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"jim daly" Discussed on Focus On the Family Daily Broadcast
"This focus on the family with Jim Daly, and we want to encourage you to get the book the help club for Moms we've got that give us a call or stop by the episode notes for details. In, Jim we're also joined here in the studio by a number of MOMS in the galleries full of MOMS as well. That's right. Welcome all the MOMS. Good. Chris, let me ask you because we've got the background on and Mary Jo, but you grew up. Kind of in a tough situation to what happened..
Join Us in Prayer for Our Nation
"To join us for the call center. I'm John. Stonestreet, this is great for. Christians should be among those most deeply concerned about the divided state of our nation left versus right mass. No mass reopened versus stay at home virtual school versus in person raised politics police abortion religious liberty not to mention the remainder of what certain to be brutal presidential campaign. The issues we face range from essential to non-essential on essential matters, we should mourn deception and vowed to fight. For the truth on non essential matters we should mourn and hope to overcome division God's people can neither stay on the sidelines nor run away from the struggle instead knowing there is no hope other than Christ. We must ask onto mercifully powerfully mobilize us is people to advance that which is true and good if Christians are to speak with clarity courage and confidence and to be the. Of Truth and love and a world of Noise Echo Chambers, then we'll need to be prepared but even perfectly crafted arguments cannot replace Shut Colson would say the church being the Church speaking cannot replace being and to be the people that God calls us to be right now, we must rely on prayer. That's why each and every Wednesday morning between all the twelfth of November, the fourth, and that's the morning after the twenty twenty election the Colson center will be hosting a national prayer time the a Webinar we want you to join US each and every week to pray first and foremost for God's mercy. But that he would revive his church that he would bring about a renewal of righteousness that he would empower us to courageously offer protection for the most vulnerable to champion reconciliation across our deepest divides and that he would. Allow us to be instruments in the sustaining of religious freedom and the recovery of the family in our nation. Each prayer time will feature a devotional challenge and a prayer by Christian leaders such as Oz Ganesh Johnny Eric's Totta focus on the family President Jim Daly Woodside Bible Pastor Chris Brooks and watermark pastor Todd Wagner as well as at Stecher from the Billy Graham Center and the Heritage Foundation President Keiko James Now due to the limited capacity of zoom there will be limited live spots each week available to everyone who registers However, each weeks recording will be sent to anyone who registers so come to breakpoint dot org for more details and Fiji's Paul tells us that we don't wrestle against flesh and blood but against the rulers, the authorities, the cosmic powers over this present darkness against the spiritual forces of evil in heavenly places when people see us their enemies, it's difficult to remember that they aren't our enemies. So what we need to do as Paul Instructs this put on the former of God Faith Truth Righteousness Peace Salvation the word of God. And he says praying at all times in the spirit with all prayer and supplication keeping alert with all perseverance making supplication for all the Saints, and the Book of acts the earliest church activity we read off is prayer thousands of people from completely different backgrounds came together in one mind one art in prayer with one accord. That's what acts chapter one, verse fourteen and Chapter Two versus forty. Two seven says than what happened with the Holy Spirit moved in the world was never the same in fact, every spiritual revolution in history. With some kind of unified persevering prayer the very first outpouring of the holy. Spirit. In acts to the great awakenings, the businessman's revival and the Welsh revival story after story, you read the same thing people prayed God's spirit moved on the other hand every Christian history who was able to persevere and righteousness. Temptation or persecution without seeing revival in their lifetime they also did that through prayer. Our prayer of course cannot force God's hand but are only way forward is to seek his will together are purse can't control God. But we can invite him to change our hearts and minds including our own gods always working in our lives whether we realize it or not. But something powerful and world changing happens when people pray for God's spirit to move. The, Great Jonathan Edwards urged his fellow pastors to quote be much in prayer and fasting both in secret and with one another it is God's will. He said that the prayers of his saints shall be great and the principal means of carrying on the designs of Christ's kingdom in the world. When God has something to accomplish for his church, it is with his will that there should precede it the extraordinary prayer of his people Paul even tells us to pray for all things at all times for sesame chapter five specifically for our leaders both spiritual and secular as what the
"jim daly" Discussed on Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey
"I think one of the things, too is that we tend to caricature each side one of the things when I started reaching out to lgbt community is they thought of every Christian being like. The WESTBORO baptist attitudes. They thought of that as Monolithic. If you're Christian, that's your attitude I said I. I don't know anybody in the Christian community like them, but them and I don't even believe you're Christian actually in their attitude, certainly, and you know that's between them and God, but the way they expressed. Faith is not what I see in scripture they were their jaws were dropped open. You know they were like seriously I said yeah, but we have the same attitude. The other direction there are some within the Lgbtq community that believe in religious liberty. It's not you know it's not a big number, but they're there and we've got to not think of them in a monolithic. Way as well so absolutely right just to get down to the nitty gritty for for one for one second. I know that there are a lot of Christians. Are. Thinking, okay, but what do I do in the specific situations to where for example you know my daughter is. She's playing soccer and she's on an all girl soccer team, but then they established the school, or the team establishes a rule that says okay well now. We can't discriminate if you know. A boy who identifies as a girl wants to play on our team or play against our. Our daughter then that has to happen or the locker room bathroom situations that I know. A lot of parents of young kids are thinking about, but they don't want to say anything because I don't WanNa. Lose their jobs. They don't want their child to be bullied so in those kinds of situations. How can Christians be obedient while also showing the fruit of the spirit like you're talking about? I think equipping your children through dialogue and in nurturing that dialogue know talk to them about how to approach those things. Do you feel uncomfortable about this? If not, that's a whole set of discussion and questions. You can ask, but if they do feel uncomfortable. Are you willing to sit down with the coach and talk about that How far would you go to expressing your belief? You know I? It's interesting. It's an excellent question because it goes to the very training of our children for when they become adults particularly how they can live their lives in a way, that exemplifies their faith in Christ and I think right now. The parenting responsibilities are so beyond just helping them to be a good student to get into college to have generally good moral character. That's kind of basic and fundamental. Now they've got to be equipped with. Communication skills debating skills that they can tear down an argument in a peaceful way with a friend that is coming at them from a different viewpoint, and that takes real skill in parenting. You've got to exhibit that yourself. You got to be able to model that for your children I. I can remember Watching Hillary Clinton at the DNC convention and I was sitting with my then fourteen year old. Who's WHO's now seventeen? Troy and we're watching the convention because it's good. It's good to sit there. He had an interest in it, so we watched it and there was A. Connection Point where he was observing the convention. In Hillary, Clinton said we need to defend a woman's right to choose in the whole place erupted and standing ovation. I think very quickly. If not just the next statement, she talked about the.
"jim daly" Discussed on News Radio 1190 KEX
"Work for you to go to relief sector dot com relief actor dot com or call eight hundred five hundred eighty three eighty four I have always believed in catching children doing right at least as often as we catch them doing wrong one of the times I did that was when my son Troy was in seventh grade we were at his older brother's high school football game my wife Jean and I were watching the game from the top of the stands Troy was behind the stands hanging out with some of his friends from school unexpectedly one of the boys started choking on a hotdog the other boys didn't realize how serious things were and started teasing him saying do don't you know how to eat what a fool when I heard the commotion I could see that the boy was in trouble but I also saw something else my centroid jumping in to help he told the other boys to back off and he did what he could to help that choking boy fortunately by the time I got to them everything was okay but man I was so proud of Troy that night I want my boys to stand up for what's right I want them to intervene on behalf of those in need I want my boys to know how to insert themselves into an ugly situation and turn it around so as soon as everything was under control I pulled her aside and reinforce the good he had done and I told them what you did was awesome way to stand up to a crowd and do what was right when you catch your child doing wrong steer them in the right direction with appropriate discipline but when you catch him doing right praise them to help your children thrive visit focus on the family dot com I'm Jim Daly.
Being a "Yes" Parent in a World of "Nos" (Part 2 of 2)
"You gotta I have an accelerator. And that's we have to ask ourselves. What's the higher purpose and that's really what we did at? What is the higher purpose of raising children? Well that's pastor mark foreman and you'll hear more from him and his wife Jan today as They talked about raising what they called. Big Picture Kids who love God and and make an impact on the world. There are guests on focus on the family and your host is focused president and author. Jim Daly thanks for joining us. I'm John Fuller. Hey John John. At last time we heard about the importance of saying Yes to our children and I try to do that sometimes. It's tough and sometimes it's hard to distinguish between you you know what's a boundary that deserves a now. And then what's a relational thing. That should be a yes and if you missed last time get the C. D. or the download and certainly get the book. Never say no. And we're going to talk more about that today with our gas but it is going to open up your parenting experience especially especially as a believer in Christ in mark is a pastor in San Diego. He and Jan have two children. Jon and Tim Foreman There in the musical musical group Switch Foot and the book that kind of forms the basis for a conversation that mark and Jan road is called. Never say no raising big picture kids at at market jam. Welcome back to feminist again. I love the conversation last time. Because I'm always thinking my in the right spot as a parent in my doing doing the right thing to help. My kids grow spiritually first and foremost and You Know Jan last time you talked about life being kind of like a deck of cards and I want to start Arthur again because we kind of went by that pretty quick. But what did you mean by that well. Every parent gets a deck of parenting cards from their your family of origin and We will automatically parent the way we were parented. So in my mind I see three piles one pile is a keeper pile l. for those great things that we want to bring into our own families but then there's always a discard pile where we have heard our mother's voice coming through US awesome. We're we're doing exactly the same things. It can be even subtle stuff but it has a different flavor but it is our mother or father coming through and we've definitely wanted discard that and do life differently. And then there's a rewrite pile where we have if we kind of want to nurture kids in that direction but we want to also do it our own way not just say your family wins. My family wins. But it's fine. The new US. What is that look like and I remember one time? We went to Mount Rushmore. And the thing that surprised us most. We're all the pictures of family reunions dressed identically. In t shirts they had some motto on the t shirt and I thought you know they were hoping their kids would play off this picture and and aspire to be great leaders but I thought the real story is going to be told by the motto on those t shirts in the same way we inherit from our families of origin mottos expressions ways of doing things. Talk these bumper sticker. A black could hang over your mantel in my family it was. What would people think and I lived under the shadow of that so? That's something very specific that I caught myself doing to my kids especially in ministry family saying I absolutely am Not GonNa care what people think I think tim is soccer. Uniform with cleats church socks. Yeah Yeah you're the pastor this trae that that make you feel well. I was raised in the church so I was fine with. You weren't apprehensive about feeling like no performance but then go ahead but just you know you can take those mottos and create a new motto and so in in our minds we could flip that around and say I want you to Eh. The Person God made you to be. Who cares what people think? I had to kind of be an iconoclast against that strong pressure that I was raised under in my family and in Mark Family we could talk about teasing is being or the motto in his. If you love someone you tease them right if you really loved him taste into tears and you know it takes a long time. I think it took me till I was forty two to figure that love language I was like Oh wow really love me Or if you really love someone you just work really hard and stay away from home working making money for the family man. That is so good mark. I'm telling you this morning I was on the Sofa. I got up early. I was on the treadmill. It's you know a new start and and And my youngest came down and we sat down over over a break not long ago I was talking about eating as many carbs herbs and maybe he should cut back on the CARBS and I apologize to him this morning saying no troy. That wasn't wise of me. Yeah you're you're you're in the right direction. You haven't even hit your full growth spurt. Yeah you know you're doing great. I had to catch myself but I needed to let them know it was wrong for me to comment. Ah Yeah that's hard to do for parents. It is it is because you're in that Rut My Dad was a you know. Post World War Two Guy So the way. You Love Your family. Is You just work hard. And then when you're when you're home you're off duty you watch football and hurt me. Yeah and so. I was looking for a dad that would interact. And we'd spend time in do stuff together and stuff and and I love my dad dearly. He's ninety he's just. We spend great times together now but it was kind of a cat's in the cradle. It'll kind of home. We'll get together then son. We're going to get together then And so when I saw myself starting to do that with my my son's At a very early age only now for God and for Ministry and Working Seventy hour work weeks a you know. I had a moment where I felt. God asked me. How will you feel if you win? Five thousand people to Heaven and lose your own children Because you're playing Harry Chapin Song and I said I'm going to reverse that song I'm going to get together with my kids now. Now not that. Yeah that's heartfelt and you know so many of us has dads. I mean we're feeling that. Yeah 'cause we're saying more next time or later. Yeah you know. We'll play catch but then you don't know how to do it. So what do I do. So I came upon a great book Doc That really saved the day. Ross Campbell's had a really love your child and he talks about a love tank. And when your child's love tank tank is full behavior. Problems are down when behavioral problems are up. Love tank is low so I wanted to know oh how to fill this. Love tank is this was going to reverse the Harry Chapin story and that was miraculous for me now. So so I discovered my boys that high touch eye contact and high time would fill their love tank. Think high time. Yeah yeah so the way I did it. When they were young was wrestling? We would wrestle half an hour to sixty minutes a day before for dinner we got was very gracious. Does give us a wife that my wife put up with a lot of sweaty bodies. The table will when they're older. It was playing soccer and football together in when later on it was playing music and surfing together and so active active. Yes spending time hanging out. Let me ask you though the the issue of failure You know again. I think one of the things that we struggle with as Christian parents is our kids failing. And hopefully if you're doing this well in the early years you're letting them experience failure so you can come alongside tried to instruct them and you use that Analogy last time about your boys right at the end of the program. Listen to music that frightened you because that's what you listen to before for. You became a Christian in somehow we've got to create an environment where failures okay. Yeah and I don't think and I for myself I mean I struggle with my my boys being able to give them that kind of space. How we recalibrate as inherent to say okay Try we do it. Incrementally I think the idea that we're going to raise our kids and then turn them loose on the world when they're twenty eight already go. Yeah that that. That's just she's not gonNa have them incrementally we increase their freedom which increases their risk of failure but it also increases their responsibility in their success. Just like taking training wheels off a bike and there's a chance chance of the child falling over
Being a "Yes" Parent in a World of "Nos"
"This is focus on the family with your host focused president and author. Jim Daly and I'm John Fuller John. Raising kids is one of the most exhilarating and humbling privileges that God gives us and here folks on the family we want to empower you. As a parent to equip your children with a lasting faith faith and the tools they need to live out that faith in a culture that doesn't really Show appreciation for us. I Love Mark and John's perspective on parenting parenting. They emphasize the importance of forming a relationship with your child instead of just addressing behavior and it's so hard for us as Christian parents to to separate those two and it's so important for us as Christian parents to realize this. We recorded this program a few years ago. And I'm so glad we're able to revisit visited today. This is the kind of content that could change your perspective on parenting and Change Your child's life for the better we'll mark and Jan foreman live in San San Diego California and they are the parents of Jon and Tim Foreman of the Grammy Award Winning Music Group Switch Foot and they've written a great book. It's called never say no raising big picture. Kids all encourage you to get a copy of that book when you click on the link in the show notes for this episode. Let me add switch foot is what we call a crossover band band and for the older folks that means their music appeals to both secular and Christian audiences. The good news. Is they do that. In order to sing about themes that speak to the hearts of all people and it is definitely Faith oriented I can say it that way they totally come at their topics from a biblical perspective. Here here now is the conversation we had with the formats as mark begins by explaining what they mean by big picture kids. I think it's captured in the word. Wonder Her So much of the life is reduction mystic where we're trying to shrink God down shrink the World Down Shrink Art music down to a little bite size sound clips and life just isn't like that and you and I aren't attracted to life like that but raising kids that it are living in a world of wonder God who created this big world That you as a child can go in any direction you can almost be in the garden of Eden and start again and find out where this adventure takes you. It's kind of interesting the way in life is more simplistic than I think we make it. I mean when you look at God he is our father and you can gain a lot of parenting insight just by seeing how God deals with you as an adult and someone who can understand the principles of parenting. But now there's GonNa be some detractors when you say never say no. I mean some of the hard core four. Yeah no boundary parenting people which I appreciate I. I'm in that camp. I try to have a good balance but never say no. This doesn't sound right. Yeah if you get stuck in monitoring behavior you have a problem in the book sounds permissive but if you transfer from behavior to relationship and there was a motto. We had in her home when there was an opportunity to be with your child. When you're there was an opportunity to do something that maybe you re too lazy to do or want to do that? We would look at each other and say never say no and so that meant get on your knees and wrestle with them it meant paddle paddle out into the ocean even though the waters frigid cold. Because your junior hire wants to be with you and so we use that to push each other into the relationship relationship of course. We're not promoting permissiveness but we are promoting a paradigm shift. That says come on. Let's fill the love tank first first before we concentrate on the yes in the nose so so it's more to be clear it's more of that engagement quality on your kids in my boys do this and you you know boys and girls both they want to spend time with daddy and spend time with Mommy. That's really the Pearl for them is being together with you and as a busy parent you gotta gotta be able to say yes. It's a great idea and I really like it. But Arthur seasons where. It's really really hard to say. Oh I'll leave all all of this project right now and play with you or spend time with you. I mean there's an idealistic sense here that some season is still love words series but I I think the idea is that if God is one big Yes for us. We just want to pay that forward to our kids whenever possible. And maybe it's and that's the idea behind. Never say they know. Maybe it's a not now but this is when but still you WanNa find that positive momentum because once you and that can also means gene finding the things you're interested in are different than the things you're kids are interested in and also capitalizing on those things I think parents are a lot like archaeologists geologists. They they they start digging in those areas where kids are giving you clues and don't young kids give you clues what they're interested in so so true and it's often something that you're not familiar with comfortable with would a place you'd prefer not to go. Oh Yeah you have a great story in the book about your boys when they were young and things that were buried in the backyard. What what was that about the elevator part story elevator part? We inherited a church. That was three grand in debt and they had heard this and they thought they could be the solution and our old seventy year old home had been owned owned by an elevator repairman. Who buried all his parts in yard buried the extra? This was a new England. Into deers. And huge thing. Small parts just gizmos. You know that they would uncover playground for boys. Yeah the there are just digging. So I said in the book we literally had a yard sale where they dug them up in from our backyard and wash them off and put price tags on. It was the Naysayer saying you know. I don't want to hurt your feelings. But there isn't a high demand for this you know and and they were doing it for a purpose and that was the point they said Gad you'll see an so neighbors and friends are driving up and seeing what was going on. And so they're ping five dollars for an elevator chain that is worthless but my kids are stacking up the money and to give the money to the church out of debt. Yeah that is. How old were they when you saw? Okay so right there. A lot of parents are saying okay. These kids are you know spiritually gifted especially I mean what what was happening there. You could see it so early that they could put two into together. I think the more you can involve your kids leads. In real life situations you know in in have conversations include them in when people come over around the dinner table little ears are always listening and to take their their ideas seriously and we just did our lips when they had this lawn sale and I think in the lessons learned more important even than the money that they they counted that their voice counted their ideas counted. They could be a part of the change agents. Yeah was the big take home. Yep We're leaning into culture we can change things
"jim daly" Discussed on Unashamed with Phil Robertson
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"jim daly" Discussed on Focus On the Family Daily Broadcast
"Jim Daly I'm John Fuller and welcome to our broadcast. Confrontation is is one of those things that most people including Christians try hard to avoid. It's just hard to confront somebody it makes us uneasy and its associated who was such negative emotions. It doesn't feel good to do it and it can be intimidating. Those are the basics but even with all that the Bible is full of examples of people people that had to deal with conflict and confront others and that gives us hope that with God's help I'd say for the most part with God's help confrontation. Doesn't you have to be such a scary thing here focus on the family we want to help you thrive in all areas of your life and that includes your marriage parenting in parenting hurting has a little bit of conflict. Doesn't it does from time to time. Maybe but that's our goal here practicing healthy conflict and communication education is a big part of reaching that <hes> yeah in our guest is going to help us better handle all of that navigate the issues and dipper PA- gay has been with us before she always gets strong response from you our listeners and she is a certified behavioral consultant a Bible Teacher Popular Speaker in the author of numerous this books including one that really ties into today's topic confronting without offending positive and practical steps to resolving conflict Deborah Britt welcome back to focus. I'm delighted to be here today. Thank you for having me love you. You just bring so much great wisdom and energy and excitement. Thank you thank you you know ah just <hes> for the listeners to know you a little bit better. You were a senior vice president of a major company correct. I was vice president of M._C._i.. Universal Studios Yeah that must have interesting well it was it was venture capital division and we started new companies a very high risk venture. That's Cran. It was 'cause you enjoy. I loved. It was my second best job about the times when I'm doing now. It's my first when it comes to confronting people. You probably had to do that quite often a lot. It's a great topic to talk about in this a great word not just tell everybody. Let's just take a deep breadth make friends with the word of it. Let's just make what we understand. Confrontation is. Can we just do that. Tone confrontation is really just the act of coming coming together face to face in fact. That's what the word means con means with fraud means space with base which is coming together face to face the that's it. We're just trying to get unity eighty. Well let me ask the next basic question. Why is confrontation so hard to do? It's hard because we don't know what the person is going to how the person is going to respond bond but most people don't like the risk of maybe being alienated because I don't know if I tell you jim that really is the wrong color sweater for you because I wouldn't say that of course we'll get into the princess. Most people don't like it because most people just don't like that risk. I was studying this the other night the risk of being alone so if I tell ultimately that's the core fear and I'm afraid that if I tell you something you've got to reject me and now I'm going to be out of fellowship with you and I don't like that that fear of being alone is just very core some listening right right now might be saying some people have an appetite for confrontation. You don't WanNa do that either do you. You don't WanNa really tell me whether it's not the stark assists of the word and I tapped invest more and you before I could do that anyway but most people see my husband thinks I like wait a second now. We're going to marriage counseling you know he thinks I like I confronting an issue because I know that it's going to achieve unity so I always like to say the confrontation is the bridge to unity because most people who offend us don't know that they have so if I can come together face to face with you now we can be back on the same page and that's where God is going to command the blessing. I always like to say that I like that. I think one of the the management themes I like to play here focus on the families. Don't let things sit in dark under the table. Get it up on the table so the Lord can help you deal with if you remember that the only things that take root are things underneath the surface so I root of bitterness could develop if you put things on the table well. I want to get to a practical story. That was in your book talking about your her husband. Actually we're trying to I think work something out. Maybe remodel is his Home Office. Described the events of that day. I was just so excited to do it and it was a busy time for me but I took the time to go and buy a special piece of glass and I put it on his desk and I couldn't wait for him to know that he had additional space now to work he he drove up into the garage and he was sitting in the clock forty five minutes four point in the house. I'm thinking who in the world is he talking to an in the car. Why don't you just come in the house and finish we have no secrets like baton rouge that so he came in the house and I said what what was going on out there? That's see that's really started but that's the way most of us would start when we say why Liane why in the world. I should've said that was their problem sweetheart. I'm glad you're home. See I gotTa have the Sandwich Approach. I need some affirmation I but why jump right into it because anytime you start with why why now the person is on the defensive okay so say it again with a better way is to the sandwich approach right. I have red meet bread okay so is there an affirmation positive. The meat is the issue. It's going to be wheat bread then. If it's positive ah yes I think I need to be more firming before I jump into the problem and then I need to close about being affirming I should've said sweetheart was their problem and that's not I could to set asking the question and that's the key learn to ask the right question in a positive non accusatory way now. Does that methodology work all the time. Is that the kind of standard way well you should. That's a standard way and there's a precedent set in the Bible when God confronted Adam and Eve yeah where are you. What have you done? I think when I was thinking of the person that's aggressively wanting to confront there may be a difference between retaliation and confrontation so described the the difference. Some people want to retaliate alliot well and when I teach these principles say. What are you what you know? Jesus said to turn the other cheek. So why are you talking about confronting people listen. There's a difference between retaliation TATION confrontation again is coming together face to face. Retaliation is returning the punishment okay now. That's different for an eye. Yeah so that's that's not godly but confrontation is that's why the Bible says if your brother Trespass against you go and tell him his fault that's Matthew Eighteen fifteen. If your brother trespasses I suggest you go and tell him his you go and tell him his spot right. So is there more to your husband's stories. Remind starting to ever this okay hey so he walked into the House and he said you know and I had been telling him. You gotta be more involved in people and listen to their stories because you know sometimes I'll listen to you can like you need to just put that up. You know so. You're coaching them well but see he was doing what I ask them to do. He had a relative who was in distress and he wanted to sit in the car and minister to her and it took a while so I didn't know that I'm just wanting. Who's he talking to me in the car in the garage. Why five minutes I can get back to my writing. Just come on and get back to what I'm doing but we all relate it ended well and when he told me what he was doing it makes sense because again so the principal there. I should have sought I understand how do you how do you have the presence of mind to take the breath and not well finally your home. Yeah kind of joining me today so nice of you. How do you take the breath and just prevent yourself from from going down that you just do it. You take the breath. I like what you just said you take the breath you just take a deep breath and you say okay. Everything works together but my that's my fallback scripture. Everything's things working together for my good. God has covered. He's not up to anything. He's a good man. He may be not responding in a way he should have. He should've just come in at least wait a whatever but you just just do it because the Holy Spirit helps you temperatures you. That's why I always like to say. Temperance is a fruit of the spirit. You can temper your worse. You can temple your tongue you. You really can some shaking their heads. No I can see them through the radio right now. Podcast you decide to let me ask you this in your book confronting without offending pending you identify four core styles so let's name them and give us a brief description of each okay. Well I as the dictator this as you do it my way we confront don't be thinking of my way and the interesting thing is there's always a time and a place where you want so they're not either good or bad. It just depends on the situation because if you have someone one in your household. Let's say bringing drugs into the house. That's not the time to try to seek first to understand. That's time to say stop it. You do yeah you need to be a dictator and then the other one is the <music> advocating they run away. They don't say what's wrong. They just go quiet. They don't say that what's at the core of that for those that are struggling with confrontation that say that's me me on the advocate. What what why is that is fear of confronting. Sometimes it's an attempt to get attention. You Know How children's Sulk and they'll just say. I'm not gonNA say anything or your wife will suck or oh. You suck say what's wrong with you. And what do you say well. Every you know and you need to be able to say when you did this. I felt this way and that's it so that's that's interesting though for those that might suffer in that area that you're looking for attention you got to recognize that yes and you as the person who needs to confront that you don't need to cater to that it because you teach teach people by what you tolerate so if you teach me that the way to get my attention is to Sauk then that's going to be my model from now. I'm GonNa pout because that's going to get your attention now. You can let me give you an example. I was in the house. One night and I told my husband has said man. I wish I had my briefcase on my car is like. Do you want that briefcase out of the they are not be indirect like that. Why don't you just say get the briefcase. Out of the car was true but that could be a fun way of getting to that question this manipulative that's true. I was being manipulative. You know in a way that I wasn't aware of and I love this whole process. It's kind of like a dance. You know and I need to be able to say what's bothering offering me. That's the key I need to be able to say your behaviors having a negative impact on me but I need to give you the benefit of the doubt right this. You probably not intentionally trying to hurt me so we have the dictator cater the collaborate but the ones who come together and that were collaborating you see to co Labor. We need to learn how to work together to says look. I understand you have an e but I haven't need. Also let's work together. That's what the collaborators and that's probably the best one. That's the goal but you also have the accommodator accommodate now. That's where a lot of Christians are. We keep quiet for peace sick. That's not in the Bible. You know that's not in the Bible right. I think there is I think inferences. If you look at the fruit of the spirit you could probably probably infer the keeping quiet. Sometimes is the right thing to do. It's the right thing to do but it's not the right thing to do. When you in conflict okay now it's not unique to be able to put it on the table. I love how you set the tone at the beginning you said don't put it under the table. That's right well. Let's let's just say what's out there. I don't need to keep quiet for peace because I send my anger underground and I believe that's what resentment Zenit as this just a rescinding your anger underground. You need to keep it on the table. You know so often these areas that we're talking about can be you know suggested suggested by the world as well. These are good principles to live by so as Christians. What are the scriptural references I think in the book you Talk About Three Core Principles. You've alluded to confront okay the first words Matthew Eighteen fifteen. If your brother Trespass against you go and tell them his spot but that's when you somebody has offended did you but there's also a time when you have offended somebody and that's in Matthew Five twenty three and it says if you at the alter your offering your gift and you remember that somebody somebody has something against you he says just stop it right there and go and be reconciled that means you notice that somebody has something against you and they may not have said it but you feel that emotional distance since and you need.
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"Hi I'm scientific American podcast editor Steve Mirsky. Here's a short piece from the July two thousand nineteen issue of the magazine in the section called advances dispatches from the frontiers of science technology and medicine. In the article was titled Quick Hits And it's a rundown of some science and technology stories from around the globe compiled by editorial contributor. Jim Daly from Guatemala archaeologists unearthed the largest known Mayan figurine. CORRINE factory the more than one thousand year old workshop mass produced intricate statues that were likely used in diplomacy as gifts to allies from Nepal researchers confirm the nation's first recorded. Tornado which occurred during devastating storm in March the team relied on satellite imagery and posts on social media to make the identification from Antarctica Emperor Penguins have abandoned one of their biggest breeding colonies. Colonies possibly because of sea ice loss biologists found that the population which reached about twenty five thousand breeding pairs of birds in two thousand ten collapsed in two thousand sixteen and has not rebounded since. From China the large high altitude air shower observatory on the eastern edge of the Tibetan plateau began operating in April located some forty four hundred meters above sea level the observatory will study high energy energy cosmic rays from Australia. The government announced it will not regulate gene editing technology provided it does not introduce new genetic material to target sites in the genome editing human.
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"Donna grew up in a dysfunctional home where no one ever said I love you but then she found healing for her own family. God has US focus on family to truly blessed me away from a life if that was devastatingly harsh. I'm Jim Daly. Imagine how many more hurting people God can rescue through your support. Please call eight hundred the letter a in the word family <music> my sister's a black sheep in our family. She was raised a Christian but gave it all up one day. We don't really talk about Jamie anymore. I mean we still pray for but it's hard to have hope it broke my the parents hardouin Dave left. He was always in trouble doing drugs stealing you name it. We don't even know where he is right now. We'll maybe you.
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"Roussin is a single mom of nine children but thankfully she had some encouragement along the way focus on the family helped me through a very difficult time i had a teenage boy raised by myself i had several calls for counseling swing in helping him i'm jim daly imagine how many more hurting parents got ten help through your support of focus on the family today please call eight hundred eight family the number one thing that we tried a model these things for our kids because kind mothers and fathers rate ten kids but it's not an overnight thing that's courtney defillo describing a pretty common conundrum for parents teach their kids it's important character values while relive those out in her own life you might know about that challenge welcome to focus on the family you're host is focused president and author jim daly and i'm john fuller john i'm sure i would from time to time with the boys but i think overall kindness was never a real problem from ethic patience is worse you're lack of kindness usually comes out when you like patient but raising children can bring out the worst in us sometimes in we need the lord's help to do the job well an i thoroughly enjoyed my role is a dead the trenton troy you were kind of coming to the end of that critical big phase of independent school a one is already on his way into college and.
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"Hi, I'm scientific American podcast editor, Steve Mirsky. And here's the short piece from the June two thousand nineteen issue of the magazine in the section called advances dispatches from the frontiers of science, technology and medicine. The article is titled quick hits, and it's a rundown of some science and technology stories for round, the globe compiled by editorial contributor, Jim Daly from Canada. Archaeologists have now confirmed that Toronto service Rex skeleton found in the nineteen nineties at a fossil site in Saskatchewan is the biggest and heaviest on record at nearly forty two feet long almost twenty thousand pounds. Scotty as it's called surpassed the record set by the famous sued t Rex which was found in South Dakota in nineteen ninety from Argentina are gala GIS identified a site, where ancient humans killed and butchered giant ground sloths, mega theory, American. Madam in the pampas region in eastern Argentina, the find provides evidence that Uman's contributed to the sloths extinction from Kenya. A science teacher who won the two thousand nineteen global teacher prize announced he intends to donate, the one million dollar award to benefit society, Peter to Beechy a Franciscan friar mentors, a science club that came in, I in its category in the two thousand eighteen Kenya's science and engineering fair from the autonomous island of Anjouan in the union of the Cymru's, that's in the Indian Ocean between the east coast of Africa, and the northwest end of Madagascar geochemists at Columbia University, found a load of court site, a metamorphosed rock formed from sandstone on the island of Andrea on the island is volcanic, and had been thought to contain only Ignace rocks. And from North Korea physicists at Kimmel sung universe. City in Pyongyang have brokered a rare green to collaborate with Italy's international school for advanced studies in Trieste, the North Koreans will study, computational neuroscience with talion physicists that was quick hits by Jim Daly.
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"Four in MLS consumeraccess dot org. There's an old saying that describes a human weakness that's common to all of us. Power corrupts, an absolute power corrupts. Absolutely. That means the more power and influence, you have over others, the greater the temptation to misuse, it political corruption is a great example of what I'm talking about from community leaders to presidents. We can all think politicians who abused their power. But the political scene is only one example any of us can fall prey to the seductive nature of power, regardless of how much or how little we have the problem is this if you can do something why wouldn't you think about that? If you had the power to do anything you wanted. What would stop you even if you're goal at the beginning is to do good the temptation to take selfish roots? We'll also present itself. What then what will you rely on to handle the power you have over other people? If your answer is nothing, then you've given career. Option away to sneak in two wheel any amount of power nobly. You need a moral compass truth and morality or not outdated. No, not everything is black and white. I get that. But right and wrong are nearly as fuzzy as our culture makes it out to be one of the most fundamental questions in any society is this how much power can you entrust to a person the answer is only as much as he or she can handle without giving into the temptations that come with it for focus on the family. I'm Jim Daly thinking of selling your home. My rocket listing is the fastest easiest way to sell your home. Without all the hassles. Maximum convenience or maximum value..
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"Hi, I'm scientific American podcast editor Steve Mirsky. And here's a short piece from the April two thousand nineteen issue of the magazine in the section called advances dispatches from the frontiers of science technology and medicine the articles titled quick hits, and it's a rundown of some science and technology stories from around the globe compiled by editorial contributor Jim Daly from Greenland. Scientists have found the massive ice sheet covering Greenland is melting about four times faster than it was in two thousand three the gigantic hung of ice could become a major contributor to sea level rise in coming decades from Hawaii a fourteen year old Hawaiian snail named George believed to be the last of its species has died the archipelago's population of land snails, which was once incredibly diverse has substantially declined with perhaps seventy five percent of more than seven hundred fifty species now gone from guy. Hannah the guy in these government signed an agreement with the European Union to curb illegal logging improved forest management and expand the South American nation's legal timber industry, which exports to the EU from Australia. Overuse of water from the Murray, darling. River systems sparked a massive die off of fish in the down under state of New South Wales. An estimated one hundred thousand to one million fish suffocated because the river levels were too low to flush out farm runoff, this lead to algal blooms that resulted in bacterial proliferation, which caused a drop of oxygen from Liberia health officials announced that they found the Abol lavar is in a bat in west Africa for the first time previously had been found only in bats in central Africa. The discovery could help reveal how the virus jumps to humans. And from Northern Ireland bacteria in a soil sample effectively halted the growth of four types of antibiotic resistant superbugs, including methicillin resistant, staphylococcus aureus, better known as Mersa. Researchers say the discovery is an important step in the battle against such resistant bacteria that was quick hits. By Jim Daly.
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"Hi, this is Jim Daly with focus on the family at age thirteen while surfing off the shores of a Hawaii Bethany was attacked by a fourteen foot. Tiger shark her left. Arm was severed below the shoulder. She lost more than half her blood, and in the days that followed she endured numerous surgeries Bethany was fortunate to have survived and everyone assumed her hopes of becoming a professional surfer were over. Even Bethany initially seemed resigned to the reality that she'd lost her arm and with it one of her greatest passions. It was a bleak picture, and you can understand if Bethany felt overwhelmed with dismay, which makes her choice not to give into the negativity. All the more remarkable with the help of her faith Bethany overcame insurmountable odds and was back on a surfboard less than a month after the attack country music star Carrie. Underwood one of the cast members of the movie based on Bethany his life said Bethany didn't say why me she said what for what can I do with this since the accident Bethany has been a role model to teenagers across the globe. And frankly, a good lesson for all of us when our greatest weakness is embraced. It can become one of our greatest strengths to help your family thrive. Go to focus on the family dot com. I'm Jim Daly. The last thing you need when you're weeding. The garden is to accidentally put your hand in a well-placed dog. That's why you got to build a planter box. And if you're building a planter box, you have to go to Mr. plywood, they have all the screws tools in would you need to put those plants in a place that spot can't defile them. Seventy six in southeast Mr..
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"World already gets a free ride on American innovation and medicines. The right answer is more competition. Not imported socialist pricing schemes tell President Trump to fight for America and a better deal. Visit protect my part B dot org. Paid for by Americans for tax reform as a parent is it important for you to do everything. Right. Well, how about giving yourself a break. It's your mistakes, not your perfection that will likely create life's greatest memories. Hi, this is Jim Daly with focus on the family, a colleague once told me of the best birthday cake he ever had. But it wasn't for the reason you might expect the special cake was first thirteenth birthday his mother normally an excellent cook forgotten important ingredient on this special occasion. When the case came out of the oven. It was already starting to crack by the time. It was covered in icing, a one inch gap. It split the keg down the center all the way from the top to the bottom. His mother was upset in just a few hours, family and friends would be gathering for the party and her special cake had a Grand Canyon carved through the middle. She thought she'd ruined her son's birthday instead. That cake set a tone of fun and laughter for the evening. But what's more? It became a wonderful memory. The family is cherished ever since we all try to make life as wonderful as possible for our kids and certainly excellence is a worthy goal. But you don't have to be perfect for your kids to have a good childhood. In fact, if you relax a little the stuff that doesn't go so well can become some of your family's greatest memories to help your family thrive. Go to focus on the family dot com. I'm Jim Daly,.
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"AMD. And now back to the planning for prosperity show with your host, John and Jim Daly from Madison wealth managers. Welcome back to the prosperity show. John and Jim Daly. We're going to be wrapping up this segment GM and listening audience a little bit of a feel for what they're me listening to for this last segment, and then we'll come back in and kind of recap. Yeah. This chapter kind of covers some of the low volatility doesn't always mean low return type topics also talks about bonds viewed as less risky than equities and myself. That's not always the case, which if you listen to the show last week, John explained why you know, there's different factors that you need to kind of consider their interest rates the risk of who's actually writing the bond so different. Information there that you're going to pick up? And then it also says, you know, bonds may include risk at this point just because things are. Fry people people bonds as safety. So we're gonna let listen to this last piece of investment fundamentals. There aren't coming in his wrap up the show. So stay tuned stock market index. A stock market index is way to measure, the value and performance of a specific area of the market and cannot be invested indirectly. The following is a short list of some indices used S and P five hundred standard and Poors index is used as a benchmark for mutual funds and exchange traded funds. It includes five hundred large cap US companies Dow Jones industrial average, according to the financial industry regulatory industry FINRA. This is the most cited benchmark in track thirty stocks of large well-known companies Russell two thousand tracks two thousand small cap stocks. Lipper funds index. These indices track different categories of socks like value and growth, according to MorningStar. There are fifty two thousand indices in total covering different areas of the market indices include coverage of domestic and international equities global developed and emerging equity markets industry sectors in US in global fixed income markets, for instance, a national index measures the stock market of a particular country while another index may measure a certain industry like biotechnology. Active funds versus index funds. Active also called active investing refers to a portfolio management strategy where the manager makes specific investments with the goal of outperforming an investment benchmark index. Index an index fund is a basket of securities. However, unlike actively managed mutual funds the securities in an index fund are not actively added or removed by manager each mutual fund is different in its makeup and philosophy. There are two main types of mutual funds. Open end mutual funds, which redeem or buy back outstanding shares at any time upon the shareholders request based on the current value of the fund's assets and closed end mutual funds, which issue a fixed number of shares traits similarly to stocks enter typically listed on an exchange as with any investment decision. It is important to consider a number of factors before making an investment in a mutual fund. Not only should you consider the risks and objectives of the fund and match them to your own goals and risk tolerance. But you should also understand the costs associated with your investment, some key factors to consider including mutual funds investment strategy risk profile investment performance. Since asked performance doesn't guarantee future results in relationship to your overall asset allocation strategy and investment time horizon. These in expenses have an impact on the fund's investment returns are important factors as well. All mutual funds, including no load funds incur transaction costs expenses in other fees that are passed through by the mutual fund and ultimately paid by the fund shareholders. Generally, this information is referred to any fund prospectus or in other information as may be requested or obtained from the fund such as the funds statement of additional information SAI. We usual funds are offered by prospectus only..
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"And your host is focus on the family president and author jim daly joe we have two wonderful guests here who can share some simple but very intentional ideas about how to revitalize our marriages and i really look forward to diving into those practical helps because we all need them you know we can get into these routines like you said and form some bad habits and today less and leslie parrott will help us get out of those ruts they are the authors of a book called making happy the art and science of a happy marriage less as a clinical psychologist and professor at north west university his wife leslie is a marriage and family therapist and together they're the founders of the center for healthy relationships on the campus of olive at university let's go ahead and listen in now to that conversation your dad and dr dobson did a program many many years ago right here on focus on the family about that and the archives is it part of your dna to talk about the must be i didn't even think about that dad wrote a book years ago but the habit of happiness and i remember that i was a kid and yeah i think i grew up in a home where there's something about trying to figure out this puzzle in the christian life of happiness what is it and especially for less than me in our work when it comes to marriage what is it that makes a couple of happy because we all want that you ask anybody a why are you getting married oh because we're in love what do you want most idea marriage a we just wanna be happy right what do you want most for your kids oh i just want my kids to be happy whatever they do you know we all are in this pursuit of happiness what does that mean to our lives and that's really what caused us to write this book now right out of the gate i need to press on this because for me i'm always kind of discounting happiness because for me i believe joys the greater goal in more in the deeper goal for the christian faith sound like a real downer i'm joy joyful against happiness joy i'm joyful person but is there a distinction between being joyful and being happy and i love that question because really we don't want anything that is selfish and happiness you know the the models of pursuit of happiness that we see so often look exact like that models of selfishness and that's not at all what we're talking in fact what we found in our own research was there's two kinds big buckets of happiness in one is what we call feelgood happiness and that's momentary happiness that comes about as a result of all kinds of pleasures ah great desert you know that's feel good happiness a boulevards cream whatever and then there's value based happiness and that's happiness that comes about because of.
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"Walk twice a day every day harvey grabs to canes and circles the block that's been home for sixty nine years the trouble is harvey can't walk as far as he used to he's ninety three years old in world war two he was a spunky twentysomething harvey is still pretty spunky but he doesn't have the strength he wants did so from time to time he likes to stop and catch his breath neighbors like tom and melanie used to see harvey stop by their home lean against their shade tree then one day harvey came by tom and melanie's and discovered a lawn chair waiting for them pretty soon other neighbors started putting chairs in their front yards somewhat even set out cookies and lemonade on hot summer days and sit down with them for a chat the neighbors love and hospitality toward harvey has helped him through some difficult times his beloved wife patricia had to be moved to an assisted living facility and a short time later she died harvey's daily walks weren't only good for his heart they were also good for his soul he says my neighbors no i'm alone so they offer me companionship i'm very well taken care of at ninety three harvey is still strong and independent but he's humble enough to know that sometimes we all need someone who will pull up a chair and just chat for focus on the family i'm jim daly the player and wow what a charleston well fifty twelve t m meet the all new simplisafe home security system engineered with.
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"Not the port if the port was opened a longer it would reduce the amount of traffic five twenty six and twenty six interchange and thank you forgive me time to bring that up wayne i appreciate you calling him buddy thank you very much you got a great day youtube pal at seven twenty six at the big talker wto thinking lessons absolutely free every day on twelve fifty wt the big talker there's a reason we're called human beings not human doings sadly the majority of us don't know the difference this is jim daly with focus on the family most of us when we're asked to tell a little about ourselves answer not by describing who we are but by explaining what we do and that's not really a surprise it's a mindset ingrained into us throughout life the truth is our identity is wrapped up in who we are not just what we do defining us only by what we do is like examining our reflection in a broken mirror to see what we look like at best our perception is distorted for example if we allow our failures to define who we are then we'll feel insignificant and defining ourselves by our success can be just as troublesome by that measure were only as valuable as our most recent accomplishment certainly the things we do have meaning and they can give us in site into ourselves but there is more to us than that our identity is not merely the sum total of what we've done.