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"Yes, The Chicago Children's Choir was founded in Chicago's High Park neighborhood in direct response to the civil rights movement in 1956 and Chicago, told car has grown from one choir into a vast network of in school and after school programs impacting the lives of more than 50,000 divers use throughout its 64 year history, and Kota Lewis, who is here with US. Has been a part of program for about 10 years, right, Koda Yes, 10 years. That's an amazing time. I've loved every single year. Amazing. And how has everything been due to the cove in 19 pandemic? How has that changed for you both? Yeah, well, it's Jeff Kota. Go first. Yeah, It's definitely been hard because I'm so used to performing with everyone in person, and I love the form with my choir. But Clark has been a constant in my life for 10 years. I'm so glad that we're able to still think together and find a way to be together even if it's virtual Absolutely. And what about for you as well. For me? It has been a wonderful time to delve deeper into some offerings that we have now launched nationally, our hearts enrichment sessions, You know, despite you know, the geographical about barriers were able to doom into our singer's home, which has been really inspiring and actually, I've been able to get to know them on a more personal level. So we've actually been creating innovative programming on I've just been thrilled with the whole. I mean, despite the pandemic, of course, it has been a wonderful opportunity to deepen our connection with our singers. Right? Absolutely. And I feel like you know, as unfortunate as the Koven 19 pandemic has been and taking a toll on a lot of our everyday activities. I feel like you know you're still able to put this together which is amazing. It is virtual. So.
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"And mental health treatment when it comes to young men and how they cope in and how they do with stress. What are we seeing right now? Well, in order for a young man to cope. You have to be clear about what their natural growth process would be. What are you really feeling with? And my experience with young men is that they are really by young men. I mean, like 18 to around 30. They are trying to build their life. In in the social world. So this is what this is what this person wants to do. If you're going to help him cope, then you're basically helping them understand? The challenge that they're facing right? And so that's what I'm trying to do. I'm trying to help them understand the challenge that they're facing and then help them understand themselves and how they can tackle that challenge. Let's talk about those challenges. Tell me a little bit more about that. Well, I mean, You know the challenge is that things there's on attitude of Extreme here. In our culture. People are isolating people are there's also people are angry People are disillusioned, so there's a lot of tension. Now my aim with these young men is to teach them not to not to succumb to these tensions, but to learn to rise above them. So what That means is that the young man that I'm working with I'm telling them you don't have the luxury to sit and wait this challenge out. Meaning you can't just go in your in your room, compares house and wait till it's over. And my approach working with these young men has paid off big time because you know, people thought it was gonna be a month long. Then they thought it was going to be six months longer than they thought to be a yearlong. Now maybe it's another year. There's there's nobody who's going to be able to say definitively when this challenge is over, and that's the nature of the challenge. So the first thing I'm teaching young men to do is to accept the challenge and to unaccepted. They don't know when it's gonna end. So stop. Waiting for a miracle and, you know, get into action. And so that's what we've been doing. So as a parent if you're worried If maybe it's on your radar. What are the kinds of things that you should look for? That? Maybe you need to pay attention to that number one question I'm getting asked. And for me, the toughest part of that question is because For me. It's so obvious that this is a problem. It is like asking a person who's stuck in a rip tide in the ocean. Whether they need help or not, Of course they need help. If your if your child could figure this out, that's very doubtful. So they do need help. The question really is what type of help do they need? And how can you as a parent help? Okay, So So what are your options as a parent? What if you come to that point where you decide, you know? Hey, look weak. Things aren't going well. I feel it. What? What are my options? What do I do? Well, it depends on what you're talking about. Are you talking about your kid is like in the house, you know, using drugs, depressed, playing video games all day. What is it? That's your scenario? What do you What do you do? So well, the first thing is Don't kid yourself that again. You're just waiting like Oh, well, when, when? When cold. It goes away, They'll go back to normal. Get rid of that delusion. And I would say, you know, start researching different forms of advisors and counselors that you can speak to in your area and start to use professionals like myself who have been dealing with this problem. For a decade or two decades through we can give you some some feedback. Um, my first feedback would be, uh, don't this is not a problem these air, not problem. Addiction, mental health issues. Elektronik addiction these air, not problems that get better with a lack of help. They get worse. So my first thing would be, you know, let's partner to try to offer some help. If you do have sons, who are big individual were big into video games. At the big you know, before the pandemic even began. When should you really start is apparent because I'm assuming that a lot of times some of the warning signs may pop up even earlier. So what? What do you look for? Even before that, well for me, and I'm biased because of the extreme examples that I see. For me. I start early. I have two kids, one of mine and one is five and I'm already you could say, intervening to help them develop a life. In the real world. So for me, it can't start early enough. Give me an example. What would you do say with your youngest? What would be an example of that? So, so with the youngest, I would Um, do things with him outside, find find activities that he might enjoy. Do it with him and really be there alongside alongside them as you're teaching them. How beautiful license And that is really the essence of my method for working with young men, and I wrote about that in the book. The primal method is the power off teaching through example and screw walking alongside. Another human being, so no matter how young they are, the beauty is the natural inclination of the human organism is to live. It's to love. It's to be happy. So it's all there, but they just need somebody alongside them that they are willing to be with. Let me ask you this. What is your thought on tough love? And what does that mean to you? A great question. So for me, I'll start with what it needs for me, eh? So tough love for me is when you care enough about a person. Bet you respect them enough. You have enough of a vision of their life that you are willing to be fully honest. And strong with them, and you're not looking to be their best friend. So for parents, you know you don't have to be your child best friend. What you do have to be their parents. You have to be a guide. You have to be a supporter. You have to be honest, It doesn't mean that you control them because you can't So for me, talked love means being fully honest and being fully present with another human being, and, um, and that means challenging them as well. S o. That's the first part. Okay. And what was the second part of the question? It was. What do I feel about using that, right, right? Yeah. Well s O. What I've found is it is an absolutely necessary tool. To working with young men. It is a tool that can only be used with skill. So it is a learned skill. And you can on Lee use that skill of tough love or what I call emphatic challenge. You can only use that skill in proportion to how much trust in connection you've built with the individual that you are being tough with. If you have no connection with, um, if there's no trust. If there's no respect, you can forget about the tough love business. So first you establish a bond in the connection. They trust you. They see that you're a person of integrity, then you could be honest with them if they start to play that role off. Challenging them. It makes a lot of sense, and I like that you you do dive in a little bit deeper in your your book. Do I give a lot of examples of what I mean? It's the first step of teaching people because there's there's two tools. There is Empathic support, which is, you know, something that is, in my opinion over practiced today. Uh, that's where you very empathetic. You're very nurturing your very caring. It's a great skill, but if it's over used and if it's not complemented with emphatic challenge Then you're really not giving the person what they need to grow. You're just be us immune to be quite honest, okay? Okay, so again, remind folks of of your book and where where to find it. So the primal method on available on Amazon and distribution sites Gregory Kufa goes. Thank you very much for your time. Thank you so much Robin Rock and up. Next we have Josephine Lee, the Chicago Children's choirs, president and artistic director and joining her will be Kota Lewis, a 17 year old singer from the Chicago Children's Choir. Hello. How are you? I'm wonderful. Thanks for having us. Of course, Thanks for being here with us today. We really appreciate it. And I also have Cody Lewis, a 17 year old singer here with the Chicago Children's Choir. How are you? I'm good. How are you? I'm so good. I'm so happy to be speaking with you both so much to catch up on. We always have to talk about the upcoming event for for the virtual upcoming event for Black History Month. There's a concert happening. I believe. Yes, we have a virtual concert on February 26. That is amazing. So before we get into that, and I would love to discuss so much Maura's well, tell us a little bit about the Chicago Children's choir..