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"king demain" Discussed on Kingdom Mom
"At the same time and these two things can coexist together. We can also have some toxic traits and some toxic behaviors that we need to deal with. I realized last year that i had some detrimental toxic things that i needed to fix that. I needed to repent from that. I needed to heal. I need to figure out. Why do i have that toxic behavior. Why does this particular thing bother me. Why does this particular thing trigger me. And i really had to do a deep dive and really kind of went through our. But i didn't kind of i did. I went through our stress elimination method process so when people join our coaching membership. We take him through. A process called the stress elimination method. And it's it's a three step process. It can take a while but one of the things that we talk about that processes you are going to continually go through that process over and over and over for the rest of your life. And i definitely had to go through that exact same process last year when i was learning about toxic traits so over the next few weeks. Sorry if you can hear the baby crying in the background. She put her down for nap and she doesn't want to go to offer napa her dad's thir- so she's okay. Hashtag mom podcast. Who work from home anyway. What i was saying is is that over the next few weeks. We're really gonna dive into maybe some of these leg toxic traits that we have so. I'm just gonna warn you. I'm just like fair warning. The next few weeks of this podcast might make you a little bit uncomfortable. And if they do like if you're like oh my gosh i definitely have that toxic trade i don. I don't know how to heal from that. I don't know what to do instead. Or i don't have the skills to fix this. I highly encourage you to join her mom by her masters group on facebook but it might be time to maybe invest in some coaching. Like this is probably this. And boundaries which lack of boundaries can be toxic behavior in itself. These are probably the two things that we get. The most feedback from from our clients is vase. Start to realize. Some of the talks ick Toxic patterns that. They've had in their life the talks except that they've put up with in their life and boundaries. Those are the main things that a lot of our coaching clients realize as they're going through stress nation that and here's thing toxic traits toxic patterns toxic thought patterns can create side effects in our life that might manifest as poor time management. Yelling at her kids Not being fulfilled not making any progress towards paying off debt like these things can manifest in poor relationships. Right poor self-talk. These manifests in many different ways. A lot of times it goes back to talks. Ick things that we've picked up and here's the thing we pick them up from other people you know. Maybe we watched toxic parents. Did these toxic behaviors when we were kids. Toxic mentors toxic friends. Trauma can definitely create can. Leave some toxicity in our life. There's all of these different things. So i encourage you to make sure you join us for the next few weeks. It's gonna be uncomfortable. You might have some. I wanna puke gut check moments but i encourage you to join us anyway because i do think that if you give it a chance it's going to be life changing alright. Y'all is you guys have a great week. Can't wait to start this conversation with you. God bless we hope you enjoyed this episode of the king demain podcast. Don't forget to check out our popular free training how to put an end to. What stressing you at kingdom. Mom podcast dot com. Cnx time kingdom..
"king demain" Discussed on Kingdom Mom
"Little things that you're really doing every single day. Now this also applies to You know seasons of your children growing up okay. So like for example right now I have three kids one of which is a toddler. Now that routine is GonNa look different because you know toddlers. Don't care about your schedule toddlers. Don't care what your plan was. Rate and toddlers can be kind of unpredictable in their schedule right and so mind routine that I have. During this season of my child's growth though toddler hood is going to look a lot different than when she's five and all of my kids are five and over right You know my friends who their kids are teenagers. Their routines look different than mine. Right it was also very different. You know when I only had one kid versus three. So change is going to happen. We can't stop it from happening. It's a part of life the Bible says there's a time for this on a time for that we. We don't get to control that we don't always get to pick it right but we get to decide how we're going to pivot and adapt. That's what we can control and if your kingdom you know we talk about you're responsible for your territory and really being a good steward over. Your territory means managing it well and managing it. Well equals routines all right so Tip Number One was allow yourself to grieve tip. Number two was quickly establish routines and tip number. Three is probably the most important and that is self evaluation if you have fallen for any amount of time that you follow me on facebook whether you follow a few are kingdom member. If you're in our mom binder masters group you know that I have a huge self evaluator. I believe that we should always be working hardest on ourselves and I'm constantly evaluating what I'm doing right what I would like to fix and what I'm learning okay and this goes for any time you go through a change and so have to do this. Oh Hot lately and so number one is where am I winning? Where am I doing really really well with this change or maybe yourself reflecting back to the last season? What was good about this season? What what did you like about that season that you can bring into this new season so like for example. I really liked that. I did Or that every night before I went to bed. The dishes were done in my house. South Dakota Okay so when I come into this new season of being in a three bedroom apartment. That's something that I wanNA bring with me. I really really liked that right however we also need to ask ourselves like what didn't I appreciate about that last season. What did it and I like about it and you know I can look back to when I was living in South Dakota and there were a lot of things about that time in my life that I don't WanNa bring with me. I didn't WanNa bring that with me. One thing was never actually joined a church. When we were in South Dakota we were going to move and I didn't like not actually being a member of a church. I didn't like that I wanted to actually establish and find roots with a church family. Now don't get me wrong. We hadn't heard that we plugged into but we weren't actually members. We weren't really plugged into the life groups. We weren't really like you know part of that community like we went to the church but we were actually a part of the community and I wanted. I didn't WanNA bring that into my new life my new season here in Texas and so we quickly established a routine of going to work. Go Erg not going to going to church going to life groups and then doing the Wednesday Night Bible Studies. We just immediately put that in our routine because we evaluated like okay. These are the things that we liked about that last season. These are the things that we don't want to bring with us. These are the things that we want to prune away. Okay so important ask. Where am I winning? Where am I winning in this season? Currently in like after you've maybe establish shoe routine for a week. Okay what do I like about this? What do I like about this? What don't I like about this like? Maybe I'm putting too much pressure on myself. Maybe on trying to get too much done considering the fact that I have a toddler that I have to chase around all day right. Maybe there's too much pressure here right so self evaluate and see okay. What do I need to adjust because yes a routine quickly but you might within a week need actually tweak that routine a little bit okay he just because you establish a quicker teen doesn't mean that you have to stick with it? Okay you can change have permission to change it okay. So where am I winning? Where my not winning? What do you wish to improve and something that you always have to ask yourself? When when you're thinking about what you wished to improve is why do I actually want to improve that? Why do I actually want that to be the case? Okay so like for example. If you're thinking about cleaning your house and you say what I wish to improve. I wish that you know every night had a really healthy home cooked meal. I wish to do that. Okay then I have to ask myself why why okay. Now if they answer is something like I just want us. I JUST WANNA fuel my body. Well that's one thing okay. That's a good thing if your if your answer is because I see. Sally Sue on facebook is always like cooking a home cooked meal for her kids every single might and they just look so happy like okay. Then maybe you need to self evaluate. Why you're comparing yourself. Sally Sue so a really good question and I. My Poor King Demain members the members of kingdom mom. Oh my gosh they probably get so sick of hearing me say this is asking the question. Why why does that bother me? Why do I feel that way? Why why why why? Why wouldn't you ask yourself the question why you will start to discover some good things and some maybe detrimental things that you actually need to fix? So where do I wish to improve? Why right and then how am I actually going to improve that? So let's say that I want to be cooking home-cooked meal healthy home cooked meals every night. And it's for a good reason. It's because I really truly want to fuel my body. Well okay then. How am I going to accomplish that? Pay Because I've got a toddler running around twenty four seven ripe. I also have a business that I'm responsible for. Okay Insert whatever you've got going on there into that equation. Okay so if I'm going to cook a home cooked meal every single night I either need to number one have help during the other times and the other things that I'm doing right or maybe I need somebody to meal plan for me. Maybe I need to set aside time to meal plan. Maybe I need to do grocery delivery service right. Maybe I if I'm GONNA do that. I'M GONNA need somebody to help me with dishes rate because we're you're going to find obstacles to whatever it is that you're doing right you're always going to find some sort of an obstacle you know maybe your desire is you know. I want to start. I WANNA start a new stream of business and add that intimate our new stream of income and add that into my routine rape cable Why first of all you WANNA do that right? And maybe it's just because you know you think it would be fine. You want to create a new income stream And you just to help you know. Build your wealth count or provide some financial security. Raham if that's your reasoning. Great if your reasoning is because you see sally sue down the street doing it so you think you should do it too then. That's not the right reason. But let's say you have a good reason for wanting to do that. All right okay. So then how. How am I going to do that? Okay so if you are like me and have kids around I have childcare come in once a week so that on those days I can record content right. That's my how that's how I was able to do that. Because I do have a toddler I do have two other little kids other than the toddler and so somebody needs to be watching them. While I'm working and so I had to hire childcare. Okay so you just have. You'll find some sort of obstacle and then you have to figure out how okay so the last question that you would ask yourself in yourself. Evaluation is what have I learnt? What have I learned so when you're looking at this season that you're maybe coming out of what did I learn from that season. Ray what was it learn? What was something good that I took away from that? And what have they learned in the transition into this new season right? Maybe you learned that you had a little bit more grit than you thought you did. Maybe learned that you need to practice forgiveness more. Maybe you learned that you can actually stopped to change. Maybe you learned that you know you actually do grieve when you're going through some sort of change maybe a in the Cova nineteen pandemic. I know that I learned that. I'm probably GONNA keep like several weeks worth food on hand at all times. I don't normally do that. We buy weeks worth of groceries. Edith all and then. Our House is like completely empty with food. I probably won't do that anymore. That's something that I learned right. I learned that you know it might be wise to do a few different things with my finances. Because I didn't see something like this coming. So what did you learn so I just want to recap what we talked about today? So number one tip for adapting to change actually allow yourself to grieve. Number two is quickly established. New routine number three is self evaluate in the questions that you can ask yourself when you're self evaluating is where what did I like about the old season. What did I not like right? What am I doing well in this new season? What do I want to change? And then what do they learn? What have I learned through all of this? So that's my process. I don't know if that's GonNa work for you or not. It's my process. I always encourage everybody take everything with a grain of salt. I'm just I'm just a human being take everything with a grain of salt. Take everything that anybody says with a grain of salt. Take what you can her. Take what works for you leave. What does it and added anything that works better for you so I would love if you have other tips for adapting change jumping into mom binder masters if you're a mom go ahead and share them with us because I want to know What your strategy is for adapting in this Crazy constantly changing world that we're currently in hope. Y'All have a great week..