18 Burst results for "Joel Kim"

"joel kim" Discussed on Urgent Care with Joel Kim Booster and Mitra Jouhari

Urgent Care with Joel Kim Booster and Mitra Jouhari

01:55 min | Last month

"joel kim" Discussed on Urgent Care with Joel Kim Booster and Mitra Jouhari

"You don't have to worry about who's paying because you're talking about it. You have to find. Avoid the purview. Anyway Views that i might say Kind lots. so what's the bill. You find out who's paying for dinner by opening up a four to one of the fortune cookies at the end everyone. Everyone at the table will get a catchphrase but then one person will get your paying for dinner rather than us deciding. How do you feel about this. So i brought this because i was like i'm originally. I thought it was a great idea but then it was like no like we should be the ones that get to decide every time. Yeah i always feel like we should have that power. It's our restaurant. We decide who pays for dinner. I love this guy. I love him like a son him like a son. I'm gonna go out on a limit. I'm going to say he's gay. I actually even. If he's not gay he is now and i love him like a son would suck him off. But i don't like this idea. I just wanted to hear it because i thought it was like great sort of constructive feedback but wanted to make sure we're on the same page and we had. Yeah we against our caller we brought. We brought him on specifically to say sir. Thank you know. But i didn't know. I didn't know what you were gonna think because originally i thought pretty good idea stress reliever. It's just left to chance but it can't be less chance care way we don't we decide we decide. It's actually really stressful for us. Because it means we have to be at the restaurant every day all day for the whole time. Yeah for the whole time. Every meal you preside over has like like limited hours for sure It's more like a pop up than anything. Should we take a little break and then get to the new ones. I need it. I think that.

"joel kim" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression

The Hilarious World of Depression

07:11 min | 2 months ago

"joel kim" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression

"Why is your twitter handle. I hate joel kim. I just thought it was funny in two thousand eleven. Or whenever i created that'd get in before the haters. Yeah it makes a ugo laugh. Well it's funny. Do you hate joachim. no. I don't think so. Okay you like yourself right now I'm frustrated with myself right now. But i don't hate myself. I don't think there's anything to be gained from feeling that emotion. Yeah what happened after that. Puerto vallarta trip like what was the. You came home and sounds like it was a wonderful trip. What fell apart after that trip Well i mean. I was doing hell drugs. That trip okay. So there's just like a chemical come down that happens yeah truly was also very sick and was also away from this guy and you know i don. That's basically it. I mean. I made it through the week i pushed through and i got shit done and i did. What needed to be done. And there were high points and low points but it's just another week man was it. A work trip was a professional or was it just all vacation just vacation okay. Okay is that you know we're talking zoom right now. I'm seeing her apartment Is the apartment a place that you associate with the depression since covered. I imagine you've been there since covered. I hate this place then moved in four months before the pandemic and i've grown to hate it deeply. I used to love it. But i hate it now because of associations that you make with it yeah. It represents the darkest period of my entire life and my bet is up against the wall. It's impossible to make and there's no other way to orient the room. it's too small. Are you gonna move. Yeah but i want to buy a house. So i'm waiting until i am financially able to do that which hopefully will have by the end of the year but we'll see has want to ask you again about the The refuge of of doing this kind of stuff Because we talked a little bit about the the standup portion. But we haven't talked about the acting portion. Were you a theater kid growing up. Oh yeah bigtime musical theater and yeah all kinds all kinds okay. A was it. 'cause i i ask because i was. I was that kid to before. I got into any kind of radio. It was all theater and as a depressed kid who didn't understand depression. It felt less. It didn't feel like escapism to me. I knew i wasn't these people but it just felt like a pause to kind of hit pause and and live in a different world where i knew what i was going to say and i knew what everybody else is going to say and i understood all the relationships that were going on Has that been your experience where it's maybe not like a total expression of who you are but it's a place to hide out for a while. Yeah it's so easy. It's so easy. Because i don't have to be created. I just have to say the words and acting comes very easy to me And it feels like such a relief to go on set and just say the lines be funny in that way. That's that's the one way i can still be. Funny is is through acting and you know it just feels like a relief. It feels like i'm hiding Hiding from from the reality of my situation which is that. I lost it whenever i had. I lost it. You lost the ability to generate laughs right material. Okay i mean. There's there's a fair number of people in los angeles who would be very content with that who see themselves as actors who don't gain to write scripts and don't need to do other things and and and who see acting as creative act like if they're if they're doing a performance it's getting laughs they're generating laughs in that way. You don't see that as possible for yourself. No i do. I n i don't mean shit on acting is creative. Act for sure but the thing that made me really special. He's gone the thing that has always made me really special is gone from my life and that was writing for as long as i can remember. I was writing and i wrote and it was the thing you know. I'm a good actor but it was a great writer and it really is devastating to know that that has gone from your life. Like i've been lobotomize and part of my brain is missing. Do you think this is environmental like circumstantial to to the pandemic to your your father's death or do you think there is a chemical change that has happened in you little column a little column. Be probably yeah. Who's to say well. The medical community if if it could be determined where this is coming from if it's if it can be a tweak in medication or tweak in the approach to therapy hundred different types of therapy Do you have the will to search for the to to know rans run some flags up the flagpole or you know kind of play around with it and see if you can find a combination. Yeah yeah i mean. I'm trying different things right now as we speak. I'm reading all the self help books. I'm doing all the alternative therapies and lighting candles to create creative spaces to all the bullshit. But it's all bullshit. Yeah yeah all right. What do you think it's going to be like in five years..

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"joel kim" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression

The Hilarious World of Depression

07:11 min | 2 months ago

"joel kim" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression

"Done but you've been you've been in the pandemic since they're like if you haven't been in the world what's there to observe about the world. I mean you know it's been a couple of months. I've been vaccinated and out in the world and it's not coming back. My thing is is like things. Don't remind me of other things anymore. And that's the bedrock of my comedy you know like i. You know You feel like. I'm in love. And i have nothing interesting to say about it. Nothing funny no observations about it at all and that's wild to me like this new experience in my life and i have nothing to say about it. That's scary. that sucks and and the depression is new. this this didn't exist pre pandemic. no okay not to this magnitude. I mean i get sad sometimes but you know it was nothing nothing that would keep me from writing. What are you doing to address it. You know therapy medication. That the whole that whole shit sounds like it's not going great on that front. No nothing works. This is who i am now. Yeah yeah what do you. What's your plan. I have no plan right out. You know until people start to catch on. And then i can still act. you know. that's easy acting as easy thing in the world. And hopefully i'll be able to continue to get work that way but beyond that i don't know are you. Are you working on like writing projects but are just stalled on them or you just not working on the mall You know. I have a movie that i'm shooting that i wrote I'm taking out a show. I wrote one of the best scripts i've ever written at the very beginning of the pandemic i think during a manic episode Trying to sell that. But if they asked me to write an episode to i couldn't do it Have you talked with other people who've been in this situation similar situations. Yeah everybody says oh. Yeah my creative. Creativity is shot but yet they're still turning out new jokes. They're still turning out new videos. There's still tweeting through it. It's not the same. I'm blank. Do you think it's permanent. Yeah because i have no reason to believe it's not k. but if it came on during the pandemic in the pandemic has over yes for all intents and purposes. The pandemic has been over for me since february and it's june now and nothing's changed. How much of your dad do you think is in this. It's it's hard to suss that out. You know it's another situation where i can't believe i have nothing to say it's just grief is just. It's just grief and used to be when i would experience something like that. I could write a joke about it. I could write something about it. I could process it through writing. And i have not been able to process anything. He's just gone. Were you close. No we got closer in the final years. We were sort of at an impasse. I mean he's very conservative man. You know it's our relationship was probably as good as it has ever been right before he passed you know and it just There's a lot of big things coming for me. And i just sucks. That he won't be able to see them and you know he never approved of what i did for a living. I don't think he he never saw sunnyside. He never seat. He's never seen any of my stand up but like you know. I might buy a house this year. And that's something that like. He would've been really really excited about and he won't get to experience that now and you know we were finding little ways to connect. I was starting to guard in. He's a farmer and has a huge garden and now it's something we were connecting about. And now he's just gone. What about the things that that you think he might have been really excited about like. You're in a position where you can recognize those things as exciting Are they exciting to you. Yeah sure i mean it just I've never felt so blank in my entire life. I don't understand what yeah sure means. Are you is that. You're you are excited about those things i can. I can recognize things on paper as like being exciting. I understand that is the human emotion that coincides with this event x. event but in terms of really feeling it. I feel nothing I i. I'm looking for for for ways to make this interview not dark in case that's what you wanted to be but i also feel like i need to kind of honor the reality of the situation. You're in like if i'm talking to joel on this day. This is who this is. Who joel was on this day. Yeah i'm really sorry for being such a fucking down on the depression podcasts. I mean i'm the one running depression podcast. So it's fine with me. One more with joel kim booster including where he goes from here. That's coming up in just a moment. do. How is it for you to watch funny things now to watch funny shows or stand up or like that nothing but jealousy really nothing but just the and just not not in terms of the successive which is like god..

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"joel kim" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression

The Hilarious World of Depression

06:02 min | 2 months ago

"joel kim" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression

"Gave mara brought up the idea of having. Joel kim booster on the show. And i thought that sounded great. I'd seen joel on this. Nbc sitcom called sunnyside and he was amazing one of those performances that you watch and you think this goes beyond funny. This is a complete creative event. Something new and amazing is being born. Here i knew joel done a lot of standup and was well regarded. I watched a few clips of that hilarious. Smart innovative. And i knew he wrote as well for billy on the street and the show the other two brilliant brilliant shows he's also the co host of the very funny urgent care podcast with very funny person metro hari. My only concern was whether joel had any connection to mental illness. And he kind of struggle coming through google and twitter. There were some hints. He mentioned bipolar disorder. But he mentions having that well under control. I figured if there wasn't much there he's obviously a sharp guy. We could talk about the industry or mental health in entertainment or something like that. I didn't know if there'd be a lot going on with joel. Kim boosters mental health until the interview started and i asked him how he's been doing lately What a coincidence that. We're recording today. Because i am in the midst of pretty bad depressive episode right now come barely barely getting through today. I mean i'm actually been fairly productive. But i've been it's been moving through a fog doing it and it's been like pulling teeth so i'm really happy to come here and talk about it But yeah other than that. I would say the big sort of headlines of the year for me were. I lost my ability to write My imagination has left me and his shot. And i lost my dad to come so sorrow. Yeah those are the two big things. I'm i sort of That have sort of gone hand in hand to bring me to a pretty dark place at the end of this year. So what's today looked like you say. This is an episode that that started today or is this has been going on for. It's no it's been going. It's been up and down. I would say for the last several weeks. I'm a party boy. And on the weekends like when i'm surrounded by my friends and i'm able to you know Us some substances deprive myself up. I feel great. I feel fine. I was just in puerto vallarta for a week and it was the best week i've had in a year and a half and i felt free. I felt most the most like myself. I think i have felt in a year and a half. I fell in love. I came back and it all came crashing down. And it's you know it's a chemical come down but it's also a sort of spiritual come down after you know a vacation that is that intense and wonderful and It's been up and down since then was it a feeling was at a trip. That kind of kicked off the were climbing out of this phase of the. I the first thing that i really done like that. It was the first time. I've danced in a group of people. It was the first time. I you know taking my shirt off and been free and a club which is something that i was. You know you could find me doing pre pandemic for a long time but Yea it's been. It's been a rough couple of weeks. Yeah what does the day look like when you're in a cycle like this. How does it start. What happens over the course of a day. Well you know. It's amazing. Because i have this incredible autopilot and so i have a list of things i need to get done. And as long as they're not creative. I'm okay you know i get up. I go to the gym. I come back. I sit in the shower for upwards of minutes and then i stand in the shower and do the things in the shower. You're supposed to do get out. I find myself. I clean my apartment. I take care of admin work. I try and tackle one or two projects that i'm supposed to be doing around the house like today. I'm clearing out my closet to give away close. And that's if i if i can accomplish that then i have really done something with my day and i can feel a little bit better about what's going on but yeah All throughout it. there's sort of crushing unending. Dread in the back of my mind while it's happening is it focused on anything in particular just dread as dread. I mean it definitely is directional. You know i. I'm worried about my body. I'm i was out of the gym for two weeks. Because i was sick and i was on vacation. I'm you know. I have pretty pretty not extreme but i have a unrelenting bodies more about how i look and so there's that There's this guy that i have met and opened up to for the i i you know i don't open up to people i don't date and so there's anxiety about that. There's anxiety about my career. There's anxiety about you know. I i'm done in this business. I don't know that i can. I don't know what the future holds for me as a comedian. Who can't read a joke. How long is the writing drought. Been going on about a year and a.

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"joel kim" Discussed on Bad Science

Bad Science

06:34 min | 2 months ago

"joel kim" Discussed on Bad Science

"That will take this seriously but if you really start to pay attention to your local elections to the people in your city in your neighborhoods literally. Those are the people who have the power to say. hey restaurants. You can't use plastic cups. You can't use plastic silverware anymore. Like switch to you know paper goods like things like that. Do make a difference and those happen on a city level and people don't pay attention to their local government elections and i think that that is where like you know the the city the city council election here in la that happened last year with nitya rahman like one of the big things was the styrofoam lobby was like propping up her opponent and that was a huge part of their worries that she would win. Because that is like you know there's a styrofoam bam coming to l. a. And that would. That would make a difference. And that is a huge step in the right direction for the environment. And that's happening on a city level. So i think if people focused more on what's happening locally instead of just i mean focus on what's happening nationally. I think like don't don't ignore that. Either but i do think that we can make smaller strides locally. If we just pay attention men expertly said absolutely agree with you and that's another good reason to shame people in public. Yeah get them to admit if they voted for their local elections are not lumping. This basic human jar. Yeah yeah. I absolutely agree with you and hope that that people can come around and stop in their everyday use also And maybe mentioned it to your favorite Restaurant tours or you know what your local pubs and stuff you know if they're serving up plastic than You know let them know that they're sort of killing the ocean and that there's other ways you know most meal delivery most meal delivery service places. Now they even have an option to say like do not send utensils and if you're ordering in you've got you got forks. You're not an animal you got works at home. just click. click. Do like if you do one thing. If wh- if you have one takeaway one single take away from this. Podcast will first of all. It should be that. He didn't finish. The swim and i was furious that i watched an entire documentary about a man swimming across the pacific and he didn't actually swim across the pacific. But that's besides the point the one takeaway you should have from. This is click. Do not send me. Plastic utensils with my takeout. Just like that's just one little thing you can do just one little thing. Great call i mean and that's that's also just a great microcosm example of like those. Are the kind of things that you can do that. Take four seconds mad if you just did that every time you know after after a bid up and you don't need that stuff you don't need to just throw that out and deal with it when it comes to your door. Just click a button and they won't send you it that's great. I love that piece of advice. And i'm sorry that you watch this and he didn't complete the swim really. I apologize for that. I was with him. I was with him when he wanted to put everyone in danger. I continue ring fully on board foreign. I was like yes. Do it swim through this soon. Nami okay is there. is there anything else. We're running short on time but but Dr royer is there anything else you want people to know about or support or or any other changes maybe that we can make also lacks together ends and any single use advance your even if some point get replacement of plastic for like by yoting unable. But you know they're still single use items. And i mean we are smarter than this. It's easy to to get your own in senses and you're you're middling butter lighter flask. Whatever it's not that difficult you single use. I and sold on and i. I don't miss it like they disdained my abbas than i can leave. I conceive anti so. Yeah these i think twice before you something. So that's probably my acl message Yeah cited style had been studying micro fibers and vic side india environment for so long if we look at the type of clothes that we wear about sixty two percent of the Sent that they said they are. But yester- buddy clumpy land decry nine. This is all plastic. And when you wish these slows all these micro fibers that are sent they take are going straight into your weta ways and in the ocean so think smart about what you wear and forget about fast fashion. We are fluid if we get into the habit of buying clothes every week or two weeks. We don't need that much you know. It's like yeah swimming costume and that's it. So yeah what about you. Wear and the choice. You make on an everyday basis. Great joel's thanks for watching this and even though it it upset you and if there's anything else you want to tell people about let people know where they can find you etcetera. I would let them know that. It's still worth watching because daniel is Let's say at a smoke. Show is i did not expect this. Psychopathy wanted to swim across the pacific to be that hot but he is a hot hot man so if you wanna watch him by all means go ahead it worth of any anything you want of of you know. Tell people about or on assigning all my social media handles. I hate joel. Kim and They can listen to my own podcast. urgent care. It's comes out on thursdays on ear. Wolf fantastic okay. Urgent care is the podcast. I hate joel kim. Sorry sorry to say. But you know what i mean and and yeah thank you both for coming on the show. I really appreciate it and hopefully next time we speak. All of the plastic will be removed from the ocean and we will have solutions in place and our politicians. We'll all progressives and we can just talk about you know a home home-loan or something all right. Thank you anthony. Rudd thank you. Bye-bye.

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"joel kim" Discussed on Urgent Care with Joel Kim Booster and Mitra Jouhari

Urgent Care with Joel Kim Booster and Mitra Jouhari

04:28 min | 2 months ago

"joel kim" Discussed on Urgent Care with Joel Kim Booster and Mitra Jouhari

"I'm clarify and i'm gray. Maybe remember our old show here to make friends. Now where the hosts of love to see an obsessively detailed recap podcast about the bachelor other pop culture that makes us laugh cry and i the patriarchy. We can't live with these shows and we can't live without them but we can break down every juicy moment and unpacked all the weird messages these shows send us about love sex and dating love to see it as out. Now follow us or subscribe on stitcher apple podcast pandora or wherever you listen. Pittsburgh urge urgent. Please go don't have any other options. Urgent care scholar in here Hello hello and welcome to urgent care. Another episode of advice given to you by me. Joel kim booster and also you buy you. Meet your jari. How's it going. Joe isn't advice. Podcast you call in advice. We do our best. It's not good enough the end. That's that's the premise of the podcast. We don't have a lot of time. It's weird we're going on a sunday. We're off okay. This is not normal for us. We'd a huge meltdown. Before we have really big fight it's fucked up so if you send some tension. That's why i'm not wearing a shirt tolls not wearing a shirt. I'm in new york city. It's all everything is fucked up right. Now everything's fucked up right now. I'm back in los angeles again. Everyone i love is on the west coast. I was the mid west though so How's it going joel. Being sweaty sweaty. Everything's going well. I am finally starting to come out the other side of the gay cold. Which of course turned into a gay sinus infection because of my gay david deviated septum gave you the septum. Of course david. David david sept- him day tim Yeah i'm feeling good. I'm this is my last detaille. I've lived in a hotel the last two weeks and at first it was fun. Elouise vibes as we a big fixture on this podcast elouise and but i am so over it. I need like. I'm moving into an apartment. My i'm so fucking excited. Because i cannot be in this hotel any longer. It has yet. Seems like it's going to be rockin. And then it's the most it. The sort of seamless transition from being the most fun you've ever had to like the most like psychotically lonely feeling that destroyed to comforters. In this they want me gone. Some outflow sauce marinara so much soy sauce literally just like just drenched drenched. These comforters. bad is my desk. It's my kitchen table. Of course my bed. It's where i have sex right. It's everything to me and buffalo. Sauce is a huge fixture in your sex life as listeners. Now there there a period of time where. I kept getting buffalo sauce in my eye and i don't really eat wings that much but i had like two times in a month for one time. I was in one who was in a restaurant. So is fine like i could flush out but the other time i was on the highway with wit and i was eating wings in the passenger seat buffalo sauce in my eyes but there was nowhere to pull over and all we had in the car was sprayed. Isn't that horrible story awful. One time i was at a buffalo wild wings and are everything was going swimmingly and then our waitress disappeared for truly felt like fifteen to twenty minutes and we're like where is she and another waitress came back and she was like. Hey guys cheryl had to go home because she got some have a narrow.

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"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

Couples Therapy

07:11 min | 4 months ago

"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

"And stuff. That's it feels so like a who's the guy with a big hat mystery. Miss pickup real pickup artists like. Let's forget about this. Romantic relationships are not. you're not playing stratego. You're not playing risk okay. The game part of it is over. The game was circling each other to figure out if you were both single Okay and that that happened early on and from there all bets are off. It's clear that you're both into each other physically now. You need to figure out like the rest of it. But you'd made the text him for that to happen and also you're not again as you as joel has said to this. How do i deal with feeling like a stalker. You gotta let it go. 'cause you're stuck or you saw you saw cute guy. You reached out. He reciprocated the reach out. So that's automatically you know. Let's be honest. And i know you're exaggerating a bit but i also want you to not exaggerate a bit because you're using it to talk yourself out of it because it's like if you're a stocker this would have been a person who you friend did. Who didn't reply who you tried to message and you tried to poke and you would ever no. That's not what happened to him. He reached out to you. That's not talk if you're a stalker your question would be like. How do i get this person to get rid of this restraining. Order your question right right so you're not so you know you're saying this is out of your comfort zone a little bit okay. Well honey if there's one thing we don got from the last year is you got to get out of your comfort zone. Okay like back in the world. We've axed and it's time to hit the streets. This is literally best case scenario for for this for this kind of situation. Like friend ing someone randomly on facebook and the year of our lord. Twenty twenty one and for to dovetail into a date like. That's not happening that much anymore. Honey okay this isn't twenty fourteen. This is like i got asked. Wh- asked out once on facebook in two thousand and two thousand or not. Yeah what do you look it up before it was. Will you ask me out. Two thousand eight yes. I stumbled through a what. That's called bubble by the way. Because you're like whoa. What are we doing bumbled into asking you out like a magoo thousand. Yeah it was mr magoo falling into a pit and is me asking you out in two thousand ten and i didn't think that it was even asking out because i was like there's a facebook message to me. I was like oh yeah. I'll see you was like. Oh yeah i'll see you ed mcmahon. It's something very lewis. it's a message. What a woman did outright asked me out and then did not enjoy. Hearing about level to improv at uc. Berkeley hired. dinner weird weird how. That's what she she was. She produced documentaries and a catch. I know no. She was interesting. If if we had met maybe later on but like i would have had to already transformed by therapy which is through now me. So there's never the timelines net would never worked out so started this person that you're about yes ending for ninety minutes. Had you met her like out in the world we had made up. Okay okay mutual friend. I think she probably liked it. I had been a philosophy professor. Or something i like to. It wasn't the improv. What our first date. We just talked about tarragon enthralled sick but but again you didn't think she was a weirdo for asking. You're probably like oh cool. A girl asked me how are way more impressed by that and like flattered by that than women. Assume and i will say i'm sorry. The tactical mistake here was sending your number back after he had sent his number. Because that is like that is literally him handing the ball to you. And you know you like that. Yeah that was your that was his signal to you to for you. Text him Ed he's not going to text you now as you actually do it especially because you said you are both divorced so that also for me. Explain some of that him giving you his number. Because you say you're you're not used to a maybe he's not a practice to. Yeah so it's like you're both like right. Like between between covert in divorce. Have any have any of us been out in the game recently. So it's like you guys are just trying to figure it out so text him. What should she text now. I say butthole pick. I say you gotta make up for the fact that you messed up. Said the whole itself south of the cheeks but for context but no for sorry for real what. Hey it's amy wanna get a drink this friday. Yeah literally that. It's as simple as that. Yes yes yes. Yes you also. Hey so my favorite podcast hosts told me a text you yeah. Why did you just clip. This part out said that as an mp three and man don't say hey this is amy if your name is amy okay. Don't take literally that person named said. He had no idea what's going on. We thought it was wrong number. I send a bottle and said hey it's not. None of it went according to plan. My god girl sets him. It's going to be fine. You might as well look and they may not be. This may not be next husband. But this'll be a good practice and at the very least a fun hang or maybe not fun hanging a good story you either way. It's like it's not the end of the world as long as you got your rod there back you can make it. So that's how. I feel about the dates as long as you can get yourself out. Never go to a secondary location. You don't know him. And i want you to live. You sound like a white woman. And you see delicate. Do not go to a secondary location. Go for me yet. don't don't silence of the lambs. Don't help him move a couch into the back of his van. Oh my god if somebody tells you that they need help finding their lost dog you say. I can't help you sir but i will make a phone call because too that'd be like will you help me find my lost dot and then you like walk and they just columbia over the head so no so no help. People lost dogs draw. I just wanna say. I'm so glad the but did not betray you for this whole hour. I talk to us. We're a whole our brave wave of me to even attempt it. I know when i wrote to say hey. I recall still cool to record this. You could have been like no. We're not power. I said no. I'm going to show up for naomi. Said i'm maybe. Andy andy that's fine. That's good ross. Gardiner salesman.

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"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

Couples Therapy

07:27 min | 4 months ago

"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

"Yeah we. I would say like. Hey dude that's not cool and he'd be like i have to call my grandma what wait while. He's in the bath. What joe joe. That based on this we asked for clarification. That got worse were murky. We asked for clarification us through food dye into. Oh my god he had to call. What while sorry. What is the link between. I need to call my grandmother. And i better be in the bathtub to call her. I wish i knew what kind of the tradition. It's just his way of life. It is his culture. Okay no no. No no no. Don't don't pull the wo- card on your roommate. Here's a question now. This person won't take bath right. Would he say hey. I'm about to get in the bath. Does anybody need the bathroom. Not to me. Good lord in heaven at the very least me at the very least warning honestly. I wish him the worst. I must say that right now. I don't know if you all are still friends or not. I very i. Don't like him peculiar famously forgiving. So i was wondering you live alone and i wondered if that was also part of the move where you were like. This is mine. Grown live never had good roommates. I gotta say. I really haven't. And i and i would love like during the pandemic there are moments where i was like. I wish i had someone here. But i'll never go back on our go back to remains. Mike could not imagine this last. If it wasn't like obviously we love each other like eddie kind of relationship that was lower on the tier than romantic. I would anyone who got through. This is a strong person right burnett. Well i mean like i. We survived it. Because there's there's those deeper romantic bonds between us right. We'll see. I was gonna say they're not just romantic because i think even like let's say a two year couple of three or a couple may struggle. I think specifically you. And i have now been together. This was year ten to eleven us. And i think if we hadn't been people who we live together a long time. We're very comfortable. We know each other's moods like you know there's a lot of layers. There's not enough to just be like oh work couple because you know some people they be living together trying to still be cute and trying to hide it like year ten is like take me. Take me or leave me honey rent style and so this is like very there'd be no other way because at least like when we get on each other's nerves we can say it because i think that's what the under under undercurrent of love allows you to say stuff like when you'll be like do you want me to leave the room and i'll go. Yep he knows. I still love him. I just need them not in the row. But you can say that to like a roommate more. You know what i mean. So it's so so unanimous be. Patty depend for the remainder of your time in this in this house because the push to the limit. Push it right to the limit of being Like Like do everything you can with plausible deniability. Yes yes yes. Yes absolutely and i think you know also in a way. There's a lot you can blame on the puppy. There's a lot of things if you take a dump on the ground. Hello think about that. Those look somehow. The puppy took a human sized dump. Yeah who knows you. You definitely definitely are within your rights. These people are terrible to make decisions without the third person who pays bills and to have those decisions involve a baby animal psycho. Les third indie. Those people may be very mad. Well this might make you mad. High dis I understand this day. And i'm a longtime listener. I trust her advice implicitly. and i thought maybe you could help I saw this guy on facebook and the people you may know suggestions and we had a few mutual friend We're just like acquaintances of mine. Not like super close friends. And i thought maybe we'd met before he looked cute and kind of similar so i figured why not send him a friend request. If he thinks i'm weird he won't accept so he accepted the friend. Request like immediately and sent me a message thing. I look familiar and asked if we'd met. I thought maybe we had because he looks familiar to so we end up chatting and Find out maybe. We have crossed paths because we have a lot of things in common and even grew up in the same town. He asked if i was single he is to for both Divorced so i shot my shot. I said you seem nice. If you wanna meet her a drink or something sometime let me know. I was trying to put the ball in his court. A little bit He said he did want to meet and he sent me his number And basically just let them know. I said okay sounds good and they texted back my number. He still hasn't lifted that last message. So as far as i can tell he's gonna wait for me. Attacks him and this is weird new territory for me. I've never framed it or deandre stranger before but over. It has a girl a little lonely feeling. Like what do. I have to lose so my question is what the heck do i do. Now do i can and try to get something going. How do i address. How weird and stock hirsch. I feel having done this. And pursuing it I feel like. I'm making all the moves which is definitely outside my comfort zone but i also put myself in this position. So i'm trying to figure out what to do without coming across like a total weirdo Again i love you guys. I trust her advice. And i hope naval is doing really really well in core by. I wanna throttle this person. I want this person. I picked the specifically for joel. She has everything. I have nothing listen. She's she's concerned about making the moves the fact that he brought up that like an ask her if she were single and that brought up that he was single. That is a move. My friend that is that was him putting himself in danger. Okay and yes. She was the one who send the friend request. He's the one who reached out and sent the message. Okay like equal footing when someone gives you their number. The correct response is to text them so that they have your number. Do not send someone there your number. That's that is. That would make me feel crazy. If i were him if i were him and i sent someone my phone number and they sent back their phone number. I'd be like okay. You wanna play apes you wanna play games right. Just text him. Yeah just text him. Yeah i would say. Let's all stop thinking about relationships as if we're playing chess or something. Let's just like the idea like that..

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"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

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06:27 min | 4 months ago

"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

"Who cares meaning like not. This isn't a problem. But i'm saying like can you. I don't know what the word is. I don't know how to do it. I mean i guess maybe just the redirecting what you're saying this idea of like you have to even make it a thing. That's what i mean. Now who cares. Do you have to make it a. Hey i would like to tell you. Take my right. That's like look at me. I need you to know that what you are doing is hurting our relationships. You know what else i could do. And this is. This is classic. Urgent care advice. You could just start being helen. Negative about every guy that he brings up and be like this guy know. His forehead is too large. No i do not like this guy. Look at his eyes off center face not symmetrical like if you're negative about every single guy he brings up. He will stop. He will automatically stop bringing up guys because you will not want to hear about it. Sky has way too many nipples. Yeah y- no one done one nipple that's enough to nipples you betty weird standard. I would like everyone to know. I have to normal standard but yeah but the thing. I think they were saying. Maybe that's just that friendship is that's also like maybe maybe that's just you to with it like maybe that's this is what it is and and you have to decide. Will you have to decide whether you want it or not right. Maybe it's just internal work years like this person. Am i getting enough out of them that it's worth to keep this. I don't mean that such a selfish narcissistic way. But i just mean that like if if the only if the relationship just like you watch this. Tv show and they talk about boys to you. i don't know. is that worth it. I know it sounds fun to me once a week just a couple of hours boys boys and a show made again. I think it depends on where you're at mood. Wise which is why you guys are saying. Like does he like him or is he like fucking hating dating so he doesn't wanna talk about it right like he could be anything. We wanna hear about men. Because i hate them all like it could be like one of those. There's a booth in those moments. Those phases go through. So who knows. Why do a voicemail. I love you guys as always call three two three five two four seven eight three nine one of three numbers. I have memorized. Okay my mom. Andy and our call in line so give us a rain. You have a three minute limit. But i do like to know your emotions. Hey guys i need advice. My roommates who are a couple then. I moved in together march. Twenty twenty. I've tried to get to know them during pandemic but we are truly very different people. My problem is that they make decisions for the house without me and have each adopted a puppy after i specified best known for a dog but not a puppy talks of a second puppy had me falked up. I don't understand how homegirl thinks it's more important to find a puppy to train right this moment than it is for me to feel respected in the house that i live in. I'll be moving out in the next month or two. But i don't know how to stay civil not seek revenge when i am a petty bitch. i'd just like to take the high road but it's becoming hard okay. That's all we had. Okay oh okay so way. That was a that was a recording. Like a voice member that was email to us at couples. They're that's a fun way around dialing a number no who so. They're moving out soon. This is recent by the way. Listen bitch you're moving out soon while your question is how can i take the high road. Just don't patty bitch until you move out like what what. I don't see a problem with that. I don't see why you can't burn this bridge. Exactly that's what i was gonna say especially because i'm like there's literally to me to get a puppy without the consent of everyone. The household is a violent act. That is really pup a puppy. A lot of fucking work and even if you're like this is my puppy. That's the house puppy that puppy barking at everything scratching at the door. Like they said each each person and that couple got a puppy yay. They're trying to get the second puppy. And i'm just like that is psychotic. Those people are rude. They're wrong and i agree with joel. They do not deserve the high road. Okay yeah when they go lower floor you move that shit right outside their door. I'm not into the trash. No no you membership elsewhere into the house. Closer to where they live absolutely. That's crazy that doctors on the floor. Move at rats either door. I love the rhyme. Even more advice that rhymes. I'm going to say that. Yeah here joe. Have you ever had a roommate where you felt the need to. If not revenge whatever like a step or two below revenge because troy. That's just shitty roommate. Yeah i mean. I've had some pretty shitty remains. I mean i had remained in new york. Who would take like two hour long baths in a three bedroom with one bathroom. No no pot and and dump it into the chase parking lot outside my multiple times moral mighty times. Okay a lot of stuff that i wanted to do to him but i never did. I just sorry. I interrupted you but like was there ever a discussion right. Because you're not alone right. The other roommate mate. third person. so y'all both needing to use the damn bathroom to our to our focus psychotic when you share space like that andy will soak but he even soaks caps it at like forty five minutes and if he needs to be she's welcome. I'll pull the curtain. Welcome to pee but like oh my god ever say anything..

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"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

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06:11 min | 4 months ago

"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

"You handy a scandal. Henny now drill. We get questions. People come through they slide into our dm's on instagram on twitter. We also get emails at couples therapy. Potett g mail my most favorite voicemails. Okay voicemails let you know where they're at emotionally but we're going to start off now with tender email. We do savoy smells. I want to point that out here. Why this was not a voicemail. This comes to us anonymous over instagram. Hi naomi and andy. Love the podcast. I would send a voicemail. But i loathe the sound of my voice woth in all capital so i have a close friend that i see weekly for the new episode of rupaul's drag race interesting usually when i'm there will also discuss our wealth lives and gossip about boys at the beginning. I loved it now. It drives me crazy my question. I've adding the emphasis by the way a lot of these. My question is how do i tell my friend. I wanted to talk about literally anything else than boys all the time. He will text me about guys. He's met on apps asking me if he should hook up with them. He's even sent me pictures of them at the gym. I care about this friend. But i'm so constantly drained from hearing about men whether at his apartment or overtaxed what should i do thanks anonymous. Talk about like the exact verbiage of like oh man. I'm feeling so drained right now is like so. I think like the way to handle it. You know 'cause it's not it's it doesn't make it it's not an attack framing it as like your doing this to me. It's that i'm feeling so drained from talking about men that i need a break You know Yeah i think that's totally fair to be like moratorium on topic four now until further notice. I just can't do it right now. Yeah do your friends. That won't shut up about a certain topic. I think about out here specifically like there are people who are like complete creatures of the business and so you talk to them and all. They're talking about his points on the back end or whatever coins on the back. I also think there's like every time you text you about a boy like just redirect be like i don't know anyways. How about blah blah blah blah blah. Stop stop engaging if you stop engaging then he he has no choice but to but to stop engaging with you on that. Yeah that's true. Yeah that's if you want to keep them as a friend. I was thinking like the people who are only like one topic one topic friends. I don't know what that's not a great term but the ones that are one time we don't talk to them. I just stopped talking to them. Because i'm just like this is not interesting. This is not fulfilling me in any way. I don't think they're excited about talking to me if this is all they want to talk about if they want to talk about is the their manager or whatever or yeah or like look this guy from the gym i mean but then it's interesting because someone asks a question like that where to me. The answer is say. Hey i don't want to to me. There's this follow up of like. Why is this a question. You need to ask us me Are you afraid of this guy. Is this person who is very mercurial or defensive or you know what i mean like. There's something in their dynamic that makes that not straightforward. Because that is the obvious. Answer you know like. He knows that he knows that answer. So what's the question behind the question. Exactly and i think it's like this friend. This friend is like maybe a little tough to push back on. Or maybe he's in love with his friend. That's i thought that. I thought that reading this now and when you guys said that i wonder if there's i wonder if there's something romantic but there's nothing in the questionnaire says anything about romance non misses. I know but like why. Why like we all knew the answer immediately. So why was that. Step not taking right now. 'cause because this i wonder if there's something more there Can we not talk about this. Like y- there's two things either you stop talking to them or you say. Can we not for for wants. Can we please not talk about this or joel's other things like just keep redirecting but even that seems like it's could be to settle depending shuttle and just like just like not you know if this is a this is a real friend of yours you should be able to like say like jesus christ. Can we please stop talking. I get it. you're horny. Can we please a good t shirt by the way i get it. You're horny but yeah. I wonder if there's something romantic where they they're sick of hearing about boys because they want to be that boy while that would be beautiful quite honestly then. I need them to write in with another question. Which is i have a crush on my friend. Tell them you're date. Say if you feel safe in this friendship and you don't think it would ruin it. I say say it to them in a non-confrontational way now on your podcast urgent care when she co host with me. Trajectory of you guys are obviously answering cues as well and like handling people scandal. I imagine you guys are both. You guys are all very direct when you're answering people's questions like there's no like i'm going to hold your hands like get it together straight for energy so it's like you know but do you have people though like yours earlier right where you're like. Oh i of only act out with the people. I know i can get away with it with like their friends. I have friends. I love them to death. But i like wouldn't talk to them about like problems i have with them or i wouldn't like for work on improving the relationship in any sure for sure for sure for sure you know what i mean and so and so. I'm sure like i wonder if that is like when i hear this all. This person keeps saga about guys.

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"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

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05:24 min | 4 months ago

"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

"Makes chris the focus of like his attention is so specific. It's it's it's so it's so specific in a way that like would be so is so reassuring. I think that it's like no matter what he's getting off to like. He's sort of like 'cause. Chris is like i said i can't believe using the real whatever they're never gonna listen to this very vague also. We don't know the frat. Chris kevin costner like chris is the one who sort of like bouncing around. Boy you know and kevin sort of standing back off to the corner in the corner and sort of nodding approvingly saying like go. You like And win an end. But but chris like sort of as he's zigzagging through these men like is always every other zig zagging back to kevin to sort of check in and that would be me and kevin is getting. Kevin is getting his life to by the way he's standing off in the corner right. I think like the way he's sort of makes chris the focus and and like is so important. It's it's not a cup. It doesn't feel competitive. It doesn't feel like I don't know like it doesn't feel like a compromise. It just feels like they're both sort of living their life but they deeply love each other on a on a real lemon and You know i. It's not to say that my friends my other friends who have open relationships don't have loving deep relationships but it just like the specific contours of their relationship. Made it made sense to me in a way that made me feel like okay. I'm not necessarily out there in the streets looking for a boyfriend like i want one now but i was ready to go. I was ready to just be single forever. honestly i really was But now i see sort of the appeal of of a companion. And that's okay now. Here's the question though. Because you're just gorgeous man. So i'm assuming honey i have a hard time taking a lover now men the question would be sort of you know you. Know for you or your. I'm now retired. Do relationship like i'm kind of you know. Have you had problems with people wanting more from you. Then you wanted to give to them. Yes no. I'm pretty i'm pretty upfront. About like when. I sleep with the guy. I'm pretty upfront. About like what it is. And i don't. I'm a one and done sort of guy. I don't really have that many regular fucked buddies like you're in your out goodbye. Good luck to you. Take ticket gift bag on your way out. There are many many guys that i remain friends with butts. Don't sleep with ever again and like and that's that's another thing that happens. I i think it's like tough. la. I think it's really tough in l. A. till like there's just no focus like every like unless you're unless you really click and vibe with someone like in a very specific way like everyone's looking for the next best thing you know. I believe that. I believe that it's like that is what this town is predicated on the thing the idea of finding that whatever it is kind of being first to it in all kinds of ways so that does not surprise me. But i'm a very big proponent of all know when i'll when i know any will it'll be an immediate sort of recognition of somebody of like. Oh you're my person. And i don't think that it'll be something that will take like three dates to get somebody that likes to date. I'm just not okay. I'm not somebody who likes to go through those emotions. Like i think it will happen very quickly in very fast and furious like drip drive over the ledge onto a train onto rocket. So you're kind of a romantic at heart really right. Yeah yeah i am. Yeah it's interesting how that's a mix because you know we all are in some way reacting to kind of like Hetero normativity right in the kind of just like monogamist like everyone has to be monogamous. Everyone this is how things are and it takes. If if you don't want to do that or you don't know right. It takes a while to kind of wake figure that out because everything is screaming at you and it's interesting though that there's this mic this kind of like almost traditionalist mix in you right of like of like this kind of like old school romantic but also like oh no but i kind of know right now i understand like what kind of non monogamous the shape of the nominee relationship. That will fulfill me. I just think it's an interesting mix. There's there is. It's very like it's tractor show nyc westville right now. Let's show but make it fashion tractor show with a musical number okay. I think on that we're going to take a.

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"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

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08:15 min | 4 months ago

"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

"Engineer. Had to be me can be black people also running from a murderer and maybe making it till the end. That was the kinda shit i wanted to do. Absolutely but we're answer some relationship questions. Little bit i in my mind too. Sometimes i'm just like. Oh i really to be like a serious interviewer. So maybe i should like practice. Those chops joe now says here now. But i am curious. What is your relationship says right now. What has been your relationship. Status in the past I've been with out. I have not seriously dated somebody. Since like i have not been facebook official boyfriends with someone since i was twenty like i have not introduced someone as like. This is my boyfriend. Since i was twenty years old i dated a guy for roughly three months in two thousand sixteen and that was like probably the last significant period of dating that i've had and i've been through phases where that's where i've been like sort of seeking it out and i would say for the last several you for last like four or five years. Maybe even i've been pretty happy being solo. I've been really enjoying being so. I've been enjoying it a lot and i would say as recently as three weeks ago. I decided i'm not necessarily looking. But i'm open. I'm open to the idea of someone coming into my life Mostly because you know. I went down to san diego with a couple vaccinated friends to celebrate my friends thirtieth birthday and he's a he's a really close friend of mine and he's been with his boyfriend for almost two years now and i. I like the boyfriend a lot. And i got really close to the boyfriend on this trip and observing them so close up for the first time. It really was one of those things where it was like. I saw the model of a relationship that i felt could work for me for the first time in a long time ago and it was like aspirational in a way that i was like okay. I've had this idea of like what a relationship would be like. And that's why. I've been avoiding it and now seeing this relationship i'm sort of like oh i i could. I could do that. If i could find someone like kevin i would. I would be in a relationship in a relationship. Well what's what what you think. Our relationship was like you know before For me. I guess like i thought it would be a lot of like like i really enjoy my freedom. I really enjoy my freedom. And like i enjoy not sort of being tied down. I love that. Not having to check in with anybody. I i enjoy sort of taking care of myself and Not and end not having to feel like i'm extremely jealous person and so i feel like i don't and i i just never wanted to become possessive of another person and like that judge just feels gross to me and it felt like it would sort of narrow the scope of my life in a in a very specific way. And you know it's interesting like i've been somebody. We were talking the whole trip about this idea of like flower gardner like every relationship has a flower in a gardener whose the flower and who's the gardener in your relationship who you think joe who you think is the flower in the garden. And is the gardner. And i've always thought of myself as like. I don't know i like i was like for so long. I was like oh. I'm a gardener because gardner for myself. I've been gardening my goddamn self for so long and i. I wouldn't even know what a gardener for me would look like and then i finally decided like no maybe i am ready to be a flower you know like maybe i'm ready to let go a little bit and let somebody be the gardner and You know it doesn't you know. I think like i've had a lot of thoughts about monogamy versus nami. Would i be able to handle it and like i. I've come to terms with the fact that i think i can. I want to and i want to. There's freedom in it and like a very specific kind of connection. I also am just like frustrated. Because like i think like i have like three things that i want in a guy you know. I want them to be chemically hot. Okay i want them to not think. The homeless people are intrinsically disgusting. Would you would be surprised. How often in la within fifteen minutes of meeting a guy. I they will drop how discussing anything. Homeless people are and that is shorthand for just like jr my general political like right. 'em like have empathy. You voted for bernie but like have empathy. You know like that's all. I need from somebody and they just need to do as many drugs as i do on the weekend. And that's a tall order because i the the people that do as many drugs as i do on the weekend are the guys that are like homeless situation is out of control in la and then it goes to. They need to get rid of them. Not we should be giving them services guys the guys that do care about the homeless people that i meet working with like ceelo or k. Down for all are just fucking nerds. No offense no. No no no and i just need to find somebody in the middle. Dare here it's by the way. Can i just say. I'm not only the gardner. I'm also the florist and the fertilizer wholesale ha the ray water and this relationship just. Fyi i want you guys out there. Speaking of rain water joel as hydrating for from a full drag of water okay. I need you guys to know that that's happening. I need to rehydrate because the stomach flu. It really hydrates yet. I thought it was just from you. Like being a healthy fit guy. Forgot like would you just have that. Anyway i mean if not specifically because i was so debilitating postmates part of a gigantic posted Beverage or because i couldn't get up and keep going back to the sink to refill my. It was too much. And so i just needed a giant these jugs of water that i can keep next to my bed so that i can just like write shug water and not have to worry about it. Which right you know is more plastic out in the world. I get it but this is exactly extenuating circumstances so so you your saw your friends and a have a non monogamous working relationship. That's the thing that kind of like. Oh okay so most of i would say most of my gay friends have non monogamous relationships and Some of them. I like look at it. And i'm like that wouldn't work for me But this one. I was like this is exactly what i would want to work for me. That's so interesting because you're saying that you're jealous person. Because that for me is why i could never do nominee partner with somebody else's very like upsetting like i wouldn't be cool about it. You know what i mean. You're jealous but your is it like you're not jealous as long as you guys are both doing the same thing. No i think it's like as long as the way that kevin.

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"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

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06:49 min | 4 months ago

"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

"Well. I mean i've been through therapy now so it's a little different but i think in those times i was just like they were happening in my body and i was just like looking at them through a viewfinder type thing and i was like. Oh well that's fun. That's happening over there and i'm not expressing them. Do you do that same thing or does it like are you. Are you actively repressing them and then comes out. And then the energy comes out differently. They go on the page baby. They go in the pay. I mean that's i'm being obnoxious but it's true that and then it it also rears its head in very toxic ways. I think like it. It builds and builds and builds and builds like a lot of some some of the more negative stuff builds and builds and builds. Until i act out in really toxic and negative ways only with like the credit to get away with it with back. My manager very close friends. People i know won't leave me. Well i know. You're joking on the page. But i do remember like when you and i met at the gay bar therapy in hell's kitchen for standup you're chicago and weren't you like getting a degree in creative writing. No i was out of school by that point. But i was. I was like i was writing a lot. You're writing in. Chicago is a playwright an okay. Then that's what i'm thinking of. You're playing. I just assumed it was for school. Okay okay so right so when you started out as a writer before you were stand up right yeah like writing was always like when you're little and you don't really know like all the different jobs necessarily like and you start with the sort of the umbrella job and the umbrella job for me was like writer from very very young age. Yeah same to. And now that i actually do it. I don't want to do it. Like that's exactly what i wanted. Like i would always get the go-to gift like any birthday. People would just give me journals pretty up books. Yeah like that was the go-to and i have so. I still have them all and so many of my mom always like you're going to write a book. You're going to write a book and then act sorted. Dropped it when i started doing. Stand up like. That was the writing i was doing. I wasn't doing stories and plays and movies and all that. And it's just interesting for something that i was so obsessed with. Don't you think there's a difference when you're doing stuff when you're young before you kind of know the limitations. Yeah you know. And i think once i knew the limitations i was like. Oh this is fun. Yeah i mean cova done fucked me up to like. I can't like i can't i feel like i have the like major like to write a joke to write you know. I'm to rewrite a script zoo anything right now. I'm so fucking useless. I feel like. I don't know if it welcome back or when it will come back but it is not this. This period has not been a creative outgrowth from now. You're i mean. I know about you but like i'm terrified all the time now. It's better like over. The last year it was there was the pressure to Survive right like the fear of walking outside and being like something could kill me if i touch this package. Even though i know wake that was a very small chance that was going to happen but without that omnipresent fear. I think it gives you more space in your mental life for me. It was less fear and for me. It was more about like black of stimulation i was. Yeah yeah no. I just needed to be around people and bopping around and have those moments at the party where i'm in the corner with the inner life you know. You know rolling rolling rolling and there were just wasn't those moments. I was trapped alone. And i'm not at that interesting trapped with kwesi. Can i ask both of you guys a question because you started out you want to be writers and then and then you are. Obviously both great performers was it. When you were younger was just that you felt like. That's not for me. I don't think i can do that. I don't think that i don't think i'll be able to perform. I don't think i'll be able to do that for a living so i'm going to. I think about it as like writing to the budget. Right your brain. Your existential self writes in quotes to the budget you have. And if you don't think you can be xyz your brain just goes oh well. I can't do that so i won't even try. Yeah i mean it is so funny that instead. That's definitely part of it but it is so funny that both that for me anyways like i was like i'll never be able to be an actor writing. That's more realistic. fucking idiot. like justice hard if not in some cases more difficult. Yeah that was. That was a big part of it. I think it also just felt like writing with something like performing such a to. Do you know like you had to like when you're young like if it has to be the school play and you have to audition and you have to do all these things and the process of it all was writing was just like something you could sit down in front of the computer and do an and just fuck around you know and so it it. The barrier to entry felt easier with writing. And i think that's it which i think that is part of it. That's why that's why we're not stupid because it is easier. You're like oh well then i could probably do for a job at the job just me sitting at my computer with my notebook. We'll show who's gonna stop me whereas acting. The problem has always been that you have to be chosen by someone else. Just to even do like literally. If you'd like. Yeah could i guess do a monologue in my house. But that's not the same leg. If you wanna actually be in front of people someone else decides that for you and that sort of the problem. And i definitely think for me. That was it because because even like when i started writing like movies stuff and tv stuff it was about. I mean i always say that. I grew up in the nineties when there was a lot of black tv. So that's where like my desire to be. An actor came. When i was little and i was like watching shows that i was like ooh a different world. I want to do that. And the like. But when i started writing i was like obviously wh where i was like. Well if i want to be in something. I'm gonna have to ride it and that kind of how it started for me. That was it. And like oh i remember i love horror movies and there were never like black people in horror movies like remember scream usually popular and i know you did last summer like all the kind of things like one of the first movies i wrote was a horror comedy and.

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"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

Couples Therapy

10:13 min | 4 months ago

"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

"Me web. Md is a lukewarm bath. Honestly scientists not advance much since one thousand nine hundred to know a lot of really. Hasn't it was like a long time where it was like. You're on your own and then like early. nineteen hundreds. They were like okay. Drink some vodka leg. They kind of started to do some stuff right. And then it was kind of kissed and nineteen ninety-two right. And then they kind of got some stuff done especially to wwi. They're like wow coming home with their face. Half blown off we got him out and build mask no mass on boardwalk empire kind of get some prosthetics and then they're like i don't know what else to do and then like for a hot minute cure polio in the fifties. And then it's kind of been you on your own. Ever since. It seems like they're tackling sort of like the bigger issues like oh like your cancer. Let's look at hiv stuff. Like that. and i get that. And i think that's all very important but i would like an answer to make myself not feel cold when i have a fever. Absolutely absolute- is because you're radiate. Because the fever makes you radiate warmth. That's why you're cold. No it's something about your internal thermostat is fucked up so like you. It's that is. That is as far as i can. Go to neil call but you're not actually your body your body is just is say haywire. Getting the wrong signals. Your body is me in high school with a girl. I like I was just going to say your body is a wonderland bills. You're thinking signal. You're not by the way. I wanted to go back for a second for the reply guys. I know said center of the galaxy. I met solar system jal. Did you girls in high school Let's see i sort of dated girls in junior high. And i went to homecoming the first homecoming before i came out i went with a girl. Okay okay but you came in high school for some reason. I thought it was later. Because no i came out appearances religious team october. Like truly right after homecoming my junior year of high school. Okay and i. And and i actually this. I'm not sure I have to say my prom. Date is actually a man. There are trans man. Okay so there's a lot. There was a lot going on in that situation. And we kissed at the end of at the end of the night. And and i think we all we were all in that moment. Both of us realized a lot of things about. Oh my gosh. That's so funny. What what you grew up like in the countryside. No not necessarily well. It's so weird. I grew up in a suburb of chicago is half in half country and suburb. It's far out. Southwest is you can be and still be considered a suburb of chicago. There were lots of fields. Yeah lots of country farm. Yes like people but then there were also like those big box subdivisions. Lots of strip malls Targets and things like that of that nature that suburbs are known for But it wasn't like full on country but there were definitely farm kids. Because i remember seeing pictures of you. You posted pictures you young with a piece of wheat like an you like in the field where i was like. Oh but that was more country than i thought. But that's that is probably because my dad. He worked for a tractor company for over forty years almost fifty years and he grew up on a farm and so some of those might be from my dad's childhood farm. Oh by bonn and he yeah and so he but he also like. I don't know he would take us to like tractor. Shows growing up all the time and be from their supply tractor shows. I'm so sorry what's happening in a trickster schaub. you're looking at tractors climate tractors. That's it that is a fun at all. Is there anything not for me for me mitch. Not for a glamour for glamour. Bitch like me. I was not there for the tractors. Okay if it had good snacks though there is like the air okay. That's that's what i'm going to these things for. If there was one thing you could do not to put you on the spot. If there's one thing you can do to make a tractor show more fun. What do you think you would do like theme park esque musicals where they're quite steam like musical. Do you like the disney has a frozen musical that you see at the park or at the harry potter show. They have the benches that come out and do like musical numbers and stuff like that. Something a little flashier then. Just looking at the tractors and observing the tractors harvest. If i can pitch this american gothic the musical. So you know. Like the old farmer with a pitchfork and so turn that into anything would have been better anything. That's wow attractor show live. you've lived joel a lifetime. You've been on all sides of do you do you so i mean you grew up. I can't help but like retain some pennsylvania in me right. Do you have any of that like any of that in you still like this this tractor absolutely. I do think. I think i have an affinity for a big box store. There's no i like walking into a target is like wrapping myself in a warm blanket. You know It is home for me. It is where i feel safest and That is that's like a big part of. I think suburban culture for me and like i think i've i've i've held onto a lot of like my mid western sort of. I'm i'm pretty passive aggressive. I'm not confrontational I i'm pretty polite. I like to get to know. Like i'm i'm very friendly in in in amid in amid western way like you know i everybody And yeah i'm in a humbleness. Like i'm not a humble person but there is a humbleness about me that is it western. You're not a humble but there's a humbleness about you like because i know i'm the shit but like i don't bring it up. I'm not. I'm not like i'm standing in a circle of people talking you know. And they're like yeah. I've got this going on. And i've got this going on. I i wait for someone else to bring up what i've got going on on Not i'm not volunteering. Because that's uncouth. Yes yeah in the same way. That's good it is. I don't like the culture of bragging especially this year where it was like. Okay like like the same thing where it's just like in less like we're good friends. I kind of don't care and nobody and that's the thing nobody cares too. That's why. I don't say anything. Because i don't care and if you did care i would actually be suspicious of you. Why do you care. you don't know me. Why care what. I've got going on right right right right. What is your game. What is your angle. What yeah why to this out of me i. There's i feel an. I don't know what this is. This is pennsylvania or something but there's a lot of distrust like i feel a lot of distrust for If someone is trying to get this information adamy. I'm just what do you what do you. What do you got the software for joe. It's interesting though when you're saying like people don't care how you're like you don't bring it up. I will say. I do think of you as a private person emotionally like. I feel like we would just like chitchatting. Look good. you're about town. You know what. I mean you're popular. You can work a room. But i'm like what is joel feeling inside. I don't know if i've ever known. And i wonder if like that is also a little mid-western kinda like keep it close. Don't worry about me. I don't wanna talk about that kind of i definitely think i definitely think it's that i definitely and i also think i was a very emotional person growing up and i think my parents were sort of like. Don't do that whole lot. And i get that sort of that damage me damage me and so i try to. I try to keep it under wraps as much as possible. There's a lot going on behind. These little is when i'm at a party and i and and it's it's an it's it's tough to sort of be present. Sometimes because i'm thinking i have. There's there's a lot going on in the inner life portion of my night that is not being projected to the rest of the party race. Right right the outside is the first part of name for me. That famous movie was revised. The for the outside is the is the first part of wizard and then inside your head is her in is. See the better look. It was totally worth. What a great for. I would say number two behind shitting the bed. Great metaphor number one number. Two wisdom metaphor correct. I mean i'm a pisces. And you know we're dreamers. Were in our heads. You know i. You are frigging dreamer in your head. Oh my god that's accurate. I didn't realize it's a pisces thing. Because you do live your head. And i do but where does that for you. Where's that energy. Go right like they're all those for me. I live in my head but like all the emotions..

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"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

Couples Therapy

07:37 min | 4 months ago

"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

"It's gonna be fun and august. I coming through sydney washington and more and by an more means. I have yet to book them. But it's going to pop off so you've got options either coast. I'll be putting up links. You can always follow on a couple of pod. I mean for the info mac. Great all right. Well what we got the bit. We talked to roll it joel. It's so good to see your face. You look so well. How have you been what it is so funny that you say i look well because this week has been done a real number on me. I am struggling. I'm just getting over one of the worst stomach flus i've ever had in my entire life. Why When i tell you i had on tuesday one. Oh one point eight fever. Oh my goodness shitting constantly shot the bed. Not once but twice when i tell you it changes your relationship with your bed forever. Yeah it is no longer a safe. Space is a space that you have shot and now you know that that is a possibility forever for the rest of your life and yes. I clean the sheets. Clean the sheets twice of thank god. It didn't reach the mattress. Oh my god. God 'cause that'd be a whole different story superfund site then but my god i just i my life. I've been changed. I've changed this week irreversibly I feel like a new person. A worse person an unsafe person quite honestly rush off this podcast. You know you go right so so. The metaphor is correct when someone like fucks up. And they're like man deborah shit the bed. It's very accurate. It's accurate now. Do you know what you ate. That caused this terrible sickness to call out the restaurant specifically mostly because i call 'em out yamashiro shiro in hollywood. Oh no it's a. It's a sushi restaurant. And i wanna say it's them. I went there with Friends i don't know if you're pod but have you met rogers bowen yang gregg roman. My god we're a true cavalcade of stars truly and i ate some The only thing that we can think of is the one thing that i ate that. They didn't is Bone marrow yeah feeling. Adventurous ran in that one little that one little bone with one little bit of bone marrow has caused me not one but two days of just agony absolute agony and i am so sorry especially because it's like we're just getting back out in the world so it's like i know brands like this so good over there. I know i mean the the saving grace is that. I'm at least glad that it happened at the beginning of the week and i sort of feel like by the weekend i'll be hopefully back one hundred percent again but i just don't i just don't have the time i just don't have time. He's like why couldn't have this happened during the height of corona when everyone was indoors and i was at home anyways right right but then you would've been paranoid. You're like wait. Corona absolutely would have thought it was corona. I'd like to point out that your wacko. No i don't want to name them immediately. The minute i started chanting one second full one second. The only reason i wasn't i didn't want to name them is because i was almost not sure of what the name was. But then i said even if it's not the right name. I'm going to name someone. Yeah absolutely absolutely yeah. I got food poisoning. Food poisoned myself to the point. Where i went to the hospital because i didn't i'd never been food poisoning before this is i made a stir fry so this is a vegetarian. Six fifty and been twenty years ago. I really wanted to do the math. Do you know how well you're doing if you could go back. Twenty years the last time you listeners demand accuracy. Do you know how many emails and messages. I if i don't accurately tell them what year i was food poisoning now. I know a lot of reply guys. A lot of actuaries in the audience. But i checked every small piece of chicken in there i cut open and i must have missed one and i was in agony. I'd never been food poisoning before. I thought i was dying and my girlfriend at the time was she was evangelical before naomi. That's what i said. That's what i say. But can you imagine. Evangelical andy with an evangelical my friend at the time. You're going to be a jew for jesus. my pal. At the time. who was for. Some reason was in the bed. Next to me. I i was. I was dying things. Were coming out of every orifice that possibly thinks could come out of and she was like. Should i pray for you. I mean i was an asshole at the time to by the way. Let me just put that out there. So doesn't sound. Like i'm mike A great person. For what i said next and i said i threw my grabbed my wallet from the thing. I threw it in argo. No fuck that. Call my fucking doctor. I went to the hospital and It was just food poisoning and then they can. Because i thought about i was like if my fever goes up one more degree. I'm going to go. ooh bring to the hospital myself. Yeah but then. I thought like what can they do for food nothing. What they can do though is run. A lot of tests on you to charge your. That's what they can do and what they did to me because they knew it was food poisoning. We'll we'll give you a cat scan just to act. Here's this here's a spinal tap who knows they'll give you an ivy league at best. We'll give you the hydrated. That's in which case you're like all right. I could awesome gatorade truly. They're like but you're right. The fever goes too high and doesn't go down then. Yeah you want them to look something. You know what i'm saying but i'm just glad you're still here with us. I you've made it through and you'd like to talk to you about fevers really quickly are you it as an open mic. You're back at the world. I was doing some research on fevers. Because i was like why is my fever so high and i feel so cold. That's annoying. I prefer when i have a fever and i'm hot because sense then i was reading. They're like when you're shivering and you're cold don't put on more layers. Don't like get under blankets take a lukewarm cold. Bath putting on more layers will only make the fever worse. And i was like this is outrageous outrageous that there is nothing to be done about this. I feel cold as hell. Right now uncomfortable. And you're telling me. I should strip down and take a lukewarm bath. That's insane science. Needs to figure itself out by being counter intuitive. Okay the earth is this. Obviously the sun goes around us. Stop it with the counter-intuitive shit. Stop these diagrams that. Show me the sons the center of galaxies years all these years of fever research and your remedy for.

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"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

Couples Therapy

08:28 min | 4 months ago

"joel kim" Discussed on Couples Therapy

"You hello everyone and welcome to couples therapy. My name is in neo me. We are a real life couple. Couple of comedian couples therapy. We answer a couple of different questions from a couple. different listeners. with a special guest always aimed battle against miami. Who is our special guest today. Oh my god we have someone. We adore today. We are answering your questions. Helping you get shall i. With joel kim booster hell yes. Comedian wreck onto. Can i say that joel is amazing. You have seen his central special. Perhaps you listen to podcasts. Urgent care with you hari. I mean are you getting it together is a question. The in booster joe. We've known him. For how many years longtime is a cool customer. He's a cool custer. And i really want to crack that veneer but i think this episode and the conversation kind of Made it clear to me that that's not possible but i shouldn't take it personally. You know what i mean. That was good. I think it was important. It's it's interesting. Joel is one of the medians. I never thought would become white. Kind of like a leftist. I kind of like yeah i. I think that's great. I think it's great like same thing with like john early. Yeah we're like the the characters they play like joel. Stage ironic is ironic and detached. Yeah but in real life there are very caring both. Yeah john joel galvanizing forces. Yeah that's what i would say so. I truly adore them bozo. I hope you enjoy the fun we add. This is funny because a half of these episodes of not more from this batch were recorded on the cusp of us. Getting the vaccine. The what the cusp. What does that word. Sorry referencing so sorry guys. I'm going to call back to literally something that makes sense and i'm going to stop doing a call back to the father's day folk. I had with my parents where i called. Our neighborhood cusp neighborhood. They're like what word is he using. Ma what word was that. Why do you give him that voice. Every time it's not really good. Dad does not sound like a one thousand nine hundred fifty fifties brooklyn but anyway. That was dumb when i just did any way hospice these episodes right. Where like the cusp of us. The vaccine right because light right last last week. Jason butler garner Gbh wonderful gbh. I remember like there was a lot of anxiety about us going back onto the world right right right here. We are here. We are back in the world no anxiety effect. The only thing that i would say. I'm afraid of is we talked about running into a casual acquaintance casual. Acquaint the the gray area of existence and the most loathsome anxious interaction. Now you know what we like to do on on the show in the intros is follow. Ups when vice. Okay yes. I see what you're saying. That's very true. When we give advice shape we do level follow. We often get either people writing in saying like loved your advice or it sucked just like random listeners. Yup or sometimes the people who wrote original question yes. Follow up with us. Oh yes this is a wonderful follow up from the woman who reached out during the ryan o'connell and put him patel episode talking about playing rugby not rugby roller derby in france. I'd love to see rugby. Derby on rugby on skates my god but basically This person was having kind of like. Would you call a queer awakening while they were playing spring spring awakening and but enter a long term relationship and they were like what do i do. Okay so Jen is her name. She wrote us back after we gave our advice and just bring her name. Yes love you say alias by the way values jennifer garner just listened. Y'all are wild. I've never felt so validated absolutely roasted at the same. I tell you ryan was the first person rosta listener he was. He really changed the game for all of us so i work is a primary school. Esl teacher and i was listening what walking from one school to another very strange to hear the screenplay of my future boob grabbing roller derby. poor now. because i believe ryan and put them. We're pitching they Then sing hello. How are you seven year old. I did go home and play it for my partner. Yes including the part. Where ryan chests. I've a full-blown lesbian listeners listeners. It was a joke. I don't think so but who knows. Maybe i'll have a life shattering realize asian my thirties. I'll keep you all updated. Should be getting my second dose of pfizer in a couple of weeks and no contact. Outdoor derby practices have just started. Here's hoping that a lead to a future end of season party or out of town tournament where well you know. Lou i get to enjoy some personal revelations that being said i have absolutely no game. Physical intimacy scares me. So it'll be awhile. Thanks for the laugh. Okay now what is then a second. Follow up after that. Hopefully end-of-season party or away game. Yes i wanna follow jen. I mean we already decided. This is tv show. This is a limited series. This is a net flicks three season. Darling forget emily in paris okay. It's run it's roller derby. Rugby derby in paris niece nice. I can't allow it. I can't allow it. I can't support all of it honestly. I wouldn't support that one either. Okay good i genuinely could not think of a single other city in france normandy. Sure derby now. That i'm calling. That one is bad right away and then someone else wrote us on. Instagram direct message. Hello just listened to the last episode with the caller. Jen like jen. I also had my queer sexual awakening after joining roller derby. Okay roller derby is hot. And as a bonus coincidence. I had to get a rabies shot a couple years ago to do with anything. What are the ravens roller. Derby clear experience they have talked about. I can't remember exactly that episode. We may have talked about rabies. All right all right. Anyone knows what's happening anyway. Please follow up with us and then we'll read that on another episode. We're like oh right. That's what the rabies comment referred to. Anyway please feel free to give my info if you want to to gen To be a friend matchmaker. She's welcome to me. I look forward to your podcast every week. Wow okay so ships jen. If you would like to get in touch with this person please reach back out. And then i will connect you to you. Know what to do. Couples therapy gb l. dot com. If you are anyone else you know is looking for a friend. Just reach out to us. Okay we will connect people via email but in order to do that. You actually do have to rate and review the podcast five-star. You'll do it right. Nice review by proof. Hey now we know what another great way to meet. A friend is maybe like going to one of your shows and meeting other people in the audience. That are fanciers. Andy that is a wonderful idea and people do that. How could people come see you. Now that we're back in the world. How could how could people come see. You do stand up. Well you guys will have a chance on both coasts all the la folks elliott jason. You can see me at the comedy chateau in north hollywood. I'll be there july eighth july fourteenth and july fifteenth. all of those shows. I will be headlining doing thirty minutes. I have booked all the other comics and it will be a fun time again. The comedy chateau in north hollywood. I'll put up a link one other comic that might solomon giorgio solomon bestselling fit megan. Kelly thinking that brilliant now. If you're a new york you can catch me at littlefield in brooklyn july. Twenty seven and august i july twenty seven i got pat regan. Christie cello chalet was sharp. It's gonna be fun and august. I coming through sydney washington and more and by an more means. I have yet to book them. But it's going to pop off.

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"joel kim" Discussed on Urgent Care with Joel Kim Booster and Mitra Jouhari

Urgent Care with Joel Kim Booster and Mitra Jouhari

05:07 min | 4 months ago

"joel kim" Discussed on Urgent Care with Joel Kim Booster and Mitra Jouhari

"I'm clarify and i'm gray. Maybe remember our old show here to make friends. Now where the hosts of love to see an obsessively detailed recap podcast about the bachelor other pop culture that makes us laugh cry and i the patriarchy. We can't live with these shows and we can't live without them but we can break down every juicy moment and unpacked all the weird messages these shows send us about love sex and eating love to see it as out. Now follow us or subscribe on stitcher apple podcast pandora or wherever you listen urge. Urgent please go. Don't have any other options. Urgent care in here. I'm sorry hello and welcome to urgent care on your host. The host the main host ahead host ship. Joel kim booster and this is sort of a secondary sort of the backup sort of the roundabout batman sort of not true. That's absolutely not sure. You identify as batman or robin are our thing. I would identify as bat girl. Okay i would identify you as the joker think you thank you. Why so syria. Like baby joker. That's my that's my movie. I'm writing love. Cgi or or pen pen. Pen and ink. Penn and teller. Taylor will be the start off to an amazing start after our week off. Boy oh boy we have both been through the wringer as you can tell from my voice. It's been a weekend. My voice is not returned. it's it's a nice. I actually really liked the quality of my voice when it's like this when you have a rash from days of hard partying always. It's always really nice. Nice rasp voice. Thank you come on you guys. This is not a project where we recap my hard partying this podcast where we take calls and emails and give in dispense advice. Dispense advice and that's legal in the state. Actually in gullies were in in both states. Were in. It's legal for us to dispense advice. And we believe that everybody who is currently incarcerated for dispensing advice illegally should.

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04:45 min | 3 years ago

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