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"jodi white" Discussed on The Radio Adventures of Dr. Floyd

The Radio Adventures of Dr. Floyd

08:09 min | 10 months ago

"jodi white" Discussed on The Radio Adventures of Dr. Floyd

"Before we can begin to tell you the story of what fidget has been up to all of season seven. We must i actually go back to the beginning of the end of season. Six or you see the start of fidget season. Seven story takes place moments before the beginning of episode number six thirteen where we find evil mastermind. Dr steve and his sock shaped assistant figured skulking around the front door of dr floyd some oratory. Now listen up louis. Dr grant and chips will be back from the world's most brilliant scientists to was at any moment we must act quickly. If my plan is going to work my plan is that i'm going to return the time and space travel device here to dr lloyd. Yes i'm going to return it. But you see you find suck shape little buddy. I'll going to steal back that way. Dr floyd will think that i don't have it anymore. When i really do have it. And we'll be able to plunder all history unfeted from the bonds of being chased by dr lloyd. That's the easy part fidget. You're going to steal it. Back by hiding inside. Dr floyd's the tori you'll get inside the same way you always get inside a locked door through the mail slot. We don't have time to argue. The episode is about to begin getting the mail slot and after i return the time and space travel device. Swipe it back then make time jump and meet me at three pm at the rendezvous point. Yes the saddle river public library now. No more talk get in the mail slot who stopped and with this procedure put into practice. We began episode number six thirteen then in the closing moments of that very same episode the more perceptive of our patrons now realize that voyager did indeed steal back the time and space travel device and make time jump to the rendezvous point. The saddle river public library. Dr steve was nowhere to be found. Of course we know. what figure. Doesn't that dr. Steve had become trapped with dr lloyd. In the world of classic literature. Vigil was all set to wait for whatever length of time. It was going to take until. Dr steve arrive. Then he remembered that with the time has device he had all the time in the world so we decided to make a little time jump for himself and this is why we now find featured in philadelphia and the year. Seventeen thirty three where he's been for the past two weeks learning to play chess and speak italian with none other than benjamin franklin chirp rate. Yeah well you have one again my small friend or should i say bravo benny fatto. No as per our agreement you must challenged me to a task which i will learn more italian. Okay now shelby memorizing destructive pronouns. Or shall i be voice to translate some documents from english to italian. Hamlet's soliloquy you offered up of mighty challenge indeed my friend but it's a challenge. I'm more than ready to set upon completing all right now. Shall we play another game. Be going oh yes. Nearly three o'clock time via daily walk. Where do you hit off to every day. Three back to the subtle river place to meet up with your boss. Well it's been fortunately for me that he never shows up. I dread the day does daily just games over these past few weeks and made me not only a better player but a better speaker of i well if your boss does meet you and you go back to work. Do you think you'll be maybe venturing back this way again. If you don't come back today you'll be back in seventeen eighty three well. Let's fifty years from now. Well as i've always said employer time well if minister get leisure you you my friend. Things planned out very far in advance. Indeed really if you don't return today l. In seventeen eighty three but topi surprised by memory of us to bit fifty. Years is a long haul. I'll probably have very poor vision in seventeen eighty three. Why i bet. I'll i'll have to invent some sort of site aid. Even help me see the chessboard. Down here where. I'll keep the home fires burning for you. That's an idea. Well i wish you safe travels fidget. May journeys never wind up in checkmate and with that featured exited. Ben franklin's house and made a time jump back to settle river city in the rendezvous point to meet dr. Steve will be back from the world of plastic literature when fidget arrives. If dr steve has returned will he be mad that featured has made time jumps without him and just one is ben franklin thinking now that richard has left you boy. I shoot could go for a hotdog. I now next time on the radio. Adventures of dr flowing episode. Never seventy four of the radio. Adventures of dr floyd start chuck mccann benjamin franklin. Www dot chuck mccann dot net music for this episode by jodi white sides www dot jody. White sides dot com. This episode was written by grant pachuco and recorded at dr floyd studios in beautiful downtown burbank. California get your parents permission. And call our voicemail line at area code eight one eight three three two three zero five three episode number seventy four of the radio adventures of dr floyd is copyright two thousand nine dr floyd industries. Llc all rights reserved lia the airwaves. clear the airwaves. It's now time for dr floyd's imagination nation ranger's secret message for you members of the dr floyd imagination nation remember kids only official radio adventures of dr floyd imagination nation. Rangers can zip code. Dr floyd secret message with the secret dakota ring available only from www dot imagination ranger dot com. All right. grab your secret. Dakota rings a pencil and paper and prepare to set your imagination to fund. Remember dr floyd. He is counting on you. And here is the radio adventures of dr floyd imagination nation. Ranger's secret message for episode number. Seven t four figured takes a trip twelve one three seventeen six twenty three eighteen seventeen to one seven fourteen. 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"jodi white" Discussed on The Radio Adventures of Dr. Floyd

The Radio Adventures of Dr. Floyd

07:38 min | 11 months ago

"jodi white" Discussed on The Radio Adventures of Dr. Floyd

"Once again for america's favorite show the radio adventures dr fluid brought to you by the floyd dot com featuring special guest stars stan freberg as sherlock holmes in our last episode. We'd learned that. Donna floyd dr. Steve had made a literature jump into a classic. Sherlock holmes story where darkened floyd had been cast in the role of sherlock holmes. Trusted assistant dr watson. And dr steve had been cast in the role of classic literature. I real super villain professor moriarty. We now find. Dr floyd sherlock holmes and deep discussion as they walk along a small path in switzerland heading up to reichenbach falls. I just wished you'd return to london watson. What with word that. The police have rounded up all of moriarty's gang but the professor himself has eluded capture. Things will no doubt get extremely dangerous now moriarty will stop at nothing to get his revenge. There is no danger to great. That will persuade me to leave your shade. holmes. Well could. I convince you to stop holding my hand. Oh i'm afraid of heights. Just ask dr. Floyd and sherlock holmes reached the rock outcropping overlooking reichenbach falls. A messenger runs up the path behind them. Dr watson message for the manager of the hotel you stayed in last night. One of the other guests has taken neil in this nor the doctor around the manager. Ask that you. Please return immediately to see to hook care washington. You cannot deny that request. You must return to the hotel at once homes. I just promised to remain by your side. No matter what watson. how long have we known each other. We met in junior high school game. We know elementary my dear watson. Ooh that was a bad one the point. Is you know me well enough to know that i can take care of myself. And she posed by order you to return to the hotel at once. And i don't want any more of your rumblings of mutiny. Did you hear me watson. Oh sorry i was just waiting for a sound q. sound q. Forget it. I shall go to the hotel in return it once. Floyd reese back down the hill and as he does he turns and looks over his shoulder at the path the vegan spot sherlock holmes near the top of the falls while he can't quite see the great detective as the rock. Outcropping is hidden from view. He does see sinister looking figure creeping up the path towards the top. I wonder who that sinister looking figure. Creeping up the path towards the top could be. Wait am i. Remember the details of this story now. This is the one called sherlock holmes in the adventure of the final problem in the message about the sick hotel. Guest is a fake moriarty. Sent that message to get watch the leave home alone on the cliff show. He could confront him one on one. I gotta get back up there. Because i remember how their story ends. And if i don't make it in time it's not going to be good for sherlock holmes. Dr steve starts. Floyd dashes back up. The way he came. Let us cut to the top of the cliff above the phones. Where we find sherlock holmes coming face-to-face with his arch nemesis. Who also happens to be. Dr floyd's arch nemesis. Why hello this. Sherlock holmes moriarty. I knew you'd be here. Let me guess. You knew that. I'd be up here. Because when i visited you in your office the other day you saw that i had a spec mud on my shoe and that mud wasn't particularly brown. That can only be due to the unique mineral. Makeup of the mud found here at reichenbach falls. So you cleverly deduce tonight ben out the previously looking for places to ambush you know. I knew you'd be here because you book your travel through my brother microsoft except that it is time to finish this once and for all yards. I couldn't agree more. I agree with your agreement that it is agreed that we both agreed that. Don't start that again. Look let's just hurry up and get this fight over with. I have plans to invade russia later this afternoon. Funny i thought that was just a figure of speech. How's that nothing. Let's begin but i must warn you. Mario party that. I am well practiced in the martial art of barrett. Sue and i must one you homes that i have a black belt in screaming and running away when i'm about to lose So it begins don cherry. Take that out hickey. What whoa look out. Nice one low fat and that careful. We're getting awfully close to the edge of the cliff there. What's wrong then. Don't you like the show with a cliffhanger. Not when it's me us hanging over the edge of the cliff until foes struggle with punches other precipice. It is at this exact moment that lloyd rounds the last band in the path just time to witness a shadowy form disappear over the edge of the cliff or no. I'm wait a minute. Perhaps there's one. Small jan smith quickly reaches into the pocket of his coat and pushes the button on the translate to our remote controlled. There was a loud bang in a blinding clash of light environment. Floyd vanishes leaving only the cliff at rickenbach falls behind who was the shadowy form that toppled over the edge of that cliff. What did dr floyd hope to accomplish by pushing the button on the translate to a remote control. And just how many times mr narrator yes. I'm from the village. Green preservation society. Later find out next time on the radio. Adventures of dr flowing episode. Never seven ten of the radio. Adventures of dr flowing. Start stan freberg. As sherlock holmes be sure to pick up stanford's history of united states of america volumes one and two to hear the album that helped inspire the radio adventures of dr floyd. This episode also featured a special cameo appearance by june foray music for this episode by jodi white sides. Www dot jody. White sides dot com. This episode was written by grant pachuco. And based on the stories of sherlock holmes by sir arthur conan doyle leaves the voice mail and area code eight eight three three two three zero five three visit the brand new radio adventures of dr floyd store at www dot dr floyd dot com slash store. This episode was recorded. At dr floyd studios in beautiful downtown burbank. California episode number seven ten of the radio. Adventures of dr floyd is copyright two thousand eight dr floyd industries. All rights reserved. Hey radio adventures of dr floyd fans one look cool for back to school. Then you need the brand new official radio. Adventures of dr floyd t-shirt available exclusively at the dr floyd online store at www dot. Dr roy dot com the radio adventures of dr floyd t-shirt features a brand new drawing of the cast of the show on the front and our catchphrase and website on the back. This shirt is one hundred percent cotton and comes in sizes for both kids and adults go to www dot. Dr floyd dot com right now to get your brand new radio. Adventures of dr floyd t-shirt hurry. Though quantities are limited in this initial run the brand new radio. Adventures of dr floyd t-shirt available only at www dot d. o. C. t. o. R. f. l. o. y. dot.

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"jodi white" Discussed on The Radio Adventures of Dr. Floyd

The Radio Adventures of Dr. Floyd

07:44 min | 11 months ago

"jodi white" Discussed on The Radio Adventures of Dr. Floyd

"It's time once again for america's favorite show the radio adventures of dr fluid brought to you floyd dot com featuring special guest. Dr stan freberg as sherlock holmes in our last episode dart off lloyd. Dr steam had just made another literature. Jump we knew that. Dr steve had landed in front of the office of sherlock holmes but we had no idea what are deployed had wound up. That is until now as there was a brilliant flash of light and we see i hero come crashing down into the middle of a small but well furnished consultation room in london england. Oh boy we're attorney's name i know. Where's dr steve. He took his own merimee readies. We made literature jump. I thought he said he was gonna do coming consultation. Room moments and they're on the threshold stands a man well over six feet tall and so thin. He appears considerably taller his eyes. I shop and piercing and he has a thin hawk. Line knows and as square jaw. He quickly looks around the room and dentists closing the door behind him. Are your loan watson luncheon. Have you any objection to my closing. You're shudders watson. no go ahead closure as the man is his way around the room. Flinging the shutters together. Dr floyd ponders curiously on the name. He's been called if he is watson and this is a piece of classic literature then this man could only be sherlock holmes. You were expecting maybe basil rathbone. Never mind you are no doubt wondering why i'm here. I assume it's because you have a new case. Why yes i do. How nice huge. Notice very stylish. Don't you think matches my cloak. No no i mean you have a new mystery to solve all right watson. Have you ever heard of professor moriarty. Wasn't he a mathematics professor. That's him well after an extensive investigation. I've come to realize that it is he who has been behind all the recent crimes and london masterminding numerous acts of evil. Like some sort of of evil mastermind. Precisely moriarty is the napoleon of crime. You any plans to invade russia. No no no watson. It was just a figure of speech. Oh right sherry anyway. I have just put a plan into action that will and a mere three days. Time exposed marietta's misdeeds to all of london and intern get him arrested. Oh bravo homes jolly good show. Yes it was quite clever me wasn't it but you see watson as clever as mike cleverness was moriarty was clever enough to discover my cleverness levers. So imagine my surprise when this very morning he showed up at two twenty one b baker street. He get what did he look like. Well is extremely tall and thin. His shoulders or rounded and he's to is are deeply sunken into his head. Does he have pale skin and greasy black hair. Yes he does watson. How did you know. Just playing a hunch. Well the moment he entered the room he appeared at me with great. Curiosity then smiled at me and said you don't know me do you. Don't know me do you on the contrary. I know exactly who you are. Well then if you know who. I am then you know why. I'm here oh. I know why you're here and you know i know why are here with it if you know that. I know that you know why i'm here. Then you must know that. I know that you know that. I know that you know why i'm here. Yes i know look. I didn't come here. a weedy bent. I'm sorry you're being woody. What look. I came here to tell you that. I'm quite sure. A smart man like yourself could see that if you think you're smart enough to bring destruction up on me i. I'm smart enough to do the same to you. You are paid me. Several compliments mr moriarty. Let me pay you on in return. When i say that a man smart enough to see how smart i am is surely smart enough to know that i'm smart enough to outsmart one as smart as you. You think you're so smart don't you I get by. But you haven't seen the last of me sherlock holmes that he left my office dear me. You can see the great danger. I am in watson. is this reason. I'm wondering if you'll come away with me to switzerland until three days have passed and moriarty is in custody of course homes. You can count on me to help you with this case. Oh no need watson you see. It's got a pet at handle and a detachable shoulder strap not dead case the moriarty case right. I'll meet you at the station in an hour. Just wish i knew what sherlock holmes story this was sir arthur conan. Doyle wrote so many of them. It's hard to keep street. And as talk to floyd hurriedly prepares to leave. We must take a leave of this episode. Will sherlock holmes be able to outsmart professor moriarty. Who's obviously being portrayed by dr steve and this version of the story all dr. Steve gained the up a hand in this battle of good versus evil and in what capacity. We'll dr floyd helped sherlock holmes with this case. I don't need any help with this case doesn't rowley wheels on it. You see not that case that oh never mind. Find out next time on the radio. Adventures duct flowing episode number seven. Oh nine of the radio. Adventures of dr floyd starred stan freberg cash sherlock holmes stan freberg history of the united states of america volumes. One and two are highly recommended by everyone here at the radio. Adventures of dr floyd using for this episode by jodi white sides. Www dot jody white sides dot com. This episode was written by grant. But choko and based on the stories of sherlock holmes by sir arthur conan. Doyle leave us a voicemail and area code eight one eight three three two three zero five three visit the radio adventures of dr floyd merchandise store at www dot dr floyd dot com slash store. This episode was recorded. At dr floyd studios in beautiful downtown burbank. California episode number seven. Oh nine of the radio. Adventures of dr floyd is copyright. Two thousand eight dr floyd industries. All rights reserved. Hey radio adventures of dr floyd fans. One look cool for back to school. Then you need the brand new official radio. Adventures of dr floyd t-shirt available exclusively at the dr floyd online store at dot dot dot roy dot com the radio adventures of dr floyd shirt features a brand new drawing of the cast of the show on the front and dr catchphrase and website on the back. This shirt is one hundred percent cotton and comes in sizes for both kids and adults go to www dot. Dr floyd dot com right now to get your brand new radio. Adventures of dr floyd t-shirt hurry. Though quantities are limited in this initial run the brand new radio adventures. Dr floyd t-shirt available only at. Www dot d. o. C. t. o. r. f. l. o. y. dot com. Get yours today and set your wardrobe to fun..

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"jodi white" Discussed on The Bobby Bones Show

The Bobby Bones Show

02:43 min | 1 year ago

"jodi white" Discussed on The Bobby Bones Show

"But when it. When i hit the brakes from it costs my car. Thousand dollars worth of damage. I get irritated going pothole. Yeah to me have at other people to and then. I'm like dang those taxes but listen i pay him love them. I love to pay him. eddie had a big bill in his house. Yeah they're working on it today. I found out yesterday. I don't know if you remember how to walk out of the studio. My wife hit me with. Oh i saw that yesterday. You take a call and you walked out she said. Can you talk for a second. So i took the call and the plumber was. There are water heater. Went out our baby through another toy down another toilet our disposal. Our garbage disposal went out and his leaking so now. We're looking at houses damaged from the leak. I don't know how long it's been leaking under the sink. No one checked so we're looking at possibly thirty five hundred up from what you send me yesterday. Directs correct because. I didn't know we had a water. Damage will insurance a water damage. The we're dealing with that now. The i was gonna ask you that like. You're you've been dealing with water damage. The how. I love the house we bought but we knew there was a lot of work that needed to be done on this house. We have theirs. We've not stopped on like in the guest room. Now they'd appeal up a bunch of the floor because it was just water damage underneath it. There's nothing you can do water damage. It's the worst. Yeah yellow like kurt. Russell and goldie hawn. I dunno overboard now movie. What's that movie money pit. Who's tom hanks. Never mind wrong. People there it's a thirty five hundred dollar bill. Where if it's all spread out. That's not really an insurance payment is it no. And that's the estimate to and you're talking about charges of like they're charging from i gotta move the washer and dryer because that's in the way of the water heater and now it's all it's it could be affected. My mom my wife said today that the heater a dryers now working to though dude. That stinks when it rains. It pours s song about that for us where two bathrooms flood at the same time because the whole part of the house plumbing was messed up and so we is an listen. There's not a big problem. There are real problems in life but whenever they come in and they go yeah. Here's a unexpected bill. You're too bad there was bedrooms. Flooded get rip out to complete bathrooms. You're like dang man crazy. I know very expensive. Sorry to hear that. Thank you so. I'm dealing with that right now. Yeah i knew when you left studio on very uncharacteristic in the middle of something. I never do that phone walkout. It's like me leaving to go to the bathroom during a show. She had the plumber there. And she's like. I need to make a decision on his now. Like what do we do. And i said all right. I'll call a second good luck. Thanks man on the velvets edge. Podcasts with kelly henderson. She has on jodi white a licensed therapist and attachment trauma specialist. And so check this out. They dissect danger of if then statement mentality and talk about finding religion..

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"jodi white" Discussed on Velvet's Edge

Velvet's Edge

02:30 min | 1 year ago

"jodi white" Discussed on Velvet's Edge

"To that point where we only know who we are and then we love ourselves but also leader set about accepting yourself. Reagan accept others if also self compassion is a big part of recovery. So i also recommend dr kristen. Nef's work as she wrote the book. Self compassion and she has a new book called radical self compassion. And it's a mindfulness self compassionate. Mindfulness exercise And if you can start a self compassion practice things will start to shift because it literally changes the brain and then you can start having compassion for yourself and again i would like to save. The world will start getting up. Where can people you. Well my practices. In austin okay and i actually a moving away from individual work but i am working toward offering intensity. You're in austin so we can intensive and i do believe one on one therapy weekly. That's great But i also think that intensive work especially when you're doing addiction independence and family of origin trauma Intensive can intensive were can take therapy to a whole another level. Yeah So i'm also instagram. At jodi white lpc. I have the podcast profile which is at journals of love addict. And i think that's right now. Okay so jodie is j. o. d. i that out to people. Also what can we look forward to on the podcasts. Always like what's going to come out next. The next i now i know i have a couple of things planned so one of the things i have in mind is that you know my partner and i we've been together. Let's see five over five five years. Yeah actually is the one. We broke up after a few months of being together. And that is what sent me into recovery. And then we took time apart. We did no contact. I had no plans of getting back together with him. And yet we got back together about six months after we broke up and He has been pivotal in my recovery. He is also done his own work. And so. I have an idea to have him on the podcasts and talk about his perspective of how. At our time break-up he was more love avoidance. What he was going through. And then what. I was going through and.

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"jodi white" Discussed on Velvet's Edge

Velvet's Edge

07:28 min | 1 year ago

"jodi white" Discussed on Velvet's Edge

"I control if. I go to therapy or if i read this book or a fight of podcast i can invite someone to do it but i cannot expect someone or force them to do it like. That's in their hula-hoop bay. My choices are in mind. Hula-hoop their choices and beliefs and behaviors in their hula-hoop right. And so we can do that and so you know. Stay focused on ourselves. You can still share. Like i really. What do you think about this. You know like this book. What do you think about it now. I am not interested in it. Okay that's information information. They're not interested in the same things i am. Does that mean that. Y'all can't have a healthy relationship not not necessarily but if you want to be with someone who is interested in Working on things the way that you work on things or at least similarly or at least is working on sta. Then you gotta pay attention to that. It's also about identifying. Maybe what you want out of a partnership relationship ahead of because you don't know then you're just walking blindly thinking everyone wants the same things as you. That's true yeah. Yeah it's kind of reminded me of that. I think it's a maya angelou quote where she says when someone shows he are believed them. Yeah is that how it goes and when someone when someone shows you who they are relieved them yes so good. I mean so. Pay attention but what about i think. My struggle is Maybe this is. Because i don't pay attention enough at the beginning of any sort of relationship but accepting who. Someone sometimes can be very painful right like if you make up who they should be than having to accept. Today are could causey pain. So what can you do. Because i'm paying averse. I don't i don't want anything. I don't want any more pain of had enough pain in my life so do a lot of things to try to avoid pain and i'm trying to get more comfortable with that. But how can we get past that part of this. So i guess the answer would depend on where you are in a relationship. You know If i use my four year co addicted relationship by the end of four years it was just how many more times we're gonna break up and had a really major moment where i caught myself trying to get him to see something my way and it just was like a message from the sky. That said you're being codependent right now. jody mrs codependence. This is a sign of codependence and it just hit me. And i realized i've been doing it for four years and so you have to say okay. It's painful to say this is not ever going to be the way i want it to be seen. We avoid that disconnection right like i said but the whole time that we are in the relationship in that relationship and we're over functioning we are trying to avoid pain and meanwhile we are in pain. That's the thing and so you have the the thing. Were avoiding that. We think we can't tolerate is actually where growth is going to happen. That's our opportunity. That's where we grow so you can stay in this cycle in pain trying to avoid pain. You know you're staying in it with the pain. You know that you think you can control but then avoiding the pain of disconnection when really you're not gonna you're gonna survive it. Yeah yeah that's what i would. I was curious if there's someone listening because he does something like especially. That's kind of why i think we both we don't like the term of love addict pilsen so harsh and hard What would you say to someone who's listening. Who's maybe like. Yeah like they're dating and it's they're identifying maybe this is. How past relationships have been. How do you find that hoping that. Like where is the hope in this dynamic so something you're from clients when they come to me and i hear this often and i can relate but it's this wasted so much time wasted so much of my life in these dysfunctional relationships wasted time with this person or that person or all these people and the thing is nothing is wasted. So that's the hope everything that has happened. His gotten you where you are. And if you know i think to look at if we can look at that and have that awareness and realize okay. I need to make a change. Change is possible. We can get into recovery week inch start working on codependence and there's a ton of hope when sheeran recovery in the whole world opens up. Yeah where do people go to find that like the recovery stuff. Because i think that's an overwhelming piece to if you don't know anything about any sort of addiction stuff or you're like you see a on tv in like a movie no right yeah i. I always recommend. Start with facing love addiction by. Pm melody that guy. I credit that. I believe pm were saved my life. I really believe that. Not only that but it totally changed the work. I do therapist. I had no idea. So if i look back. I didn't get into recovering until i was forty six and i'm fifty one now. I'm by beers in the actually probably right now and I would have never known you know at forty six within the next five years to look like and But so i credit. Pm melody with where. I am right now but facing love. Addiction is one of her books. Love basing codependence is another one and If you cons if anyone is looking for a therapist to trained with pia mellody There is you can call the meadows. We her facility out in wickenburg arizona and you call the intake line. Let them know. You're looking for a meadows trained therapist and tell them where you're located and they will give you a list of therapists in your area. Who specialize in love addiction and attachment trauma. And which is yeah so it really goes back to again You know that cheesy thing people always say where it's like. You really have to love yourself first before you can love someone else. That assorted of hate that statement. But it's sort of like you really do have to know yourself. I and anna do think you have to love yourself but may be as i was saying to you like how do we accept other people for who they really are but like asking myself. Do i accept myself for who. I really do instead of doing that. Work before you start diving into dating in looking at a partner to make your life better in anything like that like. Because i think that's where if we're not doing that work i we're going to keep the cycle going yeah i don't like that term. Either you've got to love yourself before you can love anybody else. Because the thing about attachment trauma is loving yourself is very challenging because we struggle with self esteem self worth issues and so that's part of the recovery work is doing which is a whole nother podcast episode. But it's much carried shane. We started with carried shame which causes us to struggle with self worth not as easy as him. Go out there and love myself now. Now there's a whole lot of Old messaging and baggage that we carry around. It's really heavy that we have to clear out before we.

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"jodi white" Discussed on Velvet's Edge

Velvet's Edge

04:29 min | 1 year ago

"jodi white" Discussed on Velvet's Edge

"With everything in life. I gave him a book. And i gave it to him again because we told me lost it. That's that's probably throw it away and you're like oh you lost. Oh i moved. And i must have lost it in the move movement. Like oh he's like. Oh gee thanks. Yeah i loved. There was a podcast of yours. I was listening to in. You said something about when you started dating this guy and he had all these empty bookshelves like oh he just hasn't unpacked jet just mood. He has an impact yet. And you're like where's your books. And he says you up books. Why would anyone keep books. Didn't even like to read yen that that was a huge part of your life. What you want in your relationships and yet you still got in their relationship but it goes to show how we just. Don't listen to what they're actually saying like the buddhism book that's hilarious that maybe twice if only he didn't drink so much then things between us would be better. Maybe i can get him to quit. A this is drinking. A someone told me once that it was a barrier that some of us us to continue emotional unavailability like. It's it's a way to medicate to where you don't have to be completely vulnerable emotionally available. Is that yeah i mean. That's that's one way to say it for sure. I mean i used to think when we drank together my socially this one partner talking about That we got closer. That was when we could have intimacy. And then when i got sober i realized that was never. That's not intimacy. That wasn't being honest. About who i am. You know. arctic why they say that because authentic and honest would be to say. I'm really struggling in this relationship. I feel like you don't love me. I don't know if it's going to work. And i'm really scared. That was never said it was just. Let me tell you my trauma. let me. yeah let me share with you and then you'll over share with me and we're we're drinking it. It's really great inside. Feel so connected. Yeah that's interesting but then the next day we'd be right back to where we were you know because it wasn't real connection with the faucets connection but that would be soothing in the moment for hurson with attachment winding. Oh yes yawn. Alcohol definitely sued for me. Definitely You say he has a lot of traumas at once. He works out. Things will be quote unquote better. Yeah my reaction to reading this that like we does have a lot of trauma so it would be better. Obviously there's another bouquet for you but something else therapists not always worked on his. I am really drawn to what she describes as winded men or but they. They have huge hearts a very charismatic. It doesn't mean like they're bad people by any means it. Just me no. There's wounding there. And i like i just love that sex me writing And so it was kind of what i was saying to you earlier. I get in the relationship and go. Oh they have the same wounding me even sometimes or they have wounding two. And so we've kinda can bond over that or something like this magnum each other. And then i go okay. Well i'm doing all this work. And i want to go to these meetings i to go to this therapist and i want to read this book and i want to listen to this podcast so you probably due to right. And so i'm sitting on They don't want to actually do that. They don't care they're not interested in that they don't want to dive into their childhood and look at why they do the way you know things the way they do So i guess my question in that is that part of like fantasy or What are ways that we could actually look at the relationship or the person that you're meeting and not go into that place of like whatever you think the right thing to do would be onto them with drawn to that kind of dynamic. So that's where boundary work comes in. Okay i mean boundaries. I mean just boundaries boundaries boundaries. All the time. And so again. If you use that hula-hoop analogy and you really get good with. Okay what's mine you know. What can i control. I control myself..

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05:19 min | 1 year ago

"jodi white" Discussed on Velvet's Edge

"It doesn't matter that's and so then we'll just ignore. The reality of this person clearly is not available. Because we're already hooked in it so so then on the flip side of that said why would you overlook unavailability but then like are there people who you'd mentioned the avoid avoid any kind of relationship. Would they be very drawn to the unavailability as what they would want interrelationship again. Like if you are love avoid which. We haven't really talked about that much. But it's kind of the opposite side of the same Attachment wind right. Yeah at the moment. So like if you were an avoidance would you if you were drawn to another avoidance. Would it feel really safe because you would know that are maybe like what would even in a relationship because you don't one intensity you don't want availability necessarily could be. Yeah could be. Yeah exactly i have. Never been the avoidance with another avoidance. I've always been the avoided with another someone who is playing more than the attic. Yeah and i should say that most based on my experience you talk to people. I hear from people i work with. We can be both we flip around. Depending on what gets triggered in a relationship we can be more avoid and it can be more insecure more like is there any scenario where someone who has not done the work around this sort of trauma would just get a secure relationship can it. Has anyone has attachment trauma independent. I mean i don't want to say that couldn't happen I think that we can feel secure. Yeah and you're saying without doing the work can that happen. I don't wanna say that couldn't happen. I haven't seen it happen. That doesn't mean it hasn't happened sort of thinking if you're an active if you're actively in your addiction you're probably picking someone also active in theirs or that has those winds right. That seems to be how it works. Yeah i also go on the theory that most of us are walking around with some sort of wounding. That's not saying that. We're all walking around with some major trauma or anything. But i do think that we have some sort of wounding whether even if it wasn't family of origin winding did it happen at school where you bullied someone who a teacher who just rated you every day and caused you to feel like shit about yourself. I mean you know. Where did something oftentimes has happened along. The lines that has caused us to You know caused us to doubt ourselves to need to sue their selves to. Yeah yeah yeah. Well let's get back to the caption because you say that other thing. He used to say to yourself once he does there. He won't act like that. You have haven't glowed anymore or once. I get him to go to therapy. Which started dying laughing. When i read that part because that's like like when we go to therapy and actually feel like i i get fearful of saying my truth sometimes and i want the therapist to communicate it for me. I might not have knowledge that this is messed up somehow. But i'm so fearful of intimacy with my partner or bringing that up or having. I don't really know what my block always is but sometimes it can feel really hard and so i. I convinced myself a weedy therapy. But i'm like fingers crossed that the therapist is gonna say what i think they should say to. My partners partner can get fixed. There's your there's your bunch of red flags right there. Thank you there. We gave for you because you know if we are not able in. This is the rule of thumb. If we're not able to be ourselves and speak up in a relationship big problem you know. It's a big problem. We have to be able to communicate and be ourselves. And i would guess that part of the reason you weren't comfortable bringing something up yourself is because what if that led to disconnection right and so all we do our love addiction is avoid disconnection. It's always trying so hard to avoid disconnection. Yeah i've never had that said so simply but that is exactly right because the second you feel the disconnection just like what you were just talking about even if it's the slow text or whatever the anxiety and what about if only he read the books i gave him he'd be a better partner of my thing is a podcast articles. I read about relationship. Yeah you're oh. Yeah i've i've done that a lot. I mean i. I can't even count the books given to people but relationship. I gave that back guy. A book on buddhism and how buddhism will help with everything in life. I gave him a book. And i gave it to him again because we told me lost it. That's that's probably throw it away and you're.

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06:14 min | 1 year ago

"jodi white" Discussed on Velvet's Edge

"What can that look like. Lack of availability is that just. We've mentioned earlier the work thing. So if someone's working all the time is that considered lack of availability or is it something different. So this in that post something about like you said you said i either lack of of availability like that. She would just overlook that. yeah so. that's used work. So who's just work i had. I've had several Kodak relationships that where my partner was always working traveling on the road. I dated baseball. Agent for ears. Talk about you know quote unquote working baseball games hanging out with the players doing all the events all that sets up he was gone all the time and in matter how much i complained. That was not going to change. You know so looking back at that is why was that okay with. That's not the kind of relationship i wanted. But i was getting something out of it. You know so I stayed in it and other lack of availability because of an addiction. Maybe because they're having an affair maybe emotionally. They just are not. We're not in the same page on the same wavelength. You know You let's even let you say the most with i don't like the term healthiest. Let's say healthiest person ever You know the way you share the way you open up to someone the way that you're available and wanting to communicate with someone but yet the other person does not do reciprocate or isn't able to do that they're not on the same page I say emotionally because some people just aren't able to open up that way right but we'll stay in that as in love addiction. You know we'll stay in it and we'll do all this sharing and all the opening up and think we bring so vulnerable right when really. This person isn't even really opening up or showing us anything. So how vulnerable. Are we really being if we know we. Don't we know it's not being received talk. Reciprocated would honorable early really being so this is another thing because i used to say this a lot in my love addiction is like i'm i'm being so authentic and so vulnerable when really. I actually was guarding myself. Quite a bit you know. There's a difference between Being vulnerable and then being open and having boundaries right like you don't ability requires healthy boundaries. Too yeah otherwise. You're just dumping a bunch of stuff and you're jumping a lot of information and so in my love addiction. My partners for the most part were not seeing me. They weren't listening they weren't Able to hear everything i was saying. We're showing up for me. So anything i was sharing with them or the vulnerability was really knowing that they were not gonna turn around and say. Hey i see you. Thank you for sharing with me. Thanks for being so available so it's almost like safe. Does that make sense. Yes like they were never going to turn around and say hello. i'm hearing you. I'm seeing you on balloting you. I love you. i'm here for you. They were they always have their back to me in. You know in a way and so being the vulnerable one Which really wasn't that vulnerable. But feeling like i'm the one doing all this bomber ability work over year when really they weren't even looking at me so how vulnerable was are really being so really really. There's intimacy that it's just. There's no that's the protection you're talking about is that it was ready in some ways because you didn't have to really think about how vulnerable that was our because the intimacy wasn't actually happening right exactly and now that's my challenge in recovery is now that i'm in a long term relationship where this person shows up for me all the time and so for me to be able to be vulnerable and share. What's really going on with me and know that he's actually going to hold space and here and still berry theory for me to do that interesting. So why would. Why would we disregard like if you're looking at someone in your like. They're not that available would we is. It is exactly what were just talking about. Why would it be disregard. Their lack of availability so the way it works oftentimes with this co addicted dynamic. Is that both partners. Come together pretty quickly. And they both appear berry available and there's typically a possibly a lack of boundaries of over sharing maybe not always but the more love avoided partner doesn't appear avoid it at first there are available and even the more love addicted partner doesn't really feel insecure or anxious initially but then time goes on and the avoid i always say it starts with the void and partner pulling jess dolittle and that will trigger that attach movement in the attic and then the love addict starts to over function and a common message that might go through the love addicts head is shits. I've done something wrong because suddenly they're behaving differently you know and it can be really subtle. But they're just something's not quite right. You feel it because they're slower to texts back like being that only right do do if we shared it with a friend that might be like. What are you talking about. But we know because we're so hypersensitive to anyone's change in behavior because of our upbringing we can very sensitive to what someone's doing energetically and when they're turning away from us he and so we go into over functioning okay. So what. Can i get it back to where it was. And the more we over functions. The more avoidance will start to pull away more and so by then the dynamic has happened is i call it like the hook is in and so we are just caught up in that cycle of love addiction. Where we're the reality and we're staying focused on it. We can even use the the fantasy mail getting back to where it was when we first started dating because it seems so perfect then it was just for two weeks..

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02:04 min | 1 year ago

"jodi white" Discussed on Velvet's Edge

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"jodi white" Discussed on Velvet's Edge

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05:11 min | 1 year ago

"jodi white" Discussed on Velvet's Edge

"We stay in them because we have this fantasy of what it will be like once. They do all these things that we know they can do. If only they would do them. You know and so we have to be in touch with reality which again. That's one of the co codependence right issues with reality. We have to be in touch with the reality of the situation. And who is the person who are they really and get to know them based on who they really are not who we want them to be or think they could be if they tweak a few things and then make a decision. Do i want to be in this relationship with this person based in reality who sits right and that also makes me think about Like do they want to do the work. Because i just assumed that everyone does. Because i'm like oh like this is from childhood. I want to deal with this. I want to. I don't. I don't want my relationships to look at that as an adult but one of the things that i've bumped up against as i get in a relationship suming. Everyone thinks the way that i do are wants the same things as i do when in reality a lot of people don't want to do the work or it's not interesting to them to even look at that stuff so i pretend like if they did the work it would be better but like they don't even want to do the work right Right and again it goes back to you know technically who are we to say what work they need to do. Exactly right so that kinda goes back into the one up a little bit like that. We think we know because we have been in recovery. And we've done all the therapy and all that stuff and so it's you know whether or not they do all that it's kind of goes with that phrase as You know it's it's it's none of our business. You know what work. They need to do what they will ultimately end up doing themselves if they do anything. That's not for us to say it's for each individual person to figure out you know what work they need to do You know. I was in a co addict relationship for four years. It was on and off. I don't even know how many times we broke up and got back together. And i just always thought he'd only go to therapy it only. He quit drinking. If only he'd stopped working so much about you know. And i would be on him all the time about this because i knew best right and so years later. That was eleven twelve years ago that we broke up and he has been an arabic. He has failed his drinking He is now married and we were not on bad terms but he said to me not too long ago he said you. You can see things that i couldn't see. I said now. Tell me that fear in some way but at the same time i was already in recovery so it was like cool so glad because but my point with that is that people can eventually get to a point where they might do the work later but are you going to wait around for that. You know like you've got to look at how valuable you are and how valuable your life is and You know live your life and take care of yourself versus focusing on someone else in. What hoping they'll do right. And not also attached to their journey like their journey their journey. It's not your journey and where right. Where are you on your journey. That's the question. I keep having to ask myself in life because i get i can. I don't it's not even just romantic relationships for me. It's friendships can be work. Relationships like the dynamic of getting really attached to someone else's journey and digging that. I know what they need to do to help. Fix whatever issue is even when they didn't ask mom Right and that goes with the codependence with boundaries really goes probably several symptoms. but let's look at boundaries. And i always use the hula-hoop analogy everyone's in their own hula hoop and we should not get into someone else's hula hoop and we shouldn't really let anybody else in our hula hoop and we can bump up against loose. Because that's cool you know but that's about being an autonomous interdependent. You know adult in another relationship. It's like you know you can have healthy boundaries. You can be your own person but but you can also be in relationship with someone else. Yeah i wanna talk a little bit about the fantasy piece because we use that term alive in regards to love addiction and it's very common in that world and all the books you read but like i've always associated fantasy with the word fantasy with like sexual fantasy and like i don't really believe that to be. I mean it could be a part of that. But i think that it's a much bigger picture so i didn't really realize the fantasy that i was living in in my live or have lived in relationships. Are the fantasies hours was putting on certain people. So can you kind of explain what that might look like. You did say you know what your experience was growing up so it can be about a relationship but like say you meet a person now. Are you met a person now. Could that look like if you were in your active love addiction. So i'm actually. I'm thinking if i could use an example that.

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07:02 min | 1 year ago

"jodi white" Discussed on Velvet's Edge

"About that is that we look at it and think. Oh if i quit drinking then everything's going to be better right and you know it. It does get better but then what that does is just clears the crud so you can look at the crowd underneath that. You don't have the medicaid or anymore right. You're not exactly right so Matt's win a lot of times. The love addiction will actually flare up. I worked with a lot of clients who get sober. I realized oh. Wow look at my relationships there of really big mess right so yes so interesting. Well a message you because follow you on instagram. Obviously you're at jodi white l. p. c. Right just so you know. It's a great instagram. And if you're identifying with any of this dynamic. I really highly go suggest as suggests you guys go follow her just because you give these like motivational quotes like it's always comes at the right time to you or you make fun of yourself in some sort of addiction way and it's like yes. Okay this is okay can give you hope. This doesn't have to be doomsday. All the time. But you did opposed that really resonated with me and it's about relationship dynamics which obviously most of this stuff is about but it was one specific thing that i really really find myself doing and i've seen so many of my friends do it. I think it's common actually. But i wanna read posed in then i wanna talk through the different things that maybe we do in this dynamic an how you know maybe some tips on how we can do. Things differently for reasoning but So you said any fine. The actual the actual post says if you're waiting for a partner to do the work themselves the work you believe. They need to do in order to be better. That's the same as hoping they'll change or become someone else. We must get to know a person for who they are right now. That's like the key word for me right now. not who. We hope that they will be at some point in the future by therapists when rendell's like or that one before it was kinda like a gut punch but there was this same thing she says. I i have this tendency to date on potential. Yeah have you heard that before. Yeah i use that a lot that it's like the addiction to the potential right. What they could be if the knicks fans like you were talking about earlier so you say in the caption that you said i'd meet someone then. The fantasy would kick in overlook the reality of who they were either lack of availability but it often get into their relationship with them instead. You see the red flags but you wouldn't necessarily stop yourself right right and so look functional adult me solid red flag you know. Wounded child me was like but only if i could do all these things. Let me perform. Let me do this. Let me hold onto hope and potential. Because that's what i've been doing. My whole life is like show holding out for the potential of what could be better. If a if only i can do this or that but i mean if you're anything like me like i'm pretty skilled at doing that kind of stuff. So this is how this is what i tell myself and For a while it does work. You know like i can. I can see the different areas. Eating were online. I got that one. I could do that or could help them with that. And then we could like really out and then like. This would be better if we did this. And i've got the ideas already. But it's super subconscious. I don't realize i'm doing this. Obviously but i can see where once all of that stuff is sorted out. This will be the perfect relationship. Right right meow. My entire life falls apart right because we're so over focused on the person that we're with and over functioning in the relationship to try to get all that stuff to work. Yeah right so so. Let's go back to ever saying about the issues with steam which is one of the symptoms of codependence. Okay so then that back correlates into symptoms of love addiction. Which is we put someone on a pedestal. We overvalue the person that we're with right. I mean isn't that people aren't valuable but when we overvalued them right we're putting them on a pedestal. We're making them bigger higher than us. Right. so let's look at when we are believing that we know what would be best for this other person. We're actually one upping. It's like i know it would be best if only they would do therapy and they'd work on that thing or if only they would curtail that drinking that drinking got apartment. They're drinking so what we're doing is really judging. And we're one upping so. I believe that we do that. To kind of Soothe the insecure attachment that we have when we have them on a pedestal. It's of painful. It's uncomfortable to think better than us. Oh you know. I need to be. I need to be hot and sexy. And all these things. In order for this person who's way up on that pedestal. To love me. The way i need to be loved. That doesn't feel good. It's based on our insecurity. And so i think when we do that If only i can change them. And tweak this and fix that. That's a little bit of One upping in order to kind of counter are insecure attachment. And how painful. That is a never really realized that because it is interesting because you can be both right like i can look at a situation and go. There's a part of me that maybe if i'm being really honest takes comfort in someone else having like not right. Because i'm i i compare their outside of my inside so if my insides are a mess it's like oh good okay. I'm not the only one that's got someone on Because of my insecurity piece. I guess but then there's some stuff where i'm like. Oh i've done a bunch of work. I've been in recovery for many years. I know about that. Like i have a lot of knowledge. I know what to do. You know but in reality it takes me out of my own program work in the focus on me and back into my really unsown over engaged in fact exactly see how that works that goes around this circle dot kind of thing And i guess. I should also say though like when i posted that i did get a message from someone saying that people can change and nowhere in there. Do i say that people can't change I'm a therapist. I believe people can change. Yeah and i've seen it. I've done it right. But what i'm saying is we're talking about co addictive relationships people who struggle with Tech metron man love addiction. We get into relationships..

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04:21 min | 1 year ago

"jodi white" Discussed on Velvet's Edge

"Say that again. that's interesting. Yeah so the fantasy for the longest time. I thought it was about those people that be about right but it was really about how good i felt about myself in that fantasy. I was a grown-up i was independent. I had austin closed. You know i had freedom. I felt good about myself But the the trick is that. Let's just say punch Chips had to be part of that fantasy in order for me to feel that way about myself. Wow that was major a ha moment the it was for me too and so then that fantasy you get into middle school. You start liking for master liking boys and having crushes on boys and usually someone older who ahead on a pedestal. And then you do start. Dating and i started dating emotionally unavailable guys even in high school And so here. So it's all developing. See how this is all developing so you're looking to something to soothe and this with that turns into is. The codependence is developing throughout childhood right. There's the five core symptoms of codependence. Mrs according to pm melodies work and this is i love her model because it just tra me to me. It worked in my recovery. But it's also you can apply this model to pretty much any area of life but it's Co dependences by percentages issues with self esteem. That means either too much or too little Issues with boundaries in there are no boundaries or walled off right issues with moderation and then issues with Dependency and see. This is what a lot of people think of codependent says issues with dependency but really that's just one of the five core symptoms and issues with owning one's reality and so then you take that so codependence is already brewing thirty there throughout childhood right. It goes into you start getting into adult relationships. The co dependence can show up in your adult relationships with love addiction. I say love addiction is rooted in codependence. So the codependence is already there. It's like the the garden and then they love addiction is the weeds that grows in in the garden right. yeah And you may not even notice the love addiction. Because you just think it's normal. Your behavior is normal. You know you think it's normal to be In a relationship with someone who doesn't show up the way that you ideally would like them to and it's normal to try to conform in order to be what they may or may not want you to be in order to get that like so then you go back to what. I was talking about in childhood. If i do this. Then maybe i'll get mom or dad to love me like this if i do it this way so it starts really early so it is our quote unquote normal. You know by the time. We're adults And so love. Addiction is rooted in codependence. Not everybody who struggles. Codependence is going to end up experiencing addiction But everybody who started addiction. Struggles with codependency. Isn't that true for all like let's use alcoholism. Because i think that's like one that people are maybe more familiar with but People that i know who are in a also a lot of times do codependents work because really what like alcohol is the symptom of all of that other stuff right in most addictions like if we're saying love addiction or alcoholism there's codependency behind it in. That's with yet and the behaviors to the table. And then once you get sober area stop drinking. you can address the codependency issues behind it. Exactly the way to describe it. Yeah it is so if we look at you know yes alcoholism and what's so fascinating about that is that we look at it and think. Oh if i quit drinking then everything's going to be better right and you know it. It does get better.

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05:54 min | 1 year ago

"jodi white" Discussed on Velvet's Edge

"Somebody might call high functioning where i just was cruising. I was doing great. I was kicking ass at work. I was doing all kinds of great things. Get into a relationship. Especially if they got into a relationship with someone who was avoided. I would everything would fall apart because everything became about trying to get that love. Avoid partner to pay attention to me is all i cared about. You know love me or validate mir whatever it is. I needed to cure person. So yeah i thought that's very common god. So i'd love x love avoidance always drawn to each other so if if we look at it as something that lying dormant right and this is not saying. Everyone's got you know. Everyone has a little bit of love addict or a little bit of love in them but I don't know that's not no. It's not the case because there are so addicted relationships. There's three types of co addictive relationships. You've got the love addict. Love avoidance to avoidance me together and. That's a very low intensity relationship but outside of the relationship there is intensity going on there may be affair or maybe there's some gambling or maybe there's an addiction or Maybe someone's you know spending too much money and shopping but in the relationship it seems very low intensity or works a lot like that work to interrupt but like at sometimes point that out because i've known that dynamic to in work can often be a way to keep intensity outside the relationship because your quote unquote so with work or whatever that i actually thank you for bringing that up because i think that might be if i were to make you know a guest on. This is that that might be the most common. Because it's also the most acceptable worse. You know the more you work the better you are the provider or the more you are the more our society values you'd more money you make whatever so in it's a really good weight it can be especially people in recovery. I've noticed that work can become the new addiction. Because you know what making up for lost time or getting lots validation there you know by throwing themselves into work and i actually have been guilty about that too. Yeah i had to catch myself because you will burn yourself out but then you also have to love addicts can be together to do. I can't imagine that. Oh yeah yeah. Someone told me it was in pia melodies workshop out at the meadows. They talked about Picture the couple of it's been married for fifty years and they do everything together and they dress alike. They both wear hawaiian shirts. They really fun you know like and they just cannot be apart you know. Every time them they can't make plans without each other. they can't eat different meals. They have to eat like just everything is together so it isn't that interesting because you're describing that i know people are listening and they're like oh sounds like a cute little couple you know like so. How do you know when there's a problem with the dynamic and win. it's just like because. I probably have never had a healthy relationship. I don't really know the answer to this. Right what healthy. I mean writing but but like what it how would you dictate if you just love to be with your partner or you guys are both love addicts like when when be the deciding factor in that question so i think everything is in its individual right like. Let's use the couple. That does every single thing together. They dress alike and all that if it works for them and it's not causing them a problem. A problem right but now you look at. Are they able to have relationships with other people. Because i think actually in the example i was using that i heard at some the metres workshop. They were talking about how the kids are affected in that that often times when the couple the parents are so love addicted together that their children are neglected. And so that's interesting. Yeah okay well I asked you to do. Maybe a little brief overview. Because i think people have heard the term code appliance the more frequently than love addiction like love addiction. It's finally now just coming onto the scene are it isn't my my world but Can you do a little brief description of the difference between the two. Because i am a lucky girl that has both but that's not always the case. Sure so i'm gonna reference Taher because he does such a great job and so he always his way he puts. It is it's not why the addiction it's why the pain and so if we're looking at childhood and attachment trauma right and so let's use. The example of being emotionally neglected. Not getting our emotional needs met that leads to It doesn't feel good as a child. You're it's painful and so we turn to something to help soothe ourselves and oftentimes for people who grew up to deal with love addiction. There's fantasy right. And it's i probably the fantasy of parents who was going to be nurturing and loving it only i do this then. Maybe they'll be like this. He'll love me more. They'll do what i want them to do. Behave the way to behave. But then that can develop into fantasy about another person who will come rescue them. That's very common in childhood. And i definitely did that when i was seven or eight. I started fantasizing about you know people on tv I always use my example of Erik estrada from chips. Than dr steve from starsky and hutch. I mean i really had serious. Crushes on them. And i used to fantasize about being a grown up and living in hollywood and being married to one of them. I'm what i learned later in my recovery. Was that it. Actually that fantasy wasn't about them. It was about.

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"jodi white" Discussed on Velvet's Edge

Velvet's Edge

06:34 min | 1 year ago

"jodi white" Discussed on Velvet's Edge

"It's journals of a love addicts so we did a podcast. A couple months ago was that. I can't even remember this point. It might have been last summer at the line near a blur. The pandemic feels like one big to be a very weird but true I told you you're not been talking a little bit before this. But i've been in recovery for co-dependency since two thousand thirteen in the last few years i've started to slowly ditto into love addiction. Work in the Is been so interesting. I was just telling you this. I have never found myself so hesitant to do. The work around kind of is a trauma our attachment wounds. I think that's how you describe it. Is that a typical thing that happens to people with this love addiction stuff. Yes it is. I well okay so we're talking about attachment and so yes leaders asked. Is we call trauma or attachment wounds. I i called a lot of different things because it will let me start with this. I don't like the term love addiction. I don't like the term love addict. i don't even like the term codependence you know. Because but the thing is those are terms. That are out there. And i am trained in p melodies model And so pm melody wrote codependence and she wrote the book facing eviction in those terms helped me when i got into recovery and so i call them starter. Terms that people can google that they can find books they can things that have been written about that and then they can start their own recovery. You know doing research getting lots of information with those starter terms and you can call it whatever you want. That's what i like to tell people. Call it what you want to call it really but no that is trauma. This is all attachment trauma. Yeah so what does that me. And i think we talked about this in the last podcast but do want to give people a little bit of an overview her just joining us in this one. What would attachment trauma even mean. Yeah instead of that's another term you attachment traumas also a pretty broad term because attachment trauma can happen in adult relationships with your attachment figure right as adults. We have attachment figures people that we attach with in relationships but we're talking really about childhood developmental trauma and that is actually what melody calls. Codependence is It is a developmental immaturity. And so that means is you know. Children go through stages of development and if there is wounding any of those areas there is going to be some issue with developing in those areas. So we might not mature in certain areas which then leads us to be more immature in relationships as adults so we can call them like an interruption in attachment and they can look anything peos says abuse falls into two categories which is a measurement or neglect. And so the thing about neglect is that it can be kind of invisible. In a way. We think of neglect. Actually we might think of someone who doesn't have food and shelter who doesn't have clothing and basic needs met right and that is that's extreme neglect but when we think about emotional neglect you know. That's something that can be really subtle you know and it can happen so frequently and even in loving households because parents are busy you know even if you have a two parent household working meetings running kids to soccer practice dealing with other children. You know there's a lot of reasons that children might not get be emotional nurturance that they need and can show up later in life as what was emotional neglect so bad what. We look at trauma so we look at trauma in two ways either a measurement or neglect and a lot of times in addiction. We're talking about emotional neglect Would love avoidance. We're talking oftentimes more about what was a measurement and so that is when term either it. It's like helicopter parents. You know where you're on the child your child hula-hoop all the time you know. And there's no freedom for the child really become their own person So an someone who might become more avoid later in life might feel. Love is suffocating. So they kind of push away from intimacy and what they look at as love and attachment. So you see. Does that make sense. It's totally make sense to me. I think the so interesting. I was thinking about when you're talking about the neglect piece like it's so interesting because parents could also be working through their own trauma and so it's like dealing with their you know. Life is hard as an adult of the more. The older i get the more. I'm like i mean there is constantly some issue right. And so that's hard as a parent i would imagine to consistently emotionally show up when you're also dealing as a human being with your own trauma your own shit from your childhood. You know like any of that stuff. That's right matteo talks. He doesn't really great job. I'm talking about the importance of tune mints in childhood which is basically you know when will use the example of a crying baby or crying toddler and when the parents is regulated you know they can pick up the baby and they can hold the baby and help the baby regulate if a parent is distributed. It's almost impossible to get the child to regulate and so the child doesn't sued know with the parent. Does it make sense. And so if apparent is stressed the paren- is dealing with three other children or the parents trying to rush to get to work or their second job. Maybe they're a single parent and So that a tune-in rare. You think that must be or how hard that is to do consistently. So that's why i look at you. Know have clients sometimes. Come in and say. I'm forty five years old release felt securely attached and then i got into this relationship and now i'm behaving like love addict and i don't know what's going on and it's because another thing to look at is we can go through life and not this stuff can lie. Dormant is how i look at it and it can get triggered by a particular partnership particular dynamic you know with someone who comes along and is more avoided and triggers that insecure.

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"jodi white" Discussed on WAAM Talk 1600

WAAM Talk 1600

08:41 min | 2 years ago

"jodi white" Discussed on WAAM Talk 1600

"It a tipping point major tipping point in this country on it's happened. It's just a matter of weeks. And right now I'm going to call it the three month mark, I I don't know how we take it back. I know that we need to fight tooth and nail to do so. Nobody's talking about it. Are you Very few people are talking about. You belong to a church. That doesn't talk about it. Get the hell out of that church! Get out! Right now. There's evil. It's stalking the streets. The line is stalking the streets stalking you. And you've got churches that won't talk about it. They hide behind Christ. They literally hide behind Christ. They give you some soft message about Christ, and they go on about social justice. And we have to feel the pain of others and blah, blah, But get the hell out of that church. Get out! Get out! Get out. They're not doing you any good. If you have people that you are considered to be friends and their progressives, and they're talking to you about how you need to feel the pain of inner city blah, blah, blah, you know, get it. Get it. Get away from him. Draw the line. Dr Owen. We're Americans. We're all Americans were all pink on the inside. And when people come for that they've come for the one true country inspired by the one true God. America and they're trying to destroy it. And they're going to pass a lot of getting past. You know why? Because they have black skin. I'll haven't forbid anybody would criticize somebody with black skin that's saying something stupid. Oh, my don't don't even go there. That's racist. That's how they get you to shut the hell up. Stop doing it. You've got it. You've got to speak truth to power. You've got to Our politicians are failing US clergy is failing us. Take note of that. If you don't shame on you don't don't just keep humoring somebody because you've been there for years and all of a sudden you wake up and go. Wait a minute. What He just said then, son, Right? Get the hell away from that person. Stop giving in the past the school system. What are you doing in an institution that takes your child and has taken actually generations bag of two generations gone? It takes your child and teaches them that America is a bad place. Who would do something like that? It's not America I heard back today had on what's his name from Hill still down the street here, drawing blanks in his name. He's written the Patriots history of America. I've got a copy of the books. Fantastic, Larry Schweickart. I think it is. This man is a genius, and Beck said something today that I had to laugh. I left outlaw, he said. He's the he's the Howards End of the right. I mean, if you know what he meant was it was a compliment. He's not Howard's it He is the anti Howard Seuin. Is he in the school system? No. The power's in the school system. Yes. Do the homework on both those names. Schweickart Zin do Homer, Your kid has been marinated in Zen. Got it? Not in Schweickart. Hey, maybe your kid of he she may get Ah! Ah ah! Say, a tangential a bump with it At some point in college. I had really doubted. You know Matt Clark, who usedto be here at whim. Who's now in Florida, making so much money can't see straight working for Disney crew. But anyway ah, he was a history major at U of M. That's just degree was in history. But the reason I'm telling you this Is because Matt used Teo talk about how when he was a U of M and he would talk to his professor about certain things. The professor's in his class. So the man till the woman would look at him like he was crazy, and he had one particular professor who told I've already referenced the 5000 yearly What it is. It's a book on the Federalist papers, but it's put in common. Everyday English meaning that you have you ever tried to read the Federals papers home, and it's like reading Chaucer. It's like reading. It's your eyes bleed, Man. You go. I'm not reading this crap. But But if you sort your way through it, you'll see that Ah, the forefathers who was that It was Adam's Jay and who's the other three of our forefathers said. You know what? We've got to make this palatable, understandable for the American people because they have to know how wonderful how wonderful the constitution is, and the basis of the United States of America. So we're going to write this out, so people will go along with us when we ratify the Constitution. Get it all done. That's where the salt comes out ofthe. It's an explanation for what America really is. And man is wonderment. So discussion said. I'm making this so that little kids can understand it any dead. And he did anyway. Meckler close to one of his professors and says, Why do you not incorporate the 5000 year leap into your class? He recoiled. He was, I would never teach anything from that fascist literature that that that's what are you talking about? I mean, that was the mindset that is the mindset still to this day in the university. Sure, there are one or two in there that have half a brain. And some of you actually have a whole brain. But, man, are they in the minority? Oh, man, are they Are they Mark, you're on the edge. Hang on a second. What stand in one place. Your phone's doing that waving around thing. I don't know what the deal is, but we can't understand a word You're saying Here we go. One more time. Go. Get your own. You listen, you gotta come handle and Lynn can take the call that I work in love Your man link a time for that, that that phone of yours. Whatever's going on, It's not working. Call us on landline. And I don't know Derek. What they sound like to you, but you hear him when they're on the air. Sounds like hell as a sound good to you when they're talking to on the phone, because then good over here. So when people call him they have to have a real phone Now I want to get into this. Ah! Medical news today. This is this is I can't believe I'm referencing this. This is a favorable article. What it is is it's making excuse, giving a pass for the psychotic broad. The caller Dr D'Angelo. She's a psycho. Ah, Psycho. Her name is Robin Dans le shorter book called White Fragility. And here's I wanted first Start with why they say it's problematic that you have white for Jodi White bastard, you and then we'll get into the definition of it. I'm gonna read a piece that tells you that you shouldn't be anywhere near it. You need to know what it is. But you don't stand a chance of that. Any logic driven arena off counterbalancing this? No, No, You're just guilty straight out that in fact, you might need to be punished more Get to that later. So why is it problematic? That's what this is the piece. Off of medical news today, when you see medical her medical news today, that sounds good, doesn't it? Oh, man, that that those people must know what they're talking about. I mean, after all, it's medical news, right? So they say here in the in the section of this piece, why is it problematic Talking about wait for Julie and the author says People experiencing white fragility may not be racist, but their actions, behaviors and feelings may promote racism. They use the word may As in, they might even know Oh, man there, there could be guilty of something heinous and not knowing another. It could be in their genes. The author goes on, avoiding the topic of race contributes to racism. No, it doesn't. But the author here says, by disregarding the notions of white superiority and white privilege, racism will continue to hold its place in society. Wow, since white people rarely experienced racism. They often cannot see feel or understand it. Many people of color describe having been prepared to live as a minority in a racist society by their parents. Okay enough for this B s. Now let's get that he's using some concept of racial stamina. My God, the you know, be very, very careful. Be very look at the corner of your eye Employ all of your senses and every point of your I Q. Whenever you're dealing with anybody that even Resembles even if the vestige of an intellectual, Okay? It doesn't negate anybody with a real education would be very careful of the intellectual class. Now listen to this. Here's how this article starts on everything you didn't know about what fragility. This is a post stuff of again. Something called Medical news today. That sounds legit doesn't wow. Starts out white people in the United States have protection from racial stress. Engaging in conversations about racism may trigger a range of defensive actions, Feelings and behaviors such as anger, fear in silence..

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"jodi white" Discussed on The Radio Adventures of Dr. Floyd

The Radio Adventures of Dr. Floyd

05:29 min | 3 years ago

"jodi white" Discussed on The Radio Adventures of Dr. Floyd

"Waterfall. Simply scott. Love you romantic were I love you too. Come on what to show you this cave to explore? Mr. Barrett to end up. Still. Taken enough you promise that let me get the dome. Keeping meet, my friend. He will make them then zehr loft else. The puck a liar. Call so good night to you all give me all hands. If we be friends and Robin shell restore a Ammann's. Thank you. Thank you. Settle river city community. Thank you. Thank you very much. Yes. Thank you. That's why this is new bell. He's to Dr Floyd Floyd junior. Thank you. Judge. Thank you. Bobo? On. Good idea. But it's been done before. I wanna come up with something different. How can we hang things? Wait a minute. I've got an idea. What's that? I like the idea of making sure our listeners know that our adventures continue after the series ends. So I was thinking we could. Are we going to go stop him? Of course, we are. Because I've sworn to do whatever it takes to stop doctors. And as heroes race off to that time and space ship. It's time for us to win. This episode wherein time have Dr Steven figure jumped to we'll Dr Floyd Dr grant and chips able to stop their plans. And if this is the series finale, how will we know what happens next took to all the whippersnappers out there to set their imaginations to phone and come up with their own radio adventure of. Dr floyd. Why are we stopping here? There's something I've got to do before we get Dr Steve it'll just take a second. Can you hear me? Thank goodness. Hello. I'm really sorry. That Schoeller miner's helmet. Didn't work. Flow each step aside. I'm gonna throw something down to you. It'll help you get out. Okay. I'm all clear here. It comes. Good. Thank you. Okay. We're good. Let's go to let did you throw down to him. Solar-powered extension ladder. Come on. Let's go. Working. Hello. Hello. Don solar-powered extension ladder. Episode number eight thirteen of the radio adventures of Dr Floyd starred Chuck McCain as Dr Floyd j Floyd senior, WWW dot Chuck McCann dot net, Leslie Qarara Rudolph as MRs Floyd WWW dot spunk in SAS dot com. Maura quirk as chips, WWW dot Marc work dot com, and Murph as Mr. beardie chins music for this episode by Jody white sides. WWW dot Jody Whiteside dot com. This episode was written by grants, but Joko episode number eight thirteen of the radio adventures of Dr Lloyd is copyright two thousand ten grant. But Choko and Doug price all rights reserved. The series finale of the radio adventures of Dr Floyd featured the song reunions from the album initial spank by Jodi white sides. Free and all into the woodwork. Funny out brands gift bag. Saying. You camilion? In that case it Beal's like. Duping city. On you. Rounds to mobile. You'll never new on next. Reunions by Jody white sides is available in the I tunes music store. Visit WWW dot Jody Whiteside dot com. For more information and special thanks to Jody for all his great music over the years. Say

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