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"jillian" Discussed on Dr. Drew Podcast
"Were you know chatting with them as much as you chatting with other populations But i do urge everybody to ask questions get ally right you want to be an ally house can be alex up really understanding what they're what they're dealing with and what other people's experiences are and i'm truly curious i mean i really want to know so it's being an allied. It's being curious it's being understand. It's understanding the world around us. You know let me mention my daughter. And i read a book. That's coming out right around now. All right gary. It might even be available for links called. It doesn't have to be awkward and we designed it. Yeah we designed these kinds of topics. my excellent writer and did a great job with us and she's way more woke than i am. Which is why. I needed somebody like her in with me. I'm still you know burdened by my own upbringing and place in history and whatnot. And i'm i'm well aware of it and i want to do better And and we need new language by the way for that we use an amateur language. It's just it's just a fact and we all it's our job to like pay pay pay attention or asking and it's called. Doesn't it be awkward. But we really designed it for like fifteen to nineteen year olds and their parents to talk. Be able to talk about these issues. The landscape for these issues a way to talk about. And as i'm thinking about talking to kaitlin you know i would apply those principles and talking to her just like. How can it be an ally. i understand better. How can i be less restricted by my own experience in my own upbringing and place history. And you know all that. That's that's you know. I i feel about this. We're getting did not expect. But but but. But i i I've said this many times on the show. But frederick douglass really really made the scales fall from my eyes reading his words a those. You know you must know. He's a great american from the post pre and post civil war era yes An african american former slave really an order like crazy as orations their poetry their biblical. They're unbelievable and it made the scales off my is seeing his perspective and and he used the word white white supremacy us that were really as essentially describing what we're talking about which is not seeing other people's point of view and i'm happy to use that term unfortunately people bristle at that term because they amine skinheads and means all kinds of crazy things as are either. We need to get over that language. That's addresses what it is. We're talking about the optics on how we view the population at large really all. It is pay attention. it's all yours and care. you gotta care. Maybe we could do better on that. Yes yes and. I hope that on cheating when love lies people come away thinking that they've learned something. They've been helped. They feel less guilt and shame. Because you realize you're not alone. Oh you know what. I kind of felt that way about this guy at my office or i had an emotional fair and i'm not the only one or you know i'm thinking about having an affair and i don't know what to do. What will the repercussions you hear these stories from people who share what happened to them. And you're right oftentimes it. It doesn't end so well and jillian would argue that. What you're doing is a public health. thank you a message and let me explain why and we should have done this. During covert and the fact that we didn't is absolutely breathtaking to me. Which is that people. Learn from narratives about relatable people like they're like me yes and and the consequences of their choices. When i go to medical went to medical school we learn from cases. It's experiential learning humans learn efficiently from cases number one and number. Two people don't adjust their behavior with information. We can learn all. We learned this during the hiv and aids epidemic. We've had everybody just juiced up on the information and they still didn't change their behavior until we did. What you're doing. We love line. was that we. We listened a little houses. And you're doing the same thing. And it's a topic that i think is is extremely relevant for now and please do explore the repercussions of their choices throughout their family systems and whoever else are affected by their choices because that will then help the people that are listening to accommodate their own decision making and to be in a better position to make healthy choices one way or the other. It's up to them as you were saying at the beginning you do. I have listener call ins and stuff as we progress. I do know the ending to some of these stories. I started with remember. I started this a year ago so now people are having affairs or involved in affairs. Now it's a year later. So i do know what happened. And in most cases it doesn't end so well and so doesn't always not always but more often than not there is some sort of you know negative consequences whether it's for the couple or for the children or the family or for yes that's right and let people draw draw from those stories Information that they can adapt to their own decision making and and make their own choices. But but i trust me It has a dramatic effect on people's behavior Which is what from public. Halston wanted to again. Why we didn't do this. Cova just fucking blows my. But i did. I started in kobe. And i just didn't get on the air until now. No one i mean we. We didn't we should be telling stories. Yes about people who didn't get a vaccine and just just not. Oh my god. they're terrible. It's like hey what happened. You take the vaccine choice and you didn't take it. Oh my god and you didn't end up but got your husband up in the. Icu doesn't seem like such good choice was that's it. Don't pass judgement. And then people will draw their own conclusion. Yes oh you do it. In some of my stories there some times there are favorable endings away from this woman. She was a horrible wretched narcissist. Hate her got away from her. Now i'm happy. And i have a new wife and children with somebody else. Those stories exist as well. But you're totally right. I am because. I'm not like you an expert or a psychologist. I just want to hear the story not judge. Do not give you advice. We're just going to have a conversation about what happened to you. I think it's great. And i thank you for doing it and i'm sure it will. There's endless material. There is the is the source of most dramas these kinds of relationships for drama. You know the core issue in just about every drama. You can ever watch so again. It is jillian hamilton j. i l. l. a. n. hamilton dot online cheating when love lies villa. Podcast one anywhere else..
"jillian" Discussed on Dr. Drew Podcast
"Settled down. They they can. They usually stop in fact if somebody's properly treated well he's funny because he said yeah. I don't do this anymore. And i said well. Why do you think you've changed. He's like well. I'm pushing sixty i. Can't you know he was like. I just can't perform like i used to. And so in his mind. He can't sorry i wonder i would ask him. Pointedly about You know how he doesn't get attracted to other addicts alcoholics. I think he might be too by the way sort of an addict quality tall this and whether he's had any recovery and with his treatment and that's usually the case because people that engage in. These behaviors are so destructive. Oh my god they bring just destruction down on everybody. And they feel lots of guilt and shame about it when they're doing it That's you know again unless they're completely psychopathic and they don't care that that does happen to. Yeah there's a lot of guilt shame. No there's a lot of guilt and shame. Yeah when you get caught but as long as you're doing it and not getting caught your living in a thrill your living in fantasy and you just feel like you're going to get away with it i. I'm not sure that's true because it's so close to drug addiction. That of course they keep using they don't worry about it when they're using but they have deep guilt and shame it's just not on the surface and they often and they often are able to connect the dots to the person they hated in their childhood. Who gauging the same savior. How often sort of their and. That's one of the reasons that fuels the guilt and shame. Interesting interesting it's just it's just you know. We're very very predictable as human beings. Just like any other primate system. You can you can just look at copley. There's a lot of variations on the same or complicated socially but were you know you can easily sort of understand what we're up to If you if you study at deeply you're gonna you're gonna get exposed all of this and it's and it and i'm not saying that everyone is treated psychopath logical. I'm not saying that. I'm talking about this kind of pattern. You were just talking about stream and then you know you've got something on your hands in terms of the fact that something like visit with highs. Fifty percent of people cheat is at about the number marriages. Yes even more energy because when that number difficult because how do you define cheating so it's really hard. i. I'm skeptical about the numbers in that regard because too too high. I think it's too low motion cheating. Throw that in there in there. You know the story that gave you earlier. The guy with the song is each eating. Let's talk about that. Yeah because because i i don't know i it's almost like his has anybody who's been married for a long time Had a friendship where they think themselves in my life. My husband like this where you've got to feel that yes and yet you kind of file it under. Oh well you know that's gotta be close to everybody. That's my point and i think that's why i think that's why i have. You know quite a few guests and betrayed partners in cheaters. Willing to speak. Because they're saying it's just so prevalent seed in my office. I see you know when people were going to the office and definitely online. I mean their entire communities of people sharing information shit whether it's On a personal level business level you have so much access to other people and you don't start. I'm starting to wonder if it's not maybe good in the sense that people need friendships and they need relationships outside of their prime relation they just can't they have to hold a very careful boundary with it. Not sure people are used to doing that or understanding where the boundaries need to be exactly because it only takes one of the two people to give a little. You know sex sexy comment you know. Hey you look really hot on zoom or whatever it could be and then suddenly. The relationship has turned the corner. You know. you're you're in you go back until you. I've hey the guy that. I was dogging zooming with told me how hot i looked. No you're gonna hide it and suddenly than you hide the next thing that she says or he says and suddenly you have this whole sort of like secret relationship going on and it becomes a slippery slippery slope. It is a slippery slope. Do do you have advice for people that are in that kind of slippery place and how to keep it in a a healthier place where it is really just a friendship that's kind of intimate and doesn't diminish your primary relationship now zero. You have to go cold turkey. I don't have advice. And i don't give advice because i i would send them to you because you know you have the expertise to know. I'm not really position to tell someone who'd be in that vulnerable position. Give them advice about their relationship. I mean that's a very hefty load to carry. I'm really there to ask questions. Yeah i get it. And that's an important function. i totally understand boundary. That's good you're maintaining that boundary from from my perspective. I think what i would tell. People is get it. Take a good look your primary relationship and understand why you have emotional needs and whether you can get those emotions met from your spouse or your partner and if you can't you know why is that what you want to do with that and is it is candidate. Be a lot of things can't be treated right. That's just the nature of the two people involved. And then if you feel that you have to have a friendship outside man you gotta you gotta make sure that if that friendship gets into the sexual territory you you can't let it keep going there. You gotta pull it back you have to do is you're done. We need when you're gonna go. You're going to go that way. But what do you do when it feels good. You know it's nice to have that confidence the point. You can't indulge yourself if you wanna sustain that primary relationship started indulging yourself. Yeah in the literature is very clear on this. You diminish the primary intimacy by engaging intimacies elsewhere it it has repercussions and if you really you know we. We all stand up at the altar and make these lofty commitments. If you're up to those commitments you have to hold the barry. Hold the line somewhere because it it it will continue to have effects and stuff. You have to come clean about you. Have you know. It's very scary. You the your partner may feel betrayed and not be able to trust you over again or that partner may be able to rebuild that trust over time and forgive you but it's it's scary territory of the unknown. Yes and if the primary relationship is damaged or isn't a problematic state. You know the person's not going to be apt to want to talk to their partner right. The relationships already broken. So now do i walk and say oh let me tell you about this wonderful guy that i go have smooths after yoga practice and how he thinks i'm hi you're just not the relationship can't sustain that type of honesty in also whatever whatever if you haven't had your sort of attraction systems addressed your traumas You're gonna get attracted to something problematic. Yes well i mean so. They're jumping ship to stories about people who do go ahead with these relationships and leave their prime relationship and on hold. It's the same thing all over again. Yes i have stories guy. He you know married has kids and his mistress lived around the corner and he got caught and ended up leaving the wife and kids and literally literally moved around the corner with the new family. And how did that work out. Very contentious very hostile very contentious. You know the primary wife. The first wife is devastated. You know how do you get past that. You feel like it's happening in my own backyard. Probably start this woman. Walking the dog. And i i do also want acknowledge that the rate at which women cheat has really grown progressed. Women cheat. I think that we tend to think the men are cheating. The met you know particularly in the heterosexual community. The men are bad. They have a middle aged crisis. They're cheating the women are cheating they're in the workplace. We're working where out there. We have access to men. You know women have desires. Women's sexuality has been awakened in the past several decades and women do cheat. And i think you were saying it is the case that meant some men cheat because they can get away with it. I'm i'm guessing that categories increased amongst women as well. Yes i can do it. But i have a job have the access. Access is a big big component and cheating if you have the time in the access to get to someone else and they show interest in you. The door has just opened wide wide open. That's interesting do you have any specific stories about you know online the emotional affairs i i was i was talking to a woman whose husband was divorcing. Her he had had an affair he had this mistress and he would buy her the bags and the shoes and the send the was spoil this mistress. She found out She.
"jillian" Discussed on Dr. Drew Podcast
"Regardless of how harmful or unfulfilling the relationship may be. And let's be fair. That's not strictly speaking in american thing. That is you know what. I don't know i mean you're probably more knowledgeable. I'm speaking you know. These are american people. I was talking to. But i can imagine that there was some sort of global crossover with that idea. Yes and i'm guessing. So the so the one thing that i see all the time clinically and of course i love land. All the time was you know When we have bad pickers so to speak we keep repeating the same trauma so we had like you said you had a family system where they were affairs magically are attracted to people that engage in affairs also magically. Why is it always. I was sure it wasn't one of those guys again magically. It's the same thing again. And and you know. Dr freud called this repetition compulsion. No no it's more of a biological phenomenon than things are traumatizing and childhood. We don't like it in childhood. It creates attraction to people and circumstances that oblige us by repeating the trauma. Oh my gosh okay makes. That's just a that's just a fact. That's just how we're wired. And so i'm guessing you talked a lot to people that repeat things. Can all men are fill in the blank because they keep getting attracted to write those guys yes so they just recite their experience. You're totally right. I give you're the kind of person that tends to fall into these relationships. It's going to happen repeatedly. I just had this. Young kid was twenty six years old. Because i have two different types of episodes episodes where i read the short story about affairs. And then i have a round table discussion about it. So it's kind of like book club three diverse people from three different backgrounds. We talk about the story and so on this episode. I had this twenty six year. Old kid you know. I'm a lot older than he is. And he said you know jillian. I've been cheated on seven different times. It was like you're only twenty six and you've been cheated on in seven relationships seven times So i'm thinking it's probably consistent with what you're saying it's him it's him yeah. He is picking a certain kind of person or there. There's another corollary to this. Particularly with younger people which is they engage in certain kinds of Interpersonal relating the kind of pushes people away and they missed signs. And things like that is like over clinginess over bad boundaries or not paying. This is all kinds of stuff that can go on inter personally that can people can find somewhat distasteful over time. Not everybody again not everybody. But you know you're you're picking that person that finds it such And then men particularly miss signs. Least don't just we're really bad at You know it's like you're saying most of the women that have affairs have affairs to leave. They have always. The female partner has always told their male partner for at least twenty four months that they're not happy happy but i need and mental. Yeah you're fine. You're finding point. And then she leaves you. I understand what whatever. Why don't you tell. And of course she and she goes. I could tell it in for two years. Exactly what are you talking about right. Isn't that what typically happen. Yeah definitely and not only articulated verbally but through your actions you know. Suddenly the person's less present or you're not having sex. That's the you asked me what. I learned one of the biggest things i've learned is that's the big red flag like da. Not if you're not having sex there's a problem and if you're not having sex it's more than likely that the person even if they're not engaging in intercourse that they're having sexual fantasies about someone else that there's some sort of physical sexual eroticism that's happening outside of your partnership and i would argue that if he that's a very common thing and i agree with you but that if you're not having sex eventually somebody will have sex partner with somebody else whatever. So there's both clause ational from the standpoint that it's a sign of and also causation on the sense that you're on your way to jefferson. One hundred percent yeah. Yeah it's crazy and he he guessing there's lots of pain involved in what you're hearing about. Yes there's lots of pain but also drew. There's lots of humor. I mean of course. Great so funny. He was so funny so i was saying that i have this one type of episode where i read the short story about affairs. And then there's the roundtable discussion with people that talk about. My other type of show is a one on one interview. Just like what. We're doing now. And i remember i. You know all these episodes in the canon. Like what do i do. I what i would do i episode. One is this guy who's like in his fifties and he and his father were just rampant cheaters and he has no sort of hesitation of talking about it. I hate to like be a spoiler but he even has an episode on his honeymoon and feels totally justified about it. I'm like what you like. Did something on your honeymoon with the massage therapist. And then you go back to your honeymoon suite and what do you say he's like it's fine. It's no big deal so because this had happened twenty years ago he sees it with a different i. You know you're able to get away from the pain and see unbelievably some of the humor and look at it with a sense of lightheartedness because it feels so distant to the person and although he was the cheater his wife. had substance abuse issues. And so it was very painful for him. And i'm not justifying what he did but he validated his cheating experience because he was in such a painful situation at home it he sounds. Somebody's treatment of some type. Yes yeah yeah. And and that's what when people get treatment they can look at their pathological behavior and laugh at it as a pretty common thing And so you know. They're they're they understand that it's painful they understand that it's pathological but it's like can you imagine my at my behavior created but it does Bring up the interesting phenomenon of of types of cheating in the sense that There are definitely this. You know some some extreme circumstances psychopath logically that setup cheating or for instance narcissists and sociopaths. They that's that's what you kind of describe there. Somebody who just doesn't care and just we'll do it because hey it's me but then within that there's also sex addicts And he sounds a little bit more on that and with with some overlay of narcissism up to and these things can when they're treated like like i said he sounds a cat some treatment..
"jillian" Discussed on Dr. Drew Podcast
"Navarro's finally made it in there. We'll check that out and many other interests. And tricia patas gary stop by and that Always praise for a lot of fun. That's much tricia anymore. Because she's in treatment during a lot better but this world the world around her that is out of control so check that out also instagram. Dr pinski twitter at dr drew its cetera. We appreciate it and if those of you who are listening to this show do not listening adamant dr do show. Just you know if you want to hear a little love boat talk. Please do choice there jillian hamilton. The podcast one podcast available anywhere. You get your podcast cheating. When love lies interesting topic ufology it. Julian hamilton dot on line. Jillian is the creator and host. And she is looking at this topic. That is actually very complicated topics. So i'm glad you're doing jillian walk in the program. Thank you so much. yeah complicated. Raw taboo all the things that you know people don't wanna talk about. Yeah and so. I'm guessing how how what got you into this topic number one. And what have you learned so far. And then when after that half hour is done we talk about what got me into. It was corona. You know we were all homebound. And i started writing stories about affairs I've always wanted to write. And i just sat there with nothing to do and started writing these short stories about trysts fares. And let me you know. I know what you're gonna ask me next any personal experience in there or is that why you're thinking about it or person around people. There's person experienced growing up as a child. I had experienced in my family home as an adult. I've experienced it in relationships and once. I was willing to talk about it. I found that people were coming out of the woodwork. Like oh this happened to me or this happened to my mom or this happened to my sister. My brother so i realized how common cheating and affairs were whether they were they physical or emotional. So i started writing these short stories. People like them. They said oh. Wait another one right another one and then i went into the studio to record them and people's uh semi another story semi another story. And before you knew it. Here i was. I was like this is kind of a podcast. You know interesting tree. Lots of interesting calls and stuff. You take calls. I don't take calls yet. I just started about three or four weeks ago. So you're gonna learn to much. Let's talk about the difference between physical and emotional cheating and the difference in how males and females respond to those two topics. The difference between physical cheating and emotional cheating is just what it sounds like. Emotional cheating has really proliferated because we have this online space so actually people feel a greater sense of familiarity and closeness online often than they do in person in person. You gotta have date number one and it might be three weeks before you have date number two. It's hard to get together but when you're online you have constant access to this person so everything from good morning sugar to night night and everything in between your with this person all day long and it gives you the sense of really knowing their lifestyle how they spend their time you might get you know reactions on things that happen to them. Throughout the day so emotional cheating can really be very powerful and very common because we all have the device right there with us. How do you differentiate between emotional cheating and just a friendship emotional. Cheating has to have a secretive component to it. This is something that your partner your spouse doesn't know about it's something you're hiding and it's more than likely giving you a great sense of thrill you know you're looking forward to hearing from this person. I when i first started this. I started talking to everybody. Anyone i'd meet. I'd say oh so. Have you ever dated anyone. Who cheated. And i met this random stranger and he told them about the podcast. He said i have to tell you. I've been having an affair. I really would you like to talk about it. And he said yes. I send music back and forth with this woman every night and my wife has no idea and by the time i get up from this table it was dinner time. I'm going to be running back to my car to see what music she sent to me. And i live for it every single day. That's an emotional affair. I mean he didn't tell his wife and he was so attached to her. Yeah it's wild and it is. It's like a friendship that serving some need so it goes a little further than friendship did. Are you exploring what people need to do to look at or solve whatever that need might be in the primary relationship in other words some deficiency. That's guys met right. Yes in the emotional of area. I don't do any problem solving on the podcast especially because it is about and affairs. i'm completely non-judgmental. I'm here to ask questions. Learn about why people cheat learn why people have affairs and have a conversation with them about it. what is that deficiency commonly is just as as variable as relationships are variable so typically women cheat to stay. Excuse me i'm sorry. Let me rephrase that women men cheat to stay and women cheat to leave so men. Yes so manner cheating because they want this other thing the thrill the sex the excitement the validation that they may not be getting at home but they don't wanna lose their patriarchal role within the family. I don't want to abandon my kids. I don't want abandon my wife. I need to keep the foundation together. But i also need this. Thrill in order to stay as the patriarch within the foundation. But that doesn't have to be patriarchal or just be a way of sustaining. Any mutual relationship. Right like there's a deficiency. I feel unsafe or whatever. I have some needs. That's on. I've tried. And then i go over here and it lets me. It doesn't hurt. anybody doesn't do it. Let's say it's just emotional and again then heard anything he can. He can convince himself. It's a okay and it's helping my relationship. I could see people convincing them that absolutely. Yes ma'am will say. This is helping my relationship because without this other person without this lover. I just don't think i could handle the pressures that i have of keeping my family together and it's interesting that you say you know it's emotional. It's not hurting anyone but really studies. Show that the emotional fair can be highly detrimental and even more hurtful than the physical one correct. Yeah there's no doubt about that. And and then women men though the re one of the reasons men can convince themselves of that is they certainly don't want their spouse engage in emotional affair. They'd feel bad about it but at the moment that which the a planes or being crossed so to speak. That's when men are just out of our brains that's where murderous rage enter into the picture and and there's you know our evolutionary heritage is such that you know that in order to maintain certainty of paternity you had to stand guard over the openings because there was no tests throughout emotional about other animals do other mammals do it. That's just how mammals do it. They don't have any other way of being certain that they're going to invest all their resources and moving their genes forward except by being certain that they were the only individual that was sexually with that receptive partner. And you know. I'm not saying it's good or bad because we have lots of bad things in us from our evolutionary heritage that we should acknowledge and then deal with positive way evolve but this may be one of those things and then to the latter part of your question about women you know. Women typically cheat to leave this relationship. And i'm talking about heterosexual relationships at this point. Women are saying this is my ticket out. you know. i'm tired of dealing with this asshole at home. And if i can just find my ticket out then i'm going to have this affair and it can take me out of a really painful or hurtful marriage a partnership is it is it it lessens -sarily leaving or is it just being out. You know being a having some life outside of it. 'cause you're caught in it or something leaving fleeting and is it is it. Would it be accurate to say. It's sort of a bullpen. Are building like i'm has your has your they call into the bullpen. When it's time to leave has your arm adequately good. Yeah something like that. And and i guess men do that also right. Yes and i'm saying. I'm speaking in broad term. Shut generality generalities but men will leave but men usually when they wanna leave they leave. They may build a bullpen before they leave. But they don't do anything with the bullpen. I would guess leave. I had one friend say to me. You know he's a good friend known for thirty years. He's a guy in his fifties and he's like jillian. It's very simple. Some guys can and some guys can't and that was his response to. Why do some guys leave. And he's just like it's just the thing some guys that the emotional constitution to go through with it and some are just too tied to you know a typically american foundational family experience where you stick it out. Regardless of how harmful or unfulfilling the relationship may be. And let's be fair. That's not strictly speaking in american thing. That is.
Podcaster Jillian Hamilton on the Difference Between Physical and Emotional Cheating
"Talk about the difference between physical and emotional cheating and the difference in how males and females respond to those two topics. The difference between physical cheating and emotional cheating is just what it sounds like. Emotional cheating has really proliferated because we have this online space so actually people feel a greater sense of familiarity and closeness online often than they do in person in person. You gotta have date number one and it might be three weeks before you have date number two. It's hard to get together but when you're online you have constant access to this person so everything from good morning sugar to night night and everything in between your with this person all day long and it gives you the sense of really knowing their lifestyle how they spend their time you might get you know reactions on things that happen to them. Throughout the day so emotional cheating can really be very powerful and very common because we all have the device right there with us. How do you differentiate between emotional cheating and just a friendship emotional. Cheating has to have a secretive component to it. This is something that your partner your spouse doesn't know about it's something you're hiding and it's more than likely giving you a great sense of thrill you know you're looking forward to hearing from this person. I when i first started this. I started talking to everybody. Anyone i'd meet. I'd say oh so. Have you ever dated anyone. Who cheated. And i met this random stranger and he told them about the podcast. He said i have to tell you. I've been having an affair. I really would you like to talk about it. And he said yes. I send music back and forth with this woman every night and my wife has no idea and by the time i get up from this table it was dinner time. I'm going to be running back to my car to see what music she sent to me. And i live for it every single day. That's an emotional affair. I mean he didn't tell his wife and he was so attached to her. Yeah it's wild and it is. It's like a friendship that serving some need so it goes a little further than
"jillian" Discussed on The Canine Paradigm
"That goes back to what jillian was talking about before where she was looking for information and couldn't find it because athletes flooded with that because the people who are making the really good dog china's a busy train dogs and they're not making that content and they're busy. It's not necessarily as a marketing strategy that they would use social media. It's my work. Plate is full. I don't need to be promoting myself anyway but feel like we kinda do so that the people who are not going to employ us train the people who are just going to find some information online and then in potted kenny. The look at the guy who's bathing a dog into the ground or the guy who's telling total bouche laws about how he's a total force free china and real dope to. Yeah there's plenty of people who claim to be big time forced very china's online and i know some stuff about dogs when i've read to though i can win a dog shows and division something that does not come about any so there's certain big names rock and look for you not what you say. You are as a day here but so as people who do know what they're doing and are not trying to use social media as a marketing platform. Do you have any advice for people as the best way to get their information out there and do that in a way that doesn't occupied the whole fucking day because they're busy doing they job. Obstacle enough jillian. God well content is king and consistency is queen. So if you're trying to build a following really really focused on at least one post a day could be generally wanna create content and build a following is just create one piece of content day but make sure in that content that it's driving the platform and giving information that is driving it forward like when you're posting post with purpose. That sounds so corny. But it's the truth like when i'm posting. I've scaled back a lot in my own posting..
What Are Circadian Rhythms With Dr. Satchin Panda
"Maybe we can serve chatting a little bit about the world of chronobiology circadian rhythm. I mean many people listening to this conversation may have a general sense of what a circadian rhythm is but a lot of people have never heard of it so maybe you can sort of explain what. It is such an why they're important. Is it just a imagine that you have to a lot of different things in a day. You just can't do them at trend knock. So that's why you come up with a calendar and twad time how to do certain things so that you are more productive so similarly. Our body does jillian different tasks in a given day for example dozens upon months there many digestive juices than planned chemicals genes adapt to turn on and off. So that's why body also has a daily timetable that repeats itself day. So that's why the terms acadian to them security and literally means approximately a day and rhythm is rhythm so this is a timetable that repeats every single day so what it means is the thing that comes to mind is sleeping because sleeping. The big chunk of time that abbadi boats to at a specific time of the night so similarly almost every organ in our body whether it's liver kidney heart or even your skin. I've been your hair follicle has to do certain tasks so that means visiting log on every single cell as its on daily timed off circadian rhythms.
"jillian" Discussed on The Mindvalley Podcast with Vishen Lakhiani
"Flexibility. Your training strength training power training agility. So you want all of that to be the most well rounded you also want that to continue to create what's called a stress adaptation response so for example. I give my body new stressful stimulus. It's whoa this is this is crazy. I've got adapt. I've got to become stronger. And if you do it all the time your body will stop seeing results right so consistency then variety and then if we can get into intelligent intensity with programmed recovery. You're go ahead and have a blast ticket. Pilates class do this workout from this gentleman but consistency and variety or going to be your most important things period. Absolutely now jillian. Let's come to your book. Six keys unlock your genetic potential age strength health and beauty so in the final five minutes. I'd love you to tell us about this book while you wrote it. What are some of the topics that you discuss. So i quite honestly was fascinated in how it dramatically varies the way people age. You can see somebody who is in their early thirties and they literally perform like they are sixty five they have high cholesterol and the barely get up a flight of stairs and their skin is falling apart or you could see somebody who sixty five and his hiking everest and looks fresh as a daisy in. It's like okay. Is this genetic. What is this and in large part. No genetics has nothing to do with it. It's about the expression of our genetics and we can impact that with the way that we live. So it's looking at these six body processes everything from your macromolecules to your telomeres and how these body processes impact aging and what we can do about it and intermittent. Fasting is absolutely in the book for that. Very reason amazing amazing. I can't wait to get access to this book. I'm going to be buying it on my kindle. I'm just gonna read out a little bit about the book because wanna make sure. I direct you to great great great stuff by amazing authors. So the subtitle is call. Unlock your genetic potential. For ageless health and beauty. The sixties presents an ageless. Health fitness and beauty. Plan that addresses all six of them and gets them working for you instead of against you so by the six jillian say scientists. Doctors have identified six major age. Insiders metabolism damage macromolecules epigenetics inflammation stress adaptation and telomeres. And so the book gives you a way.
Android 12: The Biggest Features Coming to Your Smartphone
"This week was google ceo. Google's big annual developer conference. Google announced a whole bunch of new software features in the opening keynote. Which happened on tuesday. And we're going to talk about those announcements here today and unpack means so in the second half of the show. We're going to get into this smaller. Weirder stuff we're not going to be talking about cuba's in quantum computers mostly because we don't understand it it's gonna get weird in the second half but first let's focus on the big stuff because i think the changes that will affect the most people are the updates to android. Google is clearly trying to improve the whole android user experience and that includes some extra attention to privacy features jillian some of the new android features. That stuck out to you. So the main things that you'll probably see the most are the huge bubbly bright colors that are now all over the interface. One of the things that google is touting this new material you design language. It's an upgrade over the previous material design and basically now the intention is that you the user will be able to customize the entire color palette of your favorite apps and i console everything to your own little you know fun tones based on a collection that goodwill provides so. That's something that will come to rules products later this year and then maybe android later on. But overall you're just going to be able to customize the entire color palette of all your apps which is kind of fun and unique. And i think people will overall really like that And all that also extends to all sorts of little changes that you can do in the android operating system so for example. If you change your wallpaper background the entire interface will sort of pick up on those tones near wallpaper. Just change the ui to match some of those stones you kind of have like a unified theme. Yeah i think that's just stuff that seems pretty small but overall just makes it feel like a more mature operating system
Unlocking the Power of Data Lineage in Your Platform
"Hostess tobias macy into today interviewing julian ladonna about lineage new standard for structuring meta data to enable interoperability across the ecosystem of data management tools. So julian can you start by introducing yourself. Hello i'm jillian. I guess. I've been working in the big data space for the past. Fourteen years studied at yahoo building platform on top of you and in a study contributing to open source project like the and that's how i joined the twitter data platform team. They are steady up at she parkway project and that led to contributing to the launch of the aba chiro project that you're on and morrison t i with the architect for the up a format. We work after that. I studied dedicated. Which i'm this show now and so you've actually been on the show. This is your third time now. So you were on to talk about your work with apache parque. And you're on with doug cutting. Who was the creator of astro. So that was a good conversation. And then you're also on talk about your work with marquez. Which is a natural transition to where you are now with. Data can which building on top of that platform so for folks who listened to the marquez episode. I don't know if you want to. Just give a quick recap about where that project has gone. And maybe what you're building on top of it with data again before we dig into open lineage. So you can from. When you build data platform it quickly becomes evident that she need an equivalent of service oriented architecture retro data pipelines like people consume data they produce data and by default israel egypt visibility. Where they did is coming from awards going and so we need to understand. We consume the data that we produce and how they impacted by the changes were may be doing and we understand where they did is coming from that. We're consuming how it's being maintained in deadwood right so that leads us to start the marcus project at we were so you building the data platform at work. That where's the need for. How do we understand in an organization where they are many teams that consumed produce data. How do they understand how they depend on each other. In our things change. That was a missing piece in the open-source ecosystem
How are you? I am fine: What we lose without small talk
"What purpose does small talk serve in our society yet so it was really fascinating to me as as i was talking to all these researchers in these experts that you know small talk is not just a way to pass the time. It's a way to make small connections that are in service of maybe somehow creating large connections down the line so even if it's just someone who sells you. Every morning you don't interact with them in necessarily meaningful ways but over time you do generate the sense of community connection and eventually gets to the point where you feel more grounded like the research shows that you feel more grounded in society in your community after creating these consistent connections over time and so i believe it was jillian sandstrom who Who did this research conducted this research. She found that over time. People feel more optimistic about the world. They live in if they have more small interactions with strangers throughout their days. Meaning that If you were to ask someone do you think people are naturally good or naturally bad. People are generally more optimistic when they have more of these small connections in their community consistently in their life. And i think that so So interesting and such a really evocative data point. Because you know she doesn't have the research on the pandemic necessarily now but if we think about all of a sudden reducing those connections until we are no longer interacting with strangers. The danger is that you know. Maybe we feel more pessimistic about the world around us. Maybe we feel less trusting about the people About the strangers in our lives and that's so tragic that's so sad and i. I feel really hopeful. That may be when the world reopens. We'll be able to rebuild those connections and maybe start rebuilding sense of optimism. A sense of communal optimism.
In court, Ghislaine Maxwell pleads not guilty to new charges
"Jeffrey Epstein's one time girlfriend Jillian Maxwell faces a trial judge in person for the first time Maxwell pleaded not guilty in New York to new charges of sex trafficking she's accused of recruiting teenage girls for Epstein to sexually abuse accuser Danielle ban ski was among the spectators it's hard to sit through it and it's painful but it's good to feeling outside court Maxwell attorney David Marcus called his client courageous and fair and the case on fair it's abstinence that she's being treated horribly because of the negligence and what happens to Jeffrey Epstein she's not suicidal she's not it she should be treated like this abstain took his own life at a Manhattan federal jail in twenty nineteen I'm at Donahue
Lack of Homes for Sale, Stop the Insanity!
"We're talking about stopping the insanity with regards to the buyer's market united been reading a lot of articles online most of which are basically saying we have a lack of homes that in order to meet demand they'd have to be essentially four point. Two million new homes for sale. I mean new construction. Resale doesn't matter. What and obviously there are going to be four point two million homes for sale all at once anytime soon so we're looking at realistically a long-term quote unquote housing shortage. Builders in some markets are catching up. We work with some of the top agents in iowa of all places and they in that market the builders are controlling sixty percent of the inventory but really for the most wealth they have land and lots of chiefs brandon land land and land. It's iowa you know but the moral of the story here is we are in the early throes of what's going to be long long-term. How did how shortage problem crisis. Whatever word you want to use. So the moral of the story for all of you is gravitate towards being listing agents as fast as you possibly can do your part so largely. What we're doing here is not just ending the pain but asking you to face this is what's going on and part of this. Is i believe from a coaching standpoint. Due to agents being afraid to have these conversations. Yeah and we've been talking about this very topic on and off in different forms for a long period of time but really at the end of the day. You've got to get real clear in your head. There is no housing crash anywhere on the near horizon for all the reasons we talked about. All of our previous podcasts. Go listen to it. And there's no reason to believe that there's going to be any sort of a pivot away from it being a strong seller's market and in some markets in amazingly strong seller's market for some time to come what some time to come years three to five years that's what most of the prognosticators prognosticating and jillian. I agree and if you think about just purely from a demographics perspective the oldest baby. I'm sorry the oldest millennial now is forty so the oldest one being forty that generally speaking people are in the throes of moving up and housing when they're in that age group so these the millennials of which there's more millennials than there are baby boomers are just about to really start buying houses in a huge
Supporting Women in Technology
"Jillian. How are you today. I am loving. Today it's beautiful. Outside so julia. Tell me about what you're doing these days. What are you up to you and then let's talk about. Let's talk about the conference that you do the sisterhood and technology what while it's been a hugely busy spring has it that everyone i talked to okay. People stopped holding their breath. Cove ed and they're like okay. Let's do this thing so we are really like i'm. I'm busy so i work at harvard. Your partner is i do. I'ma account executive so. I'm feeling a bunch of great possessions for people right now but more importantly working on sisterhood of technology which we've talked about before and it's an effort to really make sustainable change for women in the workplace especially in technology. That is what we're working on and we had to cancel accomplished last year. And it was such a bummer. But we're going to do it this year. We just confirmed we get to have a few people on site like one hundred people on site and we're gonna do it also virtually so we are tom. We have this amazing lineup of speakers that most people around the twin cities probably haven't heard it's going to be. It's going to be really cool. Yeah i'm excited for it. I was bummed. It last year's had to get canceled. But i think it's a really important. I think it's really important mission that you're doing and the conference if i'm someone who's interested in a conference who specifically is the audience for it who do you think would get the most out of it as a really good question. So here's the thing. I would say how it's targeted there is. I think there's two fold things that we need to do for women in technology. Women need to have each other's backs right so we need to do networking and mentoring. That will be an option both virtually and in at the conference blame as well but the other half a bit is really what text mission is all about and that is really to engage organizations to make sustainable change. What does it really mean. What does it mean to be a have gender diversity and a company so people who are interested in not only their own connections there on networking connections but also. What are the key things. That i need to do. Either as a vp of technology a cio. Or someone just coming up through the ranks that needs to do organizations. How can i influence that
Protect all those fleeing Myanmar, UN offices urge surrounding countries
"Un rights office chr and the un refugee agency hcr on thursday called on myanmar's neighbors to offer shelter to all those fleeing violence and persecution amid ongoing strife linked to the first of february coup. The appeal comes as the crisis enters. Its third month with additional concerns raised about renewed fighting between state armed forces and ethnic armed groups in border areas which have driven people to flee according to the un rights office. Oh chr at least five hundred. Ten peaceful protesters have been killed. The security forces and more than two thousand six hundred are in detention including many held incommunicado or forcibly disappeared night raids mass arrests and killings have become daily occurrences throughout the country. The chr says asia regional office said in a news. Release ten days after armed. Groups carried out a deadly attack on three villages near the western town of telea. Un humanitarian repeated their call for greater protection of civilians at all those displaced by violence in the hell. The un refugee agency unhcr reported on thursday that six refugees from nearby molly were among the one hundred thirty seven. People were killed on the twenty first of march by assailants on motorbikes. Most of the victims had already fled violence in two thousand and twenty. Unhcr said adding that fourteen hundred survivors from the targeted villages and on the move and many are in shock and mourning highlighting the deliverability ability of civilians in the region and the urgency of the situation jillian twigs. Hcl's assistant for protection. Encouraged efforts to address the growing insecurity noting that it was clear that the attacks on displaced people and communities hosting them targeted and deliberate in addition to the unjustifiable violence meted out against civilians shelters and granaries were also burned to the ground. Cattle was stolen or killed survivors. Have nothing left. Miss triggs
How to communicate complex technical topics with Anna Skoulikari
"So you didn't always have a technical background and now you literally have a job explaining very very technical things. Tell us about your journey. Where does it start for you. So i think my journey into the tech space starts off in london when i was living there and i ended up doing a u x boot camps or user experience design boot camp and that was where i learned how to design digital interfaces so mobile apps websites and that was kind of manage reduction into getting hard skills and getting into the space of tech and the ended up working as a designer in london and after a while working as designer got really curious about coding. Because i really felt like as a u x designer. You're kind of architect. You can create the blueprint of what a digital product is gonna look like so what a app. What's gonna look like what you're not the construction company. You're not the one that gets lukman and actually builds the thing. So i got really curious about. How are these things that we're designing actually built so basically after that curiosity piqued and i ended up moving to barcelona and when i moved here i decided to study coding so i went to coding bootcamp. And that's where. I really got technical skills and where i i learned to code so tell me a little bit more about the. Us tax experience. What tools do you work with with you as if you're not necessarily coating but you're still working on products. What does that role look like. What tools are using that picture for me so in you ex design. You're going to be using some sort of software or to create your digital designs or often called wire frames. At the time. I had learned sketch. Honestly it's the world of tax. So i'm sure that there's like a jillian new tools that have been created the main thing in user. Experience design is about thinking from the user's point of view and having empathy for the user and thinking about how you can design a digital experience. That's going to be smooth and user friendly and tell me more about boot camp. What was that experience like for you. That was really crazy experience. Because if somebody had asked me five years ago whether i would learn to code i would tell them like no way. Why would i learn to code. I remember actually being younger. When i was twenty one one summer i was working in a startup accelerator. And i remember at the time i would meet a lot of people that worked in startups that needed developers. And so whenever people would come up to me and say i don't know what to study. I don't know what to do. I would say studied computer. Science study coding. I just know that there's so many jobs out there for developers but whenever they would ask me like why. Aren't you studying. Coding out saying well you know. My mind doesn't work like that. I wouldn't be able to do that. So when i did move to barcelona and decided to do this. Coding bootcamp it was kind of a big personal development journey for me to make my fear of something unknown and uncertain and to just learn something new that had previously never thought you know would be something i would ever attempt. What made it so scary for you. I think it was just that. I had no idea what to expect and that i'd never attempted to learn something that technical so it was just the fear of the unknown. I think yeah. I totally appreciate that. So you have an interesting perspective because you've done both the signed the us side of things and you've actually built product and then the coding tell me about those two worlds and where they intersect. How do those jewels come together for you. And how does having know both sides of the story. How has that impacted your technical skills so go soo worlds. Come together for me in my first job working as a developer after the whitcombe so after my quitting bootcamp i ended up getting a job working as a front end developer in a company here in barcelona and while working in that job i realized that i had to really understand how to use get version control. Basically for anyone that doesn't know get is the way that coders track the versions of their project. And it's the technology that they used to collaborate with developers. And i was terrified of get. I had learnt the basics sort of at my quitting boot bootcamp. But it's when. I arrived at my job and i realized that i didn't really understand how it worked. And whenever i had to do something that i thought was complicated using it i was terrified and i thought that i was going to destroy the repository so i always had a call on the senior developers to come help me and at some point i realized okay. I want to face this fear. This fear i have get so i decided to really master it and to really learn it really well what i realized then was that the way that it was taught online was not really user friendly to people coming into tech from non technical backgrounds and that i myself could actually teach the topic in a much simpler and more human understandable way so i ended up creating this online course teaching get. It was just this creative idea that came to me and i thought okay. I should do this. Because i can help. So many other junior developers or other people that need us get that aren't extremely technical to learn it in a much easier way than than my journey had been so i created this online course. And that's where i feel like my technical background and then my communication skills just came together. What happened was i put that course on me so to me as an online course platform and it became a highest rated course on you me. And that's what. I realized that using that skill of thinking of things from the user's perspective and having empathy for people and thinking about how you can explain things in the most simple and tangible way was really helpful in explaining technical concepts. So that's kind of how those two worlds together dot experiences sort of. What led me into the next chapter of my journey where i decided to enter the space of tech communication and tech education. So tell me about what you're doing. Now you have this background. He have this developer background. You created this really incredible really popular course and today you're technical writer. Tell me a little more. About what a technical writer is. And how all those experiences impact what you do today so a technical writer honestly. It's a job title. That can vary extremely from one company to another. It's not something that is extremely while defined so in my case technical writer is writing developer documentation of documentation even support documentation like articles. But you can talk various other technical writers and they may do completely different things but for me. Technical writing is just a way for me to combine my tech background with my communication skills. And i've always been a writer. I really love writing. It's the way that i can express myself the best. I'm actually also a life long journalist. I've been journaling for the last ten years so writing is a really big part of my life. So it's really cool that now. I've found a way to merge my love of writing with my ability to communicate technical concepts into my job. So you wrote or created. I guess this course get learning journey guide to learning git version control on you to me that you mentioned earlier. So let's get into what is get and How did you make this course yes. Basically get is a version control system and it's basically a program that you download onto your computer and you use it in order to keep track of all the versions of your projects and also to collaborate with other developers and it's really important and the really cool thing about it. Is that actually almost anyone that writes code uses it so it's not just something that a back end developer or front end developer uses. Its for data. Scientists data analysts. Anybody that writes code and that needs to keep track of all the versions of their code can use it and not even just developers also technical writers use so it's something that kind of is a shared experience among a lot of people in the tech world in terms of how i got started to actually build the course in the beginning. I thought that i would have to learn this really complicated animation software in order to make videos. I'd never made of course before. I'd never even explored how people make online courses. So what i ended up doing was at the time i was working as a front end developer and as part of a new product i was working on. I had to learn view. So view is Front dan framework or fronted library that developers use. It's like react. Is another one. And i learnt reacting my boot camp but i had to learn view and i really love the online courses. That view mastery. Had so what i did. Was i contacted the people that work of you mastery. I contacted adam jar. And i asked him. What do you guys use or to make your online courses. And he told me we use keynotes. And that's when. I realized i don't need to learn some really complicated animation software in order to make my online course. I don't have any excuses for procrastinating. Start creative project. Actually all i need to do is to start using keynote and keno animations and with that i can build an online course so i started making one presentation her lesson and it was all just me hacking away working with these keynote presentations and then preparing lessons and recording. My voice teaching these lessons so it was really just knee on my own doing the bare bones version of an online course and just figuring out how it could present things on the screen in a simple way and honestly my main principles that i tried to stick with wasn't minimalism. So keep things as simple as possible and consistency
Military Crackdown in Myanmar Escalates With Killing of Protesters
"Overseas now. Protests against the military coup claiming more lives in myanmar people reportedly killed the bloodiest day since the coup a month ago. Authorities reportedly firing live rounds demonstrators running for their lives the us embassy condemning the government violence. Here's abc's julia macfarlane tonight. In myanmar of violent crackdown police using tear gas stun grenades water cannons to break up unarmed crowd then reportedly opening fire. You and human rights officials say at least eighteen. Protesters killed dozens wounded chaotic scenes in hospitals as medical teams race to treat the injured for weeks a show of defiance in the streets. Often military generals seized power detaining. The elected leader aung san suu chief protesters demanding her government be reinstated at the un myanmar's ambassador making an emotional plea for help. We need fun. Uh strongest possible action from the intonation community ending his speech. They symbol of resistance but later state tv announcing that diplomat had been fun. Happy with tonight. The white house has released a statement saying the. Us is alarmed at the violence against peaceful. Protesters administration is now preparing further action against those involved. Wit jillian mcfarland. Our thanks to you
How to Grow Your Business by Replacing Yourself
"Today we're gonna have a little bit of a conversation about Taking things to the next level right so if any of you have experienced a something just some level of growth inside of your personal life or career or business you start to realize you get to this point that you can't do it all right like there's there's a million different things going on every single day whether you're a manager at you know where you work or ura you're actually business owner or you run a family with five different kids or you run a local group or a team or anything like that. Like there's there's a nine jillian different things you have going on at all points of the day the week the month year like planning things like it's just it's it's too much it's a lot right and the thing to remember. Is that whether you have your own small business or a job or your oprah winfrey or whoever the hell you are you have the same amount of time as i do like. We all have one hundred and sixty eight hours in a week. Like bill gates the president. Like the bump down the street like we all have the same amount of time right. So how is it that we all like. There's certain people that achieve that seemed to achieve so much more like you're just standing there and all of them like how do you get so much done right. And then there's people that are just seemed to be in the same position day after day week after week year after year and just like just kind of tread water like how right you know you know probably different people along the spectrum but there's there's ways there's just so many different examples i can think of that. There's it's it's you can either go down this path of super productivity and be burn out as hell or you can go down this path of not doing anything and hating your life right. But there's a third option that not a lot of people think of and there's this option of actually doing the productive ineffective things well not burning out while not actually making yourself feel more stress and anxiety while actually living a happier in. I don't wanna say carefree life but just a less stressful existence right and that's kind of where the title of this show comes in into this concept in this procedure of finding ways to replace yourself right finding ways to systematize yourself. Now there are many of you have a business or you have a high level job or whatever it might be like. You're familiar with system. You're familiar with the processes in place that needs be consistent to achieve a similar outcome for every person every time every time a sale comes through every time a fulfilment task needs handled like whatever the case might be. But have you ever stop to think about how you can make that happen in your own life in your day to day existence. Right i was actually. I've been reading a book For the second time again called high-performance habits by brennan bouchart. highly highly. recommend this book It's it's a life changing book and we got it for like seven bucks on like it was super cheap to But burnham short. He's he's like man he's the personal development guru. He's like i would love to have him on the show one day. If you ever listen to this brendan like hit me up. Let let's make this happen. It'd be it'd be awesome But just to kind of synthesize. What kind of taking away. From that. As i go through the second time. Is this idea that you as a person or a system right you as a being not only inside of your Physical being but inside of your business inside of your career inside of your relationships right like the more you can become a system and become consistent. The better things are going to get for you right now. When we take this conversation. I really want to apply it into production inside of business careers making money that type of conversation right because one one thing i noticed I went through my journey right with building the the runway wage app with building. The run. your day podcast here with building. Run your day app with with doing other client apps for other people in clients that i brought on in my in my other business like there are so many menial repetitive tasks that come in with stuff whether it comes down to sales whether it comes down to lead generation when it comes down to social media posting content like there's so many things and then people start this business is oh i thought it was gonna be so easy and you're like but i have all these different things to do and now i gotta get sales now. I gotta do all this and it's like dude. You understand that like you're you don't have time for all this stuff like you don't have time for all this stuff. When it finally came to that realization my life changed forever right in in in in tandem with the performance habits. You know philosophy in book. I started to realize okay like if i can figure out ways to replace myself or systematize myself i can then take that menial task that takes me ten minutes to do every single day and get rid of that ten minutes in offloaded onto something else or a bought or a machine or an automated process in that ten minutes every single day right and this is hard like this is. This is a really hard concept mentally to grasp especially for people like me. Maybe like you. If you have your own business you started your own business because you want control of everything right like you i. I used to always think that i would. I would let control like release control of things. But i find myself being that typical type of entrepreneur mindset of like. I can't let this go like. I need to do everything i need to make. It's my baby right and it. It's hard it's hard especially maybe it might be easier if if you're in like a career type job or your manager or something like that where it's not really your your ass on the line right but when you find ways to automate things when you find ways to systematize things. I'm telling you like there are. There's such of level of freedom and efficiency that comes into your life and not only that but like your mental wellbeing right and a couple of examples. I'll share with you. Here are a couple of pieces of software that i use in my own personal life. That have really really helped me one is called. You might be familiar with this or or you might not be. But it's called. If this then that right i f t t t If this then that in it's an app that you can actually download in. I'm telling you like it. It is really really cool. You can get automated Spreadsheet entries you can do you know. Save money automatically you can do like. There's a whole bunch of things that i don't even know it can do that. It can do right. I do think like it used to be mostly free. I think now they have a paid subscription where you can only get so many of these things free but like basically right like if you get a response in g mail from a new person. It automatically saves their contact information. A spreadsheet or. There's like things to just help. You live easier in actually save those menial tasks that suck up your day all day every day right because it kind of goes back to that i matrix. I've talked about before. On the show. With stephen covey being sucked into that black hole of the knot important. Not urgent stuff right. The facebook stuff. The email filtering Scrolling through social media just like all this different shit right and another piece of software. That i've actually really really started to use in like is called zap ear It's pretty popular one. You probably are familiar with if you do any kind of online business or anything like that Maybe you're not so really if you're not familiar with zap here it's kind of the same type of thing if this then that But man even that like it is. It saves me so much time in my business for automation and sending automatic emails and collecting lead information. Letting letting me know. When i got a sale you know through The various channels my businesses and Just automating stuff like it really It really comes down to because like you gotta think like okay okay so some of these are paid subscriptions right like you pay. I think if this that's like five dollars a month and you get so many tasks to be able to do this right and you see you be sitting there like well. Is that really worth. You know the one thing. I use it for whatever but you got also think like is the five dollars or ten dollars a month whatever. It might be worth the time that you are sacrificing. Doing those things
Have You Given Up On Your Dreams
"Two one and we're back. Juliette is our sunday show. It is the last day of the month the last day of the month of twenty twenty one. We've we've made it through so far one eleven under the belt where to go right so far no new plagues or pandemics or alien visitations or anything else crazy like we experienced last year. I have one thing in articles as bad. I bet you do so. Listen they normal Normal sunday warning still applies. This is not normal podcast. Yes this is real estate coaching radio. Yes you're listening to the number one daily real estate podcast roasted agents the nation. And no. we're not gonna talk about real estate today and the reason that we do our sunday podcast is because we want to help you guys realize the importance of always expanding your thinking always expanding what you think about that way you basically. Don't you know frankly become mentally complacent and the best way to keep your thinking and your ability to think about new concepts. Elastic is to intentionally. Put your way yourself in the way of frankly things you never normally think about. And that's what jillian i've done for years and so we sort of gravitate towards the bizarre facts and figures about life in general and yeah helped its causes. If you do this at least once a week where you're going to maybe just listen to our podcast right. Maybe it's just listing. This sunday podcast. Maybe this is your little reprieve from reality. And that's certainly fine but you'll find when you go back to thinking about the normal things of life that you are you might see lien. Oh things or maybe hiding in the shadows before. Maybe you're going to see a different slight different. Twist on an idea. Some problem that has been lingering longtime time assault it all comes from basically keeping your thinking elastic. Julie i i know you have some articles. I don't have any articles. But i had this happened. Probably i don't know three or four times last week. Were talking to somebody. And they're in their forties fifties and they're using this term in one version of another. And i thought it was fascinating because i'm seeing this frequency of people believing that this is actually a thing and i wanted to address it so that people can realize that This particular topic. That i thought of is not something. That's a sort of mandatory right of growing old and passage of time and the rest of it. And that's this midlife crisis consalvi yes. Yeah and i've seen that happening a lot. And i don't know why i don't know where this is coming from and i think it's probably there's some obviously i bet you. There's some current thing is to do it like a google search search to find out what the current like zeitgeist is. Whether there's a bunch of people that are talking about this or somehow this is in the news or something because that's normally how these types of thought waves happen but this whole concept of a midlife crisis angelina. I've talked about this before. And we've actually searched it for the book that we just published well to june's ago but we didn't end up actually having the content and i don't know do we have anything in there about midlife crisis in mindset and all that on not no. I don't think we did either but we did research we did and i think we got the sleep piece in there but we didn't get the talking. There's a lot of stuff that the publisher didn't want us to put in. Because they thought it was too far out of our wheelhouse edited out and they're probably right but this this topic in particular interest me. Because well i mean i guess age wise. If i'm lucky midlife right and by that. I mean i have another fifty years left. You know if. I think julie's same way right. So but it doesn't interest me for the sake of basically my own self interest in interest me for the sake of the fact that a lot of people are socialized to believe that when they reach a certain age that they have to almost say Almost like a social imperative an expectation that you become complacent and i think that's fascinating. That people aren't introspective enough to realize that's completely volunteering and not even remotely relevant to the the life that we live now and it's all to you up right so i think that there was very you know a physiological thing that was happening the happens naturally all this when we get to the point where we're probably in her forties in our fifties where we do have the sort of lizard brain reaction to reality that. Maybe we don't have the same impetus that we did when we were younger. But i do think that this emotion is rooted in psychology. I'm sorry rooted in physiology right because in in when you research forest is quite fascinating that it wasn't until relatively modern times that humans lived as long as we do. That's right. I mean despite what you guys might believe from all the horrible news Especially regards to pandemic and whatnot. People are living longer and longer but it wasn't that long ago. I i bet you when our grandparents probably even our when our parents were born the twentieth. Probably not what it is. I think close. I wonder how far back in history it was. The average life was like fifty five or something and they had been all may have been sixteen hundred fifteen hundred zero. I mean we'd have more modern. I bet it was like mid eighteen hundreds right and so what we're seeing is a lot of people that like you do. I do believe that your body is Sort of has a trigger in it. That makes it. Think that a certain age or after had so many lifecycles. If you wanna be really nervous about it that it starts to actually feel some sense of l- old software that sort of you know some degradation and some level exactly and but the thing is is with modern medicine and certainly with frankly accessed information like we have now. We don't have to actually allow that sort of innate feeling of irrelevance to dominate the stance was stances. We taken life with regards to anything physicality you know anything.
Is Zillow About The Be YOUR Biggest Competitor
"Three to one. And we're actually. It is january the twenty ninth and we have a podcast today which is discussing bombo bump ball so all the changes that they're doing a lot of chatter online about this. There is a lot of chatter online and We're going to do our best to clarify and go through the specifics of what is happening. Now with zillow and essentially then becoming a national real estate brokerage and being your primary competitor and a lot of your markets and all the little things are going to be a essentially. Try to get in between you and your customers. We've been warning you guys about this forever and here's really the bottom line. If you're one of the agents that's been feeding your competitor is zillow as they've been essentially spending up to become a you know a broker down the street. That's going to try to take your business well in you didn't listen. You kept on spending money with them. Because you were didn't know how to generate your own byerly it's while you're gonna unfortunately probably suffered the worst because what we're saying this again. What we've been telling you guys about for years now is zo. Inevitably was going to get in the brokerage business. They had to continue just show value to their shareholders. There's only so many different parallels they could be getting into in the selling agent space selling agent leads space and of course they're going to get to the brokerage business and when they pivoted aggressively towards the buyer space jillian. I said straight up you past. Podcast there is zero chance. They're not gonna be getting into the real estate brokerage business because we knew and you guys should hopefully know by now that one of the primary benefits of the airspace as it turns off a lot of it creates a lot of Seller leads in those seller leads. Then you run an ad for an eye buyer type situation where seller can wholesaler house or sell it at a discount convenience fee as jillian coined it to sell the house without the normal. You know. let's be honest. Hassles of retailing. A house unless sellers are gonna be willing to do that. They had the cash flow and they can maybe leave a couple twenty grand or thirty grand on the table and not have to deal with all the you know the showings and the conditioning of the house. And all that. Yeah a lot of people are gonna be willing to pay that and you should not be surprised because very rarely despite what you might think very rarely is the most important thing to the seller. The price mo- sellers most everyone you included. Listeners are more focused on essentially stress-free convenience hassle free. And you're gonna be more than willing to pay for that. And that's what these i- buyers represent to consumers but our focus has always been agents brokerage the actual real estate industry boots on the ground entrepreneurs of you folks so we've been warning you that it's inevitable that zillow was going to get into the brokerage business and of course they are now in the brokerage business and they're going to be coming to a hypothetical street corner either real or virtual near you sometime soon. It's going to be called zillow homes. This is not made up. This is not speculative it will be zillow homes right and so what is the advantage that zola has in the marketplace huge advantage. Many places in the country people were often refer to searching for a house on line. they don't even say searching their replaced it with the words zillow ing going to zillow zillow has created a really relatively short period of time a stellar brand and from a consumer perspective their interface. And let's give credit where credit is due. They have become a very very effective company. That's servicing consumers right so the consumer interface on their app and their phone is vastly superior to anything else. That's out there including realtor dot com. And you know we can bemoan history. Oh we want to but the reality of it is that is what it is so now that zillow is officially in the brokerage business. And they're going to be competing with you. I want to be very clear case. We have not been clear about this before one of the main benefits of running an eye by our program from a lead generation perspective is. You're going to get a lot of sellers that would consider the buyer be willing to pay the convenience fee then decide not to decide to retail the house. Now a lot of you are aware again. Hopefully you are aware because you've been listening to us. That zillow is then going to be feeding those resale leads to their in-house agents and then they're going to be listing those resales in some markets. They're still selling those leads to agents at like a ridiculous referral th-they but that's going to be ending soon. So what you're going to be looking at is the sea change in the way essentially zillow interacts with you. Because they're taking the gloves off and you're going to see they've had dig gnarly fists hiding underneath those nice little velvet gloves for over fourteen years now and you've just not even wanted to realize it. Now why did you have realized that you just didn't care because you didn't know of any other way to generate your own business because you didn't know how to generate listing leads zillow's achilles heel has always been that they have to essentially piece the real estate industry because at the time they weren't a real estate brokerage and they had then they had like i think was julie fiber hundred or thousand remember individual relationships with individual brokerages to get their individual listings fees. So zora had to go out to the marketplace and go directly to brokers and sort of bypass the whole system so they can have listings on their site but that was a competitive disadvantage them because realtor dot com always had the newest listings. 'cause realtor dot com obviously was plugged into all the molasses. Guys understand
It's a Wonderful Life With Gigi
"All right. Today's interview is released. Special gee-gee langer has been sober for thirty. Four years used a twelve step program but what is so wonderful about. Her story is all of the other resources that she's used to do. Even deeper healing. We talk about energy work. Inner child healing topping Rural linguistic reprogramming. Meditation cranial sacred healing and outta jillian really incredible books to read all of which are linked in the show notes. This is proof that healing goes on forever and that your recovery won't look the same forever. Either she is the author of the book fifty ways to worry less now and is retired in florida with her husband. It was an absolute joy to get to know her. Here's digi langer hygiene. How are you. I am great. I'm so glad to be here. And yeah i'm so excited to be having recovery. Happy hour with you today. Thank you for taking the time to to share your story of recovery. I'm going to start this interview. The same way i start every interview and that is what is your name and your sobriety date and would you have described yourself as a high or low functioning drinker when you were drinking langer smy name and my sobriety date is february. Eleventh nineteen eighty six. And i was still a high functioning. I except in the area of romance in the area romance. I was extremely low functioning. I mean are we ever high functioning their love and logic those two things. Just don't mix well well. Why don't we just say that to other people. It looked like i was high functioning dairy cow. Mary go. I think i'll i think all of the above is super relatable before we get into your story. Tell me real quick just about what you're doing right now where you live. How old you are what you do for a living family hobbies anything like that. I'm retired. And i'm a little over seventy and i live in southwest florida. I grew up outside of chicago area and then travelled all over in my rambunctious years twenties and thirties. And most of my time. I've lived in michigan for the last several years just this summer. My husband and i moved down to florida. We have a little condo here. We have our kitty with us. And i don't have any children. Because i couldn't stay married long enough and snow grandchildren. So yeah life is good. I don't know what else you asked me. I think that hobbies. What do you like to do for fun right now. In south florida. Play a little golf You know. I have a blog and a lot of service work and a a nonprofit. I'm on that helps. Connect women in sobriety and i do a newsletter and i'm working on another a workbook for how to worry less and my husband and i play we. We just have a good time yeah. I'm very grateful that is fantastic. We'll let's get into your story and in five ten minutes or less. Tell us how long you drink. Tell us how long it was a problem and why you decided to stop you know. It really wasn't a problem for a long time in high school. I got drunk really drunk once and got deathly ill and had a blackout and everybody said how fun. I was a couple of times in college. I got drunk and did not stupid things. And and then i got married and started a teaching career and and he didn't really drink so i drank very little toward the end of that that it. It's kind of a long story about that marriage. But anyway i was very desperate at the end and i discovered marijuana so in my you know. Twenty three or so. I discovered that marijuana killed the emotional pain that i was going through. I really preferred marijuana. I could drink about six. Or seven beers. You know and i got through grad school by getting high and at night to ease the stress and it was really when i was around thirty four years. Old let's see. I had already been divorced twice. I was finishing my doctorate. I had gotten through that with the aid of drugs and alcohol just to calm anxiety and And i lived with two other guys long term. And so i met this guy who was different from all the other guys and i thought. Oh this is. The john and i moved to michigan and we got married very fast and within nine months of marrying him. I went to a bar picked up a stranger and he had marijuana and i started having this affair. You know with this guy. And and i went out to bars a couple of more times when my husband was traveling. My third house but my new you know went home with strangers. Finally i went running to a psychologist. I said what is wrong. With this problem. I have a brand new phd from stanford. And i have this private cd life and my professional life is looking better and better in my private life was worse and worse and he said well you're in the early stages of alcoholism you know. He got my family history and He said just try for a month or two. Try having one or two drinks but stopping and see what happens. Well sure enough. I tried to do his experiment. And sometimes i have two drinks and stop just like a normal drinker. Other times i would have the two drinks and then it was third drink and fourth rank and pick up the stranger and do crazy things that no one could get me to leave and eventually it. I could see the pattern very clearly. That if i had even one drink i could not trust myself to do really dangerous things for myself and other people
It's a Wonderful Life With Gigi
"All right. Today's interview is released. Special gee-gee langer has been sober for thirty. Four years used a twelve step program but what is so wonderful about. Her story is all of the other resources that she's used to do. Even deeper healing. We talk about energy work. Inner child healing topping Rural linguistic reprogramming. Meditation cranial sacred healing and outta jillian really incredible books to read all of which are linked in the show notes. This is proof that healing goes on forever and that your recovery won't look the same forever. Either she is the author of the book fifty ways to worry less now and is retired in florida with her husband. It was an absolute joy to get to know her. Here's digi langer hygiene. How are you. I am great. I'm so glad to be here. And yeah i'm so excited to be having recovery. Happy hour with you today. Thank you for taking the time to to share your story of recovery. I'm going to start this interview. The same way i start every interview and that is what is your name and your sobriety date and would you have described yourself as a high or low functioning drinker when you were drinking langer smy name and my sobriety date is february. Eleventh nineteen eighty six. And i was still a high functioning. I except in the area of romance in the area romance. I was extremely low functioning. I mean are we ever high functioning their love and logic those two things. Just don't mix well well. Why don't we just say that to other people. It looked like i was high functioning dairy cow. Mary go. I think i'll i think all of the above is super relatable before we get into your story. Tell me real quick just about what you're doing right now where you live. How old you are what you do for a living family hobbies anything like that. I'm retired. And i'm a little over seventy and i live in southwest florida. I grew up outside of chicago area and then travelled all over in my rambunctious years twenties and thirties. And most of my time. I've lived in michigan for the last several years just this summer. My husband and i moved down to florida. We have a little condo here. We have our kitty with us. And i don't have any children. Because i couldn't stay married long enough and snow grandchildren. So yeah life is good. I don't know what else you asked me. I think that hobbies. What do you like to do for fun right now. In south florida. Play a little golf You know. I have a blog and a lot of service work and a a nonprofit. I'm on that helps. Connect women in sobriety and i do a newsletter and i'm working on another a workbook for how to worry less and my husband and i play we. We just have a good time yeah. I'm very grateful that is fantastic. We'll let's get into your story and in five ten minutes or less. Tell us how long you drink. Tell us how long it was a problem and why you decided to stop you know. It really wasn't a problem for a long time in high school. I got drunk really drunk once and got deathly ill and had a blackout and everybody said how fun. I was a couple of times in college. I got drunk and did not stupid things. And and then i got married and started a teaching career and and he didn't really drink so i drank very little toward the end of that that it. It's kind of a long story about that marriage. But anyway i was very desperate at the end and i discovered marijuana so in my you know. Twenty three or so. I discovered that marijuana killed the emotional pain that i was going through. I really preferred marijuana. I could drink about six. Or seven beers. You know and i got through grad school by getting high and at night to ease the stress and it was really when i was around thirty four years. Old let's see. I had already been divorced twice. I was finishing my doctorate. I had gotten through that with the aid of drugs and alcohol just to calm anxiety and And i lived with two other guys long term. And so i met this guy who was different from all the other guys and i thought. Oh this is. The john and i moved to michigan and we got married very fast and within nine months of marrying him. I went to a bar picked up a stranger and he had marijuana and i started having this affair. You know with this guy. And and i went out to bars a couple of more times when my husband was traveling. My third house but my new you know went home with strangers. Finally i went running to a psychologist. I said what is wrong. With this problem. I have a brand new phd from stanford. And i have this private cd life and my professional life is looking better and better in my private life was worse and worse
"I started our tell them. It's me god. Hey y'all this is lisa and his car and this is pop fashion. Lisa how are you. I'm i'm on the edge of my year car. I ready to fall off a cliff. Twenty twenty clip into an abyss. That's probably secretly a post office. That is a great mental image to start off the show. I appreciate that this is about to fall into a endless pit of male. Excellent corley wraps mail. Yeah that's my entry to. That's what i have to contribute today at. Look into the post office like every other day for the past week. Why did i want so badly to wrap the gifts that i ordered online and then mail them to my family. I see the post office is where i go to lose faith in humanity. I know at such a mailing quagmire right now to. It's harsh out there. They're talking like it's historic level problems with shipping right now so everybody just hang on. Santa will get there when he gets there right. It'll get there but like also if you're y'all bends the post office you're done but just i just want you all to like think of me. Finally when you mentally envision me waiting in line at the post office and the woman behind me. Just talk to me. No and tells me that. Her muscle relaxer made her constipated. This this really truly happens like two days before we're recording. And i was like fuck my line. Wow wow wow lisa why these people engaging in so many reindeer games on my car and gets on the phone today. She's like these reindeer games. Call it everything from now until the end of the season man. My buddy better stop at those reindeer games. You can send that right through january. That's a that's a it's seasonal because it's winter you know reindeer don't just disappear on december twenty six. I ended that. Yes right i mean. They aren't mythical they actually. They're real with that in mind. Should we i mean. Let's talk about some reindeer game right here. So we're going to start with the sing. y'all wanna talk about. Let's on our instagram here. We go anna winter at legit wrote my notes. Anna wintour t. s anna wintour s. She's been editor in chief of us. Vogue for the jillian years like honestly since nineteen eighty eight. That's older than a lot of you. And since two thousand fourteen she's been conde nast. Us artistic director and now she's got a new promotion. All of a sudden conde nast was named her. Its first ever global chief content officer which means that she will oversee all five vogue editions worldwide and all of conde nast brands so that includes chiku new yorker vanity fair bunches of others. It is all an effort to unify u s global segments of the publishing house of conde nast but like anna wintour has not had the easiest year. Cutting ask first of all. He's laying off people. So which is not a good look for the company right and then you're going to promote this woman who like basically runs the media world and whole bunch of black and brown folks. Staffers came out this summer and said that when toward didn't take them seriously over the years that she's been editor she brought to do better but the question in my mind is just. Do we need to just keep giving anna and tour promotions. She still going to be out. Yeah so she's going to oversee all twenty-five vocations worldwide including the us one that she's already editor us and olive conde nast brands like being the. Let's backup. I would like to call this segment the wind tour of my discontent. They give all day to say that to me. No i haven't. But when i start thinking about those reindeer games led me here. We go down this road She's gonna stay to editor vogue. She's doing all this other stuff and goodness knows when you have one job you want seventeen other jobs. One of my guys are hilarious when we put this up on instagram. Because i put up without terry and then you guys just ran with it. We have the best listeners. You guys are so funny so insightful. And so so laser sharp. Just cutting like y'all are are cruel and i like it our listeners. Lauren dropped in. The comments are instagram post. I like how you just dropped. That turned here. That was exactly the one. I thought you were gonna say. Yeah which first of all you know who i am because i just wanted to present without commentary and see what happened I am struggling with understanding. The torah really did have a place in fashion history. That was very important. Juxtaposed with it's time to go. I look back. And i wanted to kind of like look through some dates and i want to remind everybody that this magazine has been around since eighteen ninety two it had its first black person to photograph the vote cover and twenty eighteen twenty eighteen. That is shameful. She cannot say but she's vowing to do better and then nothing changes. I just like i. I can't i'm wrestling with the idea that like. She harnesses power when she wants to. And then this summer when she had an apology. Not i've just basically like not including black and brown people.
"jillian" Discussed on Hellbound with Halos
"I had my thoughts you'd be like it was like like i don't mind it but the trimmers four eat out just i couldn't. I didn't like the extras on the side. Sticking out but if you were to shave then you've got you still got all that you're shaving like a hair dye bear on you at that point clear like you're trying to get it. It stays under there. But then you've got to do the but cheeks cuteness full ordeal. And i was like you know why shaven all off there. You're good shape a little better. So it's actually more triangle. Now i didn't take Is the our literally part say like hey what are you guys get it nap and then rigo realize are things in real time whatnot actually hopefully will go yeah. There's a lot better you know or or convince often do it again. I don't think they fucking care jillian on a win. Some explanations were people. Were just like a one. Get hair my mouth. Oh it looks battery. Looks more groomed like obviously when you might have a triangle and people say for bald. So it's like now it's more about it. I keep doing that. Keep doing like ask. Because i care about was opinions. I know what turns them i want. I want her mom. You're never so. I'm thinking i wanna ask them like. What should i hear darker brown blonde like showing pictures of what other brown.
"jillian" Discussed on Hellbound with Halos
"Like the mandatory It's like some people like it has to be twenty four hours before of the word is like you know you can. It's twenty forty eight to seventy two hours. Security doesn't matter as long as you on that with other but were tested all the united states like it's it's it really just depends on the company you know i feel it's more like the not necessarily Calling them out saying the penthouse in the the that kind of style like those wicked like they're more like okay digital playground because it's like a bigger production like everyone has every single day a gong. The only two or three people are on this. Like it's still like sure like. I'm not going to work with you on as your kobe. But if you're coverage has done you got Last day or two n were people that were cova tested bench. I think it jillian. You made a good point. Because i think that is a misconception with you guys. In general i was talking to cindy star fall about this people. Get the impression that you're porn star so you'd just you'll fuck anybody. Well no because if you were in the studio right now and you said you know kevin. I'm gonna fuck you tonight. Milk then we fuck and then you know. I have some stupid us. Td that's your career right. So you re responsible for ruining my career right right. So that's the thing it's like it's no different with covid like and you okay. You probably won't die from covert. I think we all know that now but you still will be out of work for possibly potentially weeks at a time and like you said it may not necessarily in a sense right. You may not necessarily be about the money that you gotta you know but you have bills know just like everybody fucking out so resources you know which is back in the day it was just kinda when a moratorium would happen is like oh. She was an icu diapers each. When did i work with them. Like you were out. He's kinda like okay you now go keenum save. I'm good all right. So now as a webcam or i'll act shows role. Do custom like you find another way to you know obviously now more than ever luckily their sex dancer only fans and stuff like that like really keep us flow in situations like this and whatnot. You know so. Yeah i think the. I think the coronavirus actually helped only fans. 'cause that motherfucking platform blew up. It blew it did help in that like a lot of like celebrities. Were kinda like getting word of it. But in a sense i feel it brought in a lot more like fans but i feel like all those fans went. Then you know kind of like..
"jillian" Discussed on Hellbound with Halos
"What i'm talking about these things you never know like i. I'm someone who. I have all these ideas and all these things in my head and you don't really know who's listening sometimes even the one person you're talking to they might not even be listening but you're listening you don't realize that stuff just comes out. Wait what you're saying omega my god that down numerous i need you remember this. That comes to me as a lot of ideas like when it comes to just making videos or sure what outfits or women achieve for the day like just in general like i can't. I can't even imagine what it's like to be you or even an adult. A successful adult film. I want to be is normal bills. I have problems. I totally get that jillian. Would i mean is a lot different when you can express yourself one hundred percent with somebody and not have any like you wanna make me like success. Someone to hide something because they don't want someone to know that. Oh they're weird because they have wedge fee or something by that person probably has such a foot fetish that die so cool that they love that you know it's like you never know until you release the beast against but you so i have a production business on the side and i do videos videography photography all that stuff. I have a pretty creative mind. I was in advertising and marketing for ten plus years before i decided at rescue cats out of trees and i struggle to think like i talked to some models new idea. You know i was thinking about doing this shooter. That or or what do you think. Or i'll let you come up with it and i'm like fuck no i got to think of like i was resonating with you on that point where you were saying you gotta constantly think of new videos and such to do for whatever site you wanna do it for and that ain't know i commend you for that because i can speak first hand that i know even on this scale that it's very difficult so i can't even begin to imagine you trying to entertain hundreds of thousands if not millions of fans and come up dry. Sometimes it'd be like fuck i just. I just don't know all right. I'm going to use this dildo tonight or whatever you really don't even have to read the outrageous like crazy doing all of the other stand against type things like when it comes down to a certain point like you can literally just be laying there doing nothing with nothing on and love it up. I've come to realization. Aki get in certain y leg. It's different. I feel i feel for the girls that are getting in now that while. Luckily we had a vietnam era. You know but like again this year next year is going to be virtual says like the whole vibe is going to be totally different like people when it comes to girls. You've got feel the whole like like everything you have to feel the meeting. Thing ounce the dressing up the hanging out with all the girls doing content with them like you have to experienced civil thing in lega just setting like girls. Don't get experience that will we to experience five years ago or whatever like people were.
"jillian" Discussed on Hellbound with Halos
"What do they do when you first start. Get to the buffy. You start throwing the ball with your with the other teammates you go to a fucking yankees game today. And what do they do. They start by throwing the ball to their teammates. Some things never change regardless of whether year in this job or that job. It's responsibility in what you do to improve yourself in. Life in general in a lot of people don't contribute that day you have to learn from if you're not learning from the problem it's like you doing the same thing over number even if you're doing it over to the each time changing a little different at least it's like progress compared to just constantly doing the same thing of the past times i now with when it comes to just quarantine in general or just what is going on but responsibility to me before like me the more now than it did like i totally understand it. I i i was. I had what i needed to succeed in the now if the failing and it's like now you know in hanau working up the ladder against exceeding you know it's like even when you get that that disbelieve for that just you just don't wanna do it anymore you don't wanna get outta bed just constantly want to drink or just discounting wants noga's that you have to have some kind of like it would. They knew that says don't do get up out of bed. You know like certain things like routine you know. Even if it wasn't before like make it your routine now like giving university for do things you've been meaning to do for a while. I was traveling so much and it was wonderful but i. I also neglected the people that i was taking care of at home like my fans that had emailed me or wanted to send them something or this or that and i was so busy that all that just kept piling up he. I was able to take care of all onto breathing. You know so. It's like knockin focused on. I have sites i wanted. I still wanna focus on his face. I wanna do like on top of that..
"jillian" Discussed on Hellbound with Halos
"Personal life via her onlyfans and fans can also watch hardcore videos of the starlet keeping up with her live appearances interact with the accessible performer on a personal level. She's got a store for personal merchandise. Jillian janssen xxx dot com. We had a great talk. It wasn't all about sex. A lot of it was about life. She's a cool girl. So ladies and gentlemen please welcome jillian. Janssen own alan ward. You don't funny. Joey is a lot of people. Do that it's great. Because it's anticipation right. I mean you don't know exactly when i'm gonna say three to one you don't know you don't know when i'm going to say it but either way we just spent a half there was like i hop up over your face. I couldn't actually equally here. You so a delay. That's kind of why. I actually it and it would have been perfect all right. Well i'll tell you what your your perfect because you're absolutely beautiful number one And we just spent the last half hour while not half hour maybe twenty minutes shooting the shit trying to use it different a different platform trying to get that run in. We both couldn't figure it out but it is what it is the twenty twenty porn star of the freaking year. I don't think that how. how does it feel. I mean it's gotta be somewhat humbling. It is 'cause. I don't really feel it so i guess if you like were you know i guess like big headed about. It was always talk about always like it's not though it's like i just. I know who. I am comfortable with myself and i love sharing it with everyone in i love. You will share things with me so it's just like a give give you know kinda situation so right. That's back anything i just. I just live my life right. You know. I was reading something. Because i was gonna. I was gonna complain to tonight. 'cause that's what i tend to complain a lot. I need to get better at this any being. I'm forty two right. I i gotta get better at this than life. But i was gonna complain to you tonight because everyone i talked to that fucking l. a. They got this nice weather..
IKEA greenhouse cabinets
"Keeping tropical plants. Happy in the average home is not the easiest thing so many of us resort to things like humidifiers in an attempt to keep that humidity up but in recent years. Lots of gross have been turning to the jillian swedish superstar kia for a solution to their problem turning book standard glass cabinets into beautiful indoor greenhouses for their precious plants. So how did this trend begin. What benefits can it. And how do you go about doing it. My cabinet ministers for today to canadian plonk growers cami and vinnie both of whom have tons of expertise in making awesome ikea cabinets. He is cammy. Who's cami plants on instagram. To explain how she first came across the concept. The first time i saw it was Instagram page in By robin and she used to have this wonderful idea set up where she had to a male. Spo cabinet in fabric four cabinet and it looks really nice In i had like one of those plastic greenhouses where i kept my more rare plants in iraq. Like the idea of having something that will showcase the plants and and looked nice in a room but also help with To preserve the environment that they need to thrive so that. That's where i found that. I founded in instagram. Maybe a year and a half ago or so and also found my friend vinnie. Who had his set up all sorted and we actually met. Because i started setting up mine Through instagram and he was showing me Tips and to do it. And that's how we connected mills boat and fabric as i key products. The names seemed to come out of nowhere. But if you've ever seen an instagram post with a cabinet with glass doors and walls and a metal frame and a fair number of arrowheads stuffed inside. Then the likelihood is it's probably one of these items because they are sold in their millions all around the world but what did these cabinets offer. The makes them so much better than well set of shelves. Cammie believes it's all down to the control. They give you over the volume of your plants. We all are getting into this expensive rare plants right now and in order to keep them a thriving. We have to keep their environment to a certain standard. Right humidity lied air circulation. And it's harder to keep that into a perfect level when we are dealing with hundreds of square foot of over home and if you keep the the whole room super humid in our house you know we are prone to mold and things like that so the cabinets are perfect solution that looks nice in our homes and is not like one of those plastic agreeing Houses a weekend by online so it looks aesthetically. Pleasing is easy to rig into something that the plants will like and they're not super expensive because he's i key is something that you can get. You know in a lot of places in the world right now and so. It's accessible is not super expensive and it keeps your plants happy so i think that's why and if your house is already filled with modern furniture with clean lines possibly some of it both my career. Then what bet is display your plants in than a minimalist modern cabinet like mills bu or fabric for his binney for most people. It's because it becomes a statement peace within your home if that makes any sense. Even when i made my first videos i mentioned that that you know you have those amazon. Greenhouses your plastic in your technically better than the greenhouses their meddle in. And you have to hack it so that it can become a greenhouse but they don't look good in your house so i think that is that is the primary factor for most people. They want to put their plans. Some display as part of the decoration of their house instead of just putting it behind some sort of plastic sheet. That people won't be able to see it through. That will look good in their leaving roles. Obviously a social media plays a huge factor. You know as people build more and more is being held in start posting photos voice. Start to see how beautiful they are in. Its sitter in that. I believe this popularity in to of buying even though sometimes they don't even need them they just by because look good. So you've bought your cabinet and assembled it what next can just start sticking plots in it or is there anything else he needs to do. Well given these companies are not specifically designed to contain plants. There are a few little tweaks that you'll need to make before your plants can become ensconced so the first thing that in each fear is the light whether your room has enough light to sustain that them growing or if you do need to bring in those extra lights i would say that if you are going to bring the grow lights definitely invest in girl is there are going to withstand time but also they they have a very good spectrum so that the the lead the plants grow in the right way. I also answered this question you might. 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"jillian" Discussed on Whine Down with Jana Kramer
"Oh my gosh it's crazy. That's what's messed with my hat me personally. But just give yourself a little grace. Because you're not the only mom feeling that you're truly not I mean it's just you're doing the best that you can and you're you're doing the best that you can and you're also still trying to provide your family. Which is you know. I think that's why we're stressed out of here because my crap like everything's canceling in psych. How are we going to provide for our kids and you know just give them give? Monster cuddles at night and they're they're GONNA be appreciative and they're going to know that you you know you were just doing what was best for them. I love you for saying that. It's like you know we're exactly that it's like we're all trying and I said to my my ex today. Who's still like a very close friend and an incredible cope and I was like do summer school and she was like how dare you. I'm killing this and you know this is where she sean. So thank God. But she's still has the kids half the time and I was like if they have to go to summer school. They have to go to summer school. Like I feel terrible. You know they don't want to but I am not a teacher I. She's not a teacher. Like this is just not. There's no way this is normal. Fourth Grade Second Grade or whatever grade your kid is in so it's like you're right it's like you you love your kids you do the best you can. And and it's just trying to kind of reconcile that and finding this new normal for how long this is GonNa take and here in La. We just got a notice and it was like schools. Not Going back quote indefinitely and quote. And you're just like so many parents but you know what we all have at least seven minutes so. I need every single one of you guys to download Jillian michaels APP. She offers I mean obviously more than seven minutes. Do but if you have seven minutes get your body moving. It's GonNa make you feel better because Julian I was depressed in bed so upset and the second I got outside did some physical activity and worked out. I felt so much better and I know you guys will too so get out there. Download her APP and Jillian. Thank you for being honest and thank you for just being you. I love you guys. Thank you for having me and I. I really appreciate it. And it's just nice to talk to people in connect giving you a hug through the microphone and and and I'm just saving stay healthy like you happening to him but guys everyone then bullet here host of stuff. They want you to know in ridiculous. History as a podcast. Does I am constantly reading and researching for upcoming episodes but even I need an occasional break so when I feel like I need some kind of mental pallet cleanser. My GO-TO REFRESHER IS THE MOBILE PUZZLE. Game best fiends. That's fiends not friends. Best fiends is a puzzle game. You can play right on your phone. It's pretty cool because you go through all these levels solving challenging puzzles that actually engage your brain but it's a casual game that anyone can play and it's actually Super Fun. The great thing about it is that it doesn't take much time but it's great because it fills up those moments where you wish you had something to do..
"jillian" Discussed on Whine Down with Jana Kramer
"Jillian. Hey how are you gonNa have you on again? Hi Robbie me my gosh. Of course I was just reading your breakdown about your APP and seven minutes just sounds amazing like we were trying to figure out like what we could ask people to do right now. You know because the kids are all everything's crazy and we were like all right seven minutes. Everybody can commit to seven minutes so we use their free. You download the APP and anyone can do it at home. No equipment needed seven minutes in heaven. Concerned know about that but seven minutes. Jillian does that include like any warm up or just seven minutes start to finish. Let's go seven minutes start to finish. Let's go but the idea the hope is that you will. Maybe you like is three minute. Cardio warm up and a three minute stretch on your own. But ironically like I didn't Kinda come up with seven minutes in a vacuum. It's all based on data. So as kind of micro workouts in many workouts have risen to popularity. That number seems to be the magic number so we were like all right. It's the least barrier eventually right. There's no charge. You don't have to travel. You don't need any equipment. It's not too hard. It's not too easy. It gives people a sense of accomplishment. It's like this. Little seven minute micro break and that really kind of his like a gateway drug. You can hope it's like a gateway working to get people to do more but that does seem to be kind of the number that they can manage right now but it's not so crazy that you if you don't warm. You're going to get hurt like we're not doing Olympic lifts or planned metrics like it. It's just body weight training Calisthenics using body weight. So yes. I'd love more but it's seven minutes all in right now. Do you Kinda get frustrated. That that's the limit seven minutes because I don't want to. I hope people don't take this the wrong way but I think a seven minutes and I'm like it sounds amazing to like my to my laziness and to just also know that okay at least seven minutes but like that. Don't they recommend thirty and it's like shouldn't we all be trying to do more than that? Do you know what I mean like me well. Let's do more. I mean three years when I was younger. I used to get furious. People would say things like just take the stairs and I was like. We're talking to guarantee that I realized that like you. You know you Kinda gotTa meet people where they're act so I mean look. Yeah I've got twenty minute. Workouts THIRTY MINUTE WORKOUTS. Forty five minute workout. Sixty minute work. Which is totally unnecessary to be honest. Like twenty to thirty minutes done right four times a week will be more than more than effective. Especially when you're eating right but unfortunately or with maybe that's the wrong word because I don't WanNa make anybody feel bad but the reality is people. I think are judged overwhelmed over worked. They're intimidated and they're they've they can say anything from. I don't have the money I don't have the time. I don't have the equipment. So there's something about these little micro workouts that you think are I. I can do that. It doesn't sound horrible. It doesn't sound miserable. So yes he kinda get him in the door with that and then hopefully it does become a bait and switch. So it's like you know Grad. Let's try you know. Give me just a few or And you you hope to acclimate them introduce them get them a base level of conditioning. Get them comfortable with carving out some time And then you get like good. Get him like toity minute And and again if Don Right. Twenty minutes world work But you know you gotta you gotTa make every minute that those twenty minutes counts but that that is the goal right. Is We start with. Something's better than nothing. Get them in the door. Warm them up acclimate them and then you know then you kind of do that. Bayton switch of like all right. Now Gimme Gimme a little bit more. So basically you're seven minutes is like a way to were. There's no justifiable. Excuse around that's like we're not using weights. It doesn't cost you anything. It's only seven minutes. What excuse could somebody possibly come up with to say that? They can't do seven minutes because their kids are in school right. Wow always saying excuse. I totally I totally agree with you. And the argument there is like look. You know what you give them the ipod. You use the apparent for ten minutes or you know they jump around behind you do it with you. We have yet. I've tried that so many times and it it. It really doesn't seem to work in my household I look at my daughter. She's like you in either doing something totally wrong. And I'm like the trainer in me like No. No no no. No no no no no. No No. Don't do that. You're going to get so I finally. I'm like okay. You know what I'm GonNa work it out. Here's your IPAD and we'll play later But I I just don't think right now the concept of being perfect it anything with laughable before this moment now it's it's downright hilarious like forget it like home schooling than the other. It's just not going to be perfect. You do the best you can and if you give your kid in Ipod for ten minutes twenty minutes thirty minutes while you work out the world is not GonNa End. I totally hear you on that I do have an excuse. That is a lot that I would love to to figure out why I don't like working out by myself. I hate it like I truly don't like in an even when I if I were to go on an APP Mike trainer hasn't happened it. I'd go on there and I'm like man like you know. She says to do three rounds. And I'm like I'm good but if I had someone else in there if like my husband Mike was in the gym or if like my friends I'd be like all right guys thirty more swats like let's do this. I just don't like working out alone and it really sucks because I don't really have as many like you active like let's go get. Let's go go do it. So it's just it's like. Is that like what's wrong with me? Why like what are WHA? How can I change that like mindset? There's nothing wrong with you. There's a reason it's called fit Bam you know what I'm saying like this. There's a reason this stuff is like church for people because it does provide a sense of community and Camaraderie and we're all in this together and I mean it it. It's a huge industry group. Classes all like for a reason it's because about social component right So there's nothing wrong with you. You're you're actually wired perfectly correctly human beings designed to be social And what I would say is in this. Particular instance try. If you're the instagram live workouts. Kinda suck I started doing warn justice Sunday and thirty Pacific and in my mind and migrate. This is ridiculous like I don't know if they can hear me. I don't know if the music is like. Can you hear me over the music? Like I can't see what they're saying. I'm trying to instruct a workout like it's on a tiny little phone. I don't think this constructed the TV but you know what the people loved it because it gave them wasn't as a trainer. Of course I was annoyed. Because it's like it's not perfect as a trainer. It's like I wanna hear everything. See everything I want your feedback. I want to know what you're doing and even my APP allows that 'cause you can say too hard too easy. Don't want this move. Don't like these foods and then you'll get the response. I would give you in real life but on instagram like. I don't know what they're doing but I think people love it because even though it's not perfect is giving you a sense of like we're all this together. We're all doing this at the same time for sure. Okay I'll I'll I'll give that a shot or trying to do your friends. We OUGHT ZOOM. Zoom is going crazy now right like you do with like five friends and throw up a video that you're doing at the same time seriously. That's not bad Jillian. How you doing with this personally like obviously your profession. Your whole world is is active in doing these kinds of things. So how how are you feeling just like on a daily basis? Are you going stir crazy? I mean I know you can still get outside. But you're still limited with what you can do. You know it's interesting. I on one hand. I WanNa be like we got this and it's okay and don't worry team but on the other hand I feel like that would be false and while I know it's going to be okay and while I know that there is a great lesson and opportunity for each and every one of us to grow from this and become better. I think it's important to acknowledge that this is the ultimate like it is just such an incredible head. I don't know your got so everybody I know is having pretty intense feelings about very different things so it could be a couple. That's been married for ten years and never had a fight and now they're at each other's throats and Y- their home all day long together and it's totally bizarre. It could be that. You've lost your job where you have a hair salon with forty thousand dollars a month overhead and you can't pay your bills for the first time and you don't know where the next meal is coming from. It could be that you have older parents that you're extremely worried about. It could be that your kids are home. I mean for me. It's it's the kids it's been really not my kids. Actually here's the crazy part. My kids have actually been fine if mean feeling guilty because I still have work and in fact I have more work than ever right now. Because it's like I've got so many different businesses and some are being impacted by this badly summer doing fine like my APP. But then it's like I've gotta constantly feed that beast with new content and free content and slash the price and do all different. It's just I'm busier than ever workwise. And the other day I literally was like. Oh my God it's one thirty. I haven't seen my daughter. She's in her room in a dark room in her pajamas. Shazad lunch and I was like. Oh God like it was the worst feeling I was like. I'm neglecting her and I am. I'm ignoring her and I am. It's terrible for her. She's like not around her friend. She's this home. School thing is a joke flat out joke. At least my kids schools and they go to different schools. And it's like that to me is really messing with my head. Manav. I'm not the only mom walked with my mom's this morning and they're all struggling because they felt guilty like they weren't being good enough parents so you're not alone and thank you for sharing honesty for sure it's tough. Oh my gosh it's crazy. That's what's messed with my hat me personally. But just give yourself a little grace. Because you're not the only mom feeling that you're truly not I mean it's just.
"jillian" Discussed on Whine Down with Jana Kramer and Michael Caussin
"Jillian. Hey, how are you? Have you on again? Hi. Robbie me my gosh. Of course, I was just reading your breakdown. About your APP and seven minutes just sounds amazing. Like. We were trying to figure out like what we could ask people to do right now. You know because. The kids are all. Everything's crazy and we were like all right seven minutes. Everybody can commit to seven minutes, so we use their free. You download the APP and anyone can do it at home. No equipment needed seven minutes in heaven. Michael. I don't know about that, but seven minutes. Jillian. Does that include like any warm up or just?.
"jillian" Discussed on Whine Down with Jana Kramer and Michael Caussin
"Groundhog Day. Why. Because like we said last week every day seems like it's the same. Well on a positive note, because I'm GonNa be Positive Patty and not negative Nancy over there negative. Statement, okay well. This is a little extra added episode and pumped about that because it's a beautiful day out Nashville. And it's just feel like a good day, and we've got Jillian michaels calling in any second, and I love her so much. She was from the biggest loser, and she's bad ass, and she's GonNa. Get us all in shape because Lord knows I've just been going to the pantry every two seconds because. There's nothing else to do. But it's been really fun. What have you guys been doing to like? Stay in shape and stay fit during because you guys are in incredible shape Everyone knows that way you noon. Stay active during this time where you stuck inside bars up curling chicken nuggets. My Man. Matter I mean Nigeria said it has been. A, lot of trips to the pantry and the refrigerator, but. Because we have a home gym. and. It's starting to get nice out. Janna walks like almost every day. And then she's more consistent Niane but I get my workouts in a couple of times a week in the garage, so we're making the most of it. I mean I've been working on a lot. Actually feel you know as much as I've been eating I. Feel pretty good about how much been working out and going for walks and just like being as active as I can be because I can either sit my bad all day and be depressed and not do anything or I can move my body, and I can be outside, and I can go for walks and I can. You WanNA facetime my trainer and I can. I can choose that rather than being depressed in bed, and I chose I've chosen bed a few days, but I've chosen getting out and exercising a lot more when it's felt issues I don't know every time I work I just feel better I being outside, and just there's so many things that like I've rearranged. You know my linen closet and I've organized than I've you know I? Have a few other things that I probably wouldn't be able to do. During this time of. We're all working just because there's something more important that I. Would have been doing? We've been cooking, but with the house projects. Yeah, we've been doing really good job, so it's been nice to to get out and do things..
"jillian" Discussed on Whine Down with Jana Kramer
"These when we really talk detoxing that's the job of your liver. Nothing else is doing that. Except your long your liver your Spain. It's not sweating. It's not starvation and not eating it's making sure those organs function optimally and keeping your liver prime to the little bit of alcohol actually helps you do that at read one has a lot of antioxidants and polyphenyls didn't like raspberry trawl to help fight free radicals. So you're you're doing fine there can we drink lined together. Sometime. I would love to. Yes. That's janice. Happy she set for the day. She she's needed to know that she can hang out with you. And also justify her wine drinking. Houthi? Right. And that's in. That's the thing to brings me to my question. Jillian is obviously so many people cross the country, especially during the month of January. You know, new year new me and all that stuff. They want to die. They went to work out. What is your advice from your profession year experience for someone you know, who is trying to change their eating habits or workout habits? What's their advice? What's vice for them to stick to it? Okay. I I would say a balanced approach one that isn't too extreme one way or another. Whether it's fitness or food is not only better for you. But it's more sustainable, but the second thing is at the end of the day anything with having right? Whether it's a flourishing career, healthy relationship. A healthy body is going to require work and some sacrifice. But if you have a y you can tolerate the how and the how is the work on the sacrifice associated with the goal. And that's what we say like work with a purpose because passion, but work without purpose. Just feels punishing. I think we were to feel punishing up by the stressors of our daily lives, you really gonna stop and think how is my life gonna improve go to the gym for twenty minutes day instead of just going home and picking up takeout and sitting on the couch towards my favorite show. Because it sounds good to me in this moment. And I mean like. Details is it meeting. Your kids kids looking good in a wedding dress. Is it wearing a two piece instead of a one piece is it sex with the lights on which I happen to think is greatly overrated. But you know, what it's about the day from us. You want out our option, right? Did does it matter? What the reasoning is along as you care about it. Right. And if you care enough, you'll do the work, and it won't be or if it that's fantastic. And so it relaying that message everybody. What's your y every day, Jillian, like what motivates you to do the work that you do across the board? I I have so many, right? I of course, now like you guys I have young kids, and I wanna be around for them. I wanna meet their kids. I would love to meet their kids kids. I wanna sit an example from my kids. I wanna be the mom that's like powerful and strong and on the ski slopes with them shooting hoops with them not like on the sideline, you know, kind of with a soda in my hand, not that I judge any of the parents. But for my kids, I wanna be in their lives not on the sidelines of their lives. And I want to show them. Okay. To make time for yourself. It's okay. To make yourself a priority. Because then you're better able to support other people so family, of course, it'd be number one. And you know, like any other human I wanna look good. I would be good about my body and feel comfortable in my own skin. I wanna wear skinny jeans and feel good in them. And I think there's anything wrong with that. And it doesn't mean you shouldn't feel good at any size. I personally feel better when I'm size for beating..
"jillian" Discussed on 790 KABC
"Drive home with Jillian barberie and John Phillips. And a very happy Wednesday to you with three. Oh, six in the Barranco casino resort and spa studios. John Phillips here until six o'clock in the evening. And I almost said a very happy Monday to you. Because it feels like a free. Good monday. Visit not. Yesterday felt like a Sunday because what did you do you were hung over? Yeah. I know you were not being but. You know, I'm going to show a certain amount of courtesy here. And then you watch football all day, and you stuffed your pie hall. And that's typically what you do on a Sunday. It's not what you do on a Tuesday. But since it was July first that means all the ball games are on a Tuesday instead of a Saturday or Sunday. So we watch football yesterday. And we had this lazy day where we just ate Nate Nate Nate until we exploded like the stave puff marshmallow, man. And then you wake up this morning, and you have to go back to work and you say to yourself. Okay. It's a Monday. No, no, no today is a Wednesday so happy Wednesday. Happy hump day of the week is already almost halfway over already. So if you're driving home from work, all you have is two more days until the next weekend. So I'm happy to be back from the break and want to give you a Gillian update before we get started on today's program, as you know, if you listen to the last Friday show of the year when I was here, and it was Steve Edwards and Dorothy Lucy sitting in with me, we spoke with Jillian and Jillian had just spoken to her on colleges. And she was getting an update on everything that was going on with her cancer and her health situation, and the doctor gave her some news that was not new. She probably wanted to hear definitely not new. She. Wanted to hear he told her that the cancer was a stage three cancer instead of a stage to cancer that her chemo would be five months long instead of three months long with an additional six weeks of radiation. And they wanted her to take tests to see if the cancer has spread to her bones and her liver today, she's taking the tests to find out if the cancer had spread to her bones, and she's actually at cedars right now undergoing those tests she's been tweeting about it pretty much all day. So if you wanna go on Twitter, and send her well wishes you can do that at ask Jillian, and she'll be able to read all of those text messages, and she has been tweeting associates definitely reading what it is that you're sending to her, and I'm sure those would be much appreciated again. It's ass Jillian on Twitter. So sending lots of love lots of thoughts. Lots of prayers up Las Vegas boulevard to Jillian now. One of the things that happens when you're on break. And you are around family of your around friends, and you're dealing with people you probably don't deal with on a regular basis, you let your hair down instead of cooking at home. You go out to eat. You're seeing people you haven't seen in a while. And I wanna tell you a story that happened to me at brunch. Over the holiday break that I thought was one of the most fantastic things ever. So I'm at this brunch. With a couple of friends, and it's at a golf course. And at this particular golf course, they have live music every Sunday where you can sit there, and you can eat your eggs, and there's a different act up, and they have a stage, but it's primarily just a piano, and then maybe there's room for a guitarist in a couple of people, but there's live music every week. And the singer that was performing this week, I'm unaware of her name. And that really upsets me, and you'll know why a little bit, but she was an older lady. And by that I'd say maybe early seventies. She had gray hair that was essentially in a mullet which were very popular in the nineteen eighties. If you don't know what a mullet is rent Joe dirt or pull that up on your net flicks. So she had the mullet, and then she was wearing this red satin robe with black trim almost like a robe that a boxer would wear when a boxer would be walking to the ring before the boxing match starts. And there are six people in the restaurant because I got there kind of early. And when you get there kind of early for brunch. You're the only one there. So they're six people there. Three people at my table three additional people. And then this woman and one additional musician. That's performing. So she starts to play on the piano. She starts to tickle the ivories. And then she decides that she's going to start belting out some songs because that's what singers dill and the audio equipment isn't working. So she spends the first thirty minutes of the concert, cursing out the Ottawa equipment, which is fine. Whatever the audio equipment. Not working. You're supposed to curse out. That's what you do. The next thing that happens after the first thirty minutes of cursing out the audio equipment is she starts playing faintly and talking to the crowd. And she delivers one of my favorite lines of all time. The line was I just got out of Facebook jail. For telling the truth. And then never explains what it is that she said, and we sat there through the whole meal thinking, I wonder what it is that she did to get thrown in Facebook jail. And I thought well, should I go up and ask her and find out because it was really bothering me. It was driving me crazy that I didn't know what this woman said. And I decided in my infinite wisdom not to do that because it had to be something completely insane. Because people put crazy stuff up on Facebook all the time, and they never get kicked off. So to do something to get kicked off. It had to be something akin to denying sandy hook happened. It had to be maybe holocaust it out something on that level had to be on her Facebook page for her to get kicked off. And I never went up to her and Astor I should have. And I've regretted it every since but never never asked. What you've been kicked Facebook, by the way for putting something up there. I would love to know what it takes to get kicked off these days because she just said that she got kicked off for telling the truth. Also, Elizabeth Warren. The Senator from the state of Massachusetts has announced that she's exploring the idea of running for president. And she did what a lot of candidates are doing including Alexandria, Cossio Cortez. And that is she put a video up from her kitchen where she sitting there drinking a cold one. Let's go ahead and listen to Elizabeth Warren. I'm gonna.