20 Episode results for "Jena"

Happy Thanksgiving Week!

Office Ladies

02:07 min | 1 year ago

Happy Thanksgiving Week!

"Hi there it's Angela. At Jena. Happy Thanksgiving Week. Yeah happy Thanksgiving week guys. We are going to take this week off. Don't be he may add. We're GONNA come back next week with an amazing episode. It's the Dundee's you know something. I was thinking though Angela is. was there ever a Thanksgiving episode of the office. I don't think so I don't think there was. There's Christmas and Valentine's Day and Halloween Halloween. So this is just right. Maybe he had to take the week off. Maybe it's perfect. We have family coming in to visit jenness hosting this year for her family. So you're going to be super busy. You're going to be cooking and just busy. Yeah we do something called. Thanks Miss my family. Gets altogether Thanksgiving and we celebrate Thanksgiving and Christmas. I decorate my living room for Christmas. We wake up in the morning. We Open presents and then we move into the dining room which is decorated for Thanksgiving. And we have a big meal. I love that I love it. We rented a cabin in the woods. That's your happy place. That is our happy place. We'd like to get out in nature so we're going to be a road trip in packing it up in the minivan lots of snacks and head into the forest. So that's I don't even know if I'm GONNA have Internet. I probably won't don't but that's probably a good thing. You'll be totally unplugged. Oh you're gonNA love that. I WANNA do a puzzle. I Love Puzzles Angelou. I want to be like in the forest hiking doing a puzzle title but so we just wanted to wish you guys very happy Thanksgiving and just know that we're thinking about you and thank you for being part of our journey. We did not know what we were. We're doing when we started this. We just knew we wanted to work together. We knew we love the office and we wanted to share our memories with you and your support has just been so amazing thank you. We're really really enjoying this. And it's really largely due to you guys like your enthusiasm and support your questions or so fun to read. Yeah and your comments and all of it so thank you guys so much. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your family and friends and everyone out there. Just no you got to office ladies sending the new some love and we'll see you next week for the Dundee's.

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Jena Friedman

Adult Swim Podcast

48:50 min | 11 months ago

Jena Friedman

"From Atlanta somewhere near William Street. This was the adult swim. Podcast today. April ninth twenty twenty. I'm Matt Harrigan with me again today. Maxime semi welcome Max. It's come to my attention that I've suddenly come on this podcast. And if people don't know who I am I just seem like some random fan boy at least in the first episode. Gush meet fucking factory and the three busy. You're often mostly gushing about your own show. No one knew who I was Matt. Should we introduce you introduce yourself Maxime Simone? I just showed up on the podcast right now. My credits include one person on read it saying I should be fired for calling something for calling a production of a rick and morty episode. I didn't paper costumes poor person. Rick and Morty. That should continue. That should continue. Someone made a video of it on instagram recently. Which was really funny. Was that like that that clip of Rick. And morty were Rick says a bunch of catchphrases did it but composite. J. As morty in me is rick in constant I there was also a reddit comment few years back that said Dave Bonowitz and I were the worst thing to happen to Turner Broadcasting Really. Yeah wow it was one person. You can't please everyone you know that one person has representative of more people. So it's likely through one cockroach. There's there's more Baha Matt how do you deal with pleasing people as a content creator because I feel like I start thinking back and forth a lot of time about accessibility like how to bring people into the door and make them interested in something without sacrificing? What makes you you know and messing around with new art styles for shows because I as people probably saw in the game set clip? I'm completely changing? The arch style. But also I want to capture a similar feeling. I don't know is that. How does that go in? Like when you were making AC- or one talking to them making. Tom Goes to the mayor or anything like that. How do you guys think about like what are People GonNa like? What's you know makes us unique? I don't know where to start with it. We should start including you on some of these conversations that I've been having with these creators so you can ask. These questions of them like can do the younger people and you can do the older people. What do you mean while? Do the ones like you know under thirty five. I'll do the older people. Yeah why do you think I have a different now kidding? I'm kidding I thought you've done great on all of these interviews. Oddly enough. They interviewed I felt like was one of the most comfortable I for. Un even though there's a few things that were thrown as you at Zingers felt like or you were you were unsettled. I felt especially in the beginning. You're just maybe because you know Jenna pretty well. I just felt like very comfortable and I liked easier when these things are done in person. Just be guess. She's real nice. She's friendly funny in Or last two or like Joe Para was over the phone and he's already awkward and slink is cool but like he's almost statuesque in is the way he emotes like almost like it's hard for you to get in on it and that's not bad but like it's like it felt like you're on the sidelines of him as a spectacle. I really liked genus. Show US Tony before the recording. I've said this before that specifically the McAfee interview. I sent to some my college friends which I don't do a lot with content from us just because I don't WanNa feel like a brand she'll unless it's something I'm making I think they'd like But I'm not like sending Mr pickles episodes a robot chicken clips to my college friends but a few of them. Like you gotTA check this out. I think this is so good. And it's also very much my mom and my dad though they are divorced and countries apart right now I think they really like Jon Stewart stuff and I know she happens in that world. I think they always wanted me to do something like that. I had them over last October. My mom and her husband and showed them the John McAfee interview Jenna Freedman soft-focus. Certainly the mark of something good is if you want to send it to people. Yeah I mean I think it's similarly interesting as tiger king which is now in the Zeitgeist so big. I feel like that specific interview has shades of that like where you're watching this large train wreck of a person. Yeah what was fun about this interview at the end? There's a little bit of a interactively with social media that pops up that has since been resolved. But I don't WanNa spoil anything real quick. Let's dip into the Sultan podcast mailbag adults in podcast. Gmail.com a compliment from Wayne Butler. I'll take it. It's amazing how many podcasts come up short on sound quality and editing even groups that no better and have the best equipment like NPR and CBS HAHA NPR and CBS. Thanks to Tina Lawrence Dave Bonowitz. They're the ones who made this Sound so good. Another email from Sterling Morrison cove. It isn't a virus. He's actually an asshole wearing a polka. Shell necklace. I don't what that means. Okay we get all kinds of mail another email from Jena. We'll just say Jenna I enjoy the job para episode. You did recently. That's great warm. Velvety smooth voices and I felt like I was wrapped in a heated blanket while listening. Finally Dylan's Salazar. Poor for Voronezh Spaniel Latino. Okay Beef House three busy. Deborah's programming note. Continue Sundays at midnight Hopefully we'll be able to get some of the doors on the podcast and we talked to them about it. I'd love that but today we're going to hear from Jena Friedman. She's done a couple of specials for adult swim soft-focus with Gender Friedman Max You liked the show enough to send to your parents. Yeah have we mentioned on the show way I wanna I wanNA say three busy efforts saying if you guys want more three busy. Deborah's were to feel like the core of who they are. Check out their New York magazine fashion. Improvisation improvisation video a fashion improvisation with three busy Debra. From two thousand eighteen. I think it's very video all right. Here's Jena Friedman this by the way happened shortly before the coronal lock down a little bit of mention of Corona Stuff Jenna Freedman. Have you ever been on a cruise? I made two pilots for adult swim. One animated one non animated called sperm boat and some fascinated by just by the feature dish that is I've been on a cruise ship but I've never actually been on a cruise because we shot that on a boat and it was so gross. 'cause CRUISES ARE I. I've been on a couple. Not really as a child and then I went on my recent trip to Antarctica. We have to we had right. GonNa vote to get there. And I'm not a fan of cruises trip to Antarctica was really cool. I would to be honest boring. Well yeah okay. Here's the thing and Arctic is really beautiful. If you just put on like a Oculus headset and sit in a boat of ice cubes you'll experience. The beauty of Antarctica with less of a carbon footprint was cold. It wasn't that cold. It was actually beautiful but to get there. You have to be on a boat for like four days with a bunch of retirees just trying to get seven continent. What did you do this on? My Dad's bucket list and my mom will go with him so you went. Did you touch in Ourika? Quiet you get out and yeah of course go on. Here's arrived packed. Yeah they don't want you taking any rocks or pebbles from a and they just kind of told us that but didn't tell us why so I looked into it and they're all these penguin colonies where we were docking and penguins build their nest out of pebbles. If you take pebbles than you make it harder for penguins to build their nests and female penguins then have to resort to prostitution. Get more pebbles. So that they can have the nest the resort to prostitution because they're deprived of resources. Then they have to prostitute themselves so that they can get pebbles from other male. Penguins says like a really interesting micro has about prostitution in general so the solve himselves pebbles. They'll other male penguins and if you want to know what penguin sexes. Maybe I have a video that so maybe we can link it to the pot. Well we'll have links and the podcast for anything that you want to link to yet. Jeff definitely just penguin sex. It's really cute. Like one penguins on top of the other and they just kind of fluttered there and then the last second. I guess he he I don't know is a penguin. Calmer whatever he does he comes inside the female penguin. Sorry if kids are listening but this is how this wire here because your mom was deprived of resources and had to shut dad. So you're from Jersey. And what do you tell people that your job is now a al? We'll tell people that I'm a writer comedy writer. Sometimes I say I write about the tragedy. That's happened to me in this talking to me. Do People tell you that your comedy is dark? Not TO MY FACE NO I. Don't I say my comedies? Dark you know it used to be talking now. It's just reflective of the Times. I don't actually think it's dark anymore. It's funny when court. Yeah it's funny when people say like your comedies. Dark when like we have what like Yao everything going on in our country's harder to be funny or easier to be funny when the world is apparently going to. I think it depends on where you are like. I do really well in the UK. 'cause they're Morbid Fox but here but I think like you know if I'm if I'm somewhere in the Midwest you know I think Americans are a lot more puritanical. An American comedy is a lot more absurd in philly and in the UK. They kind of liked darker comedy. I guess it always depends on where you are. How people receive you so you tailor. Your comedy set specifically for the region that you're performing a tiny tiny bit but sometimes not sometimes I'll go higher in places that I feel won't like it. I think you were telling me about Chicago. You would play different areas of Chicago. Yeah I started out in Chicago and IT'S A IT'S A. It's a beautiful amazing city. A lot of ways but one of the negative aspects of Chicago is that it's very segregated but for comedy. It was kind of interesting because you could perform all different areas and really get a sense of like if like you know the all gay audience or all hipster audience or like the West side which is predominately. Latino South side which is predominantly black. If all those different crowds liked your sat then you know are like and you know a joke work. Can you think of an example of a joke that you would change for a different ad job when I was first starting out and it was a lot more based on my observations of living in Chicago and there was more race stuff in there than there is now Comedy is changing. Times have changed but I had a job a while ago. That was like you know like I had gotten lost in some neighborhood and then I saw a tanning salon and I was like. Oh you know you're not in a bad neighborhood in that was a satirical joke about. Chicago's racial a racially segregated. Cities night did it at Brian. Babylon's coffee shop in the south side and people were laughing before I got to like a punchline but then I did it in like at the hideout which was like white hipsters and they were like wow. I don't do that joke anymore. Because it's really really old and only worked in one city Why would that not work in a different city? Do you think I mean? I also think it's different now because like I think in two thousand five. There was something about ironic racism that White Comedians were trying on in a way. That was like we thought was funny. But when you realize like I guess when you there's like a level of white blindness or just kind of like night like I always think about the Sarah Silverman show which was like really funny but doesn't really hold up now in certain respects and she would admitted herself just because like you know like ironic. Racism doesn't work if like your whole writer's room as white. You know like there are things that I think we understand. Now that we didn't really understand then We being like you know White people so I can't think I don't remember something from her show that that wouldn't well like her in black face. Oh Yeah I put on like Eddie Murphy. Raw which was great when I was fourteen or fifteen chocking. Yeah stuff is just. I mean obvious. It doesn't hold up but you know that's a cool thing about comedy if you're doing if you're doing it right and you're on the edge you know and the edge changes so it's like you want and now we are in this moment where some people will say that like everything so pc. It's hard to be funny but in a way it's like when you can break through that and be funny despite that then it's even cooler. Well I had a segment in In American content. That your comedy. Special to a couple of it was actually after the election. My last comedy special and I had a segment. The whole sentiment was about gender. The whole show about gender was Lorette when Caitlyn Jenner was coming out and I did. I had like a bit about Caitlin which I thought she was fair game because she supported Ted Cruz but then some women turfs the term is trans exclusionary radical feminists picked up the segment and put it on Youtube. As like this comic knows what I'm thinking and she really gets it and they just kind of took what I was saying out of context so then when I released it on audio actually took that whole segment out because I felt like the segment was something I don't necessarily believe but it was. It was like one of those moments. I don't want people to take this the wrong way and I also I feel like Caitlyn Jenner yes. She's like very hypocritical. But you know there's no reason to make fun of her at this point like Trans Women in general. It's so much harder for them and you know why punch down when you could punch up so they were using your comedy sort of as a tool to their own ends. Yeah and I wasn't into that. No so that's a moment where like I feel like I think I think we should all be able to like apologize. And like retool what we're saying to fit the times especially like at the time I didn't have any close friends who are openly trans and I do now and so I do see the world in a little bit hopefully more like nuance better way. And so it. Kinda has changed how I think about those things. Do you feel like you have to educate people or people in your family. No I don't talk to my family once. You're a comedian. You have to stop doing that. No I my family. I just don't talk to them about about comedy. Did they think you're funny? Your parents they still. They still don't know I think they do they. Just I don't show them my comedy. It's like don't ask. Don't tell your funny. Probably around the house right grownup. Maybe I'll know my sister was a funny one. I was always just like dark and weird and afraid of thing. She would work in weird she would listen to. Hbo Like she listened to whatever comics were on television and memorize their sets and do their sets of the dinner table but she doesn't do that anymore. She's a banker. Wow how about that? She older than you. Yeah so you took that from her. I G envious of you know. Now she's got a really nice life. A banker yeah funny about that they watch your shows do they watch your performance. They watch I think they. I think they might have Zakho over when you say Mom Dad. American con was a really good. Our thought And tried to listen to it recently and made me too sad because I had this I was like so hopeful before the election and had a joke about Republicans and I was like like that party is going to still exist twenty seventeen and now I just gives me like P. T. S. It's a provocative title that give you any trouble tired of tomorrow to promote us. But I I I put that title out there because I did it in the UK. Where conscious a term of endearment but yeah. It was hard to promote. Change it for the states because I like the word con. It's a it's a cool word. It's really benign. It's the least harmful word you can call a woman crazy worse way worse because crazy is like mainstream enough that if you say someone's craziest sticks whereas if you call someone reflects negatively on you. Yeah that's interesting can be worn at the badge of honor by some. It's a great word season desist from the New York Times. Yeah I did that. Like was it scary. Now's cool. Do you get like an envelope. They sent an email the early days of email. They sent an email. They weren't actually upset about the content. They just didn't like how a user trademark don't get. You did a parody. Explain it better than I can please. So I the New York Times. I think. I think we kinda got them to stop doing this. Because of our parody but they had these wedding videos about these couples like and how they met and it was again the early days of Youtube so I saw one and the couple looked just. There's something off about the guy and I couldn't put my finger on it. He had this creepy. Like these saccharin like this is how we met two people telling the story of how they met and it was like cheesy and creepy and he kind of had the stiff zero killer vibe so then a friend of mine and I been Cronenberg just made this parody of it and then the cool thing. At the time you could put like New York Times dot like vows slash Ted and Gracie which was their names. We just put that as the title and so then I came up with all the other videos if the near Time said down it and this Guy Kale a reseller who's the director was really really good at after effects and everything and he just made it look like a real New York Times wedding video so it went viral because people actually thought it was real but if you look at you like this is not this. There's no way this is real. I can't believe people thought it was real but that was I guess. A term now is an Easter Egg. I didn't know what the term was at the time. But we just kinda snuck it in there and then it happened during wedding season so a lot of people saw and then I made a web series after it and then I wrote a script that I've been trying to make into a feature but maybe we should do something here for tv about that. What maybe we should make a TV show about ten and Gracie here right here at adult swim pitching him happening right now. Yeah I sent that to Lonzo when we were starting to talk about so focused and stuff and I think he was. He was Initially I don't speak him but I think he was initially confused and surprised by the way that the way that it turns. It's really funny. I think that's why you guys approached me or like let's make this a TV thing. And then I was like I have another idea is right after you guys never wanted to focus. I wanted to remember what happened. Walk me through what we did. Okay well there is a reaction to some content adult slim right and then you're like let's diversify some of the content and we all had lunch and you guys were like what's his ten gracie thing it's cool and it was right after the election and I was like I just WanNa make people not hate women. So here's another show. I'm pitching and then I I kind of pitch saw focus off that. That seems to be the consistent thread. May in your comedies. You want people to not hate women. Yeah not all my comedy I think. Top Line for this audience for the adult swim audience. Yeah and it was more of a reaction to the to the other thing that I saw. Well I can only speak for myself. Came to you because of a need to diversify as much as thought that your voice that no. No no don't believe me. No I'm cool either way. It works I will take it. I'll be now. I think I do believe you. I'm into either or the show has been so much fun. It is like a fever dream of mine. And I'm so happy that I get to do it. What other women out there that are sort of on heard or unseen maybe could stand to be amplified where everyone sees us were all you know. I mean all like you know every woman every woman over forty for Sheridan people. Just don't Pay attention to women once. They aren't fuck you know. Okay look I think that wasn't your question and I walked you into some murky territory Yeah I think you know. I think increasingly marginalized voices are being heard. I think people are interested in all sorts of content I think if you WANNA list of female Comedians who I love. Yeah I'll give you that. It's also if you look at who I follow on twitter. A lot of them a lot of people. I hired a right on saw focus. Solid South Focus are people that I think are very very funny that I don't know a lot of people know about you. You have a ton of ton of women looking at adult swim from from the outside when you were coming in I mean it was accurate. None there you go. There are no women. Why why do you think that was because I think if people aren't thinking about it it's really easy to just kind of self select your community without even thinking about it? I also think forever. There's this whole perception that either women aren't funny or women don't like commenting the same way. Men do or comedy is primarily like you know male dominated domain. You know whatever and I think a lot of I always felt with my comedy especially because it was dark I felt a lot of guys liked it even more than like Women in certain certain jokes and certain types of things. I think there's something kind of cool about dark comedy. Specifically that is like so. Nisha away but it's like almost gender neutral people who are dark like dark chip but I mean I think that was like a myth that has been debunked time and time again. Look like who consumes horror movies so many young women are watching horror movies and you know. Gender Gender of social construct to be totally honest. I think some people are more. I think it's more of like a spectrum like my niece and nephew are my nephew. Came out and he was like into fire. Trucks and like intellect Little boy things. My niece came out and she was like I WanNa be a Princess Anne They. They were very very much like following their like the gender norms ascribed to them. But also if you look at like any sort of store supermarket you go to target and you just like walk around on your knees as if you're like a three year old princess so it's just like there's like subliminal advertising that adults don't even see or that people that this is maybe like an ablest sentiment that people don't like people who aren't little kids don't notice You know so but those are all cultural things put upon us to feel and be a certain way and I think you know like the the next generation zero whatever is like a lot of kids are like gender fluid or gender neutral or you know have just different ideas of gender than our generations have and I think that's kind of cool and liberating and especially when it comes to comedy comedy comedy. Funniest Funny What's funny to me? Might not necessarily be funny to you. I don't think our gender has anything to do with it except for the topics. Maybe that you choose to do comedy about me on you. I think I think I like For saw focus is very particular. Show But I think that like a segment on campus rape. But you know it as relatable to men and women and might be elitist. You know because it's about colleges while the I guess that's true automatically Excluding on audience walk us through that first special sort of Y. Those pieces came. Gather how they came together why it worked at the daily show so I know how to do those pieces but we had pitched the show as a as a it was a very bold. We pitched the show as a desk show and my opening segment fell flat. Because I was like crying to camera about like a nine eleven type event or like another shooting or something and it was like dessert. I show back after the tragedy that was my opening line and as experimental as you guys are just wasn't it just didn't work and then we did other. You know we had some other pundits and and segments is kind of like a it was like a send up of like the twenty four hour news cycle and Cable News. But it just wasn't as clear and then to your credit. We had those two really strong segments the campus rape segment and the Canada Cup segment. And it was your I did isolate them and then we are on the phone and I was at the airport. And you're like well. Just what's Let? Let's think of a new show and I was like I dunno soft-focus out of my ass. There's no thought there's no thought to that title. I just thought it was a great title. It's been working yet. It's nice to have like your lisp so pronounced at the onset of your show. Oh Yeah you get to US backed by South Africa. You catch it for your list. Oh on yeah. And that's my favorite like as long as no one calls me fat. Just like her. She's a list. I'm like thank. Thank you like in the Youtube comments or whatever you read. The comments always always. Do you respond to them with an alias? No sometimes these my name. Did you on these on these specials on Youtube Ages? I don't know if there was some time very rarely but if somebody inspires me you know I don't like the The alrighty guys those those comments are never fun you know but if some something really inspires me sometimes someone'll will really get what I'm trying to say a really fun way or have a question or get some kind of hidden thing that we didn't know people would get and that makes me really happy. Do you ever feel threatened by your audience endanger not by my audience. No but like yeah. I've done shows in Seattle. Where like men in the front row? We'll be like tattered up in skinhead and combat boots and I have to look to see the latest allred because that's the sign if they're not season affiliate are not read done. They're not Nazis security. I don't know though so you're onstage looking at people's shoelaces if they if the rest of them looks like a Nazi and does that change your set. Then I'm a little. I try to like kind of flight with them and take if they want to defuse. Wow Oh that's awful yeah scary. It's totally scary. Does it happen to men? I don't think as much but I do think we're in a new moment where you have like. Nra videos pointing to like comedy shows as like attacking their freedom. And so I do. I like a scary moment. If you're like trying to comedy or political comedy just because everyone in our countries like angry and a lot of guns you seem like you hit it off or at least he hit it off with you the Cannibal Cop Gill. Yeah Oh Yeah Nice Guy. I think he definitely have eaten his wife really. Yeah I definitely would have eaten her. I think he would have tasted her. I think he would have definitely killed her. She was freaked out by first of all cops when they have. There's something interesting about like a somebody who threatens to kill somebody but somebody who's a cough who doesn't like there's something about like you've God complex using nypd software to stock someone. His wife was quoted as saying he has to ask her about her running route specifically where should go and she felt creeped out and like she left him and I don't think she's been in touch with him sense. But I have a partner if I found out that he was like on some dark web message boards plotting to eat my friends. I'd be like Josh. Like I wouldn't freak out about it because I know he's not going to do it but the fact that she freaked out about it. It's like trust your gut ladies you know what I mean. Wow that's good bizet's Gill hasn't killed anyone that I know of. And he does follow me on twitter. And now he's putting all his energy into writing novels and so there's a happy ending and I think if we can have more of like an understanding of people's pathologies or psycho pathologies and like talk to them and maybe mine comedy out of Like confronted without making people. Feel shame. Maybe we can have less pain in the world novels about you. Know Power the eating women what he should have been doing all along talking about your second Special re intimidated or scared of John V. No no no he was running for. President. I thought the odds of shooting me intentionally were very low. I was a little nervous when he was drunk and waving his gun around. Because it's not really how you that's not good gun safety How many how many guns were there? There were lots of men holding guns you see in the there. Were five men aside from him. I think holding guns around us but a lot of it was posturing. I think there was one tiny moment when I was asking him about his sexual allegations. That people were getting a little weird but for the most part it was fine. Why do you think he agreed to come on the show? We gave him all the information about who. I wasn't everything I think. He's running for president. I think he wanted to be heard and he doesn't regret it and we didn't really take him out of context and anyway. That's I always say when I was the daily show like I really don't take people out of context so you know I might ask jokey questions or whatever but I'm not gonNA. I'm not if you tell me. Your favorite color is green. I'M NOT GONNA say it's blue trying to think of how best to phrases but it's helpful perhaps maybe to be a woman in these situations. Yeah yeah sure because you can diffuse as he said yes. I don't think you're you're fucking with them to. Why do you think that is i? Think men of a certain generation who may be like grew up before women could apply for credit cards to kind of. Don't really see us as people and it hurts us in a Lotta ways. But in this one tiny way it can be used to our advantage. So you've found this. Great loophole the sweet spot. We might not get paid. Well you might not get treated equally but you can fuck with them on camera and have entertaining content and they would never Probably agree to do many of the things that you get them to do. Talk about if you were a man. Luck men in the same role. Get other things that maybe I don't get you know. I also think that like when I was at the daily show is the only female field producer and I would get access to certain men that the guys didn't think I would get access to but at the same time like there is an inherent distrust of women that there might not be of other men so other guy field producers could maybe you know cozy up to their subjects in a way that I don't think I ever would be able to so just depends on what you're looking for one of those men. David Letterman who I met Dave. I worked a row for for you. I met him twice. They wouldn't let me around him and I should clarify. I wasn't for any specific reason. I just he was like very checked out at that point You know I didn't really have a didn't really know him. The most jokes I got on the show where top ten's because Dave would just look at the list and choose what he wanted. The sketches there was like a little bit as a little more political because they're like many producers between the writers and Dave. And so you'd write a sketch. Had Writers would veto editor or pass it on producer's producers would like it or not. They'd have everybody who have notes by the time it got to. Dave basically wasn't even the original thing that you wrote so. I found that with him. The most jokes I was getting on with the ones that he would just see directly and then I didn't get a ton of sketches on. There's one sketch that I got on. And the head writers had left because of whatever bullshit and this Guy Matt Roberts came in. I think it was Matt Roberts. Anyway time And Chris Christie was giving a speech and it was anti-gay marriage and I don't like fat jokes but Dave at the time did and so. I wrote a little sketch where Chris Christie Sang. How marriage should be between a man and a woman and it was on Mardi Gras and somebody just yells take it off and then Chris Christie flashes the crowd. And we have this body double. Kristen really move so it was really easy to like Dr Images to like do basically a deep fake which is what you would call it now but actually we build this image. That looked so real that Dave took out the context of Mardi Gras and just had this like clip of Chris Christie flashing people whenever and he played it so much that even like three years. After I left I would get residuals from that one sketch that Dave just kept playing all the time. You're not proud of it because you don't like fat jokes. I don't like that jokes but I also don't like Anti Gay jokes or Nyman. Anti-gay jokes anti-gay commence. I felt like it was like fair. Game you know. Chris Christie's being homophobic. I'm going to troll him a little bit. Do you know if he saw I think he must the same. It has to have right. Yeah that's awesome John Stewart. Great boss. Yeah why why do you say that? Because he cared and he let us like I really like. I did a lot of segments there that I was really proud of what I got. I got him into the last three years of the show and he was like you know we can do a segment about anything you want. As long as you're passionate about and we'll find a way to make it funny. And so like we segments that like the OPIOID epidemic and fast food worker strikes and we found a way either like with the oboe with the OPIOID epidemic. Obviously nothing about it. It's funny but we did. It was chair. Michael Chang was a correspondent. I did a segment where it was like a satire parody on the insider like the way that like the tobacco companies were people and like lawyering up all that crap in the nineties. We do the same thing with like the pharmaceutical companies in the two thousand so You know it was. It was a funny piece in that. It was like Michael Shaping paranoid that they were going to get go after him or something but it wasn't like lulls but I just loved working for John. Because it was like it was like a crash course in film school. He seems like he's missed from the current Yuppie he got out at the right time dot out. It's people are angry that he's out because I think people are angry about everything people. I've read things where people are like. The daily show is why we have trump. And it's like now. Yeah we have. I think that they thought that people kind of making fun of a certain demographic is like created this culture. It's US versus them Blah Blah Blah. But I mean the real reason I think part of the reason we have trump is just because you know we starting from reaganomics neoliberalism if you just leave people out in the cold and you don't give them opportunities. Then they'll just kind of vote against their own self interests same thing with brexit. You know there are people all over the country that are really hurting unable to get jobs that they're being radicalized by Fox News and it's like a whole sludge of bullshit that's led us to where we are now but I don't think it's because of the daily show you know the best way to explain it. Yeah Jordan pills movie us. It's like if you leave people in the shadows they're gonNA come back to kill you. I think it's one of the best films of the decade satire so hard and he just completely nailed it in every way are there other. Filmmakers admire yeah domain Scorsese. Yeah I like any filmmaker. Honestly who can like? Get A cellmate. I'm already in all. Do you WanNa make a movie. Yeah let's do it becomes the right place Burbank. Yeah I have a couple of movies. I WANNA make three movies. I WANNA make every two of them. One is written two movies ever into movies. Are they trying to sell them? Or how does that work? I haven't been able to. One is a movie based off of the Web series. It's about a woman who falls in love with a serial killer. Try to make it work. The other movie funny enough I wrote in two thousand fifteen. It's about a woman who's in quarantine for a virus called Corona virus associated with lymph opinion. Carl I wanted like a kind of benign guy's name to be like the acronym for the virus is called twenty one days of Carl. I know wow I know I just thought after the Ebola thing happened like just the media response the fact that like the Abullah doctor and his fiancee ended up in like on page six. Like leaving a thing. It's just kind of made me like I mean. Obviously the current current outbreak is harrowing and heartbreaking especially for people in China The Abullah outbreak for people in America. There was something funny about an and I did donate to doctors. Without Borders and I. I put a fundraiser together where we raise quite a bit of money for them. Not a total monster. When I talked about this in your mind I mean always but I did think it was funny the way that like they turn into celebrities. The bullet doctor kind of became like a weird celebrity New York. You're about to seize Kiel. O.`Neil like you've never seen him before. This is show about my life just because they have more than the average guy doesn't mean I'm better than the average got jack like all new Thursdays at nine on TNT. Know if I'm ready to face the world of my own Tracy. Morgan is back. Wraparound edging. Tiffany Haddish is back with. We support one another. Everything is going to be okay. The last Oh own new Tuesdays at ten thirty nine thirty central on TBS. Tell us about the election night. Stephen Colbert I was on the election. I you can. I think some like Anti-choice guy posted on his website. Yeah no I was uncle baron. Election night everybody. Thought Hillary was GONNA win. She did when she did won the popular vote. Which is what is the democratic which should count but We didn't really look. They didn't want us to look at the news until he got on stage. And then like right before we got on the stage there like it. Looks like trump's GonNa win and then it's me and one of the guys from the circus and then Charlemagne who's like a personality. The three of us were talking to Stephen and he was like Giovanni hope left. And I didn't and we were live. Which is always tricky. And so I said some stuff without really thinking and I still get for you. Yeah what did you say? He was like Gina. Do you think Hillary is GonNa win as a woman does all on you. What do you think and I just was like? Get your abortions. Now because we're GONNA BE FUCKED WE'RE GONNA have to live with it. And all these pro-life people started sending me death threats which is actually Kinda cool. 'cause it's you know at least they're coming around to the idea but yeah. I think That's a whole other Duh threats. Gosh that's awful. People who call themselves pro life are so full of Shit. Just GonNa say it and I could. I mean I. Just if you're pro-life may people have access to healthcare and information like come on if you're pro-life support people giving people health care. Stop Trolling medical clinics that provide women with mammograms and a CD screening. And you know so care about lives outside of the womb. If you're pro-life I'm sorry it's just it's crazy. It's there's so much propaganda misinformation out there. That makes me really sad but you are. You're the boots on the ground when you're getting death threats from lunatics on. Does it scare you or do you just brush it off? I mean when it's like invoked our podcast all women get them all in and get them online column and get them. But you know it's it's you know it's tricky when you're out there you want you don't want people to hate you but you know you know it's it's it is dangerous. You're in a position where you want people to like you but you don't care if they hate you I don't want people to. I don't WanNA get killed. People are going to hate. People are going to like for whatever whoever you know you can get on stage and if you look like someone's xer like saying you can't control how people say but you want people to be kind and respectful to you and to each other. Would you advise young girls to get into this career path? That you're on no no why not. I mean I don't know. Do what makes you happy within reason. I think it's a tough courier. I've had a lot of success. I've had a lot of failure. I enjoy what I do. But then there's this little part of me that in two thousand and six when I was approached by Youtube to work and they're like strategic growth or some department in Chicago. I just was like an event that was they wanted you to. I used to work at an consulting firm and so I left the consulting firm and a head hunter was like. Do you want to interview for this job and I was just like me Youtube and I feel like I could have made a lot more. Change happen there. Then my comedy the of a side hustles. What do you got going my feet on wicky feet I make? I'm just kidding. That's a real thing right. I think it is. I would get paid to you know. Show people my feet. But I'm not there yet. No I'm doing fine. Everything's cool girls. If you want to go into comedy it is really fun. It's it's a lot better than it used to be. And you know go for life. Short specially now. Can I tell everyone? We're doing another self-focused. Yeah we're doing another soft focus Right I'm really excited about. It can't tell anybody what's happening in Canton. Anybody what's happening in it. It's really fun. I very much enjoyed performing at the adults from festival. Having guys dresses pickle Rick just listening to me. Talk about femicide. It's like you just don't get that opportunity like I never would get to talk to those guys and the fact that I do is so enjoyable do they. They seem to like you. Yeah I get even one of the guys who we Kinda trolled in our segment about Harassment and gaming message may be like. Do you need an intern can really just for you? And I'm like yeah do the other characters who've popped up on the show stay in touch now. I mean I'll get the occasional tweet. Nobody seen nobody has seemed to upset by anything yet. Those college kids they were really good sport. They were good. I think one of them not the one we accused of coming in the doll but I think another one like wanted to work on the show or something. That's nice and no No follow up from Mr McAfee. No but he did say he was going to eat his own. Dick at the end of twenty twenty. They think he's full of Shit. Yeah because Bitcoin is not at a million m still. I wish we had my one regret. Is I wish we had gotten the rights to his Dick. Eating right for the network. Just you know to have it on on your livestream. Gosh that would be fantastic can we? Can't we work on that for this focus? I don't think he's GonNa eat as Dick. Okay but if he does we neither. I agree I can make a phone call right now and see if we can make this we would like the exclusive live streaming rights. John McAfee eating his Dick. You might have to pay for it. Well of course. Can I pry on twitter? Please do okay. I'm just making note of it. Wow why don't we just do it here so McAfee you're tweeting it now? This is exciting. Not tweeting and I'm DMC TWEET IT DM. That's probably the past as what? Hey John I'm talking to a very powerful person at adults and they would like to buy the rights to your Dick Eating. At on December thirty cuttings livestream. The exclusive live stream broad cast rights global exclusive livestream global broadcast rights to your Dick Eating on December thirty one days in December twenty. Twenty any interest. That's fantastic hope. All is well otherwise. Yeah I go hi John. I'm talking to adult swim. And they would let I took just wanted to take out the very of course. Yeah you WANNA catchier adults flame and they would like to buy exclusive livestream global broadcast rates to your Dick Eating on December. Thirty first twenty twenty cap lies at the end of supper. Sorry nerds any interest hopewell's while otherwise so I'm sending I- idea I'm Tim and now I'm just sending you that so you can attach it to this if you will follow up on this day. Go by the time. This podcast is edited and produced. We'll have an update. Yeah that that'd be cool. Cool all right Jennifer Friedman. Thanks for subjecting to this. Are you talking to them? Army guys thanks for subjecting yourself to this point right there. You have it Jennifer Friedman. She's working on a another soft focus as we speak along with some other stuff for the network. Did you meet her? I have and I thought it was great. I really wanted her to like me. I don't know if she gives a shit about me but I really wanted her to like me why. I don't think she's cool man and I want everyone to like me and respect me. I've got a man. She's cool man Nazis cool. She's one of those cats. She's one of them Jellicoe. Cats visit adults from dot com or download the adults from APP to watch not only so focus. But some of the things Jenin I and Max were talking about. It's free it's good. Roku Amazon Fire Apple TV android. Ios can also watch our live streams last year on the left truth point as seen on the swim blood feast. That's Max show blood. Feast Fish Center of course from. Today's podcast is a track called. Percy thrills the Moondog by Turquoise from their performance live on fish center thanks today Christine larger for putting this podcast together. Send your request. Comments concerns criticisms to adult swim. Podcast AT G MAIL DOT COM. Thanks for listening. We'll be back next week.

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Money Insulates You (w/ Jena Friedman, Michael Cruz Kayne)

Fake the Nation

1:14:05 hr | 11 months ago

Money Insulates You (w/ Jena Friedman, Michael Cruz Kayne)

"Episode Ninety Five. Hello hello this is fake nation where we talk about news we talk about politics and where we learned that showering is not essential and that as a nation we might be done with being recipes. I am your host Mickey. I it turns out that I'm gluten free except when there's a global pandemic and then I'm suddenly gluten full today we're GonNa talk about elections during cove it liberty culture on lockdown. And you guys. We're going to talk about the term. You guys Today I'm so excited by this pin. Follow my God Turn on timer. I'm turning it on and I'm so excited by this panel. You have heard her on the show before. He's a comedian. She's a writer she's she has a fantastic special that's available on the digital platforms. You can see her adult swim. Special episode called soft focus with Jena Friedman. She's my friend you guys it's Jenna Freedman I also. Jenna is joining from Los Angeles at the baller. Our seven thirty a M. Thank you Jena for doing that. Or it's my pleasure such sleep anymore. I neither do I and I'm also joined by a comedian writer. We just did a writing job together. Hilarious leave this week in the middle of a global pandemic. Thanks for that one job. You've seen him on Seth Meyers. You've seen him on high maintenance in fact we're in the same episode of High Maintenance Together. You guys you. Are you love? It's Michael Cruz Cane. I'm Michael Friends. What a Joy. Just quick question before we get going. How are you feeling like about life right now? I have thanked spiraled into previously unknown levels of anxiety. That's how I would describe. This is supposed to be a feel good show and I would say that up until this happened. This is very my hate to bring up privilege right away but it really does awaken you to the privilege that you have where I have never thought of politics as something that was gonna get me killed until this started happening and then I was like Oh right. A president is like for this. This is why you have one of those. A president is for this Jenna. How do you feel? I think it's great that all of our interactions are going to be available to Russian spies. Yeah no I go through waves. I think I think it's GonNa be. We're GONNA be in here a long time and it's also making me like La in a way that makes me uncomfortable. What's Your Jenna? What's your prediction? How long do you think we're in quarantines? I mean I think we're going to be in some form of quarantined until there's a vaccine just because of the nature of Corona viruses. They're like seasonal people. Don't like to hear that I believe eighteen months. I WanNa make the prediction that we're going to be in this until there's really open wide testing for antibodies that test and it regularly testing. Yes and it won't be necessarily this form of quarantine it. It could be like you know. Oh work is starting and then we'll stop like maybe they'll have to wear freedom. I'm sure everyone in America seen contagion by now but I think one of the way. They had the like hand bracelet to show that they got the vaccine. I think we could have hand bracelets to show that we have the antibody or whatever it is and this show. You're supporting trump. It'll be a handwriting that that says make America. Great again slash. I have the antibodies. God that's a joke but they will definitely do that. That'll be bracelets. Well you know what let's get into the show with the topic number one and I want to start with Bernie. He dropped out of the race. You guys he's going to remain on the ballot in the remaining states to see if he can amass some delegates and have more influence of the Democrat convention but he dropped out How do you feel Michael? I'm a huge Bernie Fan. He's been my candidate. The last couple of elections and I am depressed about it. I mean like I mean I voted for Hillary. I made the phone calls. I donated the money. Like I have to say that. So people don't write threatening letters to my children I also and I will do the same thing for Joe Biden. The man I am. I'm really bummed about it. I hope that he can continue to be an influence on mainstream politics from outside the office of the presidency. But the IDEA I choose. I'M GONNA look. I'm voting for Joe Biden. I swear to God I'm GonNa make the calls. I'm going to donate the money. I'M GONNA. I'M GONNA yell at my in laws and do all of it but the idea that I've got to choose between trump and Joe Biden is just really depressing is it's obviously Biden. Obviously but it's like passing. It is like that for the most powerful man in the country we can up with. These are the two best guys we could come up with. And it's like it's horrifying Michael. Are you still vote for Bernie in when we at some point have our primary race in New York the completely irrelevant primary state? I'm not sure about that. I think I might just vote for Biden. I really have to think about that more fully. I've seen that. That's a thing that people are talking about burning himself as suggested. I really want to like write down pros and cons for myself about. I mean obviously whether I do but also whether it's something I try and convince my friends who are Bernie supporters to do. I should also say that every Bernie's of order I know personally is also going to vote for Biden. I know there's GonNa be a thing out there where it's when Biden loses because he is a garbage candidate that it's going to get blamed on the Bernie people which is a bummer. I'm telling you most of us are going to vote for Joe Biden. Well it's funny because the Bernie loss has already been blamed on Elizabeth Warren. Very which is not true in ridiculous. Jena Friedman what do you feel? I feel like we're voting for the vice president for both of trump or biden. I mean I'm not an actuary. But they're just not looking good corona virus aside and then when you factor that in. It's just you know. I hope you get a really good vice president and then that's who I'll be voting for and campaigning. For I think you know Bernie had a lot of really great Ideas I I was a Warren Still Am Warren supporter. I think it's good that he left earlier so that we can mend the division within the party. I think it's a shame that the Democratic Party didn't get their act together earlier because there are candidates like Julian Castro and Jay. Inslee who are so great who I think could have and cory booker. Who just I feel like slip through the cracks and Kamla a little too early that I think the fact that we ended up with Joe Biden is just because of how fractured we are as a voting base in how I mean. I don't know the inner workings of the Democratic Party but it just feels like it should have come to this but now that it is all. I'd rather vote for somebody with one allegation instead of twenty. I mean you guys have heard me say this before on the show but it came to this because we have it absolutely absurd ridiculous. Primary Voting System in which two states have an outsized influence and the rest of the states. Do not get the full slate of options. So that's why this happened New Hampshire. Yes yeah do you like could this have been different if if it weren't for corona virus like could Birdie of kept it re mounted the campaign that he wanted to after South Carolina? If it wasn't for this I think it was in the car. Oh sorry I was just GonNa say. I think he's still would've lost I. I love the guy but I do think that after South Carolina. It was pretty well as Geno was about to say in the cards. I think it's hard to argue that he had any win to me. The number one thing that advocates for Bernie Sanders at this point is the reality in which we live which is like Oh actually it turns out all the things that he's that he's been advocating for we literally. It's not even like do you want them anymore. Like it's a it's a practical imperative that they get implemented but then to his credit. I think he's also like I don't know if I'm going to win. And we need trump to lose so I gotta get out now. Which is why I think we you know we really should consider voting for Bernie in the remaining states because these things need to officially go into the Democratic Platform. You know what I mean they should we should see functionally put them in the Democratic Platform. And that's something that Bernie could use for leverage in doing that the Democratic convention. You know what I mean. I think there is. There is a method to that madness and it could result actually putting this stuff in the platform. I think there's a lot of goodwill around actually doing that already. Because we're experiencing it this pandemic but but I am am moved by the idea of voting for Bernie just so that he does have more delegates just so that he can do that again. I am a Bernie Guy. They just have to be careful with that because the message that gets sent has to end up being see how important these things are and not. Yeah that the parties super divided. We don't want by right. I worry that if we all vote for Bernie in the remaining primaries it would just give ammunition to the Republicans and Demoralized Democrats. So I don't I'm not a political strategist. I pretend to be one but I mean it's so clear all across the country that we need healthcare universal healthcare. I'd be the one benefit of the Carter virus besides lowering school shootings is made for universal health. Care and how obvious that is and you can tell Republicans like hey. I mean people. If they don't have healthcare can hurt you my you know. I think we didn't really see that until unfortunately they didn't see that until recently stolen a lot of cases there's still don't see it right there see it and it's like you know your business will do better undocumented. Immigrants get tested. I more money. You will get richer people to. Let's talk about the functional active voting. Because that's something that's a big fat fucking problem right now. the Wisconsin election primary election. And it was a statewide election as well a statewide primary for for Surpreme Court spot. I think That went forward on Tuesday. It went there was a back and forth. Will they won't they? The governor tried to stop it then. There were sued. The Supreme Court overturned it in places like Milwaukee where a normal normally one hundred eighty polling places. They were down to five polling places which meant more people had to be socially distant in fewer space. Is What the fuck? We don't know the results of the Wisconsin race and we won't know until next week probably but added Does it worry you for other states? Your I mean I think it's like a it's voter suppression. I just I think the fact that we're making people risk their lives to vote. More than normal is awful and I. I'm worried about US having a democratic election in November and getting people out there to vote I mean if if the Progressive Young People's voted I would be a little bit more hopeful but because they don't vote and then people who do vote are literally risking their lives to go to the polls. I just don't think there's going to be such widespread voter suppression and the only the only possible way in which We get young people to vote in November. To me probably is that we're still under quarantine because then it's like here's what you can do to go see people you want to be out of your house go vote. That's all your buddies will be and hopefully that'll convinced that people who never vote that getting out of your house at least a way to be social. I don't know it's NOT SMART. I mean oh no no I know I just think clarify. It's just weird. How it's just even just their whole like the whole rollout of this virus in the way that the CDC handled it beginning with like a test. Kids that weren't really functioning is just this whole experience. You expose so many cracks in our society. I know Warren has a plan for it. And that's to give everybody mail in paper ballots but I just. I don't know if that's going to happen. It's not I mean first of all the most hilarious thing about this about this issue is that trump was asked about mail-in paper ballots. And he said it was a terrible idea and he said we're GONNA get levels of voting like we've never seen before a Republican would never win if we had that kind of voting Which is like. He said that he said it out loud. Yeah he said the in parentheses that you're supposed to just have in your head. He said that part out loud but also he himself is daughter. Yeah he mail-in votes from Florida. What he did in the recent primary but he said I can do that because I hear and I have a you know just like said nonsense so one of the things like okay. I WANNA save you. Hope will things about mail in voting. There isn't so some states already habits right. And they're in their fantastic of course like the Republicans site fraud as an argument. Senator Michael Bennet of Colorado who's also presidential nominee one of the many forgotten ones. He said to trump. You Know Mr President we've had vote by mail in Colorado for years. We don't have fraud but we do. Have the second highest turnout in America? So it has a huge turnout effect you guys and again in the funny thing about fraud is i. Think the arguments for fraud or very much steeped in the early twentieth century and I mean when there was the kind of tea party machines Tammany Hall and all that stuff and stuffing ballot boxes. Or whatever and it's definitely something we just haven't seen in modern times it's just not. It's not an artistically insignificant compared to voter suppression when you make voting harder for people. Yeah exactly statistically insignificant and the funny thing to be about the idea of voter fraud is that it Sucha when you're thinking individual let's say undocumented workers or somehow going out there and doing voter fraud eat is such a long con for the for these people. The idea of like okay. I'm going to go in there and and put on a different mustache. And then in three to four years when that person elected officials. A master coalition. There may be a program that could possibly eighty of this fraud. Frauds frauds are more of a quick fix situation and this is not. The machines. Aren't working in this way anymore. Which they are not you know. It's just a ridiculous argument. Now that's it like I said twenty. Five percent of all ballots were cast by mail in two thousand sixteen and about thirty percent of them were cast by mail in two thousand eighteen. So this should is happening guys. It's already in place in some places it's happening for five states vote. There's we already have vote by mail in sixteen states you you can request an absentee ballot and in seventeen states there They kind of lack of. Oh by mail option. York is one of them. Alabama Montana New Hampshire There are others the problem with absence now. The Nice thing is we already have the absentee ballot mechanism in place in so many states. And all we need to do is just make that a touch easier and some some states like North Carolina require a notary require like two witnesses or whatever that is the Kinda Shit that we gotta get rid of to make absentee balloting easier because the mail in balloting requires machines in each machine cost like a million dollars. And it's actually a really really heavy lift to get mail in ballots. Set up the way they have in like Oregon but absentee balanced does not do not require that heavy lift. And I think that's really helpful and I think you should be calling your state and local officials and asking them what the fuck guys. Yeah that makes sense to me. I think the idea that seems efficient and safe means we're not going get it. I mean I just won't happen. What will happen is you'll get A. You'll have a button on your arm band. During the pandemic that one button is to vote for trump and the other button is other. Ns shock you an electric shock. One Button is trump and one pinches. Your ball sack or whatever. Okay but again. I want to end on a hopeful note. Which is co but also. There's so many ways to work against the fried. You can have ballot envelopes that are designed to prevent for the way you know. Money is or whatever voters have to sign the envelope that the the signature can match or whatever States can track ballots and transit. I mean there's just many ways to work against the fried. The mechanism for absentee balloting is already in place guys motherfucking. Call Your State. Assembly people Let's make this happen. It can happen in so many states. It's already happening Okay what we're GONNA do that. Quick break and when we come back. We're going to talk about celebrities now that so many of us are stuck at home. It's only a matter of time until you run out of stuff to watch on net flicks but you could use express. Vpn to been shows like doctor who on UK net flicks just fire the express. Vpn APP change your location to the UK refresh net flix and. 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Lo is posting instagram photos. Her kids serving or a perrier. This is what celebrities are doing during the Corentin. You guys do you like hearing from. I don't know that. Imagine Video Really. Got Me through some dark time. We can you explain the imagine video for people who may have missed it. Oh it was just a bunch of GALCA. Does friends singing in different tunes. Asong that you couldn't really get on television because he can't really get the rights to a Beatles song so it was. I mean it was just like interesting that that was like the first reaction and it just kind of made me want to reinforce like never never be that tone deaf way so tone deaf about it specifically in by the way the some of this. I mean these are big celebrities. That did it it was like will Farrell and that blanking on all of the other ones but there were always funny. I was actually impressed that in like that weird video. He's still dislike. Makes you laugh? I don't know he's so good. I think Sarah Silverman managed to also because she did Like she did like the ridiculous version With thought was at least a self self aware about how ridiculous but the task was anyway so go ahead. What was so tone deaf about? I think we've had for like with such a luxury and again. This is from like a privileged position but like throughout like the nineties and like into like brought during President Obama's tenure. I think that like celebrity just reigned supreme in America and people love celebrity and we're obsessed with celebrity but like celebrity isn't going to get you out of a pandemic and celebrity is very much part of the problem. It's like why people we don't have as much civic engagement. The people we are voting for like personality called the President President was like a Reality Star and so I think like celebrity is very much the problem so like when like people are like suffering and scared and Celebrities. Just make a video where they're like seeing. Do you like just their faces. It's like Oh okay. It's not bad. Everybody has their own coping mechanism. But there was just like this level of like. Okay just give it a be just like get like just like donate money to people who need it and also you. You're seeing them in their environment. Which you're like holy crap like of course you know Gal Gadoe has rich but even like like I don't remember the backgrounds of them specifically even an even like Ucla Sri behind them. And you're like God. That tree is so rich. You can tell looking at the wallpaper you're like that is. I know that is very expensive. Those while they were have thread count. I know that that is expensive. While they now the fire that was lit like an actual fireplace situation right. I think it was a fire that was on. What do you call it when a fireplace is doing? It's Jeff. What is that called a working fireplace. The fire was on active active fireplace firing and I was like Oh. This is a really luxurious. Like we came to our home in the woods. You know what I mean. We're now marshmallow over here. You know what I mean. It seemed like a yeah LE- different experience from the rest of America. It is funny to see how they're now like Trying to overcompensate by you're just like seeing a lot of celebrities like next to toilet trying to look like they don't live somewhere nice that had someone from the props department bringing things that look poor. Yeah there's also a great video of Ivanka trump. Have you seen this like? She's in her kitchen and she's just riffing on how we're all in this together and the kitchen like I might as well be like midas his house I mean it's it's and she's and you can tell she's lost in her own thought just being like you know and we are. We are with you. And we're we're together in this like you are so full of kitchen. Yeah exactly. Meanwhile she's like the barrage that I used for. My hair could feed your family for ten years. I think that's the thing that's just the most I. I think what was Nice? When the press mediated celebrity right win your source for celebrity was just page six or whatever. Us Magazine Though. First of all those people had to catch celebrities when they were in public spaces. So so what you were really comparing yourself to or feeling shitty about was that they were beautiful or that. They had perfect thighs. All my God. You know or you didn't really see much. They had glasses on and a hat. And you just couldn't see much and so in you're just like you were just marveling at the fact that they were walking That's like us. Yeah there but now be because the press is not mediating their connection to the people it turns out one thing that we one hundred percent learn about ninety seven percent celebrities. Is They have a very shitty idea of what we WANNA know about them They are we they're all. They're all extraordinarily Matt self-aware about their riches Bill Maher. It's funny because you know he does the show on. Hbo AND IN IN. Hey I want to be on that show. I'm not trying to throw anybody. I'm not trying to not have jobs because all of my jobs have been cancelled so let's not make it worse. But the he's in his in his backyard. That has a bar. I mean he's he pointed out. I have a bar my backyard. Would you think I mean he's very open about being extremely wealthy right? A lot of them are open about being wealthy but at the end of the show he likes like that's the end of the show and then he walked away in started taking off his jacket and tie and Bundy shirt. It looked like he was about to jump in a pool which he did not do. It went to faded to black but it was just so weird bizarre way to end the show and I thought Oh he just normally has a bunch of producers that tamp down those Those instincts because those instincts are not good their and they're far removed from regular people like how they have a hard time maintaining regular human instinct. Because they start to live in. A bubble in the bubble is really nice. Then you start losing your edge and I think another thing. That's jarring about that stuff. About celebrity culture is in regular times. There is a make. I'M GONNA speak for myself. There is this man. We're all like performers are are artists. Oh God gross of some kind but there is that element of like you know. I'm just like one pilot pickup away from being were them. I'm like I'm not that far. I'm not rich like they are but it would take me a year of being successful to be like you know I'd be hanging. Ib YOU BILLBOARD PAN over. And I'd be sitting there drinking a drink and I think now you realize that the difference isn't just like in the pandemic time that difference is they're safe. I'm not that's like that's like that's what feels out of touch. It's like you know. Bill Meyers on a ranch. Insulates you with with all this space to run around and do whatever he wants? I am literally coming at you from inside of physical closet. That's right you're in Brooklyn. Which is the one of the epicenters. Also let me say this relatively. I'm rich but will you. You see the magnitude of difference when you watch Gal Gadoe be like. Oh you know what I think would actually help is if me and my friends Sang Imagine. I think I think that would help a couple of people. Oh only did help. A couple of people that's probably. Yeah that's fair. Yoko was like this is great. I WANNA point out. There's been some celebrity. Feel like Tyler. Perry paid the the superpowers bills of like an seventy different supermarkets in Atlanta. He paid people's grocery bills. That to me was great. You know it sure. You can argue. Whether it's effective and edited about I've ever effective I went. I actually did something like that because then everybody I'm not but I do want to say one thing the unions Q. When you're checking out Bill Maher like losing his edge. What DECADE ARE WE IN But also in terms of I went on twitter and I was like just really sad. One day I was looking at. Anyone needs money just. Dm me which is not the best idea. And then the interesting thing I found it was all women paid. I gave them all like you know just like a little bit of money But it was weird because I remember one of the first bullet. He was like her avatars like very religious and I was like not trying to play. God just like why I made me see my like where I was discriminatory and I was like you like I would rather give to this person who's not like anti-choice then that so you know it was. It was down but I guess my point as I'm rambling at eight. Am in La is if you are feeling sad this is something where you can just like not at the top levels of throw money at it but like there are so many people who dislike need money for groceries and if you have a little bit you can just give it to people like if you just give it to your some of your friends. You need it or some random lady on twitter. Who's hopefully not a troll it? It's important I think we do need to like work a little extra hard to take care of people. If you're not going to the grocery store like tissier any delivery people at least like twice as much as yeah. Yeah take care of people in little ways because it matters. Yeah and so. I feel like it would be what I would love to hear more stories like the Tyler. Perry's story and like your story Jen again like you know. You're not fucking bye but no I guys we've but performed on the same shows where you get paid in drink drink feel good social justice point those. Yeah but but but these are the stories. I WanNa hear I wanNA hear about the Tyler. Perry and the you know the the just give a million dollars to the charity. You know what I mean I feel like the the James Corden like telethon stuff. I mean. People were criticizing. This is just for like your listeners. To just give twenty bucks to your friend who you know is struggling like I think one of the bigger fall-outs from this is going to be the economic. Fallout forty percent of Americans right. Now don't have like four hundred dollars in savings. And so the longer were in these kinds of quarantines and there's so many people whose jobs have been like bartenders and service industry people who just do and comedian musician careers have been postponed. I think we have to just were all try to just take care of people that you know are struggling do you. What do you think of the celebrities doing about like shows that go on from home? Do you wish that they are. You glad that they're still broadcasting or are they filling some sort of a void for you or keeping people employed and I mean if you watch. I'm sure people are enjoying watching them are you are either of you are watching them Watch him about as much as I used to watch them. Which is semi regularly but I like clips and staff and it seems like they're getting millions of views on Youtube Youtube counts view or whatever but going pretty well and I'm into I like the shows helps maintain a little sense of normalcy And you know to get to me like the closer look segments on Seth Meyers or like one of the things that keep me alive. You just WANNA show against Fancy Seth Meyers all day. A particular episode. You guys should check Google. Michael Cruz Myers. You could check it out. Yeah I think I it's interesting I I am sort of like if you're creating content like create content. Don't let it be about you. I'm on I'm sort of uncomfortable with just like celebrity conversations with talking about how they feel about it because I they're they are having a wildly different experience than the rest of us. And so but I am okay with like jokes you know what I mean like. I feel like things need to. It's almost like can we? Can we super see the celebrity interview in some of these shows with an interview with like the you know the head of Care Group get caregiving across generations or something? Do you know what I mean. Where you're like okay. Now now's the time we can talk about these issues. This is the doors open for us. People are experiencing. I'M GONNA make a celebrity out of the Executive Director of this nonprofit saying that's kind of what I want. I don't know but like also I don't I've been listening to Howard Stern and he had Rosie O'Donnell on and and it is. This virus is like an equalizer a lot of ways to I mean I think a lot of people really are in a lot of people are at risk and we've seen public figures die. Yeah it's insulating. But not in every situation and and so I do think there there is a universality to it also but yes we should we. Should you know reevaluate like who we admire and appreciate our society because our values are missile line? It's a line. Yeah Sound Generous Generous. I still for older people too. It's like people who have their kids at home and that's even if you have a coach house or whatever or like a guesthouse. Having your kids at home like kids are depressed. Their lives have. I've done zero studies on this. I'm just I don't I haven't seen a kid since the nineties but their lives have been upended. My kids are on their kids. My kids are on their ipads like forty nine hours a day for them. It's it's like I mean honestly Mike I don't know what happened to make my kids basically okay but maybe -Ike we've hit them at really good ages. I if they were teenagers. That'd be really tough. I have friends who have kids who are like you know. Just went on their first date. And then they got Koren's I mean stuff like that or like you know who miss their PROMS. And I know the hierarchy of things that we need in our live. Mass death and prom are not near each other. But I could see that it'd be difficult for those to have those formative moments. Mike. It's like I don't have a toddler which could be incredibly tough to have something smashing around. The House has no ability to restrain itself. And I don't have a teenager some right in that window where my kids are like on zoom with their friends every day for a couple of hours and kind of eating it up but I think that I mean. Don't get me wrong. I still scream at them. Like between ten and fifteen times a day. It's not like things are going perfectly. But it hasn't been as bad for us as I know. It has been for a lot of my friends. Yeah the toddler that I have a full nightmare. She's wonderful but it's just like she requires so much. There's nothing we can do. That isn't US paying deep attention to her. You know what I mean and in the absence of additional childcare it and still trying to keep up the minimal work. It's funny because it's like half of the things I do have been canceled. But it turns out the other half with a baby is like having forty-seven jobs that part of it for me where it's like okay. My wife is at work. And so my kids need help with their schoolwork. And it's very hard to be like I really. I'm trying to work out this joke about it a bit of Chinese dinosaur. I can't help help you with that. You know what I mean. It feels insane so I put this away so that my son can do his project about Haiku. Right okay you guys. What do you think of celebrity culture during these crazy times? A was I too hard on them. I don't know you weren't too hard. I think as long as they're not like telling people to go outside. They're they're fine. They're not hurting anyone for the right for. Donald Trump got into the White House with any individual celebrity. Really it's the systemic oppression of people economic and racial means. Okay fien alright you guys. Let'S WE'RE GONNA move on but before we move on. I want to remind you is that fake. The Nation has bonus episodes available institure premium. They're called bonus the nation a couple of episodes of already been released. And they're so fucking fun and they're just I think they're even more off the rails than normal because they're they have that bonus vibe. They're really fun and I. I want to point out like we're one of the very few podcasts. That pays our panelists. It's a standard. We have maintained from the very beginning. 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I'm sorry we'll get to them but I opened this one immediately and I saw it and I was like Oh. That's that's interesting. This is the second email I've now gotten in for years. They basically they think that might use of the term. You guys is offensive in anti-feminist and I should make an effort to stop using the term. You guys and it got me thinking. I wonder where we are on this. And then I you know. I started googling it and actually the center was nice enough to send some links. There's been a lot of articles written about it that I have missed all of them And so I started to think I wanted to know from you guys what you think this is by the way I recognize the most self centered topic because it is about me. We're going to die but I just thought why not like. Let's have a chat about something. That has absolutely nothing to do with the covet. What do you think about the term? Do you do is it. What does it mean to you? Is it creeping? Socialism is not a big deal. What do you think I've found myself taking taking it out of emails of people that I'm not close with or with people like who are working like I for like the last saw focus writers from there is like a moment where I was like you guys and I took it out I get. Why people are you know over. I think there's a level of sensitivity to that. Where if you're worried about that than like you're very lucky because there are a lot of other things to where it to be upset about that sad language is important and if it's easy to just take things out that you could have other things and you know. I think I catch myself doing it. Automatically and then kind of taking it out but I don't think I'm not offended and I don't think anyone should be well. People are whatever they want but it doesn't bother me. Does that make sense knowing that it bothers other people has modified my usage? But I don't you're not bothered by it personally. I feel like as a as a human man. I WanNa make sure that I am the last to speak on this but I think if the question is is it anti-feminist I sort of feel like. It's an arguable. That definitely is. I don't know my i. Would I just assume referring to all human beings as you guys would for sure be anti feminist? I'm open to being corrected but it just seems like a thing. That's so baked into our language culturally like mankind or deliveryman or whatever like that's the setup of the English language in America and. I think it is hard to reprogram yourself. But it's not that hard I feel like it's like the anticipation of how difficult it will be to stop saying. You guys is actually more anxiety inducing than actually just not doing it. What I have started to do is I say friends. I often I often is like we'll say hey friends instead of you guys. I used to say you guys I also really love saying dude and Bro even when addressing people who are not who are not men. So I'm trying to do that last. Because whereas before a different era I thought that was cute and fun now. I think there are people who are like well. I actually am. That hurts my feelings and I think everybody can draw their own line around what they think. What offends them and rate. This is good too. I mean it's not but everybody can decide for themselves what it is that they want to police in themselves. It just seems like if it's a thing that's not that hard for you to fix fix it. What the hell. Why not? Why not? Hell a protracted debate with somebody on facebook which is just makes me cool to say that. I'm faced with debates right away. Sorry ladies already married but with a guy who like it was for some reason important to him to continue saying the word the word retarded he wanted to keep he like was battling me for the right to say the word. And it's like I mean you can keep saying if I'm not gonNA come to your house and put tape over your mouth. I just think people in general would feel better. If you stopped you guys feel like super innocuous compared to that but just does seem like a thing. Where if you could stop yourself from saying it. Wouldn't it just be fine right? I mean okay definitely and I hear all of these arguments by the way the term I hear all these arguments phrases ablest so we have a shit a ton of able as language in our expressions and whatever I hear you I see you walk. Don't run run. Don't walk whatever like it's all over the place but I I. It's funny because I so I hear you and I see you and I feel you. I also understand I there. It is able to isn't it? I understand auto but I sort of thought we were doing as a society was repurposing. These these some of these kind of terms as gender neutral terms. You know what I mean that we were like. Yeah this hey guys has just been around. It's so innocuous unlike retarded which which is not innocuous it's obscenely loaded right you know count for Example Act I lo- I will defend kind As which are coming out of them named American count. Yeah it is annoying for you to get that email. Just that is what's annoying. I think the email that somebody sent you about like policing your language when you're doing this show and that term is annoying. No I am not annoyed by it. I think it's great and I love the people reach out and they're so you saw the email was so nice. It was so nice. It was so supportive but I or you saw some excerpts from the email sorry listener. Don't think I'm just four mcdonagh's violating your privacy. Which should be your next email. He'd be. Hey your home address which included some quotes in some links that you shared with me. Thank you and I think so for me okay. Do you guys know this star. I mentioned this before on the show. I'm sure I have. You know the show battle star Galactica formative show for me. I think about it a lot. I refer to it plenty and in the show. All of the women are referred to as Mr and I thought Inna imagined other world kind of future written by I have no idea and Probably man by man but to me I was like Oh we all just go I. I was like God. I'd love to be called Mr so so from my Lens. It's like giving me the status that like we've given the you know. The are most August leaders right. And we're we're like now we're like you know not women have that status to you. Know what I mean because we think the word scholar isn't gendered or or leader isn't gender teacher. Is it gendered write? These words are all gendered. You know from historically languages just a language as we speak today is just a collection of scars in wounds from the greatest atrocities of humankind right. That's with language represents a And it's now it's just like how do we take the one at eight? I guess yeah to me. You guys has is so innocuous in it it it confers To me it's such a gender. It's his felt so gender-neutral my entire life. That and I know that I should grow and look at things and now I have to give it up child. We're going to have to give it up. What what you're saying to me sounds like a pain that I feel all the time when I say the wrong thing right and it is the pain of being like one wave behind and I feel like I'm always playing catch up with language where I'll say something publicly and then someone who is more in touch with what's current will be like. That's deeply offensive to go through ten stages before I get too. Oh Yeah Okay I see what you're saying and I think you're right for but I I also hear Gen Z. Saying you guys. You know what I'm saying. That's one of the. It's not not the most divisive of all of the you know it's like if I can't stick to saying they when someone asked me to. I'm a I'm a fucked up person but then the question. Is this the flag you on a plant in the sand? I mean okay but the question of the flag is I'M I don't. I don't know if I'm a good person right but I try and be a good person by. I spend a lot of my fucking time thinking about issues in doing something about issues. Right and I'm like eats Can I still just be a good person and think that you guys is a gender neutral term not be like I don't know offensive? I guess I think you absolutely can be but I. I really want to make clear that. I'm not trying to separate myself from you as someone who's like I'm ahead of the curve. I shouldn't have said maybe God don't believe in God but I do think that what you're feeling. I think is the way a lot of people who feel like they've been made to feel like bad people. Social justice movements are feeling where you get to a certain point where you're like I've been. I've try so hard every day and I think at a certain point. Also the older you get. I know you're only twenty two. Yeah but at a certain point you get to a place like your software like. I'm not updating anymore. This is this is far. This doesn't run. I run on Microsoft. Ninety eight and I can't switch to the new thing I can't anymore and I think there's a pain really of going from one thing to the next thing and it gives us people who are like think of ourselves as socially just people a window when we get called out a window into what it feels right right right when you go back to your parents to be like no. You can't say whatever reality can't say exactly although I should say. My mother who is Asian Says Oriental every day every Asian to say it all the time screams it out and the driveway and then goes back inside empathize. But what I'm saying is empathize with what you're feeling and I also think you could. You are a good person. Thank you but there's like I think like one of the corner by being a good person. That's like an active continually evolving thing. No you're right it is. It is evolving thing and and it's funny because I got the second the other time I got. This email was maybe like in year. One of this podcast. I thought about it and I was like Okay well if I get more emails like this. I'll really think about it and then I got one more email like three and a half years later a psychological. You know an interest- interesting because I also think there is a way of looking at language. I and I totally see what you're saying that I could just be having an okay boomer moment where. I'm having a hard time adjusting but I feel like I don't have a hard time adjusting with nearly everything that's come out of the social justice movements of the last five years. I have no problems with it. I supported I champion it. I'm out there. I'm on the streets holding signs. I do all of that okay. But a with certain with this type of thing. I'm all I think they're the. Why don't we repurpose? Why ARE WE RE purposing? Something that's not that so innocuous to begin with. Maybe because you know what I mean. Maybe we're like at this moment. Where it's just a misogynist so insidious that we just got to cut the words per minute and then we can go back to you guys when we have a female president. We'll be able to save publicly again when president. I mean the whole my whole support of Elizabeth. Warren was premised on notion that I could keep. Continuing is a planet. Can we talk very quickly? And this is so stupid about alternatives. There's a few in in the many articles that have been written about this Friends folks everyone. Someone wrote colleagues someone wrote scholars gang team. Y'All and someone wrote guys like Hey. Hey someone wrote guys and girls which I thought that's a terrible option because girls makes it sound like the women in the rumor children man and sex pots harlot sluts virgins. Mr What am I say to? Us guys does that help at all. Sound like Foghorn Leghorn. It's better all right. Thank you. For this very self-centered question addressed to for me for Mayan help in my own thinking. Thanks for getting me through it Jennifer. Did you have another something to add? I do do. We have like three minutes. Because it's actually something I would want to know your take on yet but if we don't have three minutes. I got in trouble on twitter recently surprise surprise but I want to know. Ethically what you both? What you all think about this. What you guys think about this. I just was on twitter. It's really sad right now seeing people Die and like people morning them and I wanted to. Just give throw everyone bone. Give them some good news so I just wrote breaking news. Stephen Miller has tested positive for cove in nineteen. I realize how viral it would go. I didn't realize that many many journalists who I respect like re tweeted it without fact checking it. I literally had I kind of surgical viral I put in my twitter bio don't quote me And then people got very upset with me for spreading fake news but is it is it. My responsibility is a comedian. And is it fake news as much as like satire or like a feel good story that people can just you know? Stephen Miller is young enough like there are jokes that maybe his the virus can attache like oil lipid shall we don't know but is was that wrong. I did delete it but I did let it go viral for a couple of days before I leave very mad at me very mad at me and then somebody wrote an article about it. It was so dumb. What are your thoughts? First of all any any journalist who re tweets something without looking into it is like. That's their own bad hon dope e if you're a writer at the Washington Post and you just re tweet Jena Friedman stating a fact without that'd be major national news if that were effect so it's wild that someone would be myself it could of been a fact like the only reason guy wrote an article in the daily dot. It's because I started writing. Hey journalists take down but I'm leaving it up. And then some New York Mag writer who I thought was like cool. Took like a bunch of my tweets and like made me look like an like. He's like maybe I was like spiraling because people were like being so mean and I was reading the comments and I was like you guys. I'm just trying to make you feel good. And they're like you and so then I was just like backtracking. And then he took like four of my tweets in a row and was like okay and then I felt like a boomer. It's so funny how we're all feeling this like all the time that we've been being like you people don't get it and everyone's pointing us being like actually your like them. Can't you guys? Just Look Stephen. Miller puts kids in cages. He's a Jewish Nazi. I can't even get my head around that. He might have Cova We. There are so many silent carriers. You don't technically no he doesn't I just don't sad thing about the joke is in the sad thing about twitter. Oh and there was no punchline. It was satire. That's the other thing to really. Where's your punch line? I'm like it's funnier. That people believe this is real having some dumb joke. That like twenty other people are doing because we're all doing the same jokes because we all are living the same now the same healthcare okay. I think the sad thing about the satire is that it would in and this is the problem with twitter. Is that it's completely out of context. A bunch of people. Who Don't know you were now reading this. And they don't understand that it's at tire they don't if you were doing that on stage sandwiched between all of your material and people could see who you are and the type of material you do like coming out of you. I'm one hundred percent not surprised by that tweet. Like I would read it and I would ask Jennifer Friedman. You know what I mean. That's what I love about her. She fucking says it and But the problem twitter is that we don't have the benefit of like I love Jennifer. I know which he does. This is what she burn the witch. Burn the witch. It's funny because I wrote a tweet last night that I was worried. And I wrote hazy. Novo's remember when you thought burqas were bad built in facemask ban and I was worried about that and some people got back by the way burgers or not safe for like you know I was just like. Oh God and the doctor and your doctor would be like I'm going to prescribe Hydra whatever. It is also a burqa right but I think People are sensitive right now sensitive right now and I think when we wanna do something that has that were questioned. I added Bam to the Sweet. So then it was clear that I wasn't joking right. I don't know if that worked but I think you can make jokes but you know what you have to kind of make it at your own risk may now. I guess my question is should I do it again? Bannet has should be Alex Jones as this happened to you guys. People upsets me multiple times and like over zoom hangouts like I wished trump would get corona virus. And a second part of that sentence which. I'm not going to repeat and I get deeply uncomfortable. Obviously I don't want anyone to die. Whatever I don't want even to be misconstrued that anyone should think that I would want anyone to die. However horrendous that person is rate and people are sort of more cavalier about saying that out loud because they're because also people are just stuck in there fucking bunkers with a really botched response at the federal level. So it's like you're feeling about Stephen. Miller is just coming through every pore with the anger and the intensity and they didn't have to be this way you mother fucker you know and so I i. I wanted to give people good news because so many good people are dying so many like the musician. The couple musicians. Yeah and then the one atom session singer Transit Workers Yeah Yeah Yeah Yeah. Yeah no I mean the bus driver in Detroit like all of these people and so then just to see that Stephen Miller got it just sparks joy to think that there's Karma it's just rekondo into this. I think if you were to make video like this explaining the joke and posted on twitter. Yeah yeah that's what I do is explain explain. Their jokes really joke. It was like performance are known writing that. And that's when the guy like screen shotted. This screen shot of other people's tweets and is so aggressive and creepy. And I really. I think it's one of those other side moments where you're like. Oh when I read other articles about people being like this this it's this this out and then you're like wait. I just wanted you and then like but the four of those tweets together and then it's like a New York Mag writer doing it and you're like avalanched under all deeply unkind replies. Dying may twitter. I've never been. Nobody has any idea who I am. That's never happened I cannot do. It does seem terrible to be avalanched under so and it's also like it feels like an avalanche but it's like fifty people or whatever replying you know what I mean. I just wanted to put in New York magazine. That's a different story. Well I think also when you get picked up by like Alex Jones or Breitbart or whatever I have you have to write Jonah. Been picked up by those on. I can't even say I've been on a big Nazi rag that I don't even want to invoke. Yeah but the other thing is I mentioned with those guys pick you up. They picked me up on this too because I mentioned not see. I said what's the worst thing that could happen if people actually think that Stephen Miller has kobe he'll have to like pitches. Nazi policies via zoom and but writing. Not Seeing the tweet then got the Nazis Environment. Delivered directly to our trolls. Who aren't even real saying like you're GonNa like all this shit. Sorry to cut you off Nobody thought when you and I don't know if this has been your experience by getting when you get picked up by the far-right is that they don't. I mean they will fucking go at it for like three full days and and they will leave thousands of comments. You know you have to put your to private and just yeah I started. I was getting that so I I just I never put my Vija private but I just stepped away from twitter for like two days once because I couldn't handle it but but but the nice thing is is this too shall pass like it always passes you know what I mean. They get they get alarmed they get into something else and then you move on and so even with this thing. Even you know the purest on twitter will stop harassing you. All right you guys what do you think of Jenner? Friedman's tweet so let me journey. It's Gone Yeah. We don't we don't ever have to talk about it again. I just wanted to know what you guys saw. Because I haven't seen you or anyone. We also note. Stephen Miller is a huge fan of this podcast. She'll probably he'll probably email me. He has it maybe he does have it. You guys actually so yeah. Ap He actually has all right. You guys I normally on the show by asking how you feel but instead I'm GonNa ask what is making you feel hopeful. I was just going to say and this is a very corny answer. But it's GonNa Happen to be my family. I mean like if I did not have my kids with me right now every day while my wife is you know at work. I'd be losing my mind so it's like it's human children Santa Mental. The can't see my wife and her friends like you know go to battle. It's like there are good people here who are seeking the common good and that gives me some hope. Michaels family hope it. Does you know like little kitties adapting so well. Doctors and nurses and healthcare workers like you know how risking their lives. I I really hope we can be better at protecting them Yeah I don't know I I saw that you're GonNa make fun of the cooking show but I'm actually doing a good of doing a cooking show. Are you really GONNA be yeah? It's called the joy of quarantine and I don't know how to bake and I've already like burn myself just trying to make like the easiest things and cut myself so I'm not thinking that but I just you know just remember when we were on the food network together that my goodness yes and you should do something with that. I know I am not a big. Yeah I'm not big at cooking. Either I feel I you mentioned about your wife. Who's a nurse not to be outdone my dad and my brother also on the Front Lines Noble? What's making me hopeful? Actually my dad explained to me you know. He's in an age group that should not be operating on people right now but he is And so he's out there doing surgeries and I'm just like how are they letting you fucking do this. You know what I mean. But he's got the skills and they need them and Because other things are still happening while Crowe viruses happening like heart attacks which my dad's really good at fixing and and so one of but he explained what's making what I'm grateful for is. He explained to me what the hospitals doing to keep him safe. All of frontline workers safe. And there's something and I don't know if all the hospitals are doing this but in the hospitals that he works at Southern California. They're they have something where they can do. Negative pressure or something air in the hospital where they push the air from the hospital out so instead of like circulating air from the outside in that air stays in there. They're constantly circulating it out which I didn't realize I was a thing but anyways that's the thing so it helps by the virus move away onto like a native American news dissipates in there. That's by those people take. It can't survive that long whatever and then He also talked about some kind of ultraviolet light that they have going in the hallways him. They don't know if your wife has talked to you about this. But there's I almost bought a wand on Amazon one of the UV rays one that were UV lights going and You know you just talked about the the whole cleaning and the just the whole everything that the hospitals are doing and I was just like that makes very grateful for the plans that are going into stuff like that and it's giving me hope you guys. That's the end of the show. And I really want for the people of faith the nation to follow you all of your your cooking Jeddah Friedman. Where do they do that? I'm on twitter. Don't believe everything. I'm on twitter by the Amazon because Amazon and is really not good with their workers. Yeah but I Yeah I mean by Amazon. Yeah I'm around I'm online My name has one end and you know that is a ringing. Endorsement of Yourself Michael Cruz cain where do people find? You you can find me on twitter at Cruise Kane and you can also come to my home address. Which is in late. Sounds you guys? I really want. I can't emphasize enough that these two people are so fucking fantastic. You should consume everything they've ever done and And I loved them both dearly As as artistes there I said it artistes Michael. Did you want to throw up a little bit French? It's even better but when I really want to do and You know who makes me hopeful or the PUCK and people who make this show happen in the most ridiculous circumstances you guys. Let's our producer. Anita floor talented audio engineer. Andy Kristen's Gaby Alter Rotor theme. Music fleshler helps with research and We would love to hear from you. Send US your feedback topics. We should be chatting guest ideas. You can leave us a voicemail. Three four seven seven seven zero four nine eight one draws the line at comments make the nation DOT com. 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391: Before & After Digital Course Academy: 3 Students Share Their Fears and Success

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391: Before & After Digital Course Academy: 3 Students Share Their Fears and Success

"Hey it's Jenna. Let me cut to the chase registration for the once a year free training led by my mentor turned friend. Any porterfield is open right now at Jena Plus Amy Dot com that's Jenna Plus Amy Dot Com to save your seat for how to create and launch a profitable digital course where annual be sharing the I've behind the scenes secrets for digital course creation this live masterclasses, all about what she's learned in her eleven years of creating and delivering top quality digital training in all things business marketing social, and online courses. She's brilliant and. She's one of the mentors that led me to create my first online course, her live have open seats and I hope your name is on one of them. She only does this once a year. So do not miss your shot ready to learn from the course creation queen herself about what it takes to launch digital force WANNA hear the behind the scenes strategies that amy and thousands of her students myself included used launch their courses around the world then grab your seat at Jena plus any dot com I'll see you inside all right onto the show. My name is Jennifer and I am obsessed with all things, business marketing numbers and helping you to navigate both the messy and the magical seasons of this thing called life I'm a small town mama who to three hundred dollars camera grew as successful photo Biz and now worked from home in. Romans seven figure online business I teach you the tried and true secrets to building a career. You Adore shy away from the real talk no way. Her ship growth lost in marketing are all topics discussed here? This is your one stop shop for happy hour with a Gal pal mixed with business of pull up a seat. Make sure your cozy and get ready to be challenged and encouraged while you learn. This is the gold digger podcast. Making a big investment in yourself doesn't hours feel like slipping into a warm bubble bath especially, not at first it feels like diving headfirst into cold dark water, your heart races, your teeth chatter and your brain is shouting, did I really just do that but then there's this precious moment when you re surfacing take that first big gulping breath of air you climb your way out of the water, wrap yourself in your cozy Powell and think, Hey, that was actually super refreshing. You're telling everyone still standing on. The edge of the water you know it's a lot nicer once you get in these three students decided to take their own plunge by investing in themselves and enrolling in any Porterfield signature program the digital course academy. The doors are open right now, and this program is the gold standard for anyone who wants to create launch and scale an online course. That's exactly what Danielle and Christy Nicole I've done over the last year but investing in the program wasn't a decision that came lightly their fear and reservations could. Have prevented them from into the water could have held them back from all the successes they've seen since making the understandably fearful decision to invest. Sat you are you standing on the edge thinking shirt creating an online course sounds great but should I I really dive in? That's actually why Danielle and Chrissy and Nicole are on the gold digger podcast. Today they know better than anyone what is like to be where you are standing debating if this is the right jump, you'll hear their before during and after stories. Of Digital Course Academy, as well as reservations they had an how those went out the window as they started the course I'm so thrilled to have them here. So you can picture yourself in their successes. So learn more about digital course academy and take advantage of my c a bonus had to DC a with Jenna dot com that's D C A WITH JENNA DOT COM to enroll in the digital course academy and check out all the incredible bonuses I'm throwing in. Okay. Now let's dive on into this episode. Thanks to fundraise for supporting gold digger star building your better portfolio today get started at fundraise dot com slash gold digger to have your first ninety days of advisory. Fees waived. The secret behind my website design is tonic. They've created a collection of customizable websites that are super stunning and wicked easy to update save twenty percent on your tonic site at tonic site shop dot com with the code gold digger. That's T. O. N. I C. S. T. E.. S. H. O. P. DOT COM and the code gold digger. Nicole before we hit recorded you manifested this moment and I'm so excited about that. You said someday, I will be on the podcast so I want. Yes. Welcome you to this manifestation being lived out. Welcome to the PODCAST. Thank you Jena. It's so great to be here. seriously. So grateful. So excited. So I have had the pleasure of just watching parts of your story unfold but tell me just a little bit about your journey that kind of landed you where you are today in two thousand and twenty. Yeah. It's kind of a crazy story and I always go back to really like my upbringing and the. Beginning because I feel like entrepreneurship has always been in my blood. But at the same time, there's always been this stunt of needing to climb the corporate ladder, get an education, get some stability, some security, and a lot of that came from the fact that my mom had me out a very young age. She was fifteen years old when she got pregnant with me and so it was. Really hard for us as a family growing up I seen her work three jobs back to back and I see my dad try to start job after job are an entrepreneurship journey after on journey and chase of the. Dream in just not happening for our family and one of the biggest things on both of their hearts was like all right getting education, get a stable job with some benefits and that is your ticket to the American dream. We are a Puerto Rican family and I was a first generation college graduate, and so all of that was like, okay, this is my mission. This is my goal and once I got there and graduated and got a secure job it was like oh Okay well, now, what I guess they just they just climb the corporate ladder as much as I can and try to chase this lifestyle at the same time I got married had kids yawned by the age of twenty five years old I had already reached vp of sales for fortune five hundred company was a momma to three boys and so there was a lot going on. Younger Age and you kind of get to this point sometimes in life or your dislike. Okay. But. Am I. Happy Doing this and is this what I'm passionate about and this worth the time away from my kids and away from my family in the way that I need to be and so I continued to grow and I stepped into the role of Director of marketing which got me. So excited because I was just running multimillion dollar launch campaigns month over month it was incredible is working with personal brands and I thought okay, I think. I've. Had it like I hit my rose on the corporate side I'm doing something a passionate about and I love and then the company shut down there was some issues mismanagement. We shut our doors and all of us were let go with two days notice. And it was like, okay. Did Not expect this curve ball in life. I thought like I've been on this path I. thought it was doing everything riot I. Thought I had. Job Security and financial security. In the way that you know my family was taught, we didn't have a ton of examples of wealth when it came to entrepreneurship and owning businesses, and so this is January twenty nineteen and I was kind of at a pivotal point of like what do I do now and so that was a big year for me to just take step back and really think about what can I do? That aligns with my skill set. My superpower is what I'm passionate about but also is something that could give me more freedom than what I had more financial freedom time freedom to be able to be a mom and to be with my kids and kind of view it as an opportunity to step into. That's kind of what kicked off the beginning of my business, the brand vibe and my entrepreneurship online journey altogether. Really. It's so crazy because it's like wait what like this story actually is what a lot of people are facing these days you know with how twenty twenty has panned out what was it like when you're like alright I guess I'm on my own and I better. Do something. What was Lake Oh my gosh scary frightening. Yeah it's kind of crazy journey. I did what I knew how to do bass, which was continuing to look for jobs. I had climbed pretty high I was looking for executive positions and those are not easy and quick to come by and so while I was doing that I'm like, okay, I'm GONNA keep applying searching his this is all I know this is the world I've built in my career for so long but I'm gonNA figure this out for myself too. I'M GONNA try to have this self-discovery mode of I wanna do in life and where I. Want to go and so on the process of that, really dug into podcast like yours and just getting all the knowledge and information as they can inspiration from people of what's possible and what is this world look like, and what are all the things that I could tap into and one of the biggest things that got me down the path of the company that run right now his I wanted to take the marketing skills at that I had acquired and built over fifteen years and help people like me the thirty five other incredibly talented creative is that. Got Let go and are just kind of faced with like. Okay. Well, how do we create our own stability our own security doing what we love to and the passion to want to help the underdog and really come alongside them from a marketing perspective kind of as in house chief, marketing officer I season and get the excited and passionate about starting their own business and launching that that felt like there was so much purpose in that beyond just a paycheck beyond just even my own personal financial security for myself my family like it just grew and went. So, much bigger than that I have such a passion for helping women of color like myself and just being able to do that to create that opportunity for our families and our lives and kind of pivot and change a lot of you know maybe the path we would have been on otherwise. So it's a lot of self discovery when you're in this mode of what do I do now but if you allow yourself to really dive into that and to observe and you know really think about what matters to you most, it's incredible. What can come from? well, you're such a good example to of redefining success for yourself and I think so many of us are taught there's this one path that you must take in order to be truly successful and I think that I've been able to just kind of watch you carve your own path as a busy mom of three. And kind of force in Entrepreneurship I. WanNa Know How you know what made you take the leap of faith to invest in any porterfield program because you're a learner like when I think Asu. Lifelong learner she is all in on learning. What made you say this is it in this is a program that I can learn from. Yeah I definitely feel like I've grown up as an overachiever pit and just constantly wanting to learn and grow and push through like if there is an issue or a problem I'm like it's we will figure it out we'll find the solution will learn how to do it. It's all good I think that's what makes me such a great strategist it's also what helps me be a mom with such confidence I'm like you know what it's okay we're going to figure this out together So, having that mindset mentality is like, all right, I'm going to use this as an opportunity for me to learn and create a path to grow an online business. I knew that I wanted to be able to help other women, other leaders to market their businesses and market their personal brands. But I also wanted to do it in a way that would allow me to be a mom to my kids and present with them, and so the idea. Of creating kind of both of this hands on a bit of one on one of Ben of done for you kind of services. But yet still with passive income and online courses and growth opportunities, I just felt like that was such a perfect marriage of what I wanted to do. That would just align for my family. So I just was like all right. We're going to do this. We're GONNA. Take the course, and we're going to figure out of To create this online business than away that functions for my family and that would just really allow me to grow and scale at the rate without giving too much of myself because I didn't want it to have the opposite effect of feeling still tied down to a nine to five that felt like it was round the clock. Yeah. What has twenty twenty looks like for you? Because twenty twenty is looked like a lot of things for a lot of Let's take a moment to take a look back over this last year. So Twenty Twenty has been insane in all the craziest ways that we're all feeling but in my business and all of the best ways an I'm so humbled and grateful for all that has happened for this year. With the brand vibe I was able to grow and scale this business to the point where I quit my full time job. So I talked about how when I lost my job initially I was still in the search still on the hunt for what that next role could be, and while I found my path on wanting to start this business I also got a job offer for something pretty incredible of a role as a creative director and isn't that just how life works where you're like? No, just decided to do this and yet here's the opportunity I've been looking for for six months. and. So I did end up taking that job. I had just been six months without a job. I didn't want to run a business with the financial pressure on my back continuing I wanted to do it for all the right reasons I wanted to do it to have an impact but I did dedicate myself to doing it, and that actually was one of the stipulations of taking the role was like I'm also running this business and I just need to make sure you guys are aligned with that and okay with it because I'm not GonNa stop and we were which is really incredible because not a lot of companies are. So I started doing wild in conjunction running the business. And raising three babies and so it was a crazy year twenty nineteen into the first half of twenty twenty. But when covert hat in March there was an opportunity to really step up and serve my audience online in a very intentional way and so in doing that and showing up and really creating programs and courses at aligned with what they needed during the season, it had propelled my business into being able to quit that fulltime job and be able to scale to the rate that I'm at right now, I have now since shifted into running a full-blown marketing agency, which is so exciting 'cause I get the chance and the privilege. Yes, it's so great but I get the privilege to. Know, employ other people and help them to enhance their strengths and it just is. It's so great. It's just full circle to come to where I am right now and I don't know that it would have happened at this rate or at this level had this year not brought what it did and so in a lot of cases I, think it's been really tough year for everyone but in trying to look through the positives of it, I see the benefits of what it's brought my business in how by extension that has helped impact so many lives and that is one of the most fulfilling feelings you can have as a business owner. One of the things I love that you talk about Nicole is diversifying your income. Similar For just because I think that when I think of your story, you've been able to pivot which I have coined the word of two thousand twenty. Many interactions but each of those directions has allowed you to kind of diversify your income in a way that provides at security which you find as kind of your measure of success. Walk me through that just a little bit. Yeah. So number one, I had this fulltime job. So for everyone out there who's thinking in order for you to start a successful business in grow wind, you have to go all in and you have to do this on your own. It is possible. I was able to have a fulltime job. Run A business and raised three kids and it wasn't easy. I'm not going to sit here and say it's the easiest thing to do and simple but it's possible and with the right focus and support around you and leap of faith you can for sure. Make it happen by a lot of it comes from understanding what's happening in the moment and being willing to pivot into what is aligned with your lifestyle and your family and your goals along with what your audience. And so in a lot of ways I started this with thinking I'm going to do one on one coaching primarily I'll be hands on really get a feel for what people need when it comes to marketing branding or launching their course, launching their program, and then go from there and. Being. Very attentive to what my audience was responding to just really realizing that depending on the season that we're in, we just need different levels of support and different things, and so it went from helping coach Preneurs to while, can you also do the work for me? You know we're busy and we need a lot of help along the way and can you create the sales page email sequence and all of the fun stuff when it comes to launching fun for me but not for a lot of people. And so of course I can because I knew that I had not only my own skill set to do it but I had a lot of the knowledge from courses like Amy's and digital course. Again, me just gave me such a great framework for launching and for creating Cortez and being able to be hands on with someone in doing the work that was a huge opportunity. But then also really looking at like Ra. Now, we're in this covert online space, and so we're pivoting more to online courses and more degree programs, and so it really just has become like you know what does. The market color. What do my clients really need? How can I show up for them that such purpose and continuing to create programs that they fall in love with again and again? I love when you talk because I'm smiling because when you say, we walk me through a little bit about who you've collaborated with over this last year. This has been like my front row seat access to getting to watch women specifically but women and men pursue their dreams and champion other women. Oh. My Gosh. This has been one of the best like benefits that were on expected of being involved with DCA and getting it with your community. I have been able to meet so many other like minded leaders entrepreneurs who are just chasing their passions in their dreams and we all have our own unique abilities. We have our own skill sets and when you can find a best year that can just compliment what you're doing so well, it really opens up so much more opportunity. It opens up your thought on where you're. In grow and it really allows you to champion one another and the best way possible. So it's been so incredible to partner with people like Danielle and Hillary, and on and all of these incredible entrepreneurs to step in and say, Hey, you have something offer I have something to offer what if we combined this and created a joint course or a program or you know we're able to kind of take the best of each of our world and serve our audience in the best way and that was unexpected. But one of the biggest benefits of this is that collaboration I have loved watching you guys all collaborate and there's just so much collective knowledge and I also feel like kind of a hidden benefit of that in being in community with other people that are going in the direction you're going is you're able to call out other people's strengths in a way that maybe they didn't witness I feel like it's almost like this awakening where you're like wait. No, you're so good at this and getting burned to. figure out like wait what is my sweet spot in like wow I am really good at that. Isn't it just like so exhilarating oh my gosh because we're so close to own genius. We always see it and we'd Oh, everyone knows this her own this isn't special and you have these people around you that are like, no, it's very special and unique, and it's definitely one of your superpowers like Oh. Okay. Yes. Keep talking. What else is there? More. What would you say to someone who wants to pivot or wants to diversify their income or questioning like do I have gifts or can I translate gifts from my nine to five or just give something to the world and make a bigger impact? What would you say to that? Like what was that thing that got you off of defense and into programs that have changed your life? I think especially with this year, I had this a lot last year in two thousand nineteen with my job loss and I know a lot of us are feeling at this year with Kobe and all that is happening but the reality is life really is short and we just don't know how much time we have how much opportunity there is ahead of us if you have this burning passion. Inside of you, that is setting your soul on fire to want to chase a different direction. There is never a better time than right now and being willing to say I'm at least going to try and I'd rather try and fail then fail to try and having that mindset of like I'm GonNa give this my all gonna go for it because I know I have so much value to add. That is so important to taking that leap and taking that step forward. Starting an online business and being an entrepreneur. There's a lot of limiting beliefs we struggle with. There's a lot of mindset we have to work through and really being able to step into it with faith and say I'm GonNa go for it. I'm going to give it my all and I'm at least going to try and it's humped to make an impact beyond myself beyond you know what I'm doing here and Annexed you know just go for it like that's the biggest thing is just go for it because if you're feeling that way, there's literally no better time to do it the now. I, love that Nicole where can everybody can act with? You find out more about what you offer check in on you given all of the places. Yes. You guys can find me I'm over at the brand vibe pretty much in every channel said the brand five dot com or at the brand vibe on instagram and facebook. So that is where you guys can connect with me. I am just so grateful for you in my life and just the way that you show up in our community and I cannot wait to see what this next year brings for you. Omega Jonah same here. Completely thank you so much for having. It's been such a joy. Aright. I am so excited to welcome Chrissy to this podcast Chrissy. Welcome to the gold digger podcast. Thanks so much I am so excited to be here I'm so excited to have you. So we have to give people Kinda fullback story, but I was actually crissy's wedding photographer. In the day now we've grown up and had babies and done way too many pivots to even count. So walking people through just a little bit of your story Kristy because your story is like one of my favorites. ANCO, yet, it's so crazy when people ask me what I'm doing now and why I always start by saying, well, you don't have you heard of Johnny coacher she was my wedding photographer and seven years ago and I started following you because I think you featured our pictures on your blog and so that's kind of how I ended up just watching your life from afar as we do on social media. And it was just really cool to watch your dirty and seeing. Go from being. fulltime photographer to than teaching other people how to do business with photography, and then all of a sudden I said now she's teaching people. Business. Now, she bought a Condo in Hawaii. So as we kept going I started. Ed. Just having these dreams of doing some of the things that I saw you doing, which was having freedom over your time and impacting the masses. Meanwhile, on my end I. Had had two kids a four and a half year old and a six year old and I've been in education for almost two decades. Now, some a former middle school math teacher and I was a math instructional coach for a number of years and right when I had my daughter, I took a role as a director of math professional learning at a national nonprofit. So I was working from home which gave me some freedom and creating a lot of content planning protocols and professional development and lots of things like that and. I was noticing. That might impact was limited to those people who were in the organization or partnering with our Organization and so as I was watching the online course world explode I started having these thoughts about. How could I get some of the knowledge out into the world at a lower price point Because I knew how expensive it was to partner with our organization and so that was kind of when the seed was planted and you know as I listened to your podcast and other podcasts, it just this just thought just happed being in the back of my mind that needed this. Something that I could do someday and when the opportunity presented itself I jumped on it and I know we'll get into it but like one thing led to another and. Now. I'm pursuing my own online business fulltime. which is just so exciting and crazy. What was it like when you like all right I'm in it invest in myself and like really go for this because I often think that just simply like proclaiming that dream and putting money down on it is the hardest step. Absolutely. So the context there is that a few months before I started investing in online courses to really start learning more about online marketing and courses I had taken a new job, and so I was about three, four, five months in. And it was not on my radar at all but when I heard you. Talking about the opportunity that comes along with building your own business and share your knowledge something just spoke to me and the way I think of it is like it's one of five or seven. Key Times in my life where I feel like the universe has given me the loudest and clearest sign that I'm supposed to do something. And I ended up trying a few avenues to get my old job to buy it and I told them I would do the work and it didn't work out and so I actually told my husband I wanted to get my first online course as my mother's Day present. which was a lot of mother's Day present. But I just I knew one way or another I was like I am. I. Am supposed to do this and I don't know why. I am one hundred percent clear. So it felt it felt scary but good because I I just felt in alignment and like it was the right thing. One of my favorite things about you Chrissy is that I feel like so many people in your position don't necessarily think of themselves as an expert even though that is one hundred percent what you are how did you battle that imposters because you are doing this work for so long and you saw this bigger goal to provide like the same knowledge and learning through free and lower priced opportunities, and that feels like a very big goal and a very big problem. How did you finally decide like I am the one that is supposed to do this I would say I've struggled a little bit accepting that word expert. Yeah even in which is crazy because that's exactly what you are. In my previous role, there were times people would refer to me using that language and I. It was almost like when someone gives you a compliment and you WANNA brush it off you know I kind of had that reaction to do that. I would say over time as I followed my intuition more and more as I gave advice or feedback to people. And I saw that it was impactful. I think that built up my confidence that I really did have a perspective that was grounded in evidence that was valuable that could save people time that could help people get further and have more impact. and. So it was probably a slow build to. Get to the point where I I accepted the term. And now here in there, I will use the term in describing myself. I don't know that's probably like a woman thing to more common for us as women to. Do that anyway. Yeah. So I think that happens I became more willing to call myself an expert or think of myself in that way. And in terms of sharing with the world. That's so hard to answer. I just felt called. That's the true answer is just felt called. and. It's one of these things to where I don't know if this happens to you John You. Look back on your life and you see how? The little pieces along the way like the dots each experience has prepared you. Yes. Like I took a graphic design course. Randomly. You know like eight years ago. And then in my last job I was doing so much content creation and so being an entrepreneur right now I'm like. I love all those parts of it like the graphic you know I. I'm still creating my own content and Candida like we're you know we're in that stage of the business world really. camp. Like were. But I can see how all these different pieces prepared me to do what I'm doing now. What was it like when you logged into? DCA like how did it feel? How was the course experience for you? How is amy as an instructor Kinda give us the scoop for someone that's like the fence now, I don't know if this is for me. A. Logging into DCA was empowering I would say I think amy has done such an amazing job thinking through not only the content but the experience. So even the fact that she decided to drip the content I think was very wise. It's a lot of information and she gives you everything you need. It's very detailed, very thorough and step by step, and so it felt so manageable just to know that. Okay. Here's this one module and I have a full week to work through it before the next one drops. And she also does such a great job of taking the pressure off. One of the things I was a little concerned about was, how was I going to keep up with? You had a fulltime job at the time to kids which I still has. And she gave us a calendar. I remember she gave us a pdf that helped us pace ourselves with sort of like which do you WanNa? Pick. And she spoke to all three of them and made them all valid. You know to the point where I thought okay. I'M GONNA take the slow track I'm GONNA allow myself six months to implementer for it was. And so yeah, logging in felt good because I knew I had time to do it. I knew I had lifetime access and I knew I, could go at my own pace. Yes Tell. Me About the course that you just launched. What is your course because I love what you t done? Yet. So I just did a workshop course and that's actually something that I learned about through Amy's through DC as well and felt more manageable for me. So I did a two hour workshop through math educators and it's all about how to increase access to grade level math using discussion based teaching. So. One of the biggest challenges for Middle School High School math teachers is when students have unfinished learning from previous grades. And it can be really tricky situation to know. Do you go back and teach prior level content you move forward if grade level and some of it's going to go over the kids heads and so I've. Created live really pulled together a lot of strategies and done work with teachers and leaders to try to figure out some easy through sort of low lift ways to increase the access to grade level content. And so yeah, it was a success. It was actually last week. It's so cool. It was so fun getting to watch you launch and what I love and I think so many people are hesitant about is there like way are people actually going to be like willing to pay for this? Am I to specific and when you said what your offer was, it's a niche like that. That is for a specific audience and I think it allows you to make an even bigger impact in the students that you get to teach will thank you I mean, yes. The way I tell people I pretty much quadruple niche I think. because. It's not just teachers, but it's math teachers, middle school and it's this. Problem. Yeah. But it's amazing. They say the riches are in the niches and I just think to the richness in devalue value that you can provide lies in the specificity that you offer. So that people are like, yes, this is exactly created for me what I need in mind I wanNA know Chrissy. When are you going to launch a course that helps parents guide their students to learn math with virtual learning this year that's what I want Al. Jonah. Next month. I'm like you need to create this I've been waiting for you to do this. Are you serious? I am you in every other parents so I would say I've been really working on my strategy and soul-searching who I wanted to serve for the past at least twelve months and every time I would share with people that I was supporting teachers and coaches has. That was their response. When will you help me? and. So I told people you know I went into education like that's my primary. I've gotta get the foundation going you know I have a podcast and there was just a lot of things to get in place and so I I had the parents in the back of my mind I had them and especially then when cold it hit in the spring, I was hearing people ask for this but I thought we'll be back in school in the fall you know. But as summer moved on and. became clear that many of us would not be back in school fulltime it again, listening to the universe and listening to people I felt more and more that it was time to respond to that need and so actually go together as we speak a podcast episode or two for parents. So that'll be coming up and then there's going to be at least one workshop and I'm considering doing a series of workshops for parents, kind of still figuring out what parents want. But yeah, next month. I'm so excited and one thing that want to point out, and this is kind of selfishly pointing this out. But when you learn something like the DA framework, you can apply this to any launch that you do like an I feel like so many times people look at an investment and they don't understand how knowledge can compound and you as a math teacher you get it right? Absolutely. So right because I bought DCA about a year ago at this point Joan and my first you now true launch was a few weeks ago I pulled out my notes you know I went back to. The modules and actually re watched a few lessons. It has. It's so amazing that we have again the. Access. And I just refresh on the parts I needed and in fact, I had also bought Amy's webinars slides you could buy I don't know if that option this time but And I hadn't used I used to, I pulled him out and that was that was my template for the Webinar. I love it. Yeah. Isn't that cool and I think that you know I mean I was amy student I years ago and just looking at how you can take what you learn and figure out. Okay. What is my spin? What is my take and I feel like does this better than most educators where she provides a system, the blueprint strategies but then she also encourages you to find your space to find your niche and I know for you that was a huge thing like that validation. IDEA. Walk me through what non-fat like when you were like yes this is a clear concept that I can run with when I got. DC I still wasn't clear exactly who I wanted to serve. There were a number of reasons for that. Part of it was that I was multi passionate. You know I thought. Okay. Maybe I could serve moms because the first few years of motherhood have presented some challenges maybe I could serve math teachers may be coaches maybe parents ahead all these different ideas. And one of their activities that any has a stew in. DC. Is Validation calls. That was invaluable. Because I actually started with. One audience in mind I was thinking I was going to serve mass principals, principals who were supporting math and I did a number of phone calls on that and in fact, I'll even tell you I recorded a few podcast episodes with that audience in mind and as I was doing it I was reflecting and paying attention to my own like energy around it. And through that experience and through what people were telling me. I knew it felt off it wasn't the right audience that I wanted to start with. Those those folks told me they didn't listen to podcasts and. Also, the things that they needed help with I wasn't feeling super passionate about teaching and so through the process of DCA, and during those twelve weeks, I ended up doing more validation calls with teachers and as I was talking to the teachers. That joy came. You know it just it was so clear to me that that's where the energy and passion was for me and you know serendipitous -ly. I had an opportunity to do some one on one consulting at my old school with teachers and so that aligned right to the end of DCA. And so I said Yes to that even though I didn't really have time given that I again had had this fulltime job but because of that clarity that I had the validation calls ahead this idea that like that's GonNa be. Who I make the first course for and so I WANNA work with people one on one. Because, amy she mentioned that in the course over and over she says, you know if you haven't done the one on one, do it because it will help you get in your ICA it'll help you start to test out different resources, see what you're saying and over again, start to put together your framework and she was absolutely right like I came out of that with a clear framework I came out of it knowing the pain points. Anyway. Yeah. So that that especially with a very helpful exercise. I love that Chrissy. What would you tell someone if they are on the fence and they're like I don't know I. Don't have an email list. I don't know if I'm an expert I don't know if it's too complicated. What would you say? I would say. If you have a passion and you know you have knowledge you WANNA. Get out into the world DCA is is an invaluable investment. You could to help you have the roadmap and the step-by-step for how to get started with it. I'm the kind of person that's a little bit more of a slower starter I like to observe and take my time before I jump in. So even though I was spending those twelve weeks really learning and implementing slowly my action taking with a little bit more slow paced methodical. I still got so much out of it because I got to observe. Amy's teaching. It gave me a vision of kind of course I wanted to create, and it also helped me with my overall business strategy. Like I went into it knowing okay. I want digital courses to be a big part of what I do. And so part of why it took a little more time as because I wasn't saying Yes to every consulting opportunity that came my way. Does that make sense? Yes. One hundred percents. Oh my gosh. Yes chrissy where can Find you and connect with you and listen to your podcast and check out your education gives all of the places. Okay. 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I was having a true full circle moment where I was thinking back to a year ago today Jenna like maybe not a year ago today but year ago, August twenty nineteen I was commuting into an office listening to podcasts. So the fact that I'm sitting here on it right now is wild, isn't it while I? Talk to me a little bit about what you doing in two, thousand nineteen, and then we'll kind of talk about what you're doing today in just that transformation that you've undergone in one of the craziest years of your lives I mean, you couldn't have said it better. It's truly one of the craziest years of my life. So August Twenty nineteen, I'm a vice president of strategic initiatives at a tech startup. So I had my entire career working at fortune five hundred, and then tech startups where I was in sales in strategy type roles. I was traveling a ton managing teams I got to work with some super coal retailers brands. I was truly living my best life. and Super Glamorous from the outside looking in. But something that was always kind of weighing on me was obviously the travel wears you down obviously like living on a plane in a hotel room that's just not sustainable and then working for someone else really warm down both like emotionally and mentally. So naturally I resigned as vice president of strategic initiatives. My absolute dream job I contemplated doing that for about a year but on September second twenty nineteen I picked up the phone I called my boss and I resigned and nothing says your replaceable quite like a fifteen second resignation call. So that is truly like story it was like you put in your blood sweat and tears. But at the end of the day are replaceable and so that is truly where I was a year ago and my life is totally different sitting here in. August. Twenty twenty. Isn't that wild? It's crazy. Is the same thing happened to me where I worried so much like I'm leaving team and leaving all these people and then I get to the office in somebody had already moved into my office and you're like wait though world still turns and I. Just made it one of the biggest decisions of my life. It took me I'm not kidding I probably set three different dates and which it was like, okay, I'm I'm GonNa do it today and then like, okay you know what? I should probably finish out this project because you know I'm a really good person and it was just finally like, okay I haven't this pull the plug. So yeah. So you have been on this personal development journey and I've been lucky enough to almost have A. Front row seat to that where you have made decisions to invest in yourself, and then to follow that charge and to follow through and one thing I just respect about you so much as just watching you consistently just step in and step up into these new role. So I walk me through what did it feel like making an investment into something where you're like a weight? Can I really do this? Like? Is this really for me? So I resigned on September second I actually ended up investing in. Dc a course about two weeks later, and so at that point, obviously, there's I'm walking away from a six figure salary benefits, stock options. I'm genuinely about to build a business from the ground up like starting at zero like no social media no email list I actually started my business in used my fiance's ten-year-old Mac book until about a month ago. So when I say like you're like blind faith like diving into this head I that's exactly what I did. In, thank you for seeing me and knowing that I'm just someone where if I have an idea I will put together the plan and strategy to make it work I mean that's essentially what I learned to call like my superpowers like bill really good relationships sustain them put together a plan and something you also touched on is just like my ability to like reach out and ask questions I feel. Like that, I'm never shied go about that. But something like this was I knew I wanted to make a change. I knew I. wanted a business that I could scale. That was the key word for me. I had already gone through the life of burnout and you know like I said pouring my like blood sweat and tears into something I wanted this to just be able to scale over time. Well and let's talk about that. So one of the things that I feel like so many people question and especially nowadays it's like there are so many courses already out there. What could I possibly bring to the table? How is that process for you because you've launched a program and you've done it now five times and you're coming up on number six, right? I am. Yeah. So I think it came down to the things that we are honestly so close to so I would have never considered myself. A sales expert in almost kind of makes me like cringe a little bit saying it because it's just something that honestly comes so natural to me whenever I'm talking to anyone about their business, I'm always just curious on how they are bringing people into their business, how their nurturing them, their pricing, our product suite I always want to talk about like the things that nobody wants to talk about like negotiation and objection handling, and so finding out that all of those things make other people like very squeamish. Allowed me to identify something that I'm really comfortable with and that I wanted teach people that they also can be comfortable with and it'll help them in their business. So you're right actually launching for the sixth time, and this is like all the praise Modi's I live todd it five times. So that's never been recorded before. And it's never been more beautiful than it than it is going to be whenever it launches on September ninth. But yeah, it truly is something that came so easy to me that I wanted to make other people almost comfortable with and simplify, and so that's exactly what I did. I love that and one hundred percent and we've seen this actually. Have watched. So many people transform in start to understand like wait I thought I was really good at this, but here's my real superpower or when we can call out like someone else's gifts and so often people are so close to their own genius that they just think it's common or everyone knows this or this is nothing new when really it's like life altering mind-blowing for someone else it's so true and I think the more that you talk to people in engage the more. You end up learning that. I, think it's when we want to do it all ourselves or we want to sort of figure it out on our own where it becomes so much that we end up doing nothing but the more you can reach out and engage with other people and and find out even where they're struggling or what they want to be better at. You may think, Oh, my goodness that was something I would never have thought about, but it really is incredibly valuable. Yeah. What was like logging in going through DC a like for you like when were you able to take a deep breath and say, this was the right choice because I feel like whenever we make a big investment or take that big leap of faith were almost waiting to like prove ourselves wrong like you wrong. You shouldn't have done this wasn't for you when Did you take that I sigh of relief. Okay. So I love this question and this is why so I think whenever I first logged I I'd only ever purchased one course prior to this and when logging into DCA and knowing that it had like these beautiful videos and these beautiful resources in it almost felt if you were learning in like a one to one. Classroom that for me is so helpful I love to see faces a clearly and so knowing that I was going to be able to see amy's face on there and I was going to be able to have these incredibly simple yet elaborate resources that I would end up having a really long time I felt like that was when the investment was going to be. Worth it in something that I also think that is really important to touch on is regardless of where you are in your business. It's almost like it meets you there. I mean remember I did not have a business whenever I bought DCA and here I am a year later about to launch the actual digital course version of it and I'm still using the resources. I love that too because we go through the course every year as well as a team whose been creating courses for six years now and as a team, we're like, okay, this is such a great idea or this is a new way to do something and I I love that you say that it meets you where you are because amy's whole motto is like start simple get fancy later and there's So much room to learn it's like when you watch a movie five times and you notice something new every single time and you're like wait, how did I miss that and just think that that's such a beautiful thing about online learning is something that might not fully resonate or be fully implemented in your business. Now, a year from now could totally make sense and be an extra way to scale which you. Absolutely, and I think even just like action I feel like action comes from like a certain level of confidence. So the more that you do something it's like albeit imperfect, the more confidence you're going to gain for the next time. So I feel like even just getting comfortable and going through the material and even implementing some of it each time you're going to get better and more comfortable with it and so I feel like that also will help scale your business just because you're not waiting to take everything in and then trying to implement it all at once it's like kind of them. You can allow it to work with you along the way. One thing people ask me all the time and I want to ask you this because I think you might have the best insight is how did you push past the fear of people judging you for like stepping out on your own and wanting to teach I think that holds people back a lot more than we'd like to admit. Oh. My goodness. So I really think I have this an assist question before Genesis I actually love that you ask me this but I have this something inside of me in which I'm fairly good at quieting what others. May feel about me or they're you know what they think. I'm doing in my career I mean leaving a fortune five hundred going to a tech startup and then leaving a dream job to start my business. I'm sure there are a lot of different opinions and viewpoints and people thinking like Oh my gosh is she really like lost her marbles? I feel like when you totally believe in what you deserve and what you want and that whatever however you define not in you're willing to do whatever it takes to essentially get there in learn along the way and be open to feedback from others and investing in yourself. It's almost a little bit easier to quiet it because you know you're on the right path and I feel like for me, that's exactly what it's been regardless of what anyone thinks like. Learning or being an entrepreneur and helping other people with sales. It feels so natural in me that that almost helps quiet those voices. So. Good. So since you like talking money and investments and sales what have here results been like since you took the leap and then followed through in started launching your own thing what is that look like for you? Yeah. This is where I get like super excited unlike remmy my spreadsheet for you. Let me crunch the numbers free Jonah. Okay. So coming up on a year in business we reached. Six figures in seven months. and to round out twenty twenty, I will have essentially doubled my corporate salary. So. There has been a ton of investment and I always you know people that have followed me on here. They know I always want to pull back the curtains. And there has been a lot of investment there have been a lot of people that have helped me get to this place so I don't want people to just think that it's you know everyone always sort of goes towards that like I six figures and it is an amazing accomplishment but I also want to be so transparent in there was a lot of investment in coaches in courses in resources late. Nights early, mornings days in which you're on call but you know what? Like I said when it's feels so natural and so innate to you. It's so worth it and I'm like you almost get giddy for like continuing to grow and scale because you feel like your just like continuing to like scale this mountain and you're just like, oh my gosh, you get all of these ideas and all these different. Things that you want to try all of these people that you want to continue to help, and so I feel like that's a lot to accomplish in one year yet I feel like there's also like so much more to do, and I'm so excited to even changed my business up in two thousand, twenty one. Yes, you know you and I are so much alike because we're lifelong learners were constantly watching. Launches happen in like, Hey, did you see this Webinar? Would you think we're studying like we're constantly studying and we know what to look for now and I feel like at least for me once I made one investment and I saw like wow I get this knowledge once and then I can put my own spin on it. I can test I can use it I can expand with an evolve with it. Investing in learning things and short cutting your timeline always make sense in my opinion I. Feel like you've found that super early, which is such a gift. Always I mean I'm truly the believer of like somebody else has likely done this before. I don't need to. Reinvent the wheel why not learn from someone in bits and it's not like you have to like align yourself to one person. You know allow yourself to reach out to other people or you know take bits and pieces of information from other people. I think it makes you a better business owner hundred percent. I. Agree. So what's next for you? You have this launch, you've done your launch five times and taught lives so that You've nailed down your content, and now you get to formally put it into a course. What are you excited about? Yeah. So I am super excited about that because I feel like this is exactly where I wanted to get were that whole word of like scaling is finally happening. So with the imperfect, action, Academy launching in early. September. Super excited about that and other things that are coming up in just how my business will shift is. Shifting into more of these like group mastermind type programs were really bringing these wonderful minds of entrepreneurs together, and then even something that will change a little bit more in twenty. Twenty one is I get a lot of people coming to me looking for business strategy and sales strategy, and so I I want to add component to my business that allows some like done for you type services so that I'm not mapping out all of these like strategies and all of these trainings and then essentially passing them off for others to implement. So really excited about that and I feel like that's the exact direction that I wanted my business to go in something that just feels so scalable and effortless. Pass all my gosh. I'm so excited a you're one of the first people that I think of when I hear somebody be like I need a blink I needed. In this I'm like, Oh, I have the girl and I like literally like your biggest fan because it's just been. So incredible to watch somebody just implement with confidence and move through some of that stuff. You even admitted you're like I was just so worried that this was too complicated that there was too many things. Tell me a before we sign off if somebody is listening and they're like, okay, I. Get it online courses. Cool. There's too many things. It's too complicated. What would you say? Okay so I was thinking about this and I feel like I've narrowed it down to two things and they're not gonna be things that people are like okay I might not have that but I Will soon. So two things that people have right now because remember like no business no following no email list about C. two weeks after I resigned for my job I think you need one the desire to learn a repeatable process. So this is something that you're going to learn. You're going to be able to use not only in your first year of business in your sixth. Year of business in beyond and I think you can morph it into whatever works best for Your Business, and then the second thing I think that you need in order to be successful with this program is you need to be comfortable with taking that like imperfect action where you just get comfortable knowing that okay I might not be one hundred percent clear on who I want. To serve or what exactly I'm going to teach, and you won't always have the answers. So I think the earlier you get comfortable with that kind of feeling and the ability to just make decisions and learn in revise and repeat along the way I think that will help you not only in this program, but just as an entrepreneur so just those two things and I think. Those aren't things that people have to really wait to obtain. So, good Danielle. We're can everybody check you out, watch your launch unfold. Cheer you on give us all the places they can connect I love this. So I'm probably most active on instagram and you can find the at at Danielle underscore slagle underscore and my new beautiful website is now is now open in. That is at Daniel's legal dot com and then we also have a killer facebook group, which is imperfect action by Danielle slagle on facebook. So those are all of the places that you can find me online. Thank you so much for coming on for sharing your success and for just letting me celebrate with you formally you know that I've been hearing you on behind the scenes but nothing brings me more joy watching women just take it and run, and that is one hundred percent what you've done in more. Thank you so much for having me. The love is so mutual and I hope that I can continue to just tell you how much you impacted. Me leaving my job and really getting here. It really is full circle and I'm just so grateful. I found you. I love nothing more than hearing from students who take this massive leap of faith and dive on into something that might feel scary. But then take action. These students were successful because they implemented what they learned and they took on a mentor and they said I am going to exchange money to save me time. And I recognize in today's world of us not always possible on that. You can be successful whether you invest or not. But for these students I hope that you could hear just glimpses of what's possible for you through their stories through their hesitations in their fears and their doubts but also through their triumphs in the way that they've continued to learn and grow and invest in that I, also want to invite you inside of Dca and beyond the Digital Course Academy to get your hands on my genyk cooking DCA. -perience included in that. 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390: The Most Powerful Pivot You Can Make Right Now with Amy Porterfield

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390: The Most Powerful Pivot You Can Make Right Now with Amy Porterfield

"Hey it's Jenna. Let me cut to the chase registration for the once a year free training led by my mentor turned friend. Any porterfield is open right now at Jena Plus Amy Dot com that's Jenna Plus Amy Dot Com to save your seat for how to create and launch a profitable digital course where annual be sharing the behind the scenes secrets for digital course creation. This live masterclasses all about what she's learned in her eleven years of creating and delivering top quality digital training in all things business marketing social, and online courses she's brilliant and. She's one of the mentors that led me to create my first online course, her live have open seats and I. Hope Your name is on one of them. She only does this once a year. So do not miss your shot ready to learn from the course creation queen herself about what it takes to launch digital force WANNA, hear the behind the scenes strategies that amy and thousands of her students myself included used launch their courses around the world. Then grab your seat at Jena plus any dot com I'll see you inside all right onto the show. They've outgrown a certain topic or they're not lit up by that topic anymore and I wanNA, make sure your listeners hear me that you have permission to change the direction you're going. Hey My name is Jennifer an I am obsessed with all things, business marketing numbers and helping you to navigate both the messy and the magical seasons. This thing called life I'm a small town mama who took three hundred dollars camera grew as successful Biz, and now a work from home in Romans seven figure online business I teach you the tried and true secrets to building a career. You Adore shy away from the real talk no way money hardship growth loss marketing are all topics we discussed here. This is your one stop shop for happy hour with a Gal pal mixed with business school pull up a seat. Make sure your cozy and get ready to be challenged and encouraged while you learn. This is the gold digger podcast. If we were to play Word Association for Twenty Twenty I'd bet the very last word that comes to mind for you is certainty everything feels month-to-month day-to-day even minute by minute many of us are watching our here's navigate big changes as we ourselves pivot and adapt whether it's personally or professionally we're making decisions that we could have predicted would be on our plates at the start of this year. Maybe you're faced with a professional decision right now, if you're one of the millions of Americans out of work or your small business owner whose livelihood is at stake during a time of uncertainty, let me tell you this. You are not alone and the purpose you might have. Lost sight of could be sitting on the other side of your next big pivot pivoting is the theme twenty twenty and a theme of this conversation with my friend and mentor porter field. You know she was one of the ways I was listening to an I'm pivoted into the online course world years ago and I. Am so excited to have her on the show once again to talk about the meaningful and even profitable pivots she's seen during the season. If you walk away from this episode with only one thing, let it be your permission to pivot these stories will paint what's possible here she is once again, my friend, my mentor and an incredible leader, any porterfield. Thanks to fiber for supporting Golddigger, it's so easy to find freelance talent for your business or product. Do not waste any more time ten percent off in the service you deserve by going to F I v E R Dot Com and using the code gold digger. Now more than ever is the best time to start your email list are you up for a challenge I built out a free mini course to take your list from zero to two, hundred, fifty subscribers, templates, and tech. ALL INCLUDED SIGN UP AT LIST BILLS CHALLENGE DOT com that's list build challenge dot com. Oh Amy. I am so excited to have you back on the podcast i. feel like you are the gold digger podcast. Best friend. So welcomed to show. Well, thanks for having me I. Love Coming Back. This is so fun. It is fun. Is such a good chance for us to catch up and I was dying laughing the other day when I text you that screen shot of the email that I sent you. A Good and I loved that you actually sent that out to your audience. I wanted them to see behind the scenes like that. Yes you know and it's so funny because actually my team yesterday messaged me and they're like, Jenna. So you send out this email to everyone revealing your fan girl this to Amy Porterfield. But you also asked amy, who's she recommended and how she recommended you learn and everyone was replying to that e mail saying, well, what did any say and I said L. them that they're just going to have to listen to this. Episode. Of the gold digger podcast to hear what ended up transpiring. So to give people the quick version, Amy was the first podcasts I ever listened to. In fact, amy at the time I didn't even know that there is an APP on your phone to listen to podcasts. So every week I would go to your blog and I'd hit play on your blog and that was the only way that I knew how to tune in isn't that hilarious so funny I love that. But I became a student in both of your programs and I remember if we had vision boards which I've never been a big vision board person but if I had when I would have written across it a million times I WANNA be any porterfield success story like that was at the core of my heart I was just so such an admire of you. And your work and that is only continued and so today what we're going to be talking about is powerful pivots of twenty twenty and I think I've joked that if twenty twenty how to word, it would be pivot and so I think this discussion is just coming at such a powerful time because we're all getting a little tired from this year, right? Right. I'm ready for twenty, twenty one bring it on. As as we still have some time, make some of the No. So excited about. Okay. So let's just kind of dive on in because I want to hear you know I've been listening to your show religiously through this year because I feel like you have been this permission grander for people to show up to make bold moves to make decisions to still sell in this climate that feels very tricky and so let's just kind of talk first about your journey through your digital course academy, which is opening you. Yourself have been someone that has led thousands of people through things. What is it felt like being a leader through this season? You know I have never been asked this question. So I'm glad we're talking about this when the pandemic hit I was confused like what is going on what is this and how serious do I need to take this and then quickly I realized wait a second my students, my audience they are nervous they are confused they are looking to me to figure out what do I do in the number one question that came up is am I allowed to. Sell during this time like what the heck do I do, and for some reason Mrs, probably the leadership in me I felt called to be a voice during this time and I wanted to show what I was teaching. So what it meant for me is I literally rose to the occasion and I said okay. Here's what I think. We all should do we should continue to sell. We should continue to look at our offers and see how we need to. Pivot it in order to show up for the people that were serving right now, and we should not be quiet. We should not back down. We should not ignore what's going on and so I had to be an example of that. So I literally launched a membership during that. Literally the week that everybody was sent home during the very beginning of the pandemic and so I- navigated my way through that it was awkward very scary but it was so. Important to show what I wanted my students to do, and then from there I started showing up in talking about how to pivot, how to show up for your audience and how to be a beacon during a time where people were very very scared and it literally made me a better leader because I was leading during uncertain times I had never done that before. So I'm really glad that I felt called to that because I think it's made me better. Yeah. Some things never change amy I was listening to your podcasts. been listening when you're talking about like guys like not selling is not an option not in. That you had a lot of foresight to understand like this isn't as temporary as were making it out to be, and this is something that we've got to adjust to in one of the most beautiful things in the ways that you showed up was like you're like, you can still launch. You just need to be very cognizant of the language and the way that you're showing up and the way that you're selling and I just thought it was beautiful because it's like you can keep on with your plan. Let's just pivoted slightly to make sure that it fits the climate that we're all in and I was like Amen A. Vaccari. So. What big pivots have you personally made in your career because your career is over a decade that have just felt like you were jumping into uncertainty I feel like we all have these hill moments were like, what am I doing? Is this the best thing or the worst thing I've ever done? Do you have anything that stands out for you? Yes. Okay. So I love the US the question like over the span of my career because one of the first big pivots I made was moving from one topic to another and I think this is important to talk about because a lot of people will start to get into their business growing in online business and they'll get to a point. That they realised they've grown certain topic or they're not lit up by that topic anymore and I wanNa make sure your listeners hear me that you have permission to change the direction you're going but let me back up a little bit when I left Tony. Robbins I started out with social media I would do social media for small businesses and that led me into getting really good at facebook marketing. So my first successful digital course was a facebook marketing one OH, one type program, and that is really what put me on the map in terms of being a facebook marketing go-to person and so from there my students said you know what we really want is a facebook advertising program so that was The next program I created, and then my students said we'll we'll or really looking for is a facebook marketing, all in one total solution strategy type of program, and that was the third program I created successfully add a few failed starts in the beginning, but those are my first three really successful courses. So at that point, I was known as a facebook marketing expert after a while, I did this for a while and I realized I don't want to teach facebook marketing anymore it didn't light me up I had so much more to offer, and because I had gotten so good at creating digital courses and launching them online that's what I wanted to teach people how to do so I made this. Pivot about three years three to four years into my business. I'd say I gradually moved over to teaching people how to grow their email list and from there how to create a digital course from scratch and this was scary for me because I was known for something I created an audience for something. But what's important is that you will not survive in your business wanting to get up every morning excited about what you're doing if you don't love to teach what you know, and so I knew a few different things now I had grown and I had to make that pivot and I did it gradually. So it wasn't a huge shakeup of the business, but I'm so glad I, made that pivot. Yeah, I love that and I I mean, I've done similar things. I taught photographers that was my first big horse and we retired that program because I'm no longer shooting like I used to I no longer emma part of that industry in a that would allow me to be that expert and I think that there is that fear where you're like, this is what I'm known. For this is what people have come to me for. But what a beautiful example that like humans multifaceted or multi passionate, and we can connect with people on so many different things and I just I love that I. Love that so much about gave me a lot of confidence to know look I do have a lot of skills a lot of knowledge a lot of know how. I am able to make that pivot if necessary, but let me give you one more that was a little bit more recent in the middle of my career. These eleven years I got into a partnership. I brought a partner into the business. He was more like a silent partner behind the scenes and he was really he put together funnels in strategies and we really took the business to a multimillion dollar place together working together as partners in the business I had created, and then after a few years we got. To the point that we realize the partnership had run its course and I wanted to move on Solo again, and it was a really rough time trying to figure out how to get out of business partnership. I, often say it felt like a business divorce, my broken I think he probably would feel the same way we weren't on the same page at times because of course, we wanted different things and it was difficult to say the least and there were days that I thought holy cow would if we can't. Come to an agreement and I literally have to start over from scratch the business I had created, and then we had partnered together might have to be dissolved because we can't come to an agreement. What if I have to start over from scratch I spent about a day in deep depression of losing something I had felt so like I had birthed from the beginning but then after that in, this is a very true story I realized wait a second I have sold digital courses online. I, know how to make. Money Online. If you take everything away me that I had created, I literally can start from scratch because I know now, how to make money online and I think that's where my really huge confidence came in creating digital courses and teaching other people how to do it because I realized it had given me the solid foundation I needed that no one can ever take that away from me and I wanted that for my students as well. So actually realizing I will be willing to start from scratch if I need to. Literally changed everything for me. Now, the Great News as we came to an agreement, we end the partnership, I kept the business but at one point I didn't think that was going to be true and so now I know what? I offer. My students is security a foundation and this opportunity to always know how to make money online. I remember. US, voiced acceding. You were like I. Think he's having dykes and you go. So if you're going to start your business over today. Would you plan to grow your email? US exactly where you were. Worth for a while like it was like you know what we got this and I think to the second piece. That's so important what you just said and I feel like this is a theme that a lot of women specifically need to hear but men is well in something that I think twenty twenty has taught us is that we need to trust ourselves that we know and that like if we look back, we have always been smart enough to change and. Evolve and ro and I feel like. So many of the discussions I've been having with women entrepreneurs that I'm either coaching or just being a mentor for and like you do not need to worry you have made it this far. You will continue on. You are so smart. You need to trust in those abilities and I love that you shared that because they think that for so many of us if we find success, we worry. So deeply that is fleeting. Forget like. No I. Learned this once and I have used it and refined in tweaked it over and over and over again and I've gotten myself results and if you're at the starting line look at your life like there have never been mistakes, there have been things that have maybe caused you to change course but it's just like I think twenty twenty is reminded us to almost like go inward and say look I've already come this far I can only go further I one. Million percent agree with that. I love that you pulled that theme of that about Trusting Yourself. That's something that I have to remind myself on the daily. So yes yes I want to know because you have led I mean thousands of students but have you seen any like cool things that your students are doing during this year like in the theme of pivoting? Yes. Okay. Let's get into a little storytime because this is my favorite when I get to I've got my. Yes right grab your coffee because this is the time I get to highlight some of the students in what they've done. So when we're talking about pivots, one of the pivots I've seen a lot for my students is this ability to move from one area of expertise into another because of pure necessity. So one of my students her name is kirsty she had a brick and mortar business it. Was for organic skin care. So people would come into her SPA. She would take care of them, pamper them and do amazing things with her organic skincare. But at the time a Kobe, it closed down she literally had to furlough her entire staff and so here's something that's so valuable to hear. She realized that she had an audience she had customers and she wanted to figure out how can I? Serve them in a different way. So what she did is she created a program called the seven shock res- journey or the journey through seven shock res-, and she knew that her ideal audience that came into her spa they would find this incredibly valuable. So she put together a digital course she was at home and couldn't go into her spiny more created this course and generated ten thousand dollars quickly. And I think what's valuable about this is she knew that she had other skill sets transferable skills that she could use in different ways and anyone listening right now I wanna remind you that just because you're an expert in one area doesn't mean that you don't know other things other skills, other knowledge that your audience wants to know. So making ten thousand dollars with the digital course for her SPA. Is One way to pivot and so now the sky's the limit she's like now I know that I've got other courses in me and I teach this. I think that's so powerful and I think to for someone that has had to show up and trade time for money and not even with certainty in that aspect like going into the shop and just praying customers do come in and spend money to have that proof of concept has got to feel just a life changing, right? Exactly. That was one of my favorite stories another one this is so good. So one of my students her name is Karena she's a farmer, which is rare I don't have a lot. Of Farmers as my audience but Karina decided, she was a farmer that wanted to find new ways to generate revenue. So she decided to put together a vegetable subscription box for her customers locally. So the customers would come to her every week. They would get the subscription box full of gorgeous vegetables take him home cooked with them and all of that, and this was something that she's done really well with she came to me initially because she wanted to know how to market this subscription box online. So that's how. The two of US got connected, but then an she generated really good money with her subscription box. But here's what happened when cove it hit. She realized when all the restaurants closed, all the farmer markets closed her peers the other farmers were struggling like dramatically they didn't have subscription boxes. They didn't know how to make money and she saw them really hurting and so she said you know I wanted to teach what I'm already doing in my own business to the other farmers and she even said listen I didn't. Know how I felt about selling to a group of people who were already struggling financially but I knew I could help them. I knew that this process developed a selling high price point subscription boxes direct to local customers could save their farms. So I know I could make an enormous difference for them. So I went for it. So she put together a digital course on how to create these vegetables subscription boxes and she generated thirteen thousand, six, hundred dollars. She sold fifty one units right out of the gate during cove. Sold to an audience that wasn't making money, but they saw the opportunity to grow their business in different ways, and so I think this takes a lot of courage to take what you've done and then teach it to other people. But this is a perfect example of how a digital courses borne. So good. Wow. That's one of my another one of my favorites but I'm GONNA. Tell you one more in a lot of people can relate to this one. So Ann Marie is a student of mine who generated thirty eight, thousand dollars in just our she literally sold out her digital course because she wanted to put a cap on it. So let me back up a little bit. Anne Marie is a military wife, and so she needed a career where she could travel and still serve people and the people that she served were introverted non native speakers learning to communicate confidently in English, and so she was teacher English as a second. Language teacher and because she was a military wife, she did one on one coaching. So she would train and coach people one on one, but she did it online. So she went from in-person to taking it online quickly because she had to travel a lot. But then here's where a lot of people listening can relate. She realized that she started to become really frustrated because she knew there was this very real limit to how many people she can teach working one on one with clients when you're trading time for dollars whether you're doing it online or in person, there's only so much money you can make because there. Is, one of you. So she decided that she was going to create a digital course. Now, the challenge was she chose her launch date something I encourage my students to do in my course I choose a launch date put it out there make it. So in the universe, she chose April twenty twenty. Now, if you know anything about April twenty, twenty wasn't our favorite month this year, the pandemic was alive and well, it was very new. So people were very confused very freaked out and that was her launch date and she decided amy I said I was going to do it. I'm very nervous to launch during A. Pandemic but I know I've got to just keep moving forward and she did. So again, she launched her digital course teaching English as a second language she sold out in fourteen hours made thirty, eight, thousand dollars, and about thirty eight thousand dollars is from students who paid in full. She's willing to get money every single month from those who chose a payment plan. So essentially, she's made more than thirty eight, thousand dollars. So this is a story I think a lot of listeners can relate to taking your one on one work putting that process into a digital course so that you can serve people all over the world. I know I know things are crazy and unpredictable, which is actually why now is the best time to start your email list few been wishing you had a way to reach your clients, paying customers and fans with important information at the click of a button and without having to worry about algorithms than this is for you are you up for a challenge I built out a free mini course with templates ready and tech taking care of that will lead you through five day workshop to take your list from zero to two, hundred and fifty. Subscribers in a time where there's a lot of uncertainty you can be directly speaking to your people via their inboxes boxes and offering up your services resources and the support that they need right now can you commit just four percent of this week to giving yourself results in following through? 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For Upfront no negotiating needed I always turn to fiber for video needs while my team Ken shoot at video it would honestly slow down because we are not the experts whenever I need an expert in video I outsource to a five or freelancer so I can stick to the things that I'm actually an expert in checkout biver dot com and receive ten percent off your first order by using my code gold digger, find all the digital services you need in one place at F. I. V. E. R. Dot, com code gold digger again that's fiver. Dot Com code gold digger. I can just imagine I'm sure you can to that listeners thinking. Okay. Well, that's awesome. They all had this expertise. They're all experts I bet none of those students would label themselves as an expert they would just label themselves as knowledgeable. You know yes I am so glad you brought this up I genuinely believe if I'm thinking of Korean of the farmer I woke up and she's like I am the expert of all experts of subscription boxes I've got to create a course to change the world that is not what my students are thinking and feeling, but you're right they're like listen. I know how to do this other people can get value from this. I think the number one driver of all of my students. There's like two things that come up number one before anything else they genuinely want to help people they want to make an impact whether it be locally with local farmers or on a massive scale like serving the world because you can take anybody from anywhere but they want to help number do I think all of my students would say financial security during this time of total uncertainty we have seen so many people lose their jobs. So many people sent home. To work in realizing, do I even like the job I'm working in and so many people not being able to do what they normally do in order to make a living what has been so amazing what I've been able to witness is my students are not hurting. My students are thriving because they have digital courses. So a pandemic doesn't stop in if anything there's no better time in this world, this history of creating digital courses. Then right now because more and more people are willing and wanting to learn online, they're open minded to the opportunity now because some of them don't even. Have, another choice and some of them have realized we'd I like this online learning a whole lot more than having to travel for it. Yeah. Absolutely. Let's talk about once right now because you and I have actually had a lot of discussions about this and one of the things that we've been researching together in Tiananmen just kind of understanding especially when it comes to buyer habits and the ways that our customers are thinking right now is that there is this need for essentially this year like people are really taking a good hard look at what is considered essential what is considered like in? Boyle, where does that make sense and so walk me through a little bit about how that kind of shows up right now when people are making purchasing decisions in when people are selling. Okay. So there's been a lot of talk around people only spending money on what they need versus what they want and I do believe that is very true when you look at the. World as a whole. However, I have a very unique perspective looking in through the eyes of my students I track successes with digital courses because it's my job and when I see someone like Holly and night who teaches quilting, she's a funny girl. She's in her twenties and she teaches quilting to baby boomers and she said who knew that quilting would become so popular during coronavirus. But what we're seeing is that people are also looking for something to light them up to bring them joy during a very scary time. So what's interesting is I am seeing people buy out of necessity, but they're necessity feels like I need to feel happy I need to fill calm I need to fuel my brain right now or do something with my hands or whatever it might be. So this word necessity. has dramatically changed over the last few months, and so I've seen my students with hobbies teach turn into gold like one of my students she teaches you how to take a lump of clay and turn it into your dishes and your bowls. Now, hear me out here. She taught her course during pandemic where you couldn't even go to the store to get some of the supplies that you needed for her course. But thirty, eight, thousand dollars later I don't know why it's the exact same numbers, my other story, thirty, eight, thirty, three, thirty, three, thousand dollars later she was able to fill up her course teaching people had to take clay and turn it into dishes. So the reason why think courses like that are actually working right now is people are looking for joy during uncertainty but at the same time, they're also looking for ways to have more security in their. Life financial security lifestyle security. So there's really this opportunity that I've never seen before. Yeah. I, have to tell you a funny story but I, feel like lately, I've just been thinking about digital courses so much because it's one just changed my entire life but two were gearing up for your launch of digital. Course. Academy but I feel like one of my superpowers lately is like looking at people in assessing like, okay. What could they teach a course in? Your superpower you I've had these conversations before I can't do what you're going to do right now. So you've got is no. You have no, it really is and it's so funny. So we have been quarantined up in the North Woods and we literally have one neighbor like we share dry with one other person we're on like forty acres of land where in the middle of nowhere and our neighbors are the best people in the world like they've become our best friends we just kind. Of Quarantine together and so Simoni is from Brazil and so they were over the other day and she's teaching US Portuguese. Okay. So we're sitting in our kitchen we have our babies were hanging out and juries asking her like, how do you say this is how do you say that and I'm like, Oh, my Gosh Simoni could totally make a course about learning Portuguese. Second thing they run a super super successful AIRBNB unlike no-brainer make a course on running an airbnb they have it down to a system third thing her husband Andrew is a sailor and he took drew sailing and I was like, oh, my gosh, drew is learning about sailing all the terminology what to do easy course on sailing. Salmon they're out fishing on a sailboat they catch fish teach somebody had clean salmon like I mean, there's just like so many things I'm like sitting here in my own guy, we're up to four courses. that. Drill is showing Andrew the different ways you can wear your baby. So we have all of these baby, right Andrews like and you can do it forward facing, and then if you do word basing you do this and then you can do this has back based on my drew could totally like rock a stay at home dad course like activities with your children ways to keep them occupied Mike. Good. Very good at that. Yes, and I'm like sitting here and by the end of the night, I, swear to you I swear to you I was like I have ten courses that the four of us could create in court in either like it's just exceptional because the thing is is that I could tell each person their gifts and be like you could one million percent make this into. A course and sell it online and I think that there are you objections would pop into their head first how the heck do I do that like it sounds so much more complicated and confusing. What would you say that because you are the Queen of simplifying step by step by step and that's why digital course academy is so incredible but how many people there I thought is like the tech. Oh this one comes up a lot. So it's so funny because you know in our parents tell that story of like back in my day when I walked to school up both ways uphill in the snow. Yeah. So I feel like that when I tell the story but back in my day when I started eleven years ago the technology was a joke like you had to be a programmer or coder to figure out almost anything I was literally. So lost every single day because I'm not a techie kind of person. Now. I figured it out over the years. However, if you are starting out right now you are so incredibly lucky and I promise you. This is true. The technology that you need to create a digital course and to launch it online has become so much more plug and play than ever before you don't need out her, you don't need a programmer I use software, and so does Jenna that we don't have to pay expensive experts to. help us up or course or help us do a Webinar online, and so you're starting out at a time when technology has gotten easier than ever. But let's just say you're still trying to figure it out and it doesn't feel easy to you what I know for sure is one in my course I have literally library. So I have a resident tech guy his name is Dave. He has the most smooth patient voice ever and I said. Dave. You walk them through click by cliques by Klay I've I need somebody to use technology to create their course CLEESE, slow down and walk them through it. So In my course, this is never something that stops people but just in general know that it doesn't have to become totally second nature to do you figure this out it is very figure audible. If you just take a deep breath and just know you're not supposed to figure this. Out instantly, no, and teaches us this in school. So that's what I would say that the other day I had this moment where I had my little microphone box microphone and my computer and I looked over and I saw it all and I was like those are the things that a used to run a multimillion dollar company. That's it literally can be carried around in a box and it's a microphone and laptop and I'm like this is. Still doing it that way where it's like, this is where you started like no, this is what I am doing. I don't have a set I don't have a camera team I, nothing zero production value buying what we create besides like just the information. The second objection that I think my neighbor's husband would give would be well, how do I know like how to get other people results and you walk people through this so well, can you give us just a tiny spoiler about how you set up curriculum? Okay. Yes, I will so. The first thing is you figure out, have you gotten results for yourself or for somebody else a lot of students have gotten results for their customers or clients, and they used like a process or system to do that, and so what I do is I start out with a post it no exercise with all my students and I, say, okay. You're going to get somebody results to Xyz tell me all the things you've. Done to get those results and it's like a rain flood on post. It notes post it note and sharpies, and you're just writing everything that comes to mind and you're putting it on your wall or your mirror, and there's no bad ideas year just kind of throw it all up from there. The next thing I have my students do is we start to organize where is the possible roadmap? Maybe you don't know yet. But you did no, I always tease him. If you did know, what might you do in terms of putting this in some kind of a sequence so that you could teach it in the most succinct way. So we start massaging it that way moving things around. These are just a little hint of the first few steps. Notice we've got posted knows we've got office supplies I am obsessed with office supplies we made our. To my favorite. So we make fun in the beginning so that it doesn't feel. So daunting I think Jenna, one of the things that you do really well, and you've always done this is you do not complicate things like your mission is what's the simplest way I could do this. So I'm not overwhelmed or stressed out, and so I think that you are a natural teacher in that indefinitely I think why you and I align so much is I'm always Looking for, let's just do this in the most simplest way. Yeah, and I love that too because when we can create programs and tell people, you know there is zero rabbit holes or anything we're not going into these wild explanations behind everything just literally guiding you. It's like somebody holding your hand step by step by step it just makes it so much more easy. The last thing that I want to say that I think people's objections are. Is that they're worried about investing in themselves. So let's see some listening to this. They're like, okay. I think I've got something I. Think I could create a course I need to learn all the steps to do this. Amy's program sounds awesome. Spoiler it is but I'm really afraid to invest myself. Why would you say is there a system for choosing what investments are right? When the timing is right anything. Okay. So the first thing I'll say is that from a personal experience, I invested in my education to learn how to run an online business when I was still at my nine to five job. So when I was at my nine to five job and I knew I wanted to make the transition and go out on my own I had. No idea how he's going to make it happen but I had this like knowing in me I know there's something more. I know I meant to do my own thing? No idea what it was yet, but I wanted to create an online business. I invested in two courses. One was about facebook marketing and one was about video marketing, and this is eleven years ago in each. Of, the courses were thousand dollars. So I invested two thousand dollars before I left my nine to five job. I did not tell anybody not even my future husband at the time. Who's now my husband? I was embarrassed because I had never taken a digital course and I thought people are GonNa think I'm crazy I'm learning from someone I don't even know and it's a digital. Course. Is this even going to work but I knew that I had to invest in myself if I wanted to make this real and you and I have talked about this before Jenna, there's something about investing once and then the compounding of that where you can get results over and over again. So when you're choosing what you want to invest in whether it be my. Program or something else chew something that you can grow with that. You can actually get results but then get results again and again instead of flip flopping to the next shiny thing one of the things that I have put a really big focus on with my students is you create one digital course and then I want you to launch it again and again and again i. Have so many success stories of my students who have created one course, and then they launched at once and then six months later launched it again, and then six months later launched it. Again in each one of them, they've done bigger results every single time this is how you don't reinvent the wheel when I worked. For Tony, one of the things he always set is find. A way to not always start from scratch don't always reinvent the wheel because slows you down and you literally get lost in this entrepreneurial rabbit hole. So my motto is you create one digital course new launch it over and over again, which is why investing in a program like mine that is the compounding effect of it because you get results over and over and over again. Yes I mean I'm proof of it. I'm a student and I remember investing in it was called the Prophet. Lab at the time back in the day and I remember buying it while you're on the Webinar like I literally ran out to the garage got my wallet and then To Jenna on the web and I was like Oh my. Buddy go funny just like you said, investing in knowledge when I think about all the different investments that you can make when you can say, okay if I learn this one thing. Yield, results more than once and well, those results be greater than the cost of the investment and if you can say, yes, to both of those questions, it is a no brainer member any back I mean, this is probably back in like Twenty fifteen twenty, sixty new had said on one of your podcast you were like if somebody said to you give me ten dollars at the start of your day and I'll give you twenty dollars back at the end. Would you do that and it was like Duh of course and I feel like. Courses give you this tool to invest learned this all once, and then you can continue on expanding and growing and evolving and fine tuning is just so exciting to me because of my Gosh like knowledge, you have this knowledge forever, which is something that no one can take away from you. If you think about when you were just talking about your partnership and you had that realization I wish everyone could have that understanding that confidence knowing I know things that will grow with me over time. That's where confidence comes in in the beginning. It's like I have courage to take this leap invested in this course do this thing but once you start getting results, courage turns to confidence in no one can ever take that confidence away. So I love that you set it up that way. It's totally true. All right. Before we close out what's exciting you twenty twenty has been a year but what is exciting you these days? What's going on over in your world? That just of gets you excited? To get out of bed you know I have been really excited by this energy around creating something new and so what I mean by that is we have all gone through this pandemic together in each of us have dealt with it in different ways but the theme I, see in my world is that people are looking for something new something more exciting something that lights them up and gives them purpose and they're examining their life they're looking at their nine to five job or the clients they. Work with and they're saying, this is the time there's no better time than right now to shake things up during a world that feels really shaky like let me take advantage of this. Let me create change in my own world and I think that's why there's so much excitement around the possibility of creating digital courses. I'm excited to see people make some shifts I'm excited for them to create the business in the life that they genuinely want. So that is literally getting me up every single morning. I'm so excited amy thank you so much for coming back onto the gold digger podcast. I hope it felt like home to you coming back home over on the gold digger but I'm so grateful for just our friendship and for all of your expertise in all that it's yielded over the years. Thank you so very much. I am loving being here. These are always such fun conversations. So thanks for having me. Oh, man Amy Porterfield she is incredible and it is just so fine that we get to have these conversations on air and just kind of talk about all things we've learned along the way both students, and as educators I still get a little fan girly when I think about all the ways that amy has impacted my journey and taught me along the way and I'm really really grateful I. Even all these years ago I, saw the value in investing in. Learning. How to move through things faster and with more confidence so that I can make a greater impact I. sincerely hope that you take advantage of all of amy's teachings and trainings coming up she only does them once a year and you better believe that I will forever be a student of hers and a success story until next time gold diggers keep on digging your biggest goals and thank you so much for tuning into another episode of the Gold Digger podcast. I'm over here giving you a virtual high five because you just finished another episode of the Gold Digger podcast that go by way too fast for anyone else if you want more head over to Golddigger, PODCASTS DOT com for show notes and all the discount codes from today's sponsors and if you're looking for a new crew of movers and shakers like you to bounce ideas and ask questions be sure to join my exclusive community for gold diggers on facebook the links waiting for you at Golddigger podcasts. Dot Com. 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COVID-19 Pandemic and Children's Mental Health | How Is Their Mental Health Deteriorating?

Acupuncture is my Life

21:20 min | 6 d ago

COVID-19 Pandemic and Children's Mental Health | How Is Their Mental Health Deteriorating?

"Hello everyone and welcome back to acupunctures my life. Now i got an interesting question from jena from the uk. And it's it's interesting because it's aligned with concerns facing here at one of the clinics in new york city and that's how children cope with this pandemic. the effects is pandemic has had on children now With regard to jenna you know she'd asks can acupuncture help with the psyche of children and the negative effects of this pandemic has had on children and yes definitely definitely and she wanted me to bring it up over a podcast and again i i'll i'll reiterate If you'd like me for me to discuss or one of my colleagues to discuss a particular subject we have a question. You like answered over pie. Cash just download. The app from the google play store and the acupunctures my wife app and we'll gladly do it will gladly bring it up now when i said you know it's interesting as to how lying to what we're seeing in one of the clinics in new york city one of the acupunctures my wife clinics is because i've had several parents bring their children preteens Few teenagers and some even younger than the preteen. You know between the ages of like seven and ten but there's been a recent spurt influx of patients coming in their young being brought in by their parents that are concerned with regard to behavioral patterns depression because juvenile suicide globally is spilling over. It really is. It's a concern. We you have parents. That are now looking to really be proactive. In helping their children cope via myriad of ways because some of these young patients of mine are also seeing therapists as well and some of the therapies had referred the clients new client to me war. The ones that weren't directly sent to me. The child therapists recommended that the child seat acupuncture care as well and they're finding the combination to be working. Well so if you find yourself struggling with this problem pertaining to your children seek out an acupuncturist now. I know some are going to be a bit skeptical and you know which is understandable. You know and you want to ask questions. I feel free to contact acupunctures. We hear into your questions in. If you have the app you know we can engage in a telehealth conference to discuss and approach to dealing with this problem because juvenile suicide again it. It's it's huge concern and we have to remember. Our children are our future just like we as adults once children and and we're the representative faction of this planet. Depending on your age you have to think of your children in la as well. How can we help. Because the fallout as a result of not being there for them can be astronomical. And this is why you asked a great question. And she said it's she has friends in the uk that are experiencing. This problem is well. He's locked downstairs restrictions lockdowns on everywhere today but there are still restrictions that are there were in some cases. It's easier as an adult for us to cope with a child. It is i mean we have children. It hasn't even been on his plan for ten years ago as opposed to an adult. Who's been on this planet for several decades and have a just you know so there's certain stimuli that's requisite for sanity for for adaptability for growth that when that's taken away from a child it negatively impacts future. This is why. It's important to be proactive for your children and i know again. I i know there are Parents out the globally. That don't know how to address this. They don't know how to approach this problem here. Form wide that you know. I just keep my child in a house. I pulled my child out of school. They stay home all day. They playing video games at tear. Now's part the Limited with social contact. Their friends can no longer come over or they can no longer going to friends homes when if they do. Plethora road restrictions attached. How are these subtle precautions affecting how your child. Subconscious is being programmed and acupunctures as an acupuncturist our responsibility to really gauge the mental slash spiritual deficiencies and spiritual deficiencies mental. Deficiencies can have an impact on the internal organs. And i've spoken about this in the past episode. I've spoken about this on the acupunctures. My life youtube channel. So the information is out there. And when these deficiencies present a lot of times it can present itself months and years later with parents have no clue what the heck is going on and why all of a sudden their child possibly even a new teenage years are behaving the way the behavioral patterns have gone left or right. And it's like whoa. This is why even if you don't see obvious change and behavioral pattern or patterns relative to you child. Just take a second sit back and just give it some thought as to if i was a kid. How would i feel during these times and you know what they can be something going on with my child mentally that even if i don't care to pursue seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist psychotherapist as a parent. Say to yourself. I'm going to be proactive. In take my child to see an acupuncturist. Because you know. I've even had teenagers come in shock. Totally shot even seen teenagers come in with. They were proactive and ask their parents. Can i go see in acupunctures and one. Dad told me that i was. I mean i had to applaud. The child is very interesting but as parents. We have to think for our children. They didn't ask to be we here. So you know you have to think what made you hap- growing up with did you enjoy doing. Is your your child undergoing similar forms of enjoyment or even more if you notice stagnant behavior that can be assigned. You don't want this to escalate. Take your child to see in acupunctures so much because that particular organ like like the heart houses. The mind is responsible for your shin and have a having a balanced and well nourished shan't super important because shin governs all of the other mental and spiritual aspects of the body. So how does acupuncture you know when we diagnose a patient and see a deficiency. Let's say of the liberal. How do we tie that to the the'real soul of deliver with the lungs shortness of breath things of that nature to report your soul of love to the euro did sure of the spleen and kidney charles mental being off can no doubt affect their internal. Get and they're a ways in which we's acupuncture trained to pick this up to support and no should've shed nourished because again. thanks jen. this is a great topic to discuss real in a have colleagues in the uk. And i referred genital one of my colleagues. She was excited about that. But this is why. Say it doesn't matter where you are around the planet i mean. We have associates affiliates colleagues all over scope seven different content. Not every i have to. I can't be absolute soon. Be afraid to contact acupunctures my life and this is why i reiterate and i you know. I recommend to get the app. We can talk but being proactive for your child. Super super super important. You either pay now you pay later and when he comes to you. How do you damn short on pay later. Trust me because that debt can exceed that you can just never catch up to serious serious with acupuncture. You notice a change which child you will definitely notice it. Because one thing you do sort of one or voids medicating your child putting you child on anti psychotics. Now i'm not speaking out against it but if you address the problem really enough may be able to avoid that. I mean i'm sure. In some cases it is necessary but also in some cases it is especially if you proactive and you know you contacted acupunctures. You'll see you'll be amazed but this is definitely another topic. I will be discussing again because once we get past this pandemic and restrictions led up a great deal. That's when you really going to see the repercussions of restrictions. Why because human the social creatures as adult we're more quipped to bounce back from this is opposed to a child having bounce back paid. No clue no clue would. Would you should be shane. At this point where they come see so or you chopped acupunctures my life at this point game. That's what you should be repeating to yourself over and over. Acupuncture is my life but don't be afraid to contact an acupunctures. And i know it was cute. Because jenner wanted she discussed was he'll take to the needles now. These aren hypodermic needles. Very thin here like most children. Don't bela. i mean kids more so scared the shit out of me when i'm treating them vice versa. Why his more times than not wanna needles inserted. There's look insensitive amazement lake. Mom or dad didn't really hurt and within two minutes they're ready to move around play with the parent or reach for things. The seeing treatment room things of that nature. So it's it's pretty interesting how the actual therapist becomes more concerned and in india job is for the mom. Keep keep you child. Relaxed lot of they fall asleep. May wake up when i'm taking the needles out. And it's like they're amazed kids beautiful when you walk out of the treatment clinic. Some of them walk out with this demeanor like a moss had a few needles in me. For a few minutes in ch- no prob a lot of parents. Think but to not about me. It's not about the parents about the child. Consider acupuncture be proactive future. Because his many ways acupunctures can hope you child meant so until next time remember acupunctures my life what yours.

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What NOT To Say On A Date + Jena Sims (Brooks Koepka, PGA)

Ripper Magoos with Bob Menery

1:04:03 hr | 6 months ago

What NOT To Say On A Date + Jena Sims (Brooks Koepka, PGA)

"What's up boys and girls welcome to this week's episode of Home Team we have the best episode coming I'm here in the studio with the fabulous Nauert Michelle Hi everyone where like so amped up right now. So amd up because I know we say this a lot but this episode truly is one of our best interviews today. Today we had Jena Sims on she's the girlfriend of Brooks Koepka. He is one of the best golfers in the world and she is probably like one of the most amazing people I've ever met like is that girl not like an absolute angel she walked out of here and I'm like, okay. But like do you want to hang out? Why are you leaving shows also so open and she shared so much info about her life personal details that everybody is probably wondering about her. So me and her have a very interesting history basically, she should hate me and she doesn't which I think makes her like the coolest guy on the planet and we will tell that story. So that is coming up. We're just we just can't get enough of her and I. Think you guys are going to be like absolutely obsessed with her I can't believe you. I talked about what you talked about and I'm still like in shock it would just took place I've never seen anything like it. The story main roads, jaw drops that is coming. Okay. narrowed. How is your weekend weekend was good big milestone ladies and gentlemen I hosted my first housewarming with my boyfriend although we don't live together. He does stay with me like two to three days a week feel like it's like semi living together now really my invite got Lewiston the mom okay Sophie Sophie was uninvited everybody. Wasn't gonNA bring it up but I just had to say why not? Bring, wait till the podcast would bring up most awkward thing. I just. Looked, great. I'll tell you later while you weren't invited say now there's a result. Well, there was a fresh born baby that couldn't be around and you think I am a high risk of corona due. Okay. That's. Me Giving. The Baby Coronas I wasn't invited the guys. This is me literally just finding this out for the first time. I wasn't invited to narrate a Knicks housewarming party because they think I am a corona risk by the way I get tested for krona all the time because I agree people who look my instagram stories, they're not very happy with me. They think I've been a little reckless I just. I'm sick of being stuck in lockdown I can't have that kind of bad publicity around the home team podcast, and if it gets out that you gave a newborn krono will be done for, and so I'm looking out for us, I don't have. But I do get why people would think. I totally get it. I understand my mom made me get tested before I went home like everyone thinks that I am high risk and my life is pretty risky. So I understand thanks for taking the feedback attacking me. Anyways, hosted the first house warming as a team which was awesome. Well, here's the thing I posted a lot of like wonderful dishes on my instagram. I left out the fact that my mom made all of it and all I did was put in the oven but I, did take credit for it at the party. So everyone was like, wow, this is so delicious and didn't actually say that I didn't make it. I'm living ally but who cares it looks like you made it and That's all that counts. Yeah. Fake it till you make sure and it went. Well, it was fun while I'm very proud of you who's very mature and adult. Thank you. I went on two dates this weekend not one but two two I haven't gone on a first date in a while because I banned them because it was just like not for me and I decided to try again things dating still not for me. I'm not going to get into it because these guys were not bad guys and they were not bad dates. So they're not gonNA make like content. You know just not my future husbands. Yeah. Okay. Guess who got shit for this you guys take one lucky guest me I get a text himself. Either says, why did you let me break the rule? Why did you let me go on the state and I'm like I didn't win I didn't know I said that but can't. Yeah that was after Friday night state. Yeah. Something very exciting for me happened I hit a career. Milestone narrowed would you like to know what that is? Please tell me my face has been put on vibrator a company made vibrator with my face on it. They went and found a photo that they liked me and they silkscreen screened it onto a vibrator and now I am on the vibrator. They deemed me telling me that like they loved me and they wanted to put my face on my brain didn't answer and then I check again and they sent me a photo of a vibrator with my vote on it and I immediately answered them and said send me that. Send me that because I want to use his vibrator I'm not going to use a vibrator with my own face on it, but it is hundred percent going on display somewhere and it was on my instagram because it is so entertaining. The fact that someone's job was to screen print your photo onto vibrator and like make sure it's even like perfect place like the concept is beyond me someone damning being like you know you made it when your faces on vibrator I'm like fuck in right like. A made it mom and it's by a company called go fuck yourself and honestly I think this would be like the best gift idea for a dude to get a girl or a girl to get a girl league lake is like if I were to get you a gift I, would get you a vibrator with Nick's face on it because it would be funny. To, have your boyfriend's face on your vibrant. And they actually Senate with batteries to which is hilarious and I'm not going to use it. It's just very funny. This is great promotion for them. By the way when you come on sponsor the show, we'll talk about your vibrators all day. So we'RE NOT GONNA get into too much today because we have literally the best interview all time coming up but I want to give you guys a hot tip I. Know You guys get some tips from. US once in a while and some stuff you just listen and laugh or you roll your eyes at us. This is a very, very, very important tip with dating whether your guy or girl. If you go on a date with someone, you feels out of your League Xavier Dude and you go out with a girl who you think is extremely out of your league do not ever say it do not ever reveal that you feel that way you. Can treat her like she's out of your league. Then just literally treat her like she's on a pedestal we love that. But if you sit down to dinner and someone physically tells you, you know you're so Outta, my league, we're like I'm so intimidated or I can't believe you went out with me. You would not believe how often this is happening I. Don't think any of these people had reason to believe this obviously because I wanted to go. On a date with them I did not think that I was. So out of this person's league, this has been multiple times in my life. If a guy tells you this from across the table, you could think like the most amazing guy going in your so excited about it you will immediately believe them. Why would I believe him out of your league if you're telling me that I'm so out of your league and you're acting nervous and you're acting. Like you don't belong there with me then I will believe what am I doing? Why am I going out with this person who? So beneath me and I never ever have gone into a date thinking that I'm going out with someone so beneath me never until it's brought up, you're absolutely right leg. You're absolutely right. Why would anyone do this I don't know, but it really is a huge turn off. It really is girls like confidence guys confidence. Grow it same thing for for a dude if a dude. Yeah who maybe as a little bit of I don't know you don't have to have any sort of cloud or fame just a dude and girl goes out and a girl starts fan girling and acting like you're so out of their league and saying like I can't believe I'm here with you because our bosses famous. So we asked like, have you ever gone out with girls that were like? So, nervous to go out with you and you know that could happen with guys and keep it in always act like you belong there. Even if you're shooting yourself and say, even if you feel like girls if you're going out with like I, don't know an athlete or celebrity somebody you think is so hot or so out of your league, do not ever reveal that you can't believe you're they're both sexes both genders just literally play it. Cool. You can treat them you can give them the world you can act like they are out of your league do never say those. Yes I have two parts to add to this one. I. Don't believe that anyone is actually out of anybody else's league exact in my heart. I, really believe that I don't believe in that concept I. Don't think that Lake celebrities only should date celebrities or whatever the hell anyone can date anybody in be happily married like. That's what we always tell people. We say shoot your shot slide in the DMZ like nobody is out of anybody's league. If you have the confidence to date that person part two is I kind of have a confession here because I didn't actually say that but when I was a little bit younger, I was more insecure and then later I had lakes conversations with some friends some good girlfriends and they were like don't ever say that. So what I said was I was dating this guy and he had like a ton of followers and he was like. He. Was a well known person whatever and I said to him. I was like Whoa like why why me like why are you or what did I say I was so stupid I was like, why did you choose? Why did you choose me exactly something like that because same thing also, we talk about that earlier like we'll. We'll talk about an interview like why did you choose me out of all the dams or whatever and I'm just like why the frick what I ever say something like that you my friends had to Saddam MIATA and they're like. Don't ever say that like don't ever let them think that you are out of their league because then why would they want to be with you artery put yourself down. So either way like we've all had those moments there were times when I was younger and it all leads back to what we do on. Instagram when you see them following models, all these girls who you think that like, what will why would he want me if this supermodel follows him you know we've all had those little thoughts We're all human everyone has these thoughts I'm not. Saying you can't think it doe fuck it do not go on the date and be like well, I just can't believe you're here with me like you shouldn't date someone like me. You can do better than me like a guy because if we're there or that person's there with you, they are believing that you are in their room. Yes. So like just keep that in mind we're all on the same playing field. If you believe you are amen and what a great introduction to I still stand by my statement, one of the best interviews I've ever witnessed here. Media. Hours and who radio this was excellent. Let's maybe toss it sophie. Let's toss it over to the Fabulous Jena Sims. Okay. Boys and girls. We have a very big guest today for many reasons but she's an actress and she's a loyal home team listener which we love that in here and she's the girlfriend of one of the top golfers in the world. Jena Sims welcome to home. T you so excited we've been waiting for this day for a very long time. Finally here we have been talking about Jenner coming to La and coming on the. Show for a long time. Honestly wait side note I did not say who boyfriend is her boyfriend's Brooks Koepka. So if you're listening to this and you know golf or you're listening to this because you WanNa hear about Brooks and Gina that Sushi's dating Jenin I became friends and she started listening to every episode of our show and it made our heart like me and our that makes our hearts melt literally every time we see positive messages it makes our day also she's not alone sophie. Oh we have a party in the studio today yes. Entourage. Yes Oh. K. rolled in with an entourage. We've a few girls in the studio. They're awesome. Everyone's beautiful. It's a good vibe in here. People are going to be jealous that they're not here. Honestly I knew I had to come. We leave him out for that one can use that. Thank God for that. Yes. So Let's just get into it before we start rolling. So me and Jenna have very interesting history. Should we dive into how we know each other I feel like it's craigslist like Miss Connection ad because we've been in the same room dated some of the similar people and now here we are yeah can we say that? So I have crossed over few times. We can say this is. Me and Jenner have not dated a ton of guys. But when you are in the same social circle and you're living in the same city, 'cause you're living in La. Sometimes things happen and we have a few of the guys and I kind of love that we must be similar. To meet clearly guys like both of us and I think we're born madeup apart. December. Sorry I'm psycho I already know your Birthdays Zimmer Twenty Eight, twenty nine. Yes, I'm thirtieth. Corn. LIBOR eighty-eight. Guys we were literally born one day apart. Yeah. This is to be this is meant to be stalking of you only were good reason I by the way we. Talk all the time like we talk on the show makes me feel better that other women are coming forward about their stalking because it's like we're not the only ones. Every girl does this young girl stalk? Okay. The Girls Hammers one hundred. Any guy who thinks it's crazy that we figure this stuff out there is not one girl on the planet who doesn't do this guys than girls sometimes because if I'm trying to find something, Brooks will be on. Most guys, I know would be like Okay. So we've dated a few of the same guys and what makes this interview particularly juicy and interesting in this is the coolest girl in the entire world because she has to be because the fact that she likes me and wants to come on here because if I were her I'd hate me. So I have just a little bit of history with her boyfriend when Brooks was single us, he did not cheat. This was not a situation where I was like the other woman. So I guess that's why you can get over the hump with it but we talked three years ago. This was twenty seven name. Yeah. Three years ago. Getting. We were talking we met we were not compatible. He's a great guy. I don't have a bad word to say about him and you know when people are single they have a bunch of guys. They're talking to a bunch of girls they're talking to and we cross paths. It didn't work out and one of the other girls who was talking to who he had a deeper history with became his girlfriend and that's Jenna. So when me and brooks were talking, how did you become aware of me? Okay. Speaking of stalking. Let's go. So every girl. Whether they admit it or not. Every girl has like a rotation of girls they regularly stock. Yeah. So I was in love with Brooks, while you were dating you. Know. I like, I hate me for you. That she wants to be my friend is so kind I did. So I saw that you guys follow each other and then Brooks was off your pictures. There's nothing worse than seeing that really i. started. Watching I wanted to know more about you because I like Brooks I had actually rekindled in. February. So there was a little crossover there I. Stopped Him. We can get into like how we got back together because Brooklyn I dated in two thousand, Fifteen I. Remember him telling me that there was a girl that he used to date. But then he had a girlfriend and when I was talking to him, I guess he had recently broke up with the girlfriend yet his his college ex we'll get into how we met story, right but you. So y'all each other he was lacking your post. And then I somehow stumbled upon your barstool interviews maybe you were doing that at the time. And I watched a few of them and I was like cutting it I'm gonNA like this girl. And a few of my friends helped me stock you a little bit I into every time. There were like y'all would actually really like this girl I'm like I know I want to like her. Harder, though or you're just like, oh, you're torn I think I just manifested this friendship so hard I was like I'm going to be friends with her one day Oh my God I love you. You know what's so funny you say that is because I didn't know anything about you or your personality in till we can get there actually. Okay. So basically will go backwards. So you were stalking me did you know when he was in New York? Yes. Because you want to die of his hands. You posted a story y'all or at a breakfast brunch saw. The trump hotel. Hey and I've actually recalled this whole I I'm sure you know because is very wear high brooks. On the show and he's okay with US telling this story absolutely because actually I. he thinks it's great because I've never really talked about our dating life in an interview like I've. Never, really talked about what we're about to talk about. People be carried on but yes. So actually I was with him at the masters that year was just before you hold trip or time a yeah I found that out after yeah. But I haven't gone. She was like I like he actually talked about this the other night I wasn't talking to other people because I was determined to like I was and was love with them. And I saw that he was going to New York we never mentioned it when we were together and then I was watching your store you knew I lived in Y'all we're going. y'All. Going out and about and then his hands I know what his hands looked like they're hairy. He's got hairy hands. I could pick his hands out of a lineup and I did it was on your instagram story he was eating a sandwich and I was like those are his hands there. So did you want to die when you saw that I, Joe Brian believe me I had a girlfriend that was staying with the German oaks here and I had a girlfriend that was staying with me. And I was like. Let not inconsolable. That's an exaggeration, but I know. Your timing the feeling like I'm feeling it for you right now, and I hate that it was me because like your stomach drops and you're just like. No. It's also scary because like go through it. Now, when you're talking to someone who you're not committed to each other yet and you see that like the girl that you're looking up, he's commenting on her pictures and you think fuck what if he chooses that girl and like you're literally like what if they end up dating when you're like when you WANNA be with this person So. Like I'm sure him being in New York. After you were just with him in the masters which I didn't know and you see his hands on my store, you want to die I wanted to die. Yeah. Because what he dated in Twenty Fifteen I was not ready and we both like openly talk about it I was not ready for a serious relationship I was dating other people. And I think if he was here right now he would say he was a little more serious about that back then. And then. So when we reconnected in two thousand, seventeen, he kinda of maybe thought it was gonna be the same situation. Yeah and I took way seriously more seriously the second time 'cause I dated I'd like lived in La for a few years dated around and then I was ready. So anytime I would break up with the guy I would always text brooks. You whatever and then finally I got my hands on him yet. Yeah. So basically, New York happens after New York Mean Brooks. Each Other and then I saw you guys were dating and was like poppy for him. No hard feelings then got this is the best story ever now that we've got that out of the way. I. Can tell the best probably know each other. Now that we've gotten over the hard part, we can get to the good parts. So fast forward, a year and a half. Yeah Yeah because it it was a year birthdays was birthday. Birthday Week Eighteen going into twenty, one, thousand, nine, hundred, eighteen, I'm going to Hawaii with family the so I'll tell you my story. We're. Normally there's like two sides and the truth this is going to be three sides. Sure. Like the craziest story. So I'm going to Hawaii with family were staying at the montage in Maui and Land Kapalua which is remote. It's an hour and a half from the airport. It's not like a touristy spot you gotta you gotta be looking forward to get there literally. So I landed the airport and I see posters in the airport for Golf Tournament and I'm like fuck. But then because I see the dates or the a random going to be there but then my mom was like Oh, our hotels an hour and a half from the airport. So literally what you said so I'm like, oh There's no chance. This is going to be anywhere near me like we're an hour and a half from Maui airport. So we go all the way to this resort and we pull into those or and the banners are down the long dry like golf tournament here at this resort, the exact dates were going to be here and inlay week out full. We only I was there ten days a full week of it was this golf tournament during it and I'm like, okay, there's definitely a good chance that is in this tournament and him and his girlfriend could be at this hotel but I dunno yet. So then day wanted the trip I'm fine. I'm chilling day two of the trip. Rory mcelroy's at the pool and I'm like Oh. Dear. This is getting more real. You know then like that afternoon I see Dustin Johnson and I'm like. I. Know It's coming. Cinema on the phone with my girlfriend and I'm walking around like the property talking and I spot brooks at a bar or something. Okay. Yeah. I. Spent Him at the Bar and I'm like my stomach literally did a somersault and I'm like, Oh my fucking God this is going to be so weird. So the entire trip. My head is on a swivel because I don't know you and I don't know if you hate me and I'm sure I was pretty sure that you're aware of who I was at this point. I was like this is going to be so bad. So like everywhere I go. I'm like in the gym. Like. Walking through the hallways like going to dinner like you know and then I was like this part I was kind of like live tweeting it and I didn't say who it was obviously but I was like, yeah, I'm literally living real life forgetting Sarah Marshall and I'm Peter. I'm Peter Because this guy that I used today at his new girlfriend are at the same resort in Hawaii like the movie and I'm here with my parents sitting by the pool loan. Jenna has the best body in the entire roles she's like laying in the porn front of me every single day and I didn't know you knew I was had did because you didn't even we didn't even like look make eye contact or anything so I was like At the end. I. I wasn't sure you're GONNA miss. Blam hardness it's great. Honestly. So like I don't talk to you the whole trip and you're by yourself at the pool every day because he was playing. Pool. And myself to then the last day of the trip I like I feel like I got away like I know I did run into them once lasted trip to tournaments over nobody is at the pool literally empty and I'm there with my whole family. We're laying there on the last day of the trip and my brother starts hysterically laughing and he's like don't turn around. I was like, oh My God around Brooks, walking down the stairs pool attendant walks around. I'll never forget this walks around the entire like, Oh, good. They're not sitting near that was like a horrible walk for me because I feel ten eyeballs on right now. All five of us are watching you guys. There's no one else at the resort literally goes down walking around the pool. She walks them fully around in a circle and PLOPS them down next to my family and I'm like I can't do so I get up. I figured you were like, well, I, stood up because I was like this is too awkward and Brooks. Actually Sophie. Like yeah. I'm like the third. Broken down this invisible barrier and. Are you very awkward but like friendly. been where you living now whatever I was like and I see you kind of like looking at me with a smile on your face and I do too and I kind of am dying inside to say hi to you I don't know why in that moment I just all I could get out of that conversation with Brooks was that I wanted to talk to you. But I just wanted to be like hi I'm Sophie because I'm like such girls girl I could tell you are too. And it didn't happen. Okay. So tell me your side of Hawaii. So my side of y like earlier I mentioned that you were on my regular stocking rotation. So we're you still stalking me after you dating. Yes. I was because I like to see what you're up to I love you. But I don't do that to everybody like don't think I'm always specialty girl I'm time. Your case because showcase on the roster, I wanted to be friends with you, and so my birthday was December thirtieth and we were flying on that day and I was here we were celebrating La just prior. So I was feeling a little hungover on the plane couldn't sleep. So I get on my phone, get on, get on twitter and you see me. Your tweets about this and I was like she's talking about me. Oh. My Gosh. She's talking about me and then I was like my head was also on a swivel own my God you guys this isn't. Like I. Didn't say anything bad about Brooks Jenner. I was literally making fun of myself being like I'm the loser in this situation there's a dude and is freaking girlfriends like at my resort. So yeah, that's basically something else. Okay. So what were you thinking like time when? Five feet from me in the pool everyday. No joke where you're sitting her friends are sitting across me. That's where Jenna was oh. Yeah. So I wish one of US had the balls. It wasn't going I wish you to missed instances but the whole time I, was thinking actually, how do I tell because? Brooks and I we've progress in relationship. Tell him anything we were open book, and at the time I wasn't as comfortable sharing how crazy I am. So I was like texting my friends. and. I was like, how do I tell Brooks at I know the situation is happening because I didn't want him to see you because I knew I was in on this whole thing was like how do I tell him? I stumbled upon this one tweet and then I I knew you work because he didn't know I was talking you've at the time. Dilemma. You say to get away with it. There's no way we doesn't show that you already know every has. Yeah because then it was about me I knew that and he would have been like, maybe it's not you. But yeah, there's that and there's one day I almost I had a few drinks at the pool and I I knew you like Rosa because I've watcher instagram stories. and. I. Went to the Bar and I was GonNa send you a rosy and then you've got all your whole family got up and left and I was like. You say I would've I would've made my entire life. I was like watching them in the pool every day and I was like I feel like you were someone could be friends with just like so sweet and so easy going another thing like you're talking about your stalking tendencies, this isn't dockery, but it's a weird thing I noticed so like she has the best body in the entire world like I said, you were ordering like a child and like looking at a supermodel, she would. She would eat like. Cheese, fries unlike picking like lettuce and like covering my body at the pool. It's she's like walking around looking like that and eating like shit and I was I was literally like it's so unfair that is so unfair I want that body and be able to eat whatever I want. I have the Palette of a twelve year old. A lot of fried foods and fast. There is no secret to this is strictly just genetics I do work out, but I would say I don't watch what I eat. Yeah. Well, you're very for that. To round out our friendship story, we have mutual really close friends two of my best friends, one of whom has been on the show, Steph Toilolo and Kristen Lowell they're both football lags and there to my best friends in the world and they are really close with you a are so. Well. One of my friends here is close with them. It's exactly high get a text from Kristen actually wait even before that were in Napa and you come up in conversation with the girls they were just oh, Steph was talking about her she used to be like a rockstar energy girl That's how I met Kate. A Red Bull Red Bull and you you were there. Okay. So you were red bull girl with staff and then I was like I feel like I would like Jena sims and I told them the whole Hawaii story and they were like no. So if you would, they're like she's such girls go she's such a sweetheart. She's from the South whatever then I get a text leader from Kristen saying I was at dinner with Brooks and gentle last night and Gina told me that she. Listens to your podcast and she wants to be your friend and I was like no way. I had to spicy Margaritas this birthday actually this most recent year toy nineteen going into twenty twenty San Diego and we went to dinner with them and I had do spicy Margaritas and I was waiting because I didn't have an I wanted to know about you but I had no one to ask and I had surgery. So at this point brooks no, you're curious about me Oh. Yeah. Interest. In the he doesn't Care Oh. We think great. He said he's like y'All y'all GonNa love each other. Yeah that's what he said and I had my two drinks and I was like. Tell me about Sophie what she really like NBA's. Here we go. And then I just follow her don't make it. Weird. So Kristen say good things. Yes. She's what did she say it was like you can hang with the guys like your bubbly outgoing you. Your energy you can like command room and all of us love this. Oh, I knew I was going to like you. From so she texts me and goes Jenna listens to your podcast and loves it and I was like Whoa 'cause I'm like wait a minute. This would be an unreal person to get on the pond but I was like I don't know if she would ever talk about the things that. Yeah. Yeah. So rounded out, we end up following each other. We now message each other all the time close friends, stories and a teams like we've been best friends forever ellison's you like a dating me and I'm like hope sometimes I'm like. And then you're thinking. Larry no always send me the. Alley to round out this story after three years of missed connections and should've hated me but didn't we are officially friends we can close that Chapter I'm sure Brooks's shitting himself through that entire story but no no bad feel how we're all friends here, and now we tag you back in. This is unreal story just like to be able to hear both sides of this situation that everyone can in some way. Relate to something in this story you know whether you're stalking the guy that you like and you see another girl in the background or like I always did this thing where I would check the mirror to see if there's any girl if they're like posting hundred you the room, there are one and I can see you can see in like so anyways, we will have a little bit of like the Stalker in uh, and so I think it's super relatable. They don't always get a happy ending like this one but this is truly the happiest now that we've closed out the sophie chapter of Your Life. Reopened the new chapter with us. So like you said, you and Brooks met years before you rekindled. So tell me the story of like how you guys initially met. This is going to be interesting for you because I did something that you disagree with. I, slid. into. His. Damn. Good for you. Okay. So are you a success? We don't disagree were scared. Okay. Okay. You're right. We don't think it's fair. Yeah. Here guys tell us to and we're just like. I did this was an early two, thousand fifteen for this. So you know I like donuts a lot. Don't alter my things like people think of Gina and they think of doughnuts. So I had this donut take up on by chance and I was like, what am I going to say this guy so am I.. Luxurious as best ceiling corporate apartment in Sherman Oaks my studio. Outside there was this twiggy little plant and so I took a Selfie and I was like, Oh this is not bad. So I sent him the Selfie of me in front of the plant in the donut tank top not that even matters what I was wearing but I said does this does this plant make me Look Tan or something? And it's honestly bold move filter make my meal. It was something about the plant and myself and the filter. anyways. He totally was like Haha what's up or something it was horrible but it worked yes actually went back and asked him because I'm he gets a lot. He's a good looking guy whatever I was like, what about my GM stood out among the rest because he was like he doesn't respond DM's like he's just not that guy. But he was like I just leave your page and I had like a connection to you and so yeah, we were texting. We took it off the D. end started texting wait. Can we pause for? Do you promote sliding in the dams I like because you're not the first girl that's come on the show that met even one of my girlfriends met her husband by DM messaging him on facebook years ago. But like your proponent you. If you don't go after what you want like God's love with confidence and takes charge knows what they want I went after what I want actually both times I went after what I wanted. And Yeah I'm Osama's success story. The hesitation is that people think chivalry is dead and this and that but chivalry is not dead but you have to go after what you want because I'm guys don't old they don't know. CanNot go up to a girl in a bar and talk to her I can't see him doing the no, he won't. So I had to like I literally joke I'm like I had to make him love me. I mean yeah. Okay. So you send us. Yeah. That's the truth of the matter previous to this or I tell people now but I would say he and I met the Masters 'cause we did back in two thousand fifteen we met in person at the Masters Twenty fifteen. So WanNa Miss Connection. craigslist Miss Connection were you at the wheels party ever at Yup I was at the one you were at in San, Francisco with her kate was there Oh, my God. I was the wheels up Masters Day ten and the night party well had literally cross cross paths that we're destined to be friends but it's funny because Brooks was like remember the exact spot that we met I just. I remember it was. We'll now I know between Seven and eight with this pre or post him post house will a an arranged meeting I. was like, I'm GonNa go to the masters. Let's grab dinner or be on the lookout because at the time he hasn't won any majors and he didn't have a huge following, right so he could look for me in the crowd, right so I'm Mosey my way to the edge of the rope I knew he was going to. Be going from seven green eight t and there's a little walkway and I stood there and I was like, Hi and he read over hugged me like in the middle of the tournament, one hundred headscarves and like Oh my God. So we met physically person at the masters and then that night we had like a dinner and actually my his mom that night first time I met him his mom was also they're not named. Yeah and so we must have loved you like you. There's no way that apparent love her. You're just like a sweetheart. I showed up actually with a box of crispy cream doughnuts Oh and I knew what brooks like to drink brought that and it was just like Hello I'm here let's have dinner. Really. So you've flew to Augusta or were you in Georgia because you're from Georgia? I'm from there. No I was actually living in L. A. AND I V A little bit and I told Brooks I was like, Oh, I'm GonNa be in Augusta that week you're so funny a planet the one told me someone told me to do this before they were like you need to be like, Oh, I'm actually going to be in Blah Blah Blah city their city to get to see them and I was like to scare the I'm being too much of a pussy I need to page out of your but you gotta you gotTa just do it so and he was like Oh. Let's get together and I was like perfect. Then I bought my flight. You. have any girlfriends go with you go alone I have a sister she came. Okay. Yeah. But she didn't actually come. She went to the tournament with me and then goes up thing with me but not to the house. Okay. She went to school around there should at least you a winger. I could not have done that. No. That would that'd be like really intimidating. Yeah. So I went to a few tournaments with him that year, and then he decided which is where our stories differ but he got back with his college ex girlfriend I've heard about this one. Yeah. He wanted to get back with her I. Think he has some loosen tie up there and then I was just single in La dating the same guys I was. Yeah, exactly. Look. Back. I was handling the West Coast here on the East Coast always still made made it work. Okay so so the rekindle, there's a second part rekindle happily ever after you guys living together in Jupiter Florida how does Jupiter? That's one of my favorite places on I I love it. It was definitely a hard move to go from a career here in La. I was acting I still am to be able to transition into the south Florida market was was tricky, but I'm now booking more jobs now than ever and really good. It was a smooth easy amazing transition but I love Jupiter. There's tons of like outdoor restaurants you can take the boat to and it's slower. Their Jupiter's the ultimate beach town like the bars you walk up and they're in the sand it's like bear Fai. Goodbye it's like the whole town is like amazing dive bars. Yeah. My best friends from there. It's just the best. Okay. So being a golf wag to the outside world and I'm not saying it's not I'm just saying it looks like the absolute life because you travel to the nicest resorts on the planet where they play it's not like they're playing in like no Buffalo New York, I'm. Going to get general by Buffalo, but you know you stay at these beautiful resorts. So when I saw you in Hawaii it was a lot of like you chilling at the resort and him on the course. So how do you keep yourself busy when you're on these trips while he's playing Hawaii the Hawaii tournaments actually probably the only one of its kind where it is an amazing resort and It's also like my birthday week whatever. So I would allow myself to lay at the pool every day because I was technically on vacation there but otherwise, I don't travel with him about half the time 'cause I'm really don't go to every single I do not I pride myself on having my own life outside of him I, actually run a nonprofit doing that since two thousand four what's it? Called it's called pageant of hope told me about it It's a pageant for kids with challenges where everyone leaves a winner Oh. Yeah. It's like self esteem raising inner beauty self confidence and we we can't do it this year because of corona and everything but usually have two to three events a year but in Africa and Australia Cuba all over the united. States I've had several here. In Georgia but the kids show up it's like I pick you know sometimes I'll go to like a can't a children's cancer hospital or an artistic school or whatever it is, and we'll the kids get their would you their hair makeup nails? Doable pageant 'cause I have a big background pageantry Salamat. Jenny. A former Georgia Teen USA. So I wanted to combine sort of my love with the winning feeling like when you when you actually went to pageant, it's the most amazing feeling in the world and actually did a lot from who I am today like myself confidence. My poise stays presents stuff like that communication. Georgia and then I wanted to give kids who wouldn't normally compete in pageants winning feeling. So created the pageant of hope that's incredible. Every kid gets title like best hair best smile Oh yeah, really. Yeah. It makes you cry cry like every time. So you just like become more and more of an angel as the show goes. So back to what you were saying though. Week of a tournament from the outside looking in it does look like we travel all over the world and go to these amazing places. But to that I always say, I've seen a lot of golf courses. Like. We don't really get out and go because brooks is schedule like he has a chef that travels. So we don't go out to eat and I'm there for him. So other when I'm not doing the nonprofit stuff I'm self taping all your dishes now are removed. Amazing. Seen that on your story I normally do three to four sell tapes a week so when he's playing I'M Not even there sometimes I'm at home doing auditions or whatever it is. So I like to to keep my stuff separate like I'm not I don't like follow him around you know well, Golf's very long slow sport. Yes. So do you ever get bored or is it exciting because like your boyfriend's in it? It is it has evolved because like when we first started dating he didn't. have any majors and once you start winning majors, which is like the US Open the PGA those are the two he's won twice. So four, the crowd like he didn't have a huge crowd. So I was able to follow him in walk and in the beginning it was so exciting. This is a new experience for me walking around and watching him play golf now unlike it's kind. Of, a pain because there's so many people that follow him, I don't actually see a lot of his golf. So I'd rather just a in the clubhouse or at home. Especially, if he's in contention if he's about to win no chance I, can see anything because everyone thinks that girlfriends can walk in the ropes we're out in the while you're in the our literally in the mile. An hour to ever seen a golf tournament every hole like the fans just a crowd moves yet hold a whole with them. So you're it's a sea of people. It is people and. As the day progresses people get more drunk and they're just Crazy. It is crazy. So now it's it's harder to watch him play. So I I typically stay back. Yeah, and probably actually like I prefer football on TV because I can see what's going on when you're in the stands, you can't see the whole field. The best angles are when you're watching TV, I can sit there at the house and watch every play every shot. because. He's on the TV. What's your favorite tournament to attend Hawaii? The whole Iowa that was good happens there every year the at blue and to get into that term you actually brooks isn't an even in it this year because he didn't win this year, you have to have won a tournament to qualify for that one. Oh so like that's a big, it's a special ones is a special one. Feels, orders, there's no cut. So you're going to be there for the whole week other than that. There's a tournament in Nassau in the Bahamas it's unreal Albany it's tigers event. It's great. Can You bring front? Yes. Theme Parties at night and it's another amazing like resort pool setup. Okay. This is a weird question basically like when you go to these resort tournaments do you pay or do they complex at the montage? Kapalua as one of the most expensive resorts? Do you guys have to pay for that or did they put you up there? Yes. Working as a professional golfer is very expensive because they have to pay for the flight. A lot of these guys are flying private brooks travels with like a whole staff of people like he's got like five or six people that he travels with coaches and his caddy he pays and the sheriff and his trainer and. All these people, but yet the montage son okay. So some tournaments will give you a COP hotel room, the smaller ones. But now because of Corona and everything he has been renting houses every week. So it's like a straight up airbnb and he brings everyone's at the same houses. Yeah. Right now there's like a bubble right now. So yeah, it's houses but yeah, they pay in especially for the younger golfers the hotels aren't you know companies room. So it it adds up. So you gotta play instead of to be a golfer it's not like being football player like everything when you're in one of the major four sports leagues, you never pay for your room. Your. Like reliably like a discounter deal or something, but everyone is not getting a hotel room that's so interesting and can you golf? No, that's actually a question. I get all the time especially when I'm following him like on the golf course 'cause people who are strangers will come up to me and think like that's there in like that's how I'm GonNa talk to her like Oh. What's your handicap? I'm like I can't even make contact with the ball with the club. I wish it. Looked so easy and it's impossible. It is so but that's where I go back to. That's his thing. Not My thing like he doesn't act in model and. He has a foundation but he doesn't act model like that's my thing and he's not he doesn't want you to even try it's just like no we kill each other he gave me a golf lesson like no chance it's probably true I know a lot of people say that like one of the big tests of relationship is when you take someone skiing and they don't know ski that him and twenty and yeah, we we did that recently I'd. Rather not know for my whole life then deal with learning. Also when people ask me, I'm like we live together like I if we golf together and live together, I would never get my time alone. Enough. Hundred percent love you but I spend enough time. When will I fell in love with you the moment you walked in because the first thing you said was I have a device for you I have a little. Advice. So it's not even advice which is a funny and other coincidence. So I the other reason I'm here other than this. I shot are ahead of day on a film yesterday. Playing my husband was just man and he was telling us a bit about his background on what he does for a living other than acting he is Michael, B. Jordan's personal trainer. please. Tell me you drive. Is Late, Jordan. We need to hear although I have. I have afraid I was like. Obsessed with him. He's really a nice guy and he was like he's the irony standup gentlemen. Amazing. Love him would die for him. Basically, I was just thinking. Sharing now. So we're one degree of separation from I go rhino I'm right there. My young confirmed Michael Jordan Amazing Guy. Yeah. That's what I hear that. You know his name is now coming up a lot on our. Number one shot. Michael Jordan. Okay. So like golf such, an individual sport is there like a group of wags because obviously the top golfers you all go to the same tournaments is it like thing like when you're on a team or is everyone kind of like six to themselves? There is there are several different groups of these girls don't want to say it's not segregated by any means but. Like the women who have kids SORTA Kinda stick together and there's like a wags like PGA tour wife? Group which I'm not a part of, but they do weekly events and they go to you know they do things together I connect with more of the girls who have jobs outside of the travel, some of these girls like they travel every single week like full time and I just couldn't do that. So the girls I connect with their girls who you know have. Their own thing or more my age or you know the girlfriends like ones that aren't married yet and do some of them stay back in Jupiter too. So like you have girls to hang out with when Brooks is on the road. Yes. Okay. That's grace. I have friends thankfully now I've been there for a few years. I have friends that aren't involved at all with. The you know the tour stuff and then I have friends like my friend Tori is Daniel Berger. She's one of the first girls that I met and she lives in Jupiter and she hangs back a lot. She's really successful with real estate and modeling and her connected but it's awesome. Yeah. I have a question now that you guys are like dating and you live. Together and you've been dating for a while do you still have like those old tendencies of following some of these girls and like or do you still kind of check to see who he's following? Absolutely. Okay. Yuccas through that like what how did it transition or what I think he have talked about this before like when guys like like and comment on other girls instrument. It's. So it's literally like men are from Mars and women are from Venus percent the three of us I can speak for all of us. Actually we would never if we're in a committed relationship, we would never like another dudes photo if we didn't know this person a stranger dude like I'm not going and lacking random guys picture I've never met or worked with whatever guys do that. They don't think they don't think and they don't understand what it looks like. But I, trust him wholeheartedly and we've had many conversations about it. He's like it was a good picture. Absolutely. Right. So we we've had many conversations about this I pick and choose my battles, and that one I'm going to let slide because I'm confident and secure in our relationship to know that he's not deeming these girls. He's actually not even commenting on these pictures literally tapping his screen twice. What do we asked all the dudes here and the like we don't even think like they they're like Oh and guys like to look their visual creatures like they're not gonna go cheat because they find a girl hot online. It's just like okay I like the photo looks pretty but like they're not gonNa, do anything about it and guys just need to look I think that's a testament like I'm so you have be confident and trust the other person girls freak out when their guys like follow a new girl or like pictures like just trust what you have and know that you love each other and. I love that advice I. Love that I always say to narrowed I'm like I think it's something that you worry about when you're not committed and then when you are it's kind of like this person is with you living together. What are you going to be worried about like if he is following girls like it's like we freak out but like the end of the day you're in his bed at the end of the Nile yes happening you know best friend Holly I know at the end of the day it's completely harmless exactly. I want to ask you about this because my take on it was very different from the rest of the Internet. So. Yes when the clip went viral, which time the non kissing. Thing. There's been a few over the years. Okay. So then the one that ever like refers to win yeah. In my brain I'm like first of all I don't even think he noticed second of all he's dialed in he's in the middle of a tournament lane intention literally walking hold whole. He has a crowd of a billion people around him. I don't think he saw you. No the Internet loved to make it like year he denied you. I actually looked at that clip in. Didn't think it was like that. Kiss and technically did deny me I'm not gonNA say there was a hinge of like hurt because I'm human being with feelings. Now. You know that the cameras were on, you look where you like. A huge camera like a steady cam and the guys walking backwards and following me with the camera. So you knew that. I was like Oh. That's why you see kind of when it happens. I'm Kinda like mad at the end I was like the whole world's GonNa see this. Marsal ran with it. So can you actually saw it and you text me? Are you okay and I play Dominos like, yeah why Brooks is he's about to win golf tournament great and Sunshine and rainbows. Phone below. It was more like not congratulations. Brooks is about to win. It was like, are you? Alright? Are, you going to jump off the cliff house roof or you? So how good? How did you handle that? After? Like we mad at him he felt awful I'm. So. Bags he like He. He feels that when the haters come at me because he's like you didn't ask for this right and that was truly just an embarrassing moment that I had like he was like I'm not going to make excuses but he was actually zone men. All men can tuna girl out and he was doing that it was literally that's what it looks like it was in the zone and when a guy when men narrowed like this to work and personal when years. On work you can't yeah and I was I was talking about it obregon myself I was. Obviously. Congratulated him when he won and then we didn't talk about it until like way later and he was like I'm so sorry did you address it online like did you re tweet it and so yeah, actually it was his idea because he always feels really bad when it's unintentional the picture there was this other viral moment of me looking at Tiger Woods and oh that. ended up on a t shirt and it was a whole thing. So that was very unintentional. He just felt bad because the haters were coming at me and it was a whole story line of I've hooked up with tiger and like no I literally was still shot from video and it looked like I was checking him out or whatever, and any normal person would know that. The Internet loves a good like me. Can freeze frame up. You know that people love to come at me too I think yes if. If we have of it. If people are coming at you, you're doing something right you just got an honestly retweeting things and like making fun of yourself is the way to being in on the joke kiss and not be be her in public like the rebuttal at the rebuttal was sort of I think was is worrying him but we did like a little instagram story and I think I said, oh I finally got that kiss or whatever we like kiss on Instagram that. Okay. Good now yeah. I mean when I saw it I wasn't like Oh that sucks like I. Get it like I didn't think in my brain. It wasn't. He was like, why are you trying to kiss me? It was literally just like I'm focused on the next hole every other day that week we would kiss right there because that was the part where I walked in with him and then we went our separate ways I would go grab a bite he would go to the driving range or whatever. So we. Would walk together and that was the moment we had to split are ways. So then I was like, okay, this is going to be Thursday Friday and Saturday we're going to kiss right there goodbye good luck and he was like actually he was like, no I'm GonNa come with you and grab a bite with you. So that was the whole thing we weren't I thought he was going to go practice but had enough time and he followed me and we went and sat down eight together and then we kissed and told him. Just like getting. One more time. To. It's actually you know what? Like at the end of the day it just brought more attention to I. Know You weren't looking friend brought attention to you and like you're doing it with your own life. So what at the end of the day helps you out with your charity or your word people I think people just they some of them, the haters kind of they root against me so hard sometimes so they like probably relished in limbo at that moment. Oh, if you're ever having problems haters just me I can talk you off the cliff I every day come in here and I'm like to narrow one here the latest and. It doesn't affect me anymore because I'm so confident in who I am as a person like when someone says something, that's not true about me I. Love myself more because I'm like this person doesn't know who I am. That's not true. It doesn't even sting anymore because I'm like that's so far in left field like an honestly what I always say about getting hate the more you get it the stronger it makes you yes. When people haven't gotten hate and they get one little comment like it's like Oh fuck and I'm like, oh, just embrace it because the more you hear nothing can really penetrate you after that and then you learn you learn about the you are as a person. Makes you really do a lot of self reflecting. One hundred percent. Okay. So what's your ideal date night with Brooks? ooh. My, there's this place in Jupiter it's called you tiki. Yeah I'm not. I don't need like a nice steak dinner wind done. I. Like a little spontaneity like I don't like a planned date night like the other day and Brooks and I are always around a lot of people because we travel with his team and we love our friends and we go on vacation with all of our friends do you Do. You ever wish that you were alone at some of the tournaments Well, sometimes we are. But most of the time no because I'm there for him like I don't take anything personally on the road because I'm there for him. So I don't need to be like about me and like this is about him this week because he supports me, he's been in my region. Hope Events. He's here with me this week because I had my job yesterday whatever he's literally here because I, you know I booked the job and he wanted to come. So the other day he was like I come home from a meeting or something and he was like, let's go to. Ut and I totally had not planned on you know going out with him but I was like dressing kind of cute and was like let's have a night to so I like when when it's just he and I and we just like totally unplanned taking has really good Sushi. Yeah. Just low key. So we ended up just having like the best night Alabama yeah. We always asked this question interviews. So what is the best part about dating Professional Golfer other than obviously we get to travel and all that the best part is that I get to watch the person that I love the most do what he does for a living it's like bring your girlfriend the workday. Sergeants can't say that a lot of most professions can't say that I get to support. The person I love the most doing what he does. And it's like exciting watching just in general watching sports personally as a fan when I have so many friends in different sports when you know the person on the field and your more invested, it's more fun as a fan. Yeah and I've actually grew up like my dad's Big Golfer. So I grew up sort of appreciating in liking golf. Oh. God. How happy? That's that's that's a win in his book is like Oh potentially, his future son-in-law is a freshman golfer. He gets to golf with him. Does he ask him for pointers all the time? No actually but some actually part of the second part of this the worst part people ask me to ask Brooks like like tips and things like Meyer's. They'll say like me directly, they won't be like ask Brooks they'll be like, what degree should my wedges be at like just straight up ask me that like what are you wearing these people? You know are like Snow Rangers well, some people I do know have asked that I put a stop to anyone asking me for golf tips because I'm like, I know. Yeah and so they think I'm GonNa go then turn asked Brooks what degree should your wedge be at or whatever the question was what putter should I be using but I don't He and I are in a relationship that has nothing to do with golf right I'm sure the last thing he wants to talk about the end of the all golf he's all day talking about golf people are like Oh come visit us. There's golf beautiful world renowned golf course by our house or whatever and I'm like when we travel in globe go places outside of Golf, he's not. Golfing. This job aren't going to like Miami pop go podcasting. It's like. Doesn't want to be wrong hundred when people are working so hard and it's their everyday thing. It's like you want to separate your socially from it a hundred percent but the other the other worst part about it would be like when he you know how some wags will wax, we'll say you know we they'll. They'll say we a lot like a lot of the Gulf wags which I'm not throwing anybody under the bus, but they'd be like we tee off at eight a. m.. Are you going to be are they going to hand you a club? I'm not a big fan of the we thing that he likes me retired. I'm like. What you know so I say he you know he this that and the other. But the worst part is that when he has a really bad day, there's nothing I. can say or do to make it better like I can't be like Oh tomorrow you're going to play better he's wants to go like you know I want you pillow or allow when a dude does not play well in their sport it is a level that like you can't It's just a game like they look at me but they want to. For Yes. Literally. So it's really hard 'cause I love him I love him so much and you know what I'm sadder down the can say make me feel better. But when it comes to his career in the way he played there's nothing I can say I want you so badly to be able to fix it but I just can't and that's really hard. So let's wrap it with a question about you. What's like your next big career goal ma I'm actually doing more hosting stuff which I know you dabbled in the past you know. You have such a hosting voice. Thank. You. Thank you. Yeah. I've been doing a lot of act I mean obviously, my career was mostly acting and modeling. But now that I'm in my thirties, I've always been interested in hosting and I've done a few hosting jobs lately. So I'm sort of building my hosting real idea for you. You should try to host Love Island Oh my God. We talk about how much we love. Love. Love and you could easily be hosting love island. Oh thank you the girl that Ho says really cute outfits. Brooks Brooks actually got me on reality TV I'm never living in. La. A lot of people don't especially acting like I would watch all scripted shows in when he and I started doing now it's we're on ninety day. Fiance we're on summer house. Bravo. Island like we are when we're at home and not at a tournament we watch so much reality TV. So yes, when we were flying here, Brooks was like home again, we're going to miss it you. I'm like, Oh yes you're right. I think men across America will be very relieved to know that Brooks are so likes reality TV. There are so many dudes who secretly liked to watch Bravo and they secretly liked to watch levion, but they're not pretend that they don't. Yeah. Yeah I think they'll find comfort in that Jenna. This has been like better than I dreamed about we've thought about this moment for so long you wanted to do like a facetime thing over I dunno quarantine or something I was like, no I'm coming in the studio next time we're not. Face to face like I'll do the show I'm like Oh we can do it or facetime when I was quarantine. She knew that we've waited a long time for this moment and we've waited a long time for our friendship to officially blossom. She's waited a long time to meet narrowed yet. I'm so excited that you did come into the studio. I think it always turns out better person I would. She literally will dm me and like ask me questions about your like tell me something that she heard on the show that you said and I'm like. This Yeah I. Love It. No. Yeah. We'll see what happens with the relationship but any advice you have for any relationship keeping comment Oh. Yeah. Give us. Give it to narrow but to the people and what's one piece of relationship advice you have doing a lot of this actually weights I know you gave the people including me go after very good tip for single girls. Go after what you want side in the DMZ. If you want because when I see it from your side, it's like Brooks wouldn't have you if you. If, there's someone that you want to see you what's the harmon league getting in front of their face they might not come across you I do have some advice, but guys love especially going after what you want. They love assertive. Well, at least the guys I've been with assertiveness like when the whole like there's lots of memes of where you want to eat tonight and the girls like, Oh, I, don't know. I WANNA. Go to red lobster tonight I mean we're not going to red lobster Not always red lobster but. Commit who you are and what you want hundred percent. But in terms of relationship advice I've been doing a lot of work myself just over the years especially lately and recently, and I, think our relationship is in the best place possible that it is has ever been now just because I'm not scared to be confrontational anymore like don't be a this is the advice don't be afraid to lose your man because you'll be okay without him girls lose themselves entirely in relationships. So go into it as if you can live without him because you totally can everyone gets over breakups be so confident who you are and commit to yards a person have you ever read the book why Men Marry Bitches? It says it in that book, it literally says and it's so true. Your attitude with men has to be like I'm not scared to lose you like I'm GonNa do me and I'm going to believe in this and if like when they think that they can lose you at any moment if they. Keep it in line yes. Be Confident and when you get into a fight, it's not the end of the world like when we are first year when we get to a fight, I would just my world would crumble but now I'm like, no, we love each other. This is important for a relationship. We're only going to be stronger I love that advice good advice real especially early on because I think it's been about seven months since I've been dating. Napkin. So I think that's really good me. To, keep them. Yeah. Because you guys had like your big blow I once or no, and she's like I think i. think like in the beginning little things rattle you because you're like, well, what if it ends because sometimes when it takes so long to get to the point where your official you're what if they change their mind Yup just love yourself yeah. Can't love another man till you love yourself, I absolutely. I totally agree with that best advice we love you. Jennifer. Thank you so. I can only on thank you for being like truly our biggest supporter of the show I want when you I actually don't do subscribe but the reason the the way I watch your or listen to your podcast I follow your stories and stuff and the minute Thursday rolls around and Swipe Up link on your thing swipe right up a. Whole how? I put. We had like Sonos in the house are your voice or Through. The entire house and then Mike folding laundry and listen to in Brooklyn laughing. Oh my God. Incredible. Days made day is made my favorite DM like when we get feedback is amazing general like after every episode Damien tell me something she thought was funny or something she. Give you a lot of. Lot, of critiques Because like even when any of my good friends are like, oh my God ll just heard this part I'm like you're listening every week I'm still surprised that people are listening. So it just like. You make the audience feel like we're literally sitting here and having a drink that's what we're doing. Thank you. We love you so much for definitely maybe like one day we'll have brooks on our that'd be amazing. Actually wanted to come today and I was like, let me do I think I think. This had to be US I and now that we've like completely broken down that wall with you and I like it would be it would be funny to have books in there oh? Yeah. Okay. Well, we love you so much. Thank you, Jena. Okay. Guys me and narrowed our back after our favorite interview so far we just. Love all our interviews of course. But that one was just so juicy that it was like it was in Washington. It was it was the first time me and interviewed a wag together and it was someone that is a loyal listener to this show so like we have to be obsessed with her yes, and she's just angel. So this is a very long episode. We won't keep you here. We just want to thank you once again for tuning in if you're still here, your. Real one one last thing literally brings me so much joy when you guys are like messing us in saying that you heard from a friend or like a list of top podcast whatever if you enjoy this and you think there's someone out there that would enjoyed as well like why not share the fun with them we would so appreciate it. We're a newer podcasts here at the studio we WANNA get strong. So please share the word don't forget our Internet, challenge that no partook in. Damn screen shot the episode posted on your story tell everyone on. 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169. Freedom of Speech with Rosie Jones, Jena Friedman and Jess Robinson

The Guilty Feminist

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169. Freedom of Speech with Rosie Jones, Jena Friedman and Jess Robinson

"Hala guilty feminists. This is deborah coming to America. The first show of the tour will be at gramercy theatre in New York on the fourth of January. Story and tickets are on sale now go to guilty feminists dot com for all the details that going fast more data coming soon but the foster foster this one cells the more dates. They'll put on so if you're in New York and he want to see the guilty feminist. I've booked today. I'm a feminist box. The today fabulous guest all the way from the United States Eighth America is Jenna Freedman and I wanted to make like a cool instagram picture to let everyone know the show was happening because it's the first day of the fringe inge and when I searched Google images for Jena Friedman I found the most beautiful elegant sexy picture I'd ever seen of of doing that with our hand that she had a necklace in her mouth and so I was like all of a sudden I wanna use this pictures really amazing but then I was like I don't want Rosie Jones and I have ordinary pictures next to this so I searched for sexy pictures of me Rosie on in Krugel True Story. It's the first time I've ever done it. It was enlightening. I should go to sell up by have gay a a have Matt Pick of all that had to art and now hit the wall and you bake shop gray hit now now oh I'm a feminist but when I searched Rosie Jones own sexy images. You're the only person that knows what's coming told Rosie this but she knows what's coming coming. I discovered that Rosie Jones is also a different person who is in fact a glamour model and her pictures. We're very hot and I spent a nice amount of time like looking at these incredibly sexy pictures which were they were very adjusted to be clear. It wasn't isn't this Rosie Jones that I was looking at but it was a Rosie Jones and I did not leave the page for some time ah I did eventually find a very hot picture of Rosie Jones by putting in Rosie Jones comedian sexy and there was one of Rosie going as set a goal. Hello Russ. Thank you thank you. I could've just DMG actually and gone you up. Yeah I know I I I know you are. I know you it should would into cat. Hey they shake your man card. Yes okay out of interest. Che's though not okay which one of my all right thank you just checking well I to you what what does that entail late cash more of a conversation for the ball. I am a feminist but when I do gold Deborah Frances White sexy first time I've ever done. I've not thought to do it. Before four. I would have obviously but the first time I've ever done Debra Francoist sexy. I was very disappointed with the selection and there was some really old pictures of me from previous. CBS cheesy Edinburgh and I was like no this is an okay so I just took a sultry Selfie of maybe bent and put the into the official Promo pick now. If you go there on instagram after the show you will see that it is fine and that I am extremely pleased with the results but on the grounds of that my next official photo shoot for comedy I've decided is going to be a lot hotter. Prepare yourselves us and if there was a feminist photographer out there who would like to take the pictures please email guilty feminist dot com and if there is an on feminist talk refer who would like to take some to just to see the comparison. Obviously I'm open to offers. I'm I'm in each region. One now robbed as set. Thanks for Gillian. I'm were you asked you asked. I I find a I K yeah. ooh. Tim is how she defines itself. MIC continue well now handed the Tran Notre Dame Park and sad. We car used which leads sexy very card to all show it was who would be it halfway Shane. That girl was chatter. Seattle police have of the war. You're still walk the talk hello hello this is the guilty feminist the podcasting which weeks nubile goals as twenty-first-century famous poker season insecurities which undermine them today's. Today's theme is freedom of speech copepod apart is Rosie. How are you the Matt Cimber. We all are rosy by definition. Yeah I have been had down. Stay warm yet. Say One listing at home. It's Day One Italian. There's so much time for a meltdown yet. The average fringe a comedian will help. I would say four to five meltdowns. Oh Yeah I teamed yeah well. That's good too because the more you have a meltdown the more you get it out. It's explanation. Basically it's like emotional explanation important the fringe if you're doing a show at the fringe it's very emotionally toxic the real job. You probably think you work in our day and then you drink with your friends. Friends is accurate yeah. I don't know why it feels like such hard work when evidently it isn't but it does. It feels like Oh you put your Sola Olo Plate and then sometimes you've got you know. Hof An audience of people staring at you and then someone is review student newspaper completely misunderstand what you're doing and if if she threes and then you cry about it matters. It's on a website no one's ever heard of DOT com. Why do we care a NATO bay. A live been I would for now down about my son. I'm now shag now. DOTS now that that brings us that brings US owned. You're not obliged. No Hashtag the sense can set. We're very big on consent now onto freedom of speech something. I feel you abuse now. It's so good that we live in a democracy bought for say thing is yes. I'm show yeah one have a ball. I can sunset for cow. Yeah happen little pay so the thing about actually what you're doing obviously joking. When I say European of freedom of speech drink something I think that's extraordinary the disability rights and you're doing it with such verve and naughtiest and joy these incredible but you'll one of the only comedians Yvonne on this podcast that I've had formal complaint about invasive. I The ball you very much. How the bad boy guilty feminists yeah yeah. It's not like she scored the winning goal in the world. Come that it's just so. Do you want me to tell you what those yes. I didn't bring it up at the time because sometimes people running an I handle whatever it is sometimes a pulse it on if it feels valid but I felt on this occasion that the person who'd written it with very good intentions had misunderstood. The power dynamics of the joke is the ship misunderstood the power dynamics so what she'd written Nin gene was a case of Rosie's routine is an art. If I briefly say what the retain is she has a routine in which she wishes Ryan Gosling Dead Yeah in order. Some women haven't taken that will have they already gone over very badly Razzie. We're going to get more letters complaint now on the basis that you want to have sex with his wife who is Ebay and yes all all right so the so the ends of the routine as that's how Al Gore I am. I'm so gay I want Ryan Gosling dead and it's a sort of whole immagination of Rosie going into the House and Ryan's dead and Eve's Saad and she's she's eat. You're eating a yogurt naked and it's it's a sexual fantasy that very very funny yeah. No you tell you to help you take advantage of a situation for your own sexual now. I'm stunned why she felt it but what she broke walls. If a man said that would not allow it because it's about being opportunistic sexually it's about wishing someone else dead and I wrote back and said I wouldn't Platforma man on this show. I mean really for me on the show. I could stop there but but if I did it wouldn't be a man doing a routine about wishing Ryan gosling dead so you could opportunistically shock Eva Mendes and if a man did say that on the show I edited out wouldn't publish it but the reason I think it's different it's to do with power dynamics that you physically couldn't kill Ryan gosling. No you best thing is I couldn't because if you want to work in America so I think it's important you now. They say categorically that you could not and would not come Ryan gosling alone with him for I cope whole hey no. That's not that's that's. I guess what you home run. Gosling so I can feel this a typing next team. Respect the history of the world. Thank you yeah women and then add to doc. The marginalization of disability haven't gone around. I mean think of one murder case where a disabled woman has killed or even homed non-disabled man now there might be one but we can't think of one collectively though unless anyone come abidine I forgot I was in Scotland and could you just please briefly. Give us the headlines of that story Abidine Australia. I'm so sorry Australian stone and a lot of your names but it's nothing compared to how whales feels newsouth what what was wrong with all South Aberdeen Australia what happened. Oh I can't Dr Rosi's taken a note of that and I don't know why that is very much an exception and also within the power dynamic of a couple. I don't know what the history history of that story was. Most of the time I believe that statistic is when women kill their intimate partner. It is generally self defense. Now I agree that the feeding to the children does undermine that somewhat in this case the haven't looked into the details but the headlines of this are. I think what you're doing doing is so important because a friend of mine texted me from Australia. He's not show business or anything like that. He just messaged me and said I totally get it now and and he said I always thought people with cerebral palsy were different from me. I wouldn't know how to talk to the void talk to some of the star wars the I thought maybe they were more children. He said I just didn't know what never engaged. I felt awkward and he said from listening to Rosie Jones so many times on the guilty feminist he was like I just get it is just me but slower and I think I totally. He said he said I'm just just completely made me reframe. Every assumption I've made about every disabled person I meet and he said I've just completely changed my attitude and it wasn't awesome coming from a place of aggression it was coming from it's a fear of not knowing how to deal with it and saying something wrong and he said Rosie's made me understand and I know a lot of that is how you are a classic your highly sexual in your comedy and you are your transgressive all the time and you're saying is I want out. I got smashed. I fell out for nightclub. I picked somebody out. I went home really hardcore scene about Gillian Anderson that couldn't be used on network television even after the Wall Street and and if you would just doing comedy the way I was doing comedy. I don't think you would be doing the same thing for disability Brian's. Yeah thank you and at four yet. I started our how I vote. Traditional Mine Stream take people used moved my poor blow to marry all say old gen obey. The pope runs radio alive and I come in I can confirm now. I've shared many green rooms with Rosie Jones and the word that stands out more than any other inappropriate so many days shy him football law. May I go on each people pay may papal above show and now go full care the old Ev Pai Mei Mei. Hey Bob out would very cold search and all in SA- bake in the know sable pay Paul Knock of women. I'll pay ball and Bacon for me it is I think the I'm all for no ball holiday get says war on Gerwin de they couldn't no. I'm not because their minds lines are less sociopathic. I think that's but you represent association pants and you know that's an underrepresented group in comedy Israeli. No Israeli really no. There's a lot of men that cover to be honest I didn't trust Shaam Tom and shit show. I'm telling you right now. I'm have a poem I I go vote day and I ah come all not I always gets gets a laugh and I say a very all wore okay said to me and I'd bribery probe Matt Matt Damon and why moves snow okay for whom that homer and that all the Pao what I'm yes and in the show you say because you're not a threat we're perceived as not through all aw please welcome to the mic the incredible the one the only the legend John The problem Ono that now I am triple Kurt report. I'm gay and now the baby you may. I Love Bay and I I very coach. No Bod- day I warned Schmidt Tear Babysit in case at your line Latin and a coup you you tape paper gate all till this guy why mums that say you pay hey long term about brains all had all now. Shit Hi oh train and now took com PA fall for the OH so they go logoi movie Bob and does that one so I just wanted to tell you a little bit of history about women women and freedom of speech. I'm going to take you back to ancient. Rome and I'm going to tell you about a time that women use their freedom of speech now in ancient Rome women couldn't speak in the Assembly a democracy but not for women and of course they were enslaved people in Rome as well so there are other intersections of power but no women at all could speak or vote or do any of those kinds of things and so this is my favorite guilty feminists story about the women of Rome. It was around the year two thousand fifteen and it's hard to relate to attempt to sorry to fifty to fifty. I was thinking about a night I had in Rome in two thousand fifteen and that was different got an Airbnb it doesn't it was mostly me just just what she meant to be almost two fifteen to fifteen. AC and it's hard to relate to times back then because they had a bloodthirsty government that brought in some mystere images so nobody had anything it was tough times public services would count. It's difficult to relate to times times back. Then ugliest energy measures were brought in by an unjust war and you think I mean times with so different because they were in Togo's. I believe leave their. I believe I believe the emperor was called. Antony Blair's and this is true. It's true I mean the Anthony Blair is obviously is a lie but everything else it's true that was a wall and there was a steady measures brought in the rule. Sorts of things can't come out to twenty years later. One hundred ninety five and the men had all this stuff off back but the women was still suffering from a ban this is why it's a guilty feminist story of not being allowed to buy luxury auct- Shariq goods or dress up in colors and beautiful jewelry especially the color purple random yes although although women could not speak in a public forum and although they couldn't vote and they didn't have any of those freedoms when they said we take away you'll posh frocks they went enough to fall to fall Roman emperor too far calcium and they came in from all all over room and collected in an incredible women's March now they were of course may allies one of the male allies said would you you and your refusal to revoke this law. Allow the trappings of your own host to be more splendid than address of your wife so I mean his arguments a sound around one to your horse being fancier than you wife see Hashtag no allman nor all horses Cato the elder quite famous back then he was big big deal said we have have not kept our women individually under control and we now dread to them collectively. I feel we should somehow make a t-shirt of that and so they all came in from all over Rome and this is livy recording he's an ancient Roman historian of man because we remember what he said This is his words. The matrons could not be kept at home by advice. Oh modesty or their husbands orders but blocked all the streets and approaches riches to the forum the crowd of women grew larger by the day soon they did even to approach an appeal to the consoles roles the predators and other officials and sisters although it was said by Cato the elder heaven help us we allow them even to interfere in public affairs the Roman women nevertheless persisted and in a spectacular political victory was in our guest. Today is a political comedian and satirist. She's a staple of late night chat in the USA. She has roane show on adult swim called soft-focus. She's here at the fringe doing a show called miscarriage of justice. Please put your hands together and make excited noises for first US time guilty feminist. It's incredible Jenner afraid. I it is so nice to to be here just before I start. It wasn't a necklaces a rusty hanger that I was posing with it. It looks like really sexy necklace a rusty hanger that tells a different story yeah. I have a lot of abortion jokes. Oh Oh yeah we may have overstepped sexiness and I'll pick shining Alad because I had a a short lived stint doing the sex column for a men's magazine and they use that photo and they airbrushed out the hangar yeah and the stint was short lived because like the big guys would always like writing questions like how do I get a girl to notice me and all my answers Roy. Don't rape US donate to planned parenthood. You know I try anyway. It's really nice to be here. I hear you guys are really concerned about brexit. I'm still I'm trying to figure out what Brexit is is. It like fire. Fest for pensioners is Brexit like if your parents won't let you date that cute Greek guy because he has no money so then you're like. I'M GONNA date. They're responsible German guy and then they're like no. You'RE GONNA fuck. Your cousin is is that what Brexit's like when I was in high school a friend of mine and I went to get ice cream. It was a hot summer day I she ordered a vanilla soft serve cone and the girl behind the counter issue is making the Cohn we saw out of the corner of our is the cone drip up and then she actually Licht drip and then she handed the ice cream cone back to my friend with the visible tongue mark in Annette and my friend asked her. Did you lick this and the girl said no and then my friend just like took it and uh paid for it and ate it anyway. Is that what Brexit's like. I'm just picturing. Deborah's woke guy friend. Listening and being like women are just like us only slower four. It's really bad in America right now politically. I don't know if you guys overheard word but this past year for the first time in my life. I was like maybe Sarah Palin should be president and what made me think that was reading about trump's administration drugging undocumented children in detention centers at the border because he didn't want to take care of them and says it's heartbreaking and my first thought was like Sarah Palin would never do I bet she would never drug undocumented kids and the only reason I know that she would never drug undocumented kids because she couldn't even Bristol Birth Control. The Republicans in our country are pretty bad but they're not awful lake. They support women in some ways. They always pay for sex. They never get it for free and they're like not against abortion. They'll even pay for years. If it's there's the best way to get the government to pay for your abortion in America is by sleeping with a married Republican Republican. You might not even want an abortion but if you fuck one of those married ones you're GonNa get it. Watch your drink mixture because he's GonNa give it to you. at the Republicans aren't like Nazis. The Nazis were way more organized and Donald Trump is not like Hitler. Hitler served in the military. If anything trump is kinda like bin Laden just in the sense that they both use their daddy's addy's money to fuck up New York's skyline. Thank you guys. I'm Jennifer Friedman. John Afraid Eight brought ray-ban Taika seats so great to have you on the show wanted to have you on the show for ages so nice to be here. You guys are so funny. I'm like well whatever you know. How are you finding Edinburgh. It's cool. It's Nice it's damp and that we can offer. We can't offer yeah yeah I would say no. I mean the problem with rising. She turns me into Mary. Whitehouse Mary. The White House is a British woman who tried to censor everything in the one thousand nine hundred eighty S. She was sort of like this. Stop Ban this filth. That's how I become when I said extra. I suddenly Komo Self Morphing White House so tell us about your show because your show is in palm. It's about freedom of speech. Yes our country is slipping into fascism. Tom You know and I'm just trying to exercise my free speech while I have it because it's going away joke. Can you feel it. Can you feel feel the effects in America at the moment where the places where you feel that happening the your own freedom of speech is slipping away. I don't know if I'm being a little like a little hyperbolic pollick but I do think this is just Kinda the nature of things I think we're not really a precarious moment with our democracy as you guys are a little bit and I think that a white nationalist nationalists being our president. He's it's really dangerous. You know he's every time he has a rallies hate. Crimes Increase in that county like two hundred and twenty six percent. This was in the Washington Post and you know he's attacking. The press is attacking people of Color. He's attacking undocumented people. I know this comedy. No no we we get. We shut if gears here at the time. Don't we yeah we these conversations. Nobody's going Whistler Punch. Let him getting nervous. It's absolutely fun. What might might concern is like how do we deal with the fact that freedom of speech is misused by dominant power so yeah there he goes and does a rally that is also it's aid speech and I think the really naive as a country because we don't understand the effects of hate speech and there's this thing where it's like it's free speech until it incites violence silence and like if your speech is inhibiting someone's ability to be safe than that is not free speech and I think that we kinda see things as black and white but we you know in Germany. They are doing something right. In terms of like you know how you're not allowed to brandish classic is like they have I think as a country we haven't really had things in our recent past that have set the tone for our understanding of free speech so I think it's the dominant culture has been because African Americans have and I mean look we have skeletons in our closet and talk about that in the show that we don't even acknowledge but I think there's a naievety and partly because we don't acknowledge it where we just like underestimate somme what free speech is. It's the same thing with like our gun rights. It's like you know. The founders didn't put like semiautomatic weapons in the constitution so it's like if you look at things in like a with no nuance you can make justifications for like yeah we have gun rights and we need free speech but it's just not binary yeah the gun lobby that is absolutely astounding to me because you'll right to bear arms as absurd as not easy to one thousand nine hundred eighteen that anyone needs to bear arms that was from a very different time in a very the political landscape cannot cannot nobody needs an automatic weapon or semiautomatic weapon. Nobody would need that under any justification Jason Yeah but like what's Hang. Can you have your own. The right to bear arms. I can have a nuclear weapon of people with money are able able to pay to influence other people's opinions and that's kind of what we're seeing across the board with free speech and with all this kind of stuff money is influencing people's ability to Kinda China Sea things independently to you feel rosie that because I feel like even within feminism disabled women are so unrepresented and not heard owed from. We just don't hear those voices. How can we be better about platforming speech for disabled people and in terms of Feminism Disabled Women Cape AAC alternate may show long take in a a calm day very coach. I never saw Bella Tayo in Tapie. We are all bones days. Relate told me let we know I need a friend. That is how all. I'm David when now was opened the Papal Typo woman Dan Gay people will look cut may let Kandara ah I can say what so how a now the start of trying I should've really get and versus the holy says our in plies showed than that I can say and go I mean appreciate you influenced by Francesca Montanez having a profile in terms of trump's America and this kind of put i. I feel like we're at this point in history where it's almost like a stall was movie where there's been this uprising. We had Obama which was an and the Obamas in the White House were an incredible piece of representation and they're obviously issues there with foreign policy not saying a rock climbers perfect by any means in in terms of representation. There was a shift and I feel like it's like the Patriarchy strikes back so as women rise I feel like Donald Donald. Trump is the manifestation of everything that feminism stands against. I feel like now we've got this many me and Boris Johnson whose rising coming up here and he is a mate of bans. I know he does that goofy or I'm coming out to give everybody a full of Reagan but but also he's best mates with Bannon and he's in a little triumphant with garage and they have plans and when I was on tour with the guilty live show there were times when I would look around the dressing room and I would just feel really like sort of frightened and saddened science because I would think fascism rises or whatever the next version of fascism as a means I would be the only person on the bill because everyone else in the dressing room was a person of color or both or disabled and I thought Oh my my friends would be taken away and I just had this like deep fear. I mean because I'm an agitated but not from identity. Yeah I mean I think Nazism Benefits sorry sorry. I think that we are in a moment where what's happening with white. Nationalism globally is like a reaction to the the fact that we're not going back. You can't put globalization back into the bottle. You can't put liberation of women and people of Color and disabled people back into the bottle. It's like the future. Future actually is female. It's not just a t shirt. The futures female robot like female for like maybe ten years and it'll be robot and so there's hope when we're all kind of subjugated by the robots but I do think right now everything going on is like just a reaction to people losing feeling like they lose power when other people achieve equality for the people in power it hurts more and so you know for thousands of years white supremacy. MRI has reigned in the quote unquote Western world and now it's like you know the Democratic Party when it became a party of social justice that's when the the Democrat and the Republican parties in our country really really split apart because prior to that prior to the sixty seventies it was like all white men even if if somewhere like pro union in somewhere you know pro-privatization but then when the Democratic Party became the Party of social justice and civil rights the southern Democrats shifted to the Republicans and so that's really what it's about in our country. It's like this next election. Are we going to move forward. Are we going to move backwards and you're right about trump and TESCO trump they are they are the most primitive depraved human instincts. You know there are fear centers and it's like. Are we go back to that time or are we. GonNa move forward and I think there's a lot riding on the next couple of years. Ask I agree and I feel like we have to push. We have to galvanize them. We have have to come together because there are some countries now in Europe where it is illegal and punishable by prison sentences to save a refugee from the ocean that is true and people are up who have gone out in boats as humanitarian and picked a human life out of a sinking boat who are now opt to go to jail. Now is right back to one thousand nine hundred billion so we have to stand up but we have to galvanize other people who may be political we have to the world is going to slip away from us but we didn't have before we do have now is the the Internet we have ways to organize. We have ways to engage inspire find each other and they can't really take that way yeah deal but other the Internet is interesting because it is like so feminist like the metoo movement happened because of the Internet and its ability like aggregate people's stories but then at the same time right now facebook and twitter are really hurting democracy and the people who run them are like allowing fake news to radicalize people so we really do have to be careful about what we consume and in who we talked to and if you see someone who's kind of slipping talk to them and try to bring them back into the fold because it is social media is also equally dangerous as much as it is liberating yeah and we're really going to need Scotland because it is the most extraordinary incredible left-wing socialized place but in a joyful collective connected way Scotland please. I want soup up. If you do leave I will not blame you but I'm Mike Mike. Come on live here you go and see Janice. Show go and see Rosie Jones show you will not regret that Rene Paul Comedians. Can I have a big round of applause. It's a huge thank you for Rosie. jarreds incredible chant Friedman Sing ourselves and close this show with an incredible style away owner she can't she supported us on our life told she absolutely smashed every single night. Please welcome to the stage the incredible just robots. Hey thank you so I do comedy and impressions Russians and Music and stuff and I thought to close today's show I would give you my girl power mega mix hope the people sing along and all the right places it starts with one of my favorite songs from Mary. poppins hit. Kensington to Edinburgh One Hayes the restless cry from every corner of the land to cool quantity cool rights with men take. Mrs Pankhurst has been no more subservient where fighting for our rights they were. Theo has killer. He'll stick because bombs other women wait. If you're with me. Women let me hear you say they together. 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32. Jena Friedman

Inside Conan: An Important Hollywood Podcast

58:23 min | 1 year ago

32. Jena Friedman

"And now it's time for inside Conan and important Hollywood Hollywood cast you. I Mike Sweeney. Jesse Gasco were riders on the CONAN show. We also host this podcast called inside Conan. We really try to keep things concentric and our lives which I haven't Conan Duvet cover. Wow I did not go so we are here with you this week. It's it's on the eve of the team Cocoa House right who are which is a a big city wide comedy festival. Basically I think it's ten cities and team COCO is I will say lazily taking over the club. Yeah there's slapping their name on it. some stickers handing out stickers possibly pins if if they're really splurging on the High Ryan and they've booked all these really great comics and they're all people in the Conan family right performed on the show Joe or maybe right for the show in some cases right right or a length CONAN money you the old. There's all different avenues to cocoa house us. Yes that's coming up this weekend and to help celebrate that yes and get the word out although. I think it's it's already sold out but maybe you could will to get the word ticket the next one. We have a very special guest. Today we do She's a comic who's performing in. La at the Hollywood Improv Jena Friedman Hodge A hi. Thanks for having me thank you sir. You're welcome to inside Coenen. Have you ever wanted to go inside. CONAN metaphorical level shirt any level full that on a metaphorical I mean Conan the legend a living legend. We're diligent alleged covers. This isn't going to get back to him by the way he doesn't listen to this. I don't say anything you want road. I mean to say okay good. Good good good and welcome to Los Angeles Yeah. You're a New Yorker thank you. I do identifies a New Yorker wearing all blacks. This is like blackish grey. This is kind of like on a day yeah and we're wearing red headsets and you're like no. I brought my own black heads which I I got doing a podcast ones. That probably could happen. I probably could will so you did you now now. I made it up. I mean I got that but it also is something I could see people starting to carry around their own headphones because there's so many pod form right and so many people that something's going to catch some of it's some of the podcast just riffraff coming in off the street so yeah. You don't know you're going to get soon people. You'll probably get your own headsets like for your birthday and yes be expected to start podcasting casting second-grade. Little Mike podcast starter kit for kids like an easy bake oven instead of Karaoke they can talk to an old Marc Maron podcast. I don't own PODCASTS E. Oh that's cute yes and marketable. Oh aw copyright it right here on the cover. Kevin's doing it right now whoops too late so Jenna you who had an incredible set on Conan a few weeks ago Cole I'm glad you have you gotten good feedback. I have gotten good feedback. I mean I read all the comments people wonder. Why do I read all of that. Oh No are you do I do. I have like a hypercritical Jewish mother so it just feels like a hug comment. She's like an insight. She writes for sells her hobby. That's how she makes money so she set you up to be open to criticism completely. Wow that's a good skill think so and your audience ultimately earliest critic you know and I love that set and I knew that it was going to be a little too dark for the room but then it did have like a second life online which I appreciate it and I think yeah it really. He was kind of directed. I'm glad it felt a little more universal but it really was speaking to like a specific audience of like you know women yeah and so you know I also think it's interesting when people expect that comedy has to be certain people not to name names but just exp- a certain demographic just expects it like comedy just has to be for them and I think that's with all the platforms now like you're getting to see so much comedy and some on things are for you. Some things are for someone else. Yeah I think that's great and you know a Lotta Comex. Don't even like our judgmental about comics who do stuff different from them. It's like Oh. That's you know what they're doing some cool. It's ridiculous. What they're doing is the only way right and should I like that. There's all obviously all a great great variety of types of comedy but I think the point you're making his great. I remember reading in and Tina Phase autobiography that there were sketches they'd pitch for us and elwyn Myers was the head writer and and like the men in the room would just not get it and that was why they didn't laugh. It wasn't because it wasn't funny. They didn't understand the premise of it so it was like that really really opened up for me. Oh sometimes people aren't laughing not because they hate this material but just because it doesn't they don't really understand it. Yeah we have this idea. That comedy is universal but it's a lot more like it's not like what's funny. It's like what's funny. You like. It's a little bit more my favorite comedy at least I think like like slapstick and broad comedy is more universal yeah but I like kind of specific comedy. Even if it's not specifically for me I kinda like seeing something. That's a little bit more specific but it also is. I mean you know true. You're set was about true crime and the like the dearth of or not dearth the wealth of podcasts and to cut that part short. I had like twenty others that I was. GonNa those are real. They're all real. Oh really no. The only one I made up was the this American death because that was the joke was. It's going to be my podcast. Yeah so the down South One Israel what was then fried true crime God. That's a real one white wine and crime was out one wine and crime white wine raise. He's do you listen to a lot of I mean I went. I went on a road trip couple months ago and my boyfriend in and I listened to a bunch of them because it was just like such you know you're in a car for thirty hours and so we listen to dirty John and Dr Dan and Oh man in the window is so scary. I had to stop listening because it was just it's like about the golden state killer and it's just too scary okay I didn't. I haven't heard that one. That's what it's about that yeah I listen to. I think a different golden state killer cast this'll scary and then it's like they're all these economies and there's there's like a comic con for Comecon but like a murder Kahn or whatever there's all going into it and it's it makes me wonder like take it. How ethical is it you know and in some like it's easy to just kind of criticized it which I think I do but I also it. Does I read one article article. I think it was in the Washington Post about how it does like. Give you know the family of victims kind of sense of hope and keeping being their stories alive and when they can actually track down killers. It's like an immense sense of justice but then you also kind of wonder like as we fetish is it and housing market it is it like conspiring copycats just like our national obsession with like dead white women like how is that it's a longer conversation but I have this hour our show called miscarriage of justice and I kind of try to think about like how you know. Does it make it harder for us to see like a woman in the White House 'cause like every woman on TV. He is dead and in like soft focus and you know with. There's always those slow push photos where you're like. Oh No I know she's GonNa die by the is that a live show miscarriage of justice yeah I did it. I just did it in the Edinburgh. Fringe the crime segment actually was part part is part of that show. Oh cool yeah so. It's like this our show that I developed in August at the Edinburgh fringe and about all this kind of stuff. Do you perform in in Europe. just that like you've been at Edinburgh before. Is that your times in Europe or have you performed like in London Yeah. I've done a bunch of stuff in London. I was in Dublin and Kilkenny Ireland this past summer and then Edinburgh as Steph and like Paris and Berlin. I like I mean when it's in those countries like you're performing for like an ex pat audience a lot of times people speak English was wondering how because you do a lot of political comedy and does that translate translates more in the UK. Let's we thought you might have had it in Europe yeah but not as much like in you know Um and Europe in Germany. I remember doing a show in Berlin and it was like the English speaking night at a Kookaburra comedy club and the German audiences would just like laugh because they wanted everyone at their table to think they spoke English speaker just pause and they would like laugh when you paused. I would take it after Li- Germans aren't known for being good lesson. Ah Imagining Cabaret right like you're in that room while we're there. You don't have to imagine what a Washington. DC right now so in New York where where do you what kind of venues to performance anywhere that will have me. I love the comedy store or sorry the Comedy Cellar ooh sorry S. Comedy Cellar in New York but also there's like such a very healthy alt- seen in their tons of rooms. That's all the time and you know Brooklyn and the city and Queens. Have you been performed Stanton island yeah but there's so many faces Chris I know so just wherever but the one of the best clubs in the world I would say is the comedy Cellar Yeah Sellers Yeah Great and it I used to. I don't know if it's so does it get people from all a lot of people from Europe and all over the world well. It's that combination of like. It gets tourists but they're hip. It's like so a lot of other clubs sometimes times. You'll end up getting like a tourist audience. You don't know how if they even really speak English along with. They've seen comedy before but the seller still manages to be a club job and have an audience that is like primed for comedy and you can. I mean they don't like it's not like it's not as cool as performing in you know. Mike a Random little show in Brooklyn where you can take risks and stuff. They kind of want you to do your best material. Nadia is still pretty hip. Surprisingly I certainly that's good yeah yeah. I guess you don't do a lot of Jersey bar gigs. I'm guessing I mean I started. I used I start in Chicago and I ah clubs. I did start like doing a lot of clubs. Drink minimum close yeah and I think that I don't know I. It was never like ah something I really enjoyed because you know like if you're like twenty something Kim you're performing to like fifty married couples and L. Jen nothing thing against Elgin Illinois or whatever but it just like and you know what makes them laugh and it's not necessarily like overlapping with what you find funny and so I would like do shows I'd like feature or host and then I kinda get sat after because it wasn't like I was getting to do the stuff. I found funny a lot of Dick Jokes. They would really like but I also think now because because of like the quote unquote comedy boom in the fact that there's so much comedy I think people who are just more literate in comedy now beginning interesting to see so much so I think a lot of people coming to the clubs are comedy. Were comedy which are much more fun to perform for G. Do raise a really good point. I I mean I'm really interested in how you how do you keep a good sense of like of your own voice and what you think is funny. When you're I mean maybe just when you're starting being out. How did you find the confidence to say no. I know that this material's funny even if it's not getting laps from this particular audience I mean it probably holy wasn't funny. Just kind of like learn as you go and you keep doing it. There's a little bit of a level of Masochism of just like you keep going and you go and you go oh and then like if one thing isn't working you kind of I was making short films and stuff. I had a one of my first kind of things that some people saw was a web series. I did that was making fun of the New York time times wedding videos about a woman with a serial killer made the whole web series and then we were trying to sell it as a film and that kind of you could sell it as a true crime show now right well. He's not it's not about him. It's really about her her and a metaphor for like love and relationships and like what you're willing to put up with when you meet somebody at least in the film version but that was like a thing where it's like even I feel like even if the the standup I was doing at that time wasn't exactly what I wanted to be doing. I was able to kind of find other ways to put stuff out there that I found funny so that would be like the videos during your show no no it just it was just something I made. I'M GONNA get back kind of stuff was was like Oh. Maybe I should keep doing this. You know yes so again like you said the Internet kind of gave you the the audience found you online. I I think so yeah and I definitely helped me get my first couple of jobs like two thousand five. No what was it two thousand seven eight is when I started making videos online nine and then I got just pretty early for the yeah yeah but that definitely kind of. I think you know before now where we're worried about. Social Sean Media Destroying Democracy which it is there was a time where the Internet felt very democratizing yes and that kind of voices who would have a harder time getting in were able to get in because of the Internet that's that's a great way to kind of reverse engineer finding audience you know and then when you start doing comedy. I think although Y Y you're way to connect the people you are attracting with the videos goes to then when you were doing standup like yeah. Did people start coming to your show specifically because they'd seen the videos I mean kind of my fans are like there. It's funny 'cause they're not like rabid. They're like people and now they're like. Our Age was kind of like I mean yeah I don't i. My fans are very low. Key who wants rabid fan is like I. I really think thank you yeah people who are going to leave you alone in public but then the problem is those people aren't going to go like they're not gonNa make an account. Don't go comment on somewhere but the people who do comment are are going to be trolls. Your mother or your mom is your mom does she. The F. Fan of your stand up and she has criticisms within your standup act or does she give you a hard time about the whole I think she's funny and she doesn't. I think I feel bad because I feel bad about her because she'll definitely listen to this. I know MOMS have Google alerts that with very funny funny she could have been a comedian. You know in your own time a Mrs Mazel. She's not that old but she yeah she's funny. I think she like all this so far so good. He always thinks I should be like an agent and like you. Don't understand like nothing against agents but like you know. I've been doing comedy for thirteen years and successfully so it's not like yeah I I mean that's what it always is. I don't fall comedian if it weren't for her. I mean that's nice. You need that person and not believe in you. Keep going back for total love their empty. Wella validation that always needs filling yeah. ooh. Give it up for you like when you were a kid and you're being funny never did comedy no. I was always a awkward when my sister was funny and she's a banker. Now it was just kind of yeah yeah and I was just Kinda dark and weird and my dad really was cool. He would really feed into that and like by me. I remember we're like he bought me. This comic book called the Big Book of death and every chapter. It was like a different way to die seven or eight yeah yeah. Is that books I wanted. I know I remember typhoid. Mary had are there was like a disease is chapter and I was like obsessed typhoid. Mary no infectious Halloween custer collar. Oh yeah now I don't know. I don't know if I'd recognize her. Houston Stage three of the whole thing was that she was like a carrier so she never oh zero and that yeah that's how she was able to lie. She would work as a cook or whatever and she'd get everybody sick and then they kept like finding her and making her leave those jobs and then. I think they tried to just like I can play. Mary just like didn't know when to quit. It was like you gotta get away and then she was like well. What if I just serve food to as many kids as poss- on this time you think the nickname would've took yeah windy. So when did you start thinking that you could do comedy professionally because that's kind of a big leap to take. I mean even now like the majority of the like. My income is more from writing and producing comedy than actually like stand up like I. I've been doing Santa Forever. The first time I did my own our show was a show called American can't say can't you just do. I just that's how I sneak it. In that was like a political hour of comedy that we made see so produced it Merson peace and this is the first time we someone said count on the show. I think that's a nice little we should have a little sound effect something to celebrate yeah or maybe description a lovely word. It's a term of endearment in the UK. That's true it's much more forgiving in the UK. No it's so much less and I talked about this in the show but I remember it was like right when Hillary was running and like Clinton was such a more offensive seaward to most Americans Lincoln to Mike Crazies and other word that so much more insidious in kind and we always think conscious the worst word but it's not only how it's you. I mean you know all about context. It is yeah crazy gets yes. Crazy is is kind of a short term only because like if if I exactly and if you call someone the content it reflects on you the person who says it right but then if you call someone crazy that word like sticks with them and like it's crazy can just mean like I don't know or don't hire her. Yeah right so crazy. Contests cancels out yeah crazy. ECON would just be like Oh your problem I yeah. That's like an over stepping oversteps. Yeah I feel bad. I said no right contact actually call anyway. Thank you very much. Thank you for the footnote yeah but yeah so I did that and that was like my first our show and then this one hopefully will be my second and then having miscarriage of justice yeah and then you know oh Jay Conan just putting myself on TV. That's the only time I've ever had my standup on late night. That's yeah you had so many great jokes on the you said your comment about the girlfriend of Ted Bundy and go so she's crazy. She's crazy and you're like well. She's a woman in her thirties switch. I mean that was a great set. You did great set. You're talking about doing better on line but you did really well. Oh the only I felt like the audience didn't didn't get your Z's impression. I know too well and I just didn't want US yeah. No that totally one over everyone's head but some jokes are just for Comedians yeah and that was definitely one of them did you. Has Anyone said anything about that. I mean oh no it. No Yeah 'cause it's right on the line. It and I didn't say the tag in the joke which I I wasn't used to doing the job without that tag of like that's it's my impression of Z's but you know it's fine. If you get if you don't you don't you don't now. What did you not do that because like to go to. It's stuff that you just kind of I yeah he said. Oh Yeah No. I just didn't want to stir the pot too much right right so nice to me and they let me do enough salsa kind of fun to have lines out there where you just kind of let it hang but especially now on the the yeah and like the fact that they let the Epstein stuff stay in that was really fun. I enjoy that was going to happen. I wrote that now so he can't you know I wrote the One that Angle Cook. Yeah yeah go ahead. Sorry no no. It's well the thing about it's not like he killed himself. I was like I just said that. JP like a couple of minutes before I went onstage because I knew that they they were. GonNa grown at that. What's that next line inside. Never Workshop Bat one so it came out. I think a little harsh to do you think that's going to be a permanent part of that set now. Oh Yeah now say if I make you guys feel better. He didn't kill himself okay. That's absolutely yeah. No I love. I love hearing how something gets workshop domain late night. Sets are so just down to the word ends up pause and it's so you're operating within a five minute within a five minute timeframe and also. I had done the set in the UK so much but I had only only done it a couple times in America when I got when I found that I was doing it and so the timing I just kept finding new things and liked the last set that I did. I had the timing so down but the the different crowds timing would change set is so specific sofa crowd doesn't really really it was an interesting set and I was really excited that they let me do it that is interesting so you would just been back in the US a couple of weeks. I guess so a Wow da yeah and we're the audiences that dramatically different and I think the when I was doing the true crime stuff and I started to do it in the UK. Okay it was interesting because I've always found that audiences British audiences in particular darker than we are in America just more morbid but then that true crime stuff was hitting harder in America because it's so much and in the past couple years we've almost we've had such a weird traumatic thing happened with our country that I think we've we've almost like outpaced them and how kind of sad and dark we've gotten so it was so I had to like kind of be a little bit more physical with the material when I was doing the UK to to sell it if that yeah yeah you had more slipping falls like at one point when I was doing the impression of like a live woman breathing. It was like really all over the world how my every home has its reliable cleaner. Yes doing the hard work to make the host look good and being treated like crowd yeah being kept under the sink. God Damn it. The alarm is the under the kitchen sink classic cleaner. 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Oh gender-neutral now needs to be your mother. It was the shame parents. Trust your clean lean-to. CSLR and your ad copy that's right and both grandparents the both be men. That's you said that you read the comments online. do you find. I mean I read the answer this question but doing feminist comedy. Do you find that there are that will maybe there'll be a trolls nest or something that will find you and then. I mean they really do do i. It's a lot of like outright until he types but they never make fun of my looks which I'm like that well. You're a very attractive eh yeah. I don't know if that's just don't comment on them. Which is Nice Yeah. It's like an it's. Maybe it's like a privilege of having having kind of like a neutral by you know but yeah Yeah No. They're all fine. It's all it. It doesn't really doesn't affect you yeah. That's I mean that's amazing how I mean. How did you get to that. You just I'm telling you you're I also played played. I was an athlete growing up. I played tennis singles and it was really cutthroat and you're just kind of out there on the court yourself and yeah with comedy. It's like you know you. The critic is the audience. It's very democratizing. You know what people think when you do and when you've done a show enough just kind of know what works and also in this moment there's there's just so much noise and a lot of people talking and I don't know if you guys have heard about the alleged civil war in comedy. Philly Phillips took aside today. It was just like I said He. He said I stopped doing. I'm wondering why am I doing impression. WHO's doing. He said he stopped doing comedy. Because of the WO- culture some yeah he said woke culture killed comedy and so he had to go into drama comedy comedy evolves everything evolves you know it's it's definitely harder to get it right now because there are so many voices and so much cool things happening being in terms of progress so there's a more level playing field yeah and that's upsetting to some people yeah you perfectly yeah. I mean that's just always always been the case that you know if entertainers have to think about the changing market and cater to that sometimes and that's it's always happened. It's just now. Maybe it's adversely affecting straight white men more than other people and they're oh getting paid. They'll make movie. He's still making the best movie like he's still going to make like. DC comic right yeah. No I mean it used to be there. Literally were just old school. Comedy clubs CBS like the old seem to even start till the early ninety s and before that but like Lenny Bruce would be like an comet right right. That's true that's true. It's but I mean like in New York City. There are just very kind of monolithic common and the same and you probably had booker's who you had to pass with to get time and then now there's so many places you can get up right and I think wants those other clubs start opening down on the lower east side and then popping up all over town a just a whole new is attracted a whole different audience much which I think sharper audience and the college educated and then you had sharper comedians a kind of a symbiotic thing but it definitely you created this whole new line of comedy but there's also this thing we still don't really talk about too much. It's just all economics of it like I. I mean I mean I've been doing stand up longer than almost anything. I've been doing comedic. Lee But I like I've made money writing for people and for other people like I. I think if you are going to do the type of stand up that I'm at least trying to do like it's not it's not like the most marketable type of standup. We'll even I mean for most I I think probably it's such a small percentage of stamps that actually make their living that way anyway I mean that's like you have to be in the point a one percent of during comics and you have to like that lifestyle but I I would think having more unique voice obviously in the long run seems like the the great way. I think most comics be very envious of of just having a unique for waste that you can go. There's not a lot of other people like you obviously is preferable. MONEY'S GONNA come billionaire. I I mean the goal is to just be able to kind of keep making things that say things and like saying things and funny way that appreciate that that is what makes me happy for sure. Even I sound it was so satisfying like the fact that Conan and J P. Let me do that that set it was so I was so excited because I it's something I've been thinking about so much yeah and same with the other said after Charlottesville I was like so oh distraught to be able to channel it into comedy and then do it on Conan. It was felt like very special. Okay that's great and they were both well. The CHARLOTTESVILLE was especially timely well but they're also so funny I mean I think you have a really rare gift of being able to do stuff that is both good social commentary but also it just stands on its own comedic merit which I think some people have a hard time with that balance like there's a lot of people people who do or maybe it's just on twitter that I tweet of comedy is mostly stuff that you agree with that. You're going to clap for because you're like. That's a good point. Tell that to Maga- forty one but how do you do you feel. I mean I don't know. Do you have advice or like. How do you kind kind of find a mix of okay being funny without sacrificing the you're sort of point of view or like how how do those things get shaped. I guess I think just from years and years of doing it and watching it. You know like I when I was making my first special I just kind of like binged on Bill Hicks in Carlin and Lenny Bruce and a bunch of other comedians who I mean even even Sarah. Silverman is one of my favorite comics ever and I think she does it so well. degree just kind of watching comedians that you admire are and see how they do what they do and then you know you just kind of also not being afraid to not to not get the things your peers are are getting into. Just keep doing what you're doing and if you don't I remember a friend of mine who passed away a little while ago one of the funniest Comedians I've ever met he was like don't be in a hurry to get your comedy on late night because when you get it on late night like the later you get it the better it'll be and he talked about how like Lisa Lamp Anneli didn't kind of break until later and then when she did she you could just see this like fully formed powerhouse yeah and so I always kind of held onto that I and my I sat on late night was Conan in twenty eighteen. I been doing comedy for like twelve years by then and so hello yeah I think it's just kind of sticking to what you find funny and not worrying about other people and it's so hard because my first six years if if you were to give it another six years and then you'll get on late night talk that is really good advice. It's hard to know that Oh yes. You're doing it. You're you're going to get better and better but it's so incremental it so incremental and it's also not just stand up like I think now writings writings really important producing directing your own stuff like that web series I directed and I wrote it and I produced it on my own and it was like a good like proof of concept for other things things and the daily show job I got because I had videos that I made on my own online and so that is another piece of you're right on the daily show a field producers but but I was basically we were writing directing her own segments. We were like did like the segments where the chorus field xactly yeah and I actually had one piece of Monty was in that was cited in a court case to overturn racist voter. Id Laws and it was a long time exactly what your goal was totally. The most exciting leading job that like that job was so cool yeah that sounds I mean especially satisfying if you're able to be kind of I don't know helping yeah it was it feels like a bigger bigger than really did it really did and that was. I mean I have my own little project on adult swim win but so much of what I learned at the daily show Kinda helped me. Do these pieces did they wrote in the pool on the daily. Show yeah wow yeah I mean we did a month trial will because it's such a hard job because again you are writing and the tone of the show but you're also directing and producing and I remember specifically early on I did one segment about like the sequester Sir cuts and it was about how like all of this money going towards like food. I'm poverty in would get cut and so we had to go to like a soup kitchen and I remember number like a guy was eating and I I had to get him out of the shot but I couldn't. I didn't know how to tell him to come together shot. I just felt like bad and so that job kind of helped Belykh not ruthless but just really learn how to like get out you want quietly assertive assertive and like in the peace switch the guy with the voter. Id thing this guy actually got fired from working. He was working on a voting precinct in Asheville North Carolina and he said some crazy stuff offender segment and actually got fired we showed up and he didn't want to be in the segment when I showed up and I had to like charm him into being part of the segment and then how do you is it like your reassuring them that they're gonNA I hate. I never lied if he will try not to. I try right not to lie. It's going to me it depends if people you know there's a project it depends so I try to be as honest as I can and not to take people out of context definitely when they're on camera and you know that guy didn't regret anything that he said in the piece and so that's cool yeah. I give them enough rope to hang themselves with kind of you know I mean the stuff we got. They're coming on the daily show. They knew what they were getting yeah. Everyone who has been saw focus so far it seems we have to talk about that in your adult swim show Chen to special doing great. I don't think it's been announced that we're doing but the guests you have unbelievable. I don't like how how did you book John McAfee Cathy. I can't talk about how the sausage is okay. I I watched that interview which I loved. I really funny in it but you're also totally unflappable and pretty fearless. He's an insane person. It was a tricky one and the next one. I'm trying to find somebody. WHO's pretty pretty pretty controversial and it's tough because I've been lucky so far but people could get upset about the stuff I put out to like. I'm just Kinda bracing myself for but with McAfee he did have like an allegation of sexual assault so I had to bring that up and he is running for president residents so that's why yeah like he was fair game but it is seems to want to promote himself yeah and I don't make sense. Yes seem to be wallowing yeah. NBC likes having the press even if it's bad but I think you have a great approach where you're pretty very straightforward and you at least in in the final piece seemed very straightforward and very straight up with people and I think it doesn't seem like you're trying to put one exactly well because even if anyone you won't be getting mad just wait. I think I also think I can't get away with that like I interviewed Ken Crat from making a murderer federer yeah and he's a creepy dude and there were like edits and I edit all my own interviews because it's really the only way that I can I mean I'll work with like an editor editor but I am like I weigh in on every little moment because the comedy is so specific that I really just need to kind kind of be a part of the process there. It's all about even just like the long pauses is be a laugh but with that Ken Kratz interview there are moments where I was like. Oh my God. He looked so much more likable than me and it's like how is that possible size awful but I also think I do think with women like people title we Kinda when people I see us immediately like they're all these cultural stereotypes and things that they have to process before we open our mouths. It's like what we look like. We're never we're never like neutral. Even I made that comment about looking neutral female but there's always like do I like or does she come across like a bid to shoot two well dressed to slam she the issue not sexy. Nah Everything's framed by her real looks relationship up to you and and it's all this stuff that culturally we have to just kind of unpack in our heads before someone opens their mouth and and it's the same thing with on camera like if I'm interviewing. Thank someone I just kind of. I think after doing this for so long I have a sense of like what I can get away with because one little slip and you know your Vegas hate you so it's it's always the older I get the more the better it is because we'll just have more vulnerability but I just you know people. You're not ever really like an underdog or people don't inherently I think in our culture really root for women but that's my own. Maybe maybe even saying that is going to get somebody angry. So I don't know uh-huh yeah. The series is really incredible and that was that the first time that you've kind of taken that role of being the correspondent because you doing that before the daily show I did an interview it's super weird but it was online still with the rent it is too damn high guy and he was so nice presidential candidate yeah and so insane any talk the whole time the only time I could get him to focus was when I like kind of flirted with him which is so bad bad but then he would like lightened up. It was like talking about all these weird thing when I it was the only time I could get him to like not just kind of be crazily ranting counting and I kind of connected with him and then he talked about having a body chart where he likes attract women's moles and it was weird but funny and I yeah but that was like one of the first ones and then Ken Kratz is another one and I talked to this guy who named Dan Marino who is trying to find a girlfriend in New York so he was posting signs all around town and then vice had interviewed him and he was talking about how he didn't want any heavy set women and he didn't want any women over eight and he the standard and I had to talk to him and so that was pretty funny yeah but then that was another one where he was kind of like mentally ill and like I had to edit it to me to make him to not feel sorry. Feel sorry for him. That's a question I had watching your interviews your so common cool with people who may may have mental issues. I'm wondering if you don't have to talk about this but if that's part of your background or your experience Surya I hate to use the word crazy. It's okay in this case. You actually crazy people. I don't want to like explode anybody I I. I also like I remember when I was at the daily show John had this rule of not having any white supremacist on the show and we were in a time where that was the right call hall because they were on the fringe and if you put these people on camera and you make them look sympathetic or even if you don't make them look sympathetic but you to air their views it can be a recruiting tool for other people yeah so that's part. It's like you know who is the right target right now and I try to be really thoughtful about who to who to have on you know I think I try not to pick low hanging fruit anymore at least and and if someone's in a position of power they're fair game even if they're not like if they're if they're somebody who did something wrong wrong but isn't in jail their game. I try not to pay people. I know other people who do this kind of stuff so harvey. Weinstein is going to be the next. We'll pay people. I have not no. He's not at at the moment I actually thought about that but I don't know how are there. It would be but it's all you're on the you're on the right track those type of people. I'm kind of interested targeting yeah interested in people who like Y. Campbell cop appeal to me because he is dating again. Oh Wow oh and at the time he was dating again and I thought that'd be really cop was New York. This is one specific. It was a real. Oh Guy he's still alive. He follows me on twitter. He comedy horror writer writer. No He's yeah yeah but it's a good outlet for him. You know let's hope so yeah but I think that just because when i read that he was dating again and I'd followed his case is being in New York. He's a police officer who was busted by his wife for plotting to eat her and her friends online fine the case became about thought crimes and can you prosecute a thought crime but the reality is he used NYPD software to stock some women and he did a little a bit more than a thought crime but it was a really interesting case and so when I found out he was dating again and out of jail it was like the perfect type of person to talk op too because it wasn't it was it was a pretty easy person to tattoo do like a shocking interview yeah and most shocking thing that I could have done was to normalize lies him and that's. I don't know if you saw that segment. I saw I mean that was coming. No He didn't notice the concert do a dating in game three Bachelorettes Wall so he had no idea none of it. Wow it was so perfect how that played out because at the last summit maybe we should get somebody who actually would date him and so. I had the producers gone some fetish websites and Louver a woman interested in like blood player whatever and and then down to three well yeah we had one two women who were normal and then one who is like just kind of a little fetish sheet regarding it like worked worked perfectly like we didn't script any of that. It was magic how that played out. I know I looked for an I'm like I looked for netted. When I watched like way they really just panning over and lighting up these three bachelorettes. That's really happening. Well what happened was. I think I asked him. What do you look for and he a sense of humor and I didn't know how it was going to go and I've done other stuff. That has an air that we will do something like that and I did something thing about a guy who was like a transphobic politician and we it's a segment that hasn't aired yet because I don't. I'm a little it's a little touchy she but we didn't think he would be as crazy as he was and he was so crazy. He actually made the peace unfunny because we got and my friend. WHO's a hilarious comedian Pattie Harrison helped helped write patty yeah and we plotted voted it out to a level and the guy just kept going and so we actually didn't anticipate he would be that far along too and then it just became unfunny so with Cannibal Google Capos like he might not get to the dating game he might walk out like you plan all these things and then it that one just worked perfectly with cannibals predictable predictable member like nothing we would do to him would be more embarrassing than what he's been through so adding comedy to it was such a relief. I imagine for him. I think she's probably grateful. That's probably why took up reading. Har- Is there anything that you can remember that you had planned doubt for somebody. That didn't end up. You weren't able to use because it the interview just didn't go in that direction or this scary thing is. I'm really good good at that job. I am I getting it to that point. I'm like a good field producer. You know because I think I think a lot of women are actually sleep because you can really talk to people and like again. I don't take people out of context. I try to be as as ethical as I can. When I'm doing this but I do remember situations nations the daily show I was the only female field producer at the time and the guys were like you're never going to get that person to do that. You're never GONNA get that. I was like just wait and we got I like maybe there was an instance where we thought we were going to get someone in that person like backed out of of like being interviewed but for the most part when somebody agrees to sit down with me. I pretty much capture I mean there is one segment that we did with a state senator. A woman in West Virginia I forget where in West Virginia but there's a chemical spill and I had pitched a segment about how the chemicals in the water were turning Republicans and two Democrats Democrats and I asked him is a mice associate producer. If you can find any anyone who is now who has a track record of being really lax on regulations for chemical companies but who is now trying to craft regulations water than we have a piece and we found the nicest woman but you know her politics were bonkers and we wanted to do. I got her to like we were in. It was actually I had like stomach pains. The next day air like my stomach comical sore from laughing so hard we got this poor woman to like act out her own contamination and we got an elected official we got her to spit takes aches and like there's a whole segments called. I think fenby fuck it's in my own backyard but I I did want her to like morph into the toxic avenger and she was like I'm not GonNa do that and so I just she was in a black suit and we just went to the macy's and I bought a black suit and I put the toxic. Avenger Mascot and I was her body double. I just did the stuff yeah. I couldn't get her to do yeah so where there's a will there's a way so owed. It sounds like you're editing while you're in your while you're interviewing and you know that there needs to be an end a beginning yeah. I I mean it's the hardest type of stuff in comedy also my favorite but it is in insanely difficult. That's why you don't see enough of it. Like you know Nathan Fielder Nasha right yeah. They do it so well and I think you're up there trying to new movie coming out. That's all pranks Eric Andre Andre I I so. I haven't heard a lot about this movie but it's it's. I think it's coming out soon for Christmas Day. It's going to be with the Oscar wants. Everyone forgets about the joker joker together we are. We're going right after this but it's not to laugh bulletproof vests. I know isn't there actually are the FBI as warnings and I just I I'm. I'm I'm comic book moved out. Yes I think it started in eighty eight and I just I'm stunned. They just keep remaking and we'll there's a whole different Jake. It's urged. This is the dark one yeah I now. There are no new ideas Geno. What tell us about this weekend. Where can people see you at the Improv yeah yeah on the rose on Melrose rose world famous Hollywood Improv Yeah cited. Have you perform their lot. Yes definitely perform. They're a little bit dude like the typical commuting question but I'm curious do like performing L. A. Did you come out here that often or I'm living out here at the moment cool yeah. I'm out here at the moment of a couple of projects out here yeah I like. La I mean New York is I just I love. It and you're more Cannibal cars yeah yeah I just. I love it there but I l. a. Has a really cool comedy scene. There are a lot of really cool venues out here and the community is really so nice. That's the other funny thing about wow that whole like comedy civil war like I really even comedians. I disagree with I I'm friendly with and there's such an it's such a nice community of people. Oh Yes oh that just I mean is. was that like it's make or okay I mean the problem is is is like you know. There's not a lot of money in journalism anymore. So everything is click. Oriented and people have to create stories at nothing. That's actually what is separating us like. Click bait stories that just trying to divide people and get reactions out of people rather than the reality. Was that like most people you know even with this crazy even in this crazy political men like whatever but most people on a base level are like kind and when you read. Click Bait articles. If you actually Lee like I'm going to read. This one ever pays nothing there. It's based on three three tweets. You know the the out of context and I know it's so frustrating because no one ever actually reads the article so it just gets shared earn but then I think is twitter even real I know it's twitter really just like twelve other people that I'm in the same sports box with. Maybe it's better I go back and forth forth because I can get very addicted to twitter but I do follow journalists that I appreciate and it does kind of feel like it's a good really the best use of twitter there is like you change your setting so you don't get massively trolled and that said I've gotten okay. How do you change your settings. What how you can change you can change them to just like people who who don't follow you. Don't get out you never I'm so there are ways to do it but if you follow like journalists that you like it is a good way to get your news yeah no. I agree and that's in the night hear voices that probably wouldn't normally aren't like CNN talking heads you mean don't just follow the comics or you can do that now now. I've heard the same thing. My wife is always so that she li. If you curate it you you can you can have a perfect get some great utopia but some great news outlets yeah. It's perfect for that well. We're out of time. Where what what day are you performing? What I do name okay so that's Sunday no Saturday over yeah Saturday cool yeah. That's great where Real Stupid Forum in. La I have been traveling so much I haven't really I don't have many dates on the calendar then. I'm going to be in the New York Comedy Festival. I'm I'm doing my show. I'm doing miscarriage of Justice at Union haw her ten th at seven PM and the New York comedy festival that's another. That's a big show coming awesome giant yeah. That's fantastic. Do you think you'll do that our long in La.. I will probably do it again. I did a couple little secret shows. Oh it doesn't if you follow me on social media on that secret but I didn't like have a big announcement or anything and then I might be doing a couple more cool. That's great yeah yeah well Jennifer. Thank you so much. Thank you delight and you are. You guys are okay. and yeah break a leg break a leg and give me that book on different ways yeah thank you. I don't guests awesome okay. Thanks thanks well. That's our show for the week the team Coco Weekend Yeah Comedy Club near You. They're a lot of really great comics this weekend. There are and we're going to take credit for all of them. Sure because that's the team Coco Way so thanks for listening and we'll be back next week. We like you inside. 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434: 5 Things that Arent Necessary Your First Few Years in Business

The Goal Digger Podcast

30:04 min | 2 weeks ago

434: 5 Things that Arent Necessary Your First Few Years in Business

"When you can get super honest about the difference between a want an immed- you will start to learn the power of resourcefulness and trust me. When i say that trade alone will serve you more than any resources. Well hey my name is jennifer. I am obsessed with all things business marketing numbers and helping you to navigate both the messy and the magical seasons of this thing called a small town mama guja at three hundred dollars camera grew as successful photo biz and now i work from home in remers seven figure online business. I teach you the tried and true secrets to building a career. You adore shy away from the real talk no way money. Hardship growth loss and marketing are discussed. Here think of this. Is your one stop shop for happy. Hour with a gal pal mixed with business of papa make sure your cozy and get ready to be challenged and encouraged while you learn. This is the gold digger. Podcast starting running and scaling. A business requires a lot of things requires resources resourcefulness. Time energy talent and straight up grit when you're just getting going or you're slowly gaining momentum. It can be so easy to get caught up in all the resources that you feel like you need that you forget how to be resourceful. You may have heard me ask this question before but do you have an actual business or do you have what looks like or appears to be a business. The key difference. Are you actually making money from selling your product services or offers. Are you putting your offers out into the world with boldness and giving people an opportunity to become a paying client or are you getting caught up in spending too much time in the prep stages keeping yourself at the starting line and looking like a business but missing the one key principle. That actually makes you one selling your offer to a consumer. It's so easy to get caught up in posting photos to social perfecting your website finalizing every detail of your offer getting pro level logos paying for facebook gad's launching about guests in all around avoiding getting your thing actually out there in the hands of the people who need it now while i know it's easy to get sidetracked or to focus on all of the little details lemme level with you most of the shiny business things that you think you need to start a business actually. Aren't that necessary at least not for the first year or two or even three. So let this episode be your permission slip to slide these five things that feel urgent or necessary but lead to perfection paralysis and decision fatigue right to the back burner while you hone in on what will actually move the needle. The most in your earliest stages of entrepreneurship ready for your to do list to get a whole lot shorter. Let's dive on in. Let me help you start your email list in twenty twenty one. You can cross that new year goal off of your list in under an hour each day with my free five day mini the zero to two fifty e. Mail is building challenge. Get the tutorials the templates and the tech with easy to follow steps for free at list build challenge dot com this episode. A gold digger is supported by the new podcast from sarah night. No apps given the new york times by selling author delivers a no. Bs approach to motivation and mental health gaining confidence setting boundaries and saying no search sarah night and subscribe on spotify radio dot com and everywhere. You get your podcasts. Before we talk about what you don't need there is one undeniable. Need that every business needs or to get started before the website. The email is social media or sometimes even the name. You always have to start with your offer. It income in the form of a product. A good service or a digital item that people actually care about and are willing to invest their hard earned. Money in. there's gotta be some sort of value exchange how you can create something that someone is willing to exchange time money or energy for. That is the first question you must answer. The thing is you can pay for all the bells and whistles upfront or even spend oodles of your own time and resources figuring out how to code stunning website and piecing together marketing all the things that seem so necessary to build a brand but none of it matters. If your proof of concept isn't there and people aren't interested in what your business is all about or willing to exchange money for your offer. I want to shift. Our focus to uncover had actually be a business meaning. You are putting an offer out into the world delivering value in collecting money. That's the bottom line. You don't need a lot of flashy things you just need a means of getting your offer out getting paid for it and providing that value when budgets are tight as they usually are in the beginning. You wanna way what will actually help you be a business in what is absolutely necessary in that process. Trippy told you can post your offer on facebook or instagram. You could use paypal invoices for free in deliver the offer via zoom. We're in a facebook group or a digital training or you can email a digital pdf or download if it's a digital resource with so many things in the digital space especially you literally can do for free or minimal cost and with limited time or prep-work involved. You're leaning more into a product centered. Business tools like oetzi shop fi or even facebook marketplace can be amazing leases. Start getting your things out there. Engaging interests evaluating price points and seeing what people gravitate towards this low risk situation where you can put your products out into the world and see if there's any interests or trends you basically want to get your feet wet. Improved yourself that your idea is worth investing into and a lot of times in order to build confidence in the process. We simply just need to know that. There's someone out there who will buy the dang thing where can your passion and actual progress intersect so that you're not pushing that starting line further and further away while you chip away at a to do list that's five miles long not actually yielding any significant results. So let's really talk about it. And i am in no means trying to discourage you from launching thoughtful business but i do hope to show you that you need so many fancy schmancy time consuming pricey features for your business right in the very beginning eventually though be fabulous additions that you can figure out an invest in but priority number. One should always always be getting your off route into the world so that it can land in the hands of the right people let the rest of this would be your permission. Slip to drop the perfectionism. Let go of the grand and okay yes. We can admit it pretty stressful plans of getting all the flashy stuff ready before you launch. Anything i'm going to share the five things i truly believe. Need to be on your back burner in the early stages of entrepreneurship so that you can focus on what matters. Serve others well and move the needle forward with actual tangible results. Now up first. You do not need a professional or a custom website to start your business when i think about early stage entrepreneurs. I can almost picture there to do. Listen my mind one. Pick a business name to register a domain three invest in a custom. Website design for. Make sure the branding. Voters in the website copying the seo are all imperfect working order and super effective and five launch. The darn thing. That means that you'll need to talk to a website designer. Also maybe even a copywriter in branding photographer and yeah probably a search engine optimization expert to wait wait not just talk about them but ultimately pay upwards of thousands of dollars for their expertise or experience in their knowledge just launch a website. That sure. we'll probably look absolutely gorgeous. But hasn't made you a cent and in fact has put you in the and indebted to your business long before launching anything or making any real profits just thinking about that list and of all those needs and costs and the energy it's going to take is overwhelming enough to keep us from even starting right. Let me be real with you. You don't need any of that to start not a copyright not a website designer not even twelve nine thousand nine domain a lot of cases the thing i see people getting hung up on the most in the early stages is perfectionism and the way that things look now. I don't think most of us would say that we're perfectionist per se but it can be downright scary to put something new out there and you always want to lead with a strong first impression like you taught and so often we get stuck we delay as we tweak and perfect we try to be as prepared as possible and look as professional and put together as possible and it ends up taking all of this time and attention and even money to when you could have quickly launched let done be better than perfect as you get your idea out into the world. Then you can pay attention to the public response. Start bringing in some prophets able and take any feedback you used to adjust and tweak and build the look and feel of the business as you go if your business is a slow grow. I love that i always say the slower. The growth the deeper the roots. And when we rush things we optimist. Important clues or data or feedback. That could help us serve more people and serve them even better like my entire business has been an example of a slow climb in pivoting and learning as i go now. I know that it feels so much safer to plan to launch with his exact roadmap of where you're heading in how you're expanding and also can feel productive right like you're doing all of this planning and prep work to be ready for whatever comes your way in so that when you do finally launched. Its something super cohesive and well thought out better equipped to handle whatever happens right like i get it. It's a lot of pressure to put yourself out. There was something new and it feels like you can curb some of that who tangible rejection or judgement. If everything looks fabulous from the start. Does that sound about right. The here let me tell you that mentality is only holding you back. Hey if you have the funds and the resources ready by all means get yourself professional logo in that custom website but when it starts taking two months six months or even seen it take a year plus people getting caught up in this Implants without watching thing. That's when you know your fear is likely outweighing. Your desire to impact others with this business and all that preparation is no longer serving you or worth your time there. I said it. I went there because what i don't wanna see anymore early stage. You're almost entrepreneurs get caught up in the start before ever really starting. Let me illustrate this with my own. At the beginning at the starting line when i first started ida free wordpress blog that i updated to use a template to make it look and feel more custom than i hired a student graphic designer helped me code something a little different and finally about six years into my entrepreneurial journey i invested in custom website. The truth is it was a super slow progression. My business grew at every stage of the game allowing up investment that i poured into my own corner of the web. Here's the thing if you want something that feels custom by an epic template and learn how to customize it so that you have full creative control if you wanna see my favorite all time. Favorite website templates created by my web designer. Had degen katcher dot com slash tonic. That's janika dot com slash t. o. n. i c. Checkout templates they are an amazing place to start and you can start super simple and get fancy later. The thing is if you really really really want to have a place for people to visit outside of social media. There are so many options other than a custom website. Most website platforms like wordpress squarespace. They have options to launch a website and use a template designed for anywhere from zero dollars to one hundred and you can pick a few low cost stock photos as images or even temporary shots from your iphone until it actually makes sense for you to invest in. Branding photography have you. Don't even want a website at all. You can make a landing page on our favorite email service provider flow desk and have that the police for you send people to and win win. You will be growing your email list. In that process. You can launch most businesses these days using social media and social media when you can use an email us or existing selling platforms already out there like oetzi in order to begin getting your offer out into the world making a few sales tweaking your methods based on the response from your new clients now as far as copy meaning the words on your site that help you communicate what you do and who you serve or create bore. The truth is you don't need a ton of words on any landing page to clearly share what you do to rank on search engines into effectively. Market your offer. A strong headline in sub-headline can draw someone in and a great bio that tells you about. You are great places to start if you're thinking about or worried about seo or search engine optimization something. i didn't even understand or know about until years into entrepreneurship. We have episodes on that topic. This show you can find them at jena. Could your blog dot com. You can use the search function type in. Seo in there are a few different episodes that you can tune into to over simplify seo the focus. There should be two naturally. We've in a few of the most search for keywords for your industry to communicate as clearly as possible. What it is that you offer or what problem your business solves to talk about. Who it is you serve to share. What makes you the expert and to make sure you describe your products and services. The goal here is just to make it crystal clear on how people can get in touch with you and wallah. You have a solid starter. Copy that can get the job done now. These are just the base. Truly just a landing page will give you a place to send people to that you own. The truth is it need not be perfect to drive actual results for you. Well it'd be gorgeous. Probably not will it match the image. You have for your brand in your head. Maybe not an dazzle k. Most of us look at businesses that have been around for years and years and expects to keep up with their pace design and functionality. When it's just not necessary or realistic at i. It's so easy to get caught up in all the specifics or to get envy. When you see someone doing what you dream of doing with all the resources they have but when we peel back all the layers a lot of times it makes way more sense to start with what you've got and to grow from there when you can get super honest about the difference between a want a need you will start to learn the power of resourcefulness and trust me when i say it. That trade alone will serve you more than any resources. Well are you looking for a self resource but you hate being told what to do looking for some life changing magic from a woman who knows how to banish guilt managing anxiety and build confidence. Because she's trudged through the worker self. Add the no fs given podcast with sarah night to your weekly lineup. You've probably heard of her. She's the new york times bestselling author behind your favorites wary. Self-help books they call her the anti guru because of her no. Bs approach to self help. Serious started her podcast to deliver her unique brand of amazing alaria since weary advice on topics like motivation mental health gaining confidence setting boundaries and saying no checkout. No apps given with sarah night. Every tuesday and twenty twenty one and buckle up for a practical hilarious and her well known and appreciated no apps given approach to living your best life. Whatever that looks like for you. Search sarah night and subscribe on apple podcasts. Spotify radio dot com everywhere. You get your podcasts. I can feel it in my bones. This is the year that you'll start and grow in email list. Let me help. I'm so excited to lead you through my free five day. Mini course the zero to two fifty list building challenge. An email list is the best way to speak directly to your people via their inbox boxes. Social media is always in flux. You don't own your followers and the algorithm is making it more and more challenging to reach people who need to hear from you my email list. It's the number one way. I reach people and turn subscribers into paying students. If you haven't started your email list or if your lists could use some attention in the new year the zero to two fifty challenge will lead you through the entire process with tutorials templates and tech all taking care of all share my steps for choosing an email service provider creating a form of freebie and collecting valuable email addresses as well as ideas for what. Descent your list. Once you've started what no matter. What type of business you run can you commit just four percent of this week to getting yourself results and finally following through. That's just one hour a day. Monday to friday for one week in order to get really big results. Are you ready. Sign up at list. Build challenge dot com. That's list bills challenge dot com for the free zero to two fifty list building challenge osceola inside number two. The second thing you don't need right away is a professional logo now. I hate to tell you this but no one absolutely. No one cares. What you're branding looks like as much as you do as long as you're delivering true value in communicating that clearly. People don't really care about your logo. I know i know. We all gravitate towards pretty logos in the wine island when we're picking out a new face cream in a sea of options. There's something psychological that draws us towards nice looking things but most graphic designers charge hundreds to thousands of dollars for logo and branding packages that include custom marks brand colors fonts and beyond while all of that is certainly an undeniably valuable. It's simply not a necessity early on. Am i want but argue. That is definitely not a need at the starting line. There are free platforms like canada or pick monkey where you can create your own logo designed by tweaking preset templates at actually look pretty dang fabulous and were created by actual designers. You can also go by a not totally custom logo from creator on five or oetzi and it'll give you the customer you'll without requiring the custom investment when you're starting out whichever route you choose from their us what resources you have like pinterest has tons and tons of color palette inspiration for you to look at and play with your branding you can pick three or four colors and two main funds that you can access for free and use them across the board in all of your social graphics and any other materials now i know not. Everyone has the designers. I but come on. You know what you like what you gravitate towards so just pick something that you love and go with it realizing it will likely change and evolve as your business grows. Don't spend five hours tweaking. A logo and colors that people will only spend five seconds paying attention to when it comes down to it. Simple is always best in remember. It's likely not going to be your forever brandings so just go with your gut here and know that if you get sick of it later on once you're bringing in those decent profits you can switch it up higher pro and execute your vision but for now barebones works and your effort and energy should be concentrated way more on providing value and getting your offer out there effectively. The third thing. You really don't need right away is a team. I did not hire a soul for three years. It was just me solo entrepreneur wearing all the hats. Doing all the things. And i know i know i swear by a team and outsourcing but at the beginning it's not always necessary or feasible. In fact i'd argue that. It's important that you play every role even just for a while to learn the moving parts that go into your business and for you to establish the benchmarks for how you want things to get done my advice build your business and create your systems with the team in mind for the future but right away. It's okay if it's a one woman or a one man show for a while. There's a lot of invo out there about why entrepreneurs need a virtual assistant or an integrator copywriter in order to function and be successful but a lot of times advice is reserved for established entrepreneurs in the growing and scaling stage of their business not necessarily for the people at the starting line. And while i do believe in the power of outsourcing it's not the first or even the fifth action. I'd recommend for early entrepreneurs why because it's another way to spend access money before you're bringing in enough to sustain rationalize the expense plus in the beginning your priority should be. How can i get my thing into the hands of the right clients. And how can i best serve them. That's the goal. And that's what will give you the resources to be able to hire what i said about being a business versus looking like a business. My friend tiffany li. She talks about this all the time. And i love this. You need to assess what's on your today and if you can't tie those items on that did you list to actual tangible results. You might be focused on the wrong things when we can establish the fact that you do indeed have an offer that people are willing to pay for and you get comfortable inviting people to purchase that. Offer your confidence and your bank account will build an in that building you may be able to establish where you need the most help where your investment and hiring will allow you to continue to move the needle the most focus now on mastery and narrow your focus on showing up well on one or two platforms as your comfort and your confidence grows get really really good at showing up in those one to two spaces and figure out your own method or system for them once. You have your way of doing things eventually. You can hand it off to someone else when the time is right when it makes sense for you financially and you'll actually have a solid system to train them on view continue to grow. You'll know when the time is right to hire and expand but you want to make sure that when you do higher you're tying that expense to actual real results so that each project you outsource or person you hired. Your team is driving results for your business and moving you. Closer to your treats number four. You also don't need paid advertising right away in your business now as a lover and believer in the power of facebook and instagram ads. I'm telling you this from a place of honesty. You don't need to utilize paid ads. When you're just starting out and in fact i think people too often jumped the gun on those ads. End up wasting money on a tool. That has the potential to be super helpful. Later on i would say investing in ads is something you should do. After you've proven that you add value in a way that makes people pay money for it and you now know how to scale the results. You've already gotten using paid traffic strategies. Lot of times people invest too soon on paid ads without understanding the true strategy. Add should act as though they're gasoline. You're pouring on a fire away to scale what's working not be the point of the fire being started like having gotten yourself results with free methods. I wouldn't recommend investing in paid ads. If something is requiring a ton of money being committed without the promise of jump starting things. I would always proceed with caution. It is possible to run a successful business users free strategies. I teach here on this podcast in well paid. Ads might be tempting and you might hear people say you have to pay to play which is true for a business that is scaling. Keep in mind that social media has work when you have an offered that is already proven to work. I think people see ads as magic band aid that can somehow make their offer newly irresistible just by getting it in front of the is more people. And that's simply not the case once you're offers working and bringing in money on its own before you pay for any sort of advertising. That's when ads can work wonders and in the beginning you simply don't know enough about your offer in your clientele to be able to confidently set. These adds up to target the right audiences and to know that they'll be worth the investment so focused on tweaking and perfecting her offers that they're what your audience actually wants needs from you and then when you're ready to scale and have a system that works when you can pour on the fire to scale where to begin if not with paid advertising. Let's just start with talking to people keeping your dream or idea. Quiet and locked away isn't going to help you in getting it out into the world. It's time to start hinting at while you're working on and inviting people into the process getting feedback and leaving breadcrumb trail as you build so that when it comes time for you to launch you have a devoted fan club ready to convert into actual clients. Start sharing your curiosities your passions your progress. Ask your friends your family your followers what they need how you can serve them. What chronics interests them. And so on this means including others in the process from idealization to launch and beyond so that there needs feel heard and catered to aka. You'll have a source of interested and engaged potential clients at your fingertips when the time comes hopefully soon to launch. You're not meant to chase your dreams in a silo. You're not meant to work alone on your own little island. We need cheerleaders community and feedback five. The final thing that you don't need in the first stages of business is a full suite of offers products or services a lot of times people want to launch with a ton of offers all situated and ready for purchase. While i understand that desire wholeheartedly. i'd recommend starting with just one thing. Create the course build the template offer the one on one. Coaching service provide one product. And then wait and watch and see how consumers respond do they want more of the same. Do they need something to complement your initial offer. Do they want more detail or further guidance on a certain topic do that. One thing i and do it really well. One of the biggest ways. I see new entrepreneurs. Win is by creating one thing getting it out into the world gaining the confidence and the feedback and then extending their offer is based off of feedback and client requests instead of having too many options. They removed the concern of decision. Fatigue confusion for potential clients and they tend to speak more specifically to exactly who it is. They want to work with building. This devoted client base. I see so many early stage entrepreneurs building out these massive detailed swedes of offers with twenty templates and five service packages in fifty seven product. Offerings you betcha takes a ton of time to get these big sweets fully prepared to launch few started with one thing the easiest lift remember where passions and true progress intersect and the offer that excites you. The most will get out there. You can quickly launch. Ask for feedback and then continue building out your sweet with actually useful guidance from those who have already invested in your first offer rather than having to ask what you think people might want from you and then having half of your products fall potentially flat it allows for you to get that proof of concept free to gain the confidence of actually making money. Doing what you love gathered that critical feedback that will help you. Form more offers that are aligned and just what your audience is looking for. Start with one thing adjust in and from there. It really is that simple. I promise i feel. I literally just got off of a forty five minute. Peleton ride anyone else. I hope this gives you the permission to start simple and get fancy later. I really really believe in launching before you feel ready or before everything looks perfectly polished to actually launch and get something out. There is better than to hold your idea close waiting for perfection to move forward in fact that's where i believe entrepreneurial magic weights and the confidence is conjured up. It's in the stepping forward taking that brave action. No matter how scared you feel and just getting your stuff out there for people to consume by and provide feedback for that is the quickest way for you and your business to grow and begin making a profit and they don't feel a heck of a lot more practical and productive than spending a you're planning designing tweaking and perfecting before launching. Anything more than anything else. I believe in you and i believe that you have something powerful to offer the world. Don't let appearances or insecurities hold you back from doing the dang thing and remember that when you're waiting for resources that's often when you're sweetness has the opportunity to kick into high gear. Let it and run with it and see what magic can happen when you do. 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Forced to starve

The big d zone

13:25 min | 1 year ago

Forced to starve

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'cause I ran out of my Sam's Club food when I came back home, 'cause I was smart enough to least on food at home. When I left for Brandon. But when runs out it's still are empty. You gotta wait till you get more money for food to go back to clo- one only that I'm went to coming goal at yesterday. Risking my life waiting for help. Turnaround. It wasn't even enough. Are still candy but the chip's gone. So it's the soul to pizza the pizza bite 'cause I used that for like the lunch or dinner or something like that. Any other candidate our aid has gone. It was like it wasn't even enough. If wasn't even enough for for few days so down by one held ahead. I'm going to survive these three days until Friday. I have the mind of cashing out, what I was hopefully. I would be using for Orlando. But I had to use it because I got nothing I as Louis got nothing I got. But I got nothing. Plus spoke like either in the high eighty or the low nineties low mid nineties. With the heat index to mid ninety closer hundreds all week. I got us yet. I got a survived this for three days. With nothing in my stomach. I mean it this will real not only I gotta be reminded. I'm a widower not only I gotta be so survive this. But the only thing that the start to me alternative of this is what's going on here to tell you about it. End the other is to, you know called Alltel to make sure everything is ready for August. When I go to perfect. So. The one hotel that was had the, the bus that, that they will the hotel, white like literally almost one hundred feet to the hotel like lily almo fight. They literally touch it and thought to be a lot lower price. So I jumped on it like a like a bag out of chips like a bag of chips. And. So I got my got down, I canceled the other state, the hotel because I rather stay by close by the hotel, where the van is going to be. For the event. Podcast movement. 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Because I was trying to find another time that I could get to Florida at the time at that first conference. But. Gods allegiance that are I might have to fly Allegiant death home. Got the hotel like seventy eight. And about sixty dollars for internet also about four hundred. Dan? I gotta get to the hotel. Probably my pay parts of it at pay off my crews like you know get into the hotel part of it already have around trip. Get to the hotel in back to the Sanford airport. If I had to go to Allegiant mount. And. I mean law would think me in the low will definitely think, so now we're going to do this. Because I want to get some more interviews for this broadcast. And also whenever the heck out get bid to get back to speak on iheartradio. And I'll be able to test for the interviews death about plea record. The interviews Claude look at the vent input to. You know, the different places that apply cat. So. Whole man. I mean, this has been really. Sketch. Unbelievable. Absolutely unbelievable. I have to starve I have to start I only have one donor in probably two twinkies lift from when I stayed because of the -mergency site that I mean it's not gonna be protein. And. The heat is making this day, so slow and so wrong. Wow. Please sponsor this show. Please Bonsor this show. Really greatly. Appreciate it. This is one of the why not even on the now. Though. Wow. Anyway, if you're listening to us on big country dot net your in the right place. Oh, there was no brave Ryan and no firefly funhouse at all. But. Becky n not Becky. As a new tech team form forming. Yeah. Does the new woman taking forming? And. Oh, forgot that a Princess name, but I'll take bag out, tell you that if I come back on another show. But. That's why I've had the night when I don't get full because I can't thank. I had no one call to take me to food pantry or no one to call at five lined having to go forth. The go-to coming goal when I really didn't want to. If I make it through this week alive. Dalby a triple, thank though, triple thank the Lord on Sunday. Yummy, right, there will be a triple. Thank the Lord on Sunday if I make it out through this alive. Even though I wanna go back home but. Pay because I'm going to do any here already. I want to have any more pain. So. Autism. Lateness Kilemi auditing is tell me. Please pray that I make it through this. No. We are big dawn. And please help out the show. Sponsored this show on a dot FM. You could sponsor for low as ninety nine or up to four ninety nine if you look to listen doors on the anchor that fam- in the show app on the show app, you could click on sponsor, the show, and we'll get things started and all that stuff. So thank you much in advance plea Telstar, only have to go through this. Cat all the time. Probably really saw. That's the probably does. Wow. Anyway, prestige. And we. Out.

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193: 10 Tips to Create Hype Around a Launch

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193: 10 Tips to Create Hype Around a Launch

"You're listening to the gold digger gust episode number one hundred and ninety three. So maybe you've got something you're about to launch. What do I need? When I say launch, simply getting that thing that you created out into the world, whether it's a new product service website course freebie offer business. Anything that is new that you want to share with your audience. It is so important. Put some thought behind how you are going to reveal this new thing to the world now that you've worked so hard on it because this is the last step of the process. I think far too often, people don't put the time in energy behind the steps for launching, but rather focus too much on the creation process and people can get stuck because they want it to be really good, but perfection can cause paralysis. Leaving us scrambling when it's actually time to promote it. Then here's the thing if it's not launched well, no. No one might ever see it. You know, my philosophy like done is better than perfect, and I want for you to put your heart and soul into creating, but then to be sure to also give launching the energy, it deserves. And so today I am sharing ten free ways to create hype around a launch based on our experiences, and I am so excited to share them with you before we dive on in today's review is from Laura Ryan, four, one, six titled perfect timing says I've been following Genasense arising tied society hosted their first summit, and I remember hearing Jenna, speak and being completely blown away. I guess you could say I was total fan girl fast forward. A couple of years in Jena is the one educator I consistently go back to, but it wasn't until recently after binge listening to several of the gold digger episodes that it really clicked. I went from being just a fan to someone that needed to hear what she. She and her guests were talking about on the gold digger podcast. I've been in a season of life where I needed to open my eyes to change, give myself permission to create boundaries in ultimately the push I needed to go after my goals, the timing for this binge couldn't have been more instrumental in the course of my business in quite frankly, my life. Thank you to Jenna and the many women that have shared their stories. I am forever grateful for this little. Okay. Not so little podcast. Thank you so much, Laura, Ryan. I'm so glad our paths cross and for all of you out there listening today, if you want to say, thanks if you're like, hey girl, how can I thank you leaving a review is the easiest simplest best way. And it keeps us at the top of the I tunes charts so we can continue to create awesome content that serves you your life and your business. So without further ado, let's talk about creating some hype around whatever it is you're launching. You're listening to the gold digger podcast where we firmly believe that work doesn't have to feel like work self-made millionaire and marketing guru. Jennifer cooker will help you redefine what success looks like. It's time to hear from the experts. Listen in on honest conversations and learn the best tips and tricks that helped others pave their own way and craft their dream career. If you're ready to dig in, do the work and tackle your biggest goals, you're in the right place. Here's your host educator photographer, and MAC and cheese. Levered Jenna, cookie-cutter, guys. I am so excited about today's sponsor slack. Slack is a brilliant communication channel. We talked about it on the show before, and it is for all things. Business related, sort of like an organized instant message designed specifically for work topics and quick exchanges of information within your team. Slack is the communication channel of team, Jennifer jer. We use it every single day and I don't know how. We ever lived without it to learn why slack is irreplaceable in my business had disliked dot com. That's right. Find all the magic at slack dot com. Thinking about starting that new business. I know it's holding you back having all the legal things like contracts in place. This episode of the gold digger podcast is brought to you by the contract shop had to genyk jer dot com. Slash contracts to check out my five favorite products and save yourself. Twenty percent off. That's genyk ajar dot com slash contracts. So we recently publicly launched one of my signature courses, the Pinterest lab live for the first time we had so many amazing takeaways from that experience. And so today I wanna share with you ten ways they, you can create high around something new and exciting in your business in the hopes that it will inspire you to dedicate a bit more time to this very important step in launching. So maybe you're like, well, what is the lunch or what constitutes is launch a launch can be anything from sharing a new podcast to launching a new website, a new offering. It could be a course. It could be a new service. There is a really good chance that at some point in your entrepreneurial journey in really, for being honest like often in your aunts venereal journey, you are going to be launching something. And so I want wanna I just make sure you head over to today's show notes at genyk at your blog dot com. Slash hype for this episode where you can grab a copy of my launch copy needs checklists, which was created by my very own copywriter. Ashland Carter that is again genyk your blog dot com slash hype, and you're going to get your hands on a launch copy needs checklist, which is amazing. So before we dive on into my ten tips, I just want to encourage you if you're putting something new out into the world, a lot of times people skip the pre launch phase. So they think about, here's a day that this is going live, and here's what I want to happen, but they forget about all the ways that they can create energy and excitement in hype. Around what it is they're launching. The prelaunch phase is arguably the most important phase of launching. And yet we usually get so consumed with what we're actually launching that Weaver get to prepare for it. And so this episode is dedicated to not letting you make that mistake and to give you ten different ways that you can build up this energy before you put whatever it is you're about to put out into the world. Number one is this poll your audience. The first step asked the actual people that you will be launching to. You might have an idea or product that you know will help solve a problem for your audience, but if they don't know it yet, it might not sell. For example, the first time we launched my course, the list Alon lab it did okay, but my audience wasn't quite ready for it. We knew that going into it. We had a lot of educating to do on the importance of Email marketing before they truly understood. Did the value of this product. And so we took twelve months to serve an educate and talk to my audience about this subject and then our next launch, it was four times more profitable. And so my point here is either one poll your audience on what products or services are offers. They want from you now and create those or to recognize pain points in solutions for your audience and begin talking about them now so that when you go to launch, they are primed and ready to buy. Now. In this example, I knew that Email marketing wasn't sexy like lesbian is everyone wants to grow their Instagram followers or demolish interest by driving traffic. But growing your Email is just not as shiny. And I knew that, but I knew the importance of list building, which is why I made the product anyways, but it was crazy to see what a year of education could do warmer audience in understanding. Why they need to list why it's important for driving prophets in how it can change the trajectory of their business. Now there different ways that you can pull your audience. You can simply ask people question on social media and user comments as the results. You could create an official survey or a quiz with a site. Like survey monkey or Google forms, you can pull your current customers or even get on the phone or if you've your favorites to really understand what they're struggling with, what they need and how you can serve them. I learned in Ryan Levesque's book ask that we need to be super intentional about the types of questions that we ask so that the answers actually helped guide the products and services that we create and so that we can even use their language in things like the sales copy. Have you give people a chance to leave an open ended response? It's solid gold because their exact words are going to show up so that you know exactly how. How your audience is talking about what they need, the most keep it short, let people know what takes specked in terms of length how much time they need to devote to answering your questions and then use their responses to help you determine their biggest needs and struggles like listen to their objections. Listen to the things that they're distinguishing as pain points and wording that they're using in order to start thinking about how you could serve them and provide a solution, whether it's in your free material or what you're selling cinema. One is just poll your audience. We do this. So often I do this for the show to know what you guys need the most help with. We throw up a Facebook post or ask a question on Instagram stories, things like that because it really helps us to stay connected with you the audience in order to know that like one you need this. But to that, you're actually interested in learning about it from me. Number two is to create. A free offer or in optin speaking of free material. In other way, you can create hype around a launch is to build it up with a freebie. A freebie is simply content that someone needs to opt in for, or in other words, they have to give you their Email address in order to receive it. Now, this helps two purposes. One, it allows us to get them onto our Email list where we have more control over the what content they're seeing from us so that we can serve them and then eventually sell to them in the future. And number two, it provides them with content that is so valuable that they want to sign up for it when it advocates them and begins to introduce into something that we might be having a potential offer for in the future to basically when we prime audience before we have something to sell, it allows them to warm up to the idea that you're talking about and to kinda laya foundation in that try to create. Something that offers quick wins so that they can see the value of what it is you're talking about address any objections that they might have in your free content to start to combat any future issues with becoming a paying customer in your future, take what we like to call their pain points or the things that they're struggling with and provide solutions in the material that you are creating. Now, the longer that this building phase is I think the better the more time that you have to educate and build trust and gain momentum and get your audience interested in what you're talking about. The better off your actual launch is going to be. So we aim to start sharing freebies or free offers free education a few months out from the actual launch, but really any amount of serving and lead up is going to be helpful. Well, I have found is that it takes people time to warm up to your idea the way. That you teach about it or share and like, do they really need it like they have to qualify themselves before they will ever become a buyer. And I love to just really serve serve serve serve, serve my audience with free things and free offers before I ever go to sell because then when I go to sell, it looks more like an invitation in less like a pitch, and the number two is create a free offer or the ability for them to opt in to sign up to say, yes, I want more information on this when you have it number three. Let's go back to those Email lists, Email your list. I know it sounds so simple and obvious, but my most recent launch of the pincher slob we were shocked at what simple Email produced in terms of sales, like we have never emailed my entire list about this product before. We had only reached out to a specific segment of my audience at had opted in saying, I want more info on Pinterest. And says, simply telling the story of why I created this offer for my audience and then creating demand. In this case, we were saying, are prices going up. So if you want to purchase it, you gotta do it. Now resulted in eighty thousand dollars in sales. That was from one Email you guys. What if you could hit send and make eighty thousand dollars like it is not lost on me, how absolutely crazy. It is. One thing I know for sure is that you can talk about something you are selling until you are blue in the face, and you're sure that people are sick of hearing about it from you and still there's going to be this giant portion of your audience, whether it's social media or your Email is that might have just missed it all and they might have been interested. And so with things like algorithms and just the business of life in the timing of your posts, people are not noticing every little thing that you do. And so we have to be a bit obnoxious and exhaust all of our outlets when we're. Trying to build hype around launching something. But if you know me, you listen to this show, you know how important it is to Email your list. Like these are the people. These are your people. You don't have to shout to the masses. You can whisper to your audience and we saw that with this launch, we saw that people were interested in. Maybe they just didn't know even had that offer and we gave them that sense of urgency to say, hey, the prices going up. So if you want this now, here's your opportunity. An eighty thousand dollars later from one Email, we saw results that we couldn't believe the proof is in the pudding. My friends, if you are not growing and using an Email list now is the time and if you need help with that, there's a bunch of resources at j. Email list dot com. Okay, just got shamelessly slide that in there because it's true, Jay, Bilas dot com. If you're like, what is all this Email is business? I want to send emails to make money. I want to serve my audience better more importantly go there. Okay. Next up a blog posts, ROY. Right blog posts that announces your new, offer your product, your service, your new website, your new podcasts, whatever that is and can't excited about it. Like tell the backstory, share your passions, talk about how people can join or by links to other articles you've been writing in order to lead up to that topic. You can also consider writing guest blog posts for other bloggers have a similar audience to your own. You don't have to just leverage your own platform and so coming up soon hint next week we're going to be doing another episode about how to pitch yourself, whether it's for a podcast or a guest post. So make sure you tune in a week from today for all of my tips on how to be successful with pitching yourself and really leveraging not just your own audience, but other people's audiences through showing up and serving. So here if you as you can get started, make sure you're collaborating with sites where your target audience. Is hanging out next. You can brainstorm topics aligned with what you're going to be selling that you are an expert in that their audience might benefit from as well, like what might be missing from their blog that they haven't covered yet. What topics have done well with your own audience that you could pitch to another blogger to feature like make sure you're connecting with other influencers bloggers and Instagram, or is that promote their content? Well, so that you might have the opportunity to serve their audience and to make sure that you're building actual relationships as you're collaborating with other people, and as you're promoting it on your own blog, post you wanna make sure that there is an opportunity to capture that audience potentially through an opt in form or some other promised freebie, but using a blog, not just your own, but other peoples, if they are willing can be a really huge way to build up hype around a launch. And sometimes it can. Me as simple as collaborating in saying, I know you have this launch coming up. I would be happy to share about it if you would allow me to share about mine and just really partnering with other people and sharing what's in it for them. Because when you hear my thoughts on fishing, you're gonna realize it's not always about you. Recent estimates show that thirty to fifty percent of potential clients are closed by the service provider who responds to them. I, that could be a lot of clients you're missing out on just because you don't have all your stuff together. One way you can respond to faster is with a solid contract. In fact, that is precisely why the contract shop was founded in less than ten minutes. You can have a contract tailor your specific industry filled out in delivered to a client before anyone else even has a chance to open up their Email, no more crossing your fingers and hoping everything goes right to learn about my five must have products and you get twenty percents off your purchase had to genyk dirt dot com. Slash contracts the genyk jer dot com. Slash contracts. I've already told you briefly about the magic of slack, but that was just skimming the surface of this incredible program on team genyk ajar we use it to share projects, ideas answer, quick questions without waiting on someone to reply to an Email. It's a total. Game changer in small business saves you time, improves productivity. It's super easy and convenient. It works everywhere you go. You can even get a mobile app and simply put. It's efficient organized in. It ensures that every member of my team is always in the loop. I can't imagine coordinating everything without it, and I'm so thankful to slack for sponsoring today's episode had disliked dot com. If you're ready to take your business to the next level, that is slack dot com. Slack, it's where work happens. Next step social media does which brings inner the next way to promote something that again, seems obvious posting to social media. I love to create a teaser for the social media posts and then linked to a longer more complete blog post. But the point is to get people off of the app and onto a place where you can better control the user experience like your website or your blog, or your Email is this is a much easier way to guide your followers and fans through the process of getting to know more about you and taking action by purchasing or signing up for your Email list. You can test different language in sales, copying your posts. You can try posting different times a day using different imagery, whether it's a picture of you or of your product or just plain text. But when you're looking at launching your social media posts can really help dictate. The amount of energy around it, the amount of traffic you're driving to it. And of course, I love social media. So I'm like, make sure you're using it. I want to be able to click on tier feed, whether it's on Facebook or Instagram and no right away omega, gosh, they're launching x, y, and z, and this is why I should be excited about it. A lot of times when it comes to launching, we like want to just like really quietly, whispering guess what? There's a new website up up. Cool. Okay. We bury that in the last little bear graph of our captions, but when it comes to launching, you got to go big you guys like you gotta make it so obvious that there's this new thing that you're so pumped about and that you're welcoming and inviting people to join in on that excitement with you. Social media is an amazing amazing way to do that. And we love to leverage social media ads, whether it's Facebook ads or Instagram ads, we split test everything. We just talked about the sales copy what time of day. What images are working, whether it's playing texture photo of me, and we're just really looking at social media from this well rounded standpoint because we know our people are there. We've just gotta reach them. The next step is this post to your Instagram stories guys. Don't forget about Instagram stories in episode. One eighty one teach you how to beat the al-gharib them how to rock your Instagram stories, and this is no different when you are going to create hype around a launch. It is a much more personal way to promote something, and we see huge engagement. When I talk about anything that I'm promoting on my Instagram stories on a make sure this is on the list because I think too many people shy away from showing their face or talking directly to their audience or sharing what they're launching. Often, this is the personal communication that they need in order to let your audience get to know you and. Trust you before they will ever buy from you into this is such a huge topic. Go back to episode one eighty one because this step can be huge in terms of your checklist, and just in rallying people in letting them see and feel that excitement that you have about whatever it is you're launching. There's so many nitty-gritty details about your Instagram's stories that I share in episode one eighty one, but I don't want you to forget this because I think when we think about planning out social posts, we think about those posts that live in our feeds. But what about the post where we can really personally interact easing things like Instagram's stories on that same front, Facebook live, Facebook lives can be so fun because they are so interactive and of used a strategy to allow people to ask questions where I can answer them live. I've also given a full webinar on Facebook live, like how crazy is that. But I think just like Instagram stories. A lot of us have. Hesitations around showing up live and making sure we looked perfect and not messing up. I mean, live stuff is no joke, right? Like we're like, what if I make a fool of myself? What if the internet totally shuts off in episode number ninety? Two with any Porterfield. We talk about Facebook live in Instagram stories, and it's just a really great show to kind of walk you through that. But what I think is so interesting about Facebook live is that people can tune in whenever they're on Facebook, instead of having to sign up for a specific time for training and remembering log in, and it's also a great way to add that personalized touch to kind of add that human element to your brand and remind people, yes, there is a real human behind the sales message that is wanting to help. No Facebook live for me. I've done a few different methods and it's something that I don't utilize enough like it is something that is kind of on my list that gets pushed to the bottom, but there. Has so much power in in. There are so many people that are absolutely killing it. But I would say as you're leading up to launching whatever it is you're launching jump on, just talk about it. Talk about the why talk about the process talk about what's in it for your people. Talk about why they should be excited. I think most often people just want to be invited into your world. And so if they can sense, you were excitement, they're gonna get excited to surveys book. Live is an area that Jennifer Janes a work on, but it is a really effective way to create hype around a launch. Next step. Ask people to share for you now one way that you can create awesome hype around a launch is to get people on board and inviting more people like their friends to join. Now, one way to ask people to share for you is simply by encouraging your Email subscribers to forward your Email to friends that might be interested in what you're. Offering. Often people just need to be given permission or told what to do and you'd be surprised at how many people will take action simply because they were asked like if I send out an inspirational Email and say, hey, feel free to four this on your favorite boss lady or something along those lines, it gives people the permission to note it's acceptable and it helps get my content on other people's radars that are like minded entrepreneurs are clients while also letting people feel like they're passing along some positivity. And so it's a really awesome way to just say, hey, this is going on. Why don't you invite a friend? What would it look like? If you had an accountability partner to make sure you stuck with this challenge or tuned into those episodes? Another way is to reach out to industry friends or peers into let them know that you have something exciting that their audience might be interested in. Make it super simple for them to share by providing graphics to easily post on social. Media possible captions so that there is no work involved for them to share, encourage them to put their own spin on it. And when it comes time to return the favor, make sure that your generous is well. We don't do this too often because I know most of my peers have just as jampacked schedules as I do. But a lot of times if our audiences are aligned and I've got nothing going on, I'm happy to help share things for people that have served my audience in the past. It's all about reciprocity. You scratch my back. I'll scratch yours. And so just ask people to share for you like get people in on it, whatever that looks like. And one of the ways it could look like is through creating a giveaway like everyone likes to win thing. Right. Are you one of these people like me where you're like? I never win. I literally never win, but that's fine. Not bitter about it promise, but the importance that here is to make sure that you set up a giveaway so that it both spreads the word about your launch and. And it captures people's Email addresses. They get is not good enough to just have people comment in like your account. Why? Because we want to be able to keep in touch with these people going forward in a social media follow is just not enough. A lot of times I'll see Instagram giveaways where it's like just follow me and common below guess what people will unveil you after they realized they didn't win, which is the truth. That's the name of the game. And so if you really want to get your offer out there and you really wanna create an awesome giveaway, give them a place to just sign up. I know that you might get less engagement, but the people that actually take the time to do that. Now you can reach out to them and you can serve them more intimately and better. A giveaway could be tangible product in e product course or service. Make sure that the giveaway relates to what you're alternately selling so that you are attracting the right audience and building hype for when you actually do launch. So you. To make sure it's relevant than it has to do with what it is that you're working on launching. You don't wanna have something like when a trip to Mexico, and then like I'm on ching an Email list building Gore's like those don't really go hand in hand, and so get creative about what kind of giveaway would really help decipher if your audiences interested in to encourage them to sign up to get more information from you because guess what you're about to launch the thing and you want to reach out to those people who are interested now lastly, build anticipation. I mean, we've covered so many things, but it's all about building up this energy there. Few other ways you can build anticipation that we've used in my own launches. This includes having countdowns. This could be a countdown clock that's embedded into an Email, or you could count down the days on social media to your launch, get excited. Like it's Christmas that you're counting down to enchant. Your audience is going to get excited to. You can hint at it on social media while you're creating it, let people in on the behind the scenes products while you're creating the material. This is an awesome way to lead up to your launch to give people involved and even ask for feedback during the creation process. You can also let people beta test your product for you or the office, or the service and share their testimonials and results. There is nothing like social proof that what you are selling is high quality in one way to do this is to let pass clients or industry friends. Take your products for a test drive, like ask them for feedback to make it better and encourage them to share about what you're offering if they liked the product or experience. So there you guys have it ten free ways to create height before you launch something in your business. Now. Chances are you got something that you're going to launch soon. And I want to remind you that this prelaunch phase man, it can totally change the way that your actual launch goes. You're working on something and you're fired up in your excited. Use these tips tricks in strategies to make sure that when the day comes when launched a happens, your audience is at the edge of their seats, so eager to see what it is that you have to offer. This inspires you to put the effort in the energy into the launch process and a promise you when you do, you will see a difference in the bottom line. We have had his so much fun with launching. I feel like when people talk about launching it can sometimes feel overwhelming. But really, it's just creating something that you're excited about that is going to change the game for your audience and it changes feeling like you're having one big sales pitch into feeling like you are serving your audience in, you're serving them well. Until next time, gold diggers. Keep on digging your biggest goals, and I would love to hear from you. What are you launching next hop on over to golddigger podcasts on Instagram, and let me know and scroll through the comments and check out what everyone is working on. Maybe you can find some comrades in that post to team up together. Hold each other accountable share about each other's launches and hacked just cheer each other on. I'll talk to you guys soon. Thanks for listening to the gold digger podcast dive into the show notes for this episode and all past episodes at WWW dot gold digger podcast dot com. If you love the show, share it with a friend, the more the merrier. Thanks for tuning in. 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346: Affiliate Marketing Strategies for the Decade

The Goal Digger Podcast

26:45 min | 1 year ago

346: Affiliate Marketing Strategies for the Decade

"Have you ever posted anything on Instagram? Store your tweeted about something. You're obsessed with. It could be anything. So what would it look like if you got to cut of the sales in exchange for your raving plug? That is the whole point of affiliate marketing. Hey My name is Jennifer. I am obsessed with all things business marketing numbers and helping you to navigate both the messy and the magical seasons of this thing called life. I'm a small town. Mama who took a three hundred dollars. Camera grew as successful photo Biz. And now I work from home. Remedies seven figure online business. I teach you the tried and true secrets to building a career. You Adore shied away from the real talk no way money. Hardship growth lost in. Marketing are all topics we discuss here. Think of this. Is Your One Stop Shop for happy? Hour with Gal pal mixed with business will pull up a seat. Make sure your cozy and get ready to be challenged and encouraged while you learn this is the gold digger podcast. Let's chat today of one of my favorite topics that truly anyone with a following can pursue in order to make more money without having to create or packager ship or build a darn thing beyond content affiliate marketing this is one of the best ways to start generating passive income and getting paid to share the things you already door and you likely already share with your people because of said adoration. My affiliate journey has shifted like much of my business through the years. And I've learned done is I've selected affiliate partners who I fully aligned with a new. I really just can't shut up about so if this is your first. Go Round with tuning in to one of my episodes about affiliate marketing feel free to scoop back to episode to twenty-seven all about how a made six figures in one year solely from being an affiliate for the brands. I love inside of that episode. I break down all the different types of affiliate marketing out there plus my top three tips for getting started with your own affiliate journey. It's a really great show if you're new to the affiliate world or if this terminology sounds totally foreign to you. Now today. We're GONNA dive a little deeper and get into some updated affiliate marketing topics for the New Year. Because I'm constantly evolving and figuring out new ways to approach all marketing techniques including affiliate marketing. Are you ready to dive on in all things? Affiliate Marketing Ready set go primarily. Pure is my go-to nontoxic skin care. And it totally changed the game for my skin not to mention. I can actually pronounce the ingredients for ten percent off your primarily pure order Goto Genyk Jer dot com slash skin-care if you're still mailing contracts via snail mail or tracking payments with pen and paper and managing your Biz with anything other than a seamless project management system. It's time for any book. Start Your free trial. Plus get fifty percent off your annual subscription at Jenin Katcher DOT com slash. Honey Book if you listen to my annual recap at the end of last year you may have heard me talk about how twenty nineteen was the very first year. I ever affiliated for other educators courses. Something I never imagined doing five years ago but completely shifted my approach to affiliate marketing the courses. I partnered on our one that I knew heart and soul my audience would benefit from taking and I also knew that I didn't have any courses like them and frankly didn't plan on making anything like them anytime soon so to me. It was a huge win to take that and then share all about those programs and expose my audience to new offers. And that's kind of the key to this whole affiliate marketing thing. It's not about having thousands tens of thousands or millions of plus followers. It's not about having any era of celebrity or a household name. It's not even about whether you consider yourself an influence or not. The key is that if you want to successfully affiliate with a brand and see success doing it there needs to be passionate and authenticity behind who you choose to represent and partner with people have strong as it could be US meters. I love that and they can tell when you're sharing about something just to make a buck a calms though. No matter how great your photos are how clean your copy is but let me back it up for a hot second before we get into all of my juicy affiliate marketing tips. You might be tuning in for the first time in thinking wait. What is affiliate marketing? And how does it relate to me? Affiliate Marketing is when you promote a certain product or service to your people and then you get a commission when they decide to buy from that brand. It's pretty Dang cool because for so many of us in this online world. It's an extension of the offers were serving or people with and it allows us to bring a fuller spectrum of goodies to our followers without having to create everything from scratch ourselves. You're still struggling to wrap your head around it. Let me give you a few super easy examples of affiliate marketing in play in our daily lives. We get hellofresh. We've used them for years literally. Subscribers for years we tell everyone we know about them because we love the food so much as an average customer of hellofresh we a referral code that we can send to people and if they sign up to we get money off of our next order. And if you WANNA see there's an actual action go to Jennifer Dot com slash hellofresh and you can enjoy the food that we eat every single night and you can help save money on our groceries. Cool right another example is my all time. Favorite Skin Care primarily pyramid. I switched to it after our second miscarriage when I needed nontoxic and clean and safe products and I became a devoted user of what they make when you go to genyk com slash primarily peer. You can see page on my website that I personally created to help share my love and my story of the products and if you use my link and enter the code. Jk Ten at checkout. Not only do you save ten percent on your order but I also get a small referral bonus. Cool right now. Affiliate marketing is awesome because I never formulate my own skin hair or creative food subscription company so it allows me to share and incentivizes me to share while also being a pretty killer way to make more income without having to make more things. You're getting cut to share stuff that you love. The brand gets more is on their goods and your audience is introduced to a new product or service. Things to their trusted comrade in the old interwebs with is you nothing about it. Have you ever posted anything on an instagram store? Your tweeted about something. You're obsessed with. It could be anything like a metal Straw with handy little carrier or a new cafe that carries the Best Macho Lotte. You've ever tried or a workshop. You attended that totally flipped your social media strategy on its head a pair of jeans that fit like butter as sparkling water that. You can't quit like I could go on and on and on but my point is that we spend so much of our time online posting things that we love things that have added value to our lives or helped us in some way or brought us more joy or convenience or efficiency like we naturally tend to do that without even trying and your people are listening and following suit. You know this right because you wouldn't share it otherwise you want to help your followers experience the same benefits you have by sharing the things you love and that you're living for so what would it look like if you got to cut of the sales in exchange for your raving plug. That is the whole point of affiliate marketing. When done well and it's something you can do whether you have one hundred dollars or ten thousand now before you start seeing dollar signs and you're getting overzealous. I don't think you should just start trying to affiliate for every brand you've ever loved her used or ones with just a high commission structure. Because I know that's tempting but I want you to start with just one that you've used for a good while like something that you love and you trust and that your ideal followers would also benefit from knowing about a lot of friends out. There have affiliate referral program set up because they want this sort of word of mouth marketing to continue flourishing for their growth. So my thinking is. There's no harm in asking if you could be the the one to promote their stuff heck so many brands already have built in as part of their natural marketing strategy from AIRBNB is refer a friend code to daily harvest. Give Twenty dollars off smoothie code most brands see the value in this type of consumer to consumer marketing? The you might already have codes waiting that you can share to see this type of selling works for you if a company you love and you want to promote has a program set up already go through the process of applying to become an affiliate and if they don't have a formal program still most brands even the smaller ones might happily provide you with personalized linked to share with your followers. Just send them an email sharing your interest in becoming an affiliate for them and how their product is impacted you by using it as well as why you think that your audience could benefit from using it to. I talked super in depth about exactly how you can become an affiliate for the companies. You love and how to Pitch Yourself Professionally episode number two ninety six. Be Sure you scroll back in the PODCAST APP or go to Genyk at your blog dot com slash affiliate tips. To listen if you're just getting started on your affiliate path and you. WanNa make more connections with admirable brands? Okay now let's get into the Nitty Gritty of affiliate marketing. Let's say interested in becoming an affiliate for two or three of your favorite brands. Just like your investments and other streams of income. You WanNa try to diversify your affiliate plan as much as possible while still being certain the brands that you partner with make complete sense for your audience. What I mean by that is that you won't want to partner the brand. That's totally off topic. In regards to the content you normally share with your followers and a good way to check. This is by asking yourself if you wholeheartedly believe in the product itself like have you already been sharing it for free would you talk about it with zero incentive? Are you excited to share it or does it feel a forest when you think about it for me? The answer needs to be a hundred percent. Yes in order for me to promote it as an affiliate. I can't feel wishy washy about it and then feel good telling my audience love it too. So it's of most importance. You are all in with your affiliates. That confidence in a product is going to translate as you share it and show that you use in love and trust it so your people will be more inclined to do so too. But here's the thing trying to keep it to just one niche. Even if your brand is super niche for instance I run an online marketing business. So even though you might expect for me to only partner with tools and programmes at digital entrepreneurs would want to use. I choose to share beyond the niche. I know I deal. Audience is well rounded and multi passionate. Just like I am so while yes they can get a whole lot out of the marketing tools and I do share those often. They likely are also looking for ways to streamline in uplift every aspect of their lives just like I am. I also have openly shared about hardship and challenges. I've experienced in the things that have helped me to overcome them like when we face fertility struggles miscarriage and I completely cleaned my lifestyle choices up removing toxic products from my beauty routine and I shared about that entire process as we went through it when I began using primarily peers. Natural Skin care products. And this isn't an ad though. I am an affiliate. It was an obvious and natural opportunity to partner with them as an affiliate. Because it just makes so much sense for my own journey I knew it resonated with my followers and let me remind you here to that successful. Affiliate marketing is in just a one and done thing like you. Can Scroll back and see that. I've been talking about the same products for years literally years. That's how much I love them. And how committed I am and I feel like this is an epic to just plug my favorite nontoxic all natural skin care here so go to genyk dot com slash primarily pure using JK ten. Save yourself ten percent like. Are you starting to see how this whole thing works? I know this is cheesy. But it's so true but seriously as he started to approach is here. I did inventory on all of our affiliate marketing strategy and I realized that our top five affiliates were out earning all of the others by a landslide in when I listed out all of our potential affiliate sponsorships. I realized that if I focus all my energy and efforts on those top three to five. It'll make a greater impact notches for me. But for those who trust me enough to take action so we actually decided to dial back on how we pursue affiliate partnerships and get laser focused on our favorites within our top. Five is skin your company and email marketing software to online courses and a crm for entrepreneurs we still have tons of other opportunities like using Amazon affiliates or award style. But truth be told those. Don't really move the needle much for us. In so focusing our efforts on those bigger partners helps us. Laser focused on. What's working for us and how we can better serve our audience to make a decision. Let me back up. Because it's a little crazy to think about. I have a skin gear company and email software company to digital courses and broader affiliate program. That are my largest moneymakers in the affiliate marketing space. But it's because of all of these is random as different as they all are there nearly perfect fits for almost everyone in my audience. The entrepreneurial minded go getting moved making women up in here who are very clean beauty and simplified email marketing strategy. And they're learning how to hone their gifts into their businesses. Many of them are Mama's are looking to start families in crave camaraderie efficiency. So they find a lot of us from someone like me. Who is carving out a similar path in sharing the things that I love like the tools that have helped me to do better and better every single day. See how it can be diverse and also not feel like you're making a hard sell with affiliates when you're really into those things that have improved your life for the better odds are that you'll share it and help others improve their lives in a really similar way. Beyond just wanting to have a wide scope of types of brands that you partner with it's important to diversify how you're sharing about them the key to capitalizing the most on your affiliate partnerships is to share often in share in creative ways. Your audience is likely changing and growing every week. So how can you serve your new and your existing followers with content? That supports and helps them. In every way for me this has looked like a wide array of affiliate marketing pushes both large and small for the digital course created by my business coach. Dean gratiot see the knowledge broker blueprint. We went big since its launch is a specific and considerably small period of time. We didn't shy away from pushing it hard while it was open while it was in launch. Because I knew it could benefit so many of my followers so I wanted to hit any potential pain points or objections that people might have during that window and also encourage them on why it could be a good fit for them. I shared resources success stories. Qna opportunities insider looks access to Dean. And Tony Stewart reviews all kinds of info all in one place all during the time of the launch from my podcast in the blog to also media platforms email facebook groups and paid ads. Like I wanted to paint the picture of what is possible and how it could change. Someone's life and so. I shared all of the resources in all of the places in a very condensed amount of time while the cart was open. And I believe in this program so deeply that for the second year I even added my own bonuses if people were signing up using my link I created a private facebook group to walk alongside and lead. Kb students who sign up through my affiliate link and committed to being a mentor for those students among other things through an ongoing affiliate like primarily pure. It's totally different right. I share about. It often usually monthly and where it makes sense. I share about it in blog posts social posts in POPs on my website in emails when the continental lines clean living baby. You're live south products on my fertility journey. Even on this podcast same goes for cloud S. my favorite email marketing software anytime. I'm teaching about email marketing answering questions about emails or creating content in that arena. It's an opportunity to share the super reds offer that is literally simplifying every aspect of email. Marketing you're curious about that one. It's only nineteen dollars a month. It's way easier to use the mail ship. And it's beautiful you can learn about it at Jena Ghajar Dot com slash flow desk that's F. L. O. Desk you might have a system. I know you can't see them but I'm doing air quotes right. Now that you're telling yourself is working but what would it look like if you could have everything in one plays? I'M TALKING INVOICES CONTRACTS. Messages Questionnaires timelines more. No more post office runs get contracts out last minute. No More Bank lines to deposit your Client Checks. Nope all of that is inside of honey book plus way more like wave away. More honey book is a simpler way to run your business. It's how I send invoices collect payments create community. Craft workflows export financials and manage projects from end to end here. When I say my system pre honey book was archaic and frankly almost scary. I'm getting nightmares waking up thinking I lost a contract or forgotten. Key Date in a project timeline. If that sounds like you honey book will make you sleep like asleep. Trained Baby Start Your free trial. Plus get fifty percent off your annual subscription at Janika jared dot com slash honey book. Let's GENYK AJAR DOT com slash honey book for fifty percents off your annual subscription. This episode is made possible by you and my favorite nontoxic skin care primarily. I'll be honest before our miscarriages. I didn't really care what chemicals were going on in my body but once I started to really dig into things. I was shocked. I also had this belief head natural stuff. Just couldn't work as well as I slowly transitioned. I became obsessed with reading labels knowing that I was treating my body with the ultimate respect and I started to fall in love with the natural sentence in the feel of the products in the way that I felt when I use them. Consider me a completely converted skeptic. I've been using the clarifying serum just like five drops a day for a few months and my skin is breaking outweigh less. It's noticeably brighter. And it's helping me. Keep inflammation down and primarily peer cleansing oil. It absolutely changed my skin in the way that I thought about skin care. It felt kind of counterproductive declines with an oil right wrong. It feels like magic. But really it's nontoxic skin-care that not only does the job makes my evenings feel kind of like a little spago away for ten percent off your order go to primarily peer dot Com and use the Code Jacob Ten or learn all about my favorites at Jenin Katcher dot com slash skin-care. Okay so are you starting to understand how all of this can work? Not just for me but for you too. It's not just enough to share an affiliate link ones and then call it a day when its products and goodies that are actually useful to the masses and things that you can't get enough of you need to share it as often as creatively as you possibly can want to know my checklist for sharing affiliates. Get Out your pen and these down or find them in the show notes at Golddigger podcasts. Dot Com because. This is exactly what I walked through when making the most out of my affiliate partnerships. Are you ready? This is going to help you. Unsuccessfully approaching affiliate marketing in two thousand twenty number. One did you talk about your personal experience with the brand whether it's social media caption a blog post or something else you always want to weave in your own experience with the product or service how it's helped or shaped you. How your life is better because of it how you found it and fell in love with it. People Fall in love with stories not Dang so tell yours and tell it again and again your personal experience will sing louder than any brand generated testimonial from a stranger share your own transformation. I and shared often number two. Did you share the reason this thing? Even matters walked people through how it works why it matters and lead them to understand what could be possible for them if they choose to invest in it too few only share your story people think well that's great for her but why does it matter for me. Paint a picture of opportunity for others and what they could gain earner experienced by clicking purchase. Number three did you share about it in an original way. Skip any of the provided templates. A brand might send you or if you're part of a direct marketing company or MLM. It's always always always better to hop into a free design hub Canada and create your own simple and pretty graphics rather than using overtly branded graphics. That don't fit your own aesthetic. Use Your own voice your vibe and brand for the graphics images and words associated with the affiliate post it should not read or feel look like an ad this is all about you sharing your own stuff in your own. Unique way number four. Can you throw in your own bonus? There's always a little more intrigued when you can sweeten the deal with a personal bonus from you if possible doesn't have to be anything crazy. In fact simpler is better. It could be accessed to a Freebie of yours a ten minute call with you a report on instagram stories. They mentioned you just something that fits for your people in guests them even more interested in the offer and ready to take action number. Five are you sprinkling little hints your dream affiliate brands in with your other content. It's always best to lead with breadcrumbs to share the you love before you ever have the opportunity to make ascend from affiliate marketing so share about using it. Before you ever monetize like talk about why you love it and spread your passion before you ever ever ever go for Prophets. See if people engaged with that content. If they're curious are excited about it. That's going to be such a good gauge. If it's going to be a successful avenue for you and number six is the offer custom if you can accustom offer goes miles further than something quick or generic creating your own affiliate landing pages or e mail campaigns dedicated blog posts and so on is super impactful and can paint the full picture of why it matters to you and why it should matter to your audience while educating them plus the more branded it is you the more likely people will trust you and not just a company or a product after being an affiliate for a few brands and sharing some of my favorite things online. I began to get the same questions for certain things over and over. Like what was your favorite skin carry gun? Or what was that software that you use to host your courses? I took it a step further and ended up creating an entire landing page of all of my favorite things many of which I now affiliate for so that people could have one destination to find all of the great stuff. I always talk about from close to health resources and business tools to business books and beauty products now. This was a huge undertaking. It was a really big project but it is so helpful to be able to point people to one place to find anything and everything that I use in love. You can see the page. I'm referring to if you go to J K faves dot com. That's J. K. Faves DOT COM or go onto my website. And there's a little drop down for my favorite things now on top of that. We also create single product landing pages. That are beautiful and branded for my affiliates so that my audience can experience the full story of why I love in recommend these brands and lastly number seven. Do you have extra content to back up that cornerstone content create content that supports what. You're selling blogs podcasts. Emails social posts. Instagram's where is you get it? These drop small puzzle pieces and reminders to your people so that they don't feel like it's a hard sell but more of an ongoing conversation. People need to trust your personal experience to take action and it will likely take multiple exposures for people to actually take that action. So don't just post once judge results from that. Be In it for the long game. I know that was a lot. I hope it was Super Helpful. Now that you know my personal checklists for making the most of my affiliate partnerships and being sure that the content that shared a promote them fits my brand vibes and my audiences needs. It's all about creating the potential and walking people through. What's possible for them if they were to buy into the stuff that you already love the things that you cannot get enough of and the big bonus. Is that once you begin sharing and re sharing your favorites as an affiliate people will start to see you as an expert in that thing like I never expected people to ask me literally on a daily basis. What the amazing nontoxic skin care line that I love is or what products are my faves. But that happens now in. I gladly get to share my primarily bureau addiction with the world so that they can feel great about what they use on their skin to. It also creates a more well rounded version of you as a human a professional and for your brand. Because you're an expert in the thing that you offer and in these products that you partner with and to me well rounded people are way more interesting people and I know you're all that and a bag of chips to put yourself out there. Start making those connections with brands. You're a die hard four and then begins sharing about them regularly organically and originally so that your people can see the magic that you see in them. You'll be bringing in those dollar bills in no time in spreading the Gospel about the Soma level brands in your life and trust me when I say it is the best feeling until next. Time Gold Diggers. Keep digging your biggest goals and thank you so much for tuning into another episode of the Gold Digger podcast. Oh and if you want that link one more time it's JK faves. You can find all of my favorites and see how I use affiliate marketing in MY STRATEGY JACOBS DOT com. Find you over there. I'm over here giving you a virtual high five because you just finished another episode of the Gold Digger podcast tobacco by way too fast for anyone else if you want more head over to Golddigger podcasts. Dot Com for show notes and all the discount codes from today's sponsors. And if you're looking for a new crew of movers and shakers like you bounce ideas and ask questions be sure to join my exclusive community for gold diggers on facebook the links waiting for you at Golddigger PODCAST DOT com.

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040519 Ace & TJ in 30

Ace and TJ

20:30 min | 2 years ago

040519 Ace & TJ in 30

"The. The market of Charlotte, North Carolina. This is the ACT g and thirty podcasts. Here's your host today on the TJ show. We talked about dealbreakers. What's yours? We'll give you sass as well. And we're going to review the week for you with ribbons and the week in review, but let's get things started with snob city. Theory podcast. What are you kind of a snob about y'all Yang just might be snobs? Some of these things just surprise me. Laura said only eat fresh belly sliced meats cheeses, my husband and kids, whatever. But I just can't eat it unless I know that it's freshly sliced, wow. Lady's name, but she says my skin care my makeup, my brand of toilet paper and paper towels my nam-. What do you not? Wow. Another paper plates. Not only China from me. Yes. You know, I like China. But if you're eating anything that has juice in it. The China is still going to soak that up that's why have to have that little that little coating on the Dixie plates. You know, that's why that's you know, that's the thing because I can eat fried eggs on those things. Sop it up solvable. Best a plastic wrap. Snob Jena said I have such a hard time using anyway that the stuff does end up in balls in the trash glad presencio if I'm feeling super snob. Do I hate dealing with plastic ride? Yeah. I mean audit eighty eight. So I guess I'm a snob. Hire people to do that whenever I need something to have plastic wrap on hire someone to come do that cover it up. You're just a snob. Huge general ridiculous drive. A dodge Stratos. No. The FDA decides said coke just coke. No generic cola. No, orange Nova nila. No, orange vanilla. No Chelsea coke. That's it. Yep. Gosh, I get it savings headset to porterhouse the superior cut of beef for sure. I've never had a porterhouse. It's the full way in the New York strip, mink. Right. What is border house for house? I don't know. I think. Yeah. I think it's the fillet on one side and the it's like a bone, right? I've had Tibo because that just sounds cool. Does even when it's when it's a tragedy. Like, oh, man. He got t-boned at that. Intersection. T-boned is a good work. Right. But I prefer rib eye for flavor. The rest of. Family realized something that I'm about. I don't know how you would phrase this. But I guess I'm listening because I did not enjoy the motley Crue movie the dirt as much as I wanted to. It was it was good great. Yeah. I was a little disappointed because they took some things out of out of sequence out of some things weren't factual for no reason and it balmy out. So I didn't I didn't happen. Tommy Lee had Locklear at an REO speedwagon concert. Not at the party where Vince Neal had the car crash and killed razzle from Hanoi rocks. Why why do we have to do that? Yeah. Get Vince Neal had a different wife, you know, before with his daughter that came she came later. She was the one he was married to when he had that party like that kind of stuff. So I just gotta bummy out and. And. I'm a snob about wives. They have to be pretty. Once my wife cease to be pretty she will begin being homeless. Yeah. Good luck. Now with future. I mean, she's held up for a long time. So, you know. Must have some good genes. But you know, she better have a plastic surgeon on speed dial. You'll be home. If she. Yeah. She wants to stay in the life to which he's a cost. Did you ever find anything yours Naba about Reagan's? I'm now valid. Yeah. Machine. Snob. Catch-up snob. Mayonnaise. All the condiments pretty much kind of a big with people being snobs. Yeah. Cue tips key. Sure. Yeah. No, no off brand cute. The cutest brand suave Noah tissue. I'll go with like a puffs. Or a Kleenex? It doesn't matter to me after the puffs Vic fish you. Yeah. With the vixen it I have to do that Acer are tied to the heart in. I would just. I love them. You don't put it in your nose before you. Go bid every night and not every night anymore. Now, just take the Vicks and just rubs it inside his NAS. Cocaine on it. National never duplicate. It is the TJ in thirty podcast. I'm sure that this is a deal breaker for a lot of the a lot of the ladies or dating sangle out on the scene. Did you just realize this was your dealbreaker says a breaker I realized it couple of days ago? I just kept seeing it more and more and more. What just guys filtering their photos? A huge huge breaker for me. That's interesting because I can't imagine. I've never done it. But every picture that I take my girlfriend. She was what filter you're gonna use. None. I don't I don't really use filter if it's a natural can filter. It's different trying to enhance the photo. But some people that I fall, oh filtered so much that look different. Really? I didn't know that guy's filtered their photos, though. Yeah. I had done follow some of them. You just that annoying. Okay. So you can't even be friends with then this is a frequent thing they posted all the time. Once in awhile as filter. They're all filtered to the max. Oh. And they're all themselves posing and modeling guys shouldn't be doing this just sit down. Okay. Well, I know some because I see him. I don't know him. But I see him on the internet's the social media's some ladies that when they're a little bit older say in their forties and by a little bit older. I mean older than you sass, not not old. But they're not quite sure like the filtering thing is new to them. Right. And they end up looking like caricatures, it doesn't even some paint this picture of you because they just go overboard with it because they're not skilled in the in the use of filtering. And and and what do you it touching up and stuff? But guys, I didn't realize guys did that so much that it would be that annoying. But it is a double standard. You don't care if girls use filters. Yeah. This is not something that a guy should. So you can you can be fake on social media. But he can't I'm not being fake. I'm just adding a filter to a photo. But he can do that. You're you're cleaning it up to me better. Goodness. Well, I'm talking about our guys posing just them and their face is filtered little bit it's edited. And the photo is it just looks like a fake background same thing at my edits hard, just broadening the photo, his or changing, the background the landscape. It's all that ace. Sure, there was some shade. But he's right. She's getting guy can't do it. But I can't. Yeah. I'm just it isn't double standard. I get that. But it's it's a deal breaker. He wanted you to own up to the double standard fake Errol chill out. Gained thirty. So you just heard SAS his biggest dealbreaker, what are your social media dealbreakers? That's coming up next along with the weekend review on the TJ and thirty podcast. Guest. This is the ace and TJ thirty podcast now on demand on ace and TJ dot com TJ app or through heart radio looking for more than juice, clean juice offers smoothies. Also eagles avocado toast, and so much more all USDA, certified organic, go to clean, juice dot com to find a location near you. It's clean juice. Take your journey back in time and get connected funny to an Asian TJ show from the past with a total recall podcast total recall, sponsored by the amazing Valentine hotel and spa in Charlotte. Book your spot, get getaway, the Ballantyne dot com and follow total recall on Twitter, hashtag total recall. Never duplicate it. India says is twenty nineteen if you still use the Polk option on Facebook your cancel. Oh, yeah. People that use the one hundred emoji in their bios, no matter what instantly on followed. One hundred when a guy takes a selfie with a spread out fan of money and then add some corny hashtag like hashtag stacks. I'm sorry. That's one hundred and two dollars in singles my supposed to be impressed. Yeah. I love it. If you're bragging about any or talking about your money, mostly in any way, it's uncouth it's bad manners with you're talking about how much money you've got or whether you run around talking about how little money you've got. It's not it's not good manners. I mean, come so what we're all. After twenty nineteen right is manners. Social media breaker, someone who constantly posts about their Kito, diet hash Kito life. This is just as bad as the cross fit people. We get it. You're being healthy. Now. Shut up. Libby. My pasta. If you share a nasty video of pimple popping unfailing friend. I don't share them. Look at them. But I don't share them. And I'm getting kind of kind of off of that a little bit until I see one come up to watch. Done drugs is this morning. I'm kind of bored with wait. What is that? Back in baby. I cringe when anyone over twenty one has pictures of them flipping off the camera. I'm I'm with that. I've said that for years that I hate that. And I'm going to add one to that now too. If you stick in your tongue out like you're Licken somebody like you're gonna lick somebody's face or something in the in the picture. I'm gonna put that with flipping the camera. You're not a dog. Okay. You're human. Sixty. Oh, don't get me. Started. Too late social shared accounts when friend anyone that has a shared account when you see he is in multiple. My little pony groups on Facebook having a friend at a well pay attention to their groups latest pay attention to their group. What do you call that Regan's Rony a grown? They're tracked it too. The my little pony cranks tractors. People with one hundred emojis and their bios. I'm right there with SAS girl generally uses a filter. It's because she's a little self conscious in the filter makes her feel the picture looks a little better. Normally when a guy uses it as he's vain. Oh. Right. I see makes perfect sense. Okay. Social media deal breaker, if you take a gym selfie every day every once in a while is okay. But there's no need to do it. Every single day. That was a guy or a guy said. Yeah. But. It women. Do you say right there? That's the that's the mindset of a lot of women. The other one about women do it because we're insecure probably because men have made you feel insecure. And so now you have to spruce up your pictures a little bit to feel a little better about yourself men to it because they're ain't. Yeah. Right. It couldn't it all be the same reason. Why guy would do it? What's interesting to me is the number one answer from women in their twenties is guys flipping off the camera. It's it's the most recurring is come up probably four or five times. You look is done. And they're all almost all of them are from women in their twenties saying it stop flipping off the camera. A lot of them Hoed half empty cans of beer too or bottles while they're doing it to even cooler like, ooh, I'm drinking alcohol. You did it. Drinking you made it I like the type of person that brags about having painkillers because they got the wisdom teeth out pretty much. Is not take tax. Your social media dealbreaker? Yes. TJ the rock and roll sign with their tongue out. I got the horns. Man. I see it so much. I love the I don't know how women feel about it. I love whatever it is the the crouch down like deuces pose. You're looking up at the camera like that, you know, the crash kinda sideways. Yeah. One nia. Oh, that's that's never good. Yeah. Arms crossed your member AC years ago. We were asked we were at an event, and there was this site that goes, and they do pictures from local events, and then you go, and you can buy picture if you see yourself in the crowd or where and the guy wanted to take a picture of us, and he he Tokay now when I say three just kinda hold up, you know, throw the deuce out there because that's kind of theme of our pictures. You know, we get everybody to do that. And we wouldn't do it. I can't be doing that. Just hiked to pitch come. Now, we were nice about it. I mean, I wouldn't I got principal and vice principal. At your social media dealbreaker. Lisa says vague booking pray for me. Yeah. I'm you before. Nope. You're gonna have to give me more details before I pray for you. Because you might want me to pray for something. I don't wanna pray for like help you make sure you get this drug deal done. Exactly. You know, maybe you're you want me to pray for you. Because of something you're about to do and you need, quote, unquote, the big guy to look over. If you calling him the man upstairs of the big guy that the deal breaker for me. Dealbreaker? He has kids. But there are no social media pictures of him with his kids. Guys got kids, but you're looking on his Instagram at his Twitter. Whatever you can't find a picture of him with those kids anywhere. That's not a good. All right. Let's worse. Not seeing a picture of his kids or hit him PLO. His posting pictures with his kids, but filtering the kids and Photoshop in them the keys. Thirty. In. This is my song. It's called the week in review. It's a week's worth of shows summarize for you know, special effects. No auto tune just me and my guitar performing for you vice president Joe Biden says he's going to be more mindful. He says he needs to be more aware. Joe it's ton about being more mindful. Just stop sniffing people's aired. It doesn't take any mindfulness. 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Instagram Relationships with Jena Frumes

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Instagram Relationships with Jena Frumes

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Podcast where you get the sticky in the suite with summer and Amanda and today we have Joe having the thanks for coming. You Look Gorgeous. I love these pajamas. Yes merge is Lincoln Bio Right now league. Where are we? Where is this? Yeah and then if you're driving listen to us on podcast link and Oh hunting in the diary dot com go. Well you look great and you started online right. I started online with our friends bad storm. And then yeah definitely who both have been on here. Oh really yeah recently. Yeah you started started doing funny skits and then I met everybody. I've met probably used through all of them. And batch and Kinda when. Everybody transitioned to Instagram. When instagram was a fifteen second videos. Yeah he went there then I and then and then into fitness thing. Yeah For a while fitness. And that's how we met summer and we started doing fitness things together and I try to get a summer booty but in the summer work about this all the time. I know me and Johnny's doing all the time back like we've known each other forever and it's like she'd watched me workout. She's like Damn you actually were how sweating guys hung out in so long because she forgot about me so not true does move to La who am anymore. I'm just GonNa life just happen. We've never not stayed in charge. Like Jenas always like one of the most supportive friends I've ever had. She's great. She's Lillian a one day. Lunch always is like no matter. What like I didn't even get my own calendar. The first year I ever had a calendar in genetic I ordered your calendar and then he never got it. I went over to her house was never got. I never saw him person. Can I see it? And then she's like. Oh you can have it because I never got one. I was like fire. Calendar in these actually buys up. I'm like she's just so like she does all. This is so supportive and sweet and we both have extra cars. Cars are super loud. So they're gonNA love the other day and I saw her peak will usually change the same one as the same the same G. Okay Yeah Yeah I love it. It's like yeah 'cause girls don't have those type of cars Mercedes Audis Audis and we're like girly. But we're tomboys clicks not afraid to get dirty we will both love. Don't work out as hard as her. But I still like to. Animals like I've hundred Tarantula my whole life and then she's had a snake is when over to her house and like just random similarities. Here I know I love animals. I love animals. Been super into the wildlife. Liaoning talk more on Washer. I really So I've been looking with friends and doing different. Animal Conservation Works I'm learning a lot. I'm not I'm not GonNa sit here and act like I know everything. Yeah basically my first trip. I went to Honduras and we got like Jaguar interactions and like different types of monkeys spider monkeys. And we Kinda just learn about them because all of the big cats are endangered. Yeah so I also have been linking with a organization called Tigers and basically there with rare species fund. So what they do. Is They fun? Projects like one of the projects they did was. They built a village for people in Africa. And so they built the village away from where the guerrillas and the apes we're living so there was no conflict because they're tearing down their territory and then they have nowhere to live. And it's like you know we got to save wildlife then. Yeah we're reproducing crazy but then you have animals that are you there a danger. Yeah I work a lot with the UN wildlife. And like that's like it's crazy because even you know see life to which is it's everything and even if you're picking one animal to support our won the 'cause like it's great and just spreading. The awareness is amazing. And that's why I'm like. We always post pictures all the pictures acute and Moawad. But it's it's cool to post something and then there'd be you're helping something. Yeah with the tiger situation like a lot of people don't know that there's only four thousand world. Yeah so it's like when you post something like that they're like oh my gosh. She's not only with acute tiger. But wow there's only four thousand left in the world what you get the attention you give the facts at school. It works. I would love to do honestly because I'm obsessed with animals like that's like my favorite thing in the world. I love to visit some. Do you should use your favorite animal. Cheetahs that's funny you said that because the Cheetah was the one that are like very spunky kind of unpredictable you can kind of I mean the people who are around them every day kind of no. But it's like I was around one and I was like okay again. You would definitely love the experience ever WanNa do that links again and go on these wildlife trips then rekindle the plane like matchmaker. I always love to do something like that but I don't even know how to get into West. Exactly that's how I was and then I like just different friends. That did it. And I'm like kill because you do a lot with Tarzan yeah he saw the first trip that we went on to Honduras so that kind of like opened my eyes tremendously because I was just like. Wow we can really like do this. We can travel places and like see these animals and learn it because you learn the most when you get to interact and like People have their feelings about it like you. Shouldn't you know but I don't deal with any animals that are on drugs or anything. I don't want that I would never support any. You know that stuff is just wrong. And you'll know they look because I went to Thailand and it was like we cried because it was like the Tigers were drugged and like you got. Some girls are like Oh my God take this picture with the Tigers. Like yeah and this is sad. Because it's like make that choice one thing if they're in captivity and being taken care of and you know able to run but they're in cages. It gets confusing to for people because a lot of zoos now promote that you know we're rescue is like is that just like a word like how organic is thrown on things again. We're rescues so that's what was really tough for me because I was just like How do you know what to support him to support? Because there is some zoos that do give back to wildlife. And then but it's like you just need to definitely pay attention to how they're being building candidate research. Yeah you do. You have to do research. And that's one thing that I learned 'cause I've spoken on things before and not been one hundred percent and it came back to bite meaning tail but like you just have to realize like okay just be open minded and willing to learn and you learn a lot I'm happy that you've gone into. That's Amazing Yeah. I always see your post like all. It makes me happy like it really does. I WanNa get like you said more into the the water Those creatures I recently went to Hawaii and we saw sea turtles asleep on the beach and it was like the most unreal experience because it just happened right. And there's so much to do with the trash all back together lady seen like the whale that they opened up and it was just full of tons of plastic. Yeah because he probably just ingested because they're so big it's luck but it's a realization of like how much is in our oceans. It's crazy so when you see videos of like trash the oceans of that's something I would. There's islands Josh in something. Where like cleaning beaches because so many beaches are so horrible like you see. You can't even believe it and I should do that. Oh y'all like I'll be out there. Clean it yeah. I just went to Ghana and In Africa and I saw the beaches out there and I was just. It was funny because we were out one night. So we're drinking hanging out BOBA and like the way. The bar like club was set up. You could see the ocean Sounds like okay oh my the oceans are amazing. I look out plastic along the whole beaten and like they don't really realize like that's not okay like everybody doesn't know some people are ignorant to it. Well it's immed- cycling program and they found out Burn Trash and I'm like you can't burn your cash if there's plastic in it because it goes into the area and that's what contaminates the animals and the this all education and it's like people have to literally come in to these places to and bring ways for them to recycle like bring. Even when I was I was in the Maldives. Visiting this one resort. That everything was put back into the island. So it's like okay like they tried to use the island but get back to the island at the same time and then also pro- provide ways to recycle for the neighboring islands as well as good because they're so used to just throwing things in the ocean because in their minds they were raised that thing. Oh the ocean is our trash can. And we don't they don't swim in a lot of them. Don't even know oddly when so. They're like they're not. They didn't have that interaction with the ocean that they could appreciate the ocean and the education like being when you raised a certain way. It's like even in the US so it's like a lot of people don't know how to recycle or you know even where it goes and it's sad because some of the recycling doesn't even get research. That's what I was saying with the plastic bottles. I don't even want to use them anymore. I WANNA get a water you know. What are those calls today? Yeah I'm like I was like Dang I looked at my recycling. Wow half of these bottles aren't GonNa make it in cycling. Probably right I mean I put them in the recycling bin but if you know like what is what do they say like a third only makes something and yeah. They don't know where to what to do with all because people aren't recycling correctly either. Yeah I'm putting trash trash trash like food. Yeah Yeah you clean it out. Yeah we'll have a whole like in description below this video. We'll have a whole way on how to recycle to do it because it doesn't even you know it's not taught in school re really. It's just saying recycle. Okay what does that mean? Yeah I think it's just really not educated not educated. They don't have was in Bali too so I think it's all around is like they have like runoffs in the US. The runoffs like the streams and it runs off into the ocean. You use it as their trash like. They're dumping stuff into it. And then it's going into the ocean like we're in this resort next to a run off and it smelt so bad it was like discussing. Then you didn't want to be in the beach because it hurts tourism to for these for the country's yeah people would love to come here until they see this beach Just like not getting the people to understand like okay. This is important because and then so they have that love for the environment too but then also just providing ways and education for them how to understand how to do it but even when I was in India like I saw a lot of like litter everywhere and I understand it's not a priority like when in their lives are just trying to survive to a lot of the people so it's like are you. WanNa tell me about a water bottle when I'm decide here trying to feed you. Yeah but then they see that it ties into tourism and that tourism will bring feed your kids. Yeah I was up I was like what about the idea of in India's say like all right you know how when we were little and they still have it where you can go to the grocery stores and you recycle the bottles and he'd get money for them like have them literally everywhere in India and then people just have to pick up the streets and put it in and they get money out job. Yeah they do it with like scooters and everything now to recharge them so why can't they do it with water bottles but it's a big investment from like. Yeah it's like what if they can give all like. I'm just stuck on India. 'cause I was there and I just like experienced it so and it's a beautiful country but it's just like that one thing I was like we can improve on that and then they gave everybody free Internet over there which is incredible because that provides awareness and education to the right way but if they can do that they can put money into other things. So it's just figuring out the priorities. The trip to India looked amazing by the way amazing. Right only forever. Just GonNa talk about this. This is amazing though. She told me she had to learn. Eight-minute dance all that stuff and I saw the video. I'm like pitch. That look like you were like practicing your whole life I well. Let's love relationships as good gone out there. That scrape laying it up a bit and dive into the honeypots honey. This is where our queen bees and our king vs right there diary entries into us at Diary Otani Diarrhea Dot Com and then they ask us for advice. Cool Stan read the first one so I'll honey. My first serious relationship ended badly. I'll tell you the brief story. I started dating my high school sweetheart and I thought we were really in love. He was a year older than I am and he went away to college. I when I went to go visit him in college. I was still a senior in high school. I felt like everyone was looking and acting weird around me but I figure that they were just awkward because I was still in high school a couple months later on winter break. My boyfriend came home and broke up with me. I was devastated but even more devastated. When I found out that he had been cheating on me the entire semester that he was in college. That's why everyone had been weird towards me every time I would visit him. The worst part is that now two years later and I still haven't gotten over the heard of it every time I start to get more serious with the Guy. Freak out that he is cheating on me and they ruined everything I self sabotage it. Because they can't trust anyone. Have you ever been cheated on? And how do you get over it Jenny? Oh that's yeah. I've been in a situation actually very similar to that did you did you on this engine. Jenny. How TO WHY COVER NO Yeah I've been in a similar situation to that and you do have to realize that you can't blame yourself Because often you want to blame yourself like well. What did I do wrong? And you try to dissect the relationship and figure out where you went wrong when really like as a when a man is going to college. That's a big life change and I had nothing to do with her but I feel like with that. It was just like 'cause like my situation was my ex. Basically started to play really well. He was an athlete. Started to play really well and then I think he just got caught up in all of that. And then you know decided to be with another girl and I think that that just like I said it had nothing to do with me and I thought it did for a while so like every time a red flag like any guy I was dating like recently still like I still battle it but like You you start to think. Oh my God he's been you can't you can't blame. Jim for what Jack did. Because you'll never be You'll never be happy. You'll never find peace can. Yeah so you just have to take each situation for what it is. You can't bring your past and that's how I feel about it. That's what I took out of it. Yeah Yeah Yeah and it's also the whole college thing. I think that happens a lot. Yeah like especially coming so many options to and you've never been around with this guy it's like and then you like on your old thing. It's like maybe long distance. It seemed like long distance because she would visit him like she's not around and he's seen all this news fresh me and she didn't relate to his lifestyle anymore lifestyle change. So it's like it's it's not as relatable it's like she's in high school. He's in college like have you guys been to college. Okay so think about when you go to college and it's just like a different. It's like freedom and you can kind of do what you want you know. So it's just like the first time too because you you move out of number of your parents house is like a fresh new. You feel like free like in. That old girlfriend is probably making him feel chained into so now like he wants to break free of everything and he's probably like in college now. It's like Oh my little high school girlfriend number girls. Now I like I can totally relate. I just this is a great sign for you the fact that you will forget about it because I forgot about it. I just about it like when I went to college. My boyfriend was a year older than me but he didn't go to college and he stayed. Back Down South in Florida. And then so when I when I was like. Oh this is fun in college but instead of me being the one like doing stuff like cheating on him it was like him back home he never cheated on me but like I could see him building a relationship with one of his co workers and I was like Oh and I remember that feeling because there's literally nothing that you can do about like somebody falling in love with somebody else do so and I'm so far away to WHO's how can I blame him like we're so young and I just remember though the I was hurting so bad. I still remember that feeling now that I think about it remember thanks Jenny. Just being in the room and just feels like somebody literally just like stabbed. Yeah break like literally feels physical. Say to me and my mom always say this. I'd rather have a legit broken leg than a broken heart. Broken Harvey Hurts more than the broken leg. It's like it's longer and you can. There's nothing you can do to like. You know you can take healing time the healing and Numb your leg and you can get him painkillers. But there's no like painkiller for a broken heart. Yeah what did though was. I didn't bring that pain into my next relationship. I gave myself enough time to get over him before. Getting into something new and that meant like going out like just like just trying to do anything not to think about it because it was like devastating painkiller actually a little bit you try to like go out sometimes and will and sometimes they never worked for the moment and then you end up. And he'll yeah no because of the party's over and you're in your thoughts and you're like. Dow You go home. You like. That would have been okay. Well that was fun but I had more fun with him. I just huge party. I don't like to party so when I go. I'm just looking around. I'm looking at all the guys on like getting disgusted. I'm like Oh God forever here here. I'm not going to be there but said you have to give yourself and it's yourself you can't make comparisons like well my friend over hers right away but like you definitely have to like just like how you feel. It might take you a year Martini to might take you three. But definitely you gotTA leave Your Heart. Open define to find his way in. But I'm just like in a trance right now with how pretty you are. I know you're not I'm over here like y'all look like looking over that your lip gloss is like Oh always popping. Yeah there's never ever seen this bitch day in here guys. Like only like sh actually. Yeah read this makeup. I was like I'm going to be with these. Pretty girls need to really you know. I love how around her makeup matches Jim. Yeah I try to. I try to do pink. Most girls get here. They bring their like. They change into in the bathroom because they WANNA weird okay. No no matter what I've been wanting to wear this do. Are you a number relationship right now? No I'm not yeah. I'm not that old dates. I actually am open to it but I actually like went on a couple of dates with somebody and they were just boring. Yeah I'm very like adventurous. Yeah so if you're scared you're hanging out with Cheetahs and yeah I like and then also tomboyish so there's some guys that I've noticed a lot in la they want that girl who's just like Pretty Gucci and doesn't speak too much. I'm kind of outspoken. And like they're entitled to my car barefoot like system stuff that I'll do that people will like cringe it and I'm like okay. Well Yeah for me. I'M NOT GONNA. I used to try to change myself. You're going to meet somebody traveling. I may yeah. That's probably what's GonNa Happen. Yeah I just I love like I'm really like more in tune with nature now like learning like even what you just told me about the glass bottles. I'm like okay. That's a great idea. I need to do that I like I just want to be a sponge and just learn doing reading late. She loved either. No so remember my book spell Dude Long. There's nothing better than I collect them. So when you learn life is just so much more interesting when you educate yourself. You're like I understand this like you see from a different view. Only think about your point of view all the time You just get lost when I read a book even some some stuff. I don't agree with all read the book and I'll be like okay. Well I see why somebody might think like that so it opens your mind a little bit so you don't get vainly Amanda. It's like see I think seeing things from a different perspective that I just being in my own mind you know just be hanging out with different people that have different views and doesn't mean that her views wrong or my views wrong. It's just different views. Us have to be open to like the way. Because you might not agree but like when you wouldn't you don't have to agree not Jay Z. Will Smith and Jada Pinkett. Like what did they say they were like when they would argue they? I know what you're saying is that it's so beautiful. That's why I don't WanNa do. I Love I love. I Love Them. They're so inspiring. I love when she talked me. Why watchers saying we're perfect. She's not saying we never argue what she saying. When we do argue we try to see where each other is coming respecting so we can you know fix the problem and be like okay? Well I understand where you're coming from. So yeah let's work on that she's like instead of screaming. We're talking exactly. Yeah she's she's very empower like. She's an empowering women. Yeah and that's one thing would you say in La? It's like hard to find women that support women. Yes yes I yeah I feel like it's there's a lot that will but I feel like there's a lot that will to an extent. Yeah right so it's like you don't WanNa see too much money. If you do like who good. It's kind of like the fallback or like I need to like You know distance myself so I can shine more or like something like that and I'm just like we go all there's enough success for us to all win and honestly it looks better. And it looks less self-centered when you're winning with your friends like to me up. There's enough I wanNA travel alone. It'd take cool Piccolo like I want to travel with my friends and like build memories but like everybody's not doesn't have that mindset out here. Yeah it's very competitive it is. That's a good word. Yeah it's like survival. Almost they're like. Yeah but you don't have so many fun when you're with other people I feel like so it's just like I mean I love my time. Don't get me wrong like it's so much fun when you can like go out with girls and do an experience or like horseback riding or skydiving. I did that so much fun. Like if I would've went alone it would have been like together of logging. It making it a thing. That's fun I like that perspective on bogging though because I have like. I'm not comfortable with doing it to other people but I'll be in other people's and I'll be fine. You know so for me. It was like not a positive experience of doing it just because also I just. It wasn't a negative experience but it was like kind of like this hosts and like I just didn't care you know and for you you you might even like. I don't like Blah. I don't like having a camera. I don't like being that girl pulling out a camera all the time when you can have somebody do it for you. Save somebody's life. You have a camera man. That's like blogging. Like my tongue. Men those those people who like a crew that can like blog their whole situation. Because then you get to have fun. You're not worried about playing. You're not having to worry about this. Most of it is mental of having to remember because a lot of the Times all like oh I wish I got that on camera you know. And then you didn't and then you gotta get like the little op kicks like we need to have in and just put them on this in just record everything. Yeah yeah but I mean that's what makes it. I also think that a lot of people like the the personal because we are holding is more personal and they feel like you're talking to them because it's a more personal experience when someone's blogging for you following you around. It's not as personal. I just feel like it's more you wouldn't somebody's following you. They capture the real. You like when you're like this you kind of put on a show. Yeah you're like youtubers do put on a show you a lot of youtubers in real life. And they're not the same. I liked them more and we were talking about that. In fact that is the show. Okay guys let's get to our second question sticky. Oh honey dip into honeypot penny honey. Hey what's up? Marquez Brownlee Here Aka hd let me borrow your ear for a second to tell you about my podcast wave form over the past decade. I've been reviewing all kinds of tech on youtube everything from smartphones to tablets electric cars to headphones two. Tv's and everything in between put even with over a thousand plus videos. I've always found. There's more to talk about so way. Form comes to you in the form of a chat show between myself and Co host Andrew Manganelli longtime member of the team where we discussed everything. We haven't had the chance to dive into in the videos. So we've pulled back the curtain and talk about how we look at new tech behind the scenes on actually making the videos will chat with fellow creators and guests and do mini reviews of pretty much anything with an on button. There's rants it's all way form. So that sounds interesting to you. You can find us on spotify apple podcasts or anybody. Listen catch over there okay. So my story my name is Brittany. Twenty five and I'm a PhD student from New York. Just setting the scene so about a month ago one of my Guy. Friends of two years has admitted his interest in me. I'm flattered but to be honest. He couldn't be more in the friend zone. He just to better for me so I let him know. I don't see him that way. Well he has become obsessed with trying to change my mind in the most sprit two attempts ever only making him less attractive to me. I'm to the point where I can't even stand talking to him anymore because it's annoying and I've never felt more turned off by person so basically am I just a bitch Rushdie friend or is it reasonable for me just to stop talking to him. Thanks a girl who just wants a DOPE ASS. Alpha to be a power couple with sounds all these. I feel y'all win in my head and kind of like no but that sounds so familiar to dealt with I don't think you're a bitch like asking. What did YOU Somebody questions because if you expressed to him that like you're not interested in being romantically involved with him and he's your friend. He should accept that. But the thing with the male ego is they don't accept either. Try Harder or they house. You don't want to be my girl not the challenge. They either a challenge or they think it's you being mean and they're just like oh no like. I can't even be her friend. I've had to not be friends with a lot of guys just happened to a lot of guys yet into over this. It's like why do we have to be weird now? All of a sudden they're weird. It's like I just wasn't interested. I love you as a person. I love you as a friend. But I don't see you as that and I never. I'll never be happy. I'll what we date for two seconds and then I really. I don't like Jews. Sorry I'm not GonNa like fake it but I do love you as a person. Yeah exactly and it's like legit like friendships of like. They stopped being friends with you because of their ego or whatever it hurts. Because it's like I really love you and I care for you as a friend Lake and it always like this with the guy and like I've told him like my romantic situation so I opened up to you about that once. I open to you about that. I'm probably not ever going to be your friends and you wish like sometimes I have the best guy friends ever. They're like I love my best friend. I would consider them my best friend. Then they get weird then they fall in love and then it's weird. It's like what did I tell you everything and like when people get in relationships and then they just like x. out their friends. Yeah like that's like to me. Why yeah you can still friends you can have friends of different sexes really fine just the world we live in the world. We live in it. Just think like I'm the opposite segue if I take a picture with a guy it's like. Oh y'all are dating and Blah Blah Blah. I was. I was dating longest time. Apparently all right Remun- rice like a whole relationship rumour we had we had a new relationship name. I'm known to a lot of people as Rice's girlfriend. I'm like I would never think that links now we're friends. We're we've never been friends and we've always been friends but we kind of just was like I was to the point where it's like. I don't WanNa be like no. We're not hating dating all the time. So whatever you want for life that's how it is. You don't WanNa be like that and defend offend rice. Yeah brother though like you my brother. Y'All are making a real hard for friends on skidding but you think it always zone like do you think you put rice in the Ferenza. I literally I literally love him as a human as a brother like one tickets that point in my mind when I see you too much as that I can't go back. I don't know why like you're but did you start with him. Trying to him of always been friends only like literally. He's that you know like he's yes some of the guys like I like you and your friend and the friend's into like like Nope I love you and then I think a lot of the time you WanNa friends people because you don't WanNa lose them guys all right and then let's give it a chance and then you hit each other. It's awkward. We can never be exactly exactly and then it's like a ruin legged tech to ruin it like even if there's a one percent chance and we'll never have the same relationship that we have right now. Why would you want to risk? It is ego go. It's always the Kaiser. Thing guys always have a alternative motive. Everyone's like they don't Wanna be your friend and we're no they're like in the guys kind of we're like we're like no he's not he's my friend. I wonder if like any guy. That's a friend with a girl that's gorgeous is like would be like. Yeah I would if she if she would but if not the no. I mean like I feel like. That's what they think. Devon usually in General Nasser. I respect the ones who don't yeah because at the end of the day. I'm sorry especially me with my personality. You'll know if I like you in that way. You don't need to press because you'll know one of the most annoying things as as if you tell a guy that you have a girl are girlfriend or boyfriend and then they still continue to hit on you and you're like and they almost think of it like alive a Goldfish and if I were talking about things that don't matter yeah. No it matters. It matters Goldfish and I take care of my goldfish and as we sit friend. You're hoping that they'll respect that. Like like Oh yeah okay respect. They don't they think of as a challenge like oh well you can have friends. Yeah Yeah Yeah okay say a guy comes up to you for your number somebody. I'm like no I have a boyfriend. I wasn't asking to be your boyfriend. I was asking for your number. I'm like Rude as you can't even be my friends. If you want to get into your intent intent. I was trying to get a I wanNA be your friend. What about a lot of friends? I don't need this is really wants to be your friend. They're gonNA come up too and be like they want. How am I was like like treat me like I say girls and being like we've had a lot of that in our lives so we know we can get the vibe right away literally? I know the VIBE. I'm sure there's girls that do that to me is like just go up and be like. Oh you have a girlfriend. I don't care they don't vocalise it though it's different it's different. Yeah going back to like. How guys have those intentions. That's why it's hard for a lot of girls to have let their boyfriends have girls as friends because in our heads being friends with dudes they sometimes have ill intentions not saying everyone not saying everyone but the majority of the time you know there are people and bad people like that can actually legitimately just be friends and never have that tent but majority of guys do in the back of their head have other attention. Yeah for sure yeah. Every relationship is different every person that is like you can do what it's all day and like every but at the end the day is person to person Bo. We're talking about general sense. The general population. I have like some guy friends that know like it would never end it works. They're not like best best friends with it works. You can be just friends with guys times. It's hard for sexually fun because you get the real them the real guy you get to learn about guys like you get to learn more. It's kind of like like with Bat. Like I love having batch as a friendship. Like he's real. He'll be honest. I bring like guys stuff to him and he'll be like. Oh yeah no he. He'll be honest and you'll get a real guys perspective about it so it's that but yeah. I think that's really cool to have yeah. I was thinking a lot of times. It's hard to like the guys of defense that do like fall in love because you were spending that much time together. You guys are together all the time. You know everything about each other like you'd be perfect if we just love each other but it's like ants. They're probably like in love with you helplessly in love and they can't help it because they're like your girlfriend. It's I think it's harder for the person that's in love like whether it's the guy or girl does go both ways. But because their best friend. That's a Dude. And they're like Oh you're gonNa go both ways really care like a sister to me. Yes Oh really. Don't touch the MIC listeners. Like Oh shut up. I'm Ben these by this episode. There like we hate summers laugh. No Dude Times is a laugh important for you in a relationship like if somebody had like crazy law. I just made me laugh because I have a lot of friends have. We're in like the more they laugh. I laughed more because their life is crazy. I love I like that's different. I was down the street and I heard some. I'd be like Oh this summer. Yeah I was telling batch like a ago that his life is getting louder and sure he was like an is like yeah over time. It got louder and shorter like he wants to make more of an impact with shorter time. He's busier and even period. Because you gotTA TAX VINE HIS DEAD BATCH. You don't got ashore in minutes on. Id Story were true. Endless endless amount of time. Do you have any pets? I just have Mardi right now. I had Marley'S MAY SNEAK. Well all right but I had a dog and I actually had to put him up for adoption. 'cause he was a psychopath. Really what type of dog? He was a French bulldog. Okay yeah a lot of energy you just. He was untrainable. I had him for like two and a half years. And he's not potty trained. Yeah he would go to the extent of peeing on my bed. Yeah and I think I think traveling a lot had a lot to do with that then the day like it's not fair to him either because he didn't have a consistent schedule. Mommy home all the time so like I would. You know have friends watching and although he was treated really good. It's just like I think that. Kinda confused him so use. A little rebellious happened hands on yet. You need somebody. That's home all the time I you know and traveling I know firsthand. Traveling and having dogs is the hardest thing in the world like ice stress so heavily about trying to find like 'cause you know it's like you have someone that's watching them and then they're out of town or something and that's a new person that's like those are my babies. It's like finding a baby sitter literally and you're gonNA weeks two weeks. I need to make sure my babies are okay. When you pay your pet up for adoption are you able to keep up with the process of it getting into this? I actually went on this website for what it was called but it was like a pet adoption website. Like you can chat with the people you can meet with them set up meats and oh so you're the one yeah put the girl and she had a Pomeranian and they got along really good and I was like. Oh my God both black so like Medford for that. None of the world where you know people know yet. So they're super cute together. I was like super excited so I was like okay. Let's do a test run. I'm going Outta town for two weeks and you just take them and they get along. She called me like three days later lake. Your dog is a psycho you need to come get him. I was like really. I'm in Another country so I really can't and she was like well. Don't you have a friend but my friend had just had a baby so Jada newborn and I was just like this was stressing me out because I was working like I couldn't leave and I'm like see. This is why I was nervous about giving him up so eventually. She texted me a few days later and she was like okay for thing. We worked everything out. It's fine. I think it's going to be fine really so I mean that was that but you're actually really freak out heavily. I'd be like no. You're not having him for what I wanted to do. And then she she disappeared. Yeah so it kind of hurt because like you know he was a gift so like I kind of want to be like you know still communicate and see if he's doing good like I bought them Christmas gifts and she wouldn't link up with Mir anything so it's kind of sad stuff you'll see ESCO let me know let me. She's good because it was unfortunate so next time I will make sure that I go to like a friend and somebody and then. She said she moved so she was like. I'm live downtown. La Or something like that and she's like I moved and I'm like we were wearing praying for him though. I think he's good. I think he's happy. She said that she was home a lot. So that's what I was really concerned about. Something like he's and her other dog pilot finding a healthy and yeah no. The other dog was super happy. So it's like a great she and that's go was the gift right and then so it's like all right like I got a dog now. Now you can time it on your own thing when you're ready for a dog because I really wasn't ready. I really wasn't but I wanted you know how like a part of me wants something and then you're like I'm really not ready for it but then somebody gets it now. I have no choice but to your. He was accused of remember. I was I'm like happy's and dogs and everything. Yeah he was accused he no. He has so much energy like rascal. He snorted like he was so excited. He'll jump up on your shoulders crazy. The all over the place where here. He broke his leg like the first couple months. I had him. He jumped out of my car really not while it was moving. Yeah Oh my gosh we broke his Houston sprint with the cast realized. I was always concerned for him. Like doesn't that her he will let you. Do you like switching topics completely. Do you have a type? Do I have titan trying to get all the information I can. Yeah like tell me more I feel like. I don't 'cause if I leave lineup. My exes are not really. I like somebody who I like people who are answers. Go some wrong. You're a gold digger. But I do you know I want somebody who can do for me what I can do for myself. You know what I'm saying like I don't want to pay anybody's rent You know like I'm yeah. No that's a that's just that's for sure. Yeah no I don't I don't care if people say call me whatever for it but like but I mean the people that I'm around that's who I'm around anyway on. I wouldn't surround myself around people who are not trying it's not that is not even about the money mindset is about like are you. You're content with like a bad bad credit score you're content with you know not paying your car payments like your content with not going to work like. I don't like that that I think what the tree is people who sleep in. Yeah that's like an automatic turnoff. You sleep past eight o'clock done out of here no against ex. Yeah it's like I know that because I was like to somebody who did and it was a turn off. I was like I don't like it. So you'd like somebody WHO's motivated goal oriented so you're not a gold digger. You're a gold digger. Well Yeah and people that you know have realistic passions open minded people. Because I like for a long time. I wasn't so now that I am like this is amazing. Meet somebody and they're not open minded like this is one thing if you're scared or like you express yourself. Let's go skydiving. I'm not going skydiving or is like rather you'd be like okay so when you went skydiving. Yeah like how did it happen like ask questions and then make your decision? Don't just be like I'm not doing that. People like that. Yeah bothers me so somebody. That's open minded entrepreneur. Yeah and also motivated passionate And you are looks a thing. Yeah I mean. Attractions always applaud. That definitely sparks the interest. I feel attracted to somebody. I don't 'cause I can directed and you guys have a fight. You're like I'm out like getting along but then you gotTa Keaton is like. Oh He's cute kind of keeps you around back. Thought leave but don't leave because damn your goes the other way too of like means somebody you're not attracted to you and then you get to know and then you are attracted you're done when you're in love with somebody regardless if the attraction physically is what sparked you guys you like when you're in love. Nobody is cuter than that person. That you're you're never there's no like ten whoever can walk passing. You're you're like okay late. Yeah and that that's A. That's a person that I like to take is not all everyone has like as a person I want to talk with the general meaning that mindset of like no one's better no one's no one can be. It doesn't matter how much year though. That's that's the thing like I think that every girl guy. Everyone needs to be someone who thinks that they're the most beautiful person in the world. I guess the question is if personality didn't exist in only looks what would what would I want a guy to look like yeah What would spark the interest? I like a nice smile for a nice hairline. Dude hair on the neck hairlines. That's like a big bold so I would rather bald than I find your hairline. That's like right here. Yeah Right. We're trying to hide. His Bald is all like embracing this. I'm like he is the confident and it looks good on yet. But like if you're just even guys and then guys who don't value like personal hygiene because like you could not be the cutest guy but like if you're like showtime guy who's like not that cue and then you smell like just like other. Nell good haircut Nice Hygiene Nice T- Just put together. Yeah puts him so? That's the best software dated guys like this data skinny guy. So I'm like I can't really say like build like yeah. I like guys who value fitness though. Yeah sure because like I can't be waking up in the morning and going to the gym I thing and you're still like I can't be in your body you're going to like one like because you were around your influenced by them so if this person doesn't care about their health and their ordering pizza and like you have health and fitness goals. It's like no liked doesn't work. It gives you off track. Then you're laments my life or pushes you to be better. Ackley elevates you yes. I haven't found that yet. Ideally what I would hit a gentleman number is your previous dog. Her links in the description below if you match this description below. Y'All better not have ideas lead. I'm just not ready for I am. I'm a nice here line. That's the question to how can a guy ever and you like your address but like I wanna get to know you like and they want a chance at you. How how did they get? This is like a dating show now like well. That's a good question because if a guy has a crush on a girl unsocial approach because sliding into the DMZ like. I don't WanNa be that guy. Yeah but it's just talking about this. There's a way to slide in the you know what I'm saying like you don't say etiquette. I think the best thing I actually turn my story off because it was just excessive story. Replies cool you can send a post like if somebody sends my post demands like. Oh my God I love how you put that together or like. Oh this is fire like where is this conversation? Yeah it's real it's about you. It's kind of like you're interested when you just say. Hey it's like there's no substance behind. Hey you already damned five of my friends with that same thing and I know because I asked them. Yeah like a chain of the emojis if it's Emoji land. I know it's been sent before. So if it's like if it catches my eye like if it's like something creative source personal sorry I hit the might then like you know it's it's about you. It's not about anybody else and like even if they did. Dm somebody before. At least they took the time to like. Make it specific about you when they do you know. So that's kind of my etiquette on damning on sliding in the vice now emojis no. Dp's he's no automated block yeah. Dvd TIKI man is always very politically correct. And I'm like dig. Pigs limiting them. Out of buzzes. You have a lot of work. I'm very bulger. No you're not. You're actually okay. Today is because we're like yeah. She's bouncing off. The energy felt like she would be like our last podcast with Bradley. Very Vulgar. Really after all these podcasts. Though you and I are going to be learning so many new things and a lot of different perspectives. Everyone's so different okay. It's interesting able answering questions have full on conversations with our friends that usually like when we see each other. It's always like hey you love your makeup surface. Yeah there's no substance to the dams. Hey you're the GM's all the time now. We're getting personal. We're swimming pools nice. We won't have to go on an adventure soon whether it's like a hike or something do something fun and active in. Love them talking a lot so we need to go some beaches together guys. We actually Sam Colder actually posted. Something like challenging people because you know like people post photos for likes all the time like okay. Hookah Post the photo with the most garbage that they cleaned up off the beat. Some people are doing it and I think it's really cool thing that he started and it's funny because I had just gone a thing I was like okay. Perfect I'm going to promote this too. So bored get off or if you WANNA take a picture social go billion trees. I was saying with the Musk family. They had planned to see day. They guaranteed day for everybody to just go out and have a social media moment of them like planting seeds and I went and I did it with a bunch of children and brought me back to like middle school and how that was like one of the most memorable things I had for middle. School is when everybody would like go out. We were lucky enough. Art My middle school had like a greenhouse and everybody would go and like plant seeds and it was so much fun that like. I don't know if kids are learning that nowadays. They're like this. Yeah Yeah. Yeah it's like googling. How do you plan to see? They're not actually plenty of seats physically. Learn how to do it. And that's that's what like are this new generation. What DO THEY CALL IT generation z? That's what they're lacking is they're lacking the actual physical skills like you know. Yeah you can go well how to do something or watch it to`real and figure out how to do it but the more they see somebody doing this is what I say is like people celebrities get hate when they put out there that they're doing good but that's what inspires other people to do good and see that it is. It is cool to do. Good things the coolest thing if you don't do anything and then when you actually post that you do like oh you're just doing this to post it and it's like you can't win so you just gotTa get you can't win for the homeless people and then all of a sudden. Wow you're doing. Some of those were excessive. Though is like an exception to everything stating but I work with a nonprofit called how the soul and what we do is we get donations. And we liked disperse them through downtown. La The Covenant House like different Places where kids go so I feel like we have a cameraman and we ask permission. If like if it's okay if document. Yeah we don't be like high like sometimes they want to be a minute and leader. Some kids are wrappers or whatever. And we'll be like. Oh let's give you a moment so it'd be like okay. He's going to wrap for you on that but it's just we're just. Interacting has nothing to do with us giving them the shoes a moment. Yeah but like those moments like. I've never really received hate on that the way to do it. So there's a way you can do it to Be Genuine. Yeah and and make people inspire other people to do that and be like. Oh that's cool. Let's do that and there's a way to do it. Hey guys look how amazing. I'm such a good person. Yeah we homeless for Christmas and Thanksgiving every year to Venice beach and I feel like a lot of people do come out for that social media our because I'm like it's crazy because now there's so many people that come it's more volunteers than it is. Homeless people become become like. I just hope y'all are being genuine. Yeah with what you're doing. As long as like their efforts you know. Yeah at the end of the day as long as you're putting effort in great like as long as you're helping with that situation your intent behind it doesn't really matter unless you're as long as you're doing it so. I mean I encourage people to be genuine but at the same time. Like as long as you're doing a great you know is better than the opposite. Yeah we'll keep doing good guys and we love you so much for watching this podcast mcsherry. You subscribe to our youtube honey podcast and you can listen to us on spotify tunes. Just listen to us on the go. And if you're watching Yoda's keep downloading us. 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HEL Performance Junior Supersport - Oulton Park 2020 Race 1

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25:14 min | 5 months ago

HEL Performance Junior Supersport - Oulton Park 2020 Race 1

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"Have Grace and have that Humility that I am Here to Make you Better."

Hey Moms in Business

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"Have Grace and have that Humility that I am Here to Make you Better."

"Hey, moms and business. Welcome to the podcast, that educates encourages and powers women. I'm your host Angela Fazio. And I'm committed to bringing you great business information amazing. Guests inspiration and a godly perspective. Let's get started. Today's episode is brought to you by the forum co working in events in Chandler, Arizona. It's a great co workspace where people can meet clients conduct business have private events or just have fun. It's also sponsored by east valley. Connect Facebook group, it's connecting Phoenix east valley community and local businesses today. I have two guests Jenna Colbourn and Jessica Santa Cruz. They're connected through Jenas, tumble, and cheer Jim that she has. And Jessica Santa Cruz real estate agent and today we're going to be talking about bringing up our young women our young men through fitness to strengthen their minds their, their bodies and their spirits. So let's jump into the conversation. Hi. How are you guys? Welcome to hey, moms and business. And we are talking today with genital burn. And Jessica Santa Cruz very excited about our conversation, you guys are going to be totally blessed by the content today. So gentle, let's start with you. Tell us about your kids, my kids, so I have a three year old Bradley a six year old Harley and an eight year old Montana. My, my Bradley, boy, he, he is an adventure, so he climbs and, and gets dirty and can sleep anywhere. And my six year old Harley is an artist. She loves life finds the beauty in life and loves to color, and our eight year old Montana's. She is an athlete. She loves sports. She is very goal oriented, and she always wants to get better. So very good. So we'll get back to you, Jessica. Let's hear about your four kids, okay? So, yes, I have four kids, the first one's the Logan. And he is twenty six Macy is twenty two Abigail is seventeen and Eva, who is nine we are also I'm a step mom to three children. They're all adults where a blended family. So seven kids in one house, oldest very interesting. That's a lot. Yup. Yup. You've got me beat by one very good. So here's here's what I want to start with you guys. Both have a very thriving business, and we'll get back to your kids later, you have a thriving business. Jessica, your real estate agent, yes. And you started your business Jena six years ago, and it's like a tumble and tumbling cheer tumble, down here and park where to yet Parker. All right. So what we want to talk about today are white. Why are you started your own business? Why you're in business for yourself the the dream and the story behind it. Let us let people know how you got started and things like that. So let's start with your tumble in cheer business. All right. So I it's called define yourself, tumbling cheer and we opened with the intent to train athletes and also build character and then just invest invest in lives. So I grew up in the sport world in competitive gymnastics. And then by high school time I wanted that social aspect. So I went to the all star cheer in the school cheer area, and that things that I learn outside of just gaining skills have carried on with me throughout this day. So that was my goal in our intentions for starting. My husband supported me in, and we are we're thriving doing it together. So it's great. So when you started six years ago, you just immediately had a ton of clients, right? No. It was the best going every day. Okay. And sitting for four hours after school with one kid to kids and, you know, I remember all of April. Mike. Okay. Trey we got three kids this month like we can do we can do it. And you know, going through those times, I'd like I don't know if I can do this. I, I can do this. I got one more, and I got one phone call and going through the highs and lows, but understanding that this is a dream, and I'm going to go all out until I can't go anymore. And, and so now, you know, we're up to four hundred thirty kids that we get an impact. So it's exciting. So I think one thing that it is exciting. By the way, one thing that can really help our, our listeners is talk about how did you first saw gift through that, first part mentally, right? And what did you do? What actions did you take to build up your clientele? Both of you would have had to do that. Because when you're in business for yourself things just don't fall in your lap. So Jenna, what did you do to, to get through that time, mentally, keep yourself going? And how did you attract those kids kids? I would say I've really community involvement. I would say I, I reached out to the area. We're in Santan valley. So we're kind of in this beautiful pocket. And so understanding our community wanted and understanding that there are so many kids, that don't know about Sharon don't know about tumbling, and I can talk about those two all day long because I think it's empowering. I think it's an important, I think it can change life. So going into the schools in and teaching these kids at it's really awesome to do flips and spending and volunteering my time, and bringing my kids with me through it all. 'cause, you know, when there's only two kids coming, you're not getting paid anything, so, you know, we, we brought all of our kids with us. And we, you know, chugged along and they slept on concrete floors while I'm teaching a class, and they there are kids, learn how to walk on our spring floor and, you know, so just having that whole family mindset of. Like this is what we want. We is to see our hard work perseverance and we want them to see our failures along with that. And so that's very cool. So you basically went out there, and when after people, yes, and Jessica Yu, thriving real estate business, I do, I do I started out originally in new construction doing QuickBooks payroll, the business side of it. And I decided, I did not want to sit at a desk anymore. So I can't see doing that. Yeah, it was not for me. I realise that. So, but I still love the housing industry and being and doing all that type of stuff as far as viewing homes, and the new construction and stuff. So when I originally got into real estate, not my license, I did nothing but new built in worked with you know, builders goal canyon and so forth. And then I realized, then I really the realist, I the real estate side of it for the resale part of it. I liked showing homes. I didn't like sitting just at an office just selling that one product. So I decided to get into the. Resale. And so I've been doing real estate since. Oh six and it's really the people back. Yes. What drives me every day is being with the people engaging with them showing them getting to know them spending time with them. That's truly what real estate to meet is. I mean I love to make a paycheck, but I also just truly enjoy being with people's. Oh, and how did you build your clientele, sitting at open houses every single day? So the when I first got into it, then new construction part of it building a spec home, and then sitting at the spec home, and that's how I met my first few clients. So I only sold three homes, the first year I was into it, but every single day, three or four months at one house. And I just met people took their names followed up with them, even if they didn't want to buy that house. I continued to see if I could sell them another home. So that's high built my inventory, and then on top of it, and just getting out there and getting to know people letting people know the biggest thing is letting them know what you do. Do. And when I first got into it, I was kind of nervous and didn't feel confident in it. And after the years, went on I realized the more I talk about my business wherever I'm at people always want to talk real estate. So it works out. Great. So that's my entire business built off referral base. So both of you have something in common. Well, you have lots of things in common your year cheer, mom, Jessica. It's all how, you know, each other through cheer cheer. So I met Jenna when she was young and on a team with AirAsia. He really she was actually on a team in my oldest daughter. The twenty two year old was on the team. And that's how I met Jenna, and then I stayed in my kids continued on, and then I got engaged and got married and had kids in open a Jim, and I contacted her and followed her, and I've been at her gym ever since. Wow. That is very cool. That's very cool. I love those stories but the one of the things that I observed in both of you is your passion for people like just how you want to make a difference in people's lives. You jenna. Are very interested in encouraging young ladies and, and I we're gonna talk about that. And Jessica Yu encourage people everywhere you go, by the way, that's just an in you. But you really passionately care about people. And so, when you passionately care about people you serve them. Well, it just you can't help it. I just got goosebumps I jet all over my body. It's a it's a, I'm so excited about the fact that there are other women out there that are passionate about not only people in general, but specifically, encouraging our future ladies future, women and encouraging women, so tell us your perspective on why that's important to you, why you have a passion for that, and how you play that out. Jenna, start with you. All right. So I, I believe that if we can teach these future generations and, you know, we can change the world. So I do it in the tumbling, and cheer world. So I look at empowering these girls, we have about four hundred girls and thirty boys in our programs. I would say. Were, you know very dominant in the, the female world. And so I think it's so empowering to teach these girls that they're brave enough to do anything. They want to do I have kids who can't hold themselves up. And I'm talking more Ford rolls, handstands, and backflips. All that fun stuff. But then they get to the point where they're doing these flips, and they're like I'm doing these flips. It's me, that's doing it. It's you know this thought process of understanding I am so strong. I'm so brave. I went through this process, I trusted in my training, and, and I want this and seeing them that light bulb turn on and understanding that they are responsible for the things that they do, and how they respond and the work that they put into it is really awesome to see. And then you go into the cheer world where now it's a team sport. Now, it's I'm holding this person. They're trusting me to catch them. And once you remove that selfish, we're so selfish in nature. And once you move that. And you're really looking at I want this person to succeed in you're taking out all of the, it's all about me than I think we see the bigger picture on how to make this world better. And I and I love doing that and tumbling and cheer. I think you're spot on one of the things I love about moms and business is that it's a, it's a it's a place where we can encourage each other because the world's so caddy women are terrible to each other. They compare to compare selves wrongly to each other. We judge each other. It's terrible and I love what you're saying, because you're connecting this, overcoming of physical fear like an eye into mental toughness. And you're also translating that instead of I'm so great now I want to encourage you, I want to be part of your team. Right. I'm a young lady, who is supporting that young lady and being her cheerleader. Absolutely. That is so important. And I wish more people would get to that point. Yeah. To see the importance in that, Jessica, what do you think about that? I definitely agree with that. I mean, obviously, it's nice with Janna because she's in, you know, impacting my kids and having them at their cheer. So when they come home, I have to. So when they come home, and they're crying, and Jennifer, change the routine again. And they did all this stuff. I believe in Jena. So I always reinforced with my kids that you have to trust in her. She lives breathes this business. She knows this business, and if she changes her routine and stresses you out, you need to be able to follow her, and let her guide juice. So she's wants the best out of the she lips for it. So that's definitely I agree with the Jeddah when it comes to impacting, the girls and so forth there. It's life skill. It is definitely, it is we live in a world that changes the routine all the time come to last. Right. So you might as well. Get get with it now. Because if you can't bend and shift with the way that life changes the routine you're going to be either a victim. A whiny victim baby who likes that or defeated yet. Right. Or all into a ball, suck your thumb and rock back and forth, you know, or get with a new routine. Absolutely. What a great analogy. I love it. Absolutely. So you are also an encourage her. I am a hate def. Definitely am having three girls myself. You know, it's, it's a challenge every day aren't surprised, you're not all grey. Well, there's a lot of hair appointment. But yeah, so obviously the biggest thing for me in real estate is customer service. Right. I'm not a huge numbers person if I sell twenty homes a year fifty homes year, I'm happy. And the reason being is my the people of the clientele that I have are happy with me in the end. So whether I slow fifty and a half these great numbers and a great year. I sell twenty s long as that twenty is happy with my customer service, what I provide for them, and they refer me out to me, that's the biggest thing. So that's what that's actually what real estate is for me is making sure that I do my job. Well, not to compete not to compare myself to the next agent. Not to compare my numbers. It's just making sure that everybody that I provide service to you. They're happy with. No. That's optimally. Yeah. Absolutely. I add on this yet. Oh horse. So with this that thing that I love about, Jessica. So we've sold. We, we change our minds a lot when it comes to real estate. So we bought probably four oh the last few years. And yeah, you're like to move. We do. I love it. I love it. So she likes the challenge. I like the challenge. Yes. Once I see something I go with it. And I love that Jessica's always available. You know, we are set just self-gratification like we need answers right away. And, and I love that about. Jessica is she wants to provide for me? Like, hey, Jessica, what do you think about this? Well, okay, I'll pull it up. I'll send it to you, like, within minutes on it. So encouraging to have somebody that is, is helping you all along the way. What do you think about this? And I trust her opinion. I value her opinion, and we change our mind, so much in that regards that I have learned to, to trust her and her professional opinion. But I've also learned to be grateful for her dropping everything for, for us because we've. It's, it's all it's all different expression of service. Yeah. Right. It's her way of expressing how to serve you, and just the way the just in the same way that you serve your kids that, yuck with and God calls us to be servants. God wants us to bless other people encourage lift up, and one of the conversations that Jenin I started. And I know we've had this conversation. Jessica is the idea of or human, we're gonna make mistakes, but we need to approach life with a humility with a grace that, I think, so many women neglect to develop in themselves, this, like it's not women power. Now, I am off for strong women. I'm sitting with three of them. One of them's not speaking. I'm I love strong women. I think that a proverbs thirty one describes a woman who is strong and smart and business and a great wife but has humility in grace. That's what the world is lacking is approaching each other like. That women to women. Right. Humility in grace, right? You know. Absolutely. And that's what you guys teach. I know you teach your kids that, hey, you need to be okay with making mistakes. Oh, you know what you told me the other day that I am going to use? So Janet told me that let's set you know, as you can imagine if she's working with four hundred girls thirty boys four hundred girls those four hundred girls have moms, and not all moms are gracious. Right. Not all Mazar gracious. But here's what's so cool instead of Genesis, not all moms or gracious. She did not say that. She said when I have to talk to a mom, that is having a problem with me. I start by saying, can I start with this? Hey, listen, I'm human. I make mistakes. Can we just start with? Let's be grace, gracious to each other. Let's show each other grace, what a way to start a conversation that debt must disarm absolutely disarm, most of the confrontation. Right. Is that did I get that? Right. Absolutely. I think we as moms, like I always tell my mom's you're allowed to be a mama bear. You know, you're allowed to protect your kids and you know, but I think it's, it's how we talk and how you know, I've learned that when I go to businesses and it's not necessarily, what I want I come off as really strong backup. Jenna back up, you know, have have grace and have that humility of I am here to make you better. You know, my Angelou said, when, you know better do better. So as, as we go through life, you know, when I know, better, when parents, tell me something that I listened to it, I respond to it. But then my goal is to do better to know better, once I know then I can help, then I can fix it then, and if I can't fix it. I'll tell you. I can't fix it, and we'll walk this journey together, you know. But yeah, that's, that's strong. I I, I can come up strong as well. But I try to think about what? Is the intention of the other person? And I can't just think automatically it's a bad intention might Dory. That's right. We don't know their story, and they might just not be very good at expressing themselves apps. Let's put it that way. Absolutely. I'm sure you have clients that express themselves from time to time Jessica. Absolutely. And there's times I have to step back and regroup as well. Because there's that part of me that like wants to fire back like what do you mean? I give everything up for you. How do you not know this? I answer every text, I recall. And then you still are unhappy with something. So until you actually have a conversation with them, and find out their story, what behind it, and where they were triggered, then we can, you know, go from there, but yeah. Customer service and being in this industry, and dealing with people and what they're where they're coming from their background. It helps me a lot. So that is part of mine is to getting to know the person as we're looking at homes as we're doing things. I like to get over story I like to know where they come from how they live their lives. How many kids, they have are they juggling subbing kids? Trying to go show, one house as that they stressed out when we get there, because it's fifty minutes behind schedule that type of thing, so, yeah, it's definitely important. You know, text messages are hard to really all text. Jessica, da that. Like so short so sweet to the point like, yeah, that sounded really rude. It wasn't my intention. Right. But, like I think we lose sight in the text messaging because I am short sweet blunt, like I want you to know my answer. I don't want to sugar coat it. And I think that is really hard to interpret like I can interpret and so many different ways that text message. You're right. You're right. It's like it's like that have you ever seen? Like the something about a comma is the diff a comma, is the difference between let's eat grandma or let's he grandma. Right. Right. So they'll come on makes all the difference. And that's the same with intonation. I'm going to read with my own intonation, regardless of the intonation that you put into the text. I think it's very interesting that you said that you like to be short and sweet. That's a personality type. You're a D in the disc profile for sure. Because I know I, I write my text or I write my Email, and then I go back and put a good morning and a please. My same. My husband gets on me all the time. Short and sweet minds. A story, yes. Yeah mine's like a whole blowing out, like I hope you're having because you're. Oh, is your dog feeling better? When would you like to go? See home today. One thing I will make us suggestion to our audience, if you have never heard of the disc profile, or any other personality profile, the disk, in particular is really for any, any person who deals with people with, that would be everybody, you should learn that because once you have a, a knowledge of the, the way, God has wired different people. Once you have a knowledge of that, you can have more appreciation for the way different people communicate specially when they're different communicators than you. And you can actually adapt better with people that you're talking to so that you bring out the best in them. Right. Right. So that's just a little suggestion from Angela the other thing that we talked about that helps too. And I'm talking about these things because I feel like when we talk about grace being gracious to other and encouraging and building up of women. And, you know, all of these things that we're talking about appreciation appreciation of different personality styles. Right. Serving people and it's because if you put all these things together. Other, although you'll be better at blessing other people beat, you'll be more successful in your business. You yourself will be more blessed because you just attract these wonderful things to yourself. And one of the things we talked about is having a grateful heart that will absolutely redirect your life. If you can get in the habit of being grateful, and so, like, in the morning, one almost at the time my first words are good morning, Lord. Thank you so much. Thank you. And I just start making a list of all the things I'm thankful for. I have conversations with my husband almost every day about things that were thankful for, and it almost like changes the color of life when you have that grateful heart. I know that you mentioned that as well Jenna, what do you had to say about that? I so every time before we go out onto the mat to compete, I have been having the kids, just put their hands on their belly. Mike, you guys breathe, like feel your breath like you get this opportunity. You. Breathe you like you get to work, your muscles. Like you don't understand that people don't get this opportunity and understanding that to be an athlete, and to have these skills like what an opportunity like how grateful our bodies that we to be able to wake up everyday walk to school, or, you know, I think we, we lose sight of the simple things of just breathing. You know, we took our kids to go see that premier five feet apart. I've you you'd apart. Yes. And you know and and lungs and she, she couldn't she had to do breathing treatments. And you know, she just her breath. Like how she we take for granted just breath. Labor's. Yeah. And she can't run. She can't do all the stuff that all of our athletes can do. And I think we lose sight of the little things, you know, to be grateful for the the, the breadth of muscles the being able to speak being able to hear all of that. Absolutely puts it into perspective. I agree. I agree. How do you stay grateful? Jessica, a well let's see I we got intent bracelets this year to remind ourselves. So each one of our kids, I wrote out a little phrase for them. And, and we basically have to constantly remind ourselves so minus grateful. I have to remind myself every day that I'm grateful for my family my business. Everything that I do have. So what I do have. I hear goes chilly. My animals my arm, and so, yes, so we definitely as a family in our house. We tied to sit down and communicate and discuss some of those things because I always want my kids my kids are I'm driven. So I always want them to do more and better and that type of stuff, but I also want them to respect themselves for who they are. And what they have today live for today too. So h each child got a new intent bracelet and then my husband got one as well. And so we sat down we did this whole little thing. And so my biggest thing for me was to be grateful. In grateful for what I have and enjoy, what I have as I'm pursuing to be a better business owner. But mother that are wife that type of thing. So it's definitely something I have to work at every day to remind myself because I do have so much and I am very blessed. My businesses amazing my kids are amazing, but some days it doesn't feel all right. You've, you've totally humbled me, I have never done anything as fancy as intention bracelets intent. See, I can't even I don't even know what. It's, it's called. It's like when I sit across from a woman who's, like a really great cook or who like can stay at home with their kids. I'm not a real mom. That's really that's really impressive that you do those kinds of things with your children. That's awesome. I think it's really important to teach our kids, that I think, if you are that way you are inherently going to teach your children that way. And so one of the best reasons to constantly work on yourself as a mom, as a woman, as an encourage her is for that very reason because you are, you are the object of a lot of people's learning not only your kids, but all those kids, that you touch all the clients that you come across, right? All the people that come into to my business. If I'm if I'm not constantly aware of becoming a better me more positive encouraging. I sound like k. But if we don't, if we work on their south there's, there's an added benefit not only are good. But it's for the good of our children. It's for the good of the people that were around all my God. That's so good. That's I don't think I'm not even remember that though. Really good though. Okay. Let's wrap it up a little bit. Let's talk about this women in business moms and business and all of these things. Although we're talking about life in general. They have everything to do with business. So if you were to say, how can our audience translate or apply? Something we've talked today to their business. For example, I would say when you have a servant's heart, and you look at people, and you try to have empathy for what they might be going through when they're in stress or trouble. Right. And so if I'm aware of that, and I practice that they're going to feel cared for, and if they feel cared for they're going to see you. A better business person. I mean, that's just you're better person better business person. Whatever it is. So that's worth the effort, especially for people like us that might not have the same type of an empathy that Jessica has naturally. I know I have to work at it because I'm so direct and so to the point. So that's what that would be one kind of an example, any ideas, I would say what's, what I remember is knowing my why sometimes I get really lost in the, the materialistic side of things like, oh, my gym doesn't have granite, countertops or, you know, all of the, the fancy things, when really my why is impacting kids like that is my business. That's my business model. I want to train them I want to impact their lives and I don't care that my lobby doesn't look as amazing. I would rather spend the money on like the kids who I'm impacting. So, I think with social media in this world of, you know, Pinter's and everything has to look a certain way or be a certain way. I think it's really important for, for meet every member to scale back and remember that, what I put in we'll go out so everything that I do have to fall into my y and if it doesn't, then hopefully, I have people in my life that are going to hold me accountable to every member. Hey, granite countertops. Don't matter. What matters is. You know that kid had a really rough day. You spent five extra minutes with them or, you know, just accountability filling other people's gas tanks and understanding that people are going to have to hold you accountable. People are going to have to tell you, you've lost your way, xactly. Wow, that's strong. I love that. I treasure the people in my life who speak into my life that way. Yep. Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah. So mine would be an being a business owner real estate agent, married to a loan officer having a blended family. All of these things, minus balance balancing all of that. It's a jug. Lien act making sure that when I am with my children, I am present. So, and then when I'm running my business I'm actually present in my business. So the balance of the two is something I've had to learn over the years, obviously, it didn't always work out that way. And I was more present for my work, and then I was more present for my kids and my business suffered. So over the years being a business owner, I think balance has been the biggest key for me, and I think I finally figured it out. I actually think I am juggling it. Well now everybody's happy. At least my kids, say they are. And then all my clients seem to be pretty happy to so owning a business has been probably one of the biggest challenges besides being a mom. So having the two of them in learning you know, in taking the loss, in the failures in learning from them has been the biggest thing for me. So, yeah, I, I can't even I don't know what more to explain that. That is truly. I I understand your why. And I get it. Absolutely. But mine has been. Truly balanced. So I don't have balance yet. I, I work on it. It is. It is. I wish I would maybe maybe when I don't know if I'm ever going to have it working on. Okay. So how Jessica how two people get in touch with you? If they want to talk to you about your business or know, more about you or want to buy a house. How are they gonna get in touch with you? Well, I have a Facebook, I have a website, and I'm on Instagram and obviously, I have a u haul truck that has my face and name, all over as, as you know, I've signs throughout the valley and my husband being in the business. He actually promotes me, and I promote him. So it helps us because home bridge allows me to be on their sites and promote myself. So it's it goes, it's, it's a nice industry to be in with having a husband as a loan officer. So it makes it really nice 'cause we can feed off each other, and Mark each other. And, you know, the customer service is a one stop shop, if they use him as. Lender and so forth. So you can actually find me on all their principal, Sean media sites. But I also do a Mailer magazine, and that is by monthly and that seems to help and the difference with my magazine as I didn't hit just my clientele. I actually went to all the businesses that my kids attend to my dentist. The doctors legal, whatever the case may be. And I asked if I could put my magazine in their lobby and I did. And you wouldn't believe the amount of leads I got from the legal firm. So it was amazing that they pulled my car out and called me. So the magazines hip worked for me. Not always does it work for agents but it has worked for me. And so, I think when I talked to other agents about that I'm like you need to focus, and just not on your clientele that you already sold the home to but to businesses go and speak with them, ask them. It's a free magazine. Can I leave this on your lobby desk? And now I use it as a Mailer. So they actually receive it every month and put a new one out. So Napa auto parts. I put one in there and I got tons of leads off that so it actually works out really well. So sh- people would just look up. Jessica Santa Cruz yet asking. A N, T, A, VR jozy, for and they'll find you. They will. Okay. And how Jenna, how genita- they find out about your gym. We have our website is tumble, and cheer dot com. All spelled out, and we have a Facebook at cheer defined, and we're our impact your elite program. We have impact surely dot com. That'll get you all together and where we're at and your Jim isn't Santan valley. Yep. Santan valley fantastic. So anybody you guys reach out to these ladies, if you have a need in those areas, and thank you so much for being on the show today? What a pleasure to talk with both of you think you. All right. Thanks for listening to hey, moms in business. Have a great day.

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Hope Is Not a Strategy [Rebroadcast]

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Hope Is Not a Strategy [Rebroadcast]

"Hey guys it's Rachel Hollis and I'm here with my friend. Trent Shelton was originally. How you doing? I'm living the dream man. We you tell listeners why we're hanging out together right now. We're hanging out because we're launching my new podcast straight up and I'm super excited so rad if you guys are not already familiar okay. With Trent he has millions and millions of fans all around the globe. Who Come to him for a very unique style of coaching? Yeah we're unique straight. The point is really as I can put it straight from the heart and breaking through those negative mindsets breaking through of what's holding you back in people's lives and long form love that so if if you guys want to hear more you're already listening on podcast platform go subscribe to straight up with Trent Shelton. Let's go let's get it. It's the morning show that no one. I'm not no one is talked about. I said no one is talking her back but if they did they probably the best way to start sir. Hello Hello and welcome today. Five defied the the last ninety days first day of the rest of your life. Welcome good morning. Hello it'd be there. Let's see human beings populating the live stream this morning. It is they married ready to Rachel. Dave Hollis here in the loneliest room of the Hollis House the place where Milady the captain of our ship usually is here helping steer. The titanic away from icebergs doesn't sound like a good way to start a motivational conversation about the best days of our lives being ahead of us. Good Morning. Rachel Hollis as you may be aware is my wife my best friend. Milady Eighty apartment business department all things last ninety days in a traveling fool so Rachel is making her way today From the woods Tennessee. Come on home honey. So excited she. It had the opportunity if you saw yesterday to hang out with two people who were able to pour into her are in in just like every kind of way as friends as People who are chasing business who we were trying to balance what you do professionally with what you do personally in. I'm kind of blurry a hold on. Let me just see if I actually turned on Sinking Wifi you know what I turned on the Wifi a little bit late now. It's paused it's reconnecting. Oh Jeez I am so sorry instagram. This is what happens when two Hollis is not here. We basically hang on by Fred. Anyway she had the opportunity to go recharge her batteries. Shoo be in community with other women. which rich as they talked about on the livestream is harder than it sounds kind of thing? It's it's neat to think that men just going to grow up in being adult in have a unbelievably close friends. But guess what it takes work. And it's hard sometimes to find find people that can relate to the situations that you find yourself in that he consistently show up in that can be in a relationship that gives as much as it hopes taken manager found that these two really decent and wonderful human beings in Jena and amy and I'm so happy that she had a chance to send or full days taking out their friendship thing. I'm also Excited because they each have built Businesses that live in a sack in the space that we ultimately are also living in working in an so. I'm excited to hear all the tips and tricks that. Ah they come back with. We've had a lot of conversations over time about how important is to surround yourself with people that are stronger than you in certain parts of your life and these women have strengths. That Rachel or I don't necessarily have yet and so to be able to sit with them and learn from them in not not be threatened by them or you know live inside of some scarcity mindset that if they were to help her that somehow it could compromise. It reminds them Rachel words help in some way compromise us. Forget that those are that's ridiculous. There's enough to go around for everybody so I'm excited to have her come back. We're GONNA hopefully pretty relaxing weekend but the weekend isn't back the topic of conversation today because we're heading into a couple of days where if you are hoping that it will go well but are not the planning for how it will go. You are not necessarily setting yourself up for success and I want. y'All be successful during day. Six in the seven of this challenge because momentum is a huge part of how we're going to make it through to ninety days if you make it through through not if but when you make it through I'm going to fundamentally feel like you have changed your lack so the first the first thing I would say is Journal is just a proof. Don't worry they look prettier than this. Hope is not a strategy is not a strategy. What is your plan for or this week and you may not be a person that normally is really deliberate and really thoughtful? For how your time blocking Laki every hour of the weekend. But I would recommend that you be a little more deliberate about Kagera thinking iggy about this again so that the things that might normally have shown up in a weekend could have pulled you off track from me really consistent this crime of yourself on the won't show up because you will have created something that helps the minimize the chance for distraction of allying that Rachel has said plenty of time. I'M GONNA steal up right now. Is The price ace of your new. Life is is your Ol- The price of your new life is your own. So if you're a person who who has historically enjoyed certain things on weekends you indulge a little bit in the drink and night on a Friday or your sleep sleeping extra long on a Saturday or do whatever your thing is right whatever. The thing is in your life the price of your new life. The price of rowing growing and coming the federal version of yourself is the sacrifice of some of the things that you used to have in your life. It's Canadian thanksgiving DOC. Hello I don't even know what that means other than I'm appreciative of the backup Thanksgiving happens here in November number happens there. Apparently this week in your Thanksgiving is anything Earth thanksgiving. The price of your new life is your old. Will the price of your Thanksgiving in Canada. This weekend made a departure from the way that you have traditionally shown up to Thanksgiving intimidated. Not Saying you can't still enjoy the presence or be connecting immunity or do of things by you. Better have a plan plan for how Thanksgiving this year it. Canada shows up so that you can maintain the momentum. Come Monday to have a great day. Aides right so a lot of times this comes back to this idea of habits and the end We I will say like each week. There's going to be a different topic is first week was just about getting people comfortable in a Onboard with just the idea of the fiber thrive work. I know that if you're on right now you've probably have but they are real quick getting up an hour earlier and doing something wrong herself. Moving your body for thirty minutes every single day getting your water. Half Your Body weight announces with water every single day. It giving out one category of food. I have given up bread which is spilled into Harvard. Hello and Ratu focusing a on the ten things every day that happened in your day that will help you. Just focus your mind on gratitude food instead of any other emotion especially the negative emotions out on the things though in coming into a weekend that you you have to be conscientious about sending we're GonNa have seen each week. The theme asleep getting up to speed. On what those five things are. Next week we're going to talk about habits right habits. This whole exercise is an exercise in habits right. We're trying to create a rhythm when for how you do life so that you show for your life from the way that you WANNA show up have it's berry simply. I guess we're GonNa talk about this next week. Are something happens. You are triggered triggered by something that has happened in your life. You have a routine routine something that usually happens after that trigger shows up and as a result of performing your routine you get a reward of some doc so I'll give you an example of how habits have shown up for me that I had to during this week find a different routine to disrupt my habit. I come home from work. I am tired like you might be from having worked the full day. I am this week because Rachel is in the middle of the Tennessee hills hanging out with four kids who all all deserve and want to have a present father. I'm excited about that. And there have been times where the trigger for being being able to transition from work days to data. Dave has common with happy cocktail with In the interest of disrupting that habits have made a decision that I'm not going to have mine work transition into dad cocktail when Rachel Hollis is not here because happy hour is something that we're going to do together so when I get home I have a trigger. Hello for kids I love you guys. You are awesome. Awesome in the trigger usually produced through Zine. I'm GONNA have a drink this week. I'm privacy five days in not one day while Richard Ellis was done. I had a drink of alcohol and instead I shaved thirteen I went outside in. Did something living with the kids in that minute. We moved our bodies we jumped around. We chased each other on bikes. We did something and I got up a war the reward or was that transition period from having come out of my work self into my dad self was all all of a sudden now able to pivot away it hadn't traditionally had previously. You have habits if you don't think you have habits I'm here to tell you you have habits and each of you has a time of day that might trigger you more often than not. Aw a scenario or situation that might trigger. You were often than not in every single time. That triggers shows up you. You have a routine that ultimately produces the war right knowing what your habits are immediate more importantly knowing what your triggers are and how oh you traditionally shown up for yourself with your routine is really important so that if you want to do something that rates your traditional routine you can catch yourself before you do. So here's the headline. We're walking into a weekend where you I. All of us us have routines we have habits in. You were now committed to a challenge that is gonNA require. Are you to fundamentally transition from the old you to the new you so you have to be conscientious today. On Friday of of what your trigger is how your trigger usually produces a routine and whether that routine is a line with this great version of you that you are showing up as during the risk five days in this because you are are you are your habits. You are these things that you do a lot of times. They're unconscious but the difference between you on Monday. Good morning coming to this livestream. When we're back together having conquered Saturday and Sunday in tax not having brings trade with the thing that you'd give out food or not having strayed for not having executing strayed with your wife? If you get here on Monday not yet when and when you get here on Monday the momentum that you are going to have on day aids the mindset that you are going to have on the eight the way that you're gonNa feel about yourself day. Eight will be monumentally different than if you're coming at a posture of having made decisions consciously or unconsciously than having to start back over on day eight right so will seek about what your triggers are. What are they win are how are they rank about? How your trigger shall op- you usually show up as part of your routine consciously or unconscious consciously and how can you today with your calendar? Some rain water that Physicians Uber's success thing about that. That's number one number two. I was I got a note from somebody the yesterday in man I love this idea because I really think the searching for Radha Tude worship of this. It's such a game changer. In just your overall mindset the way that you saw deal with Zaindy or the negative emotions that might just happen as life shows being consistent with writing down ten things every single day that you are great for for means. I know that everyone can do math. Ask for man. I didn't realize this until someone sent this to me an hour that it ended of this challenge. You are going to have a chronicle of nine hundred phase is that you are grateful. Nine hundred fans like there are times when I'm struggling to big of one or two things that I can be great before but come in December. I'm going to have almost a thousand things in a journal that on any given day I can open up and remind mind myself of the abundance that I have to be grateful for that reminder. Hopefully Win Mike. Not if black but when life throws the curb ball your way will let you reset your your mind into a into a state that who says you know what cash today might be tough but look at these nine hundred bees that I've been able to be ready for over the last three months. Mole that is achieved is amazing. I just I love that. I'm excited about that so Momentum is everything getting Mondays. Everything planning for the weekend is everything. Here's the one thing for me and maybe for you. That is right now on Friday. I'm acknowledging this is going to be the hardest thing for me and that is that I am a great negotiator and the person that I negotiate with bests is myself. Aw I have this crazy. Faulty logic thing that can happen every once in a while where I've just done five consecutive days of number of working out every day of focusing on magnitude at all the water. I haven't in my bread. Frankly it's still still the not eating carbs. They haven't had any alcoholic I am I am raper with me in the way my three. This twisted thing you works is that when I get some trigger later on today. It's going to say you you know. What did you deserve? Rake you've been so good you've done so many good things for so many days in a row. What's what's a quick quick pause from eating them? Let's have a couple of years. It's not gonNA earning money to have a couple just have it might. Rain starts to rationalize the investment that. I've made so far is permission in for me to stop this thing. That has been feeling so great. And then I have to really say one not today. Saving Your Dang right. I've seen so many people use it and I'm telling you it feels like there's some kinds of Satan spiritual warfare in the way that rain works. I have to push myself to the version of me that has been convinced by popular logic to you from this plan. In how disappointing it feels to start back over how frustrated it feels to not the promise to yourself how how proud I feel today on Friday day five in Wurley on day five and so after this keep speaking out loud. The don't listen to the ridiculous way your brain gene Kranz. Twist this into something that you should walk away from because you've been good you can now be bad because you've achieve. You can take a day off. I want to get to the end of the ninety days and just be killing it because I'm GonNa then have in two thousand nineteen jumps off of a place that is is already on such a high level. So just be conscientious. You are like me if you if you find yourself yourself negotiating with yourself or or even if you find yourself surrounded by people who are helping convince you do that. You've been so good. Why not take a day off on you have to decide whether you want to let their negotiation power influence committed set your mate right The like you're the the price of your life is is the one that the cost of your life is zero. One is important but I also think if your life is not aware is not familiar with the choice that you've made. I don't know that they're going to be a help to US staying on track. What do I mean like? My kids are very aware of the choice that you're making as this challenge. Obviously my spouse is aware trace that we're making. Our friends are aware of betrays that we're making so negative. I'm not getting invited to torchy's TACO's I'm Outta love torchy's tacos in anyone on almost any other day oxo invited torchy's so that I can have myself some chips Akeso but I'm not getting that invite right now because my circle like crew knows that I made this commitment. And if you're you're in this but you're myself if you're in this you're not letting the people around you now of what in this means the chances this is that they're going to help negotiate you out of doing this or just that much higher so I'd encourage you to end and by the way like you can't can't like rubbing their face especially if you're if it's your spouse if your if your spouse isn't a ninety day challenge that's their choice but don't let their choice e comforts the don't let the back they don't Wanna get up early They don't believe in giving food river that they don't WanNa drink water have are you questioning if worth value in. You giving it up there. Is You know that there is already in five days seen the power of of committing to something and if you can become comfortable in the discomfort you're gonNA grow said it two days ago you can't grow inside Your Comfort Zone of you've been pushed outside of your comfort zone. Even if it's a little bit scary to commit to something feels bigger than you can handle. You're going to grow role because of having committed. This is the last thing I'll say of the questions. The latest podcasts of rice together is up and out came out yesterday. It was the opening keynotes that I did. As a response to Rachel's opening you know from our live. Five couples conference which is also called rise to go and it talked about three big things she gave a conversation about. How like personal growth and personal development in doing all of these things for yourself or dislike wire into her? DNA and she felt like from day one she needed to go Wanted to go be like a better version of yourself and my conversation was honest that I really struggled with the idea that people reaching for personal development were wrote that as a man saying that I needed help from someone else that I could be better to include me as not already be or in some way implied leak and so it took a little bit of work to get to a place where I can really really embrace personal development in being a better I myself every day as just the mindset the three things that got me from where I was where right I am. I actually think really do apply to last night days and the three things are limiting beliefs. The lies that we tell ourselves that keep us from being the best versions of ourselves and examples of what they are in to give examples of. What mine are in? If you don't know what yours is. Are you all have them. I still have limiting believes you have limiting beliefs. If you don't know what you are you will not be able to navigate around them to become the best version of yourself so the person is is limiting at least the second one is mindset. We've had conversations I've seen before about the idea of roads mindset versus it's fixed mindset. I was a fixed mindset person for a long long time and having embraced the growth mindset. My future has unbelievably more potential central than it did when I thought I was already as smart as complete as I was going to beat so growth mindset in the third one on is motivation intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation. Are you motivated because you have this passion this thing in your bones and your soul. It says I'm GonNa be a better person myself or are you extra an extrinsic motivated. which is Finn's outside? Have you motivate you into doing other things if you are intrinsically motivated the staying power of your reaching for were bigger and better. Things just will last unbelievably longer than if you are dependent on somebody creating a stick or a carrot to motivate you the last one intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation. That something in real time with this challenge. There you have to design. Are you doing this for yourself or are you doing this. Because you've been a commitment or promise to yourself and you keep promises to yourself. We Sell Oregon doing this for other people. Are you doing this for other people inside associated with this the people inside of your life. There are good in that in both. If you choose this for yourself that she inside you'll get to the end. I are stronger in higher but I also believe that extra Being motivated to do this so that you can model how reaching for better version of yourself is is a great thing to your children or your partner or whatever it may eat can also be great but anyway. That was a long pitch for listening listening to a conversation about pursuit about mid on the rise. Together podcasts you have a about forty minutes time. I think it will help all this conversation of. You're having today for last ninety days because it just fundamentally changed the way that I think about pursuing a A goal in the Ritchie for diversity. So that we're on the day five. The most important message was the very first message. which is the weekend is coming? There is no livestream tomorrow or Sunday. There are no emails coming until Sunday afternoon from Rachel Chill You are as it were on your own not really. There's a whole community of people here. You're on your own as a community. So what is your plan. How have you meal plan the weekend scheduled out the weekend made sure that you have someone to help help so that you can get your fitness in on the weekend? Not Worry so much about your water not worried as much back your gratitude but those first three. If you don't have a calendar that reflects your commitment to this the chances of being successful in showing up your Monday morning saying so you are still just as on fire as you are. Today is going to be hard so with that. Are there any questions. Kenya cheat on Sunday. Now this is an every day challenge in the idea of cheating honestly I think psychology wise is a weird word and to use this. This thing up shouldn't feel like something that you have to cheat from so I would encourage you to try to find the way to get your head into a space. That doesn't make it feel like we want to necessarily cheap. y'All wake up at the same time on weekends or as weekdays we they do but we're also crazy but we do in part because we're still in the process of writing the two Vasan so being able to get time time in the morning before the kids are away you can focus on us but it's on this thing that we're doing which is writing is important so we do but really really I would say if you normally get up earlier in the week than you do on the weekend. You'd still get up an hour early on the weekend so you can have time mm for you. It just might be later than the big days in. That's okay can you remind people that water is water is water not icy not juice etc.. Or that's Real I've had people ask. Can I drink mcroy. No can you book link limited Absolutely throw throw some citrus in your water. Drink your water but water is water. We're shooting for water and We should stick to that. How do you get up early for yourself when your two year old likes to wake up at five? AM or sixteen. That's hard. I two year olds in you that way. If they're getting up at six and five our kids because mm-hmm I mean last tech schools. Let's go my kids have to be up at six fifteen so that they can be ready to leave the house by just after seven. AM So we're GonNa five so that begin. That do are famed for ourselves. You know get a little prayer time in meditation in get a little writing in do the things that are awesome slowly until those crazy children get up and distract anything else when it do. I happy Thanksgiving giving Canadians I mean Thanksgiving gratitude. Challenges seems like they go hand in hand so I'm excited about that Where already started? If you were never taught to dream big. That's a good question I would start by the the exercise that Rachel did in her her Keno to episode like not visit episode last episode on the rise together podcast. She did a visualization. Like almost almost like a guided meditation where she had people imagined the best version of themselves in years from now and I would really encourage you too. I'm trying to be unbelievably specific about what the best version of you looks like because that version. And what are they what. What did you eat in? How do how fit or your wet? Wet Time to get up and where do you work and what are you drive like the. What is your life? Look like then you. Can you start pulling back from that. In in having a conversation about what trees would be a requirement to become the urge of you. Hope be a decade from now going on vacation or a week planning to stay on this that city extra credit flying for eight hours need ideas abused take milk milk. Crap is a thing that we do on Sundays so I don't know if you're familiar with the idea of crap but meal. Prep is just be deliberate liberty about for me win. Were about snakes so I can do carrots and Hamas all day long making bags those banks. Thanks that I reuse environment of carrots and then having a thing Hamas at my desk and try to have my snacks at the same time every day Eh mixed nuts and ends up being thing that also be good that helps keep not feeling as hungry won't be happy or packets of like heated butter or almond butter. That could be used as well so anyway. You GotTa do you Let's see. Are you watching watching the. Oh you Texas game this weekend out. Yeah I forgot that that existed but yes we will be doing that. We haven't yet fully immersed ourselves in the college football scene. We came out of ritual not having attended college intermurals football league so college. Football all is a newer thing to us but then in Texas taken very seriously. I'm nervous to wear anything because everybody is so crazy about what they've written for that. I just feel like I've got on Jersey on a it'll come. We're only here for four months now so it'll show aw is a thirty five. AM central hosts know central standard time. 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339: You're Only 7 Questions Away from Your True Why

The Goal Digger Podcast

57:53 min | 1 year ago

339: You're Only 7 Questions Away from Your True Why

"Hey Gold diggers. It's deemed Graciosa. Hope you're doing awesome. This Gen business coach. You heard our conversation on the podcast and I'm so excited for the opportunity. To coach. You live on the webcast. We're doing February twenty seventh. Listen Jenna is one of if not my favorite example of what's possible when you know exactly how to capture and share your superpower with the world. That's what this trains all about showing up capturing your superpower and turning it into a life and a business you love our girl. Jennifer is joining me along with business. Powerhouse Tony Robbins and Russell Brunson. You can learn from all of us for free all at once and knowing you'll be there in genesis cheering section. Well it totally puts the pressure on in a good way. Save your seat at Jenas Link Dot Com that's Jenas Link Dot Com. Okay here's Jenna and the gold digger podcast before we can get to the how to do it. And before we can actually implement and take action if we don't upstream and anchor in an unstoppable mindset. Then we just resort back to what our subconscious feels comfortable with and I think this is the mechanism that disturbs inaction. Hey My name is Jenna cooking and I am obsessed with all things business marketing numbers and helping you navigate both domestic and the magical seasons of this things life. I'm a small town Mama. Logic three hundred dollars camera grew as successful photo Biz and now I work from home and run his seven figure online business. I teach you the tried and true secrets to building a career. You Adore shy away from the real talk no way money. Hardship growth loss. Marketing are all topics we discussed here. Think of this is your one stop shop for happy hour with a GAL mixed with business. School of pull up a seat. Make sure your cozy and get ready to be challenged and encouraged while you learn. This is the gold digger. Podcast what is your why. What is the true reason you jump out of bed and keep cruising towards your dreams even when it gets really stink in tough getting to the heart of your? Why is the single biggest factor in sticking with your goals? No matter how rough the road may get and I don't just say this in theory I say it because I know ever since trying this exercise my vision of my why has never been clear my drive to continue the work that I'm doing has never been stronger. Ever it's called the seven levels deep and it's from the only course. I took last year. The knowledge business blueprint seven levels. Deep is an important tool. With the main focus of anchoring in your Wi there may not be a more powerful motivating factor on the planet than knowing your true y. When you know in your soul why you get up every morning and fight for your dreams. You'll never let anything get in your way of becoming the person you're meant to be by business. Coach Dean Graciosa teaches tool inside of k b the knowledge broker blueprint so. I've invited him on. Gold digger once again to lead us. All through this transformative exercise. It's funny because I've done the seven levels deep exercise twice now and the second time around my was even more refined and focus. I'll tell you it is indeed and I will guide you through the questions to determine your y all inside of this episode. Oh and if you're curious about diving deeper into this world and these tools and you want to learn from my business coach Dean and you cannot wait to get to the end of the show. Had to Jena's link dot com and see how you can experience all of this for yourself with our support again. That's Jenas Link Dot Com. You can see what Dina Meyer up to. Are you ready? Let's go thanks to fiber for Supporting Golddigger. It's so easy to find freelance. Talent for your business or your products don't waste any more time. Get Ten percent off in the service you deserve at F. I. V. E. R. Dot Com with the code gold digger. Do you want to know the three secrets at keep my business growing and have totally transfer my life into the vision? I've always dreamed there. The core advice gleaned from my business coach Gingras and you can get them a genyk dot com slash three secrets that's Jenna Catcher. Dot Com slash. The number three and secrets are dean. You are zero stranger to the podcast and it's been just so incredible having you show up for my audience and especially for me over this last year so welcome back to the show. It's so good to be here. It feels like we're just sitting on a comfortable couch drinking the wine like we and and just letting people in on some really important conversation so. I'm thrilled to do this. What listen I have to tell you? First off I've been loving watching what you're doing you know we've been almost a year we've known each other. Yeah I mean we only have from zero to a hundred miles an hour really fast take. My wife is wedding. Pictures are baby pictures that we just did the final baby pictures and she's like I can't have anybody. Do Up Agenda. Were I've been loving watching what you're do? I Love Your tribe. Everybody listening what's up good to see you. Thank you for the incredible comments after you and I do a training. We revealed to everybody got to tell you the incredibly beautiful comments in DMZ And my wife gets so thank you thank you thank you. I'm just super excited and honored and I agree. It's just. We walked through a lot of life together in this last year and talking about some of those behind the scenes because you and I we can talk strategy and marketing all day. But my hope with having you on in this capacity is to share a tool that I know transformed your life so many moons ago but something that has also just really touched my life because the listeners are no stranger I went through your program not just once but twice in. I've done this exercise now. Numerous Times in. What's so interesting to me especially as a woman. Is that my results kind of change and evolve as I. Evolve is a person in so today. We're GONNA talk about this really wonderful exercise that anyone listening can do today. That is going to connect them to their Y and before we dive on into that. I JUST WANNA share a little bit about the whole thought of finding your why because to me if you'll super overwhelming and you and I had a kind of a side conversation about this when we're in Puerto Rico the other day because when you're around people that are so convicted with why they do what they do when they can say it in this beautiful like sentence that talks about how they show up and serve the world. If feels really beautiful but to me it also feels intimidating and so as we walk through this today. If you're one of those people that you're like I don't know what my why is I don't know what my compelling future looks like? I don't know what my ideal client is like. If all of these terminologies can leave you riddled with anxiety. I hope that you're able to almost feel like this. Exercise allows you to take a deep breath and to kind of saddle in to what that looks like for you personally today. Not anyone else's version of it not any elevator pitch about it. But just what is that thing? That's driving you so I think we've set the cliffhanger day before we were talking about this exercise John. I remember the day I did this. For the first time with a gentleman named Joe Stump who introduced me to amazing got but I have to tell you up until that point in my life I read books on finding your purpose on finding your wife and to tell you every time I was done. I was moreover wealth. It's like manner. Did you ever get a plan to plan your day planner so complicated? It actually gives you more anxiety about the planning of the planner rather than just the plan right to feel that way about a why just in what you said and you watch somebody with conviction like how did you get. That mine is rowdy and this exercise has given me true meaning and I think it's simple may may because I probably have about an eighth grade reading level even no. I'm not doing is selling author so sometimes I just need things really simple that really land in my soul so I'm excited to share this today so when I thought about this conversation I think about your and my relationship because what people see is the surface level teaching stuff but you and I go so much deeper than that and I really think that this exercise the seven levels deep has connected you and I to understand each other in a new way so I before we do the exercise. Walk me through what it is and how you kind of were exposed to it and then how you kind of made it just a staple in how you show up. Teach the world. Yeah because here's the thing life comes at us right. We might listen to a great podcast like this. We get course we go to an event we get inspired like we make decisions in life for two reasons. One is when we had enough fed up. Like I can't take another day in this office with no windows. We've made relationship decisions. I cannot take another day. Feeling unloved or unappreciated. There's moments were years. Could build up and then there's just this moment of decision that you must make right and then there's other times where you just. It's kind of like I know I need to and you just look at it. And then it's like a slow build and then you finally decide now when those decisions are made the either I got. I got burned the boat today or I've been planning my escape escape from this job escaped from anything when that decision is made. What will stop you from going back to where you were back to the office with no windows back to not having enough back to not feeling love whatever it is. Let's talk about business or success in this one because we go in every life you need a deeper meaning to drive you through because once that decisions made then all of a sudden self-doubt comes in. Well Can I. Can I really do my own thing? What I'd be alone and scared. What would no one support me with? My family. Think I'm nuts like and that self-doubt along could make that decision get fuzzy and then you go back to where you were and that's when you feel like you missed opportunities in the past so what I love about this exercise is we're all scared. We all have those two voices one. That saying. You're not an expert your impostor you're gonNA fail and you're gonNA worry about what people think R. C. of you when you fail and we also have the voice that says come on girl come on Guy. We got this. We were strong enough for what we have. Great Mentors I listened to Jenin all these. I have it right. So we have these competing voices. We also the self-doubt comes in. And then we're stuck at this crossroad. And to me. This exercise is the crossroad exercise. Say No I'm not going back. No I meant for more yes I can do this. And that's what it's meant for me for over a decade now. It has been that thing when I have a rough day when I had a rough week when the thing goes sideways. When you don't have the support it doesn't matter how successful you are a today. I found out news last night literally midnight. Last night I found something out. It doesn't matter. How much success you. It's very shocking. I was like Oh my God and you know what I did today. I thought about why the Hell I do this. Why keep pushing forward? And it's been a tool that I think it's been the number one tool in the training that I did Tony Robbins that you know you've been through it twice. It is an absolutely positively the number one tool that sets in the foundation. Right like you can have all the tactics in the world. You can have all the strategies in the world. You guys listening. You've had a course before you've had tactics before yet so many share strategy. But why didn't you do it? Why are you looking back in your? Why did I ever do that? Seeing it probably wasn't tactics it probably wasn't strategy. It was probably your mindset. It was because something got in your way a barrier so before we can get to the how to do it and before we can actually implement and take action if we don't go upstream. And anchoring unstoppable mindset then we just resort back to what our subconscious feels comfortable with and I think this is the mechanism. Disturbs allows you to save disturbed within action. I guess that's a good thing to to think about is like. How do you get disturbed with not being your full being at your full potential? I think that's a brilliant way to describe it and I know so. Many people listening feel a lot of guilt in the sense that they haven't taken action. I mean I feel that all the time where I'm like. Why didn't I do that thing? Why didn't pursue that idea and especially women it's like we are caretakers. Were out there like serving everyone I and ourselves last and then we walk around this immense guilt of why not doing more. Why am not pursuing that thing and so for me? It was super interesting because Dean the first time I did this exercise I think was ten weeks postpartum. Still in that fourth trimester fog of like what is this new life and what is my new purpose in and has it changed and have I changed and then it was just insane because I can literally close my eyes and I read took this lesson and I was on a walk with Conley who is now one in Hawaii and we're walking an end. You're explaining it and it's only a ten minute piece of the big overall picture of ten minutes and I'm on this walk and I keep turning down every cul de sac continuing this walk. Because I'm asking myself these questions and really feeling convicted to answer them into not. Just listen but to apply so why me through how this exercise works. And where do we begin with this because I think the beginning is the easy part in as we continue to go? That's when the real answer start to show up so I guess the best way to share. It is how it worked for me if that works with you. Yep Yes so about ten minutes more than ten ten years ago or so. Let's just use that as a number. I was looking for a way for my students to have more engagement. I know you're obsessed with this too. Generic you could teach people the exact strategy and I was like. How do I get more of them to use it because life is getting in their way right? It's like I'm teaching you how to do this. But because your husband doesn't believe in you or because your co workers tell you that's just a dream you're not actually implement so. I wanted a way to like break through that. And people kept telling me about this Guy Joe Stump who had a community. They had completely engaged so I got a hold of him and asked him if he could consult for a day in his fee was ten thousand dollars for the day. I remember before we on the phone. He's like how about this? I WANNA learn from you so how about I come to your house give you a half a day consulting and then we switch and you give me a half a day consulting assaid perfect so he comes and were we sit down and I bring my team in and I'm waiting for him to give me these tactical send out an e Mail on day seven and say this Dude I can tell how much you care On your emails I watch videos. He said have you ever done the seven levels deep and I said I have no idea what that is he said to help get you and your students to know why the heck they follow you. Why do they want to read your books? Why do they want to take your advanced trainings that I said man? If it'll help my students bring on. I'll take and he's like not. I don't WanNa just give it to you. I want you to go through a Mike now. I had no idea what it was. Jeremy Mike we have to go through it. Just Gimme a because I'm a I'm an implementation machine. He's like now what we're GONNA slow down right now. He's really calm. I can get I can tend to be a little anxious or high energy right. And he's more like he's the guy that walks in the room subtly. I got love this guy so he said let's go to is it. Okay let's do any said I remember to this day so I will explain this exercise in more detail later and denied loved to go through the your experience with it but again back to me because it was kind of new to me just like it might be too so many of you listening. He said why would you? Why would you hire me for ten thousand? I know we bartered. But why would you hire me so it was an easy? I answer for me he said and I can say to you guys. Why would you WANNA make more money? Why would you want more freedom? Why would you want him to do something? More impactful in your life right doesn't really matter. What the first answer is to me. He said why. Would you be willing to spend ten thousand dollars to help your clients have more results and the answer was came out of my head? I want you guys to. If you're anywhere you taken note do it if not another time or take a mental note of that answer comes out of your thoughts out of your brain and I said because I want to make more of an impact on people and he said okay. That's great and Mrs Hence where seven levels deep come in he said. Okay so dean you. I asked you in this. How he said it to me said I asked you. Why would you hire me for ten thousand dollars and you said to make more of an impact on your students or something along that I don't have it in front of me right now and I said yes I said okay? Why is it important that you make an impact on your students like okay and I thought about it? I said Because I I believe this is an industry with lots of great people and lots of people. That aren't so great and I want to raise the standards and this is again an over ten years ago Through the best of my recollection. I said I WANNA raise the standards so the good people get to grow and those. That aren't good. Need to be pushed out of the Industry. Raise the standards. He's like wow what a noble answer so I asked. You why he paid me ten grand and you said to impact more lives. I asked you why you want to impact more lives and you came out and said which I think is noble. You WanNA raise the standards of the industry you know. Get The let the good get better in the bad get out. So why is that important to you and I said you know I wanNA leave a legacy. I WANNA leave a legacy that I changed. Lots of lives again coming out of my head. Easy easy answers now. I want to be honest with you. I know I went back and looked at my old thing. It's in my old notes from this and I think I listed them all enough Kabibi when I did this exercise. But I'm I don't really remember what I said in my third and fourth answer to complete clarity but then all of a sudden when I got to his fifth time asking he said I asked. You why you paid ten thousand dollars you said. This asked why that's important that you make an impact on people. You said this than I asked you this. All of a sudden this is where the seven levels deep and finding my why changed for my simple thinking my simple thoughts he said to me. Why is that important to whatever my previous answer was and all of a sudden I felt in my physiology. Janna like not trying to be overdramatic. Your and I'm betting who's ever listening. Who's taken this process? And I bet it with Eugen when you're walking around cul de sac and make lefts and rights. There's a time when it shifts from your head to your heart and you feel it like you legitimately feel from me. I got goosebumps and I didn't know what was happening. He asked me these four or five questions. It was nothing was this it was that it was this and then all of a sudden. I felt completely different. I sat different. I felt emotionally said. I don't ever want to go backwards. What does that have to do with high guy for thousand dollars to come consult for my companies? I make more impact. I said I don't WanNa go backwards. And he said wow. You don't WanNa go backwards. What does that mean to you and I said you know when I was a kid. My mom didn't have money or our car was so bad that I made a drop me off two blocks from school and I watched my mom worked three jobs and come home at night and we were latchkey kids. Eight years old. I was cooking breakfast and dinner and lunch with my sister and we did our laundering and I watched my mom. You know not have anything that made me really sad. Like my biggest muse. The reason I worked so hard in new I was going to be successful in. Eighth graders my mom. I mean she was beautiful woman. My Dad didn't help us. They were divorced in help us financially. So Watch this beautiful woman. Caring loving worked so hard for nothing. Jenna I mean. She worked harder than both of US combined physically and had nothing to show for a man all of that crowd right now. I'm just an emotional mood today. All of that came flooding to me like a like a fire hose in my face and I got my team around me. And he came with two people got tears starting to well up in my eyes and I'm like I don't WanNa go backwards. And he said what I told him that story and he's like wow dean thank you so much for being so vulnerable in front of everybody and I just thought to myself now. I know my reason now. God I know why I've worked so hard my whole life. It was that I said that's it. He said that's great team. But we'RE ONLY ON QUESTION FIVE. Two more for you so dean. Why don't you WanNa go backwards and for those of you? That are parents. You UNDERSTAND WHY. I literally started sobbing. I said I want my kids to have choices now. I had never said that like it wasn't some stage presentation or something. I wrote in copy or something like I'd never had those words out of my mouth and work on my butt off since I was sixteen years old. Why started a firewood cutting business? I'd just been working hard and I said I want my kids to have choices. I thought about my kids and again I'm crying. Like legit crime. Can't hold it back. I'm not trying to look pretty. I'm just crying any said thanks for being so vulnerable again dean. So what does that mean to you and I said these exact words. I don't WanNA raise their little. My kids were one in three. I said I don't WanNA raise to entitled children the world. That's the last thing. The world needs another entitled. Kid I said but I didn't have choices as a kid when I just didn't end. I want them to have choices. I want them to be left opportunity. I want them to live into their soul. If they want to be artists they WANNA be teachers. I want them choices in life. And that's why I'm working so hard and I'm legit like I'm in my heart like my head has nothing to do with this. I feel my whole body and I'm like that's it. It's my kids and he said well thank you and he was so kind so sweet going through this so I want you when when we talk more about this. If you're listening when it's time to go through this exercise do it with someone who's kind and caring and if you don't have that do it with yourself and be kind and caring to yourself as you go through this. What I love about that. Is that the first answers come so easily right like most people. It's like save time make money. You know create impact like those are wonderful beautiful reasons and usually some of the first reasons we give but like you have to get real honest with yourself as you continue to go layer by layer level by level. Yeah and then you know so now. I'm thinking I'm done I'm sobbing. I'm thinking about my little kids. I WANNA go in the other room so is literally sitting out on my patio. I want to go in the other room and hug my kids and he said Dean there. There's just one more question left. Why is it important that your kids have choices and something out of my mouth that I'll remember to this day that I told myself this morning when I woke up with a lot of my mind is I want to be in control of my life? And what that meant to me? So what does that mean and I said I remember his exact words like it was yesterday. I said not a control freak but as a kid and we all have our own past. This is not poor me. I'm blessed to have the past. I had it made me the man. I am the father and the husband the friend I get to be but I remember thinking when I was a kid. My parents were married nine times. Jenna my dad. Four my mom five. I moved twenty times by the time I was nineteen years old and I was never in control and what I mean by control. Is this me to step debt? Lenny was my Stepdad. Close Dude in the world. Him and my mom had this great relationship. He took me to adventure parks. Took me hunting? It took me fishing. Taught me how to cut firewood. That's why I went to firewood. Business taught me all these cool. Things taught me how to build a log cabin and a built forts with him and his dad. Leo Rizzo it was like an adopted grandfather took me pheasant hunting and fishing long island and fishing in Massachusetts. I had this incredible time for like four years the first time I felt stability in my life but then they split up and I was gone by Mongoose bike in the coldest sack gone. I came home one day from school. We're out and we moved in someplace else and moved. I moved into my dad and he married someone who didn't like kids and she wanted me out of the house so I left one day in the middle of the night and walked to. My Grandmother's House looked through my grandmother for two years. And I just as a kid because of choices they made before had the choice to run my own life by seventeen. I just lived on my own because I didn't want that but before that I was just never in control their decisions whether good bad or otherwise. I'm not judging. They did the best they could and I love my parents dearly but because of their decisions I must have felt so out of control as a kid like I like my friends. Why do I have to move? I like my step sister. Why do I like my step? Grandpa and I'm telling him this and I'm literally just like completely breaking down now and I realized at that moment the reason I worked so hard the reason I get through the tough times is because I need to be in control. I don't want anybody to tell me how to raise my children how to dress where to live when I can pick them up from school which I pick my kids up from school every single day there with me at last night. I was at baseball practice like. I don't want anybody telling me how to live where to live what to do how to dress what cars are going to drive especially couldn't handle having some boss telling me like. I am anti control. I'm anti someone else's rules and I realized at that moment Mike my whole life wrapped into those three statements. Like I worked so hard and I want success and I will fight through barriers. I won't listen to the naysayers. I'll focus on solutions. I'll get the work done. I'll work harder than anybody else. I won't listen to what people say for three reasons. I don't go backwards. I am going to give my kids choices. And no one's GonNa take control and those three things have made the difference people say. How are you successful in cutting firewood? And I had auto sales business a Collision Business Ida Tow Truck Company owned multiple twenty four apartments. I bought raw land and built houses and sold them. I was in infomercial. You know not the information that was in the knowledge industry but I sold through an infomercial. I speak on stages. I'm a Multiple Times bestselling author. I get to partner with great people like Tony. Robbins and create courses that impact the world and become a movement. I own three hundred houses. I failed miserably in between a lot of so. Don't think this fall easy but my whole point is people like how do you do all those things? I want the tactics all of it. I'm like because I went upstream and anchored in a why that makes me fight like I'm ten points down all the time and I just think that is the impact that that's why this is the number one tool in the course before we get to the tactics and how to one thing that I think is so important about how you superintendent really lead people is that you help find those anchor points because I think a lot of times and if I look back on my own journey I avoided mindset work for so long until there was no more avoiding it because I figured strategies and systems and tools and all of that would just get aware I wanted to go but there are so many things I was battling inward and there's a portion inside of the course that you created that is just tools and it would be so easy to just skip over it and move on to the other stuff and you know it's insane to me and we talked about this before on the show is that you sell what people think they want but give them what they need and I have worked through those tools over and over and over again until I am blue in the face I could probably list them in exact order the the appear in the program because if we don't start connecting those things that we don't start really getting a compelling future in our mind if we don't start envisioning like the reason why we're doing all of this there's going to be one obstacle on it's just GonNa take you right out right like so many of us are examples of that. It's one of those obstacles you say why am I even doing this? My Life's okay. I should stop complaining. I should be satisfied from where I am. Because that's what the world tells you to do right. You should be satisfied that you you know. You have an amazing husband. You don't need your own thing. You should be satisfied. You got a great job. You went to school. You got that degree now. You've got to use that. Degree like our subconscious starts to justify staying complacent and there's a million different roads. You could go down at the end of our lives. We Wanna live a complacent like do we wanna live in. Okay live heck. Do we want to live a good life? Could you imagine meeting your maker and say how has your life was good. That was good. I I probably could could have done my own thing. I probably could have had more time more control but you know I went to school and I had a good life. Is that the conversation. You WanNa have. These are the types of things that make sure that that doesn't happen because I would much rather be at the end of my life saying man I tried. I went after completely one hundred percent. I failed most the time but I had some great success. I'd rather say that and say it was ups and downs. But I live life on my terms rather than saying I was fearful. I was scared I let other people talk me out of it. Yes one hundred percent. Thanks to fiber for supporting the gold. Digger podcast. It's so easy to find freelance talent for Your Business or project. Don't waste any more time. Get Ten percent off and the service you deserve by going to F I v E R Dot com and use code gold digger. Would you pay one hundred thousand dollars to be coached by the best? I mean that's a hefty chunk of change. But the good news is you don't have to the expert. My business go gene Graciosa and after working with him for over a year. I put the three life-changing secrets I learned from him into one free guide for you had degeneracy your dot com slash three secrets to download it right now. And I'm even including a worksheet. He made me to help me get exactly what I want when I negotiate. If you WANNA know the secret to defining success advice for negotiating any deal how to determine what your advantages and some never before shared stories. It's all in my guide. Genyk JER dot com slash three secrets. That's JANIKA JERRY DOT COM SLASH. The number three and secrets. What would you say to somebody that is starting to do this? Exercise and like you said the first three maybe even four answers blow out really easily. What would you tell them to keep digging down to get to layer five and six and seven? Mike how do we get to these levels where the actual answers start to Showa? Yes so you gotta be vulnerable and get into your heart. There's no other way that part of you that you think is tucked down that you've been avoiding you have to let it open now. I know that's easier said than done but I'm GonNa give you another example. I did this on stage on a monthly basis for years in front of an audience that were my followers and I would bring somebody up on stage every single month and it would be so exciting because I would get some people that the first parts were easy. They spit out the first three or four like they had memorized and sometimes people get stuck when they start feeling in their heart. They're almost resistant. Let me logically come up with another answer for Dean. I just wouldn't let him off the hook. I just wouldn't. I WanNa give me an example. Had this woman come up on stage and she could tell she was successful and she came up. She's going through in the first one. I said why did you spend all the money to be at this event because I want financial freedom? I'm hell-bent on financial freedom. That's great. Why do you want financial freedom because I WANNA BE? A WOMAN. Doesn't rely on a Man. I don't need anybody I if I bring the right man in my life. That's awesome but until then nobody's GonNa tell us great rise at important. She said you know this. She gave me like four answers and she got to like the Sixth One. Gen. I could tell she was not in her heart she was in her head and I slowed down a little bit and I said you got some great answers. I could tell you're already successful. You're here 'cause you want that next level I really ask you. Why did you fly across the country to be here? Why do you want to have control of your finances? Why and I just went through all of our answers I said but I want you to dig deep to sat and the smile went away on her face and she got really serious and I watched her physiology change her shoulders. Dipped her face changed. She said I'm here why I want. This is because married to love my life when I was young and I lost my independence but I loved him and then he was unfaithful to me and when I caught him he didn't apologize. He was mean was a person I'd never seen before and we ended up splitting but the last thing he said to me as he walked out the door is you'll regret this. 'cause you're a loser and you'll never amount to anything. And she started crying and I felt so so proud of her for being vulnerable in front of hundreds of people and she looked at me and she said that's why I'm successful and there was one more answer after it but but she said to the holiest. I've never shared A. I didn't even know we don't always want to have pain to drive us. But if it's the motivator to launch the ship to get the rocket off the ground you're Y can change right once you get past that but that I can see her and after. She revealed that she got bigger taller. Her shoulders back. It was it was amazing so when she's having a rough day because here's the thing I'm gonNA share one more story. I had a guy is awesome duties. Six foot two dreadlocks. Good looking dude. He comes up on stage and he gives me a hug. Lifts my feet off the ground me says grow. You're not GonNa make me cry and I say why he said because I've already done the seven levels deep already know my answer and I'm like Oh my head. I hate when someone had already gone through it right because I can't get that breakthrough that I want everybody in the audience to feel so. I said I'm still going to try it so I sit down. I'm like why are you here? Man Ride you travel across the country in be here. He said because in my neighborhood. There's not enough dad's where I grew up. Dad's just bail. Kids Need Dad's especially young boys. I put an organization together and I get dad's on the weekends and we go in and be like you know we're dad's for the weekend and it's making such an impact and I wanna keep feeling so man Dean getting me. You're not getting me because this is my why I said. Wow he's that's a good one and I said why that and then we got to about the sixth answer and I said I really want you to dig. Why are you doing this? Why are you helping the kids? Why and man same thing I watched it. Land in his heart and he started sobbing. Not Tears like sobbing and he said when his mom passed away said his mom was amazing. Woman a single mom who raised him work three four jobs to make sure he was a good kidding. Stay off the streets. He said but when my mom died I was a drug addict and he goes the day she died. I gave up drugs. And he said I'M GONNA make my mom damn proud in heaven every day of my life and he stood up and the audience was in tears. They cheered him and I know for a fact. There's nothing will ever stop that guy because he identified with that wise. Because here's the thing Jenna is. I love talking about this. So please interrupt me if you have any questions but I gotta say this one thing life is GonNa come at us when you go to another level when you're ready to break through the barrier when you're ready to tap into your full potential. The opposite shows up whether you believe. It's God devil. Good Bad universe testing you paying success tax whatever you believe in the signs of doubt the signs of people holding you back the money not coming through the AD. Not Working. The spouse not supporting. It's all going to happen and when you say I'm doing this because I want financial freedom. I'm doing this because I I want to spend more time with my family. They're strong but they're not strong enough. They're the ones that get you back on. Track of where you were in that hypnotic rhythm of the life you used to have but for me when I say I'm never going backwards. My kids are going to have freedom in choices and I'm going to be in control of my life. There is nothing that will stop me. I will chew through a Brick Wall. I will go through the course twice. I will let my spouse say what they want. Our friends say what they want a no bounce off like tefron when someone you care about turns against you. If I don't go back to that everything else will get me off track and I know I've done this with so many people I know when that guy's having trouble building his charity if he thinks I want to build this charity. It's not enough. But when he says I'M GONNA make my mom proud every day of my waking life. He's not gonNA stop. He's GonNa find a solution and the last piece I'll say is all of us. Think we need more resources at the end of the day. We all need to be more resourceful and when have a powerful enough why you become resourceful as Hell Amen. I mean I feel like that would be a mic drop. Moment if we had microphones ruling onto. I think what's so amazing about this exercises? It'd be so easy to skim it or to do it halfheartedly. But I think the reason why you can't do that. I don't care if you join the program or not. If you're listening to this you have to sit down and do this is because it makes you face some of those demons or those things that you've been running from but you haven't acknowledged and like even when I was going through it and just preparing for today. I'm thinking of all these like stories of my childhood or things that we've encountered is a family in like it's like cable why though but why and I feel like in Puerto Rico. This is a great example. Were sitting at a table with some of the most successful people in the business and one of the questions. We would just ask people when they would say I have this problem or have this idea is why like. Why do you WanNa do that? And the IDEAS. That we actually see come into fruition. The missions that we actually started the impact that we actually see made is only fueled when it's grounded in something that is deeper than you. That is deeper than more money. More time. That is deeper than all of this surface level answers that come when you first get asset question. It's absolutely true and again we watched it in each person and and I know the people who retreat and go backwards will say things like while I got to try to understand how to market. It got too complicated so I stopped for me. That's not a complication issue. When people say I couldn't find the time you know just I wanted to do this. I'm so busy I have two kids and I'm trying to take care of my family and it's just no time. All of those answers to me are just. You don't have a strong enough. Why like simple as that? And I'm not trying to people said this way before me Jenner but this exercise is the one that finally got me like when you think you don't have time it means you don't have a strong enough. Why when you think it's because there's nobody supporting you. It's because you don't have a strong enough. Why how do people that don't have guidance who don't have of course don't have a training didn't have money? Don't have the education had worse. You know family situations than I did or you did. How did they make wasn't because they found the magical path to wealth abundance three because they were resourceful as hell because they had a burning? Why and there was nothing going to stop them until they achieved that goal. And it doesn't matter what your why is long as it's attached to you yours doesn't have to be control or freedom or make sure kids have choices not going backwards in your life. It's yours and it's yours personally. But those days when it's raining raining on your parade people don't support you. The deal goes south. You need this anchor so you can dust yourself off and get back into the game and keep going to achieve word. Is You WANNA go? Yeah it's so powerful. I really hope that everyone listening. Just take some time to really drill down because when you have that as the cornerstone of every decision you make of every way that you choose to show up in the world of any criticisms or any encouragement like when that is like your home space you can wake up every day and be ready to take on whatever life throws it absolutely amazing case so. Walk me through real quick because I touched on the fact that there's a bunch of tools inside of the program and so I just want to know why you set it up the way you did with these tools to walk people through him for you even get into strategy and the science and all the VAT not I love. I love how you think it was beyond strategic right so I teach the tools so you use them when you're teaching and helping other people but I really did him because I wanted everybody in the course to go through him. Because I knew the breakthroughs they would have so. Let me just back up here. If you think about anything you've ever tried in your past if you're listening right now you've bought a course before but she didn't finish you've gone to. The live. Event went to a workshop mastermind. You read the book but for some reason. It didn't become your reality. So why has Tony created become a damn movement with more people completing digging action? Anything I've ever seen in. Here's why besides the fact we have sixty years in this but I wanna tell you the three components and you can take this for if you WanNa talk to your your kids and get them to take action. If you WANNA talk to your spouse and you want them to take action you WanNa talk to your co workers or people who work for you or you work for these. Three pieces are crucial to any result. And that is number. One is bucket. Write this down is mindset and again like you said you ignored it for longtime Janet Sona. Most people think people just think. Just show me how to do it. I'm a hustler. I work harder than anybody else. Just give me the tactics. Give me the tools. Give me the strategy and that never works never seen at work in history we all need an unstoppable mindset. So the first part of the trainees simply made to where you're ready to chew through a brick wall to make this a reality so when you go through those tools Janet not only. Are you learning what you can do to help inspire other people and taking it from bend masterminds all around the World Bend over three hundred estimates? Some of those tools reminds some of those I got from other training. Some of those Brennan Machar uses and other great people right and I collected all these great tools that gets you in the mindset that will nothing will get in your way. You know the feeling. Hopefully you felt it felt it in your own life but I hope you could feel my heart when I said not going backwards. Make sure my kids have choices and being in control. That's just one of the pieces that these tools do. I want if you look at it as as a model like if you're running a race like I want the first part to be like. Oh Hell yes I got this. There's nobody getting my way all those little things that rotten story. I used to tell myself my past. That was an anchor. I'm cutting the string hoisted sails and I'm doing so that's the first part. The second part of the course is the tactic. So now you're like okay. I'm ready I want to do this. Okay here's how here's how it looks at thirty thousand foot. How you're how. It goes all the way boiling down with the tactics and strategies. Understand who you are. What do you? How do you understand? What your skills are the experience you went through that other people need how you can help people. Then how do you lay out how to fix? You know how to how to teach with tools that we've created ride and tools that we've discovered in our years how to identify your ideal person. Who wants what you have had a market in a way that you know. That's that's my deep dive. Expertise is how do you do it? In a way where everybody can understand in stead of social media using you. You use it. And all those great things identifying those people in the raise their hand and then how to run it right in how to teach through zoom call on all these other ways so if you think about that unstoppable mindset in the fact that matters not many bitter people on the planet Tony Robbins and how we work together on that then you get the tactics strategies but the part that I believe the mindset. We're talking about today. Really anchors in is the part that most people miss is the implementation and if we were. I wish we were on the big room right now. I could say. Raise your hand. If you've ever been excited about something you got the details on how to do it for some reason. You didn't implement you'd know where to put it. You didn't know if you should buy job counter. Click funnels account or build it yourself or do it. Online or call people are oh and then a little bit of complexity caused you to not complete or start or implement so we really obsessed on is mindset tactics and strategies and then how do you immediately implement and take action. That's why we have to get into details. We spent a lot of money in built a software. So you can go. I'm excited here's how to do it. Let me go build it okay. I'm excited here's how to do this. Section let me go build it and I think I think that's the magical combination of what we created. Well I know it is and one of the things that I think is the coolest about how you laid it out and I knew every ounce of it was intentional. I mean I've told you this before but the only reason I agreed to. Test out your course as a student to st how you did it and then all of a sudden. I'm like wait. Wait this is super good. Wait I needed this and one of the things I just want to compliment you on quickly is. I feel like a lot of times. People create content. And it's Kinda like well. Here's my way and go out and figure out your way of doing it and you empower people to do that. But you also equip people to take the things that have worked for years and decades and to go out and spread them to the world. Like there's not an ounce of you that I feel like almost just holding onto this and saying don't let my secrets go. You're like here is everything I have ever learned. I've tested this out. I've seen this change people's lives. Let me I changed your life to convince you that this tool can now go out to the masses and so when you think of how the impact of one person learning it. And then they teach ten people and that person teaches a person and it's actually mind-blowing and so I just want to compliment you on that because I've never been a part of something where someone literally says here the tools I'll prove to you they work and then I want for you to go out and share them with the world. Yeah you know. Thank you for saying you know why. This started as a passion. It didn't start as what can I build? What can I do? I mean listen. I feel blessed that I get to speak in front of tens of thousands of people a year and and sell millions of books impact. People's lives but I'm not going to be here forever and you know not to get into the whole but for me. Education was really tough. I never went past high school because I had massive dyslexia. I just felt dumb. And I'm like man that whole college thing isn't GonNa work for me and it was self education saved me. You know just being completely transparent if I didn't start reading books going to courses and listening to tapes Bab. That's how long ago was listening to cassette tapes than listening to CDs on Sony Walkman before MP threes became a reality. If I didn't find that I don't know where I'd be and have the ability to help show everyone that you have. You have something in your head. You know that other people don't know and they need it and unlike any other time in history of all these great ways to share it with them to impact their lives end to create revenue an impact and success around it. It's like how could this not be and then we decided to put this together on like how with all my years of being in this industry. How do I create something? That people go all the way through they graduate and then they implement yes so to to hear you say that and I have to tell you it was so cool when I know you went through the course and I could just hear it in your voice like you called me. You left me a message like deem. You're killing me. You left me one message. You said you're killing me. I can't stop going through it. And that's just that's the most rewarding thing in the world. I mean to think that this is in over a hundred and fifty countries right now. Tanner who very well sent out an email to people that are using our KB method instead. Tell me the niche. You're exploring over forty three hundred different niches like it's breaking the barriers of like. Oh I don't think I'm good enough own. I'm not a doctor. Oh I don't have forty years experience. Where breaking that barrier and letting everybody see that sometimes. Your mass is your message. Yes a hundred percent okay. Before we sign off tell everyone about the live training what they can expect what's happening. How it's going down in where they can sign up. Yeah we're so excited so when Tony I got together and decided to build this couple years ago and we met live last year as you remember it was like. Oh my God like we knew. The world was ready but we didn't know they were that radio over two hundred thousand people came to the live. Training was my team was in the back like behind the camera holding up their hands like how many people were on. And we're like Oh my God and obviously we're doing it again on February twenty seventh their own. We're only going to do this once a year. Here's what you can expect. We're going to pull back the curtain and show you more if if you liked what we talked about today. Any bit tiny little bit. Then you're definitely going to want to be on the live because we will show you what. This industry is. How IT EVOLVED. How you can extract? What's inside of you or actually share with other people know? Make an impact do something meaningful in your life and have the opportunity create next level abundance in success for yourself and that's what we shared last year but now we have a whole year under our belt. And here's the thing. This is the part that's really import. We released the KGB course last year and it was unbelievable was the biggest release of any product online. That's ever existed and we're GONNA do the same thing at the end of the training will give people the opportunity to be a part of our two point. Oh version we spent a whole year. We spent I mean not that it matters but we spend another half a million dollars just on the software. Tony's recorded all new trainings. I recorded new trains. We got all this great stuff in there. But here's what I want to share with everybody whether you get enrolled in the training or not the two hours two and a half hours that we're GONNA be live with this special guest girl named Jennifer Katcher. I'm so excited about the two hour. Training will transform your life. I mean that last year we had hundreds of thousands of comments of people. Just saying thank you. Thank you for what you shared in. Obviously not every one of them got enrolled in K B B but we made an impact on our lives. And if you know anything about us if you've been following me at all or see the way I teach or talk with Jenna I love delivering value and let me tell you what the two of us live in person. Only once a year. I give you my word. We are going to over deliver. I'm so excited you're going to be there with US Jenna. I'm so excited. I'm bringing the girl vibes and the mob aren't and I think what's going to be really exciting about it is one. I am a success story of this program but not just that I think that a lot of people forget I started. The educations item business three years ago three years ago. That's it made his end so when you can see someone that's just slightly ahead of you on this journey someone that's imperfectly leading someone that's showing up and pulling their seat up to the table and saying. I'm here and I'm ready. I'm just really really honored to get to be a part of that into get to be on it but also did you show this other side. That doesn't have decades of experience but that has taken this method and ran with it and helped over a thousand people implement to into their lives in their businesses. And so all you have to do is just go to Jena's link dot com. That's Jenas link. Save Your seat me Dean. Tony and Russell are going to just really share this and like Dean said regardless of if you join the program or not one. Don't you want to just see how the masters do this at work? Like if anything use this as an example of how you can start making bigger impacts but to start to imagine. What's possible for you? I swear to you there is going to be a story that resonates with you. Whether it's something you heard on this podcast today or at the live training or within a testimonial where it shifts you to believing that. This isn't just true for her or for him but it can be true for me too then I think that mindset shift alone program or not is going to transform the way that you show up in the world and the way that you see. What's possible for you couldn't have been any better. I'm so excited. Listen this is crunch time right now. We're we're only days away from going live. I believe me. I'm getting up at three o'clock in the morning. I am so stoked in preparing for this. I mean last year we did some pretty magical and I wanNA make sure we do even better than how could I not? We got Genyk pitcher as a live guest and you know what there's nothing like live. I just WanNa tell be so if you go. It's Jenas link right up to JEN's Lincoln registered. I'm betting most all of you will do that right now. But I'm going to encourage you to put it in your phone. Write it down because we have so many thousands and thousands of emails after the fact last like Oh my God. I heard it was incredible when you go on live again. It's so sorry until next year. You know so. Don't just register put it on your calendar. Find a quiet place like Jen. I know you do your interviews in your closet. Sometimes you have a place to be totally. Immersed shut off all distractions and join us. Pull up a chair to the table with us and see how we do it. And it's GONNA be a blast. I opening well dean. Thank you so much. For another appearance on the PODCAST. You know you're stuck with me as my coach and my mentor and now a partner in crime. So I'm sure this is not the end of hearing from you and I feel honored to be one of the only few men get to share with your awesome tribes. So thank you to each and every one of you and we'll see on February twenty seven. I'll be incredibly honest and say that I went through that entire interview with a giant lump in my throat because I was thinking about this exercise in just how it's transformed from even just last year to this year this morning when I was preparing for this interview I started to work through it again. I came up with a really simple levels. I WANNA have freedom. I WANNA have freedom to spend my days doing what I want to do on a given day. I want to be able to say no whenever I feel. That is the right answer. I never want to say yes just for the money. I want to live a fully passionate life next level. I want my daughter to see that she can build independent wealth and have the freedom to make decisions not based on money but based on passion next level. 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'Birds of Prey' Gets A Quick Second Life

The Frame

25:51 min | 1 year ago

'Birds of Prey' Gets A Quick Second Life

"From the broadcast center at KPCC This is the frame. I'm John Horn. The Summer Olympics are off now. A new game calculating how much sports networks will lose from the cancellations then Kathy. The director of birds of prey hopes her movie. Going on demand can bring some diversion to an anxious world. I know I haven't really laughed weeks now. I think we're all there. There's shared diaby fear for what's to call so if the movie can just help some people out that's only a good thing especially right now. Stand up COMEDIANS. Who could no longer hit the road today? In the frame we'll be right back. Welcome to the frame. I'm John Horn in. What was a surprise to no one? The organizers of Tokyo Summer Olympics have postponed the Games to twenty twenty one decision follows the cancellation of pretty much. Every other live sporting event. That's a problem. Not only for people like me. Who LOVES SPORTS ON TV? But also for the networks and cable channels that rely on sports to get viewers and sell advertising NBC Universal. Which has the rights to the Tokyo? Games has said that it had sold about ninety percent of its advertising time for the Summer Olympics. Worth ABOUT ONE POINT. Two five billion dollars. Lucas Shaw covers media and entertainment for Bloomberg Lucas. Welcome back to the show. Thanks for having me. So let's step back for a moment broadcast and cable networks. Spend billions of dollars to get the rights to live sports everything from basketball to cricket. I'm not kidding Disney star. Sports paid two and a half billion dollars for rights to Indian Premier League cricket. Not long ago and now they have nothing to show for it right. How much are they losing? You know it's too early to know. Just how much losing? Because a lot of these networks and sports leads are still operating under the assumption that these events will happen at some points on the case of the Olympics. One of the topics that I'm trying to get to the bottom of and I know some of my colleagues and peers are as well as how the contracts work with those financial commitments. You know if you are wannabe advertisements. That is committed to that one point. Two five billion dollar total. Are you still committing for the Games and twenty twenty one? Do you have the ability to back out and be allocate that money? There's a lot of uncertainty in the advertising marketplace right. Now because you see you know the most popular type of programming on television which is sports not being on for anytime in the next three months. Four months maybe six months. We don't really know how long and so you have a lot of advertisers. Some of whom just can't advertise right now. Because if you're a hotel chain if you're a restaurant you're probably not can do a bunch of advertising or if you do want to advertise you then shifted to news. Which is what a lot of people are watching his sometimes little tough from an advertising perspective to shift online or do you just sit it out for a while. So what are people who rely on sports doing I mentioned Disney and it's a cricket deal. It has theme park shut down its cruise ships or dry dog. It's movies can't play in theaters and on top of all that it owns. Espn which used to just print money for Disney. So what are sports channels like? Espn doing outside of the Olympics. Because they don't really have much to show or talk about on their highlight shows. Y- sports networks. Spn Fox sports one there. Aaron a lot of games. You know if you look at the schedule for today. I believe it's a bunch of college basketball. Espn case they're going back to some of the documentaries that they made like the OJ. Simpson made in America which was an award-winning and truly excellent documentary. Or they're just trying to put together stunts if you will you know. Espn TURNED ESPN two into the OCHO. Which was initially made famous by movie dodgeball? And so that this joke about all these different niche sports but they were showing marble rolling. I pulled up twitter the other day and I saw that there was there was pizza. Box Holding So it's a mixed but the viewership for all these shows it's is way way down for these networks shifting the other places In sports fan are having look elsewhere. You know the amount of people in Anaheim being spent streaming video on Netflix Disney plus Hulu Amazon. Youtube is way up the amount of time. The people are spending playing video. Games is also up. You know how that all even doubt is is a bit unclear. But it's it's a big problem moving forward for for ESPN for Fox returner. Because they have no relief coming anytime soon. The next real events on the calendar is college football and pro football in the fall and and who knows where we'll be in terms of what the Olympic organizers were facing. It felt like there were a couple of issues and one was the health of the athletes but also whether or not athletes could even train if for example. You were a volleyball player. I can't imagine you would WanNa be in a gym working out with your volleyball team. Maybe if you did solo sailing you'd be okay. But wasn't that part of the factor that the athletes themselves were not training for the Games. It's not as simple as we'll just seclude these athletes for three or four months. And then we'll show up at the end of July and you can just turn them on like it's an oven or something these. These athletes are spending days weeks months leading up to the events getting in the best shape of their lives. Doing a final practice runs. And that's why you started to see this. Postponement felt inevitable just because other events had been postponed because you saw different teams in different countries. Saying why are we going forward with this? This makes no sense. You had two of the biggest contingents of us both swimming and track and field. Say before it was postponed. They didn't think it was a good idea to move forward. And what will that mean for the twenty twenty one games? I guess in some ways. Some athletes have a very narrow window where they are at their peak and also might actually generate pent up demand. I mean could the twenty twenty one games if they happen be even bigger than NBC. Might have had the game. We're going on this summer. You know that is one of the big questions that I think. People across the the media entertainment landscape are debating right now ray so if you have all of these sports that you're showing all these movies that you're not showing will there be that pent up demand for it in six months in twelve months if so how do you. Space out is backlogged and pretty much every movie. That's coming is unlikely to be released in movie theaters this summer. All the sporting events from the spring and summer we pushed the fall winter and beyond. And so how do you schedule all that now? All things considered. That's a good problem to have. If at that point these events happen and there is pent-up demand but we don't know how that will shake we're talking with Luca shod Bloomberg about the cancellation of the Summer Olympics. If you look at movie theaters at least the stock of Movie Theater Companies. Their share prices have been cratering. How soon will we know what kind of impact the lack of sports has had on broadcast and cable networks? When will it start to reveal itself in terms of quarterly earnings? Mid April to mid May of the media companies. Netflix is usually the first company to report And they earnings in the second or third week of April but for some of these companies. The effect may be significant that they have to too late. No before then usually if there's an event that is materially affecting your results you tried to warn investors ahead of time. So they're not surprised and so a company like Disney which obviously there are going to Park Star people going to movie theaters. They might make some kind of disclosure in early April ahead of its earnings report. Which is more likely to be late? April early May so my two kids have been watching a lot of two series Sunderland till I die about the English premier league and then Formula One drive to survive about Formula One racing. What is your Go-to Catalog Sports? Event or documentary series. That you're going to for your sports fix parties considering getting back into the video gaming so I can play MBA toupee invasions. Of course that way. But I you know I might go back and watch the OJ Simpson. I might just try and listen to the voice of Vin scully. Old Dodger broadcasts. I've thought about going back with friends and watching the two thousand one and be playoffs which is probably the best. The Lakers ever wear something like that. I'm sure I will get into over the next couple of weeks. Lucas Shaw covers media and entertainment for Bloomberg Lucas. Thanks so much for coming back on the show. Thanks John Coming up on the frame. The director of birds of prey movie was in theaters. And it's rush into video on demand and streaming welcome back to the frame. I'm John Horn as the film industry. Adjust to this new normal movies that opened in theaters. Just a couple of weeks ago are being rushed onto video on demand and streaming platforms in a pre pandemic era. That quick move would have been unthinkable as today. You can watch the R. Rated DC COMIC Book Movie Birds of Prey on demand. Action Film opened in theaters in early February. Two good reviews it grossed more than two hundred million dollars worldwide before theaters. Were shut down it. Stars Margot Robie as Harley Quinn. Her breakout character from suicide squad. Do you know what that means? That means he's not just after the kid anymore. He's after all of us. Sure as hell after me. I just robbed him. You just betrayed him. You just killed his faith and your thumb enough to be building a case against him so unless we all WanNa die very unpleasant desolate from goldfinger fishing kids intestinal track. We're GONNA have to work together. Birds of prey was directed by Cathy. Yan I'm I am thankful. Actually I think that this this is a very smart move by Warner Brothers to collapse that window right. Now I think that with everyone at home Which is only the responsible thing to do. People are looking or some levity and some entertainment and we as entertainers. We had that responsibility to still do what we can in. Obviously it's so much harder now And New productions Have all been put on hold and so we have a limited amount of content. Really that Is New or Noted that people can really watch so. I think it's a really good opportunity to get near the out there if not only just because hopefully it is this like breath of fresh air. That is just meant to you out of the world and you know. Make you laugh. And it's heightened and it's a fun fun ride for just an hour and a half. It can distract someone from going down the deep corona virus news hole on or get someone to just chuckle at something. I mean I know I haven't really lax in weeks now. I think we've all were all there. There's center shared In fear for what to calm so you know if the movie can just who helps some people out anything? That's only a good thing especially right now. What do you make of the numbers in Hollywood? There's report that more than a hundred and twenty thousand below. The jobs have been lost since the start of the krona virus outbreak. These are people who might work as scripts they might work in craft service transportation. Might not be able to find other work easily. What kinds of things are you hearing about? What crews are going through and is there any way that you know they'll be okay? Yeah it's really really difficult right now. IT'S. I think that you know the film industry. The entertainment industry is hurting but so is like so restaurants or hotels. I mean every day every day more and more people are getting laid off on. And that's really really really scary. I Like I've donated to a fund that's been set up to Just try to help in provide some additional funding for exactly those people the below the line people that you know rely on exactly like film sets in order to make a living And I can actually try right now. Direct you to that if people are interested in helping out Or just google it but yeah. I think that's all we can really do right now. Unfortunately because it's it's not just the film industry it's it's almost every industry And I think what I've been really impressed by is that I think there's just been this moment of adjustment to this new normal but now there has been this like really nice Community building and people starting to think about others and trying to do what they can to help others into into into donate to others I also think that you know it could be an interesting time to see what sort of original content can be made in this age of of quarantine and utilizing All of our new technologies to still try to make something. How does that affect you? Now that the state is basically under shutdown. How are you dealing with isolation not only as a creative person but just as a person? Probably you know as well as anyone else can. I feel lucky. I feel very very lucky that I have a home. I know plenty of people that are freaking out about just that. I feel like that you've not stuck with five children of having to deal with how to educate them so in many ways I'm feeling mostly just really lucky in trying to do everything I can help others In terms of creative creativity. I I do think that there's a lot And I started talking to other filmmakers and friends about this like it's very interesting I can see socially how people will change in how they won't and what will come up human behavior on over the next few weeks and I think that is a really interesting. Starting point for a story for a script for Any new ways of Of storytelling snow. I'm definitely trying to get creative again. after you know after. I think all of us taking some time to reflect on what the hell is happening in the world But I actually think it's a really good time to be creative if you can afford it and it's a really interesting time to start writing your thoughts on paper to start exploring music or painting like literally ordered some paint brushes and painting and it could be nice in the in the weird silver lining of as. I think that everyone has a lot of creative bones in their bodies. And maybe this this time of of Quiet will allow them to explore that. We're talking with Kathy. And the director of birds of prey. And the fantabulous emancipation of one Harley Quinn. When you think about what you saw growing up there might have been movies in the states might have been movies in China. How do you think that shaped your view of global cinema in terms of the kinds of different storytelling techniques and ways of approaching storytelling? That might be different from country to country. Yeah that's really interesting. I definitely grew up on both classic American Indians as well. As classic American like blockbusters but also a good amount of world cinema especially Chinese. I love like some of my favorite movies are found that early. Nineteen Ninety S era of Chinese independent film like early Johnny Mall Early Kaiga. Farewell my concubine you know To live a bunch of those movies and I don't think that film is a universal in a way especially a lot of the ones that don't rely on on language as much really use of visual language. I think that it was really good and Inspiring for me to have grown up watching really amazing Asian cinema and also of course won't car why because it just showed that agents were capable of it really in in such a creative field in I was. I think I was used to watching people who look like myself on the big screen in plain all the different roles playing the hero playing the you know the male lead all of that in so I think that was really beneficial to me when I started making movies myself because I had just a bit more of that like global upbringing global education in terms of what what film could be. I think now in the US. It's finally starting to open people's eyes in the success of something like parasite for example has been so incredible to watch and that people are finally hopefully able to overcome that two inch various subtitles and just enjoy movie for what it is in realized how universal it is in how how similar in how human we all are especially in the face of Corona virus. I think that's that that message is really loud and clear finally. I'm curious what your reaction has been to a lot of the anti-chinese and anti-asian that's come up around corona virus. The way in fact some people are describing it as the Chinese virus. Sure I mean that's extremely disappointing. And you know I felt it. I was. I have been told by my friends and family in Hong Kong. That face masks are good thing in you know. That's that's the culture that exists in I think arguably have been have been instrumental in keeping the numbers down in Taiwan and Japan and in Hong Kong specifically but I was afraid of walking outside with a face mask on being Asian in New York City after hearing of some of these acts of violence in. I think that's extremely disappointing. And hopefully if enough people keep reminding everyone that this is clearly not just the Chinese problem that this is a global issue But one that you know I also think on the flip side that China has to control. Which is the management of these types of outdoor wet markets because we are going to continue to be exposed to that in if that is in fact out this one started. I really hope that the Chinese government is going to crack down on it. I know they have started to say that they will but they also seem to have a loophole in terms of Chinese medicine but that said viruses can start anywhere in the spread every anywhere under clearly border less and so right now. I think we need everyone to work together. And not to discriminate Southie. Thanks so much for coming on the show. Stay safe and healthy you too. Thanks so much Kathy. Yen is the director of BIRDS OF PREY. It's available on demand across multiple platforms as of today up next on the frame road. Comedians do when they can't hit the road. Welcome back to the frame. I'm John Horn as the lights have gone out at live venues around the world. That loss of work has hit a lot of people. Hard including stand up comics the frame contributor Tim Grieving reports. On how social distancing is affecting the people who make us laugh. Most of US got nervous. This chick looks Mormon. Okay I know it is. I got a real bad case of all. Raise your baby face. Just very wholesome. We're just round in white like a Chore Wheel With is men. Don't even picture me naked. They just picture me helping their mom. On Easter Tomlinson is only twenty six but her stand up. Career is igniting a big way after appearances on Conan and the tonight show to just released her first special on Netflix. You put comedy specials out in the hopes that people will see them and then buy tickets to come. See you on the road in the same way. Like bands put out albums now to ensure that people to come see you live. That's where a lot of people make most of their money. Now and entertainment is live of Tomlinson. Had to cancel all of her live. Gigs for at least the next two months. She was on the lineup. For the inaugural net flicks is a joke comedy festival in late. April which also got postponed. I'm on the road every weekend unless you're doing a TV show or selling special somewhere. Your main source of income is is doing comedy clubs or your Bigger Act theaters on the road. So I think a lot of entertainers are having to sort of hunker down. And just rely on their podcast or their patron or their merch site or their savings account like you really just kind of have to lay low right now and hope it gets better Jena. Friedman is another stand up comic. Hit by the shutdown twenty show tour. I had shows and Vegas London Amsterdam Antwerp Friedman gunners start writing for the late show with David Letterman and as a field producer for the daily show with John Stewart. I love men. One of my best friends is a man I. I'm actually half man on my dad's side so she's had to eat some of the cost of candy tour that then he's been really cool Flights I'm trying to get compensated for Hopefully Air France will step up. Keep them with. Friedman says she learned early on not to rely financially on her stand up. I'm mostly make Money writing and directing and kind of creating my own content and working on some writing projects which is easy to do remotely like right punch up and write scripts and stuff you know but I also think a lot of comedians. If it weren't intend to be having the same conversation because I think comedy is particularly stand up comedy in our country. You either make no money or you make all the money. There's really no let class. So if you are kind of like a stand up in the middle which I think they end at this point like you'd have to supplement your income always have had to one of my favorite Improv comedians. As Carl Hart here he is playing the character of chief on the podcast comedy. Bang Bang I am the chief of Acme Industries which the private investigating firm devoted to wine clients find and she's not even a client because you're trying to find her. I'm trying to find her. That whistling wizard Carmen Sandiego. When south by South West was cancelled tart? Lost Paid Improv. Gig and while clubs are closed. He and his Improv team. White women comprised of black men won't be doing their monthly show at UCD and even though UCB performance don't get paid. It's still a loss. Nobody will know who I work if it wasn't so with all the PODCASTS that I've done with all the TV shows and writing jobs that I've gotten all that stuff had come from people seeing me performed and then I ended up. Getting money for Tart is a writer on the upcoming NBC. Series starring Keenan Thompson which has gone into production yet and for now he still working only. The writer's room has gone virtual. We are currently working from home on June. The writer's room a communal Thing and creative juices Kinda come naturally from us just kind of being cool each other right now not having that interpersonal connection and being over these like computers. Things is kind of weird to be like. Oh what if this person says? Did you end up talking over somebody and it? Kinda cuts in and out you also booked a TV pilot as an actor which was supposed to shoot next week. Not Anymore still tart knows. He's one of the lucky ones a lot of comedian guy servers and bartenders and stuff like that and with the bar's clothing stuff then getting hit hard. A lot of people who are who are just coming up in comedy. Who are just before. They get their job that they like kind of rely on they all kind of in a limbo but when things get dark. Jena Friedman says we need to laugh more than ever worth it and it's weird chaotic moments. I do think you know humor is probably GONNA be making a resurgence. Just because you'll need it and get through this for the frame. I'm Tim Grieving. And that'll do it for today but just a quick note before we go. Kpcc is still trying to meet at spring membership. Drive goal of one million dollars. We are close. 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