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Scale #9 - The future of customer acquisition with HubSpots Meghan Keaney Anderson

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31:27 min | 1 year ago

Scale #9 - The future of customer acquisition with HubSpots Meghan Keaney Anderson

"Hey there on welcome to another episode of scale are brand new series on the do's and don'ts. Robin. Escaping startups. Say we're bringing the last episode of the series, but rest assured that we've saved the best for last a conversation with hope spots VP of marketing. Megan Keeney Anderson Megan's holds for eight years, which quite frankly feels like a lifetime in the world of startups and over the course of time she seen hope spot grow from a small Lookie startup into a billion dollar household name. It's not that we want to talk to Megan all about customer acquisition. Just how did they do? And what Mark tactics have some get there as the host of host groped show. Megan is also accomplished podcast, host yourself. So we thought it was time to hear her on the other side of the booth. So let's jump right in. Meghan. Welcome to the show you and I have been sort of trading content, marketing, and broader our tactics and strategies for the last few years so excited to finally have you on the show. Yeah. Absolutely. I've gotten a lot of our conversations I'm Bobby get to kind of put it to air now. So we we're gonna have it in public. Well, maybe kick things off you kind of a landmark peace last year called what happened to the internet, and it was real deep dive into the customer acquisition challenges that are facing online businesses. Currently we what was kind of the he says there, and what kind of drove each writers. Yeah. I mean that was I was on a soapbox for share. But I, you know, I think that there is a really massive shift happening right now in the way that information gets distributed and people consume it online. So and I actually think it's a bit of a pendulum swing from where the internet began. I think that when the internet I kind of came about it was the promise was that. It was this grand meritocracy and anyone with a good idea to get found online for free and that birthed in Don marketing, birth content, marketing adverts at surge SEO, and a bunch of really interesting things. But over time consumers, you know, they got a little bit overwhelmed by all of those options and all of that. Content. And so the web actually started to consolidate a little bit and aggregate information, more and be more of a filter to that information than it had previously been so today where we're at is. There's this a writer and developer named Andre Stoltz who who are really like. And he's done some research, and he estimates that the Google and Facebook in particular, just their own properties alone have direct influence over about seventy percent of all internet traffic, which is crazy talking to trillion searches running through Google every year, you know, Facebook today has more active users in a single month than the entire internet did in two thousand ten and so what's happening is they're sort of consolidation of the way that we find information online to really to three major giants Amazon Facebook Google. And that's not inherently bad. But that does change a lot about the way that we operate, and it also has ramifications for you know, the way our societies work in the way, our businesses work. And so noting that change we should be thinking very differently about how we're going to market. It's quite interesting because it's almost like we've come back to the days of CompuServe rather than the open internet. Yeah. I think that's true. And you know, I think we have to kind of relearn a lot of things, and we have to decide if this is how we want things to be in the future internet. I think the internet is going to go through dozens of phases. We've seen a number of those phases. Already when the internet became much more of a mobile first platformer arena that was one major change, and we all have to that. So I think you know, internet will rise and fall and go through different interational, and our job as content creators as marketers is to really study that and stay close to it and adapt because I mean, that's obviously the interesting thing for us if the big three Facebook Golomb on our taking buck, the real estate enclosing off these kind of primary acquisition channels, so many businesses began to rely on realizing the have to pay to play or, you know, you're not going to be sort of dead people from those properties back to your own property. How does that impact? You know? For instance, how does that impact your? Him to hope spot and the work. You guys are in. Yeah. So I think that we've really changed our strategy to adapt to these giants, right? I mean, if there are only a few algorithms pulling the strings, you better know, those algorithms, and you better be able to get into them and still surface on them in a world where they control much more of the real estate. So here's a couple of things that we've done first and foremost, we actually split our content strategy into because there is content that is discovered through search, and there is content. That is discovered through discovery Google and Facebook, basically, seventy percent of all internet traffic. And the thing is the rules that worked for one do not work for the other. And so we used to sort of write a blog post try to promote it out through all the social channels hope that it ranked on on Google today were much more in instructive about the type of content that we're writing that is designed to get discovered directly through search. And the type of content that we're creating that is meant to get passed from person to person, and those two strategies are very different so different that we've actually split the content team in two and we've merged our content team that focuses on how to content and content that that's really well suited for search with our SEO team. And so what they do is. They start every month with a search insights report and they figure out where's the Greenspace? Had we actually go after terms that are relevant to our business in a way that will will get discovered not just on the search results page, but in some of the new vehicles that Google has. And I'll talk about that in just a minute. And then the rest of the content team, we focused on how do you create content? It's designed to be passed through word of mouth and sharing and social triggers, and and what are the characteristics of that the two teams? There's no thick wall between the two teams, but their goals are distinct. And that has allowed us to make a lot of progress in each of these areas. Some accents your absolute things quite interesting while you're saying that your team no has content team of nice sort of merge together. I think we're seeing a lot of people talking about that, you know, the need for you know, SEO to actually be embedded with content. Yeah. I mean, I think that it's it's so hard to rank for anything because there's so much content out there, you have to get really really precise really aligned with SEO before you even write the thing and SEO is more than about identifying. Hey, these are the key words, we're gonna write on it is about the way you structure that content. The way that you structure, your entire content platform, your website, your blog, it is about everything from the the code that sits behind it to the metrics that go into decisions around it. And so if those two teams aren't planning together, you really going to be kind of playing catch up where content create something than SEO trust to optimize it. So we found a lot of Allieu we've seen a lot of Allieu emerging. Those two teams until what does the other team then looked like the one that says it's almost trying to be more viral rush. Yeah. Said the other team is also channels YouTube Facebook, Instagram Twitter linked in podcasting efforts, and what we call executive content or thought leadership which is placed are owned articles that you know, they're not going to rank on search for anything. But they are they're your what happened to the internet posts. They are the the soapbox post that we feel like the idea is powerful enough to be spread from person to person. And we put a lot of distinct research into that, and what motivates people to share, and you know, trying to stay close to the pulse of where discussion online is going under. Ramesh brian. I'm sure they have always like it's kind of the DNA of hopes that you guys would continue to share that thought leadership. Yeah. Absolutely. But again, it's you know, that is a distinct type of writing district type of content creation than you would do for for search, which is really still driven very much by how to practical advice content in terms of the actual platforms like Facebook. We've talked about this before. But it you sort of saying to companies. Yes, you should engage there. But you just need a very different strategy. I mean, I think you talked before about actually thinking about Facebook has its own sort of quite a wall garden, but its own island in in many ways than sort of engage with people over there rather than trying to get them back to your properties is that the top level advice. Yeah. It's absolutely garden. I I think, you know, again, the old advice used to be published on the on your site, and then use Facebook or social channels to promote that out trying to get the click through back, the click throughs are gone. They're not coming back. And and they're great companies like buffer that have done a ton of research on this where they're seeing social really fall off as a referral source, but engagement on social is not falling off. In fact, it's rising. And so the shift in strategy that has to be okay. How do you drive engagement within those platforms, and how do you grow in audience within those platforms? And then when you have that audience what you actually do with it. And so I think the good news on that is that I think the conversions are coming. I think that we've done some really interesting experiments with skin with Facebook for a moment. We've done some interesting experiments with Facebook messenger, and using that as a way to drive conversions without ever having anybody to leave Facebook and go back to our site to do it. And we've been able to you know, drive conversions there at a fraction of the cost as we do for for other conversions and just write about at the same quality as we have from from other lead sources. So I think it is early days for converting offsite. I think that there are a lot of kinks to work out still. But anytime that you have a burgeoning source of audience and activity, you better believe that the way to convert that audience and the way to drive an action off of it is not far behind. I think it's probably most mature in in social because of things like Messager. I think you know, we we rent some interesting experiments with podcasts. And then also I think the thing to remember is not every state not every content effort has to drive to an immediate conversion. There is a lot of sense in building an audience for the sake of that brand level affinity that. Will then stay with that person and drive conversion in a different way. At a different point that stuff is harder to measure, it makes people more comfortable, but there is absolutely value in that. It's it's hard putting a deck and bring it to your exact team to say that you know, we're doing this. But it's hard to show the the actual daughter value just right now. But I think it's interesting you're saying we're not like we're saying this as well. Which is, you know, not only is that the sort of the amount of engagement, shall we say at on social platforms going up with the level of engagement is off the charts in terms of you know, it's on Facebook, the kind of content that we can publish Facebook by ourselves and things we're doing and it gets huge levels of engagement than discussion. Which you know? I think, you know, even on our own blog would not maybe the same of of engagement on discussion. Yeah. And I think we're going to have to get better across the board at being able to go where the audiences and convert where they are. So even when it comes to Google, right? I Google is probably the most direct source of traffic and conversion into our site anywhere. It certainly is. But they're doing more and more to keep eyeballs on the Google search engine results pages oppose as opposed to passing it through. So the invention of snippets. Taking over more and more of the real estate on the search engine page. And so we've done some interesting experiments to try to understand how do you engage in audience and not have those sort of changes to Google search engine results impact your bottom line with your content. So you know, we were really nervous about snippets. When they first came out. You know what I mean? Yeah. We were we were terrified because we we get a lot of our traffic from organic search. And so we're like, oh, this is this is bad news because people are gonna read the snippet, and they're not going to quit through anymore. And so after that moment of panic the team got themselves together and tried to channel it into something productive. We ran a few experiments, and you know, we found actually that we could create a repeatable process for getting into the snippet which happy to talk about. And then once we did get into this nip it for the high volume keywords, we picked us election of thirty high volume keywords that we were already ranking number one four and we wanted to see what would happen if despite that number one ranking we also managed to get some of our content into the snippet, and we found that the CPR or website increased by more than one hundred and fourteen percent. Even when we previously already ranked number one. Just by getting into that snip. And that's a meaningful difference. Do you think that's because basically putting in the snip Google is almost endorsing your page because I mean, I know I find myself when I see this nip it, I look which result has come from in the, you know, and it's invariably one of the top three. And that's when I on. Yeah. I think that's an interesting angle to it. I have always just chalked it up to move. Everybody's moving really fast and being in the top spot. Whether it's a snippet or a listing is is the most advantage, est. Right. And the thing is that snippets pushed everything else down and ads have been moved over to the center paying and that pushes everything else down. So you know, we used to coach people to do everything they could to get to that number one spot, and we still do. But gosh, you're you're two thirds of the way down the page even at number one now. So I think we're gonna see more of that. I think the good news on that is at least to this point. We've still seen a lift by playing that game and trying to. To get into that vehicle that Google straight. And okay. So what's your formula then for forgetting sniff? You know, it's it's comes down to structure, right? So the simple answer is have a clear H one in each two headers in your content. It is ensuring that you've got, you know, where appropriate that you have numbered or bullet lists beneath that it is cleaning up your code. So making sure that you are using the right kind of tags beneath your content that your code isn't isn't messed up because there's not too many like Dave's or or random things that have gotten in there and choosing the right things to go after. Right. So knowing which topics you have a good shot at forgetting into the snippet because you've got the most relevant content on it. There is actually a really good team. If people are interested. There's a house about put together like a really good instructional guide on gated totally free to the public on exactly what we did with with screen shots of our code and things like that to to claim the snippets that we have interesting. Snippets or you're going to be quite a way down the page. But it's also really important that yet don't try and get the snippet it with something that's on page two currently fence. Since my intercom. We'll get back to our guests in just a minute. But first I want to let you know about our new product to help you create personalized customer on boarding guides product Tories. We all know the secrets product adoption is getting new users to see value from day one. But so many of us struggled to make our on boarding good. As core product embattled morning, Lisa Corey tension. And ultimately customary predatory helps you solve this problem. We made it Siri easy to create an engaging interactive. And most importantly personalise on boarding experience. People who try potett touristy seven times more engagement than Tino. You can use part towards for somebody new users losing future Dopp Shen and resolving support issues. More quickly to check it out. Head to Entercom dot com slash product dash choice. That's intercom dot com slash product. Dash tours. Now, let's get back to the conversation. Looking beyond algorithms for for moments suppose. One of the biggest trends marketers how to deal with over the last five years has been the sort of rise in average cocker customer acquisition costs. I mean estimates that risen by over fifty percent in the last five years what's been your most cost effective marketing channels? So, you know, I it's interesting because even as as CAC has risen content, and organic is still just a behemoth channel for us. I mean, it brings in the lion's share of our traffic, and it brings in that traffic in a totally free compounding way. So despite the rising costs that is still king for us in terms of just you know, when we look at our performance, what is actually that the biggest muscle behind our growth that we've done. Now. Here's the other thing, though, we found we did again some research into how people discovered us we did some research into how people discover companies, and we have seen a. Shift there over the last few years, and that shift is that more and more other customers are playing a bigger role in driving business for hub spot and for for every company. So I think if you asked me three years ago how people I discover spot. I would say they read our blog or they attend our kademi classes, or maybe they talked to a helpful salesperson who who reached out to them today. It is by and large that they heard about us through another customer. So I think that that can be a little bit scary for marketers. Because we're melt is like how do you control that? Right. How do I predict that? How do I, you know, put that into a report and communicate it to my executive team? But there are a lot of things you can do as a marketer to try to drive word of mouth, the first obvious thing is just create a really good and and customer experience remove all the friction make sure that it's not just that. You're proud. It is good. But you're buying experience is good. And that people enjoy it. But beyond that there are you know, I think it's worth identifying who are the people that are most successful on your product or service and have are the happiest and trying to empower them to write reviews to share incentivize them in one way or another to talk about their good experience. I think direct to consumer companies do a really good job of this on the beat ac- side. So if you think about like any subscription service, so stitch fix or sorry. I'm gonna name bunch of American companies. Care of for for multivitamins, any of glossy any of these companies that sort of sell products directly to consumers and not through a a retailer they've gotten really good at the word of mouth thing because they know that that's a huge driver. So for example, when they send out boxes there, including the person's name on the on the bottle of shampoo, they send or stickers or things that can be used to take picture on Instagram and share your social proof. And so we've gotten better, I think as marketers at driving finding happy successful customers, and enabling them to spread the word, which is going to be more and more helpful as these cost of customer acquisition continue to rise. And we need to enlist other people to market on our behalf. The nice thing is, you know, your customers are gonna be better marketing, your company than any marketer. You could ever higher. You've you've written before that your customers are your biggest growth opportunity. So I mean, that's that's an example of how other people don't have how how do you structure customer marketing at at hope spotter is, you know, is there an actual team that that that looks after that or is it kind of like goes across cross functional. Yeah, we have a distinct team for customer marketing. And then across the board all the marketing teams have a goal, for example, to I think this year, you know, we have a target. We're trying to hit in terms of the number of customer stories that we can surface in our content. And so we're all trying to play a role in celebrating customers and giving them a good experience. Dr mash last summer launched in the companies to introduce this this thing that we call the customer code, which is basically aspirational document for the kind of company we wanna be, and you know, we do really well on some of those things, but we we fail miserably on other. So it's kind of a public way of of of giving us a metric to try to strive. For for the best customer experience possible. But to answer your question directly, we have a customer marketing team within that team. They are focused on streamlining communications to customers. So they're not getting seven emails from different parts of our company in the span of a week. They have a portion that focuses on customer advocacy. So how do we again find those customers who are happy and enlists them in in being a reference in our sales program in writing reviews for spot in sharing their experience and otherwise sort of continue their their success with about and help to talk about it. And then we have a group that focuses on enablement of customers. So things like our user groups and making sure that we're creating the right content of our kademi to address the the top calls into support and the biggest customer points of confusion things like that switching back to content content sort of an oppositional curious what sort of changes you've seen in content over the pasta. For years. You mentioned there. You know, the the the snippets advice. You have it's its own gated. You know, we're seeing a lot more people saying things should be on gated. Like what what are the trends? You're seeing in terms of the us was not just content production, but actually using content to for customer acquisition. Yeah. I think we went through this stage as an industry where it was just a heavily focused on volumes of content. Right. The answer to everything was put a blog post on it. You know, like and not just one blog post, but seven blog posts reframe slightly differently. All on the same topic. We could not create enough content in sort of the early days of content marketing, and I think one of the big changes beyond some of the changes to discovery is that, you know, I think at least we found that you can actually get more traffic with less content. If you're smart about it. So we found in our own history that we had been really competing against ourselves. Because. We would have multiple pieces of content that were disconnected on our site. All ranking for the same search query, and you know, stealing stealing traffic from each other. And you know, it's it's no good to have four pieces of content that are below seven on or eight on the on the. Google as to what you want to run. Yes, we were confusing all the algorithms. And that was a result of just, you know, ten years of content and new people coming in adding to the mix. And so we went in two thousand seventeen actually we hit a bit of a plateau in our traffic. We had for years just always been going up into the right and twenty seventeen to kinda caught up to us. And so we over the course of that year, really unpacked what was going on. And some of it was the changes to search behavior and content consumption and getting into snippets and things like that. But a lot of it was actually cleaning out our content. So we restructured the blog we created a list of topics that have, you know, over fifteen thousand search queries a month, and we made those sort of pillar topics like our most essential, topics. And then we restructured internal linking on our site to build these clusters around those topics. So we're a lot clearer. We're to Google about. What is the canonical piece of information? And what is the supporting piece of information? The other thing we did was found all applicable content, and we unpublished and redirected it to you the best piece that we had we went back, and we systematically updated content that was getting heavy traffic, but was getting outdated. And so we refreshed all of that. We create a clear conversion paths and through that hygiene, we cut out scores of content that was just littering the internet and got a lot more precise about the paths that three which people come to our site and got a lot higher value with the experience that they were getting when they got there, and it made a huge difference. I mean broke through that plateau. I've seen some of the best growth that we've ever had over the last couple of years in our organic traffic, and in sort of the consumption of our content. So I think being really intentional going back and doing. Mhm hygiene and moving away from this this fallacy that you have to just create endless amounts of content. Become a content farm in order to to get any traffic content marketers abuse guilty. This is anyone the said the impulses to to publish unto published new things. How did you win over the team or even you know, other other stakeholders in terms of hey, we're gonna actually published last what we're going to get more trophic? Yeah. Well, here's the thing in a given month. Seventy percent of our traffic comes from old content. So, you know, that's great. It shows the power of content and the power of compounding interest of SEO because from day one we just entered March day one we know we're going to have seventy percent of the traffic that that we need to get without having to write a single word. And so when you look at your team, we're not unique in that. Right. Everybody who's been creating content for any given a period of time probably has that same phenomenon. And if you look at your team in a hundred percent of them are folk. Focused on new content. And that's really only about thirty percent of the traffic you're getting into given month, and no one is focused on the old stuff. And no one is focused on the structure, and and experience of that content. That's a mess. Right. So it it wasn't that hard to convince the team. In fact, I wasn't even the went to do. It was members of the contents themselves. You notice this trend and wanted to try a different approach to it. And it paid off absolute really is annoying. When you when you start looking at that way that you know, you're you're literally putting a hundred percent resources into thirty percent of trophic and every single team. Does it every team? Does it? Now, here's here's the thing. Though. John like, I think that that that strategy actually works on the other form of content strategy. I think it works on the awareness stuff. Right. You want? It doesn't work well for Google, but it works for social and for podcasting. And for all the offsite stuff that is spread through discovery. You wanna be fresh without? You wanna be always trying new things and reinventing the playbook that is where you should focus your new content. Discover your new content creation Mugabe about this for hours, but a will to wrap things up with with wooden won't find a question, which is what additional channels are opening up right now that you're sort of getting excited about it. Yeah. I I don't know. I love our job because it it's things do change all the time and every single year I feel like there's something new to learn and not just like a new tactic or new growth hack, but actually an entire. New space of marketing. So obviously over the last few years messaging and live chat have become a bigger channel through which we communicate with prospects and customers, I think that is really interesting. There are a million ways we can mess that up. There are a million ways that we can use that to make a better experience. And and ultimately, it's just the most immediate direct way. We have connecting with customers whether onsite through chat or off site through basic messenger. What's or have you? What have you? So I think that's a really interesting space. And we've we've found some interesting things there. I also, you know, obviously, this is a little metal. But I think podcasting is really exciting right now, I think that Spotify recently acquired Gimblett and anchor in sort of a landmark acquisition that I think has a lot of implications for the way that podcast get discovered in the way that advertising works on podcast scene. In the way. We sorta monetize a podcasting audience. I think that's really rich and and worth focusing. Finan right now. And you know, we're also starting to play around with like editorial series on YouTube. And again, how do we we are very good at spot at the search driven content. I think that we're we're sort of getting excited now in learning more about how to create the sort of content that gets spread more viral. And so a lot of our focus right now is in a lot of my focus right now is in things like like YouTube editor content to try to crack that code a little bit too interesting because people are starting like people go to YouTube to search for certain things that they would never search for gogo people are searching, I'm Joan for things that they would never search on Google. So hide hide you actually top into the. Yeah. Amazon's whole other piece we haven't talked about I love seeing that like, Amazon and Google fight. So if you have an Amazon extension and your browser it will like overlay. The search engine results on Google for products with like a dropdown of Amazon search results for that. So there. Encroaching on each other's space. Really fascinating ways. It's definitely going to be lots of interesting new challenges and interesting, you learn about yeah. For sure. Possibly meghan. Thanks million. As always for your time and for coming to to us on the show. Yeah. It's always great to talk to you. John. Thanks so much for having me talk soon. Thanks for listening to the inside Entercom podcast for more interviews to intercom dot com slash blog or subscribe to our podcast on itunes, Spotify, soundcloud, or Stitcher. This is inside. Nicole?

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S2 Ep. 02: Ego Nwodim

Green Eggs and Dan

1:05:28 hr | 9 months ago

S2 Ep. 02: Ego Nwodim

"Hi If you love listening to this show. Please consider giving a rating and review on Apple podcasts or wherever. Oh you listen to podcasts. We WanNa continue bringing you this show for free and part of our ability to do that means we need a big audience. It may not seem like it but rating being in reviewing the show will help more people find us. Thanks chicken and golf on. It's a booby Saito. Thin vegetables roasted garlic campaign. Cool Keeney Beautiful Oud food. Welcome to green eggs and Dan the show where I interview amazing humans with amazing minds but all I care about is what is in their fridge. I'm so so excited about my guest. Today she is an amazing writer actor comedian and she is one of the newest cast members of Saturday night. Live please welcome Agawam. It's very exciting to have you here. Thank you so much. I'm excited to be here I remember I think the last time that we hung out. Yes was backstage stage correct and I remember you were lost. You were sad. I was what was happening with your life with your career and I said Eggo. Keep your head up shortly thereafter you landed snl. So it's true. This is true. I have two questions for you. Yes number one. How much did I have to do you with you? Getting US say at least ninety five percent yeah number two is going to be welcome great. I'm only that's it's ninety five percent of of my success as well. You're welcome But I'm very excited for you. First of all amazing. Congratulations all that stuff. WE'LL GET TO SNL in a second specifically the food culture. What I'm very curious about right but first we are going to get into your fridge picture picture of your fridge which you guys can see on my instagram at stand up? Then we're putting it on blast. Oh this is this is an. It's a it's a sad fridge. Zad Weird freight. So you said we couldn't stage the photo in any way by no but most people say that out to them and they still say you a real ass bitch okay. I did not stage my photo in any way shape or form. There were two things I wanted to to do before. I sent you to picture to see what my fridge looks. Like ninety percent of the time. Okay in fact mate and close to one hundred probably ninety eight percent of the time. There's two things things I wanted to take out there. That are never in my fridge. I'm going to guess what they are. Yes one is. Maybe the prune juice nope while the fringes. That's that's a new purchase. GOT that a couple of months ago. Yes new addition to your life. Oh yeah those in. You'd never had prune juice before but times called for everyone. Everyone knows what prune juice now. No one's just like having prune juice because they like the flavor I low key that will. Here's the thing I Lenin. I'd never had. It went into the pharmacy. I felt felt very much like but I also got it with like Merrill lax and Colas so. I was like this person at the register. Knows what's happening in my. I like. That always feels very strange at a pharmacy but I was. This was just the regular checkout line. I never had printers but I did not dislike the taste. I'm not gonNA like because I I learned when I bought that bottle I was like Oh this is from plums. I love plums. What's the big fuss about Kunduz? Speaking bad I think they need a rebranding or something they did. They could change the packaging. I feel like that pack that labeling and I'm a sucker for marketing that labeling and the branding of it they could they could read you the yellow label with the sun. It's so grandma prune juice it's true. Why is because I was thinking? The only the only thing I can think about that has a similar connotation is like cranberry juice through like anti cranberry and vodka. Our friends exactly. Yeah I don't. Why isn't probably the list that I'd love a prune vodka and we just aren't going to bars and ordering vodka prune like it's no the people start getting normalize this we can do this? I I would gladly okay so prune is not something that you would have taken out. Okay what are the. Is it the pedialyte nope okay. That's also a new addition edition hungover. I got it for one. I am hungover that I don't need to I was like this is a preemptive preemptive thing so that when I am Hungover I'm not like oh I just wish I had pedialyte and so I was like let me get it and I did that last month and I thought I was so brilliant really into four bottles in my home ones in the pantry and one is in my fridge. Actually most of the things in your fridge are alcohol recovery. It seems there's Gatorade. Yeah Coca Cola does pedialyte. There's a beer back there that as my friends beer to drink beer in the back but also the the. The GATORADE was for my at a stomach ache. That wasn't I thought stomach ache that I thought was a hangover situation but then turned into like. Oh no I I have a stomach problem. So there is a lot of a lot of like health and recovery the coke. The Coca Cola is nearly one neuro- I don't drink soda okay. So it's nearly one year old. My friend Carl Tart came over to my apartment. Love Karl. We'd love Carl Carl. There was nothing in my fridge at the time and I had been living there for like four months. Nothing in my frigerator. Carl wanted to have I think from a rum that little weight and gifted the cast members of SNL. So now it's very good rum and I don't even like that's a classy move. Yeah he like owns a rum company. I believe it's very very good. So yeah it's great and that's all I eh and my apartment to drink so I'm GonNa go to seven eleven and get a coke. That is nearly one year old. I do not the I've been having a soda. Like coke coke a that's I feel like a diet cokes in my fridge that I had for guests. And they're just they're yes they're never gonNA end. The beer is for a guest. He's like I got this so that whenever I come over it's one of my best friends forensic whenever I come over. I'll beers here. This one beer are you. What are you drink your drink of choice? We talk in for when I want to turn up or turning up I well I used to be a whiskey. Ginger person men strictly that for years like roughly two years ago ago I turned over to Tequila to kill a soda or to kill on the rock. Yeah just because I feel like. It's less sugary has some kind of It's not a little bit of a stimulant effect as opposed to a got an upper fantastic. I mean I don't know if that's true or Salah but I but I believe because I hearing that was enough from very good. I think because we believe that it's secret exactly manifested testings. I've manifested upper quality of Tequila. So that is my killer soda to kill on the rocks. Or what are the two things he would've taken out of here. I would've taken out if I were to stage aged I would have put that smoked salmon that is sitting on. Okay so there's two things that without is there on the. Yeah exactly. That is okay so last week. Let me explain being the two things. Because they're touching each other. Last week I went to a fancy schmancy dinner. I was not particularly satisfied by by the meal provided at the fancy schmancy dinner. Where was that? Put Him on blast I can i. It's not a restaurant. It's it's not a restaurant so I can't. It's not a restaurant so it's a IT'S A. It was an event that was going to say as an event and then after the event I I was like I. It wasn't the food was bad what I can put it on blast. It was at the American Museum of Natural History was bad. I wouldn't expect obviously our chef but it wasn't it was bad it was that I'm still hungry like it was like those like fancy events. They're like and here's a bit. Yes yes here's like Tapas but we'll have the two dishes and call it a meal and I'm like I'm hungry actually and I do most of my eating at night so what happens to come back from this event. It's nearly midnight. I try to order from my usual place. Miss Lilley's what is what was Jamaican food. Okay got it should. It's like a fun spot. I don't know if it's the most authentic delicious Jamaican food one one can ever have anyway. Missile cancelled my. They didn't cancel my order. My Post meet called me to tell me that they didn't have the items I wanted and I was like. Why didn't they have that online? That they didn't and then they ended up being. Like what else do you want in place when I was like. No I wanted these things so badly my mind. I decided on it the things that I wanted were they. Can you tell us how 'cause I ordered it last night night. I wanted some sweet plantains rice. MP's and What's the thing? Okay as rising okay. Something with a jerk in it now because I was a little on another jerk exactly what they do have a lot of jerk. I ordered it literally last night but I there's I I ordered it last night and of the three things that I'm saying I want in two of which I've already named the two. I named her the two. I have leftover still this morning and the Third Davos love. 'cause I destroyed it right What did I? Oh Jerk fries I did. I did have that yes. I got French fries. Price who orders French fries via post meets I do. I don't even live near Miss Lee. Oh no I haven't gone. They weren't soggy. They were warm. They were warm and they were seasoned jerk. Jerk seasoning will like wake anything up. That's what I wanted last week so anyway. The Pizza I ordered a pizza and ordering a pizza from Joe's pizza I thought and I placed place in order and then something told me double check that. This is the jobs that I actually wanted. Seventeen Joe's locations. There's like same jobs but different locations but then there's like another other jobs at the one with the apostrophe. There's on with Noah yes okay see. I didn't know this so i WanNa carmine something. I don't know what I wanted. I wanted the one with the apostrophe. I know that that's that's Joe's on. CARMINE is the original. Og Slice Place. You need to get okay. So I- something told me said that seemed too easy. I don't I was like check. The Joe's that you just order that large pizza from and it was Jose's it was no no because that would be so different but I looked and I was like this isn't the one with the apostrophe. That's not the logo I know so I cancelled that order was charged for housing. I'm I find that I'd rather be charged the full of this pizza and have pizza. I don't want but then I got the real pizza I wanted took forever. By the time I came I was like I'm tired. Ate a slice. I didn't want to throw the pizza way. Knowing I likely wasn't going to heat it up and eat it. Put it in foil. Eight one slice boxes too big for my refrigerator. Put it in foil so it would have taken that out because that is not representative. What I've never ordered a pizza to my apartment to the second time of order pizza in my life to my apartment? Second thing is smoked. Smoked Salmon whole foods on top candied smoked salmon and one like jerky question. What's up? Why Okay you've got your got to get judged I feel it? Yeah you've got your pizza in the foil and then you put the salmon right on top of it and you have like seven open other other places that you so. Here's the thing. I was a little tired or Latte tired kind of a little tipsy at the at this point and then the the salmon. I'm an actually usually goes in that Deli drawer right underneath the little crisper area. There's a little Deli draw. I think I pulled it out and put it on top because I was like need a quick snack on the ago and then and then just threw it on top of the pizza so if I were to restaged disabled would have been in the leader and the the pizza would have been in the trash. You get smoked salmon. Yeah that is and it's sliced. It's you know it comes prepackaged. MLA sell it sliced. I discovered this right before I moved. So my my old roommate put me on and I went to the Delhi. The Delhi at a whole foods here and they don't have the fresh smoked salmon so they had a prepackaged one by some company and I was like we'll try it. It's good. It's not as good as like a fresh. You know. Yeah Yeah I mean. I don't know if you can you next time. You GotTa Post mates from Russian daughters or something. Do they have delicious. But as candy smoked salmon and all it's the best in the country really and it's a block away from the whole foods. Okay all right fantastic. Yeah I'll do it and I know what to get you for Christmas very get. Well yes thank you please. I hope this isn't just for the PODCAST. I hope you're actually going to get a free now. Okay thank you okay. And then you've got you've got a lot of wacky milk's got your coconut almond milk. You got your coconut milk. Yeah so here's the thing I got got okay so that coconut milk if you zoom a little more yeah I think it says with coconut water water. Coconut Water Blend Disgusting Hashtag Disgusting Hashtag note what I signed up for Hashtag. I thought it was just coconut milk. You just grab it at the store and then you find out why is it. Why is so watery wise? I can't eat my fucking with that and that coconut milk is like thirty font like twelve. Excuse excuse me the correct so I was I got I had. This is disgusting so week or two later Nata we could relate it. That's not true. I'm never home but weeks later. I was like I'm going to get the coconut almond milk blend. I'm used to and that's what I did but you don't have the heart to throw out the first one part of me was like child of immigrants but it's full it's full. Oh bottle what am I. Don't want this but it's the same with the pizza. Honestly I actually if I was being real with myself thrown away the rest of that pizza after I was done with it. Because 'cause I was like I know I'm not going to heat up but at least it sitting in my fridge and it'll feel like I tried. Yeah I know same with that bottle of milk. I'M GONNA wait till there's expired and they'd be like well it it expired. I gave it a shot and see. It's not that I'm wasteful expired. I think that is a child of immigrants things. Because I'm like that too like I go to my parents fridge and like there's like every three weeks over my mom's like it's fine. It's okay for smells a little bit. Not Throw any thing away foodwise. I'll be like I'm done show like I'll eat it and I'm like no you don't have to eat it and when I go to restaurants and you don't have to eat everything on the plate if you're full you don't have to. There's just like this yes I could take it home. You could throw it away have so much guilt and shame overthrowing Eh but I'm with you it's like you're never going to have that pizza anytime anytime you wrap pizza foil. It's just you're just prolonging its death yes but it was sad because I had had one slice it was just that it's not what I wanted. Originally yeah and then took so long to get to the point that I had food so you have to remember. I wanted Miss Lilley's it was like forty five minutes into the way our wait time for it'll be to you in an hour to be for them to be like. Hey you don't actually have it and I'm like what the Fuck I ordered a wrong pizza from somewhere else and then I ordered that one and it's like yeah it's going to take an hour to come to you and I'm it's also one fifteen a m and this was after Bobby Flay. This is bobby. Didn't let me. I just think bigger portions Bobby Bobby Bobby I need a bigger little AAA air. I've I've met Bobby in real life and and I I did bobby flay show I did I did yes. We one of the Judges Judge John was very fun. I actually like Bobby Flay. I think he's he's like I'm okay with that. I'm okay I'm totally five. Bobby Bobby is a I. I was charmed by Bobby. I thought you know. I'm not too into celebrity. 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Listen to the Michaud mission on Apple podcasts. spotify stitcher today new episodes every Wednesday back to Agawam. I understand being disappointed when you want something when you want a specific thing and then you don't get it and now I imagine. Yeah you don't have that much free time anymore. I don't I do not have it. You WanNa get what you want. Yes and it's like it's like treats to myself things that I I still. I am not yet satisfied in New York the way I need to be says I. I don't know my food places. I'm still new to the city and in La. I knew all my food spots. I just had an extensive conversation about this two nights ago. Yeah at the cellar. We'll see comics. I met about food I was like I care a lot Part of my judge every every food every city by its food absolutely so when you asked me if I like a city unlike their food sucks but there's things to do it doesn't matter so I still don't know my spots in New York so I try to treat myself to the things I know but I'm like I know there's better. I just need to know my absolutely I mean I used to be a huge New York. I lived here for like thirteen years. Okay and and this was my joint. Yeah I have my restaurants and all that and I used to poop on food so much because I think when I moved to L. A.. which was ten years ago? The food scene wasn't that great now but Now now better food than New York I think so thought. I'd say that I know Dan. I'm going to be honest. It's it's damn good Out there and I have my spots and I'm like my friends. Let me pick the restaurant every time. And they're never disappointed and because they're never disappointed and then occasionally I'll be asked you let someone else pick and then I'm like what the fuck is this. What are your la spots? Oh Okay I love there was a did you ever go to Barroux. Yeah of course okay. Okay fantastic now this wacky it was like a wacky pop up. The chef was like a Korean dude to Korean. Dude I think so. Yeah but like classically trained like one of them was like at French laundry or something and then one of them. It was like a chef to a monk or something yes yes they got together and they made. They dislike weird futuristic kind of Jackie food. Yes there are lines outside and it was a shitty strip mall. Yes right in there by the I would have friends there. There was no sign edge to have friends. Meet me there and be like so. I'm sorry where that call me from outside and I'm sorry where are we going. I'm like just next to the seven eleven next sign and you'll see just look inside Borrow Dave's hot chicken Dave's was in the parking lot and not in. Its brick and mortar mortar. Now he has staff making things and nobody. It's not it's not as delicious. It simply isn't as I suspected it. What did you like it better than a Bee's raise hell raise Ya? Yeah I did Davis Armenian American and I think that immigrants and children of immigrants know how to season food. I also huge huge fan of Austria. Buca is it a stereo or Austria Austria Australia Buca so on melrose not to be mistaken with a stream Osa sir which I think overrated. I agree I'm sorry if anyone for Mozart listening to hey sorry no offense but your food is way too expensive. It's not that delicious. I'm like a flavor junkie. Okay so I need. I want my pizzerias great pizzeria. Mozart I love. You don't like it fine fine. It's fine I think it's I think it's unloved the opinionated it's fine and I got opinions about lacking Alexa. Lila's Argentine grill. Now Y- Lalas. I really liked but then sometimes I go. Do I like this because this chimney. Cherry sauce with the bread is delicious and because I get my mistake with the like mushroom sauce that they have there and is that what makes the meal because when I don't get that mushroom sauce I'm like this is a fine. Yeah fine state laws. Yes that's I recently i. I think I've been bamboozled by space. And I'm fully really aware of it BLEDSOE's for Barbecue Fan. I've had it from the Compton location than the one on the brea I love blood cells I mean I could go on and I know this is. This is exactly why we let's let's delve a little bit into into your past into your culture all that stuff and by culture. I mean Nigerian and Baltimore Okay. Nigerian was. Do you know much about Nigerian food. Did you grow up eating Nigerian food thing. I was raised at to eat Nigerian food. It was a big part of my upbringing. I do not eat. There's Jalal rice price which is like Some might say it's like by okay. I don't think that that's correct. Exactly I understand where that's coming from. It's just that there's a bunch of stuff in there but I'm like it's not I don't I buy. I believe the rice is a little more as a little softer. It's a little risotto. Exactly no so our Rice's little more authentic in at least the way my mom makes it and that's how I prefer if there's one dish that's like Oh my God if we're gonNA EAT Nigerian food. This is the thing that you have to eat. Is that this one jill off rice. Yes okay this is the dish okay. So Brigadier Army July race is basically. I know how to make it too and I was. I thought about making it last night and I was like you're like well I say I made you love Rice. Okay come over No so it's breath basically a it can be a few ways but it's like a tomato base rice so that you can make tomato paste And then also fresh tomatoes in addition to tomato paste auto It has I mean the seasonings. It's like you're gonNA use. You're GONNA use onions. So it's not as easy in news fresh garlic You might use onion powder garlic powder new salt pepper Paprika seasoned salt Maggie Cubes Oak. Okay yeah it's like a broth- Accu- yeah yeah not and you know. They have a lot of young cubes from not that brand. But they're not as delicious and flavorful. So maybe I think Maggie like the liquid version of it has an. I'm saying like I'm saying it with the accent that my mom does because it's like it is Maggie right. Mom Says Maggie. Yeah so and so. That's what I was raised hearing. So that's high and now I just have blended the two. I think it's just Maggie but I've been saying I've heard take all my life right accent anyway The I think Maggie has the liquid version has MSG in it but it's delicious the MS Ms Delicious but to me is a little bit cheating because this going into your brain and just like firing off delicious. Yeah I know but we. We use the the cubes for the rice. She'll use cubes. I don't think using a regular. A billion cube is as effective delicious. My mom had me making a jill off white rice with chicken broth base. which I don't think she did when I was growing up? I don't remember ever using chicken broth. Okay so I it helped my child. I feel like it's like she's dumb. Let me help her right. This rice And then you might do meet Of Red Meat of some sort that you might buy at the in the meat section at the grocery store. That's like it'll say like meat for stews. Okay got and that's the meat. You would use a personal you'll slow uh-huh cooking yes exactly. Yeah I You started on the stove top and then the way my mom does it and I think that it's just how she does 'cause. We spoke recently about some Jello. Rice is that a wedding and somebody's Jalopy Ice House like it tastes burnt. It's not look burnt and my mom was like. Yeah because the way they cook it. She's like most people cook Jill off Rice Ace It's a huge pot and I think it's over a fire something yes. It's an a huge products over fire. She's like and it does burn outside like the. Oh Oh you get that crossing the ball at the bottom but it like the burning of that that flavor permeates through the whole rice like that burnt flavour interesting and so I do not like that. So that's why I put mine in the oven. She's like I let it bake for. We've let it bake for like thirty minutes. I'm in the state you know a lot. A lot of cultures have that the burnt rice thing. Yes on the Bob Biven. Bob Has the the pirates soaker out name for it. Okay Have Ah. The Eagles called. Which means bottom of the pot? Okay do you like that is that it's not burnt with us. It's like Kinda it's crispy okay and it's it's it's it's one why people come over yes like it's the one thing that they're like. Oh I need this too high need to have. I've never had Persian food and really my landlord in La. I could cry eight years. No love this man. He's Persian I. Is he dead. He's not I I just miss him and I miss our House get emotional just I. I'm like they offered to make us food and I never I always felt like. I don't WanNa you guys guys don't have to make us. Oh my God we're very. We're very insistent Polite culture I know I know I by the way I Did this show at U. C. B.. I was a guest and it was for per it was in celebration of Persian News. Yes exactly and they have three people who are not Persian up up and at one point on stage and I don't. I don't remember if this is a portion of the show. I think that's the show that we were at backstage. I think no we were at Hollywood for ugly people. Oh you're right you're right about it on my way here but I didn't I was I was I was deemed honorary Persian. I won I won a really yes because my best friend is Middle Eastern and I feel like the cultures. I mean it's pretty she's afghan-pakistani I feel like it's pretty. It's pretty similar. Yeah so I I won. I won the game. I won the game. I won the game and so I know about the insistence but I just felt bad. And it's funny because one of my best friend and I cooked her dinner once in college and then she's like I'm going to wash dishes and then I was like no you're not and she's like I must and I was like no you cannot and then she's like I have to know like like in my culture you don't you're the guest is not yet to do anything. And she's like an in my culture as the guest. I'm back in forth and I was like okay. Fine you may wash one. Oh my God so true I think I think especially especially Persians. We will call Taro. This concept of like I will offer it to you and No matter what it is like if you take a cab in Iran yes Like the cabinet will be like you. Don't have to pay me really so you have to insist that you're going to pay him on. My girlfriend hates this concept. She's like I never know what you fucking I know it'll be I would be stressed my One of the things I an show I it was the asked us. Okay if you go to to someone's house and they say they like your sweater What is the proper response you you can have it? Yeah I got it right. They gave us options to like. This can have you can have this letter. I told my Out I have a friend who's Indian and He's from India. His mom was in town here and I told her I liked her scarf and she was like at the end of our lunch was like take take it and I was like no take it. Police take it and I was like no and then taken I took I had the scarlet to Scott Listen. If you're having in trouble stopping a child go to Middle Eastern Indian person. I love your child. You will have a child so quickly take my take a have a but okay so I grew up with Jill off rice right. That's like the thing that my mom would make a pot of it. We'd eat it through the week and then she'd make another pot of it. Yeah and then. There's like rice and stew which is just the stew as a tomato base with the the meat but the jalopy price you can put if you WanNa make what I call the light skinned law fries. It's not really what it's called. But it's like she might put like a little bit of curry powder Jamaican curry powder. Yellow curry powder Vegetable Vegetable Medley and then and like you can do shrimp. My mom never did the ship. That was my favorite one and she never did. It will only be at like Nigerian gatherings at get that one my why would mom. How's it going to be sure about me? That's what that's what you like very good. You won't be having she. I just think I don't think she disliked shrimp. It's just like not the ones she makes. Yeah and she and I. That's the one I make myself now when I July rice and I'll do the vegetables and shrimp I think July fries is a very fun name yet. Gel off you know. There's a peace between between guardians and Nigerians about who like a friendly like Internet beef about who has the better Jalal Jalal fries have July barbecue in the south. Like yeah I think North Carolina are exactly like that. But I'm like as a Nigerian. Well maybe unbiased. Let's see your family. I do do think Nigerians have the better deal off rice but that all my gun and listeners. Yeah but I do. Unfortunately I I do. Think Nigerian better rights but another thing They have like re Soup and Foo Foo Foo Foo was like a doughy substance that she ball up and you dip it in the soup and sweet. Yes that sounds familiar to me. I read the book Americana I know. Excuse just preparing for this podcast. We'll be back in a moment. Hello my little podcast fans. I have another hot podcast for you. Please listen to two girls one podcast. It's a show. All about weird and fascinating Internet people the hosts alley and they go behind the scenes and interview professional tick lers tender Ghostwriters Competitive Eaters Doomsday peppers. Men Who wants to get pregnant okay. Brownies flurries and much much more. You can find two girls one podcast. Every Monday day on anywhere you listen to podcasts. So yes the Foo Foo. I grew up eating but I never liked it. I don't the substance the consistency so I took my dough the dough. I can't fathom swallowing following the like. I love the soup. The soup is great. What is the Dell like? Is it going to be totally like generalizing and like putting all of Africa In one point Africa country in the country in the state of Ethiopia. Anything like that youth the opium bread. That's great you should ask No it is in the sense that you'll eat the soup that way. You're not gonNA use a spoon for your soup but right but kind of spongy almost ammonia. No it's not it's not and I. I'm not a huge fan. I hate. I'm not yet we allowed to have hot takes like that on this podcast. Don't love absolutely love that bread with which I hate it with with the of putting your. I'm sorry I don I really and I've tried. Well I'd like a white friend. Take take me in college too. Easy opium foodies from the bay area and people like yeah. I love to take their ethnic friends and I was like oh I think that yeah. I don't I don't like this. But furthermore I think you're excited because this is flavored right. Yes I like legitimately. I'm like you're excited. 'cause this is flavored period. I was like this. This is like I feel like Ethiopian. Food is the gateway ethnic food for like white people in college and it wasn't college. It was a college we ventured to Fairfax. I think it's like the open spot we went to. I think there's one that's like watch. You hit join but I. I don't like it's not like the dough is not like that though I it's similar I to be clear in functionality in a sense but it's I this is horrible. It's like and it served like how like you'd ball up. Plato Plato on a plate. And you're going to break off pieces. I'm staying I am so bad. It I can't figure out it would be alike cooked. It'd be pizza dough or like how pizza dough starts at all but except for like it's actually cooked and I'm not GonNa do this. Justice like super for dense like native. Is it like maybe wheat flour. That's incorrect. Some people eat it with flour potato bit. My mom was cassava thinking. Yes yes yes it is. It is one hundred percent that it's cassava. Okay got it I I just I don't I'm big on consistencies. Yeah I feel like there's something else I don't like L. Oysters Doors because consistency and I try actively as a Foodie to try to. I try to like olives. It can't get can't get you cannot get behind me and I try I actively wow I I get it. I have foods like that through there. I'm like I'm a Foodie. I need to like like pickled herring. It's nasty so so you grew up in Baltimore which school in Baltimore. Oh you did with John Okay. My sister went right there. Yeah did you get into a lot of the Maryland. Food like the crabcakes. Like oh honey lake trout okay. No Lake Trout millage. True marriage isn't really trout. Yeah I don't even know what that is but true Maryland girl here. I- crabs huge for me. He really huge. I'm on the other side of the spectrum. Wow what sense I think crabs are too much effort to get out of here. Okay sorry no go go go go I okay if I fucking breakdown. A crab grab like a blue crab or whatever and get the amount of joy I get from. The meat is is not worth the effort. I have to go through to get okay. So the solution to that my my brothers feel similarly the solution to that. I got excited because for years I strictly eight crabcakes books are great. We Love Crab Cake in love with Maryland. No I won't eat a crab. I won't eat crab outside of the state of Maryland like that's a rule. I tried it in Atlanta this summer when I was there and I was like. Oh hashtag disgusting. Yeah this is bad. This is bad and embarrassing. I and I know but and then I was mad at myself. It was like I betrayed my like religion or something. I can't believe I know better than this and I think what have I done. Yeah I've never. I just refused crab. Outside of the state of Maryland was feeling froggy in Atlanta which is insane. Because there's where's the water there and they. I love seafood at Atlanta. And I'm like where's your body. Yeah Yeah it's not delicious. I've had some issues with the land of food lately there this summer and I was like. Oh this food is not good. I don't think any of this is good. Thank they think their New York. But they're not oh they are truly trying to be fancy and it's stain your land a day and you're getting a good music attias strip clubs music stick for that but yes big on crabs. My and my mom used to do like the drive around Baltimore. You grow somebody on the street a cell in bushels and you get take it home and you steam Amir self. That was so great. I feel well I hadn't done the work for years and then after living in California for twelve years I think like your ten one year. I went home For Christmas and I was like this isn't crab season and house. I'm getting craps. I'm not even GonNa get a crab cake which usually will do I'm like. I'm GONNA get craps. I'm going to get crabs. I want to do the work. I'm a crack of open and identity so satisfy when when there's a lot of meat in there here's the thing hungry for like an hour because I'm having one teaspoon of crab every every ten minutes an art to it. I stood it is. I stayed standing in my mother's kitchen and had this like Crap place by my mother's place they get a dozen in the wintertime and they give me like two dozen because it's the winter and there and so I didn't know that the first couple times I went and I was like I'm GonNa stand these crabs in the kitchen I'm standing here just crowned uh-huh and then like after like tenth. I'm like they're still so many crafts I like. This isn't twelve but I I love it. I understand Sanyo frustration in that. I had crawfish for the can't be my first. I believe I've had it another time. But I went to a crawfish boil longline and it was just crawfish and potatoes sales and when I tell you furious after I said and I made them give me two plates. And they're like we're not allowed and I was like please come on so I get to plates dates and I'm grateful I did but it made no difference in that. There's no meat crawfish and it's not delicious. Oh I don't know I might disagree with you there. I hate a what. What do the work for cross nothing inside of them? It's easier math to breakdown crawfish than like. It's like it's more like a shrimp. How do you breakdown your crab Dan? I'm now curious. If you're doing it right I don't like I don't like your tone first of all I just like. How are you breaking get down to toothpicks and you go all right well here in lies the problem? I was furious at the end of that crawfish boil. I wasn't showing we get but I was like. Oh I'm starving. You went home. You called Miss Lilley's what happened now. Costa Rica actually and so I was like I want I wanted what I specifically I was like. I want soul food something. That's not at all Caribbean. I was in the Caribbean side of Costa Rica. And I I my friend was was like no. Let's just go to this place. It's right here says party. I want to go to and like the one thing. They had on their menu is shrimp tacos. And I was like no no. I just came from Caribbean waters and they had seafood. I have not having shrimp from Tacos in the middle of Brooklyn and it was Hashtag disgusting. Yeah Yeah Fainter Landry Brooklyn Stain your fucking lane. We don't need you doing seafood. Rookie great there is a great lobster. Place a truck. There's a truck that is Brooklyn base but it's outside Rockefeller Center. Well you you know. Here's the thing if you get if you're getting Maine lobster and it's alive you can get it in the fucking supermarket and it's going to taste the same as it. Will the best steakhouse yeah. That's just the way pretty delicious. I just love food guys. I guess this is to say that I love food. I love you know. It's very refreshing to. Who have another comic? WHO's passionate about? Oh yeah I care so much. It is too much and I'm like I want every meal to be delicious. I feel every every single and I have a bad meal. It's like just wasted one. Whatever the fraction of my life yes it feels like that when I tell you some food will get your endorphins popping? Because I I was recently talking to someone and they're like you care so much about food and I'm like have you ever had a good meal and they're like I don't know where all meals are. Okay you're a fool. Meals are not good. Mel Mel Keenan. When I got this job one of the first observations he made about me and I didn't know he was paying as much attention but he goes? This girl likes her food. I was telling Leslie that like one day when they're like. What are you having for dinner to Dan? I was like you know I was thinking about. I like to read love sister Poland. It's like I'm like serious. I like for real meals for like well. This is what the next thing I was going to ask. Yes is like tell me about the S. and L.'s. Very busy you're always there. That's what we always hear. Well we don't hear about is what is the food culture like on sets. What is the I imagine? It's crazy order in culture because you're there all the time yeah. There's a lot of ordering through on Mondays. Basically yours ores. And as you know you're GONNA eat on your own time and But we always have our trustee interns who we can ask politely to grab food from somewhere. Ah I don't know what the radius is somewhere close ish. Yeah so that's always a nice option. Sometimes when I'm running late to work that's okay and I'm like I haven't eaten I'm like oh well I'll all be able to ask for some food. Something from the concourse never anything from the concourse for me but that doesn't meet my standards but We can get something nearby. I Tuesday's is writing night writing night. They will serve US dinner so we all get served dinner. varies from like is it ordered. Inter they they've made ordered in again is someplace we get from. Autos TACO's we've had dinosaur barbecue places of that nature and everyone's getting the same. Everyone's like we're getting we're ordering from dinosaur buffet. There's no like what do you want it's like this is buffet style ordered some stuff in here it is and you go down the line like buffet style and grab APP whatever you want and then sit down and have it and then Wednesdays we have snacks at the table read. The table is full of snacks. Okay all all kinds of snacks like healthy snacks or healthy. Some are not some are like I eat. I'm big on the like gummy bears. I just love gummy bears. Don't I'm pretty particular about the things I put in my body in that if it's like if something says it's artificially flavored now. This is a new thing for me not like new new in the last ten years. I'm like ooh. What does that mean but that is not to say? I'm a healthy eater like there's very few things I do for my health and like that feels like an easy one for me where I'm like. Okay I'll avoid Fischel flavors but I love gummy bears. Like what are those even if Lorne michaels eating anything or he's just like I don't know I don't ever. He's on the other side of the table so I I'm not I'm not but we've all got water and then Thursday's is like you're blocking and you know. They have crafty for crew true and they have they might do meal for them. I don't really know but there's a day when we might order and for ourselves whatever you want Friday similarly Friday we do pre tapes and on pre tapes apes. If you're on one they'll be like what do you want. Obviously so you know again. Based on location depending on where that shoot is on location. Somewhere and then Saturday's ladies were there all day and we have meal break at like between like four five and six and that is like a kitchen on the ninth floor is like like we've got the Asian station. Then we've got the American got borough on this station and then the first station is always something intricate. And I don't know I was the the guests eating with you guys or the guest. Doing their own thing. Guest is doing their own. Guest is usually doing their own thing but my days start late now. Robert Deniro is like waiting in line at the At the at the time but some people don't even eat at me like some people some people in the cast and such and writers don't eat the food provided immune break. They're like want something. Yeah you get in but we I care a lot about. I got a meal from Sax on Saturday Saks. Fifth Avenue Avenue. There's a restaurant in there called Lavenu and let me tell you that. The morale Rigatoni is delicious considered getting the spicy lobster pasta but I was like back. There's a reason I didn't do that. Didn't want spite. It was in the mood for spicy. I Love I got changed. I haven't colleen I having having it. All is the whole thing about it. I'm like fully fully me still and I love good. I just love good food and I'm like food. You should have delicious food. I feel like I I feel like if I got like super famous and people saw the way that I eat which is the same way that I do. Now they'd be like this guy is a fucking he's letting him get it is. Yeah well. That's what I want when I was an open Migros doing the same exact I am. I've always I this is me. I have a specific in and out order guys. I did not like like in and the first time I had it as a girl who reps for the East Coast hard and wanted for everything that came from the East Coast. It'd be better and that which came from the West. I was prepared to not like in and out but I was like I hear. It's great. Go the first time I was like this is not good I did not like it. But here's what changed. The game grilled onions grilled. uh-huh yeah okay. I get no lettuce online because I feel like it's distracting interesting. It's just a distraction. I don't know nutritional value. It's just like what is like the little crunch that thing and Yang could give could care less. I want like the senior center your gums. What labor if you're not adding flavor go the fuck home I on Blassie? Watery motherfucking iceberg. Is there lettuces shit trash and then Romaine you guys here fucking where Romaine trying to kill US remain trying to kill you and then every once in a while it's like Romaine safe again and then a couple months later cigna remains guy coli giving it to you i. It's a sleeper cell of lettuce. You guys keep your little nutrition list. Greens to yourselves yes. I'm good but I got to. I say Yeah Shadow shadow to Kale Ridichio. Oh we like some ridichio. I like at listening. I'm basic I like Kale so much and I like Kale is good and I like baby spinach. I love me some baby spin but when you try to cook it somebody take half a team. That's that is devastating. I will say the one I had. I attempted to make it years ago and I didn't know this about it i. I didn't know that had this property and I was like where's all to spend. Where did it go but like I had ruined it? It actually all basically disintegrated. I don't remember what I did but it was like just not there anymore. I was like oh flow of green juice. But there's olive oil in it but anyway the guy at the drive-thru when I'd stop stop getting my Cheese I was GONNA want cheese and he said to me game changer. I didn't even know this was an option. All my years in and out he says. Do you want like you know what cheese. Okay okay Do you want Chop Chili's on it or something and I was like I've been coming here for Ted motherfucking years. I'm like I'd I like I. Yeah that sounds great. I guess got it. Oh my gosh. That's a good burger. That is a good look. I love in and out I. I am a little over there little secrecy secrecy thing of like we don't put anything on the menu that we have but if you ask for the shaved white truffles we'll give you see. I don't see the thing is like I've never even inquired about the secret. Menu have heard about it. I'm sure I could Google and people are like they have this this and that and I'm like that's fine. I am so picky that I probably don't want whatever weird fast food shit. They have on their menu wrote but those chop chilies chilies delicious. You should Dan. I know you're upset with them but just try try. Those judges don't know that it's good with the chiefs. I don't know what that's like but but my God game changer. We'll get back to echo in a moment but I smoked. Salmon is awesome but Salmon Candy is on another level and super easy to make get home cut salmon into strips Dowsett in a mixture of three to one sugar and salt and refrigerate for twelve hours the next day dust them off. Heat the oven to one seventy glaze as every hour with Maple Syrup and a little soy sauce. After about six hours it will develop an amazing crust taken out and let it cool. This candy is so frigging delicious. If I was walking by a sketchy dude outside van was like come and saddened Dan. I've got some salmon candidate. I would text a friend picture of the license plate of the van and yet in that was weird of US unnecessary it just it just tastes very good. Believe me back to go ODEM. We have these rapid fire questions. Okay okay rapid fire and within these. We're GONNA talk even more about okay great to stimulate conversation all my gosh but by the end of this every restaurant and food place going to hate us. I don't care that's what is your earliest food. Memory my earliest memory. I would say having Jila Rice at at my aunt's house to love fries. Just it was such a part of my upbringing. Thought I was done with that. We're not July J. O.. I Love L. efforts so great What is your death row meal death row meal okay? I think it's going to have to be an authentic tick Maryland crab cake. No fillers. No filler how some Hashtag. No fillers no filter Nova Okay and then I also. Do you probably do reis some sort of rice. I love rice offers. AB offers. But I do love Rice. The crisis greatest rice gets a bad rap in this country. I don't know why Rice's delicious I think we're just in an anti carb culture a little bit of rice. I'm on an all carbon like like right out of what it mean girls is. What is the best high end meal that you've ever had best high end meal so this is tough because all I do is have pipe factory fab good? Can I get a certificate because I can't keep that lifestyle for much masahisa fantastic tastic granted. I looked up there yelp stuff the other day like when I was in Chicago to Masahisa. I couldn't afford it at the time that I went but now can and from listeners. At Home Masahisa was basically the first restaurant that Chef Nobu opened in La Right. This is like little. It was a little tiny join. It's still a little tiny. Yes and it's super duper expensive. Yeah but it's kind of a very important restaurant because a lot of the things that you eat now. At other High Ryan Sushi restaurants were invented there yellowtail yellows are hoping is I hadn't the words. Yeah it's a perfect dish. That is phenomenal. Tom And I looked up there. YELP and I was like they have roaches in there and I'm scared of roaches. So I was like can't go back but that was the they're not serving that that's really. Yeah exactly at that. They're not they're not serving. Those guys are just like living rent-free but I that is that is incredibly memorable meal and to be on. I had that when I was in college and stuck with me because that yellow tail is like I feel like you haven't had it until you have theirs. Yeah it's like I feel that's pretty amazing. Amazing Yeah Okay. Well if you think of a different one I'll come back. I think that's the one that's tweet at us and I'll share. What is the best low end meal that you have ever had best low end meal? I gotta say that in and out. Yeah every time I have. It was my chops. Chili's please no cheese double-double girl unions skip. The lettuce locked the lettuce. I know iced. We've talked extensively about it. But that's about as faithful now really faith good one. Yeah you can't go wrong. What is your favorite junk food? What I'm drunk? I needn't eat less devolvement. I'm like yeah I'm the other the way around if I don't eat wait is that what needn't means the I I shouldn't yeah need. Shouldn't I will the other way round if I don't have a good base if I If I don't have a food going on then I'll probably yeah probably what's happened. We're probably drink too much. We probably drink too much. What's happening? I'm like I can't I like like. I need to eat in preparation for drinking but if I eat while I'm drunk I'm like that's not I'm GonNa wake up with the problem so I try not to eat anything anything wild when I'm drunk if I do it'll be like I'll get. I'll have bread. I mean like I don't go ham. Nothing crazy with flavors when I'm drunk and I if I'm eating it has a flavor so all right. What is your favorite? What is your favorite hangover food? I it's boring but I'm like give me bread and not too much flavor. I if I'm feeling at all kind of hung over I need to keep it real simple. Real simple okay. Yeah okay I feel like I love going for like Rahman and then I feel like awful. After what is your desert desert island food. You're trapped on a desert island one food for the rest of your life. YOU NEVER GONNA get tired of it. Oh my goodness I in now. Wow I'm going to have to say crabs and I. That's boring but I really love crab and convenient for desert island. There's probably actually craft. Yeah I do. I love crab and like it's light enough where you're only gonNA feel heavy once you've gone overboard your it's only gonNA. That's the kind of meal is only in a way you down what you've truly go and I like to eat to the point of paralysis. Yeah that's what people like. There's a normal person a full and I just realized this three years ago I was like Oh you don't have to like I eat. I want my definition is. Apparently I can't speak anymore. I WANNA I WANNA Talk I. We need to everything sees as that how other people eat. Because it's not normal or healthy or right so but like crab is the kind of thing where I'm like. Yeah I could eat that Get that old bay Yeah Oh yeah oh my goodness yes. But like crabs one of those foods. Though that you're burning calories as you're eating them open the whole cardio work out so you actually end up. Even you won't be fully the flavor. Yeah is light it just yes yes crabs would be what do you think about snow. Crabs are you like a snow crab fantas away. This is like a big Alaskan ones that are like I have had that list catch shrug of the shoulder. I kind of feel neither here nor there not. They're not in Maryland crap. I think you're right. And they're also like ten times. The price of Maryland. Which is insane saying to me I've had those I actually had those in Atlanta's laws like this is not the first time I had them in house again? Not Bad bad food. Bad Alaska Hat Lanta. Let's just keep places under the bus. I got more. What is what okay? What food can't you stand eating? We touched upon a couple of doubt like Ram and do not like not eat a boil. Chicken honey no. Oh my God okay wait. There's a single. There's a dish that Singapore's Singapore's face. I could just feel I can feel by faces just facing oil chicken they like brazen like soy soy sauce. Oh have not had have not had so. I've not had to comment. So you know what I can't say I don't like all boil chicken ovoid. I will say that bullshit could the way it looks in Rahman is not for me. Okay and then I proceeded to eat it still and I go yes not for me my stomach kind of flat for okay. Yes yes exactly. Not what like it feels like a last resort kind of thing. Do not like olives. Don't love oysters. Wasters have come to terms with wasters. Just kind of cool. That feels like growth for me. I mean it's similar. Well what I'm sensing yes. I'm sensing an aversion to slime. Yeah because you don't like the slightest maybe of the olive has some slime. The broiled chicken has sort of a slimy job of the hut. Look a little bit. I don't I love. I don't love a slime and I can't think of a slime I enjoy but You're not gonNA love well. Tokyo all slime all the time. Japanese food is a low. Wow Gosh this is good to know because I've been thinking about going to Tokyo. It's the best food city in the world. You'll find people love. I feel like Japanese. People love slime the way Americans. Arkansas crunch okay. Yeah Americans do love crunch that is their shit and I feel I feel I feel indifferent to crunch. I don't really. This is why you're putting in crunch on Blah. How putting crunch blast to dude and not? Then we're not talking the gym. I don't like the gym crunch disgusting. I don't do. I don't like gyms I don't love potato chips I in fact. Wow but guess what as a few months ago. My face mortified. Don't pull back pulling back as of a few months ago. This is a weird like what I don't even know what this is Cape Cod chips. Fuck with them so hard for them. Yes but I don't that doesn't chip though they're very very exactly. I don't know what this means. All I know is is that my friends are always like when we like. Let's have a lunch so I have a friend in La who also loves food as much as I do and will do these like we're having we're going to have have lunch but we're GonNa make it at your house or we're going to go to the park and have lunch. We're GONNA sit on whatever and we make and my friends will be like. What do we need to pick up? And they're like oh or I went on vacation with them twice chips. These motherfuckers love chips. And I'm like I don't like chips so I if we're getting chips we're getting these like I. I I basically was chips are forced on me and I found it ship. I like it but they don't respect my chip choice. My they're not like yeah. We love these Cape Cod. I get like shat on now forgetting like playing chips so like I. They were so adamant we get chips. Like fine I guess it's normal to get chip and then I would grab the Cape Cod ones and be like the these but anomaly. I like these. They don't respect my I chip choice. I think that's weird. I think Cape Cod is a very respect respectable by Sura they want trash. They want like wisely Ashley. But it's like they like want like flaming hot cheetos which chip with or they want like I don't like to read or cheetos. They love Doritos. And I'm like no I can't get behind you on this. This is that artificial. What is the situation with you with you? I'm with you on that. Well we see brought. Got It back from the Romney. Did but I will say this another thing. I don't like cereal. I don't hate it But when I'm eating I do and I've spoken about this publicly. I when I'm eating exterior I feel like wow has my life really come to this. Wow yes I mean. That's like the Labor of all the end of two and a movie where the hero is got her lowest point like so close to hitting rock bottom. I have serial as like A. You should have cereal in your home and but I like like old. The People Cereals Muesli no fiber one. kind of but not like crackling. OAT Bran is my shit if I have to have a cereal. FROSTED frosted mini wheats. Also my shit. Yeah Okay ready for the last question. Yes this is my favorite question. Okay and I have a feeling you're gonNA love this question to okay and we're going to really really get into okay. What is your restaurant? Pet peeve Oh my God. There's so many of them to two the two of them giving me there. There's maybe more than two. I think I'M GONNA say to not seasoning your food. Yeah what the actual fuck and then that seemed like it kind of gave it a like of course no brainer. But here's the thing Dan there's places where I'm like this doesn't have any seasoning on it. Yeah nothing these fries. Don't even have a little bit of salt salt and I'm like I don't WanNa have to seize in my food after I don't love condiments either by the way I like economists to feel optional. I like for my food to to have a flavor of its own and if I wanted it my friend ketchup. I can if I'm in the mood but not like out of necessity right some flavor feel very strongly about this so when your food's not seasoned what are we doing here. Close Up Shop. Yeah go straight to hell. I it's upsetting to me to be a boost mobile take over the earliest lit. Truly like I yep. I could protest outside of a restaurant with like close this place down. They don't have. They don't season their food. I also don't like and I only discovered this is recently but I go you so many restaurants there desserts are store-bought expand. I was at a restaurant and someone was telling me which dessert should try and it was somebody who works there and then like Oh. Don't do that one no. She shouldn't get that one that one's from the store that was from like Costco go or something and I was like I was like excuse me I hate to hear this. But then it all made sense. Everything clicked for me. I go I have been places where you have a meal there the meals and phenomenal. And then you say I'm GonNa grab a dessert and you go This feels and I can tell I never was able to say it was about but I was on a set two years go and I said they had US eating birthday cake for the scene and I was like I'm not really gonNA I didn't hear in the background I was like I'm not eating this bit bucket. I'm just saying it's store bought cake and I really don't do that. I was like and I love baked goods. I feel really passionately about them as well like we're not I'm not eating and we're not eating store bought cake am I can tell the difference and they all clicked for me so I think that that's incredibly like just don't have fucking dessert menu. Oh you coffee. That's that's annoying to me. That's frustrating too. Good one I would say those are the two that stick out to me as the seasoning thing we could go on. If it doesn't have flavor go the fuck home yeah shut shut it down. It's like someone in. Our industry is not caring about laughs. Yeah that's why you're there. Yes yes yes honestly fuck off find a different career do something else like. I don't know open a coffee shop. Great you don't need to open a coffee shop in this space go work at an espresso press a button. It upsets me. I I really because I'm like. What is the point that makes him? I like talk to the chef. Yeah 'cause I'm not even like season to my liking. I'm Mike Flavor of any sort. Well you know there's a reason why like the end on that question because I like to get my guest fuming before they leave. Well I'm the hot right. Now thank you so much again. It's so awesome to have a copy so passionate about food because I feel like comments are known for being entertained the flu can we plug free plug. Oh my goodness I can be seen. In an episode of Shrill Catch me in some episodes of Brock Meyer and at some point soon I'm in the film broken heart gallery with some really great people awesome and that'll be coming out. Otherwise catch hatch me on. SNL catch me on twitter and instagram. What is your twitter instagram? Twitter is eggy underscore boom and that's E. G. G. Y. underscore being. Oh APP like a Bouma little explosion and then on instagram. It's edgy boom no underscore. Yeah that's that's it for now all right. WE'RE GONNA go pick it in front of the iceberg lettuce store. Now thank you so much. Thanks Dan this. 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Ep. 08: Scott Aukerman & Kulap Vilaysack

Green Eggs and Dan

1:16:09 hr | 1 year ago

Ep. 08: Scott Aukerman & Kulap Vilaysack

"Hi If you love listening to this show. Please consider giving a rating and review on Apple podcasts or wherever. Oh you listen to podcasts. We WanNa continue bringing you this show for free and part of our ability to do that means we need a big audience. It may not seem like it but rating being in reviewing the show will help more people find us. Thanks chicken and off on the bullet holes in vegetables big campaign. Cool Keeney Beautiful Oud food. Hi everybody welcome to green eggs and Dan my guest today plural guests with an S. I have the pleasure of speaking to the comedy. Power couple. Couple of Scott Aquaman and cool belicheck Scott is the creator of the hit. PODCAST and show Comedy Bang Bang and another new podcast. Three them both both on ear wolf. He is the CO creator of between two firms Zach Galifianakis and is the writer director of the between two ferns movie which has just come out on net inflicts. Koolup is a hilarious writer. Actor Creator triple threats. She's been seen in children's hospital parks and wrecks the office love Brooklyn nine nine and the list goes on and on. She is the creator of the hit. Show but JILLION dollar properties my favorite project to ever be a part of and she has just come out with an an insanely amazing powerful documentary about her life called origin story which you can watch streaming on Amazon prime. I'm so glad we have another another Dula Lord today. You're a second duo. Who was the first the sklar brothers? Oh my goodness. We're just like twins but we faulk but they give you the comedy of one person. We're going to give you the comedy of one half a person. Sorry come on my friends. You're my friend. You're all our friends you know they do really well. They do the whole like I said a word. I say the same word at the same everything really well brain in the in a very wonderful ooh drinking a Dasani Johny SC cool. I mean this is an ad Dan everyone is just basically water in a Britta that they I make accent but it's probably not a bread. It's probably something that's off market. Yeah generic they've there was that Penn and teller bullshit segment that was their show. Not It wasn't a segment you're valuing it as bullshit Where they they claim that most bottled water is just like they pour out of a hose garden house? They have like their version of Adam. Ruins everything you might reverse it so runs everything his version of their things. Yeah right yeah yeah you guys. Actually we're GONNA go through your fridge if you don't mind. We have wonderful pictures of your friends that you can see on my instagram at standup. Dan where'd you get these pictures church. Don't worry about it it's got you guys have a very well-stocked fridge wonderful or well-stocked what in your your opinion what is well stocked and what is just overall. I think it's both it's very full. It's very you have a very good economic economical use of space. ooh Do you have a lot of different kinds of booze which I love. You have champagne. The another person who had champagne at the ready was Paul Tompkins in the fridge. I think we probably probably have six bottles ready to go point. There's another Oh you have a wife for well for people of celebration in and I will not feel bad about it. You know. I'm not trying to make you feel bad. You guys have the best celebrations ever and you always have stocked with wonderful booze. I see some boozer from your last party. That's that's right. Yes the papers which was Rosa in a can winding creeps me out. Well you're leaving with. AK's I have a lot very creepy whining that though that's the new thing is everyone loves things in can't what is wrong with it to you. Do you think the glass is a better conductor for France. I'm I'm Amanda France. Don't you twist off caps as well. Because I hear those are better than the Cork's lead more oxygen in and if you don't store them correctly then you wine is fucked but look I bet in one hundred years. We're probably going to be like. How is anyone drinking wine out of a glass? No one will be alive as we open. Yeah ten years now as we have our tallboy of Pinot noir during the apocalypse so you guys have a lot of fun booze and and then you're I was surprised. There aren't more so cool up. You're Laotians last Laotian Lau. I'm Lau Lau not as much allow condiments on Mrs. I thought I'd see. Did I take a photo of the doors. Doria doors I take a photo of our doors. Poster entity is Jim Morrison shirtless. Yeah there's so much stuff here we've got some we've got some jail but also a Lotta condiments are in the pantry. Yeah that's true what's jail. Jail is like a like a sauce or dipping sauce. So you had your Last time I was here was your party for your for your film which will get into in a minute but you had a your buddy. WHO's a private jeff saying Tongchuan Dara who had the most amazing spread of La food? Ever really good. Yeah and he taught me about something. Your fish sauce is different than other fish sauce. I can pull it out of the fridge and you can look at it. You guys have a funky. I thought it was like gray. Oh Yeah it's unfiltered. I have like four filtering it through a coffee filter the SOCK. Yes yes you heard him right com. Come sock Mommy Mommy Mommy sorry. PG aged show no not at all wonderful. This is the fifth time someone brought up. Come socks on our show strange so four times twice a piece. He's calm he's saying the last name was Dave is with us. We'll be right. The people you know this is a this is a green eggs in Dan exclusive unfiltered. Fish Sauce. Like growing up. People's People's like MOMS and grandmas would make their own sauce. They would put in like a paint bucket cover because the stench you would. You would be fermenting commenting it for years the heads and you've got like you know it's it's a it's a very guts everything everything for mending like like in your garage or under the sink. Imaging just means like going letting it's spoiled. Yeah that's rolled rot. That's right but that is like the hot stuff now because that's really good for your gut health and everyone wants like a good gut flora. Yeah that's what they're doing a lot of fish yes so there's at least three kinds of in house right now are you guys do you guys mostly do anchovy fish sauce or is it different kinds of fish. Oh it's like because we the red boat which you like. Yes I like that stuff. That's like your your boy made fun of me shop. He said that this was like the fancy pants. It is fancy. But it's fancy and it's also like Paleo eleo route Lao royalty which that's why they got kicked out of the country because of their fish sauces too fancy that was more complicated than that but breath it revisionist history cool so. I know that you are an enormous food. Cool up I like food. I mean like I don't know if I'm at a level of view or like a patent Oswal in terms of food eunice. You're very passionate about food. I do love way more passionate than your husband. Is that true. That's real above together. I mean I like going out to restaurants I just don't I can't say that I know too much about the ingredients or I feel like this. My earliest I'm very like I'm not fantastic at like First meetings of people and so usually what. I'll do inevitably a steer the conversation the food because I feel that's my hat. Yeah I remember doing that with you and I didn't get very far. Why don't you eat a Dick and recently on our plane? Back from San Francisco this weekend. I was looking at my old notes and I had notes from. Our first meeting is really funny. Nancy I wrote like you know to say I love you or something like that and like fourteen languages or fourteen language which is like okay shady past. Yeah and it was a lot about like used to write for food magazines. Yes yes it worked with us. I think that's why I got the Job Avenue. Jillian says we by the way cool doesn't just write notes about every person she meets this. This is like we. We had hired you now. I have files on every under but we've heard on food so you guys just went to San Francisco Jeff. The reason for the season Oh cool. I'm Santa Claus. They did the The comedy central cluster fast and did to podcasts. They're fantastic and I just tagged along. We're just talking about we're talking about other. podcast exists not for this hour. They don't and hours. We do our meal. Deep dive was going to happen but you went to. What was that Rahman place you guys went to there was it was just me? Yeah I went Oh that sounds like just like Mama. Fukui like like the Canal Street version of food motto is bad. I think Maru I think it is more frugal but I don't know if it is and it was delicious. Yes and We Scott had plans with Adam Scott for an apparently not a podcast. I'm not allowed to say the next five hours later. So he had prior plans. I was like I'm GonNA figure out dinner and I was feeling Rahman and then I looked up on yelp and there was like you could do a weightless so I'll wait and right when I got in the weight I was cute at like one fifty. No way yeah yeah like it was like yeah like it was like a two hour and fifteen minute like okay come back two hours and fifteen minutes from now. Yeah by the time and I went to the place a little early just in case like the hugh or whatever reason and by the time I got her half an hour before probably half an hour before I was supposed to be there where they had cut the wait list off eight o'clock and they close at eleven or whatever yeah weightless was it worth the wait totally worth their weight. In the end the only four Rahman's ends four styles Rahman When I was there there is There was only one the dog in the room. That was Yeah Yeah Yeah. I think this is like a salvador. He got a thing where we just like squeezes little animals and stuff in the middle of when people in time we mentioned a certain Word Risk Richard. Well that's fun with there's a lot of Yes so it was delicious in more delicious because other people who wanted it could not have it that evening I love that we're porky. Rahman I went with the Katsu and I went with the version that also came with like a thick piece of of fork of Var yes but a thick in addition to the Park Cheshire. Joshu more so good and then I had a SA- Pearl L. is delicious. Oh it was it was. There was some light day drinking. Noah's eat dinner. Oh get doesn't the sun didn't go down and I don't know if San Francisco is later than La like sunset was eight hundred forty five really in the middle of summer which saw oh. The Sun doesn't go down San Francisco. Maybe it was the it was. It was the longest day of summer. Yeah because it was the twenty first so maybe it wasn't because of the song. Yeah all right. Do they wrote that song on the twenty-first June and they're like wow so this is the first time they've ever been there and they're like this. The days are so long it's ever just go. This is crazy. Every country has their own song about the sun. Never going down because of band gets there on the twenty first of June so that Elton John Song is about that. Yeah okay I thought he was in Tulsa that day. Nick Scott you are a wonderful barbecue. Easter Oh thank Adra Barbecue by newly elite taught self taught self taught yes. Although I've read books I guess you can still read books and be right. It's not like you have to just figure it out about yourself and then go okay. I figured out with no help. What what about if you watch videos and learn something that still counts right instead of instead of going to school school I guess? Is that what we're having an instructor like a in person instructor. I don't know but I keep professor and the rules are changing man Black Mirror. We're all self taught thought. Maybe yeah so I had A. I had a big. I had a lot to do with you. Getting your your yeah wonderful story of how much you have to do with my smoker. Thank you I'm so glad you asked you know cool off asked me whereas the guest was going to go into uh-huh who love asked me. Hey Dan said hey cool up hating said. I'm taking some notes on this conversation as I always do. That's right for record to damn you later. It's my scotties birthday and I want to get him Christmas birthday his birthday. And you WanNa get a nice president for yeah. We'll reason for the season yeah. So here's the backstory. Your incredible stories like Memento Tom. We are not used to but this this last year I didn't for the first time in twelve years. I think but I would go to Austin every year for south by southwest. Yes I and gentleman named Charlie Sedillo who I just saw two days ago. We started the comedy at at South by southwest. So that before we started there was no comedy it was just a film and music. That was it so we would go there every year and I remember the second year. I was there David Cross said he you want to barbecue somewhere so we like walked across the highway and found just the nearest barbecue space and there was no one there and the barbecue. I remember not being very good food. And Oh what a bummer Austin. Yeah but but then like I've been to places like stubbs and it's not good there either. You know so and I was just like sponsor of the show so I remembered going there and going like that wasn't that great but whatever so then I would then like the next year or maybe two years later I would hear about you gotta go to Franklin Barbie gotta go to Franklin Barbecue and I was like where where is this place and I look at this place right and I'm like I've been there. It's terrible and people go Miller. They bought it from that place. They just started rated there so we ended up going the first time we went to Franklin Barbecue. I think we got there right when they ran out of food. Or whatever but the line was Kinda Kinda short so we only waited like forty five minutes or whatever but then I the next year I did the total get there three hours early and just sit in a chair her. You know the entire time and wait for it so it was. It was so good and I was like Oh my God. How do you make this stuff so I bought the cookbook that they put out and then sat on the shelf for I think a couple of years I would talk about it and go? Oh Yeah I WANNA learn how to do that at some point and but we didn't really know we have a grill like how do we make it work on a grill and then and then someone told me about the big green egg right and I was like. Oh that's cool. Maybe maybe I could learn how to do it on that but then forgot forgot about it but never forgets never forgot keep records as has been established. She's the nine eleven of brains she never forget et. So yeah so she contacted you about the big green egg and you gave you were debating between the medium green egg the big green and I was very very passionate about. You gotta get the big ones we worked on before ever. I've never even heard of it. I was just like bigger. It's better No I but I have a lot of friends who have them and you know the one of my buddies has have have you heard of Slab Barbecue in Los Angeles. It just yeah. What do you think awesome? Yeah we went to a barbecue in fact we called you from the L. A. Times. Oh Yeah L. Barbecue. Yeah they're they're okay cool so we had a Franklin Barbecue is there and slab and a bunch of great places. There's a Laotian crazy kyw's mccue. Yeah they're out of corona on their lower barbecue fourteen different barbecue places. All with different dishes it was it was Sommese we and then there was just like whiskey and beer and it was. We just went for it. We were so full. Come you because you understand what you it was amazing. So you should know that the The Slab pitmasters had a lot to do with you getting the big green egg. 'cause you don't say yeah no I see because I I asked him Which one and apparently the circulation that happens in there has been in the big one? Oh cool stuff. At this event we went to is amazing. Yeah it's deficit saying he unfortunately fortunately at his store he's not allowed to use a smoker smoker because of like laws and whatnot. Let's deregulate everything. twenty twenty smoked barbecue. Come on it was. I believe his was a sandwich that had brie. And it was amazing like Steph so it was so delicious. Yeah but your barbecue spent. I've had your barbecue before an so. Yeah I I try I I got added on Christmas and I reread the book and then I also read some On some big green egg recipe websites stuff and I was just trying figure it out and I sort of learned the the whole philosophy behind it and I had never. I mean I'd like whenever I barbecue stuff you know I would just like throw it on and go like I don't know what I'm doing and they take it off whenever it looks red right so for this but but for this I was really trying to mentally prepare and I. I read the entire our Franklin Barbecue Book and I was like okay. I think I understand what's going on and so we had. I believe it was the Super Bowl. or or maybe just a Minnesota a football game that we had some people over on a Sunday so I was like Saturday. I gotTa do a test because I can't just the first one you know that's right the first time doing it because what if I fuck it up so you tested with the whole brisket so I so I pretty much tested it with a whole brisket like the day before the smaller just too a small but it was just between me and cool up. I was like okay here. We go. I'm going to test it. Including how much per pound all that stuff I didn't really know and I I and it's a good thing I did because I like fucked up three very important things and when I took it out it was really dry and it was bad adding. we realized the ringer yet temperatures. I took it off too early. I did not let it rest off off I. What was the other thing because you know the stall on? It took a doll. You right on after no but you know. They talk about with his dad. They talk about the stall and how you'll get like one sixty five. The temperature like it's it's about one sixty five. It'll just stay 165 for an hour and a half or something like that and then slowly start to rise and a lot of people go like Oh shit it must be done. Yeah yeah they'll take it off. I don't think I took it off that early but I think I took it off like the minute it was over the stall and it's still should have had like hours and hours to two hundred. Yeah so so in any case like I messed up all those things but I was smart enough to go like. Oh I see okay. I didn't do that didn't do that right. I didn't do that right. Okay now I think if I were to do it again I would know how to do it and so I did another brisket the next day and it was perfect credible really yeah. It was like just just one of the best I had at one of your parties and it was insanely good right and it was right. It was soon after you got it too. Yeah Yeah so so. Second Time I was like this is one of the best briskets I've ever had shit. Unfortunately I don't do it like all the time so I think the one that I did a month ago was not quite as good because I was like like I put an I got it up to two. Oh five or something like that before. I took it off because I was reading one recipe. That was anywhere between two hundred zero five whereas I think the Franklin Barbecue is like even under two hundred a little bit like one ninety something so anyway. There's the best gift ever given him. Because it's a gift to myself gift to yourself yourself. It's like that simpsons episode when homer gets a bowling ball for March but it's excellent. Know who these people are talking. Do you you guys have any Hashtag like Learning how to Cook Goals for the next year. Is there anything that big that. You're looking at to learn how to cook a little interesting. Well I WANNA learn how to cook more More love food and you mentioned my friend. Chef Sang Sung Dara so I want him to teach me how to make copious send send and that is a chick. It's a hand hand made noodles so as a chicken noodle soup with tapioca noodles. WHOA delicious there is a A ginger to it a strong ginger and garlic flavor to it it's it's kind of thicker because of the starched tapioca yeah. Some of these things that that you talk to him about cooking or any of them were they the comfort foods to you when you were young. Yes that you just have not had and and don't know how to make and weren't on the menu in my mom's Thai restaurant possess laugh when we first I got together I was not. I don't even know if I had been to a lot of places I think maybe one or two or something but it was like that was something where you're like. Oh No this is like comfort food to me. Yes growing up my dad like my for like speaking of Vikings Games like Sunday's it would be like oftentimes he would make just a big huge pot of for and like just eat that aware. Yeah that's fun and it's something that I wanna do. Start doing to just like it's playing football football. The ball and I am obviously quarterback but definitely like offensive. Linemen can I. I'M GONNA I'M GONNA I'm GonNa Steer you against what you WANNA do. Okay okay well let me tell you saying okay. We're not smart. Let me nagging her. Oh my God i WanNa fuck him now. I you know every time I try to get into the immigrant foods and make grinchey hold on boy. This is going to be on Breitbart. That's that's twenty twenty. I just feel like I went through this big Persian pride thing for a while and I was like. Why am I trying to cook Italian food? Or whatever I'll tell I'm just gonNa Start Start Persian Food Okay and some cultures and I believe I believe your culture. I believe the Lao are in the same boat. Where like the boat please? It was really painful where they came across me. Close landmine of things. That can go wrong when sure because no landmines are more there bombies as you xhosas not exactly to donate to that to the landmine. They need more landmark. We have enough. Oh no I just feel like there are what I like to call grandmother food cultures. Where it's like you have to be a grandmother? Who isn't doing anything all day to be able to cook this food? And if you don't have like four five hours you can't make like you can't just like Cook Persian food every day unless you literally have nothing else to do and I think well. Let's yeah I mean it's the same thing with the barbecuing thing it'd take you know eight hours once in a while. Yeah I I think a talented food is the quickest like just boom olive oil garlic. You WanNa make a sauce like you want to make a grandma sauce. Yeah a true Saas. Grandma aren't this isn't jest. I think it would be very fun to just start that kind of stuff like in the morning though and like just check in occasionally with it or you absolutely Persian food do you. We literally have to be checked out all the time you can. You can set it and forget it. Actually there's a soup called counterpart show which is which means head and hoof soup. which is is a lamb head and a bunch of hoops bunch and you just put it in more than I think you're going to have like a three to one the head ratio still four to one would be pretty much under for I think three four so twelve hopes twelve? Oh really really. Twelve hosts three animal. What about how? Many girls perk up as well as a two girls one the ratio for the Persian super bowl of you. Take the huge thing of water. What are they called pots? You put an onion to Merrick K.. To two heads one earth to the head and you're supposed to put it in their simmered overnight and you wake up in the morning and it's a hardy like Persian like like hearty like a breakfast food Persian like what workers choppers lumberjack lumberjacks version. Lumber checks you know where. Where do you get Collagen? Can you get old you get. I'm sure you can but can you get heads somewhere around here. You can't get them. The valley heads are all in the valley can get head in the valley in more ways than ones the porn capital squeaky toy but what people do a little achieve will be. They'll use tongue which a lot easier to find like beef beef tongue and then beef hoofs also easier to find more gelatinous though than make in as good of a sube. I think is something that you missed in like. Did you have a growing up or is it something that you just want to learn how to know I did. I mean that is grandma's food. Ooh that's like what she would make and I. I enjoyed immensely but every time I make it. I'm just exhausted for three days after every day. Some point we'll be grandparents. I'm sure and and we'll have all that time to cook. Sit by the stove. Well I think for me is that we we want to start a family and Oh I thought you thought that I wanted you. Guys set off mirror guys Dan. Would you newark on our family but I want to You know as you know like I've been I really want origin story in Los Angeles These various things that circles that in communities I've created and and and our nurturing. I want to bring my culture sure into into our child's life and I wanted to start building traditions and culture. Yeah honey white eight culture. Well what about. Where's where's white? Wait where's are the frog Wiki del. She's telling me about when she worked at Hulk Hogan's Pasta Mania. She wants to bring that sort of that'll be. That'll be part of the story. That'll be part of my actually your documentary. which is fantastic origin story? You can get an you can watch on Amazon Amazon Prime Prime Amazing movie I love the role that food planet as well because huge role. It's it's a but as you can relate. I mean that's a big part of our family's growing up your family to you could like when you go visit your mom. She like in a way. It's almost like she knew the conversations we're GONNA be so awkward so she was like I'm just going to keep feeding her wires number question the first time that the cool up ever took me back to Minnesota to meet in her family. I just left the week you know. Just I could not believe how much food she was making like. There'd be a full pizza nine nine. Am when you woke up like okay. Here's a pizza. Aren't you hungry. It's like I used to only like eating three times a day but it was just is constant food coming out to you going like. Aren't you hungry what do you what's wrong with you. It's her love language. It's her love language. It's also I think the immigrant like 'cause I get this in my family also wear in Iran. They didn't don't have that much money and like food was kind of spares and especially meat and here. They're like all. The meat is ninety nine cents a pound of meat and you're just like constantly being force fed like yeah goose like true. It's true and then also you're too fat but also finish your food. Oh Yeah yes I got. I got that all the time. We'll get back to school up in a minute. Scott and cool off. I think it's going to stick but first Lau fermented did fish sauce also known as pedic is way funkier than normal fish sauce. And because it's unfiltered way easier to make at home. Just get some diced whitefish mixed with a bunch of salt roasted rice powder which you can get at any Asian supermarket and water. That's it let it sit at room temperature and in three months you'll have an amazing fish sauce off and no more friends because your house will smell like an aquarium fucked dumpster enjoy. Do you spend hours on Bella Hades instagram story or binge-watch Vander pump rules. Does your commute home consists of refreshing your instagram feed until they yell you are all all caught up if yes not skinny but not fat. Is The podcast for you. Based on the celebrity obsessed me my instagram accounts of the same name. Amanda Hirsch brings you the best best celebrity news from around the world. Previous guests on the show include Shayna Shea Vendor pump rules Hannah burner. 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I'm curious because you guys both come from very very different food cultures very earliest food lights and other white scary is that he's yeah. Start with the white because white is right What is your earliest food? Memory Scott earliest You know I the thing that popped in my head. When he said I'll just go with? It is barking up. Those orange cinnamon rolls that my parents would make you know the ones that come in a in a tube. Yeah the Pillsbury like ones that you bake and then you do the orange icing on them. Oh Yeah I would have those all the time when I was a kid and I remember I got sick like some sorta stomach virus and I remember throwing up all that orange icing in our front yard. Wow so but yeah that we can't going more for pleasant first food memories. Oh I don't know you know like my mom is a great great cook but we also you know she grew up in the fifties and microwaveable. That no no not even microwave microwave. We didn't get a microwave until I was in my teens. But I mean to say You know she's she's the daughter very simple farm people right so oh you know everything was you know she she. She learned to branch out and learn how to cook things as we got had older. But you know when I was young it was very much just like Baloney sandwiches on wonder bread. You know with with butter you know like that's that's pretty much like what all my lunches were. You have a soft spot for you now. You're you're sort of yeah I can't re- or like you know Oliver. Oliver hugs were boiled. Which I think is the worst way to wreck hotdogs He won't eat green peppers unless they're diced up APP because he didn't like she would like stuffed green do stuff. But that's just a personal like I'm sure they were good but I I guess you know everything was very simple in the way that her mom right did it. You know. And then she learned as she as we got older. I I will say like there. Were farm people when we when we first started dating eating. I remember we like my comfort food. One Night I was like I just want Tacos the way that my mom used to make them you know and so I tried to approximate make them but you know what it was like putting a lot of butter on every tortilla frying them and make great actually making a lot of ground beef. You've and then having like different balls of just like you know shredded cheddar cheese ground beef and pretty much. That's it but just with the most. buttery issed fried tortillas still all the time. Yeah that's what it was the love. Yes exactly Kula Mine. is actually more similar to you would think of Scott's because I was Some favorite food memories was with the Danielson Danielson the family that that took you in their sponsor families are a Baptist family. The reason why we ended up in Minnesota was because they took us in. That's my mom and my biology magic myself. The the coolest part of your of your film because I didn't know that about you and that blew my mind. Yeah Aunt Julia was loved. That they had was is crazy. Yeah they're amazing people. When we first started dating she would mentioned her sponsor family and I met them and stuff? I didn't you know she sort of explained it. That's that's you did explain it. I sort of understood it but you know it's one of those things where like seeing the movie it really crystallizes of exactly what they did and why they did it. And it's it's a really interesting part of the movie for me because with you know everyone talking sort of about immigration and coming down. I'm very hard on one side of the issue. I think they could learn a lot from the tenure since it was such good people I was like a secret. They're not telling us to night. The surprise actually are even nicer. Yeah we treat people like humans with dignity uh-huh and make this Amazing Potato Salad And so she was. She was an amazing cook. So lots of mustard mustard base miracle miracle whip. There is esther based young girl. There's there's eggs in like I only had like Mayo based potatoes. Everything in my childhood was very like White Bread Mayo base. Yeah well. How do you better? Based Lao couldn't be more further from that. It's like it's like an explosion of flavors and punching your taste buds ceaselessly. Do you enjoy. I really like it. I will say occasionally single make stuff and I'll and I like spicy food a lot but sometimes it'll be. It's a difference too hot for me to be pleasurable to eat a lot of no Southeast Asian spices vice is some like you go to the restaurants you want mild medium or hot you go mild and it's GonNa blow your yeah I think hot generally is just not enjoyable and you're just sweating rosy I also she also made amazing Cookies Amazing OATMEAL chocolate chip cookies. which this year I started started making? She got the recipe finally got the recipe. And it's just tastes like childhood and it's so delicious and they're theak. I'm thirty. It could death row. Meal will go with you. Go off macaroni. And Cheese really craft like the ghetto out of the box. Now probably not a fancy lobster. Great yes thank you. I also because of my upbringing ringing. I thought that was the only way to make macaroni and cheese and Rama. Those are the two things I remember. I had a roommate when I was twenty. WHO's like I make the best Rahman I'm like what are you? What do you mean you make the best? And you put the noodles in the thing you or hot water over it. You put the flavor packet in. He's like no I like I add stuff to it. I go you you can add stuff like I didn't know anything about this and that's the same with macaroni and cheese. I assumed that was what macaroni and cheeses. So when you have like an authentic one I do love Evita Mac and cheese that there really is no but even a craft it takes me back. Yeah it just takes me back but all the time but it does take me. It's pleasurable though. Yeah I mean meanest Roman though Megan having Rahman growing up was the was the brand we got was mommy and like it really was as you add water then you just bad stuff to it but like I didn't know that we have another Romina had in San Francisco that that wasn't what I had growing up. Yeah have you been to Sajida in. La Yes suf- SUF- is at the dipping. No that's that's a superhuman. Yes they do have a dipping one there at Suji Suji to annex they have like a really thick noodle amazingly good. I went to the studio. I don't either thinking one. What's what's the point I? It's funny because I lose a lot of foodies. Three cried with that because a lot of like real Rahman has they're like no man. That's the real then. You taste the noodle man. I'm like fuck you. I wonder bowl. And they're cold noodles because you want the contrast contrast give you the final soup. Yeah I like fired I I like I like both yeah it's different texture as a thicker more trouble than it's worth to me. I mean that's how I feel probably I just I don't Wanna well. You saw that coming. You're like here. We go KRAVACS I. I'll do it for you. There's yes I definitely crack them. Yes can I tell you. I just went to Mastro's last week and they have a crab lab leg like a cocktail shrimp cocktail but crab leg. So it's already comes out of their favourite decadent very different when it comes to put the work in. I think you're right it is. It is just the level of of a little more work than I'd like to do for the even a lobster is easier. I feel like Oh yeah. Of course. They've got meet. Yeah it's just such a I bet your yeah but I love it so much. So it's worth it for me soon. That and you still get along death row meal. Scott I kind of feel you know in the few times where I've been on like weight watchers or something like that like what I really tend to miss. The most is like a really good burger would get some sort of like you know. half-pound Medium Rare Burger with Bacon. Something Really Nice bonds. Something thing like that. Do you have a specific burger that you're in love with you know not really. I can't say from a specific place. I mean we go to in and out all the time. If we like WanNa Burger you know what I mean but I there I I will say like if I'm traveling and I'm like Outta hotel alone to me that that is like always ordered the Burger on the menu and just see US road food. Well it's navy gross like use it because I'm usually like okay. Hotels like I'm not talking about Marriott's or whatever else commits Carlton. But if I'm like you know on a business trip for a show or whatever and they put me up in a nice place like London and New York or or you know whatever Nice hotel they put you in l.. Usually are the nomad so usually have like a really nice elegant Burger and I'm always like interested in differences differences of like okay. What is this places elegant Burger? Yeah it's a good task new podcast. Yeah that's what this is called segment elegant Burger there is a place that Daniel Blues. DB Bistro Moderna New York with the Blues Brothers. Daniel Blue Blues Brothers were they. They put a piece of fog. Right in the middle of the of the Burger. Patty and click a smash Berg like yeah like yeah. It's a low before Gra in slow. That isn't is an elegant Burger speaking of New York and also the one here they do a really nice chicken two ways. It's really that we've talked about it. I've into the nomad in New York. I don't know that I had the chicken too as did I. I just remember that Seafood Tower. They have a really cool looking seafood tower Gras under the skin. Oh no no way on. Yeah it's great What is actually I wonder if this is? What is the best high end meal that you've ever had well well if you had an amazing chefs table experienced? That's what sickening Francisco. Which says Oh we went to Octavia? Ah Yeah Patent Oswald invited US and a bunch of other comedians On Saturday night when we were in San Francisco he was like I've contacted the chef chaff. And she's just GonNa make whatever's good with whatever's fresh and just bring out a ton of courses in just come by one of those like really special things where where is when you don't know what's coming and they just keep bringing food out to the point where like everyone was just like. Oh my God we. You can't bring anything more. What is there anything else in there like? Well there's a bunch of rib eye coming out like and everyone by the way people had spots that they had to keep going to the table winnowed down to like fewer and fewer people in. They're putting more and more food out based on the original number of people God so they put down just plates and plates of Rabbi. That was amazing salmon and veg This is after this is after ten courses already epic it was like it was great. It started at six. We were out of their. Ah Yeah that's insane ever dream because you get to talk. Like you're having these scintillating conversations like with the freshest delectable food oh fresh fresh it's new but they're so funny they have a tight I ten they can do. And then we'll crowd work the big bill. There's also the lion was flowing and it was just so it was so what a tree. What a patent get a lot of Ratatouille groupie love restaurants? I think he must what it is or he is he was already A. I think he was a true foodie before Ratatouille and he maybe that and you'd have to ask him but that might have tied into y they thought of him for Ratatouille perhaps because he he is true like food lover but I think now since he was in it. It's become become now a thing. where like chefs you know? Yeah kind of cater to which is fantastic for us for us. The chef who owns octavius opening running a restaurant in L. A.. I don't know what it's called but as soon as I know I'll let you know okay. Great we'll we'll by the time this comes out will shout it out What is the best low end meal you've ever had? We run up in and out. I'm trying to think of something else I used his just survive on the DEL Taco ninety nine cents meal Nice like when I was broke and this is like after. I'm in show business by the way this is like you know like where you know. The big companies are holding your money for a year you know once had NBC deal. And they I finished the script and they did not pay me for a year because it was just like you keep asking them the money. They're like Oh yeah we're getting that to you and it's purely so that they can keep the interest on it like someone has to sign it. Oh wait but they're on vacation now so so like I've had those years in show business where I'm like really scrounging and just like sort of surviving on the dollar menus. It whatever fast food places or there did you see del Taco honey or one that I would go to all the time back by old condo. Yeah but like best just like cheap cheap drunk food like you know like me like a hot dog like La hot questions. If we we can get right into that. And I told John or our frontier John Town trader still talks about the night that we went to see. I think it was Weezer at the palace and that I As we were walking to our car I stopped at three different places for three different hotdogs because I was like. Oh Post Post show hotdog great. I when I was like then we walked more. I was like I kind of want another one got another one from another place got another one from another place. We sat our goodbyes. And then I admitted the next day I got two more after the way the baking rack. Wrap them on a tray. But the ones the ones that you find out later that some of those places have just like cockroaches. Cockroaches like you know infested trays but hot dogs are you mommy actually What is this is one of my favorite questions? What is your restaurant pet peeve I find okay I was a server for a deck up? Okay so I feel like I can criticize her servers. It gets a little obnoxious when people who just go to restaurants are like the person didn't do this the person didn't do And in fact I think my second second year of serving I was running around and you know really frazzled. In someone who was a server like one of my tables is like here. Let me give you some advice. Told me like the basic way of how not to fuck up serving of like come out and check on everyone. That's in your section at the same time and then go only go back to the because I was running out one person we go. Can I have a glass of water. Run back into the kitchen. Then go to the next table and going back enforcement you know. Take care of everyone at the same time. It seems basic. Wow but I I feel like I can sort of okay. You know when I go to a place and they do certain certain things you know what I mean. I love guilt. You have around saying that service I you know what I mean like. It's sort of obnoxious when people are just like all of this. I don't think it is because you're paying premium to sit down somewhere and to you know to get away from your your problems right and Dan's ever been a server never are ever but you know what I will say this. I've definitely had to do standup on days. When I had a really awful day and then you gotta get up there? Then you've got to put put on your face and I know you can be having a bad day but like we'll have bad days. We have to go to work and I don't know if that's what you're even talking about. Some of the things I'm talking about are like people. People just generally not being good at their job no matter what bad day or no bad day you know what I mean you specifically specifically somethings that like bug me about servers are. There's this weird thing where the slower like the fewer people that are in the restaurant. The worst the service gets you think it would be the opposite yet. It's like it really is true. If you're one of the only people in the restaurant your service will be absolutely terrible true. Because they're like on a break practically right there just in the kitchen like chatting with people and going like Oh. That person doesn't need like if they're out there really hustling. They're going to see you and get your like getting your check when it takes forever just drives me up the wall when I'm ready to go and I have my credit card out. It's like I WANNA go. Yeah you know what's refilling. The water glass have often where they're not paying attention. He's he's bone-dry that's really bad. That's what I love the Korean system. When you go to Korean restaurant they have little buzzer? Great Great I I my recent one. That's a big pet peeve is is anytime anyone asks. Have you been to our restaurant before they are about to tell you about small plates and and I and I know what small plates are I. I'm in Los Angeles. I get it yes a lot of smaller things and you pay for more. I understand right right. And then when I recommend we recommend somewhere between four and eight and a half plates per diner and they're always like up selling you at least by two or three plates Lilly Lilly. Yeah and then I also you know the jokes that servers. Tell because I've been there. Yeah they all I ask really there so annoying but they do. They know it's funny in a way like I had a bit in my old act where like I was a server doing. Stand up for the first time but the only and I were server apron and the only jokes that I told were like server jokes I was like so this guy comes into my restaurant the other day and I said down the the the food I walk away I five minutes later. It's completely gone. I'm like are you sure you didn't WanNa lick the plate clean or boy. You didn't like that. Did you. Just the jokes. Every single server makes me up the wall. I do that the opposite way. Where if I finish something I'll be? It was awful. Yeah WYNC you're part of the problem. I have just just wing. Yeah I like. I like people to be like warm personable personable. But lately I've just I don't need to be called honey sweetie baby a chief. I hate what were they calling us. Remember at the sushi place or was a sushi place where yeah oh no no. Is the breakfast place we went to. Oh Oh yeah yeah shameless. That's it was great. It was great I just I we and we were kind of laughing about Out what she was calling it so early in the morning would we went to and then it just like sweetie at it was more like dude and or like everything was like alright boss. Yeah when it gets out informal. Yeah I think I like used to brush it off but being with your dad had I've noticed how people sort of like like ties infantilized the older people and that drives him crazy. And I like I get it now. Like so waiters will come over and go hi sweetie because he's older but he probably likes that. I'm telling you Oh really absolutely. It's like Hey Hon. Or Hey Sweetie oh how are we did and they treat older person like a child. It's it is interesting facing. I think my dad likes that I see your dad loving. It wasn't the fuck. Is that supposed to be anti free. Me Is is a of freak. My Dad is very premium two in restaurants premature pre premature ejaculation. No he's just like handler. I Love Beauty Fair. But he hasn't been calling him sweetie for foreigner. They're trying to say like I do not find you. Attractive your sweet. What is favourite hangover food? I think a soup or something like that probably. I don't know I remember when I worked at Shenzhen in the Valley I remember we. We would all have to work New Year's Day and because we it's like a Jewish run restaurant and so we would get like Yom Kippur off but then have to work New Year's Day siege on the twenty fourth and December. I remember coming in. Get Your Yum Tova off. I remember coming in on New Year's Day so hungover in just like having to fold Napkins and having my head on the counter and I was drinking water better and and the the bus boys that was close with where like Nano done. That makes it worse. Don't drink water. Drink tea drink like ice tea. Yeah what the busboys. They're Hispanic mainly there from like Mexico. Guatemala right interesting have young instead. Yeah so oh yeah. I've always thought about that. Like just like like drink the water before you get the hangover but once you have it it's like water just supposedly makes it worse guys. 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If you're into stand up this is really the perfect place for your ears to go season to just finish so binge on apple podcast spotify stitcher or wherever you listen to podcasts. Oh do you guys have a favorite celebrity chef. Oh by the way. Today's Anthony Bourdain Day. I don't know if you know that it's your birthday. Oh it's his birthday is w we celebrate people twice a year. Now I will. I say that because I think aren't we celebrating Farah Fawcett today too because she died on this day. It's like let's either common or go and we can't do both. I think we did. Celebrate Gordon not celebrate but that was the thing. Yeah I had people over Food Ed. Yeah and then we did a mock hanging for the IT. Was the death day. Today's birthday we now. We're going to block out not play. Hangman is their favorite celebrity chef. Do you guys on TV personality or like a restaurant. Like David Chang stuff for like that kind of stuff but I I don't really necessarily following. I WANNA I've never been to French laundry and I WANNA go there so Zach. Thomas Keller Trying to think the French laundry that sounds like a very fun. I'd be outside of the French laundry. Yeah yes love Mario L. Battalion not not so much food but just everything other than his food. You know. It's funny because he is mine I was like I liked him like premium. Do you forgot who we were talking to you. Like oh just because he got caught. You didn't like like you're okay with this behavior. I saw some guy the other day by the way. I didn't tell you this but I saw some guy at this this thing I was at and he was like talking about how he works for Italy and he's like on their PR team or something. Like that and I was like. Oh my God I love going to Italy and I like brightened up when I heard about it was like I do. I love it. I was like telling them about how like we try to go on Christmas Eve or something. Watch a movie and when it's slower or whatever and he was looking at me in such disbelief that I liked going to Italy and I was like I was like you. You weren't there. Why are you looking at me like this and basically thought you should have qualified it with like? Yeah I mean battalion stuff but still. Yeah no but I was just I was is literally trying to see if like I would get some sort of special invitee from news. He just kind of looked at me. Like okay you like all right whatever and like walked away anyway anyway bomber. Yeah but we do enjoy doing. I do easily a lot I go there. I'll have I'll go. I'll get a glass of wine and then I'll go food shop. There's just something about the like I. I will say that people say what would you do if you didn't if you weren't show-business or whatever what what job would you have and I find myself anytime sometime. I go in one fascinated by delis and I think I would work at a deli or something really because I just like all of the different meats and slicing them in the cheeses uses and all that stuff. I'm fascinated by all of it and I love the okay. You know I will wander around the oaks and look at all the stuff and like going to to It's it's not called may vary new Gilson's you know just like just like sitting there watching them. I enjoy the and I'm sure it's like a pain in the ass for them to make a sandwich you know like I. I know anytime I go to Gilson's and go up to the Deli thing and they call my number and I go. I want a sandwich and they just kind of work. Because it like takes eight times longer than just slicing meter scooping livings someone ordering a long island but I just find it so it seems so funding all the different types of things. Dally tally in the mall of America and it was fun but then of course I was swooped up by. Hell Kokin Pasta Mania you. Do you have a favorite Deli Ed La Deli. I recently went with my cassidy to the larchmont wine in larchmont wine and cheese. I think they should rename it. larchmont Mont overrated sandwiches workshop an impediment to their business. I'm not sure I went there once and I I I I like to. I wanted to like it. So much to read was Blah Blah Blah. Bread La Brea. The first time I ever win the bakery I never went to a deli. Was I think I was sixteen or seventeen and my friend was. We're like trying to figure out where to eat. And when I grow up like if you went somewhere to get something to eat especially especially at seventy and it's like well you either go to McDonalds. Carl's junior you know one of the fast food places. But he's like why don't we go to the Deli. Like I just thought of the Deli is like you know huge like cuts of meat. That's you know it was like hers or something. Yeah giant okay. So I was like go to the Deli. He goes. Yeah you can get a Sandwich Deli. It was like what really and I'm very nice naive about food. Obviously like into my early twenties like Rahman what what so we went we went to the Deli and it was just like I had just like a meat sandwich with fresh cheese and everything I was like blown away. How much better? It was than the sandwiches that my mom would make the Baloney in butter sandwiches. Nice role with all these like Italian meats and you know like this is amazing mazey. Yeah I thought that was the only one at that one place in Delhi's everywhere. That's very char. I'm so much God. God is daily thing very charm. I might open one. That's what I'll do. I'll just open up a deli when I- sunset out of entertainment and two years. Yeah do doc you'll have one and it'll be a brisket sanity brisket a day. I'll just make risk O.. Eilly Mitch I would love it I would. Yeah I think it will oversee it. I'll have employees. Yes right. We'll have a live feed with the Webcam on me. Okay I'll swing by once a week. Yeah that's the full picture. Goes you enjoy a sandwich on the speaking of food memories by the way this Chin-chin and you enjoy in this was a story I will tell about working at changing where I once had very many tables and there was like an older gentleman outside that that was waiting on and we got through like two thirds of the meal and he called me over and he goes. Hey can I ask you something. Sure he goes. You ever watch married with children. My sometimes he goes. What do you think of Christina? applegate Mike fine heels. She's by daughter. Okay I'm like all right. Cool Dude really weird about that is because nine times out of ten and people probably would be like. Oh yeah she's fucking. I feel like that's what he wanted to save. A certain age demographic maybe I don't know is very weird I I don't know if it's true I I that's the other thing like someone can say something like that and it is not her father's I don't want her to hear about this and go like Dad. What are you acting weird about? You know quite more than likely was not her father. I don't know that that's the bottom of this. Show you photos of him around that time. Hopefully he's he's still with US Christina. APPLEGATE'S DAD hopefully. I'm not like making fun of someone who has passed on or whatever but anyway it was just a weird story. No that's very good story and I think it's definitely I can't imagine someone making that up. That's a funny detail but it's the kind of thing where like I can also see when I'm off on another table him saying to his companion like I'm GonNa fuck with this guy. Tell Him I'm Christina. applegate his father and see if he wants to get a date or something then he went back. It didn't work out wills thought it all right two more questions guys. What food is that the guy we have? This is Wendy Twenty five years ago. How am I supposed to look at him? Twenty five years ago Jim Enhance. Oh Aw that looks like a guy who hangs out at attention all right two more questions. What what food can't you stand? You can't stand it. Raisins really really disgusting. Wow Penelope but I hate them them up your up your but my for real and I have you ever. You've never had a Persian reason. And this is not a on her chest. The delicate ship on the Persian dirty Sanchez reason. No I haven't I am going to br I mean unless you're completely averse but they're different. I like prunes. I like craisins. It's not just raisins. They ruined OATMEAL. Cookie okay well I agree. Okay fine I agree but a raisin on its own is not like. I don't know I'm not an OATMEAL cookie without reasons. I prefer it Blaine. Isn't it. Yeah but then like put it put some good all right. It's awesome. Thank you Andrew. Thank you oh I aforementioned I'm not really a huge peppers person. I I like him in like maybe chopped up in some things but I'm not like a big hole peppers person. I also don't really like whole tomato. I like tomatoes and a lot of stuff. I just don't like a big chunk not even eating at tomato like an apple a salad Lewin. There's like whole tomatoes and something. I'm like really it is actually Next time you guys if you go to. Here's looking at you which I highly recommend we've been there. Oh Oh cool. That's the other thing I I cannot remember the name of any restaurant. That's the weird ones. Remember here's looking at you. Yeah I always like is it so you think you can dance or something but they have a tomato dish there that is crazy because they put like some sort of like dried shrimp on it and it's dried shrimp Chinese sausage Emami. I forget what it's called if you're like stuffing tomato and you cut it and it has something else on it that's fine. I'm just saying like to eat a tomato by itself. Itself is bizarre interesting. What about an heirloom tomato and heirloom bill? Now but will you do the Barada Tomato that pairing pairing it with someone who has some someone or some headliner. You think it's like yeah. Yeah and when you when they're just hole in a salad it's like you can't get enough lettuce enough of the rest of the salad in order to justify it like chop them up and put them in there so it's the ratio thing. Yeah got it cool and last but not least what is your desert island food. You're on a desert island is all. These questions are so similar. Like what's the one food you could eat before you die. What's the one food on a desert island? It's the same fucking thing. Then he's got a very very different different ways to say. Like what food do you like. Yeah for this year finale. This is our squeaky doll. That means we're out of time. Are Finale Oh man. That's your fire orally. Do you have a better question that we can finale analysis. I mean you definitely want your questions to like a get to know someone so it could be tied into someone's past past but also you wanted to wrap up. I mean you on like people to leave your show thinking like oh well now. I'm just imagining myself. Stranded Robinson crusoe situation tonight. Desert Island. You guys take this allies acts with a volleyball. She did the same thing she was like. I want coconut. Because it's a neutral liquid and I'm a note on a desert island with only the things that you can find on. You'll be fine. You'RE GONNA YOU'RE GONNA get so someone makes a delivery every day post post gets on a canoe and it has to be the same thing every day. What you're saying? Yeah it's the same thing Andrew thank you I got this hold on well now that I guess you want it to be something. That's not going to slow you down something that you would have to be in the mood for literally everyday is probably just going to be like some sort of meet you you know with. I don't know steak frites. Stay free now your plan the game a steak freed. I would've never thought that out of you know because then you get like if you don't want the Free Day you're like I'm getting a little too much weight US throw those into the ocean for the Mermaids and just keep mistake now that's cheval mistake free turf interf- turf navy need. Maybe maybe you get us like you get a side salad go ahead. Can I get a scientologist. Wait you have a favorite steak free that you've ever eaten probably not I will say the state place that we went with a bang. Bang Writers Vegas who's restaurant was out out the most delicious steak dinners very good. Yeah Yeah it's called What's a column forgotten the name it's something was V.? Thank you might be beef or beef. It's called road. Vive Karnik so fucking good. Yeah and pretty expensive and I had to pay for the whole thing still pretty broke about will always say you back then yeah sheep. There's never like a good deal steakhouse. Yeah I love Steak House. It's like the most gives me American pride. It's such an American thing. I I think Dr Stakes in America are better than stakes anywhere else because age the shit out of them. They don't really do that. In Europe you can go to the best steak place. It's going to be like a great cow. Fresh stake I still there's something about age beef that you aged Tomahawk rabbi. Oh that's a good time. We've had that at the what's the hotel in Pasadena Langham In New York sides. You guys got spinach. I like cream. Spend Christmas we'll get You know the the Mac and cheese but also the what's the what's the vegetable that they always do anyway asparagus. Various AH Mister show. When I started on that they took US A? Ruth's Chris her with yeah to add to start as like a kickoff kickoff to get to know each other and I always thought that was like very cool. Yes I did that a couple of times on banning we. We did the first season on Bang. Bang up at your. Oh you're you're Yamashiro and which is just okay and is out of business now but but that's the one that's like on the hill the hill our friend got married there. But it's it's they're turning into something else but I think then we win a few years whereas just grinded working on it so we went to Vegas I was just like is. I'm taking you all the Vegas now for three days fun it was fun. We took a party bus there. We took a party buses great. Well you see how the desert island question does lead into a couple of really interesting stories. All right yeah. Cool up let desert island. You're about to die how you're not gonNA YOU'RE GONNA die. Wait dying as poor guy. You're going to die and get a free. No you're not going to die. You're you love. You have all the time you never get tired of. Probably like maybe maybe like pot tie patout. Yes Yeah Good Pad Thai. Yeah and it's very a lot of starch starch. To have all day we'll give me energy not for the island to make a break for it and swim. Sure trying to the others another island. You're not giving weather weather islands information as you can make it to the other island. I whenever I go to a restaurant I love to like. Look I look at the menu and I look for like all the wacky weird things and I always visiting a pat down so basic and they always have like eighty six things on the menu. And they're all numbered and then you order. Hey I'll have it seventy three and they go what. You're the one who numbered them. Also you have the key these menus you can figure it out but you know take that love up to eat tied typing but they do have too many things. There's a lot chefs specialties. I'm like what the other things are. Not his bed like he's just winging it on the other stuff specials. Our they're fresh pave. All specialties. Thing yeah that's usually the Asian restaurants but I just third there two women that on that restaurant so he said he loved the Tab Easter. I Love Love Love I love. I love squared to eat by the way. The other pet peeve I have about waiters the auctioning off the plates. That's like anytime anyone does it. I'm I just kind of like roll. My eyes wait. What are you talking about okay off? The plates is where someone comes is to deliver the food and says the the streets and then makes the person go like. Oh that was mine right. They don't know where the plates go. Yeah Yeah like You know at a at a real place. The waiter knows Y who gets every meal and like delineates it on the ticket of like like position one position to position three and you know everyone knows what the position on the table is in what what person is one two three and four right so that it no matter who it is is can look at the ticket and go okay position one gets this and then they just give it to you they just put it down in front of you like this is like. PhD Level Pet peeve right there it used to be aware of that so you can say that. Yeah so it's not that. It's a pet peeve where I go like Oh this place. They're doing something wrong like they're they're lazy or anything like that. I just go in my head I go. Oh they don't know this yet it'd mean or it's not it's not a place that cares about that value that you know what I mean You guys heard the squeaky toy that means that we are out of time. Kulab Scott thank you so so much. Thank you very delightful love you love you love you. Bye this episode of green and Dan was produced by Andrew Stephen Executive produced by Jeff. Umbro and the pod Guam. You can find more of their podcasts. At the pot glamorous it's dot com to see pictures of Scott and cool up Elisa Fridge information about the restaurants mentioned in the episode and more follow me on twitter and Instagram at standup down. The theme music is beautiful. Food by Don an interstitial music by brake master cylinder. If you like this show please tell a friend Sharon episode and and leave a rating and review on Apple. PODCASTS stitcher spotify or wherever. You listen to podcasts. 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460: The Power of Why Over How, with Gina Bianchini

Coaching for Leaders

35:06 min | 7 months ago

460: The Power of Why Over How, with Gina Bianchini

"It's so easy to get caught up in the how're doing things and completely miss or just assume that we all know the why on this episode Gina Byan Keeney the founder of mighty networks on the power of why over how this is coaching for leaders. Episode four hundred sixty produced by innovate learning maximizing human potential readings to from Orange County California. This coaching leaders. And I'm your host. Dave Stove leaders are born. They're made in this weekly show. Helps you discover leadership wisdom through insightful conversations. If you've done any leadership at all or attempted to lead in any kind of organization you know the importance of the words mission and purpose. We hear about them a lot and yet I think we don't really see a lot of good examples of not only having a mission one that is going to do great things in the world and for the organization and the people the Organization serves but also being able to follow emission with diligence and consistency. Today's guest is a great example of not only this from a personal leadership perspective but also from leading an organization. That's doing some exciting things. I'M SO GLAD TO WELCOME GINA. Being Keeney to the show she is the founder and CEO of Mighty works. She's an expert on network effects and before mighty networks burst onto the scene in two thousand seventeen she was previously co founder and CEO of naming mighty networks is a pivot from the enterprise only platform mighty bell which powered communities for into it American Express and the bill and Melinda Gates Foundation mighty networks has unlocked the opportunity to elevate the rapidly growing world of creators with a purpose GINA and mighty networks have been featured in fast company wired Vanity Fair Bloomberg and the New York Times Gina. I'm so glad to welcome you to the show. Thank you for having me. I appreciate it. I would love to go back a few years. Perhaps tinning but I think maybe even the story starts a bit before. Ning on your thinking on network effects and how networks which show up in our lives and you're hoping your passion for that. Where did this begin for you? I would say that communities. Look we just think about a community network. I mean they're not exactly the same but let's just start with with Munis. I grew up in a very tight. Knit community in Cupertino California in the seventies and eighties where everyone was following curiosities following. Their Passion had hobbies by author restoring old cars. My mom always had something that she was sort of interested in and pursuing to its fullest extent whether that was raising and showing guinea pigs. Yeah there were some weird. It was just always a place where it was celebrated. What made you unique or where your curiosity took you. So fast. Forward a zillion years and in two thousand six two thousand seven. I was on my second startup. My first startup was in advertising technology and it was far too early for for what we were building at the time but was emerging at the time that I was working on other start-up was this whole world of social networks so we launched Ning networks in two thousand February of two thousand and seven and it was right at the end of when my space was the Hiller social network and facebook was still private colleges at the time and almost overnight. We saw people's creativity and the things they wanted to do. When they could have the tools in their hands to bring together photos and videos and blogs and member profiles and messaging all these different things that they wanted to build into their own social networks and it was a magical moment in a magical time where I had a front row seat and was not certainly the only person who made this connection but made the connection between what I was seeing in Ning networks and the creators of Ning networks in the members of networks and they were all sorts of things but that was a magical moment for me to see a system could be built that could bring to more and more people access to a really special community moment that I saw in lived through when I was growing up and single. That was certainly you know the seeds were planted at. Ning but as I started mighty networks. It was really about. How do we transform communities to be a source of mastery a source of eternal motivation and energy and new and interesting stories being shared by different people and this again comes back to the network effect which is a network effect by definition? Is when a network. It's more to everyone with each new person who joins. Now you're like that. Sounds like academic and boring? It is the simple concept that has created the most valuable companies and platforms and technologies over the last twenty five years. So that's simple concept of some creating something that gets more valuable to everyone with each new person who joins is that fundamental dynamic behind Lincoln behind instagram behind facebook behind the telephone. And we believe. And this is our contrarian point of view and one that seems to be more and more proven rights as we go is when you think about this ability especially around important topics. What does a network effect look like in this context? Well it's an individual showing up contributing their story in tributing their experiences contributing their knowledge as they've gone deeper around a topic that's important to them. Let's take leadership for example as they contribute their perspective. There's someone else in that network who needed to hear that perspective or that story that day so if you think about what. We're all doing on this journey to master something important or interesting together. And it's what you do with your podcast is. It's about setting up a framework like the creator of the brand sets up the framework. It says these things are important or this. This is sort of the the steps or stages of the journey goes but where any journey comes to life. Where any sort of progress comes to life especially around an important topic. It's how that framework gets filled in by the stories and experiences the challenges. The you know the ups the downs that we all are sharing together on that journey. Because that's how we stick with things that's how will take risks big. I mean you think about it. It's like how many risks have you taken where you're like well. That person can do it so can I that. Is You know where we are going to be able to operate from you know our best selves reach our full potential take on what are increasing and looming challenges that we are going to need to navigate as small communities and as you know much more connected larger ones so when I think about the power of pushing the ability to create a network effect out every creator or or brand who is bringing people together and shifting people's perspective from saying hey you're not trying to build an audience and just talk out at people and by the way a community is not an anonymous comment read it's about profiles and it's about messaging it's about. How are you connecting the right people to each other building strong relationships between those people and offering a journey to master something interesting together for those people that if they could accomplish the stuff on their own if any of us can accomplish this stuff on our own we would but what we know is that? There's a reason why we go to school. You know and it's not just US sitting in our room by ourselves. That's a piece of homeworks a piece of it but learning and progress happens in small communities that are safe that can challenge thinking that the risk that you take the challenges that you take on our incrementally improving or sort of growing and ARGO with mighty networks. Was IT NEEDED TO BE AD free? It needed to be mobile. I and it needed to be creator lead and the reason that those three things were super important is because we envisioned a world that the world is best when we are members of millions of unique and vibrant smaller communities private communities communities where we're making new connections around the kinds of results and transformation that we simply cannot get on our own people and that we have an opportunity to build communities whose primary objective is to master something interesting together and what we know generally is that when a model works for all the right reasons meaning you know a creator or brand who has a following in a when they can actually bring people together to build that kind of network that gets more valuable with every new person who joins that that would be the ultimate model of connected technology. I just have always felt like we. We just need to stay in the game long enough to see that world emerge and I. I believe that that's actually happening right now yet. The fascinating part of the story is clearly. This is starting to change. And I'm so happy that it is because we have not had a presence on facebook and a lot of the other platforms for the very reasons that we've talked about. And when I think about your diligence with this mission over the last ten fifteen years one of the things I heard you say is that mission of an organization. The purpose needs to be big in also needs to be specific. Tell me what you mean by the well. It needs to be big in so far as you know what any of us are doing. We must believe that it can have a positive impact on at least one person's life the thing about software is that it scales and so you're not actually like it you're balancing or any of us. Were balancing the impact on a small group and how that small group comes together but the thing we know about software is that small group can become big. And if you have some big networks you have small networks but you also you know you you allow for people to come together around an interest of passion ICAL passions and interests and goals and who can come together. There's an infinite number of combinations so that is exciting and important and cool the key thing though and I think this is where people who have a big missions they think that you stop at like the mission statement and so you know it's like Oh let's make the world opening connected while the Devil's in the details of opening and connected sounds grade at the super highest level. But what does that mean? What does that mean people so? I think that there's the second art of a mission that says. What does the world look like a year from now? Five years from now when our vision of the world is successful when our mission is successful. What are people doing then that they are not doing today? How are their lives improved? How are we functioning as a team and an organization when that Northstar is you know as we move closer to it and I think that that's both exciting and especially in the early days it's really really hard? And we all. WanNa be general when we're SORTA starting new stuff or starting new projects and the power is in the specificity. Power is in the details. I'm also hearing you make the distinction here between why versus how that. There's a really clear why and that mission stays very very central. Everything you're doing but that you're very flexible and adaptable in curious. On the how right yeah. Yeah absolutely and I'm glad you flag that because that was a shift for me as a leader and I'm grateful that I had the people around me and the team and the customers to realize Vat I didn't actually care about being right about how I cared about being right about the why I care about how are we going to unlock a world with millions of vibrant unique communities that are able to support creators. Who then can reinvest in those communities and really make them special and amazing for the members that have raised hand and chosen to belong and that remains mine. Northstar how we get there. It's a CO creation. It's learning and you know I always think about this. I had these really intense conversations that people and then they're like what do you do for fun? I'm like what do you want from me like? This is what I do for fun where some people sit down and do a puzzle and certainly a way to relax. I respect that. I actually look at what? We're building as this big puzzle every day and when you can embrace the mission and the slaying of dragons as you will with joy and with curiosity makes I think as a leader me more flexible and adaptable and less brittle it doesn't mean that you know I don't have bad days but I definitely know when I'm in my sort of best place to be able to say. Yeah that's a really good idea and when I start by listening and understanding where someone's coming from I'm getting better. I'm getting smarter. I'm getting closer and closer to that. Ultimate goal of. How do we unlock the puzzle that moves more and more people from a world where they're watching the world wiz by them to one where they can actively build new relationships that that means something that matter and belong to something that offers each and every one of us the opportunity to be a part of something bigger than ourselves where we can take on bigger and bigger challenges and we know that we are evolving and adapting with better skills and people who inspire us and challenge us and probably annoy us at times as well but the team the community that is on a journey master? Something interesting together. I can't think of a better way to spend my time. What you just said about team was what came up in a couple of conversations. I had with members of your executive team in the last month or so who said Gina is really really good at not just bringing employees wrong along for the mission and customers but also partners contractors vendors brimming for them the vision and having them be as excited about that. A lot of leaders. Miss the opportunity to do that. How do you do I mean I? I think it starts with clarity in the mission. I think it starts with a recognition that you can't stop it platitudes. You gotta continue with for example. Look this thing or this thing that and it's interesting to hear that reflected back to me because I think it really comes down to treating every single person who is a part of your mission who is on you know on the team that is going to bring something to live to treat them with respect and when you're bringing people along on your collective way of saying we have an opportunity to choose a different path we've opportunity to make different decisions and to live our values in a different way. I think there's just a fundamental respect for people to say. Hey let me connect what we're doing you know every day in our relationship or why we've hired you to the bigger mission because that's where we all each and every one of us get our energy that's where we get our creativity and if you make a place safe for people if you ban the things that make people than their selves and make it safe for them to stare a fear in the face and like just power through it especially in the kind of world where you're building technology and its information services or whatever that might be where so much of what we do and where our success is. GonNa come from is great ideas well execute it whereas great ideas come from. They tend to not come from a place of fear they come from a place of safety and creativity enjoy like when people feel safe and they're experimenting and they're brainstorming and they're having fun and there's a joy associated with it that's where great thinking comes from but more importantly where does the energy and passion to execute. Well come from well. I know for myself being angry or resentful takes energy away from it each and every one of us sure there's like some burst of energy that comes from will all show them but I'll show them as a normal operating procedure is exhausted whereas Oh my gosh I just talked to the most amazing person who's bringing people together around this thing. I never thought of whether that's you most recently for me. I was like. Hr professionals in Mongolia. That's where the energy to spend thirty more minutes on something that you don't have to but it's kind of fun and you want to and you're in flow when you look at what the goals gotta be. It's a lot easier to accomplish it when you're coming from a place of clarity and motivation around. Why you're doing it. And then a certain level of joy in bringing it to life. I think what you said is just so central. I'm thinking about my own journey with getting to know about you and mighty networks and I have been aware of your work or two or three years and had seen mighty networks on the web and some of the conversation about it and I remember visiting the website and thinking Oh cool features but this is just another one of those were GonNa grab all your members and harvest data and advertise and try to lock in for Life. Kinda things like the facebook world and then I heard an interview with you seven or eight months ago and I heard the mission and the purpose behind what you're doing and the why and we had been going down an entirely different route with our back end for our academy as far as how we would have a community experience or something. We could approximate community online. And I heard that interview with you in the wine which are doing and within. I don't know a few days. Totally changed actually stopped a project completely reverse scores and went down now mighty networks powers the back end of our academy and of course our. Kademi is mostly live. Interactions Bird the work. We do their cohorts but the outside of those live interactions is now powered by mighty networks and it has been a game changer on the amount of time and effort. I've needed to put into technology as someone who leading a community and now being able to focus much more of that time on the relationship building piece and nothing changed really as far as the technology in those two to three years. What changed was the story. I had in my mind of the perception of what you and your organization were trying to do and it really speaks to the power of mission and you doing what you were just talking about of engaging everyone on the team whether or not an employer contractor a vendor or someone out in the world who's talking about mighty network it really does make a big shift. I appreciate you saying that. So thank you. I mean the the other thing to know about technology is a lesson that many people have learned the hard way. Which is you will never win. Trying to copy or emulate the good or the bad of the dominant player in particular or category. So this is this notion that like we'd wake up one day and be like yeah. We want to go harvest data and bill like a whole targeted advertising. Injin based on you know lack of privacy with twenty twenty five people versus twenty five thousand people. That is a fool's errand and so there are much easier things for me to go do or ways to make a very healthy living. The thing that I am the most passionate about and the reason that it never feels like a sacrifice to work on many networks is the mission is the fact that actually we need a different model. Or how we connect via technology and what that allows us to do both virtually and in the real world in terms of building in terms of taking on new challenges in terms of mastering something. That's interesting are important to us and again I really appreciate you saying that and also you know if anybody is working on the thing that at its logical conclusions sucks for people. I think at that point. Somebody should take me aside and give me something better to do it. It's really interesting. The I think the world really is changing on this too and I know seeing it in when we started with mighty networks back in six seven months ago now and I was talking with Marnie. Who's on your executive team was my boss? Twenty years ago funny is funny story. So we're talking and we had the conversation like Oh maybe genus should come on the show at some point and I thought boy I would love to talk to her on a personal level like it would be fine and talk about the technology but I thought you know. Our audience is probably not as tuned in to what's going on with mighty networks and facebook and all the stuff as maybe other audiences would be and the last six months has taught me that. I'm wrong on that we've had a half dozen of our KADEMI members who have now seen the platform we've built on mighty networks have reached out to me and said how is this happening and by the way. I have an organization either professional organization. We're doing something internally. Could you tell me more about how you got on with mighty networks? What's the story behind that? And I was like Oh fascinating as a society. We're starting to realize like there's a better way to do this. Then form a face booker. And I'm so thrilled that that's emerged. Because I think that it really for me it shows the vision and the purpose that you and mighty networks have behind you and and by the way other folks are doing this two of the crater lead private not everyone. How do we do it in a way where we show up and really have that purpose behind these these communities and maps much more to the world that like you said earlier we grew up in right? You know we created communities and our real life. We done that. Why not have in that same model online? Yeah when people realized that the reasons they were choosing facebook over creating their own special world for their own special purpose again. This isn't obviously if you just look at the numbers this isn't everybody is we are in early days. But there's a magic that can happen when you create your own world and people are able to make an actions outside of their facebook identity. Or you know the person that they are on on a general one-size-fits-all platform something magical happens. And I think that the magic is I think we will see the connection to private vibrant unique communities as a source of energy as a source of inspiration as a source of learning. And I think most importantly you know people feeling like wow my community and the different communities that I belong to gives me meaning purpose in an edge in choosing to fully see my potential route to take on bigger risks and be okay with failing because I won't fail by myself. I'm not going to be alone and only through trying and failing will I find success. Well speaking of failure finding success leaders are always learning growing and discovering new things in the last couple of years as mighty networks has grown. What if you changed your mind on? So when we first built out online courses on our platform I never run an online course. I the only people we were really talking to where people that always sort of started their sentences with while I've been running online courses for twelve years or you know I have a certificate in what felt what felt like they were saying is online courses. Are this difficult world that unless you have a lot of experience and you can't actually create them yourself and so while I knew a lot about the things I knew a lot about in terms of community building and community design for creating things that run themselves or you charge for them. I literally did not think I had what it took or permission to launch an online course and so you know I went from thinking that online courses were outside of my ability. There's something that you have to build all this fancy content four and a half video production crew common. You knock it out over you know six months and instead what I realized is that ninety percent of the magic of a online course is in clear. About what your big purposes you know. Why are you bringing people together bringing people together and and just giving people a outline or a scaffolding that it's the members of that course that fill it in one of the things I think is so fascinating about how we talk about online courses? It's like oh well it's content it's content it's content. Well if you think about like. Oh that's the way school works. School is not contact. School is who you went to school with school. Is who you who you were talking to either late night in the hallway or working on a project with. It's the people that you are going on this learning journey with not just the content if anything the best teachers gives the outline for the journey bring the right people together to push each other and to share their experiences and stories and perspectives. And I think that in just a a way that we all want to scale. We've synthesized it in simplified it down to content in a way that just simply isn't true it gets back to we were talking about earlier the Wi- versus the how like it's things. Sometimes we hear the word course and we think about the traditional course that most of us took you know in our higher education programs. Yeah and it's really funny to hear you say this and talk through your experience of we've come really in the same place with our Kademi of very very light on what we would traditionally called content and curriculum and very heavy on structure and expectations and a framework and an environment. And that is what people like so want and are missing and so many of the communities online learning communities and and it's really fun to see those coming together and I'm so excited that you're seeing that same thing. Yeah Gina Being Keeney is the founder and CEO of Mighty Networks Gina. Thank you for all the fabulous work. You're doing thank you for having me. I mentioned in our conversation that were now powering. The Entire Academy community through the mighty networks platform and it has been Really a wonderful move to help us to get the technology out of our way. In order to engage our time and attention through conversation and through great questions and so many of the things that we talk about on the show regularly and having technology that really supports that has been just a wonderful move for us. And we're now proud to be affiliated with the mighty networks team so if it might be something that be a value to you or your organization or if you were hosting a community as well. Coaching LEADERS DOT COM SLASH. Mighty is where to go for a lot more details in order to investigate how it might work for you or for your organization. In addition if this conversation was useful to you today I'd invite you to check out three other conversations. Well actually four other conversation recommend from the past one of them is episode two twenty three start with Wi- with Simon Seneca. No one knows why better than Simon? He has been a talking for years about the importance of starting with Wifi and leaders in particular organizations. Having clarity on the Y you heard that loud and clear in today's conversation with Gina so many of the effective and successful organizations today have clarity on that Y and if you have not yet heard Simon's work episode. Two Twenty. Three is a wonderful place to start. I'd also invite you to check out episode. Three forty five how to create a vivid vision with Cameron herold the distinction of course between mission and purpose and vision is a mission and purpose is what gets us out of the bed today. What are we here to do in this world? What is this organization this individual do and then vision is where we're going? What does the future look like and in episode three forty five Cameron walked us through a process for creating vivid vision? And helping you and your organization to really craft what that looks like in the future so that then you can work backwards and start to think. How can we get there in the best way possible? We do that as part of our Kademi work of helping each member to create a picture of what the future looks like and then tactically going down into the details of. What are the specific behavioral changes that we can implement in order to get their episode? Three forty five will begin that process for you. I'd also invite you to check out episode. Four ten how to clarify what's important with Rod Williams Ron. The former CEO of Aetna who came into that role as Aetna was struggling financially many years ago and through his diligence through his leadership and also through his clarity. He helped the organization turn around and have a tremendous and successful organizational success. Story episode. Four ten is where to go there for some inspiration and then finally I'm recommended also episode four eleven seven tools to create margin and a new podcast on that episode. I walk through some of the software and services that Bonnie and I use to power our business also to help us personally in order to organize everything that's going on in our lives also in that episode. I talked about the new Dave's journal podcast which I haven't mentioned recently but airs almost weekly. It's not quite a weekly show. But it's my thoughts in five minutes or less on something that I'm thinking about right now on leadership on productivity and communication that will help you to reflect on a specific tactic that you can do differently episode. Four eleven is a great introduction to all of that and of course you can find all those on the coaching for leaders dot com website. That's also the place to establish your free membership and when you set up your free membership you're going to get access to the entire member library. That is searchable by topic of all our past episodes plus all of the audio courses that are available there and the resources section. 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Episode 13  Beth Keeney

Taking Her Lead

57:25 min | 2 months ago

Episode 13 Beth Keeney

"My eight year old his told me on more than. One occasion that she's going to be like the president of the United States. No, she's GonNa be the president of the world differences Valerie and it doesn't occur to her that that's not ever been done before. which is awesome. There is no glass ceiling to her. He called me down to his office one day. I need you to send yourself this email that came into my email inbox said now I'm not GonNa do that. I'm not going to do that, but I will teach you how to email. and. He said I don't WANNA email. I don't WANNA learn how to email and I said, okay we'll. The battle lines have been drawn and I went back to my office. Hello listeners. This is taking her lead I. Am Joshua ever mayor and I'm trace car here we strive to give women a platform to tell their stories and explain how they lead. And today we are sharing a great conversation that we had with Beth keeney. She's currently the senior vice president for community health initiatives and the COO for primary care services life spring health systems. Beth is a dynamic woman who has made public health center point of her career. She brings a levity and humor to some serious work that makes it really refreshing. Fun Conversation She's able to speak to leadership from a place of having strong support as far as her leadership journey. And I know, you'll enjoy this episode our conversation with her. Without. Further Ado here we go with Beth keeney and episode thirteen on taking her lead. Are you. Good. How are you guys? Man Things are rolling right along as a lot of good things going so. Good, good. Sorry. I was wearing right up against this Call, at the last minute added with the senators from Indiana and kind of felt like. Had to do that how to do that? That's take. Yeah for sure next time I'm speaking with a senator I will let you guys know and you know that's what I'll be doing season. Whatever meeting. I, totally dragging that out. It'd be like I was little lake as I was talking with a senator. When you take it out of your drink, stick your pinky and right? Exactly. Yeah. Totally. Particular thing you guys were discussing that you can talk about just. Yeah. Absolutely. So So Senator Young is a little bit CLA is Kinda close to this area? He's from an area not too far from me, but we were just talking about Community Health Center funding and I'm trying to get some support for a bill that's making its way to the Senate that just came out of the House and So so that's what we were talking and he's always been very supportive of the, Community Health Center program and Yeah. So just talking to him for a few minutes about that and about some of the things that are working their way through. Washington. So a good twenty minutes call. That's positive. That's that's yeah. Yeah. It doesn't always go that way. That way today so Yeah. What a great connection how long have you worked with him? So he was a congressman, the congressman for my district I before he became Senator and so. Met Him a couple of times through that, and then he transitioned over to the to the Senate side probably ten years ago and so just. Have worked through with his office threat out. So the there's a trade association. Set the, call up today. So. Fantastic. Well, welcome to taking her lead. Thank you. Try to really excited to be here. We'll have some good laughs that is half the battle. If you if you laugh at. That good things can come about if you're able to laugh and. You know and that's okay, I. Mean We want to hear your story when GonNa hear things you've gone through. Your perspective from that. Yeah I really enjoyed the show. So I really appreciate you have gone absolutely. Yeah. So what is your current position and what is it that you do? So currently I serve as the senior vice president for community health initiatives at like spring health systems, and so I'm in southern Indiana and the agency that I work for is both a community health center in a community mental health center in. So we provide a comprehensive health care and Comprehensive Behavioral Health and Addiction Treatment folks regardless of their ability to pay. And my job really is to. Oversee the community health center portion of the business. Make sure that folks have access to comprehensive primary care across the life span. So a new baby just home from the hospital all the way up to the geriatric population and so I, look. At the communities that were located in and I think, okay where do we go next? Who Needs Primary Care? Does that fit into our business model and then a look at our service structure and our systems and figure out how we can do that. So, yeah. So that's pretty much what I do on an everyday basis. Oil Down into a nutshell. So you're really passionate about proactive healthcare I am passionate about proactive healthcare. And I'm passionate about access to healthcare even more than proactive healthcare. You know I think when you come from a background like mine which is. Very privileged in terms of. Strong support system you know when when we were growing up, it's not like my family was wealthy by any stretch of the Imagination, but very wealthy in terms of love and support instability and when you come from that type of environment, it is easy to be passionate about proactive healthcare We. Live in a community where there are a lot of options for healthcare there is a lot of support there is I never had to worry about whether or not my parents could. Afford a copay to the doctor for me the pediatrician for me both of my parents were in the home with You know gave me better better chances for better. Better, healthcare outcomes in. So I think when you come from a background like Maan easy to be passionate about proactive healthcare, which is why which is, why say yes I'm passionate about proactive healthcare but even more than that I'm passionate about access to healthcare and so So four. For whomever whatever that looks like if it's reactionary healthcare if if they only happen to get to us when they're sick if they happen to get to swim eight need preventative care. You know whatever best? Whatever. Is Best for them is fine. I. Just WanNa make sure that they have the ability to get to support that they don't have the access then who cares about productivity Right exactly if they can't afford the prescription, it doesn't matter. If they if they can't get to the pharmacy, doesn't matter if the only place that they have access to carry us through an emergency department, then it doesn't matter One of the things that I thought was kind of interesting when I was looking at life spring was. It that you had there was a webpage and had people in leadership like your senior VP and your VP's your senior positions and out of nineteen people. Thirteen of them were women. And I thought that was super amazing because it's not something I've seen looking at some other health organizations. You, know I I report to the CEO and a talking to him the other he's incredible by the way I was talking to him the other day and we were talking about we needed to have a facilities meeting in a you know boss I wanna, talk about what we can do to improve the women's bathroom. I want it to be as nice as the men's bathroom and he said, well, there aren't any men here. That's. Nicer. There's no men on this floor. That's what nicer. Yeah I. Mean The working here is such A. Such A. Female Friendly Environment because because as you pointed out, everyone is a woman. In it's not bydesign think in. Public Health and in behavioral health. It. The field is largely dominated by women. Certainly, social work is definitely dominated by women and in our agency is primarily behavioral health, but it is It is wonderful. It is a great environment. Did you come? Did you come to now? You've been at life spring for quite a while, right? Did you did you come into? That this more female centric environment from a that wasn't I mean you know or as this kind of been a trend for you all along. It has not so I actually always thought that I would go to law school and so. I wanted to be. The next Jack McCoy if you if you were ever a law and order, Fan. And then. So right after high school I did an internship in the local prosecutor's Office and Are. Really. Actually. Don't love this very much and. It just was very. I really like to be action of it. I really liked the detail and being very involved in. Management of cases. But it was kind of heart wrenching to be honest and So after I finish my bachelor's degree I worked as a as a felony probation officer and Iran the county's first drug court and so. So I worked very closely with law enforcement really got a front row seat to the impact of Behavioral Health and addiction is and I did that for a few years and just really saw that you know everything in life is not black and white people are not all bad or all good ever. You know it really is not this kind of cut and dry lawn order kind of view that I thought it was and. I went to. Went to work really decided I didn't want to do law enforcement anymore that law enforcement view of things and I went to work for. The city, the local city doing some grant writing and that was definitely not a female dominated environment local politics Anza, and it was after that came to I've spring. What if you'd be willing to talk a little bit about the? The aspects of that position. When Grant Ready That we're not dominated in how you. Navigate those so so just. You know I think a lot of times politics people get into it for the right reason it's just isn't There's just a lot of Ego Times that comes along with it. Now, for for example, I had a I had a boss at. One time Nice Person but very kind of chauvinistic and couldn't couldn't turn his computer on and and that's not a metaphor for something else he literally could turn. The. So so I was I was expecting my first child and. In my you know my first pregnancy was not I was not one of those like pretty pregnant people who? Fluff Ninety pounds and. He called me down to his office Wednesday and he said, you know I need you to send yourself this email that came into my email inbox. I just walked up three flights of stairs to his office in. Did you really just make me climb stairs to email myself something like he didn't know how to email. This was like two thousand, eight right like everyone heady male. And let said now, I'm not GonNa do that. I'm not GonNa do that but will teach you how to email. in his wanting to go I, need to go to the John is what he said and of. Persons. That's you know what traits that's exactly what I said Oh. That's okay. It's it. You know what? That's funny I need to go to the John to we can. Now we come together on what together back. Because you know I'm eight and a half months pregnant I really did Earth's point You know zero. Were given that day and I just. You know we're GONNA go and we're GONNA come back and I'm gonNA teach you how to email it. So I go to the bathroom and. I came out. And I kind of sit around for a little bit. I came back to the office and I asked the receptionist like where is did he come back in here and she said, well, he did but then he went to lunch. No. Oh. Hell No. Yeah. It was. So I went and grab something in a drafter and I waited a sat there and waited until he came back and said you know. You're not going to disrespect me this way I've got a master's degree. I'm not someone that you are going to disrespect this way either you learn how to email or I'm not I'm not interested in what you. Are emailing me. And He said I don't WanNA email this I don't Wanna learn how to email and so I said, okay we'll. The battle lines have been drawn and I went back to my office. And And you know that was it I thought this is this is it I am not going to stay in this environment. I'm not going to be disrespected this way and saw went on maternity leave a couple of weeks later. And had beautiful baby girl and while I was on maternity leave you know this decision came open and. Thought this is just one of those things it was meant to me so You, know I thought. This is such a good lesson. This is such a good lesson because this is not how you treat people There is no level of staff member would ever allow to be treated this way and I'm certainly not going to be treated this way so. Definitely not definitely not a family female friendly environment. I can just imagine having been pregnant twice twice the rage that. It seems like. The all of the some of those filters you know you're really pregnant and you are done and you have no time and Kudos to you for being like, no, I don't have time for this and I will sit in your office and eat my lunch while I wait for you to come back. And then like you're plotting right like it's all running through your head like all the things and this is not going to be a thing that I'm GonNa do today this is not a thing that's on my agenda. So yes. So that was definitely not a healthy environment for me and they. It was a similar position here at live spring at grant writing position and I'd always had A. Lot of respect for the organization because when I worked as a probation officer, I often would send people would often refer people there and I was so impressed with the way that they treated the the people that I was working with the people who'd been in trouble who who'd been in a lot of trouble and I really felt like were marginalized disrespected in every other place in society. And are always thought that they were treated really. Well, I live spring and I thought that's an organization I can be proud to work for, and so when a similar job came open at life spring to the one that I worked in applied for it and coincidentally my younger brother. Worked there at the same time cut in the IT department he's a, he's a systems administrator. He worked there and sell. Kinda. Got The skinny from the position on him from him and so applied for it and got the job and came off of my maternity leave till I spring and saw been here for since two thousand, eight's over twelve years and I love it. I will retire from here if the let me. So it's a, it's a great organization and I'm so proud to be affiliated with it. That's awesome. Work. You know one of the reasons that we're doing this podcast is that it's Not only do we want see change and we want to. Have our listeners be able to hear these fantastic stories of individuals like yourself who've navigated in gotten to places of influence. But. Also, that women have a lot to bring uniquely that men don't necessarily have to bring and so you know. You don't need to have don a lot of formal about leadership but what do you? Can from your got in from your experience and for being yourself, what do you think you bring? What do you think women bring to the plate that? achieve some of that impact for those outcomes for your patience and your clients. Yeah you know I think one of the. One of the things that we really stress so much with young people is that you have to have this big plan. You know we we asked little kids would he would you WanNa do when you grow up in and I, think it puts a lot of pressure on kids and I. think that if if my career pats shows people anything, it's you really don't have to have it all figured out. You I'm forty now and I really feel I can to about ten years ago I didn't have a clue. What I was doing was going off of gut instinct to put one foot in front of the other, and then it clicked and then it clicked right until and then making one good decision after another good decision and then I ended up where it was supposed to be doing. Things that. I think that you know just knowing that that's okay it's okay to not. have it all figured out and especially when you're working with vulnerable populations and marginalized populations. It's I think that that's a good message I think for women. That's a good message. It's OK that you don't know. It's okay that you don't have it all figured out. It's Ok the don't have all the boxes checked. A lot of people don't a lot of successful people don't. But what they do have is resilience and they do have the ability to think critically and to work through the questions. You know when I was younger Leadership for me looked a lot like stepping up and and doing all the things taken on all the committees and doing all of the all of the hard work and I'm finding now at this point in my career, it looks really different that I'm stepping back more and it's knowing more about when to be still. into. Just kind of process the things that need to be processed and to be. Quiet, more into be still more, and that's really hard for me and I think it's really hard for A lot of women especially women in leadership in an executive leadership because we're doers and were fixtures in you kind of get to a point in your career where. You just you just have to start to kind of take a step back until that other people do. Rather than trying to do it all. That makes sense. Yes, it does. What is that gain you? Let's say you get the point where you are an ideal way. Stepping, back in being silent. Reflecting and being more strategic. What does that game? You definitely get perspective. I think you definitely get perspective. You also get credibility. You start to turn into one of those people that other people listen to. Where you know when you were younger, you know you talk about those people They talk you listen you know those people everybody knows those people in think that I think When you start to get to that kind of middle career point you understand how people got there. recently. Had A pretty big community level project in when you're looking at socio ecological theory, you've got the different levels you know like individual family community I'm more of a community kind of person and we had a pretty big project that we were working on. We had some different contractors involved in the project and ultimately it didn't work out. And it didn't work out because when it came down to it, the community gentleman at the community where we were trying to work work it out. Ultimately, didn't want it and I was really bummed. I was really bummed because I, felt like the community would have really benefited from it. But when I took a step back and I'll listen when I quit talking, I'll listen and again not talking is a problem for me right? Like I'm GonNa talk her But when I took a step back and listen to what they were saying, what they were saying is we don't want this. This isn't a not in my backyard issue because it's always been in our backyard, but we don't want. We understand you think we need it We don't want it and thanks for you know. Bring to our attention, but we don't want it. I think it would have been a net positive coaching, but ultimately, I don't live there. I don't live in this specific community and a lot by the failed project. I learned a lot about a community conversation a learned a lot about community building. In that was a project that failed in failed spectacularly. But Man I learned a lot did did the community have suggestions for things that they did want? They? Essentially. Just recommended it goes somewhere else. Yeah, I mean, it was basically like You know you don't have to go home, but you can't stay here kind of thing it was just don't. You don't bring it here So so I, I really made some good connections in the community and talked in this was this was a specific neighborhood. Really got some neat some really interesting fascinating people and ultimately got to connect some people to care that I think ultimately wouldn't have connected to care otherwise. So I'm Oh, always glad anytime that can happen. but again, It was more of a process of sitting back and just being quiet and listening to allow so that I can allow the learning process for myself to happen. That's phenomenal. It, it flips the perspective to one where it's not about you said about your agenda about the you know the dialogue and. The people involved. Does that ring true or yeah no, it's totally true. A lot of. Times. Times when you when you're doing community level work, you get really big ideas about what a community needs. You know you'll. You'll think, oh, this would fix everything for them but. You know that's really. Not. appropriate. A lot of times because the community. You may be right, but maybe not and oftentimes, a community might have different ideas about what they need, and so this kind of the old adage about nothing about us without us and I have found that to be incredibly true and so I think it's really just for me. I think that net takeaways were about. How to properly engage the community and at what level and win in the project and that kind of thing. So I am bummed the project didn't happen. But I did learn a lot. It was a really important professional growth experience for me. Yet is kind of interesting because you you have programs and you do things and I've done just a you know an any weeny bit of like community outreach sort of thing and that idea of. I have this big thing I would like to do but you have to talk to the community so much sooner than you would think, yes you you really do especially when you're talking about stigmatized operations. So anytime you're talking about. Something like serving homeless people or doing something that might provide addiction services. Those kind of things which people already are a little bit nervous about and they think, okay well, this might bring more people in which may or may not be true. Right you don't ever really know until you start operating You know it's just really important really critical to get everybody on the same page as quickly as possible and. In own it, I own it. You know I think we we underestimated that. In should say I'm taking a lot of this on we. were. Just a we were a partner in a in a bigger project, but that it was a big learning experience. Right, well, and I mean, it's important to and I think this is something that we don't do a across a lot of sciences and and I would put medicine into. This is not talking about failures right and I think it's important that we do talk about failures. It's not about punishment. It's about okay. So what did we do wrong and what can we do better and then how do we tell other people about these things so that maybe next time it doesn't happen again I don't think there's we shouldn't be a stigma to that, right? No, I totally agree one of the things we've recently talked in, you know just operationally internally about it that. Failure is an important part of learning in on a healthcare team He No. I'm talking about the community level. But even at the Individual Clinic Level we expect you to stand up and say I screwed up I failed and and if you can't do that, you can't be here. You know we we have to be able to rely on each other's team members to stand up and say I messed up here's what happened. Here's everything you need to know about the situation and here's how I'm GonNa make sure it doesn't happen again right? Like we need to be able to trust that people are holding themselves and each other accountable. Because that's the only way that we can ensure that our patients are safe. So you know that's really critical and and we have to talk about those. We have to talk about those. Mistakes, we've gotTa talk about those failures we've got to kind of exploit those to another level so we can identify those system, those system improvements that need to be made. You you. You said, you kind of stepped away from politics to work in healthcare. But now you tell me about Indiana, House bill eleven eighty two. I would love to tell you about. Eighty two. Yes. Okay. So eleven eighty two past it's actually law now. July first. House bill eleven eighty two came to be thing just discussion with our chief medical officer. WHO's a good friend of mine We were talking about. How locally? Have segmented healthcare was and in Indiana as a lot of states they have They have their club fatality review teams and they have them for different types of fatalities. They have them for infant infant child fatalities. Every county in the state of Indiana has an infant child fatality review team. they have them for maternal mortality at the state level. So any mom who died during pregnancy or two a year after childbirth their cases reviewed at the state level. In this Indiana has a really high rate of maternal mortality. In. So these reviews are really important because they provide insight into what happened you know what can be done to prevent them. So our chief medical officer, he's also local health officer were talking and I said you know. I wish that we could do this for overdose fatalities because we know people are falling through the cracks. We know people we've got access to care issues. We know they're hitting the emergency room. We know they're hitting here. We know they're hitting different treatment providers but nobody can talk to each other because of privacy laws and. We know there are gaps in care and You, know it was kind of just a side conversation, and then I was doing some research about a different project and a happened upon a study of the East Coast somewhere I think it was Maine Maryland that talked about overdose fatality review. In a Senate to him and said, look this thing. We started talking about some more and we've got a a local legislator state legislator who just incredibly public health focused. So, we set up a meeting with him. He's just been incredibly great to US set up a meeting with him. We had breakfast and I said, you know we wanna do this thing and we want to model it after child and maternal mortality. In he said, sounds great He also this legislator also was the author of Indiana Syringe. program. Legislation in two, thousand, fifteen which. I don't know if you guys are not been. Indiana is super conservative. So he was able to get this through which was incredible and so yeah. So we had breakfast and he said, you know sounds good. Sent me the information. Yes. We were able to get it done and we kind at the last minute. A lot of things got attached to it. So it ended up being suicidal overdose fatality review and I went up and testified a couple times in different committees Dr All went up and testified a few times on different committees. We whipped about with senators and legislators and and then at the last minute I mean, it was it was really interesting. I'm pretty familiar with the federal legislative process not as familiar with state but no, we'd go and say, okay, you're going to testify Wednesday morning at ten thirty I'd be walking out of my health hotel of to across the street from the state. House. Negotiate, your testimony canceled today come back next week with A. Two and a half hours away like. Okay. So it was a lot of. Lot of back and forth with lobbyists in all the stuff. At the last minute. Different legislators had attached I'm some syringe service language to it, and so it kind of got dicey I've got a little bit contentious there at the end but kind of on the last few days that we could get it through it passed, and so we are just absolutely thrilled because for the first time in a state of Indiana were able to a community level look suicides than overdose cases as a as a group and and the the goal is not to point fingers. It's not to say, well, the hospital should have done this or wife Spring should have done this to say. Here's a here's a gap in care. You know nobody they were told that somebody would follow up and nobody followed up and this is what we can do to make sure that doesn't happen again. In one Indiana County, they sound There were a couple of these kind of operating anyway without legislation and in one of the counties they found. That eighty percent of suicides that had happened in the year that they studied they'd had a divorce filed in the prior year. So. You know correlation isn't causation right palm, but it was enough. It was enough to for the local court to say, okay, we need to implement some things here. We need to do a suicide screener and to let people know. You know it's normal to have these feelings. This is not uncommon, but if you do here's what you need to do. and so we feel like it's a really important public health and prevention for our community. So we're really excited about it in. This is the first month that were able to operate. Wow, that's awesome. How does that and does that now bill? Information sharing between the organizations. Yes. Yeah. Within the confines of the screw So it's a small group on the local health officer WHO'S Is the chair of the group and so it's it's got very specific membership and the group has a very specific legislative purpose and you know that's something that we really wanted to keep really tight. You know what we didn't want is for something that happened in the group to go to end up in somebody's custody fight you know we didn't. We didn't want it to go and end up in somebody you know to be used for for another purpose and so it's very tight it's very Heavily, restricted and confidential It's a very small group, but it is a very purposeful group. For Strategic, yes yeah. Absolutely. Who are some women in positions of influence and leadership and who've impacted your leadership journey if it can mentored your helped you alone. Yet, we'll definitely, of course, Mama on Well really both of my parents. Are Servant Leaders Really minds higher family I think I think it just kind of comes ingrained to all about. On, if it takes a village with me I think it took probably you know half of Indiana. Yeah, I think I think my definitely my parents, my nuclear family I also I worked for a when I was a probation officer. I worked for a judge, a female judge who was incredible. I really learned a lot from her. I consider her a mentor even now she's retired and. Just just incredibly powerful woman but also just learned so much from her about leadership. What are some things that you learned from her specifically she taught Tottenham a little bit about how to calm. down. A little bit. You know kind of lepe. Things Aarau a little bit But she you she was. Smaller in stature, but she didn't need size to be. The strongest person in the room if that makes sense so. Just. Incredibly insightful and definitely could hold the rooms attention with words and. Just. Ensuring that people were able to get what they needed when they needed. It didn't really cave to outside pressure just very cool calm and collected. You know most of the public health leadership in Indiana is women and are very strong ineffective and I don't really know them but I just think they're incredible I also work with incredible women. you saw our website. Most of our executive leadership team are women I'm lucky enough to call my colleagues friends and I think it's just I think it's just such a rare an thing to be able to come to work every single day with your friends and then also to be able to look at the work that they're doing in. Thank. Gosh that is just awesome and that is community changing work in just to be grateful to be in the presence of such forward thinking passionate people I've got a really good group of friends who one of them said you know I don't think we need to be or die can't we just be like Ryder Wine Without Ach about death. But they're really quick to make sure that we're all you know where we need to be and. I'm just really lucky to be surrounded by incredible women. One of the reasons why we're talking to you is because we talked to Amelia Clark and she mentioned you and one of the things that she was particularly like you have to talk about this with is the HIV outbreak that was in two thousand fourteen. Okay in Indiana and she felt like you were a moving force towards fixing things and change, and you know that the chaff to move forward with with what is what you think is going to be best and that your action in that instance was something that she was. very impressed by your meal is very kind to give me credit that situation in that community. Was transformative for a lot of people that definitely was transformative for me on a professional and personal level and. I won't sugar coated our to really hard that year it was. It was a physically and emotionally exhausting year but I didn't do anything compared to what the people who live and work there every day do. Not. Want to be really clear about fat. What happened in Austin was unique and unprecedented it was really interesting and I think not only myself and live spring learned a lot but I think the whole country learned a lot and so what we were able to do there in collaboration with other health partners with the health department was to really set up a medical mall in this is Rural Indiana. Okay. The into to set the stage Mike Pence was the governor than. syringe services were prohibited by State Law So there were there was no needle exchange at the time Jerome Adams who is the surgeon general now was our state health commissioner and we had an unprecedented and HIV outright directly tied to IV drug use. So it's a little bitty community twenty, five thousand people in this county of. Less than five thousand people in this little bitty city in. Austin. Indiana they experienced HIV rake to the scale of some parts of sub Saharan Africa. The End, what was happening was was very. Unusual behavior they were having clustered injection behavior where people were injecting together and a lot of times. What happens is people they inject alone drug drug abuse often as a solo behavior I. Yeah, it is very isolating and and so they were acting together sharing needles injecting another, and so I'm very closed off close knit community and so once someone who was HIV positive came into the community just very rapidly spread. and so we we were called in as the community mental health provider very early on I think when they went ahead ten ten or twelve cases diagnosed in this was like this was winter like January Twenty fifteen, and for perspective, the CDC didn't even the CDC arrived I think March or April in. So we we set up along with a local health departments. We set up kind of a one stop shop and there were lots of agencies there but we did we started off with Providing just kind of behavioral health triage g where to go for care aren't you safe today Are you interested in treatment and that sort of thing and we actually started with pretty low level staff like not low level staff but not therapist started with case managers that kind of thing, and we found that the level of trauma in the community was so significant that we needed higher level staff was significant domestic violence significant. Issues in. So we started rotating therapists room. And then we ended up putting a permanent location and Austin and doing an integrated care location in. So we co located with the health department. And in that health depart in that building you could get. On our side of the building you could get. Behavioral Health and addiction treatment including medication assisted treatment you get. Comprehensive Primary Care the primary care provider they're. Also sought and earned her certification in HIV medicine. and. She's family practice so she can do obstetric care. And then on the health department side of the building, you could get you know your syringe services, which was eventually authorized by Governor Pence and then subsequently the legislature. So it essentially was a one stop medical mall in Rural Indiana and it was in I mean it really was such an incredible model for. What we facing at the time. and that was for it, but it really was a team effort I did spend an incredible amount of time up there, but it was not just me. It was a lot of people couple of people from our leadership team up there A lot. in since that time, the community in Austin has just changed so much There are so many more resources now, than than were there before we've moved into a new building there we that we you know we outgrew that initial space At the beginning of June this year we moved into a much larger space the the community has totally transformed It's just a very different city than five years ago, and I am incredibly proud of everything that lives spring did but I'm incredibly proud of the entire community and how resilient they have been. There truly incredible population and people are happy story now that's really which is so that the. Facility there in the programs there is that a collaborative model therefore it is. It is. It's it's it's a CO located model is what it's called. But yes, it is a collaborative model between all the different providers in the triaging of the services. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. What's the everybody's gone now except for us in the health department? Because we are you know it's not an emergency anymore it's not an emergency response. This is just the new health delivery model. For the for the area. Yeah. Yeah. So it was it was definitely just an incredible experience. To kind of watch old. Heart wrenching at times for sure. But. Just. transformative as well. Trees I've got a couple questions, but I want to make sure it just. Steamroller. Cool. Beth. what would you say to a young woman who has leadership capacity and talent who wants to get into? It about navigating the challenges in navigating what is generally a landscape dominated by men And other things that you would you have perspectives on from your experience? What would you say that young woman? I think the first thing I would say is to to find a mentor. Either formally or informally In, Fun make it clear what your intentions are I'm ask for what you want you know if you Be Purposeful about your intentions. If you. Want work on a special project if you WANNA take the lead on something. Be Intentional about that. the probably the best most impactful things that I that I have done have involved getting assistance from someone who was senior to me Those conversations happen always been easy. But they have been important. Also very early in my career. I paid a lot of dues. I worked a lot of hours. and. I. Think that people do notice that I took a lot of took a lot of initiative on a lot of projects insult encourage encourage people to do that. You know very rare laid and the smartest person in the room, but it is It is not often that people work harder. and and so I think that I I would say work your butt off. Show up consistently and fun find some mentors that can help you get where you need to be. The mentors ship comes up again, pretty consistently with our guests. That something that's super important. that it sounds like you've had a phenomenal. Community that has come alongside you threat your journey. It's really cool. What are some of the skills and approaches that you bring? To the table that you know. Art Maybe Kinda unique to you that that's why you're there. It's way you're effective I I'm really big on the one liner you know like I can take anything and. Try to make it funny row quick enough and. I really I think connect well with people. quickly. And I read people pretty well. You know I'm able to. kind of walk into a room and kind of work the burn pretty quickly and pretty effectively think. I also tend to end up on A. In a lot of different things. You know ended up in a lot of the same meetings as everyone else cut up in the community so. I I get a good feel about the different things that are going on in the community would also sounds breath look. You've got quite the gift for strategy. Vision. You can stab the big picture where things ego yeah absolutely. Absolutely and you know I do I'll pay attention to. You know when the Governor says something and then I'll notice it like two other department heads at the state level. Say something announced that think Oh this probably ought to be something that we start really paying attention to and formulating a plan for because I bet you there's going to be some funding in six months time to this. I'm so just kind of paying attention to the landscape at the local and state and sometimes even federal level and figuring out what how we can tie our mission to what's happening to ensure that the the people in the community and the families we serve are able to get the services that they need. So what are you most hopeful about for the future of women in leadership and women may be more specifically for you like in healthcare. So I'm the mom of two daughters and I'm very hopeful for the future of women. You know I think just in my lifetime, there's been such transformative change. In terms of. Expectations what's acceptable in the workplace? you know we are seeing more and more women and. Minorities in positions of leadership in positions of power, and so I, think that for my daughter's it's GonNa look very different and I am hopeful and I'm excited for them. You know my my eight year old his told me on more than. One occasion that she's going to be like the president of the United States note she's going to be the president of the world know she's going to be a freeze owering you know and it doesn't occur to her that. That's not ever been done before which is awesome. There is no glass ceiling to her right like there's She doesn't perceive that that is not something that. Is Possible so I'm really Excited for her and for my girls. But I'm hopeful that that we will continue to see paradigm shift you know I'd like to see the language change. Where men have been called decisive women are see. That makes me crazy. I think there have been times when my confidence has been confused with arrogance. And I think that in a similar situation, it would have been very different for a man. sometimes been inappropriately confident. But arrogant a no. Sometimes, men are thoughtful and analytical and women are indecisive and I think the words that are used. For Women sometimes our emotional, they're they're emotionally descriptive women are cold there to colder there too hysterical, but men are analytical and committed and I just. Really hope the language changes and I'd like to get to the point where we quit. Asking women. Leadership. Things like who's taking care of their kids? During the day, you know nobody has ever asked my husband. Who takes care of your kids when you're working late. I get asked that probably two or three times a week like your doom as a song that you know press release such incredible work he just did an on that legislative. Initiative in Washington you know kosher kids must miss you all the time when you're gone because it seems like you're GonNa law, you know. How? I'm so impressed with all the incredible work you're doing. You know we just we need to quit. We need to quit were all doing the absolute best that we can do and I know, why am I know my friends are the women I work with are, and so I think that what I'm most hopeful for The future of women, and later a is that we just give each other a dam break and I I hope that we start recognizing that the same positive qualities and men can be positive qualities in women. And You know we're GONNA be okay. We just need to to keep working for make the world a better place and I think that's where we are. ooh. Beth really sees the big picture and she operates day to day from that perspective very strategic in her efforts and the connections she makes with people she's involved in a lot in our community and she gets a lot done. She talked about resilience and which I think is incredibly important and responding to the opportunities that come up rather than having this master plan for your entire life things as they happen and working really hard to. Make the most of them and. I. Love how? Her perspective is that her teams and those she collaborates with the champions and therefore that the the work they're doing in the success they have is not about her. Yeah and then she also talked about getting older and more established in your career and learning how to know when to be still. And that slowing down and listening is something I. Know I need to work on more? You know you get excited and you WanNa talk and you want to share things and it. It can't always be about what I need to do you know And I agreed so much with her about taking that moment to step back and let other people do it's not something I'm I'm great at and it was it was it was good to be reminded about how important? That is. In that note, I'm going to step back and I'm going to say. As, always are episodes drop every second. Tuesday. So it's not me doing is going to be doing going and listening, and if you like what you heard, please subscribe. please. Subscribe Rate and review us on ninety s and subscribing is really helpful to. We have a link. Now to our functioning patriots site. As you may know, there were some issues there, but we're good and that is the link is from taking her lead blueberry dot net and beal, U. B., R. Y.. Any countries mission. Kentucky either. 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Bethanie Mattek-Sands talks Tennis with Craig Shapiro (ep 66)

Under Review Tennis Podcast

39:23 min | 7 months ago

Bethanie Mattek-Sands talks Tennis with Craig Shapiro (ep 66)

"Good Day my friends. This is under review tennis. Podcast from an insider's perspective on Craig's Shapiro and on the show I talk with the most interesting voices in the sport. We have a great show for you. Today she grew up in Minnesota and then Wisconsin and honed her skills at the Evert Academy Boca Raton Florida as a pro. She rose to thirty in the world and posted wins over. Maryam Bartoli Lena and Elena Spirulina to name a view. She's amongst the best doubles players in the world boasting nine slam titles and reached number one in the world in two thousand seventeen one of the most effervescent and high energy players on Tore Bethany. Matic sans it's going to tell us how she is staying alive and amplified through the shutdown. She's GonNa tell us what it was like to turn pro at fourteen years old. She's going to share with us. One of the great love stories. We've heard today. We sat down with Bethany. Live by skype. This episode is brought to you by Sergio to Keeney. The official sponsor of under review. See what they're doing at Sergio to KEENEY DOT COM. And when you're ready for some retail therapy use the code under underscore review and the number thirty to receive thirty percent off of your order. You ready to do this. I have to tell you. I introduced myself to your husband at the practice courts floating around at Indian Wells in about twenty five minutes. Later I was walking by your court like up top and you were low and you sort of buzzed across the court diagonal and you hit a tweeter winner cross court and I have to say I have to probably the only person other than the people on the court that saw that great money in the bank shot. I don't even know what else assuming the shot I right. I I have a couple weird I have yet appoint back mean one of game so I kind of that is by coaches. Sometimes but drop shots left before I like it way that it was actually. I don't get too excited about things like that but it was fun to be there for that one second so this we do a five-set Format. I WanNa just get right into this. Our first set is the off decor report. I don't WanNa like make out with this corona virus situation but we should kiss it i. I learned hustle on from you know fair enough but I learned when I was researching that your mom is a nurse. Is she working and she involved in this whole situation held in the library so she then she hurt For over thirty years now and She is saint. Xavier has been a working but not an apple time. I mean I for all health care. Workers they base some big propped right now because you know just with the uncertainty of you know how it's ready and a little bit of the. Yeah I WANNA pay panic from this. And they're really stepping it up and making everyone feel good A little bit of risk risk continuing to work really all under the big bathe takes away on the kind of mom that is like telling you she sending Umass because she giving you interesting inside information. I I you know what funny for long as I. I guess I'm very I She never really been that nurse. Like healthcare professional mom has given us the horror stories of you know what she's in the hospital and she never really bought her home. Any of our live cable Edgy not really one. Panicky either killed she. She eighty precautions but she's really actually. I was the one who who is anytime I am. I looking for Jessica. His list That I saw entertainment all right. How everyone everyone's gotTa keep it cool? Now you're extremely entrepreneurial. I describe your style as like a style of the Bryans and in a way a NASCAR style. Which is you know that that they do every interview. And they signed every autograph and the you know these kids and people that meet the Athlete Have a fan for life in this in this down-time are you ramping up. Even more more Yeah because I mean comfort. All I'm a little bit used of adapting and Josse uncertainty of my career being out with injury Eaten dealing with the tennis on the court is that we don't have guaranteed contracts and tennis players a lot sort of an APP for uncertainty. And I feel like we've all gotten pretty good at going with that and just knowing how I don't being out for a period of time injured So some people talking about how they are like. I vent doing more than normal than I did. I would love traveling. Interment wonder so one being home at like I'm not GONNA lie We're traveling from January to November. I handle hold on. Hold on wait. You're not just traveling from January November from January to November for twenty use back. And you sort of like the then off camera right now I have nailed down here from ninety eight though we just like we are. We are made in the house. I'm ruined made it a point to sort of get myself a daily structure to I think the biggest thing is when we're all thrown off track a little bit we get into sort of this patent. Well I'm I want to work out but there's no time trying to join and for me. I I am I. Am I my time on my in my garage and I hadn't can go wherever I want. I WANNA be your mom at practice. Here this is having a social media and you keep a little bit of today even within the day shift around a lot but I found that really helpful but I I mean I'm an active on social media ever Hong Time. I love doing podcast I into line with if you post everything so you know. I'm still denying action. Mind get dropped minute capital even the Miami collection where I will now me wearing for my backyard matches. So you know there's just by the way the The the collection you know Shoutout to Andre Agassi because I feel like a lot of the color ways and the patterns and designs have a real you know ninety ninety three Agassi flash in DASH groove to it. He'll fired by art. Deco district in Miami calling like old full Keel lavender colored. Walk in love for the past year and a half every line. We do it just gets better and better. I mean they had colorful for her. Grab unique I really is designed with it. Really it really personal conscience me colored every back at is you know kind of jamboree had only won something different and only Matt keeps at Funky. What's the story? Would this Meskal I heard about it? What's the name of you guys have a piece of a Meskel company? Is that what I did I learn? Yeah Yeah so we have. We are part owner. Aki How and it's my job during the only benefit and then one day started tasting mad cow. I like smoke or not but we have standing outside of a Longo a different pace I for on the rocks. Just straight out. But that's got into a couple of years ago. I down to Mexico. He go see the manufacturer crappy really fascinating Or Business Venture for on and obviously we we that ever onto that that twenty. When I'm a touch bit aggravated agitated I will refer to someone as Chemo Saab it. I actually Time I'll be like oh man. Leave me alone chemo or something along those lines of band. That'll help you deal with your hobby in office. Let's move into our second set. This is what we call the on the core first and foremost. I'm curious to know if you've had any significant real deal conversations with anyone regarding some of the I don't know maybe schedule problems of any of the politicking. That's been happening. Yeah I think it is. It's a challenging situation unprecedented. There's really no rule rule book or something like that when tournaments and play suspended in Campbell. I think a lot of closed-door meeting happy before they were released a lot of information but I think you know as far as the players we've been on an email chain on a message in route chat as well figuring out what the next steps I mean realistically. We don't have much control Jesse. We're not sure how everyone run is gonNA keep on developing so it's Evelyn kind of in a holding pattern right now. We gotTA think about how we'RE GONNA start. Your points are some terminent. Gain handled till twenty twenty one or are they getting postponed for a year. I I heard today that Wimbledon is is thinking about sliding into the Olympics. Weeks just a slide down the list decide slide down the calendar easy brand announcement that they're doing after you. WanNa and I think what was your. What was your when that happened. Where you've we. What was the feeling what what you do when you saw that maneuver off? Our insurgents traveling but court. You're paying Hartford. You wanted to read Clay Roane Jovan. Initially Army planes four math tournament on three different services. All within weeks you know. I think there's going to be a lot of distractions on what turned opponent or tournament are just GonNa get dropped off an animal next year But we want we want tournament if you're like they matter even though the European wanted to Madrid and Rome. I mean they're all you know. They're not getting any engine. I mean there are a lot as well. It's not just the players I think everyone's gotta come together and figure out what we can do in the arrows and collusion going forward. And maybe awfully for the place where I'm going to happen again. I mean you know. Yeah that really haven't ever happened. And so we're we're kind of on new round right now. No doubt it'll also be interesting to see like what players you know. Sort of blow up like a tic. Ben Wilder there is like Ben Welfare. Looks like he's just eating. Macaroni and knocking back after. All Springs is all day and night out here right now. I I eat ever coming out of the pound rate savages. We had our whole gym workout. So as so at this point right now I'm working out and then eating shake for breakfast so I'm figuring I'm down right now and I haven't decided yet so this is my one very tennis. Centric question. 'cause. I didn't really want to go back in time here but do you. How do you negotiate and decide? What side of the court you're gonNA play on when you're playing doubles with different partners and stuff and do you play any each and every side and you play. Do you have a preference goes? I heard by now and a lot of time I love. My partner is really set on one side. I'M GONNA give it to her. I want you to be. I'm Tom Llamas. Works so I really give them. If they don't nobody care in the partnership I'll I'll be back in just decided right then playing with partners however like her with Mike Ryan I I back one job. I'm really I'm really okay. There sometime to come down to the low Shambo And he and the first row Yeah we actually started out onto the side man mass in the round one match. Wasserman open and then stay on the side sometimes. It's just depend on your tactics and what strikes you want that out? If some of the last few vanished maybe having four hands in the middle of you are not a lot but you think you can vary most times. I have my partner. They really have and start. Let's move on to our third set. This is the this is the portion of our show. We talk about your career where your tennis begin her five. My Dad he started actually played a lot of four twelve avenue on content. That's why you like Green Bay Hardcore Game Day an active my first Minnesota. That wasn't my dad. Was Eric Iraq. That that we end up playing bury. It was very cool. Eight years later and I Minnesota kids I on all the way basically but and all when I was talking about I went down to ever. Adamy for a calmer to Chinatown there. That was sort of the transition when I started taking and a little bit more theory three and adopt enter Fort. Is it true that you one lepetit after liberty your father basically said like? Let's rock this thing like this boat the Williams sisters. We're not gonNA play a junior search and we're GONNA try to turn you pro- did that. I didn't point I'm not gonNA comment doesn't have basically the world championships of one and all higher. Actually why one dollars off I want to know and I bring them from there and looking back I maybe with the next step Point pro would have probably been point of view more agent and a hundred Ryan's lamb like and it. Was You know what what you do based on the calendar around you your engine out of what role in reviewing one? Where where day win? What a long strange trip. It's been I mean you started like that's wild plan. Pro Terms of fourteen years out. Twenty Years Yeah. I don't like eight present in the moment and a person when I thought and things like that a little bit now I'm sure mattering is really career. I I've heard US talk of. I've heard you mentioned that you didn't always love tennis. And I think that quite often great stories. They kind of come from pain. When did you sort of turn the corner on your just your happiness in your life because you're you're one of the latest bloomers. Yeah I mean you and I think like maybe flabby Panetta End Schiavone like you guys. You guys had this moment where you were nowhere and then you are somewhere I mean. You're you got to thirty in the world. That's an incredible effort. What changed that? Got You to that place where you could play great tennis you one and then you know you kind of sort of don't see you and then all of a sudden you're there again. I know I transitioned the law. As the person I think You know I definitely felt a little bit of pressure turning pro that young for sure infecting when results income right away? Y- It for the bills and the eye of you that I was really good and I liked the idea of tennis. I like talent. Show him the cord in front of crowds. I did really love the game behind. There were moments where it caused you pain. I didn't. I didn't hand a lot that while actually I I'm competitive and in all is out Baddeley's or and not the other view all I'm so internal and I would. I mean up until my early twenties. I once off me or CD for like three days. And what a waste of energy that emotional place in when I was actually they bill. Monroe uneasy hit definitely Has Been a personal wrote Jerry and I've challenged myself to sort of control recognized what I recognize that I can and choose to look at things in a certain way and to get to the point where I'm at now it really. You know all your national we have. You would have had it. I changed my ads on how I thought I changed my mind and change my out accommodation but I had in my head. And it's it's it's hard because these are kind of challenging like internal belief you like. We're kinda inside yourself. Your I'm having these kind of internal battles about I know how I WANNA be. I know how to react and I WANNA do once going. It wasn't really showed in on half of mine and I remember acted with one of my mentors and say look if it takes me happy myself. The hardest questions like I'm GonNa do it and I'm sick of need or whatever and that kind of the moment where I had a couple of sessions where I bawling where I can. I just made some great news about you know. Beliefs that maybe filled with me advocate and that like now as an adult or just kind of reactions. When died in there you realize you can change a lot of those you can. You can change reactions. Thought Pattern and he believes it is a habit and it's really and you won't get it truly until you really want to the point. I made probably in my mid twenties And has been a journey and over gamble when I hurt my knee In at third dream big crusher and a lot of people talk about my comeback and they asked me what was great with the greatest that win afterwards to that made you winning. Us Open after the combat without the greatest like victory. You have in your mind and I said my biggest wins have never been on the bench for my biggest wins are always a personal revelation or conversation that I I mean I launched from one version of myself and the next my biggest win gold medal. Graham and it didn't quite yet. At Wimbledon. I was in the hospital bed and I told myself could I go through. This Day is the next day and asked if I wasn't injured. What would I how about day? I can't play control that but how would I like? How do I probably tax off? Like what could I can't connect you at like. I have a conversation with friends the same I would if he was injured. And that was a big moment for the birth reaction is like no way and like no and deservedly. Though I didn't have nobody would have been surprised if I was being or if I want to talk or I was crying and I. I said I'm John. We'll dance with Lucy's Algorithm Ellen. My Cat in the hospital and that was that was probably one of my biggest launching point of my life in the direction that you know the best thing that you've seen house with losses way. I deal with interaction with fans appreciating my wins and a win when we talk about a my highlight. I'll be honest. Most my highlights are those kind of moments of the though that may contain attorney and not not anything I've got I've been told that you have a very cool love story. You met your husband Matt when I was twenty two so tag the story as rematch boyfriend. I Air Zona onto acne train with a fitness trainer currently working within a day and I came out. I remember nine or come over to my house. I remember they have and I haven't seen a picture of him right. I heard about money. I never had any of these tattoos. Far L. HEY. Hey made me like like immediately. Basically we went on three days. And that name you got engaged. After three dates twenty two years old still married credible. We're actually planning on a married and we're knew that today or in battling on Sunday and that year I ended up making back and I was rea- arena on Monday. I haven't called up and say no mommy I feel love your son. I can't very right now. I know how important has he been to your tennis. Your success I think Johnson had offered is really giving me a state. Become the person that I am by like when he met he very shy. Very who say that? That's why I'm curious. Yeah and so. He really encouraged me to share my feeling or to socialize. Anyone done. He's the biggest social butterfly. Ever gone. This Guy. All the mayor earned. Everybody's gotTa run on number and that thing. I've really learned a lot about mutation with him and I think he always. It's not that you personally face I believe in you. I WANNA do muscle accurate. Let's enjoy and he. He's in any major. He likes to cook he queen but he heard a guy. I mean clean for me so driving around and you know I feel like that was big for me especially my early twenty just coming from his face. I did the only by myself and actually my salary where an will occupy a w now people their best friend of all time every week so it can be traveling coach. You're by yourself And then AL player charlize wafted. You'll really well out and celebrate. Wins like you're next tournament. So if an entity nine Eric Johnson I think kind of gave me a different perspective orders. Onell I. I'M ON MY I. It wasn't tile. I thought this thing was very much and Johnson went to college. He got he party with his friend. He warhead girlfriend broke up all the formal. You know and if you know that that's what the life that I really didn't know anything. Outrageous offered much valley to kind of my my crazy avalon allies. It also sounds like he helped. You realize it's okay to be yourself and ask you. That's why I mean he's really a of reason of why you see out there now. House going at eight colorful. I mean I feel like those are the things that they are natural to me. It's not it's not worth it but I didn't know how to express that and I think Johnson Willie just offered me at environment that like all that started coming out and I felt like I could. I could be who I was. I could have my opinion They meant something and and I just animal item in this case. Love doesn't mean zero right. I mean it's very nice story. Let's move into our fourth set. This is the ten ball scrambled. We do not do a deep dive. I say it and you say what comes into your mind. Act Ready Favorite Tournament favourite court. Orage I will say is. Are there Your best moment in tennis on board. I think way my first you have been title after coming down and coming back on nine. Ele- really sorry Brandon American flag. Which I I only wore those Olympics retiring them and I was like what the final nine eleven not bring talk back and enough. We made the final. Who Was it? Who would you lose the at Rhode Island we're paying? Yeah who were the favourite? I actually think they feed and we were down. We are actually down a set and A break in a second and he made we mounted a massive comeback and it was a great movie. Come on fantastic. Big Entourages Lean and mean. I like a endre but I'm still taking about wally mine. Date thinking about Andrea Energy. Want you to bring on TV and good energy when everyone's knowing good like the energy is going to the moon good. I'll play good tennis. I gained that they really need the now. Now I grew Sean with energy. You're on you're on the team. Tennis parents best friend in tennis. I'm your Sonya Mirza shot to Sonya. Mir's your favorite doubles partner. I I've been really right. I one that I've been closed with movie. Obviously she's rambling. Remote reasonably lasted Colin. Logger awesome so yeah. I got to know her well. Mining thing is. I play double the friend. Coaching from the player box. She anchored coaching. I think we all encore coaching. We have to stay on the court. None of that Ryan Corey hair back off at Berkeley. Your favorite player growing up salad. Debbie game met Monica when I was younger favorite forehand. All Time is since Timbo scramble. You can say whatever he comes in your mind favorite back end. You'll love someone's back in right even backhand I'm GonNa go away. I have one headed back on my go with stand back. Love stands back in favorite volleys. You can love you. Love yourself on this out loud. I tell everybody but I had to pick another person. I would probably say Jamie Murray. He had his angle. Breaker volley that yes. I'm that all and when he can put a ball in a place that I didn't hang out and it's very very rare like he had ridiculous. We would serve favorite serve. I'm GONNA say Her let's go with with Roger. I actually so whenever I can. I watch Rod- New Third and slow motion and if I did not know. There's something about his timing. That helps me with my timing and then like I wouldn't even care at all but he's not doing it. I'll crowder. Who is your emergency contact happen. Let's move into our fifth and final set. This is the Queen of the court if you could be the queen of tennis and make a change in the sport with just a swing of the racket without any real significant aggravation. What would it be I coaching? I can give you the fan. He got a little bit more of the interaction between players. I mean I like that. Yeah coaching from the box. I liked the idea of having a coast. Damn Court with you like there's you know. I'm I'm a big proponent of like I let let's push the limit and then obviously far we find something that work and I I heard that offering those off-the-wall idea action. I think I think we need to wolf. I I think a lot of tournaments a little bit differently to give. Where's that are in the semi finals a chance to actually celebrating that? You're you're getting packed. Up Rounder Act of the year. You had your books or four hour and after the match you get an extra hundred people on some big time celebrations apnea win. Somebody tournaments like it's a big deal. You weren't aren't like each. It doesn't just having a celebration of a Grand Slam all the time I want. Better wartime to celebrate Within that that that you know offering something off Oran by what they did while the week before that everyone who gave the by the next week I I'm kind of of that. I think they're the one who earn and gave him a little extra time. Get an extra time winner on Sunday morning. It's barely enough time to get there on Monday. So I'd have with things like that Naquash and I'm bobby and I have like an hour ideas or what we could do. But we'll start there and we'll have another podcast of the to be continued first of all thank you. This has been a pleasure. You guys take care of yourselves down there in Arizona and if you have any interesting advice for anyone doused time just people just need to stay away from each other all day. Yeah so curb. I you think you know. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. I think we can. All I know that a lot of uncertainty and I know there's an initial anxiety were really raynor's pro athletes where you had your nerves of the hospital. And we're all we're all in this together and it was going to be the end of the tunnel. Wants to figure out what we can control what we can and lay that be. I mean we all have to try and help me and really taking advantage moments to learn new thing or we're going to hear more about your life the way you want you. I mean really I. I'm using this as a big time Moment for reflection on on what I buy not to be dramatic but on his way we have time all these at right now. Commander it expands. The pleasure was mine You are released. Thank you WanNa cool cool cool huge thank you to Bethany Matic Sands related. Thank Sergio to Keeney. The official apparel sponsor of under review. See what they're doing. Sergio to Keeney DOT COM and use discount code under underscore review and the number thirty. When you get to check out thank you to our patron Bertrand Madsen. It's great to have you on Ford Cuban thinking about becoming a Patriot. A show now is the time we just posted. Some new members only premium content head on over to Patriot DOT com slash under review. Tennis to read all about it. That is P. A. T. R. O. N. DOT COM slash under view tennis. 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Food Neighbourhoods 190: Recipe edition, Heinz Beck

Monocle 24: The Menu

00:00 sec | 4 months ago

Food Neighbourhoods 190: Recipe edition, Heinz Beck

"Hello and welcome to food neighborhoods, Son monocle twenty four I articles hate. During the epidemic we continue the show in a slightly different form as many of you find yourself suspending Simon's home. We do follow suit. Stay beat more domestic and delve into the world of great recipes this week. We hear from Heinz Beck. Who Run subur-, Lapeer Gula restaurant in Rome. Hello my name is Hans Spec I'm here to give you an very easy. Italian recipe of automaker, beautiful pasta with fish. What do you need for this recipe? Very simple, a little bit of Sakina, red, bell peppers whitefish and little bit of white wine, and of course beautiful Spaghetti Pasta. would. We have to do is cooking the bell peppers indio. Sprinkling before a little bit with exclusive, Ching olive oil cooking till the skin is not becoming talk, remove the skin and you're cutting the. Purpose in long slices the same you're doing with the to Keeney, only the green powder, so it would give a beautiful calling into your past the red and the green, the white like the Talian flack. Before you have to prepare a little bit of officials, stock this you're doing gleaning in the fish, and with the bones with a little bit of which tables Carrot Celery, a little bit of on that little bit of tomato. You make a small little fish stock. And then you are cooking. You'll pasta the pasta your cooking. Boiling salt water slightly salted water in the meantime. You're cutting the fish fillet in. Long slices as well. You season at the little bit of Salt, a little bit of oil. You heat up the pen and you put this fish into the pan without aiding up the oil because oil with around the fish is enough salty for few seconds, and then you will not have additional burning oil in the pan. Eight of the wet you tables then two minutes before the end of the cooking time you will remove for the speedy from the water, the salt water you put in the Pan adding a little bit of the fish stock and cooking, the rest of cooking time together with the pastor, so the together with the fish richer tables, so the pasta will a. Soap all the flavors, the end, a little bit of personally the chauffeur, white wine and little bit of olive oil. Long. Thanks to high inspect for this week's recipe and for more from the hospitality sector. Stay Tutu Monocle, twenty four. You can also subscribe to our magazine and sign up to our email newsletter the monocle minutes. IT'S TO MONACO DOT COM for more INFO. Marcos Hippie, thanks for listening and by now.

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Day 138 (Psalm 26, 40, 58, 61-62, 64) - Year 2

The Bible Recap

08:17 min | 5 months ago

Day 138 (Psalm 26, 40, 58, 61-62, 64) - Year 2

"Hey Bible readers I'm barely hobble and I'm your host for the Bible Recap in the beginning of Psalm Twenty six. It may seem like David is boasting about his righteousness but as he continues on. He makes it clear that the source of his righteousness is God's steadfast love bats. What enables him to trust in guide in verse three. Says he's walking in God's faithfulness not his own. This is another crucial distinction. He loves the nearness of God and hates things. God opposes. This psalm was likely written about the time. When so many of David's friends and family betrayed him and joined forces with its estranged son. Absalom so the references to hypocrites and MENA falsehood make a lot of sense David closely with these men so you can see why he would want to set himself apart from him now that they've shown their true colors he wants to be markedly different as a man of Integrity for the glory of God. You wants to be vindicated as he disassociates from the evildoers psalm. Forty covers a lot of ground. This was written to be a corporate song but it was almost certainly born out of a lot of David's personal experiences. If we assume out on the timeline of his life this psalm almost seems to fit his storyline perfectly. So far in verse one. He waits patiently before the Lord just he waited fifteen years to be king inverse to God drew him up out of the pit of destruction when Saul was trying to destroy his life and David continued to praise God and God continue to bless David he mentions repeatedly out he proclaimed God's goodness for all to hear in Song in conversation and among large groups of people he can't stop talking about God's goodness to him but then things take a rough turn in verse. Twelve just like they did in David's life is iniquity and sin like with Bethsheba and your IRA have over taken him. They outnumber the hairs of his head. He asked God to rescue him from the consequences of his own. Sin Because as he says in verse fourteen some of these people even want to take his life like absolute hit the felted in Seventeen. David closes with the phrase that seems unsuited for King. He says as for me I am poor. Needy Really David but this statement actually points more to the state of his heart than to the size of his bank account knows that he has nothing to offer God. If you've ever read the sermon on the mount where Jesus said blessed are the poor in spirit. This is what true spiritual poverty looks like he's been humbled by his own sin and by the pursuit of his enemies and he knows that God is only hope. David's anger reaches a boiling point in Psalm. Fifty eight but he never crosses over into the territory of winning selfish revenge. He only wants God to do justice. And David never sets out to attain justice for himself even though as Keeney could totally justify it he trusts God to act because he knows God is a righteous judge things cooled down a lot in psalm sixty one. It was definitely written out of David's personal experience but he's turned it into a corporate song when you're reading these songs you've probably connect with a lot of the lines in them even though you've probably never had your kingdom overthrown by your son you can still relate to the themes of what. David is writing here. David had to flee his home in city and he cries to God from the ends of the Earth. God has been a refuge to him in the past like he was when Saul sought his life so David reminds himself in the midst of these bleak circumstances that God has come through for him before. David wants to go back to Jerusalem to the city. God has set his name on so that he can draw near to God. He testifies not only to God's goodness to him but also to God's goodness to his family through the years in verse five. He says you have given me the heritage of those who fear your name. What a gift if you come from a family who loves God. That's an incredible blessing. And if you come from a family that doesn't how beautiful is it that God called you to Himself? Despite the fact that he wasn't a priority in your family of origin this verse would praise God just as much if it said you have called me to yourself despite my heritage whichever truth applies to you. God is glorified to bring all kinds of people into his family from all different backgrounds. I imagine David Writing Psalm. Sixty two while. He's exiled from Jerusalem waiting to find out what will happen with absolute as those who betray him. Try to knock him down from his position. He knows that goddess has wrought and he trusts that he won't be shaken. He's been surrounded by hypocrites and liars and is just now finding out the truth and David decides. He'd rather keep silent than talk to anyone about it at all because who knows who can be trusted so he pours out his heart to God. God can be trusted. And even though the rank and position of man is ever changing rising and falling like the stock market unpredictable and even volatile at times God is solid ground and not only that God is both powerful and loving and he can be trusted to do what is right psalm. Sixty four recounts the steps of David's enemies. Even though he wasn't there when absolute is seeking counsel from both the fell and who shy David's words in verse six Echo? Exactly what was happening. It says they search out injustice absolutely was trying to establish the best plan for carrying out evil verse. Seven says God's shoots his arrows at them and this reminds me of the three arrows. Joab used to pierce through heart. And it's even interesting how David's words at the end of the song where he says let the righteous rejoice are almost preaching to himself because we saw him last he was morning maybe soon he'll be able to rejoice in the Lord even in the midst of the tragedy surrounding him. He's done before when he lost a son so we know it's possible. David knows how to take his sadness to God because he knows worship and lament aren't mutually exclusive. My God shot came from Psalm. Forty verses six through eight today in verses six eight David says in sacrifice and offering you have not delighted but you have given me an open. Ear Burnt offering insent offering. You have not required. I delight to do your will. Oh God your law is written within my heart. What does it tell us about God that we're seeing these versus in the Old Testament in the very place where all the sacrifices and offerings are listed out as commands? This shows us is that the sacrificial system God setup was never fully sufficient it was never intended to be goats and bulls have never been enough. God has always been after our hearts. Not Our sacrifices David says God doesn't delight and people giving him animals instead God delights in being the giver in giving people open ears that hear him and hearts that love and delight in him in return. I've never sacrificed an animal but I feel confident that reading his word is far more delightful to me. Then that would ever be so. I'm really grateful. For the sacrificial death of Christ for God given new ears and a new heart and an increasing delight in him he's where the joy is every month we offer special bonus content to those of you who are a part of our Patriot community this month. You've got a resource on mentoring to find a mentor. How To be a mentor. What a mentoring relationship might look like having a mentor has been a game changer. 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Special Report-Covid Coffee Chronicles 062 Campaigning in the Time of Corona

CROSS COUNTRY COFFEE ROADSHOW

17:13 min | 6 months ago

Special Report-Covid Coffee Chronicles 062 Campaigning in the Time of Corona

"And welcome to covered coffee. Chronicles episode sixty two campaigning in the time of Corona. You're used to hearing. Us announce the cross country coffee road show. This is an offshoot of our show which decided to produce as a separate segment. The reason is the Kobe nineteen pandemic. You know that our show travels the country looking for the best independent coffee stores due to the corona virus. We like most Americans have had to change course. Although we can no longer travel we still have the ability to contact our past owners and guests to get a perspective from them on what their new reality looks like. We decided we wanted to help our previous owners guests in Baristas in any way that we could to that end we created covert coffee. Chronicles with these interviews. Were hopefully getting a true sampling of what is going on in America right now and looking for the light at the end of the tunnel this week catch up with John Kinney who we first met Little Ireland Coffee Shop in Pacific Missouri. You can hear the rest of his story on episode eight keep on Juggling. How do you run for office? When social distancing and quarantining is the law of land? And what's a politician to do? When you can't do the normal glad-handing and baby kissing the new realities of forced everyone to change the routines including nursing home visitations and the loss of a loved one. We spoke with John Keeney. Who is running for state representative in Missouri? This interview brings the reality of covered. Nineteen home thank you John for the interview and our condolences to both you and Michelle on the loss of her father. My My next guest John. Keeny will introduce himself. And we'll talk about Some of the new normal that he's experiencing John was on our podcast on season. One from Little Ireland in Pacific Missouri. So you can refer back to get his original interview John. Welcome and how are you doing? And what's your normal light now? You a just social distancing. Isolating yourself are you. And you've got a young family now too so tell me about quarantining. And and social distancing and corona virus. How things going in Missouri running for Office for State Representative Ethically Time here? We're in the process of doing voter. Id already. I'm a Democrat running in a very red district The last person that ran which was the only Democrat that it run for ten years maybe Prior to that got thirty six percent maybe thirty four thirty six so we're Our our win numbers two thousand and we need to make up thirty five hundred thirty six hundred votes to get to that win number so in politics which are trying to do is. You're trying to identify those other thirty six hundred people that get you to your win number and in order to do that. You're knocking doors your going to events and you're putting on events my wife shells always Some what's Dunno. She's she's happy or reluctant about Catholic picnics. Because you see your breakfast and Fried Chicken dinners at the Catholic like they do on Saturdays and Sundays and stuff and none of that's going on so that's taken those. Those are the old school tried and true typical ways to reach out to people in your community that running a political campaign can't do so. Howard how are you replacing? Now you're doing a podcast which is thank God for broadband Internet and that sort of were having to lean on or you need to do any Any televised things. Anything like that. And then what's The vibe in the community? Are People taking this seriously? Are they hunkering down? Are they Having a gigantic meetings or or Get togethers or is this I is this a serious Event that they're they're taking it seriously or AG. We're already active on social media so we use twitter facebook and instagram. Anu Out say those chief wants us. We're we've been using facebook live. I'm actually hosting a town hall on our facebook page Streaming live event as opposed to actually having a town hall. But that's what we have to and then email of course we have email. We try to send out a couple of emails a week. Nappy sending out too many. Try to be sending out some and then being able to take really high quality teachers. It's out silly high-quality pictures and video and stuff on a phone a phone now a good phone with the camera. The video editing ability. I did a video actually for By campaign Shot the footage. Today's go and I edited in an editing program on my Sloan and it looks great. Then we we form bank but it's tough to give people the phone bank because people reductive reluctant to call strangers on the phone. People love the Postcard Postcard and parties. Go with do that now because people are not people that that I know. My supporters tend to be not trying to get sick so we also have a lot of people who supporters who are elderly. They're definitely get sick. So that's why when this started kind of flaring up. I shut it all down because I have a like an eighty year old lady. That loves to to participate. I got a seventy four year LES PARTICIPATE. I've got an eighty year. Old coupled was the -ticipant. I'm like I'm not GonNa put you in a position where I'm the one that said. Hey we do the savannah. Knock this story. This thing got sick and as far as the neighborhood because we live in a place with low population density which is something we think about politics. But it's not good for trying to get the word out but it's great if you're trying to avoid a a pandemic there's not as many people at the gas station. There's many people the store so it's dollar. General Country Scher some people in rural areas. Let's say will you know I? I don't know anybody that has this. I don't I'm not sure. How real is because it's just not it's not affecting us or in this region and so I think it's just in the in the cities. So are you here in any of that or is it okay? I can say Missouri. Probably not unlike Wisconsin. We have a an urban center in St Louis Center. Kansas City. A little bit in Columbia. Atl written down around Springfield. So there's like two big ones and then a couple of others that are a little bit urban. You know there's more people population density the whole resting. State is not like that so I would say the the culture and mindset outside of Kansas City and Saint Louis is rural even in the areas where there are more people and those people Lee more on the side of this is a hoax. And it's not real and it's a George Soros Created controversy thing to on see Donald Trump. And so we're going to go drinking at the bar because it's just the libs and by the arts which is in the center of the State of very popular tourist destination in the region and word is like my buddy the lives down. There is a lot of people packed up their stuff and went to the lake. And they're out they're going to the bars and the restaurants and riding their boats and Caterpillar Cocoon lull thing. We talk about disconnect. I mean some parts of the country are literally not going out of their house including R s and some parts of the country are moving on as if nothing was happening people here you see cars going in and out. Dow People are working out say by large people were in our area have been fairly cool now our area where we live right here is it's world and when you go to a grocery store chain think people are reluctant to make eye contact like. I might get sick because I looked. You don't see you. You won't pass your germs. Yes seriously. It's a weird thing because I play music for a living and so used to entertaining be fairly congenial and then being in politics. I've really I. I've had to ramp that up. I was not the musician that worked through. I was not the guy that was actually. I really appreciate I just didn't it wasn't really I didn't play music for that and then I got into politics. And that's what politics is people want to be recognized. People WANNA be they want to Schmooze and so it's weird now. They're so used to every space that I'm an going. Hey I'm John. Hsa Oh cindy it's so good to see you now. And then you go to the grocery store literally people in the whole place or are naturally social distancing fairly. Well you always you go to Walmart and you'll see a group of people frigging you know. Walk in seven people together but by and large most place psycho and I try not to go to those places. That's the other thing like I don't go to a place where I think it's GonNa to be a lot of people. I don't have significant health issues myself but My wife just had major surgery. She's in a lot of pain still and she's susceptible to getting sick and that we've got a one year old and a three year old. I want them to get sick. And then we had my father in law who had passed. It blew after midnight last night. That's been very traumatic for us. But he was in a nursing home and we couldn't see him yet. Parkinson's and kidney disease they were palpable laughing things. She stayed with us for about a year and a half until we just couldn't give him the care that we got to the point where we could so he went into a nursing home and then this hit and fortunately enough Michelle had surgery but couldn't go see him because she had surgery and we stopped she could get. She can't drive got car so we stop by there and I would say hi to him and on the way in the hospital administrator out it's okay you know. We're closing Dow today when we noticed so I went in because she couldn't really get out of power walk girls with us. He's been fading for a you know Ca- say a month and a half or so. We gave them cell phone and he could really answer it so we'd have to call staff to get an answer to my point being we couldn't get into the building and I know it's a safety issue and so when you go to the nursing home there's always people outside and she used the soon application to allow the family to see him and for him to sit down and he couldn't really respond but he could hear and so David close the nursing home down the day you were there. The day we went. They're closing down the next day. So today I've been in the process last two days. I've been planning a funeral musician. Ferment of mine. Matter of fact who's a family friend owns a funeral home and he picked picked him up last night after he passed and Then you can't do which we typically do within happy can apple a away too will pass funeral none of that. What are they doing right now? So are basically people who die at this point are they? Having just kind of everything put on hold or standing is is that you can do a graveside service with a few people is mercy testing there are are you seeing people being tested Missouri. State response has been very slow. It seems like you have to say I was on a plane from Italy. I had one hundred four degree temperature. Dry Cough kill bring. The people are having a hard time getting tested. My townhall focuses on Wednesday is going to be healthcare and healthcare before this kind of picked up but we have fourteen rural hospitals that have closed in the last few years. If you are in a one of these counties outside of an urban area you may have to drive an hour to to get to actual. Hospital was talking to somebody who said well you know we can just go to our cottage up north or we can go here and will be away from people. Rural health care was decimated before the virus attack. And to think that you're going to get care in an area that didn't have care before for the residents that had had doesn't seem to make any sense to me that that traveling to get some because if you got it before you left for the cottage right. I mean that. Stop when you get there. What I what I hear from any my friend. Dror print is I appreciate these east posted some videos and actually it's not typically personality is like eastbound people like. This is what I went through. I had a little cough for you know a little fever and then in a short period of time in which from that too he was knocked out. You can't feel like the the sort of the curve of yield this. Isn't it just suddenly fall off a cliff you're GONNA do? The other problem. Is People have to work? Fifty percent of Americans work low wage. Jobs half America's on I know that because I'm a politics but my goodness if you don't have the money to not go to work and fifty percent of Americans don't have any money. Thank you know savings. I hope that that twelve hundred blocks or you know for somebody like us. It has a family. It's going to be more the Dak ride it out but I mean they are trying to balance and I don't know if she can't balance business were versus the workers and so you're basically talking about businesses versus everybody else if the businesses can't operate they can't make money they closed in the workers. Don't have a place to work. But then you have to say well if everybody's getting sick and dying. He spent time on anywhere. That doesn't do much for the economy in with this epidemic. The virus doesn't care if you're a red state or blue state. It doesn't care if you watch Fox News or MSNBC IT's a virus in it's just GonNa come and we've got to deal with the facts. Don't we you know as a musician? I was really used to I. I always just saw people wanna Roo. It's people that when there are people that I wanna hear you people it just. There's people in a room. Let's move the room you know. And that was a weird part of politics is how divisive people can be so. It's it's been a evolution for me. Be Myself and and what the spirit that. I have in me as a musician and try to apply that to politics and to be somewhat nonpartisan. I I may Democrat and the different party in our state. It's very during the week. We have one hundred sixty three state house districts and I think we have eighty seats that there's not even a Democrat on the ballot. Whoever is a Republican will it will have gone by Wednesday or Tuesday to sign up for the ballot and they will essentially a state rep without ever having against people John. What's your web page? Www DOT John Keeney J. O. H. H. In Dot Com. Now it's politics and music so so I- Hashtag myself. I may use a politician election. Win The election As it stands November third twenty twenty. I do not have a primary opponent last time. I checked and we know that the landscape has definitely changed across the United States. As of this moment in the question is war where we're going to be on the other side and what that's going to look like. Most people are are in some way or another touched by this stuff and they can ignore it or try to run away from it but it's going to catch up to them. We just want to thank you so much for taking time out of your very busy schedule and role in our best to you and Michelle and the girls and were sorry. Sorry for your loss with your father in law. And what's what's the politicians music. What what is the use? The politicians that's gotTA catch on. We gotta get to catch on John. Thank you again and look forward to the upcoming election for you.

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Can GIPHY Make It Rain?

The Indicator from Planet Money

00:00 sec | 1 year ago

Can GIPHY Make It Rain?

"Hey I'm Greg Rusedski and I write planet. Money's newsletter and I'm here today with cocoa producer on the indicator. Let's let's play guessing passing game. I'm <hes> I'm GonNa give you three things. I want you to tell me what they all have in common okay. I'm ready a Happy Party gnome dancing in a man keeney put am I getting myself in a dog wearing a gold chain with money showering down on him under the words like a boss Cardi B.. You Know Carter I know Cardi of course making a funny face with a caption of her saying her catch free. I know this a that is so what's your guess. What are these three? Things haven't come okay. These three things sounds like they are viral content from the internet or I'm seen before so close okay. These are some of the top gifts shared on the site gifty last year of course Givi so so like if you've ever been on the Internet there's a good chance you know what a Gif is. Generally speaking. It's a short animation or video that loops over and over and over and if you've ever shared one of these gifts you've probably use Jiffy to do it and you know what what I've never paid to use a gift before. Have you know I never have actually it's got me. Wondering how the heck does this company make money. I saw ski and I'm Constanza. I gotta today on the indicated from planet money. Give you plan to make a fortune from support for N._P._R.. And the following message come from Exxon Mobil the company that believes affordable scalable carbon capture is critical to reducing using industrial co two emissions and more and more experts agree learn more at energy factor dot com support also comes from Microsoft snow. Leopards are very difficult to find researchers use Microsoft A._I.. To analyze thousands of remote camera images in minutes so they can find and study them more efficiently more at Microsoft dot com slash A._i.. In the summer of two thousand twelve Alex shown was a hacker in residence at a startup incubator. Batur called Beta works and on the side he was scaring the Internet for gifts and creating a searchable library on a Friday night. It's endurance keyboard and his site goes live. I think like we had almost a million people show up over the weekend. It was clear the site was popular but Chung wasn't sure he wanted to make this a business that is until he started looking at the data on what people were actually searching for on this safe so this wasn't like you think everything would be a cat gifts but it actually wasn't wasn't it was very popular content with base human emotion in Chung gets excited. He's like people usually search google for simple. Emotions are expressions like this like happier sad or what's up. They turned to it from. We're kind of like straightforward information like it's a library or something. They weren't turning to his new search engine for something different. They wanted moving images that they could express themselves with so that was the opportunity we saw when Chang started turning his gift search engine into an actual business in twenty thirteen. It wasn't like gives where a new thing. They're actually pretty ancient by Internet standards. They were invented way back in nineteen eighty-seven before the Internet as we know it was even developed the first gifts were still still images in fact the first color image posted online was a Gif then a team of developers created and patented an algorithm that enabled gives to be animated gives flourish during the early days of the World Wide Web but then in nineteen eighteen ninety five the company that owned the patent started trying to make money they demanded gift makers or users start paying royalties so that kind of killed people making and you can get so what followed was sort of a gift dark h in yeah we come into this period the nineteen nineties but the patents expired in the early two thousand and then smartphones and social media took off and give starting seeing a renaissance in Jiffy came into being with a mission shouldn't make money off this renaissance over the last six years. Givi has been focusing on growth and they've seen a crazy amount of it. They now have like half a billion daily users and how did they get there. It's not too much of a secret they built a recognizable possible brand than they worked themselves into major messaging APPs like facebook twitter <hes> taxiing tender and they built a huge library filled with billions and billions of gives that people could use these messaging apps the vast majority of gifts. Chiefs unfluffy are looped videos animations that come from existing intellectual property especially like T._v.. Movies sports so navigating copyright laws been key to their business model and so that's why we ended up day one trying to get all the content licenses. What does that financial relationship look like a marketing tool right so if you think about movie studios putting out a movie trailers they pay people to distribute their movie trailers so they see this as the ultimate marketing platform so we the and up the trader you content onto our site? You're going to get hundreds of millions billions of us on your content. Everyone's going to talk about it today. Give us partnerships with everyone. Firm Sports Leagues to Movie Studios. These furnishes have allowed them to have popular content like celebrities and athletes in their library this help them grow a bunch but Chung told us these partnerships haven't been moneymaker so far they just get the right to use their content in their library. So it's sort of begs the question of the show how do do they make money like most tech startups. Give has been able to survive for years on generous amounts of venture capital by demonstrating growth de Vries impressive one hundred fifty million dollars of it today but now they actually have to make revenue from their gift search engine and of course it's very obvious if you have search at scale now you have the possibility of an ad platform and that's kind of the last phase and they hope to make money from advertising this way when someone searches Givi for a certain word like cheeseburger a list of gifts pops up their plan is to sell the first lots to companies like McDonald's Burger King. They're also hoping to expand in something. They're already doing creating original gifts for these companies so the other day I was actually sending a gift to one of my friends saying like Oh say all day like a funny glasses clinking with like rose say turns out that was an ad from Pepsi really sneaky sneaky sneaky leaky and I shared it so Chung is making this pitch that this will help them grow into a big and profitable company. He puts on his business pitch hat on and he argues that people actually prefer this branded. Did content and that they will willingly share it with their friends and family in messaging APPs that the only real place that happens is in fashion. You know where people like by brand name things and wear them. They really want that so this is this is the way for people to express themselves with branded content digitally from what I gather like sort of private messages have sort of been this very hard space for advertisers to penetrate because obviously if I'm texting my mom or my sister I'm like I don't want you know a collapsing coming in and in between us and so it seems like gifts your viewing almost as a Trojan horse for advertising in private messaging I wouldn't say Trojan horse because that like vokes like this Greek tragedy somehow we're going in and then slaughtering everyone enjoy like this is it's we're not going into people's private messaging to wipe out their families and so when people have tried to throw ads in messaging and you've seen some platforms do that and it throws you off because you're talking to someone and there's here's this ad in your face. You're like what what happened and that's just weird. It's like if we're sitting here. Having a conversation of someone just stuck an ad in front of us and we have wait fifteen seconds before we can start talking again. That's a good moment to pause for a sponsor. I think this is the right time to plug planet. Money's newsletter which I write most most of the time subscribe N._p._R.. ords less planet money newsletter. It's free big ideas. Small ideas economics see that is how ads work right now and it's it's it's like it's kind of a bummer unless you're sponsors awesome one of our sponsors which then we love you give he's banking on the idea that people will willingly share advertisements as a way to express themselves and expressing in yourself whether it's through branded content or not is really what gives her all about which is why actually Chung believes gifty could actually be an indicator for the economy. We get so many searches every day. We do know like the general mood of everyone in the U._s.. And what would give look like if the general economic mood was not good now it'd be like I just saw one the other day. It was like snoopy looking super sad and the rain this episode was.

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Fill In The Blank - The Power Trip Morning Show (5/26)

The Power Trip

10:38 min | 5 months ago

Fill In The Blank - The Power Trip Morning Show (5/26)

"Breath. Are you guys ready to do some film? A blank can wait another moment sneaking excited about it and I just wanted to make sure that the gardens ready because she. Loves, this game. No I'm Jack. I'm here I'm just. Waiting All Right? It's time for fill in the blank. Not and if not how this game works or not, but I tell you something and you fill in. The blank that I leave black best educated. Trying to figure out what the winds. See All you can do. You can beat any member of the power to to and you probably will. who see now she's in. Now. This is a long and drawn out one, but it's so fascinating. I have to read the whole thing. The male of this animal? Continuously headbutts the female of this animal in the bladder. Until a urinate S- Until He. Until she urinate, she urinate S- and win. She earned eight. He tastes it to determine whether or not she's ovulating and if she is when they get it on. Said Mammal, it is an animal. Can you tell me why? Don't you tell me what animal it is getting. The mail head by I got a female and the bladder to appease. Curves like Yup this was ripe and they get it on. It's true. It's a true story. This is a fact I got it. Right in your sauces all over this. How do you spell human? Being Gross Gross okay question too. This president. In eighteen, sixty eight. Was the first to be impeached. Test your memory. Esther memory saving. This president in eighteen, sixty eight was the first president to be impeached. That's great. He's not playing. If you'd let him out. Not. Day to day. Ask Grimes Day. Yeah, thank you for keeping track of that by the way rose. trackable first thing. On this day, no, the first president that was impede lake well, not the first I feel like I. Know All the impeach President interest, only three or four right, and it's three interesting. Interesting so interesting next question, please. It was on this date. In what year that the first? Legal Casino in the eastern United. States Open in Atlantic city new. Jersey wow. WHAT YEAR THE FIRST LEGAL CASINO! In the United States in the East Ham opened on the state and what is. so much noise feeling proud about it, too. That's a good one hard thanks. figure out a decade interesting interesting. We gotTA move on Okay next question. Michael Jackson. And Lisa Marie Presley got married. On this date in one, thousand, nine, hundred, ninety four. How long good were they married? Jeez. MJ looking at specific amount of time, Michael Jackson and Presley got married, and then they got divorced. How long later? Lastly. And your nineteen nineteen not only did. They have the best beer. But also. On this in one thousand nine hundred. A wave. Of two point three million gallons of this. Destroyed Keeney, square and killed, twenty one people. In one thousand, nine hundred. A wave of two point three million gallons of this. Destroyed Keeney Square Killed Twenty one people. What was that substance? What what? Wow. Yeah got it yeah. I? Don't feel good about any of no I've even the impeachable. About. Two. Let's find out carly. You're going I. which animal headbutts the Lady Touchy Peas. A, threat? She, says frog interesting. Firm I liked you. Lose He. said a Moose most okay. Okay. Sassy. Dwight hockey. What did you really take a rhino? Rhino. And I. Got To go skunk skunk. Okay. Skunk Rhino most frog. The correct answer is. A giraffe was a big round. Hey think about. Oh. Really. Long neck. Whatever? which president was the first to be impeached? Carly. I'm pretty sure I at first. I got Alan Jackson, but I realize that. Andrew Johnson. Which one you gone with? Andrew Johnson. Says a singer okay all right great okay Roseanne. A Combo. Platter I I thought it was Andrew Jackson. Sauce. I wrote Taft. I wrote Andrew Jackson with a question mark as well because I couldn't remember if it was Johnson or j, so it's funny that we're all tripping on. I did right Andrew. Jackson. Russian market. And I thought I was wrong. Because I was like Alan Jackson's a singer, so I changed it completely. It's funny that you. So Andrew Johnson Andrew Jackson Taft and Andrew Jackson. And the correct answer is I guess. Why you now I think who was ulysses s? Grant's NOPE. No correct answer is Andrew Johnson Johnson you gotta curly. Jackson when trump was impeached I looked up. Exactly. That's what I'm thinking I figured. You guys had seen just forgotton, and you had it in your brain injured. Donald, trump and carly your favorite. About Clinton, Ohio Thirty! Three on the state in what year the first legal casino opened in the eastern us in Atlantic City when Carly Nineteen fifteen if you want. Rosie shut up. I missed that so much. Land City I thought. It was I was like in the seventies. Seventy five. Five chaos nineteen, nineteen ten. I'm I'm with you. Rosie I wrote down one, thousand, nine, hundred, seventy four, because didn't vegas kind of explode in the fifties it. So Chris Megan it sound like he's fifty east side of the. Later. I thought it was sixty or seventy, nine, hundred, seventy four. You went nine, hundred and five. For a question like this. We're going to give closest the point. And the closest. Mark Rose in nineteen, seventy, eight, so. Rosy, you get the point all right, thank gets you'd be like a pride point. Only, truly car! Toys Carly actually got it okay point. Next question? How many? How long I should say it was Michael Jackson and Lisa Marie Presley married after being married on the State Carly. One year and two months. Two months. Yeah sounds about right, but I think I said I said eight months I don't have any idea, but the months. Free money your months okay. I went eighteen months month. Food. And the correct answer. We give a pride point. To Corey because the correct interest twenty months. Two Zero Twenty months and going into the final question. Carli has a one nothing lead. There's no pride here. In one thousand nine hundred wave of this. Two point three million gallons of it destroyed Keeney Square in Boston. and. Kill Twenty one people. Was it a wave of carly. Okay wait. I didn't hear the last part about Boston. I heard Keeney, squared. I thought Oh Hawaii. Oh, so I put lava lot now. Famous lava flow. No. No I would like to teach. To Saltwater felt water. Okay well, we'll let you go. Okay good! Rosie along the lines of like petroleum, gasoline. Carly. That's all I did not hear him say Boston the first time I, just took for granted. You guys knew where squirrel my. Boss I might change my guests. A little bit changed her. mind. Just makes less sense. I, think all right. Might not not as much as love. It doesn't make sense, but also doesn't make ten cents for Boston, but that's alright sauce. Booz Booz. All right I'll stick with my weird guess. I'm going milk milk housing. The deaths of It's gotta be something right. Yeah, you're right. It does just a bunch of boobs bursts. Go on. Sunday In nineteen nineteen. Twenty one people died when two point three million gallons of. Molasses? Destroyed now, yes. It's slowly killed. I mean two point three million gallons. Of Molasses right man. Charlie with the big win giving exactly right congratulations. Yeah!

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MICHAEL JOYCE talks TENNIS with CRAIG SHAPIRO  Part 1 [Ep51]

Under Review Tennis Podcast

43:19 min | 1 year ago

MICHAEL JOYCE talks TENNIS with CRAIG SHAPIRO Part 1 [Ep51]

"Good Day my friends. This is under review the tennis podcast from an insider's perspective. I'm Craig Shapiro and on the show I talk with the most interesting voices in the sport. We have got a great show for you today. Our guest came up in southern California where he rubbed shoulders with the rich and infamous hit balls with able champions and received instruction from legendary coaches after an illustrious junior career in which he final junior Wimbledon and one Kalamazoo he went pro and caught the attention of David Foster Wallace who subsequently wrote one of the seminal tennis articles about him but probably best known as one of the top elite coaches on the tour. He's worked with as Aranka KONTA PEG ULA and Sharp and he coached Maria Sharapova through three major championships into number one in the world. Michael Joyce is going to share with us. The matching of coaching at the highest level. He's going to tell us which tennis great helped him link up with the legendary coach. Robber lands door. And he's going to tell us what exactly happened with him. In Geneva Chard. The man has so many stories and so much insight. We just couldn't fit into a single episode. So here is part one of my interview with Michael. Joyce we met up with Michel a few months back in the midst of the US Open where he'd recently started working with Tomato Babo. Sh- the Hungarian who's best known for her doubles. Where with her partner Kiki the Denisovich? She's been ranked world number one and won the W. T. A. Finals for the past three years. This episode is brought to you by Sergio to Keeney. The official apparel sponsor of under review. First of all where in midtown Manhattan in Lexington Hotel. Have you seen this before? I did a few years ago I think it was the Marriott but now it's the Lexington until this changed changed name. Yeah Parker Meridian is stayed last year at the Women's hotel is Essex House. That's success. Yeah that's the women's hotel what they do. Is They give you a choice of about eight or nine hotels and they've players that give them per diem because it's just too hard to have and they give you special rates and so. I actually liked this area better. It's easier to get out to the site. You go up to Parker Marine or some. You got to go an extra twenty blocks in the city so we get fout gentleman. You hear sitting. Crosslegged is a prolific person. In tennis. He was a player. He was the subject of David. Foster Wallace short story that for all intents and purposes widely considered the greatest thing ever written about tennis. I've heard that a lot still this day to this day tune in the history. Michael Joyce is with US my man. Thank you very much pleasure. We do a five-set format. This is off the core report. We saw you in Newport beach with Genie Bouchart yet. You would just kind of started up with her at once before. Just come from Australia. Though she lost his Serena second round and that was like the second week Australian Open and we went there on our way back to Florida. And you did good work with Genie. And then by the Miami Tournament. It was a rap. Yeah or our right after pretty much a few weeks after And was that acrimonious? I mean it was okay in some ways because I'm happy when I'm doing now and when you're in this job you know these things can happen. You know it's a job security as a coach. These days especially women's tennis is pretty It's it's not not great. You know want to talk about that and the the nature of that but so now You have you had a short amount of downtime. I imagine yeah and you live in Florida. You've got a young daughter daughter my three three years old. And so you just kinda would you just Kinda hold it down and you start calling agents. People know that you're back out on the market. What are you what your move genie's case it was a little bit strange because She was doing pretty well and she lost You know she lost early in Indian Wells. Miami We decided she felt like she was a little burned out She had a little bit of injury in her her ab ad so she was going to take a little time off which could have been a week could have been two weeks. It turned out to be about mom So during that time I didn't do much. I mean I spent a lot of time with my daughter my wife and I felt like she was going to come back. And we're going to start training again. You she gave me and her trainer call and basically said that she Wasn't sure when she was going to start back. She wasn't sure that she wanted to put the work into get back more or less and as a coach will you know what I don't know her personally. I know just what others know and it seemed like she was going. Buck Wild in Miami. Yeah after that she shut that down. She was running around in a bikini playing football. She was doing Karaoke and all this other stuff and just doesn't seem like her head was in the game. No I started working with her in October and I actually went to Israel. She was there seeing a doctor. 'cause she had like turf toe thing and so. I went to Israel. We spent seventeen days their training and she was awesome. I mean she trained her butt off. She listened she was. She worked hard. I was I was thinking this girl. No doubt she can come back. Usually I can tell as a coach and having a lot of experience I can tell usually pretty quick if I don't think somebody wants it or if they don't WanNa put in the work they don't want It was interesting. Regina 'cause I didn't really feel that actually felt like she was She was willing to put in work. She was willing to listen. She was willing to to do the stuff she needs to do to try to get back. However that only lasted four months. I you know as a tennis player. You have to do this. Almost fifty two weeks out of the year maybe with Maria the years Maria she took basically two weeks off a year. usually Right before the clay court season after Miami. She'd take a week off and then right before off season she take a week off. And now that colossally and that's it that's it you know. Of course you have certain you take a day off you take a couple of days but I remember going on a little vacation in the spring and a little vacation Before off season and then we'd have a good six seven weeks of training and then you start Australia. That was normal because also when you take a week off I go on vacation for a week or you do this kind of stuff. It usually takes a good two three weeks at least to get back to what you were before so to take two weeks or three weeks every month there. It's ridiculous you know. And that's the thing you don't think Roger Federer and joker taking week saw maybe as they're older they might take a little bit more but they're not taking that much time off you know not shutting down that that's what I mean shutdown You know there's obviously you might win a tournament and you take a couple of days off or you shut down for two three days or four days. But you don't see Somebody shutting down for a month or five weeks. I mean that's crazy unless you have to know what do you do you you get on the phone you call. I am G you call What are your case. It was strange because she actually when I started with her. She was with agent called Mark Fawcett and I forgot the name of the agency but they actually had stopped tennis in January February so she was actually agent lists after January and this guy mark or Matt. I'm sorry Matt Faucet. He ended up going time. Gee Genie was with. I'm g before and they don't have a great relationship so she was. Actually ageless so in this case. When she decided to take a little time off I was in contact with really nobody Talk to her mom a couple of times. We didn't know what she was doing. Either so I personally thought she was gonNA take a few weeks off and then Start back so I I wasn't I just kind of relish. The couple few weeks had to spend some time with my family. You know as time went on three or four weeks now. We're getting closer to the French Open. She's not training she's Not She had a trainer named Scott Berns. Who's a great guy and I've known him. He's been her trainer on off for like five years. She wasn't in contact with him either. So we're both kind of sitting back on all the work that we had done and she had done which just going away so at that point you know she called us up basically and said you know it's You know it was. It was nice. I mean it wasn't. We had no hard feelings towards each other. But she's straight out told us she didn't know what she was GonNa do. So in that case I kind of put out. I actually put out a statement just saying that we were finished working and I got a message from tomato About two minutes later I did. Yeah and a bunch of other players actually Just kind of contacted me. Some agent started calling me. I knew tomato for a long time. Maybe it was a week before the French when this happened. So you know we kind of discussed a few things but I kinda wanted to make a good decision. This time. You're unemployed for about ten weeks. Yes six eight weeks about. That's not much not too much. Yeah about eight weeks and that second month that I was home I was actually working with the bell. Four or five junior girls. I worked. I was working somewhere Kayla Day. I was working some with This girl that was at Florida. Because that's what I love to do. I love to get out there and you know I was hitting with them to work. Yeah I mean it just what I love. The court report was only off the core very short time. I'll tell you physically a lot tougher to be at home putting in the hours in mentally. Yeah I was on the court time six seven hours a day. Are you still world class? Could hit with anyone in the world. Yes yeah if I don't have to run that much if I don't have to that that's the big thing is running. I mean you know I can move a little bit but I'm not going to be playing that many like points with The dollar something but if you put me in one spot I I think I can tell with anybody so you start back up with tomato. Babo sh the Hungarian doubles world number. One I think her Kiki our number one because she plays with Kiki Mladenovic and they are A formidable yes. Pair to say the least and and she's she's had some she's had some real results. She's a real player on tour. Yeah her career. High singles was twenty five She's been maindraw. The top eighty for the last six years and she had a big drop. Yes she dropped a lot and She started this year. Thank ranked forty or something but she was down to one sixty something like that. Where did you start? Well how do you bang your contract out? Well now I know my sources. Tell me that you made a fortune with Sharapova. I mean I did did well with her. So are you like a big ticket? Guy Do Bob Brad. You Say Listen. You GotTa pay me six hundred grand up front well. That's how it is I. I'm a big believer to be honest. I'm a big believer. Because I was a player. I feel like the bow. Bonuses are more important I mean just I think it's fair way to do it Because if your players well Then obviously you're doing a good job and I feel like both of us should have been you know. Be Good for bill. I mean I had no problem paying my coaches Ten percent of my winnings. If I was doing great you know but I you know some coaches asked for huge salary right off the bat. I I don't really believe in that. I might not might be a little bit more than your average coach but in tomatoes case. I a she basically asked me if you know if I could help her and US always a trial basis there. Because you can't you don't know if you guys there's so much more than to just being on the core with them yes exactly. I mean especially between the men and women and you gotta travel with them and you're eating with them law and and so in in May case She asked me if I could help her but the French Open was just starting and neither one of us felt like it was a great idea to just show up at the French and start giving her advice and stuff and so we had planned to do the grass court season. She doesn't like playing on grass that much. It's not she says it's worse surface and also I've I've felt like I didn't have anything lined up. I'd been home working a lot on the cord. Florida was getting hot so I told her I gave her. I think a pretty good deal. I said I'll come over for a few weeks and we'll see how it goes and right off the Bat I really liked her. She got to the finals of one hundred K. Right off the bat and singles which was the best result she had had and this year where she get ilk this tournament and illegally Which was Right before Wimbledon wins and the thing. That was interesting what she was because her rankin had dropped in single she was in quality and Wimbledon. But if she would've won Oakley the winner gets a wildcard at Wimbledon so all of a sudden we're throwing into the now she's playing Nicolescu Alaska's the slice and dice her. She's got that funky sliced forehand. Yeah she's got the Funky as forehand maybe in the history of yeah on these crappy grass and ugly and to May end up losing six four and a third and then played the next day and had play Lazinski. Who can play good for one match a finalist? At Wimbledon in qualifying Sushi UNFORTU- she lost that match. Lazinski hit twenty two aces and we're both disappointed. 'cause she had lost first round in qualifying but we took those couple of weeks because she was still on the doubles. We took those couple of weeks to spend a lot of time. We practiced indoors a lot. It was a good opportunity for me to try to incorporate things in her game. I thought she could do better. What yeah well. She's very. She plays very aggressive in double. She's got a huge Serbs. She's great around the net when she plays singles or when I was watching her play this year she was. It looked like she was allergic to the net. She'd stand back six feet and she was playing very passive Slice in a law play play. It looked like somebody that didn't have a lot of confidence. was trying to grind out matches which she could do a little bit because she's a great competitor. But I felt like she wasn't using her weapons. She was in using her You know the things that she does well and I'd seen her do that before in singles. Well so I think grass wasn't the perfect place to work on a lot of stuff because grass also makes you be a little bit more aggressive and she was getting a lot of free points on a Serb but but I feel like this summer the last four or five weeks especially on hard court. She's been able to build on the stuff we worked there. And she's one Fifteen sixteen matches the summer and she's almost she's back to the top hundred now. It's funny because when I started with Jeanie she was like one forty. She got up to seventy. I started with today. She was one fifty inches. Back up to about one hundred. She has no points to defend so I could be. Actually one of I coaches. That's got in two girls like into the top hundred in the same year in a small period of time which isn't easy to do which is actually. I'm almost more proud of that than winning. Grand Slams Maria because it's fun to me too. I'm very competitive. So I like that stuff. You'll listen up Michael. Joyce one of the sneaky success coaches right this second so when you started having the success then you've got to see what happens the agents. I've listened. I'll give you contract case. She's a little she's the she's a huge star in Hungary but a lot of people don't know or anywhere else in Hungary is not a huge tennis a country. I mean they've had some good players over the years but she's was number one in doubles. Which I like Hungarian. It'd be number one. So she actually her agent and she does stuff with her sister family so I I've kept a deal on on the same just more or less a week to week thing also because I'm not with her that I'm afraid but you know eventually I'll if I stay with her will have to do a contract but sometimes I feel and and I don't even know this may be happening. Genie a little bit but sometimes I feel that players if they think that you could leave at any time it helps a little bit too because you know. She respects me. She knows that I have other people. I can work with. I you know I could go to another player and so the fact that I'm with her and I believe in her. I think helps her confidence. It helps the relationship. Because I'm truthful I tell you know sometimes you get. It's never really happened to me. But sometimes you get some some coaches who you know. They sign a contract. They're you know they're in for more or less the long haul and then you know then the player starts to think. Oh you know he loses. I don't know but I don't like right now. How the coaches and players are switching so much women's tennis so I really would like to find a good fit whether it's somebody in the top ten whether it's tomato whether it's somebody I'd like to stay with them for a couple years because I feel like that's the best way for me to help them. So technically we're still on a trial. I'll stick with their till the end of the year and then probably she'll make championships in doubles. And do you get paid in full on the doubles? Well that's see that's another thing. I don't personally feel that she. I think if I stay with her and we continue to work. I'll get Something with the doubles but I also feel that she could do well in doubles on her own which she showed she could. She didn't have a coach about six or eight months and she made finals of the last four Grand Slams when in Roland Garros and here they had match point last year and you know and so she's she's she's a beason doubles and doubles is a lot less. You have a partner you can. You can be a little bit out of shape. You could be not moving at great you you know. But she knows how to play double so she could actually go play the doubles without a coach. And I think she'd be very successful but single. She needs somebody and she knows that and I think once we make a deal. I'm sure I'll throw the doubles in there a little bit. Because it's if she's playing good in singles and she's getting better it's just GonNa make her doubles even more successful. I think you get paid on every ten minutes. Yeah I mean the nice part about her doing well in doubles is that it gives. She makes good money. So it's she's able to afford you know paying me a good salary. Even though she was ranked one hundred fifty in the world because the average girl who's buying qualifying or is ranked one hundred and twenty in the world. That don't aren't winning. Grand Slams and doubles. They're not gonNA have the money to pay you unless she's like a you know some up and coming poke off or something you know that has been contracts. But that's that's rare. Obviously you know part of their on the court report quite often. We'd like to get the guests impressions of what they've seen on tour or anything. You're seeing out there that's Interesting I mean the biggest thing and I think it's been going on for a years. Is that every week. You have There's an opportunity of having a different winner. I mean you don't have like the man you don't have the more or less three top guys. I mean this girl size size Zang. One San Jose I mean they. I know the wasn't tons of top players but I don't think she's one more than two or three matches the United States in the last seven years. I mean she gets all her points in China in a she went to China one hundred K's and she's a great player no doubt but she's never done anything in the US. She POPs in San Jose Wednesday tournament. You've got dress. Would she did is incredible to especially coming back from injury like that. And not plan coming into the tournament Girls older players. Let's say Serena Maria Venus you know they're struggling to play Five six matches. I mean some cases are some of them are struggling to play a match. Who's that Sova was a big surprise to? I mean for her to all of a sudden out of nowhere has who's that Sova. I was shocked to see that. What do you know about casts? Akina CAST Aquinas. Terrible this year. She's She looks a little better the last few weeks coach now. Are you hearing anything? What's her problem is I have no idea. Except for the fact that she's a shell of what she was last year. I mean you know one thing i. I do see a very common denominator with these girls day when they don't have a coach they can't win. I have honest maybe for a week I can here. You were going to be with Ostapenko. Well that was the next thing I was GONNA say. She look at the players. Gic tragic you know. She is either switching coaches or her mom shows up or it sits. You cannot be that good and win a grand slam incredible at sometimes. She's can't play tennis sometimes. I mean every time Sloan earlier this year when she didn't have a coach was re like horrible. I mean we're talking like somebody who's won the US Open. I saw her in Indian Wells. She looked like a beginner and and the common denominator there is. They don't have a coach now. They might be able to go for a week. You know maybe they have a coach and they go for a week and they can outdo okay but over a few weeks or months. It happens all the time and I don't understand I know it's not easy. It's not easy to find the right balance. Not Easy to find the right coaching. Sometimes but these girls can't can't do it on their own. I mean especially the young girls are you could even say men to. There's no winning matches. Now let's be honest. There's nobody that you gotTa have a trainer a coach even if you're sharing a co absolutely. Yeah I've heard he shares with. There's enough time winton Craig's great coach whether it's the women or the men. There's nobody winning matches. You can't no. I mean if you actually put the XS and Os aside okay like actually you know. Coach is going to help you improve. Hopefully you know. Get you to play the right way and so forth but if you actually that's so important but you put that aside now you have the whole Situation of like having the support team around you and and the parents usually aren't enough you know parents Parents are parents. I Know My dad was unbelievable coach and he helped me tremendously when I was younger but when I was like twenty two twenty three. I'm not looking over to my dad to pump me up. I mean it doesn't work but also had a guy there whose believes in me and he's you know invested in me and he's spending the time all of a sudden you want to do well for that person. The these girls need that and you know to me. It's crazy when they have this kind of money and there have a chance to and they don't have that. I mean the coach that was with cast Akina. Last year. He was the Dutch guys or maybe Belgian. Got like even he walked down the court a few times and did some good speeches and talks or whatever but this guy obviously helped her. I mean she got to what eight or nine in the world I mean. Now she's A. She does have a coach now. She's working with the same guy. That's working with Kuzin. It's over so he's a Spanish guy so she sharing him. She actually looks a little better last few weeks which not surprising. She has a coach but to let yourself go that far like Ostapenko to let yourself go out for. It's crazy to me. Yeah and and I. It clearly seems to be symptomatic of the money. Well Yeah Typically Typically. It seems like money so big. These layers are driving their own boss and it goes sideways real quick. I mean even genie real quick. I'll tell you in genie. I had the thought process in my head that if she got back to the top thirty. Let's say which she felt. She could if she got back to top thirty where she seated in Grand Slams. She would probably make an extra couple of million dollars a year so instead of doing a energy drink on instagram on the beach playing football for five grand. Why not focus a little bit and get two thirty in the world? Would she's definitely capable of doing. And then all of that is multiplied times thousand. The you know that not make that mistake. It's it's it's actually nauseating to be honest but I see it and tons of players and it's a known fact. I mean the fact that if they do it if they're thinking about money which allow them probably are the same thing you hire coach. You went three extra matches you pay for that coach in some cases maybe one extra match you pay for that coach. I. It's crazy to me. He's right if you're GONNA be a pro you've got to pay for coach and if you WanNa look like a pro you gotta get into a Sergio to Keeney warm up suit and the good people. Sergio to Keeney have agreed to supply such a soup to one lucky under review listening. That's right you could be hitting the core in the brand of champions like Hingis Sampras McEnroe and Sabatini just hop on the instagram. Follow us and to Kini and when you see one of our giveaway post tag a friend. Who loves tennis? You'll be automatically entered to win. Keeney warm-up sue and to keeney bucket hat. Our instagram handles are under review tennis and Sergio. Two keeney official follow. Wass and tag. A friend will announce the winner at the end of the month. And Good luck now. Let's get back to my talk with the one and only Michael. Joyce move into our third set. This is the part of our show. We talk about your career. I know probably more about you than than most. We've talked to friends of yours and you know certainly if you read. The David Foster. Wallace short story thought that Short by the way it's like fifty pages. Do you know the name of the Story Book. With Cau- supposedly fun thing. I'll never do again. And they took about three or four of his short stories that he had done in magazines. And you know it wasn't supposed to be an escort but I want to get to so you grew up in southern California. Yes you're in Europe southern California player. Oh Yeah Yeah. Played All juniors there you to my coaches landstor growing up. How'd you start? My grandfather was a cameraman director photography. And then my dad was getting into this Business as well but he loved tennis. It was like something he loved when he was a kid. So he actually use a string rackets and he used to a plumber. Park with Pancho Gonzales. And all this and you know it wasn't as Plumber Park West. Hollywood is a great part. Yeah it had four or five. Quarts he actually. He used to work in the shop there and he strung rackets. He said his first coach. Bill Tilden because these back in those days those guys had to teach lessons bill. Tilden yeah so he just. He wasn't as good but he loved tennis. And then he did however go to the army and they let him teach tennis there so he said he'd actually have to go to war because they all wanted him to keep teaching tennis to the colonels. Got To skate out on having. Yeah Yeah. They wanted their tennis coach. There on the base so she kind of got out of it for so many years to court. Yeah he built a court when I was Four years old for him because he He would have the guys over the weekend and he play. And so I I mean my first memories are there's pictures of me sitting in like the ball machine with balls when I'm two years old three years old and so he was kind of like my first coach. Fed me some balls back then. You weren't thinking you're going to be a pro when your kid like they do now is more. It was what the family was doing. Sean Adams says that he used to come to your house. Chucky you said you play with my dad. Actually when he was probably nine. I was six or something struck the atoms and early guests on our show. He's also one of these southern California players and he will also my dad when we moved into the house. I remember when I was three. It didn't have a tennis court and it had like a swimming pool and a little like a tree house or something. My Dad actually tore that down and wanted to court so the court was just enough room. It wasn't like it was some huge mansion just to court was a just enough room and it was actually really short on the back and in the sides and it actually probably helped me take the ball early. Because you couldn't go back you'd hit the fence so I that was the court that I played on all the time and then Actually had little condo in Palm Springs and one day Well Chris Ever John. Lloyd had a Place Sunrise Country Club and I guess I was eight or nine. I was hitting and Chris. Evert saw me Chris ever when she was married to John Lewis. Ucs Lloyd Wright. They had a place there and she started talking my dad. So your kids good and suggested that I go to lance door if I wanted to make serious and then lands door famous coach. Who Claims Sampras Tracy Austin and Lindsey Davenport Maria some of his pupils. Yeah he was like the Guru of southern California tennis and I remember I was probably like eight then. Apparently the story is they call them for like six months and he kept saying enough time and then one day. I was at school and I remember like third or fourth grade. I remember them. Somebody coming in and pulling me out of school. I didn't know why it was my parents and they said. Oh We got you on with Robert but you gotta be there eleven so I took my first lesson which I have on video still which I gave to Robert and they put on tennis channel last year. They had some clips from it Because my mom filmed it and took the less than a week for the next You know twelve years. What did you learn from them? Well Robert was great teaching the fundamentals. He was Disciplined fundamentals. He pretty much taught me my strokes. My Dad knew tennis well enough to where the stuff that Robert wanted me to do. A work on I would work with my dad He used to shoot movies but then he'd be home for months. You Know He. He kind of had his own schedule so he could spend time with me. And since I had the court the House helped I did have a lot of other coaches or people. Might that helped me. I mean I remember. I could go through the list. I mean my dad used to hire these guys from Ucla to with me There was a guy named Bruce Foxworth Was PROBABLY THE SMARTEST Guy I've ever met tennis. Wise that here with me for eight years twice a week. I worked a little bit with this coach. Paul Cohen who is coaching teenager? While Cohen Cohen. We learn more about this guy at some point but his name comes up a lot pro tennis. I think he wanted to work with Harold. Sal Yeah he's Real Big Guy was Harold Solomon and he had this one junior who I never met but he supposedly was phenomenal. Guy Howard show and felt and the guy ended up. You know dying and But he supposedly was like one of the best of all time and Cohen was hat. Cohen had these drills actually still doom so as some my players. I I all the years of these coaches half of what I do is stuff they did to me. So you know so. I had a lot of great players around my parents. I was lucky enough. They had enough money. Could help pay for some? You know guys come over hit with me and Robert was kind of like my main coach but I always tell people Robert was great but I only saw robbery like once a week. You know so it was like you know. Obviously the time my dad spent the players around we had great players in the near southern cal. Those days was like you didn't have to go anywhere. The tournaments were Michael Chang Sampras chucky tarango you know the all these guys were saying to local Whittier Tournament. So you know traveling to Overseas like they do now. You didn't you didn't have to do that but you did though I did it like eighteen seventeen eighteen. Yeah so you're playing local and then the nationals. You had the normal mode nationals. Were like three years. You had like an outstanding junior career winning Kalamazoo eighteens which chucky one also a couple of years before me but that was a big one because you got a wildcard. Us Open and stuff. And I got two fouls a junior Wimbledon and enquist but it was a sick draw. I play you WanNa hear who I played that. I'll never forget I played second round. I played Kenneth Carlsen who was a good player crossing was riding. Yeah Yeah Big leftie serve. He was saying third round. I beat Andrei Medvedev who I lost her at the French Juniors Sh headquarters. I beat Medvedev. Semi's a bit reset ski files loss to an Quist and but there was a Kafelnikov was losing somewhere quarters but it was unbelievable group that year French Juniors Lost Medvedev in the semi's and then Medvedev banquets in the finals and then in the US the best players were like Vince. Spadea Myself Finals Kalamazoo beat Ivan. Baron who actually wanted the year before I've been banned. Yeah and so but I believe the father. They have the tournament that used to be in Coral Springs del Rey. They own that tournament's I've been bearing was a highly touted junior. Who never quite broke through? Yeah he actually. I think he made a little bit a mistake in one Kalamazoo and he ended up going to college for one year at University of Georgia. And then he went back to Kalamazoo and then I beat him in the final And then he he. He's actually the Dad Star. That tournament was determined director of years. Ivan took over. So I think I Evans now determined. Dad's yeah yeah yeah. He took over that tournament so he does the senior event there and every shout barry a great guy how do you become a pro actually was supposed to go to ucla because I grew up watching UCLA TENNIS? We live nearby. That's how I knew all these guys teacher and I used to have these guys David Livingston and came to my house and you know all these. Ucla guys. I live five minutes away. So we watched all the matches I wanted to go to school. My parents wanted me to go for a little while so I was actually going to UCLA. And then that. After I graduate high school where I went to Europe played French junior got two fouls a Wimbledon Juniors and then I was one Kalamazoo and then in the US Open. I played the one guy probably could be played. This Guy Pat Crowe. He was from southern cal. He's a good player but he was more of like a local southern Cal Player. Pat Crowe Crowbar. Yeah Big Leftie Guy. Pat Crowe played on one of the Great Teams Long Beats. I think they may have won the national to the FI. Could there's like a legendary story by pack crew? That was the first heaters is the now new dropped out of being the coach of USC. I probably on that. Yeah they had. They had a bunch of guys who were like kind of misfits who were all talented. Unlv you running of Senate exactly Pacquiao. He's just kind of funny because I played him in. When I was sixteen ca similar like Chucky when I was sixteen I started playing a lot of these like money tournaments and stuff around. La Because you had a lot of these open tournaments that you know they wintered get five hundred bucks or two hundred. They throw five. Yeah you know. This niccolo blight was the two thousand in the winter and a lot of times. I couldn't take it but I could take some of it because of gas money and this and that but like back. Then you've played everything you know. That was the thing you play. Juniors you've played so he was cleaning up in these money tournaments Pat Crowe and I had actually played him a couple times and beat him in these. Because I started winning. Allow money turns when I was seventeen because I was starting to get pretty good so I was winning all of the local money tournaments so I go to the US Open and he was on the tour but he might have been ranked two or three hundred and he qualified. I remember he beat sand installing the number one in qualifying and crow qualified. And after I want cameras you get a wildcard draw comes out play a qualifier. Remember laughing looking at the qualifiers and I said if I play Pat. Crowe I got a shot here. I play Pat. Crowe the thing was is I go out there. And he's playing good. I mean he's a good player talented guy and he won the first set six four and I remember. He had to set point. Second said I one seven six and then I ended up winning the next two six two six two coma and since I want around and then I'll play this guy. Wally masseur semi's by lost in five sets to him so I decided to turn pro that. Because I I can so you you you've Kinda gone up to the wire. Yeah I don't know if you made semi's that year like the year. After he was good he was a good solid player and to play him. Like five-set was pretty amazing at the time. Must've been thirty five and you were eighteen house. Eighteen thirty two at the time was probably I was eighteen and the I kind of felt if I went to college I was only going to go for a year to the team at UCLA. Was Sick I mean they had like David. Sanguinetti was like number six and he you know he made quarters of David Sanguinetti and Italian sort of like prematurely grey haired Italian who I actually had a top hundred for a lot of Yada years. He was like six on the team yet. Bill Barons was like four. You had David exe man. Yeah so I would have been like fighting my way to even I mean I've made a deal headed time because it was Bassett's last year he said if I go to because my parents like if he goes to school even play you know this is unbelievable and he said he will play. Don't worry and then I kind of felt like I was only going to go a year or two and so since I did well I was able to sign some decent contracts. I signed With I remember I got seventy thousand dollars Martin Mulligan. Yea He signed me. I remember I got seventy thousand the first year and then I remember I got thirty thousand from Yonex so the hundred thousand was enough for me to travel and pay for a coach. The time only problem was two months after being a pro. I fell in dislocated my shoulder so now I was out it fell. Yeah Yeah I got three pins in my shoulder here. My left you fell on the court. I fell in the court in a tournament in Philadelphia. Last round of qualifying. After having three match. Points against this Guy Steph. Ain't simeone at six five. In the third set tiebreaker. I went for a ball. Fell shoulder tore out I actually was out for three or four months. Rehabbed it started playing again. Started playing some salad stuff. Then dislocated again Tom. Gullikson ran into and knocked it out again at. Usda camp how about that. Call my parents on that one. I gotta I gotTa Stop Down. For One sec playing basketball and basketball in Miami at A. We were at training camp at key. Biscayne and I was playing with John. Star. Jared Palmer all these guys. Tom Gullikson ran for the ball. Mus- mistake of quite went for the ball he ran into marm. It came out like lethal weapon flow call went back. I went to Jackson Memorial Hospital like Worse Hospital in the world so they could put it back in and then obviously they said I needed surgery because he kept popping out. So you know that. Held me back about a year and a half so I didn't really break in top hundred tolls like twenty one or something we gotta go for one second. Do I have it right that you went to high school with the Menendez brothers. We will have more Michael. Joyce in part. Two coming to you shortly huge. Thank you to Michael. Joyce we'd like to thank Sergio to Keeney. The official apparel sponsor of under review. See what they're doing as Sergio to Keeney DOT COM. If you want to help support under review please head on over to Patriot. Dot Com slash under review tennis. 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51: How Partners Can Sabotage Each Other's Health

RISE Together Podcast

39:53 min | 1 year ago

51: How Partners Can Sabotage Each Other's Health

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You can't even do it ad for our own company you feel so i'm sure that y'all have heard us talk about how important important health is to us as a couple <hes>. If you haven't heard our podcasts on this go listen to episode forty of the rise together podcasts. We'd get into how we got healthy. There's a couple and why it matters so much but one of the questions we get quite a bit is from you guys who are on health journey who are trying to change change some. You're trying to do whatever that looks like for you. Maybe it's you want to workout more. You're trying to get physically strong. Maybe it's changing up your nutrition patterns. Maybe it's it's giving up drinking. Maybe it's trying to get more sleep. Whatever that is and you have a partner who for a myriad of different reasons reasons is not into you doing that. I keep going back to not on your level because in real time this may be the most on each other level we've ever been agreed agreed especially when it comes to health. I am feeling like a motivation for making the eating choices races in the working out that i've probably never felt my entire life totally honest and part of that is momentum part of it. Is i mean i was wearing a shirt sure yesterday and you're just like hansie. I was attracted to you in that shirt. I mean i'm like i always think you're handsome but i'm i'm sure member area now and i'm getting fluster not bring that up on this. I am here for it's because the shirt was tight and your arms are spectacular tackler and your stomach is flat and i am like who is that haughty and then i remember that he's my husband's gentle. Lady and i appreciate fishing those nice things. The bottom line is there definitely were plenty of times where i was not on your level or vice versa as it pertained to all of the things that you're talking about here and diving in a little bit <hes> what those archetypes are and how if you're gonna fight him. You might be able to address a little bit of getting around rounded. Hopefully helps you as a couple chase getting on that same level so you can have good health together. Hi i'm rachel hollis hollis and we're married for like fifteen years and we have four kids a thousand kids. We've been foster parents support kids as well and we're running a business together. A lot of thing is a lot of these but we know that it's possible to have an exceptional relationship. Regardless the stresses you have in your life so if you want some tips and tricks and how we get through all the things is rights together so we came up with four archetypes like four kinds of of partners who affect your health journey in different ways for different reasons. This is not based on any actual research this this is our own life and we made up these names super fast you will discover because they're not all that clever but the first type of partner who sabotages your health journey is what what we call. This is our most common one in our own relationship. We called this the cosigner meaning you are. You're on a health journey. Let's say you're like you're trying to eat better and you have a partner who it's not malicious. It's not it's just like they missed that fun. They miss taco tuesday. They missed marguerita time and so they'll because they want like someone to do what they're doing. They'll try and instigate you or get you cosign. We're we're talking to a couple a friend of ours and her husband's like superfit and really and all the things health fitness what he's eating and she's the queen of being like. Don't you want cookie dough cookie with me. We've done this nine million. Well i mean the reality is each of us. As much as we're a couple are experiencing life differently like you are having an experience today that is different than me the pressures of your day the things that give you anxiety your own the way that you're feeling happy or not happy be your cycle frankly sometimes and change but the the the things i can think of just in the last year in a year where you traveled more than any human on earth there were times when you come back from traveling and i'd been feeling good about being consistent with out my accountability ability partner even being in town and then it was like well we gotta get some case open this piece out because you'd come off of this emotional and physically draining trip and reward out of it. Was this thing guess what i had not experienced travel. I had not stood on a stage in emotionally nationally given myself to this audience but man was i ready for some cheese chips yeah and so then i'm speaking into sort of your like the chink in your armor summer like you're already being really good and you already are kind of like oh. It'd be great to go. Have a fun like mexican food dinner but i'm being so good and then i- i- cosign for you so i'm like oh well. Let's just go to this thing. I think that what you said started off like is such a wise is thing of your partner is on a journey that you are not on and so often in relationships. We tend to think that we're like a we're both here so we're both in the same place but of course there are days that i'm stressed out that you aren't there are days that i'm seeing that you definitely are not and i will you want certain i will wanna make certain choices that you maybe wouldn't choose but then i try and get you to go along for the ride 'cause for me most most often it's that i grew up and like years ago watching the oprah show and bob green. Who's like her fitness guy forever. You probably don't i do not bob greenwood oprah's fitness guy best friend and he like she's the godmother child whatever i know way too much about but <hes> he helped her on the fitness this journey and there was one time he's on the show and i remember they asked people in the audience. What is food to you like food is dot dot dot and and at the time. I thought it was so interesting because when i asked myself that question the answer was food is fun. That is what was in my head. I grew up in a really tumultuous childhood and the one like joy in our lives was like dinner family parties a birthday party. It was like the one time everyone was happy and not fighting always were southern. It always wrapped around food so for me. Food is fun so if i want it you know. I've just had a stressful week. I would want to go have happier. I would want to go have caso and if you are not doing it too. I know this isn't true sure now but i used to believe that if you weren't doing it to if i couldn't get you to do the now we're not having fun together and our lives are never going to be fun by the way i mean like i'm rolling in a month three of not having a drink and feeling super healthy and it was a choice about like staying really focused in what is our company just the most important time we have these two big conferences coming up and i am here for it and i wanted to like really just get into great shape and there was a part of that decision that at at the beginning i thought needed u._2. Also give up alcohol so that i wouldn't feel bad for what i thought was a rug poll of me polling our fun out of our relationship in the pursuit of just making a healthy choice for myself. We just came back this last week. From having been an ireland like drinking capital of the world drinking capital of the world and i think going in there was a little part of me that was like how in the world are we going to have. Are we going to have how are we gonna go and do this adventure in this place where guinness in jamison and everything else just like flows and and we had the best i mean that was the best vacation we've ever had. In our lives. I agree you were able to have a glass of champagne with dinner and god bless them. They now have a non alcoholic champagne and non alcoholic and non alcoholic wine. I was a part of the fun of celebrating our fifteen eighteen years of being married and didn't alcohol alcohol but i didn't miss it didn't compromise the kind of fun we could have there. Was this mentality not that it would and the great thing about this trip or the experience of having fun without food is once you train yourself oft actually appreciate that that is not a thing that has a lynch pin in your enjoying your time together as a couple. You're free from it yeah and the thing is ah. It's really important to get this piece because i feel like if you're listening to this episode you're probably looking for the one that's like like your partner or maybe like cure self the only way that you can get out from under these archetypes and change the behavior is to stand firm in the plan like if you were in relationship with someone who's a cosigner. The only thing that you're going to be able to do is like stand firm in the like we wouldn't have known the sun so done now but no way do rayton day from three years ago think that they could go to ireland and have an incredible time mm-hmm where one of them is not drinking and the other one is having an occasional glass of champagne at all at all not only that the years that we've now lived in unhealthy eating. We never would have thought that we could go anywhere or have a date night and not eat a chili cheeseburger and potato skins because because food and alcohol for us were fun. It was four wheel sampler existed on it because lying is still exist you think it has to because they have wagon wheel samplers but the headline is keeney though that dish was like a bell pavlov's dog thing that like oh you accomplish this thing at work wagon wheel sample you did something that is worthy of <hes> celebration wagon wheel sampler and so like the associated the association ends up then can of convincing you that the only way that you do celebrate the only way that you can fully appreciate that celebration is if you indulge in this way just deviates from whatever you might be hoping for and health and so i think if you do you have a cosigner in your life then it's not getting mad at them. It's not getting frustrated. It's you as a person are going to have to be strong enough to just say no to just stand firm in what your plan is and also to commit to like no. Let's go babe like let's go have date night. Let's go do the let's go because with us. I remember those first couple of date nights. When you weren't drinking like felt kind of anxious because it was like this this is not testing the one of our ability to have fun without this thing that had been a constant since we met yeah and now it's just like oh we're just we're enjoying each other's company. We're laughing over their stuff. We you really don't need those things but you don't know you. Don't need them until you go without them for long enough so that's if if you have a cosigner in your life if you are a cosigner listen to me if you are the one you need to own this right now if you are the one who your partner is trying to get healthy in whatever way they're going to therapy the working now they're trying to eat better than trying to stop drinking or whatever and for whatever reasons that you can work through later you are trying to pull them back to your side you. You really have to take ownership of that. You really like stop it you. I don't know what else to tell. You beat be mindful of what is really happening. If you love someone you you want the best for them even if their best scares you a little bit and the headline to is the things that you're most afraid of have are not real i mean i really don't think that i think there's like this weird. Insecurity that often is just like the worst case scenario that you can conjure in your head playing on something that happened earlier yeah why we're going to get some of these next two are based on that idea so the first one. Which is you know. We have the coast sign of that someone you want it to be fine. You wanna bring your partner along for the ride. The second is someone on who subconsciously emotionally sabotages. You subconsciously consciously emotionally sabotages. Yes and we call this one. The scaredy cat scaredy. This is why we get paid the big bucks. Everybody big bucks. I mean no bucks. Nobody pays us to name anything but it was the idea of like what david was saying. Someone is subconsciously afraid of you changing. They will do things or say things to kind of. Pull you back or keep you from changing or keep you from growing because they are made nervous by you doing something different i mean i go back to. We had this conversation in the midst of our fifteen year trip. If the version of me you met fifteen seventeen eighteen years ago met you in in present time today so the not in the best physical shape not as comfortable and confident in who i really am meeting you dave hollis alice from seventeen years ago meets me rachel hollis today today it ain't it ain't going nowhere now in part because vice versa i and and vice versa in part though because i would have been one intimidated by your strength such a strong woman i respect so much that part of you today but also i wasn't in a place where i had the habits of the discipline. I hadn't done some of the work okay so if you're at the beginning of that journey where both seventeen years ago versions of ourselves and you start to make changes on a path breath from that day seventeen years ago to where we sit today my brain starts to worry about whether the difference between me staying stock at at the seventeen year ago version of myself can keep up with be attracted to and more importantly. Have you find me a person that you want to be in relationship with. If i don't make those changes so so subconsciously meaning you not even thinking about it what are ways that people subconsciously subconsciously sabotage their partner when it comes to health putting them into situations where it's almost impossible possible to to make a healthy choice right like making plans where there isn't a healthy option making plans with friends where every other person's gonna that'd be drinking if they're in a position of not wanting to drink making making like doing things that if you've seen the make some progress create a likelihood the head of slowing or having them even take a step back so they come back to your level yeah and i think with this one really manifest quite a bit in terms of passive aggressive comments <hes> the things that people say under their breath or the way that they tease you or even how your partner partner may talk to other people in your community about you so that they kind of bring that onto like oh yeah dave's too good for us now. He's like so that you kind of their they're. They're passive aggressively talking about you to other people so that than those people are kind of weighing in on this too. There's so much wrapped up for people when it comes to health. It is super easy to fall off the wagon. It's super easy to give up on a health goal because there's so so many things that are speaking in opposition like you have a year five years or thirty years of habit instilled in you about the way to eat drink think be live your life and so when someone comes along and starts kind of needling you for that it makes it so easy to give up. Which was the thing you are already kind of thinking of doing to begin with part of the reason why i think you're already. Maybe thinking a little bit about it. It is the wiring that happens in the formative years of our life with our family of origin telling us that this is the kind of person and we are in the kind of through the lens of health right. We're just not healthy people. We're just people that eat these things. We're not people that exercise right like those stories that narrative informs a belief in a lot of us of what is actually possible in our health journey so if you're paired with somebody who also of course has the same influences and then starts to question whether they wanna believe those things any longer to changes story for their own good even if it's a departure from where they've come from that's scary especially if you on an unconscious level are not not aware of your own ability to make that same choice well and i think in this instance we're talking about romantic relationships but i do believe the scaredy cat happens wins. A lot for family like familial relationships like your sister is making comments your meema saying something something thanksgiving your friends. We never see you anymore because you don't come to the bar like there's so many things that happened in our wider community wrapped up in this idea that they're afraid because your changing they're afraid that you're changing and so that they're going to do things or say things that try and pull you back and what's insidious about this like they're. It's insidious because they don't even realize what they're like. What the re why they're saying those things. I think a lot of times when you're back at your mom's house for thanksgiving with your siblings. When you're back in your college town with the friends who've come back you revert to roles that you had back then so birth order that existed ten years ago comes back into play the mean girl that you hung out with for god only knows what reason she still that person even though you're now thirty two you and not twenty one and her ability to influence you. You're older sister's ability to bully you. Those things emerge if you in any way have started playing a different character to the one that you used to play in that role was familiar back then well and think about this in terms terms of a romantic relationship this is this is a powerful thought of the roles that we've played when you get into high stress situations you tend to river and like i think of having an argument and we have to both really consciously not revert to the way we've managed arguments two years ago five years ago. You tend to be very defensive. I tend to shut down. We know these things we know these things and so when we start to see those manifests in like a real you know argument that we're having if the consciously fight against it but just something to be mindful of because if you're in the right kind of relationship nobody knows you better than your partner but then that's a dangerous thing because they also know the exact kind of buttons to push the exact thing to say the exact cookie to offer you then kind of bring bring you back around so we had something this morning. I thought it was it's it's interesting you say it because you said something to me about something here in the office i got defensive about it and i was trying to not be emotional but ten minutes went by you came back into we've left aft- rooms came back to it in the same room and you're like hey. This was not me coming at you. I just think we had a business problem that we have to jointly solve and i explained and the reaction that you just saw is the reaction and i named the four previous bosses that i had at the walt disney company like if i got critiqued not ct that was just the way that my reflex showed up to try and defend defensiveness. <hes> you know the the thing that wasn't wasn't working perfectly but man i was happy for and thankful for like only ten minutes of time went by we addressed it and i thought man. I wonder if there's a way to handle it better next next time that example applies as much here in this conversation about health you find yourself slipping back into a role that you previously played shop so if you are in relationship with someone who you think subconsciously emotionally sabotaging you i think the answer there is is being hyper aware of it is kind of the same as the cosigner being aware understanding that your partner is on a different journey than you are and it is not let everybody listen. Let me say it loud for the people in the back. It is not your job to fix your partner. That's not your job there grownup person they are on their own journey me it is your job to understand your y and have it be so strong enough like your health journey. There's a there's a deep why why so you need to change. Why does this matter. Why do you need more energy to keep up with the kids. Why do you need to change the way you eat. Why do you need to stop drinking. Why is this powerful ground yourself in that way so that when someone says something it just it rolls off your back. Do you know how often people in my family say snarky snarky things to me about my health. When i go home for the holidays or we go. You know oh you guys aren't gonna. Have you know you're not gonna eat cookies and pudding on christmas like no. I'm not not. I don't eat that kind of food if i do. It makes me sick to my stomach but the thing is in that moment. I don't defend myself. It's not my job to defend end myself to aunt linda the my job. My job is to know my why and to just like literally just like smile and move on with my life. I do think if because because we're talking about unconscious sabotage here this is about <hes> if this ends up being something that you find in your relationship with your romantic partner finding finding a way in in it's a delicate thing but finding a way to explain how their attempts at sabotage are making you feel so that they become conscious of them would be an outcome. I'd hope for right like if i was doing something that was unlike like a unwittingly pulling rachel back down. I'd hope that she could find a way to have a conversation with me that said hey. This is my why this is why this is important horton to me. This is what this journey is gonna do for me and far relationship and also whatever insecurity this plays on for you with this worry that i might grow into someone who doesn't love you. I love you like <hes> somehow like because i think part of the subconsciousness of it and the insecurity purity of it addressing that maybe helps make that person more aware of why they're sabotaging and just think if i did that to you the king of defense said that five years ago you would like you be like i'm not i'm not let like i. I think i might have said it and probably said it exactly like that. I also think that like i might have been able to just build a little tiny brick of self alpha awareness on really in the privacy then of the aftermath of that conversation acknowledging yeah. You know what i am being alone secure. I am being a little bit ridiculous. I i probably should think differently about being supportive of you becoming your best self and what that might mean for our marriage for our kids. I probably still use that go. The third archetype is the opposite of the scaredy cat. This is someone who consciously sabotages your health so we talked about sub-conscious. They're not really thinking about it. This is someone who consciously sabotages someone else's elses personal growth journey in whatever format. We have a very technical name for that. We called this one the jerk. This is the jerk honestly. We don't have a great soulful piece of advice for you. If you were in a romantic relationship with a jerk you just shouldn't be. I'm sorry like there's just no. I'm like the queen of wanting to talk people people through a relationship and how you salvage one and how you work for it but if you are truly with someone who is consciously trying to hurt you trying to sabotage you try and like like they're actually saying things to you. They're doing like screw that no thank you that for sure is like why would you give weight to that like if you can identify that there isn't motivation outside of their own satisfaction in hurting you then like why why let them determine whether you get to live a healthy alive why let them determine whether you're gonna make choices that are gonna fuel you and give you the energy you need and want give you the mindset mentality that you need. I like that one that one. I agree agree. It's like a it's a little bit of a shorter conversation because when you find yourself with this person hopefully it's easier to resist the temptation of giving into their wants and wills because because they're a juror yeah i think <hes> you know with the last one it was like you go home for holidays or whatever and people are saying do things kind of passive aggressively grumbling whatever but i also know that there are people who have family members who are not passive aggressive just aggressors aggressive and and i p people ask us all the time like what do you do when the person who's being aggressive or the person who's saying mean things. Whatever is family and i i like. I know there's so many people who say like families everything families all that matters like blood but no way no freaking way you do not get to belittle me. You do not get to disrespect me. You do not get to bully me just because we share some genes like that's not i in fact i dunno. I've really said this very publicly. I don't talk to seventy five percent of my family like my aunts and uncles and i have a whole extended family that that i haven't seen in since our weather our wedding day since they were aggressive on our wedding awful hateful people and stormed out of our wedding like we've we've never i just know i grew up as a little girl. We grew up in this family and i love and miss my grandpa every day. He was such a patriarch of like we always to get together. We're <unk> every holiday and everyone's like so mean and bitter to each other and he was like doesn't matter family spam and so as a kid. I was exposed to this. This ideal and i remember when we got married. It was the first time like literally. I was like we get to decide. This is our family. We are now now a family of to me and you and i want these other people to be part of it but we have rules of how you will interact with us how you will be when you come to our house the way that you're allowed to behave and if you do not act like you're supposed to. We're not going to do life with view straight up. I don't care who you are because you. You might my job. Now is these babies like i have four kids and i am trying to raise and if i am teaching them to love and respect themselves and to have love and respect for other people and then i allow you into my house house like an aunt and your spewing venom and talking crap and being mean and what what in the world is that teaching these kids and so. I'm really passionate about this idea like if someone can't behave in the way that they're supposed to you do not have to interact. Thank you yeah barron boundaries in a weird way like the further you are away from leaving your family of origin the easier it becomes to be really really comfortable creating boundaries defining what is on that list of acceptable overseas unacceptable and then like being kind of unrelenting about. Hey if violate these things. I'm sorry like that's just like a total like game ender for us. I've had to had two scenarios one where we we just stopped interacting with family members because it was like this is not. We're not going to behave like this and then i've had other circumstances where family members were acting acting in a way that made me very uncomfortable that i didn't want around. My kids and i had to have a conversation with a family member. That said i love you so much. I want you to be a part of my life. I want you to be a part of my children's lives but you cannot act this way in our home or you can't come to our home and it was really hard. Conversation took me months to like build up to that place and it ended up being incredible because the person was it's very received really well here it and they were like oh. Hey i totally understand this. Is your home like we're not you know and and i'll just give you the scenario. There was a family member. That was <hes> drinking so we come to family parties. It will come to our house and they would just get roaring drunk and like scare the kids and you know kind of embarrassed us and so had to have that conversation and they received it so well and have never drank in her house again yeah ever because they're really respectful of like yeah. This is your family and i. I wanna be a part of it so for what that's worth. We don't mess with jerks. Ask ask yourself what what is there but really mindful like you are. You don't have to interact with anybody. I mean i think too we can transition the fourth one but there are some friends that you have in your life that are there because of time served. Do not serve your best self self and i've been you know they're in the wedding like them since middle school i mean they're the way that you continue to grow. Oh and redefine what you aspire for in the world has to keep up with the friends that you are investing the most time with because if they're disconnected acted you might take two steps forward but man they'll find a way to make a one or two steps back kind of thing happen every once in a while just so they can keep you closer the mediocre version of who they are and what they don't aspire for so so the last kind of health sabotaging person. We called the anchor anchor this. I mean obviously this is a relationship podcasts. So this the you know there are <hes> partners in a romantic relationship that way way down the relationship. I also think the anchor can be those friends from childhood those friends from your first job out of college or whatever who are anchoring you due to the person used to be and you know it's a million times. Everyone's heard this quote but like you are the combination of the five people you spend the most time with who do you as a couple spend the most time with because those that's going to anchor you. You can have someone who's anchoring you to the floor. Who's anchoring you bad behavior. Using you have someone who's anchoring you to the truth. Who's anchoring you to the ceilings pulling you up in the right direction and but in this instance we're specifically talking about the kind of person who's pulling you down. I think this even goes beyond people like i think i think there can be an anchor in the kind of media that you're consuming the way that your like notion of body image is informed by the things that run through your social media media feed can be an absolute anchor in you believing that that kind of life is not possible for you because it feels so unattainable relative to where you're starting. That's a good point like i was. I think in this in terms of a person but i think being mindful of what you consume when i went on when i really started to change my health. This guy's gonna laugh. You're gonna roll your eyes but this is the absolute truth. I had to stop following. Every social media <music> feed every social media person who was food and i i was a food blogger. I have friends that i do not follow. Oh on instagram i swear to you because some of the most talented bakers in the world there they love to make like potato nachos and chili cheese fries and all of these things and every time i'd scroll through my feet on instagram i get hungry and i'm using air quotes not really hungry but i think i was hungry. Go to the kitchen. I blow everything and i had to. We talk a lot in in coaching. We do our monthly coaching. I talk a lot about this idea of triggers. Being aware of what your triggers were and for me that was a trigger for my health when i would see food either on pinterest or on instagram or whatever it would make me feel hungry and i ended up blowing all the you know whatever i had to remove it from my feed aid because if i don't see if my feeds filled with beautiful quotes motivational things you know people who inspire army with their fitness people who inspire me with their faith my favorite authors like i'm just filling my heart and the rock obvious but i'm just like billing pulling my heart with with things that inspire me and keep me anchored to who i want to be instead of anchoring me to who i was one hundred hundred percent. Here's the thing guys <hes> you know. We said we've got that great episode of the podcast we talk about our own health journey and why i we believe in this so much. We're so passionate about it. How we made change that was lasting but i think always you can't get to where you're going elaine. If you don't know where you are and part of knowing where you are with your health journey is knowing what might throw you off so best best case scenario you and your partner you know the bible says <hes> your two oxen can't be unevenly yoked meaning the yoke that goes over their next like doc. There's a little baby oxen and a big muscular oxen than the yoke over the back of their next is uneven. They can't pull the plough they can't do what there needed to do because they're not on the same level and when it comes to health you can absolutely stand firm stand tall become who you're meant to be the in your own health journey alone but if you are in partnership the thing that changes everything is when you're in it together foreshore we want. We want you to be mindful of this idea. What's going to throw you off or maybe those people in your life who for whatever reason might try and keep you from changing but the real key the answer that the what's the magic bullet in this is you and your partner being on the same page when it comes to health and that starts with a real conversation about what that journey would look like for the two of you together.

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Deer or Rabbit Resistant Plants and More From Seattle

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Deer or Rabbit Resistant Plants and More From Seattle

"Well, good afternoon. Ladies and gentlemen. Now gives me great pleasure to introduce a dynamic duo seal for Nari and Ellen Tzakas. Let's give them a warm. Welcome. Thank you. We want to do today for you. What we do on the podcast on the podcast we have several regular segments. Yes. And we almost always start with the most important thing, which is food. Okay. So today, we are going to start with what's for dinner. What's for dinner? What's for dinner L? What's for dinner? This is my foraged dinner suggestion. If you've walked the garden show floor, you may have seen the noxious weed booth where the people from I think the county extension have put together some really good information on noxious weeds in this area. They've ranked them and they've told you what to do with them. And this is on their list. This is a class a noxious weed in Washington state, and what that means is it has not taken over the entire state yet, but you will find isolated populations of it. And what they want you to do is pull it. Up roots? And all when you find it because this plant for many gardeners is a difficult plant. It's invasive it's a Leila Pathak, and what that means is the root of this plant put out a certain chemical that actually stop other plants from growing in that area. So it really has an unfair advantage as far as taking over the landscape is concerned. Fortunately, it is a very tasty plant. So when you're out there, pulling it up bring it back to the kitchen. Don't just throw it away this roasted Hoste shoots wrapped in pro. Suto served on a bed of garlic mustard pesto now, the garlic mustard in the pesto takes the place of both the basil and the garlic because it's got that wonderful garlicky flavor and the green leaves. That's right. And it is delicious. It really is. She was very skeptical. I well and has anybody here eaten Hoste shoots. Thank you. Hoste shoots are also very tasty. Garlic mustard makes a delicious MARTINI. There's not a lot of savory flavors that work well in cocktails, but if you like a Bloody Mary or a salty dog, you will probably love this. Garlic mustard MARTINI, and you make it by pulverizing. Garlic mustard leaves in vodka or gin. And then you let that sit strain it off, and you use that as the basis for your cocktail. And it's it's sharp, and it's savory, and it's strong and very delicious. What's the garnish in the garnish in this? I'm so glad you asked these are pickled field, garlic bulbs. So if you if field, garlic is the bane of your existence because it grows in your lawn, and you can't get rid of it dig them up clean off the bulb and then you make little pickles out of them. So this is a doubly foraged cocktail here for me. What's for dinner is what I grow in my garden, and I wanna talk to you today. About my two favorite types of summer squash. And we have seeds for both of these as part of our giveaway and with every book that we sell at the book signing, you will get a package of these seats the to squash that I like the most are zephyr, that's the by color green and yellow one and Costa romanesque. Oh, why do I like these? I like these because they are highly mildew resistant now does anybody here have trouble with powder mildew on their squash on this quest plants. Yeah. Well, these are both very productive and mildew resistant, I frequently the zephyr squash. Which is the yellow and green one I will frequently in September and October still be harvesting those squash. And the old leaves are all dying from mildew and the plant just keeps on putting out new foliage, new flowers and. New vegetables, right right into the fall. So very productive plant the flavor on both of these squash is very nutty and very delicious of the cuts data romanesque. Oh, our big plants, and they don't put out hundreds of squash. But they put them out regularly and the grow quite quickly. So good producing squash. Now, if you've ever grown summer squash. You might have a couple of questions number one people sometimes feel like they're getting all mayo flowers on their squash plants, you might have had this experience. And this shows very clearly how you can tell the difference between a male, flower and female flower. This is a male flower. You see that long skinny stem? No sign of squash developing their known sign of squash there. Right. Those are going to be male flowers. This one is a female and. You can see the squashes already started. This is just a barely fertilized flower there with the Costa romanesque, oh, you can pick those squash. And they usually have still a nice fresh yellow flower right on the end there. So they're very beautiful, even as you bring them into the kitchen. Squash plants routinely, grow male flowers. I and so if you see the very first flowers on your squash plant for a week, sometimes even two weeks are only males do not despair that's a frequent pattern with summer squash. Okay, later, the female flowers are formed pollination on these plants always occurs in the morning. The male flowers are the most fertile in the morning. And so you want to be sure that you are not having those plants hit say with an automatic sprinkler system in the morning, for example, those would prevent the flowers from being pollinated by the bees many people when they plant summer squash. They end up with a lot of summer squash right now, I'm not a person who happens to like zucchini bread. And I really don't like all of the, you know, very various ways people use Keeney, but how? I use up a lot of summer squash. And preserve a lot of summer. Squash. Is just like this. I slice it thin. I put it on a baking parchment. I put it in the oven. No oil, right. Just plain, and I roasted at three hundred fifty degrees until it looks like this now at this point, you can dress it with a little balsamic vinegar and basil and serve it as a salad, but more importantly, you can take this roasted garlic put it in a freezer bag put it in your freezer, and then you can use it. The rest of the winter for whatever you are cooking pasta sauce lasagna. Whatever you are preparing this bait squash with no oil is ready to go and highly highly delicious in flavor. Our next section is insider information, and some of you already know, we're focusing on deer and rabbit resistant, plants and products and strategies today, we're going to show you a couple of our favorite plants that we recommend if you have a large deer and rabbit population. But remember if a rabbit or a deer is starving. They will eat anything as I said to see a last night if I were starving. I would eat a brussel sprout. Not in any other circumstance what I ate brussel sprout. But I would. And so I understand why a deer a desperate deer would would eat something. They didn't really like very much, and if you've struggled with rabbit and deer, you know, that you know, you will see these lists of plants that deer and rabbits don't eat and you'll think to yourself. Well, that's crazy Deary that in my yard. Right. So there are occasions when these animals develop a taste for something or one particular animal with develop a taste for something. Even though it is listed on those lists of deer proof plants because remember the deer can't read. Yeah. They they don't they don't know that they didn't get the memo. That's right. Well, these are plants that not only deer avoid but also have other benefits as well. Other virtues. The first one is a recommendation that I have and it's a lot of different originals. You may hear these called Seahawks. And if. You've ever run into one of them on your own. You could probably guess why the deer don't like it. Anyone? They are very spiky and sharp and prickly and hurt much more than you would expect them to hurt their quite rigid. But they are also quite beautiful the shape of the flower, the color the detail the texture, and they make great dried flowers if you cut these and dry them, they maintain a lot of their color. So this is something that you can use in a fresh cut arrangement or you can dry it and use it in a dried arrangement or in a wreath and in your garden. It is highly unlikely that the deer will bother this and these are different species. Rindge miss Willmott's ghost arrange alpine them. And this is a orgin big blue. But you can see the similarities in all of them. They all have spiky foliage, very spiky flowers and the flowers are usually bluish to bluish grey. They are so spiky that if you have this in your garden weed in the wintertime when it's not there in hurts. It really hurts painful. Splint painful. Well, this is one of my favorite plants. This is astro- catis. It's been renamed by the botanist, your REBA divert. Kata I still call it an Aster, white wood Aster is the common name. That'll always get you there. I like to say that this plant does everything except wash windows. It is a one of the best plants for dry shade. Okay. It's one of the best plants for dry slopes that are part shade or shade. And why I like it is that it is we'd smothering I love we'd smothering plants because everywhere, I have them growing. I don't have to weed. I don't have too much because these plants grow thickly enough that the weeds don't stand a chance Astor bear catis blooms in the fall late August September with these white flowers. It is a great butterfly support plant as the nectar source for butterflies, particularly in the fall when butterflies are migrating. So it has that as a benefit as well. It's a native to the United States box glove. Did you tell us I love this plant for two reasons? One it's beautiful and to it's poisonous. So this is one we say there's no plant that the deer or the rabbits are never going to eat. But this is about as safe as you're going to get digital is the source of a drug that treats heart failure. We're not going to recommend that you make your own medicine out of it. We're just going to recommend that you plant in your garden. Now there are both perennial and by any thoughts gloves. This is a biennial thoughts glove, and what is more gorgeous than that. I mean that is just lush and spectacular. And even though it's biennial if it's happy it's going to set seed, which will fall in that same general area. So you should have plants comeback in that area year after year. Even if it's not the exact same plant for those of you who don't know about the biennial life cycle. It means that the first year that plant is going to put out vegetative growth only, it'll be putting out its root system and its basil. Rosette of foliage. And then in the second year, it'll put up a bloom stock and you'll get these wonderful flowers. This is a perennial digitalised. Did you tell grandiflora which I think is also lovely. It's slightly smaller and some people might think slightly excuse me, slightly more demure. But I think that color is absolutely gorgeous is beautiful and the last the previous slide with all those purple FOX for the purple shutters. Those were all self sown in my garden, I did not plant those, you know, they also have see to a plant that is so eager. That's right. It was a good good year for FOX glow Hella bars. You'll see a lot of Hella bars in the gardens upstairs in the displays with good reason. They bloom now how many flowers bloom in the wintertime, right? And if you have the Christmas rose it blooms December and January and February if you have the Lenten rose, they bloom Feb. Beurey March April so you can have a long season of flowering the deer don't like them. They come in many colors, most of them are evergreen. So they're they're in the garden all winter and the foliage is attractive in the summer as well. So what's not to love nothing? He's beautiful. Okay. Bearded iris. I love bearded iris as much for the structure of their leaves. As I do for their flowers, the flowers are gorgeous. And they have a think fragrant, that's lovely. But you really have to get down in there. But I think even when they finished blooming that rigid fan of foliage, and in this case, it's very gated iris, which makes it doubly beautiful. But even if it were just plain grey green foliage, it's sharp. It's pointy it's structural. It gives you something really nice to look at in the garden, even when the plant isn't in bloom, and for some reason, the deer don't like it. You know? Often we say that deer prefer a bland diet. So if it's something that's very strong scent. They may not nibble it if it's something that's got toxins in it. They may not Nivola if it's a furry leaf they may not nibble. It none of those apply to the iris and yet where I garden in Pennsylvania, which is got an enormous deer population. They have never touched my bearded iris. I don't know why. But I am very glad I think it's because the deer are as bored by this plant as I am. I don't know how can you be bored with that plant seriously? This is can this marriage be saved plant between my husband and myself, not between Alan and myself her husband's on my side. It's been loved Cyrus. They bloom for ten minutes. I can't be bothered. She doesn't have to be bothered. I'll plan enough for both of us another. We'd smothering plant I almost can't do a garden consultation without recommending geranium macro rise them drought tolerant in part shade. And as any of you who have dry shade. No, it's hard to find plants dwell and dry shade, probably not for the deepest of shade. Although the only thing that happens to this plant in deep shade. Is it doesn't flower as much to my mind? It's not the flower that I'm going for here. Although it's pretty enough. What I'm going for with geranium? Macro rise is this foliage because again, it grows so thickly the weeds don't stand a chance it has a Minty fragrance. So dear don't like it rabbits, don't like it. And it makes great socks and shoes for your shrubs. You're taller Perennials. Wondering where she was going with the socks and shoes. Figure that out. Okay. Monkshood also known as wolf Bain. This one is really poisonous. I mean like you could kill somebody with this plan. If you wanted to not that I would suggest that the bottom right photo shows what they thought looked like the hood that a monk would wear in a monastery wolf bane, the other common. Name it got because it was literally used to poison wolves. This is a plant that blooms in September or October. When there's not a lot going on in the garden, and this vibrant, blue color is absolutely one of my favorites. And I really have never had a deer munch. My one of my co workers at the garden center likes to say acronym. Don't bite them. Well, time another we'd smother and this one for dry sunny areas. So if you've got a dry sunny slope, for example, that you want to get covered. This is a great plant it grows pretty quickly, I planted several new woolly time in another location in my garden recently last spring, and I started with plants from four inch pots that were this big. And just the other day. I noticed that each one of those plants had grown over twice the size in one season. So it can cover ground fairly quickly the wintertime, this foliage is a pale purple, lavender color. Nice. And one of my mottos is you can never go wrong with purple so low foliage, and we'd smothering and very drought taller and fragrant. Very fragrant. Yes, absolutely wild ginger. The wild ginger native to this part of the country is sarum cow. Dada and the eastern part of the United States. It's Serem candidates. This is a plant that most people think, oh, it's not that interesting. It's a plain green leaf. But to me that is not true. This plant is super interesting. First of all it is low growing heart-shaped a wonderful backdrop for bright flowers. It's it's a demure plant. It doesn't scream for attention. But it does have do you have a pointer on yours? I do. Okay. Let me just. It does have these really cool flowers up. Let's go back. I don't know if you've ever seen one of these flowers in real life. Does anybody here grow sarum? If you haven't seen the flowers yet. In early to mid spring, pull aside the leaves and look at the base of the plant because this flower grows at ground level. It's some people say it looks like meat and that attracts pollinators that way. It's thought that it's pollinated either by ants or by Beatles. Now, one of the reasons I especially love this plant is that it's so delicious, the stolen of this plant. The underground pieces that connect the plants from one clump to the other are wonderful ginger substitute. The flavor is spicy and warm like tropical ginger, but also a little darker, and I think even more delicious, you can use it in ginger snaps all sorts of things make your own ginger ale from it. It's great. Illinois. We have well we have a question here. How can I tell which succulents are for inside and which are outside? Oh, well, the first thing you need to know is what USDA hardiness zone, you're growing in. But if you if you find out what zone your plant is hardy to that will give you an indication of whether it's an indoor plant for you or an outdoor plant for you. And for me in the garden center. A lot of succulents aren't always labeled or one way that I can tell whether succulent is hardy or not is is it sold by our perennial vendors and comes in as a perennial. We put it outside. Or is it sold by our house plant vendors, and it comes in. And we have it in the greenhouse, right? So if you see that succulent in the greenhouse there's probably a reason, particularly if it's in there during the wintertime, there's a reason that it's there I want I want to answer this one because it's a really good question. How do you get rid of mushrooms in the garden? A lot of people have this mushrooms in. The garden and mushrooms in house plants, and this is a question of soil moisture is probably the thing you're going to need to address most immediately. First of all, I would reach down in there with your fingers and go underneath the mushroom and lift that out because even though mushrooms don't have roots. They do have my Caelian which can spread throughout the soil, and then you're going to need to back off your watering a little bit. So this is planted. If you're mushrooms are growing where you are irradiating heavily. You're gonna have a hard time getting rid of it. But if you can dial back the water a little bit that's going to be your best bet. Thank you all so much for much for coming.

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Still Buffering: How to Roommates (Part 2)

Still Buffering

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Still Buffering: How to Roommates (Part 2)

"Uh-huh. Hello. And welcome to still buffering a sister. Guided teams through the ages. I am Riley Smirl. I'm Sydney Maccarone. And I'm Taylor Spro sisters. I have a question. What? Do you do you happen to know why children like to get naked and run around your house, naked in the summer? Do you know an answer to that, why they have such an affinity for nudity? Is that all children or is that just year? Kiddos. Well, there's another there's a follow up question that I don't have an answer to. I this morning. I had them sitting there eating breakfast with me. We were all settled eating breakfast. They were in matching nightgowns, which makes me look like, I'm so on top of things it's so rare that things like that happen. And I watch is Cooper proceeds to strip off her nightgown, and then get halfway out of it and stuck and then start yelling tuck tuck. 'cause she's now stuck in her nightgown loved that so much. So I have to get her out of her nightgown. And then, of course, Charlie looks over and goes, hey, why does she to be Daiki armed and strips off, her nightgown? And I was like why? Why are we? Why is breakfast more enjoyable? Now that we're nude. Well, I haven't tried it personally. Are you saying that you wouldn't enjoy life a little bit more? If you could just take your clothes off whatever he wanted. No, I don't. I personally like pants. We have talked about this before. And I feel like before you've been very anti pants. No, I love pants. I know what you're referring to is the fact that I don't like to sleep in underwear. Oh, that's true. Yes. But I still I still sleep in pants during the summer. I only business pants. I create a schedule for myself to where I cannot require pants after ten pm, and before noon. Have you ever managed to swing schedule like that? I sleep in pants sometimes shoes. I, I don't ever want to be. It. Naked. Anyway, there's a freedom that comes with the feeling of walking through the house just wearing like a big t shirt, or sweatshirt and your underwear. Now, there isn't we'll maybe chilling watching a movie can some pizza? No. Yeah. No, no pants. I'm anti pants. I get it not really naked, but anti pants, I don't even like, like I have to get the kind of underwear. That's basically like little pants like. I don't have a Keeney or anything. I want the pants at have full-on like leggies to them, because then it's just like I've got my outside pants and my inside pants. I feel safe. I always hate the way that they're they're so commonly referred to as boy shorts. It's like why we gotta get gender up on this. I can't they just be small pants underpants. Fant underpants? I dunno just just shorts bed shorts inner shorts it whatever they are. I like the most and inner shorts shorts. My inner short layer, please. Yes. No. I mean they did eventually insist on full nudity. We I was building a little tent in our dining room, and I was going to have a little pretend campout with them, because it was gonna be rainy today. And I had like a little campfire fakes Moore's. And I had this whole, I was mommy and so hard. And they insisted on playing naked. And so, like, now I'm stuck in this tent with my two naked children, having a campout. I'm like, why, why am I deal person over the age of six that uses the word naked instead of making? Yes, I say Nike a lot now 'cause I say naked almost every time I could use the word dated for breeze it. I don't I don't know. I get it in the context of you have kids, so you use it, but outside of that NICKY. This is kinda creepy kind of like a it's like a cute little pet name for being naked. And that's yeah. Little like it's like a baby name for nudity that will like that. My roommates have all made fun of me because there have been times where they've like knocked on the bathroom door like knocked on the bedroom door seeing him in there. And I'm like, no wait. I make you hold on. Speaking of roommates. Hey, yeah, I think that one of our one of our listeners actually it's buyer this topic right that we have talked about roommates before. But that was prior to Riley really fully experiencing. I think I'd lived with roommates for maybe like a month, maybe or something two months. And, and now you've had the full roommate experience. Yes. A whole year which by the way that probably greatly limits, your ability to wonder around naked, if you do have roommates. Oh, yeah. Yeah, yeah. But like it should probably should, but we're showing like should it should without without appropriate. Verbal agreement it should, but I think I think we're pretty chill on, like, like underwear walking to and from the bathroom, you know what I mean? Like I'm in my room. It's late. But like I need go peace, like I get out of bed, wearing sweat shirt, and underwear. That's weird conversation as long as since we started talking about nudity. We'll just this will be our first dive right in with roommates and nudity. That, that's a tough conversation for me because I was never one with my roommates, that I felt comfortable wondering around and underwear just me personally, but I didn't if they wanted to like I wasn't I like whatever you wanna do. It doesn't bother me. I'm not offended by it. But, like how do you say that? Yeah. Like you can get naked as much as you want. I won't. I won't you. But you can't there's no way to say that without sounding weird's. It's weird for me. Because growing up doing theater. I feel like you will probably understand, like changing in front of other people has never felt weird to me, like not necessarily gave naked changing in front of other people, but like changing clothes, and having on the broad and underwear just change. You my shirt or my pants in front of other people has never been something that has crossed. My mind is like, oh, this is weird. Like, there are definitely times where like people they were just like my other roommates were in my room with me. And I was about to change to do something. So I just like strip off my pants. Another pair of pants while they're in there and didn't even think twice about doing it. I didn't ask them like I should like I it cross after probably should've asked if this made you comfortable. But it just it like I think this is probably a spectrum of opinions, really guess is that you're on that end of the spectrum, I am somewhere in the middle in that, like, yes, I have been in show choir. I've been theater. I believe there are times where like this is a costume change. This just the business. This is the task at hand. Let's just get changed Taylor. I would guess you're on the other end of the spectrum. I think it's, it's a good thing to establish like, what are your expectations, as far as how much clothing, you think is appropriate to wear? And I'll tell you spoiler alert. It's all of it, please. We're all the close around me. But like I get like I also understand that maybe I'm a little bit more weird about those things. And some people still like when I have roommates that, like, you know, like wonder around and like their underwear, like that's okay. I can't wheel it back now because maybe it's me that's weird that I'm not comfortable with this. I did have a roommate that just would always I guess she just was always naked in a room. 'cause in less, she was like dressed and ready to go out. She was in tau naked other than tau. Like a good ten hours out every day at I thought, men, she showers, a lot, and then I realized, like, no, that's just what she uses to walk around the house, when she's not in close. He just puts a towel on and just show. She needed one of those towel brawls. Have you seen those they're like a slang you're around your neck and it holds and that it's like to yes, yes, I've seen this? Yeah. I really towel sling bra thing. That'd be very I mean useful for her. Been more covered by towels, I guess that's fine. What is the difference, all's and clothing? It's arguable. It was a lot of towel. But here's the benefit there is like now. You know the perfect birthday Christmas Hotta Easter. I don't know what Halloween. Oriole day, Arbor day present whatever holidays next. You just give her a really big towel. We're robe. Fine. You, you know, like a nice like the robe. That's fine. That's that's, that's basically like address with the towel. It's not just the lack of fabric. It's also the lack of dependable support. Because when you're ready to tell the only thing that's keeping you the, the thin line between you and being naked, is your own support of that tau, like, yeah, that I just like you know, like we should have regular conversations with me. And I'm just saying, like please hold onto your chest. Please keep us true X hail to vigorously, shrink the diameter of your ribcage. And there it goes. It's like I can't I don't like not a conversation you should have. I guess, hey, could you not wonder on the house clothed, with nothing? But a piece, basically, like I have walked before from the bathroom to my room wearing a towel like ice got out the shower pod towel walked back to my bedroom to change. But that's like the extent of it. Like I feel like that's acceptable towel time, right? Like the link that takes takes forget from the bathroom to your bedroom. I don't think there has to be like anything. That is a universal acceptable limit. I think really just what everybody agrees on 'cause I mean, I'll be honest, like I said, even though I, personally, I just prefer. Where I just it's, it's my it's my own hangups. It has nothing to do with anyone else. But I don't like to walk around naked for the most part. It's just not my thing, it doesn't bother me when other people do, especially like after being a doctor and going to med school. And like the human body is the human body. You've seen all kinds of butts. Yeah. Buts, don't bother me. Eat my kids run around naked doesn't bother me. It's just like why do you always? I don't understand the, the desire to constantly be, but, but like it doesn't so, like, if I had a roommate who said, I love to just wear towel day, or I like to walk around topless all day, regardless of gender. Okay. I mean like that I would not be bothered by that, personally, I would not necessarily join them, but it would not bother me. So I think that the key is like there is no acceptable except what everyone agrees is acceptable. I think there is some conversations and we kinda talked about this little, but that. You don't know you have to have until the situation arises in you're like this is something we need to discuss the first time you see your roommate walking around just a towel for more than like acceptable bathroom to bedroom towel time. It's like, okay, I guess this is a conversation. We need to have like I am uncomfortable with this. And if any of my roommates have came to me and said, I'm uncomfortable with you, like out know being in your underwear, or like changing in front of us. But like, oh, okay, cool. I will never do it again. But I guess is just something I never thought to ask, because it's like I know you know what you're comfortable with if you don't live with other people, I didn't grow up with other people. And usually mean if you grew up living with other people, it's usually your family, and your usually more comfortable around family than you are people, you don't know. So that's again. And like that's it's equally fine that she wanted to walk around a towel as it is equally find that kind of made me a little uncomfortable. It's just that in, maybe we're not the most compatible. Apartment mates. You know, maybe that's when you when you when you get thrown into situations like college, you kind of have to have those conversations and meet in the middle when you're older, and you kind of choose who you live with that. It's a bit more important to know up front because you have the ability to choose it is it is hard, though. Because you're right. I think anything can be on the table as long as you discuss it, as long as you have a conversation and everybody agrees as to what, what they think is fine. What isn't fine? What's like okay. I'll be out of town this weekend, so you can do the weird thing that I don't particularly care for that you wanna do like I mean, like, whatever it is, as long as you all agree to it at the front end is fine. But you're right how, and especially when you first meet somebody, one, you can't predict what you're going to confront in to, you don't want the very first time you're meeting a new roommate trying to like, let's get along with make a good impression. Let's be buds. You don't the next word out of your mouth to be okay. I'm uncomfortable with the following. Here's a giant list of things. I don't want you to do because then that gives a negative impression and you don't want them to this like you, so it's hard. It's hard to like proactively. I think I mentioned on the previous episode. I, I got very frustrated with one of my roommates for like 'cause it was just the two of us in a dorm, I wanna have my boyfriend over literally every weekend. And so I expect you to go stay at your parents house because I don't want you here, and it never crossed my mind on the front end to say, hey, by the way, even though I do live in town. My parents do live in town. I don't want to stay home every weekend. It was like a given like while I want my boyfriend to stay here. So you need to leave, and I it never would have occurred to me, and I probably would've shied away from Saint it initially because I wanted her to like me, so then we ended up in conflict because yeah, I wasn't comfortable, but I had never said it. Yeah. I think that's also a weird like skill set that you have to develop when you start living with other people is learning how to like nicely and easily. Tell someone something they're doing is making uncomfortable. Like that's a really weird thing to have to do to go to someone to be like, hey, you thought this thing you're doing was totally cool. And it might be totally cool with you. But we live together we have shared space and it makes me uncomfortable. That's like a hard thing to have to tell somewhat and usually in my experience. They're going to be like cool. Totally understand won't do it again. And then it's not a problem. But. No one likes conflict, I hate confrontation and conflict. I would never wanted say anything upsets anyone or making dot like me. I want everyone to like me and it's hard when it starts to the line between. It's one thing to have different expectations and different comfort levels, and another thing to be like, maybe I shouldn't have to tell you not to do this. Like, yeah. It's disrespect from the from the beginning, like I had a roommate that was perfectly fine with me having a cat. Let us move together knowing I had a cat, and then we'll kind of us. The cat is like well I have a slight hat. So I don't have to clean any surface ever that the cat touches so you can keep the cat in your little box bedroom. Completely isolated or agree to clean the whole house forever. And I said, hey, I guess the house forever. And I did. Yeah. We're years. See. And that's the kind of area where like if you stab the rules of engagement. I mean if you had known on the front end, I have a cat allergy. Well, maybe we're not the best roommates then because I love my cat. My cat allergy. Yeah. Yeah. That's, that's the kind of thing you have to confront and that the hard part about it is that, especially when you're younger Riley, like when you're in college, and when everybody's still in various stages maturation. But it I don't know that even as an adult, it's easy for all of us all the time to have a conversation in which you look at somebody and say this thing you're doing. I'm not saying it's a bad thing. I'm not saying there's something wrong with you. Yeah. This is not passing judgment on you as a human or the act, it's just not something I'm comfortable with personally. And so I would rather it not occur in my living space, having that level of adult conversation is extremely difficult. Because both the person asking for, you know. This understanding, and the person who is receiving this kind of critique. But maybe information they don't wanna hear both have to be mature enough to see it as I'm not saying you're bad and I'm good. I'm just saying this is not compatible with me living a happy life, and so I'm asking you politely. Please don't do it. That that's such a higher level of maturity, that's a really hard conversation emotional, if you're young. If you're just fed up if you're whatever you know. I mean that's, that's tough. Yeah. I actually did have to have a hard roommate conversation once this whole year, which I think is pretty good. You know, a whole year of living seven six other people seven people in one tiered space. Yeah. One conversation. It was one of those conversations were like again. It's a it's a thing. You don't think about having to say before you start living with someone because it's very specific situation. But we all share a shower and I had a roommate who. Who wanted to use the shower with her boyfriend at the same time, which as a as a thing, I don't have a problem with, you know, like if people want to do that, cool, even if you wanna do it in a shower that I also musing, whatever I don't really care, but it happened a lot. When I and my other remains where in the shared common area. A few steps away. Right. At like a reasonable time not like super late in the night, either, just like we're all sitting there eating dinner together seven o'clock in the evening and the bathroom isn't exactly the bathroom is not exactly soundproof and it's just like a situation that makes everyone kind of uncomfortable involved. Right. Which, you know, that's a tough thing to discuss. Because like. It's not you don't you're not passing judgment on the act or any of that, it's just simply I would prefer not to listen when you have sex. Yes. Like this is just my personal preference is I do not enjoy hearing other people do it. Yes. May now there may be groups of roommates out there who are like your girl go for it. Get it on. And that's, that's fine. I've actually the group of roommates in this particular situation. So I went to my other remains before I said anything else I was like, hey, does this make you comfortable because of all of your fine with it. And I'm the only one that's kind of uncomfortable. I won't say anything because like there are a lot of other people here. I can deal with it. It's only happen if you times like is whatever. But we all agreed. It made all of us kind of uncomfortable. So I was like, okay, you know what? I'll, I'll do the thing that no one wants to do 'cause I was one of the brought it up because no one else would have brought it up if I would've brought it up. And I had to say, like, hey, this thing you're doing totally fine. If like where not sitting right out there like a lot of us go home for the weekends because most of the people by school live close by anyways. So we just go home, a lot on the weekends I go home, a lot on the weekends like if I'm not there. I'm not gonna tell them what they can do in space. I'm not in currently unless they're like, you know mess with my stuff shirl mess with my stuff. But I know I said like this is thing as a principal. I'm fine with but not when I'm this close. Yeah. And they were just like, okay I understand it didn't happen again. And I was at. Yeah. Which is an impressively mature conversation to be able to have. Yeah. Especially about something as sensitive, as you know, sexual intimacy. Right. And that kind of thing in, in college, you know. Yeah, that's that's impressive. As as we in my thirties, I've had roommates that aren't respectful or a get so defensive about anything along those lines is like, you know, when you share a small space, I cert-, let's the compromise thing, like, yes, I understand, you were sexually active judgement. You're going to have sex that's fine. At when it's like, I don't know at normal sex hours. Okay. But what it's like it's two PM. And like my friends are coming over to like have lunch and it's theirs. We all know how loud, the apartment is like, oh, no. Yeah. Yeah. Would it's shit when I'm worried about it showing up in the background of the podcast that we record. It's like. Oh, no. Yeah. And like I obviously very primitive of my roommate for being so, cool and not being like no do I want. And I think that's just good for forever involved. You know, it's because there's a way to have a sex positive conversation about, like, what are my, what am I comfortable with what are you comfortable with what are boundaries, and where, where would I consider it crossing the line? Like, there's a way to have that conversation and not be shaming person or judging person it's at because sometimes what you get to at the end of the conversation is maybe we're just not a good match because this is really stuff that you're comfortable with. And you are gonna wanna do on a regular basis loudly and your life, and this is really stuff that I'm not. And you have to have a place, your home wherever you live has to be place where you can go to and feel safe and comfortable and relaxed and. Centered. And if your home is not that place. I mean that's not good for your mental health. So sometimes you get to a point Rigo. You know what I still care about you, or I still like you or maybe you don't maybe like I respect you as a human, but we are not a good match. Yeah. Just like a relationship. No, it's true. It's easily break-up compromise. And there has to be respect. And when those things aren't there it's just it's your home, and it's like there's not a safe place to go home to I mean. Yeah. Silla lines of sex. I like I had a roommate that let one of their hookups wonder out of her room. I wake up in bed, and there's just a naked man in my room, a stranger. Yeah. And he was drunk and he was lost trying to find the bathroom and like it was it was horrified. I eventually like she didn't get out of bed to do anything about it. I had actually heard this man back to her room after I realized, oh, it's just a drunk guy. It's maybe not someone trying to attack me in the night. And when I asked very nicely the next day, like, hey that's really upsetting that can't happen again. It's like it was treated like, oh, why aren't you cool? I don't think anyone will be cool with that. No. I think, and that there is a difference between like this is fine with me. It's just something that you don't prefer. And that's that's just a bad thing. Right. That's I can't, I don't know. Anybody who would wake up with a naked stranger in their room and be like this is fine alert. You look after bro. Let me lead you. Yeah. No, that's, that's that would be a very scary situation for anybody. And. Yeah. You don't you don't still sleep with that knife, under your pillow d could have gone? I don't know. But what if you have? Ended that. I went, I'm mmediately went and asked her like as the gentleman was using the bathroom. I said this, what the what the heck who is that, as you just looked at me and said, he's a firefighter and went back to sleep. Oh, yeah. Well, I mean we sell right? Our nation's heroes are firefighter. 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So we've established that it's important to set up boundaries with your roommates about well, we've talked a lot about sex. Yeah. And Nikki and nudity. Yeah. And those are important things you know, I, I know I talked in our first roommates up soda. I talked a lot about my college like my friends who are my roommates, and then people who I just randomly got assigned to be remiss with in the dorm, but these things extend into when you move in, like with somebody in a romantic relationship. If you do, I know injustice, I for started living together, it was wild to me that he insisted on, like the bed has to be made everyday. This was not a priority to may Dand like it bothered him if we didn't, and since it mattered to him, it should matter like, in his mind, it should be shared task and this I could not fathom. You're gonna get in it again. Why make it sadly who cares? He always say it sets the tone for the day. What does that even mean? It just takes time. I don't have in the morning, I know. And I'm just going to get back in it and mess it up against. Why would I make my bed? So these are things like I didn't value, but he did. And my lack of value. Read as like you don't care about me, 'cause you don't care about what I care about. And then it was a whole thing. But, like they're all kinds of conversations like that on a grander scale with a roommate that, like I don't care. I have a higher threshold for mess. You know it was just in the one that taught you don't keep pizza in the oven. Yes. That is valuable lesson. Justed taught me fresh have. We said, this is the thing we've said, this is our family does. Right. Yeah. We had to have they still do. Yeah. Like, all of they've started putting the fridge more and more. I notice that dad just takes giant ziplock, bag and puts all the pizza. Yeah. It was always a fun adventure when you'd preheat the oven and you smell pizza suddenly. Surprise smell pizza and cardboard. Yeah. That, but that's I mean, that's the hard thing is like what you're really getting into what, what you can really start completing are like things value. And just because you've Al you them doesn't mean somebody else values them. But sometimes that can read, as you know as like disrespect, but it's just a it's just a difference Yan, especially with cleaning. I feel like either entering into the situation on the same page, as far as you're, you're messing is like tolerable, tolerable nece or or meeting somewhere in the middle. If you're if you're very different is so important. I will say something I discovered over the course of this year, so we have a large common area. And then Oliver individual bedrooms, the common area in the hallway between the bedroom, and everything is all carpet and our bedrooms, are tile, but. About a few months into the semester. One of my roommates was like, hey, I'm a vacuum. Everything out there this time. Next time someone else can do it. We can trade off. And I was like you're gonna Faqih. Like it never it never occurred to me like looking at the car bears. Like it doesn't look that dirty, but I guess I've been living on it for five months now, I guess it probably is like we lift up the couch for the first time. Oh boy, it was messy. So like, that's that's you know, or something like. Taking the time to actually cleaned the entire bathroom, like clean out, the sinks, like the mirror. The shower toilet, those kinds of things when I was the only one living at home with mom and dad. It was just like I stayed my bedroom. So everything else that happened, the entire rest of the house was just like mom and dad. So as your bedroom just like nasty better. That's what I'm saying. Like I didn't I didn't like do these things that's fine. Okay bathroom is fine. Someone vacuumed your carpet. Yeah. But, like I knew I knew was a thing dad did for the entire house vary. Like not frequently. So, like, yeah. But like you understand that he did it for the entire house. I'm here in a very small dorm, like it's, but it wasn't like it wasn't like magic fairies that follow you around and stuff like it's that's not there with you. Somebody had to do it. Yeah. I don't know. My carpet was all said, never let dirty not just because okay keep it the human body sheds skin cells constantly there is there is dust settling from the air. There's the dirt you're tracking don't even think about what you're tracking in on the bottom of your shoes. Don't even think about I take shoes off. Oh, do all of your roommates. It all the time take off all their shoes. As soon as you okay? Do all the time. The carpet is not clean if you're not vacuuming. Well now vacuum. I didn't realize that this was kind of a distinctly American thing that we don't take our shoes off sometimes ever, like we put them on the couch. We've Walker houses in them like that's apparently grosses out like. Two thirds of the rest of the world. I've rediscovered living at home again that Bob and I do the same thing kind of just like take our shoes off wherever I sit down whenever we come home for something. And then if you walk out in our kitchen, and living, your area after about a week of no one cleaning, just like shoo shoo, shoo shoes, shoes everywhere. I you know, it's funny, I actually have become that's something that I don't know why it started to bother me. But now if especially you know what I think that it actually I can I can pinpoint what did it, it was, when we had children, because all the sudden here is this little person that I am so like intent on, like I have to protect and keep healthy. And in the first time they start like crawling and creeping, you're putting them face down on the followers filthy carpet. And it occurred to me, like all they pick up everything and put it in their mouth there. Little hands and faces are pressed right up against this carpet, and that was when one we started cleaning, a lot more and to if I see somebody with. Their shoes on like standing in, especially in the girl's rooms. I it's hard for me to not be rude and be like, please leave him immediately. Take your shoes on my shoes. Currently in your house. It's the girl's rooms are really like if anybody 'cause the, the kids are all over the floor in there, and if I see somebody walk into Charlie with their shoes ought, it's always everything I could do not to be like just take a tick about all carried away. I'll take it back to the front hall. Just take them. I'm always, so I get I always very impressed with households that managing no shoe policy. Like. I don't know. I don't ever see myself being there. But I respect it, I get it. It does make sense. I live in New York I walk around the streets of New York, and then I come home, and I lay in my bed with my shoes on. Taylor. No every night and cutting years of my life. When I do it take your shoes off shoes. All good for your feet too. You're feeding break. Get your shoes. But like, you know, varies his own poop and then just like chills on my head like I just, I don't know. I think I have a very strong immune system. Now, I, I always think it is. Funny, though, if you do have a, how of, like, if you do off into a house, and you're trying to assess like should I take my shoes off or not? And you ask as a homeowner like you're putting a position where someone has just asked. Do I need to take my shoes off if the answer is, yes, like I guess they've asked? So it's acceptable to be like, yeah. I'm sorry, if you don't mind, you know that kind of like apologetic. Yeah. You know, I don't wanna be an inconvenience, we don't mind. But if you say, like, may I wear men what message is that sending I worry about that. A lot more now like shoes. Right in here. We love filth. Please shoe friendly. I think. My baby leads the dirt off the floor later. She does try to do that actually I just yeah, I have gotten in the habit of. It's hard though. If, if do I know this is not the topic, but this is a challenging thing. 'cause what if you go into a house, he was soon they're shoe, free. You take them off. You walk in you're at a party in your socks. Everyone else's wearing their shoes then you're that person or worse. You didn't have socks on now. You're barefoot everyone else's in their shoes. Yeah. Nightmare. Medicare backup socks all the time. Everywhere you go. I'm the only one that does like you're gonna go bowling case, I have actually I have actually done that before where I've been like I know going to someone's house where everyone's going to be taking their shoes off. We're gonna be relaxing. I'm not wearing socks with these particular shoes. Better, just put paren- there. So I could just slide those long. So you and your roommates don't have a policy. Well, okay, we gotta shoe rack at the beginning of the year to put our door with the intention of like keep the shoes that you wear really frequently here, like take your shoes off when you come in or like I'd like to pairs of shoes. I pretty much. Above anything else. Like I would kept those there that worked for a little bit by the end of the year we through the Rockaway just was not. No. It was way no third away because nobody use it or was it like I'm having this much organization in our shoes? What it was a really crappy sherack kind of broken to no one was easy, and it was like one of those things that, like, none of us are using it in this space. None of us are going to take it home for the summer and use it a home for the summer. So it's gonna end up being thrown away somewhere because we're not gonna bring it back next year. So might as well suit now. So we third way on the subject of things you throw away. I missed a fide by the amount of roommates, I've had that, think that taking out the trash is to, like, two part act like you take the trash out of the trash can. And then you just leave it in a house for while. No. I mean I get it if you're like, oh, I took it out of the trash can, I'm gonna throw some more trash in it from, like other small cans. Maybe it's there for like an afternoon while you're cleaning. But when you wake up the next the trash is still there. Oh, like well, I took it out. You can take it down. Or I'll put it next door the next person that leaves can take it. It's like no since Sicher. Trash sitting there now that that's totally unacceptable. Yeah, I think motion. I think that is the one thing and, like, I think I got really lucky with whom I ended up with as roommates and terms of compatibility is people in his roommates in living together and stuff. But the one thing that we never had a problem with that we always agreed on that. Never was thing we had to discuss was, like we all had our little trash cans in our rooms that we all pretty much took care of like my roommate that actually shared room with we've just alternate, whoever took it out. Or like if I knew most of it was mine, I would just take it out. And then we had one that we shared in the common area, along with the recycling bin that we all share the common area. But when you take the recycling to go like separated into the different bins, and then go take the trash down, the hall tash room that is the one thing I never had a problem with, there was never a moment where the trash, which is like overflowing and no one would take it out. Like all of us got to a point where it was like, oh, this trash is just a disaster. Someone has to take it out, Thursday cling Globex. It's like you have to do the whole thing like taking the Ben out. And then separating it all wants to get their trashy is like. Walk down the hall and put in other big trash game like. One thing I've got very lucky. With is we have very good trash policies. I had a had a roommate that insisted that she didn't produce a lot of trash. So because it was like always just me taking the trash Mike, you can take trashman's. No, I take my own trash out of my room every day and out to the street. I don't ever use the trash can really well that seems highly unlikely. So, yeah, this is this is when you know, it's bad when you get into the passive aggressive stuff that you do to just be like, well reason it's gone out the window. So if I'm gonna go out of town, I'll empty the trash, and I won't put a trash bag in there and a high the trash bags so that you said, you don't use this trash. How did it work? There was just raw trash in the in the trash can that was online. Oh, really start doing things. It's like well, I bought the paper four times real time to hide the toilet the paper. And then they start using the paper towels. Well, that didn't go whether as I thought it was. Not the outcome. I know now I'm hiding toilet paper. Run out of. No, that's, that's what he learned that, like, when you have to live with somebody passive aggression. We'll get you not very far. It's just it's almost never worth that you, you'll win. So few battles that way you just actually have to have the confrontation like listen. I, I guess I one of those people that way, too hyper aware of people's opinions of me. So if, if I thought for a minute, any of that stuff, it happened OB, so mortified that I feel like I would try to correct that behavior. But it it's a bad situation where you have someone like me can't confront and is just like I'm going to just do all these little tiny passive aggressive things and someone else who's like, awesome doesn't. I don't have to deal with it. Then. Yeah. It's not like I said, how did the. Oh, I was just say how about how about food sharing. We haven't we haven't really tackled that who. Well, I'm in college, I found that are, are we have three many fridges in our room, and like we know who bought each of them, and brought each of them, but we've all kind of agreed. Like if you have something, you want to keep just, like put it where their space, like we don't really care, but we've never really had a problem with food sharing because none of us ever have food. She you're not we like food theft issue. No. Because we order food a lot like will order food together, and we'll all have like our leftovers like Wilshire like fridge space, or we'll go to a dining hall or go out to eat, I, there's never just food. I had one problem, where mom gave me a gigantic box of little snacks at some point near the beginning of the year, like gigantic huge tub little bags of chips and, like many rice, crispy treats, and stuff and enough food that probably could last me through an entire semester, and it was there for a week and half of that week, like half of my roommates were gone out of town, and I didn't eat any of it, and it was gone at the end of that week. And that means I know who must have eaten it, but they say they didn't eat it. So I hope box of food went missing once and I have never had a problem with food, going missing again. Because now I'm too scared to bring food because it just goes. I mean, I that's the only time I've ever had food in the dorm to. It's like steel, I just never have food. Tell you about problem. I've always been strictly like my food is mind. Your food is yours. Just because I've had those remains that wanna like let's see like shop together and cook together like that sounds nice perfect world that won't work out. Yeah. Well, you're right. Like I have I have done the shop together cook together thing, and that's when you get, and that's when he realized, like, man, you can grow up close to each other like be from very similar, cultural, geographical background. And then you start discussing like, well what I would typically eat is. And it's like who are you like why? What is just a world of difference? And you start trying to like compromise like, okay, I guess we can have spaghetti that night. But, like I don't really eat spaghetti. I mean, I don't hate spaghetti but I don't really eat spaghetti is like a meal but okay. And then you're in somebody else's, like, I'll make Meatloaf and you're like. And then I'm like, I'll make can't chicken was really. And they're like, who are you? And so I mean like it all falls apart. I tried valiantly to be like, well, all cook together, and we just could never compromise. The only thing we ever liked case, a d is. So the only thing we would all make cheesecake cheese at a tortilla who, but like that was the only thing we could all eat every other night. It was like, no I'm that's gross though. Thank you. Thank you. But no, I guess that's a perk of living in a place with no kitchen. That's true. Yeah. We don't cook. 'cause we can't. That's true. Yeah, I, I like the move or they cook for you. You didn't ask them to you come home. Like I made dinner surprise you clean up the mess. It's like wait a second. This is on integrated any of this. Especially if it was, like I don't really casseroles or not, my not really going to eat that Castro. Yeah. That was the thing I finally just had to say, I'm not really I, I am not going to say I wasn't subjected to casseroles throughout my youth. I'm just gonna say casseroles or not my thing at my adult life. And now that I am of legal voting age. I'm not going to eat casserole. Cast. It says, no offense. If you liked casseroles, you eat those casseroles that is wonderful more for you, because I will not eat. Freeze them. You know, sometimes I feel bad, when, I know I cooked a lot of something I'm like, I'm gonna freeze and it for weeks, and like have everybody like, do I have to offer it. What if I don't like it's like I do you want some of this open, you'll say no, it's weird vegan food. So all in all we would say it was a good roommate experience for you. Yeah, Riley, I signed up to live with all the same people again for another year. So that's a ringing endorsement. Yep. Good for you. Except we have a new surprise remain joining our room next year. So it's may. Scumbag to school. We didn't know what to do with the podcast because I'm about to not be teenager anymore. So said they said, all right. I'm going back to call these going back to college been kissed this we're good. Documenting Sydney experiencing college, and a low teen the eyes of a teen of the teens. I'm going to be so believable. They're all gonna this is gonna work. Trust me. Stay tuned. I know all about electronic devices. Hell get going. Great stuff for. Hi everyone. Do you want to borrow my GameBoy? I have a GameBoy. I have pizza base products. Thank you, sisters. This has been this has been fine. And hopefully you're remained experiences continue to be better than all the ones Taylor. Not keep sharing. But, you know, the thing is eventually something's gonna go wrong. It has to know. Sorry. I just, you know. Yeah, we'll see just. Yeah. What are those goals, someday? You wanna live by yourself, maybe or with the family or something. Yeah. Whatever I don't know. I don't know if it's a state of. I, I think remains forever sustainable. 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THE POWER TO BREAK FREE with Catt Sadler

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THE POWER TO BREAK FREE with Catt Sadler

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Can you just go on there and tweet using that hashtag smile says on with your receipt? It means so much that you guys. Love the good life. And you love what we're putting out there. But you know, these sponsors really make it possible for us to continue doing the show every week. So when you take the time to go on screen shot your receipts and to tweet it we look at that. And we see it, and it means so much to us. So whether you win or not you're a winner in our eyes at the. Scrubbing my teeth with coconut chuckled to phase. I mean, have you ever done it before the texture is amazing? It's really quite the experience. I want you guys to check it out and try it. So again, if you go to cope smile dot com slash design. Just go on there by the toothpaste get that fifteen percent off when you sign up for the subscription again. That's Copari K O P A R I smiles dot com forward slash Zahn. And don't forget to do that giveaway. All right. We've got Catt Sadler. And some really wacky. Good news coming up on the good life is about to get Goud. The. Yes. Is what the good live bail high fan. Wherever you're listening to our show today. We just want to say, hey, and we love you all when we say, we love you. We really mean it like I love them. And I love you, John. I love you. I'm just loving everybody a very loving moon, and I'm paying into it. You're like shocked. He's a perfect time to ask my question that just came to on my do you guys say anyone miss Steve easy free? Silent at the beginning of the good life thought we berry. Got a resounding yester-, Sean. What do you have to say? Do you want to give it a try? I mean. By this is totally impromptu. Sean, can we get a beat? We're gonna do it right now. Oh, gosh. What did you tell what's coming up on the show today? That's a good way to Verity know, what's coming up on the show. I'm just going to freecell for them. So that they can have. It's kind of like listening to great podcast and getting a little like after the teas as who'd be music in the middle of Sean run that track. Oh, yeah. We in this thing. Yeah. How lord? Yeah. I ain't gonna sing. I'm just wrapping about captains we just lost all our listeners admin tune into now, whatever you boys, the stays clever on a one to ten I'm twenty got plenty Mia says up the Bill neck funny. Oh, let the mic drop son. Shoot him with the gun. I'll real gun escort guns splashed in your face, man. I'm going through and I'm winning this race fade fade out, Sean paid the music. Yeah. Just fade the music out. That john. Sean is smiling miss that little moments in there. It was kinda sweet I'm not gonna lie. The hiatus you've taken from freestyle has been good for you. Because that actually flowed rather nicely. I definitely had some really really weak moments in there. But I also had some decent moments. I like this gun running the guy what is up good life fam-. If that in wake you up. I don't know. What will oh we're going to wake you guys up, by the way, y'all on the show today. We have Catt Sadler. Joining us. She's what a great song in the background for that. Right. Cats come in the studio cut the music. Oh my gosh. If you guys don't know catch. She really paved her own path is a strong woman in the entertainment industry. She's also a friend of Susan's, Suzanne and her just recently did an interview four cats podcast. It's coming out. It's called the naked. Yes. Coming out this month. It's going to be really good. You know, what I love about cats? She somebody who really has paved the way for so many women who first of all had dreams of being on e that was literally one of my dreams after graduating college, you know, watching her on television for so many years and seeing her do it so well that was so inspiring. But then as you all know, recently, she decided to walk away into follow another purpose for her life. And we're gonna talk about that with her on today's show, and it's a session aspiring interview. I was so inspired by her. In fact, I'm going to say one of my favorite interviews. We've ever done here on the good life while she really really knows how to talk. But also, she has a story. So it's kinda out a lot. Oh, gotta talk and she knows how to walk the catwalk catwalk clever. Today's episode of the good life know, why your news. Okay. Is that your news exit because that's different one. We're just you like. Trying to be like fun and have fun with my friends. But actually says you're onto something there bringing in with the good life with that voice. You just did right now bring bring us in with the good news of the week with that voice right there. We've got some. Tv I got to tell her tell her, you're. You go your. I think it's pretty good like Nickelodeon news coming bringing us in here. You know, what I think we need to cut the whole like that whole accent thing and just have great news music. Like, did you know people? Enjoy my. Have the good news coming in? And it's time. Has gone. All right. So we do have some good news of the week is I'm reading my story. I alright this first story is actually really cool, and it's very fashionable. Okay. It Dita's test to sell shoes made of ocean. Plastic was so successful that they're going even further. Okay. Adidas the shoe company. They spent the last four years curbing ocean pollution by recycling. Plastic beats waste into shoes. And because their customers have been so eager for the product. The company is kicking it up a notch? Adidas produced more than five million pairs of recycled plastic waste shoes in two thousand eighteen and they plan to incorporate the waste into at least eleven million this year. Okay. Not only is this cool. I'm looking at these shoes right now. And these are sick. Okay. Who here didn't know that Dita's was doing that me? I didn't know that they ride in the apparently they were doing it in two thousand eighteen and doing it in if we can make shoes with recycled plot. What else can we make? And we are doing. This with everything please. Apparently, we could do the four three D houses to look at these look at these shoes these shoes right here are from this like that crappy like webbing that you find in the ocean. It's like that they made it. So she the mesh webbing here at tangles, everything if you go fishing. It's always kind of caught on your feet. They put it on shoes. And it looks sick. So I mean. Yeah. Heck, yeah. So one trash is another's treasure on. Does on a clever role today. Yeah. But I'm just wondering are they making all the shoes the exact same like how are they able to like make the quality of all the shoes the same when they're using all different types of recycled material as the percentage is sixty percent recite. You know, what I think it is? Okay. I think they're doing it for two. I think like, you know, the the plastic around the shoe like the base of the shoe around it, I think that material is being used to save from the previous material they were using to make the shoe. So it's brand new are you cutting corners, you being nice does that mean as cheaper does? That mean, the shoes are going to be cheaper. I don't know that hey, we're going to pay somebody to get the stuff. But anyways, I thought that was really cool. Great. You know, anything we can do to obviously, protect and save the environment. I'm all for it. Okay. I did throw them out the window one time and Stevie made me feel really bad about it. So ever since then I have definitely been more mindful of what I'm throwing out the window. That's not the worst thing in the window. But I won't throw you under the bus. Oh, wow. Okay. Stevie moving on. I've got a good story. This is coming out of Houston, Texas, Texas are home stay. So there was a photo that hit the internet of a compassionate firefighter who lifted an older woman up some stadium steps at a Brad paisley concert because he immediately noticed she was struggling to get to her seat. And without even thinking twice this man immediately leapt to his feet and help the woman to her seat by carrying her. I'm talking like, you know, when you get married, and you're on your honeymoon. You know, how you just carry the one what does that position? You know what I mean? Like you hold her by. Like, I don't know if it's necessarily. Yeah. But he just looked around. That's what it is scooped her up into his arms and carried her the rest of the way. And she was literally she said, I'm I was almost shocked. I really honestly did not think that it would go that far as somebody would literally pick her up to her see how sweet is that will those steps can be really intimidating to you know, when you're at the top. I remember like the first time I went to the top of a stadium those steps are steep. And this woman looks very elderly. I should say and what a g I mean by just kind of taking the reins and the lady was completely happy about it. She was like, I I'm so glad that he did this basically, she was grinning, the whole time, and then it went viral online. I mean, they've gotten tons of likes and people are suggesting that we're going to send you more concert tickets for doing the photo, basically that went up online if you're wondering who took the photo posted it was his wife. His wife was at the concert with him. And she said I have to brag about my husband for a second about what he did tonight. And she caught the sweet beautiful moment and the face. On this elder woman's face like the face. She is just she's so happy and appreciative. And I just I feel like we need we need to be doing more. Like, I mean, if I could carry somebody physically, I would do it firefighter. He's just like I do this all the time. Okay. I got this so swayed. His response was his name is his name is Thomas. If you're wanting Thomas har-, well, he said if you're alive, and breathing you shouldn't need an excuse to help someone he told the news outlet if they need help help them. He actually it says here that he wasn't actually a harking for much attention from this. So I guess he was just being a good Samaritan trying to keep it. Low key now trying to get away from self, but Thomas, we're thankful for you and keep lifting ladies up to their seats. If they need help, whatever the heck else old men need help crossing the street helped them cross train. And we hope that wherever you guys are listening to this today. You will take the sweet story tell somebody, you know, whether you know, you get to work, and you can share the story to help lift your, friends and your community. So that we can just spread the love as. Doing something small every day. Just trying to something small every day that will bring somebody else's smile. I think that will start changing the world. News of the week. Well, you know, what else is good news advocates is this podcast is brought to you by Ventura, watches and the other good news is Evan shero watches sent us a watching. I'm loving my watch. Jay, definitely did a good deed for us than they bless us in the risk department. Not gonna lie. Stephen I have been loving our venture watches we received so much that Steve literally puts it right next to his bed. Stand every month. Every every night. It'd be honest. I had never heard of insurer watches until they were on the podcast here with us in the sentence. These are really nice watches at a really good price. Y'all. I have to say I'm loving my watch right now. I don't know if you guys are. But I got the krono s copper sleep blue watch. 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She is here to talk about this and bring her energy into contributing to the cause by taking part in the L A women's March speaking at the equal pay rally at city hall in New York among so many other things that she's done since leaving e we're going to talk about all of that in all the great things. She's. Doing since leaving the network, plus she's going to chat about her naked podcast coming out this April. You don't wanna miss it? All that more when we come back. Hi, I'm Jay Farner, CEO of Quicken Loans. Thirty percent of Americans who are planning home improvements of five thousand dollars or more. We'll pay for those renovations with a high interest credit card that may not be a great idea. A better idea maybe to take cash out of your home with a Quicken Loans. Thirty year fixed rate mortgage the rate today in our thirty year fixed rate mortgage is four and a half percent APR four point seven eight percent. Call us today at eight hundred quicken or go to rocketmortgage dot com. 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Like you guys. I was doing it at the end of my my college education. But I was just about to say that if you remember the daily ten which a lot of people do that was his show that was on E with do, you know, some? Yes, you so you guys have great chemistry Novela. He was the first kind of young girl on the view. That's how she got her claim to fame we are having ever union dinner tonight. Not then together, it was the three of them on the show. And it was just such a great dynamic the three of you, then lions. Remember a lot of people have it's like a Colt favorite on the back in the day. When it was still a cable channel, it wasn't NBC. Universal is just there was so much charm back then anyway, we haven't been together like all of us at a dinner and probably twelve years, and you were asking me about my broadcast voice. So I just went down the rabbit hole. And I'm sitting out there of like all these old YouTube videos of. Really my boys is so warble. This was like twelve years. I'm not doing this really affected. And I was doing a story on Jessica Simpson. And I was like girl, I was like was I I for you. Because you know, we have probably put all of our old college newscast on silent private. But obviously you can't do that. It's all over the web. But you're everyone doing everyone on TV. I feel like in news and entertainment. They have that voice. Even when I come on. And do the podcast. I feel like my voice is just a little bit more elevated. I try to just project a little bit enunciate and project. Steve's Steve's news voice. He just does it around the house all the time to show her. Your ROY said today on the show with God. Catt Sadler here. Talking about crappy news voices. Speaking of one this is one right now, I have a series of question though. Because number one when you're on my podcast is on you. Telling me about his voices and characters that he's sometimes comes up with. It's a little not G rated. It is not just saw that clip. The other day. And maybe voice with Britney. That's right. Sure. Voiceover career going to. That's right Stevie try to go into commercial. But nobody wanted me. I'm very difficult to work with only your wife will take you. That's right. That's right. She's the only one it would take me. So we started the good life. That's right. And you know cat if you guys, you know, she has a podcast. It's her naked podcast. And I love it. I was on it. And I got to go in her home, which is stunning and cozy and all the things that I would envision cats home to be. And we got to hang out literally over I think I was almost there like two hours. We were just talking about life, and I got super open and real about mine and your story, Steve our love story. So you guys gotta stay tuned for that. And we did a video on her YouTube channel, you guys know cats on YouTube now, she's killing it. So I'm just trying to keep up with the all I'm not killing it killing rolling it. I'm building it. It's new space for me. It's it's such a great producer. She has the background and understanding how to format things and your your TV background and understanding the whole idea with the rundown like you just get it. And so the YouTube video and all that is just was like it had the beets in it. You know what I mean? So you're killing it. We're so excited to have you here. I'm feeling a little jittery you guys. I don't know if this because obviously the excitement of having cat here. But I also drank pre workout this morning, and I actually forgot to work out. So I didn't forget it just I didn't have time. So I feel so. Katyn I were normal people normal dose of caffeine. We don't get super crazy. I wanna get into coffee cat because if I do I'm going to get obsessed with it like he is. That's the problem. I don't want the obsession. We'll maybe you can just like dance on the table here for us work it out. Get out during the break. So we'll just do your exactly okay. So we know all about you and your story, but we want to tell our fam- little bit about your story. You know, everyone knows your this EMMY award winning host from e you know, and you have this amazing career, but we want you to talk us through a little bit of what happened when you left E in the decision to leave. Ian, kind of what has happened since then? So that everyone is in the nose. You were there for twelve years, right? Yes. I was I was. And sure, you know, it is interesting. I wasn't local news like I said it for about ten years before e and one of the most defining moments of my life in a lot of people think, oh, it's when you left he it's actually when I got the job at he because it was really was like we were talking says on it was like the pinnacle of entertainment news at the time every younger girl dreamed doing that one fast move down here to do that all broadcasting wanted to work on the you know, I was that girl at home in the living room on my knees at the TV watching the red carpet, you know, seeing all that go down and dreaming that dream. I mean that was really me I had two kids at the time. So the whole thing the whole the fact the university of kind of came together position me to get that to get there at all was really thing. But I had twelve great years. There was on a multitude of shows many shows in the last year, I was hosting a news three or four nights a week for the solid last year that I was there. And then I was also cast to host a brand new show called daily pop which was their morning show. And that morning show is two hours long. It was live. It was intent you guys know. I mean, imagine doing podcasts, and you have the cameras, and you have the glam, and you have guests coming and going, and you're live and one minute year to prompt or one minute you're doing an inter you're you're and I was driving the show. So I'm timing the show, I've got producers the whole it was first of all the hardest job ever did eat. But the most rewarding. I mean, I love that was like what I'd been working towards because it wasn't like, oh, I'm gonna read a prompt here in that over time you one can do in their sleep. So hey, I was working really really hard. And I think perhaps the female executive who kind of told me of the disparity knew that and my negotiations. We're going to be coming up soon. My contract was soon. To be expiring. And she just brought it to my attention. She said, you're severely severely underpaid comparatively, and so then I, of course, is still a homework assignment that never even dawned on me. I mean, the time I don't think people were having this conversations, you know, it's very taboo and kind of keep to yourself, and it's kind of rude to ask somebody what they make it. Right. It's not the conversations one is having and so to make very long story short. And I've told the story so many times I don't want to bore your listeners. But I in the end had a big decision to make. It was just like the writing was on the wall. My agents were trying to negotiate what I knew I was worth. I'm like hold on. You put me on air more than any other on air person. Like on the real estate every day. I'm on air more time than anybody else. And I'm getting paid significantly less than half. Like how does that rate? Right. And if it was maybe my second year third year, I get I get value is defined a different way. Ways. But I was so convicted knowing that this is such unequal footing. The disparity was glaring. I was like I have to a decision to make. And for me. It was it was knowing that. I couldn't live with myself. I couldn't fake the funk if I were to accept what they offered I would be at denouncing my truth in my every day of living. I would have gone done a worst job. I wouldn't have been like committed. I wouldn't have been good at my job. I wouldn't have been a good employee again, we're team player or creatively. Or whatever. Also, I just after a lot of soul searching and talking to a lot of my mentors is like a minute. I'm gonna go I'm gonna walk. And so that happened, and I really you are you're referring to my blog when I kind of told my story and shared my story because you have to keep in mind, I wasn't really permitted to tell my story on air on my last day dislike she's just gone gone. I never ever expected people to care or to rally or to be so infuriated by what happened to me. I mean, I was sharing my truth because that was my truth. And I thought I owed it to the viewers. Around the world literally who watched all those years day after day. But the response was something that could have never predicted. You didn't. Yeah. You didn't expect it. Right. You you said in your blog, you know, people cared people were upset, and I think that really added more fuel to this fire that needed. Oh, yeah. Light upon it. So they cared because my singular story, it's it's it's about the every woman across every industry across the US. But in all many nations that are just experiencing that same discrimination as just over time through culture through just, you know, the boys club through just these institutions and the structure in the way that it's set up. So I it resonated with women because they're like, you know, it it was really an extension of me too. Oh, yeah. Me too. You know, and keep in mind. This was right after the me too movement. Had I'd been reporting on that for months and months, but I left before even times up became times. So, you know, so. I was timing. It was time. You were just saying how you would consulted with your mentors. And that's something that I have been just kind of thinking about so much lately personally as the power of mentors and how what mentors were were. This decision. Yeah. Because when I think about like, big moves, I instantly. I'm calling my dad or whatever mentor in my life that I can get hold of. And that's such a big decision. What were your mentors advice? Various things interestingly all women that I spoke with mostly except for like, my brother, but my mom, my mom is always always been my first call, and she's you know, my mom is my mom was a feminist before feminists are even like cool. My mom's always been like, no, you're worth you can do anything you can achieve anything. And don't stand for everything, you know, she's she's a bit of a fighter. And so she was always like whatever you do. You will land on your feet wasn't worried about me because keep in mind. This whole decision wasn't just about the financials. It was like, oh, I have to raise two kids. I have to pay the bills to feed them like so that was the scary part. My ego. Like, I don't need to be on TV. I don't need yet. Stroking of all your on TV, your cats like that that left many years ago. So I was never ever. Like, I remember one agent asked me, they're like, you mean to say, you could really walkaway from being on T fit at right? I was like, yeah. I can't because I know I'll. I'll be there again. I and that brings me to answer your question another mentor. She was like at the end of the day. Do you bet on yourself because you're going to walk from Thursday cure job have paycheck every to it? You know? Yes. Know as entrepreneurs like it's a whole different model when you take that leap, and you just say goodbye to that kind of an existence, and she said, do you bet on yourself? I thought about it. And I was like I do I really do. And all of this kind of colliding for a reason, and I can't accept this. And then in return the rewards of just been insane. Because to your point like people were just so connected to understanding that type of feeling undervalued at their dog being underpaid in their job, you know, getting passed up for promotions. I mean, I've heard story after story after story and all these women are like, please keep fighting the fight. Please. Just your voice you actually have a platform. So please do that for us. I feel a duty to do that. Now. I was gonna say I feel like you. Have really become the strength for so many women around the world who don't necessarily understand their self worth and their value. And you've really been that light for them. I want to talk about that leap period that you just mentioned, you know, you you go from the secure job paychecks every two weeks. And then there's that leap. I'm you made the decision to walk out of the doors of e after twelve years twelve great years and now you have to figure out. All right. I'm creating my own door. Walk us through what that process was like because I'm sure there's this heavyweight that you were carrying now not just for yourself. But for all of the hundreds of thousands of women now who are looking to you for that support. What's next? Exactly, right. I mean prior to leaving. I had a game plan. Of course, you don't like just jumping quit your job unless you have a plannable. You're good piece of advice. You don't just by the way of her from women who are like I feel like walking out today. I mean, people just like. Me all the time and my girl settle down low down breath resume intact. But I I had I had a a nest egg if you will and that was a very intentional side-hustle as we talked about. I had my blog. I mean, I was not a blogger by definition like you and so many legit bloggers. But I had enough of a digital presence that I my plan was to one that would be where would focus growing that business and to I would go out no dishes and try and get another TV jobs, but that was my plan prior to leaving. And then after I left when win time's up was born. And there was all of this. You know, the this momentum towards this fight for equal pay and equal rights in general for women. I knew I had to get on that path a little bit more and lean into that. And kind of be a champion for these women. So that presented itself in so many different ways that I couldn't have predicted. It was you know, speaking on the steps of city hall in New York and doing marches, and I can't tell you how many panels I've been on speaking to this. Issue. So I wasn't an expert, by the way, come an activist cat active, really. And I shouldn't say just, but I mean, if you would've asked me when equal pay day was back in twenty seventeen. I couldn't have told you, you know, so my own experience really like exposed a real problem for still many. So now, again, I just I in many ways I've been on that circuit kind of just out talking and connecting with other women and joined to share my story and give some advice. I've learned a lot about negotiating and women are doing wrong when it comes to that. By the way, seventy percent of them aren't even bothering to negotiate in a most of us. We come we come from this like thought like, oh, I'm just lucky to get the job. Okay. Yeah. I'll take that job. Or what do you offer me? Okay. Sure. Yeah. Like that all needs to go out. That's not how most of the guys are doing it. They weren't afraid to talk about money's first thing to talk about. But we are like what am I going to make? Yeah. That when you were saying that it it reminds me of what Cindy Crawford was saying we had her on episode. You know, when she was younger and in this modeling. Field and as she was starting to start her own business. She said that a lot of the times when she was younger she would walk into this room and look for her business daddy, she would look for that person. That would stand up for her defend her negotiate for her always looking for that daddy figure, right? And then at some point she realized I've got to be my own daddy. And I've got to stand up for myself and look out for myself. And I was like, whoa. That is so true. And so timely for today because I don't know about you. But it's almost in my nature to want to just like a avoid confrontation at times. And I have honestly short. What does the word short ended the short end of the stick? You know? I go butchering another thing on today's show. No, I've given yourself the short end of the stats. Just to avoid confrontation and being on people's backside. And I don't know our nature. We want to be like we don't want to be the the the scary b word like that is a grain, Don us, so dances. So much more difficult and complicated because we still wanna make as much we know when we look across the room. We're just as qualified were just as experience for just as educated, but but there's been this pressure this weight on we as women. It's just it's all these years has carried away at right? And I do think that's changing into Cindy's point. Like, you have to be your own advocate. I learned that. And you don't need to apologize for it. And listen, it didn't exactly work out for me. But it did. I mean, I mean a wealth of like this like opportunities have come my way, a whole new world is opened up for me. And now, I'm working with. Meaning like, yes, don't get me wrong reporting on the credentials. All those years was fun and entertaining. And and I will do more of that. But I like to I'm being I feel kind of used right now in a meaningful way. Which is. What's that? You're drinking. Steve, oh, I'm drinking LaCroix sparkling water. Steve talking to myself, and I'm also talking to you guys. That's right. If you haven't tried it yet where have you been living on the planet Mars because LaCroix is everywhere. It's even in my fridge. You know, it your boys drinking at twenty four seven because they've got twenty four flavors. What am I drinking? You ask. I'm drinking. Coconut flavor. It stocked in our fridge and even at teens birthday. We had it there because everybody loves the Croix. Are you sure there's no sugar in their hand or g right now where are you getting that from others? No sugar is there's no calories. There's no sodium. It's an absolutely wonderful nothing artificial beverage. If you guys did a no Koi is number one in the sparkling category in the US surely crow of the French shoutout. I love LaCroix if you haven't tried it try it. Now, you guys go to WWW dot LaCroix, water dot com to change your life and to get a better beverage, and I need a drink more LaCroix. You know, what I get from it too is also there's just a very human message from from your story. You know, it's not just for women. I believe it's for everybody. And it's it's really just stepping out. And I love what you keep saying which is betting on yourself. And that's something that I've thought a lot about lately because. Yeah. And even in the industry of acting, you know, I look at a lot of my friends guys and girls they're being completely undervalued because everybody wants that job, right? What I love what you said was I was betting on myself when I knew I had to leave and the industry or the higher ups where you were working we're betting, you know, what she's not going to. She's not going and it was all this gambling game. It seems like you know, what she's not gonna walk. We're just gonna pay the same and she's not going to walk. And you said, you know, what I'm betting on myself? I'm betting on what I have, you know, which is all the skills that I've gathered which can't be taken from me, and I'm gonna take elsewhere, and I'm going to thrive, and I think that's a huge message for everyone listening to this podcast right now, there's a girl who works with us. Her name is Ashley and her husband is out of job at a hospital at cedar Sinai cedars, and he's very unhappy in job and he's looking for a new job because he's just being abused time is being abused. They call him, you know, late nights. And they say, hey, come in, and that wasn't part of the job description, and he's basically been forced into a place to where it's you know, they got him by the arm, and he's like I want to walk away. And so I think your story is so empowering women and for everyone who is in a position where they're being used and they need. To bet on themselves. You know, and you have to again, be your voice be your advocate, and no your worth and then act on it. And that's the hard part the question. I get a lot of like. Yeah. But you you took that step. You have the courage. You you actually walked like how how can we do that too? And I do think it is about you have to really enjoy near your exit plan on a really smart way. Right. So for all these people men and women that are undervalued or miserable. I mean, this goes back to my just overall bigger life belief about like living your purpose and loving what you do and like we all delegate so much time to our work. I mean, the hours and days and weeks and years people spend at their jobs like it is far too short to be operating like that way. And that poor guy. You know, what I mean like just feed that unsatisfied as so. So a lot of that comes with the preparation you have to have to do on the other side of that. Which is you know, make sure that you have enough. Whatever is on your resume. Whatever job you have whatever industry working record your wins record your accomplishments. What makes you great? What makes you stand out? So that you can then start to do your research finds what is out there for you and doors will open because I think like until you start cultivating that energy that says. Oh, oh, yeah. Back to self. I I know me I love me. I know my value, and then you start to act on that. It's not enough. Just think about it. You have to act on it. Then all the part, the pieces of the puzzle to start to come together for you. It really will it. So smart that she had catwalk like your cat, log blog and all that. I mean, I know you couldn't give one hundred percent to while. You were at e. But it was almost like that perfect push for you. Because as soon as you left E, you looked at. Okay. Well, what do I have working for me? And here's catwalk and fires. There you go. And I love that you had catwalk. And then you were able to give it one hundred percent and. It's been doing so amazing. And then you had your naked interviews, which you have now tell them a little bit about that. And how you kind of turn it into a podcast and yet talk to us a little bit about now kind of life after e in the past twelve months, you've just completely I feel like skyrocketed in building your own brand in your own voice. So walk us through that. Well, that's funny. Thank you. You know, I'm building. I don't know if I've skyrocketed, but I have grown and I'm in a new season. And we have to keep in mind is like I did a similar job of the same job since again imaging myself since literally nineteen Ninety-seven so I had one year off in twenty seven plus years of broadcasting where I just went to work. The light goes on you're doing the one year I took off when I had my first son so to leave. I mean, it was emotionally it was almost like a death. Not only six of my family. But then also like, I didn't even physically. No what? To do with my days. Do you know what I mainly like such a routine with e a routine and the hamster wheel, and that was my life. So physically I I had coming down. So it took me it took me a good three or four months to really even just process grieve figure all that out. I knew at the forefront of what I wanted to do was. Yes, developed the catwalk more I knew that with every bit of business. I did. Or would do I wanted it to be about lifting up other women and supporting them or teaching them or whatever that is? So it started with the catwalk on developing the website more and incorporating interviews because at the at the core of everything I ever did in broadcasting. I love the art of the interview I'm much more comfortable asking the questions and sitting here across from you today. It's really hard for me to talk about myself. God love ya. And so I started at interview series online, which was just print just and a lot of my friends and a lot of fascinating women came on. And did that for me. I mean, when you know, Amy Schumer said guests Gwyneth Paltrow said, yes. And this just through my personal relationships. So I was like, okay. I'm gonna be alright I can do this in on my own without a big network behind me, and you know, other women again, the sisterhood of other girls being like, I got that you like I'm there for you. I'm going to do this even though probably even their publicist like what are you don't you know, I that? Yeah. But out of that, Molly, Shannon is a friend of mine actress, you know, funny molly's, she came over, and we were, you know, for this printed interview. And she was in my living room. She was jumping around and she was reenacting like her dancing in the nineties. And I was like all them. This can't just be prints. Like now, I wish people could see her. I wish I could hear her you know, that so kind of out of that the podcast was born. Because I was like there's only so much you can capture in writing, right? As much as thank you. I love to write and and I transcribed this for my website. So naked the concept is is really obviously, not literally will not necessarily. Why don't you tell them about that everyone? Take your clothes off it really. It's it's it's not your ferocity. Here's the thing. Proverbial close. Really is. Like, again, I I'm done like an I think we all suffer from like, this this armor that we all were around the material like nobody loves L, Terry. Let us like I do or cashmere sweater or some Cartier. But it's like all of that gets between who we are at the core. It's just like it's like a protective barrier and having done. So many interviews all these years. I was like I don't want the soundbite answer. I don't want to get all that regurgitated over the TV answer. Exactly. And so I thought how can I get these really compelling interviews and have people crack open for me. So that the audience can see they're not alone in all my gosh. Suzanne actually had that struggle when she was in high school, and my gosh, she was a strange from her family while for the name of love like these stories are still phenomenal to me. So I was like how. I get that to happen. Well, maybe I should just invite them to my bedroom. And so the idea was conceived out of that. Yeah. It's in my room, which is by the way requires me to be slightly vulnerable. It's as. Bedwell today. It's the most intimate room. I feel like in the house. So yeah, that's what you invited. She invited me into her bedroom. When I was about to do this interview. And I instantly felt like I could be vulnerable because cat is opening her doors for me to walk into her the privacy of her home. I don't know if it's a great bedroom. Big gorgeous decor Isla goals. But then you also encouraged me to take something off. So K ending of every episode space. Right now is like what did you not your the play by play? She actually tell. It's just the word. Well, and that's the exercise. Right. So at the very beginning. It's just like I'm gonna take something off my guests takes a little something off just to set the tone or letting it all hang out, and let's just get a little uncomfortable. And sometimes people are crazy comfortable like a living among took offer shoes. Because she was so uncomfortable wearing shoes in my house. So that's no big deal. You know? Like, I don't wanna give too much away. But yeah, did you want to they'll have to listen to hear what you took off? Yeah. You guys will have to stay tuned for that one. That's a great teaser their cats. I love that cat right now. We always ask our. Interviewees? What's good in your life? Right now. We know that you've got the podcast, and you're the catwalk and everything, but what is something that you could possibly TS to our listeners. That's good in your life. That's coming up for you, professionally or percentage. Could be both we'll professionally popped in my head. Because at the end of the day the question, I get for most of the people who at least watched me over the years where went are you going up it back on our TV and today TV can mean as you guys know anything that flexibly, whatever. Yeah. But I do have a show that's very far along that I'm hosting and producing now will be on the TNT network. I read a little teaser in your blog posts yacht. So it's it's like it's one of those things I'm sure you guys understand that like the title is still like I can't share the title. And right. Just just signed with a production company. That is so amazing that you guys will know like one of their shows is like a huge one of the most popular shows on Netflix. So they're going to make the show with me. And so all this. It's it's common at, but I guess again, it takes time and the really cool part about not just being the puppet on TV being told what to do every day is I'm now an entrepreneur I have to grow. This I can create this. I can dream this, and it is from the ground up. And it's so rewarding to work this way challenging a new, but also it's a four like without question. It has season of growth like I'm teach me. I don't know how to pitch a room on TV show. I don't know how to so I'm out here. Now in the space like it's slow go like it takes a minute. Like, everyone's like, why don't you back next week because I was being selected to be honest. I want to go back to the hamster wheel during that. Exactly. So I'm going to dream a little bit bigger yet. And even like back to Indiana like at the end, the end all then would have been to be on eat. That's not the end all like now, your dream changes. It's over here. Yeah. Now, I'm going to do that. You know, why can't we all have a little goop in our lives are a little secrets like why can't we just have all the Mia, you know, the landscape so different. So there's so much opportunity for anybody. I just look at cat. And I'm like this woman right here is just somebody who embraces change. You are a woman who is just continuing to evolve you're not someone who's just like, you know, what I'm going to stay. Stagnant. I feel like you're somebody who's always going to be growing throughout life throughout the different seasons. And I just love watching you because you're unpredictable, and I love that. You're so brave and bold. I feel like bold is the word that I see when I look at cat. You are so bold bold in just courageous in. What you did by walking away from one great opportunity, but look at how many doors have opened for you. How many doors you've created sister? That's going to and probably already has impacted so many women young and old out there who still have this dream in this purpose in them that they're trying to ignite. So you think you were bowled in unit your volt in your beliefs. You know, you said you didn't want to just go and do the same thing you wanted to reach for higher and better, and that's all doing that to set those intentions, so cat before you get out of here. I just want you to leave a message for the people who, you know, the women who are stuck in their jobs, you're treated unfairly or the men who are also stuck in their jobs and treated unfairly then need to make that move. What piece of advice, would you give them if you? Out some right now, I you gotta just really get into. I believe with your just inner compass like if it feels wrong it is wrong. If you're unhappy everyday like pay attention to that lockable, haven't and just dismiss it. It's number one. Life's too short. So just really tuned into that. And then it would just go back to to you know, you almost know what to do. I think most there's not like one like cliche, but advice, I could say, but but no you're worth and then act on your worth and the rewards will be there for you. If you have the courage to stare that down and get to the other signing on. Oh, it's like cat. You knew why you needed to leave, and you figured out the how after the y you know, and I think that goes for anybody out there like you said who has a dream or a vision for their life. It's like no why you've got to walk away. And then you'll figure out the how don't worry so much about that. You know? Thank you so much cat. You're the best. You guys got stuck out her podcast when it launches tell them. Okay. So did it already know. It's okay. We're we're also trying to tell cat to write a book. She's a Greg. Can I just don't only for two seconds before I go because I just wanna thank you. You guys are doing such incredible work. I don't know why you're not on TV should be. Are you going to get to that? Like, oh, that's a no brainer. So the that time will come. I'm sure if you know, you're not going to actually come. Maybe we'll have to show together one day fun. Oh, sorry. Well, we could do you could. He wants to be in the set right in the middle of us will tug of war him. No. But what I love about what you guys do. And I've listened to your podcast several times is is the the intention behind is helping others. And I just think that's so great. We that's I know. That's why you did. That's the good fan. That's what all this is about. And so I really admire what you're doing. Because you're you're putting that good back into the world and the world needs it. So or so both such great journalists. From Catt Sadler. You guys broadcast media. That's might. It was second rate. So much cat. We love you too. How she left us there with a great good home. We on break me off a piece of that. Catt sadler. Ball. That was a good little nuggets. Good life fam-. That was incredible. I mean how awesome issue? She's just a force to be reckon with. I love what she's doing. She took her pain, and she's really using it for good to inspire women and to go after her dreams and creators move maker. I love that. She was just so bold. But also, you know, she had a plan in place. I think that's so important to have a plan before you're going to exit. If you're going to leave your job, y'all. You also have to be practical. Don't just be emotional. That's not good. We do not advise just the out Pat enough. No that's done. No have a plan in place believe in yourself and do something that actually makes some sort of sense and look for mentors. That was a great great interview. We hope that you guys are gonna leave. Today's episode feeling inspired to go on about your day in your life. Again. We just want to give a quick thank you to our sponsors on today's show that was LaCroix green. Chef then shero watches truecar and Campari don't forget about that giveaway. You definitely want to snag that and get on that again guys. We just want to thank you for. 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A Garden as a Metaphor for Love, Loss and Life

From the Heart: Conversations with Yoga Girl

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A Garden as a Metaphor for Love, Loss and Life

"Welcome to Veranda new episode of the Yoga podcast conversations from the heart. I am sitting sitting in my guest room right now. Drinking my second cup of coffee of the morning. It is nine. Am and if. I look outside that the sky is kind of interesting today. We have a little bit of hazy. Cloudy kind of morning. It's like the day hasn't decided if it's going to be a rainy day or a sunny day which is rare for a Rubel and beautiful. I love it when it rains here because we have you know every day is the same here in terms of of whether it's the kind of weather you really long for an eight four. If you're in a part of the world word very gray or cold you know. The Sun shines pretty much every day over here but when you live in a place like this with this kind of climate you start to miss the seasons right you start to miss transitions change in weather. So whenever we do have a little bit of rainy day it feels so different over here. So I'm sitting here right now with just the the weirdest feeling in my body. I'm kind of happy and joyful and also feeling a little bit hopeless at the same time. I don't know if I've ever felt this amount of hope and hope hope and hopelessness in my body at the same time. The sound you just heard was laid luna jumping up and down on the couch watching the jungle book. She's never watched a jungle book before. I don't know what I've been doing with my life that I have a child. Who's three years old? Who still haven't watched the original jungle book so. I showed it to her the other day and it's immediately her favorite movie. Give me a moment. I'm Gonna I'm going. Go tell her to to to be a little work by it. Okay now that my little monkey in another room so yeah I am. I'm I'm really excited to be able to sit here and share and talk today. It has been. It has been a pretty big week pretty big week for me. It's a beautiful morning and I am sitting here. Contemplating the permanence of life. It's like a like a fun thing to contemplate on an early morning right. I mean I I really am. I am sitting here. Contemplating the impermanent of things of life of relationships of of everything you know and this is something that I think as as human beings we don't like to think about that much and the moment we do it sort of changes our perception of of of everything so before I get into this this fun and exciting very spiritual and human concept. Let's take a moment to ground. Shall we so wherever you are now in this moment is go ahead and close your eyes? Let's let's take a moment to place the palms of the hands anywhere on top of the body. Such as wherever you're drawn. I immediately just placed my hands on my belly for a moment and then increase the connection that you have here between the palms of the hands and your physical body to see can really sense yourself and then looking to fully become present in this experience of sitting here in this moment in this body. Would this breath here now. It's such a such a simple concept and also theory complex at the same time. How can I fully embody this moment? How can I allow myself to be here? All the way to really show up all of my totality right now see can begin by taking a really deep wrath imagining breathing into this area of the body where the palms of your hands arresting right now. Sometimes I like to imagine that I'm I'm breathing in through the nose and draw that breath all the way down to the tips of the toes. Just really sensing my entire being filling with space and as you exhale. He connects exit from that same place. Either from the palms of the hands or from the tips of the toes emptying your body altogether do that a couple times. Whatever feels good deep full breath in through the nose through the nose deeply exhale take a few moments just like dot couple cycles breath on your own at your own pace your own cadence. There's that moment whenever we drop into this kind of practice if it's just a few minutes in the middle of a podcast or if it's at the beginning or the end of yoga practice when you're sitting practice there's always that moment when things just click right and it might take us a little bit of time to get there especially for feeling distracted or for. Mine's been very busy. Refer feeling a lot right. Does that moment of arrival that moment. Where suddenly yes they are you are here I am. It's like the moment your presence aligns with the body with this breath with this moment but everything that's unfolding around you and within you and it can be very fleeting experience of things clicking into place but the moment get there usually we can send some things softening within US something that we drop compete. Your shoulders could be your judgments something that you're able to soften a little bit. Something you can put down may be your awareness will bring you to a different place and then you practice coming back and coming back and coming back again so taking about another minute here now experiencing this moment allowing this moment to unfold exactly the way it is with everything that life has brought you here now just staying very present right here. Let's take a deeper breath in through the nose. Open the mile and let it go. How as you blink your eyes open he gang so I'm smiling? I was smiling throughout that entire little as we just did. I'm sensing so much energy moving through my body right now and this is the week of the full moon. Says you're listening to this. The full moon in Scorpio has just passed. It's called the dark moon. There's a lot of lot of big energies at play this week. So we might be experiencing emotions and feelings and things in a little bit more of a bigger way right. Now you might sense polarities refilling yourself drawn or pull between two different places just acknowledging here now. That whatever is happening in your life this week. Whatever you've been faced with is an opportunity. One hundred percent. Whatever it is that this week you're really pondering like man trying to figure this out or I can't believe this thing is coming back into my life again. Or here's this feeling again right. It is an opportunity. It's like life is constantly throwing US little keys. Yeah little nuggets of gold little little opportunities of. Hey Hey get present. Hey wake up. Hey listen closely. 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The reason I started thinking about this is that I am going. GonNa talk about gardening again. Someone recommended or told me yesterday. Like hey you should change the name or a teenager account name on instagram. From Yoga girl to garden girl gets. I am talking more about gardening than I am about Yoga right now. The thing is gardening is yoga right. Yoga really is is everything. We're able to immerse ourselves in off the Mat. The brings us here now right so you know putting your hands to the earth growing things anything that taps into that creative spirit where you're just here like that's the Yoga. That's the way of really station like it's there too and I really wondering so so. We started this garden. It was November of last year and Laya. Luna's nanny name was Kado she. She left right before in the nick. Time right before this kind of close the borders of everything. She's French-canadian and she was here taking care of Lia anti started up this garden for us and when she did it so she created from scratch and we had a solid five months six months. A whole solid six months of that garden without me being totally involved. It was like a side project and I was there every day but it wasn't like she was the one who really created it from scratch like she built the first garden beds. She put together the irrigation system. She seeded everything for the first round of this garden. And it was this dream that I had always wanted a vegetable garden but I was too busy right. I was still even though with my year off. I was super busy doing other things no way. I would have time to be out there watering my plants. Every day. Like no way you know. So when she did this immediate success okay. This garden immediate yields of Kale Cucumbers Keeney. Swiss chard spinach remember. We had like Kale and all sorts of Greens. Within a couple of weeks was so fast. These huge big leaves of Greens that we were putting in our salads everyday and it was so abundant every day I was out harvesting new things right and then she left an. I took over the garden. The garden became all of a sudden like this is. My responsibility was always my garden. But now there's no one to help me and with all this time and all this space I suddenly found myself in my life. I realized that this is something I really want to do. This is something I've been wanting to do my whole life. I've just been prioritizing other things I've been living. I spoke about this and last week's podcast. I've been living a life that wasn't in the linemen with what I actually wanted right so so here I was. You know you guys have followed me on social media you've seen these garden updates and immediately immediately. I found myself with his huge huge obstacle where these lizards started coming into the garden. Eating all my vegetables all of my leaves really destroying my things so I had about a month. I think a lot of weeks in a row. Maybe maybe you guys followed like we call it the Lizard Saga. They were driving me. Totally crazy you know of really trying to figure this out to like salvaged garden. Felt Fun and exciting also like Ohio. Like exasperated. Why is this happening? And because they really destroyed so much in such a short time but persevered we figured it out. We cover the garden beds in the end after trying like one hundred different things. We cover the garden beds in aluminum metal. The lizards can't climb aluminum. Because it's not it's too slippery for them so they can't get into the garden. Beds so yeah. They're all safe from blizzard. And then I had like five minutes of Reading Space. Basically before other things started to happen and just for context so for the past two months straight two months straight if I this has been my full time job like I'm spending more hours in the garden that I'm doing anything else right Dennis. Is You know building me. All these garden beds built a fence has been super handy cemented. A pole in the middle put up like shade cloth. He's been so helpful and filled new garden beds. I have ceded everything from scratch because of course everything that was planted when the last night he was here is gone since long. You know the the life cycle of plants kind of be run through them so everything in the garden right now. That's growing is something that I have seen it from scratch and I'm learning as I s S. I go along but every week. There is a new massive that I have had to overcome with the scarlet right so I it was a lizard and then when I figured the Lizard thing out almost immediately I realized we have a white flight problem and the white flies. Are these these tiny little like lice. Looking like tiny little flies that suck on the back of leaves and basically what they do is they suck the life out of plants right so I started noticing that like. Why isn't my Kale Rowing? Why isn't my spinach growing like when you know last cycle this grew so quickly and now they're all the leaves are kind of Pale Green? Some of them are Brown. Like I was under. I was trying to figure out the water. Obviously I've never done this before. So I if I was an avid gardener. If I was like a pro I would probably know what to look for and I'm I'm learning as I go right so for a long time. I thought it was like a watering thing. Or maybe they had too much sun like I was and it took me a little while and then I just got really really really close and I started turning each leaf around like what is going on here and then I saw you know we have not just like a white fly problem but a white flight infestation. Where all of these plants I mean I. I thought it was only the Kale and then I realized no it's chart and then I realize it's also the corn sunflowers. It's the spin it. It's the watermelon like you know if I would have caught this early. It probably wouldn't have been as bad but because it probably was happening. He probably was happening when the lizards were there. But I was too busy with lizards right so I go through the problem. Solving things of googling and asking for advice and going on gardening blogs and you know watching videos and kind of going down the line of trying everything to figure this out like how do I get rid of it flies and then what happened is the first thing I tried. Basically killed the leaves. The the solution I was using was too strong and then I try something different. I try something different. And then the next thing was okay for the leaves but then the vice came back and we still have this big problem like it's still a thing right so every day. I'm like out there fighting this battle and right as I realize. Okay you know what I'm just going to have to start over here like I'm going to have to recede all these things and I feel like it's okay. It's okay I can do that. It's fun like seeding. Things planting seeds watching them grow. Like I'll just pull all of this out of the garden bed and start from scratch right. That's okay and then I'll really take care on. Make sure that I apply the correct things for this kind of and then right as I kind of accepted that okay. Here's the thing I'm GonNa get it. Squared away. I realize we have another problem. We have spider MITES. A bunch of my plants have something called Spider mites. So obviously this is another area. These are indoor and outdoor plans where. I wasn't super present because I was totally zoned in on the White Fleiss. It's kind of like you know I get all of my presence on one area and I lose one other area right and then I bring all of my presence there and then something else happens and spider mites. Are these kind of really freaky little spider. Tiny tiny tiny microscopic bugs that we've your plants into a spiderweb until it suffocates and is how is it? I've never heard of these things like I never do. These things existed. But that's real so then I go through the thing I start problem solving. Google blogs read it. Youtube asking friends for advice like I'm going through all the stops okay figuring out the spider Mites and then I get back to the garden still dealing with the white flies and then I realized Oh wait. What's this what's this white SPEC but I see here on the turnips and I started like investigating right and then I see on the Parsley. There's also like some dusty white like what is this dislike salt from the water. We painted the poll. Here maybe is there like you know colored. No can't be like that. That's paint was really like and then I do the same thing. Start googling I have this APP that I use for plants. We HAVE WHITE POWDERY MILDEW. That shit is a like okay. I didn't know what it was like a week ago. I did not know what this thing was now. I know it's plague. It's like the plague. Were all things go today so a new thing of like? Oh my God. How do I figure this out so you guys can imagine how like every couple of days? There's another thing right. And I'm like persevering feeling really empowered. I'm going to figure this out and then I figured out okay for for powdery. Mildew you need to use something called Neem. Oil supposedly is really good. I started doing that going through all the plans for that and then I go to the back garden to to just check my tomatoes. They have in the back and all of a sudden overnight. Half of them are dead. Just telling you guys these stories is like what is this. A joke like is this is seriously real. I have eleven beautiful tomato plants back there. They are doing amazing. Tuck them in go to bed. Wake up the next day and half are dead. Like debt. Not like wilting. And looking sad they're dead. They're out they're gone. Can't figure it turns out. I have another thing. I have. Something called leaf miners in the garden. Which is a weird as little larvae. Like tiny little like Maggot or worm looking thing that mind its way through. Leaves like eating them from the inside. Can you believe that this is real like can you so so far? It's only been two months of me like finding this church right religion of gardening like I am so dedicated and I've had lizards. Oh and then I had dogs. My dogs were digging up the garden beds. Then I had my daughter who was pulling my planted of garden bed then I had white flies then. I had white powdery mildew than I had spider Mites. Then I had some weird shit called leaf miners and now I also found mealy bugs. This is eight massive hurdles in two that means a week I have found another obstacle that is trying to completely take over and kill my garden and so far like I have been so positive. I have really like okay. I'm good at problem solving. I liked to be creative and innovative. I liked to find problems. Like I'm going to figure this out. That's something that I enjoy doing. And then this morning I found the leaf miners this morning and I realized and then I went back to my tomatoes in the back and I realized okay. That's what they have. That's why they're all dead overnight because they were just eaten from women. I'll go back to my tomatoes in the main garden. Which is where the big like beautiful tomatoes. That have been doing so amazing. Are they all have it? They all have it so I took a moment. They're just kind of sitting in my garden looking around realizing that every garden bed house. Something not working right every almost every plant even my seedlings have some kind of insect bug fungus mildew lizard army something attacking it something that I have to fight something that is slowly slowly slowly destroying what I have spent months building ten. I just I just sat down on a rock and it was one of those moments like if I should just hysterically cry right now or if you just sit here and laugh and I took a breath and I just looked at at the garden and I just started laughing like his third allowed thing like one of those hysterical. Kind of like if someone caught me laughing that way. They would think that I would need some sort of help. You know what I read like that kind of like really freaky kind of hysterical laugh. I just couldn't stop laughing. It was like this laugh. Came from deep within my soul and it was this laugh of no matter what I do right. I have no control no matter how much time I spend building. Everything can be wiped away in the blink of an eye. I mean for me just to let me give you an example. So the cucumbers I have. I have a bed of only cucumbers have English cucumbers and Lebanese cucumbers garden from to grow these cucumbers. I plant little seeds in like tiny little cells right. I water them twice a day and I move this this this it's like a little nursery and I moved them around because they don't love being in one place like I keep them in the back in the morning because then the morning sun is nice for them. I take them out of the sun in the middle of the day because it's on his too strong and then I moved back with. It gets too windy in the afternoon and then bring them back under under the the roof of the patio for the night. So it's like when I've planted the seeds watering them several times a day. I baby them right like I am connecting with them like five or six times a day carrying them around checking on them loving on them. I took the minute night like I give them so much love and attention and then all of a sudden they sprout. And it's the most amazing thing to me. It's like the most exciting moment you never really know how long it's GonNa take a seed to sprout right. I have some seats seats and after just two days like I can see them sprouting. Some of them like after weeks. I give up like I. Something's wrong. Seats are not working. They're not going to grow here. It's too warm or whatever and then all of a sudden one day they're they come you know and I've like totally forgotten that they exist. You never know how long it's GonNa take to actually sprout or show itself above surface. It's all SOA exciting and very emotional and then all of a sudden they sprout and then you realize okay now. They need a different kind of watering. They need a little more sun. You know and I keep a really close eye on them all the time and then there comes a moment so depending on what. I've seated sometimes I plant them in a bigger cell before they get transplanted to the garden. Sometimes from the cell they get transplanted to the garden. And when I transplant them I take the morning and I like prepare the soil. I measure out. How much space should I put between these each of these little seedlings I google it? I always put them a little closer to them than I'm supposed to because it's very valuable real estate. I don't have that many garden beds. I use a little fork from inside my house. Like one of those like regular eating folks and the night very very gently scoop out the cell taking care to make sure none of these little fragile roots break and I gently put it in this little prepared. Whole that I've made in the soil put fresh soil on top. Talk Him in really nicely. Like pat the dirt down and then. I do that with each one and the night gently water them and then for the days after the transplant. It's like a very sensitive time. Imagine you pulled up by the roots where you've lived your whole life and then you get planted some relatives. That's kind of scary. It's a lot of change big transition for a plant and then watch them really closely. Take Super Super Super Super Super. Good care of them. Make sure not to water the leafs because they can burn and just water the root super gently and then you know if everything goes well. They love it there. They grow big. Suddenly they go from like a little seedling to an actual plants and the cucumbers need to climb. So I have these little garden twines that are hanging from a structure above my garden bed that I hook with a little ring from the base of the plant and then asked the plant grows bigger. Sometimes it goes a little haywire and it like turns left or right or he wants to go down to the ground once like spread out across the bed. The nigen please take it plans and I wrap it around the twine and make sure guided upward so that it can keep reaching toward the sun and and up toward the sky so this is just one plant. I have like. I don't know fifty. Different things out there varieties in the garden. Maybe more so does is just wanted to share the time and love and encouragement and dedication it takes just for one thing to grow right and then to realize that everything you're growing is dying. There's like little things happening and it's not like these leaf miners and white flies and lizards. It's not like they're out to get me like it's personal or something even though it felt kind of personal with lizards for a while but this is nature. This is nature. Doing its thing like these. Insects exist for a reason. They want to eat right. It's like there's no I have no choice but to accept like this is nature and in the great scheme of things. I can't do much about it but to sit with all of this this months of this work and then basically in front of me watching it get wiped away watching it die watching it not work watching it all fall apart. It brought me to this place this morning of just like on my knees like head up at the sky does laughing like what do you want from me? God like this. Why is this happening but also I understand that this is happening. Because do you know what what is permanent like? Can you think of one thing in your life? That actually is there to stay one thing in your life that you can actually trust is going to work out. The actually know. Is there forever? I I was pondering this morning this you know I am. I couldn't think of a of a single thing and this is like the part as as human beings. We don't like to think about the permanence of things because it's really scary right. It really really is scary at the end of it. All each of us is going to die. Sorry I'm like taking such dark turn here but it's so absolutely true and we all kind of know it you know. We know at the end of this. Everyone is going to die. We know no one is here forever right but we can't walk around without knowing like in fun of our face in front of our minds. I all the time because life would be you know it would be too hard to bear. You are listening to the yoga girl. Podcast conversations from the heart. Let's talk about transfer wise the smartest way to send and receive money internationally. Or You're trying to get your money from eight to be. Do you need to support a loved one from afar or are you trying to maintain your business from home? Try Transfer Wise. There is no service quite like it. If you've ever had to move money across borders chances are you were haunted by hidden fees whether you used your bank or another provider. 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Try them today and get your first transfer it for free by visiting transfer wise dot com slash yoga. You are listening to the yoga girl. Podcast conversations from the heart. There's this this this Saying this quote that I don't know if you guys if you watch NBC's the good place you watched it before they ended. But I my love that show and there's a moment in there where Eleanor Kristen bell she says you know being at this is what a human being is. We're all aware that eventually we are all going to die eventually. This is all going to go away. So we're all just a little bit sad all the time like that's the pain of being human. I love that so much because I think it's really it's really true. You know part of this this underlying feeling that so many of us have of a little bit of unease right but little feeling of to something feeling unsettled or not one hundred percent all the time like I think it really relates to that to the fact that we know at the end of this none of this is here to stay we we can try and try and try and hold onto everything that we cherish but it's totally out of control in the end. We all die right so of course we walk around. And we're a little bit saddle all the time and when I was just looking at the garden us this one of these great metaphors of of this impermanent. Everything is is is impermanent. Doesn't matter you know how much time or lover that occasion I bring into these little seeds and seedlings and plants like at the blink of an eye and watch it all get wiped away so I was really contemplating y gardening. Why a lot of people have asked me that. You know if it brings you so much agony like if it's so hard if you have so many obstacles why don't you give up? You could pick up any other hobby. Yeah there's many things I could be doing with my time trust me. I'm well aware like I could sit on the couch and watch the good place. Instead of spending six hours a day out in the garden in the sun you know so why gardening. Why don't I give up? I love it? I love it and part about gardening. Is it that I love you know and I think I touched on this before? I didn't start this garden or you know. Get super super invested in this garden because of the destination right. It wasn't that I had a destination in mind and I think it would be different if that was the case if I started this garden thinking okay in x amount of months. I'm going to harvest this many vegetables. This much fruit this much herbs and Greens and then we're going to live off of that and that's the goal or I'm going to sell that and make some money and that's the goal or you know if the whole goal of this garden was the end game like I need to harvest food. I Want Harvest Food. Then probably would different right. I would get to a place where it just wouldn't be worth it but that's not why I'm gardening and I was really wondering what is it about this. What is about this process that keeps me going even though seemingly nothing goes my way right over the past two months. I can't look a single plants or single vegetable and go. That was a success. If success would be defined by a healthy trialling having thriving plant with a full life cycle with vegetables meat harvest in the end. No I have not had that. Unfortunately no if that's if that's how I would redeem success but what I think for me. Success around this garden is is the feeling of joy and the feeling of peace that I feel inside after having spent a day gardening that feeling of just being totally present would something that completely takes me away from. Any kind of stress pressure. Takes me away from from from my computer from my inbox from my to do list from the idea that there have to succeed at something from the idea that. I have to accomplish something in a day. You know really when I'm when I'm out in the garden doing what I'm doing. Whatever it is. I'm fighting the bugs rip seating or from harvesting like whatever I'm doing I'm just there like I'm just saying it's it's become this kind of direct pathway to the present moment and maybe that sounds cheesy. But it's kind of what it is like when. I'm out there. I am not pondering anything else you know and I'm out there alone like I will come out with me. Sometimes for a little bit. He gets bored pretty quickly. Then as we'll be there he's not into it at all like he loves that it's there he very handy with the things around like the building of stuff and he's he's invested but he's not out there like you know like seating things and and taking care of the plants and things like that so most of the time. I'm out there alone so it's become this this private time. Basically for me right gets be alone with myself and just be with myself right because even when I'm in the house even if we're having a quiet day like there's always something right. There was always. Laya wants something of me. Your dentist wants to talk about something or something coming up around the business or where. I got to empty the dishwasher. Or It's almost time for dinner like it's like my brain is always kind of incurred in the next thing that I need to do to keep our day running right but when I'm on the garden like four hours can pass and it's like in the blink of an eye like a word of that time go because I'm just so immersed in what I'm doing it's a real moment for me to just be in my body with Mother Nature and I think it's dot component of the fact that this is mother earth it's deep connection with with nature with the planet when I'm out there that's also helping me bring bring this level of presence into my day so that's why I keep going right. I keep going for the journey of it for the. It's not for the destination but it really is for the journey kind of like the practice of Yoga Right. I've had moments where I practice yoga because I wanted something especially in the beginning and then I had a couple of had like a year or two. Raga really caught up in the idea of poses and in the idea of an advanced practice were actually where I didn't feel good. And that's the the moments where I felt the most disconnected for myself in in practice when I've practiced for the idea of a result right like I want. WanNa be super flexible. That's my end game. That's why I'm practicing or I WANNA learn how to press the hands down. That's why I'm on the everyday. I WANNA lose weight or I WANNA versus. You know I'm here because it makes me feel good along the way same thing here. It's it's really the journey that I'm enjoying not so much the destination now would it be lovely to have thriving plants with a full life cycle and a garden that works with an abundant harvest head. Yes of course. Of course of course. Of course that's what I want. Of course of course of course but if that was the only thing that kept me going I would have quit this morning laughing. I would have been it for me would have been it. Let's pack up everybody. Let's all go home but but it wasn't right so taking that into account other areas of my life that are also impermanent and this is kind of where this conversation becomes very emotional from or a little bit. Scary for me is knowing that even an or also the most cherished parts of my life the most important things in my life the most important people in my life that is also impermanent just going down. That road makes me like oh I can sense a little shakiness inside. If I think about it too much I would. I would probably cry but and I know this personally. I know this well. I know a lot of you listening. Know this from experience but people i. It's just a fact people die even the people that that never in a million years. Could you ever imagine possibly anything like that happening to them or an extension to you? You know that that happens. I am following. I don't know how this has happened. Actually following three people online right now on instagram that are going through super super super challenging your worst moments of their lives where they're losing. They're losing someone under sharing that journey all line one of those people as she's called. Little Miss Mama on Instagram. And she has a three year. Old Daughter called Stevie super-normal healthy healthy girl. You know pretty much exactly the same age as as Luna and one day she woke up and she had some difficulty with her motor skills and and some some strange things started happening to our body and they went to the hospital in a really short period of time pretty much immediately found out that she has a terminal illness terminal form of cancer. And there's nothing they can do and she's GonNa die and I don't know how I started following her. Probably someone who shared it with me but now every day you know every time this mother share something and she's sharing its so vulnerably so Ross. Oh from the heart. It's like I can't not read it. You know it really hurts because reading. Her Story of course reminds me of the fact that he had. This could also happen to me right. It could happen to any of us. And we don't like to walk around thinking about that. Because life becomes too hard to bear right thinking of the fragility of things are mortality. The mortality our mortality. Our Children's mortality. Our parents our loved. You know. We can't walk around walk through our day and think about that. All the time would not be possible to live but just reading those little things every day. It's like it puts me in that place of yeah. Life is really fragile and we have two choices when it comes to that we can let that fragility completely paralyzes right can let a let it completely. Shut us down where we become immobile where we can't go on war where we just give up right where it's like. We become so paralyzed with fear that we don't take another step or we just quit on it all together and we decide. Hey I life is better off. Lived without close relationships without love right. If we've ever felt that feeling of knowing that a love can be taken away. Why try again right by? Open our hearts that way again. I was like that actually before I became a mom. I was so scared of having a baby because I know that people die and I had this big feeling inside that if I have a child and that and I lose him or her right if I have a child and the child doesn't make it like I I'll die. You know I I wouldn't make it through that and I and it was really real real. Fear that I had that didn't even become really present candidate and become conscious of until Luna was almost a year old that I was walking around every day with these thoughts. These fierce that any days. He's GonNa die right any days. You might say something freaky might happen and I might lose her and this is the this is the duality of life. It's like we get blessed with these kinds of loves that are so life changing. You know so Earth shatteringly big that once. We've experienced that kind of love. We can't imagine going back to not having it right but before that or at the same time it's like having that kind of love in our lives opens us up to the magnitude of actual loss so if we live without fear and fun of us all the time we might choose to actually knock over the love like why. Why go for that relationship right? Why Let Yourself Fall in love? Why let yourself really go for it with this person? Like and and I and I recognized this so much in in in a lot of people that I talked to this. This feeling of. It's easier for me to be the person to leave. I it's easier for me to self sabotage. It's easier for me to stay shut down and not let love in then let love in and also risk losing it because nothing's permanent right. Everything we love could be taken away. And that's also strangely somehow. What makes that love so big? And that's kind of what? I'm what I'm realizing about this. You know from from taking away from this garden too if this garden was permanent. Right if these cucumbers just grew if I knew the moment. I plant the seed. It's a done deal right. There are going to grow super strong. Super Big superfast. Give me an abundance of cucumbers. And that's it you know then. It wouldn't require my presence. The garden wouldn't require my president presence and wouldn't have to be there every day and I would miss out on the journey right. I wouldn't actually have that joy in the experience of being there watching these things grow. It's it's the process of nourishing them which I can only do because their fragile like if they weren't fragile. I wouldn't have to be there. Nourishing them it's the process of of of my presence there of my nourishing these things in this garden. That brings me so much joy without it. I wouldn't feel that joy when feel that love. I wouldn't have that experience of total presents if it wasn't for the fragility of the garden and it's also that same fragility. You know that that that brings me to these places of of man. I could lose it all and big obstacles of I am almost losing it all and I got to fight to keep it and it's frustrating and it's hard and then suddenly it's beautiful and it feels like it's working and then it's not we cannot have one without the other if a love is sure you know if it was like a written in stone. It's here to stay. We wouldn't feel that love. It's like the love depends on the vulnerability and the vulnerability depends on the love. That's why that's why we cannot have one without the other. That's why the love we feel for our loved ones whether it's our kids or our partner or friends or whoever it is. We feel that big earth shattering love for that loved. Wouldn't be the same if it wasn't also fragile it's the fragility of the love that makes it so special and that's you know the terror and the beauty of having children is knowing yeah for the rest of your life. Your heart is beating outside of your body and you have no control. You can pretend you can kid yourself think yeah. I'm going to keep my kids safe for the rest of her life. I'm GonNa make sure she's always safe like that's a joke you know. There are certain things I can't control like yes. I can make sure she doesn't reach up on the stove and burn her hand right. I can can hold her hand. When we crossed the street I can be next to her in the pool when she swims. But I ultimately do not decide what happens in her life. I am not God. I do not decide who lives or dies you know. Some three year olds get incurable diseases. And their parents have to watch them. Slowly slowly fade away like that's reality for people. They did nothing to deserve that. There's nothing that they could have possibly ever done to change that. That is just life so the contrast I guess the the balance guess actually of this is is the more we love the more fragile. It is the more fragile. It feels so the only thing we can do is truly immerse ourselves in the journey. Oh that love to be present with the people that we love every day to be present for the things. The practices the experiences that really bring us of that feeling of joy of peace of grounded. -Ness of of absolute love to be in that journey every step of the way and to not allow fear to paralyze us to not allow obstacles to shut us down or make us give up right knowing if I if I if I closed the chapter to this garden right now and said hey you know what is not working would be a huge loss. Be a huge huge huge loss. And kind of it's kind of like saying like hey you know this relates to something bigger conversation but I have realized we've been talking a lot about maybe potentially having another kid sometime in the future mostly kazlas asking for it a lot now. I'm not pregnant so everybody can stop asking but we're talking about it more because almost every day she says I want a brother and a sister and I have that feeling inside that remembrance of the first year of Laos life also came with so much fear for me. You know I was so scared that all a sudden she was going to stop breathing in the middle of the night and I know every mother feels that way but for me it was almost unbearable. And it's that feeling of another love into my life as big as to love. I have for Leo Luna also means letting another fear into my life as big as that fear it's like another level of vulnerability another heart beating outside of my body like how. How does one manage that? Everybody listening with two kids. Three kids four kids. Like how how? How can we let go to the point of having all of these children living their lives out in this big world? You know that whole concept for me. It's still like a little too big to grasp like I'm barely barely managing this one. Fred I love of this one child that I have. How on Earth could I possibly make that too right? Yeah also knowing that this is what everybody keeps telling me you know. It's it's double the love like imagined the love I feel for her again in a new person. New Human being like that thought is also so exciting and exhilarating. And you know it's it's like I'm on the brink there between between trust and fear between love and fear between yeah moving forward or shutting down so we'll see where that lands me but I think it's a good thing for for each of us to ponder this week. You know this week of the full Moon Scorpio. Lot of endings right things coming full circle closure completion of things. Maybe things were done with in some way you know. What does that area of your life for me. You've been holding back for a long time. Perhaps you've spent a lot of energy an area of your life that you feel done with and you find yourself with unexpected seeds that you could plant and grow elsewhere. Right maybe you have harvested some sort of abundance in different areas of your life and now you have space to grow something new. That's kind of what this closing of the circle is about. Perhaps there is a part of your life where you have been shutting down because we fear that big love big love is scary man so scary one of the scariest moments of my life. Literally one of the most most terrified. I've ever been standing on a on a mountain top in Maui. This twenty thirteen June of two thousand thirteen standing on top of Holly Ocala in Maui. Watching the most beautiful sunset had seen in my life literally most beautiful sunset. I've ever seen in my life watching Dennis. Go down on one knee. He went down on one. It was one of those like picture. Perfect most romantic unbelievable moments. You know the the love of my life I loved so much on one knee in front of me and the feeling inside of my chest was terror like absolute terror because it was this big. Was this big big big crossroads. Do I shut down. Say No actually saying Yes to this. It's too big for me. You know that love that. Fear that love and the potential of losing that love. It's it's too much or do I say yes and choose love. Even though it scares the living shit out of me say yes and choose love. Even though choosing love means a potential for loss one of the most terrifying moments of my life and I took a deep breath and I said yes best. Best Decision. I've ever made you know best decision I've ever made so looking at your own life you know. What are the moments in your life where you chose love any way right for maybe every day? You're braving that terrain of just vulnerability where you know that we can lose everything but it's the potential. It's the risk of losing everything that makes it so valuable. That makes it so popular. That makes it so beautiful and is an area of your life right now where you have been holding back while you have chosen to not let love it may be that fear of loss or that feeling of permanence is has become bigger than that longing for love and maybe now is a really good time to look at that to sit with that and perhaps the next time. The universe extends this opportunity to keep going to let love in to plant those seeds and to garden. You say yes you say. Yes what a life. What a life. What a life. What is this life? It's wild I wanna just take a moment to say? Thank you for listening for being here for listening to me. Talk about leaf miners and white flies and meal bugs. I think it's GonNa be really. I think we're GONNA have a really good good week ahead. You guys I'm feeling it. 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Coffee Grounds, Plant Emergencies, and Sweet or Savory Cooking

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Coffee Grounds, Plant Emergencies, and Sweet or Savory Cooking

"This is plant Brahma with Ellen sock said myself Seattle for Nari, it's the podcast for everyone who has ever grown eaten or wondered about plants today. We're talking about coffee grounds plant emergencies, and sweet, or savory cooking and one of our favorite things, of course, is to start out with what's for dinner, and I'm asking the question, sweet or savory so Ellen. Do you know some vegetables fruits or forged ingredients that can swing both ways? Of course. Yes, I do. And you know you never really have to choose. It's perfectly. All right. To swing both ways this season the end of June to me means above all else, black raspberries. I love black raspberries. It's a great time to forage for them. And everybody knows you can eat them in suite applications, but I like to use black raspberries in a marinade of vinegar based. Marinade for chicken and pork combined with a little bit of onion. It's fantastic. And it brings some sweet notes to the party, of course. But this is primarily a savory marinade, and it's a wonderful and unusual way to use the fruit. That's wonderful. Yes. And I think, you know, if you're a mediator or fish eater, fruits, combined very well with meat and fish. Whether you're talking blackberries, even blueberries peaches. Yep. So that's a great great combination. The thing that comes mmediately to my mind at the end of June in terms of sweeter, savory is caney summer squish oh, now, the your Nessie you're blowing my mind because I never thought of Keeney as being sweet. But you have just reminded me of my favorite dessert, that my I used to make it was, sweet zucchini with infield to all my gosh. I have to tell me what, what, how do you do a sweet thing with. Well, first of all, you can put graded up zucchini and. Chocolate cake. It's one of my, oh, it's what of my kids favorite recipes kidding from their youth. Because I used to make this chocolate cake, and I would say this cake has a secret ingredient, and the, the grated sukey makes the most moist and delicious chocolate cake. I can't you have to post that recipe on the show page chocolate cake. So that number one number two, you can make a faux apple pie using sliced zucchini. You basically slice up the zucchini. Ellen just as you would the apples and with cinnamon and maple syrup or Brown sugar, whatever you like to use whatever your favorite apple pie recipe is try it with Sakina. Gosh, I totally will. I don't know how to top that, but I do wanna point out one thing that I love to forage for this time of year, and you can find it all over the country. It's its botanical name is melody, some people call it mellowed. Some people call it sweet clover. This is not the small ground cover clover. It's a tall planet gets to be two or three feet tall. It's very pretty and it has a wonderful tarragon or vanilla like flavor to it. So I like to infuse vinegar with it and make a savory salad dressing. But I also like to infuse it in cream and make a custard or a fly on or a blood moan JR. And it's, it's a really nice flavor. It's unusual, and it's a roadside weed. Everybody out there can forage for. So do you have a picture of it that we can put up with our show notes? I certainly do picture a link to a recipe. How's that I'll see you a photo, and raise your recipe and I'll take them both with, with, with great appreciation? All right. Well sweet and savory what direction do you want to go and oftentimes you can use the same ingredient. In fact, you could create a kind of. A sweet and savory theme meal around various ingredients in your garden. For our insider information section today. We're going to talk about coffee in the garden. Is it good for plants is at two acidic, and because C L is the very famous myth BUSTER and author of coffee for roses. I'm going to turn to her for insight on this topic. See L should we be putting our coffee grounds in the garden? Well, first and foremost Ellen we have to remember the coffee grounds are an organic material and organic materials are good for most gardens. Right. The that's why we add compost, into a garden. That's why many of us mulch Ar- gardens or top dress with the topped up leaves and coffee is no exception to that coffee grounds can be wonderful for soil earthworms. Love coffee grounds. We know that, that will encourage earthworm activities, but people wonder isn't it going to make my soil to acidic and the short answer to that is no that the acid has come out pretty much in your coffee Cup? So, okay. So you've taken care of most of the acid, not only that, but as those coffee grounds decompose the ph comes to neutral, so they don't acidify soil, basically. So, you know, you'll see advice to throw your coffee grounds under your rhododendrons, or other acid loving plants by all means throw the coffee grounds under the rhododendrons, but not because you'd think that they are acidifying the soil. They are not. They will just be organic matter, and most plants, like a little bit of organic matter. Now, does that mean that you should go to your nearest Starbucks and bring home the buckets of coffee grounds that they are? Are willing to give you and poor those under your rhododendrons. Well, probably not. Because you can get too much organic matter, whether it's coffee grounds, or whether it is orange peels, or whether it's your own homemade compost, when you have put too much on your on top of the root systems of your plants. Your plants are not going to be happy. Well, this brings up my next question, which is, is this something you should be applying directly to the base of your plants, or should you put it in your compost, bin and mix it up with other things. It's up to you and it also depends on you know how you have your coffee grounds. I make my coffee, using a paper filter, and we put the paper filter and the coffee grounds right in the compost bucket. Now, I would not want to be throwing those paper filters out in my perennial garden because it would look pretty darn Mesic and my neighbors would not appreciate it when those filters blue into their yard. So but if I for some reason, decided to empty out those paper filters, put the paper filter in the compost, and then the coffee grants directly and the garden. I certainly could do that. You know, as I say, a light application of the coffee ground strictly on the surface of the soil, certainly doesn't hurt anything. The mentioned my book and thank you for that Ellen. But the book coffee for roses was titled after the very common belief that coffee has some magic woo for roses and that, you know, we should be putting coffee around roses because it has some special properties and people will endlessly speculate online about those special properties. The truth of the matter is roses, like organic matter. They don't care if that organic matter comes from your coffee, tea, or broccoli stems, or the remains of your ham and egg sandwich. You know, so he certainly put coffee around roses but you don't it doesn't have any. Magic properties. And and, you know, a coffee grounds are pretty attractive looking look a lot like soil. So throwing them right in the garden can be a fine thing to do. But you can also just put them right in your compost bin which is what I do. In our eat, drink grow segment. We have two words for you don't panic. Here it is midsummer, right. And people do have a common emergency situations in the mid summer, and let's talk a little bit about the common things that might seem like an emergency, or, or definitely are an emergency that we want to reassure people about talk a little bit about strategies. And so that people don't have to panic when they come home and see that their spouse has chosen the end of June, right before their PG hydrangea are going to bloom to prune off the excess growth of their PG hydrangea. And yes, your spouse has just pruned off the flowers. Don't panic. First of all, if you do have a fairly long growing season, where you are, if you don't get a hard frost till into October, those PG hydrangea will produce new flowers. Other types of hydrangea might not. But here's the thing, pruning a plant in the wrong time. Seldom kills it. So in terms of, of pruning errors in midsummer, don't panic. It's not going to kill your plan. Yeah. And that's a good thing to remember before you pick up the very sharp machete and question your spouse as to why he or she did what he or she did. Here's another thing you should not panic about if you have been away for the weekend, and there was a big thunderstorm, and maybe you've got some branches on a small tree, or shrub that have broken off, and, and you're worried, because this is exposed some of the that tree to what you fear. Might be Fogel or bacterial infection. And you don't have time to go to the garden center and buy something to treat this, don't panic. Take your prunes take your loppers, make a clean cut on that would and then go into the kitchen and get some cinnamon and sprinkle that cinnamon on top of the cut and that will give you some immediate antibacterial antifungal protection for that cut in the tree. And it does not create like a wound covering, that's going to encourage the gonna be moist and encourage fungal growth. It's a really good easy way to make a clean wound on that tree without having to run to the garden center. That's a great point Ellen. And I appreciate that advice about cinnamon. I forget that sometimes myself, but I do remember as an aside one time when my husband ordered orchids from India. They arrived dusted with Brown powder. And we realized it was cinnamon that before they pack before they packed up, these orcas for shipping, you know, halfway around the world. They dusted them with interesting. Let me talk about a common midsummer situation that you come home, and you're hanging bus good is complete. Because it so completely dried out. Right. You maybe forgot to water at for a couple of days or maybe you came home from a vacation, and the, it's clear that the neighbor who promised to water, your plants had forgotten, so don't panicked? But immediately get out the host. That is not the time to worry about the best time for water. Right. Right. The best time for watering is when you're planter thirsty. And so, whether it is about to be the middle of the night. Whether it is the middle of the night, or whether it is midday or no matter, where is when it is, if that plant is drooping, because it's thirsty bring out the hose run the host for minute to make sure it's not hot one point the. Yes. Right. Because sun, heated host water could finish plans, rather than revived the plant and water. The plants. Well and wanted them. Well, wait a minute. Come back on water again so that, you know that it's very well saturated many plants revive, even when they look like they're totally gone, some of them might not fully come back, the older foliage, for example, might not come back. But the newer foliage or the inner growth is still vital on that plant. And so, by clipping off the wilted foliage that doesn't plump up again. You can give that chance that planet do remember what said about water. It go away and come back and water it again. Because oftentimes when soil dries out, it becomes hydrophobic and the water that you apply. We'll just run through the cracks in the soil and not be absorbed. So by giving it a little bit of water giving it some time and then going back and watering, again, you're going to really make sure that, that, that plant has gotten wet. I want to mention one other don't panic situation here and. That is if you've been away for a week and your neighbor who promised to take care of your garden has let you down. And you see that you are covered with weeds, and you don't know where to start all my gosh. They're so many take a walk through the garden and look at which weeds are in bud or in flower, and pull those first because by not letting them go to seed. You are making sure you'll have less work in the future, the weeds that are about ready to go to seed. You want to get those up right away and to make your work easier if the soil is very dry, put the sprinkler, on or give it a little bit of water. I that's going to make it a lot easier for you to pull up the roots when you're weeding. So don't panic. Get out the hose, while you're watering, look to see which weeds are in bloom, and get those out of the ground I and if those weeds are very small, but there are zillions of them, don't panic. Hole that we talked about in a previous episode and just very quickly cut cut them off from their roots with the whole, that's one thing to do. Also realize that sometimes if you see a whole bunch of very small weeds. Remember that if, if it takes you a little while to get them up the bigger ones are actually easier. So, so that, you know that did that can be some consolation as well. But I love that advice Ellen about looking to see which ones are starting to go to flower it. You see a plant that seems like it has a disease and or even insect Intex attacking it, don't panic and be worried that, that insect or that disease is going to spread to every other plant in your property, one thing that we need to remember in the outdoors, is that most insects and diseases are pretty host specific. Right. And so that cedar apple rest that you might be seeing on your apple tree is not going to spread to most of the other plants in your property. Still on the milkweed are, are not going to go over to your Yarrow. They're just not interested. That's right. So, so don't panic about that. That usually insects and diseases have their favorites, as do, for example, rep. Yeah. And we did talk at some length in previous episodes about dealing with rabbits and deer. But I will remind you to do a search on our website for the mention of the rabbit, and deer repellant. That's made of eggs and milk with got a link to that recipe. And so if you have arrived home, and you have found that the bunnies have started to eat your annuals, or the deer are starting to graze, your Hoste, don't panic go and make that, that repellent and get those plants sprayed is there anything that people should panic about. If you've got a fire in your house, all the fire department and panic. But I like that question Ellen. And the reason I like that question is one thing that we do need to remember, for most of us, the plants that are surrounding our homes. We are growing for pleasure for most of us. We are not dependent on those plants for our winter survival. Right. And so if a plant, or two or even ten or even fifteen fail, he, you know, it's sad. It can be upsetting. It can be ugly. It can sometimes be financially costly. But for most of us are survival and the survival of our loved ones, and the planet are it's not threatened. And that's useful to remember, right? It's a really good thing to remember. We do this because we love it, and our lives do not probably, yeah. Do not probably depend on it. So address the situation as you can. But don't panic. This week's letter comes from Carol who is asking a question about garden tours. And she said, I heard your program about garden, walk buffalo and the Cape Cod hydrangea festival. And I'm thinking of going to one of these events this, July. Do you have any tips for garden touring? Well, sure I'm sure we have tips for that. Don't we see L? Absolutely. First of all, when you go on a garden tour, take a camera or a cell phone that has a good camera. Right. Yup. Because you'll want to take pictures so that you remember what that person did garden tours are filled with information information about new plants information about how you can put plans together in new in different ways information about the use of ornaments expressing your personality in the garden. It's so inspiring just to, to see what other people have done in two said, I. I never would have thought of that or why love that. But I'm going to do a little bit differently. It's a wonderful fun way of educating yourself, take along small notebook and a pen so that you can say to the homeowner or the landscaper, or whoever is there. What is that blue plant, you know, what is, what is that blue flower, or I've never seen this type of squash before what variety are you growing? And so you can write these things down. So that's another tip. Here's a tip don't steal the plans, don't pinch off cuttings people. Do it. Yeah. Don't do that. Take pictures but not anything. And also think about your personal comfort. I mean you're going to be out there walking around so, so make sure you're wearing comfortable shoes, and that you've got a water bottle and you've put on your sunscreen, you don't want to have to leave the tour early because you're getting a sunburn or your dying of thirst. That's right. Take a long insect repellent. If you're a mosquito magnet, where a hat with a Bram dress dress for the weather and dress for the occasion of being doors. And don't be afraid to ask questions. Gardeners love to have people ask them questions about their gardens. They'll be happy to answer anything you ask them. I do want to say one thing because Carol specifically mentioned garden walk buffalo and we were both recently sent a copy of buffalo style gardens which is written by Sally Cunningham and Jim Charleroi who both live in buffalo and the buffalo. Garden walk is famous and rightly so C L, and I had the pleasure of doing that walk a couple of years ago, and it is a wonderful agglomeration of highly personal gardens spread throughout the city and this book that Sally and Jim have written is a feast for the eyes. And if you can't go on a garden tour just by this book, and you will be inspired by every single photograph so many wonderful croaky, personal ideas of how to make a garden truly your own, I, I would say Ellen that anybody who has a small property would benefit from buffalo style gardens because many of the gardens pictured are very small, anyone who likes a lot of color a lot of plants and anyone who likes to be creative in their yard and anyone who likes to create outdoor living spaces should have this book, and you don't have to live. You don't have to have any connection with Buffalo New York to get so many good ideas from this book buffalo style garden. So because if breaks it down breaks the garden down and gives you different like project oriented things at talks about how do you furniture to make an impact how to us plants how to reflect your own personality? It's a wonderful book and it's its garden tour between two hardcovers. It's available from Saint Lintz press, and where all books are sold. Carol, also mentioned the Cape Cod hydrangea festival, and it is coming up until I am any of you who can get to the Cape from July twelfth through the believed through the twentieth. It's the ten days after fourth of July opens the twelfth with hydrangea university at heritage museums and gardens. Full morning of learning about hydrangea, and I'm going to be speaking. There. So I hope to see some of you, and there will be gardens open Cape wide. There will be businesses having special events talks. And, and there's the Cape Cod, hydrangea festival, cocktail trail while where you can go to different restaurants and sample, the festival cocktails signature cocktails that bartenders have come up with for information about both garden walk buffalo and Cape Cod. Hydrangea festival. You could just put those names in Google, and Google will give you all the information you need to attend one of these wonderful garden, festivals and be sure. And check out the garden tours that are in your area, this summer and fall because you're going to have a great time. Carol I hope you make it to one of those events. I hope many of our listeners make it to a garden event this summer. And if you have a question. That you'd like us to address on a future podcast. Please send it to us at plant, Rama at g mail dot com. And if you think of it go over to apple podcasts and give us a rating at helps us out, and it helps other people. Find plant Rama until next time grow great things, protect while places and play in the dirt.

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