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The Accidental Creative

The Accidental Creative

05:36 min | Last week

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The Accidental Creative

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"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The Accidental Creative

The Accidental Creative

02:03 min | Last week

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The Accidental Creative

"The accidental creative die empty louder than words and hurting tigers ensued the be the motivation code. We'll talk about that soon and here on the show we talk about you. We talk about your creative process. We talk about how to go to work everyday how to solve problems and how to be prolific, brilliant and healthy all at the same time, which is a tall order especially in the. The climate that we find ourselves in right, these are challenging times. These are uncertain times these times when we're learning new ways of working new ways of collaborating new ways of leading, this is really a challenging time for all of us, and I think we need to learn I. Don't think I know we need to learn some new tactics. Some new ways of working that help us to continue to produce the way. They were producing prior to all of what's happened in twenty twenty. But to do it obviously in different ways, because we're working remotely, because many of us are working or most of us probably are working from home, or at least offsite, and we're not physically present with our co workers, so we have to learn a new way of working. Of organizing are days when we have different responsibilities many of us. Maybe if we have a family, our kids are at home and we have to figure out. What are those rhythms look like? All of these things are new conversations and today's guest is going to help us sort through all of them. Her name is Laura Bander Cam. She's been on the show before. She is a productivity experts, productivity expert She's written a bunch of books that in very influential, very helpful to me. Personally her new book is called the New Corner Office in. It really helps us understand the dynamic of working from home, and how we need to be thinking about our lives in a rhythm and all of the. The practices and systems that we set up to help us be effective in this new world of works. We're going to dive into that conversation with Laura in just a minute. Before we do, we'll let you know. Today's episode is brought to you by a brand new.

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"laura vanderkam" Discussed on What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood

What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood

10:58 min | 3 months ago

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood

"We were talking about in the First Section about how we had to set boundaries with our kids in order to get stuff done and how. That's not easy. I WANNA make sure everybody saw. There was an amazing article in New York Times. Parenting by Michael. Lean do cliff called. Turn your demanding child into a productive CO worker. I will say I rolled my eyes so hard on them when I saw that title. Just the title. Well maybe she didn't even write the title right but it's a great essay. So Michael Lean. She said that she found herself being transformed from a productive writer into an event manager for a four year old. Because the kid is sort of always at your niece and playing with me playing with me. It's not working. I don't WanNA watch US anymore. Already saw this neck kind of thing and there's only so much screen time you can do and she decided to revisit some work that she had done with. I think there were in you. It's I mean we're talking people who live up in Alaska and the Arctic in Igloos right like how does a mother of three with three little kids in an igloo. Who has to skin the whatever to make dinner on our wall? Whatever we don't know the NAR wall like how is she getting something done because guess what happened and so she goes back into this research. There's hundreds there's thousands of years of kids being with their parents while their parents did the work and the kids occupied themselves. Sort of at hand next to your knee. But they're playing by themselves and she decided that this was a skill that she was going to teach her for your eld and set about doing it and Mike. Lean claims that now she can work for about an hour with the four year old. And say Mommy's GonNa work on a book for an hour now and sometimes. Her daughter will work on her own book. Which is about frozen to or she will lie on the floor do this. But she understands and is it. Productive is when her daughter was at school and Michael was at the Library of course. Not but it's moving in the right direction. First of all read this article. It is super interesting second of all. I challenge myself and I want you to come along on this challenge dear listener. This is the kind of thing that we often hear. And we think my kid couldn't do that not my kid and you know. Sometimes that's true. We often say when people say the only when they're hungry those picky eaters. I'm like Maybe not my kid but let me tell you maybe my kid now. My picky eater. I had to sit down with and say you know what the things you really like the best. We can't get right now and so you're going to have to eat some different things and like lean into the experience of there is something on the other side of whining and boredom and I challenged myself all the time with this because you know I have kids who really do not thrive at entertaining and if I let them on screens and sometimes I let them on screen for four hours. Because that's what works for us but in the days where I'm trying to limit the screen time. What if I let them be bored? What if they fight in wine for a long time and I keep ignoring it and this article helped me? 'cause I keep thinking what if we were in? I cannot crews direct them. I am busy hunting and skinning things. We're reading the my angles. You know the Little House on the prairie books right now and I just keep thinking of Ma like she's not entertaining those kids. She's doing stuff and yes. Is it more annoying to unload the dishwasher and hand them to the Kennan? Have THEM HELP. And do they complain? They definitely do. But if you don't force yourself and I'm saying this mostly to myself to push through that wall of resistance you will never find out what's on the other side. I just find out. There is a psychological term for this. The thing you have to push through is it called Margaret. His insane isn't because that's what I'm having right now. The Nar wall effect it's called an extinction burst that when you're trying to get your kid to let you work or help out. Whatever we're talking about that you get so much resistance. It isn't worth it. And so you just give and do that one more time that when you change your approach. I'm going to sit down and I'm GonNa work quietly now. This mom has to answer some emails. And you're going to have to all this because you know while the baby is sleeping. This is your time to sit quietly. You will not immediate compliance. You will instead get an increased burst of noncompliance and the example is always like you put the money in the vending machine and the soda comes out right. What happens when the soda doesn't come on the vending machine? Eubank shake it. You like what happened? I put my money. I Want my soda. Your kid is going to react that way in the very near term like no no no. This is how it works. I wanted to read me the book you have to exist through that extinction burst because it is going to be extinct but you have to get through it. That's like a great image for me because that's exactly what it is and then solve the problems that come up in the new reality so if you say oh my four year old got into the pots and pans pulled everything that. I made a huge mess in the hour that I was working. Your reaction isn't should. This was a mistake trying to do this with my four year old. The solution is I need to work somewhere where the four year old has insight you know and come with a four year. Old just keeps bothering me okay. So the solution is I need to completely blank. Face everything for your old does for one hour you know and so you don't try to just say well. I tried it. It didn't work out because this other thing happened. You try to sell for the IGLOO problem. Yeah which is. I can't just play with them all day. I'm an IGLOO. I have to do it and that philosophy is the one thing that has kept me going a little bit through quarantine and I've been in other situations in my life difficult situations and somebody I don't know if a friend told me a long time ago if you force yourself to think of the situation as this is what was supposed to happen to me for a reason then you start to see everything as a new kind of challenge like this was what was supposed to happen to me for a reason. This bad thing that happened and so how am I being asked to react to this situation? How am I being asked to thrive in this situation? How are my kids being asked? This is exactly what was supposed to happen to your kids for a reason. I don't believe that's true but if you think of the problem that way you become a problem solver in it like oh I have to find the solution that why I was locked in this room escape defined the key. If you have kids who are little enough that you need to be with them. Why you can't let them play in the playroom in the basement because you need to be keeping an eye on them all the time. This is obvious but watch your margins on this. Do not do anything without the kit around after bedtime before they wake up during nap time while they're watching this show. Do not do anything that you couldn't do while they were around so when the kid goes to bed donen load the dishwasher. Save that two together with the kid folding the laundry like all of that stuff. Don't do anything when the kids around. But your email and the thing you need to get done relaxing doing nothing but counts too but save the housework and it means for me it meant letting go my standards of perfection. When my kids were younger like let the House be messy until tomorrow clean the Messy House with the eighteen month old next to you also cleaning the house right like save that stuff and you will find a little more time to do that thing you really need to do. Yeah and the F. Why I feel like I'm stuck on this because it's important for me. This is not so you can free up your time to write the great American novel. No and sell factual is all your time and get on the treadmill six times a week and be this extremely. I saw her tune in New York to send it to. Emi Put up on the show notes. It's like a person just after a shipwreck and there's like flaming debris in the water and half the ship is sinking. And they're in a lifeboat and the caption is. I'll finally have time to work on my novel. Like this is not the time to work on your novel now. You are surviving a crisis so we are not talking about. Oh my gosh free up time because then you'll be able to make pheasant under glass for dinner every night that is like the most seventies reference. I'm sure no one knows about but that was all the locks alert back in my day because that was always my mom's Goto it must have been some like old seventies restaurant thing because that was always referenced for like what Fancy People. Eight pheasant under glass. I even know what it is. It sounds like cruise ship like everybody in formal clothes for dinner every night. Sort of cruise ship cuisine right. It's not free up time so that you can make a better dinner. It's free time because you'll see that your kids can function more without you another thing. That's working for me right. Now is actually going back to my planner. I had stopped using it for at least a month. Because what's the point? What Day is it? Who knows who cares. But now that I'm starting to have due dates and a couple of things I need to do. I've gone back to the paper. Planner am writing about three things each day that I have to do and they can be little. It can be like get the episode ready to launch on Wednesday. I write that down for Tuesday but looking at that instead of I also have a list that I keep I have to but looking at that makes my is cross but looking at your three things you need to do. Today here are three things I need to do. Tomorrow it takes all the guesswork out of it. It takes all the herbs so much to do. I don't have so much to do these three things that I need to do today. And it can be ready a check and then you cross it off and you feel so proud of yourself. I also find that. That house would like the Ambien anxiety because I was having a lot of trouble with like I got three kids. They're running three different zoom sessions. My oldest takes care of it himself basically but the two younger ones and you know. Oh we missed class. And then it's tears because they did something special and we were not yet because mum's a dummy and you know of course my fault and I have found just one to do list. I did not get my planner backout because it seems I don't know depressing to but I do keep a small notebook on my desk that I have a to do list every day. This is what has to get done today. Which is sort of the same thing that you're saying. Yeah and the short of the better right. I mean the two or three things that really do the shorter the better. And that's the thing. Don't do anything you can't do with your children around while they're asleep agree and like. Don't do anything that you don't need to do if you don't want to do it too. I mean this is not the time I this weekend planted a bunch of stuff because I find and it was finally sunny in New York Oh we've been through it with the weather and I. It gave me great joy to be outside and then it will get make me really happy to sit among plants. I know that and so. That's something I took on because it feeds me and makes me feel better but I also have. My kids are horrible with handprints. And sometimes let me say shoeprints all over the walls of our house and walking around kind of depresses me. To See. They're like Brown handprints oliver everything and our dirty walls..

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"laura vanderkam" Discussed on What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood

What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood

03:04 min | 3 months ago

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood

"Sarah Hart Unger and Laura van or Vander Cam is the author of several time management and productivity books and is a mother of five. Do I have that right? Laura you five Kids Now yes Sarah Hart. Unger is a practicing physician and mother of three. I have that Sir yes I lose. Track Myself But yes. I'm best of both worlds. They discussed work life balance. Parenting time management productivity and making time for fun that stuff. Thanks for being with us. Sarah and Laura were so excited to be here. Thanks for having us. This is exciting to be on. So we're all in this moment right. We're like we're rounding into the second full month being completed of US staying at home and we were talking part one about how it. Kinda worked for a while and you could kind of put everything on pause but now the work stuff is starting to creep in around the edges whether you work outside the home or not the project. The and year thing the volunteer slide show we are also can have that stuff a little bit overdue. And how do we get to? What's most important in the extremely limited time we have? That's what we want to talk to you guys about. Yeah I know this is really a something. A lot of people are dealing with and as you mentioned you can put a lot of stuff off for a long time which is to know right. I mean I haven't gotten my haircut in a very long time. I haven't been to the dentist in a very long time. It was a long time before quarantine and now it's even longer but eventually we do need to get to some stuff but I think the key thing is you want to ask A. What is the stuff that I most want to get to? You won't get everything and when people try to get to everything that's when they start to feel bad so really getting clear on what what is the first thing I want to focus on and then we'll get through that. What is the second thing I want to focus on keeping the list really really short? How many things? You're on your daily list so I am to put about three to five things on my daily to do list. That's usually in addition to any scheduled. Appointments I have. I know that three to five things doesn't sound like a whole lot but the problem is there's no point in making a twenty item to do list and then not doing it like you won't do it. You Won't do all twenty items. He'll do some of them but which ones were they the most important ones where they once that actually had to get done today or were they not on that list. Is home schooling your children making meals those things. I'm tailgate or not even on the list in baseline yeah beyond life maintenance right the things that I don't put brush my on my to do list each day and sometimes I do the on there but not not a reminder to eat lunch. It's you know these are the things beyond baseline that need to happen today. And if you keep it short you can probably get through it and then you know you can go pick three other things tomorrow and if you keep picking three things you get through a.

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"laura vanderkam" Discussed on What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood

What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood

10:18 min | 3 months ago

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood

"Which is about how to get more out of life at work and at home as a working parent so we figured maybe they could help us right now because we need to get literally anything done right. I mean we can beat ourselves up on. Knocked getting more done when we're all doing more than we ever do right like we are all. In this moment where full-time caregivers were fulltime homeschool? Facilitators and educators. We are all working at home. I mean whether you had a job outside the home that gave you a paycheck before this or not. We are all two months in all getting many male like I'm supposed to set up from my daughter's home room a very special. Thank you gift for the homeroom teacher at the end of the year. Yes because I'm the class parent and to come up with something. Thank you teacher appreciation. Week right and believe me. I appreciate this teacher. But unlike Oh god Dr to edit together a video of the kids saying thank you. How many of those can you watch? I'm so glad you just said that because I have to write down like it's teacher appreciation week for me too and I've got to do something for all of this dot guys. You know us. This podcast is not gonna be like. It's time to write your novel friends with all your free time like. That's not where this is going so don't worry about it. We're just trying figure out if we can get literally anything done before we move on. There is one other thing we've gotten done that we have to tell people about. Oh that's right because we have gotten one thing done we as a lot of guys know we have taken some of our quarantine time to make some little videos about how it's going for. Us spoiler not great but we did start a youtube channel and come to our website. What shall podcast dot com and you can find our youtube channel. You can also search what I shall podcast on Youtube and find us. And that's fun. You can waste time watching videos while you're not getting stuff done. One of our facebook listeners asks do that so that she could share it with people who are on facebook and so yes. Share are funny videos. If you think they're funny far and wide. That would really help us. Amy Sometimes we talk about how we perceive the other person and I perceive you to some degree as a person who would use quarantine to get in better shape and like write a novel. No true or false. I'm trying to be extra right. I'm just trying to do anything and I feel like for the first many weeks I was able to sort of hold stuff at bay like nobody was really expecting anything of a mother of three. Who was just dealing with the home schooling? But I feel like at this point. It's all coming around like thing. I told you I needed you to notarize for the city. Like that. Really needs to be notarized and it really needs to happen right now. All of that stuff is starting to creep in under the door at least for me like we give you a break and now I need this right now please. Even if it's class parent stuff right. It doesn't have to be for a company the household. Ceo Stuff is becoming all of a sudden overdue you experiencing that. It's interesting in the beginning. I mean I remember when this started and now whatever we're let's call it sixty days inn or something. I remember in the beginning thinking. I'm not GonNa do anything and I lived in New York on nine eleven and remember a very similar set of what do you call it like steps? That happened afterwards that the first couple days was just like okay. World has completed nothing else will ever be the same and we're now going to like I don't know what you know become soldiers or it seemed like a completely different different from now on everything would change right. I mean I was planning to run. It was September eleventh. Obviously thank you and then I was running the marathon November and the idea of rain right. Marathon was comical. That will never. Of course a new world order started and that will never happen and then about a month out like stuff started to kind of come back to some semblance like you went back to work and everything returned. It took a long time to return to normal but and I feel like I've had sort of the same experience with this in terms of the first five days I did nothing but look stare at the wall and panic like I really couldn't function at all and you and I did some work around the podcast just because we work on a schedule and we kind of had the sense of like. Let's at least keep it going and see what happens but other than that. I was having trouble getting anything done. And then the second week I had a lot of I teach and so I had to designing new curriculum for my work and that took a lot of time and I don't know fielding calls from like how's everybody doing and a lot of checking in right and I feel like right now. I'm not getting caught with a lot of tales. I'm busy with the school stuff and I do find the lake. It's the tiny things it is the like. Could you film your kids saying thank you teacher? No big deal but those things tend to become the straw sip. Break my back like I don't know why but I cannot manage to fill my kid for one second saying. Thank you as teacher by the way I will do it because I do appreciate them but you know what I mean the for me now. It's just generalized nightmare and chaos and then small things I was just saying on the facebook page. Like the thing that's like. Click all the pictures of traffic light. That is the thing that will break me like zoom. And it's this weird picture and you're like wait. Am I supposed to click the light post also and the lightly? I get it wrong three times. Like yes for me. I'm not that busy but I feel like I'm gonNA constant state of chaos and small annoyances make me completely mental. I am feeling sort of getting frantically busy and I think it's because I'm an obliged Sir Gretchen. Rubin has those four types and I am the obliged you're like I'm the class parent because of course I'm the class parent. I'm on the Board of my apartment building New York. Of course I am guys. I'm just going to throw this out there if you have. Young kids class is a terrible job and I would avoid it if I were you. I know that's not a good team player thing to say. But of all the things I've ever done class parent was the worst. Well it's sort of gnawing at the edges now. I have to come up with so if I had to record my daughter doing video that be one thing but I have to come up with the idea. Get everybody to do it. And then execute it and then send it on and let me tell you. A global pandemic does not slow that stuff down. It's still like it's teacher appreciation. You get busier as glass. Which is insane. Yes because you're supposed to be in charge of making sure everyone's covered. It's not a good job and I hate to poo poo it because I have mad respect for people who do it and I realized the school wouldn't function without it but I'm just saying like insider word to the wives. Don't sign up and by the way your kid doesn't know your parent. Yeah we'll give you show up a secret reader or you show up with cupcakes on the birthday. Your kids like my mom's. A Superhero class parent is a completely behind the scenes job. And you're you're you're doesn't even realize you're doing it. Well I'll skip right to one of my solutions for this that we're GonNa talk about later but definitely one of my solutions right now is say no more. You know say no. I'm sorry I can't take that on right now because I think I have like three or four of these projects that I'm sort in charge of right now that I have to get done in the margins and I don't need a five six or seven and it's very hard for me to say no so Jennifer Wallace. Who's a friend of mine? She wrote an article for parenting in the Washington. Post about this moment that we're in and how to get more done and she suggests coming up with something she calls personal policies. Like think about this stuff and you make it a policy you make it a rule and you say I don't do more calls after eight PM for example not can't do where calls after eight. I don't do 'cause I actually don't do the volunteering time stuff for school. We do make sure to write a check to the parents fund every year. Like that kind of thing. I don't do work calls after. Apn because I imbedded in my jammies watching TV program. You don't have to explain yourself. You don't have to tell me why I mean the idea of a work all. Abm is blowing my mind right now. I think that is part of the problem right now. Because the Weekday Week and lines are blurred. None of us know what day it is right right eighty eight. Am lines are blurred? Like I know your home. I know you're looking at your phone. So intimate email you'll make my husband has a ton of work 'cause. He has a very traditional outside the home job. At least in the past it's been outside the home and people think he should be available at nine. Am on a Sunday. That's true and my husband. His were East Coast and his job is based on the West Coast so he actually does often get work calls at nine o'clock at night because people are wrapping up their dead six. I mean in back in the old times amy. When people went to offices remember those times when we left our houses and had friends who were our children. Yes back in those days. He used to have that problem. He I mean instill and I will say I do think it's smart to think of life as kind of a pie right now. Like my mother-in-law has an expression like love is not a pie. It's not slices and you give them away. It's like an internal spot but your work should kind of be a pie like I find with our work right now. I'm working a lot on Sundays. It's a really busy day for me. Workwise and so if I find myself on a Tuesday sitting out on my deck and having a beer and reading a book like that's my Sunday time. I'm taking back my slice of the pie from Sunday. You know. That's a good point and I think you have to kind of be like I'm willing to do X. amount of work and if I have to do it on a Sunday from today eight. I'm taking that time back on a Tuesday from eleven to two and I'm not explaining to anyone why I'm in a chair reading and Jerky that's a really good thing. I think we can all take at this time right. Get your working when you can do it and then get your time for yourself and when you can do it even if it's quote unquote during work hours because every hour is a work our at this moment is i. Guess what I'm trying to say but that really does begin with saying notice. I have that problem hugely myself. I don't think of myself as a pleaser. I guess I am in that. I'm like female and alive and Irish Catholic and like to some degree. That's all like blizzard pieces of me but I work in a couple of realm set..

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"laura vanderkam" Discussed on Famous Failures

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"laura vanderkam" Discussed on Famous Failures

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"laura vanderkam" Discussed on Famous Failures

Famous Failures

06:50 min | 8 months ago

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on Famous Failures

"Love doing so it could be really as simple as that as putting get on your calendar or just denying instant gratification for a moment and saying okay. I'm not going to wash this right away. I'm going to put this on my calendar for a week from now and then look forward to it and that to me makes makes a world of difference and then in terms of the indie moment when you're actually going through that happy he memory as you were talking about it talking to other people about it and saying well you know. This is really nice. The time we're having now. There was a quote from Kurt Vonnegut. I don't remember what book he included in. But he recounts an anecdote where he's sitting with an uncle. I think it's like in the shade of an apple tree and his uncle had this habit of interrupting conversations stations to simply say if this is a nice what is when things are going really. Well just. It's as small. All is just pausing for a moment and saying out loud if this is a nice what his life is good right now this is this is great. I am not unhappy be Double negative like you know we. We tend to sort of walk around with our. Our shoulder scrunched up on alert. What's GONNA go wrong but in in a moment where nothing is wrong? It's it's good to to call attention to the lack of anything being wrong and that can help us enjoy those experiences a little bit more. Switch gears a little bit and talk about failures looking back on your life. What stands out as one of the valuable failures as you've had and what makes a valuable? Well I've long wanted to be a writer earn particularly I love writing books and I. You know who knows if that's GonNa continue as an art form. I like to think it. Will people get their information in all sorts of ways now Certainly started doing a lot more podcasting and things like that. Atas people transition to that form of information gathering but I still love books celebrating them writing them and I right my first book a great many years ago I was very excited. Pre One hundred sixty eight hours by the way I was so excited. You know twenty something. Get a contract like go me. The world is going to be my oyster now and I think it literally sold like five hundred copies and I had no idea how oh to promote a book like that. I needed to personally be responsible for finding readers bringing news of my book to readers and it's very much a standard standard rookie author mistake. But you know the net result of of having this reduce flop of a book is going to be very difficult Michael to get a new contract right another one and it took a long time like I was shopping around the material that became one hundred sixty eight hours for about a year and a half before I was actually able to get someone to take me on and you know that was a long time a long time to not be getting nibbles unto. Not Feeling like I was going to be able to be a book author. which is what I wanted to be? And and so you know is valuable in the sense that I don't take that for granted and I can't say that I've got a great promotional operation now per se. I'm GonNa do it again. Dan and I keep trying to grow it. But I'm always thinking about that. Like how can I write a book that people will learn about and want to read. You need to make sure that something people understand. The title says what the benefit is going to be that people know it exists in all of these. These are things I can't take for granted and I think if I hadn't had early experience. I know that I would have been less. Careful careful as an author and less sort of able to keep doing it because you know each time I make sure I learn. What's right what's wrong? What can I do differently next time? That's such a great example because an early failure or an early disappointment I should say in this case can keep you on your toes can make sure that your dotting your is and crossing your ts later on whereas in an early blockbuster success can do the opposite. You know if if your first book had become a number one bestseller then you might have become complacent you might have sort of settled into that. As opposed to now because the first book wasn't as successful successful as you had hoped you've implemented strategies for making sure that all of the promotional elements are in place. I'm curious what was what was the name of that first Brooke Grind topping. And the first. You're like What does that even mean? And that's your first. Problem is about the rise in self employment among young people which I the biggest an interesting topic but I liked that book but apparently took if if people find it still available isn't as an e book so go saddened check it out But no I mean don't get me wrong with by. I spoke and become a number one New York Times bestseller. I think it'd be pretty darn happy about that. At you know it would have given me opportunities to make future failures in have not be huge failures because they still would have had some residual though interest from the first book. So don't get me wrong. I would've massively the preferred to have it be a success but if you're going to have disappointments best to try to learn from them absolutely. Were there any other examples. That came to the mind when I asked you about valuable failures. Just in general I think the matter that you can you can try again like just because something doesn't go right right at any given time. That doesn't mean that it's it's done it's over that's it and experiencing this right now. I'm actually a Pregnant With My Fifth Child oiled about seven months along at still running every day but some days are a lot better than others. There are some days where I feel just incredibly slow oh and sluggish and like this is just not good and they're like well given that running during pregnancy isn't exactly a normal thing to do. It's very well well. I guess I shouldn't maybe I'll pick it up again in the spring and something like that but then I'll just try again just see and often the next exhale as is having an incredible run. It'll feel wonderful like in you know that I'm feeling like A. I could still do this so you know. I'm not gonNA keep going forever but the fact that something isn't perfect at one point doesn't always mean the answer is stop. It might be stop. It might try again. I don't know but you have to figure that out for yourself. I think that's the perfect note to wrap up this conversation on Laura. Thank you so much for joining us..

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"laura vanderkam" Discussed on Famous Failures

Famous Failures

10:38 min | 8 months ago

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on Famous Failures

"Haven't been dining out on this one for years. I still yeah I've been. I've seen thousands of time logs over the years but this particular one stood out for me as a very busy woman has family job Bob Steph. She goes out for Wednesday night for something. She comes home to find that her water heater has broken and there is now water all over her basement. You know so as I talk about my speeches. Anyone who's ever had this happened knows. It's a huge mess. And so she's tracking her time this week. Where the water heater breaks and so dealing dealing with the fallout from it is being recorded on her time? Log the immediate aftermath that night that plumbers coming in the professional cleaning crew because her her carpet's pretty much ruined so all this is being recorded on her time log and takes seven hours of this particular week and I find that interesting because a lot of time management literature out there is to put in the context of. Oh we're GONNA help. Our readers viewers or listeners. Signed an extra hour in the day and so basically she did that. She found about seven hours of her week. She found extra hour in the day. But we talked about this. You know if we have this conversation at the start of the weekend said like all right. We're GONNA find seven hours is for you to do whatever it is that you've been talking about it in training for a triathlon reading Warren peace studying French meeting with those people who want you to mentor them. All these things people say they would like to do but could never find the time for all of us that issue would have been like no. I cannot find the time for those that cannot find seven hours to do those things but when she had to find seven hours because there is water all over her basement she found those seven hours and really to me. The point of this story in the wire I tell this story story is because I think time management is fundamentally about treating the things that are important to us as the equivalent of that broken water heater her. Choose to get to them. I which is to treat them with that sort of urgency that we will push other things aside to make them fit because we wind up with water. All of our basement spent we do the exact same thing. So let's let's treat these priorities as the equivalent of water olive our basements. I love this story and I think part of the problem here is that we. I don't necessarily go through the exercise of determining what's important to us the obviously a broken water heater is important because there's water all over the basement but short of a catastrophe like that. We don't actually take the time to sit down and figure out what our priorities are. What's important and what's not important? Instead we end up living in our lives on defense. You know we're constantly reacting to other people's requests answering their emails and nods zooming back and saying okay. What what is it that I actually find important? What's going to move the needle? The most and then zeroing in on that and I think so simply going through the exercise. And perhaps you've got other ideas on this as well. But determining the priorities I assume would be a prerequisite to building the time for them. I I think that is helpful. Of course to to know what they are and when people do truly know what they are sometimes it becomes easier to Put in the space space for that. But if he if you haven't done the work of figuring out what these things are now's a good time to start in one one sort of practical exercise. I have people do if you want to figure out your a professional priorities for the next year or so. We're recording this. Toward the end of twenty nineteen people might picture themselves at the end of next year. So the end twenty twenty. If you're giving yourself a professional performance review right at the end of the year and twenty twenty had been this absolutely amazing year for you professionally really like what would you be talking about in that performance review like what would be those three to five accomplishments that you would be popping the champagne corks about so if you think about this now a year ahead of time. Well now you know what. You're sort of five. Top professional priorities are in in the next year. And can you can do this for your personal life to think about what you might be telling people at a holiday party at the under twenty twenty no these are the highlights of my my personal life over the course of the year. The things that really matter when you over the course of the year and if you can sort of sink about what you'd love to be telling people at that party a year from now will now you have a list of things that are your top priorities personally. For for twenty twenty as a making these these lists of relatively short. Maybe three to five professional thing certified personal things but putting that list somewhere where you keep seeing it to keep thinking talking about it and keep figuring out the steps to take to get there. I think massively increases the chances that you will try to find space for these things finding space looking back or looking at your life from the outside. You've got four children. You've written several books. You contribute to May different publications you blog you. You hosts not one but two PODCASTS. You give talks. What does your typical and I'm sure there isn't a typical daily schedule? But what does your your daily or weekly schedule look like well. I do tend to plotted out by week. A key part of my life is planning planning my weeks on Fridays and this is a habit. I picked up A couple years ago. It's it's really been great for me. Every Friday sit down and say well. What do I plan to accomplish in the upcoming week and list out the professional priorities which tend to be steps toward whatever those things are? I'd like to say at the end of a year and list out my personal priorities for the week as well and some of these are already on the calendar. Because I've been thinking about this ahead of time but other need to get on the calendar and so Friday afternoon I I can make that happen. You know I can call people like email whatever I need to do. Most people still at their desk to that point so it makes it a good time for planning ahead. Mike daily schedule is is somewhat determined by by kids schedules. I'm you know up in the morning with them helping them get ready. Get out the door to school. Broadly Rodley I do my focus work while they are out of the house because I have a Home Office so when they're in the house it's slightly less effective search. And then you know I I do tend to get some time outside of the school hours you know in the evenings or here and there but from long experience I know to try. I do anything. That's going to require a quiet such as recording podcasts. During that time I run every day. That's something I make space for. I hope it helps me. Keep up my energy. I sing in a choir on Thursday nights. So that's something that I do to keep up with my musical physical entrusts weekends tends to be a share amount of family time. I try to think through the weekends at least a day or two ahead of time. Both funding funding. Would we like to do what has to happen. And as for sleep. I know from my time logs from five years of time tracking that I somehow somehow one way or another tend to get back to about seven point three seven point four hours of sleep per day. Some days it's over said is it's under but that is my long term average in that has been in a remarkably consistent average year to year. So I gotTa tell myself that must be what my what my body is aiming for in one of your books. I think I think this was an off the clock. You wrote about the importance of stretching or leaning into the good moments or the good memories in in your life as they're happening. Can you tell us about that. Please well this concept of sort of lingering in savoring good moments is really profound if you think about time is passing at the same rate regardless of what you do but we experience in very different ways if you're stuck in traffic jam your second boring meeting or if you're in some the physical or psychological pain time passes incredibly slowly whereas you know you're having dinner with old friends the whole evening can seem to go by. Why in the blink of an eye and so how we experience time is is very different in it? It raises the question of whether it is possible to make good moments pass as slowly as the bad moments and probably the answer is no but you can do certain things to stretch the experience of of good moments in one in key one is is planning ahead of time. It turns out that anticipation. It is a key part of our experience of pleasure like the longer. You can look forward to something that you know. You're going to enjoy the more you get out of it in the moment itself trying to be very present to taking in all these memories talk with the other people. Who are there about how much you're enjoying it to try to remember various details? Dell's anything you can do to commemorate the experience. I mean that's why people buy concert t-shirts right to remind themselves that they went. And then you can do various things after the fact In terms of processing the memory sharing it with other people to cement it because it turns out that more vivid vivid memories actually make us feel like we have more time. It's it's one of these very strange things that the novel or the intense stands out more more than the every day why the first day of vacations seems incredibly long whereas you know a normal day is gone. We don't I think about it at all. You must people cannot reconstruct like two days ago at all. It's a having this this mindfulness but but doing certain things to make sure that the memories are vivid as possible because that makes time feel a little bit more like this. This rich tapestry is supposed to I don't know slick slick linoleum floor that's kind of sliding away from you. I love that and I'm going to say two things to just highlight two different aspects of this stretching to good memories strategy. You mentioned one. Is the the idea planning ahead of time and then looking forward to that event to me that makes a huge difference in one of the reasons. I'm I'm the only person I I know who still gets net flicks. DVD's in the mail most people will just streaming when they're watching a movie. But I love the the idea of like going into my Netflix. Looks Cute adding a movie and that anticipating the arrival of the movie like two days later and the idea of like going to the mailbox picking up the red envelope below opening yet all of that becomes a part of the memory for me of watching a movie which is one of the things I.

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"laura vanderkam" Discussed on Famous Failures

Famous Failures

12:30 min | 8 months ago

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on Famous Failures

"The pure sales up to ten thousand dollars to a nonprofit called charity water which is on a mission to create a future where everyone has access to clean and safe drinking water and you can find out the details about that as well at rocket science book dotcom without further Ado. Please enjoy my conversation with Laura of Andrew Kim and thank you as always as for listening Laura. Welcome to the show. Thank you so much for having me. I'm always interested to see how people got to where they are in life so I love to hear to you. Speak about how you became interested in writing about speaking about time management always say I wish it was because I was always on time everywhere but it's not Unfortunately I really do try to be but I am not You know I have probably always been interested in being being more efficient in trying to get my work done. But I became interested in in time management Particularly typically after becoming a parent for the first time about twelve years ago. When I was trying to figure out how to make the pieces of work in life fit together and I had a realization? That is of course dumbfounded. Obvious as I think about it now but seemed profound time which is at everybody. Has the exact same amount amount of time. Everybody has twenty four hours a day and hundred sixty eight hours in a week so when you find people who are doing amazing things both both professionally and personally they may have all sorts of other things going for them a million that we may be smarter than the rest of US better looking than the rest of us but they don't have any more more time and I find it absolutely fascinating like I love to study these people and see where they put their hours and if there are any tips at the rest of us can pick up doc and the concept of one hundred sixty hours a week became also the title for Your First Book. Tell us about how you decided to write a book with these strategies the with the title one hundred sixty eight hours. Yeah well I had been saying twenty four seven for years and had never actually multiplied. It which turns turns turns out. Most people haven't in fact at at which which is good for search engine purposes for me. There are one hundred sixty eight hours in a week. And so when I was trying to figure out what angle angle I would take. That was different from a lot of the other time management literature. That was out there. I decided to focus on this concept of a week and you know thinking about it then I'm thinking about it now. I really do think this is the right way to think about time. People always say there aren't enough hours in the day to get to everything they wanna get to in. That is totally we true. There aren't enough hours in the day but we don't actually live our lives in days. You know if you think about Tuesday and Saturday for instance. They both have the same number of hours. They both occurred just as often in your life but if I look at most people on those days their lives completely different whereas a week comes closer to being this natural repeating cycle of life as we actually live it so by getting the pieces of the week right we he can find space for pretty much all the things that matter to us. It turns out that things don't have to happen daily or at the same time every day to to count in our lives and I understand that you maintain time logs to keep track of how you spend your day and how you spend your your week. Could you tell us a little bit more about. Why are you do that and how you do that? Do Use apt you write it down on a notebook somewhere I have many many spreadsheets and I know that makes them sound like all kinds of fun. I have been tracking my time in half hour. Increments since April of two thousand fifteen and I it had tracked my time for a few weeks here and there over the years before this and I have had many other people track time for me to basically because keeping track of your Time is the first step to figuring out how you're going to spend it better. I mean people ask me if I WANNA spend my time better. What is the first thing I should do? And and say well we need to figure out where the time going now. Because if you don't wear your time is going now it's GonNa be really hard to figure out changing the right thing. People have all sorts of stories. They tell themselves about where their time goes. Not all of these are completely accurate and it may be that something. You thought was a problem really isn't it also might be the case that something. You've not considered a taking way more time than you imagined. So the only way to truly see this is to get the data and the best way to get that. Data is to try tracking your time for a week. So I use a spreadsheet. It's got the days of the week across the top Monday to Sunday. Half hour blocks down the left hand side five. AM to four thirty. Am As you know any of your listeners. visit my website. They can get their own copy. But I promise you is just excel and you could make this in like thirty seconds if you wanted to on your own and check in then three times a day. Roughly and write down what I've done since the last time I checked in and it's gotten easier over time it doesn't have to be the exact Record every time I get up and get a glass of water or anything like that. Just broadly what have I done in those half hour blocks but you know having these news brought outlines of how I spend my time keeps me accountable. It has helped me see how much space I have in my life which is pretty the exciting to see. As I tried to make the most of my hours I found it to be pretty life changing for me. I think a lot of people who try the same thing was a Peter drucker quote that I love. He says what gets measured gets managed and as a result of having kept track of your time time now nearly for five years and measuring. What you've been doing how? `Bout you manage that in other words put it differently. What changes have you made in your life as a result of keeping track of how you spend your time? Well one of the Best I've made. I've made more time to read and to read real books over the past few years so when I started tracking my time I had a story going that I wasn't really reading all that much. Watch which when I first started tracking time continuously. I had four children under the age of eight so Forgiven for thinking that there was no time three but I got. I checked my time in that first year I realized that I was spending time reading. I was reading almost an hour day but I couldn't remember any any good book I'd read a lot of it was magazine stories that get just subscribed to a lot of magazines. Start coming in the can't figure out how to stop them. And you know I'd pick up an Flip through it. Read that read articles online. Click Bait Staff Okay we'll if I'm reading almost an hour a day like I could have read Warren piece twelve times in the course of this year. I didn't right. I was reading nothing remotely oatley worth it and so seeing that the time was there gave me that little kick in the pants to redeploy that time for something more meaningful people and so I started thinking whereas this time happening how can I change it from time. Spent scrolling through twitter to time spent reading books and one of the easiest way for me to do that. WAS I. Put The kindle APP on my phone so I could start putting e-books on my phone and anytime I would have been able to start getting on social media media unscrambling round as like will I could also read a book during this time so that was one thing I did and I built in time to choose books to read reviews places to make sure I always had a book on hand. The net result is I started reading all sorts of great literature. You know and I wasn't. I didn't make more time in the day like you know I still have the four kids and I still Had My my life but by seeing at that time was there I was able to make better use of. It is such a great modification and I love the way you went about doing that too so making it slightly easier to be able to access books by putting the kindle APP on your phone I think most people don't even think about putting Kim Lap on their phone they think. Oh that's my ipad or for for other devices but making it easier to access books by putting them on your phone and perhaps making them ext lightly more difficult to access distracting APPs whether it's twitter or instagram is a great way of of making sure that you're focusing on what actually matters which which is books that have stood the test of time as opposed to tweet that will lose their relevance and less than twenty four hours. One hopes will lose their relevance quickly in many cases success one of the things you said which I want to go back to is in looking at how you spend your time you also noticed how my space you have in your life. I WanNa talk about space a little bit and I want to do that because being busy has become a sign of status in society. So what I ask people. How are you doing? The Standard Response I get is busy but good busy. Being busy is is a sign. And I've been van guilty of this myself too. Especially when I was practicing law like being busy meant that I was important that I was wanted. I get fed my ego. But you advocate in your writings in and speaking scheduling free time as well Having open spaces in your in your daily daily calendar could you please talk to us about why that's important. And and and how you go about actually cultivating those open spaces. Yeah I mean. I've done a lot of time. Derry projects looking at various people and one of the things I did discover cover is that may incredibly successful. People have a surprising amount of white space in their schedule. That sort of goes against this screen. You're you're talking about liquids. Think the busy is a sign of importance in on some of what makes sense because having a high demand for your time is pretty much. The definition of being important but many any of these people were choosing to use the power. They had over their time to consciously building open space instead of blocking every minute and they do this for a couple apple reasons I mean I. It's just practical. I mean everything takes longer than you think it will. You're meeting with people. It runs over like for very good reasons since but then everything the rest of your day is is falling over like dominoes and and that can be very discouraging. Feel not very good for many people it was also about being able to seize opportunities. Many of these people want the people who report to them for instance to be able to come to them with great ideas and it's never never a great management to be sitting there. Be like yet okay. You've got this awesome business idea you WanNa talk to me about. I've got an eight minute window at four twelve next Thursday like. Come Talk to me bench bench like you know these. These are people who want to be able to act on good ideas in the moment when they come so they leave open space to be able to deal with that so I think there's a lot of the rest of us to learn from this. You know people often say well. I like this idea of time. Management seems like schedule. Every minute of Damocles actually don't adult every minute of the day. I leave a couple hours open because I was going to happen. Can Be good stuff. could be bad stuff but if you have open space you have the ability to deal with it if you know. You've planned to meet with various people on Tuesday and then you get an urgent request request from your biggest client on Tuesday. Well what happens that stuff. Where can I get rescheduled? If you have open space that can go there if you don't then you're behind and everyone's upset that's not a good way to go through life now. I encourage people to figure out where they can leave this fallow time. I and be very disciplined about keeping it open until the moment that it can't be whereupon it right and then you could fill it with stuff you always find stuff to do but having an open really helps keep your schedule in check absolutely now. I know you've told the story Probably a million times in both your tedtalk and your speeches beaches but for members of the audience. You're not familiar with your work. Could you please tell us the water heater story. I.

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"laura vanderkam" Discussed on Famous Failures

Famous Failures

02:35 min | 8 months ago

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on Famous Failures

"The fact that something isn't perfect doesn't always mean the answer stop. It might be stop. It might be try again. I don't know but you have to figure that out for yourself. Hello everyone and welcome to another episode of famous failures interview. The world's most interesting people about their failures and what they learned from them on their host role. Today's guests on the show is Laura. Vander Cam Laura is the author of several time management and MM productivity books including Juliet school possibilities off the clock. I know how she does it. What the most successful people do before breakfast and one hundred sixty eight hours? Her work.

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The 43 Percent

The 43 Percent

02:20 min | 1 year ago

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The 43 Percent

"I noticed that a lot of the literature about work in life. And their combination is is pretty negative certainly the stuff that's aimed at women. Read a lot of it's like, oh, no one can have it all which I guess is one way of approaching it. But I think I would say that my children haven't hurt my career in any way that I can see in in fact, like having four kids live Lynn some credence to my idea of being a time management expert. Like, I mean as you've said there was four kids. He must be busy. I didn't have four kids as a brand building opportunity, but it's kind of a good one. So it's you know, I think there are ways that these things can work together. And I would certainly hope that no one would feel like they actually need to choose between the two there is definitely enough time to build a wonderful career and be very involved in your family life and time for your own pursuits to time is precious. But but time is also plentiful in the grand scheme of things too. So I think that's not really a paradox. And we we can hold both ideas in our mind at the same time at such an expansive way of thinking about it. I know I'm going to be more conscious about it. As I go about my day going forward. Esa. Thank you for making the time today, it was incredibly helpful. And I love hearing your story. Really? Appreciate it. Thanks so much for having me. That's it for this time. But we'll be back next week for another inspiring recession, whether another inspiring woman, if you take just a minute to rate and review the podcast wherever you're listening. I'd really appreciate it. Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to hear these stories. The forty three percent is produced by me. Claudia Reuter with additional help from the team at critical frequency. Our executive producer is aiming westervelt episodes are mixed by Tyler Moore set. And our music is from Martin wisdom Burke, you can find the forty-three percent wherever you listen to podcasts on our website at the forty-three percent dot com or at critical frequency dot org. Thanks again for listening and have an awesome week..

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"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The 43 Percent

The 43 Percent

03:50 min | 1 year ago

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The 43 Percent

"Out there. So if you've written on a topic that somebody's looking to write a book on you might wind up. You know, just you put stuff out there. People come to you. I know that there's any other way to describe that as a as a career strategy, but putting stuff out into the world is networking. We often think of networking is going to a cocktail party in handing out your business card, but putting your content your your creations out into the world is also networking because people will see it, and they can see what you can do. And if there are people who then want that if you make yourself accessible, you will then hear from those people, and that's really a as much as I can say that that's kind of how a lot of my career has has happened interesting. Yeah. That's a that's a very good way of thinking of I personally hadn't even thought of it that way 'cause I'm so conditioned to think about events as network gain or actually proactively reaching out. And that's a really helpful way to think about it. So you go you were ghost rider for a buck. And then what was your next step from there will I go wrote a couple of things, and I was doing gigs various places like I did contributing editor at Reader's Digest for awhile. And then at some point I was really wanting to focus on. On book writing myself. I got a contract for one book that was a career book that was that was a learning experience. I thought it was a good book. But it did not sell very well at all. And so then it was a wild figure out. What what do I do next? I need to find a different topic different angle in tried a lot of different things. And it was in this that the time management angle happened that I started writing a bunch of different pieces on productivity time management. And again, these these things happen. I had a book proposal that wasn't very good. And it was only sort of it was what became my book one hundred sixty eight hours, which was may first time management book. But it wasn't clearly that at the time and had been trying very things to to get a contract for what wasn't entirely sure what it would be. But I wrote a review of a book somebody else's book for publication, and I got an Email from an executive at penguin is said, hey, we thought I thought that was. Really good review. I've seen your name a few other places if you're not under contract anywhere. Would you like to come talk book ideas, and as lightning? Yes. Yes. I would. So I show up with my really not great book proposal. But they of course seen enough but proposals they could help me shape it into what would be a better idea into. Then I I went with that. And that became one hundred six eight hours that was my first time management book. And so you know that that started that aspect of my career. That's interesting so end how long ago was that. Now so hundred sixty hours came out in two thousand ten so I got the contract for it in early two thousand nine do you find that the more? We are using our devices in the more that are kind of home lives bleed into work lives that the more challenges people have found around time management, or do you think it's making time management easier? I just feel like we've had a major digital shift in the last fifteen years that changed some of the ways we even think about time in our day. Well, I'd say maybe because one of the things I wanted to do I wrote about time is avoid this trap. Humans have a funny way of thinking, they are very special. I I was reading about some of this in in actually one of my fiction things I'm trying why is it that everyone thinks they're living in the in times. Like humans have been around for what housands houses of years, but we all think that like all these millennial sex that were before SEC has that right budget? That were before the millennium like we're thinking it was going to end in their lives..

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"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The 43 Percent

The 43 Percent

03:47 min | 1 year ago

"laura vanderkam" Discussed on The 43 Percent

"After as there is before. So somebody who would say I'm on the road all the time. It's actually on the road fifty percent of the time. It's it's sort of an they may not be at the client every week either. Right. So it's kind of interesting how we view Monday through Thursday often as the only days that matter, but they're only half the week. No, that's really interesting. And I certainly always think of Wednesday as the mid point in the week. And frankly, I blurt I blend my Sunday Saturday together as the weekend, and I don't often think of it as the seven day week. I think of it as a five day workweek, and then and then something tacked on right as if it's of unimportant. But you know, it's not it's still time. It's a significant amount of time. Yeah. You have four four children. Obviously. That's that's a busy load. Just everyone. Wake up at the same time in your house, or what are the mornings like in your house right now? Yes. So on a school morning, which as we've established as only five of seven mornings. Week but on on a school morning, what typically happens is that four year old comes in wakes up first and will come find me. To the one who wants to find a crime in bed and snuggle. This tends to be somewhere around six o'clock six fifteen because I have forbidden him to get out of bed before then a now he can tell time. So that's you know, at least he usually will try to honor that request in snuggle, get him up. He's a let them watch cartoons in the morning because you know, it's how I make my life work. And then I should mention might my husband travels for work too. So, you know, some days were both there some days only one of us is there. So that that all kind of depends on that as well. If I'm if I'm by myself, what it would happen is that he'd get me. The would get me turn on cartoons might make coffee and read for a little bit of he was up at six if it was more like six thirty. I wouldn't necessarily have time for that. Getting a shower. Get breakfast started get my eleven year old up at seven fifteen sit neat breakfast with him. And usually with the four year old to at that point. Then have a couple of minutes while he's getting ready to then relaxed have another Cup of coffee than go. Get the nine and seven year old up. They eat around seven forty five depending on the day. We have a nanny who comes around eight o'clock if my husband is traveling, and we're the ones doing the middle school carpool she'll come a little bit early. So I can drive the middle school. Carpal, which leaves at seven fifty if I'm not driving that day. If the other people are driving them get the eleven year old out the door at seven fifty this. A lot of details now that I'm thinking. Great. And how long does it how you know for your your the commute of the kids to school that carpool? How long does that take? It's it's about ten minutes there, ten minutes back. So it's twenty minutes in the morning. I do it. Which means if I do it. I'm back eight ten I've really thought about this right because then eight ten to eight twenty five I sort of have this time. Like, what do I do with the kids? The middle elementary school kids can pretty much get themselves ready for school like they don't need me hovering over them in our Annie's there to dealing with the four year old usually at that point. So I go into my office. And now, I do strength training from basically eight ten to eight twenty five or if I'm not driving the car pool. Do it from like eight oh five to eight twenty five and just do my kettlebells resistance bands. It's kind of a good way to get that into my schedule at a time. Eight twenty five I get the nine and seven year old out to the bus stop. So get the chorale shoes. Backpacks all that stuff ago stand in the driveway? Wait for the bus. I come back in eight thirty five that's sort of the start of my work day. I think about I've actually recently added a new component to the morning routine. Which is that I do kind of free writing of.

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