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Sexual Initiation Techniques That Actually Work
"This person rates in from denver. He says i'm fifty nine. She sixty one been married for twenty. Six years were empty nesters. Living in cova times frequency is about two to three times a month. But it's gotten very pretty predictable. Can you help me with sexual initiation. I want to keep things fresh mo. We can try brandon. How do you initiate sex. Oh jeez sometimes. I'm very lazy. And i do the what is it. What do you call it the poco. I know you're there. And the other times i find that i do have to kind of push myself. I know that i enjoy sex. Knew that that. I know that you enjoy sex so i know that if i push myself to initiate that it's going to likely be a win win for all part but how do you initiate so. Yes the puck from behind like especially in the shower lately. Come into mcdonald's tang my towel on that. Just hold my towel. How old do i initiate. You feel like you're putting me on the spot. I mean the pope from behind his goto. What else do i do. You tell me so. I i tend to initiate sex by Touching caressing kinda stroking your body. I think that that's what works. And it's funny. Because as i'm saying what i do. I know that that's what works for me. Like i know that that sensuous touch is what relaxes me and kind of gets me into the head space physically and mentally into sex. Why do that when we're trying. I'm trying to initiate sex with you. Yeah you're very you're definitely physical. I think most people sink physically when they think about sexual initiation you. I guess i want to begin by talking about planting sex seeds. So this is from our latest book the book that i wrote with marla the ultimate guide to seduction and four play. And i make sure. I plug it so that you know that this is marlins work too because succeeds are actually her creation in. She describes them as seductive clues about what is to come in a future sexual experience so they can be planted in the morning. If you wanna get busy at night or you can plant them throughout the week before you meet and you know she says to really consider what type of sex. Your lover likes. So do they like it romantic. Do they like to be filmed. Are they publicly. Experimental and really think about an aerobic activity that you can plan on your own and plant a seed to set the tone so if your partner likes to be spanked. Maybe you're leaving a spanking instrument in their car like a paddle spoon from the kitchen. Or maybe you leave a photo of it in their purse or their briefcase or maybe you leave them a note in their lunch bag and text them a photo of it in your hands. You're the ideas. You're watering the succeed. Kind of leaving additional clues. And i know people aren't really going to work right now but still you have different areas of your home you can use and it. It's interesting 'cause marla reminds us that this whole process of planting succeeds can kind of offer a distraction to reduce stress overall. And help you to kind of weave eroticism throat your day to day interaction so i think the most important thing that i would want to emphasize that initiating sex can't really happen on the spot right. It is really about the way you interact at breakfast for the evening or on monday for
Interview With Caty Caldwell And Jessica Odeyemi
"This is the first of a series of technically two hundred talks or roundtable conversations. Where it's not just a one on one. But one onto plus. And i am very excited about this one because we have miss jessica odor yemi once again from ibm technical product manager. And we've got Ms katy call technical program manager at facebook. Such a pleasure to have you both here to night so i just wanna start with one question for each of you in. Why don't we start with katie. Katie what's your first memory of being excited about tech my first memory of being excited about tack. It has to be. I think in my freshman year computer science course. It's like an introduction a computer science. I just remember. I had started at princeton as a chemical engineer and i was just like i was in my first chemistry class. I was like this is like watching paint dry like this is not like the chemistry. I know from high school and i was just really excited about this idea. Setting chemical engineering. But when i took my first computer science course everyone had worn me before the course that was going to be so challenging difficult and i just remember just like enjoying every assignment and every assignment just felt like it felt like a puzzle. Felt fun and i. I felt like i was spinning. Just an inordinate amount of time. Just focus on by computer science work over my chemistry homework and i hadn't even got into sort of like the chemical engineering courses yet and i was like this'll make sense. Why by studying. Something that i am like. Great like begrudgingly. Getting through versus has studying something that i love so i just remember just being super excited about the next assignment and computer science like always wanted the next one wanted to do like the extra credit. I love that and jess unless you that same question. Yeah so let's see. I got into the tech industry per se a little bit later in life. But i remember the first time i was excited about anything. Simulated was an elementary school. When i found out I don't know if you've ever heard of them ike rube goldberg projects Like i don't know if you've ever seen a movie pee wee's big adventure. But at the very beginning he has all these contractions that connect to each other to do different things. But i kind of find out found out an elementary school. There was. We were introduced to the the concept of a rube goldberg project. In thought it was so cool. So i did something similar for science fair project and i thought it was the coolest thing ever As far as you know the tech industry goes. I think that happened much later in life for me. So that probably didn't happen for me until i was working and i think we've chatted about this a little bit before but i was working in the oil industry and it just occurred to me that i was out on the rate drilling wells and that was great but there was this whole other world behind what we were doing. You know software insistence. That was kinda powering. Everything that we were doing out in the field. So i think that's when i first got into Tech per se jessica. I did the rube. Goldberg is file. When i was younger. i've loved it. I went to the. I went to the national competitions. Like and since. I'm so close to purdue growing up so i would go to indiana. Just go see what the students The cooking up so had logged. Rube goldberg did that. When i was like what is the most extravagant way to crack in a like the prices so so member game mouse trap. I love that like that.
Dating with Herpes: Disclosure, Stigma & Healing
"Welcome back courtney. How're you doing doing almost like guilty. Well despite how things going for a lot of people at this point right now There is a lot of overwhelm on my end in a positive way so Just this past week was two weeks ago While something positive positive people now is a nonprofit organization in a met with my board about me paying myself salary in being able to partner working to raise more money so that we can extend the services that we provide which were providing mental health related services for people who have experienced sexual trauma. That's what i want to eventually be able to say but right now for where we are. I'm basically paying for people to get their if he if they needed so Where we are right now. I got that approved in now. I mean conversations with some sexual health related organizations about partnering with them on their grant applications in getting funding. So things suddenly got very real for me. That that's great. Congratulations congrats on some needed support because with a herpes diagnosis. Oftentimes your medical practitioner will focus on the physical side but not necessarily the mental health side. And one of the things that i've learned throughout just doing this work and recording the podcasts and all of the different conversations. I've had with people not only with hiv but also have hiv or who've experienced a media gonorrhea. Syphilis diagnosis is that there is a direct connection between sexual health and mental health. And i think that that intersection is really wear stigma resides and until that gets addressed from that perspective. Like i think there's an over emphasis on the fact that someone has. Sei being Just like oh. This is sex related when it's also so mental related and then that part is completely goes unnoticed. Oftentimes like winds. Someone's being given a diagnosis well. Let's back up just a moment For folks who haven't listened to your podcast yet. But i know they will i. Can you tell us your story and why you started something positive for positive people. I will keep this as brief as possible. Because it's such a long story but The most important things that i've been positive for general. Hse to which is the virus that causes herpes outbreaks. For about eight years. Now and for the first four to five years of my diagnosis. I just kind of was doing things away that i knew to do them with. Just take care of abidi manage my stress And just keeping my immune system of his best i could. It was year four. Five into my diagnosis that i began to come across different communities of people. With herbie's in this is a in various social platforms as well as dating websites. And once. i got there. Like i was excited to be there because there were so many other people who were living with this when i get your diagnosis despite what the statistics say you're the only person you know who has virus unless someone has opened up to you pass or less than one opens up to you recently. After your experience you know for many of us were the only person that we know. And so i got into these communities in start socializing. I'm dating in. Life is great for me. But here and there i would find it. There was someone who expressed wanting to end their live after their diagnosis. So suicide idea even suicide attempts and after seeing that a few times it wasn't just like a one off thing was pretty calm and so i began to reach out to these people go. Hey you know it's not that bad and this is probably the worst thing you can say to someone who is having suicide at the asian. So what i started to do was a lot of these. People didn't look like means they didn't have my life experiences so to speak. So for instance like me saying that to a younger white woman or an older hispanic man or someone of a different ethnicity or age range or geographical location didn't really carry the same way as it would from someone may have looked like them or had like similar cultural background so i began just recording conversations with people that perhaps we otherwise wouldn't hear from These are people who are okay with their diagnosis. There's good days and bad days due to the stigma but these people who would probably never hear from about their experience were willing to just converse with me on a recorded platform for me to send to these people directly after a while To give you an idea like there's so many people that this was happening for that. I got overwhelmed with just sending emails and butchering the email address. Having the recent making sure they got it in all of that. So i decided to put all of these recordings up into one place which turned into something positive for positive people podcast platform
One Page At A Time, Jess Wade Is Changing Wikipedia
"So today. We're speaking with just weighed in experimental. Physicists at college. London and every night for the past three years just has written a wikipedia entry about a woman or poc scientists. And if this sounds like a big commitment that's because it is. But what motivates. Just keep with. It is the possibility of using wikipedia to combat the bias. In science. We see it in who gets through peer review. We see it in who gets big papers. Cited we see who gets big grants. We see it and who wins awards. And that means that the people that we celebrate and champion incredibly homogeneous and when wikipedia launched the internet was a very small space and it was very dominated by particular types of people. This kind of you know. Tech bro attitude that we still see in silicon valley and places like that majority white majority western a lot from north america some from western europe and those were the first people to start using it engaging in contributing to wikipedia backed according to a twenty twenty study. Eighty seven percents of wikipedia. Contributors are men with media includes wikipedia wick wicky quote a bunch of other platforms and for just this bias in. Authorship creates a bias in who gets a biography so this huge systematic bias against women against people of color against people from the global south against people who are from any kind of particular marginalized group. So it's kind of two things when we have a very diverse editorship and to the things they writes about a not very diverse and this is obviously impacted by the way that science celebrates people and who took about who we define as notable. Right right just to confirm by. Now you've written what nine hundred articles for the site. Oh no no. How many i've written i've written one thousand two hundred one thousand two hundred whatever so sub usually get a bit excited so obviously that's not three hundred sixty five times three so sometimes i get a little carried away but in general i try and stick to one a day sometimes. Yeah yeah. I mean. I've been going for three. Yes so i've done a pretty good job that in those i. We thought a lot about how to ask you this question. Because twelve hundred articles is an extraordinary accomplishment as far as contributing to this encyclopedia. And so the question we're going to go with is if you could build a quarantine bubble with some of the people that you've written about living or deceased who would you include and why should question so so for sure. I'd have to have some of the people developing vaccines enough air. The person who created the oxford vaccine which is is the vaccine this just been approved for use in the uk. A viral vector vaccine is a phenomenal professor. Sara gilbert sara gilbert has had this kind of fascinating rich directory working on the development of a whole bunch of different vaccines that can walk in different corona viruses and kiss kubat. I don't know if you've come across any of your reporting. She's she's a young african american women who is at the national institute of health and had walked back scenes for for sars and mers. So has this really great legacy but also alongside. I kind of scientific research. An extraordinary publication list works to support people from undeserved communities and walks to really amplify the voices of scientists who too often overlooked but also to support young people and getting into an ethic about science. So that people at different ends of that curric- his kizzie is still very young. Where saratoga established professor but both of them have this kind of extraordinary pathway to really ultimately creating the thing. That's going to save the entire world so suddenly. If i if i had according to about they would be in it. I think that. I mean how many people might out in my quarantine babo because i could keep going. There's no official guidance but the often cited wisdom is less than ten. I'm so primed and ready to tell you stories about everyone. I'm so excited about them. So mainly because i have been. She's someone who i wrote about right at the beginning of my wikipedia. A mathematician who gladys west. She was born in virginia in the thousand nine hundred and she went to college. She went to a historically black college and university to study maths. She goes off in becomes the teach She then eventually what the us government. Wes she did the early computations and calculations for gps so for all of the technologies that almost everything that we do day to day relies on. Now you know you get in your car keys your phone. You try and navigate took particular location. You use the technology that gladys west created. And when i made gladys west page in two thousand eighteen is really hard to find. Information about. Her book is what for the us government so lots of things are adopted. A couple of months. After i put the page live so after i'd finished writing it and put it onto wikipedia. She was selected by the bbc is one of the top one hundred women so she went into the kind of top one hundred women in the world for any intentional creation. Contribution ebba and when you're on a web page like fat when you're on a page so much traffic and insight people hop over to the wikipedia page really quickly so you could just see the numbers of page views of of the wikipedia. Page going up and up and that meant that more and more people contributed to it so grew story grew. How did that make you feel. I just loved it. I was reflecting on this a lot with with my parents lockdown wife. I kept going live. I kept doing this. And i find nothing more rewarding honestly than seeing other people get recognized then champion for what they've done so absolutely love to have quarantine bubble that so many things that i want us. Yeah and you're collecting. I suppose historical information across different websites and books to write these biographies. Has it ever feel like time travel. Yeah completely does feel like time travel. It's it's so it's so interesting. The things that i find kind of thrilling and exciting now feels such a kind of privilege in a rush to be able to get access to all of the resources that we can do. Now you know online libraries. Nine archives sites archived magazines scientific journals extraordinary places that that turn to for this and there are times when you just feel like fantastic achievement. So so if you see in a lot of the world's when women get married they take their partner's name so sometimes it's quite difficult to find out things about their lives if they got married and all of their publications in this new name. And when you find that one link that one connection that tells you that maiden name and then you can go back and find their phd thesis or who was there examining all this extra level of information. So when i get to that. I'm like jump off the sofer like this is great and say yeah. It's completely like a portal into another world. Right i mean. I've chills just listening to you. Talk about this kind of forensic reconstruction of people's lives and who they were outside of who. They married or other kinds of societal markers of that. Yeah a big part of it. I think a big part of my efforts wikipedia. Who i've met the people that we've trained editor phones is to not just make pages about women no make pages about people of color but to make them as good as the comparable page would-be about a white man. Yeah yeah you've been amazing way of connecting all these dots. I really appreciate hearing that I wanna ask you one one last thing. Which is i know that in a lot of ways just talking to you. It sounds like this project is part of such a bigger desire to see science really include nbc driven by all kinds of people. And what do you think it will really take to bring more women and poc's into science so that they stay. Oh such a good question and such a huge one. I mean they're very preliminary simple things that low hanging fruit. If you will know why we don't already have in place you know proper care and support for people who have caring responsibilities so whether that's you know elderly parents or sick parents or especially now in the pandemic who seeing the importance of the childcare and how that skin influence women scientific careers if they're having to work from home but i think more than that we need to really look a scientific institutions and ask really critical questions about why people are leaving. Why do we see. So few black professes. Why do we see so few women in position of leadership. Why do lgbt he. Plus scientists not feel comfortable being out when they're in the scientific workplace and then really put money to and take action to address those individual needs. But i think from a kind of how you get more diverse people into science. I really honestly think the answer is improving our education systems and really support our teachers better. Pay them as well as we pay are bankers so that they stay and so that they create kind of inspiring science lessons. Then go out and got this next generation to come in who keep pushing for this change that we want
Turning the Page with Peloton Instructor Jess Sims
"Today. I am sitting down with jess sims. She is a peleton instructor and extraordinary. Human just how you doing always better when it gets talk to you emily. Oh gosh i watched. Just this makes my day. I've been looking forward to this conversation all day here on here at all. I am catching up with some of my all time. Favorite guests from the last couple of years away to round out the year and so naturally one of the most listened to episodes of hurdle in two thousand twenty a yes. Stop it star jazz. You're making me blush things that you can't see on a podcast so i'm bringing just sims into the mix adjust how are loaded question to start off. How are you doing. i love me. Loaded question on a right now. Do well thank you for asking. It is my day off and not by getting to be adults things that i like to push aside on my busy workdays in just enjoy. It's snowing actually for the first time in new york city today. See technically speaking. It's been snowing for a few hours. So i will take the like sundance with like for the first time with a grain of salt. I've definitely seen snow this year. But this is like a new. No yes i mean. Nobody teaching and inspiring all. You're socio. I mean okay fine but yes fair. I looked out the window. And all i see is white. So it's a. It's officially a good snow day. I'm into it. I'm into it so i mean we're talking about snow now but we've been talking about for. The last year is the fact that this year is unlike any other. So give the hurdlers. Catch me up a little bit. Talk to me about how your twenty twenty has been. Oh man Twenty twenty what a year it has been it blows my mind that it's december. Let me start off by saying that. I feel like the last before before. Twenty twenty bt. I'm gonna. I'm gonna coin that officially here the last like memory i have before. Pre pre pandemic was black history. Month that peleton and so it's wild because we're revving up for black history month. Twenty twenty one and so am i wait a minute. I just feel like i. It's a time travel but it's been a year full of a lot of stuff a lot of alone time a lot of reflection a lot of community a lot of realization that i'm really excited to dive into with you today and i wouldn't have traded and of course this year has been brutal for so many reasons for so many people but i wouldn't trade this year because it's done so much for me personally. It's also gotta be really interesting. I mean especially with what you do. So many people around the country around the world are looking toward peleton this year for inspiration and motivation and like sanity and you are the person that is providing that sanity to so many people so i would imagine that although what a beautiful opportunity to connect with these people like pressures on me. That's how i would see it from my point of view like i would imagine that for you. Maybe more than ever being really honest about what you need and where you're at is so important to show up for your community totally and i think that that's one of the things that i pride myself on. Always being very real so I was just talking a couple of weeks ago. you might have heard it in class By the way. Thank you for taking classes. That i love the phrase. Amplify the positive. Because it's not you don't wanna be overly optimistic to the point where you're annoying. It's the point where you're like okay. But you're you're undermining the pain and the suffering that so many people are going through but you can always find the positive and by using the word amplify it's acknowledging that life is not all roses but there are some beautiful things much. Choose to put those up higher. Focus on motives and for me personally. It's the secret as saying this whole thing. Secret thing that i was thinking in my head was yes. Wow i am doing so much for other people you know. We're almost four million members of our world wide with at the time and i don't take role lightly whatsoever and but the secret is that y'all have done more for me than you could ever imagine because there was a point in time where i was not working out unless i was teaching. I couldn't get myself to be motivated enough to get up and teaching. Because i didn't want to do it for myself. I was like oh it's easy to just you know. Hang in today's easy today to just you know. Forget about those goals. And forget about the things i said i wanted to do. But because it's my job. Because i need to show up i find my strength in the stories of our members. And so when you get a dm or a comment or your tagged in a post though someone saying jess the i'm your the only bright spot. Peleton is the only bright spot in my twenty twenty. I'm a essential worker My mom is sick. am a single parent. I have three kids under three like. There's the story's never cease to amaze me and on my toughest arcus day I'm like these people need me in able to transcend myself and realize that it's bigger than me and i'm able to get up there and perform and i it it it helps me. I hope just as much as it helps others.
Fat Mascaras Annual Naughty & Nice List
"All right. We're going to kick it off with a little naughty. Okay who's been naughty this year jess so my on the top of mind audie list are all the agents. The hollywood agents were telling their celebrity clients. Right now you know what i see for you. Doll and twenty twenty to your face on a cosmetics line. You need a skin care line. Almost saying the world needs it. But i think we're good for now. It really has been a year of celebrity line. Launches hasn't it yes. I've got a list of someone's that i don't know if they've all launched this year but here are some names you've talked about in the podcast this year ready ready lady gaga letting gaga. I mean we just talked about her last week as you know her. She trademark for skincare. Line that she has. I know house of gaga makeup line. Jennifer lopez is launching her line at the beginning of twenty twenty one riana fendi fifty skin Just launched for rail launches getting caroline alicia keys launched a last so clare which is like a whole skin-care but it's even bigger than skin care. It's a whole beauty nettle health. Line carmen electra. Into that one. We didn't even talk about her yet. To raji p. Henson has a haircare line. Selena gomez has a makeup line and yet. Does you doing skin to. It's not yet operative word serena williams is into hair care right or no no cisco son care. Spf member eleven. Yeah eleven right lauren. Conrad we had on the show. She is doing makeup end. Skin-care kristen bell she come out with a line or best friend. Kristen who we will fight to the death if you say anything bad about her so i don't have any problem with any of these individuals by any means. Were really well done. I liked a lot of products from a lot of those lines. Yes so we're not you know. I don't wanna hear like wait a second. You guys had these people on the show you promote them. What are you saying. You're talking to both sides your mouth. That's not it it's just. There's a saturation of celebrity. Like beauty. lions right now. I'm not sure how many more we need at like. I'm not sure how. But we definitely don't me. I don't know how many more the world needs. And i'm not really sure what. Us ps unique selling points. There are if we have too many more celebrity cardi right now through zeta-jones with her mar inducing video. Yes with her eyeliner. Like i just. I'm just not really sure how much more we can add to the conversation right now before it becomes like a parody. Do you remember all the fragrance lines came out like the end of the two thousands. It was like every celebrity became drink. Eventually yeah yeah i just. i'm nervous. Were getting to that point. Yeah i i. I agree with you and i think in general i found my job as somebody. Who's a beauty journalist. Who wants to try things and bring you the best. I found it really hard this year. There was just too damn much. Yeah so naughty naughty to the faceless agency i like it or blaming agents. It's true because those people get money out of it to all right Minority was my naughty mask. Ni twenty twenty two biggest off twenty twenty mask asked matthey okay so you guys know what that is that we didn't it didn't even this existed. We have the name. we had hormonal acne. Which often shows up on the lower half of the face. This is different. I got pimples this year in my mustache area. that's not hormone acne. That's mask me. Get this the american academy of dermatology published research papers. An eighty three percent of healthcare workers in china suffered skin problems on their face this year. Because everybody's walking around in a pp's which great a warm moist environments will logged pours. Acne and i'm just going to add onto acne naughty enough. it's not just acne. I was doing some more research on this and basically what the mass does. It just creates an inclusive environment the same way like your pimple patch does when you're healing pit bull that's good in some cases but not when you're using active ingredients so hey guys out there if you don't have mask knee. Heavy notions really read or the sides. Of your mouth cracking. Maybe he's a retinoid. It's more effective under that hot moist -clusive environment so like you gotta you gotta like pare back on all the active stuff.
They Call Us House of Ho
"N welcome to another edition of they call the spruce not filter conversation about what's happening in eastern america and reality television and i'm jeff yang and as the ho- holidays approach. We are here. Yes yes yes because this is this a moment for plans. We are here to talk about the brand new reality tv. Show on the block. House of ho show that does seem to exist primarily to make about the name. Ho shonda for asians. Everyone knows getting. It's it's a fun show. Show that Is definitely worth talking about. And we have some great people talk about it with us first of all our friends. Our colleague Our collaborator jammu. Who is producer of the podcasts southern friday and the forthcoming movie daughter and has the morgan with fillon myself in fill one. I don't know a little bit of a book project which we can talk about some other time and welcome to the podcast jess. Thank talk about this. Yes you are not alone. We would also love to welcome to they. Call bruce both you guys. First time right hon win. Who is the senior culture editor at salon and co host of good pop culture club. Another podcast in our Podcast family so welcome to the show. Yeah a happy to be here. I'm yeah shocked that it's taken so long for me. Ask but i feel like this is the one i meant to be on me. We definitely we definitely asked to vietnamese american women to be on the pike. Ask very specifically to talk about this show. And i like han when i asked you. I may have been like kind of presumptuous. And that like you know you're you're an entertainment journalist. Who's vietnamese american. I was like. I just assumed that you had watched you like interested and watch watched house of hope when i asked you. I presume that was true that you did and so and so. That's why you're like. Yeah i'll be on the on the podcast. It was funny because you know. I should've expected it and yet you asked me. I was like oh. Of course. Because i'm actually from houston perfect practically a ho hos and they were none of them though. 'cause toes what to private school system so we should say that house of hose on hbo. Max it is a Reality television series in the vein of all those shows that you that no one wants a care to admit to watch like the cardiac shahs of sunset and The real housewives that genre But it specifically focusing on a very wealthy vietnamese american family in houston Have i covered all the bases. I think pretty much. I mean know we we can say that the the cast of characters is What you might expect for a family drama whether fictional or not set in an asian context right you've got sort of the patriarch matriarch the siblings they all have different dramas individually collectively. They gathered together. Eat a lot basically. This is the nonfiction crazy rich issue. Because that's exactly what what was clearly developed to be right right right. It's definitely created in the wake of the cruiser cheese But that said i mean we've all watched it in varying degrees varying varying number of episodes. I will admit to having watched the first episode and a later episode. That i was told i should watch because it was worth watching and the guys are pretty finished. A lot of it right. So unless the jump in Just start with you. What's what's your take coming up. Well i guess well i. I actually ended up catching it early. Screener of it before so. Luckily i only watch more so It to be blunt. It was not as trashy as what i expected it to be. Maybe no expectations. And like i feel like new money. Beat amuse people like there are certain type and how the show presented was Surprisingly a a lot. More layered than i thought you know especially particularly when You know you go deeper into the series because at first episode definitely like leaned into like this this like you know american dream poll by the bootstraps model minority and all that jazz and and then it starts off like that and then just breaks it down and just show us like just all the dysfunctions of the family. So you know actually was an keep in mind. I don't really watch. the family. Reality shows is just not my thing. But you know i had to see it. 'cause beat me representation and you know all my worries and concerns
Amazing Race 32 finale recap and winners
"Think you really do yourself any favors starting in a different spot because your baby could be in any of those cakes rights not placed in cake number six hundred thirty in each and every one it could have been one on the table or it could have been one of the racks but doesn't matter because both she and madison had to go back once over because they weren't even even no matter who they chows. Congratulations to the winner of the amazing race. Draft it is. Mike bloom there. We go mike bloom did it. He had the fifth pick overall. Took willing james so that that's sting's because Each of us Myself jess dan. Heaton we all had the chance to take a shot at will in james. It was mike. Blum who took them fifth overall winner of the amazing race draft. Thank you boys for doing that. I mean it's interesting as well. I know that said this all the way back during our preseason podcast. it's also notable will and james our first male male team winners since the apprehension season twenty four Which is crazy. Considering that spoiler alert going back all the way to the beginning of the amazing race three out of the first four teams that one were male male teams so just sort of see whether it was due to the casting or the circumstances. It's been a while since this type of thing is happened. I would also not call willing. James typical alpha males. But it was a fun thing wrong. I'm happy to continue to go undefeated in our amazing race strapped here until we meet again. Well the fire my i. It's though i think you know just
Attachment Styles, Overcoming Anxiety And How to Feel More Secure
"Joining us. Today is dr jeannette giulio. a clinical psychologist. Ceo and founder of path will clinic in toronto and a friend of mine. Nice to see you from afar. Likewise dr jess. How're you doing. I'm hanging in there. how about you same. You know when one day at a time. We're you know we're in toronto. So we are now in lockdown again. the next twenty seven days. But who's counting. You know so taking it one day at a time. So are you. Seeing patients. Virtually as well. Yes in person as well so mental health. At least where i practice ontario has been deemed an essential service which means i can see clients in person and some people. Just prefer that What i am primarily seeing clients virtually which is nice who a lot of clients now as you know are working from home So that doesn't get in the way of them. Doing therapy can talk to them from anyhow anywhere now so i probably seeing about seventy percent or so of my clients. Virtually in about thirty in person. Okay and are you seeing anything pop up or any themes since the onset of covid. Yes for sure So anxiety is say the number one presentation that i'm seeing and that's true where people maybe are experiencing anxiety pre pandemic and now is just been exacerbated but i'm also seeing a lot of new anxiety and people who don't have any history of it are now quite fearful and anxious not necessarily you know about the virus itself or contracting there some of that really. The anxiety relates more to Just the unknown right in the uncertainty of this all and what this means for them right personally professionally financially. Uncertainty is a hard thing for people to deal with right and we've never been a more uncertain time as of now so this is triggering a lot of anxiety and what i'm seeing now because we're now in months nine ish kind of this pandemic I'm now starting to see depression. That's now have emanated right from the consequences of lock downs in the various restrictions. That we've been under So you know we were talking earlier on. It's been a busy time are not just for me for all of my colleagues in mental health. I've never seen anything like this in my career. Certainly i've never been this busy so a lot of people are having a hard time with everything that's happening. Yeah that makes sense an icon ask. Are you seeing a lot of anger or rage attached to that anxiety. Because i'm noticing with me that i'm just snappier than ever I wouldn't i wouldn't call it rage necessarily but i just like every little thing irritates me when it didn't use to and one thing that i had kind of a discovery this week doc i i was thinking i was thinking about kind of my frustration and my anxiety. I'm i'm a very low anxiety person. Normally and i actually love stress and i really enjoy risk. And that's part of why i've kind of designed maybe subconsciously or maybe purposely. My work the way. I have right flying all the time you know. Maybe you missed the flight. Maybe you make it in time. Maybe you don't. Those are the types of things that many people find distressful. But i actually take comfort in it and i realized just last week that even though i'm still doing my work in many ways i've i've lost my job because my job really entailed travel every traveling every week and working with groups in person and i'm lucky that i'm still getting to do some work online but there is a real sense of loss to the lifestyle that i was accustomed to living that again. I know most people wouldn't wanna live that lifestyle right. Sometimes people say oh. Can you pack in your bag. And i'm like you would not want to do what i'm doing. No i know it's sort of his view. You're a little bit like me. You like to bounce around. So so i made it all about me. Let's let's talk about. Let's talk about frustration and anger. Are you seeing a lot of that. Yeah well frustration you know slash anger irritability right those are all or can be manifestations of both anxiety and depression and you know in a in a case such as yourself where you were really you designed your professional personal but also professional lifestyle to the degree that you wanted it right. You had agency and ownership of that and what this pandemic has done is essentially taken that away right and for people who are very independent. Are you know. Yeah are independent spirits. This pandemic has been hard to deal with because it's made them feel out of control right. Something was taken away from them rather quickly and there's this feeling that they can't really do much about it and that for sure can trigger erna ability anger in many people right but especially people with that very sort of self sufficient independent spirit.
How Kane Simms Co-Founder of VUX World Got Started in Voice
"My first experience with voice. It was in some like early. Twenty seventeen a has. When i i kinda come across alexa. Obviously i knew about siri before that but it never used to work. Didn't understand me. It probably thinks majority as well And so i kind of played around but never really understood. The impact of it are what was actually going on. I just thought it's just the way of control and your phone just media wealth out well and then seen alexa and i thought there was something about it. That was different. Maybe it was because it was a specific device that was purely to be spoken to. Don't know about. I remember seeing it and i remember having thought when i first seen it before realize skills were before i realized what the actual thing was in the first place. I remember thing in. I watched some videos of people talk into it and again the weather on our lawn i thought what would be a. Ms is if you could actually create experiences for this thing. You know like conversation voice based off your experiences up. And and i thought it would almost be like a kind of voice user experience southern and you see where my brain's kind of swirling around with this Interesting and i thought well that must be a thing. And i'm sure that's going to be something so i start going to be able research prod- around the i'm gonna make a podcast on. I'm going to document ma journey through exploring this kind of this technology Saw bartlett eminem. V dot world in june twenty seventeen and had all of these big plans and couldn't find anyone to speak to about him in. The kit was very very kind of like what's going on in the uk. Yeah yeah just tweet. Inland anyone around You could have Maybe oscar jess yeah. I think we're doing something i think. one six nine lobs in germany. Were doing something that point. I think i found their website. Actually and yeah couple of people in in the us. Obviously you know. All kinds of early adopters over there. But i just couldn't. I didn't know what i was searching for. Basically i didn't know what does look for who to do is type. Invoice bought a Ana well you didn't have quite as big conduct search engine presence the puck and you kind of skip voice bought these days of every publication references which which is you know good and softer to the work. You've been doing over the last few years. But yeah i didn't find. I didn't find anything to do with anything back then. And so just sound the idea for. I don't know six months also and regrettably brett. It wasn't voice bought the Found initially it was this week invoice. The patch rival podcast show ever rival. I'm joking i found that and the reason how voice but was because of the voice story of the week. Gotta yeah. Yeah yeah yeah so probably metrics during the acquisition view over there and so i ended up realizing that there was people to speak to connected with broadly. Think account if we connected down on the. I'm not sure. And then i kind of rekindled this idea of casts kicked off regarding some episodes over december launched in january or february was in and go with kind of being gone for two and a half to three years. it's interesting i found is that as i'm learning about this stuff and i stop conduct some skills Say it was basically invulnerable. Because i'm not dave destined does all of that of That kind of plan around. And i realized that there's a whole load of stuff going on that just plays into everything i've done. Basically i used to make music when i was a little bit younger Younger than i am now and so kind of audio production was kind of part of why i used to do when i was a teenager in early twenties on one or two very low budget films and then i kinda went through. A kind of marketing is unique did market in with machen interest for awhile conduct coastal ended up doing user experience design and then consultant around user experience design and freelance ryan on the side and all of a sudden than service design and digital transformation. All the sudden all of these things dot com to join together. You've got the user experience the right in the service design element because i think boys interactions and more like service design than anything else an l. Kinda just come together in a big melting pot and with being kind of kraken on through and we're gonna be minute
Biggest Mistakes People Make on Video Conferencing Calls
"Marvelous. Well we've covered a lot of dues. Do this do that. I'm curious because you have a lot of zoom calls that that you deal with and and just your general experience and know people on camera and so forth. What are some mistakes. You've seen people make so the biggest mistakes i see is something. We've mentioned just a little bit earlier. Which is the camera positioning or not paying attention to what is behind them. So i mentioned one person i talked to. She was way too close to the camera and actually our head was all the way to one side. There's all this empty space with nothing. Really there There's somebody else. I talked to yesterday. In fact and this person had just moved. So i don't fault them but there were all sorts of moving boxes behind them. I didn't know they moved. I suspected they did because they were moving boxes and It was it wasn't the most flattering shot that was there. So it's giving us all this extra information that gets in the way and actually right in the beginning of the same conversation she has. Her computer turns slightly to the side. So i didn't see the all the other things that were there I did i did do a zoom call with somebody right as this whole new world started and they had laundry on the bed behind them so not only was staring at their bed and i'm in their bedroom having a business call and virtually but there was laundry that needed to be folded so That was different. So i would. I would say right you know. Oh i can't tell what launcher is there. But i probably shouldn't see so. Yes i would say the biggest ones would be not paying attention to what's behind you next to you really just taking a little extra time for
Fastest Way to Lose Your Zoom Audience
"When it comes to sound quality i mean i even saw this on american idol. Somebody was doing their little spiel in a stairwell. And it had this fishbowl effect. Well what what should we be focusing on on sound quality. Well it's interesting because people are more apt to let go of the video not being perfect if it was grainy or the lighting wasn't just perfect but the second the audio is off and we can't even hear what it is that the other person's saying we start to two now. So you're right. That would be a stairwell would be The worst choice for I guess second to being underwater for a zoom or video broadcasts right and what we what we should really do is experiment with either. The the headphones that came with your phone or A little microphone. They sell all sorts of external microphones. Whether it's your computer or your ipad or your phone that really can make it. Sound much warmer or richer. I'm staring across the room. I have a fancy microphone. That looks like a johnny carson type. Microphone with the little angle. And i have a little clip on microphone which i often use and right now. I'm using airpods. Which i put into my ears and even before we started i said you which what does this sound. Good this better this way or that way and we go with what works best so yeah audio. Sound quality is very very important. If you lose that you lose people altogether
Zoom Presentation Background Boo-Boos You Need to Avoid
"How do we select a location in our home for these zoom calls where people are seeing the background and trying to read the titles on your books that it's true that's true and it's funny. You mentioned books because everybody figures may. Maybe i should be up against the bookcase or these sitting next to one plant. You know what should we do. We've seen some goofy attempts meaning people to try something doesn't work and we've seen some where people sit on a black in black wall So we do. We should in our best case scenario. Have some behind us so and something that shows off something about our personality or what we do. So if you and you and you should be welded. I know we're gonna talk about lighting but you could have Special backdrop that you go on amazon you paid and it's a curtain and all that stuff But my take kids. I'd rather see maybe picture of your family Some items that represent something in your life and some depth so that needs some space between you and the background and the opposite would be sitting up against a wall or blank wall which has no personality. And it's kind of like you're in a lineup Message right file shine and hold up a number. Yeah exactly yeah so so. It's kinda interesting Behind me some of media guy. I have an on air sign. And i have a few other interesting things and Some awards and newspaper clippings so it. It goes along with who. I am And so that's what people want to do. That's the best case scenario especially better than virtual background but what about people that are in a small apartment. I mean i've seen people take calls from their bedroom is really yes I talked to somebody today. Who had their bed in their background. And we're not used to seeing somebody's bed or private space while we're talking about business conversation. So yeah i would. Even if we didn't if that person doesn't have enough room. I would say to pick a little corner or a little nook and at least dress up that area as much as you can add some personality and you know i mentioned that. The virtual backgrounds aren't is great. But if you have no other choice. It's certainly a choice. The reason why. I don't like it. It's sometimes they look bit wonky or like you're you're trying to convince people that your background is better than it. Really is If i had big mahogany bookcase behind me and i'm really sitting in front of a blank wall feels not truthful but if there is nothing else than certainly it's not the end of the world.
Using YouTube To Build A Brand
"Over the past several years the accelerate your business growth podcast has gained recognition as a great resource for small business owners sales professionals business leaders of all kinds and that is really because of the guests. These are people who have expertise in a particular area of business and they join me to share their expertise with all of you that way. You can get the answers you need. You can Find out who's out there who's really talented and good at what they do. See connect with them. See what books worksheets. You name it. There there's all sorts of good coming out of this hide. Cast instate is no different. I guess today is jeff davis. Jeff is the founder and ceo of maglio inc. A venture backed creative and media analytics agency famous for building brands on youtube with capabilities to also originate co create and validate new brands. Thanks so much for joining me today jess and it's a pleasure to be with you. It is a pleasure to have you here. And we're gonna be talking about youtube which i have to tell you is such an interesting topic for me because it's one of those things that i play with but i'm not really sure that i am doing what i could be doing to really maximize it so while i know the listeners of this i'm looking forward to getting a lot out of it as how fun. Yeah the one thing that Is been you know since my departure from procter and gamble. We spent more than a decade now on the youtube platform. So it's it's kind of ironic that it's been you know at that platform. You launched in in two thousand six is now quite an old platform. I honestly but still one that i think has major impact for how you create awareness and trump for products. So i look forward to talk to you. Yeah definitely and and you know what everyone says is video is the thing and so while youtube has been around it and my understanding. Is that for the longest time. Youtube has been like the second most searched site on the internet after google. That's correct that's that is still a factor that the second most used search engine people don't get that is youtube behind of course google and all of owned by google And so what. I like to say if you don't have at least a channel if you don't have some content that is searchable with the right words etc you're foregoing the second most you search engine in the world crazy crazy and and i think people might have sort of grown up with this idea that unless you're doing a how to video or sh showing someone had a take a washing machine apart and put it back together. Which is what. My husband uses it for That you don't need to be there but that's not really true anymore. Yeah definitely not in fact if you take a look at the most significant growing trends I haven't seen this now for for for a few months but but it's probably still holds true. You know how to videos are a major growing piece All of several categories including beauty and and skin care and all of that those are major categories and then if you look at the educational components and educational being a very broad topic but if you just take a look at khan academy or or the number of sites on there that are just geared for educational learning. I joke around. You could get from from youtube and it would be more valuable than a than a stanford or harvard degree because the content is so incredibly rich. Yeah that's interesting. I think you're probably right about that. Because it's practitioners teaching what they now. So you're getting it from the horse's mouth so to seek yes exactly yeah okay So what do you think is the biggest mistake that business owners make when they're building a brand on youtube that's actually an easy one and Ended up being one. That has been the case for some time. People are starting to figure this out but one of the biggest mistakes you can make is having content designed for another platform even another digital platform. Instagram facebook video. And that's done just assuming that. Oh you can just repurpose that to youtube. And the reason why i say that is that in general we found we were one of the first Consumer products so one of the famous parts of my story you know having served a couple of decades at proctor and gamble and then leaving and then joining the startup world and my first company was a company called or brush inc a or brush tongue cleaner. And it was this crazy cool product. That was patented from dr bob wag staff and he had tried to sell it to png and he had tried to license it to johnson johnson and it was was a tongue scraper. Ninety percent of bad breath comes from bacteria on your tongue and he had created a really great product t to remove bacteria from the tongue and he had tried to go about it. marketing it With traditional means one of his last failed efforts was a was an infomercial where it just failed miserably. And he ended up meeting with a couple of young guys. Here in lake city utah. Jeff harmon and And neil harmon and jeff was just one of these guys. That really wasn't early guy on youtube and was doing all new. All these insights and outs and And so we ended up launching this product on youtube. I was the angel investor and eventual. Ceo of or brush and the cool story about war shits in two thousand seventeen youtube. Recognize the ten most iconic admiral moments on youtube from the two thousand five launch of youtube and brush was one of those ten. You would've done. You may not have recognized or brush but you would recognize the other nine it was it was always like a girl. Campaign was the jeff gordon. Pepsi campaign was the kyrie irving Pepsi campaign with uncle drew. They were just these really iconic youtube long form campaigns that people are starting to figure out that maybe fifteen second or a thirty second or one minute was not the best way to to create awareness and trial for your products and services
Breaking down the Contenders Korea Grand Finals
"We're going to talk about the phenomenal absolute Banger of a grand finals. Over from Korea, contenders season to you got wgn Phoenix going up against run away and. This was like from start to finish. A great match. wgn Phoenix take this. For three, we went the distance. To, what are your thoughts here? It was almost reverse sweep and it kind of felt like it was to be essentially. Is just happened to map early you just switch maps around switching and body, and Havana becomes a great storyline. Was a weird one, the first two maps especially, it just felt like, Debbie just were lost. On the side of runaway, I changed the way I'm formatting notes and it just is so much better. Now, I'm going map by Matt. Leasing Tower here to one in favor run away on the back of some great tps play assassin was really on his a game. This match he's been. If if he's given the opportunity to to play Ganji and then also kind of tracer. he's just on it. I eat I think he's one of the Best Ganji players. In contenders right now I mean, maybe in all of the contenders regions And he really showed him and merit. Especially, we're really doing work picking off w support line here to win Lizheng Tower. Really. Just. Kind of started off a day for him. And then There was a moment on night market where Wgn Phoenix head the point had control the point. But the whole team was kind of like hunkering down in the market section across from the point. Like where all the little tables and stuff are it's it's a weird spot. You usually don't see a whole lot of stuff going on over there but like the whole team was over there. All of runaway takes the fight inside of their but meg on the ball just rolls and sits on the point steals the point away while the teams fighting, and then as wgn Phoenix is trying to rotate back, they ended up losing the team fight and runaway kind of steals the point that way there was a couple of those on. On night market specifically where it was like. WGN PHOENIX WASN'T PLAYING Like completely properly like they were taken. Already, lost fights extending amount using ultimate and kind of wasting stuff they ended up winning the fight, but they have to use everything and then runaways just able to walk back in and take it back from because runaway was playing a little bit smarter disengaging when needed runaway definitely looked. The king on. Unleashing Tower here. Yep and then moving on into temple of a new best is another kind of strong. Look for runaway here they took it to one so they will be able to cap out I, think with some amount of time remaining if not much and then we're able to. Know I. Think it was. W Jess on their attack. I wasn't able to cap out runway needed was a single tick. And one of the weirdest parts was that. I think w just had a little bit of work they needed to do on the first point. It wasn't a first fight take but then once they did take as tack gets to picks as they are walking into point b. But like a six V four essentially and like there was not overtime. A response yet I don't think they had the full time to wait. And they could not finish off the reinforcements and capital point out. They didn't even get a tech I think they just could not handle the reinforcements and it was just brutal to see because they had like a perfect opportunity. and. Then on their defense kind of the other. Major moment was they had both I think it was rally and transcendence popped the bag is on the wrecking ball. So obviously, he's playing a bit spread out, but then he dies on their defense even with both supporters being popped at the same time in a pretty chaotic fight. So I can't tell if that was misplayed from e bag a misplayed from the supports a miscommunication. I feel like it's the last of those You just wasn't aware but also. Yeah. It's just unfortunate that like you're maintaining the able to stay alive with literally infinite healing essentially. Really rough to say.
Jets have presumptive positive COVID-19 test
"As of right now, the Arizona Cardinals are planning to play the New York Jets on Sunday on the road, but that could soon change thanks to a presumptive positive Corona virus test by a Jets player. It was we don't know which Jess player Wass and we don't know yet the results of that players second test really, we can do other than prepare has needed like everything else in 2020. We will prepare as more moments to justice as so a lot of moving parts, but we'll be ready for whatever's out of those Cardinals general manager Kym, You told Duggan Wolf with 98 7 FM Arizona Sports station Little earlier today that as of now the team is planning to fly out to New York this afternoon for Sunday's
Trump promotes health care 'vision' but gaps remain
"Trump Trump signed signed an an executive executive order yesterday trying to fulfill healthcare promises he'd campaign back on in 2016. This executive order includes coverage for preexisting medical conditions measure Republicans have opposed for years. Most recently with a rush to appoint the conservative Supreme Court justice. Let's get more on the details from the order from CBS has Ben traces of president unveiled what he calls his vision for health care, But it's really an executive order directing Congress to pass legislation to deal with surprise medical billing. It also makes protecting preexisting conditions official U. S policy so we can put that to rest that was actually put to rest 10 years ago by President Obama when he signed the Affordable Care Act, which made covering preexisting conditions, US law President Trump's Order on Uncle. Bill's also does not carrying illegal weight unless Congress fails to pass legislation. In that case, it directs a J. Jess to issue a regulation. Now today, the White House
Interview with Winstina Hughes, Planner for the Maryland Dept of Transportation
"Welcome to Hallway Chat I'm Liam Dempsey. And I'm Tara Claes today we're joined by Weinstein Hughes when Stena is an assistant regional planner for the Maryland Department of transportation she created her first wordpress blog for a geographic information systems assignment and followed it soon after with one on community development and suburban planning. She has presented at Work Camp New York City work camp. US and Work Camp Austin. A wordpress meet up co organizer Weinstein a lead were camp new. York two, thousand eighteen. Welcome when Stena? We're so glad here. Thanks for having me. Tara. Thanks for having me. Lamb. I'm excited to join you wearing. So excited to defensive time with you. Can you tell us a little bit more about yourself? Okay. I can tell you. I'm a bit more about myself i. Grew up in northern Jersey in south orange. Maplewood. My family immigrated. From Sierra Leone West Africa And somehow they brought me back to Maryland. Settled initially I'm so I am living and working in, Baltimore? Fantastic there's there's a lot there about that. We could delve into but let me let me just talk a little bit about growing up there since he started with whole were you when you when you move from Sarah alone do you remember your your country of or you're young enough to not have any memory? I have. I have memories of playing in our backyard. Like the lush greenery of it. The red. The red dirt. Just. just kind of outside where we lived I remember just how bad it was. And I remember listening on to my dad calling. To see how I was just a memory of knowing that my parents weren't with me. And just really happy to hear his voice. And? When we moved here. This is. Really. where I grew out. Those are those those memories are of. I'm like a child and when we moved here, that's when things really start forming. That's when I'm you know I started thinking about just you know school like a as a kid. I. Think. We. You know when you're as young as four or five things are just kind of like impressions I'm but then we hit an age where we start understanding what's around us Andy Start. Having. A sense of the places where we're going and the people that were spending time with and when we immigrated here on that was the time where things really started in. No. Forming for me as a child and and. Being aware of the spaces I was in and you know. I grew up here in every part of who I am is really. The experience of being raised here in the states and Being raised in south. Orange Maplewood. have. You been back to Sierra Leone. I haven't been back. I'm one of those children but. That hasn't traveled back. Since I? I can't name. Do you have family there still though I do I do have aunts and uncles and I have cousins. That are from back home. And I have some cousins that have traveled here and they've gone back I'm. But I've I've lived here since since we came in, it's been continuous experience. Yeah. Thank you for sharing that your your story of coming to this country and growing up here. Tell us a little bit. Your experience Sir I think you talked about before we started recording about. Going to school to Grad, school and Can you tell us a little bit about your education background and your wordpress wordpress fits into that picture? Yes So you know you mentioned that I'm an assistant. Planner and I went to college for city planning. And I went to Grad school as well for for city planning sitting regional planning. And you know it's it's really a way of looking at the world. A WAY OF LOOKING And Identifying Spaces right areas that you can contribute to improve, and that's what I really love about. About what I studied and I really enjoy the work that I do currently. I, work for DOD and. Works specifically. With state highway and we see the tangible results of the projects that we work on. You know like when we go to meetings I'm and you know the individuals that we speak with. It's There's a real mess to it as opposed to. If I were in an office. kind of like. We spend a fair amount of time in the office, but it's not like a policy document I'm writing. You know it's like I can go and see where I work is I can listen. To understand what the needs are of of those who live in the communities. that. We that we go to and that's really what's always been exciting for me as a planner I did some community organizing work as well and? Not only that. I worked at a nonprofit in DC as an intern, and I had a chance to look at a Housing Trust Fund I had the chance to look at how they went about organizing around housing issues and an even organizing around immigration issues and and it's it's so exciting to work in a field that that hutchison all those different areas and it's died it's that fluid ness of of of the field working an infrastructure or working with community issues or working on. Economic Development. That led me to. Writing about. you know what I learned in school and then writing about it is really you know what really got me more involved within the word s community I that jess log but I'm that I wrote in college, and then when I graduated I started writing a blog on development. For Me Boyd and just in the process of all the positive experiences move me from just you know blogging on wordpress dot com to building my own sites. And then there's there's so much evolved from that as well. From writing to becoming a a meet up organizer in a work, Camp Speaker, and. You know just just all those those opportunities came from. From just you know blogging sharing my thoughts about. An area that I'm so passionate about that I'm so fortunate to work in.
"k. jess" Discussed on Frankie and Jess
"You have a situation within your relationship where you have a hall pass, or maybe you've given one, or maybe you both have a hall pass and that you don't know what that term means. It means you get a hall pass where you can be with someone, and whatever restrictions like you guys set with that I mean that's up to you, but do you have something where it's like hey? Once a year I'm allowed to be with another person outside of the relationship, crazy vice versa or something like that, or maybe you were in a relationship like that, so text us at eight to nine four five. Because we haven't done the hall pass topic in a bit, and then we'll warn you're right before we get into some of those texts. If you've got small ears, so you're not having to have that uncomfortable conversation with him. Let's see, it's nine thirty four. It's ninety one. It's five seconds of summer. Ninety seven. At's Frankie Ingest. Show podcast here on iheartradio. It is ninety civil ones. Salt Lake's number, one hit music station with Frankie in Jess. Welcome to Wednesday. It's going to be pretty nice out there. We're looking at highs today somewhere in the low nineties tomorrow. We're GONNA be. One hundred that sounds like at one hundred or just over one hundred on Friday, and then it sounds like a really really hot weekend so seventy six. Is You get up right now? Let's say I wanNA wish a happy birthday, so friend of the show. good guys, name is Scott. It's his He and his wife's anniversary. The lucky thirteen today. Hey, his wife you know, asked him before. Like how? How do you pronounce it so I'm just GonNa say be the. That's what she's known as I'm not GONNA even try. He's like you can try to pronounce it if you want good luck. And I said it is so funny. Happy Anniversary, guys. How do you spell her name? So it's I think it's. A well. It's P R E M R U. D E E. and a believe she's tie. So the pro from Rudy from radio think wall. She's known as be. We'll take it yeah. Happy Anniversary guys off lucky thirteen all right so what we're talking about, we'll get to it in the second I. You want me to share another one of these camp fort. Fire source. How many of those help has text, we have about a handful handful. Yeah, all right, so let me do that so people that don't know. We teamed up with a lifetime store port of subs and Z.. H. T., so we're sending lucky listener, and some family or friends to Zion. Ponderosa ranch, and this is for two nights for tonight. Clamping or Cabins Sweet Zion, Ponderosa ranch. It's about four hours away down. Southern Utah Breakfast for two mornings a one hour jeep tour mini golf, zip-line ride free access to the Pool Jacuzzi..
"k. jess" Discussed on Frankie and Jess
"Yeah, and then we've got a quick shout, so this one said I never bribe. I was told by school psychologist. The reward is offered before the bad behavior starts. It's not considered bribery. Okay, yeah, so they were saying okay. I want you to shower. Pay like a dollar. Every time you shower and it wouldn't be considered bribery so I was like Oh that's kind of interesting, but even like you take falls into something like that. And that's what we were talking about. where the data's is upset with his ex wife, because he found out Jeez using cash to bribe their son shower. Yeah, so even along those lines, yeah! Yeah, so if it was because it sounds like she's bribing him because he's not showering right, but if she were to bribe him to shower eve. You know what I mean like. It's the opposite of that. It's hard to wrap your head around because I'm like. Yeah, it's the opposite of that, so it's it's almost like the goal thing like the goal is for you to shower every day and I'll pay you to shower every day so. I I I would love to get an because we were GONNA get Dr Burton therapy Monday his take on on Monday, but then we weren't able to do the show on Monday, so when he's on again, I'm going to set that aside and just because we were going to see what he has to say about them up to hear his take on it I. Don't think he's down with bribes, I just. I don't I. Don't I mean I think there's it's one thing to set goals if you're bribing kids to for things that they should be doing I, don't think that's good. Because then you're going to be going to be broke by the time the kiss ten. Or Eleven. Paying them to do the things they should already be doing shower and brush their teeth, but think about it I. Mean Even your little boy is going through potty training and like you. Do you bride kids with toys or a kitchen or you bribe them, but but but it is goal oriented and it didn't work for. Ourselves in the foot. That's true so I told Tammy might look around. This kid has everything so there's no incentive at that point. Yeah, so there's like an like and so that's a slippery slope. That's true because you start bribing and then you realize like. Oh, no, what have we created? Yeah, and then the kid wants money forever or just. Whatever I'm not going to do it because I know I'll get something with something else want true. You know I. Know who was was like A. we'll just through the years moms that would go to the grocery store until their kids went and act like little fools they. They would bribe them with a cookie era donut present. Every time would go, but yeah. I don't know I'm interested to see what Dr Visas says..
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"Keep it a shortage you can't. Ninety seven one ht's Franken just show podcast here on iheartradio. So, let's see I think some texts have come in with this bribe topic. We'll get to that in a second. I wanted to share this because I thought. As I'm reading it, and then I'm like Oh. My Gosh I think I fall into this story, so it's a story about with the quarantine and separation anxiety, but it's not with your pets, because that's kind of what we have been talking about. You know like if you're getting ready to a lot of people are going back to work, and that sort of thing and the pets having anxiety where you are around, for however many months true and then going back to work. And depending on the animal, and it could get really bad. Yeah, but they're talking about with people. Separation anxiety after quarantining with your partner is totally normal so I'm reading this article and. Because there were there was a little. Probably about a few weeks ago with my wife Tammy. Where things are starting to not get back to normal, but you know with our state, and obviously we've hidden hit some pretty high numbers in the last couple of weeks, and it's been you know waiting for that. Plateau again I guess. but this is probably a few weeks ago. When things started to kind of open up again in the with the economy here in the State of Utah and my wife, Tammy was starting to do more things. Yeah, and I remember saying to her and I and I didn't even realize that this I think might be worth falls into. I was getting a little. Anxious with I was used to the time that we had together. She's more of an extrovert sheriff, so it was harder for her and I was getting used to it and a lot of the family time and time together that we had an even to the point where I told her I said. You know I'm looking I. Look forward to these Friday date hikes that we do. It's queue you know, so. I'm reading this article and they were talking about again this if you're just tuning into the show talking about separation anxiety..
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"So what we're doing is we're setting a listener and some friends or family to the Zion Ponderosa ranch, son, yeah, so. This is for two nights so tonight glancing or cabin. CABIN SWEET! I, am Ponderosa Ranch breakfast for two mornings and our jeep tour mini golf zip line ride. Free access to the Pool Jacuzzi There's a plan for Kayaks and paddle boards. Tennis Courts Racquetball Court actually volleyball courts pickle ball. Basketball's all kinds of stuff to do. It's beautiful down. There had a chance to camp for a couple of nights with the Ragnar Trails Zion. That's right and it was just. It's amazing. That's all I mean it really is i. mean these are i. mean you know where where we live? How beautiful it is but. The views from this piece of massive property. That's there. It's right there on the cusp of Zion National Park Wow. This is awesome, so this is a really cool giveaway. What we're looking for or campfire stories, so think of a story that is just an amazing story, so something with an outdoor experience that had to do with maybe bad weather an animal, encounter or something that you don't know what type of an encounter it was your love. Those I do I love them and there's a good one. There's so many good stories that people are sharing Maybe it's a story where. Where you were injured or had to be rescued or something like that brave and through the bad weather, but if you've got a story at two hundred fifty words or less, you want to make sure you put that in you know two hundred fifty words or less at ninety HD DOT com, so give you an example of what we're looking for. Somebody posted this and we've got a panel of judges that are gonNA. Go through and pick one, and I am I hope we're not like I. Don't know sometimes I don't WanNa be judges for for for these. Oh No! It's. Like, you said these stories have been really really good. They really have this one here, says a couple years back I. Went Hiking Up Next Canyon. We weren't prepared for much just brought a plastic water bottle, each rolled up around two PM not satisfied upon reaching the end of the trail, so we both decided to keep hiking. We ascended a steep nervous. Slot Canyon that had some snow in it so when we reached to the top that we realized that we were standing in the front. Of Mon- Olympics. We Watch the mountain. Goats pass by. We soaked in the view Nice. Thankfully whether there was some fresh snow, also that you know that they were able to put in their water bottle, so it would melt and they could have water. we realized it would be too dangerous to go down the way that we came. You know because they're kind of trekking up. And then they realize going down. It's going to be dangerous and you might get. They might get hurt, so we tried to find monolithic the hiking trail on the other side of the mountain. We never found it. And to fight through a lot of brush. Our phones were just about to die. We were worried that we were GONNA. Get stranded somewhere and unable to get help, and we live so our backyard. We've got you know the hiking trail. You can see like people that are in the daytime or night..
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"Peo- that we didn't get chopsticks and she's like. What's the big deal? And I'm like it's a huge deal to me that I don't have chopsticks to eat, so we got in like this little. It wasn't like a huge fight, but we got into a little argument. In so that it was kind of you know. After the fact, we can laugh about it, but it was still a little fresh even months later because I'm like listen if it were you. That wanted something. You know what I mean. It's like a big deal that person, so it might seem ridiculous. Yeah, but it's a big deal to whoever's angry over whatever it is I mean. It's chopsticks chopsticks. By lifetime of Chopsticks just I had some good ones years ago. That I used to put in the dishwasher. And then you know they kind of slowly came apart with. Should be hand washed. Like I. Don't want to do that. That's what the dishwasher for I know. This one's got it. If I last night over a text, Okay Sam apparently was disrespectful to her. I thought it was just letting her know that he read the text earlier so just even putting okay Sam it was almost like a thumbs up at just like irked them. See, and that's where we talk about that as far as misinterpreting attacks, you can't. You don't know the tone in it's. It's easy to fill in the blank of the tone, or you think that person's being smarmy or short with you, and they're not. I mean that's it's a it's A. It's a gray area man. It's true you don't know. It's not like talking face to face or even like on facetime, or if you're looking at, you can see you know the expression. You don't get any of that. Well, it depends on your mood. You know what I mean. How you like. You said how you interpret a totally slipped past an argument yesterday, so my wife says I forgot all the things all the time, so I argue against that, so it seems like they're really forgetful. I started one of our cars on Monday night because they've been sitting for a while I forgot about it left it running the whole night. I came home from work and noticed it was still running. She had already left for work. I've actually knew about it and she's waiting to bring it up later on. Thankfully, she didn't hear the car that it was on when she left for work, but yeah, so she always comes at him for being forgetful, and he's like I am not fight about it, but he left the car overnight. That's not gonNA. Help your case. No keep that one to just us. That's a big one. Did he ended up telling her or no, he didn't tell her. Don't tell, so. Don't tell I don't think you'll never. Know Car all. It'll be one that we won't let let you live down now. Who is going to be one of months years? We're going to like remember the guy that Texas said. He left the car overnight. Yeah Oh man. We're getting more tax..
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"Chrissie, so, that'd be cool like who is a former serial cheater because there's a lot of people like that, they're like I'm not married, or I'm Mary thinking because some of them married so that was interesting to hear, and then I know that you care, and you've been waiting to hear this news so here we go Sophia Ritchie and Scott disick. They back together are back. Back together, thank God. They can get a sleep that I'm lacking for so long was praying for that guy's big prayers for that so two months two months they took a little break Scott was obviously struggling, and he did some family time up in Wyoming with the kids and Courtney, and then he came back and Sofia took them back and Leno Ritchie. Her Dad is probably just like. Oh, my Gosh! I was dancing on the ceiling two months. Sitting on the floor. Crying Totally crying. Jeez and then kind yeh, so we gotta go to Scott Disick brother-in-law, so he scored a disappointing two percent he did take some votes away from trump and I keep forgetting that he's running because I I'm assuming he's going to come out and say it's a joke, but I think it's legit. Mom, two percent there you go. A little bit more comforting to hear that when I read that I was like okay good. Two percent that's. Family and friends and Elon Musk. That's true. Yeah, that's true and his running mate, who is at his vice president, who's like a I think it's a pastor from one of his churches or something, so yeah to funny, and then coming up at eight twenty one a stick around, we'll talk about the official cause of death of Rivera. And of course they ended up finding her body, and she was missing for five days in that Lake just so sad. She was able to get her son on the boat and secured and the current picked up, and she wasn't anchored and. Able to get back. She was fighting that current to get back to the boat shoes. Couldn't it's? it's one of those stories. It's tragic stupid now now so stupid that she put herself in that position. It's heartbreaking it's and she was only early thirties, and just loved her boy i. mean that was just the light of her life, and just and maybe look in her defense us thinking with the 'cause a lot of times with the current. You're sitting there in the boat and the currents underneath. And maybe she got in the water, and then realize you know what it was too late or whatever and just kinda get getting swept away. It's scaring. You can't visibly see until you get into waters, and maybe it was. Still just like putting yourself in that position with your kid. is just sad. See more is coming up at eight twenty. Okay, coming up in twenty nine minutes here. We've got a chance of a thousand bucks pay. Your bills could be listener Peter from salt. Lake City so he won last week, and we want you to be next for the thousand bucks when you hear the, keyword you. You WanNa text it to two hundred, two hundred and ten minutes. We're going to get to this so some more of the stupid fight. Like what was this stupid argument that you had with somebody in your life? Ridiculous fights, so we'll get some more of those tax are really good at eight hundred four five. then. We're going to set this up. What is it that you're willing to admit? You've been listening to.
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"What are we starting with? Ninety seven Z HD's in just show podcast here on iheartradio. What is it that you want to want to admit so I'm GonNa admit something. Okay, something that just happened recently actually. Yeah. One of the last times just happened recently and I'm GonNa admitted and I'm hoping these people aren't listening so I just. This is something that I was gonNA share yesterday with dirty little secrets. We'll save it for for this morning's top. Might Fit I think it fits for both, and it's juicy. It's well. It's yeah. I guess I. Don't know. But something that I'm GonNa mic. Okay? Yeah, so that'll be coming up rape before we get into into that topic. Setting that topic up. We've got some more ridiculous tex came in This is from yesterday and I'll call her mistakes, and there's a lot of Brad's out there. It's passive. Aggressive Tuesday didn't have a chance. I didn't see this until we got off the air yesterday, but this is for Brad so again. There's a lot of brads. Brad never tell a woman that she shouldn't eat her favorite treat and should be or should instead be eating salads so apparently. He said you shouldn't be eating that. You should be eating in a salad. Clearly, your ex wife wasn't the whole problem with your pass marriage. Still single for a reason Rad. Oh, well, I'm Brad! Is the Karen so I. Mean That's what I've heard. Is The mail? Yeah, that's hilarious. I had one of my best east. She was dating a guy. He was like ooh. You sure like ice cream. Do you think you should have that much of it? And she was like I knew there's no way in hell like Mary. This guy because ice cream is my jam and he would make comments every time she had ice cream. I was like he is so stupid. Did he not want to get with you? Yes, not all right. Let's get into the middle edition of Hollywood headlines for your Wednesday. It's brought to you by reproductive. Care Center are see this morning. Speaking of what times he getting up I seven twenty two. Yeah, so yesterday, the little man got up. Let's see here probably around seven thirty seven forty right, and that's when we heard the pitter-patter feet upstairs. so he probably around the same time, and he usually goes into Tammy's into the end of the room, Mama Mama. Mama Mama, but were here here on the weekends I tell him. I'm like dude. We're sleeping in. Don't get it, so he's really good about letting asleep, but he can get away with more on her. Oh totally! He's got her number Oh. Yeah, okay good. To see him but we talked about this. There's a new host of dancing with the stars, so it was Tom Berge around for fifteen years so long and then Erin Andrews has been on with him for about ten years of that, and so they both got canned this week. People were thinking okay as the show coming back. Is it not coming back? What are they trying to do so? They announced a new host. Or hostess and I think this broke. Let's say last night if not this morning, so she's got lots of camera experience. She's very very beautiful. And she is a mom. She has one kid and she's like sports illustrated queen. Sports illustrated Queen, oh. Yeah because she's got two kids crazy I don't know who it is. Tara banks. Tyra Bay. Tire is going to be the host of dancing with the stars so I don't know if they're going to have a co host with her, which is going to be.
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"You got into a little. Little tiff with your husband Kevin Yeah so i. I need to print some stuff. And he has his office set up because he works from home and. I duNno, I it's wireless printers in the bedroom and I'm printing stuff in office, and it makes a lot of noise, and so it will come up and said it was at a paper, and I never have filled it because I don't usually use his printer like we have our studio where we do everything so I'm like printing papers, and it's a paper, and I'm like. Do you have any more people? Fifty shoot their used do. Would you? Listen. Listen..
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"Thing, so they were just yeah. It's bizarre courtroom, SAS and somebody's whatever relative brother son it's plastered everywhere is is is was they were wheeling him around and they could've could've saved them. Sounds like there were videos I think of him. convulsing as he's dying, and then, and to the point where they're wheeling him around, and at that point Rigor Mortis was starting to set in, so he had been dead for couple hours or whatever, but they've got all this. You know all this stuff wherever they incriminated themselves, taking videos and photos and people witnesses were. They were seen by witnesses. Oh milling around this dead guy. How old was the Guy I? Don't see early as well that he. said in the story I would think that he was probably right around the same age, or they were partying the new. We've heard about that before. When people just get high and they're like, Oh man, what's wrong, Dude and they're just so out of it so the to record. Yeah, the dying man for about five hours of fifteen minutes. Oh my Gosh! Here's a story. Quick story in the news and I saw it yesterday, figure share, and we kind of were going back in a group tax going around in the group texts posts. Malone spotted at the seven eleven. At the mouth of Cottonwood and that's the seven eleven. That's right there. Probably within feet of his house holy so, but he was really cool, and I don't know what time it was. It looks like it was late at night. He was there getting some late night snacks I. Mean it's Post Malone, we! Again so some snacks, but he was cool enough like he always is, and he took pictures with one of the employees or a couple of employs there. He gets hit up all the time. He is gracious casino. He'll never turned down a photo. But and he looked actually pretty good because I know. He shaved his head and like we were kind of like. Oh, but roll back a little. He looks pretty good and he's everywhere. Man People see him all the time. What was the reason somebody texted and said that the reason that he shaved his head, so he could get the tattered up. Yeah, so when the hair grows back, you wouldn't be able to. To See if he's losing his hair because they here balding a little bit. Yeah, saying somebody thicker, and it's kind of sad because he's only what early to mid twenties, and he's got a lot of emotional issues like the whole reason for the face taps as he thinks he's unattractive. Yeah, like he's definitely got some baggage and I'm like man has not talk to anybody before you take these permanent measures. Then you think about because my wife Tammy. We're talking about this and I know it's kind of weird like we were because she had brought up the fact that we've mentioned on the air about the whole reason behind him, shaving his head tattooed when it grows in, you're not going to be able, you know. He's got darker hair, but then. Fast forward in your in your whenever you start going gray or losing your hair, so then you're going to either, have the gray creepy on the black, which is going to be weird, because that's the top of your head. It's tattooed black here right right or if you're losing your altogether if you go ball, then it's GonNa be..
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"It's one of those when it's on. You get sucked it. You know so I guess they're going to try and do a sequel with the original guys, because that's the thing when they do sequels and they don't have the original cast like mean girls to because my son and I watched mean girls on Saturday he wanNA watch too, and like now it's not the same people who is in the because that was one that we were talking about. When Wayne was on the show, and I have yet to see that was what Tina fey. Amy Poehler uh-huh Okay and WHO's the original? So who else is a so it's. Lindsey and it's What's her name from party of five? Check yeah then. Right and then Rachel McAdams. WHO's my fav- okay, so that was the original. And then Amanda Fred. So, yeah, the plastics is what they're called, but then in the second one was I don't even know them never seen these people. That's ridiculous. Sequels either. This doesn't even make sense no. Too 'cause we watched them and. And then couponer watch that no like I don't know who these people and we had speaking of dumb and dumber to we had the that was the blonde haired guy in dumb and dumber to on. Don't even remember his name, and he's done some other stuff and he's a good actor, but I just remember. Like why are we? You know one of those I think after the factor while it was going down. Like why are we talking to you? Are, you you're? Not Jim Carrey Jeff Daniels know. Why are you guys doing this number two movie? and was it the fairly brothers that did the second one I. Wonder I don't even remember, and then didn't you just watch dumb and dumber for the first time? Kelly, thank God, thank God works funny movie. Yes, I think Danny yet funny. Danny does your fiance, Danny. He's never seen or he'd seen it before. Yeah! Has, seen. It! You've seen it. Yeah, that that and He's venture detective. Those are two have memorized Jim, Carey alert. Yes, a wedding crashers! We're talking about a sequel and like I said it'll be you know. And Yeah and. And what about? What's her name Jane Seymour I? Don't know Kitty Cat Yeah? I. Don't know if she'll be back, okay? Oh, that's funny. Though what's his name? Bradtha. Bradley Cooper so hot! Yeah, I think for sure he was such a jerk. Oh, God! He's so my type, always delicious, but but no I. Think for sure it's GonNa. Be Owen and Ben so yeah, those to at least you've got to have and then This is crazy. We talked about this yesterday. That numbers are on and oh. Gosh Erin. Andrews are out of. Of Dancing with the stars so Thomas there for fifteen years and errands been there for ten I can't believe she's been there for ten years wellness seven figures salary that you makes from what she does stuff with spn right, and then the settlement that guy remember that whole voyeur hotel from the motel chain or whatever else you got like fifty, million or so. Yeah I wasn't like that. But there's a lot of fees that got taken out of that, but I mean just. Another. Twenty million. She's doing right. She's doing okay she's doing. This dance with the stars crap I WANNA. Sleep in a little bit, so yeah, so I'll tell you coming up at seven twenty. WHO's the new host? Because they already announced it and I think Tom was blindsided because he has been the host since day one and He just said he was thankful for the memories and the friends that he's met, but yeah they. They gave him the boot. BOOT so I'll tell you who the new houses and it sounds like. It's just gonNA..
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"Totally, so if you didn't hear maybe you missed yesterday's show in Kylie. If you could text and see if that is a little better as far as the Mike Adjustment, but yesterday show. We were talking about it was on Sunday that we got word that apparently somebody in our building might have they might not. We're still waiting on the test, so they got tested. Tested on Saturday, we're just kind of like what the F. Like. How long does it take for the test to come back because we're hearing anywhere from twenty twenty four to forty eight hours. Yeah, it's crazy so I have some friends in the medical profession and I've been asking them like hey, how long does it take because we all want to get back in the building? They were like you said twenty four to forty eight, so if they got tested, Saturday would probably should have had the results Monday or Tuesday and I. Don't know what's going on. It sounds a little fishy. That's what we've been talking about. This this. Doesn't sound right, so that doesn't sound right and we we don't. We don't know what that is. We don't know if people are being upfront with US weird, but something doesn't sound right i. it just feels like there's a joe where a joke jokes being played on it. Yeah, like okay. Come on, so hopefully we'll find out today and it looks like the Mike Sound pretty good so good. Is sitting out in the car now as we speak, she's like the best producer ever really. Can you run down the tree? Listen to the car me down there. Can you get the male kind of just kidding? Sprinkler so yeah, we're here in the in the basement for morning number two. So hopefully we'll get word today of That person has tested negative. That's where we're hoping for their sake, and then we can get back into the building tomorrow morning, but if not will be in the basement, ear and the music, room for tomorrow and Friday as well and then. How was supposed to be here, but here's?.
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"How did that feel? It was liberated one of the first thing I did it. I did several things one was. I realized now why I was so stressed out. I was at a large school. I was allowed to Lara. I mean we have like over three thousand students and so I transferred Vertu a small rural school within the same district And then moving away. That was really good. Excuse to say I am moving. It was nice knowing knowing you buy and and so I was able to end the fuel friendships. I had and that's also reduced a lot of stress so I just found it very liberated I you know oh I basically gave myself permission to be a reclusive introvert when I'm not at work. I'm at home when I'm at home. I expect to be left alone so my my cell phone is off. Answer the door. I have a welcome Mat. What's not really a welcome added says go away and you see you're doing the same thing thing that that that my friends have done because he thinks it's actually being serious yes? I don't want you ringing my doorbell or knocking on my door. But but people think it's a joke and it's not a joke. It's not a joke to me. You have friends I have friends. I have colleagues that I am cordial with but no I I would not say I have friends. I have people who tell me that. They're my friends but I really limit my interaction with anyone when I'm off campus. When was the last time you went out to dinner with with other people three years ago? Maybe I do go out to dinner but I go out by myself and I take. I take my my cell phone or take a kindle tablet and I just read you have cats right I do have cats. Are you friends with your cats. Yes yes and some some extent they remind me it's like their autistic also because they love set routines and they don't always listen. Sometimes communicating with them can be a challenge. What are their names? I have an Alpha cat. WHO's on black and his name is Buki boys and I have an Alpha female named teaching There's another female. Called Houma. Cheese brother is hunter. And then I've got a big fat grey tabby named scrappy cap sounds like a good crew. Yes yes actually. Just bought a new house in April primarily to accommodate the cats. Oh Nice congratulations nations. Yes thank you saw thanksgiving. I spent at home by myself with my cats and and Hansel got under Bret A and I I don't mind interacting that way. Yeah so it's it's a way for you to have interaction when you don't necessarily want in-person Company. Yes so I can offer constructive advice that way because at one point I was thinking about all forming an autism support group for this area and then I realized is oh my gosh people are going to be calling me for all sorts of things and I just. I didn't want that it was. It seemed too intrusive. Yeah that's fair. Are there things that you appreciate about being Pistons. Oh yes absolutely. I'm I have a very narrow focus. Very project oriented in fact that's one useful thing about having cats 'cause the cats get a little peeved if they don't get fed and they will tell me so. I may forget feed myself but I never forget to feed my cats because they'll come and get me. I do realize then having having learn more about autism that a lot of us on the spectrum have the prevailing one or more prevailing interest and it was just a happy coincidence but I was able vol- to leverage fish into a career. You know teaching culinary arts. It seems like being in front of a classroom full of students feels like like the opposite of being at home by yourself with cats who also want to be by themselves. Yes you're right and so so visit term that that that is often used by people on the spectrum. It's called masking long ago. Even before I learned I was autistic. In my my mind. I was modeling teacher. I always roleplaying being a teacher. An elementary teacher was one of those odd people. Who would dress up in period? You'd costumes so when I taught fourth grade the age of exploration I would come to school dressed as a rookie. Steel door and handcrafted steel breastplate. I had three hundred dollar fine. High custom custom made a hand stitched leather boots baggy trousers and the puffed-sleeve doublet. But it helps with reinforcing this persona.
"k. jess" Discussed on Endless Thread
"Jazz actually wants to correct this. She wants to write a comic book. Featuring characters who feel feel more true to her select. The main character would be this autistic person in lake near like shape shifter and they like shape shifts into like you know normal. Hugh mental like sit in stuff like jess has no shortage of ideas but it may be a while before. She's able to turn those ideas in the comic book. Gold breath starting this past February. She's been busy dealing with something more. Urgent I started having to her sunglasses all the time like even at night because my eyes were just really sensitive just has always been extra sensitive to sound and light but this is next level. I had to like spend of the week in my room. 'cause like I literally like I think I was wearing by sunglasses under the covers. I just could not deal with light. It was really bizarre. Justice condition in has improved slightly since then she can come out of a room but she's still having migraines and she's not yet well enough to go to school. She was in a room when we called her and she was wearing her usual attire. Well you know in keeping with the latest trends. I have on not one but two pairs of Sunglasses Mrs and then over that I were Hoodie and revette. I wear like a beach hat to block light from all angles. It's the latest fashion encasing. Jason Doctors Aren't exactly sure why this is happening. Digests they think it has something to do with the levels of antibodies in their blood. It's it's unclear if it's directly related to autism but sensory sensitivity is a familiar experience for a lot of autistic people. Spending the day stuck in your room with two sets of sunglasses on might make anyone feel like a bit of a Martian but something that makes just feel like a regular teenager is talking with her autistic friends recently thinly. They've been talking about a new project. They wanted to do something to like. You know. Fight the fight at make voice hurrying all the and it's a fun thing at at first they thought about doing a podcast. Naturally that's the popular thing. The cool kids are doing and then we realized doing a podcast is is hard and I was like I remember I was just like do you want to do this. Choose think no and I was like how about blog and she was like yeah and then we did the blog. Doug and thank you for saying podcasts are hard God it's ridiculous like with the Audio and the files and the AH yeah the audio and those files will get you every time every time just as blog is called B. A. Four A. or or -biotics for autistic ex. She's written about her love for Internet Research Common Myths about autism even that moment at Panda Express when she learned she was autistic. She's also written a poem about a birthday party. She went to when she was ten. That birthday party was a time. I'd like freaked out. It's like a good example of like you know the sorts of meltdowns I used to have it's kind of a traumatic memory and what is supposed to do with trauma but turn it into a kick ass poem. Here's a snippet of that kick ass poem. The Cool House with the ZIP line has a yard growing screaming children my radar instruments. It's pierce every time there shrieks past ninety decibels a water bomb is thrown it explodes me. Launches me up into a tree legs and arms as a melted is now lawn ornaments all alongside goggles crushed cupcakes children. I was not expecting to be hit with a bomb. Hydraulics Hydraulics Open. I'm sobbing now. A rich rape leaf is ripped off in smeared across to smear my saw things class acquaintances bases and parents dodge. The smell spectacle dropped underneath. Dad Arrives calls out to me out of the tree. Oh catching your towel still still dry. I fall the towel. Scrapes me up a bit towel. Burn nothing too bad no worse than my diagnosis heartbreak. homedow- Gal Gorilla Glue Vines boxes boxes and boxes of books sand string. The next few hours are busy. I spend amusing my box. So good congealing. All of my parts altogether it just says she knows she'll continue to face challenges throughout her but she's another person who started to speak out about because if there is as a statement we can make that is true for both nick the activist and just the poet. It might be how they want to be seen. I want people to know my testing but also oh I don't want to be like oh you're the autistic person wants to be like. Oh you are person you're autistic but like your person just sort of not have it'd be like a huge which deal and like you know online unless I bring it up. It's not a huge steel. ooh Just thank you so much for your for your time and for talking to ask and I really look forward to reading your comic book. Doc about autistic superheroes day now I have an obligation. That's why we yeah we won't make you make a podcast but we would like to read that comedy. I couldn't hear I was thinking you guys were hurt list. But you know you're not making me do a podcast so just the comic book..
"k. jess" Discussed on How I Found My Voice
"Your actual voice because it's quite loud very strong many facts trial okay that's you speak in this very accessible earthward you've already discussed and of course the bromine axiom which I think it's fair to the historically has not been treated with respect you conscious of your voice in how you use it I used to be really really conscious and really hate listening back to the sound of my voice really hated it and are frequently get referred to as on the survey because my voice is really lie or get caught jeff when you say jess happens all the time which I am now I've grown to love that he should be like fringing toughened to me but my accent is the SMI- single greatest asset and I truly believe it has always been the thing that people will remember about me as my actual voice and also my my ability to sway I have to say is one of the greatest gifts the ihop thing marina hi it's somebody said how is it that she wrote such amazing in columns and she said it's just swearing and my ability to swear actually makes people feel comfortable comfortable with me could you give us a couple of examples I mean I swear all the I'll tell you even know I'm doing it half the time and I obviously I'm adult enough enough to not do what I mean come on here but I will say the word fuck literally every third word normally it's not even in exasperation my children who who all night ten and fourteen I have absolutely no problem with them swearing at home I don't mind them swearing at all as long as they don't swear each other in aggression or wherever anyone in aggression and and they don't swear school those are the rules hold interest as well because obviously there's a sense of being true to yourself eh fantasies is big obsession in our era but as you've always applied code so not swearing in parliament your kids during the mustn't swear at each other outside side him he's not complicated now just irving all on I don't want them to do say like your fucking asshole to each other they can say like if they drop a book on that I four bus fine they are completely different things one is like common parlance in my home and I could never it would be it would be really hypocritical of me to say that they couldn't swear because they have been raised in quite swear we have sold off your question how do you feel about the c word because I faced came across the Word Reading D. H. Lawrence for me it's always been term of affection and it's something that is every peaceful intimate but the people saying that Donald Trump he's you know he's he said a seaward because he hates women you know there's a whole feminist argument about my mom hated the C. Word absolutely hated it in proper old school feminist way right you can save time I'm afraid to say yeah it's not something I don't feel squeamish about I didn't feel squeamish about any of the so of gender I would say the word bitch the were added feel don't worry about you'll say parables anyone with any balls in this I mean offered aw I would prefer if the language about men like grow payrolls I would prefer if it wasn't positive for men negatives women but there are big about Austin for and unfortunately I am a product of the society are Griffin and that's just the way people talk one thing I really hate a really hate it when women are referred to his goals that's the the only bit of language I find really really and there was a lot of sexist language that I think it would be better if it didn't have the connotations that it did certainly the about women who are sexually active slack and slut and those sorts of things that I doubt like actually I I wouldn't necessarily use those words there are a lot of them as well there a lot of those but yes science almost a tweet is absolutely fine I two things I'm fine with both in the woods you some of Kach usually affected yeah initiative different seaward yeah exactly that all of that absolutely for can you mean example of West swearing has been effective in your operations politician usually my constituency I would say remember an occasion where there it was an older woman had come into my office she's having a terrible time with her landlord and she was exactly as you would imagine as proud working class older women twinset and pearls shopping trolley there and I saw apologize now I'm going to sweat I east Qatar wanker and she's Oh yes love and immediately just felt like I was on Hasselblad for example my constituents treat me like on one of them all the time because I don't act any airs and graces with them and they don't expect them to act two years grace's May I suppose it comes from years of working in in refuge because refuge is a place that is somebody's home and so the same working environment that you would be used to doesn't supply their because we're kits hits running feel they're in a home people people feel at home I want people to feel I want people always to be engendered as if they our part of a big bustling family and we're working on something together and that is because I come from a big family that always had different people coming to live with us because they it got divorced or other data was a wrong and we had endless different tonight just living with us when we were kids and little kid his parents were you know in very very serious traumatic situations so I have always grown up both in the party at home in my working life engendering a day that we work together as a team as a big sort of slightly ugly family it doesn't quite fit together but we'll we'll rub three together and that's my constituency offices exactly like that is just it's like a on ridiculous hotchpotch of just hundreds of people every week with from the sublime to the ridiculous in the things that they come in to request help with I'm we've traveled up through together like a family was amazing is listening to you sale this seeing how this is obviously come from your life experience places that women's aid and yet knowing that you wrote in your book that you say you're actually terrified most of the time and have to resist the urge turn around and go back home to avoid a lot of the public events you do Why still am I am I I think it has got better I have got better at failing lockhart belong there are still occasions if I was invited to something I I some big business thing the I would feel much better if somebody else who in that before was coming with me not necessarily security just so that you know you've got some of these okay when you get there which is funny because my mom always used to say you could make you could make friends in an empty room jess that I am very good at quickly making somebody trust me very very very very quickly and a real skill but yeah I still looking impostor in lots of situations and that I won't know how to talk to the people and it's not even a class thing thing is it is just failing like yeah this is not your setting your belonging which makes makes me think of something else I have to ask which is you get this constant abuse sort of online I noticed the other day it was the first day of Your Kid's school holiday and you you you just tweeted something completely normal about what she movie day and people just tweeted these Harvey snide remarks? How'd you I know that some of the horrific rape threats you have go public and just push back harder this is unacceptable admitted they've upset you but you do still keep going and I know there are other women Gina Camila one trillion obermann campaigns against Anti Semitism another house you but it seems to make you stronger and you push by heart it is the opposite of Kryptonite it makes me grow h every time someone sends stupid snide remark I think mainly at my mum used to say you don't need to insult those people because being them is punishment enough they have to go around being snide horrible like malevolent the tension seeking clearly terrible and you gotta remember as well I can't read half of this stuff that gets sent to me but yeah saying I'd watched a film and take my kids bowling in an might have peaked too soon and all these people paying like even though aren't you lucky that you have the resources even oh well you know you wouldn't know what it was like to be a real mom lost all sick of your kids already so thing it's just like off is really example on how you deploy swear exactly uh-huh oh for goodness sake but but I know it's coming I mean if I just had it was rene somebody will blame me for the Israel Palestine conflict somehow so you do get used to you totally you know that it isn't what you're saying the content of I feel coverage so that that going against they just hate you and that's that is absolutely fine because you know if you're offended by the fact that I took my kids to k. f. say eh then you know you really have not got anything to worry about so I know that it's not about me personally and the amount of love that I will say well he's this amazing work around your family and friends clearly in your book you actually break down the five different ways that women are intimidated data that is speaking at the chapters called the truth about speaking up can clear talk through the things I mean I can remind you of the remind me a long time ago shoeshine shushing yeah yeah you would say that fear of pigeonholing attention seeking threats yeah so I I would say actually every single one of them to me so the shing is literally talking about the thing that happens to women in the work place where I mean in Westminster the example I gave in the book is actually sheep when you're speaking to US actually putting the finishing the law sh especially if you heckling in the way that I will do oh I had one minister to me like he was my dad like little girl com dance thing and I was just like well did you say it's a higher day you had you you tell me to.
"k. jess" Discussed on How I Found My Voice
"The celebrity liberty persona to find out what influences shaped their success how did politicians artists writers unperformed grow up to become such great communicators. If you enjoyed joy this episode we'd love it if you can let us know what you think by rating and reviewing us on Apple podcasts and I'm joined this time by one of the most appropriate candidates ever I think for how I found my voice Labor MP for Birmingham Yardley just's Phillips and just I have to say at a time when the news media talk so much about how politicians have lost respect in the UK because so the mad and save brexit. I think you prove them wrong because you all widely regarded as one of the most respected politicians out there especially by young people which was gratifying ratifying proudly working class frank about what you think is wrong as well as right in your own Labor Party you worked at the women's charities supporting survivors of domestic violence and trafficking before you became an MP Twenty fifteen and you've always continued to campaign giving voice to vulnerable people on such issues as tackling violence against women so what I want you to take me back to young jazz growing up in the late eighties early nineties you have said speaking up on politics was mandatory in your home but was it like that is definitely literally say my parents were members of the local Labour Party and they would never have members that had positions over thing they would just the proper work around so our house was always turned over to the Labor Party during any election time and so talking about politics speaking was absolutely part of the culture that we grew up in we were opted into every single campaign that you could possibly think about it I mean I remember being a child and being on general strike marches watches and in a book we used to release a lot of balloons maybe for C. N. D. I can't remember there was a lot about the bomb back then since the mid eighties he's the mid eighties yes so I was raised in Women's Liberation Playgroup so my mom and a number of other local women had set up sort of collective because there was no organized child care where like people would volunteer one day week they wouldn't work and said that they would look after the kids on that day we I mean even food came from sort of weird socialist socialist collective fruit buoying scheme that we had so everything in my childhood everything was about speaking up and making your voice third and never ever ever believing that anybody was better than you that was the fundamental was nobody knew nobody nobody can tell you don't have a say everybody has a say in society but it was a lot of work is well it the idea of having a say as a child wasn't just that you know you get and you don't have to do anything with it meant actually using it on your subsidies Thursday evenings and and there was an awful lot of work that with having a political averse and what did you parents de so my dad was a teacher when I was little he was still a proper classroom teacher in Handsworth in Birmingham and he specialized in teaching for generations through the sixties seventies and eighties the generations of new migrants who came to he specialized in teaching teaching children with English as a second language and said my dad can speak you know possible Punjab a I mean when you watch him now so of nearly eighty year old man speak in absolutely perfect Patois twelve is one of the most impressive things you'll ever say and my mom when I was little she was a secretary for big public sector body at the time time it was called rospa vague recollection will such a version of actor not meant when I was a kid we were often the kids who were depicted on the so of safety posters I remember doing leaflets yeah yes we were we were definitely in a big lorry on one so we seatbelts I think you know in the door and of the seat seatbelts there was a lot of me and my brothers having on seat belts I remember being one of the first people to advocate Fisher price roller skates that we ought to do this safety on a week ago para fish polyps roller-skates because probably sounds like the family rules sort of coming from the same place politically but I wonder what impact that had had with your friends because I think you've talked about your your father said you know Disney was a fascist so I'm guessing to watch Disney cartoons and now we were allowed to watch Disney cartoons we drink coca cola I wasn't that's what's neighbors I'm really not sure what neighbors is done politically wrong but really anything at findlay enough so of dislike of the spread of the West I is how I'm going to categorize imperialist way it definitely imperials western culture was to be ignored altan onset but Brownie lift on the right he's parents boasts also reasonable so but not quite so hard liners my dad used to go into her house every day after school to watch neighbors I mean there was a singularity of what my grandfather also lived to this from when I was about three years old by him he I mean he was a massive influence on me. My grandfather was from literally the slum in Birmingham but he was an absolute rapid I mean left-wing so he he was friends with tiny ben he we used to do all of the cartoons for the campaign group which still exists in parliament today they now have the leadership of the Labour Party so I used to have to pay as a child I used to stand for hours at holding a pen or standing in a certain position so he could get exactly wrote an image of Jeremy Corbyn or Diana bursts aw aw Tony Benn and I've got all these brilliant little notes from Tony Benn saying don't worry we'll fight and rise again to my granddad say he was a massive influence but he lived if to this when my mom went back to where it when I was about three or four he came to live with us to help with the childcare he basically raised me and my lynch because he is the one I took a school every day mighty lunches every day he was there when we got back because my parents were both at work and he was absolutely categorical in his singularity singularity of his ideology of left-wing this and my father very much that they used to ride my father very much followed his line of thinking as my mother was definitely definitely much more of a I wanNA say pragmatism is my mother was a deep socialist it was absolutely article to be a socialist feminist but she also who desperately wanted that ally government and I think that she felt that some of the more masculine singularity was what was stopping it looking back at this amazing upbringing your head it somehow seems inevitable that you'd become an MP but it wasn't was it I mean famously the prime minister I think when I was a kid but only in the way that precocious kid to have been told that politics is everything it'd be like to be the permission of course more activist permanent when I was a kid the other day who women being the prominence to not island to me I will always knew that I wanted to work in the public sector in some because both my parents worked in the public sector and the idea idea that you only have got you know a real job was one that had service involved and that was about serving and doing good when I was a kid when always lie years old my mom would get the Guardian on a Monday that had the public sector jobs in and she would make me look through them in sort of these are the sorts of jobs you should think about having when on your ground up so the idea of public service was always completely in Italy only thing but let's think you're always just set on the idea civic duty you do say in your book everyone which fascinating read there's an amazing statement where you say you look back in horror at some of the stuff you thought was normal at fourteen what was going on in your life as a team well when I was a teenager I have to say certainly do political activism was waning a little bit even in my home it seemed like things which is getting better for people there was an error where things were just getting better but one thing I would say about my teenage years is that big a teenage girl in the nineties a mass of contradictions because it's seen as being this era of old brash women women stepping forward that well exactly all the ladder culture ORLA loaded like taking ownership of it and in reality it was entirely highly male gaze it was entirely women designed in some back room by some young and old men and definitely Mai and my friends fell for the idea that we were there although Brash and bold with it that we were there for men's pleasure I went to the Cambridge Exhibition the Stanley Kubrick exhibition and the the key water Makita and he was absolutely bowled over by my knowledge of of Cambridge films and I said Oh you big fan I said well I was a big fan of trying to get boys to lock me in the nineteen ninety so I can literally repeat almost everywhere to full metal jacket that was definitely a whole pursue the music we liked to the things we wanted to do was all designed around the boys please that we fancied and some of the things that we up to we would never have gone out with somebody who wasn't much older than this and I'm talking about when I'm forty and fifty when I was a child wild we would never have gone out with somebody who was under eighteen for example which is illegal but there is absolutely no way we would have thought anything of it it would have been absolutely shameful to go with somebody our own age I remember one of my friends had a thirty five year old boyfriend when we were fifteen when it was as if that was absolutely reasonable how recent so much of this stuff right to reassess it you did Gates University Economic Social Policy in history at Leeds Academy your mom made you send to your essays she could chat you're working hard enough to check is working harder if it was to do them for me I mean really I should probably take they are really hated university and I tried to give up on many occasions I didn't like being away from home I want it to be Birmingham I wanted to be back where I felt I belonged and I tried to give up my mom just kept stopping me from giving up what didn't you like that I didn't like being away from my my paypal and at the time my brother wasn't very well and I used to fail like how to go back and look after him also I had a boyfriend who was was a terrible boyfriend frankly but he was back in Birmingham and he was intending to major Lazer do but obviously he never did because that would have meant his life bang about may not the other way around and so I wanted to come back all the time I just I belong in Birmingham I've tried to live in other places but I genuinely belong there but this so I think I would argue as well I think I wasn't that Happy University there's a lot of anxiety that women haven't we not why we have wonderful time in own wants to admit it but even eating eating disorders I was really aware of how how a lot of women develop them at universities absolutely either disorder when I was at university I remember for months and months I ate nothing but popcorn I weighed about seven stone and I'm five eight so totally unrealistic that I should wear that much it's not even so much that I felt the pressure of of what I was meant to be doing it university although the deadlines and all that always play on your mind it was more just didn't feel like affected in if I'm honest for star off when I started I started doing politics and I had this idea that it was going to.
"k. jess" Discussed on WCBS-FM 101.1
"Jess yes this yes it's true oh received the town this way yes the cbs you wanna day like today idea move slowly as matter of fact stay indoors on lower floors as they could be a good thought john elliott cbs who forecasts as you get ready for the big holiday weekend and the rest of the week in general what's going on this upcoming weekend will feel so much better there's a cold front on friday brings in some big thunderstorms with the potential person flooding but it will also charan cooler more comfortable air till then man we are just stuck in a steamy rut ninety to rutta ninety.
"k. jess" Discussed on RobinLynne
"Jess christ play taking me revenue.