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Dateable Podcast

04:09 min | 2 d ago

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"The dateable podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex. On each episode, we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host UA Shu, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explore this crazy dateable world. Hi dateable is welcome to another episode of the day will podcast. We are UA and Julie, your dating shirt bus, your dating confidants, your dating BFFs, you can call us whatever you want, as long as it's a nice word, as long as it's nice, you know. You could call us whatever nickname in as long as it's a good one. Yeah, keep it positive. I feel like so excited. We got this email that we were number one. In all of social sciences category. On good pods. On good pods. Yeah, this new what is it like a curation site that you can discover podcasts, but we were number, so the first day we were at upper water, we got the sea mail that we checked in and we had dropped an upper two, which is still a good achievement. Yeah. We were behind hidden brain, which is like for like a PhD. It's huge. Super reputable podcasts. My boyfriend listens to it, and I just was like, look, look who is behind. And your favorite podcast. Your girlfriend is so damn smart. Don't ever forget it. That's huge for us. It's been a roller coaster of rankings. For anybody who's in podcasting, you get put on all these lists. And sometimes you're like, I don't know, 1 million and 5 or whatever. We get happy when we're in the top hundred 'cause that's huge. They're millions and millions of podcasts out there, but to be in the top three or top 5 for one deal..

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"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

Dateable Podcast

05:54 min | 2 weeks ago

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"The date of the podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex. On each episode, we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host UA Shu, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explore this crazy dateable world. Welcome to brunch talk by the dateable podcast. We are here to eat and chat and dissect dish dish and analyze. And then fucking move on from it all. Yes, get it out of our systems. This is the time for tea. Especially if it's not serving us, but or okay, get it out of our systems or get that clarity and enlightenment that we need to move on. Okay, there you go. That's the positive. It's a nicer way. Nicer way to do it. But we are still recovering both of us from COVID, so if we sat a little loopy, that's why, but we are committed to give it the brunch talk and divulging it all, even if we are quarantined right now. But brunch is a time to just divulge. Let's just get it out. It's like vomiting out the information or the questions or the concerns that you have. And hopefully you're with your Friends and you guys are talking about your love lives and there's so many questions circulating. I know that we've had many questions circulating during our brunches, Julie. It's a therapy session. Yeah, you can Venmo Venmo me any time. I'll go to brush with you for a small feat of 250 plus. Plus I watch eggs Benedict. Thanks. But the reason why we talk about it with our Friends is because we need to get it out of our system. You can't ruminate by yourself thinking about these things. Why didn't this person text you back?.

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"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

Dateable Podcast

04:36 min | Last month

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"The dateable podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex. On each episode, we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host UA Shu, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explore this crazy dateable world. What is up everyone? Welcome to another episode of brunch talk with us the dateable podcast hosts and every week we get into a meaty question that we've been getting through our emails and we want to dissect it all for you. Over brunch talk. Yes. And then you can take it to your own brunches and dissect it further with your friends or spread the gospel because we're looking to have advice and dissection that empowers you at the end of the day..

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"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

Dateable Podcast

08:16 min | Last month

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"The dateable podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex. On each episode, we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host UA Shu, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explore this crazy dateable world. Hello data bowls, welcome to another episode of the dateable podcast. We are here to answer all of your questions about modern dating 'cause we're also trying to answer those for ourselves. And that's why we do this podcast. So we can learn to be better daters. This week's episode is a little bit, I don't know, I like that we have this mix of experts and then we have real stories. We do have an expert on this time. This is all about positive intelligence, but his entire program is really centered around every aspect of life, and we have to remember that our dating life, our love life, is connected to every aspect of our entire life. Yeah, this episode of a UA could go into a war because you're actually in his program. So you came to me and you were like, I have the best guest. I have the best guess sure zod shamin, and I'll take you his course of a positive intelligence. And I'm like, what the fuck is positive intelligence? And then you started to go into it of just how we learned how we sabotage our love lives. And as soon as you said that, I was like, we need to get him out the podcast. And I'm so glad we did because like you said, we do this podcast. This podcast started because we were genuinely curious about modern day day. And we did not have it all figured out ourselves. And now that both of us are not actively dating anymore, but we are navigating relationships. And fun fact, it doesn't stop after you go to a relationship, you never stop dating, and you just have to do things pop up and I think what I've been learning personally over the last, you know, I would say I'm hitting a year. I'm going on my year anniversary next week for going away. And I'd say the first, you know, the first like 6 months you're in the honeymoon phase, everything's great. Everything's going well and not to say it's not going great now. It definitely is, but we're just going to a different level. You know, we're heading different things and what I've learned from my relationship, talking to you, talking to other people in relationships and some friends that have been married for years. There's always something. There's always something you need to navigate. And it makes sense because you're bringing gears and years of your own way of doing things and thinking about things and processing things to a relationship and I love in this, how we break it down and see how it's actually impacting our relationships with our loved ones and how we're getting in our own ways. I was kind of reminiscing about my previous relationships and even the current one the first few months because you and I always talk about like the early stages of a relationship. And I don't think we ever went through that honeymoon phase because I think what it was was my UA bullshit phase. That's what I call it. That's what the honeymoon phase was for me. I threw out so much bullshit at this guy and every other person I've dated because I never thought being in a relationship meant it should be easy. So I made a very hard in the beginning. I want to do like the games and the chase and kind of make it not so easy for my partner, but then the next 6 months was about him breaking down my bullshit and being like, let's work on these issues instead of this like me versus you mentality. So I look back on previous dating, the early stages of dating, and I just fucking cringe, Julie. I can't believe I was that person who would never say thank you at the end of the dinner if someone picked up the bill. Like I would just act like I was entitled for some reason because I wanted the guy to feel like he should feel lucky to be with me. Like, what the hell was wrong with me? So yes, for me, honeymoon phase never existed because there's just UA bullshit phase. Well, I think even if you're not at a relationship, this episode is equally as applicable because you could sabotage yourself, even if you don't have someone to sabotage a relationship with. And that's exactly what you were doing. You finally just met someone that was willing to just break through it with you. It's interesting because I think Biden was the opposite that we were just so enamored and in love and then we started to be like, okay, this is the real selves, not that we weren't showing real selves, but it's different. Start to dig in a little more and get more comfortable. And honestly, I think actually, even if when there's conflicts, I always think of our episode with Vienna. Farron and Connor beaton, which was last season about how conflict is actually the key to a successful healthy relationship and I do believe actually it's broken down barriers that we can get to know each ourselves better. Each other better and you build something that has a lot more depth than when it's just surface level at honeymoon ish. Yeah, like wishers odd is going to go into with this episode. We have two different sides of ourselves. We have the sage self which is the compassionate empathetic, peaceful side of us, and then we have the saboteur self which is just multiple layers of sabotages. I don't even know if that's right word, but saboteurs that can come and really ruin a good relationship. And in early dating, you're a sage side comes out because you want to be loving compassionate and empathetic, but the more you grow closer to each other, the more you can use your own saboteurs to bring out the saboteurs and other people. So you kind of like feed off of each other's negative energy. So it's like it's inevitable in relationships that we have both sides, and that we always say like someone can bring out the best in you and they can bring out the worst in you. That is so true in a relationship. Yeah, or what you're saying is sometimes maybe you're saboteurs come out before the sage. So I think everyone's different based on how you process relationships, your past experience, if you're protecting yourself and how you're doing it, it's a great topic. And it definitely gives me schemas vibes. You know, like identifying how you fit in, there's a quiz you can take, you a set me the quiz. Immediately, I was like, oh my God, this exploits everything. Similar to how I felt what I was realized I was a perfectionist on schemas in. What I love about this and schemas is that there's nothing wrong with you. There's none that are better than the other. It's bore just how can you get more knowledge about the way you process things, the beliefs you hold. So when it comes up, you're able to just be like, oh, yep, it's this. Not like there's something actually flawed with my relationship. I'm so glad you found it. Yeah, I'm so glad you said that, because we always say that with personal development and self help sort of like these quizzes and assessments you can take, it's not to tell you what is wrong with you, not to diagnose you. It's to give you hope that you can work towards someone a better version of yourself and we're constantly working on the better version of ourselves. So with this episode with the schemas with the personality test, it is just capturing you in this moment in time and then gives you a road map for where you can go towards. And that's always progress. Yeah, it even reminds me of last week's episode, which got such rave reviews about securing your anxious attachment style. We know that a lot of our listeners identify this way. Similar to me, because you might never lose that aspect of yourself. You might always have some anxiety, for instance, or you might always have some perfectionism or whatever it may be, but you can learn how to control it and you learn how to share it with someone, and you learn how to not let it get in your way, ultimately. So I've been wanting to ask you this way. So you took this course, wishers odd. And you were obviously felt very strongly about it. And one of the things I admire about you is your growth mindset in that you're always looking for ways to continue personal development..

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"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

Dateable Podcast

03:23 min | Last month

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"The dateable podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex. On each episode, we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host UA shoe, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explore this crazy dateable world. Hello, everyone. Welcome to our first episode of brunch talk by the dateable podcast where we're going to dig into some of the questions that you all have been sending in and we finally have the time and space to answer those questions. So let's start with our first one. You ready for this Julie? Oh yeah, this is a meaty brunch topic if you've had one. Yeah, get those mimosas ready guys. I've been at so many branches where this comes up. What do I do when they don't text back and I freak out to just give a little bit of background when they don't get text back within three to four hours of me texting them. I tend to freak out and make up stories in my head. How do I stop doing that? Oh my God, how many times have you shared that text thread at the brunch table? Asking what's going on? 30 million times. Everyone talks so differently. Some people are glued to their phones to some people tend to turn off their phones during the day sometimes. I know that's a rare breed, but it does happen. The way we interpret text is that we think the minute we send that text, the other person's gotten it. So for some reason, we make up the story that they're just intentionally staring at your.

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"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

Dateable Podcast

04:56 min | Last month

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"The dateable podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex. On each episode, we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host UA Shu, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explore this crazy dateable world. What's up Friends?.

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"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

Dateable Podcast

04:49 min | 2 months ago

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"The dateable podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex. On each episode, we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host UA Shu, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explore this crazy dateable world. Hey Friends, welcome to another episode of the dateable podcast where we dig into the ins and outs of modern dating but also the wise house and what's of people's behavior. We're on it. Yes, we have an episode that's coming soon of why the what needs to be the question not the why. So we'll leave it at that. Let you all be intrigued for a few weeks, but it's a good one. We always have good ones though. That's true. What else is new? I'm saying I have a favorite episode, you know, the usual. Every week. Well, this week's episode is completely relatable for so many people. It's about dating a workaholic or maybe you are an a workaholic dating because all of us are have been trying to make work and life and dating all work together the last few years, especially a lot of us working from home, which I've heard that makes you work even more 'cause there's no separation of home and work. So I found this episode, especially relevant. Yeah, someone actually asked me earlier has this always been a thing or do you think it's new for the pandemic? And I think dating someone that's a workaholic or being a workaholic has been around forever, but it's just showed up in different ways with the pandemic. We're going to go into it today with our guest Caitlin, who was dating a workaholic, and the industry that he worked in was supply chain, which I think different industries got hit differently in the pandemic, too, that there's a lot just going on in the world that is outside a relationships. And we also differentiate two of being invested in your career versus being a workaholic. And there are two very different things. And we also find out that your work culture bleeds into your personal life culture. And a lot of what we experience at work, if we don't leave it at work, it does show up in our personal lives, especially in dating. And the reason why I say that is because I'm at my parents house right now whenever I'm at my parents house, I get very nostalgic and I think about old memories, right?.

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"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

Dateable Podcast

03:46 min | 2 months ago

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"The dateable podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex. On each episode, we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host UA Shu, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explore this crazy dateable world. Hello Friends, welcome to another episode of the dateable podcast where we dig deep into modern dating, people's behavior, and how we can get rid of bad dating behavior and start praising people for good dating behavior. And this is what this season is about. Season 14, hope you all like the first episode that was quite the banger. So good. We got so much feedback that it made people look at themselves in ways they'd never did before. And feel good that the multiple voices inside of you are all of you. You're not crazy. It's just crazy. So much is the relationship with yourself. And I feel like in this season too, whether you're dating and a relationship, whatever your status is, that is a common theme that we're going to keep bringing home. At the end of the day, that's what makes the difference. It really does. And whenever data say, it's my city, it's the apps. It's the people on the apps, but then you listen to everybody complaining about the exact same thing. You start to wonder, um, are we all guilty of that said behavior? Because we are. So we can only take responsibility for ourselves and this is why Julie and I have really refocused the content of this podcast on a lot of the self improvement material because that's the only thing we have control over. It is ourselves. Yeah, we hear for this week's episode. We hear this all the time that one of the biggest struggles in modern dating. You know, there's a lot of struggles. So it's not the only one, but one of them is getting past a third date. For some reason, it feels like quite at accomplishment to get past a third date in today's world. And we hear often the reason at this point. It's not that there's no attraction. Usually by date three, someone's already kind of established that piece. It's that there's no emotional connection. Those are like the dreaded words that get sent to your text. We will not be going out again because there is no emotional connection. Have you ever gotten that before you? I've sent that text before. I sure have. And I sent it because I didn't know what else to say. It just seemed like the only logical thing to send. It's right. I mean, when I sent that text, I remember the guy kept trying to convince me otherwise. So he tried to call me and ask me, what if we did this? What if I was all in? What if we went on vacation? But to me, my mind was already made up that there was just nothing there. And I think a lot of times this happens when we can't get past the date talk, the data of you. And it feels like we're all the same date, again. And again, and again. But the flip side, I don't think I've actually gotten that there's no emotional connection. I think by flip side was maybe there's too much emotional connection. What? A trauma dump. You know what I mean? I think some people slip on the other side. Of course, Julie would get too much emotional connection. Well, I swear some of the dates where I thought we had the most riveting emotional connection..

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"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

Dateable Podcast

04:07 min | 3 months ago

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"The dateable podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex. On each episode, we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host you issue, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explore this crazy dateable world. Hello Friends and lovers and data bowls. Welcome to another episode of the dateable podcast. We bring you another bonus episode with Julian I where we feel very passionate about this topic. We think a change is needed in a change is a common. This is the year. This is it, y'all, 'cause we're headed.

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"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

Dateable Podcast

02:58 min | 3 months ago

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"The date of podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex on each episode we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host ue shoe, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explored this crazy dateable world..

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"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

Dateable Podcast

05:03 min | 3 months ago

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"The date of podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex on each episode we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host ue shoe, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explored this crazy dateable world. Hello Friends, welcome to another episode of the dateable podcast. We are so happy to bring you another episode with just Julie and I we always like spending low quality time just the two of us with you all joining us in this party for two. This episode is a topic that I feel like we talk about quite a bit in the community and we talk about it casually, but we haven't had a formal episode on it. So I'm glad that I'll give credit to Julie. She's like, we gotta do one about situationships. People want to talk about situationships. It's so true. We were kind of thinking about what would be a good topic and that is what came to mind because in today's world, situation ships are so prevalent. Yes. Maybe we can start by defining what a situation is. So the definition that we found was a romantic or sexual relationship that is not considered to be formal or established. So typically there is no DTR conversation to find the relationship. You are generally feeling ambiguous about what is happening. When you have to ask yourself what is this and you're probably not even asking the other person, maybe you got the group text on blast. Analyzing their every move, you're probably not the situation. But a situation ship is still a relationship. I think that's still important to understand because you are in relational dynamic with someone else. It's just not clearly defined as in boundaries and what it is exactly that you're doing. Yeah. And generally, the two people are not committed to each other. Right. Or at least not formally committed to each other. Is this like describing everybody out there right now? I feel like so many people are like, yes. That's me. I feel like it. I think there is a difference, though. This isn't in the formal definition. But I think at the early stages when you first start dating, then I wouldn't describe that as a situation. When you're probably like a month in and you're just going on one day to week or something, that to me is early stage dating. Just try to get to know each other. I personally think a situation ship is when, you know, more time has gone by and things continue to be ambiguous. There's no sign of progression..

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"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

Dateable Podcast

05:51 min | 4 months ago

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"Is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex on each episode we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host ue shoe, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explore this crazy dateable world. Hello, everyone. Welcome to another episode of the dateable podcast. We are still in the bonus season before we kick off season 14. And last week, Julie interviewed me and we had so much fun that this week we're turning the tables around and I get to interview miss Julie Kraft kick herself of a little nerve sighted. I'm not gonna lie, I'm a little nervous. Nervous slash excited for anyone. They're kind of they kind of go hand in hand. We've had so many community members reach out with their own questions. I've gotten a few private DMs with people who want to protect their identity and they want to know what's up. And I think ultimately we've never done this before, and it's just a really fun way to show you all our journey and show you our why, our why of why we're doing this podcast. So we're going to turn the tables like I said, I'm going to interview Julie, but before we get to that, we had just a crazy week just want to quickly touch upon it. Oh, yes. This viral sensation, west elm Caleb was dropped into our laps, basically, and all of a sudden we became the experts on west Caleb. For anyone living under a rock, west of Caleb exploded on TikTok, it was one woman that kind of started it up saying that she had gone out with this guy, Caleb, and he worked at west dobb, heads the dick Dave, and he did the things.

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"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

Dateable Podcast

04:45 min | 4 months ago

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"Is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex on each episode we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host ue shoe former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explore this crazy dateable world. Hello, dateable family, happy new year, happy 2022 is so nice to have you all back for the day to podcast where we are not changing anything about our content, okay? We're still trying to get to the bottom of modern dating, but new year, new season, new stories, new learnings. You know, every year, new stuff unravels of getting to the thought of a modern day. I think it's still so funny that we first started this. We were like, I feel like we're gonna run out of dating stories. Exactly. 6 years later, they just never stopped, do they? No. And it's almost like the same kind of info or questions, reappear in different ways. Different ways. So, you know, no matter where you are in your dating journey, there's something for you on the dateable podcast. That's for sure. I think 6 years ago we would not have predicted data during a pandemic ever. So that was a big curve ball for us for sure. We would have won a lot of money if we had predicted that. Yes, we would have, but we will be doing predictions next week. But this week, we want to check in, you know, and reflect back on the last year. And then what's in the year to come when it comes to dating in relationships? Yes. And it's always good to reflect back Julia is the one that taught me this is the end of the year or beginning of the new year..

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Dateable Podcast

03:28 min | 5 months ago

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"The date of podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex on each episode we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host ue shoe, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explored this crazy dateable world. What's update ables? Welcome to our season finale of the dateable podcast for season 13. We've had quite a run for the season and I can't believe we're already at the end of this season, but it doesn't mean that the end of our podcast it just means we go in season so we get a little break for ourselves and then we ramp back up again. This is not a goodbye. It's just a more of a see you see you next year. This episode is the perfect way to tie up the season, which we're talking about breakups, but beyond all of that is how do you close the door? Find a finale to a previous relationship. And then move forward from there. I think that's the more important part is, yes, we want to be compassionate about the ending of relationships. But then how do you propel yourself forward and find your person? So this is where we're at. I think this is a perfect episode for anyone that's in the thick of it. And apparently this is breakup season right now. From Christmas to Valentine's Day. Guess that's when his shit hits the fan. You spend too much time with families, maybe there's this looming gift giving that's around the corner..

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Dateable Podcast

05:58 min | 5 months ago

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"The date of podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex on each episode we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host ue shoe, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explore this crazy dateable world. What's up everyone? Welcome to another episode of the dateable podcast where we dive into modern dating and try to help you explain why people do the shit that they do and say the things that they do while we're all trying to navigate modern dating ourselves. That is true. And then one of the things that is always lingering with modern dating is the future, right? To get married to have children. All the stuff that cubs after day. And you know, we've heard a lot of people even say there's a lot of pressure in dating because I know I want to have kids. Or I don't want to have kids or I'm not sure if I want to have kids that how do I fight someone that's all the same page. It's one of those things that feels like you're really putting the car to guide to the horse, but in reality that it is a necessity to think about because it is so essential to lifestyle and future and ultimate compatibility, I think. You get to a certain age where I don't know for me, all of a sudden woke up one day and was like, oh my God, this is a real thing. I really got to think about if I want kids or not, you know, in my early 20s, it was just like, yeah, in the future, I'll think about it, I'm sure I'll have them. It'll just be a given, but I think I don't know, let me think. When I hit 35, was probably when it got real because that's kind of like the last year that you should freeze your eggs. If you wanted to, and then really having that conversation with your partner, do we want to have kids? We do. We probably should start trying now. And now at 40, it's like, I'm almost at the stage of like, if it happens it happens and if it doesn't, it's interesting because I've actually I went into talk about freezing my eggs like I went in for a consult and up 38. So yes, it's obviously the better the earlier you do it, the better in general, but they always obviously try to push people to do it to some degree, but it's like then 40 is that sliding scale and all of the pieces and I will say it is so overwhelming and I think that's why I avoided it for so long because I think part of it was I was unsure and I still am not a 100%. I've kind of on your boat..

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"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

Dateable Podcast

02:42 min | 6 months ago

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"The podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex. On each episode, we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host ue shoe, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explore this crazy dateable world. Hello, dateable, welcome to another episode of the date of podcast, where we are going to dissect everybody's motives when it comes to dating, but also eat all the Turkey. We can this week. Because this is the only week anybody's eating Turkey. Am I right? Who else? What else are you eating Turkey? It is a big voluntarily. A big week for all. Big week for turkeys. Happy Thanksgiving to all of our listeners. First did four Bose, but what are your Thanksgiving plans you ate? I don't think we've actually caught up on this even. No, we have it. My partner and I are going down to my parents house and the four of us plus our two dogs are going to have a very festive Thanksgiving together. My mom really loves it when during the holidays, there seems to be a lot of commotion. She feels like you need a you need a noisy holiday. She always says that. Feels more festive. So we're gonna bring the dogs obviously because they're noisy and we're gonna make all the sides but my mom's gonna make the goose. We're not doing Turkey. She's making goose. So you will not be having all the Turkey. Well, I will still have Turkey as someone's house. I just know it. You know, there's gonna be leftover Turkey as someone's house. I will have Turkey at some point this weekend, but on that actual day we will be having goose and all the other fun sides. What about you, Julie? I am going to my friend's mother's house, so I'm adopted into her home for Thanksgiving. I will not be traveling back, but she was kind enough to invite myself and my boyfriend and one of her other friends and then her parents. So she said expect to get really fucked up and to eat a lot of food. With the mom or the friend, my friend said that. Oh man, I was hoping the mom. But she might have said that too. I just, I got it secondhand. So it should be a good Thanksgiving, but also it is Hanukkah starting odd Sunday this weekend. Is that early from Hanukkah? So Hanukkah comes on different times all the time. So usually it falls around Christmas ish. But no, it's very early this year. So I will be getting my cooking energy out by doing hanukah celebration. Wow, that's.

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"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

Dateable Podcast

06:39 min | 6 months ago

"julie kraft" Discussed on Dateable Podcast

"The podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex. On each episode, we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host ue shoe, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explore this crazy dateable world. Hello, dateable, welcome to another episode of the dateable podcast where we are your dating sociologists and we will examine study and dissect human behavior when it comes to dating and explain it all to you. So we can navigate dating much better. That sounded so professional. So educational. We are so professional. You know, even know. I always like that we say active daters turned dating sociologists because I think that really sums it up because we were both very much the thick of things, but you know, through this podcast alone, we've talked to, I mean, how many people? Of people. So that is the qualitative research that gives you sociology creds. Of course, we're not accredited yet, but some day. We're credited in the podcast world. That's all that matters. Hey, if we could help you find your person, that's all the credentials we need. And I'm proud to say we have helped people find their people. So, you know, it's not like we're just talking BS here. People are finding their people's through us. Yes. I remember talking to Niki novo, one of our past guests was the medium and I remember her talking about how I was the type of person that needed to watch before doing. And that this podcast really suited me for doing it because it allowed me to really study kind of dissect what I wanted and what I didn't want in a relationship, which would set me up for having the right relationship for myself. And I think in retrospect, she was a 100% correct because I feel like I'm able to reflect in ways that I 100% would never have. If we were doing this podcast. Oh, that makes sense. Yeah, you kind of want to see how other people have done it. And maybe paved the way before you even want to try that direction. That makes sense. Exactly. I like that. She knew you so well. Thanks for each other. Which learning from each other is exactly what we're doing today. I feel like we've been wanting to do this topic for a while dating with a disability. And I'm so glad that we finally did it with our guest Tiffany, who really shed light onto this topic. And I think she really expanded my definition as well of what a disability even means. I think we think of, you know, like, physical disabilities, and it can go so so much deeper to emotional behavior, like there's so many aspects of what a disability means. It does open your eyes, my eyes are all of our eyes to talk about the subject and I feel like now is the right time to talk about this as well. I think everyone's very open to it. I remember I've had trainings about it too, even in the workplace. So it's good that we're opening this up into the dating world. But I think a lot of us have gone on so many one day to date kind of things that we haven't even gotten to the point of knowing someone's disabilities. Imagine all the people you have been on dates with and what they would have revealed to you had it been date 5 or 6. 'cause I think we think of the things you could see. And as we go into it, a lot of it is, you know, some of its mental health related and things that may not be on the surface of Tate want or two. Yes. So this is just a really good discussion to have to just accept others a little bit more and to know that everyone has their own journey that they're going through and it's really hard to judge someone based on a snapshot of their life that you are entering at. Yeah, I think obviously for anyone that has a disability that they're dealing with this episode will be incredibly powerful. But I think a lot of times when you're dating, it's kind of like you don't know what's gonna get throughout your way. Have this image of who you'll end up with. You know, this person has been living a life for many, many years before you, that, you know, there's certain things that are going on for them that may not be in the picturesque view of what you think your partner is going to look like because we all are much deeper. We all have aspects of our personalities and just inherit traits that may not be what is listed on our dating profile per se. The basics. Yes, yes. This is why it's so important to get to know people for who they are. And it's hard to do that based on dating profiles and I get it. I spent all weekend with some single boys who are navigating the dating scene and they're just telling me they're dating woes and I get it. I mean, I totally understand why it can be so frustrating and hard and you don't understand why you're even wasting I mean, quote unquote wasting your time, dating, but I say this all the time, there's a lid for every pot and when you find your lid, it is an incredible feeling. So keep looking for your lid 'cause your lid is desperately looking for you too. Yeah, and I love this, you know, we all have imperfections. None of us are perfect. So, you know, like I think the reframe of it is like letting someone into your life and all the imperfections that are there, allowing someone to kind of be along for that ride and you be along for the ride for them. That's like the greatest form of intimacy when you really think about it. It really is, isn't it? Yeah, when you're sharing an experience together, and then you get to create new experiences together. That's the ultimate form of connection. Yeah. And I feel like, you know, it's never that we wanna wish circumstances on people. We talk about in this episode, Tiffany's disabilities came from a car accident. We never want to wish those circumstances, but I do think having the heavy stuff does build layers to your personality and it goes much deeper than just the surface connection. So while it's never a good thing, none of us want disabilities, but I think having that is just an extra dimension of someone that you can really learn to.

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